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[ "How to cope with a roommate's obnoxious snoring I want to know how to make the person stop snoring. If that legitimately can't be done, then I'll want options for myself to make my experience more pleasant.", "How to cope with a roommate's obnoxious snoring I want to know how to make the person stop snoring. If that legitimately can't be done, then I'll want options for myself to make my experience more pleasant.", "How to cope with a roommate's obnoxious snoring I want to know how to make the person stop snoring. If that legitimately can't be done, then I'll want options for myself to make my experience more pleasant.", "How to cope with a roommate's obnoxious snoring I want to know how to make the person stop snoring. If that legitimately can't be done, then I'll want options for myself to make my experience more pleasant.", "How to cope with a roommate's obnoxious snoring I want to know how to make the person stop snoring. If that legitimately can't be done, then I'll want options for myself to make my experience more pleasant.", "How to cope with a roommate's obnoxious snoring I want to know how to make the person stop snoring. If that legitimately can't be done, then I'll want options for myself to make my experience more pleasant.", "How to cope with a roommate's obnoxious snoring I want to know how to make the person stop snoring. If that legitimately can't be done, then I'll want options for myself to make my experience more pleasant." ]

[ "What /u/Noledgebase said, he/she really should see a doctor. When my brother passed away in his sleep the Medical Examiners (a close friend of the family) first question was did he snore. He suspected sleep apnea.", "Ugh. This is the worst. I literally kicked a hole in a wall because my roommate snored and I'd gotten into the habit of rolling over while mostly asleep and bumping the wall to get him to roll over and stop. \n\nAnyways.. Here's what I've found helps. I'm going to address what you can do because your roommate probably can't do much about it. Might be obvious sounding but make sure both of you are sleeping with your doors shut. Also if your beds are up against the same wall, move them (like if your rooms are side by side, move the beds so that they are on opposite sides of the room - as far away from each other as possible). You can also try all or some of the following: silicon or wax ear plugs, a large box fan, and a white noise machine. If you guys have hardwoods maybe invest in some rugs though I'm not sure how much this will help as the sound most likely isn't coming through the ceiling or floor unless your rooms are on separate levels. The fan thing works wonders for me but it has to be a box fan for it to help (in my case). Makes a bit more noise than a regular old fan.", "There are mouth guards or nose pinchers or mouth sprays for snoring... Try them and if they don't work, quietly just choke him until he wakes up.... Do it long enough he'll think that his snoring is killing him slowly and will seek professional help. ", "If they arent willing to see someone about it or do anything about it. Ear plugs and music / audio book / what ever else.\n\nOr just ear plugs in general.", "I have gotten roommates who snored through the night..at my current home and while I was serving the army..I have one strategy which works for me. Usually I would just shocked them awake, when they are awake they stop snoring. You have that precious few minutes to fall into deep sleep where you won't be able to hear anything after that. ", "I always keep two spare pillows on my bed, smaller ones, and whenever I wake up in the middle of the night and my roommate snores, I just throw one of those at his head. It usually makes him change his position and stop his snoring just long enough for me to fall into sleep. You should be able throw a mean pillow, i guess\n", "A few suggestions: 1) Try silicone ear plugs. They work well and are quite comfortable.\n\n2) have him wear a fanny pack full of tennis balls on his back. This way when he rolls onto his back he'll wake up. Usually people who snore don't snore when on their sides. Might require a softer mattress for him. Personally, I got a 2\" memory foam topper." ]

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[ "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that.", "How to become wittier/ improve wit and humour? I can be fairly social but I would like to be a bit wittier around people. I tend to resort to crudeness and I don't like that." ]

[ "Watch a lot of good quality stand up. TV shows like The Office or Community don't hurt either. Get a taste of what well thought out comedy looks like. ", "There is no LPT for that. It mainly relies on being relaxed (not nervous) in social settings and lots of experience / knowledge ", "I'm a talker/blurter. I had someone give me advice when I was a teenager that, if I wanted to be funny, shut up for a year.\n\nWhen a funny thought/riposte/comment popped into my head, he had me keep quiet and go over in my head what I would have said, and spend 30 seconds or so in replaying it to see if I could make it funnier. Often \"funnier\" meant being more succinct, or not saying anything at all (you will often realize that the joke would have fallen on unsympathetic ears).\n\nAlso, alternate comments will occasionally come to mind. I have a *very* quick wit, but it's because _I've already thought of the response from a previous interaction_. \n\nTake some time off and think about what you couldda said. You won't regret it.", "The wittiest people aren't actively seeking to be witty. So first, it's a mindset change. Think \"I already am witty.\" Second, find your wheelhouse. If you actually breakdown the shit a witty person (James Bond for instance) says, it's often not even that creative. They just own what they say. Find a type of wit your comfortable with.\n\nAre you funny? Are stone faced? Are you intelligent?\n\nPick one and strike that cord again and again. \n\nWit is just a perception. It's the thing we admire in our favorite characters Bond, Batman, Tyrion Lannister, etc. A common theme in all those characters is they don't give a shit what other people think. You do. Love and own yourself first, wit will follow. ", "There's a rule to wittiness/humor and social interaction, specifically in regards to comebacks. The longer you wait, the funnier it has to be. What you say isn't nearly as important as when you say it (timing) in most social interactions.\n\n\nNot sure what I mean? Listening to a conversation between is like listening to a tennis match. There's a certain cadence/tempo that goes back and forth, and it's immediately apparent when it's missing. When most people say they wish they were \"wittier\" they really are wishing they were quicker to respond. A missed reply is like the missed return in tennis - you can only recover from it by starting the volley over again.\n\n\nThis is really apparent when you read verbatim interviews. In everyday interactions people (even famously 'witty' people) frequently misuse words, dance around a point without making it, and use filler words such as \"like\", \"um\", and \"ah\". None of those things really jump out at you until they're transferred to print.\n\n\ntl;dr - To be witty, be quick. Content is less important than timing.", "Make friends with witty people, match wits with them. \n\nAlso as /u/ignoranceisblissguy said watching comedy helps a great deal. Look in to English comedies favoring puns and innuendo. The classics are classics for a reason, The Two Ronnies and Monty Python are good starts. Bottom, Brass Eye, and Jam are all very dark but also very witty. Little Britain, Mock the Week, and Have I got News for you are also good and more palatable to most people.", "Take an improv comedy class. After a class or two you'll be much faster on your feet, and will have broken bad habits like cursing for shock value. ", "You can try making puns based on the conversation. Pick out words in the conversation that have multiple meanings, and come up with a pun on it immediately.", "Grow up being a smart-ass, can confirm i'm sort of the witty/comic relief of my friend group. We all have our moments though." ]

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[ "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?", "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?", "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?", "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?", "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?", "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?", "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?", "How to print cheaply at home? Hi,\n\nWhat's the most cost-efficient way to print at home? Which brands are cheapest, where to get cheap ink, etc.? What do I need to pay attention to?" ]

[ "Do not buy cheap printer if you want to save on printing.\n\nAlmost every brand have industrial-grade devices with very low price for supplies.\n\nShould you buy cheap \"home printer\", eventually you will spend more than a price for industrial solution if you plan to print every day.\n\nI personally use HP and Kyocera.", "buy compatible toner (not original from HP but the ones that 3rd parties make) on Amazon my company started doing that and we saw a 60% saving compared to last year, and we print more as well.", "You can also refill your cartridges and not buy new ones. For my mid-tier Samsung printer (for small businesses) you can either buy a cartridge for $100 or get it refilled for 15 (up to 3-5 times)\nThat significantly decreases the cost as you might see ", "In 2009, I needed an ink cartridge to print out my tax forms. The replacement was somewhere around 30 dollars, which I wouldn't use much at all so it would dry out anyway. So I bought an HP laser jet from a pawn shop for 30 dollars; it still had paper and toner in it. It still has paper and toner in it, and still works.", "If you only want black and white, buy a laser jet printer. \n\nToner cartridges are typically much cheaper than a comparable amount of ink, and those things are huge so you can print forever without having to change it.", "Generally you want a laser printer, higher upfront cost but lower per page. Black and white is far cheaper so stick with black and white. Beyond that explore what kind of volume(amount of printing per day/week/month) or speed you need (pages per minute = ppm) and finally you look at which unit gives you the most impressions per toner cartridge. Brother is a *usually* a go to brand but they are not the \"end all be all\". Get your toner/drums on amazon or where ever is cheap and there are some just fine off brand supplies you can get that are cheaper than the brand of your printer.\n\nI work in printing and sold printers for a number of years so feel free to ask any followup questions. ", "ALso you can use a saving ink font, personally i use Ecofont Vera sans, look for it in google and then copy it to your \"c:/windows/fonts\" folder, in the doc just chose ecofont vera sans, it has little holes so you save a little ink per letter", "Get a laser printer they are costlier than inkjet to buy but their cost for ink is far less and speed is far greater but on the downside you are stuck with b/w prints... Buy all in one laser printer if you can" ]

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[ "How to stop obsessing over a potential promotion The company I work for is opening a new location at the end of this year. I am a candidate to be promoted and run the new location.\n\nIt will be several months before I know if I get the job or not. \n\nI can't stop thinking about it and going through potential scenarios in my mind. I go back and forth between confidence that I'll get it, and bitter disappointment that I won't.\n\nAny tips on how to get through the summer without driving myself crazy over this? ", "How to stop obsessing over a potential promotion The company I work for is opening a new location at the end of this year. I am a candidate to be promoted and run the new location.\n\nIt will be several months before I know if I get the job or not. \n\nI can't stop thinking about it and going through potential scenarios in my mind. I go back and forth between confidence that I'll get it, and bitter disappointment that I won't.\n\nAny tips on how to get through the summer without driving myself crazy over this? " ]

[ "Channel all that thought into doing your current job well. I am sure that they are continuing to observe and rate your performance as a factor in the decision. Putting your all into your current work will show a level of commitment to the company not just a new position.", "I think maybe reminding yourself that if you don't get the job, you haven't **lost** anything. Focus on doing the best that you can in your current situation.\n\nGive yourself set times to think about the job/prepare for interviews. If you get thoughts out of these times, acknowledge them, write them down, and tell yourself that you will revisit them during the allocated time." ]

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[ "Best way to heat up a room? I'm a student, and for some reason I get really cold whenever I study. I've tried space heaters, but they tend to dry out the room, as well as blankets, but it's hard to get stuff with it. Sorry if this seems like a firstworldproblems request, but it'd really be helpful to know. \n\nThank you!", "Best way to heat up a room? I'm a student, and for some reason I get really cold whenever I study. I've tried space heaters, but they tend to dry out the room, as well as blankets, but it's hard to get stuff with it. Sorry if this seems like a firstworldproblems request, but it'd really be helpful to know. \n\nThank you!", "Best way to heat up a room? I'm a student, and for some reason I get really cold whenever I study. I've tried space heaters, but they tend to dry out the room, as well as blankets, but it's hard to get stuff with it. Sorry if this seems like a firstworldproblems request, but it'd really be helpful to know. \n\nThank you!" ]

[ "Saw on here a couple days ago that a guy used an electric blanket in his chair, instead of using space heaters", "I saw on here that this guys engineer girlfriend/friend would leave hot water in the bathtub after use, and the heat would flow through the room (works best in an apartment) and using a golf ball in the drain would make sure the water is drained by the time you get up.", "put a pan of water on the space heater. long underwear, electric blanket.\ncaulk the room, around windows and at the edges of walls etc.\ni leave the slow cooker on, you casn make soup or herbal tea or whatever." ]

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[ "Curb Late Night Eating Does anyone have some good tips to keep yourself from eating late at night? I've always had this problem where about 30 minutes before bed I'd hit a hunger pang. Since this would be around 11:30 at night, dinner would be done and I'd have to resort to eating crackers/cheese/etc.\n\n", "Curb Late Night Eating Does anyone have some good tips to keep yourself from eating late at night? I've always had this problem where about 30 minutes before bed I'd hit a hunger pang. Since this would be around 11:30 at night, dinner would be done and I'd have to resort to eating crackers/cheese/etc.\n\n", "Curb Late Night Eating Does anyone have some good tips to keep yourself from eating late at night? I've always had this problem where about 30 minutes before bed I'd hit a hunger pang. Since this would be around 11:30 at night, dinner would be done and I'd have to resort to eating crackers/cheese/etc.\n\n", "Curb Late Night Eating Does anyone have some good tips to keep yourself from eating late at night? I've always had this problem where about 30 minutes before bed I'd hit a hunger pang. Since this would be around 11:30 at night, dinner would be done and I'd have to resort to eating crackers/cheese/etc.\n\n", "Curb Late Night Eating Does anyone have some good tips to keep yourself from eating late at night? I've always had this problem where about 30 minutes before bed I'd hit a hunger pang. Since this would be around 11:30 at night, dinner would be done and I'd have to resort to eating crackers/cheese/etc.\n\n", "Curb Late Night Eating Does anyone have some good tips to keep yourself from eating late at night? I've always had this problem where about 30 minutes before bed I'd hit a hunger pang. Since this would be around 11:30 at night, dinner would be done and I'd have to resort to eating crackers/cheese/etc.\n\n" ]

[ "One thing that has helped me was brushing my teeth. I don't know if this works for everyone, but over the last couple of months I have been trying to shed about 20lbs... what really helps prevent me from snacking is about 2 hours after dinner I brush my teeth. For some reason, I don't want to eat after I have brushed my teeth.", "Milk is a great thing to drink before or late at night. It has enough protein and carbs to fill you up and might even help you sleep better. [](http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/foods-that-help-you-sleep/AN01582)\n\n", "If you're feeling hunger pangs (and you should know the difference between hunger pangs and cravings), you should eat something. I suggest fruit. Do not ignore your body's request for food, as chances are that your previous meals are not fulfilling enough.\n\nIf this continuously occurs, try munching something 1-2 hours before bedtime, or after dinner? Again, I suggest fruit.", "Probably a psychologist. If it's not real hunger, and it's not mistaken thirst, it's probably a habit you picked up as a child.", "I used to do this (I also used to be obese). Now, if I get the urge, I ask myself if I'm actually hungry or just bored... if I still say hungry then I have to do thirty push-ups, non-stop... if I'm still hungry after that I question why I didn't eat enough for dinner. Then I go to bed with the thoughts of a nice breakfast in my mind.\n\nAre you concerned because you are dependence on these snacks to sleep, or because of weight gain, or what?", "I found that if I go through my teeth ritual earlier then I am not going to snack after that. Floss. Brush. Rinse. I will never eat after that routine because then I'll have to do it all over again. " ]

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[ "Friendship advice I have this friend. I have known said friend over a decade. We are pretty close but despite this, It's not perfect. An example;\n\nThis person will go without talking/texting me for an entire week (meanwhile not answering any of my texts or anything)(I'm not saying they don't get busy). Then they start back like nothing happened. But if I do the same disappearing act for a week or so because I get busy, they will keep on texting, or sending voice messages. The implication of some of the messages is \"you never take this long to reply, why are you taking so long?\"\n\nWhy do they think it's fine for them to not answer me but not fine for me to not answer? I've tried approaching them over this but it never gets anywhere. Usually the question is deflected and if I don't let it drop we just end up arguing in circles.\n\nWhat do?", "Friendship advice I have this friend. I have known said friend over a decade. We are pretty close but despite this, It's not perfect. An example;\n\nThis person will go without talking/texting me for an entire week (meanwhile not answering any of my texts or anything)(I'm not saying they don't get busy). Then they start back like nothing happened. But if I do the same disappearing act for a week or so because I get busy, they will keep on texting, or sending voice messages. The implication of some of the messages is \"you never take this long to reply, why are you taking so long?\"\n\nWhy do they think it's fine for them to not answer me but not fine for me to not answer? I've tried approaching them over this but it never gets anywhere. Usually the question is deflected and if I don't let it drop we just end up arguing in circles.\n\nWhat do?", "Friendship advice I have this friend. I have known said friend over a decade. We are pretty close but despite this, It's not perfect. An example;\n\nThis person will go without talking/texting me for an entire week (meanwhile not answering any of my texts or anything)(I'm not saying they don't get busy). Then they start back like nothing happened. But if I do the same disappearing act for a week or so because I get busy, they will keep on texting, or sending voice messages. The implication of some of the messages is \"you never take this long to reply, why are you taking so long?\"\n\nWhy do they think it's fine for them to not answer me but not fine for me to not answer? I've tried approaching them over this but it never gets anywhere. Usually the question is deflected and if I don't let it drop we just end up arguing in circles.\n\nWhat do?", "Friendship advice I have this friend. I have known said friend over a decade. We are pretty close but despite this, It's not perfect. An example;\n\nThis person will go without talking/texting me for an entire week (meanwhile not answering any of my texts or anything)(I'm not saying they don't get busy). Then they start back like nothing happened. But if I do the same disappearing act for a week or so because I get busy, they will keep on texting, or sending voice messages. The implication of some of the messages is \"you never take this long to reply, why are you taking so long?\"\n\nWhy do they think it's fine for them to not answer me but not fine for me to not answer? I've tried approaching them over this but it never gets anywhere. Usually the question is deflected and if I don't let it drop we just end up arguing in circles.\n\nWhat do?" ]

[ "If it bothers you, you have to say something. Obviously, the friend is flaky like that. You are not. A change in your behavior worries you friend and makes the friend send more messages in order to see if you're all right. If you're not replying in a passive aggressive snoot, that's a problem that's going to affect your friendship in the long run. Say something. Doesn't have to be ERHMAGERD DRAMERZ just be like \"hey, you, it bother me when you don't communicate for weeks on end.\" Good luck!", "You might get better responses/replies in a more suitable subreddit...perhaps try /r/relationship_advice or /r/relationships? Best of luck!", "It's about expectation setting. If you want a week off, reply \"I'm very busy. I'll get back to you when I can -- at least a few days from now.\" Then ignore any follow ups from them. When the other person goes quiet text \"I don't like it when you don't have the courtesy to tell me your unavailable. It makes me feel like you don't care about the friendship or me.\" When they suddenly show up again make this point again. Of the behavior continues put your foot down. ", "If it's a male-female friendship, then it's likely that **s/he has you hooked**. When you need her to be there for you, she isn't. But when she needs you to be there for her, you are.\n\nYou have been hooked because despite her being unfair to you, you keep running back to her. Do you have feelings for her, now or in the past? Do you think about possibly being together in the future?\n\nA guy I was acquainted with gave me some great advice a few years ago: \"Are they putting the same amount of effort into the friendship/relationship as you are? If they are not, then you need to assess the friendship/relationship.\"" ]

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[ "How to organize a finals exam study schedule? What would the best way to organize my studying schedule be? Specifically for biology and chemistry where there are a lot of chapters that we've covered throughout the semester. ", "How to organize a finals exam study schedule? What would the best way to organize my studying schedule be? Specifically for biology and chemistry where there are a lot of chapters that we've covered throughout the semester. " ]

[ "Figure out the times when you're most productive i.e. morning/afternoon/evening. Set aside that time for studying the subject you have the most difficult with. Don't try and organise your study hour by hour or you'll end up spending more time trying to organise your studying than actually studying. Don't study while you're eating, use mealtimes as planned breaks, it'll help break up your studying and make the day go faster. Try and get started early each day if you can.", "If you're scheduling study time close to finals, you're doing it all wrong. You should have a study schedule in place before you even show up for the first class of the semester." ]

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[ "Advice I should be giving my almost teenage nephews who have been dealt a bad hand in life. TL;DR - Dad is out of the picture, mom is barely in the picture, being raised by grandparents in a not so nice area of town. ", "Advice I should be giving my almost teenage nephews who have been dealt a bad hand in life. TL;DR - Dad is out of the picture, mom is barely in the picture, being raised by grandparents in a not so nice area of town. ", "Advice I should be giving my almost teenage nephews who have been dealt a bad hand in life. TL;DR - Dad is out of the picture, mom is barely in the picture, being raised by grandparents in a not so nice area of town. ", "Advice I should be giving my almost teenage nephews who have been dealt a bad hand in life. TL;DR - Dad is out of the picture, mom is barely in the picture, being raised by grandparents in a not so nice area of town. ", "Advice I should be giving my almost teenage nephews who have been dealt a bad hand in life. TL;DR - Dad is out of the picture, mom is barely in the picture, being raised by grandparents in a not so nice area of town. " ]

[ "Education is the most important thing. Personal hygiene is just as important. Take them to museums. Support sports choices. Keep in the most constant contact you can. Let them know when you're proud of them. Let them know if you think they can do better.\n\nContact. Most important.", "this is tough. The only advice I can offer is to\nnot sugar coat it. The situation could be worse for\nsure, but don't\nbullshit them. Life will be a little harder for them than others but if they stick out school and keep their heads down they will be able\nto create better opportunities when they are adults.", "Fan the fires of their interests. Whether it's something like reading, cooking, even something seemingly unproductive like bugs.", "support their interests regardless of how \"unproductive\" they may be, legitimize their feelings, let them know that it's ok to feel and have feelings. ", "Having realistic expectations in life. If they don't have access to money then going to uni to be a doctor or lawyer is unrealistic and even if they get the grades to study those types of courses, then will they be able to afford the books, equipment, not being able to work for a long duration of time because of placement, and all that. \nSo being a labourer is a perfectly fine thing to do, or retail, or whatever, getting any job is better than none. \nThat, and don't smoke, drink, or gamble. \nSave as much money as you can so you have somewhere to live, and then go back and do things you've wanted to do. \n\nExcept for doing unless degrees like social science, that's a no no. " ]

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[ "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country.", "getting rid of Deer Mice from my home been having trouble keeping deer mice out of my house. I've tried glue traps, old fashioned traps with peanut butter, poison, ropel, keeping food in air tight containers but have zero luck getting rid of the pests even though I keep a clean home. I live by a pasture in the country." ]

[ "Give peppermint oil a try. Put a little bit in a small cup and throw a cotton ball inside then place them in high traffic areas (high traffic for the mice) and hiding spots.\n\nGlue traps are cruel man, mouse tears itself apart trying to get free and/or starves to death. Traps arent effective anyway, they reproduce faster than u can kill them and theyre smart enough to stay away once they know one has died or been trapped there.\n\nTry to seal up all entrances and remove any incentive they have for coming in.", "We use these things that make a noise only rodents can hear. They work good, we put them under the cars hoods too. Also we figure out what they come in for, a lot of times it's water so we have a water pan outside away from the house and keep it filled with fresh water.", "Sealing up the house is the only way to be rid of them for good. Might be difficult in an older home, but otherwise they'll just keep getting in.\n\nOnce they can't get in or out, just about any kind of trap placed around the baseboards baited with peanut butter & bacon or commercial \"mouse attractant\" will get them eventually.", "I have a friend with the same problem. She breeds pet doves so there is always a food source for the little fuckers, and I can't let her borrow a couple of my cats because her neighbors have been putting out poison.", "Not sure how well it would translate to you, but in my house (in the suburbs) we had a bad mouse problem after they leveled some hills behind our house. Also tried everything, but eventually we were able to get rid of them by sealing all possible entrances from the outside, and putting poison all over the house. Took a couple years, but it worked. Haven't seen them since in a couple years. Some of the neighbours still get them when it starts getting cold, but we're ok.", "I had lots getting in my garage, four traditional traps by the walls, honey roasted peanuts for bait, 2-4 killed a day last Autumn for a while. A couple more come Spring. None since. Easy, cheap and fast, a rare case of all three." ]

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[ "Looking for ways to cool my bedroom I live in Brisbane, Australia where temperatures average around the high 20s to low 30s (celcius). Being a subtropical climate, humidity is ever-present. I live in a house known as a 'Queenslander' - a raised timber structure (downstairs is mostly open space) with a tin roof. It's a sharehouse rental and we do not have air conditioning installed. Even with a standing fan running 24/7 my bedroom always seems to sit around 5 degrees (celcius) higher than outside. My room is carpeted; I feel like were it stripped back to boards there would be a bit more airflow but being a rental I can't really do this.\n\nRunning an air conditioning unit isn't really an option as they are too expensive and I do not have the budget capacity. I've seen some homemade units made out of coolers with ice and a fan, not sure how well that would work.\n\nBasically wondering if anyone has any tips on how I could lower the temperature in my room. I can provide further details if required. It's legitimately becoming a problem as it is messing with my sleep and making it very difficult to get up and going during the day.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Looking for ways to cool my bedroom I live in Brisbane, Australia where temperatures average around the high 20s to low 30s (celcius). Being a subtropical climate, humidity is ever-present. I live in a house known as a 'Queenslander' - a raised timber structure (downstairs is mostly open space) with a tin roof. It's a sharehouse rental and we do not have air conditioning installed. Even with a standing fan running 24/7 my bedroom always seems to sit around 5 degrees (celcius) higher than outside. My room is carpeted; I feel like were it stripped back to boards there would be a bit more airflow but being a rental I can't really do this.\n\nRunning an air conditioning unit isn't really an option as they are too expensive and I do not have the budget capacity. I've seen some homemade units made out of coolers with ice and a fan, not sure how well that would work.\n\nBasically wondering if anyone has any tips on how I could lower the temperature in my room. I can provide further details if required. It's legitimately becoming a problem as it is messing with my sleep and making it very difficult to get up and going during the day.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Looking for ways to cool my bedroom I live in Brisbane, Australia where temperatures average around the high 20s to low 30s (celcius). Being a subtropical climate, humidity is ever-present. I live in a house known as a 'Queenslander' - a raised timber structure (downstairs is mostly open space) with a tin roof. It's a sharehouse rental and we do not have air conditioning installed. Even with a standing fan running 24/7 my bedroom always seems to sit around 5 degrees (celcius) higher than outside. My room is carpeted; I feel like were it stripped back to boards there would be a bit more airflow but being a rental I can't really do this.\n\nRunning an air conditioning unit isn't really an option as they are too expensive and I do not have the budget capacity. I've seen some homemade units made out of coolers with ice and a fan, not sure how well that would work.\n\nBasically wondering if anyone has any tips on how I could lower the temperature in my room. I can provide further details if required. It's legitimately becoming a problem as it is messing with my sleep and making it very difficult to get up and going during the day.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Looking for ways to cool my bedroom I live in Brisbane, Australia where temperatures average around the high 20s to low 30s (celcius). Being a subtropical climate, humidity is ever-present. I live in a house known as a 'Queenslander' - a raised timber structure (downstairs is mostly open space) with a tin roof. It's a sharehouse rental and we do not have air conditioning installed. Even with a standing fan running 24/7 my bedroom always seems to sit around 5 degrees (celcius) higher than outside. My room is carpeted; I feel like were it stripped back to boards there would be a bit more airflow but being a rental I can't really do this.\n\nRunning an air conditioning unit isn't really an option as they are too expensive and I do not have the budget capacity. I've seen some homemade units made out of coolers with ice and a fan, not sure how well that would work.\n\nBasically wondering if anyone has any tips on how I could lower the temperature in my room. I can provide further details if required. It's legitimately becoming a problem as it is messing with my sleep and making it very difficult to get up and going during the day.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Looking for ways to cool my bedroom I live in Brisbane, Australia where temperatures average around the high 20s to low 30s (celcius). Being a subtropical climate, humidity is ever-present. I live in a house known as a 'Queenslander' - a raised timber structure (downstairs is mostly open space) with a tin roof. It's a sharehouse rental and we do not have air conditioning installed. Even with a standing fan running 24/7 my bedroom always seems to sit around 5 degrees (celcius) higher than outside. My room is carpeted; I feel like were it stripped back to boards there would be a bit more airflow but being a rental I can't really do this.\n\nRunning an air conditioning unit isn't really an option as they are too expensive and I do not have the budget capacity. I've seen some homemade units made out of coolers with ice and a fan, not sure how well that would work.\n\nBasically wondering if anyone has any tips on how I could lower the temperature in my room. I can provide further details if required. It's legitimately becoming a problem as it is messing with my sleep and making it very difficult to get up and going during the day.\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "Cheap, easy to make, non-destructive, can be made from recycled or recyclable materials and actually can drop your indoor temp by up to 5c: \n[bottle window cooler](https://inhabitat.com/this-amazing-bangladeshi-air-cooler-is-made-from-plastic-bottles-and-uses-no-electricity/)", "Using ice and a fan, you're going to humidify the air and only the area directly in front of you will benefit.\n\nIf you can't afford an ac, you might look into thermal drapes for the windows and keeping them closed during the hottest part of the day, cooling sheets, additional fans, reusable ice packs placed on your inner thighs, neck, wrists, underarms.\n\nWhat is the humidity percentage?", "Open windows, close curtains/blinds. Get gel pack coolers. You can get neck pillows that you freeze that help you cool down. Ensure your bedsheets and any PJs are 100% cotton - plastic fabrics will make you hotter at night.", "Open the window, and set a bowl of ice water in the sill. If there's any breeze at all, it will cool down as it crosses the bowl, and lower the ambient temp in your room a little.\n\nSource: had to get creative when the ac in my college dorm broke", "Damp towel stretched in front of the fan to cool the air. Open windows and curtains before bed to let hot air out. Cold shower before bed naked helps. Lived in Brissie for three years!" ]

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[ "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. ", "I sweat a lot, how do I reduce the amount I sweat when I walk fast Context: Next semester I have to walk across campus in 10 minutes to get from class to class. I'm afraid that by the time I get to the 2nd class I'll be all sweaty. " ]

[ "Wear a light cotton undershirt, and use antiperspirant deoderant. \n\nAlso, leave early for class so you dont have to rush. \n\nFinally, do cardio. That'll teach ypur body when the appropriate time to sweat is.", "After walking to class a lot you will probably get used to it and learn how to not sweat as much. But initially you'll probably sweat so a tip to hide that is to wear white t-shirts. Getting little sweat stains are hard to notice. Avoid grey and blue shirts, I've noticed both of those make sweat pretty obvious. ", "Remember that you will notice your sweating way more than other people. Recognize you are sweaty and move on. Do things to cool you off to stop the sweating as soon as you can, such as carrying water with you.", "I sweat fairly often, and I've found guzzling ice water to be helpful to prevent sweating.\n\nAnd carrying a handkerchief is an ok solution if all else fails.", "Try shirts made with synthetic fabrics like polyester. Cotton shirts hold moisture. Also dark shirts hide moisture better. Maybe see if you can take any routes through air-conditioned buildings. Pack light those days and bring cold water. Maybe carry a small towel in your bag. ", "Do you drink coffee? Coffee makes you sweat a lot. Wait until you get where you are going to drink coffee. Alternatively, drink your coffee as soon as you wake up. Make sure you apply antiperspirant soon before or soon after coffee. ", "Always wear those athletic shirts that use polyester ( Nike Dri Fit) They don't show your sweat and they dry quickly. ", "Use a skateboard, long board, or a bike with thin wheels. It's less tiring than walking. Plus the wind will help cool you down.", "Buy a skate board or long board. Or one of those segway things... all the Kool kidds are riding em now", "Might be a good idea to use antiperspirant deodorant on places other than your armpits, I do this and it's a lot less noticeable." ]

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[ "how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me.", "how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me.", "how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me.", "how to not be completely exhausted and require a nap after work. I get up every morning between 2am and 3am and I get home around 11am. I usually fall asleep between 8 and 9.\n\nHowever, when I'm on my way home, I struggle to stay awake. I also have to nap as soon as I get home or I'm useless all day. My naps last between 1 and 3 hours. \n\nGoing to bed earlier does nothing for me." ]

[ "1. You're not sleeping enough. Most people get completely exhausted by a regime like that. Going to bed earlier on individual occasions does nothing because you're not entrained to that rhythm, and because you have a horrible sleep debt to pay back. Have you tried going to bed earlier consistently, for three weeks straight?\n\n2. Bright light to the face. Buy a 10,000 lux LED lightbox and use it once when you get up, and once again about 6 hours later. I'm guessing the first use should be the long one (30 minutes) and the later one should be the booster (10 minutes), but if that makes you sleepier, reverse it and do the long session last. Correctly timed, the later session will not only remove sleepiness in the short term, but make it easier to get sleepy when you ought to go to bed.\n\n3. Short naps. 15-20 minutes is restorative. Longer than that, sleep inertia sets in and jacks up your rhythm later. I often have to set multiple alarms in different places close together in order to enforce the full wake-up at 20 minutes.", "It sounds like you need more carbs in your diet. You can literally run out of energy, especially if your job has you walking a lot. Track what you're eating and play around with how many calories and how many carbs specifically.", "If going to bed earlier isn't doing it I don't think more sleep is the answer. Somebody said carbs, could be. Several say exercise. I'd agree with that, anything to switch up your daily routine. Also, if you're slamming a lot of energy drinks you'll wanna cut back on those. ", "During the last month I struggled with my sleeping schedule. I slept at all times of the day and tried to mess up my sleeping schedule as much as possible. What I found is that it is very hard (at least for me) to adjust to new sleeping hours. I suggest trying to get at least 8 hours of sleep before waking up at 2am. \n\nAt first it might seem hard and pointless since it will be hard to fall asleep and you will wake up a little tired in the morning but just stick with it for a week or so. Also don't nap during the day, it will make it near impossible to fall asleep earlier than usual at night. \n\nIf that's not an option, then I suggest to just stick with your current sleeping schedule. It is perfectly normal for humans to sleep twice a day as long as it adds up to 8-9 hours. I would like to have a source for this but I am not able to find the article I've read a couple of months ago. Sorry.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to stop blaming other people? I've recently noticed that almost every negative thing that happens to me I tend to blame it to others. If I fail a test, it's the testmakers fault. If I want to start losing weight, it's my mother's fault by making me overweight. If I get into an argument, the other person is always pushy and fighting me for no reason. I'm not a douche, because all of this happens in my head. I don't say these things to people, but I tend to stop doing things because I feel like I'm not the reason, but others are. This keeps me from living my life right and I'd like to get rid of this kind of thinking. \n\nSorry if I made mistakes, English is not my native language.", "How to stop blaming other people? I've recently noticed that almost every negative thing that happens to me I tend to blame it to others. If I fail a test, it's the testmakers fault. If I want to start losing weight, it's my mother's fault by making me overweight. If I get into an argument, the other person is always pushy and fighting me for no reason. I'm not a douche, because all of this happens in my head. I don't say these things to people, but I tend to stop doing things because I feel like I'm not the reason, but others are. This keeps me from living my life right and I'd like to get rid of this kind of thinking. \n\nSorry if I made mistakes, English is not my native language.", "How to stop blaming other people? I've recently noticed that almost every negative thing that happens to me I tend to blame it to others. If I fail a test, it's the testmakers fault. If I want to start losing weight, it's my mother's fault by making me overweight. If I get into an argument, the other person is always pushy and fighting me for no reason. I'm not a douche, because all of this happens in my head. I don't say these things to people, but I tend to stop doing things because I feel like I'm not the reason, but others are. This keeps me from living my life right and I'd like to get rid of this kind of thinking. \n\nSorry if I made mistakes, English is not my native language.", "How to stop blaming other people? I've recently noticed that almost every negative thing that happens to me I tend to blame it to others. If I fail a test, it's the testmakers fault. If I want to start losing weight, it's my mother's fault by making me overweight. If I get into an argument, the other person is always pushy and fighting me for no reason. I'm not a douche, because all of this happens in my head. I don't say these things to people, but I tend to stop doing things because I feel like I'm not the reason, but others are. This keeps me from living my life right and I'd like to get rid of this kind of thinking. \n\nSorry if I made mistakes, English is not my native language." ]

[ "Ask yourself what YOU could have different. \n\nA while back I kind of noticed the same in myself, the first thing I did was figure out why <insert blame> wasn't the real reason and what I could've done different. \n\nIt helped alot. Not just about taking ownership, but to see other perspectives. ", "There is a wonderful book titialed \"mistakes were made but not by me\" by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson ", "I used to have similar feelings it can be a vicious never ending cycle. \n\nI tried to ignore it and not think about it, which worked initially but there cam be to much pent up feelings that will eventually be to much to keep inside. \n\nI found what worked for me first was to try and realise for everything that happened it's not so bad compared to another situation. \n\nOh I failed my exam? \nThats not to bad it's my first one and the other guy has been here 3 years now! \n\nHaven't lost enough weight? \nAt least I stopped eating Mc'Donalds\n\nWhy dont I have much friends? \nWell I have close friends and I'm not lonely\n\nIt has to become a habit for it to be better. I doubt most people can just try and change instantly. People are creatures of habit so try and do this and after a while who knows it will become normal for you! ", "What I tend to do is remember that even if something is another person's fault, they likely didn't do it on purpose. Ask yourself what the problem is, and how it could have been avoided by anyone involved. Test makers aren't deliberately making tests difficult, they're following a government mandated syllabus etc.\n\nThere's no easy solution to problems like this, it just requires a bit of self wrist slapping. Keep reminding yourself and it'll change soon enough. The fact that you've already recognised it as something you'd like to change means that whenever you *do* do it, you'll instinctively remind yourself not to think that way.\n\nBonus: I once read a thread where someone was upset that they kept instinctively thinking horrible things; sexist, racist etc. things that they realised they were socially conditioned to think but they didn't genuinely believe. They asked a family member for advice on how to stop, much like you have, and they were told that the first thing that pops into your head is what you're conditioned to think: what you think in response to that is how you really feel. I started noticing that myself, and it's really helped." ]

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[ " Cool down a small room I have a floor-standing fan in my 10x13 foot bedroom, but it's not enough to overcome the heat output from my desktop all day and by nighttime it is too warm in my bedroom to comfortably fall asleep. Can't blast A/C in the apartment because then the rest of the apartment gets too cold for my roommate.\n\nMy idea: Put a wet towel on something so the evaporative cooling of the towel will have the fan blowing cooler air. ", " Cool down a small room I have a floor-standing fan in my 10x13 foot bedroom, but it's not enough to overcome the heat output from my desktop all day and by nighttime it is too warm in my bedroom to comfortably fall asleep. Can't blast A/C in the apartment because then the rest of the apartment gets too cold for my roommate.\n\nMy idea: Put a wet towel on something so the evaporative cooling of the towel will have the fan blowing cooler air. ", " Cool down a small room I have a floor-standing fan in my 10x13 foot bedroom, but it's not enough to overcome the heat output from my desktop all day and by nighttime it is too warm in my bedroom to comfortably fall asleep. Can't blast A/C in the apartment because then the rest of the apartment gets too cold for my roommate.\n\nMy idea: Put a wet towel on something so the evaporative cooling of the towel will have the fan blowing cooler air. ", " Cool down a small room I have a floor-standing fan in my 10x13 foot bedroom, but it's not enough to overcome the heat output from my desktop all day and by nighttime it is too warm in my bedroom to comfortably fall asleep. Can't blast A/C in the apartment because then the rest of the apartment gets too cold for my roommate.\n\nMy idea: Put a wet towel on something so the evaporative cooling of the towel will have the fan blowing cooler air. " ]

[ "Fashion a funnel out of cardboard and/or aluminum foil and duct tape that will fit over the front of your fan. Buy some cheap flexible tubing (that is wide enough for a good amount of air to get through) and attach this to the funnel, and attach the funnel to the fan. Then get a bucket and add ice, salt, and water- the salt will make the ice water cooler. Run the tube through the bucket getting as much of the tube submerged as you can, while still keeping water outside of the tube and keeping the mouth of the tube in the air. You will need to use some sort of weight to keep it submerged. When you're done, turn the fan on. Boom, cheap AC.", "buy a small window ac on craiglist for bucks. They use minimal power and will keep your room nice. OR get a laptop they put out less heat and get window fans. The only way to be comfortable upstairs though is to get a window ac", "Turn off your desktop. Or, at least use stand by/hibernate.\n\nAre you keeping your door open and windows covered?", "for added output from a fan remove the front and back cover/grill. it's basically there as a safety thing - if you don't have kids around try it." ]

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[ "How do you make friends and learn to trust people when you still have emotional baggage from the past? Long story short, I've dealt with a lot of verbal, emotional and some physical abuse from my family. They invalidate my feelings, which makes me feel insignificant. I never had a long-term friendship in school or at university because I fear that I'll only get hurt again. I also compare my life to other people in my age group, who didn't come from a dysfunctional family, knew how to manage their emotions under stress and can make friends easily. This puts me in a cycle of depression and anxiety. I question how I'd survive living on my own because fear that I will isolate myself from other people.", "How do you make friends and learn to trust people when you still have emotional baggage from the past? Long story short, I've dealt with a lot of verbal, emotional and some physical abuse from my family. They invalidate my feelings, which makes me feel insignificant. I never had a long-term friendship in school or at university because I fear that I'll only get hurt again. I also compare my life to other people in my age group, who didn't come from a dysfunctional family, knew how to manage their emotions under stress and can make friends easily. This puts me in a cycle of depression and anxiety. I question how I'd survive living on my own because fear that I will isolate myself from other people.", "How do you make friends and learn to trust people when you still have emotional baggage from the past? Long story short, I've dealt with a lot of verbal, emotional and some physical abuse from my family. They invalidate my feelings, which makes me feel insignificant. I never had a long-term friendship in school or at university because I fear that I'll only get hurt again. I also compare my life to other people in my age group, who didn't come from a dysfunctional family, knew how to manage their emotions under stress and can make friends easily. This puts me in a cycle of depression and anxiety. I question how I'd survive living on my own because fear that I will isolate myself from other people.", "How do you make friends and learn to trust people when you still have emotional baggage from the past? Long story short, I've dealt with a lot of verbal, emotional and some physical abuse from my family. They invalidate my feelings, which makes me feel insignificant. I never had a long-term friendship in school or at university because I fear that I'll only get hurt again. I also compare my life to other people in my age group, who didn't come from a dysfunctional family, knew how to manage their emotions under stress and can make friends easily. This puts me in a cycle of depression and anxiety. I question how I'd survive living on my own because fear that I will isolate myself from other people." ]

[ "I used to really be bothered by the volume on anything (car radio, TV) being on an odd number, like it would not be OK. I thought, for sure, something bad was going to happen if it was odd. But I knew it was irrational and unhealthy to think this way, so I made a plan. \n\nI set my volume to an odd number and went about my day knowing I was going to feel like something bad was going to happen anyway. I would write about what I thought would happen, and go about my day. Of course nothing would happen and I would go home and write about how wrong I was. After doing this for about two weeks I got over it completely.\n\nI guess my advice is to do something, go out, go to a library and feel like shit or however you feel, maybe even write down your expectations, however negative, and after you go out and freak out all day around people you can go home and confirm that your were wrong about what would happen. \n\nAlso, listen to this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxId3acyzbc", "rule one: never trust anyone 100%. this doesn't mean keep secrets, but don't just unload emotional baggage on people, do that to a therapist. \n\nit is important to draw connections between those who hurt you and those you now know. don't associate yourself with people like them, you'll really have to analyze them though, speech patterns, mannerisms around and toward you, etc.\n\nit will take awhile, but you have to start consciously thinking \"these people are not those who wronged me\" and keep thinking that. as long as they're not the same type of people who abused you, you'll be golden, and you'll learn to love and trust again. but don't ever trust 100%. always keep on your toes because then you'll never be surprised, and it'll be much easier to let go and start again, as many times as that needs to happen.\n\njust one more thing, and this might be one of the most important: you need to unlearn the abusive behaviors you adapted as a survival tactic against abusers. find out anything that bothers them as soon as you get close with them, and figure out what behaviors of yours might be aggressive or abusive, not because you're the abuser, but because you developed them for defense subconsciously and need to let them go.", "Well, i already pass for that situation, the 1st thing you need to do is stop comparing yourself with others, that only will lead you to depression.\n\n2nd-you don't need to fully trust on your friends, they have something that they don't wanna everyone knowing about so they wont tell, or maybe they screw up with (ex:) your date, i used to be dumb to fully trust on them so know to diferenciate people that are less propitous to be the \"bad friendship\", if they are a \"bad friendship\" and you don't like them just talk to them like you don't have nothing against them, you can do too is just talk to them commonly just to talk.\nthe good friends you try to share the things you like and start knowing what they like, going out toguether and etc...\n\n3rd-forget or/and even forgive your family, forget what they did...is only in the pass, you are in the present so make your time from now on valuable, i aways though that life depend of the memories...and bad memories lead you to fall down, create your own good memories and keep on with your life, that part that i said you to forgive is simply to become better than them, if they come from a family and they passed what you pass with them you show them that you are better and you wont follow they steps.\n\n4th- have your own self steem, when you got that you wont need anymore have the others people approval, when they say bad things to you with porpouse to let you down you wont give they satisfaction...one way you can have this is appealing to god for the simply way o think \"i don't need to feel bad for they rejecting me because i follow the rules of god and he likes me for that and that is the only thing that matters to me\" it's like placebo...is not exclusive to religious sourses and you can have self steem by another ways but that is what i know.\n\nand for last but not less important: don't kill yourself...whatever you believe in something or not don't...seriously ask for help or something such like but don't kill yourself...don't mind if peaple are cheering to you do this just don't.\n\nif you need something more send me a private message that i'll try to respond the fastest i can, ok see ya", "First, you have to realize that it may take you a very long time to get over the abuse you have suffered growing up. Second, you have to realize that not all people are abusive; some can be trusted and others cannot. Third, get involved in things that you like. It's easier to become friends with people who share a common interest or hobby. Good luck!" ]

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[ "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so.", "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so.", "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so.", "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so.", "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so.", "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so.", "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so.", "What are some ways to discover what's been happening behind your back. The title says it all. \n\nI just can't seem to find a way to do so." ]

[ "The only things I can think of would belong in r/unethicallifeprotips. So I'll just say the best option is probably to get to a point where you trust the people in your life.", "Pro tip: not only is \"behind your back\" not important, it's not relevant to your life. At best, it's an academic endeavour with painful consequences. You're better off setting expectations and organizing your peers based on the boundaries you've set.", "If you’re worried about certain people going behind your back, find someone you know and trust that is also associated with them. So long as they aren’t also a rat they’d probably be willing to “casually” bring you up in their conversations to find out the truth about what they think or say.", "Whistle a jaunty tune so people let their guard down and then TURN AROUND quick like a bunny! They will never expect it and you are nearly guaranteed to find them making a face. At least it works on the neighbors shit kids...", "Start wearing ear buds or head phones around people you suspect are talking about you behind your back. But don’t have anything playing. If they call your name to get your attention don’t respond unless they touch you or wave in front of your face. They’ll assume you can’t here them and might say something about you behind your back while you can actually hear them.", "Create good rapport with people. You don’t have to like every individual to be cordial. Go about your business and do the right thing even when no one is looking. They can’t talk smack if you are in the straight and narrow path because that would be petty. Don’t engage too much in gossip and hearsay either where it is going to be a distraction in work, school or life. You could just say “Well that sucks…” then change topic to something positive. Find out who you do like and create a tight circle of friends you can trust that will stick up for you when bs happens. Don’t worry what they say about you if you are doing right because your actions will speak for themselves. Haters gonna hate from the bottom while you are climbing up the ladder of success.", "But why? If they don't have better use of their time just let them talk. You will feel much better in your life.", "Don’t. They aren’t worth your time. It took me a long time to stop caring about what others think of me, but once I did it was, and still is, a very freeing experience." ]

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[ "How to soothe and alleviate pain in your hands My hands feel fucked. I almost a year into my latest job, which involves using a grinder and other power tools for up to 12 hours a day. My hands are really beginning to feel it. Also, it's been extremely cold here in this Canadian winter and if I put pressure on certain parts of my hands I feel some nerve pain. Anyone have any LPTs for this?", "How to soothe and alleviate pain in your hands My hands feel fucked. I almost a year into my latest job, which involves using a grinder and other power tools for up to 12 hours a day. My hands are really beginning to feel it. Also, it's been extremely cold here in this Canadian winter and if I put pressure on certain parts of my hands I feel some nerve pain. Anyone have any LPTs for this?", "How to soothe and alleviate pain in your hands My hands feel fucked. I almost a year into my latest job, which involves using a grinder and other power tools for up to 12 hours a day. My hands are really beginning to feel it. Also, it's been extremely cold here in this Canadian winter and if I put pressure on certain parts of my hands I feel some nerve pain. Anyone have any LPTs for this?" ]

[ "There are arthritis gloves available. You can also put your hands in a paraffin bath of melted paraffin wax. It'll moisturize your hands and sooth them with moist heat. Repeatedly using vibrating tools can cause nerve fatigue, pain and damage. Try getting some good anti-vibration gloves.", "Stop and stretch your hands every 15 minutes or so. Also, a good chiropractor as well as Physical Therapy can help.", "Fish oil pills might help with the circulation over time and you can look at strengthening your fingers and hands with products like this too -http://www.handmasterplus.com/" ]

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[ "how to get over a bad first impression. Hello,\n\nI made a dumb mistake and misquoted an article I read in one of my first outside of work impressions with a new team at my job. I'm the youngest on the team and wanted to seem smart but I was clearly misinformed and nobody called me on it but if they later looked it up, they would know I was wrong. I'm worried that they will think I am stupid as I seemed pretty sure about it, and will not buy into any of my work moving forward.\n\nSo what's the best way to deal with this? Admit my mistake? Try to pretend it didn't happen? Thanks!", "how to get over a bad first impression. Hello,\n\nI made a dumb mistake and misquoted an article I read in one of my first outside of work impressions with a new team at my job. I'm the youngest on the team and wanted to seem smart but I was clearly misinformed and nobody called me on it but if they later looked it up, they would know I was wrong. I'm worried that they will think I am stupid as I seemed pretty sure about it, and will not buy into any of my work moving forward.\n\nSo what's the best way to deal with this? Admit my mistake? Try to pretend it didn't happen? Thanks!", "how to get over a bad first impression. Hello,\n\nI made a dumb mistake and misquoted an article I read in one of my first outside of work impressions with a new team at my job. I'm the youngest on the team and wanted to seem smart but I was clearly misinformed and nobody called me on it but if they later looked it up, they would know I was wrong. I'm worried that they will think I am stupid as I seemed pretty sure about it, and will not buy into any of my work moving forward.\n\nSo what's the best way to deal with this? Admit my mistake? Try to pretend it didn't happen? Thanks!", "how to get over a bad first impression. Hello,\n\nI made a dumb mistake and misquoted an article I read in one of my first outside of work impressions with a new team at my job. I'm the youngest on the team and wanted to seem smart but I was clearly misinformed and nobody called me on it but if they later looked it up, they would know I was wrong. I'm worried that they will think I am stupid as I seemed pretty sure about it, and will not buy into any of my work moving forward.\n\nSo what's the best way to deal with this? Admit my mistake? Try to pretend it didn't happen? Thanks!" ]

[ "If you are the youngest don't try to appear smart. You get much more cr", "Then if it is a thing that definitely will come up in the future, I suggest you make a plan to admit the mistake without sounding not competent. Rather than waiting to come up, It's best to do it before then. ", "Once you go with an argument or an opinion. If you want to look as someone who knows what he is talking, don't admit the mistake. \nIf no one accuses you for that, you are good. \nBut if someone does, then you might want to say that the source you got the information misled you. ", "First impressions often lead to a \"Halo vs. Devil effect\" This phenomena describes the way that an individual with a good first impression will be perceived as doing better work, while a person with a bad first impression will be perceived as doing worse work, even if the work is exactly the same quality. Additionally, \"confirmation bias\" will be used to confirm these impressions. For example, your bad performance will be ignored, while outstanding performance is paid attention to (vice versa for the Devil effect). \n\nSO! In order to overcome these biases, there are two main methods. The tortoise and the hare methods (because psychologists suck at naming things) each overcome bad impressions, in multiple small ways or one big splurge of kissing ass, respectively. In my opinion, the hare method can often come across as being desperate. So in order to really prove yourself, just try to do something noticeable and beneficial for the company, every day. Eventually they will see that you're not just the young confused dude." ]

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[ "how to easily untangle things I only have to look at an extension lead or rope and it becomes rediculously tangled.\n\nAny tips?", "how to easily untangle things I only have to look at an extension lead or rope and it becomes rediculously tangled.\n\nAny tips?", "how to easily untangle things I only have to look at an extension lead or rope and it becomes rediculously tangled.\n\nAny tips?", "how to easily untangle things I only have to look at an extension lead or rope and it becomes rediculously tangled.\n\nAny tips?", "how to easily untangle things I only have to look at an extension lead or rope and it becomes rediculously tangled.\n\nAny tips?" ]

[ "untangling is a bitch, no way around it start at one end and just do it. The trick is not to let it tangle..... it's how \nyou roll it up that is the key.", "don't just start pulling things, look at it and think with strategy so you don't make knots out of tangles.", "Life pro tip: learn how to store them so they don't tangle in storage. Look up how to do a \"chain sinnet\". Learn it. Practice it. \n", "http://m.homedepot.com/Electrical-Extension-Cords-Surge-Protectors-Extension-Cords-Cord-Reels/h_d1/N-5yc1vZc5bl/h_d2/Navigation?langId=-1&storeId=10051&catalogId=10053&searchNav=true", "Contractors Wrap for Cords\n\nhttps://www.google.com/search?q=%22chain+sinnet%22&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=KiF0UabGAeyl2AX92ICwCA&ved=0CAcQ_AUoAQ&biw=1440&bih=779#tbm=isch&sa=1&q=contractors+wrap+cords&oq=contractors+wrap+cords&gs_l=img.3...17932.21258.4.21789.6.6.0.0.0.0.38.219.6.6.0...0.0...1c.1.9.img.VIISE2tlSqc&bav=on.2,or.r_qf.&bvm=bv.45512109,d.b2I&fp=b96679123ebd06bc&biw=1440&bih=779" ]

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[ "How to widen leather shoes Hi everyone,\n\nso I bought [some leather shoes](http://i.imgur.com/8TXenQN.jpg) I'm planning to wear at a friend's wedding but unfortunately there a bit to tight around the ball of my feet (I tried them on in the shoe shop but pain just happens after wearing them for a while).\n\nIs there a way to widen those shoes? I already brought them to shoe service, but that did next to nothing.", "How to widen leather shoes Hi everyone,\n\nso I bought [some leather shoes](http://i.imgur.com/8TXenQN.jpg) I'm planning to wear at a friend's wedding but unfortunately there a bit to tight around the ball of my feet (I tried them on in the shoe shop but pain just happens after wearing them for a while).\n\nIs there a way to widen those shoes? I already brought them to shoe service, but that did next to nothing.", "How to widen leather shoes Hi everyone,\n\nso I bought [some leather shoes](http://i.imgur.com/8TXenQN.jpg) I'm planning to wear at a friend's wedding but unfortunately there a bit to tight around the ball of my feet (I tried them on in the shoe shop but pain just happens after wearing them for a while).\n\nIs there a way to widen those shoes? I already brought them to shoe service, but that did next to nothing.", "How to widen leather shoes Hi everyone,\n\nso I bought [some leather shoes](http://i.imgur.com/8TXenQN.jpg) I'm planning to wear at a friend's wedding but unfortunately there a bit to tight around the ball of my feet (I tried them on in the shoe shop but pain just happens after wearing them for a while).\n\nIs there a way to widen those shoes? I already brought them to shoe service, but that did next to nothing." ]

[ "There used to be wooden feet things that you could insert to stretch them. They are awesome. I don't think I have any now.\n\nYou need to wrap your feet in ace bandages and wear them around. Lots of walking. You can pull it off in two days. \n\nBut you have to be specific about how you wrap the bandages. Think of it like where would you find blisters later.", "When I break in a new pair of boat shoes I wear them around the house with a few pairs of socks. Usually does the trick", "Put several pairs of thick socks on your feet. As many as as you can fit and still squeeze into the shoe. Now, use a blow dryer to heat them up, all over. Wear them until they get cool. Repeat. Wear the shoes and walk around in them (with multiple socks) for as long as you can stand it.\n\nWe've successfully stretched a few pairs of Docs this way up a whole size. If it doesn't work enough for comfort, keep repeating the process. Leather does stretch but you have to encourage it.", "Heavy duty plastic bag fill with dried beans and 'small' amount of water. Stuff into shoe then apply strong tape over mouth of shoe. Rub shoe with most wipe. Watch like a mother hen. Only takes a few hours. Use care to not over stretch the bindings and stitching. " ]

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[ "How to handle a burnt tongue I swear I do this far too often, and it's so uncomfortable. Anyone have a LPT for when you burn your tongue?", "How to handle a burnt tongue I swear I do this far too often, and it's so uncomfortable. Anyone have a LPT for when you burn your tongue?", "How to handle a burnt tongue I swear I do this far too often, and it's so uncomfortable. Anyone have a LPT for when you burn your tongue?" ]

[ "Sugar works. Pour some white sugar into the palm of your hand and flatten your tongue onto it, so the surface of your tongue is coated in sugar. Keep the sugar on your tongue for as long as you can (either in your mouth or outside). It doesn't stop the weird 'i've burnt my tongue' feeling completely but it makes it go away much much faster. No idea why it works, but it does. I'm a cook in a soup cafe and we're always burning our tongues!", "For spicy hot things, try drinking milk or eating yogurt. Hold it in your mouth for a minute or two and, since spices are acidic and these dairy products are bases, it should wipe the burn out.\n\nAs for a burn caused by temperature hot things, never put ice on it, chances are it'll only give you ice burn and make things worse. Ice cream and jelly work well for dealing with a burn in the long run while it heals but for instant relief, try a bit of flour and olive oil. It may sound gross, but it dose help numb the pain a little. ", "Drink cold water? I know when you're cooking and you burn yourself, you're supposed to run your hand under cold water. I assume a tongue burn would be similar." ]

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[ "How to launder sheets and blankets without having them end up a tangled mess I know to shake them out before washing and again before drying, but still they wrap around each other like mating leopard slugs.", "How to launder sheets and blankets without having them end up a tangled mess I know to shake them out before washing and again before drying, but still they wrap around each other like mating leopard slugs.", "How to launder sheets and blankets without having them end up a tangled mess I know to shake them out before washing and again before drying, but still they wrap around each other like mating leopard slugs.", "How to launder sheets and blankets without having them end up a tangled mess I know to shake them out before washing and again before drying, but still they wrap around each other like mating leopard slugs.", "How to launder sheets and blankets without having them end up a tangled mess I know to shake them out before washing and again before drying, but still they wrap around each other like mating leopard slugs.", "How to launder sheets and blankets without having them end up a tangled mess I know to shake them out before washing and again before drying, but still they wrap around each other like mating leopard slugs." ]

[ "Put them in a mesh bag (sometimes called lingerie bags) while drying it confines the space they have to flip about. ", "The linen twist because of their length, to prevent this, twist the lined counter clockwise as they will twist clockwise (if you are in the northern hemisphere) before putting them in the dryer.", "Open it in the middle and untangle everything. My dryer has a damp dry signal for this when drying bulky items. When you hear it, you just unwrap the large items and continue the cycle. ", "I only dry one large item at a time. I mix things up and dry one large piece with a bunch of little pieces, then put those away while the next mixture dries. This plan works best when you save up a lot of laundry and do it all at once.", "I have buttons to close my duvet cover and do so when I wash them, now they aren't always in a wet/tangled mess when they come out the wash!", "Dry the bottom sheet by itself. It will dry in half the time, at most. Then dry the flat sheet with the pillow cases. Some sheets are jerks and you’ll have to dry the flat sheet by itself, too. " ]

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[ "How to cope with nostalgia? Whenever I get nostalgic, I feel an overwhelming sadness. Instead of being grateful that I experienced it, I am reminded of the inevitability of death. I think about how much time has passed, what it felt like to be young, and how my life will soon be over. I want to look back and be grateful, not afraid and mournful", "How to cope with nostalgia? Whenever I get nostalgic, I feel an overwhelming sadness. Instead of being grateful that I experienced it, I am reminded of the inevitability of death. I think about how much time has passed, what it felt like to be young, and how my life will soon be over. I want to look back and be grateful, not afraid and mournful", "How to cope with nostalgia? Whenever I get nostalgic, I feel an overwhelming sadness. Instead of being grateful that I experienced it, I am reminded of the inevitability of death. I think about how much time has passed, what it felt like to be young, and how my life will soon be over. I want to look back and be grateful, not afraid and mournful", "How to cope with nostalgia? Whenever I get nostalgic, I feel an overwhelming sadness. Instead of being grateful that I experienced it, I am reminded of the inevitability of death. I think about how much time has passed, what it felt like to be young, and how my life will soon be over. I want to look back and be grateful, not afraid and mournful", "How to cope with nostalgia? Whenever I get nostalgic, I feel an overwhelming sadness. Instead of being grateful that I experienced it, I am reminded of the inevitability of death. I think about how much time has passed, what it felt like to be young, and how my life will soon be over. I want to look back and be grateful, not afraid and mournful", "How to cope with nostalgia? Whenever I get nostalgic, I feel an overwhelming sadness. Instead of being grateful that I experienced it, I am reminded of the inevitability of death. I think about how much time has passed, what it felt like to be young, and how my life will soon be over. I want to look back and be grateful, not afraid and mournful", "How to cope with nostalgia? Whenever I get nostalgic, I feel an overwhelming sadness. Instead of being grateful that I experienced it, I am reminded of the inevitability of death. I think about how much time has passed, what it felt like to be young, and how my life will soon be over. I want to look back and be grateful, not afraid and mournful" ]

[ "This is a common feeling. I often find myself getting melancholy when I think about the past, even more so after significant milestones because they trigger an awareness of the passage of time. When I catch myself focusing too much on the past, I try and remind myself to focus on the future instead of the past. We live life in stages and I try and remember whatever stage I'm missing is in the past. Be grateful it happened rather than sad it's over. Also keep in mind nostalgia is somewhat deceitful because our memory makes past events better in our memory than they were in reality. Not that they weren't good events, but our brains are wired to forget the bad and only remember the good, usually amplified by a few hundred percent.", "Simple, buy a motorcycle(even a moped or a scooter will do), and get a stand up Ms. Pacman arcade game for your garage.", "Watch some [Casey Neistat](https://www.youtube.com/user/caseyneistat). I feel a lot like that as well, but he has this amazing ability to live exclusively in the moment, and always sees the best in things/people around him. Adding to this, he makes pretty great videos too. \n\nFind something you really enjoy doing or you've wanted to do for a really long time but haven't ever gotten around to doing it, and set a **daily** goal for yourself to spend time doing it. And when you are nostalgic and feeling down get up and do that thing that makes you excited to be alive, even if you have to force yourself to do it for the first five minutes.\n\nLiving in the moment can be one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, it's certainly changed my life for the better.", "Don't get nostalgic. I get the same way, so I just avoid reminiscing about the past. Focus on your current happiness and the future, not what's already behind you. ", "I suggest looking forward. Yes we will all die, but the past is gone. Don't look back. Plan things for the future.", "Need to keep making new memories, do new things and have new experiences, even if it's something small like attending a cultural festival that you never went to before", "Read an interesting book. That way your mind will be focused on the book and not your feelings of nostalgia." ]

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[ "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. 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I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! ", "The best way to quit smoking I have been a smoker since 14 and I have gotten up to a pack a day and sometimes more when drinking. I know this is a terrible habit but I want the best way to quit. I think what I am asking is what redditors would recommend to stop. Nicorette, Chantix, cold turkey, steps, etc... I hope someone can help me with a type of substitute and how best to use this substitute to stop. I need help! " ]

[ "I quit smoking about 6 months ago, cold turkey. I smoked about a pack a day for 20 years and my wife still smokes and she smokes in the apartment. I haven't even had a drag.\n\n\nMy advice:\n\n* Spend a few days getting mentally prepared to quit.\n\n* Understand that you can **never** smoke again. Not a single cigarette, not a single puff. When you start bargaining with yourself on how it's okay to smoke remember there is no such thing as 'just one' or 'just a drag'. Smoking will **not** make you happy. Just accept this as the truth.\n\n* Be happy about quitting. You're not making a sacrifice, you're kicking an addiction.\n\n\n\nThe trickiest part is getting in the right mindset, but one you're there it's golden. Nicotine will be completely out of your system in 3 days, after that you're just getting over the psychological addiction. If you're getting particularly antsy find something to distract yourself with. I took a lot of walks (and I ate a whole lot, unfortunately for my waist line). Keep track of how much money you're saving (I'm at $2058). Look at the physiological effects of quitting.\n\n", "So this is gross but it worked for me. Get a mason jar, for the next week every Ciggarette you smoke put the butt in that jar. Add a bit of water (it depends on the size of your jar, don't cover them. Just enough so the butts marinate a bit). After the week or heck after the first day or two, crack the jar open and inhale deeply whenever you want to smoke. Trust me you'll start associating smoking with a gag inducing smell and suddenly won't want cigarettes anymore. Worked for me and I'm going on a year without. (And the one I had a year ago was on a blackout drunk night)", "Quit cold turkey two weeks ago\n\nCough drops when you get the urge. The vitamin C helps fight the temptation, and keeps your mouth occupied for a few minutes. You'll feel better after a few days and be happy that your mouth no longer tastes like a putrid asshole when you wake up.", "I date a girl that smokes and will be around me constantly, how will i get around this problem? Alcohol definitely makes me want to smoke and I travel a lot for my job and it fills the gaps in driving. That feels like car smoking and alcohol will probably be the hardest. ", "Have you thought about getting an ecig? \n\nThat's what I did and it's been since December since I've smoked. ", "I quit 25 days ago. My advice would be to quit cold turkey. I think the biggest thing is that you have to be ready and you have to want to quit. For me I saw something that upset me a great deal and it kind of bitch slapped me and I put them down and haven't picked them up since. I got a lot of gum, and lollipops. When ever you are craving drink water and suck on a mint, chew gum, etc. Theres this great thing you can sign up for that will send you text messages every day with tips and tricks for quitting just go to WWW.CDC.gov/quitting", "I have always heard great things about Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking http://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Easyway-Stop-Smoking/dp/0615482155/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top\n\nKeep in mind that most people need several attempts to finally beat the addiction; so don't give up if you have a set back!\n\nAs far as pharmaceutical interventions, I wouldn't recommend Chantix (bad side effects), but you could try Wellbutrin. See a doctor if you think it might help you. \n\nIt is typically very difficult (near impossible) to quit smoking when you're around people that smoke. Maybe you could convince your lady friend to quit smoking too? \n\nIt might be helpful to write a list of your different reasons for quitting to look at when you have a craving. Cravings typically last only 20 minutes, so if you can distract yourself and beat that craving you should be good. Find something else to do to replace when you would smoke. Chew gum, call a friend.. I had one patient who would always check licorice bark. Look a little strange, but he was one of the few patients I worked with that was actually able to quit. ", "A psychology teacher I had once talked about how an important and overlooked tool in quitting is deep breathing exercises. She said that smoking is like a deep breathing exercise, and that's one of the ways it helps people to relax. So when you quit, continue the deep breathing, but this time sans the smoke. Don't let it be your only tool, though. I have several friends that used zoloft, one that chewed on toothpicks, one that would brush her teeth when she had a craving, one guy that got a worry stone and rubbed it to death. Do something else with your hands, your mouth, and your lungs. Good luck!", "This method works:\n\nLets say you smoke a pack a day.\n\nOn the first week, smoke one cigarette less per day.\nnext week, smoke one less than that.\n\ngradually smoke one less cig until you get used to not smoking.\n\nTake it slow, so you dont revert back.\n\ngood luck!\n", "The first 3 days are the worst...I used my previous day(s) to justify my current day. The idea of, do it today to honor your hard work yesterday, worked for me. I tried to quit at least 2 dozen times before it finally took hold. To make it easier, I went camping with my gf at the time (fiancee now) and there wasn't a cigarette for miles. \n\nYou have to want to quit...like really, really WANT to quit. Find other ways to deal with the stress that triggers smoking. Also, there is an oral fixation aspect to think about. Some people chew gum, I kept a dum dum lolipop within reach for at least a month before I stopped reaching for one everytime I started the car because after firing up the engine, I'd fire up a parliament. Break the associations!\n\nGOOD LUCK, everyone that has ever quit is pulling for you =) ", "The best thing is to just stop right now. Not tomorrow not after one last cigarette. Just now. Did this 3 years ago and never touched a cigarette again. ", "Allen Carr's book - The Easy Way to Stop Smoking was so incredibly helpful. It has been about 45 days for me and I wasn't miserable, irritable or anything. It completely changes your mindset and you don't want to smoke. My partner smokes and I can be around him without wanting his cigarettes. The book is only like $10 on Amazon - you really can't lose!", "i spent some time earlier this year researching quitting techniques to help run a few stop-smoking workshops and found that the people who are most successful are those who quit cold turkey. Although there is much success with nicotine substitutes, those who quit without any adjunct had the lowest recurrance. ", "Substitute with icy pops or blow pops. The sugar rush is better than nicotine anyway. Now how do you quit blow pops?", "It sounds like rubbish advice, but cold turkey is the only thing that worked for me. Just stop and once you've stopped don't do it again. After 6 months you will have quit. I want to help, but that's all I've got.", "If you are really willing to stop smoking, visit a hypnotist. Easiest way to stop your addiction / in a short time / inexpensive.", "/r/electronic_cigarette \n\nI haven't had a cig in a year and a half. Before that, I smoked for 13 years and used everything to quit. Cold turkey, patches, gum, pills, none of it worked. Picked up an e-cig from the gas station and it was ok, then I found /r/electronic_cigarette, got a proper battery and tasty flavored juice (I'm vaping cinnamon buns with my coffee this morning) and haven't looked back. With other attempts to quit, it was a constant war to not go and buy a pack. Now, you couldn't pay me to smoke a cig.\n\n", "Watch someone who has lung cancer or something of the sort from smoking die a slow, painful death. See the trauma it brings. Might do the trick.", "Very helpful to sweat either by sauna or running/walking I’ve quit multiple times but there is no such thing as just one or “while u drink” made me just drink everyday I’m going to try again def counting the money imma save, if anyone needs help lmk", "The earlier in life you have started smoking, and the longer you did it, the deeper your dependency is going to be.\n\nIf you are familiar with the frustration of quitting cigarettes that doesn't last for long, you'll know that you don't need to hurry, but build up your motivation for quitting first.\n\nMake a list of why you want to stop, and another one, even more important, of what still attracts you to smoking. There are more reasons for still doing it besides the nicotine addiction. Perhaps you think you look better with a cigarette, perhaps you like the bonding with fellow smokers, perhaps you welcome the decreased appetite, and are afraid of putting on a considerable weight when quitting. There are many things associated with smoking that you should consider from all angles in order to decide how to replace them, overcome them, or rethink their value to you.\n\nThe moments and psychological conditions when your cigarette feels the sweetest have to be recognized well, because you need to have a plan beforehand of how to avoid them.\n\nIf drinking or coffee you associate with a cigarette, consider quitting them as well for a few months. Same goes to friends smokers, you need to be strong enough to go out with them without the insurmountable temptation to light together a cigarette.\n\nNicotine patches help, and have a nicotine gum with you for crisis situations, but it is the determination that you have built that will be the main puller out of the habit.", "Smoking is an addiction. Like all addictions it's better to wean yourself off of it slowly, rather than suffering though withdrawal symptoms. \n\nFigure out how many cigarettes you have in a day. Choose a high number. Then limit yourself to only having one fewer cigarette than that per day for one week. The next week, cut out one more cigarette per day. The next week, cut out one more. Make it two weeks if you want. The idea is to slowly let your body acclimate to the lack of nicotine. \n\nIt will take a lot of willpower on your part, but plenty of people do. A man I know who used to be a smoker once told me, \"I never quit smoking, I've just haven't had a cigarette in 10 years.\"", "Minty toothpicks for the cravings, and exercise to solidify. You won't want to make running any more difficult when you realize how out of shape smoking made you. And it's a fairly tangible way to feel the good you're doing for your poor lungs; the improvements to stamina come quickly.", "I’m starting to read a lot of stories of families taking care of their parents from dying from lung cancer, and some of the stories are so frightening🥲", "I quit about a year ago cold turkey. Drinking was really the only hard part so I just had to quit for awhile. I don't have a lot of smoking friends anymore so avoiding other smokers wasn't too bad.\n\nHaving a girlfriend who smokes is probably going to make it very difficult.\n\nGood luck man! \n\n", "I just remember what happened to my grandpa later in life. Getting emphysema and dieing in a hospital bed choking on his spit. Plus cigarettes, cigars are fucking nasty tasting, and I don’t smoke weed anymore either. Smoking is just bad in general, makes you sick as fuck. I gave up soda to, drinking organic lemon seltzer and living mostly clean besides the occasional drink or two.", "Get chewing gum, whenever you feel the urge to smoke start chewing gum (normal gum, no nicotine stuff)", "For me, the transition to small cigars, which I didn't inhale, was effective. They provided some nicotine, but after about a month, I lost the desire to smoke altogether. Generally, cigars don't seem to be as addictive for many people, possibly due to slower nicotine absorption. This might explain why some can easily go days without one and consume them less frequently.", "For me, my best recommendation would be to start smoking weed heavily for 2 weeks. I was originally vaping for 2 years then I wanted to quit so I bought 5 of those stiizy diposables form the dispensary and hit it like it was nicotine and that got me over the hitting sensation from nic. My symptoms were extreme headache, not being able to sleep, getting extremely hungry even when I just ate, irritability, cravings for hitting something, and just being anxious. Now imagine if you smoked a shit ton of weed for those symptoms, it will help with sleeping, feeling anxious, and craving for hitting something. Then after those two weeks are up its a fuck ton easier to linger off 2 weeks of weed then to linger off of 2 years of nicotine. Although your symptoms may stay longer I felt that it wasn't extremely difficult. The only difficult part was craving the hit and the smoke, but after I stopped the nic for two weeks and then Starting to stop weed so I had no smoke so i just started using one of those nicotine free vapes and then eventually I would start to forget I even had it because I didn't get any effects from it. That is what I did to quit nic. Im pretty sure i relapsed around the 5 month mark and got addicted again so Im going to start quitting in a month most likely. I wish everyone the best of luck!", "Everything in threes, and reward yourself. Quit tomorrow. Once you make it for three hours without a smoke, get yourself something nice but inexpensive. Same with three days, three weeks, three months. After three months it isn't really an issue any more. Avoid doing unnecessary things that make you want to smoke, be it drinking coffee or alcohol or whatever the fuck, until you are absolutely confident in your ability not to give in to cravings. This worked really well for me, and it worked for my Mom who is the person who told me about it. Hope this helps.\n\n(Using nicorette e.t.c. can help some people but I don't believe it is required).", "Cannot advocate the benefits of exercise enough. Having a regular run , GYM, swim, whatever in your schedule makes you feel better off and appreciate the loss of breath when you smoke. I reduced my smoking considerably when training regularly for a half marathon. And the best thing is that it happened almost without trying, just sort of automatically. \n\nAlso, obviously another pointer is to stop yourself buying cigarettes. When about to buy, stop and think to yourself that the next minutes action throws off a day or more of diligence ", "Chantix. Former pack a day smoker. Tried to quit 3 times and failed. Chantix completely stopped the cravings haven't had a smoke in 3 years.", "Chantix, the \"stop smoking\" pill from Pfizer. You may have bad side effects, you may have none at all. If you're lucky (like me) you will have very little side effects and it will turn out to be a miracle pill. Either way, it's worth trying. Trust me. Don't listen to people telling you the side effects aren't worth it. It's different for everyone. Give it a try.\n\nI went from smoking two packs a day to not smoking at all easily with Chantix. I could also easily be around other smokers and I wouldn't even care about smoking myself. For me it was a miracle drug. A couple of times I would randomly pick up smoking again for a few weeks during stressful times (like moving). But 2-3 days on Chantix and I would have quit again. I always keep some Chantix around in case I ever do pick it up again. Makes it unbelievably easy to quit again." ]

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[ "Clever things you can do with wire coat hangers. My college marching band uniform comes back from the dry cleaners on these every week and, in four years of marching, I have collected a ton of them.\n\nI've already made hooks for various items around my desk and other little things.\n\nI don't want these infinitely useful items to go to waste! What have you all done?", "Clever things you can do with wire coat hangers. My college marching band uniform comes back from the dry cleaners on these every week and, in four years of marching, I have collected a ton of them.\n\nI've already made hooks for various items around my desk and other little things.\n\nI don't want these infinitely useful items to go to waste! What have you all done?" ]

[ "How about a [lamp shade](http://media.treehugger.com/assets/images/2011/10/101-design-studio-48-hanger.jpg)?", "I dunno, you could probably get someone on one of the art subreddits to make you a nifty sculture or wine rack." ]

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[ "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?", "How to pass the time when working a tedious job? I work for a grocery store and it requires zero mental effort or focus. I get bored and time crawls by. Any fun mental games or something like that I could do?" ]

[ "I look at what customers are buying, the way they carry themselves, what they wear, their attitude, everything. I like to imagine their life, I have gotten fairly accurate. ", "I work in the produce department of a grocery store (I hate it oh so much), and to pass the time I actually just working harder. Concentrate on it, time flies. If you're not really feeling it, do something as simple as thinking of badass ways to go out on when you quit. ", "Play Six Degrees of Separation with yourself. If you don't know what that is, come up with 2 actors randomly. Then, see if you can connect them via mutual actors in their movies, in 6 steps or less.\n\nExample, Daniel Craig and Bill Hader:\n\nDaniel Craig in Layer Cake with Tom Hardy, Tom Hardy in The Dark Knight Rises with Gary Oldman, Gary Oldman in Kung Fu Panda 2 with Seth Rogen (lol), Seth Rogen in Pineapple Express with Bill Hader.\n\nAlso known as the Bacon Number thing, in which the destination is Kevin Bacon. But it's fun to do in your head. I've done it at work before.\n\nCheers", "I work on a production line for a potato production company on 14 hour shifts. If someone can figure out a way for me not kill myself they are very welcome.", "Try to compete with yourself. Either efficiency like how fast you can do things and try to top it, or see ways you can screw off without getting caught (like the meow game in Supertroopers)", "Write raps like eminem, and then practice spitting them, about all the people in the store that your sitting in. Memorize the lines to help pass the times and before you know what, dre might show up and say that you got skills for rills.", "I'm one of those people who never get bored waiting in Doctor's offices, 'cause my folks made me play alone a lot as a kid and I learned how to entertain myself.\n\n\n* read all the stuff!\n* go into a Zen zone.... just kinda m", "When I was a cashier (years ago), I used to banana sticker balls. Basically you collect every sticker from all the bananas you ring up and make a ball. Gets pretty big after a while. \n\nGiving really good customer service is also good to pass the time. Calling people by their names when you ID them, packing all the orders together appropriately,", "Someone suggested podcasts if you're working stock and are actually allowed headphones, but I used to used the slow time at the register to study. I would put vocabulary lists on flash card so that they were easy to tuck away in a cubby or pocket when customers showed up.\n\nAlthough that's only really helpful if you want to learn something. But picking up some Spanish or whatever second language is common in your neighbor probably wouldn't hurt. \n\nEven if it's not a language you could probably try to learn a new skill, and put material from that stuff on flash cards, so you can start preparing yourself when you get fed up and quit for a different field, I guess.\n\nI also liked using the time to brainstorm stuff. \n\nKeep like that you might come up with an awesome idea. Plus, to my supervisor it looked like was super committed to looking at the clipboard since that's where I kept my scrap paper.", "Can you wear an iPod with one earbud in? So you can still hear everything around you, but you can listen to podcasts or something like that?\n", "If you're a cashier or service center try guessing the customers back story or make one up. If they have a lot of groceries try figuring out what they are trying to make. Grocery retail ain't great, but enjoy the experience, and whatever you do don't become a lifer!!! ", "When I worked for a hotel the repetition was maddening... I had to take myself away from it a few times in the two years I was there. But I found that if i just made EVERYTHING a game. Time trials, how many different ways can I say this, how much of the checklist can I get done before the other people notice... stuff like that that wouldn't get me in trouble for goofing off but kept my brain active. It was just one gigantic RPG with a few rules and no tolerance for repetition, and all focus on efficiency...\n\nWound up getting asked to be a manager after a while because of it, but I wound up starting a company with a friend and rubbed their noses in it righteously... Still even in this job it can be tedious so I still use the same little tactic of making everything a game that I must be the \"high scorer\" on.\n\n(Also went from having to take a sanity vacation every 3 months or so to maybe once in the year, and not really because I was phased by the job, but more so that I just wanted time to go explore.)", "I used to draw comics (loosely) based on customer interactions when I was a cashier. I can't tell if you're a cashier--especially since all these people seem to think you can wear headphones at work?--but if you are, and you have candy or whatever in your lane, you can straighten that stuff. You can clean, and then pretend to clean. Back in the day, on the graveyard shift in a small town, we were allowed books, but I don't think you can do that anymore.", "i work in a grocery store as well\n\nand there's always so much to do, the day is over before im even done...\n\nbut on those few days where time goes slow, i tend to just try to think of jokes. :D", "The clock is the enemy, the more you observe time the slower it passes. The trick is to absorb yourself completely in your work, time flies when you're working hard.", "Are you allowed to use headphones while you stock? I imagine you wouldn't be allowed to while working at a register, but if you're stocking shelves or working in the back you could listen to audiobooks, podcasts, or even like \"Learn Swahili in your spare time\" or something.", "also, sleep in the bathroom, sleep behind inventory.\nFor a fun creep, hide behind rolls of paper towels and when a customer reaches for one, hand one out. Instant heart attack.", "Pizza Delivery Man: I pretend to be a super spy. It makes it a game to be better at my job, and every first or seconed house will have some sort of light sensor or camera to make things interesting.", "play grocery store scavenger hunt or ABC game with stuff that comes through the line. Make a list of things that are within the store to buy and check them off as you see them come through. Or go down the alphabet: A: Apples, B: Bandaids, C: Corn ...etc. ", "imagine things happening in the store. For example back in high school when I worked retail I would imagine gravity getting flipped off and everyone but me floating around. Zombie attacks would work too. Or things falling over. Also try writing a story in your mind. See how much you can get written without writing it down. The trick? being able to snap back to reality when a customer arrives. ", "Stocking or working register? If you've got a smart phone, bring some books on it and read. Otherwise print a chapter or so out of a book in booklet form so it can go in your pocket.\nstrip the binding from a small sketch pad and take a few sheets with you with a couple of pencils. Draw something art work or map out some project you want to work on or write about your job. You'll appreciate having that later even if boring. also, carry non stick notecube squares and do origami. Either modular to assemble later or something really neat to leave everywhere and create a mystery.", "My favourite thing to do when bored out of my mind is to make mental lists in my head, like, \"I'm going on a roadtrip, what should I bring with me? A mini first aid kit (buy that off the internet), a good pair of rainboots (should I get Hunters?) Etc..\" ", "Imagine fucking all the milfs that come in and try to picture how/if they shave their vag.\n\nWorked for me in retail.", "If there aren't too many customers and you can step away from the register, fix up the area around the register. Make sure all of the magazines are neat and in the right place. Fix the gum and mints. Straighten the soda fridges. It takes very little effort but impresses the boss.", "Dude, pick up a very expensive but relatively small item. Carry it around with you. Locate your target. Place it in their bag / trolley without them noticing. Watch them through the checkout. Mean but mildly entertaining. ", "Create a character in your head, and write a mental story. Whenever I have to do something mindless I usually do that. You can grow from one small character to the villains, the company that journey's with them, their family, the animals, pretty much anything and everything. It's fun creating a world in your head.", "Browes Reddit. I sit in a truck 12 hours a day, I just sit. On my tablet and browse the web. Time flys.\n\nYes, I have a lame easy ass job. But I get paid well to do it. ", "J´suis l´poinçonneur des Lilas\n\nLe gars qu´on croise et qu´on n´ regarde pas\n\nY a pas d´soleil sous la terre\n\nDrôle de croisière\n\nPour tuer l´ennui j´ai dans ma veste\n\nLes extraits du Reader Digest\n\nEt dans c´bouquin y a écrit\n\nQue des gars s´la coulent douce à Miami\n\nPendant c´temps que je fais l´zouave\n\nAu fond d´la cave\n\nParaît qu´y a pas d´sot métier\n\nMoi j´fais des trous dans des billets\n\n\n- Serge Gainsbourg \"Ticket puncher at Lilles station\"\n", "Get a different job. If you're working in a grocery and you hate it then you should move into a different bullshit job for the same pay.\n\n" ]

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[ "Keep car windows from fogging up in the cold. My car windows always fog up overnight in cold weather, which often leads to ice on both the inside and outside of the windshield in the morning. This is clearly problematic, and anything that may help would be welcome. Leaving the windows cracked *can* help, but it's unreliable.", "Keep car windows from fogging up in the cold. My car windows always fog up overnight in cold weather, which often leads to ice on both the inside and outside of the windshield in the morning. This is clearly problematic, and anything that may help would be welcome. Leaving the windows cracked *can* help, but it's unreliable." ]

[ "Try applying rainx antifog coating on the inside. The moist air from your breath will still condense somewhere, but maybe less will on the windshield\nhttp://www.rainx.com/product/glass-and-cleaners/rainx-anti-fog/#.UMtLHkb-AwA\n\nLPT#2: I also use this on a mirror in my shower so I can see my face when I shave. Also have used this product to spell out nice things on the bathroom mirror for my finance that show up when the bathroom fogs (hearts, giant penises etc)", "If you can park in a garage, open the windows and put a heater with a fan in there. Low setting of course and let it run, sometimes over several days. This will dehumidify your car.\n\nAlso might want to check the door frames if the rubber lining there is old/cracked/rotten etc you'll have to get new...\n\nAlso I assume you use the \"hot air\" when you are driving, if its a relatively new car you might want to use the AC still as it will dehumidify the air before its heated up." ]

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[ "how to vacuum between the front seats and console of a car? What's the best methods you've found? Doesn't have to be vacuuming, just anyway to clean the dirt from that area since the hose won't fit.", "how to vacuum between the front seats and console of a car? What's the best methods you've found? Doesn't have to be vacuuming, just anyway to clean the dirt from that area since the hose won't fit.", "how to vacuum between the front seats and console of a car? What's the best methods you've found? Doesn't have to be vacuuming, just anyway to clean the dirt from that area since the hose won't fit." ]

[ "Buy the skinny nozzle attachment that most vacuums have. If you can't afford one, use a paper towel roll squished to fit. Voila!", "4 bolts. Remove the seats. Maybe a wire harness if they are powered/ heated. Now you have all the room in the world", "use an empty paper towel roll as an attachment and flatten the tip:\n\n\nhttp://blog.mark-taylor.com/Nevada/allegro/wp-content/blogs.dir/40/files/2013/10/227716_10151352252223890_702157270_n.jpg" ]

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[ "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?", "Driving a manual car I'm a teenager getting my license and i've started driving the manual and i was wondering if anyone has any tips?" ]

[ "Everyone has great tips here, especially /u/_augustus_, I just want to expand a little on the learning curve...\n\nIf you can, learn to drive on an automatic, then learn the manual part after. If you can't, it's not that big a deal though.\n\nWhile you're learning, you might freak out when the car seems to do things you are not telling it to do. I know I did. Nearly broke into tears a couple times the first day. It will be scary. Take a couple breaths and try again. Make sure you're in a safe place away from others and just remember that in an emergency the foot brake will still stop you even if you forget to use the clutch. But do try to remember it though.\n\nBegin at a stop, in neutral. Clutch in, put it in first. See if you can get the car to go forward without using the gas pedal at all. Just slowly release the clutch, and if the car jerks or does anything scary, just press the clutch all the way back in. Try again.\n\nWhen you can get the car up to idle speeds this way, you're golden, it only gets easier. Now try the same but use the gas pedal as well while releasing the clutch. Try to aim for a specific RPM the entire time you lever the clutch/gas (this number varies greatly depending on the car). If you can go from clutch in and no gas, to clutch out and 15 miles per hour without the car stuttering, you've won. The rest is easy. Until you get stopped on a uphill.\n\nAfter you get the basics down and you get the hang of it, for about a month of two you will hate it. You can do it fine (usually), but it will be an annoying pain in the ass (and your left leg) for little to no reason. Traffic will piss you off, you'll want to coast through stop signs and so on. You'll either learn to fear stop lights on hills, or you will practice it and realize that they are not a problem when you know how to use the ebrake (thus allowing you to keep your feet on the clutch and gas).\n\nLater, things will become natural. Just like playing a video game you'll know instinctively what to do and have a harder time explaining what you do than actually doing it.\n\n*Quick, what button jumps in Super Mario Bros/Halo/whatever? I have no clue myself, but I guarantee that with a controller in my hand i'll get it right the first try.*\n\nEventually it will become second nature and none of those things, not even hill starts will bother you. One time you'll drive a friend's or family members car that is automatic. You won't know how to get the damn key out of the ignition. You will forget that *PARK* is a thing for automatics. You might even press your left foot lightly into the floorboard/footrest. You might find driving an automatic feels boring even.\n\nYou will sometimes wonder how people who can't drive a stick live with that lack of ability. It will be a pain to not be able to swap drivers on a long road trip with your plebeian friends who can't drive stick. You will worry about going to a drive through oil change or car wash because you don't want an idiot who can't drive stick to be in your car.\n\nFriends will ask you to teach them to drive a stick. You can say whatever you want, but I always said this: I will happily teach you to drive stick. Just not in my car. It's really not that hard to learn, it just causes a lot of wear and tear while learning. :) \"\n\nYou will eventually try to rev match when shifting because: Why the hell not? You will start to use your right foot to press the brake and gas AT THE SAME TIME! Crazy I know, but it will happen eventually, and it will be the right thing to do too.\n\nSide note: If you ever plan on getting a motorcycle down the line, having an innate understanding of how a clutch works will make it **much, much** easier. An hour's instruction and you will be able to do it just fine if you're decently coordinated. Though hill starts on bike will once again be a cause for fear: Left hand clutch, right hand gas, left foot balancing the bike and right foot brake. You will fear stalling, rolling backwards, falling to the right and wheelie-ing all with traffic and no safety of a big cage around you.\n\nEventually even once you get a minivan or family vehicle of some kind that is automatic so that your SO can drive it as well. You will feel old.\n\nThat was my experience anyways. I haven't got the family vehicle yet, but I know it will happen eventually.\n\n", "Not sure what stage you're at. If you're still stalling it, then find a parking lot and try the following:\n\n1) Depress clutch pedal. \n\n2) Put car in first. \n\n3) Slooooowly let out the clutch without stepping on the accelerator. Let the transmission engage and the engine will start to move the car. \n\n4) Once the car is moving, depress the clutch and then brake to a full stop.\n\n5) Lather, rinse, repeat until you get the \"feel\" of it.\n\nNow, start adding a little gas each time you do it.\n\n", "I see some of this was already covered, I am recovering it only because sometimes you need to hear the same thing 6 ways before you actually understand what they mean. A manual vehicle was like that for me.\n\nPractice in an empty LEVEL parking lot. First thing you do is the following:\n\nStart the car, hold in the clutch, and release the break. Hopefully, you wont be rolling.\n\nSLOWLY release the clutch to about 1/4 of the way. Notice where the vehicle starts \"vibrating\" a little differently, and starts pulling itself just a tad forward. This is the start of the friction zone. Remember that term, I will explain it better in a moment.\n\nContinue releasing the clutch. Now, what happens now kinda depends on the car and how fast you release. Many cars will roll forward a few inches and die. Some cars will.... start rolling forward and even out. Either way, this point is the end of the friction zone.\n\nThe friction zone is the area where your engine starts giving power to your wheels. There's more to it, but it doesn't matter to learn just yet.\n\nOnce you are comfortable with where the friction zone it, lets incorporate gas. Once you can feel the friction zone start, give it some gas. Remember to be practicing this on level terrain. Once you add the gas, it's a matter of keeping your car from \"chugging\" while keeping your tires from spinning. It can be a delicate balance. If it starts skipping a beat, so to speak, just give it a touch more gas. Tires start spinning, push in on the clutch a bit. Essentially, use the gas to smooth it out, use the clutch to slow it down (ie, if its about to die, push back in on the clutch to keep it alive, and it takes a bit of playing to find that balance. Once you got this down, it's time to take on hills.\n\nI'm going to tell you a trick that nobody else seems to know (at least where I come from). It's something that might save your life some day. The E-Break. See, on a hill, you will be freaking out because your car is going to roll backwards and there seems like nothing you can do about it until you get more \"practice\". Use the E-Break. When you have to stop on the hill, pop the ebrake and slowly let go of the glutch while giving gas. You won't roll, and when you see the car is trying to pull forward, let go of the e-brake. Tada! No more panicking on hills. Works in reverse too.\n\nNow you know how to take off and survive hills, how about shifting gears? When shifting, clutch ALL the way down with gas ALL THE WAY up, pick the gear, and even flip gas/clutch (As you let go of clutch, push in on gas equally) revs start getting high, and then just smoothly find the right spot on gas and let go of the clutch.\n\nAnd if you want to learn all of these things the easy way, learn to ride a motorcycle. It's crazy how much that helps.\n", "Don't \"coast\" in neutral or with the clutch in. Modern ECUs cut fuel flow under deceleration in gear, whereas the car must use fuel to maintain idle in neutral. Just take your foot off the gas and brake.", "No one can teach you how, it's a feeling. Learn how an engine, transmission, and clutch work.\n\nHelps when you know what you're doing.", "Have some mechanical sympathy. This means practice matching road speed and engine speed and in this way (and others) treat the car well- keep the radio/music off and learn what that smoothness feels and sounds like.\n\nWhen changing gear, cup your hand towards the gear position you are aiming for. This guides the gearstick comfortably where its meant to go and helps build an unconscious awareness in the driver of which gear the car is in.", "Hardest part of driving manual is first gear and reverse. The other fears are easy but getting started is hard. So what I did to practice was I sat in my garage and reversed out and then drove back in and I did this over and over again until I was confident of where the clutch started. This confidence held me through actually driving through streets. It's all easy after you figure out gear 1", "Go to some place that is hilly if possible to learn. The easiest way to learn to start in first gear is with the car pointed downhill. Cemeteries are excellent locales -- they are generally deserted, have curving roads and there is little one can damage in them.", "Best way to learn is go to a parking lot and practice starting and stopping over and over until its never jerky and you never stall out. While moving its much easier to switch gears, if you can start you can use all the other ones.", "When first learning how to drive a stick, practice in reverse. Obviously you will want to do this in an empty parking lot or someplace else where there is a lot of room. \n\nThe gear ratio of reverse tends to be a little more forgiving than first gear so it is easier to get the car moving without stalling. \n\nAlso, people tend to pay a little more attention to where they are heading when backing up and that takes away some of the \"over thinking\" that many people learning how to drive a stick tend to do.\n\nThe above is just to help the driver get accustomed to the relationship between the clutch and gas petal...which is the first step they need to learn.\n\nI've taught several people how to drive a stick starting out with this method. It works. \n", "Do not down shift to slow down. This places stress on the transmission. More importantly, it significantly increases the amount of times that you shift, which means more use of the clutch. What would you rather replace more frequently, brake pads at $35 a wheel, or $1000-$2000 on a new clutch that you probably won't be able to install on your own because you need to drop the transmission?" ]

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[ "How to cheer someone up? If someone chooses to talk to you or vent to you about something and you don't know what to say, how do you cheer them up?\n\nI can't find the right words to say and I end up saying \"I'm sorry\" or \"I'm here for you.\"\n\nHow do you guys do it?", "How to cheer someone up? If someone chooses to talk to you or vent to you about something and you don't know what to say, how do you cheer them up?\n\nI can't find the right words to say and I end up saying \"I'm sorry\" or \"I'm here for you.\"\n\nHow do you guys do it?" ]

[ "Make a light-hearted joke about the topic they're venting on. It will lighten the mood a bit, and then just keep the conversation more on the funny, nice side, instead of one person venting and the other awkwardly trying to cheer them up. At the end of the conversation, reassure them on the manner, and apologize once or twice and say it'll get better and you'll be there if they need anything else. ", "Don't worry about what you have to do or say, but focus on listening. When people open up they want to talk and make their feelings heard and not be condescended.\nIf they ask you for advice, then, you say something. If you don't know what to say, say something like \"There's not much I can do or say since I haven't been in your situation, but if you need anything, just tell me and I'll do my best for you\".\n\nBe supportive not paternalistic. " ]

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[ "how to rejuvenate from feeling burned out Been feeling burned out and have realized rest is not equal to rejuvenation. Any suggestions on I can escape a burnout.", "how to rejuvenate from feeling burned out Been feeling burned out and have realized rest is not equal to rejuvenation. Any suggestions on I can escape a burnout.", "how to rejuvenate from feeling burned out Been feeling burned out and have realized rest is not equal to rejuvenation. Any suggestions on I can escape a burnout.", "how to rejuvenate from feeling burned out Been feeling burned out and have realized rest is not equal to rejuvenation. Any suggestions on I can escape a burnout." ]

[ "Work out, use the open mind gained to evaluate your life critically yet realistically. \n\nCan‘t change a situation? Accept it and set new (personal) goals\n\nCan change a Situation? Change it now, even if short term it leads to pain/ uncomfort. In the long run you will be better off", "Is there any particular reason you're feeling burnt out? I had a massive anxiety and stress problem that got a lot better with medication and m", "Counter stress: do something very different on weekends or better yet on vacation/ holiday. Camping, volunteering, travel. So when you get back into the routine of school/ work it's a relief to be back with familiar routines.", "The easiest and cheapest solution I've found thus far is changing what I eat. Specifically, I drastically reduced my sugar intake. Sleep and exercise are bonuses but they take time that we don't always have. I found that saying \"no\" to sugar helped me to have a better mindset, more energy, and better focus" ]

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[ "How to not overthink answers on tests/quizzes and second-guess yourself Any advice would be very helpful because my grades in certain classes are struggling due to me changing 5+ answers in the last minute of tests, and then having them all be wrong.", "How to not overthink answers on tests/quizzes and second-guess yourself Any advice would be very helpful because my grades in certain classes are struggling due to me changing 5+ answers in the last minute of tests, and then having them all be wrong.", "How to not overthink answers on tests/quizzes and second-guess yourself Any advice would be very helpful because my grades in certain classes are struggling due to me changing 5+ answers in the last minute of tests, and then having them all be wrong.", "How to not overthink answers on tests/quizzes and second-guess yourself Any advice would be very helpful because my grades in certain classes are struggling due to me changing 5+ answers in the last minute of tests, and then having them all be wrong." ]

[ "The only reason you're changing those answers is because you weren't confident in them. \n\nThe reality is, you're capable of getting the correct answer, but for whatever reason your unconscious mind has decided to skip several steps and not inform the rest of your brain. That doesn't mean you got it wrong, it just means that you're unconfident in that answer. \n\nTo fix this, don't change your answers! Ever. I never ever recommend going back and checking your work, and I never recommend changing your answers. Spend the time to get the correct answer the first time, and you won't run into that problem. \n\nIf, for some reason, you do find that you have a little extra time at the end of a test, **only** change your answer if you find a *specific* reason to do so. For example, on a math question, if you find that you've added 1+1 and gotten 3, that would be a valid reason to change your answer.\n\nSource: I've been a professional standardized test tutor for 3 years now.\n\ntldr: believe in yourself", "Answer the questions you know you know first and mark the ones your aren't sure of so you can go back to them later. This speeds up the great taking process and gives you more time to think over the tough questions. Also, sometimes you'll find the answers further into the test.\n\nI also used to calculate my grade based on the number of test questions to see how many more I needed to get right in order to pass", "The rest of these guys have got it right. Another added piece of advice, try some mindfulness m", "My friends in dental school always joke with me and ask me how I finish my tests really quickly. I always tell them, taking tests is a skill just like anything else. It's a game. When I was in high school I used to make stupid mistakes from changing my answers at the last second. Then I told myself \"I'm not going to change any answers unless I ABSOLUTELY Know my first guess was wrong.\" Go with your gut. You'd be surprised how often your gut is right. Learn to trust it. Yeah you'll be wrong sometimes, but the more you practice trusting yourself, the better you'll get. " ]

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[ "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?", "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?", "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?", "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?", "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?", "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?", "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?", "How to break traumatic news to someone, if you're forced to be the one to deliver it. I just realized that this is a situation I'd be completely unprepared to deal with. Is there a \"proper\" way to go about it?" ]

[ "Get all the information you can and have the person sit down. Introduce that you're about to deliver bad news and then just say it in plain terms. Let the person decide how they want to react. Some people will be mad, some will cry, some will ask questions. \n\nSome basic examples\"\n\n\"I have some bad news. Samantha went to the doctor's yesterday and has cancer\" (From here you can explain more when the person is ready)\n\n\"I have some bad news. Andrew was in an accident yesterday and died.\" (I don't like the term 'passed away.' I guess you can go that route if you want.)\n\n\"I have some bad news. Erika lost the baby.\" \n\nThe pause between the \"I have some bad news\" and the news shouldn't be more than a small breath. And you want to say it as plainly as you can. They're still probably going to as \"What do you mean -----\" or something similar.", "This probably isn't the best advice but it works for someone like me who prefers to be direct.\n\nMy mom died of cancer a few years ago. I didn't even know she had cancer until two weeks before she died. She kept it from me because my wife had gotten into a post-grad school 6 months earlier quite a distance away, and she didn't want us changing our plans.\n\nWhen it was obvious she was only going to get worse and time was nearing the end, my grandfather called me and this is literally how the conversation went:\n\n\nMe: Hello?\nGrandpa: You need to call your mother.\nMe: Why?\nGrandpa: She's dying. She's in the hospital. This is the number. Call her.\n\n\nFor most people this might seem harsh or uncaring. My grandpa knows me, though, and neither of us like to sugar coat things or beat around the bush. I prefer this. Tell me what's going on and let me process it. Then we will worry about everything else.", "Sit them down in a calm environment, an hour after a meal.\n\nExample TV off, away from children.\n\nGive them some prep, \"I have some bad news\".\n\nThen immediately tell them, don't take your time. Anxiety and imagination will get the best of them if you take a long time to get to your point.\n\nThen calmly say I'm here for you, any questions? Offer them a hug.", "Don't forget about [self care](http://steppingstonellc.com/2014/06/09/delivering-bad-news-living-importance-self-care/) also.", "For the love of all that is holy, shut up after you have delivered the news. I have a family member who is older and thus is the one to usually deliver the news. However, she gets nervous and rambles on while I'm still trying to process what has just happened. Just stop talking, and let the person process for a moment (or longer). ASK if they would like a hug. I know I am normally a very affectionate person and I love hugs, but I do not want someone latching onto me right after I've been told bad news. Take a deep breath, and be prepared for all possible reactions. Also - if it is news that affects both of you, crying may happen and that's okay.", "Not a text message.\n\n[refer to this anti-example](http://www.businessinsider.com/malaysia-airlines-text-message-to-families-2014-3)", "First, evaluate whether you're the right person to share the news, and whether you should have someone else in the room with you.\n\nFind someplace comfortable where you will not be interrupted. Prep them with\n\n\"There's something very important that I (we) have to tell you.\" \n\nand ensure there's a chair or something that they can sit on. Make sure you have their full attention, and then be forthright with the main thing you have to share. \n\n\"Person X who you are close to has had a very bad thing happen to them.\" or \"The company has decided to lay you off.\"\n\nMake sure that there's time afterward for you to console them or deal with their reaction in a non-public venue, to respect their privacy. Let them know you're there for their support if they don't immediately show a reaction, as it might not be something they can immediately digest.\n\nAsk if there's anything you can do, if appropriate (sometimes it's not in certain types of bad news, such as if you're forced to lay someone off from a long-standing job).\n\nAnd don't talk about it freely afterward. ", "A teacher friend says the Sh&@ sandwich method is what they do to tell parents about the bad stuff. Makes it easier for them to palate the sh&@. \n\nGood\nSh&@\nGood\n\nLittle Billy has a aptitude for math he knows how to do long division. Billy is struggling to read good night moon as a fifth grader. But Billy is doing really good with phonics. " ]

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[ "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? ", "how to completely empty bowels before a morning run? I go running at 5:15 in the morning not needing to poop then after 20-30 minutes running I need to rush back and hope I don't shit myself. Is there something I can do the night before that will make me go as soon as I wake up? " ]

[ "1) coffee\n\n2) squatty potty\n\n\nSometimes you can do great with just the squatty potty, since coffee wouldn't help your run at all due to dehydrating you.\n\nSquatty Potty is an absolute game changer though.", "This actually is a pretty common problem for some people unfortunately.\n\nMileage may vary on this advice, but I find caffeine does it for me. I don't drink coffee but do take a caffeine pill first thing in the morning and it seems to work to get things moving so to speak.", "If you live in a pot-legal state (or not) a nice big bong toke will get the juju flowing. It will probably make the run more enjoyable too!", "Previous day: Fruits, fibers and lot of water. A short walk after dinner. Some water before going to bed. \nCoffee in the morning. Wait for twenty minutes. Easy poop.", "Having to poop during a run could be influenced by your all around diet. For example some people might have issues with dairy.\n", "Eat earlier in the evening the night before, and ensure you diet includes plenty of water and fiber. Drinking coffee helps; in time, simply smelling coffee might stimulate a BM. Also, jumping around, squatting, bending, stretching and twisting the torso will help stimulate movement, if you do it as warm-up before running. You can also massage your guts.", "Relevant TheOatmeal thing:\nhttp://en.ilovecoffee.jp/posts/view/175\n\nAlso, consistency in your \"biological clock\" helps. Waking up at the same time, drinking coffee at the same time all seems to help with the er...routine.", "If you're not up for a cup of coffee or tea in the morning, I found just waiting and moving an extra five to ten minutes helps start it moving. You'd spend the same amount of time having a cup, so it's not any more or less sacrificial. But, just going for a quick quarter mile, or a few exercises before you step out might be enough to get moving.", "1. Get a squatty potty and get your knees up \n2. Work on your posture. You want to be sitting up straight and leaning slight toward your knees. https://zionphysicaltherapy.com/proper-potty-posture\n3. Grab some toilet paper and just below you coccyx apply some gentle pressure. You shouldn’t get poop on your hand. Think half way between your tail bone and anus.\n4. Get a bidet. Not one of the luxury $250 ones. Spend $25 on the one that looks like a kitchen sprayer and makes water come out of your nose. Go ahead and take it a little too far to give yourself a bit of an enema. You’ll seem gassy during the process but in the end one square of tp to dry will be about all you need.\n5. Coffee and Mini-Wheats (fiber)\n\nHappy pooping!\n\n", "Smoke a cigarette and drink a cup of Joe at the same time. Insta-poop! The cigarette will be a nice warm up for your lungs too before the run!", "BBC-70 Simplet Basic Bidet Natural Water Soft Mist Bidet Toilet Attachment | Bio Bidet\nhttp://www.biobidet.com/BB70-Natural-Water-Bidet.htm\n\nWorth. Ever . Penny." ]

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[ "How to stop spam robocalls that always change their number? I've been getting at least one of these a day for the last few months. I'm on the Do Not Call list, but since they're changing the number every time, I'm fairly certain they don't give a shit about the law.\n\nAny suggestions on how to prevent this? I'm talking about the ones that start with an automated message saying something like \"This is your last chance to pay off your cr", "How to stop spam robocalls that always change their number? I've been getting at least one of these a day for the last few months. I'm on the Do Not Call list, but since they're changing the number every time, I'm fairly certain they don't give a shit about the law.\n\nAny suggestions on how to prevent this? I'm talking about the ones that start with an automated message saying something like \"This is your last chance to pay off your cr", "How to stop spam robocalls that always change their number? I've been getting at least one of these a day for the last few months. I'm on the Do Not Call list, but since they're changing the number every time, I'm fairly certain they don't give a shit about the law.\n\nAny suggestions on how to prevent this? I'm talking about the ones that start with an automated message saying something like \"This is your last chance to pay off your cr", "How to stop spam robocalls that always change their number? I've been getting at least one of these a day for the last few months. I'm on the Do Not Call list, but since they're changing the number every time, I'm fairly certain they don't give a shit about the law.\n\nAny suggestions on how to prevent this? I'm talking about the ones that start with an automated message saying something like \"This is your last chance to pay off your cr", "How to stop spam robocalls that always change their number? I've been getting at least one of these a day for the last few months. I'm on the Do Not Call list, but since they're changing the number every time, I'm fairly certain they don't give a shit about the law.\n\nAny suggestions on how to prevent this? I'm talking about the ones that start with an automated message saying something like \"This is your last chance to pay off your cr", "How to stop spam robocalls that always change their number? I've been getting at least one of these a day for the last few months. I'm on the Do Not Call list, but since they're changing the number every time, I'm fairly certain they don't give a shit about the law.\n\nAny suggestions on how to prevent this? I'm talking about the ones that start with an automated message saying something like \"This is your last chance to pay off your cr", "How to stop spam robocalls that always change their number? I've been getting at least one of these a day for the last few months. I'm on the Do Not Call list, but since they're changing the number every time, I'm fairly certain they don't give a shit about the law.\n\nAny suggestions on how to prevent this? I'm talking about the ones that start with an automated message saying something like \"This is your last chance to pay off your cr" ]

[ "I get multiple (3-12) calls EVERY day from oversea scammers and the only feasible solution I've found is changing your number. I've yet to actually do this yet because I'm holding out for a better idea.", "Are they calling your cell? If so, it's illegal and you can sue them. \n\nIt's the TCPAct and it says as long as it isn't political or for a debt you owe, *it is illegal for anyone to robodial your cell without your permission beforehand.*\n\nAnswer the call, speak to someone (or call back the number on your caller ID), ask them their name, the company name and address. Then tell them that they've broken the law and you'll be filing in small claims court. \n\nTCPA says you are entitled to $500 for every call to your cell that was placed when they didn't know they were calling a cell, and $1500 if they did know it was a cell. \n\nI answer those calls now and not one of them calls me back after I threaten to sue. ", "What I've found is most times, if it is voice activated, you can say remove me from this list. Otherwise if they connect you to a person you can ask them to remove you and you won't get calls from them anymore. This requires you to answer the calls from each company that is calling you, but if you want them to stop you'll have to do it.", "We get an average of 10 such calls a day. Many seem to be \"sequential dialers\" working their way through phone numbers in numerical order to build lists. Even more are simply spoofing CallerID, which makes it nearly impossible for the annoyed \"victim\" to take much action.\n\nWe (husband and I) are experimenting with a homemade solution involving a Raspberry Pi and some open source software. Our project went live last night and got its first scam call this morning. On the second ring, the computer answered the call and then played a fax tone. Then it disconnected the call. The hope is that identifying our number as connected to a fax line will cause the robodialers to drop our number from lists.", "Simple - if you don't recognize the number, DO NOT ANSWER. It won't stop them from calling you, but the less attention you give them, the better you'll feel. If it's someone you know calling from a new number, they can leave a voicemail.", "I have a friend who always answers and wastes their tome. I have another friend who never answers. I myself answer and hang up immediately.\n\nGuess what. IT MAKES NO DIFFERENCE. We all just get more calls.", "I don't answer calls like at all, so I set my voicemail to \"sorry, we could not connect you to one of our representatives, call back later\" I don't get calls at all anymore" ]

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[ "Allergic Reactions Thought it might be a good tip if someone could tell people what to do in case of having or being with someone having a severe allergic reaction.\nObviously call 999 or 911 and use an EpiPen would be my first thoughts but I literally know nothing else.\nThanks in advance to anyone who shares.", "Allergic Reactions Thought it might be a good tip if someone could tell people what to do in case of having or being with someone having a severe allergic reaction.\nObviously call 999 or 911 and use an EpiPen would be my first thoughts but I literally know nothing else.\nThanks in advance to anyone who shares." ]

[ "The rhyme they teach you when using an EpiPen for someone is \"Blue to the Sky, Orange to the thigh.\" There is a blue cap that you have to take off then jab it into the person's thigh. \n\nSource: Was first aid trained at one point not currently certified.", "I put benedryl in all my first-aid boxes, found some liquid benedryl for the last one I had to build from scratch. It's not ideal for major reactions but will control most.\n\nWet wipes and Hydrocortisone cream will help with contact allergies, again It's not ideal but it works. Some contamination needs to be cleaned with soap and water, but a quick wipe down with alcohol is a decent immediate care.\n\n\n\nI'm not an expert, but have been doing first-aid for 24 years... don't know how many courses I've done. Cuts and burns, allergic reactions (contact, insect, and consumed), diabetic, and too many heat or cold issues to count. Like everything else, it's a case of control and stabilization then re-assess. First-aid is a stop-gap until proper care is available if required." ]

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[ "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart", "How To Quit A Sodium Addiction I'm almost addicted to cheese puffs, rice puffs and basically everything that is a snack having a high amount of salt. I really want to quit this sodium addiction since it gives me a headache everytime I eat junk food and I've heard it's really bad for your heart" ]

[ "Stop legitimizing your problem as some kind of addiction. You're a human being with the free will to stop eating shit food whenever you want and you aren't going to have real withdrawal over it.", "Honestly, you just have to suck it up. It's going to suck and food won't feel as tasty for a time, but your taste buds will adapt. Then healthy food will taste even better!", "Not an addiction.\nYou have a problem with eating, and prefer sodium. Two different things. Have you tried willpower?", "I think if you replaced them with a healthier version, like a rice cake, it would be much easier to quit. Plus, they have lightly salted versions with far less salt that what you're used to!", "I agree that addiction is a good way of looking at it. It's like sweets- if you cut them out for a couple of weeks then eat something you used to eat, it will taste overwhelmingly sugary. Your sense of taste adapts, and you will absolutely be better off for it, both health wise and in your appreciation of more subtly-flavored foods.\n\nSimple solution: stop buying junk food. Don't keep it in your house. When you're out, don't keep money on you (especially cash). Make the effort to cut out junk food for a mere 2 weeks and I guarantee you will have less cravings for it. ", "Don't buy snacks, don't keep them around your home, and eat a proper meal before shopping. The easiest way to stop snacking is to make them unavailable", "Try some lightly salted sunflower seeds. You'll still get your salt fix, but having to \"work\" to eat them should slow you down. Plus the kernels are really good for you. ", "I'm not a big fan of sodium. One advice would be to try cooking your meals. At least in the weekends. I like to cook and I barely use sal. I buy those sea salt bowls that last me the whole year. Use none o very little salt. Sea Salt is stronger so you can use a lot less. But the idea is to get the taste of things. Eventually everything will taste better (fuller) because you are tasting the food and not the salt. You can start by using soy sauce instead of salt or mirin sauce to condiment things. I condiment things with chilli (habanero) they give a lot of flavor to the food. You can also use pepper or paprika. Different condiments to stop your cravings for salt. ", "I get cravings and all that from a bad diet, but it's not something that will give you serious withdraw. \n\nI recommend exercising and sweating a lot while changing up your diet. It makes you crave more water and healthier food items and always has jump started me to quit craving salty and sweet items. \n\nAs of now I don't eat highly processed snacks and no longer crave them. I used to always have a sugary snack a day or get a headache - did a weeklong hike camp, and had no issue moving on to healthier food. \n\nSo yeah, play some basketball outside for a while until you work up a sweat, then drink up a lot of water and eat foods low in sodium and sugar. After a short time you won't crave them at all. " ]

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[ "How do I find the right adjustment for my car seat? As a tall guy this is always a struggle. It often feels just wrong and I fiddle around way too long after someone used my car. What should I set up first? The height? The distance? The steepness? Do you know some handy advice to make this easier?\nThe only trick I know is that your ~~calves~~ wrist should lay on the steering wheel, when you stretch your arms. But I still struggle to find the right position.", "How do I find the right adjustment for my car seat? As a tall guy this is always a struggle. It often feels just wrong and I fiddle around way too long after someone used my car. What should I set up first? The height? The distance? The steepness? Do you know some handy advice to make this easier?\nThe only trick I know is that your ~~calves~~ wrist should lay on the steering wheel, when you stretch your arms. But I still struggle to find the right position." ]

[ "If your calves are resting on the steering wheel you've definitely got it in the wrong spot! It's supposed to be your wrists\n\nIt has come to depend more on the car, the end goal is close enough to reach everything comfortably but as far from the air bag as possible. If you drive at 10 and 2 you need your seat farther forward than someone who drives at 8 and 4(where a lot of controls are these days)\n\nWith electric seats it is way easier to adjust on the fly especially since comfortable for a 20 minute trip to the mall and comfortable for a 6 hour interstate haul are rarely the same position so its really up to what is comfortable for you.\n\n\nOh, and adjust your mirrors for whatever seat position you decide, when sitting normally you should *not* be able to see the side of your car", "You should have the steering wheel facing your chest. Arms 3/4th extended or not elbow locked. Legs extended enough so your knees don't block steering and can function all pedals completely to the floor if capable. ~~Mirrors on the side should show rear door handles near the edge of the mirror.~~\n\n/u/mmmmmmBacon12345 shared a link stating the proper way to position your mirrors is to barely see the rear door handle ***with your head against the window***. Doing this helps to remove the blind spot." ]

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[ "things to say when listening to someone's story/problems I always end up just repeating myself saying \"yeap\", \"mhmm\" \"totally\" etc. Are those alright or should i try adding more to the conversation/ what do i add?", "things to say when listening to someone's story/problems I always end up just repeating myself saying \"yeap\", \"mhmm\" \"totally\" etc. Are those alright or should i try adding more to the conversation/ what do i add?", "things to say when listening to someone's story/problems I always end up just repeating myself saying \"yeap\", \"mhmm\" \"totally\" etc. Are those alright or should i try adding more to the conversation/ what do i add?" ]

[ "Repeating what they said shows you care to listen to their concerns. They know you understand what they said, and that someone is actually listening to them. \n\nExample: Jenna is telling you about her friend that committed suicide, and she doesn't know how she can live her life without her best friend by her side. You're response could be, \"I am so sorry your friend passed away. It's never easy losing a friend to suicide, let alone a best friend. If you ever feel alone and would like someone to talk to, I am happy to give you company.\"", "What happened after that?\n\nWhy do you think s/he did that?\n\nHow do you feel about it now?\n\nYou can actively improve the conversation by asking for details that you want to hear. ", "Either say nothing at all and just listen.\nOr, ask questions that repeat their last sentence when they pause.\n\"He told you to just pack up your things and leave?\"..." ]

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[ "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?", "What are some tips for people unexpectedly stuck alone in hotels for a week that want to maximize the experience? My trip home was just cancelled due to weather and I couldn't get another flight out until Sunday.\n\nFortunately, I bought trip insurance and I'm in a fairly small town, so I can get a four-star hotel if I want to (food and the room will be reimbursed).\n\nWhat should I do with myself?" ]

[ "Wiki the town. All places have a story and history. Don't be bored, get new knowledge instead. \n\nAnd... be super cool to the workers at the residence you are staying.", "Go to the front desk, during different shifts, and tell them you forgot your phone charger. They usually have a bin of them and pick the best ones you can. (I have done that at Marriotts for years.)\n\n", "You have a skill you wanted to learn? Graphics design? Coding? Look up YouTube tutorials and learn some new software and skills! Pump iron at the gym.", "I love how the tips are either \"work on your education/health\" or \"fuck around a lot and get drunk/high off your ass\"\n\nI fall into the former category, learn to Code some (more, if you already can).", "Pretend you’re Bill Murray in Ground Hog Day. The fun part, after he figures out he can do anything he wants.", "Break up the day into segments - it will help time move quicker if you have a schedule. Nothing kills a day like going down a Netflix hole in the morning. \n\n Personally I'd set aside the morning for walking around, then a good meal. Then some online lessons about something that interests and challenges you in the afternoon. Have a good meal and chill in the evening with a movie. Whatever fits your personal schedule. Just don't start the day without something planned.", "Get some booze and see what's on TV. Or go for a walk. Live it up. You're in a garbage situation, make the most of it and don't feel bad. Whatever makes you feel happy is the right answer. ...except like, murder and pedophilia. That's still not cool. Keep clear of the Geneva Conventions and all that too. You know, nothing that'll land you in the Hague or having INTERPOL raising an eyebrow.", "Sign up for the rewards program for whatever hotel you’re staying at. A week stay will probably earn you a free night later on. Might as well take advantage of that since you’re staying anyways.", "When I go back home, I like to check out the new restaurants and shops that have opened since I left. Not so much chain places, but mom and pop establishments. Or meet up with some old friends.\n\nIf you're just literally stuck at the hotel, there's always Netflix lol. I've been wishing I had enough down time for a little while, to watch hours on end with no guilt.", "That's tough of you're not prepared. I stay in hotels every week and boredom is difficult. It's depends on what you enjoy. This doesn't carry over person t person but I have a hard drive and a raspberry pi/ kodi media center. Nintendo switch and my laptop. I have to switch between things to keep occupied. In a nothing town I cant really figure out what else to do.", "Get room service one day and a massage on another. Go to Walmart or target judging everyone there. \n\nCheck every few hours to see if you can get an earlier flight by seeing the bookable flights through their app while on the phone. For example, AAL had me booked three days after my original(routing was SFO to ORD direct initially then SFO to MIA to ORD)\n\nIf you’re slightly computer savvy, matrix.itasoftware.com can find some obscure routings that work(did a MSY to AUS to ORD considering that AUS is not a hub)", "Make a travel video of your hometown! Show off all of the best places, tell your childhood stories, spill the secret/hidden places, give out the best tips and recommendations, etc. Then post it!", "I think you can only do it before you arrive but if it's a stocked minibar you can ask them to clear it out to put your own groceries. One less charge.", "Find out if your town has a cool history and if they do tours. Mine does and it's not even 200 years old.", "Head to the liquor store first and buy a week's worth of alcohol. Follow this with a trip to the dispensary if you are in a weed legal town. Hit up the preferred dating app of your choosing and start looking for a fling for the week. As others have said browse the escort listings to have one of those in your back pocket as well. Plan the rest of your day around a workout and awesome meals." ]

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[ "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. ", "How to calm down when you're extremely angry (rage) I don't get angry very often, but when I do, woo boy do I get mad. I rage like crazy, so much so that my head hurts and I can't think clear. It seems like I'll never stop being pissed off. How can I get rid of my anger when I'm done discussing/raging? I keep having this warm feeling in my chest and my head is clouded. Any tips are much appreciated. " ]

[ "We have \"the family temper\". My grandpa used to lose his shit and go into fits of rage. Dad did the same thing. Throwing shit, cursing, breaking stuff. I fucking hated it. Everybody had to tiptoe around their tempers and it's ruined a few family events. When I catch myself starting to see red and go into one of those fits, I just concentrate on how bad my grandpa's and my dad's episodes made everyone feel and that helps calm me down. Also, whatever it is that triggers it, walk away from it. You won't be able to properly address whatever it is if you try to do it while raging.", "Let's say if it's gaming or game rage. Just mute your mic so you won't cause any trouble to others. \n\nAngry at your wife? This usually works for me. When I'm angry I will immediately think about the consequences or what she will feel when I shout at her or when she is sad. \n\nTraffic rage? Reach for a bottle of water and just drink. \n\nAngry at your boss? Think of another job and how would SUCK if your boss over there will be worse than your current boss. \n\n", "Breathe.\n\nI'll occasionally have a bad fit very similar to what you described and I start taking deep breaths. It helps clear my head a bit and from there I can remember it's not worth it to be that angry.\n\nIt's stressful, it wares me out, and being angry never really helps is what I've discovered, so being able to focus and realize what's happening helps.", "The key is distraction. Step away from the situation and do something that typically relaxes you or that you enjoy. For me I pick up a book, power clean (oh wow can I clean when I'm pissed), or paint something. I also have a small wooden box which I keep a bottle of essential oil to use, a worry stone, silly putty, little things like that to use my senses and move my brain to another subject. When you cool down, deal with the issue then. I hope this helps.", "Get your blood pressure & hormone levels checked. We are chemical machines. Not everything is--or can be--controlled by your conscious mind.", "I try to do something else to keep myself busy like take a walk or listen to music. Usually after the walk I realize it's literally not worth it or wonder why I was so mad in the first place because it doesn't seem like a big deal anymore. ", "Cold shower or better submerge your head in a bucket of ice water. Not sure about the science behind this but the shock to your system (vagus nerve?) down regulates out of control emotions. ", "Write it down. Start composing an angry email or just write to yourself on a piece of paper. \nHold nothing back, express your anger. \n\nI find writing channels my anger into one place where I can contain it. \nIf it's a work related issue, get a friend to proofread before you send it. Chances are you'll see it through the friends eyes and won't want to send it in the end.\nThe goal is not to send the email.\n\nIf you are writing to yourself - keep writing until you get tired. Your energy will have gone into the writing and the shaping of words instead of expressing anger.\n\nIf you are in a situation where you can't stop to write, imagine in your head what you would write.", "Retreat to a quiet place where you're alone, breathe and slowly calm down. Maybe write down what made you angry and why, it can be therapeutic. Distract yourself with a non-violent activity(no punching pillows or violent games). When you're a little calmer, talk to a close person you trust about it to vent if the option is available.\n\nIf its particularly severe and you are prone to breaking things or yelling at anyone or anything that comes near, consider contacting people to enrol in an anger management course. They deal with such people all the time.", "I have found skateboarding to be very helpful. Lately I just feel super aggressive all the time. When I get on my board I feel so much better, aggression becomes fuel to skate and my mind becomes relaxed and in a better mood.\n\nI'm curious if there is an age component. If you are young like me maybe the aggression has to do with pent up physical energy/sexual energy that needs to be utalized and drained every day. I'm a 21yo female, if you dont mind me asking how old are you?", "Breathe in. \n\nBreathe out. \n\nThen again, and again, and again, until you forget to focus on your breathing. Your heart will slow down a bit, making you feel more calm. And definitely, leave whatever the source of anger is at the time" ]

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[ "Yeah, depends on how much less. If it’s fractional or inconsequential and the higher paying job is ruining your life, it’s a no brainer.", "Depends on if the lower pay is still enougj to meet your requirements. If it is, your spending 40 hours a week at this place, I'd say enjoy what you do", "Weigh out your pros and cons. Does the lower paying job have a path to better pay? Does the good paying job afford you the time and money to do the things you enjoy? I was in the opposite spot debating leaving a low paying IT job that I liked to go back to bartending that paid over 2x the money. \n\nI left after some good advice: if you can't do what you love at work, do work that makes you enough money to do the things you love when you're off.", "Quality of life is more important than money. If you take the higher paying job you hate, you'll have more anxiety and stress which can lead to health problems. \n\nI had to make this decision a few years ago and decided to stay in a lower paying job I like. I made the right choice.", "Unpopular opinion. Take the money. That dream job or doing something you love turns into a job at some point. It just is what it is. Your gonna end up miserable at some point anyway. It’s a lot better with toys!", "The grass is always greener on the other side. I think most people hate their jobs, but if you can live with it and the pay allows you to do things you actually enjoy while you're not at work, in my opinion that's better than working a job that you hate less but you can't afford to have a life outside work. \n\nIdeal outcome of course is finding a way to get paid doing something you truly enjoy. But that's uncommon, and imo doing a job you can tolerate that pays well is the next best option.", "I took a serious pay cut this year and haven’t looked back. It’s allowing me to actually live my life. I don’t plan to stay in it forever, but now I actually have the time and energy (physical and emotional) to pursue more lucrative opportunities. I’d say leave. Life is short.", "A job that gives positive mental health is quite important these days. That being said, not being able to pay your bills and just barely making it every month is going to bring a whole other type of anxiety. New jobs also Seem cool and better than your current job, but after a while you start picking out cons again. \n\nTry doing something fun/calming like going on a weekend vacation or camping. Offset the anxiety at work with more relaxing off time.", "A job is the means to an end. You get to decide what \"end\" you want. Figure out what that is. Is it hanging with friends, dating, spending time outdoors, volunteering, reading, playing video games, traveling, doing a hobby, raising a family? Once you know that, choose the job that pays enough to support those things AND leaves enough time for those things.", "Wait, if you dont have to work overtime, so simply stay in this job, finis after 8-10 shift and go home to rest. \nAND when you feel good, rested, you pick more working time.. is this possible in your current job?", "Think a few steps down the road and think of your career instead of just which job is best at the moment.\n\nDoes the new job have opportunities for advancement which will pay better and/or be more fulfilling in the future? Can you use the extra money from your current job to take classes which will get you into an even better job than either?", "How are your finances now? Do you have any major debts, like a mortgage, baby, elderly parent, student loans, cr", "Generally speaking, quality of life is more important than money. However, money also impacts your quality of life, so it’s all connected. It depends how much worse the quality of life is with the lower paying job. But you also have to consider the increase in quality of life that the extra money brings.", "Your job isn't what you do during the day. Your job is to find a better job.\n\nHow you frame thinking about a thing is a useful tool. Use your what you're doing during the day to stack skills and learning for the next job.", "You need to [find your IKIGAI](https://www.forbes.com/sites/chrismyers/2018/02/23/how-to-find-your-ikigai-and-transform-your-outlook-on-life-and-business/?sh=6cfe0ba82ed4)", "This is not a zero sum game. You have trade offs to make and there will be pros and cons to either decision. \n\nAre there options to negotiate a resolution to your current job to improve the quality of your workday? Can the lower paying job lead to better opportunities? Have you looked for other responsibilities at your current job that interest you more? Would you be miserable on off hours dealing with the pay cut? Does the ability to afford things offset the dislike of the current job? I'm sure there are more considerations.\n\nLife is full of choices that, when we have to make it, we're not sure of the outcome. These are called learning experiences. IMHO, you'll be happier overall if you just accept that no matter what, if you commit to the course you choose, things will work out. Resilience and flexibility will make you less stressed overall.", "Go for the cash with a three-year plan to overhaul your personal life. You want to put yourself into a position where you can take a job you like of your choosing (don't tell anyone until afterwards). Get a five-seven year old Camry, pay it off. Gain job skills to make you a good candidate when the time comes for the jump. Pay off all outstanding cr", "Do you hate the job or the workplace?\n\nIf you hate the job - as in, the actual thing you do - but the workplace is good, I would stay in the higher paying job for as long as I could, saving as much as possible.\n\nIf the workplace is bad, then I would leave, even for a job with less pay.", "it depends on the potential of the income that the job given in the future. If a job pays less but you can make 1.5 more that amount after 2 year then why not", "You’re a slave to money and then you die vs downsizing /simplifying a little and being happier. It was hard for me to choose the latter, but it is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.", "What do you mean by potentially better?\n\nBefore you make your decision, are you able to gain more insight into the potential work environment? For instance team and office dynamics? Because you may want to work there but team dynamics are not to be underestimated and job interviews only go so far in capturing what things are actually like. \n\nAll in all I'm asking if you've looked into the whole aspect of this role versus your current one. I made a mistake in taking a pay cut for a role I really wanted, left within 3 months.", "This really depends on a lot of factors, there can't be a right answer that applies to every single person alive. Consider the following:\n\n* Your mental health: how badly is your current job affecting you? If it's making you clinically depressed, gtfo. If you hate it but still tolerate your life, you can stick with it until you find another opportunity that actually pays decently.\n* Your financial security & goals: are you saving for something specific like a down payment, or are still padding your emergency savings? Keep the current job (again, unless it's literally killing you to stay). Or are you already financially secure and can afford not to save much going forward? Then take the new job\n* Your long-term goals: are you frugal and ok with roughing it, or do you want to retire early and live large?\n* Your work potential: do you have enough skills and experience that you can realistically expect more opportunities to come your way? If so, wait it out and grab the next opportunity that won't be soul-crushing but won't involve a major paycut. But if you feel this is a once-in-a-decade opportunity, maybe you should take it.\n* Your side income potential: do you have any hustle you can monetize? If so, you can take the new job and grow your hustle and not have to take the major pay cut you mention\n\nYou get the gist. That's all for you to think about and weigh. Good luck OP!", "Think about which option will improve your future.\n\nIf extra money can better your future options and help you survive, pick the job with OT.\n\nIf extra free time can help you upskill and help get you a better job improving your standard of living, pick the job without OT.\n\nEither way, you will have to utilize and capitalize on the the extra cash or time earned in best possible manner to improve your future prospects.", "I would consider the title too. For example if you are a manager, and like managing, then hang on and send resumes. If you feel strongly about your company and intend to stay, then it might be worth it to step back to avoid the inevitable burnout that's coming.", "How much will the bad job affect you? Will it interfere with your ability to find an even better job? Coz what you ideally should do is **find a third job that is good and high paying**. Otherwise, you'll need to quantify how bad the bad job is and how much money will you get from it.", "How much less and how much less can you afford to make? I left a manager position for an entry level, made litterally half the money. Best decision. Not only have I since moved up and I'm making more money than I used to, but I was so much happier and had more energy so I was spending less eating out, felt better, and had more time for me. \n\nBut it was a big discussion of \"can I afford to make half as much?\" The answer did end up being yes, we had to slow down debt repayment and saving but it fit in the budget and I took the new lower paying job (3/4 pay and 3/5 the hours). It also had better upward mobility.", "Doing something you hate for half your waking time 5 days per week is a fail-safe way to become miserable. ", "Consider the difference in pay the price of happiness. Are you willing to \"pay\" $X a year to be happier in your job? If you are, then take the better but lower-paying job. If you're not, then stay where you are.\n\n", "All else equal, I think the best strategy is to stay with the job you hate, save every penny and milk the cow to the max. Then, when you have a fat piggy bank, then slowly reduce your output to a comfortable level until they fire you. Then, you can find a lower paying job.", "This obviously depends on the specific.\n\nBut I never saw a job that was actually perfect. There is always a catch, making the job much worse.\n\nSo I think it might be good to have a non-perfect job that pays well. And then you can have an after-hours \"job\" that is perfect.\n\nYou need a paying job that does not exhaust you too much though.", "Take the job that is better for you and your health. The money doesn't make up for anything you lose. I recently left a better paying job for one with less stress and the ability to leave the job \"on site\" no stress or worry at home. I took a $7 and hour pay cut. That being said, I did a budget to see what I could live on, and be honest, Include what you do for fun and pleasure. It was close, but it has worked out for us.", "It's going to depend on the job and how certain you are you're going to enjoy the new one. If you're pretty positive you'll enjoy the new job better, then take the cut if you can afford it. Being happy is way more important than money (again, as long as you can afford it).\n\nWith that said, I did this recently myself and had a negative experience. I had a nice cushy job in tech that paid well and was easy as shit but was boring. I had some experience working as an elementary assistant, and decided I wanted to become a teacher. I did my research, and thought I knew what I was in for. Decided the harder work and lower pay would be worth being happy and making a difference, which would have definitely been true if that was the case. Turns out the job is way worse than anyone could have told me and I have regretted the decision every day for the last month since I started. I'll definitely be back in tech next year or earlier if I can get out of my contract.\n\nYeah, it's a tough decision. Do your research, and weigh the risk of how much you hate your job, vs. the potential of you hating your new job more. Even a small improvement can be worth a pay cut sometimes, it's just going to depend on you're specific situation.", "It depends. Are you trying to get out of debt? Trying to get a down payment on a house? Or do you just have a lifestyle to afford meaningless luxuries you’re trying to maintain. If it’s the former, it makes sense to grind until you reach your goal. But don’t stay at a job you hate just to fund a lifestyle. People get trapped that way, wake up when they’re 50, miserable, having hated their whole lives.", "I'm not saying you should stay where you are permanently but my advice would be never go and work for less.", "I would tell the lower paying job that you are getting paid more at the other place. Depending on what the job is and how bad they want you, they might match it.", "I quit a job that was paying more but I absolutely hated. About a 15% paycut at a new job that is just funner and has better coworkers and management. The benefits to mental health were astronomical.", "I left an almost 25$ an hour job with overtime to work minimum wage at a place I can listen to music at and won't destroy my body. You're worth taking care of, even if you intend to bounce back in a different way eventually :)", "I have stayed at a job I have hated bc good pay. Done it twice now and kick myself both times. It’s not worth it. But on flip I understand bills. \n\nI only say now if you stay develop an exit plan. Sometimes better to stay until we make it work in next oppt.", "I had the same decision and went to the lesser paying job but in retrospect I wish I had stayed at the higher paying role and taken a week off every 4 weeks (I had unlimited PTO at that role), I would have lasted longer there.", "Honestly, it depends what is most important for your life needs now. There are times in my career where all the money I could get was paramount. Then times when flexibility was my greatest need. Nowadays, I am into dealing with as little fuckery as possible - work/life balance. I make a lot less money than I could, but I am only responsible for my own work, and I do have a lot of flexibility. I always think it is a good idea to try new things and learn new things, especially if you can do so and still pay your bills. Working in a good non-toxic work environment is a highly underrated job perk.", "Had a retail job with OT I would make $20 an hour. I left for a job that paid $18/hr but I only do data entry in an office setting. Best decision I ever made, had to deal with some mild PTSD and imposter syndrome though.", "Go with the job that makes you happy and fulfilled. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time.", "Doing the job you Hate is a recepie for disaster. This is a negative investment that in long run for sure surface its aggravating effects.", "Depends on 2 things:\n\n- How much do you hate it?\n\n- How much better does it pay?\n\nThere's not a lot I wouldn't deal with for $250k a year.\n\nAnd even if I loved it, $25k a year ain't gonna cut it.", "Depends mostly on your situation. If it's you you get away from lousy job with higher pay if you have responsibility like kids you stay at the job with the most pay", "Can the less paying job be a partial side hustle until it pays what you need it to? I love my art but I know I can’t pay the bills with it right now. Therefore I keep my kinda sucky job so I can pay for my passion", "At the end of the days, personal development is what really matters. If the job you like, gives you posibillity to grow and learn, it may lead to better career options later, plus your mental peace. There is no need to suffer at boring job, just because of money" ]

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[ "pour vinegar into it, let it work for an hour, pour the vinegar out and put some baking powder on the worst places. let it work for a few minutes, than get a [stainless steel sponge](https://www.fuller.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/f/b/fbc_868_r.jpg) and rub it with soap until done. \nWarning: stainless steel sponge will damage teflon coating", "make a thick paste with water and baking soda. scrub the hell out of your pan with a dish brush or crumpled up foil. bar keepers friend is also a good product to try. " ]

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[ "How to initiate workplace interactions in a remote setting As an introvert, and a socially anxious person, there are a thousand hurdles (intrusive thoughts, confidence issues, etc) that prevent me from having the kind of interactions/ equations that my fellow colleagues enjoy. Any tips on how I can change this situation as it eventually hampers my growth opportunities?", "How to initiate workplace interactions in a remote setting As an introvert, and a socially anxious person, there are a thousand hurdles (intrusive thoughts, confidence issues, etc) that prevent me from having the kind of interactions/ equations that my fellow colleagues enjoy. Any tips on how I can change this situation as it eventually hampers my growth opportunities?" ]

[ "When you start to click with someone while working together, ask if you can setup a once a month “coffee chat” for 20-30 minutes so the two of you can have a regular time to catch-up. \n\nI use these as relationship building moments with people and always make sure we talk about everything other than work. Ask about family, friends, what they do in their free time, what type of movies/books/tv they like, and also include that info about yourself. \n\nThese moments might seem superficial, but in our remote setting these are much larger moments than we get the impression of. I’ve had several people have a change of heart in meetings because we have a regular chat, and when I started speaking up about an issue they started to take it more seriously because they know me more and can trust me when I speak up.", "As a fellow introvert I've learned to fake it, always have a smile and a \"how you doing?\" for people! When you do get a chance for one to one conversation, ask questions, be genuinely interested and don't be afraid to go deep with questions. I usually start with \"How did you manage through the pandemic, what was that like for you?\"" ]

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[ "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. ", "How to give a blowjob without discomfort Hello Ladies and Gents: My blowjobs have not been very popular in the past. My jaw starts to hurt fairly quickly and tenses up, making it very uncomfortable to continue. The discomfort shows in my face and this affects my performance and how enjoyable it is for my partner. \n\nAny tips, both technique wise and possibly if aspirin or other over the counter drugs might relax my jaw so I can preform better. " ]

[ "If it makes you feel any better I usually fuck my tongue up something fierce for the sake of a woman's orgasm.", "So before you start, when he's not looking, warm your jaw up, go in circles and open and close a bit. Just get as loose as you can. For the blowjob itself, don't get nervous and tense your jaw up, because that just makes it worse, keep your jaw as loose as you can without scraping important stuff with your teeth. And remember, you don't have to blow straight through, I've never met a guy who didn't enjoy a nice blend of hand and mouth action. I think it makes it better, because once one part of you gets tired, you can switch to the next, saving him the monotony and the drop in performance once you get fatigued.", "The answer to your problems is what we used to call a corkscrew. This is a half blowjob, half handjob, and the exact ratio depends on how much pain you're experiencing. Wrap your hand around his cock, and put your mouth up to the top of your hand. Then, as your head moves up and down, move your hand with it. Be sloppy. Use a lot of spit, and it will act as a natural lubricant. Start slow and build your speed as he's liking it more and more. ", "SLOW DOWN. Don't think it's a race to getting him off. Just think of it as a dick massage with your mouth where you aren't after an outcome. \n\nYou will get an outcome.\n", "Get some silicone lube and use just a *tiny* little bit so you can use your hands more as well. It doesn't have a taste and it makes using your hands way easier. Now, don't wait until your jaw hurts before you switch off to your hands for a second or two or it'll just keep hurting when you start with your mouth again. Pace yourself and get a rhythm if you can. Source - I used to be an escort. ;)", "I find focusing on the tip with your mouth while working the rest with your hands is good at first. Lots of tongue action. Start small and then work up to taking the entire thing into your mouth. Remember to give yourself a second or two to breathe every once in a while too. \n\nShould you want to try and deep throat, if you wrap your fingers around your thumb on the same hand and squeeze, it can distract you from the choking feeling.", "I fucking love giving my man a blowjob. I try new positions on him all the time; the one that is easiest on me is me, on my back, laying with my head off of the bed, and him standing and putting his dick in my mouth. I guess essentially he's fucking your face, so you have to make sure you're with someone you trust. But it is soooo easy on the jaw and throat, and he loves the angle both physically and visually. I stay really relaxed through it, and it's not much effort on my part and a major payoff for him, too. Try it and let me know how it goes! :)", "Haven't read the thread, and this will likely be buried, however...\n\nI can only assume your jaw is getting tired because you're blowing guys like they do in pornos. This is probably not a great call.\n\nDisclaimer, every guy is going to want different things, so this is just a guideline:\n\nWork the shaft, lightly, with one hand. Massage the balls, lightly, with the other. Work the head with your tongue and lips. Lightly.\n\nDid I mention lightly?", "I have TMJ and my jaw definitely starts hurting through blow jobs. So best thing we do is hubby does myofascial release on my jaw when I feel it start to tighten up (used to go to a chiropractor for this but he showed hubby how to do it and we haven't had to go back since). Next thing is to make sure you're both as comfortable as possible. If you are comfortable, you won't tense up. Tensing up will make your jaw hurt. My favorite way is for us to be in bed and I lay my head on his lap on whichever side is feeling the best that day. (usually my left side.) don't be afraid to use your hand if you start getting tired. It will give you a second to recover without losing momentum. Sometimes we'll put a porn on the TV and that helps speed things up a little. \n\n\n\nHope this helps! ", "Porn has ruined BJs.\n\nSomewhere in the history of oral sex, women got it into their heads that they've gotta gorge themselves on dong until they're gagging up last night's dinner and their mascara is smeared like a 2-dollar Malaysian hooker during monsoon season. So they shy away from BJs and the net effect for men is less hummers.\n\nThis is porn's fault. This whole deep-throat phenomenon.\n\nWhen the truth is, a lady can be moderate in her technique, which will be way more comfortable for her, and the guy will still most definitely enjoy it. Hang around the head for a while, if that's all you're comfortable doing. Use your hands to stimulate the rest.\n\nIf not gagging yourself is what it takes to stay comfortable, no one worth blowing will complain.", "This isn't one you'll hear a lot, but try taking magnesium supplements. Your body uses it to prevent cramping.", "My secret is that the hand motion is just as important as the mouth motion. If you do half circles going up and down the shaft, the mouth and tongue can stay in the head and it could give your jaw a break. Also, deep throating will kinda leave him stunned and slobbery and then you can do hand things and let your jaw rest.\n", "I alternate deep throating with playing with the tip. When your jaw gets sore focus on sucking/licking the tip for a minute then go deep again. Has the added bonus of teasing him and the next big suck making his breath ragged. Sometimes I use more pressure with my tongue if my jaw is too sore to give good pressure with my lips. You can put your hand at the base and stroke to help out the action. \n\nAnd remember to have fun :). Look up into his eyes. Get into it. Feel like the sensual pleasure-giving sex kitten you are!! It helps!", "I would find a good partner first. Someone you have dated for a while, and then ask them one day to help you practice a blowjob. More than likely he will be ecstatic. And you can help to work from there. Also, if that can't happen exactly now, buy some popsicles. Bomb pops would work best. And practice making them as cylinder-shaped as possible. Without using your teeth. Just repeatedly pull it in and out of your mouth. That should help with technique. As for your mouth, I would recommend face exercises. [This should help](http://m.wikihow.com/Exercise-Facial-Muscles) I used to do this exercise back in high school, we referred to it as \"big face, little face\". Basically you open you mouth as wide as you can, and then you close everything as tight as you can. I would recommend that, but do it very slowly. Don't try to snap from one face to another, just transition.", "Don't use your jaw! I give a bj for as long as the man wants and have never had jaw pain or stiffness. This is not a chewing or clamping down activity. \n\nYou're not trying to hold the penis in place or apply pressure with the jaw. Use your head angle, angle of his cock, stiffness of erection, and changes of pressure in mouth to control exactly where the cock is and how much stimulation he's getting. It may be easier to use a hand at the base of his cock to change the angle it goes into your mouth. \n\n I think the hardest thing for some might be to learn to override the gag reflex when you go deep throat. you're in control so if you're getting to the edge of feeling almost gagging, back off a tiny bit. With practice it gets much easier\n\n\nRemember: you are in control. Use one or both hands if you like. Take in as much or as little as you like. Learn to recognize the subtle signals an individual man gives off just before he climaxes, and then you can slow down to prolong his pleasure if you like. \n\nPay attention to him. And whatever you do, don't do that clumsy thing I see in some porn films. Actions in porn are done for the camera and don't necessarily feel good in real life", "My wife had the same issue until she got her wisdom teeth pulled and then suddenly no more pain or discomfort. Just throwing it out there as a possibility, not that it's a valid reason to get them pulled. ", "I saved this a while ago..\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/11qmj1/sexxit_what_makes_a_blowjob_overwhelmingly/c6otk7e\n\nI hope it helps! =D", "At the end, IMMEDIATELY SLOW YOUR ROLL. Everything gets super sensitive! Long, slow, deep strokes are the proper way to end. Don't even think about using your tongue up at the top after he's done.", "Tongue over bottom teeth, relax the jaw, use your head.\n\nAlso if you don't want to be sucking, pay attention to the underpart of the cockhead near the little string thing that connects the former/foreskin (frenulum.) Grind and lick and suck under that while stroking with your hand. It feels amazing there.\n\n", "Had this same problem when I first started dating my SO. He lasted a super long time, and it had been more than a while since I had performed this particular act. My jaw and face and neck and EVERY OTHER MUSCLE would ache. I read most of the advice posted so far and it seems spot on. \n\nMy favorite BJ position these days is laying my head on his lap, and using my left hand to massage while I mouth the upper half of his penis, using light suction, and being very spitty/sloppy. Every guy is different. Mine prefers not as much suction, and lots of tongue action, paying particular attention to the frenulum on the underside of his penis, just below the head. \n\nHe also likes the deep throat, BUT you DO NOT have to deep throat quickly! Don't just throw your head down on his dick. It's not a porno!! Do it slowly, sensuously. It will be easier for you, and even more pleasurable for him. He will get a longer lasting experience and be able to think about how you're deep throating him WHILE you're deep throating him. Completely mental. \n\nPractice makes perfect. Ever started running, or any other endurance exercise? You can't just go out and run ten miles your first time (at least, most people can't). Your muscles and jaw will get more relaxed as they become used to the activity. Hopefully you don't HATE giving BJ's, and won't mind upping the quantity to improve the quality.\n\nMy advice would be to have fun with it, talk to your partner about it (he should be more than willing to give you pointers on what he likes), be comfortable, get the porn out of your head (completely bananas, that shit), slow down, and do it often (because practice). \n\nAdditionally, if you're in a new relationship, talk to him about how long he lasts. (I was nervous talking to him about it, so I kinda joked about how amazing it was he lasted so long and that I've never had a sore jaw from a BJ before! I complemented his prowess while also making sure he knew I was in some pain.) I found out then that one of the reasons I was performing hour-long BJ's was because he was nervous about cumming too quickly during any sex act, and would jerk it twice before our dates.... He was worried I wouldn't be satisfied! I told him not to worry about it, that I needed to work on my stamina, and suddenly BJ's only lasted an hour if I WANTED them too. \n\nIt's a ton of fun to bring your guy to the brink of an orgasm, then stop and let him cool down. Warning though, his balls produce more spermies and his prostate more seminal fluid the longer he's stimulated, so the load gets bigger.\n\nHope this helps! Good luck! ", "I'm right there with you. My bf takes a fucking day and a half to cum. Everytime your jaw gets really sore, take a break for a few seconds by changing up your technique. I suck on his balls, and run my lips up and down the under side of his shaft, and flick my tongue over the underside of his cock head, or I just pull away completely and stroke him with my hand for a few seconds. I was straight two years ago, but now I could win a medal for my cock sucking expertise ", "Girl, don't just gag on it the entire time! Be creative!\n\nI'll put it this way: When you get an ice cream cone, do you just slurp the whole thing down in one go? Or do you savor it? Take your time!\n\nI mean points for enthusiasm, but just play around and *ask your man* what he likes, likewise when he's going down on you he should be figuring out what *you* like. \n\nCommunication with your partner is far more important than anything. ", "I'm maybe not the best advice for this, having never had an issue with my jaw - but I'd suggest working around it. I'm sure you'd be able to give perfectly pleasurable results by treating it like a handjob but mixing in a bit of mouth work (There can be a certain pleasure in rubbing below the head, so I imagine doing this while working the head with your mouth would work rather well). This should at least give your jaw a break, good luck :).", "Find a partner who is willing to give you time to practice. That's literally the best you can do. 69 is great, it gives him something to do while you're experimenting. ", "If the jaw and or throat/gag reflex is an issue for you, there is a product called GoodHead. It has some sort of numbing agent in it that also relaxes your throat muscles. It only takes about a dime sized amount of the product and you are good to go for about a half hour. It comes in different flavors. \nTrust me, worth the $20. ", "I'm learning alot about how much thought and effort goes into a BJ, from this thread. So thank you for posting it and giving me cause to stop and really appreciate them.\n\nI've been sleeping with a girl for a little over 2 years, and she gives some of the best head I've ever received. She doesn't ever swallow until I'm done. She will let her mouth salivate and let it start dripping onto my body. It sounds gross but it actually becomes a huge turn on in the moment. Use your hands and you can take a break if needed or just kiss or lick the side of his penis, that is 9lone of the things that makes amazing! Jusy doing the same repetitive thing gets boring and he won't enjoy it as much. Resting and just playing with it makes a BJ that much hotter and makes the guy cum that much faster.\n\nI know only OP will see this, but i hope you get a group of guys opinion and can take it to heart, that he appreciates it and he doesn't want you to work too hard to get him off, he wants you to enjoy it and pay back the favor ;)", "I think girls might freak out at this but I fucking love lying on my back and letting him fuck my mouth. Guys get really into it and just go to town. But you really have to be willing to just let him go at it. If you're going to be constantly having him stop to take a breather then it's probably not worth it. But since you really don't have to do anything maybe that'll be easier for you. If you get to a point where you're good at it, put your hands over your head and let him hold them down. I fucking love that act of submission and I usually find it drives guys wild because they like having control. \n\nNot sure if it matters but I'm a guy. ", "I see a lot of suggestions to use your hands but also use your boobs. Squeeze his balls with yours tits while your going down on him. Plus whenever you take a break using your mouth just press your boobs around the shaft and let him titty fuck you a bit. ", "Hi, you can try this out, switch between mouth hand and if you are kinky enough some other parts like your cheeks, boobs and so on, some people like the use of tongue outside the penis, unless you want to make him come from a blowjob in that case just switch between mouth and hand, I don't think anybody would tell you to only do mouth.", "First of all, fantastic for you! You are interested in your partner's pleasure. \n\nPregame: Yawn a few times a day to use jaw muscles. You could also look into beauty face massage and do double duty- great skin and healthy jaw muscles. Long/jagged fingernails are a no-no, and practice wrapping your lips around your teeth. Teeth bad. Consider getting some nice flavored - saliva isn't very lubricating. \n\nGame on: you're with your partner and ready to go down. Kiss your way down and get him excited. Tease and play beforehand- that will build tension. \nStart slow and kiss him while holding him in your hand. If you face him it's more difficult, so you might want to position your ass towards his face. \nKiss the tip down to the base and back, perhaps touching him around the thighs. Your hands will figure into this heavily. Pause and rub your body on him- anticipation. Then start to lick. \nLick the head in circular motions with your tongue, down and up the length and back. When you come up make sure to use your hand at the same time. \nDeepthroating is overrated- use your hand like a wet extension of your mouth. Start to open your mouth, curl your lips around your teeth and stick your tongue out, but when you move your mouth should concentrate on the head and your tongue might reach the shaft. Moan when you are on him but before you're at capacity. \nMoan and let him feel the vibrations of your mouth and see that it makes you excited to please him. Now it's ok to tease a bit and tell him how he's great- how he tastes/feels/makes you feel. He might play with you too, but then concentrate on him again. \n\n Go back for him with the lube and use your hand before placing your mouth at the top, letting him move a bit. If you tense up, just kiss the tip and use your hand, licking with your tongue. You're still in control and you don't let him grip your hair porn-style, but you let him move to the point where it's still comfortable for you. The key here is rhythm. If he's in a rhythm that he likes, don't change it. It'll make him loose the moment. Don't worry so much about putting your mouth down far, just keep teeth away, a good rhythm, hand together in motion, breathe shallow breaths that don't interrupt the flow. Moan tiny moans and gasp. If you need to take a breather, keep the grip consistent and always make sure he's really into it. \n\nWhen it comes to the big finish, have a plan and implement it. Make sure to blow hotly on him at the end as you slip your hand away. Don't touch anymore- bask in the results of your hard work. \n\nPleasing your partner can be a joy for you too. Good luck and have fun!", "Your jaw has a lot of muscles attached to it. Just like with all your other muscles, stretching is important. Try using a wine cork and putting it between your teeth on the left side and then the right. Work up to being able to hold it tall ways in between your front teeth. ", "This might have already been said, but depending on curvature of the penis, it might be easier to 69. That way his dick is curving into your mouth and you don't have to open your mouth quite as wide. \n\nAlso, learned this one last week as my SO had a knee injury, you have to open your mouth a lot wider if you're perpendicular to his body while giving him head. I don't know if anyone actually does that, I never had before, but there you go. ", "It's all about enthusiasm imo. Guys constantly tell me that the head I've given them is the best they've ever had. While my technique is good, it's also like 80% your attitude. If you seem like you're enjoying it then they're gonna enjoy it more. If you're giving head like you hate the dick you're sucking then you might as well just... Not.\n\nAlso, don't be afraid to slow down, use your hands. Lick the guy's cock like a lollipop. Guys go crazy when I do that. I'm not sure why. But it also gives your how a break for a moment. I've found that using a lot of spit also makes it easier. \n\nHope this helps somewhat. :) ", "I wouldn't recommend aspirin, you need to be able to feel discomfort to avoid injuring yourself. A few things that help- like others have mentioned, using your hands towards the base and mouth towards the tip. You can use lube where your hand is and not have to taste it. Also, try giving your jaw breaks by liking or kissing the tip of his penis, still can feel very good. Another trick is to just practice consciously relaxing your jaw. I find that allowing my blowjobs to be sloppy helps me relax, not worrying about controlling as much with my mouth. Another fun trick is to relax your mouth while its open and have him gently thrust in and out while holding your head, letting you rest. He doesn't have to go deep. Just what Ive found over time. Source: love giving my SO blowjobs, used to hate them.", "As a gay man who enjoys giving them, a great tip is.... stop sucking so much. That isn't what feels the best about a BJ anyway, that should just get them started or send them over the edge. I relax my face and open my mouth just enough that the teeth don't touch and use a lot of tongue. Bobbing and using your hands once it's nice and messy helps too. \n\nNot sure about your man but some men like it more the more sloppy it gets as you continue. And if you get it lubed enough just from your own saliva it becomes a lot easier to bob up and down to the base so the head goes in your throat." ]

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[ "Windows tips and tricks that absolutely changed your life Ex. I recently started using an amazing open source windows alternative to spotlight(intentionally not mentioning a name to avoid my post being taken down) P.s it's wox.\n\nIf there are other programs or tricks like this it would be a lot of help .\n\nThanks!", "Windows tips and tricks that absolutely changed your life Ex. I recently started using an amazing open source windows alternative to spotlight(intentionally not mentioning a name to avoid my post being taken down) P.s it's wox.\n\nIf there are other programs or tricks like this it would be a lot of help .\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "When I switched from Mac to Windows, one of the only things I missed was the space bar file preview thing. I found a free app called Seer which does exactly this. It doesn't appear to use the GPU so video playback is sometimes choppy, but overall it does the job well enough for quick previews.", "Vlc media player is quite cool. Never really used the default players, groove or the old wmp. \n\nYou can use the shortcut ctrl + shift + 8 so that you see the formatting of the document(spaces are shown as small dot, page breaks n section breaks are visible). Quite useful when " ]

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[ "How to stay awake in class while in session. Yeah, I COULD sleep earlier, but I spend that time on ~~reddit~~ exams. Any quick tips for when I'm in class and I'm drowsy?", "How to stay awake in class while in session. Yeah, I COULD sleep earlier, but I spend that time on ~~reddit~~ exams. Any quick tips for when I'm in class and I'm drowsy?", "How to stay awake in class while in session. Yeah, I COULD sleep earlier, but I spend that time on ~~reddit~~ exams. Any quick tips for when I'm in class and I'm drowsy?" ]

[ "Probably not the best advice, but while I was in basic training my classmates and I would put hand sanitizer on our under our noses. Wakes you right up. Standing up works, too.", "Get your eyes checked. I was always tired and chasing the caffeine dragon when I was in school. Got glasses. Tiredness subsided in class. \n\nFailing that try getting a prescription for Alertec or Ritalin. \n\nAlertec is great for keeping awake both day and night. \n\nLPT: Research ADHD's and convince yourself you are. Get drugs. Win at life. ", "When we had long \"death by powerpoint\" days in the military, we used several tricks to stay awake. My personal favorite was keeping water close by, drinking frequently, and holding a mouthful of water between drinks. This will keep you hydrated (which alone can help with drowsiness) and by holding a small mouthful between sips, you get a personal alarm.\n\nIf you start to get drowsy, your jaw will relax, and the water will move over your lips slightly, jerking you back awake. If you're extra tired, you might get all the way to drooling once or twice, but the feeling is similar to being startled awake, and you get a little hit of alertness that lasts a few minutes at a time." ]

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[ "How can I stop spam emails like these from getting through? http://i.imgur.com/jAb2ang.png\n\nSome (probably Chinese) gold selling company got a hold of my email address via an MMO that I used to play, and I CONSTANTLY get spam emails from them that are like [THIS](http://i.imgur.com/jAb2ang.png). Every email is from a different spoofed Gmail account that's just a random string of characters, and there's no commonality in any of the subject headings. I even get them about all kinds of games that I've never played. There's also zero other text anywhere in the emails about unsubscribing or stopping the messages.\n\nI set up a generic spam filter that blocks any message from gmail accounts that have the word \"gold\" in the subject, but that only does so much, and they have TONS of different GMail accounts. Every day is a different account.\n\nCan anyone help me out here?", "How can I stop spam emails like these from getting through? http://i.imgur.com/jAb2ang.png\n\nSome (probably Chinese) gold selling company got a hold of my email address via an MMO that I used to play, and I CONSTANTLY get spam emails from them that are like [THIS](http://i.imgur.com/jAb2ang.png). Every email is from a different spoofed Gmail account that's just a random string of characters, and there's no commonality in any of the subject headings. I even get them about all kinds of games that I've never played. There's also zero other text anywhere in the emails about unsubscribing or stopping the messages.\n\nI set up a generic spam filter that blocks any message from gmail accounts that have the word \"gold\" in the subject, but that only does so much, and they have TONS of different GMail accounts. Every day is a different account.\n\nCan anyone help me out here?" ]

[ "Hello Helpful_guy.\nThere is no actual \"good\" way of blocking spam such as this.\nThe \"obvious\" sulution would be to just \"block\" the e-mail address.\nSeing it's just \"junk\", however this would not work in your case, the address would change, and you have the same mail again.\n\nMost e-mail clients supports filters, moving or deleting mails which match specific keywords in the subject or in the body of the e-mail.\nThunderbird does this very well, there you simply go to Tools -> Message Filters. There you can add a new filter that says \"[body] [contains] ['gold']\" for instance. After that you can either set the action to delete, or move to some other folder.\n\nI can't really make out what e-mail client (or site) you are using, it looked like gmail at first, but now i'm not too sure.\nEither way, check what types of filters it supports, if any and start from there.\n\nBut as i said in the beginning, there is no fool-proof way of deleting these e-mails, sooner or later you will get a false positive, such as: \n\n\"Hey friend, yesterday i had a [gold]en moment with my brother in law.\"\n\nBut how you set up the filters are of course up to you! (:", "In addition to my home email address, I setup an online email account that is dedicated to spam. When I am surfing the world wide interwebs, I use that throwaway email address. I only give out my home email address to friends and family. It takes years and years before I get spam at home." ]

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[ "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong", "How to be less anxious/paranoid I am generally a very anxious person. But that means that I am not very good in high stress situations. I would like to learn how to handle these situations better by being less nervous that things will go wrong" ]

[ "Have a life mission. Know who you are and be rooted in your values. Align all of your actions w/ your values and not your feelings. Emotions come and go but if you know who you and are and driven by your specific mission in everything you do, life becomes a lot less scary. \n\nFrom your comment below, it seems you worry since you are forgetful. So make your life mission to be organized. What can you everyday to make sure you are organized? Solve that problem and you will reduce your anxiety on that topic. Identify your weaknesses and make it you life mission to remedy them.", "Worry is the price you pay on something that hasn't happened yet. Once it's happened it's too late so don't worry about it.", "If it is severe enough to interfere with your life, consider counseling. There is situational anxiety, which can be dealt with by tricks and tips, and there are anxiety disorders, which require a bit more work to combat. A counselor can help identify the type and/or cause of your anxiety and work from there. \n\n", "Live in the moment. , don't regret the past don't worry about the future . Your here and now concentrate on what your doing and enjoy the moment . ", "Say 'theres a 1% chance of it happening... THERE IS A 99% CHANCE IT WILL BE AWESOME'. \nGo with the odds not the 1%.", "Check out this email link to my newsletter for my non-profit organization One Love 1 Heart. This one is about deep-breathing which is a effective in the moment way to deal with stress. http://us3.campaign-archive2.com/?u=29ab2a32b790cea2fcfb056ca&id=ef1c6115d8 Feel free to subscribe to the email mailing list , check out the site, and follow us on Facebook... Be well!", "\"When the stress burns my brain like acid rain drops,\nMary Jane is the only thang that makes the pain stop.\"\n\n-People Under the Stairs", "Look, you are requesting something that no one here can give you. And at some level you probably know that. There is no one trick that let's you get rid of anxiety. More often than not, there are identifiable reasons for it. Start counseling, start reading self-help books (look for anything that might seem remotely applicable to your life situation; you will eventually find things that are more and more useful by expanding your knowledge on what is out there).", "Why would you want to? You need to stay on your toes or you might miss something important. Then what would people think?" ]

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[ "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?", "How to fix my sleep schedule? I've gotten myself stuck in a terrible sleep cycle of not being able to fall asleep until 4ish because I take a nap during the day because I'm so tired from falling asleep so late. Is there any easy way to break this cycle?" ]

[ "**sleepyti.me** is a great website to use to calculate what time you should fall asleep/wake up in order to feel rested.", "The most important part of adjusting your sleep cycle isn't going to bed at the same time every night, but actually getting up consistently at the same time. If you wake up at 10am every morning, it's not as big a deal if you stay up later one night. It's counter-intuitive, but it works.", "Advice I've found helpful:\n\n* Don't look at a clock. If you have an alarm clock, place it so you can't see it when you're trying to sleep--especially if it's lit.\n* If you can't sleep after ~20 minutes (estimate by how long it feels), get up and find something to do that isn't terribly engaging--read the introduction to a textbook, fold some laundry, something boring but that isn't just lying there waiting for sleep.\n* About an hour before bed (exact timing varies from person to person, but that's a good starting point), shut down your computer, and avoid watching any lit screens.\n* Force yourself to keep a schedule in the evenings and in the mornings. At night, shut down your computer, do whatever you need to do (e.g. brushing teeth, putting on pajamas), and go to bed. In the morning, try to get up within 15 minutes of the same time every morning.\n\nI hope this helps!", "Make sure you stay awake until night and then head to bed early - say 9/10pm. This is early enough to catch up on missed sleep from the night before - assuming you get up around 9, but its also late enough that you don't wake up in the middle of the night/early in the morning!", "If your an adult....\n\nYou only should need 7-8 hrs, but can operate on as little as 4. As for adjusting a sleep pattern, you need to be tired enough to fall asleep and have time to sleep for 7-8 hrs. To achieve this, toughen up and skip your nap and have the disipline to goto bed at the correct time for a week straight (includes the weekends if you are serious about this)!\n\nIf you still want your nap, wake up earlier and excersize (good for you anyway!), and nap earlier in the afternoon (but no longer than an hour). \n\nIf your body is still growing....\n\nYou need MORE sleep! I never learned this when I was young and dumb but being tired will cause you to eat MORE calories and exercize LESS! Equals fat and unhealthy. Sleep at least 8 hrs and take a nap if needed. Practice above method of waking up early but try to avoid sacrficing sleep.\n\nSOURCE = I work rotating 12 hr midnight shifts. Two on two off. On my off days I switch back to a dayshift sleep pattern. \n\nAs for the minimum 4 hrs needed...a younger verison of me joined thr Army and operated on 4 hrs a night on numerous occasions. ", "I would highly recommend trying ASMR videos before going to sleep. I found that if you stick one on, it acts like soothing white noise - gives your mind something to focus on whilst relaxing you and basically sending you off to sleep. \n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/asmr - I personally find that females work best for me, doing mundane things like role-playing a dentist appointment or the like. Try it, if nothing else it will loosen you up.", "I usually will force myself to stay up and not sleep at all for a day. I'm a zombie that day, but when a normal bedtime comes around I have no problems getting my Zzzzzzzs. ", "Don't eat 5 hours before you need to fall asleep, then eat immediately upon waking up the next morning. Takes 2 days to reset. Google caldron clock(sp?). I worked rotating shifts for years... This was told to me during training to help new hires adjust.", "Catching up isn't a real thing. If you sleep 4 hours one night, you still only need 8-9 hours the following, otherwise you will oversleep and that will also make you tired. \nThe best way is to mimic what happens when you go on vacation. You automatically force yourself to wake up at the right time and go to bed at the right time. (Jet lag occurs when you get home because you take naps during the day and generally adjust back poorly). ", "I often take a melatonin a few hours before the time I'd like to go to sleep. It is a over the counter vitamin. That or drink a tea with valerian root. It only takes me one night to get back on schedule. " ]

[ 7, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to liven up a bedroom with brick walls painted white? My bedroom walls look like [this](http://static2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20120618045726/zombie/images/8/8f/Cinder_Block_Wall.jpg), and I'm looking for something cheap and easy to add a little warmth and/or color to my room. Since I can't put holes in the bricks or paint them a different color, I'm kind of outta luck here. Any ideas?\n\n", "How to liven up a bedroom with brick walls painted white? My bedroom walls look like [this](http://static2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20120618045726/zombie/images/8/8f/Cinder_Block_Wall.jpg), and I'm looking for something cheap and easy to add a little warmth and/or color to my room. Since I can't put holes in the bricks or paint them a different color, I'm kind of outta luck here. Any ideas?\n\n", "How to liven up a bedroom with brick walls painted white? My bedroom walls look like [this](http://static2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20120618045726/zombie/images/8/8f/Cinder_Block_Wall.jpg), and I'm looking for something cheap and easy to add a little warmth and/or color to my room. Since I can't put holes in the bricks or paint them a different color, I'm kind of outta luck here. Any ideas?\n\n", "How to liven up a bedroom with brick walls painted white? My bedroom walls look like [this](http://static2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20120618045726/zombie/images/8/8f/Cinder_Block_Wall.jpg), and I'm looking for something cheap and easy to add a little warmth and/or color to my room. Since I can't put holes in the bricks or paint them a different color, I'm kind of outta luck here. Any ideas?\n\n", "How to liven up a bedroom with brick walls painted white? My bedroom walls look like [this](http://static2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20120618045726/zombie/images/8/8f/Cinder_Block_Wall.jpg), and I'm looking for something cheap and easy to add a little warmth and/or color to my room. Since I can't put holes in the bricks or paint them a different color, I'm kind of outta luck here. Any ideas?\n\n" ]

[ "Put bars on the windows and get a really shitty blanket. find a kinky girlfriend and buy a police uniform.", "Your brick is pretty shallow. You might have to settle for a nice narrow shelf or something with a good plant or two. If you're up for it, you can try these [1] -- they spring over the brick and can take about 25lbs -- but like I said, your brick looks pretty shallow. \n\nThere's also an outdoor tape with hook from 3M that might also do well. They also come off clean but hold a few pounds without any trouble (enough for a frame) [2]\n\n[1] http://www.amazon.com/Snap-Brick-Hanger-25-Lb/dp/B000LF4CSU/ref=pd_sxp_f_pt\n[2] http://www.walmart.com/ip/Command-Medium-White-Hooks-Bulk-Pack-Incl.-6-Hooks-12-Medium-Strips/13996092", "You can buy vinyl wall clings pretty cheap online, some really nice designs or if you're a fan of a show/movie/game there is most likely one for it, for example if you're a fan of doctor who there is a tardis and many more", " Buy a huge piece of fabric of some sort with a cool pattern and cover up the wall! Think of it as an oversized painting", "You can get free samples from almost all paint stores. Just get like 500 samples and paint each brick a different colour :)" ]

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[ "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?", "How to motivate yourself to get up and out of bed I've seriously wasted so many hours going back to sleep on weekends but I still want to be productive. Any tips?" ]

[ "Place your alarm clock across the room. This forces yourself to get up out of your bed to turn it off. \n\nJust getting out of bed in more than half the battle. ", "Set your alarm for 6. Leave caffeine tablets and a bottle of water next to alarm. Take them when alarm goes off. Go back to sleep. Wake when they kick in, go about your business. ", "When you wake up, drink a bottle of water. The water helps your body get going for the day and keeps you awake.", "Use an app to study your sleeping patterns. I use Sleep As Android on my phone.\n\nWake up at the same time on weekdays and weekends - Or if that's not possible, at least try to get the same amount of sleep every day. The aforementioned program can help with that as well.\n\nTry to do some crunchies or leg lifts, something to get your blood going a bit when you first wake up.\n\nSometimes it's just a mentality. Just Do It, as Nike might say. \n\n", "JFDI\n\nSerious answer. You might be surprised how quickly your body/mind will learn that getting up is not as painful as it imagines and the whole risk/reward decision making process tips in favour of getting up. Just be sure to use positive language (mental or otherwise) for the things you want to encourage yourself in (getting up, eating properly, exercise...)", "I use a android app that requires me to scan a QR code in order to turn off the alarm. Works perfect for me.", "I haven'y done this so I don't know if it works but I read that if you set up your computer to fax your cell phone and condition it to recall every 5 minutes unless the fax is completed the annoyance will get you out of the bed. :shrug:", "I got an iPhone app called Sleep Cycle. Evert since I started seriously using this app I've found I have been getting to sleep faster thanks to the white noise and getting up in a better mood thanks to the advanced alarm clock features (it works out the best time to wake you up based on how much you have been moving).\n\nHonestly I've switched over to Android long ago but keep using my iPhone as an alarm clock purely because of this app. It works wonders for me!", "Live a meaningful life filled with exciting things that you are motivated to get up and do. Or fill your schedule with things you have to do so you get up (like an additional part time job or being a member of a sports team)." ]

[ 6, 5, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "Tasks that go well together? I've been feeling a lot more in control of my time and more motivated to keep up with my goals since I've started stacking compatible tasks. \n\nExamples:\n\n podcasts while cooking/cleaning/driving\n\nLight exercise/stretching during TV/movies\n\nCalling friends/family while walking the dog\n\nWhat else do you do together to save time or make chores less boring?\n\n(Obviously I also take time to enjoy the moment or just do nothing at all. But this post isn't about that.)\n\nThanks for your input!", "Tasks that go well together? I've been feeling a lot more in control of my time and more motivated to keep up with my goals since I've started stacking compatible tasks. \n\nExamples:\n\n podcasts while cooking/cleaning/driving\n\nLight exercise/stretching during TV/movies\n\nCalling friends/family while walking the dog\n\nWhat else do you do together to save time or make chores less boring?\n\n(Obviously I also take time to enjoy the moment or just do nothing at all. But this post isn't about that.)\n\nThanks for your input!" ]

[ "I have been wondering how I could get some homework in at work. I can wear headphones so I have been trying to find a way to listen to like my textbook. The job at work is mindless so I can basically think of other things while I work. Good idea on the talking on the phone while walking your dog. Basically any task that you don't need your ears for is a good time to listen to something. I have found myself listening to live streams while I do chores. Most of the people on twitch do a good job at narrating so you can listen to the stream and know 80% of what's going on.", "Clean as you go. \n\nRunning into another room to get something? Take an out of place item and put it back where it goes while you’re up. \n\nLeaving the house? Take the trash out with you. \n\nCooking dinner and finished with a pan? Wash it as the casserole is in the oven. \n\nAccidentally get some toothpaste on the mirror? Clean the mirror right then. \n\n\n\nIt so much easier to keep my house clean this way as opposed to doing one giant tidy and clean every Saturday. The only thing I’ve yet to apply this to is laundry." ]

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[ "How to get rid of the fog in my watch lense. Went swimming with my favorite warch yesterday and now it's all foggy. Any help?", "How to get rid of the fog in my watch lense. Went swimming with my favorite warch yesterday and now it's all foggy. Any help?" ]

[ "Take out the crown (as if you were setting the time), as far as it goes. Then put it in a sealed container with a dessicant (the little silica drying packets things are frequently shipped with would be good, you can try uncooked rice as well). Leave it there for a couple of days, hopefully the fog will be gone. ", "Hey! Sorry if this is late but putting it in a bowl of uncooked rice will take out the the fog/water(rice absorbs humidity)!" ]

[ 5, 1 ]

[ "Password input while colleague is watching. What can I do best in a situation like this? My colleague tends to look at my monitor or keyboard (might be due to me being paranoid) whenever I'm entering my gmail login credentials on his computer. It's for file sharing purposes so there isn't a way around it (skipping the details). Was wondering if anybody's kind enough to share alternatives besides directly asking him to look away? ", "Password input while colleague is watching. What can I do best in a situation like this? My colleague tends to look at my monitor or keyboard (might be due to me being paranoid) whenever I'm entering my gmail login credentials on his computer. It's for file sharing purposes so there isn't a way around it (skipping the details). Was wondering if anybody's kind enough to share alternatives besides directly asking him to look away? ", "Password input while colleague is watching. What can I do best in a situation like this? My colleague tends to look at my monitor or keyboard (might be due to me being paranoid) whenever I'm entering my gmail login credentials on his computer. It's for file sharing purposes so there isn't a way around it (skipping the details). Was wondering if anybody's kind enough to share alternatives besides directly asking him to look away? ", "Password input while colleague is watching. What can I do best in a situation like this? My colleague tends to look at my monitor or keyboard (might be due to me being paranoid) whenever I'm entering my gmail login credentials on his computer. It's for file sharing purposes so there isn't a way around it (skipping the details). Was wondering if anybody's kind enough to share alternatives besides directly asking him to look away? ", "Password input while colleague is watching. What can I do best in a situation like this? My colleague tends to look at my monitor or keyboard (might be due to me being paranoid) whenever I'm entering my gmail login credentials on his computer. It's for file sharing purposes so there isn't a way around it (skipping the details). Was wondering if anybody's kind enough to share alternatives besides directly asking him to look away? ", "Password input while colleague is watching. What can I do best in a situation like this? My colleague tends to look at my monitor or keyboard (might be due to me being paranoid) whenever I'm entering my gmail login credentials on his computer. It's for file sharing purposes so there isn't a way around it (skipping the details). Was wondering if anybody's kind enough to share alternatives besides directly asking him to look away? ", "Password input while colleague is watching. What can I do best in a situation like this? My colleague tends to look at my monitor or keyboard (might be due to me being paranoid) whenever I'm entering my gmail login credentials on his computer. It's for file sharing purposes so there isn't a way around it (skipping the details). Was wondering if anybody's kind enough to share alternatives besides directly asking him to look away? " ]

[ "Honestly, if he wanted to steal your password, and you're entering it on his computer, there's probably nothing stopping him from using a key-logger. I would say that if you want to be safe, find a different way to share files.", "Type with your hands in the correct place on the keyboard, type fast, and make it a difficult password.", "I always jokingly get offended before typing and say, “Dude?!? WTF?!? Are you trying to steal my password?!” And they usually smile and turn away long enough for me to type it", "A clearly jokingly OTT “No peeking!!” while hiding the keyboard in an exaggerated manner will work. Always best to treat it like that, they’ll subconsciously react as if the scolding was real every time, even though they can plainly see you’re kidding. ", "Lol, I usually just prepare to type but then look at whoever's watching until they hopefully get the idea. I'm not big on using my words though", "Add a couple of extra characters to the beginning and end, then after you're done delete the first couple of characters you faked, then the last 2. Do differing amounts each time.", "I’m not tech savvy, but isn’t there a google drive that you can put files on? \n\n" ]

[ 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this.", "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this.", "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this.", "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this.", "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this.", "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this.", "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this.", "How to track down telemarketers and sue them for calling after you're on the Do Not Call list I actually did this about 12 years ago, but the place that was repeatedly calling me was a known business (not debt collection, just sales calls). I sued in small claims court and they settled for $1500. But today, with caller ID blocking, robocalls, and calls from outside the country, it seems to be much more difficult to even know who is calling. Wondering if there is a guide somewhere with an effective way to do this." ]

[ "Source: Attorney who sues telemarketers\n\nWhat I do when it's not readily available which company is calling is to feign interest in the product, or discuss a previous call that got disconnected that never happened. I put on this \"corny but well meaning old man\" act where I pretend to be some clumsy and forgetful and that I lost the website and/or email address of the kind lady I spoke to last time, but I'm really interested in the product.\n\nOr a \"I am very interested, but my wife just got home is there any way I can call you back? You're so nice I'd really like to get you the commission if you make the sale.\"\n\nIf they don't provide the company name and/or a call back number and/or some other identifying information, it's likely a lost cause. But I'd say 50% of the time they reveal the info I want.\n\nOn one occasion, a woman from one of those solar panel companies gave me her personal email address, and then proceeded to tell me through email about all the shady things her company does.", "I believe as part of the DNC website when you register, there should be some information about how you report violations to the FTC. I've done this a few times, but as far as I know, nothing came of it, at least not for me personally. ", "have you tried asking them for the information you need? You could try the \"I only buy [whatever the product is] if I can confirm your organization's information.\nIf that doesn't work, you'll need to find an ex-cop who was forced from the job because he refused to follow the rules... ", "If you have 3-5 minutes I'd love the chance to tell you about how to save time and money by screening your calls.", "I'm UK based so it might be slightly different, but I had a bank keep posting pre-approved junk and calling at home. \nI asked them where they got my info and they were vague about it - I said to the person on the phone to remove me, I'm not interested. She said it would take up to 6 weeks for the mail to stop. I emailed their customer service as well to get it in writing - and got a response to that effect. I kept receiving mail for 6 months, I kept all of it and then sent them a cease and desist letter to their head office with copies of all the emails saying it would stop. Told them if I received one more phone call or unsolicited mail, I would see them in court. I got an apology letter and a phone call apologising - and a cheque for £300 for compensation. \n \nIt's one of the few times I've wanted to send a \"you send me your shit, I'll send you mine\" kinda thing. Only mine would have been a spring loaded box of glitter.", "You can't sue them, but you can report them for fines. Just talk to them for a bit and ask what company they are calling from, they'll tell you.", "What if I get calls from the police department or veterans department asking for donations. Is there a way to stop that without being feeling like a dick.", "I'm not sure if this is linked...but I put my cell on the do not call list and I got MORE sales called...shortly after I bought a house. Not sure if the two are linked, but there ya go." ]

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[ "How to concentrate in timed tests The SAT Math 2 testing date is coming up, and it contains 50 questions that have to be done in 60 minutes. I have no problems with the math itself, and can do it all with ease, but under timed pressure I end up loosing focus constantly and I haven't been able to do well on my practice tests. What can be done to remedy this?", "How to concentrate in timed tests The SAT Math 2 testing date is coming up, and it contains 50 questions that have to be done in 60 minutes. I have no problems with the math itself, and can do it all with ease, but under timed pressure I end up loosing focus constantly and I haven't been able to do well on my practice tests. What can be done to remedy this?", "How to concentrate in timed tests The SAT Math 2 testing date is coming up, and it contains 50 questions that have to be done in 60 minutes. I have no problems with the math itself, and can do it all with ease, but under timed pressure I end up loosing focus constantly and I haven't been able to do well on my practice tests. What can be done to remedy this?", "How to concentrate in timed tests The SAT Math 2 testing date is coming up, and it contains 50 questions that have to be done in 60 minutes. I have no problems with the math itself, and can do it all with ease, but under timed pressure I end up loosing focus constantly and I haven't been able to do well on my practice tests. What can be done to remedy this?" ]

[ "Bring a watch and set it in front of you on the desk. They're required to allow you a simple timepiece (no smart phone/watch obviously) and I found that second hand would bring me back to remind me \"hey asshole, you're on the clock.\" The motion should help catch your peripheral if you're looking away from the exam.", "Singaporean here, our math papers are 3 hours long and we're known for absolutely wrecking SAT math.\n\nWhen you're practicing on your own, simulate the environment as much as possible. Leave your phone out of reach and go to someplace quiet (a library maybe?) and do your papers under timed conditions, without any reference to notes or the like. \n\nAt some point you'll get used to the pressure that comes with timed tests and will be able to perform well. This is, of course, based on the assumption that the only thing holding you back is your inability to cope with pressure.", "Adderall. You will be so focused you'll finish your test in half the time and start making a new test !!!", "If allowed, chew gum. It increases blood flow to your jaws, which then continues on to your brain. This means that there'll be more oxygen for your brain, allowing you to think more clearly and concentrate better." ]

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[ "How do I get rid of cigarette smell coming from air vents? I live in a condo unit with my parents and our neighbor downstairs smokes constantly inside his unit. The cigarette smell comes through our vents and stinks up our whole place. We had called some guys to come fix the issue but the smell is still there. We tried asking the neighbor to smoke outside (which obviously did not go over well). \n\nI was thinking of purchasing an air purifier large enough to put in our living room. Which ones are good for filtering smoke? Would putting those activated charcoal filters over our vents be helpful at all? I was thinking of taping those over the vents the smoke smell is coming out of.", "How do I get rid of cigarette smell coming from air vents? I live in a condo unit with my parents and our neighbor downstairs smokes constantly inside his unit. The cigarette smell comes through our vents and stinks up our whole place. We had called some guys to come fix the issue but the smell is still there. We tried asking the neighbor to smoke outside (which obviously did not go over well). \n\nI was thinking of purchasing an air purifier large enough to put in our living room. Which ones are good for filtering smoke? Would putting those activated charcoal filters over our vents be helpful at all? I was thinking of taping those over the vents the smoke smell is coming out of." ]

[ "Damn that's rough. He owns his place I'm guessing? I would honestly look into fighting that from the source because that is a genuine concern for your own health and they should have to smoke outside. If your place smells I can't imagine downstairs. Those walls must be yellow 🤮\n\n", "Check your paperwork. I believe there is usually an expectation for the essential - heat, water, electricity and clean air." ]

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[ "Focus while studying and starting to study I always finding myself procrastinating when it cones to homework or studying. Since AP tests are in less than a month its crunch time to study and I cant seem to focus when studying. Also I don't really feel motivated while studying as its kinda boring. Do you have any tips for focusing while studying and how to study better? ", "Focus while studying and starting to study I always finding myself procrastinating when it cones to homework or studying. Since AP tests are in less than a month its crunch time to study and I cant seem to focus when studying. Also I don't really feel motivated while studying as its kinda boring. Do you have any tips for focusing while studying and how to study better? ", "Focus while studying and starting to study I always finding myself procrastinating when it cones to homework or studying. Since AP tests are in less than a month its crunch time to study and I cant seem to focus when studying. Also I don't really feel motivated while studying as its kinda boring. Do you have any tips for focusing while studying and how to study better? ", "Focus while studying and starting to study I always finding myself procrastinating when it cones to homework or studying. Since AP tests are in less than a month its crunch time to study and I cant seem to focus when studying. Also I don't really feel motivated while studying as its kinda boring. Do you have any tips for focusing while studying and how to study better? ", "Focus while studying and starting to study I always finding myself procrastinating when it cones to homework or studying. Since AP tests are in less than a month its crunch time to study and I cant seem to focus when studying. Also I don't really feel motivated while studying as its kinda boring. Do you have any tips for focusing while studying and how to study better? " ]

[ "[Pomodoro Technique](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique). A life saver when I'm struggling to stay focused.", "Make a time schedule. For example: Monday: maths chapter 1, Tuesday: geology. For each subject you try to figure out how much time you will need to study it. It takes practice for sure to \"guess\" how much time is needed. But if you get the hang of it, you will eventually force yourself to begin studying, or otherwise you will run out of time.", "I dont know if it helps with focusing but i always had some sort of music playing in the background and would having playing on repeat. Then when it came to the day of the test or sort i would be having the song continue to play and it would help me remember what i just studied.\n", "Listen to gaming music, it helps you focus. \nMy favourite right now is the Assassins Creed 2 soundtrack.", "Multivitamin tablet called Supradyn.\nIt gives concentration for about 7 hours.\nIts inexpensive too.\nNo concerning side effects since its a multivitamin tablet." ]

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[ "Stand/sit up straight When at ease, I automatically tend to bow forward a bit. This is a result of years of bad posture. I'd like to be able to stand and sit with a straight back without paying attention to it. Any tips?", "Stand/sit up straight When at ease, I automatically tend to bow forward a bit. This is a result of years of bad posture. I'd like to be able to stand and sit with a straight back without paying attention to it. Any tips?", "Stand/sit up straight When at ease, I automatically tend to bow forward a bit. This is a result of years of bad posture. I'd like to be able to stand and sit with a straight back without paying attention to it. Any tips?", "Stand/sit up straight When at ease, I automatically tend to bow forward a bit. This is a result of years of bad posture. I'd like to be able to stand and sit with a straight back without paying attention to it. Any tips?" ]

[ "It's not really a life hack, but practice. If you're mindful of it then after a while it becomes automatic. ", "Adjust your posture by standing with your back against a wall. Take a breath to keep your shoulders relaxed before you move away.", "Whenever you start thinking about your posture, stand about 2 feet from the wall with your back facing the wall, and lean back until your head is the only thing keeping you from falling over hold that position for 30 seconds to 1 minute and when you stand up you will find that your body naturally pulls itself into good posture. Do this whenever you are thinking about it and in no time, you will have permanent good posture.\n\nAlso, start running. If you are running 1-2 times per week at least, you will find that you get good posture because running with bad posture just doesn't work. ", "I have the problem when sitting that my butt slides to the front of the chair and I rest my upper back on the backrest. Horrible posture. \nEvery time I've done deadlifts my seated posture is a little better, but I don't have the equipment to do it regularly at home so I haven't started. \nI also used to do yoga (Ashtanga) and this helped a LOT in just a week. Sadly this fix wasn't permanent either.\n\nNinja " ]

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[ "Most effective way to eleminate house roaches? They are driving me crazy.What can I do? I have read so many things on the internet and tried what I could but they are still staying strong.", "Most effective way to eleminate house roaches? They are driving me crazy.What can I do? I have read so many things on the internet and tried what I could but they are still staying strong.", "Most effective way to eleminate house roaches? They are driving me crazy.What can I do? I have read so many things on the internet and tried what I could but they are still staying strong.", "Most effective way to eleminate house roaches? They are driving me crazy.What can I do? I have read so many things on the internet and tried what I could but they are still staying strong.", "Most effective way to eleminate house roaches? They are driving me crazy.What can I do? I have read so many things on the internet and tried what I could but they are still staying strong.", "Most effective way to eleminate house roaches? They are driving me crazy.What can I do? I have read so many things on the internet and tried what I could but they are still staying strong.", "Most effective way to eleminate house roaches? They are driving me crazy.What can I do? I have read so many things on the internet and tried what I could but they are still staying strong." ]

[ "I found boric acid (borax) to be the best. I sprinkled the powder down every where and I do mean everywhere. My house looked like a reenactment from scarface for a while. But I never saw roaches again. Very safe for pets or kids. Iirc, it's acidic level is somewhere around table salt. So fine to leave on the floors, but I wouldn't get silly with it. \n\nBonus: the roaches die a horrific death from ingestion of the stuff. ", "I got tired of roaches in my old apartment, so I pulled all the furniture away from the walls, squirted borax powder (white roach powder) into every seam, crack, and crevice of my home (including removing outlet covers and shooting it back there), then caulked everything up that looked like a seam. I never had roaches in that apartment again. It took a few hours, but was worth it.", "You basically can't because if one survives poison then all it's babies do and the only way to kill is Vikane fumigation( removes all oxygen) or tons of food grade diatomaceous earth everywhere which is not great for your lungs and isn't instant. Trust me on all this. ", "Like others have said, boric acid. Make sure all of your open-package foods are in air tight containers (e.g. no bags of sugar sitting out and open; no boxes of bisquick out and open, no bags of cereal out and open--use resealable containers). \n\nMake sure the outside of your stove and the floor/walls around your stove are super, super clean. \n\nVacuum your carpet with borax powder (IF you don't have kids/pets to worry about). Sprinkle it on like you would scented carpet powder, and vacuum. Dillute borax in water and mop your floors with it.\n\nI've also had great experience with Combat roach gel. Put the shit everywhere--your cabinet seams around your appliances, etc. \n\nMake sure you do NOT leave food out overnight. No pots and pans on the stove. No plates out and about. Take your kitchen trash out EVERY night (buy a smaller can if need be), and do your dishes EVERY night. \n\nI've never had an outright infestation, but I've lived in plenty of apartments with either tons of neighbors or a nasty handful of neighbors and I'd see one here or there. These strategies helped keep things under control for me. ", "Get the liquid bait traps - at least a couple of packs of 6. Put them out at the edges of the rooms and make sure there are no other sources of water for them. Repeat every couple months, even if you haven't seen them for a while.", "Fill a glass jar (like from spaghetti sauce, save the lid) half way up with coffee grounds and water. They crawl in and drown. It's absolutely disgusting to have a jar of dead roaches, but they're dead so you can just put the lid on and throw it away. \n\nAnd borax the shit out of the perimeter of your house! ", "Diatomite\n\n\n\"Diatomite is used as an insecticide, due to its abrasive and physico-sorptive properties.[10]The fine powder absorbs lipids from the waxy outer layer of insects' exoskeletons, causing them to dehydrate. Arthropods die as a result of the water pressure deficiency, based on Fick's law of diffusion. \"\n\nIt's not toxic you can even it eat. They put it in grain that's stored. \n\nSource :wiki\n" ]

[ 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Rosey/red flustered Cheeks im a guy who always gets red/flustered rosey cheeks and it really sucks. always happens when i get overheated, nervous, embaressed or just whenever. its not like it is just goes a light red, it becomes a large deep red cheeks and it is absolutely annoying. anybody got any tips on how to reduce this(without makeup) or any idea from what this is caused from. im getting tired of just dealing with it. im like 90% sure its not rosaecea cause its not the same symptoms. i just get rosey sometimes.", "Rosey/red flustered Cheeks im a guy who always gets red/flustered rosey cheeks and it really sucks. always happens when i get overheated, nervous, embaressed or just whenever. its not like it is just goes a light red, it becomes a large deep red cheeks and it is absolutely annoying. anybody got any tips on how to reduce this(without makeup) or any idea from what this is caused from. im getting tired of just dealing with it. im like 90% sure its not rosaecea cause its not the same symptoms. i just get rosey sometimes.", "Rosey/red flustered Cheeks im a guy who always gets red/flustered rosey cheeks and it really sucks. always happens when i get overheated, nervous, embaressed or just whenever. its not like it is just goes a light red, it becomes a large deep red cheeks and it is absolutely annoying. anybody got any tips on how to reduce this(without makeup) or any idea from what this is caused from. im getting tired of just dealing with it. im like 90% sure its not rosaecea cause its not the same symptoms. i just get rosey sometimes.", "Rosey/red flustered Cheeks im a guy who always gets red/flustered rosey cheeks and it really sucks. always happens when i get overheated, nervous, embaressed or just whenever. its not like it is just goes a light red, it becomes a large deep red cheeks and it is absolutely annoying. anybody got any tips on how to reduce this(without makeup) or any idea from what this is caused from. im getting tired of just dealing with it. im like 90% sure its not rosaecea cause its not the same symptoms. i just get rosey sometimes.", "Rosey/red flustered Cheeks im a guy who always gets red/flustered rosey cheeks and it really sucks. always happens when i get overheated, nervous, embaressed or just whenever. its not like it is just goes a light red, it becomes a large deep red cheeks and it is absolutely annoying. anybody got any tips on how to reduce this(without makeup) or any idea from what this is caused from. im getting tired of just dealing with it. im like 90% sure its not rosaecea cause its not the same symptoms. i just get rosey sometimes.", "Rosey/red flustered Cheeks im a guy who always gets red/flustered rosey cheeks and it really sucks. always happens when i get overheated, nervous, embaressed or just whenever. its not like it is just goes a light red, it becomes a large deep red cheeks and it is absolutely annoying. anybody got any tips on how to reduce this(without makeup) or any idea from what this is caused from. im getting tired of just dealing with it. im like 90% sure its not rosaecea cause its not the same symptoms. i just get rosey sometimes.", "Rosey/red flustered Cheeks im a guy who always gets red/flustered rosey cheeks and it really sucks. always happens when i get overheated, nervous, embaressed or just whenever. its not like it is just goes a light red, it becomes a large deep red cheeks and it is absolutely annoying. anybody got any tips on how to reduce this(without makeup) or any idea from what this is caused from. im getting tired of just dealing with it. im like 90% sure its not rosaecea cause its not the same symptoms. i just get rosey sometimes." ]

[ "Eat a pineapple before going out. If symptoms occur prior to eating pineapple, then eat a pineapple straight away. In the event you don't have a pineapple; eat two apples. ", "I have the same problem, at the drop of a hat I'll turn crimson, and in all my years of this I've never found a solution. On the bright side I've found some great studies that show the more you blush the more socially accepted you are and taken seriously so at least we have that...", "i hear you, I have the same rosy red cheeks. Haven't found anything that gets rid of it, and i'm not going to use any creams.", "Try cutting back on caffeine, alcohol, and spicy foods if you frequently consume such. \nI've read it in several magazine articles. ", "If you're running in mild weather, think that the cool weather is preventing your face from getting red. It prevents any more blush from embarrassment so you don't get anymore red than it already is. It also helps because eventually you'll think that it's barely noticeable while you're working out. \n\n", "I know you said no creams, but moisturizer would probably help. They have products for guys. Make sure you exfoliate big time too. \nI take Vitamin E and that's really helped. ", "Eat generic pepto bismol tablets. My buddy always got red when drinking and he would pop 2 and be gravy" ]

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[ "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? ", "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? ", "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? ", "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? ", "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? ", "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? ", "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? ", "What is your pro tip to keep yourself focused on your life goals without getting distracted by the struggles and troubles life throws at you? " ]

[ "Its ok to get distracted. Its ok to feel defeated, its ok to question the path, its ok to not always believe in yourself. Trying to keep all those feelings under a lid is setting an impossible bar. And if thats how youre measuring your progress, you’re going to feel like you cant do it. \n\n\n\nThink about what your goal is. Whether its a career or a possesion or a destination or whatever. Picture yourself there, whatever that means. If you know where you want to be, and you know where you are, then just follow the path. The key to keeping forward progress is to treat every experience like it helps you. Any progress is good progress. Take a wrong turn? Get stuck? Thats ok, you just learned which direction progress is, and its not the way you just tried. \n\n\n\nFinal thought; dont be too hard on yourself. The journey *is* the destination in life. Dont let perfect be the enemy of good.", "Look to the future. What you do today will matter next week. The bs will be gone by morning but if you let the bs run your day you'll keep yourself from moving forward.", "My pension plans. I don't often think of them but then sometimes I ask myself if the job is worth the stress and looking forward to a dignified retirement keeps me going. \n And my fishin boat. That's the immediate remedy.", "In my early 20’s my mentot instructed me to make a list of reasonable goals, read it every day and keep the list confidential. Imdid it and it worked, I’ve achieved every reasonable goal I set. I’m 68 now and look back on a happy reasonable life.\nThat being said, it would’ve been nice to have a Porsche, but a new toyota every four years nots bad either. \nBe reasonable", "Have kids. Most people think kids take away from the ability to strive for success, when in fact they provide rocket fuel for motivation. \n\n\nEverything I've ever achieved in the last 10 years was because I want a better future for my kids.", "Don't sweat the daily things that are just a part of doing things normally. Like work, relationships, average responsibilities like cleaning house, repairs to home or car. That's all normal upkeep. Real tragedy is something that does not come often but will eventually, and you don't want to get so beat down every day that you can't imagine getting through the next thing. Basically, you make your own happiness. You actually are in control of that.", "At 38 I feel like I should have planned my life better. I know about what is going to happen in some aspects of my life but I get distracted with other things in my life and don't do anything about it. When I see some of my friends who already planned things in advance I feel sad about not planning early", "Set SMART goals.\n\nSpecific\nMeasured\nAttainable\nRealistic\nTimeframe.\n\nWhen setting goals you should push yourself but also take it step by step with in time frames. Of course if you finish a little later no biggie but it helps you work towards that goal." ]

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[ "How do I know if my power bills are valid? I've heard plenty of horror stories about power companies undercharging people for few periods, then issuing a colossal bill to account for charges that somehow weren't included in the prior periods. Being a first time renter, I'm not quite sure what to make of the bills I've been receiving. I live in a pretty small unit and only have two window AC units (only one on at a time), with electricity usage from using my laptop, TV, and fridge, plus any hot water used for showers. The bill is only about $70 per month, does that sound at all about right? Happy to include any other non-personals information to help narrow down an estimate, just don't want to be put in a position where I receive a bill at some point for $300+.", "How do I know if my power bills are valid? I've heard plenty of horror stories about power companies undercharging people for few periods, then issuing a colossal bill to account for charges that somehow weren't included in the prior periods. Being a first time renter, I'm not quite sure what to make of the bills I've been receiving. I live in a pretty small unit and only have two window AC units (only one on at a time), with electricity usage from using my laptop, TV, and fridge, plus any hot water used for showers. The bill is only about $70 per month, does that sound at all about right? Happy to include any other non-personals information to help narrow down an estimate, just don't want to be put in a position where I receive a bill at some point for $300+.", "How do I know if my power bills are valid? I've heard plenty of horror stories about power companies undercharging people for few periods, then issuing a colossal bill to account for charges that somehow weren't included in the prior periods. Being a first time renter, I'm not quite sure what to make of the bills I've been receiving. I live in a pretty small unit and only have two window AC units (only one on at a time), with electricity usage from using my laptop, TV, and fridge, plus any hot water used for showers. The bill is only about $70 per month, does that sound at all about right? Happy to include any other non-personals information to help narrow down an estimate, just don't want to be put in a position where I receive a bill at some point for $300+." ]

[ "> I've heard plenty of horror stories about power companies undercharging people for few periods, then issuing a colossal bill to account for charges that somehow weren't included in the prior periods. \n\nSometimes power companies use \"estimated billing\". That means they make a guess instead of checking your meter; your bill should indicate that. When they *do* look at your meter, the next bill will catch up your billing.\n\nYou could go out and look at your meter to determine your actual usage. ", "Sounds reasonable to me. I have a small apartment with just one AC unit. During the summer when I'm running the AC often, my bill is usually around $55-$65, somewhere in there, it has been up to I think $72 one month. During the winter, it's more like $35-$40 because I don't use my heat a whole lot, being in the middle of the building I get a lot of heat from other units. ", "One utility I worked for would \"average\" your bill. They already have an idea of how much electricity you are going to use based on previous tenants. Where I was people used much less A/C in the winter and not much heat. They would average the bill so it was consistent every month and not a budget buster in July." ]

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[ "How to rid pet area of Small Black Ants (monomorium minimum). I have thoroughly vacuumed and wiped down all surfaces with a solution of vinegar and water. The cat bowls are on the second floor of the house and the ants appear to be only in that small area. Poison bait seems to be the recommended approach but I am hesitant to use it. Relocating the cat food bowls is not an option as it is the only place where we can prevent the dogs from snacking. Is there a bait that can be used that will not harm our pets?\n\nI'm sorry if this is a repost, I searched and found no info. Also if I need to X-post this elsewhere, redirection is appreciated. Thank you.", "How to rid pet area of Small Black Ants (monomorium minimum). I have thoroughly vacuumed and wiped down all surfaces with a solution of vinegar and water. The cat bowls are on the second floor of the house and the ants appear to be only in that small area. Poison bait seems to be the recommended approach but I am hesitant to use it. Relocating the cat food bowls is not an option as it is the only place where we can prevent the dogs from snacking. Is there a bait that can be used that will not harm our pets?\n\nI'm sorry if this is a repost, I searched and found no info. Also if I need to X-post this elsewhere, redirection is appreciated. Thank you.", "How to rid pet area of Small Black Ants (monomorium minimum). I have thoroughly vacuumed and wiped down all surfaces with a solution of vinegar and water. The cat bowls are on the second floor of the house and the ants appear to be only in that small area. Poison bait seems to be the recommended approach but I am hesitant to use it. Relocating the cat food bowls is not an option as it is the only place where we can prevent the dogs from snacking. Is there a bait that can be used that will not harm our pets?\n\nI'm sorry if this is a repost, I searched and found no info. Also if I need to X-post this elsewhere, redirection is appreciated. Thank you." ]

[ "Sugar water mixed with Boraxo in a small jar lid or such. Put it somewhere the ants will find it but away from the pets. They will find it. They eat it up like mad. Return with it to their nest and withing a day or two, no more ants. I just did this at my house. Google 'uses for Boraxo,' to discover how useful it is around the house in other ways. ", "Cinnamon. Ants hate it. [Ant tip](http://www.ehow.com/how_2310653_get-rid-ants-cinnamon.html#page=0)", "Put the cat food bowls in plates or larger bowls filled with water; the ants will not be able to cross the water. The Terro someone else mentioned is excellent; it's cheap and comes self-contained (your pets would have to really chew on them to get to the poison)." ]

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[ "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms.", "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms.", "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms.", "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms.", "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms.", "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms.", "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms.", "How do i get rid of deodorant stains under my arms on my shirts that wont come out in the wash? Mostly its on the random shirts i use for undershirts, some of the deodorant i some times use really leaves some on the under arms of my shirts and even after a regular wash (no spot treating) its still there and i don't wanna ware them regularly with white under the arms." ]

[ "For future use, try to purchase deodorants without aluminum. Aluminum is the ingredient in deodorant which reduces perspiration, but whenever it comes into contact with sweat (because it will not prevent 100% of sweating) it creates a yellow stain on the armpit of your shirts. To prevent this, I use certain-dri at night (just before bed), and old spice during the day. This combination reduces my perspiration, leaves a pleasant scent, and does not leave yellow stains on my clothing.\n\nAlso: http://artofmanliness.com/2012/04/03/how-to-remove-yellow-armpit-stains/", "Best option is oxi-clean. take some oxi-clean, water make a paste and scrub the area and then do the laundry like normal with oxi-clean as per the instructions. Like the older post have said your deodorant is the problem so switch to something like speed stick stain guard.", "Its the aluminum in the antiperspirant that is causing the stains. Either you can stop wearing antiperspirant, or just get new shirts. I've seen methods of soaking them in product x, or mixing product y with water and leaving it overnight will somewhat diminish them, but not enough that they're completely gone.\n\nThat's why we wear undershirts, so they get all disgusting and discolored and our normal shirts do not. White T-shirts are pretty cheap, so just get a couple of packs.", "I found [this](http://artofmanliness.com/2012/04/03/how-to-remove-yellow-armpit-stains/) to be helpful. Plus that's a really awesome site.", "Rub the fabric against itself. Not sure why this works but my mother used to do it and it seems to work pretty well.", "Again, OxyClean. I let it soad in the washing machine over night. Start with hot water, fill the tub and then add the powder (one heaping scoop). Then put your shirts in and let soak overnight. Hope that helps.", "Some hangers have that foam cover around them, if you take that and rub it over the deodorant it works like a charm.", "Baking soda has always worked for me, just wet the fabric, sprinkle with soda and scrub. Gets rid of the funky smells too." ]

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[ "How to overcome the feeling that \"as I age, time is running out fast, I am getting older fast\"? Perceivably, it took a very long time to reach 15 years of age from 5 years of age. It felt way faster to reach from 20 to 30 and even faster to reach from 30 to 40. It will be even faster to reach from 40 to 50 and beyond. This is creating a feeling of losing the grip over life. Do you have an LPT for an adult to make them feel the abundance of time? I am not asking a way to slow down physical aging. I want to get the same perceived time to reach from 70 to 80, as it took to reach from 5 to 15. ", "How to overcome the feeling that \"as I age, time is running out fast, I am getting older fast\"? Perceivably, it took a very long time to reach 15 years of age from 5 years of age. It felt way faster to reach from 20 to 30 and even faster to reach from 30 to 40. It will be even faster to reach from 40 to 50 and beyond. This is creating a feeling of losing the grip over life. Do you have an LPT for an adult to make them feel the abundance of time? I am not asking a way to slow down physical aging. I want to get the same perceived time to reach from 70 to 80, as it took to reach from 5 to 15. ", "How to overcome the feeling that \"as I age, time is running out fast, I am getting older fast\"? Perceivably, it took a very long time to reach 15 years of age from 5 years of age. It felt way faster to reach from 20 to 30 and even faster to reach from 30 to 40. It will be even faster to reach from 40 to 50 and beyond. This is creating a feeling of losing the grip over life. Do you have an LPT for an adult to make them feel the abundance of time? I am not asking a way to slow down physical aging. I want to get the same perceived time to reach from 70 to 80, as it took to reach from 5 to 15. ", "How to overcome the feeling that \"as I age, time is running out fast, I am getting older fast\"? Perceivably, it took a very long time to reach 15 years of age from 5 years of age. It felt way faster to reach from 20 to 30 and even faster to reach from 30 to 40. It will be even faster to reach from 40 to 50 and beyond. This is creating a feeling of losing the grip over life. Do you have an LPT for an adult to make them feel the abundance of time? I am not asking a way to slow down physical aging. I want to get the same perceived time to reach from 70 to 80, as it took to reach from 5 to 15. ", "How to overcome the feeling that \"as I age, time is running out fast, I am getting older fast\"? Perceivably, it took a very long time to reach 15 years of age from 5 years of age. It felt way faster to reach from 20 to 30 and even faster to reach from 30 to 40. It will be even faster to reach from 40 to 50 and beyond. This is creating a feeling of losing the grip over life. Do you have an LPT for an adult to make them feel the abundance of time? I am not asking a way to slow down physical aging. I want to get the same perceived time to reach from 70 to 80, as it took to reach from 5 to 15. ", "How to overcome the feeling that \"as I age, time is running out fast, I am getting older fast\"? Perceivably, it took a very long time to reach 15 years of age from 5 years of age. It felt way faster to reach from 20 to 30 and even faster to reach from 30 to 40. It will be even faster to reach from 40 to 50 and beyond. This is creating a feeling of losing the grip over life. Do you have an LPT for an adult to make them feel the abundance of time? I am not asking a way to slow down physical aging. I want to get the same perceived time to reach from 70 to 80, as it took to reach from 5 to 15. " ]

[ "Ive heard a post once saying that 10-20 seems longer than say 40-50 because as we age we are not having as many 1ST TIME experiences. The rate of growth based on these learning experiences and biology in General is rapid in earlier years vs later years. This contributes to the mid life crisis, existential dilemmas etc... As we try to wrestle some excitement meaning and purpose from life before what we now perceive as a rapidly ticking clock runs out...", "Yeah, ain't gonna happen. I'm pushing 50, 25 seems like a life time ago and 70 feels like it's coming at me 150 miles per hour. Hopefully you get some good tips but I think this is just part of ageing.", "Even older people say this perception increases exponentially; my grandfather says it felt like it took longer to go from 10 to 20 than it did from 20 to 40, and that 40 to 80 felt even shorter than 20 to 40.", "Tick tock, sucker.\n\nBut I think bringing novelty to your life can help. Being stuck in a routine makes every day the same and unmemorable.", "We all know we have a finite amount of time, and we have a pretty good idea, generally speaking, how much time that is. As we age each year that passes represents a bigger chunk of the time we have left. When you're 10 maybe you figure you might have 70 years left and a year doesn't seem like that much. When you're 70 that same year is 10% of your remaining time. When you're 79 it's half.\n\n", "Pay attention to life. Don't go through your routines like you're just another zombie, but see, smell, hear, taste, feel and love. " ]

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[ "Ways to deal with overactive little children at adult gatherings. Their not your kids but they are constantly attempting to get everyones attention before they jump from the couch to a bean bag as if its the goddamn curr for cancer. Or grabbing and pulling your hair hitting you etc.\n\nHow do you counteract this kind of behaviour without slapping someone elses child? \n\nI dont have kids. Yet.", "Ways to deal with overactive little children at adult gatherings. Their not your kids but they are constantly attempting to get everyones attention before they jump from the couch to a bean bag as if its the goddamn curr for cancer. Or grabbing and pulling your hair hitting you etc.\n\nHow do you counteract this kind of behaviour without slapping someone elses child? \n\nI dont have kids. Yet.", "Ways to deal with overactive little children at adult gatherings. Their not your kids but they are constantly attempting to get everyones attention before they jump from the couch to a bean bag as if its the goddamn curr for cancer. Or grabbing and pulling your hair hitting you etc.\n\nHow do you counteract this kind of behaviour without slapping someone elses child? \n\nI dont have kids. Yet.", "Ways to deal with overactive little children at adult gatherings. Their not your kids but they are constantly attempting to get everyones attention before they jump from the couch to a bean bag as if its the goddamn curr for cancer. Or grabbing and pulling your hair hitting you etc.\n\nHow do you counteract this kind of behaviour without slapping someone elses child? \n\nI dont have kids. Yet.", "Ways to deal with overactive little children at adult gatherings. Their not your kids but they are constantly attempting to get everyones attention before they jump from the couch to a bean bag as if its the goddamn curr for cancer. Or grabbing and pulling your hair hitting you etc.\n\nHow do you counteract this kind of behaviour without slapping someone elses child? \n\nI dont have kids. Yet.", "Ways to deal with overactive little children at adult gatherings. Their not your kids but they are constantly attempting to get everyones attention before they jump from the couch to a bean bag as if its the goddamn curr for cancer. Or grabbing and pulling your hair hitting you etc.\n\nHow do you counteract this kind of behaviour without slapping someone elses child? \n\nI dont have kids. Yet." ]

[ "You need to redirect them. To them everything is a toy because their parents haven't properly taught them otherwise. On the plus side at least they are energetic and not tablet addicts like so many kids today. It would be a shame to squelch that energy. Just tell them firmly what's not acceptable (jumping on the couch, playing with your weights) but at the same time also tell them what is OK (climbing a suitable tree, punching/kicking an old boxing bag, etc). With a bit of preparation you can put together some inexpensive activities such as hand-balling a tennis ball against an outside wall inside some squares you've chalked on the ground, or building stuff from a bunch of old boxes and containers. You might also consider giving them 30 minutes of your undivided attention to go to a playground or kick a footy, but explain clearly that after this time you are going to talk with the other adults and they need to occupy themselves as above.", "If they're that young try giving them a task with a promised reward. I.e. if you unpack and tidy this cupboard full of tupperware I'll buy you an icecream.\n\nOR\n\npromise them a kitten if they can do the jump 5 times in a row without touching ground. Their parents will stop them for you.", "The only thing I could think of is shaming the parents into action. Bust your phone out and record the bad behavior. Then show the parents the irrefutable evidence. If that doesn't work then what you've got is shitty parents and a problem child. Both of which probably shouldn't be invited to adult gatherings.", "Politely pull the parent side and say their child is acting \"a little out of character\", describe some of the unsavoury behaviours, and ask if everything is ok. \nThis highlights the childs unwelcome behaviour without laying blame on the parent or stating the kid is a little shit. \nHopefuly the parent will see their child is acting up and discipline it, or encourage different behaviour. \nOf course, the parent may just say the kid always acts that way, and then well... you're fucked.", "Kids are like puppies, somebody needs to play with them to tucker them out. Learn to like them, take them outside or far away from the main attraction, and play freeze tag like you did in second grade. The kids will love you, the adults will love you, and you had more fun than you would've doing some boring adult thing.", "\"They're not your kids\" \n\"goddamned cure for cancer.\" \n\"Or grabbing and pulling your hair, hitting you, etc.\" \n\"How do you counteract this kind of behaviour without slapping someone else's child?\" \n\n IFIFY\n \nAlso, properly tag it as a request in the title next time." ]

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[ "How to deal with a pretty hard crush when I know I can't act on it I have a long term SO who I am committed to, We have a baby boy and a house together, I love her very much.\n\nHowever there is someone who works in the same building as I do who I am crushing on pretty bad. \n\nHow can I deal with these feelings until they pass?", "How to deal with a pretty hard crush when I know I can't act on it I have a long term SO who I am committed to, We have a baby boy and a house together, I love her very much.\n\nHowever there is someone who works in the same building as I do who I am crushing on pretty bad. \n\nHow can I deal with these feelings until they pass?", "How to deal with a pretty hard crush when I know I can't act on it I have a long term SO who I am committed to, We have a baby boy and a house together, I love her very much.\n\nHowever there is someone who works in the same building as I do who I am crushing on pretty bad. \n\nHow can I deal with these feelings until they pass?" ]

[ "Make sure you get plenty of time together, doing the fun stuff you did when you first met, get that baby a sitter, take your wife for a picnic, hike, boat trip, and try to start practicing having positive time together, you are just at the start of life together, put lots of effort into building good foundations. \n\nThe person you have a crush on is only on your radar because you naturally crave the feelings, so does your wife, it's the easiest over looked part of relationship maintenance , functional life with new babies and homes, do not give up time easily to allowing a couple to spend time on themselves. It never seems high up the priority list until things are damaged, you have managed to be self aware and pro active in not allowing damage to be done. \n\nYou must make sure you are getting time out together, and use it on yourselves, (not DIY, shopping) go and have some fun, just the pair of you. ", "Since you work in the 'same BUILDING' as her (i.e. I am assuming she is not in your immediate team) I advise you try to follow the 'no-contact' rule. Do your best to avoid her. No small talk, no eye contact, nothing! Knowing the male mind quite well (I am an owner of one), you will forget her in no time... because you will quickly move on to some other woman to crush on!\n\nGood luck!", "Talk to your SO about it. Avoiding the crush completely will make it feel taboo. \n\nThe \"easiest\" way to deal with it is to accept that you are interested in this person and not let it take away anything from the relationship you currently have. " ]

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[ "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep.", "Need help staying awake. I don't know why, but I've always had a problem staying awake. While in high school, it didn't matter that much, not that I'm in college and have a job, it matters quite a bit.\n\nI basically always have to be on some type of stimulant to stay away, whether it be caffeine or adderall. Even with either, I still almost fall asleep while driving (one hour) to school.\n\nI would really like an alternative. I hate preternaturally feeling like crap everyday.\n\nAnd the funny thing is that I need melatonin to go to sleep." ]

[ "Here's a LPT: Don't look to Reddit for medical advice. Only a doctor can tell you why you're feeling this way. For all we know, the melatonin is the culprit. Without a doctor's expertise, and a complete medical history, we're all just guessing.", "Have you ever gone a week without taking anything? I have trouble waking up, staying up and falling asleep; and drinking only water, eating healthier and cutting down screen time has been helping me recently.", "Talk to your doctor about this. If you have a problem like narcolepsy, modafinil can help out quite a bit.", "Look up and practice good sleep hygiene \n\nFrom https://sleepfoundation.org/ask-the-expert/sleep-hygiene\n\n> Avoid napping during the day. It can disturb the normal pattern of sleep and wakefulness.\n\n> **Avoid stimulants such as caffeine, nicotine, and alcohol too close to bedtime. While alcohol is well known to speed the onset of sleep, it disrupts sleep in the second half as the body begins to metabolize the alcohol, causing arousal.**\n\nCaffeine has a half life of 6 hours in the body, I wouldn't drink any past 3:00 pm (so enjoy your afternoon tea) \n\n> Exercise can promote good sleep. Vigorous exercise should be taken in the morning or late afternoon. A relaxing exercise, like yoga, can be done before bed to help initiate a restful night's sleep.\n\n> Food can be disruptive right before sleep. Stay away from large meals close to bedtime. Also dietary changes can cause sleep problems, if someone is struggling with a sleep problem, it's not a good time to start experimenting with spicy dishes. And, remember, chocolate has caffeine.\n\n> Ensure adequate exposure to natural light. This is particularly important for older people who may not venture outside as frequently as children and adults. Light exposure helps maintain a healthy sleep-wake cycle.\n\n> Establish a regular relaxing bedtime routine. Try to avoid emotionally upsetting conversations and activities before trying to go to sleep. Don't dwell on, or bring your problems to bed.\n\n> Associate your bed with sleep. It's not a good idea to use your bed to watch TV, listen to the radio, or read.\n\n\nI keep a red bulb in my bedside lamp and use it around bedtime. F.lux is great too if you're on a computer. \nIf this doesn't help you feel more rested contact your PCP for further examination. Hopefully you increase your quality of sleep and feel more rested during the day!\n\nSource: BS in psychology and used it myself ", "What's your water intake like and any idea on the quality of the water? Notice I feel a lot more tired if I get dehydrated and feel like shit if the it has a lot of contaminants in it", "What I do when I'm falling asleep is drink water. I never really knew the stuff behind it, and it only works if you're feeling tired (and not sleepy). My guess is that it wakes up your body with the water going through, but I could be wrong.", "That actually sounds like narcolepsy (a disorder where you literally fall asleep at random times with little to no control). \n\n\nBut it could also be a symptom of some sleep disturbance, like sleep apnea (a condition where you repeatedly stop breathing in your sleep). You don't realize you aren't getting a full nights rest because you never wake up all the way up when you have the issue, just partially awake, so you wake up tired. It can cause a host of other problems because your body never gets the deep rest it needs. My dad has it and if he is not eating or physically doing something he will fall asleep in under a minute. At a booth in a restaurant, in his chair at home in front of the tv in the middle of the day, mid conversation even sometimes. \n\n\nAlso prolonged stimulant use causes addiction and your body gets used to having it. I see people all the time online and in daily life who \"have to have\" three or four energy drinks or pots of coffee or Starbucks frapuccinos a day just to feel semi-normal awake because their body is so used to them. I'm assuming your body's natural processes try to cause some kind of \"downer\" effect to level you out when you're pumping in \"uppers\" (stimulants) but also withdrawal-like symptoms from not having things like caffeine can be very severe for some people. \n\n\nDefinitely see a doctor, hands down. Any of these issues is something that can use medical attention. You will feel terrible if you hurt or kill someone because you fell asleep during an important task like driving, using equipment, etc. ", "Not an expert, but AFAIK, when you start to artificially add drugs into your system that mimic bodily processes, your body stops producing the chemicals 'naturally' and you become addicted to them.\n\nHopefully at some point you'll have some time off (like a couple of weeks or more) where you can get off the stuff you take completely and I think eventually your body will start producing the needed chemicals, hormones or whatever - though it probably will not be pleasant.\n\nAlternately, I saw another poster mention the possibility of narcolepsy, and it might be good to just get that checked out. Might necessitate seeing a neurologist.", "My suggestion is this: start taking 20-30min naps once a day every day. At 3-4pm (or whatever) take short nap and se of this helps you. I know few ppl who this works for. \nAnother thing is that start going to bed and waking up at same time every day (also thru weekends). This is classic drug-free way to help ppl who haave problems falling to sleep. Idea is that your body learns when to sleep and when to be awake. So this could also help you to stay awake during daytime.", "It seems odd that you are on medication to fall asleep and to stay awake. Go and see a doctor, or go and see a different one for another opinion. ", "I started taking melatonin to fall asleep a couple years ago and I found that the more I took it, the more tolerance I built up against it. \nBecause of this, I stopped taking it all together and let my body naturally generate melatonin.\n\nHow much sleep are you getting every night? Are you staying alseep?\nAre you stressed about anything? Are you having trouble shutting off your brain at night? Do you play with electronics/watch tv in bed?" ]

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[ "A tool to track &amp; manage Reoccurring Life Events As a mid-20s human, I've been amazed at the amount of repetitious shit that fills up my time in life.\n\nMonthly shit:\n\n* bills\n* random chore\n* etc\n\n\nQuarterly shit:\n\n* oil change\n* car insurance payment\n* etc\n\nAnnual shit:\n\n* taxes\n* life insurance payment\n* etc\n\nMulti-annual shit:\n\n* license renewal\n* hvac inspection\n* etc\n\nThe list is just made up. So don't get hung up on it. Your list is different, but I guarantee you have one.\n\n--\n\nRight now, my management is all over the place. I have some stuff in Shit Spreadsheets. For other shit, I just wait until it is shoved in my face (taxes). But every time one of these things rolls around, I think that there has to be another way. \n\nDoes anyone use a singular tool for managing this stuff? Yeah a spreadsheet could. Yeah a modified Trello with power-ups could work. But for the weight of this problem I feel like there should be a solution specifically designed for this. \n\nA place where the first time you encounter a piece of shit, you enter it in. You can set a repetition period. You can add notes so that the next time this piece of shit comes back you are immediately caught back up on when/how/where you last handled this piece of shit. When you cleanup a piece of shit, it goes away until you've told it to come back again. You could even have a virtual assistant handle the piece of shit for you.\n", "A tool to track &amp; manage Reoccurring Life Events As a mid-20s human, I've been amazed at the amount of repetitious shit that fills up my time in life.\n\nMonthly shit:\n\n* bills\n* random chore\n* etc\n\n\nQuarterly shit:\n\n* oil change\n* car insurance payment\n* etc\n\nAnnual shit:\n\n* taxes\n* life insurance payment\n* etc\n\nMulti-annual shit:\n\n* license renewal\n* hvac inspection\n* etc\n\nThe list is just made up. So don't get hung up on it. Your list is different, but I guarantee you have one.\n\n--\n\nRight now, my management is all over the place. I have some stuff in Shit Spreadsheets. For other shit, I just wait until it is shoved in my face (taxes). But every time one of these things rolls around, I think that there has to be another way. \n\nDoes anyone use a singular tool for managing this stuff? Yeah a spreadsheet could. Yeah a modified Trello with power-ups could work. But for the weight of this problem I feel like there should be a solution specifically designed for this. \n\nA place where the first time you encounter a piece of shit, you enter it in. You can set a repetition period. You can add notes so that the next time this piece of shit comes back you are immediately caught back up on when/how/where you last handled this piece of shit. When you cleanup a piece of shit, it goes away until you've told it to come back again. You could even have a virtual assistant handle the piece of shit for you.\n", "A tool to track &amp; manage Reoccurring Life Events As a mid-20s human, I've been amazed at the amount of repetitious shit that fills up my time in life.\n\nMonthly shit:\n\n* bills\n* random chore\n* etc\n\n\nQuarterly shit:\n\n* oil change\n* car insurance payment\n* etc\n\nAnnual shit:\n\n* taxes\n* life insurance payment\n* etc\n\nMulti-annual shit:\n\n* license renewal\n* hvac inspection\n* etc\n\nThe list is just made up. So don't get hung up on it. Your list is different, but I guarantee you have one.\n\n--\n\nRight now, my management is all over the place. I have some stuff in Shit Spreadsheets. For other shit, I just wait until it is shoved in my face (taxes). But every time one of these things rolls around, I think that there has to be another way. \n\nDoes anyone use a singular tool for managing this stuff? Yeah a spreadsheet could. Yeah a modified Trello with power-ups could work. But for the weight of this problem I feel like there should be a solution specifically designed for this. \n\nA place where the first time you encounter a piece of shit, you enter it in. You can set a repetition period. You can add notes so that the next time this piece of shit comes back you are immediately caught back up on when/how/where you last handled this piece of shit. When you cleanup a piece of shit, it goes away until you've told it to come back again. You could even have a virtual assistant handle the piece of shit for you.\n" ]

[ "Set up recurring events in Google Calendar (or other calendar of your choice). Example: So for your monthly stuff, you could put in a reminder on the 15th of the month to pay your rent. Oil changes you could put reminders in to repeat yearly on January/April/July/Oct 1st. etc. You can set up Google Calendar to remind you about the events ahead of time---as little as 10 minutes to several days or more ahead of time. \n\nHope that helps!", "Old shooler here. Many years ago I got into the habit of buying one of those HUGE desk calendars. The ones you put under the glass. I buy them in about October for the next year. In he last months of the year I copy rellevant dates off the old one onto the new and add more if needed. Yes its tedious. Yes, there is an electronic equalivalent of it somewhere I am sure. But it helps to have written notes on something that doesnt involve \"cloud\" storage or battery life. I use multiple colors of highlighter markers on hard dates like taxes, oil changes, taxes, birthdays, etc. I use the color spectrum as an indicator of severity. Red is priority stuff, must be done! While birthdays may be a blue. Hope it helps, mine takes up my whole wall next to the desk, but it works for me. Good luck. ", "Maybe a bullet journal could help you out? You can just make yearly and monthly logs and various task pages. Its often made super artsy but it doesnt have to be. All you need are a ruler and a pen pretty much. " ]

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[ "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n", "What are some things to do on a long flight? Hey Everyone.\n\nSo i have a really long journey (Australia to Germany), and i was wondering what you guys could suggest to do for fun? (I am in year 11)\n\nSome things some people said were reading, gaming, writing, movies and sleep. Any others suggestions?\n\nThanks,\n\n~El\n\n" ]

[ "Read\n\nSleep\n\nGo around asking other passengers if they've seen a bag full of snakes\n\nOr introduce yourself as the air Marshall and ask each row quietly \"do any of you have flying experience\"", "Find a podcast you're interested in and download a few hours worth of old episodes. Goes well with any other relatively mindless video game if you're a relentless multitasker", "I give the same advice for road trips:\n\nPodcasts or some type of comedy. If you listen to a bunch of r2-5 minute songs things can feel like they take forever but if you start listening to people talking about stuff/things time goes much quicker.", "Get some type of game boy emulator on your phone, and replay pokemon. Try the [Nuzlocke challenge!](http://bulbapedia.bulbagarden.net/wiki/Nuzlocke_Challenge)", "Insist that under international law you can drink Jack Daniels as much as you like because the drinking age in the lower stratosphere is 16. ", "I frequently travel back and forth from JHB to London, like 4 times a year and the flight is close to 11 hours. The best bit of advice I can give you is to stay up late as possible the night before. Make yourself tired and want to sleep so when you get on the plane, you watch a movie or two, have dinner and a drink and PTFO. Usually works like a charm for me. That being said I don't have to deal with jet lag so I wake up happy as Larry. Hope this helps.", "I fly intercontinental between Europe and the US a handful of times a year, here's my general routine:\n\n- First things first: I like it best to fly through the night and into the next day. I find it's easier on your biological clock. Arriving in the early afternoon is almost useless to me since once I get off the plane and reach my ultimate destination I'm going to be too tired to do anything worthwhile short of critical stuff (food shopping, bathroom supplies and the like). Naturally there isn't much choice with times on intercontinental flights, but whenever I find one I'll gladly take an evening flight.\n\n- Board with all the calm in the world; that plane isn't leaving anytime soon. Bonus points if you have a small hand luggage that fits under the seat in front of you, you can avoid the overhead storage drama on big flights.\n\n- Get acquainted with your seat, locate your blanket / headphone kit. Maybe read a bit if you decided to board early (or were in Group 1). The inflight magazine is a good candidate, you can burn it in 15 minutes and sometimes the articles are interesting.\n\n- Waiting for boarding to finish is the big lull in the flight. Read, check out the movie list, decide what your entertainment plan will be. Nowadays all the main airlines have tens of movies on VOD so they're constantly at the ready. Go through the list, I always find 3-5 movies that are interesting enough to watch.\n\n- At some point you'll notice the boarding procedure is almost over, after the safety demonstration, after the captain speaks to the passengers, he starts making announcements to the crew. You can nap a good 20-30 minutes here, even through take-off since you can't get up anyway. That acceleration push on the runway is my Xanax, my point of no return. Until that point there are all sorts of things that can happen in the takeoff queue, passengers missing, last-minute weather problems. When the engines go way up the adventure begins!\n\n- At cruise altitude there will be a first round of drinks. Get red wine with the pre-meal snacks. Order a second red wine with your actual food; this time around also ask for water so the attendants don't give you the stinkeye. This works wonders for falling asleep after dinner while avoiding pills. Don't overdo it though, I almost never ask for liquor. You don't want to be that guy. Arriving jetlagged and hungover is the worst. Also, I try to keep it simple for the meal, chicken is almost always the best. No fish. Eat up; nowadays all decent airlines serve a good meal.\n\n- Alternate reading, napping, watching a movie or two. Find a good moment to do a bathroom run (right after the big meal is probably the worst time, for traffic and bathroom conditions) and to get up, do some calf stretches, walk up and down, get some water or juice. Sometimes I've had my iPad with me, you can get some work done if you write / code / read a lot. Anything that doesn't require internet. Bring a book that interests you, if you get immersed in it time will fly a lot faster, so you want something that will make you want to keep reading.\n\n- If you want to feel like a secret agent, you can play \"find the undercover Air Marshal\". Every flight has at least one, it's more or less a fact. If you have a cute passenger next to you of the sex that interests you, chat them up. It's mindless banter knowing that you won't see that person again, and you'll have a shot at joining the Mile High Club.\n\n- If you sit next to the emergency exit (only the best spot in the whole airplane), grab the first flight attendant you can find and tell them \"Hey, when I have my cigarette, I'm gonna open the window to let some air in, alright?\"\n\n- It's important not to get impatient, there will be multiple times in the flight where you'll be like \"6 hours left? 4 hours left? 2 hours left? Come onnnnnnnn...\" That and the last hour are murder usually.\n\nHave a good trip!", "You'll most likely have access to inflight entertainment system with a lot of movies. Also some obscure foreign movies. But reading the best. ", "On the trans-Atlantic flights I've been on, there was always a monitor built into the headrest in front of me. Through that headrest, you could check the flight status, listen to all kinds of music, and watch a ton of movies. ", "I used to think tablets were absolutely useless, until I flew with one. If you have a tablet just load that thing up with movies/shows/games and that flight will go by quickly. \n\nOtherwise, reading is the next best suggestion.", "Find a little bubble or crack in the window. Then with one eye open, pretend that little crack is a character in a video game. Have him jump over clouds. Or if you're not as creative, then pretend the crack is a cursor on Adobe Photoshop, and pretend that you're tracing the outline of the clouds.", "To add an additional request, does anyone know why someone would lose their voice on a long haul flight? It happened to me both ways on a transatlantic. ", "if you have school work, it's like you're forced into the library. You have to be there and it may not be amazing, so why not crush a little homework or summer reading or whatever it is that you have on your plate. it'll make where ever you're going so much more relaxing when you get there.", "I've taken dozens of 12+ hour flights.\n\nBuy the unison max strength sleeping pills (the generic Walmart brand is also scarily effective). Take four of them. \n\nYou're welcome.", "I use the opportunity to listen to albums in their entirety, it really gives a new experience even with those I've listened to for years. It also helps me break up the time into blocks, one or two albums, then a movie, then read some chapters from a book, it really helps prevent not becoming too restless. Make sure you remove your socks and shoes so that you are as comfortable as possible, you might even take the opportunity to trim your toenails. Finally, if you're listening to something good make sure you let the other passengers know, sing out loud so they can experience it with you! ", "Get this battery pack: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00BB5GR0A?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00\n\nGet the Lord of the Rings Extended ", "As mentioned before, reading and sleeping. The sound of the plane rushing past great swaths of air is like white noise to me, and I can sleep through turbulence, crying babies, and maybe even a hijacking. \n\nA stewardess once ran my foot over with her cart because I had fallen asleep leaning on my sister and kept putting my leg in the aisle. I didn't even know until after the flight, when she asked me if my leg was alright.", "Bring the charger of your phone/tablet/computer with you in your carry on. Most big planes have USB or regular power outlet. \n\nI usually bring my own earphones too. It works with the built-in entertainment system and is better than the ones provided.", "Work with a language app to learn to read a new language.\nListen to an audio book.\nIf you have access to Amazon Prime, you can download movies or entire series to a tablet or phone.\nThere are fairly cheap battery extenders available.", "I totally read Austria to Germany the first time through, and chuckled at the notion of that being a long flight.", "When I had long flights, I would stay up all night and eat as little as possible. I would get on the flight and pass out. Also try to do something to get the blood moving before you go. Walking around a mall or park worked really well. ", "If you have an iPad:\n- [DuckTales: Remastered](https://itunes.apple.com/se/app/ducktales-remastered/id925209077?mt=8)\n", "Go to the front of the plane and in a panic ask \"Is there a doctor on the plane?\". Hopefully one answers with yes. Then in a calm voice \"I've got this rash can you take a quick look?\". ", "Play some games on your phone/tablet, check out /r/AndroidGaming assuming it runs on Android. I have a Gameboy emulator set up so I can play Pokémon.", "Sleep. Get one of those light blocking eye masks. Get sound blocking earplugs or noise deading earphones. I also had an inflatable u shaped neck pillow. I prefer a window seat so I could lean against the wall. Nap time! \nI brought a battery booster for my phone so i could use it alot. I preloaded smartphone with some movies. Or you could bring a tablet for movies.\n\nDownload some games that work with no Internet access", "You have a rare opportunity to spend 20 hours doing whatever you want with no guilt. Watch the top 10 best films in the world back to back. Read all the Sherlock Holmes books back to back. Watch every Alfred Hitchcock film back to back. Perfect opportunity to increase your knowledge of fantastic films/books which you might not have the time for in your life otherwise. ", "Serious reply - Make sure to take a asprin if you're over 20. Restless leg syndrome is a killer of people. Make sure ever 30 min or so to move your legs around. Otherwise when you finally stand up you could have a blood clot that can kill you. Spread the word too I have seen it happen first hand.", "This trick really helps me. So you first need to set a 'false destination' in your head that is 5 times further away than you actually want to go. You'll get mentally prepared for a 15 hour flight, when your real destination is really only 3 hours away. Then when you are a couple hundred miles out from your real destination, you get up out of your seat and start running up and down the aisle. Make sure to flail your arms. Screaming as loud as you can really helps to sell it. A few other passengers will assist you back to your seat for the landing. If you get lucky, a plain clothes air marshall will help you back to your seat. They're called air marshalls because they can help direct people back to their seats in just this type of scenario. Worry not, you'll be down on the ground and at your destination within 5-10 minutes! ", "Stand up and say \"THIS IS A HOSTAGE SITUATION!! I HAVE A GUN!!!\" Hours of entertainment.... sheer terror and fun all rolled into one fun afternoon flight...", "Long time traveller here. My main things to do are:\n\n* Read\n\n* Sleep\n\n* Watch movies, either those you brought with you or in flight ones\n\n", "[Noise cancelling headphones](http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,2115378,00.asp) like Bose (my favorit)\n\nTake a tablet and pack it with podcast, movies, games, ebooks, comics and an extra battery\n\nsleeping pills and an aspirin. Sleeping pills to get you to sleep ~~-aspirin to reduce the possibility of blood clots.~~ read /u/slamchop [reply](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/39suhv/lpt_request_what_are_some_things_to_do_on_a_long/cs6dvdq) \n\nI usually take my sleeping pills with 2 glasses of white wine, guarantee that I will sleep.\n\nwalk if you can or at lest move all of your joints while seated\n\npack an extra pair of socks. as soon as you get to your seat take your shoes out and put your socks on", "M", "Laptop + NES, SNES, N64, PS1, PS2 emulators. \n\nLast flight I did to Palau I started playing FFIX. Hours of flights (and connections waiting in airports) and I didn't get to any other game...", "I usually play scrabble with the other guy. Listen to music. Read the newspaper.\n\nThen atc pops in with something. They always want something.", "I know reading has been suggested many times, but here's a twist I use to make it special for a trip: I pick a theme, then gather up a bunch of books in that theme. (I can finish a book and a half in a 12 hour flight, so I probably need 3 - 4 just for the travel time of a round trip). Themes I enjoy are either reading the history of the place I'm about to visit, or reading a series. Have you ever had the feeling, in the middle of a really gripping book series, that you wish you could just power through them all without interruption? That's what 12 - hour flights are for.", "I fly 24 hour flights with 2-8hr transits 3 times a year. I watch every single movie on the flight and I go on Reddit at the terminal by guessing the lounge WiFi. \nSometimes I go through the wc3 campaign and play some custom games. Diablo 2, baldurs gate, old crpgs are great on a flight if all you have is a laptop.", "Graphic audiobooks!!! Fantastic way to pass long commutes and flights. Bring good earphones, neck pillow, a lightweight jacket with pockets, and a spare battery/bank for your phone. You'll be plenty entertained and also try to sleep!", "Figure out when it's nighttime at your destination. Go to sleep when you would be sleeping there, and stay awake when you'd be awake there. If nessicary, use sleeping pills. This will help dealing with jet lag.", "Download a cracked version of fruity loops and make music, you wouldn't believe the hours I lost just putting together fun drum loops and melodies. You don't need to be musical and you could end up with a really fulfilling hobby out of it. I did this 5 years ago and I've been addicted ever since", "my first trip from nc to japan, i learned how to do a rubiks cube. the second trip i got my avg time to a minute and a half. just flew to italy and back and i'm at about one minute on average. i prefer it over a laptop or tablet because i hate it when flight attendants tell me to put my stuff away. i do what i want!\n\n", "bring a role of duct tape and make a duct tape wallet.\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAAicTg2tjo\n\nalso handy to tape up the mouth of the kid in front of you....", "Watch a foreign movie. You're not gonna hear anything anyways, so you get subtitles and incomprehensible gibberish ", "Teach yourself how to do a Rubiks cube! Buy a cube, and print out some instructions online. It'll keep you occupied for several hours.", "Sudoku but usually my international flights (Delta) have a bunch of films/music/videos/games in their entertainment system (economy class) both old and new.\n\nIf you haven't heard of it, try Dan Carlin's Hardcore History. It's a great podcast.", "Stay up the whole time before the trip doing stuff you like todo then read on the plane till you fall asleep. I usually only can sleep 6-7 hours max then i watch movies i need to catch up on.", "Sleeping is the best way to spend time in a long flight. Try not to get any sleep the night before the flight and bring some music with a good noise reducing headphones, just in case there is some baby crying all the time. Try to get a window seat so you have someplace to rest your head and wear a hoodie, so you can block light.", "Podcasts and audio books, you dont even need to pay attention to anything, just close your eyes and let the entertainment STREAM DIRECTLY INTO YOUR BRAIN.", "Not sure for you but as an adult I take ambien and noise canceling head phones...... If we crash I will never know or feel it so I am good.", "Listen to Harry Potter on audio! It takes a long time, but is incredibly entertaining and the voice actor, Jim Dale, is extremely talented.", "Likely to be down voted I know, but anti anxiety meds (Benzodiasipims) make a long flight seem like nothing. Likely fairly easily to get a doctor to prescribe a small amount for you, let them know you have a very long flight and are nervous about having issues with anxiety on that long a plane trip with no way to \"leave\". (For me this would only be a small stretch of the truth) . Combine with any other suggestions here (besides the booze, which can be a synergistic combination) and your golden. \n\nOr don't, people have many different attitudes towards altering their consciousness and I'm not suggesting you do anything you're uncomfortable with.", "Laptop/ tablet + Xbox usb contoller + Genesis/Super Nintendo/ NES emulators with full ROM collections = heaven.", "Laptop with extra battery + Pauseable low-CPU no-mouse friendly game (FTL is my go-to).\nThis works for me for ~6 hrs- any flight longer than that and I'd be sleeping.", "Ive found the most comfortable place to sleep is on the tray table.\n\nThere's an amazing classic RPG out on phones now for cheap too, star wars KOTOR - knights of the old republic. ", "If you use gmail (maybe other email providers?) you can make emails available offline. This way, you can take some time to completely reply to emails even though you might not have internet access. When you land or connect to WiFi, boom. Emails sent. This becomes useful as you grow older and have less time to adequately reply to emails.\n\nhttps://support.google.com/a/answer/139154?hl=en", "If you have a laptop download some tutorials you can do offline, read a book, watch two movies, start a TV series, download some new card games on your phone or tablet if you have one(cribbage, solitaire, poker just for fun tho). Sleeping always makes time go by quick ", "If you have a decent smartphone, download some episodes of a show beforehand. Don't know how hard it is to do it on an iPhone (if you have one), but doing so on my Note 4 is a walk in the park. ", "Idk if it's already been posted, but for me I'll just stay up all night before the flight then sleep for most of it, watch an in-flight movie for the rest. ", "I've travelled a lot including Auckland to Vienna via Australia, Asia and London. A couple movies is great for a flight like Australia to LA but for Europe? Sleeping pills. Take some with you weather you think you need them or not. If you use them, try to time things depending on the time of day that you're landing. \nIf you're landing in Germany in the morning, sleep at the end of the flight. If you're landing in the evening, try to sleep for the earlier part of the flight so you're still able to sleep when you get there. \nThey may also be handy to help you sleep at normal times while you're jet-lagged. \nAlso, make sure any valuables are stowed before you sleep. \nAs for other things. Movies, music, reading etc. Take your own headphones because the ones on the plane are always awful. \nYour appetite might be kinda messed up by the time you get there but if you remember to drink water and walk around during the flight then it helps. \nAnd for gods sake, don't eat anything before the flight that could possibly give you food poisoning or the shits. No sushi, mexican etc. You don't want to be that guy. You would think it's obvious but if you read TIFU, it clearly isn't.", "I'm a nerd but on my 14 hour flights to Guam for work, I buy a puzzle book. Crosswords kill alot of time and improves you're vocabulary. Or I pull out my laptop and brush up on my Turkish", "I was always told that if your flight lands during the day (or basically a time when you would be up for 6+ hours anyway) to try and sleep. It helps mitigate jet lag.", "I usually get a window seat, ask for some scotch, and binge watch movies. International flights usually have a really good movie selections. Once I get tired I'll take a short nap, wake up and repeat again. ", "I like to pick up a word search, puzzle book in the airport magazine shop. Many contain a variety of puzzles, so you can switch it up when you get tired of one kind of puzzle. Also good for your brain. Don't forget a pencil.", "I generally either get a book, a video game, or get a bunch of TV shows or movies. On long international flights you usually have in flight entertainment too. ", "I fly quite a bit, NYC -> PVG/HKG. It's a lot of time, the key is setup many activities to do and taking your time doing each one of these. If you are girl then [this] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMqHmJA9Jvo) video is pretty good. I am guy so here's what I do\n\nEye Mask, Noise Cancelling Headphones and inflatable neck pillow are a must! Remove contact lenses prior to takeoff and switch to glasses so you can PTFO when opportunity arises.\n\nDo not touch any alcohol whatsoever, it will fuck shit up pretty quickly, opt for warm milk instead. Melatonin/Bendadryl are mild sleeping aids that can be used. \n\nOrder the vegetarian meal -> Made in smaller batches and higher chance of being freshly prepared. \n\nWipe my arm rest, screen, tray table etc with an acohol swab\n\nChange the time on your watch to the time at destination - Get a heads up on that Jet Lag\n\nAudio Books FTW - Find books that just long enough 10-13 hrs and start the first chapter on the way to the airport.\n\nBinge Watch TV Show seasons - I am flying next month and plan to watch the GOT season to HKG\n\nAfter every meal - I get up and do my dental routine - Floss, Brush, Wash. Apply some face cream and lip balm. Three meals = 3 sessions = 45-60 mins\n\nAfter my dental routine I walk the whole length of the plane on each aisle.\n", "I did Australia - UK last year and on my first leg of the journey I listened to Miranda Hart's audio book. It was funny and enough of a stimulant while I was still very alert. Middle leg I watched tv/movies and third part of my trip I tried to sleep. I'd definitely recommend audio books of something kinda funny because if nothing else it can help you relax enough to sleep.\n\nAlso, I agree with others about noise canceling headphones. They really help to zone out and make you feel less claustrophobic which for at least for me can happen if I'm flying for a long time.\n\nHave fun in Germany!", "I always break flights up into 30 minute segments. I try to bring a series of things to do for 30 minutes each and it seems to make time pass pretty quickly. Podcasts, m", "GOOD HEADPHONES! Flights are too long for shitty ass buds, invest in at least a 50 dollar (or even a nice 80) pair, it'll be so worth it. I also bring a scarf or a light jacket because it can get cold on planes, and I don't like the little blankets they have. Dramamine if you get sick, get the drowsy kind it's worth it to sleep it off. I usually plug my headphones into some nice calm music and drift asleep for the long flight. When you land the time difference is going to majorly fuck with you (someone who traveled from USA to Middle East with a 18 hour time difference), you gotta FORCE yourself those first few days to try and have a proper sleep schedule. Giving in to mid-day naps and late night awareness will set you back further.", "Don't sleep the night prior to the flight. That way you can sleep through most of it. \nDon't watch all the new movies, that way you have some movies to catch up on.\nGet a good set of noise canceling headphones, make a good playlist. Have a couple of drinks and enjoy the next few hours.", "Depending on the airline, they have alot of movies and TV. So catch up on the stuff you may have been meaning to watch while getting obscenely drunk ( be careful, alcohol is stronger in the air. If it usually takes you 12 beers, you might be set on 4-6)", "Buy a bunch of alcohol shooters, get drunk, put headphones in, sleep. \n\nShooters are legal to fly with as they're under 3oz. Buy them before you're flight at the liquor store because they cost a fortune in flight. " ]

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[ "How to get rid that morning funky feeling if you don't have time to shower. 99 times out of 100 I shower in the morning, but on the occasion where I have an off day and run out to the store or something, how can I get rid of that morning crustiness and stuffy feeling besides washing your face?", "How to get rid that morning funky feeling if you don't have time to shower. 99 times out of 100 I shower in the morning, but on the occasion where I have an off day and run out to the store or something, how can I get rid of that morning crustiness and stuffy feeling besides washing your face?", "How to get rid that morning funky feeling if you don't have time to shower. 99 times out of 100 I shower in the morning, but on the occasion where I have an off day and run out to the store or something, how can I get rid of that morning crustiness and stuffy feeling besides washing your face?", "How to get rid that morning funky feeling if you don't have time to shower. 99 times out of 100 I shower in the morning, but on the occasion where I have an off day and run out to the store or something, how can I get rid of that morning crustiness and stuffy feeling besides washing your face?", "How to get rid that morning funky feeling if you don't have time to shower. 99 times out of 100 I shower in the morning, but on the occasion where I have an off day and run out to the store or something, how can I get rid of that morning crustiness and stuffy feeling besides washing your face?" ]

[ "Take a whore bath. Stand in front of the sink. Throw last night's towel on the ground, step on it. Get a wash cloth. Wash your face, pits, crotch, ass crack. You'll note your feet are wet from the above. Briskly towel your feet, between your toes, toss in hamper. Grab a new towel, finish drying off. Keep that towel for tomorrow.", "Dry shampoo does wonders. As you've already mentioned, wash your face (with a good cleanser, then moisturize). Deodorant, of course. If you have time, a quick rubdown with a wet towel, then a dry one. ", "This sounds silly, but I find that washing my ears along with my face makes me feel ten times better. Or taking a wet paper towel and wiping my ears/behind my ears.", "This isn't a shortage of time. It's more laziness, right? If it's just time, then learn to shower in 100 seconds or less. It's easy, particularly if you don't wash your hair every day.\n\nIt won't be a good shower, but it takes perhaps 60 seconds more than most of the alternatives. ", ">but on the occasion where I have an off day and run out to the store or something\n\nLiterally the opposite of what I was expecting.\n\n" ]

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[ "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. ", "how to give your company 2 weeks without burning bridges or letting them know too much information about where you are heading. " ]

[ "The answer to this is: \"Tell your supervisor 'I'm submitting my two weeks notice.' \"\n\nYou don't have to say **anything** else, and odds are very good that doing so will be a mistake. Don't talk shit about your current workplace now **or** after you leave. Don't brag about the awesome new opportunity you've got.\n\nYour coworkers, despite appearances, are not your friends. You're all in the same building because someone is paying you to be there.\n\n", "You burn bridges by saying bad things either directly or by implication. Not directly saying bad things is easy, not implying bad things is harder. If you say my new coworkers are real easy to get along with, it implies your current coworkers are not.\n\nLast time I quit, I made it personal saying the new job allowed me to spend more time with my son. They don't know my new hours, or my son's schedule so there was no comeback.\n\nGood luck on your new job :)", "Politely and in writing. If appropriate offer to make the transition as smooth as possible by training a replacement or making yourself available by phone for questions after you leave.\n\nI'll tell you why. I accepted a position with a start up company in another state. I did all of the above and the company I worked for took full advantage of it. I trained people. They even taped my training sessions for future employees. I left a month later and began my new position. Within a week I started getting phone calls from my previous employer. First from a few managers with simple questions about accounts, clients and some technical issues. Then the company president himself started calling once a day every day and every day he made another offer to bring me back. The offers became more and more attractive. So much so that I couldn't have accepted the money he offered without being suspected of manufacturing the need by the board members. After some negotiations I left my new job and returned to my previous employer though I stayed in the state I had moved to. I worked there for another fifteen years before the company tanked and I retired. I think I did the right thing but none of this would have happened had I severed ties another way.", "Just give a straightforward, nonspecific resignation letter. Walk into whoever's office, say you've decided to pursue another opportunity and that you're giving your two weeks' notice, and hand them the letter.\n\nYou burn bridges by airing your grievances on your way out the door, so rather than telling them why you're getting the heck out of that place, just stick to what you hope to gain by making this change. When in doubt, just be deliberately vague and stick to corporate cliches like \"exciting opportunities\", \"new challenges\", etc.\n\nIn other words, don't say anything that makes it look like you're running away from them. Spin it in such a way that sounds like you're running towards something else.", "Just be honest about it. If it is to better your life than your company should understand this. Yes it might put them in a tough spot but the show must go on. If they can't support your decision than perhaps it is better that the bridge gets burned", "I did the opposite. Left my last employer and had no reason to go back. I never wanted to be in a position to go back so I consciously quit without 2 weeks. This was a revolving door type job where people are treated like numbers. Jobs don't give you a 2 weeks notice when they fire you, so I didn't give it when I quit. \n \nTo answer your questions, just put in your 2 weeks and stay quiet. There's too much drama in talking about details. No need to be polite, just say, \"no comment\" or \"I prefer not to discuss it.\"", "Someone gave me this piece of advice: \"friends come and go but enemies accumulate.\" Be professional. If you are a dick when you give notice, it could burn you down the line in ways you don't anticipate. For my current role my background check involved them calling every employer I've had in the last ten years. TEN. FUCKING. YEARS. ", "Try these:\n\n\"I'm evaluating a couple of offers, and would be comfortable disclosing my next company once I have selected one and signed on the dotted line.\"\n\n\"My next job is still in process. Will share more details once I sign on the dotted line.\"\n\n", "You are not required to tell your current employer who your new employer is going to be. When you give that answer, be prepared to be fired on the spot. Your current employer will make the assumption that you are heading to work for a competitor, and they will usually terminate you immediately. \n\n", "Two weeks isn't nearly enough time to find a replacement. Give ten weeks and you'll earn props for having courage and consideration for the people you've worked closely with." ]

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[ "Keeping wasp hives off my deck These (not always) little fuckers won't stay off my deck. I can't tell you how many cans of wasp spray I have gone though. It just got painted too, which makes the hives even more of an eyesore. I want to enjoy my day off on the deck in the sun studying, but these little flying pricks are denying me this. \n\nIt seems like a new hive pops up every week. Any tips to get rid of them and keep them off?", "Keeping wasp hives off my deck These (not always) little fuckers won't stay off my deck. I can't tell you how many cans of wasp spray I have gone though. It just got painted too, which makes the hives even more of an eyesore. I want to enjoy my day off on the deck in the sun studying, but these little flying pricks are denying me this. \n\nIt seems like a new hive pops up every week. Any tips to get rid of them and keep them off?", "Keeping wasp hives off my deck These (not always) little fuckers won't stay off my deck. I can't tell you how many cans of wasp spray I have gone though. It just got painted too, which makes the hives even more of an eyesore. I want to enjoy my day off on the deck in the sun studying, but these little flying pricks are denying me this. \n\nIt seems like a new hive pops up every week. Any tips to get rid of them and keep them off?", "Keeping wasp hives off my deck These (not always) little fuckers won't stay off my deck. I can't tell you how many cans of wasp spray I have gone though. It just got painted too, which makes the hives even more of an eyesore. I want to enjoy my day off on the deck in the sun studying, but these little flying pricks are denying me this. \n\nIt seems like a new hive pops up every week. Any tips to get rid of them and keep them off?" ]

[ "Put mint oil where ever wasps might make a nest. They don't like it as the eco-friendly wasp killers are made from mint oil. \n", "I Googled a few things which seemed to be recurring themes:\n\n> Paper Bag\nThere is an native trick that works great for repelling yellow jackets. Get a small paper lunch bag and fill it with a crumpled piece of paper so it keeps it's shape. Tie a string to it and hang it from a corner of your house or tree where you want to work. Wasps are territorial and visual in nature, they mistake the paper bag for another nest and will stay away. \n\nHere are more tips:\n\nhttp://www.ehow.com/how_4442999_use-natural-repellent-against-wasps.html", "you can buy fake hives that you can hang up, or you can hang a paper bag up.. either way, the wasps, being territorial, won't make a nest near other wasps. ", "Pee on your deck. Bees hate human urine. Eat some asparagus too. The acid in the asparagus keeps them away longer. " ]

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[ "How to keep account info safe online So within just a couple of months, my debit card info has been stolen, my Microsoft account has been stolen, people attempted hacking into my Google accounts as well. I don't visit malicious sites, I only make purchases through trusted websites, I use different passwords for almost everything, how does my information still get compromised so frequently? What are some tips to help protect your info?", "How to keep account info safe online So within just a couple of months, my debit card info has been stolen, my Microsoft account has been stolen, people attempted hacking into my Google accounts as well. I don't visit malicious sites, I only make purchases through trusted websites, I use different passwords for almost everything, how does my information still get compromised so frequently? What are some tips to help protect your info?", "How to keep account info safe online So within just a couple of months, my debit card info has been stolen, my Microsoft account has been stolen, people attempted hacking into my Google accounts as well. I don't visit malicious sites, I only make purchases through trusted websites, I use different passwords for almost everything, how does my information still get compromised so frequently? What are some tips to help protect your info?", "How to keep account info safe online So within just a couple of months, my debit card info has been stolen, my Microsoft account has been stolen, people attempted hacking into my Google accounts as well. I don't visit malicious sites, I only make purchases through trusted websites, I use different passwords for almost everything, how does my information still get compromised so frequently? What are some tips to help protect your info?" ]

[ "Use something like last pass and use their generated passwords that are like 25 characters, alphanumeric with caps and special characters. ", "First, if you don't already, use strong passwords with symbols, numbers, and letters with varying caps.\n\nOther than that, the most probable cause of all this is spyware on your computer capturing keystrokes and passwords. Try downloading malwarebytes and/or a second opinion antivirus like Hitman Pro 3 to scan for and remove it.", "I use Keypass and have very different and long passwords for everything important.\n\nMy passwords typically tend to be sentences using numbers, caps and symbols that I find childishly amusing so I remember them. \n\nExamples.\n\n\"4 out 5 Great white sharks prefer fat kids!\"\n\"Didn't that chick in Total Recall have 3 boobs?\"\n\"Why the fuck does 1 bottle of Jack Daniels now cost me $50?\"\n\nyou get the idea. \n\nCan also help you with study if you have issues remembering things\n\nYou'll remember \"The atomic number of Gold is 79 and its symbol is AU!\" in no time if its the means to access funds to buy food and whatnot.\n\n\n\nBasically you just need to remember the master password for keypass.\n\nDisclaimer - not a professional by any stretch - it just seems to work for me... so far.\n\n\n\n", "Use 2 factor authentication on your Google account, and any other account which supports it.\n\nUse Google to sign into other services whenever possible.\n\nWhy? 2 factor auth is basically unhackable. If you then use Google as an authentication provider for other services, that guarantee comes with it." ]

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[ "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. 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I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. 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I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. 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I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?", "How to make friends. I've been at University for 2 months now and I wouldn't say i have any friends. I mean sure i know people, talk to people and sit with people in lectures but they just aren't friends like my pals from back home i.e we don't hang out, don't text and generally don't talk about anything other than the work.\n\nSo simply put, how can i make friends?" ]

[ "I have moved around quite a bit and had to make a lot of new friends. It's not a quick or easy process really, so don't feel bad that you're having a bit of trouble with it!\n\nThat being said, here are some things that I have found help out a lot:\n\n1) Like other people said, join a group that meets regularly for some activity (multiple times per week would be perfect, but once per week is ok). When you go, be sure that you're talking to people. Also, if people are doing something before/after the meeting, be sure to go (even if you're tired or busy).\n\n2) Create your own events. You've probably met a lot of people by now, even if you're not best pals with them yet. Organize a party or get-together with all of them. Outside of college, I really like having people over for dinner/brunch/dessert. Inviting people to your home is a great way to get closer to them. If you can't do that (since you probably live in a dorm), maybe have a movie night sometime. Create a facebook event or email a bunch of guys and gals you have met (maybe around 20). It's ok if only half of them show up. Follow up with a couple people you're kind of close to, and if you get only a small group of people to come over, that's ok. At the very least, inviting people to hang out is one of the best ways to get invited to hang out with them.\n\n3) In college I would try to eat breakfast, lunch, or dinner with the same group. I would have breakfast and lunch with people I had a class with before/after the meal. I would have dinner with my roommates. You can start this by just suggesting it to someone you live near or have a similar schedule with, and inviting them regularly.\n\n4) In the end, I think platonic and romantic relationships are formed when you have shared interests/backgrounds, regular interaction, and mutual trust/respect. I've already talked about the first two, but the third (mutual trust/respect) can be a bit hard. These are formed by sharing difficult experiences (e.g., working on a tough project together) or sharing emotional experiences (e.g., having a particularly deep conversation about an emotional topic). After you've hung out with someone for a while, I think finding a time to talk about your deep values/passions is helpful. For friends, it could be talking about how you like that cute girl in your Biology class, but you're afraid to ask her out. Don't spill your heart out all at once, but sharing personal information (that makes you a bit vulnerable) shows that you trust that person, and subtly communicates that you want more than a superficial relationship with that person.\n\n5) Finally, try to be a fun person to be around. Be supportive of people, tell jokes/anecdotes, have ideas of what you can do for fun, and be happy.\n\nSorry this was long, but I hope it helps!", "Go to a student org or activity that you enjoy. Join a study group for your major. That's where your future friends will be.", "Empathy! Don't be the \"me\" guy. Signs that you are the \"me\" guy:\n\n- you start most of your sentences with I: I think, I feel, I saw, I did... etc.\n\n-you are a one-upper or -downer: everything that's ever happened to you is better or worse than someone else's experience\n\n-you interrupt or get distracted in conversations when someone else is speaking, but expect others' full attention when you speak\n\nNot sure if this is relevant to you at all!", "Here is something I read a while back and captured in my notes app.\n\nThe main points to stress are:\n\n * Be positive and fun to be around\n * Add value to your \"friends\" lives\n * People aren't going to beat your door down to hang out with you (unless you're Hugh Hefner). You need to be proactive with regards to your social planning.\n * Approach your development of friends like a social ladder. Befriending anyone at the start and slowly weeding people out as you come in contact with the types of people you are looking for.\n * Be \"there\". If you're not in the mix you're forgotten.\n * Don't be needy\n * Recognize people are total flakes and don't get mad. At some point when your dance-card is full you, too, will be a flake.\n\n> You don't need to be any sort of conversational genius to make friends (and lots of them!). All you need to do to build your social network is to be friendly and proactive. \n\n> To be friendly, you need to focus on the other person's enjoyment. Be optimistic and pump them up with positive emotions. Even the nerdiest people you can imagine have friends. Mainly, you don't want to be negative... either about other people or down on yourself.\n\n> Loneliness often comes from your mindset. When someone feels insecurity, depression, and in general has a poor self image, it's no wonder few people want to hang out with them. \n\n> Remember that in the long run, people only want to hang out with you if they get a benefit from that. If you cause someone to feel negative emotions, they're going to have limited patience with you. \n\n> Also, nobody likes someone who's down on themselves and always wanting you to feel sorry for them. If you have feelings of hostility or sullenness, try to keep them to yourself. \n\n> When you're with friends, let them talk about the things that they want to talk about. Don't be needy. As a stoic, you don't always have to tell your friends everything. You don't always have to steer the conversation towards yourself. \n\n> Next, you need to be proactive. Always assume that others are just lazy about calling you to hang out. After all, why wouldn't they want to hang out with someone as awesome as you? \n\n> Because most people are lazy, take the initiative to call your friends. Don't just expect them to call you. See yourself as the organizer of your social life. You must be the one to take responsibility for everything that you do with your friends. \n\n> Other than that, there are few other guidelines for building your social circle: \n\n> 1. Don't have expectations of your friends. You don't control their lives. Just accept them for who they are—what they do and how they think. \n> 2. Also, even though you're flexible about who you hang out with, don't change your personality in order to conform to peer pressure. \n> 3. Accept that having friends comes at a cost. If you have to leave work early in order to go to happy hour with the guys, then so be it. If you have to cut short your exam study in order to go bowling with a group from class, then have no hesitation in doing so. \n> 4. If you're a sociable person and have got lots of friends, be picky about who you hang out with. The wrong kind of friends can drag you down, but the right kind can pull you up. (It's better to be friends with self-made millionaires than drug-addicted street bums.) \n> 5. If on the other hand you have no friends, don't be picky. Never say \"no\" when someone invites you to do something. \n> 6. When you invite people to do things with you, don't make it inconvenient for them. The more convenient it is, the better. For example, if you know someone's into Star Wars movies, and there's a new one coming out that you know they'll be going to anyway, try to get them to meet you there.\n> 7. Don't get upset if you're always the one to have to call your friends. Remember, most people lack initiative and expect others to do the work. \n\n\n> Finally, the main thing you never want to do in a friendship is to be needy. People won't always call you back, for whatever reason. They'll also skip out on invitations. Just be cool about it and don't let it phase you.\n\n", "I came across this article that references tactics used by a FBI agent. Some tips were pretty good. Check it out: http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/10/how-to-get-people-to-like-you/", "Go to local businesses around your living space. Meet those staff people. Get to know them by their name. Two days ago, I went into this Turkish supermarket (they sell very cheap food) here in Germany (I'm a traveler from America) and learned their names via gestures (I'm Deaf) then gave them sign names and today, I came in and did the sign of their names. They were very pleased and two of those guys introduced me to the other group of Turkish people sitting around a small table. I sat down with them while my meat was being butchered up and gestured around with them. Instantly, one of them asked me if I want to go out with them \"tonight\" ...I assume a club because of the \"dancing\" gesture. I had to decline it because I had plans to explore a Christmas Market.\n\nIn a way, that's how I did it back in USA as well. Just get to know the staff people by their name and call them by the name when you come back in. They will feel that you're a new friend and act as you're their friend.", "What do you like to do. There is generally a group for that. Do you like playing Go? Do you like playing basketball? etc. \n\nThis is a big generalization but Girls and Guys can be somewhat categorized. For girls making friends is all about frequent conversation. Hang out lots etc. So the more you talk to the girl about more things, the close you tend to be become with her. Then you tend to do other stuff.\nFor guys, it's all about activities. Who do you play playstation with, who will play basketball with you, who will go to the sketch 24/7 food joint with you because you always need to eat something at like 4 AM. \n\nThe more that you talk/hang out with people, the closer you tend to become and acquaintances become friends. Invite your study homies to grab a bite after doing some work. You see something cool that you want to do? Invite every single person you know even if you're not really that close with them and just say you wanted to go with another person. Sure, those are only individual instances but they add up and you go from level of meh to super homie gees\n ", "Talk to your classmates while you're working together. The simplest question you can ask is \"So what do you do when you have free time?\" There's, of course, any number of ways to phrase it, but either way you'll take a few minutes of break (beneficial, since when you get back to work your mind is refreshed) and you'll also learn about your classmates. Be listening for things you have in common, or sound interesting enough to learn more about. Be sure to sound excited, and they'll reciprocate. Act casual, but likeably so. Try to invite people to activities with you; in your case, see if anyone you're in class with plays DotA2 and invite them to play with you, or find someone to ride bikes around campus or on a local trail for an hour or two. \n", "I wanted to weigh in on the differences between \"just meeting new people\" and actually \"making new friends.\" The first step to making new friends is of course meeting new people. A quick glance at the other comments in this thread show some awesome ideas for doing that. Get out, get involved etc etc...but just doing this won't insure that you make new friends.\n\n**Meeting new people**\n\n* Get out and do things. It sounds like you're doing a great job meeting people but just stumbling after that. For those that struggle with this step though, sitting on Reddit all day sadly will not help. Look for community events, volunteer, join clubs...go places that almost force interaction and are non threatening environments \n\n**Turning new meets into new friends**\n\nYou need to continue helping the relationship to build with these new people you meet and you need to be proactive about it.\n\n* Make sure to get some contact information to get in touch after the initial place you meet them. This is not creepy, I promise. \n* Be proactive about setting up things to do and inviting these new people you meet. Don't just wait for them to invite you to something or for them to \"make the first move\" to hang out again. \n* If they say they're busy, don't get upset or sound disappointed. Just say \"Hey no worries. I'll hit you up if we do X again\" and most importantly INVITE THEM AGAIN. Some of my current best friends I met randomly, invited to do something, they said no and then I continued to invite them again and again we finally hung out and became great friends. (Not every day lol Don't seem desperate to make friends; that can be creep city)\n* One of my favorite things to do is meet a bunch of new people and then invite all of them to a group event. People are lazy and LOVE social coordinators. Be that guy/girl. Take command of the situation and people will be super happy to have fun things to do\n\n**Keeping these friends**\n\n*Ask not what your country can do for you...Don't be selfish and don't always think about yourself. Show care and effort to be interested in these new friends. Do nice things for them (this doesn't have to be crazy like buying them things. A simple gesture like asking them how a test went or checking on how something went in their life will go a long way). When you do ask about these things, actually listen to what they have to say. This is called caring :)\n\n*Continue to be proactive about hanging out and doing fun things. This is simple. People are lazy and friendships require effort. It's ok to be the guy/gal that pushes this.\n\n", "Just remember it's not easy. I moved to a new city with my Job a few years ago and the first year was pretty lonely. I started making friends by going places and doing things I was interested in. as well as a few at work. but even then, it wasn't anything like the friendships I had built in high school and after. It takes awhile to really become part of a tight knit group. So, take the advice given here, but be persistent and don't give up if things don't work out immediately. sometimes it will take a long time, but you will be better for having invested time into those relationships.", "During my undergrad, I joined a research group in one of my psych classes (I was a psych major) and it was definitely one of the best decisions I made to get me out of my socially anxious shell. I wish I had joined more groups while in school and would strongly encourage you to look into them. \n\nI will say, I have found that most people are just as unaware of how to make friends and meet people. Sometimes being the person to take the first step and show the initiative can really pay off. Good luck!", "If you see people in your dorm partying. Join them with a bottle of your favorite liquor and ask who wants to take a shot. it works everytime", "I suggest finding some fresh cadavers, you will require multiple specimens to complete one fully formed friend. You will wish to cobble together the most preserved limbs and internal organs if you intend to make a quality friend. The vessel complete the difficult part now begins in constructing the brain.\n\nThe traditional method involves using the tissue of the of brains unborn children grafted to a fully developed brain that is bathed in certain regenerative secreted chemicals. I find a much more effective and efficient method is to solder some old Intel chips onto a ball of pulped up Ouija boards and soak the entire thing in a mixture of Old Turkey and cannabis oil. You get a much more laid back personality this way.\n\n\nOnce you have fully configured and customized your friend to suit your needs the final step is the spark of life. I know no one wants to rely on a lightening storm so I have another method that can produce similar results. Find a large car battery and some jumper cables AND MAKE SURE YOU WEAR THICK RUBBER GLOVES.\n\n\n\n ", "“If you go out looking for friends, you're going to find they are very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere.”\n\n\n― Zig Ziglar", "I know plenty of people will disagree because of their experience or television buuuuut if it is available at your university, I suggest visiting some of the different fraternities around campus. Frats get a bad rep and not for everyone. Each house can be quite different and maybe there is one you'd enjoy. I have a solid group of 20 guys that I keep in contact with still. ", "Friendship doesn't magically occur because people exist in the same room. You need to put yourself out there and make an effort. Best way to make friends is to find something you like doing and seek out people who like to do the same thing. Like to be active? Join an intramural league. Like to play video games? Find the next person clutching a controller. Like to help people? Volunteer through your Uni. ", "This won't fix it but it helps. Get off your computer. I'm not sure if you are, but if you're on Reddit or youtube or other sites for long periods of time, for entertainment, it feels like it mimics and can cover up for not having friends. I've noticed in the past that when I didn't have any friends and was stuck as to what to do, I would just go on reddit and youtube to fill that lonely feeling with the entertainment i found on there. Getting off of these sites, forcing you to use your computer for only school/work related things causes you to have to find other ways to not feel lonely. It helped me open up to others cause I didn't want to be alone and there was nothing to help me get away from feeling lonely. After I've been able to make friends and find new people, I go on reddit now carefully, as in I watch how much time i spend and when i do it to make sure i have time for my work and time for my friends. There's an add-on that I used that really helped in stopping viewing these sites called \"Block Site\" whenever you enter the url or try to visit anything that has to do with that site, It blocks it. Hope this has helped", "Read Dale Carnegie books for good strategies on social interaction. How To Win Friends And Influence People is one of the best books I've had on interacting with other people.", "Step 1: Feed them.\n\nThere is no Step 2. If you can cook fantastic! If you can't, a box of cookies or timbits always goes over well. People like food and the people who give them food. Once you feed them, then you can talk to them or do things with them or whatever makes you happy. Because once you feed them they will be your friend. \n\nThis one step plan literally ALWAYS works for me.", "START PLAYING RUGBY!\n\nBest advice I can possibly give. Rugby is not like other sports where the cool people are at the top, and you beg for their attention. Everyone is friendly, and you really end up being close. Go for it!", "Join a club, or go to mixers. If you find it hard to meet people in general then see you student counselor for advice. If you're normally quite an outgoing person but you're in a bit of a rut, then try putting yourself out there more. Ard you in student digs? Is there nobody there you like?", "Be nice to everyone and be friendly. \n\nFriendly people are more approachable, which allows people to put their guads dowm.\n\nGo to events that you like, not just to go. IF You're Not into sports, Don't Go To SPORTS games. Not sure why my phone capitalized the sentence like that. \n\nGo to things you actually like and then you'll run into people with common interests. \n\nDon't make friends for friends sake... make friends with people who inspire you and you find interesting. \n\nGo beyond common interest. Ask them about their family, life and dreams. What are their goals ?\n\n\nIf that doesn't work you can always murder their pet.... people are emotionally vulnerable after a trajedy. Use this to your advantage. ", "join in something that you are interested in - a club or intramural sport. whomever you meet there, you'll already know you have at least 1 thing in common and it will give you an immediate foundation to build upon", "Small talk. A lot of people don't enjoy small talk but it is necessary to establish common ground and give each other something to bond over. ", "Join a club or group that you are fanatic about, be it certain sport, geek/nerd interest, culture, religion, career advancement, or what have you. You will find people who are into it just as much as you do, and some of them will be going to the same classes.\n\nDon't stress too much about it. If you are lucky in life, you will make a few pals who would have done anything for you, and you them, until life changes it or not. A bit the same as the friends you might have had back before you became a teen, who might still be besties or not.\n\nAlso don't let any difference be the difference, unless it is against Uni policy. Be nice, trusting, but not gullible. Be willing to try out new things like the movie \"yesman\" but have set boundaries that you will never break. Knew some of the cooks, shuttle bus drivers, TA, and a ton of other people. It is possible to be friends with your roomates and half the people to the left, right, and next to your room, but if it does not work, don't force it or appease it. \n\nGet a feel of who on your block or corridor share the same interests, or majors.\n\nComing from someone who much much prefers solace in solitude. \n\nAlso as someone who is still youngish, F you youngsters have it easy with technology, don't have to wait for days to reach family a State, a country, or a continent away during emergency. What is stopping you using technology to find out who are around your age and into the same thing within a short distance around you?", "How to make friends easily:\n\nOne - be attractive\n\nTwo - be interesting\n\nThree - don't be ugly or boring", "** Warning - Warning **\n\nDon't use *any* method of making friends to find a girlfriend. It doesn't work. ", "\"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.\" \n\n--Dale Carnegie \nHow to Win Friends and Influence People ", "you play sports? uni intramural sports leagues are a great place to meet people. not like vompetitive versus other unis, like a league within your school. i played floor hockey, basketball, golf and ultimate frisbee intramural at uni and met most of my friends there.", "wait for conversation to chime in on usually initiated by the professor saying something dumb or confusing, maybe ask someone about homework... then repeat on the weekends but this time ask after if they're heard anything going on for the night after small talk. ", "think about what you enjoy, hobbies etc. If you dont have any, pick one. Get into it. Friends will normally come with time.\n\nRemember to try and be sociable and communicate with others during this hobby time.", "http://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/04/17/how-to-make-friends-in-a-new-city/\n\nhttp://www.artofmanliness.com/2008/10/28/how-to-make-friends/\n\nhttp://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/12/09/how-to-build-unscaleable-relationships/\n\n", "go places that you love and meet people. i dont mean say hi my name is bob. I mean really meet them, find out about them. Make a connection, and LISTEN!! be genuine. figure out what you have to offer them that they are in need of. ", "first things first, a positive personality really helps. Not very many people wanna make friends with a gloomy reincarnation of depression. There was a guy in boarding school who would always fly down the stairs with a loud \"yeahoooo\" every morning, as well as quiet girl. Guess who is the one I will remember to the day I die.\n\nyou also wanna join groups (like a group for doing homework or sports or whatever). The more people you are around, the more you interact with them, and the more friends you make.\n\nOf course you gotta have the ability/courage to talk to people. to me it's really helpful to remind myself that courage is not the lack of fear but acting in spite of it. Even tho the c awkward sileonversation can end up being awkward. Not talking =awkward silence, talking = nice conversation or awkward silence. As a mathematician I say that not acting socially awkward has the Strategic dominance.", "You're in college, that's the easiest time to make friends. Talk to people in group projects, ask to hang out in your off time. Join an activity and do the same.", "You should join a club with your interests and attend regularly, these things take time. Just be yourself and don't force anything. I think most people struggle socially their first year of college, so you're not the only one.", "You need to find your calling. Took me 30 years to start making good friends, met them all because I started LARPing", "You cannot just simply make a friend. You can just wait for the right person and then you will just bond. I moved abroad, and after two years I can say I know lots of ppl and met lots but only made maybe one friend, because im not sure yet", "Yes join clubs. Yes think about your body language, how you are speaking, eye contact etc. But also really just throw yourself out there, be a person who initiates activities, talks to anyone, invites people around to your place for dinner or cheeses! Be confident, sometimes you will miss but often you will make a new friend, and through them more new friends!", "Write a script for a fun little 2 minute movie. Make it about whatever you want, just don't make it a school project. Grab some cheap props, costume pieces and perhaps some wigs then go to campus and see who stops to give you a hand.", "When you're talking with the people you sit with in lectures, ask them questions. Ask them what they did last weekend. Really, ask about anything, try to get them to open up, even a little bit, and try to find similarities between the two of you. Always use their response as a chance to expand more and get to know them more. They went skiing over the weekend? Where did they go? What type of skiing do they prefer? Have they been skiing long? Each response they give opens up more questions you can ask, more similarities you can draw, and that's how friendships are formed. ", "When I was a student, the most simple way for making buddies was sharing weed at parties. Everybody starts loving you instantly. ", "When I got to college I didn't know a soul on campus - not even one, and we're talking 16,000 students. It's daunting, so I get it. What I think you should take stock of first is this: many of the established groups of friends in college that you see around together early freshman year know each other from high school or earlier, so they didn't necessarily do very well at meeting new people in college either. And when they do it's from the safety of a group. When I visited my friends from HS at their school as freshmen they were all hanging out with each other and not many other new faces, so it's awkward for everyone at first. \nI'm very fortunate that I've always found it easy to make friends - I come from a lineage of social, extroverted people and I play lots of sports (honestly sports is the primary way I've met my friends my whole life). All of the recommendations about joining clubs, playing sports, organizing activities - they're all solid. But as much as you can, relax and be confident. Look people in the eyes, listen actively, and be up for anything. It's especially difficult to be the guy/girl who is integrating into an already-established group of friends. I don't have many tips for you there. Either they are collectively welcoming or they're possibly not worth your time. I bet it will be somewhere in between and you'll get along with some more than others and the group will evolve from there. \nI did NOT follow this next suggestion myself but you can learn from my mistakes: get your school work done early whenever possible - you'll be less stressed/more fun to be around and more able to randomly join some people for the stupid spur-of-the-moment shit that makes college so awesome.\n", "What works best for me is sitting beside someone who is also alone in lecture. I usually start the conversation by complementing them on their shirt or shoes etc. then it's surprisingly easy to talk after that! I've made 4 life-long friends by this technique so it worked great for me - might be worth a try! ", "What kind of personality do you have and what kind of social lifestyle were you into back in high school? Depending on your preferences, I would also recommend just joining some random clubs or organization. For me, I joined a national co-ed service fraternity called Alpha Phi Omega and made the best friends in that organization. It's a dry fraternity with no hazing with focuses on community service, friendship, and leadership. However it will vary by chapter to chapter how it is socially. ", "What is a friend? What do you want from a \"friend\"?\n\nSomeone to spend time with in the evenings and on weekends? Doing what? Someone to go places with? Where?\n\nWhat does it mean to have a friend? How is a friend different from the interactions you have with the people you see daily?\n\nPhilosophically speaking of course.", "What are your interests and what do you like? Simply put, the only people in the world you can attract are those that are like you. What would you talk about or do with somebody not like you? Join a club or start one for things you like. Be friendly and inviting towards others, don't be rude, and you'll make friends very quickly. Even ask classmates to study with you after class maybe. ", "Walk up to a person or group of people around your age and start a conversation. Most of the time you won't really click with people, but sometimes you will, if you find you like the chemistry with people, ask them to hang out in a more private setting. A restaurant or movie or just in your room. Eventually you will cycle the people you are around and find a nice group of friends. While doing this be confident and always have your best interests in mind. Know you are cool, know other people are cool, and know you should think each other are cool. Good luck", "Volunteer for something! It's a great way to meet people, and feel rewarded by doing something for others. 🙂", "University is the easiest time, especially if you're in first year. Usually they encourage you to be fearless and friendly to all your peers. This usually leads to friendships. If you're having trouble you should consider joining a few clubs, get really active. If you're a little bit shy, the video game clubs are easy enough to mingle. Talk shit, bond over some games, then hang out in each other's dorm rooms playing video games. Do other nerdy stuff together, watch anime, go see marvel cinematic movies. If you're an athlete, try some intramurals. After a few good games, ask if anyone wants to get a drink with you? Sometimes you have to make your own opportunities. Go to a board game cafe. Practice picking up and talking to girls. This is how I got over my agoraphobia.", "Try to ask your classroom acquaintances a couple questions about the class material. Perhaps ask them to study with you or review a practice test before an exam. Maybe do it over lunch before or after class. All it takes is a small step before you looking to make more and more plans.", "Treat them like they're already your friends! Invite them over, shoot shit, make jokes and be yourself. This way the people that don't want to be your friend will actually stay away, whist the people who actually have aligned interests and personalities with you will gravitate towards you.", "Top ways to make friends in college 1. parties! Literally you will meet so many people there, everyone is there to socialize, no one will shut you down because they don't know you, just be friendly, don't be a douche 2. Study groups, join one! Literally everyone needs a study group, it's so much easier to study for tests, you will make tons of friends, there are usually some groups in quads, just join one. 3. Amateur sports, join them, you will meet mates for life's 4. Clubs ", "To be honest, I'm in the same situation as you. I'm in my third year in university and I wouldn't consider having any \"close\" friends compared to the ones back home either. I have tried initiating hang outs and such but that has failed so I stopped. \n\nDefinitely agree with the people above who say join a club and/or sport that interests you. That's how I met my best friends back at home. I did that here at Uni and have met tons of new people but since being injured and lots of work/school, has kind of put me back to square one.", "This might get buried at this point, but take an Improv class. You'll learn how to get better at reading people. You'll get better at going with the flow. You'll get better with joking casually and genuinely being yourself around strangers. You'll get better at taking social risks, because improv teaches you that risks are never wrong. Even when they don't work, they are not wrong.\n\n At least that was my take away. It really helps you break out of your shell, and approach things in a much more \"Yes, and!\" way. Even if improv is not a career you choose to go into, I cannot think of a single person who would not benefit from a class or two. PLUS! You get to meet a bunch of awesome people who, like you, are also trying to break their shells. Give it a try.", "This may be repeat as I'm sure this is in there somewhere but consider joining a fraternity/sorority. I did when I moved away for college and made some great friends.", "This is something that you might already do, but get off your phone. If you're at a classroom, group activity, or a party, just don't bring your phone or turn it off. \n\nI've realized that a lot of times I don't interact with people is because I can fill my time browsing the internet or messaging other people. \n\nGetting off your phone helps you be in the moment.\n", "This is probably kind of stupid advice but I've met multiple close friend circles by just kind of awkwardly engaging guys wearing band shirts I recognize. I've sort of noticed music taste vaguely effects lifestyle habits and also now you have something non consequential to discuss.", "This has been asked before on Reddit.\n\n1) Frequent, unforced contact: Put yourself in a position where you see the same people regularly, such as a group or team.\n2) Shared interests: Talk about things you like and speak up when someone mentions an interest you share. Notice someone in a red wings hat? Tell them you're a leafs fan and ask if they want to watch the game when those teams play.\n3) Active listening: Listen to people, but participate in the conversation. Show you understand and provide insight.\n4) invite people to things: Friendship is a two way street, not something a person gives you. \n5) be interesting: Read books you can recommend, learn jokes or stories, and watch something popular like game of thrones. \n6) Be attractive: Bathe and groom regularly, wear clean clothes that are in good condition, get a haircut, shave.", "Think about what your values and interests are, and do things people with your same values and interests would do.\n\nYou aren't going to go to a bar once, and meet your new best friend...\n\nBE PERSISTENT.", "There is no trick, meet people you like. Ask them where they hang out, meet more often. After sometimes you can consider them friends.", "The simplest way is to literally treat everyone you encounter as if they are already your best friend. I did this at work, a couple people were treating me not so nicely. Instead of being rude back I treated them as if they were my best friends, even called them my best friends. At first they chuckled at my little \"joke\".. a couple weeks later I was being invited to happy hours with them hanging out and laughing having a grand old time. It works.", "The most important first step is to not worry about 'who you want to be friends with' like if there's a group of people on campus who seem cool or all hang out or you look up to them- don't bother because you will always feel out of place and inferior. Make friends with the people you initially write off as 'a little nerdy' or 'not the cool crowd'. It's against instincts but I promise those people will appreciate you and be more genuine than the people you think are cool. Second most important step is to find one person and take initative in hanging out with them- don't let potential friendship fade away because of anxiety or laziness. Just do it. ", "The key is to establish rapport. Let's say you want to become friends with Mike and Matt, the more you see them and interact with them, the closer you become to officially becoming friends. You can hang out with Mike and Matt once and have a great time, but that won't make you friends automatically... It's all about repetition. ", "The best way to make new friends is to pursue what you enjoy and find other people who enjoy those activities. This may sound like general advice but friends in high-school are generally friends of circumstance. Uni is more difficult because you make the choice of with whom you associate. Figuring out yourself is the key to making new friends. Best of luck! It's all part of growing up", "The best advice here is to join student organizations. Another thing to remember is that it takes time. Two months isn't that long and in my experience friendships often take longer than that to form. ", "The best advice I ever got was here on reddit. (I wish I could remember who it was). They said to treat making friends like dating. And by dating, they meant: 1. Put youself out there, and take initiative when an opportunity arises. 2. Try to foster a connection, and put in sincere effort. 3. Accept the fact that sometimes, people won't be interested, and that's okay. 4. It has to be a two-way street; if someone else does not match you effort, it might not work out. 5. If it doesn't work out, it's not a failure, just a lack of chemistry. 6. Sometimes, when it's right, it'll just happen and will leave you wondering how it did :)", "Team sports are great, the camaraderie is fun. Also be prepared, it costs money to have friends, going out and exploring.", "Talk to those people in your class once the class is over. Talk about something that made you think/feel a certain way, and chat it up until one of you has something to do and the conversation has to end, or just dies off. Do this a few times with the same person/people and eventually you all will realize that the other is cool people, and you can exchange some form of contact info. At that point, just chat it up every now and then. Acknowledge them when you pass by them in the halls. Make friends with one other person, and you're likely to make friends with their friends as well. It's what happened to me. I made friends with one circle, and because I was hanging out with them I had the chance to talk to another person and meet a second circle of friends, and then because I knew the second circle I had the chance to make friends with a third circle. The first circle broke up because most of them moved away, and then the second and third circles combined. Now, I have *another* circle with a bunch of guys from one of the fraternities on campus even though I'm not in one, who also joined the combined 2nd and 3rd circle. One thing to prepare yourself for, is that you will lose some friends. It is inevitable that some will move away/drop out, and you may lose interest in keeping up with them. Don't feel guilty for it, because it happens to a lot of people and there's no sense beating yourself up over it.", "Talk to people, like really, say hello, tell them about you, ask them about them. Ask them to do things with you, like: \"hey, I want to start X sport, do you wanna come\" (preferably ask more than one person).\n\nThe best places to talk to people are at place where you can find a common interest: go to clubs orgs, do sports, whatever you want that you like.", "Talk to people regularly.\n\nGo to the dining hall and sit next to people, introduce yourself, begin conversation.\n\nSit in common areas and find people you don't know, introduce yourself.\n\nJoin a fraternity is the best way in my opinion to gain a lot of friends very quickly. and no you will not be \"paying for friends\" but you will have a bond with those people that is very strong.", "Take initiative! You can break the barrier between friendly acquaintances and friends by asking/offering them to hang out outside of a required setting like a classroom or school cafeteria. When you're with a group of people you enjoy talking to in class, ask if they want to grab pizza later that night or the weekend. Once someone decides to hang out with you on their own time, you will get to a closer level of friendship", "Strike up a conversation with someone you sit next to. Cause trouble in class. Bond over it. Hang out.", "Step1. Do shit together.\nStep 2. If step 1 made you and the other person happy. Try to repeat step 1 with the person.\nStep 3. Repeat step 1 and 2 for as long as you or the other person wishes. ", "Step 1) Identify someone you would like to be closer to. \nStep 2) Identify something they do that you can see they take pride in. (their car, their humor, their hair... anything they spend time working on) \nStep 3) ASK THEM QUESTIONS ABOUT IT. Show true interest in them. COMPLIMENT them on their success in that particular area. It is impossible to not warm up to someone after being flattered.\nStep 4) Come up with something you need help with. If it involves their \"prideful thing\", even better.\nStep 5) Ask them for help.\nThey are more likely to help you after your flattery... and the time they spend helping you will help form a bond. Remember, compliments are gold. Its not about making friends. Its about making people want to be your friend. ", "Step 1) Buy this book. Dale Carnegie's \"How to win Friends and Influence People\" http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003WEAI4E/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1\n\nStep 2) Read this book\n\nStep 3) put this book into practice\n\nStep 4) Repeat steps 2-4 as often as needed\n\nWhen I read the book and took the class there are a couple things i took from it.\n1) the first rule. Don't Criticize, Condemn, or complain. Nothing turns people off to you as much as doing those.\n2) Be a good listener. Another example of the 80/20 rule. Listen 80% / Talk 20%. Not only listen but actually pay attention. Put your phone down and have a conversation. Don't interrupt people when they are talking.\n3) Make the conversation about them. Ask people about their interests. Talk about what they like, not about what you like. \n\nMaking friends is tough. You need to get the other person to be interested in you and that doesn't happen right away.\n\nAnd 1 more thing...\n\nNEVER EVER EVER EVER be a story topper. Everybody knows what I'm talking about. It's one of the very first things I will notice about a person and I can't stand people that are story toppers.", "Start by doing things. Go to the gym, study in common areas, strike up small talk here and there, if you see someone with something you have a connection, say.. a tshirt they wear about something you like, mention it \"great shirt mate, something something, hey, im ____ whats your name? what course are you in? cool?\" etc.\nAfter a while of doing things, you will of course, make friends.\n\nBe outgoing, be confident, be interesting. If you dont think you are those things, than first of all — become those things.", "Sports. Joining student clubs is one way but a lot of people are there for the club, not friends (I go to the neurosci club bc I like neurosci). Sports however, it is much more normal to considerate your sports mate a friend, and go for beer or food after. Plus it's healthy.", "Something that usually works for me (a shy college student) is forming study groups, aka if you kind of hang out with a person or group of people ask them if they want to get together to study for a certain test, finish a protect or something, in my experience most people say yes to that, then you can either start hanging around more in class or ask them to get together again whenever you have something else to do, and generally those things lead to starting to hang out outside of school too. If you get together with a group and you don't like them or they don't seem to like you ditch them and find a new group ", "Someone once explained it to me like this. You just need to regularly share multiple spheres with someone, and they become a friend. A coworker you also play Scrabble with becomes a friend. A classmate you also get drinks with becomes a friend. Invite someone to join another sphere with potential for regularity. If it's a good fit, and you're nice, you've made a friend.", "Smile at people you recognize when you see them, and say hi. That alone will make a lot of people like you. ", "Small talk. Don't over do it or make it awkward by over-talking, especially if they don't seem interested, But small talk can go a long ways. Also test it out on people, I mean there are probably hundreds of people you literally won't see again, so there are plenty of people to \"test\" conversations/small talk on. \n\nI'll talk to myself in a semi serious but funny tone.\n\"*whisper*, who the ffuu doesn't bring a pencil to class. Oh me that's who. *looks around*\" \nThen whom ever chuckles or talks back, or lends you a pencil, is a good person to \"test\" But make sure you give it back :D. if you are ignored dig through your bag and pull out a pencil and whisper \"aaawwwweee, yea!, backup has arrived\". \n\n-- or if you game\nExchange steam names, see what they have on their game list, then you have games to talk about.\n\n-don't stalk", "Simply put, making friends with someone is when you find some similar values or character traits that both of you have. \n\nAs a tip on making friends:\n\nDON'T BE WEIRD! Be yourself! (what I mean by that is, know what your values are and be comfortable with who you are)\n\nLearn their name (Their name is the most important sound to them)\n\nBe genuinely interested in the other person \n\nAsk questions (The one who asks the questions controls the conversation)\n\nBecome an Empathic Listener\n\nCompliment (not flattery)\n\nMaking friends is more about the other person than you (sorry to burst your bubble)\n\nIt is possible to be friends with everyone but understand that not everyone will have the same interests or passions as you.\n\nAlso, for things to change, you have to change. \nIf you need any help, feel free to message me.\nPersonal development books and audios go a long way!\nIf you are interested, check out this book \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\"\n[HERE](http://www.shop.com/How+to+Win+Friends+and+Influence+People+Hardcover+-251987482-o+.xhtml). (That link is to my website. If you are curious on how to save money in the future, create a free account/message me)\n\nThis is one of the most popular books of all time and it has helped me make hundreds of friends around the area and get on the spot hires for job interviews!\n\nHappy Friend Making!\n\n-Jason", "Simply put OP, it takes time. Usually within your major you'd have a fuckton of people starting with you but after the first semester or so you'll find some people to hang out with and over time they become your friends. It doesn't happen all at once. Just be open minded and friendly of those you encounter every day. ", "Simply ask, I'm sure you are a liked person! It won't hurt to ask someone to hangout and if it feels weird; start with asking them to study together for something in school. It guarantees you have something to talk about and you can get to know them in the mean time. Ask for their phone number too and then you can text them about school and eventually other things. GET AFTER IT!!!!!", "School is the last chance you have to make friends because once that's finished it becomes (literally) not possible. It's also extremely easy in school. ", "Remember that some friends you will have are not ment to be your friends forever, only just for some peroid of time. And thats a good thing, matey. ", "Reading how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie helped me significantly. Also I know it's cliche but be your self. Gain control of your ego eliminate conscious thought/worry and go with the flow of conversations. \n", "Read self-help books on social dynamics. Pick-up artists can actually be a good source, especially the ones that focus on inner game. Once you are the kind of person that people naturally want to be around you will have a limitless supply of friends. David Deangelo is a good one. How to win friends and influence people is also a good read. \n\nDon't read this the wrong way. I'm not assuming you are a jerk or aren't fun to be around. I am assuming you're the kind of guy who hasn't learned to be comfortable being yourself in a new social environment. \n\nHope this helps. Good luck!", "Push yourself past your comfort zone. If you can find an event/activity that you want to experience, then go alone. You'll meet other people just like you. If you get that feeling like you shouldn't go alone or tell yourself reasons why you shouldn't go, then you definitely should. You're pushing past your comfort zone. ", "Prolly burried but making freinds is about meeting people and this is the easiest way to do it.\n\n\"Yo i like your *something he\\she is wearing* thats sweet.\"\n\"oh thanks\"\n\"Whats your name?\"*stick out hand for handshake*\n\nAnd there you go you met someone now when you see them you can say hi and theyll most likely remember your face. Overtime youll get better at bullshitting people and theyll invite you places and then youll end up back at square one cus you got so good at bullshitting you had to be alone for a while and find yourself.\n\n", "Pick a hobby or some sport. Look online for groups or college forums. I've had great success with Meetup.com. The hardest part is getting off your butt and going. ", "Personally I just did homework in the lounge of my dorm, and ate with the same group of people for lunch. Find people common topics to talk about and you'll eventually get to know a few people pretty well. Once you have reasons to do stuff besides homework and lunch, then you are basically friends.", "One who looks to find friends wont find many, but one who looks to be a great friend finds many.\n\nThis is me paraphrasing a quite I read recently.", "One thing I'll say for interactions with people in general; try to make someone laugh. Flirting with people you want to date, be friends with, or just networking in general, laughing always makes things easier.\n\nAnother thing I'll add is don't get down on yourself for not making friends right away. Two months isn't really that long of a time, especially when you're dealing with other college age kids, some of whom probably grew up with each other.\n\nI'm a student too, but I'm a lot older than most people I take classes with. Most people don't want to be friends with the 'old guy' in their class; it's nothing personal and doesn't mean I did anything wrong. Same thing for the town I live in, it's very clique-ish and difficult to become friends with people because everyone grew up with their friends (people often are born here, raised here and die here). Once I've made friends with one of them their clique is way more accepting. Even now after being here for 11 years most of my friends are from a different state.\n", "One thing I realized, but am still struggling to do myself is: Just go ahead and make the first step. Ask them to hang out, watch a game, to something you both enjoy... \nSome might reject you, but most will be just as glad as you would be if someone asked you- ", "One of the most liberating times of my life came when I stopped worrying about having friends, and started asking myself why I thought I wanted them so badly.", "One important tip I haven't seen elsewhere in this thread: Keep an open mind about people.\n\nThe people who become your close friends later in life may not match the \"profile\" of your previous friends from high school, and they may not fit your preconceived ideas about the types of people you'd want to hang out with. But if you can get past that, you may have more in common with them than you think.\n\nI was terrible at this stuff when I was in college. I had strong ideas about the types of people I should associate with, so I'd show up at their parties and wander around half-drunk, trying to engage them. It was a terrible tactic, and I'm sure I came across as lonely and strange.\n\nMeanwhile, I was almost certainly closing doors to other potential friendships because they didn't fit my ideas about the types of people and social groups I'd want to be part of.\n\nThe best friendships are build on common interests, not the sort of tribal groups that form in high school (jocks, goths, whatever). So, as other people have suggested, the best way to make new friends is simply to identify what you're interested in and find others who are interested in the same thing.\n\nCollege is a great place to do this. If you're a closet D&D geek, now's the time to join a club and feed your inner nerd. If you've always wanted to take up mountain climbing, your college probably has a club for that, too, and there will be others who are new to the sport, and you can compare notes with them about the challenges you face. Some of your fellow mountain climbers will be wildly different from your friends back in high school -- that just means your world is expanding.", "Once you find someone that makes you think \"hey, they are kinda cool/nice,\" go tell them you'd like to be friends. Odds are they will be flattered and start inviting you to things with their friends! I'm awkward as fuck but this works! I'm like a 12 year old that says \"I like your shoes! Let's be friends!\"", "Not sure if it is already posted, but invite people out. Be the one to initiate. Chances are a lot of people are in your situation and would jump at the chance.", "Need things to talk about with people you've just met? Think FORDS:\n\nFamily \nOccupation\nRecreation\nDreams\nSports \n\nAnd play off of what they say. Oftentimes you'll find yourself able to connect your FORDS with theirs and hit it off! ", "My first piece of advice for making friends at a university is this: if you live in dorms, leave your door open as much as you can and try to be inviting and talkative to others that stop by. \n\nAnother option is to spend a lot of time in the common area of your dorm. You'll meet the group of people who hang out there a lot and make some friends. \n\nAs others have said, finding a group or club that meets regularly is good too. That way you'll see then on a regular basis and have a point of conversation if you see them elsewhere during the week. \n\nAlso, eating meals with the same group of people really helps, but that kind of only applies if you have a meal plan and everybody eats in the same area. \n\nMost of my best friends I made last year (my freshman year at university) were from the last two things. I didn't even become good friends with them until the second semester, so there's always hope to meet new people!", "My best go to is to plan an activity.\n\nMy first friends in college invited me into their dorm to play darts (ended up being throwing magnets at a wall) and if they didn't I probably never would have met them because they're really shy and they had a challenge doing that as an outgoing thing.\n\nThrowing a ball around, bowling, or any game or activity (video games are perfect as well) that cause interaction and don't require conversation to continue (because conversation is hard when you don't know the person). Do this twice, they're going to want to be around you and you're probably going to want to be around them.\n\nOften they'll come in bundles so you get one and making more is much easier.", "My 2 cents:\n1. Work in a workplace with a high or massive employee turnaround. It doesn't have to be a shitty place, just a place that has lot's of people coming and going. Something seasonal will also do since you get to work and meet with lot's of people in a short period of time. This really helps to make friends or just practice to get to know new people fast.\n\n2. Never judge. If you get to know a new person sometimes we really judge them by the \"cover\" - where they are working, living, went to school. Just talk to them as if they are already you're friends and avoid making any assumptions. You'll see you get to know people much better this way. ", "Meet new people, not in in hopes that they will be your friend, but to gain perspective. You can learn a lot from someone you only meet for a moment. You'll see that you're not the only one who had a bad day, watched a great football game, has family back east etc. \n\nListen to what they have to say and do it sincerely. People love to talk about themselves. Let them talk and they will enjoy your company for hearing what they have to say. Simply asking someone how they are doing will break the ice quite nicely and they will appreciate the concern.\n\nBe positive and uplifting towards others. Nobody wants to be around someone who is always negative. Pay them genuine compliments. It can be as simple as saying \"that's a great story.\"\n\nLook for areas where you can find common ground. You'll rarely see eye to eye with everything someone has to say, but if you find a topic they are passionate and that you also have an interest in, focus on that. They will enjoy your company more by associating you with the things they enjoy doing. You can find friends to do different things with this way. One may like making music the other may enjoy hiking. \n\nMaking friends is not easy, especially good ones and especially as you get older. But if you treat people well they are more likely to remember you.\n\nAlso don't associate yourself with people who will bring you down, mentally, physically, or emotionally. They bring out the worst in you. Some times it's yourself that is that person and changing yourself is hard. But if you want to not only make a friend, but keep friend, then you'd better learnt to communicate properly.\n\n", "Making friends will always be the same, just kinda easier when you're a child. \n\nFind something you like to do, then find a group of people who do that thing you like to do, start doing that thing with those people. Now you have friends. \n\nAlso, don't be a dick. That's kind of a big rule if you want lots of friends. ", "Make sure you compliment them on something that was a choice, not they were born with. \nNice shoes (they picked out those shoes)\nLovely freckles (had no choice)\n\n\n", "Make plans with people. Friendships require initial investment. Reach out to the people you talk to in lectures or around campus, ask to grab lunch, see if they are going to any sporting events.", "Make a habit of asking questions and genuinely being interested in people and other people's interests. The more interested you are in a variety of people of activities, the more interesting you become... ", "Laugh at their jokes. I promise you if you get someone's jokes they will appreciate you. So work on getting a sense of humor. ", "Late to the party here so this'll be buried but I haven't seen meetup.com mentioned yet. I moved to a new city about a year ago, didn't have any friends in the area so I signed up for some groups around here. I've found a ton of friends now and always have someone to hang out with.\n\nThe great thing about meetup - and what's different than just chatting up someone in your normal, day-to-day life - is that most people are there for the same reason as you: to make new friends. And you can usually find a bunch of different groups for specific interests.", "Keep your chin up. Keep putting yourself in situations to do things with people. Keep smiling--people want to hang out with happy people. And once you do hang out with people, a key is to latch onto something someone says and set up the next hangout \n\nIts terribly hard to believe, but the honest truth is this is completely normal. I didn't really feel like I had a go to \"friend\" like, real confidence, real close, real honest hang out buddy until April or May of Freshman year. Then everything just came together, everyone bonded. Now that I'm a year out of university and have had the discussion with others, we all felt the same way. You don't realize it because you've never been dumped completely friendless before, but even starting high school, freshman year you likely knew someone there or could at least still lived near grammar school kids.\n", "Keep talking about the work -- those are the best friends to make in the long run. \n\nThat and find a girlfriend - one that talks about the work. ", "Just talk to someone, ask them about whatever they are doing and have a genuine interest in what they say. It has never, ever failed me. Don't be a snobby neckbeard type who always naysays everything, or one ups, or has something better to say or do. If someone tells you they just got done working, ask what they do. Once they tell you ask them to explain it. Actually take in some fucking information and don't pretend to learn something about them, actually learn something. Being a kid is fun, but acting like a child when you're an adult is a surefire way to secure yourself as a lonely sap. ", "Just started a new job and I am one of the youngest here by quite a few years. Though the rest of the crew was nice, they weren't exactly keen on being friends with me. Met one guy and it started off with a common sense of humor. Turns out he likes the same style of games as I do. Those \"turns out they like the same thing I do\" will come more often than you think. It all starts with a small thing you have in common and expanding on it. My biggest piece of advice (someone who moved around here or there as a kid) is to let friendships develop naturally. If you try to force them or speed up the process, you will alienate yourself with that person. Have fun :)", "Just specifically sit near people you think youd get along with, then start talking to them. Then one day just ask to do something outside of class. You'd be surprised more often than not there are tons of kids who feel the same way and are down to hang. The other day some random girl asked the class who was going to see star wars because she had no one to go with and I was like \"sure Im down\" \n", "Just a few thoughts: friends come from getting to know other people. You can have things in common which is easier or not have things in common which is harder to do. I'd recommend just talking to people I know your classes or the cafeteria. You can make some comment on the class or school or whatever. The thing that helps me connect the quickest with strangers is to get them to talk about things that they enjoy. A person can generally talk forever about themselves or things that they like. You just listen and before you know it, you've had long conversations. It also helps to genuinely try and care or have an interest in the person you're talking to. Remember their name etc. \n\n&nbsp;\n\nI know grammar is bad. I was lazy. ", "Join something. A team sport, an academic club, a frat, a volunteer group, an anything.\nYou will be forced acquaintances at first. Then you'll go through some shit together (good or bad). Then presto, friendship.", "Join any given student organization where you spend time together planning activities outside university. Go have drinks. Talk. Make friends. ???. Profit.", "Join a kickball team. There's usually Fall, Spring and Summer leagues in a decent sized town. You don't have to be athletic or good at kickball, it's mostly a place people go to get together to drink and hang out. Usually you can sign up to be placed on a team which could either result in you getting placed on a team where everyone knows each other which is good because then it's an established group you get to join; alternatively you can get placed with all new folks and then y'all are the group now.", "Join a club (teams and organizations are fine too) that does an activity that you like. Hang out with people there. Ask said people to hang out outside club meetings. The easiest way to do this is to ask people if they want to go get something to eat after a meeting.\n\n", "It will naturally happen man. Im going to a university and none of my highschool friends are on the same campus. I became really good friends (constant internet Cafe chills till 3am, always at each others place, going out eating etc.) by helping a girl pronounce a word in her oral presentation (she is a international student) later on I step outside for a cigarette and someone from the same class comes and says thanks for helping out his Gf. We began to talk, had similar interests and yeah. Been great. So man, just give it some time and don't force yourself on to people. Have fun! ", "It takes time. I moved to a college far away and it was hard the first semester, and thought about moving back a lot. It wasn't until november that i started clicking with people on my floor. If you're in a dorm, I'd suggest leaving the door open if you have a hall where people do the same and are open and friendly.\n\nIf not, join clubs in your major and anything you might be interested in. It might feel like everyone already knows each other, but that's not true. Pretty much everyone is in your shoes and college is the best time to make new friends because everyone is on the same page.\n\nAlso, this advice: say YES a lot more. If someone inivtes you to hang out, especially if it's the first time they're doing it, always take them up on it. Be open to every opportunity, and that just breeds more opportunities.", "It takes longer than two months to really make friends. Keep nurturing the relationships you've already made and keep trying to meet people.", "It sounds from your language like you're also British. I had exactly the same problem at uni and didn't really have friends until the second term. Joining societies is great, but if you're shy then going on your own can be intimidating. I would recommend talking to someone who seems equally shy and ask if they have a book you need, if they found the reading for that week hard etc. This way you can try to invite them over or meet in the library to work together. That's how I make my first friend. Turned out she was in the hall next to mine an introduced me to her Hall friends. ", "In the same boat. Have friends per se but no close friends that hang out all the time. Tis a lonely state to be in....", "In general, start up a conversation and ask people questions about themselves. People will talk about themselves forever, and asking makes you seem like you really care. \n\nWhere are you from? How long have you been here? What are you studying? \n", "In college, I spoke a lot during lectures. People after class at parties would come up to me talking as if they have known me for a long time. Because they heard my voice a lot, they thought we have been talking for a while which made it easy to be friends. ", "In college all my friends came from smoking weed freshmen year and local sports like rock climbing, mountain biking and snowboarding. The universal 'shared hobbies' advice to meet people is exponentially easier in college. Ask to come along to something. For others that was gaming, debate clubs, ultimate frisbee is big, study groups, travel groups. The vast majority of people are just partying in houses and stuff, that was never my thing but you end up there eventually. Be mellow, open, make eye contact with people and you will develop friendships and be invited to stuff. Hear people in your dorm talking about a hike? Ask to tag along. \n\nBut seriously, I'm still close with guys I met in the freshmen dorm in 2004 smoking joints on move-in day. I can't recommend a little responsible marijuana usage highly enough for the old 4 year school.", "If your on campus leave your door open and play video games, watch movies, ect. And people will usually poke their head in and say hi", "If you're looking for an easier way, then try living in your university residence for a year (preferably a first-year residence). All you have to do to make friends from that point on is exist.", "If you smoke weed, it's real easy. Just casually bring it up in conversation with someone you think might smoke too. Ask em if they smoke, if they say \"smoke what?\" just give them a sly grin and say \"we should smoke together sometime.\" That is the best way to make friends in college. Oh and if you don't smoke weed, start smoking weed. ", "If you find you run into the same people day to day it can definitely make things a lot easier. The major first step in my opinion is making an investment in them. Always try and go a step further with questions you ask. Start with how their day was and develop questions based on what they say especially if you can think of why questions. Since university you could ask them why they're taking that course or what program their in. It will eventually lead to more personal questions and you'll feel more comfortable around that person. Start to say you'll save them a seat next class or find out if you have any breaks that line up that you could grab lunch or coffee with them. Based on their interests at this point you could probably know of you could see yourself hanging out with them outside school and then this is where you start mentioning things that you want to do and see if they'll join you, they might even ask you at this point. Anywhere along the line getting casual drinks is always a solid option. Depending how it goes you may even start to meet some of their friends and it just sort of expands from there. Joining a club or school activity is always another option. The key is just making that investment and showing you want to put time towards someone. Hope this maybe helps! ", "If you can't make friends in college your probably a pretty weird dude, but don't worry, I was a pretty weird dude once myself.\n\nI'd recommend talking to people and finding common interest, then seeing if they want to do that common interest with you outside of school. I'd just worry about talking to people for now because you may not be used to talking to strangers yet.\n\nThe bad news is it's going to get a lot harder to make friends when you get older, and you will lose friends faster than ever.", "I've made plenty of friends by simply making/participating in study groups with the people I generally sit with. Don't be afraid to ask to study in college. Learning and studying is cool in college since the majority of the people choose to be there. \n\nPS - it also helps manage imposter syndrome and puts your class effort into perspective.", "I've been making some new friends. It seems to just be a matter of meeting people, adding them on FB, talking to them on FB, arranging a meetup (or holding a party and inviting them) and then continue to meet them on a regular basis.\n\nFriendship seems to be more something that just gradually happens rather than a concrete thing. ", "I'm very quiet and reserved, but my first semester in school, I joined a sorority. Greek life isn't for everyone, but I'm still in constant contact with like 8 of those people and it's been 10 years since I graduated. I definitely found a tight knit group of lifelong friends. If Greek life isn't for you, I also became really involved with student groups in my major. I was in the agriculture field and I was in collegiate FFA, block and bridle, pre vet club and I ended up being a freshman orientation leader and a member of student government later in my college career. I'd suggest getting involved in some sort of student group in your major or maybe a group of something that you're interested in. There's a group for everyone, whether it's a gaming group, religious group, hell, there was even a student LARPing group at my school. Look up your school's website and there is usually a page of recognized student groups and email contacts for people in charge of them. You cam email people and get more information about the group and when they meet. If you're in a dorm, they usually have inter mural sports and such for each dorm. That would be a good way to meet people to hang with conveniently. As unhealthy as it is, I was a smoker, so whenever I saw people outside the dorm, I'd stop and strike up a conversation with them while we smoked, after a while, they'd come by my room as they were going out to see if I wanted to go too and sometimes we'd hang out after and watch TV or something. Also, just leaving my door open while I was im my room was like an open invite to come hang.\nHope there's something in here that helps. It's been a while since I've been in school, and this is really an easy time to find so,e friends. You're all all away from home for the first time and everyone is in the same boat, just know that.", "I'm not entirely sure if this fits in as a Life Pro Tip but it's an interesting story you may get something out of. \n\nI was moving into my dorm room sophomore year at college and I noticed that the door next to mine was wide open, which was not a common occurance so early in the year. It was a freshman (he was actually 24 but just entering college) who had just moved into the room and as I was walking by I noticed he was sitting on his bed facing out toward the hallway. He had a 30 rack of Miller High Life on the floor in front of him and as I looked in when I walked by he said \"Hey...wanna beer?\". He became my best friend and I ended up officiating his wedding. We are still best friends to this day and I love him like a brother. \n\nRandom act of putting yourself out there brought us together, funny how the world works. ", "I'm not an expert at making friends, but I've been around people that are. Apparently the main difference is when they reach that part of the social interaction where I'm desperately looking for an exit, they instead stay and pretend to enjoy themselves. \n\n* Pursue opportunities to see people outside work/school, borderline stalking behavior.\n* Ask about details of people's boring life.\n* Volunteering for stuff you don't actually care about in the area to bump acquaintances up into friends.\n* Initiate contact with them when you'd rather just be alone. Small talk.\n* Find common ground, even if you suspect they have stupid opinions on the topic or you have to pretend to like what they do.\n\nBasically you do all the stuff you do when you're trying to get in someones pants, but minus the sexual stuff. Being alone (fine) -> making friends (worst) -> having friends (best)", "I'm in my third year and I hardly have any friends. I don't connect with anyone SL here's what I do. Find the smart people in class, the people who work hard, study and talk in class (these are the people I want to spend time with) pin point them and make them a project. Sit closer and closer to them each class and eventually sit next to them and ask them a question or two during lecture. When exam time comes around , ask them if they would like to study with you. Or you can ask for homework help- or be the super nice guy who offers notes for the guy who missed a class (that's how I met one of my best friends). \n\nKeep in mind:\n~people love talking about themselves. Ask them questions about their life when you get together or have a few minutes before or after class. Comment on a comment they made in class! Ask them where they're from! \n\n~People like food so have some snacks or gum or mints handy for class and share with the kid next to you, but definitely have some food for the study session. Offer to buy coffee for someone if they give you notes or if you need something from them! \n\n~smile often and always stay positive. People flock to the positive people, its always nice being that guy. \n\nBest of luck. Sometimes its better to be alone, too. I learned that I am nothing like all the other girls in my major and spending time with them is a waste, so I spend a lot of time alone and boy, am I productive! Its always good to have a study buddy though. ", "I would just put it out there that you are bored.\n\n\"Hey what do you have going on tonight? I keep sitting around my room Friday...\"\n\n\"I have nothing going on this weekend. What are you up to...\"\n\n...", "I think the best time to make life-long friends are at a younger age. The friends I made as a kid to friends I made in university are very different friendships. \n\nBest way to start up a conversation would be to talk about some class material if it is someone you share a course/classroom with. That's how I got to know many people. Aside from that, other groups and clubs. Find facebook groups for your university, like I joined my university's CSGO group and found bunch of people I can play games with and get to know.", "I think it take about a semester or 2 to really get into the groove of thing in college. Its a time thing. Thing will click so don't sweat it. Be yourself and be confident to go out to social event to let's these thing happen for you. The more open you are to allow positive event to happen they will. But if you're closed up (like in your dorm), then nothing will happen. And I think that suck more. Ahh believe me... I'm super popular cough cough. Oh it also seem like pll been giving you conversation advice to lead to friendship. If that's what your looking for: ask open ended questions. Things that can't be answer with a simply yes or no. It will flow, and don't be afraid to go off in a tangent. Cause you know, that how conversations work? You just talk, it help you guys interpret each other minds and if you guys have similar ideas. Pretty sure some kind of a friendship will happen.\n\nTLDR: Keys to having friends, is building on yourself: confidence, learn to be patient cause things take time, and be open so life can happen. ", "I moved around an insane amount. One thing that always helped me was to carry a few varieties of gum with me at all times and offer it to people around me whenever I had a piece. It's a good conversational ice breaker and non-invasive, so you don't have to feel awkward about complimenting someone and have it taken the wrong way. Though I do compliment people constantly. Also, everything u/Iowaboy said is great advice. ", "I met most of my school friends by sitting with random people in the cafeteria and by going to various school events outside of school hours. I also joined a fraternity, which pretty much immediately gets you friends, but it may or may not be your thing. Just make sure you join a fraternity that is anti-hazing unless you want to run naked laps holding an egg between your butt cheeks.", "I met most of my friends through forums, online chatting or in relevant clubs at schools. I have about 6 different groups of friends, im only close with a few of my friends, but i think thats fine. As for my different groups, everyone is always down to hang if i ask. I would strongly recommend starting with forums first if you are uncomfortable with IRL. As you post and grow a relationship with these forums, graduate to a forum meeting IRL. I did this with a motorcycle forum, car forum, gaming forum etc...If youre a cool dude, people will always want to hang.", "I make new friends mostly by meeting them through other events with current friends.... It would be really hard to start from scratch but here is what I would do; \n\n*Make work acquaintances into friends:-* \nThis is done simply by engaging in conversation with them. Perhaps at lunch or at a coffee break. Or even starting as simply as saying Hi in the mornings. Then after talking learn their interests and any you might share. Tell them \"I love [Water Skiing] but I never get to go any more, I would love the chance to go along next time\" \n\n*Start playing a team sport:-* \nSomething with a bigger team. Soccer or Hockey or Cricket. Most clubs (at the start of the season) are looking for more players. Team mates often become friends. \n\n*Join a club:-* \nThere are clubs for heaps of things around where you live, probably. Scuba diving, 4wding, Drifting, Track days, Arts, Cooking, Walking, Fitness, Shooting... the list goes on. Google your {Activity} + City + club and it will turn up results for you. \n\n*Go Along to Reddit meet ups:-* \nYou must share something in common at least. Even if it's only Reddit (but real friends would probably need a bit more than that) Specific events draw different people. Hit up a Skirmish or Bushwalking day and you might find more active people, hit up a drinking event to find lots of people with various different interests (Drinking is every bodies interest there, but they would have others) \n\n*Organise a Reddit meetup:-* \nMight require a bit more courage than the last one. But kick together something **you** want to do and invite the internet. We're not all weirdos, only most of us.", "I made my first couple of friends by accident. Fell asleep on a lounge couch and found a guy and a girl sitting across from at me when I woke up. \n\nThey said they we had the same class and were just saying Hi. \n\nThe next couple I made where from debating about anime and getting lunch with them. \n\nI then joined the radio station. Met a few people there. (Harder than I thought as a freshman because of the pecking order. Its easier to join after you are familiar with some people with leadership roles.)\n\nThe next year I started my own anime club. I wouldn't say I was besties with the whole club but the co founders and I bonded over the formation.\n\nI can only speak for my major but in communications its real easy to make friends once you start creating together.\n\nProtip: In my experience it was easier to date than find friends. but in both cases i find that projecting the most ideal version of yourself is key to making an impression without even starting a conversation with them(fresh clothes, good hygiene, speaking up when it comes to class participation)\n\nCheatcode: The easiest way to bond is drinking or drugs in a group setting. \n", "I know this will get lost in the comments, but this chapter (with the fox) in le petit prince by Antoine St-Exupéryreally says it so beautifully.\nhttp://www.angelfire.com/hi/littleprince/framechapter21.html\nThe meaning of 'tamed' is creating ties, so that you rely on each other, so that you're unique among all the other people to that person, and they are unique to you.\n\nMaybe not a practical answer, but a more deeply satisfying lesson, is in this story.", "I have had all kinds of \"friends\" in the past, mostly in my late teen years and early to mid 20's. Once my friends started getting married, it was all down hill from there. Not to mention that for some strange reason, when you have kids, the friends start to disappear. I never understood why, since I would always be happy to have dinner, go to concerts, or other activities (just less often). The biggest friend killer, has been those bitchy wives that have to have control of EVERYTHING. I mean, come on, let your man have freedom. I mean, maybe it is a good thing, since I rather not deal with the drama that comes with having a large cache of friends. Time filters out the good friends, which I have a few of, but I'll gladly take 1 or 2, TRUE GOOD FRIENDS, over dozens of fake, \"what's in it for me\" kind of friends. ", "I had lots and lots of friends in college and high school and middle school for that matter, and college is one of the easiest places to make friends. I'm not saying this to discourage you, but don't look at it like a job, don't regiment it, don't come off as desperate, ever, especially with girls.\n\n1) the most difficult part, by far, is the approach. Meeting people. Luckily colleges provide plenty of structured places that remove this step so you don't have to just approach people out of the blue. Don't be afraid to introduce yourself, because no one is gonna do it for you. Not until you make those first friends. But once you make the first ones, even if you don't like them as much as you wish you did, you'll get access to their social circles and parties and will have more chances to meet people who you will have stuff in common with\n\n2) whatever you're doing to kill time while you wish you were making friends, stop doing it. I'm going to guess it's vidya, I just get that vibe from you. Instead of killing time and putting this off, be proactive. That means cutting out the things that don't help you achieve your goals.\n\n3) join clubs, activities, etc. at school. Pick stuff you're interested in. If it's vidya, join the vidya society. If you're a liberal, join your local liberal concern. This is a structured environment that is made specifically for networking and meeting people, so the introductions won't be as awkward. But not every club is like this. You may show up at the literary mag and find that it's made up of 3 cliques who are only there so they can vote for each others writing to make it into the magazine; if you're the odd man out, move on. Give it 2 chances. If you show up and get ignored, maybe all the nice people were busy that week. Show up again next time, but if it isnt better, don't waste your time and find a club that's more conducive to your goal. I don't know how shy or scared of public speaking you are, so that may eliminate some options, but debate club and improv club is literally practice for certain types of social interaction. If you're too scared to do that, really you should suck it up and not be such a pussy, but if that's not an option then go to your safe space, color in your coloring books until you forget about all your trigger words I just used and pick a club that doesn't frighten and confuse you \n\n4) get a job. Preferably one on campus at your school. It's also easy to meet people at work, and if you don't like or have anything in common with the people at your first job, quit and get a different one. \n\n\n4) don't be shy about admitting that you're trying to meet people and make friends. If you live on campus you're going to get the question \"oh, you live in dorm X? Do you know bill, he lives like 2 doors down from you?\" a lot. Don't be afraid to say, \"no, I haven't been able to get out much I've been so busy recently. I'm actually here cuz I want to start meeting people on campus\". You can even make up an excuse. Say you just broke up with your gf. Say you just moved on campus. You don't have to tell strangers about your crippling social phobias if that's what's gotten you in this pickle\n\n5) you are in after-high-smartie-book-learnin-vacation-camp-school, aka college. You are a freshman in college. You are in a very unique position where you can create yourself and be whoever you want to these people. Did you always wanna be the guy who had a band, or took cool photos, or practiced jeet kune do in his spare time, ot cooked really well? Well this is the time in your life when you can become that person, at least in the eyes of other people (you'll always know you're a fraud, though. Jk). You can even bullshit your way through half of it. Tell a girl you're in a band. Tell a guy your family lived in Spain for 3 years when you were a kid. They don't know you spent high school sitting in your basement watching anime and jerking off and playing video games (well, some people don't. I can smell you from a mile away, but most people can't). Learn the art of bullshitting, and at least start to try to be who you want to be. Unless your intuition is telling you that you always wanted to be the guy with long hair who wears trench coats and fedoras; if that's the real you, then disregard this entire section. And if you don't know how to dress, if you have clothes that would be embarrassing for an adult to wear, look at r/fashionadvice or something and dress like the movie character version of you would dress if they were played by Johnny Depp\n\n\nStory time: when I was in college, I got drunk one night and regaled a group of people - some close friends, but I realized later that other people who I didn't know or like were listening - with stories of my crazy high school drug dealing exploits. I talked about getting pulled over with sheets of acid in my trunk and buying quarter pounds of weed when I was 17. It was all true, but stupid to talk about, but I was talking to like minded people who had similar experiences and we were just bullshitting about crazy shit we did as kids. So like a month later I'm hanging out with this kid (who wasn't there), and he says \"hey you know my roommate Noel?\" (He lived in a room with 4 people. If you can avoid it, I recommend you do). He said \"well he likes to tell people that when he was in high school he used to sell acid and shit, but I don't think he's ever even seen weed, much less done any drugs\". Now I didn't know this kid, but I had seen him before. Not only did he reek of virgin, but I could tell by looking at him and the way he talked that he was a very lonely kid in high school. But he liked to tell the people in his little group of friends, all of whom were losers in high school and didn't know any better, that when he was 17 he was actually a little bad ass and made all this money selling drugs (as an aside, it's pretty easy for people who've eaten hallucinogens to recognize each other. You can just tell, somehow, from their personality, but it's hard to explain to muggles). \n\nThis kid and his 5 or 6 little troll - like friends liked to sit in the common area in our dorm, because they never got invited anywhere, and sort of harass the people walking by; if you looked like a jock or preppy kid, you'd hear little comments as you walked by them, and they'd all laugh to each other. Now, to anyone who understands anything about high school psychology, these kids were obviously making up for the vicious bullying they were certainly subjected to in high school; they weren't exactly the best looking group in the world. And most of the relatively socially well adjusted jocks walking by would just laugh it off because it was so obvious that this was these kids' little mini-columbine where they shot the jocks with \"witty\" little remarks (one time I heard one of them say \"hey, do you think this rag smells like chloroform?\" to the others. They all laughed. Then the one who said it said \"yeah, people always tell me I should try doing stand up\". I cringed so hard I broke a rib). But one day I was walking by with the kid with 4 roommates. Even though he had, as far as I knew, been pretty nice to the loser troll who lived in his room, he also fell prey to their witty rejoinders. They started their nerd rage, and eventually the kid who stole my acid story said to me \"huhuhu why don't you go snort some acid? Huhuhu!\" He looked around to his friends for approval; one of them stared at the floor because he knew enough to know the jig was up for this kid. \"Noel, you know that you don't actually *snort* acid, right?\" Noel replied \"yes you do. The kind I got, you do!\" \"No, you don't, Noel. That's not how acid works. Hey by the way, didn't you tell me you used to actually *sell* acid? Kinda weird you wouldn't know how it's even administered when you sold it.\" By this point it was so awkward his troll friends were all looking away in different directions so they didn't have to watch his collapse into nerddom. He'd been telling these stories, which no one with any social skills found even remotely plausible, for months, and he was too dumb or naive to realize how badly he'd been embarrassing himself the whole time. As far as I know, he stopped telling his high school stories after that night.\n\nSo what's the moral of the story? First, be nice to everyone. Even terribly socially awkward people who had no friends in high school can make friends in college. You can bullshit about your backstory a little, and plenty of people will believe you, but don't push your luck, especially if you're gonna be an asshole about it. And don't rule people out or prejudge people because you think they look like the jocks who made fun of you in high school; people are a lot more open and accepting in college, and if you pick the right school, bullying will be almost unheard of. And if you're gonna steal someone's anecdotes or life story and pass it off as your own, make sure you never bring up that anecdote to the person you stole it from, especially if you're being an asshole to that person ", "I found the best way for me was just studying with people in my class. Before class or something, just sit next to someone and ask about the test or last homework or the next homework. Other than that join different student activities or clubs like other people are suggesting. ", "I don't know if this helps exactly, but it will probably get buried anyway so doesn't matter.\n\nIn my journey it's been rather useful to have approximate knowledge of all things. Or a lot of things. Basically, be able to hold your own in any discussion. \n\nIf you're able to make even one relevant comment, I find people get excited that you know what they're talking about and (generally) will suddenly have no problem talking your ear off. From then on you just have to be a good, curious listener. If you can do that, you will learn a lot about whatever the topic might be, as well as the individual speaking. And, this will give you more topics to go off of.\n\nIn addition, giving people (light hearted) shit relatively quickly in your relationship seems to give the impression that you're somehow comfortable and easy to be around. This is simply my personal experience, YMMV. This goes same for how quickly you talk about rather personal subjects without making a big deal out of it. Think of it as casually having no filter. \n\nFor example, a good friend of mine grew up in Thailand and doesn't have much regard for boundaries. I still remember, the *very first time* we hung out, we had a fairly in depth and laid-back discussion about the very first time we masturbated. That is probably too soon for most people, but you get the idea.\n\nLastly, remember if someone is in a particular situation and ask them about it the next time you see them. Such as how their ankle is doing after they sprained it two weeks ago or if they ever got their car window to go down.", "Humour is the best way to make friends - laughter makes people comfortable around you, and they'll associate you with comfort and joy if you're able to be consistently funny.\n\nOf course this is hard as hell to actually TRY and do, in fact trying too hard to be funny is the saddest thing... I'm not sure where I'm going with this", "How do you deal with friends who end up having kids and fall off the face of the earth with being able to hang out. Since obviously their lives have changed. Not against having a kid just want my friends back. ", "Honestly, join a club.\n\nI thought the whole \"join a club\" advice was bullshit, and didn't bother trying to participate in anything all throughout high school. And for the first few months of college, I didn't try to participate in anything either. But a month ago, I decided to join a theatre group, and I've made better friends these past few weeks than I ever did in high school.", "Hi, how are you?\n\nHow's uni?\n\nWhat are you going for?\n\nTo quote Kindergarten Cop: \"Who is your daddy, and what does he do?\"\n\nWhat started you on becoming a Redditor?\n\nDo you have any taste in gaming, or other time consuming hobbies?", "Hey! I don't know if you're still reading these, but I wanted to share some advice of my own. I am about to end my third semester at uni, and like you, didn't have any really \"close\" friends my entire first semester. Now, I have a group of 5 other people I am really close to (all of which I met my second semester). \n\nFirst of all, just get out there. If you live in a dorm, leave your room and take part in activities your dorm puts on. Hang around the lobby and just chat with people. You won't be friends with most of the people you meet, but you have a much better chance of you go out and simply talk to people. Odds are, there are a couple people like you at your uni that feel the same way you do. \n\nSecondly, if you are religious or have any hobbies, find groups that enjoy those same things on campus. Almost every organization would love another member, and they honestly don't take a ton of time or energy. And if you really have time on your hands, GO VOLUNTEER!! You make a difference in your community, and you have something to keep you busy. Heck, it will even give you something to talk about with other people. \n\nLastly, don't give up. I know it seems really easy for me to say now that I have a couple close friends, but believe me, don't give up. You can't be friends with someone you don't spend time with, and you can't spend time with someone you haven't met, so get out there and meet people. At the very least, you can brighten up other people's days. \n\nGo get 'em fellow redditor. :)", "Hey man, graduating this december...the only advice i can give you is cliche. .but do you man. I know you want friends, hell we all do. They all come from the weirdest places. My best friend i found at work. I didnt force it, we just would have conversations and eventually found out we share similar hobbies. Be patient. And if someone is in their 0home qhen you are trying to make conversation, you dont want to be arpund that. They are pushing you away without realizing it. So go out and do you. I sit with an old war vet named douglass at my starbucks and we seriously shoot the shit. Hes racist as hell but hes 90 and black so hey its funto listen to him talk. I would talk to douglass before ever trying to continue to talk to someone who had to be on their phone all the time.", "Hey OP! I'm so sorry that you're feeling worried about this. It's hard adjusting to university! I remember feeling the same way that you do, until basically the end of my first year. In fact, I didn't really become close to my best friends until I was nearly finished my third year of school. For my first year, I got a job on campus that really helped build up confidence and was a way to meet a lot of other people in different years.\n\nFeeling lonely or stressed about your university friend situation is especially hard when you have good friends back home and miss them. There is some really good advice in this thread, but most importantly, be kind to yourself, and be patient! These things don't happen instantaneously, but if you follow some of the other posters' advice (ask people questions about themselves, compliment, use active listening and join interesting clubs) then eventually you'll start to feel like you've found some potential new people, or at the very least you'll be doing things you enjoy and that you find fulfilling. \n\nIf you compare new potential-friends to old friends, then you're also doing yourself a bit of a disservice. No one can feel like that \"best bud\" right away, but if you keep working at it, then eventually you'll notice that those friendships exist. If you're having a good conversation, ask the person if they're free to keep chatting over coffee and keep the momentum, and eventually (and quietly) you'll realize your friendship has formed.\n\nIn my experience, there were many students who felt the same way as you do - as if they'd expected to be fast friends with people by now. A lot of those \"instant friends\" that you might see ended up falling apart by the end of first year, so don't despair! Sometimes, it's hard to find your space in a new environment, so make sure that if you're feeling anxious or discouraged or depressed that you know where your student support services and counsellors can be found, too :)\n\nIf you live in residence, another tip - leave your door open, and make sure your desk faces towards the door or perpendicular to the door so that people can see you when they walk by. You'll feel like you're getting to know people much faster that way! \n\ntl;dr - be patient, be kind to yourself, and try not to compare new friends to old ones - eventually, you might realize that you've made friends, and they're some of the greatest of your life!", "Here is how to make a friend: meet them at summer orientation, run into them the first weekend of school at a social function at which you are both out of place, agree with them that Christopher Nolan is overrated and alternative comedy is funny, profit", "Have interests and be kind. People want to hang out with someone who has a lot of stuff going on. Be the guy who always has an idea of what to do rather than just \"let's go to the bar\" or getting coffee. If you're the guy who says, \"There's a private club on the edge of town where you can box a kangaroo!\" people will appreciate that you've made their lives more interesting. \n\nBut if I had a single piece of advice it's this: don't worry so much. Just walk up to people who look interesting and ask if you can sit with them. Introduce yourself. Don't need anything from them, but make them feel as though you're offering them the pleasure of your company. It's as easy as \"What's going on, people I haven't met yet?\"", "Gotta be forward if you think someone is cool tell them, tell them you want to hang out. If they suck avoid them and if they try to hang with you avoid them and if they don't get the point tell them. It's not all green grass... Unfortunately...", "Go to a regular public event that you can enjoy BY YOURSELF. Go regularly. Eventually people will start recognizing you, approaching you, and asking who you are. \n \nsource: after college, all my friends moved home/away. I stayed in LA. I was alone. I started going to an open mic night at pub/restaurant just to see the music. When musicians finished their set, I started approaching them just to briefly congratulate them. 5 years later, I know all the regulars and all the staff, including the owners, by name. ", "Give them gifts or money or do them favours. Give them something they need and they're more likely to find you attractive.\n\nThat's how you get friends.", "Get off the internet and go to where other students are and talk go them. What are your hobbies? Music? Sports? Video games? Finding friends is as easy as finding other people who share your passions.", "For me, it was a found a girl I hated at first kept showing up to all the same classes as me. Eventually she invited me to come study with her. I grew to understand and like her. We started hanging out, and going out for drinks. We got closer and after graduation are still best friends. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding 😊", "Find your comfort zone and hop over that line to just outside of it.\n\nTalk to someone or say something nice to someone out of the blue, and learn to be okay with some awkwardness every now and then when you try, because sometimes you might be surprised with an engaging conversation instead.", "Find an adult kickball league. Seriously! It's a great way to make some great friends. Check out the world adult kickball association. It's pretty easy to find. ", "Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Know yourself, what kind of person you are. Don't be anyone but yourself. People have different roles. Some are more out going, engaging, etc.\n\nLike anything else it should be a natural process, it's ok to not have a lot of friends. \n\nI'm not sure what your social life is at home but it's not that easy to find people to get along with and spend time with especially when you get older. At least for me anyways. \n\nTime is important, how you spend it and who you want to be around can greatly affect your life in a good and bad way.\n\nChoose wisely. \n\nJust do things you like to do and it'll happen, be patient.", "Don't have any advice , but as someone in the same situation thank you for asking, I hope it gets better for you.", "Don't forget, you've known your friends back home for years and you've only known these guys for two months - real friendships take time to develop. And everyone is in the same situation - they all want to make friends too, and are just as unsure as you.", "Don't be a flake. If people want to hang out with you and ask you to go hang out, do it. Even more important, *always* be there, for any friend, when they *need* you.\n", "Do not wait for them to do something, do it yourself, such as organize a get-together in a local pub.", "Check out meetup.com for group activities near you and go. I've learned that doing more listening but still being engaging and doing less talking about yourself when meeting other people works great", "Biggest thing i'd say is get more involved, join clubs/societies and attend their events.\n\nTry reading \"How to win friends and influence people\" by Dale Carnegie. Great book.", "Best advice I can give is to find people who are interested in the same things you are. Personalities will mesh or clash and you'll find what people will make good friends and what ones wont. ", "Beginner strategies:\n\nMeet people. Talk to people about things that you genuinely enjoy talking about and find interesting. Small talk is nice but it will not make you friends it will just make you acquaintances.\n\nWhen you meet people, ask them what they are doing later. They will usually know of some fun event you can go to because you are both students. Alternatively, get good at finding out fun events and attending by yourself. Use Facebook groups and websites and campus flyers to find out about events. Ask people to add you on Facebook even if you aren't that good of friends with them.\n\nBe a genuinely nice, cool guy. Don't be a jerk. Everyone else is trying to make friends too.\n\nGet invited to parties. Go to the parties you are invited to. Make people glad you were invited to the parties.\n\nIf your school is big enough it will have an active subreddit.\n\nComputer games and video games and board games are a great way to become friends with people. In my day we played Smash Bros and WarCraft 3's Dota map.\n\nNext level strategies:\n\nJoin an app or website for making friends or finding dates in your area. Dating apps are fairly popular on college campuses nowadays.\n\nBecome \"famous\" on campus by doing something cool (not stupid, that will just make people hate you). For example, if there is a talent show put on a really amazing standup comedy act or music performance that people will want to talk to you about afterwards.", "Be brave and go out on a limb. What's the worst that could happen? I'm getting older and have lost a bunch of friends to California. I met a girl through work who I thought was great, but neither of us really ended up doing anything together. One day I was feeling crazy and asked her if she wanted to go with me to Central Asia, and she said yes! We are good friends now. So I'm glad I had the guts to at least ask. \n\n", "Ask people questions. Remember their names and the things they tell you. Show your interest. Casually ask to hang out. Say you're doing an activity and extend an invite to others to join.", "Ask 'em if they like Video Games and if they want to play them! \n\nThe beauty is being kinda awkward when doing this IS OKAY! The awkwardness will soon pass and you'll have a good ol video game sesh!", "As an introvert I also had trouble making friends in college. How I made my friends was actually by just making two friends, and then I became friends with all of their friends. It sounds dumb, but I'm actually super happy with my friend group, and it happened pretty naturally without overexerting my introvert self. \n\nNote: the first two friends took my whole first year to become really solid friends. In the meantime I made due with acquaintances, my roommate, and high school friends over Skype and Facebook.", "All the ideas here are good for getting you and potential friends in proximity.\n\nOnce you are there, listen to Dale Carnegie.\n\n\nSix Ways to Make People Like You:\n\nBecome genuinely interested in other people.\n\nSmile.\n\nRemember that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.\n\nBe a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.\n\nTalk in terms of the other person's interest.\n\nMake the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.", "Adults need a reason to be in the same space for extended time in order to become an acquaintance. An acquaintance is someone you know a little bit about and don't mind spending some time being around. Acquaintances are people that can become friends. \n\nMeetup.com has a ton of activities you can go to where you have that excuse to meet new people and spend time around them. You can volunteer, you can play board games, you can go to dinners, you can walk dogs, you can rock climb, play paint ball, do beer flights... There's something for you to do to give you that excuse to be in the same space as other adults and get to know each other.\n\nIf you're religiously oriented getting active in a local congregation is certainly a good way to make acquaintances with folks and may lead to friendships.", "A quite poignant quote on this topic: \"You'll make more friends in two weeks by being interested in others, than you will in two months by trying to make others interested in you\". ", "A lot of people struggle with this, you're not alone. I think the question lends itself to overly simple answers. Friendships aren't just fabricated. It sounds like you're well on your way to making several friends already. Many times, turning a friendly acquaintance into a friend depends on you offering to hang out. Hanging out with someone creates bonded experiences that will offer some conversation material that isn't work/school related. While you certainly can't buy friends, not real friends at least, people absolutely do respond to incentives. Offer to buy dinner or drinks, or invite them over and supply the fun. If you're into video games have the games and soda. If you're into drinking, supply the beer. If you're into pot, offer to smoke them up, etc. These are just friendly things to do. Im not suggesting you become someone's atm, or invite people to walk all over you, but part of being a friend to someone is offering yourself to them. This can be intimate, or emotional, or otherwise. Anyway, I hope this helps. At the end of the day, just try to be a person. And remember the golden rule. None of us are all that different after all.\n\n*", "A big part of it is to not be afraid to fail to make friends. There are a lot of socialites out there that are firm believers in their own self understood social hierarchy and they will reject you simply for outreaching or in their eyes, trying too hard. These people used to get me down, but then I realized their pathology, and have found the best of friends in the misfits and fit-ins alike. Don't be discouraged by someone elses shitty social attitude, it'll fade as they age. ", ";TLDR 1)Be interesting. 2)Be interested. \n\nAsk what a person is, what their hobbies are, what their passion is. Ask how they do it, ask like you are draining knowledge.\n\nJoin a group. People that do stuff, do other things. Over a span of time you will change hobbies, others will present themselves. \n\nSo be a friend you would like to be with, active, engaging, thoughtful, etc. I think friends are a reflection of one's self. ", "1. Observe,remember interesting things about person(s) you want to connect with or their interests, or help them out when you can\n\n2. The internet teems with interesting facts, novel ideas and jokes, find related interest, and now because you remember.. oh <name> might like this, use in conversation over IM, or in person\n\n3.Share jokes, some of your interests\n\n4.Repeat\n\nAll good and interesting conversation is only ever about 3 things \n\n1. A novel/new idea or perspective \n\n2. A joke/something funny\n\n3.The other person's interests", "1. Be yourself.\n2. Find people who like you for being yourself.\n3. Try new stuff, but doesn't compromise step 1.\n4. Join study groups.\n5. You can always (doesn't always work) try and join a light hearted convo with some people.", "1) Comment - about anything you and person near you might happen to be looking at/experiencing \n\n2) Question - ask that person something about the thing you just commented on\n\n3) Introduction - Introduce yourself if that person seems interested in what you have to say. If they don't seem interested then you have not embarassed yourself, but you have been mildly outgoing. \n\nIt would be the same as if someone came up to you in a mall and said \"Sure is a lot of shoppers this time of year.\" And then you said something like \"Yeah, sure is.\" Then the other person said \"Did you find any good sales?\" - at which point you would decide whether or not this person is worth your time or not. If they were, you might open up a little and converse with this person. Then if they introduced themselves \"My name's Bob.\" and stuck out their hand - well you're going to do the same. \n\n\nSo that's it OP. You create these situations. Then after you've created the situation, you keep the conversation going if the other person seems interesting. If it goes deeper than this you ask the person if they would like to get together for a cup of coffee/scoop of ice cream.\n\nAfter that you've made a freind. Wait a day or two and then call them up and say hi. Ask them if they want to do something else.\n\n\nIt's really that easy.\n" ]

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[ "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n", "Getting up at my alarm? I can't ... do ... it ...\n\nI've set my phone on the other side of the room. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI put my phone UP HIGH. I turn it off and go back to bed.\n\nI've set multiple alarms on multiple phones. I turn them all off and ... you get the idea.\n\nPlease help.\n\nNote: (forgot to add this earlier) I used to get up at 6am every morning about 7 years ago.\n\nLast year I was able to get up at 6:30 consistently for a few months.\n\nI'm not sure what went wrong but yeah, now no matter what I do I just ... ugh.\n\n" ]

[ "Aside from not laying back down in your bed...? \n\nI'd recommend trying to sleep in time a multiple of 90 minutes. 3 hours, 4h 30, etc. The sleep foundation found that a sleep cycle is approx 90 mins, so you will wake up less tired. \n\nYou can also try putting down any electronic, including TV's / movies, 30 minutes before bed.\n\nLastly, I'd recommend trying to sleep earlier, and see what time you wake up. How long does your body want to sleep naturally? If your constantly giving your body less sleep than it wants, or you miss the 90 min interval by a lot, you could be making your body and mind very tired.", "Maybe try really hard to NOT physically go back to the bed after you turn off the alarm that you already got up for? Go to bathroom for a pee, go to the kitchen for a drink, go to the closet for some clothes, go to the living room for some stretches.", "Do you stuck to a set routine? Best way to get straight up is to go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time every day. Slowly your body clock will adjust and you’ll naturally find it easier to get up.", "Set a voice recording of yourself telling yourself not to go back to bed. I do this whenever I want to make sure that I don't autopilot into sleeping after hitting snooze.", "On top of all the alarm suggestions, I'd take a step back and consider if there's some kind of mental block. Sometimes problems in daily life can manifest in sleep problems, including your ability to wake up.", "I used to be you. Now I set 1 alarm and just have my phone in reach. That's it, knowing I have no second chances, I can't blow it or I'm screwed is enough.", "I have never been as happy in the morning as I am after I started using a sun lamp as my alarm. Phillip's has a sun lamp that slowly turns on a light over a period of 20ish minutes to wake me up, with a very peaceful nature sounding alarm noise right on time. Before I had used loud, obnoxious alarms and always woke up grumpy.\n\nSomeone else mentioned 90minute sleep cycles and this helps as me well. There are some sleep tracking apps that supposedly are able to track the most optimal time for your alarm to wake you up so you don't wake feeling groggy or tired. I personally don't have experience with sleep apps but had them recommended to me.", "I got blackout curtains for my bedroom and I don't have any electronics in there aside from my phone.. Made a huge difference.", "You can. There isn't really a trick to this, just get up. Instead of turning it off and going back to bed, get up. Shower, dress, start your day.", "Try sleeping in an even number of hours. 4,6,8,10.\n\n", "Theres an app called I cant wake up, it excellent. Try it out, you turn it off by doing various tasks such as math, naming capitols and matching colours. 10/10 never late anymore", "Remind yourself you r valued and needed at the place u need to get up for. Hopefully u don't hate ur job as that could be a major barrier. But when I'm tired as heck I just force myself to keep going as my coworkers don't need the burden of my absence. I also watch my fav late night clips (Colbert show, whatever) in the morning to make me laugh as I get ready. Good luck!", "I’d go to sleep, set the usual alarm. You mention you need 4-5 hours of sleep naturally... get up when your body naturally wakes, even if it’s early. \n\nTake advantage of the sleep/deep sleep cycle your body is offering. \n\nI have struggled with similar issues in waking earlier than planned and then dead when it’s time to wake in 70 minutes. \n\nI hope you feel rested and find a solution!", "I had difficulty getting up until I started using an alarm that scared the crap out of me - Godzilla's roar. No joke. It was so jarring that I woke up in a panic.", "I can relate. Though I think I have a solid method going for me now. I set up four alarms in weird time increments, each without a snooze." ]

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[ "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??", "How to get rid of persistent acne I have bad acne all over my face and it seems like I've tried everything there is to try. What can I do to get rid of it??" ]

[ "Seriously consider that your diet may affect your skin. I had acne for decades (yes, decades) and truly didn't believe my diet could have an effect on my skin. Then for tummy trouble reasons, I went gluten free. Amazingly, in one week my acne cleared up and has never come back, except for tiny breakouts if I cheat and eat gluten. Try going gluten free for one whole week with no cheating and see if it makes a difference. Try this before going the Accutane route.\n\nAnother suggestion: make sure you are always sleeping on a clean pilow case. Change daily, or every other day (flip the case).\nGood luck!", "Persistent acne can feel debilitating. I had very bad acne when I was in adolescence that cleared completely with one round of Accutane. Yes, Accutane is the 'nuclear' option, but it works. \n\nMany responses on this post are pseudo science bullshit. Garlic water on your face? Vitamin A is natural Accutane? GTFOH. Please see a dermatologist.", "When you sleep, put a clean towel over your pillow.\n\nSeriously.\n\nYou'll have to get a freshly laundered towel each night. And make sure it covers the whole area on the pillow that your face comes into contact with.\n\nTry googling for testimonials.", "Try to find a face wash that has active charcole in it, or you can buy pills with it in a pharmacy, rubit gently after you crush it into fine powder, wash off. To be safe try it first on the back of your hand to check for allergies", "If it is inflammatory in nature see a doctor. Depending how modern your country is they can prescribe isotretinoin or perform photo dynamic therapy. Mild acne responds well to adapaleen and antibiotics such as Minocycline. Do give it time and adhere to the instructions. \n\nEven with isotretinoin 30% of users see a relapse within 2 years. And its side effects and complications are impressive (depression, lower fertility in females, damage to the unborn child, dry skin and eyes, light sensitivity of the skin), things you wouldn't have with low concentration short contact pdt.", "I had this problem and got rid of it with homemade methods, but remember: nothing will work if the only thing you eat is junk food. Those are a few things that worked for me:\n\n* sodium bicarbonate, put a few tablespoons of sodium bicarbonate into a small bowl and pour some water until it gets the consistency of toothpaste and apply it to your face, leave it overnight and rinse with *cold* water (cold water is important because it opens your pores).\n\n* Rinse your face twice a day, no more than that\n\n* avoid touching your face, bacteria on your hands can cause acne\n\n* taking cold showers can help with your skin\n\n* and the last one, garlic. I know this may sound weird and gross but this is by far the most effective method I tried. Garlic has a string acid that can get your skin rid of acne, but remember: NEVER apply garlic directly to your face, otherwise you'll get some nasty burns. Get 3-4 cloves or garlic (peeled) and smash them into a small bowl, add only a little of water and let it sit for 10 minutes, then remove the garlic and apply the water to your skin (you may use a cotton ball). Leave it for at least 20 minutes and rinse with cold water. You can leave it overnight for optimum results but I don't recommend since your pillow may smell garlic after that.\n\ngood luck", "I definitely recommend Accutane. Also regular facials (if that's in your budget). My dermatologist gave me a list of foods to eat and foods to avoid to help get rid of acne. I wish I still had it, but other than the obvious things, I remember it said to stay away from dairy, red meats, citrus, grapes, and shell fish. Also, wash you face every night with extra virgin cold pressed olive oil. Believe me it works, it unclogs your pores. Rub it in your face, leave it there for a minute, then scrub it off with a warm wash cloth. Good luck! ", "I also tried everything, strong creams, face scrubs, every potion known to man. One day, I stopped as I felt it was actually aggravating the situation - the chemicals and exfoliation was exposing my skin to more. When left for a few days, it stabilised better than any expensive cream I ever tried. It wasn't perfect, but that could be trying to achieve the impossible. I basically didn't wash my face at all (I still don't), but would shower and wash my hair every day. I would make sure I have clean clothes and bedding, stay well hydrated and not eat crappy greasy food.", "Fix the problem that is causing the acne, and not acne itself. It could be diet, stress,... You can't just keep painting over mould", "Clean pillow case! You can get 4 sleeps before you need to wash it. Sleep on one side, flip it the next night, inside out, and flip again.\nT-shirts make good pillow cases too! \nAnd remember, you notice your own acne more than others notice it on you! Good luck!", "1. Super healthy diet, no Fats, chocolate, oils, butter etc...\n2. Natural skin products, tree tree oil, yogurt, etc.\n3. Most important that no body mention before: watch you stress levels, if you get more acne when under stress, this means that nothing you put in your skin or medication will ever work. Treat the cause not the consecuence, acne is a result of something else that is not working properly.\n4. Check your hormone levels too. ", "Yellow dock root capsules (internal) 2 capsules 3X per day (careful, it's a mild laxative)\n[Good quality probiotics](https://labdoor.com/review/renew-life-ultimate-flora-critical-care) (internal) 1 capsule per day.\n[Turmeric face mask](http://www.healthyandnaturalworld.com/turmeric-face-mask/).\nStop eating sugar, fried foods. Eat lots of fresh vegetables instead.\n ", "Vitamin a is a natural form of accutane, without the horrid side effects.\nCombine it with zinc, panothenic acid, borage oil, and a good multivitamin. Cut out wheat and dairy and drink half your body weight in ounces of water." ]

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[ "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!", "How to stay awake in long meetings/conference talks. I have always had the worst time staying awake in boring meetings and long-winded discussions. Seriously, I just start falling asleep in my chair. It's always been like this for me, regardless of the amount of sleep I get at night. Coffee only kinda helps. Even if I'm actually interested in the content I still end up nodding off. Someone help plz. Save me!" ]

[ "Note taking can hekp but also doing simple planning for other stuff helps. Write a grocery list. Write down all the capital cities you can think of. It helps break your focus so that it can come back to the talk reset and ready to listen. Also drink water slowly everytime you feel bored and then breathe slowly to alter your bodies rhythms so you snap out of your sleepy mood.", "I was once told that you could hold water in your mouth because your brain won't let you fall asleep since you might drown. I thought that sounded logical and I tried it as a last resort in a class and i just ended drooling the water all over the front of me. I looked stupid", "A deep breath every couple of minutes will refresh you.\n\nSneak a damp paper towel in and do a quick face wipe as necessary.", "Whenever I get tired during lectures at university, I try to hold my breath for as long as a can. At some point your body test arts releasing adrenaline and you feel a lot more alert.", "Used this tip before;it works for me. Cross your arms. Keep tapping your left arm with right hand, then right arm with left hand. Again and again, alternately. \n\nSomething about this sends signals back and forth across the two hemispheres of the brain, thus waking you up.\n\nDo quietly under the table if necessary.", "Try focusing on \"hovering\" your feet about an inch off the ground with your legs at a 90 degree angle, works like a charm and also makes a great workout for your quads!", "Look around the room. Someone else is dozing too.\n\nUsually the sight of their head lolling around is amusing enough to keep me awake.\n", "How much per night do you sleep? Do you fall asleep and wake up at about the same time each day? How much do you exercise? ", "Bring an ice cold water, and sip it regularly. Get some daily exercise in the morning after you wake up. If you can get to the bathroom or at least out of the chair, do that. If you're stuck in your chair, sit up straight, instead of leaning on something. Check your posture if you feel yourself drifting. \n\nIf you spend a lot of your free time falling asleep in places that aren't your bed, or conversely spend a lot of your time in bed not sleeping, stop that - you aren't setting up good sleeping habits. Your bed is for sleeping (and fucking), not laptop/tablet/phone time.\n\nWorst case scenario, in boot camp, I was taught to rub hand sanitizer on my hands and then take a big whiff of that off of my hands. I'm 100% sure that is AWFUL for your health and I wouldn't suggest it, but it works.\n\nSauce: Military vet, spent a lot of time not falling asleep when I wanted to.", "Was in some sleep deprived learning situations in the military. Get out of your chair and go to the back of the room. Can stand in the back and move if you need to without distracting others.", "Take a walk, go to the bathroom. Seriously, I fall asleep all the time during long (read: boring and pointless) meetings and conference calls.\n\nI've gotten into the habit of drinking a lot of water, forcing me to refill my glass and go to the bathroom regularly.", "Lift your feet up off the floor until it requires real effort. This only has to be an inch or so. It's almost like an ab exercise.\n\nFor me, this literally makes it impossible to sleep.", "Start taking notes during meetings. The activity will keep you attentive and awake, and you will look engaged in the discussion. Win win!", "Do you have a work buddy that you can make faces with? Of course, if you get the giggles easily, it doesn't work as well. " ]

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[ " I am newly employed and the tasks handled to me are a bit exhausting but sometimes i have self doubt thoughts that im not made for this job and im not going to do a good job. How do i install more confidence?", " I am newly employed and the tasks handled to me are a bit exhausting but sometimes i have self doubt thoughts that im not made for this job and im not going to do a good job. How do i install more confidence?", " I am newly employed and the tasks handled to me are a bit exhausting but sometimes i have self doubt thoughts that im not made for this job and im not going to do a good job. How do i install more confidence?", " I am newly employed and the tasks handled to me are a bit exhausting but sometimes i have self doubt thoughts that im not made for this job and im not going to do a good job. How do i install more confidence?", " I am newly employed and the tasks handled to me are a bit exhausting but sometimes i have self doubt thoughts that im not made for this job and im not going to do a good job. How do i install more confidence?" ]

[ "Find yourself fair metrics, and hold yourself to them and only them. So when you are done for the day, or week, or task, you can look at your days work and say yes, this is an acceptable result and I can be pleased with the work, or yes, I overshot the reasonable expectations for the day. Some days you'll say, I fell short. Now I know this, I will resume tomorrow fresh.\n\nDo not take your work home, do not think \"If I'd worked a bit longer I'd have finished that task\". Do your best, hold yourself accountable and set solid metrics.\n\nYou are your own worst critic and it's up to you to make barriers to that.\n\nAlso remember if you are ACTUALLY bad at your job someone will tell you and you'll have a chance to correct it. No matter what you do it's still just a job mate.", "It will come in time. I know that seems an unhelpful answer. But the first 6 months of any new job are really nightmarish. Months 6-12 will feel more grounded. After a year you will be feeling confident.", "I try to teach them were to find the ABC fpr the job, and tell them to read and understand it.\nIt is the minimal req. For doing the job.\n\nWhen you got that in place you have freedom tp do what we call \"+1\".\nAnd also tell yourself it is okay to fail, but always strife to do your best in the situation, and learn from it when you eventually fail.\n\nAnd if we hired you, we are 100% sure that you are the best suited for the job, so just being you will live up to our expectarion, and develop yourself (personally and professional) will be a journey we support 100%... even if that means you might leave us for better salery or oppotunities.\n\nYou got the job, not the 20 others who applied.\nWe trust you to do your job great.\n\nThe least you can have is faith in our judgement.", "Everyone has doubts. Keep chipping away.\n\nBreak down any task that seams daunting into smaller tasks.\n\nAsk for advice. People are generally happy to give advice.", "What you are experiencing is “impostor syndrome “. We all get it. \nThere are plenty of articles on how to get over it and deal with, better than what I can write in a few words. \n\nBottom line- it’s normal but don’t succumb to those feelings. You got this." ]

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[ "Heating up a sandwich Sometimes I get cold-cut sandwiches with a dense bread. The inside is cold-cuts/cheese/some vegetables. The whole thing is rock hard if you don't heat it. I can microwave it, but just wondering if there's a better way to heat up a sandwich.", "Heating up a sandwich Sometimes I get cold-cut sandwiches with a dense bread. The inside is cold-cuts/cheese/some vegetables. The whole thing is rock hard if you don't heat it. I can microwave it, but just wondering if there's a better way to heat up a sandwich.", "Heating up a sandwich Sometimes I get cold-cut sandwiches with a dense bread. The inside is cold-cuts/cheese/some vegetables. The whole thing is rock hard if you don't heat it. I can microwave it, but just wondering if there's a better way to heat up a sandwich." ]

[ "Put a glass of water next to it when you put it into the microwave. Whenever you use a microwave I'm not sure exactly how it works but the heat waves go through the food and they take out water from the food. Since bread doesn't really have much water in it to begin with, the bread loses a large amount of water and gets tough or hard.", "I would recommend a cheap [panini press](http://www.amazon.com/Hamilton-Beach-25450-Gourmet-Panini/dp/B0001AG8F0/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1349287122&sr=8-3&keywords=panini+press). ", "Are you at work or at home? At home, I usually just throw things in a pan and turn the heat on medium. When made with normal loaf-sliced bread and a little olive oil, you can make anything taste as delicious as a grilled cheese. " ]

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[ "how to get the stink out of your refrigerator I had been away from home for about a week due to a family crisis, and all of my food went bad. It's been about 3 weeks since I've completely cleaned out and washed my fridge, but it still stinks like all hell. I've had a box of baking soda in it sitting open all week because I've heard that helps, but it hasn't. Any advice?", "how to get the stink out of your refrigerator I had been away from home for about a week due to a family crisis, and all of my food went bad. It's been about 3 weeks since I've completely cleaned out and washed my fridge, but it still stinks like all hell. I've had a box of baking soda in it sitting open all week because I've heard that helps, but it hasn't. Any advice?", "how to get the stink out of your refrigerator I had been away from home for about a week due to a family crisis, and all of my food went bad. It's been about 3 weeks since I've completely cleaned out and washed my fridge, but it still stinks like all hell. I've had a box of baking soda in it sitting open all week because I've heard that helps, but it hasn't. Any advice?", "how to get the stink out of your refrigerator I had been away from home for about a week due to a family crisis, and all of my food went bad. It's been about 3 weeks since I've completely cleaned out and washed my fridge, but it still stinks like all hell. I've had a box of baking soda in it sitting open all week because I've heard that helps, but it hasn't. Any advice?", "how to get the stink out of your refrigerator I had been away from home for about a week due to a family crisis, and all of my food went bad. It's been about 3 weeks since I've completely cleaned out and washed my fridge, but it still stinks like all hell. I've had a box of baking soda in it sitting open all week because I've heard that helps, but it hasn't. Any advice?", "how to get the stink out of your refrigerator I had been away from home for about a week due to a family crisis, and all of my food went bad. It's been about 3 weeks since I've completely cleaned out and washed my fridge, but it still stinks like all hell. I've had a box of baking soda in it sitting open all week because I've heard that helps, but it hasn't. Any advice?", "how to get the stink out of your refrigerator I had been away from home for about a week due to a family crisis, and all of my food went bad. It's been about 3 weeks since I've completely cleaned out and washed my fridge, but it still stinks like all hell. I've had a box of baking soda in it sitting open all week because I've heard that helps, but it hasn't. Any advice?" ]

[ "in addition to the baking soda - which the box needs to be open in the fridge and tossed if it's smelly - ball up some newspapers and put in the fridge. One of those hints from heloise type things that i remember my grandma doing when she had something spoil. ", "Slice a lemon, scrub the inside with it, let it sit a while, then clean it with dish soap and water, once you try and fill it up again put some charcoal bricks inside it as well.", "These are all some great ideas. You can also wipe the surfaces with diluted vanilla essence.\n\nSounds weird, smells great.\n 😞....what an odd thing to say..", "Loosely crinkle up newspaper and fill the fridge and freezer for several days. Repeat when news paper stinks.", "I have read that Febreeze has very sophisticated odor removers. At least try wiping down all the surfaces with cleaner.", "I cleaned an old refrigerator with vinegar (white vinegar from alcohol – not from wine – diluted with warm water). It resuscitated!", "Baking soda should work because it's a deodorizer. You're just leaving the box open?\n\nSometimes I put some essential oils or lemon juice in the baking soda, or make a paste with baking soda and water, then spread it in the area I want clean " ]

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[ "Any tips on booking flights? For those wondering what, when, who and how to book. Also, I see a lot of tips that only apply for the US so I'd appreciate universal tips and any for the UK, for me personally.", "Any tips on booking flights? For those wondering what, when, who and how to book. Also, I see a lot of tips that only apply for the US so I'd appreciate universal tips and any for the UK, for me personally.", "Any tips on booking flights? For those wondering what, when, who and how to book. Also, I see a lot of tips that only apply for the US so I'd appreciate universal tips and any for the UK, for me personally." ]

[ "I heard your supposed to clear the cookies on your computer when going to a different website to check their prices. They base their prices off of the competitor pricing so sometimes you get a worse deal because they manipulate pricing. This one seems like a universal tip.", "Apart from using websites like Sky scanner to compare loads of operators at once, www.airhint.com is a good way to find out if you should book now or perhaps hold off.\n\nAirhint uses the data from previous years as a suggestion as to what the prices will do. It won't always be right, but more times then note gives you the right idea ", "https://youtu.be/72hlr-E7KA0 prices chabge every day and they are mire exspensive on certain days, this video explains it all" ]

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[ "How to properly communicate with supervisors/bosses without always sounding like an idiot? I am terrible at talking to higher ups, interviews are terrible too. I am a very hard worker and I wish that's all that mattered but whenever I need to have a conversation with a boss I come off like an insincere moron. Any tips for combating this issue? Thanks! ", "How to properly communicate with supervisors/bosses without always sounding like an idiot? I am terrible at talking to higher ups, interviews are terrible too. I am a very hard worker and I wish that's all that mattered but whenever I need to have a conversation with a boss I come off like an insincere moron. Any tips for combating this issue? Thanks! " ]

[ "If it's off the top of the head conversations, meaning no ability to plan. Slow down what you are trying to convey. Think with grammar and appropriate verbage. Also break the ice with humor and quips when you can. \n\nEveryone who is well off at speaking has practiced and practiced. Stand in front of a mirror and just practice. ", "I took a public speaking class in college that really has helped me. She has us video ourselves and while making presentations in front of the class and answer discussion questions. It's amazing how much I fidget with my hands when I'm nervous! Still a habit I'm working on " ]

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[ "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes", "How do stop being a perfectionist ? \n\nI just started my first real job, its an amazing job. Its the job thats going to take me from being in chronic poverty to never having to worry about money again. Im not expected to know the business / legal terms at the beginning. THEY TELL ME that. yet...i fucked up today with that, and no matter what i do i cant shake it. \nI just keep beating myself up over it. how can you break away from perfectionism?\n\nits a 6 figure job. i was on disability before this. I should be thrilled. instead of that im kicking myself over stupid small mistakes" ]

[ "I was very much like you. Everything I did had to be perfect. One day, one of my workmates pointed out that while a did a great job on each assignment, my overall work rate was pathetic. Then I realized there is never enough time to do jobs perfect. \n\nMy whole attitude changed that day. Do a job to your very best ability in a reasonable time. Yes, you are going to fuck up from time to time, these are learning experiences.\n\nSometimes your best isn't good enough but it should always be your best.", "Positive affirmations helps a lot. For every negative. Talk about two things that are right. Instead of focusing on something until it's perfect. Ask for perspective from other people on your progress. I hope this helps. \n\nYou got this! Great job landing such an awesome gig.", "As long as you own up to your mistakes and do everything in your power to correct them (and only make them once), you’ll be fine. Shit happens, and everyone that works there had something like it happen to them when they were new.", "[The 80/20 rule](https://betterhumans.pub/how-to-beat-perfectionism-with-the-80-20-rule-f3cf1781c303)", "Well I am still learning to not be so hard on myself. But try trusting the process and know that mistakes will happen and they are simply opportunities to learn the culture/skills necessary to succeed. Remember that “perfect” is an ideal and rarely exists in reality. The people who hired you know they hired a qualified human who has their ups/downs, and try to ask questions, have a dialogue with your supervisors about what they expect so you know what is enough for success. Also love yourself and pat yourself on the back for caring so much and wanting to succeed. Congrats on your new job, I’m positive you deserve every bit of success you’ve received. 🙏❤️", "I’m the same and working on this. It does get better but it’s a process. This job is very important to you so you are on high alert to do well. However, you don’t have to be perfect to keep that job or to be considered competent at it. Right now everyone around you probably seems so proficient and perfect, but as time goes on and you learn more, try to focus on the mistakes that other people make when you think you are the only one. This will show you that it’s ok and everyone messes up sometimes. I’m fact, it can be off-putting to always be perfect. Some people don’t want to work with someone like that.", "I have the same problem and im just cresting over 50k from medicaid qualifiying. Its such a huge difference for you that you are scared of losing the job because of too many little mistakes. Its a real fear. If you are brand new to the business than it is a completely invalid fear. Sounds like you already recognize this, which helps. Something my therapist told me is that when you start obsessing over it, you are caught in a loop of negative reflection so we have to figure out a way to break the loop. For me, the thought was, does anyone care about the mistake after i was corrected and i fixed the mistake? If not, than why should i care about that mistake anymore? Ill make sure i dont make the same mistake again and nobody will remember ina week. Thats what helped me at least. I hope it helps you too.", "I have some perfectionist qualities and beat myself up when something isn’t as perfect as it should be (in my head at least). The key is to learn and when you have the chance to do it again or similar you make it perfect. \n\nI made put together two nightstands recently. On the first I messed up the top (honestly nobody will ever know unless I tell them where/what is wrong-and even then they’ll say OK it looks good) anyway on the second nightstand I made sure to do it correctly and it made me much happier. So while I beat myself for screwing up the top on #1 I fixed it for #2 and THAT makes it better. \n\nMistakes are just life lessons to learn. Perfectionism doesn’t always happen on the first attempt. Sometimes doing it right the first time isn’t about being perfect but being lucky. Doing something wrong and learning makes you KNOW how to do it right the next time.", "I always say to myself that being a hero gets you nowhere, just do enough to satisfy your manager and the recipients and you will do well. Nobody has time to appreciate your work in full glory so just do what they requer from you and that will make them happy." ]

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[ "How to start your day after school/work and not crash? I often find my body thinking that after school my day is over and I can do nothing for the rest of the day, how can I change this? ", "How to start your day after school/work and not crash? I often find my body thinking that after school my day is over and I can do nothing for the rest of the day, how can I change this? ", "How to start your day after school/work and not crash? I often find my body thinking that after school my day is over and I can do nothing for the rest of the day, how can I change this? ", "How to start your day after school/work and not crash? I often find my body thinking that after school my day is over and I can do nothing for the rest of the day, how can I change this? ", "How to start your day after school/work and not crash? I often find my body thinking that after school my day is over and I can do nothing for the rest of the day, how can I change this? ", "How to start your day after school/work and not crash? I often find my body thinking that after school my day is over and I can do nothing for the rest of the day, how can I change this? " ]

[ "With breakfast make sure you hydrate well with water or real juices, don't rely on sugar snacks either as they aren't good for you. And I find if you can eat healthy in small amounts during the whole day is better than bulky big meals. Hope this helps :) ", "One thing I find helpful when needing to shift between different activities is to have some kind of reset/transition period that won't \"trap\" me. \n\nSo, watching TV or playing a video game after class or work, not a good idea (for me). Instead, I would workout, make a meal, shower or maybe have a nap if I was sleep deprived. I find a coffee around 4pm can be helpful for transitioning too. \n\nOne extreme schedule I kept in college was breaking my day into two periods of sleep and work. \n\nSomething like:\n6am-3pm classes (getting ready, breakfast, travel), \n3:30-7:30pm sleep, \nDinner Break,\n9pm-2am homework,\n2-6am sleep\n\n\n", "I'm switching to a Keto diet to burn fat rather than sugar, which means a longer fuel supply. Maybe you could use it?", "Get enough sleep, get enough vitamins and drink enough water. For some people a good breakfast can make or break the day aswell.", "Try taking magnesium supplements. The body needs at least 400mg which is an amount you can't get normally through food. ", "First don't go home so soon.\nAlso change your outfit to your after school out fit and use that as a restart for the second part of the day.\n" ]

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[ "Awkward Date not So awkward A GIRL is coming over to watch movies on netflix. This is going to sound stupid but How do should the night begin? Should we should just sit down and watch the movie or What. \nI really dont what to mess up. THANKS", "Awkward Date not So awkward A GIRL is coming over to watch movies on netflix. This is going to sound stupid but How do should the night begin? Should we should just sit down and watch the movie or What. \nI really dont what to mess up. THANKS" ]

[ "1) If you're old enough, get some cocktails. Start the night off by having a few drinks and talking about her day.\n\n2) If you're not old enough, spend the first hour talking about her day an making dinner together. Doesn't have to be anything fancy. Spaghetti is the easiest thing in the world. \n\n3) Pick a movie SHE hasn't seen. I suggest \"the Thomas Crown Affair\" or \"True Romance\". Both are sexy and sensual, and great movies to boot.\n\n4) Have fun and be yourself.", "If the girl's coming over, you're already halfway there.\n\nA fun date I had went something like sex, movie, went out for dinner." ]

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[ "How do you balance a busy life and stay focused. Hello everyone! I have a question to see if you guys can help me out. I am in my summer months and working a full time job at 40 hours a week. I passed all my classes worked pretty hard (not as hard as I should have lol) but I feel like when I am off work (this month my shift ends at 9 and starts around 1-2) I don't use it effectively. \n\nWhat I mean is that the only thing I do is expand my hobby for cooking, and play video games and watch videos and such. Problem is I want to go to the gym because I used to in the school year but I feel that if I go to the gym my day is shortened. I wan't to learn how to draw and start to write (my dnd campaign for my friends) but I feel the day is to short. \n\nIf I get up at 730 make breakfast and leave the house by 8 it takes me 30 minutes to get to the gym and get ready. My workout is 1hr to 1hr and 15 then I come home and its about 945. Within this 2hr and 15 minute time frame I don't know what to do. I often am to lazy to get motivated and just lie down on my phone before leaving for work at 12. \n\nWhen I get home its around 9:30 and I am so tired I just lie in my bed on my phone until 10-10:15 before I pass out. I know this is a shot of the real world and some people might consider me lucky or that all this is someone complaining but I am finding it really hard to balance everything I want to achieve in this 4 month period before I go back to school. I have 2 days off and even in those days I just lounge around.\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "How do you balance a busy life and stay focused. Hello everyone! I have a question to see if you guys can help me out. I am in my summer months and working a full time job at 40 hours a week. I passed all my classes worked pretty hard (not as hard as I should have lol) but I feel like when I am off work (this month my shift ends at 9 and starts around 1-2) I don't use it effectively. \n\nWhat I mean is that the only thing I do is expand my hobby for cooking, and play video games and watch videos and such. Problem is I want to go to the gym because I used to in the school year but I feel that if I go to the gym my day is shortened. I wan't to learn how to draw and start to write (my dnd campaign for my friends) but I feel the day is to short. \n\nIf I get up at 730 make breakfast and leave the house by 8 it takes me 30 minutes to get to the gym and get ready. My workout is 1hr to 1hr and 15 then I come home and its about 945. Within this 2hr and 15 minute time frame I don't know what to do. I often am to lazy to get motivated and just lie down on my phone before leaving for work at 12. \n\nWhen I get home its around 9:30 and I am so tired I just lie in my bed on my phone until 10-10:15 before I pass out. I know this is a shot of the real world and some people might consider me lucky or that all this is someone complaining but I am finding it really hard to balance everything I want to achieve in this 4 month period before I go back to school. I have 2 days off and even in those days I just lounge around.\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "How do you balance a busy life and stay focused. Hello everyone! I have a question to see if you guys can help me out. I am in my summer months and working a full time job at 40 hours a week. I passed all my classes worked pretty hard (not as hard as I should have lol) but I feel like when I am off work (this month my shift ends at 9 and starts around 1-2) I don't use it effectively. \n\nWhat I mean is that the only thing I do is expand my hobby for cooking, and play video games and watch videos and such. Problem is I want to go to the gym because I used to in the school year but I feel that if I go to the gym my day is shortened. I wan't to learn how to draw and start to write (my dnd campaign for my friends) but I feel the day is to short. \n\nIf I get up at 730 make breakfast and leave the house by 8 it takes me 30 minutes to get to the gym and get ready. My workout is 1hr to 1hr and 15 then I come home and its about 945. Within this 2hr and 15 minute time frame I don't know what to do. I often am to lazy to get motivated and just lie down on my phone before leaving for work at 12. \n\nWhen I get home its around 9:30 and I am so tired I just lie in my bed on my phone until 10-10:15 before I pass out. I know this is a shot of the real world and some people might consider me lucky or that all this is someone complaining but I am finding it really hard to balance everything I want to achieve in this 4 month period before I go back to school. I have 2 days off and even in those days I just lounge around.\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "How do you balance a busy life and stay focused. Hello everyone! I have a question to see if you guys can help me out. I am in my summer months and working a full time job at 40 hours a week. I passed all my classes worked pretty hard (not as hard as I should have lol) but I feel like when I am off work (this month my shift ends at 9 and starts around 1-2) I don't use it effectively. \n\nWhat I mean is that the only thing I do is expand my hobby for cooking, and play video games and watch videos and such. Problem is I want to go to the gym because I used to in the school year but I feel that if I go to the gym my day is shortened. I wan't to learn how to draw and start to write (my dnd campaign for my friends) but I feel the day is to short. \n\nIf I get up at 730 make breakfast and leave the house by 8 it takes me 30 minutes to get to the gym and get ready. My workout is 1hr to 1hr and 15 then I come home and its about 945. Within this 2hr and 15 minute time frame I don't know what to do. I often am to lazy to get motivated and just lie down on my phone before leaving for work at 12. \n\nWhen I get home its around 9:30 and I am so tired I just lie in my bed on my phone until 10-10:15 before I pass out. I know this is a shot of the real world and some people might consider me lucky or that all this is someone complaining but I am finding it really hard to balance everything I want to achieve in this 4 month period before I go back to school. I have 2 days off and even in those days I just lounge around.\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "How do you balance a busy life and stay focused. Hello everyone! I have a question to see if you guys can help me out. I am in my summer months and working a full time job at 40 hours a week. I passed all my classes worked pretty hard (not as hard as I should have lol) but I feel like when I am off work (this month my shift ends at 9 and starts around 1-2) I don't use it effectively. \n\nWhat I mean is that the only thing I do is expand my hobby for cooking, and play video games and watch videos and such. Problem is I want to go to the gym because I used to in the school year but I feel that if I go to the gym my day is shortened. I wan't to learn how to draw and start to write (my dnd campaign for my friends) but I feel the day is to short. \n\nIf I get up at 730 make breakfast and leave the house by 8 it takes me 30 minutes to get to the gym and get ready. My workout is 1hr to 1hr and 15 then I come home and its about 945. Within this 2hr and 15 minute time frame I don't know what to do. I often am to lazy to get motivated and just lie down on my phone before leaving for work at 12. \n\nWhen I get home its around 9:30 and I am so tired I just lie in my bed on my phone until 10-10:15 before I pass out. I know this is a shot of the real world and some people might consider me lucky or that all this is someone complaining but I am finding it really hard to balance everything I want to achieve in this 4 month period before I go back to school. I have 2 days off and even in those days I just lounge around.\n\nAny advice is appreciated!" ]

[ "You could accomplish all of these things and work on your hobbies/drawing at night after work. You could just wake up at 9:30 and get more sleep a.k.a energy\n9:30- Wake up\n10:00- Leave for gym\n11:15- Home from gym\nThis gives you time to shower after the gym and be ready to leave for work by 12\n", "Wake up a lil bit later? If your working schedule doesn't require you to be up at 6am or 7am, I dont see a reason as to why you should be.\n\n\nFit your life style around working hours.\n\nId say food is big deal, if your eating greens and fruits, will help a lot.\n\nOther than that.. sounds like you still need to adapt.\n\n\nBut I can't offer much else, maybe try gym after work? Use the morning to sleep more / get personal shit done. ", "Still working on this myself, but I force myself to be mindful of how much time I spend staring at a screen instead of actually doing what I wish I had more time to...could you doodle before falling asleep instead of staring at your phone? Just really take a step back and look at yesterday. How many hours were spent on your phone that you could have been doing something you want to instead? ", "I try to focus on just getting a few baby steps done each day, and as long as I get those done, I’m ok. I made a planner based around this idea which may help: https://twentyweeks.com. Maybe try the PDF version and see if it works for you for a week.", "I knock off at 5pm, hit the gym directly after work then game from 7 to whenever I'm tired \\(Probably between 10 and 11\\). If not gaming then whatever I need done \\(like some leftover work or other admin\\) I will do after working out. What I also do is schedule my rest days on 2 weekdays, so you effectively have 2 days a week after work with free time. \n\nI found that you obviously have to sacrifice some things \\(sleep being one of them\\), and others you should fit in on weekends. \\(I only started working this year myself so still figuring it out\\). But you'll figure it out man, we always do." ]

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[ "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. ", "How to get a bucket of water to not splash when walking. The task of carrying a bucket of water with your bare hand and spilling it must be fixed. " ]

[ "Throw some floating objects in it and this will break up the large waves into smaller ones. The large waves are causing the spillage. Source my girlfriend when I was a teen did this when fetching water for pigs.", "Roll your feet from heel to toe very smoothly. I learned this in marching band and use this technique as a server. I don't slosh any drinks now. :)", "If you keep the bucket away from your body, it reduces the risk. If you hold the bucket against yourself it makes the water slosh around more.", "if you liked it then you should have put a lid on it\nIf you liked it then you should've put a lid on it", "It's like carrying a cocktail, just don't look at it. You will be amazed at how much is this tiny little adjustment helps. Go get 'em tiger! ", "try rotating the bucket 90 degrees every 4-5 steps.\n\nI remember seeing an article (or video) about how to avoid spilling coffee while walking. It said that with each stride the waves got larger and larger until you spilled your coffee. By rotating the cup you killed the momentum and it had to start over again and as it builds up you rotate it again (and thus killing the momentum again).\n\nIf it works with coffee cups it might work on buckets. For whatever reason I can't seem to find that article again.", "Twist the bucket left and right repeatedly. This will cause the water to swirl around which will stop the water for splashing as much while you are walking. I will usually twist it a couple of times and give it a hard flick in one direction so that the water keeps swirling to minimize my effort.\n\nSource: Lazy farm work\n\n", "take random numbers of long and short steps as not to set up a regular wave pattern. \n\n[tire tread pattern blocks vary in size to limit vibration/hum](http://www.tirerack.com/images/tires/firestone/fs_winterforce_ci1_l.jpg)", "Spin it fast enough so that it's held in there by the G-Force. \n \nThere are no flaws with this plan..." ]

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[ "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing).", "How to grocery shop for my family of 4. As new(ish) parents of twin boys who are 2.5 we are doing a terrible job. We need to go to the store 2x a week on average and we spend $500/month. We seem to never have dinner or are always winging it and we are spending so much time/money on groceries. We've switched to online grocery shopping and it has helped but we are still not where we need to be. How do I shop frugally, healthily, and abundant for our small family of 4?\n\n\nOnly dietary restriction is both boys drink milk at night and one needs almond milk due to a milk allergy (side note rant its so annoying to have a child with a milk allergy I didn't even know that was a thing)." ]

[ "Plan out your meals for the week before you go grocery shopping -- write down what you're going to have Monday night, Tuesday night, mark \"Wednesday\" for leftovers, etc.\n\nUse your grocer's sales to help guide you if you get stuck. Meat is often the most expensive part of a meal, so pick a meat that's on sale, and make that for Monday, Thursday, and Saturday's dinners. Buy family packs of meat; they're always cheaper than the smaller packs, and you can divide them into portions the right size for your family and freeze as soon as you get home. Utilize that freezer!\n\nYou might also consider having a meal prep day -- check out /r/MealPrepSunday. I made \"homemade hot pockets\" this week with chicken thighs (brined, baked, chopped), spinach, mozzarella, and roasted tomato sauce I made on Sunday. Wrapped the ingredients in puff pastry and baked until delicious. They can be individually wrapped for a quick tasty snack, or certainly an easy meal for your boys.\n\nAlso, check out /r/budgetfood and /r/EatCheapAndHealthy. There are a lot of fantastic resources in the sidebars. ", "Also spend a min every week to set up a menu for the week. Will help not having to wing it. Will also help your shopping list. ", "Shop at sams club or Costco, we are a family of 5. We have 3 kids and stock pile meats.\n\nMilk almond milk for both since you can buy by 2 gallons in a box, also try simple meals and try to expand their pallets ", "I'm a bit of an organized freak, so don't laugh at me but this is what I did:\nI wrote down in a spreadsheet every single thing that my SO and I know how to cook. I took a few days to do it so I would remember everything that we know how to make or even like. Then I wrote out what it takes to make that meal or what goes with that meal. Like if I'm making a meatloaf, we usually have corn and mash potatoes (pre-keto days of course). Then I put a filter on the spreadsheet and now all I have to do is check the box of what I want to cook for the week and it generates my grocery list. I always have a \"must go\" night (leftovers) and probably a day that we will eat out. So that only leaves 5 days of meals to plan for and if you really sit down and think about it, you know how to cook more meals than you think you do.", "I have twin 8yo (boy and girl) who are very picky eaters. My wife usually doesn't like to be very adventurous, either. I, on the other hand, love trying new things. So, every night, I usually cook 3-4 meals. \n\nMy solution is to keep the staples on hand. All of them. Frozen chicken breasts. Ground beef. Pork loin. Spices. Lettuce. Lots of cheese. Milk. Spices. Frozen bags of \"trinity' (onions/celery/bell pepper). Sodas. And a lot of other things. Basically, the \"building blocks\" of meals. \n\nThat way, when I want to cook something, I am fairly assured of having most ingredients on hand. Kids want chicken nuggets? Thaw 2 chicken breasts, wash with an egg, roll in bread crumbs, bake. 30 min, and they have healthy nuggets. \n\nWhile that is baking, I'll throw some rice noodles in hot water, and in a pan saute chicken, onion (from the frozen bag), and garlic, then finish with some Pad Thai sauce from a jar. While the chicken is cooking, I'll throw together a salad for my wife.\n\nI can usually have it all done in 45 minutes. But, it takes a while (year or 2) to get proficient enough to cook several things at once. While you get there, grab 2-3 el-cheapo dial timers. Set them for each thing. When one goes off, check that thing (or, if you forget which it was for, check them all).", "Takes time but you have to know what a good price is on items you buy or will use a lot. Best way is to write the price next to the item on your store list an compare to past ones. \n\nExample:\n\nBoneless chicken breasts, sign above it says **SALE** $1.99 a pound, next week the same, week after that and week after that. Next week sign says **SALE** $2.29 a pound. No it's not, $1.99 is the regular price. Recently it was $1.29 a pound, now that a **SALE**. I buy 10 pounds, take it home, package it and freeze it. I know I'm going to eat it and I just saved $7.00. One time expenditure but long term savings.\n\nAlso seriously think about getting a deep freezer if you have the space for one and can swing the cost. When you see things on sale you then can buy in bulk and store them. If you watch you can get a 5 cubic foot size for under $130. I got a 7.1 for $139 a few years back. It will pay for itself over time.\n\nI buy whole pork loins when they hit 59 cents a pound. Cut the ends into 2 pound pieces for roasts or slow cooking and the center into chops for grilling. Racks of BB ribs for 79 to 99 cents when they go on sale.\n\nSo in my deep freezer I have 20 pounds of pork in various sizes, 10 pounds of boneless chicken breasts, 10 pounds of bone in thighs and 4 racks of ribs. Other stuff like shrimp and fish as well that was purchased a a real sale price. Most everything in that freezer was purchased on sale.\n\n*\"Well what if the power goes out and it spoils?\"*\n\nCheck your home insurance policy, many times it's covered up to a certain point as long as it wasn't you that cause the outage. I also have two generators, live in hurricane country so I have to be ready. ", "i have 7yo twin boys. here in los angeles we spend $200 a month on groceries. that's 50% full price veggies from chinese supermarkets, and 50% \"clearance\" items marked 50%+ off at regular american supermarkets.\n\n$1/lb bacon, $1/lb sausage, and $0.50 loaves of bread are always easy to find on \"clearance.\" but we're starting to make our own bread in a machine, and it costs about the same.\n\nevery weekend i cook five work lunches for myself, which are mostly blanched veg. it takes a few hours to prep and cook everything, once a week.\n\nit's not that hard to spend $50/person/month if you avoid processed foods and full-price at the regular markets.", "Try not to buy any \"quick meals\". 9 times out of 10, it will be half the cost or less to make a meal from scratch than to buy the pre-packaged version.", "We have 4 children cook a large batch for dinner and you give them leftovers for lunch, big time saver, please stop yourself sometimes and realize you can't do it all, you're not perfect, don't neglect yourself, or your SO, exercise and keep a hobby, \"I don't have time\" I'm telling you for a reason make time", "Once a Month Meals is good for freezer cooking. \n\nWe spend $700-800 a month though for a family of four. We can drop down quite a bit by cooking ahead but we all get really bored with it so we've been trying out things like Hello Fresh and Blue Apron to break the rut (still costs less than fast food). \n\nHow to Cook Everything and How to Cook Everything: The Basics by Mark Bittman are great for almost any level of cooking experience. \n\nI've found that cutting out store bought processed carbs saves a lot of money. Making things like bread, crackers, and pizza dough aren't hard at all and are wayyyyy cheaper and tastier when made at home. \n\nDefinitely agree with everyone who suggested Costco. It's great for stocking up on staples like rice and meat (and wine). \n\nStart using more spices and learn how make cheap cuts of meat delicious. \n\nMy only other recommendation would be to get an instant pot. The pressure cooker feature is amazing and I use it for everything from soups to hard \"boiled\" eggs. Because the pressure cooker setting is so easy to use and makes even frozen meat into a meal in thirty minutes, it takes away the excuse to just order dinner when you haven't planned ahead. ", "Go to your local market at the end of the day when theyre chucking out and negotiate for cut price veg, make meals in advance and then freeze for the week ahead. \n\nMake use of coupons. They can be a bit of a scam and make you buy things that you absolutely do not need, but you can definitely find good coupons for buy one get one free or a quid off in newspapers or on the packets of things you're already buying.\n\nAlso, if you write to companies (like Almond milk that your kid needs) saying how much you love their product, they will often send you money off coupons as a thank you. Get your kids to do a doodle for them (and loads of other companies) and you'll get twice as many!\n\nAnd as others have said - stockpile. And diversify.\nLike you can make a bucket of bolognese sauce, and you can do lasagne, sloppy Joe's, and shepherds pie with it all. \n\nAlso, shop towards the end of the day when all the fresh produce is being reduced. This is especially good for bread, veg, and dairy. Play fast and loose with expiry dates and use your nose as a guide, the expiry dates are very flexible. Especially if you're cooking what you've got. You can buy reduced meat, cook it straight away and fridge it for 3 days to make it last before you need to add it to any meal. Or freeze it for even longer use. Also, damaged goods (like 6pack cans of drinks with one missing) can also be good value, along with cleaning products and toilet paper. \n\nSorry it's a bit of a barrage! I hope some of it helps! \n\n\n", "Ffresh fruits and vegetables are such an important part of diets that Americans (if you are) generally go without. Canned fruits/veg have added sugar/salt/preservatives and should be avoided. Problem is fresh fruit/veg is expensive. It would be worth looking in your area for a grocer that sells \"ugly\" fruit/veg at a big discount, this will help cut down on food waste and make your family healthier inexpensively. It's not easy/cheap to stay away from prepackaged processed foods, but it's more important than most believe", "Costco or another wholesale. Keep watch of sales, especially at other more expensive stores. Buy bulk and buy large quantities when sales happen. If done right, you shouldn't have to go more than 3 times a month.", "As someone who works at a grocery store- take a moment to look at how the items are stocked. If they're stocked from the front, grab from the front. If they're stocked from the back, grab from the back. Exception is frozen and refrigerated items- never grab the front item. The front item is often put back on the shelf hours after someone decides they don't want it. \n\nAdditionally, the items between aisles tend to be worse deals than in the aisles themselves. ", "Two words: rice cooker.\n\nI know, \"Rice? That's boring!\" No. Shut up. You don't understand, yet.\n\nBuy a rice cooker. A good one. \"Aroma\" brand is pretty good. Buy a large bag of rice. All you have to do now is just buy \"flavors\" for the rice.\n\n>Stir fry with rice: frozen bag of stir fry veggies plus rice plus spices. Cook rice. Heat up veggies. Add spices. $3 at most.\n\n>Green Chile Chicken and rice: can of green chiles, can of crushed tomatoes, can of cooked chicken, rice, spices. Empty all contents into rice cooker. Mix it up. Cook it like you would cook the rice. Done. $4.\n\n>\"Cajun\" dish: slice up some sausage, crushed tomatoes, chopped onion, garlic, rice, spices. Throw it all in the rice cooker. Done. $3.\n\nYou get where I 'm going with this, don't you. You can do a lot more. I suggest trying broth instead of water to cook the rice. Either way, I've given you three meals a week for $10. You can do those three every week and I doubt anyone would hate you.\n\nThen there is [Italian Wonderpot](http://www.budgetbytes.com/2013/05/italian-wonderpot/). Holy crap is it good. I recommend trying it at least four times (the smallest feta cheese I could find was enough for four pots).\n\nCereal for breakfast is pretty cheap. So is eggs and toast.\n", "There are very many meal planning services available online. One example is savingdinner.com. You can find a plan for your budget and preferences. Some plan out 3 meals/day plus snacks. They provide shopping lists and recipes for a monthly fee. Many people report saving money by using these services. There are also a lot of sites that teach you how to plan dinners based on what's on sale. Many years ago I read a newsletter turned into a book called Tightwad Gazette. The cheapest way is to shop sales and track prices so that you can figure out the pattern of sales for important staples. Wait until it is sold at its cheapest. Buy in bulk when you can and cook from your freezer/pantry. ", "I guess it depends on the place, but you could try buying meat from a local deli. The boyfriend and I shop at one and we usually get fresh meat for 3-4 days depending on what it is and is usually $30 or less. Compared to store bought meat, less water comes out of the meat when it cooks (from what I observed) and you can ask them to split and trim chicken breasts for you. Doesn't last as long in the fridge but that's probably from a lack of preservatives. Tastes delicious too.", "I feed family of 3 on a $450 grocery budget and that includes making my kids' lunches and mine as well every day for work. \n\nOne of my big secrets is regularly cooking some of our favorite meals in bulk. For instance, I bought a big pot and regularly cook the following:\n\n* Red beans & rice\n* Spaghetti sauce\n* Lima beans\n\nWhen I make these meals, I make enough for us to eat and to bag-up about 8 additional dinners. I freeze these so I always have a quick means to make an awesome dinner in about 20 minutes (the time it takes to make rice or noodles). \n\nMy freezer is full of them. When you figure out the cost per meal for these, it's very, very little (even for the best ingredients!)\n\nI am currently planning on expanding these \"large pot\" meals to include jambalaya, crawfish/shrimp etouffe, and maybe even beef stew.\n\nI also try to buy meat in bulk (or on special) and freeze it. Most of our meals have some sort of meat so this saves quite a bit over the course of a month.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Are you guys salad eaters? Prodce clerk here. \n\nBig clamshells of greens are always cheaper in value and last longer than the bagged. \nRomaine hearts you chop yourself have 3x as much, and you can regrow them.\n\nMost grocery stores have the reduced rack, always check them out. I buy bags of bell peppers for $1.50 and they last me 2-3 days, then I freeze the rest.\n\n\nDo you have a crockpot? Roasts and stews are cheap to make in bulk. Then freeze the leftovers if you won't eat them the next day ", "We spend 700 a month so it's not like 500 is a bad amount. But take some of the other advice here. Plan some meals, etc." ]

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[ "How to stay warm when outside in the cold for a long period of time? I'm a goalkeeper playing soccer in temperatures in the teens and single digits. How can I keep my feet warm inside my cleats, and hands warm inside my goalie gloves? I can't wear wool socks or else my feet won't fit inside my cleats, and I can't wear winter gloves inside my goalie gloves or else I can't catch the ball very well. Any suggestions, or things I can do to help? Thanks!", "How to stay warm when outside in the cold for a long period of time? I'm a goalkeeper playing soccer in temperatures in the teens and single digits. How can I keep my feet warm inside my cleats, and hands warm inside my goalie gloves? I can't wear wool socks or else my feet won't fit inside my cleats, and I can't wear winter gloves inside my goalie gloves or else I can't catch the ball very well. Any suggestions, or things I can do to help? Thanks!", "How to stay warm when outside in the cold for a long period of time? I'm a goalkeeper playing soccer in temperatures in the teens and single digits. How can I keep my feet warm inside my cleats, and hands warm inside my goalie gloves? I can't wear wool socks or else my feet won't fit inside my cleats, and I can't wear winter gloves inside my goalie gloves or else I can't catch the ball very well. Any suggestions, or things I can do to help? Thanks!", "How to stay warm when outside in the cold for a long period of time? I'm a goalkeeper playing soccer in temperatures in the teens and single digits. How can I keep my feet warm inside my cleats, and hands warm inside my goalie gloves? I can't wear wool socks or else my feet won't fit inside my cleats, and I can't wear winter gloves inside my goalie gloves or else I can't catch the ball very well. Any suggestions, or things I can do to help? Thanks!", "How to stay warm when outside in the cold for a long period of time? I'm a goalkeeper playing soccer in temperatures in the teens and single digits. How can I keep my feet warm inside my cleats, and hands warm inside my goalie gloves? I can't wear wool socks or else my feet won't fit inside my cleats, and I can't wear winter gloves inside my goalie gloves or else I can't catch the ball very well. Any suggestions, or things I can do to help? Thanks!", "How to stay warm when outside in the cold for a long period of time? I'm a goalkeeper playing soccer in temperatures in the teens and single digits. How can I keep my feet warm inside my cleats, and hands warm inside my goalie gloves? I can't wear wool socks or else my feet won't fit inside my cleats, and I can't wear winter gloves inside my goalie gloves or else I can't catch the ball very well. Any suggestions, or things I can do to help? Thanks!" ]

[ "I have terrible circulation but I love the outdoors. Here's what gets me through winter: stand with your arms by your sides. Raise your shoulders up like a shrug, and then force them back down as fast as your can. Repeat this until your hands feel better. It manually forces blood into your fingers and keeps the blood flowing. You can try to keep moving as much as possible like stationary running and high-knees if you aren't doing that already. By the way these tips are obviously only for when the play is far away from you :p Good luck!", "Sounds silly, but a pair of pantyhose might help. Fully extends from toes to waist as an additional layer, and thin enough that it shouldn't cause that much discomfort in your shoes space-wise.", "> I can't wear wool socks or else my feet won't fit inside my cleats\n\nYou can buy wool socks that have different thicknesses. Smartwool makes great socks; such as [light weight](http://www.rei.com/product/626974/smartwool-light-hiker-socks#tab-specs) or [exp", "Try using the chemical heat pads that are for one time use. They are good for shoes, gloves and hats. ", "Moisturize. My home is and will continue to be very cold all winter. I notice I feel less cold if I keep my skin properly moisturized. I can't say what the exact temperature is in here because I purposely don't buy a thermometer (But I'm wearing 3 layers of pants and my GPU is running at 27 C under load at 30% fan speed. So... cold).\n\nIt sounds weird but if I get cold, I moisturize, I am guessing it has something to do with water evaporation.", "For hands maybe have a little bag by the goal with hand warmers that you can use during a break or when the ball is not near you. For feet maybe a hand warmer in between the tongue and laces. Gotta say I hope you have some sort of pants on while you play. Thats pretty tough weather" ]

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[ "Extreme foot odor from work boots I have recently started at a new furniture store which requires me to be much more professional in my workplace. Working construction it was no big deal but I have finally realized, my boots REEK. Seriously it is kind of stupid, I am on my feet for about 7-8 hours per day, typically 35+ hours a week. I probably have excess bacteria that needs to be killed off once and for all. Anyways, anything will help, thanks!", "Extreme foot odor from work boots I have recently started at a new furniture store which requires me to be much more professional in my workplace. Working construction it was no big deal but I have finally realized, my boots REEK. Seriously it is kind of stupid, I am on my feet for about 7-8 hours per day, typically 35+ hours a week. I probably have excess bacteria that needs to be killed off once and for all. Anyways, anything will help, thanks!", "Extreme foot odor from work boots I have recently started at a new furniture store which requires me to be much more professional in my workplace. Working construction it was no big deal but I have finally realized, my boots REEK. Seriously it is kind of stupid, I am on my feet for about 7-8 hours per day, typically 35+ hours a week. I probably have excess bacteria that needs to be killed off once and for all. Anyways, anything will help, thanks!", "Extreme foot odor from work boots I have recently started at a new furniture store which requires me to be much more professional in my workplace. Working construction it was no big deal but I have finally realized, my boots REEK. Seriously it is kind of stupid, I am on my feet for about 7-8 hours per day, typically 35+ hours a week. I probably have excess bacteria that needs to be killed off once and for all. Anyways, anything will help, thanks!" ]

[ "make sure you clean between your toes and scrape/rub off loose skin right after your shower, change your socks daily if you don't , buy carbon activated inserts and buy shoes that 'breathe' ", "Mate - buy another couple of pairs of boots and where a different pair everyday. If you leave a pair of shoes for a couple of days they 'air out' and don't smell as bad. I know they arent cheap but....\nAlso get thinner socks, the smell is the sweat from your feet and thinner socks stop them sweating so much.", "If you can't afford another pair, baby(talcum) powder[absorbent], baking soda[absorbent+neutralizer], and salt[antiseptic] can all be sprinkled into them.\nIt's generally best to shake the powder(or a mixture of the 3) into them a while before you need to wear them again, then -go outside for this- shake them up a bit to evenly coat the inside and let them sit a while. \nJust empty them out when you need to wear them and they'll smell and feel better.", "I've found that the Dr. Scholl's brand of oder-eliminating foot liners seem to help.\n\nAlso, what kind of socks do you wear? If you haven't yet, try wool. It's much more odor-resistant than cotton." ]

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[ "What to do with unused gift cards I have over $100 in gift cards I will not use. What should I do with them?\n\nPreferably, I would like a way to convert the gift cards into cash or a Visa/Mastercard. ", "What to do with unused gift cards I have over $100 in gift cards I will not use. What should I do with them?\n\nPreferably, I would like a way to convert the gift cards into cash or a Visa/Mastercard. ", "What to do with unused gift cards I have over $100 in gift cards I will not use. What should I do with them?\n\nPreferably, I would like a way to convert the gift cards into cash or a Visa/Mastercard. ", "What to do with unused gift cards I have over $100 in gift cards I will not use. What should I do with them?\n\nPreferably, I would like a way to convert the gift cards into cash or a Visa/Mastercard. ", "What to do with unused gift cards I have over $100 in gift cards I will not use. What should I do with them?\n\nPreferably, I would like a way to convert the gift cards into cash or a Visa/Mastercard. " ]

[ "I have one with a visa logo and use it when I sign up for \"free\" trials of things. That way if I end up getting charged I don't take a hit (it's got like $2 on it). ", "You can sell or trade them at sites like Cardpool, Coinstar, and Raise.\n\nMany pawn shops will also buy them from you.\n\nNaturally though, virtually all of your options involve the other party taking a small cut of the card's value (except for direct person-to-person trades).", "Sell the cards to people you know who shop in those places. Don't know anyone who does? Go to that store and sell it to someone there.", "https://www.coinstar.com/coinstarexchange\n\nCheck to see if you have a Coinstar gift card kiosk at a store near you. It will buy your card back from you, but you won't be getting the full value back depending on how much the fee is for buying the card back.", "I have a Best Buy gift card, that I've had since like 2005. But I refuse to buy anything at Best Buy. " ]

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[ "How to improve spelling. I have sucked at spelling since i was around 10, i’m now 16 and still suck. i wouldn’t say i don’t know how to spell completely, obviously. but i haven’t gotten a job yet because i fear when i’m on the job i would have to spell something i wouldn’t know and i would get all embarrassed. is there any tips you guys can give me on how to get better/improve my spelling? Thanks! \n\n\n\n", "How to improve spelling. I have sucked at spelling since i was around 10, i’m now 16 and still suck. i wouldn’t say i don’t know how to spell completely, obviously. but i haven’t gotten a job yet because i fear when i’m on the job i would have to spell something i wouldn’t know and i would get all embarrassed. is there any tips you guys can give me on how to get better/improve my spelling? Thanks! \n\n\n\n", "How to improve spelling. I have sucked at spelling since i was around 10, i’m now 16 and still suck. i wouldn’t say i don’t know how to spell completely, obviously. but i haven’t gotten a job yet because i fear when i’m on the job i would have to spell something i wouldn’t know and i would get all embarrassed. is there any tips you guys can give me on how to get better/improve my spelling? Thanks! \n\n\n\n", "How to improve spelling. I have sucked at spelling since i was around 10, i’m now 16 and still suck. i wouldn’t say i don’t know how to spell completely, obviously. but i haven’t gotten a job yet because i fear when i’m on the job i would have to spell something i wouldn’t know and i would get all embarrassed. is there any tips you guys can give me on how to get better/improve my spelling? Thanks! \n\n\n\n", "How to improve spelling. I have sucked at spelling since i was around 10, i’m now 16 and still suck. i wouldn’t say i don’t know how to spell completely, obviously. but i haven’t gotten a job yet because i fear when i’m on the job i would have to spell something i wouldn’t know and i would get all embarrassed. is there any tips you guys can give me on how to get better/improve my spelling? Thanks! \n\n\n\n", "How to improve spelling. I have sucked at spelling since i was around 10, i’m now 16 and still suck. i wouldn’t say i don’t know how to spell completely, obviously. but i haven’t gotten a job yet because i fear when i’m on the job i would have to spell something i wouldn’t know and i would get all embarrassed. is there any tips you guys can give me on how to get better/improve my spelling? Thanks! \n\n\n\n" ]

[ "Write more often with a spell checker. Turn off the auto correct and then go back and see what mistakes you made. This will help you spell better. \n\nAlso, I work as a scientist doing research. A new hire would misspell common words. I honestly couldn’t care. Her emails to official people went through spell check and had no misspellings so it really didn’t matter.", "Read more. Reading more books etc will expose you to more correctly spelled words and help you to retain the correct spelling in your head. Helped me as a kid being a little book nerd", "Spell check is your best friend! The more you write and the more the correct spelling will stick. Also proof reading is your best friend (originally typed right instead of write)\n\nI also like the brain game Elevate. It has a variety of games that will explain the reason behind the spelling or tricks to help remember them. Just do the free version - helps with math & memory skills as well. \n\nAnother tip - read more books. Sounds strange but the more often you see words spelled correctly the more they will stick in your brain. Good luck!", "Read David Crystal's book Spell it Out. It will make you 1. More forgiving of your spelling mistakes 2. Give you some real life tips for spelling.", "I can't think of a job I've had under management level that required spelling, and even then I used computers or phones to communicate and autocorrect exists. This isn't advice to not work on it, but don't worry about it. My girlfriend is about to be a doctor and can't spell all that well. Spelling is not a particularly important part of life unless you want to be a writer, but again, you'll have tools to help you so it's more about content. Anyway, don't stress about it.\n\n", "Spellchecker is go to. But remember to delete whole word and write it again. If you just " ]

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[ "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n", "how to deal with excessively sweaty armpits? so.. a little background. I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot, to the point where it'll leave big wet patches. it's really embarrassing, so I usually always just wear black or white, or wear a jacket to cover up potential wet patches on my shirt. I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me? I've never suffered from excessive sweating from my armpits before in my life, so I don't know if it's hormonal or what. Axe Antiperspirant doesn't do anything, and I've done some research--should I use CertainDri or any other kind of clinical strength antiperspirant? thanks in advance for any advice; I'm desperate for any form of tip or information to help remedy this. (side note: I don't suffer from odor, it's mostly just the wet patches that are embarrassing)\n\n" ]

[ "Try an over night roll on called Certain Dri. I only need to use it once every two weeks or so. The first time you use it, it might feel like ants are trying to burrow into your soul via the armpit. Don't over do it.", "Order a spray bottle of Odaban from odaban.com. Tiny bottle lasts me 6 months and stopped my armpits from dripping (while at rest!) the very next day. Doesn't itch or burn after applying either. After using it for almost a year, I've gone from nightly to weekly applications and I can use plain ol' deodorant (w/o antiperspirant) after I shower in the morning. Seriously, the stuff changed my life. Good luck!", "i had this same problem, always wanted to try CertainDri, but was always too embarrassed to buy it, finally i manned up and bought it. Put it on at night, the next day, even after taking a shower the next morning, my armpits were noticeably less sweaty. After 3 or 4 days my armpits were bone dry all day long. The only thing is it did cause an itchy rash after about 3 months of every day use. I cut down to every other day, it had the same effectiveness of dryness, with no itch whatsoever. Definitely recommend it.", "Please be careful with antiperspirants. While the debate on whether deodorant causes cancer is still relatively unproven, antiperspirants have more evidence suggesting they do.\n\nA lot of the information out there suggests it doesn't, articles about it and whatnot, but when I decided to stop using it I did some pretty extensive googling and there are a couple of studies that are rarely referenced in which the results are quite compelling. It's a HUGE industry, I just don't trust the stuff. \n\n/endconspiracyrant\n\nHave you tried that salt rock? It's all natural, and after a little while of using it, it makes your sweat have no odor. I've never been much of a sweater (not woolly enough lol), so I don't know in terms of cutting down the perspiration. ", "You're 14, your body is changing (insert health class jokes here). This is likely temporary while your hormones settle. I wouldn't freak, every kid in your class has something weird going on inside of them right now. Talk to your doctor if you think you need some stronger anti-perspiration he/she might be able to help find the right one for you. ", "Your are not alone. What you suffer from is called hyperhidrosis. It's results out of a malfunction of the autonomic nervous system. It usually starts with puberty. The good news are it's not dangerous at all (except for a few very rare cases where people sweat so much all over their body that they are prone to dehydration etc) and it's **treatable**.\n\n**As you're still going through puberty, I wouldn't worry so much about it, cause there's a good chance that it might go away after that.**\n\nFor now and in case it's not getting better after puberty, here are a few pro tipps (sadly, i'm a real pro when it comes to this ...). The tips are restricted to sweating in the armpits, though some of them can also be applied to other areas that are often afftected by hyperhidrosis, but be careful, especially in face and private parts.\n\n* Google. No kidding. You now got a name for this, and you are not alone. There are lots of boards and groups with lots of tips and help and interesting facts. Also feel free to ask me anytime.\n* Shave. It really helps with the treating and it reduces the smell. Plus, it feels cleaner.\n* Care for these areas, especially after shaving. Don't use a lotion with glycerin or paraffin oil in it\n* Use a real antiperspirant (Aluminium Chlorid / AlCl), you can either buy them as a product (Odaban, Yerka, Syneo 5, etc. ) or you can order it at a pharmacy (30%AlCl). A few years ago there were rumors that AlCl caused cancer (especially breast cancer) but it's nothing more than that, a rumor. Google it, especially in connection with the american cancer society, national cancer institute etc.\n* Throw away the axe etc shit.\n* Be careful with the antiperspirants. Yes. It may not cause cancer, but it irritates the skin for sure. It dries the skin up and it can cause itchyness. Apply it sparingly and often pause for a few days. Care for your skin, use a lotion (yes, even under the armpits!). Do NOT use AlCl directly after shaving.\n* Be patient. In most hyperhidrosis cases, AlCl needs a few days to start working. Apply it in the evening, so it can work itself into the skin during the night (that sounds disgusting, sorry, I don't know the right word in english)\n* If you like you can wear black, it hides the wet stains much better that colorful clothes. BUT: If you like colorful clothes, wear them!!! Do not restrict yourself, the antitranspirant will help you. You can wear black when pausing with the AlCl to give your skin a break.\n* Go to the sauna. This may sound crazy, but sometimes it feels good to be able to sweat like hell with everybody around doing the same. Preferably do it when pausing the the AlCl.\n* You can try to use arm pads. They do work, but they are really uncomfortable and under thin clothing they are sometimes visible\n* IF, just IF, it doesn't stop after puberty, there are some more treatment options, iontophoresis, sympathectomy, botox, etc, though they all might have some side effects or can be painful.\n* Again: Do not worry so much. You are not alone. You are 14 and there's a big chance that it just fades away in 1, 2 years, And even if not, it's not as bad as it sounds. I have suffered from it for years, arm pits, hands, feets, heavy case, I even stayed at home pretending I was ill on my birthday, so that I didnt have to shake (touch) anybodys hand :-/ But I learned a lot, I met a lot of fellow sufferer and I found a lot of effective stuff.\n* Feel free to message me\n\nPS: Fot all the people who wonder what all the fuss is about and who have no idea how much one can suffer from a condition like this: Please, think about never wanting to go out of the house cause you are so ashamed. Sweating like hell even when it's really cold and everybody is freezing. Never be able to wear something else besides black, cause it hides the stains better. Rather ignoring a person you like walking by than raising your arm and waving to them, cause you would rather die than lifting your arm. Being bullied and mocked and shunned cause you are the \"unclean\" and disgusting person who is to stupid to use a deodorant / to shower / whatever / just for the fun of it. It really sucks.", "Something I learned from the book of manhood--those cheap white packs of undershirts they sell as underwear? Yeah, they're like women's pads... except for body sweat. Doesn't completely fix the problem, but definitely alleviates it somewhat.", "If you're worried about the smell, just know that what causes the smell in armpits is the bacteria reacting with the sweat, not the sweat itself.\n\nI used to sweat a lot (though I guess not as much as you) but then I realized that it usually happened when I kept my arms shut tight, my elbows on my sides. And when I did that, my armpits sweat more, which made me more embarrassed, which made me clench my arms more, which made me sweat more.\n\nSo I just made sure to wash my armpits thoroughly to get the bacteria out, then I wore axe anti-perspirant (I know you already said it didn't work). Then, I started sitting with my elbows on my knees, and let the breeze dry out my armpits. Felt good, man.", "I would change deodorant if you haven't already. \n\nThis happens to a lot of people so don't feel like bad or anything.\n\nI used Right Guard or whatever, and changed to Old Spice Original, and no more sweaty armpits. Well, my armpits get a bit wet from it, but it goes away in ~5 minutes.", "I use Gilette Clinical Strength anti-persperant. You put it on the night before and it is absorbed while you sleep. At this point, I can skip a day and it still works. Downsides: It's sticky (presumably to keep it operating on the desired location) and it ain't cheap.", "Everyone's different. But this used to happen to me and the solution was to stop drinking energy drinks. Problem solved for me.", "After finding an antiperspirant, start dressing in layers. A colorful t-shirt or 2 under another shirt helps mask what the roll-ons don't take care of.", "I had the same problem. You have to find an antiperspirant that works for you. I literally spent tons of money on the best antiperspirants, almost spending money on the clinical kind. But I saw a way cheap kind that I never tried and that one is the only one that has worked for me. You might have to change it later in life. This happened to me in my early twenties. BTW, I use [this](http://www.secret.com/womens-deodorant.aspx), one of the most basic kinds within the most basic brands, *shrug*. Who would have guessed?", "I don't know about now, but when you get older, you might want to try injecting botox into your armpits. Botox paralysis the glands in your armpits that create sweat and keeps them from sweating for as long as the botox (or whatever else you decide to use) lasts. It is for very extreme cases but I wouldn't worry about it being 14, your body is going through a cascade of different hormones, and once you get a little older it should settle down. In the mean time, try wearing under shirts so that you don't ruin your clothes. ", "best bet is lower the amount of sugar and processed flour you eat, that usually cuts back on sweating.", ">I'm 14 years old, and recently, over the past month, I've been sweating from my armpits a lot [...]I just want to know, how should I deal with this? I can't live like this, it's unbearable, and how should I get rid of it? also, why is this happening to me?\n\nAh, puberty...\n\nGet some antiperspirant (not to be confused with deodorant, i.e. perfume by another name), and wash your body more often." ]

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[ " How to get the most life out of my new mattress set and bedding, and is there anything I should know about sleeping on a new surface? ", " How to get the most life out of my new mattress set and bedding, and is there anything I should know about sleeping on a new surface? ", " How to get the most life out of my new mattress set and bedding, and is there anything I should know about sleeping on a new surface? " ]

[ "I'm not sure about the rest of all that but ive always rotated my mattress every three months. I do it at Christmas, st. Pats, 4th of July and Halloween so that it's easy to remember. ", "I got a new mattress a few weeks ago and rotating it (read sleeping in random ass directions) is the best way to break it in evenly and avoid early sagging", "Definitely give it at least a month to adjust. When we upgraded our mattress I initially had a LOT of trouble adjusting... I definitely felt weird/sore/had trouble getting comfortable at first. I was even second guessing myself... wondering if it was really the same one I'd selected at the store. But then bam, after a month, I was getting the best sleep of my life!" ]

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[ "How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.", "How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.", "How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.", "How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.", "How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this." ]

[ "You invest time into trying (like you have been) and you'll work your way into the right, inclusive, groups. The exclusive ones are not worth keeping because they're typically insecure and generally don't allow you to expand your circle. \n\nProvide them with opportunities to be inclusive such as telling them that you're new in the area and looking to meet people.\n\nMy best advice would be to take on a hobby that you enjoy and go to a public group or class that does that hobby. People with similar hobbies tend to click the best because they already have something in common.", "Pets...its easy and they are the ice breaker. I just moved to san antonio and my roommates are always at work, so to make friends i take my dog to the bars. Ppl come up and introduce themselves to me and my dog Roach all the time.", "i've noticed when i meet a person one on one in a neutral, more \"natural\" situation like school or work, i will befriend them so how and then i meet their other friends. That adds on and then you end up meeting new people ", "Just focus on meeting one good person who enjoys doing the same things as you! They will introduce you to their friends, who will introduce you to their friends, and eventually you will know every person in that city. If you meet someone new in public and the conversation is going well then exchange information. Casually ask them to hangout by suggesting an activity you both would enjoy. Follow through with your plans and you will have a new friend in no time. You will probably get blown off a few times, but don't let this get you down. These people obviously are not worth your time anyway. Don't get discouraged and keep at it, eventually you will find an amazing friend.", "If you have a car then drive Uber for few hours every week. You will meet interesting people and make new friends." ]

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[ "How to not blush when conversing with cute strangers? I'm always facing this problem.. how can I stop it?", "How to not blush when conversing with cute strangers? I'm always facing this problem.. how can I stop it?" ]

[ "Honestly, I used to try to imagine them as being really ugly by focusing on one flaw if I can find it, and if not just stare at their forehead and don't make eye contact (they cannot tell).", "Blushing is an unconscious reaction caused by social interaction signifying heightened emotions which are often subjective and not outright stated within a conversation. If you are blushing then try to come to terms with your own feelings. If they are cute, accept that, and then move on with your conversation. " ]

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