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"Affordable artwork/decoration So I've finally graduated from my \"university dorm poster\" decoration phase and would like some real grown up art work/photography/something on the walls. Any tips for covering large empty walls without spending 200-400 per canvas?",
"Affordable artwork/decoration So I've finally graduated from my \"university dorm poster\" decoration phase and would like some real grown up art work/photography/something on the walls. Any tips for covering large empty walls without spending 200-400 per canvas?",
"Affordable artwork/decoration So I've finally graduated from my \"university dorm poster\" decoration phase and would like some real grown up art work/photography/something on the walls. Any tips for covering large empty walls without spending 200-400 per canvas?",
"Affordable artwork/decoration So I've finally graduated from my \"university dorm poster\" decoration phase and would like some real grown up art work/photography/something on the walls. Any tips for covering large empty walls without spending 200-400 per canvas?",
"Affordable artwork/decoration So I've finally graduated from my \"university dorm poster\" decoration phase and would like some real grown up art work/photography/something on the walls. Any tips for covering large empty walls without spending 200-400 per canvas?"
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"Make your own. \n\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Darice-Studio-24-Inch---48-Inch-Gallery/dp/B004GXBZ06/ref=sr_1_1?s=arts-crafts&ie=UTF8&qid=1405050144&sr=1-1\n\n2' x 4' cavas for less than $100..\n\npaints can be cheap from your local hardware or crafts store.\n\nHave fun!\n",
"Many non-profit galleries have annual open call exhibitions for local college students. This is great way to see quality, large scale pieces without the gallery price tag, and it will allow you to familiarize yourself with the local college/university art depts. who also regularly hold student exhibitions.\n",
"Ikea has a lot of cheap priced artwork, idk if it'll be your style, but worth a look. Also, eBay. Just go to ebay and look up painting or artwork or a anything, then filter from lowest to highest price or whatever. ",
"Check our your local thrift stores. Don't be afraid to purchase the entire framed Art for the frame only or for the picture only. You can swap them out to make what you want. Just get real frames and not low quality ones. Usually, you can get framed Art for pennies on the dollar. Ask for multiple purchase discount. They want to get rid of art work because they have more than they need.",
"Michaels Crafts sales = cheap canvases.\n\nBuy some markers or cheap acrylics (use their 50% off weekly coupon) and BAM. Art :)\n\nIf you're not artistic, offer them to an art student at your local highschool or university in exchange for some free masterpieces. "
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"How to attract positive attention to yourself in a group. I've always felt left out when hanging out with a group of friends. I never seem to have anything to add, and since nobody talks to me, I end up saying weird things just to get their attention.",
"How to attract positive attention to yourself in a group. I've always felt left out when hanging out with a group of friends. I never seem to have anything to add, and since nobody talks to me, I end up saying weird things just to get their attention."
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"Probably the best Life Pro Tip is \"Don't worry about getting their attention\". Why do you need to? You can be the quiet one. That's okay. A lot of people feel insecure about this but they don't need to. And there are other ways than talking to include yourself. If you're smiling (genuinely) with the conversation, you're participating by listening.\n\nBut if you're really uncomfortable about that, here's a couple tips that I used.\n\nThink of non-weird things that you can say BEFORE you get into the group situation. Assuming you have something in common with the people in your group, try to remember a couple things you did about that sort of thing before you go out the next time with them. Then during a pause when a previous conversation has died off a little, insert it. \"Hey, I marathoned Show X on the weekend, thought it was awesome. Anyone see it?\" (And recognize that some people might diss that show in the follow-up chatting, and that's okay. They're hopefully judging the show and not you.)\n\nUse your google-fu to search out a few not-too-obscene jokes. Rip one out during those little quiet moments and you'll get cr",
"This isn't really LPT-able. Learning to be sociable and getting along with people is a process that takes time. A lot of of it depends on who you're hanging with. If you're in a group of people who aren't interested in talking to you, maybe you're in the wrong group! Other than that, just keep at it, try to be a good and sincere person, and be open to new things. It'll come eventually."
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"How to remove skunk odor from my house? Skunks live in my neighborhood, and stale skunk odor is a regular fixture in parts of my home. Yuck!",
"How to remove skunk odor from my house? Skunks live in my neighborhood, and stale skunk odor is a regular fixture in parts of my home. Yuck!"
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"Whatever you do, don't use water. The water molecules activate the aroma more. Whenever our dogs get sprayed we use a hydrogen peroxide (alcohol?) mixture.",
"Turn your stove on, put some vanilla extract in it.\n\nTake used tea/coffee bags and dab them on the areas that are the worst\n\nBaking soda stomped into carpet (do not do both this and the above one or the other)\n\nGood luck!"
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"How to eject yourself from a friend group that your SO is still a part of? Apologies in advance for the block of text:\n\nI sincerely care about the people in my friend group but I just cannot deal with how toxic they are to my mental health. I would stop hanging out with them entirely, but my SO is friends with them and I also don't want to affect his relationship with them. \n\nAdditionally, two of the friend group members are my roommates. I can deal with all of them individually, but when we all get together it's just a massive swirl of testosterone and pride that I cannot deal with, as well as their opinions on social issues (i.e. in response to a crime alert on sexual assault we received from campus police, the first thing one of them says is \"Well maybe she shouldn't have gotten drunk! It's her fault for drinking at a frat house\". Keep in mind the alert said NOTHING about the victims sobriety/state and merely stated the location and time of the sexual assault and provided links to resources. I could not deal, and spent a half hour trying to tell them that ONLY the rapist is at fault, not the victim whether she was drunk or sober, dressed in revealing or conservative clothing etc. I did not make a break through to them.)\n\nI just want to sever ties in the most civil and low key manner possible because I do not want to cause drama in the friend group. How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)",
"How to eject yourself from a friend group that your SO is still a part of? Apologies in advance for the block of text:\n\nI sincerely care about the people in my friend group but I just cannot deal with how toxic they are to my mental health. I would stop hanging out with them entirely, but my SO is friends with them and I also don't want to affect his relationship with them. \n\nAdditionally, two of the friend group members are my roommates. I can deal with all of them individually, but when we all get together it's just a massive swirl of testosterone and pride that I cannot deal with, as well as their opinions on social issues (i.e. in response to a crime alert on sexual assault we received from campus police, the first thing one of them says is \"Well maybe she shouldn't have gotten drunk! It's her fault for drinking at a frat house\". Keep in mind the alert said NOTHING about the victims sobriety/state and merely stated the location and time of the sexual assault and provided links to resources. I could not deal, and spent a half hour trying to tell them that ONLY the rapist is at fault, not the victim whether she was drunk or sober, dressed in revealing or conservative clothing etc. I did not make a break through to them.)\n\nI just want to sever ties in the most civil and low key manner possible because I do not want to cause drama in the friend group. How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)",
"How to eject yourself from a friend group that your SO is still a part of? Apologies in advance for the block of text:\n\nI sincerely care about the people in my friend group but I just cannot deal with how toxic they are to my mental health. I would stop hanging out with them entirely, but my SO is friends with them and I also don't want to affect his relationship with them. \n\nAdditionally, two of the friend group members are my roommates. I can deal with all of them individually, but when we all get together it's just a massive swirl of testosterone and pride that I cannot deal with, as well as their opinions on social issues (i.e. in response to a crime alert on sexual assault we received from campus police, the first thing one of them says is \"Well maybe she shouldn't have gotten drunk! It's her fault for drinking at a frat house\". Keep in mind the alert said NOTHING about the victims sobriety/state and merely stated the location and time of the sexual assault and provided links to resources. I could not deal, and spent a half hour trying to tell them that ONLY the rapist is at fault, not the victim whether she was drunk or sober, dressed in revealing or conservative clothing etc. I did not make a break through to them.)\n\nI just want to sever ties in the most civil and low key manner possible because I do not want to cause drama in the friend group. How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)",
"How to eject yourself from a friend group that your SO is still a part of? Apologies in advance for the block of text:\n\nI sincerely care about the people in my friend group but I just cannot deal with how toxic they are to my mental health. I would stop hanging out with them entirely, but my SO is friends with them and I also don't want to affect his relationship with them. \n\nAdditionally, two of the friend group members are my roommates. I can deal with all of them individually, but when we all get together it's just a massive swirl of testosterone and pride that I cannot deal with, as well as their opinions on social issues (i.e. in response to a crime alert on sexual assault we received from campus police, the first thing one of them says is \"Well maybe she shouldn't have gotten drunk! It's her fault for drinking at a frat house\". Keep in mind the alert said NOTHING about the victims sobriety/state and merely stated the location and time of the sexual assault and provided links to resources. I could not deal, and spent a half hour trying to tell them that ONLY the rapist is at fault, not the victim whether she was drunk or sober, dressed in revealing or conservative clothing etc. I did not make a break through to them.)\n\nI just want to sever ties in the most civil and low key manner possible because I do not want to cause drama in the friend group. How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)",
"How to eject yourself from a friend group that your SO is still a part of? Apologies in advance for the block of text:\n\nI sincerely care about the people in my friend group but I just cannot deal with how toxic they are to my mental health. I would stop hanging out with them entirely, but my SO is friends with them and I also don't want to affect his relationship with them. \n\nAdditionally, two of the friend group members are my roommates. I can deal with all of them individually, but when we all get together it's just a massive swirl of testosterone and pride that I cannot deal with, as well as their opinions on social issues (i.e. in response to a crime alert on sexual assault we received from campus police, the first thing one of them says is \"Well maybe she shouldn't have gotten drunk! It's her fault for drinking at a frat house\". Keep in mind the alert said NOTHING about the victims sobriety/state and merely stated the location and time of the sexual assault and provided links to resources. I could not deal, and spent a half hour trying to tell them that ONLY the rapist is at fault, not the victim whether she was drunk or sober, dressed in revealing or conservative clothing etc. I did not make a break through to them.)\n\nI just want to sever ties in the most civil and low key manner possible because I do not want to cause drama in the friend group. How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)",
"How to eject yourself from a friend group that your SO is still a part of? Apologies in advance for the block of text:\n\nI sincerely care about the people in my friend group but I just cannot deal with how toxic they are to my mental health. I would stop hanging out with them entirely, but my SO is friends with them and I also don't want to affect his relationship with them. \n\nAdditionally, two of the friend group members are my roommates. I can deal with all of them individually, but when we all get together it's just a massive swirl of testosterone and pride that I cannot deal with, as well as their opinions on social issues (i.e. in response to a crime alert on sexual assault we received from campus police, the first thing one of them says is \"Well maybe she shouldn't have gotten drunk! It's her fault for drinking at a frat house\". Keep in mind the alert said NOTHING about the victims sobriety/state and merely stated the location and time of the sexual assault and provided links to resources. I could not deal, and spent a half hour trying to tell them that ONLY the rapist is at fault, not the victim whether she was drunk or sober, dressed in revealing or conservative clothing etc. I did not make a break through to them.)\n\nI just want to sever ties in the most civil and low key manner possible because I do not want to cause drama in the friend group. How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)",
"How to eject yourself from a friend group that your SO is still a part of? Apologies in advance for the block of text:\n\nI sincerely care about the people in my friend group but I just cannot deal with how toxic they are to my mental health. I would stop hanging out with them entirely, but my SO is friends with them and I also don't want to affect his relationship with them. \n\nAdditionally, two of the friend group members are my roommates. I can deal with all of them individually, but when we all get together it's just a massive swirl of testosterone and pride that I cannot deal with, as well as their opinions on social issues (i.e. in response to a crime alert on sexual assault we received from campus police, the first thing one of them says is \"Well maybe she shouldn't have gotten drunk! It's her fault for drinking at a frat house\". Keep in mind the alert said NOTHING about the victims sobriety/state and merely stated the location and time of the sexual assault and provided links to resources. I could not deal, and spent a half hour trying to tell them that ONLY the rapist is at fault, not the victim whether she was drunk or sober, dressed in revealing or conservative clothing etc. I did not make a break through to them.)\n\nI just want to sever ties in the most civil and low key manner possible because I do not want to cause drama in the friend group. How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)"
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"Find volunteer work. It's a legit excuse to separate yourself that is actually productive. Gradually, they may not even miss you & you can avoid conflict. Or. You can call them out on being dicks, ha. :)",
"Have you spoken to your SO about it? If you haven't yet, that should be your first step. If you try to create distance without letting SO know they might think that you are trying to distance yourself from them, not the group. As far as the group thing, the easiest thing is to start having other plans. If they call you out on it after missing a few times, you could say in a lighthearted way \"You guys are just too much when we are together as a group, I realized I have more fun one on one. It may not come to that, if you are as uncomfortable as it sounds they might have started to see the change and see you as \"the buzzkill\" now and be completely ok with you taking a step back. ",
"True loneliness is being surrounded by people you don't want to be around. Go out and find your tribe. Withdraw from your current social circle gradually and as you do, appreciate their strengths instead of their weaknesses.",
"Thanks everyone! I've picked up a couple of shifts at work (cause yay extra cash). I also just got a new pet bird so I can kinda use him as an excuse cause he's a baby that needs to be trained. ",
"It's more that I don't want him to feel stressed or pressured (i.e. Not feel guilty if he cuts our time short to spend with them, and vice versa) I don't want to foster a \"me vs them\" scenario where he feels like he has to choose a side. I understand that he would have to essentially halve his time with the group to spend with me if he really wanted to make it even, but I really don't care, as long as I get to spend some time with him. I just don't want him to feel torn. ",
"Find a club or hobby that gives you an excuse to bail out at any time. \"Oh I'm volunteering at the soup kitchen again\".",
">How can I do this while making sure my SO isnt stuck in the middle? (i.e. feeling like he has to choose time for me and time for friends whereas those two situations used to happen simultaneously)\n\nNot to be condescending but how did you picture your SO not needing to choose who to spend his time with in your scenario? Before it could be 4 hours a day with friend group and you, but if you don't want to be part of friend group, how is he able to spend the same amount of time with friends and you if it now needs to happen exclusively rather than simultaneously?\n\nIf you want to exit the group, you're going to have to accept spending less time with SO or having him spend less time with you or his friends."
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"How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? ",
"How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? ",
"How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? ",
"How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? "
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"In boot camp our RDCs told our cadence caller to suck on lemons. Not sure why but it helped sooth his throat and vocal cords so he wouldn't get horse.",
"If you feel the tickle dont clear your throat, the action inflames the vocal cords. I have a vocal problem and my speech therapist said to reduce the strain practice good vocal hygine and learn diaphramatic breathing, you use less of your vocal cords for the detail work. ",
"As a trombone player and singer I personally use spicy horseradish mustard on soft pretzels alternated with orange Gatorade and vocal stretching/massages. I also use chop saver balm (trombone Chapstick) that keeps your lips from going numb an smells kinda lemon-ey.",
"After working in summer day camp and talking myself hoarse for weeks on end...\n\nGargling. I don't know why, but just gargling water at random periods throughout the day helped keep my voice from going too hard. "
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"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**",
"How do I avoid showering more than once per day? I've read around the Internet that showering too often can be harmful to your hair and skin. It can also be harmful to your pocket. Now, showering in the morning is almost obligatory for me, since I'm a sweaty zombie when I jump out of bed. But, and specially in the summer, I really appreciate a shower before bed to freshen up. Not to mention showering after working out. So I ask, how can I shower less without feeling less clean?\n\n**TL;DR:** How do I cut down the number of daily showers w/o compromising hygiene?\n\n**"
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" You can probably get away with showering at night before bed as long as you keep your room nice and cool. This way it is after everything throughout the day. If you are sweating at night try getting a lighter bedding material or one that breathes better. For example if you have polyester in your sheets or silk, that may be why you sweat so much. Try switching to all cotton if at all possible. Memory foam also holds a lot of heat, so if you are using that in your bed consider looking for a gel mattress topper or pillow covers (Like the chillow, though I have never used it but along those lines). This will help carry the heat away from your body. \n\nIf you still feel the need to freshen up i n the mornings, a good moisturizing cleanser for your face and essential body areas could be used. You can also use dry shampoo if your hair gets oily at night. Alternatively you can shower to fully wash your body at night and then just wash your hair in the morning or vice versa, depending on which part gets worse at night. Good luck!",
"The issue isn't that showering too frequently is bad for your hair and skin, the issue is that your skin and hair can become dried out from overuse of soaps and shampoo. Wash your hair every day or two and use a light soap to wash up with and you'll be fine. ",
"You don't have to wash your hair 2x a day or even every day. Get a low flow shower head that has a button that you can switch off while your lather up (if you're using soap or shower gel). This will reduce the amount of water usage. Try to just make your showers as short as possible. Maybe shortest in the morning (because after all you were just sleeping) - hop in, rinse off, get back out, and a little longer at night, washing off the day's dirt.\n\n",
"Some of us need to shower more often. I myself consider a shower less hygiene and more of a civic duty. 2-3 in the summer is not unusual. \n\nBut if you're just sweaty, that is you haven't been knee deep in dirt, grease, oil, or other nasty substances, if it's just sweat; rinse off. \n\nIf your skin feels greasy, then go ahead and use soap. If you're that oily it won't hurt you. ",
"Seems like the best solution would be to work your post-workout shower and your morning shower or evening shower into the same one. I wake a little extra early every weekday to cycle to work, and I shower there. There's my morning shower and my post-workout shower all in one\n\nYou could also work out in the evening! Doing so and then showering right after would also save you an entire shower's worth of water and time. \n\nSounds as though your standards for hygiene are pretty damn high though. I think anymore than one shower a day exceeds the standards of \"hygiene\" and starts heading into the wasteful/luxury category. Hey, I am from California though - we basically all take dirt baths now. ",
"In my opinion unless you shampoo and clean your body with soap every time you shower, it should be fine. Maybe go through a full shower in the morning and then just rinse yourself off the rest of the times. The damage from showering too often comes through damaging your hair by shampooing too much and drying out your skin from soaping it up too much. ",
"You could shower twice a day and be fine, it's much more important to shampoo once every few days and condition on the same days or get a daily conditioner. Still don't recommend conditioning daily though, more often than shampoo is fine but not daily. Also, make sure the water isn't hot, if it's cool or cold, it'll be much better for your screen.",
"There's nothing wrong with multiple showers during the course of a day. I typically shower when I get up, before bed, after work, after working out, and any time after being sweaty and stinky, which can be multiple times during the hot summer. However, my showers are short and sweet. Get in, wet with water, soap up, wash soap off, and get out. Done in 2-3 minutes. One main longer shower in which I am more thorough with the soaping. You don't need to be in the shower that long, which is the key. ",
"Nothing wrong with showering once per day, way back when I used to work on my then girlfriends fathers farm.\n\nJust don't wash your hair twice because you'll strip the good stuff from it and also your hair will get used to replenishing it, so when you can't fit that 2nd shower in you'll get greasy hair pretty fast.\n\nAlso, lotion up, you strip the oils from your skin so to avoid getting this (some people are fine) just get some body lotion, a good one for men is just the plain old Nivea one, it's cheap and comes in a blue bottle so you feel a bit less girly.",
"My routine living in Arizona:\n\n1. Wake up, full shower. Wash face, wash hair, wash and shave: pits + legs + crotch, wash butt, wash feet. [15 mins.]\n\n2. Gym or hiking. Wash face, pits and crotch/butt. Rinse hair but no s'poo/cond. [5 mins.]\n\n3. Before bed, if feeling extra groty, rinse off in shower. Extreme days after outside chores or something, full shower before bed, then do lighter shower in the a.m.. [5-15 mins]\n\nThat's probably not extremely helpful to you, but sometimes ya just need to be clean.",
"I take my primary shower at night if I workout that day and wash my hair. In the morning I take a very short short 'refresher' shower with just a quick scrub with the shower gel and face wash. I can't think of any other way to do it - other than skip the morning. But I'm with you...I need it to wake up and feel like I'm starting the day at my best.",
"I have to shower daily, there's no getting around it - and I do hop in for a few mins after being out all day in the heat too.\n\nIf your are worried about the effects of frequent showering - use mild products. Low or sulfate free shampoo, gentle cleansers, etc. Baby shampoo makes a great cheap gentle bodywash - and it's a great way to remove makeup for us ladies (tear free)\n\n",
"I don't see how you could especially if you are sexually active. I always showered before work in the morning, and if I don't shower after going to the gym in the evening I stink up my bed. You could probably get away with one shower a day on the weekend but I'd rather have the dryer skin than be the stinky guy. ",
"Can you work out in the morning or later in the day? a later in the day workout would cut your evening shower out. If neither option is available, just wash up at night. No reason to take a whole shower at night before bed.\n\nWash your sheets regularly, I do mine once a week. Change out your pillow cases twice a week. Get an air conditioner in your bedroom to cool you down at night.",
"If you are interested in showering less, maybe you are interested in natural hygiene? Since I moved to a raw diet of mostly fruit, I only need to shower maybe a couple of times a week. I also don't use deodorants of any kind or shower gels as they are not necessary now. I have experimented in the past by eating cooked foods, and I always produce body odour again and I'd have to shower daily, or i'd smell. I have also just simply added dried (technically not raw) spices to my raw food diet as an experiment and I found my sweat would smell again. \n\nThe reason for body odour and needing to shower so much is our unnatural diet. We detoxify several different ways and one of those ways is through the skin. If we aren't consuming toxic/pathogenic foods then we will sweat less and the sweat won't produce nasty smells.\n\nIt's quite simple to try it for yourself as well, so no need to take my word for it. "
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"Easy way to get rid of razor burn (Razor bumps) I read somewhere that aloe vera works, but Ive tried using it for the past couple days and my man parts still look and feel like I put poision ivy leaves in my fleshlight. Anyone know a good method?",
"Easy way to get rid of razor burn (Razor bumps) I read somewhere that aloe vera works, but Ive tried using it for the past couple days and my man parts still look and feel like I put poision ivy leaves in my fleshlight. Anyone know a good method?",
"Easy way to get rid of razor burn (Razor bumps) I read somewhere that aloe vera works, but Ive tried using it for the past couple days and my man parts still look and feel like I put poision ivy leaves in my fleshlight. Anyone know a good method?",
"Easy way to get rid of razor burn (Razor bumps) I read somewhere that aloe vera works, but Ive tried using it for the past couple days and my man parts still look and feel like I put poision ivy leaves in my fleshlight. Anyone know a good method?",
"Easy way to get rid of razor burn (Razor bumps) I read somewhere that aloe vera works, but Ive tried using it for the past couple days and my man parts still look and feel like I put poision ivy leaves in my fleshlight. Anyone know a good method?",
"Easy way to get rid of razor burn (Razor bumps) I read somewhere that aloe vera works, but Ive tried using it for the past couple days and my man parts still look and feel like I put poision ivy leaves in my fleshlight. Anyone know a good method?"
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"Before you shave make sure the skin is soft from a hot shower or the like. Put on your favorite shaving cream and let it sit for a min or so. Shave. Rinse your newly shaved body part with cold water. Let air dry. Use a sensitive after shave. ",
"Witch hazel, witch hazel + baking soda (paste), or neosporin/bacitracin ointment. I use all of these regularly and have smooth, clean skin :)",
"I switched to a high speed electric foil razor. Fixed it for me. Before I did that, I used a moisturiser after every shave. ",
"What I've noted works(mind that I haven't used it very often) is when you're showering, take a wee bit of conditioner, lather it in, and then wash it off without applying too much pressure. Fixed it every time for me. Hope you feel better man, I'd hate that",
"Buy a product called Bump Patrol at Walgreens or some similar store. It costs like 10 bucks, and works really well. My dad's Greek, so I got that Aegean beard, which sometimes results in really bad razor bumps. Anyway, you'll never have a problem when you're on Patrol. ",
"Razor burn is usually the result of modern multi-blade shavers.\n\nThey work by lifting the hair up from the follicle and cutting below the skin line.\n\nThe follicle then gets irritated and inflames, which is what the razor bumps are.\n\nEver since I stopped using multi-blades and switched to a double edged safety razor my neck has been bump free and as smooth as a baby's left cheek."
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"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?",
"How to get in the \"zone\" for studying? When I drink green tea or eat 99% chocolate my focus goes up to another level.\n\nWhat are yall things that help you get that focus?"
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"1 make sure you're set up for studying. Got all your books? Laptop got power? Pens and highlighters close? Chair comfy? Got a good Playlist qued up? Tea ready? ADD meds taken? do that before anything.\n\n2. Do something physical. Run, cycle, yoga, push-ups, squats, or some combo for 10 to 15 mins before. DO NOT PLAY A VIDEO GAME! \n\n3. Set a goal for what you need to get done. Break that down into manageable steps. (I have to read this book section, to do that I need to get from chap 2 to 5, that's 58 pages, I can read x pages for 25 minutes and see how in doing)\n\n\n4. Set a alarm for 15 to 25 mins. After words do something for 5 to 8 mins away from dask.\n\nRepeat for a max of 2 hours then take a longer break.",
"Find a place that is separate from your 'fun' space. If you game at your bedroom desk don't try to study there, same thing for other spaces, you have conditioned yourself that it is a place where opening games or reading Facebook is OK so attempting to study is just that much harder. When I was in college I always made a point to go to the library or a classroom building, I never studied in my dorm/apartment cause I couldn't focus.",
"Pick a flavor of gum for each subject; study while chewing; take exam while chewing the same flavor. Improves recall for short term cramming.",
"Video game music. Keeps the part of your brain that wants to fuck around focused, but no words to distract your focus",
"I’ve been doing study sessions with my best friend. Every Monday and Wednesday evening, we sit down at the dining table together and do our own work side by side for a few hours. (I also personally write a to-do list for myself and try to check off all the assignments that I want to complete that day. My friend doesn’t do that which is fine. We’re all different lol.) It helps to recreate a “school” environment for us since covid has made everything online/at home, but the benefit of this is that we get to snack on stuff while we work haha. It’s pretty fun, and I look forward to it every time, especially since we’re both busy with work/school/life so it helps us stay connected and motivated",
"I usually start with something \"fun\" and productive, like a few lessons on Duolingo. \n\nAlso, get your \"planning\" (eg checklists of assignments) done early in the week, every week. If you have to start your \"work\" session by going through the dashboard and \"figuring out\" what is due, you'll be wasting all that time at best, and at worst you'll be all burned out and unable to work. Do the planning on Sunday afternoons or whatever, when you aren't stressed.",
"I used timers when I was in college. 30 minutes of studying, 10 minute break, repeat. I got A’s in some of my most advanced classes by studying this way. \n\nAlso my brain never shuts off, so background noise is key. I used classical music and it really helped.",
"For me classical music or jazz music, nothing with lyrics would always get me going but that was mainly for big tests and finals, mostly just looking at the notes a few minutes after class every day was what I did",
"Earplugs under target practice earmuffs. I used to write at the (noisy) library for four hours straight thanks to these. Plus no one disturbs your when they see ‘Beretta’ on your earmuff/headphones.",
"I play “study with me” videos, FarCry5 OST ambient music or coffee shop/ rain/ cozy autumn ambience depending on the mood. Having my cat around sleeping peacefully also helps"
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"Best Discrete but Intense Home Security System I am looking for a very discrete home security system that provides real-time surveillance with picture and sound. Must haves:\n\n1. Alerts (e.g. when motion is detected)\n2. Apps/Web Interface (OS X/iOS)\n3. Motion Detection\n4. Night Vision\n5. Recording with Cloud-Based Storage (or Live Streaming with Option to Record)\n\nI live in a house with several roommates and I'm looking for a powerful but hidden security system (trust me, as long as its less than $1,000 it will be worth it).\n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!\n\n**",
"Best Discrete but Intense Home Security System I am looking for a very discrete home security system that provides real-time surveillance with picture and sound. Must haves:\n\n1. Alerts (e.g. when motion is detected)\n2. Apps/Web Interface (OS X/iOS)\n3. Motion Detection\n4. Night Vision\n5. Recording with Cloud-Based Storage (or Live Streaming with Option to Record)\n\nI live in a house with several roommates and I'm looking for a powerful but hidden security system (trust me, as long as its less than $1,000 it will be worth it).\n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!\n\n**",
"Best Discrete but Intense Home Security System I am looking for a very discrete home security system that provides real-time surveillance with picture and sound. Must haves:\n\n1. Alerts (e.g. when motion is detected)\n2. Apps/Web Interface (OS X/iOS)\n3. Motion Detection\n4. Night Vision\n5. Recording with Cloud-Based Storage (or Live Streaming with Option to Record)\n\nI live in a house with several roommates and I'm looking for a powerful but hidden security system (trust me, as long as its less than $1,000 it will be worth it).\n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!\n\n**"
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"When it comes to security discrete isn't good. Criminals pick their targets based on risk vs reward. If it appears 0 risk they will strike you may catch them on video but by then the damage will be dealt. ",
"I'm using ATT digital life and it has all the things you mentioned other than hidden cameras. I can see everything on my phone. ",
"I wouldn't make it discrete if I were you. If it doesn't look like you have security, robbers *will* target you. Make it as apparent as possible that you have good security."
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"How to deal with friends who are constantly blowing you up to go out and do something and then start saying mean things when you don't want to. ",
"How to deal with friends who are constantly blowing you up to go out and do something and then start saying mean things when you don't want to. ",
"How to deal with friends who are constantly blowing you up to go out and do something and then start saying mean things when you don't want to. ",
"How to deal with friends who are constantly blowing you up to go out and do something and then start saying mean things when you don't want to. ",
"How to deal with friends who are constantly blowing you up to go out and do something and then start saying mean things when you don't want to. "
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"They sound like dicks, but have you told them the reasons you don't want to go out? Let them know that you're trying to get away from drugs, etc and that it's not a judgement of them, but something you need to do for yourself. They'll probably still be dicks about it, but maybe they'll understand where you're coming from and stop giving you such a hard time. \n\nIf you already have told them... I guess look for new friends? :/ ",
"Hold your ground and ignore their complaints. They'll either end up accepting it or stop being your friends. Either way is good.\n\nEd: grammar",
"Send them a link to this post. They'll know how you feel and also know they have a problem that's costing them freinds.\n\n\n",
"If your friends have problems with drugs try talking to them about why they need to take them recreationally/ or as an addiction and then working out alternate plans you can all enjoy that are drug free - if they refuse to try to improve their health and friendships then maybe you are better off with out them. Don't just assume because they're giving you grief when you refuse to join in that it's because they think you're a bad person - this is probably their way of reflecting their own guilt or shame on to you. If they're your friends or were your friends you should try other solutions besides not joining in and ignoring them. You say if you don't respond they will come to your house to check on you? As some one who can say not one of my social media addicted, bar hopping friends would go through the effort of going to my house if I stopped responding to them - I think you might have some really good friends there, in need of help and maybe you're the strong person who can help them. \n\nI hope I've made no assumptions or caused any offence, but have seen similar situations unfold in my social circles and hoped this perspective could help.",
"I was in your position last year. Honestly I just stopped. Stopped answering calls, stopped hanging out, stopped texting. Finally they asked why we weren't talking anymore and I told them that we outgrew each other. They didn't feel the same and probably thought I was an asshole, but the drama in my life has been drastically reduced and I feel happier ever since. "
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"Avoiding bedroom clothes clutter I'm a decently organized person most of the time. However, when it comes to my bedroom, I seem to struggle keeping it clean for more than a day or two. My clothes seem to just pile up on the floor. \n\nOne thing that I've found immensely helpful in avoiding the clutter was purchasing hooks for my sweatshirts/jacket/towels to hang. Does anyone have any other tricks that can help me with my messiness?",
"Avoiding bedroom clothes clutter I'm a decently organized person most of the time. However, when it comes to my bedroom, I seem to struggle keeping it clean for more than a day or two. My clothes seem to just pile up on the floor. \n\nOne thing that I've found immensely helpful in avoiding the clutter was purchasing hooks for my sweatshirts/jacket/towels to hang. Does anyone have any other tricks that can help me with my messiness?"
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"Pretty much the same answer you have, but I have a thing that hangs over the door that provides a dozen or so hooks.",
"Tell yourself that you're not white (or whatever race you are) trash and take a minute to pick the stuff up. "
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"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens.",
"How to fix your sleeping schedule I've completely messed up my sleeping cycle and I don't know how to fix it... I try to go to bed earlier and force myself to wake up earlier, but it never happens."
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"It takes roughly 2 weeks to get your body on a schedule. You will need to keep a rigorous bedtime and wake up time. No naps or sleeping other then at 'night'. \n\n3+ years on nights with a slight variation of a week or so during day work schedule. It blows. ",
"Install [f.lux](http://justgetflux.com/) on all your computers, phones and tablets. It's weird to get used to, but once you do you won't even realise it's there. Blue light at night just isn't good for your brain.\n\nGet some melatonin tablets and pop one a few hours before you want to be asleep. Nowadays I only need to do this occasionally when I notice my sleep cycle slipping, but you could take one daily until you get into a rhythm.\n\nIf your brain wakes you naturally around 7-8 hours after you fall asleep: GET UP. If you try and go back to sleep, you'll probably end up feeling worse during the day AND won't want to sleep until later at night.",
"One thing I do to fix my schedule is I stay up all night and all day. For example, say I woke up at 4 pm yesterday, I'd be getting ready to go to bed in about 2 hours from now(8 PM). So then I'd wake up at 6 or 8 AM, and be tired again at 10 PM tomorrow night. You'll wake up pretty tired for a few days, but I've had to use this process several times and it always works. ",
"[I've found some here in this subreddit.](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/search?q=sleep+cycle&restrict_sr=on)\n\n- [How to Naturally Reset Your Sleep Cycle in One Night](http://www.reddit.com/tb/tm5tq)\n\n- [The REAL quick fix to get your fucked up sleep schedule back on track](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/meaq9/the_real_quick_fix_to_get_your_fucked_up_sleep/)\n\nFor more use the link in the begining .",
"I'm posting a copy of something I wrote on the same topic a while ago, feel free to ask if thare are more questions:#\n\nIt's a matter of routine. There are some basic steps to get one. Let's see...\n\n1. Determine a reasonable amount of sleep for yourself. This is individual.\nMake it a correct timespan - by correct I mean it has to be a multiple of 1.5h. This is incredibly important because of sleep-cycles - but I'll try and keep it short.\n\n2. You should be somewhere around 6.0h or 7.5h. Depending on your age, fitness-level and daily routine.\n\n3. Find your first fix point. That is the time you have to get up for school or work. (example: 6:00am)\nCalculate back to the second fix point, aka wake-up-time - sleeptime. (example: 6:00am - 7.5h = 10:30pm)\n\n4. Add 15 min for falling asleep. Most people need between 10 and 15 minutes for falling asleep. (exapmle: 10:30pm - 15m = 10:15pm)\n\n5. Now for the routine part. Get up in time. If you are not tired in the evening - just wait till you are. As soon as you're tired go to bed. Get up at the desired time (example: 6:00am), no matter when you went to bed! You do this for 3 days!\n\n6. After 3 days your body will have collected a little deficit, but that's inteded. Now start going to bed at the desired time, no matter if you are tired. (example: 10:15pm, no matter how tired) Do this for 4 days.\n\n7. Your body get's used to getting tired at your personal bedtime and you fall asleep faster and easier. In the mornings your body is used to getting up and will be at the end of a sleep-cycle thus waking up easily.\n\n8. Stick to the routine as good as possible. Going out on friday. No problem - just fall back in the routine. No trying to \"refill\" sleep, just go to bed when you come home and get up normally. You'll be tired the next day, but the day after that you'll be back to normal. Try to stick to the plan without exceptions for at least 2 weeks, to get used to it!\n\n9. ???\n\n10. profit\n\nAlso general tips:\n\n- Don't drink too much alcohol.\n\n- Don't drink coffein.\n\n- Don't eat less than 4 hours before you go to bed.\n\n- Switch off overything with a screen at least 30 min before you go to bed.\n\nOk. I'll stop now. This should do the job for starters. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.",
"I fixed mine in a week for a new job. When i started i was getting out of bed before my alarm.\n\n1) melatonin, take this before going to bed, its the natural chemical that your body makes in darkness to make you tired( using bright screens at night lowers this production)\n\n2) caffine in the morning as soon as you wake up. If yu dont drink coffee, get some caffine pils \n\n3) a good sized breakfast( this will help your body get into the groove of waking itself up or making you feel hungry in the morning at specific times)\n\n4) and the most important step - go to bed an hour earlier each night. If you go to bed at 2 am then go to bed at 1 or 12 just lie there without stimuli, no screens or books etc.. You need to get out of the habit.\n\nYou should be waking up an hour earlier or closer to your goal as well. \nevery day gradually increase this.\n\nI went from 2Am to 12pm sleep schedual to a 8pm to 4:30am schedual in a week. I had to get to work far away for 6am\n\nThis worked perfectly and within the week i stopped needing melatonin and within 3 weeks i stopped needing caffine at work.. \n\nI woke up right as my alarm started and go to bed like clockwork when a laid down\n\n",
"You have to skip a day(night?) of sleep.\n\n1. Stay up all night like normal.\n\n2. Stay awake all through the day. You'll need a lot of exercise/coffee/cocaine to accomplish this.\n\n3. Do not go to sleep until the time you want to be your normal bed time every night.\n\n4. When your alarm goes off, get up immediately. Don't get sucked back into the cycle. ",
"When I travel, I usually just stay up until whatever time is their bedtime, before I go to bed, I'll go for a run and get sap all the energy from my system. I sleep like a baby and wake up on their time :)",
"When I get screwy, I just stay up one night until the next day and go to sleep at the proper time.\n\nIdeal? No, but it works.",
"What works for me is actually very simple. I sleep for one sleep cycle instead of two, usually three and a half to four hours. When I wake up I feel mostly rested and don't have the pain involved in serious sleep deprivation. It allows me to go to sleep a couple of hours earlier. Sometimes I have to repeat the process after a few days if I need to shift more than a few hours.",
"I've been struggling with this for years.\n\nI finally solved it for myself:\n\nDiscipline and motivation. You DO NOT HAVE TIME to be SLEEPING THROUGH YOUR LIFE. You cannot wait even one more day to have the life of your dreams*. You know EXACTLY what you need to be doing to succeed -- do it. Do it NOW.\n\nIf I offered you $1million to go to sleep by 11pm, would you? Or, having stayed up till 4am, to wake up by 7am? How much is your life worth to you? Your life isn't some future where you've solved this -- your life is right now. Live your life as you wish your life to be lived.\n\n*[hehe, pun]\n\n---\n\nAnyway, that's how I deal with it. Take it, or don't. \nI used to think that relying exclusively on willpower was futile -- because it never worked for me. I was always looking to create some automated system, or to build habits, so that I didn't have to exert any sort of discipline.\n\nNow, these systems are still incredibly useful if they exist**, but I can motivate myself to expend willpower in ways that I didn't think were possible before. When I didn't believe in myself, willpower was limited.\n\nMy whole mindset shift happened after doing the Landmark Forum, and although I highly recommend that course***, it's not really about this issue, and believing in yourself is something that you can put in to your life NOW. Make a bet with your friend for $100 that you can get up everyday exactly when you say you're going to get up. You'll have no choice but to believe you can wake up on time.\n\nThat's all.\n\n**some good stuff in the top comments.\n\n***highly highly highly recommend",
"For people who've tried everything else listed here and still can't seem to shift their schedules, take a REALLY close look at your light exposure. Some people are especially probe to circadian cycle disruption by too much light at night and not enough in the morning. This means (1) really taking a hard line with yourself about no blue light exposure at night (no TV, and f.lux on computers/mobile, plus turning the brightness waaaay down), (2) making sure your bedroom is absolutely pitch black at night, and (3) getting bright light exposure in the morning. \n\n\n",
"1) wake up at the same time every day, regardless of when you went to bed, yes even on weekends. Your body will sort everything else out for you over a few weeks.\n\n2) that's it.\n\nBonus activities, sometimes helpful but not necessary:\nA) limit illuminated screens around bedtime. Screens trigger receptors in your eyes that trigger your body and brain to produce \"awake chemicals\"\n\nB) try to get sunlight within 30 minutes of waking up. (or a blue light if it is winter). Extra bonus for stretching or working out. Double extra bonus for doing this outside.",
"Dont worry so much about your bedtime, but rather your 'time sleeping'.\n\nHold yourself to only sleep during the time you allow. \n\nIf you dont nap, if you dont oversleep, your body will find its natural routine. \n\nThats how to break jet-lag too. Only sleep at the night time of the place you are going to. When coming back from Asia I only slept 4 hours because only 5 hours because I got on the plane at 2AM EST and there was only a few hours to sleep before the morning."
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"Bandaging awkwardly placed cuts I tripped and fell earlier today and I have a nasty patch of road rash on my knee. Since it moves so much, a band-aid isn't much help. Any tips for keeping it covered?",
"Bandaging awkwardly placed cuts I tripped and fell earlier today and I have a nasty patch of road rash on my knee. Since it moves so much, a band-aid isn't much help. Any tips for keeping it covered?",
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"Though this wouldn't help much for knees, for cuts on the tips of fingers and around them, Band-Aid makes special adhesive bandages for this exact purpose. They wrap around and cover them near entirely, certianly better than an average band aid would.",
"If you can, leave it exposed once you've stopped any bleeding and cleaned it out. \n\nFor some small generic cuts you can cut regular bandaids to conform to the body. Keep in mind any movement the joint might do. \n\nNon-adhesive dressings with a crepe wrap around the knee. Use a triangular. \n\nSmaller cuts - cutup a piece of gauze to fit and then tape down (make your own bandaid)",
"Clean and debride it, the depending on the size, you can try the gauze - 4x4 or so - idea. You cold also try a semi permeable dressing like an op site or tegaderm. http://www.dukal.com/medical-supplies-Medical-1/Advanced-Wound-Care-31/Transparent-Semi-Permeable-Dressings-141"
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" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!",
" How to easily peel hard-boiled eggs? I love to make deviled eggs, but every time I boil eggs it's a huge hassle when I go to peel them. I end up losing a lot of the egg white and the eggs look mutilated by the time I'm finished. I've heard if the eggs are too fresh or too old they can be tough. Is this true? Is there a better way to do this? Any insight would be helpful. Thanks!"
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"Older eggs peel better - I don't try to hard boil eggs that haven't been in the fridge for at least a week. After you boil them, dump them into ice water for 5-10 mins - this constricts the egg and helps separate it from the shell and \"skin\" inside. Then whack against the counter, roll, and peel under cold running water. Done and done!",
"Get a teaspoon, and crack the egg. Run cold water over the crack, and wedge the spoon between the shell and the egg. Push gently and It should come off easily :)",
"roll the egg when done, i usually do it in some kitchen roll, this will break all the shell down if u use enough force",
"i have always had this problem. i have learned if you boil it a bit longer it will peel right off by itself after doing the hitting it on counter trick. boil about 25min?",
"Roll the egg to crack the shell and then remove a couple of shell pieces. Then slide a spoon under the membrane through the crack in the shell. Use the spoon to peel the egg.",
"I've found that when I put the eggs in the cold water then boil them, the shell gets stuck to the egg and it makes it impossible to peel\n\nMy solution was to boil the water, then drop the eggs (carefully and slowly or they'll break, I use a pasta spoon to drop them), then boil for around 15 minutes. Peel while they are still hot under running water, never an issue again!",
"I no longer have this problem, I don't know if I've gotten lucky lately but I started using my rice cooker (for 15 minutes) to hard \"boil\" the eggs (using the steamer tray and steam setting). I take the eggs out and run them under cold water for a few seconds (until they're cool enough to handle) and just crack the shells and it just peels off nice and easy. Not saying a rice cooker fixes this, but I have not experienced this lately, if nothing else, I think it's more convenient this way.",
"Gently Roll the egg against the table and then run the egg under a slow stream of water as you pick away at the shell",
"last time i had a boiled egg i used the 2nd knuckle (might not be the correct word for it) and tapped the egg in the middle while rotating it then pulled the shell apart. took about 4 seconds",
"The best way that I found is while they are still a little warm or hot crack the egg shell all around with a spoon and run it under warm water while peeling it and angle it so the water gets under the skin as you are peeling and with a little help from you it will slide off and you could get the whole shell off in one try",
"Cook them with a lot of salt- it permeates the shell and separates the membrane from it during cooking. Don't peel while they're hot afterwards, wait for them to cool. Roll the egg across a smooth surface and 'bounce' it softly off of it on the top and the bottom, completely breaking all areas of the shell. Pick off a tiny bit somewhere, and the shell will just start to peel right off.\n\nBoiling your egg longer does nothing but make the insides a sulfurous mess, and has nothing to do with the separation of the membrane. Also, the age of the age makes no difference in this method- I just did Easter eggs with my kid that I bought from the store on the Friday before easter and had no problems.",
"jesus, how are peeling eggs such an issue in peoples lives. I see this like every couple days. I suppose life must be good if this is your biggest issues.\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/rz6fp/how_to_crack_boiled_egg_in_3_seconds/\n"
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"Easiest/Quickest way to rake leaves. Everyone hates the monotony of raking leaves with the old metal rake + garbage bag combo which takes hours on end. Any easy tips to make this process a little quicker?",
"Easiest/Quickest way to rake leaves. Everyone hates the monotony of raking leaves with the old metal rake + garbage bag combo which takes hours on end. Any easy tips to make this process a little quicker?",
"Easiest/Quickest way to rake leaves. Everyone hates the monotony of raking leaves with the old metal rake + garbage bag combo which takes hours on end. Any easy tips to make this process a little quicker?",
"Easiest/Quickest way to rake leaves. Everyone hates the monotony of raking leaves with the old metal rake + garbage bag combo which takes hours on end. Any easy tips to make this process a little quicker?"
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"Assuming the leaves are on grass, let the grass get long, then mow it all. It picks up the leaves and grass, and any fragments created dry up soon enough and fall down into the dirt.",
"I used to work for a landscaping company. Easiest way was to rake leaves onto a tarp. Just keep raking them on and dragging the tarp around, making a mobile pile. Then dump where you see fit (preferably in your compost pile). Works great for weeding / trimming too. You don't have to rake trimmings, etc. afterward, just toss them on and roll the tarp to remove. Hope it helps!",
"You all are the best! I dislike doing yard work and raking leaves has got to be far worse then even doing the dishes. I mean seriously, rake a million of little things in a pile and try stuffing them all in a bag. But virtue and honor called me to do this terrible chore today, for a loved one that has passed. I told them I would come out of the basement and rake the lawn to help out with the estate. So I don't have no leaf blower or baler..ect. just an old rusted rake..So I was not sure how to work smarter and not harder. I have to say the ol tarp trick journiche gave below works like a charm..In having a POP Tart and a beer for a snack..and didn't even break a sweat! Thanks Goodness!",
"I use two rakes at a time. I can create piles faster this way, and I use them like giant hands to grab the pile and dump it in the can. "
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"how to deal with a goody-two-shoes who is actually a mean, manipulative thief? there's this girl who recently stole a bunch of stuff from me, but is a really sneaky, manipulative liar and somehow, everyone still thinks she's a perfect little angel. im sure it's happened before.\nUPDATE: oh well. i pretty much had to get the police involved. but i think it's cleared up. thanks for the advice everyone, even if i didn't use it it definitely made me feel less frustrated.",
"how to deal with a goody-two-shoes who is actually a mean, manipulative thief? there's this girl who recently stole a bunch of stuff from me, but is a really sneaky, manipulative liar and somehow, everyone still thinks she's a perfect little angel. im sure it's happened before.\nUPDATE: oh well. i pretty much had to get the police involved. but i think it's cleared up. thanks for the advice everyone, even if i didn't use it it definitely made me feel less frustrated.",
"how to deal with a goody-two-shoes who is actually a mean, manipulative thief? there's this girl who recently stole a bunch of stuff from me, but is a really sneaky, manipulative liar and somehow, everyone still thinks she's a perfect little angel. im sure it's happened before.\nUPDATE: oh well. i pretty much had to get the police involved. but i think it's cleared up. thanks for the advice everyone, even if i didn't use it it definitely made me feel less frustrated.",
"how to deal with a goody-two-shoes who is actually a mean, manipulative thief? there's this girl who recently stole a bunch of stuff from me, but is a really sneaky, manipulative liar and somehow, everyone still thinks she's a perfect little angel. im sure it's happened before.\nUPDATE: oh well. i pretty much had to get the police involved. but i think it's cleared up. thanks for the advice everyone, even if i didn't use it it definitely made me feel less frustrated.",
"how to deal with a goody-two-shoes who is actually a mean, manipulative thief? there's this girl who recently stole a bunch of stuff from me, but is a really sneaky, manipulative liar and somehow, everyone still thinks she's a perfect little angel. im sure it's happened before.\nUPDATE: oh well. i pretty much had to get the police involved. but i think it's cleared up. thanks for the advice everyone, even if i didn't use it it definitely made me feel less frustrated."
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"Either just watch yourself and remove all association with her. Eventually other people will learn that as well. \n\nOr you can set her up. If you haven't accused her of the theft yet, good. Replace a few of the items that were stolen and lament to her about how you lost them but think they were stolen etc... and now you had to replace said items. when you do replace the items, secretly write your name in an obscure and hidden place on the item, like under the battery slot or take a cover off, pretty much somewhere hidden. Then take pictures of the name, and pictures of you with the items. Then take them around her. Make sure she sees the items and knows where you keep them. leave them intentionally unintended with your new best friend. If they end up gone again, you've got a good way of proving that they are yours and she will get in some form of trouble depending on the value. \n\nOr you could just punch her and take your shit back, its really up to you. ",
"If she has any pets, butt-fuck them while looking her in the eye. You might not get your stuff back, but at least now you're even.",
"Steal it back. That's what I did. Funny thing was, my parents knew she'd done it, saw me get my stuff back out of her purse, and continued letting us be friends. I'm not sure what was up with that.\n\nEventually I wised up and cut off all contact.",
"Mark your stuff with your name in a hidden place.\n\nUse a nanny cam.\n\nMake it harder to steal, such as locking it up.\n\nAvoid her.\n\nIf anyone asks you why you avoid her you can say\n\"yeah well, People find it hard to believe because she seems sweet but she stole a bunch of my stuff.\n\n\n\n",
"If you have solid proof that said valuable item is yours... such as a receipt with your name, you may want to call, or threaten to call the police if she doesn't return them. At least she might stop..."
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"A way to keep pages together when you don't have a stapler handy. I've always run into this problem in college, where I have to print out my work before the class and I don't have a stapler, and I feel like someone out there knows some kind of origami secret or a quick fix for this recurring issue. I know I should just buy a mini stapler, but I'm interested if anyone has a method to do this besides the obvious solutions. Thanks pro's!",
"A way to keep pages together when you don't have a stapler handy. I've always run into this problem in college, where I have to print out my work before the class and I don't have a stapler, and I feel like someone out there knows some kind of origami secret or a quick fix for this recurring issue. I know I should just buy a mini stapler, but I'm interested if anyone has a method to do this besides the obvious solutions. Thanks pro's!",
"A way to keep pages together when you don't have a stapler handy. I've always run into this problem in college, where I have to print out my work before the class and I don't have a stapler, and I feel like someone out there knows some kind of origami secret or a quick fix for this recurring issue. I know I should just buy a mini stapler, but I'm interested if anyone has a method to do this besides the obvious solutions. Thanks pro's!"
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"Fold the corner of the papers over. Take that folded corner and fold it back over itself so that a little bit of the actual corner sticks out over where the first fold is. Now fold that down to hold the pages together.\n\nHere are some picture instructions:\n\nStep 1: http://i.imgur.com/8Gcu5D2.jpg\nStep 2: http://i.imgur.com/b4fvNcu.jpg\nStep 3 front: http://i.imgur.com/ZpDHp9B.jpg\nStep 3 back: http://i.imgur.com/andmMr1.jpg",
"I've been doing this for 40 years\n\nhttp://www.bloomize.com/how-to-bind-papers-without-staples-or-clips/",
"the version i know is similar to the one imapotao99 posted, but slightly different.\n\ngo ahead and stack the papers, then dog-ear the corner.... it's the same that far.\n\nNext, hold the dog-ear between your thumbs, and tear about a 1/4 inch right down its middle. Then fold the part of your dog-ear in your right hand back, and the part in your left hand forward.\n\n\nFast and simple; probably not good enough for turned-in-projects, but good enough for keeping the docs together for my personal files.\n\n\n_____\n\n\nmy grandma never used staples. She'd use a straight pin, and put it though the corner of the papers, [much like you would pin together material you were getting ready to sew](http://www.sew4home.com/sites/sewmk.mervideo.com/files/images/articles/0319-C_DSCN1777-4_b.jpg). Maybe you could keep some straight pins in your desk drawer or on your bulletin board.\n\n______\n\n\nMaybe you could stick a magnet to your filing cabinet or metal door frame and keep a few paperclips there.\n\n\n_____\n\nmy Dad rarely used staples. He preferred [brads](http://www.google.com/imgres?client=firefox-a&hs=6EC&sa=X&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&biw=1366&bih=665&tbm=isch&tbnid=yvgOrXiM3oxjVM:&imgrefurl=http://cutecrafters.blogspot.com/2011/06/4th-of-july-craft-red-white-and-blue.html&docid=WVR1vbuSW6XN3M&imgurl=http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-phlsIuj51CU/Tg03KS00ThI/AAAAAAAAAFM/DFxi51Yq9RM/s1600/brads.jpg&w=400&h=302&ei=6ZQeUrOANOnDyQHNwIHADA&zoom=1&ved=1t:3588,r:7,s:0,i:111&iact=rc&page=1&tbnh=186&tbnw=244&start=0&ndsp=14&tx=116&ty=81) because they were easier for him to use & take out."
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"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
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"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
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"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?",
"Simple but powerful social tips and tricks for the socially anxious I have been forced into lockdown since 2020 and have not been able to get out much due to high risk family members. I used to be a lot more confident when I was younger but ever since moving and being on lockdown I feel as though I am socially stupid. I struggle with making new friends without being in a public school and I work with people much older than me. I try to socialise with people but I feel like I always miss the mark and am always overly anxious. \nFor those who have gotten over social anxiety how did you do it? What advice do you have to get moving with life and talking to people?"
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"Switch your internal script. Instead of thinking \"I wonder if they will like me,\" think \"I wonder if I will like them.\"",
"I have found that approaching acquaintances as if they are already a friend can make it easier - I think it fools my anxiety meter or something. So I just talk to them the way I do a good friend.",
"Don't feel the need to respond to everything instantly, sometimes by doing this it changes the power dynamic of the conversation to make it feel more like a questioning, even if its not.\n\n Always allow yourself to think before you answer, after some time, you may feel more confident in the words you speak and people will sense that.\n\n\nAnother tip, ask the people around you (who you can trust not to be rude) who see your mannerisms and ask them what you asked here; Facial expressions, tone of voice, body language, eye contact.\n\n All of these things play a huge role and we might not be able to advise as well as people who know you IRL.\n\nBest of luck!",
"1. Practice, practice, practice. Start up a conversation with people that you don’t know and may never see again. Ask a question or two to the cashier. Talk to the mail carrier.\n\n2. Before going to an event, have 3 things or current events to discuss.\n\n3. Be interesting yourself so that you have something to talk about. Go outside so you can talk about your adventures. Take up a hobby. Read books or at least the cover. Have an idea of what is trending. You don’t have to be an expert just have a talking point.\n\n4. Never turn down an invitation.\n\n5. Set a goal to do one thing each week for the sole purpose of doing something social. \n\n6. Reach out to say hi or just thinking of you.\n\n7. A LOT of people have social anxiety. Remember that they may be feeling the same and appreciate you for showing up.\n\n8. You will have awkward moments. Don’t dwell. Move on.\n\n9. Stop thinking and labeling yourself as socially anxious. It feeds the monster.",
"I have had social and general anxiety my entire life and up until recently it inhibited my ability to do pretty much anything. I’ll try to list out the things that helped me the most:\n\nImproving self confidence. This came from an understanding that people don’t really care about you as much as you think, they are more worried about themselves. I also started to work out in the past few years which helped my confidence and mental health tremendously.\n\nInstead of “Do they like me?”, turn it around to “Do I like them?” This places you in a more confident position to approaching social situations.\n\nRealizing it’s okay to be quiet or sit out of conversations that are stressful or uninteresting. I used to place a lot of pressure on myself to ‘be interesting’, or constantly have something to add to the conversation, when in reality it’s very normal to just be present but not active unless you have a good reason to. I notice that when I force myself to talk, it usually comes out more awkward than when I just act naturally and do only the things that feel right and sort of ‘flow out’.\n\n\nAlso, really be selective about the people you hang around. Spend more time around the people that make you happy and less time around the people that bring you stress. \n\nFinally: I also started Lexapro recently which really put the icing on the cake and eased a good amount of tension. I also have depression so that helped there too.\nEating well, working out, staying hydrated and taking good care of your body is very important also!!",
"One thing that i have learned that helps is that extroverted people are socially awkward. We introverts have been told lies to make us feel awkward. I have noticed whenever I'm feeling awkward its because some extrovert is doing something to make me feel awkward. Examples would be: asking probing personal questions with someone you just met, purposely putting people in uncomfortable positions (singing/dancing), and invading personal space.",
"Constantly take tiny actions and decisions when you meet someone. \n\nWhen I started working, I had to meet a lot of new people on a daily basis. Initially I would wait on the sides, waiting to be introduced. Sometimes my colleagues wouldn’t and that felt not so nice. To combat this, I decided, every time I met someone new, I would extend a warm greeting. Shake their hand (if appropriate in Covid times) introduce yourself and ask their name in a somewhat bright, warm & excited voice. Just don’t back down. Take the extra effort, take that one extra step towards someone that will show your interest (personal, professional - depending on the situation) in them. \n\nHave a twinkle in your eye if you can manage it. You can definitely learn it!",
"Start by talking to people you’re close to about the anxiety. It’s amazing how many people will be / have been in the same boat. The most helpful thing I’ve done to address not always feeling comfortable socially is realising that I’m absolutely not the only person that feels it. By spending more time with other people you then know also feel or have felt anxious will help you get more comfortable with yourself again. \nAlso, be prepared that the anxiety may never go away. That’s fine, it’s about management and self-awareness. \n\nAnd similar advice to the person who said smoke weed, alcohol helps.",
"Extroversion and introversion are on a scale and do overlap. \nWhen you start to 'other' people by making it Introverts vs Extroverts you're \"losing\" because you're playing yourself and preventing connections you very well do have with people that are very different. \n\nA few sayings to maybe get you off the hook, if you feel that way, that have helped me:\n\nThat's interesting...\nThat's one way to look at it...\nI haven't thought of it like that before...\n\nAlso, do you owe them anything? Just because someone asks a question doesn't mean you have to answer it. If they want to get to know you, but maybe chose a bad time, tell them you can talk about it later, but not now. \n\nI used to be social, but I would need to hibernate after a long day working retail, and after the covid isolation I got in much better touch with me, and stopped trying to please others, especially those who don't reciprocate, or at least demonstrate respect.\n\nTalk is cheap.\nBe true to yourself, in words and action, so that you can know if anyone has a problem with you, it is theirs alone, as you have made the most of your situations with the information at hand. If you aren't being true to yourself to that extent (yes, we're all animals and mess up, but own it, make it right, and make changes to avoid recurrence) then how can you e pect others to be true, or respectful, to you?\n\nSorry so long. Watch Grumpy Old Men and just be like them if this is all trash.",
"Really it's a matter of practicing all your life. You can do Zoom meetups, Toastmaster, etc. to practice. But give yourself a couple years to get sorta comfortable.",
"There's a podcast that I love about neuro science and how to not take sh*t from anybody, especially not from ourselves. \n\nOne of her podcast was about anxiety and a tip she gave really help me a lot. Write down your anxiety, then write if it's a fact or a feeling. 99% of the time, it's a feeling, like you feel you were weird and everyone think you're a creep. The fact could be \"I said something I wanted to be funny and no one laughed\" then find other facts you're forgetting about that same event, like Z was happy to see me, I met new people etc. It'll help you be more aware of facts instead of thinking the worst when you interact with others.\n\nAlso, like other mentionned, no one really care, and chances are, when you feel you missed the mark, they often miss the mark to and it's not a big deal.",
"Find a Volunteering opportunity. You’ll get practice at socialising while being distracted by the actual tasks. Also, doing good and meaningful things out in the world will boost your self-esteem, which is a big part of the issues you have.",
"One thing I actually recently learned about myself after disconnecting from people for awhile is that I'm only socially awkward with people I don't feel comfortable with, I'm also only an introvert with things I'm uncomfortable with...and the things I'm uncomfortable with is being the center of attention, I don't like being gawked at or being in the spot light so I found that putting the focus on the other person helps a lot, listen intently and ask alot of questions and remember the answers for next time. \" Oh yeah you said that last time you really likes starbursts and I saw some at the store so I got you some\" which I use as a gesture of friendship..small gestures. As time goes on it has helped me learn more about others which helps me feel more comfortable opening up. Being the friend I am seeking has helped me find the friends I want. Hope this helps a bit.",
"I find social anxiety to be more of a scale than a switch. You may have good and bad experiences depending on a few factors.\n\nAnything you can do to show your convo partner that you’re interested in what they’re saying, and are actively listening, will help.\n\nAlso, weed. Smoke it.",
"1. It's better to be interested than to be interesting. \n\nIt's not your job to impress them. Rather, this is your opportunity to get to know someone. And, bonus, most people will greatly appreciate any attention that is authentically offered.\n\nLearning to be authentically interested -- and dig in when something about the person sparks my interest or curiosity -- has served me incredibly well.\n\n2. Don't worry about expressing who you are. Focus, instead, on embodying your values.\n\nPortraying an honest, complete version of who you are, what your personality is, and what you care about is an impossibility until you've spent a lot of time with the person. Your job up front is to act in a way that's consistent with your values. So, for instance, I want other people to feel seen, cared about, and (where possible) comfortable. When I'm meeting someone, I strive to help create those moments.\n\nUntil a few years back, I was caught up on this idea of needing to be authentic---but also feeling deeply awkward. It helped me greatly to shift focus to my interpersonal values.\n\n3. We're all awkward.\n\nHuman interaction is imprecise. Most everyone gets that (and experiences it themselves!), and are happy to give you leeway as you work to maneuver the situation. Those few who belittle you for the struggle are either a) the types of people you can safely ignore because they aren't worth your time or b) are having a really rough day and are unintentionally taking it out on you.",
"I don't know if this works for everyone, but I tell myself that it's actually the other person who feels awkward and out of place, and go about the interaction as if I'm trying to make them feel welcome and at ease. This kicks in my personal people-pleaser anxiety override sometimes, but also it just makes for more successful interactions because people like it when you make them feel nice",
"The biggest is, get comfortable with silence. Do not let it pressure you into saying something if there's nothing to say. Keep at it until it's actually comfortable. It'll be weird for a while but you'll get there. It'll make those around you comfortable, too.",
"I know this sounds really stupid, but sometimes in a nervous situation, I will pretend I’m somebody else. No one will know I’m pretending, but it will instill me with fake confidence. Like a character from a movie or book.",
"Small talk is meaningless, but it’s also the glue that holds us all together. Or maybe the lubricant.\n\nMake a list of small talk topics and pick a theme each day. The more you practice the list, the easier it will be.\n\nStarter list: weather, vacations, pets (my spouse calls this “dog talk”), favorite hobby (yours, or ask about theirs), local sports, good tv, video games. \n\nIf you can master that list, you can talk to just about anyone.",
"People love to talk about themselves, ask a big open question and relax while they ramble on!\n\nInsert occasional silent nodding and some smiling",
"To make it simple, I suggest healthy diet and exercise to ensure you have a well working brain and body, and then just practice rewriting your brain to think positive thoughts instead of anxiety inducing ones.\n\nThere are lots of self-help books with their own ways of helping people understand how to think in a healthy way, but if you can afford it, a psychiatrist can guide you individually through why you feel anxiety and how to avoid it.",
"Just realize that we are all the same. No one is better than you, and you’re no better than anyone else. We are all just equal. Money, job, house, car, all of these “status” symbols mean nothing. It’s kind of like when you’re in school or in training, and the instructor tells you to ask questions, because if you have them, most likely other people do to. So if your scared to talk to someone, they most likely are scared to talk to you. And nobody is really scared of being talked to, so don’t be scared to do the talking. Just be yourself.",
"It may not work for everyone, but what worked for me is not to care anymore. It's weird, the best job interviews I did are the ones where I didn't want the job. Somehow, not caring about the consequences helps me relax and be myself. It taked the pressure off. \n\nSimilarly socially. I approach a conversation without expectations, just be yourself and learn a bit about the person. If there's some compatibility, it naturally turns into more. If not, so what.. at least you were yourself. It would be worse if you're pretending to be something you're not, and now you're invited to a party where you know you don't fit in.",
"Don't touch your phone. Keep your eyes up and look around in any social situation, you're so much more approachable and look more confident if you're not somehwere with your face in your phone",
"Being confident within yourself, confident within your career path, confident about life. Do what it takes to make you happy, and everything else will flow. Just be yourself. If people don’t like you, oh well. You can’t worry about what others think about you. Just be the best person you can be, and people will like you or not. Put yourself first before thinking about what others think of you.",
"What helped me the most was practice and working on getting more confident. First one is self-explanatory + just do it. It's uncomfortable(I mumbled, had shaky hands and elevated heart rate at first) but it gets better. Spending time with other people is very natural and will bring comfortable sooner or later.\n\nAs for confidence, taking care of yourself(basic and obvious stuff like hygiene and hitting the gym) and becoming better at what you do.\n\nLast but not least, people don't really care that much nor are they as judgemental as a person suffering from social anxiety might believe. You might expect people to think poorly of you, judge your looks, laugh behind your back, etc. It is not the case usually, but might happen if you're dealing with assholes.",
"If you're meeting people start with a compliment on something they're wearing. Watch, earrings, maybe a tattoo or their shoes. Whatever. Then you can ask more about it, where they got them, is there a special meaning. Anything, people love to talk about themselves and most will reciprocate this. Now everyone is feeling good about themselves and enjoying the interaction. \n\nDon't talk about work, politics or anything negative, like 9/11 (it just passed and witnessing an interaction that started with a 9/11 comment was so painful I had to leave the room).\n\nLastly try to remember a time when you recall someone else doing something cringey or socially awkward, you probably can't. So if you do do something you feel awkward about no one will remember that either. Bonus points if something awkward happens, like a messed up handshake, you gotta call that out immediately and make light of it. Ask for another try or something. That eases all tension.",
"Honestly I have sisters that are super shy and anxious. Something that I’ve told them time and time again that I think helps them through tough social situations is that “nobody cares about you” honestly everyone is too self absorbed and focused on themselves that no one is going to hyper fixate on you or remember anything you do at the event. And especially in public, these people done even know you!! Do an Irish jig! Laugh too loud!! Just remember, there people don’t know you, so they don’t give a single shit about you or will remember you at alll!",
"Everyone is the center of their own universe and virtually no one cares what you say or do, so stop thinking that you might be embarrassed, just do the things you like and talk about it with people, you'll soon find people with similar interests and it'll get easier to converse.",
"Believe it or not, Working out and getting in shape has helped me a lot to get over my anxiety. Another thing was getting into the mindset that I am not my friend. Thinking that whenever I was getting anxious in public was just my body trying to mess with me actually helped my but my feelings in check.",
"[Celeste Headlee: 10 ways to have a better conversation | TED Talks](https://youtu.be/R1vskiVDwl4) \n\n\n[What Every BODY Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People](https://www.amazon.com/What-Every-Body-Saying-Speed-Reading)",
"You can think, \"what can I learn from this person today/now?\" Instead of thinking about what to answer or do etc",
"What helped me was not thinking about it, because that's what makes your anxiety grow. Basically just say \"Fuck it\" and do it.\n\nSee that girl/boy you think is cute and wanna stay hi? Don't think about anything, focus on the action of walking and saying hi",
"There are books on social anxiety that are written by psychologists you can read for good insights and tips. Try \"Overcoming social anxiety and shyness\" by Gillian Butler. Ask people about themselves, most people love that. Try to keep attention on them and not on yourself, e.g. \"I bet I come across as an idiot\" or \"I am sure they can see me blush\". Avoid post-mortems afterwards, they will make you feel bad. Watch out for mind-reading - imagining that you know what the other person thinks, and that it is all about you and is negative. Practice going up to people and asking directions or the time, then progress from there to making small talk. Learn you can survive encounters that don't go so well. Good luck. A therapist trained in CBT can really help if you get stuck.",
"Simple trick: Everyone likes a compliment and the more often you give genuine compliments, the more often people will reciprocate.\n\nAs for a professional setting, you can do the compliments but also people tend to like being asked for advice or their input on something.",
"Read a book called - how to win friends and influence people.\n\n I heard this saying once:\n\nIn your 20's you worry about what everyone thinks of you\nBy your 40's you don't give a fuck what anyone thinks\nBy your 60's you realise no one ever gave a shit, they were all too busy worrying about what others thought of them\n\nBesides the above, just practice, like any skill you have to work at it. If you put yourself in uncomfortable situations regularly enough, eventually it will become normal and easy, keep pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone. Life is made for getting out there and living not hiding in a hole!",
"Practice makes perfect. Well not perfect but potentially much better. It took me a long ass time but now people who didn’t know me as a kid don’t even believe I had selective mutism. Keep challenging yourself, go easy on yourself when you mess up/do someone awkward or embarrassing, and stay positive and hopeful",
"Not sure how helpful this is, but I find it's comforting for me to be a little bit honest.\n\nI find saying \"I'm quite socially anxious\" gives people a reason to dismiss any \"odd\" social behaviours that anxiety can bring about such as rambling, avoiding eye contact, poor responses etc.",
"I read how to win friends and influence people by dale Carnegie and it completely changed my life for the better, still benefit from it. Consider giving it a try.",
"I pretend that they are the ones with social anxiety and then say or do whatever I think will put them at ease.",
"Honesty. “It’s been hard meeting new people since lockdown. How have you been handling that?” It’s not often we get a global icebreaker.",
"Honestly, I took the plunge and did something terrifying my first week of college: I joined an improv group. It gave me the experience of making an ass out of myself in front of other people and not getting down about it. I'm still socially stupid in other ways, but it helped a lot.",
"Don't judge yourself on the time a social situation was awkward. It might not have been your fault or maybe it was but if it's a minority don't judge yourself and label yourself based on the thing that rarely happens. I don't usually struggle during conversation but before I have a ton of anxiety anticipating one or after tons of shame remembering something I think might have been misunderstood or sounded stupid. Not focusing on the smaller amount of times something was awkward was really comforting.",
"Ask new aquaintances questions about themselves. What they do, what they love, where theyre from, where theyre going.\n\nIt helps calm both your nerves. Fills the silence and helps you find some kind of common ground to build upon with them",
"Always be eager to hear what the other person has to say and ask them questions about it. Not only is it going to reduce the amount of time you end up having to talk, but it will make the other person feel like you value both them and what they have to say.",
"Also ask: How can I be kind and helpful to people I come across in a day?\n\nNo need the help the junkie rob a bodega but an attitude of doing what one can, to help,rather than compete or judge, is an enlightened path",
"> how did you do it?\n\nTurned 30.\n\nIn all seriousness, my 20s were just filled with social anxiety, but it just naturally dissipated in my 30s.\n\nMight not be the answer you're looking for, depending on how old you are, but maybe the idea of a light at the end of the tunnel helps.",
"remember, everyone is too busy holding in a tiny turd in between their butt-cheeks to care about anything you do.",
"You’re still on lock down? I don’t think I care that much about anyone. I’d be moved. Now that said, honestly you just gotta learn to breathe and remember that literally no one cares as much about how you look, sound, or come across as you do. No one is going to go home at the end of the day and tell their loved ones about the awkward person. They’re going to come home and complain about the Karen they put up with maybe. That’s what’s memorable.",
"You know how sometimes, when it comes to wild animals, you're told \"they fear you more than you fear them\"?\n\nI try to tell myself the same when it comes to other people. I might be nervous meeting them, and that's okay -- but they're not a paragon of social skills (probably), they might be just as nervous as me if not more! To me, that makes interactions much less terrifying, and really reduces performance anxiety. Instead of worrying about the impression I make, I can then focus on making the other person comfortable and ensuring they enjoy themselves (without forgetting about my own comfort zones, ofc).",
"You don't actually have to look INTO people's eyes when you're talking to them. Alternate every few seconds between their nose, eyebrows, forehead, etc. You get the cr",
"Whenever you’re in a crowded room and feel nervous, remember what you’re good at. For me it’s biking. Anytime I’m uncomfortable in a room I think to myself “I’m more rad on a bike than everyone here” and boom, nerves are gone. \n\nGive yourself a reason to be confident",
"When struggling to make eye contact try looking at the space between someone's eyebrows. You will appear to be making eye contact but it's slightly easier.\n\n\n",
"Try very low stakes interactions, like making small talk with a cashier or person standing by you in a long line. It’s very time limited, and you’ll never see them again if it goes awkwardly. Build from there.",
"The trick is there’s no trick.\n\nIt’s not pulling off a band aid… it’s anxiety over and over until there’s less.\n\nI will say if you get really good at something that helps.\n\nHaving a hobby gives you a tribe. Being really good at it gives you confidence.",
"The thing why you want to have a lot of people around you? Because society wants this? Ask yourself are you comfortable around many people or do you rather stay home? I felt like you before and I realized I don’t need so many people around me and I am happy on my own. If I need to socialize, I talk at work, go to the gym or swimming. I meet people there and that’s totally enough.",
"Social skills are skills. Go practice. Even my most socially able friends were mildly awkward after lockdown. You’ll pick it all up again. And anyway, try not to give a shit and just remember to walk the line between kindness and maintaining boundaries.",
"Social anxiety is our body and brains telling us to get better at socializing. Socializing is a tangible skillset which can be worked on. Easier for some, harder for other to pick up. \n\nSource: Ex-socially anxious person",
"Show genuine interest & curiosity in people. Ask questions, & then ask follow-up questions. This has helped me immensely. People love to talk about themselves, so get them to do that. But it has to be genuine. You don't want to sound like you're interrogating, so ask questions, react to the answers, follow-up, & make comments. Don't forget to give complements.\n\nI used to panic at the thought of being in certain social situations (with being in a big room with people I don't know sending my anxiety through the roof) and I used to try to psych myself up before entering those situations -- taking time to look as perfect as possible, thinking about topics of conversation that I would instantly forget as soon as I entered the room). Now, before I leave to go out I tell myself, \"There's going to be lots of people there that I get to learn about!\"\n\nIt takes the focus off you so it makes you less self-conscious and instead you start thinking about and engaging with other people. We all have interesting things about us and stories to tell. When you get someone to tell you about themselves, & you show that you really care about what they are saying, it's like you're instantly likeable.",
"Read Dale Carnegie ; How to win friends and influence people. old but still true.\n\njoin toastmasters.",
"My grandma told me once, \"Sometimes you just have to do things when you're uncomfortable.\" I think of this when I start to feel anxious. I'm going to do it regardless of how I feel. No matter what, I won't bail.",
"LPT there are many fine books / audiobooks / other resources focused specifically on social anxiety. If you’re serious it’s more than worth it to look into them. I personally recommend Shrink for the Shy Guy - https://youtube.com/channel/UCg4eXIuaQ5w2AX731a7-MTg\nbut there are plenty of others.",
"In my experience, as someone with ASD who can be very awkward sometimes, the really cool/nice people see through all that social awkwardness stuff and recognise you for who you really are. They're the ones whose opinions you should value, forget the rest.\n\nThat's the best advice I have considering I can count the number of close friends I have (besides my SO) on my hands.",
"Imagine that others would treat you, as you would treat them. \n \nYou just met someone who’s a little timid. Will you start to snarl at them? Will you poke/prod them? Or likely be supportive? \n \nNo’s imagine others will be equally nice to you.",
"I like to have a little script. Like, what am I going to say if someone asks how my weekend is? What am I going to say if they ask what I'm doing today? And prepare some questions to continue the conversation. A mistake I always make is just answering whatever they've asked and then not saying anything else. A simple \"and how about you?\" goes a long way.",
"I am the same eversince the lockdown. I was very confident and had no problem talking to people for hours, but now I sometimes feel that I lack a bit in my social skills. One way I've coped with this is by asking myself \"what are you anxious about?\" and often my response is \"coming off as stupid/embarrassing.\" So I shifted my focus on the joy that talking to people brings. I remind myself why I want to talk to them in the first place.",
"Honestly i just try to catch the energy of the room and go from there. You wont know what to do in every situation so just talk to people",
"Food is always the answer. Bake some cookies, or bring snacks/donuts to your workplace then offer them to your coworkers. Get the person next to your desk a coffee or bagel and say like \"I bought extra coffee/bagel, you want some?\". They will warm up easier to you. Or if you wanna meet someone outside of work, get into FB hobby club like hiking, baking, anime, gym etc. Show up when they hold a meetup, participate if they make contest, comment or ask stuff if they post something. \n\nAs for social anxiety, you need to shift your mindset. You're afraid to make friends because you already decided they will not like you, when in fact it's not true unless they clearly say they hate you right in your face. You're afraid you're making fool of yourself and people will think less of you when you fucked up. So you give up trying to make friends because your ego can't stand feeling embarrassed. \n\nThe thing is, people don't give a fuck at night about you. They dont lose sleep thinking about you jumbling your sentences when you talked to them yesterday's morning, or when you answer the wrong things because you misheard what they asked this afternoon. When making friends, you don't have to be serious. You're not looking for formal interaction like you and your CEO. Stop making shii feel like formal setting, show people your antique, dont make yourself a mystery by hiding your silliness. People will be at ease to open up to you if they know you're not always serious and can be vulnerable/stupid/silly like them.",
"Excellent recent and relevant educational cartoon by Kurzgesagt that I found helpful: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9hJ\\_Rux9y0",
"Drinking is my simple and powerful tip for overcoming social anxiety, but, well there are the obvious downfalls."
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"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. ",
"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. ",
"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. ",
"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. ",
"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. ",
"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. ",
"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. ",
"Making Friends in College. I've never been a social guy, I'm introvert and shy, always the guy in the clasroom that doesnt talk and sits in the back. This is my third try at college, had to drop out thanks to depression and other stuff the other two times, and today I failed again to keep a conversation with someone. Do you have any tips to make friends? \n\nSorry for the bad english. "
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"If you are dorming, then keep your door open for the first few days. This might seem strange and a typical freshman move, but it really does work and it's how I've met one of my best friends. Keep your door open and just chill, play video games or listen to music and I guarantee you someone else will come in and want to hang out. \n\n\nBest of luck and enjoy your time!",
"Don't think of it as a failure when you don't keep up a conversation. Conversations end, especially with strangers. I've always been a social guy and I talk to strangers for a living. I run out of things to say, the only difference is I don't consider it a failure. The important thing is that you were involved in a social interaction. Do it again tomorrow. Just say hi when you're walking to class. Say hi to anyone. It's not as weird as it sounds and it's an easy way to start interacting with people. Also start exercising. Getting up and moving will help with that depression. I speak from first hand experience. ",
"The best tip is being yourself and try to get out of your comfort zone , don't let fear get you back. (Sorry for my English)",
"Start by establishing what it is you are passionate about and find ways to exercise that passion! I know a lot of Universities have a bunch of different clubs you can become a part of which would pair you up with some people with similar interests. \n\nIt's key to step out of your comfort zone whenever you can. ",
"Hi EMateos. I wish you luck in college.\n\nThat being said, what you need to do as an introvert is find people you're comfortable with, and the best way to do that is find people that you have a common interest with. \n\nSome people have the wonderful ability to create a conversation and chat comfortably with strangers. *Most do not.*\n\nSo you have three choices: \n\n* be born with it/raised in a household where it's ingrained and pick it up naturally (and unfortunately, it's too late for that) \n\n* train hard to acquire it. Assertiveness courses are available to help uncomfortable people become less uncomfortable with things like creating conversations. And yes, that does sound a lot like \"work\" because it is \"work\". You're training to become something you're not.\n\n* Hang around with like-minded people that are easy to talk to. And this is the best answer. What are your interests? Hobbies? Is there a group or a set of people that share some of those interests and hobbies or might be open to them? If so, they're the perfect people to talk to and with.\n\nSo the best answer here is find people that you have something in common with, and go to whatever events or meetings or what-have-you that they go to. Search for these sort of groups, or listen for them in places they might hang out if they're not formally organized and announced. They're the ideal people for you to practice your social skills with, and it's pretty likely that they will be comfortable with your introversion too, as it's quite likely that some of them will be introverted as well. So you won't have to change too much.\n\nAfter you've found people that you're comfortable with, it becomes much easier to interact with people that you might not be so comfortable with.",
"Find an organization that fits your interests. My freshman year was pretty dull until I joined an organization that set up games and events on campus. Quickly I found friends and even met my future wife. \nDepending on your college campus size there are groups for certain cultures, majors, and even for LAN-ing all types of video games. \n\nI also found a lot of my college friends out on the pick up basketball court, but I've always loved basketball. ",
"Only use your dorm for sleeping, and if you have to be in there, keep the door open.\n\nInviting yourself to do things, like a game of frisbee or a pickup basketball game is not weird, just say \"hey, can I join?\"\n\nIt's like dating, you will find people to you like hanging out with and those who you don't.\n\nAlso, remember people's names that you meet, that goes a long way to establishing friendships.",
"Most colleges and universities have student clubs and organizations - lots of 'em. Look under your school's 'student affairs' web page (or something like it. You might find a heading for clubs/orgs in the 'students' section, or your school's web portal). \n\nFor example, at the university I just moved from, they had everything from athletic clubs to pop culture clubs to academic clubs to community service clubs. Think about what you're interested in, and then look it up online. Sometimes the clubs will post fliers around campus - keep an eye out.\n\nEvery campus has a unique culture, so your school might be more athletic, or more service oriented, or whatever. My previous university was REALLY into pop culture, so we had a Whovian League, a Harry Potter club, a Quidditch Team, A Magic The Gathering club, Anime clubs, A Disney club, Pokemon clubs, etc. \n\nWhat I'm getting at is - find people who have a little something in common with you. Then you'll have something to talk about at first. That'll roll into an actual conversation, and you'll be fine after that."
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"How to get a job with no experience I am a school leaver (UK, 17) and I can't get a job. I've applied for almost every job in my area and most of the time I don't receive anything back (not even a rejection letter). \nany tips?",
"How to get a job with no experience I am a school leaver (UK, 17) and I can't get a job. I've applied for almost every job in my area and most of the time I don't receive anything back (not even a rejection letter). \nany tips?",
"How to get a job with no experience I am a school leaver (UK, 17) and I can't get a job. I've applied for almost every job in my area and most of the time I don't receive anything back (not even a rejection letter). \nany tips?",
"How to get a job with no experience I am a school leaver (UK, 17) and I can't get a job. I've applied for almost every job in my area and most of the time I don't receive anything back (not even a rejection letter). \nany tips?",
"How to get a job with no experience I am a school leaver (UK, 17) and I can't get a job. I've applied for almost every job in my area and most of the time I don't receive anything back (not even a rejection letter). \nany tips?",
"How to get a job with no experience I am a school leaver (UK, 17) and I can't get a job. I've applied for almost every job in my area and most of the time I don't receive anything back (not even a rejection letter). \nany tips?"
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"I'm in the US, and am a hiring manager. There have been times that I've hired high school teenagers when I see initiative: when they come in to bring an application in person, I like to meet them. Once a manager meets an applicant, that can be like having one foot in the door.\n\nMy suggestion to you: when you fill out an application, be dressed nice in case you can meet the manager, and ASK to meet the manager. Introduce yourself and give a firm handshake. ASK if they are currently hiring, and that you be considered for employment.\n\nYes, I have hired folks who walked in off the street, professionally dressed, well spoken, who asked to speak to the manager about being hired.",
"You're 17 - if you don;t want to go to college and you have no experience, get an apprenticeship. Your options will be severely limited otherwise.",
"One way to gain experience for a job is to volunteer. Lots of volunteer work will give you both a nice addition to your resume as well as references. ",
"Nah. Walk the resume through the door. It may all say apply online that does not mean you can't walk a resume in the door. In 2004 I distributed 200 resumes (I was 29 with a masters in a good market). I landed one job. My whole focus at the first job was to get a recommendation from my manager. That opened the next door. By focus on a recommendation I mean examine the manager and find ways to make her job easier. Those first few jobs will suck, after all they were so hard up they hired someone with no experience. Your career is NOT luck. You have to work that system. \n In 2005 I went big time and moved to a much bigger city. It was almost like starting over. 400 applications (with DVDs of my portfolio) and I got two jobs. Year and a half later I moved back to the smaller town. Submitted two resumes, got two interviews, and one offer. Best 3 years of my career (to date). \n But in the last ten years I've applied for hundreds of more jobs. I've turned down several offers. That keeps me sharp, gets me interviews and keeps me aware of what other offices are up to. \n But IFU. \n The big thing didn't do enough of is network: find people I could help out who were slightly higher up the food chain. Choosing a gig you're interested in, get the suit on, and invite a professional out for coffee. Be sure they understand that you are not asking them for a job but want to learn how they do what they do. Have 4-5 questions. Ask one and shut up! Let them talk. \n Managers (which I am now) ask their peers in other firms for recommendations when hiring (long before we advertise the position). If you've made a connection with one, he might drop your name to do his buddy a favor. ",
"Build up some skills and contacts by advertising to walk dogs/feed animals/babysit for people in your neighbourhood and then you can use skill examples from those for further jobs",
"Apply online. Call the place repeatedly and ask if the position has been filled, if they are still reviewing, etc. Show up in person and ask the same questions. You have to assume human resources are lazy and be motivated yourself. Be a go getter. \n\nLearn how to talk to a potential employer. Like practice what to say with a friend or relative. You can't be all \"duh\" like most high schoolers are, like it's the first human contact in their life since looking away from their iphone. Examples:\n\n\"Hey, uh, I uh applied for a job, well, uh, are you going to hire someone?\" All while sounding like you crawled out from under a rock while high wearing pajamas.\n\n\"Good morning ma'am. My name is SMF101. I was curious if the job I applied for has been filled. I applied to be the custodian, yes. Do you know how soon you'd like the role filled? Ok. Are there any other open positions. That's great. Thank you for everything. Have a nice day\" All while wearing your finest thrift store polo, brushed teeth, showered, and with a smile that you forced upon yourself right before walking through the door. \n\nI'm anti social as fuck dude. I don't like talking to people. But I've learned to put on a happy face and just fucking do it. I hate saying good morning to these women I work with but I smile and do it anyway, cunts. \n\nIt's like you are going to wip your dick out. You can't be all like \"He uh I uh pulled my penis out\". You gotta pull that thing out and be like \"Yeah lass, you like that? Fancy a shag eh?\".\n\nBut for real though. I'm not british but that's how I picture shit to be. Confidence mate. Get some. I was going to a bar with a friend and these girls we just met. I didn't even want to go and he could tell. He looks at me and says \"Dude just walk in there and act like you fucking own the place.\" I put my shoulders back, took a deep breath, and had one of the best nights of my life. \n\nI'm also onboard with the whole apprentice route. Learn a trade."
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"The perfect nap Though I eventually feel better after taking a (~45 minute) nap, when I wake up from one I usually just want to go back to sleep and it takes me a while to feel un-groggy. I'd love to know:\n\n1. When during the day I should take a nap\n2. When during the day I *shouldn't* take a nap\n3. For approximately how long I should take a nap to achieve the restfulness and wakefulness I desire for the rest of the day\n4. How to nap properly so I can feel rested and not groggy when I wake up from it\n\nThanks in advance!",
"The perfect nap Though I eventually feel better after taking a (~45 minute) nap, when I wake up from one I usually just want to go back to sleep and it takes me a while to feel un-groggy. I'd love to know:\n\n1. When during the day I should take a nap\n2. When during the day I *shouldn't* take a nap\n3. For approximately how long I should take a nap to achieve the restfulness and wakefulness I desire for the rest of the day\n4. How to nap properly so I can feel rested and not groggy when I wake up from it\n\nThanks in advance!",
"The perfect nap Though I eventually feel better after taking a (~45 minute) nap, when I wake up from one I usually just want to go back to sleep and it takes me a while to feel un-groggy. I'd love to know:\n\n1. When during the day I should take a nap\n2. When during the day I *shouldn't* take a nap\n3. For approximately how long I should take a nap to achieve the restfulness and wakefulness I desire for the rest of the day\n4. How to nap properly so I can feel rested and not groggy when I wake up from it\n\nThanks in advance!",
"The perfect nap Though I eventually feel better after taking a (~45 minute) nap, when I wake up from one I usually just want to go back to sleep and it takes me a while to feel un-groggy. I'd love to know:\n\n1. When during the day I should take a nap\n2. When during the day I *shouldn't* take a nap\n3. For approximately how long I should take a nap to achieve the restfulness and wakefulness I desire for the rest of the day\n4. How to nap properly so I can feel rested and not groggy when I wake up from it\n\nThanks in advance!",
"The perfect nap Though I eventually feel better after taking a (~45 minute) nap, when I wake up from one I usually just want to go back to sleep and it takes me a while to feel un-groggy. I'd love to know:\n\n1. When during the day I should take a nap\n2. When during the day I *shouldn't* take a nap\n3. For approximately how long I should take a nap to achieve the restfulness and wakefulness I desire for the rest of the day\n4. How to nap properly so I can feel rested and not groggy when I wake up from it\n\nThanks in advance!"
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"The key to a good nap is to not really fall asleep. And I mean not into deep sleep. If you get into your rem cycle you are screwed unless you can wake up at the end of it (90 minutes-ish). I will also often 'nap' and not actually fall asleep, but instead just relax and sit quietly doing nothing. Usually after that I will feel very rested without any grogginess. \n\nHere's a breakdown of what my naps usually look like:\n\n15-30 minutes \n\nEarly afternoon\n\nQuiet music (prefer speakers but headphones are okay if it is loud where I am)\n\nFlat on my back with my hands on my stomach\n\nUnder a light blanket but NOT under my normal covers\n\nFeet up on a pillow or something. Not sure why but this always helps me to be comfortable and rest easily. \n\nFocus on the music and the movement of your hands up and down on your stomach as you breathe. \n\nDrink a glass of water when you wake up. (Really important! Wakes you right up) \n\n\nAnyways, that's what I do and it seems to work really well. Learned from my grandmother who has been taking a 15 minute nap every day for like 40 years just like this. She's at the point where she immediately falls asleep and wakes up in 15 with no alarm. \n\n\nHope that helps. \n\n\ntl;dr --- 20 mins; lights out; quiet music; light blanket; flat on back; feet on a pillow; drink water when done",
"A trick that I picked up in my college years, was drink a cup of coffee, and immediately go for a ~20 min nap. It takes about 15-20 min for a cup of coffee to take affect in your body, so you get a great 2 stage affect. One you took a short nap and two you get a boost b/c of caffeine. Works great!",
"http://priceonomics.com/a-guide-to-optimized-napping/\n\n1. Early afternoon, right after lunch\n2. Not mentioned in the article, but I've heard not after sundown if you want to be able to fall asleep at night\n3. If you're sleep-deprived, napping will help but can't replace sleep. Also see #4.\n4. 20 minutes, or 70-90 minutes. Longer than 20 and you go into deeper sleep stages, which take more than an hour to cycle back to wakefulness.",
"You should take temperature into account. Usually a slightly cooler room temperature is best. [WebMD Link](http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/features/cant-sleep-adjust-the-temperature)",
"I read about this before. A coffee nap. And I can confirm that this seriously works. I've only fever done it when I had a lot of work I needed to get done for school, and this keeps your awake and your mind focused. "
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"How to put in two week's notice? Does the initial meeting with your boss where you break the news come before handing in a resignation letter, or simultaneously? Never done this before and doing it this Friday. ",
"How to put in two week's notice? Does the initial meeting with your boss where you break the news come before handing in a resignation letter, or simultaneously? Never done this before and doing it this Friday. ",
"How to put in two week's notice? Does the initial meeting with your boss where you break the news come before handing in a resignation letter, or simultaneously? Never done this before and doing it this Friday. ",
"How to put in two week's notice? Does the initial meeting with your boss where you break the news come before handing in a resignation letter, or simultaneously? Never done this before and doing it this Friday. "
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"Do the meeting and then have the final written notice ready. Include \"its been a pleasure working for you\" \"thankyiu for the opportunities",
"You go talk to your boss and they'll tell you how to formally submit the letter, if they need it in writing or if an email will do.",
"When you give your notice, be aware that they may cut you loose immediately. Don't be that employee that thinks they will get another two weeks of work/pay. ",
"New York\nAugust 1, 2016\n\nTo Whom it May Concern:\n\nPlease be advised that August 14, 2016 will be the last day of my employment at Chuck-Eee's PizzaSueySubs 'n Tej-o-Rama.\n\nWith best wishes for all the firm's future endeavors, I remain\n\nHerbert Fitzroy Pigglebottom VI"
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"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n",
"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n",
"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n",
"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n",
"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n",
"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n",
"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n",
"How should one handle a performance review when they have a lot of issues? To elaborate..\n\nI have a performance review coming up at work. I love my job and the company i work for, but have a lot of issues too. I work remotely and their communication is terrible: so bad that it has affected my performance and led to big errors being made that really shouldn't be. I really find them infuriating most of the time.\n\nHave you ever had to deal with a similar situation? How did you handle the review? Would you speak up, or let things slide?\n\n"
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"Reviews shouldn't be surprises. You should know your own performance and what is expected of you. And the same goes for the company. You should be telling them all along what is and isn't working for you. \n\nDon't go into the conversation ready to make excuses. Go into it ready to accept the feedback. Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect, its all about how you handle the feedback. In a separate conversation on a separate day, talk about what is not working for you. \n\nAnd going forward, when you aren't getting the communication you need, speak up. ",
"Your performance review ain't the time to bring up your issues with the co. It'll just look like insecurity or blame shifting. Trust me, I have to deal with this defensive mindset with my employees. Bring up your issues outside of the review - or when asked. If you are really feel like your performance has been effected by this stuff, why didn't you say something about it at the time instead of when you're under pressure -if you're so concerned about your performance? if you did, good on ya mate.",
"Would it be possible for you to approach your supervisors beforehand about the technical problems? Then during your review, when those issues come up, you could say that you've alerted your supervisors to the problem and are working to resolve them.\n\nEveryone screws up. The important thing when you're confronted about your shortcomings is to have responses, not excuses. That's the definition of the word \"responsible!\"",
"Whenever I have an opportunity to talk to my boss about my job, I feel it is in my own best interest to express what *I* need from her/the company. If you don't tell them what you're struggling with and how they can help, how can you reasonably expect things to get better?\n\nGranted, nothing has changed for me and I don't actually expect it to, but there will be no surprises when I leave in the future.\n\nThis needn't be in a defensive \"yeah, but...!\" way; take in their perspective, then voice your own concerns regarding your performance/job.",
"You received a lot of good advice. My advice to extend their advice is to define a set of improvements that you can own. Don't just blame others for the poor communication. As a manager I know that won't be viewed well. When I don't understand something well, I go to the communicator and get the info I need. \n",
"You need to express to them that you want to perform really well, but in order to do that you need this, this, and this from them. Tell them that you would like to write out a plan to implement. Have specific dates ready such as \"I want to write out a plan by 7/1/15 and implement it by 7/15/15.\"",
"If you are referring to communication issues as being between you and your coworkers (verses technical issues), then this is something that should you should already be having conversations with your manager about. Be constructive with any suggestions and avoid finger pointing at all costs. If you have issues as you say, then make some suggestions on how the process might be improved and show how it would benefit the company. \n",
"If the company has no issues, you will not be employed. Your job is to solve the issues and you will be measured by performance review. If you never speak up, will issues disappear themselves? "
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"How to stay up late Hi guys, Lately I've been aware of how much time i wasted in university, doing same courses over and over again until now i finally decided to step up and get my stuff together. But as night comes(11oclock and onwards) i get really really sleepy when i still need to be up studying... So do you guys have any tips on how i can stay up longer(without help of caffeine)?",
"How to stay up late Hi guys, Lately I've been aware of how much time i wasted in university, doing same courses over and over again until now i finally decided to step up and get my stuff together. But as night comes(11oclock and onwards) i get really really sleepy when i still need to be up studying... So do you guys have any tips on how i can stay up longer(without help of caffeine)?",
"How to stay up late Hi guys, Lately I've been aware of how much time i wasted in university, doing same courses over and over again until now i finally decided to step up and get my stuff together. But as night comes(11oclock and onwards) i get really really sleepy when i still need to be up studying... So do you guys have any tips on how i can stay up longer(without help of caffeine)?",
"How to stay up late Hi guys, Lately I've been aware of how much time i wasted in university, doing same courses over and over again until now i finally decided to step up and get my stuff together. But as night comes(11oclock and onwards) i get really really sleepy when i still need to be up studying... So do you guys have any tips on how i can stay up longer(without help of caffeine)?"
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"Study earlier...wake up earlier...manage your daytime better...i think...\nBecause if you are sleepy, you are sleepy, nothing you can do about it (neither you should, besides sleeping...)\nWhat i used to do when i was in uni, i got to the point where i couldn't stay awake late at night anymore, and chose to wake up earlier to study.\n",
"I suggest drinking a bunch of water when you get sleepy, I find that a lot of times I am sleepy I am actually a bit dehydrated and drinking a bunch of water wakes me right up. Although the other people here also have a point. Staying up late doing poor quality studying for like 2 hours after 11 would be far inferior to going to sleep at 11 and getting up 2 hours earlier and studying then.",
"Can I ask why you can't get the reading done before 11 pm, as that would be my overall suggestion. If there's a reason this obviously does not apply.",
"Clock off at 11 then sleep. Get sona alarm app or an app to wake you up based on sleep cycles and set that at 4 am. By the time you snooze you're up by 4:30 and fixing your bed at five, jogging and returned home at 6, get break fast then shower be at the library by 7 am. Don't leave that place until lunch and class, return after, short of coffebreaks or peeing stay until lib closes. Repeat this until the end of the semester even if the finals are far away. You'd get As in no time. \n\nSeriously, if I studied as hard as I did in law school for undergrad I would have graduated at the top of my class. In law that's just 'normal'. Oh well. "
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"an alarm that you only notice if you are awake This sounds weird so let me explain.\n\nRecently I've been having trouble sleeping. It doesn't happen every night, though.\n\nThere are things I can do to prevent it (e.g. take a pill, go for a walk) but I'd rather not do them on nights when I can fall asleep normally. But it's hard to keep track of this kind of thing introspectively - if I lie there thinking \"am I experiencing insomnia right this instant?\", that seems like it would only make it worse. Same if I was in bed checking the clock all the time.\n\nAn ideal solution would be setting some kind of alarm for, say 30 minutes, and then if I'm still awake, it would tell me to get up and do the thing, but if I'm asleep, it wouldn't bother me. But a regular sound- or light-based alarm would wake me up even if I was asleep, which would defeat the purpose.\n\nI realize this sounds like some kind of paradox riddle, but it really would be helpful if such an alarm would be possible.",
"an alarm that you only notice if you are awake This sounds weird so let me explain.\n\nRecently I've been having trouble sleeping. It doesn't happen every night, though.\n\nThere are things I can do to prevent it (e.g. take a pill, go for a walk) but I'd rather not do them on nights when I can fall asleep normally. But it's hard to keep track of this kind of thing introspectively - if I lie there thinking \"am I experiencing insomnia right this instant?\", that seems like it would only make it worse. Same if I was in bed checking the clock all the time.\n\nAn ideal solution would be setting some kind of alarm for, say 30 minutes, and then if I'm still awake, it would tell me to get up and do the thing, but if I'm asleep, it wouldn't bother me. But a regular sound- or light-based alarm would wake me up even if I was asleep, which would defeat the purpose.\n\nI realize this sounds like some kind of paradox riddle, but it really would be helpful if such an alarm would be possible.",
"an alarm that you only notice if you are awake This sounds weird so let me explain.\n\nRecently I've been having trouble sleeping. It doesn't happen every night, though.\n\nThere are things I can do to prevent it (e.g. take a pill, go for a walk) but I'd rather not do them on nights when I can fall asleep normally. But it's hard to keep track of this kind of thing introspectively - if I lie there thinking \"am I experiencing insomnia right this instant?\", that seems like it would only make it worse. Same if I was in bed checking the clock all the time.\n\nAn ideal solution would be setting some kind of alarm for, say 30 minutes, and then if I'm still awake, it would tell me to get up and do the thing, but if I'm asleep, it wouldn't bother me. But a regular sound- or light-based alarm would wake me up even if I was asleep, which would defeat the purpose.\n\nI realize this sounds like some kind of paradox riddle, but it really would be helpful if such an alarm would be possible.",
"an alarm that you only notice if you are awake This sounds weird so let me explain.\n\nRecently I've been having trouble sleeping. It doesn't happen every night, though.\n\nThere are things I can do to prevent it (e.g. take a pill, go for a walk) but I'd rather not do them on nights when I can fall asleep normally. But it's hard to keep track of this kind of thing introspectively - if I lie there thinking \"am I experiencing insomnia right this instant?\", that seems like it would only make it worse. Same if I was in bed checking the clock all the time.\n\nAn ideal solution would be setting some kind of alarm for, say 30 minutes, and then if I'm still awake, it would tell me to get up and do the thing, but if I'm asleep, it wouldn't bother me. But a regular sound- or light-based alarm would wake me up even if I was asleep, which would defeat the purpose.\n\nI realize this sounds like some kind of paradox riddle, but it really would be helpful if such an alarm would be possible.",
"an alarm that you only notice if you are awake This sounds weird so let me explain.\n\nRecently I've been having trouble sleeping. It doesn't happen every night, though.\n\nThere are things I can do to prevent it (e.g. take a pill, go for a walk) but I'd rather not do them on nights when I can fall asleep normally. But it's hard to keep track of this kind of thing introspectively - if I lie there thinking \"am I experiencing insomnia right this instant?\", that seems like it would only make it worse. Same if I was in bed checking the clock all the time.\n\nAn ideal solution would be setting some kind of alarm for, say 30 minutes, and then if I'm still awake, it would tell me to get up and do the thing, but if I'm asleep, it wouldn't bother me. But a regular sound- or light-based alarm would wake me up even if I was asleep, which would defeat the purpose.\n\nI realize this sounds like some kind of paradox riddle, but it really would be helpful if such an alarm would be possible.",
"an alarm that you only notice if you are awake This sounds weird so let me explain.\n\nRecently I've been having trouble sleeping. It doesn't happen every night, though.\n\nThere are things I can do to prevent it (e.g. take a pill, go for a walk) but I'd rather not do them on nights when I can fall asleep normally. But it's hard to keep track of this kind of thing introspectively - if I lie there thinking \"am I experiencing insomnia right this instant?\", that seems like it would only make it worse. Same if I was in bed checking the clock all the time.\n\nAn ideal solution would be setting some kind of alarm for, say 30 minutes, and then if I'm still awake, it would tell me to get up and do the thing, but if I'm asleep, it wouldn't bother me. But a regular sound- or light-based alarm would wake me up even if I was asleep, which would defeat the purpose.\n\nI realize this sounds like some kind of paradox riddle, but it really would be helpful if such an alarm would be possible."
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"With what do you procrastinate sleep?\nIf its TV or phones, you could set timers that instead of alerting, they shut off or time out the device. A lack a noise or light will probably not wake a sleeping person but it will get your attention if awake.",
"Try a guided m",
"What about putting an electric fan on a timer? If it goes on and you’re awake, you’ll notice it. But a sudden breeze wouldn’t wake you (I think).",
"Try getting a ship or submarine clock with bells. They have a soft ding every 30 minutes increasing to 8 dings (4 hours) then reseting back to 1 ding at 0:30, 4:30, 8:30, 12:30, 16:30, and 20:30. \n\nI grew up in a house with one and it was always soft enough that it didn't wake anyone up. But if I couldn't fall asleep, I knew exactly what time it was. Real ones are super expensive and need to be wound, but you can find cheaper batter-operated ones.",
"Buddy i've experienced it and it sucks, sounds like excessive stress to me. You should work on that .",
"did you try to just focus on your breathing when lying in bed?\n\ndon't eat too late. just small snacks if you're hungry before you sleep. if your stomach works, it often prevents proper sleep (also it makes you fat, because you don't move and the body has nothing to do, but store it as fat).\n\nmake sure it's really dark. it increases the quality of sleep."
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"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
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"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
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"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
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"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n",
"How to make graceful conversation with someone when you don't understand what the fuck they're talking about My neighbor and I got into a conversation about the automatic seatbelt in my car and it ended up going to a bunch of car maintenance stuff that was way over my head and the best thing I could do is nod and say \"yeah/oh yeah?\" repeatedly\n\n"
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"I hit em with \"I am completely ignorant to this subject, so I'm happy I can learn a little\"\n\nThen be an active listener and ask conversation specific questions. \n\nYou 'automatic seatbelts are awesome.'\nThem 'oh yeah, I think 5 point seat belts are the best'\nYou 'oh yeah? I'm completely ignorant to 5 point seat belts. What makes them better than normal?'\n\nLoad your brain up with conversation continuers too.\n\nThem 'i like football'\nYou '*how long* have you been a fan?'\nYou '*what got you into* football?'\nYou '*what is your favorite* team/brand'",
"\"brother, I don't know shit from fuck about cars.\"\n\nNever underestimate the appeal of sincerity and honesty.",
"Some people just want to talk. I had a workmate that was a high-level water skier, and loved working on cars. Every break he'd talk non-stop about those subjects. \n\nEventually I had to say \"look, really sorry, but I really have no interest in those, and won't ever bother to learn\". \n\nHe smiled and said, \"that's fine, I just like to talk about it\".\n\nAfter that I was much happier because I had licence to ignore him in the break room, and he still got to talk.",
"All of these are good answers. The big takeaway is have some humility and be honest that you don't know. Chances are they will go more basic and are just happy to talk to someone.",
"Try asking questions which cause the person to go back to basics or think back to when they didn't know it.\n\n* How long have you known this sort of thing? \n* Who taught you about this?\n* Is there a beginners course I could take to learn more about this?",
"Going to sound harsh but I’m going to give two answers.\n\n1. Just listen, ask questions every time it’s over your head and treat it like a learning experience. You’ll get something from it, you’ll bond with him and be better learnt if this ever happens again with someone else.\n\n2. If you want to just switch the conversation do this:\n\n1a - do you think they’re a good idea (automatic seatbelts)\n\n2a - I’d never thought about it like that. \n\n3a - I guess it’s similar to this other thing (you know about but is unrelated)\n\nOr do this:\n\n1a- ahhh this isn’t something I ever really learnt about, how did you learn?\n\n1b - that’s fucking awesome do you think it’s been useful to have as knowledge?\n\n… now a conversation about learning and you can easily flip it by linking it back to something you learnt or want to learn\n\n",
"If you actually want to continue the conversation:\n\n“Sorry, I’m not much of a <topic> person, and all this is going way over my head. Could you explain a bit again in simpler terms? I’m a <other topic> person, if that helps.”\n\n“Sorry, I know jack shit about <topic>, let’s have another go Sesame Street style, for me?”\n\nIf you don’t want it to continue:\n\n“Ah yes, of course. Let me Google that later; I’m not too familiar with <topic>. By the way, <shift topic>…”\n(Actually Google it though. It’s good to know more about more things, and the next time you get into this topic, you can actually participate. It’s good for all.)\n\n“That’s cool. It’s all a bit over my head though, sorry if I can’t contribute much.”\n\nIf you don’t mind being rude, you guys are close, and you have impeccable timing:\n\n“Look, a flying cow!”\n(istg I have used it unironically and it does work, but only with close friends)",
"« I’m afraid I don’t know anything about this, but it seems it’s a passion of yours! How long have you been into cars? »",
"To me in sounds like he just wanted to talk to someone. It's absolutely fine, chances are he's an adult without relative social circles on the topic of interest.\n\nTo answer your question, the best practice is to not participate in something you have no desire or interest to participate.\n\nHowever, if it's unavoidable — ask people follow up questions such as: \"Which seatbelt technology is your favorite?\" \"Have you used it?\" \"Once upon I was wiring extra speakers and now my interior lights are dimmer, any ideas why?.\n\nThese questions crank up your perceived charisma and give them the feeling of your true interest in their personality. Hell remember that conversation and will be looking forward to *having more* of these with you. And now you sitting in his garage and pretending you care that you change the tires together. \n\nOn the other hand, it actually can also lead to you gaining actual interest and becoming friends with the neighbor, which is always good 😊\n\nSo it's solely up to you how these conversations will turn out.",
"Rather than saying you don’t know what they are talking about, which is likely to shut down the conversation, pick out the specific vocabulary you are missing and ask what it means. It signals that you are not a subject matter expert but that you are trying to understand. If there are a lot of words you don’t understand just start with one, and go from there.",
"So all you have to do is feign attention and reply with right on … my experience people always feel validated with that response … unfortunately I told my family that trick so be careful who you tell about it ..",
"You can go one of two ways. Nod and agree OR something along the lines of, wow I had no idea there was that much to do, you know a lot more about this subject them me but I'm happy to learn. Can I ask a question? What did you mean by XYZ?I didn't really understand that part. Then they will happily talk your ear off but hopefully you'll learn something plus gain a friend",
"I just say \"wow i didnt know about this the more you learn\" and let them conversate and listen like a podcast. Not alot of people have someone to listen into there interests and im always happy to here about them",
"I have the amazing ability to make what I think is a funny joke/comment during any conversation. 99 times out of a 100 the conversation will die awkwardly as soon as the words leave my mouth.",
"Say, I am pretty neive in this stuff, would love to learn from you, can you spare sometime every weekend to teach me at your garage?\n\nYou'll either learn something or the person will give up",
"Depends.\n\nDo I want to learn more about the subject being discussed? Then a simple; 'I honestly don't know much about this but I want to learn more' goes a long way.\n\nDo I not give a shite? Then it's 'Hope you're not offended but I just don't understand the subject and I'm afraid I don't have time right now to discuss it more. But thanks for trying anyway!'\n\n\nThere's too much ambiguity in today's conversations and I'm a firm believer that it benefits both parties if you're just up front about it from the start.",
"Some people love to talk to people about things that are new to them. I’m not a huge football fan, my buddy loves to tell me how the teams are doing, what they need to win, who is injured and why that’s going to effect them.\nIf they are passionate, you won’t get them to stop explaining.😁",
"Never ever turn down the opportunity to admit you don't know or understand anything! \n\n\nPeople love to expound on their hobbies or expertise and love the chance to do so. Ask questions and be interested and you will gain Kama and be seen in a good light by them.",
"Just fucking tell the truth. “I don’t know anything about that, how does it work? What is it? When did you get into cars?” The key to any conversation is active listening and asking questions, not trying to put up a front.",
"In your post, you say you want to continue the conversation and everyone here is telling you to be upfront with \"I don't know anything about cars\" which is the right approach. However, if you would like to continue the chat, just ask questions. If they come out with a term you don't understand, ask what it is and they should be able to relate to something simple for you to understand. It doesn't make you less of a person for asking qurstions. A learning experience!\n\nIn the future, if you *do not* want to continue a conversation, then, you kind of have to take a dominant role in the conversation for a few seconds and say you need the toilet or something. Then say bye.",
"I always add a dude I don’t know nothin about that then ask questions that express interest and that I’m listening. Cause usually I don’t care to learn either. But if someone’s kind enough to want to share I’m thankful for their time and attention so imma be as genuinely interested as I can. Idk. High.",
"I actually do what you do. It's polite. I don't know anything about cars but get into these talks all of the time.",
"Ever tried to have a discussion with someone who’s drinking. It reminds me of that. Lots of supposedly brilliant ideas that are completely out to lunch.",
"Absolutely tell him that you're a lay in this field. People will usually fall back onto \"easier\" language automatically, so you, a lay, can still understand them. \n\nIf you want to engage further, you can ask questions. Or express your interest (\"That's fascinating/I didn't know that.\"). \n\nIf you're not interested in the subject, do not ask more questions (You can still smile and nod. But not asking questions usually conveys a superficial interest and not a deeper interest, and the conversation will usually fade out at this point.).",
"“You know so much about cars. I’ll have to come find you if I have questions”.\n\nIt seems like your neighbour is just looking for a way to connect.",
"i just straight up admit that i don’t know what they’re talking about (in a polite funny way ) and then allow them to continue to share their knowledge with me. ppl enjoy sharing their passions. trying to keep up with a topic you don’t understand will become obvious to the other person at some point anyway. just rip it off like a band aid.",
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"[this great New Yorker cartoon by Will Mcphail always comes to mind!](https://condenaststore.com/featured/well-this-conversation-isnt-going-to-end-itself-will-mcphail.html)",
"You basically did it. Nod and smile, then ask relevant questions at logical break points in their rambling to suggest interest, even if you're not really paying attention at all.\n\nIn casual settings, people usually don't talk because they want you to listen. They talk either to be social, or to brain dump. It's not about you at all.",
"With something universal (non-political, non-opinionated, etc) like car maintenance, I would say the best thing to do would be to admit you don’t know much and ask questions. Not only will you probably learn something, you will also help to create a bond with your neighbor while helping make them feel good about being able to help/teach you. Even if you aren’t interested it’s a great way to establish a bond with someone. \n\nI try to do this at work all the time with fantasy football and fishing talk. People just recognize it as you being someone pleasant to be around.",
"Why does 'car maintenance stuff' go over your head? You should learn more about the machines upon which you depend.",
"When they start on a topic I have no knowledge of, I typically say \"I'm just going to pretend I actually know exactly what you're talking about.\"\n\nSaid in the right tone, usually makes them laugh.",
"Try ask targeted questions to get them to teach you some of the things and show them you understood by repeating some things back to them. People love that shit and it requires zero knowledge going in, you'll make them feel helpful, you'll learn some general knowledge, and they'll feel validated that someone interested in what they're interested in.\n\nWorked for me at least, got a good portion of friends from that",
"This is where being autistic has it's advantages in my opinion. I would say \"I don't understand what you're talking about\". If I actually cared (which I usually do with technical subjects, I'd ask them to dumb it down a little bit.",
"Thank you op for this super helpful life pro tip, this is what this sub is for, for mindblowing life pro tips, now i know everything will be ok",
"Tell them you don’t understand what they are talking about. Ask them to dumb it down, and compliment them on their expertise. Build them up to talk it down.",
"Start comparing it to things you do know to show your own level of comprehension, which might inform the personal you are talking to you dumb it down a little for your own sake",
"Sometimes its the other person that makes the conversation difficult to follow- there is this way of talking about things in hyper detail but with insider vocabulary and presumptive knowledge that both assumes you know what the words are that they're saying but know absolutely nothing else about the subject matter... Which is rarely anyone. When talking with someone who doesn't know about a subject, there is an art to figuring out where they are and stepping them up in terms of vocabulary and deeper knowledge. Hope that makes sense lol",
"Since you are actually interested in the conversation, Instead of nodding the best thing you can do is to ask questions when you don't understand something. By the end of the conversation you will end up learning something interesting and the other person is happy that you are paying attention to the conversation.",
"Simply say “I have no clue what you just said I don’t do X” saves a lot of time 🤷♂️ if you fancy the person who’s giving the advice say “I have no clue what you just said, I don’t do X but come over for coffee and explain, so interesting 😉” hold those two lines in your head and they will serve you well 😎",
"Related LPT: how to gracefully continue a conversation when THEY don’t understand what the fuck they’re talking about.",
"Read their intention and ride the wave. If he’s wanting to be friendly and expression car stuff just listen respectfully. If he’s trying to have a friendly conversation then talk about whatever the hell you want.",
"Politely say you don't know much about this kind of thing. Ask for recommendations, suggestions, what they mean, how it works, etc. People love to talk about themselves or teach about something that they believe they are very educated about. In this case, just be like a student and politely try to understand what it is that they are describing.\n\nTo only nod and agree makes them feel like you already know this stuff, are ignorant and/or arrogant, or not very social. Not really a good impression. \n\nWorst case is to pivot the conversation to something that you and your neighbor can relate to. Or forcibly change the topic.",
"People love talking about themselves. Just ask questions about the topic, or questions about how the person knows about subject.",
"Now do: “How to make graceful conversation with someone when THEY don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about.”",
"Not an LPT. The comments have way better tips. There's so many ways to go about it, like asking questions and just BEING interested.",
"My experience was decades ago at a large financial institution. On a number of occasions I’d have incidental contact with this one particular bloke and I’d try and make conversation because he wasn’t really the type to initiate casual chat. He’d invariably start talking about his work and I had no idea what he was talking about. I’m sorry Alan, you were a nice bloke but it all went straight over my head.",
"My best friend is a computer nerd. He can ramble on and on and ON, about how to build a computer. I act like I am listening intently, and mid and shake my head when appropriate. I have no idea what he is talking about, but it is his passion, so I pretend interest.",
"Listen, conclude and ask questions is something I've been taught. You might pick up on something you recognise if the subject is unfamiliar.",
"Like any social situation, I don't think there's a one-and-done way to handle this all the time. It depends on you, and it depends on the person you're talking to. For example, why do you want to continue the conversation? Is it because you're genuinely interested in what they're saying, or because you just want to be polite?\n\nIf you're actually interested in what they're saying, just listen to them and ask questions about what you'd like to learn about. They're clearly happy talking, so if you're happy listening, there's no reason to make it any more complicated. Let them talk about seat belts, let yourself listen to them talking about seat belts. That's a good conversation in everyone's books.\n\nIf you're just trying to be polite, then it really depends on the person you're talking to. My opinion has always been that in one-on-one exchanges, manners are less about social norms and more about making the person you're talking to feel comfortable around you. So, is this someone talking *to* you, or someone talking *at* you? Sometimes people make small talk because they want to talk to you, other times people make small talk because they want to talk. If it's the first, you can probably just be honest and say, \"oh, I don't really know much about that,\" in a way that implies a polite disinterest. They'll probably take the hint and be glad you let them know instead of letting them ramble on and bore you without realising. After a slightly awkward pause the conversation will likely change topic quite naturally.\n\nIf it's the second, and they are talking *at* you, and you're still certain that this is someone you want to indulge, then the most polite thing is just to let them talk. Fill the silence between their words with random \"oh?\", \"the more you know\", \"that's cool\", and \"there you go\" sounds, and let them feel good for having a lovely chat with you. If you're uncertain whether it's appropriate to tell them flatly that you're uninterested in the topic, but also feel that they do want a genuine conversation with you, I personally like to let them talk but feign interest in a low-effort and very unconvincing way. If they're paying the slightest amount of attention, they'll notice I'm only feigning interest to be polite; if they're not, they won't notice I'm not actually interested. Win-win.",
"Let’s say they are talking about the super sweet auto laser cloud inhibitor standard on all 2022 mega-Teslas—I hit them with “tell me more about the cloud inhibitor. I read about that but don’t really get it”",
"Just drop the line: “Yeah…I’m about to rail two lines of coke, wanna join me?!?!” That’ll get them real quiet, real fast!!! 😳🫡😮💨💨",
"Just be honest. Tell them you don't understand what they're saying. If they're also interested in continuing the conversation, they'll take a minute to explain what they're saying in greater detail. I work in a highly technical field and this happens a lot if I'm not familiar with the software or coding language someone is talking about. Sometimes it's a quick explanation and I'm able to follow along after that. Sometimes I have to go read some tutorials to familiarize myself with it and we can discuss later. We should all be comfortable admitting that we don't know everything. It would lead to much more patient, understanding, and fruitful discourse.",
"Just be honest and ask questions. You might not know what they’re talking about but you can engage with them and show interest in the topic if that person matters to you.",
"Just ask questions on things you don't understand, most people in conversation loves to expand on their knowledge, which makes them feel smart. But you need to be confident in your ignorance, not everyone knows everything about everything.",
"Just admit you don’t know what they’re talking about and ask some questions, if you’re actually interested. They’ll appreciate the honesty and the chance to share their knowledge with you.",
"Just a quick pivot.\n\nThe same approach mentioned in this thread often also applies to forgetting someone's name mid conversion. I found that once I leaned into, 'I'm really sorry, but I've forgotten your name'. Most people are happy to remind you, and usually appreciate that I cared enough to *want* to know their name, rather than trying to bluff my way through.\n\nAlso, most people have a sense of the humility required to actually ask again for a name, so are generally happy to oblige. It can even build rapport, especially if you repeat the name back to them, in conversation.",
"I’m usually pretty honest. I would probably say something like “ I have no clue what you’re talking about but I’m always happy to learn new things”\n\nIf I don’t t want to keep the conversation going I’ll say something like “I wish I could contribute a bit more to the convo but I don’t know enough about the topic”",
"It works until someone checks you. I do it all the time just nod and act like you know what they’re talking about. Maybe some context clue will come along and help you out. Then they say OH you know such and such? And I’m like…. (Still nodding) uhhh… no actually but I’m interested to know what your talking about lol",
"If you’re genuinely interested, be open and honest about knowing nothing and ask pertinent questions. If you aren’t interested and you get stuck on a topic, I usually like to say “I’m completely lost and feeling dumber by the minute”, get a laugh and then seize the momentary silence to start a new conversation track. \n\nIf it’s a group setting, you need to gauge the overall interest of the parties in the first topic though.",
"If you don't understand, but you are curious and friendly enough to want to know more and continue, you could always suggest something like \"let me be honest, that's over my head by this point... You wanna show me whats going on?\" \n\nSometimes the practical example is easier to grasp that the theory. Someone telling you something about something you don't get can suck. Plus if you wanna see it in action, it really shows you're a cool dude.",
"If they’re talking about something random, they just want someone to listen. Nodding and saying “ok” is all good",
"If they are on a topic that you know nothing about tell them. Nothing more insulting than a person listening like they understand me and then lying or just cutting off conversation. \n\nPeople like to talk sports to me. I don't like sports. Why should I waste your time? I know rules of a few of them, I know a few names, but why will I open that door and talk on a topic I am ignorant about and lead you on? Its just insulting.",
"If I really want to get out of the conversation, I tell them I have to pee. If I also don't like them and want to offend them, I tell them I explosive diarrhea. Stops people in their tracks.",
"If I am interested in the topic I tell them that I have no idea, so they explain me. If not... I do more or less the same as you.",
"I think you did fine and are overthinking it. Ask questions to clarifyu things you don't understand/ jargon like you would do at school",
"I like to say, “the words you are saying…I do not understand them.” That always gets a laugh out of them and they re-explain",
"I just swat my hand over my head and go \"woosh\". If they're not socially inept, they'll take it as their cue to change the subject. If they continue, then it means they are either socially inept or talking just to flex. If I am in a position to escape, I will shut down the conversation and leave. If I can't escape, I will just smile and nod.",
"I just ask the person questions. Even if I’m not genuinely interested in what they have to say, just a way of being polite and plus you never know what you can learn from it in the end of such conversations. So yeah I would have to say just ask questions in that regard man.",
"I just ask questions that indicate I have no idea what they’re talking about, hoping that they’ll simplify what they’re saying so I can actually contribute to the conversation instead of resorting to the “yeah/oh yeah?”.\n\nThought it’s hard to know how to handle the situation when you actually don’t want to be talking to the person anymore or about the specific topic",
"I had this experience but turned up to 11 some years ago. I had to install some equipment in a factory in Germany and was told that I had to attend a safety briefing first. Unfortunately the safety rep didn't speak English and my knowledge of German is limited to ordering beer and dinner. So I had to sit for 15 minutes nodding my head, occasionally saying 'Ja' and pretending I had understood everything.",
"I get really comfortable admitting when I don't understand something, turn my curiosity on, and ask questions when the convo wanders into territory I can't follow.\n\nMost good people will be eager to help get to your level to help gain more understanding, or may choose to politely change the subject if they don't want to do that.\n\nIf someone reacts with anger, condescension, or impatience to this, a good sign they're not that invested in collaborative communication and probably not great to talk to anyway.",
"I don’t think there’s any immediate solution to not knowing the depth of a topic. I listen, and if I don’t understand, I just ask them to explain or hit ‘em with “I’m kinda dumb, what does that mean?”\n\nI’ve actually been schooled on a lot of topics that are dry to me, like weight suspension on race cars or horse taming and dog breeding. \n\nThey knew I knew nothing about it, but they clearly had an interest so I was willing to listen. Like how my girlfriend will listen to me explain the entire plot of the Halo books and I know she has no interest in it, she’s just interested in what I like—there’s ghosts of proof that she listens, too. Saying like “oh didn’t you say you didn’t have this book?” Or something.",
"I don’t often have the problem of holding a conversation about a topic I don’t understand. I often have the problem of holding up a conversation when the other side is basically making shit up or talking about insanity. Got tips for those conversations?",
"I converse as earnestly as I can with little kids telling me about Roblox/Minecraft. I don't want to kill their joy at sharing but wtf is a nether.",
"I also have been knowns say, I know those are English ( sub whatever language you're speaking in) words but I really don't understand what you just said. Can you explain it on simple terms?",
"Honestly, it's okay to say you don't know what they're talking about. If you're really interested your neighbor will probably love to go into more detail. If you're not really interested try to find a way to nicely change the subject. It's okay to say cars are not your thing. If they continue to talk about it even after you have nicely told them you're not really interested in cars then avoid your neighbor after you find a way out haha.",
"Hit him with the honesty. Tell him where you are at and maybe inquire about things hes saying. Could make hik feel nice that you are actually interested and listening to him. When in doubt always ask questions about the other party. Just try to make those questions conversation provoking in some way. Also sometimes its gonna be awkward, thats ok",
"Here’s an instructional video on this very topic https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS940US940&hl=en-US&sxsrf=ALiCzsaoKazLXA8SLFO61JHjCGdAA1E6xQ:1667152235211&q=the+limey+bide+tour+time&tbm=vid&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjnp5CGwoj7AhW-JEQIHWQABOUQ0pQJegQIBxAB&biw=414&bih=720&dpr=2#fpstate=ive&vld=cid:9e20957a,vid:VKcpoyC6RMA",
"Graceful- \"Sorry, I'm not sure what youre saying anymore.\" \n\nIt's perfectly okay to just openly say you don't understand . People seem to think not knowing a subject well enough to talk about it is something to be ashamed of.",
"First- great request. I always get caught when something goes over my head I assume because I have no poker face and probably look genuinely confused. Anyhow, so can tell that moment when people realize I’m not following them, so I like to avoid the awkwardness by saying something funny like “well what you’re saying sounds super interesting but to be honest this is a tad over my head, forgive me!” And they usually are gracious and dumb it down nicely. The other one I use, generally at work, is “this is not my primary area of expertise and I think I’m following what you’re getting at, but would you mind maybe clarifying a little more so I can fully understand?”. Again, coming out with admitting you’re lost and then asking for help - I’ve learned people usually never refuse another human who is asking for help. Unless they’re assholes. And when that happens then just realize they aren’t probably worth conversing with.",
"Dude why don’t you be honest?? Lmao and tell him you’re not too knowledgeable and could learn a thing or two from Him. Why be so worried about what he thinks of you to the point where you wouldn’t want to be honest in a small talk meaningless conversation? If you’re objective is to get away from the conversation ASAP then maybe your response would have been good idk. But just talk to the guy. LMAO",
"Do that thing where you wait until they turn away and then when they turn back you are already gone like Batman.",
"Do it like Japanese do. Nod with respect. \"Hm\" with interest. And after 15 minutes tell them you don't speak English.",
"Change the topic to the subject you DO want to talk about. \n\nSometimes people just get stuck on a topic and a new one hasn’t presented itself naturally in the conversation, so chose a new one and ….ask. \n\nYou WILL need to acknowledge the topic that you’re talking about and then use a communication bridge to move to the next topic. Otherwise it seems abrupt and it can throw people off. \nBut it can be as simple as….\n\nYou: “Thank you, for explaining all of that to me. I will keep that in mind. I would love to hear more about it some other time, but I’ve been meaning to ask you a very serious question….. when’s the next time you’re planning on firing up that grill of yours?”\n\nThank you = I heard you\n\nI would love …. Some other time = I want to talk to you more\n\nBut….question = I’m changing the topic \n\nGrill = feed me",
"Ask them if they know you can’t say the word “moist” on the radio. Then look off into the distance repeating the word “moist” aloud but softly (as if your contemplating it’s intrinsic meaning) and walk away like your following an invisible word like a stray balloon.",
"Ask questions. You don’t need to pretend to know everything! Ask questions on parts you are interested in, share info that you do know, and that’s my go to for things like this. \n\nPeople love talking about what they know so it’s good for both you and your neighbour because they enjoy it and you learn to!",
"Ask questions about where they learned this information. This transitions the conversation to more relatable topics like school, family, and friends.",
"Ask clarifying questions. So what happened then? How did that pan out? Did that affect anything else? What did you think about the outcome?",
"As long as you want to learn a bit about what they're talking about, ask direct questions about what you don't understand!",
"As a former hairstylist I can say I was pretty good at having these kinds of conversations, especially with the elderly.",
"*\"damn, that's crazy\"*\n\nUsually I just ask what they mean. I like it when someone asks me to explain something I know in-depth, or am passionate about.",
"\"sorry, man, you just blew way past my level of expertise. Can you dumb it down a little for the slow guy?\"",
"\"This sounds cool but I have no idea what any of this means. What got you interested in this topic?\"\n\nTransition out of the specifics and into areas that are relatable or into a more surface level discussion of the topic.",
"\"Dude I just want to ask about automatic seatbelts, why are you telling me about your favorite episodes of Initial D in full detail?\"",
"\n\nFor leaving:\n\n\"You sure know your way around cars. Sorry to chat and dash, I just remembered something I need to take care of.\"\n\nFor staying with a better conversation:\n\n\"Whoa, you're talking way over my head here. I'm not smart about this stuff like you are. Now, you mentioned a carburetor, I've heard that word before, but you know, I never understood what it does.\" \n\nOr \n\n\"That filter should be changed every 2 years? What happens if it gets clogged?\"\n\nAnd of course if they work as a mechanic you can ask stuff like \"do you have any good 'just rolled into the shop' stories?\"",
"Read up on automatic car seat belts. Really dig in. Next time you meet, take him down to learning town. As a courtesy ask if he's following you and say \"do you need to catch up\" if it seems appropriate. When you part use a single gun or double finger gun sign off. Use your imagination on this one.",
"This is so dumb, but I just stop talking at all. Keeping nodding with wide, curious eyes, but say nothing at all. Eventually they usually realize they’ve been the only one talking for a while.",
"If you care about the technical information, follow the above tips and ask probing questions to help with your understanding. \n\nIf you don’t care, just shrug and maybe be a little flip and say, “I don’t know how or why it works, I just care that it does. If it doesn’t, that’s on the dealership.” 🤷♀️",
"I usually pretend to be falling asleep like the meerkat in algebra class on YouTube \n\nhttps://youtu.be/jjQ2V4CdSsg",
"i mean you should have figured this out way back in high school when people wanna ramble about something you don’t care or know about",
"Not saying I'm gifted in the social graces, but I'm usually just honest and say \"that's way more info than I need to know\" or \"i can't really keep up\" or something.",
"Why do people make things so difficult? Just be honest and politely say “sorry jim, this stuff is way over my head”, and then change the subject. It’s your neighbor, not your wife.",
"“Accidentally” Drop an item you are holding. The natural break is an excellent time to transition out of an awkward conversation.",
"Say that. I've said \"I don't know a lot about that subject\" or if they're being annoying \" I don't know what the fuck you're talking about.\" \n\nWe have to stop being afraid to speak.",
"Haha excuse me for asking so many questions I’ve never been interested in this subject so I know nothing about it. (I’m not usually passive aggressive, but listening to car stuff of which I know nothing —- I will yawn loudly and look at my watch while I say this)",
"\"wow, I just learned more about (subject) in 5 minutes than I had known in my entire life up to this point\"\n\nAnd hope they get the hint.",
"like old timers start talking sports with me. sorry old dude, i work 2 jobs my entire life. i dont have the luxury of watching tv for hours a day.",
"Idk man. Usually questions about his wife makes his stop. \n\n\"I heard your wife can scream upto 80dB. Is that true?\"\n\"Does she still wear that strap-on to hang grocery bags?\"",
"you could be rude like me... example\n\nTHEM: Automatic seatbelts save lives and did you know they where designed by an engineer that was born into poverty and then became a millionaire right out of college?\"\n\nMe: Who gives a fack.... I'm hungry , Ima go eat(walk away without saying goodbye)\n\nyeah, that teaches them not to give me useless facts that I did not ask for and If I ever need to know.... I can google it.",
"This is why it's important to have your phone in your hand, so you can glance at it and say \"oh, I'm sorry, I've been waiting for this call\" , put the phone up to your ear, \"answering\" it, and walking away Hey, you gotta do what you gotta do!",
"I say something like \"Well I'm glad there are people like you who understand this stuff, so people like me can play guitar and go surfing. Speaking of which, I'm late for a gig/high tide/suicide attempt'\"."
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"How do I end a conversation without coming off as rude when I have things to do? This happens a lot with my dad, usually later in the evening; me and him will get talking and it will end up being an hour (plus) conversation, all the while in the back of my mind I'm thinking how I need to get homework or other things done. I don't want to appear rude and uncaring of what he says, but at the same time sometimes I have things to do and I can't spend an hour or more chatting when I've got things due in tomorrow. Is there any easy way to just say \"I understand you want to tell me this, but can we do it another time as I have XYZ to do\". Any help is appreciated, cheers. ",
"How do I end a conversation without coming off as rude when I have things to do? This happens a lot with my dad, usually later in the evening; me and him will get talking and it will end up being an hour (plus) conversation, all the while in the back of my mind I'm thinking how I need to get homework or other things done. I don't want to appear rude and uncaring of what he says, but at the same time sometimes I have things to do and I can't spend an hour or more chatting when I've got things due in tomorrow. Is there any easy way to just say \"I understand you want to tell me this, but can we do it another time as I have XYZ to do\". Any help is appreciated, cheers. ",
"How do I end a conversation without coming off as rude when I have things to do? This happens a lot with my dad, usually later in the evening; me and him will get talking and it will end up being an hour (plus) conversation, all the while in the back of my mind I'm thinking how I need to get homework or other things done. I don't want to appear rude and uncaring of what he says, but at the same time sometimes I have things to do and I can't spend an hour or more chatting when I've got things due in tomorrow. Is there any easy way to just say \"I understand you want to tell me this, but can we do it another time as I have XYZ to do\". Any help is appreciated, cheers. ",
"How do I end a conversation without coming off as rude when I have things to do? This happens a lot with my dad, usually later in the evening; me and him will get talking and it will end up being an hour (plus) conversation, all the while in the back of my mind I'm thinking how I need to get homework or other things done. I don't want to appear rude and uncaring of what he says, but at the same time sometimes I have things to do and I can't spend an hour or more chatting when I've got things due in tomorrow. Is there any easy way to just say \"I understand you want to tell me this, but can we do it another time as I have XYZ to do\". Any help is appreciated, cheers. "
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"The easiest way is to just say it, it's no use trying to think of excuses. Just say something like \"sorry, but I have a lot of stuff to do for tomorrow and I should get to it\". ",
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"You could say that your cell phone battery is dying, but if it's your dad, he'll soon get wise to that trick. \n\nI agree with the others, just say \"Dad, I love you, but I really need to get off the phone and get back to work. Let's talk more soon, when I get a break from this workload\" or something to that effect.\n\nIf he loves you, he'll understand. ",
"Just be tactful since it's your dad. I'm sure he will understand if you just let him know that you have work to get done but want to continue the conversation later. Then make sure you follow up when you aren't quite so busy. He will appreciate that. ",
"Just be direct. \n\nOr value every second you have with your parent, even if those seconds are spent metaphorically watching paint dry. \n\n"
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"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo).",
"Parents Should Consider Being a Grinch with Expensive Gaming Systems if Kids Are Struggling with School Pandemic Parenting Pro-Tip: A lot of kids are really struggling with distance learning. If your kid is having a hard time getting grades that are up to your standards already then do not purchase them an expensive gaming computer that they probably really, really want for Christmas this year. And the same goes for a PS5 or other devices. \n\nI work as a cultural liaison at a school with about 1,000 students, I have my own kids, and I work with hundreds of other educators and it's really hard right now for everyone, including the parents who often seem to be left out of these conversations. I'm seeing more and more kids that just aren't mature enough to manage the temptation to game all day and balance it with their other responsibilities. This is causing a lot of problems for them. I have kids who may not graduate on time or at all because of this problem. I'm not saying it's the only problem or even the biggest problem, but it is affecting many of my students and being a Grinch with an expensive gaming system now might be a loving thing to do even if they are dissapointed. The $200 utilitarian chromebook that your school (probably) provided is enough for them. If you really want to give them an awesome gaming system then put it away every day until they do their schoolwork and let them have it on evenings and weekends if they demonstrate adequate progress. And don't just take their word for it, verify it with the school using the parent portal that comes with your online learning software. \n\nOne technology splurge that would be nice is a good set of headphones with a microphone, but not those silly airpods, they just lose them or forget to charge them. I also think corded is better than bluetooth but if it's not \"cool\" the kid won't be caught dead wearing them. (This ain't my first rodeo)."
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"I read your title and agreed with the message. The further down the post I got the more out of touch you seem. You lost me completely at the headphones. And then in your comments I’m pretty steadfast in disagreement. Instead of taking things away because you don’t think they can handle it, how ‘bout working with them so they can handle it?",
"Let kids cope with a massive pandemic that is killing their grandparents, parents, and even their peers. They aren’t immature, they’re trying to put some serotonin in their brains in any way they know possible. How about you buy these kids some microphones instead of complaining about their parents and labeling kids as “immature” for being kids.",
"The loving thing to do would be to refrain from holding them to standards that are unrealistic. Especially when those standards have become more unrealistic under the current circumstances.",
"As a high schooler learning during the pandemic don’t do this teach your kid better time management skills instead learning at school is incredibly mind numbing and boring and it’s super sucky not being able to go to school irl.",
"If your internet is pretty good, could just Stadia on a chrome book. That said, gotta rein those temptations. Blew my high school grades on SOEs infantry and planetside, still paying for it years later",
"No, kids should be able to get what they want if their parents can get it, it more important for children to be happy and cope with this pandemic than worrying about what headphones they have to wear or what they can or can't enjoy, even though they should do their work",
"All these comments sound like they’re coming from kids.\n\nParents should parent. That means using their judgement. If the kids have a healthy relationship with video games then it’s fantastic. Not only is it fun and central to a lot of real-life socializing, it’s 100x healthier than just watching TV.\n\nIf the kids have an unhealthy relationship with video games then parents should step in to help their kids deal with the problem. Removing the console/PC is only step 1 of that process and doesn’t fix the problem alone. \n\nIt’s the same thing as porn, nothing wrong with a little in moderation but if it becomes a problem then you need to treat it like a real addiction, or else there can be real downsides.",
"let's get real for fuck's sake: the school system sucks. \n\nmost teachers aren't doing their best because they're frustrated with their own lives and most kids don't find school interesting because it isn't.\n\nthe institutionalized way to teach is deeply boring. it lacks inovation and creativity. \n\nadults have a hard time matching the students' energy and creativity because their inner child has died long ago. there's no playfulness or flexibility. and kids need those to at least make the experience of learning enjoyable. why the fuck is that so hard to understand?\n\nkids need honesty to learn. they need to feel heard. they need to feel like they matter instead of being told to shut up all freaking day.\n\nadults can't stop complaining about how kids are \"unmanageable\". have you ever considered that they are also people that want to be seen, heard and respected?\n\njust telling parents to stop giving them games because they're much more stimulating than school won't solve the main problem - adults are pretty messed up and refuse to address their own issues, so they try to control kids as they try to control their miserable lives. no wonder they keep failing at both. and then blame the kids LOL.\n\nkids are amazing and we have a lot to learn from them, so we should be the ones starting a conversation with them about how things can be bettet and why.",
"Privileges are earned in this house. I have no problem gaming away on the playstation while my 5 yo throws a 2 hour tantrum because he doesn't want to do his schoolwork (it's a worksheet or 2 that could be finished in 10 minutes); no work=no play, crap work=more work, waste all of the time you want, your choice. Took him 2 days, but now he gets his work done quicker without the attitude and plays his heart out. Had my kid on chores since he was 2 and he LIKES helping to do chores (I'll enjoy it while it lasts). Judge me if you want, but I am blessed to have a very happy and well behaved child that is eager to learn and constantly being bragged on by others. Better to make them decent, productive human beings when they're young than suddenly trying to teach them when they're a rebellious teenager. Unfortunately, this pandemic is only increasing gaming time by limiting activities and gatherings, but also understand that gaming can be a good social outlet for these cabin fever stricken kids. There's definitely new parenting struggles to consider. These lonely @$$ kids stuck at home with buggy virtual learning and the masked kids still going to school have it a lot worse than we did. They'll never get to experience the joy of a school closing; virtual teaching evolved and eliminated that. I thought my schooling sucked; I can't even imagine what our little ones think of it.",
"I would agree to this if it were posted last year or any other year. \nThis year, everyone is behind/struggling with school. \nBut the actual theory I do agree with.",
"You’ll excuse me if I don’t think taking away children’s hobbies as an inexplicable way to teach them self-control, particularly now when it may be their link to the world. You sound like the sort that drives children to drink always being on their ass.",
"You know most or some kids play these games to help get through this pandemic and other hardships in there life like depression, you can't just take this away from us/them. For me personally gaming with my friends is one of the only things that makes me happy and helps me with depression",
"Or you could mind your own fucking business and allow parents to do their job as they see fit. God forbid they prioritize enjoying their families and friends during a global crisis, (whether anyone thinks it's curated or not, it's a crisis because of how affected everyone is) as opposed to focusing on your indoctrination work.",
"The headphones thing is that a really good set of headphones seems to help with virtual meetings and collaboration. Like, it's worth the extra money to splurge and it does make a difference. And many kids tell me that they don't have any or they lost them, etc. Plus they can also obviously work really well for listening to music and, of course, gaming and watching movies, etc which are all valid escapes when done in moderation. And a lot of kids just won't even do their online learning because of sound and privacy issues so I think it's a good investment. The airpods thing is a personal taste issue and kids do seem to lose them a lot which kind of defeats the purpose. But you can get a really premium, fashionable headphones/headset for $150 or less. So that was meant as a compromise believe it or not.",
"Parents dont have somewhere to send thier kids during the workday now. \n\nSo, the parents working from home ( if they were able to re-adjust thier schedules) have kids done in a hour or 2 with \"school\". \n\nThese kids are now parented by an XBox.",
"Buying over expensive things is of course not ideal, but depriving them of the only fun they can have during a pandemic is a sure way to depression. This way of parenting does not work and means that the only way you have to teach your kid something is by force. If you take away the pc they’ll just go out and do drugs. Medieval comments btw."
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"How to be informed enough to have conversations with coworkers. I read stuff when it pops up on reddit, but am not well informed at all when it comes to politics and the like. Any news sources that give brief information about current events and may possibly be somewhat interesting?"
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"This comes up here all the time, you can't fake having an interest in other people. You need to actually become interested in what they like.",
"If your looking for news specifically there's a daily email called The Skimm that provides exactly what you're looking for. Mine arrives around 6 am est Monday through Friday. I'd recommend it, quick little snippets of news stories, great for keeping up with things: www.theskimm.com "
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"How to get rid of nail polish smell My business shares a wall with a nail salon and we get the nail salon smell coming through our walls sometimes. Does anyone have a LPT for neutralizing the smell? Thanks in advance!",
"How to get rid of nail polish smell My business shares a wall with a nail salon and we get the nail salon smell coming through our walls sometimes. Does anyone have a LPT for neutralizing the smell? Thanks in advance!",
"How to get rid of nail polish smell My business shares a wall with a nail salon and we get the nail salon smell coming through our walls sometimes. Does anyone have a LPT for neutralizing the smell? Thanks in advance!"
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"Could be coming through the aircon, if that's the case all you can do is try to mask it or not use aircon. Take a shot at this though, mix equal parts rose water, tea tree oil and Lavander into a spray bottle. It makes for a powerful air freshener with no chemicals. Maybe go easy on the tea tree oil but Lavander is the way.",
"Charcoal bags!! They’re basically magic. They soak up odors and then about once a month you put them outside and UV rays basically reset them so they can keep absorbing smells. I bought mine on Amazon.",
"Are you smelling nail polish remover (acetone), or are you smelling MMA? Methyl methacrylate or MMA is a liquid used in artificial nail products. It is not legal in all states/areas. Look up your state cosmetology department regs, or talk to someone on the phone. It might be in your own interest to get that chemical out of there."
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"How to clean painted walls without ruining the paint Obviously the best method is to repaint the wall but if not, how do you clean dirt, etc off walls?",
"How to clean painted walls without ruining the paint Obviously the best method is to repaint the wall but if not, how do you clean dirt, etc off walls?",
"How to clean painted walls without ruining the paint Obviously the best method is to repaint the wall but if not, how do you clean dirt, etc off walls?"
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"Soapy water can work if you don't rub too hard or it is a light mark. There is also a product called \"Magic Eraser\".",
"I just tried the baking soda and wet rag method and it worked a treat ! It got rid of tea stains near my bin on a white wall and probably save me losing part of my rental deposit Thanks Illuminated bacon",
"A lot of it will be dependent on what type of paint is already on the walls (the base will determine what sort of solvents you can use without damaging the paint). Latex and oil based paints can withstand just about any house hold cleaning products. \n\nSome people suggest dish soap because its mild. Warm water and clean rags with a bit of elbow grease can solve a lot. \n\nAlso, never under estimate the power of a wet rag and baking soda and a magic eraser. "
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"How to get over a break-up with someone you had been with for a long time and still have feelings for. ",
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"Commit to being separated from them both physically and emotionally and focus on other relationships (friends, family). Be willing to endure the sustained uncomfortable learning experience that is heartbreak :/ \nEventually be willing to fall for someone else, but don't rush yourself. If you are broken up with (as opposed to initiating the breakup) it is likely they will move on first as they already have moved on in a very real sense :/\nBelieve in an optimistic future that doesn't involve them! You'll fall in love again! This is where I am in the timeline and you will be before you know it :)",
"1. No contact, no exceptions. Have a mutual friend promise to tell you if your ex is dying or dead. There is absolutely no other reason why you should stay in contact with your ex. No contact is crucial to the healing process.\n2. Find a very distracting thing to waste your time on, and alcohol and drugs don't count. Mine was an online boggle word game, and I played it incessantly. Yours might be work, the gym, video games, crafts, a tv show. Let yourself go, let yourself grieve. Read old letters, read old messages, think about her a lot, cry, but keep doing the distracting thing. This will take a while. Eventually, you'll get sick of yourself being so gross from crying and playing the game all the time because you have some minimal standard of living, and you'll pick yourself back up. You'll take a shower, clean up your room, do your laundry, and eat at the right times. \n3. Friends and family may help you, they may not. Mine did not because nobody I knew had had a relationship for the length of time I had with him and then broke up. The point is, you have a support system in them. They will hang out with you, talk to you about anything other than her, and do the little dates that you usually did with your ex. It will be hard since it'll seem like they don't care or they care too much, but learn to treasure the familial and platonic relationships you have.\n4. Do not lash out and go on omgele and have sex with strangers. Those experiences will only be filled with regret. Tinder may be helpful for self esteem boosts, but this is where the distracting game comes into play.\n5. When you're ready to do so, pack up all the things, all the letters and gifts and trinkets from vacations, all the receipts and movie stubs from dates you vividly remember, everything that reminds you of your ex, and put them in a bag or shoebox. Put the shoebox high up in your closet. Don't touch it. Don't go through it again.\n6. You probably hear about how you'll eventually move on, but I don't think you will. Long term relationships or even very intense short-term relationships have a very lasting impact on most people. You'll have vivid moments where everything makes sense; why you shouldn't be together and why the relationship wasn't right. You need to take advantage of these moments and write everything down. When you think about calling her or messaging her or any of the happiest memories you had with your ex, read these entries. You need to learn that you want the relationship back, but not the person.\n7. At the moment, you think about how she was the only one for you, but you'll later think about why it didn't work between you two, all the moments where it didn't feel right. You will realize you are a great person and deserve love. But this is well after you've learned to cope with this breakup and learned to love yourself, which are your first priorities.",
"Why should you feel this way? You have lost someone who didn't love you, while they lost someone who loved them. You're ahead of the curve if you ask me. ",
"Go to the gym. A lot. Like all the time. \n\nThat will be an outstanding outlet for your pent up energy while also making you much more attractive to women in general and give yourself more confidence going forward in your life. ",
"> So, for all you newbies who ask the questions, \"Will the hurting ever stop,\" or \"Will my ex come back,\" or \"Why did he/she do this,\" this is how it typically goes down.\n\n> You two break up--doesn't matter who does it. You immediately panic and begin chasing, begging, pleading, harrassing, phoning, e-mailing, IMing, stalking (okay not all of them, just pick whichever one you did). Most of us will likely do some things during this stage that will make you cringe when you think back on it, say after about 3 months.\n\n> You lose weight. You neglect yourself, your house, your job (how many hours do we all log on this site while we are at work?). You drive your friends and family crazy talking about the break up. You cry at the drop of a dime. You can't even comprehend that your life might not again include that \"special person.\" You begin putting them on a pedestal, forgetting all of the nagging things about them that used to drive you crazy. In your mind, they have become omnipotent, all encompasing, all everything.\n\n> You convince yourself that you are a loser who just screwed up a relationship with \"the best person in the world.\" You KNOW without a doubt that you will never EVER love like that again. You know no one else will come along who even comes close to being as marvelous as your ex (excuse me while I chuckle to myself here). You wear a sad face for the world to see (you should see my work ID taken 2 days after my breakup, it's just pitiful).\n\n> They (the ex's) remain steadfast in their denial to get back together. Many of them leapfrog into new relationships, immediately being exclusive with a new person. For those that do leapfrog, they appear to just \"replace\" you with a new model. All of the things you two used to do, they now do with someone else. Bowling, cuddling watching television, motorcycle riding, antiquing. Whatever you two did, likely they will just begin doing those things with someone new.\n\n> You hear about them and their new life. You are desperate for any crumbs of news about their life. Many of us make things worse here by trying to use manipulation to get them back--yet they stay away from us like we are the plague.\n\n> For those of us who do still have contact with our ex's we begin selling ourselves short. Doing stupid things like allowing them access to our bodies and then wanting to strangle them afterward when they remind us that \"Sex does not imply hope.\"\n\n> You, in further panic mode, begin frantically searching the internet using phrases such as \"break ups,\" \"divorce stopper,\" whatever. You stumble upon this site, pay your money because your curious and lo and behold, you find all of us folks in various stages of this whole breakup bullsh*t.\n\n> You voraciously read the posts. You search for news of those who \"got their mates back.\" You're on the site constantly. You'll read the books and think \"Ah I can do this. I can get this person back.\" You begin your \"no contact\" and for some of us, this will get a reaction from our ex's. For the rest, no contact is and will continue to be what you'll get and receive.\n\n> Time goes by. You'll do some stupid things. You'll call your ex when you shouldn't. You'll call when you've had to much to drink. You'll call even after 50 people on this site tell you not to. You'll show up on their doorstep, hating yourself all the time. Then you'll come back to this site and ask everyone to tell you why you were so stupid as to do whatever it was you did.\n\n> Then you'll get serious about no contact. It'll hurt, but you try to stick to it. Here's the turning point for most. For those folks who have contact with their ex's, your no contact will either bring them sniffing curiously around or they'll be somewhere high fiving their friends thanking the God's that you haven't called.\n\n> Now's the tough time. Nothing but time works. Everday the ache in your heart grows a little less. It's only nanobits that it dies down by. But everyday it will get slowly better. You'll have setbacks. You'll run into your ex accidently. You'll run into mutual friends who'll tell you something about your ex that'll have you high-tailing it home for a good cry. You'll see your ex with their new \"friend.\" You'll receive a phone call or an e-mail from your ex who \"doesn't want to be in a relationship but still wants to be friends (with benefits if you allow).\n\n> Here's another important part. You need to truly sit down and truthfully look back at the relationship and understand what you did to help with it's demise. If you miss this part, you go through all the suffering for nothing because Buddy, you'll be back here again. This site is to teach you about you. To teach you how to be a better partner, a better person. Missing that lesson is detrimental to the whole process. It's the REASON that you're going through this. God (or whatever your higher power is) needed you to learn something about YOU. Don't miss out on the lesson.\n\n> Then one day you'll smile because you didn't immediately check your answering machine when you came in. And one day you'll decide to clean the muck that has accumulated in your house. And one day you'll go outside and admit to the universe that you surrender what control you thought you had.\n\n> And one day you'll decide to date again. And one day you'll go out on your first date and it will likely be a disaster. And then you'll either force yourself to continue dating or you'll decide that you aren't ready to date but you are ready to be out amongst people again. And many of you will have some quick reconcillations with your ex's. Many of us won't. But one day, it won't matter as much. Because time will allow you to catch yourself going minutes and then hours without thinking of the ex. And you'll begin to be able to think of life possibly without that person and not dissolve into a puddle of nothingness because of the thought.\n\n> And for most of us, sadly, life will go on without that mate. That's the truth, amigos. Don't want to dash your hopes but probably less than 3% of the people on this site get back with their mates. Sobering isn't it? But, as the site instructs, you must accept this before you can truly begin to heal or draw your ex back to you. For the lucky (maybe unlucky one's depending on how much work it will take to keep a mate that has wandered back) who get back with their ex's, many will find that the paradise they envisioned isn't reality and what they once thought was gold has a certain tarnish to it now. But they stay and try and make it work because it's comfortable or, if they are really lucky, it's meant to be.\n\n> But for most of us. Life goes on. And one day you'll find yourself having a gut busting laugh over something totally stupid and you'll think to yourself \"I am getting better.\" And finally (thank God) you'll have sex with some new and find that a) if it wasn't good, at least you did it or b) it was so much better than with your ex you wonder why you waited so long to get back out there. And you'll know you're one the road to recovery.\n\n> I guess what I'm trying to convey here is, while each situation is unique, the characteristics of most of our situations are the same. Most of us will go through at least something that I've written here. So, when someone tells you on this site that time will help you get through it, believe them. When they tell you that \"trust me, it will get better and you will stop hurting eventually,\" believe them. And when they give you good advice that your head understands but your heart rejects, take a moment to think before you react.\n\n> Don't beat yourself up if you do something that you wished you hadn't (calling, contacting, etc) WE ALL DID AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER. Be kind to yourself. Be forgiving of yourself. And most of all remember that being happily single is an alternative. Even if society is beating it into your head that you MUST have a mate, take some time to heal before going back out there. There are plenty of good people to love, but don't go back out there broken, jaded about love, etc. Accept realty. Experience the pain. Learn the lesson. Actively try to heal. Remember the person you were when you first met your ex and get that person back.\n\n> And the universe will take care of the rest.\"\n\n[Source] (https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/v66sg/hi_everyone_going_through_a_breakup_must_read/) by /u/angrygorilla89",
"Time. A lot of it is habit that just has to eventually go away, like expecting them to call, or be in the room with you when you turn to look and they're not there.",
"HIT THE GYM ... this worked wonders for me. I found this advice on reddit when I was in a similar position. You will have all sorts of emotions running right now - stress, anger, feeling of injustice, and a 100 more. Use workout as an outlet. 3-5 months later when you are deep down the path of getting over him/ her, looking at yourself in the mirror will be a great feeling. Getting over a serious relationship is gonna be tough. It will test the best of you. Be brave. Cut ties with your Ex - yes its gonna be tough. Avoid common friends and areas where you may bump into ex. But most of all don't feel sorry for yourself. It will take a while ... could be weeks or months or more ... but at the end you will find a better and stronger version of yourself. so go HIT THE GYM now ... endorphins will make you feel good and help you sleep better.",
"Don't run to her. This is your chance to completely and wholeheartedly invest in the person that matters most, you. This may sound selfish, but it will help. My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me 2 years ago. These past two years have been the most successful and enjoyable in my entire life. Scholarships, awards, recognition, more time with friends and family. Time to go to the gym and overall improve yourself to reach your true prime",
"Write a list of 100 things your hate about them. Be selfish, don't account for anyone's feelings but your own in this list. It may take a few days but keep at it until you have 100. I promise that by the time you are done you will feel better. \n\nTo explain a bit as to why:\n\n1. Writing this list is selfish, it puts your opinions and feelings first, and that is something you need to relearn how to do since you are now single. \n\n2. People often idealized their ex, they fixate on their longing for their ex's qualities. Often ignoring how many faults their ex had. \n\n3. Pushing yourself to find faults in your ex is also a journey in self discovery for you, your relationship, and why it has ultimately failed. \n\n4. When you feel lonely, or down about what happened it can be comforting to know that your ex is a piece of shit with 100 problems who is plagued by their own inadequacies and suffers from enough stupid so as to be incapable of loving someone as fucking awesome as you (my own very biased thought)",
"Cut all contact. Focus on the gym. Make up for lost time by going out with as many girls as you can. ",
"step 1: disregard females/males\nstep 2 : acquire currency\nStep 3: ????\n\nstep 4: you should now be over her/him",
"Learn to love yourself more than you loved them. When you do, someone you love even more will come along.",
"Keep your mind occupied. Talk with your colleagues, friends. Find a hobby. Do somthing that will keep your mind occupied and keep you busy. Video games and card collecting is what helped me through",
"I broke up with my \"high school sweetheart\" about a year and a half ago. I really did think I was gonna marry him, but just like you, we held each other back. He also started being pretty abusive so I no longer saw getting married to him as an option. I still get so mad sometimes because if he wouldn't have hidden his anger issues from me, I would have never been with him in the first place. It's hard not to remember the good times because there were some really amazing moments and trips we shared. Just accept that the two of you were not meant to be, but there's someone else who you would be even happier with. A year and a half later, and I think I may have already found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. ",
"Hey man I know a little about what you're going through cali_erryday408. When I was 18 my senior year I met the girl of my dreams and by pure luck I was able to end up dating her =) that was in 2012. We dated for 4 and a half years and through that we endured a lot, as with you we both made mistakes and both learned and grew together because of them. Our relationship was a good one and we communicated really well and we were that couple that every said already acted like old lovers. She was my Bear Cub and she taught me so much about myself and how to love life and live in the moment, it's unbelievable thinking of the life I had before I knew this person. I too believed I would one day marry her we would have kids and I would be one of the lucky few to maybe reach a 50 year anniversary. Alas, our relationship ended on July 1st. We had dealt with long distance before when she was off at college but this academic year she chose to study abroad. Before leaving she ended our relationship via a phone-call and that was kind of that. Not much of an explanation other than she no longer had feelings for me and that she couldn't see a life lived by my side, but that's all an explanation that's technically needed. She is her own person, and like your EX they have to do what they feel is best for them. I don't know the details of your break-up but in regards to getting over this person, what I did for that first month was cry a lot, it's okay to mourn the end of a relationship and it will be better to do it now than later. When I wasn't crying I focused all my energy on improving myself image and self esteem. Now that i'm back in school I spend most of my time making sure I get A's in every class and when i'm at work i'm the best damn cook they have. It's been four months since i've even seen my ex and of course I still love her, of course I still miss her. But because she left me I am a way better human than I was when I was with her. That's what you need to turn this into for yourself. No matter what you can make the end of your relationship as much of a positive impact on your life as the relationship you were in itself. I know it's cheesy but there are other fish in the sea and someone out there could use your love my friend.",
"https://youtu.be/CAyZajdTGTU\n\nThis video really helped me. It's two guys talking about a breakup and actions to take control of your life. Their dialogue hit so many things I was currently feeling i really felt like part of the conversation. \n\nI made it into a podcast, listened to it several times, and would always get something new from it. \n\nI recommend this video with caution because these two definitely fall off the deep end in what they cover in other videos. But this one is pretty on the ball",
"been there done that man, cant tell you everything will be ok cause it wont. shit's gonna be a painful experience but it makes you stronger and better. work on yourself. hit the gym like a beast. hit the books and get a career. be the very best version of yourself you could ever be. do crazy shit that you normally wouldnt do. yoga, volunteer. climb a mountain. meet and talk with people. life is full of surprises. i've been through it man. life gets better and only time will heal(cliche but the fucking truth). do not, do not talk to that person unless you absolutely have to. chances are they'll have moved on and you wont be prepared, so that shit will rip your heart out and you're back to square one. \nTLDR: better yourself(physically,mentally,financially). you'll attract woman that are as great as yourself or better.",
"Write down your hardest feelings. It's ok not to think about it all the time. If you can't stop yourself thinking about your ex and you're feeling like shit, write down what you're feeling. You can pick it up again later. Transfer it from your mind to paper. I've found this help me feel better and pause the downward spiral when I can't stop the endless loop of feeling like shit",
"What I did which I found to be helpful was talk about how shitty I felt because of the break up to my close friends, a lot. I figured it'd be good to get it out of my system. \n\nEventually I got sick of hearing myself bitching about my stupid feelings. So I tried to find other things to talk about and found other things and people, though I like things more than people, to distract me. Eventually I just kind of accepted it was done and there's no point in being miserable because of her anymore since I make myself miserable just fine.",
"Join a walking or hiking group. You'll get out, meet people and if ever lost you'll be so thankful you were found and still alive and no longer overwhelmed by your heartbreak. ",
"I've also had a break up just over a month ago (we were together 8 years, which is a third of my entire life) and in all honesty i was devastated. She moved out and im living on my own for the first time in my life. All the clichés everyone will tell you really dont help. One piece of advice i got from a friend was, do you really still want to be with someone who would do something like that to you. This is not the end of the world. You WILL find someone else who you love even more. You WILL be happy again. Spend time doing things you enjoy, hang out with family and friends. Try your very best to be positive and try to keep busy.",
"I found it helps to take personal days (ideally, a proper vacation), where I listen to a lot of great music I wasn't too familiar with.",
"Honestly... a rebound. Some parts of love are chemical. Being flirty/sexual with another person can help clear some of your connection with your ex. \n\nCan be tough Right after a breakup though. I just got through a bad breakup and there's no way I could have done that for at least a few weeks after it ended. But once you're ready, it really helps. \n\nJust don't take the rebound too seriously. It's easy to cling to the emotional comfort of having someone again. Usually your rebound shouldn't get serious. ",
"Going through this right now too man. Been with this girl for 7 years and is the only girl I've known (I'm still a virgin though).",
"Get drunk.\nGo out on the town.\n\nWake up next day with new girl.\n\nYou're welcome (personal experience. 2 kids and 5 cats later....)\n",
"Cry if you need to, but stop yourself after ten minutes if need be. Block them from all social media so you don't come across their posts on accident. Take up a hobby to busy your mind while you deal. I found reading did it for me because I immersed myself in another 'world'. Mostly horror novels because they usually have little to no romance in it. Get out of the house occasionally (not just for work or school) even if it's just to run some inconsequential errands. Sleep with the tv on or music or something to distract those late night empty bed blues. I played sudoku on my phone until I was literally falling asleep. Sorry you're going through this, you'll be okay! ",
"Break off all contact with them and anyone who might remind you of them. Watch a load of porn. Immerse yourself in work or other activities. "
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"How to make the weeks and months pass quickly while waiting? I'm finally returning to my friends and family from being abroad for over a year, but the return is still four months away. While I have had amazing experiences and I'm sure many to come, I absolutely can't wait to get back! \n\nI'm not one to advocate making your time speed up, and I while I am very involved and taking up my time, the thought of \"4 months and x days left!\" seems very daunting.",
"How to make the weeks and months pass quickly while waiting? I'm finally returning to my friends and family from being abroad for over a year, but the return is still four months away. While I have had amazing experiences and I'm sure many to come, I absolutely can't wait to get back! \n\nI'm not one to advocate making your time speed up, and I while I am very involved and taking up my time, the thought of \"4 months and x days left!\" seems very daunting.",
"How to make the weeks and months pass quickly while waiting? I'm finally returning to my friends and family from being abroad for over a year, but the return is still four months away. While I have had amazing experiences and I'm sure many to come, I absolutely can't wait to get back! \n\nI'm not one to advocate making your time speed up, and I while I am very involved and taking up my time, the thought of \"4 months and x days left!\" seems very daunting."
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"Watch the movie Click, and learn to appreciate the time. They will be 4 months of your life. So enjoy and make the most out of them.",
"Keep yourself busy, learning new things and gathering new experiences. Once you see your family and friends, they'll want to know where you've been and what you've done. Sharing with them what you've learned will make coming home all the sweeter and in the meantime you won't pay so much attention to \"four months to go\" but rather what exciting thing you'll be doing tomorrow.",
"Set yourself a goal that you are probably not going to accomplish. \n\nBy four months time I must lose 5kg/write 9 chapters of my book/learn French/finish knitting this scarf e.t.c.\n\nThe time will whizz by."
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"How to get better at being on time/doing things on time I am **always** late. I plan in advance, get everything I need in my bag in plenty of time, then 5 minutes before I have to leave I find there's something I've forgotten or 'have' to do, and of course it always takes more than 5 minutes.\nWhat little tips/tricks do you life pro's have for someone like me?!",
"How to get better at being on time/doing things on time I am **always** late. I plan in advance, get everything I need in my bag in plenty of time, then 5 minutes before I have to leave I find there's something I've forgotten or 'have' to do, and of course it always takes more than 5 minutes.\nWhat little tips/tricks do you life pro's have for someone like me?!",
"How to get better at being on time/doing things on time I am **always** late. I plan in advance, get everything I need in my bag in plenty of time, then 5 minutes before I have to leave I find there's something I've forgotten or 'have' to do, and of course it always takes more than 5 minutes.\nWhat little tips/tricks do you life pro's have for someone like me?!",
"How to get better at being on time/doing things on time I am **always** late. I plan in advance, get everything I need in my bag in plenty of time, then 5 minutes before I have to leave I find there's something I've forgotten or 'have' to do, and of course it always takes more than 5 minutes.\nWhat little tips/tricks do you life pro's have for someone like me?!"
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"Here's something I do. In this day and age of sateliete connectivity it's harder but you can still do it.\n\nif you have a stove, bedside, microwave, watch, etc clock then set it 5 minutes fast, and then plan around those. But when you need exact time grab your phone.\n\nI set the one in my car almost 10 minutes fast. \n\nthough a lot of it is mental. Sometimes you need to figure out how long it takes you to do stuff, and give yourself extra time to do it.\nHere's a basic rule I adhere to. Never plan to be on time, always plan to be earlier than early.\n\nIf you plan to be on time you'll always arrive late, plan to be early and you'll get there on time. But if you plan to be earlier than early you'll always be there early",
"1. Use the calendar on your cellphone to set a reminder. Set a reminder for everything. Set a reminder to remind yourself that your other reminder is going to go off in 15 minutes.\n2. Always assume that something unexpected will happen\n a. If I'm going to a place that I know is 15 minutes away, I will try to leave 30 minutes early\n b. Google Maps can give you ETAs (extremely useful)\n c. As a rule of thumb, give yourself more than 5 minutes. So, if you have to be somewhere @ 8, wake up at 6.\n3. Have all your objects ready before you get yourself ready\n a. Alternatively, have an established standard space to put your objects.\n b. The thing is that we forget habitual actions. Make sure you have useful habitual actions.\n\nDo these help?\n",
"checklists\n\nairline pilots rely on it even during catastrophic failure. memory is perishable, prone to make errors in recollection, and susceptible to distractions. \n\ntry this:\nget 30 (month's worth) or so 3x5 index cards and write alongside a checkbox: individual tasks for the day.\n\n\n\n\n",
"I'm assuming you're a girl because of your username. If you're taking about getting late for work/school/regular things, \n\n1. You probably spend time thinking what to do next. Make a fixed routine/order and follow it. Once you get used to it, you'll forget to do things less often.\n2. You probably spend a lot of time looking for things. Keep everything in a FIXED place. Do not move something like makeup out of it's place. Keep it back in it's place after using it.\n3. You probably spend time choosing what clothes/shoes to wear. Pack your bag and choose your clothes/shoes etc the night before. Keep it ready to pickup/wear - in the same place everyday.\n4. You probably spend a lot of time doing things that don't need to be done WHILE you're getting ready. The following principle is used in an Operations concept called SMED (Single Minute Exchange of Die): **As much as possible, convert internal tasks to external tasks.** Meaning everything that you need not do WHILE getting ready, do it the previous night (before you start your process of getting ready in the morning). Something like choosing/ironing your clothes, packing your bag can be done the night before. Washing your hair can be done the night before. Something like having breakfast can only be done in the morning, so you can't do that the previous night. Bottom line, do as few tasks in the morning.",
"Maybe it's not about your lack of organizing skills. Procrastinators seem to need that rush of adrenaline that hits when they're running late. "
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"How to improve attention to detail Is this a skill that can be mastered? If so, how can one master this. I know some people can look at different details in different ways.",
"How to improve attention to detail Is this a skill that can be mastered? If so, how can one master this. I know some people can look at different details in different ways.",
"How to improve attention to detail Is this a skill that can be mastered? If so, how can one master this. I know some people can look at different details in different ways.",
"How to improve attention to detail Is this a skill that can be mastered? If so, how can one master this. I know some people can look at different details in different ways.",
"How to improve attention to detail Is this a skill that can be mastered? If so, how can one master this. I know some people can look at different details in different ways.",
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"don't just look at the issue at hand, look at the issues and events impacting the issue. figure out the things that will happen before and after, or might have to work in parallel to the problem.\n\nso to give you a real-world example, i was out sick one day and my boss asked my co-worker to book him travel from salt lake city to milwaukee, wisconsin. her solution - call the travel agent, book what the travel agent suggested, get a hotel, done.\n\nthe result: he ended up on a non-preferred airline, got delayed, and ultimately only got to chicago. he had to take a 3 hour taxi ride up to milwaukee and his hotel was miles away from where he needed to be.\n\nthe way i would have done it: i look at the things that affect the travel, like airline preference, time between layovers, time of year, potential weather complications, and location of the meeting in the destination city. once all of those details line up, then there's a much better chance that the travel will go smoothly and someone will get where they need to be without much hassle.\n\nso if my boss had waited a day for me to get back to work, i would have put him on his preferred airline, gone through an airport that was less likely to have weather delays, found out where his meeting was and located a hotel close by. if a nearby hotel wasn't available, i'd put him near the airport but set up a car service to take him to the meeting.\n\nis it a skill that can be mastered? absolutely. you just have to take the time to think about all the cogs that impact (or are impacted by) the one you're trying to turn.",
"I used to be really bad at not noticing small details before i had my first girlfriend... But our communication was bad and i didn't pay attention enough to things, like what she wore, or getting her long hair cut by an inch or two, it really kinda impacted our relationship negatively eventuality until we broke it off. After this i made sure that i noticed details. When you talk to someone, don't just look at their eyes and have a conversation, study them.. What are they wearing, what's their eyecolor, how good do they look currently, how do they feel based off of looks, their use of tone, haircuts, jewelry, new clothing tgat they are wearing, shoes... When you begin noticing these things normally and identifying people more based on what they wear from week to weel, and their hair, you notice when the subtoe things change. It feels really good when you notice small changes, and if you say that you notice out loud and compliment them it their effort for change worth while. All in all just study people when you talk to them or just look at them more often when you aren't talking them. Make an effort to notice things because it really makes a difference",
"Two simple steps. \n\n- 1. Imagine/create pressure or repercussions for not being thorough.\n\n- 2. Imagine various scenarios and edge cases related to the task/observation at hand. ",
"Force yourself to begin reading every single word instead of skimming things, if you don't know what a word means, look it up. Read things twice if need be. Put your phone away and pay attention to surroundings and listen more than you talk. ",
"Some of it is just caring about results and having high standards for yourself. Not being willing to accept \"good enough\" will inspire you to see things you didn't see before and change things you felt didn't need to be changed.",
"Drink a lot of coffee or take an adderall both helped me. I also get extremely picky about details when I'm at that perfect level of drunk.\n\nWithout taking a mind altering substance though I'd try to cut down on the number of tasks you need to focus on. When I downsized my kitchen and had way less to clean I found myself making sure the few things I had and the counters were spotless. This also became better when I made it a point to have a clean out at all times and subsequently a clean mind followed soon after."
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"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?",
"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?",
"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?",
"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?",
"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?",
"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?",
"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?",
"How to overcome a shy bladder next to another man at the urinal I hate those awkward moments where you're both standing next to one another, and neither one of you is peeing because you're uncomfortable. Whats something I can do to just pee?"
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"Contract and then push out slightly harder than normal. Don't pay attention to the guy next to you, and keep his body out of frame.\n\nOr walk up to him, grab his ass and say, 'Nice DICK'.",
"Imagine you are using a fire hose, or watching a huge waterfall. Then inside your head say, \"go go gadget bladder.\" Do this every time you use a public bathroom, and in time you will be able to urinate on command regardless of who is in the bathroom with you.",
"While your standing there, try to focus on something else, the person who suggested doing math in your head is right, anything to keep your mind from focusing on the awkwardness at hand (haha).\n",
"I count the tiles, look for imperfections in the wall, count screws whatever. Anything to get it flowing. Once it starts its a done deal",
"What's always worked for me is holding my breath. It causes muscles to relax on your pelvic floor and frees your bladder, or so I've heard.",
"Touching something cold like the metal of the flusher handle helps. The cold sensation helps get the process going. Works everytime",
"Relevant xkcd Google Talk [14:19 to 19:00](/http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=zJOS0sV2a24#t=858s)\n",
"Do math in your head, such as 247+389. And relax all your body muscles, but most importantly the math part, it distracts you"
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"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
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"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!",
"When apartment searching, what are some key questions to ask and things to watch out for? I'm new to the apartment scene after living on campus throughout my undergrad years. I really don't know what to look for or watch out for in an apartment. I could use some tips on key things to consider! Thank you!"
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"Okay, I just went through this whole thread and compiled a summary of what I feel to be the most helpful tips you glorious interfolk have posted. The last one is my own. This is an excellent thread, and I wish I had read it ages ago.\n\n**Reddit's 42 Rules of Apartment Rental**\n\n1. Check for cell reception.\n\n2. Inspect tops of cabinets, behind stove/fridge, for poop. If there are red/brown stains in the corners where the ceiling meets the walls, it's bed bugs. If there is a line of white powder along the baseboards, it can mean roaches, but more likely bedbug treatment has been performed. White powder behind fridge, stove, etc. is usually boric acid or diatomaceous earth used to treat roaches. Brown or tan kernel sized paste is also used against roaches. Check the Bed Bug Registry online and ask if the building has a history of any pest problems.\n\n3. Inspect drawer under the oven and kitchen drawers.\n\n4. Check the water pressure on cold, on hot, on both, and how long it takes to get warm.\n\n5. Bring a socket tester and test all outlets. Also make sure there are enough outlets in each room, and enough 3-prong ones.\n\n6. Ask the neighbors what the worst part of the building, street, neighborhood is.\n\n7. Request to see the exact unit you will be moving into, NOT a showcase apartment. If they refuse to at least show you an actual unit, be suspicious.\n\n8. Check to see if you have a designated parking spot (and assure its cost, if any, is satisfactory). How many visitors can you have at a time & is that enough for you? On a Fri/Sat night, or any other evening/night, are there even any available spots? What happens if someone takes your spot?\n\n9. Drive through the area during rush hour if commuting via car.\n\n10. What's in close walking distance? (food, bars, stores, etc)\n\n11. If touring multiple units, take pictures of each for later comparison. When you decide on one, time-stamp photograph any damage and make sure landlord is notified of it in writing prior to move-in so you aren't blamed for it later.\n\n12. Research state tenant's rights laws.\n\n13. Make sure you're completely clear on all terms of the lease and know what utilities you'll be paying and what payment method you'll need to use.\n\n14. When driving around, take note of what kinds of cars are parked around, and if they're substantially different from yours, your potential new neighbors lifestyle may differ from your own.\n\n15. Call a pizza place and see if they deliver there after dark. If not, the place may have a history as being unsafe.\n\n16. Make sure there's an Internet provider suitable to your preferences.\n\n17. An experienced landlord is usually better to deal with than an inexperienced one.\n\n18. Get an idea of the general price range of utilities such as heat and AC for the unit. Ask neighbors in similar units the general price range for heating/cooling.\n\n19. Google your potential new landlord. Look up online property records in the county you are in. Slumlords will generally have lots of liens against them and/or have multiple properties in foreclosure.\n\n20. Assure the windows are double-paned/double-glazed and in good repair if the area is cold to avoid high heating bills. See if the windows open and close easily.\n\n21. Look up crime statistics for the area and ask the police how often they have been called to the street/complex in the last 6 months.\n\n22. An apartment with laundry facilities will save you money. If they don't have them, check the prices/quality of the nearest ones.\n\n23. www.apartmentratings.com may be a useful resource.\n\n24. Drive through the area at 10pm one day, 2am the next, and see what kind of activity is occurring, especially on Fri/Sat nights. Walk through the complex around 8pm.\n\n25. Be wary of any musty smells that could indicate water damage. Too many air fresheners may be an attempt to hide this.\n\n26. Fill all sinks/tubs. Drain simultaneously and flush each toilet during.\n\n27. Ask if they accept section 8 or convicted felons, if you care about those things.\n\n28. Find out who does the maintenance (some handyman, a legit company, the landlord?). What are their policies on work orders? Can they be submitted online? What is their response time guarantee for after hours emergencies? If it's just a single landlord and not a property management company, do they have someone you can call when they go on vacation and the hot water heater breaks?\n\n29. Make sure the building managers or owners are local.\n\n30. When scoping out potential neighborhoods, check out the local grocery stores to get a good sense of the type of people that live in that neighborhood. Also check the closest gas station late at night.\n\n31. Check your responsibilities as a tenant. After moving in many landlords require you to pay the cost of a stopped up toilet, pest infestations, and require you to shovel snow from sidewalk/mow the grass on areas around the house, or clean gutters. They may also require you to pay the cost to fix supplied appliances.\n\n32. Dress well, and ask for a discount.\n\n33. If surrounding places have belongings left sitting on the porches (toys, stoves, seating, decorations), it's a good sign for little/no theft and a kid-friendly environment.\n\n34. If the leasing agent or landlord promises to do something before you move in, it needs to be written into the lease or it may not happen.\n\n35. Assure the unit has adequate storage space for your needs.\n\n36. 1st floor apartments are most convenient for thieves, and the most frequently broken into.\n\n37. It's usually best to avoid living in the same building as your landlord, unless the other tenants vouch for them.\n\n38. If there's a homeowner's association, find out its rules.\n\n39. Find out the policy on smoking, pets, noise, and visitors.\n\n40. If you must break the lease, what are the consequences/options?\n\n41. What's the average rental time for apartments in the building? If people aren't staying long, it's a bad sign.\n\n42. Try to get a look at as many different options in the area as possible so you can see if what they're offering is competitively priced for the size/type of unit you're seeking.\n\n",
"Request to see the unit YOU will be moving into. I can't tell you how many times I was duped by a \"showcase\" apartment. They'll tell you, \"Oh its not ready yet.\" Do. Not. Sign. not unt you've seen your future residence. ",
"If you can, swing by the apartment/building at night. You won't be able to get inside the unit obviously, but check it out.\n\nThings to check for:\n\n- Loud neighbours/parties\n- Fucking flood light pointing directly into your bedroom window\n\nSource: have a fucking flood light pointing directly into my bedroom window.",
"Look on top of the cabinets for roach turds...or mouse turds. Any kinds of turds, really. The tops of cabinets are generally missed during the deep clean a shady landlord might do to get rid of vermin signs. \n\nI learned that the hard way. Fuck roaches. ",
"* Is it near a bar? (Local bars can be a great community) \n* Is it too near a bar? (Drunk people pee on things)",
"When driving through the area/parking lots, check the types of cars that you see.\n\nIf there is a huge difference between your car and the type and quality of the cars you are seeing, there's probably a huge difference in lifestyle between you and your potential new neighbors.",
"Internet providers. You may have options for carriers in your area, but your apartment complex may be wired for just one option, and it probably isn't Google Fiber.",
"If you have a car be sure to see if you have a designated spot or some reasonable parking situation.. My wife and I have to share a spot and there is a church on the corner of our block that has services every fucking day, morning and night,so on street parking is nonexistent. Also these fuckers lean on / sit on my truck when I do park it on the street and they've put stickers on my wife's car in the past. My .02\n",
"Call a pizza place and see if they deliver there after dark. If they don't, it's a super sketchy place.",
"Make sure you know what you are responsible to pay in terms of utilities and such (heat, water, electric, sewerage, etc.) and how you need to pay it. Make sure you're clear on when and how much rent increases will be. **Actually read your entire lease and have someone who understands the lease look over it before you sign it.**",
"Google your potential new landlord. Look up online property records in the county you are in. Slumlords will generally have lots of liens against them and/or have multiple properties in foreclosure. \n\nMy spouse and I moved into a too-good-to-be-true property only to find out the day after we signed the lease that our landlord (whom we didn't personally meet) was being sued by the city for millions for, among other things, assault of a previous tenant IN THE UNIT WE MOVED INTO. \n\nTL;DR: Slumlords exist. Easily avoid them with some legwork. ",
"Ask the landlord how long they have been renting properties. My old landlord seemed new at the game, and it showed early on. Issues were never dealt with. My new landlord has been at it for 30 years, and it shows. He has a set schedule of when routine maintenance of the furnace etc is done so I have plenty of notice (will also call days ahead as a reminder). The old landlord would just show up when she felt like it and let herself into my place a few times when I wasn't home. ",
"Knock on a neighbors door if you can and ask them about the building. Or even someone in the hallway or elevator. Nothing beats feedback from current residents. \nOther than that, location is important not just for convenience but in terms of assessing how noisy it will be. Is it on a busy street? Near an empty lot that could be developed? No apartment is soundproof so environment is key. ",
"As the son of a letter carrier I've learned to ask about the mail situation. Questions like \"Where are large packages kept? If they're kept securely, what are the hours i can get to them? Does USPS UPS FedEx etc. have access to the secure area without staff?\" I lived in a building where the regular postal carriers and Fedex driver had access to our office for package drop-off but UPS did not, so if no one was in the office I wouldn't get my package.",
"Ask if there's been any history with bed bugs! Or any insects, for that matter. If they say no, LOOK anyway. Check the corners for dead bugs (bed bugs are oval shaped and brown). I can't stress that enough after a horror story of an experience I had once.",
"If they say the train track twenty feet from the complex doesn't bother anyone because the area is a \"no blow zone\" they are a bunch of lying fucking terrorists. \n\nValet trash actually sucks because it forces you to keep garbage in your home longer instead of taking it to the dumpster because you pay fucking $32 a month for some asshole to take it for you.\n\nGated entry means nothing. It will break, people drive in behind others, and hobos jump the perimeter fencing.\n\n\n",
"Try to avoid single pane windows if you live in a humid area. Mold and condensation are a serious problem and double paned, well-insulated windows help tremendously. If you must have single pane windows, weather strip them in the winter to effectively make them double pane. Use the weather stripping that you [put on the inside](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Frost-King-E-O-Indoor-Window-Insulation-Kit-9-per-Pack-V73-9H/202262335?N=5yc1vZc291), over the trimming, not the thick plastic sheet that goes on the outside. You'll want to pick up a separate roll of double sided tape too because sometimes the one that comes with that kit is craptastic.",
"For me I always check out the area a little. Just if there are any decent shops, good transport links if you're carless, a decent pub etc.\n\nThen for the flat I tend to check the shower, a shitty shower is just another reason not to get out of bed. I'll also check the oven, generally if they've taken the time to clean the oven the rest of the place is probably well kept. That's only my experience though.\n\nIf you live in a cold part of the world (like me) then check the windows for double glazing and no cracks around the edges. In the winter either you will freeze or your heating bills will make you cry. Another one for that is high ceilings make a place expensive to heat. I suppose this advice may work in reverse if you live somewhere hot.\n\nMost importantly go through the property with your landlord at the start of your tenancy and check what is and isn't broken, take pictures and have the landlord sign them if you want to be super safe. Have an itinerary of items in the flat so they can't make up some bullshit at the end and try to hold your deposit. I've had the nicest landlords turn into complete cunts when it came to getting the deposit back. On the same point don't be afraid to call them weekly until they pay you the deposit, I do it on a Sunday, no one likes being bothered on a Sunday.\n\nGood luck on finding a place.",
"Make sure the person showing the rental property is actually associated with the legal owner. There is a scam in my area where the scammer advertises rentals she doesn't own. She somehow gets access to the homes to show them. People gave her money for the rent and security deposit. She disappears. Then they find out the owner has no idea who she is.",
"Turn on the water. Do it everywhere. The amount of time you spend dealing with water is amazing.\n\nDo you like the taps? Does it get hot quickly?\n\nDo it in the shower and/or bathtub. How's the water pressure? How's the control? Would it be easy to put a better head on the shower?\n\nFlush the toilet. Is it loud as fuck? Does it take forever to fill?",
"Open cupboards to check for wood rot wherever there are pipes & to check for rodent poop and/or holes. \n\nTurn on faucets (especially the shower) to test water pressure & temperature. Flush toilets to make sure they work. \n\nLook up (people don't tend to look up. You want to check for mold in bathroom ceilings, water damage in all ceilings, bad cracks, etc). \n\nLook behind curtains/blinds and check out the windows - is there mold or a lot of condensation? Check windows for air loss too - if you're paying to heat/cool the place, chances are that your landlord won't give a shit whether the windows are airtight. \n\nAsk to see the building laundry facilities, if they're not ensuite, and pay attention to how much you'll have to pay per load (and how much the machines can hold), and check the condition of the machines (do they look clean & well-maintained? Is there a lot of scum/rust in the washer?). \n\nCheck the condition of *all* of the appliances, if any are included in your unit. Open the fridge/freezer/dishwasher, check the condition of the door seals & any moving parts, and check the overall cleanliness. \n\nIf heating is included, try to see the place on a very cold day (if you're in a cold climate), and vice-versa (if AC is included, check temp on a hot day). \n\nTake a look at the parking situation, for yourself as well as for visitors - how many visitors can you have at a time & is that enough for you? On a Fri/Sat night, or any other evening/night, are there even any available spots? How much do you have to pay for your own spot, and what are your options if someone snags your spot?\n\nGo to the building on a Friday/Saturday night and watch the nightlife in the area, especially after the bars close. You may enjoy nightlife yourself, but having it right outside your window is a different story. \n\nTalk to people that you see coming/going, and ask them if they like living there. Ask why they do/don't like it. Ask if they feel safe there. Ask if they have any problems with the landlord and/or with any other tenants.\n\nPay attention to the lobby and hallways. Some wear & tear is normal, but smashed windows/mirrors and extreme dirtiness are things to run away from.\n\nIf the landlord is rude or dodges your questions, walk away. If they'll dodge you now, or be rude to you now, they'll definitely do it once you're living there & actually need to be able to rely on him/her.\n\nAsk to see any \"extra\" facilities (pool, exercise room, etc), and pay attention to the condition/cleanliness of it all. If the landlord makes an excuse about why it's closed, ask when you can come back to see it.\n\nA lot of people go into apartment hunting like job hunting - people make the mistake of trying to impress the person who is in control of the apartment (or job, in the case of job hunting). You should be interviewing them too. Unless you've been brought-up on apartment-related charges or have horrific cr",
"Noise pollution Check the apartment out when the other tenants are active. If you're on the lower floor, it can be a huge issue. I'm currently trying to get out of a lease for this reason...the neighbors work night shift and I get woken up 3-4 times per night from the noise of them getting ready/whatever upstairs.",
"Always ask what kind of heat they have Ex: gas, electric baseboards. A simple question that will tell you what utility you will be using to heat the place. Electric heat is the most expensive most anywhere, so avoid if need be. Obviously, this may not be that important to you if you live in Phoenix or somesuch, in which case check for air conditioning units. In upstate NY, heat is a big deal, and can get really pricey if you have the wrong kind. ",
"My dad taught me to take a drive through the neighborhood I wanted to live in at different hours of the night. So cruise through at 10pm, and then maybe a few days later at 2am to see what kinds of things are going down in the neighborhood.",
"Are all of my neighbors deaf, club footed idiots with no understanding on how to live near other humans?",
"Go door to door and get some idea of what the bills will be like. Check for old, out of date appliances (fridge, water heater, air conditioner). If these are older, they will likely be less energy efficient and therefore more expensive to run. \n\nLook at crime statistics from your city website and check out the rate and type of crime in that area. \n\nAsk the neighbors if they enjoy living there. How long have they been there, etc?\nWhat do they think of the landlord? Is everything maintained well, how long to repair a busted pipe or replace a broken thermostat, that kind of thing.",
"-check what internet providers are available and what speed they offer\n\n-washer dryer in unit or shared (in unit would be my preference, no walking to laundry room and no risk of stained clothes from bleach left by previous dude washing his stuff)\n\n-try to see the apartment during a busy time of the day to check sound proofing to adjacent units\n\n-what is included in rent, what is extra? heat? electric?\n\n-how new are windows, are they drafty?\n\n-get a feel for who lives in the building if it is an apartment complex\n\n-check yelp ratings if possible and available\n\n-check your cities website for code violations\n",
"Ask about laundry facilities. Are they on site? In unit? What are the locations of the nearest off site facilities? How much to wash and dry?",
"Make sure you ask them to clean out the shower drains. I moved in to my apartment and after a week the shower drain wasn't draining. Turns out there was huge amounts of tangled hair and other human shit.",
"These are all great tips. If you don't know the area you can talk to the police to find out if they get called to the complex often, too. Don't rush into it. Better to lose an apartment than to hate your new home soon after moving in.",
"If they show you a model apartment that is furnished and decorated, ask to see an empty unit and if possible see the actual one you will be moving into. ",
"Parking, which utilities they provide and which ones you'll need to get yourself, laundry facilities (if you can find a complex with washers/dryers in the units instead of a laundromat, you'll save a lot in the long run), etc. Also, if you live somewhere where the weather gets hot, make sure you don't have a lot of windows facing west. (I made that mistake, and my electric bill gets stupid expensive in summer just fighting off the heat from the sunlight)",
"When scoping out potential neighborhoods, check out the local grocery stores to get a good sense of the type of people that live in that neighborhood. \n\nDon't forget to look for \"common sense\" things that you may be taking for granted. When I was looking for my first apartment, I was so concerned with looking at everything else, and forgot to check to see if it had a dishwasher, and was stuck washing everything by hand for a few years. \n\nAlso, scope out the parking situation. ",
"See if you can get the average amounts for utility bills. I got burned by one apartment because I went from a place that had a $50 bi-monthly water bill to one that was avg $100 month (turned out later all the metering was fucked up, but no refunds)",
"I use www.apartmentratings.com and also got to the complex and find someone outside and ask them what they think. It's a bonus if you know which unit you'll be renting and go visit the area late on a weekend night and see what the noise level is like. ",
"Ask about utilities, what is included in rent and what you'll be paying separate. \n\nAsk about maintenance. What will the landlord fix, will it be free, etc. \n\nAsk about the internet, if there is only Comcast in the area you should probably live somewhere else. \n\nIf it concerns you, ask about the pet policy. (Allergies or pets of your own)\n\nMake sure you see the actual apartment you are moving into. Don't be duped by a show room. If it's \"not ready\" ask when it will be ready. Don't move in until you actually see your apartment. \n\nTry to find out a little about your potential neighbors. Any babies that might be crying at 3 am, or dogs to bark at that same time. Are they college students that will keep crazy hours? Or an old couple that expects no noise whatsoever after 8pm. \n\nMake sure you know the neighborhood. You don't wanna move somewhere with weekly shootings and daily break-ins. Will there be live music played within a 100 yards of the apartment?\n\nWhat's the smoking policy? Even if you don't smoke your neighbors might, and the stink will travel. \n\nWasher/Dryer? In the apartment? A shared one for the building? None at all? Easy to forget, but is pretty important. \n\nIn both the show apartment and the one you'll be moving into look for signs of rodents/bugs. Cabinets and doors, behind the fridge and oven, anywhere and everywhere. If you see signs of insects or rodents stay away. \n\nCheck the water. Is the pressure good? Is the temperature good?\n\nWhat is the parking situation? Best way to get an idea is to drive through in the middle of the night, when most if not all people are home. \n\n------------\n\nBONUS TIP: If and when you move in. Take time-stamped pictures of EVERYTHING the day you sign the paperwork before you do anything at all. Every wall and every appliance. Every scuff and scratch. Note the drawers that don't pull out smoothly. Make sure you know the exact state of the apartment the moment you move in. And save that until the day you move out. A landlord may try to keep you on the hook for your whole deposit for a single scuff on the fridge door that was there when you moved in. Have your proof ready. ",
"ASK IF THERE IS ANY HISTORY OF INFESTATION OF ANY KIND. I made this mistake once. I moved into a place with a terrible roach infestation, and unfortunately couldn't \"prove\" they were there when I moved in because I was too naive to realize the gravity of the infestation until about a month or so after moving in. SO glad that nightmare is over!!",
"Maybe not a deal breaker but does the place face east or west, or north or south? Do you prefer afternoon sun or morning sun? I prefer afternoon sun so I can see the sun set at night. \n\nIs it a concrete building? Less noise transfer with concrete buildings than with wood.\n\nDo your upstairs neighbors have carpet? That would be another bonus in the noise column.\n\nAsk whether the upstairs OR downstairs tenants have dogs. That happened to me and the dogs barked nonstop when left alone. I worked 6am to 3pm then, so this was rather important.\n\nIf you rent a basement suite, find out what room is above your bedroom.",
"Drive through it at 11pm on a Friday and Saturday night and have a look around. Some complexes can look so nice during the day but get really rowdy at night",
"You want to live near your normal hangout spots and/or your friends. This will be really helpful for your social life. \n\nA year from now, your best friends will be no more than 15 minutes away.",
"You must \"scope out\" the area at different times of day. \n\nYou need to see if it is high crime area. ",
"Test the water pressure. Turn the shower on.\n\nIt absolutely sucks to move in to a new place and discover that the water oozes out of the shower head rather than blasts you.",
"One thing I noticed about places while looking for apartments, some places had belongings (stoves, seating, decorations) and kids toys left sitting out on front / back porch. That's definitely a good sign for little to no theft and having kids in the area (if you want some friends for your own kids, or you want to avoid kids entirely)",
"I would ask \"How many rooms are there, and what are they?\" I say this because I once checked out something advertised as a \"one bedroom\" apartment. When I showed up, I saw a bathroom, and an open kitchenette/room that I naturally presumed was the living room, since it was off the kitchenette. Standing in that living room, I asked \"And where is the bedroom?\" The guy replied \"You're in it.\" So in reality, it had a shitter, a kitchenette and 1 \"other\" space. Which is a bachelor, *not* a one bedroom. \n ",
"Flush the toilet before you leave. One of the worst things is to sign a lease and find out the toilet has a weaker flow them vanilla ice and now you've got a year of plunging after you take a piss",
"First floor, second floor, moving is no problem. But ask me to move a 400 pound sectional up 3 or more flights of stairs and you'll notice my phone might disconnect mid convo. ",
"1. Bring someone with you. See how easily you can hear things in various different rooms and even outside and inside. Also, the other may see things you don't.\n2. Explore the surrounding area. Never underestimate the greatness of living in an area you really like.\n3. Go there at night. Drive around and just scout things. Day vs night atmosphere can be very different.\n4. Noise levels. Try to find out if many kids are around. More kids MAY mean more noise. This can easily be a huge annoyance if the area is super noisy.\n5. Read the lease! One thing I was told to make sure is in there is a statement that says, in gist, the landlord cannot end your lease without a proper heads up. You may think it is dumb but I have had a landlord need their rental back before our lease was up and there was nothing we could do about it.\n6. Check for signs of infestations inside and outside. Don't forget outside!\n7. Don't jump the gun. See multiple places. The first one you see may be awesome, but at least view others. It is risky because you may lose it, but you will never know if better places were out there. I stress this especially because it is your first place.\n8. Know your budget! Cannot stress this enough. Leave yourself room to save money after all bills are paid. Please do not take this point lightly.\n\nBest of luck!",
"Too many air fresheners. Might indicate mold or humidity issue. If its a townhouse/apartment might mean there is a smoker next door(if that bothers you.). Unfortunately smells can transfer between units. ",
"Just moved into a new place last month. Be wary of smells… I walked into this other place and immediately new I didn't want to be there, because there was a subtle essence of wet basement. You won't see it or hear it, but it'll give you a clear idea of problems down the road and how management has dealt with past problems.",
"Insulation and proper HVAC is key, considering it can be a tremendous cost if the insulation and circulation is poor.\n\nInsulation: double pane windows, wall insulation, noise insulation\nCirculation: central heating and A/C \n\nClimate control (and sound control) will be SIGNIFICANTLY cheaper if the place is well insulated\n",
"If you have pet or dust allergies, you MUST spend 15 minutes in the unit that you are going to be occupying. If the previous tenant had a pet, your allergies will flare up and you'll know you might die living there. If there's carpet, ask when it was last steam-cleaned (dust mites and cat dander stick to it). ",
"If its a place where it snows a lot. Look on the roof and if they have icicles it means the house doesnt have proper roof insulation and looses too much heat. Youll have expensier gas bills",
"Fill all sinks/tubs. Drain simultaneously and flush each toilet during.\n\nAlso, if you cook often- check to make sure the kitchen exhaust vents outdoors, not recycled back into the home via filters (if not, at least make sure there is good window placement in the kitchen).",
"Check your car insurance rates at the various addresses. Good indicator of crime rates and can vary quite a bit over a short distance. ",
"A few great things I've learned the hard way in New York City that I didn't see in /u/DeaconNuno 's post.\n\n1- The landlord's name on the lease could be a shell corporation, that's to say a subsidiary of another corporation that exists for the sole purpose of being a corporate entity for that sole building. When you search the landlord's name online for potential violations or a bad reputation, follow any trail of any officers' or owners' names to see if other, related entities have violations.\n\n2- If you're in New York City, look up the Department of Building's BIS (Buildings Information System) which is a centralized database of all building violations and work permits. It also contains information on the building's owner and history.\n\n3- Look for water damage. If there has been flooding/leakage in the building before, then it will happen again, with potentially devastating consequences. Look for mold along corners and edges on the sealing. Look for lines of what looks like dried water or marks from where water has dripped down along walls. Look for raised spots on the wall where the landlord may have painted over mold.\n\n4- Ask where the superintendent lives. Some live in the building, which is ideal, but others may live elsewhere in the neighborhood or nowhere close. If the landlord lives two hours away, you'll be in a bad spot when a pipe bursts at 2 a.m.\n\n5- Make sure there is a radiator in every bedroom, living room, and other large room where you plan to spend significant time. If the only source of heat is a pipe/heat riser, then that is a sure sign that the apartment was illegally subdivided as pipes/heat rises are not sufficient heating for a large room (sufficient for a kitchen or bathroom, but definitely not for a bedroom).\n\nGood luck!\n",
"1\\. Parking space for your vehicle. It can vary from free, to super expensive underground spaces to that they're all filled up and you cannot even pay for a parking space. If you have a significant other, make sure there's a space available for them if they need it.\n\n2\\. Guest parking. Can guests park in the main outdoor lot? In some locations it's no problem, in other they'd get towed in the lot but there's good street parking, in others street parking is packed.\n\n3\\. Dishwasher. Man, I hated not having a dishwasher, and I'm never going back, lol. But something to look for, especially in older buildings. \n\n4\\. Average utility costs. One place I looked at had electric heating, and the costs were ungodly expensive compared to regular heating. Some buildings pay all your utiltities, then there's a range up to the building paying none of them. It's a $100-$200 difference in how much you'll actually spend each month, so it's worth comparing.\n\n5\\. Cell phone reception. If you have TMobile which has wifi calling it's not as big of a deal, but if you don't not having reception in your apt is a real pain in the ass - where do you need your phone to work more than at home? If you really like the apartment, another carrier might have reception, but fyi. I discovered I had crap Verizon signal only after moving in. Switched to TMobile and it works fine, but Sprint was terrible and At&t was iffy - if TMobile hadn't work not sure what I would have done.\n\n6\\. Average age of building residents. Yeah, if your building is filled with younger people you can have issues with stereo's and parties. But if your building is filled with older people, you can have issues with them calling the cops on your because you're playing your stereo at 10pm.\n\n7\\. How solid is the floor? I went to one place where lightly bouncing up and down on the floor caused the resident below me to angrily come running up to yell at me. Can you imagine having to live in a place like that for a year, where you can't even walk around your own apartment? The apt manager had just finished telling me some b.s. story about how their was a foot of concrete between the floors, to.\n",
"water. fucking. pressure. \nturn on the faucets. see if any water even actually comes out. see if it drains. flush the toilets. run the shower. see if that drains too.",
"if you're in a cold climate choose second or third floor if possible. heat rises and you get free heat from neighbors below! also do some research on the property management company (some really suck)",
"Write down every flaw in the place, especially if a deposit is in play. I say this because I rented an apartment with a patio door. I never used it once and at the end of the lease they tried to get me for general wear and tear that was already there prior. There also was wax from a candle on the carpet. Nothing bad, but there when I moved in. I didn't own any candles, nor did I burn any. They tried to get me on that too. I think it was all framed in a way to prevent them from having to return my deposit.\n\nMy point: Don't think they've taken ANY notes on how the unit was when you signed for it. Or that they'll reference their findings upon the prior tenants exit to validate any claims you may have.",
"When picking a neighborhood or area, Everyblock.com and/or neighborhood subreddits can be insightful. \n\nSee if your alderman or whatever is a shit head or is actually improving your neighborhood. \n\nSee if there are halfway houses, recovery centers and/or methadone clinics in the area. Urban areas will generally have 1 or 2 in high traffic areas, but make sure there aren't a ton clustered together. \n\nCheck sex offender registry. Partially so you're not next door to a rapist, but mostly to see how many are concentrated in the area - it's more a temperature-taker for the area. Again, urban neighborhoods will generally have a couple, but concentration is key. \n\nTalk to neighbors, go past at all hours, check crime maps/police stats. Listen to the police scanner for that area on a weekend night. What kind of crime/disturbances are occurring? (There's a scanner phone app & website). \n\nGood luck!\n\n",
"What's included in the rent : ie. Cable/wifi, water, gas, electricity. Help you compare places more accurately. \n\nAlso I moved into a place and then realised there was no dish washer, that was annoying! ",
"Turn on the Air Conditioner to see how **loud** it is when it clicks on as well as when it is running.\n\nIs the apartment facing **south**? (much larger a/c bills).",
"The bait and switch. If they show you one apartment and then say they have one available but it isn't the one they showed you. Be wary. They will show you a nice clean well maintained one and then after you pay they will put you into another. Almost happened to me twice ",
"Take video of your move in inspection. I worked in property management. Document everything. See your unit before you sign. Check reviews of the property and the general location. ",
"Take a top-floor apartment if you can. Yeah, it's a pain in the ass moving in and out, or every time you buy groceries, but you never hear the people upstairs.\n\nThough you should always be mindful of the people living below you.",
"TL DR: Inspect the place as much as possible. Talk to residents. Not everything that looks awesome on the outside, is awesome on the inside. \n\nJust because it looks awesome on the outside, doesn't mean it's awesome on the inside. I moved into a brand new apartment complex in Austin. As soon as I moved in, I noticed that everything was rushed (building was still under construction when I moved in) and was built with cheap materials. \n\nI'm assuming they had an incentive to finish the place ASAP, but yea.. a lot of residents aren't happy and the place is brand new. Rats on the first floor. Shit is falling apart. Work orders are backed up. Every tenant is in a brand new unit. More sad faces than happy faces around here.",
"Sit on the toilet, if it does not fit you appropriately, will you be able to change it during your stay? If not, will you be willing to put up with toilet-dick for the length of your lease agreement?",
"Showerhead height..... I'm only 6'1\" and I still find most showers only want me to wash from my neck down. ",
"See if you can talk to the current tenants or neighbours. Go back later and introduce yourself and explain that you are thinking about moving in. If there are any major problems they will probably tell you.",
"Saw the water pressure thing a million times. To add to it: take a drink straight from the tap and see how the water tastes. Not every place uses the water source and some bulldings have shitty plumbing.",
"My friends recently were apartment hunting and found one they really liked. Then the landlord wouldn't make an appointment to sign the lease - told them sometime Saturday and he would text them. They texted that morning to confirm and had no reply for hours. Eventually he texted them back six hours later telling them to be at his place in 30 minutes. \n\nIf a landlord is being that unreasonable and non-responsive before you even sign the lease, RUN. Bad landlords are the worst. ",
"My favourite was a comedian who, when looking around a new house asked if it was in a Domino's catchment area. \n \nMy tips, find someone who knows the area and where are the places to avoid. And make sure you pay a visit at night before you decide. Lots of places look fine in the daytime, but then you end up stuck somewhere that's horrible after dark. ",
"Make sure to try and check the seals around windows and doors for a breeze or any air coming in. \n\nCheck the bathroom for any signs of mold, bubbling paint on the ceiling or any dried water spots on the walls or ceilings these can cause health issues as well as other problems.\n\nDepending on your state or province you can sometimes call the power company and get an estimated cost of how much the utilities are for the apartment or house.\n\n",
"Make sure the bedroom and bathroom do not share a wall. Or at the very least, if they do share a wall, make sure the toilet is not up against that shared wall. \n\nYou'd be surprised how noticeable even the slightest hint of piss and poop will seep through the bathroom wall and into your bedroom. Nothing kills the mood faster than the smell of piss and poop (unless you're into that sort of thing), trust me. ",
"Lot of good info in this thread actually... I'd also add a few tips:\n\nIf possible, try to drop by at night as well and take a look around the area. Whether it's due to a high volume of bars or things like homeless shelters or whatever else in the area, a street that seems perfectly normal at 3:45 in the afternoon could turn quiet seedy by 10:00PM. I've had a few friends get burned by this.\n\nIf you're moving into an apartment/studio on top of a storefront, double check neighbouring establishments a few doors down both ways. I learned this the hard way. My current place is awesome because it's cheap and spacious. But my landlord neglected to mention that right next door is a bar that plays live music 7 nights a week, with their back patio not too far from my bedroom window. Guess how I found that out?\n\nIf possible, come a bit early or hang around a bit after you view the unit and see if you can talk to someone who also lives there on their way in/out of the building. Just be like \"Hey sorry to bother, you got 2 seconds? I'm thinking of renting a unit in this building and just wanted to sort of get an insider's opinion on things.\" Most people are more than willing to help and will readily tell you if there is anything you gotta watch out for. (Ie: Roaches... The super/manager is an asshole... The elevators are old and shitty and usually out of service... etc etc...)",
"Late to the party but let me add.. Look around and see if there is anything that might be different when the seasons change. It was winter when I moved into an apartment and when it started getting hot I found out that the community laundry mat was next door and it had a very loud rattling exhaust fan that would keep me up at night. Even though the people going in would only be there for 5 minutes, they would wind the timer up to an hour of ear splitting enjoyment. So look around and see if there are seasonal parks or anything else around that you won't notice now but will be a pain in the ass later. ",
"Knowing and understanding the lease is *critical.* I spent six months as the receptionist for a property management company (officially my Job From Hell) and have seen it all. The times I had to talk to frantic, panicky 20-somethings whose roomies ran out on them, weren't paying utilities like they promised they were, or whatever, broke my heart. These were good kids who wound up stuck in a lease they couldn't afford or with utility companies breathing down their necks, just because their name was on the lease and their roomies knew it and took total advantage, leaving them holding the bag.\n\nThe reality is, the landlord doesn't care if your SO ran out on you and they were paying half the rent. They don't care if all your other roommates took off for parts unknown, or if you've moved in with your boyfriend, or your scholarship ran out, or any of your personal life events. They just don't give one single fuck, they have your name on the lease and they will take you to court to get their money come hell or high water.",
"If you're paying electrical, verify each unit has its' own meter and that you have access to it. - Actually check the bill against the meter. \n\n\nAlso, look at the electrical panel - if it is old style screw in fuses rather than breakers, assume they have kept nothing else up to date.\n\n",
"If possible try to visit the place during the times you will be coming and going - work, school, etc. on weekdays as well as weekends. This could help give you a sense of what traffic patterns will be like around the area.\n\nIf possible visit the place while it is raining - it could save a lot of hassle spotting any leaks before moving in.",
"Hit up your app market & get one of those sex offender finder apps... then while you're check that location to see if there are any people you should be worried who've registered at that address.",
"Go to your local police station and ask if they're there frequently. Ask about property crimes in the area.",
"Go to the apartment at different hours, days and nights if you have enough time. Nothing is worse than finding load obnoxious neighbors after you've already signed the lease.\n\nI visited an apartment at a scheduled time with a manager and it looked peacefully and perfect but went back on a weekend, there were 8 guys drinking beer and bbqing on the lawn right in front of the window of the apt I almost rented. I struck up a conversation with the guys and they told me they do it most weekends and many nights. They also told me the couple who just moved were always complaining to management and they were happy to see I might be moving in. I found I another apartment. \n\nIt's also good to drive by at night, nothing is perfect but I've lived a lot of places and due diligence can help. ",
"Go outside and look at the kinds of cars parked in the stalls. 1970 beaters? New BMWs? The cars give you a good idea of the type of people living in the complex. ",
"Get an apartment that has windows facing south that gets lots of exposure to the sun! Trust me, it will save you energy and keep your apartment relatively warm. Personally, it gives me positive vibes to be in a sunny room! ",
"From my Recent experience (I moved into a building for the first time 6 months ago. Make sure you aren't right next to the garbage shoot. For one thing it's loud and people don't always respect the only until 10 rule. You get bugs climbing up the shoot too and that can suck.\n \n",
"From a landlords perspective - \nConsider it like a job interview. Be presentable, polite and try to make a good first impression. If it is a half decent building you are being screened by the manager.\n\nDon't argue, if you are told you can't bring your bicycle up to your suite, ask if there is bicycle storage and leave it at that.\n\nDon't ask to use the bathroom.\n\nBe sure you are clear on the selection process and follow it, don't try to force three months rent on the manager and say you want to move in that afternoon, being too eager raises questions.\n\nWear shoes that are easy to slip on and off as there may be new or recently cleaned carpet in the suite\n\nDon't bring a bunch of friends and family to view the suite; the manager does not want 5 or 6 people traipsing through an apartment when only one person is looking for accommodation\n\nIf there is more than one of you stay together, especially in an occupied suite. Don't wander into the kitchen when your partner is looking at the bathroom. This is how thieves operate.\n",
"Flight paths of nearby airports.\n\nI had a place where a 3 AM flight would wake me every day. Prop plane that took the Dallas Morning Newspaper to OK City. Heavily loaded, it would buzz over not too far up, engines straining, gaining altitude each and every day.",
"Do not take a unit next to the laundry room/stairs/elevator. Super noisy. Try to get the top floor-- corners are good :)",
"Disgruntled apartment tenant in the toronto ghetto here:\n\nLook up at the ceiling. If there are residents above and you see dents in the ceiling, its likely that the previous tenants had to pound on their ceiling with a broom or something to tell the neighbors to shut the fuck up. Few landlords are observant enough to fix those minor dents. You could have turds living below too, but floors are much harder to read because they generally don't dent when you stomp them.\n\nAlso run the water in the sinks, the shower and flush the toilet. Check to see if the water gets warm after a couple seconds too. There's no bigger pisser than moving into an apartment and finding your hot water is out and you can't do any cleaning or laundry. \n\nTalk to the neighbors too if you can away from the landlord. They will be honest with you about everything, because they have nothing to gain from you moving in.",
"Devil's in the details. Water pressure/temperature consistency, how much electricity does the AC use, wall thickness (for noise), etc. I recommend knocking on doors and asking some neighbors what the pros and cons to the place are.",
"Check for beds. Pull back the fridge, the stove, pretty much everything that isn't nailed down. Then check the cabinets.\n\n",
"Bug shit. it looks like tiny flecks of dirt, so look in the corners of kitchen cupboards and pantrys. Check the windows for proper weather stripping or drafts even, if too close to a radiant heating pipe it **will** make it burst in cold weather regardless of adjusting the heat. **Make damn sure the shutoff valve is made known to you and that it's accessable** Underneath the sinks for water stains, if it smells musty there might be **mold.** **Ask if they fumigated for BEDBUGS. if they say yes they're lying. Extreme heat is the only thing that kills them.** **Baseboards on the walls.** If you see any excessive drywall dust on the floor they may have cheaped out on insulating the suite, therefore paying your utilities may become costly in poor weather. The security of the floor your on, regardless of neighbourhood. Bars on the main floor windows, cameras, etc. **As you go through the suite mention anything and i mean *anything* damaged no matter how small.** get it on a signed peice of paper, an initial beside each flag. they can and will do whatever they can to keep your damage deposit no matter how nice they seem. If you have a chance to scope out or meet your neighbours, do so. ask them about the place, if they're disgruntled? 9/10 they would **love** to rant to a new set of ears. *Never forget renters insurance*.",
"Bring an outlet checker and make sure the outlets are grounded if they are supposed to be, as well as for reversed neutral and hot lines and GFCI outlets. Its dangerous and could damage your equipment.",
"Be careful living next to a park or community center. Lived next to one in Eaglerock Ca and there were several gang shootings outside my house due to gangs trying to sell drugs there. I told my buddy someone got shot and his first question was \"do you live near a community center?\" I said, \"Yes, how did you know?\" And he said \"Yeah, never do that, strange people always hang around those.\"",
"Ask yourself basically if you want to be there for a year. Seriously, look how far your work/school is from there for gas cost and travel time. ",
"Ask to see the actual apartment you would be moving into, not the for-show unit in pristine condition. Also check your state's tenant rights and see what they have to provide without cost to you by law (privacy lock on door, etc.). I also like to talk to the occasional tenant that might be outside out of earshot of the manager/landlord and ask for honest opinions of the place. Finally on move in take dozens and dozens of pictures. Every nook and cranny. And note even the smallest issue on the move in sheet. ",
"1. Open all cupboards and check for bugs, or roach traps. If there are some, chances are your neighbor is a slob. You will never get rid of them for good.\n\n2. Make sure it has central air/heating, which will make you more comfortable and save you money on bills.\n\n3. Check if there are single or double (even triple) pane windows. The more panes, the more efficient you will be with energy consumption.\n\n4. Keep an eye out for imperfections in the carpet. Some states require that the carpet be replaced in certain circumstances.\n\n5. Most importantly, when you finally decide on a place, be sure to take a ton of pictures of EVERYTHING before you start moving in. I'm talking carpet, paint, doors and hinges. Leave nothing out. This will give you leverage to get your security deposit back. If you depend on your word, you will not get a penny back.",
"**You are looking for a good apartment as much as you are looking for a good landlord.**\n\nYou're going to live there for a while, so you want to make sure you have a good connection with the person. A bad landlord means they'll rent to anyone, including neighbours you might hate, and they won't fix problems or they'll fix problems as cheaply as possible which just means the damn thing will break again a week later.\n\nWhen I visit an apartment, I always try to find out why the current tenants are moving, and how long the other tenants have been living there. If you are surrounded by people who have been living there for 10 years, chances are they must like living there. \n\nThen I ask about the noise level. If someone tells you \"The neighbour will sometime put the music high, but he's cool about lowering it when you talk to him\", that really just means that you have a noisy neighbour.\n\nAsk if anything needs to be repaired before you move in. If it needs a coat of paint, ask if they will do it or if they expect you to do it. If the apartment needs any repair, have them write it down on the lease before you sign. If you notice anything broken that wasn't mentioned after moving in, make a list and tell your landlord about it(This way they won't think you broke stuff and you can usually get it fixed promptly).\n\nI like to check the water pressure of places I visit as well. It's usually always fine, but I've seen this apartment with such low water pressure that it would have been faster to spray water on myself with a bottle than use the shower. :p\n\nSince I like cats, I always ask what their policy is about cats. Usually, they always say that they don't want any animals, but that they are fine with cats.\n\nThere's a few more things I could think of, but it may be more regional to where I live, like if the apartment comes with appliances, if it's possible to have a washer and dryer in the apartment, etc.\n\nDon't be afraid to bring a pad with questions on it. You won't look dorky. Good landlords like responsible people. (That's assuming the landlord is the one showing you the place of course)",
"#14...check to see how MANY cars are there during the day. If the spaces are empty, good chances mofo's got jobs n shit. If its full all the time, expect potential gun, domestic violence \n\n*source: I lived in a couple where spaces were always full during the day. I Didnt really care cause I was at work all the time but when I asked why so many cars during the day, the leasing agent said everyone probably works second and third shifts. Lyin bitch",
"\n* Meet your potential neighbors. Knock on their doors to say \"hi\" and see if they're the kind of people you can live with. Are they loud? What do they think of the area? What is their review of the landlord? How much are their utilities?\n\n* Visit your apartment on Friday and Saturday night. Check to see if there are raging parties being thrown.\n\n* Make sure you understand what is included. Which utilities? Parking? Trash? Internet?\n"
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"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/.",
"How to fit reading into my life? Do any of you have any tips that helped get you into reading or a daily routine? I try to read when I wake up but I always give in to checking Reddit or Facebook :/."
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"1-Have a book with you at all times. I'm a college student and have some long breaks between classes, so I would leave a book in my bag and pull it out whenever I have some free time.\n\n2- Read more than one book at a time. The benefit is that no matter what your mood is, there is a book you can read. I usually have informative books that need my attention (e.g. history or politics) and leisure books that I do not have to focus 100% on (novels or books that cover very wide areas). Finally, I would have books that need to be read in a short period of time and others that could takes months to finish on-and-off (e.g. Arabian Nights and a book about NYC's infrastructure)\n\n3- I buy every book I see that interests me and I know I will eventually read it because it is easier to pick a book from your shelf than going to the bookstore and browsing for a book to read now (might not be what you are asking but seemed relevant)",
"Substitute a half-hour of reading time for the time that you normally spend watching TV or redditing. It may be difficult to break the online habit, but you could try using an app like 30/30 to balance your time.\n\nOther suggestions:\n\nListen to audio books while exercising, doing chores, running errands, etc.\n\nRead during your lunch break.\n\nExchange one \"night on the town\" a month for one \"cuddled up with a book\" night. If you have an SO, read together...if you read the same thing, you can discuss the plot, characters, etc. Even reading something different can be enjoyable; my husband and I will cuddle up on the couch while reading different books.",
"Read while you poop... bonus if your out of toilet paper wipe your ass with your least favourite author",
"Read what you love. I like to read fantasy/sci-fi/adventure stuff. Occasionally, a friend or family member will ask me to read a book with them that is often a dramatic fiction novel or is noted for its beautiful writing. I can't usually finish these books or find any motivation to read them because the plot is just so slow. I need books that are fast paced. \nIf time is your issue, audiobooks are a great choice. Good for commuting, exercising, or when you have to do a menial chore/job.",
"Kindle App on your phone.\n\nWhenever you're waiting for anything, 2 minutes, an hour, whatever. Get it out. Read.",
"I just bring my Kindle with me to work and read over my lunch break. That's about 30 minutes of guaranteed reading every day.",
"Huge fan of books on CD. Head to your public library... they usually have a pretty decent selection for FREEE.",
"i made that my new year's resolution last (2014) new year. then i downloaded an audio book app and listened to them in the car instead of music while driving to work and everywhere else. I've 'read' 6-7 really long books since then. only resolution I've ever kept ",
"Two tips probably detailed prior to my post. bring a book every where and read instead of looking at your phone. You would be surprised how much you can get done. \n\nSet 30 minutes aside before you go to bed to read. I find it does a great job of relaxing you and shutting down your brain before sleep. Of course, you won't sleep if its an awesome book, but hey you are reading!",
"Start out slowly--don't dive right into *Ulysses* or anything like that. It worked for me: I had very little time to read during my Christmas break because of all sorts of travelling and get-togethers and such, so afterward, it was very hard for me to get back into reading. I started with a comic book (Vol. 2 of the *Sandman* series), then after that, I went with a fairly easy novel (*To Kill a Mockingbird*), then something a bit more difficult (Ursula K. LeGuin's *Worlds of Exile and Illusion*), and that was enough to get me back to reading at my normal level and frequency. I went from forcing myself to read to it being a pleasure again in a couple weeks. ",
"I would suggest that if the Internet is distracting you, that you need to go someplace where the Internet isn't. Put your phone, tablet and computer down in some room other than your living room, go to your living room, pick up all of the remotes and set them next to the television (with the TV off), and go sit on the couch. This won't put the Internet completely out of reach, but it will require you to overcome inertia in order to get on the Internet.\n",
"Great article about how to find the time to read from one of the largest readers I know of.\n\nhttp://www.farnamstreetblog.com/2013/09/finding-time-to-read/",
"Take a book, and trying to go as far as you possible of technologies, noise, friends and others interferences, just relax and also try to imagine everything you read",
"Listen to audio books while you do chores. \n\nRead while you're on the bus (Kindle app on your phone works well). \n\nTurn off your TV and read for 30-60 minutes in the evening. \n\nFind books that you actually want to read. There's something for everyone. (I happen to love mass market mysteries. I used to be embarrassed about it, but now I celebrate it.) ",
"I grabbed a padded envelope that can accommodate almost any size novel. I just keep that around the current book I'm reading in my backpack at all times. Today, while waiting for my gyro, I cranked out a few pages of 100 Years of Solitude. Once you don't have to worry about the book getting wrecked, it's about consciously putting the phone away and opening the book. ",
"First you need a book you want to read. I recommend This Changes Everything by Naomi Klien.\nSecond, start taking it around with you where you go. Youll start thinking about opportunities to read. If you think about how much you dont want to watch youtubes and read instead that will help you push yourself into it.",
"Download PDFs of some books you'd like to read, and keep them on your computer. iBooks is a great app if you've got a Mac or iPhone- there are tons of free classics in their library, and if you want to read on your phone and then later on your computer, the app will remember where you stopped. Also, e-books are great for if you're driving to work or at the gym."
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"How to stay more engaged in social events? After about an hour or two my social meter seems to crash and I end up just being in the back by myself away from the group. Looking for any tips/advice to stay engaged and not end up as the dark rain cloud\n\n",
"How to stay more engaged in social events? After about an hour or two my social meter seems to crash and I end up just being in the back by myself away from the group. Looking for any tips/advice to stay engaged and not end up as the dark rain cloud\n\n",
"How to stay more engaged in social events? After about an hour or two my social meter seems to crash and I end up just being in the back by myself away from the group. Looking for any tips/advice to stay engaged and not end up as the dark rain cloud\n\n",
"How to stay more engaged in social events? After about an hour or two my social meter seems to crash and I end up just being in the back by myself away from the group. Looking for any tips/advice to stay engaged and not end up as the dark rain cloud\n\n"
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"That happens to me all the time. I’m an introvert, so social events drain my energy. I tend to do better at small gatherings (6 people or less). The more people there are, the more withdrawn I am. It’s just the way I’m wired. My survival mechanism Is to find at least one person to hang out with and just talk with them at the party and in that way I ‘m able to cope.",
"With no extra context, it sounds like you might be an introvert with a small battery life. \n\nIf that's true, here's what I've got:\nAs an introvert, your energy battery is spent when you are around people, and re-charged when you are by yourself doing your own thing.\n\nIf your energy battery is small, pace yourself at events. Don't try to do EVERYTHING at once, or even at all. Pick what's important to you, and do those things. That can mean you only talk to 5 people, could be you talk to 3 specific people and meet two new people, or any combination. That could be something like visit two stations (whatever that may look like in the context of where you are). Without a specific scenario it's hard to come up with examples.\n\nYou can also try to grow your battery life. Do stuff alone, with people. Go to a museum. Go to a coffee shop. Go to the movies. You can do that all alone, but be around people. That can help you learn to balance your introversion and extroverting. Chat with the people that are there doing the same thing (works best at a museum, in the options listed). Just chat.\n\nThere's not a one-and-done action you can take to instantly have more stamina, but I think taking small steps in the right direction will get you where you want to be just fine.",
"I recently met this older guy.. super cool dude. When we all hang out, usually at his place, he's a great host and conversationalist. But usually there comes a point in the night where he'll say \"Whelp, I'm off to bed. Stay as long as you want and shut the door when you leave.\" He doesn't wanna end the party on his account, but also knows his limits for socialization. I respect it. I've adopted that into my social interactions: as soon as I don't feel like being there anymore.. I say my goodbyes and thank you's and head out. If its a larger party or a bar or club, I'll just let one or two friends know I'm leaving and bounce. I've gotten too old to force myself to have fun, when all I want is to just go home and chill.",
"Identify someone who likes to talk a lot. Ask them a few questions to find out what their interests are. Then ask more targeted questions on that, and let them talk overtime."
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"How to get the smell of cigarette smoke out of a paperback book. I was visiting family and the whole.\n house smells like cigarettes including my book that I brought with me.\n\n",
"How to get the smell of cigarette smoke out of a paperback book. I was visiting family and the whole.\n house smells like cigarettes including my book that I brought with me.\n\n",
"How to get the smell of cigarette smoke out of a paperback book. I was visiting family and the whole.\n house smells like cigarettes including my book that I brought with me.\n\n"
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"Spray bottle full of vodka. Neutralizes tobacco odor, and assuming the bottle isn't ridiculously strong the amount of liquid shouldn't damage the book.",
"Put some ground coffee in a brown paper bag and staple it shut. Place the book and coffee bag in an airtight container. The coffee should absorb the smell. \nI put a \"coffee bag\" in my car to remove stinky cat poop smell. It worked really well. (the cat is also fine)",
"It would probably be a pain since it's a thick book but you can sprinkle baking soda between every few pages. Let it sit for several days to absorb the odors. It won't damage the paper and can be easily bushed off with your hand or a soft clean cloth."
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"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?",
"Getting rid of pins and needles in the most painless way At night I frequently fall asleep on my arm. I wake up with a completely numb arm and then the pins and needles set in... Why is that feeling so completely unbearable? It takes like five minutes of agony to slowly get rid of it. Any ideas on how to make it suck less?"
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"Someone posted a solution a bit back. Put something cold against it. It almost instantly wakes it up with no pain. I use it often because my legs fall asleep a lot.",
"It's unbearable? I absolutely love when that happens I think it feels great. I'm not trying to sound like an ass, I'm just curious to what percentage of people enjoy it vs hate it",
"this happens often to me while sleeping and whenever my arm is numb i just drop it off the side of the bed and let it hang for less than a minute until it stops feeling fat from the blood flowing again then just return to normal sleep position. never had pins and needles, ever.",
"Slowly rotate your neck and shoulders. This sensation is usually caused by a pinched nerve either in your neck or shoulder.",
"I read somewhere to pump your arms as if you're punching invisible objects when your legs are alseep helps the pain go away quicker. And yeah rotating you neck if it's your arm. Anything to get the blood pumping works well for me. (I probably look like I'm having a seizure when I get it really bad and trying to get it to go away)",
"I have this spot on my chest, if I scratch there, I get pins and needles in my left arm. It usually goes away if I use my arm, maybe that helps? ",
"I fall asleep on my arm occasionally, and I'll wake up in the middle of the night and can't even move it, like I lost control of the arm. I have to grab it and then move it to a location where it will regain \"consciousness\"",
"From what i understand, that pins and needles feeling is from the capillaries in your extremity contracting trying to pump blood, but there isn't the amount of blood there should be, so they're bascially pumping too hard and cramping up...i think? The main idea is that it's cause by lack of blood flow.\n\nI always push/massage blood back into the limb. So like, for your arm, start above where it hurts and start squeezing/pushing/massaging blood down your arm. Typically helps my legs after i sit cross-legged too long.",
"This can often be caused by a buildup of oxygen depleted blood in your limb. Try lifting your arm above your heart, it should help to relieve the feeling much more quickly. ",
"I've heard a lack of blood flow like that can, in some prolonged cases, cause serious damage so maybe work on a preventative scheme? (If it's in fact a loss in blood flow). However you should certainly keep in mind my source. \n\nSource: ??",
"As a person with a circulatory problem, try flapping your hands like a bird if the feeling is in your hands. Same with legs.\n\nLPT: Don't do both legs at the same time."
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"How to have a good signature? I've been signing a lot of paper work recently and my current signature is just appalling and inconsistent. \nHow do I make it look better and be more consistent? ",
"How to have a good signature? I've been signing a lot of paper work recently and my current signature is just appalling and inconsistent. \nHow do I make it look better and be more consistent? "
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"The best signature is one thats simple for you to do, but hard to copy and doesnt read like your name. I've saved my job a few times by proving that the signature on a form wasnt mine. ",
"Depends on what name you've got. My name is Ryan, I start with a big sweeping arch of the R, use the tail of the R as the start of my Y. The tail of my Y is just as large as the arch of my R and swings under the R, I leave the tail of the Y and head into a standard cursive A, then do a simple N. \nMy advice is to look at famous signatures with your first name. Then practice that and make it your own. \n",
"All the curly signatures look awesome. I do my first name in cursive writing and then stack/overlap my initial other initials on top of that.\n\nIt's quick and hard to copy.\n\nHope that helps. "
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"How to get acrylic/water based paint off of cat whiskers My wife and I decided to paint our daughter's room green this weekend and my 6 month old kitty decided to help. After spending a lot of time cleaning him, the carpet, the wood, the kitchen table, the piano and the curtains...his whiskers are left to be cleaned still.\n\nIt's just two whiskers and knowing how sensitive they are, I dont want to do anything that might hurt him. \n\nMy wife suggested I call the vet, but I told her I knew of a group of people that would likely know all things cat, so I come to you, Reddit!\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated.",
"How to get acrylic/water based paint off of cat whiskers My wife and I decided to paint our daughter's room green this weekend and my 6 month old kitty decided to help. After spending a lot of time cleaning him, the carpet, the wood, the kitchen table, the piano and the curtains...his whiskers are left to be cleaned still.\n\nIt's just two whiskers and knowing how sensitive they are, I dont want to do anything that might hurt him. \n\nMy wife suggested I call the vet, but I told her I knew of a group of people that would likely know all things cat, so I come to you, Reddit!\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated.",
"How to get acrylic/water based paint off of cat whiskers My wife and I decided to paint our daughter's room green this weekend and my 6 month old kitty decided to help. After spending a lot of time cleaning him, the carpet, the wood, the kitchen table, the piano and the curtains...his whiskers are left to be cleaned still.\n\nIt's just two whiskers and knowing how sensitive they are, I dont want to do anything that might hurt him. \n\nMy wife suggested I call the vet, but I told her I knew of a group of people that would likely know all things cat, so I come to you, Reddit!\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated.",
"How to get acrylic/water based paint off of cat whiskers My wife and I decided to paint our daughter's room green this weekend and my 6 month old kitty decided to help. After spending a lot of time cleaning him, the carpet, the wood, the kitchen table, the piano and the curtains...his whiskers are left to be cleaned still.\n\nIt's just two whiskers and knowing how sensitive they are, I dont want to do anything that might hurt him. \n\nMy wife suggested I call the vet, but I told her I knew of a group of people that would likely know all things cat, so I come to you, Reddit!\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated."
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"Soapy warm water, if that doesn't work mix a small amount of nail Polish remover in the mixture and try again.",
"Did you really paint your walls with acrylic paint, OP? Acrylic is art/craft paint. The kind you use on your walls is usually latex paint. If a drop of vegetable oil doesn't work, I'd call the vet. Anything else that'll dissolve dried latex paint is gonna be toxic to your cat.",
"I'd just ignore it. Eventually those whiskers will fall off of their own accord, or the paint will wear off the whisker.",
"Put a soft, thin sock on your hand and wet it, then stroke gently from root to tip without pulling the whiskers forwards. The sock allows better manipulation and you can rub the whole bunch gently or individual whiskers."
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"How to make my stories more interesting and maintain people's attention I notice that when I am talking about a particular event with people I tend to ramble or get sidetracked as I feel I need to explain the whole backstory, but it ends up with people starting to lose interest and makes me forget the original point. My brain often overthinks everything.\n\nWhen I listen to other people's stories, or when they share what they've been up to, even if it isn't a particularly interesting outcome it is still told in an entertaining way. I would love to be able to do that.\n\nAre there any simple tips that can help me be a better storyteller?",
"How to make my stories more interesting and maintain people's attention I notice that when I am talking about a particular event with people I tend to ramble or get sidetracked as I feel I need to explain the whole backstory, but it ends up with people starting to lose interest and makes me forget the original point. My brain often overthinks everything.\n\nWhen I listen to other people's stories, or when they share what they've been up to, even if it isn't a particularly interesting outcome it is still told in an entertaining way. I would love to be able to do that.\n\nAre there any simple tips that can help me be a better storyteller?",
"How to make my stories more interesting and maintain people's attention I notice that when I am talking about a particular event with people I tend to ramble or get sidetracked as I feel I need to explain the whole backstory, but it ends up with people starting to lose interest and makes me forget the original point. My brain often overthinks everything.\n\nWhen I listen to other people's stories, or when they share what they've been up to, even if it isn't a particularly interesting outcome it is still told in an entertaining way. I would love to be able to do that.\n\nAre there any simple tips that can help me be a better storyteller?"
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"Sounds like you are nervous. Imo, you seem to know what the problem is. Just have to slow down, pick your words, and you don't have to reveal everything at once, or at all. You have no obligation to relay any detail. Let them ask or just sit back and start listening instead.\n\nIs quite possible you simply have to say less, not \"the same amount but better\"\n\nI've known quiet people who, when they did start to chime in, captured everyone's attention because they've a history of saying key statements whether insightful, funny, etc",
"Skip the backstory. If your listener is really interested, they will ask you more about it. Get to your point or the punchline.",
"If it’s a story about an actual event, try replaying the event in your head and describing in as much detail as you can. Use lots of adjectives and change up your language. For example, instead of saying the word ‘big’ repeatedly, try substituting it with synonyms: large, giant, enormous. Also change up sentence length(more important in writing. It keeps things interesting. "
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"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?",
"What to do when shady people are walking in my direction? I have to go downtown a lot and its not the safest area. One question I always had on my mind is what to do if I see a group of shady people in the distance walking down my direction. Should I just cross the street or act like im on my phone or would this make them think I am trying to avoid them?"
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"Law enforcement here. You are never under any obligation to observe social convention if you feel threatened or unsafe. Your instincts are there for a reason. They're a survival mechanism shaped by thousands of years of evolution. It might be rude or whatever but who cares? Move to safety.\n\nYou do have an obligation however to put those feelings in check when you're interacting with a \"shady looking person\" in a work place or social setting. That's the time when you have an obligation not to be judgmental. But yeah on the street with a stranger? Don't worry about their feelings, walk the opposite direction if it will make you feel safer. Just dont let that judgment creep into social situations. ",
"I do a few things in those situations. \n\n1) Do not look indecisive, even if you are lost act like you know where you are going.\n\n2) Walk with confidence, even if you are scared.\n\n3) Keep your head on a swivel. Don't avoid looking at the shady folks but don't just stare at them either.\n\n4) Cross the street as if that is where you need to be.\n\nBasically do everything you can to not look like prey.",
"I'm a small woman and often look younger than I am. One thing I've noticed: when I'm scowling or make a point to think \"murder\" in my head while walking, no one messes with me because it changes your facial expression. Makes it seem like you can handle yourself. When I'm smiling to myself or looking lost/unsure, I get approached by beggars and other people looking to bother me. \n\nHead high, shoulders back, and walk like you're marching into a murder scene (or whatever works to make you look focused and vaguely threatening)\n\nIf this doesn't work for you or you're still unsure, then actually call someone and talk to them. ",
"Hold up your phone to your ear and say very loudly, \"The baby is coming NOW?! Oh my god, oh my god!\"\nAnyone that can hear that wouldn't think twice if you busted into a full on sprint. \nOr carry pepper spray. Your call",
"I sometimes walk home at midnight, which takes about 30 minutes and I have to go through a part of town where a lot of drug dealers are. Whenever I walk past them I try to look as angry as possible. Never had any problems, but I've heared about others getting beaten up there for no reason. I believe that when I make an angry face they think that I'm under the influence or something.\n\nSo my advice is: Try to look angry and act like you don't even notice the other guy.\n\nThe downside of this is that women who also walk home in this part of town often get scared of me haha :D I notice it when I walk behind them and they start getting faster and faster.",
"*fake call friend*\n\n\"I want to ask you something [name]. my girlfriend/boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I am HIV postitve. How do I tell him/her?\" \n\nOr do some variant on this.",
"Situational awareness is the most important survival skill - don't let yourself get into the position where you have to fight. Cross the road, absolutely. Double back if you need to. Go into a store, place yourself where you have multiple directions of escape, be prepared to ring a stranger's doorbell if it's getting a bit close.\n\nGet ready to run - if some group of thugs just wants to look big, they'll be too lazy to chase you. \n\nOnly ever fight if you're cornered and with no other options. If they want money, throw your wallet on the floor in a direction that means them going for it opens up a route to escape.\n\nIf you must fight, as a last ditch thing, be explosive in your responses, be as violent and wild as you can, forget the shit you see in movies and go straight for soft tissues - eyes, windpipe, bollocks as hard as you can. If you can kick or knee the bollocks, useful, otherwise a stomping kick to the inside of the knee is destabilising and can do enough damage to make it hard to chase you. That's the aim - disabling so you can run away effectively - but it's absolutely last resort stuff. The situational awareness is where it's at.",
"DO NOT STARE AT YOUR PHONE. It makes you look weak, it's animalistic but true! Make sure people know your aware of their presences and your surroundings and your not scared to look them in the eyes, BUT don't stare either that's just rude just make them know your ready to react if they try something. That said crossing the street is never a bad idea.",
"To those who advise you that being confident, on the phone, or angry looking and they'll not mess with you... well I guess they can enjoy getting killed by gang bangers or drugged out addicts.\n\nThis is time to use the greatest self defense technique in the world... walking away. Feel free to cross the street.",
"There are a lot of apps that you can download from the app store like Safewalk and Companion that allow you to basically hold down a button while you feel threatened or whatever (they have a GPS to track your location) and in the event that you let go of that button it will notify a friend/family/law enforcement and also let them know about your whereabouts. ",
"My trick is to look them in the eye and engage them (in conversation), \"Hi guys. Nice night isn't it?\"\n\nApproaching someone else as a human being makes them more likely to act like a human being.\n\nEven gang bangers have people they care about.",
"My mom's pro tip (opinions?): Whenever in very uncomfortable situations walking alone.. she's told me to call her, give her my location and the physical appearance of the questionable \"creep\"--the location given especially loud to ward off any unwelcome attempts. \n\nThoughts? I've only \"had\" to do it once, but did help me feel much better. Of course in the case where calling your mother isn't an option, a friend or SO other would be good. And in case no one answers, leaving a message with the same info. could be good. \n\nI know they say not to be on your phone (of course texting and looking down at your phone might be different) but what does anyone think of calling someone? \"Hey, I'm walking home alone don't feel super comfortable right now, can you just stay with me until I feel safe\"? This way if anything -were- to happen, someone would know immediately and could send for help.",
"Just because it is relevant -- What give you the impression that these people are \"shady\"?\n\nI've never been able to tell moral questionability just by looking at a person.\n\nI only ask because [your use of the word \"shady\" isn't even difficult to decode as meaning \"black\"](https://mic.com/articles/99182/7-racially-coded-phrases-that-everyone-needs-to-stop-saying-about-black-people).",
"act a little unhinged, start mumbling to yourself angrily, twitch a bit. \n\nno one will ever fuck with someone they think may be unstable. ",
"Don't assume every \"shady\" person is out to get you, but if you're worried about it, don't be alone. Go places with someone else."
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"How to stop being too clingy? So a few weeks ago I managed to make some new friends and we even went out and a movie and stuff but lately they've been acting really cold and I really feel that they want me to fuck off based on how they respond in one word per text instead of the usual slightly longer messages and just really randomly responds in an aggressive tone when I ask them about something like homework. I think there might be a problem with me being too clingy I guess but I just don't wanna lose a friend like I did a year ago due to me not investing time in them, but now it just feels like it's the opposite and that its my destiny to not have friends. Any suggestions on how to stop being clingy?\n\nI am a male if that's important",
"How to stop being too clingy? So a few weeks ago I managed to make some new friends and we even went out and a movie and stuff but lately they've been acting really cold and I really feel that they want me to fuck off based on how they respond in one word per text instead of the usual slightly longer messages and just really randomly responds in an aggressive tone when I ask them about something like homework. I think there might be a problem with me being too clingy I guess but I just don't wanna lose a friend like I did a year ago due to me not investing time in them, but now it just feels like it's the opposite and that its my destiny to not have friends. Any suggestions on how to stop being clingy?\n\nI am a male if that's important",
"How to stop being too clingy? So a few weeks ago I managed to make some new friends and we even went out and a movie and stuff but lately they've been acting really cold and I really feel that they want me to fuck off based on how they respond in one word per text instead of the usual slightly longer messages and just really randomly responds in an aggressive tone when I ask them about something like homework. I think there might be a problem with me being too clingy I guess but I just don't wanna lose a friend like I did a year ago due to me not investing time in them, but now it just feels like it's the opposite and that its my destiny to not have friends. Any suggestions on how to stop being clingy?\n\nI am a male if that's important"
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"Possibly they think you're developing a romantic interest in them and they're not interested in you on that level. Maybe try asking for advice about another love interest you're thinking about. This could result in them not pulling away. Sometimes people don't know how to get the message across that they're not interested in someone who they only want a friendship with so they push that person away.",
"I can't emphasize enough to just be yourself, if they don't like you for who you are then they weren't really your friend. Don't worry about being \"clingy\".",
"Clinginess is a form of insecurity, which is an expression of a lack of self esteem. Build yourself up - physically, psychologically, conversationally, etc. - so that you are confident in what you bring to the table. \n\nI can’t tell you what you feel it is that you lack that they bring to your life with their presence, or what you’re worried about them finding elsewhere and thus not needing you any more, or what you believe is driving them away from you. You know what’s going on with yourself mentally, so you know where you need to improve and some time on Google and YouTube will help you figure out how to do that."
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"How to stop face getting red Whether it be presentations or messing something up, when I feel attention is attracted to me I suddenly get so red or flustered. It's always been like this growing up does anyone have any LPT?",
"How to stop face getting red Whether it be presentations or messing something up, when I feel attention is attracted to me I suddenly get so red or flustered. It's always been like this growing up does anyone have any LPT?",
"How to stop face getting red Whether it be presentations or messing something up, when I feel attention is attracted to me I suddenly get so red or flustered. It's always been like this growing up does anyone have any LPT?",
"How to stop face getting red Whether it be presentations or messing something up, when I feel attention is attracted to me I suddenly get so red or flustered. It's always been like this growing up does anyone have any LPT?",
"How to stop face getting red Whether it be presentations or messing something up, when I feel attention is attracted to me I suddenly get so red or flustered. It's always been like this growing up does anyone have any LPT?",
"How to stop face getting red Whether it be presentations or messing something up, when I feel attention is attracted to me I suddenly get so red or flustered. It's always been like this growing up does anyone have any LPT?"
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"For me, it was to realize that when I am at the front of the room, I am now the one in charge. I'm not being judged, I'm being put in control and given the power to command the room. Realize that everyone is looking at you because you have been recognized as a source of information or inspiration. They should be afraid of being shushed by you, you should not be afraid of being embarrassed by them. It is YOUR room. Own it.",
"Breathe very deeply, very slowly. Concentrate intensely on this. This helps calm you down. Smile slightly as you do it, to help make it a positive moment for you and others. Prepare in advance a question you can ask your audience to divert attention for a moment while you collect yourself with this breathing exercise. For me the anxious moment always passes and this helps me buy time for it to run its course. ",
"Accept it. \n\nYou're getting red because your bloodflow rises. That's because your body think's that your brain needs more oxygen to work faster. And after all that's not a bad thing. This thought helped me to accept my red face and at least stopped the red circle of mega redness that always started when I noticed my face turning hotter and hotter. Breathe, but don't close your eyes, stop thinking about your face and what other people might think about it, think about what you want to say and don't rush. Even faked calmness will slow you down and restore your confidence. \n\nBonus advice: If you have friends that make fun of you for getting red, tell them to stop it (in private).",
"This used to happen to me really bad. As I started to work out more and eat better my face stopped getting so red. It still happens sometimes but it's a lot better just from that ",
"Every day try breathing with your belly as often as you can and maybe be more active to keep the blood running in your body (martial arts like Aikido for example can help a lot as it may give you more confidence and keep you relaxed and focused) + stop alcohol and no more solo sex / porn. Should work. I used to blush big time in every stressful situation. These little tricks worked for me and I didn't blush once in 2 years. I only get red when I get very angry which is something that does not happen often. Hope it helped. ",
"There is nothing you can do. I've even tried getting flustered on purpose ahead of time. Nothing works. "
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"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way.",
"being productive while not close to the deadline I'm a student and my productivity increases tenfold while writing papers on the last night - not only in quantity, but also in quality (my ideas and writing become better).\n\nHowever, sometimes that's not enough and I miss the deadline, which has had major bad consequences for my studies. How do I harness this power at earlier times? Setting an arbitrary \"fake\" deadline doesn't seem to work, I'm not very good at deceiving myself this way."
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"make yourself busy.\nDropped down to two courses at uni thinking more time = better marks. Failed both. Did a full four course load and worked and I passed everything. if you never have spare time you use all your time because you have that deadline feeling all the time.",
"Think about how well your quality of your paper could be if you start earlier and read it and make changes.- I always tell myself that because usually when i write something last minute its good, but then I go back and think of all the things I could have done better. For example, using more powerful words, etc.\n\nBut I usually am like you, procrastinating till last minute. And it causes unneeded stress. I think we both need better time management skills!",
"Break it down into steps and then the steps into a schedule. Research, first draft, second draft, final. Then set deadlines for each step. ",
"Change location. Have a dedicated getting-stuff-done location. For me this is a library that requres you to leave backpacks and jackets in a locker.\n\nOn getting-stuff-done-days (usually a dedicated Saturday with no social obligations and deadlines) I leave my phone in the locker, install [this](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/stayfocusd/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji?hl=de) chrome plugin to prevent myself from reddrocrastrinating and outline my todo-list *on paper*. Having it outlined on paper prevents me from just forgetting about it and drowning it in new tabs/behind other applications. \n\nNow in order actually pull through with my productivity session, I make sure I am appropriately stimulated. Either I have a source of coffee nearby or some caffeine pills. Note that stimulants work very well in the morning, when you are already awake. Further I push myself to complete the sub-tasks on my to-do list by:\n\n* not \"rewarding\" myself after completing a task. This is how you loose focus. You can reward yourself when the entire todo list is done.\n\n* not waiting for \"motivation\" or \"inspiration\". Discipline is the key\n\n* ticking tasks of the list\n\n* not doing task in sequential order. somehow, a task you really don't feel like doing can make you complete smaller tasks in order to defer it.\n\nI hope this helps. Getting stuff done is a habit you have to gradually build, not something you can master instantly. Just never cease to make the effort.",
"just take a tiny step. Don't sit down and say I'm going to write a whole essay. Just sit down and say you're going to see if you can come up with a rough draft in 10 minutes. Then just leave it out and check on it every once in a while and change something",
"Try to sit together with other productive people and meet up in a place where you are not allowed to chatter and get distracted like the library. You can still take breaks together. Your friends don't necessarily have to do the same studies as you. It might even be better if they are working on something else, but it is important that they also have goals to achieve.",
"Have you tried to just do something, anything, everyday? Even if it's just too read the assignment again. You might get inspired. You'll at least keep it in your consciousness a little bit more often.",
"Don't tell yourself that you have to write the whole paper in one sitting. Take small steps like writing one paragraph.",
"Get it done earlier and you won't have to worry about a deadline. Once you do it a couple times, you'll love the feeling of not having to rush to get it done. "
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"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? ",
"Just found out I need to pay 6 grand to get my teeth fixed, can't afford and they're getting worse. How to cope with the stress? "
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"Are you near a dental school? They need the practice (supervised) and would charge less than a regular dentist",
"Go to a cheaper country to have it done. People from England travel to Poland to have expensive dental work",
"Ask if the provider takes Care Cr",
"You could try to crowd financing like Causes, GoFundMe, etc. Your story might pull some heart strings.",
"Honestly take a loan and do it. The stress of the loan will be much less than the stress of your teeth falling out or being painful.",
"Get a second opinion on the teeth and the work.\n\nI once got a high price for getting work done on my teeth.\n\nI went and got a second opinion. The quote was less because he had a different view of what was urgent and what could wait. He was also just fucking cheaper and not a dental cowboy.",
"That's a lot of teeth to root canal, and root canals have a lifespan, they aren't going to last you till your old age anyway. Have your dentists not suggested dentures? Dentures don't make the dentists as much money, but if they are this bad.... There are always options. People with enough money could do implants.",
"My cousin came to my country in flight, lived 15 days in a hotel, got his 5 teeth fixed, and flew back to his country. Still costed him less.",
"Look into public dental insurance. Public aid may handle the root canals. For the cosmetic, try to save up money to do what would build your confidence the most.",
"I'm going to assume you're an American (GED) so if you're not, however, my links will not be helpful and you'll have to Google something yourself. Anyway, I would [go to Mexico to get them fixed at a reduced rate.](https://www.medicaltourismco.com/dental-tourism-mexico/) Or as Spitfire-XIV suggested, go to a [dental school](https://coda.ada.org/en/find-a-program/search-dental-programs#t=us&sort=%40codastatecitysort%20ascending). I do the latter and have had excellent care at a reduced rate, although they are slower.",
"Look up Care Cr",
"Pulling the remaining teeth is not a preferable option as opposed to getting the RCT and the restorative work. Dentures, even implant supported dentures carry with them a lower quality of life and aren't always authentically better. There are financing programs such as care cr",
"If you are 24, make an appointment at a reputable Dentist. If that Dentist can’t help you within your budget, she will give you the best advice. \n\nTLDR trust Dentists. Good ones understand.",
"This is going to be controversial but you can get a second job. That’s how I paid for literally everything in my life. I actually got my teeth fixed about two years ago and it cost $3000. And that’s the discount place I went to that does not take insurance because I didn’t have any. It would’ve cost 4,000. Even if you get a job that pays a literally minimum wage down to the penny, you will be absolutely surprised how quickly you’ll be able to save up $1000 if you don’t ever touch a single dollar of the money you’re making with the second job. A second job is very tough so it’s not some thing I’m saying lightly. I don’t have a family I can rely on and I don’t have a partner that I could split cost of living with so I just take care of myself and the way I do that is by having two jobs.",
"If you live near a University you can look up drug research programs, idk if you have experience with drugs but I did an inpatient research study, stayed like 21 days and got paid 5 g's. I got what I needed for school but there were people there who did multiple studies.",
"I wish I could help but since I faced this situation in Germany and with dental insurance (still cost me upwards of €3k so far and still not done, insurance didn’t cover much), all I can do is say good luck. And just a reminder that you’re not alone in this situation, it’s shit and it’s scary, but as it seems like you know, it’s best to have it taken care of as soon as possible.",
"Figure out ways to make money. The trades ron't require a high school diploma to work. GED sure does help but get involved with an electrician/plumber/HVAC company. Start from the ground up.\n\nA lot of these places offer benefits and pay well. I know several HVAC companies willing to train the right guy for $15 an hour and once you are good $20-$25 an hour.",
"Drugs. Seriously though cities often have dental schools and other free or low cost dental options. Whatever you do DON'T get your molars pulled! You really need them to chew foods.",
"The state of one's teeth are a reflection of the bones overall. You can reduce the decline/decay by improving your diet, avoid grains & beans unless fermented. Eat good fat, exercise, raise your dairy intake (non-pasteurized), get sun on your skin as much as possible to help deposit calcium, use natural dentifrice products like Neem or Miswak and chew cardamom+cloves frequently as the natural oils kill bacteria. \nLook up Dr. Weston Price and pls avoid getting your teeth damaged by root canals.\nhttps://youtube.com/c/TheWestonAPrice\nReach out if you need more details.\nGood luck!"
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"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.",
"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.",
"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.",
"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.",
"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.",
"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.",
"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle.",
"how can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? How can I consume foods/drinks I find distasteful more easily? Like healthy foods/drinks the taste of which I dislike. I've always been a very picker eater but I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle."
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"Embrace the (disgusting) taste, if you want to like it, you will. People start smoking every day. I did not enjoy my first beer.",
"On the one hand you can experiment until you find something you actually like. On the other hand, for most people the best thing they can do as far as eating in a more healthy way is to simply eat less.",
"Kinda depends wildly on what items you're referring to.\n\nWhat healthy drink bugs you?\n\nAs for vegetables, I find garlic and sesame oil go a long way.",
"It really is an acquired taste. You'll only enjoy it if you do it, so serve a portion and eat it.\n\nYou can also start by correcting yourself: when you see junk food, think disgusting and think disgusting things (ewww, that fried chicken is so greasy, it's fat, just fat -imagine the taste of raw rancid fat in mouth- ew).\n\nThen think of the good things on healthy food: lettuce is fresh, tomatoes are pretty, taste is great, this is just what your body needs.\n\nAs you eat, concentrate on tasting ans try not to imagine how it should taste (ie: used to eating salty fatty food? Obviously a salad if NONE of that. Flavors are subtle, almost muted but not tasteless. Cheese can be nutty, or smokey, tomatoes can be sweeter or acid, mushrooms can be earthy) concentrate in breaking down the flavor and texture rather than judging it.\n\nAs you make it a part of your diet you'll find that eating it is no biggie, it's not gross, it's simply different.",
"Introduce them into your diet in small portions. onions, bell peppers and mushrooms can all be minced to nearly nothing, sauteed in a pan and then added to tomato sauce for pasta. I used to hate mushrooms until I started cooking with them. Made gravies and green bean casserole from scratch, and made my mushrooms as small as I wanted them. I still don't like them raw, but I'm fine with them on pizza or cooked in other dishes, so long as they aren't big slices.\n\nI don't know what drinks you find distasteful, so it's hard to say how to do that. If you need to drink more water, consider getting a soda stream. I find carbonated water is a good way to switch things up. You can add the juice of some citrus fruit, or make your own fruit syrups to add. Tea can be mixed with honey (or agave) and lemon juice to make it more palatable. ",
"Depends on what it is you're trying to eat, I personally, hate smoothies, but want the banana-y goodness, but I ram some cocoa powder in that fucker and I'm good to go, maybe get the key ingredient you're trying to get in you and google search some recipes?",
"Are you cooking them properly? I will eat just about any vegetable put in front of me but only if they are cooked right, like a boiled brussel sprout is always gonna taste like feet",
"A little bit of fat and and a little bit of salt go a long way. Especially for veggies. Throw a little butter or olive oil and some salt and pepper on whatever veggie you got and it'll taste a million times better. \n\nSalt is also necessary for properly absorbing water, as well as regulating thyroid function thanks to the iodine. And a great many nutrients are fat soluble so making sure to get enough healthy fats (including moderate amounts of saturated fat) is important. "
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"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks",
"Keeping a big bottle of soda fizzy? Any suggestions on how to keep 2 litre bottles of Coca Cola (or any other sodas) fizzy after prolonged use?\n\nThanks"
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"http://www.amazon.com/Jokari-Soda-Bottle-Carbonation-Keeper-colors/dp/B00114WNG8/\n\nSomething like that may work for you.",
"If you happen to be a homebrewer, (likely you're not) look into the [carbonator cap](http://www.amazon.com/LiquidBread-The-Carbonater/dp/B0064OKADS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1371764062&sr=8-1&keywords=carbonator+cap)\n\nThis thing attaches to a 2 liter bottle, and you apply some CO2 from your tank to the bottle. Keeps everything nice and carbed, or carbonates things that weren't / have went flat.",
"You can get a small chunk of dry ice and drop it into the bottle. Squeeze all of the air out and close the lid. As the dry ice turns to gas it will reinflate the bottle. This works best when the liquid (soda) is already cold. Also start with small amounts of dry ice, as too much can cuase the bottle to over pressurize and explode (which is why you don't want to do this with glass containers).",
"This drives me crazy so I avoid the problem. \n\nAfter opening, simply pour out the big bottle into smaller sealed bottles e.g. empty water bottles, mason jars, etc. \n\nI do this all the time and if untouched they stay fizzy for quite a while, 2 weeks+. ",
"Here is a way you can try (I didn't try it but I'm sure of the physics)\nput a plastic bag inside the soda bottle and inflate it with air (a balloon can work)(water or any other liquid of your choice can work better since it's not compressible) then tie it and secure it down (should be in a way to be easily undone/untied). This way there isn't much space for the gas in the soda to escape to and the pressure builds up quickly with minimal loss of gas (the less space you leave in the bottle the better).\nOf course don't forget to tighten the bottle and the balloon/bag is clean since it contacts the soda. Also store it in a cool place.\n\n**TL;DR put a balloon inside the soda bottle**",
"A bit late to this, but put glass marbles in the bottle, until they displace practically all the air and the drink fills to near the lid. The smaller air-gap left means less CO2 can escape the drink, so it should stay fizzy.\n\nGlass marbles are cheap and aren't going to taint the taste of a drink at all, and if you buy a load of them you can use them in multiple bottles as needed. They probably won't be quite as effective as the carbonation keeper device, but slightly cheaper.",
"All you have to do is keep the soda towards the cap, so lay it on its side or in the door upside down. ",
"Reddit has answered this question a few times. But, seeing how searching Reddit sucks monkey balls, I will pay it forward: Squeeze all of the air out of the bottle and tighten the cap as hard as you can. Should be good for about a week.",
"Please, don't drink soda pop at all. Diet or regular, it's terrible for your health. It strips your body of calcium, among other things. My mother lost over 5\" of height in less than 5 years, simply because she used to drink Pepsi. (She hadn't been drinking it for many years, yet it still caused osteoporosis that damaged her bones.)\n\nIf you want a sweet drink, get fruit juice instead. Osteoporosis is really debilitating, and causes a lot of pain. You seriously don't want that in your future."
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"How to Parallel Park Perfectly every time? Hello Reddit. I need some advice on how to perfectly parallel park every time. Not the process ( I got that down), but small things that will help like \"blank should always be in your left mirror\" or \"blank should always be in your right window\" or \"do this with your brakes\". Any tips would be appreciated!",
"How to Parallel Park Perfectly every time? Hello Reddit. I need some advice on how to perfectly parallel park every time. Not the process ( I got that down), but small things that will help like \"blank should always be in your left mirror\" or \"blank should always be in your right window\" or \"do this with your brakes\". Any tips would be appreciated!",
"How to Parallel Park Perfectly every time? Hello Reddit. I need some advice on how to perfectly parallel park every time. Not the process ( I got that down), but small things that will help like \"blank should always be in your left mirror\" or \"blank should always be in your right window\" or \"do this with your brakes\". Any tips would be appreciated!",
"How to Parallel Park Perfectly every time? Hello Reddit. I need some advice on how to perfectly parallel park every time. Not the process ( I got that down), but small things that will help like \"blank should always be in your left mirror\" or \"blank should always be in your right window\" or \"do this with your brakes\". Any tips would be appreciated!",
"How to Parallel Park Perfectly every time? Hello Reddit. I need some advice on how to perfectly parallel park every time. Not the process ( I got that down), but small things that will help like \"blank should always be in your left mirror\" or \"blank should always be in your right window\" or \"do this with your brakes\". Any tips would be appreciated!",
"How to Parallel Park Perfectly every time? Hello Reddit. I need some advice on how to perfectly parallel park every time. Not the process ( I got that down), but small things that will help like \"blank should always be in your left mirror\" or \"blank should always be in your right window\" or \"do this with your brakes\". Any tips would be appreciated!"
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"I had a pretty great Driver's Ed teacher. While it won't make it perfect every time, here's how he taught me: \n1. approach the car in front of the space you want to park in. line up with it as closely and evenly as possible. \n2. begin to cut the wheel. more than you expect, but keep the other car's rear bumper in your rear view. \n3. by the time your seat is even with the rear of the car in front, your wheel should be turned all the way. \n4. slowly turn the wheel back the other direction, watching your hood and their rear bumper. get as close as you can! \n \nYou may have to \"Austin Powers\" it a few times, but this is the greatest parallel parking advice I've ever gotten! Best of luck! \n \n",
"Rather simple.\n\n1: Signal a turn before you pass the spot to tell the driver behind you that you plan to park there. In fact slow a bit so it gets their attention.\n\n2: Drive up and line up with the front car.\n\n3: Place in reverse and step on the brake, then place your arm over the passenger side seat and look back.\n\n4: Drive slowly straight back and watch when your rear tire passes the end of the front car. That's when you want to turn the steering wheel towards the parked spot.\n\n5: The next step is tricky, you need to get the rear tire about 1.5 feet from the curb before cutting the wheel the opposite way to bring the nose in. However you can't do it too early or too late.\n\nIf you aim for the 70-75% mark down from the front car along the curb and head the rear tire for that, it's a good bet. More on the 65% spot if you have a really long trunk sticking out from where the rear wheels are.\n\n6: Once the nose can clear the front car you spin the wheel the other way and go back as far as you dare. Then you can fine tune it closer and even drive forward a tiny bit to make the front tire straight.\n\n7: Practice, practice, practice. The trick is knowing where your rear tire is in your mind and knowing it's control is the key. The rear wheel is your steering wheel when reversing.",
"It takes a good judge of distance, know the limits of your vehicles.\n\nPractice. It takes practice to be good, there is no formula to tell you how much to steer.\n\nespecially if you dont want to know the procedure. Your title sucks. \n\nTell the tips like this and this but not a procedure. the procedure is the tips.\n\nPractice, go out to a parking lot and practice.\n\nyou cant read and study tips to play a musical instrument, you learn by doing.\n\nsame with driving. All you can do here on reddit is prepare yourself.\n\nGet out and drive.",
"I was awful at parallel parking until my roommate told me to cut the wheel the other direction after I can see both headlights of the car behind me in the driver's side mirror. ",
"Everyone pretty much nailed the process, however what always helps me is to have your passenger mirror be parallel to the car's driver window you're using to line up with. ",
"1 be parallel with the car you're parking behind.\n\n2 reverse straight back until the end of the other car is in the middle of your back passenger sidedoor window.\n\n3 turn as far in as possible. Straighten out when you can see the curbside edge of the car you're parking in front of in your driver side mirror. Continue backing up.\n\n4 turn wheel away from curb when the front of your car is past the car you're parking behind. Keep backing up until in the space.\n\n5 pull forward/ straighten out."
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"How to meet a musician at a concert I'm going to a concert on Friday and I'd love to get my albums signed and possibly a photo taken with him. The concert doors open at 7pm and I'm planning to get there around 4pm. What are some tips I should know? I'm under 18 if that matters.",
"How to meet a musician at a concert I'm going to a concert on Friday and I'd love to get my albums signed and possibly a photo taken with him. The concert doors open at 7pm and I'm planning to get there around 4pm. What are some tips I should know? I'm under 18 if that matters."
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"Depends on the band and venue. If it’s a huge band say Foo Figgters, don’t even bother. If it’s a bar, club, or small venue, find the spot where the bands bus parks and hang out near there. Have a sharpie ready because chances are they won’t have something to sign your stuff with. No guarantee they’ll have time before the show but after is a different story.",
"It depends on how big the show is and what the individual artist is like. I've been to see a lot of european metal bands who are like decently popular but not like METALLICA levels and I've seen some J rock bands as well. Most of the time if the show isn't like for a huge band playing a stadium and the venue is smaller I find just hanging around out back after the show for 30 min to an hour is a good way to gauge if the bands are going to engage with people. Most of the ones I've seen have been pretty chill and have had time to shake some hands and sign some albums for fans. Some have even asked what we thought of the show and stuff. It's really just a waiting game.\n\nThere was also a time that my friend started a conversation with a roadie that was packing up and they hit it off and he got us some autographs even though the band was a little harder to engage with and was more popular. And one time my dad tried that strategy as well - chatting with a stage hand - and she got us a couple leftover passes for a backstage meet and greet. \n\nI would say just wait around and be friendly to any staff you encounter and sort of just gauge the mood. Some bands don't really engage with people and like to just go off and decompress after the show. But some bands hang around and are into meeting fans. You could look up specific experiences from other fans of the group you're going to see. A general rule of thumb I've found also (which is common sense really) is no matter how big the band is, the size of the venue/crowd has been the best indicator for me of whether it's worth it to wait around out back or try to chat with the staff. Best also not to be pushy and just cut your losses and go if it looks like they're not engaging."
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"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!",
"how to manage your money when traveling? I live in the US. I am going to Europe for 3 weeks, and then to Singapore for 3 weeks. I have a bunch of dollars. What can I do to make use of my funds in the most economical and fluid way?\n\nShould I exchange for everything now? Should I simply withdraw from my US debit card as needed? Should I use Travelex? Should I use Bitcoin?\n\nPlease share all your wisdom!"
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"First of all, let your bank know you are traveling so they don't lock out your account if you use your cards abroad. Have a reasonable amount of cash on hand in case you get locked out of your bank account, enough to survive until you can get home. A lot of places outside the US don't take card, so cash is the way to go. Do not carry a lot of cash when you walk around, lock it up at the hotel. I would recommend withdrawing the money when you get there, cash exchanges are expensive. I've never messed with traveler's checks, but that might b something to look at.",
"Don't know about Singapore, but I traveled all over Europe for the past 6 months, so here's a list to make it easy:\n\n* Tell your bank where you're going and how long you'll be gone. This is the most important thing to do.\n* Just put your wallet in your pocket like usual and get on the plane.\n* When you land in Europe, hit an ATM at the airport and withdraw enough cash to get you some food, pay for your transportation to where you're crashing, and money for your first night's stay plus a little wiggle room. Carrying more cash than this on your first time in a new place is probably a bad idea. Carry even less cash on you if you aren't fluent in the language where you're traveling.\n* Use your bankcard, cr",
"My recommendation is to always use cash and only withdraw from ATMs of partner banks to your bank. Call your bank and cr",
"If you will primarily be in EU, and intend to carry cash, wait until you find a good exchange rate on Euros and exchange about half what you expect to need for the entirety of your trip. (Since you're only in Europe for three weeks, that shouldn't be too much to carry at once.) Withdrawing with your debit card will charge you a fee (usually about $5 in most places, I believe) so just try to minimize how many withdrawals you make. As Wohlfe said, tell your bank where you're traveling to.\n\nIf you are backpacking and carrying a fair amount of cash on you, divide it up and keep some in different pockets, some in your wallet, some in your bag. Some people like to carry secret travel pouches. Also, it might be a good idea to keep a decoy wallet with very little in it in case you get mugged. (I never had any problems like this traveling anywhere in the world, but I've heard some people suggest this before.)\n\nStay at hostels. These are great places to meet other travelers who will have more tips for you, and you can do things as a group, which will also potentially save some cash. If you are a student, some hostels, museums, etc. give discounts, so bring a student card. When possible, don't eat at restaurants. Buy local food at markets and make your own simple meals. Don't take cabs if you don't have to. Walk! That's always my favorite part of traveling. Just walking everywhere. You get to see so much more and really get a feel for the place you're at.\n\nI've never been to Singapore, so I don't have any suggestions specific to that country. Enjoy your trip!",
"Dont eat out a lot. Find a grocery store, get bread, fruit and cheese, for a cheap meal. A lot of restaurants will charge you if you ask for water, they'll give you Spring, so get big bottles at the store, the bigger the cheaper. I also carried around a huge bag of dry roasted peanuts, seriously, a handful is like a meal. If you get a eurail pass or any train/bus ticket make sure to get it validated before you get on, if you dont, a fine can cost upwards of $50. dont be afraid of hostels with many people in a single room, theyre cheaper and theyre mostly with aussies, who are really fun people. And find one close to the \"city center\" or train station so you can walk to places of interest.",
"i was in Europe last year and most Americans had trouble using cr",
"get yourself an American express card. they saved our ass when the atm ate our debit cards and we couldn't get cash. for a $35 fee, they gave us a $2000 cash advance (that, as far as interest goes, didn't count as a \"cash advance\") that we picked up at a currency exchange.\n\nour cr",
"Use cr",
"I've used ATMs from Paris to Borneo with no issues-recommend posting to /r/frugal/\n\nIt was really cool to use it in the Phillipines and have the balance on my receipt read 823,455 (approx.)",
"I just got back from Ireland after being in Korea. Be prepared for Asia to be a lot cheaper. I spent 5x in Ireland what I spent in Korea (admittedly I had free lodging in Korea).\n\nIn Ireland, most places have a €20 minimum for cards! Be prepared to carry cash. Do not assume you can pay €5 on a card. Especially do not expect to pay for drinks on a tab if you're in Ireland - pay as you go, unless you are paying for a dinner too.\n\nGenerally, your debit card will have the lowest fee when using at stores. Mine had no fee at all (unless withdrawing from ATMs). if you try and swipe it at POS/card machines in stores yourself, it probably won't work. You will have to hand it to them and you will have to sign, even if it has a PIN. They might be confused at first, but just explain it is American and has no chip. They should figure it out.\n\nATMs will be the most logical/easiest place to change cash. Do not go to the airport desks - they will have poorer rates. Also, they do not change coins - I found this was a bigger problem when leaving and going back to the US. \n\nAsk locals about the tipping policy. (Generally, you don't tip in Europe.) They will be more accurate than the web and if you're honest and clear that you want to behave properly they should be happy to help.",
"I just came back from a month long trip to Thailand. Traveler's Checks are the way to go. Keep $200 in cash on you, but have the rest in travelers checks from your bank in $100 increments. If your TCs get stolen, your money is still safe because the thief can't cash your check in without your exact signature and your passport. That being said, DO NOT sign your check(s) until you are at the exchange counter, and keep your passport and TCs stored separately from one another that way someone can't snatch your shit and get away with both your passport and money. I know it sounds dorky, but you can get these flat fanny packs that are meant to be worn under your clothes and are undetectable. I've found that to be the best way to carry my cash and other important things as opposed to a wallet, purse, or backpack, because those are easy to pickpocket from, whereas the fanny pack under your shirt is not.\n\n"
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"Non European, moving to the Netherlands. Any LPT? I'm moving to the Netherlands for my studies. Any LPT?",
"Non European, moving to the Netherlands. Any LPT? I'm moving to the Netherlands for my studies. Any LPT?"
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"Some social things:\n\n- Don't be scared if people make rude jokes about you, usually it's because they like you and feel like you can take it. \n- Being realistic is preferred over being optimistic, in most cases. Being optimistic about everything can annoy people haha\n- Try not to put the focus on that you're foreign, but put it on the fact that you're all together in the same city. It'll make it easier for others to accept you into their social circle (although that usually won't be a problem anyway)\n\nOther things:\n- If you plan on having a car in Eindhoven, don't. It's a horrible city for cars, and a great city for bikes!\n\n- There is a gym for the university that you can visit for a lot less money than a normal gym. It's a good place to meet new people, or to maintain existing contacts.\n\n- Have a good lock for your bike, you'll need it",
"Frikandel special. All day. And God forbidden, don't go over the speed limit. Makes you broke like the American health system."
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"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n",
"How to wake up with better breath I brush my teeth and mouthwash and all that stuff before bed but always wake up with oogy breath. Any tips?\n\n"
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"Drink water before sleeping. Most toothpastes can dehydrate the mouth. A dehydrated mouth will make it easier for bacteria to spread. Granted, your saliva production is going to naturally decrease while sleeping. Toothpaste can make it worse. You aren't going to be able to wake up and have perfect breath, but rehydrating the mouth after brushing the teeth will usually help.",
"FLOSS. Then leave the floss out and smell it the next day. That is the smell of rotting food that would have been in your mouth. ",
"Is your nose stuffed up?\n\nUse a breath-right nasal strip. If you're breathing through your mouth, your mouth will get very dried out and the bacteria will start to accumulate. Whereas if your mouth is closed, the saliva is constantly being circulated around your mouth and bacteria doesn't build up as much. You could also keep a glass of water near by to make sure your mouth is well lubricated.",
"Floss every night. Often the smell is rotting food between your teeth that brushing won't get.\n\nAnd brush your tongue. If it is persistent, get one of these [Tongue Cleaners](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tongue_cleaner) they worked wonders for my son, who's breath could melt stainless steel in the mornings. In this order: Floss, scrape, brush teeth, mouthwash.",
"Following this dentist recommended brush-rinse order, as well as eating xylitol will give you perfect breath all the time.\n\nhttp://askdrellie.blogspot.ca/p/zellies-kit.html\n\nI followed it absolutely for a few months, and it was great. Then I got lazy. Now I just brush, rinse with ACT mouthwash, and take a pinch of xylitol in my cheek before I go to bed. I used to wake up with painfully bad breath, and now I'm fine.",
"There is one, and only one, mouthwash which has been proven to have long lasting effects. It is called \"[Smartmouth](http://www.smartmouth.com/)\" and it is a binary system (you have to mix two liquids and then quickly use them in your mouth)\n\nThe reason they work whereas others don't is that the two liquids break up zinc molecules into zinc ions which are small enough to penetrate the biofilms that protect mouth bacteria and kill them. \n\nIt takes more than a week of regular use to achieve this result, but it *does* work, I can confirm. Has a zinc-y aftertaste tho'. (like zinc coughdrops)",
"Mouthwash will actually make your breath worse - it dries out the mouth, which reduces saliva, which inhibits oral bacterial growth.\n\nBest tips: \n\n * Floss!\n * Take cholorphyll capsules (preferably the liquid ones). Cholorphyll (like in parsley) will soak up odors in the gut, leaving both your breath and body odor fresher",
"You could try taping your mouth shut to preserve the moister thus limiting bacteria growth but your breath may be from [tonsil stones](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PEKTQryabYk) they stink pretty bad and removing them is the only thing that will help",
"Try not using mouthwash. The alcohol in the mouthwash can dry out your mouth and cause bad breath in the morning.",
"Do you still have your tonsils? I used to have the WORST morning breath because my tonsils harboured infections without me knowing. Once I got them out, it got a lot better. Doctors can sometimes tell if that's the issue! ",
"floss your teeth, brush your tongue. Besides that, you may have a throat condition that causes drainage and irritates the throat, which will give you a rank smell upon waking due to the bacteria. Not sure what to do if that is the case, but google might.",
"Your next request should/would be: LPT Request: How to not gag while scraping my tongue.\n\nIt varies from person to person, but I've found trying very hard not to think about it (it's tricky trying not to think about it) and/or pinching yourself somewhere so sharply, so as to mask the gag reflex.",
"What kind of mouthwash are you using? Mouthwash with alcohol actually dries out your mouth and makes your breath worse than it would be if you just used toothpaste. ",
"Use an alcohol free mouthwash, floss, brush your tongue, and breathe through your nose. It's hard to do that consciously when you're sleeping, is there anything making you mouth breathe at night? \nYou can also try gargling saltwater. If you're getting tonsil stones (which smell and taste yucky) gargling saltwater every night can help keep them at bay. That's also another reason to avoid mouthwashes with alcohol because they can make it worse. \nSource - my awesome dentist. :-) ",
"This used to happen to me. Try flossing, then brushing and then mouth wash. And use a night guard. Hope this helps",
"This doesn't answer your question, but my husband's morning breath is my favorite smell in the world. People tell me it means we're compatible or something, but all I know is it's wonderful.\n\nLPT: Better morning breath isn't as important as picking the right partner.",
"The best thing you can do for your breathe is carry around [something like this](http://www.plackers.com), of course it can be ANY brand. After every single meal you should clean your teeth.\n\nAvoid pungent foods with lots of Galric and Onions. Also, cut back on carbs unless doing so could lead to nutritional issues.\n\nAside from that and regular brushing, you should expect \"morning breath\". Everyone has it to some extent, it's pretty much anavoidable.",
"Learn to floss. From what my dentist told me during my last check-up, the reason you get shit-mouth is because the bacteria stuck between your teeth (you know, the ones you can't reach with just brushing?) use your mouth as a petri dish while you sleep. Flossing before bed gets that shit out of there and reduces the amount of bacteria capable of creating that disgusting taste in your mouth. \n\nI tried it and by god I have never had a fresher feeling mouth - it was that easy, all it took was one night of flossing and I have been flossing ever since for months. \n\nThis, in addition to brushing the gums and tongue, and a good mouthwash should do the trick.",
"In addition to the previous advice regarding keeping your mouth/teeth/tongue clean, try [oil pulling with coconut oil](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/02/coconut-oil-mouthwash-video_n_2375038.html), or sesame oil, in the morning and before bed. In addition to improving your oral health, I feel like the moisture from the residual oil keeps my mouth fresher longer at night and less dried out (a.k.a. stinky) when I wake up. \n\n",
"Gargle with hydrogen peroxide! As the extra oxygen molecule detaches and kills germs in your mouth, it leaves water, so it's refreshing AND wets your mouth!",
"Floss. It's better for your teeth and gum's health than brushing, and removes soft plaque and the bacteria brushing can't get to.\n\nIf you still get bad breath, consider checking for tonsiliths. If you have particularly porous tonsils, particles of food can get stuck in there and rot and harden, and they can be a bitch to remove.",
"Fall asleep chewing some minty gum. When you wake up in the morning, it will be waiting...ready to make your breath minty fresh.",
"Don't use mouth wash that contains alcohol. Stay hydrated all the time, not just before bed. Keep a water bottle with you at night - you can put lemon water in it to help your mouth stay.. Crisper? I dunno how to describe it lol!! Lemon water helps my everything feel fresher. :) good luck budday.",
"Crest nighttime mouthwash (the clear one) is made just for this. Tried it, or actually worked. Not sure what sorcery goes into it, just that it works.",
"Additionally, drink a glass of water once you wake up. Not only will you find yourself awake just like you'd drank a cup of coffee, but your breath will improve.",
"This thing is very effective: [Orabrush.](http://www2.orabrush.com/) Also, their Youtube channel is pretty hilarious.\n\nYou can /r/hailcorporate me now, if you like."
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" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!",
" I often struggle to understand people in noisy environments, but everyone else seems to do just fine. Bartenders can easily understand complicated cocktail requests! Is there something I'm missing? Thanks!"
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"95% lip reading, they understand you probably because expected words are narrowed down to only a few, whats in the fridge or on the shelf",
"I have never been a barman but I have worked in very loud workplaces. Sawmill, plastic recycling (Grinders) and other very loud industrial situations. \n\nSo lip reading, expressions, gestures but much more of it is the knowledge of what is going on and what people are likely to want.",
"complicated cocktail requests? You mean like *\"give me a shirley temple but change the splash of grenadine to rum and use grape juice instead of ginger ale and garnish with a standard cherry\"*\n\nBartenders read lips, they may not do it consciously, but they do it because the vocabulary is fairly easy.\n\nI can assure you if you tried to order a complicated drink you are giving the recipe for, you will be asked to clarify. Bartenders have no special ability to filter they are just generally knowledgeable and good at their profession.",
"If you can anticipate what the person is going to say, and focus to read lips, it's not that difficult. I was birdwatching the other day and was thinking the same thing - how does each bird hear it's mate over the chatter of all the others singing? ",
"I know when I was bar tending I could hear everyone's conversation all at once and could filter out everything until I needed to listen. Like if two people are arguing or someone is bothering someone or whatever. It was just a mode I snapped into because I had to. Everyone can lip read. It's how you learned to talk. Babies look at mouths to determine how to move their lips and tounge to make desired sounds. You just gotta concentrate. ",
"Don't strain your voice speaking over the loud noise - I made that mistake when I started and lost my voice for about a week. It is mostly about combining exaggerated gestures and facial expressions with lip-reading. You know, holding up your fingers in a vague rectangle shape when you ask for ID, gesturing towards empty glasses with accompanying expressions to indicate either \"shall I take that glass away?\" or \"can I get you another one?\", etc.",
"To help with learning how to lip read, watch people's mouths when you converse with them in an environment of normal volume.\nSo even though you can hear them, you can learn about word shaping of the mouth, facial expressions and anticipation based on conversation.",
"Look in a mirror, watch your lips, say \"beer\", \"wine\", \"rum and coke\", \"shots of\"... That's how bartenders do it, limited common options they see from most customers continuously, repeat what you think you heard back to them, especially if not sure. \n",
"Late to reply, but it's the way I do it. I used to work security in a few local bars and I learned the by actually plugging one ear canal you can hear the person next to you a lot more clearly. ",
"I'm terrible at lip reading. Don't be afraid to turn your ear toward them and cover the opposite ear if it makes it easier to understand them. It may look silly and like you're an OF, but it shows that you care about what they're trying to communicate and then you won't screw up their order. ",
"I used to have customers write it down when I was really desperate, but that can really slow down service. I'm a guitar player so my hearing, of course, is for shit. ",
"I tend to tune people out in these circumstances. Chances are they're not going to say anything terribly memorable during all that din."
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"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? ",
"Good jobs/careers to try with a useless bachelor's degree? Hello there, I am desperately seeking advice on the next step to take in my life. I have a degree that's pretty useless in the location I live, and I have no experience in my field other than a basic retail job. I'm ready to make a transition into a career that isn't over saturated with high schoolers and people who aren't very serious about the work being done. What is a good path to take where I can still get a good job with an unrelated bachelor's degree? "
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"Logistics - look at trucking companies, import-export companies, DHL,FedEx,UPS.\n\nGet into operations and then you can basically take that to practically any field you want. ",
"There are companies out there that hire intelligent people with unrelated degrees and train them up. The big one in my area is a Health care IT company called Epic. People with everything from art history degrees to STEM degrees get hired manage projects and support the product. There are many jobs out there that no degree will adequately prepare you for so look at your transferable skills and strengths and play those up on your resume and cover letters (it is perfectly acceptable to re-write your resume for different job applications to emphasize different aspects of your experience and education). ",
"Just some off the top of my head. \nCheck out insurance companies.\nLocal State Farm\nBanks/Cr",
"no Bachelor's is useless, there are many graduate schemes out there that will accept any degree. or you could start at trainee level",
"https://www4.uwm.edu/gis/careers/career-sites.cfm\nThat is a site with links to GIS job sites from a nearby college. \nI urge you not to give up on your degree field unless you really dislike it. You worked hard and spent a lot of time to get that degree. Have you thought about moving to an area that has more jobs for you? I have moved twice in my life for work.\n\n\nAlso, I know this is a stretch but have you thought about signing up for the peace core or perhaps one of the national guard branches in your state? You can become an officer with a bachelor's degree, and GIS might be attractive for military.\n\nHave you worked with your college's placement office also? ",
"Marketing is a good one. If you can write creatively and competently to a target audience, then you can succeed. ",
"Go to a good temp agency, good way to explore your options. And they have opportunities you wouldn't think of otherwise.",
"You should figure out what you're interested in first, otherwise you'll end up in another job you hate. There are a ton of on-line courses out there. if you think you may have an interest in an area do a short course to get a feel for it. ",
"I know Fedex has a really good inside sales starting position, promotions every year or so for the first few promotions, good pay, amazing benefits etc. My gf went there two years ago after she quit enterprise and she has some amazing opportunities now.",
"I graduated college last year, and since then have just been working the same sort of dead end jobs I was doing before I graduated. It's really depressing that nothing has changed, and I have a hard time imagining a way that it will. It's really frustrating that college did not prepare me more, but it is probably my fault as well. Lately I actually have been finding myself jealous of people that never went to college, because they have a better excuse than I to not have a defined career. I also have a strong aversion to putting too much effort into exploring paths, because I feel that if I do it will only announce to everyone how useless college was for me, and that I really don't have any marketable skills. ",
"Choose a trade! Me and my English BA got into the IBEW, and it's been very rewarding. \n",
"Don't forget that, at the very least, having a Bachelor's degree shows you are intelligent and committed enough to get a Bachelor's degree... "
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"Here's a comment I saved because I like to read it from time to time when I get into a funk. HUGE props to /u/ryans01 from this.\n\nOuch. Sounds like you're having a tough time max. That sucks. I've been there, so I kinda know what you're talking about. I've been in the ever circling vortex of self doubt, frustration, and loathing. It's no bueno. I know. If you don't mind lemme tell you a couple things. You can read em if you want, read em again later if you feel like it. But honestly man, if I spend all this time typing this out to you and you don't let it be a little tinder for your fire, well, you're just letting us both down. And you don't HAVE to do that. You don't HAVE to do anything. But you get to choose.\n\n(Who am I? My name’s Ryan and I live in Canada. Just moved to a new city for a dream job that I got because of the rules below. I owe a lot of my success to people much cooler, kinder, more loving and greater than me. When I get the chance to maybe let a little bit of help out, it’s a way of thanking them. )\n\nRule numero uno - There are no more zero days. What's a zero day? A zero day is when you don't do a single fucking thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I'm not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that's not the point. The point I'm trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO system. Didn't do anything all fucking day and it's 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero. You feel me? When you're in the super vortex of being bummed your pattern of behaviour is keeping the vortex goin, that's what you're used to. Turning into productivity ultimate master of the universe doesn't happen from the vortex. It happens from a massive string of CONSISTENT NON ZEROS. That's rule number one. Do not forget.\n\nLa deuxieme regle - yeah i learnt french. its a canadian thing. please excuse the lack of accent graves, but lemme get into rule number 2. BE GRATEFUL TO THE 3 YOU'S. Uh what? 3 me's? That sounds like mumbo jumbo bullshit. News flash, there are three you's homeslice. There's the past you, the present you, and the future you. If you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love yourself, and the 3 you's are the key. Be GRATEFUL to the past you for the positive things you've done. And do favours for the future you like you would for your best bro. Feeling like shit today? Stop a second, think of a good decision you made yesterday. Salad and tuna instead of Big Mac? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Was yesterday a nonzero day because you wrote 200 words (hey, that's all you could muster)? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Saved up some coin over time to buy that sweet thing you wanted? THANK YOU. Second part of the 3 me's is you gotta do your future self a favour, just like you would for your best fucking friend (no best friend? you do now. You got 2. It's future and past you). Tired as hell and can't get off reddit/videogames/interwebs? fuck you present self, this one's for future me, i'm gonna rock out p90x Ab Ripper X for 17 minutes. I'm doing this one for future me. Alarm clock goes off and bed is too comfy? fuck you present self, this one's for my best friend, the future me. I'm up and going for a 5 km run (or 25 meter run, it's gotta be non zero). MAKE SURE YOU THANK YOUR OLD SELF for rocking out at the end of every.single.thing. that makes your life better. The cycle of doing something for someone else (future you) and thanking someone for the good in your life (past you) is key to building gratitude and productivity. Do not doubt me. Over time you should spread the gratitude to others who help you on your path.\n\nRule number 3- don't worry i'm gonna too long didnt' read this bad boy at the bottom (get a pencil and piece of paper to write it down. seriously. you physically need to scratch marks on paper) FORGIVE YOURSELF. I mean it. Maybe you got all the know-how, money, ability, strength and talent to do whatever is you wanna do. But lets say you still didn't do it. Now you're giving yourself shit for not doing what you need to, to be who you want to. Heads up champion, being dissapointed in yourself causes you to be less productive. Tried your best to have a nonzero day yesterday and it failed? so what. I forgive you previous self. I forgive you. But today? Today is a nonzero masterpiece to the best of my ability for future self. This one's for you future homes. Forgiveness man, use it. I forgive you. Say it out loud.\n\nLast rule. Rule number 4, is the easiest and its three words. exercise and books. that's it. Pretty standard advice but when you exercise daily you actually get smarter. when you exercise you get high from endorphins (thanks body). when you exercise you clear your mind. when you exercise you are doing your future self a huge favour. Exercise is a leg on a three legged stool. Feel me? As for books, almost every fucking thing we've all ever thought of, or felt, or gone through, or wanted, or wanted to know how to do, or whatever, has been figured out by someone else. Get some books max. Post to reddit about not caring about yourself? Good first step! (nonzero day, thanks younger me for typing it out) You know what else you could do? Read 7 habits of highly successful people. Read \"emotional intelligence\". Read \"From good to great\". Read “thinking fast and slow”. Read books that will help you understand. Read the bodyweight fitness reddit and incorporate it into your workouts. (how's them pullups coming?) Reading is the fucking warp whistle from Super Mario 3. It gets you to the next level that much faster.\n\nThat’s about it man. There’s so much more when it comes to how to turn nonzero days into hugely nonzero days, but that’s not your mission right now. Your mission is nonzero and forgiveness and favours. You got 36 essays due in 24 minutes and its impossible to pull off? Your past self let you down big time, but hey… I forgive you. Do as much as you can in those 24 minutes and then move on.\n\nI hope I helped a little bit max. I could write about this forever, but I promised myself I would go do a 15 minute run while listening to A. Skillz Beats Working Vol. 3. Gotta jet. One last piece of advice though. Regardless of whether or not reading this for the first time helps make your day better, if you wake up tomorrow, and you can’t remember the 4 rules I just laid out, please, please. Read this again.\n\nHave an awesome fucking day ☺\n\ntldr; 1. Nonzero days as much as you can. 2. The three you’s, gratitude and favours. 3. Forgiveness 4. Exercise and books (which is a sneaky way of saying self improvement, both physical, emotional and mental)\n\n",
"It really comes down to a choice and taking action.\n\n\nYour brain is tricking you into staying at home and not doing anything because its purpose is to keep you alive, not happy. Don't wait for your brain to kick into gear and get you out, it won't, you have to do it.\n\n\nDo you know what a self fulfilling prophecy is? When you constantly tell yourself you're not good enough, several things happen. First, you condition that belief; in other words, you internalize it as a belief. Secondly, you will act in accordance with that belief. And lastly, your brain will be wired to constantly look for evidence to support that belief. All of this massively influences your choices and behavior, and your belief that you're not good enough will eventually lead to you live your life that way.\n\n\nYou have to make a choice to drop that belief. Replace it with how awesome you are, and take action as if you were. Thinking makes it so. Be realistic with where you're at, but believe that deep inside there's a part of you that's fucking awesome and then take action to grow that part of you-- get out of the house and keep doing what you need to do to get where you want to get. Failure is the only way to get better. Wash, rinse, repeat for the rest of your life.",
"You're not good enough? \n\nNo, that's just not true. You are human. \n\nYou make mistakes, you do stupid things, you get stuff wrong. \n\nBut that doesn't mean you're dumb... It just means that you're human.\n\nYou sometimes do good things and you sometimes do bad things.\n\nBut, that's what's right about you. You mess things up sometimes? Good. That means your human, that you're normal. \n\n\n\nHere's a story. \n\n A boy was shopping at the grocery store with his mom. He grabbed a milk carton but accidentally dropped it all over the floor and it spilled everywhere. The mom reacted by calling him stupid. \n\nIn the second instance, the boy dropped and spilled the milk carton, and then his mom says to him that what he did was stupid. \n\nIn the first instance, the boy heard that he was stupid. In the second instance, he heard that what he did was stupid. \n\nBig difference. In the first instance, the boy is identifying himself as \"stupid\".\n\nThat's just some food for thought. ",
"You have to realize what you are feeling is normal ,it's not personal to you. In fact we all feel it ,even the most successful among us.\n\n\nYou also have to know you have something unique and special to give the world. Something no one else will unless you do , find something your passionate about and do the shit out of that thing as a hobby or job . Through doing something your passionate about you'll develop confidence elsewhere in your life,it'll spread .\n\n\nAlso expect failure so when it happens you don't get discouraged. You heard of the Wright Brothers haven't you? Sure you have,but did you know when they went out to fly that plane everytime they brought enough spare parts to fix after each crash,and their was a lot of crashes. \n\n\nAlso change your thoughts through habit. Listen to inspirational guys like Les Brown and Eric Thomas on youtube. You can read all these today ,get motivated tonight and in a week be back to not believing in yourself. \n\nMotivation and mindset training doesn't last forever ,but never does bathing that's why we do it everyday. \n\n\nMost Harvard graduates are recommend the book finite versus infinite games which reminds us that finite games end ,when it's over its over. Infinite games however have no ending. If you apply for a job and get turned down that's just experience not an ending, if a pretty girl says no to you,you learn and move on. These are infinite games many people think are finite and give up on. \n\nBuild your mind ,train your mindset ,find something your passionate about and go live.\n\n\n\n\n",
"My buddy gets a lot of people with stuff like this going on.\n\nWhen you hear the thought in your head that says something thats discouraging, ask that thought, as if it were a person \"do you acknowledge that the Lord Jesus Christ is come in the flesh?\"\nTHen be quiet, don't fill in the gap, and listen, and you'll hear something.\n\nTHe bible says that no spirit of antichrist can acknowledge that. \nThing is, everyone has demons talking to them. Some say things to discourage, some say things like \"i'm fat and ugly and no one loves me\" \"i want a vat of icecream\" \"I'm already fat, might as well eat a vat of icecream anyway\" They put \"I\" in front of what they say so that you think it's you and train you to start saying the thing yourself. WHen that happens, it doesn't have to pester you, it's got you trained.\n\nWHen you hear it say something back, tell it to go away in Jesus name, then get back to me, and we can talk if you want. You might need someone to talk to when you realize that spirits are real. Peace.",
"Go outside and walk, run, hike, bike. Read a good book in the park. Enjoy some live music. Go fishing. Lift weights. Drink an ice cold beer or a glass of good wine on a patio at sunset. Go to a baseball game. Build or fix something with your hands. Stop and smell the flowers. Go swimming in a lake. Cook and enjoy a great meal. Play with a dog. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Go to church. Go to the beach.... The list is endless. Basically take care of yourself and those thoughts will disappear. In the meantime look at yourself every morning in the mirror and say you are awesome and it's going to be a great day.",
"A simple way to do this is to start wieving yourself as your friend. Would you act the way you're acting towards a close friend the same wat you're acting towarda yourself?",
"Try this... Keep in mind that you have to follow through with it for it too work. Every Morning for a week, think about 3 good traits you have. They can be anything, like you're a compassionate person, or you're good at certain types of trivia. Think them over for a few minutes & do this again when you go to bed. The next week think of 4 good traits. Do this for 6 weeks.",
"One thing you can do is think about how many other people feel the same.\n\nI hope you manage to figure it out, I know how hard it can be :-/",
"Motivate yourself to be better man find somthing you're passionate about and that alone will drive you to be a better you ",
"Look at how incompetent so many \"successful\" people in high places are.... If they can do it you can do it too! \n\nNo matter how you feel about yourself, or how you measure yourself, you're still you, you have to spend your time doing *something*, so go do something.\n\n",
"Hey! my girlfriend recently did a video relating to something like this because she has problems with the exact same thing, I will link it to you and hopefully it can help you in some way or another :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pO4-bjXuTOI"
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"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or ",
"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or ",
"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or ",
"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or ",
"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or ",
"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or ",
"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or ",
"Would like to move to another state What kind of things should I be doing to prepare and how do I know how much money to save?\nI'd be moving from Illinois to Texas. I wouldn't be taking anything too big. Realistically, my best friend and I would take our clothes and our dogs. \nI have a car and we'd likely go together so that we can share driving.\n\nI'm not sure what other information you'd need. Ask and I will reply or "
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"I moved from Iowa to Arizona when I was 19. I've been here 20 years and I highly reccomend the move. Here are some things I wish someone would have told me. \n\n1. Make sure your car is running well before you leave. Get an oil change, tune up, whatever. \n\n2. Get a good resume and submit online to potential employers and have interviews lined up when you get there. \n\n3. Do a demographic search and secure an apartment in a neighborhood you feel comfortable in based on crime rate and such in the area. You don't want to get an apartment then find out its in a neighborhood your car is broken into every night. \n\n4. You need 3000$ minimum between the two of you do you can get there, get a place and get settled without trouble. \n\n5. Don't be trusting. The dude that helps you in the parking lot this morning will be the guy that does your home invasion tonight because he followed you home. \n\n6. Know dog laws and apartment regulations in your area. Don't give your dog away because you can't find a place that will allow him. You're all he's got. \n\nGood luck. Safe travels. ",
"\nSo are you bringing all of your crap?\n\nOther than that you should be fine. \n\nHave fun in Texas! Send us pictures of food! :D",
"Money. Almost all moving woes are solved with money. Or a SOLID support network on the ground where you are moving, but that's rare. ",
"Have done multiple cross country moves....\n\n1.) Have a place to live. Have enough money to live there.\n2.) Set up utilities before you arrive.\n3.) Pad everything. Cars/trucks vibrate a lot over 1000+ miles. Any two hard things touching one another will have the finish rubbed clean off.\n4.) Get boxes on Craigslist. Pad your shit with stuff you already own. Moving dishes? Pad that shit with towels. Furniture? Pad it with sheets and quilts.\n5.) Profit?\n\n",
"Have a place to live before you depart. If you don't have a job lined up consider saving enough to cover two months expenses. Have a friend(s) at your destination who know the area. Good luck",
"Why Texas? What's the rationale? Asking as I'm also thinking of moving and I'm curious what your criteria were?",
"Are you moving to a city where only having one car would work out? Since I assume y'all would be getting jobs which would require more than one. Many states have different fees and housing insurance policies that might not be required in your state. I would look into those ",
"Please don't move to Texas if your politics and values clash with those of us natives who love our state. The influx of illegals and liberal cucks are changing one of very few states that has great people and economic success. East and West coast liberals lambaste Texans but show their hypocrisy by moving here. They have destroyed their home States by following progressive creeds and voting same leaders. Please don't come here and destroy what has taken years to accomplish. Protect the values and freedoms we have here and you will find fellow Texans are a friendly bunch. Remember we're running out of States that are opposite of East and West coast bankrupt socialist pariahs. Safe trip"
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"When your friend's SO dies, what's best to do? My friend's SO died, far too early. Leaving him in his early 30s with 3 kids.\n\nI sent some frozen meals to their house. We're not close enough for me to visit but I've given them my number. I'm trying not to sap their attention, or push them in any way - while also trying to make sure they actually do call on me if they need me.",
"When your friend's SO dies, what's best to do? My friend's SO died, far too early. Leaving him in his early 30s with 3 kids.\n\nI sent some frozen meals to their house. We're not close enough for me to visit but I've given them my number. I'm trying not to sap their attention, or push them in any way - while also trying to make sure they actually do call on me if they need me.",
"When your friend's SO dies, what's best to do? My friend's SO died, far too early. Leaving him in his early 30s with 3 kids.\n\nI sent some frozen meals to their house. We're not close enough for me to visit but I've given them my number. I'm trying not to sap their attention, or push them in any way - while also trying to make sure they actually do call on me if they need me.",
"When your friend's SO dies, what's best to do? My friend's SO died, far too early. Leaving him in his early 30s with 3 kids.\n\nI sent some frozen meals to their house. We're not close enough for me to visit but I've given them my number. I'm trying not to sap their attention, or push them in any way - while also trying to make sure they actually do call on me if they need me.",
"When your friend's SO dies, what's best to do? My friend's SO died, far too early. Leaving him in his early 30s with 3 kids.\n\nI sent some frozen meals to their house. We're not close enough for me to visit but I've given them my number. I'm trying not to sap their attention, or push them in any way - while also trying to make sure they actually do call on me if they need me."
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"Sounds like you're doing pretty well so far. The food was right on, as well as the space to grieve. Asking if there's anything you can do is cool, and I know someone who would stop by and do little chores for her sister, after the sister's husband died.",
"They're not going to call and ask for help. Just do anything and everything you can. If I were your bff, I'd love it if you called every few days and just talked about whatever. Tell them about what you're up to if they don't talk much.",
"Since many people avoid someone in this situation and the bereaved get fairly isolated, I would suggest calling more frequently than you used to. Just to talk, not specifically about his sadness, but more as a distraction. You will be able to tell if your calls bother him. Also, don't tell him to let you know if you can do anything, but make specific suggestions, like \"Would you enjoy getting together halfway somewhere?\" or other equally specific suggestions. One of the worst parts of losing a loved one is that many people no longer know how to act around the survivor and avoid them because of their discomfort.",
"Losing a SO isolates that person, and family may run for the hills. (It's hard for everyone involved) Make sure he has a support group in his town that is active. Keep up the phone calls, visits and help for a long time. While the shock wears off in a few months the grief can last for years. And with children involved they are confused, angry and lost. They need a break from dad who is probably overwhelmed with grief and pulling double parent duty. \n\nOn the topic of calling: ask when is a good time of day to call. Everyone's schedule is a bit different, so just flat out ask when is the best time. If you keep calling he will be more likely to call you when really needed.\n\nSource: lost my dad, watched how people treated my mom.",
"this is a very hard thing to give advice on but i would suggest just keep being the friend you were beforehand and not always bringing up the subject, my sister recently lost someone she was close to and I will only bring it up if we are alone and already having a serious conversation about something even if its not related.. that way if she doesnt want to talk about it,gets upset or even angry at me for bringing it up its only me she has to do it in front of, not kids or other friends or anyone else.. probably dont try and talk about it in a public place maybe somewhere they are comfortable hope this helps and i hope your friend is doing well"
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"How to make the days seem longer. As I'm getting older these days feel like they're flying by and at the end some days I feel like I got nothing done. How do you all suggest that I go about utilizing every hour/minutes/second of everyday to maximize productivity? Thanks",
"How to make the days seem longer. As I'm getting older these days feel like they're flying by and at the end some days I feel like I got nothing done. How do you all suggest that I go about utilizing every hour/minutes/second of everyday to maximize productivity? Thanks",
"How to make the days seem longer. As I'm getting older these days feel like they're flying by and at the end some days I feel like I got nothing done. How do you all suggest that I go about utilizing every hour/minutes/second of everyday to maximize productivity? Thanks"
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"Make a list. Write down what you want to accomplish during the day. When you complete it, it can serve as a kind of boring keepsake from the day which can jog memories. ",
"There's actually a book that covers this called The 4 Hour Work Week. LOTS of tips on how to maximize productivity. Hope it helps!",
"If you really want to do this I suggest you look into sleeping in increments rather than sleeping 8 hours at once. I do this during finals week and get so much more done. "
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"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? ",
"I am a high school student taking college level classes. they gave me a university email address. what sort of stuff can i do with it that i should know about? "
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"discounted spotify premium and amazon prime student are subscription services that come to mind! I would check out your local thrift stores if that’s your thing as well; all of the ones around me have student discounts.",
"Discounts on \n\n* Amazon Prime\n* Apple store\n* Microsoft Student pricing/deals/offers\n* VMware student pricing\n* Adobe student deals\n* Phone plan pricing\n* Subscriptions (NYtimes, Wall Street Journal, check your news providers)",
"Lots if engineering softwares you can get student versions for. I'd be willing to be lots of other disciples softwares have free student versions. All you need is the .edu email. \n\nDo you have any ide what you want to go to college for?",
"Depends where you live - in NY you can get free museum visits and some other cool stuff - the university website might have a page that tells you everything you are entitled to",
"\nWest Elm: offers 15% off anything full priced to educators and students, but must be ordered through a store. \n\nUNIDAYS: this is another site that gains students access to discounts at a large number of retailers. UNiDAYS - Fast, free, exclusive deals for students (myunidays.com)\n\nDeal Hack: a student blog, published in March of 2022, includes a 17 category list of student deals from clothes to computers. \n\nStudent Discounts 2022: 180+ Brands That Offer Discounts (USA) (dealhack. com)\n\nDiscounts for design programs like Articulate360\nFree Canva",
"Try getting an account at the Samsung Education store - you have to order online, but you get up to 20% off a whole bunch of electronics (I saved several hundred on my tablet, for instance). \n\n\nhttps://www.samsung.com/au/estore/samsung-education-store/",
"Unrelated- but if you know what you’re going to major in, try and make sure you aren’t taking any classes that won’t count towards your major if at all possible. I took i think 36~ college cr",
"If you're a musician, or even if you just want to dabble in music production or recording, musical scoring, or even video ",
"If you do CS stuff see if you can get AWS educate or the github student developer pack. It might depend on your university for the first, but the github one gives you tons of free stuff.",
"Do:\n\n* Use it for school-related stuff like emailing your professors\n* Use it for any necessary communications with other students\n* Use it to snag any student discounts you can get\n\nDon't:\n\n* Use it for personal stuff\n* Use it to sign up for porn sites\n* Use it for anything that's gonna get you in trouble with the school if you forget to log out and somebody else sees it",
"Check it a couple of times a week so you stay on top of what your profs need you to do/if things are changing in your courses.",
"You could probably use the university’s rec center and/or compete in intramural sport if you’re into that jazz",
"You can cold-email serious professionals with questions about their work/research and have a chance they'll respond...giving you some awesome perspective and connections early in your education.",
"notion.so is a great tool for organisation and collaborative working. I used it to track assignments and store my notes from lectures. It has a free plan, and a premium plan but you can get the premium one for free with a uni email. https://bengfoyle.notion.site/HDip-Data-Analytics-Ben-Guilfoyle-ebe6564345214181b541620bc4fd0f01",
"GitHub education pack gives you a shit ton of software for free just by having an email with an edu domain, i recommend checking it out",
"Amazon Prime for Students, Microsoft Office 365 for free, a bunch of different Autodesk software for free.",
"First thing I did was port my emails from my student email to my regular one so that if I ever lost access to the student account I could still see the emails. This helps alot since I can still use the email for discounts even though I am no longer a student.",
"there's also GitHub student Developer pack, and WAY lot of complimentary services with it, definitely should check out",
"Sign up for free or discounted Adobe and other software that you can learn and use as a basis for a profitable side hustle",
"See if the university/college has deals for free Office 365 (word, powerpoint, excel, etc...), Adobe or other stuff",
"I remeber using Unidays.com website for tons of different discounts from retailers in all different categories and also amazon prime membership discount. Good luck!",
"Forward all emails to a private one because when you're out of there you won't have access anymore. My husband lost access to some accounts that way...",
"Use all of your digital subscriptions for course materials with this account. \n\nDo not register Pearson plus, cengage unlimited, or McGraw hill connect with personal emails, ever. Even if it is for a trial. \n\nIf you have homework connected to the courseware and start with the free trial on a personal email account and then buy the subscription under your student email it will not link the previous work completed for the class and will be lost.\n\nUse those subscriptions to get discounted rentals sent for a fraction of the cost and after you are done with school you won’t be spammed and tracked by the big publishers who sell your information to literally everyone.",
"People saying Amazon but I applied for this and they said they now require a picture or copy of your current semester schedule due to abuse. \n\nBut they never ended up charging me anything. Just been riding on free Amazon for a year somehow. It’s supposed to be discounted.",
"Lynda used to be free (years ago) for me.\n\nYou should see if you qualify for apples work from home program for college students.",
"If your college is recognised then you can get access full and FREE ACESS TP ADOBE SUIT, CANVA, MICROSOFT OFFICE PACKAGE AND various other software",
"Do not connect it to anything you want to keep for a long time. University email addresses usually get deleted sometime after you graduate. So anything like subscriptions or accounts you'd eventually lose access to.",
"Anything with a student discount that uses your email.\nAlso, you should have access to the university library. Use it. Both for academic stuff and just books. There are so many more things you have access to academically and book-wise with an active university email that you wouldn't normally.",
"The best thing is major discounts on publications like New York Times and the New Yorker. As a high school student you may not exactly be reading the New Yorker every week, but it's a full 50% off I believe.\n\nI have access to an .edu email address through work and use it for inexpensive NYT and NYer!",
"One thing you should not do is tie it to anything important or long term because you may lose access to your university account forever once you graduate or leave the university after x amount of years.",
"Just keep in mind you might not have it forever. The college might change the email or repeatedly try to revoke it after you graduate. \n\nMy college despite telling me as an alumni I'd have it for life seems to send emails with a 2 day notice every three months to do an \"annual\" reauthorization.\n\n They have also changed the email once without notice from @blahblah.edu to my.blahblah.edu. Going from outlook to gmail. There are a few accounts I lost when they changed that.",
"I pretty much never use my university email. Only thing I really use it for is communicating with people about university. And the school often sends out updates through email.",
"Get a Totem card. Lots of discounts, including (IIRC) 10% at Coop.\n\nUse Eduroam. To do this, you have to first sign in to your account using WiFi at your university, then you will automatically connect to the WiFi at other universities.",
"you might be able to get student versions of expensive computer programs, rendering programs, sometimes they expire after a year but free is a decent deal",
"you can go check/ask for which software your uni or department has licenses. I got a free license for Visual studio, Photoshop and a few other programs for 6 years (usually 2 years, renewable as long as you're enrolled) and saved around 5k.",
"free microsoft products, discounted microsoft products.\n\nactually, a bunch of large software companies provides free products for those with uni email. like 3dsmax, AutoCAD, etc\n\na bunch of subscription services also provides student discounts.",
"You should get subscriptions to many news sites like NYt, FT, Bloomberg (if you are into finance) etc. check your college site.",
"You can use that email for all sorts of goodies. Free software is huge, as others have mentioned: adobe, AutoCAD, rhino, etc are the ones I used. Try to get discounts on anything you buy: laptops, shoes, clothing, anything. Want to be the hero of the family? Use that email for your Hulu service.",
"You can obtain a full perpetual commercial license of Rhino CAD for $97USD, about 90% off. It's labeled as an educational license but the EULA explicitly states you can use it commercially without additional licensing. It's powerful stuff to have so cheaply, and does not need to be relinquished when you no longer have .edu status.",
"You can get electronic devices of almost every major brand from their website for a lower price and a 6 months interest free emi",
"You can get a bundle deal with Spotify, Hulu and I want to say show time for $5 a month. You can get access to Microsoft for free with the email at most universities. Google it there are many perks!",
"When I was in high school, most of the kids in my college coursed used the college to sign up for Amazon Prime for cheaper.",
"The [GitHub student pack](https://education.github.com/pack).\n\n-\tFree domain for a year on name.com\n-\tFree 1 year .me domain on namecheap\n-\tDigitalOcean cr",
"Subscribe to things that are free to university students. I had subscriptions to WSJ, NYT, WaPost that way in Uni. Good luck & have some fun for an old like me.",
"Student version of Maya Autodesk, if you want to get into game design haha \n\nBut all kinds of industry software has student versions",
"Student pricing for NFL Sunday Ticket (no direct tv required) https://nflst.directv.com/student?source=EDnfNFZ0200nflGJP&wtExtndSource=direct+tv+nfl+sunday+ticket+student&gclsrc=aw.ds&gbraid=0AAAAAoX5dNQYYJKeksNO4kIzwEWrdTTjG&gbraid=0AAAAAoX5dNQYYJKeksNO4kIzwEWrdTTjG&gclid=CjwKCAjw6raYBhB7EiwABge5KjSGOkGmgYr5UwjIPVWZ8fW2XFcT_zm0W_y0b20unScK6vSZW_8qYhoCn10QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds",
"Sign up to services like unidays, get student discounts at as many shops as possible, even domino's does BOGOF for students in the right areas.",
"Sign up for a Handshake account! You can only sign up with an edu email. Employers go to Handshake specifically to hire students.",
"Pretty much every place has a student discount on their website. Be that free or just a % off. At least any place that a student would really care about. Things like software are probably the most common. Adobe products, Microsoft subscriptions, coding applications, virtual servers for study. \n\nYou might also find some places to a discount if you use their app to order food. But this is going to depend on the company and almost never includes delivery.",
"Other have already mentioned Adobe and Microsoft Office. Notion has an amazing student plan which if you're a fan of that, I highly recommend you check out.\n\nThere might be other student discount websites that you can use. I know over here we go Unidays that give a fair number of discounts on different High Street shops. There may be a US equivalent.",
"Only a few people have mentioned what happens when you graduate. You will lose all that good stuff unless you figure out a way to stay enrolled. I know you are in high school and probably not thinking out that far. But you'll really miss all that valuable stuff and any files you save on the school server. So go ahead and get your own account from someone other than the school and use it regularly too.",
"On the flip side, be sure you are aware of all limitations. Not that you don’t want to use the address, but just so you can plan. My university made a big push for “email for life” several years ago. You could continue to use the account as an alumni for free. Your address not tied to any provider. \n\nWhat wasn’t clear was that the addresses were branded, LIMITED, Gmail accounts. It doesn’t end in Gmail.com - it uses the university .edu branding. But on the Google side, you can only access email (Gmail). Can’t use the account with YouTube, Google docs, Google maps, groups, etc. if you want to use any of the other Google products, need a separate Gmail account. Also, this year they are drastically cutting the account size. \n\nSo take the time to learn both the pros and cons.",
"Not sure if it's applicable for you but a lot of European schools/universities/libraries have a WiFi called Eduroam. If you have a .edu email you can usually connect to them for free",
"My university closed my university account soon after I graduated, so I wouldn’t make any important accounts using that email of you intend to use it after school ends. Other than that, you can probably get the Adobe product suits for a massive discount still with a student account, might be helpful for some courses.",
"Most of the softwares used during curriculum classes are available at either low rates or 1 year free subscription. AutoCAD , Matlab , etc . \n\n\n\nAlso you have 1tb google drive storage. \n\n\nPS: The admin can know what are you doing with your id , my friend was caught surfing porn with his college id.",
"Microsoft used to give free licenses for all sorts of products if you created an account with a .edu email address. Not sure if they still do but you might get free/discounted services on Azure.",
"Microsoft office suite\n",
"Lots of software available for cheap if you have a .edu address. \n\nMicrosoft products are REAL cheap. Load up.",
"Looking through the thread wanted to add: I know you can get autodesk fusion 360 (anyone can but you got more perks with the .edu when i was a student), MATLAB, and wolfram Mathematica with an edu email",
"LOOK FOR STUDENT DISCOUNTS ANYWHERE!\n\nSpotify Premium student plan\nAmazon Prime student\nStudentBeans (discounts on retailers)\nUnidays (I like this one more than StudentBeans, but, hey, check it out!)\n\nI know thrift stores near me offer student discounts on certain days of the week.\n\nWherever you go, just ask if they offer student discounts.\n\nAlso, just by scrolling to the bottom of any website (for purchases), with some fishing around, MOST companies offer something neat for students to take advantage of (think Nike, FootLocker, etc.)\n\nWell wishes and happy savings.",
"It'll get you access to university logins for third party accounts and other systems the university uses. So say you want CAD files from a Machine vendor that makes robotic arm berrings or something soecific and obscure like that. If the university has an account with them then you could request a login useing the email as the verification path and download the files. Anything really. I just made that one up, but you get the gist. It's a skeleton key into all sorts of things out there. Cool to have 😉",
"If you’re into electronics or studying for, you can request for free chips (ICs - integrated circuits) from TI.com, Analog.com et al. Free shipping.",
"If you’re a STEM major, and are interested in journals like Science and Nature, they give a substantial student discount. I love getting new ",
"If youre taking IT or CS related courses sometimes your uni will have softwares that you can download for free. Like windows, ms office suite, etc",
"If you sign up for any discount subscription services because the email proves student status make sure you provide an alternative email as well because you will be locked out when your course ends.",
"If you look up your college's newspaper/library information, it is very likely that you get free subscriptions to certain publications, included in your class tuition. For instance, my last university offered free WSJ, NYT, and Wash. Post subscriptions.",
"If you have some money spare don't go for the freebies go for the student rebates on software, yes you get office 365 for free, but you also get office 2021 vastly reduced which isn't a subscription.\n\nAdobe sadly has only subscriptions but Autodesk and other very specialized software is vastly cheaper.\n\nAlso hardware, laptops,desktops, it's worth actually asking the live chat guys if they can offer student rebates if it isn't obvious from the website",
"If you enjoy watching the NFL, you can get NFL Sunday Ticket as a stand-alone streaming service for $120/season as a student (or $30/month for 4 months). Typically, you’d need to have DirecTv AND pay ~$400/season for Sunday ticket.",
"If they are using Gmail to manage your email, you probably have unlimited Google Drive storage. They started cracking down on smaller colleges in July 2022 to set a school managed limit but so far it hasn't hit the bigger universities. To my knowledge, some University of CA schools participate but none of the CA state schools do. USC and Stanford are eligible. Alumni of the school get this perk too.",
"If its an outlook email it probly has free Microsoft office included very nice if you're not always on your computer.",
"I've been using Apple music at a discount for years since I subscribed using my university email, somehow worked for 3 years after college too (though I think it'll stop this year). Other than that online library subscriptions geared towards college goers, software tools, research papers, etc.",
"I'd tell you to claim Vivado software from Xilinx, you can create the acc. with a university mail. This is only because that HDL program is so fucking terrible you'll either become pro at hardware description language (if interested try to learn SystemVerilog) or you'll stop the installing process on the hour 2 of instalation. You're welcome.",
"I think you might be able to use it to get certain student discounts. Or, to impress girls, pretend you're faculty ...",
"I think if you can show proof of being a college student, you can get YouTube Premium for like $6.99/month.",
"I see you said computer science. You can get really good free aws stuff which would normally cost you. Just, for the love of all that is holy, terminate any instances and delete any storage you use when done with it. If you leave it running, and forget about it, after the year you will be charged (you need to provide a cr",
"I got free Amazon Prime when I had a .edu email address. I also needed it to join Facebook back in the day too.",
"Headspace app for £7.99 a year (64p a month!), with lots of content for students (studying/exams/working etc)",
"Get a student ID for that university and try to use their amenities. I got one for the university I was taking classes for however it did not work to scan into the gym or whatever. Either way it’s cool to have a student ID for a college when you’re still in high school",
"Free student ",
"Dreamspark is a Microsoft program that gives you lots of free software including windows server. U can configure that as a desktop os.",
"Discount newspaper subscriptions, Spotify (already mentioned elsewhere), gotta be more but I can’t remember…",
"Definitely discounted Amazon prime. I worked in admissions at a university and we all had .edu emails so we took advantage of that “student” discount lol",
"Def check out university specific stuff too. My university provides all students with free HBO Subscription and a VPN. All sorts of things like that",
"Contact the business school and see what free subscriptions you can get with it.\n\nUsually you can get free Wall Street journal, Bloomberg news, financial times, etc. All those cost hundreds of $ per year.",
"Can get Spotify, NFL Sunday Ticket U, and US Mobile student discounts. Free Wall Street Journal, I believe.",
"Bsck in 2014, I used mine to get something like a premium [Prezi.com](http://Prezi.com) account for free. I don't know how you guys do your \"slideshows\" nowadays but Prezi was A THING back then lol",
"Bluebeam\nYou’ll never use Adobe again. I think it still costs but you can get a lifetime license of their top tier $1200 software for about $100.",
"As others have said search around for free software. Otherwise definitely use it for any on campus clubs, groups, activities, and the obvious emailing teachers and classmates about project information. Pending on your school one of the best perks is the ability to search people by name for their emails if logged into Outlook or Gmail or whatever your school uses especially if you write it down. Additionally emailing industry personal with a slight caveat are more receptive to answering questions when from a student email. That said your student email is temporary and controllable by your school so use your personal private email when applying to jobs off campus and other things. That said it will almost end up becoming your main email until you graduate and it’s perks are endless.",
"As a student you can get a free version of all Jetbrains products. This is a must have IMO for a CS student.",
"Amazon prime has a student discount \nWall Street journal has a student discount as well. I assume other news outlets do too.",
"Adobe suite at a discount \n\nSpotify/listening apps for cheap\n\nNo fee savings/checking accounts. \n\nPrime used to be cheaper too for students.",
"A LOT of software. At discounted/free price. Digital art software, as an example. Among the other things others have mentioned here",
"\nFree github pro, which includes a free domain name and tons of other freebies. Then there is Jetbrains ultimate, you get all the professional/ultimate paid versions of their IDEs for free(my personal fav). Free Autodesk applicatios like autocad etc. Spotify premium, you get a discount, same for Amazon prime.",
"You can get on the Facebook! If it’s come to your college all you need is your university email address. It helps you meet people on campus and has a great “poke” feature",
"I still use my uni email when I need a more polished email - like if applying for a job.\n\nLooks more professional than [email protected]",
"You will need this for tuition and Blackboard. And to communicate with you future professors. Its very valuable",
"You basically use that email and can get a lot of discounts and perks for being a student once it’s verified.",
"My email address was discontinued during my attending university (they installed a new software and changed the students' accounts as a whole). This was nice because it was easier to type, but I've lost access to many accounts due to them being set up with the school account as the email (can't change password or recover account, etc., because the server is literally shut down or whatever)\n\nOtherwise it was nice because as others have mentioned, you can get nice discounts on things.",
"Cheaper with any subscription. Like apple music etc. almost all programs to, almost everything has a student discount just have to type it in",
"If I recall, it gets your access to Facebook!!!! Congrats you are amongst the few who get the new social media platform!",
"First thing I did with my university email address was get a Facebook account! \n\nBut as it turns out those aren’t required anymore. I hope others have good advice for ya.",
"Back when I graduated high school you would have been able to get a Facebook account, as you had to have a college email address to have an account. You’re 15-20 years too late to feel special for that reason. Thanks for making me feel old.",
"Back in my day you could create a facebook account lol. Not sure what good a college email address is now except to email your professors.",
"There used to be cr",
"College stuff. You want porn or adds or other weird stuff popping up in there? No, just use it for college or college related stuff",
"it's just an email address. usually required to log into university sites or classes.\n\nIf you plan tonuse it to apply for jobs, I recommend you not do anything irresponsible with it as that'd how potential employers will communicate with you for interviews"
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"A way to efficiently dry clothes that cannot go in the dryer in limited space I don't have a lot of space to lay clothes out to dry, but I don't like getting little shoulder bumps on my sweaters when I hang them. Is there a way to get clothes dry in a small space?",
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"Ikea has some good drying racks that fold flat and store nicely next to our washer/dryer.\n\nhttp://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/departments/laundry/20602/\n\n",
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"How to best work from home? I'm starting a new job for which I'm going to be working from home for the first time in my life. What are your advice and tricks to be super productive and not end up binge-watching tv shows in my PJs all day? ",
"How to best work from home? I'm starting a new job for which I'm going to be working from home for the first time in my life. What are your advice and tricks to be super productive and not end up binge-watching tv shows in my PJs all day? ",
"How to best work from home? I'm starting a new job for which I'm going to be working from home for the first time in my life. What are your advice and tricks to be super productive and not end up binge-watching tv shows in my PJs all day? "
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"Don't get too comfortable.\n\nWorking from home it's easy to wear your pajamas and be unfocused, as you're surrounded by all of your toys and no one is looking over your shoulder.\n\nIn the morning, eat breakfast, shave (if you do), shower, and wear real clothes. This helps provide a transition between \"It's my time\" and \"It's work time\".\n\nTry to create a work area with as few distractions immediately available as possible. Don't watch videos unless it's your \"lunch break\".\n\n",
"I'd say make your work center an actual work center, and not the same place you go to watch movies/play games/use reddit. Make it look professional and use a different computer if you have to, it might help. ",
"On the flip side I have worked at home in the past and will be able to again in a few months. (No longer at the IRS and need to change my name!!). Personally I do stay in my pjs. It's my 'perk'. I have no problem getting work done. What I find awesome is the quietness - no stories of so and so' skid doing something cute- not dealing with any of the typical politics or drama. While I enjoy not having that to deal with, a couple friends in the same field absolutely HATE working from home. They tell me they feel dis- located and out if the loop. They miss the human/coworker \naspect. So enjoy your pjs if you can still be productive and go back to the office if you can't. \nThere are several places the rent desk space daily/hourly.... Maybe that could be a happy medium. Still getting dressed and \"going\" to work.... But not to your own office !?!?!"
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"Highlighter stains the fibers of the paper, effectively changing the color of the paper itself. The only way to keep this from happening is to avoid highlighting something to begin with.",
"I have seen highlighters with two tips... one is yellow and one is white. The white end turns the yellow clear. It's like those magic markers that changed colours. No idea where they can be purchased though."
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"Want to move out to my own apartment soon, what do I need to know, how to get the best deal, pretty much everything I need to know about living alone for the first time. ",
"Want to move out to my own apartment soon, what do I need to know, how to get the best deal, pretty much everything I need to know about living alone for the first time. ",
"Want to move out to my own apartment soon, what do I need to know, how to get the best deal, pretty much everything I need to know about living alone for the first time. ",
"Want to move out to my own apartment soon, what do I need to know, how to get the best deal, pretty much everything I need to know about living alone for the first time. ",
"Want to move out to my own apartment soon, what do I need to know, how to get the best deal, pretty much everything I need to know about living alone for the first time. ",
"Want to move out to my own apartment soon, what do I need to know, how to get the best deal, pretty much everything I need to know about living alone for the first time. "
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"This whole site is about your first apartment (check right rail) http://firstapartmentguide.com/first-apartment-essentials \n\nApps: http://www.mymovingreviews.com/move/apps-that-help-you-moving\n\nGreat list: http://www.realsimple.com/home-organizing/organizing/moving/moving-checklist-00000000000208/index.html\n\nYour first apartment list: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/23/home-essentials-first-home_n_1825982.html\n\nAlso search pinterest for \"first apartment\"\n\nwww.thesimpledollar.com for sound money, moving, and frugal living tips.\n\n\n",
"Honestly, the best thing you can do is move into a large-ish complex. As they have more units, the margins are a lot less tight, allowing them to rent for less. Plus, they are much more likely to have their shit together when things break, and when it comes to basic maintenance. I have rented from a few smaller landlords and have had a few good experiences, but every nightmare experience I have had was with a small time landlord as well. For instance, I once had to have the cops come let me into my apartment because the lock was malfunctioning, and my asshole landlord couldn't be bothered to come fix it (It was about 10 degrees outside, mind you). So yeah, just find a complex nearby that is in a convenient location, with reasonable rents, and try to haggle the price down (say: \"I am very interested, and I might be back with the market rate, but I will sign a 12 month lease right now for $x”)",
"[This] (http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-things-everyone-forgets-to-check-when-apartment-hunting/) was a good article I read a couple of days ago about apartment hunting.",
"Take photos of everything the day you move in. The landlord may try to scam you to pay for things that were like it when you moved in. Save the pictures on your computer and email copies of them to the landlord.\n\n",
"Take aside about 100 dollars, research and find a good vacuum cleaner. No need to spend more, but try not to spend much less unless you find a hell of a deal. ",
"Storage your stuff with the minimum- maximum principle.\nIf you consume e.g. 2 bottles of milk a week, than have 4 bottles stored.\nIf you used 2 bottles, you still have enough if you weren´t able to go shopping.\nUse this principle for milk, cereal, butter, razor blades, shampoo, towels, drinks, etc."
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"How to shave back as a single male I have two patches on my back, basically in that spot on your back that is difficult to comfortable reach. I've shaved them before with great difficulty, but because it's so hard to reach, I ended up giving myself really bad razor burn. When I had a girlfriend a few years back we tried Nair (the men's formula) and it worked but only for about 12 hours and was way more hassle than it was worth. It's kind of embarrassing in the summer when I want to have my shirt off, but it looks so weird. [For reference](http://i.imgur.com/IEocn11.jpg), this is where they come in. I've considered laser hair removal, but it's just too expensive for me at this point in my life. Anyone have any idea how to shave these patches off or remove them in general?",
"How to shave back as a single male I have two patches on my back, basically in that spot on your back that is difficult to comfortable reach. I've shaved them before with great difficulty, but because it's so hard to reach, I ended up giving myself really bad razor burn. When I had a girlfriend a few years back we tried Nair (the men's formula) and it worked but only for about 12 hours and was way more hassle than it was worth. It's kind of embarrassing in the summer when I want to have my shirt off, but it looks so weird. [For reference](http://i.imgur.com/IEocn11.jpg), this is where they come in. I've considered laser hair removal, but it's just too expensive for me at this point in my life. Anyone have any idea how to shave these patches off or remove them in general?",
"How to shave back as a single male I have two patches on my back, basically in that spot on your back that is difficult to comfortable reach. I've shaved them before with great difficulty, but because it's so hard to reach, I ended up giving myself really bad razor burn. When I had a girlfriend a few years back we tried Nair (the men's formula) and it worked but only for about 12 hours and was way more hassle than it was worth. It's kind of embarrassing in the summer when I want to have my shirt off, but it looks so weird. [For reference](http://i.imgur.com/IEocn11.jpg), this is where they come in. I've considered laser hair removal, but it's just too expensive for me at this point in my life. Anyone have any idea how to shave these patches off or remove them in general?",
"How to shave back as a single male I have two patches on my back, basically in that spot on your back that is difficult to comfortable reach. I've shaved them before with great difficulty, but because it's so hard to reach, I ended up giving myself really bad razor burn. When I had a girlfriend a few years back we tried Nair (the men's formula) and it worked but only for about 12 hours and was way more hassle than it was worth. It's kind of embarrassing in the summer when I want to have my shirt off, but it looks so weird. [For reference](http://i.imgur.com/IEocn11.jpg), this is where they come in. I've considered laser hair removal, but it's just too expensive for me at this point in my life. Anyone have any idea how to shave these patches off or remove them in general?",
"How to shave back as a single male I have two patches on my back, basically in that spot on your back that is difficult to comfortable reach. I've shaved them before with great difficulty, but because it's so hard to reach, I ended up giving myself really bad razor burn. When I had a girlfriend a few years back we tried Nair (the men's formula) and it worked but only for about 12 hours and was way more hassle than it was worth. It's kind of embarrassing in the summer when I want to have my shirt off, but it looks so weird. [For reference](http://i.imgur.com/IEocn11.jpg), this is where they come in. I've considered laser hair removal, but it's just too expensive for me at this point in my life. Anyone have any idea how to shave these patches off or remove them in general?",
"How to shave back as a single male I have two patches on my back, basically in that spot on your back that is difficult to comfortable reach. I've shaved them before with great difficulty, but because it's so hard to reach, I ended up giving myself really bad razor burn. When I had a girlfriend a few years back we tried Nair (the men's formula) and it worked but only for about 12 hours and was way more hassle than it was worth. It's kind of embarrassing in the summer when I want to have my shirt off, but it looks so weird. [For reference](http://i.imgur.com/IEocn11.jpg), this is where they come in. I've considered laser hair removal, but it's just too expensive for me at this point in my life. Anyone have any idea how to shave these patches off or remove them in general?"
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"1 cup of gasoline, 1 ligther, stand next to the shower with the water running. Or use an axe or something like that.",
"Lots of guys have those hair patches. Believe me, it bothers you more than it bothers anyone else, don't worry about it. \n\nIf you must, there is [this](http://www.prlog.org/10690446-the-mangroomer-professional-do-it-yourself-electric-back-hair-shaver.jpg).",
"The patches are not too painful to have waxed. Lots of guys do it, they just don't talk about it. Sugaring is similar and possibly less painful. Look for a place with good reviews and make an appointment.",
"[I have this.](http://www.amazon.com/Razorba-Classic-Back-Hair-Shaver/dp/B002MUAP2E)\n\nWorks great once you figure out it. It's kinda awkward. It works a lot better if you kind of act like you're scrubbing hair off than using a razor. Also, not all razors fit---read the instructions.",
"Somehow I think females will just think that you have a fit body and won't even give the hair on your back a second thought. It is so small I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe attach a long handle to a razor so you can access it more easier ",
"I [use this](http://www.amazon.com/MANGROOMER-Do-It-Yourself-Electric-Back-Shaver/dp/B000HQ0L2E/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1369007074&sr=8-1), although it died on me after a year, it did work though."
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"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
"Not missing a handshake Not exactly missing a handshake per se, but sometimes when shaking someone's hand, the angle or something gets messed up and I end up giving a weak handshake. Any tips to avoid this?",
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"You look at the person's elbow, your hand naturally does the rest. Have faith in this technique, it was taught to me by a good friend and has not failed me yet.",
"Basically what I have learned to do after many mix ups and the weird times I've grabbed a hand for a handshake and I'm doing this fair maiden curtsy handshake where I've grabbed their finger tips instead of their palm; is \n\n* either wait for them to extend and stop first.\n\nor\n\n* go in for a handshake but instead put your hand out only up to your hip and a little forward. They shouldn't reach over to you, but its just so you can slow yourself and have them finish reaching out their arm, so you can then put out your hand for the handshake. \n\n",
"Honestly, if I have a crappy handshake, I will say to the person, \"Hang on, that was terrible. Let's try that again.\"\n\nIt's kind of funny, and the person feels like they can open up to you more. ",
"try to connect the spot at the base of your thumb (on the side with the index finger) with the corresponding spot on theirs\nJust jam them together",
"seddit has tons of shit on body language and hand shakes...\n\nseddit gets a bad wrap, but there is a shit ton of everyday useful info on there...",
"Extend your hand *slowly* (perhaps with a smile to fill up the extra time taken), if you do it slowly, you can judge and anticipate movement better, and act accordingly.",
"Don't know about a handshake, per se, but for a high-five you can avoid missing (and looking like a total nerd haha) by looking at the other person's elbow when you go in. You'll get a nice, solid clap every time. ",
"1. extend arm straight out, approximately chest high\n2. literally say \"bump my fist\" \n3. physically bump fists\n4. bounce fist back and explode (optional)\n",
"All 4 fingers straight ahead, thumb straight out to the side, hand 90 degrees (or less) to theirs with palm facing down-ish. Move your hand so that the spot between your thumb and the rest of your hand hits the same spot on their hand. When that contacts, you know your hand is all the way in. Rotate your hand in line with theirs and stretch your fingers around their hand with appropriate firmness. Good, solid, full contact shake. Bam.",
"I always commit to which ever style of handshake I choose right off the bat (either professional, 'urban', or props types I guess). Just commit, and make the other person switch into whatever you are presenting. Most people are nice or awkward enough to switch and will move their hand to match yours automatically.",
"LPT: stop obsessing over handshakes\n\nstop trying to manipulate other people with \"subconscious\" stuff"
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"Simple way to keep light plastic dishes from flipping over in the dishwasher Every time I wash light plastic dishes (Like plastic food containers) in the dishwasher, they always flip over, then they end up full of gunky water by the end of the cycle.\n\nSo far, the only way I know to stop it is by placing a heavier dish on top of it. There's also [these things](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000227MAM/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B000227MAM&linkCode=as2&tag=other00d-20), but those look like glorified bungie cables, and some reviews said they break after a few months.\n\nAnyone know any tricks to prevent dishes from flipping?",
"Simple way to keep light plastic dishes from flipping over in the dishwasher Every time I wash light plastic dishes (Like plastic food containers) in the dishwasher, they always flip over, then they end up full of gunky water by the end of the cycle.\n\nSo far, the only way I know to stop it is by placing a heavier dish on top of it. There's also [these things](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000227MAM/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B000227MAM&linkCode=as2&tag=other00d-20), but those look like glorified bungie cables, and some reviews said they break after a few months.\n\nAnyone know any tricks to prevent dishes from flipping?"
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"We would tie them down with string, interlaced among the top rack. But this too, lasts a few months. But it's cheap. \n",
"We have a few cooling racks that I got at the dollar store, and they are used only for the dishwasher. We put like-sized items together, then just before turning the dw on, we put the racks on top of the cups/containers that are likely to flip. It isn't foolproof, but it works way better than nothing!!"
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"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love.",
"how to get over an ex? Please help its veen 2 months and they're constantly still on my mind and all I love."
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"I'm nearing 60. I've never been married but gave been in love 3 times (as in could have married) had major flings that might have turned into love and major crushes here and there.\nFrom a practical point....stay BUSY. Do not sit around moping and crying....let me me be clear. Spend about a good week bawling your eyes out THE N commit yourself to stop. Stay active, busy, engaged....do NOT drown yourself in drink or drugs. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Eat, play, exercise. \n\nGive it one month to six weeks of good clean living and you will start to feel better. I promise. You might feel sad still but won't HURT like it did.\n\nGive it time. The adage \" time heals all wounds\" is true.\n\nGood luck. Keep your chin up.",
"Find a way to move on... it's different for everyone. Get out and do something.. anything really.. so you are with people and talking about new things.",
"“Emotions” are chemicals IMO. \n\nMy theory is, if we are all here to reproduce, then when we find a potential mate, we crush over them and desire them. This is our brain releasing chemicals and hormones to fulfill our reason for being here... to get laid and reproduce. \n\nThen once you break up with your partner, you usually feel like shit. You usually feel like you won’t survive without them anymore and would do anything to get back with them. Continuing with my theory, that is your brain realizing that your mate is gone, and your goal to reproduce has been jeopardized, so your pesky little brain releases those “emotions” that make you feel like your life is over, so that you get back with that mate and make some babies. \n\nTime does heal everything, and eventually your brain will allow you to feel better once more\n\n(Not a doctor or a psychologist, just a 20 year old guy who wanted to help)",
"What's the old line, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. That's maybe true for some but other things take time, particularly if it was a years long relationship, but the principle is the same, stay busy, find a serious hobby and get out and do it. Try not to mope or ruminate on the issue too much, and rely on other friends/family when needed.",
"Time and distance.\n\nYou really want to be away from the things that bring your ex to the forefront, and the you need to keep busy so you think about other things. It will fade, but you have to position yourself so it will.",
"Not sure what will help in your situation cause everyone is so different. For me it was recognizing that they could be a great person, but they weren't your person. You might write a list of all the things you mismatched on, those can be easy to forget when you're lonely. \n\nUltimately you are now closer to that someone out there who is also looking for you than you have ever been.\n\nAlso try m",
"It takes time but it also takes effort, you are an excellent human being without having a partner and you should focus on self improvement so that your next partner does not become your next ex.",
"Focus on how to improve yourself in someway. I’m in the same boat and have started exercising. Think of it as an opportunity to spoil yourself",
"Everyone has good and bad traits. Force yourself to look at their bad traits and soon you'll be glad you're done with them. It's the sour-grape syndrome",
"Either dwell in sorrow or realise that it’s part of your past and move on. That hurt pretty soon disappears when another person starts to make amazing memories with you.",
"Accept the hurt and turn it into something positive, like art or music. Channel it into passion for other things. If you keep yourself busy with activities with your friends or family, you won't have time to think about them.",
"1. Like others have said it worked for me. Actively try and get into some sort of engaging relationship. It doesn't have to be sexual. \n2. Something that will make you look forward to it. Can be getting a new hobby, joining a club or class you always wanted to do.",
"U'll go thru a painful, fucky emotional sine wave that looks like profits of mismanaged tech startup\n\nU'll get jerked around, some days obsessed, others totally out of mind\n\nIn 9 months u'll be healthy again \n\nTake it day by day, work on adding the next 0 to your bank account\n\nCome time Q3 2020, u'll be smh'ing drinking gin & tonics \n\nDO NOT KEEP HER IN YOUR CONTACTS, SOCIAL MEDIA",
"It's all about dopamine and serotonin. Get some dopamine, by doing fun and exciting stuff and some serotonin by pursuing life improving goals,acheiving them and getting respect.\n\nI'm not being flippant, btw. what I'm saying is backed by research. Being in love and in a relationship significantly affects your brain chemistry, and when it ends the brain needs some time to adjust. Doing the stuff I mentioned will speed that up."
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"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?",
"How can I wash my normal socks so they are clean and fluffy/comfortable like new? Title^^\n\nTL;DR: How do I make my socks feel like brand new heaven again?"
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"Washing in warm to hot water with very little detergent and drying on hot seems to work well for me with cotton socks...\n\nLately, I've been trying to find deals on Smartwool and Wigwam socks. They're the best wool socks I've found, and they always stay comfortable. They're a bit expensive, but totally worth it.",
"Put a bunch of vinegar in the washing machine along with your regular detergent/fabric softener. Actually, pour vinegar in every load of laundry. You can buy the large gallon jugs of it for pretty cheap. ",
"Not sure about washing socks already in circulation but if I may, I would like to propose a pro tip for sock use in general. \n\nWhen you buy new socks, don't throw out all the old ones and bring the new ones into circulation all at once. Throw out/dispose of 1 pair of old, and then one morning wear one of the new pairs. Continue to use old socks for a week or so, until you dispose of a second pair of old and bring a second pair of new into circulation. That way a package of 8 pairs of new socks (or however many you buy at at a time) will result in that amazing new sock feeling over the course of 8 weeks, compared to 8 days of new sock bliss one after another.",
"Wash your socks inside out. \n\nGet a downy ball, put vinegar in it and toss it in your wash. (never use fabric softener on towels or socks!)\n\nGet some dryer balls and use those in your dryer.\n\n",
"Aside from maybe dry cleaning them or spending $$ on quality socks, I'm not positive how you'd be able to accomplish this.\n\nFeeling of new socks is a wonderous thing. Maybe this is due to the fact that it is relatively rare. Savor when it happens, but you may as well be looking for Shangri-La.",
"Rinse them with vinegar after washing with soap. About 1 cup to a full load should work. They do not smell of vinegar or foot odor afterward. \n \nMy husband has smelly feet and I use it on his socks and even spray it into his shoes. It works! \n \nI even put my towels in a second rinse with it after washing to get any residual soap out and they are so fresh and fluffy. There are actually a lot of good reasons to keep and and use it in the laundry room... \nhttp://laundry.about.com/od/vinegarinthelaundr1/tp/vinegarhub.htm \n \nIt's economical and effective.",
"I love new socks. They're always so soft but after the very first washing, forget it. I even use the best fabric softener and my socks are *never* as soft as when I first buy them. ",
"Buy new socks? >.>\n\nI like to replace my socks in bulk twice a year. No mismatched or missing socks for me. And they all match!",
"I have never had this quality decrease that the rest of you seem to experience. I'm guessing that the terry loops are being matted down with foot gunk and aren't coming clean so are staying matted.\n\nHave you given a thought to turning the terry loop side (the side normally against your foot) to the outside when washing your socks? Also to not rewearing your socks? It may take quite a few washings to remove the built up foot gunk, but eventually it will happen.\n\nWith your socks being essentially a bag, the only way the foot gunk could possibly come out of the socks is if it were somehow small enough to pass through the weave of the fabric. As it hasn't, it clearly won't. Or, the foot gunk could somehow attempt to make its way down the length of the sock and come out the top. Again, as it hasn't it likely won't.\n\nAnd thus, flip inside out. Wash. :)"
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"Good things to do before we go into the new year. So there's about 3 weeks to go before 2016 comes, what are some things I could do to before the New Year during this time to the effect of a better end and a better start in general? ",
"Good things to do before we go into the new year. So there's about 3 weeks to go before 2016 comes, what are some things I could do to before the New Year during this time to the effect of a better end and a better start in general? "
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"Dont fap till december 31. And start few minutes before 12. Time it perfectly for the 0000hrs. Begin the new year with a *blast*.",
"Start your resolutions now. If you begin them now you can use the new year as a benchmark. If you have fallen off by new years you can use it as a reminder and restart. If you kept up with them you can see how much progress you've made in 3 weeks. There is no point in waiting to fix yourself. Take those three weeks and use them.",
"Find out about for which services you pay, and if there are cheaper alternatives. A lot of those can only be chanced before the start of the new year"
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"Staying motivated with language learning I've always wanted to learn a language but have always struggled with motivation. I can't afford to travel to the country for the sole purpose of learning the lingo, so have to study at home. Any bilinquists here who have tips with staying motivated to keep learning?",
"Staying motivated with language learning I've always wanted to learn a language but have always struggled with motivation. I can't afford to travel to the country for the sole purpose of learning the lingo, so have to study at home. Any bilinquists here who have tips with staying motivated to keep learning?",
"Staying motivated with language learning I've always wanted to learn a language but have always struggled with motivation. I can't afford to travel to the country for the sole purpose of learning the lingo, so have to study at home. Any bilinquists here who have tips with staying motivated to keep learning?"
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"ESL Teacher/Linguist here. Mostly done getting my Master's in TESOL/SLA (Second language acquisition). Motivation is the core of my own teaching philosophy and one of the largest factors of the SLA research field. I'll keep it simple:\n\nThere are two large bases for motivation: Intrinsic and Extrinsic. Extrinsic motivation is if you're taking a Spanish 101 course and you want to get an A, or you want to be good for the sake of others. Intrinsic motivation means you have personal volition and desire to become better, to do well, for your own sake. Intrinsic is almost always a much stronger driving force for language learners. From my experiential knowledge and study, just doing what you're doing - wanting to learn at home makes learning a new language from scratch very difficult, and it is hard to stay motivated. \n\nHere are my two ideas on the best things you could do if you really want to learn:\n\n1. Signing up for or attending a language class. This is the biggest, unless you've already ascended to the realm of polyglots (multi-language learners), who already have an immense amount of instrinsic motivation and language expertise, capable of quickly teaching themselves new languages. If you're in or near a fairly decent-sized city, you may be able to search online for free or very cheap community-lead language programs. In my opinion, this would be your best bet, but would require you going and being committed to going and interacting. It is borderline impossible to learn a language by yourself, no matter what websites or fun quirky apps say. They're good for supplementing and practice, but not for teaching whole. The more hours and more consistent the class is, the better. Research has even shown that an 3 hours a week is rarely enough to become \"fluent\" with a language, but it depends on what level of proficiency you want to get to. Any language proficiency past novice, and at the most low-intermediate, I would argue, is impossible without instruction and multi-dimensional assessment (usually provided by classes). \n\n2. Join communities of the language you're wanting to learn - Online websites, forums, or find pen-pals to write to that would allow you to learn the language. \n\nLearning another language is one of the coolest and most rewarding things in my opinion, and also an incredibly powerful, and useful skill. If you have other questions I can try to answer them. ",
"Watch some cartoons in that language. It really depends on how much you know of that language. If you know nothing then start with simple words. Also try to speak to somebody in that language if you can find someone, in that case you can ask them every word you don't know.",
"There's a pretty cool iOS app (might be on Android too, not sure though) called \"HelloTalk,\" where you can send voice/text messages to people from the country of your target language, as long as you correct them with their English in return :)\n\nAlso, going on \"omegle\" and typing the target language/country in the \"interests\" field sometimes yields for some pretty fun conversation!"
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"Dealing with too many keys Has anyone found a solution to having too many keys on their keychain when all of them are essential?",
"Dealing with too many keys Has anyone found a solution to having too many keys on their keychain when all of them are essential?",
"Dealing with too many keys Has anyone found a solution to having too many keys on their keychain when all of them are essential?"
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"One or more of [these gizmos](http://www.keyring.com/images/products/thumb/61024_chrome_two_part_key_chain.jpg) helps group them. You can leave groups behind when they are not needed, and rejoin them together later. ",
"I have a small caribiner with different key rings on it. I have my home keys (front door, mailbox, boyfriend's house) on one ring. I have my car keys on another ring. I have my work keys on yet a third ring. And I have my visitor's keys (to Mom and Dad's house, Brother's car, good friend's car, etc. on yet another ring). That way, I can leave whatever key set I currently don't need wherever I am (say in one of the closed compartment spaces of the car) by removing it from the caribiner.\n\nThe caribiner isn't good to put in pocket because it is so bulky, but as it has a hook it conveniently clips to belt loops, purse handles, and such.\n\nSide tip: Get a non-chipped copy of the car key that can pretty much only be used to open the car door and the trunk for nights that you (ladies) want to go dancing. Put everything except cash, ID, and that key in the trunk. Put those three in your bra. Now you can dance hands free without worrying that someone is making off with your purse. Trunk key opens trunk where drive-the-car key is waiting for you.",
"Not exactly sure what the problem is - identifying which key is the right key for the lock or eliminating keys. Since everyone else is dealing with picking a key, perhaps eliminating keys can help. \n\nFor locks you own, you can replace the lock with a [\"set-able\"](http://www.kwikset.com/smartsecurity/re-key-technology.aspx) (not sure if that is a word) key. This can unify multiple locks to a single key. \n\nFor the remainder, there are fashion/special keys you can have made at your local hardware store. These are multi-colored, multi-shaped keys that are easily identifiable."
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"How to stop forgetting little things I seem to forget everything as soon as I walk into another room. It's more than just forgetting why I got up in the first place.\n\nJust today:\n\n* Left cell phone on bathroom windowsill\n* Emptied office wastebasket into kitchen trash, fixed snack, returned without wastebasket\n* Left bag of frozen vegetables on kitchen counter\n* Left half-eaten gallon of ice cream on coffee table\n\nI already have routines that prevent me from leaving home without important things like keys/wallet/mask (I always store them in my hat and physically count them out loud before I go).\n\nBut I swear I need someone to follow me around picking up after me. One of these days it's going to be significant or even dangerous (stove, etc.). How do I stop this habit?",
"How to stop forgetting little things I seem to forget everything as soon as I walk into another room. It's more than just forgetting why I got up in the first place.\n\nJust today:\n\n* Left cell phone on bathroom windowsill\n* Emptied office wastebasket into kitchen trash, fixed snack, returned without wastebasket\n* Left bag of frozen vegetables on kitchen counter\n* Left half-eaten gallon of ice cream on coffee table\n\nI already have routines that prevent me from leaving home without important things like keys/wallet/mask (I always store them in my hat and physically count them out loud before I go).\n\nBut I swear I need someone to follow me around picking up after me. One of these days it's going to be significant or even dangerous (stove, etc.). How do I stop this habit?",
"How to stop forgetting little things I seem to forget everything as soon as I walk into another room. It's more than just forgetting why I got up in the first place.\n\nJust today:\n\n* Left cell phone on bathroom windowsill\n* Emptied office wastebasket into kitchen trash, fixed snack, returned without wastebasket\n* Left bag of frozen vegetables on kitchen counter\n* Left half-eaten gallon of ice cream on coffee table\n\nI already have routines that prevent me from leaving home without important things like keys/wallet/mask (I always store them in my hat and physically count them out loud before I go).\n\nBut I swear I need someone to follow me around picking up after me. One of these days it's going to be significant or even dangerous (stove, etc.). How do I stop this habit?",
"How to stop forgetting little things I seem to forget everything as soon as I walk into another room. It's more than just forgetting why I got up in the first place.\n\nJust today:\n\n* Left cell phone on bathroom windowsill\n* Emptied office wastebasket into kitchen trash, fixed snack, returned without wastebasket\n* Left bag of frozen vegetables on kitchen counter\n* Left half-eaten gallon of ice cream on coffee table\n\nI already have routines that prevent me from leaving home without important things like keys/wallet/mask (I always store them in my hat and physically count them out loud before I go).\n\nBut I swear I need someone to follow me around picking up after me. One of these days it's going to be significant or even dangerous (stove, etc.). How do I stop this habit?",
"How to stop forgetting little things I seem to forget everything as soon as I walk into another room. It's more than just forgetting why I got up in the first place.\n\nJust today:\n\n* Left cell phone on bathroom windowsill\n* Emptied office wastebasket into kitchen trash, fixed snack, returned without wastebasket\n* Left bag of frozen vegetables on kitchen counter\n* Left half-eaten gallon of ice cream on coffee table\n\nI already have routines that prevent me from leaving home without important things like keys/wallet/mask (I always store them in my hat and physically count them out loud before I go).\n\nBut I swear I need someone to follow me around picking up after me. One of these days it's going to be significant or even dangerous (stove, etc.). How do I stop this habit?"
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"Find a place to relax. M",
"Just stop with all the multitasking for now. Don’t fix a snack in the middle of emptying a garbage can. Put the can away and come back to make a snack. \n\nDon’t set your phone anywhere in the bathroom. Either in your hand or pocket. \n\nDon’t get up to do anything while in process of eating ice cream at the coffee table. Finish ice cream then do whatever. Also use a bowl and leave the damn container in the freezer. \n\nEtc etc. Basically stop being a spaz and doing everything at once. Finish what you’re doing THEN move on to something else.",
"I’ve been lime this my entire life and have just been diagnosed with ADHD. I’ve started medication and while I’m on it I don’t do this shit. I’m organised and focussed.",
"I’m the same, absent minded as all hell. What works for me when having focus is especially important like at work; is when i get into a flow, but this involves a lot of things and some inner work.\n\nI’ve noticed that when i forget a lot of things i’m usually stressed or preoccupied with other thoughts and not present, which means that if i relax by regulating my emotions, it’s easier for me to get into a flow state and thus; not forget as much.",
"A habit is one thing... This seems to be a trend. There may be reasons behind the lack of concentration. Do you find yourself on \"autopilot\" often?"
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"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together.",
"Checklist for someone looking to move out for the first time? Just looking for some tips/advice/suggestions for someone looking to move out for the first time.\n\nI'd like to rent out an apartment. Currently living in NJ. Not for college. Plan on just taking just the bare necessities.\n\nI haven't decided on a date but ideally, right around the summer.\n\nJust wanted to get a head start on things so I can get my shit together."
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"Advice: Read the lease before signing it. If utilities are not specified as included in the lease, assume you are paying for them. Otherwise, ask because you *might* be able to negotiate some utilities to be included with rent (then get it in writing). Take pictures/video of the place before you move in, and repeat after you have stuff moved out. Then you'll have proof of the place's condition in case the landlord/property manager tries to charge you for damages that you did not cause or are imaginary. When moving out, ask the landlord to provide a cleaning checklist so you can get as much of your deposit back as possible when you move out. In some states wear & tear is not considered an item to deduct from deposits - learn the state's laws concerning renting. Pay your rent and bills on time. Write down and follow monthly budgets. Anything involving money: get it in writing and keep receipts of payments. Get renter's insurance.\n\nAs far as checklists go, everyone has different needs and wants so check out a bunch of lists to determine what will work for you: [internet search results](http://www.lmgtfy.com/?q=%22first+apartment%22+checklist): [list 1](http://www.myfirstapartment.com/2013/05/things-you-need-for-your-first-apartment/) and [list 2](http://firstapartmentguide.com/apartment-checklist).\n\nOne list included throw pillows - to me that is a waste of money; not on my list. Also, sometimes it is better to move with some basics, then see what you need. Remember, the more crap you own, the more work it is to move. If you plan on moving once or more a year, keep your crap to a minimum.\n\n",
"I've had a few different places now, so I have some very specific tips that might go beyond your usual \"Read your lease\"\n\n1. Don't live near a school. Crossing guard whistles in the morning, drumline practice in the afternoon and weekends. Shit never stops.\n\n2. Don't live with a couple. Everything will be your fault and you're outnumbered in everything. \n\n3. In fact, don't live with people if you can help it. People are fucking weird. There are empty bottles of apricot juice all over my goddamned kitchen.\n\n4. At the very least, get your own bathroom. If you happen to do something that makes your roomie angry, you never know what he'll do\n\n5. Check the wifi connection. Ideally, you want to monitor things over the course of a week or so. I wish that was practical at all, because I've had weird, inconsistent issues with my precious internet connection since moving out of my parents' place in 2008.\n\n6. Save up extra cash for that winter gas bill. It will slowly go up over the fall, then explode in January. \n\n7. Figure out how to cook. Ordering out is an amazingly fast way to get really poor and really fat.\n\n7b. Stop at the international/mexican market before going to the grocery store. The herbs, spices, and fresh produce are way cheaper than at a normal grocery store. You can get like a pound of cinnamon for a dollar.\n\n8. If you have expensive electronics, check the outlets for a ground line. Electrical only has to be to code if you're laying it down, so if you're in an old house, your electrical could be decades out of date. All that really means is that you probably want a ground fault circuit interrupter, which will turn your outlet into those bathroom outlets that flip off before doing damage to your stuff. They're like 20 bucks.\n\n9. Buy some good headphones that are comfortable enough to wear all day, like the Sennheiser HD280's. Even the slightest noise will piss off roomies or neighbors.",
"If you're not renting furnished, furniture is a biggie. Start spreading the word that you're looking to move out. Take an inventory of what you do and don't have, and see what people might donate to the cause if money's important. Go to thrift stores and see how much stuff costs. If there's room, a comfortable chair or couch, a kitchenette dining set, a computer desk, drawers for clothes, and a bookcase or two all might be helpful. \n\nIf the timing is right, ask for birthday things that are useful in an apartment. A small toolbox, a clothes iron (depending on your job), a toaster oven for quick meals, a coffee-maker, a set of dishes and cutlery, towels and sheets, and so on. \n\nWalk around your house and make a list of all the things you use all the time but that you won't be able to take with you. You'll likely want them once you get there. \n\nPut a list up on your door or smartphone of \"stuff you need to get\" either to take with you or when you get there, and hang a pen from it so you can update it whenever something strikes you.\n\nAnd figure out how to write up a budget, just to see what your financial situation might look like over the longer term. Maybe use a free internet budgeting tool [like one of the ones listed here](http://christianpf.com/10-free-household-budget-spreadsheets/).",
"Step 1) Sit back and think about the food you eat and the mundane activities you do every day. My first time moving out, I went to peel a carrot and realized I didn't have a peeler, shower curtain hanger rings, or enough dishes for more than two people. Pretend you're going camping and think of all the stuff you'll have to bring with you in order to survive. Don't forget toilet paper\n\nStep 2) Tell an old person or a long-married relative that you're moving out and ask for the things you need. Chances are, they have an old one in their basement (hopefully this is true for everything on the list except toilet paper).\n\nStep 3) Make up for anything that you lack at a second hand or dollar store. Your're going to need your money for other things. Then, as you start to stabilize financially, start replacing your dollar store/second hand items with new ones as needed.",
"Moving out of what and into what? Same state? How far are you moving? How much stuff are you taking? Is this to college? Are you buying or renting? When are you planning on doing this?",
"Learn to cook now. Not later, now. It's not even that hard, especially with your parents (or chef? I dunno how rich you are) around for pointers, as well as having a fully stocked and equipped kitchen. This will give you an idea of the kinds of kitchen things you'll need before you move out -- and without having to run to the store every time you try to cook something new! Most of the stuff you'll need is pretty obvious (bed? who needs a bed!), but cooking is surprisingly well hidden until you no longer have someone doing it for you.",
"Figure out your budget first. Figure out what you can afford to pay for rent and utilities (and remember, most places are going to ask for a deposit and last month's rent up front). Start looking for apartments early. Go look at them. Get a really good look before you decide, and don't go for the cheapest one because it's the cheapest. Make sure it's not going to be falling apart on you.\n\nCraigslist furniture when you get there. Don't forget to get the little things. Not super fun to be there your first night and realize you don't have toilet paper, or trash bags, or a shower curtain. \n\nGet a plunger before you need a plunger.\n\n",
"Ditto earlier posters. \n\nCheck for mold and signs of ants, mice or rats. Check ceilings for water damage and water stains, each electrical plug and your radiator. Check the faucet to see if the water gets hot. \n\nVisit when you think people are going to be home to get a sense of noise. Neighbor with cute kids? See if they play in the hallway or on the stairs after school. \n\nVisit the area to see what it is like when you are coming and going because the neighborhood might seem safe but not when you get home from work or school. \n\nLook up the history of your property in various city and state databases and see if anyone else in the building has sued the property manager and if so, why. Here you can see history of bed bugs, heat issues, disputes. Google your property manager. \n\nMake sure your apt is level. Drop a pencil, if it rolls your room is crooked. \n\nTake pictures of everything when you move in and when you move out. Tell your everyone (friends/family/coworkers) that you are moving into your own place and carefully select your freebies. If you can't afford to get everything you need right when you move go to thrift shops or the dollar store to supply your plates and glasses. \n\nGet renters insurance. \n\nOn Move in day don't forget trash bags, painters, tape cheap shower curtain, curtains or sheets to tape up over windows if you don't have curtains yet, a wine opener, glasses, plates utensils to eat, bath towel and toilet paper. \n\nGood Luck! ",
" Haven't noticed anyone mentioning parking(provided you've got your own car). The place I live currently, I've wound up being subjected to parking under a tree. It was an issue that I completely ignored when I was searching for an apartment, and it's been nothing but hell ever since. I've had tree branches fall on my car from snow in the winter, and lots of sap dripping on it during the summer. Between the sap on the car, and the leaves coming in the door from going in and out, it's worth paying some noting where you're going to be leaving your car all day/night.\n\nDefinitely add to your checklist to pay attention to the parking situation during your apartment hunt."
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"How can I finally stop being envious? I really need to find a way to not be envious. I thought I had dealt with it, but realized yesterday I hadn't. I don't want to be an envious person; it's something I dislike in other people. My husband had to talk to me about it yesterday because it's really bothering him. I'd really like to get over it.",
"How can I finally stop being envious? I really need to find a way to not be envious. I thought I had dealt with it, but realized yesterday I hadn't. I don't want to be an envious person; it's something I dislike in other people. My husband had to talk to me about it yesterday because it's really bothering him. I'd really like to get over it.",
"How can I finally stop being envious? I really need to find a way to not be envious. I thought I had dealt with it, but realized yesterday I hadn't. I don't want to be an envious person; it's something I dislike in other people. My husband had to talk to me about it yesterday because it's really bothering him. I'd really like to get over it."
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"I get envious at times too, but it comes and goes.\n\nWhen the feelings arise, I try to look at the bigger picture. \n \nWe're all going to die one day, and eventually no one will care about you, them or the life either of you have lived. Even if you are remembered, it's just literature, and you won't be around to see it. The same holds true for that person you envy.\n\nIt's all about making yourself feel adequate, equal. I don't even know who my great-great grandfather is, do you think I care if he was a random bloke or some great aristocrat? \n\nYour life is your tale, live it how you want. Try to pursue what makes you happy, your greatest aspirations, and when you find yourself feeling jealous, tell yourself \"What does being envious have to do for me?\", and just let it go.\n\nIt's tough, I know, and I get caught up in it all too, but I find this helps when I take the time to really think it through. Hope it helps.",
"Be happy, thankful, grateful for what you have. If you can't feel it internally, at least have the courtesy to not express it externally. Kudos to you for realizing you have to change."
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"Alternative Projection surfaces I am a poor college kid with limited resources but share a dorm with my buddy who has a projector. We're trying to find an area to project it thats not his wall or my wall. we want to hang something from the ceiling or cover the window effectively. Any suggestions?",
"Alternative Projection surfaces I am a poor college kid with limited resources but share a dorm with my buddy who has a projector. We're trying to find an area to project it thats not his wall or my wall. we want to hang something from the ceiling or cover the window effectively. Any suggestions?",
"Alternative Projection surfaces I am a poor college kid with limited resources but share a dorm with my buddy who has a projector. We're trying to find an area to project it thats not his wall or my wall. we want to hang something from the ceiling or cover the window effectively. Any suggestions?",
"Alternative Projection surfaces I am a poor college kid with limited resources but share a dorm with my buddy who has a projector. We're trying to find an area to project it thats not his wall or my wall. we want to hang something from the ceiling or cover the window effectively. Any suggestions?"
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"Just throwing out a suggestion - how about the ceiling? It depends on the ceiling of course, but at least there is no storage problem.",
"Piece of 4' X 8' plywood with some projection paint is what I would use. Trim it down if that's too big, but might also double as a way to cover the window.",
"I've always just [stretched it like a canvas](http://www.wikihow.com/Stretch-a-Canvas) for painting. (you can sub the canvas for muslin though)",
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"How to recognize a scam So I get a text from my frantic little sister today because her \"computer is all messed and someone is stealing her identity\". When asked how she knew, she said a legit looking screen came up and told her to call \"Windows\" and then instructed her to download some slimy spyware. As soon as she told me she was on the phone with \"Windows\" I told her to hang up immediately and disconnect her internet until I can get in there and fix whatever she got conned into infecting herself with.\n\nShe's a smart kid, just recently graduated college, and is off living on her own for the first time. Beyond just computer stuff and spyware, what are some good general tips I can give her on what should set off her \"bullshit\"-senses?",
"How to recognize a scam So I get a text from my frantic little sister today because her \"computer is all messed and someone is stealing her identity\". When asked how she knew, she said a legit looking screen came up and told her to call \"Windows\" and then instructed her to download some slimy spyware. As soon as she told me she was on the phone with \"Windows\" I told her to hang up immediately and disconnect her internet until I can get in there and fix whatever she got conned into infecting herself with.\n\nShe's a smart kid, just recently graduated college, and is off living on her own for the first time. Beyond just computer stuff and spyware, what are some good general tips I can give her on what should set off her \"bullshit\"-senses?",
"How to recognize a scam So I get a text from my frantic little sister today because her \"computer is all messed and someone is stealing her identity\". When asked how she knew, she said a legit looking screen came up and told her to call \"Windows\" and then instructed her to download some slimy spyware. As soon as she told me she was on the phone with \"Windows\" I told her to hang up immediately and disconnect her internet until I can get in there and fix whatever she got conned into infecting herself with.\n\nShe's a smart kid, just recently graduated college, and is off living on her own for the first time. Beyond just computer stuff and spyware, what are some good general tips I can give her on what should set off her \"bullshit\"-senses?"
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"* If a company emails with a \"click here to check your account/change your password/etc\" link, go directly to the company's website rather than clicking the link.\n\n* Look out for poor spelling and grammar. Surprising how illiterate some scammers can be.\n\n* Check the URL on a website or the email address a message comes from. I got a message from \"PayPal\" at one point, but when I checked the email address it was PayPalAThost#DOTtechnobdhostingDOTcom - clearly not them!\n\n* Always report any scam attempts to the legitimate company. Take a screenshot if you can.\n\n* A less dangerous one but one that definitely is annoying and makes people look dumb: there have been a ton of fake competitions by legit - looking pages on social media lately, particularly Facebook. \"Win a first class flight plus $10,000 spending cash! Just like and share and comment/tag a friend you'd bring.\" When you click on the page though, you see it was created the day before, and that this competition is the first post. I legit see at least one of these pop up on my news feed every day.\n\n",
"If she gets an email from a company with instructions and a phone number listed, always open a new browser or pull up your phone and check their contact number online. If it doesn't match call the legit email and ask them about it, then let local authorities know. \n\nPeople have gotten really good at making pages look really legit so unless you know 100% who an email is coming from it is always a safe bet to take am extra 2 minutes before putting in information. ",
"If it ever talks about a ligimate company, like Windows, don't call the number listed, look the companies customer support yourself. \n\nAny window that pops up in an internet browser window, especially that's warning 'you' is going to be fake.\n\nGoogle all the details.\n\nGo back through the websites you were just looking at and see if the same or similar window pops up.\n\nI never get viruses, my PC always runs great. Comes down to using the safest torrents, don't use websites with ads overlapping and popping up. Only reputable sites. Only reputable porn sites. Do not click one single ad. Just Google it and find a real site. Goes for those ads on fox news, too. Ironic how far Hollywood's bullshit can spread."
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"How to make popcorn at home which tastes exactly like it does at the movies. I read somewhere that in cinemas they cook the popcorn in coconut oil, is this true?\n\nIt's not that I hate the popcorn I make in our air popping machine but I'm interested in trying to reproduce the \"at the movies\" taste.",
"How to make popcorn at home which tastes exactly like it does at the movies. I read somewhere that in cinemas they cook the popcorn in coconut oil, is this true?\n\nIt's not that I hate the popcorn I make in our air popping machine but I'm interested in trying to reproduce the \"at the movies\" taste."
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"Yes. Use coconut oil. \n\nIn a large covered pot put 4 or 5 tbsp of oil and 1 cup of gourmet popping corn. On high heat, place pot on stovetop and shake the living shit out of the pot by sliding it in a back & forth motion. Don't stop until the popping is at intervals of 3-4 seconds. \n\nRemove from heat and place in big bowl. \n\nIn a small sauce pan melt some butter on low heat as not to burn it. Use a whisk and stir constantly. Aerate that butter. \n\nApply the butter to the popcorn and stir it up with a wooden spoon. Why wooden? I don't fucking know. Just do it. \n\nEnjoy. ",
"You can use half n half coconut oil and ghee, which is clarified butter. I find that to be the closest mix."
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"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??",
"How to Make a Dog Like You My boyfriend's family dog does not appreciate me staying in the house-- I've been here a week, and although I try to pet it and be nice, first it ignored me and now it's baring its teeth, growling, and barking loudly when it sees me. How can I make the dog like me??"
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">I try to pet it and be nice\n\nIf it's the kind of dog that isn't coming up to you then leave it alone. My dog isn't a huge fan of strangers and hates pets from them. She actually tends to like \"not dog people\" the most as they leave her alone and let her approach on her own terms. \n\nThe one place you can not ignore is with treat tossing. Don't hold the treat and make the dog come over (this is how you get a dog too over amped because they are still scared but want the treat) literally ignore except for throwing the treat in their general direction. We used to hand people baggies full of chicken when they entered our house while we were working on stranger training and gave the instructions of \"please throw handfuls of chicken at our dog\" \n\nBeyond the treat throwing literally pretend the dog is not there. It should eventually warm up to you",
"Become the person that feeds it. I've never had a dog hate me after I've been allowed to feed it for a while.",
"This is what I do and it has helped me get friendly with a lot of stray dogs, which are commonplace in my country. Hold your hand out just a little higher than the dog's head, let it sniff it, have a relaxed and open stance and if you see that the dog is looking up at you and moving in your general direction, try petting it on the head lightly. Let your touch be gentle and have a treat on hand. Good luck! ",
"Just be around a lot and create a warm presence. I usually just ignore the dog and talk to the people, let the dog sniff me without really acknowledging him at first, etc. Eventually, like after visiting a few times, he goes from incessant barking at a distance to demanding cuddles.",
"Akitas come from a very small gene pool, which means they are far closer to wolves than domesticated dogs. This means their territorial instincts are much stronger and their aggression levels are potentially much higher. \n\nThat being said, it will just take time for the dog to accept you as a member of its pack. \n\nUntil then, try not to make much eye contact and don't be alone with it or approach it unaccompanied by a member of the family. \n\nIt will eventually accept you. \n\nSource: I have two Akitas. ",
"Give it treats. Also if you can, pet it under the chin. Gives them confidence. Take it for a walk with your bf. Then you're in a pack.",
"A couple things will effect how you attempt trying to get a dog to like you. \n\nIf the dog is relatively well trained than all you need to do is take it for a few walks (on leash). Start by going with your bf or one of his family members, let them hold the leash. After a walk or two start holding the leash yourself. When you feel comfortable that the dog responds to your direction and you feel safe holding the leash, take it out for a walk just you. Essentially what you want to do is establish that you are part of its pack, and subsequently that it's not above you in the pecking order of that pack. Things like walks can generally be used to do both of those things. \n\nIf the dog is untrained than you will have a much harder time getting it to come around, because the easiest way will be to just bribe it with treats which just gives in to it's already inflated sense of self worth. In this case you can and should really try the walk thing, but you'll have to essentially train the dog at the same time, and it's not your dog, and training someone elses' dog while they don't, is a nightmare. \n\nWatching an episode of \"at the end of my leash\" might be helpful to you as well, to help understand what the dog is thinking when it acts that, I know not everyone approves of every method of training, but I like this show and how the hosts goes about it.\n\nSoure: owned several breeds of dogs over the last 25 years, all relatively well trained.\n",
"Letting the dog sniff your hand, creating an inviting atmosphere/appearance, and ignoring the dog are good tips, but I'd also add getting on the dogs level. When you get into the house, squat down, sit, or kneel down to the dog's height and stick out your hand. Be still and speak to the dog in a happy tone. ",
"Let it smell your hand. If it likes you it will let you pet & love on it. If it's really protective of the owner and doesn't like you, simply ignore it. Even if\\when it growls and snarls at you. Show it you have absolutely no fear of it. It wants you to go away and have the owner to itself so it's trying to scare you off. It knows the owner likes you so it will not attack you.\n\nAlso, when you show up and it's barking growling at you and whatnot, greet it with a warm friendly tone of voice and smile at it (don't try to get near it or pet it though).\n\nBe consistent in these things and eventually it will stop the barking & snarling. Soon after that it will come up to you and want you to pet & love it.",
"As a guy I just act dominant, put it in its place non violently (but prepared to pin it should it challenge you). How big is the dog? If it's a small thing then it's more terrified than angry small dogs have a horrible size complex issue. If it's like Collie or bigger best bet is have a family member introduce you to it, that way it at least gets a sense for why you're there and that it's 'pack members' as it were are ok with you being there. \n\nSource: Bred and trained gun dogs for a good 10 years :) "
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"I do this all the time. I've found that making an effort to breathe while I'm brushing my tongue, especially through my mouth but even through my nose, greatly reduces the gag reflex. Do not hold your breath.",
"Don't brush your tongue. Stick your tongue out, close your teeth and drag your tongue back into your mouth. Scrapes off the gunk from your tongue much more effectively, and no gagging."
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" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out.",
" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out.",
" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out.",
" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out.",
" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out.",
" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out.",
" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out.",
" Says it all.Am tired of doing nothing I want to make my own schedule but dont know how to go by doing it and actually going through with it everyday.My daily activities include school,homework,chores,soccer, working out(days I dont practice).My problem is time managing all that and doing thise things everyday excluding weekends.Any help would be great I really need to figure this out."
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"try changing from the *schedule* form to a *to-do list* form or a *check-list* form. when checking the items , and completing your objectifs, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment that makes you want to keep the streak and do the rest. at least that what worked for me.",
"I've tried a lot of different methods, some that work better than others. But one I have been trying lately has been helping a lot since I lost my office job a few weeks ago. My husband and I have a home business we're building, and I needed to create structure for myself since I'm home all the time now.\n\nI first created the categories, high-level subjects of what is most important to get done. For you it's school/homework, chores, soccer, and working out. Under each of those categories, write more specific subjects of what exactly you want to accomplish within those. For school maybe you need to bring up one of your grades a letter, or make sure you set aside time for an essay or a final. Write those down. Which chores are you responsible for? Write those down. If you have a work out routine, write it down.\n\nFrom there, drill it down to be even more specific. If your test is on Friday, how much time do you need to spend studying between now and then? How will that affect how much time you have to get your chores done? You can get even more specific and factor out the amount of time you think it will take to get a certain task done.\n\nWithin each of these subjects you will start to see daily, weekly, and monthly time-frames to accomplish your goals. As an example:\n\n* Daily: Homework, chores\n* Weekly: Soccer 2x/week, working out 3x/week\n* Monthly: Ace your final exam, bench 300lbs\n\nBuy a day planner! It's a lot easier to fill one out after you already know what needs to be in there instead of trying to fill it out from a blank slate.\n\nHere's an example schedule of how you can think through your day/week:\n\n* Soccer practice three times a week from 4-6pm\n* School from 7am-3pm\n* Dinner at 7pm\n* Homework/chores from 8-9pm\n\nDays with soccer: Focus on homework, there's less time to study on those days.\n\nDays without soccer: Catch up on chores and working out are more of a priority, then comes homework/studying/something scholarly.\n\n\nFinally, create time every single day, 5-10 minutes is plenty, to think through what needs to be done. It's up to your preference whether it's in the morning or it's the night before. Just make sure to do it every day. It helps me to write it down as a checklist as I'm thinking about it. Keep in mind what your biggest goal is for the day, and structure the rest of your activities around accomplishing that big goal. This is one of the most important things to keep in mind.\n\nAsk yourself every day, \"What is the most important goal I need to accomplish today?\"\n\nLet me know if this helps or you need clarification :D",
"Whatever schedule you make, don't be ambitious. If you look at it and it looks more aspiration than reality, you've made the wrong schedule. It's okay for your schedule to evolve as you get used to doing more work. Start with what you KNOW you can do continuously, not what you hope to be able to get done. After all, we don't go out and run a marathon. We get off the couch first.\n\nIt might be something as simple as: \"I'm going to schedule thirty minutes of reading before I go to bed.\" and slowly adding more to that when you are sure you can do it.",
"I find it helps greatly if I sort my task based on task difficulty. I do the easiest task first, each one taking no more than 15 minutes. And then I go on to do the tougher, more time-consuming ones. It's lots easier that way.",
"Happen to me before. \n\nI do one thing at the time and focus to finished that one thing. Keep making things done will build us better and better.\n\nIf you would like a reading, I can suggest \"Get Things Done\" by David Allen. ",
"I recently got an app called HabitRPG (website too) and it makes habits, daily habits and a to-do list fun by giving you exp and gold for everything you do. It has really helped me become more productive in the morning as I just want to do my list. Not doing G things gives your character damage. ",
"I input the reminders in my smartphone calendar and get a 15 minute reminder beforehand. Also, don't take on too much change at once. It's easier and more fulfilling to focus on one change. Right now I am working on making sure I get to the gym every morning at 530 AM. Doesn't matter so much what I do, so long as I get there. You will feel more accomplished at the end of the day. Most importantly, make every routine *yours*. When I had to get up for college and ride the bus in, I would listen to the soundtrack of A Beautiful Mind and enjoy the sunrise. Your attitude can and will make or break you in life. The same goes for creating routines. Good luck!",
"Do what needs to be done before you chill. Write things down. Force yourself, I'm not sure there's another way."
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"Easy ways to make life more organised and/or efficient over the coming year I'm usually 'that guy' that forgets stuff and misses important dates, so this year I'm determined to make a change and bought myself a calendar on which I've marked important dates for the year. Are there any lesser known tips I can use to make this year my best year yet in terms of organisation? ",
"Easy ways to make life more organised and/or efficient over the coming year I'm usually 'that guy' that forgets stuff and misses important dates, so this year I'm determined to make a change and bought myself a calendar on which I've marked important dates for the year. Are there any lesser known tips I can use to make this year my best year yet in terms of organisation? ",
"Easy ways to make life more organised and/or efficient over the coming year I'm usually 'that guy' that forgets stuff and misses important dates, so this year I'm determined to make a change and bought myself a calendar on which I've marked important dates for the year. Are there any lesser known tips I can use to make this year my best year yet in terms of organisation? ",
"Easy ways to make life more organised and/or efficient over the coming year I'm usually 'that guy' that forgets stuff and misses important dates, so this year I'm determined to make a change and bought myself a calendar on which I've marked important dates for the year. Are there any lesser known tips I can use to make this year my best year yet in terms of organisation? "
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"I dunno if this is lesser known, but I suggest you have weekly planning meetings with yourself and/or whomever you live with where you go over every day and figure out how each day will play out. I find Sunday is the easiest time to do this because it's right before the (average) work week starts.\n\nDuring that planning meeting write down the events out on a daily planner and then look it up every morning. \n\nAlso it's good to plan long term events once each month such as vacation and when to take your car in to get fixed, etc.\n\nThis is just my opinion, honestly whatever works for you, is best for you. ",
"I bought a dry erase board decent size to write upcoming test dates, work out schedule, chores etc. I got these Velcro patches to hang it up on my wall. So I see it everyday ",
"Large monthly desk calendar so you can see your entire month at a glance. Color code things - blue for birthdays, black for appointments, red for work stuff, etc. ",
"Don't get over engaged. Schedule huge blocks of time to just get this shit that's already on your plate done. Do not overbook that time."
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"Ways to decrease dust in rooms Hi!\n\nI live in a relatively small room with carpet, which I would love to get rid of; but can't right now. \n\nOf course I know about dusting regularly and stuff, but I just notice that dust accumulates rather quickly in a room with carpet. \n\nDoes anyone have any LPTs on keeping dust away for a bit longer?",
"Ways to decrease dust in rooms Hi!\n\nI live in a relatively small room with carpet, which I would love to get rid of; but can't right now. \n\nOf course I know about dusting regularly and stuff, but I just notice that dust accumulates rather quickly in a room with carpet. \n\nDoes anyone have any LPTs on keeping dust away for a bit longer?"
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"You can invest in an air filter to pull the dust out of the air. Also when you dust don't use a feather duster or dry towel, those will just knock the dust into the air or onto other surfaces, not get rid of it. Use a damp cloth (water works fine, but you may as well use a bit of diluted pine cleaner or furniture polish/cleaner and disinfect since you're cleaning anyway) and rinse it often, or get a duster that works with static to pull up the dust. Swiffer and similar brands work great but can be expensive to replace so I usually stick with the damp cloth \n\n",
"Exfoliate your entire body in the shower so you don't shed so many dead skin cells all over the place. And insist all your guests do the same. The majority of dust is actually dead skin cells. Delicious."
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"how to keep personal and professional life separate? I've seen countless people coming back home and attending calls and replying to messages and emails. Even on the weekends, they are expected to respond or are unable keep themselves isolated from work. \n\nI've also been a victim of this and I have made my life an absolute misery. Weekends aren't enough to deflate. And after taking a day-off(which I rarely do), coming back, I feel like I shouldn't have take off in the first place.\n\nAlso what are the effects(+ve and -ve) of this on personal and professional life? Would I ever get a promotion earlier etc? \n\nAnd if anyone of you has turned into a big shot manager, please share your experience.",
"how to keep personal and professional life separate? I've seen countless people coming back home and attending calls and replying to messages and emails. Even on the weekends, they are expected to respond or are unable keep themselves isolated from work. \n\nI've also been a victim of this and I have made my life an absolute misery. Weekends aren't enough to deflate. And after taking a day-off(which I rarely do), coming back, I feel like I shouldn't have take off in the first place.\n\nAlso what are the effects(+ve and -ve) of this on personal and professional life? Would I ever get a promotion earlier etc? \n\nAnd if anyone of you has turned into a big shot manager, please share your experience.",
"how to keep personal and professional life separate? I've seen countless people coming back home and attending calls and replying to messages and emails. Even on the weekends, they are expected to respond or are unable keep themselves isolated from work. \n\nI've also been a victim of this and I have made my life an absolute misery. Weekends aren't enough to deflate. And after taking a day-off(which I rarely do), coming back, I feel like I shouldn't have take off in the first place.\n\nAlso what are the effects(+ve and -ve) of this on personal and professional life? Would I ever get a promotion earlier etc? \n\nAnd if anyone of you has turned into a big shot manager, please share your experience."
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"Turn on do not disturb on your phone. It isn't worth it. I learned this after 2 years of working about 16 hours a day managing a sales territory. What ever it is can wait. If there's an emergency they will call you twice. Other than that you're getting paid between the hours of 9-5.",
"I simply blank any work communication the second I'm out, they get the message in the end.\n\nWell actually I now give my immediate boss an hour at the weekend during which I will answer her call only, if there is important info to communicate.\n\nIn the past I have billed my employers at double or triple rate, for any time spent reading messages from work, or speaking on the phone, with 30 minutes being the minimum slice of time.",
"Get a work phone and never share your personal phone number and email with anyone. Turn off or silence your work phone on the weekends. Put an auto-reply message on your emails stating that you will be back to work on Monday.\n\nEnjoy your weekends."
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"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it",
"How to stay focused and be productive while working on schoolwork at home I am in high school, and I really want to succeed in all of my classes. I am fairly smart, I understand 90% of the material that we work on. The only trouble I have with school is the homework. I have an extremely hard time focusing on the work I have to do at home. I have a laptop to do schoolwork and play on Steam. The problem is, I have lots of schoolwork assigned on my computer, and I am very easily distracted. Same goes for my phone. I will pick it up after I do a single math question and stay on it for 30 minutes. Even if I limit these distractions by putting them in the other room or turning them off, I will still actively try and do things to put off doing my schoolwork. This includes eating, walking the dog, or even doing menial chores around the house. This habit of procrastination is hurting my grades, my social life outside of school, and my sleep schedule. Any help will be greatly appreciated.\n\ntl;dr I procrastinate a lot and I don't like it"
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"Try to work with other people the same room (assuming they aren't loud). Tell them you want help staying on task.\n\nTake a break during the last ten minutes of each hour. This will give you a rest, and help you feel disciplined when you get back to work on the hour.",
"Make two separate accounts on your computer, one specifically for homework, and the other one where you can only download games. As for your cell phone, I think there is an app that grows a tree when you don't use your phone, which adds some kind of entertainment value ",
"- don't do your homework in one go, try to divide it into several parts, like 30-40 min for each part. Unless your homework can be finished within an hour then split into two (30 mins each) with 10 min rest between them.\n- Try to turn off the internet, if you don't need it to finish your homework. It is one of the biggest distraction to stay focus on anything, limiting your access might help your brain find something else to do.",
"Have an area to go to. I can't do work at home, so I went to the library. If you need to be in the home, find a spot that you do nothing but school work at.\n\nFind a study buddy too. Nothing will help you stay on task better than someone there who also needs to do it. Preferably having you both have the same assignments, but if you can't do that, as long as someone else is there doing work as well, it'll help. \n\nSet up a time. The easiest way to stay on task is to get it done first thing in the morning, or first thing after you get home. If you give yourself leeway to relax before homework, it'll be harder to get into the swing. But if you can't do either of those, make a scheduled time to separate yourself from the world and work on your schoolwork. \n\nIf you play a sport, once you get to college, keep playing that sport, you won't have enough free time to do anything but study and it is worlds easier to stay ontop of it because you can't convince yourself that you'll be able to do your work later. So being busier oddly enough helps you be more productive. \n\nYou're smart enough to ask for help when you need it, you'll be fine. ",
"Do whatever you are least looking forward to, first. Try to view it as getting the bad stuff out of the way as soon as possible, so the rest of the evening can be enjoyed (rather than spent feeling guilty and dreading your homework.)\n\nGet home, get yourself a snack and a cup of tea (or whatever non-Brits drink) and then get cracking. Don't give yourself time to think of other things you 'need' to do. Just get your shit done, and then you have the whole evening ahead of you to unwind. \n\nMaybe try to get finished before dinner? Then you get the reward of dinner ;)",
"The way I got through it in college is by actually giving into my urges to do other things, but then controlling the amount if time I did them. \n\nFor example, if I had to read 3 chapters of a textbook, I would give myself half an hour of \"free time\" after finishing each chapter, which was usually some sort of video game. And then I hard stop and get right back to what I was doing.\n\nUsually, its better to have a concrete number of things to do - be it pages of a book or math problems to do - than it is to set an amount of time for studying, since you'll end up just reading or working slowly otherwise. \n\nThe way I see it, it works in several different ways. Firstly, its a reward system for getting stuff done. Secondly, I'm not the type of person who can study hours on end and have all the information stick, so the \"free time\" is a huge refresher. ",
"I found this video to be very helpful in my procrastination issue. 5 [Steps to Stop Procrastinating & Get Creative Work done](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N60bMFqkcpU)",
"Haven't seen it specifically recommended, so I would recommend the Pomodoro technique. I personally use it when working on art, but it can be applied to any task that requires your focus for long periods of time. \n\nThe Pomodoro technique essentially has you block off a portion of time committed only to work, followed by a break for you to do whatever you want. You can adjust these time periods however you wish - I personally work for 20 minutes, break for 10. The break refreshes your mind and let's you cool down and not burn out from focusing on one thing for too long. In the end, by taking more breaks, you increase your productivity and motivation when you're working.",
"Don't listen to music, or at least music with lyrics. I use to do this for years, but truth is I think it breaks your concentration whenever a song you like or not like comes up. ",
"Apparently you retain more info if you study for 30 mins and take a 5 10 mins break to relax\\walk. There's studies out about this, just Google study tips and find something that will work for you.\n\nI honestly have to lock myself in my room till it's all done. College work is a lot different than high school but learn study tips now or you're fucked! "
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"How to unscrew a rusted nut Does any have advice on how I can remove a nut that has rusted on a screw? \n\nI am repairing an old bicycle and I want to remove the old broken gear shifter (fixed on the downtube), except the screw holding it on the bar is rusted\n\n\nI have tried with brute force, but the screw driver ends up slipping. I decided to stop trying before I end up flattening the top of the screw.\n\nIs there any product I can use that will loosen it up? (or will I have to break it?)\n\n\nI would like to avoid damaging the bicycle frame.\n\n\nThanks!",
"How to unscrew a rusted nut Does any have advice on how I can remove a nut that has rusted on a screw? \n\nI am repairing an old bicycle and I want to remove the old broken gear shifter (fixed on the downtube), except the screw holding it on the bar is rusted\n\n\nI have tried with brute force, but the screw driver ends up slipping. I decided to stop trying before I end up flattening the top of the screw.\n\nIs there any product I can use that will loosen it up? (or will I have to break it?)\n\n\nI would like to avoid damaging the bicycle frame.\n\n\nThanks!",
"How to unscrew a rusted nut Does any have advice on how I can remove a nut that has rusted on a screw? \n\nI am repairing an old bicycle and I want to remove the old broken gear shifter (fixed on the downtube), except the screw holding it on the bar is rusted\n\n\nI have tried with brute force, but the screw driver ends up slipping. I decided to stop trying before I end up flattening the top of the screw.\n\nIs there any product I can use that will loosen it up? (or will I have to break it?)\n\n\nI would like to avoid damaging the bicycle frame.\n\n\nThanks!",
"How to unscrew a rusted nut Does any have advice on how I can remove a nut that has rusted on a screw? \n\nI am repairing an old bicycle and I want to remove the old broken gear shifter (fixed on the downtube), except the screw holding it on the bar is rusted\n\n\nI have tried with brute force, but the screw driver ends up slipping. I decided to stop trying before I end up flattening the top of the screw.\n\nIs there any product I can use that will loosen it up? (or will I have to break it?)\n\n\nI would like to avoid damaging the bicycle frame.\n\n\nThanks!"
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"[This shit](http://www.homedepot.com/buy/pb-blaster-11-oz-penetrating-catalyst-lubricant-16pb-thd.html#.UG8o1pjA9rY) works wonders for rusted nuts. Should be able to pick up a can at your local hardware store.",
"WD 40 (come on man the answer to life I'd either duct take or WD 40)\n\nIf you don't have WD 40 handy, pour some coke or Pepsi and let it soak for 5 mins. Works like a charm",
"for completely rusted nuts and screws: cut the screw or bolt side into a flathead using a dremel or hacksaw. the flathead will grip better. i also use locking pliers (like vise grips) to hold the other side.\n\nfacility manager here",
"PB Blaster is way better than WD40, and smells better than ATF fluid and kerosene, which is also a cheap and very effective penetrating fluid mix.\n\nsee, for instance: http://www.ytmag.com/cgi-bin/viewit.cgi?bd=nboard&th=472459"
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"How to get better at telling stories I always feel that I lose my audience when I try to tell a interesting or exciting story that I have experienced. ",
"How to get better at telling stories I always feel that I lose my audience when I try to tell a interesting or exciting story that I have experienced. ",
"How to get better at telling stories I always feel that I lose my audience when I try to tell a interesting or exciting story that I have experienced. ",
"How to get better at telling stories I always feel that I lose my audience when I try to tell a interesting or exciting story that I have experienced. ",
"How to get better at telling stories I always feel that I lose my audience when I try to tell a interesting or exciting story that I have experienced. "
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"Try to emphasize things the listener is interested in and maybe try to focus on the main story and leave out some details which are not important ",
"Topic sentence: get them hooked before you start with an intriguing hint, so they know what the story's about and what to pay attention to\nKeep the context to a minimum/only what's essential to understand the story\nRead the room: make sure there's at least a few people who have the right background/interests to really enjoy the story\nBe flexible, and be prepared to do a short version if interest is waning\nMake eye contact with each person but only for a few seconds at a time; just check back in every couple sentences so they don't feel pressured to react a certain way.\nRelive it as you tell it. Don't act it out charades style-- put it in the space, really remember how it felt to experience and take the audience with you. \nBe funny and self deprecating. ",
"There was a video on YouTube by Charisma on command which used Kevin Hart as an example. You must first get the audiences attention and make sure you have their attention before you tell your story.",
"Personally I try to tell the story linearly. \nBeginning, set up the details or context needed to tell what you want to tell \nMiddle, the stuff you want to tell \nEnd, sum it up (I normally say what my reaction was) ",
"1. Avoid stories where you \"had to be there\". \n2. Be concise. Include the *important* details. Don't go off on tangents. I hate listening to a long story where I have no idea where this is even supposed to go.\n3. With # 2 in mind: Set the scene, let it unfold, end with a punch."
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"How to only receive texts from my contacts I am getting 1-3 advertising texts per day.\n\nIs there any way to only receive texts from my contacts?\n\nI have Verizon, and I own a motorola droid bionic. ",
"How to only receive texts from my contacts I am getting 1-3 advertising texts per day.\n\nIs there any way to only receive texts from my contacts?\n\nI have Verizon, and I own a motorola droid bionic. ",
"How to only receive texts from my contacts I am getting 1-3 advertising texts per day.\n\nIs there any way to only receive texts from my contacts?\n\nI have Verizon, and I own a motorola droid bionic. "
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"SMS Filter for Android will block any senders you tell it, but doesn't have the phonebook only option you want ",
"I have the same problem - I think somebody used my number instead of theirs at a check cashing place, and now I get 2-3 texts a day about loans and shit. ",
"I has to recently get a new cell number after having my account incorrectly suspended while overseas (thanks AT&T) and I was getting some random prepaid card texts. I texted back 'unsubscribe' and I got a confirmation back and no more since then. May or may not work for you but worth a try. "
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"How to talk and interact with kids I have to interact with children on a daily basis at my current job as a deli/sweets counter clerk. As we pride ourselves on outstanding customer service, I am finding my interactions with younger ones forced, and awkward. Any tips on how to connect with kids?",
"How to talk and interact with kids I have to interact with children on a daily basis at my current job as a deli/sweets counter clerk. As we pride ourselves on outstanding customer service, I am finding my interactions with younger ones forced, and awkward. Any tips on how to connect with kids?",
"How to talk and interact with kids I have to interact with children on a daily basis at my current job as a deli/sweets counter clerk. As we pride ourselves on outstanding customer service, I am finding my interactions with younger ones forced, and awkward. Any tips on how to connect with kids?",
"How to talk and interact with kids I have to interact with children on a daily basis at my current job as a deli/sweets counter clerk. As we pride ourselves on outstanding customer service, I am finding my interactions with younger ones forced, and awkward. Any tips on how to connect with kids?"
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"I work at a children's hospital and my best piece of advice would be to treat them like an adult. You'll be pleasantly surprised how intelligent kids can be. \n\n\n\nOne other thing that works is being enthusiastic and making them feel special. When an adult makes a kid feel important it means a lot to them and helps them feeling validated.",
"Kids love it when grown ups talk to them like they are real people. Don't talk down to them, use the same tone and mannerisms that you would if you were speaking to an adult. Smile! Don't address them through their parent, example: \"What will your daughter be having?\" Ask them questions directly.",
"Don't use cutesy voices. Just talk to them as if you were talking to an adult. Take time to explain things to them if they ask, or appear puzzled. Say please and thank-you. Be patient and light-hearted",
"I hated when adults asked me about school. I felt like that was the one thing I hated so why ask me about it? I read a great article online a while ago that said you should ask kids what their favorite book is, or what books they're reading, to promote education in our culture and I thought that was brilliant. You could also tell them your favorite book from childhood and maybe be surprised that they have read it too! "
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"How to stop being so hard on myself. I'm relatively young (24) and by no means a slacker or lazy. I grew up in a strict Christain household and have siblings that have always been overachievers. Think Valedictorian, 4.0 GPA, Ivy League schools, etc. I graduated college in four years with a business degree, got a really good job out of college, I'm fairly responsible with my money, etc. I listen to podcasts on my drive to work, workout five days a week, maintain a successful relationship with my GF, eat healthy etc. Yet, all too often I feel like I'm not doing nearly enough. I oftentimes feel like a failure or that I'm not achieving everything I could be. I know, deep down, I'm doing very well for my age, but I still have those feelings on a weekly basis. Any help? ",
"How to stop being so hard on myself. I'm relatively young (24) and by no means a slacker or lazy. I grew up in a strict Christain household and have siblings that have always been overachievers. Think Valedictorian, 4.0 GPA, Ivy League schools, etc. I graduated college in four years with a business degree, got a really good job out of college, I'm fairly responsible with my money, etc. I listen to podcasts on my drive to work, workout five days a week, maintain a successful relationship with my GF, eat healthy etc. Yet, all too often I feel like I'm not doing nearly enough. I oftentimes feel like a failure or that I'm not achieving everything I could be. I know, deep down, I'm doing very well for my age, but I still have those feelings on a weekly basis. Any help? "
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"For a start: what do you really enjoy? What excites you? For me,its spending time with my daughters, playing baseball, running, and Disney world. How I became a Disneyphile is a whole other story. Over the past 2 years, I've taken more concrete steps to focus on these.\n\n\nMy wife and I have had these problems on and off for a long time - we're 40. She is an MD and I had a reasonably high level electrical engineering position. I am now part time with the clock ticking to my getting let go. I've put in a lot of time in my career and it's stressed me to the max twice (at least). At one point, I would have been very upset by a life change taking my career away, but now understand it is what is best for my family (and me).\n\nThe road is rarely completely straight and smooth. It sounds like you are doing great, but might need to do more of what makes you happy.",
"Honestly, it sounds like you may have a mild case of depression. It would probably be a good idea to talk to your doctor about options and get his/her opinion. Therapy can be an excellent outlet for voicing your internal doubts and letting them go, in other cases, medication can greatly help. How is your energy level? Do you enjoy your usual activities, or just feel kind of numb?"
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"I'm on a 4 hour flight with 1 hour of free wifi and broken headphones. What do I download to keep me entertained for the other 3 hours? ",
"I'm on a 4 hour flight with 1 hour of free wifi and broken headphones. What do I download to keep me entertained for the other 3 hours? ",
"I'm on a 4 hour flight with 1 hour of free wifi and broken headphones. What do I download to keep me entertained for the other 3 hours? ",
"I'm on a 4 hour flight with 1 hour of free wifi and broken headphones. What do I download to keep me entertained for the other 3 hours? ",
"I'm on a 4 hour flight with 1 hour of free wifi and broken headphones. What do I download to keep me entertained for the other 3 hours? "
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"New York Times Crossword Puzzle. \nJust make sure you download all of the free puzzles. You should get about 7 quality ones free to start. ",
"Somehow managed to make it here during the aforementioned time frame (this never happens to me!), and I hope you have an alright flight. \n\n\nPeace! :D",
"Download the Gutenberg app on your phone and then you can DL a bunch of free books from there to your phone and read them!",
"https://books.google.com/books?id=a8SBS5RJhJYC&printsec=frontcover&dq=lilian+jackson+braun&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjw9o3yvbffAhVJ44MKHfv0BScQ6AEILjAB#v=onepage&q=lilian%20jackson%20braun&f=false",
"Only an hour of Wi-Fi? Download a free game. Open a Flash game in Firefox, right click, page info, media, find SWF and click Save As to play offline. "
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"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks.",
"Job Hunting/Changing Careers What are some Life Pro Tips for job hunting or changing careers ? I'm currently tailoring and sending out a lot of resumes. I'd really love tips addressing not just the organizational aspect of this, but also dealing with the motivational aspects of being tempted to get out of bed at noon every day, keeping up self confidence and motivation in the face of unfruitful interviews and not having a job (or money) while all of your friends and family do. Feel free to send me ANY tips you have on all parts of this please! Thanks."
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"Here's what I do:\n\n* Keep a job search spreadsheet with follow-up dates on applications. \n\n* Always always always save the job application offline. I know this is common sense, but I know a few people who don't, and it makes it easier when you're going into an interview to refresh yourself with the details of the position\n\n* Get [/r/Getdisciplined](http://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/). I find the daily [plan] threads particularly useful for getting and staying on track. \n\n* Take up a cheap hobby like running, reading at the library, or drawing. \n\n* If it's applicable to your field, update your linkedIN profile, and stay social on social media. Post relevant things to your profession or where you'd like to get into. Start a blog. \n\n* I might get some flack on this one, but I spent about 25 dedicated hours a week job hunting when I didn't have one. Not redditing, not playing on the computer, 25 productive hours. I tracked it meticulously through [toggl.com (https://www.toggl.com) Set yourself an hours goal, and stick to it. \n\n* Make a strategy. Are you going to apply to jobs in your field for one month, two months, three months? Are you going to take an \"any\" job sometime to get by? Are you going to go to networking events? \n\n* Offer your labour to your friends and family to make a little extra cash. Is someone moving? Needs a dog sitter? Do your parents or family have extra crap in the basement they'd like to get rid of but don't want to deal with? It's heading on spring, and everyone I know is downsizing, or chucking crap. Make sure you let them know you're not free. \n\n* Along with that sentiment, sell things you don't need yourself. Donate to charity, have a garage sale, sell it online. \n\n* Don't take money from friends, but do offer to let them pay for you, and pay it forward when you get a job. My group of friends is really good for this, and if someone is under/unemployed they'll offer to take you out for coffee and pay. If your friends aren't like that, maybe when you get a job offer to be the \"nice\" one who will do this. They will remember and reciprocate. \n\n* Go to bed at a decent hour, and get up at a decent hour. Sulk for a few days, sure, but then get up at the same time you would if you had a job, or at the latest 9:00am. You don't have to start \"working\" right then, but make it part of your day. \n\n* Send an email out to all of your friends and acquaintances telling them you are looking for a job, and have them forward you any job postings that they may see or happen upon if they are relevant-or even if they're not. It's a not \"do the work for me\" kind of thing, but \"if you see something, send it\". It also makes you feel that you're not in this along and reminds your friends that yes you are jobless and have no extra income. \n\nGood luck!",
"When you look at a job posting, look at the keywords they use. Try to use as many keywords you see on the posting on your resume. It will increase your chances for an interview.\n\nTry to go to as many interviews as possible to get better at interviews.\n\n",
"To improve your resume, look at others' resumes in the field you're switching to. Whether on linkedin or through job-posting websites, I took notes on wording, points to include, and visuals. If you're less familiar with the new line of work, pay special attention to the key phrases you see again and again.\n\nYour local university or community college will likely have a career center that's open to the public. Often the people are helpful, and having another person to provide resume, cover letter, and interview feedback is really helpful.\n\nBest of luck to you!",
"After graduating college I had a job lined up to continue working after my internship was over. So the last two months of college I didn't bother to apply for anything, because I was assured it was a sure thing. Turns out the city didn't actually approve the funding for the position that was being created for me (it happens, what can you do), so with 3 weeks of college and very little financial aid left, I went into a scramble to find employment. I eventually got a job that could pay the bills but I was still being underpaid.\n\nMy best tip for you is to take each rejection letter you receive and spin it into a positive experience. Every rejection I got meant that someone at least looked at my resume, meaning I was at least seen.\n\nSomething else I learned was to ask your network for leads, or to keep you in mind should a position cross their path. Once I asked my old college friends for help a new world opened up for me.\n\nI would also recommend looking into the field your interested in and seeing if they have organizations or associations you can join/contact. For instance, in journalism there is the SPJ or Society of Professional Journalists. Try contacting board members/professionals you admire for informational interviews (asking for 15 minutes of their time to see how they got to where they are) this can boost your visibility and possibly land you a job depending on the way the interview goes. An informational interview gets you in front of someone without the threat of being in an actual job interview. If you do decide to pursue this option remember that you want to let them know you value their time and the 15 minutes is a hard out for you. Remember you are not asking for a job. If you go through the informational interview and you find that they have a job that you want wait a day and then get in touch with your contact. Let them know that after the interview your interest was piqued and there is a position that you would like to formally apply for. After the informational interview remember to write a thank you note for their time (I would say hand-written would be best, but you can email if you want). The beauty of informational interviews is that people rarely use them and even if you don't find a job, you may find a mentor in the process. The contact may also get you at \"You know who you should talk to, so and so, they are great and I think you'd be great working for the.\" Granted that's best case scenario.\n\nAs for keeping up your self-confidence I would tell you to quote Stuart Smalley, \" You're good enough, you're smart enough, and doggone it, people like you.\" Sure it's corny, but a little positive affirmation never hurt anybody.\n\nI wish you the best of luck in your search. In the words of Three 6 Mafia \"It's Hard Out There for a Pimp\" good luck.",
"With every resume include a cover letter tailored to the job that you're applying to, and explain how your experience and growth can be applied to the new area. Saying things like fast learning, team player, self-motivated will help your chances. Also, reach out to your professional network and sees who's hiring. These people know you and would be more likely to offer you a referral. ",
"Take care of yourself to get/keep the confidence up - exercise, cook and eat well, limit tv/computer/gaming time, listen to podcasts, ted talks, or youtube with informative, funny, and/or motivational topics, go to the park, walk around the neighborhood, create new playlists. Don't wallow in the fact you're jobless. Most are at some point in their lives. ",
"Some times part time jobs with low pay can keep you \n\nfrom discouragement while you look for a more ideal job. \n\nThink of it as a series of ladders. \n\nAsk for work, \"Got any odd jobs need be done?\"\n\nPractice the line and ask 4 people every day until at least \nyou have some pocket money.\n\n*Inch by inch it's a cinch* \nRobert Schuller.",
"It really is quite tough, it's often like an endurance test of just how many knockbacks you can take. You're only human, and unemployment is, by its nature, a bit soul-destroying. So don't beat yourself up too much, I did this to myself and it was just counter-productive.\n\nI think you have to understand to a certain extent that there will be some days where you feel downbeat and lapse into not making the right progress. It's important to recognise this when it happens and recover quickly.\n\nI personally found it really helpful to go out running and do some weights. I wasn't particularly overweight, but I did get fitter and this seemed to add a bit of determination/steeliness to my mentality. Importantly I got out and got fresh air and it would clear my head for the job search. It also helped massively going to interviews and feeling I was looking and feeling my best, it was a good kickoff for the job I eventually got.\n\nGood luck.",
"I agree with all the comments I've read here. I've been unemployed four times since I've graduated from college. I learned to treat unemployment like a job. I'd pack a lunch, keep records, I'd look at it like sales except I was selling myself. Always remember you're not nearly as alone as you think.",
"How are you currently getting your job interviews? I've been in HR and recruiting for almost 20 years and I've made youtube videos specifically about confidence. In short, exuding confidence during your job interviews (but not cockiness) can/will sometimes override an even more qualified but less likable candidate. So. I'd say find a way to work on your confidence during your job search. Also, if you find job opportunities online (monster.com or wherever else) use that info as a starting point, apply according to their instructions but better yet, if you can, stop by that company with your resume in hand...it's sort of like a cold call and can be intimidating but it could get you a name for the hiring manager or even better, possibly face time with that hiring manager. In this competitive market, this puts you infinitely ahead of all the anonymous applicants applying online. Bottom line, a job search can be a true test of patience and confidence but you have to find a way, your way, to remind yourself that you have something good to offer...you bring something to the table that the next employer wants...what are those qualities/skills/experiences? Perhaps you are loyal or you are a team player or whatever...think about it, find some positive, STRONG examples to support your claims and hit the pavement. Good luck!!",
"Did you go to college? If so, talk to the career center of your alma mater, EVEN IF IT WAS A LONG TIME AGO. They care about alumni, and I myself got great assistance a few years after graduating.\n\nFocus on your 2nd and 3rd tier social contacts. Weak relationships make great job hunting networks. Close connections tend to be a waste of time. \n\nTry to craft a narrative out of your story that makes sense, so your resume sounds more deliberate than maybe it truly was. ",
"If you're getting to the interview stage and not receiving offers it might be time to work on body language and frame control. I'm a 5'4\" guy with glasses and no bachelors but nailed an interview for a position that not only requires a 4-year degree but also rejects about 99% of applicants.\n\nRead up on how to assert dominance through posture, change your mindset when talking to other people. A lot of what you can study about picking up women crosses over to job interviews and general charisma. "
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"how to build stamina while learn how to dance *learning\n\nI have bad stamina due to lack of exercise, sedentary life, allergies etc and I want to learn how to learn how to dance.\nI have never did any sports, nor dancing before aside from random dancing on my own or swimming during the summer etc\n\nHow can I build my stamina while learning moves?\n\nIt has been very bad because of depression, lack of physical schiavity/sports, sedentary life etc, I can get breathless from running up the stairs!\n\nBecause of depression and laziness I spend hours in bed even when I shouldn't and I don't have much stamina on my own.\n\nWhat can I do?\nI tried to start a work out routine amd jogging but I am really of shape...physically I am slim (5'3 and 101 lbs) though, I have never been overweight or anything.\n\nIn school I could not run more than a few minutes without getting breathless or even sick or dizzy so I had a medical certificate to avoid it completely or partially. \n\n\n",
"how to build stamina while learn how to dance *learning\n\nI have bad stamina due to lack of exercise, sedentary life, allergies etc and I want to learn how to learn how to dance.\nI have never did any sports, nor dancing before aside from random dancing on my own or swimming during the summer etc\n\nHow can I build my stamina while learning moves?\n\nIt has been very bad because of depression, lack of physical schiavity/sports, sedentary life etc, I can get breathless from running up the stairs!\n\nBecause of depression and laziness I spend hours in bed even when I shouldn't and I don't have much stamina on my own.\n\nWhat can I do?\nI tried to start a work out routine amd jogging but I am really of shape...physically I am slim (5'3 and 101 lbs) though, I have never been overweight or anything.\n\nIn school I could not run more than a few minutes without getting breathless or even sick or dizzy so I had a medical certificate to avoid it completely or partially. \n\n\n",
"how to build stamina while learn how to dance *learning\n\nI have bad stamina due to lack of exercise, sedentary life, allergies etc and I want to learn how to learn how to dance.\nI have never did any sports, nor dancing before aside from random dancing on my own or swimming during the summer etc\n\nHow can I build my stamina while learning moves?\n\nIt has been very bad because of depression, lack of physical schiavity/sports, sedentary life etc, I can get breathless from running up the stairs!\n\nBecause of depression and laziness I spend hours in bed even when I shouldn't and I don't have much stamina on my own.\n\nWhat can I do?\nI tried to start a work out routine amd jogging but I am really of shape...physically I am slim (5'3 and 101 lbs) though, I have never been overweight or anything.\n\nIn school I could not run more than a few minutes without getting breathless or even sick or dizzy so I had a medical certificate to avoid it completely or partially. \n\n\n",
"how to build stamina while learn how to dance *learning\n\nI have bad stamina due to lack of exercise, sedentary life, allergies etc and I want to learn how to learn how to dance.\nI have never did any sports, nor dancing before aside from random dancing on my own or swimming during the summer etc\n\nHow can I build my stamina while learning moves?\n\nIt has been very bad because of depression, lack of physical schiavity/sports, sedentary life etc, I can get breathless from running up the stairs!\n\nBecause of depression and laziness I spend hours in bed even when I shouldn't and I don't have much stamina on my own.\n\nWhat can I do?\nI tried to start a work out routine amd jogging but I am really of shape...physically I am slim (5'3 and 101 lbs) though, I have never been overweight or anything.\n\nIn school I could not run more than a few minutes without getting breathless or even sick or dizzy so I had a medical certificate to avoid it completely or partially. \n\n\n",
"how to build stamina while learn how to dance *learning\n\nI have bad stamina due to lack of exercise, sedentary life, allergies etc and I want to learn how to learn how to dance.\nI have never did any sports, nor dancing before aside from random dancing on my own or swimming during the summer etc\n\nHow can I build my stamina while learning moves?\n\nIt has been very bad because of depression, lack of physical schiavity/sports, sedentary life etc, I can get breathless from running up the stairs!\n\nBecause of depression and laziness I spend hours in bed even when I shouldn't and I don't have much stamina on my own.\n\nWhat can I do?\nI tried to start a work out routine amd jogging but I am really of shape...physically I am slim (5'3 and 101 lbs) though, I have never been overweight or anything.\n\nIn school I could not run more than a few minutes without getting breathless or even sick or dizzy so I had a medical certificate to avoid it completely or partially. \n\n\n",
"how to build stamina while learn how to dance *learning\n\nI have bad stamina due to lack of exercise, sedentary life, allergies etc and I want to learn how to learn how to dance.\nI have never did any sports, nor dancing before aside from random dancing on my own or swimming during the summer etc\n\nHow can I build my stamina while learning moves?\n\nIt has been very bad because of depression, lack of physical schiavity/sports, sedentary life etc, I can get breathless from running up the stairs!\n\nBecause of depression and laziness I spend hours in bed even when I shouldn't and I don't have much stamina on my own.\n\nWhat can I do?\nI tried to start a work out routine amd jogging but I am really of shape...physically I am slim (5'3 and 101 lbs) though, I have never been overweight or anything.\n\nIn school I could not run more than a few minutes without getting breathless or even sick or dizzy so I had a medical certificate to avoid it completely or partially. \n\n\n"
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"... this is how you build stamina\n\nDance, jog, do shit\n\nTill you can't\n\nThen when you can\n\nDo it some more\n\nThe trick is just enjoy dancing jogging or doing shit, don't focus on looking forward to getting in shape, enjoy being active",
"Its ok buddy, take a deep breath and take it one step at a time!\n\nStart with something small, like a short run/jog if you want to, or heck even start by going for long walks.\n\nListen to some nice music and basically the activity (exercise) will happen without much effort.\n\n​\n\nFrom there, try to join some meetup groups or gym or take sport classes if thats your fancy.\n\n​\n\nFor dance, check maybe Groupon type deals to get started with some discounted lessons and see what floats your fancy!\n\n​\n\nIts a wonderful world outside, enjoy it as much as you can!",
"This may sound funny, but it worked for me! I live near a Native American reservation, and just love watching them dance during the powwows. I wanted to learn but didn't know how... until \nI found a youtube channel that teaches you to powwow dance, and it's been fantastic. Most of the powwow dance moves can be converted and used in many different dance methods.\n\nIt's called... Love this! Powwow Sweat! This link takes you to my favorite dance, called \"old style\".\n \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFCoufn7tvM\n\n",
"If you have a medical condition that prevents you from exercising. Probably best not to exercise, or at least ask a professional for a routine that is safe for you",
"You could pick up an old Nintendo Wii and a copy of Just Dance for very little. It won't teach you how to dance, but if you play it for about 30 minutes a day it'll get you moving and increase your stamina.",
"Seriously if you are that out of breath imrdiatlyvst your size. Don't do anything until you see a medical professional. Tell them your goals. The Dr will put you on a safe path to achieve what your aiming for. "
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"A way of getting popcorn shells out of your molars (explanation inside) You know how when you eat popcorn, sometimes part of the skin of the kernel gets stuck under the gum of a molar? Ya, is there a good way of getting those out?",
"A way of getting popcorn shells out of your molars (explanation inside) You know how when you eat popcorn, sometimes part of the skin of the kernel gets stuck under the gum of a molar? Ya, is there a good way of getting those out?",
"A way of getting popcorn shells out of your molars (explanation inside) You know how when you eat popcorn, sometimes part of the skin of the kernel gets stuck under the gum of a molar? Ya, is there a good way of getting those out?"
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"Clever flossing works. Once you get the floss between your teeth, you can work it around to the front or back to dislodge the offending husk. ",
"brush your teeth or just wait. if its bugging me ill brush my teeth. other times, ill just have one come out of my mouth a few days later",
"I've never had one shoved up enough to where I can't use my fingernail to press the edge of it and drag it down. Or, a very thin flat plastic toothpick can be used to slide up there and scrape it out, assuming the husk isn't shoved actually into flesh and is just sitting in that slit between your tooth and gum.\nNot that I'm a dentist or know that either of those are the greatest methods, lol. "
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"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n",
"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n",
"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n",
"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n",
"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n",
"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n",
"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n",
"How to be \"chill\" around other people (particularly at parties) I was hoping I could get some tips on how to relax at parties, or even just one on one situations. I feel like unless I have a lot of things in common with someone I tend to act really intense.\n\nI've always felt like despite being a generally interesting person I just have no ability to \"hang\" and I never know what to do at parties.\n"
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"Don't worry about being interesting or having things in common with people, ask questions and show sincere interest about them. \n\nPeople love to talk about themselves, so be the person who listens. And if they're truly worth continuing to talk to, they'll do the same for you. ",
"Pretend they are NPCs in a game, and you earn points for starting up conversations. Seriously - it works.",
"Also, just bring down your energy level. If something is really cool to you, show that by looking them in the eye and asking more questions, not proclaiming \"OMFG that's amazing!!!\" Is that what you mean by acting intense? Or do you mean trying to be overly philosophical/serious? ",
"That is a question that doesn't have just one answer.\nI'll try to give some starters/tricks/questions that helped me a lot.\n\nThere are also different phases at a party. The Party/Go-Wild or the lets talk/How have you been-Phase.\n\nIn both it is good to be relaxed, so you can listen to yourself. How can you do that?\nI tend to get nervous when we stopped talking. It helped me to say to myself \"I am gonna be fine, besides whats happens\" (in my mind)\nOr if you made a bad joke or something like that.\nPeople like to see happy people. And being nervous will make people think, there is something wrong, although there isn't. But that is something you can hardly fake or force. By being relaxed you have a much better chance to laugh about yourself or with other people.\n\nAnd go around, talk with different people. You can train every time how to say hello, how to excuse yourself. It will get easier each time and you will be more \"chill\"\nDon't force it though. Start small. Any hello, where are the bathrooms, how do you know the host is enough. It will start to make fun soon :)\nOh, and like mentioned before, people love to talk, if someone listens. That can be trained too. Just try to listen to your feelings (when being relaxed) how far you can go, what might be right in that moment. You will make mistakes. No worry though, that is a good thing. \nAnd practices to leave people :)\n\nAnd maybe set yourself a time limit (work next day or other party you have to go). You will have to do everything you wanted in a shorter time and give it more energy. You never have to fear to endure more then you can handle.\n\nOther things are like feeling good. Showered and styled and so on.\nDrink a beer, maybe two. But try not to get drunk. It will usually not help to be more chill. But you will feel bad about it the next day and start to think, you must drink to be chill (what is not the case)\n\nTL;DR\nStart small, practice interacting with ppl. Say hello/goodbye to many. It will get better. If you have enough, go relax.",
"Sometimes it's necessary for me to just keep a cool face, not show how nervous you are and just pretend like everything is alright even if I feel like the biggest looser in the room with zero social skills. \nAlso, it's good to give people a nod with the meaning of \" we are cool\" \" we are chill\" \"you're good\" because other people also feel uncomfortable and are unsure if they fit in. \n",
"I've seen a lot of parties go from fun to awkward when some douche is vehemently opposed to the house rules of a game we're playing. If you're playing a drinking game of any type, allow yourself flexibility with the rules. Games are just a way to pass time while drinking with friends, don't be so competitive that you ruin a good time for everyone by arguing with the host or other attendees about rules.\nAlso, don't get obnoxiously drunk. Have a glass of water between drinks, and eat before you go.\nAlso, I like to start interesting convos and then just remove myself from it while people hash out their opinions. They remember you being interesting without being polarizing yourself.",
"Ask a person about themselves, what they do, how work/school/life is going. You'd be AMAZED how much people absolutely love talking about themselves. As they answer, look for something you can build off of. I usually find that this eases the tension at a new party and usually opens doors to meet new folks.",
"Just be yourself and people will like you. \n\nI'm just kidding. Just try to do the exact opposite that you normally would and you'll be fine. "
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"Possible simple fix for auxiliary cord tips that malfunction/cut out. (Similar to the ones in the link attached.) ",
"Possible simple fix for auxiliary cord tips that malfunction/cut out. (Similar to the ones in the link attached.) ",
"Possible simple fix for auxiliary cord tips that malfunction/cut out. (Similar to the ones in the link attached.) ",
"Possible simple fix for auxiliary cord tips that malfunction/cut out. (Similar to the ones in the link attached.) ",
"Possible simple fix for auxiliary cord tips that malfunction/cut out. (Similar to the ones in the link attached.) "
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"if the cord has been bent too many times and the wiring separates, just throw the cable or re-use as a rope or something like that. buy a new one for $4.00 and being anew.\n\nif you think the \"tip\" is the problem, it is most likely that one of the contacts inside the receiving device isn't connecting properly. either it just wore out, something is really dirty, or the cable got yanked and the tab is bent out of place.\n\nyou can replace jacks in some larger electronics/amps with ease, something like an ipod, good luck there..",
"you can find these at monoprice and whatnot for way less than a dollar a piece. No real need to fix them, just chuck them and grab a new one. \n\nSome cables should be cherished... cheap molded stereo minijacks shouldn't.",
"it can be fixed. i've done it. mostly because im technically inclined and have all the tools sitting around. but unless you just have everything, spend the money lol",
"Learn to solder. It's not a worthwhile endeavor unless it's a plug on a pair of headphones or something similar. ",
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