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[ "How to insulate an exterior door in the winter. My apartment has a glass door to the patio that I've already applied weather stripping to, but it's still icy on the inside. What else can I do to insulate this door?", "How to insulate an exterior door in the winter. My apartment has a glass door to the patio that I've already applied weather stripping to, but it's still icy on the inside. What else can I do to insulate this door?" ]

[ "1\" thick rigid insulation, fleece fabric. Cut the insulation to fit snug into the door frame, or you can tape it. Wrap the fabric allover the front of insulation, staple in place in the back, squeeze it in there. Hardware store, crafts store, 2 stops, $20.", "\nBubble wrap your glass. http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3TxGl7IO2Ds\n\nUse an emergency blanket for insulation. http://www.thesimpledollar.com/energy-savings-with-a-solar-blanket-hair-clips-and-curtain-rods/\n\nOr...\nPlace a Mylar emergency blanket over the bubble wrap in winter to retain heat or against the glass in summer to repel heat\n\n" ]

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[ "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?", "what to say to make your opponent feel less bad after defeating them? When you beat someone in a one-on-one in any sort of competition, you sometimes want the opposing side to feel less bad, because of luck on your side, or because the opponent is a loved one. What is generally a good thing to say regardless of the type of competition?" ]

[ "Honestly, smile as sincerely as you can and say \"great game, that was fun!\" And try to shake their hand.\n", "Be nice about it and don't brag about your victory. Congratulate their effort. There's always a winner and a loser but you can chose not to be a jerk in either position. \n \nJust for fun, what not to say: \"Well I guess you should have tried harder am I right? HUEHUEHUEHUE\"", "What everyone's saying is great. As a nanny, I play a lot of board games and sometimes I win merely because of the cards I pull (Sorry!, Candyland, War (the card game), etc), and when that happens I try to teach the kids to be good sports and to set a good example of someone who's a \"good winner.\" I tell them they did a great job and that it was a lot of fun.\n\n(If/When they mope because they lost and I won, I try to tell them that it's okay for someone else to win. I don't suggest saying that to adults though, that can come out wrong haha)\n\nBasically I say it was a great time, thank them for playing with me, don't talk about how I won at all, unless it's the situation above, and tell them how well they did. I like to bring up specific achievements they made (\"Do you remember when you got three Sorry! cards in a row? I thought I was done for!\") to show them how well they played. If you overdo it it's condescending, but reminding someone of how well they played/when you were worried about them beating you can be a nice booster.\n\nThen finish it up by asking if they're hungry. I always ask if the kids want a snack or some water, just to get their minds onto something else and allow us to move forward in a healthy way. If you're feeling generous, offer to take them to a casual lunch or buy them a drink; if you're not feeling as generous or you're strapped for cash, get something cheap and split it.", "I concentrate on the good things. Like, \"Oh you almost had me at [that one point in the game]\" or \"That was close, wanna play again?\" or even, \"You almost had me that time.\"", "Right, I get what you're asking. *wink wink*\n\nThe first thing to do is to stop thinking of it like a competition. Your partner isn't mad because you *won*. This isn't a zero-sum game. Every player can win. Your victory doesn't need to mean their defeat. Sure, sometimes you win first, but the game doesn't have to be over. Maybe the other player just needs a few more turns to play out their strategy. Sure, you can acknowledge your victory, but then suggest that you continue the game, perhaps without using your winning piece, to make the game more interesting for both of you. This gives your partner the chance to learn what it feels like to win, which is an important part of becoming a better player. It allows them to figure out the effective parts of their strategy, and perhaps a few of the weaknesses of yours. With time you'll probably find that they're beating you just as often, which makes the game much more interesting for both of you.\n\nOh, crap, you're a nanny?", "When I beat a friend in a hand of poker for a big pot, I usually say something like, \"That was awesome! Great hand.\" Or give em a fist bump. Just to make sure there is no hard feelings. ", "You shouldn't pussyfoot around this actually. It builds insecure, spoiled sore-losers.\n\nIf they lost and are whining, tell them \"Look, I can take a handicap and you can probably win and feel great about yourself, or you can humble yourself and ask me for advice and tips on how to play this game.\"\n\nIf they lost and are understanding, you can say \"That was a good game. I noticed a few things that we might want to practice\" and then list them.\n\nYou've got to make competition about getting better or just casual enjoyment. A simple \"Good game\" and then no modificationn to their technique just sets it up for another loss. Be proactive about bringing them to your level.\n\nOK. So if it's a game of total chance or something like yahtzee or whatever, that's a bit different. Just say \"Just lucky\" or something. ", "Hopefully you have an established pattern with the person, but no matter if I win or lose, I respond the same way. If you do that, the other person won't get any hard feelings toward you.", "\"PWNED, BITCH!!\" generally works fine. Also, you wanna get the kids to learn this early so their delivery is spot-on. " ]

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[ "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks.", "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks.", "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks.", "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks.", "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks.", "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks.", "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks.", "how do you learn to manage multiple, overlapping projects? In my job (and I imagine most jobs) I am working on multiple, overlapping projects at the same time. They are all different size projects, all at different phases, and my role/involvement can be different on each. How do I learn to manage my time and stress?\n\nI've tried looking into project management tips and software but they all focus on managing/organizing one project. Which is great but nothing addresses blocking my own schedule and knowing how/when to spend time on what.\n\nNobody ever teaches you this. I've been out of college and in my field for a decade and more experience just means more projects but no method for organizing my time and tasks." ]

[ "This is hard but try to not lose sleep on things you can’t control. \n\nUsing a tool like jira can help you manage multiple projects/teams with lots of room for epics/stories/tasks/sub tasks. \n\nNot sure of your role, but jira helps me on a daily basis.", "I don’t know if it helps, I’m young and going through exams, get the easy stuff out of the way. Reduce the amount you have and stick to a schedule. Never stress over it either that makes worse and harder to manage. Ask for help, even if you aren’t comfortable with it, just do it, you’d be surprised by how many people care for you. Never let it affect your sleep, if you desperately need to finish something and it’ll take an hour or so, make sure to make it an hours long. Don’t overthink, overthinking complicated things, stick to the path that is simple, especially when it comes to small projects. I hope this helps and I hope you do well", "Usually leadership sets priorities on project work. But if that is not an option, see below:\n\n\nSo you're missing the fundamentals of PM here: WBS. Take something ground up like PMBOK to understand what needs to be done. There are multiple pathways here but a WBS would be the first thing to do. Then understand and create your critical path for one project. Repeat for each project involved.\n\nTHEN extrapolate that into a project of managing projects.\n\nTHEN superimpose your schedule on top of that. Et voila, you are now a PM. It's really not that bad but I think you're missing some basic stuff that a good PM course would teach you.\n\nGlad to discuss further but my rate is $170 an hour :) just kidding", "I think it depends on what you mean by “managing”. I’ve worked for a long time in a space that requires management of multiple projects simultaneously, as many as 25-30. The most important thing is to keep a constantly updated status report and have full timelines through completion for each project, and calanderize everything. Ideally have all of these things in 1 document for all projects.\n\nStart every day with a “hot sheet” either for yourself or with your team to quickly align on what needs to happen today and the next couple of days, make sure you’ve got resources aligned appropriately, and then execute. Planning your time carefully is going to be key - so work on A from 9-10, B from 10-11, 15 min break, then incorporate boss’s comments to A from 11:15-11:30. PM tools are very helpful but you can do this with simple tools you already have - your Outlook/Google calendar, old-school to-do lists, and a timer. All of this planning takes time, but is well worth it.\n\nCouple of key tips: if you are doing this as part of a team, or are relying on others to do pieces (eg, for Art to layout a piece), let them know well in advance what is needed and when they can expect to receive it, and when you’ll need it back. Be honest with yourself about how long things will take - don’t plan a 1h task to get done in 15 min. And DO block your calendar to avoid meetings, calls, and other disruptions. If there are meetings you can’t miss, factor that in. Lastly…you can usually change timelines if you do so far enough in advance. Don’t plan to have a major milestone on multiple projects on the same day unless you are very confident it can actually happen.", "All these are great suggestions at managing time. I’ll talk more about the stress aspect. I used to have many sleepless nights. \n\n1. When you leave work, try to turn the switch off. If you need to check email at night. Do it the same time each night. \n\n2. Try to get in a workout right after work. Yoga or a punching bag in my garage worked the best for me. Running, body weight exercises, and just long walks work wonders when you’re tight for time. I didn’t get group classes until I tried them and they’re great for the social and physical aspects. \n\n3. Look up some m", "https://add.org/adhd-test/ - it's only like a rough thing, for screening. If you tick so many boxes, you should maybe talk to a medical professional. There was a lot of research done, to the extent the WHO will publish it.", "Just a quick outline, but this is what I do:\n\n1. For each project you have responsibilities for, create a project plan to lay out the project timing line and tasks. This can be a subset of the larger project plan focusing on your areas of responsibility. I use a simple spreadsheet for this.\n\n2. Prioritize the projects and the tasks. Discuss with your boss if there are conflicts or the priorities aren’t clear.\n\n3. Create an overall execution tracker with the tasks prioritized and the expected completion date. Keep it focused on daily/weekly execution, but also keep in mind the overall schedule and project commitments.\n\n4. Set up weekly meetings with the team lead, your team, and key stakeholders to review progress, help needed, and commitments. The teams may already have regular meetings set up, but if they don’t, you’ll have to do it.\n\n5. Set up regular meetings with your boss to review progress and make sure your priorities align with the business priorities. This should be a formal 1:1 to make sure progress and priorities are fully discussed.\n\n6. Provide a weekly written summary of your progress to the team leads, your boss, and any key stakeholders.", "I can’t stress it enough, take the PMP/PMI classes. Your local community college offers them online, after 6pm, 2-3 times a week. \nEven if you don’t have enough project management hours to get a certificate, you will learn a lot in a class." ]

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[ "how to remain calm and collected while someone's telling you off. I find my mind goes completely blank when someone's criticising me. I hit the \"autopilot\" button and give up automatically. I hate it.\n\nI need to understand how to NOT take something personally and to argue back when I feel like someone's being unfair.", "how to remain calm and collected while someone's telling you off. I find my mind goes completely blank when someone's criticising me. I hit the \"autopilot\" button and give up automatically. I hate it.\n\nI need to understand how to NOT take something personally and to argue back when I feel like someone's being unfair.", "how to remain calm and collected while someone's telling you off. I find my mind goes completely blank when someone's criticising me. I hit the \"autopilot\" button and give up automatically. I hate it.\n\nI need to understand how to NOT take something personally and to argue back when I feel like someone's being unfair." ]

[ "Incoming novella - sorry:\n\nI was having a discussion with a co-worker the other day and accidentally touched on a sensitive topic.\n\nOne of the supervisors snapped at us (mainly me) to get off the topic and get back to work. At the time I felt he was a bit of a dick about it, but I decided to drop the subject and get back to work because **it's not worth arguing with a supervisor over inconsequential things.**\n\nI fumed about it on the way home and **thought about what I could have said and what I would say to him the next day about the way he snapped at me.**\n\nBy the time I got home, **my family helped distract me and the next day I didn't even remember that he had told me off.**\n\nToday, while I was asking him about something work-related, he said that he was sorry about snapping at me and that he was angry about something unrelated and didn't mean to be angry at me. **I accepted that and moved on.**\n\nYou'll find that a lot of the time, people who are overly angry at you are angry because of something going on in their work/life that has nothing to do with you (though your actions make you the target of their anger. you're probably not the true cause but are instead only a catalyst). It's important to remember that (even if they don't apologise) you can't let their anger make you angry, otherwise **you'll only feed off each other** and, ultimately, you're more likely to get the shit end of the stick.\n\nWhen someone is your equal or lesser (such as a friend of subordinate), the same applies: they're usually angry because the little event brought out the simmering anger about a different problem to the surface (one that they can't show anger about, like, say, a new baby that kept them up all night every night for the last 3 weeks). **Let the anger fall away** and maybe even offer a good ear or some consolation to try and help them work through whatever the problem might be (but obviously a while later so they're not still fuming).\n\nIf you done goofed and the criticism is legitimate, then **listen to what they are saying, accept the criticism and (if it's good advice) incorporate it into what you goofed about**. Whatever you do, **don't be angry back at them.** Answer with **\"Yes\" or \"No\"** (with any appropriate titles thrown in) and, after a little bit, most of your anger will have faded away (use whatever technique you want - deep breaths, counting to 10, whatever). Any embarrasment you may feel will also disappear by the next day or two.\n\nBasically, what I'm saying is that **no matter what, while tensions are high, you have to de-escalate. No matter what you say in your defence, they'll only see it as you challenging them.** If they insist that you respond or ask \"what do you have to say for yourself?\" (fuck I hate that sentence so much) only say that you accept/reject their advice/opinion and no matter what, keep your voice as monotonous as you can. Confidence that you are in the right will help with this. **BUT REMEMBER - DO NOT ARGUE! NEVER ARGUE!** Unless you are the superior, you will always lose. *Keep your voice as calm as you can and do not raise it, if anything lower it to force them to come down to your level.* If you have to contradict them then and there, *use facts only and never insult them or berate them.* Let them see the truth of their wrongness for themselves. And if they refuse to do so, then...\n\nRemember that some people are just plain dicks and will chew you out no matter what (because it makes them feel bigger than they are or something) and **being angry about it yourself will only hurt you.** Like all toxic people: If you can cut them out of your life, do so. If not, let their toxicity wash over you until you can. **They yell at you in order to provoke an aggressive reaction which will only validate their argument in their own eyes.** *Keep your voice level and soft, take deep breaths and pause between when they finish yelling and when you start talking (2-3 breaths should do). This lets you gather your thoughts and helps you remain composed.*\n\nTL;DR: They're either not angry at you and are using your action as a reason to vent/teach you how not to screw up, and/or are plain dicks. Either way, know that you being angry back is NEVER going to turn out in your favor in any circumstance. Keep a calm voice, breathe deeply and, if you can't de-escalate directly, let them vent and once the anger has subsided on it's own, explain calmly and without any emotions, why you think they were incorrect (ONLY! \"unfair\" is subjective and therefore you're full of shit, especially if it was unfair to you.).\n\nIf you want to learn these techniques, work in front-line IT and/or debt collection for a year or two. If you make it that long, you'll have these skills in the bag :)", "If there being a dick just headbutt them and kick them in the nuts, do this a couple times and you won't feel so apprehensive in fearful situations", "If they are respectfully giving you a critique for some reason, they are trying to help you. Perhaps, disassociate you personally from the critical observation?" ]

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[ "how to remove stains from tupperwear? Hey knowledgable folks of LPT!\n\nwe all own Tupperware and we all know they stain like a mother, I have a tub with pretty extensive tomato/turmeric stains. My previously clear tub is now a sunset orange colour.\n\nAny tips for restoring it to its previous glory? Or is it a case of 'Stop being so tight and buy a new one' ? ", "how to remove stains from tupperwear? Hey knowledgable folks of LPT!\n\nwe all own Tupperware and we all know they stain like a mother, I have a tub with pretty extensive tomato/turmeric stains. My previously clear tub is now a sunset orange colour.\n\nAny tips for restoring it to its previous glory? Or is it a case of 'Stop being so tight and buy a new one' ? ", "how to remove stains from tupperwear? Hey knowledgable folks of LPT!\n\nwe all own Tupperware and we all know they stain like a mother, I have a tub with pretty extensive tomato/turmeric stains. My previously clear tub is now a sunset orange colour.\n\nAny tips for restoring it to its previous glory? Or is it a case of 'Stop being so tight and buy a new one' ? ", "how to remove stains from tupperwear? Hey knowledgable folks of LPT!\n\nwe all own Tupperware and we all know they stain like a mother, I have a tub with pretty extensive tomato/turmeric stains. My previously clear tub is now a sunset orange colour.\n\nAny tips for restoring it to its previous glory? Or is it a case of 'Stop being so tight and buy a new one' ? ", "how to remove stains from tupperwear? Hey knowledgable folks of LPT!\n\nwe all own Tupperware and we all know they stain like a mother, I have a tub with pretty extensive tomato/turmeric stains. My previously clear tub is now a sunset orange colour.\n\nAny tips for restoring it to its previous glory? Or is it a case of 'Stop being so tight and buy a new one' ? ", "how to remove stains from tupperwear? Hey knowledgable folks of LPT!\n\nwe all own Tupperware and we all know they stain like a mother, I have a tub with pretty extensive tomato/turmeric stains. My previously clear tub is now a sunset orange colour.\n\nAny tips for restoring it to its previous glory? Or is it a case of 'Stop being so tight and buy a new one' ? ", "how to remove stains from tupperwear? Hey knowledgable folks of LPT!\n\nwe all own Tupperware and we all know they stain like a mother, I have a tub with pretty extensive tomato/turmeric stains. My previously clear tub is now a sunset orange colour.\n\nAny tips for restoring it to its previous glory? Or is it a case of 'Stop being so tight and buy a new one' ? " ]

[ "These stains are caused by heating foods in plastic, and are permanently embedded in the plastic. Because you get small hot spots from the microwave, you're melting the plastic a bit and then eating it. I don't use any sort of plastic for reheating food for this reason. ", "You can try soaking it in a bit of bleach (mixed with a lot of water) overnight, it helps to clear it up a bit.", "do not heat food in plastic. oils in food superheat the platic which can release carcinogens. Glass is containers are much healthier and you can heat food in. Yes it's heavier, but much easier to clean. \n\nUse high quality plastic if you are going to use it. Professional grade containers labeled NSF. They cost more but you get more value as they last a lot longer, and don't stain as easily. NSF regulates what is allowed in a pro kitchen and what is not. \nhttp://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_iac_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=nsf%20containers&sprefix=nsf%2Bcont%2Caps&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Ansf%20containers\n\n", "I'd purchase new stuff and go to either the extreme of getting pyrex so that it's never stained, or cheap stuff from Glad or Ziplock so you can just throw it out if it gets discolored.", "Get the cleaner specifically made for Invisalign braces. My dentist gives it to me for free if I just stop by and ask for it. It works miracles on stained plastic and I assume is safe for food surfaces considering its safe for dental appliances. ", "Baking Soda with Lemon Juice works to an extent, and it's a little bit less caustic than bleach would be. ", "Throw that shit away!\n\nSeriously, if a plastic container just has a smell or a stain that doesn't go away it's revolting." ]

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[ "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?", "How to deal with someone who talks too much I am a lead worker to a new hire that has no bounds to talking. She is very similar to \"Kelly\" from the Office. She always talks about herself, sometimes about somewhat inappropriate topics, and she does so in a very fast-paced no-breaks manner (it's nearly impossible to interject or break off the conversation). Also, she doesn't take non-verbal \"I'm done with the conversation cues\". What do I do?" ]

[ "You are a lead right? Be a lead, pull her to the side and say \"look, I think you are a cool person/good worker/have potential, but I am noticing an issue with how you communicate. Maybe you can slow it down a littke bit and focus more on work related topics.\" This is honestly one thing I miss about the army, there is no sugar coating or worryibg about feelings. It would go something like \"jesus christ, do you ever shut the fuck up?\" ", "Try gently interrupting her by asking her a work-related question (regardless of whether you know, and especially if you think she knows the answer). This should help transition her to focusing more on the task at hand and hopefully help prod her toward what appropriate work conversation is. This should especially help if you end the conversation with a cue that means she should get back to work and talk to you again when it is about work: e.g. \"When you figure that out, let me know, it could be helpful for something I'm working on.\"", "Came here to see if I could identify myself in the description. Whew. Squeaked by. But while we're on the subject of me...", "We have someone like this O_O I always want to ask her to record herself and then listen to herself instead of boring me to tears...", "There is nothing you can do as that is her personality. I expect to read the same post over and over again for the next 20 years and I'm going to know who they are talking about. Now you have me doing a search to see if someone else posted about her. Thanks Zyonker", "Straight up walk away or usher her out of your office. \n\nThis works for me ... unless they follow you around and continue talking after you try to leave. It can take a few walk-aways for them to not talk at you too much in the first place. ", "Excessive talking is a sign of insecurity. Maybe you could try this :\n\n\"I appreciate that you are showing interest in the work and have learned a lot. I can see that we work well as a team, makes me think of Jenny, my cousin, when she first came over to stay with us during summer break. I barely knew her but we hung around together a lot.\n\nWe ended up feeling so comfortable with each other that we could each be reading a book on our own in total silence without the other one feeling excluded or snubbed. It was the best summer we had. \n\nI did enjoy those moments of mutual trust and camaraderie. But it's so rare these days, people have forgotten what true communication is. So I hope you don't mind if occasionally I lapse into silence, it's not any attempt to exclude you, it just means I'm comfortable in your company.\" ", "I would love to hear this LPT in a broader range: I can think of a few people in my life who can ramble on for an hour on the same point, and get fussy when you interrupt them or aren't paying attention. What's the best way to say \"This isn't interesting to me\" without them throwing a fit?", "Get her on the charity collection run, everyone will contribute to shut her up! \nDepending on the job you could use it to your advantage and through saying 'You love talking, you could do such and such' she'll pick up she's a chatter and maybe think before she opens her mouth and you'll benefit from it too.\nLikely not to work but thought I'd suggest something other than the logic already left by a comment, take her aside and talk to her. \n\nHaha, set her on the boss when they ask for more performance, they won't come round again. " ]

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[ "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?", "How to quit smoking ? I'm smoking 10-12 cigarettes every day. If i'm not engaged in anything, I'm smoking. I tried nicotine gums but didn't find them useful. Any tip as to how should i quit ?" ]

[ "visit r/stopsmoking ... There is no one way that will work for everyone. E-cig, patch, chantix, support, which ever works for you, Good Luck! ", "Try reading The Easy Way by Allen Carr. You can probably grab a pdf or read it online. I wasn't even in the mindset to quit, I read the first few pages out of interest and I was hooked (so to speak). It really breaks down the reasons why we smoke - not scare stories, not pity - but what is going on in the brain. Actually rather fascinating, worth reading for the psychology element alone. Finished the book and stopped just like that. Never miss it, when I get a pang or a time comes when I would have reached for a cigarette I actually *smile* as I know I am now free.\n\nThe key I think is not to have any around, don't make excuses, don't say \"just one more\", don't say you will do it in two weeks, don't build up to it, just say you won't do it any more. Do it with a shrug instead of being a big deal. Please don't listen to the people wallowing saying it is awful, it sucked, they miss it every day. They are just revelling in misery. The buzz is basically nothing, the pleasure is feeling like you don't want a cigarette any more. Whoop. The pangs are so light you can sleep through them. \n\nI have never understood nicotine gum. You are addicted to nicotine, it seems like giving an alcoholic vodka, and weaning them off by doing one less shot a day until they no longer want any. ", "What I started off doing is not have a cig first thing in the morning then made it a game to see how long I could go without having that first cig. If u break the cycle of that first one at the start of your day it makes it easier to put off having one at all..", "I was 25 per day for last 10 years tried every product but always went back to it. You have to be ready I stared talking myself into quitting a month before I did set my self a date went cold turkey thought I'd be craving hard out but it's not that bad you won't give up and there is no point in trying until you are ready good luck", "Highly suggest vaping. It was the only thing that worked for me...and thousands of others.\nGo to a local vape shop and have them show you a brand new world.", "Wellbutrin is great for nicotine cravings. They prescribe it as zyban when it's for smoking cessation.", "Look into Chantix or Wellbutrin. You'll have to ask your doctor, but it'll make you have adverse reactions to cigarettes. Good if you're serious about quitting, and isn't immediate so you'll have time to wean off.", "I used a vape to quit twice! It works. Also, instant improvement that will make you feel great because I you still get your nicotine but without the disgusting cigarette stink. Just lower the nicotine dose until it's 0. After about a month of vaping 0 you get bored of it and sell the vape. Success", "I smoked for about 7 years and at the end I was at about one pack a day. I tried a lot of things. Finally at my 20th birthday party, I just thought, naaa I am quitting. A few things I followed:\n\n1.) Don't say you won't smoke, it is a negatevity on which your psychology will react with the urge to smoke. 2.) Don't tell everyone that you stopped. I don't know why but that helped. Ppl who smoked with me, just found out after time, when I didn't smoke at parties. 3.) Don't search for a reason to quit, you will always find a reason to start again. Just do it.\n\nFinally after 7 months I tried a cig. I got so sick by it, I never felt the urge since then. I stopped a year and four since I stopped. Never felt better.", "I smoked for 15 years I decided that I was gonna quit and just quit. It's hard but only you can do it", "Here is a slightly expensive, somewhat stylish way to quit ciggies. Get a good vape, nice nicotine flavored juice for nice smoky clouds. This will help with the love of smoke clouds. Then, get a hooka. It sort of vaporizes the tobacco, and is filtered a bit through the water. Its a nice way to get some actually tobacco. But, with lots of nicotine a you probably wont smoke it more than once a day. ", "Chantix / champix\n\nI don't even think about smoking anymore and I don't get tempted at all. \nAsk your Dr.\nI tried everything else and this worked the best for me. ", "Alright I used to smoke around that much sometimes 15 , and I quit cold turkey 2 times but failed.\n\nThen I found out about allen carr s easy way to quit smoking and I simply stopped wanting to smoke after I read it. Everything he promised in that book is true , like withdrawal pangs being fucking enjoyable (I didn't believe this either) . And don't worry , it's not like other books that keep rambling about smoking related diseases, most of us knew about that when we started smoking.\n\nAgain, please just read that book, quitting doesn't have to be hard.\n\nPs: don't visit that sub that most people are recommending,they promote the harder way to stop. Smoking isn't hard to quit, smokers are just brainwashed to think that it is, and that life won't be as enjoyable without it. But it was easy for me, and it will be easy for you too if you decide to read that book. Trust me, I thought it was all bullshit but it really does work." ]

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[ "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?", "What's the best way to get out of bed in the morning and avoid hitting the snooze button? Is there something I should be doing the night before to prepare? Is there something I should do first thing after waking up? I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, on a regular schedule, yet I just can't help but feel exhausted in the mornings. I routinely set 5+ alarms, and even then I still have a hard time not sleeping in. \n\nI've tried the \"hop out of bed and do 10 pushups\" and \"drink a glass of water immediately\" and a few other methods, but nothing short of a cold shower seems to work (and I'd like to avoid taking a mandatory cold shower every morning, if possible). \n\nBefore getting coffee or an energy drink after I leave the house, what can I do to quickly get up and stay awake?" ]

[ "There is a TED Talk called \"How To Stop Screwing Yourself\" that deals with this topic. Check it out. Some tips from that one helped me get my shit together.", "Don't set so many alarms ! After you hear the first one your brain knows it has a few more, so it's harder to get up after you've been hitting snooze multiple times. Try an get used to getting out of bed immediately after your first alarm. Risky business, but it worked for me.", "I put my alarm in a place where I have to get up to turn it off.\n\nAnd this may not work for everyone, but I take a vanpool to work which leaves at a set time every day. I've got my alarm timed so that I know I can't snooze in any. Either I wake up on time, or I'm driving myself to work. That's enough of an incentive for me to get up most days.", "I know it sounds oversimplified, but just get up. Give yourself some extra time for you in the morning. Take care of your S's, drink some coffee, read something. Just make sure you have time for you so waking up is not for someone else like your job or school. I used to be a snoozer, but taking control of my day is better. [This comic](http://i.imgur.com/m28FWPu.jpg) inspired my change. Now I have time to read the paper, check my game I play, read a little reddit and still have time to get a breakfast taco on the way to work, where I will be a few minutes early.\n\nA cold water rinse at the end of your shower will still wake you and give you some other benefits without lowering your body temp like an entire cold shower. ", "Drink a large glass of water before going to bed, nothing says it's time to get up now like a full bladder.", "Put the alarm clock so that you are required to physically get your ass out of bed to shut it off. If you need 2 alarms, have 2 clocks so at least one is out of reach.\n\nGet an automatic coffeemaker so you can get yourself \"programmed\" to wake up to the smell of fresh coffee. It's also **much** cheaper than daily Starbucks or Dunkin.\n\nDon't read in bed, play games on your computer, or fiddle with your phone right before going to sleep. The bright lights wake you up. \n\nTry to have your phone as far away from the bed as possible. This keeps you from fiddling with it before bed as well as stops you from checking it in the middle of the night.", "Practice getting out of bed. It might sound silly but get into bed, set the alarm a few minutes into the future, and get up the moment it goes off. Do this a few times until you are conditioned to get up when the alarm sounds. ", "Place the alarm clock on the other side of the room and drink a large glass of water before going to bed.", "My friend put her phone across the room, and set a song with super inappropriate lyrics as her alarm. The swearing starts about 20 seconds in, and she has much younger siblings. As a result, every day when the alarm goes off she jumps out of bed and sprints across the room to turn it off before her siblings hear. After which she is very, very awake. ", "**tl;dr** - drink a glass of water before going to bed, put your alarm across the room, sit or doze in a weird position if you hit the snooze/have multiple alarms, wash your face and neck with cold water in the morning, try an alternative sleep schedule or a midday nap, and plan your sleep schedule in hour-and-a-half or three-hour blocks.\n\n**Too Long But Reading Anyway:**\n\nDrink a glass of water the night before, right when going to bed - not too much, or else you'll just end up wetting your bed, but a good enough amount that when you wake up, you'll really need to pee.\n\nAs many others have suggested, also not a bad idea to set your phone/alarm clock across the room, so you physically have to wake up.\n\nAdded caveat: let's say you have multiple alarms. Some people suggest reducing it down to one, as others have pointed out, though, sometimes it's useful to wake yourself up progressively. So if you *do* have multiple alarms or hit snooze, keep the phone or alarm clock in its position across the room, go back to bed - but in a different position. Ideally, keep one foot on the ground as you doze or snooze. But if that doesn't work for you, any position will do, as long as it's nothing like how you sleep.\n\nI'm flexible enough that I can sit crosslegged and just flop faceforward until the next alarm, but you can also stack up a few pillows and cross your arms to sleep over them, like you would sleep at a desk.\n\nThis lets you take your time waking up, without lulling your body back to sleep. Over time, if you consistently choose a certain 'snoozing' position, that can be a good way for your body to start to recognize that it has to wake up, soon.\n\nIn lieu of a cold shower, try washing your face and the back of your neck with cold water to help you wake up. Achieves most of the same effect/impact, but with much less hassle and shock to the system.\n\nProgrammable coffee-makers aren't a bad idea. Personally, I use a pour-over, and the routine of making my coffee helps me wake up as much as the coffee itself. However, in college, ain't nobody had time for that. So instead, my go-to was to get a carton of lemonade, pour in two of those pink lemonade 5-hour energy shots, and have a glass or half a water bottle of that energy-spiked lemonade in the morning instead of coffee. At that level of dilution, you can't really taste it, but it'll still give you a little boost like coffee. It's a lost tastier than coffee, too. :P\n\nAlso, if your circumstances permit, try looking into an alternative sleeping schedule. Throughout high school, and on and off through college, instead of sleeping in one 6-8 hour block at night, it was a lot more efficient for me to sleep 3-4 hours in the day, and another 3-4 hours at night. This was especially helpful during my brief ROTC stint, when I had to wake up at about 5am every morning and walk two miles to a work out, but it was also helpful before and after. Unless you have a solid day/9-5 job, even just taking a 2-hour nap in the day and sleeping 5-6 hours at night can help.\n\nAnother note: human sleep cycle averages about 90 minutes, and we need about 5 of them per 24 hours (re: 7.5 hours of sleep - the 8-hour recommendation is to accommodate how long many people take to actually *get* to sleep/fall asleep once they go to bed). If you wake up in the middle of a cycle, you'll feel a lot groggier than if you wake up after one.\n\nIf you have have to wake up in 7 hours, and you know that you take 20 minutes to fall asleep, it's better to wait 40 minutes, go to bed, fall asleep 20 min later, and wake up exactly 6 hours (re: 4 sleep cycles) later. If you drop off as soon as your head hits the pillow, but you stayed up late and now you only have 5.5 hours until your morning alarm, then as counter-intuitive as it sounds, you'll be better off waiting an hour and then going to sleep, instead of trying to cram in as much asleep as possible.", "only give yourself half the time you usually would to get ready. setting my alarm later makes me subconsciously spring up knowing that I have to hurry to complete the task of getting ready for work. " ]

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[ "I've applied to a job, now what? I personally have been applying for jobs and I'm tired of nothing. I feel like I'm missing out when I hear nothing back. What can I do or what have you had experience with that has helped you land the job? \n\nSecond emails..etc? \n", "I've applied to a job, now what? I personally have been applying for jobs and I'm tired of nothing. I feel like I'm missing out when I hear nothing back. What can I do or what have you had experience with that has helped you land the job? \n\nSecond emails..etc? \n", "I've applied to a job, now what? I personally have been applying for jobs and I'm tired of nothing. I feel like I'm missing out when I hear nothing back. What can I do or what have you had experience with that has helped you land the job? \n\nSecond emails..etc? \n" ]

[ "There's a book I read many years ago titled Guerrilla Marketing for Job Hunters. https://www.amazon.com/Guerrilla-Marketing-Job-Hunters-3-0/dp/1118019091 It has a bunch of slightly dirty tricks for getting a job. While I haven't read the current version, I remember finding it helpful.\n\nOne idea you might consider are looking for announcements of people appointed to a new job, figuring out the person's old job, and applying for that.\n\nBy far, the best way to get a job is to ask friends. Most jobs vacancies aren't announced or posted. Many are just filled by word of mouth. So, tell everyone you know that you're looking for a job and tell everyone to send you any information about any job openings. Naturally, this assumes that your current employer won't be upset at this.\n\n\n\n", "Keep looking keep applying until you find one you want that wants you. Shouldn't keep all your eggs in one basket. ", " You should find some local placement agencies that specialize in your field. They'll review your resume, tweak it to their liking and help place you. \n\nAlso, having a good LinkedIn page helps. Even though I'm not actively seeking new employment, recruiters drop me notes about once a month. \n\nIndeed is good to search. Networking is very important. " ]

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[ "Tips for dealing with high humidity and temperature abroad I will be travelling in Thailand from this Saturday where humidity will be high and temperature will nearly always be above 35 degrees in the daytime and about 25 at night. Are there any important LPTs for travellers such as myself? ", "Tips for dealing with high humidity and temperature abroad I will be travelling in Thailand from this Saturday where humidity will be high and temperature will nearly always be above 35 degrees in the daytime and about 25 at night. Are there any important LPTs for travellers such as myself? ", "Tips for dealing with high humidity and temperature abroad I will be travelling in Thailand from this Saturday where humidity will be high and temperature will nearly always be above 35 degrees in the daytime and about 25 at night. Are there any important LPTs for travellers such as myself? ", "Tips for dealing with high humidity and temperature abroad I will be travelling in Thailand from this Saturday where humidity will be high and temperature will nearly always be above 35 degrees in the daytime and about 25 at night. Are there any important LPTs for travellers such as myself? " ]

[ "Don't drink too much alcohol. Do drink lots of water. Don't wear dark colors or clothes that don't breathe. Do wear light colored clothing. If you need to wear a suit don't button your sleeves (lets more airflow thru the shirt.) Eat spicy food. Enjoy your trip!", "You'll want some bug repellant that's non-stick in an environment like that. Dark colored clothes aren't an issue unless you'll be in direct sunlight, in which case I'd recommend them because they hide sweat stains better than light colors. Bring a small cloth to wipe away sweat, and wash your face often. I like to carry a container of face wipes to keep my face and neck clean and cool.", "Carry a small hand towel with you to wipe sweat from your brow. Rinse it out with cold water from time to time. Had to do this every summer in Japan.", "Although it seems counter-intuitive, wear an undershirt. The layer helps insulate you from the excess heat and also provides much more protection from sweat through. Especially helpful if you have to wear business shirts.\n\nSource: been living in Singapore for several years." ]

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[ "What to do when you get lazy in school? I'm at all Cs with a B in spanish and an A in gym but the other classes like history, english, and pre-calc I have a C in. I know I could do a lot better and I acknowledge that I'm lazy but even then I still do nothing to change my actions. What can I do so I can do all my homework and be more successful?", "What to do when you get lazy in school? I'm at all Cs with a B in spanish and an A in gym but the other classes like history, english, and pre-calc I have a C in. I know I could do a lot better and I acknowledge that I'm lazy but even then I still do nothing to change my actions. What can I do so I can do all my homework and be more successful?", "What to do when you get lazy in school? I'm at all Cs with a B in spanish and an A in gym but the other classes like history, english, and pre-calc I have a C in. I know I could do a lot better and I acknowledge that I'm lazy but even then I still do nothing to change my actions. What can I do so I can do all my homework and be more successful?" ]

[ "Set goals for yourself. Start small, then get bigger. Maybe at first your goal can be to do 2 hours of work before playing video games or hanging out with friends after school. Once you start doing all your homework, you can move on to tests. You need to consider your goals and the things that are important to you in the long run, and find some motivation within in order to push yourself to actually do it. Just saying \"I'm doing poorly I should start studying more\" won't cut it. ", "I was always a slacker in school but I had a job since I was 14 and was always complimented as to how hard I worked. One day my stepdad he asked me why I worked so hard at my job but was so lazy with schoolwork and I told him the answer was money. We decided to do an experiment where I gave my stepdad $200 to hold onto for a semester and if I got nothing lower than a B I would get it back. But if I got a C or below I would forfeit the money. Got all A's and B's that semester.\n\nTLDR: Figure out what motivates you and use it to your advantage.", "If you don't work out try it. That little bit of extra fatigue calmed my mind so much. Otherwise just load up on Adderall and go to town with high marks. " ]

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[ "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n", "how not to get nervous before speaking in front of people Even when it's the most informal situation, I will immediately have a mini panic attack. Yesterday in Spanish class my professor went around asking everyone Donde estas? The countdown until my turn to say Muy Bien involved my heart speeding up and me having to do breathing exercises lol\n\nIt's so strange because I can intellectually know that there is nothing to be nervous about, that nothing is at stake, but I still get so anxious. \n\nThe old remedy of imagining everyone is naked doesn't work for me. \n\n" ]

[ "Hey! So I have had plenty of seminar classes in university. Most of these classes required me to present a 30 minute seminar that would be at least 30 percent of my overall mark - talk about pressure right? These are my steps I took to get better at speaking in public:\n1. Make sure I actually knew what I was talking about\n2. Have a friend that I could make eye contact with and speak to during my seminar. This was incredibly important to me. It kept me from freaking out and getting lost in all of these strangers' gazes. \n3. Transition out of step two, pick a few people and just roll with it. \n\nYou'll realize that everyone has gone through the same \"nervousness\" when it comes to public speaking. Some just have more experience than others. You'll get there by continually trying - and you'll love yourself for it", "TL;DR Practical, in-depth advice from a pharmacist with a rich history of sucking at public speaking, and who is now (arguably) awesome. There's jokes, some of which may actually cause laughter (quietly, to myself). And I used the voice typing on my phone, off the cuff, to transcribe this beast. \n\nAs someone who is pretty intelligent, but an incorrigible mumbler and self-talker, I've had a solid amount of experience presenting both poorly and excellently. I would offer the following points of practical advice:\n\n1) BE PREPARED AND KNOW YOUR SH*T. If you have any amount of time before the presentation, you must must must develop the habit of preparing and rehearsing in advance. The best way to sound like you know what you're talking about is to actually know what you're talking about. \n\nA case study: I had to repeat my 4th year of Pharmacy school because I spent most of my first run through studying how much oxycodone I could consume without dying. (answer: a lot) 4th year was the year of Seminar I, requiring a 30 minute presentation to an army of your peers and professors on a pharmacy topic and literature of your choice, then Q&A. I was 22 and still kind of raw from adjusting to being not constantly wrecked, so I was not feeling great about myself or my abilities. I finished my slides in advance, but only did a cursory run through before presenting. Huge mistake, and while the presentation material was not entirely awful, I was a sweaty, mumbly, inaudible turd, lol. I stammered through questions, because I had only skimmed the material. The next year, same slide preparation, but with concise, bulleted notes, stage directions /reminders, and 2-3 rehearsals with OTHER PEOPLE criticizing and grilling me. Prof told me it was one of the more stellar seminars he had ever seen (from a student), and I had classmates praising how engaging I made it. How do you do that, even without preparation? Like this:\n\n2) Examine your beliefs about yourself, about how others think of you, and about public speaking. This gets heavy, but stay with me, cause this is crucial. You need to identify the source of the vague anxiety you're experiencing. This is often maddeningly tough, although it gets easier the older you get. Dispute how sound and rational your beliefs are. Do it on paper so you can't fake it. Do you worry people will judge you as a person if you don't speak well? Do you believe you are not worthy of being listened to, or that people waiting to pounce on your mistakes, or that no one else has trouble with nerves or confidence or volume? By disputing irrational beliefs you may have about yourself, others, and public speaking (that we all have, btw), you can start to see and actually believe that there really is nothing to worry about that you can't anticipate or manage. It's that vagueness that makes us nervous and unable to address the problem. This requires actually getting to know yourself, which many people are averse to. Push through it, it's worth the peace of mind that comes with self-understanding. For more on these techniques, which I claim zero cr", "Practice.\n\nSeriously that's all it takes. It sucks. It takes time. And you're going to hate doing it.\n\nThen one day you notice that you don't care there's 1000 people hanging on your every word.", "I used to get nervous, but not really anymore. Comfort with the material and comfort with the audience are two big factors. When I started having to do presentations in my career I was pretty wound up until I related it to having to talk to groups of people when I started waiting tables in college. Scared me back then approaching a table and knowing my voice might crack reciting the specials or whatever, and sometimes it did. No one laughed, I took their order and they maybe left a few extra bucks for me. In a few days it was second nature. A captive audience is there for a purpose and everyone is cheering for you inside, because they've been there. Not gonna lie, you have to bluff on your confidence the first few times, and it's gonna be like riding the rollercoaster right before the drop, but then it comes and it goes and you survived. My sister who travels around giving speeches for her job without an issue had to get an anti-anxiety script for the first couple times so you could try that to get you over the hump. I hate to say drugs are the answer, but she probably would have had to quit if she couldn't get the nerves under control. She didn't need them after she did her thing a few times and she was well received.", "I suggest you to[ watch this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpCJB4LRSAQ). He has a lot of helpful videos as well. ", "I get this too and I'm yet to find a way of overcoming the panic and the fear of becoming panicked. Ultimately I know the root of it is confidence though. If I had confidence and better self-esteem I wouldn't be a stammering wreck for presentations.", "You will eventually get use to speaking in front of people. I am afraid that practice is the only solution. \n\nCheck out https://www.toastmasters.org/ Even if you do not plan to speak professionally it may be worth the effort. \n\nTip: If your chest tightens when you get anxious, place your palms together and push them against one another. This immediately frees up your chest and lungs. Try it!\n\nThis technique can performed while sitting or standing. You will learn that you can do this in a surreptitious manner while standing in front of a person or audience. ", "Whip your dick out and helicopter it.\nNobody will notice if you say the wrong thing.\n\nOr don't. I used to love public speaking in college because it was the limited time that I could control the tempo of any of my classes. Now I speak in front of full auditoriums regularly and it doesn't bother me at all.", "There are no real pro tips other than prepare ahead of time to minimize anxiety, breath work which you know about and it gets better the more exposure you get.\n\nIf this is seriously stunting you, you need more exposure to the sort of stimulus that triggers you. Consider an improv class or toastmasters.", "Sometimes I tell myself that I am some famous person and there all here to hear my speech or something. This also boost my confidence when I am talking.", "One of the bigs things I realized, however pessimistic, is that a lot of people are zoned out in the audience anyways. They're much less concerned with my speaking than they are with their own lives. That being said, I did join a public speaking group and volunteered to give presentations more often, both of which helped immensely. Lastly- watch what other \"great speakers\" do. Somebody mentioned taking on a different persona- you can just as easily try to mirror the mannerisms and pace of a TED presenter.", "You just have to get used to it. I was the same way until Drama class brought me out of my shell. It was terrifying at first, but turned out to be the most important class I ever took. I highly recommend it." ]

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[ "having one fan in an apartment, what is the best way to cool down the apartment as quickly as possible if it’s cold outside? I have only one window in my living room that I can fully open and the other ones in that room can only be opened slightly due to furniture \n\nAnd in my bedroom I have two big windows", "having one fan in an apartment, what is the best way to cool down the apartment as quickly as possible if it’s cold outside? I have only one window in my living room that I can fully open and the other ones in that room can only be opened slightly due to furniture \n\nAnd in my bedroom I have two big windows", "having one fan in an apartment, what is the best way to cool down the apartment as quickly as possible if it’s cold outside? I have only one window in my living room that I can fully open and the other ones in that room can only be opened slightly due to furniture \n\nAnd in my bedroom I have two big windows", "having one fan in an apartment, what is the best way to cool down the apartment as quickly as possible if it’s cold outside? I have only one window in my living room that I can fully open and the other ones in that room can only be opened slightly due to furniture \n\nAnd in my bedroom I have two big windows", "having one fan in an apartment, what is the best way to cool down the apartment as quickly as possible if it’s cold outside? I have only one window in my living room that I can fully open and the other ones in that room can only be opened slightly due to furniture \n\nAnd in my bedroom I have two big windows" ]

[ "Put the fan in the one window in the living room blowing out. Block air from getting in around the fan. open the bedroom windows. the air will he drawn into the house from the bedroom by suction caused by the fan removing air", "I've lived here all 29 years of my life, worked outside for 10 years, and I can't get used to it. It's humid too so it's like an oven. Arizona gets to 110+ but usually has low humidity so it's tolerable in the shade. \n\nGermany sounds awesome!", "Do you mean cool it down of its hot outside?\n\nCheck doors and windows for draft, you could be letting hot air in", "Put your fan facing the window about 2 or 3 feet away from it. (Make sure its level with the window) It will cause basically an air siphon sucking all the hot air out.", "Open two opposite windows. Check the air direction by holding a piece of paper in a window. Point the fan with the wind, not against it." ]

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[ "tips for first time home buyers What are things you wish you knew before buying your first home? \n\nHusband and I are hoping to find a single family home, avoid HOA fees and have backyard space. Viewing homes is exciting, but also makes me feel anxious as it starts to become more real! Any tips?", "tips for first time home buyers What are things you wish you knew before buying your first home? \n\nHusband and I are hoping to find a single family home, avoid HOA fees and have backyard space. Viewing homes is exciting, but also makes me feel anxious as it starts to become more real! Any tips?", "tips for first time home buyers What are things you wish you knew before buying your first home? \n\nHusband and I are hoping to find a single family home, avoid HOA fees and have backyard space. Viewing homes is exciting, but also makes me feel anxious as it starts to become more real! Any tips?", "tips for first time home buyers What are things you wish you knew before buying your first home? \n\nHusband and I are hoping to find a single family home, avoid HOA fees and have backyard space. Viewing homes is exciting, but also makes me feel anxious as it starts to become more real! Any tips?", "tips for first time home buyers What are things you wish you knew before buying your first home? \n\nHusband and I are hoping to find a single family home, avoid HOA fees and have backyard space. Viewing homes is exciting, but also makes me feel anxious as it starts to become more real! Any tips?" ]

[ "I just recently bought our home within the past month.\nHere are some of the things I wish I’d done:\n\n1. Have a plumber, electrician, and general technician go through the house you’re really interested in to check for anything that could cause problems immediately after you move in or sooner than later. \n\n2. Negotiate that price. ESPECIALLY now because people really want to sell their homes. \n\n3. Get the deed and read it / have somebody help you understand it. You’d be surprised what can come up, like a parking spot that you can’t get to or something stupid.\n\n4. Go with the house that “feels good” but is also right for you. Everyone else’s opinions don’t really matter. It’s all about how you feel. Be confident in that. \n\n5. Research the location and taxes heavily. Things like school district and surrounding buildings are a major factor in how easy it’ll be to resell down the road.\n\n6. Opt for a garage or driveway. You won’t regret it.\n\n7. Have fun!\n\n8 . PLEASE don’t buy over or above your means. This will set you up for failure. Make a budget if you haven’t already and add 20-30% to each bill you have to make sure you have PLENTY to live comfortably. Trust me, you’re going to spend money on stuff.\n\n9. Having some more money for right after you move in to do upgrades is a good idea. Ultimately depends on the type of house you buy.\n\n10. Heating / AC - make sure it’s all efficient and works for you. Some things are better than others.", "Take a few months and budget as if you’re paying a certain amount for mortgage and utilities. See how it feels to live on that budget. That’ll make you feel comfortable when you ultimately move and also gives you a nice little chunk of savings at the same time. My wife and I did this and put an extra $1200 away a month to pretend we were in a new house at the price point we were looking and knew for sure we would be fine. Then that’s a nice little nest egg to do some things when you move in.", "I've seen enough /r/legaladvice to know that it would be wise to get a survey and take photos of the landscaping and trees, especially near the property borders. If there has been a neighbor dispute, a neighbor may take advantage of the fact that the house may be vacant to remove trees, move boulders, or other encroachments.", "Get a housing inspection hirer them yourself not through the realtor or bank. You want someone working for your best interest if they are hired by a third party they maybe more interested in making the referral happy over the buyer for more repeat business. \n\nAlso lots of things can be changed with a house but the hardest is square footage, make sure future needs are considered.\n\nDon’t go house poor just because you can get the loan doesn’t mean you should.\n\nGo by the place at different times to get the vibe of the neighborhood.\n\nStay away from ARM loans", "How difficult it is to sell a home. What if you don’t like it? \n\n\nHomeowners insurance doesn’t typically cover flood or hurricane. See what natural disasters occur in your area to see if it’s covered. Examples are: wildfires, mudslides, tornadoes, earthquakes, volcanoes, lightning strike, blizzards, sandstorms. If you’re not covered, you could end up without a home and still under obligation to pay your mortgage. \n\nInspect the foundation. Are there cracks present in the brick anywhere or in the drywall? might be near door frames or ceilings. A fractured foundation affects the entire structure. You could experience water leaks from the roof or water leaks from the plumbing. If you don’t feel comfortable doing this, bring someone you trust with you.\n\nDon’t buy a flipped house. Maintenance was most likely neglected since they’re only interested in a quick sale.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to keep hands warm? I don't smoke, never have, but my hands are always cold. No matter how much I'm wearing. Any tips?", "How to keep hands warm? I don't smoke, never have, but my hands are always cold. No matter how much I'm wearing. Any tips?" ]

[ "You can take ginger and cayanne in supplement/food form, they both act as vaso-dilators and should increase your blood-flow and vascular system health.", "Are your fingers white usually? You may have Raynaud's phenomenon. Its a hypersympathetic state that constricts your peripheral blood vessels, causing poor blood flow and coldness" ]

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[ "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!", "What to mix with vodka that makes it taste less.. potent? I dont mean diluting the vodka, but what are some tings i could mix with vodka?!" ]

[ "I can chime in with a few recipes. Firstly, Tonic kills vodka pretty good, so vodka tonic is a decent choice. \n\nIf you want a stellar vodka cran type drink (can't even taste the vodka and you can make them strong).\n\nGo to any supermarket and get Rose's sweetened lime juice, vodka, cranberry juice and tonic water. \nTake a drinking glass (like a pint glass) and fill that bitch with ice. All the way to the top... \nPour about 1oz or about a 1/2 inch in height of roses lime juice into the cup, add the vodka any amount you'd like but leave room for the other two ingredients, add cranberry leaving about 1/4 inch for tonic water. BAM! Best vodka/cran you've ever had. \n\nAlso with all the flavored vodkas floating around on shelves, you really can't taste too much of the vodka in any of those. ", "You could filter the vodka several times to cut down on the 'bite' I've done this with some real cheap vodka, and after 7 or so passes through a filter, it's *much* better.\n\nAll you need is a [Britta pitcher style water filter](http://www.amazon.com/Brita-Slim-Water-Filter-Pitcher/dp/B0000AP7NV/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1373303757&sr=8-1&keywords=britta+water+picture), a regular pitcher, and a funnel (optional). \n\n* Pour your rot-gut into the Britta water filter.\n* Go do something for a few minutes while it works its way though the filter.\n* Pour the filtered vodka into the regular picture, and then back into the Britta.\n* Repeat at least 5 times.\n* Once you're done filtering use the funnel to pour the now primo vodka back into the bottle. \n\nYou may want to set aside a little bit before starting to do a before and after comparison. \n", "Vodka should be of good quality, very cold (viscous consistency), and drank single shot. Considering this it becomes virtually tasteless, no bitter after taste.\n\nWhen mixing, it becomes one of the most versatile drinks, specially because of its lack of proper taste. Citric juices (orange, pineapple, lemon) and sodas (7up, Fanta) are usually preferred. Blended with condensed milk and fruits (piña colada), limes-sugar-ice (caipiroska), or with other spirits such as martini and even beer !!", "This is gonna vary greatly on if your male or female, what types of drinks you like ie: Sweet, fruity, frozen, shots. \n\nBut I too would agree with the majority saying to STOP drinking vodka.\n Or at least get something other than the 10.00 60oz Walmart Brand. \n\nHeck even Smirinoff, is a very low quality Vodka. \nTake a shot of Grey Goose, Belvedere, even Stolichnaya(Stoli). Then compare that to your \"well drinks\" vodka, like Skyy, Smir, Polar Ice etc. \n\nYou'll be blown away by how smooth and easy it is to drink in comparison.\n\nStay from from Dark sodas, they are for your dark liquors. Even White rum and Coke tastes odd.\n", "Any citrus juice. Orange, pineapple, lime.. Also soda water. Try a Moscow mule. Lime, ginger beer, and vodka. Light and refreshing. ", "Try buying better vodka and drink it like it was intended, should you still feel the need to mix it do so with mineral water.", "Dilutable blackcurrant drink (the kind you mix with water for kids) generally does the job for me. But not this new double concentrate stuff, it's too potent.", "Any fruit juice will work pretty well. My favorite is CranGrape.\n\nButterscotch Schnapps is also very sweet, if you want to stick with tasty, clear, and strong.", "Love the flavored vodkas. Whipped cream and strawberry fanta. Cookiedough with sprite.\nVery nice if you like the drinks sweet." ]

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[ "How to be successful at job interviews with a lisp During a recent job interview every time I tried to say \"shift\" it came out sounding like I said \"shit\" with a big ptttttttttttth at the end, so I would start stuttering and try to correct myself and would try to say it again, but with the same results. They told me I had no reason to be nervous, so I tried to relax. \n\nThen at the end of the interview they were asking situational questions related to shipping, and I kept saying \"shitting\". \n\nI don't think they'll be calling me back.", "How to be successful at job interviews with a lisp During a recent job interview every time I tried to say \"shift\" it came out sounding like I said \"shit\" with a big ptttttttttttth at the end, so I would start stuttering and try to correct myself and would try to say it again, but with the same results. They told me I had no reason to be nervous, so I tried to relax. \n\nThen at the end of the interview they were asking situational questions related to shipping, and I kept saying \"shitting\". \n\nI don't think they'll be calling me back.", "How to be successful at job interviews with a lisp During a recent job interview every time I tried to say \"shift\" it came out sounding like I said \"shit\" with a big ptttttttttttth at the end, so I would start stuttering and try to correct myself and would try to say it again, but with the same results. They told me I had no reason to be nervous, so I tried to relax. \n\nThen at the end of the interview they were asking situational questions related to shipping, and I kept saying \"shitting\". \n\nI don't think they'll be calling me back.", "How to be successful at job interviews with a lisp During a recent job interview every time I tried to say \"shift\" it came out sounding like I said \"shit\" with a big ptttttttttttth at the end, so I would start stuttering and try to correct myself and would try to say it again, but with the same results. They told me I had no reason to be nervous, so I tried to relax. \n\nThen at the end of the interview they were asking situational questions related to shipping, and I kept saying \"shitting\". \n\nI don't think they'll be calling me back.", "How to be successful at job interviews with a lisp During a recent job interview every time I tried to say \"shift\" it came out sounding like I said \"shit\" with a big ptttttttttttth at the end, so I would start stuttering and try to correct myself and would try to say it again, but with the same results. They told me I had no reason to be nervous, so I tried to relax. \n\nThen at the end of the interview they were asking situational questions related to shipping, and I kept saying \"shitting\". \n\nI don't think they'll be calling me back." ]

[ "As someone who has interviewed a LOT of people, I recommend the following: Be confident and introduce yourself. After introductions, simply say \"I'd like to take a moment before we started to thank you for interviewing me today. As you may already be able to tell, I have a lisp, and it makes some words more difficult for me to pronounce. I hope you'll bear with me if I struggle with a word or two today.\"\nMost interviewers will be very understanding and admire your confidence and courage for calling it out. Those traits will more than make up for any word you mispronounce.", "Sorry you had such a tough time in that interview. I may be wrong, but it sounds like the lisp isn't what trips you up as much as you being self-conscious about it. Is that fair?\n\nAs far as basic confidence goes, I can't tell you how to feel about your lisp but I can reasonably infer that you that you magnify however you think others feel about it. If you do detect any discomfort from someone else, there's a good chance that they're just unsure if they're supposed to pretend like you don't have a lisp, or what. \n\nSo, let's say you're in an interview and stumble on a word. If you panic and rush and start stuttering, they'll become uncomfortable because you are. You'll have just demonstrated that, not only do you have a lisp, but it's a problem. \n\nBut if you stumble on a word and just stop and repeat it more clearly, maybe even chuckle about it, you'll show that you're comfortable with your lisp and everyone else should be too. And if you can handle that situation, you'll look extra cool under pressure. That's a good look in a job interview.", "Just be as confident as you can . That's all there is to it, really. Most people won't really care that much. I know most people with a lisp have confidence issues, especially in interviews and such.", "To play repeater. Own that lisp. I want to hire people who look at reality, grab it by the horns, and take charge. I wouldn't give to shits about a lisp. Anyone worth working for won't either. ", "Going along with the other suggestions, practice saying the words you struggle with that are likely to come up and get used to hearing yourself say them the way that they come out. It sounds like the issue was that you got flustered because you were holding yourself to perfect pronunciation, so it may be helpful to acclimate yourself to some words not sounding the way you intend. \n\nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How to make my voice deeper, louder and smoother? Title says it all. I noticed (and others have noticed) that my voice makes me sound like a little kid (im a guy), and my voice always seems to sound really rough and hoarse. It's also really quiet. It really annoys me that I don't know how to fix it, since I can never speak properly to someone in crowded environments where I have to speak up, people also mistake me for a girl, and I've actually had many people laugh and make fun of my voice, which hits my self-esteem and confidence hard.", "How to make my voice deeper, louder and smoother? Title says it all. I noticed (and others have noticed) that my voice makes me sound like a little kid (im a guy), and my voice always seems to sound really rough and hoarse. It's also really quiet. It really annoys me that I don't know how to fix it, since I can never speak properly to someone in crowded environments where I have to speak up, people also mistake me for a girl, and I've actually had many people laugh and make fun of my voice, which hits my self-esteem and confidence hard.", "How to make my voice deeper, louder and smoother? Title says it all. I noticed (and others have noticed) that my voice makes me sound like a little kid (im a guy), and my voice always seems to sound really rough and hoarse. It's also really quiet. It really annoys me that I don't know how to fix it, since I can never speak properly to someone in crowded environments where I have to speak up, people also mistake me for a girl, and I've actually had many people laugh and make fun of my voice, which hits my self-esteem and confidence hard.", "How to make my voice deeper, louder and smoother? Title says it all. I noticed (and others have noticed) that my voice makes me sound like a little kid (im a guy), and my voice always seems to sound really rough and hoarse. It's also really quiet. It really annoys me that I don't know how to fix it, since I can never speak properly to someone in crowded environments where I have to speak up, people also mistake me for a girl, and I've actually had many people laugh and make fun of my voice, which hits my self-esteem and confidence hard.", "How to make my voice deeper, louder and smoother? Title says it all. I noticed (and others have noticed) that my voice makes me sound like a little kid (im a guy), and my voice always seems to sound really rough and hoarse. It's also really quiet. It really annoys me that I don't know how to fix it, since I can never speak properly to someone in crowded environments where I have to speak up, people also mistake me for a girl, and I've actually had many people laugh and make fun of my voice, which hits my self-esteem and confidence hard.", "How to make my voice deeper, louder and smoother? Title says it all. I noticed (and others have noticed) that my voice makes me sound like a little kid (im a guy), and my voice always seems to sound really rough and hoarse. It's also really quiet. It really annoys me that I don't know how to fix it, since I can never speak properly to someone in crowded environments where I have to speak up, people also mistake me for a girl, and I've actually had many people laugh and make fun of my voice, which hits my self-esteem and confidence hard.", "How to make my voice deeper, louder and smoother? Title says it all. I noticed (and others have noticed) that my voice makes me sound like a little kid (im a guy), and my voice always seems to sound really rough and hoarse. It's also really quiet. It really annoys me that I don't know how to fix it, since I can never speak properly to someone in crowded environments where I have to speak up, people also mistake me for a girl, and I've actually had many people laugh and make fun of my voice, which hits my self-esteem and confidence hard." ]

[ "Radio/voiceover guy here. Short answer: PRACTICE. Long answer: Try different voices. Talk to yourself in the car. Record yourself and listen back to it, you never sound like you do in your head. When you speak, push your breath from your diaphragm and your stomach instead of your throat. Open your lower throat more instead of up high. You'll always have your natural voice, but it can be manipulated more than you think. Talk big. Yell. Scream. AHHHHH. Just practice. ", "Improve your posture. Hit the gym (increasing the natural testosterone in your system will help). Drink whisky.", "work on projecting your voice. i was in play acting and this helps sound loud so an audience can hear you but you remain in control. \n\n", "Try putting your tongue in the back of your mouth and talk at the same time. Your voice will sound deeper. Now, that is super uncomfortable, so you try to replicate that without putting the tongue there.", "This may sound weird but it will work. Listen to Pearl Jam , any live album. Learn the words to the songs. Put it on in your car, turn it up. Then, try to mimic Eddie Vedder on every song, even when he's \"screaming\". Do that for 5 days straight, anytime you're in the car. It'll work. Trust me. Sorry if you don't like Pearl Jam, but the amount of vocal exercise you'll get trying to copy his voice (do it until you're hoarse) will work wonders. Also, sorry if you can't sing but that's not really the point... You'll still get the result you're looking for. ", "Practice emulating a voice you find authoritative. Michael Buffer is a perfect example of someone with a different announcing voice than his speaking voice. Shouting (not screaming) a few times a day will \"roughen up\" your voice. I had a much higher voice before I joined the Marine Corps. Now, my voice is much lower and I speak with a lot of authority, no matter what I'm saying. Even if I know I'm wrong, I can still sound like I know what I'm talking about. \n\nAvoid inflection in your voice where the end of each sentence goes \"up\" like a question. It just makes you sound unsure of yourself. Look people in the eye when you talk to them. It'll give them the sense that you believe what you're saying and they will want to believe you as well. Avoid your eyes darting around. People will think you're lying.", "Smoke cigarettes. That'll make your voice deeper. Might make your hoarse more raspy though, but that's kinda cool and manly. Also, yell." ]

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[ "How to deal with pathological liars? Update: I showed them proof of them lying on multiple occasions, gave them the chance to acknowledge it and apologise for lying to us over and over and basically insulting our intelligence. The message was seen but ignored so after a few hours I told them that they're gonna lose friends over and over again if they keep lying like this and blocked them. I told my friends that I will no longer tolerate them, they agreed and told me the only reason they kept having them around was because they thought I liked having them around and now I feel stupid. Either way the hidden LPT was \"no one is dumb enough to listen to a pathologic liar for long, confront them and if they act like sh*t just cut all contact, your friends will probably do the same\".", "How to deal with pathological liars? Update: I showed them proof of them lying on multiple occasions, gave them the chance to acknowledge it and apologise for lying to us over and over and basically insulting our intelligence. The message was seen but ignored so after a few hours I told them that they're gonna lose friends over and over again if they keep lying like this and blocked them. I told my friends that I will no longer tolerate them, they agreed and told me the only reason they kept having them around was because they thought I liked having them around and now I feel stupid. Either way the hidden LPT was \"no one is dumb enough to listen to a pathologic liar for long, confront them and if they act like sh*t just cut all contact, your friends will probably do the same\".", "How to deal with pathological liars? Update: I showed them proof of them lying on multiple occasions, gave them the chance to acknowledge it and apologise for lying to us over and over and basically insulting our intelligence. The message was seen but ignored so after a few hours I told them that they're gonna lose friends over and over again if they keep lying like this and blocked them. I told my friends that I will no longer tolerate them, they agreed and told me the only reason they kept having them around was because they thought I liked having them around and now I feel stupid. Either way the hidden LPT was \"no one is dumb enough to listen to a pathologic liar for long, confront them and if they act like sh*t just cut all contact, your friends will probably do the same\".", "How to deal with pathological liars? Update: I showed them proof of them lying on multiple occasions, gave them the chance to acknowledge it and apologise for lying to us over and over and basically insulting our intelligence. The message was seen but ignored so after a few hours I told them that they're gonna lose friends over and over again if they keep lying like this and blocked them. I told my friends that I will no longer tolerate them, they agreed and told me the only reason they kept having them around was because they thought I liked having them around and now I feel stupid. Either way the hidden LPT was \"no one is dumb enough to listen to a pathologic liar for long, confront them and if they act like sh*t just cut all contact, your friends will probably do the same\".", "How to deal with pathological liars? Update: I showed them proof of them lying on multiple occasions, gave them the chance to acknowledge it and apologise for lying to us over and over and basically insulting our intelligence. The message was seen but ignored so after a few hours I told them that they're gonna lose friends over and over again if they keep lying like this and blocked them. I told my friends that I will no longer tolerate them, they agreed and told me the only reason they kept having them around was because they thought I liked having them around and now I feel stupid. Either way the hidden LPT was \"no one is dumb enough to listen to a pathologic liar for long, confront them and if they act like sh*t just cut all contact, your friends will probably do the same\".", "How to deal with pathological liars? Update: I showed them proof of them lying on multiple occasions, gave them the chance to acknowledge it and apologise for lying to us over and over and basically insulting our intelligence. The message was seen but ignored so after a few hours I told them that they're gonna lose friends over and over again if they keep lying like this and blocked them. I told my friends that I will no longer tolerate them, they agreed and told me the only reason they kept having them around was because they thought I liked having them around and now I feel stupid. Either way the hidden LPT was \"no one is dumb enough to listen to a pathologic liar for long, confront them and if they act like sh*t just cut all contact, your friends will probably do the same\"." ]

[ "I have unfortunately had to deal with a few of them, they were all also extremely narcissistic and manipulative. The best way I learned to deal with them is to never trust them, never believe them, avoid contact with them as much as possible, do not engage and do not allow yourself to be engaged with by them. Calling them out on their lies often just led to them doubling down and fabricating more lies, so it was a waste of time.", "As far as I can tell from the last few years, they are routinely dealt with by being voted president or prime minister...", "OP has to explain the power dynamic between her and the liar(s). The approach will differ depending on that. Is it a spouse, child, parent, boss, co-worker, subordinate, client, friend, acquaintance, antagonist, roommate or someone else?", "Keep asking questions when talking to them. They will usually give it away. If they get upset? May be a 🚩", "You can’t win at the “calling out” game but in the meanwhile you can trash talk how ridiculous the lies are with the friend group", "I would say that the way to deal with them is to come with your own agenda and don't let them sway you." ]

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[ "How to make a child not shy around you when first meeting them. My son is quite shy around most people when he first meets them. I'm thinking of things to tell people to do to make him not be that way for as long before opening up to them.", "How to make a child not shy around you when first meeting them. My son is quite shy around most people when he first meets them. I'm thinking of things to tell people to do to make him not be that way for as long before opening up to them.", "How to make a child not shy around you when first meeting them. My son is quite shy around most people when he first meets them. I'm thinking of things to tell people to do to make him not be that way for as long before opening up to them." ]

[ "I think the best way to interact with little kids that don't want to talk is to ignore them (mostly). :)\n\nI wish people wouldn't get in the face of my toddler, if she's being shy; it just makes her hide behind me and I just want to say, \"please ignore her, and she'll stop being that way, and in a minute she'll start talking your ear off b/c you're not paying attention to her\" (she's actually quite talkative and has no problem being assertive; it's just the first few minutes where she's not sure).\n\nSo, when I'm around kids that are being that way, I talk to their parents and I make subtle eye contact with the kids, but don't try hard to \"make them\" talk to me.\n\nAlso: if someone can, playing with their toys is a way to get them to join you, or reading a kid's book (I've had kids sidle up when reading to my own). Toddlers in particular like to be *next* to you, not face to face, when doing things.", "All of these are great tips. For me, what works is doing something fun, like play a game or show a magic trick to the other person in the room (maybe adult or child) this will hook the child's mind, maybe he'd want to see more or be a part of it, from there's it's just baby steps, also maybe give some gifts or chocolates for the check of it, children would think you're a good person. They have a 6th sense about these things and it would be a small bribe for them to like you more :)\n", "As a Sunday school teacher, what I try to do is to ask them about super hero's and such. I also physically drop down to there level so I am not as imposing. It is also good that you don't come too close, watch their bubble of space. Let them open up and come to you." ]

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[ "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o", "Dealing with car sickness I have severe car sickness just 10 mins riding a car. I'm going on a 5hr road trip. Help me please o.o" ]

[ "Always look ahead at the road. Don't look to read a book or cellphone as will make it worse and also bother your neck after a while.\n\nDramamine as directed on the packaging. ", "I have the same problem and oddly enough have found that making sure that I eat before the drive helps. Also, minimize ANY form of reading and make sure that you are always in the front seats. Lastly, Dramamine always helps.\n\nIf anyone has more advice, I would greatly appreciate it too. In a couple weeks I will be going on a 26 hour road trip and, at the moment, my plan is just to sleep through as much of it as I can.", "Try to be the driver if possible, even if its not your car. I get car sick sometimes if its my wife or mother driving, both of them sometimes get distracted and over correct making it worse. Like already stated never read, always keep your eyes straight ahead or focus on something far enough away that it won't move too fast as you drive past it (clouds or hills in the distance work). Try sleeping if these dont work.", "Try to look at something like the horizon, mountains, or big/far clouds. Nausea often happens because of a mis-match between what your eyes see and what your ears sense, so try to look at things that seem stationary.", "I have to crack a window for fresh air, focus my breathing, and tip my head to the side on a soft pillow. The last part realigns your inner ear, making your brain less likely to find dissonance between the fact that you're moving through space without being in control.", "For me as far as sea sickness or car sickness, I was taught to put like a rubber band or hair tie on my wrist. Not enough to cut off circulation but enough tension so you know its there. It actually worked or really well for me. Good luck!", "Sea bands are great for car sickness. It's the only way my spouse made it to my brother's wedding (DC to Atlanta) they hit an acupressure point in the wrist.", "Dramamine? If you are riding and not driving maybe you can take a sleep aid and just sleep through it. The other passengers should understand. Blasting the AC directly on my face helps me.", "Personally I've had better luck with Bonine than Dramamine. It causes less drowsiness for me and it lasts longer. Be sure to take one the night before you start traveling and then again in the morning when you wake up so that it has a chance to get into your system. ", "I've had the same problem my whole life and I notice it gets especially worse when it's in the middle of the summer and the car is all stuffy. Open a window or turn on the ac and point it right in your face. Breathing in cold air helped me a lot. \nAlso, focus on the horizon, apparently when you get motion sickness your sight and and what you feel are off. (like the motion from the car from what you are seeing or reading throws you off) ", "For me as a passenger, I found the problem was with my wife following too closely to the car in front of us. I asked her to back off to at least \"3 seconds\" behind the car in front of us and my motion sickness symptoms vanish quickly. Hope it helps!", "cba to read all these replies, but the few I did, mentioned sitting in the front seat. Actually, it doesn't matter where you sit, just make sure you have a 'vew' (even periferal) of the horizon. car sickness is the same thing as sea sickness, which creeps up when you are in motion, without the ability for your mind to interpret the motion, it causes the uneasiness, and upset stomach.", "When I forget my Dramamine, I force myself to sleep. I may be a shitty co-pilot, but it's better than having puke breath.", "Sit in the middle of the car. Watch the lines on the road. Have a soda/bubbly beverage. Burping helps sooooo much! Seriously the only thing that keeps me from hurling.\n\nIt helped me yesterday on windy (wind-y?) roads with a driver who wasn't too concerned with speed limits. Maybe in combination with Dramamine, could be even better.", "Several people have recommended Dramamine, which is a good choice. Personally, I favor Dramamine II, which is a different motion sickness drug which causes less drowsiness. You still shouldn't try to drive while taking it until you know how it affects you.", "Pills against motion sickness.\n\nI used to take those for longer trips, some time later I found that I stopped getting the sickness.", "Mythbusters had good luck with ginger pills. Other than that the other advice about sitting up front and no reading is always a big help.", "My doctor prescribed me valium for motion sickness (it works better than dramamine for me). It may not be feasible for today, but it may be worth looking into for future trips! ", "MotionEaze - it's a behind the ear, non-over the counter medication that I swear by. Also, if you're feeling really ill, you can pair a pill from the $1 boxes of generic Equate Motion Sickness with the MotionEaze. \n\n", "Meclizine is over the counter in the US. If you have a physician/PA/NP willing to prescribe it, ondansetron (Zofran) works very well also. The two can be used in combination and it is *very* effective. \n\nI have a friend who gets very car sick and gave him meclizine and ondansetron on a car trip down from Lake Tahoe to Sacramento (tons of twisty roads). He not only didn't get car sick, he was able to do work on his laptop the entire way.", "Listen to music with headphones. When I became an antisocial teenager and started plugging in on road trips, I discovered that I never got sick.\n\nI've also had some success taking Dramamine and Bromine -- Take it the night before, and every night before continuing to travel, or it'll make you really tired and/or cranky.\n\nOr be the driver.", "I grew up on the road from Kingston, Ontario to Quebec, Quebec for 10 years. Gravol. Gravol all the way. It'll stop any motion sickness you have and also knock you out, making that 5 hour trip seem like it never happened.", "Eat some plain crackers or toast. You get car sick, I believe, because all that liquid is swirling around in your belly. Also, ginger chews might help. They do use it for boating.\n", "Dramamine. Good for nausea, and if you take two it'll knock you right out and you'll sleep for most of the trip. Make sure you have a bottle of water or Gatorade for when you wake up.", "Chewing gum helps my mom. Also, peppermint is supposed to be good for nausea. \n\nI second all of the advice about not reading. I don't get car sick as a passenger, but if I read for 20 minutes I want to throw myself out of the car. ", "Ask your doctor to call you in some scopolamine patches. They stick behind your ear and are really effective at preventing motion sickness. I've worn them on cruises and they work great. ", "When you start to get sick, try looking out the window at any passing trees or grass. It might help to reduce nausea. " ]

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[ "How to keep mice out of an old wood cabin My family has a cabin that was built in the late 1800's by my great-great-great grandfather. Every winter, when we aren't using it, field mice get in and destroy anything that hasn't been properly stored (furniture, clothes, even the stove insulation). None of the generations that have used it have learned how to keep them out and completely sealing everything (floor, walls, roof) would cost $100,000+. Anyone have good tips on how we can keep the mice out?", "How to keep mice out of an old wood cabin My family has a cabin that was built in the late 1800's by my great-great-great grandfather. Every winter, when we aren't using it, field mice get in and destroy anything that hasn't been properly stored (furniture, clothes, even the stove insulation). None of the generations that have used it have learned how to keep them out and completely sealing everything (floor, walls, roof) would cost $100,000+. Anyone have good tips on how we can keep the mice out?", "How to keep mice out of an old wood cabin My family has a cabin that was built in the late 1800's by my great-great-great grandfather. Every winter, when we aren't using it, field mice get in and destroy anything that hasn't been properly stored (furniture, clothes, even the stove insulation). None of the generations that have used it have learned how to keep them out and completely sealing everything (floor, walls, roof) would cost $100,000+. Anyone have good tips on how we can keep the mice out?", "How to keep mice out of an old wood cabin My family has a cabin that was built in the late 1800's by my great-great-great grandfather. Every winter, when we aren't using it, field mice get in and destroy anything that hasn't been properly stored (furniture, clothes, even the stove insulation). None of the generations that have used it have learned how to keep them out and completely sealing everything (floor, walls, roof) would cost $100,000+. Anyone have good tips on how we can keep the mice out?", "How to keep mice out of an old wood cabin My family has a cabin that was built in the late 1800's by my great-great-great grandfather. Every winter, when we aren't using it, field mice get in and destroy anything that hasn't been properly stored (furniture, clothes, even the stove insulation). None of the generations that have used it have learned how to keep them out and completely sealing everything (floor, walls, roof) would cost $100,000+. Anyone have good tips on how we can keep the mice out?" ]

[ "You need a multilayered defense.\n\n* Seal all holes you see with wire\n* Set multiple mechanical traps\n* Place multiple glue traps\n* Seal all food they can chew into in 5 gallon buckets\n* Place rat/mouse poison throughout the cabin\n* If possible modify one room - preferably on the second floor, and make it mouse proof and store in there all bedding and other items the mice can damage.\n* Be sure to inspect the outside for entry ways and fill those with wire mesh. \n\n5 gallon buckets are cheap at Lowes or Rural King or you can often find them free by calling a bakery or donut shop.", "Cheap deterrent: fresh cab. I think it smells amazing, but mice hate it. Used in campers, cars, storage units, tractors, etc. Can be purchased at farm stores, tractor dealerships, hardwares (probably), and online. 4 pack runs around $15. I've had great experience with it in our farm equipment as well as my garage and storage unit, and I've never had anyone return the product, so it does work. Not certain, but I believe it's natural... And it comes in a yellow box.", "We have mice plagues around our cabin. Do your best sealing cracks physically (wood strips nailed over holes filled with crushed aluminum foil). But the key is to remove the attraction. \n\nEverything that can be eaten by mice and fits into plastic buckets should be (clothes, food, bedding). Everything else should be replaced with non edible or less attractive alternatives. Eg. replace sofas with cane furniture - over which (plastic bin stored) cushions can be placed when you arrive. ", "Try ammonia, I can only vouch for this working to keep animals (mainly raccoon) out of my trash on trash night. The idea however should work the same for mice as the ammonia smell mimics a large animals urine territory markings.", "There's a way to do it, but it'll probably cost like $100,000. You get a company to come in and seal everything. And I mean EVERYTHING. Alternatively, you could store your stuff properly, then the field mice wouldn't be able to destroy it. " ]

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[ "Seasonal Allergy remedies What are you using? What works best? Do you have any home remedies that don't require nasal spray that burns my nose or pills that don't work or make me fall asleep?", "Seasonal Allergy remedies What are you using? What works best? Do you have any home remedies that don't require nasal spray that burns my nose or pills that don't work or make me fall asleep?", "Seasonal Allergy remedies What are you using? What works best? Do you have any home remedies that don't require nasal spray that burns my nose or pills that don't work or make me fall asleep?", "Seasonal Allergy remedies What are you using? What works best? Do you have any home remedies that don't require nasal spray that burns my nose or pills that don't work or make me fall asleep?", "Seasonal Allergy remedies What are you using? What works best? Do you have any home remedies that don't require nasal spray that burns my nose or pills that don't work or make me fall asleep?", "Seasonal Allergy remedies What are you using? What works best? Do you have any home remedies that don't require nasal spray that burns my nose or pills that don't work or make me fall asleep?" ]

[ "Go to a local farmers market and purchase honey that was produced within a 50 mile radius. Take a spoonful in the morning and a spoonful before bed. I have been allergy free this way for two years now.", "Putting Vaseline on the inside edges of your nose can help trap pollen before you inhale them. \n\nBut I feel as if your best bet is to just go out and by some Zyrtec or Allegra. ", "Move to the desert! Worked for me.\n\nOR keep your windows closed, change your heating/cooling air filters every 2 weeks - bonus if you can get one designed to trap allergens. Then, get at least one air circulating machine (rated well for allergies) for your main areas. \n\nIf you get nasal irritation, I suggest getting a prescription for a steroid nasal spray and using it daily. It decreases swelling from allergies. I do partake in benedryl or <random OTC non-drowsy>, benedryl when I'm too irritated with it all to bother trying to stay awake.\n", "-wear sunglasses when outside to keep pollen out of your eyes\n-wipe down face/arms/legs/hair after coming inside to get rid of any lingering outside stuff \n-keep shoes by doors rather than wearing them all around the house\n-vacuum & dust frequently ", "zyrtec. Works wonders for me, just like it did the past few years. If you don't want to pay the $1 per pill, try the generic version.", "I suffer from seasonal allergies too, I am pretty much immune to any OTC or RX allergy medication that doesn't knock me out. I've managed to figure out something a decent plan that has helped so far this year. I use the Neti Pot 2x a day, in the morning and when I get home from work, I keep all of the windows in my house closed and in my car, I also use the setting that recirculates air in my car. I found [these](http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=316158&catid=183018&aid=338666&aparam=goobase_filler&device=c&network=g&matchtype=) all natural tablets that taste delicious and seem to help. If you also suffer from a sore throat with your allergies I've found Chloraseptic to be an easy fix. Tastes like shit but I use it before bed and as soon as I get up and it helps. " ]

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[ "How to speak/project louder? I'm always talking to people in a relatively quiet environment, but they're constantly asking me to repeat myself or speak up a bit.", "How to speak/project louder? I'm always talking to people in a relatively quiet environment, but they're constantly asking me to repeat myself or speak up a bit." ]

[ "The key behind being heard is breath support (which involves using some muscles you are probably not used to using) and articulation (which needs to become a habit). If you want to get really good at these, sign up for a local theater show or take some singing lessons... both are great experiences to practice. ", "it's about breath support, but it's also about understanding how sound works. Lower tones aren't as audible as higher tones. are you also pronouncing things clearly? it might also be how widely you open your mouth. be sure to be aware of how you talk to others! it's a very important skill! " ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? 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Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?", "How should you prepare for a severe snow storm? I have a generator, tested my snowblower, extra gas, extension cords for generator, food/water is fine… but what should be the first things you do if power does go out in a winter storm? Or what should you be aware of to prevent household issues (like garage door not opening or whatever). Freezer and meat chest can be fine for probably half a day and of course I can plug those into the generator. Can a furnace run off corded plug or will natural gas fireplace still work (I’m assuming blower fan won’t, but still kicks out heat right?). Electric heater? Anything else you’ve learned from experiencing this type of situation?" ]

[ "Rush to the nearest grocery and buy as much bread and milk as you can carry. I don’t understand how this helps you precisely, but it’s what basically everyone in the southern U.S. does when there’s even a light dusting of snow in the forecast.", "Keep the fridge freezer shut and it will stay for days. \n\nFill your tub with water if you are on a well pump", "First and foremost, if you use a generator, do not use it inside a house or garage. It is best to keep it 10’ away from the house where it is exposed to fresh air to avoid carbon monoxide poisoning. More people die of carbon monoxide poisoning after a hurricane than actually die because of the hurricane. \n\nInstall a carbon monoxide detector in every sleeping area\n\nCold and frozen food can be stored outside if needed (it’s cold outside, or throw things in a cooler and put snow in the cooler). \n\nThings in the refrigerator and freezer will stay cold for hours/days if you keep the door closed. If you have a generator, run the refrigerator/freezer for a couple of cycles and you can then unplug it for several hours. \n\nAvoid candles. It is better to use flashlights or battery powered lanterns. If you must use candles, don’t leave them unattended and don’t leave them lit while sleeping. \n\nWhen the house drops below 50F, turn on your faucets to a dribble to prevent freezing. Open cabinet doors for faucets along exterior walls to try to keep them warmer. \n\nCheck on your family, friends and neighbors, especially the elderly. \n\nMake sure space heaters are placed on a non combustible surface and away from curtains, blankets or other combustibles. Make sure the heaters are certified for safety. In the US that means: https://www.osha.gov/nationally-recognized-testing-laboratory-program/current-list-of-nrtls. \n\nTest your carbon monoxide and smoke detectors.", "I have some tips as someone who's lived in the north and witnessed firsthand the big Texas freeze in 2021. We went without power for 3 days and water for 4 days after that. \n\n1) Water. Whether it be water from your bathtub (that you fill up before the storm) or bottled or jugged, you're going to need it if your pipes freeze or if you're under a boil notice without any power. I recommend both, as drinking water from your bathtub is kinda gross (in my opinion). \n\n2) Hot Hands. Having a box of those sitting around is fantastic if you're out of power for several days and it starts to get cold. The first things to get cold are your toes and fingers. Feet are harder to keep warm than hands, but that doesn't mean you can't stuff the little packets into your socks. \n\n3) A pillow fort or tent. I turned my small walk-in closet into a makeshift tent with some comforters, throw blankets, and couch cushions. It kept us relatively warm and comfortable when it was 33°F in my apartment. \n\n4) Batteries, flashlights, and lanterns. I have a big box of cheap Rayovac AA batteries just for those things. \n\n5) Power banks/generator and fuel. Keep your phones and devices powered up. If you don't know how long you'll be without power, use your devices sparingly. \n\n6) Board games, books, magazines, puzzles, etc. Having electronic-free entertainment when you're sheltering in place will make the whole thing suck a little less if you don't have power. \n\n7) Camping stove with butane fuel. You can use it in your kitchen just like with a gas stove, but it's safer outside. \n\n8) Paper plates and disposable cutlery. \n\n9) First aid kit. \n\n10) Duct tape. Even if you think your doors and windows are airtight, they're not. Tape up the edges and a lot of heat will stay inside. Small drafts are big drafts. \n\n11) Battery powered or hand crank radio.\n\n12) Candy. Sometimes a piece of candy can keep your morale up. It certainly did for me. \n\nAs always, keep your generator outside and never use your grill inside an enclosed space. Many people died from carbon monoxide poisoning during the 2021 Texas freeze either from lighting grills inside their homes or warming up in their cars in their garages.", "Freezer lasts longer than fridge, but try not to open either if you can. Have blankets, flashlights or lanterns, candles and a lighter. Bread and peanut butter is great for food, so is cereal with non-dairy milk (stuff like almond or soy milk that stores sell non refrigerated) if you have a garage, know how to open it without electricity...usually there's a latch to pull on the chain then you can manually lift it (the spring helps )", "Things I learned living half my life in your neighbor state: Turn the heat to 80, leave doors shut unless you NEED them, and put blankets underneath them like you’re a stoner.", "Test your garage temperature: Put some ice cubes in a bowl and leave them in the garage for 24 hours. Compare the melt levels to a couple in a cup in the fridge. If the ones in the garage melt less than the ones in the fridge, you can use the garage as an emergency fridge.\n\nLight some incense and check your windows for drafts.\n\nHave at least 2 gallons of drinking water set aside per person, especially if you're on a well.", "Candles. Especially those big emergency ones tucked away by many stores near those spatulas and sink scrubbers. \nIf your running a little water in the taps anyways to help keep from freezing, maybe can rig something where it can absorb heat, or a big ceramic pot if you got one to stick candle at bottom of.\n\nTrash bags with tape to seal at windows. Those plastic trash bags you likely got right now and tape, make a seal and while it will balloon in a bunch. It does wonders to insulate and slow a draft.\n\nCamping section raid for those little warmers. As with hand/foot warmers. Aside from using as intended, if you got some sealing bags and some foil. You can activate some of them to heat up some food.\nThe actual food cookers are also self explanatory, as with food in that area.\n\nFood stuffs. Aside from camping area, some have warmer packets you add a tiny water to and get hot food. Others it is also add some water to food and make hot. People tend to ignore that section, but minimal prep is handy. Ovens can also hekp warm a place up while cooking as well while power is up.\n\nCandles again and some board games. Having been in a storm and no power aside from a generator and a jump pack for a car, while handy to download and charge everything now. You need entertainment,aybe an old trusty book you know you enjoyed before. Also charge everything!\n\nDitch some rooms of excess furnishings. Say if so you dont need guest bed yet, use it to block off a room after you block heating vents to them a bit. Excess linens like towels can help too.\n\nFull gas tank with a jump pack for your car. Sort of an emergency back up to keep warm a bit.\n\nDouble up on socks, bust out those cloth masks again. (Or a t shirt you put to face where shoulders or chest would be. Tie sleeves around your head. Open the torso area over your head so the neck opening makes an eye slit.) \n\nIf you can, especially if you got power but notice lights out on neighbors place. And if you got some means to facilitate them. Check on your neighbors. Especially if you got extra things you cant realistically use. \n\nHope you keep warm.", "Every year, we hear stories of folks dying of carbon monoxide poisoning because their generators were not in a good location. Please keep it outdoors, or somewhere there is airflow that doesn’t come into the home.", "I live in ND (we get severe snow storms all the time)\n\nI'd make sure any vents near ground level are clear of any built up snow, especially furnace vents (shovel under them so incoming snow doesn't block them when it drifts)\n\nAlso, most/all garage doors have an emergency cord you can pull that turns the garage door into manual operation, you don't need electricity at all.", "If you lose power;\n\nyou don’t wanna be opening your freezer/ fridge too much if it’s consistently below -5C you can put frozen food outside to stay frozen. \n\nBefore you go to bed turn off the water supply to your home so if a pipe does burst the damage will be minimal you can also drain your water system by opening a tap at a high point and low point letting the water drain from the pipes \n\nOld natural gas furnaces will work without the forced air, you will only gain passive heat, you house won’t freeze but it won’t be comfortable new high efficiency ones won’t as they need electricity to function, you can hook them to your generator but usually they are hardwired in so only take on if you are comfortable with electrical work \n\nCandles, ready to eat non perishable foods, water for every person for 36hrs, first aid kit, extra meds, glasses, and any other essentials should be stockpiled \n\nGather blankets and have the family all in one or two rooms to contain heat \n\nDepending on your water supply no pawed may mean no water fill buckets or the bathtub with water for flushing toilets and washing hands \n\nPrepare for the worst hope for the best, invite elderly neighbours over and ensure their families know they are safe. Don’t head outside after dark unless you have to emergency crews may be out and winter conditions make it hard to see people. Once day breaks and the storm clears you can begin digging yourselves out", "Close your door. Move people to an interior room and sleep together to share body heat. Can also go to bed with full winter gear on.", "As a rural Minnesotan I don’t do anything. Snowstorms are just the reality of life. I’ve never actively prepared, but I’m pretty confident I could be comfortable for 2 weeks+ with my current setup.", "Charge your devices. Batteries. Shelf-stable foods. Bottled water. Cash. If you've got an outdoor grill, fuel for that.\n\nIf you are so inclined: make a big liquor run before the storm hits. Afterwards, go out with a sled and your liquor collection. While the neighborhood kids will be cashing in by shoveling driveways and such, you can cash in by selling booze.\n\nToilet tissue also makes for good trade goods (& insulation when stacked against your outside walls).", "Superstore must freeze lots of bread because certain brands I reach for are still partially frozen which makes the expiration date less meaningful.", "I'm impressed by the amount of advice that is ignoring the cold. \n\nIf it's a snow storm, **don't worry about your fridge or freezer.** You have an extra one now. If the garage is cold enough, move stuff in there, if not, put it in a cooler to keep animals out, and put the cooler outside. You don't really need to worry about water either. If your water supplies froze, you've got bigger issues and you can boil some snow. \n\nThing one **you have to resolve is a loss of heat.** The big thing is keeping the non-inhabited portions of the building that have plumbing in them from freezing. In general, that means keeping the inhabited areas above 50F in a way that won't kill the inhabitants or start a fire. You're probably not going to lose natural gas supply, but you may lose electricity. \n\nIf that happens, you need the ability to either provide electricity to whatever is driving your heating system, or provide supplemental heat in a safe manner. \n\nThat may mean an emergency rewiring of your furnace to be supplied power by a generator, or it may be as simple as a small genny with a good extension cord and an electric heater that'll kick off enough heat to keep the small house at 50F, or even some pipe heat tape to plug in. A small poorly insulated space may be OK with a plethora of CAREFULLY PLACED candles and a CO detector. \n\nIn extreme cold, yes, you'll see doors freeze shut, but there's almost always a reasonable way to deal with that.", "Give your car a checkup - wiper blades, fill the wiper fluid (use the kind that's good for really cold weather), fill your gas tank (if power goes out, the gas pumps at the stations won't be working), make sure your tire pressure is good. Keep a couple of blankets and extra hat/gloves in the car as well as more than one snowbrush. And a couple flashlights/extra batteries.\n\n You may not want to go out but you never know when you might HAVE to go out.", "Also, take this time to make sure you know how to use the generator safely (i.e., proper ventilation). People die all the time from using them wrong and it's so sad.", "You can run a furnace off a regular extension cord from a generator. If you have gas heat it only needs electricity for the blower, gas valve igniter etc but all these are tied into 1 power source on the actual furnace. Most normal units in a home wont need more than a 20amp plug and it probably uses half that once it’s on. Electric heat is entirely different you would need a beast of a generator to have enough juice, best option is to get a space heater or 2 and run in only necessary rooms. Make sure generator exhaust goes outside and don’t be dumb with extension cords. It’s not hard to determine what amp any item needs phone charger is 3-5 almost everything will say look for a little sticker on space heaters etc. Add up the amps of what your trying to power compare to what your cords gene etc are rated for. You can go over about 10% most will list the max amp used so it’s usually about 75% or so of what’s labeled. (Speaking in generalities)", "We live rural with no cell service. Always on standby during power outage is a corded landline ☎️. In addition to the long list already posted by others above, I have 2 backup batteries for tablet and download entertainment for viewing/listening offline.", "Try not to run the generator or any open flames during the storm, due to risk of fire, and help not being able to get to you.\n\nstabilizer in the fuel? cold oil can make the genny hard to start... heat the oil.", "Take it easy. It’s not that you are facing it first time in your life. \n\nEven if you eat little less, won’t matter as most of the people are super fat. \n\nYou have so much warm clothings, bedding and what not. Use them. \n\nCouple of days of bad weather can’t do much. \nIf worried about pipes, just fill your tub and switch off main water valve & drain the pipes. \n\nAgain, take it easy. You aren’t dealing with armagaddon.", "Something that came up for me recently as a new homeowner is freezing water pipes. They can then burst and cause very expensive problems. One thing that can help is leaving outlets dribbling a little to keep the water moving.", "Michigan here. Before we had a generator, if power outage lasted all night, we’d put up a tent or create one with blankets in the family room and have the spouse, kids and dogs all sleep or hang out in that one small, enclosed area with sleeping bags and blankets. You’ll each generate heat and help keep each other warm.", "Lots of good advice here already so I'll throw out a suggestion for the future - a solar generator. They come with built in solar charge controllers, AC inverters etc. and can be pre charged on the grid and then sustained with solar panels, a generator, or a 12v adapter that plugs into your car. This way you will have a convenient, silent, safe and portable way to power laptops, tablets, phones, radios, small appliances, and emergency LED lighting. With a pre stored source of power you will also save gas, prolonging the run time of your generator that is better suited for more power hungry applications.", "Keep your freezer completely full and you can go days without thaw. The more there is takes longer to thaw than an almost empty freezer.", "Idk everything about this but I do know a subzero sleeping bag wrapped in a tarp to keep you dry is fucking cozy. Pretty safe against anything other than animals or falling trees.", "I just read that your in a northern state, you’re more than likely to be fine. You have a freezer outside of your front door, probably plenty of dead wood not to far away to build a fire if necessary. If you aren’t well stocked on blankets… fix that. Get a space heater if you don’t have one, and use it in the inner most room, and probably one for the basement so the pipes don’t freeze.", "I get very little heat out of my propane generator (no blower), but if you’re in front of it it helps.\n\nWhen I had an electric range I tried to keep extra propane for cooking on the grill or Coleman stove if needed. \n\nI have a set of those little LED candles (for the window at Christmas) they last for several weeks on a set of batteries. I put them in each bathroom, on shelves near key corners, on the shelf at the top of my stairs etc. you couldn’t read with them but they do keep you from bumping into things as you get your flashlight", "Hey. If you get into a real rough time, build a fort. Sounds dumb but mattresses and couch cushions or pillows retain lot of heat. Worst case build a smaller space when out of power. Sleep with pillows around you to retain heat.", "This request is frustrating / this isn't the best place to ask this question.\n\nYou have a generator but from what you've described, you have no real understanding of what capacity it has (going to assume its tiny) or really how to connect it if it doesn't plug into to a receptacle on the front of it. If this is the case - this is more of a very basic camping generator - not a whole home generator.\n\nYou have gasoline. Great. What grade? I stock higher octane for my tractor/generator by default because it all starts way easier in the winter w/ the higher octane. I also remove humidity from my gasoline/generator storage area. Others use stabilizers. If you want your stuff to start in an emergency, take care of your fuel and if you don't have a pull start, take care of your battery (trickle charger).\n\nWhats your plan B if you can't get your generator going and the powers out? Trickle your faucets so your pipes don't freeze is typically the first part of that answer. You otherwise need to have an alternate source of heat thought out well in advance if you're trying to plan beyond pipes not freezing. It all depends on what you have set up - do you have a natural gas fire place? wood fire place? Etc and does it work? (And no, the heat from your gas furnace won't kick on w/o the blower btw)\n\nAlways, always, always keep your smoke/CO detectors in good working order.\n\nNot a bad idea to have things like candles / oil lamps available.\n\nBe capable of layering clothing. Have basic first aid type stuff.\n\nFixing your home's insulation where your can ahead of time.\n\nSleet? Worried about trees falling on your service line? Flip your main off.\n\nStock food around that doesn't require you opening the refrigerator: jerky, nuts, crackers, chips, fresh fruit ... you get the point.\n\nIf there's a health emergency, is your plan to call 911 or get out yourself. If the latter, do you have everything you think you need to get out? If something else, are you prepped for that?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nOnce you're all set up - sit back, relax, get fat, sassy and enjoy the weather as it passes.", "Sleep in a tent on inside the house-- I've heard tell that it will keep a lot warmer inside a tent than trying to heat the whole house.\n\nHave plenty of card games and reading material handy.\n\nIf you're on a generator, have some extra oil handy as well. We were on a generator for two weeks last winter and it kept going out because of a small oil leak.", "Probably just plan on waking up 10 minutes early to shovel my car out.\n\nWe're supposed to get 3 feet in the next 2-3 days... not really planning anything extra, it's just a bit of snow. \n\nHappens every year.\n\nHaven't gotten a chance to slide my car around and test my snow tires out, so I'll probably go out and hit some empty parking lots tomorrow night.", "Open your cabinets and turn on your faucets to a slow drip. This can help prevent your pipes from freezing and bursting. Keep candles and matches/lighters around in case the power goes out. Have food that doesn't need to be cooked if you do lose power. You may not have anything to heat it up. I wouldn't worry about keeping frozen foods frozen. You can always stick it in the garage to keep it from thawing. Don't go outside unless you absolutely have to. And if you do, cover every inch of skin. Make sure your dryer vent outside is clear.", "Lol are you in the south? I ask bc I am and I’m tired of the weather reports seeming like they’re fear mongering me with snow threats", "Its so cold out if your power messes up dont use generator on freezer just put items outside in a tub or something where animals cant get in", "Interesting, I live in a climate with 3-5 months of snow and experience what I imagine qualify as severe snow storms at least a couple of times every winter, but I have zero tips like this. I would probably have a really hard time surviving if a snow storm meant that heating and electricity goes out, the roads are blocked and the shops are closed..", "In case it hasn't been said — DON'T plug space heaters into an extension cord, only plug them directly into the wall. Also, keep them a couple feet away from any furniture while they are on. They cause so many fires each year! \n\nIf possible, cut back large branches away from the house/driveway — they get heavy when ice forms on them. Unscrew hoses from outside faucets and drain them of any remaining water.", "I always fill up my car before a storm is coming. If the power goes out gas pumps won’t work and even if they do I don’t want to be filling up when it’s -20 and storming. \nMake sure you have candles and batteries for your flashlights too. If it’s going to get really cold a portable jump starter or battery charger is a good idea if your car doesn’t have a head bolt heater.", "Don't undervalue good sleeping bags and high quality blankets. I've spent a lot of time in the snowy woods/wilderness and a good night sleep is golden. I keep fire wood in the back yard, could be handy, luckily our electric grid is pretty tight here. - 10 F here, we are warming up. Next week it'll be shorts and t-shirts at 40F, heat wave", "Alright, my snow blower is now icing over after I clear. My garage is not insulated. Any tips to keep the ice from freezing the auger and blades after blowing? Blankets? I’m brushing the guts after blowing, but everything is just freezing. I can’t bring it inside my house and don’t want to burn the belt… fck being an adult on your own is hard. I have a new respect for my parents and elders who had way less.", " First things first, flashlights, every bed should have a flashlight by it. That's because the power will go out at the worst time, like after dark. It's almost a law of nature. \n\n\nI lived in the upper NY state and to be honest, we never lost power over 3 days. We had a oil furnace and a woodstove in the lowest level of the house. \n\n\nRather than trying to heat the entire house to the upper 60s think about some low draw electric blankets and a portable power source. Your goal being to heat the house enough you can sleep warm and get by when dressed. \n\n\nYou can have a gas furnace setup/wired to run off a Jacakry or some other brand portable box, even running the blower. BTW: I wouldn't run it without the blower. They get hot without a blower, really dangeriously hot. \n\n\nWater heaters: If electric they can draw a lot of power. That said, no fans, just a small power lead for the ignitor if it's a gas unit. \n\n\nSmall computer UPSs will run a LED bulb for days on end without turning off, Sure beats being chilled and in the dark stumbling around." ]

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[ "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n", "how to change from being a night owl to an early riser. I think this may be something we've all struggled with before, and right now my sleep habits are completely messed up.\n\n" ]

[ "I forced myself into this a few years back...it remains one of my best decisions. Here's what worked for me:\n\n-first step, exercise early in the day. ramp up your current routine. good hydration, too.\n\n-second step, consistency. go to bed at the same time every day, and get up at the same time, weekends included, until you're well adjusted. use a sleep timer to figure out the ideal time to go to bed based on when you want to wake up.\n\n-third step, cut the screens an hour before bed. develop a nighttime routine (whatever works for you, but something lowkey that signals to the brain that bedtime is coming. i turn almost all the lights off, get my lunch for the next day ready, set out my clothes, do a little bit of journaling, and then read). \n\n-fourth step, no snooze, no backup alarms. when you wake up, force yourself to get up. fortunately, i don't struggle with this anymore (because my love of my morning coffee and pancakes overrides my love of the bed!). i think it's important that you find something that you can look forward to...it helps motivate you out of the bed!\n\n-fifth step, i think a lot of it is a mindgame. actively focus on the benefits you gain from being up early. talk it up to yourself. this is what really worked for me...i have the ability to talk myself into enjoying almost anything, and somewhere along the way it actually becomes true. it made a huge difference in making the sleeping pattern shift permanent for me.", "As somebody who has suffered from what some would call \"chronic insomnia\" I can tell you that after 15 years, there is literally only one way to go to sleep early and wake up early and that is to exercise literally every day, to the point of almost exhaustion. It is the only thing I have found to work besides a prescription drug. ", "Struggle to remain awake during the day and go to sleep at the 'normal' time so that 8hours later you wake up im the morning. You'll need an alarm for the first few days, but the body and brain will adjust, as long as you keep the schedule and avoid napping during the day. Regular exercise also helps.", "I made the transition from night owl to morning person. I'm not a natural, but it *can* be done!\n\nI believe in the \"just do it\" method. Suffer for a few days, and then you'll set up new habits, which will stick, with time. Commitment and grit. Commit to the following program for 40 days. You can do anything for 40 days. At first, it will suck ass and require huge amounts of willpower and discipline. After 40 days, it will become largely automatic, and far, far easier! Here are the steps:\n\n1. **Sunlight**. Sunlight will stimulate your waking response. Open up the windows and let the sunshine in! You want as much light as possible!!! What may also help is to put a bright lamp on a cheapo outlet timer, and set it for 5:00 am. I do this. It's annoying as fuck, but it works.\n\n2. **Establish habits**. Get out of bed. Make your bed first thing *no matter what*. There's a reason the military is big on this. You can't get back in to a made bed. Making your bed will become a cue, which will trigger the rest of your habits. Then, drink a big glass of water. Have it waiting on your bedside table, and chug it fast! You want these two things to happen daily, *without thinking*. It should become automatic - something that happens even while you're in a sleepy stupor. \n\n3. **Don't sit down**. Except to poop (if you're a morning pooper), *do not* sit down in the morning. For any reason. Even to eat. Period. Don't. \n\n4. **Prepare the night before**. You want to minimize the number of decisions you have to make in the morning. Decision fatigue will keep you in bed. Have your work clothes chosen, ironed, and ready the night before. Have your gym clothes packed and by the door. Have the automatic coffee maker set. Shave the night before. Have an easy, healthy breakfast ready to go. Have your lunch packed and ready. You want to prevent decision fatigue first thing in the morning. Do as much as possible the night before. Set an evening reminder alarm on your smartphone to tell you when to do \"morning prep\" if you need to. You should be able to get up, make bed, drink water, shit, shower, dress, eat, and leave. No decisions. You want to become a morning robot. Automaton.\n\n5. **Cold showers**. You *will* hate this, and you will hate me for suggesting it. Do it every morning. Summertime is the best time to start. Don't ask me why. Just do it. Give it 40 days before you decide to quit. Commit to it. You'll see. Days 1-4 you'll think \"Goddamnit WTF am I doing?!?!\" After 40 days you'll get it, and you'll be hooked.\n\n6. **Leave your house as soon as you can**. Since you've minimized decisions to be made, you'll be able to get cleaned up, fed, and dressed *fast*. Leave your house and go start your day's business as soon as you can. Go to work, class, the gym, for a morning run or stroll, whatever it is. Just *get out*!!! And plan the night before what you're doing and where you're going. Remember: no morning decisions!!!\n\n7. **Rise at the same time every morning, no matter what**. This includes weekends. And holidays. And travel. And vacations. If you rise at 5:00, you rise at 5:00. Period. If you're hungover, you're hungover. If you're tired, you're tired. If you stayed up too late, oh well. The only exception is if you have something like the flu, or are injured. Recover, then re-establish the habit. \n\n**Cheat code**. For occasional use, if you have difficulty establishing the habit, or if you happen to go to bed too late one night. On your bedside table, place a full glass of water, and 200mg caffeine pill (e.g., Vivarin). When the alarm buzzes, take the pill, chug the water, hit snooze, then go back to sleep. In 20 minutes, you'll be ready to crush it! This is called a \"caffeine nap,\" and it's a powerful tool to keep in your arsenal. Do not rely on it daily - this is only for a) starting your habit the first couple of days, when it's the most difficult, or b) if you stayed up too late the night before.\n\n**Ultra cheat code**. Have a baby. Then you will become a morning person regardless, and you won't need this \"system.\"\n\nBest of luck!", "I'm naturally a night person, so I gladly worked night shifts for years and years \n... then I got a day job. \nI could never be late for work, either because my boss started work when I did at 6:30 in the morning. \n \nWow, that was hard switching over. \n\nThese are what worked for me... \n1 - Try your best not to nap (you may just pass out every once in awhile, but try to resist) \n2 - Get some exercise (it will make you tired enough to want to crash at 10pm)\n3 - Stay the hell away from caffeine after 2pm or so. \n4 - Stop looking at screens at least and hour before bed (reading a book or comic is fine) \n5 - my best tip, that I learned online... Keep a bottle of water by your bedside and as soon as your alarm sounds, take a big chug of water. \nYou can hit snooze, close your eyes, and lay back down all you want, but sooner or later your bladder wakes you the fuck up. ", "Each day set your alarm an hour earlier, skip siesta so you get sleepy earlier rather than recharged. Shifting meals earlier helps me too.", "Go to bed earlier.\n\nJoking. I have an 8-5 job and I kinda prefer staying up to 1-2 a.m because i get so much more out of my life that way.\n\nA job will definitely get your sleeping arrangements in order.", "If you've _never_ felt good during the day; if there's almost no way in hell you'd ever sleep at night without drugs; if you've been enduring this for _decades_ like I have, **cut through the normal advice and go straight to a sleep specialist for a consult and/or sleep study.**\n\nBasically, every human has their own \"circadian rhythm\", which is a way of saying how long your day is, when your body prefers to sleep, be awake, etc.\n\n**Our society is incredibly hostile toward anyone with a moderate-to-strong nocturnal disposition.**\n\nThe good news is that most people don't have severe circadian rhythm \"disorders\" (as they're called; what, you're a night owl? oh you have a DIS order, you're WRONG or CONTRARY is what that implies), but **a lot of people who do suffer in silence for years because of the social stigma against the \"late risers\" being so vehemently hostile toward anyone not like \"them\".**\n\n> [...] something we've all struggled with before [...]\n\nThis is usually a result of sleep hygiene issues, but in more cases than most of us realize, _it's because that person actually has a later-than-perfect circadian rhythm_, **and there's not a damn thing wrong with that**. The notion that we all have to be to work at 8AM/9AM (or whatever) is beyond bone-headed, but good luck getting a professional job in any field unless you conform that that strict standard, _even though arguably 75%+ of the people either actively or passively enforcing this hyper-ignorant conformity are themselves suffering!_\n\n...okay, okay --steps off soap box--\n`</rant>`\n\nAnyway, the point I guess I'm trying to make (I've been awake 2.5 days straight working my ass off here because MEETINGS MUST BE BETWEEN 9-5! so pardon me if I ramble a little) is that **you should assess yourself honestly for potential for SERIOUS differences in your circadian rhythm** and go see a specialist if you can.\n\nI'd hate to see yet another person suffer for decades, being told they're \"just lazy\", when in truth you're literally sacrificing years of your life to appease those who'd stand in accusation of you for reasons beyond your control - conditions of your birth and genetics.", "Just do it. It's entirely self control. Go to bed 6.5 to 7 hours before you have to get up. Get up on the first alarm. Don't set a second. ", "Go camping. Not at a state park or anywhere near a populated city. Look for a remote, unimproved USFS campground (or equivalent) with no electricity. Don't use lanterns, alarm clocks or any other electronics. Let the sunrise wake you up and limit your post-sunset activities to simple campfire. Go biking, or on hikes, or kayaking, or something else physical during the day. Your internal clock will reset in a few nights.\n\nWhen you come home, keep to the same schedule (alarm clocks, etc. are obviously fine), but don't use electronics or watch TV for at least the last hour or so before you go to sleep. The vast majority of people I talk to that have \"insomnia\" it's because they spend their nights playing video games and either play WAY too late or attempt to jump right from the game into bed. Gaming keeps your brain super active and on high alert and it takes a couple hours to come down from that. Exercise as frequently as possible. Every few months you'll probably need another primitive camping trip to help maintain your natural cycle. ", "As someone that gets up at 5AM daily for the past 4 years for work, you just do it. You lose sleep and you wont really change. If you don't have to wake up you'll just revert back to sleeping in staying up.\n\nWaking up is easier after a while but get use to the 4-5 hour/night sleep. Really until you value sleeping more than whatever you do at night more you wont go to bed. I still haven't out how to value sleep more. ", "When I've had jobs with normal hours, I adjust to being a 'day person' after maybe a couple of weeks - but I prefer to work night hours, and between jobs, I always immediately snap back to being a night owl. I think some of us are just programmed this way.", "The weird thing is, for me, I've wired myself into managing to sleep late, but waking up early. (late meaning 1 am.) (early meaning 6 am)\n", "Practice!! \n\nFirst couple days are the worst, start on a weekend. \n\nGo to work on Friday, but don't go to sleep when you get home, stay up the whole day until Saturday night at like 8PM. Then go to bed at 8PM. NO napping, no taking a rest, etc. Drink a few extra espressos if you have to. \n\nThen set a bunch of alarms for the time you want to get up. Force yourself to get up. As soon as you open your eyes, literally force yourself out of bed, get in the shower, and then go work out. \n\nIt doesn't have to be a strenuous workout (and probably shouldn't be too strenuous so you aren't tired,) just enough to get your blood pumping and make it so you can't easily fall back asleep.", "Just keep doing it ur body adjusts. I used to stay up doing God knows what til 3 and 4 in the morning and wake up at 11. My daughter started riding the bus and I got to get her ready for school since my wife got a job. I had to wake up at 750am and I was going to bed at 3 still. That didn't last to long I would wake up that early and refuse to nap and started hitting the hay at 12 and now I wake up at 9 regardless of alarm.", "Juat find something that gets you excited. As for me - i work, i have a gf and thus a limited free time. I wake up at 6.30 just to do whatever i want (play lol, read, learn to 3d draw, porn, etc.)", "Jim's Foolproof Way to completely reset your body clock in only 24 hours.\n\nStep 1: It is only a few hours from last call at the bar, until 6am when you need to wake up, so just stay up the entire time.\n\nStep 2: Monster Energy Drinks. Stop drinking them after three, or when you see your hands start to tremble like you are coming down with Parkinson's.\n\nStep 3: No naps! Force yourself to stay away until the evening. You'll be so exhausted that you'll fall into bed at 8pm or whenever, and then you'll be fine from that point on. You'll sleep ten hours and wake up fine at 6am.\n\nStep 4: I agree with all the others that Melatonin is a wonderful thing for making yourself drowsy. It really works, but don't use it every day. It's not unsafe in any way but it but you build up a tolerance to it and it doesn't work as well if you use it too often. ", "I've tried so many ways to start walking up early. I use to go to bed at 2-4 in the morning and wake up at 12-2 in the afternoon. Not a fun lifestyle. \n\nI've tried waking up and exorcises, going to be at consistent times, alarms that made me do math. None of it worked. What ended up helping me was giving myself something I wanted to do in the morning, not another task or habit I wanted to form. I wasn't good at waking up, or exercising - trying to form both habits in one go wasn't going to work. \n\nI've been waking up at 7AM for a while now, and it was video games that got me here. I would wake up, make the decision we all do in the morning that I didn't want to get up, but then I would stop, and say, hey, I can play some Dark Souls for a few hours before work or other plans.\n\nTL;DR \nBasically form the habit of waking up early by giving yourself something you want to do in the morning, then after 21+ days, switch to building a new morning habit, such as morning runs. \n ", "I'm currently making the night owl to early bird transition. Other than waking up, the hardest part is getting myself ready for bed earlier. I shut the tv or computer off an hour before bed, do my nighttime routine, and then get into bed 1/2 hour before I actually want to go to sleep. Then I read for a few, but most times I'm too tired and end up falling asleep before my 30 minutes is up. The really hard part is getting myself to bed. I feel like a 5 year old who doesn't want a bedtime.\n\nHad to cut out all naps and caffeine 6 hours before bed--both things others have suggested. As I'm transitioning my schedule, I also have to make sure I'm getting lots of sleep--a good eight hours. It's tough. But that way, I'm rested an ready to wake up in the morning.", "I think it's impossible as you will always yearn to what you are most comfortable with, and that is being a night owl. It's just a perpetual state of tiredness throughout the week and the weekends are amazing sleeping in and staying up late. I hate mornings.\n\nNote: I have 0 evidence to back this up and base it on purely personal life experience. lol.", "I just didn't sleep for a day and then the next night slept early. Woke up early the following day and stayed out and about (not in bed)\n\nYou might have to do this more than once a month to get the habit down ", "I have recently been on this trek. The biggest tip I've found is, \"Just like the Law of Motion, that which is at rest tends to stay at rest, that which is in motion tends to stay in motion; the best thing to do for yourself is realize that your body *does* want to stay in bed. You must force yourself to stay awake long enough for your body to switch from rest to motion. Good luck!", "I have experience with this. It's a cure for insomnia - Stay up until you feel tired. Then go to bed, but wake up at the same time everyday. No matter what. Set a time, say 7am. If you can't fall asleep until 6 am, then it would be best to stay up and try the next night.\n\nSet the wake up time a bit later if you're having trouble getting up.\n\nDon't have caffiene. Only use it if you need it to wake up in the morning.\nAnd quit all drugs, if you can. Especially sleep aids.\n\nThis is called cognitive behavioral therapy.\n\nI cured insomnia that would keep me up for 3 days straight from doing this.\n\nLimit lights at night time. Even light hitting your skin can keep melatonin levels down. \n\nDo something later at night that is more relaxing, and do it every day, like watch a show or something. It can help get you ready to sleep.\n\nI do fine having light from my screen right before I go to bed, but reducing it can help.", "How could I go about this? I have insomnia (I can't seem to fall asleep) but no matter the number of alarms nor the volume I always get up past 12 noon. Obviously I can't continue this trend. Some days I get up at 10 am I go about my day, get to bed by 11pm and fall asleep by 3 am. What do?\n\nAlso I've tried no caffeine,melatonin, m", "Download an app that can track your sleep cycles. In iPhone I use Pillow. It wakes you up when you are between cycles, making it a lot easier to wake up. \n\nWhen you wake up, do things that you like a lot, like coffee, toast, reading, walking or working out. Whatever you really like, so it will feel like a prize. \n\nIt takes a while and effort but the rewards are worthy. You will be surprised how much you can accomplish before everyone one else wakes up. I wake up 4:50 on weekdays, 7:30 on weekends. ", "Do it gradually. An hour earlier each day is a bit much IMO. How much earlier can one possibly get up? 3 hours, so 3 days? This wouldn't have a high success rate. You have to prepare yourself. If you have a hard time getting up as it is, gradual is the way to go. I'd say 15 minutes per day. I also set an alarm at the end of my day to cut off my gaming, then to unwind and crash. Sometimes when I get off the computer, I'll take an OTC pm med of some sort to help making my eyes heavy. I don't have a problem staying asleep at times, it's falling asleep but this is rare. I also set my alarm away from my bed so I have to get up and turn it off. I went from being being up usually 0930 to 1000 to around 0630 to 0700. My schedule is still the same for work, in by 1100. Ive also found that I function better with 5-6 hours of sleep. Any more and my body drags the next day. Find what works best for you!", "Well, waking up was the east part due to work. If I didn't wake up I wouldn't have a job. It was falling asleep in the evening that was difficult. \n\nPart of it was just getting into bed at 7 every night whether I was sleepy or not. There were some weeks where I would toss and turn for a few hours before passing out. \n\nI don't recall how it occurred to me, but I also decided to buy some sleeping pills from Costco (Night Time Sleep Aid). I'd take half a pill half an hour to an hour before I wanted to be in bed. They worked really well for making me sleepy. \n\nI would wake up a bit groggy, in a way I never feel otherwise, but that would usually pass 15-20 min after I woke up. I didn't take them every night. Maybe 4 nights with a sleep aid and 3 without. I still have both the bottles that came in the package in my dresser, in fact.\n\nI was concerned about developing a dependence on these pills to get to sleep, so I was cautious. It's been two and a half years now that I'm up every day at about 3 or 4 am, work or not. And definitely don't need the pills. Now they're there for when I'm sick and can't sleep cuz I'm feverish. Just sleep through my colds." ]

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[ "Easiest way to clean your tongue without a tongue cleaner? Just wondering is there anyway to clean your tongue with a tongue cleaner. All suggestions would be great!", "Easiest way to clean your tongue without a tongue cleaner? Just wondering is there anyway to clean your tongue with a tongue cleaner. All suggestions would be great!" ]

[ "Stick out your tongue as far as you can and then scrape it using your teeth as you retract your tongue back into your mouth.\n\nUsing a spoon to scrape it works better because you can reach futher back on your tongue, but scraping using your teeth can be done anytime, anywhere and without needing your hands and a spoon.\n\nI do both.", "Either use a spoon, or get some Smartmouth mouthwash. It really does eliminate bad breath for 12+ hours." ]

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[ "How to put a bedskirt on a bed by yourself I recently bought a new bed, a queen size pillowtop that my dad helped me set up. I have new bedding that I'd like to put on. Is there any easy way to put on the bedskirt by myself without lifting up the mattress off of the bedspring? If I do have to move the mattress, any tips for getting it back on without messing up the bedskirt?", "How to put a bedskirt on a bed by yourself I recently bought a new bed, a queen size pillowtop that my dad helped me set up. I have new bedding that I'd like to put on. Is there any easy way to put on the bedskirt by myself without lifting up the mattress off of the bedspring? If I do have to move the mattress, any tips for getting it back on without messing up the bedskirt?" ]

[ "If your box spring has a wooden frame (old ones always did; new ones not so much) you can lift off the mattress, tack the corners of the bedskirt to the frame with upholstery tacks or just plain thumbtacks, and then put the mattress back on top. ", "One corner at a time. Start with the top or bottom, make sure it's under each one nice and tight, that way it won't pop off when you pull it towards the other end " ]

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[ "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?", "How to get your roommate to do the dishes This is my roommate's dish cleaning schedule: cook something extravagant for his girlfriend on Saturday night. Inexplicably use 70% of the silverware and around 50% or more of the plates and bowls on this one thing. Next, don't touch the dishes for anywhere from 1-2 weeks, collecting more dirty dishes in the meantime. Finally feel bad about the mess, clean about 80-90% of these dirty dishes, maybe actually clean 100% of the dishes every 2 months. Repeat.\n\nTypically, there's so many dirty dishes that there's not even enough room in the sink to clean them. I've asked him on multiple occasions to do the dishes. How do I get this motherfucker to clean up after himself?" ]

[ "As someone who lived with that issue for two years... The only resolution I found was to buy a house and move out. Lol. ", "Our agreement was this, if you leave dishes in the sink for more than 24 hours, they get put on your bed for you to do later. Dishes were always done. ", "Communicate and don't devolve in to passive aggression. Ask him what solution to the problem he thinks is fair--should you stack the dishes in his room? Should you have separate dishes? Can you throw things out after 24 hours and have him pay for new ones? Should he pay more rent/cover your costs for the extra cleaning time? Should you just not live together?", "Alright, so I am this guy. Not literally your roommate, obviously, but I am more or less what you've described. Never learned things like cleaning as I cook growing up. Hell, it was never even my chore to was the fucking dishes. I've made sizable progress, and allow me to throw out some things that helped me.\n\nRight now, I'm living with a roommate who actually will do my dishes so long as I rinse them off, and weirdly enough, it gets me to do them on my own more often, because I'm always like \"I'm a grown man, and dammit if he can do it, so can I. He's not my mom. He shouldn't be doing that.\" So part of it is that it kind of becomes a team effort. That helps, because deep down, I'm ashamed about these sorts of things, and I'd wager that your roommate is as well. Asking him to do the dishes may only lead him to further feel ashamed, because you just kinda feel like \"This isn't that fucking hard. Why can't I just fucking make myself do it???\" but shame is a real bitch like that. You're not his mother, and you have your own shit to worry about without having to get on this motherfucker to clean, but try to extend a helping hand. It will benefit you both in the long run, and you might get him to talk about it a bit more. Maybe instead of saying \"Can you do your dishes???\" you say \"Hey, I'm gonna do the dishes. I wash, you dry and put them away???\" and then alternate who does what. Or stipulate that after dishes are used, they need to be rinsed out and put into the sink. Once the sink is full, dishes will be done. The rinsing out part can actually be huge on this one, because instead of cleaning 2 week old dried shit off of something, you're more or less just getting the scrubbing done. Hope this helps. Feel free to talk to me more about insights into what it's like to be a gradually recovering slob monster.", "I once lived in a college apartment with 6 guys, and of course dishes were always a problem. My way of coping was to simply do all the dishes one day a week. No matter how many there were, I just did them all once a week. My thought process was that if all 6 of us did dishes one day a week it would be no problem. Nobody followed suit, but I kept it up anyway because at least I could say I tried to pull my weight.\n\nOne day, one roommate who was particularly clean lost it. He got up at like 6am after a party, and took a hammer, and just started smashing dishes that were left out until someone cleaned them all up. I can't say I recommend this method, but there was definitely more effort to keep the place clean after that.\n\nI'm at a different stage in my life now. If your roommate is also your wife, forget about it, she's not going to do them. Accept your fate and do the dishes whenever possible. Also clean the bathroom, vacuum the floors, etc etc etc. If you accept that you will do the chores especially when your partner is not pulling their weight you will be a happier person. Appreciate what your partner does for you, and you will be surprised at how well they reciprocate.", "One, be sure to never wash any of your roommates dishes. Only wash what you use.\n\nTwo, if your roommate doesnt leave enough clean dishes/silverware for you to use, invest in a set just for yourself. Always keep your own dishes clean, and put them somewhere where youre the only one with access to them.\n\nThree, every time the sink is too full for you to wash your own dishes, tell your roommate so. Let him know he needs to clean or move his dishes so that you can clean yours. If he doesnt, take it upon yourself to move his dirty dishes out of the way, but dont clean them.\n\nYoure not going to get him to change. Find a place of your own as soon as you can so that you can live your way and he can live his.", "I had this problem in college. I asked often enough and reminded him as he 'cooked' to clean up when he was done. 3 strikes. I then took all the dishes, put them in a bin and then dumped them on to his bed. I explained that if he'd like to live in squalor he can, but it must remain in his room. The message was received and if he ever left them too long I asked if he was planning on doing laundry soon. Its aggressive and mean and worked really well.", "Keep all the dishes but one bowl, one cup, and one spoon in your room. Allow the roommate to earn the right to use anything other than those things. There was an awesome thread a few years ago that described in detail the best way to run a system like this but I can't find it now. Essentially the idea is to shame the roommate into acting like an adult (respecting the shared space/supplies). The previous thread did this in a very firm but light hearted way.", "Get your own dishes and keep them in your personal living area if it is an issue.\n\nBuy a plastic dish bin and place his dishes in it, then place it in front of his door, if this doesn`t work tell him you will start putting them outside for the raccoon`s to do as they please. ( I wouldn`t resort to this step unless you have had conversations about the dishes and he still doesn`t do them)\n\nI`ve gone through several years of university and have seen many a roommate without a clue as to how to deal with cleanliness. Most of the time I just clean them myself as soon as I see them since the food won`t be caked on. I also generally live with friends so you can always use your cleaning of the kitchen to motivate them to do other things in exchange for your services.", "step 1: collect dishes\nstep 2: deposit on roommate's bed\nstep 3: cover them in dish soap, being sure to get some on the sheets\nstep 4: find a new roommate", "Two cases (speaking from experience)\r\rCase 1: If the place is in your name.\rTake advantage of the coming new year and tell him/her that you want to renew you roommate /rent contract. Add the rule \"if you're not in the kitchen then your dishes are clean and in order\" and mention that any transgression of the above rule is a breach of contract and is therefore grounds for eviction.\r\rCase 2: You're renting from him/her - \rMove out if you really cannot stand it.\r\rBest of luck.", "Start leaving little utensils around their room. Then start leaving plates under their bed, then poor the grease from their unwashed pan on their pillow. \n\nAssert Dominance. ", "I've washed their dirty dishes and then filled the bottom of their cups with clear detergent before storing them away. Next time they used them they were a mess of suds and I never had the problem again. ", "I used to have this kind of problem, bought a water spray (those that the people cutting hair use to get it wet) and when asked to do the dishes if she don't comply for 15 minutes I start to spray her until is done. \n\nI got a few punches, but in the end it worked. So from time to time I give her a candy if she do the dishes untold. ", "Create a dish washing schedule and post it on the fridge. This is the only way me and my roommates can keep the dishes clean. Each week is someone's week to do all the dishes. Or you could do by day. Like Monday Sam, Tues Jimmy, Wednesday Sam, and so on. We found that this will also single out who is not pulling their weight since you can tell who's day/week it is and hold them accountable. ", "As the roommate who hardly ever washes his dishes, maybe we are all thinking of this as the problem rather than a symptom of a bigger problem. The best thing that you can do is approach the situation as a concerned friend, I.e. \"hey dude is there something going on? I'm not trying to be a dick here but your room's trashed and you missed doing the dishes last week. Are you alright?\" In my experience, the state of someone's living space is more or less the state of their mind, heart, and soul. Know that this isn't something that you can make go away with one heartfelt conversation, and that some people are just completely satisfied living in filth. But showing compassion is always going to be better than showing frustration.\n\nLook, nobody likes the blame game. Nobody is going to do anything for you because you're angry. You have a right to be frustrated; but it is also your duty as a roommate to coexist and help those that you live with. Do not do his work for him, but don't make him do it all either. \n\nI have three suggestions, all of which have worked on me. Firstly, set a schedule. You have 4 people living in the house? Every week someone new does the dishes. Have it written down, clearly visible in a smart location that everybody sees daily. Make it visible and bold, and remind people as their time rolls around. If the schedule is repeatedly broken, then make it a household chore. One person scrubs, another rinses, another dries, and the final person puts the dishes away. You would be surprised at how fast this actually goes, so long as you have the space to accommodate all of you. If none of these work, then its time for you to buy a new set of dishes and keep them for yourself. This should be the last resort before moving or kicking the person out, and never a threat. \n\nTo the guy who hoarded food in his room, padlock and all: you're a terrible person, and you shouldn't live with other people. The agreement that we all make when living with friends, hell even strangers off craigslist or schoolmates, is that we are here to help each other survive. Making someone's life harder, when its painfully obvious that their life is hard to begin with, makes you a complete fucking sociopath. \"I took pleasure watching him eat plain tortillas because he couldn't afford his own food.\" Seriously, go fall in a pit.", "1-2 weeks? Wtf. That's rough. I don't think he actually feels bad. He thinks if he waits long enough you will be so annoyed that you just do it, like mommy at home.\n\nBut I don't know him. I just had a spoiled and lazy princess roommate. Big show for the boyfriend and her gurlfrans but no cleaning the next day.\n\nI only survived her by outlasting her. You think I need dishes to eat? Watch this, bitch! I got my own stack of paper plates that I hid in my room and just waited how long it would take her to actually confront the kitchen sink.\n\nYou could try befriending his gf and get her to nag him into cleaning >:]\n\nIf it works, clean dishes. If they fight and break up, no more extra cooking.", "You need to have an adult conversation with your roommate. Explain that since he cooked and used up all the dishes, then he/she needs to clean up after themselves... like an adult.\n\nIf all else fails, just start stacking the dishes in their bathroom sink (hopefully you don't share sinks).", "You have several options:\n\n1) Put them in his room after a few days. \n\n2) Buy your own set of dishes and tell him not to use them since he can't handle cleaning after himself.", "This is the response I give to friends who have the same problem. Stack the dishes on a towel on his bed. If he doesn't learn the first time, keep doing it.", "Start taking them out of the sink and put them on his bed. If he's not listening to you you either need to find somewhere else to live or do something extreme to get the point across.", "New suggestion, buy mini fridge, have all your own groceries. When the sink is completely full for literally a week, start eating their food, while yours is safely locked in your room.", "My former roommate got really angry a few times my other roommate didn't clean up after himself and put the dirty dishes on his desk and bed. It seemed a little aggressive at the time, but it did work.\n\nBut first try sitting down with your roommate, tell him how much it bothers you and maybe agree on some groundrules (maximum time between cooking and having cleaned up, him putting more effort into it, you really shouldn't have to remind him all the time...)", "I've been through a VERY similar situation. The best (but not perfect) solution was to basically hide all silverware/plates/etc except for the bare minimum needed to have a meal for up to 4 people. That means only 4 spoons, 4 forks, 4 dishes, etc.\n\nIt won't solve the problem, but at worst you only have to worry about 1 load of dishes and not 3-4 loads.", "I had a similar issue. She made a huge mess of dishes piled up all over the counter, and every time I asked her about it for three weeks straight, she kept saying she would do it tomorrow, or she has to work late, she'll do it on Monday, blah blah blah. Three weeks. I finally told her that if she didn't do her dishes, I would put them on the floor in front of her bedroom door so she *had* to do them and so I could clean the rest of the kitchen. She said don't worry about it, she'll totally do the dishes tomorrow!\n\nShe didn't. I put all of her dirty dishes on the floor in front of her bedroom, and cleaned the kitchen. That night when she came home from work, she had to step over a huge pile of dirty dishes growing all sorts of things in order to get into her room. She washed the dishes that night.", "Have three friends over one night. Hold the roommate down. Tie him up with ducktape. Hold a gun to his head and see if he will commit to doing all the dishes and cleaning around the house. If not, kill him. Get a 50 gallon drum of acid and rent a storage unit for 5 years prepaid.\n\nOh, so I've heard. I think that was a LPT from awhile back.", "Depends if you're the lease holder. Assuming you are, draft a list of must do's and clearly define resolutions or outcomes if not met. Bond deductions, evictions etc", "At uni one guy left a load of dishes in the sink for days, so eventually our friend stacked them in a washing up bowl and filled the whole thing with jelly (jello for the Americans) and left it in his room to find. He found it hilarious, and learnt his lesson!" ]

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[ "How to shovel snow properly? I can get the job done in a reasonable time but I feel like I'm doing it inefficiently. On top of that my back starts to hurt after a while. Are there any \"special\" techniques that you can use?", "How to shovel snow properly? I can get the job done in a reasonable time but I feel like I'm doing it inefficiently. On top of that my back starts to hurt after a while. Are there any \"special\" techniques that you can use?", "How to shovel snow properly? I can get the job done in a reasonable time but I feel like I'm doing it inefficiently. On top of that my back starts to hurt after a while. Are there any \"special\" techniques that you can use?", "How to shovel snow properly? I can get the job done in a reasonable time but I feel like I'm doing it inefficiently. On top of that my back starts to hurt after a while. Are there any \"special\" techniques that you can use?", "How to shovel snow properly? I can get the job done in a reasonable time but I feel like I'm doing it inefficiently. On top of that my back starts to hurt after a while. Are there any \"special\" techniques that you can use?", "How to shovel snow properly? I can get the job done in a reasonable time but I feel like I'm doing it inefficiently. On top of that my back starts to hurt after a while. Are there any \"special\" techniques that you can use?", "How to shovel snow properly? I can get the job done in a reasonable time but I feel like I'm doing it inefficiently. On top of that my back starts to hurt after a while. Are there any \"special\" techniques that you can use?" ]

[ "Frederick Taylor once remarked:\n\n>Hardly a workman can be found who doesn't devote his time to studying just how slowly he can work.\n\nHe devoted his life to developing ways to increase production and speed up work. You can see a very short documentary about it in this video:\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PdmNbqtDdI\n\nTaylor did an experiment with pig iron workers. You can see a clip of workers carrying loads up a ramp in the video. It's a little hard to see, but one thing they do is take very frequent rests. Taylor increased production by 300% by forcing laborers to take rests at regular intervals and lessening their loads.\n\nRelevant to you, if you are shoveling snow, you probably get tired after a while. If you force yourself to take 2 minute rests after a certain number of minutes working, you will find that 10 total minutes of rest can enable you to work faster and shovel more as a whole. Two swings of the shovel of smaller amounts of snow is a lot easier than a single giant load that strains your muscles.\n\nThe Taylor experiments convinced me to shovel the top layer of snow, then the bottom layer rather than scooping larger and heavier amounts all at once, and also to take regular breaks. To be more effective, take breaks and lift loads. It may seem less efficient, but you can work longer and faster by breaking it up like this.\n\nWhen we are getting lots of snow, I shovel 3-4 times whenever the driveway has 3-4 inches in it. It is a very quick and easy job compared to when it has 12 inches or more. You want to make sure your back never gets sore, ever, or you are working too hard and thus inefficiently. ", "Don't bend and twist your back when lifting the shovel. Pretend it's leg day.\n\nEveryone's area is different but I try to push entire lines of snow like a bulldozer into the median in front of my house instead of carrying every single scoop. Of course most of it falls over the side of the shovel but then I just walk back and forth until it's all out of the way instead of carrying shovel fulls of snow.", "[I just saw this today](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQkGfqmD8Fc) hook a rope to a shovel and let it do all the work. ", "Additionally, make sure your shovel is the proper length for you. Many a back ache has been caused by small equipment used by tall people. ", "Spray Pam on the shovel when snow is wet and heavy and the snow won't stick to the shovel. They sell commercial sprays but cooking spray works just as well. \n", "If You are right handed,shovel from right to left and toss the contents behind you. <-----advice from a former ditch digger", "I've heard the curved handle shovels like the following make a big difference for people with back issues (probably for those w/o also): http://www.sears.com/garant-ypp24eakdu-yukon-24-inch-poly-blade/p-SPM8105050302?plpSellerId=Ami%20Ventures%20Inc&prdNo=3&blockNo=3&blockType=G3" ]

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[ "Is there an app that tracks more nutritional values than just calories, carbs, fats, and proteins? I am not worried about counting calories. I am just very picky so I want to make sure I'm getting all the nutrition I need. I want to track my iron, vitamins, etc. The best app I have found is called \"Cron o meter\", but I am hesitant to pay the $2.64 since the reviews are mixed (and I'm poor).", "Is there an app that tracks more nutritional values than just calories, carbs, fats, and proteins? I am not worried about counting calories. I am just very picky so I want to make sure I'm getting all the nutrition I need. I want to track my iron, vitamins, etc. The best app I have found is called \"Cron o meter\", but I am hesitant to pay the $2.64 since the reviews are mixed (and I'm poor)." ]

[ "If you're worried about vitamins/ minerals, you shouldn't count on a tracker. \nWhat you ingest won't always be what your body absorbs. \n\nThe only way to really tell is getting a blood test at a regular interval.", "I think myfitnesspal is the most detailed. I've tried out many when I was looking to count calories. " ]

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[ "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?", "How to remove this gunk from a filthy basement apartment bathroom I just moved in? Album here: http://imgur.com/a/Agq6I\n \nI tried using a magic eraser and a bunch of household products, it helped a bit but I can't get it to remove that darker stuff around the drain. The rest of the basement looks spotless now except the bathroom I'm admitting defeat and come to you guys. \n \nAny suggestions?" ]

[ "Looks to me like a job for CLR or the landlord to step up and provide a clean bathroom... One or the other.", "You just moved in the bottle on the shelf has the same black stains as the shower floor?\n\nHeavy duty cleaner, like clr as suggested or perhaps diluted bleach, or vinegar & baking soda, using a tough brush will get most of it up, be presuming it's a plastic shower insert, won't completely go away.\n\nAlso, if a basement bathroom looks like that, it's a pretty good indicator it will come back due to lack of ventilation. Not sure what the black is, but the red is a type of mildew.", "I suggest first using some sort of scraper (I bought a small metal spatula that I use only for scraping gunk build ups) to get off the thick parts, then using a mix of Ajax and rubbing alcohol to get the rest-- just apply the Ajax and pour a bit of alcohol on it, occasionally rinsing the sponge/steel wool/thick-bristled brush in warm water. If not, talk to the landlord-- that's unacceptable anyway.", "Where are you living that you moved into this mess??\n\nGo back to your landlord, demand he clean it. Of he refuses and you do, demand he take it off your rent. This is not ok", "That orange stuff is a kind of bacteria. Only bleach will get rid of. It won't go away for ever. It will grow back. Keep up with it. After all bleach is washed away add non lye oven cleaner. Make sure there's no lye in it. Let sit 12 hours then scrape with a paint scraper. It will take a long time. ", "Depending on what your water is like, the orange stuff may be iron deposits rather than mildew. I really like using the liquid Barkeeper's Friend, but it has strong fumes! It has saved a pot that I lit on fire.", "Bleach gel - the kind used for toilet bowl cleaner. It sticks to the surface so it can set for a few hours. Then scrub brush and lots of elbow grease. Then magic eraser.... But, you might have better luck in a different sub.", "The stuff you've tried so far seems to be fairly abrasive. So I'd suggest leaving it alone for a little while. It's ugly, yeah, but unless you think it'll harm your health, you can leave it alone for a bit. In the mean time, work on trying to improve ventilation, and look for information on this subject.", "The first thing I would try is Soft Scrub. It's a creamy bleach. Put it everywhere and let it sit for a while, maybe 10 minutes since that looks pretty bad. Then scrub with a scrub brush or any other abrasive thing. \n\nThis is what I do at work (pro housekeeper) and it works well and with minimal effort on my part. " ]

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[ "Living out of your car. So, to keep things short I. 19 and I'll be living out of my car for an indefinite period of time. \nAny tips?", "Living out of your car. So, to keep things short I. 19 and I'll be living out of my car for an indefinite period of time. \nAny tips?", "Living out of your car. So, to keep things short I. 19 and I'll be living out of my car for an indefinite period of time. \nAny tips?", "Living out of your car. So, to keep things short I. 19 and I'll be living out of my car for an indefinite period of time. \nAny tips?", "Living out of your car. So, to keep things short I. 19 and I'll be living out of my car for an indefinite period of time. \nAny tips?", "Living out of your car. So, to keep things short I. 19 and I'll be living out of my car for an indefinite period of time. \nAny tips?", "Living out of your car. So, to keep things short I. 19 and I'll be living out of my car for an indefinite period of time. \nAny tips?" ]

[ "I speak from experience - keep it clean. Tags updated. If its hot, keep the windows down but not too much so you don't get owned by mosquito's. As it gets cooler its not as bad. Keep the windows down slightly and keep the windows cracked slightly so the inside doesn't overheat.\n\nWear a blanket or three in the winter. Keep your jacket on and head gear + gloves. I got to stay at a local hospital at night to keep warm (wasn't that busy at night). I had to leave in the morning though when alot of patients came through.\n\nStick it out, I lived out of my car for six months. It can be tough, but doable. Feel free to PM me to go more in detail of you need it.\n\nI'll do my best to assist you on a more personal level.\n\n\n", "Keep the license tabs/reg current and the insurance on it... And don't drink in the backseat even if it's your spare room, because drinking in a vehicle with the keys accessible can get you a DUI, or drink drive ticket. ", "Don't slack on hygene. It will be more difficult than in the past but you cannot pass as homeless if you are able to avoid it. \n\nAlso get a [sleeping pad (inflatable or not)](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/71ZQnnoCBjL._SX425_.jpg) to add extra cushioning for sleeping. Anything to make sleeping better is worth it (at a reasonable price).", "Try to keep a paper presence if you can (bank account, mailing address, cr", "* Some people have already chimed in on this, but it can't be stressed enough. Keep yourself hygienic. Whether it be through a gym membership, a friend's house, or a rest station nearby (like the ones on interstates), make sure you have a place that you can shower. Toilets are easy enough to come by that I don't think it will be too worrisome, showers are less so.\n\n* Take advantage of Goodwill and similarly low-priced stores for clothing. I'm unsure of your exact situation, but always try shopping there first. There are some gems to be found.\n\n* Look into low-income housing options. You may find a place for a very reasonable rent. Living out of your car is doable, but not a pleasant experience. They will base their rent around your own income and level of need.\n\n* If you have friends in the area, don't be afraid to crash with them sometimes - whether they know the situation or not. It could give you a place to do laundry, shower, and a far better place to sleep. My friend back when we were in high school was in a similar situation, and he'd often crash at friends' houses for a few nights at a time. None of us minded at all, but make sure you are courteous and mindful of overextending your welcome. \n\n* Finally, remember that plenty of places (fast food, mostly) offer free water! You can survive far longer without food than you could without water. If you don't have much money, Kroger and other places will usually have bread that would expire shortly for a dollar or less. Not ideal, but it will feed you. As I read in one of your comments, you aren't one to ask for money, so I am making these recommendations with that in mind.\n\n\n**", "Park and sleep at truck stops, its a common thing to see people sleeping in their cars, its better than rest stops because they have a room usually in there with a bunch of tired truckers that has a TV and its not uncommon to see someone sitting in there for hours at all times of the day and night. I used to park in one every night and watch TV until I couldn't keep my eyes open which makes for an easier time falling asleep. I did this for over 6 months.\n\n", "If you have or can get tinted windows, then it will help camouflage curtains on the inside. It may help you to sleep better if you have privacy but stay inconspicuous. Also, any time you may be able to stay at a campground you get the amenities of potty, shower, place to cook. " ]

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[ "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n", "Get rid of fleas!! Moved into a new house and the previous tenants had animals...who had fleas. Now we have inherited the fleas and would like to get rid of them. We have bombed the entire house twice with flea/bug bombs, have hardwood floors, a top floor, main floor, basement, live in an urban area, and have no animals of our own. Please help. Fire is my next option.\n\n" ]

[ "Wow. \n\nI think your best bet is to try something completely different from the flea bombs. I'd try something with an insect growth regulator (IGR) in it.\n\n[pestproducts.com](http://www.pestproducts.com/flea1.htm) has a good page on the problems of fleas on hardwood floors, and recommendations about what to do. (I have no affiliation with pestproducts.com, not even as a customer.)\n\nIt might also be a good idea to make your own flea trap to help you gauge your progress. You can put a desk lamp on the floor, and a white plate with soapy water under the lamp. (Put the empty plate on the floor, put a drop of dish soap in it, then add some water.) Count the fleas every day. Make a graph, and post the graph on reddit for additional karma.", "i had fleas. spiders suddenly came too. ate and when the supply was over the spiders went out. i love spiders. ", "Time for a fleapocolypse. We had a severe flea infestation about two years ago. We have three dogs and a cat, and the cat spread these fleas across the entire house. It was bad enough when he would stand up just hundreds of eggs would drop off. Anywho... Solution time.\n\nFirst, purchase this: http://www.domyownpestcontrol.com/suspend-sc-p-40.html my husband was an exterminator for awhile and this is the same kind of stuff he used. Second, invest in some kind of spray canister for the mix. \n\nSpray EVERYTHING. Get under couches, in the cushions, every single inch of carpet, spray curtains, baseboards, everywhere. Make sure you vacuum every single day. This will suck up some eggs and all the dead fleas. The thing about killing fleas though, is the eggs are probably still going to hatch, so it's going to take while for them to stop appearing. If you feel it necessary, commence fleapocolypse 2 about three days after the first one. The thing about suspend is it stops them from being able to reproduce, so my fleas you'll see after the next few days are just old fleas waiting to die. \n\nIf you have any questions just send me a message, I'm on my phone so I'd, if this is really clear enough. Good luck and sorry you have to deal with this.", "If you have a problem with the fleas biting you, eat garlic. We had a flea problem for a couple years and the fuckers loved me. My legs now have tons of scarring from old flea bites that I scratched in my sleep. I bought some garlic salt/power and began putting it on everything I could stomach it with. It didn't entirely solve the problem, but my bites went from 10-20 at at any given time to maybe five, max.\n\nThat, along with regular vacuuming, Frontline for our cats and spraying apple cider vinegar (try it, I've seen varying results online but it seemed to work for us) all over the floors more or less got rid of them. We'd see one or two occasionally, but that was it. ", "Aquietman was right. Or set off the flea bombs and every morning and night vacuum for a week. because the eggs stay dormant till vibration and the vacuum wakes them up. Or try hiring an expert that can heat up each room with lamps that will kill all insects. Probably 150 bucks per few rooms. Always try to bargain on price. ", "In addition to all the other excellent ideas... Get some old-style flea collars at the pet store and put them in your vacuum bag. Makes sure that any fleas that go into the vacuum are killed.", "Forget Orkin and other pest companies. When we moved to Florida, land of fleas, we hired a professional service and it did nothing. What does help is vacuuming regularly. Here's a study that shows vacuuming kills fleas in all stages of development and that's really what you need: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/12/071217111010.htm", "Diatomaceous Earth. Nontoxic, lasts forever.\n\nI posted this info before, but my comment disappeared... why?", "http://www.amazon.com/Adams-Plus-Flea-Tick-Mist/dp/B000QCBHK4/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1341117048&amp;sr=8-2&amp;keywords=adams+flea+mist and vacuum vacuum vacuum some more! Lots of proactive cleaning to get things under control. Best of luck! It will get better! I used this on the coach and bedspread, mattress cover, etc. It's potent so be sure to keep the room well ventilated.", "We got rid of ours using a combination of smoke bombs (left them all day, then opened the windows at night), flea spray for in/around furniture, and removing our pets from the apartment. ", "Just curious... when you bombed, did you vacuum before & after? Did you put some sort of insect poison in the vacuum bag? Anything they sell for animals will work, a flea collar, powders, etc. \n\n", "I second the homemade flea trap suggestion. Worked wonders for friends of mine - they bombed the house 2-3 times, which helped with most of the infestation. They used small Tupperware containers half-filled with water and bit of dish soap in each room placed underneath desk lamps, and kept all lights off except the lamps for the night. After a few days of this, problem solved!", "I have a dog. I am currently fighting a flea problem and using advantage. I thought it was under control after bot seeing. Flea or symptoms for Almost 2 months.. I gave him a good bath and 2 days later fleas are back. The eggs can stay around the house for 6 months. It is very important to keep up the advantage and apparently as i have learned avoid giving any thorough baths that may remove the advantage.", "Call a professional (e.g. Orkin). If you don't have animals, you should not have fleas living in your home after waiting one lifecycle, because they don't survive on humans alone. It may be something else. The expense will be comparable to what you will spend trying all these remedies here. \n\nIf *you* are itchy, it's possible that you have lice, or bedbugs.", "Here's one option:\n\n* Have or acquire a dog or cat\n\n* Get a product called _Advantage_, and apply it to said pet. There's another brand, but I forget what it's called. We used Advantage.\n\n\nThe fleas will jump on your furry animal and die before reproducing. Should take a couple of months to fully break the cycle. We keep applying the stuff at regular intervals, and fleas are never a problem anymore. " ]

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[ "How to catch mice that seemingly are too smart for traps So, I have a problem. At previous occations I have managed to trap and kill two mice in my house. However, I still seem to have a rodent problem. At first I thought it was only one mouse dancing around on my kitchen floor every night while I was watching from the couch, but it turns out, there are at least two, which means there will be more very fast. \n\nI have set up ordinary traps, as well as more [fancier types](http://www.amazon.com/Eaton-409BULK-Plastic-Mouse-Liquid/dp/B00DLKKYRU/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393715021&amp;sr=8-63&amp;keywords=mouse+trap)\nand [humane ones](http://www.amazon.com/Kness-Tip-Trap-109-0-001-Live-Capture-Mouse/dp/B00004RA4G/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393714950&amp;sr=8-15&amp;keywords=mouse+trap). I have tried different baits: Cheese, chocolate, peanut butter, popcorn. They sniff around the traps, then they flee a couple of inches away, never to go into the traps. I have tried washing the traps and using gloves so that there will be no \"human smell\", to no avail. I have been trying for many weeks now.\n\nI have now put up a [DIY trap](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1rs3ko/lpt_diy_live_mousetrap/) from this subreddit, but it doesn't seem to get their attention. \n\nAnyone got any LPT on catching \"smart\" mice?\n\n", "How to catch mice that seemingly are too smart for traps So, I have a problem. At previous occations I have managed to trap and kill two mice in my house. However, I still seem to have a rodent problem. At first I thought it was only one mouse dancing around on my kitchen floor every night while I was watching from the couch, but it turns out, there are at least two, which means there will be more very fast. \n\nI have set up ordinary traps, as well as more [fancier types](http://www.amazon.com/Eaton-409BULK-Plastic-Mouse-Liquid/dp/B00DLKKYRU/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393715021&amp;sr=8-63&amp;keywords=mouse+trap)\nand [humane ones](http://www.amazon.com/Kness-Tip-Trap-109-0-001-Live-Capture-Mouse/dp/B00004RA4G/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393714950&amp;sr=8-15&amp;keywords=mouse+trap). I have tried different baits: Cheese, chocolate, peanut butter, popcorn. They sniff around the traps, then they flee a couple of inches away, never to go into the traps. I have tried washing the traps and using gloves so that there will be no \"human smell\", to no avail. I have been trying for many weeks now.\n\nI have now put up a [DIY trap](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1rs3ko/lpt_diy_live_mousetrap/) from this subreddit, but it doesn't seem to get their attention. \n\nAnyone got any LPT on catching \"smart\" mice?\n\n", "How to catch mice that seemingly are too smart for traps So, I have a problem. At previous occations I have managed to trap and kill two mice in my house. However, I still seem to have a rodent problem. At first I thought it was only one mouse dancing around on my kitchen floor every night while I was watching from the couch, but it turns out, there are at least two, which means there will be more very fast. \n\nI have set up ordinary traps, as well as more [fancier types](http://www.amazon.com/Eaton-409BULK-Plastic-Mouse-Liquid/dp/B00DLKKYRU/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393715021&amp;sr=8-63&amp;keywords=mouse+trap)\nand [humane ones](http://www.amazon.com/Kness-Tip-Trap-109-0-001-Live-Capture-Mouse/dp/B00004RA4G/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393714950&amp;sr=8-15&amp;keywords=mouse+trap). I have tried different baits: Cheese, chocolate, peanut butter, popcorn. They sniff around the traps, then they flee a couple of inches away, never to go into the traps. I have tried washing the traps and using gloves so that there will be no \"human smell\", to no avail. I have been trying for many weeks now.\n\nI have now put up a [DIY trap](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1rs3ko/lpt_diy_live_mousetrap/) from this subreddit, but it doesn't seem to get their attention. \n\nAnyone got any LPT on catching \"smart\" mice?\n\n", "How to catch mice that seemingly are too smart for traps So, I have a problem. At previous occations I have managed to trap and kill two mice in my house. However, I still seem to have a rodent problem. At first I thought it was only one mouse dancing around on my kitchen floor every night while I was watching from the couch, but it turns out, there are at least two, which means there will be more very fast. \n\nI have set up ordinary traps, as well as more [fancier types](http://www.amazon.com/Eaton-409BULK-Plastic-Mouse-Liquid/dp/B00DLKKYRU/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393715021&amp;sr=8-63&amp;keywords=mouse+trap)\nand [humane ones](http://www.amazon.com/Kness-Tip-Trap-109-0-001-Live-Capture-Mouse/dp/B00004RA4G/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393714950&amp;sr=8-15&amp;keywords=mouse+trap). I have tried different baits: Cheese, chocolate, peanut butter, popcorn. They sniff around the traps, then they flee a couple of inches away, never to go into the traps. I have tried washing the traps and using gloves so that there will be no \"human smell\", to no avail. I have been trying for many weeks now.\n\nI have now put up a [DIY trap](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1rs3ko/lpt_diy_live_mousetrap/) from this subreddit, but it doesn't seem to get their attention. \n\nAnyone got any LPT on catching \"smart\" mice?\n\n", "How to catch mice that seemingly are too smart for traps So, I have a problem. At previous occations I have managed to trap and kill two mice in my house. However, I still seem to have a rodent problem. At first I thought it was only one mouse dancing around on my kitchen floor every night while I was watching from the couch, but it turns out, there are at least two, which means there will be more very fast. \n\nI have set up ordinary traps, as well as more [fancier types](http://www.amazon.com/Eaton-409BULK-Plastic-Mouse-Liquid/dp/B00DLKKYRU/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393715021&amp;sr=8-63&amp;keywords=mouse+trap)\nand [humane ones](http://www.amazon.com/Kness-Tip-Trap-109-0-001-Live-Capture-Mouse/dp/B00004RA4G/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393714950&amp;sr=8-15&amp;keywords=mouse+trap). I have tried different baits: Cheese, chocolate, peanut butter, popcorn. They sniff around the traps, then they flee a couple of inches away, never to go into the traps. I have tried washing the traps and using gloves so that there will be no \"human smell\", to no avail. I have been trying for many weeks now.\n\nI have now put up a [DIY trap](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1rs3ko/lpt_diy_live_mousetrap/) from this subreddit, but it doesn't seem to get their attention. \n\nAnyone got any LPT on catching \"smart\" mice?\n\n", "How to catch mice that seemingly are too smart for traps So, I have a problem. At previous occations I have managed to trap and kill two mice in my house. However, I still seem to have a rodent problem. At first I thought it was only one mouse dancing around on my kitchen floor every night while I was watching from the couch, but it turns out, there are at least two, which means there will be more very fast. \n\nI have set up ordinary traps, as well as more [fancier types](http://www.amazon.com/Eaton-409BULK-Plastic-Mouse-Liquid/dp/B00DLKKYRU/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393715021&amp;sr=8-63&amp;keywords=mouse+trap)\nand [humane ones](http://www.amazon.com/Kness-Tip-Trap-109-0-001-Live-Capture-Mouse/dp/B00004RA4G/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393714950&amp;sr=8-15&amp;keywords=mouse+trap). I have tried different baits: Cheese, chocolate, peanut butter, popcorn. They sniff around the traps, then they flee a couple of inches away, never to go into the traps. I have tried washing the traps and using gloves so that there will be no \"human smell\", to no avail. I have been trying for many weeks now.\n\nI have now put up a [DIY trap](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1rs3ko/lpt_diy_live_mousetrap/) from this subreddit, but it doesn't seem to get their attention. \n\nAnyone got any LPT on catching \"smart\" mice?\n\n", "How to catch mice that seemingly are too smart for traps So, I have a problem. At previous occations I have managed to trap and kill two mice in my house. However, I still seem to have a rodent problem. At first I thought it was only one mouse dancing around on my kitchen floor every night while I was watching from the couch, but it turns out, there are at least two, which means there will be more very fast. \n\nI have set up ordinary traps, as well as more [fancier types](http://www.amazon.com/Eaton-409BULK-Plastic-Mouse-Liquid/dp/B00DLKKYRU/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393715021&amp;sr=8-63&amp;keywords=mouse+trap)\nand [humane ones](http://www.amazon.com/Kness-Tip-Trap-109-0-001-Live-Capture-Mouse/dp/B00004RA4G/ref=sr_1_15?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1393714950&amp;sr=8-15&amp;keywords=mouse+trap). I have tried different baits: Cheese, chocolate, peanut butter, popcorn. They sniff around the traps, then they flee a couple of inches away, never to go into the traps. I have tried washing the traps and using gloves so that there will be no \"human smell\", to no avail. I have been trying for many weeks now.\n\nI have now put up a [DIY trap](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1rs3ko/lpt_diy_live_mousetrap/) from this subreddit, but it doesn't seem to get their attention. \n\nAnyone got any LPT on catching \"smart\" mice?\n\n" ]

[ "In all seriousness, can you borrow a good mouser from anyone? Sort of a long story, but I had six wild mice escape in my house, and it only took my better cat a few days to get all of them while still sleeping like 14 hours a day. \nSometimes you can just let the masters work.", "This has worked for me before:\n\nNext to your kitchen counter or other surface that you know the buggers run along, place a tall, straight sided trash can. Put food in the bottom of it. They will jump in to get the food, and will be unable to get back out. To increase your odds, feed them for a few days prior, the exact same food, right on the edge of the counter (\"first time is free\" traps everyone) where you want to place the trap later. They will expect the food, then be more willing to jump down to get it.\n\nThe trash can needs to have smooth sides and be at least 3' tall.\n\nyou could also place the bin *on* your countertop, next to a cupboard you know they frequent.\n\nBe prepared to have to euthanize them after. :(\n\nOther food options to try: yogurt, fresh fruits/veggies, peas, the seedy part of a melon/squash (source: I have pet rats, and these are the things they love!)", "The traditional wooden Victor traps work fine. \nThe mice are probably small and aren't tripping the traps. \n\nA couple tips for better results: \n1) Mice travel along walls so place your trap along the wall perpendicular to the wall with the bait facing the wall. \n2) Push the bait into the loop at the end of the trap so the mice will be forced to maneuver the trap to obtain the food. \n3) Tweak the trip mechanism to enable it to trip easier. Simply adjust the catch with a pair of pliers by slightly bending the catch smaller/thinner. \n4) A mixture of bait traps and glue traps should be sufficient. \n\n\n\n", "Put glue traps along the walls that they normally run beside, and near the places they already are going. I had more luck with the glue traps when I cut off the lips. Just be ready with your hammer/bucket/scalpel, because you will have a very angry, wriggly rodent once you catch them.", "A buddy cat owner told me, he was asked for dirty cat litter heavy with the urine smell. \n\nThe mice problem went away once the cat litter was placed where the mice travel.\n\nI like the glue traps best. Then I bag them with a grocery plastic bag and throw them away.", "Use [Mouse Pruf](https://www.acehomecenters.net/products/mouse-pruf-ii-4pk-d-con|75905.html). If you've seen one mouse than you have more.", "Either be patient or call professionals.\n\nMice aren't \"smart\"; theyre equipped with a brain fitted for survival, just like every other living thing.\n\nIf you're desperate, lay whichever surface they seem to traffic the most entirely with sticky traps. Sooner or later, they make mistakes." ]

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[ "How to start living on my own [Long winded details, for those who need them](https://pastebin.com/2Bq7LhBC)\n\nThe pastebin I linked above is a rewrite of a post I did on another subreddit over a month ago.\n\nTo make a long story short, I'm in my early 20s, I'm still living at home, and I can't legally drive. I'm sick of living like this, but I see no way out. How can I get out of this situation and get on with my life?", "How to start living on my own [Long winded details, for those who need them](https://pastebin.com/2Bq7LhBC)\n\nThe pastebin I linked above is a rewrite of a post I did on another subreddit over a month ago.\n\nTo make a long story short, I'm in my early 20s, I'm still living at home, and I can't legally drive. I'm sick of living like this, but I see no way out. How can I get out of this situation and get on with my life?", "How to start living on my own [Long winded details, for those who need them](https://pastebin.com/2Bq7LhBC)\n\nThe pastebin I linked above is a rewrite of a post I did on another subreddit over a month ago.\n\nTo make a long story short, I'm in my early 20s, I'm still living at home, and I can't legally drive. I'm sick of living like this, but I see no way out. How can I get out of this situation and get on with my life?" ]

[ "Is there any opportunities within walking distance? Even if it's working for free to A) fill your time & B) price to your parents you can and want to do more? \n\nAlternatively can you not show them your reasons and ask for a loan to fund your driving lessons and perhaps a cheap car?\n\nPs I appreciate your desire to move but the car has to be the first step.\n\n", "If you can afford a car get one and go take the drivers test. It's much easier than people make it seem. Just go the speed limit and follow the law. \n\nIf you can't your first step has to be finding a job. Apply to anywhere you can walk to. Also find out if your area has public transportation near you. If so apply anywhere that it will take you in a reasonable time. I can't stress enough to apply anywhere. Once you have a job you can look for a better one but for now just get one.\n\nOnce you have a job save up money, get a car, get a license. Once you have a car it is just a matter of saving up money for a down payment on an apartment and you are ready to live on your own.", "Sorry read like 4 sentences of the PasteBin. If this is mentioned it, I apologize. Anyways..\n\nHow do you feel about computer programming? Nonetheless, if you can find a skill and perfect it, you can move out and never have to drive. Once you get a job that lefts you wfh ( work from home), you can move anywhere. It doesn't have to be programming, but its probably the easiest, as it pays well so the options of locations to live greatly increase. \n" ]

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[ "How to stop youtube from automatically adjusting volume on every video Every time I watch a video youtube the volume is set at a random different level, commonly down to about 1/5 of its max volume, other times it will be at 1/2 or 2/3. Regardless of what I change it to, the next video always places the level at some arbitrary amount. Anyone have any advice on how to fix this?", "How to stop youtube from automatically adjusting volume on every video Every time I watch a video youtube the volume is set at a random different level, commonly down to about 1/5 of its max volume, other times it will be at 1/2 or 2/3. Regardless of what I change it to, the next video always places the level at some arbitrary amount. Anyone have any advice on how to fix this?" ]

[ "I had this problem a while ago and it drove me nuts. What I did :\n\n-Unlinked Google Account from Chrome\n\n-Cleared saved Chrome preferences from said Google Account\n\n-Completely cleared Chrome preferences, cache, saved passwords and whatnot\n\n-Uninstalled Chrome and ran CCleaner for good measures\n\n-Reinstalled Chrome\n\nDon't ask me what did it, but it was finally fixed.", "That's strange. Is it doing it if you change browsers or you go incognito?\nIt's probably an add-on or cookies problem." ]

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[ "Recalling details from memories Hi all, so I was recently in a hit and run accident. I KNOW I saw the license plate and even said it out loud to not forget it, but now I can see only remember the first three letters.\n\nDoes anyone know of any tips for recalling details from a memory?", "Recalling details from memories Hi all, so I was recently in a hit and run accident. I KNOW I saw the license plate and even said it out loud to not forget it, but now I can see only remember the first three letters.\n\nDoes anyone know of any tips for recalling details from a memory?" ]

[ "Maybe try to replay everything in your head. Frame by frame. Usually helps for me. Just keep thinking, its in you head anyways.", "I always run through the alphabet. You cpuld do the same with numbers 0-9. For example, if you remember it started 0KZ, then think:\n\n\n0KZA? No.\n\n0KZB? No.\n\n0KZC? Etc, etc. " ]

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[ "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? ", "How many spaces after the period? I was taught one space after the period; however, it has recently come to light that a number of people in my life (including some that I consider intelligent) put two spaces after the period. \n\nGoogle search is less conclusive than I hoped it would be. Have I been living a lie? " ]

[ "Like the QWERTY keyboard layout, this is a holdover from typewriter days. I used two spaces for a long time, but I realised it doesn't make any difference to readability, so I switched to one.\n\nIt's also a waste of time; all browsers remove double-spaces when rendering text, so posts on Reddit or any other Internet forum will show a single space, whether you want it or not. See posts in this thread from people who say they use two spaces but their post only shows one.", "Typewriters used to require two spaces after a period. I used to be a two-spacer up until a few years ago, when my girlfriend at the time randomly asked why I wrote IMs/texts/etc with two spaces after periods instead of one. Did a little research and found out the typewriter thing, and I have used one space after periods ever since.\n\nI don't think one is more or less acceptable than the other. I switched mostly to save time seeing as I write a lot on the computer.", "Single space after the period. (But do whatever you want.)\n\nhttp://www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2011/01/space_invaders.html\n\n> Every modern typographer agrees on the one-space rule. It's one of the canonical rules of the profession, in the same way that waiters know that the salad fork goes to the left of the dinner fork and fashion designers know to put men's shirt buttons on the right and women's on the left. Every major style guide—including the Modern Language Association Style Manual and the Chicago Manual of Style—prescribes a single space after a period. (The Publications Manual of the American Psychological Association, used widely in the social sciences, allows for two spaces in draft manuscripts but recommends one space in published work.) Most ordinary people would know the one-space rule, too, if it weren't for a quirk of history. In the middle of the last century, a now-outmoded technology—the manual typewriter—invaded the American workplace. To accommodate that machine's shortcomings, everyone began to type wrong. And even though we no longer use typewriters, we all still type like we do. (Also see the persistence of the dreaded Caps Lock key.)\n\n> The problem with typewriters was that they used monospaced type—that is, every character occupied an equal amount of horizontal space. This bucked a long tradition of proportional typesetting, in which skinny characters (like I or 1) were given less space than fat ones (like W or M). Monospaced type gives you text that looks \"loose\" and uneven; there's a lot of white space between characters and words, so it's more difficult to spot the spaces between sentences immediately. Hence the adoption of the two-space rule—on a typewriter, an extra space after a sentence makes text easier to read. Here's the thing, though: Monospaced fonts went out in the 1970s. First electric typewriters and then computers began to offer people ways to create text using proportional fonts. Today nearly every font on your PC is proportional. (Courier is the one major exception.) Because we've all switched to modern fonts, adding two spaces after a period no longer enhances readability, typographers say. It diminishes it.", "I believe that it used to be common to leave two spaces (maybe because when writing by hand you naturally leave a little extra space when starting a new sentence so when typing started they did 2 spaces) but since then it has slowly become obsolete.. My fiance insists on doing 2 spaces.. And I only do one.. I don't think it is really improper to do either one. ", "As has already been pointed out, with typewriters, you would put two spaces because typewriters couldn't handle proper spacing between sentences. Now with modern computers, the extra space is automatically added by just using one space.\n\nThe exception is when typing using a smart device. The second space is an indication for the software to add a period to the end of the sentence.", "Two spaces after the period is a relic of typewriter-typing. I was taught to touch-type in the 1980s, and the habit is relentless. It's a fine look in courier font, along with double spacing, making the typed pages easier to read.\n\nThat said, two spaces after the period is a style/typesetting issue. Most actual publishing software *should* do something called whitespace normalization, but apparently not all of them do. That means, it should present the composed output with one space between words and after punctuation, even if I put in more than one. Web browsers will automatically do this unless told not to, for example. A side-effect of this is that pure ASCII art with multiple spaces does not work well on web browsers by default.\n\nAnyway, most word processors do not do this. IMO they should at least allow for the option, like a checkbox for normalizing whitespace. So it continues to be an issue in the publishing world, because not all publishing processes involve whitespace normalization. And therefore every now and then someone has a prima donna fit at some online site about how 2 spaces after a period is wrong. And I continue to think that this is a problem that their software developers should have solved for them. It is hideously easy to do so--I mean, even on Word it's a simple search and replace.", "I was taught to put two spaces after period, and I noticed that most of my professors put two spaces after period too.\n\n #teamtwospaces", "As a European academic, it is my impression that Americans are more fond of double spacing, such that texts are easier to read. Similar to how they like to capitalise every word in the title: it appears to be against \"old rules\", but makes texts more easily readable.", "One space, especially when you have a page limit to adhere to. Taught my boss recently that you can \"replace all\" two-spaces with one-spaces in MS Word (he is especially inconsistent with number of spaces after a period).", "My cousin and I had an argument about this recently. I was saying *definitely* two, and she was saying *definitely* one. We were both right, since it's either. On typewriters it was harder to read if there was only one space after the period, so the standard became two. Nowadays it doesn't affect readability much, and some websites will take off redundant spaces. \n\nI use two out of habit, because I was taught how to type by people who learned how to type on a typewriter, and I don't see much of an advantage to breaking this habit. As long as you're putting one or two, it's all good. Don't switch between them mid-post, though. It's a tad annoying.\n\nI just switched between both, and I don't see a difference in the spacing. I guess Reddit is one of those websites I mentioned earlier.", "It also depends on your region. In France, for instance, people put a space before an exlamation mark for instance, even though it isn't the case in Québec (also french-speaking but in Canada).\n\nI usually put no space before, one space after. Two spaces seem like overkill. When handwriting, I do put a longer space after a period than after a comma, but I think it isn't necessary when typewriting because of the heightened clarity. ", "I was taught two, but it changed in college. Hard habit to break, but it's definitely one now. However, grammar and spelling are much more important to focus on in my opinion.", "Two spaces for readability, and more modern devices will automatically put a period and enable capitalization of the start of the next sentence if you hit space twice. \n\nLots of people are saying typewriters required two spaces, but they work fine with one, heh, but newspapers and typesetting provides more space between just as they use capitals and periods to indicate breaks between sentences.\n\nSome browsers will shrink the two into one and make it harder to read. At this point it's just a style choice for what passes as legibility nowadays." ]

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[ "How to make friends in school if no one knows you/ you are known as \"that loner that hangs out in the library\". ", "How to make friends in school if no one knows you/ you are known as \"that loner that hangs out in the library\". ", "How to make friends in school if no one knows you/ you are known as \"that loner that hangs out in the library\". ", "How to make friends in school if no one knows you/ you are known as \"that loner that hangs out in the library\". " ]

[ "Don't assume people think you are the library loner. In a class of 450, or even 150, I doubt anyone notices what you do with your lunch. Most people are too self involved to pay other people attention like that, let alone form that type of opinion of them. Consider yourself a blank slate, be whoever you want to be and screw your former friends because they don't know who you are now any better than you do them. \n\nI moved schools quite a bit so was always having to start over. I did sports so that was an easy way for me to get in with new people but a few times, I transferred in the off season or was at a school that didn't have a team. What I did in those situations was join clubs or volunteer groups. Especially the ones that meet up to do things on weekends. At one school I joined a group that did some work for a habitat for humanity type organization and we spent an entire weekend working on a senior citizens home. Being around the same people all day like that and away from school, gives you a chance to bond, make inside jokes etc. Come Monday, I had people to sit with I actually wanted to talk to.\n\nSide note: any guy saying he is doing \"stuff\" to girls in reality is doing NOTHING to them. People getting it aren't talking about it because they have nothing to prove.", "Try team sports! Team building activities can really help climb over social barriers if you have an objective in front. Plus it keeps you physically fit. \nDon't be afraid to, and in a friendly fashion, take digs at people about small things. This is after detecting their mood\nIf you see a friend of yours isn't feeling to good or behaving odd ask about them you're not being invasive this is a primal sign of caring for one. If they're not open to talk about then back off, but not without trying. \nLastly when you're with a group of people don't feel afraid to make a plan with them, lasertag, football, movie, picnic anything is alright, you can make the plan put it forward if they're not reciprocative then it's alright try with some of the other 450 people. Life isn't an 80's high school movie. People don't obsess over social invalids and it's always good to explore outside your comfort zone. \nAlso you can PM me about pretty much anything you want to even if it's something as arbitrary as snail sleep cycles I will reply within the day. ", ">Reading this post back, this could also be a request for how to remove stigma from people's mind before attempting a friendship\n\nThe way to get someone to think differently about you is to do the things they don't expect you to do. Join a club. Volunteer. Make an effort to be social, and then show off that you actually *do* have social skills. Friends will fall into place.", "Lift your head, make eye contact, smile, and engage people.\n\nThe first three are the hardest part if you are shy. But give it a shot - they have to see you. And if you smile, most people will smile back. \n\nAs far as engaging, it takes a little bit of your attention to watch what people are doing and are interested in. If you see someone reading a book, ask about it. Since you spend time in the library, this might be an easy thing for you. Talk to the librarian and ask which books have been popular recently.\n\nBut really - it's not hard if you pay attention to others and find common ground.\n\nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless.", "How to get the neighbor to shut the fuck up, legally. I'm so annoyed I didn't even write dog in the title. \n\nRevised: How can I get the neighbor DOG to shut the fuck up, legally? \n\nCan I get one of those dog silencers? Call the police? It's getting so annoying. I need sleep and the damn dog won't stop and his owners are useless." ]

[ "Call the non emergency line in your city/township and file a \"disturbing the peace\" complaint. Sometimes you can even submit it online.", "First talk to them. There is probably noise bylaws. Usually quiet time is 10pm on a weekday. \n\nThere is also probably animal bylaws. Usually they can't be left barking for hours on end. ", "I've had success with a device that gives an annoying tone only the dog can hear. I use rechargeable 9v batteries, and the dog lets me know *exactly* when I need to recharge the battery. I have two, and they look like cute birdhouses. It takes a couple days for the dog to learn. \n\nI'd also talk to the owners and let them know that you're having this issue and that you're going to experiment with a tonal bark deterrent. Ask them to keep in touch about how it is going. As an owner of a PTSD rescue dog who needed a ton of love and work, I want to take their dog and find it a home more suitable to its needs. The dog clearly doesn't have all its needs met, and a spouse may be the best person to talk to the neighbors if one of you is particularly upset. \n\nThis dog may have PTSD, genetic issues, be suffering from neglect/loneliness, lack of exercise, or have other physiological problems. The dog breed may be wildly mismatched to its home environment. It probably isn't the dog that's the problem. \n\nA police report may result in a homeless or euthanized dog if they get enough complaints. Bark collars inflict psychological and physical harm. It makes the dog more aggressive, and a dog we had when I was a kid got throat cancer from them. Plus, they don't work. \n\nI have another dog like this a few houses down, and it is so heartbreaking to hear the bark - a vocalization of constant suffering - of this pup. I like to make a strategy based on enlightened self interest. If I reduce the dog's suffering, I reduce my suffering. When talking to my neighbors, I asked what types of treats were OK. I toss them over the fence. This strategy is called counter-conditioning. When the dog's brain is saying *alert*, the treat says *reward! happy!\". The brain confusion eventually rewires the dog to associate you with good things and bark less. It takes a ton of time, but the results are hardwired. :) Using the dog's name can also be helpful. ", "Have you tried to tell the apartment office? They might be helpful in keeping a log of complaints and after 3 complaints they might evict the loud people! This got my neighbors to shut up by strike 2!", "You can almost always call the police with a noise complaint. At the very least, you can ask them what the law is on dogs, which varies wildly depending on where you are, but I've never heard of anywhere that doesn't have at least one applicable law.", "After asking my neighbors several times to make their dog stop barking and having them tell me they didn't see why it bothered me, I bought a cheap CD player, a Chris Brown CD, and started it playing it next to the fence between us loudly every time the dog barked. Randomly the dog stopped barking for a few minutes and I'd turn it off. Dog barks, music goes on. I could tell the light was going on in their brains. They started to get the idea and I'd hear them start to reprimand the dog when it barked. Dog barks, music; make dog stop barking, no music. Sure it takes a little effort to plug in and unplug the long extension cord I use but it was worth it. I hated the music too but not as much as I hated the dog barking.\n", "i called a cops twice, the cops were not even out of their car and both dogs barks non-stop. the Neighbors were not home and the dogs were outside, so the cops gave them tickets both times i called them. after that the Neighbors kept their dogs Inside..", "This is what local social networks are for. Try [NextDoor](https://nextdoor.com/amazon/?r=ydfncf) and see if any other neighbors are willing to file a police report. Once more than one person files a complaint, it will be taken much more seriously.", "The sonic birdhouse seems like an awesome idea. Everyone recommending that Op call the police...\nSometimes it's easier and smarter to just take it upon yourself to solve the problem. Calling the police on the neighbor can only cause problems. The first is obviously now having to be perfect because now the neighbor is gunning for you. Also a threat of fines or eviction may very well cause the dog owner to give up and just take the dog to the pound. It'd suck for the dog to be put down for doing what dogs do.\nI say go for the birdhouse Op. Problem solved and no drama or guilt.\n", "One of my neighbor's has a border collie and it won't shut the fuck up when the owner is away however i tried talking with said owner and all i got was \"mind your own business\" to sum it all up, police won't help either even after i told them i tried reasoning with the owner and how he told me off.\nI work night shifts and that damned dog has kept me awake for the past 48 hours if not more, and my capability to stay reasonable is declining at a rapid rate at this point. I'm inches away from going postal on that owner...yes the owner, can't really blame the dog if the owner didn't bother to train or have him trained... but to give you an idea of how long that dog barks it starts early in the morning just as i get home from work and my neighbor starts working and he works from morning til dusk and all this time the dog just barks non stop.\n\nI'm just so done with this crap, already came in late for work twice due to sleep deprivation from months of this crap, these last few days feel like the owner hasn't been home at all leaving his dog to bark it's lungs out for days...\n\nExausted angry rant over.", "Here's the dog training answer: get a [dog training clicker](http://smile.amazon.com/Karen-i-Click-Training-Clicker-Clickers/dp/B002LAS2KW/ref=sr_1_6?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1463065036&sr=1-6&keywords=dog+training+clicker) and some really good dog treats, like small bits of real meat. Go outside, get the dog's attention, and wait for the dog to stop barking, even for a fraction of a second. Click the clicker and throw the treat over the fence. While the dog is eating the treat, they probably won't be barking, so click again and throw another treat. Basically the idea is to teach the dog that they get food when they're being quiet, so click and treat every time there's a moment of silence. Once the dog's figured it out, start waiting for a full second of silence before you click and treat. Then two seconds, etc. Do this for ten minutes a couple of times a day, and in a few days you'll be living next to a much quieter dog. \n\n(For the curious, you use a clicker because it tells the dog exactly what they're being rewarded **for**. Most dogs can do a dozen different things in the time it takes to say \"good dog\" and get a treat out of your pocket, but if you can click at the exact moment they do something right, they learn what you want them to do much faster.)", "Not totally sure how to do this but in Colorado, we once had police come to my buddy's house because our band was being too loud and someone had complained...", "Look up your municipal/city ordinances. Where I live (near Kansas City, MO) the ordinance states that the police can be called if the barking would disturb any \"reasonable person.\" ", "IDK how good of an actor you are, [but....](https://blutube.policeone.com/videos/934032446001-dogassistance/)\n\nBest quality I could find :/", "I had this same problem. You are going to need [this](https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=l&ai=CIOOljyI0V_DxFcP0hAT_jIWgCdz0x7gJtOmnmtQCjPXGrdoECAQQAiDj-4MYKApgyf7ri8ik0BOgAciZgMwDyAEHqgQnT9C4l3901KlDtBPQKPByihSYKyev5kFUil8m1Aw32WmwJi1ohgwqgAWX4LwLugUTCP-E3aL008wCFcxzPgod6l0OicAFBcoFAKAGJtgGAoAH1Mm4QIgHAZAHAqgHpr4b2AcB4BKp5ZealpeM0MwB&ei=jyI0V7-BE8zn-QHqu7nICA&sig=AOD64_3sysJJXsQjsGJe4P6Y5mQTFJiKng&ctype=5&clui=10&sqi=2&ved=0ahUKEwj_hN2i9NPMAhXMcz4KHepdDokQwg8IDw&adurl=http://clickserve.dartsearch.net/link/click%3Flid%3D92700010651495793%26ds_s_kwgid%3D58700001169992676%26ds_e_adid%3D91139645220%26ds_e_product_group_id%3D161693678220%26ds_e_product_id%3D2cc8d38746b749608329f53c4b426062%26ds_e_product_merchant_id%3D103470198%26ds_e_product_country%3DUS%26ds_e_product_language%3Den%26ds_e_product_channel%3Donline%26ds_e_product_store_id%3D%26ds_e_ad_type%3Dpla%26ds_s_inventory_feed_id%3D97700000001894043%26ds_url_v%3D2%26ds_dest_url%3Dhttp://clickserve.dartsearch.net/link/click%3Flid%3D92700007676138627%26ds_s_kwgid%3D58700000609433211%26ds_s_inventory_feed_id%3D97700000001590866%26ds_e_product_id%3D2cc8d38746b749608329f53c4b426062%26ci_customer_id%3D1001374%26ci_cse_id%3D1008%26ci_feed_id%3D1009190%26ds_e_product_merchant_id%3D103470198%26ds_e_product_country%3DUS%26ds_e_product_language%3Den%26ds_e_product_channel%3Donline%26ds_url_v%3D2%26ds_dest_url%3Dhttps://jet.com/product/detail/2cc8d38746b749608329f53c4b426062%26jcmp%3Dpla:ggl:gen_animals_pet_supplies_a2:pet_supplies_pet_collars_harnesses_a2_other:na:na:na:na:na:2%26code%3DPLA15%26ds_c%3D%5B*Campaign*%5D%26ds_cid%3D%5B*CampagnID*%5D%26ds_ag%3D%5B*Adgroup*%5D%26product_id%3D2cc8d38746b749608329f53c4b426062%26product_partition_id%3D161693678220) ", "I live next to a main road: \n\nhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Pairs-3M-1100-Ear-Plugs/dp/B007YFOW7G?ie=UTF8&ref_=zg_bs_1939564031_5\n\nSaved my sleep-time many of times.\n", " FIrst You have to complain to the police non-emergency over and over and over and over again. They'll ask if you are willing to sign off on their report, and you MUST DO IT or nothing will be done. You may have to do this several times !! Complain to your neighbor directly and do so civilly, do not give them any grounds for countering a complaint against you. Ask your other neighbors to see if any of them are annoyed by the animal, chances are your not the only one losing sleep. Eventually after signing 3 reports on a nuisance animal myself, and others in the neighborhood doing the same the nuisance animal was removed from the owners custody, and since the owner was an Illegal immigrant ICE also deported them. HAHA. \n\n", "Poison works on dogs. Just kill the dog if you are not willing to bravely tell your neighbor that their dog is a loud animal." ]

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[ "How to hold a conversation? It's really hard for me. I can't even hold a really long conversation with my friends. You know when your walking with someone and there's a awkward silence. In my head I'm pretty much thinking 'I need to talk about something that's interesting. Don't talk about the same thing' and when I'm with someone I'm less familiar with I'm thinking 'I have to say something or they won't like me or want to talk with me again'\nBasically I want something I can use in any situation that will drag the conversation longer, especially with friends.\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to hold a conversation? It's really hard for me. I can't even hold a really long conversation with my friends. You know when your walking with someone and there's a awkward silence. In my head I'm pretty much thinking 'I need to talk about something that's interesting. Don't talk about the same thing' and when I'm with someone I'm less familiar with I'm thinking 'I have to say something or they won't like me or want to talk with me again'\nBasically I want something I can use in any situation that will drag the conversation longer, especially with friends.\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to hold a conversation? It's really hard for me. I can't even hold a really long conversation with my friends. You know when your walking with someone and there's a awkward silence. In my head I'm pretty much thinking 'I need to talk about something that's interesting. Don't talk about the same thing' and when I'm with someone I'm less familiar with I'm thinking 'I have to say something or they won't like me or want to talk with me again'\nBasically I want something I can use in any situation that will drag the conversation longer, especially with friends.\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to hold a conversation? It's really hard for me. I can't even hold a really long conversation with my friends. You know when your walking with someone and there's a awkward silence. In my head I'm pretty much thinking 'I need to talk about something that's interesting. Don't talk about the same thing' and when I'm with someone I'm less familiar with I'm thinking 'I have to say something or they won't like me or want to talk with me again'\nBasically I want something I can use in any situation that will drag the conversation longer, especially with friends.\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to hold a conversation? It's really hard for me. I can't even hold a really long conversation with my friends. You know when your walking with someone and there's a awkward silence. In my head I'm pretty much thinking 'I need to talk about something that's interesting. Don't talk about the same thing' and when I'm with someone I'm less familiar with I'm thinking 'I have to say something or they won't like me or want to talk with me again'\nBasically I want something I can use in any situation that will drag the conversation longer, especially with friends.\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to hold a conversation? It's really hard for me. I can't even hold a really long conversation with my friends. You know when your walking with someone and there's a awkward silence. In my head I'm pretty much thinking 'I need to talk about something that's interesting. Don't talk about the same thing' and when I'm with someone I'm less familiar with I'm thinking 'I have to say something or they won't like me or want to talk with me again'\nBasically I want something I can use in any situation that will drag the conversation longer, especially with friends.\n\nThanks in advance!", "How to hold a conversation? It's really hard for me. I can't even hold a really long conversation with my friends. You know when your walking with someone and there's a awkward silence. In my head I'm pretty much thinking 'I need to talk about something that's interesting. Don't talk about the same thing' and when I'm with someone I'm less familiar with I'm thinking 'I have to say something or they won't like me or want to talk with me again'\nBasically I want something I can use in any situation that will drag the conversation longer, especially with friends.\n\nThanks in advance!" ]

[ "* Ask questions.\n* Listen attentively to those answers.\n* Use phrasing/key words from answers in responses.\n* Show an interest in a conversation. (No one really wants to drag it out of you, if you seem disconnected or uninterested.)\n* Make a conscious effort to listen more than you talk (at least initially).\n* Eye contact is not a must for some, but is encouraged.\n\nThat should be a good start. Hope that helps!", "In addition to most other answers if someone (especially women) asks you something like \"whats your favorite X\" they might ask it because they want to tell you what theirs is so dont just tell them whats yours but also ask back.", "If you are trying to figure out what to say next then you are not 'living in the moment', which then leads to anxiety. I have anxiety too. I am constantly trying to fast forward to the next thing. But as the previous comments say above, you need to listen to the person who is talking and practice 'active listening'. Geez I need to take some of this advice too! Good luck, its not easy! ", "One phrase that has helped me a ton is \"listen to understand, not to respond.\" It doesn't TOTALLY answer your question, but it tags in with what a lot of people are saying- be engaged and interested in what the other is saying instead of trying to plan ahead. ", "In the past few years, I've been able to become a more engaging person and actually known among my social group for holding stimulating conversations. I haven't always been this way, but it's something I've cultivated into my own benefit. I know some of these points have been mentioned in other replies to this but here are my two-cents straight up:\n\n1. Ask questions and listen intently. Be active in your listening, chiming in on top of key things the person you're talking with might be saying. Paraphrasing something they said, for example starting with something like \"So you mean to say...\" or \"I see, it's something like when...\" Not only does it convey to your conversation partner that you're listening, but also makes you seem interested. Treat it like a game with yourself, catching parts of their answer and repeating it back to them differently. It can lead to further questions or maybe a chance you realize you can contribute something relatable to the conversation.\n\n2. If you don't quite understand or picture what they're explaining, have them elaborate and actually try to get a clear idea of what your friend is talking about. Sometimes we let things we don't get just blow by us. Stopping them for a moment to have them further explain something can serve as a segue to new topics to keep the conversation rolling and also again, show you are interested in the discussion. \n\n3. Save some of those texts about something exciting that happened or that you witnessed for later when you're face to face with someone. It's too convenient and easy these days to have full on text discussions and that can potentially expire topics you have for conversation. I especially try to refrain from frequently texting friends I see very regularly and dates. Though frequent texting still happens, the more you can keep it to a minimum, the better.\n\n4. Go do stuff. Read some books, watch some movies, sports, travel, hike, join a club or volunteer. Staying busy with fun and recreational things isn't just good for your well being, but now you've got experiences to share and talk about. \n\n5. Confidence. The more you engage with people, the more confident you will likely become when you start seeing improvement in your conversation skill. I do a lot of travel on my own now and enjoy holing myself up at a bar and chatting with strangers. This aspect seems to surprise a lot of my friends that this is something I enjoy. But honestly, I was a pretty quite guy for the most part and this is something I've just learned I could do comfortably. With confidence, it's not just finding yourself being more willing to talk, but willing to ask questions and be a great active listener.\n\nI think everyone will be different and you may likely be as well. But that's what helped me out in successfully navigating these waters. Good luck!", "Contrary to what the top comment suggests to do, I have found that the most natural conversations are ones that are done through statements as opposed to questions. When I converse with people I am comfortable with, it's an exchange of statements. \n\n\"I just got back from Paris last week, the food there is unreal\"\n\n\"Oh no way, I've been meaning to plan a trip to Europe for this summer, I think I want to check out Germany\"\n\n\"Yeah the beer there is fantastic, you should definitely check out Holland too\"\n\n\"Good idea. My two greatest passions are weed and reddit\"\n\n\"I stopped smoking weed in college, man I miss those days\"\n\n\"\n\nUsing your walking with someone scenario, just make an observational comment and run with it. It will come off as much more natural than a \"So, any plans this weekend?\"\n", "Accept the awkward silence as it is, hell put pressure on other party. Make them diffuse the awkward silence. You're just too much in your head, you dont need to be interesting nor smart to hold conversations you just have to be UNNEEDY and be cool (cool=taking life not so seriously, not trying to brag or hot shot, not TRYING too hard)\n\n" ]

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[ "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?", "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?", "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?", "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?", "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?", "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?", "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?", "Keep hair down after waking up When i wake up, my hair gets really messy but the worst part is having strands of hair poking up like freaking antennas (it lasts the whole day too). I usually shower in the morning to prevent this but on days when i took a shower before going to bed or woke up late for work - this becomes a problem. I've tried applying water and hair wax but it only stays down for a while. It bounces back especially when the wind blows. Any quick fixes for this without resorting to heavy styling wax/gel/hairspray?" ]

[ "Wake up early before school, wet hair (I do this by cupping water then pouring it on my head to make it go down) then dry wih a towel, wait like 30 mins and it should dry", "There are sprays designed just for this- they're called frizz sprays. You can get a cheap bottle at any pharmacy or Target for just a few bucks. They're small and easy to keep in a purse, glove compartment, drawer at work, etc. ", "Your hair sounds maybe thin, or dry, or both. Wet your hair with 9 parts water, 1 part hair conditioner. Wipe off, and style when damp. It should help keep things in place. ", "Try using conditioner, the kind you use after shampooing. I use that to smooth down hairs; it stays all day and makes your hair smell good, too.", "This may or may not work, but maybe you could try turning the shower on before you do anything else. Make sure the door is closed, and it may help to have the water on as hot as possible. Now, do your morning piss, brush your teeth, shave, whatever, and maybe even get dressed in the bathroom. Basically, do your morning routine next to the shower while its running.\n\nI don't know if this will completely solve the issue, but I believe humidity and heat relaxes the hair from any unnatural state. \n\nIt's why girls do not like humid weather when they had their hair straightened or curled when it is naturally the opposite.\n\nThat trick with getting your shirt \"ironed out\" by hanging it next to a running hot shower may be based on the same concept. \n\nIt's wasteful but hopefully you aren't running late all the time.", "Take a wet wash-rag and place on your head.....it takes very little time and you can leave it there while you finish getting ready! ", "Leave-in conditioner is great for flyaway sticky uppy bits and also makes you hair super soft and nice-smelling!", "1. Put your head under the shower head. (Keep your body out).\n2. Completely soak the hair. Make sure water gets inside your hair.\n3. Use a towel to most of the water out\n4. Use hairdryer to completely dry the hair.\n\nDone in 2 minutes." ]

[ 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How do I stop having large expectations in life? Let me indulge: \nMy therapist has recommended me to stop having outlandish expectations of mine life. I am 27, I feel like I have wasted my life, haven't lived my full potential. I feel like I can come become the next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. Or I really want to win the Oscar in my life. I'm just really overwhelmed lately cause things haven't panned out I imagined they would. Any recommendations on goal setting or setting expectations in life would awesome. \n\nThank You in advance\nCheers!", "How do I stop having large expectations in life? Let me indulge: \nMy therapist has recommended me to stop having outlandish expectations of mine life. I am 27, I feel like I have wasted my life, haven't lived my full potential. I feel like I can come become the next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. Or I really want to win the Oscar in my life. I'm just really overwhelmed lately cause things haven't panned out I imagined they would. Any recommendations on goal setting or setting expectations in life would awesome. \n\nThank You in advance\nCheers!", "How do I stop having large expectations in life? Let me indulge: \nMy therapist has recommended me to stop having outlandish expectations of mine life. I am 27, I feel like I have wasted my life, haven't lived my full potential. I feel like I can come become the next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. Or I really want to win the Oscar in my life. I'm just really overwhelmed lately cause things haven't panned out I imagined they would. Any recommendations on goal setting or setting expectations in life would awesome. \n\nThank You in advance\nCheers!", "How do I stop having large expectations in life? Let me indulge: \nMy therapist has recommended me to stop having outlandish expectations of mine life. I am 27, I feel like I have wasted my life, haven't lived my full potential. I feel like I can come become the next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. Or I really want to win the Oscar in my life. I'm just really overwhelmed lately cause things haven't panned out I imagined they would. Any recommendations on goal setting or setting expectations in life would awesome. \n\nThank You in advance\nCheers!" ]

[ "I have massive outlandish dreams, I think most people do. But the trick is to break that dream down into achievable goals and work towards them. Want to win a Oscar, okay, i want to find a good acting class, done that, I want to get a part in a play? Then when you look back you can say \"yeah, i totally did that thing.\"\n\nAlso, i have been doing this little trick that has worked wonders to stop me 'looking into my neighbors yard' so to speak. Each morning sit up in bed, or on the drive to work, tell yourself what you are thankful for in your like. Then at the end of the day before you go to sleep, think about all the little things that made you happy today.", "Instead of dwelling on what you could have already done, try to put the focus on what you can do from now on. \n\nThen, if you make a significant long term goal, work through the way you can achieve that by breaking it down into medium term goals and then short term goals and then the steps to work through to achieve each layer of the goals. ", "High aspirations are good. Although I think you should avoid chasing for equal success with other people, like what you said about Jobs and Gates those two guys had the combination of brilliance and luck and being at a time where their business idea was a breakthrough. Find something you are passionate about so that every success towards that will reward you with self worth, with the feeling that you accomplished something.", "Being steve jobs or bill gates is completely different from winning an oscar. Do you work towards these things or are they just delusions? If it is something you are passionate about and working towards then it isn't bad but if you are just sitting at home eating cheetos and expecting to magically become rich and famous then you really do need to touch base with reality. " ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!", "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!", "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!", "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!", "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!", "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!", "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!", "not staining clothes while on my period. I am a grown woman with regular, heavy periods. While this is a good thing, (because biology I guess) I am constantly ruining my underclothes every month! I have switched to maxi tampons, pads and I still bleed the red sea. I am to the point that I am wearing both a pad and a tampon and I'm still experiencing leaking! There has to be a better way to manage my monthly bleeding. Because right now I feel like I am just gonna cry. Help!" ]

[ "Birth control pills can help a lot. Heavy bleeding might also be a sign of endometriosis, which sucks but can be rectified with a simple outpatient surgery. ", "Have you tried using a DivaCup or a moon cup? It's a medical grade silicon goblet shaped device which fits over your cervix and collects menstrual fluid rather than absorbing it. I've stained way less since I've started using one. It's a little more hands-on than tampons or pads, but it may be a nice supplementary feminine hygiene tool for you. ", "Check with your gyno. If you are bleeding through so often perhaps he/she can recommend something to make your periods lighter. ", "While you are seeking medical advice as suggested elsewhere in this thread, they do make disposable undies for the incontinent. You could try those with your regular measures so at least you don't have ruined regular undies. \n\nAlternately, I keep black cotton undies for just that week, along with any old or previously stained ones. The old ratty ones can just get tossed if there's leaking and the black ones never show stains. The stained ones are stained already. \n\nWhat irritates me is that it is easy to find cheap cotton undies in multipacks in any color under the sun, but it is hell finding a package of all black. I guess more women need to realize they don't show stains and demand them.", "Um, well... I can tell you Clorox 2 instantly removes blood stains of any kind, even set in ones. It's kinda like magic really.", "I have two things that don't really solve your problem but might make it easier to deal with.\n\nFirst is to have a week-long set of \"period panties\" that are comfortable, dark colored, and used exclusively for this purpose. Keep using a liner with your tampon for comfort's sake. Then you don't have to feel like you're destroying your panties every month, and since these are used for this, there is no harm in getting them stained.\n\nIf you do have a stain, use the peroxide you have in your cabinet to clean your panties (don't dilute it more than it already is in the bottle). Even on colors this shouldn't pull out any dyes so long as you thoroughly rinse them with cold water after. I have never used anything that was more effective and fast. \n\nLastly I'd suggest a trip to the doctor because that kind of heavy bleeding could mean something more important. If you're not interested in taking birth control or something like that, you might be stuck with these heavy periods, but at least these things can make it less of a big deal.\n\nPersonally, I have never had extremely heavy periods but have always struggled with staining my clothes. Probably every pair of underwear I have is stained.", "if you aren't down with reusing the same cup, you can also try 'instead' (just one brand, i'm sure there are others) disposable cups. I've never used the reusable ones, but once I got used to how the cups worked it was infinitely better for me than tampons. I would still wear a pad just in case, but that's just because I'm paranoid. ", "Black and maroon and dark purple panties used for only that time. \nIf you need overnight protection, use a tampon and tie a purple (or red or brown) towel around your waist and between the legs, like a diaper.\n\nYou can be kind to yourself and celebratory: make it a nice Menstrual Towel, not an old rag :-). Same for the undies -- buy some nice-fitting ones that feel good, such as all cotton high-cuts, and keep them for that \"special occasion\" every month.\n\nAlso, this is not necessarily a problem of your body; it can also be seen as a failure on the part of clothing manufacturers and designers to deal with women's reality." ]

[ 15, 10, 8, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n", "Is working my youth away worth the money? Hey, I'm a 15 year old kid struggling with this decision. My parents have a job lined up for me this summer making quite a bit more then any real job could get me right now. The hours are 3 am to about 2-3 pm, 5 days a week all summer. The problem is I don't want to have zero social life. My friends and my hobbies are the things that make me happy and leaving those to two days a week would be hard. The reason my parents want me to get this job is to save up for car money (insurance, gas etc.) which is still 2 years away. So, is the money worth losing my social life? Thanks a lot of you can help. \n\nTLDR: struggling between getting a job with 10+ hours or having a social life. \n\n" ]

[ "You won't lose a social life. Thats on you. Honestly, I'd take it cause it'll be a new experience and itll be good to rack up some cash to throw around every so often. Give it a shot and see how it turns out. You won't know how it'll be until you give it a shot", "you have your entire life to work\n\nfind a happy mix of money and life rn\n\nI'm 20, have 15k in savings, full time student,part time job and have never felt like I'm sacrificing social life and fun for money\n\nsrry 4 shitty brag^ \n\njust wanna give you a first hand experience\n\nfind a good balance ", "I worked around your age and never gave up a social life:\n\nWhen I was 15 I started working. It was not much, odd jobs here and there. Then when I turned 16, I gave up sleeping in til noon and staying up til midnight playing playstation and decided to start thinking of the future.\n\nI didn't know what I wanted to do with my life. But I knew that whatever it would be, that it would cost money. As soon as the summer hit, I worked 8am-4pm 5 days a week in the only jobs I could get with zero experience; working in a factory. I did that every summer, through high school. I worked through an agency which meant that each job I was sent to paid out a different wage. I made between $7.50 per hour to $9.50 per hour. Even took a \"victory lap\" to get more cash in working part time, and it also gave me another summer. **I bought my first car at 16.** I put the rest into a Guaranteed Investment Account, and threw in birthday money, christmas money and had 50% of my paycheck go to it. I kept it going until university. Paid my university tuition off with it.\n\nWhen I turned 20, I got a job as a city worker. My job was to physically set up events and be a go-to for the public for help. I did that for 4 summers. I only got this job because of my factory experience **moving and operating heavy machinery**. Because of my experience, I made $20.25 per hour. The minimum wage at this time was $10.25. My friends with NO work experience were making half my wage. \n\n**I did this through university working ONLY in the summers. I NEVER had debt-I moved out at 22. I own 2 cars. I own my home now (I'm 28-my friends still live at home and waste all of their money on crap). In my career now, I make $235 per day. I never gave up social life, I still had evenings and weekends.\n\nTLDR: Working early in my life made me realize that things cost money and it is WAY harder to earn than it is to spend. I started early and I think I am in a better place for it. When I visit my dad in my old neighbourhood, I still see old friends around my age still living at home. Makes me feel glad about my decisions. ", "I expected the OP to be much older.\n\nThe job will help your real self-esteem. You'll learn a few skills, have an interesting experience. 20 years later you're not going to remember hanging out in the bleachers or all those pro burns you typed out on reddit. \n\nWorking your youth away is when you graduate college, find out you can't get a job other than menial labor, blinking, and finding out you're Al Bundy.", "if you hobbies are something that will make you money later then it might be a far better choice to take the opportunity to hone them now while you have the time.", "Yes. The money and experience you will gain is much, much, much more valuable than anything else you can do as a 15 year old.", "Once you're older, the same thing will happen. Full time job = huge restrictions on social life. So you can look at this in one of two ways:\n\n1) Time to \"practice\" balancing your social and work life so you're ready for that when it happens in \"adulthood\".\n\n2) Your youth is yours and you should not be forced into (possible) sacrificing social time that you will only have an abundance of in your youth.\n\n*Source: Just started a full time job 6 mo ago*", "Just gotta find the right balance, (which is the balance that suits you, no one else) between work and play.\n I wouldn't want to work ALL summer, but at the same time I'd rather be busy all summer doing something productive than sitting on my ass wishing I had took that job, and you'd be closer to your first car.", "I would take the job. Don't look at it as working your youth away, because you wouldn't be. You'll have plenty of time to hang out with friends on weekends and after the summer. When the summer is over, you'll be happy about the money you earned", "I think you should get the job. \nyou won't \"lose\" your social life, you work only until 2-3pm, it will leave you plenty of time to do other activities or see your friends, and you still have full weekends. \nI always worked during summers when I was your age and my social life was just fine. plus is nice to have the money, in two years, when you'll finally buy a car, you will be happy you did it.", "Dude, go to work and get that car. You will be so glad you did. You still have 2 days each week to hang out. ", "At your age I was doing both: working my ass off and partying between shifts. You can't do that after your 20s so do it now. Summer jobs are easy. You can do just about anything when it only lasts 4 months. Machine operator isn't a career, though. Don't treat it like one.\n\nGetting a car is a good idea. It has pristige and all that, will help your social life. Invest some money if you can. So called \"high risk\" portfolios are a guaranteed pay-off over 30+ years. 10k invested aggressively at 20 years old is better than 50k when you're 50 years old. Seriously, dude, put your money into Space X now and forget about it until you're 50. You'll thank yourself later.", "There is no such thing as working your youth away...\nI've been working ever since I was 12, started my own business and had 5 jobs next to that (all of which I have quit to make time for my business) and I still have a social life.", "Man, you won't be giving up your social life. You're working 3AM-3PM. That leaves you until at least 8-9 o clock to hang out with people. It's summer a anyways, people sleep in til noon anyways. \n\nAlso, it'll be a nice boost to you. You could get this as a recurring summer job and that'll look good on a resume. ", "First, I don't know where you live, but many localities have age requirements when \"working in heavy machinery\".\n\nNext, I'm not sure how earning money harms you. Someone else who doesn't (unless they come from wealth), has no money to do anything \"social\", much less buy a car.\n\nAdmittedly, I find this concept of \"working my youth away\" strange. I started cutting grass at 11, passing newspapers at 13, busboy at 15, and on and on. I couldn't wait to earn my own money, because my own money buys me freedoms/choices that I wouldn't have otherwise." ]

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[ "How to end a conversation. When I have personal or professional conversations with people who aren't close to me they always and awkwardly. Either I end abruptly to avoid awkward ending which is still bad, or I kind of just get quiet look around and say bye.\nHow do you end your conversations?", "How to end a conversation. When I have personal or professional conversations with people who aren't close to me they always and awkwardly. Either I end abruptly to avoid awkward ending which is still bad, or I kind of just get quiet look around and say bye.\nHow do you end your conversations?", "How to end a conversation. When I have personal or professional conversations with people who aren't close to me they always and awkwardly. Either I end abruptly to avoid awkward ending which is still bad, or I kind of just get quiet look around and say bye.\nHow do you end your conversations?", "How to end a conversation. When I have personal or professional conversations with people who aren't close to me they always and awkwardly. Either I end abruptly to avoid awkward ending which is still bad, or I kind of just get quiet look around and say bye.\nHow do you end your conversations?", "How to end a conversation. When I have personal or professional conversations with people who aren't close to me they always and awkwardly. Either I end abruptly to avoid awkward ending which is still bad, or I kind of just get quiet look around and say bye.\nHow do you end your conversations?" ]

[ "\"It's been nice chatting, I'll let you get back to work now\". \n\n\"Nice chatting with you, but I really have to get this project done\". \n\n\"Oh look at the time, I'm late for my yoga class\". \n\n\"Woah, it's tom cruise\". Run the other way when they turn to look. ", "I like \"alright, well, I should really get going. It was nice seeing you/etc.\"\n\nYou can elaborate why but you don't have to. Also, you can even do, \"Hm. Well, it was good to see you. Take care.\" This doesn't even have the associated implication that you are busy with something and about to leave. ", "Remember how the conversation started or the topic, sort of bring it full circle and that instinctively shows that the conversation is back to where it started and is ready to wrap up. So if a colleague comes over talking about a report, then it evolves onto something else, bring up the report again and then set sort of an action. Do this after a moment of pause, so it's not jarring. So the conversation is talk talk talk, then \"I should have this report done here in an hour, thanks again for bringing it up...\"", "I always add the line \"I hate to be rude and I've really enjoyed our chat, but I've got a few things to take care of. Talk to you again soon?\"", "Act as if you have just remembered something and have to go: \neg. bob:'so yeh, it was lovely and we'll do that again...' \nstu: 'glad you had a good time...' \nbob: '...' \nstu: '...' \nbob: 'Oh, i just thought, got the mrs tied up to the radiator and those beads won't pull themselves out, toodle-pip! Chat soon!'\n" ]

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[ "International Travel In particular - headed to Thailand (from the U.S.) for a couple weeks in about a week. What should we watch out for, what should we bring along with us, any tips we can proactively do to improve the quality of our trip would be much appreciated!\n\n", "International Travel In particular - headed to Thailand (from the U.S.) for a couple weeks in about a week. What should we watch out for, what should we bring along with us, any tips we can proactively do to improve the quality of our trip would be much appreciated!\n\n", "International Travel In particular - headed to Thailand (from the U.S.) for a couple weeks in about a week. What should we watch out for, what should we bring along with us, any tips we can proactively do to improve the quality of our trip would be much appreciated!\n\n", "International Travel In particular - headed to Thailand (from the U.S.) for a couple weeks in about a week. What should we watch out for, what should we bring along with us, any tips we can proactively do to improve the quality of our trip would be much appreciated!\n\n", "International Travel In particular - headed to Thailand (from the U.S.) for a couple weeks in about a week. What should we watch out for, what should we bring along with us, any tips we can proactively do to improve the quality of our trip would be much appreciated!\n\n", "International Travel In particular - headed to Thailand (from the U.S.) for a couple weeks in about a week. What should we watch out for, what should we bring along with us, any tips we can proactively do to improve the quality of our trip would be much appreciated!\n\n" ]

[ "1) Carry Thai baht - convert it at the airport\n2) Avoid taking taxis right off the streets. In BKK, taxis drivers can be rough (negotiating) and dangerous (knife point shake down). To be safe, always take taxi from hotels to your destination. This way all taxis are recorded by hotel staff. \n3) From hotel staff, get them to write down in Thai your destination (in case you have problems getting there) and also your return address. Keep an extra copy of your hotel (return address) in case you need to get back in a drunken state.\n4) Always check door locks and handles if you pick up a taxi from street. \n5) DO NOT DO DRUGS or carry anything suspicious when going out late at night. Military Police targets clubs/bars and they tend to pick up anyone and everyone. (Relevant in BKK).\n\nHave fun!", "(1) Drink water, drink water, and when you think you've had enough, drink some more water. It is dirt cheap to buy bottled water and it is REALLY hot. Don't dehydrate yourself. You'll also be drinking I assume and will need the refill of fluids. \n(2) If you're going to the Royal Palace in Bangkok you'll have a bunch of guys coming up to you to \"practice their English\". My guy casually told me that the Royal Palace is closed to foreigners today as it's a holiday (total BS), but why not take a tuk tuk tour of the city instead. You can take the tour of the city as it's actually a great deal, but don't believe anything they say on the street. If they say a special place is closed, go right to the doors and check as they love lying to get people to give them business instead.", "Watch out for nice people telling you it's some kind of national holiday like Buddha Day. They'll try to tell you where ever you're going is closed for the day and that they can show you some better places but it's a scam and many things can go awry if you go with them. They're very good and convincing so really... trust no one ", "Thailand is notorious for scamming tourists. Do some searching on YouTube for vids that expose these scam artists.", "If you ever happen to rent a scooter/quad/jetski whatever, make sure you make hundreds of pictures before, that way you can assure they wont try to make you pay for some sort of \"damage\" that you didnt cause. There are in fact - some kind of mafia organisations - car/scooter rentals who do that on a regular basis to tourists, they even work together with the local police stations and they will just lock you up if you refuse to pay the fee and try to sort things out by discussing.\n\noh and Im sure it has been told before, but dont fuck around with marijuana and such, just dont risk it... the penalty is pretty harsh.\n\nwhen in bkk go to the mbk/siam paragon shopping malls, they are huge if you want to do some shopping. (there is a delicious restaurant in the mbk shoping mall, its a japanese restaurant with table-bbqs' you can order your meat and bbq' it yourself.. j - u - s - t fucking tasty!)\n\nnever ever buy any kind of medications from the street-guys, not even any male enhancement drugs, they are all cheap fakes.\n\nif you ever hear somebody talk about you in thai and call you \"falan\" (dont know how its exaclty spelled but you wlil get it if you hear it..) it means that they have mentioned you as some kind of \"stupid tourists\" meaning they are disrespectful and probably just want to rip you off.\n\ni went with a couple of friends and we been to bkk then to kho phangan and later to kho tao, kho pangan was pretty boring for us people only go there for the full moon parties I think, but it is not my style of party anway so we hopped over to kho tao, which was pretty nice it was full with backpackers from all over the world and \"divers\" kho tao is famous for the diving schools and you ll meet a lot of nice people there (nice girls included ;)) anyway what I wanted to say is actually, for island hopping there are different options, you can take the katamaran which is pretty fast and usually bit more expensive or you just chose the usual farry which is a bit cheaper and thus takes a bit longer to get from a to b.\n\nregarding the katamaran: idk if this is usual, but literally 80%+ of our boat was puking, this thing has some fucking speed and doesnt give a shit about waves, its like a badass rollercoaster for ~60mins and depending on the weather conditions it can be even worse than it usually is. so you might wanna go for the traditional farry.\n\noh i almost forgot, for clubbing in bkk:\nthere is a club in the basement floor of the hotel international, that club is usually always packed and there are 2 floors ... 1 for the locals and tourists and the 2nd floor is usually occcupied with hookers and desperate tourists... but this club is the way to go, all those other places are too snobby and you pay way too much for drinks.\n\n", "Do some searches in /r/travel and /r/thailand if you want to get some good information.\n\nDon't post unless you have specific questions as there is already a ton of threads about Thailand in /r/travel \n\nIf you have specific questions feel free to PM as I have visited Thailand several times." ]

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[ "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?", "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?", "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?", "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?", "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?", "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?", "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?", "My girlfriend eats so loudly, what can I do? Ok, I suspect I'm going to come off as misogynistic here, so let me do a little dispelling of that.\n\nWe've been together for about four years, I love her dearly, we have a wonderful relationship through ups and downs, which there have been plenty of. Neither of us abuses the other, we aren't violent in any way.\n\nThat said, I'm gonna hulk out and beat the crap out of everything in my county if I have to hear her chew any more food.\n\nLook, I know we all have pet peeves and whatnot. It just so happens that she eats in the most loud way possible. I can ignore it when I am eating, which is probably, in reality, also a pretty loud way to eat as well. I may well be a hypocrite here.\nThe reason it's getting to me today is that she's had a head cold for the past week. Me too, obviously, but I'm a nose blower, and she's a sniffer.\n\nchomp, chomp, chomp, SNIIIIIFFFF, chomp, chomp, chomp\n\nAGH DEAR GOD, THAT'S A SNOT AND TURKEY SANVICH NOW AND HOW ARE YOU EATING A SANDWICH LOUDLY???\n\nI've talked to her about this before, she knows it's annoying, but I'm not going to keep bringing it up because that's just mean. She just doesn't know she's doing it. Sometimes, she notices me dealing with my stress induced ulcers caused by loud chewing, gets self conscious, and significantly reduces her chewing volume, and it makes me feel much better, but also very ashamed.\n\nWhat can I do?" ]

[ "Keep telling her. Start eating away from her and she'll get the message and maybe try harder to change. ", "Not everyone's skull is mechanically the same. Perhaps recommend she see an ENT specialist. Conditions like deviated septa, allergies, an extreme under/over-bit, being partially tongue-tied could all impact mastication. ", "TL;DR: Remind her when it happens, don't be a dick, you also need to suck it up to some extent.\n\nOk. \n\nPoint 1. It's not misogeny, it's at worst bad fucking manners. At best, you have [misophonia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misophonia). \n\nPoint 2, as others have said, you need to keep telling her. I'd phrase it differently; I 'remind' my wife at times. Even when eating (it *always* bothers me, I even bother me when ***I*** eat).\n\nI also try to be calm, sometimes my wife also manages to eat loudly, even with her mouth closed. I have no idea how, but she can. And she chews everything 249274982759285739845723894579283457892374598237598732895738957923845 times, adding to the pain. But I genuinely don't think she can help it. Point being, you have to continue to try also.\n\nIn my case, my wife's whole family chooses to ignore that bit of etiquette. So much so that I've skipped the majority of meals I've been invited to. It sounds like a pride of fucking lions eating a hippo when they have dinner.\n\nBut, we've gotten largely through the thick of it, and it's mostly smoothed out; she tries, I try, she's not allowed to chew gum around me.\n", "My husband has issues with chewing noises also, and I always chew with my mouth closed (as I was taught as a kid) so I know he just has a thing about it.\n\nWe usually watch a show while we're eating (which is probably anti-social but whatever, it works for us), and if something is particularly bothering him, he knows he can tell me and we'll try to come up with something to deal with it. Honestly, with a little compromise, this can be worked through without anyone dumping anyone, generating ulcers, or otherwise causing excess stress.\n\nThe head cold, she'll get over. In the meantime though, you're kind of stuck (she needs her mouth open to breathe!). Consider turning on the TV to cover some of the sounds and just wait it out, or get her some good head cold meds at the pharmacy that she can take before dinner so she has the best possible shot at having a clear head so breathing and chewing can still be accomplished! ", "Clearly, she is challenging you and the only appropriate response is to accept her challenge and eat even more loudly than she is.\n\nI'm not joking. Well, not entirely.\n\nIf you two end up competing on the basis of volume of eating, you'll both find yourselves becoming consciously aware of what you do to *be* loud, as you try to be louder. But that same awareness and skillset will probably also let you control your volume to eat more quietly.\n\nAnd at the same time, making a fun game about it is likely to make her aware without offending her, and can help make the noise more tolerable for you in the meantime.", "Give up. I did after 11 years of marriage. I just: \n\nWalk away from her if we're standing and she happens to be eating something,\n\nPut music on all the time while seating, at a relative pleasant but masking volume. \n\nNothing else has worked. ", "Tell her to not press her tongue to the roof of her mouth when she's eating. If you keep your tongue relaxed and it's not pushing food to the roof of the mouth there will be no noise", "Step One: Show her this: https://www.facebook.com/TheFarceReport/videos/616817531792031/?__mref=message_bubble\n\nStep two: Success. " ]

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[ "How to breathe easier at night when sleeping at the house of someone who smokes indoors I am spending the holidays at a relatives house, and the matriarch smokes indoors. Unless I blackout drunk, sleeping here is an absolute horror. Any tips on making it through the night?", "How to breathe easier at night when sleeping at the house of someone who smokes indoors I am spending the holidays at a relatives house, and the matriarch smokes indoors. Unless I blackout drunk, sleeping here is an absolute horror. Any tips on making it through the night?", "How to breathe easier at night when sleeping at the house of someone who smokes indoors I am spending the holidays at a relatives house, and the matriarch smokes indoors. Unless I blackout drunk, sleeping here is an absolute horror. Any tips on making it through the night?", "How to breathe easier at night when sleeping at the house of someone who smokes indoors I am spending the holidays at a relatives house, and the matriarch smokes indoors. Unless I blackout drunk, sleeping here is an absolute horror. Any tips on making it through the night?", "How to breathe easier at night when sleeping at the house of someone who smokes indoors I am spending the holidays at a relatives house, and the matriarch smokes indoors. Unless I blackout drunk, sleeping here is an absolute horror. Any tips on making it through the night?", "How to breathe easier at night when sleeping at the house of someone who smokes indoors I am spending the holidays at a relatives house, and the matriarch smokes indoors. Unless I blackout drunk, sleeping here is an absolute horror. Any tips on making it through the night?" ]

[ "Open a window or Get an air purifier. Keep your stuff in your car so your stuff doesn't come back home stinky. ", "You could also buy something to help you breathe easier, I like ClearLungs. It works within 30min of taking and just makes it easier to breathe. A google search of \"living with a smoker\" or something similar might give you some tips", "A person who smokes indoors around non smokers is abusive and uncaring, so it is better to stay elsewhere.", "Any chance you can tell him/her how it disturbs you? Second-hand smoking is really terrible, since it's only for holiday, maybe they can smoke outside for some time", "Try lighting some candles. It usually helps with the smell. Also, bring your own pillow cases, or if it is too late to do that, wrap the pillow with a t-shirt. ", "I don't have much experience except from living in a small dormitory where people smoked outside and having it constantly stream through the entire building.. if you have a room to yourself cover the bottom of the door with a towel and buy a small electric fan for like $25 dollars and stick it out the window. If it's saturated the room your in buy some febreeze. Try to keep your clothes in your suitcase because they will be saturated with the smell of smoke aswell. " ]

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[ "How do you get cheap hotel rooms online in New York City, San Francisco Bay Area, and DC (especially if you're going to be staying a long time like several days or a month)? ", "How do you get cheap hotel rooms online in New York City, San Francisco Bay Area, and DC (especially if you're going to be staying a long time like several days or a month)? ", "How do you get cheap hotel rooms online in New York City, San Francisco Bay Area, and DC (especially if you're going to be staying a long time like several days or a month)? ", "How do you get cheap hotel rooms online in New York City, San Francisco Bay Area, and DC (especially if you're going to be staying a long time like several days or a month)? " ]

[ "What’s your budget? Otherwise I’d say If you have a friend that works at a big hotel chain that trusts you, get them to book it for you under their discount. Otherwise, your booking far away from the core. \n\nIf price point is your priority, staying at a hostel in a private room for a month will probably be your cheapest solo option. Otherwise, renting a van and sleeping in it a few night to offset the cost of a hotel would be a last option.", "Some fair sized cities have extended stay hotels, but I would imagine if you’re in a big city like NYC or LA they would be far away from the fun stuff", "Easy, you just rent from the shady hotels. The ones in the bad parts of town with the questionable people hanging around it.\n\nYou get what you pay for.", "Cheaper motels, airbnbs, hostels (rare to find good ones in US cities).\n\nOtherwise it may be wiser to get a hotel outside the city but within commuting distance.\n\nOr just be a homeless drifter with a heart of gold. /s" ]

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[ "How to handle \"When will this be done\" questions at work My current line of work deals with a lot of questions like this, and I am curious how people from different fields handle this and what amount of margins they put with respect to their own estimate. I would say that my actual efficiency well above the average my office environment. My interests are:\n\n* Should you give a date when you can make somewhat of an accurate estimate?\n* How to protect yourself from possibly not meeting the deadline\n* How to protect yourself from not meeting expectation or prevent from raising the standard too much to make other co-workers uncomfortable? \n* How to avoid the question all together\n\n", "How to handle \"When will this be done\" questions at work My current line of work deals with a lot of questions like this, and I am curious how people from different fields handle this and what amount of margins they put with respect to their own estimate. I would say that my actual efficiency well above the average my office environment. My interests are:\n\n* Should you give a date when you can make somewhat of an accurate estimate?\n* How to protect yourself from possibly not meeting the deadline\n* How to protect yourself from not meeting expectation or prevent from raising the standard too much to make other co-workers uncomfortable? \n* How to avoid the question all together\n\n", "How to handle \"When will this be done\" questions at work My current line of work deals with a lot of questions like this, and I am curious how people from different fields handle this and what amount of margins they put with respect to their own estimate. I would say that my actual efficiency well above the average my office environment. My interests are:\n\n* Should you give a date when you can make somewhat of an accurate estimate?\n* How to protect yourself from possibly not meeting the deadline\n* How to protect yourself from not meeting expectation or prevent from raising the standard too much to make other co-workers uncomfortable? \n* How to avoid the question all together\n\n" ]

[ "If everything goes as planned I can have it to you in <TIME>. In the past there have been issues with projects of this nature so it's not uncommon for that timeline to be extended. I can keep you in the loop as the project progresses if you'd like?\n\nFrom a boss point of view as long as I know what's going on I'm usually okay with delays.", "Lot of variables here, but the best advice I've read so far in the comments is to always pad your delivery time to where you are highly confident. Saying it will take 4 days up front might disappoint them, however, it's infinitely better than saying 2 and not being able to deliver until 3. By saying 2, they're scheduling other activities or making promises of their own. Your failure therefore results in their failure.\n\nIf you're simply not confident, tell them you don't have enough information right now to give them a date/time, but they can check back in with you in a couple days.\n\nOn a related note, beware of being \"too good\". You want to impress others but as you mentioned, it might raise standards for other workers to the point they resent you. In my case, it resulted in me being the go-to guy for every emergency, \"need it done yesterday\" fire. It caused project managers and sales people to get lazy because \"don't worry, my go-to guy always pulls it out.\" I ended up getting buried, which in turn caused me to make mistakes, which in turn caused everyone to resent me. ", "I am a software developer and we plan a lot of estimates for our deadlines. What we use in our team was the fibonacci number sequence (1,1, 2, 3, 5, 7...). We give our project manager three estimates; \n \n1. What you think is the minimum number of hours/days (fastest) \n2. What you think that you could complete the task initially if you didn't encounter any problems \n3. What you think is the maximum number of hours/days (slowest)\n\nExample: \n1. 2 hours \n2. 3 hours \n3. 5 hours \n\nThis would imply that I can complete the task in 2 hours if I don't have any problems, still 3 hours if I encounter any problems (saying that I have added some 'padding' to my estimate) and If I can't still complete it under 3 hours, I have a maximum of 5 hours. If I still haven't completed the task, then the problem is on me. Either I should fix my methods or create better estimates next time." ]

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[ "How to survive an extremally busy month? and avoid burnout? A bit of context. I am in my last semester of university. It's been quite the journey. I have one month left. I made some sub-optimal decision when I picked some of my electives (going for more difficult, more practical courses than easy ones that wouldn't require a ton of effort, which I am regretting deeply considering I could've graduated then researched these topics heavily online on my own).\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am currently at the brisk of burnout. Today I spent all day in bed doing nothing useful which is something I have never done before nor I am able to afford time wise. My semester is very back-loaded with 15 big ticket items (projects, papers, presentations and tests) happening in the next 28 days.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI was wondering if anyone went through something similar, and how did you go about surviving such a busy season in your life?", "How to survive an extremally busy month? and avoid burnout? A bit of context. I am in my last semester of university. It's been quite the journey. I have one month left. I made some sub-optimal decision when I picked some of my electives (going for more difficult, more practical courses than easy ones that wouldn't require a ton of effort, which I am regretting deeply considering I could've graduated then researched these topics heavily online on my own).\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am currently at the brisk of burnout. Today I spent all day in bed doing nothing useful which is something I have never done before nor I am able to afford time wise. My semester is very back-loaded with 15 big ticket items (projects, papers, presentations and tests) happening in the next 28 days.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI was wondering if anyone went through something similar, and how did you go about surviving such a busy season in your life?", "How to survive an extremally busy month? and avoid burnout? A bit of context. I am in my last semester of university. It's been quite the journey. I have one month left. I made some sub-optimal decision when I picked some of my electives (going for more difficult, more practical courses than easy ones that wouldn't require a ton of effort, which I am regretting deeply considering I could've graduated then researched these topics heavily online on my own).\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am currently at the brisk of burnout. Today I spent all day in bed doing nothing useful which is something I have never done before nor I am able to afford time wise. My semester is very back-loaded with 15 big ticket items (projects, papers, presentations and tests) happening in the next 28 days.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI was wondering if anyone went through something similar, and how did you go about surviving such a busy season in your life?", "How to survive an extremally busy month? and avoid burnout? A bit of context. I am in my last semester of university. It's been quite the journey. I have one month left. I made some sub-optimal decision when I picked some of my electives (going for more difficult, more practical courses than easy ones that wouldn't require a ton of effort, which I am regretting deeply considering I could've graduated then researched these topics heavily online on my own).\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am currently at the brisk of burnout. Today I spent all day in bed doing nothing useful which is something I have never done before nor I am able to afford time wise. My semester is very back-loaded with 15 big ticket items (projects, papers, presentations and tests) happening in the next 28 days.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI was wondering if anyone went through something similar, and how did you go about surviving such a busy season in your life?", "How to survive an extremally busy month? and avoid burnout? A bit of context. I am in my last semester of university. It's been quite the journey. I have one month left. I made some sub-optimal decision when I picked some of my electives (going for more difficult, more practical courses than easy ones that wouldn't require a ton of effort, which I am regretting deeply considering I could've graduated then researched these topics heavily online on my own).\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am currently at the brisk of burnout. Today I spent all day in bed doing nothing useful which is something I have never done before nor I am able to afford time wise. My semester is very back-loaded with 15 big ticket items (projects, papers, presentations and tests) happening in the next 28 days.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI was wondering if anyone went through something similar, and how did you go about surviving such a busy season in your life?", "How to survive an extremally busy month? and avoid burnout? A bit of context. I am in my last semester of university. It's been quite the journey. I have one month left. I made some sub-optimal decision when I picked some of my electives (going for more difficult, more practical courses than easy ones that wouldn't require a ton of effort, which I am regretting deeply considering I could've graduated then researched these topics heavily online on my own).\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am currently at the brisk of burnout. Today I spent all day in bed doing nothing useful which is something I have never done before nor I am able to afford time wise. My semester is very back-loaded with 15 big ticket items (projects, papers, presentations and tests) happening in the next 28 days.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI was wondering if anyone went through something similar, and how did you go about surviving such a busy season in your life?", "How to survive an extremally busy month? and avoid burnout? A bit of context. I am in my last semester of university. It's been quite the journey. I have one month left. I made some sub-optimal decision when I picked some of my electives (going for more difficult, more practical courses than easy ones that wouldn't require a ton of effort, which I am regretting deeply considering I could've graduated then researched these topics heavily online on my own).\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI am currently at the brisk of burnout. Today I spent all day in bed doing nothing useful which is something I have never done before nor I am able to afford time wise. My semester is very back-loaded with 15 big ticket items (projects, papers, presentations and tests) happening in the next 28 days.\n\n&amp;#x200B;\n\nI was wondering if anyone went through something similar, and how did you go about surviving such a busy season in your life?" ]

[ "You need to plan it out. Make schedule for the remainder of your time and include freetime in it. You'll be more able to relax if you have done your scheduled 10-14 hours today and can sit down and do whatever.", "Remember the situation is temporary and let go of perfection. You’re in your last semester of university so prioritize graduating and get those assignments done first.", "Talk it out with a friend or family. Open up. When you open up to your parents you might be surprised when they start telling you stories struggles they’ve had that you’ve never heard before. \nTake time for reflection. \nSchedule work, schedule play. \nSelf care. Reward yourself with healthy rewards.", "Schedule something fun every week. You need to have a fun activities in your week. Its a way to recharge and get your mind of things. Sleep is just as important.", "Spend 30mins making yourself a date-based summary comparison thingy:\n• ‘score for a pass’ for each course \n• next due date for each\n\nSplit your daily allocation of time between courses accordingly\n\nAlso, study with others if possible. It will help with coverage of course material and may help offset anxiety.\n\nDon’t cut corners on sleep 😄👍", "Get a little exercise everyday to keep the energy up… I find this is most important when I feel the stress building up. It is good for mind and body, and doesn’t take much to make a difference - just a few 5 minute walks around the block or up and down the stairs wherever you are. Take care and good luck!", "The word is \"extremely,\" college grad. Have you submitted that McDonald's application yet? Your parents aren't going to let you stay there much longer." ]

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[ "A dance that can be applied to almost all types of music Okay, I'm sick of going to places and being the oddball who can't dance. I can move my legs and hips on rhythm but I am awkward with my hands and shoulders. I'm sure there is a simple two step I can learn or something.", "A dance that can be applied to almost all types of music Okay, I'm sick of going to places and being the oddball who can't dance. I can move my legs and hips on rhythm but I am awkward with my hands and shoulders. I'm sure there is a simple two step I can learn or something.", "A dance that can be applied to almost all types of music Okay, I'm sick of going to places and being the oddball who can't dance. I can move my legs and hips on rhythm but I am awkward with my hands and shoulders. I'm sure there is a simple two step I can learn or something.", "A dance that can be applied to almost all types of music Okay, I'm sick of going to places and being the oddball who can't dance. I can move my legs and hips on rhythm but I am awkward with my hands and shoulders. I'm sure there is a simple two step I can learn or something.", "A dance that can be applied to almost all types of music Okay, I'm sick of going to places and being the oddball who can't dance. I can move my legs and hips on rhythm but I am awkward with my hands and shoulders. I'm sure there is a simple two step I can learn or something.", "A dance that can be applied to almost all types of music Okay, I'm sick of going to places and being the oddball who can't dance. I can move my legs and hips on rhythm but I am awkward with my hands and shoulders. I'm sure there is a simple two step I can learn or something.", "A dance that can be applied to almost all types of music Okay, I'm sick of going to places and being the oddball who can't dance. I can move my legs and hips on rhythm but I am awkward with my hands and shoulders. I'm sure there is a simple two step I can learn or something." ]

[ "Learn how to count phrases like a DJ. It's easier than you think for most dance music. Almost all dance music except breakbeat (Hip-Hop, Funk, Jazz, Drum & Bass) follow a very easy pattern. The kick drum hits on every beat. Everything is in 4's. So when you hear the first beat start counting each kick: 1-2-3-4; 1-2-3-4; 1-2-3-4, 1-2-3-4. Congratulations you are now counting beats. Your feet should try to hit the floor on each number - your hands should 'hit' on each '1'. You can learn this pretty easily by listening to any dance station for about a day and counting on the kick drum.\n\nDay two start your counting like this: 1-2-3-4; **2**-2-3-4; **3**-2-3-4; **4**-2-3-4; **1**-2-3-4; **2**-2-3-4; **3**-2-3-4; **4**-2-3-4. Pop dance music mostly goes in patterns of 16 or 32, occasionally 64 or 128 (usually 128 is Trance). That means if you count those groupings every time you get back to the '1' you are at a new phrase either on the 16 (4 groups of 4 beats) or on the 32 (8 groups of 4 beats). Those are the big changes in the music. Now that you are counting phrases make a big 'flourish' or outlandish move on the '1'. This is the start of a new phrase of music. It can take a good week to train your brain to count that method so don't get too frustrated at first.\n\nPractice and get down the counting before you even get on the dance floor, then once on the floor start practicing hitting your feet at the right time (each and every number) hitting your hands with a large movement on the 1 and smaller movements on the beginning of each group of four.", "imo spend time listening to music and just start by bobbing your head to the beat... i know it's not a quick easy LPT but somethings in life you just have to put some time and effort into.\n\nAfter you can bob your head the the rhythm try maybe shruging/moving your shoulders up and down to the beat then once you get used to moving your body to the rhythm, listen to your body and get freaky and have fun :)", "Big fish, little fish, cardboard box.\n\nLook it up on YouTube. I don't have the time to find a good video myself, but its what I always use whenever I'm sober at a dance club. ", "Serious solution: Drink more and you wont care. That's what i do, i dance like a fucking idiot but when in bladdered i dont give a fuck.", "Getting your legs and hips to move on rhythm is the hard part. With your hands, place them in front of you in fists like you were going to box. Now move your fists down so they are a few inches below your chin, in front of your sternum. Now move your shoulders and elbows up and down to the rhythm of your legs/hips. This is pretty much the standard \"guy dancing\" move that seems to work for the majority of men I see dancing.\n\n", "So what I heard you saying is you want a lot of gifs of dances? Nah, I can't really give advice for anything like swing or salsa where there's a specific step, but if you're just going to any DJ'ed event with electronic or hip hop, my best advice is to imitate what people around you are doing. No one really cares how well you're dancing at a club, just don't do anything extreme in either direction, so no standing still and no arm windmills. Your arms and shoulders may feel awkward to you, but everyone is so self-absorbed with how they're dancing that they don't notice.", "As has otherwise been said, learn to internalise the beat. If it means starting with the conscious \"1,2,3,4 2,2,3,4 3,2,3,4 4,2,3,4\" thing, so be it. Eventually you'll pretty much be able to slightly bob or something convincingly to a tune and be able to predict and slight changes in a tune where it's appropriate to stop, slightly change, whatever.\n\nI'm not really good at dancing or anything, but I think I can blend in pretty well, like no one'll come home from a night saying \"Wow did you see Rerellison's dancing? How weird is he?\", nor will someone say \"He's such a good dancer\". Tbh I don't know, outside of properly choreographed stuff, how someone can be a good dancer!\n\nGenerally what I do is try to keep my bottom half going. \n\nIt could be just a kind of moving your hips, \"pulsing\" your legs left to right, anything that's not so boring as tapping your foot, but not like, Charleston-ing.\n\nThough if I were to just kinda move left to right, left to right, I'd feel like I were being repetitive and stupid (being overly conscious of what others think of me has kinda helped my 'dancing' =P) Listening to some quite dancey music right now, I want to automatically move my legs in a kinda \"L, R, L, L, R, L, R, R\" manner. This gives enough diversity and non-repetitive movement to seem like it's quite an apt basis for \"dancing\".\n\nI'd say change it up, but not so much that you look frantic, like, maybe over emphasise one leg during a build-up or something. It's all a lot of thinking for something that isn't particularly noticeable, but if you're worried about looking right I guess you're gonna be doing a lot of thinking anyway! =P\n\nAs for arms that's where I have the most trouble.\n\nThe most important thing is to stay loose. I know a guy who always looks super tight with his arms, and it looks obvious, kinda looks like he's doing the robot mixed with some kung-fu shit. This doesn't make for good dancing.\n\nI often tend to keep my hands around my pocket area, but arms loose and easy with very slight movements to the music. Maybe if your hips are slightly rotating, let your shoulders follow them (as with everything else I've put, not too much, or you'll look like you're dancing to samba or something =P), maybe occasionally bring your arms up a bit, but not in a way where you'll look like [Anthony Keidis](http://images2.fanpop.com/image/photos/12500000/Ak-dance-anthony-kiedis-12537997-200-160.gif).\n\nI'm rambling cos to be honest I don't really understand my full thought process when it comes to this stuff, but I have been in the same predicament as you and have gotten much better. I think the main thing to think is that subtlety is key. You don't want to look like you aren't moving, but you definitely don't want to be overly flashy if you're conscious of not being able to dance.\n\nGet comfortable with the beat and keep moving I guess! =)" ]

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[ "How to stop your dog from escaping (over 6 ft fences) I have a medium sized, very active dog. We aren't home a lot during the days, and I hate leaving her tied up all day, but I have to for her safety.\nIf we leave her free in the yard, there is a good chance she will climb/jump our 6 ft picketed fences that encompass the yard. (She also likes to find other ways to escape, that we look out for. If there are no other ways, she goes over.)\nI know it's very dangerous for her to be going over these fences, and to be roaming the streets all day. I don't want to keep her tied up though.\nI think my dog will always find a way to escape, so:\nWhat can I do to stop my dog from trying to escape?", "How to stop your dog from escaping (over 6 ft fences) I have a medium sized, very active dog. We aren't home a lot during the days, and I hate leaving her tied up all day, but I have to for her safety.\nIf we leave her free in the yard, there is a good chance she will climb/jump our 6 ft picketed fences that encompass the yard. (She also likes to find other ways to escape, that we look out for. If there are no other ways, she goes over.)\nI know it's very dangerous for her to be going over these fences, and to be roaming the streets all day. I don't want to keep her tied up though.\nI think my dog will always find a way to escape, so:\nWhat can I do to stop my dog from trying to escape?", "How to stop your dog from escaping (over 6 ft fences) I have a medium sized, very active dog. We aren't home a lot during the days, and I hate leaving her tied up all day, but I have to for her safety.\nIf we leave her free in the yard, there is a good chance she will climb/jump our 6 ft picketed fences that encompass the yard. (She also likes to find other ways to escape, that we look out for. If there are no other ways, she goes over.)\nI know it's very dangerous for her to be going over these fences, and to be roaming the streets all day. I don't want to keep her tied up though.\nI think my dog will always find a way to escape, so:\nWhat can I do to stop my dog from trying to escape?", "How to stop your dog from escaping (over 6 ft fences) I have a medium sized, very active dog. We aren't home a lot during the days, and I hate leaving her tied up all day, but I have to for her safety.\nIf we leave her free in the yard, there is a good chance she will climb/jump our 6 ft picketed fences that encompass the yard. (She also likes to find other ways to escape, that we look out for. If there are no other ways, she goes over.)\nI know it's very dangerous for her to be going over these fences, and to be roaming the streets all day. I don't want to keep her tied up though.\nI think my dog will always find a way to escape, so:\nWhat can I do to stop my dog from trying to escape?", "How to stop your dog from escaping (over 6 ft fences) I have a medium sized, very active dog. We aren't home a lot during the days, and I hate leaving her tied up all day, but I have to for her safety.\nIf we leave her free in the yard, there is a good chance she will climb/jump our 6 ft picketed fences that encompass the yard. (She also likes to find other ways to escape, that we look out for. If there are no other ways, she goes over.)\nI know it's very dangerous for her to be going over these fences, and to be roaming the streets all day. I don't want to keep her tied up though.\nI think my dog will always find a way to escape, so:\nWhat can I do to stop my dog from trying to escape?", "How to stop your dog from escaping (over 6 ft fences) I have a medium sized, very active dog. We aren't home a lot during the days, and I hate leaving her tied up all day, but I have to for her safety.\nIf we leave her free in the yard, there is a good chance she will climb/jump our 6 ft picketed fences that encompass the yard. (She also likes to find other ways to escape, that we look out for. If there are no other ways, she goes over.)\nI know it's very dangerous for her to be going over these fences, and to be roaming the streets all day. I don't want to keep her tied up though.\nI think my dog will always find a way to escape, so:\nWhat can I do to stop my dog from trying to escape?", "How to stop your dog from escaping (over 6 ft fences) I have a medium sized, very active dog. We aren't home a lot during the days, and I hate leaving her tied up all day, but I have to for her safety.\nIf we leave her free in the yard, there is a good chance she will climb/jump our 6 ft picketed fences that encompass the yard. (She also likes to find other ways to escape, that we look out for. If there are no other ways, she goes over.)\nI know it's very dangerous for her to be going over these fences, and to be roaming the streets all day. I don't want to keep her tied up though.\nI think my dog will always find a way to escape, so:\nWhat can I do to stop my dog from trying to escape?" ]

[ "Get another dog.\nIf your dog escapes or destroys things, it's bored.\nOr make/buy a treat game thing - like this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=avcYKFOmcZA\n\nBut seriously get her a friend to play with so she doesn't want to escape.", "Do you walk your dog? A lot of behavioral problems stem from boredom. We have to walk our dog every morning. If he doesn't get any stimulation, he turns into a furry terrorist; he knocks over the trash, rattles the blinds, generally makes a nuisance of himself. Usually, when we're home and he does that, he looks over at us to see if he has our attention. But once you get a walk in him, he's a sweet little guy. Idle paws are the devil's minions. \n\nI'm not saying it'll fix the problem, but the more time it spends in the day napping, the less time it will spend escaping. ", "I would head over to [r/dogs](https://www.reddit.com/r/dogs) if I were you. There's some serious experts over there and it would break up the never ending chain of heart breaking posts titled \"I lost my best friend today.\"", "I've been through this too many times... We are pet people, and have had to deal with Houdini dogs.\n\nAs someone else in this thread said, your dog might be bored or lonely and you should address that for sure.\n\nHowever, you still can't let the dog get out.\n\nI can't say what is right for you and your pet, but a standard electric fence wire was the best solution for us.\n\nWe used the lowest power Electric fence transformer we could find at tractor supply. That along with a bag of stands and a roll of poly wire set us back about $80 ( Poly wire is a thin plastic rope, yellow and black to be very visible, that's laced with wire)\n\nThe stands ( there are different kinds) attach to the fence and hold the poly wire off the fence about 6\" at your preferred height from the ground.\n\nThe shock, even with the low power device is no joke. I wouldn't subject my pet to something I hadn't experienced myself so I touched it to feel the effect. It's a hell of a jolt. It feels scary but it doesn't feel crippling or deadly in any way.\n\nIn each of the situations for which I needed the electric fence... these dogs were getting out regularly, and were stubborn as hell about it. One of the dogs would jump out anytime I so much as even looked away for 2 seconds, another dog would only bolt if he saw something interesting on the other side... he was tougher though because he could clear the fence with no more effort than I'd take to step over a pine cone. \n\nAfter turning the fence on, the dogs touched it no more than twice to learn the lesson. For one of the dogs, once was enough. It feels a little harsh and I felt bad when I heard him yelp, but it was worth it. I know that the shock doesn't have any lasting harmful effect, but that leaving the yard has a strong potential for trouble or worse.\n\nThey have never ever even so much as attempted to get out since. I leave the poly wire up for the visual but unplugged the power to it three days after installing and have never had a dog try to get out ever again.\n\n", "Put rollers on the top of the fence. They're made commercially for keeping out coyotes if you want an easier install, but you can make them yourself with pvc pipe.", "Put \"Coyote Rollers\" on the top of your fence. They are basically rollers that make it nearly impossible for a dog to climb over. They were developed in Australia to keep coyotes from coming over peoples fences and killing family pets and chickens and the like. There are a few videos on YouTube showing how they work.", "For cats the big is to have an object like netting or something at a 45 degree angle at the top. It's a big preventer since the know they won't make it. May be worth a try. " ]

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[ "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG).", "How to increase my attention span again Hey guys! Off late, I am noticing my attention span is becoming shorter. I mindlessly scroll through reels and YT shorts. Earlier, I used to read full novels, or watch 3 hour+ movies without moving an inch. Any tips on how can I increase my attention span again? (of course, I am uninstalling IG)." ]

[ "The biggest reason why people who don't have a diagnosed reason to have a short attention span but find themselves with this problem (besides the obvious broad answer of social media itself) is due to the simple fact that scrolling through social media and watching YouTube videos allows you to never commit to giving up a large amount of your time. It's all about the commitment of your time. \n\nThe important part to understand is that everyone knows that they could obviously choose to shut off that 2 hour movie, put down that book, or stop working on that painting, etc. That being considered it's not the task itself that stops you from keeping your attention but the initial idea from the start where you mentally have to commit to the said task.", "M", "Get off social media/media in general. Check the news sure, fill up your time doing something, anything.", "I had this same problem, had to ban myself from TikTok YouTube shorts and Facebook reels because they decimated my attention span, I've also been doing m", "Have blood work done and see if your levels are ok. Eg Aa low iron level is reflected in poor ability to concentrate. plus check your vision, maybe your eyes have become worse.", "Practice. Everything you want to improve on or get comfortable with takes practice. How do you want to use your attention? Do you want to use it to read, play guitar, write, something else? Start the practice of that activity, by doing it however long feels comfortable. Even if it's a few minutes. Then, gradually increase the practice time when you start to feel comfortable. Rinse and repeat.", "Not great advice here. I have found that hunkering down and working hard at focus does work. Unfortunately, not quickly. It may take a year+ to recover your former focus simply by trying to.", "That's what reels and tik tok is designed to do: to shorten your attention span. It's all intentional. Put down your phone. Delete those apps.", "Just yesterday I watched a documentary on the seemingly sinking IQ. On contributing factor that was discussed was the amount of stimulation we have nowadays through technology. Basically our brain is like a giant filter that is supposed to focus only on what's important and grabs your attention. But if everything grabs your attention and is exciting, then how could the brain filter out unimportant stuff? It was actually shown in research that Stanford students did worse in (mock) exams if they had their smartphone with them but silent and even worse if they had it lying on the table as usual. Those who left their smartphones with the teacher before the exam scored best.\n\nOne exercise that was proposed was a 10-minute m" ]

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[ "when to let your employer know you're dissatisfied and looking for a new job. Should I keep it on the down low or let them know for leverage?", "when to let your employer know you're dissatisfied and looking for a new job. Should I keep it on the down low or let them know for leverage?", "when to let your employer know you're dissatisfied and looking for a new job. Should I keep it on the down low or let them know for leverage?", "when to let your employer know you're dissatisfied and looking for a new job. Should I keep it on the down low or let them know for leverage?", "when to let your employer know you're dissatisfied and looking for a new job. Should I keep it on the down low or let them know for leverage?", "when to let your employer know you're dissatisfied and looking for a new job. Should I keep it on the down low or let them know for leverage?", "when to let your employer know you're dissatisfied and looking for a new job. Should I keep it on the down low or let them know for leverage?" ]

[ "Is there something specific you are dissatisfied with? Can your boss do something about it? If so, consider discussing it with them.\n\nOtherwise, tell them when you give them your notice.", "Don't say you're dissatisfied with your job -- especially if you're an hourly employee. It won't give you leverage, they'll just start looking for your replacement -- especially if they can replace you for cheaper than your current wages.\n\nKeep quiet until you get a new job, unless you can live without one for a while.", "Assuming here that you're not talking about retail or food service because in those cases nobody cares, just bounce the minute you have another offer.\n\nMost of the time, your best option is NOT to let them know. Just find a new job and give your current one two weeks notice and handle the whole thing very professionally.\n\nSerious LPT though: don't bring up your dissatisfaction with your current job during your interviews or in your exit interview with your current employer if applicable. The first can come across to potential employers as a bad attitude or lack of flexibility, the latter falls under the heading of burning bridges. Years down the road you may want to come back to this employer, for a different boss or a different role, and if you take a figurative (or literal) shit on your manager's desk it'll get remembered forever and grow in the retelling. \"I'm thankful for the experience I got here and to have worked with a great team, but it's best for me professionally to take this opportunity.\"\n\nNow, there is a very small set of circumstances where it's worth it to say something about being dissatisfied, and that's if you think you have a chance to change something so that you'd stay (like you could report to a different boss, or if your boss is literally abusive and needs to be disciplined).\n\n", "You don't have leverage until you have another offer though. Wait until you've been offered another position to speak to your current boss. ", "What are you dissatisfied with?\n\nThe actual job? Then don't say anything. \n\nThe amount of work (or lack there of?). Say something next time you see your boss. Im looking more responsibilities, is there anything more I can do?\n\nNot appreciated but feel like you're working your butt off? Maybe you're spending time doing the wrong things. Ask your boss if there's anything you're not doing that they'd like to see you take on.\n\nYour colleagues getting on your nerves? Don't say anything until you find another job.", "If it's something you think they'd be willing to fix (and that would be ok) let them know straight away and see what they say. If it doesn't sound good, then start looking for a new job. \nIf you're actually pissed off enough/don't think they would or could fix it sufficiently to leave, then tell them when you have a job offer.\n\nTL;Dr tell of problems straight away, of planning on leaving when you have a new offer", " The only time you ever let your current employer know you're looking for a different job is after you've already received a written offer letter from your new job.\n\nThen, you go to your current employer, and if you still want to work for them have a number in mind already that it would take to keep you and stick to it. If the say no to what it would take to keep you, do not negotiate. You already have a new job waiting for you.\n\nPut your two weeks notice in, and move on. " ]

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[ "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m", "What is the best tactic to MENTALLY keep work at work? I physically do not bring work to home, but sometimes I mentally obsess over things I have to do the next day. A little background here: I am recent college grad who just got my first \"real\" job about 6 months ago. I'm struggling to keep work out of mind while not at work... Sometimes it keeps me up at night, sometimes I get a little depressed if I make a mistake in my work. I've woken up at 3 am and just had racing thoughts of things that I need to do tomorrow.\n\n Any tips to not do this? I've tried making lists, m" ]

[ "This sounds stupid when I think about it but:\nI have a mental box. In my imagination I've decorated the box. It always looks the same. \nWhen I'm stressing about something I mentally open the box, sweep up shit I'm thinking about in a mental dust pan and put it in the box. I put the lid on the box and I tell myself it's off limits till I open it again. \n\nThis sounds strange but I've made a habit of it. I've done this mental exercise enough that it really works. Freakishly so. ", "I think it comes with experience. I don't care about work me...fuck him...weekend me is better...they have never met.", "When those work-related issues come to mind I would just write them down. It's probably you subconciously thinking that without mentally rehearsing those problems constantly you'll forget them.", "I tend to mentally obsess over whatever it is I do: college, law school, work. It got to the point where my sleep wasn't restful because I'd dream all night about it. \n\nFirst, I have a physical close-off, where I mentally acknowledge that (in this case, work) is done. For example, purposefully close up your office while dictating in your mind why you are closing up. Shut down computer, \"my tasks for today are complete.\" Turn off the light, \"I won't be working until tomorrow/Monday\". Close office door, \"I am done with everything in this office.\"\n\nSecond, and the thing that saved my sanity, especially in law school, is to engage your mind in something COMPLETELY different from what you do for work. Passivity (watching TV) doesn't work. I read fantasy or sci-fi. At least one chapter, no matter what. I think it's important to get my brain \"looking\" at different things. \n\nLastly, our brains continue to problem-solve, even when we're not actively seeking the answer. Keep a little notebook around and jot down anything that comes to you that seems important. When you've finished writing, close the notebook, \"I'm done with this thought.\"\n\nSome of this is like cognitive behavioural modification. You see the problem, you acknowledge that you see the problem and you move on. By acknowledging and moving on, you may be able to train yourself to not stew on things. ", "Take the long way home. Allow yourself to completely decompress from work before you move onto the \"you\" portion of your day. When you're home, work is over. If something critical comes to mind, write it down and leave it with your work stuff that will go in with you the next work day.", "This is hard advice to take, and so, it's hard advice to give:\n\nIf you ever find yourself stressing out about something that you have no control over at that moment, just make the decision to stop thinking about it (now that you've given the rational side of your mind solid reason to ignore it, it does much better at it). I read it somewhere simply put as \"If you can't do something about it, why worry? If you're doing something about it, why worry?\"", "Talk to yourself. I have a tendency to obsess about things that I need to fix, but for different reasons can't be fixed until next day/next week. To buypass this obsession, I say to myself, out loud: \"I don't have to worry about this now. It can be dealt with tomorrow, and everything will work out just fine\". You have to say it out loud, so that you *hear* it. Like someone else is giving you direction. I typically do it while alone in my car. No way I'm letting on that I'm coocoo.\n\n\nI didn't even get this tip anywhere. It came to me out of desperation, and to my surprise, it actually calmed me down and let me go on with my day.\n", "My advice would be to get either, a hobby that will occupy your mind, or think of tasks to achieve in your home/life. I used to obsess about what was in store for my shitty day at work the next day.. I've since joined a band, and now before work ends, I find myself eager to get home and practice/write... Also Exercise is HUGE.... \n\n\nOne Final suggestion, Try m", "I used to have this problem and it got really bad when I started to work from home. \n\nThe biggest thing that helped is to do a brain dump of what is left to do for the current tasks, any roadblocks that I've run into and ideas to get past them. I do this about 30 minutes before I take off for the day and it helps me get everything out of my head. I've found that writing it down on paper is more helpful than typing it.", "I used to do this constantly when I got my first job out of college (I graduated in 2014). It was mainly because I had a boss who would only ever e-mail people back and do most of his work around the hours of 8PM-3AM. He would get mad if you didn't respond to an e-mail he sent at midnight (I was usually asleep). You can't let your new job take away your personal life. You have a right to a life outside of work, for your own mental health, as well as your mindset as an employee. Overworked and overburdened employees are no good to any company.\n\nIn my first job, I was so unable to keep up because the boss and I were incredibly out of sync when it came to schedules. \n\nNow, at my NEW job, work ends at 5:30 for literally everyone in the office, and the same goes for our vendors. When we're done, we're done...even on the weekends. And it's such a relief. While at work, I have multiple google sheets spreadsheets that track my daily to-dos as well as the bigger picture regarding projects. This helps me know exactly what I have to do, what I've done, when it's due, etc. If it's not done and I can easily get it finished, I'll do everything I can before I leave...if not, it's okay if it gets done tomorrow. But I'll know it's safe to put it off until then (like if I'm waiting on someone else so I can finish, etc). \n\nI find being able to visually write down the things I need to do is extremely helpful in being able to clear my head. Instead of storing it in your brain and force yourself to remember, all you have to do is take a look at your sheets every hour or so and figure out what you have to do. \n\nAs for obsessing over mistakes, I ALSO did this in my first job. It became so unbearable that I eventually made myself sick over problems that would not really have otherwise been that big a deal. I ended up obsessing over the little things so much that I became a self-fulfilling prophecy: I was let go. (But to be honest, I'm so much better off so it was ok, I hated it there)\n\nGoing to the gym a few times during the week also helps me feel a lot better-- whether it's in the morning before work, or after. \n\n(", "I run my own business and it's tough to \"clock out\" mentally. I've found that an engaging hobby that works your brain can really help to put work out of your mind. I like working on old motorcycles, which is a lot of brain work and gives me fun challenges to think about. ", "I need help with this too. For me it's either a) can't stop thinking about work or b) don't think about work at all and then fuck it up the next day because I forgot something. ", "I had the same issue, and found myself getting burnt out at work. I work for a semi-small family-owned company where most people do not get paid what they are suppose too, and the owner drives a Ferrari to work. I like my job, but eventually i asked myself if it was worth the stress. The answer to myself was, \"No, I do not drive the Ferrari to work.\" It may seem petty, but now when I get anxious or stressed about the work I am doing I tell myself I do not drive the Ferrari. It works better than I ever thought possible. ", "I don't know what kind of work you do, but what works for me is to set goals for myself. I tend to have a lot of projects at once so I keep up with each of them on a big white board. Under each is everything that I have done or needs to be done for that project. If my boss puts a deadline on something, that goes on the board. Otherwise I try to get through it in the order I'm given the work, or sometimes take care of smaller projects because it feels good to get something finished. Having everything organized in that way and having a basic game plan of how everything needs to get done helps me stress out a lot less when I'm away from work. ", "Hopefully you are working on something valuable and meaningful. If so then \"work\" is a good thing. I absolutely hate it when people go on about work-life balance. Thinking about work can be an opportunity to consider how to improve and get better. When you are older and stalled in your career and looking for ways to advance you certainly aren't going to look back on all those fun weekends playing beach volleyball 15 years ago. Or whatever it is you think is so much more important than work.", "Don't take it so seriously. Is what you're doing really that important? Is it life-changing? What would happen if your company suddenly blinked out of existance? (Is the answer that humanity would move on?) Try to keep those questions in mind." ]

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[ "What's the best way to deal with a couple beneath me who's always fighting? We live on the third story of a brownstone. Each floor is an apartment. The couple in question moved in to the apartment below us about 8 months ago. The fights have become increasingly loud in the last two months. Usually they'd be done before 11p. Now the shouting is happening at two or three in the morning. Alcohol is likely a factor.\n\nThere's no physical abuse that I can detect. They just seem to be one of \"those\" couples who should not be together. I suspect their friends would agree. He seems like he has a rage problem and she seems like a needy, insecure girl. It's awful because together they seem to embody the stereotype of a white dysfunctional couple. \n\nThings I've done recently:\n2am fight - I banged on the floor - they moved the fight to the other side of the building.\n\n3am fight - Opened my front door and shouted, can you please stop! They stopped briefly and moved to the other side of the building. I followed and stomped on the floor, but it only had a momentary effect.\n\nNotes:\nI'm older now and confrontation is not nearly as appealing as when I was a younger. If I was in my twenties and single, I'd bang on the door and tell them to shut the fuck up. But I'm married now and all I care about is her peace.\n\nI feel like leaving a note is passive/aggressive and I have now data to judge the efficacy anyway.\n\nLandlord is very much absentee. He's not a bad guy, but I have little confidence in his enthusiasm for dealing with a problem like this.\n\nWisdom from the world is welcome. \n\nALSO: Ask any questions. I'm happy to clarify any detail.", "What's the best way to deal with a couple beneath me who's always fighting? We live on the third story of a brownstone. Each floor is an apartment. The couple in question moved in to the apartment below us about 8 months ago. The fights have become increasingly loud in the last two months. Usually they'd be done before 11p. Now the shouting is happening at two or three in the morning. Alcohol is likely a factor.\n\nThere's no physical abuse that I can detect. They just seem to be one of \"those\" couples who should not be together. I suspect their friends would agree. He seems like he has a rage problem and she seems like a needy, insecure girl. It's awful because together they seem to embody the stereotype of a white dysfunctional couple. \n\nThings I've done recently:\n2am fight - I banged on the floor - they moved the fight to the other side of the building.\n\n3am fight - Opened my front door and shouted, can you please stop! They stopped briefly and moved to the other side of the building. I followed and stomped on the floor, but it only had a momentary effect.\n\nNotes:\nI'm older now and confrontation is not nearly as appealing as when I was a younger. If I was in my twenties and single, I'd bang on the door and tell them to shut the fuck up. But I'm married now and all I care about is her peace.\n\nI feel like leaving a note is passive/aggressive and I have now data to judge the efficacy anyway.\n\nLandlord is very much absentee. He's not a bad guy, but I have little confidence in his enthusiasm for dealing with a problem like this.\n\nWisdom from the world is welcome. \n\nALSO: Ask any questions. I'm happy to clarify any detail.", "What's the best way to deal with a couple beneath me who's always fighting? We live on the third story of a brownstone. Each floor is an apartment. The couple in question moved in to the apartment below us about 8 months ago. The fights have become increasingly loud in the last two months. Usually they'd be done before 11p. Now the shouting is happening at two or three in the morning. Alcohol is likely a factor.\n\nThere's no physical abuse that I can detect. They just seem to be one of \"those\" couples who should not be together. I suspect their friends would agree. He seems like he has a rage problem and she seems like a needy, insecure girl. It's awful because together they seem to embody the stereotype of a white dysfunctional couple. \n\nThings I've done recently:\n2am fight - I banged on the floor - they moved the fight to the other side of the building.\n\n3am fight - Opened my front door and shouted, can you please stop! They stopped briefly and moved to the other side of the building. I followed and stomped on the floor, but it only had a momentary effect.\n\nNotes:\nI'm older now and confrontation is not nearly as appealing as when I was a younger. If I was in my twenties and single, I'd bang on the door and tell them to shut the fuck up. But I'm married now and all I care about is her peace.\n\nI feel like leaving a note is passive/aggressive and I have now data to judge the efficacy anyway.\n\nLandlord is very much absentee. He's not a bad guy, but I have little confidence in his enthusiasm for dealing with a problem like this.\n\nWisdom from the world is welcome. \n\nALSO: Ask any questions. I'm happy to clarify any detail.", "What's the best way to deal with a couple beneath me who's always fighting? We live on the third story of a brownstone. Each floor is an apartment. The couple in question moved in to the apartment below us about 8 months ago. The fights have become increasingly loud in the last two months. Usually they'd be done before 11p. Now the shouting is happening at two or three in the morning. Alcohol is likely a factor.\n\nThere's no physical abuse that I can detect. They just seem to be one of \"those\" couples who should not be together. I suspect their friends would agree. He seems like he has a rage problem and she seems like a needy, insecure girl. It's awful because together they seem to embody the stereotype of a white dysfunctional couple. \n\nThings I've done recently:\n2am fight - I banged on the floor - they moved the fight to the other side of the building.\n\n3am fight - Opened my front door and shouted, can you please stop! They stopped briefly and moved to the other side of the building. I followed and stomped on the floor, but it only had a momentary effect.\n\nNotes:\nI'm older now and confrontation is not nearly as appealing as when I was a younger. If I was in my twenties and single, I'd bang on the door and tell them to shut the fuck up. But I'm married now and all I care about is her peace.\n\nI feel like leaving a note is passive/aggressive and I have now data to judge the efficacy anyway.\n\nLandlord is very much absentee. He's not a bad guy, but I have little confidence in his enthusiasm for dealing with a problem like this.\n\nWisdom from the world is welcome. \n\nALSO: Ask any questions. I'm happy to clarify any detail.", "What's the best way to deal with a couple beneath me who's always fighting? We live on the third story of a brownstone. Each floor is an apartment. The couple in question moved in to the apartment below us about 8 months ago. The fights have become increasingly loud in the last two months. Usually they'd be done before 11p. Now the shouting is happening at two or three in the morning. Alcohol is likely a factor.\n\nThere's no physical abuse that I can detect. They just seem to be one of \"those\" couples who should not be together. I suspect their friends would agree. He seems like he has a rage problem and she seems like a needy, insecure girl. It's awful because together they seem to embody the stereotype of a white dysfunctional couple. \n\nThings I've done recently:\n2am fight - I banged on the floor - they moved the fight to the other side of the building.\n\n3am fight - Opened my front door and shouted, can you please stop! They stopped briefly and moved to the other side of the building. I followed and stomped on the floor, but it only had a momentary effect.\n\nNotes:\nI'm older now and confrontation is not nearly as appealing as when I was a younger. If I was in my twenties and single, I'd bang on the door and tell them to shut the fuck up. But I'm married now and all I care about is her peace.\n\nI feel like leaving a note is passive/aggressive and I have now data to judge the efficacy anyway.\n\nLandlord is very much absentee. He's not a bad guy, but I have little confidence in his enthusiasm for dealing with a problem like this.\n\nWisdom from the world is welcome. \n\nALSO: Ask any questions. I'm happy to clarify any detail.", "What's the best way to deal with a couple beneath me who's always fighting? We live on the third story of a brownstone. Each floor is an apartment. The couple in question moved in to the apartment below us about 8 months ago. The fights have become increasingly loud in the last two months. Usually they'd be done before 11p. Now the shouting is happening at two or three in the morning. Alcohol is likely a factor.\n\nThere's no physical abuse that I can detect. They just seem to be one of \"those\" couples who should not be together. I suspect their friends would agree. He seems like he has a rage problem and she seems like a needy, insecure girl. It's awful because together they seem to embody the stereotype of a white dysfunctional couple. \n\nThings I've done recently:\n2am fight - I banged on the floor - they moved the fight to the other side of the building.\n\n3am fight - Opened my front door and shouted, can you please stop! They stopped briefly and moved to the other side of the building. I followed and stomped on the floor, but it only had a momentary effect.\n\nNotes:\nI'm older now and confrontation is not nearly as appealing as when I was a younger. If I was in my twenties and single, I'd bang on the door and tell them to shut the fuck up. But I'm married now and all I care about is her peace.\n\nI feel like leaving a note is passive/aggressive and I have now data to judge the efficacy anyway.\n\nLandlord is very much absentee. He's not a bad guy, but I have little confidence in his enthusiasm for dealing with a problem like this.\n\nWisdom from the world is welcome. \n\nALSO: Ask any questions. I'm happy to clarify any detail.", "What's the best way to deal with a couple beneath me who's always fighting? We live on the third story of a brownstone. Each floor is an apartment. The couple in question moved in to the apartment below us about 8 months ago. The fights have become increasingly loud in the last two months. Usually they'd be done before 11p. Now the shouting is happening at two or three in the morning. Alcohol is likely a factor.\n\nThere's no physical abuse that I can detect. They just seem to be one of \"those\" couples who should not be together. I suspect their friends would agree. He seems like he has a rage problem and she seems like a needy, insecure girl. It's awful because together they seem to embody the stereotype of a white dysfunctional couple. \n\nThings I've done recently:\n2am fight - I banged on the floor - they moved the fight to the other side of the building.\n\n3am fight - Opened my front door and shouted, can you please stop! They stopped briefly and moved to the other side of the building. I followed and stomped on the floor, but it only had a momentary effect.\n\nNotes:\nI'm older now and confrontation is not nearly as appealing as when I was a younger. If I was in my twenties and single, I'd bang on the door and tell them to shut the fuck up. But I'm married now and all I care about is her peace.\n\nI feel like leaving a note is passive/aggressive and I have now data to judge the efficacy anyway.\n\nLandlord is very much absentee. He's not a bad guy, but I have little confidence in his enthusiasm for dealing with a problem like this.\n\nWisdom from the world is welcome. \n\nALSO: Ask any questions. I'm happy to clarify any detail." ]

[ "Grab two cards from two divorce lawyers and a card from a civil lawsuit lawyer, also grab a quote from a sound proofing company and staple the lawyers card to the soundproofing quote. \n\nOn the divorce lawyers cards, write *his* on one, *hers* on the other and write *pick one* on the civil lawyers card. Duct tape it to their door.", "i have the same problem, the first time I knocked on the door while they were arguing and politely told them they were super loud and interrupting my sleep. the second time I wrote the Landlord a letter and the third time I called the cops.", "Police. Police. Police. After a handful of complaints and a lot of noise violation tickets the landlord will evict them. By the sound of things it will only take a month.", "Record them and then, when they finally settle down and go to bed, stand outside their door with a boom box turned all the way up and play it back. When they open the door say, oh, i am sorry, was the noise bothering you? ", "Proceed with care. You are not dealing with people who are in a rational state of mind. I'm not saying they are psychopaths; I'm saying they've at a minimum lost their awareness of themselves and their surroundings, and at worst really are psychopaths-in-training.\n\nYou want to find a way to de-escalate the situation without becoming the target of the situation. Police showing up could do that, but think it through; better, call the police and ask their advice. Local patrol officers have a pretty good feel for their patrol neighborhoods.", "empty a pack of m&m's on their door step every morning may not stop them from fighting but I would be curious to see how they react", "What I do to neighbors like that is to wait until the middle of summer and turn of the main breaker so the A/C stops and in winter shut off the gas so the heater and waterheater shut down " ]

[ 21, 11, 8, 7, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Someone got ahold of inappropriate photos of me from years ago and now they’re harassing me I’m getting text messages from one of those fake number text apps. They have disclosed that they know my name, where I live and work, and are sending photos I took years ago for my partner (who I know has never shared them.) What can I do? They obviously hacked something. I’m not sure if I have enough to file a report or go to law enforcement but I will if they continue. I have yet to respond but I feel incredibly violated. Not sure where else to post or who to ask\n\nUpdate/", "Someone got ahold of inappropriate photos of me from years ago and now they’re harassing me I’m getting text messages from one of those fake number text apps. They have disclosed that they know my name, where I live and work, and are sending photos I took years ago for my partner (who I know has never shared them.) What can I do? They obviously hacked something. I’m not sure if I have enough to file a report or go to law enforcement but I will if they continue. I have yet to respond but I feel incredibly violated. Not sure where else to post or who to ask\n\nUpdate/", "Someone got ahold of inappropriate photos of me from years ago and now they’re harassing me I’m getting text messages from one of those fake number text apps. They have disclosed that they know my name, where I live and work, and are sending photos I took years ago for my partner (who I know has never shared them.) What can I do? They obviously hacked something. I’m not sure if I have enough to file a report or go to law enforcement but I will if they continue. I have yet to respond but I feel incredibly violated. Not sure where else to post or who to ask\n\nUpdate/", "Someone got ahold of inappropriate photos of me from years ago and now they’re harassing me I’m getting text messages from one of those fake number text apps. They have disclosed that they know my name, where I live and work, and are sending photos I took years ago for my partner (who I know has never shared them.) What can I do? They obviously hacked something. I’m not sure if I have enough to file a report or go to law enforcement but I will if they continue. I have yet to respond but I feel incredibly violated. Not sure where else to post or who to ask\n\nUpdate/", "Someone got ahold of inappropriate photos of me from years ago and now they’re harassing me I’m getting text messages from one of those fake number text apps. They have disclosed that they know my name, where I live and work, and are sending photos I took years ago for my partner (who I know has never shared them.) What can I do? They obviously hacked something. I’m not sure if I have enough to file a report or go to law enforcement but I will if they continue. I have yet to respond but I feel incredibly violated. Not sure where else to post or who to ask\n\nUpdate/", "Someone got ahold of inappropriate photos of me from years ago and now they’re harassing me I’m getting text messages from one of those fake number text apps. They have disclosed that they know my name, where I live and work, and are sending photos I took years ago for my partner (who I know has never shared them.) What can I do? They obviously hacked something. I’m not sure if I have enough to file a report or go to law enforcement but I will if they continue. I have yet to respond but I feel incredibly violated. Not sure where else to post or who to ask\n\nUpdate/", "Someone got ahold of inappropriate photos of me from years ago and now they’re harassing me I’m getting text messages from one of those fake number text apps. They have disclosed that they know my name, where I live and work, and are sending photos I took years ago for my partner (who I know has never shared them.) What can I do? They obviously hacked something. I’m not sure if I have enough to file a report or go to law enforcement but I will if they continue. I have yet to respond but I feel incredibly violated. Not sure where else to post or who to ask\n\nUpdate/" ]

[ "If they get out... Just deny that it's you. Some people look extremely similar. Given that these photos are 10 years old, they probably look at least a little different than you do now.", "I did a little Googling and found this resource which seems helpful: \n\nhttps://cybercivilrights.org/faqs-usvictims/#who-can-help\n\nI’m assuming you’re in the US. Blackmail/revenge porn (which is basically what they’re doing) is very much illegal and you have every right to get support from law enforcement. Read through the link I posted above and seek the assistance and support to nip this in the bud. I’d also recommend finding a certified therapist (if possible) to help cope with the trauma of the situation. Very sorry this is happening to you, but you can take your power back in how you respond! Best wishes!", "Update: I found out that they accessed the nudes by hacking my Snapchat and found saved photos from years ago. I got the login IP address and coordinates but it led to a park, so I’m sure whoever hacked into it was a step ahead there.", "Sorry to suggest this but are you 100% sure it's not your partner? \n\nI say this as what exactly could someone have managed to hack to know all of those intimate details about you?", "OP, usually victims fall for it through fear. You don’t give them an answer at all. Time is money to these ppl, so they will move on to the next. Block that number, change your passwords/number, use fake names or deactivate your social media’s. And leave the past behind. That’s how you move ahead in life happy.", "Are you sure they really have something. \nI get spam emails all the time saying they have stuff like that but none exist.", "Not to sound crass but does it matter?\n\nAre the pictures incriminating in any way?\n\nIf not, would your partner not understand that it was something you chose to do with YOUR own body. \n\nNo one can exploit you unless you let them.\n\nIt’s not blackmail if you don’t give a shit.\n\nIf they were legal, think of all the people who have onlyfans and more.\n\nOur bodies are not something disgusting to be exploited. Its tits and a cunny. \nWe’ve all seen them.\n\nUnless you work a government job and have an active onlyfans that goes against policy, is it worth your sanity on a chance that this person will?\n\nIf so- it’s most likely someone you know. We don’t often go to depths to blackmail strangers from burners.\nThink about who might be doing this and confront or snoop. \nOr get ahead of it. \n\nUp to you." ]

[ 4, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to leave messages to your friends in case you die unexpectedly, without them knowing the messages exist before that? ", "How to leave messages to your friends in case you die unexpectedly, without them knowing the messages exist before that? ", "How to leave messages to your friends in case you die unexpectedly, without them knowing the messages exist before that? ", "How to leave messages to your friends in case you die unexpectedly, without them knowing the messages exist before that? " ]

[ "I have envelopes addressed to everyone I care about and how to reach them written on each. \nEach contains a letter of everything I would say if I suddenly kicked it. It's a hard painful process but knowing that they are there gives me some peace that I will talk to my loved ones one last time. \nI update them every year or two.", "Just add it to your Will. Then the executor of the will has to deliver the message. I think the lawyer you lodge your Will with would just subscribe to a feed from your registry of births, deaths, and marriages (or whatever your State calls that government function). The State is mostly concerned with a conflict free transfer of property ownership, but feel free to tell your brother where you hide his bong or whatever.", "I’d in all honesty call this cool place which gives direct help to the question you presented. 1 800 273 8255 these people are genius bro try em!", "Please call the National suicide hotline before making any decisions. 1 800 273 8255\n\nPlease, it can get better." ]

[ 3, 2, 0, -1 ]

[ "What to do when your Email is hacked The obvious is to change your email addresses password, but what else should be done?", "What to do when your Email is hacked The obvious is to change your email addresses password, but what else should be done?" ]

[ "Double check the forwarding setting to make sure your emails aren't being forwarded. Change the passwords of every account associated with that email. ", "A lot of \"next steps\" beyond the obvious can be dependent on your email service provider. Who do you use for email (Gmail, Yahoo, Outlook.com, etc)? " ]

[ 5, 1 ]

[ "Making keyboards quieter I work in a call centre and lately there have been a few people that find the need to smash on their enter key and it's driving me crazy. I've already tried asking them to stop but they look at me like i'm insane. Is there anything I can stick under their keys so it's not as loud? Thanks!\n\n", "Making keyboards quieter I work in a call centre and lately there have been a few people that find the need to smash on their enter key and it's driving me crazy. I've already tried asking them to stop but they look at me like i'm insane. Is there anything I can stick under their keys so it's not as loud? Thanks!\n\n", "Making keyboards quieter I work in a call centre and lately there have been a few people that find the need to smash on their enter key and it's driving me crazy. I've already tried asking them to stop but they look at me like i'm insane. Is there anything I can stick under their keys so it's not as loud? Thanks!\n\n", "Making keyboards quieter I work in a call centre and lately there have been a few people that find the need to smash on their enter key and it's driving me crazy. I've already tried asking them to stop but they look at me like i'm insane. Is there anything I can stick under their keys so it's not as loud? Thanks!\n\n", "Making keyboards quieter I work in a call centre and lately there have been a few people that find the need to smash on their enter key and it's driving me crazy. I've already tried asking them to stop but they look at me like i'm insane. Is there anything I can stick under their keys so it's not as loud? Thanks!\n\n" ]

[ "Write an autohotkey script that disables the enter key but can be paused with a key stroke only you know. The person will think their enter key is broken, you could then \"get it working\" again for them and make them think it broke because they were typing too hard, repeat as necessary. Since you've already been caught fiddling with it they'll probably figure out it's you though.", "This depends on the type of keyboard they are using, if they are using a \"mechanical\" style keyboard, these are made to click for audible and tactile feedback.\n\nIf they are using a standard keyboard you may be a little out of luck, those are usually rather quiet, but if the user is smashing the keyboard that's on them. If you can pop off the keys, and it is a switch type keyboard, you can get 1/4 inch o-rings [here](http://www.wasdkeyboards.com/index.php/products/keyboard-accessories-2/cherry-mx-rubber-switch-dampeners.html)", "http://elitekeyboards.com/products.php?sub=access#slpads\n\nonly for certain keyboards that are already loud - and it doesn't silence the keypresses, but does help", "You can get them the [Keyboard Silencer](http://technabob.com/blog/2010/11/22/thanko-keyboard-silencer/)!", "Get a mechanical keyboard - they have a slightly louder, very satisfying, *click-click-click-click* sound that makes me feel productive, and ignore anyone else typing loudly." ]

[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?", "An easy way to write on paper while standing with just the paper If you dont have anything on you except a pen and paper, can you write on the paper without poking through it or something?" ]

[ "Using Rollerball pens (Uniball eye), gel pens or fountain pens reduces the need for pressure when you are writing. I would generally suggest getting a suitable small notebook or, failing that, fold the sheet a couple of times to give it some support", "It really depends on what you are doing, and the circumstances surrounding the paper writing.\n\nGenerally, using a pen that will not go thru the paper is better--a gelly pen or felt pen/sharpie would be better than a ball point. \n\nIf you're taking notes, fold the paper.\nIf you are just signing something, use someone's back, use the floor, find a table, use your cell phone, or just use your hand...basically find something to write on.\n\nAsk yourself why you are limiting yourself to just the paper and pen...rather than having a clipboard or a writing pad/note pad---maybe you don't need the limitations.\n\nUsing the right tools makes you more professional. ", "My phone is always in my pocket, I just bend over and press the paper against the outside of my pocket with the phone. ", "why would you only have a pen and paper on you? in any rate, invest in a clipboard and a sketch pad for it. or buy decent pocket sized notebooks.\n\n", "Utilize your environment!\n\nWall, friends back, knee, pole, or sometimes just put your hand behind the paper your writing on.", "Use the front or back of your phone as a surface. I do it all the time and it makes me feel good to watch fools cutting through their paper while mine remains pretty and flat.\n", "The best option would be to put it up against a wall - but if for whatever reason, there are no walls around:\n\nFor jotting down some quick note, take a knee and put the paper on top of your other knee.\n\nIf you have to write an essay, just put the paper on the floor.", "Just accept that this task is extremely difficult\nInstead of writing everything out\nthe best approach is to shorthand everything\n\nIn the time that you could write it out full if you were sitting at a table it will take you the same time to shorthand a name.. a number or a trigger to let you remember.", "Flex your forearm of your nonwriting hand and use that. The top where your arm hair is isn't very sensitive so that's ideal. If you have something to put your foot on, your thigh works very well. Try to get a felt tipped pen or just a very thick tipped ballpoint gel pen that won't keep piercing the paper. \n\nI actually use a set of charcoal art pencils and sometimes wax pencils to mark things like tallies and checklists if I have to stand. ", "A fountain pen. Just tried it. It works I dunno if will be better than a rollerball. I only have crappy fountain pens so can someone test with a lamy or a cross maybe even a Parker. Yes I know of the FAR better ones but since I'm saying a lamy is better than what I have then you can only guess.", "I have this problem at banks now that most have removed the counters that used to be positioned next to the teller lines. So these days I simply grab a stack of deposit slips (usually only takes about 10 or so) in order to write out mine. \n\nOtherwise, I usually have the day's paper with me (yes, ironic for someone who spends so much time on reddit, I know) and use it. " ]

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[ "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. ", "What can I initiate now that works in the background of my life, and that can significantly enrich my life. " ]

[ "I'd say f.lux on your computer. It adjusts the color/temperature of the light of your monitor to match a daylight system (you can tell it when to do it), and it makes it much easier to fall asleep.", "cut out wheat, dairy, start your mornings with eggs, almond milk protein drinks and remove hand held technology from your reach 1 hour before bed.\nTravel, culturalize yourself, compliment 5 strangers who are less than attractive and make their day(almost altruistically), m", "Plant some new friendships and take care of the ones you've got. Ditto for relatives, weird as they may be you cannot get a new set. \n\nDisclaimer: if any of your friends or relatives are evil and toxic, they are exempt from this suggestion.", "Automatically deduct 10% of your paycheck to savings. You won't miss it, but you'll sure be glad you saved it.", "Make friends.\n\nLots of friends.\n\nIts not about being gregarious or friendly. Its about holes that you can or can't fill. If someone needs help, help them. Chances are, if you can do something they can't, they can do something you can't. That's synergy. Synergize with lots of people.\n\nDon't keep bad friends, but if you meet someone whom you think cross-pollination would be mutually-beneficial, keeping contact with them costs peanuts and its someone that you can give advices to and get advices from.", "If I could reply to my younger self :\n\nDevelop routines of healthy eating, exercise, and sleep. Pursue goals of interests that I hunger for. Reach out to other people with common interests. Think of every interaction as an opportunity to teach or learn- or both. ", "Lending club and prosper. Peer to peer lending sites that can take your capital and automatically lend it out to people for interest. You can manually do it as well. I have made good returns. If I had more capital I could make more", "To every emotion or decision you have, ask yourself \"Why?\" and try to answer honestly. And keep asking why until you understand what's happening with yourself.\n\nExample: I have a friend that was really annoying to me. She keeps bragging about herself and offhandedly putting others down. Now this in no way affect me so I shouldn't care, but it REALLY bothered me. And when I applied the \"Why\" test to it, it dawned on me that her bragging about herself annoyed me because I realized that I, too, sometimes did that. And to that realization, \"Why' led me to realize that I didn't have very good self-esteem. Bragging and talking others down was my way of lifting myself up. \n\nI've taken steps to address all of this (for myself) and I can honestly say, I'm much happier for it.", "Dental hygiene (brush 2x and floss 1x/day) and regular checkups if you can possibly afford them. This advice might sound stupid, but poor oral hygiene is linked to all kinds of other health problems.\n\nAlso other people have said this, but retirement savings of some kind – 401k, 403b, and/or IRA (Roth if you think your income will be higher in retirement than it is today, traditional if you're making a ton now and think your income will be lower in retirement). If you have matching from your employer, always make sure you're getting their maximum contribution.\n\n", "Set up as many passive income sources as you can, and drop all of them in to retirement accounts. Do this early, and entertain yourself, when your older, by looking at the magic of compound interest.", "1. Get a piggy bank. Put small change in it every week. In a year or so you will be able to afford something special that you would otherwise not have bought.\n2. Plant some vegetables. It is a joy to see them grow and they taste delicious. Or just plant some spices. Or a tree. \n3. Get a waterbottle made of glass or steel. You won't need to buy water when you go out, but just fill up your waterbottle with tap water. Less plastic will be good for you and for the environment. \n\n" ]

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[ "How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts. ", "How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts. ", "How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts. ", "How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts. ", "How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts. ", "How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts. ", "How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts. " ]

[ "**LPT: How to reason with someone who is being completely irrational. ie. Outright ignoring you, or refusing to weigh facts!**\n\nYou *dont.*", "On mobile, so apologies for the formatting.\n\nWhen someone is ignoring facts or being intentionally inept, you are at a disadvantage, because they either don't know what's happening or don't care. Once you point something out to them, you can follow up with a question about what they are experiencing, maybe even offering that most people might handle the situation a certain way and you're wondering why they don't.\n\nBe prepared for a few striking outcomes:\n1.They still don't understand.\n2. They still don't care and refuse to explain.\n3. They realize something happened and explain themselves, even if they do so angrily.\n", "1. Don't escalate the conversation into combativeness. That makes people defensive and less logical. Even if they make a logical error, don't be accusative.\n2. Bend over backwards to see things their way. The other person has also been on this planet for several years. Be open to the possibility they know something you don't.\n3. Find common ground, and work from there.\n4. Stay calm and proceed slowly and logically from proposition to proposition. If you don't find illogical leaps you were making, you're probably doing it wrong.\n5. Don't expect magic conversions. Aim for small victories you can build on later. Research has shown that when presented with facts contrary to their opinion, people tend to dig in, and feel like a martyr for their truth. You're better off not reinforcing those opinions. It's better to leave the position in doubt. Then they can come over to your side later when they do some honest soul-searching outside of this conversation.", "Make fun of them and the idiotic notions until they are compelled to reply. Then destroy them with facts again until they shut up. Repeat.", "Well i usually try to play to their own strengths. If a person feels attacked they get loud for no fucking reason. If you scream back, the discussion might evolve into an arguement and onto a fight. Its better to literally clear everything up with a quick \"hey im just trying to help another human being\" trick. Depending on what youre trying to get through to them. Thing is that you can also be the irrational one... not knowing facts that they know or not being able to see their side. ", "I've never had anything solved by talking over phone/text, doing it face to face makes it a lot better because you can see emotions and ensure everything is settled.", "Ask them questions until they eventually reach one they can't answer. The best you can hope for is to plant a seed of doubt. " ]

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[ "What's the best thing to say as a goodbye? I'm sick of saying and hearing \"have a nice day\", but I don't know what would be a better all-purpose goodbye. I'm English btw, if that matters.", "What's the best thing to say as a goodbye? I'm sick of saying and hearing \"have a nice day\", but I don't know what would be a better all-purpose goodbye. I'm English btw, if that matters.", "What's the best thing to say as a goodbye? I'm sick of saying and hearing \"have a nice day\", but I don't know what would be a better all-purpose goodbye. I'm English btw, if that matters.", "What's the best thing to say as a goodbye? I'm sick of saying and hearing \"have a nice day\", but I don't know what would be a better all-purpose goodbye. I'm English btw, if that matters.", "What's the best thing to say as a goodbye? I'm sick of saying and hearing \"have a nice day\", but I don't know what would be a better all-purpose goodbye. I'm English btw, if that matters." ]

[ "\"It's dangerous to go alone... take this\" then just give them anything that happens to be in your pockets", "Nice one, cheers, bye, see ya, ta-ra, take care. Or all of the above. Some people seem to fit in about 5 or 6 goodbye words when hanging up the phone.", "I bid thee farewell + hitler salute. \n\nSource: have a friend who actually does this. He might be mentally unwell. ", "Have a good one, \nSee ya mate, \nCatch you later, \nSee you, \nSee you round, \n\nAnd going in for a hug, quietly saying goodbye and then walking off. \n\n", "Have a good one always sounds fancy, but I usually say \"see you around\" or \"see you on Monday/at the lab\" or something similar. " ]

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[ "How do I increase airflow of my laptop’s fans? I have a gaming laptop that I play lots of games on at full resolution. When I play lots of games, the laptop heats up and the fans sound like jet engines.\n\nIs there any way that I can increase the airflow of the fans/cooling system?\n\nAlso, there isn’t any dust.", "How do I increase airflow of my laptop’s fans? I have a gaming laptop that I play lots of games on at full resolution. When I play lots of games, the laptop heats up and the fans sound like jet engines.\n\nIs there any way that I can increase the airflow of the fans/cooling system?\n\nAlso, there isn’t any dust.", "How do I increase airflow of my laptop’s fans? I have a gaming laptop that I play lots of games on at full resolution. When I play lots of games, the laptop heats up and the fans sound like jet engines.\n\nIs there any way that I can increase the airflow of the fans/cooling system?\n\nAlso, there isn’t any dust.", "How do I increase airflow of my laptop’s fans? I have a gaming laptop that I play lots of games on at full resolution. When I play lots of games, the laptop heats up and the fans sound like jet engines.\n\nIs there any way that I can increase the airflow of the fans/cooling system?\n\nAlso, there isn’t any dust." ]

[ "That’s a gaming laptop for you! You could look at an external stand type thing that has built in fans (laptop cooler).", "You could use a styrofoam cooler, dry ice and a wood or metal topper.\n\nCut a recession into the cooler lid, put in dry ice, cover with metal or wood topper. Use as laptop stand. All air pulled in will be supercooled by the dry ice.", "I use a short length of rope which I make into a semicircle and put it underneath my laptop.\n\nIf your laptop regularly overheats, you might want to put new thermal paste on the heat exchanger. Also, laptops often use 'heat pipes' to draw heat from the cpu to a radiator. The radiator can also get clogged with dust, in a way that is hard to see from the outside. Your need to open it up to clean it out.", "Go into the BIOS \nwhen the computer is starting up hit F2, sometimes you have to hit the del key to get into the BIOS settings \nlook on google what key you have to hit for your machine \nOften you can see it when you start the computer , it tells you what key to hit for BIOS \n\nIn BIOS you can do a lot of things. BE CAREFUL. you can f\\*\\*k you computer big time in here if you dont know what you are doing\n\nlook for fan settings, some BIOS give you the option to speed it up or slow the fan down" ]

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[ "how to keep your groceries from going all over the place in your trunk on the way home from the food store. I mean seriously, does everyone deal with this every time they go food shopping or is there some secret technique that I don't know about? ", "how to keep your groceries from going all over the place in your trunk on the way home from the food store. I mean seriously, does everyone deal with this every time they go food shopping or is there some secret technique that I don't know about? ", "how to keep your groceries from going all over the place in your trunk on the way home from the food store. I mean seriously, does everyone deal with this every time they go food shopping or is there some secret technique that I don't know about? ", "how to keep your groceries from going all over the place in your trunk on the way home from the food store. I mean seriously, does everyone deal with this every time they go food shopping or is there some secret technique that I don't know about? ", "how to keep your groceries from going all over the place in your trunk on the way home from the food store. I mean seriously, does everyone deal with this every time they go food shopping or is there some secret technique that I don't know about? ", "how to keep your groceries from going all over the place in your trunk on the way home from the food store. I mean seriously, does everyone deal with this every time they go food shopping or is there some secret technique that I don't know about? ", "how to keep your groceries from going all over the place in your trunk on the way home from the food store. I mean seriously, does everyone deal with this every time they go food shopping or is there some secret technique that I don't know about? " ]

[ "Keeping a laundry basket in your trunk can really be useful for this kind of thing. You can put all the bags in the basket and then when you get home, just carry the basket full of groceries into your home in one trip. Plus no risk of the bags ripping on the way in.", "Tie all the bag handles together with a piece of string..they will be much less likely to move around", "you can get a net. It works awesome. My car came with this and it's one of those moments where you can't believe you lived without it. ", "You could also buy a \"trunk organiser\", it's a fold up bag that when you pull it out and extend it has sections and 2 handles pretty useful ", "You can buy a net for your trunk for this exact purpose. \n\nAlternatively, I find grocery bags move around less in the back seat than in the trunk. ", "I have a honda pilot and I wrap bungee hooks around each of the head rest legs. Then I hang the bags on the hooks. If it is something fragile or squishy like bread you can span between two different hooks. Works like a charm! ", "Buy one of these joints, clip 'em all together, sit 'em in a circle. Easier to take inside this way, too. http://www.walmart.com/ip/Oversized-Carry-Handle-Carabiner-Black/40464787\n" ]

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[ "How to get wrinkles out of clothes that just refuse to be wrinkle-free? I've tried ironing, extra time in the dryer... ", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes that just refuse to be wrinkle-free? I've tried ironing, extra time in the dryer... ", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes that just refuse to be wrinkle-free? I've tried ironing, extra time in the dryer... ", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes that just refuse to be wrinkle-free? I've tried ironing, extra time in the dryer... ", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes that just refuse to be wrinkle-free? I've tried ironing, extra time in the dryer... ", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes that just refuse to be wrinkle-free? I've tried ironing, extra time in the dryer... " ]

[ "Ironing always works for me so long as I'm using the right temperature and steam for the job. I hate sizing/starch but I found that spraying Downy Wrinkle Releaser on the area to be ironed works wonders.", "You could try putting them in the bathroom hanging up when you take a shower. The drying room I used to have was pretty humid, and a shower works just as well at dropping out creases.", "This is what I do: \n\nPut the shirt on a hanger and hang it in your bathroom while you're showering. \n\nThe steam from the shower will usually take out the wrinkles. \n\nAlso you can put water on a kettle, when it starts to whistle, run your clothing over the steam and it should instantly relieve any wrinkles. \n\nSteam Jim. \n\nSteam", "Have you tried just spraying it with water and letting it dry over night? I do this daily with my shirts and it works pretty perfect.", "Are you getting them *out* of the dryer at the exact moment it stops tumbling?\n\nBecause that is nine tenths of the battle.", "Some natural fibers like cotton and linen need to be damp and ironed at the appropriate temperature setting with NO STEAM. The evaporation process and high heat will remove wrinkles in those fabrics most of the time." ]

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[ "How to get people to give useful, relevant information to specific questions without sounding like a dick? I'm starting to notice a trend in which I ask a very detailed question that explains a little bit of background to some problem of mine and requests a solution. There are usually some constrains or requirements on the solution intended to further help people suggest answers that would be useful to me, but nothing that absolutely shuts down any possible answers.\n\nOn an annoyingly consistent basis however, people go off on tangents. They would explain why I have the problem instead of trying to help me fix it. They'd suggest something that doesn't meet requirements, or just give vague open-ended answers that aren't useful.\n\nOn top of all this, I seem to have a habit of sounding like a dick. I'm never told why, I'm just told I sound like one or mass-downvoted. I've seen LPTs on here that say \"Provide constructive criticism instead of negative\" or \"Give actionable suggestions\"... and given how little I've seen in practice in reference to my questions, it would explain why they need to be posted sometimes.\n\nI'm only sure this is getting to be too meta at this point as I'm asking a question about effectively asking questions, but I'm putting my faith in LPT's mods can weed out trolls effectively.", "How to get people to give useful, relevant information to specific questions without sounding like a dick? I'm starting to notice a trend in which I ask a very detailed question that explains a little bit of background to some problem of mine and requests a solution. There are usually some constrains or requirements on the solution intended to further help people suggest answers that would be useful to me, but nothing that absolutely shuts down any possible answers.\n\nOn an annoyingly consistent basis however, people go off on tangents. They would explain why I have the problem instead of trying to help me fix it. They'd suggest something that doesn't meet requirements, or just give vague open-ended answers that aren't useful.\n\nOn top of all this, I seem to have a habit of sounding like a dick. I'm never told why, I'm just told I sound like one or mass-downvoted. I've seen LPTs on here that say \"Provide constructive criticism instead of negative\" or \"Give actionable suggestions\"... and given how little I've seen in practice in reference to my questions, it would explain why they need to be posted sometimes.\n\nI'm only sure this is getting to be too meta at this point as I'm asking a question about effectively asking questions, but I'm putting my faith in LPT's mods can weed out trolls effectively.", "How to get people to give useful, relevant information to specific questions without sounding like a dick? I'm starting to notice a trend in which I ask a very detailed question that explains a little bit of background to some problem of mine and requests a solution. There are usually some constrains or requirements on the solution intended to further help people suggest answers that would be useful to me, but nothing that absolutely shuts down any possible answers.\n\nOn an annoyingly consistent basis however, people go off on tangents. They would explain why I have the problem instead of trying to help me fix it. They'd suggest something that doesn't meet requirements, or just give vague open-ended answers that aren't useful.\n\nOn top of all this, I seem to have a habit of sounding like a dick. I'm never told why, I'm just told I sound like one or mass-downvoted. I've seen LPTs on here that say \"Provide constructive criticism instead of negative\" or \"Give actionable suggestions\"... and given how little I've seen in practice in reference to my questions, it would explain why they need to be posted sometimes.\n\nI'm only sure this is getting to be too meta at this point as I'm asking a question about effectively asking questions, but I'm putting my faith in LPT's mods can weed out trolls effectively." ]

[ "Have you considered that some of the questions you’re asking may actually be XY problems? (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/XY_problem)", "Giving too much info seems to trigger a \"you're condescending\" response in some people; I've had this experience. First, accept that people have different communication styles. Those people going off on a tangent? That may be how they think about stuff in background, while their mouth is busy telling a story. Open-ended answers? Might be embarrassed they can't help you, or might not have found the piece in what you communicated that helps trigger their memory of how to solve that problem. You're asking them for a favor: to help you with a problem. Are you approaching them with an attitude that you're asking for this favor?", "\"Can you tell me succinctly the exact steps to solve XYZ?\"\n\nBut then you'll probably have to explain what succinct means. I dunno, ask smarter people." ]

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[ "This might be partly an oral fixation. Try chewing gum, or getting some things like licorice root stick to chew on. Sometimes smokers use this trick to help quit, and it can also help with quitting eating-just-to-keep-your-mouth-busy.", "I started intermittent fasting which pretty much forces your body to clarify what it means by hunger to get you to eat. I've become more sensitive to actual real hunger and can see mental hunger from a mile away. I now tell my mental hunger monkey to fuck off and go back to the basement.\n\nwhat is intermittent fasting? quick overview from a bbc doc: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ihhj_VSKiTs", "Some tips that have really helped me are:\n\n\n1) Drink more water. Always have a glass or bottle of water around you, a lot of the times you think you're hungry you're actually dehydrated.\n\n\n2) Simply don't buy snacks. I get hit with boredom snack cravings as well but if I don't have any around, oh well can't have em. \n\n\n3) If you simply must have a snack, stock up on healthier options that you can munch on without worrying about portion control too much. For example, celery sticks or carrot sticks with a healthy dip or no dip. \n\n\nIf you can afford it there are some really yummy healthy snacks you can get nowadays like kale chips, roasted chickpeas, etc. ", "Be less bored? Find some hobbies to pick up at home. Also, sometimes I'll play a game with myself and say ok, I'll wait 15 more mins and then if I'm still hungry I'll eat a snack. When the 15 mins is up I'll challenge myself to 15 more mins. And so on. ", "Ask yourself, would you eat an apple right now? Keep some around, they fill you up if you are ever truly hungry for a snack.", "I believe in the keto diet. After a few weeks of way less sugar your appetite will not be driven by compulsion. ", "I don't know what to tell about how to *start* to address the problem, because I didn't really do anything special, but I can tell you that it's a habit like anything else, and will get easier over time, if you can keep up your resolve.\n\nThree months ago, I was a frequent bored snacker who never exercised. I topped out at 285 lbs. Now I've cut out all snacking and I do an hour on the treadmill every day. For the first week or two, the snacking was a hard habit to break, and the exercise was a hard habit to maintain. But after that, it got easier day by day.\n\nAnd now I'm down 30 pounds since September.", "Try counting your macros. They've found that when you have to record everything you eat you eat less. I think it's supposed to be because you're conscious about what you're eating but half the time for me it just makes snacking too much of a hastle ", "I spend as much time as I can at the gym, just as much to keep me from being home snacking as to get in shape. Also, the only way I have ever achieved weight loss is by downloading a calorie tracking app and keeping track of everything I eat. It helps keep you accountable.", "I always have a glass of water on my desk and sometimes I just find myself eating ice cubes instead of food when bored.", "With me, I space out frequent meals throughout the day.\n\nBreakfast, Lunch, Snack, Snack, Dinner, Snack. All of it calculated so I don't overeat, it helps curb the temptation of reaching for that box of Oreo and such. I am also incredibly active so I can consume a good chuck of calories throughout the day but thats only relevant to the quantity of snacks(3-5 daily just about) I consume. Point is, you can space out your normal food intake to keep yourself reaching for food that you're going to eat anyway, if that makes sense.\n\nI have goals that keep me mentally focused and that helps big time.\n\nDon't get me wrong, I have to devour some junk food to keep my sanity but all in all I'm happy with how it's working for me. \n\n", "Track your calories. Notice if you eat now you'll fill up your calories now and have none for later, meaning you'll be starving later in the day. Logic will handle the rest. ", "The only solution I can find is to not keep junk food in your house...buy healthy things to snack on like carrots. Also one thing I found helped is meal prepping for the week. When I don't have an unlimited (feeling) amount of food and I have meals premade alloted for dinner, I'm less tempted to snack on them. Also keeping yummy drinks like healthy juices helps", "Start tracking calories, make sure you are hitting protein goals and fill the rest trying to maximise nutrients. Making it a game like this actually lead me to eat more, but exercise better portion control and go for snacks like yoghurt nuts and berries rather than toast, butter and jam. A slightly fat heavy ratio can help curb hunger and feel like youbare eating a lot. Most of my calories were cut once I stopped eating bread for the sake of it (I still always have bread or rice with meals)", "Honestly, sugar snap peas. \n\nVery few calories and your jaws will be sore long before you've eaten enough that they'll really cause any weight issues.\n\nJust restrict yourself to nibbling on those and celery when you've got the urge eat while bored. Both are quite low-cal, crunchy, and bland. \n\nRe-train your mind to associate boredom eating with bland boring food. Eventually you'll find something else to do instead of eat. Just give yourself those two options. Bored and want to eat? Sugar snap peas. Don't want to eat that? Go for a walk instead. \n\nSave the good food for when you are genuinely hungry. LPT: If your stomach is making weird noises, and you feel hungry, you're probably hungry. ", "Either get healthy snacks and deal with those, or get a ton of mints and gum. \"Snacking\" on gum is a great substitute. ", "mirrors. watching yourself eat can reinforce that what you're doing is going to affect you negatively. studies also show if you're eating junk food it won't seem as good when you have to watch yourself eat it.", "Treat the issue, not the symptom, if you're eating when bored and are bored so often it's nearing on an eating disorder, figure out why you have so much downtime and fix that, you'll be less bored, less inclined to eat outside meals, and whatever you end up doing instead of \"nothing\" will eat up more calories", "Relevant!\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4zyzzx/lpt_request_how_to_overcome_eating_out_of_boredom/", "Pick up dipping, replace one bad habit with another, you may lose a jaw but that's even less weight to worry about ", "Personally I have cut down to 10% Bodyfat and I Swear by drinking a load of caffine drinks/Fizzy diet pop!!! After Most meals I will still be hungry and will just make sure I get loads of liquids down. Best tip I stupidly didn't listen to for a while!!! ", "It's all about access; I don't keep unhealthy snacks in my apartment for the most part, and the things I do have are fairly healthy. Even so, you can eat too much of something healthy. Right now I have some sour gummy worms (something I like) in my room. I keep it on the far side of the room so I have to consciously get up, walk over there, and get one, then get back to where I was. It creates a 'barrier cost' for me; I have to want it badly enough to get up and go over there, and I have to do it every time I want a single one. Of course, it's best not to have anything like that at all. \n\nChips are another big one; I literally never keep chips in the house, since they're easy to eat and really just terribly unhealthy. If you want to stop eating out of boredom, keep a glass of water handy and just try to go *one week* without any snacks of any sort in your house, or at least without boredom eating. I find that if I can keep something up for a solid weak without a single failure, I can do it for the long haul.", "I have a half-solution to this. Whenever you want to eat out of boredom (especially those Satanic late night snacks), i just eat cucumber. It's fresh, has practically no calories, is rich in water, fiber and vitamins.\n\nIt may seem crappy at first, but over the course of weeks, you're saving a huge amount of calories in snacks.", "I eat when I'm not playing Xbox (bf1,bo3,Cod4), smoking pot, vaping, or in school. I feel you're struggle I always need to be doing something ", "I drink coffee. I'm not sure of the health risks or benefits, but it curbs hunger. If you're sensitive to caffeine, there are decaf grounds available. ", "I do a meal-prep sunday. Make all the meals for the week beforehand, and bag up snacks. \n\nYou have meals at mealtimes and snacks whenever, but there's a limited amount of snacks so you don't wanna eat them all at once, or there'd be no snacks later =(\n\n", "Find an alternative thing to do to fill the boredom I guess? Maybe have a list. Like you could go for a short walk when you feel boredom hunger setting in, or pick up a book or something. \n\nAll I know is that avoiding doing something is incredibly hard without having an alternative to fill the time with... ", "Develop a fun habit to fill the empty time. Like playing an instrument, learning to code, draw/paint, smoke crack, or maybe even start a journal! Also remember to stay hydrated. But not too hydrated! :)", "Definitely brush your teeth, and keep water around. Most of the time when you think you are hungry, your body is actually just thirsty. We lose the ability to differentiate easily as we become adults.\nBrushing your teeth just helps you remember that the eating part of the day is over.", "As has been commented drink more water, find ways to make water interesting (I have non-chemical water as I live off the mains supply and occasionally add cordial to it).\n\nDrinking water satisfies the hunger hormonal response (helping to loose weight) and helps break the habitual response of eating when bored.", "2 things that helped me for when you absolutely have to munch on something are pickles and green olives.\n\nI love green olives and they are pretty low calorie (about 5 per olive I think) and super salty so my crazing stops quickly.\n\nPickles because they're crunchy, savory, and you'll likely to reach for sugary or junk food because just imagine how bad ice cream or chocolate tastes right after having a pickle.", "Eat enough carbs daily and you won't crave snacks, you'll also feel good and energetic. \n\nGet your carbs from healthy sources like potatoes, sweet potatoes, beans, vegetables, fruit, oatmeal, rice, buckwheat, any grain pretty much. Your cravings will go away and you'll be able to lose that weight since you'll be satisfied. Replace your snacks with ripe fruit. \n\nEat less fatty foods and the fat will slowly melt right off you." ]

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[ "What should I know before purchasing a new mattress (especially with a partner)? Any tips for how to find the ideal firmness on the first try appreciated. Thanks!", "What should I know before purchasing a new mattress (especially with a partner)? Any tips for how to find the ideal firmness on the first try appreciated. Thanks!", "What should I know before purchasing a new mattress (especially with a partner)? Any tips for how to find the ideal firmness on the first try appreciated. Thanks!", "What should I know before purchasing a new mattress (especially with a partner)? Any tips for how to find the ideal firmness on the first try appreciated. Thanks!", "What should I know before purchasing a new mattress (especially with a partner)? Any tips for how to find the ideal firmness on the first try appreciated. Thanks!", "What should I know before purchasing a new mattress (especially with a partner)? Any tips for how to find the ideal firmness on the first try appreciated. Thanks!", "What should I know before purchasing a new mattress (especially with a partner)? Any tips for how to find the ideal firmness on the first try appreciated. Thanks!" ]

[ "I’d say figure out at what temp you prefer to sleep. Mattresses with memory foam tend to be a lot warmer than traditional mattresses.", "1) The mattresses in store are already broken in quite a bit. That’s not necessarily how your bed will feel for several months.\n\n2) you can and should negotiate the price of your mattresses. In addition to price, you can negotiate for other things like pillows, mattress protectors, sheets, and free delivery.", "Get two smaller ones if the bed is wide enough. That way each of you can get the firmness you want/like best.", "We have two mattresses and very wide, not to bother each other in our sleeps. Now, if we seek some intimacy we need to 'swim' to each other. Our next one will be smaller again", "We have a Leesa mattress and they have a 100 day trial period, which is great! I think they donate returned mattresses to homeless shelters. I’m glad we had the trial time, because the first few nights I hated it because it was so much more firm than the pillow top mattress I was used to. I wouldn’t go back to anything other than the Leesa now, as it is super comfortable once you get used to it. I would also suggest a waterproof mattress cover to keep it safe in case of any moisture due to kids, pets, or illness.", "Generally it depends on your and your partners preferences, but there are guidelines that correlate weight to a recommended firmness. I'm sure the employees of your local matress store know more though. Maybe just give them a call and ask for a recommendation", "All the new cool looking mattresses don't come in a firmness, the purple one comes to mind. Can't go wrong that way." ]

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[ "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.", "How to get over your first love. It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day." ]

[ "This worked for me for love and other emotions: imagine all the love you have as a ton of bricks. Feel the oppression of it, feel it on your back, on your shoulders. Now think to yourself who are you carrying all that weight for? Not for the other person because they don't care and they're gone. Not for you because it's holding you down and hurting you. Set the weight down. Set the ton of bricks down and walk away. You don't need it and it's no longer useful. Feel the weight off your back. Feel how light your shoulders feel. Tomorrow is a new day and that memory will be long gone. Love is a loop and the more you think of it the more it feeds into it. Just set it down and walk away.", "Honor your first love for everything it was. Also remember everything it wasn't. \n\nA lot of times, it is hard to see why it wasn't meant to be if it has just ended. \n\nJust be happy that it was at all, and something just as amazing or better will come along", "Keep your head up! The First love is a tough one to get over. Work out. Hobbies. Honestly, for me I also coped by getting drunk and hooking up with randoms for about a year. This is topped off by focusing on the failings of your last relationship. Demonize her if you have to. Recall the way she annoyed you, disrespected you, etc. Exaggerate your memories of her if you need to. \n", "I recently went through a breakup, of someone I thought I loved. What helped me realize this, and still does, is I wrote down a list of all the things that I disliked about her. And whenever I feel down, or I feel like I miss her, I look at my list of reasons I was angry, betrayed, annoyed, upset in the relationship, and it sets me straight again that the breakup was the best thing for my mental health. ", "Typically it takes 1/2 as long as the relationship to get over it fully. The best thing you can do is work on yourself. Hit the gym, sign up for some cooking classes or learn a new language. Keep yourself busy and productive and things will work themselves out. Remember only you can make you happy. It doesn't matter if someone else loves you if you don't first love yourself.", "Time, time and more time....or find a new love if you don't have the time. \\\n\n>It's been going on seven months since the breakup and it still hurts every damn day.\n\nNo doubt, but you have to choose to move on and let it go...I never saw Frozen. ", "It's a bit different because you were the one that ended it, but what I found works best is to replace the things you used to do together with new memories - for example, go to that restaurant you always frequented, but bring your best friend(s)/family/etc. I've had friends that have had a hard time moving on - both from first relationships and not - primarily because their confidence and happiness had become anchored (unsurprisingly) to their ex-partner. The way to remedy that is to rebuild and replace their memories with new ones.\n\nMake a list of the things you do and (try your hardest to) record where these activities came from - your interest, your ex's, mutual. Use a rating system (perhaps 4 or 6 stars because Likert scale) on how much satisfaction/happiness/energy each item gives you. Then, prioritize them on importance and try to renew your memories by either doing those activities alone or with friends/family/meet new people. \n\nMost people do not think they are affected, but any breakup can cause some degree of stress and drop on confidence. After all, if things were going well, \"why did we not stay together?\" Again, a bit different in your case because you were the one that ended it.\n\nMoving forward, I think one of the most powerful aids is to develop the mindset that this was a learning experience on how to be a better person and have stronger relationships. With a mindset like that, it should be easier to always have some positivity whenever you think of your past relationships (both intimate and just friendship) because no one can take away the things you learned together and alone.\n\nKeep your head up and stay positive, and look forward to moving forward in your life. Remember that she may have made you the happiest you ever felt, but there are countless people to meet that can show you new heights. =)", "I know this sounds weird but often times when you're in a relationship with them, you absorb some their personality and they absorb some from you. (A lot of the times, you just have common interests which is why you got together in the first place) \n\nYou don't have to do it permanently but at least in the beginning it helps if you leave everything that reminded them of you alone. It also helps make your interests more diverse.\n\nThey loved Blink 182 and so did you? Ditch blink 182 for a while and find a new band or genre to get yourself into. \n\nDid you lift weights together? If it reminds you too much of that person, find a new way to work out. Pick up Kayaking or something. \n\nThe great thing is, you can always come back to those interests once you're ready and you can develop new ones along the way. \n\n\n\n\n\n", "\"It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all\" \nEnjoy the memory of the time for what it was but move onto the future with an open mind. Don't idealize the past or what can't be. You may surprise yourself that \"when one door is closed, another is open.\"", "You might be in depression, 7 months is too long. Look into ways to get out of depression, mainly by taking care of yourself first and foremost. " ]

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[ "How to Stop Being a Pushover I am always prone to help others out with money or do what other people want instead of thinking about myself first.", "How to Stop Being a Pushover I am always prone to help others out with money or do what other people want instead of thinking about myself first.", "How to Stop Being a Pushover I am always prone to help others out with money or do what other people want instead of thinking about myself first.", "How to Stop Being a Pushover I am always prone to help others out with money or do what other people want instead of thinking about myself first.", "How to Stop Being a Pushover I am always prone to help others out with money or do what other people want instead of thinking about myself first.", "How to Stop Being a Pushover I am always prone to help others out with money or do what other people want instead of thinking about myself first." ]

[ "The problem is not the altruism part, it is underlying covert contract that is made: I help you now, so you will do something in return. Girls in general are **really** turned off by this (I'll take you out to dinner, but you have to sex me, this never works). Read *No More Mr. Nice Guy* by Robert Glover. If the introduction describes you, then you really need to read and do this book.", "Stop thinking of yourself as a pushover. Most of us are wired to help our communities first. It gets us off in biochemical ways.\n\nWhen opportunity to help someone presents itself in front of your path, you can choose to offer help or not, but you are never pushed over to help. ", "Learn to say \"no\". It forces the other person to honor their end of the social contract first or it forces a renegotiation.", "Its more awkward to ask for money back than to say no initially. Just say no or try helping them find an alternative. I used to help out my buddies financially all the time before until I realized they aren't helping themselves at all. Now when they ask I just say I can't. Don't even make an excuse, its not like you owe them. You might feel bad at first because you're used to helping them out but eventually you'll feel better knowing you put yourself first. Confidence is all mental my friend. ", "Gym. This is a serious reply. First, you learn to spend time with yourself and therefore think about yourself. Second, with consistency and over time you will go from being the newbie.... whether newest/smallest/weakest/slowest/fattest in the gym to the 2nd, then 3rd, etc and boost your self confidence relative to others who are now below you. And lastly, when confronted by people who intimidate or manipulate you, you will stand taller, dominate the encounter with your improved physical presence, and take confidence from the fact that you climbed ranking and proved to yourself that you can take control of your own destiny. ", "Check out this podcast \n\nhttp://firstthingsproductivity.com/assertiveness/ \n\n(it is episodes 30-40-something.)" ]

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[ "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas.", "What tips do you have for a 25 year old man looking to be taken more seriously both professionally and by peers? Looking for things that are relatively simple to work on and advice on how to go about changing in these areas." ]

[ "Dress properly. It doesn't have to be anything fancy nor does it have to be brand name, but it should fit, be of good material, and appropriate for the situation. There are some guys who have clothes figured out by 25, and some guys (like my husband when I met him), who still pretty much wore things from high school, and/or that my MIL picked up at Kohls for him. Almost all of it was too big, because moms get used to sizing up for their kids and never stop. It may be a superficial thing, but people absolutely look at how put together and well dressed you are in determining whether you're a person who is capable, consistent, observant, and willing to put in a little extra effort.\n\nThere are some excellent men's style forums out there, but here are some basics I would recommend:\n\n- 2 pairs of nice dark jeans, dark blue and a charcoal wash, 2 pairs of chinos (saddle brown and light stone), wool dress pants for work\n- Leather loafers, nice sneakers, boots, lace up oxfords for work, no or minimum broguing (saddle or oxblood are flexible colors)\n- button down shirts that actually fit (get them tailored), the more patterns/colors the more casual they typically are. \n- polo shirts, quarter button sweaters\n- one good sports jacket\n\nIf you ever have to wear suits for work, get one solid navy and one solid charcoal and build from there.\n\nIf you don't know what \"fits\" or what looks good and are willing to invest $100-200 in yourself, go to a proper haberdashery (in the US term, not the UK), and ask questions, take recommendations, find your fit, and buy a one or two shirts so you're not wasting their time. Don't go to chains like Menswear House.\n\nYou don't have to dry clean everything, but do pay attention to wrinkles. Even closing the doors and hanging your pants up in the bathroom when you shower (for the steam) can help you look tidier.", "You may want to look over any social media profiles that you have, and consider deleting or privatizing any content that would lead someone to see you less seriously. You may want to get rid of social media in general. Evaluate what you spend your time on, and try to find volunteer opportunities or pursue learning new aspects of your career to make yourself more indispensable. ", "When you are being given instructions or shown new things, the person showing you will often pause to see if you are following. That's your opportunity to reinforce what you're learning by repeating it back in your own words. It also assures your instructor that he or she is making sense. \n\nThus, you are improving your own understanding and giving positive feedback about your instructor's teaching skills, a win-win for the both of you. \n\nMy personal experience is that being a good student makes people much more interested in working with me--except for those who are shitty at their jobs and who don't actually know what they're doing. Some of those doofuses will actually attempt to hold me back so that I do not threaten the jobs they should not have. They are easy to destroy, if necessary.", "The handshake goes a long way. My girlfriend's stepdad apparently liked me from the getgo just from the handshake.\nBeing groomed and smelling good, for real. I also agree with the social media thing. Except for this, I have no social media presence.\nThe tone/inflection of your voice can denote a comfortable, confident professionalism, regardless of what you are saying.\nThat's all off the top of my head.", "If you're confident about something, act confident.\n\nSomething I've seen (and done myself), is make suggestions of to what I think is right without asserting that I'm sure that it is right. \n\nQuick example:\n\nYour boss/someone asks \"Johnson, what color is the sky?\"\nbad reply: \"um... It's blue, I'm pretty sure...\"\ngood reply: \"It's blue\"", "This is a good question, this answer applies to receive really: Be clean. Smell good. Get a good grooming routine. No one wants to see a mono brow or snotty nose hair or long dirty nails - it's really childish to not be able to maintain yourself. Posture is important. Health and fitness is important. If you look like someone who doesn't look after themselves (maybe eats too much junk food, not enough fruit and vegetables), people won't take you as seriously. Clothes are covered by other posts, there are some awesome answers. Bring able to communicate well is important, speak confidently and clearly, people should be able to understand you and hear your when you speak. Presentation is important.", "I noticed this by observing my supervisor: if you want to be taken seriously/respected badly enough, you come across as insecure. Be self-assured and let things roll off your back. For example, apologise once and move on if you're mistaken, don't get flustered if someone tells a joke at your expense, and if you and somebody you work with just don't click, don't spend too much time trying to convince them to like you. \n\nIn summary, be chill.", "Dress better than the boss. \n\n& Keep your mouth shut, except to say something that matters.\n\nMy entire work wardrobe of designer brands was purchased at thrift shops (mostly Goodwill) at a tenth of the cost of new. And most of the shirts and slacks were like new or still had tags. You just have to look for them. ", "The answer to this really depends on why they're not taking you seriously in the first place, but in general: \n\nBe clean if not well groomed.\nWear clothes appropriate to the situation. \nBe good at what you do, but don't pretend to know something you don't.\nMake friends with the support staff. Learn their names and greet them warmly every time you see them.\nIf you need help, ask someone senior to you and make sure to express gratitude both during and after they help you out.\nLearn to recognize your mistakes and more importantly, learn from them.\nIf you're the only person still using slang, stop. \nProvide input when something important is being discussed and accept it gracefully if your suggestion is dismissed. \nIf you find yourself complaining a lot, knock it off. \nEngage in conversation about other people's interests, ask them to explain some part of it to you, even if you're not particularly interested in the subject. \nIf you have an interest in something that might be considered juvenile or weird, keep it to yourself except in the most informal cases -- I'm not saying give up what you love, just don't let that cat out of the bag unless you're sure people won't stop taking you seriously by association.", "I like to keep a pocket dictionary/thesauras handy so that I can follow conversation easily no matter who is in my company. I have been in conversations where a word is used and I am not familiar. Rather than asking I just glance at my book :-)" ]

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[ "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?", "Better method for taking medication regularly? I've tried setting alarms on my phone, but it hasn't quite worked out for me. My work schedule is variable, so setting specific times to take my ADD medication doesn't help (I need to take it ~30min before I get to work, which is a different time every day). Additionally, I have some aches and pains that can be controlled with tylenol and ibuprofen, but I never remember to take it again after the first dose. I often won't remember to take the next dose until the pain has returned.\n\nWhat are some tips to help make sure I'm taking all these various medications on the correct schedule?" ]

[ "Keep a couple pills in a pill box thing or any little container in various places you go all the time. I keep a few \"emergency kits\", with one or two of each of my pills, in my purse, my car, at work, and one at my boy friend's place. If I use one, I just have to remember to replace it from the bottle at home. These kits also have band aids, clear nail polish, floss, and other little useful things. I'm sure it could be revamped to kit a guy's specific needs as well.\n", "You could try the [Mango app](https://www.mangohealth.com/), which not only sets reminders but lets you earn points for taking your pills on time, etc. You can also get really [small waterproof pill container keychains](https://www.amazon.com/Outop-Waterproof-Aluminum-Keychain-Container/dp/B00HF2UCEU/ref=pd_lpo_121_bs_t_1?ie=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=R4KX4JJQE45C7QWMYP84) so that you can carry around your medication and not have to worry about your flexible schedule. ", "I know you said alarms based on time don't work for you as it is different times that you start work. \n\nWhat about setting a reminder for siri or whatever phone you are using to notify you when it notices you are nearing work?\n\nhttp://iphone.appleinsider.com/articles/15/10/14/how-to-use-siri-to-create-location-based-reminders-in-ios-9", "There's an app called Routinist. It's a more organized reminders app that lets you detail how you'll spend an hour to the next. You can customize it for every day of the week.", "Put it with something you do every time you're getting ready for work. I keep my pills in the same place as my toothbrush. ", "When I really need to remember something, I put it on top of my phone. You're always going to need your phone.\n\nPutting the pill case on top of your pill case/metro card/bus pass is also a good idea.", "This sounds silly but you could buy a watch with an empty case and put your pills there. That way when you move around you'll hear your pills rattle and remember to take them, plus you can see the time.", "I sometimes tape my pills on the inside of my front door eye-level... (with the plastic wrapper still on) \nMight look odd if you get guests though, and I wouldn't do this with embarrasing/private medicin (say, contraceptive pills). For me this works since: \n\na) allergy medicin isn't embarrasing, I don't mind telling my guests what it is b)I don't get lots of guests, and never uninvited so I is a small thing to remove in advance c) Im quite young, so my life isn't so organized in general\n\n", "Assuming you drive to work, keep your pills by your keys. Designate a \"this is where I ALWAYS put my keys\" spot at home. You won't lose your keys and you'll take your pills on the way out the door.\n\nI take a lot of ibuprofen and sometimes forget when I took the last dose. I don't want to harm my liver by taking too much, so I instant-message myself whenever I take a dose. Works for me." ]

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[ "How to make the most out of a busy schedule I took on a lot this quarter (I'm in college) and I ended up having very little time to complete my school work or relax. I still have 6 weeks left in the quarter and a few big projects coming up (my play opens in 2 weeks, I have a 45 min long group presentation the week after that, reflective journals due every week, ect.) What can I do to make the most of what little time I have?", "How to make the most out of a busy schedule I took on a lot this quarter (I'm in college) and I ended up having very little time to complete my school work or relax. I still have 6 weeks left in the quarter and a few big projects coming up (my play opens in 2 weeks, I have a 45 min long group presentation the week after that, reflective journals due every week, ect.) What can I do to make the most of what little time I have?" ]

[ "The simple answer is plan ahead. \n\nAt the beginning of each week, dedicate some time (an hour or so) to do nothing but reflect on your schedule and priorities. Once you are clear on your priorities it will be easier to decide on what activities to focus on rather than trying to juggle everything at once. By making these decisions ahead of time, you will free yourself up during the week to actually focus on your most important tasks rather than be distracted by everything else on your plate. \n\nSome things to remember:\n-The first week will be messy. Your plan likely will need to be adjusted, this is normal and OK.\n-Its hard to set aside an hour to only plan your week, but believe me it's worth it. \n-Please note that this isn't just making a to-do list. This is intentionally determining what your priorities are, and making an actionable plan to reach those priorities. The to-do list will flow out of this planning, but the plan comes first to make sure things are in order and your goals are realistic.", "I agree with r/zallibar. One way to help achieve that is through a bullet journal. http://www.bohoberry.com/student-bullet-journal/ You can customize it to you and have it evolve with you." ]

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[ "Foods that travel well. I am looking for tips on what foods I could pack in a suitcase and take on a plane, so I do not have to pay for the expensive food in Hawaii. I'll have a microwave and stove top. I might possibly have an oven, too. ", "Foods that travel well. I am looking for tips on what foods I could pack in a suitcase and take on a plane, so I do not have to pay for the expensive food in Hawaii. I'll have a microwave and stove top. I might possibly have an oven, too. ", "Foods that travel well. I am looking for tips on what foods I could pack in a suitcase and take on a plane, so I do not have to pay for the expensive food in Hawaii. I'll have a microwave and stove top. I might possibly have an oven, too. " ]

[ "While ramen is cheap, it will break and crumble everywhere so unless you really feel confident with that then there you go ", "Granola bars, instant oatmeal, instant grits, Knorr rice sides, instant potatoes, tuna (and possibly other meats) packed in foil containers instead of cans, gummy candy, beef jerky, microwave popcorn, raisins, pop tarts, peanut butter", "Rice and beans if you have a device to cook them. MREs but those run pretty pricey sometimes. Instant grits, oatmeal etc" ]

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[ "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?", "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?", "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?", "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?", "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?", "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?", "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?", "What to do with someone who talks too much? So there's a new guy at my job. He's nice enough, but the guy can ramble.\n\nI don't want to be rude but I don't know how to deal with people like him. help?" ]

[ "I am a person who talks too much and tbh I never get offended when someone tells me it's too much in that moment. Just be polite about it, don't be rude or give a bs excuse to get out of the conversation. It'll make him think you just don't like him otherwise and that shit hurts, man. Say something like \"hey I know you're excited to chat and I like hearing what you have to say, but this is a little excessive right now and I have some stuff I need to focus on. Let's talk another time.\"", "Just tell him, be honest about it, but stay nice. Say something along the lines like: ”You can talk a lot”, or that you don’t have the energy to listen to him at the moment. If he talks a lot, I’m sure he (probably) has heard it from someone else before too.", "I had a work friend who explained everything in excruciating detail. He was a good guy and his expertise was valuable. We had a great relationship and I could tell him - “I need the 60 second version” or hold up my hand and say “too much detail!” In a friendly, teasing way. It’s nice if you have that sort of rapport.", "I told a new girl at my job that i don't talk much because I thought she would finally shut the fuck up but I wasn't that lucky.", "Had a co-worker like this; either yawn or literally a blank stare. Most of them have realized at this point they are over talkers & get the message. \nIf you know how to setup a shortcut automation & have an I-Phone, Set the triple tap back 'button' to a timer then when it goes off you have a reason to walk away.", "Before they get to that next sentence... Ask them....is this going to be a long story? If so let's continue another time", "Are you the Mafia? In the movies there's only one answer to this question 🤣\n\nSeriously yeah, as others have said, if you don't want to spend time with that person that day you should be running towards something or someone else, even if that means exaggerating a bit. Unless you're close to that person, in which case consider having a serious discussion with them about it at least once", "Passive , just don’t respond or prompt \n\nActive, yo man I only can process so many words a day and you talk too much" ]

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[ "How to easily remove price stickers from book covers? Earlier today I bought several hardcover books, and they each have small price stickers on the front. I don't want to just tear them off, as they may leave pieces or residue on the covers. Is there anything I can do to remove them without ruining the cover?", "How to easily remove price stickers from book covers? Earlier today I bought several hardcover books, and they each have small price stickers on the front. I don't want to just tear them off, as they may leave pieces or residue on the covers. Is there anything I can do to remove them without ruining the cover?" ]

[ "Orange oil or eucalyptus oil usually works. You may want to be careful so as not to damage the book cover, though.", "Lighter fluid works to get the rest of the residue off. I've only done this on metal surfaces so I'm not sure its the best on a book but if you do... I'd suggest putting some on a cloth and rubbing gently to work it off the cover." ]

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[ " Best way to clean Pumpkin Seeds With halloween coming, I love to bake pumpkin seeds. The trouble with the seeds is not in cleaning them out of the pumpkin, but removing them from the pulp/stringy stuff. I've tried a bowl of water in the past where the pumpkin bits sink and the seeds float, but even that only kind of works. \n\nAny suggestions??", " Best way to clean Pumpkin Seeds With halloween coming, I love to bake pumpkin seeds. The trouble with the seeds is not in cleaning them out of the pumpkin, but removing them from the pulp/stringy stuff. I've tried a bowl of water in the past where the pumpkin bits sink and the seeds float, but even that only kind of works. \n\nAny suggestions??", " Best way to clean Pumpkin Seeds With halloween coming, I love to bake pumpkin seeds. The trouble with the seeds is not in cleaning them out of the pumpkin, but removing them from the pulp/stringy stuff. I've tried a bowl of water in the past where the pumpkin bits sink and the seeds float, but even that only kind of works. \n\nAny suggestions??" ]

[ "Thanks for asking this question. I don't have anything to contribute in terms of a solution, but I wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in wanting an easier go of it.", "I've always used a colander. You still have to pull out the biggest chunks of stringy stuff, but being able to have water running over the seeds helps. ", "We put the pumpkins seeds in a large colander and ran warm water over them. We also massaged the seeds while running water over them to remove and separate the strings. " ]

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[ "How to avoid Directed Attention Fatigue when studying as much as possible, while getting the most amount of work done ", "How to avoid Directed Attention Fatigue when studying as much as possible, while getting the most amount of work done ", "How to avoid Directed Attention Fatigue when studying as much as possible, while getting the most amount of work done ", "How to avoid Directed Attention Fatigue when studying as much as possible, while getting the most amount of work done " ]

[ "I saw this one before here on LPT, perhaps someone can find it.\n\nMy favorite solution from the last time it was posted, and I have tried this to great effect when under high pressure:\n\nGet headphones and play Brownian Noise (aka Brown Noise) for 25 minutes and work hard for those 25 minutes - then take a 5 minute break.\n\nEven though it seems weird that you are taking breaks so often - you actually get more done in focused 25 minutes than you can accomplish in unfocused 90+ minutes.\n\nIt's called the Pomodoro Technique. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique\n\nHere is someone that created a 25 minute background noise with an egg timer countdown: https://soundcloud.com/hzs1kc3b55xw/pomodoro-with-brown-noise\n\nPersonally I use a Smartphone App called relax melodies for my 25 minutes of brown noise. The app has a built in timer to turn it off and a bunch of other background/relaxation sounds: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ipnossoft.rma.free\n\nIf you don't want to go the app route you can find brown noise on Youtube or just download a MP3 file of brown noise here:\nhttps://archive.org/details/TenMinutesOfWhiteNoisePinkNoiseAndBrownianNoise\n\nI suggest the MP3 VBR version from there. It's a 10 minute file so you'll have to loop it and set a separate timer for the 25 minutes.\n", "This may have been mentioned already but listening to the soundtracks from games really helps you, it has been designed to keep you on the task at hand meanwhile providing a boost of adrenaline (in some cases) therefore it is great to keep you going along for longer periods of time. \n\nAlso be wary of the actual conditions you are working in, places with harsh lights, messy desktops and an industrial feel tend to feel less comfortable, opt for foliage instead of junk, light, fresh aromas and softer lights (particularly less 'white' lights).", "One thing that helped me a lot in college was to put a single song (usually a repetitive catchy cliche pop song) on repeat in my headphones and after ~15min I don't even know I'm listening to it because I'm so focused on what I'm doing. ", "You can adjust the Pomodoro technique, by the way. I honestly only use the 25+5 breakdown when I have a lot to get through and not a lot of time to get through it. I usually prefer 20+10, or 40+20. Or, 30+30 when I'm not under pressure, but I do still need to get shit done. :)" ]

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[ "How to get paint off a car I was at a gas station and stupidly hit a red painted pole that surrounds the gas pump. I now have a streak of red paint on my silver car, and I'm not sure how to get it off without damaging the actual paint of the car underneath. ", "How to get paint off a car I was at a gas station and stupidly hit a red painted pole that surrounds the gas pump. I now have a streak of red paint on my silver car, and I'm not sure how to get it off without damaging the actual paint of the car underneath. ", "How to get paint off a car I was at a gas station and stupidly hit a red painted pole that surrounds the gas pump. I now have a streak of red paint on my silver car, and I'm not sure how to get it off without damaging the actual paint of the car underneath. ", "How to get paint off a car I was at a gas station and stupidly hit a red painted pole that surrounds the gas pump. I now have a streak of red paint on my silver car, and I'm not sure how to get it off without damaging the actual paint of the car underneath. ", "How to get paint off a car I was at a gas station and stupidly hit a red painted pole that surrounds the gas pump. I now have a streak of red paint on my silver car, and I'm not sure how to get it off without damaging the actual paint of the car underneath. " ]

[ "a Claybar work excellent for this sort of thing. Meguiars makes one. It removes surface contaminants(like your red paint) without damaging the surface finish. A few suggestions by others (green scrubbie, rubbing compound) can damage the finish.for instance, rubbing compound should be followed up with a polishing compound to remove the scratches caused by the rubbing compound. its an okay way to do it, just takes a bit more time.", "Well, it depends on what type of paint it was. If the paint itself hasn't damaged the paint beneath, you can buy some acrylic and paint over the red streak (trust me!)\nWash it off with soap and water, it should come off.", "Use rubbing compound such as 3M or Meguiar's Ultimate Compound. \nIt's essentially an extremely fine sandpaper that'll scuff off the very top layer of your paint, clearing away blemishes. It'll make it very shiny. Source: Tried it and it worked great. ", "Magic Eraser by Mr. Clean. Be gentle and patient and you won't damage the clear coat. Nice wash and wax you're good as new", "A friend's ex did this *regularly* to their business vehicle. He learned that a car wash with the high pressure hose works fairly well and you can use a [green scrubbie](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000KKIMU0/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B000KKIMU0&linkCode=as2&tag=everyneedsage-20&linkId=ALRUCCPWSYIEW4BG) (Amazon link because some folks have asked what that is before) **very gently** to get any remaining bits out. If you get down to metal, make sure you use some touchup paint to seal that back up or it'll rust on you.\n\nHis ex tended to just graze them. If you have serious damage, you probably need to be careful of removing too much other paint. HTH\n\n" ]

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[ "How to improve memory. I feel like my memory and attention span have decreased somewhat severely in the last 2 years, what are some tips/tricks that can be used to increase them? ", "How to improve memory. I feel like my memory and attention span have decreased somewhat severely in the last 2 years, what are some tips/tricks that can be used to increase them? ", "How to improve memory. I feel like my memory and attention span have decreased somewhat severely in the last 2 years, what are some tips/tricks that can be used to increase them? ", "How to improve memory. I feel like my memory and attention span have decreased somewhat severely in the last 2 years, what are some tips/tricks that can be used to increase them? ", "How to improve memory. I feel like my memory and attention span have decreased somewhat severely in the last 2 years, what are some tips/tricks that can be used to increase them? " ]

[ "If you want some specific thing, you can try flashcards. Use application Anki to remember birthdays or some else that you need. You can also make them on sheet, but on smarthphone ou computer its easier.", "i watched this instructional video a while back. it's more directed toward memorizing large bits, not necessarily day to day memory. for my day to day stuff, i use a calendar, couldn't really get along without one. but check out the video and see if this may be helpful. like i said, it's for large bits; this guy memorized a chapter from lobby dick, for example.\n\nhttp://www.vox.com/videos/2016/12/28/14063674/memory-palaces", "Make lists using a pen on paper, check off items completed on the list as you complete them, make a new list for the next day.\n", "You're more likely to remember things when you write them (just like what the other guy said here). avoid writing notes on your phone it just doesnt work for most people. also, put a dry erase board on your fridge. that helps me a lot.", "Exercise. Disconnecting from the internet for stretches of time. Cutting down on any intoxicants. Reading." ]

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[ "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!", "How do I get out of working overtime in a corporate job when there are deadlines? So I work as a corporate accountant. We have client deadlines that we need to meet and on my team it’s just me and one other person. \n\nIs there any valid excuses I can use to not have to work late and just put in 8hr days? Currently looking for a different job at the moment. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Unless you desperately need folks at your current role to help you in getting another one, just set hard limits. Say things like \"I'm sorry, I don't respond to email/work/whatever in excess of 40 hours a week\" if people try and push you further.\n\nThey can't force you to. It will piss people off and make them unlikely to come to bat for you in helping you find other work. However, it's way better to put up with them complaining than unreasonable workloads while you look for something else.", "Depends on your company and contract. Personally if you're planning on leaving anyway I'd just do your hours and alert your manager to any unfinished work and say time hasn't allowed for it. Keep them informed. Ignore the complaints from them and just tell them you're understaffed to maintain the work load. (As much in writing/emails as possible).", "If you are in a Big 5 (or however many there are now after mergers etc) accounting firm, significant overtime is expected, especially in the busy season. If you want to have boundaries you can enforce, go to a smaller firm.\n\nSource: used to work for one of the big 5", "Don't accept that some jobs just demand long hours. Companies are always going to try to maximize their profits, which often means hiring fewer people than needed to finish the work. It's your bosses responsibility to make sure the company is properly staffed. If the people currently employed can't complete the work in 40 hours, that's on them, not you. Make it known that you're only working 40 hours a week, unless an emergency crops up, in which case you'll take time off the next week to make up for helping out.", "Work prioritization. Look at the deliverables and determine what's absolutely necessary, what's a strong want, and what can be dropped. If strong wants have to go, then they have to go. If completing the absolutely necessary items puts you over 40 hours then find more efficient methods or use the analysis to try to convince management to hire someone.", "They’ll never hire more people if they can work you to death. I would stay about half an hour over so you don’t look like a clock watcher. \n\nKeep your boss updated about your timelines. Let him know how much you’ve accomplished, have left, and if you’re going to meet your deadline. Don’t let missing a deadline come as a surprise to him.", "Some fields simply require it. I was burnt out at my old job because the culture was that everyone worked about 50 hours a week and you were seen as lazy if you only worked 45 (40 was literally unheard of, we were all scheduled 9 hour days, 5 days a week, with the expectation to stay late and/or arrive early most days). So, I changed jobs, and the hours are no better at the new place. This is just how it is in many industries, unfortunately. You need to discuss your expectations with your boss and see if there is room for negotiating less hours. Since you plan on leaving though, that may be a waste of time.", "Look up and around. The entire country is refusing to burn themselves out to add to the CEO’s margins in a corporate world that has no loyalty to its workers. \nAre you really going to work overtime so that the corporate retreat that you will never be invited to can hire Taylor Swift as entertainment? If you have new work lined up, or even if you don’t, just refuse.", "If your already 8n the mindset of getting a new job then just be firm about it. Let them know that the hours don't work for you and what you expect. \n\nThe company gets more out of you then you get from them. In either scenario straight firing you is a poor idea on their part, they will likely play ball until they can replace you, or just keep you on with the limited hours.\n\nNo promise of course, but what is their alternative, fire you and be down half their workforce until they can get another guy for the understaffed position, and pray the position doesn't keep rolling over.", "Can't speak for your specific sitch, but in my world - if I've got more work than I can do - I go to my boss and bitch about having too much work. If they say, \"well, do overtime\", I say, \"I don't fucking want to do overtime, I'm burning out as it is\", and then my boss thinks, *oh, shit, I don't want to lose this guy*, and then we figure out a compromise.", "Another idea: Accounting/Finance work is often cyclical with busy times and less-busy times. It's common to accept the need to work extra hours during the busy times in exchange for being able to take time off during the less busy times. It's also common for management to forget they need to let folks have some downtime to recover after a big push, so it can help to communicate to them that you're working extra now to help get the company through an unavoidable workload issue but that you'll be taking some downtime later to compensate. Then when you figure out when you can get some downtime make sure to remind them that it would be very not ok for them to load you up with unnecessary work during that time because it's downtime in exchange for you saving their asses during the crunch time. Folks have short memories. Boundary enforcement through gentle reminders can go a long way to making sure you get your needs met without leaving your employer in the lurch." ]

[ 18, 9, 6, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. ", "How to hear people better in loud places I have pretty terrible selective hearing and was wondering if anyone has any tips on hearing people I'm talking to in bars easier. " ]

[ "When I was younger me and my friends would go to a heavy metal club night every week, its was unbelievably loud and the venue was actually arches under a bridge so you literally couldn't hear anything but that, we used to press the persons ear we wanted to speak to, however people outside that group of friends seem to look at you like wtf you doing lol ", "I've either got tinnitus or my hearing has inexplicably decreased in one ear. My hearing is terrible, and I work in a bar/restaurant. I think there may only be one or two daily instances of me *not* having to ask a customer or coworker to repeat themselves. I'm thinking it may help to drop the appearance of friendliness/confidence by looking at their eyes and try to lip-read. Problem for me is I'm not from where I live and I also have a hard time understanding the local accent. Damned if you do, damned if you don't XD", "Do warn whoever you're talking to that you have some trouble. Try to focus on their mouth, even if you're bad at lip-reading it can help. I often end up turning my head a bit to focus one ear at whoever is talking. If the conversation is serious, ask if they would be willing to move somewhere a bit less noisy, even if it's just the other end of the bar.", "Lip reading, although that tends to be more of a trait learned growing up. You'd be amazed how clearly you could understand someone just through learning how their facial muscles move. ", "Sign language is perfect for this. My friend and I will occasionally sign to each other across the band room when we aren't close enough to talk or everyone else is playing. ", "I was born deaf as a post (horrendous pre-birth ear infections; I still have bad hearing even now, between that and a few later eardrum injuries), and growing up being various shades of hearing impaired, I unconsciously taught myself to kinda-sorta read lips. Not as well as someone who seriously, legitimately reads lips, but I have a knack.\n\nI tell you that to tell you this: Look at the lips. It may take a bit of practice, but even my half-assed level of lip-reading ability is a *huge* help, and in lots more situations than just loud environments.\n\nThat's my tip.", "You should do the talking in loud places as they likley won't be able to hear you so if the conversation arises again in a quieter location you will know what you talked about as you did most of the talking ", "Wearing those little foam earplugs make it easier to talk to someone who is close to you without having to scream.\nSource: my band and I used to wear them when we had shows at loud bars and needed to talk to each other before we went on.", "Used to run a club in Hong Kong, my saving grace was speaking into your drink to amplify and listening with a cup to hear.. works well until it gets messy", "The most predominant symptom of hearing loss is the inability to understand speech in noise. However, millions of people with normal hearing still struggle to understand speech in noise. Have your hearing tested (free at most hearing aid specific offices) just to be sure it is indeed \"selective hearing\". Beyond that reading lips and body language are tools as well as sitting near a wall or corner. Walls and corners tend to propagate high frequency sounds which are the most important sounds when it comes to understanding speech. Low frequency sounds (bass) tend to be strongest in the center of a room, making it \"louder\" but harder to comprehend speech. I hope this helps you.", "As someone else mentioned, occluding the ear canal by pressing on the tragus works very well. Dunno why but it does.", " I learned to read lips, to the extent that what I can hear and what I can read in the situation combine to give me a good idea of what was said and use context clues to fill in the gaps\n\nSeems like a lot of work and is kind of a conscious effort to do but it makes you a better listener too" ]

[ 23, 13, 10, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to get chewing gum out of things I looked at the other thread and it was all simpsons references. But i need legit help.\n\nJust bought myself some sweet ass pair of vans and got chewing gum on the canvasy top part and in the laces.\n\ncheers friends", "How to get chewing gum out of things I looked at the other thread and it was all simpsons references. But i need legit help.\n\nJust bought myself some sweet ass pair of vans and got chewing gum on the canvasy top part and in the laces.\n\ncheers friends", "How to get chewing gum out of things I looked at the other thread and it was all simpsons references. But i need legit help.\n\nJust bought myself some sweet ass pair of vans and got chewing gum on the canvasy top part and in the laces.\n\ncheers friends" ]

[ "Acetone a.k.a. nail polish remover. However, some nail polish removers might prove to be too dilluted to take effect. You can probably get acetone in the drug store.", "Turn a can of compressed air upside-down and spray a bit so it gets super cold. It should look like it is spraying ice. Spray it onto the gum so it freezes solid. With the gum frozen, use a fork or something to remove the gum.", "Oil. You learn this when you have kids that keep putting gum in their hair. You'll probably want to use cooking oil instead of motor oil, although I'm sure motor oil would work too." ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "Easy way to stop headphones cables and other wires from coiling on themselves? i know if you run a lead through your fingers by squeezing tight (use a shirt or rag to avoid burning) it will reduce coiling on cables, any other suggestions? ", "Easy way to stop headphones cables and other wires from coiling on themselves? i know if you run a lead through your fingers by squeezing tight (use a shirt or rag to avoid burning) it will reduce coiling on cables, any other suggestions? ", "Easy way to stop headphones cables and other wires from coiling on themselves? i know if you run a lead through your fingers by squeezing tight (use a shirt or rag to avoid burning) it will reduce coiling on cables, any other suggestions? ", "Easy way to stop headphones cables and other wires from coiling on themselves? i know if you run a lead through your fingers by squeezing tight (use a shirt or rag to avoid burning) it will reduce coiling on cables, any other suggestions? ", "Easy way to stop headphones cables and other wires from coiling on themselves? i know if you run a lead through your fingers by squeezing tight (use a shirt or rag to avoid burning) it will reduce coiling on cables, any other suggestions? " ]

[ "Finger crochet. I had a 12 foot cord on my head phones, and got it down to a manageable 3 feet for actually doing things. Google it.", "not sure if this is what you want, but if you learn to crochet (easy) then you can crochet around your cords and they will no longer tangle no matter how you coil them. They just [fall open](http://imgur.com/a/kRRwp) every time with no effort. Plus, you can have any color you want.", "Used toilet paper roll. Use scissors and cut a line on both ends on opposite sides. Fit the wire into one side and then roll until desired and fit into the other. See attached picture: http://imgur.com/JgVp8", "I use either one of those plastic things you wrap cables around, but I keep losing those. So more often then not I coil it up, looping around the wires itself.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/r96vn\n\nIt's slow and you can't unwind it fast but I kinda like it.", "I've worked with quite a few bands so cable management it is pretty big thing for me, [this is how to correctly roll any cable](http://youtu.be/3j1Wdc-ymbI) unless it's a rope or power lead... \n\nIt takes a bit of practice to do it with headphones but it's totally worth it" ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "what's the best way to get free food or extremely reduced prices? Whether it be an app with points, or some kind of reward program. ", "what's the best way to get free food or extremely reduced prices? Whether it be an app with points, or some kind of reward program. ", "what's the best way to get free food or extremely reduced prices? Whether it be an app with points, or some kind of reward program. " ]

[ "Free food at fast food restaurants. Order a burger off the dollar menu and ask them to add all the veggies and dressings(usually free). You end up getting much more sandwich for just just a dollar. ", "If you have a Kroger chain grocery store near you, sign up for one of their cards. Its free and you can download coupons on it online. They just scan your card at the register. You can save a lot of money adding coupons on to sale items and they give a coupon every Friday for a random free item, usually candy or something small. I occasionally get \"best customer\" coupons from them as well. Sometimes for a free loaf of bread or peanut butter or for a dollar or two off of something I buy alot.", "Food banks. This is exactly what they are for. If you aren’t sure where your local food bank is, go to ANY church in your area and ask in the office. I’ve never seen a church that didn’t actively participate in a local food bank.\n\nFeeding yourself and your family shouldn’t be a source of stress or insecurity. Don’t let embarrassment, or pride, prevent you from going. No one will judge you, even if they know/recognize you. " ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?", "How do I become a good communicator with my SO? Inspired by the [recent LPT](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2r0km2/lpt_when_talking_to_your_so_about_things_they_are/) that was posted not to long ago. \n\nI've been talking to this girl for a while and I'm about to ask her out to make things more serious. In short, I've never been in a relationship before and I'm a bit nervous that I won't be a very good partner when it comes to this stuff. \n\nI realize that every relationship is entirely unique and different, but are there some general relationship tips that people could share?" ]

[ "Here's a good one: Learn to identify the difference between \"asking you to fix a problem\" and \"just venting about shit and not looking for a fix\"\n\nWomen usually just want to talk and be heard. We don't need you to solve the problems. The best way to identify the difference, is to listen until she's done talking, and then say \"Would you like advice, or would you like a hug?\"", "One step at a time big guy. Get in the relationship first.\n\nIt will probably be messy. You will probably screw up a lot.\n\nThat's how we learn.", "The most important thing is that you must learn from any experiences that you have, as there are no rules that can maximise your relationship - you just have to be perceptive and pick up on what your SO wants.\n\nJust make sure that there is a healthy balance between what you want and what they want, because sometimes it can be hard to love somebody who makes themselves a martyr.\n\nGood luck - you'll discover a lot about yourself in the next few months.", "I see two main components for you to work on here.\n\n1. Become a good communicator with everyone, not just her. This will have you wasting a lot of energy, failing and failing again. Do it. You can read a book, to help, like [this one]( https://kickass.so/how-to-talk-to-anyone-92-little-tricks-for-big-success-in-relationships-mg-t8745642.html).\n\n2. The other thing is called empathy. Learn the difference between living someone's problems (sympathy) and understanding someone's problems (empathy). I have no book on understanding someone's problems. But real, emotional understanding, is a skill and a powerful way to love.", "Men and women use words differently. /u/kittykat713 is correct as is /u/elpapiflaco in recommending the book Men are from Mars..., which essentially says the same thing.\n\nFirst things first though, stay in the present and enjoy the moment. What you fear might or might not happen is nothing more than a hallucination. Spend too much time there and you'll miss out on the now.", "Don't worry too much about this. You're going to have problems no matter what. That's how relationships are. Being perfect is boring. If you worry about being the best all the time, that in itself could cause problems. Stay focused on the here and now. Work problems out as they come. If you get through them together, it will bring you closer to each other." ]

[ 8, 5, 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? ", "How do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic? People say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it. How do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside? " ]

[ "Maybe it's your attitude. Everyone is trying to get through the day, so don't take things personally. If someone is sounding fake, maybe they're in a bad mood and it has nothing to do with you. Are you really offended by a fake 'Thank you' from a stranger? Get some patience and don't sweat the small stuff.", "OK, let's break this down, you have a lot going on here:\n\nHow do you live in this world, where everything seems so fake, so unauthentic?\n\nOK, well, this is the world we have, you need to accept it, as it is and not expect it to change for you. In other words, this idea you have that there is/could be a more real version of this world is what is causing your unhappiness. This is not to say that you can't try and champion change, but you also can't expect that change to happen spontaneously just because you wish it were different, right? The only thing you have control over is your own thoughts and actions. Be the change you want to see and if it is worthy, people will notice and try and emulate that change.\n\nPeople say \"Thank You\", but they don't really mean it.\n\nOK, one thing to realize, you can't actually know what people are thinking or feeling. You can try to assume, infer or divine it, but, even if you ask them, you have no assurance that there response is true. All of this is to say, if someone says \"thank you\" accept it as meaningful and respond in kind.\n\nHow do you put up a smile and not slowly die inside?\n\nYou don't. If you are unhappy, you talk to someone about it. If you are unsatisfied, you change something in your life. If you are not being challenged, you change your hobbies/circle of friends/career. If you are slowly dying inside, then either you are clinically depressed, you are not using your support structure (friends, family, religion, medical professionals, counselors, etc.) or you want more out of life. No one can fix any of those problems for you, but they can help if you are willing and able to address your issues, right?", ">People say \"Thank you\" but they don't really mean it.\n\nWait, you know people who say thank you? You should be grateful for that. \n\nI'll take an insincere thank you over silence any day of the week.", "They don't mean it either. Being fake and crass is a defense mechanism for those easily wounded. YOU just stay neutral and you can eat the nonsense. ", "Create your own happiness. Promote happy thoughts in your head. We all have our demons, but your mind is on your side.", "YOU be authentic. Then, no matter what anyone else is, you can be satisfied with who you are. Find things that matter you; deep things that DO satisfy you desire for authenticity, and you can then be a way for others to get in touch with their authentic self.\n\nFor me (as an example), my life became very meaningful as I discovered who Jesus is and who I am to him. Now, everything I do has weight and meaning. That's my story. Find out what yours is! \n\nHope this helps!", "It's easy. This world is the only one you get. (barring any promised afterlife which you have to accept on spec.) So you're just going to waste an entire life, the only one you get, because the world doesn't measure up to your expectations? \n\nLook at the world, take a good look at the world and the people in it. Some of them are having a pretty good time. Now make a conscious decision to be one of them. ", "Find something/someone that's yours. Something you like. Make an island for yourself. Don't let your happiness be dependent on others. Come to the realization that you alone decide how to perceive things and that you alone decide to be happy or sad or whatever. ", "Weed and a very loving relationship, no jokes. The latter is the sole reason for my continued sanity. ", "There is a ton of joy to be had in this world. \nLook to things you are passionate about- your family, pets, a favorite charity, your home, a hobby, or other interests that move you in a positive manner. \nIt's mostly a matter of how you direct your focus. \n\nI am aware of the terrible times, inequities, unfairness, and misery in this world but my own personal corner is pretty great. \nI have people who would miss me if I was gone, pets that I adore, a home I *really* enjoy, and hobbies that keep be busy and facing in a positive direction. \nMany things may not be in your control but many *are.* \nThose you have the ability to influence need to be directed in a way that makes you happy. \n\nYou have the power." ]

[ 14, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to sing in key? I've always had problems with singing in key and everybody says that I'm the worst singer ever. What can I do to improve?", "How to sing in key? I've always had problems with singing in key and everybody says that I'm the worst singer ever. What can I do to improve?", "How to sing in key? I've always had problems with singing in key and everybody says that I'm the worst singer ever. What can I do to improve?", "How to sing in key? I've always had problems with singing in key and everybody says that I'm the worst singer ever. What can I do to improve?" ]

[ "I would start by getting some singing lessons. There are techniques you can learn to help. Having said that, some people just aren't physiologically capable of it. You may well be tone deaf somewhat, or not have the vocal capacity. In my opinion, if you enjoy singing, whether you're good or not then do it. But if you truly do suck and aren't very thick skinned, keep it to the shower and your car. ", "I've been told the secret to singing on key is listening carefully and critically. Get yourself access to a keyboard, play a note, listen to that note, try to imitate it as accurately as you can, then play that same note again and compare it to the one you sang. Repeat as necessary until you're confident that you're matching it as accurately as you can, then move on to another note. Iterate as needed. Once you're confident that you can match individual notes accurately, practice intervals - half steps, whole steps, major thirds, minor thirds, perfect fourths, perfect fifths, major and minor sixth, major and minor seventh, and octaves, both up and down. Find songs you know well that you can use as mnemonics. The only way to get better at doing anything is practice.", "Honestly, there are many ways to improve a problem voice, but if you can't reproduce tones that you hear at the same pitch, that's not really fixable, I wish it was. If you love music, you may want to explore other ways to participate like dancing or drums. ", "I have a friend who's the exact same. Simple solution, got him lessons with my singing teacher, and he's singing better. Granted, like all instruments practice is key. Another thing is trying to sing stuff you like. If you know the song, you're more inclined to sub-consciously match pitch. Good luck :)" ]

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[ "Best Ways to Prevent Sneezing and Coughing Last week I was in a car wreck and broke my sternum, and as a result any action I make that uses my upper chest puts me in a lot of pain. As a result, coughing and sneezing put me in extreme agony. Even with painkillers and such to numb the constant discomfort these two actions feel like my chest is going to burst open. Anyone have any ideas or remedies?\n\ntl;dr.... broke my chest, can't sneeze without feeling like dying, help?\n", "Best Ways to Prevent Sneezing and Coughing Last week I was in a car wreck and broke my sternum, and as a result any action I make that uses my upper chest puts me in a lot of pain. As a result, coughing and sneezing put me in extreme agony. Even with painkillers and such to numb the constant discomfort these two actions feel like my chest is going to burst open. Anyone have any ideas or remedies?\n\ntl;dr.... broke my chest, can't sneeze without feeling like dying, help?\n", "Best Ways to Prevent Sneezing and Coughing Last week I was in a car wreck and broke my sternum, and as a result any action I make that uses my upper chest puts me in a lot of pain. As a result, coughing and sneezing put me in extreme agony. Even with painkillers and such to numb the constant discomfort these two actions feel like my chest is going to burst open. Anyone have any ideas or remedies?\n\ntl;dr.... broke my chest, can't sneeze without feeling like dying, help?\n", "Best Ways to Prevent Sneezing and Coughing Last week I was in a car wreck and broke my sternum, and as a result any action I make that uses my upper chest puts me in a lot of pain. As a result, coughing and sneezing put me in extreme agony. Even with painkillers and such to numb the constant discomfort these two actions feel like my chest is going to burst open. Anyone have any ideas or remedies?\n\ntl;dr.... broke my chest, can't sneeze without feeling like dying, help?\n" ]

[ "Ok, this will sound ridiculous, but it has always worked for me. When you feel a sneeze coming on, say \"pineapple\" repeatedly until the tickle goes away. \n\nI don't know for sure why this works (and maybe it doesn't work for everyone), but my best guess is that some combination of talking and getting your mind off the sneeze is behind it.\n\nOh, and blow your nose with a damp paper towel - kleenex are really dusty, which always makes me sneeze more.\n\nHope this helps! ", "I tickle the roof of my mouth with my tongue whenever I feel a sneeze coming on, stops it every time. ", "I was in the hospital last summer and had stomach surgery. Different situation so this may not work for you, but I would hold a pillow really tightly when coughing / sneezing to reduce volatility.", "If you look up at a light when you are going to sneeze it he's rid of it. Not sure why... works though. " ]

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[ "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?", "How to fall asleep fast I have to be awake at 4:30am tomorrow for a shift and slept a good 10 hours last night waking up at around 12pm today. I won’t be able to sleep early so any tips on how I can try and force sleep?" ]

[ "One piece of advice that has helped me through countless sleepless nights:\n\nSlowly count to 150 in your mind. Every time you get distracted by thoughts or lose count, you just continue from the last number that you remember. I rarely am ably to count to 150 before falling asleep, but if you do: just start over again. The rythmic and slow counting relaxes your brain and will prevent you from wondering off to all sorts of thoughts.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI hope it will help you as much as it has helped me!", "Ngl masturbation. However, its either going to make you conk out immediately after, or you're going to be wake for another hour so use as a last resort.", "Don’t force it, some people can easily fall asleep outside their regular sleeping schedule, some can’t \n\nIf you’re used to going to bed at 10, maybe you can try going at 9, but you won’t be able to sleep at 7\n\nSo just go to bed normally and accept you will be a bit underslept tomorrow", "For me, reverse psychology works every time: Try NOT to fall asleep!\n\nInstead of laying there trying to force sleep, I gently tell myself, \"Okay, sleep isn't happening. I'm going to try and stay awake instead. Now, what can I think about?\" And, after a few minutes, I start getting drowsy and fall asleep...every time.", "Our sleep is linked with our biological clock. Practice to link it with some thing else, i.e. book reading, listening to podcast etc. \nOnce you build a habit, u can use it to fall asleep in odd hours.", "Look up the Progressive Muscle Relaxation technique. (PMR) it’s what people in the military will do when they need to get some shut eye at random times of the day. It pretty much consists of laying back and tightening one muscle group at a time and then slowly relaxing it before you move onto the next one. By the time you make it up your body to your head, you will probably be asleep. You need to treat it like m", "Exercise, then rest - don’t try to “fall asleep “ but focus on relaxing and being comfortable, avoid screens, and make it dark", "Aside of a substance (liquor, pill sleep aid if some kind it depends on how well you get to sleep. I count numbers in my head or sing a favorite soothing song in my head and it takes my mind off the day and provides an escape of sorts and works great for me. Also turn off any screens in the house. The blueish tint actually stimulates brainwaves and can make it hard to sleep to. I use my Alexa dot or iPhone/mobile etc..device to play some soothing sound such as campfire crackling, babbling brook, low thunderstorm, And that can really help one to relax", "Take a mg of melatonin 1-2 hours before you want to be asleep. It doesn't take much to make you sleepy if you take it early.", "I pretend that it’s 5 minutes from the time I actually need to get up and the last thing I want to do is wake up and get out of bed. It tricks my brain into thinking the beds super comfy and that I’m tired." ]

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[ "How can I keep the bristles on my toothbrush soft? Over time the bristles on my toothbrush will get stiff and become unpleasant to brush with. Does anyone know how I can fix this? Besides spending money on a new toothbrush every time it happens ", "How can I keep the bristles on my toothbrush soft? Over time the bristles on my toothbrush will get stiff and become unpleasant to brush with. Does anyone know how I can fix this? Besides spending money on a new toothbrush every time it happens ", "How can I keep the bristles on my toothbrush soft? Over time the bristles on my toothbrush will get stiff and become unpleasant to brush with. Does anyone know how I can fix this? Besides spending money on a new toothbrush every time it happens " ]

[ "This happens to mine sometimes. You just need to make sure to rinse it better. I hold mine under hot water when I'm done brushing and kind of rub it with my thumb to make sure all the paste is out.", "Have you tried soaking it in hydrogen peroxide? It might be that some un rinsed toothpaste is building up and making it stiff. Could also help to rinse it thoroughly with hot (not just warm) water after every use", "You could try allowing them to soak in recently boiled water or vinegar. Both harmless and are good for cleaning. " ]

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[ "Less expensive way to send faxes I don't own a fax machine and have to submit 30+ pages for a loan application. FedEx/UPS/Office stores charge a dollar or more/page. Any recommendations?", "Less expensive way to send faxes I don't own a fax machine and have to submit 30+ pages for a loan application. FedEx/UPS/Office stores charge a dollar or more/page. Any recommendations?", "Less expensive way to send faxes I don't own a fax machine and have to submit 30+ pages for a loan application. FedEx/UPS/Office stores charge a dollar or more/page. Any recommendations?" ]

[ "Do a google search for \"internet fax machine\" there are a number of them where you just submit a PDF and it faxes it to the number you need. For 30+ pages it might be a few bucks but still cheaper then UPS.\n\nStaples also has cheaper fax machines for use then $1 a page. I think it's about$0.30 a page around here", "Go to the Fedex store and send a fax. It will allow you to send a cover page for free with your fax but just cancel the run after the cover page is sent. Do this until done and you won't pay a thing to send a fax.", "Check out J2. They have free and paid services...I used the free service and got my own number, transmission and receiving of faxes. You may need a scanner unless what you are faxing is already digital." ]

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[ "How to stop in-ear rubber earbuds from falling out? I always end up having to find them on the ground, or order them online for new ones. How do I stop them or prevent them from falling out easily?", "How to stop in-ear rubber earbuds from falling out? I always end up having to find them on the ground, or order them online for new ones. How do I stop them or prevent them from falling out easily?" ]

[ "Squeeze in the earbuds until they are very small. Then, \"clear your ears\" by blowing your nose while keeping your nose shut tight. This will create overpressure. \n\nThen, stick in the earbuds and let them expand in your ear. \nFinally, neutralize the built up pressure (usually done by swallowing). \nNow the pressure difference between the eardrum and your earplug will keep it in place. \n\nIf the earbud is too smooth, you could also wax the earbuds slightly with some vaseline.", "If you pull the top of you ear upwards when you insert the plugs, it stretches the canal slightly and closes tighter on your ear." ]

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[ "How to fix small damages to apartment What types of tricks or any tips that you have done to your apartment to fix any small damages that you have done? For example, I stuck a small round light on my wall and stupidly ripped it off, along with a small circle where that light's tape was. Also, I left an incense burning that caused it to burn a penny sized bubbled up burn into the counter. Also, my cats chews a few of the blinds?\nI really need my security deposit back...and this is also my first apartment.", "How to fix small damages to apartment What types of tricks or any tips that you have done to your apartment to fix any small damages that you have done? For example, I stuck a small round light on my wall and stupidly ripped it off, along with a small circle where that light's tape was. Also, I left an incense burning that caused it to burn a penny sized bubbled up burn into the counter. Also, my cats chews a few of the blinds?\nI really need my security deposit back...and this is also my first apartment.", "How to fix small damages to apartment What types of tricks or any tips that you have done to your apartment to fix any small damages that you have done? For example, I stuck a small round light on my wall and stupidly ripped it off, along with a small circle where that light's tape was. Also, I left an incense burning that caused it to burn a penny sized bubbled up burn into the counter. Also, my cats chews a few of the blinds?\nI really need my security deposit back...and this is also my first apartment." ]

[ "A lot of blinds are longer than the window they are in, which means that there are extra slats at the bottom of the blind even when they are fully down in the window. You might be able to undo the strings that hold the blinds up to the level of the damaged slats, remove those slats and replace with the new ones from the bottom, and then reassemble the now slightly shorter but still long enough blinds. I used this when I moved into my house and there were damaged blinds- saved me from having to replace them, and you can't tell that they've been modified at all.", "No tricks, you damaged the apartment. You can Spackle over the spot, they will most likely not be charging you and ask them what color paint. Replace the blind, but you are most likely going to be charged for the burn on the counter. Depending if its near a seam, (sounds like it is just laminate) or how much counter top has to be replaced, you may not get all your SD back. ", "Spackle over the spot where the light was. If your walls are textured, you can match the surrounding area fairly well by dabbing the repaired area with a damp sponge before it sets." ]

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[ "Something I can do alone to stay active starting to put on a few pounds since changing jobs and having to be less active at work so I was looking for some tips on what I can do to stay active and in moderate shape while I can still relax and be by myself. ", "Something I can do alone to stay active starting to put on a few pounds since changing jobs and having to be less active at work so I was looking for some tips on what I can do to stay active and in moderate shape while I can still relax and be by myself. ", "Something I can do alone to stay active starting to put on a few pounds since changing jobs and having to be less active at work so I was looking for some tips on what I can do to stay active and in moderate shape while I can still relax and be by myself. ", "Something I can do alone to stay active starting to put on a few pounds since changing jobs and having to be less active at work so I was looking for some tips on what I can do to stay active and in moderate shape while I can still relax and be by myself. ", "Something I can do alone to stay active starting to put on a few pounds since changing jobs and having to be less active at work so I was looking for some tips on what I can do to stay active and in moderate shape while I can still relax and be by myself. " ]

[ "Avoid elevators, use the stairs. Instead of looking for that parking space nearest the door, find one at the edge of the parking lot. Download audio books and listen as you walk around the park. ", "Walking for sure. If you’re looking for something you can do at home, consider yoga. There are many instructional videos online to help you get started. ", "House Cleaning. Pick something and deep clean it from top to bottom.. scrub your floors by hand, empty and reorganize your closet or drawers. \n", "wu Qin Xi Chi Kung Exercise:\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-x8Q_rpDPGE\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DIvgS3bDlWg\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJIELWd-3cw\nHsing-I Exercises:\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y56thj4ormU\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w9h5L-GIFSw\nHsing-I is more like calisthenics and more martial to stay in shape. The Wu Qin Xi is softer and more for internal health.", "Body weight exercises can be pretty good to help keep yourself motivated to exercise, I find. Pushups and sit-ups are the kind of thing you can see quick progress on - start with one set and a few weeks will show you being able to do a second set, then a third and fourth. It’s great for self esteem, and not terrible exercise.\n\nI can’t stand gyms and do a lot of my exercise at home. You need a good mix of cardio and strength training, ultimately, but yoga, sprinting, push-ups, sit-ups/leg-lifts, and occasional jogs are all easy to add to a daily routine without being too crazy or needing any tools.\n\nIf you don’t mind putting a little more effort in: Buy a pair of hand weights, find a place to do pull-ups, and go bike riding or swimming. Or pick up a martial arts heavy bag and a pair of gloves, or even look into learning some basic handweapons forms and grab a wallhanger sword or quarterstaff online. " ]

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