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"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!",
"How do stop coming off as snobby and self-centered? I find that when I talk to people I sound snobby and selfish. I feel like the tone of how I talk sounds like only my opinion matters. I do not have any of these intentions however, It's just how I feel I sound. How do I get rid of this? I don't want to come off any selfish to people, as I am not a selfish person. Any help would be much appreciated, if you want me to elaborate further just ask! Much Thanks!"
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"Shut up and listen. \n\nSeriously though, avoid sentences that start with \"I\" or has \"me\" in it and treat others as if they were pristine books you are dying to devour. \n\nThey'll be boring as shit most of the time with spontaneous moments of brilliance. ",
"Cut down your input in conversations about your experiences, and add more input about your thoughts on the experience of others. Ask questions to have them elaborate further as though you're actually interested in what they say, even if you're not. \n\nCompliment their experiences, sympathize with them. Instead of \"oh you got a scar? I got one too,\" say \"oh wow, that had to hurt!\", even if you could easily make their experience seem dull in comparison to your own.\n\nDon't try to be interesting. The most interesting people are the ones who listen the most. They are the ones people like more, and therefore get invited to events, conversations, whatever more often. \n\nIf you have something genuinely interesting to share, share it, but don't discr",
"Snobby, self-centered, elitist here:\n\nI am literally God's gift to man. The trick is not being serious and find humor in self-deprecation. Openly willing to be wrong and accepting when you're wrong without making a big deal about it. Take all criticism as constructive. Everything that happens to you is your fault to some degree by virtue of it happening to you: the life you have is the life you create, even the not so fun parts about it.\n\nALSO, fucking smile.",
"Try listening earnestly to those you are talking with. Make a concerted effort to keep you contributions to a minimum When you do decide to chime in, try to make it about someone else. Make it about the person telling the story/the center of attention. \n\nAvoid giving your opinion on things, especially on sensitive matter like politics, money, religion, etc. Try talking with a smile on your face. It tones everything down a notch and diffuses situations where you may come off as arrogant, conceited, self-centered, etc. \n\nEven when I'm not on my A game and I check out when conversing, I'll pick out one thing and make sure to respond with a question about it. It's a good way to allow a person to continue and shows an interest in what they are talking about. Improving your soft skills in neutral environments helps with the not so neutral environments. \n\nGood luck ",
"Just the fact that you care how your attitude affects other people shows that you have empathy. You can't possibly be so self-centred that it is a major problem.\n\nIt's actually fine to be judgemental, as long as your judgements are the result of impartial critical reasoning. Always understand though that no matter how reasonable you think your judgement is there is always the possibility of being wrong.\n\nI find it good practice to treat every person, their reasons, beliefs and judgements with the same respect you reserve for the most elegant of truths. No matter how stupid, no matter how illogical. People only change their beliefs when they are ready to any way.\n\nAlso, don't over think it. You don't need to be causing yourself a problem if one hasn't presented itself.",
"While it's not as cut and dry as \"do this one thing and your problem is resolved!\", a good starting point is to listen to what other people have said and acknowledge it. Before you respond to that people say, take time the time to consider what sort of advice was already given. Even if you feel like you know some awesome advice to give right away, take a moment before you say it. Make sure it ACTUALLY acknowledges their question (if it's not a question, maybe you shouldn't be giving your opinion...).\n\nHas anyone given other opinions yet? If they have, and they're significantly different than yours, acknowledge the merit of their input, what you like about it. However, don't make it a \"Well, that's a nice idea, BUT I think...\" Those sort of \"but\" statements can sound very condescending and self centered.\n\nAnother thing people who unintentionally sound self centered often do is explain their answer without people asking them too. You might feel like you're just being thorough, but it can come across like you think you're so much smarter than them that you have to break everything down for them. \n\nOf course, not all reasons for sounding snobby and self centered are the same, so maybe these don't even address the problem you're having, but taking time to listen and also acknowledge what other people are saying is generally a good start for most social interaction issues.",
"Pretend you are an interviewer - your job is to get that other person to feel comfortable, open up, and talk about what they find interesting. How do you approach it? What kinds of questions would you ask them? Try to step out of your mind and into theirs.",
"Ask about the other person and when you tell stories make sure its someone else who's the hero in the tail. ",
"As others have said it's about the I/me thing, just look at your question.\n\n> People see me as selfish, what is likely to make them feel this way? What would make them feel more comfortable?\n\nIs a very different slant."
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"How to talk to someone who was just diagnosed with cancer Yesteday a co-worker was diagnosed with breast cancer at a young age. I am genuinely saddened, and I want to talk to her, but I know hearing \"I'm sorry\" repeatedly can't be that comforting. I want to be uplifting and in high spirits, I'm just not sure how to go about it.",
"How to talk to someone who was just diagnosed with cancer Yesteday a co-worker was diagnosed with breast cancer at a young age. I am genuinely saddened, and I want to talk to her, but I know hearing \"I'm sorry\" repeatedly can't be that comforting. I want to be uplifting and in high spirits, I'm just not sure how to go about it.",
"How to talk to someone who was just diagnosed with cancer Yesteday a co-worker was diagnosed with breast cancer at a young age. I am genuinely saddened, and I want to talk to her, but I know hearing \"I'm sorry\" repeatedly can't be that comforting. I want to be uplifting and in high spirits, I'm just not sure how to go about it.",
"How to talk to someone who was just diagnosed with cancer Yesteday a co-worker was diagnosed with breast cancer at a young age. I am genuinely saddened, and I want to talk to her, but I know hearing \"I'm sorry\" repeatedly can't be that comforting. I want to be uplifting and in high spirits, I'm just not sure how to go about it.",
"How to talk to someone who was just diagnosed with cancer Yesteday a co-worker was diagnosed with breast cancer at a young age. I am genuinely saddened, and I want to talk to her, but I know hearing \"I'm sorry\" repeatedly can't be that comforting. I want to be uplifting and in high spirits, I'm just not sure how to go about it.",
"How to talk to someone who was just diagnosed with cancer Yesteday a co-worker was diagnosed with breast cancer at a young age. I am genuinely saddened, and I want to talk to her, but I know hearing \"I'm sorry\" repeatedly can't be that comforting. I want to be uplifting and in high spirits, I'm just not sure how to go about it."
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"As someone who also had breast cancer at a young age, \"I'm sorry\", at least for me, was the literal worst thing I could hear. It's one of those things that, to someone who's sick, can very easily come off as \"I pity you and I'm glad I'm not you.\" Lots of young adult cancer fighters are worried that people will drop them as friends because it's awkward or weird to talk about. Just tell her that you can't imagine what she's going through, but that you'll be there to support her, *in the way that she needs*, while she faces treatment. Treat her like she's normal-don't try to be pie in the sky peppy about it-but from personal experience she will get the most comfort from knowing that she has someone in her corner at work who will support her and is still willing to treat her like the human she was pre-cancer.",
"Just talk to her like any normal person. Don't mention the cancer at all unless she brings it up. Then just say that sucks",
"There is a great film out there called 50/50 with Joseph Gordon Levitt and Seth Rogan. Seth Rogan's character is a good example of a good friend. Rather than focusing on his friend's illness he treats him all the same. I don't want to spoil too much, but it sends a good message in that simply being there is enough.",
"It has been my experience that the best thing to do is to listen more and talk less. People tend to give cues about where they want the conversation to go. Also, give advice ONLY when asked for advice. ",
"Everyone is different, so one set of advise will not work for everyone. That said; hearing \"I'm sorry\" by lots of people isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes it is nice to know that there are that many people who care enough about you to even bother saying it.",
"Depends on the person. I knew someone with breast cancer and we just started making jokes about her tits rotting off while she was going through it."
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"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day.",
"How to get your brain to shut up at night? I'm always thinking about stuff at night, help me hahah\n\n Some ways I've gotten myself to stop so I can sleep are:\n\nGo through the plot of a favorite movie until I can't remember any more.\n\nThink about a song I was listening to that day."
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"i listen to podcasts these days. stuff like welcome to night vale sends me to sleep so fast i don't even know the plot anymore. \n\nanother thing that used to work well for me was going for a walk before bed. you kinda get it out of your system during the walk i find.",
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"I listen to old time radio shows on my tablet. My favorite is the old Dragnet show that was on TV after a long radio career. It's about police crimes of real stories. I prefer this program over others because it doesn't have a lot of change in volume. Some of the early commercials for cigarettes are quite funny. \nThere are so many episodes to listen to, you can go a very long time without repeats. It helps take your mind off things \nHere is a link\nhttps://archive.org/details/Dragnet_OTR",
"Plug your phone/tablet/laptop in on the other side of the room before bed.\n\n1. Slow down your breathing. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Inhale 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds, out for 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds - Repeat. Don't get bogged down with the numbers, just slow.\n\n2. Close your eyes - you now must change your thinking. Try to imagine with your eyes closed the room around you. Imagine it in your head and don't stop imagining it. Focus on the details, what goes where, where the door is, where the window is. Get to a point where you can vividly see your room exactly how it is in your mind. Be in the present moment. Do not give in to those random inner thoughts that cause your mind to jump down a rabbit hole. Thoughts have no purpose right now. Stay in the present moment.\n\n3. At this point, you're breathing much slower and you are avoiding thinking about anything. You're in the present moment. Relax every muscle in your body. Your facial muscles, you may find you are still squinting from your day. Your shoulder muscles, all tensed up. Let them all drop, there's no reason for them anymore. \n\nThis is essentially m",
"Listen to audiobooks. I find popular non-fiction especially helpful (Sarah Vowell's US history books are a current favorite) because you can't get caught up in the plot like you can with an exciting novel, and facts stand up to re-listening really well. The Audible app even has a sleep timer. I find that this really helps to occupy the part of my brain that wants to stay up and make lists.",
"I use 'sleep hypnosis' apps. (Not youtube ones). They're often free. Melatonin is excellent also but the apps work the same. Before that though, I have to make an effort to get library books and a hot chocolate and cushions in bed so that it's a pleasure and i want to relax that way, instead of browsing on my phone. I have some trauma issues so I'm sleep phobic. ",
"Go through your day from start to finish. Like from the moment you woke up, brushed your teeth and all that shit till when you netflixed last thing before bed. \n\nSexual fantasy. It's your mind, think of whatever the fuck you like...go wild. Not joking, it helps.\n\nAlso, check out headspace app, they've some m",
"Audio books were mentioned but podcasts are great too :) plus they have a sleep timer (of you use an app). ",
"Try to learn how to quiet your mind when you're awake, so you can apply that when you're going to sleep. Don't try and trick yourself.",
"Try just being more tired when you go to bed:\n\na) Get up earlier in the morning.\nb) Exercise regularly.\nc) Take a melatonin supplement ~1 hour before bed and put yourself in a low light situation - no screens, bright lights, etc. Maybe read to a soft orange light.\n\nIf you're actually tired when you lie down, your brain is going to be thinking about pretty much only one thing - sleep.",
"This is also a technique I use to encourage lucid dreaming and improve/maintain my visual memory.\n\nPicture a place you either use to visit often or live and do a mental visual walk through trying to get as much detail as possible."
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"Get a cheap hotel at short notice. Me and my SO are going on a road-trip across the country next month and would like spend as little as possible on accommodation each night. She wanted to book beforehand but I thought we should wait as there may be a cheaper way to get a room at short notice. As we are doing a lot of driving all we really need is a bed to share and a bathroom so we can have a shower, nothing fancy.\nAny tips?",
"Get a cheap hotel at short notice. Me and my SO are going on a road-trip across the country next month and would like spend as little as possible on accommodation each night. She wanted to book beforehand but I thought we should wait as there may be a cheaper way to get a room at short notice. As we are doing a lot of driving all we really need is a bed to share and a bathroom so we can have a shower, nothing fancy.\nAny tips?",
"Get a cheap hotel at short notice. Me and my SO are going on a road-trip across the country next month and would like spend as little as possible on accommodation each night. She wanted to book beforehand but I thought we should wait as there may be a cheaper way to get a room at short notice. As we are doing a lot of driving all we really need is a bed to share and a bathroom so we can have a shower, nothing fancy.\nAny tips?",
"Get a cheap hotel at short notice. Me and my SO are going on a road-trip across the country next month and would like spend as little as possible on accommodation each night. She wanted to book beforehand but I thought we should wait as there may be a cheaper way to get a room at short notice. As we are doing a lot of driving all we really need is a bed to share and a bathroom so we can have a shower, nothing fancy.\nAny tips?",
"Get a cheap hotel at short notice. Me and my SO are going on a road-trip across the country next month and would like spend as little as possible on accommodation each night. She wanted to book beforehand but I thought we should wait as there may be a cheaper way to get a room at short notice. As we are doing a lot of driving all we really need is a bed to share and a bathroom so we can have a shower, nothing fancy.\nAny tips?",
"Get a cheap hotel at short notice. Me and my SO are going on a road-trip across the country next month and would like spend as little as possible on accommodation each night. She wanted to book beforehand but I thought we should wait as there may be a cheaper way to get a room at short notice. As we are doing a lot of driving all we really need is a bed to share and a bathroom so we can have a shower, nothing fancy.\nAny tips?"
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"I've had good luck with Hotwire.com last minute.\n\nOr sleep in the car, shower at Flying J. Or get a 24hr Fitness membership, shower there.",
"There was something on Reddit a few weeks ago saying if you make a reservation for a standard room and arrive late like after 5pm you can get free upgrades if rooms are available. ",
"If you search online (or on your phone) for a good rate, find one that fits then call the hotel directly and ask if they can beat the price. Most do (including the one I stayed at last week, which went from 65+tax on hotels.com to 60 total just by calling). Another option as others have stated would be to check couchsurfing.com. Keep in mind these people are inviting you in. Plan on spending an extra $5 and bringing some donuts and coffee. Anything that will make you presentable as a guest not just someone that is crashing. Consider also stocking up on some trade goods unique to your location (wine, cheese, preserves). Anything that is less expensive for you but will make a nice gift to someone. Best of luck and have fun. Document the journey with pictures and make sure to get a room with some privacy every once in while. \n",
"Hotels will almost always give you at least a 10% discount. The clerk can always go lower than the rate that they first tell you. If you have AAA or AARP, or a Military ID and you show it, you'll get at least 10% off automatically. If you don't have anything like this, just ask nicely: \"Is there any possibility for a discount?\" \n\nThe people who use websites to book rooms oftentimes pay *more* than if you were to just walk in the front door. ",
"If you use your phone to look at site like Expedia and Travelocity for reservations, the [mobile version](http://www.expedia.com/MobileHotel?rfrr=-1065&) might get an extra same day discount than if you used a regular website. I've worked in hotels for 3 years and usually 3rd party websites offer extended **mobile** discounts because the traveler is on the road and needs an immediate place to stay.",
"I always start with hotwire.com, then I'll trying calling the hotels in the area to see if they'll beet the hotwire rate... if not I'll try priceline ~$5 less than the hotwire price.\n\nIt's a lot easier to find a good deal in a big city than a small town."
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"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?",
"How to tell if a screaming kids is being removed by a parent or being abducted by someone? Anything we can be on the look out for? I try not to stare when a parent is dragging their screaming kid outside because it's embarrassing enough and they probably wanted a toy or candy and was told no... but I always wonder if that was not a parent and a stranger kidnapping the child the kid would probably behave that same way so how can I tell the difference?"
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"I’m a mom and I can tell you that when a kid is truly terrified you can hear it in their scream/cry. I was at my sister’s house a few months back when my daughter was in the next room playing with other kids. She suddenly screamed and all the adults knew from the sound of the scream that something really bad had happened and we all jolted up and ran to the room. She sliced her finger open on a protruding upholstery staple sticking out of my sister’s sofa) Temper tantrums look and sound much different from panic or fear. Look at the child’s face, if they look scared or confused as opposed to just unhappy there might be a problem. I’m sure I’m some cases it could be hard to tell the difference but I think this is the best way to asses the situation. I also think an abductor would have different body language. Unless the parent is abusive parents tend to handle their children gently.",
"It’s not much of a tip from an outsiders perspective, but I remember being taught as a child what to do if you’re being abducted (terrifying, I know). But we were told to not just kick and scream, since that’s fairly common behavior. We were told to say something like: “this isn’t my mom/dad, help me” \n\nAll of this to say, hopefully as scary as it is, people are still teaching children the things they need to do in that sort of situation.",
"Everyone is saying look at the child, but I think you can gather more information by looking at the adult. Parents might look embarrassed or stressed out about it…but the task of leaving must continue, scream in my face I don’t care we’re going… bonus points if they just deep sigh and keep moving. a non parent would handle that situation much differently, they need that child quiet and subdued to not attract attention. They need to look “in control” so others don’t offer assistance.",
"If you’re truly worried about it, ask. Better to be perceived as an asshole by a parent you’ll never see again than to not intervene in a kidnapping. I’ve got 3 kids and if one was melting down and a stranger asked them if I was their mom, I’d probably at first be irritated, but my mom brain would quickly understand the person was just trying to help. I’d also not hesitate to ask a screaming kid if they knew the person carrying them if I really felt they were in danger.",
"First and foremost. You're absolutely allowed to stare. Strangers did it to me when I did dumb shit as a kid and I do it when I see some potential danger to a kid, it's just an instinct. I've obviously never seen a kid get kidnapped and I don't just stare at kids as a hobby, but if something sparks my attention then I tend to inspect it. More so the situation than the participants, but if it looks like they're hurting the child instead of just making the child mad, then that's probably a pretty key sign.",
"this sounds \"weird\" but whatever.\n\none thing I do is say a passing remark to the parent such as, \"we all have our moments\" and usually someone will reply with a \"thanks\" or \"this isn't my first rodeo.\" or a short quick smile usually a brief second of two eye contact. usually if the parent has another parent doing the shopping you'll see a equally exhausted other parent at the check-out. just a simple exchange of words that elicits some sort of interaction with or without words. \n\n\nif i was ever in a situation where someone was taking the kid outside and i tried to initiate some remark that is often responded to positively and they don't look at me... i'm kind of sus... I have never felt the need confront anyone, but I have taken down license plates and take a discrete picture. nothing has come from it i know not everyone is friendly or wants any sort of public opinion and that's cool. but i'm still gonna take note. cuz someone paying attention can be the first major lead. and i care about people. Your kid is not my kid, but it takes a community to keep everyone safe and if i was at the same place, at the same time as a child was abducted i'd never forgive myself for not paying enough attention.",
"Watch the child. Is he/she **Fearful or Scared**? Mad? Tired? I have removed my child from a store before while he was screaming for his Daddy- who was staying to finish shopping. It's difficult to know the situation.\n\nTeach your children to scream, \"Stranger - 911\". \n\nI realize this is impossible with a 2 year old. \n\nStay Safe!",
"Sounds like you don’t have kids lol as a parent of two under three who both regularly throw fits i haven’t noticed anyone else’s kids, mostly I wonder if I am the only one in the whole store who has small kids?",
"Someone abducting a child is more likely to lure the child or take them out very calmly. If they are screaming, they’d be in a huge rush to get away before the real parents/sitter heard.",
"I wonder about this too since I work in a big box retailer and see/hear the same situations. If I have seen the adult and child together before, or if the child is struggling because they are in the child seat or the shopping cart, I assume they belong together and don't worry about it. But dragging a child or bodily carrying a kicking, screaming one? Yes, that worries me...\n\nMy kids and grandchildren are all grown, so I am not in touch with parenting tips today, but I would like to think that maybe kids are taught to scream something like, \"I don't know you!\" or \"You aren't my Mom/Dad!\" Even the word \"HELP\" would be a different signal than the usual crying fit from not getting what they want.\n\nI agree with the OP that it's a scary situation...",
"I live in a light population area. Sometimes I'm able to see the family before hand and realize they are together.",
"Generally, someone kidnapping a child will stop and run away when the child brings attention to them. - this obviously isn't a one size fits all but should help.",
"Depends on the age, but I think most kids that are being abducted would be screaming for mommy or daddy, where as a tantrum would be something else. The adult will also give off clues. A parent interacts with a child in a different way than a stranger would.",
"Ask yourself, is the kid between 2 and 3? Under 2... Ask questions...over 3...ask questions. But that magical 2-3 is a complete disaster. I had front row seats to my daughter screaming for an hour because we had to leave the pool to make it home in time for dinner. It happens, and there isn't much you can do about it...terrible 2's I believe is the term.",
"Pay attention, notice screaming children when they start to scream, and who theyre with. Look for family resemblance, listen if the kid is screaming for help or their parents, pay attention the the adults body language. Are they just taking the child or did they put up with this through check out? Generally if a child is screaming and the adult with them 8s trying to hurry them out the door of a retail 9r grocery establishment without any of the things they came for, its probably not a parent. You can absolutely walk up and ask the child if theyre okay and would they like some water? Most parents will appreciate kind attempts to calm their child, while a predator would try to gwt the child away from you so they cant tell you theyre being kidnapped. \n\nConstant vigilance!",
"This is actually a serious issue, we need to look after them better! we have such a shortage on children and it's so hard to make them, literally everyone is trying to steal one, it's like pokemon.\n\nCmon ffs no one tries to take a kid. In many sad situations not even the parents. Do you even realize how many kids are being simply left?"
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"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?",
"How to be a well informed adult? LPT: I can't be the *only* person out there who pretty much has no clue what's going on in the world. There's so much information coming in from so many directions that I've basically made a semi conscious decision to ignore any news story and focus on my own life and school work.\n\nThen I get on to Reddit and see some news story on the front page and I'll click on it just to read the comments. In those comments, I read wonderfully articulated and nuanced opinions (sometimes even well sourced!...sometimes) from people and feel terrible for not knowing what's actually being spoken about. \n\nI think it's time I changed that. What is the most efficient way to go about doing this while not dedicating the Lion's share of my day to it?"
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"I hope this helps...\nsimilarly I was only concerned with my own bubble of interactions and things that effected only my personally.\n\nThe change for me was when I started browsing reddit at home, but listening to CBC radio 1 on my commute to and from work every morning.\nI don't have to be a activist or have strong opinions on evert topic at hand but I feel it's important to to be somewhat well informed about the world.\n\nI know how other canadians feel about the new pipeline and what they are doing about it, the government's actions toward climate change, Marijuana legalization, regional events and local stuff that's happening to the little towns around me.\nit opens things up for discussion. and if you feel strongly about something you can always learn more to see what you as an individual can do.\n\nhonestly for us CBC is great news, it's not scare tactics or Bull shit, just straight here's what's happening.",
"Don't read the newspaper, watch TV news, or listen to radio news. What you want is a deeper, more long-term perspective on things. Instead, put your time and effort into reading more in depth articles, and books. Someone suggested The Economist and that's a great choice. Try to learn some history, too. It's a lot harder to get duped by silly ideas when you know historical facts that make those ideas seem less plausible.",
"Find passionate joournalists, activists and intellectuals whom you relate to, in a field you especially care about. If you share their passion, it will spread to other areas of interest and you'll soon discover that you have developed critical skills and knowledge. It's better if you find people who admit and celebrate their bias, imo.",
"Whatever u end up reading, find a credible source to fact check. A lot of the times i find websites copy and pasting articles from another site while throwing their two sense in the mix. ",
"Read the newspaper. If you live in a smaller area, make sure to read the wire (i.e. non-local) articles. Ignore the comments. Honestly, the comments are just frosting and french fries.",
"If they tell you in any article, or story, how you should feel about the topic, that's something you ignore, and look for just the facts",
"I subscribed to The Skimm, which emails you M-F news bit for you to skim through so you can be up to date on what has been happening in the world. ",
"I listen to the local news radio in my commute, and when Im taking a break and surfing the web, I'll check out the front page of a news site or two. I dont read most of the stories because usually you can get the gist of it from the title. I deep read any articles that pique my curiosity - science, astronomy. And politics in the past but I avoid it completely now. \n\n",
"I like to listen to the podcast Stuff You Should Know while I drive to work.... They cover a broad range of topics at a level which makes me feel informed but still allows for doing your own research on topics that pique your interest. ",
"Go old school and either read the paper or watch the evening news. This way you get a curated news feed based on importance, rather than preference. Also, when learning news and world events on social media, the supply really is endless. Both newspapers and evening news have a set amount of content. ",
"Choose a variety of reliable data sources, and rotate some new sources into your mix regularly.\n\nI currently use grist, the economist, wsj, bbc, the guardian, business/tech insider, huffington post, and a range of buzzy sites to mix with the serious stuff.",
"Buy a subscription to a well sourced newspaper. Read well sourced science literature. Read well-sourced literature on current events. Find out how to tell if sources are shitty or not. "
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"How to increase longevity of a headset? I'm tired of my headsets breaking all the time, in the last 6 months I've had 5. A 50 eur headset I bought lasted only 6 hours somehow. It's usually one side of it just stopping not playing any sound. How do I stop them from doing that, and what do I look for in headsets if I want them to last longer?",
"How to increase longevity of a headset? I'm tired of my headsets breaking all the time, in the last 6 months I've had 5. A 50 eur headset I bought lasted only 6 hours somehow. It's usually one side of it just stopping not playing any sound. How do I stop them from doing that, and what do I look for in headsets if I want them to last longer?"
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"Buy one with a replaceable cable. From what I've seen it's almost always the cable that breaks. My kids were going through them pretty fast until my I did this. the plus side is that the replacement cables are also much sturdier than the hard wired ones.",
"Install hidden cameras where you keep your headphones. They aren't supposed to just stop working like that unless the cords are damaged by really long usage (over 6 months). I have 4$ Panasonic earphones that still work after 4 years. A steelseries headset that is still working after 3 years of use (though the volume control wasn't working but I could change them as it can be removed). Besides, prefer headphones without a volume control"
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"How to enjoy/be comfortable being single? I hear a lot of people talk about that you should enjoy being single, or you'll find more success if you're not actively looking for a relationship. But how do you do this?\n\nI enjoy having time to go to the gym, or watch Netflix or play games, but I'd enjoy it more if this time was punctuated by having a significant other.\n\nAnd then - as sad as it may sound - how to you not have it in your head where you're hoping to meet someone all the time; such as if you're at a pub, BBQ or social event?",
"How to enjoy/be comfortable being single? I hear a lot of people talk about that you should enjoy being single, or you'll find more success if you're not actively looking for a relationship. But how do you do this?\n\nI enjoy having time to go to the gym, or watch Netflix or play games, but I'd enjoy it more if this time was punctuated by having a significant other.\n\nAnd then - as sad as it may sound - how to you not have it in your head where you're hoping to meet someone all the time; such as if you're at a pub, BBQ or social event?",
"How to enjoy/be comfortable being single? I hear a lot of people talk about that you should enjoy being single, or you'll find more success if you're not actively looking for a relationship. But how do you do this?\n\nI enjoy having time to go to the gym, or watch Netflix or play games, but I'd enjoy it more if this time was punctuated by having a significant other.\n\nAnd then - as sad as it may sound - how to you not have it in your head where you're hoping to meet someone all the time; such as if you're at a pub, BBQ or social event?"
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"Fill your life with more activities than you've listed - to be trite, I'd say instead of worrying about a significant other, make your lifestyle more significant. Read more books, learn another language, take up photography, take up aquascaping - the list is endless. Find something you want to master and do it. \n\nAs to the meeting people thing, you'll find as you become more accomplished at something, your self-esteem will rise, thus making you more attractive. You'll be an awesome loop, basically.\n\nThen, of course, you'll face the conundrum of whether or not you should turn someone down because your mongolian throat singing lessons are starting in an hour.",
"Hi NotNeo, have you heard/read of the saying ['Love yourself, before you can love others'.](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-path-passionate-happiness/201502/love-yourself-you-love-others)\n\nI know its hard not to think of wanting/being with someone but unless you're comfortable with being yourself others will feel the same way with you too! Therefor you should strive not to please others but strive to mainly be happy and content with yourself first and foremost! how can a significant other get attracted to you if you're emanating that eerie feeling that you're leering onto someone. \n\nKnow who you are first what you want to do what you want to enjoy but not over-assert, become an arrogant, selfish person that you want to be the only one, learn to be patient, empathize and become comfortable with yourself and your routine to be able to attract people that want that happiness and super-comfy feeling that people usually want to have too!",
"My wife and I were both sides of the spectrum.\n\nShe focused on her career and worked like crazy. And I pretty much humped as much as I could. \n\nBut I did it looking for the perfect woman. So my intentions were there.\n\nMy wife on the other hand just worked like crazy. And I'm glad she at some point went looking for a guy, otherwise we never would have met. \n\nWhen we talk about the last 20 years, I pull out a ton of pictures of awesome people I met. Yeah, I had sex with a lot of them. But I had fun. We did stuff.\n\nI had sex with a girl who was a ski instructor in a pile of snow outside of a bar in the Swiss Alps. She is awesome, I'm still friends with her and I love her husband. I definitely approve. She actually asked me if I approved before she got serious with him.\n\nBut I have a lot of friends who I never hooked up with. I guess just the effort of meeting people doesn't mean you need to touch their boobies. It just means you are meeting each other. \n\nGo make friends!!\n\nSent with love, light, and luck! :D "
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"Finding a good apartment deal in a major city Hi everyone,\n\nI currently live just outside of Washington, DC in Arlington, VA, but am likely going to move into DC come January. Looking for places in the winter is definitely an advantage because demand is lower, but obviously supply is lower too. With this being said -- what are some LPT to find a good deal on an apartment in a major city?\n\nThe answer might be simply \"you can't,\" but what are some steps you can do to snag a deal before anyone else? I knew a guy who a year or so ago got a huge apartment with a balcony for what I am paying now ($1500 w/utilities) because he physically went from apartment to apartment in a specific area, asking for deals and such. I don't have the time or desire to go door-to-door around all of Washington, DC, but is this something that can score a deal? Do you recommend finding a realtor to find you apartment deals? Websites, tricks, etc. Any other tips are welcome!",
"Finding a good apartment deal in a major city Hi everyone,\n\nI currently live just outside of Washington, DC in Arlington, VA, but am likely going to move into DC come January. Looking for places in the winter is definitely an advantage because demand is lower, but obviously supply is lower too. With this being said -- what are some LPT to find a good deal on an apartment in a major city?\n\nThe answer might be simply \"you can't,\" but what are some steps you can do to snag a deal before anyone else? I knew a guy who a year or so ago got a huge apartment with a balcony for what I am paying now ($1500 w/utilities) because he physically went from apartment to apartment in a specific area, asking for deals and such. I don't have the time or desire to go door-to-door around all of Washington, DC, but is this something that can score a deal? Do you recommend finding a realtor to find you apartment deals? Websites, tricks, etc. Any other tips are welcome!",
"Finding a good apartment deal in a major city Hi everyone,\n\nI currently live just outside of Washington, DC in Arlington, VA, but am likely going to move into DC come January. Looking for places in the winter is definitely an advantage because demand is lower, but obviously supply is lower too. With this being said -- what are some LPT to find a good deal on an apartment in a major city?\n\nThe answer might be simply \"you can't,\" but what are some steps you can do to snag a deal before anyone else? I knew a guy who a year or so ago got a huge apartment with a balcony for what I am paying now ($1500 w/utilities) because he physically went from apartment to apartment in a specific area, asking for deals and such. I don't have the time or desire to go door-to-door around all of Washington, DC, but is this something that can score a deal? Do you recommend finding a realtor to find you apartment deals? Websites, tricks, etc. Any other tips are welcome!"
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"Make sure to check Craigslist and drive in the area you want. Many times people don’t have professionally managed homes/apartments that will rent it under market value so it will go quick with minimal fuss like having to post on 100 different websites. Craigslist seems to be the one people will post to when they don’t post on any other site.",
"If you can be flexible on timing it helps get a good deal. Prices are all over the place in most markets, occasionally outliers come on the market and if you just watch you can find occasional bargains. ",
"Didn't know that about DC. Supply contracts and price goes down in the winter. Not the supply/demand curve I studied in school. Best way to get a good deal in a large eastern city is to lower your expectations."
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"How to deflate and fold an air mattress so that it fits back in the bag it came in I usually open the fair valve and let it deflate on its own. When it looks flat, I fold it but it's always huge and bulky and can never fit back into the bag."
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"How to strike up a conversation with athletes/celebs Living in a big market, metropolitan city, I'll randomly run into celebs/athletes. Sometimes I'll greet them nicely and respect their space but outside of that, I really never know what else to say to them or talk about for the 30 second window I'll have. Maybe it's the \"star struck\" effect but anyone have any stories or tips to share?",
"How to strike up a conversation with athletes/celebs Living in a big market, metropolitan city, I'll randomly run into celebs/athletes. Sometimes I'll greet them nicely and respect their space but outside of that, I really never know what else to say to them or talk about for the 30 second window I'll have. Maybe it's the \"star struck\" effect but anyone have any stories or tips to share?",
"How to strike up a conversation with athletes/celebs Living in a big market, metropolitan city, I'll randomly run into celebs/athletes. Sometimes I'll greet them nicely and respect their space but outside of that, I really never know what else to say to them or talk about for the 30 second window I'll have. Maybe it's the \"star struck\" effect but anyone have any stories or tips to share?",
"How to strike up a conversation with athletes/celebs Living in a big market, metropolitan city, I'll randomly run into celebs/athletes. Sometimes I'll greet them nicely and respect their space but outside of that, I really never know what else to say to them or talk about for the 30 second window I'll have. Maybe it's the \"star struck\" effect but anyone have any stories or tips to share?",
"How to strike up a conversation with athletes/celebs Living in a big market, metropolitan city, I'll randomly run into celebs/athletes. Sometimes I'll greet them nicely and respect their space but outside of that, I really never know what else to say to them or talk about for the 30 second window I'll have. Maybe it's the \"star struck\" effect but anyone have any stories or tips to share?",
"How to strike up a conversation with athletes/celebs Living in a big market, metropolitan city, I'll randomly run into celebs/athletes. Sometimes I'll greet them nicely and respect their space but outside of that, I really never know what else to say to them or talk about for the 30 second window I'll have. Maybe it's the \"star struck\" effect but anyone have any stories or tips to share?",
"How to strike up a conversation with athletes/celebs Living in a big market, metropolitan city, I'll randomly run into celebs/athletes. Sometimes I'll greet them nicely and respect their space but outside of that, I really never know what else to say to them or talk about for the 30 second window I'll have. Maybe it's the \"star struck\" effect but anyone have any stories or tips to share?"
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"Tell them they smell different when they're awake.\n\nSeriously though, if you know a little about the person from interviews etc. then try to talk about something you know they're interested in, or ask them if they have any plans or upcoming stuff, like a new album or a new movie lined up. ",
"If know the celeb but don't follow his / her work, I let them be. If I particularly like them I say hi, and tell them my fave show / movie they star in, try and get a hand shake then leave. I don't like taking selfies, and they are probably sick of it as well, I'd much rather have a quick pleasant exchange then let them do their thing.",
"i have always just said hello and if still around for longer thn a minute, jsut talk to them like a normal person. thats it.",
"I used to work in baseball and I found that a players social media presence was a huge indicator of how cool a player was. A guy like Brandon Phillips who interacts with his fans every day on twitter is the kind of guy you can go up to and geek out/fan girl and he totally eats it up. But other guys who just use their celebrity to sell shit like Aaron Rodgers are total dicks and wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. ",
"I generally let them be. If I'm a fan I compliment them and say thanks but otherwise, they are just out doing their own thing. ",
"I run into celebrities a bunch where I live. Most of them are much more willing to chat if they think you are unaware of who they are. Ask them questions. A good starter is to say something like, \"whoa, I really like this {blank} you're wearing. Where did you get it? Then follow up with \"it's very {Insert where you're from or far away location } that's so nice to see!\" Then they will either ask where you're from or you can mutually bond over said location and voila ball is rolling. *done this dozens of times*",
"Consider something like\n\n\"I really like that tie.\" \n\n\"Is there good sushi nearby?\"\n\n\"I'm a big fan of your work even after (fill in the blank with worst movie, pass interception, or other embarrassment).\"\n\nLook at celeb and then point to something someone else is doing, saying, or wearing and make a comment like \"Do you believe this guy?\" "
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"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. ",
"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. ",
"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. ",
"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. ",
"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. ",
"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. ",
"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. ",
"What is the best way to apply for scholarships for college? I am going into college next year (I am currently a senior in high school) and I am not going to have nearly enough money to pay for college even after the financial aid package will be negotiated. So, I was wondering what would be a highly recommended way to apply for scholarships that offer a lot of money, but are easy to apply for. Please add on any other additional information that is related to this topic because anything would be helpful. "
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"The issue with many people is that they go after the biggest and best scholarships, and essentially put all their eggs in one basket. In my case, I completed about 30 scholarships that ranged from a few hundred dollars, to about two thousand dollars. You would be surprised at how many businesses and corporations have scholarship funds. Additionally, many of these scholarships are:\n\n* Very similar and you can re-use essays with minimal changes.\n\n* Require tasks other than essays. (One such scholarship I completed was designing a superhero for a mattress company as a mascot)\n\n* Not well known, so you have a very good chance of getting them.\n \nIt can also benefit you to join a scholarship search website. While not 100% reliable you can often find scholarships that pertain to your interests and therefore are easy to write about. I know many sites have filter options, such as Sallie Mae's scholarship search.\n \nI remember hating spending hours doing these scholarships, but in the end, when you can attend a private college for free, it is definitely worth it.",
"None of them are easy, unless you happen to have a connection. Talk to your advisor or counselor. If you're a terrific student with solid activities and can write a good essay, you might be able to snag some $$. You can also join the Navy, etc. No entity is eager to just hand you funds because you're you.",
"One way to receive scholarship money is to apply to schools that will LOVE to have you. I know this seems obvious but most students (and their folks) are only interested in the best \"name\" college they can possibly get into. The truth is, if your desirable to a school they will bend over backward to get you there. I'm not just talking about grades either. Do you play sports or an instrument? Have you founded a club or done volunteer work? There are schools that are looking for kids like you - do your research to find these schools. If you are well spoken and interesting, try to get interviews at those schools. Make sure you have STELLAR teacher recommendations! You're more likely to stand out from the pack if you stand out form the pack. Know what I mean? Good luck!",
"r/scholarships has some good information, as well as many websites listing scholarships in the 500-1500 range. They are not easy to get but if you have the spare time it can be worth it.",
"Present senior in high school to get good merit and the so many colleges offers merit student. Be concentrate to get merit. One example a poor family father was watchman in an apartment her son studies Intermediate got 60 percent pass in compartment and he wants to join in Engineering College in ECE. But the college admissions filled primarily. He went so many colleges but no way. One day he came my work premises and asking me to get seat for Engineering college. I saw his profile and I wondered he participated in games Tykon in National level Semi-final I am asking him if you told any college of your sports achievement. But told me no one allow me to say. I told him which college you interested, he says me my father works premises because he also old i want to went college and help him. He go to the near by his home One of Engineering college and as he told at College first in Sports achievement. The College taken immediately his admission. After his admission he participated in Final Tykon and got Bronze Medal. Your confident must reach your goal. ",
"DON'T apply to scholarships that offer a lot of money and are easy. They are a waste of time because so many people apply it is basically like trying to win the lottery. Apply to small scholarships that are related to your specific interests/situation/major/extracurriculars. Apply to local scholarships in your area. Dig around for scholarships with a smaller pool of applicants. In the end, better to spend a bit more time and effort and increase your chances 100 fold.",
"Yeah scholarships are typically given to high achievers and people who are closely in touch with people who give out scholarships. There is no \"easy\" way to get a scholarship you just have to put the work in and pray it pays off.",
"Step no. 1: don't be white. \n\nIn all seriousness there are a lot of scholarships out there for under represented groups. I believe there are even websites that list scholarships.\n\nA good resource might be your high-school Counselor m"
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"How to make razor cuts on your face stop bleeding within a reasonable amount of time. They just don't stop bleeding!",
"How to make razor cuts on your face stop bleeding within a reasonable amount of time. They just don't stop bleeding!",
"How to make razor cuts on your face stop bleeding within a reasonable amount of time. They just don't stop bleeding!"
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"Tea Leaves. Take some from a Lipton Tea Bag and stick it on the cut. By the time you get ready leave the house you'll be healed up.\n\nIf you have a large cut; even a knife cut, take a couple of tea bags and they will stop the bleeding very fast.\n\n",
"Great tips so far here. For more info I can really recommend a visit to [/r/wicked_edge](https://www.reddit.com/r/wicked_edge/)!",
" Yarrow works, is a natural antiseptic, doesn't burn, also highly effective for deeper cuts.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Frontier-Yarrow-CERTIFIED-ORGANIC-package/dp/B000UYA1UK"
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"A solution to trash in your car I usually just throw it on the floor of my car and pick it up later. But its getting gross. Any cleaner ways to deal with it?",
"A solution to trash in your car I usually just throw it on the floor of my car and pick it up later. But its getting gross. Any cleaner ways to deal with it?",
"A solution to trash in your car I usually just throw it on the floor of my car and pick it up later. But its getting gross. Any cleaner ways to deal with it?",
"A solution to trash in your car I usually just throw it on the floor of my car and pick it up later. But its getting gross. Any cleaner ways to deal with it?",
"A solution to trash in your car I usually just throw it on the floor of my car and pick it up later. But its getting gross. Any cleaner ways to deal with it?",
"A solution to trash in your car I usually just throw it on the floor of my car and pick it up later. But its getting gross. Any cleaner ways to deal with it?",
"A solution to trash in your car I usually just throw it on the floor of my car and pick it up later. But its getting gross. Any cleaner ways to deal with it?"
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"I simply leave a plastic grocery bag in the backseat (behind passenger so it's easier to reach) and put my trash in there.\n\nSomething that helps me be on top of keeping my car interior clean is to offer be the driver. This forces you to clean up for your guest.",
"I keep a few of those extra plastic bags from the grocery store in my car for just in case, but I usually remove all the trash from my car each time I get out. There's almost always a trash can between where you park and where you're going, so I just throw out the trash each and every time.",
"You have two options.\n\n1. Don't be fucking lazy and take the garbage out with you when you leave the car. (I did not choose this option.)\n\n2. Use some type of trashcan. Some people just use a plastic bag, but since I'm trying to keep it classy, I opted to get a bag designed to fit on the back of the head rest. It's actually working out quite well, I call it the carbage can.",
"Plastic grocery bag, like others have recommended, except I hang it from the post on my passenger side head-rest.\n\nI leave it positioned on the front of the seat if it's just me; if I have a passenger, I swing it around to the back of the seat.",
"I use the plastic bags they give you when ordering multiple bubbleteas for takeaway. Small enough they don't get in the way and that they need to be emptied frequently but not so small that they won't hold stuff. ( I hang it off the gear stick). Oh and a clean out every sseason which is part of safety check anyways, oil, breaks and what not.",
"I either have garbage bags in my car for when it gets gross, or I drive my car up to the recyling bin and toss it out.",
"Get yourself a small plastic bag with a hole at the top big enough to fit around your blinker stalk and hang it from there. It won't catch big trash but it'll keep the small things at bay. If you're consciously keeping your car clean, you'll be more likely to throw the fast food bags out as soon as you throw them in the back when you get home. At least that worked for me. YMMV."
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"How to eat a lot of food in one sitting. I'm interested in learning how to eat fast and a lot of food in one sitting. This is because I'm interesting getting into competitive eating.",
"How to eat a lot of food in one sitting. I'm interested in learning how to eat fast and a lot of food in one sitting. This is because I'm interesting getting into competitive eating."
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"[This might be useful...](http://www.randysantel.com/randys-challenge-advice/tips-for-eating-contests)",
"Chugging large quantities of water help to expand the stomach and help with controlling your breathing. Eating quickly helps insofar as getting as much food in you before your brain realizes the body is full. Get a bowl of cooked cabbage, it's low in calories so you won't get fat while practicing. And if you are doing something like hotdogs, tear them apart as your are eating them, works kind of like a pre chew. Good luck. "
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"I need advice to move out Im trying to move out with my boyfriend in about 3 months. I’ve been waiting for years to have the chance to be able move out (cuz of age). But the thing is my parents are religious, and ever since i was little they told me i can’t move out until i am married. \nMy home is not an abusive one (at least i don’t think it is), but their love is toxic to me, staying here in this house has made me consider being 6ft under the ground so many times. Not only that but when i tell my feelings to my mom, she makes herself the victim and then threatens to take everything i have away because “she can”. My dad never really pays attention to me, and he usually takes his frustration from work out on everyone (verbally). My sister has her own problems but the way she treats me really effects me emotionally, and my brother threatens to tell my parents my plan on moving- so i won’t leave. \nMy mom also always puts religion on me saying i have to honor my parents meaning i have to obey them, and the time i told my dad i liked girls too, he said he wouldn’t love me anymore if i got with one (but at least my mom says she will always love me).\n\nMy fear is that my family will hate me, it blame me leaving on my boyfriend and attack him, when i’ve been planning this since i was 14. The way i planned on leaving was coming out as gay and just leaving, but now i have someone else reputation on my hands.\n\ni don’t want my family to hate me or hate my boyfriend. i just want validation, that it’s okay for me to leave, but if you have advice or any type of opinion of questions please let me know!",
"I need advice to move out Im trying to move out with my boyfriend in about 3 months. I’ve been waiting for years to have the chance to be able move out (cuz of age). But the thing is my parents are religious, and ever since i was little they told me i can’t move out until i am married. \nMy home is not an abusive one (at least i don’t think it is), but their love is toxic to me, staying here in this house has made me consider being 6ft under the ground so many times. Not only that but when i tell my feelings to my mom, she makes herself the victim and then threatens to take everything i have away because “she can”. My dad never really pays attention to me, and he usually takes his frustration from work out on everyone (verbally). My sister has her own problems but the way she treats me really effects me emotionally, and my brother threatens to tell my parents my plan on moving- so i won’t leave. \nMy mom also always puts religion on me saying i have to honor my parents meaning i have to obey them, and the time i told my dad i liked girls too, he said he wouldn’t love me anymore if i got with one (but at least my mom says she will always love me).\n\nMy fear is that my family will hate me, it blame me leaving on my boyfriend and attack him, when i’ve been planning this since i was 14. The way i planned on leaving was coming out as gay and just leaving, but now i have someone else reputation on my hands.\n\ni don’t want my family to hate me or hate my boyfriend. i just want validation, that it’s okay for me to leave, but if you have advice or any type of opinion of questions please let me know!",
"I need advice to move out Im trying to move out with my boyfriend in about 3 months. I’ve been waiting for years to have the chance to be able move out (cuz of age). But the thing is my parents are religious, and ever since i was little they told me i can’t move out until i am married. \nMy home is not an abusive one (at least i don’t think it is), but their love is toxic to me, staying here in this house has made me consider being 6ft under the ground so many times. Not only that but when i tell my feelings to my mom, she makes herself the victim and then threatens to take everything i have away because “she can”. My dad never really pays attention to me, and he usually takes his frustration from work out on everyone (verbally). My sister has her own problems but the way she treats me really effects me emotionally, and my brother threatens to tell my parents my plan on moving- so i won’t leave. \nMy mom also always puts religion on me saying i have to honor my parents meaning i have to obey them, and the time i told my dad i liked girls too, he said he wouldn’t love me anymore if i got with one (but at least my mom says she will always love me).\n\nMy fear is that my family will hate me, it blame me leaving on my boyfriend and attack him, when i’ve been planning this since i was 14. The way i planned on leaving was coming out as gay and just leaving, but now i have someone else reputation on my hands.\n\ni don’t want my family to hate me or hate my boyfriend. i just want validation, that it’s okay for me to leave, but if you have advice or any type of opinion of questions please let me know!",
"I need advice to move out Im trying to move out with my boyfriend in about 3 months. I’ve been waiting for years to have the chance to be able move out (cuz of age). But the thing is my parents are religious, and ever since i was little they told me i can’t move out until i am married. \nMy home is not an abusive one (at least i don’t think it is), but their love is toxic to me, staying here in this house has made me consider being 6ft under the ground so many times. Not only that but when i tell my feelings to my mom, she makes herself the victim and then threatens to take everything i have away because “she can”. My dad never really pays attention to me, and he usually takes his frustration from work out on everyone (verbally). My sister has her own problems but the way she treats me really effects me emotionally, and my brother threatens to tell my parents my plan on moving- so i won’t leave. \nMy mom also always puts religion on me saying i have to honor my parents meaning i have to obey them, and the time i told my dad i liked girls too, he said he wouldn’t love me anymore if i got with one (but at least my mom says she will always love me).\n\nMy fear is that my family will hate me, it blame me leaving on my boyfriend and attack him, when i’ve been planning this since i was 14. The way i planned on leaving was coming out as gay and just leaving, but now i have someone else reputation on my hands.\n\ni don’t want my family to hate me or hate my boyfriend. i just want validation, that it’s okay for me to leave, but if you have advice or any type of opinion of questions please let me know!"
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"So you're hitting a turning point in your life it seems. Sounds like your 18 or soon to be so I'll give you some advise I wish I had at that age. \n\nDon't let anyone stop you from bettering yourself. Now, this is dependent on you knowing what bettering yourself means. No one is going to tell you what you should or should not do as an adult and if they are telling you what you should/shouldn't do, run. Truth is, not even \"adults\" have a grasp of life or what is going on. Sometimes people, even parents do what they believe is right and fall short, that is okay, you will fall short too,that is also okay. Are your parents falling short? I wouldn't say they are. Sounds like they love you and really care for you. But I do not believe family should get between what we (you) perceive to make us happy, even if them (your parents) might not agree. If you think moving into the world with a boyfriend is a smart idea, I believe your family will still love you at the end of the day for making that decision.\n\nThe key to moving out of the house is to prepare. You say you've been waiting to leave, but I humbly ask you (you don't have to answer this question just ask yourself) what have you done in that time of waiting to make sure that when you do finally leave, you will be successful? Do you have a money nest egg? Do you have a steady job? What are your plans once out in the world? It's important to ask yourself questions even if they are uncomfortable. One part Ive found that's made me a successful \"adult\" is the fact that I've learned to work through the uncomfortable and hard times. In my 28 years of living, it's never rained on just my head for more than a moment. \n\nWish you the best and welcome to adulthood!",
"My gf, now wife, had an very similar situation. She was a year ahead of me in school, so she lived at home for her first year of college. Between the stress of school and living in toxic home environment, she was holding on to her sanity by a thread. Within 2 weeks of my graduation, I found a place for us and moved her out in a day. Her family was very upset. We returned home from grocery shopping one day to find her parents walking out of our backyard. They were freaking out, accusing me of \"keeping her doped up\" and \"keeping her away from her family and god\". These claims were 100% baseless of course, but these people were nutjobs. We've almost completely closed them out of our lives, and they no longer know where we live. Sometimes, for your own sanity and happiness, you have to let people fall out of your life to allow yours to continue. It's hardly ever easy, especially when it's family. My wife still gets emotional around the holidays, remembering the fragments of times that weren't all bad with her family, but she admits that we did the right thing. Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out as well as it did for us. Best of luck.",
"Right after saying your home is not abusive, you list things that are absolutely abusive.\n\nIt can be difficult to see how much harm is being done when you are in the middle of it. It sounds like moving is a must, and therapy wouldn't hurt, and boundaries will need to be made and enforced.",
"Based on other comments, you are 18... Just leave. Your family has *zero* legal rights to keep you at home. They can yell and scream all they want, but they can't actually *do* anything without breaking the law, in serious and life altering ways. \n\nSpecific steps:\n\n1. Don't trust *anyone* in your family until you have moved yourself out, completely.\n2. Don't give up the game. Be a nice and agreeable daughter until you are gone.\n3. Get a bank account in your own name *only,* and not at the bank you have your existing account.\n4. Make sure you have any important papers. License, HS diploma, etc. If you can move those into a *trusted* friends house, so much the better. If you don't have a driver's license, get one. You don't need your parents permission.\n5. If you have a car, make sure it's titled in your name only. If your parents are on the title, concoct some excuse to get them off of it.\n6. Inventory your stuff, and determine what you want to take with you. \n7. Try to move yourself on a day when your family isn't home. \n8. The day you move out (or the day before), move your money, all of it, every penny, into your own account. Ideally, withdraw it as cash, and deposit it in the new account. \n9. If your family wants to meet after, agree to meet only at a third party location, in public, with at least one trusted friend. If things go poorly, leave. Make sure they don't follow you home.\n10. Don't give any family members or other people who associate with them your new address or contact information. Also remember to block them on social media.\n11. They might call the cops, and the cops might find you. No biggie. Just tell the cops that you are an adult and your family is abusive, that you left voluntarily and don't need anything. The cops will close the case and go away. Don't freak out on them.\n12. Your family might come to your place of employment. Give your boss a heads up, and if it's possible, see if they have have you do something like transfer to another location. But *please* let your employer know what's going on, they will appreciate it.\n13. Yeah, you'll make mistakes. That's how we learn. You'll figure it out. You sound reasonably well prepared.. You have a job, money... You'll be fine.\n\nYour family will get over it. Plenty of parents want to keep their kids around, but they almost always get over it eventually."
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"How to relieve asthma without an inhaler. Most of the time i do keep my inhaler with me, but on the rare occasion i need it and do not have access to one, makes it really uncomfortable to breath. Is there another way to relieve the asthma without needing an inhaler? ",
"How to relieve asthma without an inhaler. Most of the time i do keep my inhaler with me, but on the rare occasion i need it and do not have access to one, makes it really uncomfortable to breath. Is there another way to relieve the asthma without needing an inhaler? ",
"How to relieve asthma without an inhaler. Most of the time i do keep my inhaler with me, but on the rare occasion i need it and do not have access to one, makes it really uncomfortable to breath. Is there another way to relieve the asthma without needing an inhaler? ",
"How to relieve asthma without an inhaler. Most of the time i do keep my inhaler with me, but on the rare occasion i need it and do not have access to one, makes it really uncomfortable to breath. Is there another way to relieve the asthma without needing an inhaler? ",
"How to relieve asthma without an inhaler. Most of the time i do keep my inhaler with me, but on the rare occasion i need it and do not have access to one, makes it really uncomfortable to breath. Is there another way to relieve the asthma without needing an inhaler? ",
"How to relieve asthma without an inhaler. Most of the time i do keep my inhaler with me, but on the rare occasion i need it and do not have access to one, makes it really uncomfortable to breath. Is there another way to relieve the asthma without needing an inhaler? "
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"Ibuprofen is an anti-inflammatory and might help with mild syptoms. There are also otc asthma pills by a brand called Primitine that can be purchase at Walgreens, CVS, Target, etc. Menthol cough drops or gum can helps by opening up airways. (Mint tea also is helpful)\n\nI find that doing something distracting like listening to music or playing a video game... or masturbating surprisingly, helps regulate my breathing and I am less focused on trying to breathe.\n\nSource: I have severe asthma and have lacked heath insurance for 4 years.",
"You really must keep an inhaler with you at a times. These tips are all nuts. If you have asthma symptoms, don't be fannying around, take some inhaler.",
"Step 1. always carry your inhaler with you. Don't leave them in hot environments. Check the cannister and it will tell you the maximum temperature it should be exposed to, otherwise the active ingredient will deactivate and it may not be as effective or perhaps not effective at all.\n\nWe use the top technique with our patients (physiotherapist - respiratory) so basically stop what you are doing, sit down, leaning forward and supporting your arms can help. Then concentrate on breathing out for longer periods of time to get your breath back. Once you have it back, wait 5 mins before doing anything else.\n\nIf all else fails, find your local medical centre or pharmacy/chemist as they will have some on stock. If you are really bad, ask people in the street as a lot of people have asthma and carry relievers. If you are not improving, call an ambulance.\n\nThe Buteyko technique (i have no association with them but have done the course previously) can help you to better manage your asthma symptoms and studies show that asthmatics can reduce the amount of puffers they need to use by doing the course.\n\nGood luck",
"If you brush the back of your tongue, pretty hard with some strong tooth paste you’ll cough up a bunch of phlegm and be able to breath better\nI only recently tried this and it helped a lot",
"Pomegranates are used in the Middle East to reduce symptoms... My Persian friend would eat them twice a week so he didn't have to carry around his inhaler",
"It depends what your asthma triggers are. \n\n1. If its triggered by something in the air (a certain chemical, smoke, etc), get to fresh air.\n\n2. If possible, move to a \"room temperature\" area. (If you're outside in the winter, move inside, if you're in a hot room, step out to a hallway, etc).\n\n3. Sit down, and if possible and your asthma attack if big, lie down.\n\n4. Breathe deep, low, and slow. Think of pushing your stomach out when you breathe in. My ideal breath pattern becomes \"three seconds in, one second hold, three seconds out\". When I can match that pattern, I know I have things under control.\n\nThese are tips I've found helpful, note that your mileage may vary, and there are probably more helpful tips out there."
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"How to not smile when in confrontational situations? I'm really bad with this and I don't find the situations funny at all but I can't wipe the stupid grin off my face and it comes off as I'm being rude and making fun of the situation. Help!",
"How to not smile when in confrontational situations? I'm really bad with this and I don't find the situations funny at all but I can't wipe the stupid grin off my face and it comes off as I'm being rude and making fun of the situation. Help!",
"How to not smile when in confrontational situations? I'm really bad with this and I don't find the situations funny at all but I can't wipe the stupid grin off my face and it comes off as I'm being rude and making fun of the situation. Help!",
"How to not smile when in confrontational situations? I'm really bad with this and I don't find the situations funny at all but I can't wipe the stupid grin off my face and it comes off as I'm being rude and making fun of the situation. Help!"
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"If it's a level headed confrontation there's nothing wrong with saying 'hey, I'm sorry but when I'm in an uncomfortable situation sometimes I do _______ , I am not trying to minimize your feelings on the matter.\" Usually people understand (atleast in my experiences- I have a nervous laugh.) \n\nIf they don't understand then it's not a confrontation worth your time at that very moment. If someone is so hellbent on getting a point across to you that they disregard you can't help but smile, then it's not a level headed situation and you'll only do worse by yourself by staying in that situation for longer than necessary. ",
"I think what helps me is taking some deep breaths and really really focusing on what the person is saying.\nI have this problem periodically, and I really think it's the breathing that helps",
"I have the same problem, sometimes accompanied with uncontrollable laughter. Example: the other day we were riding in a company vehicle and the driver drops the N bomb in the middle of a story and just stops talking once he realized what he did. Sitting right next to me was the new guy who just started and happens to be black. I could not stop laughing it was very uncomfortable. ",
"I've been punched a few times for doing this. I still can't stop it.\n\nMy LPT here would be to enjoy the fact you're smiling and realise the other fucker is the one with a problem.....walk away."
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"methods for making sure wild life keeps its distance from you while walking/jogging in a rural area? ",
"methods for making sure wild life keeps its distance from you while walking/jogging in a rural area? ",
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"Make noise. Most wildlife will stay away from you. Even predator animals. Tie little bells to your shoe laces or on your clothing, play music on a portable speaker.",
"Whatever you do, don't carry a salami in your pocket to distract bears if they attack you, unless you think life would be better without legs. ",
"Whistle or sing. I have a friend who hikes mountains literally at night time and she always will just sing as she hikes. No problems."
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"How to join group of friends when you've missed the joining a group period? I constantly find myself alone and I wanna change that if I still can",
"How to join group of friends when you've missed the joining a group period? I constantly find myself alone and I wanna change that if I still can"
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"there's no real \"joining a group period,\" so you've got all the time in the world. I'd just start with one individual that you think would be fun to hang out with. See if they want to go do something sometime and you'll probably find yourself being introduced to their other friends in no time. ",
"I know what you mean about the \"joining period\". When you can, try to approach individuals of the group to talk and get to know each other, rather then taking on the entire group at once. Having one on one time with individuals is easier on you, and also allows them to build a relationship with just you and themselves, not a group setting. Also - be confident! If these are people you want to be involved with, make it happen. If it's a fit, they'll see it eventually too :) "
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"Remembering people's names I can never remember anyone's name after meeting them. I do repeat their name in my head, but end up forgetting it. Any tips on remembering names?",
"Remembering people's names I can never remember anyone's name after meeting them. I do repeat their name in my head, but end up forgetting it. Any tips on remembering names?",
"Remembering people's names I can never remember anyone's name after meeting them. I do repeat their name in my head, but end up forgetting it. Any tips on remembering names?",
"Remembering people's names I can never remember anyone's name after meeting them. I do repeat their name in my head, but end up forgetting it. Any tips on remembering names?",
"Remembering people's names I can never remember anyone's name after meeting them. I do repeat their name in my head, but end up forgetting it. Any tips on remembering names?",
"Remembering people's names I can never remember anyone's name after meeting them. I do repeat their name in my head, but end up forgetting it. Any tips on remembering names?",
"Remembering people's names I can never remember anyone's name after meeting them. I do repeat their name in my head, but end up forgetting it. Any tips on remembering names?"
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"\"So... what's your name again?\"\n\n\"John...\" (He can't believe you forgot his name!)\n\n\"No-no-no-no - sorry John, I meant your *last* name!\"\n\n\"Oh cool.\"",
"I'm the opposite. I remember names incredibly well. \nI always found it helps to know what their last name is. \n",
"When you meet someone think of someone else with the same name. Memory is all about connections, and next time you see them you will recall the other persons face, whose name you already know.\n\nAlso stop saying your bad at remembering names - everyone is and you'll just end up believing it. Tell people you want to be better at remembering names. ",
"Repeating it out loud is frequently more effective than just repeating it in your head. Try to include the person's name a few times when chatting with them to help it set in. For example; \"Nice to meet you, [Name]\" or \"[Name], did you see that ludicrous display last night?\".\n\nAs a second thought, names can be sort of generic, so it can be helpful to pair the name up with a second piece of information (last name, job, hobby, etc) to help create a more unique identifier for that person in your mind. You didn't meet Peter, Paul, and Mary; you met Peter Cooper, Paul the accountant, and Mary who likes sky diving.",
"I was binge watching brain games last month (it's on Netflix) and there was an episode about improving memory. The trick they recommended for remembering names was something along the lines of: have a word that you associate with each name, then find something about the person that sticks out to you and relate that to the object for that name. I believe it was Ron White that explained it and it used [this](http://http://ronwhitetraining.com/news/how-to-memorize-names-by-ron-white-2134.html) system.",
"I remember someone telling me to visualize someone else you know with that name getting into a physical fight with that person. Or maybe just punching them in the face",
"I always do the same. I let them say their name first, looking at them in the eyes take a millisecond to repeat it in my mind once or twice, then say my name. Avoid to say it simultaneously. If you seriously intend to remember the name, recall it every now and then."
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"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.",
"how to not get scammed when getting oil changes/work on my car I recently went into my dealership for an oil change and part way through they said I needed a new air filter. Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\" I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there."
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"I'd love to be of assistance if I may.\n\n1) Get under your car, and mark your existing oil filter with a sharpie. A line, a shape, anything you can recognize. That way you know if it has actually been changed. \n\n2) Cabin air filters are typically located behind the console box (passenger side compartment) there may be a trick to getting to it, but if you do a quick youtube search for your car I'm sure it will come up. My dealer wanted $55 to change the cabin air filter. I told them to fuck right off, purchased it for $10 at canadian tire, and installed it in 10 seconds flat. \n\n3) Engine air filters: Again do a quick youtube search. Mine is a simple hood pop open, three clips to remove a plastic housing, remove old filter, insert new filter, put back housing and re-clip into place. Close hood. They want a lot of money at the dealer to get that done. Full of crap. \n\nALWAYS: request the old parts to be put in a plastic bag and left in your trunk. If they argue: say \"thanks - I'll get the work done elsewhere\" you're paying for the new part, and the labour... THEY WORK FOR YOU!\n\nI bought my car in 2010, and it's now 2014, I have replaced the cabin air filter twice. I've now have the second filter for 2 years and I just use a compressor at home to it out every couple months. It's just a bit of dirt and debris that it catches, it can be easily cleaned. I've replaced the engine air filter once with a new paper filter, then bought a re-useable K&N filter that lasts forever with a bit of maintenance that I can do at home. \n\nIf they spring \"you need this you need that\" on you, just request to see the part they want to replace - if it looks to you like it needs replacing, then do it, but remember - at the dealer you're always paying 150%. Most local garages will charge a fraction of what the dealer will charge. ",
"I agree with top comment.\n\nFirst off unless you have a high end vehicle stay away from the stealership I mean dealership. \n\nWhen you see older gentlemen at the gas pump just ask who they recommend as a mechanic. Do this several times and when you hear the same name come up a couple of times you have found a trust worthy mechanic most likely. \n\n",
">part way through they said I needed a new air filter\n\nIf during a oil change if the mechanic finds other things wrong it's good for them to inform you, especially the air filter as it's vital and a cheap/easy fix.\n\nOil changes are now typically done every 3-6,000 miles and if your living in a dusty area of the country then the air filter can get clogged. It's a very minor replacement and improves gas mileage and stops the eventual stuttering if the car is not getting enough air to mix with the gas to ignite.\n\nTires have to be rotated and the brake pads checked as if it's low they need to be replaced or your grinding metal soon and that costs even more to fix.\n\n>I just wanted a list of sorts to know roughly how long my air filter should last or any other parts that get replaced here and there.\n\nVehicles need to be maintained on a schedule and according to the mileage/use and environmental conditions. The dealer can provide you with the maintenance schedule or one should be included as part of your vehicles manual. However it's not exact, other factors like the heat, dust etc., may require more (or less) frequent replacements of certain items.\n\nAir filters, oil filters and even fuel filters need replacement either on a schedule or if needed. The engine oil, transmission fluid, differential oil also needs to be replaced depending. Spark plugs, tires and brakes also need replacement.\n\nI highly suggest you follow your dealer schedule and do your routine maintenance and report any malfunctions you find, especially if driving at high speeds (steering issues, pulling, wobbling, noises etc) as the mechanic can't always take yours out to test every time on the freeway, just around the block to check the brakes.\n\nKeeping your vehicle properly serviced can make it last 2 or three times longer than if you don't.\n\n\n>Now this is my first car, I know nothing about cars and there that whole \"they take advantage on girls because they don't know anything.\"\n\nThat's usually NOT true of the dealer, it's MORE TRUE with the local mechanics and even large chains like Sears.\n\nThe dealer is also working to support their new car sales, so eventually one day you will buy another one of their vehicles in the future. They want to keep you as a customer.\n\nThe only mechanics that know EXACTLY how to fix your car is the dealer, it's because they engineered the machine, use the original factory parts and they train their mechanics. It's why they offer PARTS AND LABOR warranty so your problem is fixed right the first time in most cases.\n\nLocal mechanics cannot possibly know all vehicles and attend all classes from all the car makers and versions. They tend to use parts with low warranty/quality because if it breaks they get to charge you again for labor. Some due to incompetence or dishonesty will break other parts as to keep you coming back in.\n\nThere are good mechanics that are not at the dealer, however they are hard to find and they can't know everything, unless they recently left a dealer, was trained and worked on your version of car before or some reason has come across a lot of experience with your particular vehicle. (older ones especially).\n\nI choose a vehicle the local law enforcement and government types drive with the thinking if the dealer wants to keep getting their future business they better have a top mechanic in the shop which they do. 10 out of 10 repairs were performed perfectly. Verses 2 out of 10 repairs by local mechanics required more work or had other issues.\n\nAlthough the local mechanics might have been slightly cheaper per repair than the dealer, I wound up paying more in the long run because of the lack of labor warranty, poor mechanics, breaking stuff, poor quality of parts and general incompetency. One part was replaced used in a new box because they go to the local auto parts store and people scam that place and get a refund on a old part they cleaned up to make look new.\n\nIn my opinion, do not let anyone, even if they are merely adding oil or changing the tires, to touch your vehicle unless it's the dealer less they make more work for themselves. The only exception to this is in case of a emergency (flat tire, dead battery, broken brake line etc) and then only do the basics enough to get the vehicle to the dealer. As soon as I had Sears changing my tires I had all sorts of problems and the dealer fixed it all after I figured out what was going on.\n\nMy vehicle is over 210,000 miles and runs like it's about 3 years old. Sure some parts were replaced, it's a truck after all and designed to be easily repaired. It's because I took excellent care and changed the oil and other fluids as scheduled that is why it runs very well still. Enough that I just came back from a 4000 mile round trip last week.\n\nIt pays to be a bit paranoid and investigate every detail about your vehicle if you plan to keep it and not toss it every few years like many others do. So far my truck saved me from two rear end collisions (they hit the trailer hitch) and for $27,000 + $8,000 parts and maintenance comes up to about 17 cents a mile to operate, not including gas or cosmetic maintenance. If I had a smaller car it would have been replaced three or four times already for $25,000 each. Insurance companies only pay what your vehicle is worth, not the new value you have to pay.\n\nI used to have the anti-dealer/support the little guy sort of attitude and it was wrong, they screwed me hard and I won't be using anyone but the dealer again. Understandably you can get screwed by the dealer too, but dealers can lose their association with the parent car maker if enough reports make it to corporate headquarters.\n\nSears or the corner fix it guy, no recourse but to sue and of course they have their arses really covered with every possibility under the sun.\n\n",
"what crame said, but at a oil change place they top off all your fluids for you and charge you ALOT for the little amount they put in usually. those add up.",
"You could do the oil change yourself. If you have multiple car's it really saves a lot of money to buy a jack or make/buy a ramp to drive your car on(assuming it's too low to the ground to crawl under) and do it yourself. \n\nUsually with air filters you can just hit the debris loose or use an air compressor to blow it out for a better clean. \n\nYou can also rotate your tires yourself, it just takes a while. Jack up the car and take the wheel off and swap it with the other one.",
"What year, make, and model car do you have?\n\nAir filters are usually good for 20k-30k miles but it varies and could be more or less. An air filter almost never NEEDS to be changed, it just helps your car run better. Air filters are easy to replace yourself and should be <$20 at any Autozone or similar store. \n\nDon't go to the dealership for oil changes unless you like getting ripped off. Try to find coupons for Monro/Meinike type places. Those shops vary wildly in quality of work, but they should never mess up an oil change. ",
"The only real way, as far as Im concerned, is to buy a beater, a Chiltons, befriend a redneck, and get greasy. Learn how the damned thing works. Do those little jobs yourself. That way you'll know that your blinker fluid doesn't need to be topped off, and your piston return spring isn't shot. \n\n",
"I recently started googling and you-tubing everything before going to the mechanic. \n\nWithin the last 2 years I have learned and fixed the following: \n\nreplace flat tire, replaced burned headlights, replaced broken side mirror housing, replaced brakes and rotors, changed o2 sensor, spark plugs, wipers, window regulators, motor mount, air filters, oil changes, changed cabin air filter, replaced thermostat, replaced my tail light after getting rear ended and so on.\n\nThose with car-repair experience will notice that everything I did requires either elementary or at most intermediate level of skills that are easily learned by watching videos and following basic safety procedures.\n\nBut, I am a boy and you are a girl, so things will be slightly different as in you are statistically less likely to have to worry about dropping a heavy wrench on your balls.\n",
"First of all, never get an oil change from a dealer unless it is covered by warranty. They rip you off like crazy. ",
"As a woman, I also recommend you familiarize yourself with your vehicle. You don't have to be able to know everything, but you should at least know what the specifications for your car are.\n\n1) READ THE MANUAL. Read the manual. Did I mention you should read the manual? Your manual has all the recommended specifications for your car: how often to change the oil, what kind of oil to use, the type of tires you should have, etc. \n\n2) The Internet is your friend. If you're going to get something done, FIRST, go on YouTube and look for some good videos about it. Try to watch \"changing your oil for dummies,\" kinds of things, and check out How Stuff Works.com. I do this before I go in to the mechanic, so then I say \"I need my oil changed. I'm at 35,222 miles, and I want synthetic 5W-20.\" They're less likely to argue with you. Not sure what oil is recommended? http://www.mobiloil.com/USA-English/MotorOil/Car_Care/Vehicle_Chooser/VehicleChooser.aspx?option=2 This recommends Mobil Oil, but it does give you the generic class of oil. You choose vehicle by year, make, model, specification, weather, number of miles, etc. \n\n"
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"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. ",
"How to talk to someone younger and more inexperienced than you, but in a position of leadership, without sounding like a snobby know-it-all. "
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"You'll probably have a chance to evaluate him at the end of the semester. I'd save it for then.\n\nThe evaluation dosent have to be negative. And use the sandwich method (good news, concern, good news)... Depending on the TA they may or may not accept the comments constructively so why risk your grade when it does matter when you can save it for when his evaluation of you dosent matter",
"As a soon to be teacher - I definitely have had to deal with this in both work related and my career situations. There are three guidelines I would follow.\n\n",
"I would start by asking, \"Can I share a feedback about ___?\" Typically, people are open to this. This encourages dialogue and helps you gauge his response to being evaluated. \n(1) Be objective - share an observation rather than your interpretation. (2) Focus on what can be changed and be constructive. (3) Be direct - try not to do the positive + conjunction + negative approach. You did great at that meeting, however, you also totally sucked. That's confusing as shit.\n\nFundamentally, feedback is a good thing and fosters learning. If the TA cares about his job performance/career growth, he/she would be open to criticism and listen to more senior folks, whether or not the feedback.",
"I would address the lack of effective communication by asking for clarification.\n\nI would address the rambling in a similar way. Speak up. Ask a question in class to get back on topic.\n\nI've found zero correlation between intelligence and being a good teacher. Teaching well is very difficult and requires a lot of effort. I can almost guarantee that your TA has received no training or guidance on how to actually teach.\n\nOne of the most frustrating things about working in academia was the ubiquitous assumption that being a subject matter expert who is good at research and/or publishing papers qualifies someone to be a teacher.",
"I do have a question about adult to adult confrontation, is it wrong for us to expect supposedly mature adults to be teachable, no matter what kind of leadership position they may be in? If anything leaders/teachers should be willing to listen, especially in a university setting. But of course there is an appropriate time and place to confront someone. ",
"Hi. Uni Student & Research Fellow here. \n\nI work at a university that prides itself on being welcoming to non-traditional university students - working parents, returning to school out of the 18-25 age range, retirees coming back to get another degree, and lots of Vets using their GI Bill after leaving the service.That said, we have a lot of students with military experience, many of whom are older than the traditional student and sometimes their TA, lecturer, or even professor. \n\nFrom time to time, these individuals will clash with their instructors over the same kind of things you are having issue with, communication, rambling, just being all over the place. Unfortunately, there are a lot A LOT of people like this in higher-ed and it is not something that is going to end with this TA.\n\nMy recommendation to you: Leave and let be. Your TA is likely a graduate student that has his position as either a part of his curriculum or to help pay his bills while he works on his research. He will likely not care or just get upset and take it out on you in other ways - a lot of professors have their TAs prepare the grades while they rubber stamp them. Yes, you probably have more experience instructing in a military setting. But uni isn't a military setting. If you are really having an issue, find out who the professor is for the course and voice your complaints there. The professor will likely pass along the feedback and you'll see some changes.\n\n\ntl;dr - leave it alone, he will probably just get upset/not listen. email professor if nesc. ",
"I would phrase it very carefully and try to be as self-deprecating as possible. \n\nIf he's going too fast or being unclear, gently say \"hey man you're a super expert in this subject but some of us are not there yet, ha ha, can you break it down a bit more?\"\n\nNever pull the \"I was an instructor\" or \"I'm older\" card. It doesn't help at all in this situation.\n\nAlso try praising him as much as possible when he does something that even resembles what you want him to do. Say stuff like \"I especially liked that lecture you did today, you were a lot more structured and it is easier to follow.\"",
"I would keep my mouth shut. The ta is most likely worried about and being reviewed primarily if not all but exclusively on his research and such. His ability to teach is just not that important to him or the university. Complaining is just going to get you negative attention. \n",
"same way you would treat somebody in the military who is younger and less experienced but in charge of you. its like the 2LT just out of college that is in charge of sergeants who have been in since before they were born.",
"The evaluations we did were START STOP CONTINUE. You would write something they should start doing things they should stop doing and things to continue. I would in my evaluation suggest your instructor do these half way through the semester for the instructor as well as the TA and again at the end. Also I'm pretty young and have gotten thrown into a lot of weird kind of leadership positions. A lot of it was just kind of timing but I had people who were basically training me but I was in charge of them. It was kind of silly but sometimes management likes young people because they can mold them more and pay them less because at the time we don't know our worth. A lot of people didn't mean too but would treat me like a child because most of them were old enough to be my parent. I would just be honest and straight forward but don't mention age or inexperience. Only mention the experiences you have had and what they taught you. Treat them like an equal. I learned a lot from some great people and had a chance to recommend them for some position. Also this relationship could aid you later down the road when that TA is employed in a certain position with certain contacts and he remembers how you helped him. \n\nTLDR: Do constructive evaluations and don't belittle younger people because they could be helpful later down the road. ",
"Talk in a lower tone, talk slower and now and again say something like \"i know because i used to be in your position and i used to\" blah blah etc. Focus everything towards this person not making mistakes and learning from someone else's/your mistakes. Dont make everything about you and always ask them about anything they want to know or feel uncomfortable/unsure about.",
"In general, the best way to go about helping a less-competent superior without stepping out of line is to maintain your role while you interact with them. (In your case, this means maintaining your role as the student.) It's always appropriate to ask for more direction or leadership from a superior when it is needed, so frame things that way. \n\nSpecifically, you're asking about how to deal with this TA.\n\n The short answer is that you really can't offer them any instruction: it isn't appropriate, even though it is probably needed. As a student, you aren't likely to get a receptive response if you attempt to tell your TA how to teach his or her area of relative expertise, even if you're right about what you say. Let the professor or the TA's advisor do that. If it is *really* bad, consider going to the prof. But, depending on the subject, it may just be that the standard way of teaching is not something you're used to. Most likely, the TA is just not experienced. (That's why they're a TA and not a prof.) \n\nLong answer: you may be able to make some suggestions, but you'll have to be shrewd. Much will depend on the details of your situation: what your TA is like, what you are going to suggest, etc. I myself would be fairly receptive to a student's input as long as it was respectful. However, I'm in my thirties, so I'm able to deal with criticism without feeling like it means I'm incompetent and so on. One further thing to consider is that you'll almost certainly be filling out a review at the end of the semester, so you could mention your ideas in that.\n\nIf you think it would be better to do it now, a couple options spring to mind: \n\n1 Try framing your suggestions as being based on your personal learning style. \n\nFor example, I really do have ADHD. I mention this to people right away by saying things like, \"FYI: my amygdala is wacky. If there is some information you want to be sure I remember, please write it down in a note before you come talk to me about it. That way, I'll have something to look at, which helps me remember.\" Now, this is true about me and what works for me. *However*, this also has the added benefit of getting a student (or whoever) to think about what they want to ask before they come to me. (This has saved a lot of time and confusion after class.) \n\nIn your case, you might mention to your TA, \"Hey, I'm really enjoying this class. I had a question for you. You said, \"x\", but I'm not sure I totally caught your meaning, there. I'm a military man/woman: *I think better when I have a super-clear logistics picture*\", or \"*I'm used to loud voices and clear instructions*\" or \"*I do better when I have specs.*\" etc. \n\nThe TA might not catch on, but they might. \n\n2 Respond directly in real time. \n\nWhen your TA is doing something you think is problematic, simply point it out. Of course, you should be respectful and not interrupt them, but from the sound of what you wrote, this won't be any problem for you. \n\nFor example, if your TA is rambling, you might raise your hand and just straightforwardly say, \"Sorry, I got lost. You were talking about A, then you said B, and now you're saying F. Can you please explain how F is related to A and B?\" \n\nBoth 1 and 2 require the nuanced skill of \"leading from below.\" The idea is that you aren't being instructive so much as making a request of your superior in such a way as to draw attention to places where leadership is lacking. \n\n\n\n",
"If you really want to coach to improve, you need to walk through the problem/situation in their frame of mind. \n \nI run into this all the time with new team members and it works equally well in technical and nontechnical areas and even if you are in a peer relationship instead of being responsible for their performance. Have a conversation about the problem (or the class session in question), and wait for their feedback continuously during the conversation. This lets you know two things, one did they see the problem the same way you saw it, and two, are they already trying to solve the problem or are they oblivious to it. \n \nTheir level of self-awareness is critical in how you approach it. You might be dealing with someone who needs to realize the way things are \"supposed to be done\" and if so, they can move on to changing their behavior (they might be doing what they are doing now intentionally). On the other hand you might be dealing with someone who realizes they have shortcomings but doesn't have coping strategies. Once you understand them, you can help them.",
"I would hesitate to offer help. It sounds like you are well intended but if the TA lacks confidence, then it can really turn on you. First evaluate how confident and open the person is. Start with something small. You can tell if he/she is not receptive. I work in the engineering world and far too many people, who need help, aren't able to accept it.",
"The most gentle way to make any such suggestion is in a \"compliment sandwich\".\n\nYou're very knowledgeable in your field...\nI believe that you would communicate more effectively if you do this....\n\nI can never think of a second nice thing to say so I usually end my compliment sandwich with you smell lovely today.",
"NCO in military here...deal with young 20something officers all the time. It's a lot of listening to plans, saying \"Roger, sir\" and then just doing it how I know it's going to work. \n\nEvery once in a while, I have to get a little more assertive, but if they're merely inexperienced and not outright stupid, they know they can trust me to get shit done."
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"Does anyone have any tips for memorizing things in a new language I’m learning Japanese and I find it hard to memorize grammar and kanji. And I’m not that busy besides school so I would be fine with an hour or so into it",
"Does anyone have any tips for memorizing things in a new language I’m learning Japanese and I find it hard to memorize grammar and kanji. And I’m not that busy besides school so I would be fine with an hour or so into it",
"Does anyone have any tips for memorizing things in a new language I’m learning Japanese and I find it hard to memorize grammar and kanji. And I’m not that busy besides school so I would be fine with an hour or so into it"
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"Pentalingual\\* teacher here:\n\nVocabulary: Try to name everything you see. Then link a verb to it. Take notes.\n\nReview your notes:\n\n1. That evening\n2. The following day\n3. One week later. (yes, after one week, you will be reviewing three lots of notes. So don't over do the note-taking thing).\n\n​\n\nAnother thing:\n\nSome people remember better from:\n\nA) Written notes\n\nB) Visual images (Google Images and visual dictionaries are your friends. You can take notes on the pages of a visual dictionary)\n\nC) Listening (find a local club/association)\n\nD) Speaking (find a local club/association)\n\nE) Writing sentences (find a local club/association)\n\n​\n\nNote that C), D) and E) are dependent on your CELF (Common European Language Framework) level of respectively A1/A2, B1/B2, C1/C2. Google the CELF, it will help you self-evaluate and set a realistic goal.\n\n\\*pentalingual : I speak French, English, American, Bureaucrat and Geek :)",
"I studied Russian in college, what I did to memorize words was write the first word on the left side of the paper and repeat it across the page, the second word on the next line written across the page, and so on. Another thing is read the word while looking at it, then look away and say it out loud a few times. \nI did those two things just to remember the words and get it over with. You could also draw a scene and label what's going on, like if you're shopping in the grocery store label the food, a cart, clothing, whatever.",
"Associations. If it’s the 4 Romance languages it’s easy. They’re interconnected. Asian / African languages and tribal dialects get difficult."
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"How do I make sure I get to enjoy my hobbies after work? I work a full-time, 8 hour job that requires me to be on my feet for long periods of time. After work, I want to enjoy my hobbies like gaming, making pixel art, making videos and spending time with friends on Discord. \n\nThe issue here is that I'm kind of exhausted and don't want to do anything else after work besides sitting in my chair all night and listening to music. I know I'm capable of so much more, but how do I make sure that I get to enjoy things a little bit more after work?",
"How do I make sure I get to enjoy my hobbies after work? I work a full-time, 8 hour job that requires me to be on my feet for long periods of time. After work, I want to enjoy my hobbies like gaming, making pixel art, making videos and spending time with friends on Discord. \n\nThe issue here is that I'm kind of exhausted and don't want to do anything else after work besides sitting in my chair all night and listening to music. I know I'm capable of so much more, but how do I make sure that I get to enjoy things a little bit more after work?",
"How do I make sure I get to enjoy my hobbies after work? I work a full-time, 8 hour job that requires me to be on my feet for long periods of time. After work, I want to enjoy my hobbies like gaming, making pixel art, making videos and spending time with friends on Discord. \n\nThe issue here is that I'm kind of exhausted and don't want to do anything else after work besides sitting in my chair all night and listening to music. I know I'm capable of so much more, but how do I make sure that I get to enjoy things a little bit more after work?",
"How do I make sure I get to enjoy my hobbies after work? I work a full-time, 8 hour job that requires me to be on my feet for long periods of time. After work, I want to enjoy my hobbies like gaming, making pixel art, making videos and spending time with friends on Discord. \n\nThe issue here is that I'm kind of exhausted and don't want to do anything else after work besides sitting in my chair all night and listening to music. I know I'm capable of so much more, but how do I make sure that I get to enjoy things a little bit more after work?"
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"You can be mentally exhausted too after work. Some days I don't want to use my brain anymore and my hobbies are all brain-intensive. \n\nScheduling a time to focus on your hobbies can work, even if it's just an hour a day or every couple days. Taking a day of PTO and devoting that to your hobbies can give you a lift too and reignite your passion for them. Good luck!",
"Try adding in physical activity after work. Go for a jog or bike ride or lift weights. It often gets me out of that after work slump you described.",
"Make sure you get enough sleep. We often don't realise how late it is getting when we are just chilling after work.\n\nFor me it also helped to get up early and get in a half hour or hour of stuff I enjoy before work. I have to be at work at 9, so I don't have to get up in the middle of the night for this.\n\nAfter work I am often motivated to finish what I started in the morning and even if not, I have gotten some enjoyment out of that day already.",
"Honestly? Have a job that allows you to. Doesn't wear you down, doesn't require OT. Compensates you properly. A lot of this is on you, there's no magical fix or tip. Create a routine for when you get home, wind down, and then do your hobby."
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"Tricks for getting gum out of a washed pair of pants? I recently pulled a good pair of pants out of the dryer, and realized I had forgotten a lone stick of gum in one of the pockets. Needless to say, it is stuck in there. Although the big fragments are out, do any of you know some good tricks for loosening all of the melted stuck on gum out of my pocket?\n",
"Tricks for getting gum out of a washed pair of pants? I recently pulled a good pair of pants out of the dryer, and realized I had forgotten a lone stick of gum in one of the pockets. Needless to say, it is stuck in there. Although the big fragments are out, do any of you know some good tricks for loosening all of the melted stuck on gum out of my pocket?\n"
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"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n",
"How to stop being an emotional abuser My marriage is on the verge of ending, and I know it's my fault. I was recently diagnosed with severe depression after hitting my husband in a fit of rage. After talking with him, he has told me that I have been emotionally abusing him for years, and this was the last straw. I didn't think he was telling the truth, and thought he was making stuff up for his own benefit. Then I looked up signs of emotional abuse. I've been doing a majority of them for years. Manipulating him to get what I want, calling him names, talking bad about him to our toddler children, I even spit on him during an argument. \n\nAnyway, I need to know how to stop this. I honestly thought what I was doing was a normal thing in relationships. Now that my eyes have been opened to that, I'm a wreck. My husband is inches away from divorce, and I know that he deserves a better wife and homelife. How do I stop? Especially since I didn't know I was doing it. \n\nPlease help!\n\n"
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"First step is responsibility. Remember that it doesn't matter that you didn't know you were doing it, or how bad it makes you feel to be an abuser. Don't burden him by asking him to forgive you, he has been through enough. \n\nHe probably feels disrespected, unimportant, and unloved. Approach this by seeking a therapist (not a marriage therapist- one just for you, to overcome your problem) so he can see that you acknowledge his feelings, and also for your sake as a person. \n\nI would also advise to move to another room in the house to further reiterate you're serious about changing. Your mere presence probably makes him uneasy, and this way he can have room to feel more like himself. It shows respect and consideration, which is a form of love.\n\nThroughout the process, remember he doesn't owe you anything. Not forgiveness, or even kindness. He's pissed off as hell- let him be. Be patient, be kind, listen well. Whenever you feel like you're about to take a step back in progress, excuse yourself from the room to deal with your feelings. \n\nGood luck saving your marriage.\n\nSource: Domestic Violence survivor of a male - female relationship. Got away before it got physical. ",
"I don't have any tips or advice, I just want to thank you for admitting that you emotionally abused your husband and that you're taking the step to ask for help. Many people's first reaction will be to unleash rage and hate on you for doing what you've done, but I also want to tell you that it's incredibly important that you realize what you've done was unhealthy and hurtful and that you want to change. Not a lot of people have the strength to admit that to themselves and instead just deny it and blame other things, or seek out other people to punish and pitchfork to make themselves feel better. Examining your own self and seeing that you're the one who caused so much pain, and then admitting that, is so so important and I really wish the best for you. Everyone fucks up, but not everyone has the ability to admit it and grow from it and that's what makes all the difference that you at least are seeking help. Good luck to you and your family!",
"Grow up. Be an adult. Use your words. Don't ever speak poorly of your children's father to them. That will have a terrible effect on their lives. Either they'll believe you and not want a relationship with their father, or see that you're manipulative and want nothing to do with you.\n\nWhenever you're about to say something mean, say something nice like \"I love you.\" Then you relieve yourself from the situation so you can get your thoughts together and approach the issues like an adult. ",
"OP. I don't think \"tips\", simple little things that take minimal efforts, are the things that will solve your problem. You are on the right track, but it is a bigger thing than what tips can offer. Also remember that you may indeed not save your marriage, but that is ok and that shouldn't be your end goal. The end goal is to become a better person. ",
"I could be off the mark, but it also seems like you need to learn empathy. Try to recall all the abusive things you've done to your husband. Now turn those things on yourself. Would you like being manipulated, name-called, or spit on? How would those actions make you feel if someone did them to you? Pretty terrible, I'm guessing.\n\nThere are times where things need to be said or done that will hurt other people, but you need to figure out what's actually constructive (for both parties and for the relationship), and what's purely destructive or self-serving.\n\nI also think you should ask your therapist to recommend some reading material that will explain how to appropriately deal with conflict. It's perfectly normal for couples to have arguments, you just need to learn how to work through those arguments in a respectful manner.\n\nBest of luck.\n\n",
"I think a big part of this that hasn't already been discussed; You need to regain your husband's trust and his comfort around you.\n\nUndoubtedly, he does not feel safe or comfortable around you right now. Both physically and emotionally, he has put up barriers to protect himself. If you want the relationship to recover, you need to show him that it's safe to lower those barriers.\n\nEncourage him to tell you about the things you have done, and things you may do in the future, that are problematic. Listen to what he says, whenever and however often he expresses these things. Do not be defensive or argumentative. Just listen. And then thank him for talking to you about it.\n\nTake what he says to heart and spend time thinking about it on your own. Make the changes needed to prevent those problems from happening again in the future.\n\nBut in the meantime, demonstrate to him that he has the right, and the safety, to express himself around you.",
"I wish my wife had gotten help or admit anything that she was doing \nwe're currently in the most ugly divorce you can imagine and my life has been destroyed\n\nHonesty and humility are two very significant factors for recognizing one's own behavior\n\nAnd if you don't expose yourself you won't ever get better so start by telling the truth the unabridged ugly truth",
"Try looking up constructive communication methods. As funny as it sounds, I picked up many tips from Supernanny. She makes it perfectly clear how to respectfully explain yourself and communicate successfully. \n\nOne thing to always keep in mind though, is that your husband is an equal, so you need to treat him that way. Take what he says into consideration instead of instantly dismissing it for your own opinions. Put thought into the conversation. Be CONSTRUCTIVE, not REACTIVE. That means that you don't act out on your emotions, you convey information as best as you can, and respond with valid arguments.\n\nNo blame shifting, too.\n\nBest of luck, and make sure your motivation to change stays.",
"I'm 4 months into true recovery from being an emotional and verbal abuser, from a relationship that was mutually abusive. \n\nI struggle with the loss everyday. But I use that struggle as a goal to acheive. If she ever came back to me, it would mean I was \"done\" and would stop trying. I don't want that. \n\nThey say you have to leave your victim alone for a year before trying to reconnect. That seems easy at first, but the longer you go the more you begin to be afraid that you'll lose them forever. \n\nI've been reading a lot of about emotional intelligence (*10% Happier* and *Go Suck A Lemon*) shame and guilt (anything by Brené Brown) and the 5 Languages of Love - ",
"You sound like my exwife, except for the part of admitting that something is wrong. The abuse is not normal at all. You have to treat your husband better than you would like others to treat you. Love him unconditionally, don't keep track of who did what, give give give. That's the best way see it. ",
"I'd suggest that you spend some time apart. Take a year out to go and live separately - remain married, remain in touch, but go and learn to be your own person again. You're both badly damaged and you both need to assess whether you want to recommit to this relationship and you will be better doing that from a distance. \n\nStick with the therapy.\n\nI would also suggest literature, as daft as it sounds. There is a lot of writing out there that explores difficult and dysfunctional relationships and you can learn a lot about human nature from them. Elena Ferrante might be a good starting point.",
"Think more, listen more, talk less, yell never. There doesn't have to be an instant connection between your feelings and your mouth. You need to teach yourself that there can be a difference between your internal emotions and your external behavior (therapy will help a lot). If you are upset, close your mouth and allow yourself to feel upset without lashing out. Ask yourself why you are upset. Ask yourself how you can fix the situation to stop being upset. There is no requirement that you channel your anger toward the nearest convenient target. Work on acquiring intention with your words. Meaning, ask yourself what you are trying to accomplish with your words before you speak. Not just when you're upset, but all the time.\n\nYour habits have been ingrained over years (likely your whole life, maybe stemming from abuse you witnessed or were a victim of as a child). This is not something you can fix overnight. Be understanding if your husband wants a divorce. Be thankful if he doesn't. And ALWAYS be mindful of how you speak to/treat your children, as well as how you speak to/treat others when your children are watching. \n\nYou need to change this. You may also have displayed some abusive behavior to your children, and certainly have done so while they are watching. Little pitchers...",
"Know that taking a cold, hard look at yourself doesn't stop now. It doesn't ever stop.\n\nAnalyze what you're doing, but most importantly - WHY you're doing it.\n\nThink about things from his perspective. Who do you want your husband to see you as? Become that person. Would your husband want you to speak more softly when you argue, for the sake of your kids? Then do it. Would he want to be spit on? I think not.\n\nLast, but most certainly not least - become the person you want your children to be.",
"Easy, treat him like a human. If you were a man and you came onto this site people would tare you a new one. You abused your husband, you aren't getting any sympathy with me, he deserves better. \n\nIf you have any part of compassion left in you, you would leave him and let him move on with his life. I'm not saying you are condemned to be a monster forever, I would say everyone deserves another chance. But even if you manage to \"fix\" your behaviour, there is a chance you will fall back into the same routine and start over again, not to mention the psychological damage you might have already inflicted on him might not go away. Leave him, try to get your shit together before getting into another relationship. Nobody deserves abuse.",
"Can I recommend a book? Read 'It Didn't Start With You' by Mark Wolynn. It talks about inherited trauma and could help you do some healing. Often times we are carrying the traumas and stresses of family members above us. The book gives you some tools to examine yourself in the context of your family's history and allows you to see where you may have inherited some pain/anger that you are displacing in your marital relationship. This isn't to say you shouldn't account for your actions, it's simply saying that 'it didn't start with you'. ",
"You're incredibly fortunate that he's stayed with you as long as he has. Being a single mom with little kids is really hard and it seems like you're a few inches away from living in that role. You make choices every day about how to treat others, hopefully you learn to take responsibility for every choice that you make. ",
"Do: Find a good psychologist or experienced MFT. Some specialize in that sort of thing.\n Do not: trust random reddit opinions from non psychological professionals. ",
"quick question: how did you ever get the impression that doing these things was ok? did you ever consider how you would feel if somebody did that to you?\n\nif the answer is that you didn't consider this, then you might want to work on your awareness.\nif you just don't want him to leave you then you might be emotionally disconnected and not in the position to help yourself.",
"Probably get down voted but how in the hell could you possibly think spitting on your loved one or hitting them or bad mouthing him to his OWN children is REMOTELY normal? As has been mentioned before, props to you for admitting your behavior.... But as far as 'tips'? You either need real help from a therapist that isn't Reddit, or to just grow the fuck up. I feel so bad for the man that stuck with you all these years and even gave you the wonderful gift of children for some odd reason.... Best of luck. "
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"How to make yourself eat more? I basically have the opposite problem that others often have aka I eat too little. Often it just arises as a fake sensation of feeling full, yet I know I am not.",
"How to make yourself eat more? I basically have the opposite problem that others often have aka I eat too little. Often it just arises as a fake sensation of feeling full, yet I know I am not.",
"How to make yourself eat more? I basically have the opposite problem that others often have aka I eat too little. Often it just arises as a fake sensation of feeling full, yet I know I am not.",
"How to make yourself eat more? I basically have the opposite problem that others often have aka I eat too little. Often it just arises as a fake sensation of feeling full, yet I know I am not."
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"Variety helps. \n\nIf eating cereal, for example, don't have a second bowl of the same, intersperse a different type, so a third matching the first is more appetizing. \n",
"I have the exact same problem (I'm curious if you have the same extreme misophonia that I deal with, actually.. I feel like there is a connection). \n\nI just started drinking Soylent and so far it has been phenomenal as far as keeping steady caloric intake, even when I'm not feeling hungry at all. It is kind of gritty.. like drinking the milk from the last bowl of cheerios, but I find it quite tasty.\n\nStrongly recommend trying a day or two of it: https://www.soylent.com/",
"I don't know if this will help, but I do recall a time when I would eat a lot sitting at the table, but when I stood up, suddenly feel very full. So maybe paying attention to your posture, and somehow doing the opposite of what I did, could help.",
"Eat smaller portions more often. Instead of trying to cram everything into breakfast, lunch, and dinner, learn to graze. "
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"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?",
"Stop people from stealing pens I know this sounds silly but it costs a restaurant I manage literally $2000 per year in *pens*. \n\nWe need them for customers to sign their CC slips and to fill out feedback forms. \n\nThey have the lifespan of a fruit fly. I've tried everything and am desperate to stop this. \n\nAny suggestions?"
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"Go to the craft store and get some cheap artificial flowers and floral tape. Make a pen bouquet [like this.](http://media.tumblr.com/86e5e1caf6aff7dca84a581e0328a2e3/tumblr_inline_mvcyfoICqP1r48w07.png) People will be way less likely to walk off with a giant flower.",
"Alternative. Buy cheap pens with your restaurant name/number/website in them. Consider pens part of the advertising budget (but I'm guessing it's your waitstaff inadvertently taking the pens). ",
"Go digital.\n\nGet a cheap tablet(s) and set it up to do this.\n\nBonus points if you go the extra mile and get it automated/rolled into the rest of your system.\n\nUpfront cost might be a bit more, but you'll get some decent intangible benefits too.\n\n\nAt least if that gets stolen you might call the cops over it and prevent further theft and/or recover it.",
"You could go overboard and chain them up or something, but do you know what pens I never see stolen? The ones attached to something bulky.\nTake two seconds, and tape a plastic spoon to each Bic. Still useable, but no-one will accidentally pocket it, and someone who goes to the trouble of cutting the duct/packing tape would have stolen it anyway.\n\ntldr: Tape a plastic spoon to them.",
"Tape a plastic spoon or other relatively unwieldy objects to the pen. It'll make the customer less likely to not return it.",
"Buy red pens. When I was a waitress in college we had to bring our own pens. No one ever stole red pens. ",
"Go to the dollar store and get packs of 10 pens for a dollar. Not many people will want to steal those, and the ones that do get stolen only cost a dime.",
"For the feedback forms try finding a clipboard of a similar size and attach the pen to it somehow. You can even make your own to suit your needs.",
"1. Buy CC holders with a pen on a string \n\n2. and have your wait staff use tablets (no pens). Most likely it's your staff that are taking the pens. \n\n\n...you could prob have customers digitally sign their bills on a tablet, too. \n\nAt $2k loss per month, a digital POS system would pay for itself within months. \n\n"
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"How to stop overthinking/worrying so much. My mind is constantly racing, I can't stop over thinking things all of the time. Only advice I've heard is to listen to music to take your mind off of things, but that doesn't help when the music I listen to was recommended by the person I'm over thinking about. It's killing me not knowing what she thinks about me but I feel like if I ask her I'll come off as weird. I used to have a friend to talk to about this stuff but he just left for 3 months so I don't really have somebody that I think can stand listening to me doubt myself 24/7.",
"How to stop overthinking/worrying so much. My mind is constantly racing, I can't stop over thinking things all of the time. Only advice I've heard is to listen to music to take your mind off of things, but that doesn't help when the music I listen to was recommended by the person I'm over thinking about. It's killing me not knowing what she thinks about me but I feel like if I ask her I'll come off as weird. I used to have a friend to talk to about this stuff but he just left for 3 months so I don't really have somebody that I think can stand listening to me doubt myself 24/7.",
"How to stop overthinking/worrying so much. My mind is constantly racing, I can't stop over thinking things all of the time. Only advice I've heard is to listen to music to take your mind off of things, but that doesn't help when the music I listen to was recommended by the person I'm over thinking about. It's killing me not knowing what she thinks about me but I feel like if I ask her I'll come off as weird. I used to have a friend to talk to about this stuff but he just left for 3 months so I don't really have somebody that I think can stand listening to me doubt myself 24/7.",
"How to stop overthinking/worrying so much. My mind is constantly racing, I can't stop over thinking things all of the time. Only advice I've heard is to listen to music to take your mind off of things, but that doesn't help when the music I listen to was recommended by the person I'm over thinking about. It's killing me not knowing what she thinks about me but I feel like if I ask her I'll come off as weird. I used to have a friend to talk to about this stuff but he just left for 3 months so I don't really have somebody that I think can stand listening to me doubt myself 24/7.",
"How to stop overthinking/worrying so much. My mind is constantly racing, I can't stop over thinking things all of the time. Only advice I've heard is to listen to music to take your mind off of things, but that doesn't help when the music I listen to was recommended by the person I'm over thinking about. It's killing me not knowing what she thinks about me but I feel like if I ask her I'll come off as weird. I used to have a friend to talk to about this stuff but he just left for 3 months so I don't really have somebody that I think can stand listening to me doubt myself 24/7.",
"How to stop overthinking/worrying so much. My mind is constantly racing, I can't stop over thinking things all of the time. Only advice I've heard is to listen to music to take your mind off of things, but that doesn't help when the music I listen to was recommended by the person I'm over thinking about. It's killing me not knowing what she thinks about me but I feel like if I ask her I'll come off as weird. I used to have a friend to talk to about this stuff but he just left for 3 months so I don't really have somebody that I think can stand listening to me doubt myself 24/7."
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"I've been seeing a therapist for anxiety for almost 6 months.\n\nHis biggest suggestion was m",
"Read Eckhart Tolle, he talks alot about how you're ego creates an inner dialog to feed itself and how to recognize and deal with it. ",
"Stop procrastinating, get checked for depression/anxiety, get enough of sleep, eat right, exercise, and drink more water.",
"See a doctor/therapist.\n\nAnxiety disorder. Best to do it before you start getting physical symptoms. I was in your position.",
"I used to be that way too so don't feel bad. I would vocalize my concerns even when no one was around and I had a LOT of concerns. Everything kept me up, I'd lie in bed motionless but my mind raced a million miles.\n\nI learned to m",
"Move to one of the few states with legal marijuana.\nActually, don't do that.\nTry breathing exercises. Take deep breaths and think to yourself positive thoughts. It is free. If it doesn't work go see a therapist. ",
"I have this same issue. And yes, I do have anxiety, but I think there is a difference between having anxious thoughts, and simply having an over-active mind or imagination. I think that mental energy isn't much different from physical energy. If a little kid is energetic, it's good to let them go play, run around, or do something to get that energy out. While I do love doing guided m"
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"How to teach your dog (or cat) to play fetch? Or really any other tricks.. My labrador (not) retriever enjoys the chasing, he's just not very good at bringing the ball back.",
"How to teach your dog (or cat) to play fetch? Or really any other tricks.. My labrador (not) retriever enjoys the chasing, he's just not very good at bringing the ball back.",
"How to teach your dog (or cat) to play fetch? Or really any other tricks.. My labrador (not) retriever enjoys the chasing, he's just not very good at bringing the ball back.",
"How to teach your dog (or cat) to play fetch? Or really any other tricks.. My labrador (not) retriever enjoys the chasing, he's just not very good at bringing the ball back."
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"Offer him a treat while calling him back. He'll probably drop the toy in favor of the treat. Then you can take it and throw it again.",
"https://youtu.be/D-uUQE32FuU\n\nZak George uses positive reinforcement to teach dogs. He's great and he has a ton of very informative videos!\n",
"One way to start to teach \"fetch\" : Start off by throwing ball/toy to your dog/cat when they are only 1 foot away from you. They will learn the concept. After a 10/20 throws of you throwing ball 1 foot and them dropping ball immediately, take one step back... now you are 2 feet away from them. Make sure they understand the concept when you are close to them, it will be easier to get them to \"get it\" as you get further away.\n\nIt took my 2 dogs about 1 week of this and they were fetching really well! Don't move back too quickly and don't get more than about 5 feet away the first day. Day by Day, increase by 1 or 2 feet max. Don't take a step back until your pet understands!\n\nGet your dog to like the ball or toy: Place toy or ball in or near food bowl at all times. This will teach dog to equate ball/toy with food \n\nFeed your dog out of an upside down frisbee to get them to like frisbee - equate with food.",
"My cat learned on her own. She likes running after her mousey toy so she figured out she could keep chasing it if she brought it back. "
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"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?",
"What should I do in my spare time every evening? I find that lately I am very bored most evenings after I come home from work. When I get home I usually eat and then go for a run/go to the gym but between the hours of 8 to 11 I feel like I’m just trying to pass the time before I go the sleep. I’ve no interest in looking at my phone or TV as I spend most of my time during work on my laptop. Any suggestions on what I can do to enjoy passing this time?"
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"That's my time to practise guitar, any instrument seems daunting at first but after a year you'll surprise yourself at how much you've improved, it's a cheap hobby but for the initial investment, also is great for hand dexterity and your memory!",
"I would suggest reading. The plethora of books available pretty much guarantees that there is something out there you'll enjoy.\n\nThe other benefit of reading (real paper books with a soft lamp light) is that it allows your brain to unwind a bit after the day, plus relaxes your eyes which can be strained by staring at a laptop all day. Both these benefits combine to make it easier for you to fall asleep. You might find yourself feeling sleepy earlier and then waking up feeling more refreshed.",
"Find new hobbies! Research has shown the reason our perception of time changes as we grow older so that time seems to pass by quicker is because of a lack of novelty. To children, novelty is almost constant and that's why time seems to pass by slower when you're younger.\n\nKeep in mind that the hours after work and during the weekends is the only time you have (sadly) to truly live your life doing the things that give you a sense of personal fulfillment and to enjoy the gift of sentience. Life is what happens when you're just killing time.",
"Read, audiobooks, plants.\n\nTry a bunch of hobbies. I tried that and knitting stuck. Laugh at me all day. I listen to a book and TaDa, hat. Book series = new blanket. Unlimited comfort items.",
"SLPT: Have a few children. Then you'll wonder how you ever had free time in the evenings. There will be certain things you really miss doing, and then you'll have your answer!",
"Checkout warhammer 40K. It’s an incredibly deep hobby involving painting, crafting, reading, all based around a competitive board game. There are gaming groups everywhere, where you can meetup with likeminded people and play games together.",
"I started learning Spanish.\n\nMy place of work has a lot of spanish speakers so I’ll come practice on them. They love it! We all laugh and have a good time",
"I enjoy up cycling things. I learn a ton and make money. I'm selling a Pepsi machine next. But dressers and tables are always popular. I like older and manly stuff. I've done tables, a desk, a 1950s fridge, a set of old police lights, and stuff like that.",
"Use this time to build yourself as a person. If you haven’t necessarily found your purpose in life, use this time to explore it or develop it!",
"Why not take a class? Check your local college or professional Association and see if they have any online courses. You might as well spend your time improving your prospects.\n\nAlso, call your mom, or the older people in your life. They’ll love it :-)",
"Man everyone has really productive answers. I was gonna say PS5 lol. I didn’t start playing video games until my late 20s and I in no way consider myself a gamer. \n\nThat being said, I love playing Horizon, God of War, Call of Duty, etc.. The first two have puzzles and stuff that keep me entertained, as well as battling. I prob play for 2-3 hours a night every other day and find myself looking forward to it.\n\n",
"If I have some spare time in the evening, I clean my house and go to sleep early with a good book. Now, if I would have spare time every evening like you do, I would make a wellness schedule and stick to it.",
"Volunteer. \n\nGet on the Board of Directors with a community organization. Great way to socialize and meet people. Making our communities better is a great way to help your city.\n\nI love being a Big for Big Brothers Big Sisters, as it forces me to do some fun activity like a movie, museum, fishing, arcade, etc more often than I normally would.\n\nYour local Search and Rescue is probably looking for some fit volunteers. Sure there's some training and stuff to buy but can you imagine the potential impact to another's life?\n\nFind a local Fraternal Organization. They offer a ton of kinship and friends while helping your local community.",
"Try out lockpicking, I recently bought a beginner set online and looking to buy more practice locks already. Time went by fast whenever I would try to pick the practice locks that came with the set.",
"Get into creative writing. It’s amazing how many uses creative writing has… Marketing Copy, Song Lyrics, Screenplay or Book Manuscript, etc. etc."
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"Schedule changing currently I work a 10am-7pm job; just accepted a job offer for 5am to 2pm. any tips to help me get on the right path ? I start work two days after my last day with my current job",
"Schedule changing currently I work a 10am-7pm job; just accepted a job offer for 5am to 2pm. any tips to help me get on the right path ? I start work two days after my last day with my current job",
"Schedule changing currently I work a 10am-7pm job; just accepted a job offer for 5am to 2pm. any tips to help me get on the right path ? I start work two days after my last day with my current job",
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"Honestly, just get up and go the first day, and you'll probably be a bit tired in the evening, but you'll soon get into a new rhythm because you'll naturally start to want to go to sleep earlier.\n\nDon't stress about it.",
"I often start at 5:00, meaning I have to leave home by about 4:10. Best tip is to prepare absolutely everything the night before. I hang my clothes on a hook in the bathroom in the order of putting them on, have my lunch and coffee packed and ready to go, my bag all packed and by the door, etc. Shower the night before for speed, minimize your morning grooming routine if any. I drink cold coffee, but if you make hot, set the coffee maker on a timer if possible. Don’t forget your sunglasses if you wear them; it’ll be dark when you leave home, but you’ll want them after work.",
"I used to work this shift. It’s a transition for sure. Invest in some heavy, dark curtains to keep the sunlight out when you’re trying to go to bed. Depending on how long you need to get ready and commute, assuming you’re waking up at 3:30 AM, you’ll likely want to be in bed around 7 PM and in a lot of places the sun is still up.",
"That's not a huge change so it shouldn't be too bad. On your days off between jobs, wake up when you need to wake up for your new job and go to sleep when you need to go to sleep"
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"How to articulate better I find it easy to turn my thoughts into words when typing or writing but when face to face with someone I often second-guess myself or freeze up, especially on sensitive topics, forcing me to say \"never mind\" because I can't express myself properly. Any ideas?",
"How to articulate better I find it easy to turn my thoughts into words when typing or writing but when face to face with someone I often second-guess myself or freeze up, especially on sensitive topics, forcing me to say \"never mind\" because I can't express myself properly. Any ideas?",
"How to articulate better I find it easy to turn my thoughts into words when typing or writing but when face to face with someone I often second-guess myself or freeze up, especially on sensitive topics, forcing me to say \"never mind\" because I can't express myself properly. Any ideas?",
"How to articulate better I find it easy to turn my thoughts into words when typing or writing but when face to face with someone I often second-guess myself or freeze up, especially on sensitive topics, forcing me to say \"never mind\" because I can't express myself properly. Any ideas?",
"How to articulate better I find it easy to turn my thoughts into words when typing or writing but when face to face with someone I often second-guess myself or freeze up, especially on sensitive topics, forcing me to say \"never mind\" because I can't express myself properly. Any ideas?",
"How to articulate better I find it easy to turn my thoughts into words when typing or writing but when face to face with someone I often second-guess myself or freeze up, especially on sensitive topics, forcing me to say \"never mind\" because I can't express myself properly. Any ideas?"
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"I'm a varsity High School debater. My partner and I are undefeated, and being able to articulate well is extremely important for us. Here's a few tips:\n\n1. Never say \"Never mind.\" Practice makes perfect, and most people will understand what you're trying to say eventually. Also, talking about it will get you thinking, and often leads you to figure out a better way to say it. \n\n2. Don't be afraid to pause. Studies show that people who use a lot of verbal clutter (ums, likes, you knows, etc.) are better at getting their point across because they take a moment to collect their thoughts. You can even say \"I'm thinking about how to say this,\" to give yourself more time to think, and most people won't think anything of it. \n\n3. Plan ahead. If you want to have a serious talk with someone, or just tell them something that might be hard to communicate, run through ideas in your head beforehand. Come up with a mental list of things you want to go over, then go down the list in the actual conversation. Works wonders. \n\n4. Realize that they're human too. They speak the same language, and have more in common with you than you probably realize. Say it in the best way you can, and they'll probably understand your point. If not, you're free to explain more. That's what's great about a conversation. \n\nHope that helps! Feel free to ask any questions, I'll be sure to reply ASAP. ",
"Pausing, and also looking up/away instead of directly at their face. (Return to eye contact when you feel more comfortable.)",
"I ran into this when entering into the business/professional world. In this case, saying never mind isn't really an option in the middle of a meeting. If you have the other person's (or the room's) attention, it is okay to take a quick second to organize your thoughts before moving on to your next point. The more you do this sort of thing, you'll get used to it. ",
"I have the same issue as you and feel like I have explored many methods to improve my articulation. I recently started practising mindful m",
"Agree with The Mad Saxon (not something I ever thought I'd say). \n\nI find it hard to find the right words when I'm trying to explain myself, so irritating. My doing mindfulness has made my mind a lot clearer and I find it stays that way - making mid-sentence thinking a lot easier. \n\nAlso, like the tip about pausing. If Obama does it, you know it's good. http://www.inc.com/wanda-thibodeaux/want-to-be-a-brilliant-public-speaker-take-a-cue-from-one-of-president-obamas-qu.html",
"Sounds more of a self confidence issue than your vocabulary. Try here, best of luck! \n\nr/howtonotgiveafuck\n\n"
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"How to stop comparing myself to other people. A great deal of my anxiety comes from comparing my situation to others. It is often very distracting because I am often never focused on what *I* should be doing to better my life.",
"How to stop comparing myself to other people. A great deal of my anxiety comes from comparing my situation to others. It is often very distracting because I am often never focused on what *I* should be doing to better my life.",
"How to stop comparing myself to other people. A great deal of my anxiety comes from comparing my situation to others. It is often very distracting because I am often never focused on what *I* should be doing to better my life."
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"[This could suck but it works for me] I find that comparing myself to others isn't the issue because that is the only real measure anyone has to measure themselves. I think the issue for a lot of people comes from how they use the comparisons. I tend to look at what I like in people and I want to emulate that aspect of them. This leads to me both liking that person more for recognising a good thing about them and also gives me goals for how I could be doing better in my life. But this is just the opinion of one kid so take with ample salt ^^ ",
"I don't know much, but I hope I can at least answer you somehow.\n\nI'm a firm believer in doing things step by step, to crawl before walking, which helps tackle any grand problem by focusing on the smaller scale. So If you're comparing things to others, for instance relationships or skills, it could seem like a giant boulder on your back. \n\nMaybe try and accomplish small tasks with the end goal of \"This is good enough for me\" and \"I am proud of this decision\" rather than \"What would ____ do, and would ____ do it better?\" If it's social-related then work on bettering yourself regardless of who you think is a better or worse person. If you're talking to someone, you don't have to be the life of the party. Ask something that interests you, and if you get any response, be proud that you asked. If you're comparing your skills at something, set personal goals and see if you can get a personal best every time you try.\n\n It's about staying away from negative thoughts and sticking with a \"Today I'm here, but tomorrow I'll be there if I try\" attitude. There is no definite light switch moment where you'll instantly stop comparing, because everyone does it all the time. I guess the positive side of comparing yourself to others is counting your blessings, because you may be fortunate enough to have things or qualities that others don't.",
"I felt this way for a very long time, and still do sometimes. I think the first thing to know is that just about everyone struggles with this, and I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time with it right now. I would put the emphasis on *right now.* In one sense, this is how you're feeling in the present. So, by acknowledging that, there's an implicit understanding that you won't feel that way forever. If you've heard people who coach others on acid trips or something like that, they'll say \"Just remember, it'll go away eventually and you'll go back to feeling normal.\" The part that's scary is when our brain starts to worry that things will never improve. But remember that it will. \n\nThe other thing is to just accept that you keep comparing yourself to other people, and it's making you anxious. Sit with that, and let yourself feel it. Don't worry about how you *shouldn't* be feeling that way. Anxiety has that ability to compound itself when you dwell on it and get anxious about being anxious. Just let yourself be anxious. You're anxious. Just be anxious! That's perfectly okay! \n\nFocus on the physical sensations of your anxiety when you do that, and if your mind wanders to thinking about those other people and what they're doing, just go in your head \"whoops\" and go back to the physical feeling.\n\nNotice it, name it. When you feel it, think in your head, \"this is what it feels like when I'm anxious.\" \n\nAnd know that you won't feel better instantly. It'll take time. Accepting the moment and how you feel, setting some time to do that every so often, maybe once a day if you can, over time will limit that compounding effect of anxiety. That feeling of being in a hole and feeling like you're digging deeper -- eventually you'll be able to climb out of that hole fairly quickly. But, it's a process that requires work.\n\nIt's hard to cope with traumas especially when you're young. Many of us have no idea how to cope and learn to manage them. Some people get lucky and figure it out kind of by accident. But, experiment with things that might help in a constructive way. In my humble opinion the best way to cope with anxiety is physical activity (on top of counseling, or meds if necessary). Running is really great. Even if you're not in shape or don't like exercise, getting physically exhausted tends to calm your brain down. Try to do something that makes you sweat for 30 minutes, even if it's running for 30 seconds and panting for 2 minutes. \n\nOne more tip: keep your bedroom tidy. Fold your clothes, put them away, have a nice comfortable space that's yours and you respect (maybe you're very neat, I wasn't so much). When I treated my space with more respect I started to treat myself with more respect. Or maybe it was the other way around. Who knows! But, you'll get there :)\n\n\n\n"
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"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. ",
"How to make money go further on food? Times have been tough and falling behind on bills need tips on being frugal. "
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"For green, leafy veggies, salad greens, etc, store them loosely and, most importantly, with a damp paper towel. This will keep them, and other produce, fresher, crisper, longer. \n\nWhen that batch is eaten, just let the paper towel dry and use it as you would normally. I'd advise against re-using for the same purpose to avoid mold growth, but you're still getting two uses of one paper towel AND keeping your produce from spoiling as fast. \n\n-a food waste hater",
"It's often better to keep a list of things you need to buy and go shopping big weekly instead of small shopping every other day.\n\nPotatoes, leafy greens and grains will keep you full long, and remember to always cook extra meals so you have lunch with you the next day.",
"buy rice in bulk from asian grocery stores!!! that 30lb bag should last you MONTHS if not the full year.\n\nchicken thighs at walmart are $1/lb, season how you like it. \n\nfor greens, kroger will have them on sale for $1 a bag bc they expire within 2 days, check daily, take them out the bag when you get home and store it with a paper towel, it’ll last a day or two longer\n\nif you cook with veggies a lot, don’t toss the scraps, use it to make veggie broth for soup!\n\nit’s important to get your calories in so focus on dense foods like peanut butter\n\ndo big weekly trips on any foods that’ll last a while. costs more upfront but it’ll average out less in the end",
"You should check out r/budgetfood and r/budgetcooking. They have some great ideas. And there is another one I can't think of atm but I will ",
"When planning your meals, try to stick to recipes that will yield leftovers you can repurpose in some way. Some examples:\n\n* If you have french fries one night, don't heavily salt them. Let people salt their own after they take what they want. The next day, you can dice up the left over french fries and sautee them with some onions/peppers and even a diced green apple to have an easy and tasty hash to go along with some eggs.\n* If you have a meal that has rice or pasta, keep any sauces separate and let people add whatever amount they want to their own bowl. Then any left over rice/pasta can be reused for something else just by reheating and adding a different sauce or some other ingredients.\n* If want to have chicken for dinner, get a whole chicken (they're cheaper) and oven roast it. After taking the meat you want, boil the carcass with some carrots, celery, and onion and you've made a tasty broth for soup. Strip off any remaining meat from the carcass and add it to the broth along with veggies and some rice and you've got yourself a great lunch the next day!",
"Rice, beans, pasta, all very cheap and can leave you full for a while. If you are near a Costco and already a member, an occasional splurge for their hotdogs or rotisserie chicken will help in the protien department. (Also, can absolutely fill up on samples if you go at the right time) frozen veggies go a long way and keep a long time.",
"Id say buy cheat healthy starches that keep you full. Potatoes, rice is always essential. Proteins like chicken breast and chicken thighs. There are endless possibilities for rice if you get bored. Rice pilaf, red mexican rice, steamed rice, add a few butter cubes and salt for flavor for something thats not too much work. Same with chicken bbq, dry rub, just salted, chicken parm . Also you can include pasta and if you have the knowledge making your own bread and pizza dough will set you back in time but not alot in money sinc it’s essentially flour salt water",
"Buying dry packets of lentils, chickpeas, black beans etc. They are way healthier and cheaper than canned stuff",
"Oatmeal (if you buy the big canister--not the little packages of flavored stuff) is cheaper than cereal once you factor in how much more servings of it fit into one container. It's also super healthy. Quick oats only take 60 seconds to cook; add as much brown sugar as you need to to make it taste good.\n\nSeriously stock up when something you regularly use is on sale for a significant discount. I think a lot of people will just buy one or two extra cans when they see that something is on sale, but if it's something non-perishable, buy *lots*--enough to last until the next time it goes on sale. If you're smart, you should never pay the normal price for non-perishable staple products.\n\nFrozen vegetables are cheaper and generally also healthier than fresh.",
"Not sure where you are but have you heard of the app Too Good To Go - it's an app that sells food that is too good to be thrown away but for a ridiculously low price. Like Morrisons do it, M&S, Costa, Starbucks etc and you can get good food that maybe has its best before date as the day or yesterday but it's still good to eat. It is a mystery so it's what hadn't sold that day in the store or that they ordered too many of, and it will vary day to day so you don't know what you will get. \n\nNot only do you get food at a ridiculously low price but you're also helping save food waste and help the planet. Only thing is you have to be pretty on it as the Magic Bags (what they're called) do get sold pretty quickly and there are only a few of each one. You do have to drive to collect the food so don't choose places that are too far to drive or its not worth it. Also there is the odd occasion that the store no longer has the food available by the collection time but they will refund you the money you paid and let you know not to collect. \n\nHope this helps! My partner and I have used it a few times, saved a bunch of food and had some nice treats or surprises of good food at a bargain price.",
"Dish soap is ridiculously concentrated. I keep a small plastic container by the sink, squirt about a half-thimble's worth in, then blast some water to the top. I use a scrub brush that lives in another container right next to this so it dries out btwn washings (sponges stay too wet, harbor way more bacteria and dont last long - I use them just for counter tops, but not my cutting board - that gets the brush coz food gets prepped on it). \n\nI hardly buy any dish soap this way. Lasts forever!",
"Before going to the store make a budget and a list. Also use a calculator in the store to help keep track of things. Food pantries are also an option, just pay attention to the experation dates. \n\nI wish you the best of luck and hope you are able to overcome your financial difficulties.",
"Before going to the store make a budget and a list. Also use a calculator in the store to help keep track of things. Food pantries are also an option, just pay attention to the experation dates. \n\nI wish you the best of luck and hope you are able to overcome your financial difficulties."
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"Rug on carpet. Hi!\n\nI need some suggestions on how to keep a rug from curling up, I was thinking putting velcro on it, but I don’t think it will work because the floor is carpeted. \n\nMy parents are seniors and it’s not very safe for them since they have mentioned that they have tripped on it. Also, because of their age, they have become a bit stubborn and removing the rug is not an option.",
"Rug on carpet. Hi!\n\nI need some suggestions on how to keep a rug from curling up, I was thinking putting velcro on it, but I don’t think it will work because the floor is carpeted. \n\nMy parents are seniors and it’s not very safe for them since they have mentioned that they have tripped on it. Also, because of their age, they have become a bit stubborn and removing the rug is not an option.",
"Rug on carpet. Hi!\n\nI need some suggestions on how to keep a rug from curling up, I was thinking putting velcro on it, but I don’t think it will work because the floor is carpeted. \n\nMy parents are seniors and it’s not very safe for them since they have mentioned that they have tripped on it. Also, because of their age, they have become a bit stubborn and removing the rug is not an option.",
"Rug on carpet. Hi!\n\nI need some suggestions on how to keep a rug from curling up, I was thinking putting velcro on it, but I don’t think it will work because the floor is carpeted. \n\nMy parents are seniors and it’s not very safe for them since they have mentioned that they have tripped on it. Also, because of their age, they have become a bit stubborn and removing the rug is not an option.",
"Rug on carpet. Hi!\n\nI need some suggestions on how to keep a rug from curling up, I was thinking putting velcro on it, but I don’t think it will work because the floor is carpeted. \n\nMy parents are seniors and it’s not very safe for them since they have mentioned that they have tripped on it. Also, because of their age, they have become a bit stubborn and removing the rug is not an option.",
"Rug on carpet. Hi!\n\nI need some suggestions on how to keep a rug from curling up, I was thinking putting velcro on it, but I don’t think it will work because the floor is carpeted. \n\nMy parents are seniors and it’s not very safe for them since they have mentioned that they have tripped on it. Also, because of their age, they have become a bit stubborn and removing the rug is not an option."
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"Area rugs are one of the biggest causes of seniors having serious falls. As they tend to shuffle their feet they can easily get caught on even a flat area rug. I’d suggest removal.",
"There are double-sided tapes specifically for this, but some people say that can damage the carpet underneath. Another option, if you've got some time, is to turn the rug upside down and put heavy flat weights on the areas that are curling up. It takes a while, but with some patience it should fix the curling issue. You can speed up the process by rolling the rug in the opposite direction. This will create a bump at the end of it, with the edge of the rug curling downward toward the carpet rather than upward and away from it. Still an issue, but then easier to fix by weighting the edges down for a few days",
"Roll the carpet the opposite way, as someone suggested... But using a hair dryer to apply heat, Will be much quicker.\n\nHeat Will relax the rug so you can bend it however you'd like.\n\nIf all else fails you can put a roofing nail in each corner.. Get nails long enough to go through both carpets, and into the subfloor. You want a nail with a smaller head, so it will hide nicely in the nap. (If you ever decide to pull the nails, your carpet will be fine, you'll never know you had a nail there)\n\nI would not use double sided tape personally.. It will ruin the bottom layer of carpet, no doubt.\n\nI installed carpet for many years, the nails won't be a problem... But I would bet applying heat will do the trick.",
"If other methods don't work, wetting the underside of the rug, tugging to flatten the curled area, and then letting it dry might help.",
"I know you said it isn't an option, but it really is the best option. A fall can easily be a death sentence for the aged.",
"I take it they are a falls risk for your parents?\n\nMost people are set in their ways about things like having rugs so if they don’t want to removed them then carpet tape is the only option. Yes it does damage the carpet underneath but then if that’s an issue why is there a rug on it in the first place?! That’s my usual response when someone says the carpet will get damaged. I also point out that a damaged carpet is easier to fix than a broken hip or worse. \n\nGood luck!"
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"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!"
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"I would ask how long the average tenant stays, also the last time police came out. \n\nAsk how/where rent can be paid\nWhat utilities are included\nAre pets allowed in the building?\nSmoking?\nIs the building treated for pest control?\nAre there employed maintenance people onsite/near?\n\nLast time they had a pest issue and what type of pest (if they say bedbugs, I would recommend moving on).\n\nHope this helps :)",
"Check for noisy neighbors. Visit the apartment at different times of the day to be sure you dont have noisy neighbors\n\nAnd if you are a noisy neighbor, don't move into an apartment,buy a house.",
"Also, one tip I have heard is go to the dollar store and buy a cheap nightlight. Plug that into every outlet during the tour, and if it doesn't light up, mention that then so that the outlet can be fixed before you move in",
"Make sure you know what you want. (Floor, windows facing sun, view of your car, proximity to visitor parking, ect). Landlords in the US can't steer you to taking an apartment. Land lords can't insist you take a first floor because you have kids or direct women to the third floor because it's considered \"safer\". They are required by law to show everyone the same apartment. You can ask what other units they have if the first is not to your liking but you like that community/location.",
"Check the air quality and noise levels/proximity to major roads, important route for emergency vehicles with noisy horns",
"Ask if there are any fees in addition to rent. Such as, some places require you to pay for a cable package whether or not you watch cable, or for a parking spot whether or not you have a car.\n\nAsk how much rent has increased each year for the past several years. \n\nIf it's a large complex ask how many parking spots to units there are, then scope out available guest or non-assigned parking. New complexes often only have one parking spot per unit when most renters have at least two cars per apartment, which causes parking nightmares.",
"I always check that every bathroom has a vent fan. Many happy relationships have been tested by walking into a stank-ass bathroom.",
"Choosing a place to live is often about trade offs. Try to know which ones you’re making in advance and that you’re okay with them. \n\nDoes the apartment feel secure - solid door, windows that latch closed? If it’s relevant for your area, window screens intact? \n\nVisit the area at night if it’s new to you. Do you feel safe at night? Would a date feel safe? \n\nAre there any signs of bugs or pests under the sinks, at the back of the bottom drawers, corners of the closets?\n\nWhat kind of heating system / AC does it have, and what kind of control do you have of it? Do you pay your own heating bill? Can someone give you a reliable/trustworthy estimate of those costs? \n\nHow’s the water pressure? Turn on the bathtub / shower and flush a toilet at the same time. Test all the taps. \n\nAsk the rental agent / landlord questions but know they won’t necessarily tell you the whole truth. Try to ask someone who looks like a tenant “do you like living here?” “Have you been here long” - ideally out of the landlord’s earshot.",
"This is a minor consideration, but something to think about. My apartment has a courtyard. After this last winter, I realized half the apartments still had snow, while the other half had more direct sunlight and no snow. Keep that in mind if you get to pick from multiple units...which is better for you? The no snow side also has more direct sunlight into the windows, which might be too bright for you in the summer. \n\nAlso, is the unit near the trash receptacle? I see people walking from the other side of the building to drop their trash in the shoot. I'm sure glad I can just walk down the hall."
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"Understanding yourself I have heard countless time that if you truly understand yourself, then you will win. But how does one go about trying to understand themself. If you're confident, you'll see yourself in a positive light and may assume you don't need to change anything and vice versa. Any advice or help in this area would be greatly appreciated ",
"Understanding yourself I have heard countless time that if you truly understand yourself, then you will win. But how does one go about trying to understand themself. If you're confident, you'll see yourself in a positive light and may assume you don't need to change anything and vice versa. Any advice or help in this area would be greatly appreciated ",
"Understanding yourself I have heard countless time that if you truly understand yourself, then you will win. But how does one go about trying to understand themself. If you're confident, you'll see yourself in a positive light and may assume you don't need to change anything and vice versa. Any advice or help in this area would be greatly appreciated ",
"Understanding yourself I have heard countless time that if you truly understand yourself, then you will win. But how does one go about trying to understand themself. If you're confident, you'll see yourself in a positive light and may assume you don't need to change anything and vice versa. Any advice or help in this area would be greatly appreciated ",
"Understanding yourself I have heard countless time that if you truly understand yourself, then you will win. But how does one go about trying to understand themself. If you're confident, you'll see yourself in a positive light and may assume you don't need to change anything and vice versa. Any advice or help in this area would be greatly appreciated ",
"Understanding yourself I have heard countless time that if you truly understand yourself, then you will win. But how does one go about trying to understand themself. If you're confident, you'll see yourself in a positive light and may assume you don't need to change anything and vice versa. Any advice or help in this area would be greatly appreciated "
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"Understand yourself the same way you understand anything else: collect and analyze information. Start a journal that describes the events in your day and your thoughts and emotions regarding those events. After a while you can read through the entries and try to find patterns in your thoughts and behaviors",
"Radical honesty with yourself about yourself - every thought, every action, every motivation, every intention, every outcome...",
"Honestly, just spend time with yourself. Become comfortable being alone, with no company but your own thoughts. This can be done in many ways, but I've always liked going on spontaneous long walks. The trick is to minimize distractions. So sitting at your computer, or even reading a book will not have the same effect. Being alone by itself is not enough. You have to stay aware of the solitude, because that is the \"yourself\" that you're looking for.\n\nWhen you make decisions, take some time to reflect on why you might have chosen what you did. Not meaning to second guess yourself, but to gain insight on what things in your life are important, what you value, and what has shaped you.\n\nTake stock in your interests and your skills, and explore new ones. Knowing what you enjoy and what you are good at, and discover new ones will also reveal yourself.\n\nJoin a new social group. In your current group of friends, you might be known as the funny one, or the smart one, and sometimes it's easy to get stuck in these roles. But in a new setting with different people, you might have a different dynamic and get to explore an entirely new side of yourself.",
"Whoever throws around phrases like, \"If you truly understand yourself, you will win,\" deserves a swift kick in the pants. What an empty statement. \n\nHere's a tip - try to do what you're passionate about, and accept change. Try to be a good person, be kind to others, and be a little selfish sometimes, too. You'll figure it out.",
"Went to the shrink once a month for 15 years for anger. \nStopped rage driving\nStopped getting frustrated with difficult tasks\nStill learning to live next door to a harassing asshole. \nHad a miserable, well paying job. Quit and got a more fun job at the same pay\nNow I'm 60 and still learning how to enjoy myself. \nTime, effort and tons of introspection. \nMy shrink is worth every penny but sometimes she pisses me of with difficult questions. ",
"This is what I (61F) did, and what I recommend. \n\nGo to the library and read books. There's a wealth of knowledge there written by people who have walked the path already. Your task is to find the one who resonates with you... so it might mean taking out dozens of books till you read someone's words that 'click'. \n\nOnce you do that, it's the first step on a journey. The author will make you think and reflect and want to discover further. \n\nThe fact that you're curious and asking this question is good. If you start this journey, you have a fascinating trip ahead of you! \n\nP.S. For me, I strongly identified with Eckhard Tolle's \"Power of Now\" and \"A New Earth\". Also Elizabeth Lesser's \"Broken Open. How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow\" is an oft referred and dog-eared book I own. Lots of wisdom there. \n\nGood luck on your journey."
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"How can I get the Post Office to stop delivering circulars to my apartment mailbox? I have a very small mailbox at my apartment that becomes completely filled with circulars every few days. I am on various 'do not mail' registries, but I am still inundated with circulars and free cr",
"How can I get the Post Office to stop delivering circulars to my apartment mailbox? I have a very small mailbox at my apartment that becomes completely filled with circulars every few days. I am on various 'do not mail' registries, but I am still inundated with circulars and free cr",
"How can I get the Post Office to stop delivering circulars to my apartment mailbox? I have a very small mailbox at my apartment that becomes completely filled with circulars every few days. I am on various 'do not mail' registries, but I am still inundated with circulars and free cr",
"How can I get the Post Office to stop delivering circulars to my apartment mailbox? I have a very small mailbox at my apartment that becomes completely filled with circulars every few days. I am on various 'do not mail' registries, but I am still inundated with circulars and free cr",
"How can I get the Post Office to stop delivering circulars to my apartment mailbox? I have a very small mailbox at my apartment that becomes completely filled with circulars every few days. I am on various 'do not mail' registries, but I am still inundated with circulars and free cr",
"How can I get the Post Office to stop delivering circulars to my apartment mailbox? I have a very small mailbox at my apartment that becomes completely filled with circulars every few days. I am on various 'do not mail' registries, but I am still inundated with circulars and free cr",
"How can I get the Post Office to stop delivering circulars to my apartment mailbox? I have a very small mailbox at my apartment that becomes completely filled with circulars every few days. I am on various 'do not mail' registries, but I am still inundated with circulars and free cr"
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"Look up the company that produces them, you should be able to contact them to unsubscribe. I used to get this Super Saver thing, one email and they stopped coming. ",
"Well, I use an app called PaperKarma! Just search for it on Google, they have apps for Android and iOS. You basically take a picture of the ad with your address on it, submit the request to have your address removed from that company, and your done!",
"In Ontario, the Post Office will stop delivering junk mail if you simply put a note on your post box that says \"No junk mail\". I live in an apartment, and Canada Post is quite accommodating about it.\n\nAlternatively, you can simply post a sign on your mailbox that says \"Address mail only\"",
"I believe that if you do a mail hold. They don't deliver the junk mail. You could hold your mail and have it delivered once a week.",
"For the US postal service, they won't do this, as that is their main source of revenue now. Basically your mail slot is their product. That's what we get for paying our bills online. \n\nTo reduce your specific junk mail, don't enter contests, raffles, lotteries, or give your address to any business or organization other than those you need to do business with. \n",
"At my first apartment building we had similar mailboxes. Someone decided to talk to the mail man, and he then began to put all the mail addresses to \"Our Friends at...\" in a basket instead of each and every mailbox. Talk to the mail man, or mail woman, and you may be actually doing them a favor. ",
"I learned this in school back when I was much younger. Make a square shaped mailbox, that way circular shapes don't fit. Alternatively you can make it triangle shaped. "
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"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!",
"What little (or big) things do you do during a normal work week that saves you money. I'm not sure if this has been asked or answered yet on this sub but from what I could search I don't think it has. I'm about to begin a job, live in my own place, drive my own car and just basically be by myself from here on out. I would like to know what other people do during the work week that saves them money. Like take a lunch to work, use public trans (I can't I need a car to meet clients), wear your dress shirts multiple times before washing. ANYTHING. I just don't want to be wasting money when I don't have to because lord knows when Friday night rolls around i'm going drinking!"
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"-If you don't bring your lunch to work use coupons. You can easily save $10 a week using coupons for lunch. Take condiments home. \n-Buy drinks and snacks in bulk from costco, sam's club, etc. Don't buy from the company vending machines. \n-Use supplies provided by the company to your advantage. \n-Need to print something personal? Discretely use the company printer. \n-Charge your devices while at work. \n-Collect recycleables and cash them in. \n-Use the company wi-fi to save data usage on your phone. \n-Carpool",
"Well you already got a couple of them. Bring a lunch to work. Going out for lunch will cost you probably 10-15 dollars for just one meal. for about 20, you can get enough stuff for lunch all week. Also, learn to cook at home. Again, a decent dinner will cost a lot less than ordering in.\n\nAnd for your drinking, have friends over or go to there place. You can watch a game or whatever, and get a few 12 packs of beer for a lot less than going to a bar. And then on top of that, you do not need to worry about spending a ton of money on cab at the end of the night. ",
"By setting the Cruise Control on your car, you can increase your MPG by about one due to less over/under throttling as you drive. This also makes driving easier and less stressful. Driving the speed limit also helps optimize fuel economy. ",
"Least for me it's biking to work but that doesn't work for you. if you can switch all of your doctors to places near work, it's more convenient and save gas since you can get an appointment first thing in the morning or after work. ",
"Play team sports instead of joining a gym for fitness.\n\nIt's more socia, good for cardio and muscular, and you make friends, and you don't pay nearly as much for membership.\n\n",
"I'm going to focus on the \"take your lunch\" concept. But don't stop there. Eat breakfast. Make coffee. Take lunch. Cook meals. \n\nTry an experiment. For one week, buy all food and drinks while out. Denny's or McDrivethru for breakfast, Starbucks or other coffee (hell even DD is $2 for a large). Lunch out, Dinner out. Drinks out. Add it up. If your digestive system doesn't shut down, add up the cost. Now figure you can eat much better for 1/4 the cost. \n\nNow make your own, there are lots of LPTs out there for breakfast burritos, coffee, smoothies, meals, whatever. Your choices are yours, be it health food or eggs benedict. You'll still eat better if you make it. \n\nMy favorite trick is to make dinner for 3 even if it's just me. That's lunch tomorrow and maybe dinner later in the week if I get lazy. But here's the trick: Make it GOOD. Don't deprive yourself, instead reward yourself for saving money. A couple of courses, good ingredients, again, whatever you like. And if anyone gives you trouble about always packing a lunch, just point out that your food is lots better than theirs. And it is. \n\nI mean go out to eat whenever you want, but make home cooked your default. Side effect: Girls love guys that can cook, and if you do it most nights you'll be good in no time.",
"Keep some basic food in your house, so you are not tempted to pick up something on the way home. Even if it is a bunch of frozen dinners. (Even cheaper would be for you to make extra when you cook and freeze some).",
"I personally do batch cooking. My favorite is I will cook a HUGE thing of Spaghetti. Then divide it up in meal sized portions a little smaller than I normally would eat. With this I can usually get another meal out of it. By time I eat it and want to go heat up more, the food has sit and I feel full then.\n\n\nI also take a pitcher and fill it to the brim with ice, then fill it with water and sit it in the fridge. If I am ever thirsty I drink that. For a week it is nice, then the next week, I hate water, but force myself to drink nothing but that, then by the 3rd week, I love water and only want that. Save a bunch of money on sports drinks and sodas.",
"Batch cooking. Making a large amount of food at home that will last at least a week or more and eating off that until its gone. Even if you get tired. ",
"-Dont smoke. A pack a day = 6 or 8 dollars a day, and an average of around 2 and a half thousand dollars.\n-Bring food with you. That way, you are less tempted to buy restaurant made food. "
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"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude.",
"How to respond back without being rude when someone asks you personal finance questions like for how much you purchased your residence or your salary increment and you dont feel enough trust on them to reveal such info? Consider the following situations as examples. There could be lots of other situatios too:\n\n* Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary. \n\n* Or suppose I'm in a group of friends and one of them heard that our team got a good salary increment or a bonus. And this guy is now relentlessly asking me details about my increment /bonus.\n\n* Or suppose I'm hanging out with my people who live in the same apartment building. And one of them is asking me for details about how much I purchased my flat.\n\nThere could be lots of scenarios. But in all these scenarios lets say that you don't trust the other person enough. So how do you not reveal these details but at the same time you want to come across as rude."
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"I just honestly, and politely as possible, respond with \"I don't talk about those things\". If they press, I maintain the same answer.\n\nSometimes polite is a luxury.",
"I always find saying to the question \"how much are you on?\" \"Enough to get by\" is a polite enough way of letting them know you're not interested in discussing it.\n\nThat's how it's been for me, not sure if the same would apply for you.",
"I'm not sure how it is everywhere else, but property details are a matter of public record in the US. It takes me 5 minutes of digging to see how much I paid for my house, and my signature on my mortgage document through the county website.\n\nBeing asked about salary though is rude, and I would just blow it off. If they continue asking, consider telling them it is none of their business. There really is no benefit to telling anyone your salary.",
"Well, they can look up how much you bought your house for online, you can turn the question around by asking \"Why, are you planning on buying soon?\" \nMost questions can be turned around on people, it takes a little bit of practice, but it will let you know if they have a reason for asking or if they are the ones being rude and nosy. ",
"Sometimes in similar situations I'll just jokingly offer some sort of ridiculous answer. \"Eleventy billion dollars,\" or something to that effect. It's lighthearted, and usually after that it's understood that you'd rather not disclose.",
"Only Americans. No other people in the world would be so gauche as to talk about money in a personal situation.\n\nThe obvious response is to lie extravagantly. Tell them you're independently wealthy - a Nigerian Prince, an heir to the Monegasque dynasty. Even better, tell them you're a white slave trader who kidnaps 13 yo white twins and sells them as sex slaves to Saudi princes.\n\nDon't put up with personal intrusion it's rude as hell and only Americans do it.\n\nIf you're not so forward, counter their question by asking about which book they are currently reading that doesn't involve self-improvement (because they're wonderful people already and don't need improvement). Sci Fi? Fiction? History? What do you do when you're not selling?",
"Why are people so sensitive talking about their salary though? I only found out recently it's rude to ask, but as someone who's just getting into the working world and figuring out I want to do in life if I see someone I know doing a cool job I want to ask them how much they make in case I want to pursue that job...",
"I mean I worked in a restaurant where some dishwashers made 7 euros an hour and some made 12.... so I get it, but everyone should get paid the same salary for the same work",
">Let's say I'm with an office colleague and one of them casually asks me my salary.\n\nI have literally never once had this happen. "
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"Help dating on Tinder I never have any match from women I am attracted to on Tinder, even with pretty reasonnable standards (not looking for a top model).",
"Help dating on Tinder I never have any match from women I am attracted to on Tinder, even with pretty reasonnable standards (not looking for a top model)."
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"Make sure you have enough pictures (at least 5). They must be good quality and not dark/blurry. At least one or two should be body shots, so not just selfies. Have pictures that tell something about you : travelling, doing a hobby, whatever. That can help a lot. ",
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"How to quit a job when they need you? Recently got offered a new job which is a big step up career-wise for me, they want me to start in two weeks so I need to quit my current job.\n\n I really like the company and people I work for , it's a small business with only a few staff members, and it just so happens that 2 members of staff handed in their notice for various reasons in the past few days. Also another staff member is heading off on a 2 week vacation next week so they will be even more short handed.\n\nHow do I tell the boss that I like that I'm leaving knowing full well it's going to screw everything up and leave him without enough staff to properly operate.",
"How to quit a job when they need you? Recently got offered a new job which is a big step up career-wise for me, they want me to start in two weeks so I need to quit my current job.\n\n I really like the company and people I work for , it's a small business with only a few staff members, and it just so happens that 2 members of staff handed in their notice for various reasons in the past few days. Also another staff member is heading off on a 2 week vacation next week so they will be even more short handed.\n\nHow do I tell the boss that I like that I'm leaving knowing full well it's going to screw everything up and leave him without enough staff to properly operate.",
"How to quit a job when they need you? Recently got offered a new job which is a big step up career-wise for me, they want me to start in two weeks so I need to quit my current job.\n\n I really like the company and people I work for , it's a small business with only a few staff members, and it just so happens that 2 members of staff handed in their notice for various reasons in the past few days. Also another staff member is heading off on a 2 week vacation next week so they will be even more short handed.\n\nHow do I tell the boss that I like that I'm leaving knowing full well it's going to screw everything up and leave him without enough staff to properly operate.",
"How to quit a job when they need you? Recently got offered a new job which is a big step up career-wise for me, they want me to start in two weeks so I need to quit my current job.\n\n I really like the company and people I work for , it's a small business with only a few staff members, and it just so happens that 2 members of staff handed in their notice for various reasons in the past few days. Also another staff member is heading off on a 2 week vacation next week so they will be even more short handed.\n\nHow do I tell the boss that I like that I'm leaving knowing full well it's going to screw everything up and leave him without enough staff to properly operate.",
"How to quit a job when they need you? Recently got offered a new job which is a big step up career-wise for me, they want me to start in two weeks so I need to quit my current job.\n\n I really like the company and people I work for , it's a small business with only a few staff members, and it just so happens that 2 members of staff handed in their notice for various reasons in the past few days. Also another staff member is heading off on a 2 week vacation next week so they will be even more short handed.\n\nHow do I tell the boss that I like that I'm leaving knowing full well it's going to screw everything up and leave him without enough staff to properly operate.",
"How to quit a job when they need you? Recently got offered a new job which is a big step up career-wise for me, they want me to start in two weeks so I need to quit my current job.\n\n I really like the company and people I work for , it's a small business with only a few staff members, and it just so happens that 2 members of staff handed in their notice for various reasons in the past few days. Also another staff member is heading off on a 2 week vacation next week so they will be even more short handed.\n\nHow do I tell the boss that I like that I'm leaving knowing full well it's going to screw everything up and leave him without enough staff to properly operate.",
"How to quit a job when they need you? Recently got offered a new job which is a big step up career-wise for me, they want me to start in two weeks so I need to quit my current job.\n\n I really like the company and people I work for , it's a small business with only a few staff members, and it just so happens that 2 members of staff handed in their notice for various reasons in the past few days. Also another staff member is heading off on a 2 week vacation next week so they will be even more short handed.\n\nHow do I tell the boss that I like that I'm leaving knowing full well it's going to screw everything up and leave him without enough staff to properly operate."
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"I am very happy for you, advancement in any field is difficult and if you are moving up, it's great news.\n\nThe best way is to thank them for everything and give your notice.\n\nI know you think you should feel bad, but you shouldn't. Let me put it to you this way: if the company were to fold, or they decide to close shop, do you think they would try to stay open for you? No, sorry, but they cant.\n\nThis is business. Be nice, say good bye, move up, and look after #1, in this case, you.",
"You don't owe them anything. \n\nIf you've been a good employee, and continue to be so while you work whatever notice you're required to give, you can leave and say 'not my problem anymore' without feeling bad. ",
"Take it like a bandaid, the quicker it is the less it will hurt but it's going to hurt no matter what. Professionally you cannot be expected to turn down a better job in favor of the one you already have that decision is up to you. Now you should leave with Grace so definitely give your two week notice and shake hands as you leave.",
"This is business. You should do business with other parties as long as it makes sense for both of you. When it doesn't make sense for one party, then you shouldn't do business.\n\nGive your notice. Thank them for the opportunity. And keep smiling.",
"My situation soinds fundamentally different than yours, so my post is more directed toward anyone who may be lurking in a similar situation. I worked for a small business and was a keystone employee to the business, so it was very confusing when it was time for me to move forward. I had invested a lot of myself into the company socially and genuinely loved my job so there was a lot of doubt as to whether or not I was making the right decision. It took a lot of support from my friends and partner to help me make the decision to advance, as it wouldn't have provided many fiscal benefits. I'm almost certain now that my employers would have been happy letting me continue my work while shrugging off my requests for better pay. Ultimately when the time came to put in my notice, I was immediately fired. This is something I hope no one else should have to prepare for, but I wouldn't be typing this if it weren't a surprise when it happened to me. At least I can satisfyingly watch the business go belly up, though. :)",
"Your there for you it sucks to leave people hanging. But whats best for you is best for you. And your under no obligation. Make sure you email (its record)and give written notice so they dont try the games employers do towards end. ",
"It is sad, but it has to be done. Try and soften the blow by offering to help out training or passing on as much information as you can in the next few weeks, offer to train a new starter, or write manuals or guides on systems. If they are still upset with you then really they shouldn't have relied on you so heavily."
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"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?",
"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?",
"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?",
"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?",
"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?",
"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?",
"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?",
"How to easily store and transport earbuds without tangling? Going from home, work, gym, I always end up having to untangle knots whenever I pull out my earbuds. Any tips?"
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"* hold the parts that go into your ears in one hand\n\n* Wrap the cord around your hand until you have around 3-4 inches of cord left\n\n* take the coil off your hand and flatten it\n\n* wrap the remaining cord around the middle of the coil\n\n* push the loose end through one of the loops in the coil\n\n[The end result should look like this](http://files.tested.com/photos/2012/03/16/55-4815-coil_cables_600.jpg)",
"small bit of cardboard or plastic in the shape of a bow tie , cut a slit on one end to anchor you jack and then wrap the earphone cord around the middle, . not tangles, not expensive, , easily replaced",
"[This is what I use](https://www.amazon.com/Nite-Ize-Curvyman-Cord-Supervisor/dp/B002LED4II/ref=pd_sim_147_9?ie=UTF8&dpID=31cjBpzHPJL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&refRID=Z1746FNX19T99R038VPG)",
"I always liked the binder clip method (earpiece goes inside clip, cord wraps around the silver grips.) Some people use the [hook and horns](http://lifehacker.com/5930624/the-definitive-guide-to-wrapping-your-headphones-without-losing-your-mind) method. \n\nAlternatively, [bluetooth earbuds](https://www.amazon.com/Avier-AV-BTE56-351-Wireless-Bluetooth-Earbuds/dp/B00TQFWFYE?ie=UTF8&ref_=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top) have a much shorter cord, never gets tangled. I have a pair of these, and they're great as long as you remember to charge them every couple of days.",
"Here is the method I use: https://youtu.be/3_FueKBoRO0?t=2m45s\n\nOnce you practice it it works great and is pretty fast.",
"I used to use a binder clip. Would just wrap them around my hand, then put the binder clip somewhere in the middle of where the two ends were. \n\nSomeone mentioned bluetooth headphones, would recommend Aukey. Keep an eye out on specials websites, they used to go on sale all the time if you don't mind ordering online.\n\nHowever, I finally made the switch to over the ear bluetooth headphones and I can never go back. Mine are bulky, but you can find some that are definitely more discreet and aren't too expensive. I've seen some skull candy ones at target for 50 bucks for example ",
"Audio engineer here. The small wires inside the cable of most earbuds is too thin to withstand the stresses from most of the methods I've seen here. Don't put that kind of tension on the wires! Eventually they'll wear out and you're fucked. For delicate cables I always take each end and bring them together, halving the cable. Repeat until the cable bunch is about 20-30cm long (depending on the thickness and softness of the cable). Then do a soft standard knot, making sure you NEVER pull hard on any part, rather you push/massage the knot tighter. I'm on my 10th year with my current headphone cable.",
"I don't understand why this is an issue. I ALWAYS carry earbuds with me everywhere, and NEVER have this issue. I also loop the earbuds (like packing a rope) and place them into my pocket, rather than shoving it. I also remove said earbuds by grabbing the entire loop rather than just fishing out one little bit. **In my opinion, it is just laziness that tangles earbuds.**"
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"How to get off calling lists I've been on the do not call list since August of 2009, but I still get 2-5 calls a day from random numbers all around the country (US). I never answer and block each one, but it's just really obnoxious. ",
"How to get off calling lists I've been on the do not call list since August of 2009, but I still get 2-5 calls a day from random numbers all around the country (US). I never answer and block each one, but it's just really obnoxious. ",
"How to get off calling lists I've been on the do not call list since August of 2009, but I still get 2-5 calls a day from random numbers all around the country (US). I never answer and block each one, but it's just really obnoxious. ",
"How to get off calling lists I've been on the do not call list since August of 2009, but I still get 2-5 calls a day from random numbers all around the country (US). I never answer and block each one, but it's just really obnoxious. "
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"Unfortunately, the do not call list only applies to entities attempting to sell goods or services. It doesn't apply to political organizations, charities or surveyors. Each would have their own do no call list, and generally (when ran through a call center) that call center has its own do not call list that applies to any of its clients. It is most effective to request that they put you on their do not call list. ",
"I use an app called Hiya, it helped for while. It blocks most spammers. I was spam free for months. Unfortunately I received 2 robo calls yesterday. \n\nI also started reporting the calls to the FCC. Not sure if it helped any, but it sure felt good.",
"There is no national do not call list for Canada or America, each individual company has its own list.",
"In which country are you living in? Here in Germany I never got any calls and I've got at least 4 different numbers"
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"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" ",
"How to continue to have conversations with people you have known for years. I am a bit of a quiet guy, but I can interact in a conversation fine. With new people,\n it's easy, because they ask questions which leads me to ask questions, and we share stories. \n\nHow can I continue to have conversations with people I've known for years and interact with a lot, like my Dad or my best friend? They've heard all my stories, they get the updates, they know my opinions on everything, and it goes both ways. I find myself having really short updates with them, and then going, \"well... talk to you later\" "
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"Common interests and following the news keep conversations going.\n\nI have different groups of friends with a different interests. My friends from work always talk about work and company gossip. My other 'weekly dinner' group of friends usually talk about politics. My friend who's doing his PhD always likes to talk about what's going on in his research group which I find interesting. \n\n",
"I want to acknowledge up front that my response isn't that great but I think this is a good question.\n\nI feel like I'm somewhat similar. A strategy that I've adopted is to focus on asking for updates about specific people, things, or events. Most people love the chance to share about something that interests them. It's silly, but my system is actually quite similar to Michael's rolodex from The Office. I try very hard to remember one or two things that I can ask about and let the other person warm the conversation up. \n\nI sympathize, especially the part about communicating with parents. It can be hard, even when both parties really want to make a connection. Sometimes that even makes it worse unless you can figure out a way to relax. Giving the other person permission to talk about something they like is a great way to relax, signal that you're willing to spend time listening, and to move the conversation forward.",
"Good management training too: Let the other person talk. People love to talk about themselves and their lives. Prompt with a few things you find are interesting, and then hear them out. Build from there. Keep building. :)",
"You need to have things in common with them. I'll give you some examples. Some of my friends like cars a lot, so we talk about cars and mechanical stuff. One of my friends likes deep philosophical questions, so we discuss those. My dad likes videogames and guns and airsoft and stuff, so we talk about those. And most people are interested in world events, so you can talk about those things. Also, listen to people, ask questions. Don't try to come up with stuff to talk about, its easier to just talk whenever there is something to talk about. Also, another thing to start conversations with is \"Hey, have you heard about <insert topic>?\" Hope this helps :D",
"Try to find something you both like. Politics, sports, and popular tv series are the easiest, because these are \"updated\" every week or even daily. ",
"Perhaps instead of just updating them on your life, go and do an activity with them. It'll give you an activity to accomplish so that you aren't focused on having a conversation, and then you have another conversation piece. Just a thought. ",
"If you come across interesting news articles or something like that, forward it to a friend/friends and ask their opinion. I find it keeps a steady conversation even after the topic has changed.\n\nIf you have dedicated friends, I may even recommend reading the same books and discussing them.",
"hobbies and interest generally is what i find myself talking about, sometimes i find its best to reduce the filter in your brain on what you say to keep conversation flowing.",
"That's what sports are for. :-)\n\nMore generally, you have to find a common interest that always has news that's fodder for discussion. Sometimes these discussions are just passing time and lead to banalities, but occasionally you strike on something that is new and leads to more insight about each other.\n\n"
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"How to stop forgetting things (objects) I have a bad habit of leaving things at home or at places I have been out at. I will leave something and then when I'm almost home I'll remember leaving it. Alternatively, I get to a destination and realize I forgot something at home.\n\nHow do I stop leaving my possessions everywhere?\n\n**",
"How to stop forgetting things (objects) I have a bad habit of leaving things at home or at places I have been out at. I will leave something and then when I'm almost home I'll remember leaving it. Alternatively, I get to a destination and realize I forgot something at home.\n\nHow do I stop leaving my possessions everywhere?\n\n**",
"How to stop forgetting things (objects) I have a bad habit of leaving things at home or at places I have been out at. I will leave something and then when I'm almost home I'll remember leaving it. Alternatively, I get to a destination and realize I forgot something at home.\n\nHow do I stop leaving my possessions everywhere?\n\n**",
"How to stop forgetting things (objects) I have a bad habit of leaving things at home or at places I have been out at. I will leave something and then when I'm almost home I'll remember leaving it. Alternatively, I get to a destination and realize I forgot something at home.\n\nHow do I stop leaving my possessions everywhere?\n\n**"
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"keep items in different places, but always the same place.\n\nPhone in front left pocket, wallet back right pocket, keys front right. \n\nthen make a habit of always doing slap check for your items when ever you get up or go through a dor. I lightly tap each of my pockets whenever i get up, that way i can immediately tell if i dont have something, and since everything has a specific place ill know which one.\n\nIts important to keep items consistently in the same pocket so that you get used to feeling it there. eventually you wont need to check since you will be able to feel what item is missing.",
"Since you already have the habit of pat-checking your essentials, maybe try putting something in a 'wrong' pocket as a signal that you need to remember something else.\n\nThe fatal flaws here are (1) remembering *to* put something in the wrong pocket, and (2) remembering *why* you put something in the wrong pocket.\n\nAlso, for remembering to taking something when leaving the house, I put my shoes by the door facing the wrong direction or swap them around, so I can't simply step into them on my way out.",
"I do that right as I close my door behind me for work. 1 hand on the door, the other doing the tap check. Lunch, keys, phone, wallet. ",
"Every time you stand up do a pocket check. Assign your items you take everywhere to a pocket, and whenever you stand up count out the number of items in your pockets and check to make sure you didn't leave anything behind. \n\nExample; \n\n1. Wallet\n2. Phone\n3. Keys\n4. Misc\n5. Other\n\nYou would have to do this every time you get up or leave so that it really sticks in your mind. It works for me at least, although to some point it's a bit obsessive. I even check the ground behind me on public transport if I was standing for example.. Hahaha but still it works, many a times I've almost walked away and left something. "
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"How to wake up on time when fall asleep at bus? Hey guys. Everyday I go to work by bus. It takes about 1 hour to get to my work. Bus-stops are located approximately in every 1 kilometers. In the mornings I feel sleepy and till now I was using my smartphone's wake-up alarm application. But it doesn't work correctly for me. Sometimes bus leaves from the place where I had to get off and alarm rings late, sometimes vice versa. DAE face this situation and what was the solution? DAE know gps-tracker-like android application which can make alarm (1km or 500m) before bus approaches the destination.",
"How to wake up on time when fall asleep at bus? Hey guys. Everyday I go to work by bus. It takes about 1 hour to get to my work. Bus-stops are located approximately in every 1 kilometers. In the mornings I feel sleepy and till now I was using my smartphone's wake-up alarm application. But it doesn't work correctly for me. Sometimes bus leaves from the place where I had to get off and alarm rings late, sometimes vice versa. DAE face this situation and what was the solution? DAE know gps-tracker-like android application which can make alarm (1km or 500m) before bus approaches the destination."
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"If you have 1 hour to sleep, just set the alarm for 5 minutes before arival and then reset it every minute. Try to stay awake the last 5 minutes and look at the exterior so you can have a good guess where you are and how long you need in the future. Soon you can set your alarm to 2-3 minutes and be nearly on spot.",
"After 0.3 seconds of Googling: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.gcd.alarmclockgps&hl=en"
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"Using a vertical ringed notebook without having my hand run into the rings. Recently I started studying music theory in my free time and I've been taking notes in a small notebook. The notebook has vertical rings along the spine to hold the paper together. When I write on the back side of a page, being right handed, my hand constantly rubs against the rings and it makes writing difficult. I'm not interested in using one side only as I see it as a waste. Is there a way to write that would help mitigate this problem? ",
"Using a vertical ringed notebook without having my hand run into the rings. Recently I started studying music theory in my free time and I've been taking notes in a small notebook. The notebook has vertical rings along the spine to hold the paper together. When I write on the back side of a page, being right handed, my hand constantly rubs against the rings and it makes writing difficult. I'm not interested in using one side only as I see it as a waste. Is there a way to write that would help mitigate this problem? ",
"Using a vertical ringed notebook without having my hand run into the rings. Recently I started studying music theory in my free time and I've been taking notes in a small notebook. The notebook has vertical rings along the spine to hold the paper together. When I write on the back side of a page, being right handed, my hand constantly rubs against the rings and it makes writing difficult. I'm not interested in using one side only as I see it as a waste. Is there a way to write that would help mitigate this problem? "
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"Use only the left page, when you finish the notebook turn it upside down and again use only the left page ",
"If its seriously bugging you then maybe invest in a new notebook for your music theory which isn't ringed. But if you'd see just using one side for notes as waste this probably isn't helpful. ",
"Go through the notebook on the right side, then flip it over once you're done and go through on the reverse side."
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"How to get stickers off of books? I just ordered some books off of Amazon and there are stickers across the front of one and covering the description on the back of another. I'm trying to take them off and they just keep ripping off in little pieces. Any tips?",
"How to get stickers off of books? I just ordered some books off of Amazon and there are stickers across the front of one and covering the description on the back of another. I'm trying to take them off and they just keep ripping off in little pieces. Any tips?",
"How to get stickers off of books? I just ordered some books off of Amazon and there are stickers across the front of one and covering the description on the back of another. I'm trying to take them off and they just keep ripping off in little pieces. Any tips?"
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"Use a hairdryer to heat the sticker and then slowly begin lifting at a corner. The whole thing should peel off cleanly! This also works great for taking the pricetag off a gift you are giving. ",
"If you happen to have lemon essential this works crazy well! If not, take a soapy warm washcloth and dab the stickers. They should peep off after being soaked. ",
"Hair dryer will heat up the glue. You could also try a heat gun, but it's much more intense than a hair dryer, so be careful.\n\nIf there is remaining residue, a tiny, tiny bit of WD-40 on a rag will remove it."
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"How to keep boat shoes tied? Topsiders seem to untie themselves no matter what. Is there any way to keep my comfortable work shoes tied?"
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"Put a drop of super glue on the laces on the knot after you get them tied perfect. \n \n-Also works good for slippers",
"I did a simple double-knot on my Topsiders about four years ago and they've been tied that way ever since."
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"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable.",
"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable.",
"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable.",
"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable.",
"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable.",
"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable.",
"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable.",
"How to control your laughter during unsuitable situations. I tend to laugh very hard sometimes even though its not suitable."
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"Oh God I do this. When I'm EXTRWMELY nervous I laugh. Like if I feel like I'm in imminent danger I'll laugh and people get unhinged. They get so angry with me.",
"Try to think about what you are laughing, about what made you laugh. Is it really that funny? Was it unexpected? Have you seen something like that before? Maybe someone did something wrong. How is that person feeling about what happened? Is he or she ok? Imagine if that happened to you.\n\nThis is what i do, and it works. I never laugh when is not suitable.",
"I just think of something I don't want to happen or some thing I fear (SAD NOT SCARY). It usually shuts me up but can leave u feeling sad afterwards. ",
"\"Laughing or crying is what a human being does when there's nothing else they can do.\"\n\n--Novelist Kurt Vonnegut\n\nThat'll shut them up^",
"Working at a special needs school, I've gotten so good at this... I can't even begin to list the amount of times I've had to hold back laughter.\n\nI've seen some shit man. No like literally. Shit. Every single day there is at least 10 things that either make me wanna die of laughter or tell a kid what the fuck is up, but I just keep it together. Idk how to explain how to do it... \n\nSometimes I do just crack up laughing though, but never at the kids. It's more like I'll let myself laugh if the kid themself knows they are being 100% ridiculous. For ex, today a kid yelled that his new name was Yolo McSwaggin, one kid had a paper crown on and ordered us around calling us peasants and commoners, a girl referred to herself as Hane, a boy made frog noises every 30 seconds for about an hour, a kid ate shit when he rammed a wall on one of those 4 wheel seat scooters, a girl came in wearing her moms jewelry, a kid came in with the sides of his head completely bald, a boy told me I'm a sexy princess, a kid asked me when my grandparents died, a girl shushed me every time I talked, I found 40 porn videos in a girl's account history, and the list goes on.\n\nIt's a fucking riot, but I love my job. My tolerance for what the fuck is going on situations is so high... my tolerance for boring work is at like 0 now because of this job. ",
"I make people laugh so hard that Back in school I used to get sent out of class for dropping straight 10/10s, I'd just have that cunty smirk on my face but those noisy ones got to stay in class.",
"I always laugh when horrible things happen to people or like the situation for somebody else is extremely depressing \n\nFor some reason I think it's the funniest thing ever ",
"Biting the inside of my cheek has always worked for me. Thinking about seriously unfunny things (rape, dead kittens, etc.) also helps if just pain doesn't stop you (alsp good for getting rid of awkward boners... unless you're a sick fuck I guess)."
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"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?",
"How to empty your mind? Running a SMB with 7 sheet metal workers, my head is a constant noise of technical, financial, HR-related and all other kinds of questions, as it should be when the company is too small for any middle management. \nBut going to bed is challenging, and not sleeping before 2 or 3 am is heavy when the day starts at 6. Are there any techniques, or thought processes, that actually work for enabling oneself sound sleep?"
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"Have you tried guided m",
"Counting or stuff like this never worked for me. The mind can easily count and think about other stuff. Make sure you stop doing anything at least one hour before going to bed. Use this hour to let go of the day. You have done all you could do today. This day is over, tomorrow comes another one. Go to bed the same time everyday.\n\nThis will need you to set sleep to a very high priority, but good sleep is absolutely worth it. You will wake up well rested, even without an alarm onve your body is used to it. You will also find out what your best sleeping times are. I am best rested if I go to bed at 10pm and rise at 5 am.",
"One way that I use is to take a deep breath, then slowly let it out saying \"ohm\". This works quickly, and I find it near impossible to think of anything else. Also, try and listen to a song and focus solely on each individual instrument/sound in the song. See how long you can do this before your mind wanders.",
"One that's usually recommended is counting something, such as your breath. Whenever you notice yourself distracted, start over.",
"Might be out of the topic, but : if you run a business, chances are that you make the management/financial tasks late at the evening, because it's the time you won't be disturbed. If so, it could be part of your trouble. \n\nFirst because the blue light from computer/tablet/etc. screens is bad for sleeping (it decreases the production of melatonin, the hormone which makes you fall asleep). Avoiding screens 2 hours before sleeping changes things. A good makeshift can be [freely downloading f.lux](https://justgetflux.com/)\n\nSecond because you go to bed with all the hassle you've dealt with, and it will not help you to relax and fall asleep.\n\nMaybe reading, listening to music or any other relaxing activity (with no screen involved) as little as 20 minutes before going to bed might help you. Simply by making a break between your working day and your night.\n\nIf you still struggle to fall asleep, look for mindfulness m",
"I usually get on the balcony and just sot there for a few minutes. No phone, no pc, just me looking at thr stars.",
"I have the same problem. Recently, I started listening to this podcast, well sort of podcast, while laying in bed and having a sleep timer set on the app. It's called \"Sleep With Me\" and is basically just a guy narrating a story that rapidly changes topics, stutters, and talks about the dumbest shit. I have no idea why, but laying down with my eyes closed listening/trying to decipher where he's going with it puts my brain directly into dream mode and I'm out for the entire night. Weird stuff.",
"Write down all your questions/concerns somewhere before trying to go to sleep. Part of the worry, I think, is trying to remember all these thoughts. ",
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"I struggle with this as well. What works for me is counting backwards from 100. It gives my mind something to think about other than work, but it's so boring that i often start drifting by the time I get to 79 or so.\n\nAlso, I have app called \"Calm\" that has a bunch of guided relaxations/m",
"I journal when I have racing thoughts. Just write down whatever is on your mind: \"I feel overwhelmed by all of the HR paperwork that's piling up at work. I feel angry at my coworkers for not giving me more support.\" You can use the Notes app on your phone, an actual journal, Microsoft Word, whatever. It's the one trick that always works for me, I feel like it frees up space for the quiet thoughts to come through. :)",
"There's one thing that usually works for me, although it may sound a little abstract. When ever I have trouble sleeping I literally look at the back of my eyelids, observing all the colors and static. I try to pick out shapes and images, letting them morph into other shapes and images. It can actually be pretty fun as well as relaxing to see all the random visuals your brain can make produce without even trying. This usually distracts me enough that my conscious mind just drifts off to sleep. ",
"Picture all the thoughts currently occupying your head: work, life, stresses, desires, the future, money, family, that movie you saw, food. Every random thing, big or small. New ones will enter as you go through this process, and that's ok. Acknowledge each thought, and push it gently away. Visualise it leaving your mind and stop thinking about it. If you find yourself thinking about them again, just repeat the process. Eventually you'll clear them all away, like removing papers from a desk.\n\nIf you find yourself getting stressed or angry about the process because you don't find it working, just relax, and keep going.\n\nIf it helps, try relaxing the muscles of your body. Not necessarily one by one, but going through your body in an order may help you recognise muscles you didn't know you were tensing, especially in your face and head.\n\nYou probably won't be able to hold an empty mind. I know I can't. Your mind always wants to think of something. Instead, if you need to focus on something, try focusing on your breathing: in, and out. Just those two thoughts.\n\nHaving said all that, I still find it difficult to get to sleep at certain times. I think it's related to sleep cycles, the ~90 minute sleep loop which includes REM sleep. It seems like when I start to feel tired, it kicks off one of those 90 minute cycles, and if I ignore it and don't go to sleep then, once I do go to bed I'll be lying there until that cycle ends and a new cycle starts before I can fall asleep. I've heard this referred to as 'missing the boat'. I'm not sure if it's accurate or true for other people, just an anecdotal thing."
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"how to stay cool in your car with no AC My car's air conditioning just stopped working and I have to do a 2 and a half hour commute to work in less than an hour. What's the best thing for me to do in order to keep cool and not look like I just ran a marathon when I get to work?",
"how to stay cool in your car with no AC My car's air conditioning just stopped working and I have to do a 2 and a half hour commute to work in less than an hour. What's the best thing for me to do in order to keep cool and not look like I just ran a marathon when I get to work?",
"how to stay cool in your car with no AC My car's air conditioning just stopped working and I have to do a 2 and a half hour commute to work in less than an hour. What's the best thing for me to do in order to keep cool and not look like I just ran a marathon when I get to work?"
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"You should just replace it. Take it to the dealership and have the compressor replaced. I don't know. I don't know your budget or anything about the car. If it is worth it to you, to have AC, and of the car runs fine otherwise, just have it fixed and save yourself money, unless you're rich, then just get a new(er) car.",
"Take wash rags and dunk them in a soda cup filled with ice water. Keep one around your neck when you drive. ",
"Wow. Maybe you could trade in for something that will keep you alive while you get to work and back home. If the car is in that shit shape, just make a redneck ice cooler air conditioner for the car. I'm completely serious."
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"how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me.",
"how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me.",
"how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me.",
"how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me."
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"1. You're not sleeping enough. Most people get completely exhausted by a regime like that. Going to bed earlier on individual occasions does nothing because you're not entrained to that rhythm, and because you have a horrible sleep debt to pay back. Have you tried going to bed earlier consistently, for three weeks straight?\n\n2. Bright light to the face. Buy a 10,000 lux LED lightbox and use it once when you get up, and once again about 6 hours later. I'm guessing the first use should be the long one (30 minutes) and the later one should be the booster (10 minutes), but if that makes you sleepier, reverse it and do the long session last. Correctly timed, the later session will not only remove sleepiness in the short term, but make it easier to get sleepy when you ought to go to bed.\n\n3. Short naps. 15-20 minutes is restorative. Longer than that, sleep inertia sets in and jacks up your rhythm later. I often have to set multiple alarms in different places close together in order to enforce the full wake-up at 20 minutes.",
"It sounds like you need more carbs in your diet. You can literally run out of energy, especially if your job has you walking a lot. Track what you're eating and play around with how many calories and how many carbs specifically.",
"If going to bed earlier isn't doing it I don't think more sleep is the answer. Somebody said carbs, could be. Several say exercise. I'd agree with that, anything to switch up your daily routine. Also, if you're slamming a lot of energy drinks you'll wanna cut back on those. ",
"During the last month I struggled with my sleeping schedule. I slept at all times of the day and tried to mess up my sleeping schedule as much as possible. What I found is that it is very hard (at least for me) to adjust to new sleeping hours. I suggest trying to get at least 8 hours of sleep before waking up at 2am. \n\nAt first it might seem hard and pointless since it will be hard to fall asleep and you will wake up a little tired in the morning but just stick with it for a week or so. Also don't nap during the day, it will make it near impossible to fall asleep earlier than usual at night. \n\nIf that's not an option, then I suggest to just stick with your current sleeping schedule. It is perfectly normal for humans to sleep twice a day as long as it adds up to 8-9 hours. I would like to have a source for this but I am not able to find the article I've read a couple of months ago. Sorry.\n\n"
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"towel wrap tuck that stays? Any time I’ve gotten out of a pool or shower, want to wrap a towel around waist or under armpits but I might get two, three steps before it’s falling off, on the ground without me having to tiger claw it, leaving me one handed, or if under the pits, arms pressed tightly against body, walking around like I just sharted myself and don’t quite know what to do about it. I’ll wrap towel around body, fold edge over other end of towel, I’ve twisted it multiple times to create a “knot” or bulge to try and create a tighter wrap that will stay, yet nothing holds. The girlfriend however, can practically do a day of heavy Christmas shopping in a towel wrap, juggling with gleeful cartwheels intermittently. Is there some trick, or am I just a failure at adulting? ",
"towel wrap tuck that stays? Any time I’ve gotten out of a pool or shower, want to wrap a towel around waist or under armpits but I might get two, three steps before it’s falling off, on the ground without me having to tiger claw it, leaving me one handed, or if under the pits, arms pressed tightly against body, walking around like I just sharted myself and don’t quite know what to do about it. I’ll wrap towel around body, fold edge over other end of towel, I’ve twisted it multiple times to create a “knot” or bulge to try and create a tighter wrap that will stay, yet nothing holds. The girlfriend however, can practically do a day of heavy Christmas shopping in a towel wrap, juggling with gleeful cartwheels intermittently. Is there some trick, or am I just a failure at adulting? "
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"I'm gonna try my best to describe what I do, I'll probably add drawings later.\n\n•Have a big towel around behind you and in both hands (covering your back but not your front yet), holding both ends in front of you\n\n•Don't move your left hand. Tuck the right in as deep into your left pit as you can get. \n\n•Pull the towel from your left hand to the center of your chest, and twist it as tight as you can. \n\n•Tuck the twist in between your chesticles. Can confirm it works for those with a lack of chesticles as well.\n\n",
"Your girlfriend can probably do it because boobs help it stay up better. Thick towels work better than thin ones btw. "
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"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year.",
"Freshman College Necessities As an incoming freshman, how should I prepare for the fall? I.e. what do I need? What should I do? What \"dorm necessities\" can I pass on? Anything you can think of to help me MacGyver the shit out of my frosh year."
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"* Buy a printer. Printing in the library or wherever else on campus us a screaming pain in the ass, especially if you're running late. I have [this one](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002GP7Z6Y/ref=oh_details_o01_s00_i00). It prints well, the ink isn't super expensive if you get it on Amazon, and if you set it to 'Fast' quality, you can probably make it through a semester on one set of ink cartridges if you don't have hundred-page readings all the time.\n* Speaking of Amazon, sign up for Amazon Student. The first year is free with a .edu email address. It gives you free two-day shipping on tons of shit and is just generally convenient when you need things (like printer ink) quickly.\n* Get a memory foam mattress pad for your bed. Costco is probably the cheapest place, if you happen to be a member. It will probably run you between $100 and $200 for a good one, but it's the best thing you will ever buy for college. Seriously, if you buy absolutely nothing else for college, but a fucking memory foam mattress pad. Sleep is tough in college. Anything that will help is super worth it.\n* Get a good alarm clock. It should be loud. Probably best if you set it up somewhere out of reach of your bed so you have to get up to shut it off. Most people probably use their phones, but the battery can die and it's always good to have a backup anyway.\n\nAlso, general tips:\n\n* **GO TO CLASS!** I started out going to almost every class my first semester, and ended up with straight As taking 20 cr",
"A screwdriver. Medicine kit (band-aids, ibuprofen, Pepto, cough syrup, thermometer at a minimum). Some of those box type organizer things like you find at Target to use as drawers; even if you just use them as standalone boxes they're dead useful for organizing and look less shitty than a cardboard box. Earplugs. Condoms (no, seriously; even if you don't use them they will win you friends).\n\nGeneral dorm LPT: keep a bag packed of your basic class supplies by the door at all times. Many, many times has an asshole pulled a fire alarm, and you must choose between showing up to class with not even a pencil to show or running late.",
"Someone already mentioned it but I want to rehash it: Take as few things as you can. Seriously, as FEW things as you can.\n\nThese are the things you will NEED, take all of these:\n\n* Youll need an alarm clock.\n* Youll need clothes. (and a swimsuit)\n* Youll need bedding for a long twin mattress. (youll walk in on a mattress on a frame...bring everything but)\n* You will need one or two towels. Two for the shower, one for the sink.\n* Youll need a desk lamp because your roommate will smash your goddamn face in if you turn the overhead lights on one more fucking time to dick around for your shit\n\nThese are the things you should buy anywhere on the planet EXCEPT the nearest Target/Walmart the day you move in, but will need:\n\n* Soap\n* shampoo\n* deodorant\n* toothbrush\n* toothpaste\n* pens\n* paper - whatever else you need to take notes/study\n\nSeriously thats really all you NEED. Put that in your car first and imagine how thats all youre going to have load and unload all the damn time in the heat. Youll be meeting girls while your roommate is struggling to fit all his crap in his car that he never used.\n\nThese are the things that can be helpful but you will not \"need\" in decreasing importance:\n\n* Your computer - every university that I have ever visited, or heard of has a computer lab most are 24 hr\n* Your car - everyone brings their car. Parking is at a premium. Unless you have some serious need/want that you must leave at a seconds notice save yourself the expense and hassle. Campus parking police are ~~like~~ the gestapo and will fine the shit out of you for the smallest teeniest little infraction. If you can avoid the bullshit, youll save yourself some serious dough.\n* Your printer - most have a dedicated print room that can print things much cheaper/faster than you can...many of them will you allow you to print things off of them from your dorm room and then pick your papers on your way to class. Some of them too will even be 24 hr.\n* a refrigerator\n* a microwave\n* a 60 million inch flatscreen tv unless youre not my roommate in which case remind him to bring it (Im kidding, leave it)\n\nDo NOT bring everything you ever owned unless you have some kind of weird family situation thats none of my business. Nearly every freshmen brings about 100 times more stuff than they will possibly ever use. They clutter their rooms and they have to suffer through their shit for the remainder of the term. DONT DO THAT.\n\nI also suggest getting a meal plan. I know they are expensive. I know you can cook your own meals cheaper. I know. You can also get educated cheaper but then there you are. Most dorms will have some kind of camaraderie where they eat at least one meal at a time. DO THAT. Secondly, never underestimate how liberating it is to go from hungry to full in less than 30 minutes with a 3 or 4 or eighty course meal. Outside of wealth thats a rare experience. You can be wasting time on reddit for another hour while suckers are still doing their dishes.\n\nIf your computer is your studying and research machine then take it. If its just something you have so you dont have to meet people and do anything then you should think about leaving it. Dont be the freshman that misses the most amazing opportunity to live as close to utopia as there is on this planet because you brought your computer and spent all your time on the internet caged up in what is essentially a cell. You can always bring it later. \n\nYou will be surrounded by some of the most brilliant and creative minds of your generation try to take things that will help you meet them (deodorant) and not take things that will help you not meet them.",
"I think that you should really concentrate on thinking about what you want to do with your life. Talk to your professors, go to the career counselor at your college and ask to speak with an adviser and to take tests and such. Really think about what your dreams and aspirations are and then think of all the different options and how to get there. Don't ever think there is one path. ",
"Really good pair of headphones is a must. Your roommate doesn't want to listen to your music or games or movies or whatever all the time. If you are a night person and you're listening to music while studying at 2 AM, but your roommate is already asleep, you can definitely see how headphones are essential. \n\nI'm not talking about the piece of shit earphones that came with your iPod. Don't skimp on quality, you pay for what you get. If you can afford it spend around $150 on some circumaural headphones that you leave in your room, and about $100 bucks on some good earbuds that you can take wherever. This was the most important purchase I made freshman year.",
"If you're a coffee drinker make sure you get a coffee machine and some cups. Buying it at the local coffee shop consistently can cost you a fortune. ",
"Get a cheap laser printer from craigslist, one of those good-size HPs designed for a small office. The toner will last you for practically your entire college career, at a very high quality.\n\nSmall coffee maker. Makes coffee, makes oatmeal, makes ramen noodles, boils eggs, you name it, it will be able to feed you.\n\nCheck into making your bed into a skyrack. (Chain it up, hanging from ceiling joists like a porch swing.) That much more room on the floor under the bed.\n\n",
"First off, I wanted to say thanks so much guys! You've been amazing with this whole operation. I've been stressing it for a while but you guys really pulled through for me, the advice you've given me is awesome.\n\nSecond, to clean up some confusion, I have honors housing which means I get free printing (but I'll probably still buy my own, for efficiency). Also, apparently a coffee maker is a must (and thanks for that, you're probably saving me so much money), but how does it do ramen/oatmeal/etc.? \n\nThird, I have a meal plan. Woooooooooooo.\n\nFourth, stay classy.\n\n",
"Saving the shit out of this thread. As a fellow college freshman next year, thank you for posting this. c:",
"A box fan!!!!!! Most everything else mentioned here is also a must, but I hadn't seen anyone mention a box fan. If not that then something to help drown out the noise of the rest of the dorm. You will be living with a bunch of other people, some of whom have no idea how to consider others. I moved in my dorm on a Thursday afternoon and I was buying a fan by Sunday afternoon so I could get a decent nights sleep. Also if you have to use a communal shower, flip flops or whatever you would like to wear when you take a shower.",
"I'm so positive it has been said, but you'll see this even if nobody else in the thread does.\n\nGo\nTo \nClass\nEvery Day.\nDo the reading, do all the homework even though you don't have to. The difference will be whether or not you actually know shit about the classes you've taken. I've taken a wide variety of courses, but I'm really not that knowledgeable about most of em because I only did enough work to maintain that 3.5 grade average. \n\nOn another note, this is your only chance in college, go ahead and go nuts. Get good grades, but also attend parties, have one night stands, find a good group of friends and make some awesome memories.\n\nBut really, don't stress it, live your life one moment at a time and be happy",
"amazon prime...free shipping on your text books...and they are going to be ten times cheaper than buying them at the book store...you also get some pretty good streaming tv",
"This hasn't been mentioned, but clorox wipes were a god-send. When I moved in, everything was dusty and when I moved out there were scuff marks on the floor and dust... dust everywhere. Shit gets nasty after a year.",
"Go to every class, lecture, recitation, review session you can. You and/or your parents are paying a lot of money and/or taking on loads of loans and debt to give you an education, don't let it go to waste. \n\nMy first semester I got in the habit of skipping classes because I could get an A with out it through being smart/knowing how to ride the curve. This has caused me a lot of trouble:\n\n1) One of my professors had told us at the beginning of the semester we never have a test the lecture after a quiz, and he also let us know when the quizzes would be. I started skipping pretty much every day but the quizzes. Long story short the professor had to move a quiz day which put it before a test. He explained this in lecture (which I hadn't attended) and all I was notified about was the date of the quiz. I un knowingly skipped the test and went from having a high A to a low C. Luckily the professor was lenient and let me make up the test, but most professors will not be this nice (most i know of will actually automatically fail you for missing a test, regardless of how it affects your grade)\n\n2) Most of the classes I skipped were math classes (Calc 2 and 3), because as a chemistry major i felt i wouldn't need it too much. I was able to cram for the final, make good crib sheets, and ride the curve. Now I have added Physics as a second major because it is my real passion, but my deficiency in math is affecting how well I'm doing in physics classes and whether I can choose physics as a career.\n\nTLDR: Go to class, even if you think you know the material/will never need to use the material. And you also might end up skipping an exam.",
"Besides the obvious things: sheets, desk lamp(s) (I prefer the ones with the clips, so you can hang them off of your lofted bed), tv, shower sandals, laptop lock, plastic cups, some sort of shelving (shelves will save you SO much space)\n\nremember that most things that you need but forgot can be purchased at your local university store. So don't stress too much",
"Besides echoing everything else...\n\n* Alarm clock (I use my phone. My 1st 2 years I had a Samsung Alias 2 which allowed for 3 alarms... I set it to the time I wanted to get up then the other 2 in 3 min increments from each other so say 8am... 8:00, 8:03, 8:06. They always fired off 5 min later if I hit snooze so I pretty much couldn't. Now that I have an iPhone I just don't delete alarms and I can set any armada I want.)\n\n* If you can't afford a laptop breathing device, use a couple bottle caps under the back feet. \n\n* Numero Uno on my list of needs... Get involved... Join a Frat/Sorority (I have a lot of friend who are founding members of my uni's Pi Kappa Phi frat, recommend them highly.) join the dorm's student leadership (IHC or RHA, interhall council/residence hall association) do something more than just going to class. It'll improve everything about your life and college experience.\n\nBTW where you starting at?",
"As an incoming freshman, you only, at bare minimum, need the following:\n\n* sheets for your bed\n\n* pillows for your bed\n\n* a blanket for your bed (extra bonus is getting a rectangular sleeping bag that unzips, flat, into a blanket so you can crash with friends when you are sexpelled from your dorm room)\n\n* clothes\n\n* a lamp or light to read by\n\n* an alarm clock if your phone doesn't work\n\n* a laptop\n\n* a pen or pencil\n\n* at least 5 sheets of paper\n\n* one set of towels\n\n* toiletries\n\n* one set of bookends\n\nEverything else is optional. My recommendation is to move in with the absolute minimum (see above) and make a list of things you wish you had. Then, on your first vacation - and there will be one quite early in the year, usually within the first month - bring the things from your list back with you.",
"A Printer as several others have said, first aid kit with not only medicines you might need when sick, but three days worth back up for prescriptions, thermometer, and standard first aid stuff like band-aids and the like. I had one and ended up fixing up my drunk friend who came home with a skinned knee and couldn't go to the front desk for help without getting written up. \n\nWill you be doing laundry in dorms? An easy to maneuver large laundry hamper, and small change purse will certainly help. If you have a floor restroom and shower, some sort of caddy for toiletries is a must, you don't want to have to juggle everything and if you leave it in the bathroom, it WILL disappear. ",
"What You Need: a hotpot/electric kettle. Most dorms allow them and they allow you to make tea/soup/etc. in your room which is nice. Christmas lights are a good cheap way to give you mood lighting in addition to whatever bright fluorescent lamp dorms usually have. A screwdriver, poster putty, medicine kit, a little fan at least, a heating pad especially if you're a female-bodied person, earplugs and a sleep mask, a to-go coffee cup, condoms, a board game or at least a deck of cards.\n\nWhat you should do? If you can spend the summer making money and still living at home, do - economically you will appreciate it in the fall when you have to start paying for so much more. Think a lot about the kind of person you want to be, what makes you feel alive, what you might want to do as a career, which people are really important in your life. Write this stuff down, because it might all change in the next four years. Read a few good books and listen to a few new albums. Find some kind of physical exercise you like and get used to doing it regularly. Learn to cook at least one or two simple decent meals. Update your resume. Register to vote if you're over 18. Sign up for a variety of classes even if you think you know what you want to study - college will never seem more exciting even when it isn't and you'll never get more academic leeway than you do your first semester freshman year, so that's good both for your grades, getting gen eds out of the way, and potentially discovering something you never knew you liked/meeting a variety of people.\n\nMacGyver: seek out new study spots other than the library or the student center - having a place that feels like your own can be great. The first few weeks, try to meet as many people as you can in as many different ways as you can. After a month or two people's social groups get formed and doing so is never the same as the very beginning. Leave your door open in your dorm.",
"Question for you college-redditors: I'm heading off to school next year and I'm going to be staying at a private housing-complex that offers suites. Basically, 6 people, 4 bedrooms, 1 kitchen, 1 living room, balcony, 2 bathrooms in 1 suite. Anyways, I'm a musician and plan to keep playing shows with my band on the weekends when I'll take a train home or we'll be touring around to other college campuses. I want to keep a bass and/or a guitar at campus. Is this a terrible idea? I don't want to be \"that guy\" with the acoustic guitar, I want to be able to occasionally play to prevent getting rusty. ",
"One of the biggest mistakes to make is to bring too much stuff. Your room is probably going to small and shared with someone else so think really hard about everything that you bring. Plastic tubs are really nice to have. They stack up and when you are trying to move out at the end of the year boxes are a bitch to find. Two essentials are a really good laundry basket and a quart Pyrex measuring cup. You will use the laundry basket for everything e.g. clean clothes, dirty clothes, TV stand, box when moving out.. The Pyrex measuring cup is great for most of your cooking needs, it is easy to clean, and it has a handle. ",
"As a current freshman I would just like to state that everything that your parents give you that you think you don't need... You will probably need. My mom gave me a bunch of stuff and I kept telling her I didn't need any of it. Half way through the year I was thanking her for getting my all of it. ",
"A USB flash drive/memory stick is essential. An 8gb memory stick will probably more than satisfy all your college needs with coursework assignments and lecture slides. It comes in useful when getting notes, assignments, exam papers and that kind of stuff off fellow classmates. Get one to put on your keychain so that it's always with you!",
"I don't give a shit how social you think you're going to be or where you're going to college. Buy a fucking fake ID ASAP."
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"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help ",
"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help ",
"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help ",
"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help ",
"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help ",
"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help ",
"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help ",
"Any good Tips to get fit? Like being able to run a 5k run without passing out? I need help I want to quit my sedentary lifestyle please help "
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"Make small, incremental changes. Some ideas:\n\n1.\tMeasure your steps. Every day, take more steps than yesterday, until you reach 10k (or whatever your goal is)\n2.\tmeasure your calories. Use an app to record everything you eat. The act of measuring and the act of having to log your calories makes you more mindful of what you eat. At first, just measure, don’t change your habits. Then set goals, and cut where you can or want to.\n3.\ttake the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator.\n4.\tget a body-weight fitness app like one of the 7 minute workout apps. It’s a quick workout that you can always squeeze in. Customize it to what you enjoy. The best exercise is the one you’ll do.\n5.\tfind things outside that you enjoy doing, and do them. Doesn’t matter what it is.",
"Look up the “couch to 5k” program. It gradually builds you up from no fitness to being able to run for 30mins straight.",
"Walking is a better first step. Going in the deep end with running could lead to just giving up when it gets tiring. It can be as simple as walking to the shops when you used to drive. It only takes around 20 minutes to walk a mile. Walk during your lunch break - where doesn't really matter. Go for longer walks on the weekend, any opportunity you can. \n\nGetting a bike too, and build that into your routine similarly.\n\nIf you want to diet, don't go OTT and switch to salads for every meal. You could just give up as it is so dull. Swap out some meals, keep some treats and look at an overall reduction. You get used to it quickly.",
"Walking (with very good, supportive shoes) and buy a user-friendly yoga program like one by Rodney Yee. Starting off easy and building gradually will make success more likely and cause less injuries along the way.",
"I started doing intervals, good HIIT and good for building endurance. 1min on (run/jog), 1 min off (walk) and eventually you build to 1:30 on, 1 min off, 2 on, 1 off and so forth. It takes time but you’ll get there!",
"I lost 30 kilos in 8 months\nAnd went from walking to easily running 10 ks\n\nHere is what worked for me.\n\nA good breakfast porridge if you want hot weatbixs if you want cold with fresh or tined or frozen fruit and some yogurt.\n\nLunch \nEat each day a very large bowl of salad greens and a large bowl of steamed vegetables.\n\nI didn't count any calories.\n\nBy eating the salad and vegetables you stop a lot of cravings. The steamed vegetables fill you up full of nutrients and fiber and you can basically eat as much as you want. Just add some sauce for flavour and to aid digestion. Like sweet chill and mayo barbecue or tomato.\n\nDinner \nLean meat and whatever you want.\n\nNow each day I walked at first it was short 20 mins you have to take it slow no push to hard so you don't injure yourself. As I built up my fitness level I increased it until I was walking an hour each day.\n\nThen exercise bike riding on bad weather days. Or if I wanted a change.\n\nThen I started the light jog walk then little jog walk then little jog.\n\nThen I started running. On a running machine at the gym its low impact saves your joints and you can track your time distance and so fourth.",
"I have struggled with weight issues my whole life. I was once 315 pounds, dropped down to 200 in about 10 months with diet/workout. I gained all that back unfortunately over the span of 5 years. Got to 290. Recently I started a new diet called KETO and I started fasting daily (where I dont eat for 16 hours, and I eat in an 8 hour time frame)\n\n​\n\nI dropped 60 pounds in 5 months with NO exercise, with the supervision of my doctor, eating 2 burgers a day with mayo, cheese, huge caesar salads with the fattest dressings ever, sausages, bacon, avacado, cheddar cheese, chicken with the skin on, low carb pizza and more.\n\n​\n\nI literally did NOTHING and the weight flew off. I have bounced diet from diet for my whole life, but KETO really nailed it for my body type/health. It absolutely changed my life, also, my cholesterol is the best its ever been (my doctor even said \"based on these levels, you are eating air... its amazing\") and my inflammation is 100% gone, and I went from pre-diabetic to now not ever needing to worry about it. I used to have issues putting my socks on cause my gut was so big, now I can easily put them on. I have also started running bceause the weight isnt there to hold me down.\n\n​\n\nI recommend doing research on keto, macros and proper diet as those things will factor the biggest in your fit journey. Good luck!",
"Find an activity you actually enjoy doing, or you’re not likely to keep at it. For me it was mountain bike riding and rock climbing"
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"My new job is the evening shift, coming from an early morning shift. What steps can I take to ensure its the easiest transition? In a month or so, I'll be starting my career job that works from 4pm-12am. I currently work 7am-4pm. I have a hard enough time waking up in the morning now, so at least I have that going for me. Any tips on surviving the night and still being able to live my life? I'm worried that switching to this shift will kill whatever social life I have left as well. But I need this career, coming from the dead end job I have now. \n\n\nThanks!",
"My new job is the evening shift, coming from an early morning shift. What steps can I take to ensure its the easiest transition? In a month or so, I'll be starting my career job that works from 4pm-12am. I currently work 7am-4pm. I have a hard enough time waking up in the morning now, so at least I have that going for me. Any tips on surviving the night and still being able to live my life? I'm worried that switching to this shift will kill whatever social life I have left as well. But I need this career, coming from the dead end job I have now. \n\n\nThanks!"
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"So I just switched from working 0530-1400 to 1400-2200 myself. What I have found is that at first you will want to sleep at around 2000. My group of friends stays up until about 0400 so when I get off work I just stay up with them and hang out. Usually I tucker out at about 0200. So honestly at first it is all just staying up late and then sleeping until you naturally wake up or the alarm for work goes off. This sounds like usual advice however, when I worked the day shift I would be going to sleep at around 0000 and waking up at 0400.",
"Been working this exact shift for the passed 3 years and it's a social life killer. I personally try to wake up at around 10am and get as much of the day done before I go to work. I come home at around 1am and unwind before going to bed at 2am.\n\nNot staying up all night and not waking up really late in the day means you can still socialise (to a certain extent) during the week, but it also makes the weekends seem longer and more fulfilling. You can still lay in bed till 11am on Sunday and feel like you've had a proper lie-in as well as enjoying the whole day and evening with friends and family. "
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"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :(",
"How to cure a stutter. I've been stuttering for as long as I can remember. It's very awkward for me when I have to read out in class and I can't, or when I'm in a conversation and can't finish my sentence, or even start my sentence. \n\nWhen I stutter, I sort of stop breathing, stopping me from making my words out and making a fool out of myself.\n\nPlease help me :("
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"There's a device that consists of a microphone and speaker that you put in your ear, apparently hearing yourself helps stuttering. I'll try to find the video.\n\n",
"singing usually helps\n\nfind a quite place put on your headphones and sing anything with good vocals. keep practicing and your stutters should eventually disappear , then you will be able to give speeches",
"[The King's Speech](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1504320/) was a great movie revolving around just this... I know it's not specific advice, but maybe could help you think of some solutions.",
"I learned to think about what I'm saying more, and what I'm talking about less. My inner-monologue did not stutter, so I learned to take that and broadcast it. As before I was letting my speaking go on auto pilot and I was really more thinking about the topic, than the conversation. ",
"Practice.\n\nDuring middle school I talked to myself in front of a mirror when nobody was home. I read poems, news articles, books, and sang to myself.\n\nI still have a minor stutter, but it has much improved from what it once was.",
"I used to stutter, and since I have become a talented public speaker. The issue has nothing to do with speech and everything to do with confidence. (Have you seen \"The Kings's Speech\"?)\n\nI'll get you started: StigmaaH, you are awesome and deserve to be better heard. It's too bad you stutter because people fail to recognize your brilliance.",
"As someone who has been involved with Speech Therapy for the past few years (not directly, but I have links) I can confirm a few tips from others are worthy of a try. Singing can help, but unless it makes you more confident alone it is unlikely to cure you. Tapping out the syllables of words will help, instead of focusing on producing the words you are focusing on each syllable - it may be a bit difficult at first but practice will help you with this technique. I know people who say the SpeechEasy device is brilliant, but it doesn't work for everyone ([link](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electronic_fluency_devices)).\n\nYour best bet if you can't do anything yourself is to seek professional speech therapy advice, which your school might be able to help you out with (I only have knowledge of the UK so can't be more helpful on that!). I know lots of speech therapists and they are lovely and patient people who will do their best to help and most should know loads of great stuttering techniques.\n\nMost importantly, don't let the stutter get your confidence down. People are patient too and nobody thinks you are foolish. Don't beat yourself up about it, there are solutions!",
"i had a speech impediment all my life, then took a job at a telemarketing company and with enough practice at work, i was able to improve my speech pattern. i learned how tone, inflection & pace influence a conversation & how to use such devices -- all the while getting paid. if it's available to you, i suggest trying to do the same :) in the states you have the be 18+ years old, but if your problem persists when you do turn 18, i highly suggest trying for a telemarketing job (at least to try out - depending on the company, its like paid speech therapy)",
"You can sing. I know a kid with a stutter who can sing fine, so when he has to not stutter something, he sings it in his head a bit first, and then sort of tones down the melody when he actually says it, but his meter is still there. ",
"Slight stuttering for me came from trying to talk as fast as I could think, which didn't work out. What I did was accept that I would have to talk slow. It takes just as long to slow down and say nothing for a second as it does to stutter, and it sounds better. See if you can try that, just stop and talk slowly when you start to stutter. I think you should be able to go back to normal speed after a little bit of time, maybe requiring some practice first, I dunno it's been a while.",
"If you are in the U.S. your school is required to provide Speech Language Pathology services to you for free (in CA at least, not sure if it's state or federal law). You will have to be screened and qualified but you should be taken care of, for free! Bright side is that a stutter is one of the easier speech impediments to treat. Try this experiment: sing, talk baby talk to a baby, or baby talk to a pet and see if you still stutter. I remember reading that you won't, but never knew anyone to ask if it's actually true. Another rumor I heard is that Marylyn Monroe stuttered, and that's why she had such a high voice, to trick her brain into not stuttering ... /tangent\n\nSource: my wife is an SLP for a school district.",
"I used to have a terrible stutter/disflunancy (spelling on that one?). What do you \"stutter\" on? Whole words, like I used to have, or syllables? What helped me to get over my stutter greatly is learning to play an instrument. More specifically, learning to understand beats. Talking is done on a rhythm, keep the rhythm in your head and it will help you to speak on the rhythm. ",
"I started going to a speech pathologist when I was about 6. Basically I learned tools to get around the stutter rather than \"cure\" it. Mostly he just got me to read out loud, sing and to take deep breathes when I would get too upset to speak. I also had to go to the orthodontist because I had a horrible over bite and my stutter really diminished with a plate, my whole mouth changed. Now I only stutter when I'm having an anxiety attack or I'm too tired to concentrate on how I form my words.",
"Depends on what is causing your stuttering really but for me, I just got used to it. When reading from a book or something I almost never stutter but every one who knows me either swears they don't notice or they don't care.\n\nWhen I have to stop stuttering on a specific word I just take a breath and slowly say it.\n\nAlso, I'm not sure if this applies to anyone else, but my stutter was linked back to my ADD/Aspergers/random stuff so my \"ADD\" pills really take it down a lot.",
"I was very young and had a stutter. I'd say it takes confidence. But for what that's worth I'll tell you what I remember from speech therapy: Turtle Talk. Talks slow, talk a lot, improve. \n\nNailing a broad or 8 could help, but, you won't quit much pussy if you don't ignore taunts from others. I recommend, in case *she* makes fun of you, the phrase \"horrid bitch\" and \"horrid cunt\" & remember to keep going and ignore other's reactions besides her. So get out there and talk to women because at your age you only have a few more years before they start to blow up from college beer parties and what have ya'."
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"Noise Complaint about a Business So I live in a fairly nice apartment complex that is tucked away. Urban noise is not usually an issue. But recently, I started hearing music every night, whenever my window is open in my bedroom. I first thought there was a concert or festival at a nearby business, but it continued into the week and beyond.\n\nOne night, in frustration, I took my dog for a late night adventure to find the source. I found that none of the nearby businesses were the culprits. So I go back to get my car and drove around until I found it.\n\nIt's a car dealership that is shockingly far away. Probably about .5 miles away. But they blast music and don't turn it off at night. For whatever reason, I think the buildings are perfectly aligned for the sound to travel to my building.\n\nI called them and asked them to turn it down. They were nice on the phone, and said they got a new speaker system. They said it cannot be turned down or off, but they can turn off certain speakers. Since I doubt they'd care if they learned how far away I was, I told them I lived on the street behind them.\n\nAlas, nothing has improved. And now I always sleep with my windows closed. It's not obtrusively loud, but it's loud enough I can identify the song and it has kept me up on a few nights. What do I do? Is there a reason why some dealerships leave the music on all night?",
"Noise Complaint about a Business So I live in a fairly nice apartment complex that is tucked away. Urban noise is not usually an issue. But recently, I started hearing music every night, whenever my window is open in my bedroom. I first thought there was a concert or festival at a nearby business, but it continued into the week and beyond.\n\nOne night, in frustration, I took my dog for a late night adventure to find the source. I found that none of the nearby businesses were the culprits. So I go back to get my car and drove around until I found it.\n\nIt's a car dealership that is shockingly far away. Probably about .5 miles away. But they blast music and don't turn it off at night. For whatever reason, I think the buildings are perfectly aligned for the sound to travel to my building.\n\nI called them and asked them to turn it down. They were nice on the phone, and said they got a new speaker system. They said it cannot be turned down or off, but they can turn off certain speakers. Since I doubt they'd care if they learned how far away I was, I told them I lived on the street behind them.\n\nAlas, nothing has improved. And now I always sleep with my windows closed. It's not obtrusively loud, but it's loud enough I can identify the song and it has kept me up on a few nights. What do I do? Is there a reason why some dealerships leave the music on all night?"
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"Call the police. They should handle it. Im surprised someone who doesn't live closer hasn't complained if you can hear it and you're that far away. They were most likely lying on top of that. I doubt there has ever been a speaker system that cant turn down, much more, turn off. Also, they couldn't just stop playing music?",
"Wow, that must be loud. I had a similar issue, I called the police on their non emergency contact number and they sent over some officers to have a word a few days later. Here in the UK there are laws governing this, worst case scenario a business could lose its license to trade. I would suggest looking up local laws or local rules (codes?) In your country and just have a conversation with authoritys."
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"Junk Mail with No Postage How do I stop this? I live in an apartment complex, so I'm not sure if this is something they are putting into my mailbox. None of these flyers have postage or addresses. https://imgur.com/a/KImTa8w",
"Junk Mail with No Postage How do I stop this? I live in an apartment complex, so I'm not sure if this is something they are putting into my mailbox. None of these flyers have postage or addresses. https://imgur.com/a/KImTa8w",
"Junk Mail with No Postage How do I stop this? I live in an apartment complex, so I'm not sure if this is something they are putting into my mailbox. None of these flyers have postage or addresses. https://imgur.com/a/KImTa8w",
"Junk Mail with No Postage How do I stop this? I live in an apartment complex, so I'm not sure if this is something they are putting into my mailbox. None of these flyers have postage or addresses. https://imgur.com/a/KImTa8w",
"Junk Mail with No Postage How do I stop this? I live in an apartment complex, so I'm not sure if this is something they are putting into my mailbox. None of these flyers have postage or addresses. https://imgur.com/a/KImTa8w",
"Junk Mail with No Postage How do I stop this? I live in an apartment complex, so I'm not sure if this is something they are putting into my mailbox. None of these flyers have postage or addresses. https://imgur.com/a/KImTa8w",
"Junk Mail with No Postage How do I stop this? I live in an apartment complex, so I'm not sure if this is something they are putting into my mailbox. None of these flyers have postage or addresses. https://imgur.com/a/KImTa8w"
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"In Australia we just put stickers on our letterboxes that read \"No Junk Mail\" or \"No Advertisements\" and that is usually enough to stop it. Not sure about other countries though",
"You are the victim of a USPS program called EDDM:\n\nhttps://www.usps.com/business/every-door-direct-mail.htm\n\nUnfortunately they deliberately don't have any sort of opt-out, just like the scum at Reformation Hardware or the Yellow Pages who insist in murdering trees to deposit massive chunks of waste at your doorstep.",
"I live in an apartment complex and get the same stuff on a monthly basis. Following to see if there’s a way to stop, because I got not clue.",
"This link will get you started\n\nhttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-stop-junk-mail_n_5b27beb7e4b056b2263c5b54",
"Not sure if it will work for you, but we're I live I just need to write \"No add please\" and people stop putting flyers and ads on my mailbox. \nMaybe it will work for you as well.",
"I though you couldn’t place anything in a US certified mail box if it had not been officially handled... but idk.",
"Can only speak for the UK, but here the Royal Mail get paid by advertisers to put flyers through the letterboxes of every house they visit. There’s not much you can do to stop that. \n\nhttps://www.royalmail.com/business/marketing/mail/door-to-door"
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" Quick and classy dancing for a wedding. I'm attending a wedding with my girlfriend at the beginning of next month, what are some quick easy steps i can learn to not look like an idiot?\n\nThanks in advance!",
" Quick and classy dancing for a wedding. I'm attending a wedding with my girlfriend at the beginning of next month, what are some quick easy steps i can learn to not look like an idiot?\n\nThanks in advance!",
" Quick and classy dancing for a wedding. I'm attending a wedding with my girlfriend at the beginning of next month, what are some quick easy steps i can learn to not look like an idiot?\n\nThanks in advance!"
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"Just learned a basic waltz for my upcoming wedding. It's basically two steps with a couple of variations. Check to see if the University or College in your town has a dance club. They will often have free group classes. ",
"I am a terrible dancer which causes me to hate dancing and I too have a wedding to attend next month. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone...",
"Been taking dance lessons for about a year now, covering a few different dances, I would strongly suggest the rumba as a versatile but simple dance. It can grow into fairly elaborate routines, but the slow-quick-quick pattern can carry you quite well with even just a little basic rotation. Here's a very basic introduction, but I'm about to walk out the door. I will check back in here later if you have other questions. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8yXiOFqKTfA"
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"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?",
"How to cure canker sores I get really bad chronic canker sores, which I've had about my entire life. I still haven't found a good way to cure them quickly when I get a bad breakout. Anyone have any tips?"
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"Alum. It's a pickling salt. I used it all the time while having orthodontic work done. Dab some Alum on the spot. It'll hurt like stink at first, but it seals immediately. Doing this a couple times a day helps with the pain and helps to dry it out as well.\n\n",
"I've had the same problem. Best solution for me is to eat yogurt. I was told by a doctor that people are often susceptible to cankers because they're body doesn't produce an enzyme that is also found in yogurt. I find that the yogurt immediately soothes and the cankers clear up faster.\n\nAlso keep a clean mouth. Brush the teeth frequently and rinse with salt water. There's also an over-the-counter rinse called Amosan that works very well.",
"mix hydrogen peroxide with water and use as a mouthwash. (the ratios are on the bottle, I'm not really for sure.) this doesn't heal it immediately, but it will help it heal quicker. it also whitens your teeth. so win-win!",
"1. A phenol oral anesthetic spray. Spray it on and hold your moth so that it sits for a while. It will hurt like a bitch for about 20 seconds but then it will be numb enough to let you eat.\n\n2. Avoid chocolate and walnuts.\n\n3. L-Lysine and Vitamin C.\n\nI used to get these all the time. The phenol will definitely help. I haven't had them for over a year now and I'm not less stressed. I'm partially convinced that it's a mild scurvy.",
"it hurts like hell, but in addition to salt water, i also use listerine. it'll make your eyes water but it cuts down healing time by a couple days. do this a couple times a day, and practice general oral hygiene to keep the sores clean.",
"So...i have a way that works but hurts like hell for a bit. Get a shot glass, put some salt in the bottom, get some vinegar and mix enough in until its almost like a paste. Put some on a Q-tip and scrub for like 20 seconds. Itll get a little bloody. Rinse then brush your teeth and scrub it down with your toothbrush. Rinse again. Do this a couple times a day. Its usually gone the next day. If its a big one then it may take another day. Hurts, but it works.",
"Not sure if this applies to the OP, but I will have a nearly complete reduction in canker sores if I stop biting my nails.\n\nAlso - more dairy. I don't like yogurt very much, but milk seems to work well.",
"I swear by Canker Sores Begone. I also have had cankers since childhood. This remedy heals them overnight and it doesn't sting at all. I found it in a health food store about 8 yrs ago, but buy it online now because shipping is free. My 5 yr old daughter gets them too, and hers heals over night as well. The package says it doesn't work if the canker is caused by eating acidic food. We get outbreaks from stress or being overtired. Good luck.",
"I don't know how much of a 'protip' this is, but this is how my dad gets rid of canker sores. It's a little horrifying.\n\n1. Get your pocket knife. Sharpen it and wash it.\n\n2. Scrape off all of the dead skin covering the canker sore. ALL of it.\n\n3. Dip a cotton swab in mercurochrome. Apply deeply and liberally.\n\n4. Don't cry. Crying is for pussies.\n\n5. Let it dry.\n\nIt should be gone by the next morning. If it didn't work, do it again. You must have not scraped all the skin off or put enough elbow grease behind the cotton swab. Or maybe you ruined it when you cried, faggot.\n\nNow, tell me how I print out this e-mail so I can show it to your mother.\n\n",
"Better than treating canker sores--**prevent them!**\n\nFor years I got *terrible* canker sores all the time. After much research, I read about a link between mouth sores and [Sodium Laurel Sulfate](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sodium_lauryl_sulfate), or SLS. SLS is a detergent used in most toothpastes to help with creating a sudsy foam, but it can also strip the mouth's own protective coating. \n\nI switched to a toothpaste without SLS and almost immediately the canker sores stopped. If I use a regular toothpaste two or three times in a row, I notice the canker sores coming back. Take a look at your local drug store and try to find a brand that doesn't include SLS. Personally, I use [Healthy Teeth](http://www.bleedinggums.com/toothpaste-anticavity.php) by Natural Dentist, because it actually includes fluoride unlike a lot of the other \"natural\" brands.\n\nI also notice canker sores occur much more frequently if I eat acidic foods. Oranges, grapefruits, and lemonade are almost surefire canker sore causes for me. It pains me to cut these foods out of my diet but the relief for my mouth makes it worth it. However, since switching to a non-SLS toothpaste I can have *some* citrus without causing major problems--before, just a sip of lemonade would have major adverse affects.\n\nGood luck!\n\nTL;DR: Use a toothpaste without SLS and avoid citrus.",
"* Eat a zinc supplement every day. Canker sores are caused by viruses, and viruses just don't like zinc. It helps with any virus: cold, canker sore, influenza, etc. \n* Echinacea also works with viruses. Doesn't seem to to a darn thing with acne for me though (a bacterial infection).\n* Take 1500mg of Vitamin C every morning. Any antioxidants help the body fight off invaders.\n* Also, the active ingredient in the canker sore medicine that covers the sore and coats it, is tannic acid. This is also found in tea. Drink lots of tea, and make sure the tea gets on your canker sore with every gulp. ",
"Cut down on stress or learn to deal with it through yoga, tai chi, exercise, whatever. That is number one. When you have a flare up, get yourself some Canker Cover. I have tried everything and these things work. Usually one does the trick. http://www.cankercover.com/\nBe careful with teeth brushing , in that some toothpastes contain an ingredient that can aggravate the sores, though I can't remember the name now. "
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"how to avoid getting bruised in the inner thighs when wearing beach shorts? I'm a man, and I easily get bruised in my inner thighs when I wear swim trunks. It's really incapacitating, since I will struggle to walk normally when I am bruised. I'm not sure if it's because of sand or the trunks themselves... But I'm sure I'm not the only man with this problem.\nDoes anyone know how to prevent this?",
"how to avoid getting bruised in the inner thighs when wearing beach shorts? I'm a man, and I easily get bruised in my inner thighs when I wear swim trunks. It's really incapacitating, since I will struggle to walk normally when I am bruised. I'm not sure if it's because of sand or the trunks themselves... But I'm sure I'm not the only man with this problem.\nDoes anyone know how to prevent this?",
"how to avoid getting bruised in the inner thighs when wearing beach shorts? I'm a man, and I easily get bruised in my inner thighs when I wear swim trunks. It's really incapacitating, since I will struggle to walk normally when I am bruised. I'm not sure if it's because of sand or the trunks themselves... But I'm sure I'm not the only man with this problem.\nDoes anyone know how to prevent this?",
"how to avoid getting bruised in the inner thighs when wearing beach shorts? I'm a man, and I easily get bruised in my inner thighs when I wear swim trunks. It's really incapacitating, since I will struggle to walk normally when I am bruised. I'm not sure if it's because of sand or the trunks themselves... But I'm sure I'm not the only man with this problem.\nDoes anyone know how to prevent this?",
"how to avoid getting bruised in the inner thighs when wearing beach shorts? I'm a man, and I easily get bruised in my inner thighs when I wear swim trunks. It's really incapacitating, since I will struggle to walk normally when I am bruised. I'm not sure if it's because of sand or the trunks themselves... But I'm sure I'm not the only man with this problem.\nDoes anyone know how to prevent this?",
"how to avoid getting bruised in the inner thighs when wearing beach shorts? I'm a man, and I easily get bruised in my inner thighs when I wear swim trunks. It's really incapacitating, since I will struggle to walk normally when I am bruised. I'm not sure if it's because of sand or the trunks themselves... But I'm sure I'm not the only man with this problem.\nDoes anyone know how to prevent this?"
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"i’m a woman, but i have the same problem. rubbing deodorant (one that won’t leave white marks) or even some baby powder on your inner thighs lets the thighs slide over instead of rubbing and chafing!",
"You do not need the inner liner. It’s just to help keep things under control. You can always trim it around legs so it does not hurt you.",
"Everyone has some great recommendations here. If those fail, you could also use some compression shorts under the suit. They dry quick and give you a non chafe layer.",
"Maybe compression shorts under? Like under armor type or something I dono . And ya the material is probably cheap if your shorts",
"I never had this issue....do you get bruised from shorts in general? Do your thighs brush against each other in shorts?",
"I found you just need to wait till your shorts are dry before taking a walk. Use a towel on your shorts and try not to buy long shorts... if you know what I mean"
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"What is the best floor covering for an old, uneven cement basement floor? I'm thinking lamenant fake hardwood, but I'm not sure. Tiles are obviously out of the question (uneven floor), and everyone tells me hardwood is not good for basements. ",
"What is the best floor covering for an old, uneven cement basement floor? I'm thinking lamenant fake hardwood, but I'm not sure. Tiles are obviously out of the question (uneven floor), and everyone tells me hardwood is not good for basements. ",
"What is the best floor covering for an old, uneven cement basement floor? I'm thinking lamenant fake hardwood, but I'm not sure. Tiles are obviously out of the question (uneven floor), and everyone tells me hardwood is not good for basements. ",
"What is the best floor covering for an old, uneven cement basement floor? I'm thinking lamenant fake hardwood, but I'm not sure. Tiles are obviously out of the question (uneven floor), and everyone tells me hardwood is not good for basements. ",
"What is the best floor covering for an old, uneven cement basement floor? I'm thinking lamenant fake hardwood, but I'm not sure. Tiles are obviously out of the question (uneven floor), and everyone tells me hardwood is not good for basements. "
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"This is a big project, but I might actually recommend finished concrete. The cost of the project can climb a bit. I will put in a link, but the one time I saw this done, to finish the whole thing, they took and made edging from wood in thinner strips, but, they set about by getting the edging level first, then fill in with finishing concrete. It's infinitely easier to do a sidewalk than it is to do an entire basement. But, don't let daunt you. [Here's the link](http://www.familyhandyman.com/masonry/pouring-concrete/how-to-finish-concrete/step-by-step) if you're interested in this. I personally like the aesthetic of a \"shiny\" concrete finished floor in a basement and it makes life so much easier when you get on in years and you've got to solder some piping or replace a washer or something like this, over and above a finished floor or carpeting. Then again, obviously some people want a cozy basement rec room. ",
"Laminate has issues with wet too, so you'll need proper underlayment, possibly spacers for ventilation, and an even flatter surface.\n\nSo most these thoughts require leveling. What doesn't, indoor/outdoor carpet. ",
"Resilent Tile floor.\n\nNo, not that crappy vinyl squares form your grandmothers kitchen remodeled in 1972. The stuff they have today is quite remarkable.\n\nResilient Vinyl Planks. Looks like wood, comes in long sections (6x36 or so), and you can stagger-start them like wood floor. \n\nCost is very low, looks good, can be laid down over whatever existing surface you have, and is also waterproof (since its just rubber) should you ever make a mess our your basement flood. The only tool you need is a box cutter. \n\nIts 'tabbed' overlaps, so you dont even need to secure it to the floor with glue, since its own weight, once all stuck together, keeps it in place.\n\nThe ideal solution for a basement floor your are trying to dress up",
"Hardwood isn't good if there's a chance of moisture. You could seal the floor and use a good membrane below the wood, which would probably make it OK. It won't fix the uneven floor though.\n\nIf the floor is uneven, just pour a layer of leveling compound first. It's not that expensive, and then you can run whatever type of floor you want over the top.\n\n",
"I've got zero experience in construction, but I've heard of people laying down a layer of cement - just thin enough to make the floor even - and then covering it with the actual floor of their choice...I'm not in a position to see if this is a common practice at the moment, but it might be worth a search if you get a few minutes. You could do it yourself, which would be cheaper than hiring someone else to do everything."
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"what to do with left over hardware? Hi all, hope you're having a great day! \n\nI have quite a collection of leftover hardware from various equipment, purchases, put together furniture, and whatever dimensional portal spits this stuff out in my garage. \n\nWhat should I do with all those screws, bolts, brackets etc.?\n\nCheers",
"what to do with left over hardware? Hi all, hope you're having a great day! \n\nI have quite a collection of leftover hardware from various equipment, purchases, put together furniture, and whatever dimensional portal spits this stuff out in my garage. \n\nWhat should I do with all those screws, bolts, brackets etc.?\n\nCheers",
"what to do with left over hardware? Hi all, hope you're having a great day! \n\nI have quite a collection of leftover hardware from various equipment, purchases, put together furniture, and whatever dimensional portal spits this stuff out in my garage. \n\nWhat should I do with all those screws, bolts, brackets etc.?\n\nCheers",
"what to do with left over hardware? Hi all, hope you're having a great day! \n\nI have quite a collection of leftover hardware from various equipment, purchases, put together furniture, and whatever dimensional portal spits this stuff out in my garage. \n\nWhat should I do with all those screws, bolts, brackets etc.?\n\nCheers",
"what to do with left over hardware? Hi all, hope you're having a great day! \n\nI have quite a collection of leftover hardware from various equipment, purchases, put together furniture, and whatever dimensional portal spits this stuff out in my garage. \n\nWhat should I do with all those screws, bolts, brackets etc.?\n\nCheers"
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"Step 1. Place all items in plastic Ziplock baggy. \n\nStep 2. Place said baggy in tool box.\n\nStep 3. Forget about baggy for 1 year.\n\nStep 4. Go by more. ",
"Some cities have a makerspace, and I am sure they would appreciate a donation if it is stuff you're not going to use anymore. ",
"Look through it first, if it looks like you may be able to use it again keep it, I use a tackle box to organize my various leftover peices. But depending on what brands and price ranges you are in then some of that stuff is one use junk and you can toss it for sure. \n\nJust know that if you start keeping every little thing it leads to hoarderville. ",
"I have a bin on the wall of the garage for random stuff like screws, drywall anchors, washers and the like. Small, random bits and bobs of hardware may come in handy when you're looking for just the right size thingamajig.\n\nFor new stuff, or things that I know where the hardware came from, I put the hardware in a plastic bag, then tape the bag of hardware to the thing it came from with packing tape, keeping the bag of parts hidden, of course. Then, if I need the hardware later, it's already with the thing it came from.\n\nI do the same with purchases for which I might need warranty repairs later. The warranty info and a copy of the receipt go in the bag, bag gets taped to the item. That way, if I need the warranty info and receipt, it;s already with the broken thing and I don't have to dig through a file (or that pile of \"random paperwork\" that seems to crop up in every home) to find it.",
"If you're too destitute to buy new screws that you have to save old hardware, you shouldn't be buying new stuff. \n\nTl;dr throw them out. "
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"How to let someone know their turn signal is still on when they're clearly not trying to change lanes. ",
"How to let someone know their turn signal is still on when they're clearly not trying to change lanes. ",
"How to let someone know their turn signal is still on when they're clearly not trying to change lanes. "
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"Briefly signal a couple of times a few seconds apart. If they don't get the message, pass them if possible and leave the area, else give them a lot of room. Their mind is likely not entirely on driving right now.",
"When I'm riding motorcycles with friends, and one of us leaves their turnsignal on, I hold up my hand and flap it open and closed. But I don't think anyone outside our group would know what the hell I was doing.\n\nSometimes I put my turn signal on for a few blinks and turn it off, maybe repeat it. ",
"Don't. The more time you're spending trying to signal another driver is less time you're spending paying attention to the rest of the road and other possible hazards. It may be annoying, but you're better off minding your own business when it comes to driving."
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"How to ask for help I find it difficult to ask for help from people who are not so close to me (e.g a work colleague, or a relative which I haven't met for a long time or some other acquaintance), because I feel I might be imposing upon them and I certainly don't want to come off as an a**hole. \n\nA strategy I am thinking of is to first ask for help and ask them if I could do something in return for them. You guys could elaborate on this or anything else.\n ",
"How to ask for help I find it difficult to ask for help from people who are not so close to me (e.g a work colleague, or a relative which I haven't met for a long time or some other acquaintance), because I feel I might be imposing upon them and I certainly don't want to come off as an a**hole. \n\nA strategy I am thinking of is to first ask for help and ask them if I could do something in return for them. You guys could elaborate on this or anything else.\n "
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"Try to ask for advice instead of help when applicable. It seems less but will probably be enough. If not, the person asked will more often than not give you more support. Most people like to give advice and feel more like gaining something than giving away resources.",
"It depends on what you're asking. Offering help in return is always a great idea. Ask for help for a specific task. State what you already tried to do to help yourself. Give the person enough time to help you. Ask when it would be a good time to talk about the subject. \n\nDon't worry too much about how you're asking for the help. When asked for their help, people will usually be happy of being useful to someone. Most people don't expect anything in return when asked for a little help. Helping your colleagues at work is something that is expected and normal on the job.\n\nIf someone would ask for your help, would you feel like they are a burden to you or that they're imposing on you? The answer is probably no, which is the answer most of us would give."
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"How do I unclutter my life? Here is an example of what my computer looks like right now: http://i.imgur.com/0QScKf1.png\n\nI feel like I'm crushing myself under electronic clutter and unattended business (make doctor appointment, plan vacation, get car washed, etc.). I have a lot of anxiety all day long, and I don't know if it's caused by or is causing this clutter (probably both), but I think I would feel better if I could stop letting all this junk pile up on top of me. Do you have any thoughts about what I can do to help myself?\n\nNotes on the image...\n\n* Chrome tabs: these are from weeks and weeks of YouTube videos (music, guitar lessons, other random stuff), open Google searches I never followed through on, random links from Reddit, Yelp searches for certain types of restaurants in certain areas, etc. My tabs always look like this.\n\n* Chrome bookmarks: this is a scary set of interlocking rabbit holes. I have hundreds or thousands of bookmarks in my toolbar. Every few years I put everything into a big folder named \"organize\" (sometimes \"ORGANIZE!!!\"). See the folder on the far left. I have several nested folders like this. I have thousands and thousands of bookmarks. I am certain that I'll never look through 99.99% of them, but whenever I try to use a folder system and/or only bookmark things I know I'll actually return to, I fail. I seem to be unable to control my crazy hoarder-level bookmarking behavior.\n\n* Gmail inbox: note that these are only *starred* emails. I have 140 starred emails in my inbox, and I only give an email a star when I think it will require some kind of future action. I probably will never look at 90% of these starred emails again. My unstarred inbox 'only' has about 25 emails in it, but 23 of those are emails I sent to myself as a reminder to do something (change diet, tell someone about something, buy something, watch some movie or show, look up a musician, make an appointment, etc.). I send myself a lot of emails like this, and they stack up and I don't act on most of them.\n\nI feel like I've always had a problem with procrastination. But don't most people?? Does what I'm describing sound like perfectly normal and acceptable human behavior? It doesn't feel good; it doesn't feel responsible or productive. My life isn't messed up or anything; I get by fine and I don't think my procrastination tends to negatively impact other people very often. But I feel like I'm constantly buried under a mountain of mostly self-imposed chores, errands, research projects, plans for life changes, etc. I feel like there are literally a million things that I'm supposed to be doing, but am putting off, all day every day.\n\nTL;DR: I feel like my life is insanely, unmanageably cluttered. What can I do to help get myself out from under this mountain of junk? Thanks, and sorry for the dumb post.\n\n[",
"How do I unclutter my life? Here is an example of what my computer looks like right now: http://i.imgur.com/0QScKf1.png\n\nI feel like I'm crushing myself under electronic clutter and unattended business (make doctor appointment, plan vacation, get car washed, etc.). I have a lot of anxiety all day long, and I don't know if it's caused by or is causing this clutter (probably both), but I think I would feel better if I could stop letting all this junk pile up on top of me. Do you have any thoughts about what I can do to help myself?\n\nNotes on the image...\n\n* Chrome tabs: these are from weeks and weeks of YouTube videos (music, guitar lessons, other random stuff), open Google searches I never followed through on, random links from Reddit, Yelp searches for certain types of restaurants in certain areas, etc. My tabs always look like this.\n\n* Chrome bookmarks: this is a scary set of interlocking rabbit holes. I have hundreds or thousands of bookmarks in my toolbar. Every few years I put everything into a big folder named \"organize\" (sometimes \"ORGANIZE!!!\"). See the folder on the far left. I have several nested folders like this. I have thousands and thousands of bookmarks. I am certain that I'll never look through 99.99% of them, but whenever I try to use a folder system and/or only bookmark things I know I'll actually return to, I fail. I seem to be unable to control my crazy hoarder-level bookmarking behavior.\n\n* Gmail inbox: note that these are only *starred* emails. I have 140 starred emails in my inbox, and I only give an email a star when I think it will require some kind of future action. I probably will never look at 90% of these starred emails again. My unstarred inbox 'only' has about 25 emails in it, but 23 of those are emails I sent to myself as a reminder to do something (change diet, tell someone about something, buy something, watch some movie or show, look up a musician, make an appointment, etc.). I send myself a lot of emails like this, and they stack up and I don't act on most of them.\n\nI feel like I've always had a problem with procrastination. But don't most people?? Does what I'm describing sound like perfectly normal and acceptable human behavior? It doesn't feel good; it doesn't feel responsible or productive. My life isn't messed up or anything; I get by fine and I don't think my procrastination tends to negatively impact other people very often. But I feel like I'm constantly buried under a mountain of mostly self-imposed chores, errands, research projects, plans for life changes, etc. I feel like there are literally a million things that I'm supposed to be doing, but am putting off, all day every day.\n\nTL;DR: I feel like my life is insanely, unmanageably cluttered. What can I do to help get myself out from under this mountain of junk? Thanks, and sorry for the dumb post.\n\n[",
"How do I unclutter my life? Here is an example of what my computer looks like right now: http://i.imgur.com/0QScKf1.png\n\nI feel like I'm crushing myself under electronic clutter and unattended business (make doctor appointment, plan vacation, get car washed, etc.). I have a lot of anxiety all day long, and I don't know if it's caused by or is causing this clutter (probably both), but I think I would feel better if I could stop letting all this junk pile up on top of me. Do you have any thoughts about what I can do to help myself?\n\nNotes on the image...\n\n* Chrome tabs: these are from weeks and weeks of YouTube videos (music, guitar lessons, other random stuff), open Google searches I never followed through on, random links from Reddit, Yelp searches for certain types of restaurants in certain areas, etc. My tabs always look like this.\n\n* Chrome bookmarks: this is a scary set of interlocking rabbit holes. I have hundreds or thousands of bookmarks in my toolbar. Every few years I put everything into a big folder named \"organize\" (sometimes \"ORGANIZE!!!\"). See the folder on the far left. I have several nested folders like this. I have thousands and thousands of bookmarks. I am certain that I'll never look through 99.99% of them, but whenever I try to use a folder system and/or only bookmark things I know I'll actually return to, I fail. I seem to be unable to control my crazy hoarder-level bookmarking behavior.\n\n* Gmail inbox: note that these are only *starred* emails. I have 140 starred emails in my inbox, and I only give an email a star when I think it will require some kind of future action. I probably will never look at 90% of these starred emails again. My unstarred inbox 'only' has about 25 emails in it, but 23 of those are emails I sent to myself as a reminder to do something (change diet, tell someone about something, buy something, watch some movie or show, look up a musician, make an appointment, etc.). I send myself a lot of emails like this, and they stack up and I don't act on most of them.\n\nI feel like I've always had a problem with procrastination. But don't most people?? Does what I'm describing sound like perfectly normal and acceptable human behavior? It doesn't feel good; it doesn't feel responsible or productive. My life isn't messed up or anything; I get by fine and I don't think my procrastination tends to negatively impact other people very often. But I feel like I'm constantly buried under a mountain of mostly self-imposed chores, errands, research projects, plans for life changes, etc. I feel like there are literally a million things that I'm supposed to be doing, but am putting off, all day every day.\n\nTL;DR: I feel like my life is insanely, unmanageably cluttered. What can I do to help get myself out from under this mountain of junk? Thanks, and sorry for the dumb post.\n\n[",
"How do I unclutter my life? Here is an example of what my computer looks like right now: http://i.imgur.com/0QScKf1.png\n\nI feel like I'm crushing myself under electronic clutter and unattended business (make doctor appointment, plan vacation, get car washed, etc.). I have a lot of anxiety all day long, and I don't know if it's caused by or is causing this clutter (probably both), but I think I would feel better if I could stop letting all this junk pile up on top of me. Do you have any thoughts about what I can do to help myself?\n\nNotes on the image...\n\n* Chrome tabs: these are from weeks and weeks of YouTube videos (music, guitar lessons, other random stuff), open Google searches I never followed through on, random links from Reddit, Yelp searches for certain types of restaurants in certain areas, etc. My tabs always look like this.\n\n* Chrome bookmarks: this is a scary set of interlocking rabbit holes. I have hundreds or thousands of bookmarks in my toolbar. Every few years I put everything into a big folder named \"organize\" (sometimes \"ORGANIZE!!!\"). See the folder on the far left. I have several nested folders like this. I have thousands and thousands of bookmarks. I am certain that I'll never look through 99.99% of them, but whenever I try to use a folder system and/or only bookmark things I know I'll actually return to, I fail. I seem to be unable to control my crazy hoarder-level bookmarking behavior.\n\n* Gmail inbox: note that these are only *starred* emails. I have 140 starred emails in my inbox, and I only give an email a star when I think it will require some kind of future action. I probably will never look at 90% of these starred emails again. My unstarred inbox 'only' has about 25 emails in it, but 23 of those are emails I sent to myself as a reminder to do something (change diet, tell someone about something, buy something, watch some movie or show, look up a musician, make an appointment, etc.). I send myself a lot of emails like this, and they stack up and I don't act on most of them.\n\nI feel like I've always had a problem with procrastination. But don't most people?? Does what I'm describing sound like perfectly normal and acceptable human behavior? It doesn't feel good; it doesn't feel responsible or productive. My life isn't messed up or anything; I get by fine and I don't think my procrastination tends to negatively impact other people very often. But I feel like I'm constantly buried under a mountain of mostly self-imposed chores, errands, research projects, plans for life changes, etc. I feel like there are literally a million things that I'm supposed to be doing, but am putting off, all day every day.\n\nTL;DR: I feel like my life is insanely, unmanageably cluttered. What can I do to help get myself out from under this mountain of junk? Thanks, and sorry for the dumb post.\n\n[",
"How do I unclutter my life? Here is an example of what my computer looks like right now: http://i.imgur.com/0QScKf1.png\n\nI feel like I'm crushing myself under electronic clutter and unattended business (make doctor appointment, plan vacation, get car washed, etc.). I have a lot of anxiety all day long, and I don't know if it's caused by or is causing this clutter (probably both), but I think I would feel better if I could stop letting all this junk pile up on top of me. Do you have any thoughts about what I can do to help myself?\n\nNotes on the image...\n\n* Chrome tabs: these are from weeks and weeks of YouTube videos (music, guitar lessons, other random stuff), open Google searches I never followed through on, random links from Reddit, Yelp searches for certain types of restaurants in certain areas, etc. My tabs always look like this.\n\n* Chrome bookmarks: this is a scary set of interlocking rabbit holes. I have hundreds or thousands of bookmarks in my toolbar. Every few years I put everything into a big folder named \"organize\" (sometimes \"ORGANIZE!!!\"). See the folder on the far left. I have several nested folders like this. I have thousands and thousands of bookmarks. I am certain that I'll never look through 99.99% of them, but whenever I try to use a folder system and/or only bookmark things I know I'll actually return to, I fail. I seem to be unable to control my crazy hoarder-level bookmarking behavior.\n\n* Gmail inbox: note that these are only *starred* emails. I have 140 starred emails in my inbox, and I only give an email a star when I think it will require some kind of future action. I probably will never look at 90% of these starred emails again. My unstarred inbox 'only' has about 25 emails in it, but 23 of those are emails I sent to myself as a reminder to do something (change diet, tell someone about something, buy something, watch some movie or show, look up a musician, make an appointment, etc.). I send myself a lot of emails like this, and they stack up and I don't act on most of them.\n\nI feel like I've always had a problem with procrastination. But don't most people?? Does what I'm describing sound like perfectly normal and acceptable human behavior? It doesn't feel good; it doesn't feel responsible or productive. My life isn't messed up or anything; I get by fine and I don't think my procrastination tends to negatively impact other people very often. But I feel like I'm constantly buried under a mountain of mostly self-imposed chores, errands, research projects, plans for life changes, etc. I feel like there are literally a million things that I'm supposed to be doing, but am putting off, all day every day.\n\nTL;DR: I feel like my life is insanely, unmanageably cluttered. What can I do to help get myself out from under this mountain of junk? Thanks, and sorry for the dumb post.\n\n[",
"How do I unclutter my life? Here is an example of what my computer looks like right now: http://i.imgur.com/0QScKf1.png\n\nI feel like I'm crushing myself under electronic clutter and unattended business (make doctor appointment, plan vacation, get car washed, etc.). I have a lot of anxiety all day long, and I don't know if it's caused by or is causing this clutter (probably both), but I think I would feel better if I could stop letting all this junk pile up on top of me. Do you have any thoughts about what I can do to help myself?\n\nNotes on the image...\n\n* Chrome tabs: these are from weeks and weeks of YouTube videos (music, guitar lessons, other random stuff), open Google searches I never followed through on, random links from Reddit, Yelp searches for certain types of restaurants in certain areas, etc. My tabs always look like this.\n\n* Chrome bookmarks: this is a scary set of interlocking rabbit holes. I have hundreds or thousands of bookmarks in my toolbar. Every few years I put everything into a big folder named \"organize\" (sometimes \"ORGANIZE!!!\"). See the folder on the far left. I have several nested folders like this. I have thousands and thousands of bookmarks. I am certain that I'll never look through 99.99% of them, but whenever I try to use a folder system and/or only bookmark things I know I'll actually return to, I fail. I seem to be unable to control my crazy hoarder-level bookmarking behavior.\n\n* Gmail inbox: note that these are only *starred* emails. I have 140 starred emails in my inbox, and I only give an email a star when I think it will require some kind of future action. I probably will never look at 90% of these starred emails again. My unstarred inbox 'only' has about 25 emails in it, but 23 of those are emails I sent to myself as a reminder to do something (change diet, tell someone about something, buy something, watch some movie or show, look up a musician, make an appointment, etc.). I send myself a lot of emails like this, and they stack up and I don't act on most of them.\n\nI feel like I've always had a problem with procrastination. But don't most people?? Does what I'm describing sound like perfectly normal and acceptable human behavior? It doesn't feel good; it doesn't feel responsible or productive. My life isn't messed up or anything; I get by fine and I don't think my procrastination tends to negatively impact other people very often. But I feel like I'm constantly buried under a mountain of mostly self-imposed chores, errands, research projects, plans for life changes, etc. I feel like there are literally a million things that I'm supposed to be doing, but am putting off, all day every day.\n\nTL;DR: I feel like my life is insanely, unmanageably cluttered. What can I do to help get myself out from under this mountain of junk? Thanks, and sorry for the dumb post.\n\n[",
"How do I unclutter my life? Here is an example of what my computer looks like right now: http://i.imgur.com/0QScKf1.png\n\nI feel like I'm crushing myself under electronic clutter and unattended business (make doctor appointment, plan vacation, get car washed, etc.). I have a lot of anxiety all day long, and I don't know if it's caused by or is causing this clutter (probably both), but I think I would feel better if I could stop letting all this junk pile up on top of me. Do you have any thoughts about what I can do to help myself?\n\nNotes on the image...\n\n* Chrome tabs: these are from weeks and weeks of YouTube videos (music, guitar lessons, other random stuff), open Google searches I never followed through on, random links from Reddit, Yelp searches for certain types of restaurants in certain areas, etc. My tabs always look like this.\n\n* Chrome bookmarks: this is a scary set of interlocking rabbit holes. I have hundreds or thousands of bookmarks in my toolbar. Every few years I put everything into a big folder named \"organize\" (sometimes \"ORGANIZE!!!\"). See the folder on the far left. I have several nested folders like this. I have thousands and thousands of bookmarks. I am certain that I'll never look through 99.99% of them, but whenever I try to use a folder system and/or only bookmark things I know I'll actually return to, I fail. I seem to be unable to control my crazy hoarder-level bookmarking behavior.\n\n* Gmail inbox: note that these are only *starred* emails. I have 140 starred emails in my inbox, and I only give an email a star when I think it will require some kind of future action. I probably will never look at 90% of these starred emails again. My unstarred inbox 'only' has about 25 emails in it, but 23 of those are emails I sent to myself as a reminder to do something (change diet, tell someone about something, buy something, watch some movie or show, look up a musician, make an appointment, etc.). I send myself a lot of emails like this, and they stack up and I don't act on most of them.\n\nI feel like I've always had a problem with procrastination. But don't most people?? Does what I'm describing sound like perfectly normal and acceptable human behavior? It doesn't feel good; it doesn't feel responsible or productive. My life isn't messed up or anything; I get by fine and I don't think my procrastination tends to negatively impact other people very often. But I feel like I'm constantly buried under a mountain of mostly self-imposed chores, errands, research projects, plans for life changes, etc. I feel like there are literally a million things that I'm supposed to be doing, but am putting off, all day every day.\n\nTL;DR: I feel like my life is insanely, unmanageably cluttered. What can I do to help get myself out from under this mountain of junk? Thanks, and sorry for the dumb post.\n\n["
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"If there's on thing that How I Met Your Mother has taught me, its that never create a TV show finale, and the one year rule, if you haven't used it for a year, chuck it. Unless their important documents ofc.",
"Try [this](https://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Tidying-Decluttering-Organizing/dp/1607747308/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1465544733&sr=1-1&keywords=marie+kondo) book. My girlfriend swears by it and it has even helped me. It feels really good to declutter, you just need to do one thing at a time.",
"Restart your computer more often and \"force\" it to reset your tabs. You could also go to the Bookmarks file in chrome and wipe that, get rid of them all at one go, because bookmarked or not, it'll always be there! If you close a tab and realise \"Ah shit, what was that link again. Damn! Why didn't I bookmark it\", just do CTRL+SHIFT+T and it opens again. All in all, try to see the fact that the links you click on isnt a one-time thing. It'll probably always be there, allowing you to search it up, instead of having a lot of bookmarks. Or, if you havent touched a link in your bookmarks in a week, remove it, you'll probably not touch it anytime soon anyways.",
"Watch the YouTube video and then close it. If it's something you're learning from, keep a word doc called \"YouTube summaries\" where you keep notes from each video. The important thing is to establish a habit of watching the video and then being done with it ",
"Try Tabs Outliner. It takes some effort to learn but it's a very good way to organize old tabs. You do have to backup often though as its database is prone to loss. I have way more tabs than you, BTW.",
"Cluttered lifestyles reflect a cluttered brain. Talk to a doctor about your symptoms, its hard to attach a label to any of them but there is probably medication that can help you",
"Bookmarks: Delete them. That \"organize\" folder is probably giving you anxiety just looking at it. If you need it in the future you can probably find alternatives or look it up again. \n\nTabs: Once you stop using a tab get in the habit of just closing it. You can look it back up in your history if need be. \n\nEmails: Start by marking everything you don't want as spam. Clear the clutter you have and any time you get an email start putting it in marked folders you have. This will clear the clutter. (i.e. If it's a reminder, make a folder specifically for messages from yourself or reminders. Make folders for business, pressing matters, etc.)\n\nLife clutter: Take note that not everything must be done immediately and can be put off with no stress. Deep breaths and maybe take up something that calms you. Hobbies will help mellow out the anxiety a tad. \n\nProcrastination: Start doing things at a slow pace. I always procrastinated a lot in high school. As soon as I entered college I realized that wasn't going to really fly, so I started pacing myself. If you make small goals and meet them it'll be a boost to your mood and you'll start getting things done. If you make huge goals like getting your ENTIRE life fixed in a day you'll continue to stress yourself out.\n\nGood luck."
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"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say.",
"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say.",
"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say.",
"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say.",
"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say.",
"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say.",
"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say.",
"How to be better at conversation. I am terrible at keep conversations going. Doesn't really matter if it's someone I know, or someone I just met. I think it is social anxiety, but I usually draw a blank when looking for something to say."
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"Take something the other person says and ask about that. Keep doing this and eventually you will relax and it can evolve into a meaningful conversation.",
"Most people enjoy talking about themselves. Ask people questions about their hobbies/interests/etc and it'll usually start flowing from there. Part of the deal is having genuine interest in the conversation though. If you're just talking to someone because you feel required rather than because you're interested in speaking with the person, sometimes it's more difficult to get a genuine conversation going. ",
"As others have said, ask the other person about him or herself. I also have social anxiety and I have some generic questions ready when the time comes, like:\n\nDo you have kids?\nWhat do you do for work?\nWhere are you from?\nWhat are you doing this weekend/for the holiday?\n[Comment/ask about weather]\n\nIf you're already at work (which is where I have the most anxiety), then ask how their work is going and what their day's been like. \n\nSTILL having trouble? Other person not responding? Mention something minor you were recently frustrated with, like traffic. People can always bond over bitching.\n\nAs one other person also mentioned, if none of the above is really working, don't force it. He or she may be anxious and not like talking.\n\nHope this helps! Good luck!",
"Start with being a good listener and fully engaging in the conversation. Don’t always be thinking about what you’re going to say next. ",
"I'm going to recommend a book. It's about communication. The first part has a lot to do with presentations and public speaking, but the later chapters deal more with interpersonal communication.\n\nPitch Perfect by Bill McGowan\n\nOne of his tips for that drawing a blank is to prep five or six topics that you can bring up in a conversation. By this he means actually practice them.\n\nAnother good one is How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes",
"The truth is most conversations dont just flow non stop. Small pauses are common, don't over think them or think they're awkward, they usually aren't. Also, if social anxiety is an issue, what helped me is the fact that, unless you come off as a complete idiot/douche before you even talk just based on how you dress or whatever, 99% of people WANT to like you, and if they're not avoiding talking to you in the first place, chances are they already do.",
"Like many have said, try focusing on the other person to start with. Sometimes it may seem difficult to relate every topic back to your own experience, so just aim to learn more about them. You can ask them questions about whatever they seem to be interested in at the time, and that may spark some further subjects that you can relate to, and more easily talk about. ",
"\"So, how 'bout them O's?\"\nBest conversation starter I know.\n\nBest advice I can give you is to find things that catch your interest and have an opinion on them. Share them with your conversational partner and once the topic closesn find some way to link to the next topic or just carry it over to something else. This is also a good way to tell if the person you're talking to is boring or not because if they aren't tossing things back to you or are focused on hearing about your thoughts on things, they're more than likely not worth your time."
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"How to drown out neighbor's bass noise? I live in a dorm with thin walls and can feel the vibration of the subwoofer. How do I reduce noise traveling into my room? I have talked to my neighbors but they kept partying so I am resorting to solutions on my side. Thanks!",
"How to drown out neighbor's bass noise? I live in a dorm with thin walls and can feel the vibration of the subwoofer. How do I reduce noise traveling into my room? I have talked to my neighbors but they kept partying so I am resorting to solutions on my side. Thanks!",
"How to drown out neighbor's bass noise? I live in a dorm with thin walls and can feel the vibration of the subwoofer. How do I reduce noise traveling into my room? I have talked to my neighbors but they kept partying so I am resorting to solutions on my side. Thanks!"
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"File a noise complaint. You have given them every chance you could. Check your lease or housing contract its likely the same. And they typically have clauses for stuff like this. ",
"Drill a little hole in the shared wall and insert a microphone. Connect that to an amp and sub woofer glued directly to that same wall.\n\nEvery time they play bass heavy music it will be reproduced right back at them albeit with a tiny bit of delay and there will just literally be a wall of bass.\n\nYou won't ever sleep again, but neither will they.",
"Purchase some foam pads or a sand box for them to put their speakers on. Low frequencies travel great distances and the speakers against a wall or on the floor turn the whole surface into a resonator. Any buffer between the source (speaker) and a surface to prevent the added resonance will help a bit. But only a bit. "
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" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?",
" How to reduce smelly body odor? I *always* have BO under my armpits. For example, I took a shower one hour ago. Got out and the first thing I did after drying off was apply my deodorant.\n\nBOOM!\n\nIt's been an hour and I can already smell my armpits when I lift my arms up. It's gross. I'm very self conscious about it. What can I do?\n\nI use a gel type deodorant, if that matters. Does this matter? I hate the kind that is a harder, white bar of deodorant. It always gets caught in my armpit hair and starts flaking off and comes out my sleave. It makes me look like I have dandruff.\n\nI'm under the impression that BO is the result of bacteria. Would rubbing my armpits down with alcohol after exiting the shower do anything beneficial?"
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"Shave your armpits. Greatly reduces BO!\n\n",
"Is your deodorant an anti-prespirant? Anti-prespirants keep you from sweating, deodorant just tries to cover the smell.\n\nSomething else that would help would be to trim the hair in your armpit. Hair retains moisture and smell.",
"[Try this](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alum#Cosmetic). Wet it a bit, rub it on your armpits and you'll be dry and unscented for quite a long time. I don't know where you can find it though.",
"DON'T shave your arm pits. It will cause lots of itchy irritation, trust me. You can trim them very short, but I wouldn't recommend shaving it all off. After you get out of the shower, apply baby powder first (To help absorb moisture) Them put on your deodorant. \n\nAlso, Right guard used to make a powder spray called \"Powder dry\". That used to work very well. \n\nLast but not least, focus on what you're eating. Things such as curry, garlic, and onion tend to exit through the skin and lead to body odor.",
"you can slowly build up immunity to the formula in your deodorant over time, and some people just start out immune to them. You might want to just go and get a whole lot of travel sized deodorants, and see which one works best for you. You should change them out every 1~2 sticks, so you won't gain immunity. Also, stay away from aluminum zirconium tetrachlorohydrex. That shit causes alzheimers.",
"Try baking soda instead of deodorant.\n\nAfter taking a shower, just put some on your hand and rub it on your under arms. Don't put deodorant or anything else on after.\n\nI just started doing it about two weeks ago after having problems finding a good deodorant since I sweat quite a bit here. But baking soda has completely stopped the BO and keeps me dry unlike any deodorant/anti-perspirant I have tried.\n\nSome people would suggest just buying Arm and Hammer deodorant, but I honestly don't think it works as well as simply using baking soda. Plus, the baking soda is cheaper and will last longer.",
"Shave your pits, shower, then rub them down with mouthwash, like Scope or Listerine. The mouthwash kills germs that cause odor - works like a charm!",
"I would try rubbing alcohol, it will kill most of the bacteria that are there, you probably have some sitting around the house, next time after you shower just throw some rubbing alcohol on there and see if it works, you can put on deodorant after",
"I worked outside, 12 hours a day, in long pants, boots, and a long-sleeved shirt during the hottest summer on record in Florida. I know sweat.\n\nUse an antibacterial soap on your pits when you shower.\n\nPut deodorant on at night. I know you'll wash it off in the morning, but some of it will stay.\n\nPut deodorant on after your shower and blow your pits dry.\n\nDegree worked for me. At 95 degrees and 90% humidity, I got not a drop of sweat in my armpits. Rest of my body was soaked. ",
"[This seems to work](http://www.youtube.com/watch?list=PL89BD7F7EC13090C8&feature=player_detailpage&v=DfnKVPhIU90)",
"It's all a matter of finding the right anti-perspirant. For me, the only ones which completely stop sweat are Sure Men and Mitchum. All other anti-perspirants I've used have just kind of slowed sweat down.\n\nOr you could rub superglue on your armpits to block the sweat glands, I guess.",
"gel type are helpfull deodorants.. besides.. hairy armpits are smellier. \n2 things: shave your armpits, and then use the dry deodorant white bars.",
"change your diet. eating red meats tend to make humans smell funky. Vegetables, fruits, staying hydrated, and abstaining from coffee usually helps.",
"change your diet, cut out alcohol and red meat for two months, drink green tea .\n\nit might be bacteria, but bacterial need food, so you change your diet, you change their food.",
"Your deodorant may not be good enough. Try one of the \"Nivea for men\", spray kind. These are very good.\n\nIf it doesn't work, you may have to start using some kind of anti-prespirant, like Odaban or Driclor. These will completely stop the sweating, but it will itch like hell on the first couple of uses. Endure it and you'll be a happy man! ",
"Whatever you do, dont use antiperspirants. All you need is the salt crystal. The only thing you'll ever use again.\nhttp://www.thecrystal.com/product_information.cfm\n\nAnd I highly recommend the 5oz rock.",
"If you buy Drysol or get a Prescription from your doc. this will eliminate sweating from happening by blocking the sweat pores. You basically put it on at night and wash it in the morning. No sweat = No smell!\n\nFellow hypohydrosic!",
"If its really bad, try baby powder instead of deodorant. My brother used to do this (he was a bit heavier, tried like 15 different deodorants that didn't keep the smell gone for more than three hours) and he said it worked marginally better than all the deodorants he tried. If that doesnt work, go to your doctor, get prescription strength deodorant/antiperspirant (yes they make this).",
"I use this roll-on deodorant.\nIt's very good imo --> http://a.imageshack.us/img545/3409/desodoranteniveamendryi.jpg",
"If you insist on using deodorant, maybe you can consider switching an all-natural one. The aluminum and crap you're absorbing through your skin is probably making odors worst, on top of diet and the likes, and the toxins are leaving your body through sweat. I know the health/beauty section at such stores like Whole Foods or Fairway offer chemical-free products. "
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"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. "
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"I always TRY to approach my colleagues about work matters like this. \n\n1. Display my concerns with the matter.\n2. Ask my colleagues \"Why did you use this method/do this specific thing/etc?\". An honest \"why\" not a rhetorical one. \n3. Listen to them explain. \n4. Give my opinions about their explanation. I try to present my opinions as clear and logical as possible: the goal, specific step, specific different approach. \n\nTo sum up, my version of constructive criticism include: acknowledge their effort, attentive listening to their solutions and offer clear alternative. ",
"The best way is to sandwich your criticism, a nice comment followed by your criticism and finishing another nice comment.\n\nEg, This sandwich is very nice, the bread is soft and fluffy, I'm not sure about the beef though, I think it may turned, but you know what this gravy is delicious.\n\nOr, Joe I'd like to provide you a quick review on your customer service, I've seen the way you greet people with a smile and warm hello and I very happy about this, but I've had a couple complaints that you a bit slow in providing service and I'd like you to approach customers and ask if they need assistance before have they have to look for you. However all they customers you have served had said they were very happy with your service, that you were very thorough and had excellent product knowledge, keep it up Joe.\n\nSandwich good bad good",
"Understand that people won't always welcome criticism, no matter how it's packaged. However, picking the right time and place are pretty crucial. It's rarely a smart move to embarrass somebody by pointing out their faults in front of other folk, so if you can hold back till a private moment later on that might help. Also, you need to take account of the \"bigger picture\" - sometimes people are still learning their role and know they've made errors along the way, but they're already reducing those errors and improving, so they need encouragement not disapproval. Also, it's important to recognise the limits of your own expertise - people aren't always going to have time or inclination to explain stuff they've spent a long time learning, so in many situations it's important not to go around sticking your nose where it's not wanted - so this depends on lot on the inter-personal relationship and the topic of discussion. ",
"Start with a nice comment like I noticed you have been putting so much effort into project, however there is room for improvement here. That way they don't feel like they are getting attached and tune you out.",
"Dont ever say someone did something badly. \n\nPhrase it in the way of \"You could have done this better\" and always give a why. Always. If you dont have a suggestion for how someone could have done someone better, youre not suitably qualified to say that it was bad. \n\nIf you dont have a suggestion, simply say how said part made you feel. \"That part didnt grab me as much as the rest of the presentation\" \n\nIf youre asking someone why theyre doing something I'm assuming youll be critisicing their manner of doing something. This is tough.\n\nIll use the example of someone swinging a pickaxe. If theyre doing it wrong, do not try to take over. That'll make them feel insignificant and defensive. Only offer advice in 2 situations:- \n\n> 1. You are able to grab their complete attention (They have a break or are at a place to stop). Dont give people tips while theyre doing the job, it just sounds like hounding and its annoying. \n\n> 2. You are the SME (Subject matter expert). If youre the leading expert on how to swing a pickaxe and *the other person knows this*, if theyre not overly proud they should be happy to take advice.\n\n\nIf you cant do either of those 2 things, try to bring it up later on in the day when you can have a proper dialogue about their technique and they can ask questions etc.",
"Airways be as specific as possible. Here's a story: I used to work at a busy restaurant in a small town. I would sometimes close on the weekends at midnight. Almost without fail, I'd come in the next day and the chef would tell me the kitchen was a disaster when he came in the next morning without really telling me what I needed to improve on. Obviously nothing changed because I didn't know what needed to be changed. Eventually I talked to him and let him know that he needed to be more specific and he was, which led to actual improvement. \n\nAnother thing to remember is that people don't change unless you give them a reason for it. If you just tell someone another way to do something without telling them why you think it's better or more efficient or higher quality, nothing will change. "
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"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. ",
"Rule of thumb for when or how long to get rid of something you don't use any longer? I'd like to free up some space in my life and wanted to ask if anyone has a formula of when to get rid of things like electronics, clothing you don't wear, random items, etc. "
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"There's an oft-reposted life pro tip that goes like this.\n\n1. On New Years Day, turn the coathangers around in your closet so they're curved forward.\n\n2. Every time you wear an article of clothing from your closet, when you put it back, turn its hangar around so it's curved backward.\n\n3. Next new year's day, donate or throw out at least half of the clothes that are on forward-curved hangars. You didn't wear them that whole year, so you're very likely never going to wear them again, right?\n\nIt's an awesome tip. And it applies in a similar fashion to everything in your house or apartment, although the duration of the \"rule of thumb\" will change according to the item's size and its type. Small electronics in a junk drawer can be kept a long time before becoming painful, but a body pillow that somehow got relegated to the storage area should be tossed quickly due to its volume.\n\nAs an example of managing throwouts by volume, every new years day, open every closed and stored box (especially the big ones!) in the house and see if you can consolidate the keepsakes and turf some stuff. And get RID of those stupid left-over school textbooks as fast as you can!",
"An after-purge tip--I leave a box, open, on the floor of my closet and when I find something I no longer want, no longer fits, etc, it goes directly into the box. When the box is full, I donate it. Boom--gone. Never have a build up then. It's also very freeing.",
"When in doubt throw it out; If you think it's still valuable/useful then look at e-bay for similar items and ask yourself if you would pay that much to buy it today - if the answer is no then just sell it and you won't feel like you're losing anything. If you were wrong you could just buy another one later.\n\nFor clothes I have a tradition of buying new clothes every black friday / cyber monday. Every time I do laundry I move the clothes I didn't wear into a lower shelf of my dresser. I tend to throw out or donate about half of my bottom shelf each year which is normally filled with T shirts, old pants, ugly gifts, and some stuff I keep (like swimsuits & seasonal clothes).",
"The moment you make yourself that question about that thing. That's the moment to get rid of it, right there.",
"Man, hard to say. I used to play in bands and I had a large PA system. About 5 years went by where I didn't use it and it was taking up a lot of space in my garage so I sold it for a steal. Not 6 months later I was adked to join a different musical group and wouldn't you know it, we need a damn PA system. There is nothing close in price to what I let my old one go for though.",
"Like others have said, get rid of it if you haven't used it in a long time. In the offchance you ever need something like it again, you can just buy a new one. It's a security trade-off. Instead of feeling secure because you have All The Things you might ever need, you can feel secure that you'll have the cash to buy another one.\n\nFor food, it's always good policy to get rid of old stuff. I'm talking about pantry items and things that live on the fridge door that have shelf lives of 2+ years. It's better to get rid of it and have to buy a new one later, than to use the old thing, realize it's gone bad, and now you've ruined an entire dish. My dad learned this the hard way several times. Whenever I'm home and no one's looking, I always go through our kitchen and throw out everything older than two years. No one's the wiser for it. ",
"I got drunk once a week every Friday after work by myself and forced myself to fill a big trash bag of crap and put it in the dumpster before I did anything fun.",
"I ask myself, if someone offered you money, equal to the cost of the object, to store it for a year. would you take the deal? if so keep it, if not out it goes.",
"There's a great book called \"the life changing magic of tidying\", by Marie Kondo.\n\nIt gets a little repetitive but has some really great advice on exactly what you're asking about and furthermore, ways to stop collecting things you don't need. ",
"Seconding the Marie Kondo book recommendations -- ask yourself if the item makes you genuinely glad to have around. Do you think \"Man, I'm so glad I still have this sweater\" or \"this mini-USB cable sure is used a lot\"? If you gave it away and then saw it at a store again, would you buy it back? If the answer is no, then you don't need it any more. That especially goes for things that actively make you unhappy, like a gift from a relative you dislike or a piece of furniture that makes you avoid that area of the room.",
"If there's stuff in your garage / closet that hasn't been touched since you moved into your house nine years ago - ditch it.\n\nSource: meIRL",
"If I haven't used it in six months and cannot come up with a specific use for it within 6 weeks, it's off to Goodwill because someone else needs it more than I do! ",
"For me, most of my clothes are in excellent shape even once it's time to get rid of them. I find it helps to donate those items to a charitable organization, because it keeps me from keeping stuff because \"I only wore it once or twice, it's practically new!\" (When in reality since I've only worn it once or twice I'm unlikely to wear it later.)\n\nI've also heard the book *The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up* by Marie Kondo is very helpful in helping you get rid of extraneous items, but I haven't tried it myself. ",
"Every time I have moved, it takes me forever to unpack. I travel for work constantly and relocate every year or so. If I go to move again, and I haven't opened a particular box, chances are I don't need to keep anything in that box. (I know it's hard to believe that I can take so long to unpack, but when you travel +330 days in a year, I cherish the time home and don't give a rats tit about boxes.) ",
"A year is my rule of thumb. if you manage to go a whole year without using something, you can make another year and another year after that. Some small cavats to the rule, if it has sentimental value and/or can look cool on a wall or shelf keep it. Also just because something isn't of use to you doesn't mean it's worthless, check around online before throwing things out and at the very least donate it to charity or goodwill.",
"For any given item, you can do this.\n\nFigure out how much it is costing to store (% of your square footage x rent/mortgage) if replacing it costs less than storing it since I last time you've used it, then get rid of it, and buy or rent one when you need it.",
"Check out the book Algorithms to Live By. It came out this year and has rules of thumb for this and many other difficulties that aren't just efficient, but optimal.",
"What's it worth on eBay? Sell it... if you need it, buy it back someday... if you are good at this, you can achieve what I call reverse pawning... item you love worth big $$ but need cash and never use it anyway? sell for a premium price... then set a search watch and eventually someone will list it for half what you sold it for.",
"That's tough because it depends what it is. If you have a lot of money and space then the answer is never...\n\nI read somewhere about the six week rule. Put it in a box and if you don't use it/remember to use it in six weeks, toss it.",
"Oooh, formula? Let's start with the degenerate case, the 1-person household. \n1: Identify your Goldilocks zone between cluttered and barren. \n2: Identify how much stuff your current living space supports in that zone. \n3: Match your inbound stuff flow and your outbound stuff flow to each other. \n4: Perform one-time decluttering ior acquisition of moar stuff to adjust to your goldilocks zone. Thereafter, just make periodic audits to avoid needing large adjustments again. \n\nLarger households require negotiation. I hope to move to a bigger living space and share it with moar people, and ATM my planned starting point is to have a talk about every one's feng shui preferences and the logical consequences re: homeostasis of mismatched stuff inflow and outflow, try to reach a compromise every one finds satisfactory, obtain clear articulation of such satisfaction which can be referenced later, and hope my flatmates don't beat my pedantic, sarcastic, overanalytical ass. (unless we become ass-beating playmates, of course)",
"Most of these comments are agreeing on about a year or so for most things. I'd agree with that. I think different categories of items have different time frames, but a year is fair. Personally I purge about every 6 months or so. I think once you get in the habit and become comfortable letting your stuff go, it becomes a lot easier. It's just \"stuff.\" ",
"Just throw away old shit you don't want anymore and are worthless. If you can get money for them electronics not clothes, Ebay or Amazon, you'll feel better about getting rid.\n\nI got a bunch of new clothes recently and running out of wardrobe space, so I got a shit load of clothes I didn't want/don't wear anymore in a black bag and put them in the bin.\n\nGreat thing is style changes, is your fashion sense different to what it was 2 years ago? Throw that outdated shit about etc etc.",
"It doesnt matter how long you wait to throw out something.\nWhy?\nBecause within ten days of tossing it you will be wishing you had it back.",
"If I haven't used/worn it after a year, I'm ok with it going. Unless it's something you don't use all the time, like tools and stuff.",
"If I haven't used something for a year and it's not valuable or of sentimental value it gets sold, donated or trashed. Nice shoes, coats and firearms I hold onto foe pretty much forever. ",
"I used to move every year to two years. I wouldn't unpack a box until I needed to find something. If I moved a box twice without needing to open it I dropped it off at Goodwill unopened. Whatever was in it couldn't have been that important if I didn't see it for three years.",
"I think in terms of rent. Each item has to pay it's rent. How often do I use it, how much was it to buy, how much space does it take up?\n\nFor example, If it's a $10 item I use once a year or so, it doesn't justify its rent and is tossed away or donated. \n",
"I look at the item... can I remember the last time I used this? If I can't, or if it's more than 2 months or so, and the item isn't that expensive I throw it out. ",
"Go grab Marie Kondo's book on how to tidy. It's filled with answers to this question. It's very good.",
"For clothes, throw out anything that you didn't wear in an entire year. Put a postit in each of them and remove it before you wear it - the ones that still have them will either be discarded or turned into pyjamas. \n\nFor electronics, it's a little harder. If you have an old mp3 device, think about whether you have any alternatives. If you have a phone and a portable charger, you might as well use that instead. If you have gaming devices, don't ever store them somewhere. Put them in your living room or whatever, because if you don't have easy access to them you'll never use them. Same rule applies; things that are never used might as well be thrown away.\n\nFor random items, simply do a yearly check. If you see something you don't particularly like, just put it in a large box. At the end, sort the stuff you might use from that box and throw the rest away.",
"2nd time you move it before using it = trash. Moving as in you moved houses or moved it around to try to make more space for something else. ",
"6 months, if you haven't used it by then you don't need it. Unless it's a collectable, otherwise sell it on or bin it."
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"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
"Tips for buying and owning first house I'm within a couple of months of buying my first house. I'm nervous about a lot of things, what do you wish you had known before hand?",
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"buy less house than you can afford. If something changes in your financial situation you can handle it.",
"When you own the house, don't cheap out on the essentials like hot water heater, furnace, etc. Better components will provide years of worry free service and add to the resale value when you sell.",
"Make sure the rooms are not too small and have enough closets. Make sure you ask your inspector lots of questions.",
"If you plan on staying there for at least a few years and can afford it then do it! Buying a house in my 20s was the best financial decision I ever made. Mortgage rates are at an all time low so even if you go with a 30 year, half of what you pay goes to equity. Much better then a landlord taking it all. ",
"Get a tool collection going. You'll need them. Have an expert check the house technically. Plan everything twice as long as you think it will take and twice as expensive. This will still not be enough but closer. Don't spend money on details yet. Get the big things in order first. ",
"Invite everyone to the inspection. \nBuy the correct size home. \nKnow how long you will keep the home and where your next home is. \n",
"Everyone gets excited to start awesome projects on the home after they buy it. Start ONE project and finish it before starting the next ",
"Pay very very close to cracks in the driveway. If the driveway is cracked you can almost count on foundation issues as well. Also, dont buy one with an old AC & Heating system.",
"Just because the Central Air is running fine now doesn't mean it will be in 6 months. Check how old the unit is and factor that into the value of the house. ",
"Don't let minute details keep you from choosing a house that's otherwise great but be realistic with what you can afford to change. Don't skimp on hiring a great inspector. Shop around for home owners insurance, many times you can get the same coverage for substantially different prices. Good luck! ",
"Avoid corner lots as you will have more berm to mow and more sidewalk to shovel. Avoid rental properties nearby as renters are the most hated people on earth as far as neighbors go. Avoid busy streets -- you don't want to spend your summer nights listening to constant traffic noise."
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" How do I politely stop my coworkers from repeating a story he's already told? I've been working at my job for a whole of 3 months so far. And my coworker has told multiple stories, multiple times, with the EXACT same details every time. Any help?\n\n"
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"i always just join in. 'yeah, i remember, you did xyz, haha that was funny'\n\nthat way it's like they were reminding you and you got it. everyone can keep smiling, awkwardness avoided.",
"Are they telling different people? \n\nIf they are telling you the same story again, politely interrupt them and ask \"Is this when you did 'key point in story'? You told me about it last 'day/week/month'.\n",
"Start telling your co-woker that you are going to start calling them ranch house, because they don't have a second story.\n\nCr",
"You can always do it as a question. \n\n\"Yeah, I caught a walleye once...\"\n\n\"Was that with your cousin?\"\n\nThis alerts them to the fact that you know what they're going to say, but it's not a \"stop\", so it doesn't hurt feelings (unless they're really sensitive) nor does it derail the conversation. ",
"Are you kidding me? \n\n\"hey oh yeah you told me, that was crazy!\"\n\n*change topic or move on to something else",
"Put your finger up to their mouth and very softly say \"shhhhhhhhhhhh. You told me this before you dumb twat.\" Laughs will be had.",
"As the person starts the story, say, \"Oh yes, you've told me this one before. That's interesting/funny/terrible\"",
"I once told the same person the same story a third time. After he patiently waited for me to finish he said \"Tell me that again.\" I asked why and he said \"Oh just to make it an even four.\" I am now way more careful about repeating myself.",
"My mom used to hold up two fingers or three, according to what iteration of the story it was. When she started becoming forgetful, I was able to use the tactic on her. It pissed her off pretty royally, but everyone there thought it was hilarious. I can't recommend this method for being polite, but it is pretty funny.",
"Punch him directly in the face as hard as you can.\n\n Warning: This is not considered a polite thing to do.",
"Just curl up into the fetal position, with your hands over your ears and scream \"I DONT WANT TO HEAR THIS AGAIN!\" He'll get the picture.",
"I second the \"Oh, this is when you _____\" method. I had a coworker who did this for months. I knew I was finally accepted and he was used to me when we could work in silence together.\n\nI took a break for a bit and only work with him from time to time on side-jobs and it's back to hearing the same stories.",
"Find a way to suggest he watches the movie \"I Heart Huckabees.\" Say it's the best movie ever and that he would love it.\n\nHe will never, ever tell that story again.",
"Tell him in the form of a knock knock joke:\n\nYou: Knock Knock\n\nCoworker: Who's there?\n\nYou: Shut your fucking face!",
"\"Oh yeah, I think you've mentioned that before!\" Say it in a light-hearted sort of tone. Works wonders for me.",
"Never, ever get married if you can't stand hearing the same shit over, and over, and over, and over.......",
"Just listen to it, whats the big deal? so you heard the story before. I used to stop people and tell them they've told me that story already but you get the sad \"oh...ok\". So now i just lose a few seconds every once in a while cause i listen to a repeat story.",
"I don't know what your environment is like but an open handed slap to the mouth works in my environment ",
"Depends. Do you want to be friends? Shut up and listen to their story. They're telling it because they like telling it.\n\nDon't want to be friends? \"Dude, you've told me this story a million times\" or butt in and tell the rest of the story. Depends on how much of an ass you want to be.",
"Be the bigger man and don't be an asshole and let him have his moment. UNLESS, you want the attention to be back on you, then go for the advice \n",
"Why don't you just let him tell his story? If he tells it that much, it's probably the only one he's got. Listen to his story and be genuinely interested, it'll make him feel good - and in my experience - it'll make me feel good as well. ",
"When he's not telling you a story, politely ask him if he has a memory problem. Act concerned and say you're concerned and explain what's been happening. Then work out a code or hand signal that you both agree on that you will use to let him know that he's told this story before. Then you can both laugh about it. But seriously, he may have a health issue and you may be doing him a huge favor.",
"There's no way out of this. You are going to have to quit or start planning their demise.\n\nI suggest you start stealing discretely from the company until the thefts become noticeable to upper management. Once the issue is on everyone's minds you can start subtly laying blame on your annoying coworker. Eventually frame them by stealing a large ticket item and planting it in their car or in their personal possessions at work.\n\nRuin this person's life or get over it and talk to them about it. ",
"If he is telling other people and is proud of it, and you don't have to listen, just nod along and let the guy tell their story. \n\nTo a lot of people, being able to tell those stories is a pretty important. They might not have family members that support them emotionally and they might not have many friends outside of work, so being able to express themselves in those moments is a big deal for them. It's a story, just tune out and let the guy relive his little moment of glory. It may be all he's going to get for awhile and you might just make his day by doing basically nothing. \n\nIf he is telling YOU specifically and is just forgetful, just say \"Oh yeah, I remember that! That was great!\"",
"I usually laugh and am just a little straight forward \"Ha! Oh yeah I remember you told me that one before, that was super funny.\" Or something along those lines",
"I have a friend like that. He's the braggy type, so I usually just finish his stories or say \"hah! I remember that!\"",
"I don't know much about social interaction, but what I do know comes from Reddit. I believe the proper course of action is to just repeatedly scream REPOST, and maybe call them a fagot.",
"I break in with \"Oh yeah, you were telling me about that! That is funny/cool/interesting!\" It lets them know that they already told the story, but still makes them feel that they story was relevent. ",
"I am a chronic story-repeater. :( It's not intentional, I just completely forget that I've already told someone the story, and by the time I realize it (if I even do) it's already too late and we're all trapped.\n\nI appreciate a gentle reminder, especially early on in the tale, as many others have mentioned. \"Oh yeah, and then ____ happened, right? You were telling me about this before, so funny/sad/weird\" It lets me know that I've told you before without making me feel like a total goober, which I really appreciate, because I have genuinely forgotten that I ever told you and I'm all excited to tell you this cool story. But if someone just interrupts and goes, \"Yeah, you told me this already, I get it, you don't have to tell me again\" it makes me feel like an idiot, and I'll just say, \"Oh. Sorry,\" and kick the ground a little bit awkwardly and then there's dead air and everything is uncomfortable for everyone.",
"Do what my girlfriend does to me,\n\nWhen he's getting real excited about ready to say the best part, that one key line, interrupt and say with a straight face \"You already told me this story\" and watch as the look on his face looks like the world has crushed around him.\n",
"'Yo dude you've told me about this, I remember it being pretty funny.\"\nthen maybe laugh about it and move on?",
"\"Oh yeah, I love this story!\" \"I remember hearing that, I can't believe that happened!\"\n\n",
"my BF & I do this to each other, to indicate how many times we've heard each others' story. I hold up 3 fingers if i've heard this sorry tale thrice, and so forth.",
"finish a sentence... they'll realize you know the story and it'll work out. They will also be conscience about it in the future.",
"You don't. Keep interupting the person. Ask random questions related to the story. Do it in a way that you will be interrupting them. For example, what time did the incident happen, was it a sunny day, cold day? Repeat the parts that are meant to be the highlight of the story and bring up indescrepencies of how, why, and such as to make the story seems incredibly stupid.",
"You could troll him. Just ask about minor irrelevant details until you can conclude the conversation on a totally different point and move on. A brand new experience for both of you",
"When you figure out which story he's telling, just start repeating the details back to him. Should let him know that you've already heard it a million times and likely so has everyone else. ",
"When he starts to tell you the story say \"oh yeah! And then.....\" then you quickly finish the story. He feels like he shared, you don't have to listen to it, and he understands he tells it a lot.",
"What i usually do is take over and finish the story in the first person to them. See how they like it. ",
"This is why I hate Reddit sometimes. A grown man doesn't know how to tell a co-worker to shut up already about his repeated story. It saddens me. Now all the other socially awkward Redditors comment on witty creative ways to tell them to shut up that probably won't even work. \n\n\"Lol hey man didn't you tell me this story already? You need some new material man\" In a humorous matter. Boom you saved awkwardness, got a chuckle off him and he doesn't think your an asshole. Grow up.",
"The polite way is to join in \"oh yeah, that's when xy happened, right? haha\". He'll notice.\n\nI sometimes retell stories because I honestly forget. I try not to and I'm conscious about it, but it happens sometimes.",
"Telling stories over and over again in the same detail is a key way of telling if the story is a lie.\n\nSource: me",
"Tell him to join Reddit so he can tell the same jokes and stories nonstop all day everyday. Damn SimCity 5 sucks ammiright?",
"Tell him / her the end of their story before he / she can get into it. Don't wait until they're going strong to stop them.",
"Sconce you've been there only three months, this guy may just be nervous and telling stories a lot. He may not have a ton of interesting ones so he keeps reselling the same ones. It might stop. Then again, it might not...",
"Personally, I just continue to say things like \"Ah, I remember you telling me about that! haha, great stuff.\" or something along those lines. After a while, people seem to get that I've heard it enough already, and stop repeating it. I also look out for things like this when I mention a story, so I know I'm not just forgetting I've already told it.",
"People who do this do not care that they are repeating themselves. I politely let them know that they have told the story already, then talk to someone else or find something else to do. It may seem like I'm being rude, but actually they are the one being rude by purposely boring me with a story which they know they are repeating.",
"Not like I'm some social guru, but I'd interrupt at a pause, fill in the next detail, and then say something nice about the story. (ex. funny story - \"(laugh) ...And then _____ happened? I can't believe he'd do that!\")",
"My parents-in-law have five stories that they tell over and over again - not because they have dementia, but because they are crushing bores. I have given up trying to stop them, I just ask steadily more detailed questions to see if I can find anything new in them.",
"My mom has a lot of friends with memory issues. Whenever someone starts telling the same story again, they all just hold up the number of fingers for the number of times that they've heard it before. If everyone is holding up multiple fingers, they cut off the storyteller. ",
"My grandpa does this all the time, but I never want to hurt his feelings so I gently interrupt him and say, \"OH, are you talking about the time where *balh blaheh...*\" then depending on the story I'll react as I normally would and I get some more hangout time with that awesome mofo.",
"My favorite response? Interrupt him, pick up where he left off and finish the story. It's funny, & it drives the point home.",
"Maybe I'm just direct but I'd say, \"Yeah man you've told this story a few times.\" Say it with a smile and a pat on the back. Move on.",
"Make up a nicckname for them based on the story and have everyone at the office start calling them that. Then if he asks someone if they know how he got that nickname, they just say yup.",
"Learn it by rote, then turn it into a comedy routine with the two of you telling the exact same story.",
"Just tell them what happens next.\n\nI frequently repeat stories to people who have already heard; there's nothing wrong with just telling them you've already heard it.\n\nGranted, those people are friends. May not work as well with people you are less familiar with.",
"Just cut him/her off and say \"Fuck _____! We know! Shit.\" . . . oh you said politely. Just don't use the words \"fuck\" or \"shit\".",
"If you listen closely people rarely use the exact same details, you could look for differences and then ask them about them, and ask if it really happened.\n\nIf they really are the exact same details you could memorise the phrasing and talk along with them.\n\nIf it's particularly inane conversation you could suddenly make a turn for the serious.. \n-\"do you think suicide is okay in some cases?\" \n-\"have you ever had sexual thoughts that you found disturbing?\" \n-\"I like you, you don't need to impress me with these stories. Is there anything troubling you? Let's make our relationship deeper.\"",
"If its a funny story start laughing as they tell the first few details, relative to the funniness level of the story. They'll appreciate the support and know you've heard it already",
"I would bring it up to him in a conversation \"Hey, that time that you did XYZ, did you get nervous?\". They'll remember you asking in the future. Guess it might only work for certain types of stories.",
"I work in dozens of offices in a bunch of different countries, hanging out with a huge number of co-workers over the course of a year. \n\nIt's almost impossible to remember who I told which anecdote to, so I tell people outright to stop me if I repeat a story. ",
"I usually interject with \"Like the time when...\" or \"Oh, you mean the one...\" This reminds them that you know the ending without making it immediately obvious that you are disinterested.",
"I usually end up calling them out, either by telling them that I've already heard this story X times, or I end up finishing the story for them.\n \nDick move? Maybe.\n \nEffective? Definitely.",
"I start holding up fingers. After the about the third time of me doing this, he asked what the meaning was. I explained that It was the Xth time I heard a certain story, so I held up X fingers. While we're talking he'll bring up something again and I'll just hold up my hand to about shoulder height with a few fingers. The amount of times I say he's told it isn't always right, but it usually results in a short laugh and then we move on",
"I politely say \"yeah you were saying that\" as if to aknowledge the story and nicely let them know ive heard it. ",
"I like to \"guess\" what happens next until they either A.) think I'm psychic or B.) remember telling me. ",
"I let them repeat it, and stay attentive by listening for alterations to the tale. I haven't met anyone who repeats it to the degree of stopping them.",
"I have to admit it, I am a person that tends to repeat stories often. I don't mean to, just forgot who I told. \n\nA simple \"Dude, you already told me that.\" is acceptable to me. I'm not thin-skinned.",
"I have it worse - much worse (unless your name is Adam...). My boss (company owner) lives to tell stories. Everything reminds him of a story. And he tells the same ones over and over again, always cracking himself up hysterically - when they're not that funny (could also be a generational thing). \n\nWorse is when we have a meeting, it'll take about a minute for someone to say something that reminds him of a story - and off we go on a tangent. What should be a 10 minute meeting usually takes an hour. \n\nI think I heard 95% of the stories in my first 6 months. I've been here 8 years now....\n\nWelcome to my hell.",
"I have a friend who tells me the same stories over and over, if a new person walks into the room during the story he'll just restart from the beginning (a record 5 times). And it takes him many mins to relate a 30 second tale.\n\nHe'll then later tell you again and carries on even if you politely remind him you've heard it or even \"you told me that yesterday / 1 hour ago).\n\nAaaaargh!",
"I had an older coworker (in his 60's) who would tell the same stories, but would stall on names and take forever to remember them. When I started filling in the names for him, he never got the clue but at least the stories went faster. Most other coworkers would just walk off, which only worked for them cos I was too polite and would pretend not to ignore him while continuing working.",
"I had a coworker who was like that. Turns out he had the Aspergers pretty bad. I eventually ended up moving jobs because a) didn't have the heart to tell him to shut up and b) he was a tremendous Creed fan and would blast them on his 90's soft foam headphones on repeat all day long.",
"I always stop people by \"You told me about that\" or \"Oh oh i remember you telling me this\" or just the plain ol' \"Shut your face hole\"",
"I always forget that I've told a story. And it makes me furious with myself when I realize that I've retold it to the same person multiple times. \n\nPlease be patient but do tell them that you've heard it before. When that happens I tend to remember that instead of repeating the same thing a week or so later. ",
"I accidentally repeat stories a lot and really appreciate it when people stop me before I waste both our time. I even have one friend who will just interrupt and say 'Shut up Haddady!'. Short simple effective. \nWarning: only to be used with close friends.",
"Haha I had a coworker that used to do this, and I really like the way my other coworker handled it. It was a little dickish but hilarious. He would be like \"I'm gonna call that one 'Story B'\" and then when he heard it again he'd be like \"Oh is it Story B time again?\"",
"Exact same details? Exactly? I would come to the conclusion that his stories are actually made up and probably never happened.",
"Enthusiastically Jump in and tell the story for them. Chances are they have a memory problem and even if you tell them you heard it before they won't remember and tell you again tomorrow. ",
"Dude just go with it. Try and steer them clear when you get a chance, but it'll never end. I have a coworker who is the coolest person ever but she can be so incredibly annoying like that. She will tell me stories that happened to me and even when I go \"I was literally there, that happened to me\", she will continue the story and it's not like there's a third party there who hasn't heard it yet, it's just the two of us. Or the other people have already heard it 12 times. ",
"Coworker Jerry: \"That's like the time my friend lost his false teeth on a fence post....we were backpacking through rural Kansas, and I saw this Amish Dwarf giving giving a blow-\"\n\nYou: Hey Jerry, I have an idea....How about you SHUT THE FUCK UP!\n\nProblem Solved....You're welcome.",
"Blowdarts laced with an enzymatically modified derivative of the blowfish's \"fugu\" toxin, customized for rapid breakdown and untraceability.",
"Ask him, \"How am I not myself?\"\n\nReference, *I Heart Huckabees*: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIWtKKnnV0g (sorry for the shitty quality)",
"Ask him bizarre questions about it. See how weird the questions have to be before he addresses it in his re-telling. \"so we walk into the waffle house, and no, not the one where the stillborn werewolf thing happened.\"",
"1. Don't be passive and be polite when telling him you already heard that story.\n2. If it's not your conversation, don't butt in.",
"'Ohhh yeah, I remember you mentioning that before, with the ... / when you ...'\n\nIs it really that hard?",
"\"Oh, yeah. You told me. Damn, [a comment about what happened in the story].\" They'll usually just summarize it then.",
"just join in with what this person is saying so when they say, 'and i jumped on the table' you say it with them and slightly laugh and smirk",
"Finish the first sentence, then take over telling the story. Add a part about a Unicorn barfing sparkles and farting rainbows.",
"This is a good example of what wouldn't be a life pro tip. LPT's help you \"improve your life in a meaningful way.\"",
"Yell at him: \"YES, STEVE! WE KNOW! YOU ALREADY TOLD THAT STORY!!!!\". Then proceed to stare at him with wide open eyes until he leaves the room.\n\nHe will never do it again.",
"And this is the straw that finally broke the camel's back. This sub has deteriorated to the point of being worthless, so I'm unsubscribing.\n\nIt was nice knowing you! Well, some of you..."
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"Love a girl, can't approach I love a girl in my office which I recently joined, she also joined alongside me. We both ignore each other for some reason or the other, none of us seem to approach one another for a convo. But we do have small talks when we are in a group. She is a bit reserved & keeps everything to herself but her cuteness is just too overpowering. How do I start a conversation with her so that I can at least be good friends? ",
"Love a girl, can't approach I love a girl in my office which I recently joined, she also joined alongside me. We both ignore each other for some reason or the other, none of us seem to approach one another for a convo. But we do have small talks when we are in a group. She is a bit reserved & keeps everything to herself but her cuteness is just too overpowering. How do I start a conversation with her so that I can at least be good friends? ",
"Love a girl, can't approach I love a girl in my office which I recently joined, she also joined alongside me. We both ignore each other for some reason or the other, none of us seem to approach one another for a convo. But we do have small talks when we are in a group. She is a bit reserved & keeps everything to herself but her cuteness is just too overpowering. How do I start a conversation with her so that I can at least be good friends? "
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"yea man sounds like you have a crush on someone. Good for you! Be respectful since you are coworkers (actually just be respectful because you are two human beings on this planet). Get to know her just like you would get to know anyone else you are interested in meeting and maybe she feels the same way. Good luck, don't be a freak. ",
"if you want any chance with her\n\n1) you knock her off the virtual pedestal you created, and remember that she poops too\n2) you talk to her like with anyone else\n3) if you still think you're a good match, and want to shit where you eat, then invite to her to someplace outside of work\n\nbetter do this ASAP, before your thoughts and fear take you away\n\nP.S, if you go friend first route, you'll be friendzoned :\\",
"First of all: /r/relationships \n\nSecondly: which do you want to be to her: friend or significant other? Pick one.\n\nIf you approach her as just wanting to be her friend, she'll take you at your word for it. And that is what you'll become.\n\nGetting out of the FriendZone is - given that you cannot even talk to her because she assaults you with her cuteness - more effort than I think you are prepared for. It is certainly much harder than talking to her privately.",
"> We both ignore each other for some reason or the other\n\nWell you at least know why *you* are ignoring *her*. I mean this in all respect, grow a pair. From my omniscient, Olympian viewpoint you don't sound like you are mature enough for an adult relationship. But don't let that stop you! The only way you get mature enough is to try, fail, try, fail, try, succeed, fail,.... "
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"How to use your time more efficiently Long story short: How do I get more productive, how can I make better use of my time?",
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"Don't know how this hasn't been written yet, but buy GTD and apply every possible element of the book that you can. The newest version just came out in March after 17 years of absolute success. The new version is the one you want. It was written for our modern world of smartphones and extreme tech gadgets. \n\nGetting Things Done. \n\n",
"Make notes,lists and memos!\nFind a hobby, something you look forward to. Fitness is the best \"hobby\" in my opinion. You can teach yourself to count calories, mind muscle connection and how your body actually works! It's beneficial in the long run as it helps you self motivate and when you see results it's the best feeling :D ",
"Each morning, make a mental review of everything you need or want to get done that day. Focus on these objectives. Stay off the Interwebs and do not watch TV. Good luck!",
"Big thing is RescueTime.\n\nIt records where you spend your time when on your computer or phone.\n\nThen you gotta think what do you want to make time for? Is it really worth it? Will I go insane if I cut reddit time?\n\nThen do anything to make lasting change. It's OK if you don't follow peoples advice exactly. Most important thing is to sustain a change in lifestyle long-term.\n\n Do everything in your power to keep the new habit going day-by-day even if that means, for example, rewarding yourself with a donut after jogging. If that's what it takes to keep jogging consistently then do it."
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"What should you do if you find a lost bird / baby bird? I recently found a baby bird outside my house. There was no best in sight and the bird appeared to have a damaged right wing, since it was having difficulty flying away / around. What should I do to feed and care for the bird until proper care can be provided?\n\n",
"What should you do if you find a lost bird / baby bird? I recently found a baby bird outside my house. There was no best in sight and the bird appeared to have a damaged right wing, since it was having difficulty flying away / around. What should I do to feed and care for the bird until proper care can be provided?\n\n",
"What should you do if you find a lost bird / baby bird? I recently found a baby bird outside my house. There was no best in sight and the bird appeared to have a damaged right wing, since it was having difficulty flying away / around. What should I do to feed and care for the bird until proper care can be provided?\n\n",
"What should you do if you find a lost bird / baby bird? I recently found a baby bird outside my house. There was no best in sight and the bird appeared to have a damaged right wing, since it was having difficulty flying away / around. What should I do to feed and care for the bird until proper care can be provided?\n\n",
"What should you do if you find a lost bird / baby bird? I recently found a baby bird outside my house. There was no best in sight and the bird appeared to have a damaged right wing, since it was having difficulty flying away / around. What should I do to feed and care for the bird until proper care can be provided?\n\n",
"What should you do if you find a lost bird / baby bird? I recently found a baby bird outside my house. There was no best in sight and the bird appeared to have a damaged right wing, since it was having difficulty flying away / around. What should I do to feed and care for the bird until proper care can be provided?\n\n"
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"I live on the edge of a bird sanctuary and was told the mother bird won't come back for the baby, whether you touch it or not. If you want to save it, take it in until you can take it to a vet or wildlife sanctuary. Walmart and most other grocery stores have baby animal syringes and also baby bird food you mix with water to feed them. Look up YouTube videos on how to feed it. Don't get your hopes up too high though, usually the stress of being injured alone will take the bird out, nevermind any actual injuries :-( Good luck OP! I hope everything goes OK! \nSource: saved many baby birds, saw many baby birds die even without physical injuries :-( ",
"Call your local wildlife center! Every county has one, it's similar to animal control and they do their best to rehabilitate and release the animal once it's ready! They will give you temporary instructions and ask you to drop off the bird/animal. They take injured, orphaned, or sick animals native to the area. (Ex: you can bring them a baby bird you found, but don't expect them to take in your local stray dog.)\n\nhttp://www.wildlifecenteroftexas.org\n\nThis is the one in my local area I volunteer at!",
"It is illegal to keep a wild baby bird without a license. That being said:\n\nThey must eat every 15-20 min. For twelve hours a day\nIt is difficult. Wait till they chirp and insert syringe with ground up oatmeal and water or if you can get to any, canned cat/ dog food or meal/ blood worms. Your local aquarium/ pet store will have them for around 5-10 dollars a pack\n\nKeep them in a warm padded place: tissue box with torn up tissue. Place a warm water bottle or microwaved towel against or underneath\n\nThey will sleep through the night. Phew!\n\nCall your local wildlife rescue and they'll take it from there\n\n\n",
"I work at a park and we get this call all the time. We usually recommend leaving the bird near or in the nest if you can reach it. The mama bird will still take care of the baby after you've touched it. If you can't find a nest call either animal control or a local rescue center. ",
" \nLook out if you see birds patrolling for a longer time. \n\nI found myself in this situation once. I was just about to call animal control when I saw two birds guarding the bird from a distance. \n",
"Don't touch it, because if the mother bird comes and finds it, but it finds the smell of your hands on it, it will leave it alone. So my advice is to leave it there. "
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"Making friends over internet I want to make new friends over the internet, via facebook etc. But the thing is how do you cold-text anyone. What is the best way to start a conversation online with someone you haven't met and in all probability dont even know?",
"Making friends over internet I want to make new friends over the internet, via facebook etc. But the thing is how do you cold-text anyone. What is the best way to start a conversation online with someone you haven't met and in all probability dont even know?",
"Making friends over internet I want to make new friends over the internet, via facebook etc. But the thing is how do you cold-text anyone. What is the best way to start a conversation online with someone you haven't met and in all probability dont even know?",
"Making friends over internet I want to make new friends over the internet, via facebook etc. But the thing is how do you cold-text anyone. What is the best way to start a conversation online with someone you haven't met and in all probability dont even know?"
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"Twitter is good for finding people interested in a paticular topic since it is default public.\n\nFind some people talking about things you like, see who they follow and see if any of those people are cool in your eyes.\n\nFollow them and participate in thier nonsense.",
"Just try reaching out to various people. Some people are quite open to talking to newcomers. Some people aren't so cool with it. \n\nYou only stand to lose a couple of minutes of your time.",
"I agree it's tough. Most people tend to just end up being short convo about one topic and nothing more and it turns into a brief online encounter rather than a friendship forming. I prefer to have online friends I can talk with and be random with as though I would be in person. I'm more open online than I am in person too. I don't use Facebook but I do use Instagram. PM me if you use IG, send me your s/n and I'll send a follow request. We can be friends on here too! :) ",
"Find some groups that you are interested in. Most cities have Facebook groups for things like hiking, music, selling furniture, and so on. You can post on these groups and see if people want to meet up."
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"Negotiating with cable/internet companies to lower your bill. I have literally no other options in my ara for internet. I'm paying $60 right now for 30/5 but I know I can get it cheaper for the company. They know I have no other option.",
"Negotiating with cable/internet companies to lower your bill. I have literally no other options in my ara for internet. I'm paying $60 right now for 30/5 but I know I can get it cheaper for the company. They know I have no other option.",
"Negotiating with cable/internet companies to lower your bill. I have literally no other options in my ara for internet. I'm paying $60 right now for 30/5 but I know I can get it cheaper for the company. They know I have no other option.",
"Negotiating with cable/internet companies to lower your bill. I have literally no other options in my ara for internet. I'm paying $60 right now for 30/5 but I know I can get it cheaper for the company. They know I have no other option.",
"Negotiating with cable/internet companies to lower your bill. I have literally no other options in my ara for internet. I'm paying $60 right now for 30/5 but I know I can get it cheaper for the company. They know I have no other option.",
"Negotiating with cable/internet companies to lower your bill. I have literally no other options in my ara for internet. I'm paying $60 right now for 30/5 but I know I can get it cheaper for the company. They know I have no other option.",
"Negotiating with cable/internet companies to lower your bill. I have literally no other options in my ara for internet. I'm paying $60 right now for 30/5 but I know I can get it cheaper for the company. They know I have no other option."
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"I was recently able to lower my bill. Still ended up canceling because fuck the $190 bill. This method works best if your contract/promotional period has ended. \n\n[Proof of cancellation and refund check](http://imgur.com/8AzJsWQ)\n\nYou're gonna have to try to cancel your service in order to get the biggest discount:\n\n1. Do some homework. See what other services are available in your area, even if they are terrible and you don't want them. Write down their costs. Make sure you find something that's cheaper than Comcast so you can use it as a convincing point.\n\n2. Greet the tech representative by his/her name. They tell you their name when they answer the call. Use their name once or twice during the conversation. When you use their name, they are more likely to help you. It's a human thing :)\n\n3. They will ask you to verify that you are calling to cancel the service. Verify that but do not talk about the reason why, yet.\n\n4. They will ask the reason for cancellation. Calmly and politely tell them you found a cheaper service in your area. That's it. If they are in position to give you discount (sometimes they can't), they will ask what the other service is so they can try to convince you that theirs is better. This is when you need to have that piece of paper with competitor pricing. Tech rep will tell you \"but our internet is faster and it spawns unicorns inside rainbows\" and blah, tell them it is good but the price is more important for you. Do not be too loud or aggressive. Don't sound like one of those people who are fucking sick and tired and just want to cancel. You actually want to seem \"vulnerable\" and \"hesitant\" so they can try to keep you as a customer. That's exactly what you want!\n\n5. Mention that you've been their loyal costumer for quite a while now but the price is just too expensive. Mention that you are satisfied with their service and overall quality but you're canceling it because there are cheaper alternatives. It's straightforward and effective.\n\n6. If you sign into your Comcast account and see a message about some \"insider loyal customer\" stuff, mention the rep to check if that can give you a discount. They may or may not agree. It entirely depends on whether they are allowed to give you big discounts or not. This whole \"loyal customer\" thing is a big fugazzi that they pull on you to convince you how much they love ~~you~~ your money, so now it's your time for you to pull the same fugazzi on them.\n\n6. Mention that you noticed on their website the same service for a much cheaper price. They will tell you that it's a promotional price for new customers. Ask them if your account qualifies for a similar deal.\n\n7. If you're willing to sign a 2 year contract, ask them if there is an extra discount for signing a new 2 year contract.\n\n8. If they offer you something you don't like, tell them you need to discuss that with your spouse and wish them a good day, then hang up after they thank you for calling. Don't let them actually cancel the service. Call the next day and try the same with another tech rep. Don't do this more than twice. You don't want them to leave a note on your account lol.\n\nNo BS. They offered me $20/mo discount but I ended up canceling it.",
"I currently have Time Warner. After the promotion ended they offered me another deal, not as good as the promotional price but worth it. Depending on your location and internet provider.",
"Say you want to cancel. That is the magic word! \"Cancel\" The retentions dept. will try everything to keep you...\n\nAlso, if you try swearing it might work too",
"Just ask them if any promotions are available because you are finding the price too high for the quality of service you are receiving. If you know somebody who is paying less, mention that. If you have never paid your bill late for years, mention that too. Just be nice and ask nicely and maybe they will work with you.",
"I would also like to know the best way to go about this, although there are more options in my area.\n\nThat being said your price is way cheaper than mine. I paid $60 for 10/1 at both companies I've had. ",
"I have downgraded to just an internet connection. If you pair that with a VPN it's enough to get everything you want.\n\nI make sure to go on month to month payments, nothing automatic.\n\nWhen the promo rate runs out I pack up the modem and take it to the TWC store and tell them I can't afford it. If they take it back I wait a week and restart service on their \"new customer\" plan. If they negotiate they'll usually restore the rate and maybe even up the speed.\n\nThey key is you're going to have to take the chance that the rep may just go ahead and take the modem back and cancel it.",
"Call the company you're with and tell them \"[rival company] offered me a a deal at [price you want to pay], if you can't at least match their offer, i'm moving to them\". There's a chance they'll tell you to fuck off and move to the other company, but there's also a chance they'll actually offer you a better deal. It's not as if by threatening to leave you become obliged to leave."
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"How do you talk to a grouping of people while commanding everyone's attention? To clarify, I have no issues talking to large crowds or an audience. I wait tables and have worked retail so I can talk to strangers easily. What I'm specifically asking for a LPT for; is when you're with a handful of people (let's say 5) how do you participate in a casual or any type of conversation and getting everyone's attention?\n\nOften times I feel like my timing is bad, or my contribution to a conversation in a group ends up me splintering the talks and then 1 or 2 people talk or listen to me on the side.",
"How do you talk to a grouping of people while commanding everyone's attention? To clarify, I have no issues talking to large crowds or an audience. I wait tables and have worked retail so I can talk to strangers easily. What I'm specifically asking for a LPT for; is when you're with a handful of people (let's say 5) how do you participate in a casual or any type of conversation and getting everyone's attention?\n\nOften times I feel like my timing is bad, or my contribution to a conversation in a group ends up me splintering the talks and then 1 or 2 people talk or listen to me on the side."
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"The splintering into smaller groups is normal, every once in a while people will check in and see what others are talking about, then everyone may join in on that topic which will lead to more splinter groups, and so on. \n\n5 of us went to a microbrewery last night, and this exact thing happened. It never felt uncomfortable. What would have felt weird would have been if the 3 Dutch people started speaking Dutch exclusively, leaving the two Americans to fend for themselves.",
"Sometimes it helps to add something to a conversation that is already happening with the group of 5 people or so. Starting a conversation and getting 4 people to listen to you can be a bit more challenging. "
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"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?",
"how to fix really itchy eyes I’ve been having verry very itchy eyes which secrete tears and my eyes look horrible when I wakeup. I try not to rub my eyes but it’s just too itchy to not. \n\nWhen I wake up, it’s crusty and the tears are kind of a thick substance. What should I do?"
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"It looks like the room you’re sleeping in is very dry. Having a humidifier helps. Also, if you have carpets, vacuum as there might be dust that absorbs moisture in the air. \n\nIf you still have an issue, please see the doctor. You might be recommended some form of an eye solution.",
"It sounds weird, but wash your eyes with baby shampoo every time you shower. An ophthalmologist recommended it to me years ago, and it works like a charm.",
"Zaditor!!!! I had itchy eyes as long as I can remember!!. From spring till the first frost of fall! Miserable!! Couldn't wait for winter to come. Allergy meds didn't do anything. Medical Dr prescribed meds didn't do anything...\nOne day getting an eye exam from Eye Dr, he asked if I had questions? I said yeah .. why are my eyes so blasted itchy, gooey, like sand is under my eyelids. He said oh... Use Zaditor (ketotifin).... Every day from spring till fall...Haven't had issues for past 15 years!!\n\nZyrtec didn't work... Oral Antihistamines didn't work.\nEye Dr said rubbing eyes causes the stuff that makes the eye itchy to actually increase. Horrible cycle.",
"This sounds a lot like pinkeye. This happened to me and I thought I suddenly developed allergies… pinkeye.\n\n",
"How old is your mattress? I wonder if you have irritants from years of build up becoming airborne when you sleep.",
"Have you tried allergy meds? Try zyrtec (cetirizine) before bed for at least a week. It works better if you've taken it for at least 3 consecutive nights. Don't try it once or twice. Try it for at least a week straight without skipping a night.",
"You have probably dry eye and allergies in your eyes. You can use over the counter eye lubricant and through the eye Dr they can give you a low cost eye drops for eye allergies.",
"Try washing your eyes with baby shampoo then heat a black tea bag in water and hold it to your eyes keep reheating it and apply until the water has cooled, the mild acid in the tea will help clear any mild infection",
"Itchy eyes ?\n\nProbably allergy\n\nTry olopatadine eye drops. Please don't use steroidal eye drops.\n\nIf your eyes are excessively crusty then you might be suffering from conjunctivitis, if that's the case it'll resolve on it's on.\nNo medication required."
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"How to be reminded daily of a schedule? I've made a hobby schedule, but I want to be reminded in a way that during Wednesdays it tells me you have to do: HobbyForWednesday and so and so... Is there any simple way to have the schedule in a place where I can be always checking on it? (Preferably digital)Thanks for your time :D",
"How to be reminded daily of a schedule? I've made a hobby schedule, but I want to be reminded in a way that during Wednesdays it tells me you have to do: HobbyForWednesday and so and so... Is there any simple way to have the schedule in a place where I can be always checking on it? (Preferably digital)Thanks for your time :D",
"How to be reminded daily of a schedule? I've made a hobby schedule, but I want to be reminded in a way that during Wednesdays it tells me you have to do: HobbyForWednesday and so and so... Is there any simple way to have the schedule in a place where I can be always checking on it? (Preferably digital)Thanks for your time :D"
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"Google calendar works well for me with repetitive daily reminders. It takes a bit of time to set it up initially but once that's done your golden.",
"Set it as an appointment in your phones calendar. You can set an alert for it and you can also set it as a recurring appointment. ",
"My preferred method would be to Simply open up your phones assistant (such as Google assistant) and say \"remind me every Monday hobby Monday.\" I find the notification that just gives a normal system ding and a persistent notification at the top of the phone to be unobtrusive, but still very useful."
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"How to get rid of a door ding? My mother just got a new car last week and already there is a black mark on the door from someone hitting it with their door. Is there anyway to get this off using household items? If not, are there any cheap products to remove it?",
"How to get rid of a door ding? My mother just got a new car last week and already there is a black mark on the door from someone hitting it with their door. Is there anyway to get this off using household items? If not, are there any cheap products to remove it?"
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"The dealership where she got her car usually will have a small spray bottle of the exact color of her car. This will take care of small marks. \n\nIf she bought her car within the last few months they will also possibly give it to her for free. ",
"Rubbing compound was what we always used. Not sure if they still make it though. Worth a shot! You can usually find it at a Wal-mart."
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"quality jeans that last a loooong time I'm sick of my jeans tearing so easily, especially when I pay a decent amount for them. What are a few different good brands that sell jeans that just last?",
"quality jeans that last a loooong time I'm sick of my jeans tearing so easily, especially when I pay a decent amount for them. What are a few different good brands that sell jeans that just last?",
"quality jeans that last a loooong time I'm sick of my jeans tearing so easily, especially when I pay a decent amount for them. What are a few different good brands that sell jeans that just last?",
"quality jeans that last a loooong time I'm sick of my jeans tearing so easily, especially when I pay a decent amount for them. What are a few different good brands that sell jeans that just last?",
"quality jeans that last a loooong time I'm sick of my jeans tearing so easily, especially when I pay a decent amount for them. What are a few different good brands that sell jeans that just last?"
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"I’ve had pretty good luck with Mavi jeans. They are about $100/pair. I’ve had the same 3 pairs for about 3 years with no rips despite them being made in thin soft denim. ",
"Can I get on board and ask the same question specifically for skinny (but not insanely tight) jeans with a little stretch to them?",
"My Patagonia jeans are amazing! Ive has them for 1 year+ and they look brand new. Excellent return policy, def size up though, they run small. ",
"Ive got some hilfiger ones that are my work/flying jeans that are lasting really well, plus payed £7 For them at tkmax which helps or i would have never bought them",
"I bought some Costco own jeans for work at around $10. They have a litttle bit of stretch and have lasted me over 4 years. They look great, and have outlasted Levis and hilfigers despite me using them all week."
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"Suit in a gym locker Gym after work while wearing a suit... does anyone have a method for this? Either I bring a hanger with me then spend 10 minutes to take everything out of pockets, undo belt etc and hang up in tiny locker or I try to neatly fold everything and risk the wrinkles and sloppy look after... ",
"Suit in a gym locker Gym after work while wearing a suit... does anyone have a method for this? Either I bring a hanger with me then spend 10 minutes to take everything out of pockets, undo belt etc and hang up in tiny locker or I try to neatly fold everything and risk the wrinkles and sloppy look after... ",
"Suit in a gym locker Gym after work while wearing a suit... does anyone have a method for this? Either I bring a hanger with me then spend 10 minutes to take everything out of pockets, undo belt etc and hang up in tiny locker or I try to neatly fold everything and risk the wrinkles and sloppy look after... ",
"Suit in a gym locker Gym after work while wearing a suit... does anyone have a method for this? Either I bring a hanger with me then spend 10 minutes to take everything out of pockets, undo belt etc and hang up in tiny locker or I try to neatly fold everything and risk the wrinkles and sloppy look after... "
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"Well, you could bring a hanger with you. but instead of trying to hand it up in the small lockers, you can hang it up in the back seat of your car. Like when you pick your suit up from the cleaners. Since you're working out after work you wont need to put it back on. ",
"Not sure how feasible this is, but I think it is a pretty straightforward (and minimally inconvenient) solution.\n\n1. Change into gym clothes.\n2. Hang suit up in office.\n3. Go to gym.\n4. Work out.\n5. Shower.\n6. Change into street clothes (a clean set of casual clothes - easy to carry in gym bag).\n7. Go back to office.\n8. Change into suit.\n7. Ride public transportation home.",
"I would change at the office before going to the gym and then either wear my gym clothes home or - barring that - wear a set of casual/weekend clothes home that I'd worn in to the office that morning.\n\nNext morning, wear casual clothes into work. Change into suit at work. Keep suits at work. Repeat the process.\n\nWhile not a man, I'm pretty sure that is how all the office job dudes I know operate. I see many suits hanging by desks. Many.",
"I have found that cloths don't wrinkle as bad if they are rolled up. And it saves space. Hope it helps."
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"how to ask someone to speak more quietly I work in a busy department in a university. People have the right to speak in the hallways and common areas. However, there is one person who regularly sits outside my office and talks loudly. He simply talks way above regular indoor volume. It wouldn't be right of me to ask him to move away - he can speak there if he wishes. However, there's no way he needs to speak at that kind of volume in his discussions.\n\nI don't like \"you're yelling\" or \"inside voice\" or \"be quieter\" or anything like that. They all sound pretty patronizing. I don't want to be patronizing but he's almost yelling and it's frustrating.",
"how to ask someone to speak more quietly I work in a busy department in a university. People have the right to speak in the hallways and common areas. However, there is one person who regularly sits outside my office and talks loudly. He simply talks way above regular indoor volume. It wouldn't be right of me to ask him to move away - he can speak there if he wishes. However, there's no way he needs to speak at that kind of volume in his discussions.\n\nI don't like \"you're yelling\" or \"inside voice\" or \"be quieter\" or anything like that. They all sound pretty patronizing. I don't want to be patronizing but he's almost yelling and it's frustrating.",
"how to ask someone to speak more quietly I work in a busy department in a university. People have the right to speak in the hallways and common areas. However, there is one person who regularly sits outside my office and talks loudly. He simply talks way above regular indoor volume. It wouldn't be right of me to ask him to move away - he can speak there if he wishes. However, there's no way he needs to speak at that kind of volume in his discussions.\n\nI don't like \"you're yelling\" or \"inside voice\" or \"be quieter\" or anything like that. They all sound pretty patronizing. I don't want to be patronizing but he's almost yelling and it's frustrating.",
"how to ask someone to speak more quietly I work in a busy department in a university. People have the right to speak in the hallways and common areas. However, there is one person who regularly sits outside my office and talks loudly. He simply talks way above regular indoor volume. It wouldn't be right of me to ask him to move away - he can speak there if he wishes. However, there's no way he needs to speak at that kind of volume in his discussions.\n\nI don't like \"you're yelling\" or \"inside voice\" or \"be quieter\" or anything like that. They all sound pretty patronizing. I don't want to be patronizing but he's almost yelling and it's frustrating."
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"The only way to do it is to say \"would you mind speaking more quietly?\" As long as you don't try to explain or complain, it's a simple request and that's the end of it. Some people have extremely loud voices -- they're born that way. They probably get this a lot.",
"It is always tough when you find yourself in a situation like this. You just have to be honest. You should just tell him how it is. \"I really enjoy seeing you but we can hear you in our office and it is a little distracting. I don't want you to move or anything, but can you just lower your voice a little? Or if you are super non-confrontational you can use. \"Hey (insert name) these walls are really thin or the door lets sound in easily, and we can actually hear a lot of what goes on out here. Do you mind keeping it down a little?\" Hopefully one of those works. You could also be passive aggressive and put up a note where he usually talks.",
"Can you shut your door? I'm being serious. When I have talkers that stand outside my office, I'll make it a point to close my door when they're talking. They quickly realize they are being too loud and almost always move to another area of the office.\n\nI tried the \"can you be a little quieter\" and \"I'm having trouble hearing (when I'm on the phone)\", and it never worked for long, before they'd be right back at it. This method proved to work the best.",
"Just tell them to speak more quietly, you're trying to have a conversation on the phone and all you can hear is their conversation."
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"How to whiten towels and clothing with colored writing on them. I have some white towels with an orange monogram and a white sweatshirt with a blue screen printed word on the front that have gotten dingy from washing with colors ( I know, I know). Is there a way to bring the whiteness back while the colors stay intact?",
"How to whiten towels and clothing with colored writing on them. I have some white towels with an orange monogram and a white sweatshirt with a blue screen printed word on the front that have gotten dingy from washing with colors ( I know, I know). Is there a way to bring the whiteness back while the colors stay intact?"
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"Those oxy action laundry detergents work well for keeping whites white and not fucking up the colours. It's more expensive than regular laundry powder so keep it to just do your \"nice\" stuff if price is an issue",
"They make bleach-like products for colors now, should be in the same place in the store. You might want to try putting some vinegar in the wash first, though."
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"How do you handle anxieties from trying to get a job? My heart always feels weak and I feel worried about not being anywhere good enough whenever someone mentions to me to find a job. ",
"How do you handle anxieties from trying to get a job? My heart always feels weak and I feel worried about not being anywhere good enough whenever someone mentions to me to find a job. ",
"How do you handle anxieties from trying to get a job? My heart always feels weak and I feel worried about not being anywhere good enough whenever someone mentions to me to find a job. ",
"How do you handle anxieties from trying to get a job? My heart always feels weak and I feel worried about not being anywhere good enough whenever someone mentions to me to find a job. ",
"How do you handle anxieties from trying to get a job? My heart always feels weak and I feel worried about not being anywhere good enough whenever someone mentions to me to find a job. "
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"It's a matter of knowing what you yourself are worth, and understanding that this is your life—not anyone else's. Some people take longer to get into the workplace. That's fine. Everyone has their niche and some of us find what we are passionate about later. It's better to enjoy what you do instead of getting into something you despise. You're in for a whole different type of anxiety then. \n\nTl;dr, just remember what you're worth, and remember that things take time. I have faith in you OP. You'll find your place.",
"If you don't mind me asking OP, How old are you ? I only ask as i felt very similar to this as a teenager. The Confidence to get up and go was difficult, but i honestly feel throwing yourself in the deep end is the best way to deal with these anxieties. Is this your first job ? My first Job was a forklift driver and store assistant, I didn't think i could do something like that when i first set out on my job search. Now I work in IT as a Software Analyst. So believe me... you really can do anything, you honestly shouldn't worry about not being good enough, you are looking to learn and no one will slate you for trying. \n\nTl;dr, How old are you ? Is this your first job ? ",
"Whenever I'm in a situation like that I pretend to be playing a part in a play. Just pretend you have confidence. They don't know you so they won't know that's not how you normally act. I'm not talking about being totally obnoxious or overly boastful, but you can just act confident. Maybe sounds ridiculous but it works. It really does. You can practice before you go. ",
"Learn more about the process so u r more prepared and less scared. Pinterest has good advice on their boards ",
"Confidence, if you know you're better than other candidates for the job, why worry? Just go in and show off what you have, of course in a professional manner."
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"How to stop Raccoons from using my deck as a bathroom? I have a deck that leads off my main floor; it's a small deck that we rarely use but for some reason it's being used by raccoons as a toilet; it's disgusting and I've tried fencing off the deck but those little guys can climb anything.\n",
"How to stop Raccoons from using my deck as a bathroom? I have a deck that leads off my main floor; it's a small deck that we rarely use but for some reason it's being used by raccoons as a toilet; it's disgusting and I've tried fencing off the deck but those little guys can climb anything.\n",
"How to stop Raccoons from using my deck as a bathroom? I have a deck that leads off my main floor; it's a small deck that we rarely use but for some reason it's being used by raccoons as a toilet; it's disgusting and I've tried fencing off the deck but those little guys can climb anything.\n"
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"I had a fairly large squirrel population that decided to eat their way into my screen room. I started shooting them whenever I'd see one climbing on my screen. Here's the interesting part... after a few squirrel deaths the rest of them stopped bothering my house. There are more squirrels than ever now but we co-exist peacefully. I'd like to think the squirrels learned from the mistakes of their friends but I suspect I removed the squirrel population that carried the gene for screen room exploration and soffit consumption. \n\nDownvotes ahoy for shooting squirrels! ",
"What about fox or wolf urine? Just sprinkle a bit on the grass off ue deck, it shouldnt stink up the place.",
"Context:\n\nI live in a very large city (population > 5 million), it is estimated that there are > 2 million raccoons in the city, I do not have access to weaponry, and would be arrested if I killed any animal in the city. \n\nI am not going to trap a raccoon, and many are too large for the traps. \n\nI'm looking for deterrents, but not something that is akin to a maximum security prison.",
"Pretend you are a giant building owner who has vandal problems. What would you put on your fencing? \nBarbed wire coils are the way to go, other than pest removal."
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"How to tell if produce is good For example, what should a pear feel like when I squeeze it, a melon sound like when I knock? ",
"How to tell if produce is good For example, what should a pear feel like when I squeeze it, a melon sound like when I knock? ",
"How to tell if produce is good For example, what should a pear feel like when I squeeze it, a melon sound like when I knock? "
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"Produce manager here. Here's just a few of the top items...if there's anything in particular you're wondering about that hasn't been mentioned in the thread, ask away!\n\nMelons: Large watermelons are tricky. I go off of feel. Hold it in one hand, and use the other hand to slap it, it should feel like you're hitting a bag of water. If it does, it's usually good. If it feels like you're hitting a wall, it isn't good. I'd prefer to buy the mini personal ones (from Dulcinea) because those are sweeter than the large ones, even when the large are in peak season. The personal watermelons are easy to pick. Press on it, the harder it is, the better it is. If there's any give to it, it's starting to go south.\nCantaloupes go off of color and smell. When they have a green tint, they need a day or two. Also, you should be able to smell the fruit. \nOrange flesh melons are cool because they look like a honeydew from the outside, but inside they're orange like a cantaloupe!\n\nAvocados: soft but slightly firm is perfect..too soft or \"pockets\" in spots means its over-ripe or was dropped/damaged so don't waste your money. \n\nPears: Bartlett pears should be more yellow but no cuts/bruises. Also squeeze the neck of it (right under the stem) and it should have a little give to it. Same goes with Bosc. \n\nSoft fruit: simple, a little give with no molding/bruising/cuts/fruit flies. If you buy them hard, stick them in a brown bag and roll the top down. This will seal in the ethylene gas (promotes ripening) and help the fruit ripen faster. This trick works with any ripening fruit. If you throw a banana in the bag as well, it will ripen even faster since bananas release the most. Just be sure to keep an eye on it!\n\nApples: no bruising or cuts. All (US domestic) apples are harvested in the fall and then stored. So the apples you buy now are from last fall. Once the supply dwindles, you'll see imported ones, but they usually come in bruised. The new crop is actually starting now so were seeing Washington grown Fuiji and Galas already!\n\nPineapple: doesn't ripen. From the time it's cut, you have approximately 7-10 days to eat it. Given shipping time, you'll have less than that. Go off of color. The more yellow the skin is (not brown/black, but yellow) the sweeter it will be. Pulling the leaves doesn't really mean much. Also, being able to smell the pineapple aroma is a good sign. (Tip: twist off the top and set upside down for a few hours before cutting to let the juices flow throughout the fruit. An old pineapple grower told me that. I haven't tried it so I can't confirm, but it makes you look like you're a pro) \n\nLettuce: not wilted. If the butt of it is red, it's okay. So long as the leaves aren't wilted and red and damaged. You can cut the butt off and let soak in lukewarm water for about 5-10 minutes, then put in your fridge. The lettuce will absorb the water, seal it in there, and will be crispy again! Also works for broccoli, bunch carrots, Asian veggies and more!",
"I work in the Produce department in Stop n Shop and here are some tips:\n\nIf it's soft it usually means it's ripe. However, if it's squishy and bruised it's bad. Peaches are a really good example of this. A soft peach is good to eat that day or the next. If there is one spot that is so soft you can poke your finger through it then it's not good. \n\nThere is some produce like bananas and berries that are easily noticeable when they are bad (bananas develop too many brown spots and berries get this cob web like stuff around it). Avocados are more difficult because when they are black they are ready to eat, but sometimes they are too soft and nasty.\n\nAnother thing, when produce develops brown coloring that's usually a bad sign. Only really when there is a lot of it though because a banana can have a couple brown spots, but still be edible.\n\nWhen potatoes and onions turn more green that's a big no no especially for children. Potatoes can also grow these weird sprouts that look like tiny cacti which means it's totally nasty (although really cool to look at). Red potatoes get these tiny black dents which means they're not good.\n\nIf you knock on a watermelon and it makes a hollow sound it's ready to eat. Look and smell the bottom of pineapples to see if they're good or not. It's sometimes too late to tell if a pineapple is bad because it takes longer to decolor than most fruit.\n\nIf you find mushrooms that are too wrinkly and/or sprout some weird webbing that's bad too.",
"A lot of things you can tell just by looking and feeling. Anything wilting or with obvious bruise or dark spots should be avoided. Aside from that, it's going to depend on the particular produce. Avacados have a little spot on one end you can check the color on to tell, for example--that doesn't work with anything else I'm aware of. You really need to look up a specific fruit or vegetable you're interested in buying to see how to tell whether it's good or not."
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"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated.",
"How to make friends in your thirties Quick backstory:\n\nI've always been kind of a 'weird' guy, ever since I was a kid. I never really made friends easily or had many, just a few over the years who are long gone from my life. I had a troubled youth, spent some years in various facilities, lost touch with all of my old friends. I moved to the city, got pretty heavy into drugs for a while, then met the woman who is now my wife of 10 years. We got married in my mid-twenties, she got pregnant 4 months into the marriage, and I immediately got off hard drugs and began focusing on being a father. I've been a stay at home dad for 8 years now, I've had only a couple part-time jobs during this span of time. I spend most of my time at home with my children, or running errands. I'm hardly ever in a situation where I could meet a new person, let alone someone I could forge a friendship with. I love my wife and kids, but my family alone isn't enough for me, I want to feel that friendship connection with someone. It's so fucking awkward at my age. (Have you seen 'I love you, man'?)\n\nAnyway, aside from my age and situation, I'm just a super awkward guy, I have severe social anxiety and currently un(der)medicated bipolar disorder. I've thought about trying to make friends at events revolving around my interests (comedy mostly), but the anxiety makes it incredibly difficult to approach anyone, and the idea that I'm trying to find a friend to alleviate my loneliness, just adds pressure and makes it all feel borderline creepy. I just feel like my life is (and has been) missing something that I'm finding more and more is actually terribly important. Any help is greatly appreciated."
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"Coach (or be a co-coach) a sports team for your kids - great way to meet other parents. Volunteer at kids' school, go to school board meetings, pick an ongoing mutual interest group (running, crochet, fishing, anything) and just show up. Don't be needy, don't tell people you are looking for friends. Just be yourself.",
"It might be easier to go out with your wife and try to find other couples to hang out with. Once you've made friends with another couple, it will lead to the guys doing something together and the wives doing something else. \n\nOr take your kids to events and meet other parents. The kids want a play date, hey maybe the dads can hang out and watch the game or play some video games, while the kids play. ",
"I would like a more refined \"How to make friends in your thirties when you hate people.\"\n\nForever alone.",
"Well, it's implied that you've become a 'househusband' due to your social anxiety. Otherwise, I would advise you or anyone to stay far away from ever becoming a stay-at-home-dad, since it's obviously a recipe for disaster in terms of social life, self-esteem, career and gender roles. \nIt's sort of a golden cage situation, meaning that it can seem deceptively idyllic while you're at home with your family -- making it much harder to break out of it. \nEven with the issues you're openly writing about, I'd suggest that you gradually work on ending this househusband situation for good. \nThere's a world out there (with dozens of potential friends!), and being in your mid thirties, you're still quite young by most standards. Good luck.",
"I've been putting in a lot of effort to making friends lately myself. I built a cornhole board, picked up a set of discs for disc golf and always have a few extra beers chilled down. Then i went out of my way to say hi to the neighbors and get to know them a bit, got their phone numbers. I now text them every so often to invite them over for beers and yard games.\n\nit's great.",
"Find a hobby that involves interacting with other people. Find classes in that hobby. This will plug you in with individuals who have at least one common interest. ",
"I love you, man is like my favorite movie ever. My advice would be to find a hobby or side activity first. Then find some people who are also into that particular activity. ",
"You need a hobby. Everyone does. I cant tell you how many people ive met through skateboarding or rock climbing, or martial arts. Those are my things, theres stuff out there for you, too.",
"Play video games. seriously. you'll meet plenty of people online who live in your city. People are making friends right now playing Pokèmon GO. Not into gaming? find out if there are any poker tournaments, magic the gathering ... gatherings, or if you're really nerdy, AD&D sessions",
"May be take a random class at a close by community college? You can go for anything - art/photoshop/language. \nOR \nI also meet people at coffee shops ( esp if I'm doing some school work) and people ask me what I'm studying.\n\n",
"1.Buy a motorcycle easy way to make friends we're a community that gets along with each other \n\n2. Smoke weed with people, also a easy way to make friends "
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"How do you organize photos efficiently? I always struggle with this\n\nso how do you organize photos from your camera?\n\nI always have redundant photos everywhere.\n\nI tried picasa, flickr, dropbox + carosel,google photos, I don't know, none of these sit well with me. I use an android phone\n \nI'm trying to dump my photos straight into my blogsite i'm writing, is there a fast easy way of doing that ( I use wordpress)\n\nAlso, if I'm writing a report to my boss in microsoft word and would like to use photos i got from travels (I research competition), how can I do this effectively? How do I organize all my photos from travel all at once?\n\nDo I like organize the photo right then and there? When I get home? Or a little of both?\n\n\nthis seemed to be the right thread, not r/photography or /r/productivity in my opinion.\n",
"How do you organize photos efficiently? I always struggle with this\n\nso how do you organize photos from your camera?\n\nI always have redundant photos everywhere.\n\nI tried picasa, flickr, dropbox + carosel,google photos, I don't know, none of these sit well with me. I use an android phone\n \nI'm trying to dump my photos straight into my blogsite i'm writing, is there a fast easy way of doing that ( I use wordpress)\n\nAlso, if I'm writing a report to my boss in microsoft word and would like to use photos i got from travels (I research competition), how can I do this effectively? How do I organize all my photos from travel all at once?\n\nDo I like organize the photo right then and there? When I get home? Or a little of both?\n\n\nthis seemed to be the right thread, not r/photography or /r/productivity in my opinion.\n"
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"I plug my phone into my computer and organize my photos manually. It's not that fast, but you have full control over it.",
"I just unload my pictures myself. My system is pretty simple. Have a folder with the year. Then have individual folders of specific categories. Kids school year, little league, Christmas, birthdays, etc. Or if they're just random pictures of the kids, I would have an individual folder with the kids name on it. And add it into there. \n\nThis way, I have everything by year, then by activities and person. Nothing ground breaking but in this technological world, I don't have any real photobooks compared to the 80's-90's."
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"Effective ways to capture and kill wasps/bees? I would like to find a bee catcher [Ex.](http://www.pestbegone.net/products/j-3.htm) that is effective or any home fixes that keep bee and wasps populations down around my yard.",
"Effective ways to capture and kill wasps/bees? I would like to find a bee catcher [Ex.](http://www.pestbegone.net/products/j-3.htm) that is effective or any home fixes that keep bee and wasps populations down around my yard.",
"Effective ways to capture and kill wasps/bees? I would like to find a bee catcher [Ex.](http://www.pestbegone.net/products/j-3.htm) that is effective or any home fixes that keep bee and wasps populations down around my yard.",
"Effective ways to capture and kill wasps/bees? I would like to find a bee catcher [Ex.](http://www.pestbegone.net/products/j-3.htm) that is effective or any home fixes that keep bee and wasps populations down around my yard.",
"Effective ways to capture and kill wasps/bees? I would like to find a bee catcher [Ex.](http://www.pestbegone.net/products/j-3.htm) that is effective or any home fixes that keep bee and wasps populations down around my yard."
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"Please don't trap or kill [honeybees](http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/d/d9/Apis_mellifera_Tanzania.jpg). They're aren't aggressive and are necessary pollinators for all kinds of wonderful plants.\n\n[Wasps](http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/1/1a/Wasp_colony.jpg) and [hornets](http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/d/db/Vespa_crabro_germana_with_prey_Richard_Bartz_Crop.jpg), though? Even fire is too good for them.",
"The no chemical way:\n\n* For hornets/wasps: find the nest, smoke the nest (I use a bee smoker that beekeepers use), get rid of the nest. You might need to repeat this a few times. \n\n* Don't kill honeybees",
"You can make a waspcatcher with a simple sodabottle. It works the same as the ones you buy in the store only cheaper. Also comes in handy when you are on a picknick.\n\nhttp://www.persistenceunlimited.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/fly-trap.gif \n\nThis is a good illustration, for actual liquid you could just use undilluted lemonade or other sweet stuff (sugar, fruits)\n\nAnother more drastic measure is using brakecleaner, if you spray that on a wasp they instantly die. But you would have to spray yourself",
"Kerosene is the fastest working, cheapest, and most effective things to kill insects. One splash will kill a whole nest.",
"Go to ace or hardware. They have catchers. Put a little piece of meat in it and that bad boy will fill up quickly. We use it at camping all the time"
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"How could I increase my attention to details? Hello and thank you for reading this.\n\n\nI have this huge problem which does serious harm to my professional career. First, a bit about myself and why it is important to me.\n\n\nI am working as a tax lawyer in one of the BIG4 companies (basically an audit company, but we provide all sorts of services). Usually what I do is tax due diligence, tax structuring and whatever else you can think of related with tax. Often times I have to write reports of 60 pages and more. I do pretty well and everything is alright, but I make critical mistakes quite often which prevents me to moving on to senior consultant/associate position.\n\n\nNow, about them critical mistakes. Very often I will:\n\n•\tMisspell or mistype a word;\n\n•\tHave a totally random letter or word somewhere which remained there because of the copying/pasting or rewriting something;\n\n•\tAfter manager’s review, I will for sure not include a few managers’ comments or little amendments.\n\n\nYou can think that it is not a big deal, but the thing is that because of the above, I cannot be the last person who reviews final reports which has to be delivered to the client. Also, the amount of above mentioned mistakes is immense.\n\n\nSo, I cannot move on to senior position and it drives me crazy. Until now I have tried:\n\n•\tWorking with earbuds (those that cancels outside noise, not for music);\n\n•\tExercising more (I am serious! WikiHow tip. I do workout quite a lot, though);\n\n•\tNo multitasking (It looks like it has no effect on me);\n\n•\tPrinting the report and proof-reading it (rather than reading on screen).\n\n\nNothing seems to help me.\n\n\nThus, at this time of need I reach out to Reddit’s community, hoping for your help.\n\n\n(Not a native English speaker).\n",
"How could I increase my attention to details? Hello and thank you for reading this.\n\n\nI have this huge problem which does serious harm to my professional career. First, a bit about myself and why it is important to me.\n\n\nI am working as a tax lawyer in one of the BIG4 companies (basically an audit company, but we provide all sorts of services). Usually what I do is tax due diligence, tax structuring and whatever else you can think of related with tax. Often times I have to write reports of 60 pages and more. I do pretty well and everything is alright, but I make critical mistakes quite often which prevents me to moving on to senior consultant/associate position.\n\n\nNow, about them critical mistakes. Very often I will:\n\n•\tMisspell or mistype a word;\n\n•\tHave a totally random letter or word somewhere which remained there because of the copying/pasting or rewriting something;\n\n•\tAfter manager’s review, I will for sure not include a few managers’ comments or little amendments.\n\n\nYou can think that it is not a big deal, but the thing is that because of the above, I cannot be the last person who reviews final reports which has to be delivered to the client. Also, the amount of above mentioned mistakes is immense.\n\n\nSo, I cannot move on to senior position and it drives me crazy. Until now I have tried:\n\n•\tWorking with earbuds (those that cancels outside noise, not for music);\n\n•\tExercising more (I am serious! WikiHow tip. I do workout quite a lot, though);\n\n•\tNo multitasking (It looks like it has no effect on me);\n\n•\tPrinting the report and proof-reading it (rather than reading on screen).\n\n\nNothing seems to help me.\n\n\nThus, at this time of need I reach out to Reddit’s community, hoping for your help.\n\n\n(Not a native English speaker).\n",
"How could I increase my attention to details? Hello and thank you for reading this.\n\n\nI have this huge problem which does serious harm to my professional career. First, a bit about myself and why it is important to me.\n\n\nI am working as a tax lawyer in one of the BIG4 companies (basically an audit company, but we provide all sorts of services). Usually what I do is tax due diligence, tax structuring and whatever else you can think of related with tax. Often times I have to write reports of 60 pages and more. I do pretty well and everything is alright, but I make critical mistakes quite often which prevents me to moving on to senior consultant/associate position.\n\n\nNow, about them critical mistakes. Very often I will:\n\n•\tMisspell or mistype a word;\n\n•\tHave a totally random letter or word somewhere which remained there because of the copying/pasting or rewriting something;\n\n•\tAfter manager’s review, I will for sure not include a few managers’ comments or little amendments.\n\n\nYou can think that it is not a big deal, but the thing is that because of the above, I cannot be the last person who reviews final reports which has to be delivered to the client. Also, the amount of above mentioned mistakes is immense.\n\n\nSo, I cannot move on to senior position and it drives me crazy. Until now I have tried:\n\n•\tWorking with earbuds (those that cancels outside noise, not for music);\n\n•\tExercising more (I am serious! WikiHow tip. I do workout quite a lot, though);\n\n•\tNo multitasking (It looks like it has no effect on me);\n\n•\tPrinting the report and proof-reading it (rather than reading on screen).\n\n\nNothing seems to help me.\n\n\nThus, at this time of need I reach out to Reddit’s community, hoping for your help.\n\n\n(Not a native English speaker).\n",
"How could I increase my attention to details? Hello and thank you for reading this.\n\n\nI have this huge problem which does serious harm to my professional career. First, a bit about myself and why it is important to me.\n\n\nI am working as a tax lawyer in one of the BIG4 companies (basically an audit company, but we provide all sorts of services). Usually what I do is tax due diligence, tax structuring and whatever else you can think of related with tax. Often times I have to write reports of 60 pages and more. I do pretty well and everything is alright, but I make critical mistakes quite often which prevents me to moving on to senior consultant/associate position.\n\n\nNow, about them critical mistakes. Very often I will:\n\n•\tMisspell or mistype a word;\n\n•\tHave a totally random letter or word somewhere which remained there because of the copying/pasting or rewriting something;\n\n•\tAfter manager’s review, I will for sure not include a few managers’ comments or little amendments.\n\n\nYou can think that it is not a big deal, but the thing is that because of the above, I cannot be the last person who reviews final reports which has to be delivered to the client. Also, the amount of above mentioned mistakes is immense.\n\n\nSo, I cannot move on to senior position and it drives me crazy. Until now I have tried:\n\n•\tWorking with earbuds (those that cancels outside noise, not for music);\n\n•\tExercising more (I am serious! WikiHow tip. I do workout quite a lot, though);\n\n•\tNo multitasking (It looks like it has no effect on me);\n\n•\tPrinting the report and proof-reading it (rather than reading on screen).\n\n\nNothing seems to help me.\n\n\nThus, at this time of need I reach out to Reddit’s community, hoping for your help.\n\n\n(Not a native English speaker).\n",
"How could I increase my attention to details? Hello and thank you for reading this.\n\n\nI have this huge problem which does serious harm to my professional career. First, a bit about myself and why it is important to me.\n\n\nI am working as a tax lawyer in one of the BIG4 companies (basically an audit company, but we provide all sorts of services). Usually what I do is tax due diligence, tax structuring and whatever else you can think of related with tax. Often times I have to write reports of 60 pages and more. I do pretty well and everything is alright, but I make critical mistakes quite often which prevents me to moving on to senior consultant/associate position.\n\n\nNow, about them critical mistakes. Very often I will:\n\n•\tMisspell or mistype a word;\n\n•\tHave a totally random letter or word somewhere which remained there because of the copying/pasting or rewriting something;\n\n•\tAfter manager’s review, I will for sure not include a few managers’ comments or little amendments.\n\n\nYou can think that it is not a big deal, but the thing is that because of the above, I cannot be the last person who reviews final reports which has to be delivered to the client. Also, the amount of above mentioned mistakes is immense.\n\n\nSo, I cannot move on to senior position and it drives me crazy. Until now I have tried:\n\n•\tWorking with earbuds (those that cancels outside noise, not for music);\n\n•\tExercising more (I am serious! WikiHow tip. I do workout quite a lot, though);\n\n•\tNo multitasking (It looks like it has no effect on me);\n\n•\tPrinting the report and proof-reading it (rather than reading on screen).\n\n\nNothing seems to help me.\n\n\nThus, at this time of need I reach out to Reddit’s community, hoping for your help.\n\n\n(Not a native English speaker).\n"
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"I also have a job where I have to strenuously proof-read everything. I use the computerized text-reading option in the \"speech\" section of my operating system. Listening to the computer robot voice read your document out loud can reveal many mistakes that your eyes wouldn't catch. ",
"If you look at the science/biology of how people read it shows that people tend to jump around sentences not reading one word after another. \n\nWhen reading fast enough you'll begin to miss words. BUT the great thing is that human eyesight is great at following moving objects! \n\nSo, when proof reading use a page to block out everything below the line you're on (stops you from jumping ahead without checking) and use your finger to guide your eyes along each word (stops your eyes from bouncing around the line your on)\n\nThose are also speed reading techniques for beginners so it might even improve your work rate!\n\nProof read smaller amounts:\n\nIf you're making the document then paragraphs and bullet points are your friends! When you finish a paragraph or list of points stop and re-read what you just wrote (your mind will tend to wander ahead when you type). This will also give you a moment to finalise your thoughts for the next small section. (Largest paragraphs should be 1/3 A4 page)\n\nIf you've received the document then copy past to new document (if digital) and quickly run through breaking it into smaller sections, deleting them as you check them (continue to use reading methods). If it's a paper document look at using scanners to convert it to digital for easy manipulation. \n\nBy breaking up the documents it will also make it easier to use the other point of using the computer reading technology and have the computer read the smaller sections to you while you follow. \n\nIncreasing attention to detail requires increased attention to each detail (oddly enough!). Employers \"forget\" this means taking more time to look at the finer points with more care and will always give out about \"attention to detail\" yet \"work faster\". \n\nSo be confident that you are doing a great job and focus on making any changes to how you work SLOWLY so you don't mess up your good working habits trying to fix the bad ones!\n\nHope this helps! I would love to hear how you get on!",
"I boosted my eye for detail by watching Game Theory. It taught me to look for small details. ESPECIALLY Five Nights at Freddy's. The whole game centred around extremely fine details. \n\nSince then, I've been told by many people that I have a good eye for detail. When I'm instructed in gym class, I naturally notice small details in the teachers form. I can look at art/stories and find hidden meanings. It helped me a lot and now I put it on my resume because I can pick up on the smallest things...\n\nExcept women. They're a wall. ",
"Hi there, fellow document reviewer and amender here. Some tips which I personally use:\n\n1\\. For complex documents which are not urgent, consider taking a break after your first round of review (doing a different piece of work, a lunch or exercise break if appropriate, or coming back to it the next morning). This helps you to approach the work differently with a fresh perspective - tiredness isn't good for reviewing!\n\n2\\. I personally agree with not multitasking. Different people work differently though - try to figure out what works for you (some people may work very well with classical music or music in a foreign language, which doesn't distract the mind; some may need undisturbed silence to work).\n\n3\\. I agree that printing helps for reviewing. Consider printing in a different font (e.g. if you usually draft in Arial, print in Times New Roman and vice versa - it changes your perspective also). Font size matters too, sometimes a larger font size may help you spot that elusive error.\n\n4\\. Spellcheck in Microsoft Word is useful for finding the occasional typo, but be careful that you don't accidentally accept a suggested correction which isn't appropriate for the document! Sometimes, a Google search for spellings can be helpful, e.g. 'licence' vs. 'license' depending on which jurisdiction you're in.\n\n5\\. Make a checklist of common errors to look out for, and work your way through it systematically. For example, if I have to check all the definitions, paragraph references and whether capitalised terms are defined, I would miss out something if I went from page 1 to 60. So I would take three rounds:\n\n(a) on the first pass, I would only look out for definitions and mark all of them a certain way;\n\n(b) on the second pass, I would only look out for the keywords \"paragraph xx\" or \"clause xx\" and mark them differently; and\n\n(c) on the last pass, I would mark all the relevant capitalised terms and cross-check against the markings from the first round.\n\nThis breaks the work down into 'baby steps' so I can focus on only one particular task at a time! It may also be faster to make three short targeted reviews instead of one long tedious review which tries to cover everything.\n\n6\\. On the topic of markings, consider investing in a pack of different coloured pens or highlighters for work. I personally use erasable crayons (12 colours) and erasable pens (5 colours), but that's also because I know I'm a more visual person and having different colours works for me instead of distracting me.\n\n7\\. On the topic of taking in amendments, I usually make a personal copy of the amended document and use one of my crayons to strike out each amendment after I incorporate it. At the end I would check the crayoned copy to ensure that all amendments have been marked, and if there are amendments about which I am unsure, I would mark them in a different colour for later discussion.\n\nHope the above was helpful! All the best with your work :)\n\n\n",
"Check out brainwave music, particularly the kinds for when you are active. Alpha and beta waves can help stimulate your mind in order that you can focus. Additionally look up something called H.A.N.D.L.E. it was initially developed to Aid children who experienced autism or other sensory overload related disabilities. They involve simple things such as drinking through a crazy straw to help Focus and remember particular Concepts or events or behaviors. The straw for example helps with sequential memory due to the suck swallow breathe manner in which you drink. This mimics a baby nursing which is happening during developmental stages of the brain. Also sometimes, especially if you work in an office environment, getting outside helps your mind feel like it's not pushed into a tiny container. This can help your memory or reasoning skills for lack of a better way of saying it expands because they do not feel like they are being compressed."
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"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?",
"How to react when somebody physically stands over you for intimidation? Years ago I was in a confrontation with a manager who was a lot bigger than me (widith and height). He was trying to intimidate me I guess so he stood right in my personal space and was looking down at me. I wasn't scared of him at all and I wanted him to know that, so I stood exactly where I was and kept eye contact. \n\n\nI always wondered if this was the best way to respond though? By standing my ground I felt it showed that I wasn't intimidated by him, however because I didn't move back he was able to continue looking down on me, and I had to look up to meet his eye contact. I felt that looking up to him may have also made me seem weak, but there wasn't much else I could do about it.\n\n\nIn terms of body language, is there anything else I could have done to show I wasn't intimidated? Or is standing your ground the best way to react?"
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"Take a step forward so you're really close up and don't look up, just look forward (into his chest). \nMake the situation awkward for *him* by showing the ridiculousness of his action by doubling down on it.",
"The way I have dealt with people using their natural stature to somehow leverage their authority over me, whether they are a collegue of the same/lower position or a superior, Is to calmly but firmly ask them \"Are you trying to intimidate me?\" This first question usually catches people offguard instantly, either they immediately relax/back off slightly realizing that their initial approach was impeding their proffesionlism, OR it will increase their level of aggressiveness. Both outcomes will be in your favour as either you have calmly taken control of the situation which results in both parties taking a more proffesional approach with the issue at hand (and you are now the dominant participant) or they escalate the situation on their part and its time for question #2 \"If you continue to speak to me disrespectfully, I will no longer discuss this issue with you. Is that what you would like?\" The main things to remember are keeping your cool and composure whilst speaking calmly and firmly, whether you are sitting or standing - After that it really will be down to them to either cease their line of action imeddiately or you inform them that \"I will not be spoken to In this manner, any more.\" and remove yourself from the situation and report the incident. It's always important to remember, You have the right to be treated with respect and the right to protect yourself from being threatened, physically, emotionally and mentally in anyway.",
" I had a boss try and do that with me i just kept working while he was yelling. And told him you know we are just going to have to agree to disagree on this one. Then ignored him for a couple weeks until i started a better job.",
"If anyone gets in your [personal space](https://youtu.be/2DfmDuOxcN8?t=13s) the best thing to do is to cough or sneeze and just barely cover so as they get sprayed they realize they are too close.\n\n",
"If there are witnesses, I take a very deliberate step backwards. If the person confronting you has any awareness, it can make him consider how the situation will appear to others.",
"If they step in that close, give a big hug and whisper \"thank you\" in a soft and gentle voice. It'll creep them the fuck out. ",
"Scream: \"I'M GONNA SUCK THAT DICK\". \nThere's 2 ways this can go:\n1. He gets confused and walks away.\n2. You're gonna need to suck that dick.\n\nEither way you won't get beaten up.",
"Referee pro tip here: step sideways. Moving forces them to turn toward you, subconsciously establishing your authority. It also removes you from the immediate strike zone and allows you to create distance without yielding ground.",
"Use a 45 degree angle.\n\nShift your posture so that you're facing him shoulder first, and turn your head to look at him. Lean back a bit and remain loose. Tilt your head up enough that you can still \"look down\" at him with your eyes. Hold eye contact and look at him like a father would look at a toddler having a tantrum, don't look away and don't say anything until he's done speaking. \n\nFor extra ballsyness you can say something like \"Are you done?\" or if he's being over aggressive \"Back off before you embarrass yourself further.\"\n\nSource: Taught body language for 10 years, wrote a book, currently teach confidence training to CEO's and high ranking professionals. ",
"I'm a pretty short guy (just under 5'6\"), so almost anyone who wants to stand over me can, and a few people have tried to intimidate me by doing so. The way to deal with it is by acting exactly the same way as you would if someone shorter than you stood that close. Keep eye contact by tilting your head (not by looking up with your eyes), keeping a neutral expression, speaking calmly but very firmly (but not like a psychopath), and absolutely not moving your feet.\n\nThe thing with bullys is that they're comfortable being in a powerful position, because people react how they expect them to react. If they're doing their utmost to intimidate you and it's not working, it immediately puts them on the backfoot and therefore you in psychological control.\n\nPhysical intimidation can be powerful, but is surprisingly easy to defuse.",
"Go in for a hug. When they recoil act surprised and ask why the fuck they were in your personal space to begin with. ",
"Best lesson I learned from a *possibly* psychopathic guy. Every time you see the guy, shake his hand, make eye contact, and make sure that your foot is on top of theirs. It makes EVERYONE incredibly uncomfortable, and eventually they start feeling small and insignificant in your presence. I've tried it repeatedly on one person, absolutely worked. I've tried it once over a few people the first time I've met them, it definitely gives you an upper hand. You won't be well liked, but you'll be the alpha.",
"In a **professional situation**, first and foremost remain composed in your attitude, actions, and words so that you stay in control of the situation. Remember, you've *already won* this interaction and the control game when they've lost it enough to try to get into your personal space and use physical intimidation against you.\n\nYou have several physical things you can do back to them, all of which are flexing your personal space, while remaining professional in your demeanor.\n\n-Stand your ground, confidently maintain casual \"I am in control here\" nonverbal eye contact. If someone steps up on you, you are setting the tone of being in charge by forcing them to approach you. How close they get determines further actions you can take. But never back up, as that signals a break in your resolve & confidence and will only embolden them.\n\n-If they initially step up on you and get close enough to do so, raise one foot slightly and bring the front of your foot down on top of one of their feet...however, do not extend your foot forward to do so, as any witnesses to the interaction may interpret this as you being the aggressor. Combined with standing your ground, you've will assert your physical dominance when they approach just to be \"stepped on\".\n\n-If in range, *breathe* or a single *cough* into their face. If you do it right, it'll be both deliberate (which they may pick up) but both unproveable/leaves no evidence/only shows they were too close to you if things escalate. Think of it as the \"smoke in your face\" move that's seen in movies, only without any smoke/cigarettes.\n\nAt all times, remain physically in control of yourself and communicate non-verbally that you are not impressed with the bluster of the attempt to intimidate you. Remain unimpressed/bored or even amused/entertained by the use of their tactic (through non-verbal communication ONLY). This will either take the wind out of their sails and make them back off (ceding the battle) or goad them into more overt physical action. Remember, in a professional situation, if they cross the line from intimidation to actually laying their hands on you in your personal space you've not only won the argument but they will be out of a job (and you will likely also be in a good position for a legal claim).\n\nThe tactics change in a nonprofessional situation, so don't try these on \"the street\".\n\n\n\n\n",
"As someone who has spent life being shorter than most people, keeping your calm is big. First realize that they can't exactly hurt you without the threat of a lawsuit so never fear and keep your cool.\n\nMany ways to approach it with words, just always keep most of the emotion out of your voice. You can go the confused route and explain: \"Excuse me, why are you suddenly in my personal space?\", you can step back and resume the conversation as if nothing happened.\n\nIn terms of body language, holding your ground or stepping back is fine, depending on whatever lets you continue to be able to look them in the eye. You want to practice open/confident body language, which you can look up online. The key is to project confidence even if your stature cannot.\n\nBonus points if you're a woman lacking any semblance of a womanly squeaky voice. People seem to take me much more seriously for some reason due to having a lower than normal female voice.",
"Next time dont say a word and just smile and stand there you dont even have to look at him. just let him get extremely pissed off you dont need that job anyways.",
"If he's right up close to your face yelling at you, maintain eye contact and calmly respond with \"Why don't you say that to my face?\".",
"I am a female probation officer. I'm about 5'5 and of average build. I work only with felons but I am armed. Most of my defendants are male.\n\nWhen this happens to me, I take a step back and give clear verbal commands. The step back is not only so that I have more time to access my weapon if I need to, but it gives a clear signal to any onlookers that I was not the one looking for confrontation (which is so important these days with the lime light being on LE). \"Get back\" is a good neutral command as it is all business. Being confrontational and starting a \"my dick is bigger than yours\" contest when someone starts squaring up pretty much means that the fight is on, so unless you're ready for that fight, it's not always the best idea.\n\n",
"look up longingly into his eyes and say [\"patrick why here? ive seen you looking at me\"](https://youtu.be/WMkcn0Vh-4g?t=68)",
"This is not really an LPT but I would encourage you to consider that you are the real winner here, in the macro sense that is. You are smart and you did not stoop down to their caveman/uncivilised/gorilla beating their chest level of behaviour. They will never have the same self-awareness as you and they are still behaving childish when they are a fully grown adult. Yes, that's right, 'fully grown'... meaning that's as good as they're going to get (it's quite sad for them really). You, however, have come to a place of information to better yourself and expand your knowledge. This is because you are clearly self-aware and in addition to that, you have the desire to grow as a person even as an adult. It may sound a little dramatic but it's true. You will move on to better things and people who don't seek growth and change don't grow and don't change, it's as simple as that. Remember that you are blessed with a good heart and mind and that is truly the best gift.",
"This happened to me in a pub in glasgow.\nBackground : drunk dude bumps me and slops his drink trying to sit on the barstool next to me decides to make an issue of it, swearing getting up in my face, finger pointing ect.\nAs an englishman in glasgow i have some minor experience with these situations.\nResponse: remain calm. Dudes obviously spoiling for a fight no point in giving him a reason to start one. Glance at him, sip drink, slowly get up without turning back on him keep own bar stall between us. As i rise pick up bar stool and hold horizontally in an attitude that suggests \"this is not a weapon. But it can very quickly become one\" maintain eye contact throughout. Lock jaw, clench fists, tension facial muscles. Ask in a calm but firm voice \"are you a protestant or a catholic?\n\nRegardless of response proclaim loudly 'excellent!' start acting all friendly. Put down bar stool, clap arm apologise off hand for the drink spend the next 10 mins making a new friend.\n\n",
"Simply say, \"Invading my personal space and acting aggressive does not intimidate me and I'm not certain what exactly you think you are proving by treating me like this.\" \n\nFailing that, turn around and bend over and only speak to him by moving your butt cheeks Ace Ventura style. Be sure to say, \"You're going to have to speak with my secretary about this.\" And then, just say \"Mr. or Mrs. Blank is away from desk right now.\"",
"In response to your question, I cannot think of anything you could have done that would be better.\nIf he tries to intimidate, it's because it's worked in the past. If you don't want it to work on you, then you stand up to him like you did. \nWell done, by the way.\n",
"If you can catch him earlier widen your stance so that he can't get as close to your body without hitting your lead leg. Then rotate your body to his approach. ",
"I'd go with the sneezing or coughing. Just fake it, right on him. All over him. Right in the face! It will make him take a step back and make him think about standing so close to you. ",
"Fall hungrily on his nipples, sucking them loudly and vigorously. When he tries to pull away, grab his hips and draw them toward you.",
"Best advice is always to stay completely calm, and try to settle the situation without letting your ego get the best of you. Forget the whole intimidation game entirely. The only thing you need to prove is that you're capable of reaching a solution that's mutually beneficial. They might be an asshole but they're still your manager. Depending on where this happens, ask if you can have the conversation somewhere quieter. Help the discussion reach a middle ground.\n\nThey had a goal in mind going into the conversation. Maybe they wanted you to do something a different way, or they wanted you to do something else entirely. Help them reach that goal, and if it conflicts with something you're working on, explain that calmly and propose a compromise.\n\n\"I can go do that in about 15 minutes when I complete what I was working on.\" or \"I'll get right on that, but that means what I was working on will have to wait until I'm done.\"\n\nReally, who cares if you have to do something inefficiently. You just demonstrated a much greater skill - that you're able to compromise and resolve problems without escalation.\n\nI haven't had anyone try to intimidate me in years, and I'm always the young guy at my jobs. Some people will try and push me around though, and it *always* ends with a compromise where \"I'll be able to do that next week\". They walk away realizing they'll get what they were looking for, and I walk away knowing that I'm now working with a more reasonable person and a reasonable deadline.",
"**Treat the attempt to assert dominance as an emotional outburst.**\n\nDepending on your comfort level and the situation you can appear more patronizing or more caring, but remember that you're \"only trying to help.\"\n\nThe goal is keep framing the situation such that your side is logical and agreeable, where their side is unreasonable and not properly under control.\n\n \n\nI usually open with something like \"It seems like you're really upset, would you like to take a moment to compose yourself?\"\n\nKeep offering options that would help get things back on track, as it were...\n\nWould you feel more comfortable your boss/the bouncer/your mommy were involved with this?\n\nWould you like a glass of water or some chocolate?\n\nWould you like a moment with your friends?\n\n \n\nYou win when they accept your frame and have to comport themselves better, when they get so wound up they step far enough outside of social norms that the game changes, or when you can make some minor concession because you're the \"bigger\" person.",
"Stare at his throat, as if you are about to rip it out. Or stare at the center of his chest, as a boxer does to see when the opponent is about to throw a punch. He's trying to unnerve you. If you do these subtle things, that you really can't be called out on, it should unnerve an observant bully.",
"Standing your ground is really the best way to handle that. Maintain eye contact and don't flinch at his movements.\n\nIn the fantasy world of my brain, I've wanted to let out a small sarcastic laugh and replied flatly \"Reallly? The \"tough guy little step forward\"? A little cliche, don't you think? You going to roll up your sleeves next?\"",
"Somebody (I forget the details) tried that on me. But I’m only 5’ 1”, so I have to look up to *everybody*, and their actions had little effect. It’s hard to be intimidated by someone ‘looming over you” when *everybody* “looms over you.”\n",
"Re-position. I am quite tall and wide at the shoulders (and waist =( says my vindictive girlfriend). As such I try to keep that in mind when discussing things to specific people in my life. I will re-position myself by walking away a little and standing in a new spot. This allows me to change body posture and stand in a less intimidating way. It allows them to adjust and stand in a more comfortable way or distance. \n\nDo the same thing. Re-position yourself in a way that wont allow him to be in your face. You can use this to change your posture to regain a degree of control. Stand with one leg forward creating a small amount of space. You could try sitting and leaning back. He will be above you but your relaxed position makes his aggressive position even more silly while giving you space. Hope there is something here that could help. ",
"Personally I'd do pretty much the same thing. If I find that they are still pushing the issue, I'd punch myself in the face so hard, I fly backwards and shatter the glass coffee table in their office, while exclaiming \"Why would you do that?\". I'd continue to beat the shit out of myself until security arrives, and run into their arms \"Thank God! Please don't hit me again\"\n\nThat'll usually diffuse the situation. I've gotten a full year salary, computer, fax machine, and a copier out of that tactic. My friend Tyler and I have managed to start our own boutique soap company this way. ",
"Look and speak calmly so they know what they're doing isn't affecting you. It can be hard to keep calm and not get angry/upset but it's the best way. ",
"If they're clearly a lot stronger than you physically then I'd do it like a lot of the other comments say: make it clear that you're perfectly aware of the physical advantage that they have over you, don't back down and point out how it's completely irrelevant to whatever the confrontation is about, \"Go on then, kick the shit out of me, I don't care if you bounce my head off a curb repeatedly, I'm not going to tell you that you're right.\" Get louder if they don't start backing up, draw other people's attention to the fact that they feel the only way to win this argument is by resorting to physical strength. This is one tiny step above bullying and a lot of other people will respect you for standing up to whoever it is, you may even inspire other people to stand up to them as well.\n\nThe main thing is to avoid showing fear, once they start to intimidate you and they see that you're afraid, it's giving them a (false) sense of power over you and reinforcing the idea in their heads that this is an effective way to win an argument. It's not, it's an effective way to get what you want while making those around you lose respect for you. It can be scary and you may actually get your ass kicked but a lot of the time you can embarrass the person into stepping down. Getting angry helps, I'm normally very mild-mannered but this is the only time I'll allow myself to lose my temper and start shouting or throwing some serious insults, causing a big scene (but **never** escalating physically, you've stooped to their level then). Bystanders might even tell you to tone it down sometimes if they're also afraid of the bully but I usually take that as a sign that you're not kicking up enough of a fuss. Don't keep arguing about the original point, they've tried to make this physical so draw attention to the irrelevance of what they're doing and don't stop until they back down, then return to debating. \n\nTL:DR- You were right to not show fear or back down. Don't escalate physically in the slightest, draw attention to the fact that they've effectively surrendered the argument by resorting to their irrelevant physical advantage. Make sure other people notice, especially their superior if at all possible in a work environment, your manager almost always has a manager, and you're probably on camera. The embarrassment plus the witnesses will dissuade most semi-rational people. ",
"I've only been in this position once but what I did what step even closer, cross my arms, and look up at them with the same pissy expression they had on their face on mine, then raise my eyebrows at the guy as if to say \"Really?\" He stepped back.",
"I think the best reaction would be to keep the very close distance he's created, have a blank facial expression, and just turn around and start doing something else. (You're not a threat, I'll easily turn my back on you).\nMeanwhile the hothead will be fuming, still behind you in his \"dominant stance\". He'll eventually just walk away.\nShowing complete indifference to someone else's dominance can be pretty disarming. \n\nThis is one of many ways to handle a situation like this. :)",
"Here is a whole book on body language: The toastmasters book of body language https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B3a4Un-4m8G-UnpRSzdRb2tKWk0/",
"A swift blow to a single knee will drop him down, add a hard thrust to the throat with your forearm, then finish the deal by slamming cupped hands to the ears. ",
"drop 1 foot back, bend slightly at the knees, and put you hands up in a boxing stance. \n\nthere is only 1 reason someone would be in your personal space and that is to harm you. chances are they will back down. if they dont, push them back. ",
"Throat punch or a palm to the solar plexus. If someone wants to act like a intimidating bitch treat them like the bitch they are. They've already assaulted you by entering your space, don't be a coward and put them in their place"
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"How to remove paint stains from bed covers? Due to some circumstances involving the painting of a dresser, I discovered that there was some paint on my bedsheet. The stain was on for a long time and even with spot remover, I cannot really get rid of the stain. I tried to wash it with a combination of OxiClean, Detergent, and Washing Soda but it still is on my bedsheet. What should I do? It has been a day or two since it happened and am at my wit's end.",
"How to remove paint stains from bed covers? Due to some circumstances involving the painting of a dresser, I discovered that there was some paint on my bedsheet. The stain was on for a long time and even with spot remover, I cannot really get rid of the stain. I tried to wash it with a combination of OxiClean, Detergent, and Washing Soda but it still is on my bedsheet. What should I do? It has been a day or two since it happened and am at my wit's end.",
"How to remove paint stains from bed covers? Due to some circumstances involving the painting of a dresser, I discovered that there was some paint on my bedsheet. The stain was on for a long time and even with spot remover, I cannot really get rid of the stain. I tried to wash it with a combination of OxiClean, Detergent, and Washing Soda but it still is on my bedsheet. What should I do? It has been a day or two since it happened and am at my wit's end."
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"Water won't remove dried latex paint. Figure out what kind of paint it is because removal will be different for Oil based, Latex or Alkyd paints.",
"Not being funny, but how much is a new sheet in your area? I bet it's not a lot more than the cleaning products you'd buy. Treat yourself, there's an effing pandemic going on. Buy a new sheet."
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