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[ "Best places to do cheap long-term parking? Looking to leave my city for a while. I don't necessarily need my car while I'm gone and don't have a garage or anything to park it in. Any suggestions as to where I may park my car for 2 Months for relatively cheap?", "Best places to do cheap long-term parking? Looking to leave my city for a while. I don't necessarily need my car while I'm gone and don't have a garage or anything to park it in. Any suggestions as to where I may park my car for 2 Months for relatively cheap?" ]

[ "Definitely look around college/uni campuses. \nA lot of students have the driveway but not the car, and they do rent the spaces out. \nYou should be able to go on the student post boards and either find or post an ad to rent.\n\nI wouldn’t be surprised if you got a spot for like $5-10 for the whole time. And remember, it’s free money for them so they’ll probably take any amount you give them. Very few people are at student houses now so it’s empty\n\nThat would be my first choice as a student myself, but I’ve also read that parking at airport for a long period is effective. Apparently when you come back, just select “forgot ticket” and it’ll charge you a whole day’a fee (which is obvs cheaper)", "Not sure of prices in your area. Climate controlled storage units could be a way to go. As well as off site airport parking, most around Pitt have security 24/7 and won’t kill a budget." ]

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[ "How to not overthink in math? What is a good mindset to have when taking courses like calculus and how do I stop overthinking everything?", "How to not overthink in math? What is a good mindset to have when taking courses like calculus and how do I stop overthinking everything?", "How to not overthink in math? What is a good mindset to have when taking courses like calculus and how do I stop overthinking everything?", "How to not overthink in math? What is a good mindset to have when taking courses like calculus and how do I stop overthinking everything?" ]

[ "Also, I typically found (years ago in HS and college) that if the number you're coming up with is ridiculously and unnecessarily complicated (such as 2.31938273663), you probably made a mistake somewhere. No sane instructor wants to check such complicated values unless it's absolutely necessary. I have, however, gotten partial cr", "This is probably not be the best advice but, I used to over think math im not sure its not the same as yours but in highschool I always used to question why math was the way it is and it just made my experience math terrible. \n\nThe solution I found for it is just do it so often and actually take the time to learn it so that even on auto-pilot you can solve it. I hated overthinking math so I made it easy", "Overthinking in math *is* a good thing, if you're trying to prove something. When finding a derivative it isn't really helpful.\n\nSounds like shitty advice, but study so you know the material. When you take the exam or whatever, chances are your first inclination is still right. Checking your work shouldn't be re-solving the problem, it should be *verifying* the solution. \n\nIf you have to solve A->B, when checking your work you should be able to do B'->A, or, undo the work to get back to A.", "Math is all about confidence. Overthinking your answer comes from lack of confidence in your process. If you know that every part of your process is correct, then you don't have to worry about your final answer. The \"secret\" to gaining confidence in your answers is to solve practice problems. Math typically follows the same pattern: Learn concept, apply concept to easy problems, gradually apply concept to harder problems, move on to new concept. When you practice multiple problems on the same concept, 2 things will happen. First, your brain will start to memorize the pattern by which you are solving the problem, allowing you to recognize what you need to do next on future problems. Secondly, it allows you to identify your tendencies to make mistakes. If you are disciplined to always seek to fully understand each problem, easy or difficult, then you save SO much time and stress come test day. Since most of math builds on itself, the work you put in on the previous subject carries over to the next. If you can, work in groups of 2-3 people and use them if you get stuck. If you end up having to teach them how to do the problem, then great! The highest form of mastery in a subject is the ability to teach it to someone else. It's also the best way to learn. No textbook or lecture can compare to teaching. \n\nTL;DR\nBuild confidence in your answers by diligently practicing lots of problems. Working in groups helps speed the process." ]

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[ "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?", "Co-worker is getting me a gift but I'm broke I work at an eye clinic. My co-worker is getting me something for Christmas/New Year. I'm in college and I only work 1-2 days a week. I have college related expenses so I can't get her anything nice. But I feel really bad about it. What can I do?" ]

[ "Go to the photocopier and open up the drawer, pull out a single sheet of paper. Fold it in half and write his/her name on the front. On the inside write: \"Dear so and so, thank you for the gift I cant tell you how much it means to me to have you think of me. Its things like this and thoughtfulness that makes it such a joy to work with you. I love it especially when you\". ... Then wire a bunch of stuff they do that makes that person awesome.\r\rGetting an honest letter filled with stuff that someone likes about you is WAY better that just some random crap someone bought at WalMart.... And its 100% free.", "Bake some cookies or a loaf of bread.\n\nYou know that old saying, \"It's the thought that counts\"? It's really true. Just show you were thinking of her. ", "Something I did as gifts for the neighbors and to bring to christmas potluck, went over great, was very cheap and easy, no oven required! Buy microwave popcorn, if you can find unsalted and unbuttered that's preferable (I had to use homestyle popcorn, turned out just fine) and almond bark. Microwave the popcorn, try to make sure there's no kernels if possible. Put popcorn in a bowl. Place 2-3 pieces of the chocolate in a glass dish, heat it until melted in 15 seconds intervals, making sure to stir it quite a bit. Once melted pour over popcorn and stir. Lay flat over parchment/wax paper for 15-20 mins, break into smaller pieces and put in a cute baggie or cheap tin from dollar store. Tastes amazing, super easy, quick, and cheap. ", "Step one, cut a hole in the box... \n\n\nSeriously though, you can always make something or do something nice as a gift instead of spending money. ", "I think the dollar store is your friend. Try the figurine/catering section. \n\nOther possibilities:\n\n- The useless glassware section at a thrift shop. \n\n- Yard/garage/stoop sales, especially in neighborhoods where people do them more for fun and decluttering than money. Offer a dollar for a giftish item. \n\n- Look in the thrift shops or used bookstores for old dollar books you can pass off as being collectible books. Example: my local church book sale recently had illustrated adventure books from 1910 on the give-away table. You didn't even have to pay for them; they were about to be dumpstered. \n\n", "Take a page from George Costanza's book: give them a card saying that a \n$20 donation has been made in their name to The Human Fund.", "Accept her gift and let it be what it is - a gift. Then simply explain your situation. Simply speaking the truth of the situation will mean more to your friendship in the long run than reciprocating. ", "Take your time drawing a picture, or working on a piece of art. Paper/pen/markers are relatively cheap. The time someone puts into their art is valuable. ", "I know you want to give back but I would say it won't be expected if you are part time and a student. Maybe you don't know where to buy cheap crap - a silly pair of Christmas sock or a pin that lights up are fun and can be had for less than 5 bucks if you have access to a mall. She wears the reindeer antlers for a couple of hours at work on her last day before leaving for Christmas. Instant goofy Christmas cheer. ", "Everyone else has given great advice with thoughtful cards, baking some deliciousness, or thoughtful knick nacks. I say helicopter ride. Make your co-worker feel like a kid again by lifting her high and whirling youselves in a nauseating spiral. ", "let me tell you, i have gotten more teary eyed responses from simple cards than any gift i have ever given! just whatever you do. do not say \"i found the most expensive card and bought that one because i knew you would like it\" it will turn tears of joy into fists of hatred! i just wanted her to stop crying so me and my big mouth made her hate me. \n\n\nso anyways find a good card with lots of words and read every word, to make sure ti is how you feel. then give it. but i repeat when they start crying to stop them from crying do not say \"i found the most expensive card and bought that one because i knew you would like it\"", "Bake them a cake. The ingredients for this cake can be had for under 10 dollars. And it is very good. \n\nhttp://imgur.com/OdfZO5P", "bake her cookies. not very expensive, relatively easy to make, awesome and not just bought in some store.", "You should be able to find cheap but nice gifts in stores such as Dollar Store, Walmart, or Marshall's. Look for items that are additionally on sale. Dollar store even sells books for $1, which would be a nice gift. Good luck!", "You can make yummy cheap desserts without an oven! Just google no bake dessert recipes and you'll find a ton! I personally recommend anything with Oreos.", "When I was in college I would get a glass jar (or anything clear really,) and fill it with homemade hot cocoa mix cocoa, sugar, powder milk) and marshmallows! Add some ribbon and you have a simple and inexpensive gift. Also they cost the same if you make a lot. :-) ", "What about a $5 gift card to a coffee shop? Gifts are primarily about the thought and the presentation. ", "Someone send op 25 bucks to get a gift, I would but my circumstances are exactly like hers, college has taught me more about living on a budget than my degree itself ", "Since it is a co-worker I'd keep the gift fairly impersonal. How about a small flashlight for her purse or car or better yet for crawling around under her desk to get to her computer? A small Leatherman multipurpose tool to keep at her desk? At my office only one guy has a screw driver and we all borrow it. A small cactus or succulent plant for her desk. Small cubby art based on her hobbies and interests: a cool small windup toy if she loves squirrels or windmills, a mini calendar about quilting or kayaking. Something she can leave on her desk or hang on her wall. A magnetic thingy for the in and out board. A coffee mug for work that reflects her interests.", "Please don't worry about it.\n\nI did the same thing that your coworker did. I bought my coworker some really nice cookware and I didn't do it expecting reciprocation. I did it because I knew I could make a nice gesture and that she would really appreciate it. I don't get gifts for everyone, I only get gifts for those that I KNOW I can go above and beyond to really make a difference. It is very fulfilling to see the surprise and to know that I made them very happy.\n\nJust get them a card and know that they thought of you.", "I would agree with the suggestion to get her a card. It's a common practice. Think of your high school graduation for example, did you receive presents at that time? Did your parents make you reply to all those gift-givers with a thank you card? It's the same principle.\n\n\nAnother idea is to make her something. Money can buy many things, but it can't buy happiness. Putting time into something may actually have more of an impact than going out and swiping a cr", "I haven't read all the comments, so if some of these have been suggested already, I apologize.\n\nHow about something that doesn't cost money? For example, does your co-worker have kids that you could volunteer to babysit? Does she garden (where you could give her an IOU to weed her garden)? What about certain errands she has to run all the time? Wash her car? Do you have any special skills you could offer such as taking digital photos? Do you write? Can you print of certain types of quotes she might like and put them in a nice jar (i.e., religious, motivational, funny)?", "Does she have any plumbing problems? You could offer to clean her pipes. A dusty attic? Knock those cobwebs loose. ", "Bake them a cake or pie. It doesn't cost much and the effort will be appreciated. More so if it's yummy.", "Print off a card that says you've made a donation in their name to some bogus charity. Keep it vague, something like \"The Human Fund\". " ]

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[ "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome.", "How to make long road trips less monotonous. I have several drives I have to do over the next few weeks and would like to make these drives less miserable. I normally listen to music and/or think introspectively, but those get boring after a few hours. Audiobooks and podcasts, perhaps, would be good places to start? Any other ideas are very welcome." ]

[ "I visit the library and choose college lectures to listen to. I prefer intro courses so if I fade out watching the road it's easier to get back into it. ;) Makes me feel like I'm doing something very worthwhile with the hours I'm trapped in the car.", "check out Mysterious Universe if you like an open minded but refreshing discussion of anything paranormal. It's these two guys in Australia that are pretty funny and easy to listen to. They don't delve into conspiracy or wether things are fact or not. They simply report stories and entertain ideas hypothetically. There's like 7 seasons or something right now? It's a podcast and is about an 1.25 an episode. They have a free version which is a lot of content and a plus version that is an insane amount of content. I started somewhere in season 3. listened to all of the free versions until season 5 for like 6 months at work. Then I got plus and started over from the beginning and it took me probably a year to catch up to the present releases listening back to back episodes at work. \n\nSuper fun to think about. They also cover new science and folklore stories. ", "My suggestion is to stop every 90 minutes or so at a gas station and top off your tank. It breaks the monotony and lets you stand up, walk around, and stretch. You can also use a bathroom and grab a drink for the next leg of your journey.\n\nThe trip will take a little bit longer but it will feel a whole lot quicker. You have to ask yourself if you want to make good time, or enjoy the drive.", "Those are definitely good places to start. Not that I've ever done this, but maybe think about bringing along a couple of your favorite movies, ones you already know well, and have them playing. You don't need to necessarily watch them, but you'll be sufficiently entertained nonetheless.", "/r/audiobooks \n\nThis American Life episodes are free to download on their website. TED Talks also has a podcast, and The Moth has interesting stories as well. \n\nTalking to someone on the phone also helps. \n\nPracticing a foreign language?\n", "[Download old-timey radio shows](http://archive.org/details/OrsonWelles-MercuryTheater-1938Recordings) to listen to along the way. Classy and great.", "Listen to full live shows of your favorite bands. Smoke some weed (not too late at night though as it will make you tired, and not if your traveling in the bible belt). ", "I second the audiobooks/letures idea. It's also good to get a poem you want to memorize on audio. Then, at the end of a drive, you'll have a finished product (a nice party trick / pick up is reciting a poem!) and the drive will go by quickly if you're also trying to memorize something. This may get boring, but so does thinking introspectively.", "I drove back and forth from Florida to New Jersey a dozen times using audiobooks. I happen to love Cold War era spy novels, which there is no shortage of, and they could easily keep me involved for the entire duration of the drive. ", "Additional request: My car has a tape-deck, and I don't have an mp3 player. My cell phone makes phone calls. ", "I've found audiobooks to help pass the time the best. I was able to listen to 2 full [Dark Tower](http://www.stephenking.com/darktower/) books on my last vacation this way." ]

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[ "How to kindly reject giving car rides? As I do not have my license yet, I sometimes ask my parents to pick me up after work. My co-workers sometimes asks for me to give them a ride to their house (which is in the other direction), how would I nicely say no to giving them a ride as I do not want to bother my parents who went out of their way to come pick me up?\n\n", "How to kindly reject giving car rides? As I do not have my license yet, I sometimes ask my parents to pick me up after work. My co-workers sometimes asks for me to give them a ride to their house (which is in the other direction), how would I nicely say no to giving them a ride as I do not want to bother my parents who went out of their way to come pick me up?\n\n", "How to kindly reject giving car rides? As I do not have my license yet, I sometimes ask my parents to pick me up after work. My co-workers sometimes asks for me to give them a ride to their house (which is in the other direction), how would I nicely say no to giving them a ride as I do not want to bother my parents who went out of their way to come pick me up?\n\n" ]

[ "Wait, your coworkers want your parents to drive them to their house that is not in your direction? That's not cool. Tell them so. ", "Just say, \"I'm gay for you and I'm afraid that if we are ever alone in the backseat I might not be able to control myself\" \nWorks every time ", "What's at stake here. Is your friend broke and really needing the job and has no other options, if so ask your parents what they think about the situation. They might be willing to help the guy out. " ]

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[ "Getting mud off of canvas shoes. Its always a pain in the ass to clean after a camp so how do I clean it off?", "Getting mud off of canvas shoes. Its always a pain in the ass to clean after a camp so how do I clean it off?", "Getting mud off of canvas shoes. Its always a pain in the ass to clean after a camp so how do I clean it off?", "Getting mud off of canvas shoes. Its always a pain in the ass to clean after a camp so how do I clean it off?" ]

[ "I just found this:\n\n[Specifically for Toms and Keds but should work on any canvas shoe.](http://cleanmyspace.com/clean-your-canvas-shoes-toms-keds/)", "Place them in the washer (top load) with the soles facing the barrel. Have the hot water all the way on, add double the recommend amount of Oxi-Clean.", "I used this technique that I read somewhere: put each of your shoes in a towel, and put them in your washing machine, temp at 40°C , tried it , it worked.", "I need this too.... usually with my canvas shoes I put them in the wash but there is one pair that will get ruined if I put them in the machine.... help" ]

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[ "Is there a way to get a good news feed? I don't have a big knowledge of news sites and I usually don't actively go looking for news, but I started to get the habit of reading the news when I need to kill time, since new Android phones menus and the Google app have a news feed by default.\n\nI sometimes get the perfect news feed but I can't find a way to get stable, balanced news. Lately they're terrible, I keep getting conservative and gossip bullshit about more and more boring and repetitive topics.\n\nI like seeing non speculative news from various branches of science and technology, news about art, music and creativity and important news about today's events in the world. I don't want to see the same piece of news over and over again.\n\nWould I be better off somehow deactivating the Google news feed or is there a way to trick the algorithm into working well? If it's not worth it, what do you suggest I use as my news feed?", "Is there a way to get a good news feed? I don't have a big knowledge of news sites and I usually don't actively go looking for news, but I started to get the habit of reading the news when I need to kill time, since new Android phones menus and the Google app have a news feed by default.\n\nI sometimes get the perfect news feed but I can't find a way to get stable, balanced news. Lately they're terrible, I keep getting conservative and gossip bullshit about more and more boring and repetitive topics.\n\nI like seeing non speculative news from various branches of science and technology, news about art, music and creativity and important news about today's events in the world. I don't want to see the same piece of news over and over again.\n\nWould I be better off somehow deactivating the Google news feed or is there a way to trick the algorithm into working well? If it's not worth it, what do you suggest I use as my news feed?" ]

[ "I find it impossible to find any single source for news to be reliably unbiased, especially in the US. So, I frequent lots of foreign news sites; Deutsche Welle (DW), France24, Al Jazeera, BBC, CBC. I also hit up Reuters and AP frequently. And I hit American \"journalism\", but try to balance out the perspectives; CNN, Fox, CBSNews, Salem Radio Network (SRN).\n\nI have an app on my iPhone called Hourly News that lets you pull in podcasts and I listen to that on my drive to work. DW, AP, BBC, Fox News, ABC News, SRN News.\n\nI also tend to use Facebook as a science news aggregator by liking/following scientific leaning news accounts.", "You want [mediabiasfactcheck](https://mediabiasfactcheck.com/). I used it to find AP News in 2016 after Trump was elected. Politically I align with CNN, but I like neutral news sources. It was much less stressful." ]

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[ "Honeymoon/Vacation Saving Tips I'm getting married in May of 2014 and am in the process of planning our honeymoon. We would like to get the most out of the experience since this will be our first real vacation and money is kind of tight. We will be flying from the Midwest (USA) and hope to go somewhere warm. As of now, we are thinking Rio Grande, Puerto Rico. The hotel is mostly taken care of, as my in-laws have a travel package with lots of points built up through Wyndham that we are free to use. We are needing any tips you can give us on flights, travel, packing, previous experiences, etc. Anything would be appreciated. Thanks. ", "Honeymoon/Vacation Saving Tips I'm getting married in May of 2014 and am in the process of planning our honeymoon. We would like to get the most out of the experience since this will be our first real vacation and money is kind of tight. We will be flying from the Midwest (USA) and hope to go somewhere warm. As of now, we are thinking Rio Grande, Puerto Rico. The hotel is mostly taken care of, as my in-laws have a travel package with lots of points built up through Wyndham that we are free to use. We are needing any tips you can give us on flights, travel, packing, previous experiences, etc. Anything would be appreciated. Thanks. ", "Honeymoon/Vacation Saving Tips I'm getting married in May of 2014 and am in the process of planning our honeymoon. We would like to get the most out of the experience since this will be our first real vacation and money is kind of tight. We will be flying from the Midwest (USA) and hope to go somewhere warm. As of now, we are thinking Rio Grande, Puerto Rico. The hotel is mostly taken care of, as my in-laws have a travel package with lots of points built up through Wyndham that we are free to use. We are needing any tips you can give us on flights, travel, packing, previous experiences, etc. Anything would be appreciated. Thanks. " ]

[ "My wife and I take vacations periodically, and we tend to do pretty well with our budget. Our general rules and best practices go like this:\n\na) *purchase what you can ahead of time.* the more you can lock in now, the easier you can handle surprise costs down the road. and think of it like this... if you pay for the tickets now, that's a year down the road you don't have to try to come up with that $xxxx hundred dollars.\n\nb) *plan and plot your trip.* do enough research to know how you're going to be spending your time. Zip-lining, zoos, tours, guides, rentals, all cost money, and are much cheaper if you have them paid for ahead of time. and what's more, that gives you the chance to put that $$ aside. talk a lot about what you really want to accomplish and do during your trip.\n\nc) *allow for plenty of relaxation time.* case in point, we went to Charlotte, NC, and made sure we had a few days with 'nothing' planned, in order to allow for incidentals, and to give a significant rest period.\n\nd) *look for local deals.* What's in my head is Groupons, which we look ahead to find for wherever we are going. But i doubt PR has much in the way of Grouponing... but they must have something. perhaps start talking to a tourism adviser or something?... i don't know.\n\ne) *identify 'tourist traps' and 'tourist areas'.* Identify them, and treat them accordingly. they will all cost you more money, but they do generally happen to be nice places to visit. Case in point would be our recent trip to new orleans. we identified, and toured down Bourbon Street, but that was far from our scene, and several other touristy shopping areas. We 'did' them, and then we 'got out of there' and went and visited the tons of other exciting places.\n\nf) *know yourselves well enough to plot a trip around.* My wife and i love cooking, so it's easy to review a lot of local restaurants and try them out. we also love bookstores, so we well generally find ourselves a used bookstore or two to go visit. we also love good beer, so we find ourselves a couple local breweries to go try. Consider what your hobbies and interests are. I think it is neat to center our vacations around our own interests, rather than only what the tour-books tell us. but yes, read the tour books.\n\nFair warning: I have no practical experience with vacationing in foreign countries.\n\nSo there you go, I hope that gets you somewhere. Good Luck!", "We're using Honeyfund instead of a gift registry. It lets you pick activities you want to do on your honeymoon, and rather than your guests buying you a blender or something, they pay for you to do those activities on your trip!", "Hey, I know you asked this a little while ago, but i just found about this /r/shoestring which deals precisely with travel plans on a tight budget. Since you still have plenty of time, I'd consider searching through there, and asking those folks some of your questions. \n\nGood Luck!" ]

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[ "How to 'work a room' Quite often I am put into situations where I am in a room of people of whom I know maybe one or two. I know others that will just blend in seamlessly and start chatting to everyone, but I find it more difficult to a) join an already-established conversation group, and b) know what to talk about that is not necessarily work related / get to know more about people. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "How to 'work a room' Quite often I am put into situations where I am in a room of people of whom I know maybe one or two. I know others that will just blend in seamlessly and start chatting to everyone, but I find it more difficult to a) join an already-established conversation group, and b) know what to talk about that is not necessarily work related / get to know more about people. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "How to 'work a room' Quite often I am put into situations where I am in a room of people of whom I know maybe one or two. I know others that will just blend in seamlessly and start chatting to everyone, but I find it more difficult to a) join an already-established conversation group, and b) know what to talk about that is not necessarily work related / get to know more about people. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "How to 'work a room' Quite often I am put into situations where I am in a room of people of whom I know maybe one or two. I know others that will just blend in seamlessly and start chatting to everyone, but I find it more difficult to a) join an already-established conversation group, and b) know what to talk about that is not necessarily work related / get to know more about people. Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "How to 'work a room' Quite often I am put into situations where I am in a room of people of whom I know maybe one or two. I know others that will just blend in seamlessly and start chatting to everyone, but I find it more difficult to a) join an already-established conversation group, and b) know what to talk about that is not necessarily work related / get to know more about people. Any help would be greatly appreciated." ]

[ "This just takes a little practice and really isn't as hard as it seems. I've perfected the art of making conversation out of thin air. Here are my three go-to strategies (which you'll see is really just one strategy) that you can't miss with. \n\n1. Ask a question - My favorite go-to crutch is making conversation by asking questions. I've seen a lot of people get nervous and freeze up and just start spewing random facts about themselves or things which nobody really cares. But who doesn't love to answer a question about themselves? Find something (besides the weather) you have in common (the event, a person, a company, a group of people, sports teams, etc.) and ask them a sincere question to break the ice. How do you know John? Is this your first time here? Where did you come from? Are you a Bronco Fan? Did you watch the Yankees last night? How long have you been a member? Whatever...then be prepared with follow-up questions based on their response. You can keep a conversation going all night with questions. Add a little bit to make sure they dont feel like they're on the hot seat. A good conversationalist will eventually begin asking you questions in return...if not...keep firing away. I've done it many times. Be prepared to listen carefully...that will always provide you the material for your next question. \n2. Offer a sincere compliment - this is an easy one. No don't creep anyone out by complementing their appearance, but find something they are wearing (tie, shoes, watch, necklace) and compliment it. They will be flattered. And follow-up with #1 .... a question about something you have in common. Where did you get it? Are you a watch guy? Etc. \n3. Say something positive. No one enjoys being around negative or overly-opinionated people - so avoid looking like \"that guy\" and say something positive....That was a great talk. They did a really great job with this event. I love this room. Sarah is such a good person. One you've broken the ice, then follow-up with #1. \n\nAs you can see, I believe that ice breakers and conversations are always best facilitated with questions. If there's ever a lull - pull out another question. Stop thinking about you and start thinking about what you can ask them, and you'll never lack for words. Or friends. \n\nPS. This goes without saying but don't EVER try to facilitate conversation with anything negative, or religion or politics. You'll lose people about as fast as you can talk. ", "Learning how to lord a room takes years, perhaps decades, of practice and work. You could spend ten hours a day for years reading about how to do it and still not succeed. \n\nThat being said, the best crutch for being able to do this is to go early and talk to each group as they enter the room. Welcome the people, introduce yourself, and talk to them until a new group enters. You probably won't be able to speak to each person before the room gets crowded, but you should be able to get a majority of people under your I \"know\" you blanket. \n\nAfter that, you can go back and talk to those people again since you \"know \" them. \n\n", "Smile. Nod. Listen. Learn and use names. Talk with confidence. Ask open ended questions, \"what do you do for fun/hobby/outside of work?\"", "Be yourself. Recognize that others may feel just as awkward as you so relax a little. Make eye contact with people who are also alone and a gesture of acknowledgement from where you are and then follow up by going over, introduce yourself, remember the name they tell you by repeating it in your followup dialog, which should start with an open ended (can't be answered with a simple yes or no) question that involves the context of the gathering.\n\nTry not to join into ongoing conversations unless a host introduces you to a group (in which case, hang around, listen for a while, and when you've heard enough to gather the gist and flow of the conversation you'll find a natural spot to say something germain to the discussion. \n\nAlways they to direct conversations towards the people you are speaking to--people love talking aabout themselves; the more interesting ones will start wanting to know a little about you and will start directing back. Use the people you meet to meet more people. Watch how other people behave (formally? Jovially? Wittily?) to help you match how you want to be presented--or even if you'd rather not be present at all, and should leave.\n\n--from a guy who spent years doing all the wrong things but found a group of people who put up with me long enough that I eventually learned to do it right.", "I can work a room like the best of them. I usually just ask questions then shut up and listen. I'm 35 yrs old and that's really how simple it is.\n\nSimple questions like \"So how was your week?\" Or \"what's going on over here? How do you guys know each other?\" Or \"Hey do you know my friend Jim? Let me introduce you.\" Introducing people is a high level activity in group situations. It creates a buzz around you.\n\nI will ask ridiculous questions too, like \"scale of 1-10, how sexy am I looking right now?\" No matter what they say I say \"wrong. I'm a 13\"\n\nAlso, I would say big tip is to practice feeling free while you're in social situations. You should be able to talk about anything confidently and I mean anything. People will jump in if they can tell you feel good about yourself.\n\nA lot of this comes down to inner work. Believing good things about yourself. That's all I'll say for now. Lemme know if you need some specifics." ]

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[ "Pet Hair Embedded in Fabric So, I bought this cashmere cardigan the other day from Goodwill, and I noticed there are hundreds of tiny white dogs hairs embedded into the fabric. I tried to use a lint roller, as well as pick most of them off, and was able to get it to a point where it isn’t so noticeable, but there are still many embedded into the fabric that the lint roller wouldn’t take care of. How can I remove them without continuing to pick each and every hair off? Would washing it help?", "Pet Hair Embedded in Fabric So, I bought this cashmere cardigan the other day from Goodwill, and I noticed there are hundreds of tiny white dogs hairs embedded into the fabric. I tried to use a lint roller, as well as pick most of them off, and was able to get it to a point where it isn’t so noticeable, but there are still many embedded into the fabric that the lint roller wouldn’t take care of. How can I remove them without continuing to pick each and every hair off? Would washing it help?", "Pet Hair Embedded in Fabric So, I bought this cashmere cardigan the other day from Goodwill, and I noticed there are hundreds of tiny white dogs hairs embedded into the fabric. I tried to use a lint roller, as well as pick most of them off, and was able to get it to a point where it isn’t so noticeable, but there are still many embedded into the fabric that the lint roller wouldn’t take care of. How can I remove them without continuing to pick each and every hair off? Would washing it help?" ]

[ "Return that shit. Goodwill should have never it sold in the condition and that’s reason 389652 why Goodwill is a trash company.", "My daughters and I really like cats and we want to raise a pet but I'm nit sure I can handdle the pey hair. I'll be able to get some ideas from this posting😁", "Battery operated or better one that plus in Lint remover. And pasting a link that I have no idea how great the product is. Has a video too. \n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Cashmere-Wool-Pilling-Sweaters-Clothing/dp/B01MSTN5QU" ]

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[ "Stake your objective when you vent to someone you trust. Tell them whether you want to a) just vent, b) problem solve the issue, or c) vent and then problem solve the issue. LPT Request: Stake your objective when you vent to someone you trust. Tell them whether you want to a) just vent, b) problem solve the issue, or c) vent and then problem solve the issue.", "Stake your objective when you vent to someone you trust. Tell them whether you want to a) just vent, b) problem solve the issue, or c) vent and then problem solve the issue. LPT Request: Stake your objective when you vent to someone you trust. Tell them whether you want to a) just vent, b) problem solve the issue, or c) vent and then problem solve the issue.", "Stake your objective when you vent to someone you trust. Tell them whether you want to a) just vent, b) problem solve the issue, or c) vent and then problem solve the issue. LPT Request: Stake your objective when you vent to someone you trust. Tell them whether you want to a) just vent, b) problem solve the issue, or c) vent and then problem solve the issue." ]

[ "What I do on the other side of this equation is specifically ask them: would you like me to just listen, or would you like advise?\n\nThe answer is \"just listen\" more often than not, and it helps people be more comfortable talking to you knowing you won't try to give unwanted advise. \n\nObviously only use of you're interested in taking that role for your friends, or you'll be the subject of much unwanted venting in return.", "Unfortunately I think it is up to us--the perennial empaths who always get pounded and abused by emotional vampires--to determine a, b, or c. This is a part of what they want from you: to do ALL the work, emotionally.", "If it's what I think it means, a simple \"How are you doing?\" can go down a rabbit hole of one-sided complaining. People love to tell me their problems for some reason so this would probably make me engage rather than avoid." ]

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[ "How to introduce yourself Recently I signed up to a bunch of social events, and I also changed a lot of my classes as well. So needless to say, I need to introduce myself in front of many strangers. It would not be a problem if I am not an awkward person, all of my friends say that I did not introduce myself really well. So, how can I fix this?", "How to introduce yourself Recently I signed up to a bunch of social events, and I also changed a lot of my classes as well. So needless to say, I need to introduce myself in front of many strangers. It would not be a problem if I am not an awkward person, all of my friends say that I did not introduce myself really well. So, how can I fix this?", "How to introduce yourself Recently I signed up to a bunch of social events, and I also changed a lot of my classes as well. So needless to say, I need to introduce myself in front of many strangers. It would not be a problem if I am not an awkward person, all of my friends say that I did not introduce myself really well. So, how can I fix this?" ]

[ "As far as introduction goes I believe a grunt or a fart or a hello will suffice. The important thing is to build the conversation from there on, so be prepared in advance on what is your mutual subject of interest and everything will fall in place. Don't forget to keep a good body posture and eye contact. ", "You could start by saying, \"I'm really uncomfortable with introductions. I'm so uncomfortable that I asked for advice on Reddit. Unfortunately that wasn't terribly helpful. What sort of advice would YOU give to help me get better at this?\" Basically, I recommend honesty and a sincere interest in whoever you are talking to. Also, mentioning Reddit could be a good ice-breaker.\n", "1. Name\n1. What brings you to the event - I do [this] in my free time and wanted to learn more about [this] hence I signed up for [event] etc<br>\n1. Share something that you do that would benefit themselves. Humans are selfish, they are interested and will remember people who will benefit them. - I help my friends with [this] because i'm good with [this]. " ]

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[ "How can stop my face from turning red when I drink? Every time I drink any alcohol my face looks like its sunburned, even if its just one beer. Is there anyways I could stop this from happening?", "How can stop my face from turning red when I drink? Every time I drink any alcohol my face looks like its sunburned, even if its just one beer. Is there anyways I could stop this from happening?", "How can stop my face from turning red when I drink? Every time I drink any alcohol my face looks like its sunburned, even if its just one beer. Is there anyways I could stop this from happening?", "How can stop my face from turning red when I drink? Every time I drink any alcohol my face looks like its sunburned, even if its just one beer. Is there anyways I could stop this from happening?", "How can stop my face from turning red when I drink? Every time I drink any alcohol my face looks like its sunburned, even if its just one beer. Is there anyways I could stop this from happening?" ]

[ "I've heard pepcid AC may help, see this thread: http://www.reddit.com/r/askscience/comments/16gyx6/why_does_pepcid_ac_or_histamine2s_successfully/", "Hydrate yourself as you drink. Meaning: drink more water as you drink more alcohol. If that doesn't work, you can't, it's genetic.", "Hi there, I have many friends who experience \"Asian flush\" and a lot of them take vitamin C/D tablets before they head out for the night, or something (can't quite remember sorry) which has helped them a lot with it. Hope I was of some help.", "You could possibly have Rosacea. It's pretty common. About 13 million Americans are estimated to suffer from rosacea. If you don't have any symptoms in conjunction with the alcohol flushing (such as bumps or acne) then you may just be sensitive to the vasodialating effects of alcohol. I drink whiskey with ice. Stay hydrated and cool while drinking and hopefully that will help you. Otherwise consider seeing a dermatologist. I'm not a doctor. Ive just dealt with rosacea for 10+ years. ", "I would say drink but not often i use to be a huge alcohal addict and stopped because it almost caused me blindness i had a lot of blood vessels in my eyes" ]

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[ "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?", "Dealing with bullies as an adult man In school physical violence was key to breaking the bullies spirit (after laughing it off of course, but some will use you as an ego based punching bag if you laugh it off)\n\nI recently had a guy continually trying to embarrass me in front of women, other men, and make backhanded comments 24/7. I had a talk, he didn't budge and was part of my friend group (as I had introduced him earlier) I then threatened him with violence and he then threatened to call the police and get me thrown out of college.\n\nHow do I deal with this in adult life?" ]

[ "You’re an adult. You can’t do the violence angle. \n\nNext time, call him out in front of others when he does it. Ask him “what happened to you in your adolescence that makes you so unhappy and feel so inferior that you have to try to embarrass others to make you feel better?’", "You have to be more witty and tactful. Don't escalate straight to violence, use your words to defend yourself.", "Yup, \"Why do you think its okay to say that?\" Asking some \"why\" questions forces them to justify it to you, and makes them look idiotic in the process.", "This guy is not your friend. He is your enemy. He has a fragile ego. Start picking on him back.\nYou have to be witty, fast and ruthless. Whatever he gets upset about, dig there.\nWhen he stops picking on you remember, he's not your friend.", "You’re not in a strong enough group. They don’t hold one another accountable for behavioral norms and courtesy. I used to get this from one awkward and ugly loser in a group on HH Island. He never missed a chance to talk me down or criticize something I said. I figured he needed that group more. Once I upgraded my friends, I never saw that loser again. \nEpilogue: That loser died just a few years later empty and miserable, consumed by his own lack of social grace. The group disbanded and moved off island to form other unpleasant groups and relationships. The island itself sunk into the sea by 2035.", "Here's the cool thing about being an adult. You are in control of your situation.\n\nYou don't like what someone said? Great. You can respond back to them, question their statement or even just ignore it. You do not have to be near them if you don't want to be.\n\n\"Cool story bro.\"\n\n\"Can't believe you'd do me that way\"\n\n\"You said that last week...\"\n\n\"Man you're right, I really do ___. Amaaazing insight!\"\n\nLots of responses that don't involve violence. But even more important is why are you hanging out with someone you really don't enjoy? Stop inviting them.", "Wait until he does it in front of someone/people who’s opinions he cares about, then ask him bluntly why he thinks it is ok to be cruel to people like that. Say it makes you feel awful and you don’t understand why he continues to be unking to you. Then watch him get extremely uncomfortable", "Violence is no longer an option for you, especially not when there is a formal organization like a school or workplace in the mix.\n\nJust ask him why in the moment he says something nasty. Not afterwards, and never privately. Ask him why to his face and in front of as many others as possible immediately after they all saw him do it. Practice a few why questions in the mirror so you can get them off with a totally neutral yet confused tone. Less is more. Your why statements should be short and direct.\n\n“Dude, that’s low. Why you say that?”\n“Why is that a thing to say?”\n“Why be nasty man?”\nAnd, with as much genuine confusion as possible “Are you… trying to embarrass me? Is that what that was?”\n\nOr better yet, especially in front of the women, just laugh at him, shrug and turn to her and say “With friends like these.” Or “That’s X for ya, but the rest of us actually enjoy each others company.” \n\nDon’t pick on him back. You don’t want an escalating war, you want to disempower with direct, neutral acknowledgment of what is happening, and then pivot or deflect to other topics smoothly.\n\nThe fact you threatened him already is going to make this harder to pull off, because right now he’s got you right where he wants you. But if you can laugh off your past stupidity, you might be able to regroup.\n\nBesides all that, minimize your contact with him as much as possible. If you’re around less, he’ll find other targets and you’ll be less wound up and reactive when you do need to use the tactics above.", "simply ignore him, tell him he is toxic and not worth your time.. If he ever tries ask him to make you cup of tea, take it if he does but dont drink it.", "You can be childish but effective and say \"that is you but what am I?\"\n\nOr you can say \"why are you being rude?\" \"Are you 13?\" \"Can't deal with your insecurities so you decide to embarrasse the people close to you\" \"real mature\"\n\nBasically make him embarrassed for being rude infront of others.", "Why don't you just start telling him that he is actually acting like a high school bully and that you are too old for that Not him! You. That's the important part. He shouldn't get defensive or aggressive when you say something about yourself. And what is he going to do? Start calling you an old man?\n\n And then start doing your own thing and ignoring him more and more.", "When he says something, do not engage him in what he is saying about you, turn it around and in a serious, concerned tone ask him why it's important for him to treat you like this. Do not let him continue. Drive home the point until he's left with no out.\n\nExample: He says you've got a girlish hair cut.\n\n\"Why is important for you to comment on my hair? What are you lacking that you need to cut others down? What emotion is being satisfied in you to beat someone down verbally?\"", "Threatening violence is not a good move. Moving is. Get away from him, and if that means you need new friends, then they were not your friends.", "This is a big ask but it works if you can keep your composure (like I would suggest seeming amused and stupefied that someone would say something sooooo dumb). Next time he gives a backhanded comment ask him to explain what he meant by it. Ask him \"Why would you say something like that?\" If he tries to focus on a particular part of what he said that doesn't make him look like a dick, direct him back to the part that does \"Yes yes but what did you mean when you said X? That seems like something a person would say if they are being backhanded, is this backhanded thing what you are meaning to say?\" Put the spotlight on him hard until he sees what he is doing. If he never acknowledges is. Laugh it and him off \"Wow dude you are super unaware of how you come off to other people.\"", "The book Nasty People, by Jay Carter, is about just this subject. \n\nIt's a short read, and worthwhile.", "Public place.\n\nTalk to him.\n\nVery loudly say \"please don't get so close, I'm scared for my safety.\"\n\nWatch him be like wtf\n\nEven louder \"please man, leave mealone I'm actually scared t ed\"\n\nThen kick the fuck out of him.", "My first piece of advice is to get over it. I know that sounds awful and is *much* easier said than done, but it's the best advice if you can pull it off. You're an adult now, and dealing with assholes comes with the territory. There are assholes everywhere, and you often can't avoid them (e.gm, if one is your boss). Don't let things like that get to you. You can't control them, but you can control your reaction. \n\nThe second piece of advice only applies if you can't gets over it, and it follows the same procedure taught for school shooters: run, hide, fight (in that order, but adapted for this situation). Your first option is to avoid the asshole. Don't literally run away, but you can try to avoid bumping into them, walk away when you see them coming, and even walk away in the middle of a conversation with them (which, by the way, is a pretty powerful move). \n\nIf that's not possible, your second option is to ignore them. If they say something awful, pretend you didn't hear it. One-on-one, you just don't respond. In a group, another powerful move is to ask them to repeat themselves (like you didn't hear the insult). This gives them the option of either letting it go or doubling down, likely with everyone listening intently as they make an ass of themselves. Finally, you can just carry on conversations as if the asshole didn't exist. Talk to the other people around you instead, and if the asshole tries to cut in or engage you, just act like you don't notice.\n\nYour final resort is to fight. Not physically. Winning a physical fight can land you in jail, and losing one can land you in a morgue. By \"fight,\" I just mean that you insult them back. This is a last resort because you're fighting asshole to asshole, making you an asshole as well. You need to be quick-witted and sharp-tongued. You have to learn to beat them at their own game. You won't necessarily win because I assume they have more practice being an asshole than you do. But you can improve your chances by working on quick thinking. Watch comedy (especially improv), roasts, rap battles, and anything else where the quick-witted insults can get a laugh and win the day. \n\nAlso, as you e probably noticed, I haven't used the word \"bully.\" Kids are bullies. Adult bullies are assholes. That may seem like quibbling, but consider that calling someone a bully pits yourself into a victim mindset, giving the other person power, even if only in your mind. Call them an asshole. It's accurate, puts the spotlight on their behavior instead of the interaction, and paints you as more of an observer than a victim.", "Here's my tip. When he try to embarass you, just sigh deeply, and ask: \"that's really important to you?\" or something like that in disappointment, the shorter the better.\n\nFor example: he says you have a tiny cock. You sign deeply, and say \"really?\"", "Don't let it bother you and react as little as possible. \n\nLike look at him with a smirk smile for 1 or 2 seconds as if you're in on the joke, and move on.\n\nAsk without expecting an answer something like: Is that so? And move on.\n\nJust add so much to it that it becomes a joke. Like if someone says you stink, you can say I always had a thing for blue cheese and then go on with a question to someone else about a complete different topic.\n\nIf it doesn't bother you, he'll choose a different target. \n\nAlso as adults we tend to have more options to leave a circle or even a job. If nothing works, walking away is a perfectly good option.", "Does he often look at you? Or just in general tries to get your attention ? If so pack your shit and move.", "> I then threatened him with violence \n\nbig mistake, first of all\n\nsecond of all, if you live in a free state (*most are) record interactions with him where he's harassing you \n\nmost colleges have rules against this sort of thing, and with evidence, you can go to authorities to get something concrete done\n\nand to a lot of advice here, you are clearly giving answers which show why you are the target of bullying like this, btw\n\n\n\"I want to be tactful\", and \"I don't want to be that guy\". You seem more involved with impressing yourself than the impression that's being made on other people. Well, there's your problem." ]

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[ "How can I get my cat to sleep through the night or at least a few hours later? I am gone most of the day at school and at work. He is an indoor cat, so I think he probably sleeps a lot during the day when I am gone, which I figure is the root of the problem. I try to play with him when I get home, he likes to play fetch with ponytail holders, and I try to keep him from falling asleep while I watch TV or do work before I go to bed. \n\nMost mornings he wakes up at 5:00 a.m., but I don't have to be up until 7:30. Recently I have been getting frustrated and putting him in the (walk-in) closet, so that I can go back to sleep. I feel guilty about throwing him in there. \n\nIs there anything, other than being home more often to keep him stimulated during the day, that I can do to get him to sleep in a couple more hours in the morning? ", "How can I get my cat to sleep through the night or at least a few hours later? I am gone most of the day at school and at work. He is an indoor cat, so I think he probably sleeps a lot during the day when I am gone, which I figure is the root of the problem. I try to play with him when I get home, he likes to play fetch with ponytail holders, and I try to keep him from falling asleep while I watch TV or do work before I go to bed. \n\nMost mornings he wakes up at 5:00 a.m., but I don't have to be up until 7:30. Recently I have been getting frustrated and putting him in the (walk-in) closet, so that I can go back to sleep. I feel guilty about throwing him in there. \n\nIs there anything, other than being home more often to keep him stimulated during the day, that I can do to get him to sleep in a couple more hours in the morning? " ]

[ "My cat was very rambunctious as a kitten and would constantly get up to no good while I was trying to sleep at night, so I kind of know how you feel.\n\nI would suggest playing with him/her for a good 30 min to an hour about an hour before you go to bed. Play hard with him non-stop till he looks like he's getting tired and then he might not be so energetic at night. Do things like using toys with cat-nip in them, using a laser pointer, chasing a string, playing fetch, etc, to get him really moving, and then make it a nightly routine. Then you can use the hour or so before bed for him to wind down. A nice winding down activity for you both could be brushing your cat, since it tends to be calming for cats and their humans.\n\nYou may also have to get him some toys that are more interactive for him to play solo while you're at work. You could get one of those springy things with feathers that attaches to a wall or scratching post that he can bat around (can't remember what they're called... :/). I always make sure to leave cat-nip toys lying around for my cats, along with large goose feathers and balls they can bat and chase.\n\nIt's also important to recognize that cats generally have a nocturnal sleeping pattern (especially for younger, active cats). They often sleep a lot during the day and get energized at night. Have you ever thought about taking your cat outdoors? If you have a backyard or nice grassy area, you could take him out on a cat harness and play with him. Then if you feel more comfortable, you could let him become more of an indoor *and* outdoor cat and he could expend some of that energy at night when you come home from work. Both my cats are indoor/outdoor and they're always at the door waiting to be let out when the sun goes down. I can tell it keeps them active and adds a lot of interest to their day. Of course, I live in a nice little townhouse complex with area for them to wander that's not *right* close to the road, so it's a bit safer that way. If you live on a very busy street or in an apartment, that might not work so well. In that case, I would just stick to the cat harness for taking them out.\n\nAnyway, that's pretty much all I can think of. Hope some of it helps :)", "How old is he? Do you have a regular routine? Have you tried just ignoring him? Do you have any quiet toys he can play with at night while your'e asleep (like light up balls instead of jingly ones)? Does he have somewhere warm and cuddly to snuggle?\n\nIf he's a kitten, give it time--my cat sleeps through the night (for the most part), but she didn't when she was a kitten. A regular routine will help in that he'll figure out when you're willing to be up and play and when you'll ignore him and he'll have to deal with it. You can also just ignore him.\n\nWhatever you do, stop locking him in the closet. While it's not cruelty in that you're beating him, unless his litter box and food are in there, your'e cutting him off from things he needs, which *is* cruel. Lock him out of your bedroom instead. Also, by getting up and putting him in the closet, you're giving him a reaction that he wants--if you just ignore him, eventually he'll learn not to bother you (or better yet, will curl up and snuggle with you until you get up).\n\nA snuggly, dark place for him to sleep is also nice--I find my cat gets more lethargic the warmer she is, so if she's curled up in a fleece blanket, she won't get up unless she has to. Another nice thing is something that will allow him to look out the window--a kitty condo or a window perch. He can look out the window for entertainment (my cats love to watch leaves blowing in the wind, and animals and people outside." ]

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[ "How to \"wake up\" in the morning if you shower the evening before. Hey all, I hope this doesn't violate the policy about hygiene since that's not *really* what I'm asking about. I've been considering switching my routine to showering before bed, but I don't know how to kick the morning grogginess if I do. Any tips for greeting a new day bright-eyed and bushy-tailed are much appreciated!", "How to \"wake up\" in the morning if you shower the evening before. Hey all, I hope this doesn't violate the policy about hygiene since that's not *really* what I'm asking about. I've been considering switching my routine to showering before bed, but I don't know how to kick the morning grogginess if I do. Any tips for greeting a new day bright-eyed and bushy-tailed are much appreciated!", "How to \"wake up\" in the morning if you shower the evening before. Hey all, I hope this doesn't violate the policy about hygiene since that's not *really* what I'm asking about. I've been considering switching my routine to showering before bed, but I don't know how to kick the morning grogginess if I do. Any tips for greeting a new day bright-eyed and bushy-tailed are much appreciated!", "How to \"wake up\" in the morning if you shower the evening before. Hey all, I hope this doesn't violate the policy about hygiene since that's not *really* what I'm asking about. I've been considering switching my routine to showering before bed, but I don't know how to kick the morning grogginess if I do. Any tips for greeting a new day bright-eyed and bushy-tailed are much appreciated!", "How to \"wake up\" in the morning if you shower the evening before. Hey all, I hope this doesn't violate the policy about hygiene since that's not *really* what I'm asking about. I've been considering switching my routine to showering before bed, but I don't know how to kick the morning grogginess if I do. Any tips for greeting a new day bright-eyed and bushy-tailed are much appreciated!" ]

[ "Shower at night, get all fresh and clean clean. Then in the morning just rinse off with water for a brief time. ", "I've always taken showers at night. In the morning I eat breakfast and check social media. The grogginess fads as Cinnamon Toast Crunch rolls in", "I shower at night because it allows me to sleep a little bit later if I am feeling like it. However, I keep my alarm the same as if I do have to shower. I wake up and do a chore or two and move about my day. Doing the chores before work is a great feeling because it is one less thing you have to do after work. It also frees up time for the evening shower. \n\nFor an example: right now it is 730a. I woke up around 630 got dressed. Dusted the house and made some food and coffee. I have an hour to rest before I need to leave my house for work. \n\nI am NOT a morning person I like my sleep. Having a regular sleep schedule helps tremendously. I get 7 hours every night and go to bed around the same time every day. I found this to be the biggest key. Figure out what works for you and make it a routine. ", "Hey dude, cheers from Basil!\n\nI had the same problem as you some years ago\n\nBut first thing you have to know is that you need routine. I know that it really sucks, but its just a routine to wake up on the same time. You need to wake up every day on the same time for 20 days and i can ensure you will wake up without alarm on the 21th day\n\nThe bad part: you need to do this 2o days even on weekends\n\nAs i do this right now, i dont have problems to wake up, but to take it out the feeling of grogginess is another problem\n\nSo...\n\nI really recomend yo to take a shower when you wake up too! Doesnt need to be long, just to have the time for your cooffe to get ready\n\nBut if you dont have time for it, put your cellphone on the bathroom so you have to get out of your bed and when you get there, put some music and wash your face\n\nTry it out and let me know if it works to you", "Here where I live, showering only once a day is considered poor hygiene. Everyone showers once in the morning and once in the evening (doesn't have to be just before bed)." ]

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[ "how can I get better at recognizing patterns? I can absorb individual pieces of information but for some reason I have trouble weaving them into a bigger picture ", "how can I get better at recognizing patterns? I can absorb individual pieces of information but for some reason I have trouble weaving them into a bigger picture " ]

[ "hi! could you be more specific. patterns in life in general? or while studying history/sciences? watching TV shows? a bit more details might help us help you!", "The way i learned was, I started paying attention to repetitions, if some situation happens again and again, then it’s worth taking note and connecting it to other repetitive situation, only then you’ll get the bigger picture" ]

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[ "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. ", "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. ", "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. ", "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. ", "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. ", "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. ", "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. ", "What are some beach necessities that everyone should have? I almost always forget something I should’ve brought with me to the beach and I’d like to hear what other people find necessary and useful when traveling to the beach. " ]

[ "For the love of God, don't bring a speaker. Not everyone on the beach wants to listen to your music! I find it incredibly annoying that I come to the beach to listen to the waves and relax and there is some bozo blaring music..... If you have to listen to music, wear headphones 😀 ", "Anti-diarrhea medication. This goes for all aspects of life, ever.\n\nI laughed at the guy who told me that ages ago.", "Bring a bag to put your trash in, and maybe the trash you happen to find. Leave no trace! \n \nCamera, sand off towel, snacks, sunglasses, hat, more snacks, utensils for snacks, a dog if you have one, kite, something to make sandcastles, a book, a football or frisbee, not all required but some options for ya! ", "Get one of those stash containers at a head shop and put your wallet, phone, and keys inside of them. Some look like Pringles containers, or like drink containers.", "Towel, sunscreen (including lip balm with spf), hat, sunglasses, a book, speaker for music. An ice chest with drinks (especially water) & snacks. Change of clothes, an extra towel never hurts. Ziplocks to put phone/keys in. Get a good size tote to put everything in that has a zipper closure preferably. ", "A hat, sunscreen, beer, water, snacks,chair, towel, canopy, trash bag, meat tenderizer for jelly fish stings (just in case) a gallon container for rinsing my face and hands, baby powder is nice for getting sand off before you get back in your car. ", "Bring magazines! They're breezy, and nice to get caught up in for short breaks in between the surf and sand. Plus, I never worry about ruining them the way I do books. ", "A sheet is better than a towel because you can fit your whole body on it and it's easier to shake off." ]

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[ "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you", "carrying a coffin Next week is the funeral of a close family member. I have been asked to carry the coffin with my brothers and cousins. I am the tallest of us all, some by a decent amount. \n\n\nI’m not sure why but I am terrified I’ll somehow find a way of messing it up.\n\n\nAny tips on how to not completely ruin an already emotionally charged day?\n\n\nAlso I have never been to a funeral so any general tips for that would be welcome.\n\n\nE:\nIt’s only been 30 mins but I am already feeling so much better not just about carrying the coffin, but how to act at the funeral as well. Thank you so much for the advice. I don’t really post on reddit very often so never really experience the positivity of Redditors first hand but wow.\n\nThank you" ]

[ "You won't screw it up. It's a big deal and an honor, but there's really not much too it. If you're really worried, find the funeral director early and tell him you're worried and ask what you need to know, but in all honesty, there's not much too it.", "I slipped but managed to keep my balance walking down a steep hill after it rained when I carried. Wear good gripped shoes based upon the terrain. As for the funeral, grieve, that’s what they are for and everyone grieves differently. I’m sorry for your loss.", "I've done this more times than I'd like, the undertakers have always organised people into the right places to ensure the coffin is carried well. Unless they are huge it's not as heavy as you might think. Just don't drink beforehand, you might need steady footing. As for the rest, when you mention the deceased to others there, if you can, tell them the best memories of the departed, a funny story, their best aspects. Laughs and smiles can really help. Best of luck and sorry for your loss.", "The funeral home will almost certainly have staff on hand to direct you and the other pallbearers. The process is largely on auto-pilot, and the funeral home staff know what they’re doing. You’ll have to make zero decisions, and just follow their instructions. \n\nWith (usually) 6 people carrying the casket, it balances out pretty naturally. I’m 6’6” and have helped carry caskets with people much shorter than me. \n\nDoing something new in a time of mourning is stressful, I know. The funeral home staff know this, and work to remove as much of the additional stress as possible. \n\nFocus on your family, and try not to get too anxious about carrying the casket. It will be okay.", "First, sorry for your loss. Just listen to the funeral director. It's a straight forward process. Your height will just have to be addressed on the spot. Worst case, you may have to lean a bit but who cares? Nobody is going to say a word because the day is about your loved one and nobody is there to critique the pallbearers. Everything will be fine. \nAs far as advice for funerals, there really isn't any. You grieve how you want based on your family dynamics. Case in point, my father passed away 2 months ago, there was more laughing going on than one would expect. Why? We're a cheerful bunch and sharing stories was helpful.", "tip I learned from a wise older woman a long time ago. \n\nkeep mints and tissues in your pocket. its harder to cry when you have a mint in your mouth. but just in case - tissues", "There is a lot of handshaking at funerals so try to keep a hand sanitizer in your pocket or wash your hands before you eat. Many familes get sick after funerals.", "I’ve had the honour and sadness of having done this a few times. At 6’2” I’ve usually been the tallest. The funeral director normally pairs people up by height, tallest at the back, shortest at the front. I don’t know how it works there but here it’s typically 6 people but 4 people can take the weight comfortably, so 1 person stumbling isn’t a big deal. Downside is that as the tallest in a pair you end up taking most of the weight, but that shouldn’t be a big deal unless you have to do it for an extended period. Just makes sure your laces are tied, take your time, and take short steps and you’ll be fine.", "I also slipped while helping carry my grandmother’s coffin down the church steps. \n\nMultiple pallbearers help distribute the weight so it was barely a wobble.\n\nI am sorry for your loss.", "First I am sorry for your loss. When it comes to funerals do not be ashamed of your own feelings and emotions. Take care of your own needs and then be there for family and friends. Everyone deserves their chance to grieve.\n\nAs far as carrying the casket, try not to think about it too much. If you actually have to carry it, it is heavy and will force everyone to take small steps. This will lesson chance of tripping. I am not a strong guy by any measure and have been fine, done it twice." ]

[ 16, 11, 9, 6, 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "What to do when your home is broken into? I was home alone one night when I heard a window break, parents are out and not back till the next Monday. I'm in my mid teens but I froze, I grabbed my phone and hid in an airing cupboard. \n\nI called the cops and just waited. I wasn't caught, and I was safe - what should I have done? ", "What to do when your home is broken into? I was home alone one night when I heard a window break, parents are out and not back till the next Monday. I'm in my mid teens but I froze, I grabbed my phone and hid in an airing cupboard. \n\nI called the cops and just waited. I wasn't caught, and I was safe - what should I have done? ", "What to do when your home is broken into? I was home alone one night when I heard a window break, parents are out and not back till the next Monday. I'm in my mid teens but I froze, I grabbed my phone and hid in an airing cupboard. \n\nI called the cops and just waited. I wasn't caught, and I was safe - what should I have done? ", "What to do when your home is broken into? I was home alone one night when I heard a window break, parents are out and not back till the next Monday. I'm in my mid teens but I froze, I grabbed my phone and hid in an airing cupboard. \n\nI called the cops and just waited. I wasn't caught, and I was safe - what should I have done? ", "What to do when your home is broken into? I was home alone one night when I heard a window break, parents are out and not back till the next Monday. I'm in my mid teens but I froze, I grabbed my phone and hid in an airing cupboard. \n\nI called the cops and just waited. I wasn't caught, and I was safe - what should I have done? ", "What to do when your home is broken into? I was home alone one night when I heard a window break, parents are out and not back till the next Monday. I'm in my mid teens but I froze, I grabbed my phone and hid in an airing cupboard. \n\nI called the cops and just waited. I wasn't caught, and I was safe - what should I have done? ", "What to do when your home is broken into? I was home alone one night when I heard a window break, parents are out and not back till the next Monday. I'm in my mid teens but I froze, I grabbed my phone and hid in an airing cupboard. \n\nI called the cops and just waited. I wasn't caught, and I was safe - what should I have done? " ]

[ "You did exactly the right thing. Unless you are in a good position to tackle the intruder it is best to avoid confrontation and ensure that you do not \"corner\" the person and cause them to have to fight their way out.\n\nThe police are professionals and trained to deal with situations like this.", "After filing a report with police, file a claim with your insurance if you have it, do an inventory of lost or stolen items, including damages (including doors glass etc), change locks if any keys are missing, get quotes in writing for any services to repair, and get quotes in writing for replacing lost items.\n\nHaving that documentation for the insurance agency. Might help exp", "You may want to check, but I'm almost certain you are now able to text 911 if you find yourself in a situation that prevents you from speaking out loud. Although, I'm also fairly certain that in these situations you also have to include a location/address. \n\nAs far as physical countermeasures; I would suggest hiding and/or barricading yourself. Personally, I would suggest remaining prepared for the possibility of a confrontation. When the time does come for that, what you do then will matter little in comparison to what you did in the time leading up to the confrontation. What I mean to say is; preparation is the best recipe for success. I try to identify hiding places, possible weapons, directions that doors open, etc. every time I move into a new place. Also, I periodically try moving from room to room in the dark with urgency, to identify poorly arranged furniture. \n\nTL;DR without sounding like a nut; prepare your house for the most favorable outcome and have a plan. ", "You may also consider asking your parents to buy you pepper spray or mace (they aren't the same thing). It's a personal decision to fight back but remember, a thief is looking for an easy way to get rich, not a difficult one. So typically any measure of resistance is a deterrent. And pepper spray is specifically effective in doors if you can get out in time to keep yourself from breathing in the vapor.\n\nYes it is legal to own and carry pepper spray in all 50 states under 18 in certain places. Including a private residence.\n\nAnd above all else, in a defensive situation do not hit to scare, hit to kill or incapacitate. You have a brief moment to take the thieves' choice to retaliate away from them. They're not going to just let someone roll over them, they've already made their decision.", "You did fine.\n\nYour not trained or have exp in physical confrontation or have the means to protect your self.\n\nYour only had 2 options hide or run.\n", "Honestly, I have never been in that situation and it would probably scarry. \nI think it would depend on many factors like how old you are and how much you are able to defend yourself. \nI think that it could potentially be better if you actually turned on Some lights and made some noise. You don't want to confront the burglar though. Most burglars will want to come into your house if they think noone is home. \n", "If I was in a similar scenario, and attacker tried to kill me could I kill him in self deffence and be legally ok?" ]

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[ "Best way to fold &amp; store t-shirts ... stacking them up on a shelf - eventually you end up pulling one form the middle which will mess up the pile...\n... rolling them and stacking in a chest makes it a bit difficult differentiating between different articles of the same color\n... hanging them ... 'this-closet-has-too-many-god-damn-hangers.png'\n\nAny other tips?", "Best way to fold &amp; store t-shirts ... stacking them up on a shelf - eventually you end up pulling one form the middle which will mess up the pile...\n... rolling them and stacking in a chest makes it a bit difficult differentiating between different articles of the same color\n... hanging them ... 'this-closet-has-too-many-god-damn-hangers.png'\n\nAny other tips?", "Best way to fold &amp; store t-shirts ... stacking them up on a shelf - eventually you end up pulling one form the middle which will mess up the pile...\n... rolling them and stacking in a chest makes it a bit difficult differentiating between different articles of the same color\n... hanging them ... 'this-closet-has-too-many-god-damn-hangers.png'\n\nAny other tips?", "Best way to fold &amp; store t-shirts ... stacking them up on a shelf - eventually you end up pulling one form the middle which will mess up the pile...\n... rolling them and stacking in a chest makes it a bit difficult differentiating between different articles of the same color\n... hanging them ... 'this-closet-has-too-many-god-damn-hangers.png'\n\nAny other tips?" ]

[ "If you are storing your shirts in a dresser drawer, placed the shirts neck down into the bottom of the drawer. This way, you can see at a glance what shirt you want without having to pull it out first.\n\nLike this: http://compulsivecraftiness.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/photo-51-610x457.jpg", "Try folding them [\"Japanese Way\"](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5AWQ5aBjgE). Will change your life. The [\"Italian Variation\"](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c-WdMU1veIk) is much more practical, IMO. but the \"Japanese Way\" is fun and looks cool!\n\nAlso, you can fold them in half afterwards to save space.", "I use the [Navy Fold Method](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_jQA9Rcm6C0). It saves a lot of space and keeps everything very organized. \n\n", "My t-shirts are Japanese-folded, then each rolled up around a pair of boxers and a pair of socks. 14 sets like this go into a shoe-hanger in the wardrobe so I've always got at least a week's worth of clean clothes immediately accessible first thing in the morning before my brain warms up.\n\nBonus: this means the weekly laundry is trivial to organise, with no more lost socks, ever." ]

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I was wondering if there are other ways to exercise my memory using good habits/practices/techniques rather than the usual tips of getting enough sleep, exercise, drinking enough fluids: i.e. think of everything you need to memorize in pictures.", "Improve memory with good mind habits Are there other ways of improving my memory? I was wondering if there are other ways to exercise my memory using good habits/practices/techniques rather than the usual tips of getting enough sleep, exercise, drinking enough fluids: i.e. think of everything you need to memorize in pictures.", "Improve memory with good mind habits Are there other ways of improving my memory? I was wondering if there are other ways to exercise my memory using good habits/practices/techniques rather than the usual tips of getting enough sleep, exercise, drinking enough fluids: i.e. think of everything you need to memorize in pictures.", "Improve memory with good mind habits Are there other ways of improving my memory? I was wondering if there are other ways to exercise my memory using good habits/practices/techniques rather than the usual tips of getting enough sleep, exercise, drinking enough fluids: i.e. think of everything you need to memorize in pictures.", "Improve memory with good mind habits Are there other ways of improving my memory? I was wondering if there are other ways to exercise my memory using good habits/practices/techniques rather than the usual tips of getting enough sleep, exercise, drinking enough fluids: i.e. think of everything you need to memorize in pictures." ]

[ "The human brain is very good at remembering stories.\n\nIf you need to memorize numbers you can use a peg technique. You basically assign an object to each digit. Then you can encode each number as a story involving those objects.\n\nIf you need to remember a very long story make it a poem. The rhythm and/or a rhyming scheme gives it an additional structure, which makes it easier to remember and harder to introduce mistakes (words that fit the scheme are limited).", "I got this technique from a Swami in India who said it is what he does when his memory starts to fail. With your eyes closed and in your mind count from 1 to 100 and then back. Do it daily. If you drift off let’s say around 65, you must start again, until you can count from 1-100 and 100-1 in one sitting without losing your count. \n\nAfterwards if you want to up the challenge you can take it up to 200, 300 and so on. He said he does it until 1,000. \n\nI have been doing it since April. It is a lot harder than it sounds and I think it’s been helpful", "My favorite book about this is Tricks of the Mind by the wonderful and charming magician, Derren Brown.\n\nIf there's one thing that's improved my memory for numbers, it's this technique.\n\nFirst, you have one short list to memorize. Write it on the back of a business card and keep it in your wallet. Each digit, from 0-9, gets a consonant or two. \n\n1: L\n2: n\n3: m\n4: r\n5: f or v\n6: b or p\n7: t\n8: ch or sh\n9: j or g\n0: s or z\n\nIt looks intimidating! But I swear to god you do this for fun and within an hour you'll never forget a number again.\n\nWhat you do is, when you need to remember a number, is stitch a word or words together putting vowels between these consonants.\n\nFor example, you're tipsy and at a hotel and you need to meet your friend in room 1064. That is l, s, p, r. Lisper. Picture your friend with an exaggerated speech affectation saying \"thish ish my hotel room!\" Or some such nonsense.\n\nWhen you pair a word and make a story you'll never forget the number. I still remember, 15 years later, the address of a bookstore in Manhattan I always had trouble finding.", "Apparently you can stave off dementia by doing regular routines differently- like brushing your teeth with your off hand, or getting ready in the morning in a different order.\n\nThat and learning juggling...?!", "Here’s mine:I try to absorb the information through a couple different ways. Write it down, read it aloud, have someone else read it to you. Then you’ve used three different parts of your brain to think about the information.", "It’s not exactly what you’re asking, but I believe both learning a second language and learning a musical instrument are excellent for maintaining overall mental agility and neuroplasticity at any age.", "The Wall Street Journal has an interactive puzzle section, a great crossword which gets harder as the week goes on. Best of all it is free and you can sign up for a daily email link", "I daily do wordles and sudoku, and play solitaire games on my phone to get me using my brain, as well as memory match games.", "Consider addressing mental health as a possibility. My memory issues are rooted in cPTSD from childhood trauma. The more I apply cognitive processing therapy the more my memory improves.", "Many people will have good advice here but I have this: \n\n**STAY AWAY from any \"program\"** that tries to sell you lessons to improve this and that. There are a lot, sponsored or even founded by people who say they went from disaster to success (being seen as super smart, or making a lot of money, or landing on their dream job, or just happiness and various synonyms of \"enlightenment\") and \"tHeY WaNt tO ShArE\". \n\nNo matter how many reviews from \"satisfied clients\" (or \"happy alumni\", brr) they claim to have. Stay away.", "I'd recommend Sanjay Gupta's \"Stay Sharp.\" It's an easy read but very evidence-based. It argues that there's no reason your brain health has to decline with age and that dementia and alzheimers are usually preventable if you stick to some rules.\n\nIIRC they are:\n\n1. Sleep\n2. Exercise\n3. Diet\n4. Regular new social engagement\n(Ie being social but not just sticking to the same few people)\n5. Learning new things\n(Anything. New language, new job)\n\nBasically, when it comes to doing things OTHER than 1-3, anything that challenges and engages your brain is highly beneficial. Meet new people and get learning!", "Did you know highlighting and rereading are some of the least effective study techniques? The most effective are practice testing, spaced repetition, and active recall. There’s also the Feynman technique. \n\nPractice testing is just that: taking what you’ve just learned and testing yourself to see if you know the information. The first step of learning is failure and cortisol. It helps allow us to learn and is normal.\n\nSpaced repetition is going over the material at spaced intervals. There’s something called the “forgetting curve” which shows how quickly the human brain scraps information. Spaced repetition calls on that information at the right intervals in order to solidify it in the brain leading to long lasting memory. \n\nActive recall is simply learning something and then immediately recalling everything you just learned from memory alone. Again, any stress / cortisol from failure is normal and helpful as it’s required to learn. \n\nFinally, there is the Feynman technique. You take what you’ve learned and teach someone else. It reveals any gaps in your knowledge and allows you to go back and fill them. \n\nI’ve JUST started implementing these study techniques and holy shit is life better now. I thought that I was a bad student, or that I wasn’t a good learner. Meanwhile I just didn’t know of the proven study techniques. Highly recommend\n\n", "You should look into memory mnemonics such as the memory palace. There are different techniques you can learn and leverage depending in what it is you're trying to accomplish.", "Turn anything you need to memorize into a song. Just pick an easy tune you know (e.g. Row row row your boat) and sing the words to that, repeatedly. Warning: may work too well. I can still sing the Latin noun endings I memorized in high school, even though I haven’t needed to remember them for decades.", "Not really a memory tip but a bit of a sidestep. Embrace that you had a bad memory, and do what you can to help yourself out. I have an utterly terrible memory and tried all kinds of things for years. Really the only thing that helps a lot is setting a reminder, so I use my phone and a smartwatch. I write things in a diary too, but that only helps sometimes.", "Crossword puzzles are great for vocabulary building and maintenance. My grandma does them every day and she is 86 with no major memory issues or anything. My grandpa (92), also has his thing with gardening and reading news and health magazines, and watching and feeding birds.\n\nI think the main factor in keeping your memory is keeping it in use and trained like a muscle. This doesn't mean actions like heavy weightlifting necessarily (high intensity but short duration). But rather a more consistent and sustained effort more similar to lifting lighter weights for more reptititions, or going marathon jogging vs sprint running.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nTLDR: You don't use it, you lose it. Just like with any muscle. Or at least you will have a higher chance of doing so, if you don't use it. At a certain point it is out of our hands, and life takes the course that it does", "These tips are all wayyy too complicated. If you want to improve your memory, understand *what* makes us remember is 3 main things:\n\n1) how important is it to you\n2) do you need it for life or death \n3) repetition \n\nHave a good day I’m assuming you’re studying so try to focus on studying a bit each day", "Make information like telephone numbers a jingle, I still remember a 30+ year-old telephone number from a kid's show.", "Almost every I’ve read on memory loss stresses that remaining social and talking to people is the the biggest controllable factor. Making friends, keeping friends, regularly talking to friends, and doing stuff with friends.", "i trained myself with remembering what i ate the day before, and tried more and more days in a row, sometimes i remember it wrong, but thats not so important, i try just to keep going and try to remember actively. and one side effect is i remember the good food i ate, and want to remember the current day and so on. \n\n\n(not native English Speaker) i hope that i phrased that right :D", "The more ways you can engage with a thought the more likely you are to remember it. If it's something important you think of, write it down and then read the note aloud. It is often a rule of thumb that a person must engage with a fact 7 times (on average) before committing it to memory.", "Neuroscience major - I’m not too deep in yet, but I recently learned a small tip that’s been helpful for studying. Studying 30 mins a day is more effective than 4 hours twice a week - frequent exposure is extremely helpful and I’m doing way better in school because of this", "Memory is tricky. There's these World Memory Games where people have to get really good at menorizing the order of like 1000 cards numbered. \n\n\nSo they come up with little stories for each 3 number combo. Like 007 might be James Bond. 404 might be a network interruption. \n\nBut after testing, these people didn't seem to have improved their memories, they just got good at this specific game. \n\nhttps://www.newyorker.com/sports/sporting-scene/lessons-from-americas-first-memory-world-champion\n\nhttps://freakonomics.com/podcast/memory-champion-nelson-dellis-helps-steve-train-his-brain/", "Keep a dream journal. \n\nAs soon as you wake up, write down as much as you can remember. \n\nWhat’s really crazy, is when I go back and read my dream journal, I can visually “see the dream” again. But, if I never wrote it down, it’s gone forever. I may have a vague recollection of “one time I dreamed such and such…” but the contrast to how vivre the written dreams are is startling when I realize those exist somewhere in my brain for every dream I’ve ever had. \n\nLook up the estimated computational, and data storage power, of the human brain. :)", "I would recommend learning to play Tetris. Same idea as stuff other people have mentioned. \n\nFor more targeted memory practice, try learning finesse (the optimal number of button presses to put pieces down), then play short bursts with your eyes closed. In other words, memorise the next few pieces coming up, close your eyes, and try to place the next 3-4 pieces without opening them. Then peek and repeat", "Develop good breathing techniques. The focus in breathing will help you concentrate more when trying to build your memory palace, etc. I’d recommend “Breathing” by Andrew Weil. Short and sweet, plus it has an audiobook", "A lot of good advice. One other easy tip to improve day to day memories is improving the mind body connection. Vocalizing every day chores helps cement them in your head and adds intentionality to what you’re doing. “I am locking the door” as you lock the door. “I am turning off the burner” etc. it’s a good way to stop brain fog", "“Getting enough sleep” makes a huge difference for me. I know everyone has different sleep requirements, but going from 6 hrs to at least 7hrs is making is way better for memory and overall thinking skills.", "You might also take a look at what you eat. Some foods will help your cognition while others may do more than just be unhelpful. If you have certain deficiencies in your diet, it may cause problems with cognitions.", "Using an ultrasonic vibrational helmet to clear plaque. I mentioned this 5 years or so ago and they got around to inventing it. I don't think they realized this can be over used though. Trazodone cycle they haven't figure this one yet. I don't know enough to recommend this route. Plus way too many side effects. Weed once per 3 months or shrooms once every 6 months to 1 year. This will empty your lymphatic system of plaque built up. Don't think they figure that out either yet.\n\nAfter that normal water and exercise with adequate sleep. You only need the above if you know you've developed plaque or have clear memory issues with lack of adequate self cleaning enzymes which lessens as you get older. So even with plaque removal until they discover this need and research it their will always be a deficit of recovery. Not sure they've figure this substance out yet. Also brush your teeth 3 times a day. That plaque goes to your brain.", "To improve our memory for drawing, my instructor had us draw a simple triangle on a portable whiteboard, eyeball it from several feet away, and draw that same triangle on a sheet of tracing paper.\n\nThen we’d place the tracing paper over the whiteboard, see how close it was, try it again with a different triangle, and so on.\n\nOnce we could consistently replicate triangles like that, we’d place the whiteboard in a different room, then a different floor, across campus, anything to force us to retain that image for longer.", "This might not resonate with most people but I personally like to actively practice a concept stolen from BBC Sherlock called the Mind Palace. I’m a firm believer that the brain imprints most things and it’s just a matter of if we can localize where that memory is stored.\n\nWith that idea in mind if it’s something trivia-esque a la “what is the subtitle of Mission Impossible 5?” or “who wrote East of Eden?”, I’ll refuse to look it up and spend days if not weeks with it in the back of my mind. As convenient as Google is when it comes to useful, immediately-needed information, I genuinely feel like the luxury and ability to answer any minor, trivial question inevitably reduces our need to develop our internal memory. \n\nIf you don’t already, simply try to spend some time traversing your memory rather than looking something up. It’s honestly really rewarding when the memory finally clicks!", "Shuffle a deck of cards. Then try to memorize the order. Not all at once, but remember a few at a time, it doesn't matter if you learn them in order or learn based on suit or value. All you have to do is know the position of the card, so each card gets associated with a number.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nYou'd be surprised how quickly you can memorize the order of 52 cards.", "Ron White's Improve Your Memory in 30 Days is a good place to start. His YouTube channel is very helpful too. https://youtu.be/3vlpQHJ09do", "Play games habitually. They exercise critical thinking and decision-making skills while enhancing your recall of things.", "Play card games and try to remember what cards were already played. Will make you better at cards too. Could also play them on your phone.", "Play brain games. There are tons of apps out there. The mind is a muscle. Continue to practice and measure your results each day. You get mentally stronger over time - in the same way, you can't expect a keg to turn into a six pack after a couple good gym days you can't improve memory super quick like that. Instead make it a lifestyle to focus on developing good habits to improve your memory - focus and measure results of \"self administered tests\". Then BOOM. You've arrived.", "One thing I accidentally stumbled upon was this method. \n\n1. Simple m", "Once you've done an action which you need to remember, tap a hard surface a few times or say a gobbledegook phrase.\nIt seems to stop your brain from skipping over remembering you've done completed an action \"Did I lock the door?\"", "Not specifically a memory trick, but social / partner dances are very good for maintaining general mental agility.\n\nThere is the social aspect - engaging and talking to your partner, paying close attention to what they are doing.\n\nThe physical bit - get the heart rate up\n\nThe physical mind bit - connecting body position and movement and learning new movements\n\nBasic memory - remembering the steps\n\nAnd I think there is a bunch of other stuff that helps too. Overall, people who do partner dances keep their mind nimble later in life. I am sure there are other good hobbies that do similar things - look for activities that hit multiple types of stimulation.", "My mind works best when I do daily m", "My brain always works much better overall when I’m reading books regularly… idk why but that’s how it is for me.", "Just my 2 cents. Diet is pretty important. I've totally changed my eating habit after reading about nutrition. Some to look up below. I like examine.com\n\nMagnesium: western diet is deficient \nCholine: eat those eggs\nOmega 3s: I don't eat fish dt personal concern for mercury. \nErgothioneine: a potent antioxidant found mostly in mushrooms\nBerries: those anthocianins are gold\n\nBonus round! Antivirals: herpes...most people have it...brain doesn't like it. Get checkeddd", "Just look up memory palaces. It's how the people on TV memorize thousands of numbers. It'll take you a bit to learn as you have to make it a natural habit via forcing it over time.", "Journaling about your day every single day improves memory and can improve the way you view your time.", "I’ve looked into this and all I’ve been able to find are memory tricks like spaced repetition and memory palaces. AFAIK there is no way to improve you memory like you can strengthen your muscles by working out.", "I’ve been saying this for months if not years already, but no one acknowledges me regardless of how many times I say it, but to improve my memory, I’ll literally stare at random cars and try to make them explode", "If you're eligible, join the brain health project at https://centerforbrainhealth.org/project\n\nIt's a scientific study run by 121 neuroscientists that over 100k people have volunteered or registered to take part in, both to provide subjects and data for science, but also to be provided lots of information, tasks, and training on keeping your brain healthy and developing your brain (which includes memory)\n\nIf you're eligible, you'll take an assessment, which you'll get the results of after a few days once they've been determined by the scientists themselves. You'll then start your 5-10 minute daily training, theyll even schedule calls with you to discuss you and brain health! \n\nHope this helps someone out there!", "If I'm not in a hurry, I try to find my way to a spot in town without GPS, especially if I am only vaguely familiar with the area. \n\nOr using paper maps to get a sense of where I want to go, then try to get there by memory", "I was in the process of writing down the key suggested in one of the posts that assigns a consonant to a number when my thumb touched my phone screen and poof, it disappeared. Help!", "I enjoyed “Limitless” (and other books) by Jim Kwik. He had a traumatic brain injury as a child and is now a memory “master” who teaches memory techniques.", "Great book on the subject is “Moonwalking with Einstein”. Quick Spoiler Synopsis: A reporter with average memory is writing about people who compete an extreme memory competition. By spending time with them and learning their simple techniques, he goes on to win the competition the following year. He teaches the reader the techniques along the way. Truly life changing with minimal, if persistent, effort.", "Good situational awareness exercise which helps improve memory is to walk by a room in your house, glance into it and then write down everything you remember seeing with descriptions. Walk back and check to see how accurate you were. Works anywhere not just your house.", "Get appropriate sleep, repetition, using all senses possible to memorize (speech, walking while doing it, writing it down), finding the tricks that help you, stay hydrated", "For general memory improvement, just search brain workbooks in Amazon. There are hundreds. Adding a couple “cognitive puzzles” into your day is proven to improve overall brain functioning, including memory.", "Explain what you learned to a friend or imaginary friend.\n\nthis will cement the info into your mind forever.", "Every mind is different. Try different methods and see what works for you. \n\nIf you don't use it, you lose it. \nSo utilize your memory as much as you can.", "Epinephrine release while learning helps to learn and understand, and following up with adrenaline helps the retention of those memories. You can induce adrenaline with deliberate cold exposure, like a cold shower for 1-5 minutes. \n\nNothing generates more neurogenesis than exercise. Learn how to exercise now and have the discipline to conduct your exercise 5 days a week.\n\nThis is all backed by quality scientific studies. The Huberman Lab podcast is hosted by a professor of physiology/neurology at Stanford, and has a ton of good information on this stuff.", "Apparently students of Pythagoras when lying down for sleep at the end of the day would try to recall their interactions with people in order from the first person through to bed time.. when they were able to do the full day they would add on the prior day etc etc...\n\nUsed to work for me when I worked hospo to get to know all the regulars", "Ankidroid is an excellent app for creating flashcards. They are great for studying. If you decide to try it out then add the extension image occlusion, which enables you to copy paste picture in and then make little boxes which hides some of the picture.", "Absolutely not a professional opinion of any kind, but I say try to give the thing you're trying to remember context. If you're trying to remember a random scene, for instance, what is in it? Are there people? How many? What are they doing? What might their lives be like? Are they farmers? Maybe things they interact with are things in the image. If it's just things, how might you interact with it? Is there a pretty little flower you might smell, a big tree you'd sit under, or a mountain you might climb? If you were in the scene, how would your surroundings make you feel? Giving things context helps you give them meaning and makes them (in my experience) easier to recall." ]

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[ "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?", "How to not feel hungry when you don't have any food? I heard a lot about drinking water but that doesn't help for a long time. Also heard something about wet paper towels, can they help?" ]

[ "It's not the healthiest, but ramen packs are only 30-50 cents a pack and those can be filling if you drink the broth.\n\nOtherwise I really recommend searching for a local food pantry! Please reach out to friends or family or a nonprofit for help if you can. Stay safe!", "I know I'm not answering the question directly, but have you tried visiting subs like r/frugal and similar that give you advice on how to get meals that are both cheap, tasty and diverse.\n\n\nAnyways, I hope you'll have no reason to be hungry in the near future, good luck.", "Are you talking about ingesting wet paper towels??? Seriously don’t. Why don’t you have any food? Because you can eat konjac pasta, rice, ... with zero calories. This is just fiber and water. Just add some tomato sauce and you have a huge spaghetti plate for 50-100 kcal.", "Try to eat leafy substances, if possible. They swell during the digestion period. Giving you that fullness feeling. But, know your different types of foliage. Don't want to accidentally ingest something poisonous.", "Huunger spikes and then flat lines. Basically u tough it out during the spike then you get into a sustained hungerless period that lasts many hours.", "Can you go to a local food bank or shelter to get some basics? Is there anyone you can reach out to to help stock up to keep you going for a while? I’m sorry you’re going through this. You could even approach local food stores/cafes and ask if they have a programme for donating left over food", "Are you trying to not eat to loose weight, not feel hungry cause you're out and don't have food or not feel hungry cause you don't have any food?", "Water and keeping your mind active are the best for this. If you need food though look to your local food banks. They don't require any I'd they are there to assist with anyone in need.", "Get more food if you go around and feeling hungry. Im assuming you often feeo hungry considering you made this post. Not getting any food is just as unhealthy as eating too much", "I don't mean to be rude, but how is it that you can afford to be online if you can't afford money for food?" ]

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[ "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there", "How did you 180 your life? Had my first heartbreak and just quit drinking. I want to stop being so sensitive, so miserable and self pitying and resigned. Barely keeping it together, I care too much. SOS reddit. Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there" ]

[ "Stop looking inward - it doesn't matter if you drink or care too much or want to be a hard ass.\n\nWhat makes things different is how you treat others, make an effort to smile, say hello to people - like actually look at the person in the lift and say HELLO don't mumble it under your breath, ask people how there day is going, sincerely care about the answer, leave your phone in your bag. The last one is a biggy and a nightmare at first but life has a noticeable increase in awesomeness when you are not focused on other peoples highlight reel.\n\nThese are all easy things to change and you'll be amazed and how it makes you feel. If you feel better the world becomes better - it's a horrid little cycle.", "Get off reddit, get off Facebook. Buy a a motorcycle or cheap one way ticket to anywhere and just travel. Wish I could.", "as Nike says, JUST DO IT.\n\nchances are you already know what you need to do, who you need to stop seeing and what to expect. Stop waiting and JUST DO IT!", "> Wanna hear from all the hard asses out there\n\nNo you don't. You may want to move from one end of the spectrum, but you don't want to walk in douche-land. You have what? 16, 18, 25 years of history? That's a big ship to turn. As they say in science fiction: Rocket ships don't make U turns. Neither will you. \n\nBut you can start moving a little toward better things. There is some pretty good stuff already posted here. Just don't expect things to change over night. One good decision a day is all you need. \n\n\nProbably won't help you much, but to answer your question: How did I 180? I quit the military, quit working on military projects and and studied Zen. Doesn't sound like it's too applicable to you. ", "First off, your first break-up is always horrific. Soon, you'll be on the other side of it, and dating someone else, and see that your perception of the last person has changed. They're never as great as you imagined.\n\nSecond, I've started asking myself, \"Are you being a bro to your future self?\" Imaging my future self as another person that I love and want to care for as well as I can. It sounds silly, but sometimes when you're low on self confidence, and have little self-worth, it is good to separate the two. The bro-to-your-future-self concept works in many different arenas, for example, being lazy and leaving the kitchen a mess until morning = not being a bro to your future self. Not only is it more work for future self, it is work compounded by the stress and resentment of not having already done it, a snowball of bad feelings. Others include skipping class, skipping workouts, not saving money. Future self (once out of despair) is going to want to have fun and enjoy his life with friends and family, make sure he will be ready. Take care of these things for him now. Good luck, it gets easier every day. Life can be tough at times, so wallow in whatever you have to, but take care of your future self.", "Do one little thing to make you feel a little better. Apply the same rules to yourself that you would anyone you met who was feeling like shit the way you do. You managed to do dishes or make bed? Success! Only cried or was angry for a little while? Also success! Big things start from little ones. :)", "Been there done that. 1st thing is taking direct aim at self pity, declare war on this sad dead end. Don't be troubled by adversity, it helps one grow if you take it by the horns. Read. The stoics, the cynics, et cetera, not that much new under the sun, they had most of it down long ago. Grew up in an atmosphere of self pity, got no where till I learned to fight, now life is good indeed, getting more out than I put in, better than expectations. ", "About the age of 25-26 I had a quarter life crisis. Like you, I quit drinking. Realized that was largely why I had no money and felt like shit. After spending the first 20 so years of my life trying to get fucked up with recreational drugs, I started researching supplements to make me feel BETTER. This was a pivotal point for me, seeking improvement instead of escape. \n\nAlso, quit Facebook. Nothing will help you discover who matters in your life more. The amount of people you think may be friends is much greater than the actual amount of people who care about you. Once you step away, you will learn who you matter to. This will help you prioritize relationships.", "i was going to say you could pick up a massive drinking or heroin habit...that'll 180 most people pretty quick.\n\n\napparently you're trying to turn around the other way though. see a therapist.", "You just have to face your fear. The more that you face your fear, the more you grow and turn your life around. List all the greatest fears that you have, conquer them one by one and I think that's how you'll be able to 180 your life. \n\nYou cannot expect to 'change' when you keep doing the same comfortable things over and over. Conquer fear.", "Very over sensitive, over emotional, all-too-feeling person here. I used to be scared of everything and incredibly depressed, rarely left my home, lived with my parents, never worked, dropped out of school, had no friends. I was forced into therapy, I hated it, hated my therapist and requested a new one. Got on with the new therapist, and talked, a lot. Realised that it's not often in life that a person gets a chance to be 100% honest without being judged. During that therapy, I realised that I needed to make changes to my life.\n1. Do frightening stuff daily. For me, this was socialising, meeting brand new people, attending classes, it might sound small to others, but to me, it was life changing.\n2. Rid myself of people who made me feel bad. This was something I had not realised, that I had people in my life who I didn't like. So, I stopped having them in my life.\n3. Loosen up. Have fun. Don't take it seriously, laugh at it. If I think I can't laugh at it, find someone who can, and try and listen to them. For me, I've pin pointed people who inspire me (my Dad, my sister, certain fictitious characters, etc.) to enjoy my life instead of over thinking it.\n4. Enjoy myself. Like, it's fundamental to being a functioning human being that you are doing stuff that makes you happy. Or at least makes you feel good. Actually good, like exercise, or laughing, or socialising. \n\nAnyway, long story short is that I went from a very small, scared, unhappy hermit, to somebody who's worked full time for five years, is now completing training as a therapist myself, has a long term relationship, and, although I still struggle quite badly at times, my life did a 180, and it was awesome. I no longer feel like I owe the rest of the world all of myself, I'm not responsible for everyone else's feelings, I'm responsible for myself and how I feel, and that's something I can accept. \n\nOh! 5. Feel proud when you achieve something, even if it's small.\n", "Quit drinking and hanging out with people who party too much, thats an awesome start. However that good feeling will wear off, you have to put something in its place. For me, the most important thing was working out and diet. You will feel and look so much better, the confidence boost is amazing. Second, I would really recommend spending an equal amount of time improving your mind, in whatever field you want. For me it was programming and reading more on a regular basis. Always sounded super lame to me, but healthy body, healthy mind yo. ", "Okay, so you want to 180 your life, That makes sense... Most people get to that point after hitting rock bottom and judging by ur post thats where you are at atm.. Anyways, don't be discouraged, the 180 doesn't have to be hard. In fact, it can be effortless, fun and intensely rewarding. \n\nAs a first step i would recommend that you wipe your slate totally clean and stop looking to the past for answers, you'll never get anywhere in life doing that. \n\nSecond i would say get your self esteem and self worth back up, trust in yourself and believe that you are a unique, awesome individual that deserves to live the glorious kick ass life that you know you want for yourself. \n\nLastly, realize that you have a \"knowledge gap\" in certain areas of your life and start researching online about information regarding anything you feel you do not quite understand or need perspective on (like relationships or motivation, for example) \n\nHope this helps, PM me if you would like specific recommendations on books or resources you can get into. \n\nMuch love, you can do it!!", "Learn to stop trusting that amorphous concept of that *you* tomorrow. Or next week. Or next month. Focus on right now. ", "I'm actually in the middle of it.\n\nI just turned 24, 4 days and I've been planning to fix my life as I sort of realized im not a teenager finally. Started going to the gym, been trying to quit smoking for the past few months and haven't smoked in a couple months and forcing myself to not be a lazy ass anymore.", "For me, it's knowing that no matter how much I may complain and bitch about things that it won't change at all. I have been cheated on 3 times with 3 different girls, you don't let that shit stop you. Get up, put a fucking smile on and go out there and prove to yourself that you are a good looking motherfucker who has confidence. Stopped drinking? Go workout it's a great stress reliever. Thinking about things too much? Go for a bike ride while listening to angry gangster rap. Get busy living or get busy dying my man.", "First, don't expect to do the 180 all at once. As a wise woman once said, \"You don't walk into the clothing store naked.\"\n\nIt may be that you need to occupy your mind, now that drinking and your heartbreak have probably left you with a lot of spare time to wallow in self-pity. May I suggest looking through your local community college's course catalog, and see if some class makes you go \"Hmmm..\" You'd be surprised at how much fun a college class can be if it's something you enjoy, and not something you need to graduate.\n\nThen there's Meetup; they have groups for pretty much anything.\n\nFinally, there are a couple of volunteer databases available online. Again, browse the opportunities based on whatever criteria, and see if something strikes you.", "Conversely, after a bit of heartbreak I started drinking and working out like a motherfucker and in hindsight feel it was such a waste cause the drinking ruined the working out. \n\nCase in point: only do shit that is good for you. ", "Been there for the best part of 2 or 3 years. Hobbies to take your mind off it are probably the most important now. I find you can't successfully convince yourself that's it is indeed, ok, until you've distanced yourself from that emotion for a couple hours.", "Always helpful advice: https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/1q96b5/i_just_dont_care_about_myself/cdah4af", "i asked god for a sign even though i dont believe in god and i had a dream that night where i met an angel that said that i was no able to think clearly and that she was there to help me. ive felt better ever since. no i still dont believe in god who knows what actually happened but all i know is that i feel better", "Stumbled onto /r/keto. It has saved my life.\n\nNot joking, after I'd been on it for a few months and my weight loss became noticeable to my relatives, they told me they were scared I was going to die, I was so unhealthy.\n\nMy bones stopped hurting, I've been sleeping better (I have severe sleep apnea that my doctor said is now improving), and my seasonal allergies are now limited to fall tree molds where before I had them just about every frickin' season.\n\n" ]

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[ "How do I get rid of phlegm thats been stuck for 2 days now? Better yet, how do I even know its phlegm at this point? I need this gone NOW. It keeps getting bigger and thicker and I know this because I can FEEL it \"blocking\" my throat. I don't know how to explain it but I can \"feel\" its discomfort more and more by the hour. \n\nI've tried drinking tea (5 cups), gargling with salt water, ate onions and a bunch of soup and its STILL THERE I CANT GET RID OF IT ONLY NUMB THE DISCOMFORT AND LAIN FOR A FEW SECONDS \n\nAt this point, I'm not even sure its phlegm? Just now I, for the 29th time, tried to cough it out and NOTHING. Now MAYBE I spit out A SLIVER of it, but nothing big.\n\nPlease help me.", "How do I get rid of phlegm thats been stuck for 2 days now? Better yet, how do I even know its phlegm at this point? I need this gone NOW. It keeps getting bigger and thicker and I know this because I can FEEL it \"blocking\" my throat. I don't know how to explain it but I can \"feel\" its discomfort more and more by the hour. \n\nI've tried drinking tea (5 cups), gargling with salt water, ate onions and a bunch of soup and its STILL THERE I CANT GET RID OF IT ONLY NUMB THE DISCOMFORT AND LAIN FOR A FEW SECONDS \n\nAt this point, I'm not even sure its phlegm? Just now I, for the 29th time, tried to cough it out and NOTHING. Now MAYBE I spit out A SLIVER of it, but nothing big.\n\nPlease help me.", "How do I get rid of phlegm thats been stuck for 2 days now? Better yet, how do I even know its phlegm at this point? I need this gone NOW. It keeps getting bigger and thicker and I know this because I can FEEL it \"blocking\" my throat. I don't know how to explain it but I can \"feel\" its discomfort more and more by the hour. \n\nI've tried drinking tea (5 cups), gargling with salt water, ate onions and a bunch of soup and its STILL THERE I CANT GET RID OF IT ONLY NUMB THE DISCOMFORT AND LAIN FOR A FEW SECONDS \n\nAt this point, I'm not even sure its phlegm? Just now I, for the 29th time, tried to cough it out and NOTHING. Now MAYBE I spit out A SLIVER of it, but nothing big.\n\nPlease help me.", "How do I get rid of phlegm thats been stuck for 2 days now? Better yet, how do I even know its phlegm at this point? I need this gone NOW. It keeps getting bigger and thicker and I know this because I can FEEL it \"blocking\" my throat. I don't know how to explain it but I can \"feel\" its discomfort more and more by the hour. \n\nI've tried drinking tea (5 cups), gargling with salt water, ate onions and a bunch of soup and its STILL THERE I CANT GET RID OF IT ONLY NUMB THE DISCOMFORT AND LAIN FOR A FEW SECONDS \n\nAt this point, I'm not even sure its phlegm? Just now I, for the 29th time, tried to cough it out and NOTHING. Now MAYBE I spit out A SLIVER of it, but nothing big.\n\nPlease help me.", "How do I get rid of phlegm thats been stuck for 2 days now? Better yet, how do I even know its phlegm at this point? I need this gone NOW. It keeps getting bigger and thicker and I know this because I can FEEL it \"blocking\" my throat. I don't know how to explain it but I can \"feel\" its discomfort more and more by the hour. \n\nI've tried drinking tea (5 cups), gargling with salt water, ate onions and a bunch of soup and its STILL THERE I CANT GET RID OF IT ONLY NUMB THE DISCOMFORT AND LAIN FOR A FEW SECONDS \n\nAt this point, I'm not even sure its phlegm? Just now I, for the 29th time, tried to cough it out and NOTHING. Now MAYBE I spit out A SLIVER of it, but nothing big.\n\nPlease help me.", "How do I get rid of phlegm thats been stuck for 2 days now? Better yet, how do I even know its phlegm at this point? I need this gone NOW. It keeps getting bigger and thicker and I know this because I can FEEL it \"blocking\" my throat. I don't know how to explain it but I can \"feel\" its discomfort more and more by the hour. \n\nI've tried drinking tea (5 cups), gargling with salt water, ate onions and a bunch of soup and its STILL THERE I CANT GET RID OF IT ONLY NUMB THE DISCOMFORT AND LAIN FOR A FEW SECONDS \n\nAt this point, I'm not even sure its phlegm? Just now I, for the 29th time, tried to cough it out and NOTHING. Now MAYBE I spit out A SLIVER of it, but nothing big.\n\nPlease help me.", "How do I get rid of phlegm thats been stuck for 2 days now? Better yet, how do I even know its phlegm at this point? I need this gone NOW. It keeps getting bigger and thicker and I know this because I can FEEL it \"blocking\" my throat. I don't know how to explain it but I can \"feel\" its discomfort more and more by the hour. \n\nI've tried drinking tea (5 cups), gargling with salt water, ate onions and a bunch of soup and its STILL THERE I CANT GET RID OF IT ONLY NUMB THE DISCOMFORT AND LAIN FOR A FEW SECONDS \n\nAt this point, I'm not even sure its phlegm? Just now I, for the 29th time, tried to cough it out and NOTHING. Now MAYBE I spit out A SLIVER of it, but nothing big.\n\nPlease help me." ]

[ "Sounds like an infection, go see a doctor. \n\nI had an infection in my larynx in the past and it felt like there was a small stone in there. Constantly had the feeling I needed to cough something out. Anything longer than three days worth a doctor's visit.", "I heard from a friend who just tested positive (who in turn heard this from their doctor) that the omicron variant is presenting as a sore throat for a lot of people initially. You should probably go to a doctor and quarantine.", "Eat a raw clove of garlic then wash it down with a tablespoon of cayenne pepper in freshly squeezed orange juice and add a bit of honey. Sounds like bullshit but trust me it works 95% of the time", "Mucinex. Hot steamy shower. And drink hot water with half a lemon juice with a tsp of apple cider vinegar. These will help get rid of mucous but then also should try a minute clinic at a Walgreens for some professional medical attention to be safe.", "Try steaming, breaking it up with heat and then maybe try the gargling. Also try taking something like mucinex to help", "Get a shot glass. Put a tablespoon of honey, add lemon juice to it, then some cayenne pepper.\n\nDrink the shot, it will feel a bit Spicey but it will do the job and break up the phlegm so you can get it outta there.", "Assuming you're not allergic to it, cut up some onion place it in a light cloth and tie it around your neck." ]

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[ "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to.", "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to.", "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to.", "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to.", "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to.", "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to.", "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to.", "Reduce the Weekday Blues Hi LPT!\n\nI have a serious case of the blues at the moment. I'm recovering from various viral infections, but am also having a serious case of serial weekday blues. Whilst I enjoy my job, I find myself very much living for the weekend, as I spend most (over 75% ) of my \"awake time\" either at work, or commuting to it.\n\nHow can I make weekdays more enjoyable or get more out of my time? \n\nPossibly influencing factors in your LPT:\n* I find Monday and Tuesday particularly difficult\n\n* I don't have much (read: any) money to devote to doing fun stuff, so going out to the movies etc. isn't an option; I also get quite socially anxious\n\n* I don't have much time in the evenings. I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\n* I live with my boyfriend (who doesn't have a long commute, about 20mins each way in his car) and our pets\n* I'm an expatriate and don't speak the language brilliantly in the country in which I live (but I'm learning at classes once a week)\n\n* I thought about maybe planning something nice for Monday and Tuesday evenings to take the focus off the days (which are usually quite busy themselves, as I have a busy, semi-stressful job), but I'm a bit stumped for things to plan on virtually no budget (money is tight).\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE - thanks for all your suggestions! I'm working on a fitness blog project thing, so I think I'll spend my commute brainstorming my blog posts and maybe working on some fiction writing if I have the energy, in the evenings. I'm also a massive nerd when it comes to TV so I'm going to look into some shows I can watch at night to pass the time and look forward to." ]

[ "That commute sounds like the shits! You can try [The Gutenberg Project](http://www.gutenberg.org) for free ebooks that can help ease that commute. Try /r/newmusic to find new music to listen to.\n\nFor when you get home there are quite a few free things you can try. I like the idea of planning something special for Monday or Tuesday. I say make it dinner on Tuesday at home and you can cook with your boyfriend. Maybe you can choose a topic of discussion each week and plan ahead with some conversation. Politics, religion, music, art, or anything else, whatever your interests are. \n\nYou can play board games with each other or bring friends over for a game night. It can actually be really fun. \n\nGood luck with finding new things. Here is my favorite song at the moment to start you off [Dr. Dog - Be The Void](https://soundcloud.com/antirecords/dr-dog-be-the-void-1?in=antirecords/sets/dr-dog-wild-race-1)", "Since you take public transportation you can do all kinds of things during your commute. Use that as free time! Read books, listen to music and free podcasts, learn to knit or crochet, anything to keep your mind busy. If you have a smart phone or other device you can watch movies and tv as well. Not sure where you live but a kindle or similar device costs about $200. It's a pretty big investment but if it enriches literally 8 hours of your day that you would normally spend staring at a wall I'd say it might be worth it. I'd also suggest getting a light for your job space that replicates sunlight. That will improve your mood at work. ", "I have like a million hobbies. I like being able to choose what I want to work on based on my mood. Painting? Drawing? Video ", "How's the weather where you live? Do you live by any public gathering spots? I lived in Mexico for a few years and my life improved substantially once I started going to the town park every day after dinner. I met lots of people, improved my language skills quite a bit, learned about the town and culture, stopped being depressed because I wasn't cooped up anymore, and didn't spend any money doing it. You have a boyfriend so you wouldn't even have to brave it alone, the two of you could go and just walk around and eventually (if it's a small town environment) more and more people would start talking to the two of you. ", "Find a hobby. This can be anything that you enjoy enough to look forward to doing when you get home. Knitting, reading books (or joining a book club), karate, learning new things off YouTube, learn something that can help you advance in your job (or to find a better job), join some kind of sports league (bowling, darts, pool, basketball, etc), look online for different social events you can do (especially free ones), etc etc. \n\nMy point being find something that you, and your boyfriend, enjoy doing that you can look forward to doing after work. Don't be afraid to mix it up and change things around if what you do starts to get stale", "Audiobooks are great for long commutes. \n\nExercise, even when you don't have time, can raise spirits.", "> I take 2 trains and a bus to get to/from work (each way) and spend over 4 hours daily commuting, which means I get up at 6am and get home around 8pm, leaving me with 3-4hours before bed.\n\nI... feel your pain. Solidarity sister.", "Take 1200 mg of Guaifenesin (mucinex) -- secret use: it's a POTENT antidepressant/mood elevator. You only need one a week. I know it's weird to take drug advice from a stranger on the Internet, especially when googling what I'm saying will turn out zero results… However you may take some solace in following anecdotal advice from a guy who struggled with depression. Also it's OTC and completely harmless so what Have you got to lose? :)\n\n\nGuaifenesin (Mucinex)\n\nTreats cough that is caused by colds, flu, or other conditions. Guaifenesin is an expectorant that loosens mucus in your lungs.\n\nBrand names: Mucinex, Robitussin, Q-Tussin, Liqufruta, Guiatuss, QTussin, MucaPlex, Bronchoril\n\nPregnancy risk: Category C (Risk cannot be ruled out)\n\nMay treat: Cough, Common cold, Sinus infection, Sore throat, Pertussis, …\n\nhttp://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0044712/#DDIC601929.side_effects_section\n\n" ]

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[ "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? ", "How to stop caring what others may think of you? I realize, that other people don't care and won't even remember that awkward thing I said 10 minutes ago, but I keep subconsciously assuming that they do. In other words, how to gain control over that feeling? " ]

[ "Whenever you doubt that people have forgotten the awkward thing you said 10 minutes ago, consider the fact that you don't remember the awkward thing they said 10 minutes ago. Why is that? Are you a superior person who doesn't judge, but surrounded by people who do? Or are you an ordinary person with some insecurity surrounded by people who are just like you?\n\nIf that logic doesn't convince you then test it. Ask someone about the thing you said or did that is nagging at you and see if they remember, and if they do, see if they give two shits about it. In almost all cases they won't. \n\n\nAlso ask yourself why this feeling is so common. As I read elsewhere, we all compare our blooper reel to everyone else's highlight reel.", "My girlfriend has the same issue as you, I used to too.\nNow there's a few things I think of when this crops up.\nWhy do I care what this person thinks and what made their opinion so important?\nIf I'm being judged by random people why do I give a shit? Chances are I will never see them again.\nUltimately I grew up in an oppressive, violent household. I convinced myself I should just do what I want to do, if I make mistakes then at least it was my life.", "Practice being super non-judgmental and mentally generous yourself. I think a lot of our worry about what's going on in other peoples' heads is projection. Plus, you lose nothing by becoming non-judgmental.", "Just stop caring. You'll be driving yourself nuts if you keep caring what they think of you.\n Accept yourself, accept the weird things you may say from time to time (which maybe only appear to be weird to *you*) and stop obsessing over what people may think. This is what and who you are. ", "Talking about your fears and anxieties really helps. Afraid you're going to say something stupid? Preface it with \"this may sound off but I want to tell you something and I'm worried you'll think I'm dumb.\" It can feel pretty exposed but it really helps. Try being open with your feelings--for the most part people really kind and want to talk it through. Also, see what you can do to take yourself less seriously.", "It may seem radical but that's how I realized that nobody even the people close to you really gives a fuck about what you do or say.\n\nI got myself a new job at doing door to door sales. At that point I was a young guy very self-conscious and taking care of my look and what I said mostly because I cared way too much about others opinion. This made my job hard since I was suppose to talk to strangers on a daily basis by disrupting their diner time which was hard because I was concerned that one day they could recognize me and laugh at me.\n\nMy boss tried an experience, one day instead of knocking on doors he brought me to the biggest mall in my city and told me that he would give me 1 dollar for every push-ups I could do in the middle of the shopping mall with hundreds of people walking by. Took me several minutes before convincing myself but the money was there and I ultimately did it. I got myself to 45 before giving up. While doing them I felt super ashamed and embarassed only focusing on the perspective of gaining money. I had the impression that everyone was looking and talking about me. When I was done I got up and after taking my money and trying to laugh about it I took a close look at everyone around me and realize that really nobody was either looking at me, talking/pointing me, they just really never cared, probably only thought this was a childish challenge. We spent the rest of the day in the mall with my boss telling me that if someone was pointing me, laughing at what I did or acknowledging it he would double the sum of money, making 90$ for only doing push-ups. Never got that 90$, we didn't found one single person in the hundred present that gave a fuck about the guy doing pushup in the middle of the mall.\n\nMorale of the story, just be yourself, people might look at you for a second, but the second their head goes the other way they already forgot what you looked like and a few minutes later what actually happened. Worst case scenario you become a legendary story they can tell while never being able to actually put a face on it", "You may find that you are a HSP (highly sensitive person) or an empath. Do some research on these characteristics it's quite interesting and you could learn some about yourself.\nMost people are too wound up in their own shit to care about anyone else! You just need to learn ways to manage your anxiety.\nPeace ", "Nobody thinks about you half as much as you do. This might sound harsh, but I've found that this insecurity is somewhat tied with selfishness. It helped me to realize that I'm not the center of the world, the universe doesn't rotate around me, and most people don't care about my life or my problems. So why should I care about what they think? \n\nI will say, the older I got, the less I worried. If you're in high school, this is just a phase. It sucks, I know. I went through it, and almost everyone does. But if you're well into your adult life and you still find this a problem, I would consider going to a councilor/psychiatrist about a possible anxiety problem. Persisten anxiety is a real thing, and medication does help. But again, if you're in high school, this is completely normal. \n\nIf all of that seems like absolute crap and it seems like I have no idea what I'm talking about, my last piece of advice is to try and stay busy. It's hard to care about what others think when you are always busy between work, sleep, hobbies, clubs, etc. Try to spend less time sitting on Facebook, Twitter, even reddit, and get out and do something. ", "I've been sitting here for the past hour trying to explain how I feel that I try not to care about what people think of me, but I have no idea how to express this correctly.\nAlthough I have contributed absolutely nothing to your question, I want you to know that I have spent 60 minutes trying to articulate it for you ;-)\n\nAs an apology, please know that I like you no matter what awkward thing you might say.\n\n\n", "By stopping caring, fake it until you make it is the best I can offer. Hold your head up high and move on with a confident smile. \n\nAlso bear in mind they probably feel awkward and kick themselves about something they said three days ago too.", "\"In your 20s, you spend a lot of time being self-conscious about what other people think of you. Then you hit your mid-30s and start to realize they weren't really thinking about you that much\" - Ewan McGregor" ]

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[ "How to solve the temporary leg's paralysis we get after sitting for a long time without falling over? ", "How to solve the temporary leg's paralysis we get after sitting for a long time without falling over? " ]

[ "I know for a fact that it's caused by the obstruction of blood flow so every time I have it I massage my leg. Don't know if it actually makes it go away faster tho, I sure want to know the correct way.\n\nAbout preventing it, if your mind aren't absorbed to something you can actually feel your leg starting to go asleep. Move your leg a bit or stand up a little for a while when you feel the paralysis kicking in and it won't kick in.", "From my own experience, it helps to adjust your legs a bit at a time. In other words, try to straighten them for a few moments before standing up. When you stand up, see if there is something that you can hold on to." ]

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[ "How to get a bad roommate off of the lease to get them out? I moved in with my ex a year ago. Bad idea, we broke up, I pay all the rent. She sleeps on the couch and leaves a mess. She won't leave by me asking so I need to know if I can legally get her out. For information, my father guaranteed the lease, every rent payment has come from my bank account, and she doesn't meet the income require to be in it herself if that helps. Please help! Meeting someone new is impossible when you're stuck like this. \n\n", "How to get a bad roommate off of the lease to get them out? I moved in with my ex a year ago. Bad idea, we broke up, I pay all the rent. She sleeps on the couch and leaves a mess. She won't leave by me asking so I need to know if I can legally get her out. For information, my father guaranteed the lease, every rent payment has come from my bank account, and she doesn't meet the income require to be in it herself if that helps. Please help! Meeting someone new is impossible when you're stuck like this. \n\n", "How to get a bad roommate off of the lease to get them out? I moved in with my ex a year ago. Bad idea, we broke up, I pay all the rent. She sleeps on the couch and leaves a mess. She won't leave by me asking so I need to know if I can legally get her out. For information, my father guaranteed the lease, every rent payment has come from my bank account, and she doesn't meet the income require to be in it herself if that helps. Please help! Meeting someone new is impossible when you're stuck like this. \n\n" ]

[ "Ask your landlord for assistance. Agree to sign a new lease if they can help evict her.\n\nFucking squatters, I've had to do this with three seperate roommates in my life.", "Start throwing her stuff away. Then change bedroom and bathroom locks so she can't get into those rooms. If you buy all the groceries then keep the fridge as vacant as possible. Put the non-perishables in your room. ", "Usually when you say \"Hey, you need to leave within 48 hours or I'm calling the sheriff\" she will leave.\n\n" ]

[ 5, 2, 1 ]

[ "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"", "Sticking to a hobby? I am a guy that likes to do things. I will pick up a new hobby at the drop of a hat. I will then proceed to go whole hog on it: Buying books about it, buying the tools or accessories needed for it, subscribing to the appropriate subreddit, thinking about it all day long.\n\nThe problem is that after a few weeks of this feverish pursuit, I lose interest entirely. Well, not entirely, but I wont touch it for a few months. And then its really scaled back. And I have usually picked up a new hobby in the meantime.\n\nI want to pursue these particular hobbies and maybe make more of them in the future, but I have a hard time keeping the level of intensity. Emphasis on \"would like to make more of this hobby.\"" ]

[ "I do the same thing. And I just thought of this: what if we slow down? Like instead of buying every book, reading every blog, and watching every YouTube video we take it one step at a time. My last obsession was adult coloring books. I bought 4 different books and two different ways to color them. I didn't know where to start. I had too much going on. Part of what I love about picking up a new hobby is learning but maybe doing it all at once burns us out on it. \n\nI think I started rambling but I'm on to something. ", "I personally don't think you can force a hobby, so to speak. When you find the right one, you won't have to force yourself to do something with it, you'll simply want to instead. If you get into something then loose interest, it wasn't really your hobby. Just gotta find one that sticks. \n\nYou'll always lose the initial intense interest. That happens with anything new as it becomes old. Just have to roll with it. If it's the right hobby, you'll keep up with it naturally.\n\nMost people have a similar philosophy with relationships and I think it applies here as well.", "From my own personal experience... (Sorry, it's a rant. )\n\nIf it's something you truly find interesting, make it into a habit/daily routine. \n\nIf it's not part of the daily routine, there's no way you're going to keep up with it (just like the people who work out every day).\n\nI got started in miniature painting with my husband. I couldn't care less about playing the games, but I enjoy building and painting models. If you can, set aside an hour, or even a half hour to work on your hobby a day. Set a timer, even. Even if you're not particularly motivated that day, do it. If you don't make it a routine, it'll be easy to fall into 'well I didn't do it yesterday... I guess it's okay if I skip today too... I'll just make up for it later. ' I did that. It took me months to get back into the hobby, and I was so pissed at myself because my painting skill that I had acquired during the time I spent practicing, was now just as bad as to when I started the first time. So it was starting from square one all over. \n\nKeep yourself in the communities as well. As you mentioned, the subreddits. But you have to do more than lurk. Comment, and ask questions. Most hobbyists are more than happy to share their knowledge with newbies. We were all in the exact same boat at one time or another. Besides, at least with miniature painting, there is gorgeous works out there - new techniques being developed, and how can that be gained if we didn't allow more and more members to chat and share ideas? There's also sometimes contests. Always join in -even if you're not sure you'll win. \n\nI entered a painting contest a several years ago - my first actually. I knew I wouldn't win. Not a snowballs chance in hell. But because of the model I entered, I got to chat with other people, share my ideas, talk about how I could've done better, etc. Best of all, the actual creators of the particular game that the model came from were there. They were ridiculously excited that I actually entered one of their models. Sure, I didn't win. But it was exposure for them since they were small at the time. Now almost six years later, I'm still talking with those guys and they always gift me a model at every convention I go to with them as thanks. You gain friends by sticking your neck out, and that helps keep you in the hobby when you have kindred spirits who can cheer you on even when you don't succeed. ", "Are you engaging the communities that support these hobbies at all? I find it harder to remain engaged in hobbies where I don't have the support and comradery of others. I would start there if you haven't already, the encouragement of fellow peers who share your interests can go a long way keeping you interested!", "1. Set yourself a goal for the hobby\n\nIf you don't drive yourself forward, then the novelty of the hobby will wear off and the excitement with it. \n\n2. Make it your own\n\nDo what makes the hobby interesting to you. If you only follow the beginner books, then you won't feel ownership of your work. Learn the techniques and best practices, but don't be afraid to put your own personality in it from day one.\n\n3. Get engaged with the community\n\nEven if it is as simple as asking dumb questions on forums - getting involved with the community keeps your mind engaged and inspired.\n\nThe reason I know that these work is because these are techniques that video game designers use to get players hooked on their games: giving interesting and targeted challenges, allowing character customization, and fostering communities. If it works for video games, it works for your life. ", "Yeah that's exactly what I always do. Jumping head first into a new hobby every other month and quitting after a while. Recent hobbies of mine consist of:\n\n* Scotch whisky\n* Racing cycle\n* Photography\n* Lockpicking\n* Magic: the gathering\n* Baking if that counts\n* Gong fu cha (traditional chinese tea brewing method)\n* dozens of sports\n* And the latest: Espresso making.\n\nSome I don't practice at all anymore like photography and lockpicking but most of the hobbies I started are still going on in the background, scaled back as you said. For example I enjoy a glass of whisky once a month but I don't keep 20 expensive bottles in my cabinet anymore. I try to exercise 1-2 times a week with my road bike when the weather is good. I still play a casual round of EDH (magic) with my friends back home when I see them every couple of months but I don't invest in new cards. I sometimes bake cakes when I visit family or cupcakes for a get together with friends. With gong fu cha I keep it like /u/Ozevi: I try to do it regularly and as often as possible and take my time to enjoy it. I could certainly live without it but in retrospect it gives me some joy.\n\nI think about this habit of starting and quitting hobbies a lot and I can't see it as positively as /u/rnaa49. I envy people who perfect their hobby like a craft or an instrument and maintain it for years and decades. It becomes a part of who they are and it is something I want for myself. When people ask me if I am a photographer because I have an expensive tripod and camera standing around I am embarassed to answer because I don't really have much experience and photography is not a big part of my life at the moment. I feel like I can't do anything right.\n\nThat being said I still like having my 'mini hobbies' and I wouldn't do without them, at least the ones I didn't quit entirely. Maybe sometime I will find something that I stick to and make it my passion.\n\nTo conclude this with a tip: Start slow when you feel like you are falling into something new. Wait a week before buying anything and ask yourself if you still want to continue the thing after the respite. If you decide to buy into a new hobby, buy just the basics and buy them used if possible. Be wary of your tendency to go all in every time and slow yourself down if you are thinking about the thing all day.\n\nThis time instead of buying the new 600$ machine I went for a used 120$ espresso machine and a used grinder, both from people from a coffee forum. I am going to try to not obsess over it but if I do and lose interest I can sell the items and I will have learned another lesson. I hope I could help you a bit :)", "I work 6 day weeks, often long hours, so spending an hour a day doesn't work out for me as well as most other people here. I alternate between reading, writing code (for open source projects), playing/learning music, learning to cook new dishes and other projects/hobbies that catch my fancy. I focus on one for a month or two, set some targets for that period, practice till I get there, then decide whether I want to continue on the same hobby, or switch to another one.\n\nSometimes, you're just tired, or not in the right state of mind to practice a hobby. Keeping your options open is nice. Also, if you have options, you don't feel bad about keeping something aside, because you know you'll come back to it.\n\nBonus tip: Get used/second hand items (already mentioned) for the early attempts at a project. Or, better, see if some one around you has the equipment lying around, being not/under used. Your friends will gladly lend it to you for a week or month, and you'll know if you're really interested in the hobby that you can put your money down.", "I try to combine hobbies, which makes them into a more solid foundation.\n\nFor example, I took up knotting (I'm into BDSM, so that was a given). However, as that interest waned, I started making whips and other BDSM implements, and knotting allowed me to do some really nice whips and handles. That work got me into woodworking, which led to building of play furniture. Along the way, I needed more skill in metal working, so I picked that up. All that combines, and allows me to build some really nice stuff, and keeps my interest up. The combined knowledge makes me a more competent builder and more capable of taking on more varied and more advanced projects.\n\nThe next hobby in this will probably be CAD, as I need to make furniture which folds neatly into \"flat packages\" for storage.", "I never travel into this subreddit. The night I finally decide to skim the headlines I spot this post that speaks directly to me.\n\nI have this same problem and it's becoming financial. Film cameras, car parts, surfboards, coffee, etc. I have way too much of everything for someone who works part time. But the problem is everything is interesting. The thrill of diving head first is invigorating. And it's even worse if I'm good at it from the get go. But I never stay in it to get REALLY good at it.", "I have countless hobbies but only a couple are my main hobbies. The rest are just little fun things to do when I have the urge. I used to make jewelry and got sick of it and sold it all. I regret it because now I really have the urge to make a bracelet! I also sold all my stamping supplies which was a mistake...I could have used the supplies for wedding favors I'm making my cousin. So now I keep everything but really limit my spending for any hobby that doesn't make me enough to pay for supplies. Since I just moved I am really seeing the enormity of my past spending...I could open a store with all my hobby stuff!!\n\nSo I say stick with one or two things that make you money and anything else just do on a limited budget.", "I do the same with many hobbies. The ones that have stuck are ones that fail if I quit. For example I took up gardening, big plot in back and flower/rose bushes in the front of the house. If I don't keep engaging in the hobby they die (which makes me feel terrible) or they wilt and make my house look terrible. I really enjoy gardening as a hobby but having the forced necessity of keeping them alive has been helping me with continuity. Another is photography - I end up creating photo books and give those out as gifts. A lot cheaper and a sentimental gift. ", "Contrary to what others are saying, anything in life, including hobbies, can become habits. The reason we have habits is so that our brains can do less work when we see a certain cue because the behavior is more or less automatic, and we carry out the routine with out thinking about it too much. We do this for whatever the reward of the activity is. They key to creating habits is consistency. If you do it fervently all at once with no routine, the habit will not stick. Try to create a cue or a signal that gets you to read. For example, decide that you are going to read every day at 8pm, and stick to it, or create a journal listing the times you plan to read, and cross off the times you do it successfully. Do this every day, and it will become a habit. ", "Well, I don't know if this will help, but I picked a hobby that I can make money with. I sold my product, and the influx of money helped to keep the hobby going. I priced it so that I get SOME profit, so having extra money was nice for me, and inspires me to keep doing it. I've been at it for over 3 years now, and plan to stick with this hobby for the rest of my life (I make shave brushes). Over time I've learned more of what works and what does not, and have experimented quite a bit with almost every aspect of the hobby. It's quite interesting! \n\nSo, that's my advice. Sell it. Because you'll want that income to keep coming in, you will improve over time. Extra added bonus if it's a hobby you really enjoy. ", "I think the key is to find something you can do with it that is both challenging and attainable, and perhaps monetarily creative (it'll make you money). ", "I don't see anything wrong with this. I do it myself. It's who we are -- far more interesting and knowledgeable than people who simply react passively to life. I used to worry that I had ADD, but not anymore. If anything, my problem is that I won't let myself get bored, and one needs downtime occasionally. My \"binges\" lasted from weeks to years, with lots of overlap, and were both pleasurable and rewarding. Heck, even my 40-year profession grew from such a binge. \n \nLook at it this way: you're sampling life to discover your bliss, and you're learning much along the way. It's also my experience that past hobbies will cycle back into your life when their time is right." ]

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[ " About 2 weeks ago I listened to this song and I just can't get it out of my head and it's literally driving me crazy,if you know any techniques please let me know.", " About 2 weeks ago I listened to this song and I just can't get it out of my head and it's literally driving me crazy,if you know any techniques please let me know.", " About 2 weeks ago I listened to this song and I just can't get it out of my head and it's literally driving me crazy,if you know any techniques please let me know.", " About 2 weeks ago I listened to this song and I just can't get it out of my head and it's literally driving me crazy,if you know any techniques please let me know.", " About 2 weeks ago I listened to this song and I just can't get it out of my head and it's literally driving me crazy,if you know any techniques please let me know.", " About 2 weeks ago I listened to this song and I just can't get it out of my head and it's literally driving me crazy,if you know any techniques please let me know.", " About 2 weeks ago I listened to this song and I just can't get it out of my head and it's literally driving me crazy,if you know any techniques please let me know." ]

[ "I listen to the song all the way through because usually by brain is messing it up anyway and it doesn't feel complete. Listening to it all the way through, end to end, gives me that sense of completeness. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOr I just listen to \"Sound of Silence\" by Disturbed because that song is epic and leaves me speechless at the end.", "Sing the last verse and chorus of the song, or hum the ending riff/solo a couple times. When your brain gets the closure from the song, it’ll move on.", "A friend taught me this trick a while back. \nKeep repeating Costanza. It's almost impossible to match it to any tune and it works almost instantly. Co-stan-za nice and slow", "finish the lyrics by reading them. our brains likes stuff finished and the reason its stuck is because its trying to finish the lyrics", "I made a playlist of all the songs that get stuck in my head. Whenever it pops up again, I tell the song “ah yes, thank you for your input, but you’re already on the list” and for some reason THAT WORKS.", "I call those peanut butter songs, only cure I’ve found is to sing the meow mix cat food theme. For some reason that never sticks.", "Here's the story, of a lovely lady who was bringing up three very lovely girls, all of them had hair of gold, like their mother, the youngest one in curls." ]

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[ "How to smooth out creases on a poster. I would like to hang three rolling stone magazine posters framed in my household, but because they were folded within a magazine, there are very visible creases. I believe that ironing would ruin the bare poster, so I'm looking for a way to erase the fold lines.", "How to smooth out creases on a poster. I would like to hang three rolling stone magazine posters framed in my household, but because they were folded within a magazine, there are very visible creases. I believe that ironing would ruin the bare poster, so I'm looking for a way to erase the fold lines.", "How to smooth out creases on a poster. I would like to hang three rolling stone magazine posters framed in my household, but because they were folded within a magazine, there are very visible creases. I believe that ironing would ruin the bare poster, so I'm looking for a way to erase the fold lines." ]

[ "There is no way to remove creases from it. You can certainly flatten it out, but the crease is there to stay. \n\n\nSource: I worked in the printing industry for over 10 years and know way more than anyone should about paper.", "Having it dry-mounted on foam-core will make it nice and flat and stable, but there's no way that you're going to be remove the visible crease lines entirely.\n\n(you can get this done at any framing store).", "I've ironed paper to remove the creases. I've never ironed a poster, so please test on an inconspicuous spot or buy a cheap test poster you won't mind hurting. Make sure your iron is dry and there's no steam, and iron it from the back. It'll never be perfect, but pressing can help." ]

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[ "how to correct people without sounding condescending As a musician with a great passion for detail - pronunciation, history, theory, performance practice, accurate terminology - I sometimes come off as abrasive or condescending when I correct other people. I also love teaching, so I get very excited to share new information with people. But when this actually happens, I come across as pretentious and condescending, as if I'm treating my peers as children. Is there a way I can still correct mistakes without making myself sound like a self-centered flawless prick? ", "how to correct people without sounding condescending As a musician with a great passion for detail - pronunciation, history, theory, performance practice, accurate terminology - I sometimes come off as abrasive or condescending when I correct other people. I also love teaching, so I get very excited to share new information with people. But when this actually happens, I come across as pretentious and condescending, as if I'm treating my peers as children. Is there a way I can still correct mistakes without making myself sound like a self-centered flawless prick? ", "how to correct people without sounding condescending As a musician with a great passion for detail - pronunciation, history, theory, performance practice, accurate terminology - I sometimes come off as abrasive or condescending when I correct other people. I also love teaching, so I get very excited to share new information with people. But when this actually happens, I come across as pretentious and condescending, as if I'm treating my peers as children. Is there a way I can still correct mistakes without making myself sound like a self-centered flawless prick? ", "how to correct people without sounding condescending As a musician with a great passion for detail - pronunciation, history, theory, performance practice, accurate terminology - I sometimes come off as abrasive or condescending when I correct other people. I also love teaching, so I get very excited to share new information with people. But when this actually happens, I come across as pretentious and condescending, as if I'm treating my peers as children. Is there a way I can still correct mistakes without making myself sound like a self-centered flawless prick? ", "how to correct people without sounding condescending As a musician with a great passion for detail - pronunciation, history, theory, performance practice, accurate terminology - I sometimes come off as abrasive or condescending when I correct other people. I also love teaching, so I get very excited to share new information with people. But when this actually happens, I come across as pretentious and condescending, as if I'm treating my peers as children. Is there a way I can still correct mistakes without making myself sound like a self-centered flawless prick? " ]

[ "[try this](http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/etiquette-manners/how-to-politely-correct-someone)", "Some people say I'm condescending. That means I talk down to people. Not in the sense that I'm taller and they're shorter, but in the metaphorical sense. A metaphor is a figure of speech in which a word or phrase is applied to an object or action to which it is not literally applicable.", "I ask permission when it's something that I'm a subject matter expert in.\n\n\"I do that for a living. Can I correct you on that?\". \n\nOr, if they're not ENTIRELY wrong, \"Can I add a little bit to that?\" or \"...offer a different perspective?\". \n\nThen instead of coming off as arrogant, you come off as instructional and conversational (Unless the person you're talking to is trying to be offended, of course. No helping that.), and that's a whole lot more positive.\n\n**NOTE:** This does NOT apply when opinions are involved. If the other person says \"Beethoven's symphonies are the perfect expression of music evolving through an incredible artist's career\", and you disagree entirely, either shut the hell up or be forthright with your own counter-opinion. \"Well, I like to use Mozart and his symphonic work as a good example of that because he started writing them at age 8\" or some such.\n\nBonus TIL: the bit about Mozart writing a symphony when 8 years old is true. :)", "If you would start the correction with \"Well, actually…\" just don't say it. And don't open with a \"you should\".\n\nIf it's language related, and you understood what was meant, don't correct it. Native speakers know what they're about and non-native speakers have enough on their plate. If you didn't understand what they meant, you'd be asking for clarification anyways.\n\nIf someone has repeated used the wrong term for something, a simple \"Do you mean X?\" should suffice to point out the error if they know better or let them ask for clarification if they don't.\n\nIf it's practice related, let them make some mistakes: that's how people learn. If they make the same one repeatedly before you, ask if you can make a suggestion.\n\nOtherwise if the correction can't be integrated into the flow of the conversation, it's not worth it.", "Don't correct people. You always sound like a douche, especially for things like pronunciation and innocuous things. Just let it slide. " ]

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[ "How to stop the kettle boiling at the perfect time Pretty self-explanatory, is there any way to know when exactly I should stop the kettle boiling so that the water is hot, but not so hot that I have to wait for it to cool down?\n\nTIA", "How to stop the kettle boiling at the perfect time Pretty self-explanatory, is there any way to know when exactly I should stop the kettle boiling so that the water is hot, but not so hot that I have to wait for it to cool down?\n\nTIA", "How to stop the kettle boiling at the perfect time Pretty self-explanatory, is there any way to know when exactly I should stop the kettle boiling so that the water is hot, but not so hot that I have to wait for it to cool down?\n\nTIA", "How to stop the kettle boiling at the perfect time Pretty self-explanatory, is there any way to know when exactly I should stop the kettle boiling so that the water is hot, but not so hot that I have to wait for it to cool down?\n\nTIA" ]

[ "Kettles are designed to turn themselves off when they boil. Put a splash of cold water into your cup?", "Buy an electric kettle that boils at different temperatures. Mine has buttons for 80% up to 100%. Breville is a good brand if you have it where you are.", "Electric kettles are fantastic for boiling water and have automatic switch off so you don't have to monitor the stove. You can get basic ones at Walmart for $20.", "Depends on the kettle but somewhere after hissing and before bubbling. Better yet: do some practice runs till you find out where exactly you like it." ]

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[ "How to support someone who feels lonely, useless, and has extremely low self-esteem Though I understand entirely how my friend feels, I know someone who basically hates everything about their self and feels they will always be alone. They feel ugly, unlikeable, believe their anxiety and depression will be incurable, and are not in a good situation to go out and meet people due to their living situation, work situation, and their social anxiety in general. \n\nI used to have similar problems but I am finding that this stubborn depression is not budging in them. They feel incomplete, boring, worthless. It is especially sad because I am trying my best to tell them how much they mean to me and the few people around who love them at work and outside of it, and I am trying to tell them that their situation will change (they are a few years younger than I) but it's really terrible.\n\nCounseling is probably out of the question because their family struggles with money. My friend isn't in college because they can't find a school and can't afford it so that is out of the question too. Even suggesting counseling may not go well.\n\nI want to encourage growth in them and knowing that this darkness is not permanent but I'm struggling to relate my own experience with it and with growth as well to give them the hope and motivation to try to make change. ", "How to support someone who feels lonely, useless, and has extremely low self-esteem Though I understand entirely how my friend feels, I know someone who basically hates everything about their self and feels they will always be alone. They feel ugly, unlikeable, believe their anxiety and depression will be incurable, and are not in a good situation to go out and meet people due to their living situation, work situation, and their social anxiety in general. \n\nI used to have similar problems but I am finding that this stubborn depression is not budging in them. They feel incomplete, boring, worthless. It is especially sad because I am trying my best to tell them how much they mean to me and the few people around who love them at work and outside of it, and I am trying to tell them that their situation will change (they are a few years younger than I) but it's really terrible.\n\nCounseling is probably out of the question because their family struggles with money. My friend isn't in college because they can't find a school and can't afford it so that is out of the question too. Even suggesting counseling may not go well.\n\nI want to encourage growth in them and knowing that this darkness is not permanent but I'm struggling to relate my own experience with it and with growth as well to give them the hope and motivation to try to make change. ", "How to support someone who feels lonely, useless, and has extremely low self-esteem Though I understand entirely how my friend feels, I know someone who basically hates everything about their self and feels they will always be alone. They feel ugly, unlikeable, believe their anxiety and depression will be incurable, and are not in a good situation to go out and meet people due to their living situation, work situation, and their social anxiety in general. \n\nI used to have similar problems but I am finding that this stubborn depression is not budging in them. They feel incomplete, boring, worthless. It is especially sad because I am trying my best to tell them how much they mean to me and the few people around who love them at work and outside of it, and I am trying to tell them that their situation will change (they are a few years younger than I) but it's really terrible.\n\nCounseling is probably out of the question because their family struggles with money. My friend isn't in college because they can't find a school and can't afford it so that is out of the question too. Even suggesting counseling may not go well.\n\nI want to encourage growth in them and knowing that this darkness is not permanent but I'm struggling to relate my own experience with it and with growth as well to give them the hope and motivation to try to make change. ", "How to support someone who feels lonely, useless, and has extremely low self-esteem Though I understand entirely how my friend feels, I know someone who basically hates everything about their self and feels they will always be alone. They feel ugly, unlikeable, believe their anxiety and depression will be incurable, and are not in a good situation to go out and meet people due to their living situation, work situation, and their social anxiety in general. \n\nI used to have similar problems but I am finding that this stubborn depression is not budging in them. They feel incomplete, boring, worthless. It is especially sad because I am trying my best to tell them how much they mean to me and the few people around who love them at work and outside of it, and I am trying to tell them that their situation will change (they are a few years younger than I) but it's really terrible.\n\nCounseling is probably out of the question because their family struggles with money. My friend isn't in college because they can't find a school and can't afford it so that is out of the question too. Even suggesting counseling may not go well.\n\nI want to encourage growth in them and knowing that this darkness is not permanent but I'm struggling to relate my own experience with it and with growth as well to give them the hope and motivation to try to make change. ", "How to support someone who feels lonely, useless, and has extremely low self-esteem Though I understand entirely how my friend feels, I know someone who basically hates everything about their self and feels they will always be alone. They feel ugly, unlikeable, believe their anxiety and depression will be incurable, and are not in a good situation to go out and meet people due to their living situation, work situation, and their social anxiety in general. \n\nI used to have similar problems but I am finding that this stubborn depression is not budging in them. They feel incomplete, boring, worthless. It is especially sad because I am trying my best to tell them how much they mean to me and the few people around who love them at work and outside of it, and I am trying to tell them that their situation will change (they are a few years younger than I) but it's really terrible.\n\nCounseling is probably out of the question because their family struggles with money. My friend isn't in college because they can't find a school and can't afford it so that is out of the question too. Even suggesting counseling may not go well.\n\nI want to encourage growth in them and knowing that this darkness is not permanent but I'm struggling to relate my own experience with it and with growth as well to give them the hope and motivation to try to make change. " ]

[ "I suffer from similar feelings a lot, so this advice comes directly from personal experience; what people do for me and what I do for myself.\n\n1. First, make sure your friend doesn't want to feel this way. Plenty of people out there wallow in misery for the sake of being edgy or getting attention. It may be harsh, but sometimes you have to tell people to get over themselves and stop passive aggressively begging for sympathy.\n\n2. Get help from friends and family. Make other people who care about this friend aware of the issue. Build this support system so when you friend is feeling down, they have multiple people they can go to. A word of warning, make sure these people are actually interested in listening and helping, and not pushing their own agenda on your friend. Many people are ignorant of how depression and anxiety work and will often give cliche or bad advice.\n\n3. Find out what activities your friend enjoys or used to enjoy and do them together. My friends do this with me a lot, even if they aren't all that into whatever it is. They will sit and play Minecraft with me on my Xbox or let me show them something I know or even just engage in discussion and debate. You have to be authentic when doing this though. Be open to the experience and try to enjoy it. This will send the message that your friend does have interesting things to share with others.\n\n4. School and counseling are not impossible, even if finances become a problem. Help your friend find any grants or scholarships that may be open to them. Student loans suck, but can be worth it as long as enough effort is put into school and some college campuses offer counseling for free. Also, check for any free online counseling and college courses.\n\nHere's a great resource for free and afforadble courses from Harvard: https://www.extension.harvard.edu/open-learning-initiative\n\nTo summarize, the important things are to make sure your friend wants to get better first, build a support structure second, and then focus on individual issues last. Hope this helps and good luck.", "Are you good at anything? Like an instrument, drawing, painting, etc. Is your friend? Find something they can excel in to boost their own confidence. Telling someone they arent worthless is good and all, but they need to see it in themselves and they never will if they just sit at home in self pity. My neighbor has a son that is 26 and has social anxiety so bad he wont even use a headset when he plays games with me.", "Great advice. Here in Australia many soldiers take up bike riding cause they have ptsd and the exercise has helped a ton. One of the worst things for depression is being unhealthy and staying at familiar locations. They need to get out and do soomething. Anything. GL.", "Take him/her with you to some activities, like barbecuing or slacklining or other stuff. It should be in a public environment. Casually start interacting with strangers, invite them to grill with you, talk about stuff, have fun.\nMaybe he/she will realise, that strangers like them too (so it's not out of pity or manners). He need to get out of his shell.\nTrust me, I've been there too.\nUnless it's a severe depression, you can work it out :-)\n\nSorry for my bad english btw.", "Probably you both should take some sporting activities which will increase the brain's serotonin levels. Other than that I suggest you to spare some money for her/him, enroll in gym together that offers discounts for couples. Stick to the above activities for at least two or three months. Surely it will bring change. I experienced it. Hope it works for your friend too." ]

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[ "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? ", "How do I better convey my thoughts out loud without stuttering? First of all, I'm a law school student. While I consider myself to be very good at writing exam responses, drafting legal documents, etc., I have a hard time conveying all of this out loud. As a future attorney, I'll have to be able to talk to clients and judges. \n\nThe thing is, I find myself to be stuttering when I want to speak. Sometimes I'm at a lost for words (like thinking to myself: \"what's the best word to use here\") mid-sentence. Other times I find myself saying a sentence, and changing it mid-way because I had another thought. I even find myself speaking incredibly fast (which I suspect is just nervousness). \n\nI think part of it is because going to law school requires more professional conveyance of terms and sentences. Whether it is to sound more intelligent or succinct, I'm just not used to it. \n\nIs this nervousness? How do I learn to think before I speak? How do I develop stronger vocabulary? How do I better convey my words in social settings as well as in professional settings? " ]

[ "I have a very similar problem that im trying to work on also. At least for me 90% of the time it is because I'm speaking too fast. My mind apparently thinks that speaking fast conveys a sense of confidence. Instead, it just makes me less articulate and less understood since I start a second topic before finishing the first one. So what I'm trying now is to slow my speech down. Even with friends I'm trying to deliberately speak slower and with more conviction. It is gradual, since I often forget to practice but when I remember to, it makes a world of difference. Don't know if this will certainly work, but hope it helps. ", "What helped me is to consciously add more intentional pauses that help the flow of what you are saying but also give you a chance to figure out what you will say next. \n\nWhat made me think of it is watching Obama speak, he pauses a lot and is a very good orator. ", "Lawyer here. First, listen. Hear what they are saying as they say it and internalize it. Don't use their time speaking as time for you to think of a reply. Digest it. Pause. Think of a response, then say it. \n \nSecond, if you have the sentence in your head but are stuttering when saying it, concentrate on breathing out as you talk. You can practice this by yourself and over exaggerate the breath as you talk. Speech therapy for stuttering focuses on this for some people. \n \nLastly, think confidently. How you feel about yourself comes out in the tonality of your speech. It's not always what you say, but how you say it. I once beat a very strong objection by simply replying in a very confident tone, \"Judge, c'mon.\" i probably caught the judge in a insecure moment and - for a second - must have been more worried about looking stupid than doing justice. Hey, they're human, too. ", "Practice reading books outloud. By yourself or to someone if you want to be nice. Especially try to get into character.", "Does your school have any type of speech or public speaking class? If not what about a local community college? If not how about local community theater. If you go to church volunteer to do readings or announcements. Go to karaoke night at the local bar. Join a social club of some sort.", "1. Practice speaking, even in daily conversation (as with cashiers, your co-workers, etc.). You'll have to do a lot of small talk anyway, so you'll get to know how to manage the nuances of casual conversation and incorporate the same techniques and ideas into your legal presentations. This helps with flow and confidence because it's repetitive and often impromptu (you have to think about what to say in response to your partner's topic of conversation), so this is a good way to get in practice (while also making you look friendly to others).\n2. Pause instead of stammering uh/um/er. Most people actually have a hard time connecting thoughts logically (which I imagine is much more difficult for you in your position because you have to present them quickly and often on the spot while using the correct legalese), so take your time with what you have to say. People can be more interested in what you have to say anyway if you appear to be more contemplative than unsure of yourself, which is apparent by any ums/ers/uhs.\n3. Don't think too much about the vocabulary. Present what you can in the most direct way possible. An extensive vocabulary may help you make a more eloquent/persuasive argument to a jury, but knowing which legal terms to use and presenting them in a clear, no-nonsense way is far better for the layman and especially judges. I'm sure your professors or visiting judges will call people out if they're trying to appear more articulate than they actually are without following a logical structure in their argument. Reading (which you will do a lot of), often addresses this problem anyway.\n\nAnother thing I'd suggest is to join a speech club/mock trial club. This will boost your confidence and speaking ability greatly by forcing structure to your speech.", "Study monologue presentation! There's a lot of craft involved in presenting something even that's memorized, lots of steps involved that rely on pacing, inflection, volume, all that, in order to evoke a specific reaction from the audience. You don't NEED to do it in front of anyone, because you'll still gain a lot from the study, but it would definitely help to present in front of friends, maybe even get feedback on your mapping decisions. All of the skills used to map a monologue can be carried into day to day speech, and utilized to make your speech patterns more steady and impacting.", "Slow down... take a breath. Compose yourself.\n\nThen speak. Speak with diction, projection, confidence.\n\nNervousness is totally normal. Even the most seasoned public speaker has feelings about speaking. Is it nervousness, or excitement? Its just perspective.\n\nBe prepared, know your material, you'll do great.", "Sing in front of audiences. You will never feel nervous in any other situation.\n\nAlso, be in your own frame of reality. Don't accommodate to others when you speak; be a leader.", "I try really hard to pronounce and annunciate all of my words clearly. I'll take extra time and think before I speak to make sure my mouth lines up with my brain, so to speak.", "Do not speak unless you have something important to say. \n\nA wise man knows not only what to say, but when. " ]

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[ "Flying to Paris I live not far from Manchester, UK, and given the recent events both here and Paris, how can I enjoy my birthday weekend over there when I fly out tomorrow?\n\nI know we're supposed to put on a brave face and not let terrorism win, but it's called terrorism for a reason.. that shit is straight up terrifying. Does anyone have any tips for pushing things like this to the back of one's mind and make the most of it?\n\nMy partner is more concerned about the flight and will feel better once we're there, I'm more the opposite, so I guess we can help each other out a little in that respect.\n\nAny suggestions are welcome, but please be nice :)", "Flying to Paris I live not far from Manchester, UK, and given the recent events both here and Paris, how can I enjoy my birthday weekend over there when I fly out tomorrow?\n\nI know we're supposed to put on a brave face and not let terrorism win, but it's called terrorism for a reason.. that shit is straight up terrifying. Does anyone have any tips for pushing things like this to the back of one's mind and make the most of it?\n\nMy partner is more concerned about the flight and will feel better once we're there, I'm more the opposite, so I guess we can help each other out a little in that respect.\n\nAny suggestions are welcome, but please be nice :)", "Flying to Paris I live not far from Manchester, UK, and given the recent events both here and Paris, how can I enjoy my birthday weekend over there when I fly out tomorrow?\n\nI know we're supposed to put on a brave face and not let terrorism win, but it's called terrorism for a reason.. that shit is straight up terrifying. Does anyone have any tips for pushing things like this to the back of one's mind and make the most of it?\n\nMy partner is more concerned about the flight and will feel better once we're there, I'm more the opposite, so I guess we can help each other out a little in that respect.\n\nAny suggestions are welcome, but please be nice :)" ]

[ "I have no pro tips for you, but happy birthday! \n\n", "If you rank the dangers, #1 is the taxi ride to the airport. If you make it that far, the rest will be fine.", "You have more chances of dying in your plane that dying to a terrorist attack to be honest. My best tip for avoiding to die in case of REALLY REALLY REALLY bad luck is either putting on multiple turbans or getting really drunk on wine. Frenchman approval." ]

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[ "How to Overcome Musical Stage Fright I have been a performer all my life, and speaking or acting in front of an audience of any size has never bothered me. However, when playing an instrument or singing, no matter how prepared I am, my heartbeat quickens, my palms get sweaty, my voice gets high-pitched and falters, and I get a huge adrenaline rush. \n\nAnyone know how to get rid of these symptoms? I'd rather be calm on stage.", "How to Overcome Musical Stage Fright I have been a performer all my life, and speaking or acting in front of an audience of any size has never bothered me. However, when playing an instrument or singing, no matter how prepared I am, my heartbeat quickens, my palms get sweaty, my voice gets high-pitched and falters, and I get a huge adrenaline rush. \n\nAnyone know how to get rid of these symptoms? I'd rather be calm on stage.", "How to Overcome Musical Stage Fright I have been a performer all my life, and speaking or acting in front of an audience of any size has never bothered me. However, when playing an instrument or singing, no matter how prepared I am, my heartbeat quickens, my palms get sweaty, my voice gets high-pitched and falters, and I get a huge adrenaline rush. \n\nAnyone know how to get rid of these symptoms? I'd rather be calm on stage.", "How to Overcome Musical Stage Fright I have been a performer all my life, and speaking or acting in front of an audience of any size has never bothered me. However, when playing an instrument or singing, no matter how prepared I am, my heartbeat quickens, my palms get sweaty, my voice gets high-pitched and falters, and I get a huge adrenaline rush. \n\nAnyone know how to get rid of these symptoms? I'd rather be calm on stage.", "How to Overcome Musical Stage Fright I have been a performer all my life, and speaking or acting in front of an audience of any size has never bothered me. However, when playing an instrument or singing, no matter how prepared I am, my heartbeat quickens, my palms get sweaty, my voice gets high-pitched and falters, and I get a huge adrenaline rush. \n\nAnyone know how to get rid of these symptoms? I'd rather be calm on stage.", "How to Overcome Musical Stage Fright I have been a performer all my life, and speaking or acting in front of an audience of any size has never bothered me. However, when playing an instrument or singing, no matter how prepared I am, my heartbeat quickens, my palms get sweaty, my voice gets high-pitched and falters, and I get a huge adrenaline rush. \n\nAnyone know how to get rid of these symptoms? I'd rather be calm on stage." ]

[ "You have two options:\n\nA) try deep breathing before going on stage.\n\nB) do what I did, and become a stage manager instead. ", "What you are describing is VERY common and can actually be overcome relatively easily.\n\nRead this 'Inner Game of Music' by Barry Green\n\nRead it a few times and implement what he suggests - this will change your life if you let it\n\ngood luck!\n", "When I perform I focus on a point and stare in that direction. Focusing my gaze usually allows me to relax and concentrate on the music that I'm creating. Once I feel like I'm in the zone then I'll look to my audience and smile (not if it's a sad song of course). This usually helps alleviate any tension that occurs mid performance. In the end it takes practice to find out what works for you. Just remember to have fun :)", "Memorize and practice your musical numbers.\n\nOnce you get off book and perform from memory \n\nyour stage instinct will kick in \n\nand you will kill 'em.\n\nBreak a leg.\n", "Make it your number 1 priority to have fun and enjoy yourself. When I move around and let loose a little I don't think about people's opinions so much, because I'm immersing myself and zoning them out. Pretend you're at band practice, think about the music not the people. If you're performing original material, take solace in knowing they will have no idea when you mess up.", "Coming from someone who played in band in middle/high school in front of hundreds to thousands, and in several bands after that -- I still get that rush every time I step out on a stage. I haven't done it in a few years (at least not in front of more than a few people at a coffee shop or bar open mic), but over time you get comfortable with it. The easiest thing I do is lose myself in the music.\n\nThat sounds cliche as all hell, but the more I focus on just playing my instrument and the music, the less I worry about the crowd. Before you know it you'll catch people clapping, tapping their feet, singing along (if it's a song they know) and otherwise enjoying themselves, and it will feed into you and you'll loosen up." ]

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[ "How to stay focused on goals? I know this is predominantly willpower, but I would love to see if anyone here has some tips on maintaining motivation and focus with their goals? it can apply to school, work or the gym.", "How to stay focused on goals? I know this is predominantly willpower, but I would love to see if anyone here has some tips on maintaining motivation and focus with their goals? it can apply to school, work or the gym.", "How to stay focused on goals? I know this is predominantly willpower, but I would love to see if anyone here has some tips on maintaining motivation and focus with their goals? it can apply to school, work or the gym.", "How to stay focused on goals? I know this is predominantly willpower, but I would love to see if anyone here has some tips on maintaining motivation and focus with their goals? it can apply to school, work or the gym." ]

[ "/r/getmotivated is always a great place for further discussion on these things. But basically:\n\nSet smaller goals and benchmarks that will lead up to a bigger goal. Usually these things write themselves. You want to graduate college? Obviously the first goal would be to find a college, then apply and be accepted. So those would be the first 2 small goals. Then those goals get broken down into smaller tasks- research majors, meet with admissions and tour the campus, then fill out the application, have transcripts delivered, do a fafsa for loans, etc. Congrats- you have 2 small goals out of the way that will lead to your giant goal. \n\nOr for weight loss- the idea of losing 50 lbs is harrowing. 10 lbs is much easier to manage- most ppl can lose 5 lbs just by drinking more water. So, what are smaller goals? Let's say 10 lbs in 2 months. That's a safe number, it's a little more than 1 lb a week; which is a healty rate of loss. So how can you lose those 10 lbs? You can try setting a goal to follow a whole30 diet for the first month, with a small goal to work out 3x a week for 20 minutes. Easy. Then, in the second month, you start planning month 3 and 4. You adapt and realize that you don't get enough calories (which is important for the metabolism), so you add a goal of eating 4 meals a day. By now, the other 2 goals are pretty habitual. Don't change them just yet, otherwise you're spreading your willpower too thin. \n\nOverall, while you may map out each mini goal along the way, you only really want to *work* on mabye 2 at a time and just keep the others out of mind until your current goals are complete. If you try too much at once, it gets frustrating and stressful and you just quit. You can't calculate how many steps it takes to walk a mile, but you know if you keep doing one after another, you'll eventually get there. ", "write them down and visualize success,\n\nthe more of a picture that your brain has, the easier it is for you to want to succeed.", "Make lists. You can't know what you've accomplished and what you have left to accomplish unless you clearly spell out what it is you want to do. Lists prioritize what needs to get done and keep you on track.", "Make a list of your goals and read them everyday before you go to bed and right when you wake up. Try to think about what you've done each day to bring you closer/further from those goals. Also, change your passwords that are used most to words/phrases that reflect your goals." ]

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[ "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?", "How to de-escalate a fight as a bystander without getting drawn in. Just watched the Chelsea vs. Man City game earlier today where a fight broke out at the end. I feel like anytime I see a large group fight it starts out with one or two people and then other people come in to try and pull them apart but only end up making it worse and getting drawn into the fight. Are there any good LPTs out there for de-escalating a fight before it gets to the group stage?" ]

[ "Don't. If somebody's in a fight, they're probably in fight-or-flight mode and might not be thinking clearly enough to tell the difference between somebody trying to stop the fight and somebody trying to join in. Or other bystanders might think that's what you're doing and step up.\n\nUnless it's a very close friend or family member, when you see someone getting into a fight, you should go where there is no fight rather than trying to stop the one in front of you.", "Something I learned recently in a bystander training workshop was to distract. There are times when you see something going on and have a gut feeling that you need to get involved but may not always want to be direct about confronting the situation. By attempting to distract the individual being rude or something you may be able to ease the situation without getting too heavily involved.", "Start throwing food at them. It will be irritating enough to distract them. Then you should probably leave", "In the case of large sportsing events, you may be out of luck on interventions -- the noise, dissolution of responsibility, and supposition of anonymity coming from the large crowd are really going to work against you here. \n\nFor less overcrowded areas like a pub or street:\n\nUse names if possible, it helps pull people out of the moment, and into their larger lives.\n\nGet close and and scream \"OMG WHATS THAT!?\" while looking over their heads\n\nAssign strangers, or better still friends to help you: \"**YOU** (pointing at someone) Grab the (_______) one!\"\n\nIn the worst case scenario of you personally trying to break it up: Sweep the leg, and don't get between them. People don't fight and stand up well at the same time. Just keep knocking them down and stay out of the middle.\n\nBasically you just need to stop it for a few seconds to let them stop reacting and start thinking, from there, it'll calm down quickly.\n\n", "Derren Brown in \"Tricks of the Mind\" writes about de-escalating potential confrontations (but not as a bystander) by distracting the fight-picker with a completely random comment, which throws a spanner into their automatic fight routine. Something such as \"The walls on the <such and such> garden are nearly eight feet high!\"", "Not really. It's certainly possible in some cases (others, maybe not), but it depends a lot on the specifics of the situation.\n\nNonverbal communication is a key, though, that will improve your chances. A confident, assertive but not aggressive posture and a calm clear voice are helpful tools to learn.", "Don't try to change their mind, argue the opposite of their point or get them to see your side of things. It will only annoy them more. It's not about being right or winning it's about not getting your face punched ", "Direct, distract, and delegate.\n\nSay you're at a bar and words start being exchanged...\n\nDirect - Leave him alone or I'm getting the bouncer.\n\nDistract - Hey man (insert something distracting - bartender is asking about your tab, buddy sent a text saying let's meet for drinks somewhere else, hey my gf called we gotta leave).\n\nDelegate - hey dude your friend is getting a little out of hand with that guy over there, can you go see what's up he seems drunk.", "It has to be timed right but when you can yell \"STOP\" from the top of your lungs (which most people can't, screaming is not easy) the people involved will freeze for 1-2 seconds. \nDepending on how much authority you can project on them you go from there. \nAnything from \"If you continue I will fuck you both up\" to \"The cops are here! RUN!\" could work. Obviously it's very different in each situation, I think in a big crowd or stadium your chances are pretty small. \nBar fights and such can be prevented (and sometimes stopped) by a loud yell. ", "If anything is heated, cooking it further won't help, be ice cold and plan before going in.\n\nOnce i saw a traffic incident (no damages, guy A was clearly wrong, guy B was clearly angry and both got out of car with B wanting a fight because it slowed him down). I memorized B's plate number and came to him straight and coldly said. Mr <insert plate number here> i saw what happened, i realise A was blocking the traffic but both of you fighting out of your cars is only stoping the traffic further and escalating the situation, please drive away or we will need to wait while i call the police.\n\nWorked just fine because 1) i spoke out cold without an agressive tone so i didn't give him a reason to include me in the anger, 2) by calling him by his plate number i made him feel accountable for what could happen, 3) by stating i saw what happened and that the other guy made the error first i bypassed the whole \"he started it crap\" going straight to the point of \"now you're causing another issue of your own\".\n\nHe calmed down instantly, didn't speak a word, drove away. Would probably have ended violently if i just jumped in without thinking it out first, so my tip is see why they're angry, see if you can find a way to reason and/or pressure them to stop and leave (not necessarily to stop the anger, it's fine if they leave angry, they'll cool later), and if not DO NOT GO IN you'll make it worse.\n\nAlso do not hesitate to call the police NOW if you think it could escalate, so they can get there before it gets too bad" ]

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[ "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. ", "Spider proofing my home. I'm moving into a new home with a basement after 5 years in a 3rd story apartment. Apartment never had an issue with spiders. \n\nMy girlfriend has a crippling fear of spiders, and also dislikes other small multi legged bugs.\n\nI was hoping to hear some good ways to prevent spiders from showing up in the home, or at least some best practices. " ]

[ "Brown recluses are dangerous. Wolf spiders not so much. Wolf spiders eat brown recluses. If you see a wolf spider in your basement, leave it there.", "Save yourself the hassle and sign up for pest service.\n\nNot only will it take care of the spiders but it'll handle other pests including ones that can damage your home.", "It's pretty much impossible to spider-proof a house, but you could minimize bugs getting in by checking for cracks in floors/windows/doors and sealing them with caulk, wood filler, etc.\n\n What's way more important though is accepting that bugs are getting in, no matter what you do. I'm sympathetic; I just moved into the country and am dealing with way more bugs than I ever saw in the city, but at least spiders are good to have around. If you live in an area where venomous spiders are common, then be careful, but otherwise I would welcome their help in killing insects.", "Spiders eat other bugs and critters like frogs and lizards. If you make sure the basement and nearby areas have none of those, then you're good. The resident spiders will get hungry, pack up, and move elsewhere.", "Funny, I watched a documentary recently (NOVA \"Memory Hackers\") where people with spider phobias were given a a new treatment. They showed the people afterwards holding and stroking tarantulas.", "Find some conkers (may have to wait until autumn) and put one in each corner of every room you don't want spiders in. My sister has used it for years and it seems to work. ", "If your girlfriend has a truly crippling fear, call pest control. Don't waste your time with traps and smelly things, just get some expert help. It'll cost some, but after that you'll have no little freaks in your house for months.\n\n(do get help from the ones who have some guarantee - if they're back in numbers after x months, they'll come back free of charge to fix it)", "we use Off! Cutter yard spray to keep bugs out of our yard. I'll spray up the side of my house too. This helps keep bugs off the house and from getting into the house. We live in a wooded area and haven't had any problems.", "does your GF like cats? maybe get a cat which will be a great form of pest control.\n\naside from that get rid of places for the spiders to hide and it will reduce the number.", "Peppermint. I have a spray bottle containing water and peppermint and I periodically spray it around the door frames and windows. From the outside, I suppose you could do it from the inside as well but the smell of peppermint would probably be quite overwhelming. We still get a few small ones here and there but their presence has drastically deminished. Mainly wolf spiders, but in our yard and exterior walls there are banana spiders and the dreaded black widows.", "Keep the apartment clean and dry. Make sure windows and doors are sealed properly. Wipe a mix of water and a strong scented essential oil (like lemon or peppermint) on surfaces where they might enter or nest. Remove spiderwebs outside of doors and windows regularly.\nFor people in houses: make sure you keep it clean near your house and keep the lawn and other close-by plantlife trimmed.\n\nI live in a house in the countryside and am a bit arachnophobic. I follow the above tips and almost never see spiders inside. \nThis is in Europe, though. Not sure if that helps with superbig murder spiders in warmer climates... :s" ]

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[ "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n", "How to prevent or reduce sweaty palms? My hands get all sweaty and clammy when around strangers or when I am alone at home. Doesn't matter if it's winter or summer, they sweat all the time. I am a working professional and it's embarrassing when I need to shake a client's hand. Thanks in advance LPT!\n\n" ]

[ "The best thing I've found is to have a mini travel bottle of hand sanitizer. Just put a drop in your hands before shaking hands with someone, and you'll be as dry as California. ", "Look into doing [this treatment] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bOQfjZ9-Akw). It can be a little time consuming (20 minutes a day for 2 weeks to start, then once a week afterwards) and can be uncomfortable if you're not used to it, but it will really dry up your hands", "There is a product called Sweat Stop. I get it from Amazon. It is amazing. Becomes more effective the more you use it but it worked like magic for me the first time. The people who are saying wash your hands or drink more water simply do not know what hyperhydrosis is like.", "I too suffer badly from this affliction. Sometimes my hands look like they have been washed, they have so much sweat on them. It's gross and embarrassing, so I feel your pain. I find 3 things help in a small way:\n\n1: wash hands with a bar of soap until they feel squeaky clean rather than with liquid soap which I find exacerbates the problem.\n\n2: ensure you have access to an absorbent cloth at all times, such as a terry cloth, which has not been treated with fabric softener.\n\n3: when you find yourself getting clammy, distract yourself and think of something else. It took me years to find there was a correlation between my sweating palms (and feet too, lucky me). I mightn't even be very anxious or even realize I'm anxious at all, but when I feel them starting to sweat I try and think of something different from what I have been thinking about.\n\nI hope this is of some help. My doc mentioned something called beta blockers but I'm kind of reluctant to go down the medical route even though it's an awful affliction. Good luck!\n\n", "You have a condition called hyperhidrosis of the hands (google it to learn more). I have it under my arm pits. I use Certain Dri with aluminum (the aluminum blocks the pores and keeps me from sweating). You could use it on your palms. You need to use the PM & AM, buy the clear gel. Use the PM on your palms before bed (follow the instructions) and use the AM on your palms before heading off for work. Most people have surgery to nip the glands that's sweating excessively. When you go to see a doctor print out the information on hyperhidrosis and take it with you, some doctors have never heard of this. Using Certain Di is a temporary solution.", "A bit unconventional but if you need to keep hands dry apply a tiny amount of liquid chalk and rub it in. My first time using it in the gym I rubbed it in too much and ended up with super dry hands. You can usually get some that doesnt have a distinctive smell. Experiment with it to find the perfect amount ", "You may or may not have hyperhydrosis. I have it and I have met a few people with it so my guess is that its fairly common, go see a doctor.\n\np.s. i know the handshake feel, at parties its very awkward and i see them wipe their hand on their pants after", "What this is really about is fear. All of these other solutions are about treating the symptoms rather than the cause. My suggestion would be to look into joining some sort of martial art. When you know that you can kill someone just by looking at them, ;) you are less likely to be nervous at home. \n\nAnother parallel tool would be to join something like toastmasters. As I have gotten more comfortable with public speaking, speaking to individuals is far less of a fear. \n\nDeal with the fear, not the symptoms. ", "If you're doing something to exert lots of sweat for a part of the day, you'll usually not sweat at all for the rest", "I have very sweaty hands, so I use a very strong antiperspirant spray for them. When you wake up in the morning they're usually dry, so just spray some on both sides of the hands and rub in so you get everywhere. Usually you only have to do it for a few days at a time and it dies down, and it seems to be the better treatment than surgery or shock therapy. \n\nI don't remember what king of spray I use, just one that is only antiperspirant.", "What i did was order a jar of Aluminum Hydroxide (Al(OH)₃) \nApply every morning for a week, every 4th week, or so.", "I know this sounds very basic, but washing your hands will help dry them out. I'd say just wash your hands right before meeting someone. And make sure to dry them very well.", "I find that washing my hands with dishsoap helps keep them clean and dry. In my experience, any soaps that have some sort of lotion in them tend to make my hands way worse.", "Drink water, like, a lot.\n\nI used to get sweaty pals all the time, its from your core body temp being too high. Drink ice water." ]

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[ "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says.", "With winter on its way. I live in a house with old windows and a furnace that isnt too effective. What are some LPT to keep my room warm and keep it warm in the winter? As title says." ]

[ "A step up from the 3m window film is to make your own indoor storm windows: (you get 2 films with an air gap)\nhttp://www.arttec.net/Thermal-Windows/index.html\nI used these plans to make 20 for my house (130 years old, windows are at least 50)\nEnded up costing about $10/window for materials.\nThe first one took a couple hours to get right but each one after took about an hour.\nalso.\n-Clean the furnace if you can.\n-buy $5 worth of clear caulk and the same for a can of Great Stuff and fill every air gap you can find to stop drafts.\n", "I had the cheapest Walmart space heater placed between my chair and the ottoman. With a blanket over my legs I'd watch movies all winter long comofortably. We set the thermostat to 52.", "I feel you. My heat and AC has been broken since last winter. I usually sleep with a heating blanket and use heavy drapes over my windows. I also have pets in my room at night and they help with creating heat. Fuzzy socks are always nice too!", "I lived in one of these during one of my college years in Canada. I tried a number of cheaper solutions that didn't help much. In the end, I bought an oil heater, and the problem was instantly solved. The great thing about oil heaters is that they're safe to the touch so you can leave them on overnight. ", "Get a humidifier. When air has moisture in it, it feel warmer. They're super cheap and a bonus is its great for your skin and respiratory system. Just make sure you use distiller water and keep it clean.", "What worked for me: I did this for three winters in a very old house; I'm talking about the interior doors would sway when the wind blew (with all doors and windows shut.) Definitely follow the advice about the 3M window film, but additionally I focused on keeping only one room warm, my bedroom. I hung blankets in every doorway, even the ones with doors, and did my best to isolate the rooms. I had huge windows and would put blanket on the bottom 3/4 to allow light in without being too vonerable to potential drafts. I kept a space heater in my bedroom and bathroom. I basically lived in and hung out with friends in my bedroom. When I used the oven I'd pull back the blanket drapes to let it flow throughout. It can be rough, but with a small enough space and enough layers of clothes you should get by. Good luck.", "Keep the vent clear and focused to where you want the heat to go. Have towels under every door to reduce drafts. \n\nAs far as what to wear/sleep in. Get some thick socks to walk around in if you have hardwood floors. For sleeping, big heavy blankets.\n\nSource: Living in Wisconsin. ", "If you have a little bit of money buy a kotatsu. You can use any blanket with it. Will keep you nice and toasty... you can even sleep under it, though manufacturers don't recommend it.\n[Kotatsu](http://www.ebay.com/itm/Brand-New-YAMAZEN-KOTATSU-31-5x31-5x14-6-inch-80x80x37-cm-/221289703713?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item3385e4e921)", "Here, all the people tack up/hang up really heavy blankets over doorways and hallways to block air flow. It's like using towels and window film but you don't have to buy anything because you probably already own blankets. Blankets over doorways is an effective way to trap heat in the little space that you're in. Probably a fire hazard, though.", "Heavy drapes. Cuts down on draft. You can also coat your windows. 3M makes a window film that increases insulation value. I'm sure it can be found on Amazon or your local hardware shop. Also, you can let the light in during the day. Let the sun shine on something dense and dark color (high thermal mass). It will absorb heat during the day, then release it at night, keeping the surrounding air relatively warm for a while.", "Some great suggestions here already. If your place is equipped with ceiling fans, reverse direction and turn on low speed circulating warmer air from upper portion of room. I would also add a humidifier to the list. Moist air feels warmer than dry air.", "Not sure if LPT but....Build a Desktop like mine, total beast without liquid cooling. It heats my room to 75+ within a few hours no matter how cold it is outside", "If you are broke you can try what my friend did:\nWent to a carpet shop and got scrap pieces of carpet Padding for free.\nTaped this right against the windows on the NORTH side of his apt (the side that wouldn't get any/much sun anyway.\ntowels or blankets will work too. \nI also 2nd the warms socks idea also.. ", "Check out a recent article in /r/frugal for more ideas.\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/Frugal/comments/1p5e5f/its_getting_cold_im_afraid_for_my_power_bill_what/", "Caulk works pretty well on windows. Add a space heater and a blanket and you have a cheap solution that works in a pinch. " ]

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[ "Easily removing bug guts from vehicles I live in the south and love bugs are running rampant. I tried taking a pressure washer to them this morning to no avail. Does anyone have an easy way to remove bug guts from the front of a car? ", "Easily removing bug guts from vehicles I live in the south and love bugs are running rampant. I tried taking a pressure washer to them this morning to no avail. Does anyone have an easy way to remove bug guts from the front of a car? ", "Easily removing bug guts from vehicles I live in the south and love bugs are running rampant. I tried taking a pressure washer to them this morning to no avail. Does anyone have an easy way to remove bug guts from the front of a car? ", "Easily removing bug guts from vehicles I live in the south and love bugs are running rampant. I tried taking a pressure washer to them this morning to no avail. Does anyone have an easy way to remove bug guts from the front of a car? " ]

[ "I tried the dryer sheet method, and strangely enough, it worked.\nJust take a sheet and start scrubbing the bugged spots.", "Razor blade and a foaming glass cleaner for cleaning.\n\nFor prevention go with any of the hydrophobic products. Also try your windshield wiper fluid. Also clean your wipers.", "If you want to do it in a way that preserves your paint try this.\n\nStep 1: Clay bar. You can buy them at walmart (in automotive). Essentially, you rub it on the paint when its wet and it takes out all the impurities in the paint. \n\nStep 2: Wax. When you clay bar you are removing any wax on the vehicle and you want to re-apply the wax again. \n\nStep 3: Add an extra coat of wax anywhere you have bugs. It won't make it easier to clean but it'll help to stop ruining your paint as quickly. Especially if you are a like me and commute to work, slaughter hundreds of bugs, and then have no choice but to leave your car parked outside all day. ", "Uh... kitchen degreaser. Basically anything that will clean your oven will take care of those bugs. Just make sure you test it on the paint somewhere inconspicuous first so you don't remove any paint" ]

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[ "Is it possible to un-warp plastic drawers/shelves? I have a bunch of cheap drawer units [like this one](http://www.sterilite.com/productfiles/images/LG1_29308001.jpg), and they're all warped. The drawers don't slide in or out easily and they're leaning to the side. (And there's not a lot of weight in them; one of them is holding nothing but rags, for example.) Is there any way to un-warp these plastics to make them straight again? My sort of \"fix of last resort\" is to get some metal bars and zip-tie them to the warped parts to keep them straight but that seems like maybe overkill.\n", "Is it possible to un-warp plastic drawers/shelves? I have a bunch of cheap drawer units [like this one](http://www.sterilite.com/productfiles/images/LG1_29308001.jpg), and they're all warped. The drawers don't slide in or out easily and they're leaning to the side. (And there's not a lot of weight in them; one of them is holding nothing but rags, for example.) Is there any way to un-warp these plastics to make them straight again? My sort of \"fix of last resort\" is to get some metal bars and zip-tie them to the warped parts to keep them straight but that seems like maybe overkill.\n" ]

[ "How about put them out in the hot summer sun. Reshape them (maybe some clamps and wood boards may help). Then splash them with cold water.\n\nAs an alternative to the hot summer sun, hot or boiling water may work . . . start with the hot water, then try the boiling.", "You could try a heat gun, basically warm up and straighten out then allow to cool. These things are made so cheaply they would probably break if you try to reinforce them." ]

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[ "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n", "How do I find a good babysitter when I don't know anybody in the area? I'm trying to find a babysitter for my 6 month old.\n\nThe site [SitterCity](https://www.sittercity.com) claimed to have hundreds of sitters in my area, so I naively thought I'd give it a shot. They allowed me to submit all my information and post a \"job opening\". But now that applicants have responded to my posting, it turns out that their so-called \"trial period membership\" won't let me view applications or contact applicants - making it basically useless. I find their fees exorbitant - $22-$35 / month - given that we only plan to hire a sitter a perhaps a total of 4 to 8 hours per month.\n\nI might be willing to pay on the order of $5-$10 / month for such a service. \n\nSo, giving up on SitterCity.com in disgust, I turn to the /r/LPT community on Reddit. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nNOTE: Lest you think I'm being dishonest by only using SitterCity for the trial period, the site was **NOT** upfront regarding the \"upgraded membership\" cost, or the trial period limitations. If they had given me this price at the outset, I never would have submitted my request. Also, if I had actually been able to complete my transaction successfully during their trial period, and found my expectations blown out of the water, I might have considered even paying the ridiculous monthly service charge.\n\n" ]

[ "Humble suggestion:\n\n1. get to know more parents in the area\n2. ask them\n\nMore LPT style: call a 5-star day care center (should be directories galore for these) and ask if any of their infant room teachers also babysit.", "You say you and your wife both work full time: do any of your co-workers have children around your child's age? ", "See if there's a local parent listserv in your area. Do a quick search on Yahoo Groups to see if you get any hits. If you find one: goldmine. If not: I'd suck up the cost and do either SitterCity or Care.com for one month only. (I've used both, and found Care.com better for sitters in my area.) It's much, much more reliable than Craigslist, and you can cancel your membership before the first month is up and thus only pay for a month. When you use either of those sites, *both* create a job listing *and* browse through people listed locally in your area and send them messages that include both a chatty blurb about what you're looking for, and a link to your job posting. Be detailed and specific about what you're looking for, what the job entails, what hours you may need, and what style you're looking for. Ask them to email you a little bit about themselves, their salary requirements, and relevant references. Each time you send a message to a potential sitter, ask her/him to respond to your email address, not through the messaging system. That way you've got their contact info even after you cancel your membership. Then a) set up phone conversations, b) ask for and call references, and finally c) meet in person for an interview. One piece of advice from hard experience: work on interviewing multiple people at once. For one thing, you don't know who will work out. For another, sitters sometimes flake. And, it really really pays to have more than one sitter available to you.\nGood luck!", "Post on Craigslist. Seriously. I'm a babysitter and that's how I find new families to sit for. Just write a post of what kind of hours you will want/how many kids and what age/how much you are willing to pay and ask them to email you references and a resume and/or why they would be a good fit for your family. Weed through the responses and call a few references then email the ones you like back and set up a meeting to see if they seem upfront and get along with your kids.", "If you live near a college, contact the local ed school. Chances are, they have people getting their masters or bachelors in early childhood ed. Also, they're likely to need money. I'm in a doctoral program in an ed school and we get weekly e-mails; many times there are parents asking for babysitters.", "As a SitterCity sitter, I didn't know what they make parents go through. That's awful.\n\nI often see SitterCity adverts that ask interested sitters to call or email rather than apply through the service. Could you, perhaps, post another job request that includes such a line. I'm sure that those who tried to contact you previously would do the same through your preferred method.\n\nAre you in North Carolina? If so, I'd sit for you. :)", "A lot of community colleges offer child development classes with students going for a degree in that area. I remember there being bulletin boards with students advertising their babysitting services. I'd think poor college students would love the cash, would be a little more responsible, they'd probably drive, and would have more expertise than you're average high school student.", "Send a job opening to a local high school for a babysitter. Many teenagers look at babysitting for their first job experience and the school faculty could help you out", "I'd pay the fee. Especially if you haven't met parents in the area and you're new. It's your child, a 6-month old at that. Pay the fee. " ]

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[ "Surviving a job you hate Long story short, looks like my boss has a personal vendetta against me and is doing everything he can to get me fired. I'm currently looking for a new job and at the same time am in full \"cover your ass\" mode while gathering evidence for wrongful dismissal if they decide to fire me.\n\nI'm now on a sick leave due but have to go back in two weeks. Any tips for keeping my sanity for the remaining months I have to stay there? Finding a new job in my field might take up to six months and I need some ideas how to survive.", "Surviving a job you hate Long story short, looks like my boss has a personal vendetta against me and is doing everything he can to get me fired. I'm currently looking for a new job and at the same time am in full \"cover your ass\" mode while gathering evidence for wrongful dismissal if they decide to fire me.\n\nI'm now on a sick leave due but have to go back in two weeks. Any tips for keeping my sanity for the remaining months I have to stay there? Finding a new job in my field might take up to six months and I need some ideas how to survive.", "Surviving a job you hate Long story short, looks like my boss has a personal vendetta against me and is doing everything he can to get me fired. I'm currently looking for a new job and at the same time am in full \"cover your ass\" mode while gathering evidence for wrongful dismissal if they decide to fire me.\n\nI'm now on a sick leave due but have to go back in two weeks. Any tips for keeping my sanity for the remaining months I have to stay there? Finding a new job in my field might take up to six months and I need some ideas how to survive.", "Surviving a job you hate Long story short, looks like my boss has a personal vendetta against me and is doing everything he can to get me fired. I'm currently looking for a new job and at the same time am in full \"cover your ass\" mode while gathering evidence for wrongful dismissal if they decide to fire me.\n\nI'm now on a sick leave due but have to go back in two weeks. Any tips for keeping my sanity for the remaining months I have to stay there? Finding a new job in my field might take up to six months and I need some ideas how to survive." ]

[ "Hi,\n\nI'm sorry that you are in that situation. That absolutely sucks! I will share my deepest and darkest methods for surviving this job. \n\n\n1. Be early every day. Show up 1/2 an hour early. Do all the emails and neaten your desk, start the coffee. \n\n\n2. Bring the joy! Be the happiest person in the office and the nicest person at all times. Bring donuts. \n\n\n3. Surprise your boss with smiles. Whenever an interaction is needed be sudden, loud, and smile. For example: \n\nhttps://youtu.be/XXSGV5wEv1o\n\nAnother example:\n\nBoss: Could you do this for me?\n\nYou at full volume: YEAH! GET RIGHT ON IT! JUST EXPLAIN IT TO ME CLEARLY FIRST! \n\nIf he comes up behind you and you have coffee, OH MY GOODNESS YOU SCARED ME, DIDN'T EVEN SEE YOU THERE, ALMOST SPILLED MY COFFEE. \n\n\n4. Help others in the office as much as possible. Fix the printers, train new staff. Talk to every office assistant. Your colleagues can't help you. But the office assistants are a force that can not be destroyed. And they can be bought with the right treats, they hate their jobs worse than you hate yours. \n\n\nHere is why this is evil. It is passive aggressive. You will debase any claims that you aren't a positive or hard worker. You will garner the support of your colleagues. You will garner the support of the support staff, all while scaring the shit out of your boss. \n\n\nAll of these steps will make it obvious that your boss is the bad guy. He is scaring a very nice person. I rocked out for an extra year in a sales gig by doing this.\n\n\nAnd here is the best part. It is fun! You are torturing your boss while being best friends with everyone else. They all will assume you already have the next job and are worried you will torch your files and clients at any given second. You turn it on him. \n\nTrust me, this is Art of War shit. Not Tsun Tzu's book. Macchiavelli's. The true book of evil. A book that was loved by both Hitler and Stalin. \n\n", "Be absolutely perfect. Do everything expected of you and more, do it early, help others and do it willingly. That can avoid any criticisms you are a slacker or a bad worker. Keep records of everything as you do it.\n\nWhile in work itself, I would suggest getting out of there as much as possible. Get a minute's fresh air and some coffee at break time, have a long walk at lunch (including a trip to somewhere fresh and green like a park). Make sure your personal environment there is clean and tidy. Leave your work at work as well, when 5 o clock comes round, you go and don't think about it at all. Leave with a smile on your face. ", "I used to disappear into the bathroom for a couple of hours a day. But it is hard tomgive you coping methods if we don't know the nature of your job. ", "I just arrived here via Google and was like \"whoa, someone's in *exactly* the same situation as I am, hope I'll find some answers\" and then realized something... \n\nAnyway, I'm going back work tomorrow and I've decided to imagine everyone's a customer of mine. That means I'm talking in a really soothing and professional voice, and coating my brain with Teflon. " ]

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[ "How to get an annoying person off your back I sit beside this kid in almost all my classes, he's one of those guys who will try desperatly to make a joke, but it always ends up failing in comedy. Ignoring doesn't work, any help?", "How to get an annoying person off your back I sit beside this kid in almost all my classes, he's one of those guys who will try desperatly to make a joke, but it always ends up failing in comedy. Ignoring doesn't work, any help?", "How to get an annoying person off your back I sit beside this kid in almost all my classes, he's one of those guys who will try desperatly to make a joke, but it always ends up failing in comedy. Ignoring doesn't work, any help?", "How to get an annoying person off your back I sit beside this kid in almost all my classes, he's one of those guys who will try desperatly to make a joke, but it always ends up failing in comedy. Ignoring doesn't work, any help?" ]

[ "If your professor is in the middle of a lecture just say loudly \"Please stop talking to me, I'm trying to listen.\"\n\nIt will draw everyone's attention and stares, the annoying shit will be embarrassed and hopefully won't repeat their bullshit.", "If ignoring doesn't work then move on to shushing. If shushing doesn't work, tell them \"not now\" or \"not interested\". If that doesn't work, just yell \"FUCK OFF, YOU FUCKING WASTE OF SPACE. NOBODY IS INTERESTED IN YOUR STUPID FUCKING TERRIBLE JOKES!!!\"", "I would like to know how to do this in a professional environment. I literally don't even look at his direction and don't listen and that doesn't seem to work.", "You might have to have a sincere conversation with him about how his behavior negatively impacts your school environment and makes people feel negativity about him. You will need to have examples of when his behavior has been positive and/or appropriate and compare it to a time that it was neither. While pointing out the negative might be necessary on occasion, remember that [positive reinforcement works best] (https://youtu.be/bDZCyObMfkA)." ]

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[ "How to expand your imagination while reading. I just started a fantasy novel and found that I am having trouble imagining the world in the book. For example, all roads are straight in my mind until I actively start to create twists and turns, forks in the road, and rocks on the ground. I want this to come more naturally to me in the moment.", "How to expand your imagination while reading. I just started a fantasy novel and found that I am having trouble imagining the world in the book. For example, all roads are straight in my mind until I actively start to create twists and turns, forks in the road, and rocks on the ground. I want this to come more naturally to me in the moment.", "How to expand your imagination while reading. I just started a fantasy novel and found that I am having trouble imagining the world in the book. For example, all roads are straight in my mind until I actively start to create twists and turns, forks in the road, and rocks on the ground. I want this to come more naturally to me in the moment." ]

[ "This may be odd but i imagine every book is just an anime in writen form or a tv show. I play out the scenarios as they happen in my head and unless stated otherwise never imagine the road directly or the ground. Basically keep changing the way you see a charater or road so it doesn't become complicated. It was hard to do at first but as i kept doing it eventually it became easy to vividly imagine the world in a book.", "I used to work in a bookstore (RIP Borders) and my advice for every disengaged highschool reading lister was: Read every word in the sentence. If it makes sense, read the next sentence. If not, go back and read the sentace again. \nOnce you start engaging and comprehending what is written you will be swept away. \nTo keep track of your place move your finger along with what line on the page you are reading and don't worry about rereading where you left off.\n\nFor fantasy novels your imagination must engaged so feed the beast!", "I like to think of an alternate universe of an existing world I've seen in a TV show or movie, and build upon that. I even \"cast\" the book's characters with some of my favorite actors. " ]

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[ "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!", "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!", "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!", "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!", "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!", "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!", "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!", "how to get in the habit of working out? I'm undeniably out of shape, and suspect that I might feel much healthier on a day-to-day basis if I could get in the habit of working out. I've tried many times before to start, but each time I'm never drawn to continuing. Lots of people I know talk about an endorphin rush they get after working out, but each time I work out I just walk away from it thoroughly sore, exhausted, and feeling like I would have been legitimately better off staying on the couch. Do you guys have any advice on ways to make it more bearable of engaging over the long term? Thanks!" ]

[ "You have to find a time that works for you. When do you find yourself having the most energy and focus during the day? Is it early morning, afternoon, evening? Schedule your workouts during that time, and create a schedule around that, as opposed to \"sticking in\" a workout when you're not busy. Bring a gym bag and change of clothes to work, or leave it in the car. That way you have no excuse. ", "Thing is if you're really unfit you're not gonna enjoy exercise much... Just struggle on for 2-3 weeks until your body adjusts to the new workload and believe it or not you'll start actually looking forward to exercise.", "sounds like maybe you are taking on too much at once. yes, exercising should be hard but not as awful as you're describing. maybe start smaller. shorter work outs, less weights, whatever. make sure you drink plenty of water and stretch so you aren't to o sore. some soreness is inevitable. \n\n", "Start by finding an end-goal and work backwards. I was 100 lbs. overweight, my goal was not to lose weight, but to run a marathon. I had a date and paid the entry fee (two years away, $85). It sucked at first, but when I started to get better at running, I was more motivated to work out and eat better. In-between starting an the marathon, I ran a few 5k's and a 10k. I was really motivated because I actually finished a head of people who looked in better shape then me. The \"runner's high\" you are talking about come when you overcome your body wanting to quit and all that sludge in your blood thins out and the blood moves faster, thus putting more oxygen in your muscles, making you feel better (you can get the same results going to an oxygen bar.)", "Consider taking up a sport or activity where you'll be active, but you don't necessarily feel like you're working out. For me it was Ultimate Frisbee (lots of running around and sprint bursts but a lot more fun than going on a run), but it could be going on bike rides a couple of times a week, pickup basketball games, swimming laps, playing tennis etc. Doing something fun to help your body get used to working out can make it easier if/when you decide to increase what you're doing and add going to the gym or other more intense workouts and if you enjoy the activity you choose, you'll (hopefully) will look forward to it and be less likely to convince yourself out of not going. \n\nIf you want to start with running, couch to 5k apps for your phone are fantastic and start out with walking or walking with bursts of jogging and can act as a guide while you build up your endurance. There are some where they almost exclusively allow your music to play in the background and others that are a combo of music and narrative driven storytelling or you can make your own kind of thing and put together a running playlist and start out with jogging during the chorus of each song and walking during the other verses. \n\nMake working out creative and fun and you'll enjoy it a lot more! ", "The bad thing about starting out is its hard to stay motivated and you will be sore a lot, however newbies have the benefit of seeing the greatest improvement in a short amount of time. Once you get in shape it becomes easier to stay in shape, but harder to get bigger, more cut, or whateever you are trying to do.", "Set a goal to do a really really small amount.\n\nThere's a theory to make dopamine work for you. You do enough to make yourself feel satisfied that you started, but not enough to make you satisfied that you finished.\n\nIt sounds paradoxical, but the idea is that because you didn't finish, you'll be craving to finish tomorrow, and will have more urges to start again. \n\nI haven't tried this method, but it may be worth a shot.", "I had the same issue. To get the \"runners high\" it takes quite some time. It took me a month. I had to start out doing pretty easy workouts and go up. I, personally, started doing 2 mile workouts while trying to keep each mile under 13 minutes. Then I tried to keep the miles under 12:30 after 2 weeks, and after another 2 weeks I went to under a 12 minute mile. Now, after a month and a half, I try to do the first mile as fast as I can and then the 2nd mile under 12 minutes. I'm not sure if this is a proper workout routine but it helps me out a lot. I also rest after 2 workout days which is actually hard. I want to work out every day now but I force myself to rest as I used to get injured easily until I scaled down my workouts and stretched properly." ]

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[ "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml", "how do you make friends in your 30s? I am 30/F, lived in my current city in socal for a little over a year now and I literally have NO friends here (besides my boyfriend). Not from around here originally. I work from home, so don't meet people from work. I go to the gym on the daily but not like girls around here are like \"hey other random female, let's be friends\"\n\nWhen my bf is off doing his thing I get kinda depressed because I have no human/social interaction whatsoever... IE I haven't seen him for the past 2 days so right now I'm like gahhhh I'm so bored and alone fml" ]

[ "Definitely look on meetup. There are tons of different groups for a variety of interests all over socal (hiking, brunching, happy hours, book clubs, etc.).\n\nIf you play any sports (or haven't previously, but think it would be fun), look to join a recreational team (softball, kickball). It seems like sports team are always looking for girls to join. Either contact a league and see if teams are looking for single players, or sometimes teams might post on craigslist (wouldn't suggest using this site for meeting anyone any other way...lol). \n\nIf you know of any alumni groups (college, greek life, etc.) check to see if they have a chapter in your area. \n\nThere are some cool websites that list volunteer opportunities within specific areas by zip code (volunteermatch, LA Works (not sure if you're in LA)). You can give back while hopefully also meeting people.", "Sports rec leagues, volunteering at local events and charities, getting a part-time job, attending classes at the gym, and simply walking my dog are all great places to stay. I think you have to commit to trying new things and really putting yourself out there before you can make friends.", "Start by saying yes to invites. Community projects, social gatherings from work, and local calendar events like art shows.", "All these suggestions are great. I wanted to add If you are more comfortable meeting people online, the dating app Bumble apparently has a BFF feature that is specifically for making friends. I've never used it, i just read about it yesterday and the 2 gentleman mentioned in the article, seem to be very happy together in a beautiful Bromantic way. ", "Volunteering in your local community is a great way to find like minded people, young and old. Join some kind of class or sports team for beginners, you'll bond over your (lack of) skill set. Nothing brings people close like learning and failing together! Not only are you enjoying a new experience, you will have a lot more opportunities to socialize and meet people.", "This American Life did a funny segment about this problem a couple of weeks ago. On top of already mentioned tips, listen to it to realized that you are not alone:\nhttp://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/587/the-perils-of-intimacy?act=2#play ", "I feel like the suggestions here all help one to make acquaintances. Between work, fun, and responsibilities, many in their 30's have plenty of acquaintances but few non-relative/spouse friends. There are articles and even books written on the matter, but they primarily address the roadblocks to forming intimate peer relationships of the sort most experienced when younger. \n\nWhat little advice I found could be summed up like this: to gain a friend in your thirties, first develop many acquaintances in circumstances where one is (more or less) forced to share a space and experience and then build a stronger bond by confiding in them the way teens do. The walls between grown individuals are difficult for acquaintances to scale--one has to really open the door wide to the other by demonstrating what they want to experience in return. After that, fitting that friendship into ones busy life is the real challenge and usual cause of failure. ", "Take a class or join a social group... Whatever your interests are... Pottery, improv, math, hair/makeup, poker, bingo, swim classes. It's a step toward social interaction between people with common interests and a natural ice breaker. ", "May be you should join some classes... language, music, arts, martial arts, computer courses, yoga,... Your scope to interact with people increase with them.", "Find a local area forum about something you like and chat to the people on there, you may find a few friends, it's easier if you have similar interests to them ", "Drop in sports or sometimes there is like a kinda drop in team you can join for a few months. I have met people doing that. ", "Once you have kids other dad's are like instant friends, from there I coach teeball and took first place in the daddy daughter dance, tons of buddies made there." ]

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[ "How to avoid / fix cowlicks? I often get really stubborn ones on the back corners of my head that don't stay all the way down no matter how much water I put on them.", "How to avoid / fix cowlicks? I often get really stubborn ones on the back corners of my head that don't stay all the way down no matter how much water I put on them.", "How to avoid / fix cowlicks? I often get really stubborn ones on the back corners of my head that don't stay all the way down no matter how much water I put on them.", "How to avoid / fix cowlicks? I often get really stubborn ones on the back corners of my head that don't stay all the way down no matter how much water I put on them.", "How to avoid / fix cowlicks? I often get really stubborn ones on the back corners of my head that don't stay all the way down no matter how much water I put on them.", "How to avoid / fix cowlicks? I often get really stubborn ones on the back corners of my head that don't stay all the way down no matter how much water I put on them." ]

[ "I have the same problem as you( I got three ) but I still manage and style my hair.\n\nAs soon as I wake up to get ready for school, I take a shower, dry my hair with a towel, dry my hair until it's completely dry( it usually gets fluffy) with a blowdryer and then I put product in my hair, everywhere( focus on your cowlick if necessary ). You'll realize that the cowlick is now controlled by you to a certain efficiency however take some hairspray, quickly fix your cowlick to your liking and hairspray that damn thing.", "Mine are so bad and it seems like the back sides just grow quicker than the top making me look goofy as hell. I need to buzz my head often to avoid this. My hair is not good for any type of styling ", "Sorry if this isn't helpful, but in my opinion at least, cowlicks are nothing to worry about. Most people I know find them cute (especially on males). They're funny, and make the person seem endearing. It's one of those flaws that adds to your desirability, like freckles.\n\nOf course, you probably wouldn't want a bunch of cowlicks if you're going to a party or a formal event. But otherwise, man, just go around with those bits doing their thing.", "I have two in the front of my head (one on each side). \n\nTip I received from my hairdresser is to blow dry your hair then wet the cowlick with spray bottle. Take a small brush (something like [this](http://image.rakuten.co.jp/koshin/cabinet/260501/ko59kam.jpg) anything where the bristles are dense/close together, then gather some of the cowlick hair into the brush and blowdry it back and forth and down above the root of your hair. Keep doing this until the cowlick is dry. The back and forth motion forces the cowlick to be flexible and should help it stay down. Blow drying all over first helps you focus on just the cowlick making sure you get it.\n\nIt can take some practice but when it works, the cowlick is tamed.", "Every morning fill the bathroom sink with cold water and submerge your whole head in it. This will help you wake up. Towel dry your hair and comb into shape use as little product as possable (if any) restrict your showering to every other evening ( shampoo makes hair hard to control)", "Don't try to move them in a certain direction. Let your cowlick fall into its natural direction and move your other hair into a direction that compliments that of the cowlick. If your cowlick chooses to go left, part your hair left." ]

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Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n", "How to leave a conversation without being awkward or rude? I think we've all been there before. We bump into an old acquaintance and the usual conversation ensues: \"How have you been?\" \"What are you up to now?\" \"How's (x) doing?\". Or when in your garden talking to your neighbour. Or at a party and making small talk. \n\nOn some of these occasions, we're usually on our way somewhere or wanting to do something else. But we want to be able to have that interaction without just saying \"I'm busy see ya\". \n\nI would say I'm fairly sociable, I can talk to pretty much anyone and find something in common for conversation. But sometimes it runs its course and I'm looking for a way to end this conversation so I can get on with what I'm doing. \n\nDoes anyone have a good way to quickly end that conversation without being obvious or unnecessarily rude? Or just a very smooth way to transition out of it?\n\n\n**********************\n\n" ]

[ "\"I'm sorry to interrupt but I really do have to run. It's great to run into you! ...\n\n* ... please give my regards to [x] and [y]!...\n\nOR\n\n* ... shoot me an email / facebook message / text message and let's grab [lunch]/[coffee]/[a drink]/[dinner]!...\n\n... Really great to see you! [Until next time!] / [Peace!] / [I'm out!] / [Qapla'!] / [Cool runnings!]\"\n\nUse the first bullet point if you don't want to see the person again. The second if you do. \n\nThen bounce. Typically, I try to either hop on my gilded segway, jump into the smart-car that I've modified to be a giant, scale model of my own head, or I get into the sidecar of my vintage bmw motorcycle being driven by my batman. ", "Even if I'm the busy one, I turn it around and say 'well I'll let you get back to (action or topic), I'll catch you later.' It reminds them that they were doing something before you so they feel like they also have a reason to cut the convo off. Ex: \"Haha, yes I do imagine the lack of white mice in the wild correlates with their lack of camoflage. Either way, I'll let you get back to your bald celebrity collage, see you around!\"", "The most socially adept person I ever met would use a sincere, look you in the eye \"Good (or great) to see you!\" both at the start and end of any conversation. People temporarily bask in the glow of this complimentary remark, giving time to head for the door. ", "If you want to transition smoothly, and not abruptly, as well as leave little doubt you have to to go, try:\n\n\"Oh one last thing [before I go]....\", and then bring up a small bit of info to tell them (not ask them, so it doesn't require a possible long response).\n\nThis gives you the clean marker for an exit you are looking for, but quite bluntly, isn't as rude sounding as, \"I'm outta here!\", or \"I gots to go!\", and sounds like you care about the conversation and other person, just to maintain the relationship for the future.\n\nVariations might include, \"Oh, I almost forget to tell you before I have to go....\", and \"I wanted to mention before I head out...\", etc..", "People who don't pick up social clues that the conversation is over are use to people abruptly ending a conversation.", "Point up into the sky and say \"Is that the bat signal?\"\n\nWhile they are looking, simply disappear into the night.", "Be direct and honest. Awkwardness usually stems from timidity or bashfulness in delivery; if instead you honestly say, \"I'm glad I saw you, I'm going to head inside (leave) (go to that place) now.\" you'll have pretty good luck.\n\nA suggestion below recommends saying \"text me and we'll meet up\". This is pretty transparent, and many probably see it as rude. Don't say that unless you sincerely WANT to be texted by the person and subsequently meet with them.\n\nAnother suggestion is to say, \"I'll let you get back to...\" or \"I'll let you go...\" -- I have a personal hatred for these expressions, as they ALWAYS telegraph to me that the person wants to leave the conversation but doesn't want to APPEAR that they want to leave the conversation. It's shallow and petty. Don't put your desire to leave ON ME, it's not fooling anyone. Unless you ACTUALLY stopped a person from doing something or going somewhere by INITIATING the conversation, this is a bit of a backhanded way of saying \"you're boring me\".\n\nAgain, I just recommend direct honesty. \n\nI'd like to write more about this, but I left something inside I have to get back to, so I'll let you get back to reading other responses.", "Oh dear. My word, is that the time. I promised my darling wife I'd shampoo the goldfish and degauss the cat, and I'm rather ashamed to say I've done neither. \nWould you excuse me, please?", "Say \"You should leave because I'm about to pretend to get a phone call.\" \n\nThen pick up your phone and have a conversation with yourself ex:\n \n\"Hello? [chuckles] No, he's still here. No, he's not taking the hint somehow. Mm-hm.\"\n", "Your time is your time, when the cordials are over with, it's time say 'good to see ya', I gotta thing I gotta do'. Peel away. I work with several social butterflies that just can't take a hint, I usually do a fancy pivot around them and keep walking. It's a little bit humorous but also gets you out before the conversation even starts. sucks when I get pinned at my desk by one of these people. Just gotta be rude sometimes.", "Do like Howard Hesseman's character in Spinal Tap.\n\n\"Listen, we'd love to sit down and chat, but we have to go sit out in the lobby and wait for the limo.\"", "If you're on your way somewhere and stop to talk to someone, say something like \"it was great to see you, but I've got to get moving, things to do, people to see, etc\". \n\nChances are the other person has places to be and things to do as well. ", "I never like it when people say, \"I'll let you get back to...etc.\" It's transparent and draws attention to the fact that they don't want to talk anymore - it feels manipulative. It seems so straightforward and easy if I or the other person says something more like, \"I'm off to work (or whatever),\" or \"I've got to get going,\" or just, \"Nice seeing you, hope to run into you again soon, enjoy the day.\" The honesty feels respectful, and we all know no conversation lasts forever - you just talk and then move on. It's easy.", "'Well, I'll let you get back to (insert activity e.g. your work/your trip/your garden), it was great seeing you!'\n\nParty is a little trickier, but most people are fairly understanding of the idea of mingling. 'Ah, I must just have a word with Paul over there, but it was lovely chatting, see you later!'", "Acknowledge what the person is saying (*\"oh yea, man, I can't stand Donald Trump...\"*), then transition directly in to your farewell before they get a chance to say anything else (*\"... but hey, I gotta get going, I have [insert other pressing matter that can't involve them tagging along here] to do, but I'll catch you later, alright?\"*).\n\nModifying it to your own words is really simple, and acting like you genuinely hate to end the conversation (don't overdo it or you'll seem sarcastic and insincere) adds to it.\n\nSource: I talk to people for a living.", "In the office when my boss would come to make small talk, i would press a shortcut key on my blackberry in my pocket to make my office phone ring. He would promptly retreat as to not disturb my important office call ", "Two words: \"Excuse me.\" Excuse yourself from every situation you want to exit. Add a reason why you need to excuse yourself.", "A lot of good ideas in this thread. I just want to add though that whatever method you choose possibly the most important thing is that you deliver the line confidently. Like you truly believe it's the most reasonable thing you could possibly say or do at that moment and the person you're talking to is certain to agree. Most of the time the awkward ness is derived from the fact that you feel awkward and display that awkwardness more than that the situation is actually awkward. This of course is a lot easier said than done. Hiding your true feelings or forcing yourself to have different feelings is not easy. But the only real solution is to practice. Fake it till you make it.", "Very simple:\n\n\"Hey John/Jenny, it was nice to meet you, but I have to get going. I'll catch you later. Cheers/Take care :)!\"\n\nAnd that's it. Appreciate their time, inform them of your duties, and graciously exit with charisma. ", "One that always works for me is \"well, I'll let you get going. See ya!\". It shifts the focus from you being too busy to letting them know you don't want to hold them up.", "I'm a fan of getting them to repeat something they said, staring at them, and then saying, \"I should go.\"\n\nThough if you're not feeling the Commander Shepard thing, smile and say,\"Hey man, I'm sorry but I gotta get going.\" With a happy cadence to your speech it'll sound friendly and casual, but it still sounds important enough that it gets you out of the conversation.", "I'll usually gently place my left hand on their right shoulder and tell them, \"it was so great to see you again. I have to run, but I enjoyed catching up.\" I'll quickly extend my right hand and initiate a handshake. I'd then start to walk away.\n\nThe placing the hand on the shoulder (depending on the context) is a nonthreatening way to refocus attention from the dying conversation. It causes the listener to change focus from the conversation, to the touch. You quickly get in the fact that you're leaving, their attention is divided between processing the touch, and your statement that you're leaving. \n\nWith attention divided, the listener's automatic response system kicks in, and they, without thinking, will give you a \"bye\" or other automatic response to your the ending of the conversation. You have now extended your hand for a handshake. Another automatic process kicks in, and they will normally shake your hand. \n\nYou've now diverted attention away from their automatic verbal response and they are now thinking about the handshake. \n\nYou've already started leaving at this point.", "I just say what I am about to do next.\n\n\"Ok. I'm going to go mingle a bit.\"\n\"I have to go mail this letter.\"\n\"Well the liquor store is calling my name.\"\n \nThen I make a reference to something funny that happened during the conversation, usually the funniest thing, but anything interesting will do, or I just say something funny new. They laugh, I leave.\n\n\"Well I have to buy some coke. Try to keep your nose clean!\" haha", "Honestly and seriously, here is my advice: \n\nI find myself to be a comical fellow. People know that I can be serious and get things done when I need to but, ultimately, I keep things pretty lighthearted. So, if I ever find myself in a conversation that I don't want to be in or just a topic that I find extremely irritating, I just start doing something retarded. I might start making noises or offer an opinion that doesn't address the topic or slowly move backwards from the conversation while staring at something that isn't there. For the most part, I can leave any conversation like this and no one will realize that I just didn't want to talk to them anymore.\n\n", "This only works if you have a sidekick. My kiddo is great at this. We made a game out of it and its saved me many times. I tug my ear, she tugs her ear to signal back and the starts wandering off. I tell whoeverbit is. \"Oh my it was so good to see you but I have to catch up with my kid! Bye!\" \n\nYeah. I have no shame.", "There is nothing rude about being honest. A simple, \"It has been great to see you but I have to get to my next appt.\" is perfectly acceptable and should not be seen as rude.\n\nWhat you don't want to do is make up an obvious excuse, like \"Um, I've got to get my.. um, cancer medicine. What? Oh no, its not the serious cancer, just like, weekend cancer. Bye.\"", "There is a restaurant I used to go to back home and the head chef/owner was a real suave dude. Used to make his rounds all through the restaurant, chatting and schmoozing it up with the guests. My dad always had pretty good talks with him but realized that they were always cut short by one of his employees running out and saying that there was a phone call. We came to the conclusion that each of these phone calls were staged and came at the moment right before things got awkward.\ntl;dr chef had employees stage fake phone calls to get out of conversations ", "The way I heard it was from a very articulate individual \"I need to excuse myself from this conversation\"", "Thank you so much for asking this op. Now I have an idea what to do from all these other answers.\n\nThere have been *soooo* many times that I would just fall asleep after a while because I'm not a social butterfly and didn't want to seem rude, yet obviously.... lol", "Just loudly announce \"I HAVE TO POOP\" and immediately start walking towards the nearest bathroom. Works every time.", "I've been told that saying \"Where are you heading\" and \"I don't want to keep you waiting/hold you up\" are good phrases to use because it pushes the blame for interrupting the conversation to the other party.\n\nIn most cases this only works if the conversation started in a passerby situation.", "I had a really talkative college a few years back, he would always stop at my desk to talk, and would never leave. Even when I turned my attention to the computer and started typing he wouldn't go. \nMy wife, who is something of a social genius, gave me a great tip: tell him that you're on your way to the coffee machine and ask if he will join you. That way you can talk the few minutes it takes to get coffee, and then he will go to his desk and you can go back to yours. Problem solved without offending him!", "I always say something like \"I'm really glad I ran into you but I've got to get going. I hope next time we run into each other sooner.\" Or something equally stupid. I think most people are pretty busy and feel just as awkward. \"If I'm really in a rush I say \"Oh! I wish I had run into you when I had time to talk! I hope you are doing well!\" as I'm rushing off...and then run into them in the next aisle of the supermarket...and the next.", "Explain that you left the oven on, tell him that it was a pleasure to have met a real author, and leave.", "tell them your child just died, and you just remembered you have to go buy snacks for the funeral reception.", "just starting walking away slowly but still talking to them, and obviously facing them still. Then they should get the point that you need to leave. Most likely they will say \"well it has been nice talking to you!\" or you can say \"well it's been nice chatting\" or whatever. works like a charm!", "if they can see you, look at a watch/the time and say \"oh fuck, hey i just realized what time it was and i have to go it was great seeing you\" etc\n\nif they aren't looking at you ask them the time and do the same shit", "Use some honesty, throw in a light hearted compliment, and then remind them you have crime to go fight and don't have time for their petty bullshit. \n\nIf you're not gonna see them again, leave them with something funny, whatever that may be to you.\n\nIf you want to see them again, then let them know with gusto.", "This probably won't work for you, but all my friends know I'm blunt as hell so I just say \"well I'll see you later\" really soon into the conversation if it doesn't feel like both of us want to talk for long. ", "This is the most awkward when someone comes over to your desk at work to chat for a few minutes and people have no idea what to say when they want to walk away from your desk. ", "The solution I usually adopt is try to ignore/not look at any person I may know, even change the sidewalk or jump into a rabbit hole if I need to. I also always carry a fake mustache and a pair of glasses with a fake nose attached to it in order to jump into incognito mode as fast as necessary to avoid any social interaction with another human being.", "Text a friend to call you and act like there's some sort of emergency that you have to go to. Apologize to said person and tell him you have to go. ", "Saying something about how you are inconveniencing the person is best. \"I really shouldn't hold you longer, I know you have important things to do.\" \n\nThe strategy should be to take away any bad feelings your conversation partner has about holding you up, but at the same time bid to end the conversation.\n", "Pull down your pants/boxers and do the \"flappy dick dance\". \n\nYou know the one, where you like thrust fast and your cock and balls flap up and down? Yeah, that's the one. That will end the conversation.", "Politeness, bluntness, and honesty. \"I'm going to go. It's been great chatting\" if it hasn't \"I'm going\"", "One of my employees always says to people when leaving a conversation. The pleasure has been all yours. Makes them laugh and then leave every time.", "My go to...\n\nAt the right moment or pause I say genuinely:\n\n\"I'll leave you alone now! Was awesome seeing you/talking to you/running into you/etc.\"", "Let the person you're talking to do the work, just say \"that's just before I got diagnosed with Bird Flu\"....", "Just to add on to this: what if you run into an old acquaintance who you don't really want to see, and they ask for your number or want to catch up sometime (in a non-romantic way)? ", "Just say hi, then: \"I gotta be some where, it was super nice to see you but I gotta take off. Have fun with your/best of luck with your (insert whatever ever they're doing/dealing with/talking about), bye!\" \n\nThen go", "Just be bold, honest, and kind \"Hey it was cool to see you! I have to keep it moving, I'm pressed for time\". I also found that saying \"I only have a couple minutes\" before you end the conversation gives the person a respectful amount of time to finish their thought", "It's just as awkward/ rude as you think it it is. So try to change your perception of it. A conversation has to have an end you have the right to end any exchange at whatever point you like. \"I'm sorry, but I have to get going\" while already making the motion wo walk signals some kind of urgency in your end of the conversation. You can do this \"starting the motion already\" also at parties. \"Ok, I'll go talk to other peope\". People have so many conversations in their lifetime, many don't really care how you end a conversation.", "In German you can leave telling a joke. (no, that's not the joke) Ich hab ihn gefunden. -Was? Wen? -Den Geh-Punkt.\nLeaving telling you found it. If they ask what, tell them the g-spot (meaning in German the point of time to go.) works great at a bar. ", "If lying to get away be vague about it, seem distant/distracted. Tell them you'll hit them up online sometime, must never ever do this. Important. It's the thought that counts.", "If it's someone I really don't want to talk to, I won't stop. I will just do a fly by \"Hey, how are you doing? Great seeing you!\" as I rush off.", "If I'm actually busy doing something I will simply say something like \"Alright, I better get back to [what I am doing]\". It's not calculated or planned or cold, simply a sincere 'I'm busy with XYZ, so I should get back to that otherwise I would like to continue talking'.\n\nIf I'm interested in the person but want to leave as we have spoken about a lot already and caught up, I will simply say something like \"Alright, nice seeing you\" and put my hand out or grab their shoulder depending on their body posture and it's a pretty smooth transition. \n\nI think if you get nervous about these things, and we ALL do at some point in our lives, it can be concerting but just stay rational and realize that conversation don't go on forever and someone has to say goodbye at some point.\n\nJust freestyle it and relax. Talking to people you know is one of the small pleasures of life that shouldn't be taxing on your stress levels.", "I've loved catching up with you! I wish I could stay and talk but I have to get going. So nice seeing you again.", "I'm socially awkward and I usually just say \"Goodbye, I will truly miss you, see you next year.\" then bows* and just walk fast as if I'm busy, but I'm not. I'm questioning myself why do I always bow.\nNeed to fix my habits, these tips helped a lot, thanks for posting this.", "I'm just the guy who usually pawns off whoever i'm talking with onto someone else and quietly leaves. ", "I'm a hard worker and am currently working one of the more stressful positions at my workplace. On a daily basis I will have coworkers come up and strike rather long interactions or will want to show me a video on their phone. The result is me standing in one spot about 10x longer than I normally do. But for some reason it seems kinda abrupt to tell them that I'm busy when in their mind the conversation would have lasted only another 30 seconds. Any subtle ways of saying that I don't have time to constantly be sidetracked?\n", "I'll usually just be like:\n\n\" oh man is that (name)? Hey im sorry i haven't seen this person in forever excuse me \" ", "I'll usually gently place my left hand on their right shoulder and tell them, \"it was so great to see you again. I have to run, but I enjoyed catching up.\" I'll quickly extend my right hand and initiate a handshake. I'd then start to walk away.\nThe placing the hand on the shoulder (depending on the context) is a nonthreatening way to refocus attention from the dying conversation. It causes the listener to change focus from the conversation, to the touch. You quickly get in the fact that you're leaving, their attention is divided between processing the touch, and your statement that you're leaving.\nWith attention divided, the listener's automatic response system kicks in, and they, without thinking, will give you a \"bye\" or other automatic response to your the ending of the conversation. You have now extended your hand for a handshake. Another automatic process kicks in, and they will normally shake your hand.\nYou've now diverted attention away from their automatic verbal response and they are now thinking about the handshake.\nYou've already started leaving at this point.", "I'd simply just go \"Oh, what time is it?\" and when they tell me go \"Oh, got to run, catch up another time\"\n\nDon't give a reason or explain what it is you need to do.\n\nIf they are friends that like you, which them wanting to converse indicates, their minds will figure out a reason thats acceptable, at least temporarily.\n\nDoesn't work if you already said what you was doing or were you was going. \n\nSaves you from having to be creative on the spot", "I'd say just know when to leave. You've got to leave your good impression and then \"that's all folks!\" Exit stage left", "I usually throw a massive compliment their way that stops them in their tracks. I walk away as they are trying to process it. Works like a charm every time.", "I kinda start slowly walking away while I'm finishing my sentence. Of course there was this girl that constantly wants to continue the conversation even though I'm a mile away from her. She always ends up shouting.", "I just wait until somebody else jumps into the conversation and leave. Quite literally slink away, to be honest. I think that's rude, though, but whatever. If people call me out on it, I just say that I \"don't like goodbyes\" when, in all truthfulness, I just didn't want to talk to them anymore. \n", "I just start checking my watch every few minutes, so it gives the impression I'm tracking time/have something to do. Then I'll just say \"good seeing you, xxx, but I've gotta run\". If I want to catch up on old times, tell them to call me or something, if not, just leave. ", "I don't think it really matters as long as you don't be awkward about it. Just say any legitimate reason to end the conversation; the other person won't care nor remember. Can you think of how someone ended a conversation with you over two days ago? Because I sure can't.", "I can be really chatty if I don't keep on top of it, so I do. I didn't learn the greatest conversation skills from my parents. I was steaming full speed ahead to becoming one of those folks, who don't take a cue before I was 21, so I had to learn quick.\n\nThis is what I do: If don't really know them, I feel like its what \" Hey,good morning\" \"good evening\" and \"good afternoon\" were built for if said in a sincere fashion. People return with the same and then they can decide if they continue with \"how's it going\" or whatever. Vice versa if they say something to me first.\n\n People are generally busy,focused on something or going somewhere when they are out(as am I too). I learned that its rude and selfish to not respect that space by default and its a lot more attractive when you do. Also, at the same time I learned to value my own space more. It all worked out, sure I figured it out a bit later then normal but whatever. K I should shut up now ; )", "I am a person who has to deal with a lot of people everyday. \nOne trick I have picked up on is that when I get pinned down in a long conversation - wait for a moment where we share a laugh - then start leaving. \n\n\n60% of the time it works every time. ", "I always use, \"Well, it's been good talking to you, but I'll let you get back to your day now.\" or \"I need to get back to ___.\" \"I have ___ soon.\" etc.", "Hey it was good seeing you but I've only got a little time to do this, I'll catch you later! *smile* *wave*", "Here in Northern Ireland,\"right fuck off you, I gotta do something,\" can work well. Other wise if I'm being polite I'd say,\"here, I have to go now, good chatting to ya, take it easy.\" ", "Ever since having my baby, I get into casual conversations with complete strangers every time we go out. Her bubbly personality just makes everyone so chatty. I usually end it with, \"well, you have a good one!\" or \"enjoy your day!\" It usually signifies that the conversation is over without too much discomfort. ", "Don't stop walking. Exchange brief hellos and don't stop. Happens all the time at work, completely effective. Many of us have to make meetings!\n\nAdditional: turn towards them and continue talking as you walk past, extending an arm outreached towards them, palm up, while you say how nice it is to run into them.", "Depending on how confident you are, just say you need/want to catch up with random friend elsewhere there. Another option is \"Hey, I enjoyed catching up/talking with you, but I really have to use the restroom/etc.\"\n\nIn general most people realize that they don't define your world and you have other things to do.", "At parties I always just say \"hey, it was nice talking to you. I'm gonna go make some more friends though, I'll see you around.\" Works every time.", "At an opportune moment, say something like, \"I guess we'll find out!\" or \"That's how it goes!\" with a smile, looking at them - adding a \"Well I'm outta here, later!\" or something like that immediately after where appropriate - and then turn away/walk away without a beat.\n\nIt can feel a bit strong if you aren't used to it, but it comes off more like you're making a decision about the interaction (nothing left to talk about, ergo time to stop talking, make it quick and painless) instead of like you're awkwardly trying to escape.\n\n", "Always speak for yourself. Exercise brevity and patience to show confidence. Example: 'Excuse me.' small pause for eye contact/polite smile, and exit. If you get the feeling the other person wants to keep talking, find a point to compliment/affirm and immediately follow that with a yes/no request to continue the conversation at a specific time (try to find a finite time if you have a problem with things getting drawn out, like lunch or break). This communicates that you value what they have to say while asserting your priorities.\n\nNow let's say you have all the time in world and you are just not interested in what ever is being yaked at you, but it is from someone whose feelings you would like to protect. Remember that the world is full of good and interesting things to do, and that self care is one of them. It is OK to say 'excuse me, I need/would like to take care of some things.' Leave the conversation about you coworker's boyfriend's paintings, and go home to work on your stamp collection. Affirm and offer to continue to talk if you want, but it is okay to take charge of your time without a specific explanation.", "A strategy I've read somewhere is start the conversation off by saying \"I can't talk for long but...\" so then when you're done with the conversation just say you have to go and the other person will be much more understanding and it can be done in as few words as possible. ", "A lot of people suggest lying or deception (suggesting you have an urgent need to leave when you don't necessarily) - I strongly urge you not to do this as people can tell when you are lying, and it will be obvious if you actually have a legitimate need. It's also insulting to suggest someone isn't as I,portent as your errand, or that somehow you aren't in control of your own life (ie, I really need to run).\n\nWhat you want to do is inform the, that the conversation is ended, and that you appreciated their time. If you're so inclined, you can share with them what you'll be doing next (but this isn't necessary). \n\nBe confident, and declarative. \"I'm going to go run some errands, I enjoyed talking to you...speak with you later.\"", "\"hey it was nice talking to you! I have to run I was on my way to x,y,z\" follow with an enthusiastic \"I'll catch up with you after while yeah? alrighty see you later!\"", "\"Wish I could hang out and talk more but I need to run.\" If they don't let you go then just say ok, see you later and leave. ", "\"It was really great seeing you, but I've got to run. Take care.\"\n\nIf you really like them and want to catch up get their number or email.", "\"It was good to see you; I gotta go [do x] now, but hope to see you around sometime! [follow up with inside joke]\" \n\nIt's direct (you're honest) and people understand that when you gotta go, you gotta go. The inside joke bit is just to show that you genuinely like that person and that you guys are closer than strangers, and they feel good about it too as they can see they have a friend in you. \n\nAlthough I've put [insert things here], it's never mechanical as I feel it can only look genuine if you genuinely like the person (like most other positive things).\n\n\n", "\"Excuse me for a moment.\" \n\nWorks everytime. Even when I just walk away and stand In The corner and stop talking to everyone to regain my introvert powers (I regain them by not giving a fuck)", "\"Anyways man, it's been nice talking to you but I really gotta go now! I'll catch you later!\" or something like that. They won't think you're a dick for leaving, people have shit to do and everyone knows this.", "While standing there get really wide eyed and say the first crazy thing that pops into your head. OMG i forgot the cheese balls she is going to fucking murder me if I don't bring the proper tribute to the temple this evening.\n\nOr just be like well it has been great catching up but I really have to get going or I am going to be late.", "Usually i'll leading with casual body language, like turning your body at an angle you may be planning to move or taking a step in that direction is a good way to start a comfortable wrap-up to a conversation.( hopefully that makes sense. It's all situational of course and i could write a ton on just the body language aspect of this.)\n\nAnd if you seem happy with the encounter it shouldn't be took awkward to verbally wrap-up in the same way people often do during phone conversation. There is a shift in tone people usually use that comes before they say good bye or that they have to go. Often you hear this when people say, \"alright[insert \"goodbye]\" or \"okay well[insert i have to go]\".\n\nOf course if there is any sense of urgency then i just apologize and say i have something i need to get done or whatever.", "Pretend to have an email / message on your smartphone and immediately start typing while saying \"I hate to do this, but I gotta leave.\" ", "If you don't really have to be somewhere else, but want them to leave you alone... \"that's fantastic/awful/surprising. Well, I won't keep you any longer. Thanks for the chat.\" It's a way of pretending they're busy and you're being considerate. Works sometimes. ", "\"While it was interesting to run into you again, i have things to do, have a great life.\"\n\nYou have to make it obvious, or they feel invited to continue or try and bother you again.", "I have an awesome way of doing this that I have used many, many times.\nStep 1: Abruptly look at your phone, say something like \"hold on, I got a text\" or if your in a group just whip out your phone to text.\nStep 2: While \"texting\", do not text, instead open up your alarm clock/timer app and set that baby. 1 minute if your in a hurry, 3-5 minutes to be safe. TIP- set an alarm tone that sounds most like a ringtone.\nStep 3: Wait, stay as engaged and interested in that person as long as you can.\nStep 4: Fake answer that bitch. Say something like \"whats up dude\" or \"Hey, I've been waiting for you to call\". Then look to the person you've been in a conversation with and say \"I gotta take this\" then follow up with a \"I'll catch you later\" or \"It was nice talking to you\".\nStep 5: Well done, your free, now go and live your life." ]

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[ "How to stay alone for two months without being homesick? Ok im a 21 yo male, currently doing my 2 month internship at an automobile industry. I have never stayed away from home ever. This is my first time staying away. I feel terribly homesick all the time, I have no roommate at the place where im staying, even at work it can get very hectic and I work alone with no other intern. It gets very difficult to spend time. I know im old enough to be matured, but lets face it, its my first time away. I stay alone, I travel alone, I work alone. I hardly meet any other interns. And im not allowed to carry any gadgets to work. Any ideas how to make these two months a lot easier? ", "How to stay alone for two months without being homesick? Ok im a 21 yo male, currently doing my 2 month internship at an automobile industry. I have never stayed away from home ever. This is my first time staying away. I feel terribly homesick all the time, I have no roommate at the place where im staying, even at work it can get very hectic and I work alone with no other intern. It gets very difficult to spend time. I know im old enough to be matured, but lets face it, its my first time away. I stay alone, I travel alone, I work alone. I hardly meet any other interns. And im not allowed to carry any gadgets to work. Any ideas how to make these two months a lot easier? ", "How to stay alone for two months without being homesick? Ok im a 21 yo male, currently doing my 2 month internship at an automobile industry. I have never stayed away from home ever. This is my first time staying away. I feel terribly homesick all the time, I have no roommate at the place where im staying, even at work it can get very hectic and I work alone with no other intern. It gets very difficult to spend time. I know im old enough to be matured, but lets face it, its my first time away. I stay alone, I travel alone, I work alone. I hardly meet any other interns. And im not allowed to carry any gadgets to work. Any ideas how to make these two months a lot easier? ", "How to stay alone for two months without being homesick? Ok im a 21 yo male, currently doing my 2 month internship at an automobile industry. I have never stayed away from home ever. This is my first time staying away. I feel terribly homesick all the time, I have no roommate at the place where im staying, even at work it can get very hectic and I work alone with no other intern. It gets very difficult to spend time. I know im old enough to be matured, but lets face it, its my first time away. I stay alone, I travel alone, I work alone. I hardly meet any other interns. And im not allowed to carry any gadgets to work. Any ideas how to make these two months a lot easier? " ]

[ "I wish I could go back and tell myself to stop being such a bitch when I moved away for my internship/college (though this was like 8 years ago). You're gonna miss the freedom when it's over. Then you'll move out for real and life *actually* starts. Couldn't be better", "Why do you keep talking about meeting other interns? You should be looking to talk with, socialise with, and network with people already in the field. You're an adult, please don't fall into the \"I can't talk to that person, they're 30\" trap, you're not a teenager ", "So what city are you in? have you gone out and explored it? What do you do when you're off work? Sitting around being alone with your thoughts usually doesn't bring much excitement.", "Game online with friends a bit?\n\nGo on meet ups and see if there is any groups in the area you are interested in. " ]

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[ "How do I keep my eyes open for eye drops? I make a conscious effort to keep my eyes open, but I unconsciously keep closing my eyes and I end up wasting eye drops.\n\nIs there a technique for people like me?", "How do I keep my eyes open for eye drops? I make a conscious effort to keep my eyes open, but I unconsciously keep closing my eyes and I end up wasting eye drops.\n\nIs there a technique for people like me?", "How do I keep my eyes open for eye drops? I make a conscious effort to keep my eyes open, but I unconsciously keep closing my eyes and I end up wasting eye drops.\n\nIs there a technique for people like me?", "How do I keep my eyes open for eye drops? I make a conscious effort to keep my eyes open, but I unconsciously keep closing my eyes and I end up wasting eye drops.\n\nIs there a technique for people like me?", "How do I keep my eyes open for eye drops? I make a conscious effort to keep my eyes open, but I unconsciously keep closing my eyes and I end up wasting eye drops.\n\nIs there a technique for people like me?", "How do I keep my eyes open for eye drops? I make a conscious effort to keep my eyes open, but I unconsciously keep closing my eyes and I end up wasting eye drops.\n\nIs there a technique for people like me?" ]

[ "Put a hefty amount of solution where your tear duct is with your held tilted back all the way (closest to your nose). After that simply open your eye. The solution will pool between your nose and eye and when you open your eye it will only have one place to go\n\n", "Grab ye index finga n pleace it on ye top eyeled. Grab ye thumb and pleace it on ye bottom eyeled. Usen both finges spread open ye eyes and aim ye eye drop onto ye eyes. Then squeeze the bottle into ye eyes as hard as ye can.", "When I got lasik I wasn't allowed to touch my eyelids when I needed drops so was told to touch the skin around my cheekbone and pull down instead. Less freaky than prying your eyelid open. \nI also don't hold the bottle too close, I look way up and drip it in, I miss a few times, but as long as my eyes are open it will eventually get in. Maybe you get freaked out because the bottle is close and you can see it. ", "Just remember that the coming drop isn't some strong acid which will explode your eye. It's for your health and for your benefit.", "I'm the same way.\nBest I can do is lean my head to the side and put the drops in my tear duct and kind of just let them slide into my eye. XP", "I open the bottom eyelid with finger and lean a bit backward and on side, putting drop there, carefully. Don't touch your eye with nozzle and try to look in mirror and keep iris out of nozzles way, so that you're not scared by something approaching your eye :)" ]

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[ "Buying tickets from scalpers? I'm trying to go to a concert on Friday but the show has been sold out for some time now, so I am thinking I'm just going to show up and try to buy my ticket from a scalper outside. I've never done this before so I was wondering if there is any tips on this such as spotting a fake ticket or anything else of the nature.", "Buying tickets from scalpers? I'm trying to go to a concert on Friday but the show has been sold out for some time now, so I am thinking I'm just going to show up and try to buy my ticket from a scalper outside. I've never done this before so I was wondering if there is any tips on this such as spotting a fake ticket or anything else of the nature." ]

[ "I've never personally gotten scalped tickets, but I read this a week ago and it has some good information. \nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/SFGiants/comments/1cefpy/anyone_have_tips_on_buying_tickets_from_a_scalper/c9ftonc \nHope this helps!", "I've bought a TON of scalped tickets right before shows and other live events. A few things to keep in mind:\n\n1. I've never, ever encountered fake tickets. I don't think you have to worry about this too much. However, if they are \"e-tickets\" (PDF files that have been printed by the end-user) then there is at least a slim chance that someone has already entered on that SKU (bar code), so there's some risk involved there.\n\n2. If you are going to an event with assigned seats, make sure you have a fairly decent idea of where you'd like to sit (or more importantly, where you DON'T want to sit). Scalpers don't want to stand around while you get out a seating chart.\n\n3. If you are buying a pair of tickets, make sure the seats are side-by-side or piggyback. I have been burned by this before.\n\n4. If you have a good idea of what your max is that you'd like to spend, keep that amount in one pocket. If you think you might be willing to go up another $10-20, keep that in another pocket. And carry smaller bills. Scalpers don't like to make change, they aren't cashiers.\n\n5. Good things come to those who wait. If you start looking an hour before showtime, you're going to pay a lot. If you wait till the opening act, you're looking at closer to face value. If you get the nerve to wait even longer, the price will drop. \n\n6. This may go without saying, but when someone asks, \"anyone selling tickets?\" That means THEY are selling.\n\nGood luck hope you get in." ]

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[ "Advice on feeling less powerless (besides martial arts)? I grew up with a really narcissistic and violent dad (towards me and my mom). The combination of him constantly putting me down and being bigger than me and physically abusing me always made me feel so powerless. I'm an adult now, more similar in size to him, but I still have feelings of that powerlessness, even though I essentially cut off contact with him at this point (for a few years now). \n\nAny advice on feeling less powerless?\n\nA few things -\n\n1. Already gone through a few therapists, somewhat helpful but not a ton\n\n2. Martial arts aren't really an option due to some medical issues I grew up with which would make martial arts not the best idea. This just contributes to feelings of powerlessness, unfortunately. I do feel stronger and better from lifting weights and working out at least.", "Advice on feeling less powerless (besides martial arts)? I grew up with a really narcissistic and violent dad (towards me and my mom). The combination of him constantly putting me down and being bigger than me and physically abusing me always made me feel so powerless. I'm an adult now, more similar in size to him, but I still have feelings of that powerlessness, even though I essentially cut off contact with him at this point (for a few years now). \n\nAny advice on feeling less powerless?\n\nA few things -\n\n1. Already gone through a few therapists, somewhat helpful but not a ton\n\n2. Martial arts aren't really an option due to some medical issues I grew up with which would make martial arts not the best idea. This just contributes to feelings of powerlessness, unfortunately. I do feel stronger and better from lifting weights and working out at least.", "Advice on feeling less powerless (besides martial arts)? I grew up with a really narcissistic and violent dad (towards me and my mom). The combination of him constantly putting me down and being bigger than me and physically abusing me always made me feel so powerless. I'm an adult now, more similar in size to him, but I still have feelings of that powerlessness, even though I essentially cut off contact with him at this point (for a few years now). \n\nAny advice on feeling less powerless?\n\nA few things -\n\n1. Already gone through a few therapists, somewhat helpful but not a ton\n\n2. Martial arts aren't really an option due to some medical issues I grew up with which would make martial arts not the best idea. This just contributes to feelings of powerlessness, unfortunately. I do feel stronger and better from lifting weights and working out at least.", "Advice on feeling less powerless (besides martial arts)? I grew up with a really narcissistic and violent dad (towards me and my mom). The combination of him constantly putting me down and being bigger than me and physically abusing me always made me feel so powerless. I'm an adult now, more similar in size to him, but I still have feelings of that powerlessness, even though I essentially cut off contact with him at this point (for a few years now). \n\nAny advice on feeling less powerless?\n\nA few things -\n\n1. Already gone through a few therapists, somewhat helpful but not a ton\n\n2. Martial arts aren't really an option due to some medical issues I grew up with which would make martial arts not the best idea. This just contributes to feelings of powerlessness, unfortunately. I do feel stronger and better from lifting weights and working out at least.", "Advice on feeling less powerless (besides martial arts)? I grew up with a really narcissistic and violent dad (towards me and my mom). The combination of him constantly putting me down and being bigger than me and physically abusing me always made me feel so powerless. I'm an adult now, more similar in size to him, but I still have feelings of that powerlessness, even though I essentially cut off contact with him at this point (for a few years now). \n\nAny advice on feeling less powerless?\n\nA few things -\n\n1. Already gone through a few therapists, somewhat helpful but not a ton\n\n2. Martial arts aren't really an option due to some medical issues I grew up with which would make martial arts not the best idea. This just contributes to feelings of powerlessness, unfortunately. I do feel stronger and better from lifting weights and working out at least.", "Advice on feeling less powerless (besides martial arts)? I grew up with a really narcissistic and violent dad (towards me and my mom). The combination of him constantly putting me down and being bigger than me and physically abusing me always made me feel so powerless. I'm an adult now, more similar in size to him, but I still have feelings of that powerlessness, even though I essentially cut off contact with him at this point (for a few years now). \n\nAny advice on feeling less powerless?\n\nA few things -\n\n1. Already gone through a few therapists, somewhat helpful but not a ton\n\n2. Martial arts aren't really an option due to some medical issues I grew up with which would make martial arts not the best idea. This just contributes to feelings of powerlessness, unfortunately. I do feel stronger and better from lifting weights and working out at least." ]

[ "I don't know what your medial issues are, but if you lift weights, you might be able to get into martial arts that don't focus on striking. Jiu jitsu for example focusses on bringing fights to the ground and handling your opponent from there. Maybe that's something you can do. As with an physical ability, you can take it at your own pace. ", "There's a lot of willpower involved in this, but to be honest the only thing I can recommend is to keep working out and maybe do continue with therapy and/or opening up to someone close who you trust.", "Learn and apply the habits of Leonardo da Vinci to your life. He analyzed everything, took notes on everything, taught himself to be ambidextrous, challenged his senses by studying colors, sounds, textures, and smells. (He was also the town strong-man and used to entertain the kids by straightening out horseshoes for them with his bare hands.) Feed your curiosity and when exposed to new things, spend a moment to consider that thing's connection to other things you have already learned. \n\nWith years of practice you'll become your own oracle, and with growing confidence in your own abilities, your self-esteem--where the problem almost certainly lies right now--will increase to a level where you're no longer interested in deferring to mere mortals.\n\nFor those of you who just can't stomach the biographies of historical figures, Batman is the Leonardo da Vinci of the comic book world. Batman created himself through analysis, study, practice and effort.\n\n", "I felt more self-confidence after doing a parachute jump. If this is something you'd like to try, there are options:\n\nStatic-line jump: This is a parachute jump rather than a skydive. A line attaches your chute to the aircraft. The line opens your chute after you fall a few metres. You will steer yourself to the dropzone. You can do this alone. If you like it, you can do more of the same and work up to a solo freefall over time.\n\nTandem jump: You are harnessed to a very experienced skydiver. You will experience freefall. Your professional will steer you both to the dropzone. If you like it, you can try one of the solo options next.\n\nAccelerated freefall course: You can experience solo freefall with more intense training.\n\nI did mostly static jumps and thoroughly enjoyed flying the canopy down each time. You'll be trained how to do it.\n\nAlteratively, a course in public speaking might give you a feeling of confidence and control in an area that makes a lot of people uncomfortable.", "I have a problem with feeling out of control and overwhelmed and have found making to-do lists helps me feel in control and everything a bit more manageable. \n\nI wonder if you could apply something like this to the problem of feeling powerless. What about volunteering at an animal shelter? Walking dogs, etc. You'd be in control and making a difference. Helping out at a nursing home might help too. ", "Have you tried churning towards an empowering religion? Some pagan religions come to mind: Asatru, Druidry, Bhudism. " ]

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[ "How to find yourself again after your perception of yourself has been shattered. Title. Some drama went down due to a misunderstanding that ended in a huge fight where I was accused of a great many things. I feel most of these allegations are false, but I have spent the past week feeling depressed because I'm questioning everything about myself.", "How to find yourself again after your perception of yourself has been shattered. Title. Some drama went down due to a misunderstanding that ended in a huge fight where I was accused of a great many things. I feel most of these allegations are false, but I have spent the past week feeling depressed because I'm questioning everything about myself." ]

[ "Write down exactly what you're feeling, that always helps me. Take a long drive. Go running. Burn stuff that have bad memories attached to them (very cathartic, be careful). ", "Regardless of thoughts and occurrences of the past, people can only change the future. Moving forward be your best you that you know how. Not for others and their perception, that's a separate transcendence to go through, to figure if and what about it matters. Yes, wounds take time to heal, but they are insignificant when one considers true life and relationships. The relationships that are worth fixing, putting time and effort into." ]

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[ "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?", "How to get out of, or win, a bar fight I go with my friends to some bars in town that tend to have a lot of assholes who like to pick fights. God forbid I get into one, what do I do other than swing away or run away?" ]

[ "threaten to jerk the guy off. Watch Blue Mountain State for more further instruction. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MaaUMOaNshs", "Obviously try to avoid the fight. To what extent you want to take this approach depends on how much pride you are willing to sacrifice to get out of one. Apologize, even if you weren't wrong. Offer to buy the guy a drink. Beg. Plead. Cry. Your call.\n\nBefore it even gets to the point where you or your friends may get in a fight, find a bouncer and explain the situation to him. It's their job to prevent fights. \n\nIf a fight is inevitable, don't panic and don't swing wildly. Stay as calm as you can. If you have a drink in a glass, a good move is to throw the contents - not the glass - into your opponents crotch. He will almost always instinctively look down. Seize that moment and strike. If possible, try not to punch your opponent in the face. Couple of reasons, one, it can really hurt your hand and two, it will decrease your liability. It may be a cheap shot, but hit him in the balls. You ain't looking to make friends, you're looking to get as minimally injured as possible. A good shot to the diaphragm can quickly incapacitate an opponent, too. \n\nProtect your head. If you get hurt, try as hard as you can to keep your feet. Cover your head if you can't tie up your opponent. If you get knocked to the ground, turtle. I've seen lots of guys get clocked trying to get back to their feet because they let their guard down. ", "Take self-defense classes for a few years. \n\nIt won't only be useful in bar fights. It's also a serious boost to your self-confidence -- knowing you could defend yourself from anyone encourages you to assert yourself more often.", "Bars don't like fights, they are bad for business. They clear out rooms, they spill drinks that should be comped in return, people get hurt, reputation of the bar gets tarnished..... I've been a bartender for a long time so I can spot problem customers a mile away. I would imagine if you pay attention to people's behavior you can too. When you spot these guys, stay away, hang near a security guard, if things escalate tip the guard off. They would much rather snuff a fight out before it starts. \n\nIf you can choose between running and fighting choose to run. If shit goes down punches will come from every direction, you might just be fighting one guy or you might be fighting his 5 friends too. Things will be thrown at your head, these things are usually made of glass. If you are a part of the fight you now have security after you, some guards lack professionalism and use these opportunities to beat people up. After 12 years I have been in many,many bar fights as an employee, I will go nowhere near them as a customer. \n\nIf you HAVE to fight, hit first, hit hard, leave immediately! ", "never let anyone who you think wants to hurt you within arms reach\n\n\ntry to diffuse the situation by being relaxed, dont \"beg\" for him to stop harassing you\n\n\nif all fails, either punch first or run first", "Explain that you are not out for a fight and are a very mean fighter. Not strong but dirty.\n\nIf someone still wants to fight with you, first explain to them that you will only aim for their balls, their eyes, their throat, their nose, that you will bite and claw and everything.\n\nIf they are still out for a fight, just do that.\n\nYou'll rarely have a fight if ever and you'll never have a second fight in the same place/with the same guys.", "LPT: You never win a bar fight. You never win in any fight. Stop the violence fools, humans are meant for much more important things.", "Are you old enough to remember Gunsmoke? What you want to do is go all Marshall Dillon on him. This video will explain it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lnKG_DvAho", "It doesn't matter how good a fighter you are, there is always someone bigger and better than you.\n\nHaving been a bar tender for a few years, its not hard to notice that the smarter guys are the ones who are less drunk. They have their awareness about them. They don't have ego. The even smarter ones have already left the bar before everyone else is wasted and they have gone with a few of the girls to a smaller intimate bar or comedy club or whatnot. \n\nPut it this way, if all you have going on in your life is to frequent what can essentially be, by the end of the evening, a large and populated boxing ring, then you're probably going to receive a couple of jabs now and then.\n\n\n\n" ]

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[ "How do you feel less inadequate / valuable in general in life? Have a hard time talking to people in general due to extreme anxiety. I know this sub may not be the best place to ask but I like the people here (based on the LPTs posted &amp; answers) &amp; wondered if anyone has dealt with feelings of extreme inadequacy &amp; knows how to reframe. I know everyone in the world has value but I have a hard time believing that for myself.", "How do you feel less inadequate / valuable in general in life? Have a hard time talking to people in general due to extreme anxiety. I know this sub may not be the best place to ask but I like the people here (based on the LPTs posted &amp; answers) &amp; wondered if anyone has dealt with feelings of extreme inadequacy &amp; knows how to reframe. I know everyone in the world has value but I have a hard time believing that for myself.", "How do you feel less inadequate / valuable in general in life? Have a hard time talking to people in general due to extreme anxiety. I know this sub may not be the best place to ask but I like the people here (based on the LPTs posted &amp; answers) &amp; wondered if anyone has dealt with feelings of extreme inadequacy &amp; knows how to reframe. I know everyone in the world has value but I have a hard time believing that for myself.", "How do you feel less inadequate / valuable in general in life? Have a hard time talking to people in general due to extreme anxiety. I know this sub may not be the best place to ask but I like the people here (based on the LPTs posted &amp; answers) &amp; wondered if anyone has dealt with feelings of extreme inadequacy &amp; knows how to reframe. I know everyone in the world has value but I have a hard time believing that for myself.", "How do you feel less inadequate / valuable in general in life? Have a hard time talking to people in general due to extreme anxiety. I know this sub may not be the best place to ask but I like the people here (based on the LPTs posted &amp; answers) &amp; wondered if anyone has dealt with feelings of extreme inadequacy &amp; knows how to reframe. I know everyone in the world has value but I have a hard time believing that for myself.", "How do you feel less inadequate / valuable in general in life? Have a hard time talking to people in general due to extreme anxiety. I know this sub may not be the best place to ask but I like the people here (based on the LPTs posted &amp; answers) &amp; wondered if anyone has dealt with feelings of extreme inadequacy &amp; knows how to reframe. I know everyone in the world has value but I have a hard time believing that for myself." ]

[ "Stop comparing yourself to others, that's playing a game to someone else's rules. You'll never win. Social media is a toxic waste site for this. \n\nLook at yourself today, objectively. Pick something, try to improve upon it even the tiniest bit. Rinse and repeat daily. Always remember, you are not trying to be better than me. You are trying to be a better you.", "It's a cliche for a reason, put down the devices and go outside. I understand you said that you're dealing with anxiety; there's loads of information that supports getting outside and going for a walk is a great way to calm.\n\nThen find a volunteer role that you can do. Read to kids at the library, read or visit with old or disabled folks at a care facility. Go to a food bank and help out. Go to a food kitchen and help serve the needy. Deliver meals on wheels. Cut the lawn or shovel the walk for older or disabled neighbors.\n\nOnce you start making improvements in other people's lives, you will see your confidence and self worth improve.", "Set a really simple goal -- anything you can do in the next 10 minutes, go reach that goal, and then physically check it off. Checking it off will release dopamine increasing the odds you'll want to do this again. Keep doing this over and over. You'll start to build self-confidence that you are a person who can reach all types of goals and you can branch out in many ways from this point.", "You need to know why you have these feelings.\nThese days it's generally because of the lies people project on social media, making their existences seem fantastic, when is reality they're just ordinary like you and I.\nDon't use an internet stick to measure your worth.\nDon't use any stick.\nDon't even measure it.\nThere is nobody worth a single point more than either of us.", "My daughter has the similar thing. She is spending hardtime at school these days. I'm so sad that there is nothing for me to help her school life. I just try to cheer her up and give much love to her. I hope you know that there are someone who love you.", "Exercise. Less social media. And reminding myself that my anxiety can still exist and I can do things ANYWAY." ]

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[ "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)", "How to stay awake without the use of caffeine and such? Currently in the most important week of my highschooling life and I will be pulling some late, if not all, nighters in the next couple of days. I don't drink coffee so I was wondering what are some good tips for staying awake? (Already drinking lots of water.)" ]

[ "All nighters are totally counter productive, raising cortisol levels stressing you out, concentration totally plummets. Basically diminishing returns\n\nIf you're doing multiple all-nighters you will totally destroy yourself mentally, structure your work, get 8 hours sleep. It's far more productive.", "Eat sunflower seeds in the shell. When I was a helicopter gunner in Iraq we would fly extremely boring missions just going from base to base. A long day with little sleep staring out at vast Sandy nothingness with the rhythmic hum of a helicopter engine (obviously we all wore very good hearing protection) will put you to sleep pretty quick. I would just grab a handful of sunflower seeds, hold them in my cheek, crack and eat them one at a time. No amount of caffeine will keep you awake and alert as well as sunflower seeds.\n", "Ok, here's what I did when I worked nights as a courier driver on medium distance routes (boring like hell):\neat citrons.\n\nNo joke. Get a citron from organic farming (so the skin can touch the inner parts), wash it, cut it into quarters or eights and keep it in a resealable box (Tupperware).\n\nWhenever you feel that your attention is fading, pick one out of the box and - eat it. Bite into it, chew it, swallow.\nThis absolutely keeps you awake **and** it is healthy. Lots of vitamin C in there. Night time drivers easily seem to catch colds, this helps a lot.", "Get up and move around if you feel yourself losing focus. If you can handle it, put on your headphones and listen to energetic music. More importantly, take breaks and sleep if you need to. I don't know if you're just studying, but if you don't sleep that info is not gonna stick and you'll be tired as fuck when you take that exam or present that project. \n\nI once pulled an all nighter to finish a major project to be presented the next day and I scored well, but I was running on a singular cup of tea and almost fell asleep during all of my classes. It was a weeeeeiird day for me.", "1. Skip the monster energy. You will crash. Try icewater instead - and turn the AC really cold. Cold things help you stay awake\n2. Eat. Real food. If you're going to be awake extra hours, you're going to need extra food. Have another meal around 1 or 2 AM: an actual meal, with protein, preferably not too big of a meal though or else you risk post food sleepiness.\n3. Physical activity. As other posters mentioned, stress hormones increase if you pull an all nighter. You'll want to keep that in check by taking breaks to go for a walk.\n4. DO NOT TAKE NAPS. You will fall asleep, unless you're a very very light sleeper.\nsource: I LARP in a horror setting. events last the whole weekend. I don't sleep.", "If you have an Iphone buy sleep cycle. It helps a lot. Doesn't really help you stay awake, but it seemed to have helped me go throughout the day better.", "Here's what to do when coming up to exam time. \n\nFix your sleep schedule\n\nTry sleep at 9 and wake up at 3-4. Its actually easier working after waking than before sleep. It will take a while to adjust but with zero chance for distractions its a lot better", "Eating can help wake you up when you're feeling tired. I like to munch on something like sunflower seeds (in the shell) since you can munch on them for a long time without eating too much. ", "\nTake it from a college senior: all-nighters are super counter productive. Your brain sorts out a lot of information when you sleep, so a concept you didn't understand last night may make more sense in the morning. When you stay up all night studying, all learning and recall ability becomes impaired and you will likely do worse on your exam (it's a tested fact- look it up). \n\nIf you seriously have no other option than to spend hours and hours in your books, my recommendation would be study, sleep for 3-4 hours, and repeat. It's gotten me through a lot of exams in one piece. \n\nMaking flash cards or study references to glance at throughout the day works wonders too. Keep it on your desk and zone into it during a boring lesson or break time during class. ", "Yeah. Like everyone else said, dont do it. In college I had almost perfect grades with all nighters, but I would be missing some other classes to catch up on sleep or I would be getting sick.\nLack of sleep is the perfect trigger for all those germs you have been picking up from everywhere to act up and make you sick. I was hospitalized and had to take a year off from school (but this was after doing it for over a year). But you can fall into the bad habit. Once I got my sleep prioritized over studying, I had the highest grades in all my classes.", "When you're feeling foggy, get up and do some push ups or a plank or something to get your heart rate up then brush your teeth and drink some water. Saves my ass every night duty ", "It's early September - how is this the most important week of high school? \n\nAnyway, caffeine works. Take a \"no doze\" pill if you don't want to drink coffee or an energy drink. \n\nAnd don't listen to the doom and gloom crowd. You are young. You can pull an all-nighter and be okay, and you can go several nights in a row with just a few hours of sleep. You'll survive. Just realize that eventually you WILL crash and have to sleep for 12+ hours. ", "Don't do all nighters, you won't learn anything. I'm assuming you're revising for tests. So a good idea is to revise for two hours, spend fifteen minutes getting a drink of water or milk and do the toilet if you need to. Don't go on electronics because you'll find it hard to come off of them for recision. After your break go back to revising and do anything over two hours (two and a half - three hours) before another break. And already that's around five hours revision. Keep doing a couple of hours with small breaks then you should do good.\n\n\nDon't do all nighters because they stress you out and you won't remember **anything**" ]

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[ "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?", "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?", "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?", "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?", "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?", "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?", "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?", "Effective studying tips This probably isn't a surprise request for this time of year - it's school/college/university exam season for a lot of people.\n\n My university modules this year have a wide variety of exam styles, and we've been warned against question spotting, so repeatedly doing past papers may not be much help.\n\nSome require recalling lots of definitions and facts;\nSome need a comprehensive, \"intuitive\" knowledge of concepts (where understanding the principle is more important than a formal definition);\nand some are very mathematical (\"Calculate X using Y method\"). \n\nExams are fast approaching -- Any suggestions as to how best to use my time?" ]

[ "1. Get off reddit.\n\n2. Get off reddit.\n\n3. Get off reddit.\n\n4. Don't eat while studying\n\n5. Study in quiet place\n\n6. No music while studying\n\n7. No studying in place where someone else is\n\n8. GET THE FUCK OFF REDDIT ", "It depends on the class. For science and math, note cards of facts to help memorize them can help. Keep an erasable marker in your bathroom and in your kitchen, and write terms on your mirror (bathroom) and fridge (kitchen). As you define them correctly, erase them and replace with a new one. that's how I learned the periodic table.\n\nFor complicated math problems, notecard the beginning problem and ask at the bottom: what is the first step? The back will have the next step. Make an accompanying card for the following step after that. Use these to train yourself on how to do that type of problem rather than just working similar problems over and over again. \n\nEnglish and other 'soft' classes (wherein critical thinking and essay type questions can be asked insteaad of definitions)- bullet point the professor's lectures for each day of the semester. Pick one unifying bullet point that encapsulates each one on a note card or piece of paper, and then shuffle and go through and see how well you can exemplify that topic. Repeat until you've got the material down.\n\nAs far as studying in general- have a study spot. It shouldn't be comfortable (don't study in bed). It should be quiet and away from distractions (don't study on a computer). Set time to study, away from everything else. Use the time wisely, don't use it figuring out *how* to study, when you sit down, you should have a plan in mind of what you're going to achieve.\n\nOnly study small groups of info at a time. Science has proven that we can only memorize 5-8 major concepts a day. Plan to study 5 or less concepts per study period. Go over those the next time you sit down to study to ensure they stick.\n\nTake breaks. Don't cram.\n\nTake your notecards everywhere- to the grocery store, friends' houses, the bathroom. Instead of checking facebook while you do your business, whip out your cards. Study one per stop light. Study while in line. Little bits of info will keep your brain sharp everywhere you go.", "1. [Long, but worth reading](http://artofmanliness.com/2012/01/03/ace-your-exams-study-tactics-of-the-successful-gentleman-scholar/)\n\n2. [Note taking strategies](http://artofmanliness.com/2012/01/27/write-this-down-note-taking-strategies-for-academic-success/)", "studies have shown that if you chew gum while you study and chew that same flavor of gum during the test it will help you remember the answers", "get this if you have chrome.\nhttps://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji?utm_source=chrome-ntp-icon ", "Start by trying to find out what topics are on the exam, high school teachers were always really good about that one. Write out a brief summary of your knowledge on said topics and ask a peer what topics you've missed and what sections they can add to. Then you have your basis next the actual studying, plan a time I usually decide 2 hrs from 6-8 that you will not be interrupted to work, go to the washroom first, bring snacks if necessary, bring lots of water Not pop Not coffee NOT energy drinks. Water, hydration is extremely important and caffeine is detriments to focus. Now your set, review notes and lectures or what have you from class on the topics you don't remember as well, it helps to have wikipedia ready. You will probably need to turn off your phone, skype, facebook, and ignore invitations.\nIt is extremely important that you do not atudy late the night before an exam, it will not help your knowledge, you may sleep through the exam, writing will be slower, you will remember less. Sleep well the eve of battle for you will need your strength", "If you need to learn things like definitions and stuff, I found a really simple but effective notecard generator [here](http://www.kitzkikz.com/flashcards/). It's very user friendly but still has a convenient range of features. If anyone can recommend a better one though, please let me know!", "I've always had problems studying until my college teacher told me a simple technique that's proven awesome for most subjects.\n\nWrite down only what you do not know, be honest with yourself. If you don't know it currently, or think you kinda know it but may forget it, write it down.\n\nAfter you've made a list of all the stuff you don't know, go down the list in intervals during your day. Go over the list a few times, wait say 20 minutes, go over it again a few times. Do this until you know everything on the list. Instead of re-reading chapters over and over, flipping pages back and forth or trying to find highlights - just make a simple numbered list of what you don't know. Seperate it and pull up the list every 20 - 30 minutes and read it a few times over without distractions and slowly to yourself. You can go about your redditing, watching a movie until it's time again.\n\nIF you have extra time...\n\nTo maximize this effect, try to involve the most amount of learning styles at once. Instead of just reading it in your head, write it, read it aloud, listen to yourself reading it back and follow with your finger, only if you have the time. Otherwise the above mentioned should do fine." ]

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[ "Encourage people at work to stay at home when they're sick to avoid infecting people, including your own boss? My office appears to have turned into a petri dish. There are always waves of illness going through the office, spreading from person to person.\n\nBrought it up at my team's retrospective meeting (I work at a tech company). People agreed that people should stay home when sick (and my boss was at that meeting and seemed to have agreed), but then no one seems to heed the advice.\n\nIt seems that people prioritize making that important meeting over each others' health. Even though we have great remote work infrastructure, and it's really easy to join a meeting remotely, or collaborate remotely. Yeah, I know it's not as good as being there in person, but neither is coughing and spewing snot out of your nose for a week.", "Encourage people at work to stay at home when they're sick to avoid infecting people, including your own boss? My office appears to have turned into a petri dish. There are always waves of illness going through the office, spreading from person to person.\n\nBrought it up at my team's retrospective meeting (I work at a tech company). People agreed that people should stay home when sick (and my boss was at that meeting and seemed to have agreed), but then no one seems to heed the advice.\n\nIt seems that people prioritize making that important meeting over each others' health. Even though we have great remote work infrastructure, and it's really easy to join a meeting remotely, or collaborate remotely. Yeah, I know it's not as good as being there in person, but neither is coughing and spewing snot out of your nose for a week.", "Encourage people at work to stay at home when they're sick to avoid infecting people, including your own boss? My office appears to have turned into a petri dish. There are always waves of illness going through the office, spreading from person to person.\n\nBrought it up at my team's retrospective meeting (I work at a tech company). People agreed that people should stay home when sick (and my boss was at that meeting and seemed to have agreed), but then no one seems to heed the advice.\n\nIt seems that people prioritize making that important meeting over each others' health. Even though we have great remote work infrastructure, and it's really easy to join a meeting remotely, or collaborate remotely. Yeah, I know it's not as good as being there in person, but neither is coughing and spewing snot out of your nose for a week.", "Encourage people at work to stay at home when they're sick to avoid infecting people, including your own boss? My office appears to have turned into a petri dish. There are always waves of illness going through the office, spreading from person to person.\n\nBrought it up at my team's retrospective meeting (I work at a tech company). People agreed that people should stay home when sick (and my boss was at that meeting and seemed to have agreed), but then no one seems to heed the advice.\n\nIt seems that people prioritize making that important meeting over each others' health. Even though we have great remote work infrastructure, and it's really easy to join a meeting remotely, or collaborate remotely. Yeah, I know it's not as good as being there in person, but neither is coughing and spewing snot out of your nose for a week.", "Encourage people at work to stay at home when they're sick to avoid infecting people, including your own boss? My office appears to have turned into a petri dish. There are always waves of illness going through the office, spreading from person to person.\n\nBrought it up at my team's retrospective meeting (I work at a tech company). People agreed that people should stay home when sick (and my boss was at that meeting and seemed to have agreed), but then no one seems to heed the advice.\n\nIt seems that people prioritize making that important meeting over each others' health. Even though we have great remote work infrastructure, and it's really easy to join a meeting remotely, or collaborate remotely. Yeah, I know it's not as good as being there in person, but neither is coughing and spewing snot out of your nose for a week." ]

[ "I agree, not only with work but also with schools. \n\nI hate that people turn up coughing and sneezing and passing on germs instead of getting better, but they're forced too. If they take too much time off, they lose out on pay, they get warnings, and they get treated shit. \n\nWith schools, my eldest had a HUGE fever for two weeks and was bleeding while she pissed. She was 6. The school were aware she was not in any state to come in. After two weeks of daily phoning up to inform them about her attendance they threatened to contact social services.\n\nPeople need to focus more on their health than forcing themselves to work for those who expect you to be healthy all the time.", "My company has started a culture of public shaming for people who come in sick. Yelling \"PLAGUE\" or handing them bottles of hand sanitizer seems to get the point across. It's cut down on people coming in sick", "Depending on your country, not all jobs have sick leave so perhaps people feel they need the cash so come into work?\n\nIm an aussie so we get two weeks sick leave a year which accumulates each year. Doctor certificates are needed for three days or more in a row, or if somone has really high sick leave.\n\nMy office frowns on people coming to work sick. Better to have one person out then an office. Our boss recently sent someone home who came in sick and told her I dont want to see you tofay or tomorrow.\n\nMy colleagues and i pitched in to cover her work and meetings.\n\nIf it's a matter people feel guilty and come in, maybe work out a way others can cover for the sick person. Im lucky my office has a very strong team mentality which our boss is the main person driving, so we all go the extra mile because we know others do it for us.\n\nToday you. Tomorrow me. Kind of stuff", "My school is very disapproving when you call in sick. Once you've had like 10% off in total, (all for unconnected illnesses, not operations or explained stuff like that) they start to fine your parents £60 a day every day you're not there, unless a doctor has written a note confirming you are actually Ill. Now I feel jealous of the boy who's dad is a doctor, causd my mum got an email saying I needed a doctor's not if I stayed off any longer, cause I had lost 10%. I'd had 2 days off, cause wed only been there 3 weeks or something", "Ask the company for work-from-home options, if that is relevant for your business. \nThat way, the colleagues still can work, but will not infect others." ]

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[ "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier", "How to deal with small angry dogs? I often visit my friend and he has a small angry dog that barks and tries to bite me everytime. I always get the urge to kick him away but I don't want to make my friend angry and if I were to kick the dog, he would just probably get angrier" ]

[ "As other people have mentioned, treats are a good option. To me, however, that is the easy way out, and it will also make him expect treats every time you come over.\n\nI recommend doing your absolute best to ignore the little yappy bastard. Yes, it is tough, but it should eventually work. If he tries to bite you, then a forceful shove with zero eye contact or acknowledgement has worked for me, in the past.\n\nEventually he should become less aggressive (which was probably based purely on insecurity) and he will get closer and probably start (literally) walking on you. During this stage I just push the dog off me to establish boundaries.\n\nIf you come over often enough and follow those rules, his annoying behavior should eventually taper off.", "Show dominance. Get the dog on its side and put a hand firmly on its front? shoulder. Hold it there for about 3 minutes after it stops fighting. \n\nRemember to hold firm, not strong. You want to keep it from getting up, not pushing it into the ground.", "I would try giving the dog treats and once it lets its guard down to eat it you carefully start petting it and getting the dog to understand you aren't a threat. Other than that it might just be a bitch (pun intended)", "As an owner of a small and fearless dachshund, I've had the joy of spending the last 1.5 years trying to learn how to handle situations like this with a smaller dog. My dachshund is one of the most loving dogs you will ever meet but during the first few minutes that she meets a new person, she is a completely different dog. The moment someone other than myself or my girlfriend enters our house, she immediately starts barking at them. For the first few months we had her, this is where things can get a little scary. \n\n&nbsp;\n\nBecause she's such a small dog, every person thinks it's OK to just reach down and pet her, even with her barking in their face. This resulted in a few people getting their hand nipped pretty hard. Then one day I had an epiphany while taking a minute to think about it from the dogs side. How would you react if some huge thing that you don't know is reaching down towards your head?\n\n&nbsp;\n\nThat being said, after paying closer attention to the situation when my dog is interacting with someone, I have noticed a few things that might help you. \n\n&nbsp;\n\nCrouch down to the dogs level. If at all possible, keep your hands back but low enough to where the dog can see them. Let the dog smell you and get to know you and then once they calm down (assuming they do) then slowly and deliberately make contact. \n\n&nbsp;\n\nAs cliche as it sounds confidence and body language play a fairly big role. If you're scared, nervous, or agitated, the dog will pick up on it. Instead, remain calm, let the dog check you out, and then if the dog responds well, lock it in with a treat.", "Your assumption is that the dog is angry just because he barks and bites. There are a few reasons why a dog would do this and not be angry. He might feel threatened, or jealous. Honestly my money would be on jealousy. Each dog is different. You might need to display dominance as suggested, or a treat, but ultimately you might just need to spend some quality time with the dog. You are an outsider and you're on his turf.", "Why isn't your friend restraining or crating his dog? If the dog bit me I'd kick it like I was attempting a 60 yard game winning field goal.", "This always makes me crazy. My family breeds German shepherds and trains guard dogs if you need some background. \n\nJust treat it like a dog. Dogs do not understand their size (great danes being lap dogs and chihuahuas acting like attack dogs are good examples) and act the same regardless. The difference is that people let little dogs get away with it because they're small and cute.\n\nThe dog's owner needs to either start disciplining (re: not punishing, disciplining) their dog for aggressive behavior or putting it away when there are people over. \n\nWhatever you do will be a temporary fix because it isn't getting a consistent message on how to behave from it's owner. Treats may help, but only give them to the dog when it's behaving, otherwise you may be reinforcing the barking/aggression. Ignoring it is an option, but it's hard to do when you're trying to talk to someone over that noise.", "Take some time to observe the dog's movements, particularly his eye movements. Then when he's not looking, empty a small jar of tabasco sauce on the back of his neck. He'll most likely flip out and leave you alone.", "If you're wearing shoes, stomp your foot and lean forward while rolling your shoulders forward and staring them in the eye. It's a dominance thing, let them know you're bigger and not going to put up with their shit.\n\nThough your friend might not appreciate this approach.", " Don't kick him. One thing you can do, and it is on the high end of dangerous, but wear a thick glove and padded jacket. Grab the dog by the neck in your hand, and let it hang there like a mother dog would do with a pup. The dog will spasm and try to bite. Hold on and give it about two minutes, eventually, they will just go into a trance like mode of \" Fark it.\" and they stop. You can set them down and you should see a completely different dog. YMMV.", "Kick that fuckin dog up and over the horizon. By the time he comes home he will have had a long and hard think about barking at and trying to bully and bite people. He needs to be taught some manners .His owner didn't train him well enough." ]

[ 7, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "Can you live a happy life while maintaining bad habits? So my current situation is that I abstain from many things that harm me like porn/fapping, gaming, drugs. Before I never used them as an escape; I could enjoy them even tho sometimes I just did it because I was bored. But nowadays I have become really strict to myself, forbidding me those things with the hope to gain motivation due dopamin and other benefits that would make me happy. Surely I improved since then and its a long process yea but it just doesnt make me that happy like I imagined it. And for real Im missing some of these things like fapping, gaming, drinking but I could never do them without having a bad conscience or regretting it after. I often tried to treat this knowledge about bad/good habits, selfimprovement, dopamine etc. as a present and that I should be glad to be aware of these things but sometimes I just wish my \"normal\" life back. Yk Im 18 and I wanna live like a young teenage boy not overthinking such shit and just enjoying my age which doesnt mean I would completely slip back into only bad habits. I would keep good habits like exercising, m", "Can you live a happy life while maintaining bad habits? So my current situation is that I abstain from many things that harm me like porn/fapping, gaming, drugs. Before I never used them as an escape; I could enjoy them even tho sometimes I just did it because I was bored. But nowadays I have become really strict to myself, forbidding me those things with the hope to gain motivation due dopamin and other benefits that would make me happy. Surely I improved since then and its a long process yea but it just doesnt make me that happy like I imagined it. And for real Im missing some of these things like fapping, gaming, drinking but I could never do them without having a bad conscience or regretting it after. I often tried to treat this knowledge about bad/good habits, selfimprovement, dopamine etc. as a present and that I should be glad to be aware of these things but sometimes I just wish my \"normal\" life back. Yk Im 18 and I wanna live like a young teenage boy not overthinking such shit and just enjoying my age which doesnt mean I would completely slip back into only bad habits. I would keep good habits like exercising, m", "Can you live a happy life while maintaining bad habits? So my current situation is that I abstain from many things that harm me like porn/fapping, gaming, drugs. Before I never used them as an escape; I could enjoy them even tho sometimes I just did it because I was bored. But nowadays I have become really strict to myself, forbidding me those things with the hope to gain motivation due dopamin and other benefits that would make me happy. Surely I improved since then and its a long process yea but it just doesnt make me that happy like I imagined it. And for real Im missing some of these things like fapping, gaming, drinking but I could never do them without having a bad conscience or regretting it after. I often tried to treat this knowledge about bad/good habits, selfimprovement, dopamine etc. as a present and that I should be glad to be aware of these things but sometimes I just wish my \"normal\" life back. Yk Im 18 and I wanna live like a young teenage boy not overthinking such shit and just enjoying my age which doesnt mean I would completely slip back into only bad habits. I would keep good habits like exercising, m" ]

[ "Sorry bro but jacking it, porn, and gaming are not bad for you. You should go see someone qualified to make a diagnosis and get medicine.", "For most people these things are fine if done in moderation. The only reason to be so severe with yourself is if something was causing problems in your life. Like, if you were gaming so much that you were flunking classes, then maybe cut out gaming. But it doesn't sound like there were problems that prompted this, so relax, it's okay to enjoy life and these are not \"bad habits\" unless they're causing problems.", "I'd say continue to stay away from porn, masturbation and drugs. But other pleasures such as videogames which can become a had habit (and little more than that) are okay in controlled doses. \n\nWhile all of these things can build addictions Id say videogames are the lowest risk, not much worse than watching TV when you really get into it. But porn/masturbation can have serious side affects and impair other parts of your life (PIED, premature ejaculation etc.) Drugs are also risky because of the loss of self control that they can bring. And of course legal reasons for most drugs. \n\nAt the end of the day just keep it simple. I'm 22 right now. I wish I had never stepped into the world of pornography or masturbation. I have avoided drugs and alcohol because it has been destructive in the lives of people I care about. But I have always enjoyed videogames with my friends and it's something that I do a lot but can honestly say having to give it up wouldn't bother me at all." ]

[ 5, 3, 1 ]

[ "How to use my moving expenses budget My wife and I are going to be moving to a new city for my new job in about 2 weeks. My contract includes reimbursement for $2500 for moving expenses, but the thing is, we’re only moving 13 miles away, and we have a minivan, pick up truck, trailer, and friends. Basically, we could move without needing anything, but I hate to throw away the $2500. \n\nI’ve been thinking of hiring movers just to move heavy stuff like appliances etc… but I’m also trying to think of other ways to use the money. Does anyone have any suggestions?\n\nMy ideas for now include \n\n- buying a lot of plastic storage bins that we can use to pack, but also to store/organize things in the future \n- buying a good dolly/furniture blankets we can use in the future \n\nDo y’all have any other suggestions for how to maximize use of the money?", "How to use my moving expenses budget My wife and I are going to be moving to a new city for my new job in about 2 weeks. My contract includes reimbursement for $2500 for moving expenses, but the thing is, we’re only moving 13 miles away, and we have a minivan, pick up truck, trailer, and friends. Basically, we could move without needing anything, but I hate to throw away the $2500. \n\nI’ve been thinking of hiring movers just to move heavy stuff like appliances etc… but I’m also trying to think of other ways to use the money. Does anyone have any suggestions?\n\nMy ideas for now include \n\n- buying a lot of plastic storage bins that we can use to pack, but also to store/organize things in the future \n- buying a good dolly/furniture blankets we can use in the future \n\nDo y’all have any other suggestions for how to maximize use of the money?", "How to use my moving expenses budget My wife and I are going to be moving to a new city for my new job in about 2 weeks. My contract includes reimbursement for $2500 for moving expenses, but the thing is, we’re only moving 13 miles away, and we have a minivan, pick up truck, trailer, and friends. Basically, we could move without needing anything, but I hate to throw away the $2500. \n\nI’ve been thinking of hiring movers just to move heavy stuff like appliances etc… but I’m also trying to think of other ways to use the money. Does anyone have any suggestions?\n\nMy ideas for now include \n\n- buying a lot of plastic storage bins that we can use to pack, but also to store/organize things in the future \n- buying a good dolly/furniture blankets we can use in the future \n\nDo y’all have any other suggestions for how to maximize use of the money?", "How to use my moving expenses budget My wife and I are going to be moving to a new city for my new job in about 2 weeks. My contract includes reimbursement for $2500 for moving expenses, but the thing is, we’re only moving 13 miles away, and we have a minivan, pick up truck, trailer, and friends. Basically, we could move without needing anything, but I hate to throw away the $2500. \n\nI’ve been thinking of hiring movers just to move heavy stuff like appliances etc… but I’m also trying to think of other ways to use the money. Does anyone have any suggestions?\n\nMy ideas for now include \n\n- buying a lot of plastic storage bins that we can use to pack, but also to store/organize things in the future \n- buying a good dolly/furniture blankets we can use in the future \n\nDo y’all have any other suggestions for how to maximize use of the money?" ]

[ "Professional cleaning service. Both to do the place you're moving into prior to moving, and to do your place after you've moved out.\n\nProfessional movers are worth it. No risking your back trying to lift heavy stuff, no stress over trying to fit everything. If you've been given a moving budget, then use it.", "Eat out and celebrate for a while, take this time to go have a date night, or a date week. the stress of moving and new jobs can be a lot.", "I love the idea of professional cleaning, but I worry if that would actually be considered a moving cost. That might be something worth actually getting cleared first, but it's a wonderful idea.\n\nProfessional movers are well worth it, in all respects. Taking the stress out of moving is priceless. Some of the more expensive companies will package up everything, and unpack it. Even silverware and even set up your TV. I was resistant to this, but I was able to trade services with a moving company, and I was blown away with the service. So much so that I used them again when I paid out of pocket. My move wasn't very far, like yours. I think we paid $2,000 to move 2,000 square feet. Everything that they moved except for one desk is still in the exact same place where they put it. I just can't recommend it more, even if it totally busts your budget. Imagine moving taking only one day, including unpacking. Priceless", "I really worry about the type of questions that get asked today and worry that these are the people we are going to pass the torch to someday..." ]

[ 4, 3, 1, -3 ]

[ "Beat way to remember information? Let’s say someone says on here “hey, this spray keeps mosquitoes away”, how can I keep that information in my brain? This could go with anything. How can I keep information in my head until needed for a situation.", "Beat way to remember information? Let’s say someone says on here “hey, this spray keeps mosquitoes away”, how can I keep that information in my brain? This could go with anything. How can I keep information in my head until needed for a situation.", "Beat way to remember information? Let’s say someone says on here “hey, this spray keeps mosquitoes away”, how can I keep that information in my brain? This could go with anything. How can I keep information in my head until needed for a situation.", "Beat way to remember information? Let’s say someone says on here “hey, this spray keeps mosquitoes away”, how can I keep that information in my brain? This could go with anything. How can I keep information in my head until needed for a situation.", "Beat way to remember information? Let’s say someone says on here “hey, this spray keeps mosquitoes away”, how can I keep that information in my brain? This could go with anything. How can I keep information in my head until needed for a situation.", "Beat way to remember information? Let’s say someone says on here “hey, this spray keeps mosquitoes away”, how can I keep that information in my brain? This could go with anything. How can I keep information in my head until needed for a situation.", "Beat way to remember information? Let’s say someone says on here “hey, this spray keeps mosquitoes away”, how can I keep that information in my brain? This could go with anything. How can I keep information in my head until needed for a situation." ]

[ "I really wonder how today's fastest swimmers are going to navigate through life. This sub has shown, not so well....", "Type “study less study smart” into YouTube. Prof Marty Lobdell gives some excellent strategies for memorizing.", "Repetition.\nSay it out loud three times. \nThink it several times. Say it out loud again. \n\nAnd when that moment happens, as it always does, where you try to remember what you were thinking about/ what was the name of that one thing I read about/ what did they say; don't let it go. \nRecall the information in that moment and you will forge a lifelong neural pathway. \n\nOr something like that.", "I highly recommend trying [**Anki**](https://apps.ankiweb.net/): \n\n>Anki is a free and open-source flashcard program using spaced repetition, a technique from cognitive science for fast and long-lasting memorization.", "Write it down and say it after. Draw a picture or act it out too if you can. I use rhyming words and songs too", "Learn your learning style first, then either write it down, say it out loud, or somehow adapt the information to your learning style.", " play the scenario in you head over for 5 mins say it out loud. Same again next day.. then it should get locked into the memory bank." ]

[ 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to interact with shy children. I work on tills and I love it when kids come by. Usually I pull funny faces, try and joke with them etc. but every now and again I get one kid hiding behind their parents leg. I don't only wanna know this for my current job but for life in general.\n\n", "How to interact with shy children. I work on tills and I love it when kids come by. Usually I pull funny faces, try and joke with them etc. but every now and again I get one kid hiding behind their parents leg. I don't only wanna know this for my current job but for life in general.\n\n", "How to interact with shy children. I work on tills and I love it when kids come by. Usually I pull funny faces, try and joke with them etc. but every now and again I get one kid hiding behind their parents leg. I don't only wanna know this for my current job but for life in general.\n\n" ]

[ "Talk to them like you talk to adults. Using a soft patronizing tone is not gonna make them comfortable.", "In a work setting, at least, talking to them in general and including them in conversations (kids love to be included like a regular part of the group) helps. If everyones making a decision, ask the kid what they think too.\n\nIn general life, I find that not making kids talk helps them get comfortable. If you're in a house with children, for example, and the kid doesn't want to talk but is playing with toys, just play with them, without saying anything. They usually forget about the shyness when they're having fun.", "Working at a till is not the best place to interact with such children, but in other situations, treat them like people. Don't condescend. Literally get down on their level (by squatting, not bending over). Most importantly, don't force it. If the child gives any indication they feel uncomfortable or unsafe, you're done. That's it, back away." ]

[ 10, 6, 3 ]

[ "Greeting strangers. Greeting men, women, children et cetera. What's the etiquette? I feel so awkward not knowing if I should go in for a kiss with female family friends. Who to hug, who to shake hands with etc.\n\nI'm a male and really want to improve my saying hello to people who aren't close to me. Help!", "Greeting strangers. Greeting men, women, children et cetera. What's the etiquette? I feel so awkward not knowing if I should go in for a kiss with female family friends. Who to hug, who to shake hands with etc.\n\nI'm a male and really want to improve my saying hello to people who aren't close to me. Help!", "Greeting strangers. Greeting men, women, children et cetera. What's the etiquette? I feel so awkward not knowing if I should go in for a kiss with female family friends. Who to hug, who to shake hands with etc.\n\nI'm a male and really want to improve my saying hello to people who aren't close to me. Help!", "Greeting strangers. Greeting men, women, children et cetera. What's the etiquette? I feel so awkward not knowing if I should go in for a kiss with female family friends. Who to hug, who to shake hands with etc.\n\nI'm a male and really want to improve my saying hello to people who aren't close to me. Help!" ]

[ "Strangers/Acquaintance: Hand shake\n\nClose female friends/family: Hug and/or cheek touch\n\nClose male friends/family: \"Sup\" or fist bump\n\nNot so close friends/family: Hand shake or wave 'hi'\n\nChildren: Pat on head or fist bump\n\n", "a gentleman never extends his hand to a lady. wait for her to initiate any physical contact, and reciprocate in kind.\n\nsquatting down so you're on a child's level is a nice gesture, and can help put the child at ease.", "Offer your hand to everyone you don't know very well for a handshake. If they want to hug or kiss you, they can initiate it.\n\nAs for family members, follow their leads. I expect your mother probably wants a hug, though.", "Also a male, and I've never gone in for a kiss, even with people I already know. I only return it if it's initiated, and I lean more towards a safe approach; I may touch cheeks, but I don't touch my lips to their skin. It's more of a gesture. \n\nHand shakes are always safe, as least in most Western countries. Extending an open palm is pretty universally regarded as a welcoming gesture. If the intended recipient doesn't take it, but you know they're not hostile towards you, just mirror the response they give you, such as a slight bow. \n\nWhen shaking hands, I tend to give a firm shake, but I'll pay attention to how much grip the other person is giving and mirror the firmness. The first few times I meet someone, I greet and part with them using handshakes. Once we're comfortably on a first-name basis and see each other at least once a week for about a month, I'll start going in for hugs. If the other person initiates earlier than that, I will return the favor. I hope this helps. " ]

[ 7, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "how to overcome sugar addiction, and other refined carbs. I‘ve been trying to eliminate all refined carbs from my diet for a couple of years now and I never get far, I‘ve tried all the diets out there, low carb, slow carb, keto, whole30, etc. Etc. The maximum i can do is about 5 days then I get lazy, please help. :(", "how to overcome sugar addiction, and other refined carbs. I‘ve been trying to eliminate all refined carbs from my diet for a couple of years now and I never get far, I‘ve tried all the diets out there, low carb, slow carb, keto, whole30, etc. Etc. The maximum i can do is about 5 days then I get lazy, please help. :(", "how to overcome sugar addiction, and other refined carbs. I‘ve been trying to eliminate all refined carbs from my diet for a couple of years now and I never get far, I‘ve tried all the diets out there, low carb, slow carb, keto, whole30, etc. Etc. The maximum i can do is about 5 days then I get lazy, please help. :(" ]

[ "Try substituting for natural sugars (aka fruits). If you get a sugar craving, eat a few strawberries or your favorite kind of apple. If you get a chocolate craving, eat a very small amount of dark chocolate (which can be good for you). Instead of cold turkey quitting sugar, wean yourself off using natural sugars.", "Idk, maybe start with noting what foods you eat right now, make a list of all the things you eat a day. After one week look at your list. \n What would you like to eat instead? Which foods do you want to reduce, which ones do you want to eat daily? \n\nYou don't want a diet, you want to change your food related habits. Don't give up if you start eating bad again, you are looking for a long term change and that needs some time. \n\nTo me it seems the easiest way to restrict your grocery shopping. Try cooking more healthy meals instead of trying to eat healthy all time. Try small changes, they will probably be more permanent.", "You need these nutrients which break down sugar and sugar depletes these nutrients or else you’ll keep going back to carbs because it’s more addictive than cocaine and morphine as it works the same way in the brain:\n\n[How sugar and carbs deplete nutrients](https://youtu.be/EOPrbzE136o) \n\nOut of all the drugs I’ve done, and I’ve done almost all recreational drugs, sugar was the hardest to quit.\n\nAlso, it’s not a smart idea to eat fruit as it’ll make you keep going back to regular carbs because it’s sugar also except it has some nutrients and fiber but that still doesn’t mean it’s healthy because sugar causes cancer and depression." ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to find where the flies are getting into the house? Its summer and the flies are driving us crazy. We have sealed the edges of all windows with cello tape, but still flies are coming in. Any quick way to find how?", "How to find where the flies are getting into the house? Its summer and the flies are driving us crazy. We have sealed the edges of all windows with cello tape, but still flies are coming in. Any quick way to find how?" ]

[ "Check basement for open vents, check laundry room for gaps between dryer ducts, make sure something isn't dead under your house, keep your trash emptied every other day or daily, make sure doors are closed quickly when coming and going. Is there a reason you have so many flys outside in the first place (garbage, standing water, fetid compost, dead animals) or is that just normal for your region? ", "When I had a similar problem, I put small dishes of soapy water underneath a nightlight near the areas I expected they were coming in. Within days I found one that had a ton of flies in it, and found the culprit window. " ]

[ 3, 2 ]

[ "What to do if you have locked your keys in your car, don't know where your spare is, and can't afford a locksmith? The title explains the figurative predicament, I'd never do that to myself :P but if you guys could help this figurative person, he would appreciate it!", "What to do if you have locked your keys in your car, don't know where your spare is, and can't afford a locksmith? The title explains the figurative predicament, I'd never do that to myself :P but if you guys could help this figurative person, he would appreciate it!", "What to do if you have locked your keys in your car, don't know where your spare is, and can't afford a locksmith? The title explains the figurative predicament, I'd never do that to myself :P but if you guys could help this figurative person, he would appreciate it!", "What to do if you have locked your keys in your car, don't know where your spare is, and can't afford a locksmith? The title explains the figurative predicament, I'd never do that to myself :P but if you guys could help this figurative person, he would appreciate it!", "What to do if you have locked your keys in your car, don't know where your spare is, and can't afford a locksmith? The title explains the figurative predicament, I'd never do that to myself :P but if you guys could help this figurative person, he would appreciate it!", "What to do if you have locked your keys in your car, don't know where your spare is, and can't afford a locksmith? The title explains the figurative predicament, I'd never do that to myself :P but if you guys could help this figurative person, he would appreciate it!", "What to do if you have locked your keys in your car, don't know where your spare is, and can't afford a locksmith? The title explains the figurative predicament, I'd never do that to myself :P but if you guys could help this figurative person, he would appreciate it!" ]

[ "Sheet metal strap makes a great slim jim. Learn how to make one and use it, or call police. Campus police too. ", "AAA membership is cheap, like $50 a year or something, and that's one of the services they offer. Once this happened to me and my friend -- who had the AAA membership -- got them to unlock MY car through his membership by saying he was riding in the car with me and we were both stuck. ", "My son used his truck radio antenna, slipped it down into his window and popped his lock. He said he Googled how to break into his brand of truck and found the \"how to\". ", "Car doors are usually kept closed by one or two points opposite the hinge. Usually just one point, on the front doors. You can pry the top part of the door away from the body of the car enough to fit a slender probe in there, with the intent of pulling up the lock. Pull TOO MUCH and you will break the window and bend the door frame, but there is about a half inch of play at the top of the door.", "I work in the medical field, and we just take the bladders out of blood pressure cuffs, shimmy it in the door frame, and then pump them up. Once you get enough of a crack you can slide something in and pull the lock. ", "Find a small wooden wedge similar to a doorstop wedge it between door and door frame use a coat hanger to grab the door latch", "Depending on where you live and how you feel about the cops there, your local police can often help get into your car. they were able to pop the lock for my neighbor. " ]

[ 6, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?", "What’s the next line after “I’m sorry for your loss?” After they say, “thank you,” what is the next appropriate line?\n\nHere was my situation, an acquaintance recently lost his mother (2 weeks ago). This was my first time seeing him since. He was at my buddy’s house playing pool, and I walked in, and I shook his hand and said, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and (of course) he said “thank you.” \n\nThen what do I say? I followed it up with, “how is everyone doing?” But I know it’s sort of faux pas to ask how you are after a loved ones death.\n\nWhat should I have said differently?" ]

[ "Say something nice about the person who passed or if you don’t know them, then ask if there is anything you can do to help. \n\nHonestly, just being there is all you need to worry about.", "Maybe offer help or let them know if they need anything to let you know. Or silence is ok. You don't have to keep talking. There's not always something to say.", "Personally, I'd have followed up with \"Would care care to share any memories of said person?\" It generally helps to talk about it out loud.\n\nThat being said, everyone handles grief differently. It's hard to know what to say.", "Let's start with what not to say. Grief is not a competition and everyone does it a little different. It's not appropriate to remark on the losses you've had. The conversation is about them not you.\n\nWhat to say may depend on how close you are to the person. Sometimes we support with follow up questions like \"What did they mean to you?\" Or remarks of support or company. Sometimes a simple statement like \"I can see how much they meant to you.\" or \"I never met them but they certainly were special\". Understanding the loss and survivors religious views can influence your response. (It's not the time to proselytize though.)\n\nSource: volunteer crisis counselor", "Asking if you help with anything is a good next step. Though, there's nothing wrong with silence, as uncomfortable as it can be for you. Sometimes the presence of a good friend is all you need.", "When offering help let them know how you are available, and don't offer just because you think you should and have no intention of doing so. Double whammy.", "There is nothing to say really. \n\nWhen it happen all i do is look at them with the most understanding face i can muster and tap them on the shoulder softly.\n\nNo word are needed just a nod and a light physical touch.", "It's ok to ask how people are doing after the loss of a loved one. You can also ask if there's anything you can do to help or offer to be an ear if they need to talk. A gesture that you really are there for them is meaningful.", "Ask if he has a step-mom yet, because from what I see on the internet that can lead to all sorts of interesting conversation." ]

[ 24, 15, 8, 7, 6, 3, 3, 2, 0 ]

[ "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?", "What to do with my accumulation of tons of plastic bags? I keep almost every single plastic bag that I get from anywhere when I buy stuff. It's a habit that I can't seem to shake off. What can I do to get rid of some/many of them, so that I have only enough of what is a reasonable/logical number to keep?" ]

[ "I would say keep them all. I live in a city (Montreal) that banned plastic bags this year. When you buy something at a store, you need to bring your own bag or buy a reusable one in-store. In a few months retailers will be fined if they still give plastic bags to clients. Kinda sucks since I always used them for garbage and the ones I have are running out.", "Recycle if you can. Our plastic ends up in the ocean in the form of beads most of the time, which end up in ocean life's digestive system. There was an article just yesterday, I'll link to it if i can find it.", "You can mail them to me. We use them for our bathroom trash bags. I don't live in a place where they make/sell them anymore, all the stores require you to bring your own bag or they only offer paper bags. I'm happy that the city cleaned it up and there are less plastic bags everywhere, but we run out of trashbags and I have to ask my family to mail them to me every now and then. ", "A few places in our community weave them into bedrolls for the homeless. Here’s a how to: https://youtu.be/ELO0NjhYuSg", "Some places recycle them, in the area I live Lowes has a bin by customer service counter for recycling purposes.", "Recycle or [make something ](http://savedbylovecreations.com/2013/03/50-ways-to-upcycle-plastic-bags.html) ", "Pur local recycling program accepts them with our curbside recyling, which comes as a surprise to me. Maybe check if your does too? If not I reuse them a few times for groceries and then line small wastebaskets around the house with them.", "I have a side cabinet dedicated to these bags (plastic, paper, totes, etc). \n\nI stuff all the plastic shopping bags into the bigger bags... This keeps everything nice & neat. I use these bags for different things.. like organizing things in the garage, picking up the dog crap during walks, throwing away trash frequently (to avoid build up), I use a lot of plastic bags when I travel too, I have even used them to secure items in shipping, lining shelves in the bathroom and under the sink, I have even covered some spots in our garage to avoid any potential spills. \n\nBut the best has been giving them to my sister who lives in California..apparently they charge her haha ", "I can’t help you... I have plastic bags stashed everywhere, but hidden. Though I use this them for garbage so they all disappear eventually... except more come in from shopping. " ]

[ 7, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n", "How do I make my cat stop doing this? (Pic inside) http://imgur.com/ybjR2dr\n\nI keep the door shut as much as I can, but if I forget just once, then it's too late. GG rest in RIP, toilet paper\n\n" ]

[ "I put a cup with a little bit of water in it on top of the roll. When they try to move it, the cup falls and water splashes out and they run away. Worked like a charm for me. I did that for a while and they stopped messing with it without the cup. ", "I might try putting tape sticky-side up on the floor just inside the bathroom door. Then when kitty comes in looking to terrorize your poor, defenseless TP, they get tape on their paws, freak the eff out, and forget their shenanigans. A few times of that and it could effectively stop kitty from coming into the bathroom at all? Best of luck to you.", "Get a piece of Pvc pipe, cut it to length of a roll. Cut a line up the side. Put tp through line. Cat cant get to it but you should be able too.", "Due to the really stupid placememt of our toilet paper holder, we were just sitting our roll on the side of the tub. And then we got a cat. A couple ruined rolls later we placed our roll in a basket on top of the shelf above our toilet. A few more later we learned to stop forgetting to put it back up there. That was in 2012, and we still use this spot for the toilet paper, and haven't lost a roll to the cat since. Though I am pretty sure adult kitty would leave it alone (as evidenced by my forgetting to put it back up a time or two) now, we are creatures of habit in this home. ", "Try Feliway it is a pheromone spray that makes cats feel cool about shit. It makes them think they've already marked it with their face and like that object already.", "Buy a self closing hinge and put it on your door. It will swing the door closed and you can buy it from the local hardware store or amazon for several dollars. \n\nBetter yet, this\n\nHiendure® Wall-mounted Antique Brass Finish Brass Material All Cover Style Toilet Roll Holders https://www.amazon.com/dp/B013FLKDDO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_.yvgxb2MB3AWW", "Well basic scratching post training if you haven't done it already. Tell the cat no and take it to the scratching post every time it does it. Otherwise if you really want to create a cat no-go zone the smell of toothpaste will drive any cat away.", "We mounted the TP holder inside a cabinet door. The proximity of the door to the toilet is acceptable", "All these punishment tips will just make your cat sad and paranoid. Get a bunch of scratching posts, and maybe even put one right next to the toilet paper roll.", "SSSCAT Cat Training Aid https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000RIA95G/ref=cm_sw_r_other_awd_.jtgxbM4B7VHB\n\nGreat fun.. just dont forget its there at 3am", "In addition to whatever 'negative' tips you think fitting, why not get the cat the occasional roll of TP of his own that he's allowed to scratch? Some 'carrot', to go alongside the 'stick'. It may be easier to redirect the behaviour if you use both approaches together.", "you can also put a little bit of vinegar and water in a squirt gun and spritz him/her when ever they are doing something that you dont like. " ]

[ 69, 4, 4, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, -1 ]

[ "Methods \"essential\" workers can use to get around, legally, \"no strike or work stoppage\" clauses in their contracts to force management's hand during negotiations? Currently have a toothless union since our contract forbids strikes or work stoppages. Anyone have any ideas on how to get around it and put pressure on management taking advantage of us? I live in a very anti-worker area (conservative).", "Methods \"essential\" workers can use to get around, legally, \"no strike or work stoppage\" clauses in their contracts to force management's hand during negotiations? Currently have a toothless union since our contract forbids strikes or work stoppages. Anyone have any ideas on how to get around it and put pressure on management taking advantage of us? I live in a very anti-worker area (conservative).", "Methods \"essential\" workers can use to get around, legally, \"no strike or work stoppage\" clauses in their contracts to force management's hand during negotiations? Currently have a toothless union since our contract forbids strikes or work stoppages. Anyone have any ideas on how to get around it and put pressure on management taking advantage of us? I live in a very anti-worker area (conservative).", "Methods \"essential\" workers can use to get around, legally, \"no strike or work stoppage\" clauses in their contracts to force management's hand during negotiations? Currently have a toothless union since our contract forbids strikes or work stoppages. Anyone have any ideas on how to get around it and put pressure on management taking advantage of us? I live in a very anti-worker area (conservative).", "Methods \"essential\" workers can use to get around, legally, \"no strike or work stoppage\" clauses in their contracts to force management's hand during negotiations? Currently have a toothless union since our contract forbids strikes or work stoppages. Anyone have any ideas on how to get around it and put pressure on management taking advantage of us? I live in a very anti-worker area (conservative).", "Methods \"essential\" workers can use to get around, legally, \"no strike or work stoppage\" clauses in their contracts to force management's hand during negotiations? Currently have a toothless union since our contract forbids strikes or work stoppages. Anyone have any ideas on how to get around it and put pressure on management taking advantage of us? I live in a very anti-worker area (conservative)." ]

[ "\"Slowdowns\" are where you still show up because you cant strike; but you just do the shittiest job imaginable.\n\nCops love doing it, they'll just stop responding to calls or drive 15 under the speed limit while responding.", "work to rule. Not a strike, not a slowdown, just following every imaginable rule/policy/regulation to its fullest no matter the time it takes. IE, safety meetings and hazard identification before work start, ensure all training for all tools/equipment requiring training have been completed, ensure employer is up to date on all promised things like reviews and evaluations, ensure all safety gear is not expired. Get creative, there is nothing limiting you but your imagination, you may even learn something out of the experience.", "I read once about how bus drivers in Japan kept working but stopped accepting bus fares to protest something or other. But in another country those bus drivers would probably have to do so as a large group, because you doing that alone would probably get you fired.", "Your union can do informational pickets outside your workplace. Make sure to let the news station know when and where it will happen.\n\nIf other departments are covered in your contract that don't have no-strike clauses, they can picket your workplace, or walk off their own jobs in solidarity. (They also have a stake in the negotiations).", "Easy strike fk your company. Why do you think they explicitly say no unions because they are afraid of them & what they can do. The problem is getting more people on board. Unions used to run the US, only robber barons & the like that sent us to WW1, used military & police along with scabs to break up unions/strikes.\nIf you can get a majority of the workforce to join you then do it, just have a plan & be ready for resistance. When they stormed DC they were not really organized. Knowing what you want & what you may settle or compromise for will give you a kind of strength. Just going out on strike without a game plan/strategy will most likely backfire. You are the labor what does your company bring to the table.", "I’d recommend just quitting. You’re not happy there and instead of trying to manipulate your employer to bend to your will, just go somewhere else. Or just bite the bullet and get the vaccine, right?" ]

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I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. 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I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help", "How to negotiate a (better) salary. I am in the market for a career change and have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession. If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nAlso, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nThanks for your help" ]

[ "I am an executive recruiter and part of my job every day is negotiating salaries for my candidates.\n\nFirst of all, decide for yourself what you want. Decide in your head as early as you can \"this is my minimum, this is my target.\" Having those two numbers clear in your head (even if they change along the way) are super important.\n\nWhen asked what you want (it is inevitable), tell them \"I would really like $T (target) but I could be flexible for the right opportunity.\" This shows them that you are flexible, but also burns in their mind a solid number.\n\nDepending on the strength of the company, they will either a) give you what you want or b) give you a bit less -- in my experience it's never usually more than about 10% less than what you stated.\n\nOnce you have the offer (let's keep going with a number that is still 10% lower than your target), you can counter-offer. This is very common, and in most cases won't 'turn-off' the potential employer. If it does turn them off -- what does it say about them as a company?\n\nWhen you counter offer, the best advice I have is to probably find the middle point -- that way both sides feel like they got what they wanted, and usually a company can find a little room to bump up their offer.\n\nAlso: for higher level positions ($80k USD +) keep in mind that it may be easier for them to offer you a signing bonus, more vacation weeks, etc than it is to offer a higher salary. A lot of companies have what they call \"internal equity\" which means they can't offer you a salary that is so far above everyone else at the same position, or so close to your superior's pay range, that it becomes uncomfortable. Also, accepting a lower salary gives them more room to give you raises in the future without having to worry about this internal equity ceiling.\n\nOne major exception: unless you are entry level/new to a field, one of the biggest indicators of what a company uses to determine the amount of an offer is to base it on what you made previously; if you made $60k at your last job, they probably won't offer you $90k. Keep that in mind when deciding your target and minimum. And I wouldn't recommend lying about your last salary either -- I have had clients ask for W-2's to verify your previous salary, so my advice would be to not risk it.\n\n**", "Tactics: I usually like to have them make the first offer (yay negotiating class I took in law school!), I get them to get the offer out by asking frankly. \"I am interested in working for your team, and I feel like I will work well with the current team members, but I am concerned about the compensation and other benefits associated with this position. Could you please tell me more about what the compensation packages and benefits look like?\"\n \nDon't use might, could, or other indefinites, make them tell you what they pay. Indefinites cause you to bid against yourself, since they haven't made you an offer yet. Basically you are negotiating the terms of YOUR offer when you use indefinites. Make them give you something before you concede anything. \n", "Try www.glassdoor.com. Search for salaries for positions you're interested in and you should get some idea of what companies pay and what your skills are worth. Then if asked about salary expectations you have an idea of what they actually pay and you can shoot for something similar.", "The one lesson I've learned. He who talks the MOST, loses.\n\nBefore the meeting, decide what points you want to make (a combination of any of the salient points others have listed). So for example (don't pick these apart - I'm just using these as examples), 1) I am qualified for this position 2) I'm weighing my options (or I have other offers - assuming you do) and 3) this is the $$$ I'm asking for.\n\nState your points in a clear and concise manner, making sure you practice beforehand. Then, SHUT UP.\n\nI don't think he who talks first/last - offers first/last loses or wins - but he who talks the MOST will almost always lose.\n\nMake your points, sit back (literally, don't lean forward in your chair - assume a lean-back posture) and then let them respond. They may try to low-ball - or they may argue - or they may try to offer different benefits - but as much as possible, say nothing. When appropriate, respond to their questions or to their offers, but if they're trying to low-ball you, stick to your original points, especially if they're well founded on reality.\n\nIt's a lot like dating. If you're constantly leaning in to your target, they will naturally pull away. You don't want to be needy. You say your piece and then let them try to convince you to take the job.\n\n", "You should go in knowing full well what your floor is and what salary you really want. \n\nOnce you know that, just tell them what you want. Aim high.\n\nNever answer a question about your current salary with your current salary. Answer it with what you're asking for. \n\nForget all this nonsense about 'whoever says the first number.' If you get what you want, you won. ", "HR: What salary are you looking for?\n\nYou: I expect to receive competitive salary for the job I am hired to do. I am very interested in this position at [company] and will do my best to be a contributing member of the [company] team.\n\nDo your homework beforehand and have an idea if what they say after that is in the right ballpark. Whoever says the first number loses.", "[Go to salary negotiation](http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/how-to-negotiate/) and start reading.\n\nIgnore the scammy sounding site-name. This is a top notch blog with very good information.", "Unfortunately the job market is a buyers market right now and supply vastly exceeds demand. If you are unwilling to state your previous salary they will have 10 other applicants that will, even if they are not as good as you at the job itself. \n\nThe only people I know right now that don't have problems finding jobs are programmers and even then they are generally not able to get out of the requirement of stating their current salary, unless you are being hired to be the new lead architect or something. \n\n", "You should take a look at some data for salary for your desired field. [Glassdoor.com](http://www.glassdoor.com/index.htm) is pretty solid.\n\nJust know that HR has way more information than you on what the job pays (they probably have any market data available on the position you're applying for in addition to what the range of pay allowable under their compensation structure is for the position) and they will likely not be eager to give that information up.\n\nIf the conversation drifts to salary, they're probably going to ask you what salary you're looking for. Here's where I would say something like \"well I'm not just interested in base salary, there are a lot of non-monetary components that would lead me to work here including the development opportunities. But to help me better weigh my options, what do you typically pay your entry-level employees in this position?\"\n\nIf they block that question, then I would use what limited information you know from a site like glassdoor to say \"well I know from my research and talking to people in the field that salaries typically range from X to Y, so I would want to be paid competitively within that range\".\n\nJust my two cents.", "This article says it better than I can.\n\nhttp://www.jobsinassetmanagement.com/how-to-get-paid-what-youre-worth.cms.asp\n\nHaving read through the comments posted thus far, I'll TL;DR and say that there are a few in the article that others haven't mentioned yet. Worth the read.", "These guys have good sage advice for things. See if this article helps. http://www.manager-tools.com/2010/06/salary-negotiation", "There's a really awesome article written on negotiating your salary here:\nhttp://www.kalzumeus.com/2012/01/23/salary-negotiation/\nit's a little long, but I read it before I negotiated my salary and it helped a lot! definitely worth the read", "There are several information aggregates that can give you averages (such as payscale.com, salary.com, etc), and I also look for other jobs in my field with posted salaries (workopolis.com, etc) to get an idea of what they are worth, and also what the industry it currently offering. I then come up with a bracket of acceptability (usually +/- $5k) and begin at the top of the spectrum if they ask me, or bring them up to minimum the bottom of the spectrum if they low-ball. \n\nExample: You are worth $60-70k. You go in asking for $69k, and settle around 65-66 (maybe a bit higher if you truly are fantastic in your field and can prove it), or if they say $55k, you tell them that you are looking for something close to $65k but will settle for $62k. If they don't get into the 60s, then you decide if you want to walk or not. \n\nDespite the economy, unless you are truly desperate (as in family, mortgage about to fail etc), you need to be confident in your ability to walk away. ", "Lots of good advice in here, but if you want to avoid answering what your current salary is, just say it's covered by your company's NDA, but the number it'll take you to leave is $XYZ. They'll probably think you're bullshitting them but they usually won't press the issue.", "I know I'm late to the game here, but are there any tips for when you're moving positions within the same company? I feel like I have less leverage since they could say, \"well, let's just keep him in the old position then and utilize him as a resource when we need it.\" I am already on a few cross-functional teams with my desired department, and I'm just looking to make the permanent move to the higher pay grade. ", "I dodged the question quite adamantly (\"I'm interested to see how much the company values this position\"). Do. Not. Give. A. Number. \n\nThen when I negotiated salary, I talked just to the hr rep. I said in consideration for the cost of living at my new location, I'd like a 10% increase on my current offer (do not ask for more than that). Best they could do was 4ish%, but that's better than nothing!", "To research wage information, consider a useful federal government resource [found here](http://www.flcdatacenter.com/OesWizardStart.aspx). That link takes you to a menu-driven wage survey for hundreds of occupations in every metro area in the U.S., with wages displayed in 4 tiers, from beginner through experienced. If you need to locate a county from a city name, use [this page](http://www.naco.org/Counties/Pages/CitySearch.aspx). To help locate the correct occupation, use this [keyword search](http://www.onetonline.org/help/online/search#keyword).", "This method is for a specialized field but send in the classifieds when you ask for a raise. My old boss taught me this one, however it can also backfire so make sure you are good at what you do", "The simplest way is to straight forward ask and state why. BUT...\nThe easiest way tho jump ship and go to another company. This seems to be the most reliable to get a sizable raise. The twist is that if you really like your job you can tell your current boss that you got an offer for X but would like to stay with them and wondered if they could match the offer. This also serves as a wakeup call as to your value. ", "Start at the market rate, taking into account location (very important), and how much experience you have compared to what they requested.\n\nSooner or later someone has to throw a number into the ring. It may aswell be you, since if you force them to give you a starting point, then you'll have to argue just to get it up to market rate (whereas ideally you want to be arguing with a view to getting more than market rate).", "I've found that the more you can demonstrate you know about the salary structure, the less leeway you give them to shoot you down. Example: In my current position, I contracted for several years and turned down a couple offers to come in-house. When I was finally ready, I gave them a hard number and informed them that I'm well aware of the low raise percentages, and that I was firm on starting at a relatively high salary due to that issue. \n\nIt's true, they knew it, and I knew it, and the cards were on the table. They came very close to my requested number. You could certainly try this blindly (or cite anything else you know - vacation is hard to take, work hours are long, etc) to try to convince them that you're not a chump. ", "I've been very successful in negotiating salaries on the high end of my last few employers' ranges for the advertised positions. Here are my tactics as they relate to your post:\n\n>I have little idea what my skills are worth a little outside my current profession\n\nYou need to rectify this. Keep on researching -- post in message boards, check jobs websites, check salary estimator websites, etc. You need at least a ballpark estimate of this figure.\n\n>If a prospective employer wants to discuss salary, how do I find out the maximum they are willing to offer?\n\nDuring interview / initial contact, ask them. You can usually be as direct as, \"Sure, I would be interested to learn more. Particularly, what is the target salary range for the position?\" The hiring manager / POC might come back with something they call a \"salary point\" -- a single annual compensation amount (or hourly wage) that is *supposed* to be about the \"middle\" of their targeted range -- it's more likely actually toward the low end of what they'd be willing to pay *the right person who they think is worth it*.\n\nThat's another point -- is your experience / value to the prospective company even worth them shelling out the maximum of their range? I'm not being insulting -- it's something you need to ask yourself and be honest if you want that information to help you. If you are early in your career or don't have an established portfolio of some kind, you may simply not be worth the high end of the salary range.\n\n>Also, I know I should not throw out the first number, but how do I avoid it when they ask directly (ie What is your current salary? What are your salary requirements? etc...)\n\nYes, you should avoid throwing out the first number. However, they may ask you what you are looking to make first, and it's hard to politely / tactfully say, \"how about *you* tell me your range first!\"\n\nSo, this is a good point to bend the truth a bit. Say you make a good bit more than you actually do (maybe add 10-25% to your current salary), and let them know that in order for it to make sense for you to make a career move (always a risky thing), the salary would need to be significantly above *that* amount.\n\nAdditionally, you may say, \"Well, I currently make *around* $XX, but I happen to know that my company's leadership wants to move me upward in the next 3-4 months, and I am very confident I'll be making $XX+Y by then -- this is also a big factor I must consider in making a career move...\"\n\nFinally, you must consider benefits as part of overall compensation. If a company pays 100% of your health insurance, that's worth several thousand. Is mileage reimbursed? Professional expense account?", "I like to approach that issue like this.\n\"i know you have a budget assigned for this position with a high end and a low end. i would much prefer the high.\" \nThat way they should give you a number, then you can work it from there. like anything else do homework. Find out what is a realistic starting point and shoot for a little beyond that.", "I have always gone by this rule when negotiating salary:\n\n**NEVER be the first one to mention a number.**\n\nIn the past, this has gotten me salaries way higher than I realistically expected to be offered.  But because I kept my mouth shut when asked for a number, I could hear what their offer was first and then without flinching say something like \"that's a fair offer\" (even if it was more than fair), or even \"I was thinking a little higher, but maybe we can work out some deal\".  \n\nRemember that most companies already have a number that they expect to hire you for.  That number, could easily be much higher than you expect, but if you say you want $X, and your number is much lower than what they were willing to offer, then you just screwed yourself out of a ton of dough.\n\nSo if you are asked for a number, say something along the lines of \"well what is the company offering me?\", or \"I am sure your company has a fair number and I'd like to hear it\".  \n\nIf their number is lower than what you wanted, then tell them flat out its too low, but thank them for the offer and see if they can move on the number.  If a company really wants someone, and extra $2k, 5k or even 10k+ a year isn't going stop them when you consider how much more productive a good employee can be versus the average shleb. \n\nOf course this isn't going to work for every position, or every person, but in the big scheme of things a company will make 5x, 10x or even 100x a worker's salary in corporate profits, so an extra couple of grand to get the right guy ain't jack.", "At my company (global tech consulting firm), salary increases are based on demonstrated performance history. Do you have any tangible work history or references pertaining to the new career? If not, you're in a weak negotiating position. If you're attempting to negotiate a higher total compensation package in the same industry, your key leverage point is past success.\n\nOther than this, all the standard negotiating protips I've seen on the thread are pretty good (with the exception of the W-2 bull).", "Obviously you sit around an office all day and think you're actually worth something. Look up the minimum wage in your location. That's what you're worth." ]

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[ "Lessen or relieve pain from staring at a computer monitor all day. I sometimes have two computer jobs in one day (13 hours of staring at a computer) and could really use some life pro tips here. What works best? Eye drops? Monitor tints?", "Lessen or relieve pain from staring at a computer monitor all day. I sometimes have two computer jobs in one day (13 hours of staring at a computer) and could really use some life pro tips here. What works best? Eye drops? Monitor tints?", "Lessen or relieve pain from staring at a computer monitor all day. I sometimes have two computer jobs in one day (13 hours of staring at a computer) and could really use some life pro tips here. What works best? Eye drops? Monitor tints?", "Lessen or relieve pain from staring at a computer monitor all day. I sometimes have two computer jobs in one day (13 hours of staring at a computer) and could really use some life pro tips here. What works best? Eye drops? Monitor tints?", "Lessen or relieve pain from staring at a computer monitor all day. I sometimes have two computer jobs in one day (13 hours of staring at a computer) and could really use some life pro tips here. What works best? Eye drops? Monitor tints?", "Lessen or relieve pain from staring at a computer monitor all day. I sometimes have two computer jobs in one day (13 hours of staring at a computer) and could really use some life pro tips here. What works best? Eye drops? Monitor tints?", "Lessen or relieve pain from staring at a computer monitor all day. I sometimes have two computer jobs in one day (13 hours of staring at a computer) and could really use some life pro tips here. What works best? Eye drops? Monitor tints?" ]

[ "For eyes, the best thing to do is set a timer (I like workrave). \n\nPractice the 30-30-30- rule.\n\nEvery 30 minutes, you need to stare at something more than 30 feet away for 30 seconds. Feel your eye muscles relax. I had pretty bad eye strain and started doing this at the advice of my doctor and the eye strain went away in three days. Good to know something so little can make a difference.", "1. Position the monitor at exactly arms reach from you when you sit up straight.\n2. Angle the monitor slightly upwards, so that when you sit up, you're slightly looking down at it.\n3. Keep the brightness down to about the same level as the ambient lighting around you.\n4. Use something like [f.lux](http://stereopsis.com/flux/) which adjusts the color temperature of the screen throughout the day to match the sunlight.\n5. Take regular short breaks by looking at something 20 feet away (i.e. walk to the break room and get some coffee, look out the window).\n6. Make your fonts bigger\n7. Use [ClearType](https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/ClearType)\n", "Download the application Flux if you can, it changes the computer temperature of your screen. Helps the eyes a lot.", "Take short (2-5min) , frequent (every 20min or so) breaks (*not* staring at your monitor), and avoiding florescence. \n\nYou can also try doing exercises like focusing on something close (like a book you are reading) then switching to something 10-20 feet away - repeat several times. It works for me!", "Keep the brightness setting on the screen as low as you possibly can while still getting work done. Every 20-30 minutes, walk away from the computer and get a drink of water or use the bathroom; look at some things that are far away for a few minutes to force your eye muscles to work in the other direction.", "Turn down the brightness. \nI love how 'poppy' the screen looks at high brightness but I was getting headaches, especially after dark. \nI set it at about 20% brightness and 50% saturation and while nowhere near as tantalizing, I no longer get headaches while doing computerwork.", "Polarized lenses in your glasses, or use a privacy screen. Both filter out large quantities of light in various spectrum's, thus lessening the overall eye strain you receive from staring at a light bulb all day long(read monitor)\n\nI used to have normal glasses, and had eye strain throughout the day. Then got a new pair of glasses with polarized lenses..the kind that auto tint...anyway, I no longer have eye strain and can do 18hour marathon stints coding on the computer without the eye bleeding eye strain. \n\nWhile I don't use them myself, I'm told that privacy screens, do about the same thing. " ]

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[ "How to get rid of unhealthy fingernail biting habit. So i have been biting my fingernails down to bleeding since i could walk and I can't find any way to stop. I don't even realize I'm doing it sometimes. I've tried putting stuff on them to make them taste disgusting but it just wipes off when i wash my hands. I've also tried covering my fingers but i can't stand having something on them for very long. HELP! I don't want to bleed from the ends of my fingers anymore.", "How to get rid of unhealthy fingernail biting habit. So i have been biting my fingernails down to bleeding since i could walk and I can't find any way to stop. I don't even realize I'm doing it sometimes. I've tried putting stuff on them to make them taste disgusting but it just wipes off when i wash my hands. I've also tried covering my fingers but i can't stand having something on them for very long. HELP! I don't want to bleed from the ends of my fingers anymore.", "How to get rid of unhealthy fingernail biting habit. So i have been biting my fingernails down to bleeding since i could walk and I can't find any way to stop. I don't even realize I'm doing it sometimes. I've tried putting stuff on them to make them taste disgusting but it just wipes off when i wash my hands. I've also tried covering my fingers but i can't stand having something on them for very long. HELP! I don't want to bleed from the ends of my fingers anymore." ]

[ "\ni have bitten my nails for the past 15 years\n\ni recently stoped by challenging myself to let one fingernail grow until i had to cut it, then adding one at a time. By the time all 10 nails grew out, i was over the addiction.\n", "snap therapy. wear a rubber band on your wrist. catch yourself biting your nails? snap. catch yourself thinking about biting your nails? snap.\n\n\ni quit when i was around 17. Just decided to. the human will is an amazing thing.", "* Easy: Gloves\n* Medium: reapply nasty stuff after you wash your hands\n* Difficult: Nail polish\n* Insane: one drop of [ipecac](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000GCMXAC?tag=au026-20) on each of your fingernails after you wake up.\n\non a serious note though seeing a counselor or behavioral psychologist might be a better more real, more permanent solution." ]

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[ "How to get a horrific stink out of my refrigerator The last while my minifridge has smelled like death. I havent let anything get *too* bad in there; yesterday I took everything out, scrubbed the inside and all the drawers, shelves, etc with hot soapy water. It still smells like something rancid. Any suggestions on how to get this nasty smell out?\n", "How to get a horrific stink out of my refrigerator The last while my minifridge has smelled like death. I havent let anything get *too* bad in there; yesterday I took everything out, scrubbed the inside and all the drawers, shelves, etc with hot soapy water. It still smells like something rancid. Any suggestions on how to get this nasty smell out?\n" ]

[ "If the vinegar and baking soda or other cleaners aren't enough or if it smells like a \"dead body\" get some enzyme cleaner from a cleaning supply place. You can also use pet urine cleaner, it is the same product but is usually repackaged and has a lot higher markup in the pet section.\n", "I've had good luck with 2 cups of vinegar, heated until boiling in the microwave, and then put in the minifridge. When the vinegar is cool enough to touch, wipe down the inside of the fridge with it." ]

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[ "how to deal with people who suck at making plans Some of my friends are literally the worst at planning. They'll text me at the start of the day asking to make plans and then not respond for hours!! Then I wait around all day and shit falls through!! It's enraging to say the least. \n\nI like these guys, don't get me wrong, but it's not that hard to respond to a text message, especially if you're the one initiating the conversation. \n\nHow do you deal with people like this?", "how to deal with people who suck at making plans Some of my friends are literally the worst at planning. They'll text me at the start of the day asking to make plans and then not respond for hours!! Then I wait around all day and shit falls through!! It's enraging to say the least. \n\nI like these guys, don't get me wrong, but it's not that hard to respond to a text message, especially if you're the one initiating the conversation. \n\nHow do you deal with people like this?", "how to deal with people who suck at making plans Some of my friends are literally the worst at planning. They'll text me at the start of the day asking to make plans and then not respond for hours!! Then I wait around all day and shit falls through!! It's enraging to say the least. \n\nI like these guys, don't get me wrong, but it's not that hard to respond to a text message, especially if you're the one initiating the conversation. \n\nHow do you deal with people like this?" ]

[ "I have friends who are always late to everything. My solution is to tell them to be somewhere an hour earlier than when I actually intend to meet them. Hasn't backfired on me so far, and even if it did,now they get to see how it feels.", "When I have people like this in my life, I simply refuse to plan around them unless they can give me a time and place they will show up. So if my friend says maybe she'll be able to come over for dinner sometime this week, I go about my business and make plans to do all the things I normally would that week. If/when she calls to say she'd like to hang out that night, I don't have a problem telling her I'm already busy. \n\nA more proactive option is to suggest a time/place/activity to a friend who sucks at planning. Say \"okay, dinner sounds great. Let's go to X at 6pm\". ", "Try calling instead of texing, it works wonders with my friend group and it's a much more efficient means of planning. If you can settle on some basic details via text, call them an hour-30 min ahead/right before leaving and confirm. In general try to take charge if they won't.\n\nIf your friends are notoriously late, try to meet at their place instead. This way at least you're not stuck waiting on them alone forever and you being there presses them to get ready faster (hopefully)." ]

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[ "Introducing yourself and Converse with strangers without seeming creepy? A stranger and walks over to you and asks what's your name or what are you doing. Red flags go off hey this guy is a little creepy, what is he planning~\n\nPeople aren't too open with strangers and the first impression is important so I'd hate for anyone to come up as creepy.", "Introducing yourself and Converse with strangers without seeming creepy? A stranger and walks over to you and asks what's your name or what are you doing. Red flags go off hey this guy is a little creepy, what is he planning~\n\nPeople aren't too open with strangers and the first impression is important so I'd hate for anyone to come up as creepy.", "Introducing yourself and Converse with strangers without seeming creepy? A stranger and walks over to you and asks what's your name or what are you doing. Red flags go off hey this guy is a little creepy, what is he planning~\n\nPeople aren't too open with strangers and the first impression is important so I'd hate for anyone to come up as creepy.", "Introducing yourself and Converse with strangers without seeming creepy? A stranger and walks over to you and asks what's your name or what are you doing. Red flags go off hey this guy is a little creepy, what is he planning~\n\nPeople aren't too open with strangers and the first impression is important so I'd hate for anyone to come up as creepy.", "Introducing yourself and Converse with strangers without seeming creepy? A stranger and walks over to you and asks what's your name or what are you doing. Red flags go off hey this guy is a little creepy, what is he planning~\n\nPeople aren't too open with strangers and the first impression is important so I'd hate for anyone to come up as creepy.", "Introducing yourself and Converse with strangers without seeming creepy? A stranger and walks over to you and asks what's your name or what are you doing. Red flags go off hey this guy is a little creepy, what is he planning~\n\nPeople aren't too open with strangers and the first impression is important so I'd hate for anyone to come up as creepy.", "Introducing yourself and Converse with strangers without seeming creepy? A stranger and walks over to you and asks what's your name or what are you doing. Red flags go off hey this guy is a little creepy, what is he planning~\n\nPeople aren't too open with strangers and the first impression is important so I'd hate for anyone to come up as creepy." ]

[ "Start a conversation.\n\n\"Hi, sorry to bother you but I saw you were looking at/have/doing whatever. I do that too and was curious as your opinion on ____ (related to object) because I prefer to ____(insert your opinion), and was curious on of what you're doing has any benefit I didn't think of.\"\nOr something like that. If a conversation starts even a small one and they seem open to talking say...\n\n\" Sorry, did I introduce myself? I'm ___. I hope I'm not holding you up for anything.\" \n\nBe sure to be nice, warm, and actually listen to their response. Look at their face when they talk. Avoid looking at their lips or avoiding eye contact. If worse comes to worse stare at their nose or forehead. It's close enough to the eyes most people don't notice. Do not fidget or take out your phone. Face the person while talking. Be sure to be mindful of your speaking distance. Do not stand too close so they don't feel threatened. When you speak be open and avoid subjects that have a lot of conflict (religious, politics, etc) and speak in a calm even pace. Do not be overly loud as this can come off as threatening. That being said don't mumble either and use pronunciations. If you feel you cross a line while talking don't do the awkward silence, apologize and say you didn't mean anything rude. \n\nI hope this helps ", "Ask a question that you know the answer to. \nWhat band is playing?\nDo they have fireball whiskey here? \nDoes this place serve food?\n\nBy asking a question you know the answer to, you control the conversation. They will answer or say they don't know, leaving room to expand on the conversation. You can use the knowledge you have to help make a connection. \n\nConfidence, relax, have fun, and try to find a singular interest. ", "Practice, practice, practice.\n\nAt a networking event for work, try to learn something new from every person you speak to.\n\nIn a queue waiting for service, make a comment about something you saw nearby that made you smile.\n\nWaiting for the bus, share something exciting about your day.\n\nThe purpose is to learn that the world doesn't end if you get it wrong and the more you do it, the better you get at it.\n\nFind situations where contact time is short and go for longer ones as you gain confidence.\n\nEverybody goes through this process, some do it earlier than others. There is no right way, just your way.\n\nHave fun!", "http://talk2morepeople.com\nThis is a guy who talks to a stranger every day as a means to making himself happier. Some good tips and encouragement here. ", "I just act like we already know each other. I think when people come off as acting or awkward, it automatically puts people on guard. It doesnt always work, I dont think there is a way to approach people that always works, but I try to gauge the situation and make the person laugh if possible. My best friend is very socially awkward (by her own words) and always asks me how I can make friends with anyone; I guess this is my best answer. If you are uncomfortable, you are way more likely to make the other person feel uncomfortable; if you have that \"fuck it lets all be cool\" mindset it tends to show in your non verbal communication as well.", "OMG! Just say whatever comes to your mind! If they're in line, ask what's good or what they're getting. Earbuds? What are the listening too? It doesn't matter. If they want to talk they'll anawer in a positive manner, if not, just forget about them and move on to the next person. About 1/3 of people like to interact. Most like too, but some can't be bothered at the moment.", "Confidence, eye contact etc. Acknowledge the situation as part of your intro sentence. Do not ask for anything, volunteer information, create open questions, smile. " ]

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[ "Remedies for treating cold symptoms What are remedies you guys use to relieve your cold symptoms/shorten a cold's duration? ", "Remedies for treating cold symptoms What are remedies you guys use to relieve your cold symptoms/shorten a cold's duration? ", "Remedies for treating cold symptoms What are remedies you guys use to relieve your cold symptoms/shorten a cold's duration? ", "Remedies for treating cold symptoms What are remedies you guys use to relieve your cold symptoms/shorten a cold's duration? ", "Remedies for treating cold symptoms What are remedies you guys use to relieve your cold symptoms/shorten a cold's duration? ", "Remedies for treating cold symptoms What are remedies you guys use to relieve your cold symptoms/shorten a cold's duration? " ]

[ "Vitamin C, D, zinc, silver, echinacea, or any natural remedies don't work post-infection. The only substance that has been proven to Relieve cold symptoms is ibuprofen. Therefore, you cannot do anything besides letting the cold run it's course and ensuring you're comfortable (drink warm liquids, unclog nose, stay warm). Also, try to get a cough syrup that either makes you expectorate or stop coughing. Getting one that claims both is oxymoronic. Also, be aware that the ones that claim to stop coughing are not as effective as those that help you expectorate.", "There is no way to shorten the duration of a cold. \n \nHowever, if I'm very congested I can't sleep. So I'll take a Mucinex Expectorant. It's just enough to allow me to sleep.", "Neti Pot + Throat Coat Tea + [Cold Relief Shower Gel](http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/kiss-my-face-cold-%26-flu-soothing-bath-%26-shower-gel/ID=prod6056637-product)\n\nThis will get rid of 80% of cold symptoms pretty quickly and keep them gone for around 1/2 the day. If it's a really nasty one add in some Suddafed during the day and Nyquil at night. Though sleep will do more then any of these things. ", "Get up out of bed, hot shower, lots of spicy food, lots of water, watch The Office (UK) back-to-back.", "If you live in the Midwest- drink some warm Vernors. Seriously, the best thing ever when you're sick. I offer no science - but I swear you'll feel x100 times better. ", "I enjoy ventilating the air throughout the house or taking a walk outside. In other words, fresh air feels better than breathing in the same stagnant air from being cooped up over a long period of time." ]

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[ "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again", "How to always wake up to alarm What have you done to never be late to work? I've been late to work past couple days, I want to know if anyone has been in the same boat as me, I'm wondering what you guys have done to never wake up late again" ]

[ "Put it across the room. If you can reach out and smack snooze while asleep you will, but if you have to get out of bed and walk across the room its much harder to just rollover", "You can use multiple apps, which make you solve a simple math problem to stop the alarm from ringing! They have really helped me! ", "I have an app called Sleepcycle - it wakes you up in the lightest phase of sleep, apparently making it easier to wake. Also it gives you a \"score\" out of 100% of how well you slept, and only shows you this after you have swiped the alarm off - i've been using it so long that it's sort of like a game and I want to see my score for that night (a little sad but hey, it wakes me up!).", "ive used a laptop before keeping it on and using a web based alarm, worked pretty well as you can test it out and set the volume to anything.", "Make it regular. Set your alarm at the same time as often as possible. After a while you may notice that you start waking up a moment before the alarm goes off.\n\nPut the alarm at a distance. Preferably far enough away to ensure you have to get up and take a few steps. Doing this helps prevent disabling the alarms and then rolling over and going back to sleep. I recorded myself with a webcam a few years ago and saw that I was waking up, turning off my alarm, turning off the backup alarm, and falling asleep without remembering it. I thought my alarm was broken.\n\nPick an alarm that you dislike. Some people might recommend waking up to your favorite song or radio station, but if you dislike the sound of it and you need to get out of bed to turn it off you are more likely to stay awake. If it is something you like hearing you have little motivation to get out of bed.\n\nDrink some water before going to bed. Depending on exact circumstances this option may not be the best for you. It tends to help get you out of bed because you wake up and really need to urinate. Staying in bed and going back to sleep become a gamble because you might start dreaming of toilets.\n\nHave some natural light in the room. If possible I have found that natural lighting really helps me wake up in the morning, during the summer at least, because it gradually brightens the room. During the winter this isn't very helpful because I'm waking up before sunrise anyways.\n\nIf you do all these things, the chances of getting back in bed and falling back asleep are pretty slim.", "I recommend getting the old bell clocks ⏰ they will keep ringing for like half an hour and they're loud enough to hear across almost any home", "I believe in setting live electrical wires on my alarm clock. It Definitely gets you up in the morning. ", "I use an app called CARROT alarm clock. It makes you do \"chores\" to turn it off, and uses a different wakeup song every morning. When you snooze it, it goes into 'angry mode', and instead of using a cool synth or happy song, it snoozes and then plays a dubstep song or ear-wrenching nails-on-chalkboard sounds, etc. It really gets you up. \nI usually kept it on 100% sound, but I realized eventually that I tried to turn it off as fast as I could so I wouldn't wake up my family. I experimented, and found that it works best at 75% sound. \nI also recommend using music, like suzuki violin music, in the same order every night to go to sleep so you can get to sleep early.", "Plan your life better.\n\nSounds dickish, but it's not a joke. Its SO FUCKING EASY to be on time.\n\nSo stop fucking around on Reddit so late, go to bed sooner, stop laying in bed when you're already away, and get ready for work.\n\nIt's so fucking easy to not be late, there are literally no excuses but laziness and apathy.", "People who \"can't\" wake up in the morning simply make a choice to not wake up. Alarms wake up people. Going back to sleep is a choice. " ]

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[ "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!", "How to avoid getting shocked when touching objects in the winter The combination of cloth couches and carpet is resulting in me getting shocked by just about everything around the house. I'm talking everything. Somehow even my tile floors are shocking my feet sometimes. I find myself slapping everything before I touch it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I'm about to go nuts!" ]

[ "I've heard that spraying carpet with diluted liquid fabric softener will help.\n\nSide story: I had a friend who was a graduate student in physics at M.I.T. He tended to shuffle as he walked, so of course he built up huge charges. Every time he shuffled over to the drinking fountain to get a drink, he'd get a big shock on his thumb when he pressed the button. Well, he's a physicist, so he realized he could use a block of rubber as an insulator. The result was that instead of the shock going to his thumb, it went through the water to his tongue, which is much more sensitive. He said he had rarely felt so stupid.", "I can't avoid the shock but I can lessen it by tapping my knuckle to the object first before my fingertips. ", "This is my pet peeve too. Doesn't really hurt, but it's damn irritating. I know there are bracelets out there that discharges the static prior to you actually touching an object. Haven't tried it yet so can't comment on effectiveness. Here's something I have found to work. Take a waded up piece of paper towel and use that to open doors or touch objects. Seems like the small separation from your hand to the object nullifies the shock. Also, as pcliv suggests, try and humidify your home and office. That's very effective.", "I tap my elbow ( the front part, not the point) against the exterior corners of walls when I walk. There is usually a metal strip to hold the corner in place under the drywall, and that part of your arm has enough meat to absorb the shock easily.", "The humidifier idea is a good one, but can be difficult in some climates. When younger (the 60s) I lived in a house made entirely of plastic carpet. You could build static potential by shifting in a chair. The trick was to just get used to grounding yourself every so often. Use any grounded metal\n\nA good trick is to use jewelry to make the discharge. You hardly feel it. I used to wear a large class ring. I would walk into the room, make a fist and touch the ring to a table lamp.\n\nRepeating softly \"In brightest day, in darkest night...\"", "In your car, touch and keep hold of the door jamb as you put your feet on the ground.\n\nAt home, stop before touching to let the static electricity dissipate.", "I find that just being ready for it makes it bearable.\n\nIt's when you're not expecting it that it's worst.", "Touch it with the tip of a key you are holding. It will discharge through the key leaving you unshocked. ", "LPT: don't touch any light switches while you have a charge built up. that shit stings.\n\nLPT: you can touch with an open palm a non-conductive wall or other surface for a few seconds to help you slowly dissipate the charge if all other methods (coin, keys) are unavailable", "I've seen two answers to this problem (back when I worked in a very staticky building- I once got too close to a corner and got shocked through my zipper...)\n\nThe electrical engineer carried a 1 megaohm resistor and touched it to all the metal things he passed. (result = slow discharge and no, or very small, spark)\n\nThe physicist carried a quarter and touched it to all the metal things. (result = spark between quarter and metal thing.) \n\nI had dry hands, so no good contact with the quarter, so I used a resistor. \n\nThey cost like a penny each, so if you know any electronics geeks they'll probably give you one.\n\n(", "I touch the screw in every light socket as I pass it. Decharging regularly generally means I never get a big shock. ", "Touch any metal object that could shock you with your knuckles first. Less nerves so less pain. I didn't read through the comments so sorry if this was already said", "The \"sharper\" the surface the easier it is for the charges to jump. If you press the back of your hand to a metal object you'll get much less of a shock than if you use your fingertips. ", "My grade school teacher taught me this. Touch something made of wood to avoid shock. For example, if you're about to open up a door, touch the door (if it's made out of wood) first.", "I just had a bit of a problem with the static on clothes that came out of the laundry. I don't know why, but when I grabbed a piece of clothing, and shook it in the air, like flailing it, the static seemed to go away.", "I found something that works, and it's free! Background: I go to Vegas about once a month and during the winters the shocking that happens is ridiculous. Here's what I found works wonders. Take a damp paper towel and use that to open doors and or touch objects that normally shock you. You may hear a slight \"zap\", but you won't feel a thing. What I do is I keep the damp paper towel in my pocket and take it out when I'm about to open a door. I try to be as inconspicuous as possible and so far, no one has called me on it. Hell, I wouldn't care if they called me weird or whatever, that shit works and it sure beats the trepidation of having to anticipate the shock.", "I can get some extremely bad static too, even to the point of shock tile floor through shoes. I've found that not wearing shoes/socks can really help with most shocks, since you become grounded, so when at home you can do that. That being said, if you touch something that isn't a great conductor (like wood) normally the charge disappates and you won't get shocked as much (if at all)." ]

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[ "Keeping fingers warm in freezing weather when gloves fail. My body is bad at circulating warmth to my fingers, so when going outside in this weather it takes maybe 5 minutes for the cold to get through my gloves.", "Keeping fingers warm in freezing weather when gloves fail. My body is bad at circulating warmth to my fingers, so when going outside in this weather it takes maybe 5 minutes for the cold to get through my gloves." ]

[ "Put latex gloves (the ones your doctor wear, not the dishwashing ones) on under the regular gloves. This will not only keep you a bit warmer, but will also keep you dry if you find yourself in snow/rain. ", "I use these, they also make them for feet:\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/HotHands-Hand-Warmers-40-pairs/dp/B0007ZF4OA" ]

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[ "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!", "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!", "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!", "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!", "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!", "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!", "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!", "new neighbor gift ideas Just moved into a neighborhood that my family plans to live in for a long time. Aside from being nice to my neighbors, thought it might be cool to give a small gift/gesture. \n\nI'm reluctant to gift anything alcoholic as everyone has a different \"relationship\" with it. 1 neighbor is a couple in their late 30s with (2) 8 yr olds, another is a couple in their 80s, and the 3rd I've yet to meet. \n\nThanks for your pro tips!" ]

[ "Board games? It’s a unique enough gift and if you eventually want to be friends with them, it’s a nice opener\n\n", "Please consider making certificates for gifts of service, such as one free mowing, or a ride to and from an event (concert; airport). Something that you can do for them that a good neighbor would do. This shows you plan to be a good, long term neighbor and removes any need to turn down your gift due to diet restrictions- they can use it any time in the future, or not, but the offer was made.", "An old friend just came through town. When he showed up he had an assortment of cookies from Panera. It was a nice touch. \n\nIn your case offering something is nice (but they should be welcoming you. Ha). I would suggest making sure you trade cell numbers and names at the first meeting. It helps with barking dogs, misplaced mail, Amazon packages on vacation etc.", "When we moved into our current house, we gave a neighborhood party. We printed up invitations and left them at houses up and down our block.", "Bay leaf tree. They’re said to be good luck and raise the home’s vibration. (Take what you will from that.) A good friend gifted us one when we moved into our new home and we LOVE it. \n\nps: thank you for being cognizant of people’s relationship with alcohol. 👍", "What is your family dynamic , maybe get them something to either a ) play with your kids if they see them outside b) something to help them with your annoyance or c) something to brighten up their home ( flowers , board game , etc etc if you know their interests etc ) if they have a pool maybe some floaties or something etc", "I just bought some stuff from a local micro bakery for my new neighbours. A loaf of sourdough, cookies and brownies. I wanted to get something commercially made since people can be wary of eating food made by people they don’t know. So I get to support a local business, maybe gain them a new customer, and welcome my new neighbours.", "Drop off a box of donuts from a local donut shop on Saturday morning. Who doesn’t love surprise donuts." ]

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[ "More energy during the day. Hello people, I was wondering if any of you guys have any tips or LPT's you use to get more energy during the day. I used to have lots of energy when I used to exercise and play sports, but ever since football season ended, I haven't had lots of energy. I'm tired a lot, can't seem to keep up kind of. If any of you guys have any tips you use, feel free to tell me! Have a great day everyone!", "More energy during the day. Hello people, I was wondering if any of you guys have any tips or LPT's you use to get more energy during the day. I used to have lots of energy when I used to exercise and play sports, but ever since football season ended, I haven't had lots of energy. I'm tired a lot, can't seem to keep up kind of. If any of you guys have any tips you use, feel free to tell me! Have a great day everyone!" ]

[ "One habit that is pretty easy to start is eat an apple about an hour after you eat. Plus the are healthy and give you some good, lasting energy between meals. ", ">I used to have lots of energy when I used to exercise and play sports, but ever since football season ended, I haven't had lots of energy. \n\nProbably because of a couple things. You aren't exercising as much, and you're also on a less-structured schedule, making it more likely you are staying up late or having irregular duration of sleepytime\n\n" ]

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[ "Best way to keep track of to-do lists for various responsibilities Hey! I've got four different responsibilities that i have to keep track of and need a way to track to-do lists for them individually if possible. I'm a teacher so these are the things i need a to-do list for, preferably in such a way that is easy to access and provide reminders:\n\nI need a to-do list for:\n- all the work I need to do for my classroom\n- all my meetings and responsibilities as a coach\n- all things for the club I advise\n- all the things I need to do to get ready for a DnD playgroup which I DM for", "Best way to keep track of to-do lists for various responsibilities Hey! I've got four different responsibilities that i have to keep track of and need a way to track to-do lists for them individually if possible. I'm a teacher so these are the things i need a to-do list for, preferably in such a way that is easy to access and provide reminders:\n\nI need a to-do list for:\n- all the work I need to do for my classroom\n- all my meetings and responsibilities as a coach\n- all things for the club I advise\n- all the things I need to do to get ready for a DnD playgroup which I DM for", "Best way to keep track of to-do lists for various responsibilities Hey! I've got four different responsibilities that i have to keep track of and need a way to track to-do lists for them individually if possible. I'm a teacher so these are the things i need a to-do list for, preferably in such a way that is easy to access and provide reminders:\n\nI need a to-do list for:\n- all the work I need to do for my classroom\n- all my meetings and responsibilities as a coach\n- all things for the club I advise\n- all the things I need to do to get ready for a DnD playgroup which I DM for", "Best way to keep track of to-do lists for various responsibilities Hey! I've got four different responsibilities that i have to keep track of and need a way to track to-do lists for them individually if possible. I'm a teacher so these are the things i need a to-do list for, preferably in such a way that is easy to access and provide reminders:\n\nI need a to-do list for:\n- all the work I need to do for my classroom\n- all my meetings and responsibilities as a coach\n- all things for the club I advise\n- all the things I need to do to get ready for a DnD playgroup which I DM for", "Best way to keep track of to-do lists for various responsibilities Hey! I've got four different responsibilities that i have to keep track of and need a way to track to-do lists for them individually if possible. I'm a teacher so these are the things i need a to-do list for, preferably in such a way that is easy to access and provide reminders:\n\nI need a to-do list for:\n- all the work I need to do for my classroom\n- all my meetings and responsibilities as a coach\n- all things for the club I advise\n- all the things I need to do to get ready for a DnD playgroup which I DM for" ]

[ "Google Keep. You can create to-do lists, notes, add pictures, handwriting, etc. and they all look like sticky notes in the app. You can color code them, and even put the app as a widget (if you use Android), so you can see and visit your tasks right on your homescreen.", "Evernote! I use it everyday at work and for personal tasks. You can create notes, booknotes and stacks of booknotes, so preety unlimited.\n\nCheck it out!", "Unpopular opinion... keep an agenda notebook! Even a small one you can keep on your person does wonders.", "Read the book _Getting Things Done_ by David Allen and then find a Task app that supports the GTD methodology (I like Things for iOS). It will change your life.", "#TODOIST!\n\nGreat for handling tons of tasks at once\n\nIts considered one of the best out there\n\nIt lets you to make alot of subtasks\n\nIt has an inbox system so you can dump things you need to do there and move/organize it later\n\nIve used it everyday and it works wonders" ]

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[ "How to make transition from daytime sleeping to \"normal\" nighttime In my work I work night shifts for 7 days and then I am off work for a longer period so I can transition back to normal (sleeping at night). However I find it so that my off time is often ruined by this transition. Over several days, maybe up to a week I feel really bad and have little energy from this transition. Are there any tips to how I can do this more effectively?", "How to make transition from daytime sleeping to \"normal\" nighttime In my work I work night shifts for 7 days and then I am off work for a longer period so I can transition back to normal (sleeping at night). However I find it so that my off time is often ruined by this transition. Over several days, maybe up to a week I feel really bad and have little energy from this transition. Are there any tips to how I can do this more effectively?", "How to make transition from daytime sleeping to \"normal\" nighttime In my work I work night shifts for 7 days and then I am off work for a longer period so I can transition back to normal (sleeping at night). However I find it so that my off time is often ruined by this transition. Over several days, maybe up to a week I feel really bad and have little energy from this transition. Are there any tips to how I can do this more effectively?", "How to make transition from daytime sleeping to \"normal\" nighttime In my work I work night shifts for 7 days and then I am off work for a longer period so I can transition back to normal (sleeping at night). However I find it so that my off time is often ruined by this transition. Over several days, maybe up to a week I feel really bad and have little energy from this transition. Are there any tips to how I can do this more effectively?", "How to make transition from daytime sleeping to \"normal\" nighttime In my work I work night shifts for 7 days and then I am off work for a longer period so I can transition back to normal (sleeping at night). However I find it so that my off time is often ruined by this transition. Over several days, maybe up to a week I feel really bad and have little energy from this transition. Are there any tips to how I can do this more effectively?" ]

[ "I don't have the reference, but I read somewhere that circadian rhythm can be influenced by eating. Have a big lunch, skip dinner (or just have a snack), go to bed when you feel tired, get up when you need to and eat a meal.", "Hi, I used to work in the telecommunications industry, a good trick I used to use was staying up an additional 24 hours, then sleeping as per normal the following day.\nHope it helps. ", "You can 'hard-shift' your sleep cycle by staying awake longer (not a full 24 hours, you'll need extra hours to sleep at first). Going by the time you want to be awake try to stay awake until 12 hours before you need to be up.\n\nYou can also 'soft-shift,' which is the opposite. Rather than staying up late, stay up a little late and then stay in bed and sleep as late as possible (up until your target time to wake up).\n\nSetting alarms helps solidify the time when you need to be up. Like JohnOTD mentioned, regulating your food intake helps. It can also help to not use electronics at night (or use f.lux at least) so your brain isn't fooled into thinking it's daytime.\n\nIf you're interested in tools to help based on your sleep patterns (Yay science!) [this](http://www.sleepyti.me/) site can help tell you exactly when to go to sleep, or when to set an alarm.", "I work 4 - 12 hour night shifts from 6 pm to 6 am in a row with 4 days off afterwards. I stay awake my first day off and go to sleep at 9m. The 2nd morning off I wake up at 0630. \n\nThis has worked like a charm for me for 5 years", " http://www.livescience.com/2562-beat-jet-lag-eat.html\n\n\n' \"We discovered that a single cycle of starvation followed by refeeding turns on the [food-related] clock,\" Saper said, \"so that it effectively overrides the suprachiasmatic nucleus [the circadian clock] and hijacks all of the circadian rhythms onto a new time zone that corresponds with food availability.\"\n\nIn addition to keeping animals' bellies plenty full, the clock has implications for travelers and shift workers.\n\nFor example, if you travel from the United States to Japan, your body needs to adjust to a 13-hour to 16-hour time difference. \"Because the body's biological clock can only shift a small amount each day, it takes the average person about a week to adjust to the new time zone,\" Saper said. \"And, by then, it's often time to turn around and come home.\"\n\nBy changing your eating schedules, a traveler might be able to rev up this secondary clock and adjust more quickly to the new time zone.\n\n\"A period of fasting with no food at all for about 16 hours is enough to engage this new clock,\" Saper said. '" ]

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[ "how to stop being a flake after long days of work/school? I find that once I get home and changed into comfortable clothes it's so hard to get me out, even when I have set plans. ", "how to stop being a flake after long days of work/school? I find that once I get home and changed into comfortable clothes it's so hard to get me out, even when I have set plans. ", "how to stop being a flake after long days of work/school? I find that once I get home and changed into comfortable clothes it's so hard to get me out, even when I have set plans. " ]

[ "It is necessary to go home inbetween? \n\nMaybe if you have plans for the evening, bring something to change into after work and go straight to whatever you planned to do or find something else to do inbetween. ", "Tell yourself you'll go out x many days of the month or that you'll stick to your plans every Monday or Friday. Know your schedule and judge which days you'll be most tired or need to get up early the next day so you'll know when you can stay in. Or get yourself really hyped about whatever your plans are or initiate the plans yourself so you'll feel excited and willing to commit.", "Exercising every day right after school/work will give you more energy, not just because you'll get stronger and faster, but because of the brain chemicals you release. " ]

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[ "What to do to minimise leg pain at work? I'm working in a store with clothes and I take care of the queue to changing rooms. I can walk aroundown a bit but I can't get anything to sit, I have to stay on feet. \n\nWhat to do to prevent my legs from hurting after a shift? ", "What to do to minimise leg pain at work? I'm working in a store with clothes and I take care of the queue to changing rooms. I can walk aroundown a bit but I can't get anything to sit, I have to stay on feet. \n\nWhat to do to prevent my legs from hurting after a shift? ", "What to do to minimise leg pain at work? I'm working in a store with clothes and I take care of the queue to changing rooms. I can walk aroundown a bit but I can't get anything to sit, I have to stay on feet. \n\nWhat to do to prevent my legs from hurting after a shift? " ]

[ "I work in a movie theater box office, standing in one place for like six hours a day. Here's a few stretches I do:\n\n- Point your foot to the ground, then pull it back, with toes pointing as far back as you can. Repeat 10x with each foot.\n\n- Bend your knee tight, then stretch your leg out fully straight. Repeat 10x each leg.\n\n- Constant ankle rolls, at least 10x each foot.\n\n- Dr. Scholl's. Don't skimp, treat your feet right.\n\nGood luck!", "I do a few things. \n\nStretch throughout the day. Look up \"leg day\" stretches. 2 or 3 times during an 8 hour shift is good.\n\nAlso, drink plenty of water. Your joints are lubricated best when hydrated.\n\nFind comfortable shoes and care for your feet. Sweat a lot? By good socks and some foot powder. Your leg muscles and joints compensate for discomfort in your feet. Without a good foundation your legs could cramp in places you never thought could cramp.\n\nAnd finally, at the end of the day, don't just plop down on the sofa. You ever over heat your coffee? Did you ever think that putting it in the freezer might be a good idea to cool it down? Did you crack the mug?\n\nSame rule applies to your muscles. Exercise heats up your muscles. And, rapid cooling could cause cramps. So, instead of just stopping any and all activity, tone down the end of your day with simple movements. \n\nWhen your shift ends, and you sit in your car. Take a few minutes before turning the engine on, and do a few more stretches. ", "Around here, there's a shoe store that takes the exact form of the underneath of your feet, and gets soles done specifically for you. These would give you a way better posture, and may very well help with the leg pains. They go for like 300$ a pair, so it's not cheap, but the government paid for mine because of my white card (social service health insurance card sort of thing).\n\nThere's always doctor soles of course, for a cheap alternative. \n \nThese things don't just cushion the feet, but also help with posture; which helps all the way up to the spine, and maybe higher." ]

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[ "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'.", "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'.", "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'.", "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'.", "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'.", "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'.", "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'.", "Manscaping So I've been meaning to do some deforestation. Any tips on how to do so, preferably with no blood loss? I'm looking specifically for methods of safely trimming the 'undercarriage'." ]

[ "I use the Gillette Pro Glide Styler. It comes with 3 different attachments of different sizes plus the normal razor blades. I have found it works the best because you can decide how much of the 'forest' you'd like to remove. Just make sure you always keep fresh batteries in it, so it won't shut off mid-cut, and postpone further manscaping. ", "This is a great guide that made it to r/bestof. \n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/everymanshouldknow/comments/1f66w4/emskr_how_to_shave_pubes/ca76l87", "I use beard trim scissors and sit on the toilet, makes cleanup easier. I don't actually \"shave\" per say, I find just keeping it short with scissors works fine. Also, do it on a day when you have some free time. I take quite a while to make sure I'm thorough usually.", "shaving my balls is easier (and less painful) than shaving my face. i do it in the shower with my wife's venus razor. use soap or conditioner for lube if you need it. i just stand with my junk directly under the water flow and start going at it. i never have problems.", "There is a remmington trimmer Target occasionally sells (although they don't seem to restock it too well). About $8. Looks like a pen, but had a vertical trimming surface. I can get REALLY close with it, more than I have with any other shaver. However, it tends to break within about 2-3 months.", "Philips Body Groom. Made specifically for manscaping. \n\nUse baby powder or gold bond to get the area dry and it goes a lot easier. Gold Bond is an LPT on its own. ", "Do it while you have an erection. It pulls the skin on your balls and shaft taut and makes it less likely you will catch skin in the blades.\n", "All of these so far are good. I'll add that I don't like using a brand new razor because it leaves tiny cuts. Also, for the top, buy a pair of hair clippers and you can use the blade guards for an even cut every time. " ]

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[ "Ways to help someone with money problems without them knowing or making it obvious that you're helping them. ", "Ways to help someone with money problems without them knowing or making it obvious that you're helping them. ", "Ways to help someone with money problems without them knowing or making it obvious that you're helping them. ", "Ways to help someone with money problems without them knowing or making it obvious that you're helping them. " ]

[ "If they have some ability/desire to cook, buy them a Blue Apron or other meal delivery subscription. Far \"nicer\" and more like a gift than a gift card to a grocery store, and at $10 per meal per person it's not an unreasonable level of splurge.\n\nSource: been un/underemployed for almost 2 years now, with many meals of just ramen or rice, the Blue Apron sub I got for Xmas was the most thoughtful and useful gift I've gotten. On the flip side, friends that insisted on taking me somewhere nice and expensive for one meal because I \"deserved something nice\", I couldn't help but think how much ramen they could have bought me with the $18 risotto (the cheapest thing on the menu). It feels very alienating to be in that imbalanced situation.", "To me the biggest problem is \"why\" - if they are in trouble b/c they go out to eat every single day, drink constantly, drive a new car they can't afford - then nothing. They are knowingly and willingly fucking their lives up, stay free of it. If you must help - send them books/movies on how to fix it themselves. Don't give them money or pay for anything for them. They need to recognize that they are the problem first.\n\nHowever, I'm assuming you mean something more like a short term problem (lost a job), or a medium term issue (lost job and new job pays a lot less). For these, the best thing is to just be around to 'help'. Whether it is you want to visit their kids, hang out and watch a movie, or something else. Anything to randomly come over for another reason.\n\nThen just bring some stuff and leave it there - get a large pizza, eat a single piece and leave the rest. If you drink, bring a 6 pack, have 1 and leave the rest. Small stuff like this adds up over time and is less likely to be noticed.\n\nalso - if you have a reason to borrow their car, refill it, and maybe drop a $5 or $10 in the glove box. It's enough that make a small difference without really flagging that you are helping them out.\n\n", "Make bets that you would obviously know you'd lose so that way they'd win, but they might find you out, so that seems a little risky.\n\n\n\nYou could also go to a store to hang out with them, buy a lottery ticket, and proceed to tell him \"If we win, I'll split the winnings with you.\" The next day call him up and tell him you've won X amount of dollars and give it to him that way.", "Depends on the money problem. If they have a one time need for money, (cancer diagnosis, unjustly fired, etc) then put some money in an envelope and type their name on it and mail it to them with their own address as the return address. Type it so they can't place the handwriting. Make sure to wrap the cash in some paper so it doesn't show through the envelope. If you want you can include an anonymous, typed note saying it's from a charitable person who noticed they were struggling, and to pay it forward when they can. \n\nIf they need help learning how to budget money, you can give unsolicited advice, or see if there are any local classes about budgeting. Banks, DHHS, and charitable groups often host \"How to get out of debt\" classes for people. Ask the person if they think it would be worthwhile to attend and offer to go to so you can learn a thing or two. Be positive, and hopefully they will say yes.\n\nOtherwise, I wouldn't get to far into it. Kudos for wanting to help but unless it's your child or partner it's not up to you to make sure the person knows how to handle money problems. We all want to help friends and family, but at some point you have to set a healthy boundary. They may have issues with money and need the real life consequences to finally learn how to be responsible." ]

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[ "Life After College What to do if you can't land that job?\n\nStudent debts?\n\nMoving out/living alone?\n\nGoing homeless because of debts?\n\nEtc etc etc anything helps!!\n\nThanks.", "Life After College What to do if you can't land that job?\n\nStudent debts?\n\nMoving out/living alone?\n\nGoing homeless because of debts?\n\nEtc etc etc anything helps!!\n\nThanks.", "Life After College What to do if you can't land that job?\n\nStudent debts?\n\nMoving out/living alone?\n\nGoing homeless because of debts?\n\nEtc etc etc anything helps!!\n\nThanks." ]

[ "Define THAT job? You mean that six figure salary job??? If you mean any job - you keep looking.\n\nPay of student debts FIRST before buying a house or leasing a car.\n\nGet a job and save at least 3 months rent BEFORE moving out. Living alone is not bad (take it from a man who has lived with his wife for over 10 years).\n\nOh - and last piece of advice - There are NO safe zones in real life!!! ", "First tip: Don't sweat the stuff you can't change. If you legitimately have no control over certain situations. Don't think about it.\n\nSecond tip: Don't borrow money and use cr", "Debts: look into income based repayment plans, deferments, etc. There's several different types of plans and ways to temporarily not make payments if you don't get employed immediately. Call up your loan servicer and chat with them about you situation and what you can afford. Saved my ass after graduation." ]

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[ "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?", "How do I get better at small talk? I'm realizing that I'm having a really hard time connecting with people. How do I get better at holding a conversation?" ]

[ "You could practice online. There are subs like /r/CasualConversation, /r/Needafriend, /r/LetsChat, etc. As you get more practice chatting with people online, you could start setting goals for yourself to start conversations in person with people. Subs like /r/socialskills, /r/HowToNotGiveAFuck, and such can help with getting over hurdles you might experience translating success chatting online to success having conversations in person.\n\nI hope that you find what you're looking for! : ) ", "You need to listen to what the person is saying.\n\nOften times people just think \"Whats the next best question to ask!?!?!\"\n\nwhen really if you listen to what other people say, you can just ask them the next easiest question.\n\n\"Hi how have you been\"\n\n\"I've been good just been working a lot\"\n\n\"oh really do you have any new projects at work\"\n\n\"yeah but I don't feel like talking about work right now\"\n\n\"what have you been doing outside of work\"\n\n\"Just been relaxing and stuff\"\n\n\"Oh yeah, how do you relax?\"\n\n\"I usually watch netflix\"\n\n\"Oh cool what shows have you been watching\"\n\n\"I dono i usually just flip through whatever\"\n\nAfter several dead end questions this is either your chance to leave, or tell them what you've been up to recently. Here you have at least 3 minutes allotted to talk about whatever you want. ", "By making small talk. Like anything else, practice makes perfect.\n\nMy go-to technique for breaking awkward silences is just being embarrassingly honest. \"Since I'm massively uncomfortable with awkward silences, I'm going to ask you a series of inane questions to try and break the ice. Question one: are you from around here?\" People seem to like that kind of thing.", "Try to find a subject where you are quite confident to talk about. Small talk is always a two way street. Like previous comments in the thread you should not interrogate people but you should not take yourself out of the conversation either. Try to listen, open up, and try to follow op with your own story. You can ask someone about their holidays for example, but don't be afraid to share your own story as well. People like to talk and like to listen. Try making the conversation go both ways. Otherwise you know the guy sitting across you but he doesn't know you. \n\n\nWhat also helps is trying to keep up with the news. Read as much as you can do. When you ask in the above example about holidays en he is telling something about Thailand for example. You didnt have to go to Thailand to actually talk about Thailand. In this case you ask for example: what was the prettiest beach? How was the service? How were the people, because I heard they are super friendly? Are they really still loving the king? Is it true then when you speak bad about the king you can get arrested? \n\nI've never been to Thailand but just the reading helps a lot. \n\nAnd op, don't forget. If someone is closed off and he doesn't give a good response. Fuck that Guy. It's his problem, not yours. You are an amazing human being for trying. Don't talk yourself down to it. Just think: \"this person doesn't want to talk to me. Okay. This person misses out on a nice chit chat because I'm OP and I am good company. \" \n\nThat mind state makes you more comfortable in your own skin and in those situations. \n\nAs a last tip: don't be afraid if small talk doesn't work and you want to bail out. No problem whatsover. If the conversation is running still and you are thinking of bailing out. Just excuse yourself. \n\nI've had some problems last year with this sort of conversation and my whole self image. All the above helped me out a lot with my self image and confidence! \n\nGood luck OP! ", "I agree with what's been said, but there's something missing. Yes, for sure ask people questions about themselves, but when they answer, think about what they said. Imagine you were in their situation, how it would make you feel, and let that guide follow-up questions. If you don't know enough to know how you'd feel, ask those questions. Connecting with people happens best with some empathy.\n\nSo if you ask someone how their Christmas was, and they tell you it was good because their kids came up to visit, maybe ask how far away the kids live, how many there are, etc. If they live far, what would that be like, to not see their kids often. You could say something like \"Wow, must have been really nice to see them - does it bother you to have them so far away?\" If you have experience like that in your own family, you could mention it and how you feel about it.", "Start by talking with cashiers, every time you check out.\nThat's what I did. Don't try for too big a conversation.", "People love to blab about themselves and their family. Keep questions focused on them, remember key parts of their bullshit, and do your absolute best to not either repeat questions or ask a question they may have answered indirectly. ", "I used to have a list of FAQ to ask newly met friends. Try to alternate between yes- no questions, and open- ended questions. E. g. \"Do you like art?\" \"Oh yes? Do you have a favourite artist?\"", "Hey man I have some advice; I work in situations where I need to make meaningless small talk all the time. \n\nRemember to ask a lot of questions, but not so many so you seem overbearing. Ask about the person's day, family, job etc. Remember that people love talking about themselves more than anything else.\n\nKeep your body language open and make eye-contact - but don't stare. You're not some perv on patrol here, you're trying to have a conversation.\n\nBe engaging and make lots of follow up statements or questions; so when a conversation seems to be finishing, ask a question or leave an open statement to continue it.\n\nFinally, make sure that you are listening, Pick up on details from the other person, learn more about them. Making inferences from what they say (like picking up that someone plays football from them talking about the game last Saturday) can make you and them connect.\n\nIf you do these things there's no reason that you will not have a developed, rewarding conversation with someone.", "Go volunteer time at a retirement home, practice makes perfect.\n\nOr just do what I do, avoid people and useless small talk whenever possible. If someone small-talks you about anything other than the weather, respond with 'Yeah, what crazy weather', and if it's about the weather, respond with 'Yeah, that local sports team'. Most people get the clue real quick and drop the stupid pointless small talk. People suck anyway, so missing out on 'connecting' isn't really a loss.", "What helped me was to created a list of generic questions that would provoke a generic response in order as a segway into a more meaningful conversation. \"How are things?\" \"Is that your truck?\" \"You ever milk a camel?\" Works every time. \n", "View it as a relaxing activity with no outcome. You should not be trying to get anything out of it. If you struggle with small talk it's probably because you are subtly trying to get something. Usually their approval. You put too much weight on the interaction and it makes you weird. Fully accept that there is nothing the other person can do for you. Not date you, not give you a job, not accept you like your parents never have, etc. and you'll be able to relax and let it flow.\n\nYour literacy is more than adequate. You probably had an easier time connecting when you were younger and knew hardly any words. Don't fall for the trap that you need to read more to socialize better. You'll always feel like you're never well read enough. Many people I know who are great at small talk don't read shit. \n\nThink about the energy the other person would enjoy, and smile!", "Try reading two books a week. One fiction, and one non-fiction. always something new in your mind. After a few months, you'd have a plethora of interesting conversation points. Plus bonus talking points if one has read same books. ", "I don't like answering the same 10 questions for each stranger. It's really boring! I'm also not interested in hearing someone's biography right after meeting them, so I avoid the where are you from/how many kids do you have/ etc. line of questioning.\n\nWhat I do is just remark on something that's been on my mind, and that is relatable to just about anyone (\"People say that holiday decorations are going up earlier each year, but I don't feel like they are, do you?\" It's relatable because everyone sees these decorations, and now you can talk about when you put up and take down your own decorations, other people's crazy decor, or just the holidays in general).\n\nMaking small talk is easier if you have a prop nearby to help you (a tree: \"Man, my mother never let me climb trees as a kid!\", a Coke: \"Are you a Coke person, or a Pepsi person?\", etc.). Use your props." ]

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[ "How can I be more logical? I feel a lot. I am not exactly sure why. On MBTI I'm ENFP/ENTP. \n\nHow can I exercise more logic in my life?", "How can I be more logical? I feel a lot. I am not exactly sure why. On MBTI I'm ENFP/ENTP. \n\nHow can I exercise more logic in my life?", "How can I be more logical? I feel a lot. I am not exactly sure why. On MBTI I'm ENFP/ENTP. \n\nHow can I exercise more logic in my life?" ]

[ "You can start by disregarding everything that test tells you, as it's [Forer effect pseudoscience](http://skepdic.com/forer.html). It's basically just a horoscope with sciencey-sounding words.", "You could take a basic class on Logic -- most math departments offer them. You could buy logic puzzle books to work on in your spare time. Also, you could study a branch of philosophy called Stoicism. Stoics believed that strong emotion was bad for people, and they also had a wonderful way of looking at the silver lining in any storm cloud.", "Read logic based philosophy such as Descartes, Locke, Hume, and Plato. \n\nCheck out Karl Popper, one of the greatest philosophers of the 20th century, and a great proponent of scientific reasoning. " ]

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[ "Actual LPT that helped you I've been lurking around for a long time now and I've only got to try a handful of LPT. They all seem to be useful once in a lifetime. Do you guys have any LPT that you found here and use daily? If so, share them here! I'll start first:\n\nBrush your teeth while waiting for the shower to get hot. Save myself 2-3 minutes everyday, and I don't have to sit and wait.", "Actual LPT that helped you I've been lurking around for a long time now and I've only got to try a handful of LPT. They all seem to be useful once in a lifetime. Do you guys have any LPT that you found here and use daily? If so, share them here! I'll start first:\n\nBrush your teeth while waiting for the shower to get hot. Save myself 2-3 minutes everyday, and I don't have to sit and wait.", "Actual LPT that helped you I've been lurking around for a long time now and I've only got to try a handful of LPT. They all seem to be useful once in a lifetime. Do you guys have any LPT that you found here and use daily? If so, share them here! I'll start first:\n\nBrush your teeth while waiting for the shower to get hot. Save myself 2-3 minutes everyday, and I don't have to sit and wait.", "Actual LPT that helped you I've been lurking around for a long time now and I've only got to try a handful of LPT. They all seem to be useful once in a lifetime. Do you guys have any LPT that you found here and use daily? If so, share them here! I'll start first:\n\nBrush your teeth while waiting for the shower to get hot. Save myself 2-3 minutes everyday, and I don't have to sit and wait.", "Actual LPT that helped you I've been lurking around for a long time now and I've only got to try a handful of LPT. They all seem to be useful once in a lifetime. Do you guys have any LPT that you found here and use daily? If so, share them here! I'll start first:\n\nBrush your teeth while waiting for the shower to get hot. Save myself 2-3 minutes everyday, and I don't have to sit and wait." ]

[ "My favorite one of all time: \n\n> Put your tools away as soon as you're done using them. you'll save thousand of dollars over your life not replacing them. \n\n[linky link](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2reh7s/lpt_get_in_the_habit_of_putting_away_tools_as/)\n\ncomments there are also hilarious.", "Tying my shoelaces in a slightly different way is one I use daily. Not the super-quick one (I can't get my head round it) but the one where you do the first knot the \"wrong\" way - it makes the bow sit nicely rather than go off on an angle. \n\nAnother is making sure I always try and have my hands full when walking in the house. As in there is always *something* that needs moving to another room. I even make little piles like at the bottom of the stairs, then the next time I go up I can take it with me. \n\nI think thought once you have been here a while, the number of truly revolutionary genius ideas have dried up. ", "Keep the toilet paper roll after its finished and use them to organize that collection of loose wires you have.", "Filling a cup of ice with water, and draining it before pouring in your soda; essentially, wetting the ice before you poor your drink. It prevents excessive fizzing, and helps it stay carbonated.", "Wait for shower to get hot? wow. What a waste of water. I guess since I had bucket showers in Kenya on my safari, and watched people carrying their water on their heads for miles, I would not allow myself to waste the water like that, even if I can. #perspective\n" ]

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[ "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)", "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)", "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)", "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)", "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)", "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)", "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)", "How can I dry my clothes by hand at home? I don’t have a washer or dryer and my car is being a pain in my butt so I can’t go to the laundromat. How can I wash dry my work jeans quickly at home? Blow drying doesn’t do anything to help. I know how to wash the clothes, I just need to make sure dry they’re dry by the time I’m leaving for work (which is 24 hours from when I’m posting this)" ]

[ "You've been given a lot of good suggestions, and shot them all down. I can only assume you're looking for a different definition of drying.\n \nMix 2 lbs kosher salt with 2 tbsp pink curing salt, otherwise known as sodium nitrate. Apply as a dry rub, being sure to get the curing salt into the creases, seams, and zippers. Cut open several brown paper bags and lay your jeans flat on the paper. If you can get your jeans in an area that gets some sunlight each day, even better. Turn over every 12 hours or so for 3 days (more for heavy denim like flame-resistant greens or heavy-duty logger Carharts).\n \nWhen dry, take outside to shake off the excess salt. Preheat your smoker to 225°F. I recommend mild fruit wood chips, but you may want something stronger, like hickory or mesquite. Using an electronic thermometer, cook until.you hit an internal temperature of 150°F or higher. Remove from smoke, allow to cool. If properly dry, keep in a cool, dry place for up to a year. Discard if mold grows on surface - this indicates that you didn't use enough pink curing nitrates.", "You can hang them up your radiator (not on it if it is an electrical one). Basically, anything a bit hot would make your clothes dry in 24h (unless it is a very thicc material) when you hang your clothes near it.", "If you have an electric oven and the inside of it is clean, you can set it to the lowest heat setting and leave the door cracked open. Lowest heat settings on most electric ovens in the states is 175-200°F", "I use a clothes horse to dry all my clothes. It's like a stool with a gull wing set up. Dryers destroy clothing.", "Good old fashioned drying rack\n\n> AmazonBasics Foldable Clothes Drying Laundry Rack - Chrome \n\n> https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00H7P1G7C/", "You can use a towel to speed along air drying. Lay wet jeans flat on heavy towel, roll up towel/jeans, then twist or wring the towel as much as possible. This soaks up a good bit of water from the jeans into the towel.", "Is this a one-time thing or a recurring need? For a one-time situation, ask any friend, relative, landlord, neighbor or other acquaintance to use their dryer. If this is a recurring need and you have no place to install a proper dryer then get a dehumidifier instead, a small device that sucks moisture out of the air, typically with a fan. You put it in a closet or in the smallest room you have and whatever you hang in there dries quickly.", "Iron them to get them good and hot, (don’t try to dry jeans with an iron you’ll be there for hours) and set them up under a ceiling fan. If you have dehumidifier turning that on works too. I’m assuming based off the current date you probably have shorter days, cooler daytime highs, and higher chances of cloud cover, if not outright foul weather." ]

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[ "How to confront liars? How do you confront someone that is lying? Such as someone who denies lies by either just denying it, or they’ll have an excuse of why it's not them. \n\nEX. Recently I noticed that I wasn’t friends with someone on a social media app anymore, so I of course I was curious and looked them up. When I looked them up, they were blocked by me, which doesn’t make sense cause I wouldn’t do that, so this lead to me accusing the only person who could have time and access to my phone to do this. The problem with this situation is that there isn’t any solid evidence I have that they did it, but just accusations. \n\nBut back to the main objective of this post, and not my own personal problems. \n\nI am looking to how to confront ANY liar that continues to lie, such as how can I get them to admit I caught them?\n", "How to confront liars? How do you confront someone that is lying? Such as someone who denies lies by either just denying it, or they’ll have an excuse of why it's not them. \n\nEX. Recently I noticed that I wasn’t friends with someone on a social media app anymore, so I of course I was curious and looked them up. When I looked them up, they were blocked by me, which doesn’t make sense cause I wouldn’t do that, so this lead to me accusing the only person who could have time and access to my phone to do this. The problem with this situation is that there isn’t any solid evidence I have that they did it, but just accusations. \n\nBut back to the main objective of this post, and not my own personal problems. \n\nI am looking to how to confront ANY liar that continues to lie, such as how can I get them to admit I caught them?\n", "How to confront liars? How do you confront someone that is lying? Such as someone who denies lies by either just denying it, or they’ll have an excuse of why it's not them. \n\nEX. Recently I noticed that I wasn’t friends with someone on a social media app anymore, so I of course I was curious and looked them up. When I looked them up, they were blocked by me, which doesn’t make sense cause I wouldn’t do that, so this lead to me accusing the only person who could have time and access to my phone to do this. The problem with this situation is that there isn’t any solid evidence I have that they did it, but just accusations. \n\nBut back to the main objective of this post, and not my own personal problems. \n\nI am looking to how to confront ANY liar that continues to lie, such as how can I get them to admit I caught them?\n", "How to confront liars? How do you confront someone that is lying? Such as someone who denies lies by either just denying it, or they’ll have an excuse of why it's not them. \n\nEX. Recently I noticed that I wasn’t friends with someone on a social media app anymore, so I of course I was curious and looked them up. When I looked them up, they were blocked by me, which doesn’t make sense cause I wouldn’t do that, so this lead to me accusing the only person who could have time and access to my phone to do this. The problem with this situation is that there isn’t any solid evidence I have that they did it, but just accusations. \n\nBut back to the main objective of this post, and not my own personal problems. \n\nI am looking to how to confront ANY liar that continues to lie, such as how can I get them to admit I caught them?\n" ]

[ "Provide evidence. If you can't, then you don't really have the right to accuse them in the first place. ", "I'm about to put this in all caps so I make sure you remember it and remember it well, THE ENTIRE TIME BE THE MOST POLITE AND UNAGGRESSIVE PERSON YOU CAN BE! Going into it calmly will help them be real with you, and reduce the stress of being caught and drilled into. People don't like being caught lying because they lose friends or treated terribly for it. If you go into it with an attitude that makes them comfortable and willing to talk, they will feel less threatened and become less defensive. However, you still should be firm, and make your evidence very clear. One way to start the accusation is to very calmly tell them that you are not mad, but you need them to hear something. Tell them that they can say whatever they need, as long as they let you finish everything you have to say (while saying it politely.) Remember, liars lie, so they might lie to get out of it, but the more comfortable they feel, the more they take you as a friend the less likely they are to lie to you again.", "If I am reading your post correctly, you suspect somebody you trust enough to have access to your phone interfered with your relationship with somebody else.\n\nIf that is what happened then you should just ask them about it.", "First step: Why are you confronting them? Either you know they're lying, or you don't. If they are lying, they're unlikely to capitulate when being confronted with it." ]

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