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[ "No cell service inside of the home. Any free/cheap solutions or DIY workarounds? I have a metal roof and I cannot get any service in my house without putting my phone directly in the window.\n\nWifi-Calling isn't offered with my Carrier. No other carriers that offer it meet my needs without being exceedingly more expensive.\n\nI'd imagine it is possible to make or buy a cheap extender or passthrough with a receiver outside. I've heard of Femtocells, but they are very expensive for what they do.\n\nWouldn't it be possible to use an older cellphone as a passthrough to get signal in the house? I'm thinking maybe as a \"fake\" cell tower.\n\nI've also considered leaving my phone in the window and somehow remotely answering my messages and calls through a PC.\n\n---\n\nKnowing all of this I figured it would make an appropriate LPT Request as the only solutions I've found have been very expensive.", "No cell service inside of the home. Any free/cheap solutions or DIY workarounds? I have a metal roof and I cannot get any service in my house without putting my phone directly in the window.\n\nWifi-Calling isn't offered with my Carrier. No other carriers that offer it meet my needs without being exceedingly more expensive.\n\nI'd imagine it is possible to make or buy a cheap extender or passthrough with a receiver outside. I've heard of Femtocells, but they are very expensive for what they do.\n\nWouldn't it be possible to use an older cellphone as a passthrough to get signal in the house? I'm thinking maybe as a \"fake\" cell tower.\n\nI've also considered leaving my phone in the window and somehow remotely answering my messages and calls through a PC.\n\n---\n\nKnowing all of this I figured it would make an appropriate LPT Request as the only solutions I've found have been very expensive." ]	[ "Whos your carrier? I have sprint and terrible reception in my home. Called them, they sent me a special box for free. Plugged it in, placed near a window and it fixed my issue. \n\nCall your carrier and ask if they have a similar option.", "I have a Google Home Mini, which I think I can use to make calls. And there are some desktop options for texting etc, but it would depend on your carrier and stuff, I think." ]	[ 5, 1 ]	safe
[ "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? 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", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? ", "“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever”. What is your pro tip to avoid the fear of failure or doubt and proactively follow your dreams and make it a reality? " ]	[ "Take smaller steps. \n\nLike, much smaller.\n\nWant to start a podcast? Commit to pulling out your phone and recording yourself talking about your ideas for the podcast. \n\nThat’s it. You don’t ever have to listen to the recording. It doesn’t have to be the base that the entire pyramid is built on. It’s just a way to get DATA.\n\nTo make good decisions, we need good data and lots of it. Enjoying the process of making small adjustments, exploring without forcing, and observing the effect is a more reliable way to make long lasting changes than a sudden burst of inspiration.", "Every time you find yourself in a situation like this tell yourself \"it is okay\". Focus not on what might go wrong or what might happen, just accept it and adapt. Keep repeating that it is okay and over time you will feel less anxiety.", "Take it one day at a time. Just focus on what you can do today to make that dream happen. The end goal may or may not happen, but one is certain, if you don’t take a step towards it everyday it won’t happen for sure.", "Just start doing -something-, and do it consistently. 10 mins a day? Great. After a while it will become 20 mins and then more. Or you find that it really isn't your dream, and you'll get closer to something that is. \n\n\nThe biggest thing I consistently see on the writer's forum is general lack of any confidence (why write a book if I can't compare to the greats!? Or if nobody will read it!?). \n\nIf it's not fun for you to do for its own sake then it's not for you.", "“Failure” is the price of success. If you do something perfectly the first time or every time without trying, its not fulfilling. \nImagine finally figuring out what works and making your million after multiple failures. Compare that to just being given or winning the million.", "Making \"less thinking, more doing\" a priority. Even if bad thoughts appear, just ignore them and do it anyway. Don't identify with your fear", "You never fail if you don't quit, you just took longer than anticipated.\n\nDo the thing you were doubting every day, and do it as completely as you can so you can to find all the stumbling blocks.\nIt's like math, you are going to get some of the problems wrong in the beginning, but after a while, you'll be where it happens less and less.\n\nThere's no fear of failure unless you're open to quitting. Dont quit. Research and execute everyday.", "Fear of criticism and exposure too. You do something you’re proud of and other people have something to say about it, like it or not.", "Fear of Success is what prevents people from starting their ideas.\n\nFear of Failure is what drives people to become overachievers.", "I've followed the Joey Ramone model. He did this to beat severe ocd. I have different mental problems, but it still impacted my daily life and interactions. Imagine the best, coolest version of a person (your own concept, not someone you know or saw). Pretend to be that person all day every day. Eventually I became that person. Ended up with a good life somehow, happy marriage, good friends, dream career. No one knows I'm actually not this cool. Been doing it so long that it's all I know now. Hadn't thought about it in a long time until I saw this post.", "As an independent author who doesn't make a whole lot of money, I know all about perseverance. The trick, really, is to just surrender to failure. Accept that you're going to fail - you will be a failure at some point. Accept it and dive in.\n\nI didn't say it was easy.", "practice. you gotta try to improve. dont worry about being inept. everyone starts there and gets better overtime. start small and keep building. dedication of mind to go forward and the physical perserverance to go with it (sometimes gotta stop thinking abd start doing). use that fear, toss it on your fire of ambition, you can do things champ. dont strive for empty pride, strive for the wow factor, the admirations, the happiness it brings to complete each task. hopefully some of those dreams help others too, that can help to reinforce your drive. :)", "PsychoCybernetics \nWritten by a plastic surgeon that noticed the change had to be in your mind or nearly useless. \n\nAs in, some of his patients accused him of not doing anything, even though they could see a different nose, because they felt the same inside. Still ugly. \n\nIt’s about power of perception and overcoming that internal naysayer. \n\nMost of the exercises are creating a better mental picture of yourself, so you don’t give in to doubt. \n\nOutwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill has a similar point, different writing style.", "Hunter S Thompson - Finding your Purpose in Life\n\nhttps://fs.blog/2014/05/hunter-s-thompson-to-hume-logan/\n\n\nMy spouse showed me this and I read it anytime I feel really unmotivated in life, I actually pinned it to my phones home screen I found it so inspiring.", "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. \n\nTake the first step; it’s always the hardest and then just keep taking steps. Yes, sometimes you’ll fall, but that’s part of the journey too. Pick yourself up, backtrack if necessary and keep going.", "A quote I read years ago, and it has stuck with me these many years.\n\n\"Certainty is the poison of all art.\"", "\"There are only two possible outcomes to any endeavor, success, or learning.\"\n\nIf you adopt the success or learning attitude you will be more open to taking a shot.", "You're always going to have fear and self doubt when trying something new. Even now while im somewhat successful in my journey, I have self doubt with what I'm doing if im having a bad day in business. But if you zoom out and look at how far you've made it or how far you've tried, you'll see the massive improvement you've made. Even taking one step forward puts you in a closer position to reaching your goals. If you're worried with what others say in regards to you going after your goal, look at where they are. 9/10 they are stuck and are projecting their jealousy and envy on someone who has the courage to do it.", "This LPT may have kept me from rolling up in a little ball and giving up. Thanks for the positive post about taking small steps. Life has been hectic so to speak and I feel overwhelmed. I just need to take small steps forward. If the time line gets blown, so what. If I forget something, it’s not the end of everything. Reddit helps again", "Set your goal as the first step, and plan the little steps to make the ladder you will use to the top, setting goal and planning is the kind of your first little steps", "Remembering that everyone has a rough start before success. That's how they grow. You're just in that beginning phase like everyone else. Most successful people have had to deal with those fears and doubts before they could get themselves to finally commit happily. I personally have found multiple people in my niche who have had similar fears, but managed to push through, despite the uncertainty, and they're on the road to their version of success as we speak, or have already gotten there. That's what motivates me constantly.\n\nAlso, this next tip is more directed towards creators of any kind. In reference to making your dream a reality, think of it this way. If you look back at something you've made and think you could've done better, it means you're improving. Don't discard the work. Leave it for proof of growth to yourself or others (i.e., world renowned author showing their first scripts, or a talented artist displaying work from 10 years ago). Hopefully this helps to some degree : )", "Remember that successful people, in whatever area you wish to look at, have not made the right choices all the way through. They have also failed. They have also doubted. \n\nThe difference is, they saw a chance as an opportunity and tried anyway. For many successful people, that means the numbers are on their side. The more opportunities you take, the greater the number of successes you’ll have. \n\nGo into things knowing there is a chance of failure or doubt, and weight up the risk. This won’t eliminate that chance, but it can reduce it. Then go for it. \n\n‘Ships are safest in harbour, but that’s not what ships were built for.’", "One thing I've always told myself is, the more scared I am to do something, the more I probably have to. If you're scared to do something, make a change especially if it's one for the better, use that as fuel and keep that adrenaline intact when you actually do the thing. It's easier said than done but it does get easier if you keep it in mind.", "Once I know I've made up my mind about doing something, I immediately go tell someone about it so there's that social pressure of following through. For instance, when I realized I found the right masters program for me, I went to my boss' office and asked about how juggling school and work would be. Made me not want to turn my back on my decision.", "On \"profound\" quotes \n\n[Study Shows People Who Post Dumb Inspirational Quotes Are Actually Dumb](https://www.complex.com/pop-culture/2015/12/dumb-inspirational-quotes-study)\n\n[10 Famous Inspirational Quotes That Are Dead Stupid\nDale Carnegie, Zig Ziglar and Napoleon Hill were wise men, but sometimes they said some truly silly things.](https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/10-famous-inspirational-quotes-that-are-dead-stupid.html) (With one that is applciable here: \n\n> \"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.\"\n\n>While this seems true at first glance, it's only because the \"came from behind against all odds\" miracles stick in the mind because they're unusual. In reality, most of the important things in this world are well planned and well executed, without generating any hopelessness whatsoever. Sometimes hopelessness is a sign that you're beating your head against a wall.", "Not exactly the greatest tip but, I've seen it work a lot and I myself follow this, simply think \"fuck it\" when doing almost anything, it's a lot less stressful if you fail something after you've said fuck it, because your just going for it without any expectations of it working or not working, it's a whatever happens happens mentality that works wonders sometimes", "Learn to fail and learn from failing.\n\n\nWe are brainwashed by our education systems to think failure defines us as incompetent, but it really should be our number one teacher.\n\n\nThe first step is to be humble and accept the fact that you will fail. Then you can start reflecting on how to prevent failing in the future by examining the root cause of said failure.", "Learn a skill, and then be confident in your knowledge of it. That comes across as far more genuine than mere empty ambition dressed in a brave face.", "Keep the yes attitude for things that might hinder your comfort zone. I realized it lately and gave it a try a few months back. That thing really helps. Even if you don't achieve your goal, you learn something new with that experience. But I landed in a company I never thought I would make it to (I was struggling for companies where I thought of being, but now I am at a far more better place, just because of the yes attitude.\n\nIt might seem little risky at times, but always remember -> no risk, no story.", "It may help me to think what's the worse that could happen in bith situations. But it is never enough to convince me. At least for work/hobby projects. \n\nFor a dating attempts, anxiety and shyness trump over logic everytime. I even had a girl kiss me in an open air club (not sure if she was drunk) out of the blue, despite neither knowing her nor talking to her so i gave her my cheek and kinda distanced myself like a little boy (I was 28 at the time, 30 this year)\n\nOne could say, I am single because of the jump not taken. (Ready Player One vibes)", "Imagine what will happen if you fail. Usually it’s not that big of a deal. Knowing that you have little to lose with failure can help you overcome that fear.", "Identify and rethink your \"shoulds\", \"musts\", and \"have tos\", a.k.a. musterbatory thinking. \n\nYou can often achieve your goal without strictly adhering to any one plan or \"way\", but obsessing over how things must be, or how you should go about something or other, and you'll become increasingly neurotic when your plans inevitably clash with reality.", "I miss ALL the shots I don't take. Keep hitting it over the net. If it's something I love, then I keep at it. Take the time to figure it out. Failure is just finding out what doesn't work. It's still progress.", "I found that talking to other people about it helps. getting a second opinion from someone who is a bit more removed from the situation like you are and who can help you untangle and lay it all out a bit more clearly is so helpful. \nalso baby steps. make it a row of pebbles not a mountain.", "I found that I should not let doubt stop me from taking a step forward. If I back myself to figure out a solution in case a problem comes up, and take the step forward, I have noticed that such risk has paid off more often than not. And I am a pretty normal guy so I am guessing this applies to everyone who tries. Trying is the first step to succeeding. We all have more talent than we think we have. So go ahead and chase your dreams. Don’t try to figure out everything before walking the path. Expect some surprises along the way and back yourself to be able to keep finding solutions and keep moving forward towards your dream.", "Give yourself complete permission to fail. It's the only way to not be scared of it. Make it your goal to fail better, not \"succeed\". I promise, you won't feel like you succeeded even when you do.\n\nAcknowledging something takes away it's power. So if your scared of failure, start by saying to yourself or someone else, I'm really scared I might fail at this. It's weird but it works.", "Fake it till ya make it. Especially when you are performing patient care and you are a newbie, or something is going terribly wrong.", "Expect many failures along the journey, and consider them lessons. Thomas Edison and the Invention of the Light Bulb. \"I haven't failed -- I've just found 10,000 that won't work.\"", "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better. \n- Samuel Beckett\n\nI live by this quote. Life isn’t about learning to avoid failure. It’s about learning to fail better each time we try.", "Escitalopram, if you suffer from extreme anxiety please don't let the stigma of medication prevent you from breaking free and also seek counselling in the long run.", "Ditch the people encouraging doubt, who aren't also pursuing their dreams. \n\nStart hanging out with other people doing that.\n\nMake yourself afraid of what happens if you DON'T achieve that dream - will you be 65 and dirt poor? Is it being in that same soulless job? Crystalize the threat into a clear image that forces you to break through because failure means death.\n\nBreak down the goal into attainable bites and get to work - with regular coffee and a to do list you can use to keep you tethered.\n\nGood luck 👍", "Be patient & introspective. Small failures don't usually lead to big failures, they're learning moments. \n\nI started a manufacturing company 38 years ago that is thriving today. I know a million ways not to do something.", "Be afraid of never knowing how taking that chance could've been.\n\nFailure is bad, but I fear sitting home one day and suddently thinking of all the chances and things I've missed because of fear, or waiting for \"the right moment\". No one will remember you failed, not even you in most cases; but the thought of what trying could have accomplished? Yeah I don't want that voice on my back lol\n\nJim Carrey's dad wanted to be a comedian, but was scared of trying so he pursued a more \"reasonable\" career path. Jim Carrey recalled remembering him, years and years after, still sad and regretting not having tried, as he ended up pretty much the same as if he had tried and failed.\n\nWinning, losing... My advice is, fear the third option", "A movie quote from 'super' starring Rainn Wilson \"I can't know, not fire sure.... Unless I try.\" Proceeds to repeatedly stab Kevin bacon", "3 suggestions.\n\n1) Lean on and think about previous success you have had yo remind yourself of how capable you actually are.\n\n2) If you are lacking previous success, think about how many people in the world have succeeded at this. Remind yourself they are all human and at leadt most of them probably similar doubts but worked through it. If they can, so can you.\n\n3) Take yourself down the \"Whats the worst that can happen, and then what?\" argument. This is where you ask yourself to articulate what the worst thing that could happen would be. Then you ask yourself, \"ok, if that occurred, then what happens?\"\n\n- example: Pursuing a bachelors degree. Lets say you fail all your classes first semester. Ok, then what? You choose to try again or you stop and try something else. Sure, theres maybe student loans but if its a reasonable school thats a few $1000 that you have to pay back over 20 yrs. Sucks, but in perspective its pretty low risk overall.", "If I spend ten minutes a day learning something new, that's ten minutes a day someone else isn't spending.\n\nThis has really been a driving motivator in helping me learn the Adobe suite, Affinity Designer and a few others. I'm trying to become a graphic designer, and I found it really daunting, all of the available tutorials and classes I had to take to become 'good'.\n\nI find myself spending a lot longer than 10 minutes a day on it, but that single line has kept me motivated to at least open those classes and tutorials.\n\nI get overwhelmed easily, and end up doing nothing. So for me, breaking down my goals into small, manageable pieces, makes it a lot easier for me.\n\nI find I do the same with a lot of things in my life, but I didn't realize it until I realized how much that line was helping me. If I clean, I clean in segments. I'll wipe the counters and do the dishes, then sweep the floors the next day, do the laundry the next day. It sort of leaves my place in a state of ever-messy, but at least I get it all done.\n\nFor me, this keeps me from failing." ]	[ 229, 51, 37, 21, 19, 11, 8, 8, 8, 5, 5, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to ask \"why\" without sounding judgemental. If a group of people is talking about \"details of X\" and you want to know why how do you ask without sounding judgemental? \n\nFor example, in a meeting with a bunch of high-level executives that start talking about types of coffee in the break room, how do you ask why they are worrying about that when they pay a staff to do that stuff?", "How to ask \"why\" without sounding judgemental. If a group of people is talking about \"details of X\" and you want to know why how do you ask without sounding judgemental? \n\nFor example, in a meeting with a bunch of high-level executives that start talking about types of coffee in the break room, how do you ask why they are worrying about that when they pay a staff to do that stuff?" ]	[ "I follow it up with \"when I know the why, it's easier for me to remember the what.\" Just let them know that knowing the reasoning helps you better understand and also helps if there's a situation in the future that hasn't been addressed. (Ex: We close the curtains. Why? Because on Fridays the neighbor gets their windows cleaned and we don't like the washers looking in. Well, if there's a Thursday when you need to keep the curtains open, you know it's okay because it's only Fridays you worry about. Trying to give a very basic example, here.) Knowing the why helps problem solving.", "For your example, maybe couch it with a question about context. \"Are there other amenities we focus on similarly to the coffee selection?\"" ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to stop lying? I have a problem with lying. Even with things that don't really matter. I just lost a huge part of my life because of it and I know it's been affecting my life in such a negative way. I'm done. No more. I've hurt a lot of people I've cared about and I need to get better. How do I drop this nasty destructive habit? How do I get better?", "how to stop lying? I have a problem with lying. Even with things that don't really matter. I just lost a huge part of my life because of it and I know it's been affecting my life in such a negative way. I'm done. No more. I've hurt a lot of people I've cared about and I need to get better. How do I drop this nasty destructive habit? How do I get better?", "how to stop lying? I have a problem with lying. Even with things that don't really matter. I just lost a huge part of my life because of it and I know it's been affecting my life in such a negative way. I'm done. No more. I've hurt a lot of people I've cared about and I need to get better. How do I drop this nasty destructive habit? How do I get better?", "how to stop lying? I have a problem with lying. Even with things that don't really matter. I just lost a huge part of my life because of it and I know it's been affecting my life in such a negative way. I'm done. No more. I've hurt a lot of people I've cared about and I need to get better. How do I drop this nasty destructive habit? How do I get better?" ]	[ "I quit lying about the time it cost me my job at the CIA. The lies kept building and became large enough that it led to the death of my grandad. Agent Grandad I called her, and she raised me, kept me from being an orphan in fact after my parents died in Jonestown with the Koolaide.\n\nNo, I meant Johnstown with the flood. Anyhow it took being jobless and family-less before I was able to start telling the truth to some people. Then to all people. And now it's been 763 days without a lie, white, little, or otherwise. I'm like Jim Carry in that one movie, Pet Detective, now.\n\nA life free of lies is perhaps lonelier but far easier to keep track of. So to motivate yourself not to lie, remember everything it can cost you. Like how I blew my chance at inheriting an African Kingdom one time. Lies lead to loss. Remember that.", "Try and find someone new to talk to and start off being as honest/truthful as you can be and hopefully by talking to that person enough it will get the neurons in your brain to follow that path subconsciously instead of lying ", "TLDR: Grow some cojones, man\nTo stop being a liar you should first face your fear.\nYour fear of being rejected for saying the truth, the fear of not being perceived as a great accomplisher by your loved ones, the fear of solitude, on an on.\nTo stop being a liar you not only have to face your fears and anxietys: you have to DROWN in them.\nFear is a powerful emotion. The way to deal with it (as with any other kind of emotion) is to stand still while experiencing it, and do whatever you were doing AS IF YOU WEREN'T BEING AFFECTED by that emotion. \nFirst you have to not think too much of it: it's like getting inside the cold sea. Little by little. You have to get out of your confort zone.\nThen, when you have your feet in, you gently keep walking, exposing yourself to that emorion little by little.\nAnd then you will be able to deal with that emotion (be it fear or anything). You have to expose yourself to your inner problems to learn how to deal with them. If you hide them/run away from them, you won´t succeed.\nhttp://dune.wikia.com/wiki/Litany_Against_Fear", "Know that every time you lie, whoever you are lying to can see right through you. You probably aren't as good at it as you think and the people you are lying to just smile and nod as to not make you feel bad " ]	[ 5, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to reply to someone who points out you are quiet/don't talk much Based on this previous LPT [Don't point it out when someone is quiet/doesn't talk much](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/48j2bi/lpt_dont_point_it_out_when_someone_is_quietdoesnt/), I wonder what tips people have on how to respond politely, e.g. it's a work situation or it's something your father-in-law has said to you?", "How to reply to someone who points out you are quiet/don't talk much Based on this previous LPT [Don't point it out when someone is quiet/doesn't talk much](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/48j2bi/lpt_dont_point_it_out_when_someone_is_quietdoesnt/), I wonder what tips people have on how to respond politely, e.g. it's a work situation or it's something your father-in-law has said to you?" ]	[ "Feel free to browse the many threads on /r/Introvert which have answers for this question: \n\n* https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/1np8lj/youre_so_quiet/?ref=search_posts\n\n* https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/1rl38c/a_more_polite_response_to_why_are_you_so_quiet/?ref=search_posts\n\n* https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/1o1d02/are_you_gay_youre_really_quiet/?ref=search_posts\n\n* https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/s24am/wow_youre_really_quiet_you_must_be_shy/?ref=search_posts\n\n* https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/1pq4lt/i_cant_stop_hearing_why_are_you_so_quiet_like_its/?ref=search_posts\n\n* https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/qtsio/what_do_you_say_to_the_question_why_are_you_so/\n\n* https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/comments/2b4k69/so_fed_up_of_being_among_extroverts_who_keep/?ref=search_posts", "I just look at the person who said it and nod. If I have something to say, I'll say it. If you want a conversation, then start one and I'll join in. But commenting about me being quiet is not going to get me to talk." ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n", "how to look less tired sorry if this is a repost or the wrong subreddit, im a bit new :)\n\nI often look tired during the day even if i have enough sleep, any tips here? this makes me feel rly uncomfortable, unthanks in advance!\n\n" ]	[ "* Background: Lived in NYC, Client Facing Finance, Heavy Drinker and Daily Partier and im a dude.\n\n* 1)Eye Cream- Lab Series- Tightens and makes you look awake I've used the roller and a number of other brands- Labs the best IMO\n* 2) Clear Eyes and Visine are good- but for blazing almost scary white bright eyes- Naphcon- try it\n* 3) A little bit of mouthwash and not the pussy kind- Straight Listerine that will pep your shit up- and brushing your teeth helps\n* 4) I also chew Dentine Ice-Artic Chill- Probably the most hardcore gum out there and you should be good to go.\n* 5) Also, a little extra deodorant (for the drinkers)\n* 6) Eat within 30 minutes of waking up- Starts your engine\n* 7) A nice large glass of water first thing when you wake up is necessary as well as you havent been hydrated in atleast 6 hours \n\n* ", "1. Make sure your getting good sleep and make sure you get full cycles of sleep. Visit sleepti.me to see what I mean.\n2. I cleanse my face every other day and moisturize everyday. I don't mean having a mask of cream or something, it's something like the garner thing but made by Nivea. It has made a huge difference in making me feel and look awake. ", "I can't tell you guys how thankful I am for this thread. I am currently in grad school, and every day someone tells me I look \"tired.\" It's almost comedic how often it happens.\n\n I understand they're saying I look like shit.\n\nJust bought the roll-on from amazon.", "I was taught early on to put two spoons in the freezer and place them under your eyes in the morning. Also, I am genuinely less tired if I exercise for 10 minutes in the morning. (A.k.a. get the blood flowing)", "If you are not opposed to wearing make-up, put concealer around the inside corners of your eyes and the sides of your upper nose. Most people focus on under the eye, but the inner bits make the biggest difference. In fact, concealer below the eyes tends to accentuate bagginess.", "I wear glasses with substantial frames. I know it works because when I occasionally wear contact lenses, at least one asshole who means well tells me I look tired. S W E E T J E E Z U S S I hate that. ", "I use a bit of Preparation H (yes the butt cream) under my eye when I'm looking tired. It's cheaper than the roll on stick in the long run as one tube will last much longer than the stick. I also will take a Super B Complex multi vitamin. It helps you to digest food in a manner that produces more energy... As well as having lots of Vitamin B. It makes your pee really yellow (and is known to cause headaches in some people) but I find that feeling more awake makes me look more awake. \n\nSomeone here also suggested using concealer on your inner eye. Try using a white eyeliner in the inner corner (and the bottom waterline) instead. ", "I had the same experience when I was in grad school. Part of the problem for me was how much sitting I did, in class, in the car, at the library, or in front of a computer. This is really bad for your circulation. \n\nTry to get outside, get some sun, and get some exercise. The only days I felt and looked \"normal\" were the saturdays I played intramural ultimate frisbee. Got the blood flowing, got some sun/color on my face, etc", "1. Keep old tea bags in a ziplock and put them in the fridge; when you have dark circles, place some on your eyes for five minutes.\n\n2. Old cucumber-on-eyes method\n\n3. Buy a concealer one-three shades lighter than your skin tone; conceal the circles and the inner/outer corners of the eyes.\n\n4. Use natural makeup on the eyes, then highlight the inside and lower crease with a light/bright eyeshadow such as white, light tan, golden, or silver.\n\n5. Make cucumber ice cubes: Just juice some cucumbers with water, pour it into ice trays, freeze it, then rub them on your face in the morning.\n\n", "Not sure if you're male or female but I'll post anyways.\n\nI'm a pretty low maintenance female and I do not wear makeup if I do not have to. Days when I go to work without any makeup on I always get the \"you look tired\" thing. It never fails. I've learned to put on some mascara and a little bit of eye liner and it seems to fix the problem. I don't do foundation or anything else. Maybe that would help me look even more alive...", "More happy soul satisfying sex. It works wonders. It cures depression and most people see their skin glow (and not because of the jizz on their face).", "Didn't see this so I'm going to post it. Exercising (particularly first thing in the morning) is a great way to look less tired for several reasons:\n\nFirst, the sweat followed by a nice shower (preferably colder if you're really going all out) will help dry out your skin and give you more of a natural glow. Hot yoga especially works wonders for your skin; I highly recommend it.\n\nSecond, it wakes your body up, increases blood flow early, and just makes you feel a bit lighter going throughout the day.\n\nFinally, exercising is a surefire way to sleep deeper and better. Exercise statistically causes people to fall asleep easier and sleep deeper. This is all obviously in addition to the other health benefits.\n\nI thought I should note as well that your post made it seem like you're not getting consistently good sleep. You sleep well every now and then. Keep in mind that sleeping well is not a once in once out type of situation. If you get 4-6 hours of sleep (way too little) 3 nights in a row and then get your 7-9 on one night, you're not going to, all of a sudden, be rejuvenated and feel great the next day. Sleeping well needs to build up. You can, in many ways, make up for lost sleep by napping and sleeping in on the weekends, but if you're really concerned about your body and looks you should be getting 7-9 hours as consistently as possible. I've read that you actually feel your sleep habits the day AFTER the day directly following your night of sleep. In other words, if tonight I sleep terribly, tomorrow I'll, mostly, be fine (unless you have psychosomatic issues). It's the day after tomorrow when I'll really feel it. Long story short is, if you want to look better focus on sleeping better consistently. You shouldn't be surprised if you still look like shit after a good night of sleep if, overall, you haven't been doing well in bed.", "a good concealer and corrector go a long way, as well, but i advocate good, anti-puffiness eye cream and cold water cleansing in the morning.", "Aveda Hydrating Mask as a moisturizer. Use only a little, but don't rinse it off. It's oil-free and your skin will just drink it in. Dehydration is the often the cause of tired looking skin (and fine lines!). \n\nUnsolicited bonus tip: if you end up with a hicky (does anyone even do that anymore?), moisturizer with tint will give a more natural coverage than concealer. ", "Put preparation h under your eyes at night. It will shrink the blood vessels and alleviate the dark circles. Oh, and if I understand correctly, it is supposed to help with hemmorhoids too, if that's a problem for you.", "My old debate coach taught us this one: put a bit of minty lip balm on your eye lids, the menthol will make you tear up a bit but it clears up any redness and makes you look more alert. Its also nice cuz most people have lip balm lying around. ", "It could be that you're wearing the wrong colours for your skin tone. Whenever I wear black or olive green, people ask me if I'm feeling okay, or say I look tired.\n\nCheck out Color Me Beautiful from your local library. It's a bit dated (1980's) and written specifically for women, but I think it could help you a lot, after all, men have skin and wear clothes just like ladies.\n\nThe basic principle behind the book is that everyone fits into one of four seasons, and has an associated set of colours which makes them look their best. Spring (warm, muted colours), Summer (cool, muted colours), Autumn (warm, deep colours) and Winter (Cool, bold colours)", "I am convinced that a hot steamy rag held on your eyes for several minutes will open up blood vessels and eliminate bags under your eyes.\nSource: accidently did this while opening my pores to clean my face.", "Before rushing off to spend $100 on face creams that may or may not work and may or may not make you all broken out, I would first try sleep loading (one weekend just take some NyQuil, or some ambien if you have access, and knock out most of the weekend). Try lightly exfoliating your skin in the shower. Try a cold eye mask when you wake up. Try adding a vitamin E and omega-3 supplement to your supplements (you should also be taking a good multivitamin). Get some sun. Eat a healthy diet (not a bunch of soda and bread and grease). In the morning maybe do a few sets of pushups and situps to wake you up and make sure your body language seems awake too. If all of that combined doesn't help, then I guess you can resort to trying to put cremes and crap on your face. But I'd try just being all around healthier first. Most celebs say sleep loading is a secret to looking good. Keep in mind some people just have sleepy looking features, it's not necessarily a bad thing as long as you're not actually tired all the time.", "First, stop using XD, :D, :), and ! every sentence. If your face doesn't match the expression, you'll look tired. And a liar.", "LTP: if you're a 17 year old dude, don't use \"XD\". On another note, try smiling. It'll make you look less tired. " ]	[ 29, 24, 21, 10, 9, 6, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -2 ]	safe
[ "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently.", "How do you avoid awkward introductions if you aren't sure you're met the person, or at a work function where you've probably met people before. I was at a function the other night and my friend introduced me to someone and asked if we've met before. I did the classic nope I don't think so and then she was like yeah we've met at the same time. i then began to apologizing awkwardly which obviously led to babbling incoherently." ]	[ "I'm really friggin' terrible with names, so I've developed some mechanisms to cope with these situations. Being vague seems to work pretty well.\n\nWhen your friend says, \"Have you guys met?\" you basically just ignore the question, throw out a hand for a shake, and say, \"Hey, how are you?\"\n\nQuick misdirection and a sidestep of the question, that puts the ball in the court of the other person, who will reveal whether we've met before or not, or if they're unsure, it also relieves them of the same stress.\n\n", "Greet everyone in every situation with \"It's nice to SEE you\" instead of \"it's nice to meet you\". Saved me a million times", "Ok, I'm mostly seeing a lot of jokes and tricks. These may work but the easiest thing to do is just be straightforward, friendly, and show that you haven't completely forgot who they are:\n\nIf you're really not sure if you've met, just say:\n\n\"I'm sorry, I think we've met before but I can't remember your name\"\n\nOr if you're sure you've met and are just blanking on the name:\n\n\"Yes! We've met. You work in marketing and we met at the Christmas party. But I'm sorry it was a while ago and I'm blanking on your name!\"\n\nAny decent person will smile and say their name again, as a courtesy I usually say mine again too. If you remember anything about the person (anything at all), be sure to say it. Showing you remember a little something about them will make it much less awkward and you'll come across as someone is just bad with names instead of a complete idiot. \n\nAlso, something to think about: if you can't remember their name, there's a very good chance they can't remember yours either! Not that many people are talented with names, and those who are generally aren't offended by those who aren't.", "Regardless of whether you know them or not: pretend like you do. \"Of course I know Susan, we went to elementary school together\" is an obvious lie that diverts attention from the actual question and even lets you roll with the joke as \"How have you been?\" works both ways now.", "I'm a heavy introvert. I'm not going to remember your name unless your play a decent role in my life. So I have experience with this.\nPeople all the time come up saying \"Hey Jomo! What's up?\" and I have no idea who they are. In my life, nothing trumps honesty. Say something like \"Hey! I'm really terrible at remembering people but you seem familiar!\" or something similar. Just let them know that your not actively trying to forget them but that you have this problem (with) everyone.\n", "I personally use something to the effect of \"I think we've met before, but I'm drawing a blank.\" Then just restate my name/handshake and wait for theirs.", "What I've done before : \" what was your name again?\" As I shake the hand. The person will say their name ( maybe feel awkward because i forgot their name), then I quickly reply , \"no, I meant your last name!\" \nNow they don't feel so bad after all AND I got their name again. ", "don't think of it as awkward, rather a chance to make friends... you might not know.... the probability of her having a hot sister/aunt/cousin/friend/twin sister, or some kind of goods to offer, are significantly high.\n\nbe friendly and kind. Hell, with most people on net shitting down on each other throats with their words, we need more of your friendly e-net strangers.", "To be honest if the situation requires you to know their name you have to deal with that initial awkwardness and ask but do so as endearingly as you can and not condescendingly so. If not feel free to just pretend you know them and let them in your conversation space. This happens to me regularly as I've taught for years but I only ask their name if its more than just a passing conversation. ", "If they know your name, make sure you know theirs (ask another person, or even ask them). It is much, much better to get that small bit of awkwardness asking then risk alienation when they realise that you mean less to them than they thought. This is very dangerous (socially speaking) so I will repeat it. You need to figure out their name (and use it).\n\nIn general, conversations are about flow, so it doesn't matter if you start with \"So where did we meet?\" or \"where did I see you last?\" or \"what was your name again?\" as long as you follow with normal conversation (if after they talk, you stare with deer headlights awkwardly, then yes they are only going to remember that one thing you said, and it will be wierd).\n\nThe flow of conversation with strangers is:\n\n1. You start talking about anything (if you are stuck: weather, events, hobbies, books, anything really means anything.... except politics and religion, avoid these topics).\n\n2. After they feel comfortable with you they will start to add to the conversation which gives you options to ask them on their input (So you said ... where did you...). In my experience, for Introverts it takes 5-20 minutes, for Extroverts 0-2 minutes.\n\n3. Once they are open you can keep asking them things about whatever you want to know. In my experience, most people love to talk, but only when they feel comfortable.\n\n4. Keep asking questions and fill in lulls with stories, or silence if you want to see if 'she' likes you or not (she will re-engage conversation quickly).\n\nIf you are an introvert, you might notice that step 1 has been missing from your conversations, this is because one person needs to open a conversation (and you probably have been letting the other people do it). Try being that person and you will find that it is much easier than you think, and you don't have to say as much.\n\nOnce you get the general gist of conversations, you can stretch the rules to suit your personality:\n\n>her: yeah we've met at the same time\n\n>me: oh, alright I'll give you a test, what is my favourite colour\n\n>her: ....\n\n>me: pfft some friend you are (feign anger)\n\n>me: what was your name again?\n\n>(normal conversation follows)\n", "I've always had this problem. If the person you're with is a friend, spouse, they can give you great cover here. You start talking to the person whose name you can't remember without making an introduction. Your accomplice (the person with you) introduces themselves. This prompts the mystery person to introduce themselves. Now you know who they are and with a quick apology (\"oh, I'm sorry. How rude of me,\" or, \"My apologies. I thought you two knew each other.\") you've seamlessly identified the person without appearing as though you'd forgotten who they were.\n\nOtherwise, I find it best to just approach them, introduce yourself directly, and simply apologize that you know that you should know them but can't place them. In my last job, I met thousands of people, so this was common.", "I was at a wedding when my ex's cousin in front of a dozen people walked up and introduced himself to me.\nEmbarrassment levels hit high numbers when everyone started laughing then I had to remind him we had met on several occasions.\nLPT: If someone looks even vaguely familiar don't introduce yourself like they are a complete stranger." ]	[ 22, 21, 7, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n", "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n", "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n", "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n", "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n", "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n", "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n", "How to think outside the box and actually contribute in a corporate job. I'm a software developer, and I'm really good at taking requirements and making them \"come to life\". However, where I feel like I lack the most is my ability to think outside the box and come up with cool solutions to things or new ideas that will actually make a difference.\n\nExample: I was invited to a 2016 planning meeting, and literally had no idea where to even start. I always question whether my ideas will be laughed at or will even be good enough for the business to be taken seriously, and that lack of confidence prevents me from speaking up.\n\nWhenever I'm in a meeting, I always hold back on spewing ideas (again, due to lack of confidence). Generally someone else will voice a similar idea and get solid recognition. I then decide to speak up and voice other ideas which don't get the same reactions and are mostly ignored. This bothers me so much - the fact that I hold back on saying ideas that people will like, and end up letting someone else take the spotlight. It almost feels like people hate on my ideas just because, even though I'm sure that's not the case.\n\n/rant\n\n\n" ]	[ "make sure your ideas do not come across as gripes. \n\nThey should be actionable and even better if you just make them happen.", "Thinking outside the box isn't for people working in a corporate job.\n \nContributing in the corporate environment generally mean's doing the work and getting none of the cr", "There are a couple of ideas that I have that has changed my perspective on what you're talking about. I think that it's not just simply a matter of coming up with good ideas, but rather what value you bring to the company you work for. \n\nYou've already been invited to this 2016 event. Great! That means that you're boss, or whoever, already think that you're ideas are valid and good anyway, or else they wouldn't invite you. \n\nNext is the fear of saying something wrong or spitting out an idea that everyone disagrees with. Let me just say, you're going to be ok. \n\nIf you spit out an idea, and get fired for it, you don't need to be working for that company. If everyone disagrees with it, it's ok. Still it's a valid idea and a valid point. Most times you'll have people agreeing with you on ideas. Don't get too caught up with that one best idea, chances are, someone else has already thought of it. \n\nAs far as your career, don't worry to much about staying at a single company. Infact people who move from company to company and negotiate their pay raises often make more money than people who just stay at one company forever. \n\nNow, i'm lazy. The best way to make things better at the place you work at is to make things easier for you to get work done, so you can be lazy. This is where all inventions and great ideas come from. Think about that. We get in cars to drive to places. Every product we buy is to make the things that we're trying to do easier, simpler, and where it's automatic. That's a good place to start. \n", "Some good tools for thinking outside of the box are [Edward de Bono's Lateral Thinking tools](http://www.debonogroup.com/lateral_reading.php)\n\nYou can take one of his courses or just [buy the book.](http://www.amazon.ca/Lateral-Thinking-Bono-Edward/dp/0141033088/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1449347283&sr=1-1)\n\nI remember a quote that when asked how to come up with 10 good ideas. the answer was to come up with hundreds of ideas and throw out the bad ones.\n\nSo go ahead a spew your ideas\n", "In brainstorming, it is okay at the beginning to spew off ideas that may sound senseless. After the initial idea gathering the ideas should be evaluated as a group and decide whether it should stay or go.", "I'm a bit late on this. But I'm regularly in planning and strategy meetings, my job takes the concept from the table to being funded, so basically I'm the guy that enacts the plan. I can give you some hints as to what you need to be doing.\n\n1- In a planning meeting, I don't want the software/IT guys to be planning and strategising. You don't know enough about what's going on at the director level, in finance etc. Your job is to say how something could be done. At most you should pull out any hard changes, and explain they are costly, hopefully with a cheaper alternative to put forward.\n\n2 - Seriously. If you know it can be done with a vb script and a FTP client, clarify what they are trying to do and state the simpler way. Or a better bit of software, or the issues with the existing system that prevent what's being discussed.\n\n3 - Having an idea is great. But make sure it's an idea the director/s like/s. Always assume people know only 50% of what's going on, they could be planning to outsource in 6 months, or have a major contract about to land. So don't worry about doing much more than defining what is needed, then suggesting solutions. \n\n4 - Think about cost. Think about time to complete. Think about complexity. Think about how long it would need to last (temp or enduring). Think about the problem they are trying to solve. Think about the constraints of the environment. If a solution doesn't become immediately apparent, then suggest a number of things that might work. The list can be redone later.\n\n5 - Think inside the box. The box is what's possible, what's feasible, what's going to be accepted. You're there to facilitate, not redefine the business objectives, or redesign the strategy. \n\n6 - If you want to get on, make sure you're the solution in the meeting. Saying 'Yes, we can implement that solution in 6 months' will have you delivering the fix, nobody will remember who suggested it. \n\n \n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "I happen to be good at coming up with new ideas for products and have done it for a living for a while. Here are some questions that should help you think along the right lines: \n\n1. What is the overall aim of the business? Not just \"make money\", but what is the business trying to be better at than everyone else? What is the overall mission, the brand, etc. about?\n\n2. What 'special talents' does your business have that nobody else has? What can your business do that nobody else can do quite as well? What are you in a position to do, that nobody else might be quite so well-positioned to do? What can you do better, faster, cheaper - that can be modified and turned into a new product or service? \n\n3. What do your customers want or need? What's a pain in the ass they have, that you can fix in a way that jibes with the unique things about your business? (note: DO NOT CONFUSE THINKING YOU KNOW WHAT THEY WANT WITH KNOWING WHAT THEY WANT. EVERYONE DOES THIS AND IT'S STUPID AF. YOU ARE NOT THE CUSTOMER AND THE CUSTOMER IS NOT YOU. TATTOO THIS ON YOUR BRAIN IF YOU WANT TO INNOVATE CORRECTLY.) How can you give them something they want that they might not have even thought of yet? \n\nOther general points: \n\n1. Get a sense of how the business runs overall. Where does most of the revenue come from? What are the biggest costs? Are there alternatives to the most expensive vendors/suppliers/consultants your company uses? Or ones that are similarly expensive but better? Are there new markets where you can sell the same thing and get more revenue? What's being overlooked with regard to how things are now? \n\n2. Remember not to shit on anyone's idea too directly, even if you know it will never work in a million years. Everyone takes even the most mild criticism personally, and while some people are able to fight that urge successfully, most aren't. If someone makes a retarded suggestion and you are worried about it going too far, say \"I love this idea but unfortunately I don't think we can do it, because XYZ. It's awesome but it's probably not possible until we can do ABC.\" This way you're not hating on the idea, just pouring cold hard fact-water on it. This is OK and can often lead to people coming up with smart solutions to get around the roadblock. \n\n3. Overall if you go in to any meeting with a solid grip on how your company makes money, how it could potentially make more money, and the prevailing competitive and market conditions, you'll be able to participate effectively. \n\nGood luck! It's always good to have an engineer/dev in a business meeting to provide a reality check. Even better when they understand the business as a whole. Best when they don't assume that understanding the technical aspects means they understand the business better than anyone else. ", "As someone who was recently promoted to management, I too struggled with raising my voice and giving my opinion. I've realized that for most jobs (especially entry-level) you are implicitly taught that your opinion doesn't matter, you aren't paid to have an opinion or suggestion, and that you just need to focus on your job. So over time, this idea that our opinion doesn't matter sets into our subconsciousness. \n\nThe problem is, when a time comes where our opinion, view, or suggestion actually does matter or could be important, we've forgot how to be confident in asserting ourselves. It feels awkward having a say in a matter when for so long you're taught it doesn't matter. \n\nBut if you're in a position where you're in meetings and the point of the meeting is to share ideas, then it's actually part of your job to contribute and you're not doing your job if you don't. Think of it as your duty to give your ideas if you feel you have a good one. You aren't intruding by doing this, you're doing exactly what you need to be doing - you're helping the company out by contributing, and if you're not contributing, then you're not a valuable employee. \n\nOnce I saw voicing my views and giving suggestions as part of my role now, and actually my duty, it has really made it easier to speak up if I have an idea. It's part of my job now to have ideas, and not expressing them is not doing my job. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Does anyone have any solutions to a low pressure shower on a 4 floor walk up? Idk where to post this but my new apartments shower has awful water pressure. Would a different shower head fix the issue or am I doomed?", "Does anyone have any solutions to a low pressure shower on a 4 floor walk up? Idk where to post this but my new apartments shower has awful water pressure. Would a different shower head fix the issue or am I doomed?", "Does anyone have any solutions to a low pressure shower on a 4 floor walk up? Idk where to post this but my new apartments shower has awful water pressure. Would a different shower head fix the issue or am I doomed?", "Does anyone have any solutions to a low pressure shower on a 4 floor walk up? Idk where to post this but my new apartments shower has awful water pressure. Would a different shower head fix the issue or am I doomed?", "Does anyone have any solutions to a low pressure shower on a 4 floor walk up? Idk where to post this but my new apartments shower has awful water pressure. Would a different shower head fix the issue or am I doomed?" ]	[ "Maybe. If the shower head is old, they tend to be less efficient with the pressure available. Newer ones can use tricks like having less streams or pulsing to give the illusion of higher pressure. But they can’t work miracles.", "You can't increase the actual water pressure with a new shower head, no.\n\nBut you should make sure that the mains pressure is the problem before settling for a life of dribbling showers!\n\nIf you're getting good flow from the taps in the bathroom then it's possible there's an issue with the pipe work to the shower being gunked up, or a twisted or kinked shower hose restricting flow, or, yes, even a partially blocked shower head.\n\nThese are all things to raise with your landlord if you're renting.\n\nIf you have a gravity feed water supply then you can install a power shower which will solve all your issues, but if you're on a rising main then all you can do is hope fixing one of the other problems does the trick.\n\nI would ask a neighbour what their water pressure is like, then contact the landlord.", "Is the shower head old? If it hasn’t been maintained it might just need a good clean. What’s the water pressure like with the shower head removed?", "We have a 100-yr old 3 story house with a shower on the top floor. Yeah, water pressure is fine everywhere else except that shower. I don’t remember the exact numbers but most shower heads are designed for “1.6” flow rate. You need a shower head rated for a lower number like .8 or 1.2. We have a shower head that I found at Bed, Bath and Beyond called The Fury that adds air to the stream and that worked for us. However, if you can’t find anything, consider looking where they sell RV parts and products. They have shower heads that deal with really low pressure gravity feed water.", "Disclaimer: I am not a plumber. Just a homeowner who had a similar issue.\n\nRemove your showerhead and get a gallon jug. \n\nTime how long it takes you to fill the gallon.\n\nIf it takes less than 24 seconds then replacing the showerhead should help. If it takes longer that means there's not really much you can do to fix since the issue is in the plumbing/water supply." ]	[ 5, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to break in a garden hose. I have a 100 foot 3/4\" Garden hose purchased new this year. Getting cold in my area and it was really hard to drain and wined up. Would like some options to break it in so its easier to store. ", "How to break in a garden hose. I have a 100 foot 3/4\" Garden hose purchased new this year. Getting cold in my area and it was really hard to drain and wined up. Would like some options to break it in so its easier to store. ", "How to break in a garden hose. I have a 100 foot 3/4\" Garden hose purchased new this year. Getting cold in my area and it was really hard to drain and wined up. Would like some options to break it in so its easier to store. " ]	[ "There are no options as the devil himself put a spell on those things just like he did with vacuumcleaners and printers. Some things just aren't ment for us until we stop sinning or something ", "I don't think this is possible. I also have a 100 ft, 3/4\" hose that's been in my yard for about 15 years. That thing is sill hard as the day I bought it. Winding it up is very difficult. I just shove it under a tree for storage. ", "I bought a Goodyear hose (made with black tire material). The rubber is very nice, Flexible, soft in the hot sun. Next time you buy a hose check it out, I've had hard plastic had it can be a struggle" ]	[ 7, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting a Job in a town you are not familiar with whilst homeless. I waaaaaaaaaaaas backpacking, but I got a call from a roommate saying he kicked out the other roommate and we cant afford the place anymore (smooth moooooooove). \n\nSo yeah, where i was staying is a small boring town and i think I'm just going to move wherever i run out of money at ", "Getting a Job in a town you are not familiar with whilst homeless. I waaaaaaaaaaaas backpacking, but I got a call from a roommate saying he kicked out the other roommate and we cant afford the place anymore (smooth moooooooove). \n\nSo yeah, where i was staying is a small boring town and i think I'm just going to move wherever i run out of money at ", "Getting a Job in a town you are not familiar with whilst homeless. I waaaaaaaaaaaas backpacking, but I got a call from a roommate saying he kicked out the other roommate and we cant afford the place anymore (smooth moooooooove). \n\nSo yeah, where i was staying is a small boring town and i think I'm just going to move wherever i run out of money at " ]	[ "Charisma. \n\nHit the street.\n\nJedi mind trick: Don't just go in and ask for an application, or if they're hiring. Ask to speak to the manager. When manager appears, say, \"I know you generally don't just hire people off the street, but I figured you might know of a good place for me to go apply?\"\n\nTakes them off the defensive and makes them feel like an expert. Thank them for their time, even if they say no. \n\nYou should leave your name and number (\"just in case you think of any more places to recommend\").\n\nThis has gotten me a job every time I've wandered into a new city, no matter how big or small. Good luck!", "[Here is a list of state employment websites.](http://www.statelocalgov.net/50states-jobs.cfm) They are all government agencies, they won't charge for job placement, and their job is to help you find work. Perfect if you don't have any local connections.\n\nIf you can go to an office in person, they often have all the applications for the jobs they offer there so you can fill out a bunch of them at once. They also usually will assist you in writing a resume. \n\nGood luck.", "im constantly traveling and often find myself in this same situation.. the hardest part is finding a shower... you can always go the mexican route and stand outside of your larger hardware stores in the morning with a sign that says needs work" ]	[ 17, 7, 2 ]	safe
[ "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please", "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please", "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please", "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please", "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please", "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please", "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please", "How To Say No Everything I'm asked to do at work, I do it. Work my day off, yes. Train new people without compensation, yes. Go assist other sales reps when my day is finished, sure.\n\nHelp me please" ]	[ "\"I can do the work you're asking for, or this other work I need to do: which would you like me to prioritise?\"\n\n\"I can't work that day sorry, I have plans.\"\n\n\"I can train that person, but only during work hours.\"\n\n\"I can't assist you sorry, I have an appointment.\"\n\nYou do not need to tell them anything more and if they ask, say it's personal or a long story or you don't have time to explain right now.", "The issue isn't you need to learn how to say no. The issue is you dont have enough confidence to think you have the right to say no. I suggest you self-reflect on why you think you can't say no and tell yourself you are not responsible for all of what they are asking. \n\nAction precedes feelings on this in the sense that the sooner you just start saying no, the sooner you will feel more confident in saying no. \n\nAlso, don't justify. If the answer is no just say that. \n\"We need you to come into work Saturday. \n\"No, I can't.\"\n\nIf they ask why or start to question you say \"I need to review my job description and speak with HR. My understanding of my job responsibilities are becoming blurred.\" Or \"it's my day off. Thanks for calling. See you ________.\" ", "Maybe you shouldn't do this but if it was me I'd probably make up some bullshit excuse that they know is fake like \"Sorry I can't I've got to fight aliens\"", "Since they already expect you to be ~~a pushover~~ always available, as to not generate resentment, I suggest you start by having a important activity for the time. Work on Saturday? You totally would, but you're gonna drive 3 hours to see your grandma! Her poor 5th husband just died, you need to be there for her!", "Preemptive no. When the person asking you to do ridiculous things starts asking for \"a favor\" their voice gets higher as the words go on. As soon as the wheedling voice starts, just say \"NO\" loudly as soon as your name comes out of their mouth. You can then play it off like a joke and lets you backpedal if it's something you actually want to do.\n\nHad three younger sisters, this is a learned response to the wheedling voice. Even male managers will take this tone when they're screwing you over and they know it, because they're trying to make it seem like you're the asshole for saying no to a ridiculous request.\n\nSo don't give them the chance to do it. Use preemptive negation to train them out of asking for ridiculous and insulting shit like this, since they're treating you like a child and a pushover by doing it. It's takes patience and repetition, but they'll quit tasking you with free work more quickly than you think, they're only doing it because you're being an easy mark.\n\nAlternatively or additionally, make a schedule of things for your days off and shortly after normal business hours. Even if you don't actually do anything but play video games, make a schedule of made up shit you can refer to at your desk (this helps keep track of lies as well) like babysitting for a family member, recreational activities that require a deposit and/or reservations without refunds or rescheduling. Feel free as well to blame a significant other \"sorry, my GF/BF is upset from the last time I stayed late\" or pet \"sorry, have to let my dog out or he'll tear up my apartment\" even if you have to fabricate one.", "Since it's work- You can say \"Sure I'll be glad to assist you in any way possible, soon as x or y is completed i'll drop over\" then you just do not make it over. I used to work for 50B size company and engineers basically could not flat say no I won't assist, but you could say yes but never make it. I hated it cuse I thought it would be better to be honest with people but fucking management is management.", "Well you could draw a line where you sit down and say you have done a lot of extra work in your own time but received no increase in pay or feedback - so you would like to see it reflected in future. Work out the amount of time you have spent, what you have achieved in a factual way. Not in a complaining way. You could either carry on and get recognition for it or say that you are unable to currently, giving vague reasons why not. Family commitments.", "Learn to rephrase \"I don't think so\". \n\nUse different inflection and tone. Use 'yes, and':\n\nWill you work overtime today?\n\nOh, is nextshiftworker still sick? Yes, I think I can do that. Just let me check my calendar. Oh, by the way, it looks like I've got an appointment next Tuesday at 3; maybe nextshiftworker can cover for me? I'll have to leave at 2. \n\nThey can't really do much with that, except agree to your terms. In the meantime, your 'appointment' is taking yourself out to the movies.\n\nCheck out \"Getting in Touch With Your Inner Bitch\" for more examples." ]	[ 17, 6, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stop having too high expectations of myself? Since forever I am struggling with feeling very down if I cannot do my best. It doesn't need to be perfect, but whenever I made mistakes that I could have avoided, I'm hating myself for it. I know nobody's perfect and you can't give 100% every day - but it never prevented me of feeling sad when I do worse when usual. Any advice what I could do?", "How do I stop having too high expectations of myself? Since forever I am struggling with feeling very down if I cannot do my best. It doesn't need to be perfect, but whenever I made mistakes that I could have avoided, I'm hating myself for it. I know nobody's perfect and you can't give 100% every day - but it never prevented me of feeling sad when I do worse when usual. Any advice what I could do?", "How do I stop having too high expectations of myself? Since forever I am struggling with feeling very down if I cannot do my best. It doesn't need to be perfect, but whenever I made mistakes that I could have avoided, I'm hating myself for it. I know nobody's perfect and you can't give 100% every day - but it never prevented me of feeling sad when I do worse when usual. Any advice what I could do?", "How do I stop having too high expectations of myself? Since forever I am struggling with feeling very down if I cannot do my best. It doesn't need to be perfect, but whenever I made mistakes that I could have avoided, I'm hating myself for it. I know nobody's perfect and you can't give 100% every day - but it never prevented me of feeling sad when I do worse when usual. Any advice what I could do?", "How do I stop having too high expectations of myself? Since forever I am struggling with feeling very down if I cannot do my best. It doesn't need to be perfect, but whenever I made mistakes that I could have avoided, I'm hating myself for it. I know nobody's perfect and you can't give 100% every day - but it never prevented me of feeling sad when I do worse when usual. Any advice what I could do?" ]	[ "Learn to appreciate the fact that you actually notice your mistakes and strive to correct them. Many people dont care.", "Give yourself permission to fail. We all do it, it's how we learn. For some of us, it's the only way we learn.", "I struggle with perfectionism too and have been working on it for a long time. These things have often helped me: \n\nFor perfectionism while completing tasks, I ask myself what the criteria is for “passable” or “good enough”. Anything extra is bonus points.\n\nIf I mess up, I’ve learned to say in a loud, bored voice: “OOPS.” \n\nIf someone points out that I did something wrong, I tell them: “Oops, thanks! I learn something new every day.” \n\nWhen looking back at a mistake, I ask myself: “What did I learn so I don’t make this mistake again?” \n\nIf I’m being rrreeeeaaally hard on myself, I try to imagine how I’d talk to my 5 year old self if she had just made a mistake. Growing up, my parents tended to shame us for mistakes so I try to tell myself what I needed to hear back then (It’s okay to make mistakes, I still love you, let’s figure out a different way, etc.)\n\nGood luck. It’s hard when your harshest critic is with you 24/7.", "Get in to the notion of Kaizen (continuous inprovement). Then 'perfect' becomes something that isn't ever achieved until the learning from mistakes/errors has taken place. You'll get better generally in what you do but you'll also learn that perfection is a process/journey not a standard to fail yourself by.", "Ask yourself if you would feel the same about someone else if they had made that mistake instead of you. Then allow yourself to be held to the same standard as everybody else. Judge yourself as you would others." ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Gift shopping for people you don't know very well. I guess I'm just asking for generic gift ideas for people besides just gift cards. ", "Gift shopping for people you don't know very well. I guess I'm just asking for generic gift ideas for people besides just gift cards. ", "Gift shopping for people you don't know very well. I guess I'm just asking for generic gift ideas for people besides just gift cards. " ]	[ "Sweaters. \nEngraved things. \nLittle statues/glass figurines etc. Mostly cheap but really fragile. \nBobbleheads\n\nAvoid perfumes/deodorants, Some people assume those are disrespectful gifts as they insinuate that you think they smell bad.", "Cards are more than enough for people you don't know well. Sometimes a kind poem is all it takes to brighten someone's day. Throw some candy or baked treats in for good measure.", "A bottle of wine, pound of coffee/tea, flowers, a mug, candles... all good calls for people you don't know too well.\n\n" ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "best stuff you'll find on Craigslist this time of year Everyone's getting new shit. What's the common stuff people are getting rid of that will end up on Craigslist?", "best stuff you'll find on Craigslist this time of year Everyone's getting new shit. What's the common stuff people are getting rid of that will end up on Craigslist?" ]	[ "Air conditioners! People move into new apartments and realize they don't need it anymore. I bought one last winter and sold it later in the summer for 3x the price. ", "Games consoles and books. Anything that's large enough to take up space in the house, which people think \"Kinda need that space for my new shit\". Like a guitar." ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help.", "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help.", "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help.", "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help.", "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help.", "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help.", "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help.", "Spending the summer painting houses. What knowledge can you impart on me that will make this time easier for me? What should I know? What muscles will hurt the most? What kind of socks do I wear? Best kind of pants? Really anything will help." ]	[ "spend 10 minutes setting up a ladder for 5 minutes worth of painting if thats what it takes to make it safe. falls from ladders is the #1 cause of accidental injury and death. also respect the shit out of short ladders, i know a painter around here that died falling from a 4ft step ladder. read through OSHA's ladder safety stuff, watch some videos, etc. If job #1 on your crew isn't to go home in one piece find another crew to work on. ", "Your shoulders will hurt, from the fatigue of your arm movements. The professional painter I know recommends crossfit exercise. He brings a change of clothing to the job and wears his painter clothing to work, then changes back. He uses very expensive brushes and said that a good brush will last for years.", "Leave the brushes overnight in a white spirit/water solution. This will stop the brushes drying rock hard and you won't spend all your earnings on new brushes. ", "Understand your pay. If you are paid by the hour, cool. But realistically your company bid on the job at a certain price, and you are probably going to get paid the same amount whether it takes 2 days or a week. \n\nDon't switch jobs. you will probably be either a prepper or a sprayer. get fast at one, and don't switch. \n\nMoving your 28 ft ladder by yourself is stupid. \n\nUse a spray shield when painting the gutters.. getting overspray on someones bmw is easily avoidable. Do not get overspray on the roof. Its easily visible. \n\nMentally plan your ladder setups. Try to minimize your ladder moves, as they waste the most time. Before you climb, make sure both feet are planted properly. \n\nBe nice to the customer, but don't do him extra favors. You don't care about repeat business, and spending 30 minutes fixing his gutter is completely unpaid time. \n\nUsing a brush is a giant waste of time. If you can spray it, spray. \n\nTake care of your sprayer. It makes any job 4x faster, and if you have to spend extra time cleaning out old paint, or troubleshooting a problem, its unpaid time. \n\nWhen a crew member is passing by while you are on a ladder, ask him for a quick spot check. he can see the spots you missed, and you dont have to go down and back up, or worse, find them later and have to reset the ladder back up. \n\nSorry if my tips are all about spraying, i was the sprayer, not the prepper. ", "Put a thick rubber band right across the open can of paint and get the excess paint off your brush using that. Paint drips right back into the can and no messy edges.", "If you plan on listening to music, dig out an old Ipod or something with actual buttons, not a touchscreen. Makes shuffling songs easier. Also, put said device in the pocket of pair of pants/shorts you aren't worried about getting paint on. That way you can feel your way around, shuffle all you want, with your gloves on. Less hassle. ", "If its really hot out and you're working with a team, volunteer to clean the brushes - they'll think it's grunt work but standing at the sink with cold water running over your hands (and the brushes) is a good way to cool off.\n\nAlso - wear a dust mask when sanding anything - particulates are bad for your lungs.", "I've painted houses for about 5 years in the summers with my Uncle. First, you're going to get paint on you so just wear trashy clothes. If I went over an edge a little or bumped wood, it's easier to just use your hand or shirt. I never really had sore muscles from painting. But my knees would hurt if I was sanding the baseboards or from bending over for extended periods of time my back may become a bother.\n\nThe prep work is really what matters. Make sure you cover your floors well. Then thoroughly scrape and sand surfaces (not necessary for indoors usually)." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to get water out of my ear quickly I went swimming today and I can hear it sloshing around. It's very annoying. ", "how to get water out of my ear quickly I went swimming today and I can hear it sloshing around. It's very annoying. ", "how to get water out of my ear quickly I went swimming today and I can hear it sloshing around. It's very annoying. ", "how to get water out of my ear quickly I went swimming today and I can hear it sloshing around. It's very annoying. ", "how to get water out of my ear quickly I went swimming today and I can hear it sloshing around. It's very annoying. ", "how to get water out of my ear quickly I went swimming today and I can hear it sloshing around. It's very annoying. ", "how to get water out of my ear quickly I went swimming today and I can hear it sloshing around. It's very annoying. " ]	[ "I know this sounds silly but I like to swing around my head like crazy while jumping on one foot. It gets water out in seconds.", "1 part white vinegar, 1 part rubbing alcohol dropped into your ear should dry it up and also get rid of bacteria that could cause swimmer's ear.", "Find a piece of metal that will fit inside of your ear. Then you must heat up the metal until it is red hot. Once properly heated insert the metal into your ear this will cause the water to evaporate.\n", "Tilt your head and put another drop of water in. You should be able to hear the drop of water combine with the water stuck in your ear. Tilt it the other way and it should come out. You can try jumping a few times if it's not coming out. Repeat. Always worked for me. ;) ", "No joke. It's the craziest feeling ever but do this. Pour a spoonful of peroxide in each ear while laying on your side. Stay there for 15 minutes.. You'll hear the most satisfying sound ever. It sounds like milk on rice krispies. Best feeling ever.", "Tilt your head so the ear with water is facing the floor and then stand on one leg and hop while simultaneously hitting the other side of your head.\n\nWorks best in a public place like in front of the girl you like or during an important speech.", "Put hydrogen peroxide on a qtip/cotton swab and place it at the opening of your ear canal while tilting head to the side of the ear with water in it." ]	[ 7, 6, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal to with your terrible work boss? No coincidence that it's 8pm on a Friday and I'm posting this. I finally got home. My boss gives me \"tasks\" right before I get off of work and makes me stay late once a week at least. I have a feeling it's because of their recent promotion and the lack of my ass kissing ", "How to deal to with your terrible work boss? No coincidence that it's 8pm on a Friday and I'm posting this. I finally got home. My boss gives me \"tasks\" right before I get off of work and makes me stay late once a week at least. I have a feeling it's because of their recent promotion and the lack of my ass kissing ", "How to deal to with your terrible work boss? No coincidence that it's 8pm on a Friday and I'm posting this. I finally got home. My boss gives me \"tasks\" right before I get off of work and makes me stay late once a week at least. I have a feeling it's because of their recent promotion and the lack of my ass kissing ", "How to deal to with your terrible work boss? No coincidence that it's 8pm on a Friday and I'm posting this. I finally got home. My boss gives me \"tasks\" right before I get off of work and makes me stay late once a week at least. I have a feeling it's because of their recent promotion and the lack of my ass kissing " ]	[ "80% of people quit and leave their job because of their boss. Join the majority. Sorry, I know you’re looking for advice but you can get him to change his behavior with one conversation, you even mention this is his style, find somewhere where you’ll be happy, don’t stick around somewhere where you have to settle. ", "Just spit balling something out of the box here, might not work with your situation.\nThe shortest distance between 2 points is a straight line in an opposite direction.\nProposed test: Cursed Earth Strategy\nSet a time period say a month.\nPlan/try to stay at work late every day for at least 30 minutes. Loss in pay may be repaid in other benefits say revenge, or favorable viewing from your boss’s superiors.\nChallenge to thought belief: Boss can’t ask you to stay late if you are already staying. If working late, then boss can’t ask me to stay late. If I plan to work late, and I get out on time it will feel like getting out early.\nAttempted result: Change environmental behavior without but kissing. Make boss tell you to go home.\nDoes your staying late force your boss to stay late?\nGenerally putting in more hours makes the appearance of being a hard worker. They don’t know this is a limited test.\nTrack daily work on a desk calendar something anyone can see. Provide basic times; before 9am, after lunch, hour before shift end. Put indicator for work performed near the end of shift each day.\nHabits will be noticed by others, maybe your boss’s superiors. ONLY when asked let slip that you were being asked to work late anyways, so figured company needed some catch up. If this not the case your boss will be perceived as having poor resource management. \nIf your work is constantly being completed the day before this will afford you down time during the day to take it easy.\nIf provided extra work document on desk calendar. When time for personal review comes up you will have a visual list of your accomplishments. I assume this would be good.\nIf your boss is a workaholic, they may begin to identify with you/ view you favorably.\nIf plan does not work, consider/weigh the benefit in changing your work position. Apply for new job in the company, interview elsewhere. Remember you have been tracking your acheivments for the last month, good for talking yourself up at an interview.\nPersonally, I worked with a boss that would complain that my music was up too loud, when I was the only other person present. When they would turn down my music, I would go after and turn down my music even more. Then slightly up, then down a little more. I quit talking at work. Result was the boss would get weird about turning down their own music because it was difficult for them to discern the appropriate level. They would spend way too much time messing with the radio. Lack of human contact/conversation made them nervous. Randomly they would try to engage me with anecdotes about their life. I would politely comment, but not engage in true conversation. After about a month I could just listen to my music at the level I enjoyed as the alternative was too frustrating for boss without them knowing why it was frustrating.\nHopefully you will get to leave on time in the future, good luck.\n", "Find a new job or tell him no. You're scheduled to work a set time, so you will work that set time. Anything extra you should and will be compensated for. Personally I'm always open to more overtime, provided I'm compensated for it ", "Be clear with him unless you get paid extra for your overtime and want to do it, you will refuse further tasks given 10 mins before you leave if it makes you leave after your shift ends.\nTalk/send a mail to your n+1 if there is any if your direct boss doesn’t listen to you unless you talk things out with direct boss and agree on something you both get benefits from.\nDon’t « leave it be for now and try to change it later », it doesn’t work most of the time!" ]	[ 5, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to behave to be ignored by dogs inb4 \"do not be scared dogs can smell it\". \n\nYes that, but that's not enough.", "How to behave to be ignored by dogs inb4 \"do not be scared dogs can smell it\". \n\nYes that, but that's not enough.", "How to behave to be ignored by dogs inb4 \"do not be scared dogs can smell it\". \n\nYes that, but that's not enough.", "How to behave to be ignored by dogs inb4 \"do not be scared dogs can smell it\". \n\nYes that, but that's not enough." ]	[ "If you are approached by a dog who may attack you, follow these steps:\n\n Resist the impulse to scream and run away.\n Remain motionless, hands at your sides, and avoid eye contact with the dog.\n Once the dog loses interest in you, slowly back away until he is out of sight.\n If the dog does attack, \"feed\" him your jacket, purse, bicycle or anything that you can put between yourself and the dog.\n If you fall or are knocked to the ground, curl into a ball with your hands over your ears and remain motionless. Try not to scream or roll around.\n", "Do not make eye contact.\n\nIf the dog approaches, take a step to pivot so you are at right angles to it, facing sideways, and act as if you are thinking to maybe walk that way.\n\nIf it continues to approach, make a motion with the dog-side arm like you are flying a hawk off your wrist. This is a pretty clear signal to go.\n\nIf the dog continues to approach, and is behaving in a friendly manner, growl as quietly as you can, make eye contact and slowly tip your chin down, and then look away abruptly.\n\nIf it was behaving aggressively, lift your leg with a bent knee as if climbing a very tall step, and step kick hard on its nose. This pushes it away and simulates the dominant wolf nose bite. Continue kicking if it continues attacking, but usually it will not. If necessary, step its head to the floor and hold it immobile.", "Be indifferent do not acknowledge there existence they will realize there not going to get what it is they are wanting from you and go away", "What are the circumstances? Trying to not get bitten if a random off leash dog runs up to you or just trying to get a friends dog to leave you alone" ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Best Before I work in a supermarket and I do the reductions for items that are going out of date. Because of this, I get to pick what I want before it goes on the shelf. Being 16, I don't really have a lot of experience with food, so I want to know how safe it is to eat something a day or two past its best before/use by date. ", "Best Before I work in a supermarket and I do the reductions for items that are going out of date. Because of this, I get to pick what I want before it goes on the shelf. Being 16, I don't really have a lot of experience with food, so I want to know how safe it is to eat something a day or two past its best before/use by date. " ]	[ "It really depends on what kind of food it is. Mostly \"Best Before\" dates are a guideline for selling things, and some items go downhill after those dates very rapidly.\n\nMeat for instance, if frozen on or before the \"Best Before\" date will be fine after it is defrosted and cooked properly.\n\nDairy is pretty iffy, and I tend to shy away from anything that's past the use by date.\n\nBreads, simple. Look for mold and funny smells.\n\nFruits and Veggies are also pretty simple. You'll know when they're no good.\n\nI do a lot of shopping on the \"Manager's Special\" items at my local grocery store. My personal rule is that if I won't be using it that day or the next, I skip it.", "Use your eyes and nose. Try smelling fresh milk the next time you drink, and other foods, so you know how they ought to smell.\n\nFor eggs, there was a neat trick about chucking them in water to see if they float. Floating= bad. [Egg tests.](http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-if-an-Egg-is-Bad)\n\nBest by date is a load of crap. Stores would rather throw out good food than face a lawsuit from selling expired food.\n\nDented cans mean the seal has been broken. They'll expire quickly." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid nosebleeds in the wintertime I've tried fairly expensive humidifiers but they all seem to have a range of just a couple of feet. They definitely don't raise the humidity of a bedroom at night.", "How to avoid nosebleeds in the wintertime I've tried fairly expensive humidifiers but they all seem to have a range of just a couple of feet. They definitely don't raise the humidity of a bedroom at night.", "How to avoid nosebleeds in the wintertime I've tried fairly expensive humidifiers but they all seem to have a range of just a couple of feet. They definitely don't raise the humidity of a bedroom at night.", "How to avoid nosebleeds in the wintertime I've tried fairly expensive humidifiers but they all seem to have a range of just a couple of feet. They definitely don't raise the humidity of a bedroom at night.", "How to avoid nosebleeds in the wintertime I've tried fairly expensive humidifiers but they all seem to have a range of just a couple of feet. They definitely don't raise the humidity of a bedroom at night." ]	[ "Go to your local store that is or has a pharmacy. Look for \"Saline Nasal Spray\". It can be generic, doesn't matter. It's salt water basically. A spray in each nostril a couple of times a day and you're golden.\n\nI used to have nose bleeds ALL the time when it was dry, no more. And its cheap.\n\nExample: \nhttp://www.walgreens.com/store/c/walgreens-saline-nasal-spray/ID=prod1607694-product", "Try to hang a wet bath towel close to the vent. Works pretty well without needing to pay for expensive humidifiers. ", "Humidifiers work for exactly this, their range is well over a few feet (the humidifier increase water vapor, which spreads after you can't see it). They usually work best when kept several feet off the ground and away from walls. \n\n\nMaybe you purchased a substandard model? I recommend this one: http://www.amazon.com/Crane-Drop-Shape-Cool-Humidifier/dp/B005PK7RW4", "Get a few house plants, they add to the humidity, though you'll need to water them frequently if your place is very dry.", "Gatorade. You need hydration and the salts to retain them. Or salt water if you dont have money for it. Also get some vicks gor under your nose. If that doesnt work u might have shell out for a better humidifier. Thats all i can come up with. Google that shit too " ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Didn't tell employer I start studying in a month (new teen job) - what should I do? So I'm 18 and soon starting a course to improve my high school math grades, before college in September. It's in Jan 11 and will be 3 days a week.\n\nI wanted to start working, and (today) went to a small burger fast food place for an interview - employer wants at least 3 shifts a week. I am starting on to Wednesday 3 times a week, and it might clash with my studies when they start in January (same hours), so I might have to quit in a month. I told him I'm free until the summer - didn't even mention the studies.\n\nMy plan was, in 2.5 weeks (1.5 weeks before the course starts) to say I signed up, but now I think this could be a bad plan that will make him think I'm not reliable.\n\nI could work 3 days and study 3 days but, I am not sure if just 1 day off would be enough, so I might have to quit in a month.\n\nWhat is the best course of action now? Should I go there tomorrow again and tell him that, or follow through with my original plan?", "Didn't tell employer I start studying in a month (new teen job) - what should I do? So I'm 18 and soon starting a course to improve my high school math grades, before college in September. It's in Jan 11 and will be 3 days a week.\n\nI wanted to start working, and (today) went to a small burger fast food place for an interview - employer wants at least 3 shifts a week. I am starting on to Wednesday 3 times a week, and it might clash with my studies when they start in January (same hours), so I might have to quit in a month. I told him I'm free until the summer - didn't even mention the studies.\n\nMy plan was, in 2.5 weeks (1.5 weeks before the course starts) to say I signed up, but now I think this could be a bad plan that will make him think I'm not reliable.\n\nI could work 3 days and study 3 days but, I am not sure if just 1 day off would be enough, so I might have to quit in a month.\n\nWhat is the best course of action now? Should I go there tomorrow again and tell him that, or follow through with my original plan?", "Didn't tell employer I start studying in a month (new teen job) - what should I do? So I'm 18 and soon starting a course to improve my high school math grades, before college in September. It's in Jan 11 and will be 3 days a week.\n\nI wanted to start working, and (today) went to a small burger fast food place for an interview - employer wants at least 3 shifts a week. I am starting on to Wednesday 3 times a week, and it might clash with my studies when they start in January (same hours), so I might have to quit in a month. I told him I'm free until the summer - didn't even mention the studies.\n\nMy plan was, in 2.5 weeks (1.5 weeks before the course starts) to say I signed up, but now I think this could be a bad plan that will make him think I'm not reliable.\n\nI could work 3 days and study 3 days but, I am not sure if just 1 day off would be enough, so I might have to quit in a month.\n\nWhat is the best course of action now? Should I go there tomorrow again and tell him that, or follow through with my original plan?" ]	[ "Tell them you're taking courses to help with math on x days at y times so they can schedule you around those times. ", "14 days before you want to leave work tell them. It's enough time for them. Don't worry about being an asshole because they are the first assholes here, ifthey want to kick you out they will tell you the same day, hiving them 2 weeks is more than enough. ", "Tell them now. \n\nYou're going to look like a giant asshole if you tell them a week before your classes start that you probably can't work the shifts you were hired for. \n\nYou should have told them when you were interviewing. " ]	[ 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share.", "What to do (or not do) during a mass shooting? I don’t know if this would be the right place to ask about it. But, I’ve been learning so much with this community. \n\nI understand that we don’t know how we would react or do in a situation like that. Or maybe won’t have time to do anything. But I feel that I should at least get some info or tips on the matter. \n\nOne thing I’m doing is stop using my phone in public places to be more attentive of my surroundings and only using my headphones in one ear. \n\nThanks for anything you can share." ]	[ "The general advice is Get away. If you can't get away, hide. If you can't hide, fight. \n\nOn a broader view, it's mostly about preparation beforehand, and things you should be doing anyway. Know where the emergency exits are at all times, and how you would find your way to one if it were pitch black and people were panicking around you. Look at other people, make note of anyone whose facial expression doesn't seem to match the situation.", "The General course of action is: Run, Hide, Fight,\n\nIf you have the ability to escape the area, do it. Get as far away from the gunfire as possible. Put lots of distance and objects between you and the shooter such as cars, buildings, etc,\n\nIf you can’t safely escape, hide. Shooters are typically aiming at creating as much destruction as possible in a short period of time. They aren’t likely to go around searching for hiding people unless there is nothing else to do. Hide behind/under something, get to a different room if indoors and close the door/turn off the lights. Know the difference between concealment and cover. Hiding behind a cinderblock wall could be considered cover as the brick has a high likelihood of stopping a bullet. Hiding behind a curtain, bush, overturned table is just concealment as those can be easily shot through. Cover is best, but concealment works in a pinch,\n\nIf you can’t escape and you can’t hide, the last option is to fight. Barring any means of escape, you are better off fighting than just letting them shoot you. Most shooters, while they may be ready for police to show up, won’t necessarily be expecting an attack from their victims. Do what you can to distract the shooter. Throw things at them if you are at a distance, tackle them/knock them down if you happen to be behind them, get a fire extinguisher and spray it on them, etc. Any of these things can cause the shooter to become distracted and rethink things. Many take their own life when resistance shows up (usually in the form of police) and some have given up without a fight. \n\nWhile I hope that nobody ever has to encounter an active shooter or a mass shooting situation, being prepared to run, hide, or fight if the situation does arise can be the difference between life and death.", "Run away from the gun fire, unpredictably zig zag, stay in cover if available, last option fight or die. Anything can be a weapon", "This is actually an awesome question, and to be honest, your third paragraph pretty much nails about half of it. Situational awareness in whatever surroundings your in is absolutely critical. However, when you're under the duress of a life and death situation, there's a good chance you may not remember all of the details.\n\n1) Whether your armed or not, if possible, look for any escape route you can find.\n\n2) If possible, don't make yourself a target.\n\n3) If possible, help others get away.\n\n4) If possible, run or hide\n\n5) If possible, contact the authorities, even if it's by repeatedly dialing 911.\n\n6) If you're armed or not, don't be a hero. You're not doing anybody any good if you get mortally wounded or killed.\n\n7) If you are armed, try to be aware of what's behind your target (going to be tough when the adrenaline is flowing).\n\n8) Again, if you are armed, use only the necessary force to neutralize the threat, preferably a center mass shot.\n\n9) Double tap if necessary.", "Make sure you turn Siri off lol and yeah hide for the best part. If you can flank the assailant and get the drop on him then do it armed. Something sharp and either pierce or cut the soft parts(jugular /genitals etc) get the weapon off them ASAP. Sounds fucked up but someone’s gotta be a hero or die trying at least. (I would attempt this as I have nothing to lose)", "I work for a large church and a few months ago the police came to let us know what to do if a shooting started during one of our services. I was expecting them to assign us rolls to help get the congregation out. The basically told us to RUN. People will follow.", "Helpful tip: Most vehicles are NOT bulletproof.\nUnless you have to, try not to use them as cover, they're more like concealment than anything else.\nIf you have to do so anyway, hiding behind the engine (especially in cars) will give you the highest chance of survival.", "This is not a place for poorly veiled political commentaries.\n\nWhenever you enter a location, make the first thing you do finding the exits. Take 10 seconds to note where they are in relation to you. And which you would go to in an emergency scenario. \n\nThink of your response of run and fight. Think of what you would do in each scenario. Whether it be to use a weapon or whatever. Or how you would be able to escape whether by throwing something or dashing. \n\nTaking 30 seconds to think of these before it happens will help keep your mind clear of one more decision you don't have time to make. This is really good practice for anyone, because fires and other things can always happen.", "I read somewhere else (Can't remember at the moment) but anyone who is concerned about these types of mass shootings; especially in places with doors (i.e. office buildings and schools) should look into investing in a doorstop like this:\n\nhttps://www.uline.com/Product/Detail/H-3051Y/Store-Operations/Giant-Foot-Industrial-Doorstop-Yellow?pricode=WA9510&gadtype=pla&id=H-3051Y&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIloeN1d_u4wIVzFuGCh3WiweCEAQYASABEgJVy_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds\n\nIf you consider how much time it takes someone to get through a lock as opposed to someone trying to get through a wedged door using this it has the potential to buy people valuable time to get away while frustrating the shooter considering they'll have to literally shoot the door apart before entering. I thought this was a great idea, wish I could cr", "My dad works for security. The training they are given is to encourage people to run, hide, fight in that order. Scatter away as fast as you can, if you can’t get out or end up in a dead end then hide, and as a last resort fight.", "Australia, UK, Sweden, Switzerland, Greenland, Japan, New Zealand and I'm sure many more I can't think of right now", "Get training, get a concealed pistol license, get a good quality pistol, a good holster, good self defense ammunition, a good safe for home, a good safe for the car, a 2nd magazine, a good small flashlight. \nPractice.\nREFUSE TO BE A VICTIM!!!" ]	[ 28, 15, 8, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0, 0, -5 ]	safe
[ "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n", "Small Talk Tutorial I have recently started work experience and have realised that I'm horrible at talking and initiating conversations with my adult co-workers (I'm 15). Any tips for an introvert like me?\n\n" ]	[ "Realize that everyone isn't analyzing everything about you and just start talking. They understand you're 15 and will take that into consideration and not expect you to sound like an adult. Don't think too much, just talk and it gets easier. \nSource: an introvert that didn't learn this until much older than you ", "Ask open-ended questions. Keep asking more specific questions. Example:\n\nYOU: Hi, I'm /u/ezferns.\n\nBOB: Hi, I'm Bob.\n\nYOU: What are you working on right now? \n\nBOB: I'm watering the ferns this week. We got a lotta ferns. \n\nYOU: Oh, yeah, what does that involve?\n\nBOB: Well, you gotta take the hose... (yadda, yadda, yadda).\n\nYOU: And are there challenges to watering ferns?\n\nAnd so forth. ", "Adults are always impressed when teenagers take interest in them. Usually, it's the adults asking the questions of the kids, not the other way around. So ask questions. You can start a conversation with \"How are you\". Get a canned response. Then follow up, \"I've been wondering...\" (how did you choose this career? how did you end up in this job? what is most of your day like? etc...) Adults will find you mature and inquisitive, which is a good thing in the workplace.", "Weather is a gateway conversation and often leads to more interesting conversation. One tip I've always had success with is commenting on a specific thing... If they have a shirt with their favorite NFL team or a cup from a fast food place, BAM. Convo.", "1. Smile and say \"Hi\" or \"How's it going?\" to everybody you can. It puts people at ease and you'll quickly get the reputation for being nice. \n\n2. Monday mornings or the day after a coworker's day off are easy. Add \"How was the weekend?\" or \"How was the day off?\" to your usual greeting. \n\n3. Be polite. If you're in a break room pouring coffee, pass the pot to the next person in line, hold the door for the next person. Use phrases like Please, Thank You and Excuse Me. It's hard not to like a polite person.\n\n4. Toss in a \"What's going on today?\" in there. We're all pre-programmed to answer \"Fine\" when someone asks us how we're doing, but this question requires a little bit of an answer.\n\n5. Soon people will voluntarily tell you what they did over the weekend or the latest news around the workplace. If they say, \"Dave's out sick\" you can say, \"Oh, is he okay?\" or \"Tough break, hope he gets better quick!\" You don't have to get all maudlin, but showing you care about Dave makes them think you might care about them, too. \n\n6. Once they start feeding you little facts, you'll find out what you have in common and then you have something to talk about. Someone will have seen a movie you saw or something like that and then you've got something to chat about.\n\n7. Stay away from religion, politics and race. Those are things you can't talk about at work. You can, however, talk about racing, if that's what you're into. That's totally different.\n\nThe biggest tip is to be open, approachable and nice. After that, the script writes itself. \n\nBONUS: If someone asks you how you're doing, always say \"Terrific!\" or \"Great!\" or something like that. It's better than \"fine\" and 90% of the time the people asking don't care, but of the 10% that do care, it's uplifting to hear good news. ", "one tip a lot of people seem to miss. Ask two questions for every statement you make. A lot of people just seem to wait for their chance to talk, asking follow up questions to what people are saying shows you are actually listening. shows that you actually care what people are telling you", "If they're struggling with something, offer to help out (If you know how), and then start talking about it;\n\nYou: Need help with fixing that computer?\nGuy: Uh... yeah. The fan broke.\nYou: Here, just put in a new one\nGuy: Thanks!\nYou: Ya know, I've had to fix a (insert total BS here) before, it was kind of like this\nGuy: Cool.\n\nPOOF\n\nYou just got him to like you.", "I'm 30 but I still haven't mastered the skill of small talk yet. Usually if I have to talk about something with people I don't know pretty well, I talk about weather. Or just keep silent. No one will judge you if you keep silent for a while because they understand that you need some time to get acquainted with the new environment.", "As an adult, things I notice and appreciate when talking to a teenager:\nBe interests, nod or ask follow up questions.\n\nMake eye contact\n\nWhen you arrive in the morning and leave in the evening, say good morning or good bye. \n\nTalk in a strong, easily heard voice (this may take practice, as it is natural to mumble when you are uncertain).\n\nUse proper English, avoid excessive slang (and do not curse)\n\nAvoid using your phone while you are with others, unless it is necessary. Nothing makes a young person appear more disinterested than when they take out their phone to check something while you are talking with them.\n\nAsk if they can recommend a book or website that would help you understand the job or career better.\n\nFor more social occasions (like lunch), you can ask if they have seen any good movies or read any good books. Then, seriously consider watching/reading them. This will give you something else to talk about, and help you get to know them\n\nAnd, at lunch, you can always talk about food. If you bring lunch, consider packing an extra cookie or two or some extra grapes, and offering to share. Sharing food is a great way to get to know people. \n\nIf there is someone who has a job you really admire, and want to know about it, but they always seem busy, ask them if you can have lunch one day. Everyone has to eat, and sometimes that is the only time they have to spare. On that day, turn off your phone, and bring paper and a pen. Have some questions to ask about their job - these questions should let them know that you have researched the type of work and truly are interested. Take short notes of their suggestions. From then on, when you see them, say hello or nod a hello (whatever is common in your hallways). \n\nAnd, if you want to make a good impression, treat everyone the same. Get to know the support staff, thank anyone who helps you, be considerate by making a new pot of coffee, refilling the paper in the printer or copier, not throwing stinky things in the trash next to the office administrator. All of these acts frequently lead to small talk. And because you are doing something, the small talk is usually about that, so it is a short, very easy conversation that might help you feel comfortable.\n\nHope the work experience is both enjoyable and informative.", "This is the best Smalltalk tutorial out there: http://pharobyexample.org\n\nBut really. For talking to people, check out The Art of Charm podcast episodes on \"banter.\" It's not small talk, it's much much better.", "I am an introvert and I am pretty bad at conversations. However, a lot of people don't think I am, the reason for that is because I know a trick on how to extend or continue a conversation without really saying anything. The trick is to ask a ton of questions. If you don't really know what to say within a topic of discussion you ask the other person, \"How do you feel about this\". Ask questions that tend to keep people rambling on and on, instead of asking questions that will give you a yes or no answer. Ask questions like, \"How did that make you feel?\" or \"What would you do in that situation?\". Sometimes you can play devils advocate, and speak about a current news topic or current controversy with an unpopular way of thinking. Then after you gave this unpopular commentary ask the person, \"How do you feel about that?\".\n\nAlso, always remember whether you ask a question or give your opinion. Any statement that you make that evokes a strong emotion will continue the conversation. So if the comment that you made was rather dull there's a likelihood that the conversation will not go anywhere. However, if your statement evokes a person to happiness, shock, excitement, anger, confusion, or laughter it will further to continue the conversation or discussion.", "Small talk is just generic talk: you're allowed to talk about anything that's common between the two of you. \n\nYou're at work experience, so: \nIf you're trying to introduce yourself to someone for the first time, say you're on work experience. Ask the co-worker what they do in the job. Then: how long they've been there for, why they're doing it, what they love about it, what their aspirations are, what sort of stuff they do when they're not at work. Once you get to that last point, you have infinite branches of stuff to talk about with them, since everyone has different interests: ask questions about those interests and be genuinely interested in knowing some of the details. \n\nIt's okay to be an introvert! When I was 15 (I'm 23 now and in med school, arguably something where you talk to people a LOT), I used to think of myself as pretty bad at conversation. Dale Carnegie is often mentioned, although a lesser known book (which is also really great) is How To Talk To Anyone by Leil Lowndes. \n\nAs for getting better at conversation, there's not really a better substitute than by talking to people, although a lot of people just stop their advice there. The places where you can talk to more people are: \n\n* volunteer work \n* part-time jobs \n* parties (ESPECIALLY if it has a lot of people you don't really know)\n* since you're in school, hopefully there's some other interesting groups around that you can volunteer for/go to, like debating or whatever\n* study groups \n\nThe last thing I can say to you is: you'll meet some people who just plain don't feel like conversing. Don't be disheartened; they tend to just approach every 15 year old like that, it's not a personal thing. Also that lots of people do feel nervous when talking to new people (I still do too sometimes), so don't worry, it's a common experience shared among millions. ", "Just came back home from an event where I had to small talk.\n\n\nSmall talk is just that....talk small/less. Getting people to talk more is the key and you can do that by asking more questions. Remember, people like taking about themselves. The more they talk about themselves, the more they find the conversation to be engaging. But don't prod, let them continue. The key is listening to what they are saying and trying to be genuinely interested in knowing more. Even if they fine it a little annoying, they will still remember you.\n\nEmpathy is very important. Put yourself in their shoes and identify the issues they might be dealing with. Then ask them about those issues. \n\nBob: I'm working on account's right now.\n\nYou: accounts is a very time consuming task. How do you manage balancing it, doesn't your wife/husband complain about it?\n\n\nBob: tell me about it!......\n\n\n", "If you can't small talk with someone then they are probably bad at small talk too and feel as uncomfortable as you. Just open up to people a little and you'll find they'll reciprocate.", "Frankly, I detest small talk. I would rather go into something serious, but short, with a stranger. For instance: Hi, how are you! You know, one thing I've realized is that I don't know and don't like small talk. Sure, it is nice to be civil to one another. But it is hard to have a short serious conversation instead? ... Oh, well. Talk to you soon.", "Do learn to recognize if people aren't interested in small talk. If someone isn't interested in small talk, there's nothing worse than someone who tries HARDER to make small talk. If the person is interested in small talk, an important tip is to be genuinely interested in the conversation. People can intuit if you're interested in talking or just faking it. \n\nA good tip for small talk is \"tell me about yourself.\" People are generally good at talking about themselves. It's not hard to listen to someone talk for 5 minutes and find something you have in common with them.", "Care. Caring about what other people have to say and think, and what they do is the first step toward conversing well. Too many people I know just don't care enough about other people and that makes them their own worse enemy. ", "Be genuine, ask people how their day is going and ask follow up questions on anything you're interested in. Don't force a conversation you clearly aren't interested in because people will sense it. Be curious and polite and friendly and it will come. ", "1. What do you do for work? Doesn't apply if you're chatting up coworkers.\n2. How's your family? Most people will talk about their wife/kids if they have them.\n3. What do you do for fun? This is what people really want to talk about.", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. It was created to help protect users from doxing, stalking, harassment, and profiling for the purposes of censorship. \n\n If you would also like to protect yourself, add the Chrome extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo), or the Firefox extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, scroll down as far as possible (hint:use [RES](http://www.redditenhancementsuite.com/)), and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top." ]	[ 22, 11, 9, 7, 7, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -5 ]	safe
[ "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP", "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP", "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP", "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP", "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP", "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP", "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP", "Tips for not getting nervous during presentations I have a presentation on tuesday for finals and i can get pretty nervous... I need tips ASAP" ]	[ "Speak to individual people, one at a time. Instead of trying to talk to an audience, pick one person, say one point to them, pick another person, and say another to them, and so on until your presentation is over. You will not only engage your audience more, but feel more comfortable.\n\n\nIf you're having a hard time making eye contact, look at foreheads. No one can tell you're not looking in their eyes, and it is a lot easier.\n\nDon't become attached to your words. If you have your presentation down and memorized word-for-word, you will stumble and stop when you forget a word. Instead, after writing out exactly what you want to say, write your speech down in many bullet points, and practice giving your presentation off of those bullet points many times. This way, you will always get in the information that is needed, but you won't get caught up in memorizing words exactly.\n\nBe confident! People can tell if you are nervous, so tell yourself that you can do it!", "My main tip for oral presentations is knowing what the hell you're talking about. If you understand the subject you can ad-lib or interject interesting points or extensions to whatever line of thought you're running with at the time. This is particularly helpful if it's an open forum where someone can stop you and ask q's etc. Allof what bewareofthegoldfish [bewareofthegoldfish](http://reddit.com/user/bewareofthegoldfish) said is great advice. ", "* Know your material. Every presentation that I had to give when I was unprepared I felt scared the moment I started speaking. Understand what you are about to present and you will feel you are talking to friends. As an example, if you had to speak about who will win the NBA championship or the Emmy Awards, I bet you could do ten minutes. \n\n* Practice Live Do your presentation in front of someone who knows nothing about your subject. They will ask the retarded questions that you would never face during your presentation. Also if that person understands your subject your audience will. \n\n* Block your area Blocking is planning where you will be at every part of your presentation. You will be moving. You want to go up to people who answer questions and stand behind people who aren't paying attention. If you can, do a dress rehearsal or two. \n\nThese tips work for me. Hope they work for you. ", "http://www.mindpoweruntold.com/2010/09/nlp-techniques-to-overcome-public.html\n\n\nRecommend you come to understand that fear and tension are a result of worry that you will not live up to expectations. Once you realize you will never live up to everyone's ecpectations, and to focus on the task at hand, you will see a lot of that stress go away.\n\nConfidence is something you build by understanding your fears, not by ignoring them.", "Remember that when you're giving your presentation, everyone watching you is hoping you do WELL. No one likes to see someone mess up. Someone laughed? They thought you were funny or they were being jerks and not paying attention. If you start spluttering, take a moment, tell your audience something like, \"hold on, forgot to breathe.\" and take it in stride. Brush off your mistakes. Everyone makes them.", "My instructor taught this in my public speaking class:\n\nIf you can get past the first 60 seconds, the rest will be a breeze.\n\nYour nerves might go a little crazy during that first minute, but ignore them. No matter how nervous you feel, people really can't notice it. Thus, if you pretend you're calm, they will utterly believe you are.\n\nAlso, vodka.", "I dont know what rules you have in place on your presentation, but I used to hate giving them to a room full of people, and It was way too cumbersome to return in break and give the presentation to the teacher alone. (I've gotten better, and have since spoken infront of the entire school I now work at).\n\nThe way I got around it and none of my teachers had a problem with it, was to record my presentation in advance, in an environment I felt comfortable in. It allowed me to re-do my presentation untill I was satisfied with it.\n\n(Recording your presentation is actually a good way to practice, as you can play it back and see what it was like and make adjustments)\n\nPowerpoint presentations I did the same way, I recorded the audio for the slides and set everything to run automatically so I never had to be infront of the class, nor did I have to worry about making mistakes. \n\nSome teachers took off a few points from the overall assignment, but I always got max points for presentation since I didnt technically give an oral presentation or whatever was asked for\n\nAs I became more confident I began reducing the amount I relied on the video. I used to wait off to the side, wait till the video finished and just ask \"any questins. later Id play the video, but leave out the conclusion and deliver that myself, eventually Id say a bit about a topic or idea, then only rely on bits and pieces of video to fill in before finally not using video at all\n\nThis stemed alot from supportive teachers, one teacher suggested it to a student who was going to be away the week we were doing presentations and it was the final presentation for the year, She was given class time and a camera to record her presentation and it was presented to the class at the same time as everyone elses (as opposed to putting her on the spot and presenting it early)\n\nTL:DR Recording your presentations can be an alternative option and takes alot of nervousness out of the situation, also a great way to practice", "I am a musician and have heard that a banana or a serving of almonds act as natural beta blocker and that it will naturally make you less stressed. Potassium and stuff." ]	[ 16, 5, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to write for extended periods of time without any (or reduced) pain I've just started my IB exams this morning and my hand is still aching from all the writing, it was around 4hrs non-stop writing. Are there any exercises/massages that ca be made to alleviate hand pain?", "How to write for extended periods of time without any (or reduced) pain I've just started my IB exams this morning and my hand is still aching from all the writing, it was around 4hrs non-stop writing. Are there any exercises/massages that ca be made to alleviate hand pain?", "How to write for extended periods of time without any (or reduced) pain I've just started my IB exams this morning and my hand is still aching from all the writing, it was around 4hrs non-stop writing. Are there any exercises/massages that ca be made to alleviate hand pain?", "How to write for extended periods of time without any (or reduced) pain I've just started my IB exams this morning and my hand is still aching from all the writing, it was around 4hrs non-stop writing. Are there any exercises/massages that ca be made to alleviate hand pain?", "How to write for extended periods of time without any (or reduced) pain I've just started my IB exams this morning and my hand is still aching from all the writing, it was around 4hrs non-stop writing. Are there any exercises/massages that ca be made to alleviate hand pain?" ]	[ "LOL! Was just about to use my authenticity for my tip as being an IB graduate. Ah may. I almost envy you. IB was one of the best things I ever did. My English teachers and ib cordinator told everyone to get stress balls and just use it on your writing hand before the exams to build up your strength. It helped me and a few other people, though my hand still felt like it was going to fall off during my history papers. Good luck!! ", "More of a long term solution is learning to write with the shoulder if you don't already. I'm currently in the process and short-medium term I've been writing more with my wrist which is a bit better than fingers and I cramp much less.\n\nOtherwise loosen grip (which is easier when not using the fingers to draw letters) and stretch your hand regularly. And sometimes you just have to close your eyes and think of England.\n\n[Tips and such](http://www.paperpenalia.com/handwriting.html)", "Simply pop your wrist for reduced pain when it starts hurting.\n\nPush down on the base of your hand, near the wrist, so your hand bends forward.", "Salt prevents cramp. Lots of people I know drink a glass of salt solution before an exam and that seems to work. Use your head on the quantity though, you don't want repercussions....", "I haven't tried it, but I've been told that using different pens/pencils (thicknesses, rubber grip vs plain etc) will help with writer's cramp because you are constantly using a new grip." ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Removing Duct Tape Goo From Window Well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I duct taped a can with a plant in it to my window, because there is a lack of a proper windowsill. I was misled and believed there would be no residue left behind. I am a silly man. Well, the plant died, probably due to cold because whoever controls the thermostat is a fucking Eskimo, and I had to take it down. Except it's a no-go. I'm having a hell of a time taking this tape off of the window. In places, the plastic has come off and left the goo and reinforcing thread behind. I can't for the life of me get this shit off. And that's where you come in. I would like to know your preferred method for removing stuck-on duct tape goop from window panes. Preferably a method that couldn't possibly as I'm a damn dirty college student and don't want to have to pay for damages to my dorm. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nTL;DR, goopy duct tape shit stuck to my window, I'm an idiot, help me.", "Removing Duct Tape Goo From Window Well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I duct taped a can with a plant in it to my window, because there is a lack of a proper windowsill. I was misled and believed there would be no residue left behind. I am a silly man. Well, the plant died, probably due to cold because whoever controls the thermostat is a fucking Eskimo, and I had to take it down. Except it's a no-go. I'm having a hell of a time taking this tape off of the window. In places, the plastic has come off and left the goo and reinforcing thread behind. I can't for the life of me get this shit off. And that's where you come in. I would like to know your preferred method for removing stuck-on duct tape goop from window panes. Preferably a method that couldn't possibly as I'm a damn dirty college student and don't want to have to pay for damages to my dorm. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nTL;DR, goopy duct tape shit stuck to my window, I'm an idiot, help me.", "Removing Duct Tape Goo From Window Well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I duct taped a can with a plant in it to my window, because there is a lack of a proper windowsill. I was misled and believed there would be no residue left behind. I am a silly man. Well, the plant died, probably due to cold because whoever controls the thermostat is a fucking Eskimo, and I had to take it down. Except it's a no-go. I'm having a hell of a time taking this tape off of the window. In places, the plastic has come off and left the goo and reinforcing thread behind. I can't for the life of me get this shit off. And that's where you come in. I would like to know your preferred method for removing stuck-on duct tape goop from window panes. Preferably a method that couldn't possibly as I'm a damn dirty college student and don't want to have to pay for damages to my dorm. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nTL;DR, goopy duct tape shit stuck to my window, I'm an idiot, help me.", "Removing Duct Tape Goo From Window Well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I duct taped a can with a plant in it to my window, because there is a lack of a proper windowsill. I was misled and believed there would be no residue left behind. I am a silly man. Well, the plant died, probably due to cold because whoever controls the thermostat is a fucking Eskimo, and I had to take it down. Except it's a no-go. I'm having a hell of a time taking this tape off of the window. In places, the plastic has come off and left the goo and reinforcing thread behind. I can't for the life of me get this shit off. And that's where you come in. I would like to know your preferred method for removing stuck-on duct tape goop from window panes. Preferably a method that couldn't possibly as I'm a damn dirty college student and don't want to have to pay for damages to my dorm. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nTL;DR, goopy duct tape shit stuck to my window, I'm an idiot, help me.", "Removing Duct Tape Goo From Window Well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I duct taped a can with a plant in it to my window, because there is a lack of a proper windowsill. I was misled and believed there would be no residue left behind. I am a silly man. Well, the plant died, probably due to cold because whoever controls the thermostat is a fucking Eskimo, and I had to take it down. Except it's a no-go. I'm having a hell of a time taking this tape off of the window. In places, the plastic has come off and left the goo and reinforcing thread behind. I can't for the life of me get this shit off. And that's where you come in. I would like to know your preferred method for removing stuck-on duct tape goop from window panes. Preferably a method that couldn't possibly as I'm a damn dirty college student and don't want to have to pay for damages to my dorm. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nTL;DR, goopy duct tape shit stuck to my window, I'm an idiot, help me.", "Removing Duct Tape Goo From Window Well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I duct taped a can with a plant in it to my window, because there is a lack of a proper windowsill. I was misled and believed there would be no residue left behind. I am a silly man. Well, the plant died, probably due to cold because whoever controls the thermostat is a fucking Eskimo, and I had to take it down. Except it's a no-go. I'm having a hell of a time taking this tape off of the window. In places, the plastic has come off and left the goo and reinforcing thread behind. I can't for the life of me get this shit off. And that's where you come in. I would like to know your preferred method for removing stuck-on duct tape goop from window panes. Preferably a method that couldn't possibly as I'm a damn dirty college student and don't want to have to pay for damages to my dorm. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nTL;DR, goopy duct tape shit stuck to my window, I'm an idiot, help me.", "Removing Duct Tape Goo From Window Well, I've gotten myself into a bit of a pickle. I duct taped a can with a plant in it to my window, because there is a lack of a proper windowsill. I was misled and believed there would be no residue left behind. I am a silly man. Well, the plant died, probably due to cold because whoever controls the thermostat is a fucking Eskimo, and I had to take it down. Except it's a no-go. I'm having a hell of a time taking this tape off of the window. In places, the plastic has come off and left the goo and reinforcing thread behind. I can't for the life of me get this shit off. And that's where you come in. I would like to know your preferred method for removing stuck-on duct tape goop from window panes. Preferably a method that couldn't possibly as I'm a damn dirty college student and don't want to have to pay for damages to my dorm. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\nTL;DR, goopy duct tape shit stuck to my window, I'm an idiot, help me." ]	[ "I've always used lighter fluid for jobs like this, and it works wonders.\n\nJust find the stuff in the yellow bottle that you use to refill Zippo lighters and you'll get it off most surfaces in no time.", "Wipe it with either Goo Gone or WD40 on a paper towel\n\nIt's not water soluble so anything water based won't budge it.", "Try rubbing alcohol first.\n\nIf that doesn't work, try acetone.\n\nIf that doesn't work, get some [MEK](http://www.jamestowndistributors.com/userportal/product.do?part=38726&SHOPZILLA) - I have yet to find anything that will stand up to MEK. This stuff can partially wash ballpoint pen ink off paper, so don't wear clothes you care about when you use it.\n\nBoth acetone and MEK evaporate extremely quickly and are highly flammable. Best use them with the window open, and start a fan running before you open the can.", "Sounds like a typical Goo Gone job, but I just had a similar situation recently where that wasn't the case. My car window got all screwy and for a while I had it set in place with duct tape. The thing that removed the residue ended up being some warm soapy water and a rag, using my fingernail when needed. Go figure.", "Sounds weird, but I had a bunch of duct tape residue stuck to my car windows and I used the sticky side of another piece of duct-tape to peel it off. Just keep pushing on it and peeling it back. It took off 97% of the residue.", "Our car had a busted out window, duct taped the plastic to the paint=same problem.. I found that the sticky side of new duct tape (a new piece) will take the old residue off without and additional chemicals. (we didn't want to wreck the car's paint)", "Looks like there's quite a few good ones listed already. Goo gone, lighter fluid, acetone (nail polish remover), WD-40, gasoline, turpentine, paint thinner. Most any of these and these sorts of solvents poured on a rag should do it. You can soak the goo with the rag and use a glass scraper of some sort if it's giving you too much guff with just the rag. " ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting rid of spiders Hey there, I tend to find tons of spiders in my house, and I don't like them. Are there any tips or tricks to get rid of them, and never have them come back? ie. something that is a common household object that I can use to repel them.", "Getting rid of spiders Hey there, I tend to find tons of spiders in my house, and I don't like them. Are there any tips or tricks to get rid of them, and never have them come back? ie. something that is a common household object that I can use to repel them.", "Getting rid of spiders Hey there, I tend to find tons of spiders in my house, and I don't like them. Are there any tips or tricks to get rid of them, and never have them come back? ie. something that is a common household object that I can use to repel them." ]	[ "Kill one and put its head on a stick in front of your house, that should scare them off!\nAnd a vacuumcleaner is a good way to get rid of them if you dont want to smash them with your shoes and keep a clean wall.", "Essential oils like orange, lemon or lime, spray either of them around windows and doorways and they will stay away! ", "I've heard that if you crush up dead spiders and scatter the parts... outside, maybe in a closet... it will cause other spiders to keep away.\n\nNot sure entirely how well it works, but my dad insists that it does." ]	[ 6, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to Eat Fried Chicken Without Making an Insufferable Goddamned Mess Seriously, what gives?\n\nI can eat legs without too much of an explosion of crunchy hate or greasy despair, but anything else appears to be impossible to eat while still maintaining any semblance of civility.\n\nI've tried pulling the meat off with a fork, I've tried using both hands and chewing around it, but nothing I do works.\n\nHow the hell do you do this? Am I doomed to a lifetime of messy chicken?", "How to Eat Fried Chicken Without Making an Insufferable Goddamned Mess Seriously, what gives?\n\nI can eat legs without too much of an explosion of crunchy hate or greasy despair, but anything else appears to be impossible to eat while still maintaining any semblance of civility.\n\nI've tried pulling the meat off with a fork, I've tried using both hands and chewing around it, but nothing I do works.\n\nHow the hell do you do this? Am I doomed to a lifetime of messy chicken?", "How to Eat Fried Chicken Without Making an Insufferable Goddamned Mess Seriously, what gives?\n\nI can eat legs without too much of an explosion of crunchy hate or greasy despair, but anything else appears to be impossible to eat while still maintaining any semblance of civility.\n\nI've tried pulling the meat off with a fork, I've tried using both hands and chewing around it, but nothing I do works.\n\nHow the hell do you do this? Am I doomed to a lifetime of messy chicken?", "How to Eat Fried Chicken Without Making an Insufferable Goddamned Mess Seriously, what gives?\n\nI can eat legs without too much of an explosion of crunchy hate or greasy despair, but anything else appears to be impossible to eat while still maintaining any semblance of civility.\n\nI've tried pulling the meat off with a fork, I've tried using both hands and chewing around it, but nothing I do works.\n\nHow the hell do you do this? Am I doomed to a lifetime of messy chicken?", "How to Eat Fried Chicken Without Making an Insufferable Goddamned Mess Seriously, what gives?\n\nI can eat legs without too much of an explosion of crunchy hate or greasy despair, but anything else appears to be impossible to eat while still maintaining any semblance of civility.\n\nI've tried pulling the meat off with a fork, I've tried using both hands and chewing around it, but nothing I do works.\n\nHow the hell do you do this? Am I doomed to a lifetime of messy chicken?", "How to Eat Fried Chicken Without Making an Insufferable Goddamned Mess Seriously, what gives?\n\nI can eat legs without too much of an explosion of crunchy hate or greasy despair, but anything else appears to be impossible to eat while still maintaining any semblance of civility.\n\nI've tried pulling the meat off with a fork, I've tried using both hands and chewing around it, but nothing I do works.\n\nHow the hell do you do this? Am I doomed to a lifetime of messy chicken?" ]	[ "You can knife and fork it, it is worth investing in some anatomy training. Study whole raw chicken anatomy, learn how to quarter and divide a whole chicken with a knife, this will show you the meatiest parts and where to cut to maximize the extracted meat. You'll still end up with a mess, but it will be mostly on your plate.", "You are not doomed to a lifetime of messy chicken, you are blessed with a lifetime of messy chicken.", "Use two forks. You miss about 15% of the meat, but it's worth having clean hands and no little bones in your throat.", "Just eat it over a dish and have a wet cloth or paper towels nearby. The dish should collect all of the breading, and the wet cloth should suffice until you can get to the sink with some soap.", "I would suggest not worrying about it. If you are concerned with what you look like during or after eating something, you are probably doing it wrong.\n\nBut if you insist, you might want to start here.\nhttp://www.wikihow.com/Eat-Fried-Chicken", "I have a huge moustache and do this out of necessity to avoid eating said moustache. I CAN eat fried chicken easily by using only fingers. Grab chunks, rip it off, and you have bite-size pieces of delicious. Sure, your fingers are greasy as hell, but your mug remains ungreasy and unmolested. Try it. It works. Fuck, google it. Who fucking cares? Love you.\n" ]	[ 6, 4, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to not laugh when telling the truth A common sign of someone lying is laughing, but even when I'm telling the truth I always seem to break down in laughter. My parents and friends have lost trust in me. Thanks.", "How to not laugh when telling the truth A common sign of someone lying is laughing, but even when I'm telling the truth I always seem to break down in laughter. My parents and friends have lost trust in me. Thanks." ]	[ "Takes practice, but you have to think of something that makes you serious or turn around/face away from them and keep yourself from giggling, maybe something like reaching for your glasses (if you're wearing one) and close your eyes and think of something that makes you serious. ", "Just make your laugh more genuine. A lot of times the truth is actually funny. That's why we like real comedians so much. Acknowledge the laughter. \n\n\"Ya know, the truth is... hahaha... yeah I know it sounds silly. But it's the truth. ___________________.\" Something like that. " ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get rid of a mouse and prevent more from coming in. We have a mouse that won't go away (or die =/). We've set out traps, we've set out poison, and we've tried to chase it out. How do we get rid of it? We've had two others last month and the traps worked, but this one must be smart. \n\nBy the way, we're an apartment of three girls and we're super clean and super scared of mice. ", "How to get rid of a mouse and prevent more from coming in. We have a mouse that won't go away (or die =/). We've set out traps, we've set out poison, and we've tried to chase it out. How do we get rid of it? We've had two others last month and the traps worked, but this one must be smart. \n\nBy the way, we're an apartment of three girls and we're super clean and super scared of mice. ", "How to get rid of a mouse and prevent more from coming in. We have a mouse that won't go away (or die =/). We've set out traps, we've set out poison, and we've tried to chase it out. How do we get rid of it? We've had two others last month and the traps worked, but this one must be smart. \n\nBy the way, we're an apartment of three girls and we're super clean and super scared of mice. ", "How to get rid of a mouse and prevent more from coming in. We have a mouse that won't go away (or die =/). We've set out traps, we've set out poison, and we've tried to chase it out. How do we get rid of it? We've had two others last month and the traps worked, but this one must be smart. \n\nBy the way, we're an apartment of three girls and we're super clean and super scared of mice. " ]	[ "Bury an oil drum and hinge the lid, then wire cheese to the lid as bait. The mice will come for the cheese, and thum-thum-thum-thum-thum, they will fall into the drum. And after a month, you've trapped all the mice. But what do you do then? Throw the drum into the ocean? Burn it? No. You just leave it. And they begin to get hungry, and one by one, they start eating each other until there are only two left. Two suvivors. And then what? Do you kill them? No. You take them and release them. But now they don't eat cheese anymore. Now they only eat mice. You have changed their nature.", "I had a mousing competition with my cat one time. I lived at a lodge and he was a real badass. The only way I was able to beat him was to take a five gallon bucket and secure two parallel strings across the open mouth. Place some peanut butter in the middle and ramps leading up to the lip. When they attempt to walk across the strings, they flip into the bucket and voila. Mousercide. Or an Expulsion. If you want to be evil, fill the bucket 1/3rd with water. If you want to be good, take the buckettrap and let them go to start the cycle again. \n\nThis works pretty well- I ended up winning. Stupid cat.", "Glue traps(the big ones) with a little something in the middle, the cheap wooden snaptraps with a piece of snickers wrapped around the trigger because it will stick to the trigger better than peanut butter or cheese. \n\n\nAs far as prevention, i'd suggest look around your property and try to find any possible points of entry(small vents, doors with large gaps under them, etc) and cover them. Small vents can usually be covered with hardware cloth and gaps under doors can usually be fixed by adding a decent threshold\n\nHope this helps and happy hunting.\n", "To prevent more from coming in, make sure you string up the body by your door as a warning to other mice that you're not to be fucked with.\n\nFor real though: You live in an apartment, so likely you're not he only one with this problem. And likely this one mouse that you have is actually 3 or 4 different mice. Talk to your building manager/other residents/neighbours and see what they suggest and are willing to do to help you out.\n\n\nPS: +1 for Skyfall" ]	[ 10, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Keeping paperback textbooks in good condition One of the things I struggle with is keeping my paperback college textbooks in good condition. As careful as I try to be with them, the corners always get bent/frayed and the covers curl outwards. I've found a few solutions to this so far (listed below) but I was wondering if anyone knew of something better. Thanks!\n\nPossible solutions:\n\n* [Laminate sheets](http://snapguide.com/guides/apply-laminate-to-a-paperback-book/)\n* Storing the book in a gallon ziplock bag when traveling\n* [DIY book cover](http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Hard-Cover-for-a-Paperback-Book)", "Keeping paperback textbooks in good condition One of the things I struggle with is keeping my paperback college textbooks in good condition. As careful as I try to be with them, the corners always get bent/frayed and the covers curl outwards. I've found a few solutions to this so far (listed below) but I was wondering if anyone knew of something better. Thanks!\n\nPossible solutions:\n\n* [Laminate sheets](http://snapguide.com/guides/apply-laminate-to-a-paperback-book/)\n* Storing the book in a gallon ziplock bag when traveling\n* [DIY book cover](http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Hard-Cover-for-a-Paperback-Book)", "Keeping paperback textbooks in good condition One of the things I struggle with is keeping my paperback college textbooks in good condition. As careful as I try to be with them, the corners always get bent/frayed and the covers curl outwards. I've found a few solutions to this so far (listed below) but I was wondering if anyone knew of something better. Thanks!\n\nPossible solutions:\n\n* [Laminate sheets](http://snapguide.com/guides/apply-laminate-to-a-paperback-book/)\n* Storing the book in a gallon ziplock bag when traveling\n* [DIY book cover](http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Hard-Cover-for-a-Paperback-Book)" ]	[ "If they're not too big, try storing them spine down in your backpack. When you store them upright, the book weighs down on the corner and it'll cause the pages to curl.", "I use the one-pocket plastic document holders - like accordion files but without the dividers, and store the books spine-down. Adds negligible weight, easily accessed, and structured for protection. I would often keep the syllabus with the book as well. Plus, you don't have to modify the book in any way. ", "Find an old hardcover book, one you don't use and don't care what happens to it, take the cover off it and put it around the soft cover book. That way it won't get bent or damaged. " ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n", "How can I speak English fluently? I can sing and rap in English perfectly but when it comes to speaking with people, I don't pronounce any word right and I get anxious, I'm a confident person but when it comes to speaking I get really nervous, I'm Arab and I speak Arabic and French fluently.\n\n" ]	[ "Not sure if this applies to Arabic, as when I teach pronounciation it's with Japanese students. Nevertheless, I'll try to explain how I do it. \nMany people find that singing helps, but you can't sing sentences. So what I suggested people do is watch/listen to an interview of some sort to anyone. I suggest IGN (a video game news website) mainly because their interviews have an audio/video portion as well as text that follows the interview. The first step is listening and reading along with the video. The second is speaking along with the video. Third, which I believe is most crucial is you reading the interview without the video and listening to yourself. If you have some kind of recording device to listen to yourself with and without the video it helps. The next step would be picking apart the words that for you trouble the most. \nThe send portion is understanding how your mouth and tongue work in your native language, and then understanding how the English language works in the mouth and tongue. Like how the letter sounds, but also how it is formed in your mouth. (Like saying \"thank you\", you need to put your tongue between your teeth and you need to almost smile when you pronounce the \"ank\" part). Simple, but bear with me). It might be best to do this infront of a mirror.\nSecondly, I suggest having an anchor word. Find a word you are most comfortable pronouncing and are good at saying. My students use the word \"reach\" for their anchor word because they can say it no problem. So if a word looks similar in to one of your anchor words, just fall back to that. (Again, infantile, but bare with me).\nThe last thing I suggest, which people usually disagree with me is speak quickly. It'll make you sound more natural. But that's just me.\nMany people believe that practicing over an over again will make you eventually get it right, and while this is true, you can practice something the wrong way. \nForgive me, for I am on my phone...", "It pretty much takes practice. A lot of people think I talk to fast and don't annunciate. To tackle this I did two things.\n\n1. Start reading out loud to yourself. Book or newspaper. (To do this in comfortable surroundings.) I do it at home and my girlfriend don't mind it. It takes awhile to process between what you're reading and saying. \n\n2. DragonSpeech. I use this to annunciate. It will pick up words that you say correctly and incorrectly. Also will slow your talking down. Talk to fast and it won't pick up. \n\nLike in your native language, you practiced growing up. Now its time to practice again.\n\nPretty much helps with every language, if you can find a speech recognition software. ", "I know lots of people for whom English is their second language.\n\nA lot will go to speech therapists that specialize in accent reduction and pronunciation. ", "you need to talk a lot of english, and practice. that's how i got my fluent english. you'll have both an american accent and fluent english. you just gotta talk a lot. i've been talking for 3 years straight, thinking in english, making everything into english for me etc etc. now i can speak fluently with no problems. i'm israeli btw, so not much of a difference between us :)", "The best way to learn to speak a language fluently is to go out there and speak it, English is a very easy language to just stumble your way through, Its a very hard language to learn but once you have the basics you can string an awkward sentence together and a native English speaker will understand you enough to have a conversation with you. Its one of very few lnaguages where sentance structure isn't vital to get your meaning across.\n\nTake _Hadek up on their offer to skype with you if you can, I would also offer to chat on skype or steam, but I only speak English so _Hadek might make you feel more comfortable by speaking French to start with. But if you do want someone else to practise speaking English with, PM me and I can add you on steam.\n\nWe know that you are not a native English speaker, so we wont expect you to be very good, and we wont judge you on the way you speak because the point is to practise. I think its great that you are seeking advice on how to improve this skill. I can't even begin to judge because I only know one language, and as an Aussie, an English person would say I can't speak English well either.", "My wife (Korean) has this problem sometimes. The only real way she's done it is by jumping out there and doing it over and over again. You just need to practice. You'll have a few bumps at first but you'll get over it.\n\nKeep in mind that most people will know you're ESL so won't think 'WHAT AN IDIOT, LOL', they'll understand you're learning and getting better.\n\n\nI'm also an English teacher in Korea", "I think maybe finding a language partner learning English as well will help a lot? I go to a Spanish practice group sometimes and I try to find someone right around my level. I've also tried to use various language exchange tools on the web and \"hacked\" them not to find natives, but to find other learners. I think this is something that can be really valuable, since talking to a native is often times too much pressure. Whereas there's A LOT less intimidation speaking with someone else at your level.\n\nAlso, there's are sites like iTalki where you can pay to talk to practice conversation with a native. It's an expensive option long-term, but they offer 3 free trials at low rates. Maybe the psychology of paying someone will help you psychologically to have an initial conversation or two.", "I learned French and taught English by doing this. Start by watching/reading things made for children. Ie animated movies like wall-E or Frozen. Start by watching in your native tongue so you know what is happening. Then switch so that only the subtitles are in your language. As you get comfortable watch in just English. \n\nThen just advance the complexity of the films as you get better with the language and it's rhythm \n\nKids movies use simpler language but still have the intonations and some slang. I used to watch the Transformers on the French channel in Canada when I was learning it and it helped my accent immensely. Also my confidence. ", "French Canadian here, when I was 14, I learned english watching That 70' show everyday for 1 year... work in a call center now and people dont recognize that I'm french, Bonne chance ! ", "Find a website like conversationexchange, that will put you in touch with native english speakers trying to learn other languages. \n\n\nAdd them on Skype. \n\n\nTalk. \n\n\nProfit.", "Come on dude, you know full well the answer to this question, and yet you are making every excuse in the book to avoid doing what needs to be done.", "Also, if you want to schedule a Skype or Google Hangout we can speak in French and English! My path with French is similar to yours with English in that I understood a decent amount but was intimidated to have a conversation because French is so particular to pronounce. \n\nI just recently had my first conversation in French - using iTalki actually. And then I had a second one with a guy from Tunisia in the Community section of Verbling. Paying for that first iTalki session actually did help." ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n", "How to survive college when you aren't too fond of parties The title says it all. I go to a pretty big party school since it was the least expensive option, and I'm not too keen on parties. I'm all for having fun and meeting people but parties just don't appeal to me. I've been to plenty of parties in high school and everyone was just drunk off their ass. I spent a good amount of time just babysitting friends so that they didn't get themselves into trouble. I am surrounded by people who only want to party and it leaves me feeling like there's nothing else to do. What tips are there to enhance my college experience without having to party every weekend?\n\n" ]	[ "You'll be surprised at the amount of people that you will meet that don't drink. I went to the mothership of party schools and there were always clubs or activities that were going on that did not involve alcohol. Check if you have an involvement fair. ", "Most colleges have tons of stuff to do that doesn't involve drinking, and you'll be in good company. It depends on the school, but students aren't quite as crazy as movies/stories make it seem. If you're living on campus be brave and reach out to your hallmates in the first few weeks, they're all looking for friends too. There are clubs you can join, and your RA is a great resource for finding stuff to do on campus.", "I'll speak about the roommate aspect specifically, since others have pretty thoroughly answered the rest. I was in a similar boat--my dormmate loved partying, getting drunk and high, and having people in our room and I'm introverted, don't drink or get high. My solution was non-ideal. I basically avoided spending time in our room when I expected her to be there/awake. I would sleep during the day while she was at class and then spend a lot of nights in the 24 hour library. This also resulted in me missing classes a lot as I slept through them. Don't do that. It's pretty much impossible to have the \"hey, I don't drink\" conversation without the other person thinking you're a huge judgmental wet blanket, so I don't know what to tell you. But I would suggest looking for somewhere you can go hang out if your roommate is partying in your room so you don't have to be subjected to it--the library, a common area or lounge, etc. Or of course you could probably get them busted for having banned substances if you want to make an enemy. I don't recommend that, though. If you're braver than me I would recommend making it clear early in the year that you'd prefer they not invite any of that partying activity back to your room, or else you'll have to grit your teeth through a lot of shit.", "Find a group or organization that fits your interests. Most universities have a list of student groups on their website that include a description of the organization as well as how to get involved with the organization. Most organizations have events on weekends and that will definitely give you something to do.\nI'm not much of a partier, and I had a little trouble finding friends who also didn't party my freshman year. Once I found activities that actually interested me, things got easier. ", "There are tons of student run clubs (chess, snowboarding, board games, climbing, etc) and a few will definitely match your interests.", "The person you are roommates with does not have to be the person you are with for all 4 years. Just hang in there.\n\nI agree with other posters, and also support you getting involved in other school activities to have a \"dry\" social life. \n\nPeople also mellow out a little by senior year, so you'll see more cocktail parties/wine types of functions later.\n\nUnless they actually are in serious trouble (e.g. lying in the street, being abducted), you should not take responsibility for your friends at parties - they take responsibility for their own actions. Parties are not for babysitting. I am serious. That is the complete opposite mindset of being at a party.\n\nStill, please don't eliminate parties from your life. It is difficult for people with an analytical, rational mind to understand them, because you have to let go of all of that. At parties, it is about completely living in the moment, having fun just by being uninhibited. You are living on a basic, almost primal level, and there is no room for rumination and analysis of the situation. It is almost like an alcohol-infused m", "Often the universities themselves have offices that organize social events that are fun, meant to be interactive/physical (like one week is a badminton tourney) and not alcohol centered. A quick browse of your uni's website should get you to \"student life\", \"student events\" \"student clubs\" etc. the uni where I work (bigBIG party school) has something every Friday evening for students to do, just for fun. \n\nIf it suits you, faith-based clubs can be a great way to meet and interact with people who are not focused on partying. I don't mean that to pass judgements on anybody, but most of their activities aren't going to be centered around drinking and getting blitzed. ", "Join an extracurricular! I didn't drink at the start of college, so I was worried about this for a while, but honestly you make a ton of friends without having to worry about the stupid party scene just by being in a group activity outside of class. Band worked really well for me, especially, because most of the other band people didn't drink, either. Hope this helps!", "If you are religious consider joining a campus ministry. Join college meetup groups that arent focused on partues. Ster clear of fraternaties. ", "I'm in the same boat. I can't stress the importance of involvement. Find anything you really enjoy or are interested in, and your school probably has a group for it. Don't be afraid to tell people you don't drink and don't party. Most people are usually cool with that.", "I'd guess the most important part is the ", "DOn't be afraid to look off campus too! Chances are you are in a new city as well as at a new school. Campus can be very overwhelming! See if there are any nature trails or rivers to explore. Check out local farmers markets, movie theaters, art museums etc \n find a friend to explore the city with! lots of people might be interested in that!" ]	[ 9, 6, 4, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Most effective way of leading group discussions In your opinion/experience, what are some best tips to lead GDs when you're being given a topic on the spot and being assessed on these 4 parameters:\n\n1. Content Knowledge\n2. Speaking and listening\n3. Leadership\n4. Consensus Building.", "Most effective way of leading group discussions In your opinion/experience, what are some best tips to lead GDs when you're being given a topic on the spot and being assessed on these 4 parameters:\n\n1. Content Knowledge\n2. Speaking and listening\n3. Leadership\n4. Consensus Building.", "Most effective way of leading group discussions In your opinion/experience, what are some best tips to lead GDs when you're being given a topic on the spot and being assessed on these 4 parameters:\n\n1. Content Knowledge\n2. Speaking and listening\n3. Leadership\n4. Consensus Building." ]	[ "State your objectives up front.\nNote any decisions, especially if there was a lot of discussion. \nPost action items with assigned responsibilities.\nReview the objectives and assess whether they were achieved.", "If you know your stuff it shouldn't be too difficult. Act as though you're discussing the topic/issue with a group of friends. Try not to turn it into a lecture. Share your ideas on problem solving, (if the topic calls for it), while soliciting opinions from others. Also, use chart paper to post comments/ideas generated by the group. Sometimes visual learners are better when seeing info in writing and participants feel acknowledged when seeing their input posted.", "Have rules stated up front: I statements, cross talk, agree to disagree, etc.\n\nUse open ended questions, rather than questions that require one specific or yes/no answer.\n\nAllow space for silence.\n\nNote group member reactions to other members and connect them.\n\nI.e.: Bob is talking about how he loves fish. Susan makes a face. When Bob is done ask Susan what her reaction was and then ask Bob what he thinks about it." ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!", "LPTs that are only applicable to one nation should directly specify this within the title. I know this is not technically a LPT request, but I wasn't sure how to create this post request - apologies. \n\n\nI have seen some posts here recently which are totally irrelevant for non-US citizens. These were regarding taxes, employment laws, and living situations. It is not always clear that these are only applicable for US folk, so that advice could be highly damaging for others where laws and rules work differently. Therefore, this should be explicitly written in the title. Others choose to give their advice in specific country forums, so that could be an alternative option for those too. Thank you!" ]	[ "\"If you think you are being followed make 4 right turns in a row\"\n\nIn the USA you know and can escape, UK you are now in a small dead end residential street. But in fairness you still know.", "I'm glad you brought this up because I've been mildly bothered with such posts for a while but wasn't sure how to post about it either", "lmfao as someone who doesn't live in the US, whenever someone or a post doesn't specify the country, I always assume they're talking about the US", "Yeah this makes sense, I agree.\n\nSomewhere in the post they should clarify about who the tip can apply to", "It wouldn’t be the American way to act like the rest of the world matters.\n\nThe “other” countries should label their own stuff and assume anything else is from Freedom Central.", "LPT (CS) - Make sure you kill every child before detaching the head of a parent otherwise you could get a leak", "For this, the author needs to be aware that their view is limited to a nation and the rest of the world might be different. \n\nI can think of cases where this won’t be a given.", "Reminds me that this should probably be the default in many subs. There was a post in AITA last week about being adamant about traditions in a wedding. Most people said it didn’t matter, but if he was in a country in the Middle East or Central Asia or something where there IS much more emphasis on cultural traditions, it might provide context. Still don’t know where he was from. Pretty sure he was being an asshole either way, regardless of locale.", "Eh, I can see it now. Someone posts an LPT and notes that it is for the US (they do this because they don't know whether it applies elsewhere and they are trying to be conscientious). \n\nTurns out the tip does apply elsewhere, unbeknownst to the OP. Cue dozens of comments about how the OP is so centered on the US that they didn't realize things apply outside of the US, as well. And more comments about how self-centered Americans (or whatever others think they should be called) are.\n\nNew LPT: All people from the US who post LPTs that they think might not apply elsewhere, or that might or might not apply elsewhere, now must post \"LPT (US specific, unless it happens to apply elsewhere)...\"\n\n", "LOL you think people in the US will have enough foresight to know when something is only applicable to the US, that's very optimistic of you.", "One of the previous LPT here is to buy locally than on Amazon because it can be cheaper or something like that. Totally opposite in countries where most products sold in Amazon are not normally sold locally so they are more pricey due to rarity", "LPT: no one should be taking advice from the internet without doing research first, regardless of whether or not it's relevant to your country, just in case it's highly-damaging advice.", "Thank you for posting this! I was having the exact same thoughts when I could see 401k or whatever it is posted everywhere. Hopefully there's more LPTs which are universal posted here", "I hear you, but also consider this: are the people who live in the US (or France or Russia or Australia) necessarily going to know whether or not the laws in their country are generally in alignment with the laws in any other country?\n\nI don't think it's too big of an ask to use your logic and reasoning to parse out whether or not the advice of a random stranger online is worth anything. You should be doing that with every single one of these anyway.", "This also applies to many other subs where not only country but what US state laws/regulations apply to the OP. Anti-work comes to mind as does JNMIL and virtually any \"Legal\" question on any sub.", "LPT: To avoid massive medical / student debt, have a Tuborg and remember that you’re Scandinavian so it’s all good.", "Life pro tip: it’s okay if a pro tip isn’t aplicable to you. You’ll be happier skipping past it than letting it bother you", "I mean, really, this sub (like most) should have \"foramericans\" appended to the sub's title, and if you're not assuming \"by Americans for Americans\" that's on you. (said as a Canadian)", "LPT not everyone live in the US so also label LPT for US becuase most of them don't apply to the rest of the world.", "LPT Canadian version-always keep your maple syrup on top of your wood burnin stove, eh? It’ll freeze up like a caribou on skates.", "I give people the benefit of doubt that maybe, they don't know that it wouldn't work in other countries because they have never lived there or have any first hand knowledge on what's the norm or the laws there. Maybe something that seems to only be US related or X country related could actually be useful in other places, even if it doesn't seem like it. \n\nIf it's not fitting for you, then move on and ignore it. Imo.", "I always took any lpt with a \"grain of salt\" because of this, and if not heavily implied otherwise, I default think 90% of the posts are for the US", "Even in the US, State regulations have a big impact. So it should be mentioned if rules wary from state to state.", "so click on out it takes like half a sec \n\nif this is a real source of frustration for you then holy shit you are a lucky person", "if its not applicable in your nation then dont take the advice? no one is holding us at gunpoint forcing us to comply with every LPT we see. the internet and its fucking hunger to specify every little asterisk is killing me", "You could say \"LPT: Put your country's initials in a post about gov+laws so people know if it affects them or not\".", "TBF, we don't always know what might only be applicable to our own country and not to others. Sure, if you're talking about tax advice or other \"how to deal with the government\" stuff then you can probably assume it only really pertains to your country, but cultural/social/relationship/motivation stuff make it less clear whether they might at least partially be relevant in other countries. There might be tips that do only apply in one country but it's not obvious until we start discussing it and learning about the differences in other nations. I think there is value in those discussions because they teach us all how other nations view things.", "Only Americans do this, therefore this is a LPT which only applies to Americans, therefore you broke your own rule", "Lol makes sense but I don't think people know all the rules in 195 countries to know that they're saying something about cats or rent that might apply to Haiti but not Finland", "LPT: When buying a handgun hungover, make sure to bring your CCW license. It goes quicker than just having your regular license. That way you can go back to drinking and eliminate said hangover.", "LPT: Americans think they are at the center of the universe and they are the default citizens of world wide internet", "You can't win. You'll have too many people crying how there aren't enough LPTs applicable to non-Americans, on an American website. 🤦🏻‍♀️", "Set a budget on what you’re “allowed” to spend outside of bills, rent, and necessities. Put that budget aside in cash and only spend up to that amount. Cash is tangible and it feels like you’re actually spending/losing money when you turn it over versus cr", "For those who are saying \"jUsT sCrOlL pAsT\", you're missing the point. A lot of the time, people won't know certain things only apply in the US, so might use the LTP and make the situation worse. Alternatively, some people (like me) assume most LPTs are purely for Americans and might ignore ones that could be quite useful.", "Should be assumed unless otherwise noted that a U.S. website with predominantly U.S. content with predominantly U.S. users in intended for U.S. consumption. That’s like us going to a Russian, Chinese, Mexican or Belgian site and tell their users, “hey, you guys should change your titles so that I know what county you are talking about.”", "I hate to break it to you guys but its US by default for most people because something like 45% of all users are from the US. Next closest is UK at somewhere around 10%", "I totally agree. If it doesn’t apply to every single person subbed, it’s not a helpful tip. It’s exclusionary, and we won’t stand for it. God forbid one person benefit while the others complain “ it doesn’t apply to me”.", "I always assumed the vast majority of users were based in the US. If so, it'd be more efficient to only specify when if it doesn't apply to the US.", "The default country is the US. The default language is English.\n\nIf in doubt. Just assume the above." ]	[ 885, 440, 390, 76, 66, 59, 50, 29, 26, 18, 14, 13, 12, 12, 11, 10, 7, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, -1, -1, -5, -7, -15 ]	safe
[ "How to remove grease from your hands. This mostly applies to butter. Grease ingeneral though usually takes a while to get completely off with soap and water, so I was wondering if any of you had any great ideas on how to remove it.", "How to remove grease from your hands. This mostly applies to butter. Grease ingeneral though usually takes a while to get completely off with soap and water, so I was wondering if any of you had any great ideas on how to remove it.", "How to remove grease from your hands. This mostly applies to butter. Grease ingeneral though usually takes a while to get completely off with soap and water, so I was wondering if any of you had any great ideas on how to remove it.", "How to remove grease from your hands. This mostly applies to butter. Grease ingeneral though usually takes a while to get completely off with soap and water, so I was wondering if any of you had any great ideas on how to remove it.", "How to remove grease from your hands. This mostly applies to butter. Grease ingeneral though usually takes a while to get completely off with soap and water, so I was wondering if any of you had any great ideas on how to remove it.", "How to remove grease from your hands. This mostly applies to butter. Grease ingeneral though usually takes a while to get completely off with soap and water, so I was wondering if any of you had any great ideas on how to remove it." ]	[ "If you don't have Lava or GoJo around, which most people dont, try toothpaste. It works wonders on car and bicycle grease. ", "http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/u8av4/lpt_as_requested_remove_grease_from_hand_with/\n\nHere", "I usually soak or put dish soap all around my hands and let it sit for a ill then scrub it with a rough towel and rinse, works like magic same with dishes but use a dish sponge instead", "Any of that stuff with orange oil in it works great... fast orange is good! It comes off super duper quick with just a few sprays and a sink. Way faster than regular dish soap for working with machines. Oh, but you're just working with butter. yeah dishsoap is fine. ", "consider ink ripe hobbies theory vase strong alleged bells many -- mass ", "For car grease, hairspray is a great preventative mesure. Grease can't soak in, and soap removes hairspray. Especially good for fingernail edges." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop people from throwing trash in my yard? I live right off of a highway in a rural area. I have an extremely large yard, and I own the first two houses on the road. The first few miles are very nice houses and pasture land. Further down, there are several miles of trashy houses. These people clearly don't care what their houses and yards look like. When people turn off the highway, they throw their \"car trash\" out of their window. It has become a huge daily chore to clean up other peoples garbage in my yard. I'm at a loss as to what to do to stop it.", "How to stop people from throwing trash in my yard? I live right off of a highway in a rural area. I have an extremely large yard, and I own the first two houses on the road. The first few miles are very nice houses and pasture land. Further down, there are several miles of trashy houses. These people clearly don't care what their houses and yards look like. When people turn off the highway, they throw their \"car trash\" out of their window. It has become a huge daily chore to clean up other peoples garbage in my yard. I'm at a loss as to what to do to stop it.", "How to stop people from throwing trash in my yard? I live right off of a highway in a rural area. I have an extremely large yard, and I own the first two houses on the road. The first few miles are very nice houses and pasture land. Further down, there are several miles of trashy houses. These people clearly don't care what their houses and yards look like. When people turn off the highway, they throw their \"car trash\" out of their window. It has become a huge daily chore to clean up other peoples garbage in my yard. I'm at a loss as to what to do to stop it.", "How to stop people from throwing trash in my yard? I live right off of a highway in a rural area. I have an extremely large yard, and I own the first two houses on the road. The first few miles are very nice houses and pasture land. Further down, there are several miles of trashy houses. These people clearly don't care what their houses and yards look like. When people turn off the highway, they throw their \"car trash\" out of their window. It has become a huge daily chore to clean up other peoples garbage in my yard. I'm at a loss as to what to do to stop it.", "How to stop people from throwing trash in my yard? I live right off of a highway in a rural area. I have an extremely large yard, and I own the first two houses on the road. The first few miles are very nice houses and pasture land. Further down, there are several miles of trashy houses. These people clearly don't care what their houses and yards look like. When people turn off the highway, they throw their \"car trash\" out of their window. It has become a huge daily chore to clean up other peoples garbage in my yard. I'm at a loss as to what to do to stop it." ]	[ "A trash can or security system or a sensor just for photographing offenders and or the you are on camera sign.", "Steer into the curve because you'll never educate the entire highway. \n\nMy county had a huge problem with people throwing out garbage while commuting.\n\nThey placed big basketball nets at the hotspots with billboard of people dunking thrash.\n\nPretty soon it became a huge hit as people wanted to hit the net. (like the urinal fly) Most trash is now in or around the net. \n\n(net has a vertical hoop to enable better throwing)\n\nMaybe contact polluting companies like mc Donald's to help pay. Send them pictures of your yard with their trash in it and pitch this solution. They'll pay for the billboard if it has a picture of their hamburger box being dunked and a good Samaritan message about pollution fighting.", "I worked at a university re: managing waste. It's hard to stop littering, especially from cars. The best practice is generally a large sign (complain to your city, anti-litter spares can be common if you're in the right place), and to clean up the area really well. If you clean up the area and have a huge sign, you may see some improvement. We had the same issue, and collecting it before other people can see it and get the same idea helps, a lot.", "I live on the corner of a some what busy cross roads, like urban but close to a school, but I didnt have a fence, I had put one up alittle while back and it stoped being in my yard but just on the curb near the fence.", "If throwing trash in unsuitable places is punishable by your country's law, then placing video cameras capable of fixating car plate numbers and maybe sign about video cameras can stop some people from littering, but only if placing cameras not forbidden by law. Also expect long and fruitless litigation." ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Student Loan Repayments ? Does anyone have any real experience in this? As far as options I can use and lower interest and not get COMPLETELY screwed by Fed Loan Servicing? \nI have about $10,000 left to pay. I really can't make the payments, and have been in forbearance mode for a couple years. I graduated in 2010, and was supposed to start repaying in 2011. I made a couple payments, but then have been on and off of unemployment for the past couple of years. ", "Student Loan Repayments ? Does anyone have any real experience in this? As far as options I can use and lower interest and not get COMPLETELY screwed by Fed Loan Servicing? \nI have about $10,000 left to pay. I really can't make the payments, and have been in forbearance mode for a couple years. I graduated in 2010, and was supposed to start repaying in 2011. I made a couple payments, but then have been on and off of unemployment for the past couple of years. " ]	[ "You can only be in forbearance a maximum of 36 months total, so it sounds like you're near exhausting this as an option. Income Based Repayment will definitely lower your monthly payments, but you need to be aware that it extends the life of the loan to 25 years AND you have to provide verification of income annually. That means as your income changes, your payments will change up or down depending on what you're earning that year. Because it's a longer loan, you will pay a butt-load more in interest. The good-ish news is any amount left on your loan at the end of 25 years is forgiven. The bad-ish news is the forgiven amount is taxable income, so be as prepared as possible.\n\nIBR is fab because your payments will never be more than 15% of your discretionary income. \n\nTo qualify for IBR, you will need to prove partial financial hardship. As you've been on and off unemployment, you should be good with just documentation of that. But if you're near exhausting your unemployment benefits, you can register with a temp agency.\n\nOne other thing - if you are married and your spouse has student loan debt too, BOTH spouse's loans and both spouse's incomes are considered in calculating what your new monthly payment amount will be under IBR. \n\nYou can apply for IBR through your servicer or studentloans.gov. The feds are pushing the IBR plan pretty hard lately because it gives more people a chance to pay back something on their loans and avoid default. \n\nLoan consolidation is another option, but check with your servicer first to see if the savings on monthly payments is affordable for you.\n\n(Disclosure - I am a default prevention specialist at a for-profit school)", "I would call your lender, explain your situation and ask for help in making your payments more affordable. Generally they are very helpful and they would rather see less money per month than no money at all. " ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to prevent ONE ear bud from falling out of my ear! I'm going insane from my ear buds. So I have a pair of the regular apple ones, but here's the thing, the left one falls out whilst he right one is snug... what the hell is going on here? Is my left ear hole just larger? Did my left ear bud shrink? I need help man, it's maddening just to be sitting here, listening to music, only for my left ear bud to randomly fall out. Any help?", "How to prevent ONE ear bud from falling out of my ear! I'm going insane from my ear buds. So I have a pair of the regular apple ones, but here's the thing, the left one falls out whilst he right one is snug... what the hell is going on here? Is my left ear hole just larger? Did my left ear bud shrink? I need help man, it's maddening just to be sitting here, listening to music, only for my left ear bud to randomly fall out. Any help?" ]	[ "Put a bit of extreme hold hairspray/hairgel on your fingertips, then dab on the offending earbud. Wait 10 seconds to dry a bit, then pop in. Always works for me. Superglue works even better but has unfortunate side effects related to skin loss...", "I have this problem while running. You can loop the wire over your ear then into it from the front. Or just buy ear buds that wrap around your ears." ]	[ 5, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to get grease out of a t-shirt? I've got a black t-shirt that feels heavy from all the frying I do in it. I wash it, but it just feels slick and heavy. Any ideas?", "How to get grease out of a t-shirt? I've got a black t-shirt that feels heavy from all the frying I do in it. I wash it, but it just feels slick and heavy. Any ideas?", "How to get grease out of a t-shirt? I've got a black t-shirt that feels heavy from all the frying I do in it. I wash it, but it just feels slick and heavy. Any ideas?", "How to get grease out of a t-shirt? I've got a black t-shirt that feels heavy from all the frying I do in it. I wash it, but it just feels slick and heavy. Any ideas?", "How to get grease out of a t-shirt? I've got a black t-shirt that feels heavy from all the frying I do in it. I wash it, but it just feels slick and heavy. Any ideas?" ]	[ "I try dawn dishwashing soap on anything before I give up on it, but most important..... Don't dry it between attempts.", "Lighter fluid. Not charcoal starter fluid, the stuff you use in refillable cigarette lighters. Available at tobacconists and some drugstores--the trade name is Ronsonol. Similar to dry cleaning fluid, and awesome for getting grease stains out of clothing. Soak the stain, blot it off with paper towels, then wash the shirt.", "I would use something like Oxi-Clean or washing soda. Fryer oil is organic and can be oxidized pretty easily. Buy some oxi-clean and put a triple dose in a bucket of water and soak the shirt for a few hours. it should foam like crazy if it's working.", "soak in pine-sol. you can dilute it, soak shirt in a sink, then wash in machine. should do the trick. I keep pine-sol in a spray bottle in the laundry room- gets out most grease stains.", "I try dawn dishwashing soap on anything before I give up on it, but most important..... Don't dry it between attempts." ]	[ 5, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Tips for Interviewing on the Phone or over Video Conference Hi, \nI have a Zoom Interview on Monday, and then I thought about those that are working remotely or want to work remotely. So I was hoping to get some tips and tricks about how to interview when you are not in the same room. \n\n\nThanks in advance!", "Tips for Interviewing on the Phone or over Video Conference Hi, \nI have a Zoom Interview on Monday, and then I thought about those that are working remotely or want to work remotely. So I was hoping to get some tips and tricks about how to interview when you are not in the same room. \n\n\nThanks in advance!", "Tips for Interviewing on the Phone or over Video Conference Hi, \nI have a Zoom Interview on Monday, and then I thought about those that are working remotely or want to work remotely. So I was hoping to get some tips and tricks about how to interview when you are not in the same room. \n\n\nThanks in advance!", "Tips for Interviewing on the Phone or over Video Conference Hi, \nI have a Zoom Interview on Monday, and then I thought about those that are working remotely or want to work remotely. So I was hoping to get some tips and tricks about how to interview when you are not in the same room. \n\n\nThanks in advance!", "Tips for Interviewing on the Phone or over Video Conference Hi, \nI have a Zoom Interview on Monday, and then I thought about those that are working remotely or want to work remotely. So I was hoping to get some tips and tricks about how to interview when you are not in the same room. \n\n\nThanks in advance!", "Tips for Interviewing on the Phone or over Video Conference Hi, \nI have a Zoom Interview on Monday, and then I thought about those that are working remotely or want to work remotely. So I was hoping to get some tips and tricks about how to interview when you are not in the same room. \n\n\nThanks in advance!", "Tips for Interviewing on the Phone or over Video Conference Hi, \nI have a Zoom Interview on Monday, and then I thought about those that are working remotely or want to work remotely. So I was hoping to get some tips and tricks about how to interview when you are not in the same room. \n\n\nThanks in advance!" ]	[ "-Ensure your lighting is good, and minimize shadows.\n\n-Try not to sit in a swivel chair, to avoid the temptation to rotate back and forth from nerves, etc.\n\n-Practice talking specifically to the camera, not the screen. It is awkward, but interviewers want “eye contact”, not you looking down while speaking.\n\n-Set your camera to eye level so it is straight on with your face. Set your chair at an appropriate distance so your head, face, and top of your chest are showing. Not too far or close to your camera.\n\n-Practice emoting physically more than usual. Interviewers want to see body language, which is hard to do over zoom, teams, etc., so you will have to overtly perform.\n\n-Use the fact that they can’t see your desk, screen, etc to stage note cards, questions you’d like to ask them, lists of your accomplishments or skills.\n\n-Use your camera’s recording function to do a few test runs to grade your performance, and all the above items as well.\n\n-Relax and enjoy it, try to be as friendly and excited as you can be, interviewers are also looking for someone they want to work with.", "Treat it like an in person interview. Shower, face, hair, clothes. Remove all distractions from the room, especially pets.", "For a phone interview, your voice is all you have to convey your enthusiasm for the job. \nDon’t ramble, they have a list of questions, answer fully, but once you have, the silence lets them know you’re finished. Don’t feel a need to fill it. With that in mind, It’s also okay to take a breath to collect your thoughts before you begin to answer.", "If looking right at camera is hard to do while interviewer on screen, shrink the interviewer window on desktop and place as close to camera lens as possible (typically top center of screen). This will help create more direct eye contact while still focusing on the person when they're talking, especially if you are set back a little from the monitor. Recommend testing this a bit first. DM me and I can send you photo example.\n\nAlso, keep camera on but turn off your ability to see yourself on the screen. Helps convey more natural interaction since you aren't distracted by yourself.", "I have done a number of vitrual interviews over the last half year, and I always do a \"tech check\" a good hour before hand with a friend or relative with the software and computer to be used. The number of times I have done this and \"i can't hear you etc\" and then fixed it BEFORE the interview. \n\nAlso, during that check, make sure you are framed right. No one wants to stare at the underside of your chin. Get a box etc and make sure the camera is slightly above eye height, then stare into it the entire time to simulate \"eye contact\".\n\nGood luck!", "If you have a second monitor - open up a word processor and jot down notes of things you don’t want to forget to say and put it on your second screen as a reminder. Things like questions you want to ask, accomplishments you want them know about, etc.", "Check out tips and tricks for video content providers. E.g how to set up the light, camera angles etc. you want to appear professional and friendly." ]	[ 11, 7, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to keep my nose from getting torn up when I blow it with a tissue We have shitty tissues at work, and they always tear up my nose, even if I use just one or two tissues a day. Is there a kind of lotion or something I can use to help that? Or what is best to help even after it's been scratched up?", "how to keep my nose from getting torn up when I blow it with a tissue We have shitty tissues at work, and they always tear up my nose, even if I use just one or two tissues a day. Is there a kind of lotion or something I can use to help that? Or what is best to help even after it's been scratched up?", "how to keep my nose from getting torn up when I blow it with a tissue We have shitty tissues at work, and they always tear up my nose, even if I use just one or two tissues a day. Is there a kind of lotion or something I can use to help that? Or what is best to help even after it's been scratched up?" ]	[ "I've had the same issue with the tissue. I buy the once with the lotion on them. They cost more but the bottom of my nose doesn't look like I've been visiting Scarface's vault. Another thing is don't use cheap tissue. Its like cheap toilet paper, it works but you pay for it. Also a cloth hankie works if you are only wiping up drips. ", "What I've always done is get them slightly wet in the bathroom. Basically blow your nose into wet tissue. It feels weird but it has cut down on the scratchy redness that comes with dry papery stuff rubbing your nose constantly. ", "Use less pressure on your nose, wipe your nose gently making as little contact as possible. Also use carmex or lip balm on the sore spots. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. 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Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n", "How to turn your brain off at night? Like the title says, when I'm ready to fall asleep I just can't seem to shut my brain off. \n\nIt runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. Most nights I have to stay on my phone until I eventually fall asleep to keep it from just running amok.\n\n" ]	[ "I have ADHD and my brain runs full speed nonstop. I find that trying to keep some sort of story going in my head is my best way to fall asleep. Like I'm superman and I can go flying in space to the moon and to great locations on earth. My mind will trail off, and I'll bring it back to the story I got going, which eventually puts me to sleep. Think maybe the extra brain energy of trying to keep focus on the story is what puts me to sleep after a bit.", "Going on your phone is the worst thing you can do, the light affects your ability to sleep properly, and it's too stimulating. \n\nTry reading a book or watching TV (not in bed) instead. \n\nAlso, make sure you exercise lightly and get plenty of water throughout the day ", "Try spending ten minutes an evening doing an online mindfulness course like [Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/). Learning to switch off your brain before sleep is not easy, but mindfulness has really helped a lot of people I know who have an over busy mind or trouble sleeping.", "Calcium/Magnesium levels can play a role in insomnia. I drink a bit of chamomile tea too which has been proven to help with this. It never hurts to tire yourself out as much as possible as well - go to the gym, do some cardio and sit in the sauna or hottub for a while. As for the head stuff, try to think of something mundane - I used to try to recall an entire episode of a tv show I'd watched in my head - reading can help as well. If all else fails see a doctor and maybe get a mild sleep aid (Trazadone). Melatonin pills aren't a long term solution", "Do the plank. I discovered this radical method a couple of months ago and have been testing it ever since. It seems to work:\n\n\nFilled with thoughts in bed? Don't turn on the light, stay under the covers, just turn on your belly and do the plank. Ignore the softness of the mattress, just keep holding it till you can't anymore. One time is usually sufficient to knock you out mentally. I sometimes needed up to three planks. Nowadays, a mere thought about the plank makes me calm down and fall asleep (which is a shame, because the added bonus of exercising is gone.)", "I listen to music for a while before I actually try to go to sleep, then get ready for bed, then shut off the lights and continue to listen to music until I get tired. I know I'm not getting 8hrs, but I do feel well-rested doing this.", "I'm a sleep tech and every year I have to go to these conferences to maintain my continuing education cr", "OP, different things work on different people. So you need to try different things until you find something that works for you.\n\nPersonally I will avoid using any drug because that becomes a habit.\n\nFew things that helped me\n\n1) Take a cold shower before you sleep\n\n2) Atleast wash your face,hands and legs with cold water\n\n3) No bright screen (laptop/mobile/tablet) 2 hours before sleep\n\n4) Drink warm milk before sleep\n\n5) Take deep breaths", "I've been having problems with this too, even was prescribed some sleeping pills at some point, it was then that I realized how much a proper sleep schedule can help you and make life so much better. \n\nI discontinued the meds and I'm back to struggling with this. The things that seem to help are sometimes counting numbers until you fall asleep and making sure you are tired when you go to sleep, my preferred way was to go hiking, so I suggest exercise too.\n\nHope you have better luck with it than I did!", "I have the same problem, while these ideas don't always work they more often than not help. \n\n- color (I feel silly recommending this considering how trendy it is right now but it legitimately helps)\n\n- keep a notepad next to your bed so if you have things you are worried about remembering you can write them down \n\n- get in the habit of no screen time for at least an hour before bed\n\n- drink a sleepy time tea blend\n", "I've had problems sleeping for years. I usually take my dog for a long walk, or go for a hike, or do anything to make me good and tired. Then I take an extra strength melatonin, wait half an hour, go to bed, and count. It usually works. ", "How cheesy and new-agey this might sound but for me this helped: learn to m", "I used to try to picture darkness, but that doesn't really work. A friend told me that he imagines a black wall in front of him, so it's like you're actually looking at something but it's totally blank. Sometimes this helps me. I also read in some children's mindfulness tips, to tell the child to turn any intruding thoughts into bubbles and let them float away. This could help some people to drive away thoughts.", "I haven't read all the comments so I don't know if someone has mentioned this, but the answer is exercise. For 2 months I've been going to the gym every day except weekends, and my mind has simply turned off. I sleep like a king, I'm far more emotionally stable and deal with most things in my waking hours better. My only regret is not doing this sooner.", "Exercise during the day, make your sleep space exclusively for sleep and peaceful, get very cozy and calming sheets so when you slide into bed it feels relaxing (organic cotton rules), then turn on the woosher and get into bed. The woosher is what I call a white noise machine that is a fan thing designed to produce a wooshing sound. Find it on Amazon, called Dohm by Marpac. Exercise will tire you physically, the sleep only space preps your mind for comfort quiet, the sheets feel amazing so you relax, and the wooshing noise trains your brain for what's about to come, which is mindless, numb sleep. It's amazing. Your mind somehow focuses on the white noise throughout the night and shuts down the rest of your hearing. I may wake up during the night but I can much more easily roll over and go back to sleep since the white noise seems to keep my mind clear. Plus the sound is like Pavlov's whistle. I hear the woosher, I feel tired. Can't explain it, but it revolutionized my sleep issues. And as for coming, beating off may seem helpful but it raises your heart rate which is counter productive, so do that a while before going to bed. ", "music didn't do it for me, so I started listening to audiobooks. That way I would concentrate on the world and picture the story and characters in my head. The Audible app has a bookmark feature so you can pick up where you left off.\n\nI'm a bit of a weirdo because I listen to Stephen King books (I don't find them scary, just awesome). The unfortunate side effect is that hearing Steven Weber's voice now knocks me out. ", "You need to combat the reason you are having trouble falling asleep. Your thoughts about random things over the course of your day are keeping you awake. If you can clear these thoughts, you should be able to fall asleep more easily. If you spend some time each day with no distractions and just your thoughts, you can help clear this out of your brain before it comes time to go to sleep. Some people call it m", "Try counting backwards from 1000. It'll keep your brain busy. This usually works for me, in combination with deep breathing. When you need to step up your game, count backwards in another language! ", "Taking a pause during the day and simply be with yourself helps strongly with your problem.\n\nNo sound bombarding, no screens, just peaceful you time to get to think and take a breath. \n\nThe closest to this is the guy saying m", "Routine. Routine. Routine.\n\nIf you read any books on how to get babies and/or children to sleep, this is what they emphasize every single time.\n\nPick some stuff from the above comments that interest you. Note: Do not pick things that you usually do during the day (such as watching TV or browsing your phone). Your body recognizes these actions as \"Daytime Activities.\" Pick some stuff that you don't do during the day while trying to stay awake. Perhaps reading certain books like non-fiction American History. Or listening to certain music (classical perhaps). Your body will eventually associate these things with \"sleepy time.\" \n\nDon't stop the Routine after a couple of days. Books on this subject usually recommend following the Routine for 7-10 days so your body starts to recognize it.\n\nSo, an example of the Routine might look like this:\n\n1. Goal is be sleeping by 10:00 pm.\n\n2. All lights off by 8:00 pm.\n\n3. All electronic devices off by 8:30 pm.\n\n4. Take a shower/brush teeth/choose clothes for the next day, etc.\n\n5. Set up music/sounds like classical music.\n\n6. Read your book.\n\nAdjust the times as necessary.", "Low dose indica edibles and no lights/TV/computers/cell in the bedroom. Bedroom is for sleeping and sex only. \n\nI hit that pillow I'm out like a light.", "LPT: buy a sleep mask. They're cheap and block out the light, which helps your brain power down. I add in earplugs when the guy I married snores. ", "In the last few months I've started listening to podcasts or audiobooks to help me fall asleep. It really works. I try and listen to something that I'm interested enough in to grab my attention, like an audiobook i'm in the middle of. I just set the timer to 15 minutes and then rewind it as needed when I'm ready to resume listening. Works like a charm.", "If i can't empty my head i just imagine a huge black space with a small bright spot in the middle. No special features to focus on, it must not be a lightbulb. Not even a cube or square pixel. One simple white point in universal darkness. Give it a try", "I usually fall asleep within 15-30 minutes, but if I ever get stuck, I listen to nothing. \n\nWhat do you hear when you're in a quiet room with someone and they suddenly say \"Listen! Do you hear that?!\" You hear silence. You're not thinking about the day, not listening to the song stuck in your head, or thinking about your life; you're actively listening to the silence, straining to hear what the other person was alerted by. \n\nThis 'active silence' is the mode you need to get into to quiet your brain and fall asleep. Whenever I can't sleep I imagine someone alerting me to a sound like that, and force myself to remain in that mode. If I find my mind starting to wander, I snap it back: \"No! Listen! Do you hear it?\". It may feel more draining to maintain this than to let you mind wander, but it's not... You're quieting your mind and letting it work on falling asleep, even though you're 'concentrating' on 'nothing'. I've never not fallen asleep doing that. \n", "I used to have the same issue. Lately, 10-20 mins of m", "As a person who has this same problem, A couple of items i've found to help.\n\n* Exercise for at least 30 minutes every day. Do not exercise within 3 hours of going to sleep, though. The exercise will help you to sleep later on, but if you work out too close to bedtime your heart rate will still be up and can cause you more difficulties in falling asleep\n* Before you leave work, create a list of what you want to do tomorrow. This way, you aren't trying to remember it all evening. As well, keep a pen and notepad by your bed to write down any thoughts that pop in so that you aren't worrying about remembering them. Just add them to your work list first thing in the morning.\n* Create a bedtime routine and stick to it. I recommend shutting off all screens and overhead lights, taking a shower, turning down the thermostat to a comfortable temp., and reading for awhile before bed\n* Lots of studies have shown that exposure to screens from your laptop, TV, smartphone, etc. can keep you more awake. Recommendation is to stop all exposure to these devices 1-2 hours before bedtime. \n* When trying to fall asleep, I use the 4-7-8 breathing method. This is inhaling though your nose for 4 seconds, holding for 7 seconds, and then exhaling for 8 seconds. This mimics your bodies natural breathing cycle when asleep. \n* A white noise generator or fan or air cleaner can help to reduce any strange house sounds in the evening\n* If you need some extra help, some Valerian Root extract or Melatonin can help out. Valerian can create drowsiness and Melatonin can help keep you asleep. I only take 3mg of Melatonin. \n\nGood luck. I know insomnia is a bitch, but I hope these help.", "learn and incorporate mediation into your daily schedule. M", "i like to use the brain to my advantage, those nights when you aren't very tired u just start talking to urself soo freakin much! just use all your brainpower to visualize a place, like visually see it with ur closed eyes and then while your \"walking around\" or something in your fake vision you'll just enter dream world hecka quick, even if you dont dream you'll wake up and be like aww heck i just slept :D", "Your brain responds to stimuli. Get rid of the stimuli. What does your brain keep responding to that keeps you awake? Silence that. Also, adhere to a schedule. Try to go to bed at the same time ever night, that way when time comes, your body knows it better be ready. \nToo light? Wear sleeping mask \nToo loud? Earplugs\nToo many distractions? Stop looking at distractions. \n ", "You need to make yourself tired. It's easy to blame it on sleeplessness or insomnia, but it all comes down to whether or not you've done enough during the day and how you're fostering bad habits by prolonging sleep. Try extending the day by waking up earlier, exercising to the point of exhaustion, and keeping busy to tire the mind. Towards the evening try to avoid screens if possible.", "You could do a lot worse tnan listening to some of Michael Sealey's sleep hypnosis videis on youtube They are really good. Worth a shot", "Works like a charm: Put an informational video on (I like documentaries about solar projects), or some text that you find interesting but that still requires a bit of effort, and not purely media consumption. \n\nIf I don't get tired immediately, it feels like I'm cheating my body into being productive and feels great to squeeze a little more work out of the day. But my brain typically quickly realizes this and starts to get sleepy because it hates when I'm productive.\n\nTldr: instead of fighting sleep, use your last wakefulness productively until your mind starts rejecting work and gets sleepy.", "When you mind is running full speed playing some music really low helps me get my mind off of whatever I am thinking. \n\nIt's not really about what the song is as long it's smoothing.\n\nAlso if you use a computer a blue light filter and you can make it automatic with your time zone or like I do I have it start at 8pm and then slowly lower over time and then restore to 0% at 4am right before I wake up. I think the program I use is fux.lu or something similar ", "What's your caffeine intake like? The half life of that drug in your system is longer than you might think. Speaking for myself, I cannot have any caffeine for at least six hours before bed or I will have at least a little trouble falling asleep. ", "What helped me get my sleep cycle on track was quitting caffine intake (for a month).\n\nAlso I make it a point to never use a phone when I'm trying to sleep. Just reading a simple texts can sometimes keep me from going back to sleep. \n\nAlso my routine involved sitting on my ass the entire day. Picking up running/cycling or joining a gym helps too.", "What I usually do is go numb. It's pretty much the same state I default to when the dark thoughts come for me.\n\nThat, and being constantly sleep-deprived for over a decade helps.", "What I find that helps is focusing on breathing and when your mind tries to think of something just keep trying your hardwest to have nothing in your head but your breathing. ", "Turn off the phone and let the thoughts happen. Don't try and stop them, don't follow them, just let them happen. You'll be asleep faster than you realise as long as you can just let go.", "Try thinking \"breathe in, breathe out\" while you're breathing to block out the other nonsense, Grandma told me this and it works for me", "Throughout the day you are constantly being stimulated with work, phone, computer, television, Reddit and you probably don't stop using them until you turn them off to go to sleep. Your brain finally has some time to go through the days events once you're trying to sleep. Find some time in your day to get away from the electronics and just let your thoughts flow. Maybe m", "This is what worked for me:\n\n1. Set a bedtime routine and follow it.\n\n2. No electronics 30 minutes before I go to bed.\n\n3. If you have a TV in your bedroom, move it elsewhere. Your brain and body need to associate the bed with only two activities: sleep and sex.\n\n4. M", "There was an LPT request similar to this a few weeks ago. The top voted suggestion was to try and find 15 minutes of unstimulated silence per day, sort of like m", "There aws a similar LPT about this before and what they mentioned was to m", "The other month I started listening to podcasts in bed. Specifically one called Sleep With Me. This guy goes on about some boring story and I'm out in no time.", "The best thing to turn off your brain to fall asleep is to learn good [sleep hygiene](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_hygiene).\n\n1. Don't use any electronics 1-2 hour before your bed time. That includes phones, laptops, tv, and ipads. Blue light from these devices trick the brain into thinking there is still sunlight.\n2. Get into a solid routine for sleep so that your brain learns that this time and this action is associated with sleep.\nThings that help are m", "Take some time, 30 minutes before you go to bed dim the lights and do something relaxing. Don't watch TV or stare at a screen. Don't work. Goto bed at the same time every day. Also melatonin.\n\nDon't use your bed unless for bed activities.", "Take magnesium at night, exercise during the day, no bright fluorescent lighting (blue light) at night. Simple. :)\n\nIf you still can't turn it off, do a brain dump of everything that is running through your mind and write it down in a private journal. Purge out any toxic and/or negative emotions. Thoughts/emotions exit the brain and move onto the paper. You can throw it away or destroy it if it makes you feel better.", "Stretch.\n\nThe physical act of stretching actually tells your body it's time to relax. I find it's very calming of the mind as well. \n\nI also use a foam roller to roll my back in addition to other stretches.", "Spend time in the evening just sitting there thinking . Maybe 15 minutes. Then make a list of the things you need to worry about tomorrow. Your brain needs time to decompress and process things... if you don't give it time while you're awake, it will take time when you are trying to sleep.", "Seroius non sleeper here. Worked overnight security for 3 years and ruined my sleep schedule. \nSeroius insomniac (actually diagnosed by a doctor not tumblr).\nPerscribed Modafinal for nights i could not sleep.\n\nArmy buddy showed me the ten second sleep procedure. Fall onto whatever you need to sleep and close your eyes. Block out all thoughts and sounds and hope you fall asleep.\n\nIf that doesn't work get a mental image to block something out. I imagine myself in a movie theatre. The remove all details untill all i have is a projector and white screen. Or epic combat scenes....\n\nAnd when all that fails. The good ole fap and nap has never failed me. Also its 3:30 am here and i decided to share this cause i can't sleep.\n\nOff to r/gonewild it is....", "Read! read, read and read! There are books out there for every taste. I literally read until I can't keep my eyes open, and then I turn off my light and I'm down in less than a minute.\n\n1. An engrossing story will entirely distract you from what you have been doing that day.\n2. The quiet, low light levels and relative inactivity will prepare your body for sleep.\n3. Even if you can't get to sleep for an hour or so, you've just achieved something rather than sinking another hour into Reddit.\n", "Podcasts. Just interesting enough to keep your thoughts from circling, but not interesting enough to keep you awake.", "Personally, I m", "My trick is to watch a silly series while trying to sleep, if it doesnt work i just take a pill of natural magnesium.", "Music works for me. I set a timer on it for 30 minutes to 1 hour. Try to sing the music in my head. It takes me 30min to 1hr before I finally get to sleep so I make sure I lie down earlier than my intended sleep time. ", "Make sure you're going to bed at a reasonable time and keep the room dim.Exposure to intense light like your t.v. and phone tell your brain \"time to pay attention!\" but your body clock will naturally reset itself after a couple of dark early nights as your brain naturally tries to come down from its activity during the night. Electronics stunt that.\n\nIf you're desperate and need some actual artificial help, there's melatonin gummies that although are not by any means a cure for insomnia, however they're pretty effective at bringing you into a relaxed state for sleep. They're made by \"Olly\" I think. I've only had them once but they worked for me within the hour.", "M", "Look into mindfulness m", "Listen to Abraham Hicks end of day you tube stuff. \n\n\n\n- really listen to it.\n\n\n\nAt first it appears cheesy as fuck but that stuff is powerful.", "Lie in bed and think about what you would do with a big sum of money, really think it through and you'll be asleep in 30 minutes max.", "Just focus on relaxing each muscle in your body one at a time starting in your feet and working your way up to your head.", "It's your monkey brain. Everyone has this. Something that helped me is distracting my thoughts by focusing on something simple. I usually try to count down from 1000 while focusing on my breath. I've never been able to get past 700 which is roughly five minutes, at the very least it will calm you down from whatever is distracting you. Hope that helps!", "It's silly, but I honestly count sheep. I just imagine them jumping over a fence until I pass out, which is usually fairly quickly. I saw it in cartoons when I was a kid, and it surprisingly works. ", "It could be a magnesium deficiency. If I stop taking magnesium regularly my brain seems to activate as soon as I try to sleep.\n\nTake magnesium glycinate capsules for a few days and see if it makes any difference. You could also try magnesium chloride tablets. Just don't get magnesium oxide - it's poorly absorbed.", "In case no one has mentioned this already, one surefire way (along the lines of counting sheep) is the brass numbers. Imagine you're at one end of a row of townhouses in London, England. Your job is to go up to each front door and remove the old house numbers and then carefully replace them with the new shiny ones. Up the steps to 01, carefully unscrew them individually and then put the old numbers in the trash bag. Take the new ones out of their packaging and attach them to the door carefully so you don't strip the screws. Move down the street to 02. Repeat.\n", "Imagine yourself opening a door into a stairwell, begin walking down the stairs. Count the stairs as you go down, visualize the turns as you hit the landing on each level. Dim the lights in your mind, until you reach the bottom, then click, turn out the light.\n\nAlternatively, imagine yourself in a library, and it is closing time. The shelves are high up, the lights are faraway old fashioned globes, and you are pushing a broom, sweeping up the last of the day's detritus. Push the broom silently down each aisle, sweeping regularly and methodically. All you hear is the slight rustle of the broom. Lights dim behind you as you work....", "If you still can't sleep while you are in bed, just try your best to STAY AWAKE... inevitably, I always fall asleep.\n\nAlso avoid all phones, tvs, computers in your bed. The bright lights muck up your brain and keeps you awake", "If I want to sleep but still wants to reddit, I put my phone to 'night shift'. It makes the display orange-y or warmer. I cant live without my phone bec I use this for work. \nI fall asleep while reading stuff here. ", "If I do a puzzle or practice guitar or do something requiring a lot of focus an hour before bed, I become overstimulated and won't be able to shut my thoughts down. Avoiding those things helps.\n\nSometimes I have to intentionally say to my thoughts, \"No more. Good night. Shut up now.\" Being firm with this is important. \n\nAnother exercise is I imagine taking my thoughts and worries physically out of my mind and setting them down on the bedside table or pillow, with the assurance they'll be there tomorrow to pick up again. \"It's OK, that thought will be there tomorrow\" I tell myself. When I wake up to find most didn't matter and some solve themself with sleep. What matters is putting anxiety to rest through choosing resolution.\n\n", "I've read about this technique a while ago and it work for me most times:\n\nPicture yourself in a dark room with a table in the middle of it. On the table is just a candle burning. Do nothing but concentrate on that flickering burning candle and the light it creates etc. \n\nYour mind will try and wander off but try and bring your thoughts back to watching that candle burn. \n\nHope it works for you. ", "I've no idea if this is common or not, but I have found that I can fall asleep much more rapidly while lying on my back with no pillow. This despite my preferring to sleep on my belly/side.", "I've had reliable results with an app called \"Simply Being.\" It's intended as an aid to m", "I've had difficulty throughout my life and ive found that it's not about shutting your brain off, but thinking about the right things. You need to step away from your current reality and use your imagination. Basically daydreaming turns into sleeping. ", "I've got similar issues sometimes and the following works for me (altough I don't use it that often):\n\n* Don't lie in your bed awake for long periods. Your body will \"remember\" that the bed is for relaxing, not sleeping.\n* Drink more water during the day.\n* Exercise.\n* Open your windows before going to sleep and let the air flow trough.\n* Turn off every screen 1-2 hours before going to bed. Screens make you wide awake but also nervous.", "I've got a lifetime history of sleep issues but one of the tricks I've learned that helps is sorta like counting sheep. I'll visualize from start to finish a scene from a movie or a bike ride or something similar. \n\nI'm an avid mountain biker so that's my usual go to. Generally I just close my eyes and retrace one of my rides as best I can in real time. Getting on my bike at the trailhead, passing through the parking lot and the metal gates, past the downed tree next to the bridge. Just following the route into the mountains. Don't rush it though, like you're moving through with fast forward on. The trail I ride takes me about 2 hours to get through so if I were to lay there and visualize the entire thing, I'd be there for 2 hours as well. Same can be done with a walk across campus/city or even just going through something routine. I've had success so I'd definitely recommend giving this a shot. ", "I've been using the Noisli.com app lately and now I usually conk out after about 10 minutes. Or pick a really boring podcast :)", "I'm the same but my doc gave me Xanax to help sleep but the problem I've always even before Xanax is my dreams are so vivid I never rest. I've gone to bed and dreamed in my dreams. I've read books in my dream. It makes me so confused daily like did I do that or say that in my dream ", "I'm sure lots of people already made these suggestions, but here you go:\n\nFirstly, stay off your phone. That bright light will stimulate your brain and keep you awake even longer, especially if all the other lights in your room are turned off. \n\nI'd also suggest getting into a routine. Brush your teeth, wash your face, put your pajamas on, and read a book for a certain amount of time. \n\nIf you can, turn your lights out at the same time every night and wake up at an assigned hour. This way your brain will become conditioned to a sleep-cycle of your choosing.\n\nMake sure you're comfortable! This involves a lot. Your surroundings are important: make sure you are in a very dark room with no extra lighting, unless you have anxiety and you need it to feel calm. Make sure your bed is made or at least straightened before you get into it. Fluff your pillows. Get a new fuzzy blanket. Also, make sure you're clean and in proper pajamas. Take your bra off, sleep in clothes that are either warm or cool, depending on the season.\n\nI can't sleep well through the night without water. I get really dehydrated, and if a cup of water isn't within arm's reach I have to get up and get one... that totally wakes me up.\n\nAlso, try to take care of yourself emotionally. Night-time is a great part of the day to journal about life's stress, excitements, and even everyday events. Lots of your trouble sounds mental (thinking when you should be sleeping), so just try to unload that intelligent, busy mind of yours! \n\nSpeaking of, I like to make stories in my mind before I sleep as well. Sometimes I write about them in the day, which helps me to continue where I left off at night... lots of other redditors have said the same, so I can't be alone haha!\n\nEither way, good luck!!! Sleeplessness can be rough. ", "I'm not making this up. Every now and then, as I lay in bed with my eyes closed and the racing or repeating thoughts, I'll sort of blink my eyes (while closed) to change tabs, like in Chrome. Switch to a different page until things sort of slow down and I can get a mellower page. Doesn't always work, but when you are days without much sleep you become desperate. I've tried to think of nice scenarios, winning massive lottos and what I'd do/how life would be. Problem with that is I then go into too much detail and I'm up for hours going through scenarios. So I go back to trying to change pages to something more calming. ", "I'd like to know how. Sometimes I work 12 hr on have 8 hr off just to work 12 hr again. The little sleep I get is about work, passing meds and taking vitals. Even sleeping I can't get away from work sometimes. ", "I usually m", "I usually imagine the thoughts in my mind being written on a chalkboard and then when it is all written, I then imagine them being erased off. Usually I fall asleep after repeating this a few times.\n\nAnother way is to imagine what you did today from the moment you woke up in as much detail as possible. ", "I used to just read until I fell asleep. Books are probably better than the phone, but both worked. \n\nAnother thing that helps me is picturing a tree and letting the graphics run on that. Tree, then an expansion including grass and hills and maybe calm animals flitting about. Eventually my tiredness takes over, and the last thing I remember is the image of a tree in the middle of a field blowing in the wind. \n\nOr if you asked 12 year old me...think about the opposite gender sexually. Not anyone you know, but...a nice set of boobs on the mind can't help but distract and put one to sleep. ", "I used to have trouble falling asleep too, then I used this app [mySleepButton](http://mysleepbutton.com/) and it helped me fall asleep every time. I am not affiliated with the app, just sharing about it since it's pretty useful. You do have to follow the instructions and only think about the word that was mentioned at a time. Nowadays I just fall asleep in front of the TV and don't even have to use the app anymore.", "I used to have this problem then I started breathing exercises/m", "I used to have this problem as well, brain bouncing from thought to thought, had terrible insomnia from teen years to mid 20s. Probably around the age of 25 I decided to try to deal with it.\n\nSo I started this pattern at night. I started telling myself a story. The same story. Every night. I made it up, Star Trek themed. I did this every night.\n\nAt first I would complete the story and would have to through it again, eventually I'd fall asleep. Over the course of over a year, maybe a bit longer, the amount of time I had to think about the story got shorter and shorter. \n\nEventually I could just lay down and start thinking about the story and bam, I'd fall asleep. Then it became just laying down in bed would to it. \n\nIt's been 30 years now and that conditioning I did still holds. I lay down, I fall asleep quickly. And shit can be going bad at work, family issues, whatever, and I lay down and fall asleep. It has been wonderful.\n\nOnly down side is I can't read in bed. \n\nTook persistence, but it is doable. But as with many things YMMV.", "I used to have this issue so much. Really, really bad. Staring at the ceiling until three in the morning. I had other issues going on, so therapy helped. May not be the case for you. BUT, part of what I learned from my therapist is how important both your routine and your bedroom space is for a good nights sleep!\n\nI got into a habit of making my before-bed routine special. After taking the puppers out for his late evening walk, these are the things I do:\n\n1. Traditional before-bed stuff: wash my face, brush my teeth, check the locks, turn down my bed, put on jammies & soft relaxing music. Plug in my phone, sleep the computers, and don't look at another screen until the morning.\n2. Turn the lights down a bit, but not too much. Light some candles.\n3. I write as much or as little as I feel is necessary in my journal. Sometimes it's only a sentence, or even just two words (\"Checking in\"). What helped me with journaling though was not just putting a laundry list of what I did that day into words. It's a time for introspection and thinking about parts of my day that made me emote strongly (either positively or negatively). I also use this time to think about and write down what I'm going to do the next day. I started ", "I used to have that problem and although I think this contradicts what most responses here say, The only thing that works for me is to put an earbud in one ear and listen to a tv show or movie. It has to be one that I've seen many times so I don't get too interested in it though. I lay the phone face down so I don't actually watch it and the noise of the show keeps my mind from racing. I used to lay awake for hours and now I'm almost always asleep within 10 minutes. ", "I use a kind of m", "I turn on a podcast. Right now it's \"Stuff you should know\" where two dudes talk about everything from historical events to inventions and how stuff works. \n\nIt usually knocks me out in about 10-15 mins. I try to concentrate on what they are saying instead of thinking my own stuff.\n\nAlso it's a great podcast, but I usually don't remember anything of it the next morning, so have to re-listen.", "I try to think of an endless black void of nothing. Create that image in your mind and stay there. I know it sounds depressing, but it helps me fall asleep fast.", "I try to focus on the sound of my breath. It gets me to make it slower, steadier, generally gets me in the sleepy mood. \n\nYou will never be able to think about nothing, so think about something that doesn't start a cascade of the inner monologue.", "I started using a sleep mask at one point and within a few weeks as soon as a put on I would almost immediately fall asleep. These days the only thing I do in my bedroom is sleep so it has the same effect. I could never fall asleep before I figured out how to train myself. ", "I recently listened to an old episode of the \"You are not so smart\" podcast about sleep located: [here](https://youarenotsosmart.com/2014/05/26/yanss-podcast-024-how-psychology-can-improve-your-sleep-life-with-richard-wiseman/)\n\nIn which the author mentions to not roll around in bed more than 15 mins or so - ruminating on things is no good - Instead, get up and do something like a jigsaw puzzle for 15-20 mins or something equally as dull yet brain stimulating (perhaps reading in low light, or a rubix cube) until you begin to feel sleepy again. \n\nAnother suggestion I recall him giving is going through the alphabet trying to think of a different animal for each letter helps tire the mind out and if you're lying in the dark - should do the trick. Take a listen to that podcast for some interesting info on sleep! ", "I read something a while ago (I will try to find the link later) where someone mentioned that it could be over stimulation throughout the day. It said that the mind not turning off is because your brain should be having those thoughts anyways and if you are over stimulated through the day you \"don't give your brain the opportunity to do it\" until bed time. I don't know if it is placebo or not but it has helped me. I used to listen to podcasts and audiobooks all the time that I wasn't doing something else. Now I make sure when I walk the dog to have some quiet time as well. I still listen to podcasts and stuff but try to get a half hour of \"brain time\" a day as well. The first week or so was hard, but now I have grown to like it. \n\n", "I read all these comments and none have mentioned caffeine. If you're like me, caffeine affects my ability to fall asleep. Lay off coffee, soda, and any other caffeine source 8 hours before bed.", "I pretend I'm already in a dream and make it not so real so I don't keep opening my freaking eyes, then suddenly I know I'm in an actual dream.", "I personally like to put myself into a story of some sort. (Usually made up) Something like I'm a knight on a quest to kill a dragon and thinking about how I get there what perils are on the journey etc. This usually helps me get to sleep much faster then sitting there thinking about my day... \n\nIf you aren't as creative to invent a story reading a book before bed might help in the same way. (I used to do that a lot when I was younger) ", "I personally count backwards from 100 slowly with every breath. Hyper focus on taking paced breaths and counting.", "I often try to do a kind of mediation: try to learn how to control your flow of thoughts. When my mind is full (or I am stressed out from something) I try to imagine the running image as a \"film\" inside a book. Then close it. It is often take many tries, as the images \"spill out\" often, but trying and again is getting a repetitive process, which help to shut down your train of thought, and help to sleep. The important part is to try. With exercise it become easier to concentrate on one thing, while shutting out the others. \n \nOr, the other way (I mostly use this when I am relaxed but can't sleep) is to build up something which feels like dream. Imagine yourself as a bird, sitting outside the house, next to the window. Try hard to imagine yourself, as lying on the bed, try to remember every little detail. Try to feel the wood/concrete/plastic whatever should be under your feet. Sometimes I can reach the point when I can flip my wings - then suddenly it is morning. \n \nAnother way is to find a fragment of memory from your past which feels peaceful. Try to grab it, and remember as much as you can - build up the world what was around you when you saw that. Try to go through it, remember as much as you can.\n \nThese are just basic technique, there is countless others. The important thing is to imagine something which can distract your thoughts, and help you relax, help you to break off from the world. Dreaming is something like this - it is hard to do, but you don't need to success to achieve your goal and fall asleep. I did these, and a blend of these - they are basically the same: you force yourself to do something totally else what your brain is concentrated, and creating a dream like state, which help to shut down your brain. \n \nAnd yes, as others said: using your phone is make it harder to fall sleep, it just give you more connection to the world.", "I mentally build or design things. A house. A bike. Anything that has steps to do a task. It works if your job isn't those tasks. Works consistently well for me. ", "I make up stories as I am preparing to fall asleep. They continue on with plot, character development. It keeps me from thinking about problems, to do lists ", "I listen to stand up comedy on Spotify with volume very low. It gives my brain something to casually focus on with my eyes closed relaxing. It's by far the best thing for my sleepy time busy brain. \n\nPlus, you can discover less popular comedians that are hilarious. Like Kyle Kinane or Nate Bargatze. ", "I listen to audiobooks. I get involved in the story and forget my own problems, then next thing you know I'm asleep! Audible also has a sleep function so you won't wake up to someone talking in the middle of the night. I know it always puts me out in 30 min or less because I never hear it click off.", "I like to imagine in my head that my brain is a big canvas. On that canvas are words like \"doubt, fear, worries, troubles.. Etc\" or specific things like \"family, friends, coworkers.. Etc\" if they're the cause of my worries.\nThen I imagine a little trash can pops up and I move all these words into the trash can, and close the lid. Then think of the trashcan getting smaller and smaller and smaller until you're left with nothing on your canvas.\nFor me, it helps it imagine the letter \"H\" on the canvas afterwarsa for some reason, rather than trying to think of complete blankess. I did this before sports in high school, exams, presentations; it really seems to help clear my head", "I learned from Yoga that in order to relax your brain you should lie on your back, and let your tongue relax to the back of your throat. Not sure if it's total BS, but it works for me.", "I know this may sound obvious/dumb but marijuana works 100%. I'm in a legal state so I can have up to an ounce at a time and I would never sleep if I didn't have my nightly dose...not for everyone but thc/cbd is my cure all ", "I just let it happen. You just keep thinking about stuff and realize it's okay but you stay completely relaxed and breathing properly and then your mind turns into a tranquilized bear and thoughts fade into slumber. ", "I just keep thinking and letting my thoughts run until things start getting really weird and making no sense, then I know I'm close to sleep ", "I honestly hate being the \"pot helps\" guy... but there it is.\n\nI didn't begin smoking until I was nearly thirty, and it was on the recommendation of a psychologist for clinical anxiety, panic disorder, bipolar disorder and sleep deprivation. \n\nI don't enjoy putting any inhalants into my lungs, especially ones related to a culture that I'm not particularly interested in being associated with, but it's better than the alternative of getting on multiple addictive and potentially harmful prescriptions.", "I have this problem, I would lie in bed with my eyes open staring at the ceiling. Clear your head and just look into darkness. Your eye lids will eventually get tired and you'll drift off to sleep", "I have this pretty bad myself. The only thing that ever works for me is counting backwards in my head and really concentrating on the numbers and nothing else. For me, starting at 500 seems to do the trick.", "I have the same problem, I find listening to podcasts/audio books make my brain stop talking to itself, and so I can just drift off to the words of interesting people. You can use the whole 'stop playing' timer to make sure stuff doesn't play all night. ", "I have had some success by trying to think of nothing. Don't let your mind wander to different topics, but try to think of nothing. It isn't always successful, but it works better than the alternative.", "I have adult ADHD and I use the story method. Also-not recommended on a regular basis but if you have it and really need sleep, Cannabis erases dreaming, it seems, and you sleep more fully for some reason. ", "I found that I was having this issue and I think it stemmed from a childhood trauma that was, at the time, something that felt like it was self-inflicted and embarrassing. So embarrassing in fact that the slight thought of the situation threw my mind into a literal tail spin and my body physically jerked as if I just accidentally stabbed myself with a knife, as in \"that hurt like a bitch\" but in a cringe sort of way.\n\nWell, I got an outside perspective on the ordeal by sharing the situation with my best friend who had never heard the story before because, well, I didn't want to tell any one. Ever. I felt so ashamed and guilty and it interfered with my life because I felt like I was really this big loser and everyone would find out eventually which caused social anxiety and for me to doubt my abilities to do just about everything important.\n\nAfter telling my friend his reaction was priceless and it made me realize that my self-doubt and blame was misguided and after that I read about how traumatic experiences can be blown way out of proportion and cause way more damage if you allow yourself to react to the thought of or the trigger of the event.\n\nWith the help of an outside perspective and after I conditioned myself to not react upon thinking of the situations and triggers I rarely have any issues with racing thoughts. I sleep like a log. It's wonderful. Control what you're thinking (downplay and forgive yourself, understand it and empathize rather than blame yourself) when you feel the thought come into your mind and by the time you are usually feeling the effects of it you will have already preempted the negative effects and over time if you continue to do this you will conquer it and sleep fine. \n\nThere are a whole lot of assumptions here but take it for what it's worth. ", "I find reading in bed makes me feel super drowsy and stops my mind from dwelling on negative thoughts even after I roll over and turn the light out.", "I find m", "I find it sometimes works to replace any annoying thoughts. I close my eyes and play the alphabet game: name any band beginning A-Z, name any place you visited, etc. Take your time and you might fall asleep before Z.", "I don't like to nap and going to bed feels like I'm missing out on things. I've just had to teach myself a little over time to just let go of those feelings. Just give in and rest because your body needs it. ", "I could try to whore some karma, but instead I will refer to [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4tg4oe/lpt_request_how_to_avoid_having_a_midlife_crisis/d5hjmhf) post by /u/ICUDOC\nand cite it:\n\n>Sleep doctor here, including someone who has been involved in the treatment of PTSD. Lots of good advice here. The most important thing I can add however is that organizing your thoughts and recalling and digesting impactful, emotional events in your head is actually how the human mind works. Being alone with your thoughts, minimizing external stimulation to focus on the internal dialogue is an important daily activity even for as little as 15 minutes a day.\n\n>The problem with the modern lifestyle is you probably go from morning radio to podcast in car to Facebook, to work and Reddit during breaks and then back home to the TV. There are few opportunities for quiet reflection so is there any surprise that the first moment there are no distractions (once your head hits the pillow on your bed) you would start having your inner dialogue?\n\n>Your coping mechanism should not be more distraction and sleeping pills, but rather forced routine that involves that internal voice. Here are powerful coping mechanisms successful people use on a daily basis:\n\n>1) m", "I can't remember the name of the app but it was one of those free m", "Hydrate before bed. Hydration is one of the strongest factors to a healthy sleep cycle, so if you are not well hydrated, your brain may not produce the chemicals that actually make you feel sleepy and fall asleep.\n\nIt also helps you attain regular REM cycles and stay asleep", "Hi there, I'm the same type of person who can't fall asleep because I think too much. My remedy for this problem is I listen to podcasts. But interesting ones, where I'm learning stuff. For example I'm a long time listener to Stuff You Should Know and Star Talk. I've also come across TechStuff and RadioLab. I don't know if this is a solution for everyone but it works for me. Hope this helps!", "Get a mantra. Should be fairly long. Mine is Shakespeare's Sonnet 116. \n\nRecite it over and over. Focus on the words, the meaning, though it's okay if it begins lacking meaning. Eventually, your brain learns that the mantra means time for sleep. \n\nI now fall asleep within 2 repititions.\n\nSeroquel also helps.", "For me, it's no caffeine after lunchtime, and a dedicated effort to getting at least 15-20 minutes outside during the day, preferably in sunshine (which helps your body produce its own melatonin). I take the occasional melatonin for sleeplessness, but only when in times of high stress (like the week before my wedding) or when we've hit a particularly cloudy or stormy weather pattern.", "Don't use your phone before sleep, if you must use a night time filter like twilight. I would suggest using melatonin 1mg (don't go over 5mg), it's not addictive and it helps even with the worst ADHD. I would suggest using it :) other commenters suggested light exercise and I support that as well. ", "Don't touch your phone. If you have to use a screen within 2-3 hours of bed, consider using Flux or twilight on mobile. They filter the blues out which suppress melatonin release. You can also get some little lenses to clip on your glasses or just redisj glasses to wear, if you don't mind being a dork for a couple hours. \n\nThen, try to read a fiction book before bed. It can help take your mind off real life and allow you to fall asleep. Also, try guided m", "Don't do anything like read or watch TV in your bed. Only use your bed for sleeping. My brain is so conditioned to equate bed with sleep that as soon as I crawl into bed (even for a short rest), I pass out. Lights and PC or TV still on. ", "Did you know that reading in your head is accompanied by minute vibrations in your larynx? Seems like a non sequiter I know, but what this implies is that thinking and speaking are really the same thing. Now ask yourself: why would I incessantly talk to myself while in bed? Or anytime?", "Develop a ritual that your mind comes to recognize as the precursor to sleep. For me, it's when I wash my face, brush my teeth, put on some rain sounds from Noisli.com, make my bed (which I never do in the morning, only right before bed. Weird.) and strip down to boxers.\n\nI do it the same every night, and now my brain recognizes this as meaning it's time to sleep. It has worked wonders for me.\n", "Count breaths. Breathe in, count 1, breathe out, count 2. Get to 10, then start over. Also, don't use the phone - light from the blue part of the spectrum (as you see on a phone screen) inhibits your brain from releasing melatonin.", "Controlling your heart rate is probably the best thing you can do. You can do this by taking slower, deeper breaths. Just try breathing slower. Dont breathe ALLLLL the way in though. It doesnt always work for me, but many times it has! ", "Breathe in for 8 seconds, hold it for 3 seconds, then out for 8 seconds, hold it for 3 seconds, and repeat until sleepy or sleeping. You literally can feel your heart slow down and your brain release sleepytime chemicals (to use the scientific nomenclature)", "Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 8, exhale for 8. Focus on counting, i.e. Picture the numbers as you count. Repeat until you're asleep. Works every time. ", "Best thing that works for me is to focus on my heartrate, and breath deeply to lower it. Almost immediately relaxes my entire body and lets my brain slow down and start to wander.", "Begin a bedtime routine and make sure it's around the same time everyday. Eat a small snack, brush your teeth, wash up, take a vitamin, etc. The ultimate goal is that your body will adjust to this cycle and when you begin your routine it will signal to your brain it's time to sleep. \n\nTry and use your bed for sleeping only. Don't lie there for long periods of time reading or watching something. No screens when trying to sleep or during your routine. Even a book or magazine (for brief periods of time or as part of your routine) is better than looking at your phone.\n\nExercise. I find it helps to clear my head if I walk for 30-60 minutes at night. Many other benefits.\n\nLimit your caffeine consumption. ", "As someone with ADHD, I find that putting on some talk radio helps immensely. Just make sure that it's something that you won't listen too intently to. Alex Jones works perfectly for me for this purpose.", "Ahh, I thought this was about the existential dread, for which I use reddit/videogames/other entertainment until I'm so tired that I immediately fall asleep.", "ADD here too. Transcendental m", "A trick which I learned years ago was this:\n\nPicture a heart rate monitor flat lining. Just that. Sounds simple, but it's not.\nAfter approx 1 second something else will pop into your mind, and you reset and go again.\nEvery time a thought, image or sound pops into your head refocus on that flat line on a black background.", "A few quick typos in order of easiest and most effective:\n\n1) Take time out of the middle of your day to be alone with your thoughts. For many of us, we are connected to a phone or monitor or something/someone feeding us information all day long. This means that bed time is the first chance or brain has to process that information or whatever issues we've put on the backburner while we deal with the constant external stimulus. We need this time, and if we don't provide our brains time in our days to do so, it will force itself as we are trying to sleep. As a Reddit user, I'm guessing you browse Reddit on your phone every chance you find yourself alone to yourself. Waiting in a doctor's office, an Uber, the bus, a line at the bank? Don't reach for the phone but explore what's on your mind. Really though you should recreate the quiet, non stimulating environment of the bedroom at night to really get those thoughts flowing. For me I like the shower or yoga in my living room or sometimes just a walk around the block. Again this is time you set aside before bed.\n\n2) Guided m", ">How to turn your brain off at night? \n\n1. Stop using bright white light devices like cellphones, TV's and computers about an hour or so before you want to go to sleep. Darken the room well (no little blue lights all around) and lower the light levels to stimulate sundown and trigger your pituitary gland to function (it's stopped by bright light and keeps you awake).\n\n2. Especially if you ate pasta for dinner, then you want to eat some sort of fat, like dessert (not a whole cake, a few bites will do) or some Danish butter cookies and a glass of milk (optional, the cookies will do the trick) about an hour or so before you want to go to sleep (about the same time as lowering the lights and turning off the dummy devices). What the fat does is causes the body to divert blood from your over active brain to the stomach to process the fat and thus shuts the brain activity down quite a bit. Also pasta will do that also, but it tends to wake one up later in the middle of the night, so the extra added fat from the cookies or desert will make sure you shut the brain largely down for the night.\n\n3. Needless to say you need to get exercise and wear yourself out during the day and that will also make your body tired and want to rest all night.\n\n4. Some people have SAD (or seasonal affective disorder) and thus try to self medicate with alcohol (to pass out) and coffee to wake up as their sleep cycle is messes up due to overhead clouds. So for that you need to ensure bright daylight in the day and no light at night to regulate yourself. There are special lights that are full spectrum and mimic the sun for overcast times. Best is to move to a more sunny area of the world really.", "> I just can't seem to shut my brain off.\n\n> It runs through everything that happened during the day, then bounces around finding anything it can to think about. \n\nThis is why people daydream, stare into space, come up with epiphanies in the shower, love rhythmically chopping wood, etc. Periods of time where you're not doing anything cognitively intensive frees up your brain to work on that backlog. When your head hits the pillow and you close your eyes, you get the signal that now's a good time to start thinking about things because you aren't getting any new sensory information.\n\nThe \"use your phone until you fall asleep\" is not great because it relies on you becoming so physically tired that you cannot maintain consciousness. If you need an alarm to get up, this will rob you of hours of sleep, and sleep is one of the most essential problems linked to mental and physical health.\n\nI would try scheduling some time every day just doing nothing. It's also known as \"disconnecting\". This doesn't have to be any standard m", "50mg Diphenhydramine taken 1.5-2hrs before bed time\n\nTurn off all lights\n\n\nClose your eyes\n\n\nThink of some sort of story in your head\n\n\nWhen you start to drift off just fixate your eyes in one location. I actually am able to somehow find a certain position for my eyes to be in that allows me to fall asleep\n\n\nUsually when my thoughts start to make no sense I know I'm getting close and pass out within a minute\n\n\n", "2 advil usually helps. Recently i have gotten into the habbit of imagining myself sitting at a desk just writing nothing... seems to shut me down quick", "#1 Dont eat late at night.\n#2 Look up m", "The best way i can suggest, is make a nightly routine. Do that same couple things before you go to bed every night.\n\nAlso! do not watch tv or sit on your phone. The blue UV light screens give off keep your brain awake. ", "Go to the nearest health foods store and grab some herbal supplements designed to help you sleep; a full night's sleep at that!", "Get some of these into you !\n\nhttps://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/46/d7/a5/46d7a55371e4dba6512a07f38ec8a44b.jpg" ]	[ 125, 76, 39, 24, 16, 15, 12, 8, 6, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How can I successfully ask for higher pay? A bit of background: I left Job A for more money at Job B. About a year later, Job A is courting me to return yet still offering lower pay than Job B.", "How can I successfully ask for higher pay? A bit of background: I left Job A for more money at Job B. About a year later, Job A is courting me to return yet still offering lower pay than Job B.", "How can I successfully ask for higher pay? A bit of background: I left Job A for more money at Job B. About a year later, Job A is courting me to return yet still offering lower pay than Job B." ]	[ "If you’re going after job A then just be honest and tell them that whilst you appreciate the offer you would be expecting a higher salary before considering a return. Don’t say your current salary straight away - see what they offer.\n\nIf you’re after a higher salary at job B then ask for a meeting with your manager and say that you would like to be considered for a raise, and then provide reasons that justify it from your manager’s, or the company’s point of view. Good reasons would be: being the highest performer in a team, receiving excellent performance appraisals, and big one: doing extra work and taking on more responsibility than in your current job description.\n", "Don't think of it like you're asking for a favor, think of your time as a commodity you're trying to upsell to your boss. ", "Be honest with Job A. Tell them that the pay they have offered you is lower than what you make at your current job. Don't tell them what you make, and see what they offer. Another thing to consider is why do they want you back? \n\nIf you want a raise at your current job, you have to convince your boss that your time is more valuable than what you are paid now." ]	[ 9, 6, 1 ]	safe
[ "Not sweating when nervous At my job specifically, i interact fine with about everyone in the office. When i talk to the CEO, however, and when i give presentations, I sweat profusely. It's not even when it is a pressured topic that i am nervous about. The other day we were casually discussing a non-work topic, and i started sweating and get nerve-racked. Any advice? I feel like everyone notices and then it makes it worse.", "Not sweating when nervous At my job specifically, i interact fine with about everyone in the office. When i talk to the CEO, however, and when i give presentations, I sweat profusely. It's not even when it is a pressured topic that i am nervous about. The other day we were casually discussing a non-work topic, and i started sweating and get nerve-racked. Any advice? I feel like everyone notices and then it makes it worse.", "Not sweating when nervous At my job specifically, i interact fine with about everyone in the office. When i talk to the CEO, however, and when i give presentations, I sweat profusely. It's not even when it is a pressured topic that i am nervous about. The other day we were casually discussing a non-work topic, and i started sweating and get nerve-racked. Any advice? I feel like everyone notices and then it makes it worse." ]	[ "So you've obviously deduced that it's completely psychological, since is dependent on who you're talking to. In my experience, about the only way to get past it is practice. \n\nWhen I started my job, I was a little like that, but six months in I got thrust into a situation where I had to travel with the big boss and make presentations to NASA and the heads of other divisions of the company. It went on for quite a while, and I just sort of got over it.\n\nThe experience was really helpful to my broader career because I realized later that I came away seeing the execs as just other employees, and I was completely comfortable chatting with them like anyone else, and that seems to make them more comfortable with me.\n\nSo maybe the thing to do is volunteer for any opportunities to make presentations and talk with execs. Maybe try wearing an under shirt on those days so you don't worry as much about the sweat. Carry a handkerchief so you can wipe your forehead.\n\nIt will get better.", "I had a problem with this for a long time. Being nervous made me sweat (particularly in my hands and feet) and sweating (or knowing I would sweat) made me more nervous. It was a feedback loop. It was diagnosed as palmar (and plantar) hyperhidrosis. My version of it was not nearly as bad as what some people get, but it could get pretty bad.\n\nThis was a problem for more than a decade--throughout high school and college, then through a few years of work, before I went to grad school and decided I needed to do something about it.\n\nI bought Certain Dri, which is supposed to be used on, like, arm pits and stuff, and started applying it to my hands before bed. Other than the site of application, I followed the instructions. It took a little while (maybe a week or so) of applying it nightly, but it did stop my hands from getting sweaty, even when I was nervous.\n\nAfter a while of using it, I started to need to apply it less often, every couple days or once a week.\n\nBut the biggest thing was that once I stopped sweating, I stopped being nervous about sweating, and I could just be comfortable. And that allowed me to eventually just stop using the Certain Dri altogether.\n\nIt's been probably a year or so since I last used Certain Dri, and I do get nervously sweaty sometimes. But it's much better now than it used to be. And if it starts to become a problem, or if I know I have something particularly nerve-racking coming up, I'll start applying it a few days or a week beforehand to make sure I'm good to go.\n\nThere are two negative side effects with Certain Dri (or other similar extra-strength anti-perspirants), and they actually caused me to stop using a prescription version of the product when I was in high school:\n\n1. Especially early on, when you first start to try to sweat after an application (usually in the morning sometime), you will probably feel needle-like pinprick pain in the sweat glands on your hands (or wherever you applied it). I assume this is basically related to your sweat glands trying to work and being, like, blocked or something. It sucks, but it lessens over time the more you use it.\n\n2. Every week or so while using it, the skin on my hands would get extremely dry. Like, they'd look like old man hands, and the dry skin would all flake off like a snake shedding its scales. If I had some kind of product in my hair, running my hand through it would leave little white flecks of skin that looked like dandruff. It was kind of gross. I assume it was because my skin was used to being constantly moistened by the sweat, and so it wasn't prepared to keep it moisturized. So I started using moisturizing lotion around day 3 each time I'd start using Certain Dri again.\n\nSo yeah, that's my advice. Feel free to ask any questions.", "Think about adjusting your posture and manipulating your body language. You may be subconsciously putting yourself in a 'weak' position. Plenty of resources online (especially YouTube.) " ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
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", "How to quickly heal cracked lip (on the side where your bottom lip meets top lip) in the cold, dry winter? ", "How to quickly heal cracked lip (on the side where your bottom lip meets top lip) in the cold, dry winter? ", "How to quickly heal cracked lip (on the side where your bottom lip meets top lip) in the cold, dry winter? " ]	[ "This sounds crazy but monistat or any antifungal may work as well. Because that area is moist sometimes its a yeast infection that keeps it from healing. Source: I am a dentist.", "i was on accutane for a while which made my lips terribly dry and the best thing i can recommend would be aquaphor lip cream.\nit comes in these little tubes and it saved my life", "So I learned this super awesome trick for this. I've been using it for quite a few years now. \n\nGo to the vitamin section of any store and buy vitamin E gel tabs. They are translucent and yellow. Get a safety pin or something else sharp to carefully poke a hole in one of the tablets. Squeeze the contents onto your finger and apply to your lip. It will protect and heal it. Reapply as often as you feel you need to.", "Cracked lips are often a sign of dehydration. Drink lots of water :-)\n\n/source: forgets to drink water.", "Don't use Vaseline or chopstick. Those can dry it out even more unless you literally slather it on. \n\nUse burts bees or carmex. ", "Blistex medicated lip ointment. Not the lip balm, the ointment in the little tube. It stings, but heals it fast.\n", "Smith's Rosebud Salve. There's nothing else like it on the market. I used to have terrible chapped lips problems. Now I apply this stuff maybe 3 times a year, and that's it.", "I use Lansinoh which is pure lanolin which is designed to help chapped nipples while breastfeeding. You can find it in the breast feeding section of walmart...comes in purple tube in a box. I am on accutane, and it is the best thing I have found for my lips. Also, I figure I am ingesting some of whatever I put on my lips and if it is safe for babies, should be safe for me. Consistency is like very thick vasoline.", "Basically get a tin of [Bag Balm](http://www.amazon.com/Bag-Balm-Vermonts-Original-Moisturizing-Softening/dp/B0014CI4X8/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1382554762&sr=8-2&keywords=bag+balm). \n\nWhenever you are home put a bit on your lips, especially before bed. They will heal up in no time at all. As a bonus you can also use this stuff on other areas of dried skin, such as chapped hands, cracked heels, dry elbows etc. And it is quite a bit cheaper than blistex or the beeswax (which aren't as effective in my experience).\n\nI've been using this stuff for as long as I can remember and other than prescription cortisone cream it is the only thing I've found that will help dry skin heal quickly, and stay healed.", "http://www.lucaspapaw.com.au/\n\nI dont know anyone who uses lip balm / blistex etc any more. I get asked to send tubs to my relatives in Switzerland.", "If you are stuck with nothing to use (chapstick, carmex, burts bees, etc) you can get a tiny bit of oil from the outisde of your nose. The exterior part of your nose where it meets your cheek, right by the part where your nose widens to form the nostril. There's a natural chapstick there. I'll see if i can find the source.\n\n[Go to step 4](http://www.livestrong.com/article/97391-heal-chapped-lips-chapstick/)", "http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1554qg/lpt_how_to_avoid_dry_lips/c7jmgax\n\nA cowboy rides up outside a saloon, hops off his horse and begins to tie him up. The bartender and patrons inside all watch as the cowboy walks behind his horse, lifts the horses tail, and proceeds to plant a fat old kiss on the horses ass. The bartender is stunned! When the cowboy comes in, bartender just can't help but ask, \"Why on earth would you kiss your horses butt?\"\n\"I have chapped lips,\" replies the cowboy.\n\"Huh. Do horses have some special moisturizer or something back there?\"\nThe cowboy chuckles. \"Nope, but I sure don't lick my lips as often as I used to.\"", "For an internal medicine, try L-lysine. I take it to heal cold sores, but it also heals cracked lips faster as a side benefit. It's an essential nutrient for skin growth. Also keeps skin from drying out, so you need less lotion too.", "Before going to bed, cover your lips in a thick coat of Vaseline. Next morning, rub lips and dead skin off by using the ridges of your shirt collar.", "To add to the other good advice here: Riboflavin (B2)\n\nA riboflavin deficiency (which is higher than you'd think for people who don't eat a lot of vegetables and drink a lot of fluids. B Vitamins are water soluable.) can cause the corners of your mouth to become dry and cracked much faster, as well as the other symptoms that can appear as \"just cold weather\". They exacerbate each other and winter months have you eating different foods that might be lower in B2 than summer foods.", "Take Vitamin B-Complex!! The cracking can be caused by a vitamin deficiency. If I get the cracks in the corners of my mouth, I take two a day. In about a week everything is back to normal.", "I use Vaseline (petroleum jelly) every night, whether I need it or not. It keeps them moist and hydrated. Bonus: Vaseline works really well as a lotion for dry hands in the winter too!", "A&D ointment works well on chapped lips (even severely chapped) and healing tattoos.... but I must look into this aquaphor stuff!\n", "my grandpa always tells people to kiss a dog's butt, so you never lick your lips again. silly grandpa.", "The magic of coconut oil will do the trick. My roommate proved it when she got rid of her dry spot in the exact same area. I like trader joes' version.\n\n", "So while it probably is just some cracked lips, it may be or become something called angular cheilitis, which is a fungus/bacteria that infects the sides of your mouth. It can start as a normal chapped lip tear, which opens areas of infection for the fungus. I used to get this all the time and I second using the antifungal. I used tea tree oil (natural antibacterial and antifungal) and then covered it in vaseline to dry out the fungus. Burt's Bees also helps a lot because it is wax, so it moisturizes without adding tons of water like other lip balms. Neosporin only makes it worse, so refrain from using this until after it is already starting to heal. There are some great home remedies online that you can find by just searching \"angular cheilitis.\"", "Put Vaseline on them! Leave it on until it rubs off and then put more on. Repeat until they're healed. Works like a charm and you should be golden within a day. ", "I have been using this for years: [Mentholatum Ointment ](http://www.amazon.com/Mentholatum-Ointment-3-Ounce-85-Pack/dp/B001FORLKM) \n\nIt works great on dry lips. It also does wonders if you are sick and your nose is red from too much tissue use.", "I get dry lips, but even worse, the skin right under my nose, above my lips, gets really dry also, and sometimes gets white and flaky. Its just a tiny area, but sometimes people point out that I have something on my lip.\nI usually just keep it moistened with chapstick, but it doesn't really solve the problem.\nAny ideas?", "my mom swear by brown sugar or honey. mom's are never wrong. also my mom says you look hungry you should eat something.", "methyl sulfonyl methane (MSM). \n\nDissolve a teaspoon of the powder in a teaspoon of hot water. Run the liquid over your lips whenever it occurs to you to do so - at least a few times a day would be good. MSM heals things in about a quarter of the time it would take to heal without it. Will help any kind of wound. Also interferes with pain signals within about 2 seconds. \n\nYou can put this on and then rub Aquaphor right over the top to seal it in, but just be sure next time you want to reapply the MSM you wipe off the Aquaphor so it's not sealed OUT.", "You have glands around the sides of your nostrils that secrete an oil that when wiped on your lips will work better than any product.\n ", "Vic's Vapo-Rub. No word of a lie. Keeps them moisturized. Bad taste keeps you from licking your lips.", "Vaseline or Aquaphor, especially applied before you go to sleep, can help clear it up by morning. At the very least will help over the course of a couple days. Carmex helps too, but some people don't like it. During the day I like to use Burt's Bees chapstick (grapefruit flavor) as it is very moisturizing and long lasting, and doesn't get a weird build-up or nasty feeling over time.", "Try honey! Dab some on your lip, preferably before bed, then put either Vaseline or coconut oil over the top. \n\nTo keep your lips hydrated, make sure you drink plenty of water. I use a lip scrub every day and it keeps my lips smooth and healthy. I just mix coconut oil with a bit of sugar. You can reapply it as necessary. \n\nAvoid Carmex and Chapstick! They are addictive and create a vicious cycle. ", "The best thing for all skin issues IMHO is pure, natural shea nut butter. You can order it online or get it at your local wig shop. ", "Thank you for posting this! I had two last winter, and with a bf, having a small mouth all the time isn't exactly ideal for two months while I heal completely…", "Smear A&D ointment on before you go to bed. This has healed a lot of dry, cracked, bleeding skin for me (knuckles, lips, etc.).\n\nAs other people have mentioned, Aquaphor is also good, but if you can get it, A&D is better to use overnight. It's thicker, plus the taste will keep you from licking it off accidentally. (It's not bad, just pungently medicinal.)\n\nDuring the day, use a lip balm. If things are really bad, use Aquaphor during the day instead of a lip balm. But be aware that it's very thick, so you're going to look like you're wearing lip gloss. I'd recommend trying a normal lip balm first. (I personally use Aquaphor literally 24/7, but that's because I'm on isotretinoin, AKA Accutane, which literally shuts down almost all of my body's oil production. Prior to being on the drug, I never had a situation where I needed anything thicker than a lip balm during the day, even when my lips were cracking.)", "Paw Paw ointment. Every Aussie knows this. Also, stay away from Vaseline, its petroleum based, your lips will eventually get hooked on it and be dry without it.", "My dentist prescribed me something a year or two ago for this, it wasn't very expensive and the tube contains a lot. Anyway, I'm not sure what its called but ask your dentist!", "It depends. Is this your problem?\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angular_cheilitis\n\nIn that case, counter-intuitively, you should not lick your lips and try to keep the corners of your mouth dry. Also, you should see a doctor because these symptoms can be a sign of a more serious disease.\n\nOtherwise, if you have regular cracked lips, use some kind of panthenol ointment. I'm not from the US, so I can't really recommend any brands. ", "If you are talking about the corner of your mouth, I can see why you'd want this LPT. I've made the horrible mistake of cutting myself there whilst shaving, and it takes ages to heal because of all the movement that part of your face gets with basic expressions and talking.\n\nI'd recommend Neosporin and Vitamin E gelcaps. The gelcaps are not for eating. Poke them with a safety pin and squeeze out the vitamin E gel onto your (clean) fingertip, and apply it once the Neosporin dries out. The Neosporin will keep it from getting infected, and the vitamin E helps increase skin growth. (It's how I reduce scarring when I get a cut or anything).\n\nSource: Many boo-boos.", "If it's angular chelitis from a fungal infection, then an antifungal medicine clears it right up. I have problems with chronic oral thrush that comes on when I use my inhaler for asthma and this happens to me sometimes (when it gets bad). If it's that, usually your tongue will be discolored white and it almost looks furry. Cotton-mouth/dry-mouth that doesn't go away is a symptom of this too. I've found that holding a teaspoon of coconut oil in my mouth for a minute when it's bad clears everything right up (there are fatty acids in the coconut oil that destroy the cell walls of the fungus/hyphae.\n\nIf its just dryness, well, I have taken Accutane in the past and I understand about that too! Things to do here:\n\n1. Make sure you are adequately hydrated\n\n2. If your lips are super chapped, apply a little Carmex lip balm a few times a day.\n\n3. Get a humidifier for where you sleep if it is dry.\n\n4. Make sure you don't have a vitamin deficiency, so take a multivitamin and I recommend a fish oil supplement too.\n\n5. Make sure you use moisturizer on your face, it helps keep your lips from drying out too.\n\n6. The body heals best when you sleep, so take a quick nap and make sure you get adequate sleep to exp", "I'm sure there's a better LPT out there, but the Blistex medicated lip ointment (google that and you can see what it looks like) is AMAZING for chapped lips in general. ", "I went to a dentist and they caused a crack while performing a root canal. They gave me an aloe Vera gel. I ran out and it came back two weeks later. I went to cvs and bought regular aloe for sunburned skin and it worked in two days of constant application. Hasn't come back since", "I used to work outside for a few hours a day in 0° f weather and what worked for me was triple antibiotic ointment. ", "I use vitamin E gel caps. Prick one and use the gel; just a smidge will do. Works for me with any skin abrasion ;)", "I put some tea tree oil on a q-tip and apply 2-3x a day and it helps a lot. Will also do this with canker sores, pimples or cysts. Works likes magic. ", "I had this, and I was advised to apply my normal face moisturiser and then seal it around my lips with Vaseline. It cleared up in a couple of days.", "DCT, it is THE BEST. Its hard to find, but worth it. You can thank the band nerds and drumcorps for figuring out which one works best.\nhttp://www.blistex.com/products/dct", "Bag Balm. Bag Balm. Bag Balm. Cures pretty much every skin problem. But seriously. Bag Balm. You can spend tons of money on \"solutions\" or a few bucks on a SOLUTION. ", "After years of cold dry Utah winters, I have the same problem. I used to use carmex, until I discovered Aquaphor, now I swear by it. I use it for everything.", "vitamin b2.. just do it.. 80% of the time its a deficiency of b2, the rest is mostly thrush or similar.. 3 or 4 days it should clear up, also ask a pharmacist or doctor.. not reddit.", "not really a cure but to help to pain buy some anbesol, it numbs the area for a time and really helps when trying to eat or anything that involves opening the mouth.", "[This](http://www.polysporin.ca/products/visible-lip-health-overnight-renewal) is absolutely the best (albeit drugstore) product for lip anything. I have the worst dry & cracked lips ever, especially in the winter, and had tried everything (carmex, burts, etc.) before i found this. Should be like $5. ", "[Mary Kay Extra Emollient Night Cream.](http://www.ebay.com/itm/Mary-kay-extra-emollient-night-cream-/271303195994) This stuff is amazing and works wonders on chapped or cracked lips.", "Wow. I've been nursing a crack on the same spot (on the side where your bottom lip meets top lip) for over a week now with no luck; it just seems to keep opening up. Thanks for this.", "When my lips are really dry I rub them gently with a face wipe. It gets all the dead skin off and moistens them up.", "This may sound a bit yuck, but if you rub your fingers on any place on your body where natural oils are produced (scalp, face) you can then rub the dry areas to \"transfer\" the oils. These oil are about the same as the ones that keep your lips from feeling dry.", "This is a copy and paste from a post I made earlier this year, I believe. With this method, I noticed remarkable healing within the first day or two. \n\nI apologize for the long post, but I felt the need to share this to help out others that suffer from this condition. Hopefully this will save you from the pain and self-esteem blows it has had on myself and others who have suffered from it for years, not knowing how to treat it or even what it is.\n\nFor those of you that have had angular cheilitis, you know how painful it is and the affect it has on your self-esteem. You may even suffer from it and not know even know what it is until reading this. Wiki\n \ncan explain this condition much better than I can, but in short, it can be caused by a number of different reasons. Vitamin deficiencies, bacterial or fungal infections, anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa, licking your lips, dentures, etc.\n\nIt's starts out dry and starts flaking, then becomes crusty. Some may think it's chapped lips at first, which it may be, but it soon progresses into deep, painful and unsightly lesions. Often people confuse angular cheilitis with cold sores, but rest assured, they are two very different conditions. Angular cheilitis is also NOT contagious in the way that the common cold or STDs are contagious. If your immune system is weakened, it is more likely to flourish in your body.\n\nI've had it off and on for a year or so, but until two weeks ago, I've never had it this badly. It started out on the left corner of my lips. It quickly progressed into deep lesions, which made it quite painful to eat and talk. I kept hoping it would go away, but it then spread to the right side of my mouth, something it had never done in the past. For myself personally, it seems to flare up in cold weather, but I'm not certain.\n\nI couldn't imagine how painful it would be having deep cuts in BOTH sides of my mouth, so I Googled ways to get rid of this pesky condition. I tried a few different home remedies. Nothing seemed to touch it until I decided to go full force by combining different methods that I found. If you ever find this creeping up on your lips and can't seem to rid yourself of it, go ahead and give this a try.\n\nWhat you will need:\n\nConcentrated Liquid Dish soap (I use Dawn)\n\nLotrimin AF (an OTC anti-fungal cream containing Clotrimazole)\n\nTea Tree Oil\n\nPetroleum Jelly\n\nExtra Virgin Coconut Oil\n\nVitamin B-Complex\n\nMultivitamin\n\nZinc Supplement\n\nAZO Yeast (OTC homeopathic pills containing lactobacillus)\n\n**\"HOMEOPATHIC\" WAS WRITTEN ON THE BOX, WHICH IS WHY I INCLUDED THIS HERE. Please don't stop reading here just because of that word! You could be really missing out on some important information that could save you a lot of pain and embarrassment! And please read my ", "This area gets sore often because of fungal infection as others have rightly said (house of teeth, drerika etc..). The best fix (without prescription) is to keep it dry. Maybe Vaseline or Savlon spray plaster may do the trick... I really hope that helps you! Good luck!", "There was an LPT the other day that specified honey was a real good choice for this.\n\nI can't possibly see how, honey tastes too good to remain on the sore.", "THANK YOU for asking this, got this fucking thing like 2 months ago and I swear it took almost 3 weeks to heal. ", "Super glue. Maybe i misunderstood the question slightly but i know it works, and it works well. Any cut, slice or serious injury can, in a pinch be put together with super glue. Its not too toxic and not that painful.\nThe three staples of field health and fixing stuff. Super glue, duct tape and well, staples. Its hardcore, its tough but it works just as well as a surgeon fixing it, and they often tell us that.", "Sounds a bit weird, but it's an old school remedy for this: Take your index finger (or w/e) and rub the open area behind your ear. This is a place where your body's natural oils kind of build up. Then rub the affected area. Sounds weird, but if you don't have chapstick or w/e, this is great. ", "OP is talking about angular chelitis; not chapped lips. I got it often. I used Vaseline during the day and Neosporin before bed.", "Not necessarily for the inside, but seriously Burts Fuckin Bees for chapstick. I refuse to use anything else, works like a charm.", "My dermatologist turned me on to pure lanolin. It's a little messy, but it will heal chapped lips VERY quickly! Some pure lanolin has an odor to it. I've purchased [this](http://www.amazon.com/Lanolin-Anhydrous-Pharmaceutical-Grade/dp/B000V70MWS/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1382618758&sr=8-3&keywords=pure+lanolin) from amazon and it has no odor to it! ", "My dad was in the navy and they recommended calcium lactate. I know this will get buried as its so low, but its worked wonders.", "Make a paste out of baking soda and water and rub it on your lips to exfoliate them and gently slough off dead skin, then dry your lips lightly and use chapstick (I prefer Burt's Bees since it does not contain mineral oil, but any will work, as well as petroleum jelly). It makes your lips look and feel nice. ", "Look up angular chelitis. That's what its called. I mentioned it to my GP and she recommended checking my iron, folate, b12 etc. \n\nFixing it when it happens is grand, but you'd much rather not have it at all", "Lip gloss contains mineral oil that isn't absorbed by your skin. And keeps your lips soft and moist.\n\nEver since I started using lip gloss 10 years ago I have only had cracked lips once. I rarely have to apply it, but it works** and it feels really good when you do have cracked lips. Never use chapstick or any other kind of stick. They are designed and created so that you will feel that you need to keep re-applying, hence you end up buying more chapstick, hence more profits for the company.", "Lanolin. I'm picky about lip protection, and have tried almost everything out there at least once. Last year, I started making natural lip balms, and tried lanolin as an ingredient. Well, I ordered too much, so I tried it on my lips by itself, and have been using it ever since. Smooth lips that stay moisturizer for a long time were the result. I tried it on my lips when the bottom one cracked, as well. The crack was healed in less than 2 days.", "If your lips are already dry, vaseline just seals in the the dryness. What you need to do is use a moisturising cream like Blistex, then apply vaseline to seal in the moisture ", "If it is due to low humidity try vitamin E (tocopheryl acetate). The 1000mg gel caps. Poke a hole in one with a pin squeeze a drop on the wound before going to bed. Most likely will be better by morning. If not just keep applying until healed. I do this myself in the winter and it works great. At one time I worked in a formulation laboratory, we added vitamin E to just about everything that was meant to be used on skin.\n\nNOTE: This is only useful if you are just dealing with cracked dry skin and don't have an infection.", "If it is a recurrent thing, you might want to make sure that you don't have [nutritional deficiencies](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angular_cheilitis#Nutritional_deficiencies) causing it to recur.", "I've often found that cracks in the corners of my mouth are due to a vitamin C deficiency so maybe work some OJ into your diet. Anything sour really as vit C is commonly used as a flavourant in sweets soda. (If the ingredients list ascorbic acid, that's vitamin C)\n\nAs for treating the cracked skin, try a panthenol based ointment. I used to use it as a lip balm when I was on roacutane as it was the only thing that could regenerate my skin fast enough.", "I used to get these all the time for years until I stopped drinking orange juice every morning. Now I only drink orange juice with vodka or champagne. ", "I use vaseline at night before I go to bed because if I use it during the day I end up wiping or licking it all off. So I put on a lot right before I go to sleep and when I wake up my lips feel like 100x better.", "I use A and E ointment.. it's used for baby ass rashes and stuff. Makes it go away in a few hours, and it's great for when you get a brand new tattoo", "I swear I am not spamming here. I use Dr Dan's Lip Balm because I am susceptible to dry lips, esp in the winter. I was on Accutane a while back and this lip balm saved my lips. The stuff is just beeswax and cortisone, but in a nice lip balm format.", "I have successfully used neosporin to clear this stuff up. It tastes awful if you get it in your mouth so I put it on at night before bed.", "I have really weirdly sensitive lips because I might be allergic to a common ingredient in lip products, I think it has something to do with SPF ingredients, so I'm pretty limited my choices because most medicated lip balms have SPF (I can't use Burt's Bees, Carmex, Blistex, or just about any other popular lip product). Whenever I use a lip product or a foundation with some sunscreen ingredients that my lips don't like, they get terribly cracked and dry so I use products like Aquaphor to heal them. Aquaphor works wonders for me and my brother who was on Accutane. similar to that is Vaseline (not as good, but cheaper) and Elizabeth Arden 8 Hour Cream (more expensive, but I think it works better, plus it smells nice and I use it on my dry knuckles in the winter). \n", "I had an issue with that one winter... My doctor told me I lacked vitimin b. She gave me some anti fungal cream and said to take a multivitamin with a B complex to keep it from returning. \n*", "I get this sometimes, if I remember rightly, it's called perleche. I use an anti fungal that's more commonly used for athletes foot - just a teeny tiny bit a couple of times a day for a few days.", "I get a cut every year, but not on the side. For as long as I can remember every winter I get this cut in the center of my upper lip, and it kills. I wake up with a dry mouth from the heat being on and it cracks right open.\n\nI started using [Carmex Lip Balm](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001KYTQ8W/ref=oh_details_o06_s00_i01?ie=UTF8&psc=1) and you can get it cheaper on Amazon then anywhere I've found.", "I don't have an immediate fix, but if you apply honey generously to your lips at bedtime, you're good to go in the morning. ", "Get vitamin B tablets (where I'm from, they sell them in pharmacies as 'B complex' - combination of all the vitamins) and take them according to the instructions about treatment (higher dosage multiple times a day usually).\n\nFor momentary relief, Blistex balm works best for me, but to deal with any issues in/around my mouth, B complex works wonders. Should be gone in a day or two, usually the next morning.", "Get some /u/whollyhemp lip balm! It's fantastic, my raw blam has lasted two seasons now and I just started using the vanilla to switch it up. Couldn't imagine using anything else.", "Every morning I shower, brush teeth etc. the final step is some bilistex on the lips. Never have a problem with cracked lips. ", "Burts Bees honey lip balm every day and throughout the day and I rarely have an issue with cracked lips.", "As a preventative, to stop yourself from licking your lips in dry, wintery weather, kiss your pets' asshole each morning, before walking out the door.\n\nsource: Some comedian I saw on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson, 30+ years ago.", "A little late to the party but I'll throw my opinion in. Grew up on the farm and through years of using [this](http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0000AXJQR) with the dairy cows to heal chapped skin, we figured why not try it. It works awesome. Sounds weird, but trust me, the stuff works wonders on chapped, cracked or dry skin. Try it out. ", "> on the side where your bottom lip meets top lip\n\nOut of curiosity, ~~what~~ where is the side where your bottom lip doesn't meet your top lip?", "The best thing to do is to prevent it from happening in the first place.\n\nHow do you do that? Simple. Chapped lips are caused by breathing through your mouth while sleeping. So make sure you put on chapstick on your lips before bed/after you brush your teeth. Also, put chapstick on after brushing your teeth in the morning. This will solve your problem. How do I know? I'm a former chronic chapped lips sufferer.", "Pawpaw cream/ointment if you can get it - miracle stuff! Sorry ambassadog just saw your post too fellow Aussie lol ;D", "Just put antibiotic ointment on chapped lips. It heals them very quickly, but doesn't taste very good.", "Never used it on a lip cut but crazy glue is fantastic for cracks on joints like hands and toes.\n\n[" ]	[ 458, 141, 83, 70, 27, 21, 13, 13, 8, 7, 7, 6, 6, 5, 4, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, -8 ]	safe
[ "Controlling anxiety Hi everyone, This is a request from my end. I'm having significant increase in anxiety in the past couple of months with my work and other things at home. \n\nWhat are the tips that you can suggest that i do to handle anxiety better?\n\nwould really appreciate any suggestions or feedback.\n\n\n\nUpdate: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions.", "Controlling anxiety Hi everyone, This is a request from my end. I'm having significant increase in anxiety in the past couple of months with my work and other things at home. \n\nWhat are the tips that you can suggest that i do to handle anxiety better?\n\nwould really appreciate any suggestions or feedback.\n\n\n\nUpdate: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions.", "Controlling anxiety Hi everyone, This is a request from my end. I'm having significant increase in anxiety in the past couple of months with my work and other things at home. \n\nWhat are the tips that you can suggest that i do to handle anxiety better?\n\nwould really appreciate any suggestions or feedback.\n\n\n\nUpdate: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions.", "Controlling anxiety Hi everyone, This is a request from my end. I'm having significant increase in anxiety in the past couple of months with my work and other things at home. \n\nWhat are the tips that you can suggest that i do to handle anxiety better?\n\nwould really appreciate any suggestions or feedback.\n\n\n\nUpdate: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions.", "Controlling anxiety Hi everyone, This is a request from my end. I'm having significant increase in anxiety in the past couple of months with my work and other things at home. \n\nWhat are the tips that you can suggest that i do to handle anxiety better?\n\nwould really appreciate any suggestions or feedback.\n\n\n\nUpdate: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions.", "Controlling anxiety Hi everyone, This is a request from my end. I'm having significant increase in anxiety in the past couple of months with my work and other things at home. \n\nWhat are the tips that you can suggest that i do to handle anxiety better?\n\nwould really appreciate any suggestions or feedback.\n\n\n\nUpdate: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions.", "Controlling anxiety Hi everyone, This is a request from my end. I'm having significant increase in anxiety in the past couple of months with my work and other things at home. \n\nWhat are the tips that you can suggest that i do to handle anxiety better?\n\nwould really appreciate any suggestions or feedback.\n\n\n\nUpdate: Thanks a lot everyone for your suggestions." ]	[ "This might not be as helpful as you were hoping for but, for me I find accepting it as a part of life was a big game changer. Once I was able to recognize the feeling, I could use this to my advantage. If I'm in a situation where I'm anxious I know the feeling and I say to myself \"yes your anxious and this totally sucks but, I can do this!\". It doesn't stop me from being anxious but, the anxiety doesn't take over. It took a lot to get to a point where I could live with anxiety; m", "In the moment, your brain is trying to convince you that you are under attack. I try to actively remind myself that I'm not under attack, that I'm safe, and try to tell yourself \"I'm in my safe house, laying in my safe bed\" or whatever you're doing. Focus on the safety.", "I found an app called neurocycle. It's helped me quite a bit with anxiety recently. You do 21 days of it just a bit each day and it lets you break everything down and figure out what's going on and how to deal with everything. I highly recommend it tbh", "Anxiety is a real bitch to live with, and it can take an array of coping mechanisms. Anxiety runs in my family, like we all have it - so we have created a sort of protocol for helping each other through it. Looks like this: \nTherapy, with cognitive behavioral approach and help w trauma if needed\nExercise, even a little helps\nNormalize sllep/waking cycle\nM", "A weird thing that helps me a little bit is any time I start to panic I try to acknowledge the feeling and say “I’ll let the universe handle this/take this” and I actively try to not care about it moving forward.", "It sounds silly, but what helps me is to write a list of everything I need to do the next day before I'm done for the day. Taking a ten-minute break every two hours also helps me. And I try to find ways to cut taks that aren't essential. I.e., do I really need to sew something for my friend's baby or will it suffice if I buy something? Do I really need to cook a full meal or is a healthy frozen meal okay as well? Try to find ways to create note time by taking the easy way out whenever necessary or possible.\n\nIt might also help you to find an online course about assertiveness and saying no. It really helped me to not stress so much about telling people what I want/what I'm comfortable with and with, well, saying no.", "I distract myself when my anxiety peaks by taking my mind off it, reading, watching one of my favorite shows, taking a bath, etc. There are also many awesome m" ]	[ 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Most convenient method of sending videos of larger file sizes to friends/family? I get so unbelievably annoyed trying to send videos to people and getting blocked by the file size limit no matter what medium I use and I'm looking for a hassle-free way to avoid this problem (I am aware of sites that I can upload the video to and share a link, I was just hoping for a more direct approach but maybe that's too wishful thinking)", "Most convenient method of sending videos of larger file sizes to friends/family? I get so unbelievably annoyed trying to send videos to people and getting blocked by the file size limit no matter what medium I use and I'm looking for a hassle-free way to avoid this problem (I am aware of sites that I can upload the video to and share a link, I was just hoping for a more direct approach but maybe that's too wishful thinking)", "Most convenient method of sending videos of larger file sizes to friends/family? I get so unbelievably annoyed trying to send videos to people and getting blocked by the file size limit no matter what medium I use and I'm looking for a hassle-free way to avoid this problem (I am aware of sites that I can upload the video to and share a link, I was just hoping for a more direct approach but maybe that's too wishful thinking)", "Most convenient method of sending videos of larger file sizes to friends/family? I get so unbelievably annoyed trying to send videos to people and getting blocked by the file size limit no matter what medium I use and I'm looking for a hassle-free way to avoid this problem (I am aware of sites that I can upload the video to and share a link, I was just hoping for a more direct approach but maybe that's too wishful thinking)", "Most convenient method of sending videos of larger file sizes to friends/family? I get so unbelievably annoyed trying to send videos to people and getting blocked by the file size limit no matter what medium I use and I'm looking for a hassle-free way to avoid this problem (I am aware of sites that I can upload the video to and share a link, I was just hoping for a more direct approach but maybe that's too wishful thinking)" ]	[ "Do they have to have the files, or, is watching the video the goal? Could always upload to youtube or vimeo and share privately", "I can think of:\n1. Create a personal cloud server with means of giving them access.\n\n2. Use a cloud storage option that enables sharing; can only think of something along the lines of Google Docs personally; but I'm sure there're better/equivalent options.", "For anyone wondering I discovered the world when I found that through Telegram you can send pictures, videos or anything with Max Quality selecting it just before sending without losing any definition like Whatsapp", "But telegram takes AGES to send even short videos and I find that they’re more likely to fail sending if you leave the app. At least that’s my experience :/", "Google drive I suppose, and then provide a link. Can be a bit time consuming depending how large the files are." ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What is the best way to keep my two liter bottles of pop carbonated, so that I am not wasting any of it? ", "What is the best way to keep my two liter bottles of pop carbonated, so that I am not wasting any of it? ", "What is the best way to keep my two liter bottles of pop carbonated, so that I am not wasting any of it? ", "What is the best way to keep my two liter bottles of pop carbonated, so that I am not wasting any of it? ", "What is the best way to keep my two liter bottles of pop carbonated, so that I am not wasting any of it? " ]	[ "The answer here is quite sciencey, but I'll try to keep it simple. Soda stays carbonated the longest under 2 conditions: low temperatures and high pressure. When cold, the CO2 gas takes up less volume and therefore stays dissolved in the soda better, instead of rising out of solution. ( Solubility of solids and gasses are opposite) So keep the soda as cold as you can.\n\n When under high pressure, the gas stays in solution because the air above the soda is so compressed, there's no room for the gas to diffuse into the surroundings. This is why a freshly opened bottle of soda makes a \"phsssh\" sound when you open it. And why an almost empty bottle of soda is gets flat really fast. So transfer your soda into smaller bottles or containers when it gets past the half empty mark. \n\nTL:DR\nSo my two tips are: keep really cold, and when the soda level in your 2 L bottle becomes less than half, transfer your extra soda into smaller bottles \n\n", "Try adding some yeast to it and leave it outside the fridge until ready to drink. The soda will carbonate itself!", "Had a classmate who used to squeeze the bottle (pushing out the air) as he screwed the lid on. That way, no matter how much he drank, there was very little air in the bottle. Never tried it myself but he swore by it", "Buy cans or bottles instead of 2 liter bottles. Yes, it will cost more, but you will end up wasting less of it, because you will probably drink the entire can/bottle before it goes flat. \n\n2 liter bottles can be relatively inexpensive, but if you are only one person, it's hard to drink it all before it goes flat.", "The carbon dioxide seeps through the bottle walls very slowly. No matter how tightly you cap it, it will eventually go flat. " ]	[ 9, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to prevent dust settling on furniture in a ventilated room Most of my furniture in my room is from IKEA and it's white. Meaning you can see the dust that piles up in less than an hour. What can I do to lessen or eliminate the dust?", "How to prevent dust settling on furniture in a ventilated room Most of my furniture in my room is from IKEA and it's white. Meaning you can see the dust that piles up in less than an hour. What can I do to lessen or eliminate the dust?" ]	[ "I have often wondered why someone doesn't not make dust-repellent surfaces. We can make surfaces that attract dust; why not dust-repellent?", "Clean the hell out of it, lock the door, place a filter on all vents, and never go back into the room. Ever. No dust will accumulate. " ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How do I deal with cockroaches? Today there was a huge ass cockroach in my bathroom and I started screaming like a kid… I’ve dealt with cockroaches before in fast food jobs and killed them no problem but this one was huge and coming at me at a fast pace while dodging all my attacks. Luckily I drowned it in raid before it got out of the room, but I want to be more prepared next time/prevent this situation from happening again. \n\nIf anyone has safe cockroach killing advice and cockroach prevention tips, I’d like to hear them! Should I talk to the apartment management about this? Should I invest in a dehumidifier? Thank you for any tips.", "How do I deal with cockroaches? Today there was a huge ass cockroach in my bathroom and I started screaming like a kid… I’ve dealt with cockroaches before in fast food jobs and killed them no problem but this one was huge and coming at me at a fast pace while dodging all my attacks. Luckily I drowned it in raid before it got out of the room, but I want to be more prepared next time/prevent this situation from happening again. \n\nIf anyone has safe cockroach killing advice and cockroach prevention tips, I’d like to hear them! Should I talk to the apartment management about this? Should I invest in a dehumidifier? Thank you for any tips.", "How do I deal with cockroaches? Today there was a huge ass cockroach in my bathroom and I started screaming like a kid… I’ve dealt with cockroaches before in fast food jobs and killed them no problem but this one was huge and coming at me at a fast pace while dodging all my attacks. Luckily I drowned it in raid before it got out of the room, but I want to be more prepared next time/prevent this situation from happening again. \n\nIf anyone has safe cockroach killing advice and cockroach prevention tips, I’d like to hear them! Should I talk to the apartment management about this? Should I invest in a dehumidifier? Thank you for any tips.", "How do I deal with cockroaches? Today there was a huge ass cockroach in my bathroom and I started screaming like a kid… I’ve dealt with cockroaches before in fast food jobs and killed them no problem but this one was huge and coming at me at a fast pace while dodging all my attacks. Luckily I drowned it in raid before it got out of the room, but I want to be more prepared next time/prevent this situation from happening again. \n\nIf anyone has safe cockroach killing advice and cockroach prevention tips, I’d like to hear them! Should I talk to the apartment management about this? Should I invest in a dehumidifier? Thank you for any tips.", "How do I deal with cockroaches? Today there was a huge ass cockroach in my bathroom and I started screaming like a kid… I’ve dealt with cockroaches before in fast food jobs and killed them no problem but this one was huge and coming at me at a fast pace while dodging all my attacks. Luckily I drowned it in raid before it got out of the room, but I want to be more prepared next time/prevent this situation from happening again. \n\nIf anyone has safe cockroach killing advice and cockroach prevention tips, I’d like to hear them! Should I talk to the apartment management about this? Should I invest in a dehumidifier? Thank you for any tips.", "How do I deal with cockroaches? Today there was a huge ass cockroach in my bathroom and I started screaming like a kid… I’ve dealt with cockroaches before in fast food jobs and killed them no problem but this one was huge and coming at me at a fast pace while dodging all my attacks. Luckily I drowned it in raid before it got out of the room, but I want to be more prepared next time/prevent this situation from happening again. \n\nIf anyone has safe cockroach killing advice and cockroach prevention tips, I’d like to hear them! Should I talk to the apartment management about this? Should I invest in a dehumidifier? Thank you for any tips.", "How do I deal with cockroaches? Today there was a huge ass cockroach in my bathroom and I started screaming like a kid… I’ve dealt with cockroaches before in fast food jobs and killed them no problem but this one was huge and coming at me at a fast pace while dodging all my attacks. Luckily I drowned it in raid before it got out of the room, but I want to be more prepared next time/prevent this situation from happening again. \n\nIf anyone has safe cockroach killing advice and cockroach prevention tips, I’d like to hear them! Should I talk to the apartment management about this? Should I invest in a dehumidifier? Thank you for any tips." ]	[ "Buy boric acid with protein mixed in it and boric acid with sugar mixed in it or mix the sugar in yourself. Boric acid (it is not as bad or scary as it sounds) mixed with sugar or protein attracts bugs. When they eat it their exoskeletal system is badly damaged and they die.\n\nAlso buy sticky traps.", "Get a gecko or lizard of some type & leave it out to just live in the house. A lizard will eat the cockroaches.", "WD-40 kills them just as effectively as raid. But call a bug guy. The best monthly bill you'll ever have.", "Probably not a cockroach, but a waterbug or palmetto bug. Sure talk to the apartment manager there may be cracks that need to be sealed up, you can get the gel that comes in a syringe type thing to spread over corners. Don't leave food out uncovered, wash all dishes once you're done with them.\n\n[Remember](https://youtu.be/2mvmHwCxw5A)", "Having lived on the coasts of both NC and SC, one MUST have an exterminator on a regular basis. Otherwise, they will form regiments and take over.", "Okay so I treated my apartment with this (infested building) and haven't seen any yet (only dead ones that may have not been roaches)\n\n1. Alpine WSG-Professional spray. I sprayed my cabinets, behind my stove and refrigerator, and along the outlets and baseboard in my apartment. Roaches really like appliances so. \n\n2. Advion gel bait. I put small pea sized dots on index cards and put one in each cabinet, behind the refrigerator, and in the cabinet in my bathroom. \n\n3. Boric acid in any unused space. For me this was a sliding cabinet in my bathroom that I wasn't going to use. Don't let the roaches use it either. \n\n4. Don't let water sit. I've read roaches cannot live without water so I've kept my place bone dry. I wipe down my shower and sinks after every use. I even dry my coffee maker. \n\n5. I basically leave nothing out. Everything is in bins, clean the counter and stove after use. This may not be necessary but for peace of mind.\n\n6. Keep your place clean/decluttered in general. While roaches can basically eat anything it helps with treatment and makes you feel alot better. \n\nThis may be going overboard but I'm an insanely clean person and just can't with roaches. Just know that you are not the only one freaked out.", "Mix boric acid and sweetened condensed milk. It should become a sort of dough ball, and if you leave that in places where the cockroaches are likely coming from, you won't have any more problems." ]	[ 13, 9, 5, 4, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to incorporate your business, forgo income taxes, and utilize business-related expense write-offs. I've read a little bit about incorporation, and in particular, Nevada S Corporations seem like a good way to incorporate and protect income from your small business. However, when I'm going about incorporating, I want to do it while saving money, being careful with how I file things, and of course utilizing any allowances for business-related expenses. (purchasing equipment, moving expenses, etc)\n\n", "How to incorporate your business, forgo income taxes, and utilize business-related expense write-offs. I've read a little bit about incorporation, and in particular, Nevada S Corporations seem like a good way to incorporate and protect income from your small business. However, when I'm going about incorporating, I want to do it while saving money, being careful with how I file things, and of course utilizing any allowances for business-related expenses. (purchasing equipment, moving expenses, etc)\n\n", "How to incorporate your business, forgo income taxes, and utilize business-related expense write-offs. I've read a little bit about incorporation, and in particular, Nevada S Corporations seem like a good way to incorporate and protect income from your small business. However, when I'm going about incorporating, I want to do it while saving money, being careful with how I file things, and of course utilizing any allowances for business-related expenses. (purchasing equipment, moving expenses, etc)\n\n" ]	[ "Incorporating is fairly easy, but you will lose company status if you don't turn a profit at some point. And you can't claim just anything as a business expense. If it was that easy nobody would ever pay taxes.", "Direct from the SBA(assuming you're American)\n\nhttp://www.sba.gov/content/follow-these-steps-starting-business", "Before I begin, nothing here is legal or tax advice which you should use without consulting your own attorney or accountant. \n\nThere are two type of corporations for tax purposes, C-corps (these are what most would consider regular corporations like Apple or Ford) and S-corps. S-corp status is only for small businesses as there are particular rules about the way the equity structure can be set-up and who can own the company. A C-corp pays corporate income taxes and if the Board of Directors declares a dividend, the owners of the shares are again taxed on the dividend at the personal income tax level (this is why you sometimes hear the saying \"double taxation\"). A S-corp is a flow through entity meaning taxes are not paid at the corporate level though the profits/losses get passed through at the proportionate rate of the owners where they pay the taxes on their personal income statement. Now it is worth noting that an individual who runs a sole proprietorship can take more or less the exact same deductions as someone who has incorporated with S-corp status (there are some differences with self-employment taxes for example). You typically do not save money on taxes because you incorporate and don't forget there are also fees to incorporate that vary by state. \n\nThe reason to really incorporate in my mind is two-fold (another option besides incorporating would be to form an LLC). First and most importantly is you get legal protection and limited liability . Lets say you currently own a autoshop and it is a sole proprietorship. If one of your mechanics totally botches a repair job and some mom is driving home with her kid and because the wheel wasn't screwed back on to the car correctly and it falls off and she goes into oncoming traffic and dies, the surviving family can sue you individually and walk away with the shirt off your back. If you were incorporated or in an LLC you have limited liability which means instead of getting to sue you directly they get to sue the company. Worst that happens is you are under insured and you loose your business. The second reason to not just run your business as a sole proprietorship is that it gives you more flexibility to set up business contingencies should you one day find yourself in a place where you no longer want to run/own the business. \n\nBottom line is this, if you have a business, talk to a business attorney and let them help you set it up as appropriate. " ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?", "How to become motivated and not stay in bed all day? Lately, I've been noticing that I am very unfocused, very unmotivated and very tired. There's a lot of things I want to do, but I can't seem to convince myself to get out of bed and do stuff instead of napping all day until I have work or rehearsal.\n\nFor example, today I didn't have work until 4:45pm. I woke up at 8:30a, took a shower, and layed back down in bed with the intent to work on some music stuff on my computer. Instead, I took a nap until 1pm and kept telling myself that it was okay because I had a headache. I got nothing done.\n\nWhat are your guys' tips for getting out of bed and avoiding napping all day? How can I stay motivated and focused?" ]	[ "YOu need a reason to get out of bed, I find that making myself a great coffee is always a good start, I grind fresh beans, clean all the coffee making stuff and then proceed to make myself a fantastic cup of coffee, Cappuccino. why, because I am worth it! and its a great start to everyday knowing that YOU are doing something for YOU because YOU are worth it.. \n\nI then proceed to clear everything that NEEDs to be done out of the way, I then know that I can lie around if, IF, I want too, however, I am generally so happy with my coffee and the fact that I have done all that I need to do, that I feel good enough about myself to enjoy life a little more.. I am 56 by the way, this is a life style choice.", "Take a shower and get dressed. It's hard to stay in bed when you're two steps into leaving the house.", "https://www.reddit.com/r/NonZeroDay/wiki/the_four_pillars\n\nThis is a post about being motivated that I read a while back on reddit. It is amazing. It has changed the way I look at each day. It has inspired its own subreddit (deservedly so). ", "The easiest way, based on what you've said, is not to go back to bed. If you can get up and take a shower then you've already won the battle. \n\nA point: you should NOT be doing anything in your bed except sleeping. You absolutely should not be working in your bed. That's just going to mess up both working and sleeping. \n\nIf you want to get music done then choose a spot/position to do that so you have the unconscious habit built up to work there.", "Hang out with people or date people that make you embarrassed to sleep in. Seriously. I wake up much earlier when I feel like a lazy bastard by comparison. Also, I keep caffeine pills by my bed with a water bottle so I can let that kick in and force me out of bed in the morning. I'm a weirdo, though, full disclosure.", "Psychologist talk about a thing called \"activation energy.\" Basically works off the fallacy when newton's law of motion is somewhat falsely attributed to your mindset so to speak. \n\nTLDR: if you force yourself to get up you'll be able to stay up. \n\nSo \"a body at rest will stay at rest until acted upon by an external force\" is what we are all familiar with as a law of motion. But it is also true for your body and mindset. Have you been so tired that even after a 12 hour sleep you are still tired? Or ever been revitalized by a mere 6 hour shut eye? This is what the activation energy refers to. It's a threshold where you are able to get up from being a couch potato or a blanket burrito. Once you are up, however, you can stay up and do things. For me, usually the motivation is the call of nature. Then I'll make a cup of coffee and I'm good to go.if that doesn't work for you, get treats. Yogurt? Nutella? Make it something you have to jump out of bed to get. ", "Commit to doing things or going places so you have to get up and get ready. Then once you've been out you might be more inclined to stay up.", "Attach a giant spring to your bed. Hook up a timer to that spring. Set it for 4:46am everyday. \n\nBut seriously just get out of bed.", "1. Try getting a solid 9 hours of 7.5 hours of sleep in one go if possible\nSleeping enough will make you less tired, and if you sleep by a 90 minute multiple to match your sleeping rhythm, you'll find yourself waking up and getting up much easier. You can receive similar benefit from waking up naturally.\n2. Similar to 1, if you can't sleep properly and still need naps, I remember a guide (no source) detailing different nap times by functionality assuming you need more sleep.\n3. If you sleep for more than 10 hours a day then I would sleep in this rhythmic cycles in order to get up early feeling refreshed. Otherwise, it could be attributed to chemical imbalances, e.g. depression in which case I would go to a doctor.\n4. As far as staying awake and being productive, try some frequent, short breaks: stretch to get blood flowing, and simply getting up to stand does wonders.\n5. I would also recommend you check your diet and make sure you are eating healthy, and double check for any illness", "Be hard on yourself. Think of the consequences when you don't feel motivated to something. Punish yourself (mentally). " ]	[ 8, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?", "What do you wish you knew before moving into your first apartment? About to sign the lease to my first real place. What tips do you have?" ]	[ "Check the soundproofing. Can you hear every breath your neighbor takes? If the walls are paper thin, fuck off and go somewhere else. \n\nHow's the cell service? Only have a bar of 3g? Imagine living every day like that. Fuck off and go somewhere else. \n\nSee what your utility options are. Only have Comcast, and the speed is \"we'll draw each pixel and mail it to you\"? \nFuck off and go somewhere else.\n\nHow's the parking situation? Are you going to have to fight with fucking Steven in 233 every day over a spot? \n\nDo a god damn good walkthrough. Better yet, video it as you're going through with landlord..save that video, that way when they claim you did shit that you didn't actually do, you have video proof. \n\nAlso, don't fix holes in the walls with tortillas.", "Take pictures of EVERYTHING. Walk the place before you move anything in, find every little dent and ding. Document all damage. Also read your ENTIRE lease front to back before signing it.", "Turn shower on and make sure has pressure, ride by at night and weekends to see parking situation and how many people out and about", "If it's an old building, bring a marble or a ball with you. Place it on the floor in random spots. If the marble or ball rolls, the floors are uneven.\n\nCheck your cell phone coverage inside each room of your exact apartment.\n\nCheck the rubber gaskets on the fridge and freezer doors for damage and/or mold. Turn on all the stove burners and the oven. Turn on the water in every sink and every shower/tub. Make sure the pressure is ok and that there's hot water.\n\nMake a floor plan, to scale or at least with measurements written on it. Don't buy furniture until you know how it'll fit. \n\nUse the compass on your phone to determine which way your windows face. If you're in the northern hemisphere, the sun will always be south of you. The opposite for the southern hemisphere. If you like a sunny home, make sure your windows will actually get some sun! I once rented an apartment with lots of big windows...only to find out that they faced north and the apartment was always gloomy.\n\nIf you have a washer and dryer, check the gaskets and the water pressure. If there are shared laundry facilities, go look at them and make sure they're not gross.", "Definitely read through your entire lease and addendum packet (if included). Make sure you understand it. Ask questions if you don't. Many people don't seem to realize it's a legally binding contract. \n\nAs for the walk through, management should give you an Inventory/Move In Inspection Sheet so that you can mark the condition of every single thing because it's all listed. If not, ask for one. If they don't have that, try to google search for one. Take note of the cleanliness (they should have hired professional cleaners to get the apartment ready), the paint job (is it freshly completely painted? Is is old and faded? Are there marks and scuffs?) and condition of carpets if there is carpeting. Mark down any floor cracks, bleach stains, pulling, chew marks, scuff marks, etc. Our lease paperwork includes estimates of what we would charge for different things upon move out. For example, if someone has lived here over two years, we do not charge for carpet cleaning (we DO charge if it's been damaged and needs replacement). Paint and many things are based on how long the tenant has lived there, since we take into account regular wear & tear. But damage is damage. \n\nOthers here have commented about thin walls, hearing water, etc. Yes this is true, however, please remember you are in an apartment so you share walls with neighbors. You WILL hear things. That's just the way it is. If you're super sensitive, maybe be super vigilant as others have suggested. You'll likely hear landscapers and their equipment once a week. You'll hear your neighbors cars starting at different hours. That's just apartment living. \n\nRandom: Will you need to purchase a shower curtain? Or is it a glass shower enclosure? \n\nFeel free to PM me if you have any questions. I'm a Property Manager in the US (apartments). I've been in this industry for over 20 years, working both in student/university housing and currently the regular market. We aren't all bad and out to get you. I know there are some slumlords out there who give us a bad name. I truly want happy residents, that makes my job easier. If management is nice, please be nice back. You'll get more back. Same with Maintenance crew. Good luck and congrats on your new move :)", "Talk to all the neighbors. Find out what maintenance is like. Find out what the neighbors are like. It's best to know before you move in. Maybe you are awake at 2 AM but the people next door go to bed at 9 pm. That kind of stuff sucks", "Take pics of EVERYTHING, particularly any damage that's present when you move in even if minor. Make a copy of your move-in checklist.", "Everything listed and I would add\n* Budget for utilities. Find out what’s included and what’s your responsibility (including internet and streaming services). Expect them to be 20% higher than they tell you the average is.", "Check the soundproofing inside the place, not just dealing with neighbors. I once had a place where my roommates shower was against the largest open wall in my bedroom. It took 3 days of being woken up at 5:30am to realize I could hear them turn the water on in the shower or pee or poop or anything.", "Read through your lease very thoroughly. Make sure you document any and all damage with the building manager/landlord, no matter how minor it seems. Take tons of pictures.", "Smells! Does it smell damp? Does the carpet feel weird? Don’t just ignore it and wear slippers like I did. Ended up being very expensive when that leak became apparent during rainy season", "Step into the shower specially if you’re tall. I’m super short and our shower in our first apartment was super low. My then bf couldn’t shower comfortably", "Just make sure theres a window with a lil scenery and make the rest yours. 500 sq ft studio it doesnt matter, just get a rad view.", "Buy a real first aid kit: TL:DR age 19. Drunk. Cooking. Cut hand. Bad. realizes I have no first aid and can’t drive", "Always check the bathroom and make sure there are no insects hanging around there , apply this same to the house structure that using wood material ." ]	[ 38, 18, 14, 13, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not obsess over things that can't be changed Basically, how to not obsess over things that gnaw at your mind all the time, yet fixating over them is a complete fool's errand. If I have no benefit in obsessing and thinking over something, what do you recommend I do to move on so I can focus on my life and things I CAN help?", "How to not obsess over things that can't be changed Basically, how to not obsess over things that gnaw at your mind all the time, yet fixating over them is a complete fool's errand. If I have no benefit in obsessing and thinking over something, what do you recommend I do to move on so I can focus on my life and things I CAN help?", "How to not obsess over things that can't be changed Basically, how to not obsess over things that gnaw at your mind all the time, yet fixating over them is a complete fool's errand. If I have no benefit in obsessing and thinking over something, what do you recommend I do to move on so I can focus on my life and things I CAN help?" ]	[ "Check out Eckhart Tolle’s ‘The Power of Now’. \n\nCheck out some of his vids online. There are tons of them. I just happened to have this open in a tab... which may be useful. \n\nTakes some effort to get into his stuff but I like it a lot. \n\n[How Do We Break the Habit of Excessive Thinking](https://youtu.be/dTFDfR47dl4) ", "It would help if you were specific about the outside issues you’re obsessing over. \n\nIf it’s world events, cut out news sources. If it’s Facebook drama, delete Facebook. If it’s family issues, that’s different and more complicated. If it’s things at work, or crap popping up in your neighborhood, maybe you can change them? \n\nBe more specific with your question, the answers will be more helpful. ", "It comes with age honestly. You're aware if it now and that is only the first step.\n\nGive it a few years of wins and losses with this awareness I'm mind and it will get better. I'm sure others may have tips to speed the process, but might of it is live and learn" ]	[ 3, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to engage a family member or close friend in political conversation when they believe the opposite of you. Obviously, the intent is to discuss issues relevant to each other without losing the relationship. As an example, my brother believes several things to be true that are verifiably false. I would like to discuss these issues with him without coming off as superior or overtly offensive. ", "How to engage a family member or close friend in political conversation when they believe the opposite of you. Obviously, the intent is to discuss issues relevant to each other without losing the relationship. As an example, my brother believes several things to be true that are verifiably false. I would like to discuss these issues with him without coming off as superior or overtly offensive. ", "How to engage a family member or close friend in political conversation when they believe the opposite of you. Obviously, the intent is to discuss issues relevant to each other without losing the relationship. As an example, my brother believes several things to be true that are verifiably false. I would like to discuss these issues with him without coming off as superior or overtly offensive. ", "How to engage a family member or close friend in political conversation when they believe the opposite of you. Obviously, the intent is to discuss issues relevant to each other without losing the relationship. As an example, my brother believes several things to be true that are verifiably false. I would like to discuss these issues with him without coming off as superior or overtly offensive. ", "How to engage a family member or close friend in political conversation when they believe the opposite of you. Obviously, the intent is to discuss issues relevant to each other without losing the relationship. As an example, my brother believes several things to be true that are verifiably false. I would like to discuss these issues with him without coming off as superior or overtly offensive. ", "How to engage a family member or close friend in political conversation when they believe the opposite of you. Obviously, the intent is to discuss issues relevant to each other without losing the relationship. As an example, my brother believes several things to be true that are verifiably false. I would like to discuss these issues with him without coming off as superior or overtly offensive. " ]	[ "Start off with, \"I know that we feel very differently about ___. I would very much like to understand your point of view on this topic. Would you mind taking a few minutes to explain to me your thoughts on this matter?\"\n\nDon't try to \"win\" or \"one up\" them in the conversation. Allow them to say as much as they want without interrupting. Listen for understanding. Ask clarifying questions like \"What do you mean when you say ___?\" and \"Can you elaborate on ___?\"\n\nWhen they finish, summarize what you understand them to have said. \"Ok, so what I hear you saying is....Is that right?\" Allow them to correct you if they feel you have misunderstood them. Accept these corrections gracefully and thoughtfully without argument. \n\nNext seek common ground, however small. Point out areas where you agree. Mention specific things they said that you found helpful or challenging to your own point of view. \n\nThen say something along the lines, \"I really appreciate you taking the time to explain your views to me. Would it be alright if I did the same? I'd like to offer a different perspective.\" Say what you need to say, while avoiding rhetoric and generalizations. Never attack the person personally. Try to specifically address points they raised previously. If they try to interrupt, gently remind them that you allowed them to speak without interrupting, and would they please give you the same courtesy?\n\nEven the most unreasonable people will usually hear you out if you've demonstrated the same respect and courtesy towards them. Good luck!", "For many people politics is akin to religion. You won't be able to convince them of anything. Why do you care so much what they think? \n\nLive your life and if they ever bring the subject up then be ready; other than them making a first effort and showing they're receptive you're completely wasting your time - and probably will damage the relationship.", "Have the discussion be a one way road. Allow yourself to be the bigger person. Allow the other person to go thru all the points they would like to make. Then discuss with them why THEY believe in some of those things, then ask what the belief of another opinion on that matter, basically just let them rant and dig a hole, that you fill with dirt and win ", "It's most likely not worth it if you value the relationship. And in general if you feel that there's a chance you could come off as superior then there's something already wrong with your reasoning or in the estimation of the other person.\n\nIt's pretty rare that anything changes for the positive with these discussions anyway. ", "In the current climate, don't. You don't know what somebody else might be telling them about people who think this or that, how they should be \"helped.\"\n\nDon't put somebody who loves you in that position, and don't put yourself at risk. Talk about other things. Best of all, just let them talk, and you listen.", "Ask him questions about what he believes. Then ask him how he reconciles his belief with his political party's actions.\n\nFor instance, ask him what fiscal conservatism means and then ask him how he feels about the massive expansion of government and Presidential power/authority under the Bush Administration.\n\nMany people put faith in things they don't understand. For instance, many Christians have never read the bible. Similarly, many liberals have never read the Constitution. \n\nIt helps if you have a good understanding of the topic you want to discuss. If you bring your own ignorance to the table then you're gonna have a bad time. If you don't know something then be honest about it and avoid that discussion. \n\nAlso, remember that our Founding Fathers were all radical liberals. About as far left as it was possible to get for their time. \n\nSo, if they start using \"Liberal\" as a bad word you can remind them of this. You might also ask them what they mean. \n\n" ]	[ 11, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Where to buy a computer on Black Friday Okay guys, I'm looking to get a new computer and would like to know where you guys think I should buy it... Should it be bought online or in a store? Thanks in advance!", "Where to buy a computer on Black Friday Okay guys, I'm looking to get a new computer and would like to know where you guys think I should buy it... Should it be bought online or in a store? Thanks in advance!" ]	[ "Online! Same or better prices and you don't have to deal with the mouth-breather hordes at the stores. I bought a new laptop last year on Black Friday from Staples, of all places. It was half off the original price. The benefit is you can check out multiple sites/stores without leaving the comfort of your home!", "Just beware that many computer manufacturers come out with \"black Friday models\".they usually have a few cheaper components, but list all the same specs as the non black Friday ones. Last year I bought a HP Pavillion DV6-L310 (I think) and it is a different model than they usually sell. My friend bought the \"same\" one a week before or after me. Also it has a cheaper graphics card and wireless card. " ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "Moving From Gmail If you move from Gmail due to Google closing your email account, where did you go? My email was shut down a while back and I'm just now getting to it. I noticed another thread linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/duswcc/lpt_in_wake_of_googles_recent_threats_to_close/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)\nbut couldn't comment. Thanks for the feedback.", "Moving From Gmail If you move from Gmail due to Google closing your email account, where did you go? My email was shut down a while back and I'm just now getting to it. I noticed another thread linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/duswcc/lpt_in_wake_of_googles_recent_threats_to_close/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)\nbut couldn't comment. Thanks for the feedback.", "Moving From Gmail If you move from Gmail due to Google closing your email account, where did you go? My email was shut down a while back and I'm just now getting to it. I noticed another thread linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/duswcc/lpt_in_wake_of_googles_recent_threats_to_close/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)\nbut couldn't comment. Thanks for the feedback.", "Moving From Gmail If you move from Gmail due to Google closing your email account, where did you go? My email was shut down a while back and I'm just now getting to it. I noticed another thread linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/duswcc/lpt_in_wake_of_googles_recent_threats_to_close/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)\nbut couldn't comment. Thanks for the feedback.", "Moving From Gmail If you move from Gmail due to Google closing your email account, where did you go? My email was shut down a while back and I'm just now getting to it. I noticed another thread linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/duswcc/lpt_in_wake_of_googles_recent_threats_to_close/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)\nbut couldn't comment. Thanks for the feedback.", "Moving From Gmail If you move from Gmail due to Google closing your email account, where did you go? My email was shut down a while back and I'm just now getting to it. I noticed another thread linked [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/duswcc/lpt_in_wake_of_googles_recent_threats_to_close/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)\nbut couldn't comment. Thanks for the feedback." ]	[ "If the product is free, you are the product.\nBuy a domain and setup an email account for that domain. Godaddy, for example, offers that.\nIt is more expensive than Gmail, but it is safer/more reliable.", "There are really a lot of alternatives to Gmail, and you just need to find the one which would satisfy your requests. \r \nI use Thunderbird and really enjoy it. I don’t have any problem with it. Easy in use, good interface, and safe. Also, I am thinking about Mailbird as it has many useful features, is light, and can integrate with many other apps. So, it’s up to you which one you prefer more.", "I’m a fan of Outlook.com for a free provider. Excellent web interface and none of the confusing labeling/organizing process that gmail tried to revamp. It also integrates very well with iPhone and android devices using activesync, so you don’t have to deal with the shitty POP/IMAP data-loss-causing conflicts of syncing.", "You have the following options: \n1. Yandex Mail\n2. MS Outlook Mail\n3. Yahoo Mail\nAll three of these are services that have zero request for your privacy, and maybe even your security. Plus, if you work in certain sectors then they may not even be options for you. \nPrivacy respecting e-mail services:\n1. Tutanota\n2. ProtonMail \n3. Zoho Mail\n\nIf you don't need to provide any identification you can create another google account.", "Very good question and we all have to learn not to rely too much on Google services. \nIn these times, we so often take convenience as granted and we forget so easily not to put all the eggs in the same basket.\nNow, there are enough alternatives to email service, but every person is different and have particular needs.\n\nDo you need a simple email service? Almost every other could replace Gmail. \n\nDo you need a email service with other services baked in? Well, depending on your needs, Zoho Mail, Outlook, Proton Mail or Mailfence could be a solution.\n\nAlso, depending upon the device, the email client also needs to be easy to use, as Thunderbird or K9 mail.", "Thank you all for your feedback I will definitely start with these recommendations and go from there." ]	[ 5, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Sellers on Ebay, AliExpress, etc. include some valueless item in their listing so that their listing is at the top when users sort for lowest price, bc their price is $0.02-$495.00. Is there anyway to sort by lowest price anymore? ", "Sellers on Ebay, AliExpress, etc. include some valueless item in their listing so that their listing is at the top when users sort for lowest price, bc their price is $0.02-$495.00. Is there anyway to sort by lowest price anymore? " ]	[ "Ebay is not what it once was. I shut down my ebay account over all the dodgy grey areas Ebay lets vendors get away with. From harassment to fraud.", "You can set a price range for your search using the sidebar on the left.\n\nIf you're looking for something that's likely going to be over $50, for example, set a $35-100 price range to get rid of anything less than $35.\n\nI suppose it's possible to filter out something you might want, if they have a low BS item in the listing, but the sidebar offers lots of options to filter and has been very helpful." ]	[ 7, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to get my neighbor to quit leaf blowing his debris and street crap into my yard? For years my retired neighbor who works on his lawn every day (he has a perfect model green lawn), has been using his leaf blower to blow his lawn trimmings and street debris into my yard - he usually waits until I'm not at home to witness it, but ocassionally I'll see him just about on my lawn blowing crap into my yard.\n\nFor the record, I don't care about my lawn - it's just stupid grass and one more thing to maintain, but it pisses me off that he does this (along with people who don't pick up after their dogs, btw) - it's not nice, unneighborly, and against the law. \n\nYesterday, when I saw him a few feet away from me on the other side of the fence, I sarcastically yelled \"Thanks\" at him, as if that mattered.\n\nAnyway, I vacillate between a) letting it go, b) asking him to stop, c) getting a leaf blower and returning the favor, d) walking my dogs and letting them do their business on his lawn when he is out and watching (I go out of my way to not let them near his lawn because I know how much he takes pride in it), and e) filming it and calling the cops or city. \n\nOf these options, in my opinion a) would be the most spiritually evolved response, b) would be direct and mature, c) and d) would be the most fun and \"teach him a lesson\" and e) calling the cops is just not a good idea these days. And the thing about \"teaching someone a lesson\" is that it doesn't work and it only causes further animosity and escalation.\n\nHe's not a friend, but not an enemy either - I really don't want a hostile relationship with a neighbor, it's just not worth it.\n\nAny suggestions? I feel better just ranting about this, so thanks already.", "How to get my neighbor to quit leaf blowing his debris and street crap into my yard? For years my retired neighbor who works on his lawn every day (he has a perfect model green lawn), has been using his leaf blower to blow his lawn trimmings and street debris into my yard - he usually waits until I'm not at home to witness it, but ocassionally I'll see him just about on my lawn blowing crap into my yard.\n\nFor the record, I don't care about my lawn - it's just stupid grass and one more thing to maintain, but it pisses me off that he does this (along with people who don't pick up after their dogs, btw) - it's not nice, unneighborly, and against the law. \n\nYesterday, when I saw him a few feet away from me on the other side of the fence, I sarcastically yelled \"Thanks\" at him, as if that mattered.\n\nAnyway, I vacillate between a) letting it go, b) asking him to stop, c) getting a leaf blower and returning the favor, d) walking my dogs and letting them do their business on his lawn when he is out and watching (I go out of my way to not let them near his lawn because I know how much he takes pride in it), and e) filming it and calling the cops or city. \n\nOf these options, in my opinion a) would be the most spiritually evolved response, b) would be direct and mature, c) and d) would be the most fun and \"teach him a lesson\" and e) calling the cops is just not a good idea these days. And the thing about \"teaching someone a lesson\" is that it doesn't work and it only causes further animosity and escalation.\n\nHe's not a friend, but not an enemy either - I really don't want a hostile relationship with a neighbor, it's just not worth it.\n\nAny suggestions? I feel better just ranting about this, so thanks already.", "How to get my neighbor to quit leaf blowing his debris and street crap into my yard? For years my retired neighbor who works on his lawn every day (he has a perfect model green lawn), has been using his leaf blower to blow his lawn trimmings and street debris into my yard - he usually waits until I'm not at home to witness it, but ocassionally I'll see him just about on my lawn blowing crap into my yard.\n\nFor the record, I don't care about my lawn - it's just stupid grass and one more thing to maintain, but it pisses me off that he does this (along with people who don't pick up after their dogs, btw) - it's not nice, unneighborly, and against the law. \n\nYesterday, when I saw him a few feet away from me on the other side of the fence, I sarcastically yelled \"Thanks\" at him, as if that mattered.\n\nAnyway, I vacillate between a) letting it go, b) asking him to stop, c) getting a leaf blower and returning the favor, d) walking my dogs and letting them do their business on his lawn when he is out and watching (I go out of my way to not let them near his lawn because I know how much he takes pride in it), and e) filming it and calling the cops or city. \n\nOf these options, in my opinion a) would be the most spiritually evolved response, b) would be direct and mature, c) and d) would be the most fun and \"teach him a lesson\" and e) calling the cops is just not a good idea these days. And the thing about \"teaching someone a lesson\" is that it doesn't work and it only causes further animosity and escalation.\n\nHe's not a friend, but not an enemy either - I really don't want a hostile relationship with a neighbor, it's just not worth it.\n\nAny suggestions? I feel better just ranting about this, so thanks already." ]	[ "tell him to stop... jesus, why was this not the first thing you did? \"i know you're blowing your lawn debris onto my lawn, fucking stop. or im raking all that shit back over and letting my dog shit in your yard.\"", "Options b) and c) make out like you're a bigger dick for trying to get some r/pettyrevenge on him, I would suggest option a) ask him to stop nicely, if he refuses then you can go full rambo.\n\n", "The mature option is just to let the self absorbed baby boomer spin his wheels... but its difficult when faced with a selfish asshole who feels, 'he was there first.' Time is your friend here. Observe this uncaring fuck at a Sherlockian level... What motivates him? What does he love? I.e., plant a hydrid poplar near his property. It drops huge fucking leaves from now until November. He'll have PTSD when every July rolls around and you get to sit back and watch him HAVE to be out there every day mowing & blowing! These guys don't just stop at one thing if you confront them. They've got a holistic attitude of entitlement because they were there first. I've had to deal with two asshats like this over the past 18 years. Never got better until they left, no matter how much we talked to them. Be watchful and be proactive. " ]	[ 7, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Suppressing Compulsive Thoughts I’m sure lots of people have experienced unwanted thoughts/memories popping up unbidden during day to day life. Things that you don’t want to be thinking about, that have no bearing on the present circumstance, yet present themselves anyways. Any helpful strategies/tips for clearing your cognitive workspace once they appear, or for avoiding them entirely? Thanks in advance.", "Suppressing Compulsive Thoughts I’m sure lots of people have experienced unwanted thoughts/memories popping up unbidden during day to day life. Things that you don’t want to be thinking about, that have no bearing on the present circumstance, yet present themselves anyways. Any helpful strategies/tips for clearing your cognitive workspace once they appear, or for avoiding them entirely? Thanks in advance.", "Suppressing Compulsive Thoughts I’m sure lots of people have experienced unwanted thoughts/memories popping up unbidden during day to day life. Things that you don’t want to be thinking about, that have no bearing on the present circumstance, yet present themselves anyways. Any helpful strategies/tips for clearing your cognitive workspace once they appear, or for avoiding them entirely? Thanks in advance." ]	[ "I’d suggest mindful m", "there are many exercises but one that helps me a lot is making a small mantra or prayer that you can repeat over and over again. say it over and over entire time. listen to music that you would never listen to, it doesnt associate music with events or thoughts. ( made me an opera and classical music fan when working ) if you have a moment, even in your car sitting there, move each foot and rotate it working your way up through all your limbs your neck your eyebrows, concentrate on moving each one for a moment one at a time. good luck . ", "If you think for example\" I have to wash my hands\" start to reconsider those thoughts and examine them. Break it up into logistical processes instead of emotional ones. Do you need to wash your hands, are they really dirty? Is this a want over need ? \n \nYou will have to sit with your thoughts and really determine what is logistical or not.\n\nTry CBT therapy it is really helpful. " ]	[ 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?", "Essentials to keep in your car at all times E.g. first aid kit, spare tire, water, deodorant... what else?" ]	[ "* Knife\n* Napkins\n* Sweatshirt\n* An old cell phone with a full battery (if yours is dead, you can use ANY cell phone to call 911, whether it's in service or not)", "In the winter especially (and as a Canadian) there are a few things that I never leave home without. They are recomended by the MTO.\n\n Ice scraper/snowbrush\n Shovel\n Sand or other traction aid ( I use shingles or kitty litter)\n Tow rope or chain\n Booster cables\n Road flares or warning lights\n Gas line antifreeze\n Flashlight and batteries\n First aid kit\n Fire extinguisher\n Small tool kit\n Extra clothing and footwear\n Blanket\n Non-perishable energy foods – e.g., chocolate or granola bars, juice, soup, bottled water\n Candle and a small tin can\n Matches\n \nAlso, keeping my gas tank more the 3/4 full at all times during the winter and investing in good snow tires are mandatory. \n", "Jumper cables \nBlanket \nFlashlight \nTarp \nTire iron & Jack (spare is no good if you can't get it on) \n", "Feminine hygiene products \nTire pressure gauge\nWheel lock\nA few plastic grocery bags\nThe instructions for how to turn off the check engine light that comes on when you need to get your oil changed and you just got your oil changed but the mechanic didn't reset the light\nBed Bath and Beyond coupons. If you don't leave them in your car, you never have them when you need them. \n", "First aid kit.\n\nIt doesn't necessarily have to carry supplies for dealing with life-threatening scenarios. You might be the first person to happen across someone who's just injured themselves in a minor way. ", "Just gonna do a full list of what I think is useful, including what I've seen in comments:\n\n* Knife (or multitool is better), (also there is a specific type of multitool for cars that is capable of cutting through a seatbelt and breaking a window, this could be lifesaving)\n* Napkins\n* First aid kit\n* Spare tire\n* A good amount of water (I personally like to have at least 5-6 bottles)\n* Deodorant\n* Jacket/Sweatshirt\n* T-shirt and shorts\n* Old cell phone with full battery/spare battery/cellphone charger\n* Jumper Cables\n* Flash Light\n* Matches\n* Gum/Mints", "Jumper cables, 25 mts of heavy duty paracord, a knife, first aid kit, spare tire, X wrench (not sure if that's the name), car jack, Bright flashlight if possible one with strobe function, emergency triangle, water and 1 blanket.\n\nIf you live in a state, city that has a lot of lakes (or any source of water, get a window breaker just in case and keep it in the glove box.)", "* Tapatio\n* Deodorant\n* Chapstick\n* Cologne \n* Napkins\n* Car Manual\n* Jumper Cables\n* Snow Chains\n* Emergency Road Side Kit\n* Chem Lights\n* Tooth Brush and Tooth Paste\n* Condoms\n* Mouth Wash\n* Gum\n* Flashlight", "* Duct tape, to fix your car if you're in a bind. Gets you to your garage/mechanic\n\n* Jumper cables\n\n* Blanket, both warm and safety, in case you get stuck in bad weather (storm, snow...)\n\n* A pair of good hiking shoes. Because you might have to push your car, and loafers don't have traction in mud. And you can't go 5 miles in loafers to the next gas station or farm.\n\n* Jack and spare tire and/or tire repair kit\n\n* Simple rain attire (personally i have an old south africain military raincoat)\n\n* Spare bulbs (make sure you can change them)\n\n* Flashlight\n\n* Knife\n\n* Sturdy wrench (to get the nuts off your wheels)\n\n* Wheel lock key (when using locking nuts)\n\n* GPS\n\n* Bright clothing (like a yellow security jacket), to be more visible if you have to move around your car/walk to the nearest station/mechanic in the dark", "Toothpaste and toothbrush (or those one time use ones), hairbrush/comb, a extra pair of undergarments and shirt, jumper box/cables, tow rope, emergency cash, armor all wipes, water, blanket, first air kit, lighter, utility knife (such as a leatherman), and a flash light. ", "If you are in an extreme cold environment:\n\n* A Large candle (will heat up your car for some time, just beware because this makes a lot of C0^2)\n* Flares, both to signal for help if stuck in a ditch or to melt snow for drinking water\n* A metal Cup for making drinking water\n* Nonperishable food item (Saltines, Canned fruit, etc. but beware dehydration)\n* Blankets\n* A flat, durable surface such as sheet metal placed under a tire can give you the traction to get your car out of a snowbank\n* A shovel\n* Gloves, warm socks, and a hat\n* A car cigarette lighter is powerful enough to burn through a seatbelt, if needed\n\nThat's all I can think of right now.\n(", "I haven't seen mentioned:\n\n-cheapo reflective vest \n- piece of tarp or other durable, water resistant surface to kneel on while changing tires in slop. " ]	[ 18, 10, 9, 6, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I know if white silica gel is saturated? I use silica gels in my boxing gloves and was wondering if I need to activate it again. I don't know if I need to toss it in the microwave or not because its not color indicating unfortunately. Anyone knows how to tell if its saturated and needs ti be activated?", "How do I know if white silica gel is saturated? I use silica gels in my boxing gloves and was wondering if I need to activate it again. I don't know if I need to toss it in the microwave or not because its not color indicating unfortunately. Anyone knows how to tell if its saturated and needs ti be activated?" ]	[ ">How do I know if white silica gel is saturated?\n\nYou can't. Just assume it is.\n\n>was wondering if I need to activate it again.\n\nIt's a restore (or recharge) not an activate.\n\n>I don't know if I need to toss it in the microwave\n\nDo not do this as you can't control the temp. Use an oven.\n\nhttps://www.beyondphototips.com/recharge-silica-gel-crystals/", "I have a few packs of this stuff for dehumidifying things. Each bag was 250g new. I just toss them on my kitchen scale to figure out how full of water they are. They’ll get up over 300g with water, and then the instructions for mine say to microwave them for 4 min or something." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "LPT's about being unable to walk? I recently had a medical crisis and am going to be unable to walk unassisted for atleast the next month or so, is there anything that might help me out? Particularly in public settings where people would see me in a mobility scooter in Walmart or in a wheelchair outside.", "LPT's about being unable to walk? I recently had a medical crisis and am going to be unable to walk unassisted for atleast the next month or so, is there anything that might help me out? Particularly in public settings where people would see me in a mobility scooter in Walmart or in a wheelchair outside.", "LPT's about being unable to walk? I recently had a medical crisis and am going to be unable to walk unassisted for atleast the next month or so, is there anything that might help me out? Particularly in public settings where people would see me in a mobility scooter in Walmart or in a wheelchair outside.", "LPT's about being unable to walk? I recently had a medical crisis and am going to be unable to walk unassisted for atleast the next month or so, is there anything that might help me out? Particularly in public settings where people would see me in a mobility scooter in Walmart or in a wheelchair outside.", "LPT's about being unable to walk? I recently had a medical crisis and am going to be unable to walk unassisted for atleast the next month or so, is there anything that might help me out? Particularly in public settings where people would see me in a mobility scooter in Walmart or in a wheelchair outside." ]	[ "Mentally, The best thing to do when out and about is not to look at anyone else. I was in a bad accident at 24(28now) and when I was able to stand and walk again I either had a huge metal brace around my back and shoulders, a walker, a wheelchair, or a scooter. Non stop dirty looks and people genuinely curious. It really bothered me, and the only thing that I could do to help with the anxiety was to stop looking for their reactions. After a few times, you start to expect it. Once you realize that and stop paying attention it will be better. As far as mobility and everyday life, keep a spare crutch or cane in the vehicle, always have shoe horns around if you can't bend. Look into getting a temporary handicap tag for your vehicle too so you can park closer to places. The big thing to remember is ITS OKAY TO ASK FOR ASSISTANCE.", "What a tough change in circumstances, I hope things work out for the best for you. In the meantime, take inspiration from this human \n\nhttps://youtu.be/bT7AR4nt0WA", "This same situation recently happened to me. What exactly are you concerned about with people seeing you? Are you embarrassed because you shouldn’t be. Do you just want some tips for getting the ability to walk (which I don’t know about you, but I completely took for granted until this past January when I realized I couldn’t) back, or some exercises you can do on your own to help build up strength, or help how to transfer from one place, like the car, to another, like your scooter? I’d love to help you out but I want to make sure I’m giving you the kind of LPTs you want.", "Ignore people asking why you’re using a mobility aid or any other comments about it. OR have a damn good comeback for personal questions that people WILL ask.", "26 years running in a wheelchair here, if you're talking about the weird judgement or stares or possibly people treating you like fine china that speaks double-dutch, there's absolutely nothing to be done about that except for making the choice of having a meltdown or having fun with it (when I was a shitty teenager and getting fed up with kids rubbernecking I'd stare back until they spooked). If you're getting the evil eye, just rest assured that you deserve to be using those supports, it's enough that you know it, and as far as I'm concerned if someone gets to go home feeling self-righteous over a misunderstanding more power to them, if it gets real confrontational it's definitely helpful to have evidence of surgery, even better if it's something gory so you can at least show them and shock them into submission.\n\nAs far as material advice, that depends how laid up you really are. If you're chair bound entirely then I have a few bits of advice.\n\n-continue your routine as best you can, if that means going for a run try and take the wheelchair out for a spin, it'll suck but once you get the technique it'll only slightly suck if you're using standard hospital chair fare (the assumption is that wheelchair users have strong arms but I'll tell you it's 99.99% technique). That will be far better than the alternative of putting your life on pause for that period of time, and all the wrangling with your routine serves to build comfort and familiarity with your new situation, which only helps you stay in your head and not wander over to anybody else's for a peek\n\n-This will take some help, but if you can try and rearrange things to work for your new position, moving things down lower/out of cabinets, opening up spaces and walkways, if you're working from home try and make as open a space as possible, mostly to remove the temptation to make a den and not surface for a month but also to make manoeuvring easier, activity will be your biggest goal in this time, it's a way bigger change than you think even facing it now and the challenge will be to avoid just hitting fast forward and zoning out for a month.\n\n-May be an obvious one but prepare for your time budget to blow right out, you may have covered the bases on the big stuff -transit and parking and whatnot- but in my experience it's the little things, that restaurant you always go to may have 2 steps to the entrance that didn't cross your mind, sometimes the foot paths are bombed out craters meaning a wheel down the street feels like bushwacking, it's even pretty likely you get held up by people trying to help and just sapping time because they're the 10th person that day who hasn't realised you got to that point by yourself.\n\nBeyond that I'm from Australia so any infrastructure advice will be useless, happy to DM if you'd like any specific advice, hard to give any without specifics or specific questions." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I stop catalog deliveries via the mail from various brands? Everyday we get about 10 different catalogs selling various bullshit. And everyday we rip off our address and throw them in paper recycle. We don't even look at them but it's a real bother to have to deal with and even more importantly an even bigger waste.\n\nLots of these brands are ones I have never even heard of before while some are very common. We are in the USA by the way.\n\nI have taken many hours to call each company and get off the lists. This worked for a while but it starts up again soon enough. Especially if you order something from the company.\n\nIf we have 4 people in my apartment and 4 people have ordered from LL Bean before we will get 5 duplicate copies of the same catalog sometimes. It's obscene. One for each person or current resident and then one for current resident.\n\nAny tips?", "How can I stop catalog deliveries via the mail from various brands? Everyday we get about 10 different catalogs selling various bullshit. And everyday we rip off our address and throw them in paper recycle. We don't even look at them but it's a real bother to have to deal with and even more importantly an even bigger waste.\n\nLots of these brands are ones I have never even heard of before while some are very common. We are in the USA by the way.\n\nI have taken many hours to call each company and get off the lists. This worked for a while but it starts up again soon enough. Especially if you order something from the company.\n\nIf we have 4 people in my apartment and 4 people have ordered from LL Bean before we will get 5 duplicate copies of the same catalog sometimes. It's obscene. One for each person or current resident and then one for current resident.\n\nAny tips?", "How can I stop catalog deliveries via the mail from various brands? Everyday we get about 10 different catalogs selling various bullshit. And everyday we rip off our address and throw them in paper recycle. We don't even look at them but it's a real bother to have to deal with and even more importantly an even bigger waste.\n\nLots of these brands are ones I have never even heard of before while some are very common. We are in the USA by the way.\n\nI have taken many hours to call each company and get off the lists. This worked for a while but it starts up again soon enough. Especially if you order something from the company.\n\nIf we have 4 people in my apartment and 4 people have ordered from LL Bean before we will get 5 duplicate copies of the same catalog sometimes. It's obscene. One for each person or current resident and then one for current resident.\n\nAny tips?", "How can I stop catalog deliveries via the mail from various brands? Everyday we get about 10 different catalogs selling various bullshit. And everyday we rip off our address and throw them in paper recycle. We don't even look at them but it's a real bother to have to deal with and even more importantly an even bigger waste.\n\nLots of these brands are ones I have never even heard of before while some are very common. We are in the USA by the way.\n\nI have taken many hours to call each company and get off the lists. This worked for a while but it starts up again soon enough. Especially if you order something from the company.\n\nIf we have 4 people in my apartment and 4 people have ordered from LL Bean before we will get 5 duplicate copies of the same catalog sometimes. It's obscene. One for each person or current resident and then one for current resident.\n\nAny tips?", "How can I stop catalog deliveries via the mail from various brands? Everyday we get about 10 different catalogs selling various bullshit. And everyday we rip off our address and throw them in paper recycle. We don't even look at them but it's a real bother to have to deal with and even more importantly an even bigger waste.\n\nLots of these brands are ones I have never even heard of before while some are very common. We are in the USA by the way.\n\nI have taken many hours to call each company and get off the lists. This worked for a while but it starts up again soon enough. Especially if you order something from the company.\n\nIf we have 4 people in my apartment and 4 people have ordered from LL Bean before we will get 5 duplicate copies of the same catalog sometimes. It's obscene. One for each person or current resident and then one for current resident.\n\nAny tips?", "How can I stop catalog deliveries via the mail from various brands? Everyday we get about 10 different catalogs selling various bullshit. And everyday we rip off our address and throw them in paper recycle. We don't even look at them but it's a real bother to have to deal with and even more importantly an even bigger waste.\n\nLots of these brands are ones I have never even heard of before while some are very common. We are in the USA by the way.\n\nI have taken many hours to call each company and get off the lists. This worked for a while but it starts up again soon enough. Especially if you order something from the company.\n\nIf we have 4 people in my apartment and 4 people have ordered from LL Bean before we will get 5 duplicate copies of the same catalog sometimes. It's obscene. One for each person or current resident and then one for current resident.\n\nAny tips?", "How can I stop catalog deliveries via the mail from various brands? Everyday we get about 10 different catalogs selling various bullshit. And everyday we rip off our address and throw them in paper recycle. We don't even look at them but it's a real bother to have to deal with and even more importantly an even bigger waste.\n\nLots of these brands are ones I have never even heard of before while some are very common. We are in the USA by the way.\n\nI have taken many hours to call each company and get off the lists. This worked for a while but it starts up again soon enough. Especially if you order something from the company.\n\nIf we have 4 people in my apartment and 4 people have ordered from LL Bean before we will get 5 duplicate copies of the same catalog sometimes. It's obscene. One for each person or current resident and then one for current resident.\n\nAny tips?" ]	[ "Install a stove that burns pellets\n\nSign up for every free thing you can\n\nMulch and press the paper\n\nHave free home heating", "Call the number and ask them to take you off the mailing list. \nUsed to work at a call center that took calls for a dozen different catalog companies. ", "I haven't done this, so I can't attest to how effective it is. But might be worth a shot.\n\nhttp://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0262-stopping-unsolicited-mail-phone-calls-and-email\n\n\"Mail\nThe Direct Marketing Association's (DMA) Mail Preference Service (MPS) lets you opt out of receiving unsolicited commercial mail from many national companies for five years. When you register with this service, your name will be put on a \"delete\" file and made available to direct-mail marketers and organizations. This will reduce most of your unsolicited mail. However, your registration will not stop mailings from organizations that do not use the DMA's Mail Preference Service. To register with DMA's Mail Preference Service, go to www.dmachoice.org, or mail your request with a $1 processing fee to:\n\nDMAchoice\nDirect Marketing Association\nP.O. Box 643\nCarmel, NY 10512\"", "The DMA thing is good for random mailings. But for places you have bought from: go to Catalog Choice, set up a free account. Go through their little drill for each one. The flood will slow down a lot. After 6 months, take the ones that are still sending, and go through the drill again. Eventually it stops.", "See if it has paid postage in it (to subscribe or whatever) and respond by sending them some bolts, scrap metal, trash, or rocks. They pay the postage for those rocks.", "I work at a call center. We get calls all the time to ask about being removed from the mailing list.\n\nAlso ask them to not rent or sell your name. ", "Dell is the worst at my work. I kept opting out of print marketing via their web link and they kept sending mail under different real and fake employee names so we always get 4 of everything. I finally gave up and everything goes straight to the bin." ]	[ 11, 9, 6, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "tips on how to prepare a home for a puppy Getting a dog soon. What should be on my short list of things to get?", "tips on how to prepare a home for a puppy Getting a dog soon. What should be on my short list of things to get?", "tips on how to prepare a home for a puppy Getting a dog soon. What should be on my short list of things to get?" ]	[ "Not an item, but find the mindset that the pup will find and destroy something you cherish (a clothing item, a book, anything you leave out). It's not their fault when this happens, it's yours. So be ready! They're worth it, tho!", "A puppy/kiddie gate so you can restrict the dog to certain areas. If he's where you can keep an eye on him, you can immediately jump up if you see him start to pee or circle, or react if he starts chewing on cords, etc.\n\nA leash. a 6 ft one is good for walking, but a 20 ft one can be held shorter and is also good for training them to \"come\".\n\nA food bowl and a water bowl. ", "They teethe around 3-4 months depending on the breed. So get them some nubbly chew toys around then. (Sometimes you can even get a baby tooth - you usually find them chewing on them and they eat most of them by mistake). \nThey will chew everything though and shoes and baseboards are such easy targets. The key is to either tire them out (lots of exercises and walking)or catch them in the act and correct the behaviour immediately. Scruffing them while the shoe is in the mouth for example. This is the best way to let them know they've done is wrong, as it's how their moms would correct them. \n\nAlso puppies bladders are small. The general rule of thumb is they can hold their bladder for about as long as however many months they are (I found this really only true after 3 months of age and it didn't necessarily improve by an hour per month). \n\nThat being said. You should praise your dog when they pee outside, and scruff them and pick them up if they try to do it inside. (Even if they're still peeing as you walk them to where you want them to pee, the dribbles are worth it, this lesson is quckly learned).\n\n They will have accidents, they're infants. And once they pee in a spot that smell will stay for them; so they're easy to get confused and repeat perform. Just stay on top of walks in a routine that fits their bladder size. Eventually you'll be able to stretch out the durations. My dogs were good by 9 months.\nIf you use puppy pads, try and keep the pads close to the door they may eventually use to go outside or start migrating the pads towards that spot after they've mastered them.\n\nMy dogs also learned to use a bell to ask to go outside. It's a long one you hang on your door handle. They started using it around 3 months. All you have to do is set the example. Get them excited to go outside, ring the bell every time before you open the door, and soon they will start ringing it on their own.\nJust make sure you get up to open the door if they ring it. (Trust me, this freedom for them can, and does, get annoying but it works out in your favor). \n\nOther than exercise, direction, collar, leash, some toys and food (puppy foods are usually just smaller pellets, but make sure you're not getting them one based on corn.) Puppies don't need much to win at life. Their first sets of needles are important. (Especially if you live in a rural area) as they immunize against rabies and Parvo virus. \n\nYour local SPCA or humane society might also run deals on chipping pets a couple times a year. Mine did here and I got both my pups done for 40$ (way less than the vet). \n\nSorry. I went full word mode. Tl;dr\n\nExercise\nToys\nDirection (from you)\nFirst years needles\nA leash (not the extendable one, but a long one is fine)\nFresh water and food (not corn based).\n\nAlso ceaser Milan had a great TV show. That guy got dogs. Look some.up! " ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "What do you do if your flight gets delayed? What do you ask? What are you legally entitled to? What should you be specific about requesting?", "What do you do if your flight gets delayed? What do you ask? What are you legally entitled to? What should you be specific about requesting?", "What do you do if your flight gets delayed? What do you ask? What are you legally entitled to? What should you be specific about requesting?" ]	[ "Are you thinking you're gonna get a free flight or something? That's not how this works, to the best of my knowledge, the airlines are not legally required to give you anything. When you buy a ticket there's a bunch of legal language that you agree to, and you take that chance. If it's overnight they'll more than likely out you up in a motel but you're not getting free drinks or anything for an hour or two delay. ", "Not sure if this applies to your question, but depending on when the delay occurs, you could be entitled to a free flight change. Like, if you receive an email the day before the flight saying that it's been pushed back by more than 90 minutes, most airlines will accomodate a flight change.\n\nSource: Has happened to me twice. Got emails saying my flight departure times were changed by more than 90 minutes, called airline, got on different flights for free.", "It depends on the airline. See [here](http://www.farecompare.com/travel-advice/flight-delays-your-legal-rights/#/) for different accommodations provided by airlines. There's not a law, but most airlines include it in their service." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? ", "Off the top of your head, what general life advice would you give a young adult starting their life? " ]	[ "Keep things to yourself. Err on the side of saying too little. Not everything has to be disclosed, confessed, or narrated. Be very selective when it comes to the people you choose to share your thoughts and feelings with. Think of your words as treasure and don't dispense them carelessly.", "Only being 19 years old my self some of the key things that have helped me really mature and feel ready to go into adulthood are;\n- Learning all about finance (where to save your money [hint hint not on a savings account in a bank])\n- Employing some sort of physical activity in your day\n- Develop healthy diet and physical activity habits that you’ll be thankful for in your later years\n- Lear how to cook, clean and be independent \n- Have at least 1 month of experience working ( personally i have worked a summer job since i was 16 and it has really taught me the importance of truly going after your passion, weather that is through studying or just following your interests)\n- And most importantly, enjoy your life and remember that you only have 1 life so love it to your best\n\nThere are many more but these are essentials in my opinion:)", "If you want to buy nice things, save for them rather than using a cr", "Everything that is important to you get/put in writing.\nEven if you deal with family. Especially if you deal with family.", "Start an emergency fund. Take a part of each pay check and put it in a savings account. Never touch this money for fun and save it for emergencies. Keep in mind even $10 each pay check will add up. Also, take care of your health. Do yearly physicals and advocate like hell if something is wrong. Just because you're young and healthy, things can change at a moments notice.\n\nNever live outside your means. Do not accumulate cr", "Learn a few minor repair skills like swapping a flat tire, spackling a small wall damage spot, and minor sink leak repair/diagnosis.", "My No. 1 advice is to search YouTube if you need to fix something. I fixed my hot water heater several times and changed out our dishwasher. I've replaced the garage door opener. All from watching YouTube videos.", "If you get deep in a romantic relationship, make sure to live together before you marry or have kids. \nYou don’t truly know someone until you inhabit the same space as them everyday.\nI had friends who were a couple that asked my wife and I if they should move in together. We told them that if they were planning to stay together for the long haul that they definitely needed to live together. One of them said, “but I’m over there all the time, it’s like we are basically living together already.” I said, “No, it is not the same. Everything changes when ALL of your shit and ALL of her shit are in the same place. And you HAVE to see and deal with each other everyday.”", "Trust your gut and listen to it when it's trying to tell you something.. ( like the person you're dating is the wrong one )\n\nDo not people please. Say your peace and move on\n\n\nSave your money off in an early things don't make you happy experiences and people make you happy", "Removed : https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/rbzsrw/lpt\\_request\\_off\\_the\\_top\\_of\\_your\\_head\\_what\\_general/", "Find a compound interest calculator online. Plug in how much $1000 would get you if you invested it for 45 years for your retirement fund. Hint: An S&P500 index fund should get you about 7% returns when factoring in inflation.", "Best life advice. \n\n\nSimple!!!\n\n\nListen to people who have been there and done that. \n\nNot 1 single best life advice. \n\nThere are hundreds. \n\nListen to the top comments on here. They have been where you are at and have made these errors. \n\nBest advice is. Listen to advice!!!! \n\nSpecially from experience.", "There's some god-awful trauma-response advice in here that just isn't good general advice.\n\nTell your parents and get into therapy if you're crying for weeks or months at a time, especially when you're a teen. It can't get better if nobody knows." ]	[ 8, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? ", "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? ", "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? ", "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? ", "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? ", "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? ", "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? ", "This is a weird one. Some people eat less when stressing out, others eat more. I'm one of the people that eats more, how do I become someone who eats less when stressing? " ]	[ "I'm not sure if it's possible to change something like your relfex response to stress, but I have the same problem and one thing that's helped me is to not have snack foods in my apartment--especially sugary things. I cook basically all of my meals so if I don't have snack foods around then I can't eat without committing to cooking and doing dishes. For me that turns stress-munching into a conscious decision that I can usually forgo.", "Whenever you have that cue to go for that peanut butter or extra serving of whatever. Don't do it. Instead fill a large glass or bottle with water and focus on drinking that. It's called reframing your cues.", "It's a stress coping mechanism. You managed to create a habit of eating to control the stress. When you're stressing out, try to do something you enjoy. Lots of clients go for journalling, drawing, or breathing techniques. Now just remember to do it instead of eating and you'll create a habit, which will be a healthier way to control stress.", "When I am stressed I eat less because my body tries to get past the stress by focusing on it rather than avoiding it by cravings", "Wait til the stressing is over before you eat. If it takes you 4 or 5 hours to calm down, trust me, you won't starve to death. Think of it as a mini-fast.", "Train yourself to have a 15-20 minute nap (or even fall asleep) when you feel that eating or stress feeling coming on. This way your body can slow down so you can make better choices for yourself. \nI also like to follow up by drinking copious amounts of tea. ", "I can't eat when I'm stressed. I don't know why, but I'm just not hungry. Maybe it has to do with how one copes with stress and habit.", "Find things that don't taste very good. Try to get packing peanuts made from corn starch. They are bland to the point of blegh.\n\nAvoid gum. Ask your dentist for all the reasons why.\n\nFind a different stress reliever. Punching bags and dammit dolls are good." ]	[ 7, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks.", "How to not be jumpy watching horror/thriller films Hi,\n\nSo I've just got in from watching IT. \n\nWhile on reflection it was a quality film that I enjoyed; I can't help but think I looked a little emasculated constantly rocking back-and-forth with both hands on either cheek for 2 hours.\n\nHow do I look more manly watching scary films with women. Thanks." ]	[ "Don't try. Just enjoy the movie. You're supposed to be scared.\n\nOr\n\nCover your ears. The thing that makes you jump isn't on screen, it's the sound that comes with it.", "I agree, just enjoy yourself! Seriously, most women are not impressed by guys acting \"manly\". We actually love it when you let your guard down and show your emotions and vulnerabilities. ", "Like others have said. Jumps scenes are easily timed. I used to use this to my advantage when dating in HS. I would take a girl to a scary movie and hold her hand. Then have the other hand ready to grab their leg timed with the jump scene. Makes their scare way worse and made me way less scared because I was having fun", "When you feel like something scary is about to happen, direct your attention to any corner of the screen. So it looks like you're still intensely watching :)", "Like Mr Toasty said below, try reading up on some archetypes in writing and movies, ALL stories follow some type of archetype and once you know which ones a movie is pulling from you can kind of predict whats going to happen\n\nAlso in regards to the movie IT, imagine yourself fighting the clown, fight him for trying to scare you, rude! I was halfway through the movie and absolutely livid and ready to throw it down against pennywise and make him catch these hands. Choreograph the fight scene in your mind", "When I was younger, I would never watch horror/scary movies because I believed in all that ghost, paranormal stuff. As I got older, I realized I had personally never experienced anything supernatural and that stuff was just in movies so I don't care as much if I ever do watch something scary. \n\nIt's also mainly sounds in current horror movies that produce the fear and there is usually a tell that something is about to happen so just try and brace yourself if you spot that tell.", "Side-note: try not scratch your eyes or balls during a scary movie. I had a friend who almost ripped his giggle stick off while watching Insidious. ", "Listen to the music, pay attention to the details. Jump scares are almost never comming out of nowhere and are pretty easy to spot, it has the downside of making you focus on how the movie is made instead of just enjoying it.", "If you go to a movie a few days after it comes out, you can find someone online who has detailed all the jump scares. Memorize them. Jump scares are what make you jumpy during horror movies. \n\n(They are also why modern horror movies are typically unbearably annoying.)\n\nThat's what I did before IT, so I knew when it was going to be over-the-top-fucking-loud! I forgot my earplugs. But at least IT didn't have that many jump scares, which \"hello horror movie people,\" is why it didn't suck. ", "I always try to expect it. Horror movies follow a pattern. You can predict when something will pop up quite well if you watch enough of them. \n\nAlternatively always look and think about how the film is made. Think about the main actor that has to act surprised when his co-worker jumps up from behind him. They are just people on the set. Nothing scary about that" ]	[ 8, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with extremely filthy housemates/landlords. I'm a university student boarding in a beautiful house in a very nice suburb of an Australian city. My landlords are hugely wealthy aristocrats-come-mining-comany-giants. They are well meaning, I am sure, but they are filthy. Over the 18 months I have lived here, I have come to accept their filth as a condition of my exceptionally cheap rent; I mean, beggars can't be choosers, right? \n\nAs a military girl, I'm insanely clean and maintaining cleanliness is very important to suppressing my bone crushing anxiety and depression. However, these people are filthy. Cockroaches on the food they leave on the bench for 3 days kind of filthy. Not flushing the toilet for days kind of filthy. Somehow, there is even a brown goo dripping from the aerator of the kitchen tap.\n\nI'm looking for a LPT to help me separate my clean spaces from theirs. I have bought a BBQ so I can cook and eat outside but I still have to deal with the kitchen sink (which is always full of soggy, old food) and doing my laundry in the mouldy machine. \nHas anyone else had to deal with a similar living space? \nIf so:\n\n* How do you recommend turning a blind eye to the filth?\n\n* How do you maintain an autonomous, clean space which cannot be infiltrated by filth\n\nThanks reddit, I hope this made sense and I am looking forward to reading your responses.\n\n ", "How to deal with extremely filthy housemates/landlords. I'm a university student boarding in a beautiful house in a very nice suburb of an Australian city. My landlords are hugely wealthy aristocrats-come-mining-comany-giants. They are well meaning, I am sure, but they are filthy. Over the 18 months I have lived here, I have come to accept their filth as a condition of my exceptionally cheap rent; I mean, beggars can't be choosers, right? \n\nAs a military girl, I'm insanely clean and maintaining cleanliness is very important to suppressing my bone crushing anxiety and depression. However, these people are filthy. Cockroaches on the food they leave on the bench for 3 days kind of filthy. Not flushing the toilet for days kind of filthy. Somehow, there is even a brown goo dripping from the aerator of the kitchen tap.\n\nI'm looking for a LPT to help me separate my clean spaces from theirs. I have bought a BBQ so I can cook and eat outside but I still have to deal with the kitchen sink (which is always full of soggy, old food) and doing my laundry in the mouldy machine. \nHas anyone else had to deal with a similar living space? \nIf so:\n\n* How do you recommend turning a blind eye to the filth?\n\n* How do you maintain an autonomous, clean space which cannot be infiltrated by filth\n\nThanks reddit, I hope this made sense and I am looking forward to reading your responses.\n\n ", "How to deal with extremely filthy housemates/landlords. I'm a university student boarding in a beautiful house in a very nice suburb of an Australian city. My landlords are hugely wealthy aristocrats-come-mining-comany-giants. They are well meaning, I am sure, but they are filthy. Over the 18 months I have lived here, I have come to accept their filth as a condition of my exceptionally cheap rent; I mean, beggars can't be choosers, right? \n\nAs a military girl, I'm insanely clean and maintaining cleanliness is very important to suppressing my bone crushing anxiety and depression. However, these people are filthy. Cockroaches on the food they leave on the bench for 3 days kind of filthy. Not flushing the toilet for days kind of filthy. Somehow, there is even a brown goo dripping from the aerator of the kitchen tap.\n\nI'm looking for a LPT to help me separate my clean spaces from theirs. I have bought a BBQ so I can cook and eat outside but I still have to deal with the kitchen sink (which is always full of soggy, old food) and doing my laundry in the mouldy machine. \nHas anyone else had to deal with a similar living space? \nIf so:\n\n* How do you recommend turning a blind eye to the filth?\n\n* How do you maintain an autonomous, clean space which cannot be infiltrated by filth\n\nThanks reddit, I hope this made sense and I am looking forward to reading your responses.\n\n " ]	[ "Move out. As a fellow organised and habitually clean guy that sounds... unbearable. No rent is cheap enough for me to stay in someones filth. I've broken up girlfriends over less severe, but reoccurring issues. Post an ad and find another place is my tip. You can't change their ways and they can live however they please but your a paying guest and it is essential that you let them know that you are about to move on unless they can amend some filthy habits.", "The thought of this makes me cringe. Could you suggest to them that they hire a cleaner? As I don't think they will be changing their ways anytime soon. If that doesn't eventuate, moving out is surely the only other option. Cheap rent isn't worth the stress associated with dealing with such filth. ", "I have had this before, the only way is to either leave or just clean up for them. I lived with people who never washed up. When they wanted to eat, they scrubbed some pans and plates and used them. then they went back into a dirty pile afterwards. They did this with things like lasagne and roast lamb which got everwhere. At best they would leave it to soak, but then of course never wash it up, which made it worse as you had a cold greasy sink full. I nagged and made rotas, they didn't stick to it.\n\nSo I separated my own things which I locked away and kept clean. If anything was ever left in a communal area I would scoop it up and put it in a pile. I would remove anything from the sink and put it in a large washing up bowl and keep the area clean myself. It was a pain in the arse, but better than leaving it or constant asking or arguing. Then I moved out and I have been even more motivated to keep clean since,." ]	[ 13, 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "What to do when you suddenly run out of steam at work? Sometimes, I'll be super productive at work until I just run out of energy. I'll get tired, yawn every few seconds, and feel like I need to just sit, all for no apparent reason. What should I do to pick back up quickly?", "What to do when you suddenly run out of steam at work? Sometimes, I'll be super productive at work until I just run out of energy. I'll get tired, yawn every few seconds, and feel like I need to just sit, all for no apparent reason. What should I do to pick back up quickly?", "What to do when you suddenly run out of steam at work? Sometimes, I'll be super productive at work until I just run out of energy. I'll get tired, yawn every few seconds, and feel like I need to just sit, all for no apparent reason. What should I do to pick back up quickly?", "What to do when you suddenly run out of steam at work? Sometimes, I'll be super productive at work until I just run out of energy. I'll get tired, yawn every few seconds, and feel like I need to just sit, all for no apparent reason. What should I do to pick back up quickly?" ]	[ "I work pretty long hours, and this was a big issue with me for years.\n\nI tried everything from energy drinks to short naps, but the best solution for me has always been to take a ten minute walk around the block. It unkinks the body, exposes you to some sunlight and gives you some clear thinking time away from your desk.\n\nGive it a try.", "There are a number of things you can try.\n\nGet a water bottle and drink a good amount of water. People say it helps, but it seems to be hit and miss.\n\nGet up and move around every so often. Walk around for 5 to 10 minutes every hour. This should help prevent you reaching the point of no energy.\n\nTry switching to an easy task which is fast and easily completed. Preferable something which is done in a different location that where you are doing the current thing you are doing.\n\nTake a short nap and then walk around a bit after you get up again. I find that this is helpful for me. I have hooks where I can hang a hammock. People complained when I started doing it, but as I get the work done in the end and, stay a bit longer (same amount of time I nap) people aren't vocal about it anymore.", "I take a break ever 25 minutes. Not a smoke break or a dilly-dally break, but a good stretch. I sit all day, so standing up and taking my eyes off the screen for a minute or two is good. I do this thought out my workday and its cut down on that drained feeling I used to cure with red bulls.\n\nMy work is mostly mundane and unchanging so refocusing is vital to keeping the pace.", "1. Do something that will make you laugh, such as spending a few minutes watch funny clips online\n1. Talk to someone else (but don't selfishly distract someone else working)\n1. Take a 20-min power nap in a quiet, dark place (20 min sleep time). Regardless of how I feel, I try to do this daily after lunch\n1. A lot of people have suggested taking walk, or doing anything to warm up. The key is to do it outside so you can also get fresher air and \"bright light, especially daylight, can be [especially energizing](http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanadams/2012/08/07/how-to-reset-your-inner-clock-to-get-quality-sleep/#2d80f18e5d89).\" Some people will get more tired if they over-exert themselves, while others will get woken up, so try different things. \n\nRegardless of what you try, if 2 or more don't work, you're probably done for the day from a productivity point of view. Either switch to low-powered tasks or better yet, if possible, take off for the rest of the day, get extra sleep and come back better than ever tomorrow.\n\nhttps://jobmob.co.il/blog/how-to-master-your-attention-span-and-stay-in-focus/" ]	[ 7, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How Can I Stay Up Later? I work 9am - 6pm, and I usually start feeling tired at 8pm, and go to sleep at 9pm - 9:30pm. This leaves me with only 3 hours of free time, and those hours usually fly by. I'm a cashier, so I don't do anything too physically draining, but standing in one spot all day might still be contributing to me getting tired so early and going to bed. I want to at least stay up till 11pm or 12am. That way I at least still get 7 - 8 hours of sleep.", "How Can I Stay Up Later? I work 9am - 6pm, and I usually start feeling tired at 8pm, and go to sleep at 9pm - 9:30pm. This leaves me with only 3 hours of free time, and those hours usually fly by. I'm a cashier, so I don't do anything too physically draining, but standing in one spot all day might still be contributing to me getting tired so early and going to bed. I want to at least stay up till 11pm or 12am. That way I at least still get 7 - 8 hours of sleep.", "How Can I Stay Up Later? I work 9am - 6pm, and I usually start feeling tired at 8pm, and go to sleep at 9pm - 9:30pm. This leaves me with only 3 hours of free time, and those hours usually fly by. I'm a cashier, so I don't do anything too physically draining, but standing in one spot all day might still be contributing to me getting tired so early and going to bed. I want to at least stay up till 11pm or 12am. That way I at least still get 7 - 8 hours of sleep.", "How Can I Stay Up Later? I work 9am - 6pm, and I usually start feeling tired at 8pm, and go to sleep at 9pm - 9:30pm. This leaves me with only 3 hours of free time, and those hours usually fly by. I'm a cashier, so I don't do anything too physically draining, but standing in one spot all day might still be contributing to me getting tired so early and going to bed. I want to at least stay up till 11pm or 12am. That way I at least still get 7 - 8 hours of sleep.", "How Can I Stay Up Later? I work 9am - 6pm, and I usually start feeling tired at 8pm, and go to sleep at 9pm - 9:30pm. This leaves me with only 3 hours of free time, and those hours usually fly by. I'm a cashier, so I don't do anything too physically draining, but standing in one spot all day might still be contributing to me getting tired so early and going to bed. I want to at least stay up till 11pm or 12am. That way I at least still get 7 - 8 hours of sleep.", "How Can I Stay Up Later? I work 9am - 6pm, and I usually start feeling tired at 8pm, and go to sleep at 9pm - 9:30pm. This leaves me with only 3 hours of free time, and those hours usually fly by. I'm a cashier, so I don't do anything too physically draining, but standing in one spot all day might still be contributing to me getting tired so early and going to bed. I want to at least stay up till 11pm or 12am. That way I at least still get 7 - 8 hours of sleep." ]	[ "What time do you wake up? Can you wake up earlier?\n\nI think night owls (of which I am) are wired that way. I get a burst of energy around 9 pm. \n\nBut I also, for the life of me, cannot wake up in the morning. I’m miserable every am.", "1) more water\n2) coffeine even afternoon?\n3) short naps after work with alarm\n4) stay busy after work", "Some people need more sleep than others. If you've got a n your metabolism and stuff checked, that might be all it is.\n\n I have the opposite problem from you, I go to sleep too late.\n\nMaybe try getting up earlier to do stuff?", "Just start doing something engaging at 730pm. For the record, different people need different amounts of sleep but you can train yourself to keep different hours just by forcing yourself to keep those new hours. \n\nIt takes a little bit of work at first but eventually your circadian rhythm should change to account for it", "Drink a coffee after work. You need to get your body used to a routine. I hated the fact of coming home from work and having to go to sleep. It makes me feel like I have no life. So I usually go to bed at 12am and wake up at 8am", "But...If you did that, wouldn't you be tired all day long? Nevertheless if you want to stay up later, you can drink more coffe. And I think regular exercise helps you to get more energy, then you could stay up later than now." ]	[ 7, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "When stuck in a Depressive slump, which aspect of your life is to work on initially to get things moving again? ", "When stuck in a Depressive slump, which aspect of your life is to work on initially to get things moving again? ", "When stuck in a Depressive slump, which aspect of your life is to work on initially to get things moving again? " ]	[ "I always start from cleaning my room/house \n\nWhen depression hits I tend to leave dirty dishes and leftovers of food or other junk, as well as leaving dirty clothes lying on floor instead of thier place(bucket for clothes)\n\nThen I slowly start to regain my tempo: \n\n‐ re‐start to make serious workouts, walks and slowly forcing myself out of anxiety(making small talk in various stores)\n\n‐ move on with health issues, search for dentists and other and booking to them \n\n‐ making new plans, what do I want, what I have and what I need\n\nUsually after re‐starting workouts depression goes away, usually \n\nThe hardest is to make that FIRST small step to Her things rolling", "Hello [SeaOwl4](/u/SeaOwl4), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* Medical tips, including practicing medicine, eye/vision, skin care, dental advice, diet/nutrition, birth control, sex tips, and mental health.\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!", "Depression isn't an emotion. It isn't a 'slump'. It's a physical problem akin to a sprained ankle or a numb arm.\n\nIt's what happens when the happy signals (dopamine, endorphins, etc.) have difficulty activating neurons.\n\nCommon causes include:\n\n- Missing vital nutrients to make them\n\n- Missing the genetic code to make them\n\n- widespread pain or micropain drowning them out\n\n- the related neurons being bruised from some traumatic event (either burn-out from a super-strong emotion or a concussion or a head injury, etc.)\n\n- a chemical imbalance preventing their formation (i.e. a lot of hard drugs)\n\nTo 'kick' it, in order...\n\n1. Take an aspirin (this won't cure it for more than a couple hours, but it will tell you if it's pain induced). If you feel happy after aspirin, locate sources of pain and fix them (also, micropains can be caused by unhealthy diet and lifestyle, try to fix those)\n\n2. Stop taking any hard drugs (this may take a few monthes, if needed, to see results)\n\n3. Eat/Take chocolate, cinnamon, b-complex, vitamin D, Niacin, Aminos, and do some deep breathing exercises while m" ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!", "How can I wake up in a better mood? I'm a grump in the mornings! Almost every morning I wake up in a bad mood, it doesn't seem to matter if I have 10 hours of sleep or 4, it always seems I wake up pissy. It's becoming a issue between me and my gf, I want to change. Any advice would be appreciated!" ]	[ "If you use an alarm your are possibly waking at the wrong point in your sleep cycle. Do you wake naturally on the weekends and does this mean a better mood?\nIf so, consider a sleep cycle alarm clock or fitness band alarm.", "Miracle cure I've found is to take a multivitamin or at least just a complete B vitamin before you go to sleep. You'll wake up easily and full of energy. But I might not recommend if you are a light sleeper, because it can pop you wide awake at 3am when normally it would have been a stir and roll over.\n\nBonus, the B6 vitamin gives you cool dreams.\n\nUnhealthy alternative: Become addicted to coffee or caffeinated tea. The routine gives you something to look forward to, like a happiness trigger.", "Get a moderate amount of regular exercise and ensure your diet is properly balanced to include all the right nutrients. Don't overdo it, or you'll get cravings and withdrawal symptoms.\n\nAssuming there's no underlying reason for your moods, you might also try to just think some nice thoughts when you first wake up. \n\nRound where I live it's quite normal for some parents to tell their adolescent children to \"give their head a wobble.\" This doesn't have to just be a tactic suitable for young 'uns - and it's not especially difficult once you become determined to change how you are coming across to others.", "Perhaps I should be a bit more clear, my girlfriend and I both wake up at 5:30 am. As soon as the alarm goes off for us to wake up i am 9/10 times more inclined for ANYTHING to annoy me. Whether it is our dogs running around excitedly or her trying to hug/caress me while I'm trying to get ready for work. Normally I am sweet and patient with her, in the mornings that just isn't the case. I've read plenty of suggestions I'm willing to try here, just wanted to be a bit more detailed. My girlfriend seems like as soon as she wakes up her first thought is to caress me and basically worship me, telling me she loves me. I just wish I woke up like that, every morning, I try to realize I'm being grumpy, yet it still gets the better of me sometime. ", "My husband used to be like that and I made it clear that I wasn't prepared to deal with that every morning for the rest of my life. The solution was for him to fake being cheerful until he could get a proper breakfast down his throat with plenty of protein.\n\nI think his blood sugar is just super low in the mornings and yet he used not to eat because he felt annoyed and grouchy in the mornings and would just storm out of the house with no breakfast.", "My girlfriend and I have been talking about this and she thinks perhaps that I'm going through nicotine and caffeine withdrawal first thing in the morning. I'm a smoker and I do drink coffee as well, could this maybe be a factor too? I told her that as soon as I'm driving to work and smoke a cigarette I'm fine.", "Try working out before going to bed. \n\nGet out of the house as soon as you wake up. Go for a walk/run, the smell of the air and grass will wake you up and make you happy. Then come back home to your gf. \n\n", "Recently I've been drinking about a gallon of water every day (most days its more than a gallon but sometimes it's a little less). Since then, I've just felt a lot better overall and I wake up feeling much better than I used to. I've never been a morning person and I don't drink coffee very often, but just drinking more water everyday has made a huge difference for me in my mornings before work", "Promise yourself a rooty tooty fap session. I dunno about you, but if I wake up to the knowledge that I'm going to get my jollies first thing in the morning, I'm a happy camper all fucking day. :)\n", "It could be low blood sugar. How late do you stop eating? What types of things do you eat at night? Find something to eat in the morning that will stabilize your blood sugar. Maybe even a bit of exercise. ", "In the morning I get up, use the bathroom and come back to bed. If I am really tired I'll wash my face with cold water while I'm there. I'm awake and much more receptive to my boyfriend's snuggles. Some mornings I wake up early to sneak in my cup of coffee before his alarm goes off. Otherwise I am a grump. ", "I've just started going for a swim in the mornings. Before that, I was going for runs in the mornings. Either (or I'm sure any exercise) is effective at waking you up and making you feel energised for the day (although I did have to stop running because of shin pain, so don't over-do it).", "I'm more of a night person than a morning person but:\n\nMake sure everything's ready for you when you wake up, I do a lot of 'morning chores' at night and pack what I need for work so I don't have to hunt for things.\n\nUse an app designed to wake you at the right point in your sleep cycle.\n\nHydrate (but not too much) before you sleep. \n\nI used to be much worse in the mornings than I am now.", "First off, you may want to evaluate your \"sleep hygiene\". Refer to [this](https://sleepfoundation.org/excessivesleepiness/sleep-tools-tips/healthy-sleep-tips) site for more information. \n\nSecond, ask your gf for her opinion on how you sleep. Do you snore? Is your breathing regular? Do you toss and turn? These questions and the answers could show an underlying health issue that may be causing trouble getting restful sleep. \n\nThird, SEE A DOCTOR!! Really see one. Not only may they be able to make some lifestyle suggestions, they may also see a health issue you are not linking to your sleep. I too was having sleep issues. I would start my bedtime routine around 9p (awake at 5a). I cut out caffeine after noon. I exercised. I even tried melatonin. Seemingly nothing worked!! I knew that I snored, yet, until I talked more about it with the wife, I didn't know that my breathing was becoming shallow and even stopped. I went to my doc and had a sleep study. The study confirmed [obstructive sleep apnea](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_apnea). I now use a CPAP machine and sleep way better than I have been for years. \n\nSorry for the long post.\n\ntl:dr Check your sleeping habits and consult a doctor.", "Find a funny or cute video to watch on YouTube. (Like cats! There's lots of cat videos.) It'll put a smile on your face.", "Everytime I have 7+ hours of sleep (for me) that would be oversleeping and I'd be incredibly moody. But thats me I need atleast 2 hours of sleep to feel refreshed and that will stay like that up ontill 6 hours.\n\nPlay around with how many hours you sleep :) ", "Check your blood pressure in the mornings. I'm the same way and I often have a low BP in the mornings when I'm not taking care of myself. " ]	[ 8, 5, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)", "Good, easy to cook breakfasts? Right now I'm resorting to nutella toast every morning, but I can't think of anything that's hot and makes me feel full (besides pancakes)" ]	[ "About a year ago, I went on a diet and lost about 25 lbs. One of the most important parts of my diet was eating a good filling meal every morning. I still eat this breakfast nearly every morning.\n\nAlso, I'm from Texas, so this might not seem like breakfast if you're a yankee.\n\nFirst take 1/2 a red onion diced, 2 jalapenos cleaned and diced, 1 clove of garlic minced. Take the peppers,onions, and garlic and saute until the onions are sweating, then add 2-3 tablespoons of black beans to the skillet (canned beans are fine. just rinse them and drain them well). \n\nAfter another minute or so, take the sauteed veggies and set them aside in a bowl. Then take 3 eggs and scramble them until they are almost done (they should be just a little \"wet\"), then add the veggies and toss them with the egg and add cheese of your choice. Eat with corn tortillas or toast. \n\nSalsa is an optional condiment. If you're worried about cholesterol remove 2 of the egg yolks.", "Remember that you can cook many types of food in advance in bulk and use them throughout the week. Sauteeing onions, mushrooms, garlic, and bell peppers is a nice way to add variety throughout the week in various ways. You can scramble eggs in 2 minutes and add some to that, you can add it to frozen hashbrowns (only five minutes on high heat), you can throw them in a tortilla with some cheese and maybe some eggs for a breakfast burrito, etc.\n\nYou can also precook sausage and bacon and wrap them in a paper towel, then in a ziplock bag, and just zap in the microwave for 60 seconds for instant reheat.", "Oatmeal (stove-top, not instant) is dead easy to make and incredibly variable based on what you happen to feel like throwing into it. I personally like raisins, brown sugar, and cinnamon, but honey is also good, as are apples, perhaps bananas, anything really.", "Microwave some porridge oats with water, add banana and cinnamon.\nThe real LPT is - buy a big bag of oats for £0.50, instead of one plastic cup for £1 with a markup of x20!", "Grits and eggs are super easy to prepare. Grits cook much like rice or oatmeal. Boil water, add grits, wait. Scrambling eggs is really easy. The only advice I have for that is to remove them from heat just before they're ready (much like steak) as they will finish cooking on their own. ", "Full fat Greek yogurt, a touch of honey, and your favorite cereal cannot be beat. Add some fruit and you're golden. ", "Eggs. Seriously, how hard is it to scramble a couple of eggs in a pan? If you're looking for easier than that... good luck.", "Eggs.\n\nThen whatever you got.\n\nLeftover potatoes? Scramble with eggs. Need to go fast? Hard boiled. Got some bread and butter? Awesome, you can have scrambled eggs on or with toast. Fry. Poach em. \n\nMy favorite is leftovers+ eggs + tortilla. Works for almost anything", "Buy eggs in a carton. Seriously! They only have egg whites in it (the good stuff) and lasts for like 2 weeks (it has roughly 15 eggs in one box). Tastes as good and you don't need to be messing with shells and broken eggs.", "Beat in a bowl three eggs, 2 tsp water and 1 tsp low sodium soy sauce. Put in hot frying pan with hot veggie oil in it (you can learn your pan a little faster if you use peanut oil, but if you are familiar with the skillet already, use veggie oil). Flip like pancake after ~1 min. Remove from pan, spread a thin layer of red curry paste on the egg-cake, toss on some cilantro and shallots (both optional) and roll the egg-cake up. That shit takes about 3 minutes to make, and it is goddamn DELICIOUS. \n\nProtip: Red curry paste is expensive, but not if you buy it in a can from your local Asian food store. Shouldn't be more than 99 cents a can. ", "One of my favorites is broccoli and eggs. Not an instant breakfast like oatmeal or cereal, but good for a Saturday morning. \n\n1) Chop up a broccoli crown into florets. Slice the florets in half length-wise to expose the inside of the stem (I just like it this way, makes it less tough).\n\n2) Dice a clove of garlic. Throw a couple table spoons of EVOO into a pan, and lightly sautee the garlic.\n\n3) Throw the broccoli into the pan and toss it in the oil. The florets will absorb a lot of oil in their buds, so make sure to add more if needed (you want them to be coated in oil, but not sitting in a pot of the stuff). Crack fresh ground pepper and sprinkle with salt. Spread out the florets on the bottom of the pan, cover and cook on medium for about 5. Uncover and cook for another 5 minutes or so. Basically you want them to be \"al dente\", so they are slightly soft (but not \"steamed\"-style mushy soft-yuk!), yet they have a nice, slight crisp on the side where they touched the pan.\n\n4) Slide broccoli onto your plate. Put pan back on stove. There should still be a little bit of oil on the pan. Crack an egg or two, keeping the yolk in tact. Use free-range eggs for the best taste (yolk should be a richer, tastier orange, not a very light yellow). Crack fresh ground pepper and some salt on top. Cook the egg sunny side up until it is solidified, but the yolk will still be gooey in the middle. If the pan is already hot, this should only take a couple minutes.\n\n5) For bonus points, toast some good artisan bread. Thick-cut (1-2 inches), so it will be crispy on the ouside but warm and soft on the inside. Butter the bread with a quality organic butter (tastes much better than cheap butter). I love a good sourdough french loaf.\n\n6) Slide eggs onto plate, and enjoy. If you used bread, place eggs on top of the bread and eat like an open-face sandwich. Drip any remaining oil from the pan onto the eggs and bread (I love EVOO and it is my favorite form of healthy fat). Sop up the yolk with the broccoli and bread as required.\n\nUsually people are SO CONFUSED when I tell them I'm eating broccoli for breakfast. I'm not sure why vegetables are considered \"off limits\" before 12pm to most. I'm not a vegetarian or a health nut, but I do love eating good food. Everyone who I have made this for has always loved it. Good ingredients = good meal. Low quality ingredients = bad meal. And quality doesn't have to be expensive (free-range eggs and organic butter are very affordable)." ]	[ 6, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks.", "The most cost effective way to use my phone abroad? (AT&T GS3) I am taking a lengthy trip to Spain this summer in July/August, so I will need to keep in touch with people back in the states. My current phone is an AT&T Galaxy S3, but I may or may not upgrade to the One Plus One soon (depends on reviews and such). Does anyone have good suggestions for a man on a budget? Thanks." ]	[ "The S3 has a SIM slot. When you arrive at the airport, you will find two or three vendors that will sell you a rechargeable SIM for ~$20 that includes phone, text and about 1G internet. That should last your entire trip, but you can recharge it anywhere in the country buy buying a top-up code at a corner shop. \n\n* Important: Call AT&T now and have them 'unlock' your phone for international travel. It only needs to be done once, but they need to send a code to the phone to unlock it from the AT&T network. (Sometimes they make you wait a month or two, so if you are going to upgrade, make sure you do it a month or two in advance. Weird rule.)\n\n* Buy the SIM at the airport (international arrivals) because they are the most familiar with activating a new non-local phone. (They need to copy your passport. Vendors in the city may not be authorized.) \n\n* You will have a choice between different plans, some with international calling. You might want to get an international calling plan, but I typically get one with maximum data and rely on the internet for international communication.\n\n* Use Skype when you are on WiFi to make international calls. You can call computers for free, of course, but you might want to sign up for a Skype plan that gives you unlimited US calling to ordinary phones.\n\n* Use WhatsApp or similar to text while on LTE or WiFi. (Don't text internationally using the standard text app! $1 per text!)\n\n* Have people call you! You will have a phone number with your SIM. Ask your SIM vendor about the calling plan. It is usually free for people to call you.\n\n* If your family is going to be calling you directly, have them get a good calling plan or sign up for the Skype international plan.\n\nHave fun! \n\n\n", "T-Mobile has really good international plans, and last I knew they were paying off people's early termination fees. ", "Can anyway answer the same for someone with an iPhone and Verizon?\n\nI'm going to England shortly. My plan was to turn of the cellular service and just use wifi to iMessage, Skype, FaceTime, etc. with people I know, then buy a cheap prepaid phone while there to make emergency local calls if need be.", "Start service with T-Mobile. Free roaming.\n\nAlso if AT&T won't unlock your phone something with the s3 baseband chip is fucky and lets you unlock YES CARRIER UNLOCK the phone through a menu. I did it. Juat google unlock s3 something I forget...", "best way, go to t-mobile and tell them you want to switch. They pay your early termination fee with AT&T and give you a cheaper plan, that works with data and everything, in over 150 different countries, for no extra charge. ", "Generally WIFI is everywhere in the major cities in Spain. You can get a rechargeable local SIM for about 10-20 Euro at any Internet Cafe. Usually they are phone/txt only but are what you need for local calls. They are rechargeable at any store that sells the brand. If you go to chain stores (I used The Phone House-locations in most major cities and you're not locked to a single provider), you can get one that is data as well. You'll be asked to provide your passport at the \"official\" stores. Coverage is generally pretty good, but if you really need wifi of your own, you can get a rechargeable mini 3G wifi router free with a purchase data. This is great if you have laptop and phone and don't have solid wifi. Nice for trains etc if you're moving around. They are also fully rechargeable as you need more data. Set up a google voice number to make and receive calls and texts to US/Canada Free over Wifi. DO NOT waste your money paying AT&T for ANYTHING international. Rip off.", "try out viber, download it and have whoever you want to talk to download it, anytime your connected to wifi you can make free calls, texts and pics/videos", "It's really depends where you are going. \nWhere i live you can get unlimited calls (including call to the US), unlimited sms and unlimited data (after x gb thet slow your connection) for a as cheap as 15$ a month. \nMust visitors just buy these SIMs and don't use there regular number. ", "If you are leaving for more than a month, you can call your US phone company and pause your contract. (You can do it online as well.) You will be given two deliberately confusing options:\n\n* One pauses your account and costs $0 per month. If you are under a two year contract, it extends the contract by the equivalent period of time (which is reasonable.) With this option your voicemail stops working, though.\n\n* The other option keeps your voicemail active but costs $15-$30 per month. It also keeps the clock ticking on your 2-year contract. \n\nIn either case, you keep your number and you can reactivate on the day you get back. \n\nYou can do this for 6 months per calendar year (3 months at a time). We did it for a year in total (6 months from Jul-Dec and then 6 months from Jan-Jun) but had to be sure to call every 3 months.\n\nSend a text to everyone you know to tell them your new number. Once it is on their phone, they will be texting you and calling you just as if you never left. \n\n(For those with iPhones, you probably know that iMessages use WiFi/data and are free, no matter where you are in the world. Just text as you normally would. Be sure to turn off \"Send as SMS\" in the settings to be sure. You can use WhatsApp for your non-iFriends.)", "I travel every year from the US, to multiple countries in Europe. I mostly use gvphone-like apps, in conjunction with Google voice, or Skype, both on unlocked phones, with local SIMs. Beginning this month, apparently ( http://blog.obihai.com/2013/10/important-message-about-google-voice.html), the former option won't be available, anymore. ", "I always use brightroam.com. Get a SIM for Spain, usually free incoming. Make sure your phone is unlocked, or rent one of theirs.", "Barcelona has free city Wifi from I believe 8-1am.\n\nHowever, I found the best option for me was to purchase a SIM card from Vodafone. They offered me a package that included 500mb of data, 20 mins of calls and 20 texts for 10 euros, which equates to about $15.\n\nAvoid MoviStar, as they quoted me 25 euros for the exact same package!", "Another reminder... http://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2014/05/11/google-voice-third-party-apps/8893179/", "ATT will unlock your phone for free if you bought the phone with a contract and have used it for 2 years. If you dont want to mess with that or att makes you wait or something you can get an unlock code from websites like lockpop.com or others. Its about 20 bucks for a samsung code I believe.", "Try Lebara Mobile. I use it always when in Spain. They sell the SIM Cards in the metro stations. It's prepaid and they have good rates for international calls. ", "The most cost effective way is to use a local sim in an unlocked (or local) phone. \n\nEasiest way is to check with your carrier to see if they have an international plan for the countries you're going to. Especially if you just plan on using data, it isn't that bad. ", "Good advice here, but you want to check out the situation on local burners. Depending on how long you're staying and how much you'll need to keep in touch with people, picking up a phone at a local gas station might be cheaper, but laws vary from country to country." ]	[ 116, 6, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to talk to friends or family crying over the phone? Had this problem last night..could only apologize so much and kept on saying they're gonna be okay but I feel like I did a terrible job even though I was on the phone with her for several hours listening to everything...any advice?", "How to talk to friends or family crying over the phone? Had this problem last night..could only apologize so much and kept on saying they're gonna be okay but I feel like I did a terrible job even though I was on the phone with her for several hours listening to everything...any advice?" ]	[ "Mostly people just want to be listened to, so keep half an ear open, make occasional right noises, say things like \"I hear you\" now and again. Don't feel you have to contribute anything except that kind of stuff. Tears eventually run their course, and the person will feel either better or tired, and you reassure them it was no trouble and that you're sorry it's so painful for them at the moment, and that they can call you anytime.\n\nIf you get to Pro status, you can still surf Reddit at the same time, just put your speakers on mute.", "If they're crying uncontrollably, lead them through breathing exercises. Give them something to focus on instead of whatever is making them cry. Calm breathing is one of the best ways to help crying uncontrollably. Once theyre breathing calmly tell them to keep breathing slow and then tell some happy memories. Once theyve been calmed down for a while, offer to listen to them, but if they get overwhelmed work through it again. " ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
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" ]	[ "Once I was riding with my boss, and he cut someone off - the person ended up parking next to us and screaming at him when we got out of the car. My boss just said, “hey man, haven’t you ever done anything stupid before?” The person was speechless.", "I grew up in an aggressive home. If I am being yelled at, I do something I learned as a child. I freeze. I am told my eyes go blank, not sure as I haven’t looked at myself. I stay absolutely silent during their tirade. \n\nThe one car “bump” I was in (my fault) the guy screamed at me. I stayed quiet and when he took a breath, I said “can you point to the damage?” There wasn’t any. I had bumped a huge trailer hitch that stuck out about 24 inches from his pick up. When he didn’t see any damage. I asked if he wanted to call the cops or if I should. He said no cops (his hitch was not legal). I said ok then, and asked if we should trade insurance info. He said no (I think from the looks of his vehicle he didn’t have any). I parked and waited for him to leave first, so he couldn’t say I was fleeing the scene. After all that, my hands started to shake and my mouth went dry.", "Hey op. Go to YouTube and search up how to de escalate someone. \n\nYou will get a way better answer then some of these guys telling you to keep a stun gun on you and shit lol. \n\nDr. Christian conte is the creator.", "You need to ask a closed-ended analytical question. This forces people to switch from right brain (emotive) to left brain (analytical). They won’t even realize it but it works. Ask a couple if need be to calm things down. \n\n“Can you read me your vin number?”\n\n“What’s the date today?”\n\n“Can you read me the first three lines on your insurance card?”", "I used to have to throw belligerent drunks out of the bar where I worked. Remaining calm and collected was the most important thing. If you react emotionally, engage with their nonsense, or let yourself get rattled, it just fuels the fire. Basically if you lose your cool, you lose. Speak calmly, plainly, respectfully, and stick to basic facts. Offer solutions if it feels appropriate and safe to do so.", "OK, I'll bite and I hope my advice helps somebody (including myself).\n\n1. Never shout! EVER! Keep eye contact. (and please don't cry or make faces).\n2. Let the person (shouting/expressing their anger) at you finish. Like, silence-finish.\n3. Say \"I hear you\" (try to avoid a straight \"sorry\" or worse blaming somebody/something else)\n4. Try to summarize the situation that a) happened, and b) verify the statements fit the other person's take. And ask if this description is accurate in their point of view. This is VITAL. Try to dissect the situation in piece-meal fashion. Follow through with suggesting to \"work this together\".\n 1. if the other person won't work together (because he/she is a higher manager) you say \"let me try to propose a working plan\"\n5. Go step by step over the situation points and suggest solutions to the other person, while asking their feedback. You will notice that this logical step-by-step process of problem solving will help de-escalate the emotion on both your ends.\n6. Take very accurate notes on the discussion and summarize the solutions/outcomes at the end of the discussion. Send said summary with clear follow ups, who will take care of it and by when.\n7. Chill, GTFO and take a deep breath... you've got serious stuff to deal with. If you have the chance, discuss with a colleague and ask for feedback (correct any stupidity you may have said/promised).\n8. Take a drink of tea/whisky.\n\n", "I try to move past it, solve the problem to make it better. They are being emotional (rightfully so) but try to bring them back to “how can I fix this” instead.", "As someone with adhd. Something I do is take one phrase in an aggressive sentence and start talking about that and using it to go off topic. Humanizes you a bit more. \n\nI worked at guitar center and people hated mask enforcement but it’s company policy so we had to and this one dude complained “you can’t breathe you can smell you’re own breath bla bla bla” so I said “hey you guys know they actually make a underwear with a scented patch so when you fart it smells good and the customer totally bought it and started asking shit like “is it mint or lemon scented or what?” And I’m like “dude idk but isn’t it such a good idea?!” And he chuckled and walked away as my coworkers just looked at me shocked asked “how the fuck did you do that” like I said I have adhd so I’m well versed and n changing topics of conversation without realizing it", "You want to de-escalate. So if it's family members remain calm ask questions like - I can understand your frustrated/angry/upset what would you like me to do to help ease how you are feeling. \nYou can say things like 'i can't help until you calm down' \nAlthough hard try to never rise to their levels. \nCar accidents - 'this is a terrible situation please let me know your insurance/contact number/ here is mine' ask questions to help stop the shouting. It's usually not a good idea to say you understand how they are feeling when it might not necessarily calm them in that moment. But questions with defined answers or if you are a witness something like 'its ok I have footage' if your a dashcam owner (this can help angry people stop to pause and correct actions along with providing evidence or something like 'i saw what happened and I will stay until the police arrive to give a statement' \n\nIf it's a customer interaction something like 'i know you are angry with the item/service/ let me see what I can do within my power to help or would you like a manager' in all situations if possible keep witnesses around. Or if you are not able to do anything simple say 'i refuse to put myself in a situation like this with you' and remove yourself to somewhere safe eg inside a car, a staff area, a different room.", "Call a crisis response team if your city has one. I work professionally using de-escalation techniques and even when you have training: If a person is escalating themselves and reaching a crisis stage, the only thing you can do is get out of the danger zone before they explode. Go gray rock if you can't physically leave. There's no teachable moment hiding at the center of a crisis, just the explosion and the blast radius.\n\nLetting go of the belief that you CAN do anything and focusing on safety is the most important. We cannot control others, we can only keep the victim count low and try to reset. But you can't reset in the center of a crisis. That person is having a mental health moment and that's their baggage.", "The louder they get, the quieter you should talk. The volume disparity will accentuate their angry and hopefully make them recant?", "Crisis co-regulation. Say very little. If you do say something it should be within active listening. \"You sound very angry.\" Keep your distance, and use minimal eye contact. If you get a chance, you can say \"ymI see you really want to tell me something, and I can't hear you when you're yelling at me.\"", "Tell them you’re going to leave this conversation and come back at a later time and we can discuss solutions to the problem. Then physically walk away until they’ve calmed down and ready to focus on solutions rather than emotions", "Never EVER lie, not even little lies. Remain calm. Do not speak unless spoken to. Leave as soon as you can.", "Do not allow people into your personal space. This can seem counter intuitive to de-escalation, but it's for both of your safety. Manage your space so that they are at a normal conversational distance. If you can't move, literally put your arm out with your palm up like a traffic cop saying stop.\n\nTry to avoid directly squaring off. Try to be at an angle with them. You can use your feet and hips to manage this.\n\nStay calm. Listen, tell them you hear them, and demonstrate that you hear them by repeating their concerns back to them such as, \"I hear that you looking for information on how to defuse a tense situation...\"\n\nValidate their concern where possible such as, \"I can understand your desire to de-escalate, tense situations can be scary.\"\n\nBe sincere, humans are naturally calibrated to sense sincerity. Tell them what you plan to do about the situation. You should be honest here even if it's not what they want to hear, such as:\n\n\"I plan to share some information on de-escalation with you, and I hope you find it helpful. One thing that caught my attention is that your request specifically addresses de-escalating when someone is already in your personal space. That worries me for a couple reasons. One, it sounds like you might not have a lot of experience managing your personal space. This can come off as social anxiety, and such anxiety can compound already tense situations. It is also so much more difficult to de-escalate from such a position that training in this area instead focuses primarily on never being in such a situation.\" \n\nGive the best reassurance that you can. \"I think that asking about this issue is a very courageous first step. From our brief interaction I have confidence that you will work hard at learning to manage tense situations. This is a critical skill that not many people possess, and if you learn it now it will set you up for success.\"", "Speak in foreign language…it’s less pitiful and provoking: Perdóname! es mi culpa. Lo siento muchisimo! It’s close enuf tEnglish .to.unununderstood", "Walk away. “You’re right, it was my mistake but I’ll come back when we can talk calmly”\n\n\nIf you feel violence is a threat don’t turn your back and before you make it clear you’re going to leave make sure you are out of grabbing distance. \n\n\nNo one deserves to be yelled at and if you’ve admitted you’re wrong and they’re losing their shit, especially at work, it’s just not on you to stand there and take it.", "Historically, this has to be the best consequence mitigation line: 'I'm so sorry. It won't happen again.\"", "That’s what she said. \n \nthat’s what who said? \n\nI never know. I just say it. I say stuff like that, you know, to lighten the tension, when things sort of get hard--", "One of the best ways I've found is to remain silent until they are done. Mentally catalogue what they say so you can respond after, but fight the urge to retort immediately. Most people will tire themselves out or run out of stuff to say and shut up after a moment.\n\nDon't talk immediately after, pause for just a few more seconds to allow them room to add anything or to let it sink in how they responded.\n\nEven if you were in the wrong, people will sometimes realize that they were being too aggressive or not handling it in the best way, and they may be able to carry on a calmer discussion after.\n\nIn the event this doesn't work or that you need to clear things up quickly, use a lot of I phrases. For example, \"I want to apologize because I did x\" or \"I did this at the time because I felt blah blah blah\". This both helps show them you are taking accountability and it is a less accusatory way of communicating.\n\nAvoid direct \"you\" phrases like \"You didn't tell me I shouldn't do that\" or \"I'm sorry your feelings got hurt\". This puts the focus and blame on them, even inadvertently, which is likely to escalate things.\n\nMost \"you\" phrases can be changed to \"I\" phrases. So with the example above you could instead say \"I didn't realize I shouldn't do that\" or \"I didn't think about that\". It may seem like unfair language to yourself at first, but it works in most cases", "Now what you want to do here is go for a leg sweep then follow up with a forward flip drop kick. Maintain good form and the guy will calm down nicely /s", "Many times they will settle down if they realize you are actually listening and apologizing. “You are right” is a very powerful statement. \nThey: rant\nYou: you are right, I shouldn’t have done XYZ. I am sorry and I won’t do it again.\nAssuming they are rational, there’s not much left for them to say. If they are not rational, back up and/or get out of the area?", "Keep your hands raised with palms open facing turn, do not maintain eye contact, continously create space in front of you that they have to occupy.\n\nThe fact of the matter is your not going to defuse that person easily but you can convince others that you are in need of assistance by forcing them to constantly invade your space and catch your eye (two things angry people always want to do).", "Just dont do anything. Just stare off into the distance and do absolutely nothing assuming the person is determined to be mad at you. They want you to fuel their anger. You ever seen someone so mad that they're just repeating stuff you did that made them mad? Or they just keep asking you why you'd do/think something? That's them just wanting to hear your voice so they can pump themselves up\n\nSo if someone is absolutely determined to be angry with you then do nothing. Thousand yard stare past/through them and dont give them anything. If you turn yourself into a wall then it'll be very hard for them to pump themselves up. You're basically gonna put them in a position where they just have to hit you if they're really that upset. The reality is... most people don't start out that upset. But they do pump themselves up by making assumptions on your actions while screaming at you\n\nSo just do nothing. Let them burn off their energy and move on from the situation. And I seriously mean nothing. Dont look at them. Dont speak to them. Just be a wall", "Happened to my great grampa once, in a small town in rural north Carolina. Idiot cut him off, gramps hit him from behind because he couldn't stop in time. Idiot immediately jumped out, and tried to punch through grampa's window, screaming how my gampa was a \"Fucking Idiot and a stupid reds*n\" ( grampa was half Cherokee. \n\nGrampa didn't roll the window down, or loose his cool. Instead, he unloaded his six shooter through the window, and into the angry Idiot. \n\nJudge only gave him 6 months, and gramps never lost a moment of sleep over it. \n\nHis philosophy? Act like an animal, get put down like one. Calm doesn't necessarily mean meek.", "??\n\nLeave.\n\nObviously? If you're in a situation where someone is being clearly aggressive and you don't want to fight them, leave. We're still animals, you can't calm someone out of primal rage, but they'll calm down if you're not there for them to be enraged at.\n\nYou can* leave the scene of an accident if you're concerned about your safety, just come back.", "“I understand your frustration” \n“Let me make sure I understand what you are saying”\n“I hadn’t thought of it that way”\n“I do not see it that way, please let me explain”\n\nLearned these after years of officiating high school football and basketball - the suggestion of letting the counterpart keep yelling while you remain calm also helps - eventually the person sees you are being calm and “being the adult in the room” and essentially punched themselves out with screaming. \n\nAlso - keep a a safe distance away - put a hand up if need to - don’t let a bully try to intimidate you with body language (easy for me to say as a male I get it)", "put them in their place, set your boundaries and remind them where their authority stops, cant blow away a forest fire so dont bother", "be assertive and tell them \"you need to take a step back here because i can't understand you when youre acting like this\" and then walk away.", "a combination of an apology and how can i make it up to you should always work regardless. imo if it didn’t, they have issues so either park it and leave or have a mediator.", "You let them speak, you let them get it all out, wait for them to stop, and it's at the quiet time when they take a couple breaths you look them in the eye and say thank-you, I needed to hear that. And agree with them.", "When you fuck up, make sure you admit it clearly. It takes a lot of pressure. The phrase \"I agree with you.../You're right...\" is also useful, but if they are full of shit, phrase it carefully (that is, just admit everything you've done wrong, but skip the insults/crazy stuff).", "When my sisters get really angry with eachother, like, screaming match level angry I'll usually grab one by the shoulders, look her in the eyes and say \"you are experiencing extreme anger, please go calm down, we will solve this when you will be ready to speak in a reasonable level\"", "Try to see their point of view, as though you were looking in the mirror. What normally helps is too \"level\" with the person. If you messed up , and are conscious of it ; show remorse . Your body language also should be relaxed , your facial expressions should seem sincere and attentive. Don't roll your eyes , look away , cross your arms etc. Repeat what this person is saying to you ,show that you understand the situation and want to resolve it. Don't interrupt when being yelled at unless you are apologizing(cause that may help depending on situation). Sometimes the person that's angry at you just needs to let it out and there will be little you could do. If there in your personal space , step back, move away if possible, and try not to get physical.", "This is just me but as soon as you are angrily in my face screaming and spitting on me we've got bigger problems. And i will make you feel like a fool. There is never a reason to get into someone's face unless you're actively going to swing in someone. Idk man thats just me tho. Like don't get into my face. Stay out of my bubble please.", "There's always someone crazier than you or with a gun .\n\nSo, If you flip someone off or honk loudly , it's 50-50 it gets physical.\n\nSo , either be calm and let everyone get a pass or fight with 20 people every day", "Tell them to you are going to let them finish making their point. \n\nUsually nasty angry people want you to interrupt and argue back, giving them justification to get louder or more angry.\n\nSpeak up while being shouted at that you will finish letting them talk/make point. That way they will have to pause at some point, you will ask are they done?\n\nYou can’t make light of situations until you are over the hump of the anger, usually something that takes hours or even days, so don’t do that.\n\nYou’ll have to admit to whatever mistake and explained why you made the mistake, whether it be negligent behavior, mental lapse in judgment, etc.\n\nThen wait for whatever the next step in resolving the matter.", "Stay calm no matter what. If the police need to get involved get them involved and minimize interaction with the person. Let the police handle their crazy behavior. \n\nIf an apology is all that can be done simply apologize and if they won't let up say I've already apologized I don't know what else I can do (or ask what you can do to make things right) and walk away.\n\nSimply put STAY CALM, apologize if necessary, minimize interaction, and don't be afraid to walk away. People who yell like that typically aren't going to get physical. Oh and remain confident.", "Stand up vigorously, take a deep breath, walk out and find a place to power out 30 pushups or whatever number you can do.", "Some people just want to be told they're right, you're an asshole, and that's it. Some people just want to abuse someone verbally to let off steam and once they're done, they're done. Just take the abuse, especially if you fucked up.\n\nHowever, if someone is getting unreasonably angry and you suspect they might become physical, and you're not sure you can/you don't want to fight them, your best option is to just run away. Even if you can kick their ass, it's not worth it if you can run away; if you hit them and they fall and hit their head on the concrete, now you have an even bigger problem.\n\nIf you cannot run, then be prepared to defend yourself. Don't escalate the situation verbally, don't get in their space, and don't take your eyes off them.\n\nWhen you're at a bar or venue, get the bouncer. When you're in a car accident of some kind, call 911 and ask for a police officer. If you're alone and able to, run away. If you're cornered, defend yourself.", "Sit down. \nSit on your car, on the ground, on a chair.\nAlso, put your hand out in front of you, as if to say “Stop”.\nIf you say anything, say it softly.\n\nPeople who are angry or upset have their “fight or flight” response on. They quite literally cannot hear anything you are saying. Using simple and direct body language, even though it seems silly (sitting on the ground outside) can instantly defuse a hot situation.\n\nRemember that when someone is red-line triggered screaming at you, there is no battle to be won. Everyone has lost, and must get back to square one to get anything solved. Getting back to square one sometimes involves you doing something that looks like “losing face” or “accepting defeat”, when actually, you are taking control of the situation out from under the angry person.", "Related to this, we all know the international sign of being mad at a shite driver, but what's the go to hand signal for 'oops, my mistake!'? Lol", "Pull down your pants and take off your shirt and run in circles screaming and hollering random crap as loud as you can. \n\nBasically if you can out crazy the crazy person… they stop and get scared about what’s happening to their reality because they become the most sane person there.", "Oppose their energy by being completely 180. If they're loud, you're quiet. If they're angry, you're level headed. Be firm, controlled, and unphased by their anger. Hold your ground so they don't posture and take the situation from you.\n\nMake eye contact with them. Speak genuinely. Tell them what they want to hear without groveling. If they don't have any energy to feed their anger, they'll eventually burn out or give up. Framing yourself so that they know you're not in a submissive position means that only they can escalate the situation and few people do that on their own.\n\nThis advice is what I learned from professional hostage negotiators and also as a martial arts instructor of 15+ years.", "Nod slowly, take slow deep breaths, if they want you to respond say back the same words in the same order they did, and blink slowly. Hearing their own words is comforting and calming, you don’t need to believe the words to diffuse the energy. The slow blink and deep breaths are to keep you calm, and they’ll eventually likely start to feel a little silly for being so blustery flustered. If it’s not physically dangerous, try to assume a relaxed body posture, lean against something let an arm hang loose at your side. Most people will sort of naturally adjust like mixing hot and cold water together. Adding your chill can help cool things down.", "My wife works in a customer service field. She says her tip for when someone is extremely angry and shouting, etc. is to get a pad of paper and write down what they are saying. Repeat it back to them, then offer any solutions. If there are none, she offers to page a supervisor. She says a lot of times, this clams them down because they just want someone to listen to their perceived gripe (whether valid or not). If they decline the supervisor (and she says sometimes they do) then she tells them she will pass on the note before the end of her shift.", "My go to. and I have calmed a lot of people down, is to remain calm and non combative. I don't fully understand the psychology of it and haven't read anything on it but I feel like it just doesn't give the person anything to bounce back off of.", "Match the persons anger they get confused. They will see anything other then matched anger as dismissal and will further aggravate them. This is for people you know and have dealings with that don’t allow you to ignore them.", "Look behind them with a panicked look on your face and say, \"Watch out, behind you!\" Then turn around and run.", "Lightly pinch their nipples. It completely shocks them out of their anger and resets it to confusion. Hasn’t failed me yet.", "Keep your voice calm, angle yourself to the nearest exit, don’t cross your arms, mirror back what they’re saying to you and appear empathetic but not taking pity on them. Actively listen", "Keep it business. Keep emotion out of it. Your face is Terminator asking for the biker’s clothes. Don’t antagonize, don’t talk over, and don’t exasperate. Just get your words out like a business deal and stick to matter of facts rather than feeling about those facts. It takes a lot of practice, but its the way to go.", "I’ve done professional training on de-escalation quite a bit for work. Generally you:\n\nBe non threatening. Be calm and speak calmly. (Easier said than done but important)\nDon’t act or say anything aggressive.\nLet them vent. When they calm down enough for you to speak try to understand their perspective/why they are upset. You’ll know they’re still too upset to talk to if they snap at you for saying anything. If you’re at fault apologize. (If it’s a legal situation like a car accident you don’t have to apologize but a good thing you can do is ask if they’re ok)\nTrying to understand what they are saying to you and being an active listener. \n\nIf they are too aggressive/violent/screaming at you remove yourself from the situation. People can be abusive and you don’t have to be a punching bag physically/emotionally. Yelling at people should be reserved for emergencies/life or death situations/safety.\n\nFor further reading look up “de-escalation”. It’s a worth studying/being trained in if you want to understand it better.", "I vote for kicking/punching them in the balls and then running away while they’re gasping for air.\n\nDo NOT shout at me in my face or get into my personal space. I will take you out.", "I usually go with “you might want to take a minute and think about what you’re doing mate” in the friendliest way possible. Like it’s a passing thought but said slowly with weight.", "I posted this In another comment but basically: Reflect and deescalate. Be on the same side.\n\nIf you’re perfectly calm and they’re mad/upset/angry they can get the impression you don’t care and react even worse. So mirror the emotions they’re showing but slightly less intensely, and gradually decrease them. Repeat it a couple of times until they’re a little calmer.\n\n‘Ahh man I’m so stupid for that! I cant believe I did that, I’m sorry. What can I do to make things right?’\n\nObviously be genuine and not sarcastic.", "I once had someone get so irate because I blocked an intersection by accident due to a light changing and 2 cars in front of me stopping on yellow. This guy went ballistic when we got into a Wendy’s parking lot. After apologizing profusely and insisting I was at fault, there was no way out of it, he was going to fight me. He backed me up against my vehicle, so I headed butted him as hard as I could. He crumbled. The point is, people are dangerous and unpredictable. Always admit when you’re wrong, apologize but always be ready to defend yourself when reason doesn’t prevail.", "I let the person yell/talk themselves out. When the rant is done, I ask them how they suggest we resolve the problem.", "Hello [PurpleInteraction](/u/PurpleInteraction), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, it has been removed for the following reason:\n\nYour post is not a life pro tip. Advice is any guidance or recommendation concerning prudent future action. An aphorism is a short clever saying that is intended to express a general truth or a concise statement of a principle.Try r/YouShouldKnow.\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FLifeProTips&subject=about%20my%20removed%20submission&message=I%27m%20writing%20to%20you%20about%20the%20following%20submission:%20https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/y5lgiw/lpt_request_how_to_defuse_a_tense_situation_when/.%20%0D%0D). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!", "Have you heard of the grey rock method? Basically, don't give them anything to work with. Remain calm, don't give them any of your energy, and stick to flat, neutral answers like \"Okay.\" The idea is that you become a very boring target.", "Go over the top. My dad had a customer absolutely livid that a mechanic had messed up a repair. He YELLS at his employee “GO GET MIKE. Bring him here.” \n\nThe customer goes “oh what are you gonna do?”\n\nAnd my dad says “shoot him. I mean that seems to be the only way to handle a fucking moron like that.”\n\nAnd the guy just stops, laughs, and goes “yeah I was really over the top wasn’t I?” And they worked from there.", "Get wrist control then with your other hand reach back and pull out your gun. Complete control/defusion.", "Get other people involved. Peer pressure is an major factor in human instinct, if you get other people involved with the conversation the aggrevator will start to feel instinctually threatened and move away from you and more defensive of the crowd. Bosses work the same, if you call up your colleagues and they start paying attention to the conversation your boss will back off. \n\nThe trick is you dont have to make it a spectacle, instead of addressing them just address the room. Car accident, same thing, if other people stopped to make sure everything is ok just start talking with them.", "For your boss, I'd simply state that I understand he/she is upset, however is this providing any value and or living up to the company values? If he continues then report to HR. You don't get paid to he yelled at. For your neighbor, just walk away. Nothing preventing it from getting physical.", "First thing, if they are shouting and screaming, let them finish. Stay calm and wait it out. Often people will just get all of their anger out and you can now address their issue.", "As a school principal I had to deal with angry parents on a regular basis. Staying calm and cool does wonders as does starting the interaction with, “How can I help you?” If you don’t argue back it’s hard for them to escalate the discussion. Also when possible, stay away from any opinions. “I think…” gives them an option to counter. Always quote policy. Sounds like a cop out but “The policy says X and I have to follow policy” is a great answer.", "Apologise with lots of energy, slightly underplaying their voice volume, maybe be a little theatrical by holding yr head in yr hands to signal “what-have-I-done-im-so-sorry!”", "All these extra steps and YouTube links wtf? \nJust calmly and with a stern voice let them know how they are reacting is not only disrespectful but unprofessional. Back away without turning away from them and go through the proper channels after to cover your ass. Don’t over think it or waste half your day watching bs YouTube videos", "A tip you can use is to say \"Sorry, you have something in your teeth\". This is going to cause them to step back for a moment and \"get it\". Even just a momentary break is usually enough to disrupt the anger and let you get a few words in de-escalate further.", "A good way to diffuse in conversations is to talk quieter than the person raising their voice which forces them to have to speak quieter than you to hear", "2 methods that work -\n\nSay \"How do you want this to end?\" this will make the person think of the consequences of their actions.\n\nSay \"Sorry, you have something on your face/beard/nose.\" it derails the person and immediately paints you as being on their side.", "\"say it, don't spray it.\"\n\n\"When you're ready to calm down and talk to me like an adult, I'll listen.\"", "\"I'm sorry. I don't want to have an adversarial relationship with you. What can I do?\"\n\nYou can project a negative outcome if the behavior continues by saying you don't want it. May bring them back to earth by making it a common issue. If there is liability, don't admit fault.", "Rip a fart while making eye contact. Make sure to give a decent push for increased acoustics. It is imperative that you continue eye contact until they look away first. This will assert your dominance.", "My go to defense mechanism is to shit my pants. Even if they don't stop attacking me, there are consequences of sticking around.", "Just start speaking gobeldegook. Then when they look confused at you just pretend you spoke perfect English. That few seconds of confusion programmes the brain to stop sending the angry chemicals through their body", "Have you offered to pay the damages?\n\nSaying sorry without any action is basically telling them you don't care.", "Buy a stage-knife, you know, the ones with a blood-pack.\nJust go 'I I Im so sorry, and pretend to cut your throat at them. See if they react.\nIf they don't, kick the fuck out of them for being a psychopath. #Not professional advice#", "A neighbor? Call the cops and have them deal with it. \n\nA boss take a step back, if they walk forward and they end up putting you against the wall stay calm and after about ten seconds of being calm having them scream at you… yell back “what the fuck! Don’t fucking spit in my face!! That’s crossing the fucking line!! How fucking dare you spit on my face you belligerent fuck! That’s assault! And keep yelling at him for spitting on your face! Make a yuck face and wipe your face! Then report them to HR and the police for assault will never have to deal with that shit from them again.", "My pro tips: \n\n* Don’t say “lost their plot”. Making up weird terms does nothing to demonstrate empathy or diffuse the anger of a person who thinks you’re not taking them seriously\n* Get a stun gun and don’t hesitate to use it on someone who is out of control with anger and in your personal space\n* If someone is angry at you, but not behaving like a physical threat, let them be angry. Another person’s anger is theirs to manage. \n\nSo to summarize: \n\n* Speak clearly\n* Be able and willing to defend yourself if needed\n* Stop trying to control other people’s emotions" ]	[ 2585, 583, 446, 366, 362, 188, 30, 24, 19, 14, 7, 7, 6, 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, -19 ]	safe
[ "How to converse with intrusive people? We all know those people, the ones who have a litany of questions every time you talk to them. They want to know as much information about you as your spouse would and maybe more. And then they give you advice on all aspects of life, because they know everything. \n\nUsually I can handle these types of interactions with strangers very well. I don't value their opinion too much, so I freely speak my mind. However I have a few family members and coworkers that are like this and I'm not quite sure how to say \"back the fk off\" without coming across as a total B. Especially because the questions aren't necessarily outlandish, it's just the amount of them and constant inquiry. \n\nAny tips on how to handle these convos in a low-key realistic way? \n\nIf it makes a difference, I'm a 29F who looks closer to 20. Any assertion comes seems to come across as emotional or bitchy. Soooooo HALP! \n\nThanks in advance! ", "How to converse with intrusive people? We all know those people, the ones who have a litany of questions every time you talk to them. They want to know as much information about you as your spouse would and maybe more. And then they give you advice on all aspects of life, because they know everything. \n\nUsually I can handle these types of interactions with strangers very well. I don't value their opinion too much, so I freely speak my mind. However I have a few family members and coworkers that are like this and I'm not quite sure how to say \"back the fk off\" without coming across as a total B. Especially because the questions aren't necessarily outlandish, it's just the amount of them and constant inquiry. \n\nAny tips on how to handle these convos in a low-key realistic way? \n\nIf it makes a difference, I'm a 29F who looks closer to 20. Any assertion comes seems to come across as emotional or bitchy. Soooooo HALP! \n\nThanks in advance! ", "How to converse with intrusive people? We all know those people, the ones who have a litany of questions every time you talk to them. They want to know as much information about you as your spouse would and maybe more. And then they give you advice on all aspects of life, because they know everything. \n\nUsually I can handle these types of interactions with strangers very well. I don't value their opinion too much, so I freely speak my mind. However I have a few family members and coworkers that are like this and I'm not quite sure how to say \"back the fk off\" without coming across as a total B. Especially because the questions aren't necessarily outlandish, it's just the amount of them and constant inquiry. \n\nAny tips on how to handle these convos in a low-key realistic way? \n\nIf it makes a difference, I'm a 29F who looks closer to 20. Any assertion comes seems to come across as emotional or bitchy. Soooooo HALP! \n\nThanks in advance! ", "How to converse with intrusive people? We all know those people, the ones who have a litany of questions every time you talk to them. They want to know as much information about you as your spouse would and maybe more. And then they give you advice on all aspects of life, because they know everything. \n\nUsually I can handle these types of interactions with strangers very well. I don't value their opinion too much, so I freely speak my mind. However I have a few family members and coworkers that are like this and I'm not quite sure how to say \"back the fk off\" without coming across as a total B. Especially because the questions aren't necessarily outlandish, it's just the amount of them and constant inquiry. \n\nAny tips on how to handle these convos in a low-key realistic way? \n\nIf it makes a difference, I'm a 29F who looks closer to 20. Any assertion comes seems to come across as emotional or bitchy. Soooooo HALP! \n\nThanks in advance! ", "How to converse with intrusive people? We all know those people, the ones who have a litany of questions every time you talk to them. They want to know as much information about you as your spouse would and maybe more. And then they give you advice on all aspects of life, because they know everything. \n\nUsually I can handle these types of interactions with strangers very well. I don't value their opinion too much, so I freely speak my mind. However I have a few family members and coworkers that are like this and I'm not quite sure how to say \"back the fk off\" without coming across as a total B. Especially because the questions aren't necessarily outlandish, it's just the amount of them and constant inquiry. \n\nAny tips on how to handle these convos in a low-key realistic way? \n\nIf it makes a difference, I'm a 29F who looks closer to 20. Any assertion comes seems to come across as emotional or bitchy. Soooooo HALP! \n\nThanks in advance! ", "How to converse with intrusive people? We all know those people, the ones who have a litany of questions every time you talk to them. They want to know as much information about you as your spouse would and maybe more. And then they give you advice on all aspects of life, because they know everything. \n\nUsually I can handle these types of interactions with strangers very well. I don't value their opinion too much, so I freely speak my mind. However I have a few family members and coworkers that are like this and I'm not quite sure how to say \"back the fk off\" without coming across as a total B. Especially because the questions aren't necessarily outlandish, it's just the amount of them and constant inquiry. \n\nAny tips on how to handle these convos in a low-key realistic way? \n\nIf it makes a difference, I'm a 29F who looks closer to 20. Any assertion comes seems to come across as emotional or bitchy. Soooooo HALP! \n\nThanks in advance! ", "How to converse with intrusive people? We all know those people, the ones who have a litany of questions every time you talk to them. They want to know as much information about you as your spouse would and maybe more. And then they give you advice on all aspects of life, because they know everything. \n\nUsually I can handle these types of interactions with strangers very well. I don't value their opinion too much, so I freely speak my mind. However I have a few family members and coworkers that are like this and I'm not quite sure how to say \"back the f**k off\" without coming across as a total B. Especially because the questions aren't necessarily outlandish, it's just the amount of them and constant inquiry. \n\nAny tips on how to handle these convos in a low-key realistic way? \n\nIf it makes a difference, I'm a 29F who looks closer to 20. Any assertion comes seems to come across as emotional or bitchy. Soooooo HALP! \n\nThanks in advance! " ]	[ "I use diversion as a tactic. When someone starts in with questioning I find too intrusive I'll sway the conversation elsewhere. \n\n> Example: \"Hey! When are you guys going to get married? It's been a long time, hasn't it?\"\n\n> \"Oh, you know, those things happen when it's right. Hell, it's all we can do just to get through this whole water heater debacle.\"\n\n> \"Huh? What's going on with the water heater.\"\n\n> \"Well....\" (and now we're talking about water heaters)\n\nOf course you have to have a story prepared before you get to the event", "Respond with this question: Why do you want to know? and look them dead in the face when you ask. \n\nMost nosy bats will STFU when you ask them this the first time, because generally nosy people can't stand to be directly questioned themselves, but for the real creepos it might take up to 3 times. I've never had one press past 3 times. \n\nNow if you halfway like them or they are your old auntie or somebody like that, you can divert their attention by giving a vague answer but then asking them a nosier question in return. But related to what they asked, so they won't think you're an asshole off the rip like they will if you directly ask them Why do they want to know. Example:\n\n- nosy bat: When are you going to have kids?\n- you: oh, someday. Hey how come you guys only have 2 kids, what made you pick 2?", "This is why people end up gossiping about celebrities instead. You need three things in your toolkit:\n\n1. Bean Dip\n\n2. Grey Rock\n\n3. Topical Item\n\nBean Dipping is the process of bouncing onto another subject when things become uncomfortable. It can be introducing a new topic, or interjecting with an obvious fact. If the other boorish party does not catch the hint, you must be prepared to insist upon your a decision - either \"I don't wish to talk about that anymore\", or the very clear \"I insist\". Also be prepared to physically remove yourself as you do so.\n\nGoing Grey Rock is the process of making yourself, or a topic, uninteresting. Short sentences, pleasant descriptors that aren't too positive, and appeals to the asker's intuition are the keys to this. If all else fails, be hopelessly busy - the best way to halt the conversation is to not be present for it. Put the person on an \"information diet\".\n\nOne need only check the news each morning to have a headline ready as a topical item to discuss.\n\nExample of how this could play out:\n\nNosy Person: \"Hello! How are you!\"\n\nYou: \"Hi. I'm just fine, thanks (Grey Rock). And you? (Bean Dip)\"\n\nNP: \"How's your husband doing after his pancreatic surgery? Was there a lot of bile? What color was it? How many stitches did he get?\"\n\nYou: \"He's fine, thanks (GR). It's all a blur to me, so I don't remember much detail. (GR) You know how these things are. (GR) By the way, did you hear about that helicopter crash in Timbuktu??? (BD with TI)\"\n\nNP: \"Oh yes! The poor little children! This is why you should never fly in helicopters in foreign countries...blah blah blah you can stop listening here and just nod every once and a while for a minute, then look at your watch.\n\nYou: \"I'm sorry, we'll have to continue this later. It's almost 8am. I would hate to make you late, and I have something important to discuss with Polly. (All a mix of BD and GR) Goodbye!\"\n\nNP: \"Oh, you are far too punctual. You need to live a little! When I was your age...\"\n\nYou: \"I'm afraid I must insist (BD).\" Turn around and start walking away...\n\nNP: \"What is so important that you need to talk to Polly about?\"\n\nYou: As you turn the corner, \"Oh, nothing very interesting to you, I'm sure (GR). Bye!\"", "I'm overly private so all questions about my personal life get under my skin. I use three techniques as an emotional armadillo shell:\n\n1. I respond with vagueness and do not offer any information to feed the conversation.\n2. I deflect. Best case scenario, I can\n3. Turn the conversation back to them. I've found people that are pushy about asking every question in the book, are usually overjoyed at the opportunity to talk about themselves.\n\nI usually don't have to outright refuse but when those times come, I've gotten comfortable with saying, \"I'm not going to answer that.\" Used judiciously, that phrase seems to strengthen your integrity rather than label you a bitch. But of course, the operative word there is judiciously. I'm also vocal about being private, that helps to set the precedent for why I'm not forthright. ", "I can sympathise with you. I have a few co-workers who over step their boundaries or seem to have no boundaries at all. \"How long have you been with your girlfriend\" \"are you getting married\" \"are you having kids\". I usually make up nonsense or say wouldn't you like to know or just plain insult them. I got the kids question the other day from a female co-worker to which I said \" kids? I haven't given up on improving myself yet\" Thinking about it though, I can pull this off because of the way I am. I don't mind coming off as \"bitchy\" as it sends a message and sets the boundary. Bottom line is. If you want people to respect your boundaries, you need to set them. You may come across as bitchy or mean or in my case an arsehole but they won't ask again.", "politely let 'em know that there are certain questions you rather not answer and make public, and that when those occasions arise you'll let 'em know by discreetly showing your finger.", "That is insane and unacceptable. \n\nFirst off, it is sexual harassment. \n\nSecond, it is harassment.\n\nNow, how to deal with it.\n\nYou need to humiliate them one by one. In front of each other.\n\nStart with penis jokes and work your way up to intellect jokes all while showing them 1 of 2 pepper sprays you have in your purse.\n\nWar has casualties and make sure it is on their side." ]	[ 18, 5, 4, 4, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to comfortably sit on the floor? I know this is a bit of a unique one, but I'd love to be able to sit on the floor without every part of me aching for hours. My roommates are Japanese, and they can sit comfortably on the floor for hours and be fine.\n\nI know its because they're used to eating dinner seated legs-crossed on ground level, but is there any trick to it?", "How to comfortably sit on the floor? I know this is a bit of a unique one, but I'd love to be able to sit on the floor without every part of me aching for hours. My roommates are Japanese, and they can sit comfortably on the floor for hours and be fine.\n\nI know its because they're used to eating dinner seated legs-crossed on ground level, but is there any trick to it?", "How to comfortably sit on the floor? I know this is a bit of a unique one, but I'd love to be able to sit on the floor without every part of me aching for hours. My roommates are Japanese, and they can sit comfortably on the floor for hours and be fine.\n\nI know its because they're used to eating dinner seated legs-crossed on ground level, but is there any trick to it?" ]	[ "It probably hurts because those muscles aren't used to 'working', if you keep it up it should feel better", "Some good suggestions here and definitely practice. By the way, sitting sprawled out is not seen as very polite in Asian cultures, just an FYI. If you're a guy, sitting crossed legged is the way to go. And it can be a somewhat loose leg crossing as well. You have to practice to get a feel for it but it should feel as if you can kind if spread your butt to floor surface and learn to balance/spread your weight there. That way, it keeps your weight distributed and doesn't quickly tire out an area of your bottom. For women, the side saddle floor sitting is more polite and is easier to be able to shift from one side to another when getting tired. I'm Thai and have grown up with sitting in the floor, but my in laws are Hispanic and my father in law cannot sit on the floor without wobbling around before he tips over. Always good for a laugh. But thanks for being interested. There's a whole culturally psychological world to even something as simple as sitting, and your inquiry for help on this is appreciated. ", "Try watching what they do and imitate them. I find it also helps a lot to sit straighter so you're not sitting directly on your tailbone." ]	[ 10, 6, 5 ]	safe
[ "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!", "what is the best way to go about getting cash in a local currency while travelling (in Asia)? I've had to make super last-minute plans to travel in Japan for one week, followed by Korea for another (we leave tomorrow!) and it just occurred to me that money is a huge matter. As far as I know, my Visa card will probably not work everywhere, coupled with the preference for cash in Japan and Korea. \n\nI'm Canadian, so at some point, I have to take my Monopoly money and convert it to the Japanese Yen, and then the Korean Won once I reach that point of the trip. So my question is, when is the best time to convert my cash, and how? Do I take out a bunch of cash at my bank tomorrow in the morning and get it exchanged at the airport? Do I just go directly to the airport, and they'll have a service to pull money from my bank? I generally don't know how to go about getting foreign cash, as well as the cheapest way to do it without incurring an enormous service fee. Plus, any tips regarding cash conversion would be appreciated! \n\nThank you!" ]	[ "When I travel internationally, I usually take $200ish USD for any unexpected or emergency costs right when I arrive, but then I hit an ATM and pull out local money. If you have a travel cr", "The worst thing you can do is exchange cash at airport currency offices. Their exchange rates and fees will make you anus bleed. Go to an ATM outside the arrivals gate. Great if you can arrange with your accommodation for airport->hotels transfer and have the hotel just add it to your bill (usually MUCH better than a taxi). You dont have to worry about dishonest taxi drivers in Japan, they would be mortified if they thought you considered them dishonest.\n\nBoth countries have exceptional banking infrastructure. Ring your bank right now and ask them about what AMT networks you can use your card in - they might have arrangements where you can keep the fees low. Japan's Postoffices were the easiest place years ago but now I hear every 7/11 has an ATM you can use any visa/mastercard in.\n\nTravellers cheques are basically no longer a thing.\n\nHave an ATM card for more than 1 bank/network - learnt this one a few times in my year long trip in 2014.\n\nDon't sleep with unclean women.", "Exchange it at your own bank! I'm a Canadian as well and I travel to Asia every year. I find that the cheapest rates are always at Canadian banks (TD and RBC usually have better rates) and the banks at your destination but some foreign banks do not accept Canadian currency. It's also smart to take out some USD (I know, it costs 1.20, bear with me) as it is the easiest currency to exchange anywhere and widely accepted. \nYour cr", "Never had any problems using ATMs in Japan. I just use Travelex at the airport most of the time if I'm planning ahead as I get airmiles with them..", "Also Canadian, travel Asia a lot. All airports have currency exchange, also you can use your cards in their ATMs. You can go to your local bank and buy some US dollars, both Korea and Japan except them in cities.", "ATMs are what I used. They charge a small fee but it's safer that traveling with a large amount of cash. Also most currency exchange places have a massive minimum amount to exchange, and they charge much more than the ATMS. Just make sure your bank knows you'll be traveling, and for how long. ", "The cheapest thing to do is to get an ATM card from a bank that has no (or low) foreign withdrawal fees. There are several in the US, and I imagine in Canada as well. In Japan, any post office or 7-Eleven ATM will accept foreign cards, but many other places won't. In Korea, they are accepted almost everywhere. \n\nMake sure you tell your bank in advance that you are traveling, or they may block your card due to suspected fraud.\n\nI also recommend you take a few hundred US or Canadian dollars that you can exchange for cash in a pinch if you need to. ", "I've been all over the place, countries far less developed than Japan or Korea (E.g Cambodia/Indonesia/Bolivia etc) and have never had any trouble using an ATM with either my local bank card, or a visa cr", "I don't know about Japan but you can use cr" ]	[ 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid Headphone Hair I'm about an inch from just buzzing my head anyways, but anyone have any pro tips for keeping headphones from messing up your hair? Or even a quick way to fix it after its happened?", "How to avoid Headphone Hair I'm about an inch from just buzzing my head anyways, but anyone have any pro tips for keeping headphones from messing up your hair? Or even a quick way to fix it after its happened?", "How to avoid Headphone Hair I'm about an inch from just buzzing my head anyways, but anyone have any pro tips for keeping headphones from messing up your hair? Or even a quick way to fix it after its happened?", "How to avoid Headphone Hair I'm about an inch from just buzzing my head anyways, but anyone have any pro tips for keeping headphones from messing up your hair? Or even a quick way to fix it after its happened?", "How to avoid Headphone Hair I'm about an inch from just buzzing my head anyways, but anyone have any pro tips for keeping headphones from messing up your hair? Or even a quick way to fix it after its happened?", "How to avoid Headphone Hair I'm about an inch from just buzzing my head anyways, but anyone have any pro tips for keeping headphones from messing up your hair? Or even a quick way to fix it after its happened?" ]	[ "Wear them with the \"bar\" under your chin (most have enough tension to stay on) or switch to earbuds. Earbuds really have come a long way in the past decade or so.", "I've suffered from this for years, haven't found a comfortable fix yet.\n\nYou can do the \"bar behind the head or under the chin\" thing, but they feel weird. Ear buds are awful, along with most other headphones if you're wanting to actually have surround sound. ", "I used to get the same problem. \nWhat I did was I moved it back from being directly on your head to a little more back to the back part of your skull on top, so if your chin is facing left then the headphones go / from your ear diagonal, so it covers the part with the shortest hair and the least soft part of your skull and doesn't cause headphone hair. \nI'll try to get pictures if I can to present it better, I'm at work so this is the best I could do. \nIf anyone else can explain it better and understand what I'm saying, feel free to correct my bad description. \n\n*", "The easiest thing to do is to just switch headphone type. Depending on your hair type, consider \"behind the neck\", earbuds, clip-ons, or \"sport\" styles. If you're used to the heavy kind that completely encloses the ear and you're worried about sound quality, you can still find good headphones like that, just with the band behind the neck. If that type still messes up your hair or bothers you for some reason, all other styles are lighter forms and may require you to sacrifice some audio quality (although some prefer the deeper in-canal earbuds and the way they sound). Also, I've found that headphones that have those enclosed ears allow me to wear them looser, giving my hair more space to breathe. Good luck!", "bro it may create a new problem if you have mid-long hair but if your hair is short or realy long you can use a hat or a cap it should do the trick", "Recent buzz convert, it's amazing.\n\nYou'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner.\n\nNo help for the headphone hair request though, sorry :0" ]	[ 18, 15, 7, 3, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "how to get a remote based job? Looking to get a remote based job in literally any field, don’t care about salary as long as it’s minimum wage and full time or at least part time.", "how to get a remote based job? Looking to get a remote based job in literally any field, don’t care about salary as long as it’s minimum wage and full time or at least part time." ]	[ "Customer service these days will hire massive amount remotely. Go on LinkedIn. Polish your profile, and set alerts for the fields you would enjoy working in with \"remote\" as location.", "Like any job, to find a remote job, you'll need to offer an employer something of value to make it worth it. For example, a lot of software developers work remotely (even pre-Covid). Do you have a degree in Computer Science? Authors always work remotely (and independently). Have you written any well researched magazine articles? \n\nThere a jobs that are impossible to work remotely, like chef or car salesman. \n\nYou have about 1/3 of a goal. The other two parts are figuring out what you want to do and learning the skills. So, what's the best way to figure out what you want to do? Well, what you enjoy doing is only part of it. Remember, they pay you for the parts of your job that suck. Go on a job website and look to see which professions have the most jobs available and the benefits you're seeking (remote working, good salary, etc). Learn the skills to get those jobs. Some require a degree in a specific major." ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to hold on to those moments of inspiration and motivation. Often I find myself with sudden bursts of inspiration or motivation, but quickly they pass. How do you hold on to them?", "How to hold on to those moments of inspiration and motivation. Often I find myself with sudden bursts of inspiration or motivation, but quickly they pass. How do you hold on to them?" ]	[ "You don't. Motivation doesn't get you anywhere, it's just a spark that tells you something might (might) be worthy of your investment. What you need is discipline and skills to succeed at whatever you want to do.", "Everyone does. I've found no matter WHAT you do, your level of success depends on your reason WHY, coupled with working hard towards that goal. The stronger your reason 'why' the more chance you have of success. Think about someone with a hell of a lot of weight to lose versus someone with a few pounds to lose so they can show off their six pack. If the bigger guy has reached a turning point in his life he will have lots of good reasons (his WHY) to kick the ass out of it. If the other guy I'd already not in bad shape but just thinks it would be cool to drop a few pounds he's likely to not give it 100%.\n\nHope this at least helps, although it's not a direct answer to helping keep your motivation as such." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people.", "How to be generally happier Feel like I've been pretty down and stressed out recently so I just want to be happier and more positive around people." ]	[ "Formerly depressed male. \n\n1. Be healthier, including what you eat, exercise, sleep, and hygiene \n\n2. Mental hygiene, learn to break down what is causing your emotions, why you feel that way, does it make sense to feel this way, and what can make you feel better. I would get extremely insecure over my appearance, and after several days of forcing myself to think, \"is my sadness over others judgement making sense? Not really. Fuck everyones opinions if they have a negative one\", I was able to unburden myself from the weight of negativity. Does it make sense to feel bad in whatever situation youre in? Even if youre stressed, should you share that feeling with others, or use that to make others happy? I find that if learn to have to see the joy in helping others. Compliment someone. Help someone out. Go out of the way for someone. Be altruistic, and dont expect anything in return\n\n3. Let it go. The best way to not be upset over things, is to literally, let it go. Dont let it phase you. Is someones actions going to REALLY affect your emotions? Some jerk cut you off? Keep on driving and belt out to Kelly Clarkson. Take negativity with a grain of salt. Develop that outer armor and deflect negativity. \n\n4. Schedule down time for yourself, deep breathe, reminisce, clear your mind. Especially if you have a busy life. Learn to find comfort in solace. Develop a hobby that takes your time and attention and gives you comfort. Reading works for me\n\n5. Convince yourself to be happy. It sounds like lying to yourself, which it kind of is, but if you tell yourself to be happy, you eventually do. Give yourself reasons to be happy. I want to be happy today, because I have this food to eat, and I just cleaned my car. I want to be happy today because I get to go to work, make money, and enjoy life. Etc\n\n\n", "This is what works for me, and even though it doesn't work for everyone, I think it's worth a shot.\n\nI've definitely found, after decades of struggling with mental illness, that happiness is more habit than we tend to believe. \nFor example, when you feel crappy, frame it to yourself that you're going through a brief time of crappiness (I call it a flare-up of my chronic condition), and it's going to pass. When you're feeling well, that's you finally feeling yourself again!\n\n When awful things happen (they will), or when you're struggling through a lot of unhappy times (which you will), recognise that your reaction and reflection is almost more important than the actual situation. \nIt's difficult to get out of negative habits. It is so, so difficult! It's often easier to dwell on unpleasantness than to find a bright side. It's often easier to spot peoples' flaws than their virtues. It's often easier to be stressed than it is to be grateful. And it's okay if it's difficult! Making a conscious effort to change your internal monologue is tough! But it's worth it. \n\nIf you're interested in reading about this technique from people who are much smarter than I am, check out Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It's got the most clinical evidence to show that it works. Studies have shown that it is at least as effective as medication for many types of depression and anxiety disorders. Cool, right?\n\nAnd best of luck. You deserve happiness! ", "A simple, cost-free method is to practice gratitude. \n\nWhen I consciously tried to think of and list the things in my life to be grateful for, my perspective and attitude changed for the better. \n\nDo it daily for 2 weeks and see if it helps. It sounds silly... but it's pretty powerful. \n\n\n\n", "While there is no magic bullet for happiness, Martin Seligman, a pioneer in the field of positive psychology, has developed a number of techniques which can help combat depression and improve general well-being.\n\nOne of the most well-researched techniques (and my personal favorite) is the Three Good Things exercise. At the end of each day, simply write down three things you are grateful for that day and provide a short explanation as to why each occurred. I don't consider myself a very emotional person and I was initially very skeptical this exercise would work, but after a week or two I noticed a big improvement. In addition, [research](http://www.michaelmurphypsychologies.com/seligman05ppprogressarticle.pdf) has shown consistent practice is associated with increased happiness and reduced symptoms of depression. I can't recommend this one enough.\n\nThere are also a number of other activities that can help. Here's a [list](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-matters-most/201212/7-new-exercises-boost-happiness) of things to try which have empirical support. Best of luck!\n ", "Once or twice a week, do something that you'd normally never do like go for a run or try mini golf or whatever", "I try to remember things like:\n\n•Millions of years of evolutionary changes have led to this amazing living, thinking and breathing organism that is you. Tiny cells slowly grew bigger, became better, came together to form tiny fishes, tadpoles, salamanders, hummingbirds..and you.\n\n•Nothing is sure and iron-clad in life. Except the fact that we are all going to die. Imagine the ninety years old you, laying on your bed on your final day, surrounded by your family. Make sure the things you do today make that ninety years old you smile.", "[In every life, we have some trouble. When you worry, it makes it double](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-diB65scQU)", "The answer is, don't think about it, Morty.\n\n\n\n\n\nbut\n\n\n\n\nWatch [Season one](http://kisscartoon.me/Cartoon/Rick-and-Morty) Episode 6(Rick Potion #9), then Episode 8(Rixty Minutes) of /r/rickandmorty", "It might be an obvious advice: eat healthy, exercise regularly and sleep enough.\nI understand that the problem may be deeper, but by doing these three simple things I feel more energy and have more positive attitude.", "Appreciate what you have instead of what you don't have. The best advice I've ever gotten in my life.", "i was really depressed until i watched a Trump rally speech. \n\nThe energy that Trump displays, and the courage he had made me much happier and more active. \n\ni am not voting for trump, but you should honestly take a look at this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2e8273S03E imitating Trump has really made me a happier person. ", "Find a way to serve others. Actively and outwardly exercising care and compassion for others is a guaranteed mood-lifter. ", "I have found that how I react to people makes a huge impact of my own attitude. It is not always easy but it is always best. Especially at work when someone wants me to do something and I am super busy I try to prioritize and, if at all possible, do what they request. Afterwards, they remember that I helped them and I feel better that night when I fire up that doobie I can enjoy my buzz instead of having negative reflections upon the day.", " Happiness is a subjective experience that can vary from person to person. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to happiness" ]	[ 73, 14, 13, 8, 6, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop my dogs from destroying the new lawn. We just had our backyard landscaped with a nice little plot of grass. We also have two German Shepherds who love to romp and play in this new yard. Unfortunately, they're kind of rough on it (between peeing on it and tearing back and forth at top speed) and I'm concerned that the grass may not survive. Other than the obvious (keep the dogs off the grass), any suggestions?", "How to stop my dogs from destroying the new lawn. We just had our backyard landscaped with a nice little plot of grass. We also have two German Shepherds who love to romp and play in this new yard. Unfortunately, they're kind of rough on it (between peeing on it and tearing back and forth at top speed) and I'm concerned that the grass may not survive. Other than the obvious (keep the dogs off the grass), any suggestions?", "How to stop my dogs from destroying the new lawn. We just had our backyard landscaped with a nice little plot of grass. We also have two German Shepherds who love to romp and play in this new yard. Unfortunately, they're kind of rough on it (between peeing on it and tearing back and forth at top speed) and I'm concerned that the grass may not survive. Other than the obvious (keep the dogs off the grass), any suggestions?" ]	[ "I'm insure or the size and that, but you could try and limit their access to parts or the yard until it's ready for it. \n\nA temp fence and alternate weeks. One week the north side, the next the south. Technically my advice is keep your dogs off the grass... But I know it's not always possible. ", "If you think this problem will be solved in time, and the dogs behavior isn't really the issue just don't let them wherever they are messing things up.\n\nAnd if it is a behavior problem. Put a lead on them and teach them not to do it....", "I used this product on my lawn, and it helped: \n\nhttp://www.gemplers.com/product/167789/Yard-Protection-Mesh-40L-x-335W" ]	[ 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Defrosting Car Windows I can never seem to get it right. Any pro tips and/or explain the methodology behind frosting windows? Thanks!", "Defrosting Car Windows I can never seem to get it right. Any pro tips and/or explain the methodology behind frosting windows? Thanks!", "Defrosting Car Windows I can never seem to get it right. Any pro tips and/or explain the methodology behind frosting windows? Thanks!", "Defrosting Car Windows I can never seem to get it right. Any pro tips and/or explain the methodology behind frosting windows? Thanks!", "Defrosting Car Windows I can never seem to get it right. Any pro tips and/or explain the methodology behind frosting windows? Thanks!", "Defrosting Car Windows I can never seem to get it right. Any pro tips and/or explain the methodology behind frosting windows? Thanks!" ]	[ "It's too much moisture in the car from your breath. Cracking a window to equalize out with the dryer air outside helps. It's normally cold, so you don't want to, but it works.\n\nAlso, make sure if you have a recycle/fresh air switcher that you go to fresh. Dry outside air is good.\n\nAlso, AC drys the air as well. AC with heat will actually prevent fogging and the eventual frost better. Once again, not much fun in the cold until the engine heats up.\n\n", "Give your car time to heat up. Frost can't form on warm windows. Plus, it's easier on your engine.\n\nFor frost on the outside, fill a spray bottle with deicing windshield wiper fluid. Much quicker and easier than scraping.", "Flip your sun visors down when you have the defrost on. It'll help to keep the air around the window and defrost quicker. ", "Keep your vents on fresh air during the Winter months. The moisture in your breath and even sweat from under your coat is the biggest factor in window fogging. If your vents are on recirculate will run that moisture through your vents. ", "It takes preparation but I've had great success with covering the windscreen with newspaper the night before. The moisture gets caught in the paper or stays on the outside. Then in the morning you peel the paper off and chuck it/recycle it. Comes off pretty clean. ", "Use warm (not hot) water to melt the ice and heat up the windshield. By far the fastest way. And because it heats up the windshield, it'll take care of the fogging on the inside as well.\nPeople will warn you, that the heat shock could crack the windshield. It has never happened to me, but im sure its better to use more, lukewarm, than less, hot water." ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 1, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "What is a good Day planner/organizer program? I'm trying to get organized after a sucky semester. I spend most of my time on the computer, so I figured that having a planner on here (as well as a hard copy) would help.\n\nAny suggestions? ", "What is a good Day planner/organizer program? I'm trying to get organized after a sucky semester. I spend most of my time on the computer, so I figured that having a planner on here (as well as a hard copy) would help.\n\nAny suggestions? " ]	[ "I use a combination of Google Calendar and Google tasks. I created separate calendars for each of my classes (back when I was still a student) and put important dates on each one. Color coding helped too.\n\nThere's an option to have a daily agenda email sent to you each morning. Mine usually arrives around 4am and I've got a gmail filter set to auto star and label it so I don't miss it.", "Www.workflowy.com is great for making lists and organizing thoughts. Be sure to check the help for shortcut keys. " ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to spot a craigslist scam? I found a pretty good deal on an instrument in my area and I want to buy it but don't want to be scammed or sold a knockoff. Any advice?", "How to spot a craigslist scam? I found a pretty good deal on an instrument in my area and I want to buy it but don't want to be scammed or sold a knockoff. Any advice?", "How to spot a craigslist scam? I found a pretty good deal on an instrument in my area and I want to buy it but don't want to be scammed or sold a knockoff. Any advice?", "How to spot a craigslist scam? I found a pretty good deal on an instrument in my area and I want to buy it but don't want to be scammed or sold a knockoff. Any advice?" ]	[ "Just keep in mind that Craigslist was meant for IN PERSON, CASH sales only. Anything else is likely to be a scam (for example, if the person wants to pay you via Paypal, or they want you to pay first and they'll ship the item to you).\n", "Here are some general safety tips:\n\n* Always meet in a public place, unless it's practically impossible (i.e. buying a large furnature item).\n\n* If you're going to a home, make sure you let a few people know where you're going and always bring a friend...at least three if possible. One will come with you and one will stay back near your vehicle to call for help if needed. \n\n* Never let them walk behind you in their house...always have them lead the way.\n\n* Never meet with someone, then let them take you somewhere else. \n\n* Never get in someone else's vehicle.", "It can't really be a scam if you meet in person and pay in cash. You MAY get ripped off though, but that's just part of the Buyer Beware phenomenon of direct sales. \n\nMeet in a public area or go with another person to check the instrument out first. \n\nKnockoff instruments are usually very obvious. Unless they're claiming it to be a very high end brand name and trying to sell for a high end brand name price, then I wouldn't worry as long as the quality and materials are good. What instrument is it? I can give more information on what to check if you don't mind letting us know. ", "Is there an authority who you trust in regard to instruments? Maybe a favorite shop or something? You could meet there and have the person verify the authenticity of the instrument before purchase. If it's a phony, the seller would be very hesitant to meet you at an instrument shop. " ]	[ 7, 7, 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to fix leather belt after clothes washer? Went to a horrible hotel, bed bugs, bagged clothes and slept in car, girlfriend tosses all clothes in washer including my belt. It is horribly dried, rough, no sheen or smooth surface like before. Have had that belt almost the majority of my life. ", "How to fix leather belt after clothes washer? Went to a horrible hotel, bed bugs, bagged clothes and slept in car, girlfriend tosses all clothes in washer including my belt. It is horribly dried, rough, no sheen or smooth surface like before. Have had that belt almost the majority of my life. ", "How to fix leather belt after clothes washer? Went to a horrible hotel, bed bugs, bagged clothes and slept in car, girlfriend tosses all clothes in washer including my belt. It is horribly dried, rough, no sheen or smooth surface like before. Have had that belt almost the majority of my life. " ]	[ "Use a good leather conditioner, easily found any wear that sells equestrian equipment. Use your hands to rub it in a generous amount and let it sit to allow the oils to soak in. If it's really dry you may need to repeat this process. Then apply a coat of glycerine soap to help seal the oils back in. I've restored a leather halter that hung in a barn untouched for a dozen years, it's definitely do-able with time and some elbow grease.", "After a lifetime, it was time for a new one anyway. Send the hotel a check for $100 along with a 'thank you' card.", "Don't use saddle soap. It's good for cleaning but will dry your leather even more.\n\nYour belt has lost some of its natural moisture and oils. It needs nutrition. A leather conditioner, or oil. (Oil for leather, not olive oil or other things that people in the latest fad have been putting on their leather so as to make it go rancid and ruin perfecyl good belts...)\n\n[This cream does miracles](http://smile.amazon.com/Tandy-Leather-Jacksons-Rejuvenator-21978-00/dp/B0039WVZGE/).\n\nYou could also use neatsfoot oil, or mink oil. Or a leather conditioner of your choice. But I've brought back to life leather that had been doused in alcohol with that cream, I strongly recommend it." ]	[ 5, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain.", "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain.", "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain.", "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain.", "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain.", "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain.", "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain.", "How to mend an unbearable toothache when unable to get a dentist any time soon. Please. I'm in such agonizing pain." ]	[ "Go to the pharmacy and get clove oil dab it on a cotton ball and pack it around the sore tooth.\n\nOrajel will work as well but it just numbs the whole mouth.", "Orajel until you can get to a dentist\n\nIbuprofen \n\nSwish warm saltwater around in your mouth or listerine \n\nPlace an ice pack on your chest, the cold of will distract from the pain in your mouth ", "clove oil. antibiotics. salt water. alcohol and Xanax to sleep cause the pain is fucking unbearable. I was in unbearable. pain on a Friday and I couldn't see a dentist until Tuesday because of Memorial Day. I kid you not, it was the worst pain I have ever dealt with. I couldn't sleep. They shot me up with Novocain and I fell asleep through the entire root canal. Worst pain in my life and my pain threshold is high since I have a chronic illness. ", "You can also alternate taking Tylenol and Ibuprofen. Just be sure to follow the timing and dosage instructions. Take one, wait about halfway to your next dose of it, then take the other, and continue like that. But you really do need to get to the dentist asap. There are dentists who do emergency (after-hours) work btw. Google your area for it. ", "Wash with salt water a bit. Then apply clove oil with q tip to avoid more bacteria and it stops most the pain. Drink peppermint tea not hot. Later add oragel. Should work", "Soak a qtip in mouthwash, put it directly on the bad tooth and bite down. You might have to use a few qtips \n\nAfterwards get a Tylenol gel capsule and poke a hole in it. Squeeze gel on cotton or gauze and pack that onto the tooth. ", "Perhaps a temporary fix before dentist would be loads of that gel like stuff called Bonjela or even SM-33?", "Get tooth numbing paste stuff. You can't get some a time a pharmacy like CVS or Walgreens or whatever. Apply a little bit and DO NOT SWALLOW! I made that horrible mistake a few years back.\n\nBut seriously dude, get to dentist. I feel you if you can't afford it but if you can and it's just time problems then make time. It's important. " ]	[ 8, 5, 4, 4, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with anger? Hey there, so I have a tendency to bottle up my anger and it piles on and on for months until finally I explode. I don't want to bottle it up but I can't work out a way to get rid of it completely.\n\nSo what tips do you have for dealing with anger?\n\nThanks!", "How to deal with anger? Hey there, so I have a tendency to bottle up my anger and it piles on and on for months until finally I explode. I don't want to bottle it up but I can't work out a way to get rid of it completely.\n\nSo what tips do you have for dealing with anger?\n\nThanks!", "How to deal with anger? Hey there, so I have a tendency to bottle up my anger and it piles on and on for months until finally I explode. I don't want to bottle it up but I can't work out a way to get rid of it completely.\n\nSo what tips do you have for dealing with anger?\n\nThanks!", "How to deal with anger? Hey there, so I have a tendency to bottle up my anger and it piles on and on for months until finally I explode. I don't want to bottle it up but I can't work out a way to get rid of it completely.\n\nSo what tips do you have for dealing with anger?\n\nThanks!", "How to deal with anger? Hey there, so I have a tendency to bottle up my anger and it piles on and on for months until finally I explode. I don't want to bottle it up but I can't work out a way to get rid of it completely.\n\nSo what tips do you have for dealing with anger?\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "First thing you need to practice is identifying when you're angry and/or frustrated. Simply acknowledging \"Hey, I'm really frustrated\" goes a long way toward calming down. After that, I'd highly recommend some kind of productive physical activity (within safe boundaries) If you're in the office, drop and see how many pushups you can do. At home? Take Runaway's suggestion and go for a run with your ipod and a bottle of water! \n\nBut reinforcing what I said, that first step of emotional identification is very helpful towards moving on. \n\nHope I helped!", "I don't. Mine's been bottling for years.\n\nUsually seeps out in self-hatred. Depression and all that jazz.\n\nMy best advice? Probably someone to talk to.", "i play video games and focus my anger towards winning the game or completing goals I've set for myself.", "Psychology major in the making, and we as humans often rely on our exteroceptive focus (which is basically focusing on what's happening outside us) and what I've done in the past, and I'm sure you've heard it before, but its a skill that's really useful. Breathing. Our parents always tell us to breath when we were crying and they were right. Using our interoceptive attention brings us back into ourselves. It means that we are focusing on what's going on inside. So we use a skill I learned back when I was institutionalized. It's called square breathing. It takes a little time to learn and that is what gets you. The fact that you have to pay attention to how you're doing it takes your mind off of what you're angry at. It's simple. You breathe in for 4 seconds. Meaning you have a limited income of air slowly. Hold it for 4 seconds. Which is pretty difficult when you're mad. Nonetheless, you exhale for 4 seconds. Meaning you let the air out slowly. The last side to the square is counting to 4 before restarting. \n\nHope this helps. ", "Fear doubt frustration and guilt are the root. I count to ten. I never let the sun set on your anger. I always go to sleep happy. I anger undressed turns into depression. Desire can cause negative. Emotions " ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes" ]	[ "I was very much like you. Everything I did had to be perfect. One day, one of my workmates pointed out that while a did a great job on each assignment, my overall work rate was pathetic. Then I realized there is never enough time to do jobs perfect. \n\nMy whole attitude changed that day. Do a job to your very best ability in a reasonable time. Yes, you are going to fuck up from time to time, these are learning experiences.\n\nSometimes your best isn't good enough but it should always be your best.", "Positive affirmations helps a lot. For every negative. Talk about two things that are right. Instead of focusing on something until it's perfect. Ask for perspective from other people on your progress. I hope this helps. \n\nYou got this! Great job landing such an awesome gig.", "As long as you own up to your mistakes and do everything in your power to correct them (and only make them once), you’ll be fine. Shit happens, and everyone that works there had something like it happen to them when they were new.", "[The 80/20 rule](https://betterhumans.pub/how-to-beat-perfectionism-with-the-80-20-rule-f3cf1781c303)", "Well I am still learning to not be so hard on myself. But try trusting the process and know that mistakes will happen and they are simply opportunities to learn the culture/skills necessary to succeed. Remember that “perfect” is an ideal and rarely exists in reality. The people who hired you know they hired a qualified human who has their ups/downs, and try to ask questions, have a dialogue with your supervisors about what they expect so you know what is enough for success. Also love yourself and pat yourself on the back for caring so much and wanting to succeed. Congrats on your new job, I’m positive you deserve every bit of success you’ve received. 🙏❤️", "I’m the same and working on this. It does get better but it’s a process. This job is very important to you so you are on high alert to do well. However, you don’t have to be perfect to keep that job or to be considered competent at it. Right now everyone around you probably seems so proficient and perfect, but as time goes on and you learn more, try to focus on the mistakes that other people make when you think you are the only one. This will show you that it’s ok and everyone messes up sometimes. I’m fact, it can be off-putting to always be perfect. Some people don’t want to work with someone like that.", "I have the same problem and im just cresting over 50k from medicaid qualifiying. Its such a huge difference for you that you are scared of losing the job because of too many little mistakes. Its a real fear. If you are brand new to the business than it is a completely invalid fear. Sounds like you already recognize this, which helps. Something my therapist told me is that when you start obsessing over it, you are caught in a loop of negative reflection so we have to figure out a way to break the loop. For me, the thought was, does anyone care about the mistake after i was corrected and i fixed the mistake? If not, than why should i care about that mistake anymore? Ill make sure i dont make the same mistake again and nobody will remember ina week. Thats what helped me at least. I hope it helps you too.", "I have some perfectionist qualities and beat myself up when something isn’t as perfect as it should be (in my head at least). The key is to learn and when you have the chance to do it again or similar you make it perfect. \n\nI made put together two nightstands recently. On the first I messed up the top (honestly nobody will ever know unless I tell them where/what is wrong-and even then they’ll say OK it looks good) anyway on the second nightstand I made sure to do it correctly and it made me much happier. So while I beat myself for screwing up the top on #1 I fixed it for #2 and THAT makes it better. \n\nMistakes are just life lessons to learn. Perfectionism doesn’t always happen on the first attempt. Sometimes doing it right the first time isn’t about being perfect but being lucky. Doing something wrong and learning makes you KNOW how to do it right the next time.", "I always say to myself that being a hero gets you nowhere, just do enough to satisfy your manager and the recipients and you will do well. Nobody has time to appreciate your work in full glory so just do what they requer from you and that will make them happy." ]	[ 5, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to eat breakfast cereal without getting milk in my beard. I'm pretty sure I know how to use a spoon but I can't for the life of me eat cereal without milk draining into my beard.\n\nI love cereal and beards give you wisdom, so let me know your solutions.", "How to eat breakfast cereal without getting milk in my beard. I'm pretty sure I know how to use a spoon but I can't for the life of me eat cereal without milk draining into my beard.\n\nI love cereal and beards give you wisdom, so let me know your solutions." ]	[ "Dude...when you didn't have a beard, did you end up with milk all over your face?\n\nYou lift the spoon, give it the less than .25 seconds to drip, then eat it. Keep a napkin handy if that's too hard. \n\nI have a full beard, and don't see how this is an issue. :/\n", "Hehe! Looks like you got one decent, serious answer for now. Did you expect anything less from Reddit? (Love you guys and gals!!)" ]	[ 6, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to make friends at University I just finished my second year and don't have many friends, or know many people.", "How to make friends at University I just finished my second year and don't have many friends, or know many people.", "How to make friends at University I just finished my second year and don't have many friends, or know many people.", "How to make friends at University I just finished my second year and don't have many friends, or know many people.", "How to make friends at University I just finished my second year and don't have many friends, or know many people.", "How to make friends at University I just finished my second year and don't have many friends, or know many people.", "How to make friends at University I just finished my second year and don't have many friends, or know many people." ]	[ "From my experience:\n\nThe best way to make friends on your own merit is to join a club/student union/school team.. etc \n\nWhen I finished second year uni I didn't have too many 'close' friends. So I decided to join a student society as well as an extracurricular school team. Through these things I managed to make some of my closest friends. \n\nBy my fourth year I was pretty well integrated within my school and was on various school teams, participated in many extracurriculars, played intramural sports, I even became tight with my TA's and played squash/binge drank with them. Good times.\n\nTL;DR - branch out and do random shit outside your comfort zone to meet new people and make friends. ", "You don't say much. Going back a few decades, in my first year I was lucky enough to live in a house with three 1st year and 3 final year students. Good times. I took some time out. Next uni I was like you, no friends.\n\n.\n\nIn my case it was because I was older. What about you?", "\n1.) find groups on campus. you can probably find a group for mostly anything. religion, hobbies, etc. my friend right now just joined a league of legends group(its a video game and made a lot of friends)\n\n2.) go to events. we had events like arabic ball, dance shows, etc. you sit at table, or sit next with strangers and click. (you dont have to be very social just say like wow they are really good, anything cliche then ask what there name is and go from there) if you get the vibe they arent interesting in talking dont stop and give up. \n\n3.) make friends with your neighbors if youre in a dorm. i shared an apt with 2 strangers who became my bestfriends eventually. but we even had football nights with our neighbors and stuff. it was super fun\n\n\n\ngood luck", "When you go into a class for the first time, try asking somebody if you can sit with them. Most of the time I've found nobody knows anyone and most people don't mind and are even quite happy to have someone being friendly to them", "Try keeping in touch with partners/ teammates. Try to go to events, which are often posted on facebook. Ask people questions and engage them. A lot of people move for school and have few friends too. ", "Treat everyone you're talking to like someone you'll never see again. Don't be shy and try to step around people, just talk. Make sure to make an impression with a witty comment or a joke or even a small story. Also make sure to get their social media accounts. Snapchat or Fb or Insta are much easier to get than numbers so make use of that. Having a name and a picture is a great way to remind someone that yes, they did meet so and so at this place and that person made this joke. ", "Me too, OP! Although, I've kind of accepted my situation, I don't want to have friends or be social now. Seems to me, I won't trade cold comfort for change. " ]	[ 14, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to educate someone without belittling them. I saw a post on the front page about educating people and not belittling them. I seem to often offend or annoy people when i try to teach them about something, so im clearly doing something wrong. I was wondering if there are any pitfalls i can avoid, and how i can word things to not seem snarky.", "How to educate someone without belittling them. I saw a post on the front page about educating people and not belittling them. I seem to often offend or annoy people when i try to teach them about something, so im clearly doing something wrong. I was wondering if there are any pitfalls i can avoid, and how i can word things to not seem snarky." ]	[ "I feel like it's when you're making the correction. The wording is important when you mention it. Offering like \"you're doing that wrong\" or similar might make a person feel defensive or insecure and they won't appreciate it. I always try to play it off as it being understandable that they're wrong and correct them as if I was once there myself. Think about how you might have wanted to be corrected when you were learning had you needed to be.", "I expect people to tell me when I am wrong. In the same fashion, I also tell other people when I think that they are wrong. But I emphasize my beliefs (e.g. \"I believe X because Y ...\") and avoid personal attacks (e.g. \"You are wrong,\" \"That's not true,\" \"Bullshit\").\n\nWhen I try to correct them, I don't tell them directly that they are wrong. I tell them what my thoughts are. This (hopefully) creates conversation, where it gives the other person a chance to defend their position or inquire about mine.\n\nSome people, regardless of how well you put it, can still get offended by you having a different argument. In Malcolm Gladwell's audiobook \"Outliers: The Story of Success,\" he talks about how airplane pilots from highly hierarchically organized cultures (i.e. South Korea) were historically more likely to cause airplane crashes than others (e.g. USA) because younger pilots were too careful about expressing themselves to authority figures (e.g. senior pilots). Be professional and express what you think freely. It is in everybody's best interest to be well-informed and make good decisions." ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to stop sandwiches from going dry when stored in the refrigerator? I am forever annoyed by my sandwiches tasting just like that.. sand. Whenever they have been stored at a low temperature. I have a lot of wet filling (Pickle, coleslaw etc) but the bread still tastes like carpet. Also, I buy good brand bread, so it's not that! A bit of web searching only brought up vacuum packing the sandwiches as soon as they are made so I am trying this for tomorrow. All other tips welcome!", "How to stop sandwiches from going dry when stored in the refrigerator? I am forever annoyed by my sandwiches tasting just like that.. sand. Whenever they have been stored at a low temperature. I have a lot of wet filling (Pickle, coleslaw etc) but the bread still tastes like carpet. Also, I buy good brand bread, so it's not that! A bit of web searching only brought up vacuum packing the sandwiches as soon as they are made so I am trying this for tomorrow. All other tips welcome!", "How to stop sandwiches from going dry when stored in the refrigerator? I am forever annoyed by my sandwiches tasting just like that.. sand. Whenever they have been stored at a low temperature. I have a lot of wet filling (Pickle, coleslaw etc) but the bread still tastes like carpet. Also, I buy good brand bread, so it's not that! A bit of web searching only brought up vacuum packing the sandwiches as soon as they are made so I am trying this for tomorrow. All other tips welcome!", "How to stop sandwiches from going dry when stored in the refrigerator? I am forever annoyed by my sandwiches tasting just like that.. sand. Whenever they have been stored at a low temperature. I have a lot of wet filling (Pickle, coleslaw etc) but the bread still tastes like carpet. Also, I buy good brand bread, so it's not that! A bit of web searching only brought up vacuum packing the sandwiches as soon as they are made so I am trying this for tomorrow. All other tips welcome!", "How to stop sandwiches from going dry when stored in the refrigerator? I am forever annoyed by my sandwiches tasting just like that.. sand. Whenever they have been stored at a low temperature. I have a lot of wet filling (Pickle, coleslaw etc) but the bread still tastes like carpet. Also, I buy good brand bread, so it's not that! A bit of web searching only brought up vacuum packing the sandwiches as soon as they are made so I am trying this for tomorrow. All other tips welcome!", "How to stop sandwiches from going dry when stored in the refrigerator? I am forever annoyed by my sandwiches tasting just like that.. sand. Whenever they have been stored at a low temperature. I have a lot of wet filling (Pickle, coleslaw etc) but the bread still tastes like carpet. Also, I buy good brand bread, so it's not that! A bit of web searching only brought up vacuum packing the sandwiches as soon as they are made so I am trying this for tomorrow. All other tips welcome!", "How to stop sandwiches from going dry when stored in the refrigerator? I am forever annoyed by my sandwiches tasting just like that.. sand. Whenever they have been stored at a low temperature. I have a lot of wet filling (Pickle, coleslaw etc) but the bread still tastes like carpet. Also, I buy good brand bread, so it's not that! A bit of web searching only brought up vacuum packing the sandwiches as soon as they are made so I am trying this for tomorrow. All other tips welcome!" ]	[ "I freeze all my bread and make my sandwiches while the bread is still frozen, it defrosts to just the right temp by lunchtime and it's never been stale. ", "There's an episode of \"Friends\" where Ross has a sandwich with an extra slice of bread soaked in gravy in the middle, like a Big Mac. He called the slice the \"Moist Maker.\" Maybe it will work for you. ", "Ziplock, or fold-over, sandwich bag. If you want better, put the dry (bread) in one bag and the wet in another. Assemble just before eating. \n... seems like vacuum would crush the sandwich? ", "Cold makes bread go stale faster, try keeping your ingredients separate until you're nearly ready to eat.", "Very lightly wet a paper towel and wring it out so the moisture permeats it evenly. Wrap your sandwich loosely and put in a larger size (quart size) ziplock bag instead of a sandwich size. You want the bread to have access to moisture without getting wet.", "However you decide to prepare your sandwiches in advance, be careful when using mayo or similar or you are at serious risk for food poisoning (especially in combination with meats) if you keep them for longer than a couple of days or so. That's why you rarely ever see ready-to-eat sandwiches in convenience stores with mayo - it's usually margarine or some kind of water-based spread.\n\nYou mentioned vacuum sealing and that's all well and good but your sandwiches are going to be squished. What you need is a sealer that removes the oxygen from the packaging and replaces it with CO2. Needless to say such a sealer is expensive and targeted for commercial operations rather than consumer level use.\n\n\n", "Do you store your bread in the fridge? I used to do that, and never liked the change in texture. Now I have kids, and they go through the bread so fast I just leave it out on the counter (sealed up). " ]	[ 8, 5, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Pose in Pictures I've never been able to figure out but what should you do when taking a picture? If your with one guy do you put your hand around their shoulder or just stand there? I've never known exactly what to do when with certain people? So does anyone else know what to do in every picture taking situation?", "How to Pose in Pictures I've never been able to figure out but what should you do when taking a picture? If your with one guy do you put your hand around their shoulder or just stand there? I've never known exactly what to do when with certain people? So does anyone else know what to do in every picture taking situation?", "How to Pose in Pictures I've never been able to figure out but what should you do when taking a picture? If your with one guy do you put your hand around their shoulder or just stand there? I've never known exactly what to do when with certain people? So does anyone else know what to do in every picture taking situation?", "How to Pose in Pictures I've never been able to figure out but what should you do when taking a picture? If your with one guy do you put your hand around their shoulder or just stand there? I've never known exactly what to do when with certain people? So does anyone else know what to do in every picture taking situation?", "How to Pose in Pictures I've never been able to figure out but what should you do when taking a picture? If your with one guy do you put your hand around their shoulder or just stand there? I've never known exactly what to do when with certain people? So does anyone else know what to do in every picture taking situation?", "How to Pose in Pictures I've never been able to figure out but what should you do when taking a picture? If your with one guy do you put your hand around their shoulder or just stand there? I've never known exactly what to do when with certain people? So does anyone else know what to do in every picture taking situation?", "How to Pose in Pictures I've never been able to figure out but what should you do when taking a picture? If your with one guy do you put your hand around their shoulder or just stand there? I've never known exactly what to do when with certain people? So does anyone else know what to do in every picture taking situation?" ]	[ "i did some basic photography so ill just put my 2 cents here before the photographers get here. \n\n1. if you're comfortable and friends with a person its accepted to place your arm around them. just a social thing really\n2. when the photo is being taken look at the photographers ear NOT the camera, this gives a more realistic result.\n3. lift your chin and move your head forward slightly if you have a small or slight double chin this tightens up the skin around the neck and face\nif possible stand at 45 degrees to the camera and look to the photographer, this removes that 10lb look generally and looks nicer. \n4. when it comes to people you dont know, i would suggest placing hand around the back, not in a creepish way mid back for women and hover hand for men.\n5. think of something funny, this gives a more genuine smile", "Here's some points I've picked up working in event entertainment and consequentially being in oodles of photos. These are all things you can control when you're being photographed, rather than being up to the photographer to do. \n\n1. Have an attitude - doesn't matter what it is - wry, wistful, sexy, tough - whatever, but be about something. Don't make yourself into a blank faced mannequin for the photo. This is normally called \"be yourself\", but many people think of themselves as boring (even if they aren't), so they make themselves boring. If you are a boring person this may be difficult.\n\n2. This is optional, but once you have your attitude, act on it - this doesn't mean \"play a character for the camera\" it just means don't restrict yourself to \"standard camera pose\", if you feel like hugging your friend, hug them; if you feel like focusing more on them then the camera, look at them. \n\n3. When they say \"smile\", don't force your mouth into a Joker-like rictus grimace. Instead, think about something that makes you smile - for fun pictures think about Savage Chickens cartoons, if you want to have a sexy smile, think about something sexy. If you're posing with an event entertainer, they will often have a stock joke they use to make you genuinely smile for the camera, so listen to them. \n\n4. Don't hold your breath, don't freeze, just be still. You're not \"holding a pose\" you're a person standing still. Something that helps is think of yourself as being ready, but waiting. If you can, breathe out when the photo is being taken.\n\n5. Put your body at an angle. Not straight to the front, not profile: don't be a mugshot. At the very least, put one foot forward. \n\n6. In groups, bunch up and overlap. Be closer than you feel like you should. Touch each other unless there's a reason not to. \n \n7. In groups, get near the person you find most attractive/cool/nice, talk to them, touch them, have fun. Your enthusiasm will show in the photo, and even if it is 's a bad photo you'll look at it later, remember the good times and smile. (small side note: THIS IS WHAT YOUR PHOTOS ARE FOR. THEY ARE TO REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES, NOT TO LOOK IMPRESSIVE)\n\n8. If you're posing with event entertainer or celeb guest, follow their lead and listen to them, they will be polite but firm about what is and isn't allowed and what makes the best shot (if they tell you not to do something, OBEY THEM!).\n\n9. The best shot is usually this: standing next to each other with the outside foot closer to the camera than the inside foot so you're slightly facing each other. You point to them across your body with the arm furthest from the celeb. Whatever you end up doing, look \"enthusiastically surprised\": your friends probably won't care that you met John Levene, but they'll care about how happy you were to meet John Levene. \n\n", "Watch the photographer to actually predict when the picture is about to happen so you aren't standing there feeling stupid with a fading smile. Don't sweat bad pictures, you're not a model.\n\nFigure out in a mirror what your best smile looks like. Chances are it's exactly halfway between full teeth smile and lips sealed.\n\nLearn to smile with your eyes.\n\nStill, try not to do the same pose for every picture.\nAre you a guy taking a picture with another guy? Put both hands in your pockets but hold your shoulders up confidently. Put one hand in your pocket and relax the other arm. Cross your arms with happy confidence. Be \"silly\" with a thinking pose (hand to chin).\n\nAre you a girl taking a picture with a guy? Put your hand around his back and rest it on his hip while ever so slightly tilting your head towards him. Or, you know, there's always duck face.\n\nPre-", "This video was posted a couple weeks ago. It's long but worth watching. \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qe3oJnFtA_k", "This video is kind of related to the subject and works (in a weird way): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUvLZeDgU-c (watch until the end)", "I heard in another thread a tip that has worked wonders for me. For anyone who keeps getting bad, not very flattering pictures from every angle, try pressing the back of your tongue on the roof of your mouth (like starting to swallow) and hold it. This basically minimizes the girth of your neck resulting in better pictures.", "I find that it depends entirely on who you're with, and what type of person you are, generally I'm quite cynical, so i tend to snarl at the camera or the person I'm posing with. However if I'm with my girlfriend, I tend to try and embarrass her by seemingly looking at her chest, or not paying attention or the alike. \n\nHOPE DIS HALPS" ]	[ 12, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, -3 ]	safe

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