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[ "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?", "How to get moldy odor out of shoes. My shoes became soaked in rain water while jogging. Now they smell kinda moldy and funky. Any way to get rid of the funny smell without having to go buy another pair?" ]

[ "If it's just foot odor you can freeze them overnight, if it's moldy/mildewy you can use baking soda... then freeze them. Freezing them kills the batceria which cause foot odor which makes them typically not smell or at least not smell as bad.", "I have two old socks filled with baking soda that I put in my work boots. This has completely solved my chronic stinky boot problem.", "If you sprinkle a little bit of Boric acid powder in to your shoes and shake it around it works wonders for removing bad odors.\n\nIt is a very weak acid of born often used as an antiseptic and it won't do any damage to your skin. Jut make sure to sprinkle a little. Keep out of the reach of pets.\n\nYou can get it at any pharmacy. ", "Just throw them in the washing machine and allow them to dry in the sun or a warm dry indoor spot. I did this on a sailing trip.", "When I played competitive soccer we would pack our cleats with newspaper overnight between games to dry them out. As for the funky smell this site shows how to safely wash your shoes in the washer/dryer. http://www.wikihow.com/Wash-Shoes\n", "This is what I learned in textiles class: Wash them in a mixture of half baking soda half detergent. If you can, add distilled white vinegar to the rinse cycle. They need to air dry, in the sun if possible. The heat from the dryer will harm the soles and break down any rubber, so don't put them in the dryer. ", "Crumple up newspaper and stuff inside. Seal them in a large ziploc bag for a few days, up to a week. You can add baking soda to the bag for extra absorption. ", "Well, I actually just tossed my stanky sneakers in the washing machine with a healthy amount of baking soda and Borax (20 mule team is the brand. You can find it in the laundry section of the grocery store usually). I left them to dry in the sun and now they are lovely :)", "There's a lot of good suggestions on here to get rid of the odor, to help keep it from coming back I'd recommend leaving dyer sheets in your shoes at the end of the day. Not a permanent fix but it does help to cover it up.", "Now the question is: What is the best way to get rid of water from shoes. I left my running shoes at the track over the weekend and it rained. I'm about to go pick them up and they need to be dry for practice tomorrow. I've used newspaper in the past but you have to replace it quite often and its hard to get in there. No pun intended.\n\n", "For drying damp shoes, I bought some silica beads (look for flower drying beads at a craft store) and threw some in a pair of thin dress socks then stuffed them in my shoes overnight. \n\nFor daily use, I dust them with a bit of mentholated foot powder (something like gold bond) " ]

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[ "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7.", "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7.", "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7.", "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7." ]

[ "The best way is to close all blinds, block all light, have light colored paint inside and out. Light colored shingles help too. Have good insulation. Close all doors to rooms that don't need to be cooled, and close vents too. You can run air during the days, and open the windows and blinds when it starts to cool off at night.\n\nThis is what I do, I live in a tiny apartment, where (I swear) the heater is broken and runs 24/7. We have an air conditioner in the living room, close all doors/vents, and then open windows at night, and use window fans. Also, if we open the door to the hallway, it works as a great fan to suck in a bunch of air. But then we get yelled at... Anyway, the only time the A.C. runs is when we cook, or it gets humid.\n\nSomeone was saying you can buy some freezees ( colored liquid, you freeze and eat, they are in long clear plastic tubes) tape them to your fan. Or just use a wet towel. Make sure to use cold water. That's about all the advice I have. ", "I would say your best bet is to make sure the house is properly insulated and make sure there isn't any sources of heat.\n\nKeep the window shades down and make sure all doors leading to rooms not in use are closed.", "I got a swamp cooler around a month ago (maybe more), and I can't recommend it enough. Yea, it was something like $700, but I haven't turned on the AC since I've gotten it, saving all that money, which in prior years easily doubled my electric bill during the hotter time of year. It is an investment, but it's worth it 100%. \n\nI live in the desert of California, where this heat wave is going on, and the hottest it's gotten in my house was 75 degrees, compared to it peaking at 111 outside. ", "Keep the windows open at night and in the early morning. when the sun get's stronger close the windows and blinds. The point is to trap the cooler air in and keep it cool. Run a fan for circulation so the air does not stagnate. Try not to heat any food up. If you have to shower just use cold water." ]

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[ "Working with negative coworkers A work clique of three people are mean to everyone else at work, and the manager won’t get involved even though we complain. I don’t talk with them unless I have to, and I’m very professional and respectful, but their nasty attitudes and negativity are taking a toll on me and I feel very drained at the end of the day. Others feel it too, and we occasionally have someone leaving work early and upset because of them. What can I do to save my sanity and/or decompress both on the job and afterwards?", "Working with negative coworkers A work clique of three people are mean to everyone else at work, and the manager won’t get involved even though we complain. I don’t talk with them unless I have to, and I’m very professional and respectful, but their nasty attitudes and negativity are taking a toll on me and I feel very drained at the end of the day. Others feel it too, and we occasionally have someone leaving work early and upset because of them. What can I do to save my sanity and/or decompress both on the job and afterwards?", "Working with negative coworkers A work clique of three people are mean to everyone else at work, and the manager won’t get involved even though we complain. I don’t talk with them unless I have to, and I’m very professional and respectful, but their nasty attitudes and negativity are taking a toll on me and I feel very drained at the end of the day. Others feel it too, and we occasionally have someone leaving work early and upset because of them. What can I do to save my sanity and/or decompress both on the job and afterwards?" ]

[ "Document events as they happen. Include names of people who witness the behavior. You use this documentation for a Harassment and/or Hostile Workplace complaint.\n\nHarassment = repeated and unwanted behavior.\n\nHostile Workplace = document the absences. They will need to speak for themselves but you use the events as evidence to supplement your claim.\n\nYou also document when you speak with your Manager. You state that you don't want to file an HR Complaint, but may have to. CAUTION: This may put an active target on you, which may have to accelerate the filing with HR and you openly say that you have concerns about retaliatory behavior.\n\n", "Have coworkers like that. Anyone who has to lie and cheat to get allies and go out of their way to fuck with people is a fucktard loser. \n\nIt's like Lord of the flies. They amplify the shitty attitude when they're together. Shitty safety in numbers \n\nI literally just walk by them. Only talk to them about work related stuff.", "Read [The Four Agreements](https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319)\n\n“Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about \"me.\"”\n\nBasically, those people are miserable and choose to make everyone else miserable. Don’t take it personally, it has nothing to do with you." ]

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[ "How to cheer up! Especially for people with depression. What are some ways to brighten your mood in the short term? Long term?", "How to cheer up! Especially for people with depression. What are some ways to brighten your mood in the short term? Long term?", "How to cheer up! Especially for people with depression. What are some ways to brighten your mood in the short term? Long term?", "How to cheer up! Especially for people with depression. What are some ways to brighten your mood in the short term? Long term?", "How to cheer up! Especially for people with depression. What are some ways to brighten your mood in the short term? Long term?", "How to cheer up! Especially for people with depression. What are some ways to brighten your mood in the short term? Long term?" ]

[ "Find a pen. Place it between your front teeth and hold it so that your lips aren't touching it. Keep it there for 5+ minutes.\n\nReally. Try it.", "Exercise: build up a tolerance to some exercise that you find semi-fun but can do without a partner.\n\nMusic: it's good for the soul. I sound like a hippy, but it's true. Learn to play an instrument, learn to play songs that you've heard and liked.", "not entirely sure why, but listening to Daft Punk's One more time usually puts me in a better mood...", "This may not help for immediate brightening but if you know your gunna have a bad day or just lazey, plan somthing for the evening after what ever your doing such as goin to watch a movie with friends. At some point in the middle of the day when you remember your afternoon plans you'll feel so much better :)\n\n ", "If you like animals, play with your pet, or someone you know's pet, or go to a shelter or pet store, or even visit a dog park and watch how stupidly happy and excited those dogs are. Bonus points if there is one of those dogs that gets the giant smile on their face with the tongue hanging out when they run. I can't help but cheer up when I see that.", "Exercise is hard when you are down, but it really makes a difference. Try getting a friend or someone you know, or a redditor, and ask them to help you. \n\nGoing for a 1 hour walk with someone, to start, really helps. \nYou can talk, not talk, whatever, but the movement will affect you, and if you do something more strenuous, it will help exhaust you, and you will sleep better.\n\nAlso, laughing. When I was depressed, I watched Chapelle's Show, specifically, Charlie Murphy's True Hollywood Stories skits. These generally slay me, even when I am in utter despair, because they are so ridiculous that the humor sensors in my brain override the depression. These may not work for you, but perhaps you have some similar stash of humorous material.\n\nLaughter is more of a short-term fix, but it helped me get to sleep at night, as I usually teared up from laughing at some point. \n\nGood luck! :)" ]

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[ "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?", "Overcome nasal spray addiction I've been using nasal spray every evening before going to bed for the last few months, sometimes I even use it in the morning or wake up in the middle of the night because my nose is stuffed up. I don't even need to use a lot of nasal spray. I literally just press so lightly that only the tiniest bit of nasal spray you can possibly get out gets into my nose, and it's already enough. Any tips on overcoming this addiction?" ]

[ "I was really bad with this back in the day. I used it almost hourly. I tried cold turkey and saline, but they didn't do the trick. I was able to wean myself off doing the following. I started with a brand new bottle and used as normal. Once it was half empty, I refilled with water. I repeated this process every time it was half full. Eventually it becomes diluted to the point where it's mostly water and I felt the need to use it less and less.\n\n", "Switch to a normal saline solution to help you get off of it. That stuff can cause lasting damage. My father in law has completely lost his sense of smell due to years of using that stuff. Get off it quick! ", "I know this is an old thread but I’m posting here in case anyone in need of help comes across it. I was addicted to nasal spray (specifically drixoral) for almost 10 years. Nothing I tried helped UNTIL I came across this pharmaceutical company called Rhinostat. Please google it and see if you’re able to give it a try. It’s a slower process (a weaning system) but it WORKS. I think it took me a total of 2-3 weeks but I am now off of nasal spray for over a year now and couldn’t be happier. And I remember it being actually super easy + no discomfort at all. Hope this helps ❤️", "I'm coming off of it myself. Try using it only in one nostril. Then when that nostril finally clears up, you can quit using it in the other.\n\nThis has always worked for me. My problem at the moment is that I'm on a CPAP now and I can't breathe while using it, and I can't get that other nostril to clear up all the way.", "[Difference between addiction and dependence](http://www.differencebetween.net/science/health/difference-between-dependence-and-addiction/)\n\n", "Nasal spray and eye drops are a really bad addiction and I know because I was addicted to both. Both give the \"rebound effect.\" The more you use, the more you need. The only way I got off the nose spray was to go to a Eye, Ear and Nose Doctor and she gave me a non-addicting spray that I had to use 3x a day for about a week. I cant remember what it was called but it worked and I have never used spray again. My eyes were constantly red because of the eye drops I was using, so I just quit those cold-turkey and only use an eye wash if I absolutely have to. If you can't go to the doctor, then just quit cold-turkey. You will suffer for a few days but it's better than permanently damaging your sinuses.", "This is an old thread, but I wonder how everyone is doing? I'm two weeks off, and things were going great until last night. I ended up so clogged up that I could barely sleep. I was in and out today, but when I got in my car to leave work, it clogged up again. I am currently trying to fall asleep with one nasal passage semi-clear and the other fully clogged.\n\nThe hardest part has been the understanding of other people. They constantly ask if I'm sick or tell me to blow my nose. I've tried telling them it doesn't work, but they don't listen.\n\nI have found that exercise can help as, for the most part, it clears up when I'm moving. However, when I sit down or lay down, it slowly clogs again. It's terrible. It does make work, playing with my daughter, and my relationship with my wife harder.\n\nI did go to my regular physician, hoping she would prescribe me a steroid, but she told me just to quit cold turkey.\n\nMaybe I'll see an ENT and see if that helps. It seems to have helped some people here. \n\nI'm sorry for the long post, but I was happy to know and talk to people who know and are going through the same thing. \nThank you and I hope everyone gets to breathe clearly.", "This is so FUCKED! I am always so strict to use the most natural thing. We were out of the country and I got sick, my husband had some nasal spray and said try it. Now 2 weeks later I can’t fucking sleep without it. Fuck this shit why are they even selling it. The natural one works just fine. Fuck the people that make this shit", "Stop. STop now and stop cold.\n\nI was a heavy user in my teens early 20's. Crap's like heroin.. the more you use the more it takes. I am 47 and I still (and always will) have a partial nasal blockage because of it. Never completely clear. ", "Just found this thread, im glad im not the only one. Just like OP said i need the tiniest amount of nasal spray and im good. I have to use it every night before i go to bed and sometimes even during lessons. It causes me so much anxiety when i cant breath through my nose and this shit is so annoying.", "Hi just found this conversation, and thought I'd chip in with my experiences on otrivin. Been addicted for probably 4 years. But I only use 1 puff on just one side before bed, and I use the weaker otrivin junior spray. I can breath fine all day Am I am idiot because I don't wasn't to stop? I don't feel bad about it. No rebound congestion. No symptoms. And a great sleep every night.", "There is ONE way to do it. I had the same problem and tried all sorts of solutions. Then I found the ONE way that truly works. Simple but very hard.\nJust stop. Serious. Thats the only way to truly stop. Just tell yourself that you are going to do this and STOP! \nI know its insane hard to do....but you CAN do it. Hell, I did it.\nJust make up your mind and do it. You can.\nGood luck. It can happen", "Get the kind of nasal spray that you squeeze rather than pump so you can do half squeezes and quarter squeezes until you wean yourself off. Worked for me.", "You need to go to the doctor and ask for some form of steroidal nasal spray. In about a month you’ll be good as new. They see nasal spray addiction all the time. Go to the doc and ask for help.", "This shit is more difficult to get off than fucking heroin. Fuck this! I can’t fucking breathe out of my fucking nose right now fuck!", "Quit cold turkey and throw out all the spare bottles hanging around. \n\nYou will have some restless nights so do it when you are scheduled for your days off of work. \n\nIt can be done! Good luck to you. ", "It's funny to call it an addiction when I became addicted to using a nasal spray was for well an addiction used it before and after a line so it hit better but I ended up kicking my drug habit before my spray habit which was weird in my option. I'm on 21 but 3 years sober or somthing not totally sober have been drinking on special occasions", "Is there a support group or a discord channel for help or to just talk to someone about this addiction? I'm on 7 years and am feeling helpless to kick this.", "I'm just going to keep using the junior version till I get adverse effects and that hasn't happened over the last 4 years. Try to reduce to the junior version though", "I m also fighting with this addiction right now i was addicted to otrivine almost over 3 years. But i have to stop this,i went to Doctor and got priscribed with steroid pills,steroid sprey. I m on first day,it was a tough day hope i can have okay night. It s so dificult", "I had to go cold turkey about 15 years ago for allergy testing. It was rough but I can't even use half a spray now without my sinuses burning terribly. I've only tried it a couple of times since quitting. Godspeed. ", "I got an Avamys prescription from an ENT and im able to use that long term once a day and in combination with a saline spray i was able to kick the rebound. I also found out about two other issues I had that was causing the congestion to be worse and am waiting for an open date for surgery as well.\n\nI used to use otrivin like once an hour for 3/4 years before that.", "Hey, I'd just like to know if you overcame the addiction and if you no can breathe properly, first day here off the addiction, went to the doctor and he recommended for me to use for 3 months a nasal spray for allergies and after that, if I didn't get any better, I may need surgery. If it worked for you, what methods did you use?", "Can anyone help I have been on Sudafed for 25 plus years and need to stop can any one give good advice", "Redirect focus to your ears or eyes while quitting. Q-tips or eye drops make a good substite. Other methods include:\n\n-Switching out the contents of one of your nasal spray bottles with super-glue, and having someone place it randomly in your house. Try to not fall for the temptation. \n\n-Nasal Spray Jar: Put a dollar in the jar every time you use. Don't spend the money on more nasal spray.\n\n-Whenever you feel the need to use nasal spray, do a line of cocaine instead. It work similar, but has *more interesting* side effects.\n\nWhatever you do, **Don't quit cold turkey**. Your nose will fall clean off.\n" ]

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[ "Maintaining long term civility with coworkers I tend to keep jobs for multiple years and in the beginning things always start off with a clean slate between myself and my coworkers. Eventually over time though situations happen and stress happens and inevitably tension happens and things are said... and then a year or two or three in I end up in this place where I feel like there are no more clean slates and I'm ready to go somewhere else because things are awkward. Some of this can be attributed to my reactions to others and some of it can be attributed to others reactions to me. So I'm not blameless, but I'm also not a trouble maker and I try stay positive as long as I can at a new job, but eventually the shine wears off and things get normal for lack of a better term and stuff happens :)\n\nSO. What ways have you found to maintain long term civility at work? I'd like to be able to function and be proactive without stepping on too many toes or being a pushover.", "Maintaining long term civility with coworkers I tend to keep jobs for multiple years and in the beginning things always start off with a clean slate between myself and my coworkers. Eventually over time though situations happen and stress happens and inevitably tension happens and things are said... and then a year or two or three in I end up in this place where I feel like there are no more clean slates and I'm ready to go somewhere else because things are awkward. Some of this can be attributed to my reactions to others and some of it can be attributed to others reactions to me. So I'm not blameless, but I'm also not a trouble maker and I try stay positive as long as I can at a new job, but eventually the shine wears off and things get normal for lack of a better term and stuff happens :)\n\nSO. What ways have you found to maintain long term civility at work? I'd like to be able to function and be proactive without stepping on too many toes or being a pushover.", "Maintaining long term civility with coworkers I tend to keep jobs for multiple years and in the beginning things always start off with a clean slate between myself and my coworkers. Eventually over time though situations happen and stress happens and inevitably tension happens and things are said... and then a year or two or three in I end up in this place where I feel like there are no more clean slates and I'm ready to go somewhere else because things are awkward. Some of this can be attributed to my reactions to others and some of it can be attributed to others reactions to me. So I'm not blameless, but I'm also not a trouble maker and I try stay positive as long as I can at a new job, but eventually the shine wears off and things get normal for lack of a better term and stuff happens :)\n\nSO. What ways have you found to maintain long term civility at work? I'd like to be able to function and be proactive without stepping on too many toes or being a pushover." ]

[ "I've always found that bringing in a box of donuts or something shareable every once in awhile goes a long way. Extra points for bringing cool new artisinal type snacks or something from a local shop that gives you something to talk about with everyone.", "Make small talk and allow them to speak about the things on their minds. People like people who listen to them. Its free and goes a long way. Maybe you'll end up finding more similarities with them than you had originally thought. ", "Two things: \n\n1. Bring in donuts.\n2. Ask for favors.\n\nSeriously, bring in donuts. Or bagels or whatever. Just bring them in, leave them in the kitchen or the break-room or wherever and send out an email (if you are in an office) that there are donuts for everybody. If anyone asks why you did it, say, \"Because people like donuts.\"\n\nAnd ask for small favors. Nothing terrible onerous, nothing involving money, and certainly not in any sort of payback. Just ask co-workers for small favors: a ride somewhere, some little task. Be grateful and offer to return the favor.\n\nThe point here is to set up a sharing economy. Everybody has an incentive to be nice to everyone else. Why not? He gave me donuts, I gave him a ride home (Why are favors you do for someone else counted as reasons that you should like him? Dunno, [cognitive dissonance](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance) I guess), we're all friends here." ]

[ 4, 2, 1 ]

[ "Hard packing tape residue removal from a white door frame? I'm reading the other posts about tape residue removal, but making this post in hopes of specific advice for my scenario.\n\nRemoved a sign from my door that I attached using packaging tape for about 12+ months, and now this residue is very hard and I can't get it off. I don't want to damage the door, but I'm starting to worry I'll never get this off. I don't know what you call this type of door (wood core / primed brickmold?)\n\n**Methods tried:**\n\nbaking soda + sunflower oil (let it soak, works on glass, not on doors I guess..)\n\nwarm water + soap (0% effective)\n\nfinger nails (this is 3% effective, but would take days and I'd lose my fingernails)\n\n**any ideas?**\n\n​\n\n**", "Hard packing tape residue removal from a white door frame? I'm reading the other posts about tape residue removal, but making this post in hopes of specific advice for my scenario.\n\nRemoved a sign from my door that I attached using packaging tape for about 12+ months, and now this residue is very hard and I can't get it off. I don't want to damage the door, but I'm starting to worry I'll never get this off. I don't know what you call this type of door (wood core / primed brickmold?)\n\n**Methods tried:**\n\nbaking soda + sunflower oil (let it soak, works on glass, not on doors I guess..)\n\nwarm water + soap (0% effective)\n\nfinger nails (this is 3% effective, but would take days and I'd lose my fingernails)\n\n**any ideas?**\n\n​\n\n**", "Hard packing tape residue removal from a white door frame? I'm reading the other posts about tape residue removal, but making this post in hopes of specific advice for my scenario.\n\nRemoved a sign from my door that I attached using packaging tape for about 12+ months, and now this residue is very hard and I can't get it off. I don't want to damage the door, but I'm starting to worry I'll never get this off. I don't know what you call this type of door (wood core / primed brickmold?)\n\n**Methods tried:**\n\nbaking soda + sunflower oil (let it soak, works on glass, not on doors I guess..)\n\nwarm water + soap (0% effective)\n\nfinger nails (this is 3% effective, but would take days and I'd lose my fingernails)\n\n**any ideas?**\n\n​\n\n**" ]

[ "If you have a steamer, that might work better than warm water. Check out wallpaper removal techniques on YouTube and you might get some ideas there too.", "I use baby oil on residue or tar on car interior. It is clear and won't stain. I clean the oil with dawn or degreaser depending on how oily. If your surface is painted you will never know it was there.", "This works great\n\n3M General Purpose Adhesive Cleaner 08987\n\nScrape it off with a plastic putty knife" ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to stop my notepads and school books becoming curved at the corners Started school again and already my A4 ring binder is becoming curved slightly at the corners. I would really like to keep my notes nice and flat. Any advice?", "How to stop my notepads and school books becoming curved at the corners Started school again and already my A4 ring binder is becoming curved slightly at the corners. I would really like to keep my notes nice and flat. Any advice?", "How to stop my notepads and school books becoming curved at the corners Started school again and already my A4 ring binder is becoming curved slightly at the corners. I would really like to keep my notes nice and flat. Any advice?" ]

[ "Use packing tape--clear, about 2 inches wide, to \"laminate\" a cardboard cover. I go w/ name brand Scorch, as others tend to tear in odd ways as they come off the roll. For industrial strength lamination, use clear tape made for sealing & weatherproofing windows w/ plastic. ", "Get two sheet of 3.5 mm think steal cut to the size of your books and keep them on the top and bottom of the books.", "Don't throw them in your bag, when putting books in put them straight in ordered largest book on your back going to the smallest " ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can you \"get to know yourself\"? Every once in a while I will get the feeling like I'm a stranger to myself because I'm not sure who I am or who I want to be like so I was wondering what are some ways I can get in touch with myself.", "How can you \"get to know yourself\"? Every once in a while I will get the feeling like I'm a stranger to myself because I'm not sure who I am or who I want to be like so I was wondering what are some ways I can get in touch with myself.", "How can you \"get to know yourself\"? Every once in a while I will get the feeling like I'm a stranger to myself because I'm not sure who I am or who I want to be like so I was wondering what are some ways I can get in touch with myself.", "How can you \"get to know yourself\"? Every once in a while I will get the feeling like I'm a stranger to myself because I'm not sure who I am or who I want to be like so I was wondering what are some ways I can get in touch with myself.", "How can you \"get to know yourself\"? Every once in a while I will get the feeling like I'm a stranger to myself because I'm not sure who I am or who I want to be like so I was wondering what are some ways I can get in touch with myself." ]

[ "Silence!!!!!\nGo somewhere comfortable and just be there in silence for as long as you can\n\nYou can't get to know yourself if your environment is loud with the thoughts and distractions of others", "Think about things. What’s most important to you, what are your priorities, what are your expectations of yourself and others, what do you want to be like when you’re 40, 50, 60, etc.? What are your likes and dislikes - not talking about food or whatever, but more about world events, things going on around you. What type of person do you NOT want to be? Spend some time alone considering these things.", "Look in the mirror and take some time for personal reflection\n\nHave a good laugh and then try doing something radically different like doing glassblowing or underwater basket weaving?\n\nYou'll know when you find the hobbies/crafts/adventures that bring you the most joy", "It seems to me that if you’re asking the question, you’re on the right track. It’s already happening.", "Consider the Rodney Dangerfield method. Once while performing a member of the audience yelled:\n\n*Hey Rodney, how'd you get started?*\n\nRodney replied:\n\n*How'd I get started? I was 12 years old, alone in my room and I got started!*\n\nPerhaps this method might meet your expectations." ]

[ 6, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. ", "My life is a bloody wreck. And I need help to fix it. I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack as I am writing this so bear with the shit I say. It may seem rash or hyper but it's true. Also English isn't my native language and no restraints on profanity from now on.\n\nTwo months ago I had my shit together after realizing that I haven't been studying and I spend too much time on gaming and porn. I fixed almost everything. I went off Facebook for a while, I quit League of Legends, started tuitions and daily revisions, and I was attempting to quit porn. \n\nI don't know what happened on the way. Today I jerked off 4 times a day like I used to, I spent 3 hours on League, and I didn't study. And its been like this for a week or two and its only getting worse. Everyday I try to change and I keep failing. \n\nMy house is a hellish state right now with my parents, I have good friends but out of which I can only meet one or two often in real life, I have a close to zero social circle, I'm failing my fucking exams, and I am back to my pathetic old self. \n\nI don't know what to do and I've asked help from here before so here I am. I'm 180 cm but I weigh at 105 kilos and I can't seem to fix that. My face looks like shit with the pimples and marks. My parents can't help me because they are one of the main causes to most of this shit. I'm afraid to visit my school psychologist because I failed 3 out of the 5 subjects I have getting marks like 10/100 AFTER I told her I would study. And it hits like a fucking brick wall when I see or listen to people have fun. Parties, birthdays, hangouts, dates, any fucking thing that people enjoy and I can't because I can't easily get out of my bloody house. I'm changing from the mostly positive and excited person I was to a person with raw anger bubbling inside them. \n\nI'm just floating here with no idea how to recover from such a huge stumble. This may be the TL;DR as I need help. If you see this and can help me fix myself, please do. I'll appreciate it. " ]

[ "To fix a psychological problem, the base problem needs to be solved. If you can live alone, you should. If not...stay low and hidden until you can, or at least find a personal trench out there. \n\nI know it's scary to visit the psychologist, especially in that situation, but it is her job to help you. If she gets angry at you, that means she can't understand your problem and therefore does not deserve your trust. Find another.\n\nI know your feeling of \"hitting a brick wall;\" I had the lighter version of it due to the situation I had back then. You aren't alone. Don't be afraid; we're here to listen if you need it. Whatever you do, please don't give up on trying to help yourself. You're the only one that can love you unconditionally. And don't listen to people pushing you toward drugs. Drugs deteriorates the brain and breaks your body.", "LSD isn't going to help your current situation. Sounds like you might be having trouble controlling some of your impulses, maybe some attention stuff there also. Go talk to a professional. Maybe they can give you something to help get your focus back in track. There's nothing wrong with asking for help. It could be the best thing you have ever done for yourself. ", "I'm sorry that you're feeling so terrible recently and that you feel like you've lost all of your progress. It happens to many of us, in varying capacities, but people rarely talk about it out loud. It's great that you wrote things down, and are talking about it. I personally think that it would be really helpful to go talk to your psychologist again.\n\nNoone goes to the psychologist for a happy reason, so trust me that they will be the last to judge you. They deal with plenty of other 'self-declared-fuckups' that are in far worse shape than you. \n\nSome people can resolve their problems with the help of family and friends, but if you're lacking the necessary support I would highly recommend seeing your psychologist. Especially if you two are already acquainted, and don't have to start from scratch.\n\nI hope you're back to your normal happy self soon.", "Start running. Turn your computer off and avoid distraction. Every time you feel like jerking it or turning on your computer, go run instead. Every time, rain or shine. Every time you run, keep track of time and distance. Get your shit together with self control. ", "As [temsik1587 stated](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/5bbjwr/lpt_request_my_life_is_a_bloody_wreck_and_i_need/d9n6z1y/), LSD was a definite turning point--in my life, as well.\n\nI do not condone urging one to break the law or do drugs. However, there is definitely an issue here with the way you are handling situations and dealing with stress. LSD enables one to make connections that aren't immediately obvious.\n\nThis comment isn't going to be an advert for LSD, so let's change gears; you need to prioritize your life. If you know MS Excel, it can be your friend here. You've expressed that you have a procrastination issue stemming from a combination of porn and 'Legends. Fortunately, I don't have any affinity for such games, but I do love my porn.\n\nAssuming that you know how to create spreadsheets (with formulas and tables), you should create a workflow chart that gives you a visual of your efficiency based upon your focus on various things.\n\n* Studying\n* Cleaning\n* Gaming\n* Porn\n* Work (employment)\n* Commute\n* Sleeping\n\nAbove is a very minimal list of activities that you are doing (based on your comment). Next column, is how many hours you spend doing these things. The third column should calculate how many hours are in a day/week/month, and the fourth would give you a percentage of available time spent doing said things.\n\nOnce you start seeing things visually, you may be motivated to cut down on certain aspects. Especially if your sheet includes your school grades by date and you witness changes in your behavior and performance through variations in the extra-curricular activities.\n\nAdd a row to your spreadsheet for exercise, and ensure that you commit *some* time to it. Exercise is hard to start, but once you get into a rhythm, it actually motivates you to excel in other areas.\n\nYou can't do much about your acne and scarring, but once other things start falling in line, you'll care less about it. When you care less, you appear more confident to others. Appearing confident to others leads to social diversity. It's all tied together, but you have to take steps to make things work in your favor.\n\nGood luck.", "In followup to my [previous comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/5bbjwr/lpt_request_my_life_is_a_bloody_wreck_and_i_need/d9ncd0f/), [here is an Excel sheet](http://www.enoctis.net/shared/excel/introvertoverhere_Hourly-Efficiency.xlsx) that I made to help you out. Let me know if it works for you.\n\nAgain, good luck.", "I'm sorry that you're dealing with this right now. I definitely recommend seeing the school psychologist. I'm sure you feel bad about your grades, and that's cool, but this is her job and you are not the worst kid she's dealt with. So don't worry about that, go talk to her, and when you do, be honest. \n\nYou can do this man. You just have to work hard for it, and you've already proven that you're capable of that. You got this.", "I was also in a similar but more mild runt. for me , fixed my problem by faking it till i made it. fake having your shit together until you do this way you'll feel better about yourself, this will allow you to get motivated and get shit done and kick life in the ass!\n\n", "I can relate to your situation, I'm suffering from depression myself, coupled with anxiety, computer abuse and at times very limited social contact. Such a sitation is very difficult to deal with if you do not have people who understand and support you.\n\nFrom your post I infer you cannot speak about this with your parents. Is one of your two real-life friends (or even online friends) potentially someone you could open up to in regards to this issues? Do you have relatives who might be an alternative? Having somebody to talk to is already immensly helpful. If you don't feel secure in telling them so much about your own problems, you may try to look if there are youth centers or simillar institutions in your area to find new friends. Some such centers also include psychologists, or at least adults who would be willing to help you out. \n\nSadly, many people have little knowledge about mental issues and might disregard your problems. I hope this does not happen to you if you open up, but if it does - always remember: you are not to blame for this, most people were just brought up with the idea that one has to power through all problems no matter the cost and always remain in control and strong. \n\nMental issue have a big stigma in society. Some eat up their stress and mental pain to the point where their life quality deteriorates massivly in the long run. It's better to aknowledge what is wrong and slowly change it for the better, before the problem gets out of hand. But this is incredibly hard to do without help.\n\nYou may be suffering from some form of depression, or just be overwhelmed by the current situation, but talking with a mental health professional can really do wonders. I don't know how the situation is in your country regarding mental health/health care and financing and this may make it a bit more difficult to find help.\n\nIt can take a while until you find a psychologist who clicks with you, but it is worth it. If they decide you might benefit from therapy to get your anxiety and compulsory behavior under control, this could be a way to go. \n\nIf you feel pressured by the school psychologist, they may not be the right person for you. It's not their job to bully you into doing something specific (like revamping your way of life), a psychologist/therapist is supposed to guide you along the way you yourself want to go (with a tolerable amount of pressure). If they made you feel like a failure and you fear returning empty handed, you may need somebody else. But you never know, might as well try again and talk with them about your doubts. Communication is key, but they have to earn your trust. Maybe it's just your anxiety getting in the way.\n\nI know that it can be hard to look for professional help. Heck, I need to do it myself and can't manage to find enough energy to slog from one therapist to the next. But it's worth it.\n\nRegarding your dislike of your own body, I suggest to try not to think about it too much. If you catch yourself staring at yourself in the mirror, watching your acne etc, go away and do other stuff instead. If you like any sport, try doing that. Maybe try something you never did before, like joining a fencing team, or table tennis. If you are not a fan of exhausting physical activity, maybe you can take simple walks. Sun, fresh air and some movement can do wonders for your mental health. You could even help out at your local animal shelter and go for walks with the dogs ;).\n\nHeck, download some League of Legends podcasts and listen to them or get your favorite music while going for walks or something along these lines, if it feels too boring otherwise. But if you don't like to go out and it just makes you feel even worse, then by all means, don't force yourself. \n\nYou should propably also speak with your doctor - anxiety and depression can be triggered by several medical conditions, for example low levels in some vitamins (B12, D, etc), thyroid gland dysfunction and others. Many of these are easily fixable (vitamins by taking supplicants or eating proteins in case of B12/more sun etc; thyroid gland by taking hormons). And if you indeed have some form of depression, you could get medication from your doctor to lessen the symptoms. Look at it this way: if it helps, then it's a good thing. The brain is complicated and lots of stuff can mess up it's chemical composition to the point that depressions etc manifest out of nowhere.\n\nI'm not saying you have a mental illness or physical dysfunction - but these things are a posibillity and much more common than one might think, so it's best to at least take them into account. The one thing you surely are not is a failure. ;)\n\nI would also dvise against taking any psychoactive drugs in this situation. While I do not have personal experience, I don't believe that LSD would be beneficial if you are in a state of stress and anxiaty already. This may cause some very bad experiences that just make the situation a whole lot worse. And if you should feel pressure to try drugs for any reason, stay away from the heavy stuff, and go at most for weed instead.\n\nIf you decide to take any drugs, make sure to be *very* careful how you obtain them. Getting arrested is not a great experience in your situation and would propably screw up your mental balance even more - especially if you have a strained relationship with your parents.\n\nReally, don't take drugs as self-medication. Just don't ;)\n\nHope this was helpful, and remember - lots of people here to help you out.\n\nPS: I'm sure there is a number of helpful subreddits as well regarding anxiety, motivational training, depression, loneliness etc.", "First up, I will echo everybody else's \"go to a professional\". \n\nOk, first up you need to stop blaming yourself. \"Pathetic\", \"look like shit\", \"failing\". Stop it! You struggle to change precisely because you believe you need to change. You feel you're running away from someone, and it's exhausting. It's not a change, it's a journey, and you're not running away but heading towards something that you want to be. \nStart slowly. Give up one thing at a time. I'm sorry to say there's no magic button that makes life easy, or that'll solve every problem you have, it'll take work and it'll take time, but it doesn't have to be hard work, just consistant work. I assume you have friends on LoL (although I'll be honest, I have no idea how it works so if it's not that kind of game then sorry), so why give it up? Cut back a little, put a limit on how long you're going to play for. If you do have friends on it, tell them you're only going to be online between set times, and use them to remind you to leave. Chill out with the porn, but you don't have to quit (I'd recommend it in the long run though). \nI don't know why you say you struggle to get out of the house, but if you can get outside. Go for a walk, go for a run, steal a dog and take that for a walk (don't do that), just get out for a short break in the evenings to calm yourself and relieve the stress.\n\nThe biggest change you need though is your mindset. Pass the mirror and give yourself a smile and a wink. Think about the things you like about yourself. Look to improve the things you like. Keep your hygiene good, shave and shower regularly. Dress up nicely occasionally, especially if you're going out. Get to bed earlier. I promise if you can change how you think about yourself your face and weight will look after themselves, because when you look in the mirror you won't be picking flaws in the person you see, but instead you'll see the good side.\n\nMost of all though, if you are feeling as low as it seems, see a professional.", "Well, there's always the cold turkey method. Delete accounts, have someone password protect certain websites for you, and try to save your grades.\n\nTo make sure you study properly, study at school, and only go home when you're done with it. \n\nTo get rid of pimples, eat less fat. I'm not saying you should diet or anything, (100kgs is above average but it's not obese. Drop 20 and you'll look fine) but try mixing up your diet, and simply stop buying snacks. I was in a similar situation at some point so I swapped my snacks for radishes. I am positive that there's no one on earth who has eaten more of those things than me ;)\n\nMaybe take up a hobby - sports can both distract you from gaming, and make you feel better about yourself. It also helps with your weight problem. \n\nIf you fail to pass this year, talk to someone about it. Your situation is a special case - I'm not psychologist but you sound addicted and depressed, and most importantly you actually *want* to keep studying so that's a plus. If your grades before you fell into serious gaming were good, it shows that you can study if you're in the right mindset. Usually that's enough to get some help.\n\n" ]

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[ " How to relieve an itch that you're not supposed to scratch? So I had a surgical procedure about 8 months ago. The wound has long since closed up and all that remains is a raised pale line on top of the skin. Occasionally, this scar will itch like crazy, but I know I shouldn't scratch it. What can I do instead to relieve an itch?", " How to relieve an itch that you're not supposed to scratch? So I had a surgical procedure about 8 months ago. The wound has long since closed up and all that remains is a raised pale line on top of the skin. Occasionally, this scar will itch like crazy, but I know I shouldn't scratch it. What can I do instead to relieve an itch?", " How to relieve an itch that you're not supposed to scratch? So I had a surgical procedure about 8 months ago. The wound has long since closed up and all that remains is a raised pale line on top of the skin. Occasionally, this scar will itch like crazy, but I know I shouldn't scratch it. What can I do instead to relieve an itch?", " How to relieve an itch that you're not supposed to scratch? So I had a surgical procedure about 8 months ago. The wound has long since closed up and all that remains is a raised pale line on top of the skin. Occasionally, this scar will itch like crazy, but I know I shouldn't scratch it. What can I do instead to relieve an itch?", " How to relieve an itch that you're not supposed to scratch? So I had a surgical procedure about 8 months ago. The wound has long since closed up and all that remains is a raised pale line on top of the skin. Occasionally, this scar will itch like crazy, but I know I shouldn't scratch it. What can I do instead to relieve an itch?" ]

[ "If your scar is still bothering you then it's still not finished healing. \n\nApplying vaseline to your scar morning and night will make it heal/fade quicker and also help prevent it itching.\n\nIf you do get an itch however simply apply an ice pack (or even better a frozen gel pack) to the area and this will instantly relieve the itch and then apply vaseline to stop it itching again.", "This is what I use for bug bites and it works like a charm, but you might want to check with your doctor for the scar: I run very hot (but not scalding) water over the itching spot. Pat dry, and it seems like it's not better at all, but a couple of seconds later, relief! Keeps mosquito bites and other types of itching at bay for 3-4 hours, and much more effectively than any ointment I've found. But I'm not sure if the same principle would apply for a scar. \n\nPS Same principle as what Nerp Derp said, now that I've read his post.", "Put ice in a ziplock baggy, apply to area. I used to have a problem with scratching my foot to the point where I actually tore my skin up. ", "If its a scar in process of healing and no medicine is now needed to be applied, you could apply coconut oil. It relieves itch. ", "Coconut oil and Vaseline are both adequate moisteurizers, however in my experience with tattoo, scar, abrasion, cut etc healing, use vitamin E ointment, if available in your area. It's relatively inexpensive, works to moisturize, promote healing, and encourage new skin growth (to all you nay-Sayers, it will sink through the dead epidermal layers to the live skin). \n Honestly, my tattoo artists (I've had 2) each said my tattoos would take a month to heal, and with daily applications of vit E ointment, they healed over (all 4) in less than 2 weeks.\n\n\n TL;DR: Vitamin E ointment :) " ]

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[ "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)", "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)", "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)", "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)", "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)", "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)", "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)", "How do I remove oil grease and stains from stove (and nearby kitchen walls and tabletop) easily? First time in my life I am responsible completely for taking care of the kitchen and I have no idea how to remove the disgusting layers of what seems to be cooking oil and grease from stove, walls and table tops.. What is the chemical I'm looking for? What's the process of removing it? How frequently should I be cleaning kitchen from grease? What are some tips to prevent this from happening in the future? (I usually cook without the lid since I'm a bit clumsy and every time I'm cooking with a lid and have to take it off, hot oil splashes on me and I'd rather have no lid than angry oil jumping at me when I take the lid off from cooking pan..)" ]

[ "Everyone else is recommending cleaners, so I'll just throw in on the other questions: Once you get the oven/stove/countertops clean, keep a clean, absorbent rag in the kitchen and wipe down after you cook. If you give a quick wipe down overtime you cook, you can get by scrubbing (with just dish soap and water) once a week or so. Also maybe use less oil. Angry jumping oil really doesn't sound like something that should be happening every time you cook. ", "Baking soda and a little water - make a thin paste. Or if it's caked on try baking soda and a few drops of vinegar. Works wonders. \n ", "Surprisingly, a Mr. Clean magic eraser sponge thing works really well. Got one as a sample in the mail one in college, good stuff though after you rinse it a few times the cleaning chemical inside is washed away and doesn't work so well anymore. ", "LA's Totally Awesome is a brand of cleaner available at most dollar stores. It is, hands down, the BEST thing I've ever found for removing any type of greasy stain.", "I use a no-rinse cleaner like Ajax spray and wipe (Australia) that can be sprayed on directly, and I wipe with a microfibre cloth that goes in the washing machine. Would do this every day or two - not having to rinse makes it very easy and I find these cleaners quite effective for cleaning up oil splatter ", "I prefer Clorox bleach spray. Does a Pretty good job of cutting thru grease and not leaving too harsh of a scent. If you're not a bleach kinda guy, Lysol and Clorox both make a peroxide spray. I don't think it works as good as bleach but w/e. Anyways good luck and congrats on your new place. Oh check out r/malelivingspace they got a lotta cool shit over there. ", "you make yourself a small batch of fresh home-made soap from lye, water, and oil. Only need to make a 4 oz. batch. Once soap is at trace carefully scoop a spoonful onto stove and start rubbing with a sponge. Can dip a sponge directly into soap pot if you want. Wet Soap will be highly caustic and will dissolve all the grease and turn it into soap as it works. So only use a very small amount at a time. As you work don't worry about using water or leaving soap globs on hard to touch grease spots, once you have all locations covered pour the remaining amount of soap into a small cardboard box. I like to use oatmeal boxes but whatever you have on hand will work. Wrap soap box up in towels and let sit for 3 days, then unwrap and slice up, you will have hand washing soap available for immediate use. Going back to the stove after allowing soap to sit for a few days take a sponge and add water, then lightly go over the effected areas. Grease messes will come right off with a minimum of effort. Warnings: Keep children, guests, and pets away from the area as activated lye will burn skin and eyes! ", "You want a degreaser. Hot water, dawn dishsoap and a scrubby sponge should do it. Just be sure to give it a good rinse and dry with a rag. As with life, clean as you go. That should keep your kitchen tidy. " ]

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[ "How to deal with a loved one that's grieving. I have a friend whose grandpa is about to pass away, I told her everything is going to be fine and it's just part of life. Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic. I'd love to know how to actually deal with this better so I don't lose another friend down the road. Cheers.", "How to deal with a loved one that's grieving. I have a friend whose grandpa is about to pass away, I told her everything is going to be fine and it's just part of life. Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic. I'd love to know how to actually deal with this better so I don't lose another friend down the road. Cheers.", "How to deal with a loved one that's grieving. I have a friend whose grandpa is about to pass away, I told her everything is going to be fine and it's just part of life. Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic. I'd love to know how to actually deal with this better so I don't lose another friend down the road. Cheers.", "How to deal with a loved one that's grieving. I have a friend whose grandpa is about to pass away, I told her everything is going to be fine and it's just part of life. Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic. I'd love to know how to actually deal with this better so I don't lose another friend down the road. Cheers.", "How to deal with a loved one that's grieving. I have a friend whose grandpa is about to pass away, I told her everything is going to be fine and it's just part of life. Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic. I'd love to know how to actually deal with this better so I don't lose another friend down the road. Cheers.", "How to deal with a loved one that's grieving. I have a friend whose grandpa is about to pass away, I told her everything is going to be fine and it's just part of life. Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic. I'd love to know how to actually deal with this better so I don't lose another friend down the road. Cheers." ]

[ "Hi. I'm definitely not a grief counselor. But I did some volunteer work to help survivors of traumatic events cope with the loss of a loved one. I had to go through a two week crash course on the grieving process and learn what to say/do and what not to say/do. \n\nRule 1) If you don't know what to say to someone that's grieving, don't say anything. Silence is golden. Instead, provide a sincere touch by placing your hand on their shoulder or arm. Don't rub or pat. Just keep it there. \n\nRule 2) Be at their level. If they're sitting, sit. If they're standing, stand. It's also best to not sit directly in front of them. But instead next to them or even at an angle. \n\nRule 3) DONT EVER TRY TO RELATE YOUR PREVIOUS EXPERIENCES WITH WHAT THEYRE NOW GOING THROUGH!!! Don't ever say things like, \" I lost my grandfather 3 years ago so I know this is hard.\" No. Say things like, \"this must be really hard for you\" or \"I can't even imagine how you feel right now.\" And \"I'm so sorry for your loss.\" This isn't about you. This is about them. \n\nRule 4) Ask them about their loved one. What did they like to do? What music did they listen to? Do they have pictures of their loved one that they can show you? Believe it or not, it's not actually inappropriate to ask these questions. The survivor will be able to reminisce back to happier times when their loved one was still alive. Do them a favor and let them tell favorite stories about their loved one and just listen. \n\nRule 5) if it's a very recent loss (ie same day), talk to the survivor as if their loved one is still alive. Right now, their brain can't process everything that is happening all at once. So don't try to force them to realize their loved one is gone. Let that come when they're good and ready.\n\nRule 6) DONT EVER TRY TO FIX THEIR GRIEF!!!!\nAnything you could possibly say will not make the grief process go by any faster. \"Your mom died at 87?! That's a long time! At least she lived a very long life! So you should be happy about that!\" \n\"They died in their sleep so at least they didn't suffer!\" \nThese are absolutely horrible things to say! And it won't make them feel better or speed up the process. \n\nRule 7) if they're not religious, keep Jesus and God out of this. None of this \"he/she was taken by The Lord for a reason\". \nOr even saying, \"everything happens for a reason\". If you're a believer of Devine fate, keep that to yourself. \n\nRule 8) let them do the talking. Let them take the lead. If there's an awkward silence in the room, don't try and make small talk to fill the silence. If they want to talk, try to ask open ended questions. \n\nI hope this helps. Let me know if you have specific questions and I'll do my best to answer them. But just know that I am in no way/shape/form an expert. \n\n", ">Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic.\n\nYes, death is part of life, and that doesn't make it hurt any less to lose a loved one. Your friend may be seeing her grandpa suffer on the way out. She may wonder what will happen to him. Most of all, she may feel sad that she won't have her grandpa in her life anymore. \n\nEven if death is a good thing for the deceased, that doesn't make it easy for the people left behind.", "Just say \"if you need to talk I'll be here to listen and help if you need me to.\" \n\nNo one likes to hear the everything is going to be fine, or pretty much what anyone says during this type of thing.", "Just be there for her. If she's having trouble with the looming thoughts about existence and life and meaning (which a death often provokes) I would advise her to just write all her thoughts down, it sometimes helps to sort your thoughts out, especially if she doesn't feel like talking about it. ", " i had the same feels as you for 41 years. something that arose for me recently was this: it's about change. intense change. a person that has been present for your entire life is no longer physically present. it's very very difficult to grasp. in my mind i fully understand death is part of life, but to grasp the finality and the \"why\" of it is a real challenge to our hearts. life will forever be different for your friend. there are a multitude of things that go on in our hearts and minds when loved one dies. it's not just about their death but coping with change. how to even consider our new world without them in it. sure you can say their memory lives on, they simply changed forms, you will see them in the afterlife and all that. but we are in the here and the now and they are not. the change can be unbearable. \n\nit's extremely bizarre to me that the lazy boy recliner my grandmother had when i was a happy go lucky, carefree child managed to outlive her. it's sitting in my living room right now. how in the hell can this crap live on and she did not? it can be difficult to make sense of in your heart. logically, i get it. otherwise it's a terrible challenge. i look at and sit in this recliner every day and i think of my grandmother. it doesn't make any sense. i even think it's probably full of her body dander. you know how we are constantly shedding. but why not her laugh or smile or warmth. her life. why must that be no more? all that's left behind are remnants and memories. ", "\"Death is something that I don't view as a bad thing which is why it's hard for me to be empathetic.\" \n\nEven if you see it as a natural thing, or you believe that they're in heaven, it's still sad that we don't get to see them or live with them and experience things together like we used to. It's the same as moving away from friends to another country, or breaking up with someone you loved, or giving up something you loved and used to have in life.." ]

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[ "How to give a great \"best man\" speech. My brother is getting married and he made me his best man. I want to know some of the basics and advanced things I can do to ensure I give one of hell a best man speech. ", "How to give a great \"best man\" speech. My brother is getting married and he made me his best man. I want to know some of the basics and advanced things I can do to ensure I give one of hell a best man speech. ", "How to give a great \"best man\" speech. My brother is getting married and he made me his best man. I want to know some of the basics and advanced things I can do to ensure I give one of hell a best man speech. ", "How to give a great \"best man\" speech. My brother is getting married and he made me his best man. I want to know some of the basics and advanced things I can do to ensure I give one of hell a best man speech. ", "How to give a great \"best man\" speech. My brother is getting married and he made me his best man. I want to know some of the basics and advanced things I can do to ensure I give one of hell a best man speech. " ]

[ "Keep it short, tell something humorous about his and your relationship, why he'll make a good husband, what you see in his new wife that will make him a better man and welcome her to the family. That's the basic outline! Nothing controversial it racey.", "Do these in order. 1.)Choose a theme you want to go with for the entire speech that puts the groom in a positive light. This is key to a good speech as it must connect to the groom, bride, and their new marriage 2.) Say something funny, particularly a story, that relates to the theme 3.) Say something sentimental and hearty praise of the groom that connects to the theme 4.) Address the bride with additional praise of the groom 5.) Ask everyone to join you in a toast to many years of happy marriage or another toast that connects to your theme. \n\nAdditional tips:\nKeep it short\nKeep it personal\nLet your emotions show\nBe real", "I've done 2 best man, plus a speech at my own wedding. I follow my 3 F's rule.\n\n Family\n\n Friends\n\n Future\n\nFamily: It's your brother so you have a good start. Think about growing up together, what you two did for each other and how you can use that to show how your brother is going to be a great husband and father. If you can throw in how the couple had great role models if at all possible. Don't know your family dynamics so that's on you.\n\nTalk about his wife(who you refer to as your sister) and how she has made him a better person, more compassionate and caring. Something everyone strives to be. If you can pinpoint a few things, do it, no matter how small. Steer clear of any character flaws that could be embarrassing.\n\nFriends This one is a bit more tricky. You want to address them in groups if possible. Your brothers friends, you might be more familiar so you can maybe pick one out and query if he/she ever thought this day would come. Add in your brother didn't even know he was miserable being single until he met his wife, you'll get a few chuckles. Address her friends, not sure how well you know them. If not well this is the perfect opportunity to say something like. \"I don't know them very well but it looks like my brother is in good hands\". You might be tempted to tell stories about your brothers past times with his friends that were wild, don't. Stick with the friends being a support structure.\n\nFuture: Here is where you circle back around to family. The new ones that will be growing within your family. Kids, aunts, uncles and cousins, a growing family tree. Bring up looking forward to your kids playing together as you and your brother once did. Again hit the role models if there is a long term marriage. Don't do this if there might be some ill will within the family dynamics, someone will be mad.\n\nOther Tips\n\nEmbarrassing stories are okay if done right. My cousin met his wife in an odd way, he mooned her. So I used that, a bit embarrassing but it can be worked with.\n\n\"Everyone says that it was love at first sight that brought these two together, but I feel it was the full moon that evening\"\n\nHalf the room erupted in laughter the other look inquisitively around until the joke made it's way over to them and then they laughed. My cousin and I are close so I added how looked forward to our kids playing as we once did, vacations to the beach, Easters(it was a thing with our families) and long visits over the summer(we would spend a month at a time at each other house)\n\nIf there are any family members that have passed away and should have been there bring it up, everyone will appreciate it. But don't name them specifically. My brother passed away at 25 and I would have given anything for him to be at my wedding. So here's what I did and how I made the mood lighter as it not to be a depression session. This was at the end of my wedding speech, all but the congrats.\n\n\"I really want to thank everyone for being a part of the celebration. Our families, their love and support over the years is what some can only wish to have. Our friends, the family we choose and allow into our lives, may they never leave. And to those we wish could have been here, may we see you again one day in a better place.\" (Pause, hold your glass in the air)\n\n\"But not to soon!!!!!'\n\n\"Congratulations Brother /Sister (Insert names here), may your lives be long and happy and your family be forever healthy!!!\"\n\nFamily, Friends, Future", "Recerence the love you see as strong between them and mention how beautiful it is to see that love celebrated by all in attendance.", "How well do you know the bride and the relationship between the groom and the bride? I would keep half of it (at least) about the two rather than the whole thing about the groom." ]

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[ "What is an easy way to make money for an 18yo? Hi, \nI work now for over 1 year at my school and teach children math and stuff, but get paid very paid. As i live in a small village it isn´t very easy to find a job. Is there a way to make a little bit of money on the internet (legal) ? \n\n\nthanks in advance", "What is an easy way to make money for an 18yo? Hi, \nI work now for over 1 year at my school and teach children math and stuff, but get paid very paid. As i live in a small village it isn´t very easy to find a job. Is there a way to make a little bit of money on the internet (legal) ? \n\n\nthanks in advance" ]

[ "Best way to make money in your situation is to not spend it. Open a savings or investment account and make regular deposits of x% per paycheck. Don't withdraw for anything except emergencies. You're running an ultramararhon here.", "You can take surveys, though the don’t pay too well. \n\nYou can help blind people complete tasks via video chat. \n\nYou can translate texts, media. \n\nSkills like coding, art, music, etc are all profitable online if you invest In the skills. \n\nTbh all of the easy ways to make money online make a pretty small amount. There are harder ways, like learning to code, but those can pull the equivalent of a full time salary if you’re good. \n\n\n\nIf you’re a good teacher, you could sign up to tutor students online, or to help people learning English practice conversation (Im assuming you speak English cuz this post is in English)" ]

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[ "Name your most versatile household material or product, and all the things you use it for. What is your most versatile household material or product? What are all the ways you use it for? \n\nExample: we use cornstarch for everything! Gravy and other cooking recipes, (separate container for...) dry shampoo, baby diaper powder, hubby crotch powder. It's so cheap and versatile! ", "Name your most versatile household material or product, and all the things you use it for. What is your most versatile household material or product? What are all the ways you use it for? \n\nExample: we use cornstarch for everything! Gravy and other cooking recipes, (separate container for...) dry shampoo, baby diaper powder, hubby crotch powder. It's so cheap and versatile! ", "Name your most versatile household material or product, and all the things you use it for. What is your most versatile household material or product? What are all the ways you use it for? \n\nExample: we use cornstarch for everything! Gravy and other cooking recipes, (separate container for...) dry shampoo, baby diaper powder, hubby crotch powder. It's so cheap and versatile! " ]

[ "Computer. I use it for procrastination.\n\nWashing up? Nope, computer.\nGardening? Nope, computer.\nTidying, hoovering, dusting? Nope, computer.\nIroning, making the bed, _thinking of other types of chores to add to the list_? Nope. Computer.\n\nIt does everything!", "Two products actually: baking soda and vinegar.\n\nGet a jar and lid, punch holes in the lid and then use this as your baking soda shaker. \nPut the vinegar in a spray bottle.\nThen when it's time to clean surfaces like the kitchen counter, kitchen and bathroom sinks, bathtub, shower curtain, just spray n' sprinkle, then wipe up with a cloth. The cheapest universal cleaner ever. I'll also vinegar-spray my salads and cooked vegetables for more flavor; also I once heard that restaurants sometimes add a bit of vinegar to their drinking water to make it taste better, I tried it and it's true, a couple spritzes makes the water taste fresher. I sprinkle the baking soda in my stinky shoes to reduce/remove odour. I spray the dirty glasses in the dishwasher with vinegar before I run the load to prevent calcium streaks on the glass (we have well water). That's all I can think if for now\n\n", "Definitely vinegar! \nIf you have extra smelly clothes, put vinegar in instead of liquid fabric softener and the smell will come out.\nPut some in a spray bottle and add a few drops of essential oils and you have Febreeze.\nIt's also really good to clean showers with, specifically the shower head that has a lot of buildup." ]

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[ "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)", "How to let your boss know you're thinking of leaving your job. I really like my current job, but I feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick in terms of pay and lack of benefits such as health insurance or vacation days.\n\nI actually really like my job and the team that I work with, but I'm tired of waiting for a full time offer. I made it very clear I want to become an official employee, and I was very close to becoming one until a huge restructuring began at my company very recently.\n\nI have a very good relationship with my boss and I know a full time offer will come eventually, I just don't know how long I will have to wait. \n\nI've already begun applying to other jobs. I don't know if I should tell my boss I'm looking now, or wait until I get an official offer and then let him know I'm about to leave.\n\nAny thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated :)" ]

[ "Never under any circumstances hint that you are leaving until you are ready to go. By letting them know you are looking around you are the bottom guy. It leaves you last for vacation, raises and the cushy jobs at your work. You will generally end up with more of the bad jobs and will be first let go in a layoff.\n\nIf you have already accepted a offer elsewhere - put in your notice. Even if you enjoy the work you will never be more than a employee number until you own the company - treat your employer the same. ", "I would sit down and ask him if they have a solid plan for making you full time, when that would be, and how you could help move towards that goal because you enjoy working with them so much.\n\nIf they try and string you along, take the first job that you like while acting professionally at your current one. Don't burn any bridges but once you decide to go, you need to go and not look back. They may counteroffer but you really need to go forward and get more experience elsewhere and build your resume. It is always best to leave unless they make an amazing offer of some sort.\n\n", "Wait until you have an actually offer. Once you have one just tell your boss that you are giving your two weeks because you excepted an offer that will benefit your career. ", "Don't say a fucking word!\n\nUntil you've got a new job lined up, it's none of their goddamn business. If you like them, give them a week or two notice. You don't have to, but if you want a good reference it's better. \n\nMy story: told my boss I was studying for medical school, and if I'm really lucky I'll get in in September. Was promoted to second in charge for doing excellent work, but she realized it would be a waste of money to send me to the proper training I was promised, and let me go in April when she found someone \"more permanent\". I didn't get in to medical school this year, so now I am fucking fucked. No job, no school, fucking awful, awful year. Can't even get a reference since she took the cowards way out and \"found a reason to fire me\" instead of talk to me about it. I told her i would fight it unless she changed it to \"laid off\", and she agreed. I'd still love to throw a fucking bomb through her window though. \n\nNever ever will I disclose anything like that again. \n\nGet your next job lined up first. But not a single person needs to hear a word about it until your ducks are In a row.", "Depends on how much you trust your boss really. I'd recommend asking for a meeting about career development. It will let them know that you're now looking for something more- and that you're happy to improve and develop at the place you're at. Try this, if it doesn't help out in the next while, then it's time to look at other opportunities. \n\nThis way you're A) Looking motivated B) Being respectful and mature C) Not threatening or doing anything to make the environment hostile and D) Showing that you're dedicated and enjoying the company you're at. \n\nHope this helps. ", "In the current job environment, I wouldn't give away this information. By letting them know, you are giving them the ability to find a cheaper replacement for you before you are ready to leave. \n\nBy all means, continue to ask for commitment from your employer to get what you want. \nMeanwhile, keep looking for another job. \n\nWhen you get the other job offer, give them your notice. The only thing that should keep you from leaving is a concrete written commitment to make you full time, with dates, responsibilities, and salary all included. Otherwise, just continue to do your job as a professional until your last day. \n\nThere is no reason that they should expect you to stay if you aren't getting what you need. There is no reason to treat you unprofessionally or feel you 'screwed' them as long as you tell them what you want, and then give them appropriate notice when the time comes. \n", "You are absolutely allowed to ask your boss how you can improve or what you can do to be a candidate for the next full time position. Then if you don't get the position, you follow up by asking what you failed at or what you could improve. The goal of this is not necessarily to make them give you the position... It's to assess whether you are working for a dirtbag. If they cannot give you realistic, concrete goals and expectations, then you are wasting your time and need to move.\n\nNever make an ultimatum or let them know you are about to leave until you are ready to walk out the door. Even if you have a job lined up in two weeks or something, assume that the day you give notice will be the last day you work at that job.\n\nYou need to realistically appraise what you are worth to the business. If you are a temp or part time employee, you are easily replaceable. Making an ultimatum or trying to leverage an offer into a better position won't work. The only way this is effective is if you have a very particular skill set or you are so heavily involved with the critical functions that they cannot afford to lose you. If finding a replacement would be expensive and time consuming, then you might be able to make it work. Otherwise, probably not.\n", "Don't, not until you have another an offer from another employer. It doesn't matter how good your relationship is with your boss.\n\nI've heard this a dozen times before. \"But my boss and I are really close. We're friends.\" No you aren't. As soon as you aren't being a \"team player,\" that'll become clear with alarming rapidity.\n\nInterview for a new position. When you have an offer, talk to you boss about it. Then you'll find out how much they want to keep you.", "Typically if youve been at a job for over two years without the chance to move up or get a decent raise its time to start looking.", "Your boss won't tell you he's thinking of canning you. He won't give you two weeks. \n\nGet your offer in writing and peace out. Tell them you're leaving to pursue other career opportunities. Don't burn bridges." ]

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[ "How to get rid of gnats that are coming out of the garbage disposal/sink? I've tried a cup of vinegar, a cup of vinegar and lemon juice and vinegar and dish soap. They seem to huddle on the brim, but none of them enter the solution. ", "How to get rid of gnats that are coming out of the garbage disposal/sink? I've tried a cup of vinegar, a cup of vinegar and lemon juice and vinegar and dish soap. They seem to huddle on the brim, but none of them enter the solution. ", "How to get rid of gnats that are coming out of the garbage disposal/sink? I've tried a cup of vinegar, a cup of vinegar and lemon juice and vinegar and dish soap. They seem to huddle on the brim, but none of them enter the solution. ", "How to get rid of gnats that are coming out of the garbage disposal/sink? I've tried a cup of vinegar, a cup of vinegar and lemon juice and vinegar and dish soap. They seem to huddle on the brim, but none of them enter the solution. ", "How to get rid of gnats that are coming out of the garbage disposal/sink? I've tried a cup of vinegar, a cup of vinegar and lemon juice and vinegar and dish soap. They seem to huddle on the brim, but none of them enter the solution. " ]

[ "Try filling it with ice then grinding the ice up while running the water. This also cleans the blades and cuts down on smells. It may temporarily clog up, but afterwards run some hot water and you'll be golden.", "Go to the dollar store and buy some Bleach. Pour some down the sink, maybe like 1/8th or 1/4th the bottle.\n\nWe do this work at and it works every time.", "Making a simple trap [like this](http://hci.frontstepsmedial.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/09/DIY-fruit-fly-trap-225x300.jpg) out of a small soda or water bottle works great, and gets around the huddle problem. I had a lot of success with apple cider vinegar.\n\nCleaning the sink with bleach like the others have suggested should be done, too, so clear out any that aren't going to come up to the trap right away. The other important thing is to make sure the trap is the most attractive thing for them to eat- seal up or refrigerate fruit and throw food scraps in plastic bags before tossing in the trash (or take out your trash more often until they're gone). Took a couple of days, but we were in the clear.", "Every time the sink is not in use, cover the drain. Keeping it airtight/covered seems to smother them & stop the breeding process.", "Clean it. Use ice cubes and dishwashing powder. When done, pull the rubber guard soak in bleach or run through dishwasher.\n" ]

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[ "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?", "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?", "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?", "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?", "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?", "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?", "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?", "How to become a meticulously tidy person (Help from former slobs?) I have always been a bit of a slob. It drove my mom crazy growing up. I am a chronic procrastinator with work and that transfers into cleaning as well. My sister on the other hand hates mess, so it's not like I didn't get enforcement growing up to pick up after myself, it's just that I was always resistant about it. \n\nI have always been the kind of person who leaves dirty dishes too long until they pile up and take an hour to do, or drops their dirty clothes on the floor when they go to bed and doesn't put them away. I will stay up too late and miss garbage pickup and end up with bags on my back porch, or pull out some things from a shelf to get something in behind and not put them back. I remember when I was a kid walking away from my little sister when I was done playing and trying to leave the mess for her to deal with. My habits have followed me my whole life. My surroundings will get progressively smellier and more crowded until my floor is covered in clothes and junk and I reach a breaking point. I always end up cleaning for 4 hours or so before having company because I need to do every room in the house from top to bottom, and I saw my mom run around doing a bit of the same, but I guess I'm on another level. And never has my space looked magazine-perfect. In Canada I guess I was used to this approach; when I went to friends' houses I could tell that although they had picked up for me they were also kind of messy or cluttered, so I just had this mindset like it's normal. \n\nI recently moved to Japan and I have been so impressed by how efficient, organized, and meticulously detail-oriented people are here. It made me see myself as a very unhealthy person to be someone who lives surrounded by dirt and garbage. I feel like my home is probably one of the dirtiest of my friends, and I want a lifestyle change. I have always kind of hated how I accumulate junk, but my environment here has made me see my habits with more perspective.\n\nI don't just want to be clean and free of junk, I want to legitimately enjoy cleaning, home repairs, and decluttering. I want to use my spare time productively and get to experience the freedom of being unburdened by mess. \n\nTLDR; How can I change my habits and environment to better facilitate cleaning rituals and enjoyment in having a neat space?" ]

[ "One piece of advice I can give is that if a task can be done in under a minute, do it right away. You can wash your dinner plate in under a minute. You could knock the dirt off your boots in under a minute. You can make the bed in a semi-neat way in under a minute. You can throw your dirty clothes in the hamper in under a minute. Habits like these will take time, but if you set a rule to start them now and never allow yourself to break from them until the habits are really formed and in place (research suggests 21 days minimum), you'll find that there is significantly less of your actual chores to do each week. ", "you need to break your habits. it took a while to get you to where you are, so it's gonna take some work, but don't give up m\n\nyou should start off with trying to tidy up everyday, at the end of the day, before you sleep. make a habit of, at the very least, washing your dishes and leaving your kitchen clean. \n\nnext, try to pick up after yourself and DISCIPLINE yourself. make sure everything has its own place, and when you use them you put it back when you're done. it might help to look into storage/way to organize your stuff that you enjoy using/looking at, so you would be encouraged to keep it that way. \n\nlastly. DECLUTTER. you can always have less stuff. get rid of all the things you don't need or use. you'll have less mess and less garbage in your life.\n", "Saying you are a chronic procrastinator sets your expectations for yourself going forward. Procrastination is a habit, not a genetic, predetermined trait. I would start with reforming your ideas about respect for your own time and space. Realizing that Current You can look out for Future You by doing things now that will benefit you later, like tidying up or cooking a proper meal or cleaning out that pile of junk that's been adding up.", "Get two big trashbags for stuff you want to throw away and stuff you want to donate. The trashbags will make it so much easier to get rid of stuff. I find that if you start by reducing your amount of clutter, it gets easier to tidy up the rest of it.", "Set a timer, clean for 15 min every day. That's usually all it takes to stop/get rid of clutter buildup. ", "I saw this on reddit and it seriously changed my life.\n\nDont put it dow, put it away.\n\n\nAs well\n\n\nWashing the dish is part of the cooking and eating process.", "I am similar and have recently really tried to change. I recommend that book \"The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up\" by Marie Kondo (a Japanese cleaning consultant!). A big help for me has been getting RID of the clutter -- by giving it away and donating it. (Some people take the time to sell it, but I don't have the energy for that.) When you reduce the amount of STUFF you have, cleaning is soon much easier, and life is that much more efficient.", "Clean as you go along. \nIt won't come naturally and there are times where there won't be enough time to do it, but it's a small step to regular cleaning. Also make a really upbeat playlist, so that you can listen to music while you clean things that take more time. It may help take your mind off of how you feel about cleaning." ]

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[ "How to get rid of deodorant stains from the arm pits on shirts I have some t shirts that I'd really like to be able to wear again. They have this waxy white deodorant residue caked on them. If I can get pictures I will.", "How to get rid of deodorant stains from the arm pits on shirts I have some t shirts that I'd really like to be able to wear again. They have this waxy white deodorant residue caked on them. If I can get pictures I will.", "How to get rid of deodorant stains from the arm pits on shirts I have some t shirts that I'd really like to be able to wear again. They have this waxy white deodorant residue caked on them. If I can get pictures I will.", "How to get rid of deodorant stains from the arm pits on shirts I have some t shirts that I'd really like to be able to wear again. They have this waxy white deodorant residue caked on them. If I can get pictures I will.", "How to get rid of deodorant stains from the arm pits on shirts I have some t shirts that I'd really like to be able to wear again. They have this waxy white deodorant residue caked on them. If I can get pictures I will.", "How to get rid of deodorant stains from the arm pits on shirts I have some t shirts that I'd really like to be able to wear again. They have this waxy white deodorant residue caked on them. If I can get pictures I will." ]

[ "If the deodorant you use is an anti-perspirant then the stain if from your sweat mixing with the aluminum. The stains get **Worse and stronger** with bleach so don't use that. Ammonia, baking soda, and vinegar are said to work well.", "I too am wondering this. \n\nI have some black shirts that have this caked on white deodorant stains on them. Washed them in various temperatures of water. They just build up and is now like a white hardened glue like material. \n\nIf you don't mind me asking, what brand of deodorant are you using?", "Also, I recently made the switch from antiperspirant to straight up deodorant (no white cakey stuff) - it has made a HUGE difference in my washing. I was a little surprised how difficult it was to *find* any regular deodorant. I ended up buy Tom's All Natural. I\n\nThis isn't for everybody, as we all have different levels of perspiration, but I'm never going back.\n\nI've had some success soaking clothes in Woolite, giving special treatment to the stains (applying soap directly to the underarm stains and letting it soak for a half hour to an hour).\n", "Try first soaking it for a while in warm water then rub the fabric together to loosen up the crud a bit. Try to scrape off as much excess as you can without damaging the fabric if it's really cakey. Run warm water through the stain and sprinkle some borax on it, not tons but enough to see the borax on the fabric and rub the fabric together to scrub again, then launder as usual. \n\nAlso, mom always told me not to machine dry anything stained. Not to say that if you've already put it through the dryer your screwed. It's just that the dryer kind of bakes the stains on, making removal harder. So just try not to machine dry it again until you've fixed the stain as much as possible.\n\nHope this helps.", "To lower the chance of getting mentioned streaks, apply deodorant after putting on shirt, and be sure to keep the underarm bush tamed", "I've scrounged the entire internet looking for this solution, and I've come to terms with the fact that removing said stains are impossible. " ]

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[ "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?", "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?", "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?", "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?", "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?", "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?", "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?", "When and when not to say 'Thank you' at formal dinners I just had a formal dinner with some business associates who are all considered \"superior\" to me at a high end restaurant. Every time a waiter or waitress brought out food or drinks, I would thank them. However, it seems that I might have been over-thanking them for I didn't notice others thanking as much as I did (and I have had far fewer formal dinner then the people I was eating with that night.) \n\nSo I'm just curious on what is the appropriate amount of times to thank a waiter or waitress? Was I fine thanking them for their help, or should I cut back a little bit since it is their job to serve us?" ]

[ "I don't know any of the \"rules\" but I would think it's better to show more gratitude rather than less. However, there is such a thing as too much apologizing. ", "The best rule is to say thank you when you are thankful. \n\nIn all honesty though, I've been to hundreds of client/associate/superiors dinners, and I always thank the waitstaff after each interaction. They have a job that is dedicated to giving me a good experience, and I'll be dammned if I don't thank them while they do it.", "More formal establishments that I've worked in are about silent and seamless service. You're supposed to pretend the server isn't there unless you're speaking directly to them to place an order. You thank them by tipping them 20% on what will most likely be a huge ass bill. \n\nUnless you're a young girl with tits, then every guy at the table will be saying thank you. \n \nIt all depends on the image you want to present, I suppose. As a retired server/bartender, I saw 100's of new faces a day. I could care less if you said thank you or please or even spoke at all as long as I got paid. ", "It's my habit to thank the waist staff at each interaction just loud enough for them to hear it, and make eye contact unless a conversation with my boss/client/swordswallower would be interrupted. It's just good manners. \nIf no-one is acknowledging the wait staff, they are rude, and it's a sign of how they think of, and treat people that are not at their level, including you.\n\n", "I don't think there is any hard fast rule. I say thank you anytime something is given to me at a table-glass of wine, dinner plate, etc. I say it only loud enough that the server can hear. It's polite and when I served food I always appreciated hearing that rather than a blank stare or being ignored. ", "I think you may be confusing when to/when not to etiquette with you being a grateful person and others feeling entitled. Keep being an awesome grateful person and don't let the others make you like them, thank you very much!", "Depends on the atmosphere of the restaurant and the company you're with. Often at formal dinners/events, the expectation is that the waitstaff be as unobtrusive as possible. Thanking them is actually a backhanded insult in a way, because it means *you noticed them*, and if you noticed them, then they weren't doing their job well enough. ", "Two sides here, I'm a hospitality worker and have been all my life. On one side I can tell you, most likely that your server never remembers their customers unless they are particularly difficult or are a regular customer. We appreciate every thank you but we aren't all that fussed, we just want you to enjoy your experience and for everything to go smoothly and to gtfo at close. Your friends on the other hand probably look down their nose at you for thanking the server because a lot of people seemingly look down their nose at their server these days. So it depends whose opinion you value your friends who will end up looking down their nose at you or the server who probably doesn't really mind either way. " ]

[ 18, 10, 6, 5, 5, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "What to do when you feel a cramp coming? I always try to relax and massage the muscle but it doesn't really seem to ease the pain. Is there something you can actually do to help?", "What to do when you feel a cramp coming? I always try to relax and massage the muscle but it doesn't really seem to ease the pain. Is there something you can actually do to help?", "What to do when you feel a cramp coming? I always try to relax and massage the muscle but it doesn't really seem to ease the pain. Is there something you can actually do to help?", "What to do when you feel a cramp coming? I always try to relax and massage the muscle but it doesn't really seem to ease the pain. Is there something you can actually do to help?", "What to do when you feel a cramp coming? I always try to relax and massage the muscle but it doesn't really seem to ease the pain. Is there something you can actually do to help?" ]

[ "These are the worst I get them every night and I usually straighten out my leg and point my toes upwards. Cramp usually disappears within a few seconds ", "My mom used to wake up at night bc of leg cramps in her calf. Now sleeps with a stainless steel serving spoon on her night stand. Cramps wake her up but she presses the spoon on her calf and it's gone in seconds. Something someone told her abt the stainless steel. ", "I scream until it is over. Pretending to be in pain ahead of time will make the initial hurt of the cramp not be so bad because your body has processed what is going to happen and it releases some adrenaline to help with pain tolerance.", "Building a habit of stretching your muscles when they arent cramping once or twice a day is probably the best way to go, but I'm not much of an authority on this.\n\nIf I was you I'd take this question to 4chans /fit/ board.", "Breathing properly \n\nPeople tend to gasp or hold their breath when cramping. Doing so only adds more stress to the ordeal. Breath out slowly through your nose, and don't hyperventilate.\n\nAside from that, stretch the cramping muscle out. It hurts, but only for a few seconds or sobvice the minutes that cramps can last.\n\nHeat pads or warm showers or baths can do wonders. I've had limited success with Epsom salt baths.\n\nSource: former military. Dealing with these things are very common." ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?", "How to stop touching my face? I do it all the time, especially to scratch my nose. Any tips on how to avoid doing it?" ]

[ "I touch my face all of the time. Now I’ve just replaced that habit with picking at my cuticles. \n\nMy cuticles are WRECKED. \n\nI do not recommend this.", "On the news today, they recommended using really strong smelling hand lotion to help you notice before you touch", "Buy the hottest peppers you can find and then slice them up. Remember to wash your hands after. You will soon remember to stop touching your face and or balls.", "Wash your hands with a scent of soap that you don't like. Every time you're almost about to touch your face you should notice the smell and remember to stop. In a few days you will be well on your way to crafting a good habit.", "I wouldn't say you should commit to NEVER touching your face, because itches and such happen. But you can always scratch some of them by rubbing on the shoulder of your shirt, and just making sure you wash your hands frequently to reduce the risk if you do indulge.", "You saw that door you opened leaving your work today? Some guy scrachted his balls and opened that same door you touched so now everytime you touch your face your putting that guys balls on your face", "Work for me at McD's when I managed there 10 years ago. Literally had a girl wash her hands so much that she volunteered to quit because she could take it. STOP TOUCHING YOUR FACE!! no one wants your face in their food.\nAlso that job drove into me not touching my face, and also being aware of touching anything else. Plus the 30 mins timer for washing your hands anyway.", "The BBC have this video on why we touch our faces and how to stop/reduce it https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-51879695\n\nI have this problem too and the best thing is to try and work out why you do it. If you can identify your triggers, you can try and avoid them as much as possible.", "Sell your toilet paper.\n\nWhen you start wiping your ass with your hand, you'll stop touching your face.\n\nYou're welcome.", "Keep both hands firmly on your penis and testicles. No warning against that. It will also help with the social distancing. Your welcome.", "I feel this. I have a septum and a labret piercing and I’m messing with them all the time. Currently waiting on a mask to arrive in the mail. (Don’t worry. It’s a reusable one not used by medical personnel!)", "Put them in your pockets and then cross your fingers in the pockets. Might give you a pause when you start untangling fingers to touch your face.", "I've read that wearing a face mask is very helpful in reminding us/making us aware/stopping us from this habit." ]

[ 8, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. ", "How should a man in his late 20s who doesn't like bars and is burnt out by online dating pursue respectfully meeting members of the opposite gender. " ]

[ "Get a dog. Take dog for walks in the park.\n\nMake sure the dog is cute, and you don't look like a hobo.\n\nOr take up yoga.", "Indulge your hobbies, and participate in group activities for them. It’ll be a stress relief if you’re burnt out, and if you find someone, they’ll be likely to enjoy the same hobby.", "Your local coffee shop has worked well for me \nand you get to see people at their best \nnot like bars where you see false representation of there personality", "Talk to your coworkers and keep in touch with the ones you got along with after you move on to better jobs. (I don't suggest dating current coworkers unless you are both extremely laid back. It's worked for me personally but has caused total chaos for other coworkers and friends) I met my fiance while working as a cashier at a bookstore where he also worked as a barista in the cafe. We've been together over 7 years and he still makes the best coffee.", "Volunteer for an organization that means something to you, you could find someone who cares about similar things. Take a class in something that interests you(pottery, improv, gardening, weight lifting, dance, whatever) same story", "Definitely get yourself exercising at a local park on the daily and you’ll run into someone that’s doing the same and you start by a casual wave then a hi etc. ... it boggles my mind how people have come to the point that they can only communicate and meet NEW people through social media etc. I remember growing up the only way to meet girls was at the mall and boy was I good at it 😇", "Say something nice to a stranger everyday. Male, female, young, old, handsome, average, just any random stranger. You meet interesting people this way, who might have interesting friends too.\n\nJust enjoy your life and share that with others.", "Met my current gf because I was/am a regular customer where she works and we just clicked instantly. No idea if that helps but...You don't always have to go out of your way trying to meet someone.\n\nHaving a dog and taking them out places is another good way of meeting ppl like others have said.", "Gym. (I’m assuming you work an 8-5 here but...) try going before work, rather than after so you don’t have to contend with the chads. Cheaper than a bar and exercise is a great stress reliever so even if for some reason you *don’t* meet someone it still has other advantages.", "There are classes on how to pickup up women. One of the most effective methods is called day game. Literally picking up women in the daytime. This allows you to meet very high quality women and you can actually see what they look like, daytime and all There's a lot of details that aren't obvious but I kw that it is possible to do and you can be successful at it if your willing to put in the effort. \n\nAnd most importantly don't listen to the haters. Evertone shits on the pickup community because they seem to think it makes you an asshole, it certainly doesn't. I'm married with kids so I've been out of the game for years and don't have any links for you. But I can tell you it works, I've seen it and have had success with it myself and you don't have to be an asshole to be good at it." ]

[ 19, 16, 8, 7, 6, 3, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "How can I fix a kleenex box when someone has picked at/ruined/loosened the plastic wrap and they just fall back in? ", "How can I fix a kleenex box when someone has picked at/ruined/loosened the plastic wrap and they just fall back in? ", "How can I fix a kleenex box when someone has picked at/ruined/loosened the plastic wrap and they just fall back in? " ]

[ "Remove all of the mangled celophane and then wrap the entire box in a a few layers of plastic wrap. Use a razor and cut a thin slit where you want it, and it should hold up. Or, one could buy a new box :)\n\nHope this helps! Peace!", "My mom used to knit kleenex box covers that made them look like houses with the tissues coming out the chimney. I'm sure that something like this would help hold them better, and give a bit of appeal as a bonus.\n\nSee examples: https://www.google.com/search?q=knit+house+tissue+box+cover&tbm=isch\n", "I just take a bundle of folded tissues and stick them up through the opening. But, not too many tissues so that it's too tight to easily take one tissue. " ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to get motivated in the morning I'm generally doing well and I'm happy with my everyday life but mornings are still absolutely awful. I just can't for the life of me find motivation to get up even if I'm doing things I enjoy that day. Every morning is an anxiety filled battle and I want nothing but ceasing to exist. When I actually get out and about I'm fine but yet it happens every time I have to get up early.", "how to get motivated in the morning I'm generally doing well and I'm happy with my everyday life but mornings are still absolutely awful. I just can't for the life of me find motivation to get up even if I'm doing things I enjoy that day. Every morning is an anxiety filled battle and I want nothing but ceasing to exist. When I actually get out and about I'm fine but yet it happens every time I have to get up early." ]

[ "Wake up to the sound of an alarm that you like (try the radio). Drink a big glass of water, then have coffee if you need. Find a breakfast food you like and is healthy. Try listening to upbeat music and think about all the tasks you can complete today. If you can bear it, cold showers are really invigorating.\n\nWhen you wake up, try opening the curtains. If it's nice weather where you live, opening the windows to get some fresh air wakes you up, and (I don't know how early you get up, but) seeing a sunrise can make you happy to be awake.\n\n\nHope this helps! ", "Completely ridiculous but drinking a bottle of water before bed ALWAYS gets me up in the morning. I'm the type of person though that once I'm up, I'm up and don't get back in bed (however, i do often find myself laying on the couch for an hour)\n\nAlso, protein with breakfast made a HUGE impact in my motivation for everyday life. " ]

[ 5, 2 ]

[ "Traveling with a pump lotion bottle but it doesn’t lock. How can prevent lotion from getting all over my bag? ", "Traveling with a pump lotion bottle but it doesn’t lock. How can prevent lotion from getting all over my bag? ", "Traveling with a pump lotion bottle but it doesn’t lock. How can prevent lotion from getting all over my bag? ", "Traveling with a pump lotion bottle but it doesn’t lock. How can prevent lotion from getting all over my bag? " ]

[ "*****Dont***** pump it down, wrap an elastic band around the stem part and that way it won't be able to be pushed down. Bag it incase you're still worried.", "Duct tape it down then put it in a ziplock. If taped well it should be fine but the bags there for backup. \n\nAlternatively you can get empty travel sized bottles that aren’t pump. They’re like $1 at Walmart. ", "Take top off. Put large piece of cellophane double layered over hole. Sure top back on with cellophane in place. ", "Do one final pump to get the pump all the way down and then wrap a rubber band around it and throw it in a Ziploc just in case" ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "how to remove sticker residue from a rubber/plastic surface WITHOUT harming the plastic? So I usually use GooGone or a similar product to remove sticky stuff (as can be left behind from tape, stickers, etc), but now I need to do so with a cosmetic automotive part. I know if I apply any kind of solvent it will also damage the part itself. Any ideas on how to remove the tape residue without harming the part?", "how to remove sticker residue from a rubber/plastic surface WITHOUT harming the plastic? So I usually use GooGone or a similar product to remove sticky stuff (as can be left behind from tape, stickers, etc), but now I need to do so with a cosmetic automotive part. I know if I apply any kind of solvent it will also damage the part itself. Any ideas on how to remove the tape residue without harming the part?" ]

[ "If you’re a fan of Goo Gone, you may like to know that they make a product called Goo Gone Automotive, which is gentler on paint and plastic.", "90% rubbing alcohol will remove it. It can also strip paint so test first. Be in a well ventilated area." ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I figure out if the apartment I am looking at is secretly terrible? Lots of mixed reviews online. ", "How do I figure out if the apartment I am looking at is secretly terrible? Lots of mixed reviews online. ", "How do I figure out if the apartment I am looking at is secretly terrible? Lots of mixed reviews online. " ]

[ "I've always visited a complex after looking at an apartment about 11 pm on a Saturday night. If hi jinks were to occur that might be the time. ", "You can also call the local police precinct (non-emergency line only!) and ask if they frequently get calls to that complex or area. The police know the places they get called to a lot, and usually they'll be more than willing to help you avoid a bad situation by telling you if the place is high crime. ", "you can usually find reviews for the place online and if that fails just go to the neighborhood and ask people" ]

[ 4, 2, 0 ]

[ "a method to stop couch seat cushions from slipping out of position It may be the result of owning a cheep ikea couch but it drives me mad the way I have to push the seat cushions back in place every couple of days. ", "a method to stop couch seat cushions from slipping out of position It may be the result of owning a cheep ikea couch but it drives me mad the way I have to push the seat cushions back in place every couple of days. ", "a method to stop couch seat cushions from slipping out of position It may be the result of owning a cheep ikea couch but it drives me mad the way I have to push the seat cushions back in place every couple of days. ", "a method to stop couch seat cushions from slipping out of position It may be the result of owning a cheep ikea couch but it drives me mad the way I have to push the seat cushions back in place every couple of days. " ]

[ "If you never want to turn the cushions over, use small bits of velcro to keep them in position.\n\nOr move to a high gravity world such as Jupiter.", "You looking for an [underlay pad](https://www.amazon.com/Kenley-Under-Cushion-Non-Slip-Underlay/dp/B076QBK6S1).", "You could try a rug pad, just cut it to size and slip it beneath the cushion. It’ll provide some additional friction, so maybe it won’t slip as much. If it works in the beginning and then it starts slipping again, take a damp cloth or a wet paper towel and give the rug pad a good wipe down to make it stickier again. Good luck!", "Seconding Velcro. My couch came with it automatically.\n\nI mean, I can't flip the couch cushions \\(they're made in such a way that there's a definite bottom and top\\) but it's a small price to pay." ]

[ 5, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "What should I do after an accident? I’ve seen a lot of contradictory information about road accidents, along with different reactions depending on the scenario. Should I move the vehicle off the road or wait until the police arrive? Should I call the police at all? What if the other person doesn’t want to/needs to leave? At what point do I ask for insurance info/call my provider?", "What should I do after an accident? I’ve seen a lot of contradictory information about road accidents, along with different reactions depending on the scenario. Should I move the vehicle off the road or wait until the police arrive? Should I call the police at all? What if the other person doesn’t want to/needs to leave? At what point do I ask for insurance info/call my provider?", "What should I do after an accident? I’ve seen a lot of contradictory information about road accidents, along with different reactions depending on the scenario. Should I move the vehicle off the road or wait until the police arrive? Should I call the police at all? What if the other person doesn’t want to/needs to leave? At what point do I ask for insurance info/call my provider?", "What should I do after an accident? I’ve seen a lot of contradictory information about road accidents, along with different reactions depending on the scenario. Should I move the vehicle off the road or wait until the police arrive? Should I call the police at all? What if the other person doesn’t want to/needs to leave? At what point do I ask for insurance info/call my provider?" ]

[ "Step one is to determine if you’ve been injured. You might think this would be obvious, but shock is one hell of a drug. Look at your body and try to use each of your limbs gently. \n\nStep two is look at your car, if you see smoke or leaking liquid you should get out, you never know if a fire will start. If you don’t see smoke, move your car off the road if it will move. \n\nTalk to the other driver, get their insurance information and give them yours. Don’t admit to fault, even if it’s obviously your fault. Let it be handled by insurance, you don’t want to end up paying more than you should. Take pictures of EVERYTHING. You want all of the damages, as well as the location of the accident to be recorded, for your car and theirs. \n\nGenerally you should call the police to get a report made, but for minor accidents it isn’t always the case. Check your local laws and insurance terms. If they do come, they’ll give you the information you need to file their report with insurance. \n\nIt’s hard to know if you can drive away from an accident, but leaking fluid and smoke are no nos. The police have seen more accidents than you, so they have a decent idea sometimes, but they aren’t mechanics. They should give you a hand regardless. \n\nThe main thing is to not let shock take over. Remain calm as best you can, ensure everyone’s safety, and record anything you can.", "Most states now require you to move your vehicle to the side of the road so you aren't blocking traffic if at all possible. Some people will argue about this because they have been instructed to do so while they were younger. \n\nDo it and you will make the investigating officer very happy. Also please find your license, registration and insurance card prior to their arrival if at all possible. If your state allows you to have a copy of your insurance ir and other info such as driver license and vehicle registration info please have it done before the officer gets there.", "After a couple incidents of no plates or stolen plates, I now take a picture of their VIN # almost immediately", "Move your car off the road safely if you can. You only need to call the police if someone has been injured, Or the cars cannot be moved. Exchange insurance information with the other driver. Do not admit to any fault. Use your phone to take pictures of any damage on both cars, the intersection or the roadway, anything that would help prove what happened. Get a pic of the other car's license plate. Get contact info from witnesses." ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n", "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n", "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n", "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n", "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n", "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n", "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n", "How to remove a concert wristband without cutting it. The wristband is an Electric Forest band. Similar to a DEMF wristband for my Michigan people.\n\nHere is a picture:\n http://i.imgur.com/2Y3F8eL.jpg\n\nI just want to not cut it...\n\n" ]

[ "You take a small but preferably strong plastic bag and put your hand in it. Once your hand is inside, you pull the whole bag underneath and through the wristband. Your hand should still be inside the bag and the bag is now kept in place by your wristband. Now you can pull the bag back over your hand, but this time over the wristband. It still won't be easy and it only works if the wristband isn't too tight, but the wristband should slide over your wrist more easily this way. Good luck brother!", "One way I've been able to take those off and keep the plastic piece intact is by twisting the fabric on both ends to make it as skinny as possible to slide the plastic fastener up and down. If it doesn't work by twisting clockwise then try counterclockwise. It takes a bit of effort, but eventually it works", "These things work because of a set of interlocking teeth inside the cylindrical plastic piece. Take something pokey and pry one of the two sets of teeth away from the fabric. Slip one side of the wristband out. Voila!", "The locking mechanism is plastic, and the cloth they use for the wristbands has some give. I simply played with, rotated, pulled, and manipulated the locking mechanism away from my wrist until I had enough give to remove the band. Source: Bonnaroo 2009", "Put on a latex glove, put the wristband on top of the glove, then slide the glove off while enveloping the band and sliding it all off your hand. ", "Those are easy. \n\nYou take the loose end and you twist it up as tightly as possible, holding the twist with your spare hand. You then ask a friend to grab the small bead and twist it in the direction of the spiral of the twisted end piece while pulling on the bead. It can be done yourself if your wrist is very flexible, but it's hard to do. ", "I had the exact same sort of wristband at Outlook Festival. You can try getting a pair of needlenose pliers and pulling out the inner piece of plastic, but if that's pulled too tight you'll have to cut.", "> I just want to not cut it...\n\nYea... suuuuuuure.\n\nI work at a community center with a large function hall. During our alcohol events, writbands are mandatory. This Doesn't help us, it helps the renter. The bartender will not serve anyone without a wristband, because that means that person did not come through the front door, and pass through event staff and security to be verified as being of age to be served alcohol. Serving minors is a big and expensive offense, and will cause the whole event to be instantly shut down. \n\nThe kinds of functions we have are weddings, or stag and doe parties. How bad would it suck if a newly engaged couple throwing this party to raise funds for their wedding get stuck with a rental bill AND whatever fines from police, and not be able to make that back because the party got shut down." ]

[ 18, 9, 7, 7, 3, 1, 1, -15 ]

[ " I always end up being submissive person in the friend zone where to start developing leadership skill.", " I always end up being submissive person in the friend zone where to start developing leadership skill.", " I always end up being submissive person in the friend zone where to start developing leadership skill.", " I always end up being submissive person in the friend zone where to start developing leadership skill.", " I always end up being submissive person in the friend zone where to start developing leadership skill." ]

[ "Empathy, knowing how relations work and how to communicate. \n\nLeadership is 80% people skills and 20% management.", "Most people don't know this, but there is actually a rear entrance to the Friend Zone™️. Just go past the closet of dead wet dreams, turn left, and it will be at the end of the hallway. That won't take you to the Potential Romantic Partner Zone™️, though, and it will prevent you from entering any NPRTs (Non-Professional Relationship Territories™️) with the Person You Want To Date™️, but it's preferable to trying to date someone who has no romantic interest in you and just wants to be adults about this for god's sake.", "You have seen leadership. Everyday. Be it your parents, teachers, bosses, government.\n\nYou know what works and what doesn't because you have been subjected to it. \n\nIt's very personal to develop your own style but think of all the times you felt cared for, mentored, coached, valued and pushed. These are the things you will wish to emulate.\n\nKey cornerstones for me revolve around a few core concepts\n\nOrganisation: Sounds basic but important. You can't ask people under you to be organised and efficient if you aren't. Keep logs/trackers etc\n\nTransparency: Speak to staff, let them know plans and that you see everyone as valid humans rather than an underling\n\nLeave personal pride at the door: Be proud of your team, want them to grow but never be too proud to ask for advice or help. \n\nHave a vision: you need to heading towards SOMETHING. \n\nI also recommend The 10 minute leadership challenge book. There is tonnes out there often for specific scenarios or industries", "If you don’t have someone to mentor you, start reading books. Perhaps get involved in Chamber of Commerce events to network with other leaders.", "I have been wanting to get into leadership for a while. What I have done is find local leadership bodies, like the institute for company directors, and found what they list as ideal skills for applicants to posses. I am now working with those skill lists as a way to develop myself." ]

[ 6, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Is there a way to store leftover clam chowder so that it maintains its consistency and doesn't get all liquidy? ", "Is there a way to store leftover clam chowder so that it maintains its consistency and doesn't get all liquidy? " ]

[ "I've noticed that sauces that gain thickness due to starches (flour, corn, potato, etc.) seem to break down after freezing and turn into a watery mess. I have yet to figure out the specific mechanism as I'm neither a physicist nor a chemist, but I compensate by reducing the sauce further after thawing out. Basically just cook it again until enough water evaporates to return to the desired consistency. Use a stove-top and pan for best results, not a microwave. \n", "when you reheat it, try stirring some water in- it sounds counterintuitive but it may help the cornstarch reabsorb the water. also, dont freeze it because that breaks up the starch granules. if all else fails try stirring a cornstarch slurry into the reheated soup. " ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "Novel uses for NFC tags Lots of phones these days have NFC support, and I've yet to find any uses for them that have been compelling enough for me to bother buying some tags. I really like the concept, though.\n\nSo... Hit me with your best uses for NFC tags!", "Novel uses for NFC tags Lots of phones these days have NFC support, and I've yet to find any uses for them that have been compelling enough for me to bother buying some tags. I really like the concept, though.\n\nSo... Hit me with your best uses for NFC tags!" ]

[ "I use it for my car so it turns on apps, Bluetooth, GPS, max brightness, and auto replies to text when my car is moving.\n\nOr if you want something simple, you can have one at home to turn on WiFi.", "If you search \"NFC\" on /r/Android, you'll get some pretty cool ideas.\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/Android/comments/10vipw/android_just_blows_me_away_sometimes_nfc/\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/Android/comments/124f12/outside_of_the_box_use_for_nfc_tags/\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/Android/comments/13kbf9/nfc_tag_giveaway_sponsored_by_tagsfordroid/\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/Android/comments/156jed/nfc_users_what_have_you_used_nfc_for_other_than/\n\n" ]

[ 6, 3 ]

[ "How to Not Procrastinate I'm having trouble concentrating, especially when it comes to work on the computer. Some tips would be appreciated.", "How to Not Procrastinate I'm having trouble concentrating, especially when it comes to work on the computer. Some tips would be appreciated.", "How to Not Procrastinate I'm having trouble concentrating, especially when it comes to work on the computer. Some tips would be appreciated.", "How to Not Procrastinate I'm having trouble concentrating, especially when it comes to work on the computer. Some tips would be appreciated.", "How to Not Procrastinate I'm having trouble concentrating, especially when it comes to work on the computer. Some tips would be appreciated.", "How to Not Procrastinate I'm having trouble concentrating, especially when it comes to work on the computer. Some tips would be appreciated." ]

[ "If you want to go beyond tips to a whole system for dealing with procrastination, there's a technique called \"VITALS\" that comes from Dialectical Behavior Therapy. The steps are:\n\nValidate - acknowledge that your procrastinating because you don't want to to something, and that it's OK to feel that way - there are legitimate reasons why you're avoiding it. \n\nImagine - visualize yourself doing it well and enjoying it. \n\nTake small steps - break the project or task down into small steps, since those will seem a lot less intimidating. \n\nApplaud yourself - think about what you've achieved.\n\nLighten the load: Think about what will become easier for you once you've finished the task.\n\nSweeten the pot: Build in something to make the task more enjoyable - this could be something like listening to music while you work, or using a scented candle you like, or having something good to snack on - and reward yourself when you are done. \n\nIt helps if you can remember to do it when you find yourself procrastinating.", "I used to have huge problems with studying for exams. What I used was an app that had two timers, so for example I could study for 20 minutes and have a 5 minute break or whatever and just continue to do that. \n\nI was usually pretty liberal with my breaks though (like 20/15) but getting some stuff done is better than sitting there constantly saying \"I'll start in a few minutes....\". It was a long time ago and I don't remember the app but searching for productivity or timers will probably bring up similar stuff", "I say to myself \"if I'm not going to do it now, why would I do it later?\"\n\nAs far as computers go, I have a garbage laptop that can't do much more than browsing and word processing. \n", "You need to stablish the importance of your tasks and work on daily goals. \n\nExample: if you have to work on different papers with different deadlines sort your assignments for different days and sit down to finish one at the time. \n\nIn the moment of sitting to actually do it turn off your phone plug your earphones, look for a suitable playlist in youtube and start to outline what you wanna do. \n\nStablish a 10 minute break every 45 minutes. \n\nThis has worked for me because i used to leave everything for last minute and go crazy working. ", "I have AFROTC in 200 days, to keep myself focused on working out I have a countdown clock in my room, just looking at it motivates me to workout harder.", "Go to the library or a little coffee shop with just the work you need, leave the phone and computer at home if you can, they're so appealing. Getting out of my place where the distractions are helps me focus on what needs to get done.\n\nBest of luck." ]

[ 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n", "Cooking for 1 I recently got an apartment all to myself, and to afford it, I need to start cooking at home. The problem is, it's kind of hard to buy food and cook for just one person (i.e. watermelon). Plus I'm lazy so I want to prepare food in bulk ahead of time. I'm looking for ideas on how to keep my food from going bad, but also make mealtime easy. I'm good a re-purposing leftovers, so that's not exactly the advice I'm looking for (feel free to share though;it might be helpful, just not what I'm asking.) I'm more looking for things like \"purchase a heat sealer and boil-in bags; portion soups and chilli into single servings; preserve in freezer until ready to reheat; simply boil and serve\"\n\n\nAny tips? Despite the clarification of my question, any advice that is half way relevant to eating single would be appreciated.\n" ]

[ "Get in the habit of freezing things in a way that makes defrosting easy for quick meals. Also, get familiar with vegetables that keep well, like spaghetti squash, sweet potaoes, onions, apples, and cabbage.\n\nMy dinner tonight: defrost the end of a slightly freezer burny bag of shrimp, toss with a touch of olive oil, worcestershire sauce, and hot sauce, then broil for 7 minutes or so. While that cooks, preheat a cast iron pan on low/med-low. Slice a 1/4 of a red cabbage thin, toss with a dressing of lime juice, mayo, and hot sauce, season to taste, stir into the cabbage with a handful of chopped cilantro. Slice up half an avocado. Take the shrimp out of the oven, set aside. Cook 4 corn tortillas in a little oil in the pre-heated cast iron. Assemble tacos. \n\nI'm out of shrimp and chicken right now, so I'll eat the leftover cabbage on cheese and black bean tacos tomorrow night. ", "I've been living alone for around a year now, and half of the battle is about habits. \n\nI've gotten into the swing of cooking up a massive batch of soup on a Sunday afternoon, portioning it out into plastic containers (1 serving), sticking a couple in the fridge for the next couple of days, the rest in the freezer. Then when cooking an evening meal, I take a soup out of the freezer, stick it in the fridge overnight and it's good to go for lunch the next day. \n\nI generally make 2 or 3 different soups so that I have variety, but it's just become part of my routine now. Cook one Sunday afternoon, have lunches for a couple of weeks.\n\nOn other tips, I get things like stir fry veg frozen. The bags of fresh that you can buy are usually too big for one serving, and once its open it goes bad pretty quickly. (Bad as in soft and damp, rather than inedible, which isn't ideal for crunchy fresh stir fries) With frozen veg, I can throw as much as I want in a redhot pan straight from the freezer, with some soy sauce, garlic, chili and protein (meat or lentils) and it's a fast meal.\n\nGenerally I agree with a lot of the other advice here though, if the meal is something a bit more involved than a quick fried rice, I just cook more and freeze the leftovers. That way I've got a stock of frozen 'ready meals' good to go with a quick defrost in the microwave or in the fridge overnight if I think ahead. Cuts down on losing money buying bags of fresh ingredients and having them go bad on you.", "Homemade soups and stews are cheap and easy. Make them in a large pot and leave out overnight (be sure to thoroughly reheat before eating again). As the stew ages, it will taste amazing. The only drawback is you have to eat the same thing for two or three days in a row. Works very well for chili.", "Freeze things like broth, pesto, and olive oil/herbs in an ice tray, then toss them into a freezer bag and you have pre-portioned stuff to toss into recipes. (I think I saw somewhere that it's app. 2Tbsp.) \n\nYou can freeze yogurt, so when you buy in bulk, portion it out and freeze the rest. This goes for milk and cheese, too. \n\nI'm a vegetarian and I think that makes it a lot easier to cook for one, so you might try to eat at least a few meals veggie a week to cut down on cost. \n\nPlanning a menu helps me a lot, too. I plan for about 6-7 dinners, shop for those dinners and then if I divert from the plan, add the original dinners to the following week's menu. \n\nFreezer is your friend. Rice and beans, too. ", "Buy lots of small plastic containers. If you cook, cook for 4, eat one and divide the remaining food into small plastic containers and freeze it. The bigger your freezer the more variety in food you have till you \"have to eat XY again\". Freeze every piece of a meal for itself (so the mashed potatoes in one container and the peas in another) so you can recombine them (instead of mashed potatoes+peas twice and rice+carrots twice you can have mashedpotatoes+peas, rice+carrots, mashed potatoes+carrots and rice+peas...to give a short example).\n\nBe creative. A small amount of risotto can be a side dish to an escalope, mashed potatoes+peas+carrots combined with cheese can make a casserole, etc. etc. etc.", "Brussels sprouts keep a long time in the fridge. \n\nTo prepare:\n\nCut off bottom stem bit, and discard any gross outside leaves.\n\nNext, slice 6-10 Brussels sprouts into 1/8 inch slices. Be careful. Use a sharp knife, and after first slice, turn onto flat side for stability. Carry on slicing. Safety first: Keep your thumb in the back, out of harms way. Google 'knife skills' images, maybe. These little nutty-flavored cabbages are hard. Don't want any downvotes because cut yourself. ;)\n\nBit of butter in the pan, med-high heat. Start browning those Brussels up a bit. \n\nAfter it starts looking browned and cooked a bit, throw in a splash of water or stock to make steam and cover. How much is enough? Not too much but just enough to satisfy ... like the last mouthful of beer in a bottle. That much.\n\nAdd slices of cold, leftover chicken meat or what ever you have.\n\nKeep covered. \n\nTurn off heat after a few minutes -- when everything is steaming away and has become as hot as it's going to get -- basically we wait a few minutes for the meat to heat up. It won't take long. Let it sit for a bit.\n\nGet out your bottle of hot sauce and a beer. It should be ready by the time you find a clean fork.\n\nYou may want to add salt, but there seems to be a natural salty taste in this that I like. There is salt in the salted butter I use. You get enough salt in other foods, so this might be a good time to have a meal with less.\n\nThis dish also can tastes great with tomato sauce added to the mix ... but it looks like hell.\n\n\n\n\n", "Anything casserole. Anything stirfry. Homemade /r/pizza . There is also 1001 ways to make /r/ramen. My personal favourite - [palak paneer](http://chefinyou.com/2013/01/palak-paneer/) (Add some chicken if you like meat)", " first thing to remember is that most dates on food is a best buy date, not an expiration date. if something has gone bad you will be able to tell by looking at it or smelling it. another thing to remember is, some stores will actively change the date on foods to help them sell. one store near me pushes back the date on their meat so much that if you don't use something the day you buy it, then it will start to spoil.\n\n all of that aside, knowing what to freeze/refrigerate is a big part of keeping food from going bad. things like onions and tomatoes should not be chilled for long, the natural sugars in them like to break down and sometimes you end up with \"melted\" veggies in your 'fridge. try to keep your refrigerator temp between 35-40.\n\nboil-in bags are a good idea but unless you want to store things for a long time (2-3months+) i wouldn't go buying a sealer just yet. the bags aren't that cheap and you do not get many uses out of them. most things can be frozen just fine in baggies or plastic containers and aren't usually damaged by the cold during shorter periods of freezing. \n\nthis last part may be a no brainer but you would be surprised, do not stuff your freezer full, make sure there is room for air to circulate around the food. and clean the freezer regularly so the built up \"odor\" from the previous food doesn't have a chance to effect the flavor of the current food.", "Burgers and sausages are good. You can precook the meat, then assemble the bun and condiments without the meat, put the meat on top. Once you're ready to eat, warm the meat on its own and fully assemble the burger. \n\nCup o noodles make a good base. Add finely chopped veggies or left over meat, and you have a pretty hearty meal. May have to make two. " ]

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[ "Not continually losing things I swear I must have a malfunctioning part of my brain or something. Over the last 2 years I have had to replace my bottom retainer 3 times, and now im sitting here missing it for a fourth time! \n\nI swear I never do this with anything else, and honestly I thought I had it next to my bed stand until I just reached for it reflexively this morning. \n\nHow do i cure this!", "Not continually losing things I swear I must have a malfunctioning part of my brain or something. Over the last 2 years I have had to replace my bottom retainer 3 times, and now im sitting here missing it for a fourth time! \n\nI swear I never do this with anything else, and honestly I thought I had it next to my bed stand until I just reached for it reflexively this morning. \n\nHow do i cure this!" ]

[ "Making assigned and labeled spots for small stuff always helped me in the past! The hardest part was discipline myself not to leave shit around. ", "Have a checklist of important things to run through every time you leave somewhere. I always make sure to have my wallet, keys, buss pass, work ID, both sets of head phones, and my watch. You can adjust list for yourself. Mine is a mental list but maybe at first write it down on a note card and keep that with you (in your wallet)" ]

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[ "How to stay calm and focused during surprise confrontation? I am in a big city where confrontation at some point is inevitable. However, if I have to argue or get into a verbal confrontation I get extremely anxious and start shaking all over.\n\nIf I have to assert myself and handle a conflict I get very jittery and can't gather my thoughts or composure.\n\nWhat is the best way to avoid or control this? I'm not afraid of the idea of confrontation it's just in the middle of a surprise argument I panic and can't control my nerves. For instance having to dispute a charge with a clerk or explain to them that they are wrong about their own policy. Or having to complain to a manager about something that isn't right?\n\nHow do I channel my self-entitled, inner Karen energy when necessary?", "How to stay calm and focused during surprise confrontation? I am in a big city where confrontation at some point is inevitable. However, if I have to argue or get into a verbal confrontation I get extremely anxious and start shaking all over.\n\nIf I have to assert myself and handle a conflict I get very jittery and can't gather my thoughts or composure.\n\nWhat is the best way to avoid or control this? I'm not afraid of the idea of confrontation it's just in the middle of a surprise argument I panic and can't control my nerves. For instance having to dispute a charge with a clerk or explain to them that they are wrong about their own policy. Or having to complain to a manager about something that isn't right?\n\nHow do I channel my self-entitled, inner Karen energy when necessary?", "How to stay calm and focused during surprise confrontation? I am in a big city where confrontation at some point is inevitable. However, if I have to argue or get into a verbal confrontation I get extremely anxious and start shaking all over.\n\nIf I have to assert myself and handle a conflict I get very jittery and can't gather my thoughts or composure.\n\nWhat is the best way to avoid or control this? I'm not afraid of the idea of confrontation it's just in the middle of a surprise argument I panic and can't control my nerves. For instance having to dispute a charge with a clerk or explain to them that they are wrong about their own policy. Or having to complain to a manager about something that isn't right?\n\nHow do I channel my self-entitled, inner Karen energy when necessary?", "How to stay calm and focused during surprise confrontation? I am in a big city where confrontation at some point is inevitable. However, if I have to argue or get into a verbal confrontation I get extremely anxious and start shaking all over.\n\nIf I have to assert myself and handle a conflict I get very jittery and can't gather my thoughts or composure.\n\nWhat is the best way to avoid or control this? I'm not afraid of the idea of confrontation it's just in the middle of a surprise argument I panic and can't control my nerves. For instance having to dispute a charge with a clerk or explain to them that they are wrong about their own policy. Or having to complain to a manager about something that isn't right?\n\nHow do I channel my self-entitled, inner Karen energy when necessary?", "How to stay calm and focused during surprise confrontation? I am in a big city where confrontation at some point is inevitable. However, if I have to argue or get into a verbal confrontation I get extremely anxious and start shaking all over.\n\nIf I have to assert myself and handle a conflict I get very jittery and can't gather my thoughts or composure.\n\nWhat is the best way to avoid or control this? I'm not afraid of the idea of confrontation it's just in the middle of a surprise argument I panic and can't control my nerves. For instance having to dispute a charge with a clerk or explain to them that they are wrong about their own policy. Or having to complain to a manager about something that isn't right?\n\nHow do I channel my self-entitled, inner Karen energy when necessary?", "How to stay calm and focused during surprise confrontation? I am in a big city where confrontation at some point is inevitable. However, if I have to argue or get into a verbal confrontation I get extremely anxious and start shaking all over.\n\nIf I have to assert myself and handle a conflict I get very jittery and can't gather my thoughts or composure.\n\nWhat is the best way to avoid or control this? I'm not afraid of the idea of confrontation it's just in the middle of a surprise argument I panic and can't control my nerves. For instance having to dispute a charge with a clerk or explain to them that they are wrong about their own policy. Or having to complain to a manager about something that isn't right?\n\nHow do I channel my self-entitled, inner Karen energy when necessary?", "How to stay calm and focused during surprise confrontation? I am in a big city where confrontation at some point is inevitable. However, if I have to argue or get into a verbal confrontation I get extremely anxious and start shaking all over.\n\nIf I have to assert myself and handle a conflict I get very jittery and can't gather my thoughts or composure.\n\nWhat is the best way to avoid or control this? I'm not afraid of the idea of confrontation it's just in the middle of a surprise argument I panic and can't control my nerves. For instance having to dispute a charge with a clerk or explain to them that they are wrong about their own policy. Or having to complain to a manager about something that isn't right?\n\nHow do I channel my self-entitled, inner Karen energy when necessary?" ]

[ "Think about how much a confrontation would actually matter a week from now. If you find yourself fighting over something that in the broader picture doesn't matter, just walk away, or keep that in mind while you argue. When the stakes are much lower, you won't feel so nervous.", "The high pressure situation is triggering a \"fight or flight\" response. The only thing I can recommend is breathing... You get jitters and scrambled brain because (most likely) of rapid adrenaline surge and the one thing adrenalin hate the most is oxygen. \n\nIt is very important how you are breathing, in trought your nose, out through the mouth. If you keep breathing through the mouth you will hyperventilate very fast. \n\nSo while allowing oxygen into your system it will help to burn the adrenaline. Mind you, it doesn't happen immediately, it takes time.\n\nI know the above is not the golden bullet, but should definitely help with the recovery from a stressful situation such as (confrontation).\n\nA long term solution would be to address the underlying issues, let's face it, we all have our demons and sometimes we need to come to peace with them, it is not always possible to fix everything right away, it is a life long process of self improvement.\n\nWhat I'm going to say now is going to sound silly and bizarre. I'm not being judgemental in any way. If this issue is affecting your quality of life, you should definitely contemplate some form of therapy, that could allow you to place safely place yourself a similar stressful situation with the possibility pull the plug at any time. Something like acting, improve and/or some martial arts classes. \n\nYou get the idea. \n\nThe goal would be not to suppress the existing behaviour patterns, but to replace them with new ones.", "I find that not responding immediately helps. I usually try to take a deep breath and in that time gather my thoughts so that I can respond appropriately. I used to get very anxious and jittery during confrontations but now I am generally able to maintain my composure during it but the jitters hit me afterwards.... ☹️", "Definitely not the only one. My nerves take over and my voice shakes, even in the event of a **planned** confrontation when I semi know what I wish to say. This is mostly the case when with a stranger, or in a professional environment (ie. standing up for self or others at work). It really sucks and is super frustrating because it always ends in \"I wish I had said that\". Despite being intelligent, I seem to lack ability thinking on my feet with confident counter arguments when nerves are running high.", "This is one of my problems as well. What helps me is being able to be self-aware of what I feel first and if it's valid considering the whole situation. This takes practice and you need to practice thinking quickly, almost all at once. You need to be able to control what you feel (or else you'd react irrationally) and ask yourself some questions. This helps rationalize your thoughts and emotions. I think those are one of the first steps. This is really hard to do though and you really need to be faced with tough situations to be able to practice. Other times, I have had to really hold my emotions before I react anything and reaaally stretch my patience, or ask a companion (if available) about the situation if I couldn't get it around my head at the moment. I'd rather be right, hold my composure, and get my point across properly rather than just lose it and create an unneccessary scene.", "I have always been the same way for any kind of confrontation. My knees shake, my hands shake, my voice will crack, sometimes my lips quiver. I can never seem to control it. Not sure if its just pure adrenaline, fight or flight response. Maybe just more exposure to high pressure situations, so the body is more accustomed to that type of environment. \n\nGlad I'm not the only one! :)", "100 pushups a day for 2 months solid. A pullup bar. Start with 5 reps a day, then 10,20,30, 40.\n\nAs you build, you will find physical hardships easier to handle and physical confrontation mostly goes away.\n\nNext level: join a mma club for 2 years and try not to beat up everyone in your way." ]

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[ "How to deal with your friend who you have a crush on that just went through a break up? So this really good friend of mine, who I've had a crush on for a long time, just broke up with her boyfriend yesterday. So what should I do? How do I deal with this situation and her?", "How to deal with your friend who you have a crush on that just went through a break up? So this really good friend of mine, who I've had a crush on for a long time, just broke up with her boyfriend yesterday. So what should I do? How do I deal with this situation and her?", "How to deal with your friend who you have a crush on that just went through a break up? So this really good friend of mine, who I've had a crush on for a long time, just broke up with her boyfriend yesterday. So what should I do? How do I deal with this situation and her?", "How to deal with your friend who you have a crush on that just went through a break up? So this really good friend of mine, who I've had a crush on for a long time, just broke up with her boyfriend yesterday. So what should I do? How do I deal with this situation and her?" ]

[ "Well, for future reference, don't wait to tell a girl how you feel, unless these feelings kind of *develop* over the course of knowing her.\nIn the future, if you kind of set the tone from the beginning , you'll avoid situations like this. \nYou'll Avoid being caught in that zone where you like her, want to be around her, and are afraid if you tell her or she finds out it might blow your chances, but if you do nothing, very likely nothing will happen either way you'll be spinning your wheels and potentially waste a lot of both of your time.\n\nSo ofc you're going to tell her how you feel.\n\nThe unfortunate thing about this situation is, if you make a move now, she's probably going to get it in her head that you were just pretending to be friends with her to get in her pants - bad bad bad zone. Muchos drama, she runs to her female friends thinking \"all men are assholes\" and who could blame her.\n\nSo ofc you gotta wait till after she's done mourning. \n\nIn these circumstances I find it best to NOT do what her FEMALE friends will do (or what you might do if this girl was your sister) and insist that the man is a jerk, asshole etc. And that you would never treat her like that \n\nAnd end up eating icecream on her couch watching Netflix further just jamming you down into unescapable vortex that is the friend zone.\n\nIn my experience it's always to your advantage to ask yourself these questions:\n\n1. How were her past boyfriends like?\n\nIf she keeps dating jerks, guess what, weather she admits it or not (or knows it or not), no matter what the other posters here might say, she's into (one way or another) jerks, or those kind of guys'(I.e guys like her previous boyfriends).\n\n2. In what way can I avoid trying to *convince* her to be my girlfriend.\n\nIt's so tempting at times like these to tell her about all the ways you're DIFFERENT than the type of guy she constantly hooks up with. And the media constantly shoves down our throats that this is the thing to do. Girl breaks up with boyfriend, is tired of dating all these jerks, just wants to meet a \"nice guy for once\". In comes the platonic-male-best-friend to save the day. And they live happily ever after.\n\nIn practice it almost never goes down like that.\n\nUsually because in the process of trying to convince the girl that you're NOT like her last 10 boyfriends. The \"he's just pretending to be my friend to try and get with me\" mechanism kicks in and you're forever massively creepy to her.\n\nThis kind of thing also seems really underhanded.\n\nSo don't do that.\n\nYou want to ideally, demonstrate qualities that are *similar* to her past boyfriends. \n\nAnd in my experience even siding with the boyfriend a *little* is good because it at least differentiates you from the shit load of guys that in this situation will desperately (sensing opportunity) try to convince the girl how different/better they are than the boyfriend and how they'd never treat them that way.\n\n\nThis makes sense the way a man thinks, very logical, weighing the pros and cons of a situation. But ultimately communicates the wrong things, and doesn't hit home as much for a girl, even being off-putting.\n\nIt's the same as a guy who would try to convince a girl to sleep with him because he's rich. If you want to find a sure fire way for a girl to reject you fast, when you meet them initially, make sure to show off your fast car, and loads of money. (Major douche alert)\n\n\nSo don't do that and you'll gain points.\n\nSo if you can't convince the girl to date you. What can you do? The best thing is to make her happy. And to make her happy, you gotta make you happy. Emotions are contagious and what you feel she feels. \n\nSo ideally you'd want to be in a fun, adventitious, comfortable and horny mood.\n\n\nTl;dr? \nPut yourself in a state like (above sentence), don't try to convince her to be your girlfriend, side with the boyfriend a little and wait till after the mourning period is over to make any major moves.\n\nKeep yourself feeling in a good mood and just spend more and more time with her. If you're also getting horny and you feel comfortable, over time these good feelings will transfer to her and she'll naturally be attracted to you and horny.\n\nIf it feels \"on\" it probably is. This is the time to make your move. (Ie kiss her) Might be nerve wracking but you gotta pull that trigger. From that point it'l be on like donkey kong. If she starts having second thoughts, again don't try to convince her to have sex with you or date you. Just let her know it's cool it's not a big deal, keep those good vibes going and try again in a few minutes, and if it's not gunna go down, no big deal, just try again another day.\n\nIf you get rejected, or she says something like \"I don't want to ruin our friendship\" just stop, kind of take a step back, keep those good vibes going and try again in a bit the big thing is to convey that it's not a big deal and NO PRESSURE. After a few times of that (maybe over the course of a few days) and she's still not comfortable, It's probably time to let go and find someone else to date. (The upside to this is, if you are truly happy with your new girlfriend there's a small chance she might get a bit jealous or kind of realize what a great guy she missed out on, a bittersweet victory)\n\nBut a strong No is as good as a strong Yes. Not knowing or being stuck in between can be a massive waste of time. And ultimately getting one or the other allows you to move forward. Rather than being stuck in limbo.\n\nGood luck and have fun.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Option 1 (bad guy): rebound guy\n\nOption 2 (good guy): be very supportive while not advertising your intentions. Once the mourning period is over, you may then begin your campaign. \nDisclaimer: this option can get you 'friend-zoned' in the first step. ", "Gove them time and space for sure, but go forward with honest intentions. If they don't pick you, trust me there's others. ", "Well it's less important what you say, and more important what you do/how you are (ie vibe) and with the right vibe almost anything can come off.\n\nThink of a comedian telling a joke, vs someone who maybe isn't as classically funny, who just kind of tells the words of the joke really flat and without much expression. \n\nThe vibe/delivery and \"non verbal communication\" often take precedent over the actual 'data' of what you say. \n\nSo I'm not going to give you any specific line to say. Just as much as possible put yourself in the exact mood you'd want her to be in and just spend some time with her. Don't think too much about \"telling her you like her\" rather, through your mood/vibe she will feel that you're attracted to her, and over time she'll start to feel the same.\n\nYou might do some things to test if she's receptive. Like for example if you're holding her hand and you squeeze, and she squeezes back, that's a good sign. \n\nOr for example she's laughs and touches you (or punches you) that's usually a good sign. \n\nIn general you'd want to test to see if She's comfortable with things like holding hands, before she's comfortable with being in close proximity with you, before she's comfortable with the idea of kissing you, before she's comfortable with... Well you get the point. It doesn't always happen like that and there have been times where a girl and I haven't really been in physical contact at all, then when we're alone things rapidly heat up.\n\nSo yeah don't worry about what to say, just mostly focus on having fun and feeling good, and she'll feel the same.\n\nNo worries bro! " ]

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[ "How to read faster? Hello fellow redditors,\n\nI really love to read books but it seems to me that I am a rather slow reader. I've once been told that if you \"read every line silent in your head\" you will never be able to read fast. And I do that.\n\nIf I want to, I can read really fast, look over words, remember everything and I can gather more information and in a very short period of time. But that's exhausting and not fun at all.\n\nDoes/Did anyone of you encounter a similiar situiation and has a few tips for me to be able to read faster? Thanks a lot! :-)", "How to read faster? Hello fellow redditors,\n\nI really love to read books but it seems to me that I am a rather slow reader. I've once been told that if you \"read every line silent in your head\" you will never be able to read fast. And I do that.\n\nIf I want to, I can read really fast, look over words, remember everything and I can gather more information and in a very short period of time. But that's exhausting and not fun at all.\n\nDoes/Did anyone of you encounter a similiar situiation and has a few tips for me to be able to read faster? Thanks a lot! :-)", "How to read faster? Hello fellow redditors,\n\nI really love to read books but it seems to me that I am a rather slow reader. I've once been told that if you \"read every line silent in your head\" you will never be able to read fast. And I do that.\n\nIf I want to, I can read really fast, look over words, remember everything and I can gather more information and in a very short period of time. But that's exhausting and not fun at all.\n\nDoes/Did anyone of you encounter a similiar situiation and has a few tips for me to be able to read faster? Thanks a lot! :-)", "How to read faster? Hello fellow redditors,\n\nI really love to read books but it seems to me that I am a rather slow reader. I've once been told that if you \"read every line silent in your head\" you will never be able to read fast. And I do that.\n\nIf I want to, I can read really fast, look over words, remember everything and I can gather more information and in a very short period of time. But that's exhausting and not fun at all.\n\nDoes/Did anyone of you encounter a similiar situiation and has a few tips for me to be able to read faster? Thanks a lot! :-)", "How to read faster? Hello fellow redditors,\n\nI really love to read books but it seems to me that I am a rather slow reader. I've once been told that if you \"read every line silent in your head\" you will never be able to read fast. And I do that.\n\nIf I want to, I can read really fast, look over words, remember everything and I can gather more information and in a very short period of time. But that's exhausting and not fun at all.\n\nDoes/Did anyone of you encounter a similiar situiation and has a few tips for me to be able to read faster? Thanks a lot! :-)", "How to read faster? Hello fellow redditors,\n\nI really love to read books but it seems to me that I am a rather slow reader. I've once been told that if you \"read every line silent in your head\" you will never be able to read fast. And I do that.\n\nIf I want to, I can read really fast, look over words, remember everything and I can gather more information and in a very short period of time. But that's exhausting and not fun at all.\n\nDoes/Did anyone of you encounter a similiar situiation and has a few tips for me to be able to read faster? Thanks a lot! :-)" ]

[ "I can't really give you tips on how you could train yourself to read faster, but I used to use this tool a while ago. It's called [Readsy](http://www.readsy.co). You chuck whatever text you want in there (or a URL) and it will 'speed read' flash the text to you. You can pick your speed too. A bit of fun :)", "OK, speed reading is literally just to absorb info. \n\nReading for fun is slower, but that's kinda the experience. The only way to get marginally faster is to keep reading. ", "I learned to reduce distractions to read faster. If you are in a distracting environment, you will naturally read slower to improve comprehension.", "The best way I practice is to utilize the inner voice for something menial, while reading without it. Say in your head \"one, two, three\" over and over, while letting your eyes move over the page. With practice your retention will skyrocket after the first couple of tries. It worked for me, but it does take time and practice. I suggest you do this with unimportant reading. If you do this for a class or a job, you might miss important peices of information", "I find that reading out loud stops me from accidentally skimming over it. That's not really a tip to read faster, but more thoroughly.", "Hi. Here;s what I've done:\n\n1. Purchase this app from PlayStore: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.heku.readingtrainer&hl=en\n2. Pre-commit to doing 3 units per day (takes about 40 minutes)\n3. Persevere\n4. Profit.\n\nThis has improved my reading speed from ~100 words per minute to ~200 words per minute. I've been using it since 1 month now. It has done wonders." ]

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[ "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. ", "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. ", "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. ", "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. ", "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. ", "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. ", "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. ", "How to refrain from keeping my arms crossed during conversations or during meetings. I notice myself very often keeping my arms crossed during business meetings and while having casual office conversation. I'm afraid it gives off the impression of disinterest and annoyance even when I'm trying to be engaged. " ]

[ "Unfortunately, this is something you'll have to focus on when having conversations, at least for a while until you build a new habit.\n\nSimilar to public speaking, body language conveys 80-90% of what you're saying to another person. By being conscious of what you're doing while having a conversation, you can control your body language and how you say something. It might be a confidence aspect or just something you've learned over time and never was taught to do something different, when you cross your arms across your chest, you're saying to the other person or audience that you're closing yourself off.\n\nInstead of crossing your arms, either place your hands in your lap when sitting or place one hand in a pocket while standing. With the hand in your pocket, put a small item that will help remind you to keep your arms by your sides instead of crossing them. It can be anything from either your childhood or some kind of momento that will trigger the new behavior. \n\nThis also works when you're public speaking. It will help to keep you calm during a speech or presentation, keep you focused on the topic at hand, and allows you to maintain confidence. Whatever you do use, don't put something that will make noise when you touch it and certainly don't fiddle with it in your pocket. \n\nFor instance, I have an obsidian arrowhead in my pocket whenever I do a presentation. I have tendency to speak fast, say \"um\", and try to fill silence. To calm myself down and slow my speech, the arrowhead reminds me of when I was a kid on vacation with my parents and how cool the place was. I keep in my pocket or hold it in my hand when doing my speech.", "Take a notepad, pen and a cup of tea/coffee/water in with you.\n\n\nWrite down key points, even if yoy never look at the paper again.\n\n\nWhenever you want to cross your arms, like a sip of your drink.", "If you're the one speaking use hand motions while you speak. It might feel unnatural, but it will prevent you from being able to cross your arms. ", "firstly, try the mirroring technique - make a conscious attempt to mimic the posture of an influential person at said meeting.\n\nsecondly, and this is not a response, but I'm tired of crossed arms getting such a bad rap. sometimes I just feel cold!", "This is a mindset, not a habitual or motor function. Your view is defensive, and that stance is defensive in nature. Stop this mindset by thinking alternatively, such as focusing on the positives or the solutions. Get more engaged in the meetings.", "It's hard not to notice the posture of the other people in a meeting. What does their body language say? What does yours? Are you with them, against them, bored, fired up, what?", "I seriously watched this TedTalk and forever changed the way I sat and composed myself in meetings. Your body language gives you confidence, since you are already aware that you cross your arms during conversations and meetings, even if it makes you uncomfortable, spread your arms out - sit relaxed - look interested- feel confident.\n\nhttps://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are", "Instead of crossing them in front, put your hands behind your back and loosly hold them. You'll appear alert and like you are listening carefully. Like this: \n\nhttps://www.google.com/search?q=hands+behind+back+listening&client=safari&hl=en&prmd=ivn&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiDqJ2Fk73QAhUE32MKHZLxBSoQ_AUICCgB&biw=320&bih=444#hl=en&tbm=isch&q=hands+behind+back+standing&imgrc=QKG8J4TbMGVJOM%3A" ]

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[ "A quick, effective way to remove pet hair from clothes. I have 3 big dogs (Great Pyrenees, Saint Bernard and a Bernese Mountain dog) that cover every color fur. They all shed a lot, and no matter what i wear theres always hair all over it. Besides Lint Rollers, what is a method i can use to remove all the hair?", "A quick, effective way to remove pet hair from clothes. I have 3 big dogs (Great Pyrenees, Saint Bernard and a Bernese Mountain dog) that cover every color fur. They all shed a lot, and no matter what i wear theres always hair all over it. Besides Lint Rollers, what is a method i can use to remove all the hair?", "A quick, effective way to remove pet hair from clothes. I have 3 big dogs (Great Pyrenees, Saint Bernard and a Bernese Mountain dog) that cover every color fur. They all shed a lot, and no matter what i wear theres always hair all over it. Besides Lint Rollers, what is a method i can use to remove all the hair?", "A quick, effective way to remove pet hair from clothes. I have 3 big dogs (Great Pyrenees, Saint Bernard and a Bernese Mountain dog) that cover every color fur. They all shed a lot, and no matter what i wear theres always hair all over it. Besides Lint Rollers, what is a method i can use to remove all the hair?", "A quick, effective way to remove pet hair from clothes. I have 3 big dogs (Great Pyrenees, Saint Bernard and a Bernese Mountain dog) that cover every color fur. They all shed a lot, and no matter what i wear theres always hair all over it. Besides Lint Rollers, what is a method i can use to remove all the hair?" ]

[ "Those sticky lint rollers work best, then lint brushes. But if those aren't available I'll take some scotch tape and wrap it around all four fingers with the sticky side out. Wrap it several times and overlapping so that you build up a big surface area. Then use your hand like a lint roller, turning the tape as you go.\n\nYou can also get two different kinds of vacuum attachments for pet hair. One kind is for [getting it off things](http://www.achooallergy.com/vac-eureka-power-paw.asp) and the other kind is also a brush that sucks the shedding fur right off your dog.\n\nAlso helps a bit to brush and groom your dogs frequently to get the fur off them before it settles on other things.\n\nAll that being said, with three big dogs you will never completely solve the problem. ", "This sounds really weird, but get a rubber dishwashing glove- you know the yellow cleaning gloves? Never waste tape again, just wear the glove and brush off your clothes, then wash the hair off. So freaking easy.", "Why exactly is a lint roller not an option in this scenario? They're $1 most places. Tape is a no-brainer in a pinch. I guess you could use a vacuum if you really wanted to. ", "I use a rubber brush (http://www.bridgat.com/rubber_pet_hair_brush-o159550.html) to get most hair off... then use a roller for the remainders. ", "Having six great pyrenees, i feel you. I change before i leave to go somwhere,, or if its really noticable i use a lint roller." ]

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[ "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality.", "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality.", "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality.", "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality.", "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality.", "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality.", "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality.", "How to stop having a \"pleasing everyone\" mentality? I am a person that hates making other people angry. It has made me trying to be friendly with everyone, even people that my good friends don't like. I am living in a small city, and it has even got to the point where I almost can't try to hit on any girl because I am friendly with so many and I don't want to make them angry by taking a girl that they had a crush on. I can't live like this but it is so hard to snap out of this mentality." ]

[ "I genuinely hope this doesn’t happen to you, but my wake-up call was after the loss of someone very dear to me. After she died suddenly, I went into a depression spiral which made me feel numb for over a year. After that, I realized how many things don’t matter. I don’t mean this in a depressing “we’re all going to die” kind of way, but more as a “life is precious” way. Love matters. Relationships matter. Memories matter. Stuff and how strangers feel about you really don’t matter. Don’t apologize for liking weird things. As long as it’s not harming anyone else, go for it! If you’re overwhelmed, then it’s ok to say that you can’t do something. People will get upset, and then they’ll get over it. This is *your* life, not theirs. ", "Everyone is their own person. Their happiness is their problem, not yours. I'm not saying be a jerk but let other people be responsible for their own lives.\n\nOTOH, maybe you have a problem not being the center of attention? Either way, stop caring so much about what other people think. Get on with your life.", "Do you know you can still piss someone off for being too friendly to everyone? For they don't like you having more friends than them or whatever silly reasons. Do you know there are time when you need to piss someone off for the greater good of the community? Think about it. ", "Ask other people to do things for you (small things at first, work your way up). Get where you are comfortable \"imposing\" on other people. Remember, you're ok for them to ask you to do things, and you have just as much of a right as they do to be happy. \n\nAlso, the next time you have a friend who says \"Oh man XXX is really cute, I like her\", if you also like her, feel free to say that back to them. Don't let your friends call dibs on women, it's silly.", "Let the chick make up her mind. I wouldn't assume you are guaranteed to get a date right off the bat. If she says yes, then she chose you over the other guys.", "I have this too and it really affects my work (Corporate America). I end up getting stuck doing other people’s stuff because I’m afraid to say no, never getting the reciprocity by not wanting to impose on others.\n\nP.S - appreciate all comments here, but saying “get over it, other strangers’ opinions of you don’t matter” doesn’t help. It’s more of an instinct thing than something you can switch on or off willfully. ", "First you need to come to the realization that you have absolutely no control over another person's feelings. You cannot \"make\" someone angry. You are responsible for your actions, they are responsible for their feelings about those actions.\n\nGet through that and the rest should fall into place.", "You want everyone to be happy. That's not a bad thing on the surface of it, but you've mixed up two different kinds of happiness - happiness in the moment, and longterm happiness.\n\nHappiness in the moment is a kind of fleeting thing that comes and goes. We can be happy because we buy a new toy, have a good meal, or because the weather. We can also be unhappy in the moment because we drop our ice cream, that cute girl we were interested in is dating someone else, or it's raining.\n\nYes, you going out with a nice girl might make some other potential love interest upset momentarily. Likewise, you being a bit rude to someone droning on about their doll collection might make them feel bad for a while. That kind of unhappiness isn't a big deal - it just happens and is part of life. The nature of people is that we sometimes cause each other momentary unhappiness, but that can lead us towards longterm happiness.\n\nOur crush dating someone else can be a trigger to work on our own social skills. Our friend telling us off for ranting about dolls might cause us to take up more hobbies. \n\n" ]

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[ "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants.", "I'm in University and don't know why. When I was 10 years old, I was accessed by a psychologist that was called in to my elementary school for the purposes of testing my academic ability. I was deemed \"intellectually gifted\", and my parents have never let me forget about it. The only problem is that I've never enjoyed learning, reading, or attending school.\n\nDespite this, I also never had an issue with getting straight A's all through my high school career. I never got what I felt would've been proper praise from my parents, as they always asked me why I didn't get perfect or jokingly remarked \"where'd the other 5% go?\" and so on.\n\nThe only reason I even bothered getting straight A's (I sound like a dick, I know) is because I felt pressured into it by others. It always seemed like I was letting others down by not using my gift, even though I never asked for it. Now, as I type this, I'm currently enrolled in an undergrad law program at Carleton University. I chose law because of the freedom for electives, but it doesn't solve the problem that I've never been interested in schooling.\n\nThis isn't to say that I don't enjoy learning, because that would be ridiculous. I just find learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive. I love learning new things at work, or learning new recipes, songs, theories on YouTube, etc.\n\nWhat I'm asking, and why I'm posting this, is what do you think I should do? Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\nI'd be happy to answer more questions, as I feel like I'm ranting and haven't fully explained my situation or my thoughts clearly, but I'd really like to know what the internet thinks of me. I know that the smartest thing to do in my situation is to stay in school, get the degree and go from there, but I can't tell what my heart wants." ]

[ "I am going to give you the harsh truth (I give you explicit permission to downvote me): \n \n \n* first of all, **welcome to life**. It's a mess out here, get used to it. \n* most people felt the way you do. \n* I felt the same when I got to the university, but with a small difference: I loved IT. But the curriculum was plagued by boring-beyond-belief classes, which I studied *just to get by*. The other classes (that caught my interest) I excelled at. Maybe use the same principle, it will make your life easier. \n* Don't mind the peasants getting straight As because they can sit down and just learn things by heart - this is a waste of time (usually) and gives you almost ZERO applicable skills for the real world. \n* Again, focus on what's important to you, excell at those classes and **most importantly**, use the gained knowledge to learn more. Sounds stupid? It's not. The university will give you the basics and teach you how to learn - think of this as road signs pointing you to your destination. Once you learn to read the road signs, the destination will be reached. \n* University (combined with the aforementioned approach) will give you an edge in the real world. Trust me, I know. \n* Where do you see yourself in the long run? If you choose to not attend an university, your options in later life (with your higher intellectual skills) will be *severy limited*. Do you have a hobby? Passion? Can you make money of it? If not, **and this is important**, how will you finance those things later on in life?\n \n \nThat about sums it up. People will undoubtedly tell you to \"travel\", \"find yourself\" etc. This is mostly bullshit brought on by television and people with rich parents. I will probably get hate for it, but it really pushes my buttons when I hear someone say those things to me. My parents weren't rich, I grew up in a shit country and had to fight tooth and nail to get to where I am today. The commodities such as \"finding myself\" never really crossed my mind. I had a goal - go through university studying what I love, get the fuck out of the country and get the job I always wanted to have to finance my passion(s), which I did. I \"found myself\" in the hard work I did. Now I get to reap the rewards - living and working in a really nice country doing things I've always wanted to do, but never had the money/opportunty for. Study hard, work hard and by the time you enter your mid twenties, you will have a good job and you'll be doing things you've always wanted to do. \n \nGood job is a prerequisite for many things, which you'll find out the hard way: cr", "If it's all too much I recommend a break maybe travel somewhere or just join organizations and volunteer in many places your truly care about and it will make it a little better/help you decide what you want to do ", "> Dropping out would be a great disappointment to my family and would label myself as a failure (in society's eyes), but staying in school to spend money on something I hate doesn't seem feasible and doesn't make me happy.\n\n=-=-=-=\n\nGotta point out to you that feeling like a 'failure' because you dropped out of university is going to be FAR FAR LESS HORRIBLE than feeling like a failure at life in general because you stayed with a mundane bland program and never did what you wanted to do. One lasts a while and you think about it on occasion, and you can always go back later and fix it if you want. The other lasts your whole life\n\nBut what you haven't related to us at all is \"what you want to do\", and it seems like you haven't figured that out.\n\nSo then it becomes obvious: you need to figure out what you want to do. \n\nYou want to change your circumstances without having a clear or even fuzzy destination in mind for what you want to change them TO. You're thinking about jumping off into a complete unknown. Almost nobody would jump off in those circumstances. \n\nThat's what ya gotta fix.\n\n**Say you did jump out. Then what the fuck do you actually WANT?** What is it that would make you happy if you had all the freedom in the world?\n\nYa gotta work on that, otherwise this will just be a big list of random suggestions that you discount because it's not perfect for you, and all we're doing is giving you a talking venue with 99.99% inapplicable advice that you're not going to take anyway.", "The pressure you are feeling is from external sources. Don't think about that shit. Everyone would do something different of they could go back. You gotta make mistakes and fall in love and then fuck things up. You gotta hurt yourself, then be hurt. Just give 'er. Go travel, and assemble your perspective. If you wanted to be a \"_blank_\" then you wouldn't be questioning yourself. Go figure that shit out. Examine what is **actually** important to **you**. And pursue that, cause you are gifted, you can achieve whatever you put your mind to. Just put your mind to what you want to achieve.", "U sound like most college students (except the gifted part). The advice I got was find things u wanna do within ur college and do them regardless if it takes u longer to graduate because after ur most likely just gonna enter the work force and won't have time for what u wanted to try. Example study abroad, take a class ur interested in that has nothing to do with ur major, join some interesting clubs and what ever ur college has to offer. Take advantage of this time and make some mistakes because u can't do that after u graduate. \n\n...grammer ", "If you had a week to do anything you wanted what would you do? Or you mentioned you enjoy learning things on YouTube. What are some of the topics you enjoy the most? If you think about what your hobbies are or what sounds interesting. Then you can probably find a class that is related. If you don't like college because you don't enjoy your major then you should find a new major. The key to being happy in college is to enjoy your major. You could take a culinary class if you are interested in cooking or physics class if it sounds interesting. It is rarely easy trying to just pick a major. I picked mine by thinking about my hobbies and which classes in high school interested me. I also enjoy learning by watching videos on YouTube. And I tend to watch a lot of physics and chemistry videos which lead me to chemical engineering. Don't try to just find a new major overnight because it won't happen. Really think about it. And it might help to think about what you would do if you had a week or a month of no work or class. ", "Damn, in the exact same position as you; don't enjoy school, get called \"gifted\", and that's enough of an excuse to my parents. I could use help too.", "As someone who is 28 and never finished college. STAY IN SCHOOL. I landed a good job in a field I like at 21 years old and quit school to take a full time position. I thought I was set. 5 years later the company went under and I've been bouncing from sales job to sales job ever since. I've been unemployed for over 3 months and have no prospects other then selling insurance and it's all because I can't get my foot in the door anywhere new without a little ducking piece of paper saying I spent four years doing shit I hated. ", "i concur with most of the comments here, you need to open your horizons, whether it be by volunteering, or traveling, start your own company or whatever. I observed that money seems to be an issue so perhaps traveling is a bit out of the issue.\n\nFrom your post, you didn't really give any hints as to what you're interested in, so we can only give you generic suggestions. Perhaps you can share with us your hobbies so that those of us who have experience in those hobbies can give more relevant advice?\n\nI think you don't really want to go against your parents' wishes, so here's an option that many in my country opt for when they graduate. The reality here is that it is very hard to make a living doing what we like, e.g. playing in a band, performance arts, music, that sorta stuff. So a lot of people have a proper day job which they can support themselves and their families, and also their hobbies. It's a lot of hard work in the sense that they don't have as much time to hone their craft as much as they'd like, but at least they don't go hungry and have a decent quality of living.\n\nDo you think this option is a feasible idea since you don't want to be a disappointment to your family? you can always do things in your off-time after work, so if you can deal with it like how you deal with school, it is a possibility. A caveat though, lawyers have long working hours so... you gotta figure out how to balance your time.\n\nalso, do you consider school as a futile exercise in which you're just conforming to society's standards of education? you might find much more excitement in starting your own business from scratch and figuring it out on your own. This is independent of the option i just mentioned so do note that it's a separate thing altogether.", "You sound like you need to put some time aside to focus on yourself since you've been under immense pressure from your parents and society your whole life. Go travel, there are plenty of ways to travel without spending a fortune. Take risks. Attend classes you'd never see yourself in. You live your life for you and nobody else. Surprisingly, living your life requires a decent amount of effort but when you discover your place in the world it will all make sense and it will be rewarding.\n\nGood luck (:", "You have to decide when you will start doing things to make yourself happy instead of your parents. \n\nDo you think the problem of not wanting to disappoint them will go away when you graduate? It won't. They will want you to go to the best law school, they will want you to article and get a job at the best firm, and certainly they will want you to practice in a \"good/lucrative\" area of law.\n\nMt suggestion is to get some real life experience. Drop out, move away from your \"home\", and get a job. That's one way to discover what you want to do or more likely what your don't want to do.\n\nYou need to scrape together some money and go somewhere new and get a job there. Teaching English is something a lot of people fall back on. Or do labour, anything to make enough money to live. Basically, get out of your comfort zone and learn how the real world works. It can help a lot to have somewhere to crash and get your bearings so if you know someone living abroad then contact them. \n\nSource: was also labelled gifted, am asian (am I wrong to guess you are?), and felt the same pressure to do high level academia but got over it.", "You already know the answer of your path, you just here trying to find confidence. Dont do it.\n\nTrust in yourself listen to your heart and dont ever look back.\n\nHow i know or why im writting this? Cause im exactly like you and would liked to listen what i just said 4 years ago.", "To stay in the degree program or not depends on how far along you are in the 8 year+ endeavor? if just starting I say take a break and find out what you really want to do with life. It sounds like you've been pushed into everything by your parents/family/friends and have never taken the time to really think about what you want to do with your life. I've always heard that you should do something you enjoy and you'll never work a day in your life. That's crap unless you can figure out how to turn what you enjoy into money making. My take after years of stupid, is find something your good at and don't mind doing for 8 hours a day. Some people enjoy office work, others enjoy outside work. Just find something that can either make you feel satisfied at the end of the day or at the least not feel like why do I bother with this shit.", "Take a year off. A lot of people do it after graduating from high school. Take a step back, do something you want to do, and reassess when the time comes. Get some real life experience. Maybe get a short term job and save money to see the world. Whatever you want. And tell your parents what you're plan is. Tell them why you're doing whatever you do, and you if come back after your year off still not wanting to go to college, tell them straight forward. It's your decision. ", "Oh boy, incoming wall of text! \n\nSo I was like you in school : straight A for a major part of my education. Slight difference is since I've been permatold I was gifted, I never had to learn how to work (to study) and my grades declined a bit in high school while still being okayish. \n\nMy economics teacher in HS said to my mother \"He can go to political sciences school (\"prestigious\" thing here)\". \n\nMy parents had always been sure I was gifted, so like yours : \"Oh a 16/20? What's the best grade on your class?\" or \"18/20 best grade in the class? Why not 19 or 20/20 ?\"\n\nUniversity came: 2 first years without problem, 3rd year I failed because I had to work a bit to make it (I didn't obviously since I never/still have troubles to grind studies).\n\nLife's hard and strangely now that I'm 26+ yo, most of my high school acquaintances that did well for themselves were those struggling to have good grades in school even with grinding. \n\nLife's hard. If you work/study in a field you dislike ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE GIFTED it's gonna be hell on earth. Your gifts will be a waste if you do something you hate. But if you do something you like and you're a grinder who do what's necessary to succeed, if I were you, I wouldn't be bothering failing my professional career.\n\nI don't know how society and workplace work in the US (which I assume you come from) but now that I've taken a break from uni, I find it super hard to find any job at all (even if supermarkets or else) even though I have professional experiences on my CV.\n\nYou need to find what your heart wants. It can be hard and long for some ppl (my gf found her calling in medical school immediately straight after HS) and I wish you good luck with this quest.\n\nAs u/celestial_empress said, volunteering can be eye-opening.\n\nIf you have more questions, feel free to ask them. \n\n", "Maybe you can find a discipline that is more interactive-type learning. I'm a geologist, and much of my learning was hands on, interactive, in the field, and mainly visual and conceptual. Field camp is also required, which is essentially 2 months of camping and mapping. Of course there is still classroom time, learning from a text book, and some dry content, but it really is an interesting and involved science.\n", "I went to university as a mature student, and if I ruled the world I'd make every student have at least a year out before university. \n\nA year out would give people the chance to earn their own money and decide what they want out of life independently from their families. There are too many people drifting to university because they have no real idea what they want, and no experience of any alternative. They end up unhappy and probably in debt, and others miss out on places because someone else took them and then dropped out. \n\nUniversity isn't all about learning out of a textbook, or even about learning a specific subject. You have time and opportunities now that aren't open to people who have jobs. University is your chance to develop social skills, make contacts, and make the most of more free time than you're ever likely to get when you're at working and supporting a family.\n\nAs for dropping out, that's an option, but if you only just started a few weeks ago that's likely too soon to know if it's for you or not. Most likely it doesn't start getting interesting until later. Maybe it never will be interesting but it gives you more options later.\n\nIf you really want to quit, don't just drop out in the hope something good will happen. Take a positive step towards something you do want to do. There's no point switching boring studying for boring unemployment or a dead end job. Try not to burn any bridges. Talk the university careers people. Ask if you can take a year out to get work experience, change courses, change universities, or apply for jobs. Don't just leave because you're certain about what you don't want to do, leave when you know what you want to do AND you've set it up already.\n", "I was pretty much in that same situation growing up. I actually ended up dropping out and getting my GED instead, then joining the military. After that didn't work out, and the fact you *need* a degree to get a job anymore, I went to school for poli sci (worthless degree) and eventually finished off an MBA a few years ago instead. Don't really want it, don't really need it, don't really use it - but it's required to get a good job, which in my view is just plain dumb. \n\nI too like learning, I learn by teaching a lot of times, or having discussions with other people (which is probably why I spend a lot of time on chat boards like Reddit). I read a lot of non-fiction books or watch documentary shows, etc. Sitting in a classroom (unless the professor is really interesting and engaging) was incredibly boring to me during my schooling. \n\nSo to sum up, I'd say, if you having a comfortable life requires you getting a degree, then just suck it up and plod through to that goal. If you can get by without one (like you could be a trust fund kid, create your own business, or could otherwise survive on menial jobs traveling the world or something non-traditional like that) then I'd say don't waste your time or frustration with that situation. ", "I sense that deep down YOU know that dropping out is what YOU want to do but you're too scared of being a disappointment and not living up to expectations of your parents.\n\nTHROW THOSE THOUGHTS OUT THE DOOR. \n\nIf your family truly loves you, they will understand. Life is not a race; its a marathon, you really need to pace yourself. And if they use shame and guilt as motivators to get you to do what THEY want you to do, you need to think whether its for your own good or for theirs(no matter what they would say otherwise). \n\nIt's not selfish to put yourself first; its necessary. \n\nYou should do some soul searching and think what is it that you want to accomplish in life and determine where you want to be at the end of it. What are things you value versus things that you're good at? Whether that means you want to have a career that offers a 6 figure salary with a prestigious title or living as a hermit being one with nature; only you can decide what you want.\n\nThe main point is that you should never do things purely to make other people happy if it makes you unhappy at the end of the day. Live up to your own expectations and accomplish the things you want.\n\nFrom deductive reasoning, I'm assuming you're from the GTA with non white parents and I know how difficult it is to stand up your parents but one day you need to stop looking at your parents as authority figures and look at them as people; they don't have all the answers. You're gonna have to start adulting one day and usually the first test is when you realize your parents aren't always right. \n\nAnother tidbit, if youre footing the bill, no one, and I mean NO ONE is allowed to tell you to sink yourself 35K into debt for something you think isn't worth it.\n\n\n\n\n", "I feel like you could have been talking about me, I did all As in highschool, parents reacted the same way as yours, I love learning at work, and I also love hands on tinkering which I got to do a little in highschool, but college is now just me sitting on my ass listening to old people lecture. I went to college because that's what I thought everyone wanted from me. Now I'm almost 3 years in and I've had enough. It isn't me, and I can't continue to do something I hate. I want an adventure and a real challenge in life that I can enjoy. It might not be for you but I decided to enlist in the airforce. And of course I picked one of the hardest jobs there is, a pararescue trooper. I plan to train physically until I'm ready next fall. I figure after my enlistment time is up, I will have grown up a little more, and picked up some discipline habits that will allow me to finish school. Not to mention all the other benefits from the military: college cr", "Get enrolled in a decent european state university so you don't pay for it anymore, you will both travel and nor feel you waste (that much) time,money and effort ", "Everyone hates learning.\n\nBe thankful it comes easy for you.\n\nCarry on and get your qualification then make the most of it, you won't make anywhere near as much money without it.", "Don't drop out until you know where you're going. If you leave school without a degree, a job or a proper plan, you'll have a hard time!", "College is the start of something, not the end. I understand you feel that \"learning out of a textbook to be dry, and counter intuitive\", but that will not persist your entire life (granted it has up to this point). You are learning out of a textbook to get a base knowledge then when you graduate you will learn more like you want to in the real world about how to actually do stuff. \n\n\nI did not know what I wanted to do until my senior(4th) year in college. \n\n\nTake that freedom of elections to test the waters in different topics to see if they spark something. Take summers and breaks to do that soul searching. You have more time now than you will later.\n\n\nRegarding a comment below. Most lawyers are middle class anyway. http://www.nalp.org/class_of_2014_salary_curve \n\n", "Because your future self will thank you for educating yourself and the opportunities you will gain over the next 3-4 or so years. " ]

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[ "When and how to delegate. How do I trust others to accomplish with to my standards? I have a hard time delegating important tasks in my work, marriage and personal life. This leads me to strained relationships, stress and often overextending myself. \n\nI fear that I will be the micromanager that I hate.", "When and how to delegate. How do I trust others to accomplish with to my standards? I have a hard time delegating important tasks in my work, marriage and personal life. This leads me to strained relationships, stress and often overextending myself. \n\nI fear that I will be the micromanager that I hate.", "When and how to delegate. How do I trust others to accomplish with to my standards? I have a hard time delegating important tasks in my work, marriage and personal life. This leads me to strained relationships, stress and often overextending myself. \n\nI fear that I will be the micromanager that I hate." ]

[ "As a manager you need to realize that those tasks are not yours to do anymore. If you are concerned about your standards not being met, then you need to be clear in what those standards are. Some people you can trust to either meet or exceed your standards, and you find these people based on their performance on your team. Save your micro-managing for those who need your guidance, such as inexperienced people. Even though you are responsible for getting those tasks done, it is no longer your place to actually perform those tasks yourself. Now you need to teach someone else how to do them and to what standards they need to meet. \n\nDon't think of it as straight-up delegating, think of it as teaching. You are teaching someone else how to be successful the same way you are. Some people are capable of learning without your constant presence, but others need it or find reassurance in it.\n\nAnd it's okay to have a few tasks that you want to do yourself, such as mowing your lawn. I find that to be my place of zen even though I can have someone else do it for me. When my kids get old enough, they won't be allowed to take care of the lawn unless I'm gone long enough for that need to arise. I'll still teach them how to do it, but it's my task.", "I'll add: set specific standards for the delegated task, be specific about what constitutes successful completion, and have consequences for when those standards aren't met. \n\nIn your relationship/personal life, it can be more difficult, but just as important, and involves quitting people sometimes, which is hard. At work, there can be more options if you have the power/authority to do so. ", "Every delegated task must have (explicitly or implicitly):\n1) objective \n2) constraint (must do as part of)\n3) reasonable due date (be done on or before [date/time])\n4) restraint (must not do in the course of)\n5) consequence (what happens if we fail)\n6) recourse (means by which subordinate can seek guidance, information, assistance, resources)\n7) support (your full-throated advocacy for them in their good-faith efforts to complete the task)\n\nIf you give your subordinates these things in a respectful manner, then they, and by extension you, can be successful. If they fail to deliver and you, in good conscience, know that you explicitly gave them these things, then they are probably not interested in performing. At that point, it might still me a personal problem that you need to work out, but at minimum they have the tools to succeed if they choose.\n" ]

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[ "Moving/Storing Electronics. Just wondering if anyone has any cool ideas, if I don't have the original box (and all the stuff to keep it in place) I just wrap it in some old clothes in a box/bag. Any better ways of doing this? \n\nTalking about Xbox/Desktop/TV and stuff of the nature, nothing too big or too small. ", "Moving/Storing Electronics. Just wondering if anyone has any cool ideas, if I don't have the original box (and all the stuff to keep it in place) I just wrap it in some old clothes in a box/bag. Any better ways of doing this? \n\nTalking about Xbox/Desktop/TV and stuff of the nature, nothing too big or too small. " ]

[ "wrap cables in toilet paper rolls http://cache.gawkerassets.com/assets/images/17/2011/05/fdz5f3bfxr6vpt9.jpg", "* Sheets are better, because they're denser and have a more even surface.\n\n* If you're doing two layers, put pillows between the electronic components too.\n\n* Make sure the bottom of the box is double-taped, because the more expensive the electronics are, the more likely they are to fall through :(\n\n* Put cables in a supermarket bag and keep them in the same box as the electronics they correspond to.\n\n* Game cases: wrap them all together in saran wrap, otherwise they'll scatter." ]

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[ "Dealing with people who talk nonstop. My boss loves the sound of her own voice, and during 12 hour shifts, 7 days straight it can get pretty exhausting. Any tips?", "Dealing with people who talk nonstop. My boss loves the sound of her own voice, and during 12 hour shifts, 7 days straight it can get pretty exhausting. Any tips?", "Dealing with people who talk nonstop. My boss loves the sound of her own voice, and during 12 hour shifts, 7 days straight it can get pretty exhausting. Any tips?", "Dealing with people who talk nonstop. My boss loves the sound of her own voice, and during 12 hour shifts, 7 days straight it can get pretty exhausting. Any tips?", "Dealing with people who talk nonstop. My boss loves the sound of her own voice, and during 12 hour shifts, 7 days straight it can get pretty exhausting. Any tips?", "Dealing with people who talk nonstop. My boss loves the sound of her own voice, and during 12 hour shifts, 7 days straight it can get pretty exhausting. Any tips?" ]

[ "This is what I do and it ALWAYS helps: Once the other person starts talking too much and isn't saying anything of substance, start working/acting like your working while just nodding your head. Keep eye contact to a minimum, if at all. She'll eventually just leave cuz she's not getting the attention she wants. That way, it looks like you're just a really hard worker. And she can't get mad at you for that.", "Honestly, I would just confront her and tell her it's hard to concentrate and focus on work and that you find her constant talking distracting. ", "The best idea is to make her not want to talk to you.\n~~don't shower~~\nShow minimal interest in what she's saying, work while she talks, ask her to repeat herself (\"I'm sorry, what did you say?\"). You don't need to exaggerate, at least for starters. I bet you're really nice to speak to, but this attracts people like this.", "Hard to address this without any context. Are you in a cubicle farm or is she the Assistant Manager at Wendy's hovering over your shoulder? Doesn't do any good to recommend you leave the area and work somewhere else if you're insurance adjusters and spend the time in the car together.", "Try to talk non stop. Don't let her go. Keep talking until it starts to affect her work. Maybe she'll catch on an realize that it's bad for work. \n\n\n\n\n", "I assume you don't want to be too disrespectful or confrontational. What I do is use subtle sarcasm a lot, even saying things with a slight \"well duh\" tone (easily hidden with smile). Maybe the other person begins to consider the possibility that they're boring me. Maybe they don't. Either way it keeps me entertained." ]

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[ "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated", "What to do when walking through a bad neighbourhood/someone is following you? Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions. How to draw the least amount of attention. How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nAny tips appreciated" ]

[ "Start behaving erratically. Twitch your head. Repeatedly mumble things like \"I don't want to hurt anybody else\". Occasionally scream then look around. And rifle in your pocket as though you have a weapon.\n\nNo need for you to be scared when everybody around will be scared of you.", "Don’t be on your phone/don’t wear headphones. Looking distracted is a bad move. Look confident and walk like you know the area really well. \n\nI carry mace currently but have learned I’m not too quick on the draw. They make really cool little tasers I’ll probably end up upgrading to. I know some places you can carry a gun but if I’m being honest with you I’d rather have someone overpower me and just have my taser than someone get a gun away from me and use it on me. \n\nIf available dip into a gas station/building or something if someone is following you. I also always share my location on my phone with at least one person if I’m out alone and tell them when I am starting to walk to an area and text them when I am safe. At the very least they’ll know where my phone was last.", ">Was wondering what kind of things to consider when you might be fearing for your safety. \n\nBe aware of your surroundings. If possible, don't walk through bad neighborhoods.\n\n>What items can be carried that could potentially be used as weapons/distractions.\n\nIf you live in the US many states allow you to carry a concealed handgun after going through a license process.\n\n>How to draw the least amount of attention. \n\nDon't look rich, don't look out of place. If you need more specifics, I recommend not going through a bad neighborhood.\n\n>How to throw someone off who's following you. What to do in any potential confrontation.\n\nRun away. If it's not possible, do everything you can to de-escalate the situation. Getting robbed is better than getting hurt or killed. If all else fails, resort to violence. Make sure your attacker is incapacitated as thoroughly as possible. Then run away.", "Coming from the west coast of Scotland always carry a small solid pen like you would get in a bookies its best for putting multiple holes in someone without doing major damage to them allowing you to walk away while they panic over all the blood, but won't result in a murder or offensive weapon charge like a knife or torch could, seen this method used multiple times always the same result 5/6 quick stabs is enough to give them the fear and is perfectly legal to carry all the time anywhere in the world", "Consider carrying a flashlight. They are socially acceptable. You can use them to give you light or if they are sting enough blind someone somewhat. It does not have to be a big flashlight either. It only has to be slightly longer than your fist. Holding it tight in your fist has multiple practical aspects to it. You can hold your guard up and simultaneously blind and illuminate your attacker it is a force multiplier when used for hammer punches. \n\nTo be honest. This is purely theoretical since i have never been in a situation where i had do defend myself in this way. But keeping this option on you can give your piece of mind and it is much less problematic than mace or a taser, both socially and legally.", "Best advice is get one of those alarms sirens that fit on a keychain. They are loud, annoying and deter most thieves as they attract a lot of attention. \n\nSecond best option would be a stun gun/high intensity light combo. The light is always a useful feature, but it's better if it has a strobe feature as that can blind/confuse your attacker so you can make contact with the coils. Even just the sound of the taser will deter most attackers. \n\nThird best is mace. Range is a plus but relies heavily on accuracy. This could be a problem in the dark or when caught off guard, which is why I recommend stun guns first, as contact is key not accuracy. Also if they are wearing a mask it might not be as effective. \n\nThese are mostly focused on deterrents, as the best option is always to run away, when possible. Distract, confuse and get away should be your priorities, not offense. If you want offense get a gun, but be careful as you don't want to pull a gun on some random person walking behind you. Sounding an alarm and apologizing after is better than shooting someone by accident because you were scared.", "Act with confidence and show that you are aware. If you suspect someone is following you, turn and face them, then cross the street. They’ll know you will be able to identify them after a completed assault, and that you are willing to confront them. Oftentimes just demonstrating that you won’t be taking an attempt passively is enough to persuade them to go bother someone who will be an easier target.", "walk/drive around the same block, then use your mirror/phone inward facing camera to check if they're still following you.", "Wonder how you came to:\n1. find yourself walking in a neighborhood you're unfamiliar with, and \n2. come to believe the neighborhood is bad.\n\nJust walk to where you're going and be done with it. The likelihood of anything happening to you is low, unless you're walking through a pace that is known for high amounts of violence against strangers (why?) or places known for high amounts of random violence (again, why?)\n\nEither way, the answer is move on. If you carry a weapon, you should know how to use it, regardless of whether the neighborhood is 'bad' or not.", "Well, you can use an app like Noonlight, where you can press a button and they will send the cops your GPS location. You can also carry pepper spray or a small weapon on your keychain.", "Carry mace and a flashlight. If you are being followed, shine your light. If they dont stop following you or otherwise make it clear that they are nearly going the same direction (and going to end up at a different spot than you). Get away. Dive into an open store like a gas station, turn down a different street, start walking to the police station instead of home, etc. Do not reach into your pocket unless nessicarry.\n\nIf you carry mace or what have you, keep your hand near it and withing easy access, but not in the same pocket, or put both hands in pockets. Depending on the bad neighborhood, looking remotely like a threat can be a bad idea. However, if diving into that building or what have you doesnt work, use that mace.\n\nAlso, go with your gut instinct. 99% of the time, it will be right, or you will not have listened.\n\nI'd rather have to possibly argue self defense in a courtroom than get killed.", "Are you sure you're being followed? Do you have running shoes on? Then run.\n\nIf you hear running behind you, you might want to try to flag a car down.", "Glock 17 with night sights and laser.\nGo \"gray man\". Look like everyone else. \nWalk into a restaurant, head for the back kitchen door. (yes, Ive done it)\nAvoid confrontations like the plague. You wont win 100%.\nYou know who wins a knife fight? The guy who died in the ambulance." ]

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[ "How do you stay positive and live in the moment when you have a lot to worry about? I'm really struggling with this one, I'd love any tips from anyone who has managed to overcome this.\n\nRight now my life isn't isn't going smoothly to say the least, and for several months I've had several burning issues on my mind and a lot to worry about. Its getting a bit annoying as I cant stop stressing about them (they're pretty big issues) and its preventing me from being relaxed and just enjoying my day, which in turn is impacting my relationships with others.\n\nGuys, any tips?", "How do you stay positive and live in the moment when you have a lot to worry about? I'm really struggling with this one, I'd love any tips from anyone who has managed to overcome this.\n\nRight now my life isn't isn't going smoothly to say the least, and for several months I've had several burning issues on my mind and a lot to worry about. Its getting a bit annoying as I cant stop stressing about them (they're pretty big issues) and its preventing me from being relaxed and just enjoying my day, which in turn is impacting my relationships with others.\n\nGuys, any tips?", "How do you stay positive and live in the moment when you have a lot to worry about? I'm really struggling with this one, I'd love any tips from anyone who has managed to overcome this.\n\nRight now my life isn't isn't going smoothly to say the least, and for several months I've had several burning issues on my mind and a lot to worry about. Its getting a bit annoying as I cant stop stressing about them (they're pretty big issues) and its preventing me from being relaxed and just enjoying my day, which in turn is impacting my relationships with others.\n\nGuys, any tips?", "How do you stay positive and live in the moment when you have a lot to worry about? I'm really struggling with this one, I'd love any tips from anyone who has managed to overcome this.\n\nRight now my life isn't isn't going smoothly to say the least, and for several months I've had several burning issues on my mind and a lot to worry about. Its getting a bit annoying as I cant stop stressing about them (they're pretty big issues) and its preventing me from being relaxed and just enjoying my day, which in turn is impacting my relationships with others.\n\nGuys, any tips?" ]

[ "Ask yourself. \"Did I cause this?\" and \"Can I change it?\" if the answer is no then just stop giving a fuck. If the answer is yes then get out there and fix it. ", "One thing that has helped me is to think through \"what's the worst that could happen?\". Even if it's horrible, thinking it through, and how your life would play out, can be calming ", "m", "Ah, this is the pinnacle and very complex question of Zen Buddhism. You've bypassed all their training and are at the very same stage as they are\n\n(Monks Hate Him!) \n\nIf you really want to learn, it doesn't happen in an instant. My suggestion is listening/watching Alan Watts lectures (not speeches) on Zen Buddhism. \n\nWatts constructs an excellent mental stairwell that leads a Western culture's (open) mind into the concept of Buddhism, Taoism philosophy. \n\nI'd take you there myself, that is, if there was anywhere to go ^__^" ]

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[ "What are your best tips for attending standing room only concerts? Title says it all. I've heard about wearing earplugs, but I'd like to hear anyone else's tips on getting the best experience at a concert.", "What are your best tips for attending standing room only concerts? Title says it all. I've heard about wearing earplugs, but I'd like to hear anyone else's tips on getting the best experience at a concert.", "What are your best tips for attending standing room only concerts? Title says it all. I've heard about wearing earplugs, but I'd like to hear anyone else's tips on getting the best experience at a concert.", "What are your best tips for attending standing room only concerts? Title says it all. I've heard about wearing earplugs, but I'd like to hear anyone else's tips on getting the best experience at a concert.", "What are your best tips for attending standing room only concerts? Title says it all. I've heard about wearing earplugs, but I'd like to hear anyone else's tips on getting the best experience at a concert." ]

[ "What type of concert are we talkin here? \n\nI mean there is the Barry Manilow experience...or the in betweeen country music garth brooks stadium venue...maybe even a katy perry spectacular somewhere in the ranks\n\n...and then there is the Travis Scott Astroworld level where...yeah...good luck", "Dont leave your wallet in your back pocket. Secure it as well as you can in the front. Standing concerts are a pickpockets dream.", "Earplugs are the biggest.\nNot recording on your phone is another big one.\nIf you don't want to be too crowded, move further back, if you don't mind being crowded go towards the front.\nIf you're st the front and the crowd start moving you, let them. Fighting against it won't work!\nAnd last but not least, thunk carefully about the clothes you wear.\nI'm not sure where you are, but depending on where, it might be freezing outside, but I can guarantee it will be warm inside. If you need to, use the cloak room, but don't leave any valuables in your pockets.\n\nEnjoy!", "Good shoes, tied on tightly. Nothing in pockets. Prepare for the worst, getting spilled on, dirty floor. Hydrate and pee first.", "Sound booth can help both block pushing if it's a high tempo gig and make for what should be best possible sound quality. \n\nPick somewhere with a relatively identifiable landmark nearby to help you find your way back if you've to go to the toilet or get a drink. Think laterally and linearly from the stage. Anything from food trucks to speaker cabinets etc" ]

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[ " Just working on transferring to a different college next year and i wanted to know things that look best on applications ie Personal essays, extracurricular etc.", " Just working on transferring to a different college next year and i wanted to know things that look best on applications ie Personal essays, extracurricular etc." ]

[ "For the personal essay: What makes you different? What are you passionate about? If you can convey these in a thoughtful way, you'll be in good shape.\n\nExtracurriculars: Be involved in something. It's better to be heavily involved and really interested in one thing than to just be a member of 5 different clubs.\n\nFont: Use Georgia. I'm not kidding. I'm not sure what effect it has on applications, but, statistically, papers written in Georgia earn higher grades.\n\nI wish I had some tips that would instantly increase the quality of your application, but I don't. Try to force the admissions committee to see you as a person instead of just another application that has come across their desks.", "Use that nice paper that you can plant and will grow a flower garden. That will show that you're into the environment and not afraid to show some character! I also recommend easy to read fonts, like comic sans, because the people on those committees are, like, OLD. Oh, yeah, add some pizazz by spraying the entire envelope with a nice perfume, so the admissions board can add you to their sense memory as well as their actual memory." ]

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[ "How to get a GOAL in life? Sometimes it feels that life is on Auto-Pilot. How to set up a GOAL to work towards it. I feel I dont have a goal (Other than materialistic goals eg. Big Car, House etc.)", "How to get a GOAL in life? Sometimes it feels that life is on Auto-Pilot. How to set up a GOAL to work towards it. I feel I dont have a goal (Other than materialistic goals eg. Big Car, House etc.)", "How to get a GOAL in life? Sometimes it feels that life is on Auto-Pilot. How to set up a GOAL to work towards it. I feel I dont have a goal (Other than materialistic goals eg. Big Car, House etc.)", "How to get a GOAL in life? Sometimes it feels that life is on Auto-Pilot. How to set up a GOAL to work towards it. I feel I dont have a goal (Other than materialistic goals eg. Big Car, House etc.)" ]

[ "My strategy in life so far for goals has been to wing it. My goals haven't worked out for me in the way that I thought they would, but every goal I've set has helped me with the next goal I set for myself.\n\nWhen I was 19 years old I was working for Chick-Fil-A and I was still deeply invested in my Christian faith and thought that I wanted nothing more than to be an owner/operator of a Chick-Fil-A for a Christian company and I made that my goal. To get to my goal, I worked on completing my Associates Degree in Business Management while I was working there. \n\nBy the time I had graduated with my Associates at age 21, I had undergone great personal changes and began to question my faith and realized I had bigger aspirations in life than to own a fast food restaurant so I abandoned my original goal but I had an Associates Degree and two years of management experience to show for it.\n\nI was made a job offer by an insurance company to come and be an insurance agent so I went and did that for about two years. Working for them, I set a goal for myself to become an insurance underwriter. To do that, I needed to take my education a step further and finish my Bachelors Degree. I started working on it while working in the insurance industry and then realized I didn't want to work in insurance either and gave up on my goal of becoming an underwriter, but it had at least given me the motivation to enroll in school to finish my Bachelors Degree.\n\nI decided to go to work for the marijuana industry and my original goal in doing so was to use my business management experience and finish my degree to become the general manager of a dispensary. Then I saw first hand the kind of lives dispensary GM's live and I decided that wasn't the path for me. You make really good money being the GM of a successful dispensary, but you also work 60-70 hours a week for it. I started doing accounting work for the dispensary I work for and I found that I actually like the back office accounting and business management much more than the personnel management. Right now I'm about 20 cr", "This is really difficult to answer as it's literally just something you do. There really isn't a how. It's a decision you make. It seems you want a goal that is not a materialistic one. \n\n1. Do you have a hobby? Want one? Bad habit to break? DIY project to complete? Personal growth goal like be nicer, be more concise, date and or marry... Etc etc..\n\n2. Research. Once you've figured out what you want to accomplish research how to attain that goal. If you want to learn a hobby, figure out what you need to get started. Personal goal? Maybe a self-help book. Etc. \n\n3. Set a timeline. Decide when you'd like to have accomplished your goal. Easy. Literally pick a day, but give yourself a reasonable timeframe. \n\n4. Spend time daily or weekly to accomplish your goal. Hard to get into particulars here because I have no idea what sort of goal you have, but for example you want to learn to play an instrument. Now your timeframe for that is going to be a long time. A year or more. But for this hobby especially, it's important to practice. Practice an hour every day. \n\nUh, so I hope that helps. Tried not to be as vague as your question. Good luck with your goal making. ", "I always ask people what they'd do if they won UNLIMITED money. After you finish traveling all over the world, and you've bought everything you could possibly want, what would you do when you were bored at the end of the day in your huge mansion? ", "I was struggling with this. Well, still am. But learned something. Goallessness comes from being something sort of a loner. When having a big social life, whatever those people really respect tends to become a goal. Because most people innately desire the admiration of others. When you are living an alone life (or even have family) nothing really seems to matter." ]

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[ "How do i find a date for a group holiday? Me and my friends want to go on a week long group holiday this year. \nWe are all studying and working in different citys so it`s a little bit complicated to find a date for the holiday.\n\nAre there any online tools to help find a date? I know that doodle exists but it is not very practical to go trough several month and check if you have time or not.\nI`m imagining something like a timeline where everyone can enter timespans he has to work/go to university and then the timelines get overlayed and you can see, when the most people have time.", "How do i find a date for a group holiday? Me and my friends want to go on a week long group holiday this year. \nWe are all studying and working in different citys so it`s a little bit complicated to find a date for the holiday.\n\nAre there any online tools to help find a date? I know that doodle exists but it is not very practical to go trough several month and check if you have time or not.\nI`m imagining something like a timeline where everyone can enter timespans he has to work/go to university and then the timelines get overlayed and you can see, when the most people have time." ]

[ "Create a Google Calendar and share it with everyone. You can assign certain colors to certain people to see who/why/where/what. I'm pretty sure everyone needs a gmail account\n\nSecond option is Teamup.com, another sharable calendar. No account needed, just link to the calendar created.\n\nAt first glance my response was going to be Match.com, OKCupid.com??", "Maybe try whenisgood.net ? I can't remember if it lets you choose dates or just specific times though" ]

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[ "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing.", "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing.", "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing.", "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing.", "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing.", "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing.", "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing.", "How to force yourself to use good sitting posture and/or simple back exercises. Trying to break a bad habit and undo the damage it is already causing." ]

[ "I have found sitting closer to the edge of the seat forces me to automatically correct my posture. Give it a try :)", "Might not be the best advice, but what the hell...\n\nI'm pretty ADD so even with alarms and reminders and tips and tricks I totally space on things I need to remember. \n\nI was able to develop good posture habits by literally just ALWAYS thinking about it. When I'm walking I pay as much attention to precise form as I did when I was a competitive runner.\n\nI still struggle to sit with good posture sometimes, but the habit of focusing on the healthiest most structurally-sound form/posture when walking and standing was pretty easily ingrained in me, mostly because you can feel the difference pretty quick.", "If your office chair is tall enough, put a tennis ball between your shoulders when you're sitting down. Don't let it fall down. ", "I do this guys exercises. Only takes a few minutes and it's really helped. Plus some yoga. https://youtu.be/LT_dFRnmdGs", "Do pullups. Proper form in all excersizes will set you way further than anyone that doesnt watch their form. Cant do a pullup? or shake too hard on one? start with a chair you can prop your knees on and slowly come down to from starting high. Also how *many* you do does not matter nearly as much as *how* you do them. A smooth action across the whole rep with proper form is so much better than 5 jerky attempts. ", "When driving. Before you drive off, sit up straight and adjust the rear view mirror. Then every time you get back in the car it gives you a good reminder to adjust your position. ", "I say either yoga or m", "Add tape to your back, when standing/sitting with a straight back. You won't really be able to bend your back and therefore maintain an upright position. " ]

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[ "How to keep faith in humanity after it's been shaken? Recently I'm struggling pretty hard. Falling behind on bills, going hungry. Long story short, years of abuse during my childhood and the neglect ruined my teeth and fixing them is going to cost me like...8-10 grand which I won't be able to afford for *years*. Even with going to a dental school/assistance that is available. Basically, I was given a pretty poor lot from the start of my life. (I'm 25 now, god I feel old.) \n\nDespite everything I've been through in my past, all the abuse that's hurt me. I always wanted to help people. I always had faith in others, in humanity as a *whole*. But lately things have shaken my faith, people have treated me badly, bad luck has happened to me a lot, my teeth hurt so much it's hard to focus. and it's making me lose my faith that I once thought was unbreakable. I find myself wanting to help people less, slowly losing my passion about being of service to my community and eventually becoming a social worker to help other people who were/are in scenarios similar to my childhood.\n\nHow can I reverse this? I don't want to become cynical, I want to be kind. I really don't want to let this world, and my situation, harden my heart.", "How to keep faith in humanity after it's been shaken? Recently I'm struggling pretty hard. Falling behind on bills, going hungry. Long story short, years of abuse during my childhood and the neglect ruined my teeth and fixing them is going to cost me like...8-10 grand which I won't be able to afford for *years*. Even with going to a dental school/assistance that is available. Basically, I was given a pretty poor lot from the start of my life. (I'm 25 now, god I feel old.) \n\nDespite everything I've been through in my past, all the abuse that's hurt me. I always wanted to help people. I always had faith in others, in humanity as a *whole*. But lately things have shaken my faith, people have treated me badly, bad luck has happened to me a lot, my teeth hurt so much it's hard to focus. and it's making me lose my faith that I once thought was unbreakable. I find myself wanting to help people less, slowly losing my passion about being of service to my community and eventually becoming a social worker to help other people who were/are in scenarios similar to my childhood.\n\nHow can I reverse this? I don't want to become cynical, I want to be kind. I really don't want to let this world, and my situation, harden my heart.", "How to keep faith in humanity after it's been shaken? Recently I'm struggling pretty hard. Falling behind on bills, going hungry. Long story short, years of abuse during my childhood and the neglect ruined my teeth and fixing them is going to cost me like...8-10 grand which I won't be able to afford for *years*. Even with going to a dental school/assistance that is available. Basically, I was given a pretty poor lot from the start of my life. (I'm 25 now, god I feel old.) \n\nDespite everything I've been through in my past, all the abuse that's hurt me. I always wanted to help people. I always had faith in others, in humanity as a *whole*. But lately things have shaken my faith, people have treated me badly, bad luck has happened to me a lot, my teeth hurt so much it's hard to focus. and it's making me lose my faith that I once thought was unbreakable. I find myself wanting to help people less, slowly losing my passion about being of service to my community and eventually becoming a social worker to help other people who were/are in scenarios similar to my childhood.\n\nHow can I reverse this? I don't want to become cynical, I want to be kind. I really don't want to let this world, and my situation, harden my heart.", "How to keep faith in humanity after it's been shaken? Recently I'm struggling pretty hard. Falling behind on bills, going hungry. Long story short, years of abuse during my childhood and the neglect ruined my teeth and fixing them is going to cost me like...8-10 grand which I won't be able to afford for *years*. Even with going to a dental school/assistance that is available. Basically, I was given a pretty poor lot from the start of my life. (I'm 25 now, god I feel old.) \n\nDespite everything I've been through in my past, all the abuse that's hurt me. I always wanted to help people. I always had faith in others, in humanity as a *whole*. But lately things have shaken my faith, people have treated me badly, bad luck has happened to me a lot, my teeth hurt so much it's hard to focus. and it's making me lose my faith that I once thought was unbreakable. I find myself wanting to help people less, slowly losing my passion about being of service to my community and eventually becoming a social worker to help other people who were/are in scenarios similar to my childhood.\n\nHow can I reverse this? I don't want to become cynical, I want to be kind. I really don't want to let this world, and my situation, harden my heart." ]

[ "Focus on your health is number one. \n\nHow can you take care of others if you cannot take care of yourself? Have you considered setting up a gofundme to help cover the costs? Could you set up a long term payment plan of like $1-2 a month? Mouth pain is no joke. Many dentists will at least work with you to help free you from your pain. \n\nI wish you the best. Trust that there are better days ahead. Sending you blessings and light.", "Get on the ground and see people doing good, media gives a satellite view that limits what actually happens in the world.\n\nA lot of things do indeed suck, but there are people out there helping eachother. Start there, find a group you can help, you'll find that faith. But again, there are shitty people in these groups too. But if you love the work, the people won't bother you as much.", "Perform a small act of kindness every day, no matter how much you don't want to. And find a small act of kindness performed by someone else, even if it's just as simple as seeing a stranger smile at someone. Notice the little things.\n\nWhen things get tough, hang in there. You seem like you have a lot of inner strength. I believe in you", "I think it was Mr. Rogers who said that his mother told him to look for the helpers. In every awful situation, there's SOMEONE trying to lend a hand and do some good. Focusing on that can help you remember that good deeds are always happening." ]

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[ "Getting rid of smells on plastic container I have a plastic bin that came with my freezer to hold ice cubes. It collects smells from the food in the freezer and they transfer to the ice cubes. I have let it sit in baking soda overnight once or twice but it does not make the smell go away. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of smells on plastic container I have a plastic bin that came with my freezer to hold ice cubes. It collects smells from the food in the freezer and they transfer to the ice cubes. I have let it sit in baking soda overnight once or twice but it does not make the smell go away. Any suggestions?", "Getting rid of smells on plastic container I have a plastic bin that came with my freezer to hold ice cubes. It collects smells from the food in the freezer and they transfer to the ice cubes. I have let it sit in baking soda overnight once or twice but it does not make the smell go away. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "If you have a spot that gets sunlight for better part of the day, you can place the container in that area for couple of days. Usually, that should help with staining as well as the smell. \n\nBut it also depends on how long the stuff has been in contact with the container. If it has been forever, then the smell might take a long time to go away. I used Windex and diluted it with little water and every time I was working near that area, i would shake up the container and leave it closed. That kinda did the trick (but it took forever)", "cut tomato in half, rub the exposed part of the tomato on the container, rinse and leave to dry, repeat as often as needed until the container has no smell. I once left a lunchbox that once contained an omelette in it for 2 weeks and needless to say it was terrible, but 2 days of tomato scrubbing got rid of the smell. ", "Stop using plastic. Glass food storage is more sustainable, lasts longer, microwave and dishwasher safe, doest leech chemicals or plastic flavors into your food, doesn't stain and doesn't smell." ]

[ 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How best to approach a celebrity in a public place without being weird about it. Never had a celebrity encounter and I don't want to fuck it up when it happens. ", "How best to approach a celebrity in a public place without being weird about it. Never had a celebrity encounter and I don't want to fuck it up when it happens. ", "How best to approach a celebrity in a public place without being weird about it. Never had a celebrity encounter and I don't want to fuck it up when it happens. ", "How best to approach a celebrity in a public place without being weird about it. Never had a celebrity encounter and I don't want to fuck it up when it happens. ", "How best to approach a celebrity in a public place without being weird about it. Never had a celebrity encounter and I don't want to fuck it up when it happens. ", "How best to approach a celebrity in a public place without being weird about it. Never had a celebrity encounter and I don't want to fuck it up when it happens. ", "How best to approach a celebrity in a public place without being weird about it. Never had a celebrity encounter and I don't want to fuck it up when it happens. " ]

[ "I live in Nashville and famous singers/actors are pretty much every where around here. Part of the unwritten rules of being a Nashville native is to leave them the hell alone. I once looked up from the avocados in Whole Foods and saw Johnny Depp squeezing some next to me. I just did sort of a double take and went on back to the meat. Nobody was bothering him. ", "I've come across a lot of \"famous\" musicians, not huge pop stars but guys who are in bands that are really popular to fans of the genre. I usually go with a simple handshake and a \"hey, love your music I'm a big fan\" and leave it at that. Don't linger or harass them for pics or autographs. I was at a show this weekend and saw the lead singer of a popular band just trying to hang out and watch the other bands but as soon as people saw him he had a line of fan girls asking for pics and autographs. After the first few he gave up and went back to his bus so he didn't have to deal with them. They're people too and would like to be able to do stuff without being accosted ", "Pretty much don't. I mean if you just happen to bump into them, you can recognize them and give a compliment, but don't be weird. Here's two examples of what not to do:\n\nI'm in a check in line at the airport. I notice Jeff Daniels is standing right in front of me. When we made eye contact I just smiled and said \"love your work, I'm a fan\" He smiled said thanks, and we moved on in line. Thank goodness I didn't say more, it was Bill Pullman.\n\nThe wife is a huge fan of the Big Bang Theory. Walking in midtown Manhattan she spots Jim Parsons across the street. She had just seen him on Broadway the night before (Harvey I think). She waves, crosses the street and yells \"I love you.\" He pulled his hoodie a little tighter, adjusts his ear buds and walks away as quickly as possible. \n", "I think approaching them while in public is sort of risky. I can't blame celebs or pro athletes for being a little short with people. Just know your surroundings. If they're eating with their families etc....just leave them alone. Sometimes a simple hello is enough to get them talking to YOU. I've learned, living where I live, to only talk to a celebrity/athlete when THEY initiate the conversation. I've had some pretty candid conversations with celebs/athletes because I think that they probably assumed I didn't know who they were and they could be themselves and just have a quick chat with a neighbor. Just play it cool....don't be 'that' guy.\n\n", "Dont. It probably happens to them all of the time and unless they are filming or doing something job-related, they just want to be left alone. Would you like to be bothered all the time by complete strangers wanting photos with you all day whenever you're off work?", "Don't, unless it's Shaun White. If it's Shaun tell him you can't even believe he's a pro and that you're so much better than him. He gets mad. ", "Don't hide behind a coke machine trying to secretly take their picture. \n\nUnless they are William Sadler, in which case he'll appreciate you freaking out and will come take a picture with you) " ]

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[ "Dealing with family that won't go unplugged? I dealt with this problem on Thanksgiving and am dealing with it again for Christmas and am looking for advice on dealing with this. \n\nI drive 5 hours each way to visit my family for holidays and even had to take vacation time to arrive for Christmas Eve. But the majority of the time my family are watching TV or staring at phones. I've tried asking people to play games or go outside and everyone's response is \"It's vacation and this is what I want to do\". I'm getting stir crazy and tired of traveling for holidays just to get snubbed by the TV and phones. ", "Dealing with family that won't go unplugged? I dealt with this problem on Thanksgiving and am dealing with it again for Christmas and am looking for advice on dealing with this. \n\nI drive 5 hours each way to visit my family for holidays and even had to take vacation time to arrive for Christmas Eve. But the majority of the time my family are watching TV or staring at phones. I've tried asking people to play games or go outside and everyone's response is \"It's vacation and this is what I want to do\". I'm getting stir crazy and tired of traveling for holidays just to get snubbed by the TV and phones. ", "Dealing with family that won't go unplugged? I dealt with this problem on Thanksgiving and am dealing with it again for Christmas and am looking for advice on dealing with this. \n\nI drive 5 hours each way to visit my family for holidays and even had to take vacation time to arrive for Christmas Eve. But the majority of the time my family are watching TV or staring at phones. I've tried asking people to play games or go outside and everyone's response is \"It's vacation and this is what I want to do\". I'm getting stir crazy and tired of traveling for holidays just to get snubbed by the TV and phones. " ]

[ "Enjoy your family **the way they are**, or forever feel friction trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.\n\nOr, invite them to your house for the holidays and buy a cell signal blocker ahead of time.", "When my family members get their phones out I \"help\" them. Aka- pressing links and scrolling up and down. Fortunately my family have a sense of humor so it gets a good laugh and is effective in getting the phone put away. \n\nAlso- try talking to your mom or dad (I am assuming you mean parents/siblings when you say family). Express your frustration with the lack of quality time spent and give specific suggestions for alternatives. Do respect their opinions. Ie- we all put our phones in a basket and turn off the television between lunch and dinner. This allows their \"vacation\" time but also gives you some quality interaction.\n\nI have also seen suggestions to put phones in the middle of the table and \"fine\" the first person who touches theirs. I have had similar discussion with my parents in the past and was surprised at their respect and willingness to change. \n\nDon't be afraid to leave and go for a walk or to do something fun. The guilt factor can be a strong one and some might join you next time.\n\nThe effectiveness of these options of course all depends on your family dynamics. I hope it helps!", "There's a cable junction outside the house. People are far more social when cable and WiFi have a \"malfunction\"" ]

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[ "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. 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Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations.", "How to effectively tell someone to calm down. Sitting in the car with my wife riding down I-75 for a few hours and I'm trying to think of how to tell her to calm down without using those specific words. She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off. I know how those words just piss her off more and I know if I could find a way to effectively tell her to calm down, it would help me communicate with her in a lot of other situations." ]

[ "I deal with some pretty upset people for work, and this is what I do to calm them down (usually very effective)\n\n1) **Calm voice**: Use a lower and slower tone in your voice when you say things. People tend to match each other's vocal/emotional levels, so being calm yourself will help others calm down.\n\n2) **Recognize Their Feelings**: If someone is angry, it's good to show that you recognize they are angry, and to say that those feelings are valid. Even if they are irrational feelings, you can validate the fact that they are genuinely upset.\n\n3) **Offer Productive Solutions**: If there is a solution to the problem, say \"Let's try X.\" Then you can create a plan to make the problem go away (if possible).\n\n4) **Redirect Attention**: If there isn't a solution to the problem (other than waiting), direct the conversation to something that is calming or enjoyable. Don't dismiss the person's feelings, but you can start talking about something they are interested in. If you act like you are calm or enjoying the situation, the other person is more likely to match your attitude. Again, this only works if you have already shown you're on their side, otherwise they'll probably get frustrated that you're not understanding them.\n\n**", "Whenever my boyfriend gets upset about bad traffic, I grab his hand, smile real big, and gleefully say \"More time together!!!\"\n\nHe either sighs real big, laughs it off, or groans loudly, but in general he calms down and doesn't get road ragey for a while...", "I did that as well for a long time, not driving dangerously (speeding, cutting so. off for cutting me off or such things) but I used to swear a lot. Until one time my SO said during one of my swear-athons: \"You know, your rage really makes me feel kinda unsafe here in your car...\". That's when it 'clicked' and I thought to myself that I would never *ever* want anyone to feel unsafe sitting in *my* car. :( \nI really calmed down after that, my road rage is almost entirely gone and I feel like driving is way less stressful now. ", "Some cognitive and dialectic behavioral therapy techniques. Don't tell her to calm down but use a calm voice, showing you care about how she's feeling.\n\nPoint out how extreme her reaction is to the situation- does not using a blinker warrant so much of her energy? Let her know you understand why she's angry (Anger is usually a reaction to having our values stepped on). Ask: will getting angry fix the problem? (No, obviously). If she's doing this constantly, maybe dig deeper. Reframing is ALWAYS good to practice- [here's the big list of cognitive distortions that get in everyone's way of being chill](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_distortion). What attitudes about driving make her react like that? Are they reasonable? Should she expect perfection, an impossibility, from every driver at all times? Does she ever make mistakes herself? \n\nBuilding a strong sense of compassion for others is HELLA WORTH IT, like in this situation. Compassion for people who don't know not to be assholes is a big one- if they're dicks while driving they're probably dicks in the rest of their life and have a hard, emotionally-stunted life because of it.\n\nTell her how it makes YOU feel when she road rages. It makes you feel keyed up and stressed, for example, and if she didn't react so strongly you'd be content. Flip it around- would she want YOU to rage at something like that, at something that didn't piss her off? How would that make her feel? Not so good, I bet. \n\nMoods are contagious, so if you can hold on to an upbeat one while she's angry, she'll feel it and that itself will help her calm down. Move the conversation to something else that will engage her, something that makes her or you excited and happy. What was something good that recently happened?\n\nThis is a good inroad to practice emotional intelligence skills. :)", "Oh wow.\nThe first thing to do is NOT to tell her to calm down. This will probably make things worse.\nStart a conversation in another setting (i.e. not in the car) when she is calm/relaxed. Tell her about the effects her behavior have on you and on others in traffic. The key here (and the hard part) is to not be judgmental. Be calm/relaxed yourself and do NOT act as it's the end of the world if she does not alter her behavior. Listen to what she has to say an be genuinely interested in why she behaves like this (ask questions. Replay what she is saying and make sure she understands that you understand her experience). Articulate what your needs are when driving and make a gentle request for her to attempt not to get angry. \nReiterate on this discussion when/if she gets angry. Ideally you would see the anger level go down over time and, who knows?, you might even joke about it some day.\n\nThe other part of this is that if her behavior does not improve in spite of the conversations, you need to set a limit. Explain that if she wants to continue to behave like this you will not be part of it. May be harder while driving, but for example you could just pull over and refuse to drive / figure another way of separately getting to the destination. Explain that you are serious about this and also give a fair warning when this is about to happen. Actually do it if needed. Be calm and explain what is happening and the why. (If you have to do this she will probably go bananas the first time - the term for this is an extinction burst - and her anger will be at peak. It's okay, but keep in mind that if you back down you'll reinforce that anger is a solution. Anger is not a solution. \n\nMore: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication", "My husband once implied I was bellering ( is that even a word?) as we drove through a less than scenic area of Maine.\n\nI wanted to see 'civilization': drug stores, restauarants, antique shops, strip malls, etc and we weren't.\n\nHe said: ( quite sternly) - \" stop your bellerin'. Do you need to be milked\"?\n\nIt worked! Laughed all the way to civilization. 😜\n\n", "I think it's very important to empathise first. So if she's mad that someone cut her off, it's no good to just say \"calm down\", or \"don't worry\", because saying something like that invalidates her emotional experience. \n\nSo I think you need to join her in her anger to start \"holy shit, what a jerk!\", so that she can feel somewhat validated in her anger. That way you're starting from where she is, or at least closer to where she is, rather than trying to pull her away from what she's feeling. Then you can frame your anger towards the jerk in lots of different ways, in the hopes that she'll \"come with you\".\n\nE.g. \"Holy shit, what an utter cunt! I bet he has a tiny penis! Wow, look how dumb he is! Ha ha, what an idiot!\" - I.e. moving the anger to being able to laugh at the situation, without invalidating the need to actually feel angry at the person.\n\nIf she doesn't follow your lead, you can just keep along this strategy. If she's still really angry, join her in her anger more, before you try moving away from it to pull her out. Sometimes you might even try going a little further into the anger territory, as long as you can do it in a way that doesn't come off as you sarcastically making fun of her. \n\nIf you get the sense that it's more that she's actually stressed out, join her there \"holy shit, that was terrifying! That guys gonna kill someone, good thing we're keeping our distance!\", if you get the sense that her anger is directed at everyone rather than one person, then join her there \"holy cow people are nuts out here! That's really smart of you to keep your distance from people like that, cus people are terrible drivers!\".", "Don't beat around the bush just tell her to fuck off with that road rage shit because you don't want to die. ", "I can't think of a way to do it in the moment unless you are a truly gifted negotiator. Or as calmly powerful as my spouse, who can quietly say, \"At ease, spsprd,\" and I know it's serious and I better stop my shenanigans right then and there.\n\nI do think this is worth some serious conversation in a non-driving moment, however. This is a personality trait that can be very costly - obviously, I would know. Myself, I couldn't stand to ride with a road rager, so you have that option I hope. \n\nI have found Mindfulness immensely helpful with my tendency toward pissiness and rage. It takes practice, but if your wife would like to be less of a nasty miserable driver who makes the people riding with her so miserable they reach out to internet strangers for guidance, perhaps she could look into it. This tendency needs quite a bit of attention, imo. It sucks to be around.", "Remember in the restaurant stick-up scene in Pulp Fiction when Jules (Samuel L. Jackson) tells Mr. Robber (Pumpkin) to pacify Mrs. Robber (Honeybunny)? He says \"Tell that bitch to be cool! Say 'Bitch, be cool!'\" and Pumpkin says \"Be cool Honeybunny!\" \n\nI used to date a girl who got agitated sometimes. I'd always say \"Be cool Honeybunny!\" in a panicked voice and she got the real message of \"Bitch, be cool!\" and then remembered that she loved that movie and that scene. Honeybunny's response is \"I gotta pee.\" Situation defused. ", "\"Honey, if you piss off the wrong person they're going to come at us, and then I have to defend you because you're my wife, and I'm going to end up getting my ass beat because you flew off the handle.\"", "Start freaking out more than she is. Exxagerate it a lot. Then after she looks concerned just stop, smile and tell her that's what she sounds like. That's what I do. Maybe that's why I'm single...", "Easy solutions seems for you to just offer to drive and let her rest unless I'm totally missing something", "My favorite mantra I endlessly repeat to myself and anyone else who gets upset by bad behavior: \"We are surrounded by idiots, they outnumber us, so we need to learn to coexist peacefully or else the idiots will win by driving good people to insanity\".", "SHUT THE FUCK UP, DONNY!\n\nThat's what I use with my girlfriend. I get about 75% win rate on that one.", "I'm on a mobile, so I'm going to keep this short. \n\nI interact with people for a living. Over the years, books, classes and trainings have all lead to a very basic principle when it comes to human interaction: people are inherently selfish. \n\nIf you tell someone to calm down, the subcontext says \"Calm down *because I want you to*.\" Peoples brains, unless incentivised by your desire, will naturally oppose requests like these.\n\nNow if you keep in mind that people will always like helping themselves, you can change the context, something like \"Sarah, you told me that you don't like yourself when you're angry, and I can tell that you're getting upset\". This response isn't perfect, but you can tell that it will illicit a more effective response. \n\nWhen I get home I can provide some more useful insight to your specific scenario, but for now, keep this in mind and see if you can come up with your own technique. ", "Here's how I see it going down:\n\n1. Tell wife to calm down\n2. Get murdered by wife\n3. ??????\n4. Profit?", "Good luck! Road rage never makes anything better. You need to talk to her before you get into the car. Maybe suggest she goes to an anger management therapist, work on her own defensive driving skills, or her sympathy for other drivers. Nobody who has this problen will like my advice, but they should take a good, long, objective look in the mirror. They are the problem. Behaving like a spoiled, angry toddler will never fix other drivers' behavior.", "Personally a nice long curse filled tirade about that cunt that cut me off is what keeps me sane on the road. If I internalized it all and didn't vent I think my driving would suffer. So I wouldn't. ", "Not using ones blinker and/or cutting people off warrants your wife's response. You sir, need to calm down.", "My fiancee is the same way in the car. With her, I've found it important to keep in mind that she is just a very expressive, dramatic person. Once I \"re-trained\" myself to hear her road rage as what she really means behind it, it's easier to get past the moment with everybody happy.\n\nShe's just expressing her anger. Very outwardly. More than I do, by a LOT. That said, I can (usually) agree at least that what the other driver did was not right. So, I'll just say something like \"Yeah, what a dick! Fuck that guy! So anyway, what were you saying about Angela...\"\n\nIt calms her down because it's validating her anger and showing support. In that very moment, she just wants to vent. Just hearing it, agreeing with her, and moving on works wonders.\n\nTL;DR: Don't try to calm her down. Agree with her, in a more calm way. She'll be far more likely to calm down and move on.", "My dad is dying of cancer and gets into these trains of thoughts where he starts freaking out. He will start to space out and I can just tell he is going down those thought patterns of death. So what I do is break him out of it by telling him he needs to relax and not take for granted that he is alive now. I then tell him to breathe deeply and that usually gets him to come back to reality for the time being", "Let her do whatever the fuck she wants if shes the one driving. U dont like it you have two choices walk or sit through it. Thus are the rules of the car. If youre the one driving make sure you do whatever the fuck you feel like too. However with this rule comes the ultimate rule that one must pull over and allow the other to leave the vehicle at any time. Under these rules and understandings perfect harmony should be achieved.", "I usually just try to listen to people. \n\nI picked up that tip from Reddit a few years ago and it has worked wonders. \n\nPeople just want to vent sometime honestly, very rarely do they want a solution. ", "I had to remove and restrain someone (actually, a couple of someones) from a street brawl a couple of nights ago. I found firmly but calmly saying \"OK, Just breathe... just breathe...\" as I walked him away worked pretty well. Even if they're the kind of scum who will kick a man when they're down, at that moment give every indication that you're on their side, you're with them, they're the aggrieved party and now that the fight is over it's time to take stock.\n\nAs far as road rage in particular goes, something similar might work. Agree, botch about the arsehole drivers, let it diffuse naturally.\n\n", "I get the person talking about something they are passionate about. Try and replace one intense feeling with another.", "Cut her deep: Say, \"Do you think anyone else acts like this?\" then don't talk to her for the rest of the night.\n\nThen periodically put on episodes of South Park with Mrs. Crabtree on them ( www.southparkstudios.com ) and laugh hysterically and point at her bus stop outbursts while tapping your wife on the shoulder.\n\nThat'll show 'er.", " get even madder than they are and give them crazy eyes has worked well for me.. yell and throw shit for effect ", "aside from the top comment, which i will agree with heartily, i would add two things. \n\na) when i get road ragey or panicky, i have found that there is very little music that doesn't feel like excess noise to me. but that music that i can handle, helps to keep me focused elsewhere and calm me down. that music put on right when i start driving can often make me forget to be road ragey at all.\n\nb) have a talk with her. not while she's upset of course. she needs to learn coping skills, and she needs to be honest and accept that this is an issue she needs to work on, for her own sake and for the sake of people forced to be around her when she is stressing everyone out by spewing anger and negativity. her cortisol levels likely get way too high for comfort, as well. she might be embarrassed or ashamed, but she needs to face that this happens, it's not productive, and that there are ways to work on it. \n\nshe can look into online cbt/dbt workbooks, work on m", "This hits home for me. I do these things but its not anger. Im not truly angry. I let it out. Ill say one sentence or two about it. For example the traffic thing, awe cmon bitch what are you doing! Or get the fuck outta the way u stupid ass bitch...daaammnnn. \nI feel that is a small thing. Like I said im not pissed to the core and dont carry it into our next activity.just gettin the poison out as I call it. And I just got dumped over these type issues. And it was shocking. I had no idea that bothered you so much. \nSorry monkey. ", "Tap them on the elbow. It's a focal point because the nerves there are connected directly to other nerves across the body. In the martial arts I was trained in we did a lot of grabs focused on the elbow for that reason, and if touched gently it brings people back down it's crazy.", "Laugh at it. Reactions often reframe intent of what was said. If she realizes her rage was funny it can change to more of a \"how about this traffic\" schtick instead of actual anger. You actually have to find it funny though so at this point it probably won't work since you're already overly concerned. ", "It's all about tone of voice. It matters little what you say, just say it calmly. Not infuriatingly calmly, but just a little bit below their energy level, then step it down from there.", "I use misdirection and start talking about something else. My dad does this and he will always stop talking about whatever \"the moron in front of him\" is doing because he knows that it's not that important. \n\nYou can also try opening up a lot and letting her know that it is a behavior that scares you and makes you feel weird and uncomfortable. ", "I just had a thought. Maybe make the blinker issue into a game? If someone doesn't use a blinker, she gets a point, if they do, then you get a point. It would be fun and she may realize more people use it than don't.", "Get angry even more. Curse first. Scream at them. She will hopefully get the hyperbolic mocking is directed at her and get the hint.", "As a fellow road rager I don't think this is solvable. If it's such a problem I'd put her in the back seat. \n\nMy two cents.", "> She gets a little road ragey and starts flipping people off for small things like failing to use a blinker and/or cutting her off\n\nIs your wife me?", "1: be bigger, stronger and meanet than them\n2: slowly build yourself into a rage by hyperventilating and thinking of stuff that really makes you mad\n3: grab them by the shoulders and scream into their face: \"calm the fuck down or i'll crush the fucking life out of you\"\n4: if this doesn't work, crush the life out of them\n\nOne can never obtain a calmness in life such as death.", "whatever you do don't tell someone to \"calm it down\". I used to know someone who said this and it pissed me off no matter what. ", "sometimes i make a heart with my hands and say hey look, look, look, until they look and then i say 'love you' and wink and that seems to work. my manager talks to me about it a lot.", "i have super bad road rage. im a non-violent, non-aggressive person in my day to day life, but when i am on the road it's like all bets are off. my best friend has tried to tell me to calm down using some of the advice i've seen here, and frankly, all of this would piss me off even more if i were really in it. i understand i'm being irrational half the time, and so \"recognizing that i'm angry\" is almost patronizing. The best advice i could give is, wait until she's cooled down a bit, and let her know that it really spikes your blood pressure when she freaks out like that. maybe you could say that you trust her as a driver but her getting really hot behind the wheel makes you nervous. timing is key, but few people can argue back to idea that you are making someone feel unsafe in a car they are operating, assuming she is like me and really only gets this aggressive in the car. ", "catch her eye, \nmouth 'calm the fuck down' whilst giving her your best cutest facial expression...then do that eye jokey thing that lets her know you're joking,\nthen giggle together as she reigns her aggression in.", "[Nonviolent communication](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication). [Marshall Rosenberg's book] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B014OISVU4?keywords=nonviolent%20communication%20by%20marshall%20rosenberg&qid=1451852812&ref_=sr_1_1&s=digital-text&sr=1-1) would be a simple and cheap place to start, and may be plenty for your situation.", "[Here is the most relevant video I can imagine.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yuDAfU3uj6o) About 24 minutes long, but it is most revealing, and it addresses the specific situation you are encountering.", "Your wife has Borderline Personality Disorder. Go find a DBT specialist. Finding a tactful way to tell her to calm down is only a temporary fix. She needs therapy. ", "You should just drive, instead of her...?\n\nAnyway.. Try talking with her about it, when not driving (and not about to go driving) and ask her how to deal with the situation...\n\n", "You know you guys are fucking lifesavers right now, yeah? Thank fuck i ran into this. I love every one of you. Unless one of you is actually hitler. In that case I love most of you.", "You dont need much. Just force her to think.\n\n> Maybe you are the aggressive driver, have you ever thought about that? Take your speed down 5-10 mph , dont force it, and be alert but dont watch the traffic around you.", "You don't get to tell someone how to manage their emotions. \n\nYou can however ask someone to compose themselves. ", "You could always put your arms over your head and cower like you're scared shitless. That might work.\n", "Whenever I talk to my wife about issues, I always wait until we are doing something completely different to start.\n\nFor you, maybe wait until you are doing dishes and bring it up.\n\n\"Hey, I'm noticing that you have started getting pretty upset while driving, why do you think that is?\"\n\nThat way you can chat and hopefully she doesn't get to defensive. Also when it does happen again you can bring it up a little more organically. \"Remember when we talked about this earlier?\"", "When my friend rage about something, sometimes I act a lot more upset then they are and will get really animated about it. They will give me the \"woah man calm down\" look and then I gradually de-escalate and then all's cool :)", "When I get upset at other drivers (and I was made handicapped by a tourist from Utah who couldn't be bothered to use his turn signal), all I want is for someone to agree with me. Not rile me up more, but just say 'what a jerk' in a normal tone, maybe shake their head in 'disbelief.' From there a conversation may be had on related but less inflammatory issues.", "What to do is make a video of her road ragey, but mostly of the dips that cut her off, and publicly shame them online. Turn up the music to drown out the cringe.", "Well apparently [these phrases don't work](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/40/b8/33/40b8338d92ed0fc4dddcf506dd118d95.jpg)\n\nJokes aside, some folks here have mentioned some good things. I would add though that with any strong emotion such as anger it is very easy for the brain to get stuck in a spiral, i.e. anything else mentioned will simply fuel the process. One simply mechanism to shock the brain out of this is to say or do something completely random (doesn't have to be big, too loud, rude, etc, etc) within that situation. Since it's something that would never occur in their mind they actually have to take a breath and think about it, a quick mind reset if you will.", "We got into a fight with 18 yo kids on New Year's Eve who were high/drunk. I had no idea how to de-escalate the issue even though I tried some tips listed here. Looks like nothing works against drunks.", "Using \"I\" statements is always a good way to have a confrontation in a non-aggressive way. The trick is to talk about how something impacts oneself without blaming the other person. I.E. \"Man, when traffic is like this it really makes me anxious.\" etc, etc. The hard part is not using \"You\" later in the sentence. :\\", "Uh, tough one. Authority, as in \"those people who are listened to immediately\", is not improvised, it is something you build up until the day comes when you have to use it. Example: if you are always silent and quiet, it will be quite impressive if you suddenly raise your voice, even for a second. If you shout all the time, it's not going to impress anybody.\n\nThat being said, it looks like she is definitely angrier than the average driver... is she like this even when she is not driving? The approach might be different if it's a bigger problem. I find it hard to believe that one can go from sweet to this level of road rage by just entering a car... am I wrong?", "Ugh I-75. She has a right to be pissed. At least in the Cincy area people don't know how to drive and just cruise along in the passing lane. Rage inducing.", "Two things:\n\n1) a book called \"Verbal Judo\" excellent resource for learning to talk to and handle people.\n\n2) I once did a study abroad in International Criminal Justice in Thailand and Bankok police have the right idea. They get training on different aspects of the job from logical experts. For example, crime scene photography taught by professional photographers, seminars handling difficult people from flight attendant trainers etc. Such a novel idea, as someone pointed out some hospitals have very well developed and effective techniques for handling a variety of people having bad days. Why not incorporate this type of training. It would more than likely have amazing effects. I worked as a teen at summer camps for the mentally challenged and studied the aforementioned Verbal Judo, both helped my Military and Police work immensely. \n\n", "Try to make her laugh, somehow. Some people get very...intense when they're in an aggravated mood but I'd say there's almost always a way to make the mood lighter to distract her from getting even more angry. \n", "Top comment is all about the psychology side of crisis intervention and good advice for most situations. But...this is your wife and chances are she will see right through your attempts to use those tactics. She might even take offense to you trying to \"talk her down\" if she's at all familiar with those techniques. I say just be the pissed off one first. If you're already pissed she might feel less likely to show she is pissed. (For a non-relayed example, it's like normally complaining about refs in sports but then you watch the game with someone else that complains more about the refs, you tend to try to see the refs side a little more). As for flipping off and all that, one time to the wrong thug and you might end up escalating something to a bad place. So maybe communicate that being so personal can put her in harms way. If she's the type to say \"I don't give a shit! Fuck them!\" Then I doubt you have a viable solution. Also, I've heard the \"thumbs down\" is a good alternative to the bird. It's less aggressive and says \"I disapprove, you made a poor decision\" rather than \"FU idiot!\"", "To be fair... not using turn signals kills more people then distracting yourself with e.g. your phone! \n", "Throw an ear piercing tantrum. The juxtaposition of two adult children crying will make her see sense.", "This won't help right now, but have you tried talking to her about it outside the car? I mean, if this is a normal thing for her, you might want to talk to her when she's calm and say \"hey, this makes me feel really uncomfortable.\" And then you could talk about it like adults or whatever. Then next time it comes up when you're driving together, it's easier to bring it up than if it'd never been mentioned before.", "These stories always remind me of [this half hour of wisdom](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQvTrUnYCpw).", "There are 2 options the way I see it option 1, flip out more than her and show her how outrageous it is. When one person flips out the other tends to see it as silky. Option 2. Expose to her how silky it is by laughing lightly and telling her to calm down and say it's okay and not the end of the world. Sometimes being straight forward is the only way. ", "The trick is to get the person thinking about anyone other than themselves. Usually a loved one such as child, Mom, Dad, anyone that the person really loves. Give them reasons to talk about their loved ones. Works every time ", "The problem with \"calm down\" is that no matter how nicely you say it, it assumes that the person you're saying it to is a culprit. \n\nNow consider \"let's compose ourselves\". It points at both of you rather than just the other person because of the \"let's\", and the connotation isn't that you need to remove a negative but rather that you need to attain a positive. ", "The best thing to do is to be more mad and laughably furious at whoever she's raging about. Be angry WITH her but do it over the top. It works all the time.", "Tell her the horror stories like the one of the guy who got face smashed in with a crowbar through the window of his car for flipping off the wrong person. Then give her the challenge of counting each time she got annoyed but successful avoided reacting. If she reacts it resets to zero. Ask her to see how high she can get.\n\nBasically sets up an 'if roadrage then ignore and get point' override over the 'if roadrage then swear and act aggressively'. Doesn't always work but helps.", "Sometimes it's best just to let people vent for a while, and nod along (\"Ohh yeah\" \"Uhhuh\"\"I understand\").", "Sit her down (after the ride) and tell her what she is doing could kill or disable the both of you or someone else. Yes, it is that serious. Then tell her she needs to go to therapy. \n\nRoad rage is just a nicer (or more specific) way of saying \"anger problem\".", "Show by example. Use persuasion - not a lecture. There is no need to tell her to calm down. If you try to tell her to calm down, you will only make the situation worse, as she's not in the frame of mind to accept it. ", "Say it in spanish... Calmate. Works very well on the girlfriend, it sounds nice and she doesn't process that I am telling her to calm down till a little bit later then just saying calm down.", "Remind her that you will not be engaging in any fisticuffs that result from her flipping other drivers off. She can fight Seabass while you browse the internet from the passenger seat. ", "Redirect attention with positives that relax and please the person specifically.\nExamples:\n- music\n- singing\n- jokes\n- subject changes\n- questions of personal interest\n- painting or drawing\n- reading\n- electronic games\n\n", "Personally, I tend to (calmly) say something along the lines of \"I understand you're upset, but is it worth getting upset at traffic in the grand scheme of things? Why not be more productive and take the time to reflect on your thoughts or play some word games with your passengers?\" Tends to work for me. ", "People, even adults need to be treated like a child throwing a tantrum or a puppy misbehaving. Which means, distraction, jokes, start talking about something she likes, road head, or even making funny faces. All of these should take her mind off the anger for just a moment, and then things will be fine.", "Not saying her behavior is great, but I've found a good way to counter a person who gets road rage is to road rage with them. Get angry at the other cars with your wife. Agree with her. \"Yeah, that guy was being a real dick! Let's stay away from him he must be a bad driver.\" I find sharing in someone's misery makes it better for both parties. ", "Not a magic trick or all that original, but I was always kind of the peacekeeper in my family and have carried that into most of my adult friendships.\n\nBy far the most useful thing I've learned how to do is be outwardly calm myself. If you start saying things like \"calm down\" or \"take a deep breath,\" you will almost certainly just annoy them. But if you can just make it clear that you believe everything will be alright, and that the anxious/angry party is missing out on pleasant stuff because of how worked up s/he is, it will help them start working on calming themselves down.\n\nAgain, I'm not a professional and that technique requires a lot of patience on your part, but in my experience it has been very effective.", "My wife used to get super angry at bad drivers. I found that pointing out their fuckups before she can actually kept her from getting angry. For instance, if someone cuts us off while she's driving, I'll just immediately \"What a fuckin' moron!\" and she won't get upset. I notice it works when other people are driving as well. It probably has something to do with them wanting it to be understood that they were wronged and when you state it before they do, they no longer feel that need.", "My tip is to say \"I can't believe you just said that.\" Say it calmly. Most people yelling at you or on a rant will stop and think about what they are saying and realize they are reacting badly. Years of customer service taught me this one. ", "My husband has simply asked \"are you trying to start a fight?\" when I start getting to the irrational/hysterical build up that *happens sometimes.* Worked the first couple times, he must have switched to something else recently though.", "My girlfriend is the only women I've ever met who doesn't go batshit when I tell her to calm down. Hell, I even get pissed when someone tells me to, but she's a unicorn about it.", "My ex had road rage and would scream about the little things and flip people off. I used to use a calm voice and say \"hey, it's not a big deal, we weren't in any danger. Relax.\" This rarely worked, so eventually I had to sit and talk to her about road rage. I explained that I feared she would start a fight with someone or get herself hurt. I also explained I didn't feel safe with her driving when she got raged because she'd stomp the gas and brake and take harder turns because she was losing focus on safe driving and couldn't calm down. She learned to calm down a bit but there were times she would get angry. When that happened I'd ask her to pull over and let me drive. This led to either her compliance or her calming down so she didn't have to \"give up control\", so to speak.", "My daughter gets wound over simple things*.... I tell her to \"cool her tits\" 9 times out of 10 it works.\n\n\nSimple things, dishes, dinner, teeth, making school bus..etc", "Mirror there state and then slowly lead them into another state.\nShe's pissed at a driver? Agree about that driver being a dick, maybe talk about something else that's stupid but then segway into talking about something that doesn't piss her or you off.", "Married for 47 years - all I have to say is \"How old are you?\".. causes him to take a breath and realize he's acting inappropriately. Most times he laughs and calms down nicely :)", "Look! A distraction! Find anything to talk about that forces the negative person to speak about it. \n\n\"Tell me about X\"\n\nThey might catch on eventually but it could work short term. ", "Just get even more pissed at the things she's pissed off about. So when somebody cuts her off, and she's like \"Fuckin shit fucker ass wipe!\". You roll the window down and go, \"HEY! EAT A BAG O' DICKS MOTHER FUCKER\", and hopefully she'll see the light and be like \"Hey, you need to calm down.\" And she'll be calmed down when she says this. You're welcome.", "Is there a reason you don't drive? My gf is the same, so if we go somewhere together I just drive so she doesn't get all stressed out. ", "In minor situations when a person is in a wild rant and upset I found this effective.\n\nI ask them to start at the beginning. The more you repeat a situation out loud, the more accepting of things you become.\n\nI tell them they are going to fast for me. This will cause them to slow their speech, naturally slowing their breathing, reducing agitation.", "If you feel the need to yell something at them, instead of yelling \"calm the fuck down!\", just yell \"breathe!!\"", "If you ask them questions rather than give them orders they often run out of steam trying to articulate whatever it is that they're mad about unless it's legitimate. ", "If I can make him laugh, we are all clear. I usually do a terribly cartoonish impression of his outburst and then looking at him deadpan I say, \"spot on impression that's exactly what you sound like.\" He starts laughing at the absurdity, and then does one on me. ", "I've worked for over 20 years in retail and I've handled my share of upset people. This works for most situations. First, I truly look at what they're saying or claiming - I don't get cold or dismissive, I try to really consider their situation. Second, I tell the person that I WILL solve this issue for them. \n\nThis combo is so disarming that I rarely need to go further, but if needed, I will repeat my promise and explain their clam back to them so the realize that I am serious and that I will help. Then I go and do it. I solve their issue with confidence.", "I've found that calmly reminding the person of the ramifications of their actions helps.\n\n\"I know you could beat the shit out of them, but where would that lead you?\"", "I've been a social worker for forty-five years and I've raised five children, including two with anger issues. What I found works best is: \n\n\"You're being such a baby. Get it together.\"\n\nMake sure to roll your eyes to show them how ridiculous they're acting. Giggling helps. ", "I'm going to work at a call center and phone calls are recorded I think. If most people think the calm voice is patronizing, what else can I do to be the best at my job? ", "I'd tell her to breath. It's less accusatory than \"calm down\" and gets the point across just as well while validating her anger.", "I use distractions... For example, I keep hard candies in my purse and when my husband gets road ragey I'll offer him a candy and it immediately diffuses him. :) ", "I use Squid. Usually it ends in a chuckle at the least and in rare cases ends in no response but actually does calm someone down. ", "I think the key thing to talk (especially to my wife when she's raging) is to wait until AFTER the situation has passed and tell her how it makes you feel and how inappropriate it was. Doing this my wife has gradually gotten better.\n\nIn the moment though... it's -very- difficult to get someone like this to calm down.", "I tend to fire a single shot into the sky. (Careful if you're in a building) and if that doesn't work then they must be in the right to be angry. ", "I just stay silent and nod furiously when she consults my opinion. Apparently it's the most effective way to calm her as I've learned 2 years ago.", "I have the same issue, my SO has road rage too. I will definitely try some of these tips. Pointing it out only makes her madder.", "I have the exact same problem except with my older sister. It's alright because I can choose to not get in a car with her without hurting her feelings (basically white lies) but since this person is your wife, it is definitely something that needs to be confronted. From u/iowaboy's post, you get really good tips but those will never actually fix your wife's roadrage. When somebody is in a state, they want everybody to agree with them; you cannot tell them that they're doing something wrong without making things worse. EVER. I'm no pushover so I can't just agree that she's entitled to feeling like this and having the right of way. Sound familiar? It's like dealing with a child, no offense to your wife. I'm sure she doesn't realize this because of, as mentioned before, the sense of entitlement. In her mind, this is the appropriate response to whatever the situation is. I've tried 'showing' or kind of explaining why I don't think the situation is that big of a deal (when the roadrage starts) but she just snaps back at me saying that I'm not driving and just general rage and even literal turning of her head so she doesn't even make peripheral eye contact with me in the car. Sometimes, it's just like, 'Wow. What. A. Bitch.\" I haven't been able to fix my sister's roadrage completely. Since she doesn't respect me enough, I had to talk to my parents about it as they pay for her car and insurance. I hate saying that I told on my sister, but I was beginning to fear for my life and others with all her lane changes during rush hour, driving downtown with cyclists, etc. Anyway, the only thing I could actually do was stay completely silent in the car. As soon as my ass hits the seat, I'm not talking. She start going off, I just stay silent. I might look at her, but I won't ever say anything. If the silence makes her uncomfortable, she can deal with it like I deal with her rage. Like I said, she's my older sister and doesn't really respect me, but I'm sure you might bring your point across to your wife. Good luck.", "I have a history of temper flair ups. I hate to blame it on my dad but... I blame it on my dad. I've been getting a lot better over the years, though, and I never take it out on anyone else verbally or physically. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost three years and over the summer she saw the worst flair up I've ever had...\n\nWe were heading out to my car and saw that someone had scraped the back of my car while parallel parking and not left a note. I'm not a materialistic person and while I like my car very much, I'm not exactly a gear head or someone who puts their car above all else. Regardless, I went off.\n\nWe were driving to a store and honestly, the thing she did that helped the most was literally not saying anything. I just kept yelling and swearing a lot. She just wouldn't say anything. I calmed myself down pretty quickly by repeating out loud, \"It's just a car. It's just paint. No one got hurt. Nothing got stolen. It's just paint. I can repaint it....\" of course, every once in a while I'd curse in between... but in the 15 minute car ride she literally said nothing and did nothing. She didn't get mad that I was mad, she didn't get upset. She just sat there calmly while I worked it out myself.\n\nI don't know if your wife is the kind of person who can calm herself down. But in my experience, my girlfriend not saying anything and not reacting in any way to my rage really actually helped calm me down.\n\nHope this helps. If nothing else, maybe talk to her once she has calmed down and tell her that it makes you anxious and ask what she thinks would help?", "I had rage once. My husband shook his fist and said \"You bastard!\" I realized how giggle worthy it was to get road rage and have since subsided much. Sometimes just knowing we sound like ragey assholes helps us tone it down a bit :)", "I find that distraction works for me. Changing the radio station, talking about plans for another day, talking about basically anything but especially things in the future that make me actually ponder the situation instead of snapping back a yes or no answer.\n\nStarting with something like \"wow, traffic is rough today\" could help to validate her frustration and place the blame on all drivers instead of one or two guys. At least that's how that phrase affects me when I hear it.\n\nThen going off on distracting her. Obviously not distracting her from driving but diverting her thoughts to something else. ", "I can tell you from experience that one thing that *doesn't* work is saying, \"Okay, you need to calm the fuck down.\"", "I am not sure I can tell you what to do here, but I can tell you what not to do. \n\nWhen I was working under my old manager, and we had a minor disagreement, he would often tell me to quit being hostile, and that I needed to calm down, and not get so upset. I was absolutely dumbfounded, because I wasn't upset, I was calm... I just disagreed with my manager on a certain aspect of a project. Sometimes I adamantly disagreed with him, and the more I disagreed the more volatile the situation became because he thought I was being hostile, when in fact I was absolutely totally calm...\n\nI went to a couple of my coworkers and talked to them about it privately. I had noticed that they had been experiencing the same type of behavior from our manager. It was a sort of overreaction on his part. \n\nOver a few drinks with my coworkers it came out that our manager would often accuse us of being hostile, or that we would get too upset when we disagreed with him. He would often tell us to calm down during the disagreement, which in fact, someone seemed to have the adverse effect on us... we were calm and telling someone who is calm to calm down, generates a sort of defensive reflex that I can only describe as being \"uncalm\"... when someone tells you to calm down the instant reflex is \"I AM CALM\" -- no matter if you are upset or not. \n\nI think the top comment by u\\iowaboy is spot on. \n\nDo your best to rationalize what they are trying to say and see if you can get on the same page as they are or vise versa. ", "I always tell people to take a minute to compose themselves and collect their thoughts. It seems to be more effective considering you are suggesting they take action rather than telling someone to control their emotions", "I always imagine some of the other drivers as my aunts, uncles, ect. It really helps. That said, just realize that if other people make you that angry then they have CONTROL over you. The basis for this anger is control issues which need to be addressed... telling someone to calm down will not help long term. Short term= Look up \"Verbal Judo\" and \"Motivational Interviewing\" skills for more info. ", "I always ask them to imagine the other driver is an elderly relative, like a grandma or an aloof aunt\\uncle. Anyone they care about and also known to be terrible drivers", "Huh... If my dad starts getting road-ragey I get nervous and just say \"Please calm down.\" That seems to work. I don't know why someone would get mad at you for saying it in a situation that's not personal.\n", "Here's what I find disturbing: Suppose you won't be with her all the time. Where do you see it going? Will she eventually be a danger to others? To herself? Eventually she'll flip off someone who might simply go an kill her :( I don't know what the solution is, but I don't think you doing things while she's driving is ever going to be enough.", "Having dealt with something similar, I agree with a calm, slow, and low voice. Yes, tell her you understand how she feels and that holiday winter driving is frustrating. But her actions are making you feel tense and upset, and you're woried that by her being angry she will drive more aggressively and therefore more unsafely. Ask if she can do her best to not get sucked into road rage, and, from time to time, switch off with her so she can read or listen to something and not focus on the other drivers.", "Film her when she's driving.\n\nIf she's not embarrassed by seeing the footage of her behaviour then there's probably nothing you can do. You made a bad choice which you'll live to regret.\n\nIf you currently have no kids / not much money fix that mistake asap because it won't cost you much to do it now compared with later when you do have a family.\n\nEither way you are destined to be the recipient of that anger at some point in the future.", "Establish yourself as the alpha by taking off your shirt and pounding your chest violently. Make loud animal noises (scary animals like lions, gorillas, bears, etc...) If the hostile threat does not back down run for your life. ", "Empathic responding. \"Wow it seems like you're really pissed off\" \"That really made you angry, huh?\" \"Don't say these types of things in a condescending tone, however. Sometimes just having the emotions recognized can help. Plus she may recognize that she isn't actually that angry, she just got in the habit of flipping out. Or maybe she's scared, and she'll let you know that she isn't angry, she's nervous.", "Do not say, \"I can tell you are agitated and look tense\".\n\nPretty much the worst thing you could tell someone.", "Bitching and fussing sucks to listen to, but won't get you killed. Guys that hang out with chicks that start flipping off other drivers, get beat up or shot. Some people will fuckin shoot your ass for looking at them the wrong way. \n\nI had to carpool with a hothead and I had fun with it. I would anticipate an outburst and beat him to it in an overly pissed way and it became a rolling joke. But seriously, flipping people off will get you hurt.", "Assuming the reason for the raging isn't something sensitive or genuinely bad, I would go with humor. Find a way to make fun of the situation or just straight up tease the person about her overreaction. Obviously this works best with someone that you know well, so use your judgement here. \n\nTrying to \"logically\" defuse the situation, could very well work, but then you're often only left with awkward silence and a calm, but likely still pissed off person. Turn situation around with humor and suddenly you have shared a funny moment together that you can both look back to.", "Ask her to do something that actually calms her down. Ask her to take a deep breath, take the next exit for a cup of coffee/tea. You taking the wheel would be a good idea.", "According to Mel Gibson, you just smack your wife really hard across face (make sure she is holding your infant child) so hard that her veneers are knocked off her teeth.", "A trick i often use (im a sports team captain, so i need to calm some players sometimes) is to ask the other person to look in your eyes when they are disturbed. It helps them understand you better! (im not saying to do this while the other person is driving of course but it might help others.)", "-Stop acting like a fucking rage-oholic idiot or I fucking swear I'll fucking drop you off at the next bus station and make you take the bus. Do you fucking understand.\n\nMake sure to scream and look her in the eyes.\n\n\nThis is theoretical of course, but OP we need you to try it for science.", "- Most angry people feel like they're not being heard or heard properly which generally means they become more animated like waving their hands around or raising their voice. I like to repeat what someone say's to me back to them to let them know I'm hearing them which helps deescalate a situation. \n\n- Remove the 'but' from your response, it will only make someone feel like you're telling them you heard them but think they are wrong.\n\n- I usually give the compliment sandwich: 'I'm glad you feel comfortable having this kind of conversation with me, I like building our communication stronger like this - this is how I feel about things'\n\nI don't yell, become more animated, cut off or devalue someones opinion if I want them to talk more calmly about something. Sometimes people are just too mad to talk and need to walk away before coming back with a clear mind. It's good to know the difference or how people might best deal with conflict before trying to have tough conversations with them :)\n\n", "\"Yall mother fuckers better calm da fuck down before I beat yans asses all over this mother fucking walmart\"", "\"I\" statements... I feel nervous when there's tension in the car while we're headed somewhere. \nWhen/Then statements... When you avoid getting mad at the other drivers, then I feel more relaxed ...\n", "\nThis may not be applicable to your situation with your wife in the car, but here's some general advice, somewhat in order, that I've found to do more good than not in a variety of highly volatile interpersonal situations. Bear in mind, I did not have a personal stake in most of those situations, and I'd be a happier man if I was able to consistently take my own advice in those where I did.\n\nFirst, **do not tell anyone to calm down**. \n\n\nSecond, do not insinuate yourself into a situation without understanding that *you* have hot buttons, some of which might be motivating you to intercede, and if so, will definitely give you some predefined role expectations and reflexes that can and will render you less than objective. With that in mind....\n\n\nThree: **Do nothing at first.** Observe. The more you think you know about what's going on, the longer you should observe. Obviously there are situations where this is not the best thing to do. Those situations are rare. Very rare. (If you observe weapons or think violence is imminent, call the professionals.) As you observe, it's time to...\n\n\nFour: **Ground out**. Before getting into a conflict-laden situation as either as a neutral third party or as a participant with some stake in the matter, center yourself. Take a deep breath. Get your thinking brain online. Tell your lizard brain it's time to take a break. This takes some people only moments. Other people, much longer. Some people can't do this at all. Best figure out ahead of time which bucket you are in. When you're ready...\n\n\nFive: **Timing**. Pick the right moment to make your approach. A person gearing up for a major rant it's going to be slowed down by you. Watch their breathing. Breath with them, without seeming creepy. Remember to use...\n\nSix: **Body language** that communicates non-aggression and an open mind. Facing a person directly won't calm things down, a 45° angle between you and them generally works better. No crossed arms, no hands in pockets, no puffy chest. Relax. Flow with it. Cuz now it's time to...\n\nSeven: **Listen**. Give the other person reason to believe that you are actually listening to them. The easiest and best way to do this is to *actually* listen (OMG!)...ask non-sarcastic questions to clarify, don't interrupt, interject, or disagree. It is almost impossible for a non-sociopath to fake this. The #1 cause of people freaking the fuck out is because they have a point that they are trying to get across and they perceive (often rather correctly) that they aren't being heard, are being misunderstood, or their concerns are being dismissed as irrelevant to their audience, insignificant and not worthy of the effort to address or impossible to fix. People who freak out the hardest are the ones that are told that their concerns don't exist in the first place. So, when you want to say something or fix things, don't fuck it up, it's time to...\n\nEight: **Keep listening**. People who feel that they are being listened to generally calm down. This usually takes only a few minutes as their adrenal release dissipates. Some people, like PTSD sufferers, can take much longer. Even people who are high as fuck, mentally ill, or legitimately enraged generally calm down when they feel people are listening to them. Many exceptions apply. People who are in the midst of a break from reality are out of my league. Keep listening to them and have someone else call in the professionals. This almost never happens. At this point, you've accomplished the objective, which was to get someone to calm down, *not* fix the problem. If you are still on the hook to fix the problem, you aren't done. But the scope of this LPT answer is almost complete. \n\nNine: When you're done,** take care of yourself**. Debrief with someone you trust. If you stayed grounded you should be able to process this fairly quickly, assuming that it wasn't major fucked up shit that you were getting into. If it was, and you have nobody to talk to, call the crisis center. Tell them calmly, \"hey, this isn't a suicide call, I am not in the midst of crisis, but I just helped to diffuse a volatile emotional situation and I would like to debrief with someone\" -- they do this at the end of every shift and know how it goes. If that's not your style, call a taxi, have them drive somewhere random, and spill your guts. It's cheaper than therapy and surprisingly effective. \n\n**TL/DR: Listen.**\n\nSource: Decades of volunteer crisis intervention work at various events, festivals etc. I have no formal training, no scope of practice, I may have omitted many important things, I could be totally wrong on others, this does not constitute medical or legal advice. Bring your towel. Shit first. YMMV.\n\n", "\n\nAnother thought: meet them where they're at. If you're wicked pissed, it can be extremely difficult to listen to someone who is using their \"calm voice\"--especially if they aren't practiced at not sounding patronizing. Sometimes you need to partially/fully match the affect of the person you're trying to engage with, in order to achieve engagement; once you've done that, you can start bringing yourself down, which usually brings them down too. " ]

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[ "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?", "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?", "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?", "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?", "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?", "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?", "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?", "How to Keep My Body Temperature Very Low Hi! So I am your average teenager, with one minor concern, I AM ALWAYS BOILING HOT. I genuinely cannot go more than an hour anywhere without feeling like I need to rip my skin off. Admittedly, I live in a rather hot desert environment, but I basically never leave my home, and my air conditioner is always set on 18 C (64 ish F), I always drink cold water, and I wear exclusively polos and shorts, yet I still feel boiling hot wherever I go. If I take a freezing cold shower, my body will start to overheat itself in no more than 10 minutes, ice packs don't 'radiate' any cold, and it's always sucked. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips or advice? How the hell can I rig my body temperature to stay extremely low at all times?" ]

[ "Feeling constantly overheated (or chilly) can be a sign of thyroid issues. I’d see your doctor just to be safe.", "This sounds like hyperthyroidism. These problems run in my family and diet and medications can help. Get a full blood panel with your vitamin/minerals and thyroid. This doesn't sound normal.", "The one thing you *didn't* say in your post, OP, is: What is your *average body temperature*? \n \n37C (98.6F) is the *average* across the human species, but the normal *range* is 36.4C to 37.5C (97.6F to 99.6F). My family (me, wife, daughter) averages 97.6F. We actually have a low grade *fever* if we get to 98.6F. \n \nIf you feel \"hot\" in cooler temps, check your own temperature first. You may be averaging *hot*. BUT... \n \nIf you are within the normal range AND still feel \"feverish\", *see a doctor*. It is possible you have a problem with your glands that are supposed to *regulate* your internal temperature. It's called the \"endocrine system\" - thyroid, pituitary, etc. I had a girlfriend years ago who has a similar temperature related problem and didn't know about it until she went to a doctor with a *specific* complaint - I had my head resting on her stomach and *heard her heartbeat pause*.", "There are also autoimmune conditions that can prevent you from sweating. One bvb is called Autoimmune Autonomic Ganglionopathy, but this disorder has several other symptoms that you haven't complained of here. I like the advice of seeking a physician's opinion.", "It takes approximately 3 days of continuous exposure for your body to adjust to a new temperature. So believe it or not, barring any thyroid issues or health problems, you just have to suck it up and sweat it out for the first week. After that the heat won't feel so hot. Your internal temperature regulation will kick in to a new normal. \n\nBut that means you can't turn your ac that low anymore because every time you get comfortable at 64 degrees. Your internal temp goes back down making the regular warm Temps feel too hot. . . Like with most things a gradual change will feel easier but it will draw the process out over time. \n\nTake the ac to 68 for a week. Then to 70 for a week. Maybe go camping for like 4 days where you have no choice but to deal with the heat. It won't be fun, but it will make it so that your body doesn't feel like it's boiling at regular temperatures. Same is true for people getting used to cold Temps too.", "Hyperthyroidism perhaps. One of my relatives has it and always feels hot like you described. Might be good to get yourself checked.", "Definitely get your thyroid checked, it’s a very simple blood test. \n\nI’ve also seen people recommend a small foot tub with cool water that you swish around, can help keep body temp down I believe.", "Best to speak to a doctor because that should be enough to stay cool. If I did everything you did I would end up catching a cold even on holiday in the M" ]

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[ "A way to figure out what accounts use my school email before it expires in 6 months I just graduated from college. I need a tip to figure out what of accounts use my school email address.", "A way to figure out what accounts use my school email before it expires in 6 months I just graduated from college. I need a tip to figure out what of accounts use my school email address.", "A way to figure out what accounts use my school email before it expires in 6 months I just graduated from college. I need a tip to figure out what of accounts use my school email address.", "A way to figure out what accounts use my school email before it expires in 6 months I just graduated from college. I need a tip to figure out what of accounts use my school email address." ]

[ "Search your account for the word \"unsubscribe\". This will give you a good sense of what services have your school email address and therefore likely have an account created with that email. ", "https://unroll.me/ finds everything you are subscribed to in your inbox. It's also good for cleaning out your real email. It can unsub you with one click, and roll up subs into a daily email if you actually want to keep them. ", "Ouch. This is a good reason to not use email addresses that you can lose control of, like school, work, or anything from your internet provider. I use personal vanity domain email, but Gmail would be fine too.\n\nBut to address the question, kittychanley nailed it. Your saved, and deleted, email is your best reference", "Assuming you didn't mass delete all of your old emails, just scroll through your history and make a list of companies that have contacted you at that email address.\n\nAlso check with your school about email forwarding, they might be able to forward your emails for a bit longer past the 6 month expiration date, so you can receive more emails and confirm accounts.\n\nHonestly though, over the next few months just try logging into any accounts you can think of to see if that's the email address used. If it is, make the switch now to a new account. \n\nAny accounts you can't think of to test probably weren't all that important anyways. If you forget something major like a financial account that you had linked, there will be options to contact the company and reset the account with a new email address using other account information like name, phone number, address, billing statements, etc." ]

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Even people I've known for months I haven't 100% opened up around. \n\nI always feel like I'm holding back unless I'm around a best friend or certain family members. Why? I know in my brain, heart, and soul that it doesn't make sense to live that way; yet that negative voice of my brain continues to drown out all sensibility. \n\nI would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nquick ", "How to not care if people think I'm weird, ugly, saying something stupid, etc. If you're not this person then you know this person. Worried about how their hair looks, low confidence, afraid of scaring people away. I, like many others, act waaaayyyy differently toward some people than I do in front of others. 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Even people I've known for months I haven't 100% opened up around. \n\nI always feel like I'm holding back unless I'm around a best friend or certain family members. Why? I know in my brain, heart, and soul that it doesn't make sense to live that way; yet that negative voice of my brain continues to drown out all sensibility. \n\nI would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nquick ", "How to not care if people think I'm weird, ugly, saying something stupid, etc. If you're not this person then you know this person. Worried about how their hair looks, low confidence, afraid of scaring people away. I, like many others, act waaaayyyy differently toward some people than I do in front of others. Even people I've known for months I haven't 100% opened up around. \n\nI always feel like I'm holding back unless I'm around a best friend or certain family members. Why? I know in my brain, heart, and soul that it doesn't make sense to live that way; yet that negative voice of my brain continues to drown out all sensibility. \n\nI would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nquick ", "How to not care if people think I'm weird, ugly, saying something stupid, etc. If you're not this person then you know this person. Worried about how their hair looks, low confidence, afraid of scaring people away. I, like many others, act waaaayyyy differently toward some people than I do in front of others. Even people I've known for months I haven't 100% opened up around. \n\nI always feel like I'm holding back unless I'm around a best friend or certain family members. Why? I know in my brain, heart, and soul that it doesn't make sense to live that way; yet that negative voice of my brain continues to drown out all sensibility. \n\nI would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nquick ", "How to not care if people think I'm weird, ugly, saying something stupid, etc. If you're not this person then you know this person. Worried about how their hair looks, low confidence, afraid of scaring people away. I, like many others, act waaaayyyy differently toward some people than I do in front of others. Even people I've known for months I haven't 100% opened up around. \n\nI always feel like I'm holding back unless I'm around a best friend or certain family members. Why? I know in my brain, heart, and soul that it doesn't make sense to live that way; yet that negative voice of my brain continues to drown out all sensibility. \n\nI would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nquick ", "How to not care if people think I'm weird, ugly, saying something stupid, etc. If you're not this person then you know this person. Worried about how their hair looks, low confidence, afraid of scaring people away. I, like many others, act waaaayyyy differently toward some people than I do in front of others. 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Even people I've known for months I haven't 100% opened up around. \n\nI always feel like I'm holding back unless I'm around a best friend or certain family members. Why? I know in my brain, heart, and soul that it doesn't make sense to live that way; yet that negative voice of my brain continues to drown out all sensibility. \n\nI would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nquick ", "How to not care if people think I'm weird, ugly, saying something stupid, etc. If you're not this person then you know this person. Worried about how their hair looks, low confidence, afraid of scaring people away. I, like many others, act waaaayyyy differently toward some people than I do in front of others. Even people I've known for months I haven't 100% opened up around. \n\nI always feel like I'm holding back unless I'm around a best friend or certain family members. Why? I know in my brain, heart, and soul that it doesn't make sense to live that way; yet that negative voice of my brain continues to drown out all sensibility. \n\nI would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nquick ", "How to not care if people think I'm weird, ugly, saying something stupid, etc. If you're not this person then you know this person. Worried about how their hair looks, low confidence, afraid of scaring people away. I, like many others, act waaaayyyy differently toward some people than I do in front of others. 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[ "When you lay down at night and go to bed, how much are you thinking about that one guy who tripped on his way up the stairs? Somewhere between not at all and \"do I have to fart or shit?\"", "Wait a minute, a few months isn't a very long time at all. You don't have to open up 100% around people you've only known for a few months. It makes a lot of sense to live that way. You don't owe it to anyone to be \"100% yourself\" until you say so.\n\nKeep yourself distant enough from new people that you don't spend all your time and emotional energy diving into new relationships, but also authentic enough that going about your day doesn't feel like walking around in shoes that don't fit. It's hard to find your way into that sweet spot, but it's there.\n\nLPT: If anyone knew you completely, knew you better than you know yourself, understood every motivation and felt every emotion and saw every action, they could not help but love you. And if anyone thinks you're a cringe-y POS, it's because they don't know you that well. Which, of course they don't, you don't either.", "Here's something radical to try: when you are out and talking to someone think about what makes that person interesting. Ask them questions and listen to their answers, then ask them more questions and listen to those answers, etc. People will think well of you because everyone is desperate to be noticed and listened to. It won't matter if you are a bit awkward or funny looking. Listeners are in short supply, and always become beautiful to the person desperate to be heard. ", "EFT helps me when I'm having an anxious moment. Check out Brad Yates on YouTube; he's got tons of awesome tapping videos! Might feel weird or cheesy at first, but it's really effective. ", "Personally I believe that what people think of me is none of my business. I've got too much to worry about in my life and too many things to do to bog myself down with hypothetical-maybe-what if-bullshit. I often think \"does it truly honestly matter what they think? What about 5 minutes from now? Will it matter then? How about 5 hours? 5 days? 5 weeks?\" My opinion is, at least for me, that I have no right to try to control other people or what they think. That way? That way lies madness. ", "Try this: go sit somewhere (a bench, a coffee shop) with a good view of the street so that you can watch passersby. How many of the people you see look like weirdos or freaks? How many of them are, objectively, a bit ugly or funny looking? In my experience: most of them. It turns out that we're all a bit weird, we're all freaks, none of us really knows what's going on, no one really fits in. Everyone is winging it. So am I. So are you. All of us are normal, and we're all freaks. Embrace it.", "Time, age, self confidence all factor in to this. Everyone has self doubt, what you want to do is teach yourself to treat yourself the way you'd treat a friend.\n\nSelf-Compassion is a learned skill and it's something we struggle with as our world becomes more and more self-judgmental. \n\nhttps://zenhabits.net/self-compassion/", "I got a lot happier when I stopped TRYING to find out how other people saw me. That led to me not caring as much. It was a gradual change, though. \n\nOtherwise, stop comparing yourself. I also got happier when I stopped trying to figure out who I acted like, for example when I took over a job I'd seen done by a dozen people before, I kept trying to figure out which of them I was most like towards the other employees. Drove me nuts. \n\nI guess my advice is to figure out what you're doing that's causing this anxiety, because really you're the only one who knows (and if you're like me, THAT'S why you don't open up) ", "What worked for me was time and teaching myself what worked for me. I always made things weird in my early 20s. I made people uncomfortable because I was uncomfortable. After a few years I learned what made me happiest and did that until I felt happy. Tl;dr-fake it til you make it ", "There will always be people that think you're ugly, a jerk, to fat to skinny.\nSCREW those people. you have to remember that you are awesome and if they can't see that , f them. They don't control you , and their ideas or conceived notions about you shouldn't hold an ounce of weight. You are you, you are presumably a nice person. build your confidence, those who talk about you , hate you , who cares!! \nYou are awesome without them, and not having them in your life is no loss. \nI have had many girls hate me , why,,, because I'm slender,, I may be nice as pie but they are jealous and petty but hey, I'm awesome, so f em . work on your confidence and try to let things roll off. ", "You ever notice that ducks are waterproof? Rain rolls right off of them. You can dunk them underwater and they will come out dry. \n\nOil will stick to a duck which is bad because that shits toxic.\n\nBe like the duck, let things wash over you, dont hold onto toxic thoughts/memories which just hold you down and keep you from flying.*\n\nIf all else fails, just page that fuckswithducks guy and you can always get laid...\n\n\n\n* i am not a duck scientist...", "Start looking at the whole thing as though it was in a petri dish.\n\nSocial spheres are a primordial soup of interaction between different beliefs, attitudes and intelligence.\n\nYou don't see things as they truly are if your down there swimming in the agar.\n\nFind your vantage point and study with the understanding that you don't always have to react to an algal bloom.\n\nOnce you are there it will seem ridiculous that you once showed anxiety about how much light you let into the dish. \n\n", "Just don't. The trick to not caring is really that why the fuck would you care what they think in the first place? \n\nAnd if you can't not care, pretend that you don't care. After a long time spent pretending you don't care, you'll actually not care.", "I used to be you.\nDo two things and I guarantee you will change your life.\n1: ask them questions about things they like to do and are going to do.\nPeople like to talk about themselves, they don't care about you (to be blunt).\nAnd while your talking to them about the shit they like you might find something you know a little about but whatever you do always bring it back to them. (Social media understands this and capitalizes on it)\n2: never speak negatively about anything, there can always be a positive side and people never get tired of someone in a genuinely good mood. Plus they know you won't be talking shit about them the moment they leave the room.\nGood luck.", "I used to be you.\nDo two things and I guarantee you will change your life.\n1: ask them questions about things they like to do and are going to do.\nPeople like to talk about themselves, they don't care about you (to be blunt).\nAnd while your talking to them about the shit they like you might find something you know a little about but whatever you do always bring it back to them. (Social media understands this and capitalizes on it)\n2: never speak negatively about anything, there can always be a positive side and people never get tired of someone in a genuinely good mood. Plus they know you won't be talking shit about them the moment they leave the room.\nGood luck.", "I used to be that person. But since the psychosis and excruciating apathy took over I just accepted that their feelings towards me don't mean anything because they will never be able to judge or degrade me more or better than I can do myself.\n\nThough I assume that's not the answer you're looking for. You could start establishing yourself mentally and physically- make sure you're always pristine (or at least presentable), but don't overdo it. People typically won't say anything negative about appearance unless either it's legit gotta change or they're just looking for a reason to bitch at you. In which case they'll look for anything likely, so they're piss in the wind.\n\nMake sure that what others see is what they get. The amount of people that have developed respect for me over the years due to my honesty is actually rather disgusting. But in that capacity, honesty (and just existing as a whole) will make enemies. **You cannot please everyone.** Don't even try, it's genuinely not worth it. Smoke and mirrors are cool and all and can turn heads, but people appreciate it much more if they see you as a human being and not a billboard for yourself. If people start to warm to you honesty and with a warm heart, it's a lot easier to share it back.\n\nLearning to be confident for you is difficult for some people. I get, as I used to share that with you. Start taking pride in you, but don't develop an ego- for those of us that cannot. \n\nFlaws and quirks are just a constant- but that doesn't mean they have to consume you.", "I think there is nothing wrong with not opening up to people you don't know well.\n\nHowever, if you want to be more open in general and not put so much weight in others' opinions, the best thing to do is practice. \n\nStart with ton of self compassion. Work on accepting that it's okay to be awkward/embarrassed/vulnerable as long as you are making progress. Remember than everyone has unique quirks. Keep in mind that people in general think about themselves and their lives much more than they think about anyone else. Finally, recognize if you do face criticism that their criticism of you says much more about them than it does about you. \n\nOnce you feel ready, open up to one new person a every few days. Start with light things that make you feel only a little vulnerable. \n\nIn general, its still good to save the big guns for close friends and family who have earned your trust. ", "I recently started trying to learn a foreign language. In doing so I joined a temporary online community of language learners. We're all terrible. The organizers encourage people to use the language in various ways and interact with the community. Some people post comments, some videos, others have fill-in (attempts) at chats. It's all outside our comfort zone, but I realized today that it wasn't uncomfortable. To get better at a language, you have to put yourself out the and allow yourself to make mistakes that other people will and should notice. You have to fail, just a little bit, repeatedly. But this forum, in which everybody does it, has trained me to be comfortable with judgement. So, if your looking for a daily exercise to get you comfortable with not caring what people think, that is it. And if at the end you speak a foreign language a little better, then I guess that might help your confidence too.", "I just try to be a funny guy. Nobody expects the fun person to be really self-deprecating. Then they stop thinking of you in a very judgemental way, and then it just kind of fades from existence because you're not thinking about it and they don't care.", "I got two very important pieces of advice, and hopefully they will help you, too.\n\n1) Don't compare your insides to other people's outsides. No one truly knows what is going on inside another's head, so comparing ourselves to each other is like working with only half the puzzle pieces.\n\n2) What other people think of me is none of my business. My job is to be the very best me that I can be, just as theirs is to be the very best them. Everyone has a right to an opinion on each other, and really, at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I need to focus on me, not trying to analyze what someone else might hypothetically be thinking.\n\nDid that make sense?", "I am the opposite so I'm not sure if I have something to offer but here goes. If you are not confident in your group go to a new group, go nuts, be the \"you\" you think you want to be. Think of it as a role if it helps. When you're with that group be that person. After a week look at it, if it's working there try that role other places. Good luck and god speed. ", "How old is the person we are talking about? I don't mean this as a diss because it has been shown that teenagers overwhelmingly believe that people are watching them. It's called [imaginary audience](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imaginary_audience), and it is really common for adolescents to buy in to that idea. It's mostly because of the psycho-social stage of the development they are at where they are trying to solidify their identity, and a lot of our identity is in \"performance\" especially at that age. \n\nSo, one lpt would be to simply wait if you are indeed an adolescent. The overwhelming, anxiety inducing fear of being judged will pass in great part once you get past those years.", "Honestly, you will always kinda care what other people think, it's part of who you are. But you also need to remember this, THE UNIVERSE DOESN'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOU BECAUSE YOU AREN'T THAT SPECIAL. That might sound mean but up until recently if someone snickered under their breath I always assumed it was about me. Then I realized people really don't care THAT much. Just be who you are and the people who like you will find you.", "Hey there! This is my first post on reddit and I think I can give you some good advice that has worked for me. \n\nTo not care what people think of you, you have to be confident in yourself. True confidence comes from accepting and being happy with who you are. If you're not happy with yourself, of course there are changes in your like that start doing. Some of these changes could include getting a nice haircut, grooming yourself (clean shaved), eating healthy (lots of fruits and veggies, less fast food), going to a gym (changing your physique for the better), wearing nice clothes (shoes are one of the most important pieces in your wardrobe), playing a sport, m", "Get in shape, learn how to dress, get a decent haircut.\n\nInvest in yourself - and as you set goals and meet them you'll learn to value your own opinion of yourself and your accomplishments.\n\nAnd as you improve your life, people will automatically treat you better.", "Focus on being great and being right. Being kind is at second priority. I lived my life like this when people I like wouldn't like me back and I got teased because of my acne. I got tired of trying to improve my outside appearance and my kind reputation that I just said \"screw it. I'll be great instead.\"\n\nI now transformed my academic life from having mediocre grades to being one of the well known smart people in my block. I'm not that kind nor mean (be careful not to be an asshole) to my classmates. \n\nThere are some people who don't understand that I'm focused on my goal and not on their feelings and it heats things up at times. Just back off and continue with your task. Once finished or on break, solve the dispute. You don't want people to hate you because they'll try to bring you down. Just be neutral.", "A long time ago, I took a 'right-thinking' seminar, which had a series of exercises designed to encourage thinking patterns that help people make decisions based on logic instead of on emotional states / because because.\n\nNow, in practice they actually worked for the group, but I'm so lazy that I never did them with regularity.\n\nWhat you do is come up with a group of random words (more is harder), and then write/say/whatever your concept of that group of words. Also, try to tie in POSITIVE, NEGATIVE, and NEUTRAL. For instance, come up with a positive concept for that group of words, and then a negative, and then neutral.\n\nI think the idea is to do it with regularity, but I honestly don't remember. The group has seen some massively beneficial results from teaching it to certain people groups. Those taught went on to overcome PTSD, start orphanages, and provide housing for prostitutes in highly suppressed third world countries, for example.", ">I would LOVE to know any exercises I could start doing ASAP to smash this problem into the ground. How do I nearly-constantly be the most me without fear of judgement? Thanks for reading.\n\nConfidence, just be confident in yourself and learn that others do not define you. If you are fake to make friends or meet people, you will only meet fake people and make fake friends.\n\nBe you no matter what.\n\nPut yourself out there, look for groups that are interested in similar hobbies as yourself. It's okay to be shy, but remember you went there looking for commonality among these people. Confidence will go far in being able to mingle and join in the fun.\n\nOpening yourself and being confident are vastly different concepts. You can keep to yourself and keep yourself private. This does not mean you can't be confident in who you are or what you enjoy doing.\n\nIt's something you have to learn and work on though for you. Not everyone grows up with the confidence and will of Superman, sometimes we start out as Urkel. But even Superman kept himself distant from those he didn't trust or confide in.\n\nWe all have different personas that we use each day, and in different interactions.\n\nBe you, and practice being confident in who you are. It's a hard road, but you'll thank yourself for it at the end.", "Fake it til you make it. If you have to, even think in a bit of a nasty way: \"who the fuck are they? I am better than them!\". " ]

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[ "How to stop expecting others to treat me the way I treat them? I've been a miserable person for a while now. I wouldn't say I'm walking around in a cloud of depression or anything, but most of the time I'm full of a spiteful frustration towards the people that are closest to me. \n Call me a self righteous bastard and I won't argue... But I consider myself to be a very thoughtful person. I'm always trying to do right by people and treat them compassionately. Especially my closest friends and family. I try to be there for everyone and meet their needs or wants. I would definitely say I'm a people pleaser and I feel that people really appreciate that about me and keep me around because of it. \n The problem is that I expect others to return with the same kind of respect and consideration. And most people consistently fall short of how I expect them to act. Because of this, I am never satisfied with my relationships and feel like I'm a really spiteful person. But I never let that out because I don't want to make people feel bad. And also because I feel deep down that my perspective of things is quite skewed, and my frustration with others for falling short is misfounded. I'm just not sure how to get out of this headspace. Any thoughts or experiences? \n \n", "How to stop expecting others to treat me the way I treat them? I've been a miserable person for a while now. I wouldn't say I'm walking around in a cloud of depression or anything, but most of the time I'm full of a spiteful frustration towards the people that are closest to me. \n Call me a self righteous bastard and I won't argue... But I consider myself to be a very thoughtful person. I'm always trying to do right by people and treat them compassionately. Especially my closest friends and family. I try to be there for everyone and meet their needs or wants. I would definitely say I'm a people pleaser and I feel that people really appreciate that about me and keep me around because of it. \n The problem is that I expect others to return with the same kind of respect and consideration. And most people consistently fall short of how I expect them to act. Because of this, I am never satisfied with my relationships and feel like I'm a really spiteful person. But I never let that out because I don't want to make people feel bad. And also because I feel deep down that my perspective of things is quite skewed, and my frustration with others for falling short is misfounded. I'm just not sure how to get out of this headspace. Any thoughts or experiences? \n \n", "How to stop expecting others to treat me the way I treat them? I've been a miserable person for a while now. I wouldn't say I'm walking around in a cloud of depression or anything, but most of the time I'm full of a spiteful frustration towards the people that are closest to me. \n Call me a self righteous bastard and I won't argue... But I consider myself to be a very thoughtful person. I'm always trying to do right by people and treat them compassionately. Especially my closest friends and family. I try to be there for everyone and meet their needs or wants. I would definitely say I'm a people pleaser and I feel that people really appreciate that about me and keep me around because of it. \n The problem is that I expect others to return with the same kind of respect and consideration. And most people consistently fall short of how I expect them to act. Because of this, I am never satisfied with my relationships and feel like I'm a really spiteful person. But I never let that out because I don't want to make people feel bad. And also because I feel deep down that my perspective of things is quite skewed, and my frustration with others for falling short is misfounded. I'm just not sure how to get out of this headspace. Any thoughts or experiences? \n \n", "How to stop expecting others to treat me the way I treat them? I've been a miserable person for a while now. I wouldn't say I'm walking around in a cloud of depression or anything, but most of the time I'm full of a spiteful frustration towards the people that are closest to me. \n Call me a self righteous bastard and I won't argue... But I consider myself to be a very thoughtful person. I'm always trying to do right by people and treat them compassionately. Especially my closest friends and family. I try to be there for everyone and meet their needs or wants. I would definitely say I'm a people pleaser and I feel that people really appreciate that about me and keep me around because of it. \n The problem is that I expect others to return with the same kind of respect and consideration. And most people consistently fall short of how I expect them to act. Because of this, I am never satisfied with my relationships and feel like I'm a really spiteful person. But I never let that out because I don't want to make people feel bad. And also because I feel deep down that my perspective of things is quite skewed, and my frustration with others for falling short is misfounded. I'm just not sure how to get out of this headspace. Any thoughts or experiences? \n \n", "How to stop expecting others to treat me the way I treat them? I've been a miserable person for a while now. I wouldn't say I'm walking around in a cloud of depression or anything, but most of the time I'm full of a spiteful frustration towards the people that are closest to me. \n Call me a self righteous bastard and I won't argue... But I consider myself to be a very thoughtful person. I'm always trying to do right by people and treat them compassionately. Especially my closest friends and family. I try to be there for everyone and meet their needs or wants. I would definitely say I'm a people pleaser and I feel that people really appreciate that about me and keep me around because of it. \n The problem is that I expect others to return with the same kind of respect and consideration. And most people consistently fall short of how I expect them to act. Because of this, I am never satisfied with my relationships and feel like I'm a really spiteful person. But I never let that out because I don't want to make people feel bad. And also because I feel deep down that my perspective of things is quite skewed, and my frustration with others for falling short is misfounded. I'm just not sure how to get out of this headspace. Any thoughts or experiences? \n \n" ]

[ "Drive a wedge between hope and expectation. I have a philosophy that helps me along these lines: 'the biggest hurdle to happiness is unreasonable expectations'. i don't expect for reciprocation, but i hope for it. and i'm too old not to use my observations to filter who I spend my life/time with. Keeping score and throwing it in somebody's face is childish, keeping score and letting a call go to voice mail because somebody as a pattern shows absolutely no inclination towards giving, only taking is another.. ", "In my opinion, our personalities are pretty much hard-coded. Whether you look at it from a perspective of the Four Temperaments, Meyers-Briggs, or whatever, we are built to handle interpersonal relationships in a certain way and there isn't much that is going to change that. Some people are built to be givers and carers. Others lack much emotional concern for others. That is just the way we all are, individually. \nEach personality type has its own set of strengths and weaknesses that all contribute to the whole of the human experience, for better or worse. The things that make you a good person for treating others well also lead to traits that others see as negative. You may be seen as a push-over to more aggressive personality types. \nBy understanding these differences and that there is really nothing that can be done to change them (within reason), we can accept who we are, accept who others around us are, and learn to live with and accept the broad spectrum of human personalities. Focus on the good that other person can bring to society, even if they can't treat you the same way you treat them.\nI believe a study in the strengths and weaknesses of all personality types will help bring some clarity to this challenging topic. ", "If you have the means, this might be your clue to that you need to restart. Sometimes it's better to leave behind the people that stress you out. Find a new job, or if you can get situated in a different city, etc.\n\nI had a job where I was facing the same often, didn't get paid well, and wasn't advancing much. People I dealt with there had issues. Lots of stress and occasional suicidal thoughts because of it. Unfortunately I'm unemployed now because it's difficult finding any good job openings, but the stess and negative thoughts are gone. Only thing I miss is independence and spending money, but those aren't so bad in comparison - not putting up with crap is worth it.", "I read a great quote the other day that helped me put things like this into perspective. People get mad and frustrated because either their expectations did not meet reality, or their reality didn't meet their expectations. In order to be happy, you either have to change your expectations or your reality. ", "I can't really help you other than to say that the only person you can control is yourself. expecting much of anything out of others will result in disappointment, so keep doing what makes you feel right, and then be pleasantly surprised when you get things in return.\n\n\nAlso read the books \"Nudge\" by Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein and \"Influence\" by Dr. Robert Cialdini. \n\nThey won't make everyone do what you want, but they will help you to know when you're being influenced to do what others want, and can help you to influence others to act in ways more beneficial to you.\n\nUse ethically and wisely." ]

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[ "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n", "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n", "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n", "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n", "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n", "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n", "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n", "How to stay up late without Coffee I gotta type a paper that I sorta procrastinated on and I'm usually never able to stay up. I've googled some tips and most of them said either drink coffee or look at screens less, buuut the problem with that is: I can't not look at screens since I have to type the paper and coffee won't work because my parents probably won't let me drink it before bed.\n\nWhat should I do?\n\n" ]

[ "Sit on a chair with your keys in your hand. Then take a nap until you drop the keys, you should wake up again. this should be enough to get you going for a while.", "30 min of intense cardio and then a COLD shower. Try running in place and jumping jacks if you can't get outside. Get your heart PUMPING and you will not be going to sleep and will increase blood flow etc. etc.", "keep the light on in your room and, if possible, stand up while working. This makes your brain assume it's still daytime and you're doing something so it tries to stay awake", "Squats. When you start to feel sleepy squats until you don't. Got through years of night shift like this. Or you could organise your time better to avoid staying up late.", "Look at screens less? My tip would be look at them more. If I read a read a real book im getting tired immediately. If I read it on a screen, no problem.\nBut for real, you should try to get all your discipline together and just take a 15-20 min nap when you get tired. It is very important that its not more than that, otherwise you will be entering a sleeping phase you definitely dont want to enter that late in the evening, because then its game over for you.", "I can’t stay up very late either. I usually just sleep as soon as I can then wake up around 1 or 2 to do homework", "Exercise, some push ups something to energize you. Or ice cold water, but this has backfired because I grabbed a blanket afterwards and going from cold to nicely warm put me to sleep.", "Bright lights, especially the bluer tinted ones help keep you alert. Eating ice can help refresh, so can a splash of cold water on your face. Get up and walk around a bit if you feel yourself drooping." ]

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[ "I get calls 5-7x/day from companies asking for the same person (it’s not me). How do I get to the bottom of this? About six months ago, I started getting calls from mortgage companies, insurance companies, you name it for the same person “Stephen.” I am not Stephen and I don’t have a house or car. Every time I get a call, I ask them to take me off the list. The problem is that I keep getting calls from new/different companies. Blocking numbers isn’t doing it. I finally got someone to tell me Stephen’s last name and googled him. I figured out he is married to someone with my last name which sort of explains it. How do I get this nightmare to stop once and for all? Should I call Stephen??", "I get calls 5-7x/day from companies asking for the same person (it’s not me). How do I get to the bottom of this? About six months ago, I started getting calls from mortgage companies, insurance companies, you name it for the same person “Stephen.” I am not Stephen and I don’t have a house or car. Every time I get a call, I ask them to take me off the list. The problem is that I keep getting calls from new/different companies. Blocking numbers isn’t doing it. I finally got someone to tell me Stephen’s last name and googled him. I figured out he is married to someone with my last name which sort of explains it. How do I get this nightmare to stop once and for all? Should I call Stephen??", "I get calls 5-7x/day from companies asking for the same person (it’s not me). How do I get to the bottom of this? About six months ago, I started getting calls from mortgage companies, insurance companies, you name it for the same person “Stephen.” I am not Stephen and I don’t have a house or car. Every time I get a call, I ask them to take me off the list. The problem is that I keep getting calls from new/different companies. Blocking numbers isn’t doing it. I finally got someone to tell me Stephen’s last name and googled him. I figured out he is married to someone with my last name which sort of explains it. How do I get this nightmare to stop once and for all? Should I call Stephen??", "I get calls 5-7x/day from companies asking for the same person (it’s not me). How do I get to the bottom of this? About six months ago, I started getting calls from mortgage companies, insurance companies, you name it for the same person “Stephen.” I am not Stephen and I don’t have a house or car. Every time I get a call, I ask them to take me off the list. The problem is that I keep getting calls from new/different companies. Blocking numbers isn’t doing it. I finally got someone to tell me Stephen’s last name and googled him. I figured out he is married to someone with my last name which sort of explains it. How do I get this nightmare to stop once and for all? Should I call Stephen??", "I get calls 5-7x/day from companies asking for the same person (it’s not me). How do I get to the bottom of this? About six months ago, I started getting calls from mortgage companies, insurance companies, you name it for the same person “Stephen.” I am not Stephen and I don’t have a house or car. Every time I get a call, I ask them to take me off the list. The problem is that I keep getting calls from new/different companies. Blocking numbers isn’t doing it. I finally got someone to tell me Stephen’s last name and googled him. I figured out he is married to someone with my last name which sort of explains it. How do I get this nightmare to stop once and for all? Should I call Stephen??", "I get calls 5-7x/day from companies asking for the same person (it’s not me). How do I get to the bottom of this? About six months ago, I started getting calls from mortgage companies, insurance companies, you name it for the same person “Stephen.” I am not Stephen and I don’t have a house or car. Every time I get a call, I ask them to take me off the list. The problem is that I keep getting calls from new/different companies. Blocking numbers isn’t doing it. I finally got someone to tell me Stephen’s last name and googled him. I figured out he is married to someone with my last name which sort of explains it. How do I get this nightmare to stop once and for all? Should I call Stephen??" ]

[ "What I've found is that the person who used to have my number is still entering this number online when completing crap, and I get all of the spam calls. I too, found the person online, with their current number..and I then *69 call during my overnight shift...many times asking for Debra Smith, Debbie Smith, Deb Smith pretending to be the same companies calling me.....hope she enjoys it", "Its a nightmare if you stress about it. Life is short, maybe theres a way to make something fun about this. And maybe, one day you'll find your self on a comedy stage telling about it.", "I've had this happen. Still ongoing, but it's slowed down. This guy Poppy owns 2 properties on the same block and lives in a different state. Somehow, my phone number got listed as Poppy's number. I've had this number since 2003. At one point, I was guaranteed to get at least 1 phone call or text message for this person per day, and usually a couple a day. I even had the census calling me looking for Poppy. I tried searching my number online, searching for the properties, searching for Poppy. Asked a couple websites to remove my number. I still get calls for him, but it's down to about once a month now.", "Have you tried asking how they got your number and trying to backtrace it to a source? These companies are probably all buying the same list.", "Either Steven calls a lot of places, asks them to call back and leave your number for some reason - or he owns a lot of money a lot of places - or you have a split personality called Steven, that likes calling people - or somebody is pulling a prank on you.... Next time you could say that Steven is not there right now (perfectly true) then ask them if they want to leave a message... Oh and yes, call him, chances are that you both get a good laugh", "Ask for their address then send them a cease and desist letter (registered mail) stating you are not <debtor name>, you don't not have a relationship with <who's calling> and these are your fees should they call again. If they're reselling a debt and using you as a contact point (keeping debt alive) then you will eventually turn to who regulates debt collections in your state or province and make it clear to them that you don't have a relationship with these business(es), you want these calls to stop and it's clear they have lost contact with the debtor since <calls began> when you took possession of that phone number. Keep track of dates and times when they call. Some states and provinces require agents to provide an agent number (identity) when asked which helps when you turn to regulators as they can identify the caller(s).\n\nLate " ]

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[ "Collegiate Level Thesaurus I'm writing college essays for applications and I want to find a thesaurus to be able to use words that are more fit for college. Using thesaurus.com isn't as helpful as it could be. Help?\n\nex: want to find synonym for 'perplexed', thesaurus gives me 'bewildered' but I know a more fitting word could be 'quandary', which means 'in a perplexing situation'", "Collegiate Level Thesaurus I'm writing college essays for applications and I want to find a thesaurus to be able to use words that are more fit for college. Using thesaurus.com isn't as helpful as it could be. Help?\n\nex: want to find synonym for 'perplexed', thesaurus gives me 'bewildered' but I know a more fitting word could be 'quandary', which means 'in a perplexing situation'", "Collegiate Level Thesaurus I'm writing college essays for applications and I want to find a thesaurus to be able to use words that are more fit for college. Using thesaurus.com isn't as helpful as it could be. Help?\n\nex: want to find synonym for 'perplexed', thesaurus gives me 'bewildered' but I know a more fitting word could be 'quandary', which means 'in a perplexing situation'", "Collegiate Level Thesaurus I'm writing college essays for applications and I want to find a thesaurus to be able to use words that are more fit for college. Using thesaurus.com isn't as helpful as it could be. Help?\n\nex: want to find synonym for 'perplexed', thesaurus gives me 'bewildered' but I know a more fitting word could be 'quandary', which means 'in a perplexing situation'" ]

[ "In general, please don't try to use words you don't know \"by heart.\" Your example isn't really a good one -- when you are in a quandary (and it only ever is used in that kind of prepositional phrase) it means that you are really torn about which choice to make in an important situation. Being perplexed is not being able to understand something. They are not fungible terms. (That means \"interchangeable\"; don't use it.) Calling something a quandary also implies that it's a situation of real importance -- what dressing to put on your salad is not a quandary unless you are competing on Top Chef. It is probably also not perplexing, since you probably understand how salad dressing works. \n\nThose of us who grade student papers can always tell when a student has been hitting up a thesaurus to fancy their prose up a bit. It is one of the quickest ways to the reject pile. Don't do it.\n\n(", "You're better off, in my opinion, not using words like that. Just use the word that feels right. You don't want to confuse the person reading it - especially a recruiter.\n\nJust remember, they read hundreds of applications every day where people use synonyms instead of to-the-point words. It ends up being more complicated than it needs to be. Don't you think that gets on their nerves? Be different, and be simple in your writing.", "Do not do this.\n\nInstead, take the time you would have used going through a thesaurus improving on your essay as a whole. Make sure your arguments are tight, cut down on redundant sentences, and so on.\n\nNo one is going to slam you for not sounding \"smart enough\" if your argument is good and well supported, but people will certainly notice if you're misusing big words.", "Actually, quandary is a noun, not an adjective, which may be why your thesaurus site didn't list it as an alternative.\n" ]

[ 6, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How do you stay on task? I tend to \"wander\" onto reddit every 5 minute or so while studying. What's your way of staying on task? I'm guessing if you have a good answer you probably wouldn't be here in the first place.....", "How do you stay on task? I tend to \"wander\" onto reddit every 5 minute or so while studying. What's your way of staying on task? I'm guessing if you have a good answer you probably wouldn't be here in the first place....." ]

[ "Shutting off my phone and computer. Working with pen and paper. Or else I set a timer. When I've worked for 20 minutes I get 5 to browse the internet. Something like that. ", "Discipline. \n\nHow do you get that? Training. (Practice.)\n\nIt's even easier if you set rewards for certain goals. Masturbate after reaching an appropriate stopping point. Often the feeling of accomplishment/purpose/success drives you on to attain a further stopping point first.\n\nAlternatively, exhaust Reddit so there's nothing new/stimulating and accomplishing something feels better.\n" ]

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[ "Fixing my grades I'm in my sophomore year in high school and things are falling apart. Although my at home situation is fine and nothing is really going wrong, I'm doing really poorly in school. I regularly skip out on doing homework to play video games and would rather play video games than study. This obviously leads me into having very poor test grades and thus, a bad GPA. I think its time to change my schedule and how i work through things so that i can get back into honor roll. Although i want to get back into the rhythm things, i cant cut out gaming out of my routine.", "Fixing my grades I'm in my sophomore year in high school and things are falling apart. Although my at home situation is fine and nothing is really going wrong, I'm doing really poorly in school. I regularly skip out on doing homework to play video games and would rather play video games than study. This obviously leads me into having very poor test grades and thus, a bad GPA. I think its time to change my schedule and how i work through things so that i can get back into honor roll. Although i want to get back into the rhythm things, i cant cut out gaming out of my routine." ]

[ "Few things.\n\nObserve how gaming works to minimize your interest in it. One mind blowing fact I learned off one of the Halo Featurettes... Gaming means you make five seconds of pure excitement, and repeat it the whole game over and over again.\n\nTime management really doesn't look like this... you prioritize your schedule... it looks like this... you schedule your priorities. (Just don't make your emotional rollercoaster a basis for prioritization... mental health... yes... emotional instability... no... is it hard to tell the difference... yes... how do you tell the difference... trust people who are wise, and kind, and loving, and patient, and thoughtful and who worship God.)\n\nOne chapter in Malcolm Gladwells book called David and Goliath... how the underdog isn't really the underdog... he points out that people with ADHD, grow a skill that normal school kids do not grow. Since their ADHD kicks in, they can't keep up with the reading required to maintain a healthy attention to school work(I think it's like a .08 second delay per word). So what these guys do, is talk to the teacher, and win their grade by learning to comply with teachers on an engaged social contract level. Oddly enough, this prepares them better for business than anything else they do in school, and why people who have been diagnosed with ADHD... or other similar disabilities have an excellent, practical, street-smart approach to business.\n\nSo do what they do, and talk to your teachers, and figure out that way. That is, if this is a priority to you.", "After Xmas break or the new year. My kids are a hell of a lot younger than you. But I feel like no matter what the age you have to use self discipline. So I only let them play any games/tv/movies/hang with friends after they've completed homework and maybe a chore. \n\nIt's a good way to reward yourself for completing tasks you need to actually get done. Then weekends are all yours to do almost all the gaming you want.\n\nSo really, you'll still get a decent amount of time to yourself. Just finish your important tasks first (I get through shitty housecleaning and work and other adulting, and tell my kids to do everything fast but do it right so you spend as little time as you possibly can on the things you don't wanna do.)" ]

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[ "How do you console a friend who's recently been through a breakup? Should I try to analyze the situation and tell him my advice or should I just let him drain his emotions out.", "How do you console a friend who's recently been through a breakup? Should I try to analyze the situation and tell him my advice or should I just let him drain his emotions out.", "How do you console a friend who's recently been through a breakup? Should I try to analyze the situation and tell him my advice or should I just let him drain his emotions out.", "How do you console a friend who's recently been through a breakup? Should I try to analyze the situation and tell him my advice or should I just let him drain his emotions out.", "How do you console a friend who's recently been through a breakup? Should I try to analyze the situation and tell him my advice or should I just let him drain his emotions out.", "How do you console a friend who's recently been through a breakup? Should I try to analyze the situation and tell him my advice or should I just let him drain his emotions out.", "How do you console a friend who's recently been through a breakup? Should I try to analyze the situation and tell him my advice or should I just let him drain his emotions out." ]

[ "Just listen, even if they are not talking your presence is comforting. Trust me, you're doing more then you know just by being there. He will disconnect at times but rest assured, he's most likely happy your there.\n\n\nNo advice unless asked. All of the plenty of fish or you'll find someone means nothing now. Time is what he needs now, time to mourn.\n\nAlso make it a point to \"do things with him\". One of the things that is hard after a break up is filling the hours. That person was a big part of his life and I'm sure quite a bit of time was spent with her. You find yourself without plans, help him fill the hours. \n\nOne other thing. If you currently have a girlfriend or meet someone while he's down don't talk about that person. I know you'll be excited to tell him but he doesn't want to hear that. He'll come around though, don't worry.\n\nAlso make sure he eats, he may not for a few days. If he doesn't bring him a Gatorade or water every now and then, needs to stay hydrated. He may go through a short bout of depression.\n\nSource: Going through divorce, didn't eat for 6 days, lived on coffee and water.", "Just be there for them, invite them out to things, listen to them when they need someone to hear them and distract them as much as possible. Seems to work well for my friends in the past.", "It's more about doing then listening. Of course they want you to listen to them but that wont actually help. If you really want to help them, then tell them to get up and go do somthing with them. It can be anything, but try to stay away from activities he did with his gf. You have to take charge and lead the activities and make decisions. Just let him follow you, it will soon become normal again and he will see its not so bad without her. ", "Just listen. The time to try to fix things is when they are going through the problems that might break them up. The time to listen is when they broke up. ", "Just be there, show up with his favorite movie, a boatload of his drink of choice, lots of snacks and wait until he wants to talk. ", "Just be there for them. Be a shoulder to cry on and a sounding board. Provide bourbon and sympathy. That's the best thing you can do.", "You tell them to stop being a bitch and slap them. \n\n People go through much harder things all the time. I have no sympathy for people who cry about break ups when there are countless people out there who have never even been in a relationship before. " ]

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[ "I sadly admit, I'm not as versed in US politics as I should be. Where do I begin? Hey guys,\n\nI admit, I'm not as involved in US politics as I should be and I have no idea where to start. There's so much information and I have no idea how to decipher what is true and what is not. What is the best way for me to start learning about each presidential candidate as well efficiently sift through the bullshit people post all around the internet.\n\nThanks", "I sadly admit, I'm not as versed in US politics as I should be. Where do I begin? Hey guys,\n\nI admit, I'm not as involved in US politics as I should be and I have no idea where to start. There's so much information and I have no idea how to decipher what is true and what is not. What is the best way for me to start learning about each presidential candidate as well efficiently sift through the bullshit people post all around the internet.\n\nThanks" ]

[ "Read a variety of news sources, especially from varying perspectives. Include liberal outlets (such as dailykos, Washington Post, MSNBC), conservative outlets (Fox News, Drudge Report, Weekly Standard), mainstream sources (NBC, CBS, etc), and even crazy people on what I call the \"Deep Right\" -- Infowars and the like. \n\nOr you can just keep this fact in mind: we're powerful, we're crazy, and we're slowly tearing ourselves to pieces. The rest is fluff and filler. ", "All politics is local. Get involved in your community. Check out your local Democratic and Republican Headquarters. Learn about who represents you at each level of government, be it city, county, state, or federal. " ]

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[ "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. ", "Talking to someone I am in college now and am about to start the fourth semester but I hardly made any friends during the first three semesters and if I did is just your typical 'Hi-bye' friend.\n\nDuring my high school time I actually made a lot of friends, had the time of my life but then something happened and things just went south from there. I lost all my confidence to talk to strangers, I started hating myself more and more, I'm scared that I might have social anxiety.\n\nSo in this upcoming semester I really hope that I could start fresh. But the real concern for me is that I have absolutely no idea how to strike a conversation with a stranger let alone introducing myself to them, I don't know if I'm being paranoid or anything but any advice given would be really much appreciated. \n\nIf there's anything that I've not explained clearly or that I've sound rude please bear with me, I've been told that I don't often express my words well. " ]

[ "College is a hard time, hang in there. \nAsk people questions about where they are from, or if they've found anything on or off campus that they really love. Talk about things you're passionate about, and see if other people are interested. Share those parts of yourself, too. \n\nRemember that other people can't see your insecurity from their perspective, so your battle is yours to conquer, and you will.\n", "In response to your request, [I have submitted a LPT here that might help](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4z0pci/lpt_how_to_start_keep_and_finish_a_conversation/?ref=share&ref_source=link). ", "Lol dude the first two paragraphs of your post are literally me, but it's my 3rd. Wish me luck hopefully I haven't lost my highschool charm lmao.", "My approach is to be as confident as possible and I've found that asking lots of questions to get the ball rolling is a productive way of keeping people interested. \n\nBasically Think about what you would like to tell people and ask them the questions you would like to be asked. For work events I would usually asking them about their job, where they are from, why they choose their profession, if they have any tips for the commoner not in their field, etc. For your position you could ask where they are from, why they picked their major, why they are going to this school and so on. ", "Best advice i have is to get involved as much as you can and make good connections with those you meet in those groups.\n\nSeriously even if its just like a walking club, RSO's and extra-curricular groups will not only help you to meet people, but it will also culture you and make you more appealing for future employment.\n\nIn my experience the more involved I was, the more I excelled as a student as well as expanded my friends group.\n\nGood luck!\n\n\n", "I believe that I read this on here - The key to being liked is to like people. Stop wanting people to talk to you. Start wanting people to share themselves with you. It's a common tactic on a date that I use. Ask simple and friendly questions, and then actually listen! People like talking about themselves. ", "/r/socialskills might be a sub for you. \n\n\ni've read a couple of the recommended books. \n\nbut basically you want to keep it formal at the beginning, then transition to casual. \n\nfor example, you can't start talking to someone saying 'hey whats up bro? how you been? how much you pushin?\" simply because people will think you are rude.\n\n\nclearly is way too much informal, ESPECIALLY if you never have met them or introduced yourself/ or haven't been introduced. \n\n\n\nsay you want to know/meet someone you can say \"oh hey i am 'name', what's your name?... i was thinking... \" then you can talk about whatever you want carry the convo. \n\nyou could end it casually, OK see you later/ see you around, or if you have to go, say \"i like to stay but i have to go to whatever, but talk to you in a bit/later\"\n\nat the begining you want to be formal, talking about superficial stuff (say a class or homework) and being polite, then later you can be informal/casual you don't really have to shake hands or formal stuff. shit should happen organically. \n\n\n/r/socialskills has a shit ton of books , ranging from social 'tricks\" to body language to self esteem (the road less traveled by scott peck is a good one that comes to mind and i heard of it in that sub is a good one that helped me a lot)\n\n\n\nuh things you want to consider is \n\n1-remember people's name (when introduced always introduce yourself!)- that shit is fucking important, you wouldn't want to be called a nickname when you aren't at that level yet. apply it to yourself you wouldn't want to be called 'thristchild' or \"trhrstqueer\" your name is /u/thirstking you would resent anybody who called you other wise, so why the fuck would you do it to some one? like i said you want to be formal first then as the friendship or the days past you could be like \"hey wats up bro ?\" or using words like \"dood\" \"hommie\" or \"ma nigga\" but that shit can't be used first.\n\nshit you could even say to force an introduction is to say for example you have a well known friend he knows you and he approaches you or you approach him, then you guys say hi to each other, you caould say \"hey who is your friend?\" or if you want to be more 'rude' be like \"don't be rude, aren't you going to introduce me to your friend that is the normal thing to do?\" then he'll be forced to introduced to his circle of friends, this shit is good networking, more on that later.\n\n2- its ok to compliment and smile at people say \"hi\" to them- people don't really give a shit they'll probably just smile back and say hello, its good to be a \"hi=bye\" friend even with people outside your circle of friends because whenever your friends can't help you on a subject, example you want to find a good mechanic, your college kids might not know too well about that shit, but hey remember that older classmate you had in this one class he might be able to help, so strike a convo say \"hi... hey listen NAME, i was wondering if you could help me find a mechanic i keep having trouble with my car and i can't seem to find a good one any suggestions?\" \n\nthis is the fucking deal with social skills, even if he can't help you, he might be able to point to someone else to help you. \n\nThis is called NETWORKING, the more people you talk the bigger the network that is connected to you the easier it is to find shit, and get shit done, even when you are totally lost, so open your mouth and talk man! this is good. \n\n\nmeans talking and engaging or just saying hi to EVERYONE, to men, women, children, old yound, black, nonblak, the point is you'll get around better than just talking thinking socialbility is \"just to fucking get this one girl i want to put my penis in\"\n\n\n\n\ni think the most important concepts to consider\n\n\nEMPATHY- shit is simple, consider yourself in other people's position. AKA put yourself in their shoes! people fail very much at this concept. i go back to my example of calling a guy \"bro\" or \"dood\" or \"hommie\" or \"nigga\" (<-- i hate that one, i am not black nor live in the hood fucking just stop) when you haven't been introduced. anyway consider this on appraoching people. people are fucking unstable (meaning an approach that works in one person doesn't work on another person) and that is ok people differ in personalities but is important to consider, if the person is mad to fuck off and give them space, if they are friendly well talk to them and be funny, if they are more introverted/quiet/shy you'd probaly have to talk to them more on a 1-1 convo and talk and wait for them to participate over talking their ear off tehy'll hate you for it! if they are...., well you get the point.\n\n\n\nCONVERSATION ANALOGY that helped me a LOT- A conversation is like making a SANDWHITCH with another person, you put the bread, they'll put mayo, YOU: put lettuce, etc. \n\nmeaning if you talk they listen, let *them* talk and YOu listen, they share a story, you share a story, you share an opinion then they'll share. \n\nit doesn't have to be i share a story, that means he has to, maybe the person will share another story or change the topic of conversation. but give them a chance, and don't be fucking rude! don't be that fuckhead who just wants to be a \"ME ME ME ME\" and interrupts you and jokes, and forces conversation on people when they don't give a shit about people or insult them and bully them HAVE EMPATHY is important to be considerate! is the most important thing i would like you to understand from this.\n\n\n\nDifference between WIDE vs DEEP rapport- say you want to talk to that person you know from science calss. well sometimes you can't think of anything to talk to that person but only about that class or that one project or that one assigment, talking extensively about a topic is called DEEP rapport because you guys are engaged in only one topic of conversation. \n\nbut there is also conversations, say those with friends and family, where you guys know more about each other so you guys can't stop talking because, well commonalities and whatnot, so your conversations can range from food, to activities, to 'how is the family', to places you've been last weekend. \n\nthis is called WIDE rapport- So much fucking topics to talk about in one conversation! this shit is where you want to be with people, kinda talk about different topics to find their intrest, they usually engage right off the bat, just need patience to hook them into it. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nSHIT social skills has so much topics, and i haven't even dug deeper to manipulation which is a pain in the ass! and self esteem and how self esteem correlates to your quality of relationships enemy vs friends. and shit\n\n\nShit runs deep you keep learning througout your life. you'll never \"not be learning this shit\"\n\nthings is, yo uhave to think its okay to talk to peole, and talk to them, be friendly. be cool. and talk. there is nothing bad.\n \n\n", "Think about common ground.. you already have \ncommon ground with them, either your in the same class studying the same things or your in college.\n\nall you have to do is find common ground that you can build a relationship on :)) ", "Just let go, act like an idiot from your point of view and just say things. Worst is you see them once or twice a week and they think you are weird. Best is they see you as endearing and you make fast friends. \n\nIt's the little jump that's the worst but be cool with being kinda dumb people probably won't even see you that way. \n\nHard mode: be a book character you admire and use your own name. \n\n2 years of starcraft ruined my social ability, like I was bad at English much less interacting with people, so I read some books stole pieces of personality from characters i liked and I went out and made myself say things without thinking, just kept blurting out nonsense. People thought I was a little strange but they grew fond of me quickly and now I have plenty of friends all over so many it's almost annoying, I can even carry on serious conversations without a thought in my head, the words just flow and I'm not caught thinking about talking instead im just talking. \n\nI eventually was able to just decide someone was my friend and go up to them and treat them as best pals from way back, they would be a little confused like 'did I meet this guy before or something lol' but I was dam genuine and I made fast friends being comfortable with myself and the social faux pas I was committing.\n\nThe only negative that came from this is I got weird looks from people I wasn't directly talking to, but maybe they were just interested in something new. ", "Join clubs and societies. Probably the best and most reliable way to meet people. You'll likely share interests, and they are pretty friendly to newcomers, even if you feel like a bit of an outsider at first.\n\nDon't join too many though, and probably best to focus on 1-3 that you enjoy.", "I was in literally the exactly same situation during the second last semester (also third semester, also few true friends, also the whole school was different thing) and I managed to turn most of that around in the forth semester. The key is: **Join a student organization.** In my case it was a student business consulting group. This gave me a good and frequent reason to meet up with others and actually work on a \"professional\" subject. Over time this quite naturally turned into honest and trust based friendships with a few of the other members. Especially the fact that you do not need to force yourself to find a common topic was really helpful. It is just presented as part of the every day life in the student group and therefore makes interactions a whole lot easier. Also you should probably try to avoid political groups to find friends, they often come with a lot of dominant people with strict opinions. Those really make a bad foundation for a friendship, especially if you do not agree.\n\n\n*TL/DR Student groups make great excuses to meet people*\n ", "I actually take the passive route. Ask questions and show that I am interested in talking to them. This works very well if you see the person getting coffee at the same as you or doing activities sports or laundry. \n\nShow that you are a listener not just a talker. ", "Hey Mate,\n\nI have been where you are. Now I have more friends than I can keep track of. A few years ago on my Birthday I was playing World of Warcraft and only got 2 texts wishing me Happy Birthday. This made me want to turn my life around and make a lot of friends.\n\nMy first piece of advice: Be confident. \"but i'm not confident.\" Fake it till you make it. Just go for it and you'll surprise yourself. If you have a bad experience learn and grow from it. \n\n'People react to how you act.' If you meet people with a big smile on your face and acting like you’re their friend already they will act the same way towards you. This also applies for when you see people you know. When I turn up to a party and see people I know I am excited to see them and they in turn are excited to see me.\n\nShow interest in people. \"You can make more friends in two months by showing interest in others than you can in two years by trying to get others interested in you\" - Dale Carnagie. So i'm sure your asking how do I show interest in people? Always ask open ended questions that require them to give you an answer that isn't Yes or No. Listen to what they say and ask them more open ended questions about what they say. Show respect by showing your listening.\n\nMake eye contact. When you are talking to them have eye contact with them this can be scary but you will get used to it.\n\nHave a laugh - Laughing is cheap and fun. Whenever I hear something even marginally funny I always give a little giggle or a laugh. People love it when they say something funny and they get a positive reaction. \n\nEverybody wants to be liked and loved - No matter who you meet the wimpiest kid at school, the coolest guy you’ve ever met or the scariest tattoo faced gang member they all have one thing in common. They want to be liked, loved and have a sense of belonging. Note… People are in the same situation as you. They want to be like as much as you do so show you are their friend and then they’ll be your friend back\n\nPronunciation - Be clear and accurate in the words you say. There's nothing worse that having to listen to someone mumble and ask them to repeat themselves 10 times. This will also make you apear to me more confident.\n\nAlways be positive - Who has ever spent time with someone who is always negative? They are draining and you can't get away from them. Alternatively when you hang out with happy positive people you are drawn to them and want to spend more time with them.\n\nHope this helps in someway. If you have any questions please feel free to ask :)\n\n", "Consider where people do things where they are forced/expected to speak to one another.\n\nFor instance:\n\nGo to the gym and play pickup basketball, and play to have fun. \n\nJoin a bike riding group where people chat with new-comers, and actively participate in conversations that you're invited into.\n\nColleges usually have lots of clubs to join, and most of them are social experiences. ", "College is your last chance to meet people. Once college is over, you'll rarely meet anyone ever again." ]

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[ "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like.", "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like.", "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like.", "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like.", "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like.", "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like.", "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like.", "I need a way to stop people from stealing my food. My family continually steals my food. You cannot understand why asking them politely not to does not work unless you saw, first hand, how psychotic and messed up my family is. \n\nTake a jar of pickles for example. I'll double, triple bag it with knots and my name on it, but regardless, the bag is opened when I'm not around. What can I possibly do? I'm losing money and food over this, and I can't afford to buy food for everyone. Is there some kind of creation you can think of that could keep people out? \n\nI can't think of a solution short of building a metal cage inside the refrigerator with a padlock door. Please help me. I spend money on this food for me, these are not children stealing my food but adults who can buy their own. I won't put it up with any longer.\n\nI'm not looking for nice or mean words to say to the thieves. I'm looking for ideas to create a physical barrier between my food and thieves. Perhaps you know of a cage product that I could buy and put a lock on. That is exactly what I'd like." ]

[ "Can you get yourself a small refrigerator? Put a lock on it? I know that’s a pain but my sister did when our father lived with her. He would eat her kids food for their school lunches, etc. He would leave nothing. So they bought a lock and when he needed something he had to ask. Now I’m not suggesting you do that. But have your own in your room and keep it locked or lock your room. \n\nMaybe that would help? Sorry your family does this. My father did the same thing. It’s extremely frustrating.", "I’d put decoy food. Something that looks like yummy leftovers but has been sprayed with Bitter Apple or another non-poisonous gross tasting thing. And just do that for a few weeks until they learn not to touch anything that isn’t theirs. And as a first resort I would sit them down, and ask them point blank why they’re doing it.", "https://www.amazon.com/Pacsafe-Backpack-Bag-Protector-Steel/dp/B000FGVFP8/ref=sr_1_16?keywords=pacsafe&qid=1555113263&s=gateway&sr=8-16\n\nThese mesh bags are intended to protect travellers' backpacks, but a small one might suit your purposes. If you click the \"one size\" link on that page, it takes you to a cheap version for under $20", "https://www.amazon.com/SentrySafe-PB2K-Fire-Chests-Safes/dp/B077PJV3CG/ref=mp_s_a_1_9?keywords=Security+box&qid=1555116587&s=gateway&sr=8-9\n\nI think this would work nicely, you can find many different sizes but don't look for fridge locker look for miniature safes, obviously weight may be an issue depending on where in the fridge you place it but nobody is breaking into that easily", "Measure the maximum space you can occupy in the fridge, then get a live animal trap that fits in that space. You'd only need two small padlocks to secure the two ends that are \"openable\".\n\nSomething like [this](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B013FLER72/) and one or two of [these](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075DFPR2W/) maybe? Enough to keep them out, but not so much that it's a pain in the ass for you.\n\nBonus: when you're done, you can use 100% of the parts for their intended purpose. If you buy a small fridge, you're stuck with a small fridge.", "For real dude. Move out or are you too young? Go cheap. Go to the food bank. Begin your life away from people who are clearly toxic for you. Or just get a small college fridge. $80 from Wally world. It will save you a ton of grief. Rise above them and solve it.", "Maybe something like this?\n\n\nFridge Safe Box Locker https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00LPPYOTC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_pqsSCbJ9VHXCJ", "Get out of the poverty mindset and into one of abundance. Like you’re literally fighting over pickles, which is totally a communal thing. It’s a condiment. That’s absurd. I would laugh so hard if someone literally put a bag and their name on a jar of pickles, that’s just so extra. I’d probably buy like five jars of pickles and write “everyone’s pickles” on them. I’d constantly gift you jars of pickles because you obviously value them deeply. \n\nMost places have food banks where you can get quality food, and if you go pick up a box once a week, there’s more than enough to go around. Hit two food banks and you’ll be so flush with food you’d never be able to eat it all. Gardening is a great way to supply a large amount of food for your family as well and even one squash plant will produce copious amounts of squash. One cucumber plant will give you all the pickles you need. \n\nYou might not like to hear this, most people don’t, but usually the best solution to not having enough of something isn’t to administer what you have better, it’s to get better at getting more of what you want. \n\nAlso if you develop a reputation for being petty about food with your family, they’re not going to respect you when you do ask for something to be kept special for you because they perceive you as greedy. \n\nIf it’s that big of a deal then clean that clutter out of your room and get a refridgerator. Or, ya know, your own place?" ]

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[ "How to speed up/clean up a computer properly. I know that there's tons of information online if googled, but it gets a tad too confusing at times, along with many self-help sites advertising their own products to help you out. So I was wondering, what would be the best ways to properly speed up/clean up (unwanted stuff) on a computer?\n\nAlso, what are some basic replacements that one can buy to make a slightly older computer better/faster?", "How to speed up/clean up a computer properly. I know that there's tons of information online if googled, but it gets a tad too confusing at times, along with many self-help sites advertising their own products to help you out. So I was wondering, what would be the best ways to properly speed up/clean up (unwanted stuff) on a computer?\n\nAlso, what are some basic replacements that one can buy to make a slightly older computer better/faster?", "How to speed up/clean up a computer properly. I know that there's tons of information online if googled, but it gets a tad too confusing at times, along with many self-help sites advertising their own products to help you out. So I was wondering, what would be the best ways to properly speed up/clean up (unwanted stuff) on a computer?\n\nAlso, what are some basic replacements that one can buy to make a slightly older computer better/faster?", "How to speed up/clean up a computer properly. I know that there's tons of information online if googled, but it gets a tad too confusing at times, along with many self-help sites advertising their own products to help you out. So I was wondering, what would be the best ways to properly speed up/clean up (unwanted stuff) on a computer?\n\nAlso, what are some basic replacements that one can buy to make a slightly older computer better/faster?", "How to speed up/clean up a computer properly. I know that there's tons of information online if googled, but it gets a tad too confusing at times, along with many self-help sites advertising their own products to help you out. So I was wondering, what would be the best ways to properly speed up/clean up (unwanted stuff) on a computer?\n\nAlso, what are some basic replacements that one can buy to make a slightly older computer better/faster?" ]

[ "Run MSConfig, check running services and boot programs\n\nDownload CCleaner, clears junk and fixes registry\n\nRemove extra programs manually\n\nGet a better antivirus like MSE or nod32\n\nDefrag\n\n--\n\nPro option. Install a lightweight version of linux. Ubuntu with a low footprint shell is very compatible and good for old machines. \n", "As far as \"basic replacement\" hardware goes, add more RAM (4GB max on a 32-bit OS), and a faster(~7200rpm)/newer hard drive will go a long way.", "Just be careful of sites advertising their own cleanup programs. While many are legit, you have to be careful of the ones that are designed to freak you out claiming you have malware right off the bat. As far as antivirus, I use eset Nod32, it is pretty capable and has a pretty low memory footprint. I gave up on things like Norton many years ago, they just got too big and clunky. I also give a +1 to prior suggestions like CCleaner. I also use Spybot Search and Destroy for the occasional scan. ", "Install Xubuntu or Lubuntu. \n\nTrue Story: I have three computers - a Core 2 laptop with Xubuntu, a 1st-gen Atom Netbook with Lubuntu, and a Phenom x4 with Win7. The fastest booting and fastest to launch applications? The netbook. The slowest is the Win7 desktop. ", "I work in a large MNC, and the IT support here is awesome. I got a tip from them that I'll pass on:\n\nGo to www.filehippo.com to download freeware like Super AntiSpyware. \n\nInstall it..Restart your computer in safe mode (keep F8 pressed at startup to access this option) and then run Super AntiSpyware. It will cleanup malware and spyware. \n\nSpeeds up your computer like a charm! " ]

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[ "Mug brownie substitutions Yknow how you put brownie mix into a mug, then microwave it in a mug for instant brownie? What other foods can you microwave in a mug? Maybe pancakes?", "Mug brownie substitutions Yknow how you put brownie mix into a mug, then microwave it in a mug for instant brownie? What other foods can you microwave in a mug? Maybe pancakes?" ]

[ "I've done it with eggs before. You put some butter, salt, pepper, maybe milk (I sometimes mix a tiny bit of milk in with my scrambled eggs; it makes them..\"fluffier.\"), and crack a few eggs into a bowl, mix 'em up well, and put 'em in the microwave.", "Meatloaf. I know it sounds nasty, but my grandma makes it and its actually not bad.\n\nhttp://allrecipes.com/recipe/meatloaf-in-a-mug/ " ]

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[ "How To Remove The Mother of All Permanent Wrinkles/Creases in Jeans So I purchased these new jeans that have 6 or 7 deep, deep permanent creases on the left and right thigh areas. They look very sloppy so I'd like to remove these wrinkles. What I've tried to do:\n\n1) Soak the creases in white vinegar\n2) Iron the vinegar soaked creases with a iron turned to maximum heat\n3) Rub soap on the insides of the jeans (where the creases are), and then flip it over and iron again.\n4) Wash the jeans multiple times\n\nWell, the creases basically laughed in my face at my futile efforts. No progress whatsoever. I'm starting to think these wrinkles in the jeans will never come out. Any ideas?", "How To Remove The Mother of All Permanent Wrinkles/Creases in Jeans So I purchased these new jeans that have 6 or 7 deep, deep permanent creases on the left and right thigh areas. They look very sloppy so I'd like to remove these wrinkles. What I've tried to do:\n\n1) Soak the creases in white vinegar\n2) Iron the vinegar soaked creases with a iron turned to maximum heat\n3) Rub soap on the insides of the jeans (where the creases are), and then flip it over and iron again.\n4) Wash the jeans multiple times\n\nWell, the creases basically laughed in my face at my futile efforts. No progress whatsoever. I'm starting to think these wrinkles in the jeans will never come out. Any ideas?", "How To Remove The Mother of All Permanent Wrinkles/Creases in Jeans So I purchased these new jeans that have 6 or 7 deep, deep permanent creases on the left and right thigh areas. They look very sloppy so I'd like to remove these wrinkles. What I've tried to do:\n\n1) Soak the creases in white vinegar\n2) Iron the vinegar soaked creases with a iron turned to maximum heat\n3) Rub soap on the insides of the jeans (where the creases are), and then flip it over and iron again.\n4) Wash the jeans multiple times\n\nWell, the creases basically laughed in my face at my futile efforts. No progress whatsoever. I'm starting to think these wrinkles in the jeans will never come out. Any ideas?" ]

[ "Soak in fabric softener or baby shampoo, mixed with water, overnight. Both items will loosen up the fibers. While still damp, stretch the fabric (and keep it stretched) and let dry. \n\nYou can also try a fabric steamer. Or throwing them into the dryer on high with a wet bath towel (will also create steam).", "If all else fails, take them to a dry cleaner. Those creases won't stand a chance against a professional steam press. :)", "I would try soaking them for a while in warm water and liquid fabric softener. Do it for a day or two to really soften them up.Then allow them to air dry until they are still a bit damp. Use the iron and fold the creases the opposite way and iron them that way. It also may help to use a flat iron for hair. Good luck." ]

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[ "Reusable Substitute for Plastic Bags for Items Prone to Spilling I use reusable bags and totes when buying things like dry goods and produce, but I have still used plastic bags for those items that often seem to spill or leak between the store and home (dishwashing detergent, laundry detergent, etc.) or things that could damage my clothing or car (such as cleaners with bleach). Many of my local stores will no longer offer plastic bags in 2013. Any tips?", "Reusable Substitute for Plastic Bags for Items Prone to Spilling I use reusable bags and totes when buying things like dry goods and produce, but I have still used plastic bags for those items that often seem to spill or leak between the store and home (dishwashing detergent, laundry detergent, etc.) or things that could damage my clothing or car (such as cleaners with bleach). Many of my local stores will no longer offer plastic bags in 2013. Any tips?" ]

[ "Keep a box or even better an insulated cooler in your vehicle. Put things in that so they:\n\n1. stay upright\n2. are contained if they spill\n3. stay cold if they are fridge / freezer items", "Good question! Especially since I heard that if you tote around meat stuffs - you could be carrying around and growing some harmful bacteria in the reusable bags." ]

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[ "tips for haggling when buying a used car? I've always been useless at haggling and some people are so good at... Help me, reddit!", "tips for haggling when buying a used car? I've always been useless at haggling and some people are so good at... Help me, reddit!", "tips for haggling when buying a used car? I've always been useless at haggling and some people are so good at... Help me, reddit!", "tips for haggling when buying a used car? I've always been useless at haggling and some people are so good at... Help me, reddit!", "tips for haggling when buying a used car? I've always been useless at haggling and some people are so good at... Help me, reddit!" ]

[ "Number one thing to do: research.\n\nKnow what you want, know the Blue Book value of it. Know what your trade in is worth. Know what kind of rates the banks are offering to people with your cr", "1. Do your research. Know how high you are willing to go. Nearly every time it will be less than they’re asking. \n2. Inspect the car and determine if it’s worth that, or if there are issues (dents, scratches, interior damage like rips) that reduce that cost\n3. Make your offer. If you want to play the game, offer 10% lower than you’re willing to spend. If you don’t want to play the game, offer what you’re willing to spend. \n4. Let them decide if they want to take it. \n5. Don’t take it personally if/when the refuse your offer. Just leave. \n4", "If you're buying from a dealership, I recommend thus guide:\nhttps://the-toast.net/2014/07/11/how-to-buy-a-car/", "There’s a ridiculous markup at dealerships and they will try hard to avoid any warranty work. Best bet is private and haggling is more of a normal conversation than a pressured sales pitch", "Decide what cars (age/mileage/model/brand) will fit in your budget first. But do not reveal ur budget at any cost.\n\nThe first question a used car dealer would ask is, what your budget is, before asking which cars you are interested in or other questions.\nFor example, if you tell your budget is 10k, the dealer will show you only cars that are probably worth 5-7k and try to sell those to u for 10k. Cars that are actually worth 10k or the ones u think are worth 10k will be quoted as 12-13k and you will be told they are all outside your pocket and they usually make you settle for something less or different or older.\n\nAvoid telling what your purchasing power is at any cost and tell the dealer that your budget is only as good as what a car is worth. \n\nIf they have any cars that suit your budget based on your research, offer 9k for it and be willing to walk away immediately to the next dealer. Ignore all displayed prices on parked cars in the lot. Ask for your specific cars and throw in your offer. Be prepared to hunt through many dealers. \n\nDealers will also justify costs of after market installations in the car. But dealers, while buying from previous owners, do not pay extra for those fancy alloys or powerful headlights or loud music systems or any upholstery.\nInsist you will not pay for all the extras and just need a stock version as most after market products will either void the manufacturer warranty or spoil the car's electronics or risk the safety of the car. It doesn't matter even if the tyres or insurance are new, don't pay more for that. \n\nIf you need some practice and knowledge with this, ask a bored friend with a car to accompany you to used car dealers and try to sell the car for the best possible price, you will get to know all the push backs from the dealer which you can later use while buying one.." ]

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[ "How to get over love and move on with your life. I'm going through a really hard break up and my ex says that I'm the love of her life and I feel the same about her. She says she's not ready to get back together because she needs to work on herself. I asked how long it will be and she said \"Months and months and months\". I need to move on, but how?", "How to get over love and move on with your life. I'm going through a really hard break up and my ex says that I'm the love of her life and I feel the same about her. She says she's not ready to get back together because she needs to work on herself. I asked how long it will be and she said \"Months and months and months\". I need to move on, but how?", "How to get over love and move on with your life. I'm going through a really hard break up and my ex says that I'm the love of her life and I feel the same about her. She says she's not ready to get back together because she needs to work on herself. I asked how long it will be and she said \"Months and months and months\". I need to move on, but how?", "How to get over love and move on with your life. I'm going through a really hard break up and my ex says that I'm the love of her life and I feel the same about her. She says she's not ready to get back together because she needs to work on herself. I asked how long it will be and she said \"Months and months and months\". I need to move on, but how?", "How to get over love and move on with your life. I'm going through a really hard break up and my ex says that I'm the love of her life and I feel the same about her. She says she's not ready to get back together because she needs to work on herself. I asked how long it will be and she said \"Months and months and months\". I need to move on, but how?", "How to get over love and move on with your life. I'm going through a really hard break up and my ex says that I'm the love of her life and I feel the same about her. She says she's not ready to get back together because she needs to work on herself. I asked how long it will be and she said \"Months and months and months\". I need to move on, but how?" ]

[ "Firstly: you need closure. If you truly want to break up, then you need to definitively say to yourself, \"I will not get back with this girl even if she wants me back\". Saying that she needs to improve herself for \"months and months\" is basically like saying you guys are going to get back together in a few months, which is not right if it's a true breakup. \n\nUntil you achieve closure, then and only then can you start moving on with the rest of your life.\n\nAfter that stage, then: whilst its different for everyone, universally the most effective way is to cut everything that reminds you of her out of her life, don't talk to her, and do things that make you feel better like exercise or doing something new. Don't go for rebounds, they never work and just hurt a whole lot of people at once. ", "After hearing her say \"months and months and months\" I'd nope it out of there too. To me it sounds like you're her backup plan. If things don't work out with whatever it is that she's doing, she can always go back to you.\n\nSo how do you move on? It's a lot easier if you don't live in the same area. Nothing sucks worse than running into an ex at the grocery store. Especially if you see her there with another guy. That shit hurts. \n\nPersonally, I tend to dislike them after a hard break up. I have to or else I'll never move on. I know it sounds immature or cold, but over time I get over it. I can look back and be ok with them after I've distanced myself long enough to process all of the emotions that go with a break up. But in the meantime, I want absolutely nothing to do with them. I cut them out completely. \n\nIt just takes time to her over it. Just like you can't force a wound to heal faster, you can't force yourself to get over her in your own timeframe. But you can help a wound heal faster by keeping it clean and changing the bandages. In this case, keeping the wound clean means staying away from her. \n\nIt's ok to be sad and angry, it's a scab on your wound. It will go away eventually, but until then it will be stiff and uncomfortable. Pulling it off early will just make it worse. In the meantime, do things that you like to do. Meet new people, find new things that inspire you to move on. And above all, remember that you're not a sorry ass person because a relationship didn't work out. ", "I went thru this as I'm sure we all have/will eventually. My ex said the same thing about me being the love of her life and having a family but she still cheated and disappeared one day out of nowhere after about 4 years being together. So after a month she calls me again to try to work things out but turns out I was her back up since her new guy didn't last long. More things happened but eventually I grabbed my balls and said no more. It took about a year for the pain to go away but trust me, that mentality is soooooo wrong cuz you're just so used to having somebody there and you're probably having some self esteem issues. I know I was. Just give it time OP. I'm damn sure she's hooking up with someone else (sorry for being blunt) and I know it hurts to think about it but I would say let it go. Getting back with her will most likely end up in her leaving again anyways and having less respect for you. Good luck man. ", "Oh, and as for advice I would say yes, move out. Do something where you'll be forced to be as far away from her. Meet new people. depending on your age, hang out with a younger crowd, or at least with people who have higher energy than you. Most of all, cry all you have to and let yourself go through all those emotions. ", "Not sure if this is actually good advise or not, so ... hopefully up/down votes will tell. I say, don't. Don't bother getting over it, because that's kind of a losing battle. Do, however, move along anyway. As you continue to behave as if you had moved on, your mentality will eventually shift to match.", "Go full no-contact. Block from all social media. Friends want to give you an update? Change the subject. \n\nKeep yourself busy. Make new friends, sign up for new activities, play sports, exercise. " ]

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[ "Graduating college in 1 month, no reason to stay where I am now, how do I set up a new life across country? Hey everyone, basically I have reached the point where I have no real reason to stay in my current state (MA, and a bad part of it too). I have never traveled anywhere before in my life and want to see way more of the world before settling into a career. I also plan on touring many interesting areas such as Yosemite before committing to a state. I am wondering what are some essential tips I may be overlooking when considering relocating to areas such as Colorado, Northern California, or Arizona. I have a car which is large enough to sleep in if needed, but how do I make it my home? Should I not do the move until I secure a job even though I have no idea what any of these places look like besides google street view? Any advice on finding social groups? Is it very unwise to make this trip without any FIRM destination in mind? \n\nAny advice from people who have conquered similar situations would be awesome.", "Graduating college in 1 month, no reason to stay where I am now, how do I set up a new life across country? Hey everyone, basically I have reached the point where I have no real reason to stay in my current state (MA, and a bad part of it too). I have never traveled anywhere before in my life and want to see way more of the world before settling into a career. I also plan on touring many interesting areas such as Yosemite before committing to a state. I am wondering what are some essential tips I may be overlooking when considering relocating to areas such as Colorado, Northern California, or Arizona. I have a car which is large enough to sleep in if needed, but how do I make it my home? Should I not do the move until I secure a job even though I have no idea what any of these places look like besides google street view? Any advice on finding social groups? Is it very unwise to make this trip without any FIRM destination in mind? \n\nAny advice from people who have conquered similar situations would be awesome.", "Graduating college in 1 month, no reason to stay where I am now, how do I set up a new life across country? Hey everyone, basically I have reached the point where I have no real reason to stay in my current state (MA, and a bad part of it too). I have never traveled anywhere before in my life and want to see way more of the world before settling into a career. I also plan on touring many interesting areas such as Yosemite before committing to a state. I am wondering what are some essential tips I may be overlooking when considering relocating to areas such as Colorado, Northern California, or Arizona. I have a car which is large enough to sleep in if needed, but how do I make it my home? Should I not do the move until I secure a job even though I have no idea what any of these places look like besides google street view? Any advice on finding social groups? Is it very unwise to make this trip without any FIRM destination in mind? \n\nAny advice from people who have conquered similar situations would be awesome.", "Graduating college in 1 month, no reason to stay where I am now, how do I set up a new life across country? Hey everyone, basically I have reached the point where I have no real reason to stay in my current state (MA, and a bad part of it too). I have never traveled anywhere before in my life and want to see way more of the world before settling into a career. I also plan on touring many interesting areas such as Yosemite before committing to a state. I am wondering what are some essential tips I may be overlooking when considering relocating to areas such as Colorado, Northern California, or Arizona. I have a car which is large enough to sleep in if needed, but how do I make it my home? Should I not do the move until I secure a job even though I have no idea what any of these places look like besides google street view? Any advice on finding social groups? Is it very unwise to make this trip without any FIRM destination in mind? \n\nAny advice from people who have conquered similar situations would be awesome.", "Graduating college in 1 month, no reason to stay where I am now, how do I set up a new life across country? Hey everyone, basically I have reached the point where I have no real reason to stay in my current state (MA, and a bad part of it too). I have never traveled anywhere before in my life and want to see way more of the world before settling into a career. I also plan on touring many interesting areas such as Yosemite before committing to a state. I am wondering what are some essential tips I may be overlooking when considering relocating to areas such as Colorado, Northern California, or Arizona. I have a car which is large enough to sleep in if needed, but how do I make it my home? Should I not do the move until I secure a job even though I have no idea what any of these places look like besides google street view? Any advice on finding social groups? Is it very unwise to make this trip without any FIRM destination in mind? \n\nAny advice from people who have conquered similar situations would be awesome." ]

[ "Get on amazon and drop $30-50 on a camping hammock with a mosquito net. While you are at it, get a $20 sleeping bag, a mess kit, a small cooler and a few cheap pillows from Walmart. Top it off, get your parks pass. \n\nYou've finished college, go see America. ", "I've moved across the country, and I've moved across the globe. Why limit yourself to the US? Have you looked into working holiday visas? Go live in Australia or New Zealand for a bit. You don't need a job lined up or a sponsorship. You can just go basically. And the minimum wage is $22/hr and $14.75/hr respectively. You've got your whole life to move anywhere in the US, but working holiday visas are only good for a small window of time.\n\nIn terms of just moving across the US in a van, I've done it (alone) twice. Once to the west coast and once back east. If you're looking to live in a car (done this for a combined total of about a year), the two big things you'll want are a good mattress pad/something to sleep on and a double burner camp stove. Sure you can do a single burner pocket rocket, but the first time you want to boil pasta and sautee veggies at the same time you're going to be really sad when it takes you an hour to cook. Realize that the US is a big place. There will be vast stretches of basically nothing to do. Even if you're parks crawling. Jobs will come. Seriously. Unless you've got crazy student loans hanging over your head, let that come last. Don't worry about lining something up. Once you find a place you'll meet someone who knows someone. Look into hostels that would let you work for accommodation. You'll do a few hours of desk work or cleaning work per day and in return you get a free place to stay with all your basic bills covered. If you're crafty you can even eat for free most nights. Rent in San Francisco is nuts, but you can literally work for a hostel a few hours a day and not have to worry about it. Also, hostels expect a low time commitment. Somewhere in the 3 month range is standard. You could hostel hop and really get a sense of what it would be like living in these places instead of just traveling there which is often a vastly different experience. Road tripping alone in the US can be rough. Get to your campsites early and socialize while people are making dinner. Be the guy with firewood and invite people to join. You don't need a destination. I hate sounding like a hippie, but the destination will more often than not find you. If you have more questions or concerns, please please pm me. I'm more than happy to expand on my experiences, and give you all the help I can. I've lived in 5 different hostels and New Zealand for a year and a half. Seen 30 US national parks. Lived in multiple vans in different stages of conversion. And, three years ago I was in your exact shoes and terrified. So, hit me up.", "That all depends on your personality. Are you social and can get resources quick through a support system that you crest withing days or weeks? I would go where a job is secured so you can budget food and shelter. THEN focus on making friends through work or favorite places. With your off time go enjoy hobbies where you can meet others that also enjoy the same hobby. That way you can increase your support system. I wish I could just point to a place and trust that everything will be okay, but I'm not that socially capable. So at the end of the day you must make your decision objectivly weighing your skills to what can potentially happen. ", "If you have any Facebook friends who live out west, contact them for a place to stay. If you want to go to a foreign country, consider teaching English in Japan for a year or two. You will not regret it.", "I have, with friends, spent @ 6 weeks touring the country. You will find a place to go to when you get back from the trip.\n\nSummer's coming, so plan a see the U.S. trip with 2 or 4 close friends. You'll love it! I am where I am because of my trip." ]

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[ "how to stay awake during a boring presentation I keep falling asleep during presentations how can I stay awake", "how to stay awake during a boring presentation I keep falling asleep during presentations how can I stay awake", "how to stay awake during a boring presentation I keep falling asleep during presentations how can I stay awake", "how to stay awake during a boring presentation I keep falling asleep during presentations how can I stay awake", "how to stay awake during a boring presentation I keep falling asleep during presentations how can I stay awake", "how to stay awake during a boring presentation I keep falling asleep during presentations how can I stay awake" ]

[ "Put both hands into fists. Now stick your left thumb out and your right pinky out. Now alternate so you left pinky is sticking out and your right thumb is out. Keep doing this, it forces both brain hemispheres to work together and keeps me awake in boring lectures ", "If I don't care about a presentation, I'll write a short story or poem, or draw.\n\nIf I do care (or have to care) about a presentation, I take notes. Or I take humorous notes on the subject... My favorite lectures to do these in were history and math. In math, I'd write out humorous (but still educational) instructions to do things... and in history, I'd write out the facts in plain language, and it'd be entertaining to read over later. \n\nIf you're talking about business presentations as opposed to college lectures, though, not sure I can be of much help...", "I always bring a bottle of cold water with me and whenever I feel drowsy I take a sip. If it gets really bad I put a little in my hand and brush it onto my neck. Very refreshing!", "I have someone video or audio record it for me, I usually wouldn't show up. Then I have Google Voice transcribe it for me....boom...transcripted presentation. ", "sitting in front always helps me; nothing would be more embarrassing than falling asleep in front, if you have the choice, and it will encourage you to stay focused.\nor yes... if you HAVE to go, record it while you're there and do work or something else to keep you occupied so you are there and awake. ", "Envision how much your life would suck if you were to get fired for falling asleep during a presentation. There's nothing quite like an adrenaline surge to keep you awake." ]

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[ "How to make my air vents smell better? I live a house that has been converted into two apartments: one downstairs, and one (us) upstairs. Separate entrances and everything. \n\nMy downstairs neighbours are a nice enough family, but they're... gross, to put it lightly. They have a dog that they just let shit all over the backyard, garbage is everywhere and generally they're just smelly people.\n\nNow generally, I say live and let live, but this is affecting our living situation. Because our vents are connected, our apartment smells. We're generally clean people, we have cats but clean the litter box every day, take the trash out every day, never let dishes sit, etc. The smell hasn't been a problem until they moved in (before them was a middle-eastern family who filled our apartment with the smell of wonderful cooking, I miss them). I've gotten my nose right to the vents, the smell that's filling our apartments is coming from there. Like a musty, just generally unclean smell. \n\nOur landlord is inattentive at best. We've had other problems that he's taken months to address, so he won't do anything (in fact we even mentioned that he may want to change the filter on the system, he has not). So /r/LifeProTips what can I do to make these vents smell better?\n\nI've taped dryer sheets to it, but I've been told that's potentially toxic so I took them off. We light candles a lot, but 3 wick candles are expensive. I've been thinking of maybe putting one of those clip-on air fresheners you get for car vents onto the heating vents? Any ideas are appreciated! I can't keep living like this - I'm too embarrassed to even have friends or my parents over now.", "How to make my air vents smell better? I live a house that has been converted into two apartments: one downstairs, and one (us) upstairs. Separate entrances and everything. \n\nMy downstairs neighbours are a nice enough family, but they're... gross, to put it lightly. They have a dog that they just let shit all over the backyard, garbage is everywhere and generally they're just smelly people.\n\nNow generally, I say live and let live, but this is affecting our living situation. Because our vents are connected, our apartment smells. We're generally clean people, we have cats but clean the litter box every day, take the trash out every day, never let dishes sit, etc. The smell hasn't been a problem until they moved in (before them was a middle-eastern family who filled our apartment with the smell of wonderful cooking, I miss them). I've gotten my nose right to the vents, the smell that's filling our apartments is coming from there. Like a musty, just generally unclean smell. \n\nOur landlord is inattentive at best. We've had other problems that he's taken months to address, so he won't do anything (in fact we even mentioned that he may want to change the filter on the system, he has not). So /r/LifeProTips what can I do to make these vents smell better?\n\nI've taped dryer sheets to it, but I've been told that's potentially toxic so I took them off. We light candles a lot, but 3 wick candles are expensive. I've been thinking of maybe putting one of those clip-on air fresheners you get for car vents onto the heating vents? Any ideas are appreciated! I can't keep living like this - I'm too embarrassed to even have friends or my parents over now.", "How to make my air vents smell better? I live a house that has been converted into two apartments: one downstairs, and one (us) upstairs. Separate entrances and everything. \n\nMy downstairs neighbours are a nice enough family, but they're... gross, to put it lightly. They have a dog that they just let shit all over the backyard, garbage is everywhere and generally they're just smelly people.\n\nNow generally, I say live and let live, but this is affecting our living situation. Because our vents are connected, our apartment smells. We're generally clean people, we have cats but clean the litter box every day, take the trash out every day, never let dishes sit, etc. The smell hasn't been a problem until they moved in (before them was a middle-eastern family who filled our apartment with the smell of wonderful cooking, I miss them). I've gotten my nose right to the vents, the smell that's filling our apartments is coming from there. Like a musty, just generally unclean smell. \n\nOur landlord is inattentive at best. We've had other problems that he's taken months to address, so he won't do anything (in fact we even mentioned that he may want to change the filter on the system, he has not). So /r/LifeProTips what can I do to make these vents smell better?\n\nI've taped dryer sheets to it, but I've been told that's potentially toxic so I took them off. We light candles a lot, but 3 wick candles are expensive. I've been thinking of maybe putting one of those clip-on air fresheners you get for car vents onto the heating vents? Any ideas are appreciated! I can't keep living like this - I'm too embarrassed to even have friends or my parents over now.", "How to make my air vents smell better? I live a house that has been converted into two apartments: one downstairs, and one (us) upstairs. Separate entrances and everything. \n\nMy downstairs neighbours are a nice enough family, but they're... gross, to put it lightly. They have a dog that they just let shit all over the backyard, garbage is everywhere and generally they're just smelly people.\n\nNow generally, I say live and let live, but this is affecting our living situation. Because our vents are connected, our apartment smells. We're generally clean people, we have cats but clean the litter box every day, take the trash out every day, never let dishes sit, etc. The smell hasn't been a problem until they moved in (before them was a middle-eastern family who filled our apartment with the smell of wonderful cooking, I miss them). I've gotten my nose right to the vents, the smell that's filling our apartments is coming from there. Like a musty, just generally unclean smell. \n\nOur landlord is inattentive at best. We've had other problems that he's taken months to address, so he won't do anything (in fact we even mentioned that he may want to change the filter on the system, he has not). So /r/LifeProTips what can I do to make these vents smell better?\n\nI've taped dryer sheets to it, but I've been told that's potentially toxic so I took them off. We light candles a lot, but 3 wick candles are expensive. I've been thinking of maybe putting one of those clip-on air fresheners you get for car vents onto the heating vents? Any ideas are appreciated! I can't keep living like this - I'm too embarrassed to even have friends or my parents over now." ]

[ "You could change the filter yourself and often if you have access to the furnace. If it's in the other apartment, I'm sure they'd let you do it. They shouldn't be more than $20 per high quality filter. Aside from getting your neighbors to live less trashy lives, your only real option is to seek other accommodations that do not include relying on other humans for your air quality.", "I’m thinking that some sort of carbon or baking-soda-based air filter may help. It may take some searching to get something that will work for your arrangement though.", "Get the hypoallergenic filters and use them. They block out quite a bit. Then spray with an herbal oil?", "What about a humidifier/dehumidifier or one of those fancy air filtration devices from sharper image or the like? As the air goes through the humidifier/dehumidifier it’ll get filtered and fresh moisture added in or the stanky dampness removed. Or one of those air filtration towers will cycle all your air through it, capturing all the smelly particles inhabiting your air." ]

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[ "How to develop spontaneity I often feel a little...stuck. Like there's a delay between thought and action, or even more often thought and speech. I sometimes paralyze myself thinking about doing something, and if I force it it comes out awkward and noticeably unnatural. This happens mostly in social situations. Any tips or practices to increase fluidity and natural spontaneity?", "How to develop spontaneity I often feel a little...stuck. Like there's a delay between thought and action, or even more often thought and speech. I sometimes paralyze myself thinking about doing something, and if I force it it comes out awkward and noticeably unnatural. This happens mostly in social situations. Any tips or practices to increase fluidity and natural spontaneity?", "How to develop spontaneity I often feel a little...stuck. Like there's a delay between thought and action, or even more often thought and speech. I sometimes paralyze myself thinking about doing something, and if I force it it comes out awkward and noticeably unnatural. This happens mostly in social situations. Any tips or practices to increase fluidity and natural spontaneity?", "How to develop spontaneity I often feel a little...stuck. Like there's a delay between thought and action, or even more often thought and speech. I sometimes paralyze myself thinking about doing something, and if I force it it comes out awkward and noticeably unnatural. This happens mostly in social situations. Any tips or practices to increase fluidity and natural spontaneity?", "How to develop spontaneity I often feel a little...stuck. Like there's a delay between thought and action, or even more often thought and speech. I sometimes paralyze myself thinking about doing something, and if I force it it comes out awkward and noticeably unnatural. This happens mostly in social situations. Any tips or practices to increase fluidity and natural spontaneity?" ]

[ "Find someone having the same problem as you, such as /u/MrPlazmaDude, and become accountabilibuddies. Use text, snapchat, etc., and challenge each other to instant spontaneity events. For example: \"I dare you to go introduce yourself to a neighbor!\" Try to send back some sort of proof to your partner to encourage participation and keep the activities reasonable. Start small and you will begin to pick up the pace! :)", "Build self confidence and put yourself in those situations more often. It's like in sports when athletes talk about the game \"slowing down\" after their rookie season. This is due to understanding the rules better and practicing more leading to be able to process the situations around them faster which increases their confidence. When you have someone in a \"slump\" you want to get them more reps in favorable situations.\n\nYou should try applying the same concept by putting yourself in comfortable social settings first. Invite a couple close friends to do an activity you all have in common (watch a new season of a show together, get people together to play a video game, etc). Consider this your practice reps and actually practice. Additionally, study game film by paying attention to moments when others people portray your desired trait. If you want to be more funny watch comedies. When you're feeling a little more confident then it's time for game day. Try a social setting that you have less control over like a bar or a group of people you aren't as comfortable with.\n\nAll this is to build self-confidence so you're more comfortable in social settings. You'll be surprised by how much the game slows down for you when you're feeling good about yourself going into it.", "You just gotta realise that you will be awkward and not worry too much about it. Once you stop worrying about being awkward you will magically stop bin awkward. But the only way to get there is to be awkward a lot. ", "I can second two of the tips here: Practice it and don't worry too much.\n\nPracticing is best done in a safe environment. Either in a hobby that forces spontaneity like impro theatre or martial arts. But also in real live: Don't buy a car spontaneously or start a fight. Instead you might just go out and decide spontaneously what restaurant to choose. Or book a week in a nice hostel and decide from day to day what to do instead of planning ahead. Or decide to talk to that pretty girl in the bar you're in.\n\nThe thing that helped me most was the realisation that most of the time nothing bad happens (sometimes it still does, but that's true if you plan ahead as well). And even more so: Sometimes it goes beyond your expectations, because great things can happen that you never thought of.\n\nYou might enter a restaurant that didn't look inviting from the outside, but it's the only one thats available right now. Then it might turnout it looks bad but has great food. Or you might end up spending a week reading, walking and relaxing in your holidays because you failed to make better plans and see the end you realise that's just what you needed. Or you tell to the pretty girl, she brushes you off and the guy at the bar starts taking to you and you end up becoming friends.\n\nAbout not worrying too much: At some point you've considered all available information and worrying becomes counterproductive. Even more so: It costs time and energy. Furthermore: future is uncertain and your own might not work out anyways. Of course there are a lot of things that better be planned, but not everything all the time. A lot of things become greater and more fun without planning.", "This sounds more like a conversational social issue. Honestly, you just gotta relax. If you're a slow talker and thinker, stick with lower energy people, that's it.\n\nSomeone once gave me good advice, think before you do and speak. Why? Because if you don't you'll probably do or say something stupid.\n\nOnce you get used to doing this, it'll become more natural and fluid. Don't be afraid of a 5 second pause if something requires thought. In general, people will not be total assholes about it and most of your awkwardness is in your head." ]

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[ "How can I let a person know they have a broken headlight? I often see people driving around with a headlight broken, and would love a way to indicate to them that said headlight is not working. Any suggestions for how to let them know? Usually I see this on the freeway, with a person behind me, which can make things difficult.", "How can I let a person know they have a broken headlight? I often see people driving around with a headlight broken, and would love a way to indicate to them that said headlight is not working. Any suggestions for how to let them know? Usually I see this on the freeway, with a person behind me, which can make things difficult.", "How can I let a person know they have a broken headlight? I often see people driving around with a headlight broken, and would love a way to indicate to them that said headlight is not working. Any suggestions for how to let them know? Usually I see this on the freeway, with a person behind me, which can make things difficult.", "How can I let a person know they have a broken headlight? I often see people driving around with a headlight broken, and would love a way to indicate to them that said headlight is not working. Any suggestions for how to let them know? Usually I see this on the freeway, with a person behind me, which can make things difficult.", "How can I let a person know they have a broken headlight? I often see people driving around with a headlight broken, and would love a way to indicate to them that said headlight is not working. Any suggestions for how to let them know? Usually I see this on the freeway, with a person behind me, which can make things difficult." ]

[ "LPT Don't try to inform people when their headlight is out.\n\nAs someone who recently had a bulb burn out and had to wait several days to receive a replacement (purchased online), I've found that people feel inclined to flash their brights at you and hit their turn signals to tell you that you have a light out. Every. Fucking. Day. Several times a day.\n\nIt's really not hard to tell that you have a headlight out and, while it's illegal in most places to have an non-operational light, the driver most likely already knows it's out and hasn't had time to replace it or is just too cheap to be bothered with it. Or, if they're too unobservant to notice that they can't see at night anymore, they probably aren't going to pick up on your hints anyways. On top of that, in my state, it's illegal to flash your brights within 500 feet of an oncoming vehicle because (surfuckingprise) it fucking blinds them. Stop that shit.", "You could get one of those spiffy L.E.D message signs they make for cars, and put it in your back window. You can program those to say whatever you want.", "When someone leaves their turn signal on in front of or behind me, and I turn mine on too, I'm just being a jerk for my own sake, right?\n\nSometimes they turn their signal off, but almost everytime I get a laugh from making fun of them publically.", "LPT, don't, they probably already know. \nIf you have to like some sick freak, blink your headlight. It they are behind you blink with the back foglight.", "If they can't figure out their headlight is out, then they shouldn't be driving at night. Taillights, on the other hand, require help. " ]

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[ "How to go about entering closed conversations. When I go to parties, I tend to bounce between groups of people, never staying in one place with one group for too long, and that tends to work for me with the kind of socially open people that I hang out with. \n\nUnfortunately, I recently began partying with people who are significantly less open to people entering their conversations; if I show up it feels impossible to engage myself into the group, which normally goes really well for me when I'm with other people. \n\nI'm just wondering how I can effectively *crack open* these conversations so I can get in and talk to these people, and allow myself to bounce to them when I am making my way around a party.", "How to go about entering closed conversations. When I go to parties, I tend to bounce between groups of people, never staying in one place with one group for too long, and that tends to work for me with the kind of socially open people that I hang out with. \n\nUnfortunately, I recently began partying with people who are significantly less open to people entering their conversations; if I show up it feels impossible to engage myself into the group, which normally goes really well for me when I'm with other people. \n\nI'm just wondering how I can effectively *crack open* these conversations so I can get in and talk to these people, and allow myself to bounce to them when I am making my way around a party." ]

[ "stand in their circle and listen and try to think of things you could add to the coonversation like a similar instance that happened to you or maybe formulate some enticing questions that will enhance the discussion. idk about you but when im talking to a group of friends and someone new joins in its a great feeling and it makes me feel like what im saying is more interesting ", "Fuck 'em\n\nThese are the kind of people that claim their music to be the best. They don't understand the idea of an opinion or living light on your feet, like you do.\n\nAvoid these people. They are just going to bring you down when you're trying to have fun.\n\nIt's not that the conversation is closed. They are closed minded people and generally twats." ]

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[ "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. ", "How to keep cat from scratching new furniture I have a one-year old male cat. I recently bought a rather expensive couch and have noticed that he has been scratching. I have tried the double-sided Sticky Paws tape. He has a cat tree-tower to use as well as two other small scratching posts. \n\nIs there anything else I can look for? The couch is fabric, so I am worried that a spray might ruin the material. " ]

[ "Our Vet used to tell us to spray our cat with one spray of vinegar instead of water. We would do it just once and our cat would never do it again ", "Get cat nail caps. They are basically glued on over the nails and last a decent while. If he is rowdy and doesn't like to sit still or fights you, burrito him in a towel and do one paw at a time, or have someone else hold him by laying him on his side and scruffing him firmly. You can also get his nails cut, but the covers are your best bet (if you do the covers, do cut the nails, since he won't be able to scratch to wear them down). Do not, even if you can find a vet unethical enough to do it, get him declawed.", "maybe get a bigger scratching post. cats like to be able to fully stretch out when scratching. \n\nalso you can cut their nails. if you catch them scratching at a place they shouldn't be. pick them up and take them to the approved scratching area. you can also scratch the approved scratching thing to demonstrate to them it's okay to scratch there. ", "cats are not social animals and disciplining them like you would a dog just makes them think you are erratic and crazy. you have to modify the environment to just be not able to wreck stuff or to just make it unpleasant. put up hard plastic where they scratch. unpleasant textures, there are oils you can get that they dont like. put catnip on their scratching post", "I spray cat nip scented spray on my cat's tree/scratching post. I did it right when i got her. She has never scratched anything else and heads right over to her tree now, just to scratch, even when I don't remember to spray weekly. I also have dangling toys (feathers) hung from the tree to make her tree seem extra exciting.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=catnip+spray&tag=hydsma-20&index=aps&hvadid=37172620453&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3897172970370490379&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=m&ref=pd_sl_8kkqoajtu0_b\n\n", "Embrace the fact that cats are evil and vile creatures, and get rid of it. Worrying the cat might scratch it will cause stress, whereas having no cat reduces that stress and leads to a healthier, happier life. \n \n", "Double sided masking tape works very well. It is unsightly, but after awhile the cat lose taste for it and should stop. \n\nI assume they don't like the feeling of it, but I couldn't tell you what my cat is thinking.", "Citrus smelling things tend to repel cat, typically orange scented things do a really good job. If you can't spray the furniture maybe running a scent diffuser near by would work.", "A bit out there, but get some Lion Urine, sprinkle it over everything and the cat won't dare trespass.\n\nNo idea where to get Lion urine from tho, so this isn't helpful.\n\n", "My cats always loved the sisal scratching posts. Spray catnip spray on them (the scratching posts) and they went bonkers scratching them up. ", "Keep a water bottle handy and spray your cat lightly) with water whenever they start to scratch the couch. I also keep a cardboard scratching post near the couch. They're like $5 from Walmart. I trained my 2 cats with the water bottle. It's harmless. It just bothers them, cause they don't like water. Most cats don't anyway. ", "I have chosen to give up. I cover The couch in a blanket made of material that makes cats kneed. He has switched to the curtains (even though he has an office chair he used to loce scratching the shit out of) " ]

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[ "How do you know if an apple is good? Sometimes I have an amazing looking apple that ends up being disgusting and sometimes I have one bruised that tastes perfect. Is there an easy way to tell whether an apple is decent before you buy it?", "How do you know if an apple is good? Sometimes I have an amazing looking apple that ends up being disgusting and sometimes I have one bruised that tastes perfect. Is there an easy way to tell whether an apple is decent before you buy it?" ]

[ "Read product reviews, and generally there'll be a better one out in two weeks.\n\nHonestly though, outside of its season, you're gambling on any fruit or veg. Some you can buy and freeze, but with apples, I'd say just enjoy them in the fall.", "If it's a red delicious, don't buy it if the end opposite the stem is open. You need for that end to be closed tight. Taste may still not be the best, but it generally not be mushy." ]

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[ "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? ", "Spent thousands on a home office, productivity is out the window. How do I stay productive from home?? " ]

[ "Separate the room from the test of your home. Mentally or physically. Maybe remove your shoes before entering that room, put on a specific outfit to set yourself in the right mindset. \n\nTake away all distractions. ", "There's a lot of solid advice here already.\n\nAfter a quick Google search, [this list](https://bootstrapboards.com/7-tips-improving-productivity-home-office) has a lot of stuff that rings true for me. ", "I’m going to go a slightly different direction. I’ve been working from home for 4 years, before that I would work from home one day a week. A few years back I went through a period of concern that my productivity was declining. \n\nI tried the different tactics listed in the comments and each worked to varying degrees. Now I’m not sure how unproductive you are but I came to the realization that although I feel like I was being unproductive I really wasn’t. I was hitting my deadlines, and getting recognized for good work yet I still felt like I was being unproductive. \n\nThis is when I realized I was being too hard on myself. I felt like every minute of the 8 hours I work from home I had to be 100% focused on work, but that simply isn’t sustainable. Realizing if you were in an office there would be a whole slew of distractions and things to get in the way of work you may still be way more productive at home even with the occasional distraction. I now will have conversations with coworkers via IM or maybe take a little break here or there browsing reddit but I still hit my deadlines and there are no concerns over my work so I’m good.\n\nMaybe you are in a similar situation? Also the type of work you do will play a big role in your productivity, if you like what you do it will be much easier to stay on task.", "Been working from home for the last three years. Something that helps me is to get into a routine. \n\nWake up at 6:00\nGo for a jog because we don't commute and can\nTake a shower by 7:00\nEat breakfast by 7:30\nBe logged in and up and running by 8\n\nStaying focused is a chore at times, especially when waiting for responses from other users. I like to play 24/7 lo fi or 24/7 study music from you tube. Also use your work communication software to help keep building innerdepartment relationships.", "I read once that actually getting dressed in work clothes can help with productivity working from home.", "1. GTFO Reddit. \n\n2. Don't open any browser windows unless specifically relatedt to your work.\n\n3. Do work and work only in your office. If you're taking a break, leave your office and head to somewhere else in the house for a few minutes and for a set period of time, i.e., :\"Immma grab a sammich and come back to work in 30 minutes\". \n\n\n", "A lot of the comments here make sense but don't touch on much else other than tricking yourself to get in the mind set of being at work. It can be helpful to end each day with how you plan to start the next morning. Have a couple of items that you will do when you first sign on. Getting your momentum going will be a big start. \nI have also found that if you give yourself a deadline for every task that comes up then it helps you move beyond the thinking of \"I'll do it but it doesn't need to be done right now\" mentality (This type of thinking is almost always what I said to myself when I allowed myself to get distracted).\n\nMost of the issues with focusing on work at home is simply procrastinating and not having accountability since people can't walk past your desk. If you had strategies for how you got yourself to do homework/study back in the day try some of those as well. ", "I would say personally. (Unless necessary) block all YouTube and other video sites, social media and anything else that you won't need to access. Allowing you to reduce the chance of having a moment where you endlessly browse social media etc. ", "I work from home in sales and no one cares day to day what I do as long as the results are there which means I have to motivate my self each day. The deal I have with myself is to not do anything personal before I can say to myself “I made this day count for something” or “I achieved something today.” Once I can say that I don’t beat myself up over checking the news or taking 15 minutes to work on a personal thing. \n\nConvince yourself that you have to make each day count. Recognize that working from home is a privilege and if you screw it up you will be back in an a cubical somewhere. ", "There’s this theory of association that speaks to doing homework, it says don’t do homework in bed because a bed is associated with sleeping and relaxation. \n\nYou need to associate your home office with doing work, your home office should NOT be used for anything other than getting work done.\n\nIt should be your space of clarity where you go to achieve work, nothing else.\n\nSecondly, you need to get in the mode of setting yourself up for success. Often times work-from-home people get distracted by other responsibilities in the home that pull their attention away from work. It’s best to just start work two hours later after doing laundry than being distracted all day long thinking about how you need to get laundry done. \n\nThat’s just my two cents, all the best! ", "Some days are slow, some days are busy.\n\nI find that I can help my productivity in my office by taking \"breaks\" where I'm productive. Like doing the dishes, laundry, going to the bank, or actually making my lunch. It's just enough to pull my mind out of my work, and I return to my desk feeling accomplished, rather than lazy.", "Make a list and schedule the day before. Having a clear outline to follow and cross off has always helped me a lot.", "Install Self Control on your computer and block all social media, reddit, etc., from your computer for the day. Never work with non-essential browser tabs open, and leave your phone in a different room. ", "I use a halogen lamp on my desk, its quite calming and helps me for whatever reason, i cannot concentrate with LED's at night", "Make a schedule, then stick to it. This has worked for my wife for 20+ years. Our son, who also \"works\" from home, sends us cute pictures of his dog at 10am, noon, 2pm, 4pm. At 8pm he calls to tell us what a hard day he had at work." ]

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[ "Shipping a Shampoo Pump Bottle I bought a bottle of shampoo back when I was at my house from college, but somebody used it so it broke the 'lock' that kept the pump depressed without expelling shampoo. I want to take this bottle back up to college in a USPS box, but I can't have it spooging everywhere in transit. Is there any way to reseal it? I tried putting the 'lock' back in, but it seems impossible to accomplish. Has anyone managed to find a way to seal shampoo bottles for shipping again?", "Shipping a Shampoo Pump Bottle I bought a bottle of shampoo back when I was at my house from college, but somebody used it so it broke the 'lock' that kept the pump depressed without expelling shampoo. I want to take this bottle back up to college in a USPS box, but I can't have it spooging everywhere in transit. Is there any way to reseal it? I tried putting the 'lock' back in, but it seems impossible to accomplish. Has anyone managed to find a way to seal shampoo bottles for shipping again?" ]

[ "1. remove the pump assembly piece from the bottle\n1. remove the siphon tube from the pump assembly\n1. wash the pieces out so there's no shampoo spooge on anything.\n1. put a plastic baggie (loosely) over the remaining parts of the pump assembly\n1. screw the pump assembly back onto the bottle, so that the baggie blocks the shampoo from going into the pump assembly, and seals the shampoo inside the bottle.\n1. tape the siphon tube to the side of the bottle so you don't lose it.", "Most of them if you depress the plunger all the way and then turn the nozzle clockwise about half a turn they lock back into place." ]

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[ "How to get those little pieces of egg shells out of your eggs when they are in the pan Anyone have a good way of getting those egg shell pieces out of the eggs besides using a wooden spoon or something? ", "How to get those little pieces of egg shells out of your eggs when they are in the pan Anyone have a good way of getting those egg shell pieces out of the eggs besides using a wooden spoon or something? ", "How to get those little pieces of egg shells out of your eggs when they are in the pan Anyone have a good way of getting those egg shell pieces out of the eggs besides using a wooden spoon or something? ", "How to get those little pieces of egg shells out of your eggs when they are in the pan Anyone have a good way of getting those egg shell pieces out of the eggs besides using a wooden spoon or something? " ]

[ "Use the egg shells like a spoon. Just make sure and use the half with the cleanest break. I do this all the time cause there's nothing more annoying than those little pieces of shell in your omelette", "One tip is to not crack the eggs on the corner of anything. Always crack the eggs on a flat surface. This will prevent the shell from going inside to a degree. Also, don't just crack the eggs wide open. You are just trying to start the egg opening. Not obliterate it. A proper cracking technique would be to crack it on a flat surface so it just splits. Then pull it apart with your hands. This will also help to prevent the spread of bacteria into the egg itself.\n\nFinally, crack into a bowl. Nothing worse than cracking the third egg directly into your pan or your other eggs and finding out that it is bad, spoiling the rest of your batch.", "The shell trick works, but it's also helpful to crack your eggs into a small mixing bowl before you begin cooking, rather than directly into the pan. This way you have time to take out any wayward bits before you start cooking.", "I usually remove the egg shell in a pot full of water. But before that, crack the egg shell by rolling it in a flat surface." ]

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[ "How do you deal with people who are distracted easily or have short attention spans? I see lots of advice on how to be more focused and less distracted.\n\nBut I tear my hair out around people who can't focus. Like people who stop in the middle of a simple task and do something else, with no regard to the time of people who are working with them.\n\nOr people who are asked a very simple question and in the process of answering it they offer other tangentially related information, and think aloud until they've completely forgotten the question they are trying to answer.\n\nI literally often have to interact with people who can't focus on a single thing for an entire 60 seconds.\n\nSo. . . tips on how to work with such people, or how to gently support them into focusing on the issue at hand. Sometimes it seems like these people are being deliberately inconsiderate, and just don't give a shit that there's someone next to them who is quietly and patiently waiting for them to focus. But I also know that sometimes people just can't focus. \n\n", "How do you deal with people who are distracted easily or have short attention spans? I see lots of advice on how to be more focused and less distracted.\n\nBut I tear my hair out around people who can't focus. Like people who stop in the middle of a simple task and do something else, with no regard to the time of people who are working with them.\n\nOr people who are asked a very simple question and in the process of answering it they offer other tangentially related information, and think aloud until they've completely forgotten the question they are trying to answer.\n\nI literally often have to interact with people who can't focus on a single thing for an entire 60 seconds.\n\nSo. . . tips on how to work with such people, or how to gently support them into focusing on the issue at hand. Sometimes it seems like these people are being deliberately inconsiderate, and just don't give a shit that there's someone next to them who is quietly and patiently waiting for them to focus. But I also know that sometimes people just can't focus. \n\n", "How do you deal with people who are distracted easily or have short attention spans? I see lots of advice on how to be more focused and less distracted.\n\nBut I tear my hair out around people who can't focus. Like people who stop in the middle of a simple task and do something else, with no regard to the time of people who are working with them.\n\nOr people who are asked a very simple question and in the process of answering it they offer other tangentially related information, and think aloud until they've completely forgotten the question they are trying to answer.\n\nI literally often have to interact with people who can't focus on a single thing for an entire 60 seconds.\n\nSo. . . tips on how to work with such people, or how to gently support them into focusing on the issue at hand. Sometimes it seems like these people are being deliberately inconsiderate, and just don't give a shit that there's someone next to them who is quietly and patiently waiting for them to focus. But I also know that sometimes people just can't focus. \n\n", "How do you deal with people who are distracted easily or have short attention spans? I see lots of advice on how to be more focused and less distracted.\n\nBut I tear my hair out around people who can't focus. Like people who stop in the middle of a simple task and do something else, with no regard to the time of people who are working with them.\n\nOr people who are asked a very simple question and in the process of answering it they offer other tangentially related information, and think aloud until they've completely forgotten the question they are trying to answer.\n\nI literally often have to interact with people who can't focus on a single thing for an entire 60 seconds.\n\nSo. . . tips on how to work with such people, or how to gently support them into focusing on the issue at hand. Sometimes it seems like these people are being deliberately inconsiderate, and just don't give a shit that there's someone next to them who is quietly and patiently waiting for them to focus. But I also know that sometimes people just can't focus. \n\n" ]

[ "Be visibly and audibly angry to them. Because ... you are. And it's no good trying to look calm while being internally angry. ", "If I were you I would try to adapt to them. Their attention probably only runs maybe 10 seconds. So quickly talk about the subject and do something else, taking a different perspective on the same subject. Then jump back to the first perspective, maybe asking them for their opinion. ", "Give those people bite sized info only. Long detailed information doesn't work on them. Get used to making what you say more concise. ", "You're probably going to find a lot more people in life who do not know how to hold a conversation compared to those that do so it's good to learn to pull the weight in a conversation. Society forces us to be distracted in a lot of ways so you shouldn't blame people too much. When you ask a question, ask a more specific follow up question if they wander off. There are plenty of ways to coerce info or conversation out of people you just have to be more adamant about it, if you're patient and put in effort people will eventually respond the way you want them to. " ]

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[ "Talking to children fluently. I always seem to get awkward around children mainly because I just don't know what to say. Any golden rules to stick to in maintaining a fun and interesting conversation?", "Talking to children fluently. I always seem to get awkward around children mainly because I just don't know what to say. Any golden rules to stick to in maintaining a fun and interesting conversation?", "Talking to children fluently. I always seem to get awkward around children mainly because I just don't know what to say. Any golden rules to stick to in maintaining a fun and interesting conversation?", "Talking to children fluently. I always seem to get awkward around children mainly because I just don't know what to say. Any golden rules to stick to in maintaining a fun and interesting conversation?" ]

[ "I'm good with kids,I can try to help you. The biggest problem when getting along with kids most people have (this may or may not include you), is that they want to be found cool right away. Kids are probably shy at first so when you meet a kid, let it just observe you a bit, be calm and friendly, don't adress them right away with a ton of questions or your coolest story. Not \"pumped up and ready to go\". Feel free to ignore if you think this advice is shitty, but it helps me atleast. \nAs for conversation: ask any question that is **not** a yes/no question and you're generally good to go. If they do tell you something about what they did or whatever, it's likely a good idea to relate what they said to your own life. \nE.g.: \nQ: What did you find fun today? \nA: Horse riding. \nYou: I used to have the fastest horse in the country you know. etc. etc. This all depends on the kid's age and your relationship to it ofcourse. My experience is from working with them at youth movement etc, so we get to tell them all kinds of stories.", "Little kids like me because I treat them like they are the one person I actually want to be talking to, not the boring adults. And because I take the time to try to teach them things in a not pushy way.\n\nAct natural, don't put on the fakey \"I'm talking to a child\" voice. Say, \"Hey, bud, how's it going?\" Or, \"hi sweetie\" or \"hello *insert-name-here*\", whatever feels natural. Make it sincere and give them your full attention.\n\nReally listen to what they are saying, get down on one knee if they want to show you something, show interest and be complimentary, or if they ask you a question don't blow them off, be honest and encouraging. If there's an opportunity for you to teach them something or to respectfully set a boundary, take it. \n\nWhen it's time for you to go, tell them it was great talking to them and give them a high five. Most kids love the high fives. Overall, they will like you if you treat them respectfully and authoritatively.", "Just make sure to be patient and try not to talk down to them. Obviously you have to to an extent, but don't scale your level of conversation on how old the child is, but rather on how old they *think* they are. Any child that's 3-4 you can be baby-ish with. Make sure to put lots of emphasis on certain words to keep them engaged. If you can't think of anything to say, try and think of something to do. Anyone 5-9 really depends on their personality. Really hyperactive kids will pretty much be fine if you talk about anything really, but be prepared to think of something new every five minutes. As for quieter ones, ask them about their hobbies, school, the \"mom\" stuff. If you get to something that they begin to ramble about, you'll know they're interested so ask them questions about that. Especially after the kids are school-age, it's totally fine to relate to them. Don't set an example that's too bad, but it's a nice change for kids to meet an adult/babysitter who will tell them about the time they accidentally got chocolate milk on the ceiling (don't ask) instead of telling them not to play with their food.\n\nGood luck (sorry if my writing isn't very organized. I have a C in English for a reason.)", "Children are just small inexperienced humans. They have hobbies, dreams, jokes, friends, etc just like anyone else. Ask them how their weekend was, if they have any plans for summer, how they are feeling. " ]

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[ "What to say when a casual acquaintance tells you something that seems personal/serious. This happened to me today. One of my less regular clients (I take pictures of houses for realtors) casually dropped that he was having open-heart surgery on Monday and I didn't really know what to say to that. I'm very good at talking to people usually, but this was a bit strange for me. ", "What to say when a casual acquaintance tells you something that seems personal/serious. This happened to me today. One of my less regular clients (I take pictures of houses for realtors) casually dropped that he was having open-heart surgery on Monday and I didn't really know what to say to that. I'm very good at talking to people usually, but this was a bit strange for me. ", "What to say when a casual acquaintance tells you something that seems personal/serious. This happened to me today. One of my less regular clients (I take pictures of houses for realtors) casually dropped that he was having open-heart surgery on Monday and I didn't really know what to say to that. I'm very good at talking to people usually, but this was a bit strange for me. " ]

[ "Think when people say such things, they are looking for supports and kind words. I would say: \"Oh really? (surprised) I know it is very difficult to overcome this kind of operation. You did well as you look very good.\" Then just listen his story, because usually when people say such things, they want to share a story behind.", "I hear stuff like this all the time at work. Just keep it really neutral.\n\n \n\"Oh, man. I would be scared. It's so good that you're able to have what you need done, though!\"\n\n\n\"I really hope everything turns out well! Let me know if you need anything.\" ", "\"The most important thing is to take care of yourself. Make sure you take advantage of offers of help from family and friends.\"" ]

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[ "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things.", "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things.", "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things.", "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things.", "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things.", "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things.", "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things.", "How to build self confidence Building self confidence is a skill that is seriously lacking in many introverts including myself and it is a skill that I feel should be addressed as high vs low self confidence can have a major impact on life choices as well as mental health and other things." ]

[ "Sounds cliché as fuck, but \"fake it til ya make it\" worked for me. I just faked being confident enough that I eventually actually feel confident most days", "M", "What I've gathered from other people is a few things. What other people said, fake it till you make it and also, i guess i started doing this unintentionally to boost my confidence, but i heard someone say (contradicts itself however) don't say \"don'ts or can't\". Mentally it will psych you out and you really \"won't\" be able to do anything. Rather than saying \"i can do it\" try using the words \"i am going to do it\". If it's something new, it's much more realistic because it's in the future tense and you're not already saying that you're able to do it. You've asked how you can fake it ... start by telling yourself you love a certain part of your body if you're insecure about it. For me, i eventually started believing it i think. Or else imagine yourself talking to a person without any hiccups or doing something without messing up. It's not only preparing yourself but you're also building up your expectations and confidence that things will go well. And if they don't ...don't beat yourself up about it! If you're human, you make mistakes and most people will understand if you stutter a couple times or take a moment to get the words out. You're not alone and believing that can get you very far. You can try watching vids of people that resemble you and figure out how they approach or deal with things you might struggle with. Maybe take a break from social media. Especially ones with horrible communities and drama. Yikes, I wrote a lot 3: i hope some of these help and ill get back to you if you have any questions", "Something that helps me is getting good at something, or developing a skill.\n\nAt one point it was playing video games competitively, now I'm focusing on school and painting models.\n\nThe confidence boost from being able to say \"I can do X\" no matter what it is, is real.", "Pay attention to your thoughts and attempt to counteract any insecure thoughts that creep into your daily life.", "I'm working on this now. I think my current #1 aim is to try and \"turn off\" that little stupid voice inside my head that's constantly criticizing everything I do and say.", "I'm an introvert...and damn proud of it. Try strength improving forms of exercise. Take some martial arts or self-defense classes. You'd be amazed at how much more confident you get in other aspects of life when you're confident in your physical abilities. It's not something that happens overnight, but if you put in the effort you'll wish you had started sooner. ", "I try to use as much eye contact as possible (without being creepy) and always have some pre-loaded questions to keep conversation going if needed. I also try to imitate people in my life that come across as confident to me, and think about what they would do. Really, the more you work on it the more confidence you build about acting confident, and before you know it... it doesn't feel like acting anymore!" ]

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[ "How to protect my windshield during a cold snap. It's about to get really cold in my state and I'm worried about my windshield cracking (it doesn't help that it already has a tiny splinter in it, but I won't be able to have that repaired til after the weekend). My buddy's truck's windshield split the other day because of the cold so now I'm worrying. Is there anything I can do to protect it during the extreme cold, especially near the spot of the splinter? Thanks", "How to protect my windshield during a cold snap. It's about to get really cold in my state and I'm worried about my windshield cracking (it doesn't help that it already has a tiny splinter in it, but I won't be able to have that repaired til after the weekend). My buddy's truck's windshield split the other day because of the cold so now I'm worrying. Is there anything I can do to protect it during the extreme cold, especially near the spot of the splinter? Thanks" ]

[ "Place a dry (seriously, make sure this shit is dry) towel over your windshield. The ice will accumulate on the towel and in the morning you can just pull that shit off. Might help.", "There are products available to fill small windshield cracks, but I've never used any of them so I can't really advise you on that. However, I will mention Rain-X as a good thing to put on your windshield before it starts getting icy. It's a good product for a good price that'll help with the inevitable snow/ice challenges. " ]

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[ "How to fall asleep on nights when sick or tossing and turning all night. So I have a problem where when Im sick, I cant sleep. I fall asleep at like 2 in the morning when Im sick which doesnt work out very well in the morning. Also, I find that a lot of times I go to bed, it takes about 30 minites to fall asleep and sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to combat these issues. Thanks!", "How to fall asleep on nights when sick or tossing and turning all night. So I have a problem where when Im sick, I cant sleep. I fall asleep at like 2 in the morning when Im sick which doesnt work out very well in the morning. Also, I find that a lot of times I go to bed, it takes about 30 minites to fall asleep and sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to combat these issues. Thanks!", "How to fall asleep on nights when sick or tossing and turning all night. So I have a problem where when Im sick, I cant sleep. I fall asleep at like 2 in the morning when Im sick which doesnt work out very well in the morning. Also, I find that a lot of times I go to bed, it takes about 30 minites to fall asleep and sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to combat these issues. Thanks!", "How to fall asleep on nights when sick or tossing and turning all night. So I have a problem where when Im sick, I cant sleep. I fall asleep at like 2 in the morning when Im sick which doesnt work out very well in the morning. Also, I find that a lot of times I go to bed, it takes about 30 minites to fall asleep and sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to combat these issues. Thanks!", "How to fall asleep on nights when sick or tossing and turning all night. So I have a problem where when Im sick, I cant sleep. I fall asleep at like 2 in the morning when Im sick which doesnt work out very well in the morning. Also, I find that a lot of times I go to bed, it takes about 30 minites to fall asleep and sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to combat these issues. Thanks!", "How to fall asleep on nights when sick or tossing and turning all night. So I have a problem where when Im sick, I cant sleep. I fall asleep at like 2 in the morning when Im sick which doesnt work out very well in the morning. Also, I find that a lot of times I go to bed, it takes about 30 minites to fall asleep and sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to combat these issues. Thanks!", "How to fall asleep on nights when sick or tossing and turning all night. So I have a problem where when Im sick, I cant sleep. I fall asleep at like 2 in the morning when Im sick which doesnt work out very well in the morning. Also, I find that a lot of times I go to bed, it takes about 30 minites to fall asleep and sometimes it takes up to 2 hours. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to combat these issues. Thanks!" ]

[ "I use melatonin. It's naturally occurring, so I don't get a druggy feeling. It's not going to knock you out, but for me it makes me feel like I'm naturally sleepy.", "Something that you may find useful is a weighted blanket. It's like sleeping under a warm hug. You can find some online, or if you have access to a sewing machine and are willing to put a little effort into it, you can make one yourself! I made one for my girlfriend just yesterday. I had no previous sewing experience but it turned out pretty decent. $30 investment in materials well spent! My girlfriend (who usually tosses and turns from anxiety) noticed a considerable difference after even one.", "Your body usually keeps you up when your immune system is fighting something off causing different symptoms like sweating, chills, cough, congestion, runny nose etc. Many of these symptoms interrupt your sleep pattern. Look at otc medications that will counter those effects or ask your doctor for suggestions. ", "You need to get your blood warmed during the day to trigger melatonin at night when the air is cooler, if you are ill wrap yourself in blankets and drink some licorice tea and perspire a while. Hot shower and hanging around steamy bathroom might do the trick too.\n\nYou need to go to sleep at the same time every single night, don't stay up late, don't sleep late.\n\nGet away from blue light an hour before you go to sleep. TV, monitors, LEDs all out. Seek the darkness. Is it dark in your room? Pitch black? Try to achieve that. \n\nRead a fantasy book for 25 minutes then close your eyes and try to imagine what happens next. Fantasy will help send you into dreams.\n\nWhen you are sick, and/or whenever it snows, turn on a humidifier in your room a half hour before going to sleep and leave the door open a crack.\n\nI find I can't sleep if it gets warm so I've been steadily lowering my thermostat. \n\nSometimes having six ounces of coffee and rushing into your bed will knock you right out and into a deep restful sleep sooner than if you didn't have it. Strange but true.\n\n\n\n ", "Try Dramamine. It's an otc anti nausea drug that tends to make people sleepy, although finding a non-no drowsy version may be tough.", "Mucinex plus NyQuil and/or Pseudoephedrine.\n\nIt helps me a lot to have a humidifier running in the bedroom. I also like to turn the heat down a bit. It makes me have to wrap up in lots of blankets which I find comforting and the cool air is easier to breathe.", "Melatonin as mentioned earlier. Antihistamines works as well. But all medications only work to a certain degree. \n\nI use Valeriana tablets. They come in different variations and do work even if you have a cold or if you are sick. \n\nBut it is only supposed to make you fall asleep. Not stay asleep like prescription drugs as valium and such.\n\nAnd no over the counter tablet or medication in the world will work unless you set your mind to it that you actually want to sleep. \n\n(well, ok. Except Rohypnol and the like. But that's not really otc meds.)\n\nI'm struggling with insomnia as well, so i have tried many options. And so far i'm doing well with tramadol and valeriana combined. \n\nWhich i do not recommend as Tramadol is an opiate derivative that will create a habitual use if not handled properly.\n\nBut it works for me." ]

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[ "Keeping a dog downstairs We have this dog and she keeps peeing upstairs only. We had a child gate but it doesn't fit the stairs and it keeps falling over. When it falls it hits the floor with a loud bang, scaring the crap out of everyone. \n\nAs of now we have a piece of cardboard that's bog enough to fit the stairs and stop the dog, but we have to move it each time we want to go up the stairs so we don't step on it and crush it if it falls over.\n\nWhat is a good alternative? Here's some information, and what we want to accomplish:\n\n* it stays up with a small risk of falling over when we step over it OR it's quiet when it falls.\n* it fits the stairs (it's about 37 inches wide)\n* easy for a human that is about 4.5 feet tall to get over (that's the smallest person in our house).\n* the tiny chihuahua can't ninja her way up (she's nimble, but she is really small).", "Keeping a dog downstairs We have this dog and she keeps peeing upstairs only. We had a child gate but it doesn't fit the stairs and it keeps falling over. When it falls it hits the floor with a loud bang, scaring the crap out of everyone. \n\nAs of now we have a piece of cardboard that's bog enough to fit the stairs and stop the dog, but we have to move it each time we want to go up the stairs so we don't step on it and crush it if it falls over.\n\nWhat is a good alternative? Here's some information, and what we want to accomplish:\n\n* it stays up with a small risk of falling over when we step over it OR it's quiet when it falls.\n* it fits the stairs (it's about 37 inches wide)\n* easy for a human that is about 4.5 feet tall to get over (that's the smallest person in our house).\n* the tiny chihuahua can't ninja her way up (she's nimble, but she is really small).", "Keeping a dog downstairs We have this dog and she keeps peeing upstairs only. We had a child gate but it doesn't fit the stairs and it keeps falling over. When it falls it hits the floor with a loud bang, scaring the crap out of everyone. \n\nAs of now we have a piece of cardboard that's bog enough to fit the stairs and stop the dog, but we have to move it each time we want to go up the stairs so we don't step on it and crush it if it falls over.\n\nWhat is a good alternative? Here's some information, and what we want to accomplish:\n\n* it stays up with a small risk of falling over when we step over it OR it's quiet when it falls.\n* it fits the stairs (it's about 37 inches wide)\n* easy for a human that is about 4.5 feet tall to get over (that's the smallest person in our house).\n* the tiny chihuahua can't ninja her way up (she's nimble, but she is really small)." ]

[ "Crate training. After a meal take the dog out to do its business, then anytime someone is not actively watching the dog put it in a crate. This is not punishment as most dogs feel safer in a \"den\" like environment. Once the dog is slightly older, or seems to have learned that outside is where she should do her business you can stop the crate training.\n\nWe thought our dogs to signal they need to go outside by hanging a small Christmas bell on the doorknob. When we would take our dogs out we would have them sit at the door, then jingle the bell before going out. They came to equate the bell with going potty, and as they learned that they would go jingle the bell when they needed out. *NOTE: Only jingle the bell when you are taking them out to potty, and when you go out for that do not let them play or sniff around and goof off. It's potty and back in. If you let them stay out or play they will equate the bell with just going outside and will jingle it to go out for potty or play. ", "Here is a wide one, with a gate for the people to use. \n \nhttp://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod_display.cfm?pcatid=13520&cmpid=01cseYY&gclid=CjwKEAjwgdS-BRDA7fT68f6s8zMSJADZwHmvKohbAS29ucSDO8_JnTkWxSm_8ZlaewxNfZIM6DGymhoCkr_w_wcB", "Obstacles of ANY sort on or around stairs are not a good idea at all. \n\nI don't have advice for what methods in pet training might work for you, but would suggest if you haven't already that you call your vet and ask their advice on the peeing problem. Others here might know more about how to stop that and remove the source issue altogether, but don't put any shit on or near stairs, unless it's a fully locked-in-place baby gate or door. And even THEN it's dangerous.\n\nBetter instead if you have rooms downstairs to block off a door and keep the pet on the other side of it." ]

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[ "How to teach children while still encouraging them to be creative So tomorrow I have to help teach some kids how to build some robots (like the lego ones [here](http://www.walmart.com/ip/10988389?wmlspartner=wlpa&amp;adid=22222222227000040886&amp;wl0=&amp;wl1=g&amp;wl2=c&amp;wl3=52940355648&amp;wl4=&amp;wl5=pla&amp;wl6=75130429128&amp;veh=sem)). I did this last week, but I had a hard time finding a balance between \"here, let me do it\" and \"Go for it\". Children are about third grade.\n\nBasically, I'm trying to make kids build their own robot, but I'm really bad at finding that balance, although any advice would help.", "How to teach children while still encouraging them to be creative So tomorrow I have to help teach some kids how to build some robots (like the lego ones [here](http://www.walmart.com/ip/10988389?wmlspartner=wlpa&amp;adid=22222222227000040886&amp;wl0=&amp;wl1=g&amp;wl2=c&amp;wl3=52940355648&amp;wl4=&amp;wl5=pla&amp;wl6=75130429128&amp;veh=sem)). I did this last week, but I had a hard time finding a balance between \"here, let me do it\" and \"Go for it\". Children are about third grade.\n\nBasically, I'm trying to make kids build their own robot, but I'm really bad at finding that balance, although any advice would help.", "How to teach children while still encouraging them to be creative So tomorrow I have to help teach some kids how to build some robots (like the lego ones [here](http://www.walmart.com/ip/10988389?wmlspartner=wlpa&amp;adid=22222222227000040886&amp;wl0=&amp;wl1=g&amp;wl2=c&amp;wl3=52940355648&amp;wl4=&amp;wl5=pla&amp;wl6=75130429128&amp;veh=sem)). I did this last week, but I had a hard time finding a balance between \"here, let me do it\" and \"Go for it\". Children are about third grade.\n\nBasically, I'm trying to make kids build their own robot, but I'm really bad at finding that balance, although any advice would help.", "How to teach children while still encouraging them to be creative So tomorrow I have to help teach some kids how to build some robots (like the lego ones [here](http://www.walmart.com/ip/10988389?wmlspartner=wlpa&amp;adid=22222222227000040886&amp;wl0=&amp;wl1=g&amp;wl2=c&amp;wl3=52940355648&amp;wl4=&amp;wl5=pla&amp;wl6=75130429128&amp;veh=sem)). I did this last week, but I had a hard time finding a balance between \"here, let me do it\" and \"Go for it\". Children are about third grade.\n\nBasically, I'm trying to make kids build their own robot, but I'm really bad at finding that balance, although any advice would help.", "How to teach children while still encouraging them to be creative So tomorrow I have to help teach some kids how to build some robots (like the lego ones [here](http://www.walmart.com/ip/10988389?wmlspartner=wlpa&amp;adid=22222222227000040886&amp;wl0=&amp;wl1=g&amp;wl2=c&amp;wl3=52940355648&amp;wl4=&amp;wl5=pla&amp;wl6=75130429128&amp;veh=sem)). I did this last week, but I had a hard time finding a balance between \"here, let me do it\" and \"Go for it\". Children are about third grade.\n\nBasically, I'm trying to make kids build their own robot, but I'm really bad at finding that balance, although any advice would help." ]

[ "Children like structure and knowing the rules. Once you have rules and structure they know what to expect and strive to achieve expectations. Break it down into sections when they listen and watch and then go and do it. In a group you have children that learn faster and slower, so aim for a pace that is in the middle. If they play up, be prepared to enforce rules. Don't sit kids out, but pull them aside and remind them of the rules and why it's important. ", "If you look up \"scaffolding strategies\" then you'll find lots of ideas on how to find this balance. Educators call this balance the \"zone of proximal development\" or ZPD. It's not just about creativity but also about their prior skills and knowledge. ", "Focus on the learning, not the product. It's okay if their robot looks like shit or doesn't work. You often times learn more through failure than through success. Just be supportive of the student if they do fail, ask what went wrong and how they can fix it. If they ask for help, give it, but don't force it upon them. This seems like something meant to be a fun activity as opposed to \"**You must learn zis for ze test [whips cracking]**\" Let them have fun.", "I work with kids in a ceramics class, and I never do it for them. It defeats the purpose if I do it, and then it just becomes my project, not theirs. Honestly, I teach them the way I would teach an adult. Give them the information the need first, and a basic outline of how to begin, and then if you see they're struggling, give them solutions to whatever issue they're having. Speak to them honestly, and don't \"dumb [anything] down\", but do explain in understandable terms.", "For third graders i'd focus more on the fundamentals of what building a robot is. Fostering that basic understanding of mechanics and logic will do worlds for them over basic building instructions. Without knowing the specifics of the class, I wouldn't even be upset if a robot didn't get made.. let them break it, let them mess it up, a large part of creativity is having the room to explore and make mistakes. All it takes is a spark, a kid moving a joint and seeing how that affects another piece, etc.., it's about creating those moments, not *teaching* them at this age." ]

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[ "How to not laugh when someone next to you is? For some odd reason, ever since I came to school my friend behind me and my mutual friend (or his best friend) are always laughing at each other in class, I am well behaved but the problem is that I laugh no matter what they **laugh** about, so if the teacher sees me laughing, I could get in trouble for just laughing basically. So how can I prevent this from happening to me, I don't want to get in trouble soon.", "How to not laugh when someone next to you is? For some odd reason, ever since I came to school my friend behind me and my mutual friend (or his best friend) are always laughing at each other in class, I am well behaved but the problem is that I laugh no matter what they **laugh** about, so if the teacher sees me laughing, I could get in trouble for just laughing basically. So how can I prevent this from happening to me, I don't want to get in trouble soon." ]

[ "Every time it happens, say to yourself \"SHIT I DID IT AGAIN. STOP THIS. IT'S EMBARRASSING AND IT'S NOT GENUINE. GROW THE FUCK UP, JAKEDADERP.\". \n\nDo this consistently. Every single time.\n\nYou trained yourself into doing it so now the only recourse short of having your friend kidnapped or deported or something is to train yourself out of it.", "Try to think about something serious. Try to meet up with your friend before class, than laugh till you are satisfied " ]

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[ "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)", "Had two packages stolen last week. Live in a single family home with a mail slot, packages are left on the front porch. Any tips to save my stuff from getting ripped? I'm ticked and would obviously like to avoid this in the future. Our back door is hidden behind a large fence. Wondering what the most effective and convenient options would be? I order most of my shipped items from Amazon, like everyone else in the free world. Thanks in advance :)" ]

[ "Pay extra for signature confirmation\n\nIf using fedex or ups, I think you can ask them to hold it at a store", "I like the idea of sending it to your work the best but you can try and recording the front door area when you know a package will be arriving. Belkin offers a camera that will record when it detects movement. My brother used this method to catch a package stealer.", "Go to the local shop / family run cafe or whatever.\nAsk if you can have a package delivered there.\nTell them you'll happily pay them £5 etc.", "Amazon has lockers, for example at some 711 locations, where you can have items shipped to at no additional cost. Check if there's a locker convenient for you to pick up packages on the way home from work or something. ", "If you have a trustworthy neighbor you can leave a note for them to deliver to your neighbor. With usps you can leave a note or call aND ask that they leave a slip and don't attempt to leave the package, then just pick it up from the post office.", "I'm pretty sure UPS has a free service you can sign up for to text/email you roughly what time your package will be delivered; I've also had DSL text me the same without me asking them to (and then when I wasn't home to sign for that package, the guy called me and we worked out a safe place for him to put it, which was *awesome*.)\n\nYou can also generally get into contact with the delivery service and ask them to deliver it on a specific day, or to require a signature, or leave it in a specific place, or hold it at their nearest store for you to pick it up yourself, or deliver it to another address (like work, or a neighbor you've worked out an arrangement with). The exact process varies by company, but I'd start by checking out their website and/or calling them.", "The cheapest and surest way you get your package safely is by adding delivery confirmation. It usually comes with a tracking number and a signature required upon delivery. Insurance does not cover delivered packages. Good luck\n", "Put it on will call and just swing by and pick it up at the post office. I do this for things that are really expensive. I have a lock box where i live but still if its bigger then they leave it on my porch. SO instead of stressing all day about it while at work, i just go a few mins out of my way to pick it up. ", "It's really difficult to prevent other than PO boxes. There are people who follow courier vehicles around and wait to see when they make drop offs.", "I added a camera to my front door for this reason. I had a couple packages go MIA, or they just weren't delivered. \n\nI have had multiple situations where the driver claimed to attempt delivery, or state they left the package on my door step, and when I check my camera I saw that no one came to my door that day.", "Amazon!!! They have a policy that sends out packages if the customer says they didn't get it. They will require a signeture on all eventually, but you won't need to pay for it. Otherwise you can pick it up for no extra charge by changing it online, or you can put a note on your door saying no packages are to left unattended, if you put the time when they can come back, they can normally accommodate them.", "You could always have it as a requested signature, in the UK for a lot of those they will leave with a neighbour or if they can't do that they will keep it at the local depot for you. Alternatively, find out where your local Amazon Locker is. My university has a load of them and I believe they're free to use.", "Set up a camera and make sure they are actually being stolen. They probably aren't, it's probably just UPS being UPS.", "How large is your porch? Place a plant in a large pot towards the front edge, or something equally innocuous that doesn't look out of place, so a package can easily be placed behind it and be out of view from the street. Maybe build a planter with an opening in the back, or a simple trellis.\n\nThe best protection is to know your drivers, but if you're not home, that's hard to do. I'm dealing with a missing package delivered by the USPS, but it wasn't my regular carrier because it's one of these new Sunday deliveries, so I don't even know if they got the address right, much less if they put it in a safe place.", "Hold it at the store or ensure that they must get a signature.\n\nIf you are shipping from Amazon, they usually use UPS (in my area anyway). UPS has free services if you sign up online on how you want your package delivered. You can require signatures, have it held, etc., all for free. There is also more things you can do for a price, such as setting times it can be delivered, etc." ]

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