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[ "What is your pro tip to find the purpose of life and reignite the enthusiasm, when nothing feels exciting anymore? ", "What is your pro tip to find the purpose of life and reignite the enthusiasm, when nothing feels exciting anymore? ", "What is your pro tip to find the purpose of life and reignite the enthusiasm, when nothing feels exciting anymore? ", "What is your pro tip to find the purpose of life and reignite the enthusiasm, when nothing feels exciting anymore? ", "What is your pro tip to find the purpose of life and reignite the enthusiasm, when nothing feels exciting anymore? ", "What is your pro tip to find the purpose of life and reignite the enthusiasm, when nothing feels exciting anymore? " ]

[ "Go get really, really involved in helping other people. Get something on your schedule every day that involves sacrificing your time and talents for others. Just donating money won't do it. You have to get your hands dirty. The grittier your help can be, the better - volunteer at the prison, volunteer with NODA, hand out clean needles at the overnight free clinic, be an escort at PP, be a volunteer victim's advocate. Get IN IT. I'm not just talking about delivering flowers at the hospital. Do the tough jobs, face the ugly truths, see the humanity in the eyes of people who society has rejected. Your perspective will improve.", "Find that one thing that you enjoy doing that puts you in the zone and do it for yourself because you want to improve at it not because anyone is telling you to. Do that thing as often as you can.", "Service to others.\n\nEsp. If they don’t “deserve it”, and if you don’t post it to social media.\n\nJust feeling useful, needed, and connected really makes a huge difference in how we see ourselves and feel about our life.", "That’s when I stop focusing on excitement and focus instead on purpose and satisfaction.\n\nNot everything in life has to be exciting.", "That description is practically the *definition* of depression. One feeling like this would probably benefit from professional help.", "Change something.\n\nChange jobs, change cities, change hobbies. \n\nI find that I tend to fall into a rut after about two to three years of the same routine. When I change something up, I get re-focused on trying to improve myself or my circumstances, and that gives me a renewed sense of purpose.\n\nThe bigger the change, the more dramatic the effect. Of course, that's assuming you have the means to do so." ]

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[ "How to stop a cat from chewing up cables? My one-year old cat keeps chewing through my phone chargers and my laptop charger and I'm getting tired of replacing them. She seems to mostly chew on the smaller diameter cords. Without getting rid of my car, what are some things I can do to get her to stop?", "How to stop a cat from chewing up cables? My one-year old cat keeps chewing through my phone chargers and my laptop charger and I'm getting tired of replacing them. She seems to mostly chew on the smaller diameter cords. Without getting rid of my car, what are some things I can do to get her to stop?", "How to stop a cat from chewing up cables? My one-year old cat keeps chewing through my phone chargers and my laptop charger and I'm getting tired of replacing them. She seems to mostly chew on the smaller diameter cords. Without getting rid of my car, what are some things I can do to get her to stop?", "How to stop a cat from chewing up cables? My one-year old cat keeps chewing through my phone chargers and my laptop charger and I'm getting tired of replacing them. She seems to mostly chew on the smaller diameter cords. Without getting rid of my car, what are some things I can do to get her to stop?", "How to stop a cat from chewing up cables? My one-year old cat keeps chewing through my phone chargers and my laptop charger and I'm getting tired of replacing them. She seems to mostly chew on the smaller diameter cords. Without getting rid of my car, what are some things I can do to get her to stop?" ]

[ "Just google \"bitter spray cat deter\" and you should find several options. If you want to be an asshole, you could always put some hot sauce on it - they'll learn quick. But, they sell sprays made out of like...bitter apples and such.", "You can get some cable wraps that are so hard that she can't bite through them. You can also try bitter apple spray to discourage chewing.", "cats hate citrus. try some lemon pledge or something like that, the smell alone should keep em away.\n\nor try to catch em in the act and give em a little open hand swat on the hip.", "Well, with my dog, he kept chewing the cable running along the side of the house outside. I grabbed the chewed up cable and showed him so he knew what the problem was, then I zapped him in the rump with a old stun gun. He never chewed a cable again. This stun gun was super old and not very powerful, my stepdad would zap himself in the chest with it to show off to friends, it wasn't strong at all.", "Figure out a thing they *really* don't like and coat the wires either in the thing or something that smells like it (if said dislike is something that would encourage mold or other pests)" ]

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[ "Are there ways to need less sleep without reducing overall sleep quality? Like a healthy living tip during the day or science life hack, to where I can shave maybe a hour off my sleep needs while retaining sleep quality. What I mean is, 6 hours, for example, being just as rejuvenating as 7, or 7 as 8. I know not everyone needs same amount of sleep and I always wondered why that was.", "Are there ways to need less sleep without reducing overall sleep quality? Like a healthy living tip during the day or science life hack, to where I can shave maybe a hour off my sleep needs while retaining sleep quality. What I mean is, 6 hours, for example, being just as rejuvenating as 7, or 7 as 8. I know not everyone needs same amount of sleep and I always wondered why that was.", "Are there ways to need less sleep without reducing overall sleep quality? Like a healthy living tip during the day or science life hack, to where I can shave maybe a hour off my sleep needs while retaining sleep quality. What I mean is, 6 hours, for example, being just as rejuvenating as 7, or 7 as 8. I know not everyone needs same amount of sleep and I always wondered why that was.", "Are there ways to need less sleep without reducing overall sleep quality? Like a healthy living tip during the day or science life hack, to where I can shave maybe a hour off my sleep needs while retaining sleep quality. What I mean is, 6 hours, for example, being just as rejuvenating as 7, or 7 as 8. I know not everyone needs same amount of sleep and I always wondered why that was.", "Are there ways to need less sleep without reducing overall sleep quality? Like a healthy living tip during the day or science life hack, to where I can shave maybe a hour off my sleep needs while retaining sleep quality. What I mean is, 6 hours, for example, being just as rejuvenating as 7, or 7 as 8. I know not everyone needs same amount of sleep and I always wondered why that was." ]

[ "I think most people have terrible sleep patterns and are not rested due to constantly waking up at night.\n\nI have found that taking melatonin before bed means better sleep quality, which has in the past enabled me to feel more rested on less sleep.\n\nI have also found the same thing at jobs requiring high efforts of physical labor. If your body can get into the same routine (roughly the same bedtime and wake time), then it can adjust to fit into those sleep hours if it has to, if your body has been sufficiently wearied by hard physical work. I know that YouTuber Casey Neistat says something along the lines of \"I have a theory that you can substitute exercise for sleep,\" and I think this is what he means.\n\nYou may have to add a nap on the weekend to make up for some lost sleep time.", "You might be interested biphasic or polyphasic sleeping. You will literally sleep less in a 24 hour cycle but it requires discipline to implement and maintain. Typically used in activities in which wake time is valued for reducing risk: solo sailors, astronauts, soldiers.", "There is a sleep hygiene practice called sleep compression that is meant to retrain your brain to fall asleep faster, with less interruptions in sleep, and achieving a higher quality of sleep.\n\nI’d look it up and do some research on it. I have a lot of issues with sleep due to PTSD and it has helped when I’m able to maintain the practice.", "Sleepyti.me\n\nGo to that site and see if that works\n\nAlso if you can set your lights onto a timer to come on, it helps me wake up. You could get a light with a remote instead which is what I have", "Melatonin supplements are only to be taken short term. If you have to rely on it, I’d consult a sleep therapist. \nPushing yourself physically or mentally will allow you to fall asleep better but many other factors go into the quality. If you have sleep apnea, nothing really can fix that like a CPAP machine." ]

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[ "How to keep a pillow cold? I hate it when I can't sleep and then pillow gets way too warm, and it gets even more difficult to sleep because you cant find a cool spot on the pillow. Any tips?", "How to keep a pillow cold? I hate it when I can't sleep and then pillow gets way too warm, and it gets even more difficult to sleep because you cant find a cool spot on the pillow. Any tips?", "How to keep a pillow cold? I hate it when I can't sleep and then pillow gets way too warm, and it gets even more difficult to sleep because you cant find a cool spot on the pillow. Any tips?", "How to keep a pillow cold? I hate it when I can't sleep and then pillow gets way too warm, and it gets even more difficult to sleep because you cant find a cool spot on the pillow. Any tips?", "How to keep a pillow cold? I hate it when I can't sleep and then pillow gets way too warm, and it gets even more difficult to sleep because you cant find a cool spot on the pillow. Any tips?", "How to keep a pillow cold? I hate it when I can't sleep and then pillow gets way too warm, and it gets even more difficult to sleep because you cant find a cool spot on the pillow. Any tips?" ]

[ "You could put it in the freezer for a few hours. Works for me but I imagine someone will come up with some better advice.", "Work hard all day and sleep through the night. You will never notice the temperature of your pillow. \n\nReally though, flipping your pillow over will give you a cool side and more fluffy place to lay your head. (is fluffier a word?) ", "Use multiple pillows! Put one at your feet or next to you depending how big your bed is, above the covers, and one to sleep on. You can use the one you sleep on once it gets warm, then flip it, if its still warm, switch out the pillows. And if you are like me I have a fan so it will be cooling the other pillow while the one you sleep on gets warmer.", "My pillow is large enough that each corner of each side is sufficient space to sleep on. That means 8 cool spots, by the time I get to all 8 (very rarely), the first will have cooled off again.\n\nIt's a large pillow, but not ridiculously. It can be cumbersome at times, but most of the time. it's good. I'd say it's 20in x 20in, got it at IKEA years ago.", "Keep a few pillows on your bedside table and make sure your pillows are thick so when you flip them over they will be cold.", "I use a [Chillow](http://www.amazon.com/Chillow-604232777510-%C2%AE-Comfort-Device/dp/B0000V0E14/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1339619988&sr=8-1&keywords=chillow) and during the day i keep it in a refrigerator i have in my closet (next to my midnight beverages - yoohoo, capri sun, and gatorade :-). I also use a memory-foam pillow which weighs a friggin ton but it stays cooler much longer. i get about 4 hours without flipping at brain-chilling temperatures, after which i just take out the chillow and go back to the old pillow flipping routine." ]

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[ "How to filter out all the clash of clans/candy crush knockoffs in the app store/google play to find truly original games I swear every time I browse 'new' games all there is are stupid, freemium knockoffs of clash of clans, minecraft, etc. All I wanna do is find truly original, enjoyable games", "How to filter out all the clash of clans/candy crush knockoffs in the app store/google play to find truly original games I swear every time I browse 'new' games all there is are stupid, freemium knockoffs of clash of clans, minecraft, etc. All I wanna do is find truly original, enjoyable games", "How to filter out all the clash of clans/candy crush knockoffs in the app store/google play to find truly original games I swear every time I browse 'new' games all there is are stupid, freemium knockoffs of clash of clans, minecraft, etc. All I wanna do is find truly original, enjoyable games", "How to filter out all the clash of clans/candy crush knockoffs in the app store/google play to find truly original games I swear every time I browse 'new' games all there is are stupid, freemium knockoffs of clash of clans, minecraft, etc. All I wanna do is find truly original, enjoyable games", "How to filter out all the clash of clans/candy crush knockoffs in the app store/google play to find truly original games I swear every time I browse 'new' games all there is are stupid, freemium knockoffs of clash of clans, minecraft, etc. All I wanna do is find truly original, enjoyable games" ]

[ "Browse indie Dev websites. I always find good stuff that I would never hear about otherwise for pc but there is probably some android specific sites.\n\nTl;dr. Search internet", "On IOS there is a great section called 'pay once play forever' these are all great games that you pay for to download and then don't have in app purchases. I would also suggest looking at the featured, ", "I'd suggest watching some OS-fan websites, like 'phandroid.com' for Android phones. Phandroid once a month often has the 'best games of X month' and 'best games of X year'. They recommend a lot of new and good games. [Example](http://phandroid.com/2015/02/03/best-android-games-january-2015/)\n\nThere are a lot of sites like this, so search around.", "Since people here aren't actually answering your question and are just recommending awesome mobile games, I'm gonna jump in and say Auro. Auro is fucking great.", "Go to www.boardgamegeek.com and look up some of the top games. They're a bit pricey because they're licensed board games, but they're more well developed than the usual shit." ]

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[ "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?", "How to start improving my posture? I'm still a high school student and just about all my life up until recently I've been a major sloucher and neck-bender. My parents always complained about it but I never cared, until one day I rode 6 residential blocks on a razor scooter and found my back hurt just from bending over for those ~5 minutes. I realized this is probably not normal and it would keep getting worse unless I started doing something now, so I've been trying to make an effort to keep my back straight when I sit/stand etc. but I never remember for more than a couple minutes at a time. Is there a better way?" ]

[ "You need more than just \"sitting up straight\".\n\nYou need to figure out how your posture is bad and then strengthening your muscle \"against\" your slouch. \n\nAlan Thrall have 2 great videos on posture and how to train your muscles to get better posture. The video is very accessible with simple explanations.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BEn61BL4Nwk", "Yoga. You need to balance your body. And the positions will inform you just where you need to work.\n\nAlso, doorways as trigger. Every doorway you go though, try to fill it to the grestest possible extent. Take a moment to stsnd in the doorway. Stretch your head and neck up, and your shoulders out to the sides. Then walk away with that posture.", "I know this isn't a great suggestion but what really worked for me was ditching my computer chair/work chair with a balance ball. It really formed a muscle memory for me to sit straight. ", "Start lifting and give as much attention to your back muscles as you give to your front muscles (1:1 ratio pull to push you can even go to 2:1) , if you don't want to bother with lifting , just do facepulls (google it) , it fixes your posture very fast.\n\nfor your back , just strenghten it with some core exercice (reverse hypers , back raises) and don't forget to stretch , a good start would be the starting stretch routine that you can find on r/fitness , or just google starting stretch phrakture .\n\nand always think that you're the king wherever you go.", "Get exercise and strengthen your muscles, and strengthen them evenly! Over time, as your whole body strengthens, you muscles surrounding your spine should begin to support your habit of good posture in a more natural way so you do not have to think about it as much. \n\nYoga is great for this.\n\nWeightlifting can also help with this, but do not try to lift too heavy or you can injure yourself. \n\nMake sure whatever exercise you do you do it properly and with good form (as for yoga, don't force anything, the form will come as you get more flexible)", "You should check out [pain science's](https://www.painscience.com/articles/posture.php) article on postural correction, it's well sourced, with practical tips and easy to read. But here's the introduction that you may not be what you were hoping to hear... \n>Posture matters a little, but not a lot. Most “poor posture” is just bad ergonomics and postural strain—a different problem. Postures that do harm and have easy fixes are rare; many postures are the result of long-term adaptations and nearly impossible to change. Although many people do seem to be vulnerable to postural strain, but they have a problem with vulnerability, not posture. If your main issue is unexplained or stubborn aches and pains, working on posture is not the best way to spend your time: just get more exercise generally, especially tasks that require coordination, and anything you enjoy (inspiration, not discipline). “Advanced” methods taught by posture gurus are mostly highly experimental and over-priced.\n", "I'm your age, probably, and have the same problems with pain in my back. I went to a doctor, discovered what was causing the pain and then he recommended me physiotherapy. It helped me so much, I can't even describe how I'm grateful for doing it. But the important thing is to keep doing the exercises after stop going to the physiotherapy, otherwise the pain will come back. \n\nThe exercises, at least those recommended for me, are simple and consists in stretching your legs and strengthening your abs. It takes about ~50 minutes per day for me. But I highly recommend you to go to a doctor first, see what is causing your pain and if it can evolves to something worse (in my case, it was a inicial stage of herniated disc, so it could get a lot worse if I haven't treated it). \n\nSorry for the bad grammar, I'm Brazilian and I'm not used to write in English. ", "I will tell you what worked wonders for me: Clean&Press + Heavy kettlebell swings. Now I can't help having straight posture, slouching is now hard work.", "Go walking. It is what our bodies are good at. You will feel better. You can do it well into your old age. ", "For me, I found it's less about keeping my shoulders back (yeah that's part of it, but it's the minor part), the real trick of it involves activating my lower abdominals. I find when I'm slouching it's because my lower abs just give up and my chest falls, stomach caves in, which makes me hunch over. So for me, keeping my shoulders back is just fighting the wrong battle. I just have to actively remind myself to tighten up my lower abdominal. How? When I'm sitting, I push my hips forward without really pushing them. In other words, I don't push hard enough to actually move, but just enough to keep the muscles active. I do find that I get tired of doing it, but i'm hoping muscle memory will kick in eventually. The bottomline here is that my back instantly straightens when I activate my lower abs. \n\n[", "First: Watch a couple of video of PAVEL TSATSOULINE and BKS INYEGAR \n\nSecond: Pray for their spirit to come help you train and stretch properly \n\nThird: Enjoy", "r/posture and r/fitness. They have guides and exercise plans on how to correct different types of bad posture. I suggest you thoroughly check out the sidebar of both subs. Educate yourself and ask questions on the subs. Good luck!", "Take a Body Mapping class! By understanding our anatomy we can understand the \"neutral\" and normal position our body \"should\" be in. Based on the things you've mentioned about your posture, try mapping your Atlanto-occipital joint, which is located in the middle of your skull, directly in between your ears. (If you put your fingers in your ears, you will be dissecting it horizontally). \nRecognize that this joint (the first point of balance) sits directly over the shoulder joints- where your arms connect to the torso). \nThe six points of balance are:\n1. The a-o joint\n2. The shoulder joint\n3. The thorax (in your thoracic spine/waist area)\n4. Hip joints (where legs meet pelvis)\n5. Knee joints\n6. Ankle joints\n\nAlso- with your specific neck issues, just try to be constantly aware of your neck by lengthening the back of the neck. This should help bring it into better alignment. \n\nWork on aligning the six points of balance. Good luck!!", "Stand against a wall with heels against the wall. Bring your hands together above your head with your arms and hand surfing the walls. Do a dozen whenever.", "Practise pull-ups. Took me a year of practicing to do one pull up and a year later I'm almost up to 20. My posture is better than ever. ", "I had the same problem and I didn't fix it so don't give up. Focus on it always and always try to stretch up to be taller when walking or standing. You will feel strong and more confident with it corrected. \n\nReally really watch for anything in daily life that makes you slouch or bend. My problem was backpacks. I never carried to much weight but it always make me hunch forward just from bad habits combined with wearing one every day (through grade school and university). Take your backpack off every chance you get and focus on being straight. Same thing with certain chairs and desks. \n\nAlso if you want to form muscle memory better put a pillow under your back when you sleep. You will wake up with a flat loose back. ", "commenting here so I can remember to read when I'm home. I'm in the same situation you are and I find this interesting to me either. Thank you!", "When I broke my collarbone my physio taped a cross across my back. It allowed me to move and walk freely but any time I'd hunch over or sit poorly, it'd tug at my back. Most effective thing ever.", "Read this on here many months back! To keep a \"chest-proud\" pose, imagine you're shooting laser from your nipples, and you wanna target the people around you. Yep that'll keep your posture straight. Helps with self confidence too.", "I'm not sure what country you're in, but an exercise physiologist (someone who uses exercise as medicine) could help you improve your posture. They will assess you and then assist you with exercises to improve your posture, reduce back pain and increase stability. ", "Deadlifts and squats are absolutely great at building posture provided that you dilligently do them correctly with strict form.\nOtherwise, another way is to do a state change. so much of your posture is associated with how you are feeling and what you are thinking. Look at your posture when you are happy, sad, etc... it will change. Tony robbins has a great way of changing states which changes your entire physiology.", "It's gotta be a conscious effort until it's habit. \nOne tip I have is to walk and sit as if there was a string coming out of the top of your head the is be pulled up. \nAlso, don't use too many pillows when you're sleeping. ", "I have the same problem...but somehow if you focus on holding your shoulders back to keep your back straight, it works better." ]

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[ "A way to keep sandwiches from getting soggy Specifically a sandwich bought from a sub shop, so I can't put the ingredients in separate bags.", "A way to keep sandwiches from getting soggy Specifically a sandwich bought from a sub shop, so I can't put the ingredients in separate bags.", "A way to keep sandwiches from getting soggy Specifically a sandwich bought from a sub shop, so I can't put the ingredients in separate bags.", "A way to keep sandwiches from getting soggy Specifically a sandwich bought from a sub shop, so I can't put the ingredients in separate bags." ]

[ "Sandwich guy here. For a most satisfyingly fresh tasting sandwich beyond 2 hrs depends on a few things. \n\nWhat is your timeframe between bun and mouth?\n\nWhat constitutes your build? BLT, club, chicken salad, ham on rye, Italian, vegetarian?\n\nWhat bead type? \n\nIf I want a sandwich with some durability, I always start on pumpernickel (it's tough and tasty), most ryes too, next I coat both pieces with a thin (taste dependent) layer of cream cheese (whipped spreads easier, so does microwaved reg). \n\nNow that we have a base let's add a little more resilience - Cheese. Nothing like a big slice of Munster (tasty, mild, soft, not salty). With the cheese blockade in place we can begin adding the accoutrements that will define the rest of the piece. \n\nIt's anyone's game here-on-out. Let me recommend a nice slow cooked marinated beef roast, juicier the better, topped with caramelized onion and a mild peppadew mustard drizzled unevenly for that surprise bite. \n\nEven with the mess above you should get at least two hours or more out of any set-up using that base. Feel free to mix/match flavors to your taste. \n\n\nDo keep in mind these bits: Food should always be covered, and never left unrefrigerated past 2 hrs - total (that's 5 min here, 20 there, hr in a bag, 30 min on a bun). \n\nTo preserve the flavor Never refrigerate or freeze bread. \n\nIf your bread's getting a bit stale pop it in the oven on the highest heat for a few minutes (toasters work per slice). \n\nAvoid microwaving bread, it capitulates textures to mush. This is the equivalent to what damage freezing bread has on flavor. \n\nAlways remember: The start of any great sandwich, or affair, begins with great buns. \n", "Ask them to butter the bread before doing anything else. The fat repels liquids/moisture, keeping the bread dry even if you add other condiments.", "Ask them to put dressing or mayo on the bread before putting on other ingredients. Create a protective layer between moist things (lettuce, cheese, meats) and your bread.", "Tomatoes are the worst offenders for making subs soggy. Have them put the tomatoes in a separate bag. If they won't put it in a bag ask them to make sure the tomatoes are tucked into the meat so they don't touch the edges of the bread. Or just skip the tomatoes." ]

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[ " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n", " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n", " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n", " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n", " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n", " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n", " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n", " I am just starting a new job where I have to cold call. For some reason I get SO nervous and sometimes I'll even stutter/mispronounce words. I've always struggled with public speaking at school and it has carried over to work. Help! What are tips and techniques that help you?\n\n\n" ]

[ "Depp breath with pursed lips, pause at the top, then slowly release. \n\nCold water on face. \n\nDive into water, run out of air, surface again. \n\nLie upside down on a chair with feet in the air. \n\nBiurnal beats.\n\nClassical music. \n\nM", "Are you doing the cold calling over the phone or canvassing door-to-door?\n\nFor public speaking in general, I believe it's a life skill that you can hone any time. You can take countless baby steps that will help you overall.\n\nWhen you're not working, try to always look everyone you see in the eyes (works well when you're at the mall). If you can, or later on, add a smile too. Next, add a big smile, and visualize meeting a new friend for the first time and think of the impression you give at that moment.\n\nThe great thing with cold calling is that most times you won't see the person ever again, think about that whenever you feel a buildup of nerves. Regardless of whether you're doing this in person or over the phone, stand up straight with your shoulders back, remember to breathe in between sentences, and take your time with what you have to say. \n\nIn between calls/clients, take a few moments if you need to prepare yourself for the next person. Learn from your mistakes to help improve, but also try not to think about any negative experiences until later on in the day, when you recap your progress. Focus on any fun/positive experiences to keep your morale high. Try to do some deep breathing (close your eyes if that helps) in between clients to help center yourself.", "M", "I've done a little cold calling in my previous jobs as well as a little now. I have always hated it. I find it best to literally write down a flow chart as to how you think the call should go. And write down what to say if he/she answers one way or another. Similar to like a \"choose your own ending\" type of book. While this may not always cover all the questions or responses you will get. It helps you have something to go by, which in turn will help settle the nerves. Going into something blind is always hard, but have a plan will make it better. It'll get easier over time. Good look with your new job!\n\nFor example:\n\n\n | | \n---|---|----\nHi my name is fatsilentnin. I'm calling from Reddit, and would like to speak with the office manager or Mr. Thtsnotwhaturmomsaid?| | \n\"this is he\" Great I would like to talk to you about or lord and savior, snoo | \"he's not in right now\" Okay thank you, do you know when he will be back? | \n\nAlso just realized how hard it is to format text boxes in reddit...\n", "What helps me before making a phone call is to write down what I wish to say and think about it before calling, almost like a script. If possible, try to call somebody who you know will give you a positive response (I'm not sure what line of cold calling you are associated with and if that is possible). That positive response will make you wonder why you ever worried. All you can do is put forth your best efforts to be professional and courteous. If you did your best, that's all that you can do. If you face rejection, it is certainly not easy, but don't take it personally and just keep moving forward until you get that positive response. Look at it as \"their\" loss!\n\n\nMy dad has done cold calling for years, and it is NOT easy, but he is good at it because he has become more comfortable with it over time. Don't worry so much- with time, you will become great at it and you'll wonder why you ever stressed over it! Good luck with your new job :)", "Take a deep breath. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Hold it in for a second. If your heart is racing, you'll speak very quickly and often have to repeat yourself. Keep doing this until your heart rate is at a normalish level.\n\nPractice your sentences out loud and to yourself first. If you make a mistake or start stuttering, stop talking, take a short pause, take a short breath, and restart that sentence. Don't apologize because you've done nothing wrong!\n\nIf you don't have a script, make one. It prepares yourself and makes you less likely to forget information.", "Honestly any hot drink (even hot water) will calm me down since it Makes me drink slow. I use the time to clear my thoughts", "Focus on who you're helping with your cold calling. If you're calling for donations to charity, focus on the people that that specific charity benefits. It will help you hear what you want to convey to whoever answers the phone. If you hear what you want to convey, your words will begin to follow suit.\n\nIf you're cold calling to set appointments for a more senior salesman, ask for practice time with said senior salesman. They got to be senior for a reason.\n\nMore than anything, care about what you're saying. If you don't care, then the fear of tripping yourself will continue to overwhelm you. If you care, that will come through. At first, it comes through with the fear because that's what you're experiencing and everyone's ears can hear it. That's OK. Over time, the fear will subside. If you care, you will be less likely to sound like you're hustling someone.\n\nSOURCE: Used to sell pitchforks to the devil. Do you know how cool the joint between the handle and fork is? Just look at the way the forged metal tapers up from the tops of the tines and wraps around the sleeve. Man, that will not only give you leverage, but it resists twisting and blistering your hands, and it keeps its finish better in extreme weather conditions. I'm so proud of the folks that came up with that way to make that joint. You have to feel the balance for yourself. It doesn't want to fall out of you hand like some do. Just feel that..." ]

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[ "How does one create an ideal work/study environment? How would I neutralize distractions and find things to help me focus.\nThanks in advance :)", "How does one create an ideal work/study environment? How would I neutralize distractions and find things to help me focus.\nThanks in advance :)", "How does one create an ideal work/study environment? How would I neutralize distractions and find things to help me focus.\nThanks in advance :)", "How does one create an ideal work/study environment? How would I neutralize distractions and find things to help me focus.\nThanks in advance :)", "How does one create an ideal work/study environment? How would I neutralize distractions and find things to help me focus.\nThanks in advance :)" ]

[ "Work unplugged as much as possible.\n\nSome people can stay more focused when using the pomodoro technique, some people need absolute silence, some people like the passive noise of a coffeeshop (try https://coffitivity.com if you don't want to leave the house). Some people need everything completely tidy and cleaned up, some people need a messy desk to feel the creative juices flow.\n\nFact is, everybody needs a different environment to stay focused, so it's hard to give the one answer that helps everybody.\n\nTry out different things and see what works best for you. I personally listen to classical (piano) music while working (freelance graphic designer here) using my Sennheiser Headphones (not cheap but the best investment I've made in the past 5 years, closely followed by getting an iMac). This cancels out all outside noise and having to concentrate against something grants me way more focus than complete silence ever could.", "Not creating one but it's always good to go to the library at your local university. It's always complete silent. It works for me and you should try it. Even if you drop a pencil everyone can hear it.", "Engulf yourself in inspiration. Like the other chap on here I'm a graphic designer and work a lot with creating brand identity. I'll unleash hell on my desk by cutting snippets out of Wallpaper* magazine, issues of GQ, graphic design bibles, you name it. Colour schemes, fonts, anything that may grant me a flash of insight and land on that perfect idea need to be AROUND you. This works for anything. ", "1. Dont work around people who distract you.\n2. Headphones with whatever music allows you to focus. For me it's movie soundtracks (epic ones).\n3. You have to make an effort to stay focused. Set a time... for 1 hour I will work ONLY on this before I break, eat, read reddit.\n4. No multi tasking. Focus on one thing.\n5. Do take breaks. Just set goals first.\n6. Put your phone or tablet away. Turn off all notifications.", "Remove anything that will not be needed from your work space. Less clutter is less distraction and it makes it easier to stay focused. " ]

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[ "How to make bread last longer ? Where should I store the bread ? Any tips and tricks to make it last longer (no mold) ?", "How to make bread last longer ? Where should I store the bread ? Any tips and tricks to make it last longer (no mold) ?" ]

[ "individual sandwich bags with a couple of slices in each, and freeze 'em\n\nthaw in the bag for a couple of hours (ie. if you take 'em out in the morning for lunch)", "Stick it in the freezer. You don't even have to defrost it for toast. Freezer to toaster.\n\nIf you're going to use it for something like french toast or a sandwich take out as many slices as you'll need and set them on the counter. \n\nPrep everything else and the bread is ready to go." ]

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[ "How to get up early on days where you don't have to do anything If I have to go to work or school, I can always get myself up early because I know I have to do something. But on free days, I can never seem to get up when I want to. What can I do to make waking up easier? ", "How to get up early on days where you don't have to do anything If I have to go to work or school, I can always get myself up early because I know I have to do something. But on free days, I can never seem to get up when I want to. What can I do to make waking up easier? ", "How to get up early on days where you don't have to do anything If I have to go to work or school, I can always get myself up early because I know I have to do something. But on free days, I can never seem to get up when I want to. What can I do to make waking up easier? " ]

[ "I like to start a project the night before, or at least somehow remind myself of something I am excited about the night before so that I can wake up early and get started! I know you said *when you have nothing going on* but I always sleep in when I have nothing going on the next day. If you don't have anything going on, why wake up early? Get excited about something, have something to wake up early for. ", "Why not have a lie-in and a restful morning if you have nothing to do? If you want to keep a routine, how about making something to do the next day, no matter how trivial. A walk to the shop to buy a newspaper, a morning run, putting on something to cook (either a nice breakfast or a slow cooker). ", "Find something interesting to do. A farmer's market, some sort of local free/low cost class or workshop, etc. that's early. You'll spend some time on that, sure, but you'll be up and it will make things interesting. (To find these type things, google your city along with the words \"community calendar\" or \"local events\".)" ]

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[ "Cheap inserts for shoes for heel support. (looking for a great DIY so I don't have to spend much on them.)\n I work at my job where I have to wear nice shoes and be on my feet for 9 hours a day. I'm starting to develop a back and foot problem because I have no support for my heels. I was talking to a customer who has the same issues and she said that I could buy some rubber mats and cut them to fit my shoes. But I can't remember which kind. Do you guys have any cheap but amazing suggestions?", "Cheap inserts for shoes for heel support. (looking for a great DIY so I don't have to spend much on them.)\n I work at my job where I have to wear nice shoes and be on my feet for 9 hours a day. I'm starting to develop a back and foot problem because I have no support for my heels. I was talking to a customer who has the same issues and she said that I could buy some rubber mats and cut them to fit my shoes. But I can't remember which kind. Do you guys have any cheap but amazing suggestions?", "Cheap inserts for shoes for heel support. (looking for a great DIY so I don't have to spend much on them.)\n I work at my job where I have to wear nice shoes and be on my feet for 9 hours a day. I'm starting to develop a back and foot problem because I have no support for my heels. I was talking to a customer who has the same issues and she said that I could buy some rubber mats and cut them to fit my shoes. But I can't remember which kind. Do you guys have any cheap but amazing suggestions?", "Cheap inserts for shoes for heel support. (looking for a great DIY so I don't have to spend much on them.)\n I work at my job where I have to wear nice shoes and be on my feet for 9 hours a day. I'm starting to develop a back and foot problem because I have no support for my heels. I was talking to a customer who has the same issues and she said that I could buy some rubber mats and cut them to fit my shoes. But I can't remember which kind. Do you guys have any cheap but amazing suggestions?" ]

[ "Stand on your toes/balls of your feet. That's the natural, ergonomic posture. Instead of putting all your weight on the single heel bone, it's evenly dispersed through your toes and calves. You'll probably have muscle soreness, but after a week your problems will be gone if you stick to it", "I'm a high-arch person, and switching to minimalist shoes has been one of the best choices of my life. Not for everyone, I know a lot of other people (esp other women) hate the \"toe shoes\" especially- but they work really well for me and everyone I know who has tried them! ", "Try a motion control running show that might be a good fix for you especially if you pronate. They aren't cheap but they will help in the long run. I got my pair for $110 CAD.", "Get the real deal, and then copy that design next time. \n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orthotics#Foot_orthoses \n\nThat should get you started\n " ]

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[ "Fixing Pajama/Sweat Pants when the string gets pulled too much out of one side. It happens to all of us, it even happens to sweaters that have strings. There has to be some strategy you guys use to fix it so that the string comes out of both sides again.", "Fixing Pajama/Sweat Pants when the string gets pulled too much out of one side. It happens to all of us, it even happens to sweaters that have strings. There has to be some strategy you guys use to fix it so that the string comes out of both sides again.", "Fixing Pajama/Sweat Pants when the string gets pulled too much out of one side. It happens to all of us, it even happens to sweaters that have strings. There has to be some strategy you guys use to fix it so that the string comes out of both sides again." ]

[ "1. Take the whole string out.\n2. Pierce one end of string with a small safety pin.\n3. Insert safety pin in hole.\n4. Spool through the whole length by \"scrunching it\" or pinching it through on the pin and pulling with your fingers.\n5. Get to the other end and unpin it :D", "well my grandma used put her fingers in the the string's eyelet to search for the string tip and then she pierced it with a pin so it was easier to pull it out. sometimes she had to make another tiny whole near the string tip if she couldn't grab it from the eyelet\n.", "There's a tool used in sewing for this application, but when I used to sew I usually just used the largest safety pin I could find." ]

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[ "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended.", "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended.", "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended.", "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended.", "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended.", "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended.", "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended.", "How to start conversations with people? Strangers, friends, acquaintances, that cute girl that always gets the same kind of coffee, et cetera\n\nI have social anxiety so anytime I consider saying something, I think I'm being weird. I would overthink everything, and then I realized I was overthinking so then I thought I'd relax and try to talk naturally.\n\nRecently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm *totally* confused.\n\n\nAlso, how would I approach a stranger? That's probably the strangest one for me. No pun intended." ]

[ "The only way I see that question as being weird is if you were stroking your genitals while you asked. I used to have the same social anxiety disorder. It always amused me that the acronym is SAD. But slowly I've overcome my fears, I still have problems making phonecalls, thank god for email lol. You've already started on a good path, asking questions and showing interest in what people have to say. You'll find not all people are like that girl and most are friendly and cordial. \n\nKeep at it, it gets easier.", "Say hello, ask a question and don't feel like you have to say anything brilliant. You don't have to talk about yourself. You don't have to be smart or funny. Just be a good listener. People will LOVE you for being a good listener. That will get you further than any other social skill. \n\nAnd as for that girl who said that's a weird question, she sucks and you don't need to havve her in your life. Find someone who's willing to chat about pastimes. And listen to them.\n\nAlso, if it's available to you, improv classes are how I got over my social anxiety. And it works. You learn to listen. \n\nGood luck. ", "One of the best ways to start a conversation is asking \"Hi, how is your day?\". This is an easy ice breaker and usually opens the door for further conversation. If you get a short answer and the person acts uninterested, they probably don't want to talk anyway. ", "Getting people to talk about themselves is a good strategy. Asking someone what they do in their free time is in no way a weird question. Possibly you asked it in an awkward way or she's the one with a problem.", "> Recently asked a girl what she does in her free time and she said that's a weird question. I thought that seemed like a normal question, so now I'm totally confused.\n\nLook, people are 80% about what *feels* normal. If there's room for suspicion/weirdness in your inquiry, people will assume it. Context also helps. If you're *just* meeting people, start out really simple.\n\n\"Hey, how's it going?\"\n\n\"How's your week been so far?\"\n\n\"Look at this common object of interest we are both looking at, let us discuss it.\" \n\nWhen you first meet someone and the expectation is low, the effort to have a conversation *should be low*.\n\nCo-worker in the office? *\"How's your day going?\"* Is perfect.\n\nSomeone you met on a speed-date? *\"What do you do for fun?\"* (Or, you magnificent man OP, 'What do you do in your free time?') Is more appropriate because of the intention you both have.\n\nIt sucks. It sucks figuring this shit out - no one wants to give you a straight answer and people don't want to leave that comfort zone. \n\nLearn to enjoy the initial easy conversation, and *show genuine care* about their response, and eventually down the road it can grow out.\n\nTo top it off, use a confident and laid-back tone. Be sincere. Smile. Don't be too aggressive with the smile, they'll think you're a serial killer. 9 times out of 10, starting talk with someone requires both parties to put in effort. It's not always your fault.\n\nGo be a super star. Or something.", "Sometimes it depends on how you ask the question. You don't want to sound like a 5th grader interviewing his classmate for one of those \"first day of school\" projects. Just try and say anything that comes to your mind. Learn to recognize the stupid thoughts you have in the back of your head and to put them into words and tell people. It took me a while, but the day I figured out that searching for things to say was getting me nowhere was the day I learned how to make real friends. Good luck :)", "First, you deserve some recognition for stepping out of your comfort zone and reaching out to others! Good job!\n\nIt may help you to know that most people experience some degree of anxiety in social situations. And the way you can minimize or overcome that is with practice. \n\nAssuming you are a male, asking a female who does not know you well what she does in her free time might be a bit intimidating or feel like you are trying to get too personal. Situational questions are often better received. For example, if you see that cute girl in the coffee shop, you might ask her if she's tried a latte (or one of the other options on the menu) and ask her what she thought of it. ", ">I have social anxiety\n\nThe thing about anxiety is that when you feed it, it grows. Stop feeding it with your thoughts. This will take some introspection through things like reflection or m" ]

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[ "How can i relive dry irritated eyes without eyedrops? Often when a new videogame is released ill play for long periods of time (2-4hours). Which can leave my eyes feeling irritated. I used to use eye drops but now i think they bother my eyelids i get a couple red bumps they always clear up after a day or so but i'm sure that the eye drops either cause the problem or make it worse.", "How can i relive dry irritated eyes without eyedrops? Often when a new videogame is released ill play for long periods of time (2-4hours). Which can leave my eyes feeling irritated. I used to use eye drops but now i think they bother my eyelids i get a couple red bumps they always clear up after a day or so but i'm sure that the eye drops either cause the problem or make it worse.", "How can i relive dry irritated eyes without eyedrops? Often when a new videogame is released ill play for long periods of time (2-4hours). Which can leave my eyes feeling irritated. I used to use eye drops but now i think they bother my eyelids i get a couple red bumps they always clear up after a day or so but i'm sure that the eye drops either cause the problem or make it worse.", "How can i relive dry irritated eyes without eyedrops? Often when a new videogame is released ill play for long periods of time (2-4hours). Which can leave my eyes feeling irritated. I used to use eye drops but now i think they bother my eyelids i get a couple red bumps they always clear up after a day or so but i'm sure that the eye drops either cause the problem or make it worse." ]

[ "* rub both your hands (palms) together for a minute, very fast so they get really warm. (or warm them any other way you prefer)\n* put your hands over your eyes, slighty curved.\n* keep your eyes open and just stare relaxed into the darkness. let your warm hands ease your eyes. keep your hands there for a minute or two. \n* profit.\n\n\ndo this every time your eyes feel irritated. do it in loading screens, hit pause in games or whatever. you get the point. \n\ni wanna add something to the use of eyedrops. sure, they can help - sometimes. but like with almost every other external stuff you treat your body with, your body will slowly become accustomed to that and will cancel his own internal \"healing\" procedure. its the same with skin cream, nose drops etc etc.\njust so you know.", "You know that cucumber slice thing you see in movies? It helps. Make sure the room you game in has a suitable air humidity level as well, playing in a dry room will only make it worse. Try not to rub or push on your eyes, you can actually alter the shape of your eyeball by doing that too much! ", "Force yourself to yawn, it makes your eyes water.\n\nGET A DIFFERENT BRAND OF EYEDROPS! Also, throw the bottle away after 30 days, bacteria can get in it.", "Could be eye strain. Look at something a good distance (20ft or 6m) away, then look at something close to you (like a finger in your face). Repeat this for 20 seconds to 1 minute every half-hour. " ]

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[ "How can we as US citizens limit the amount of data our government collects? https://nsa.gov1.info/data/\n\nAfter stumbling upon this link today I am growing more and more concerned with the vast amount of information our government (US) collects from its citizens. What steps, if any, can we take to preclude or at the very least limit the amount of information our government is obtaining from us? Orwellian societies are not dope.", "How can we as US citizens limit the amount of data our government collects? https://nsa.gov1.info/data/\n\nAfter stumbling upon this link today I am growing more and more concerned with the vast amount of information our government (US) collects from its citizens. What steps, if any, can we take to preclude or at the very least limit the amount of information our government is obtaining from us? Orwellian societies are not dope.", "How can we as US citizens limit the amount of data our government collects? https://nsa.gov1.info/data/\n\nAfter stumbling upon this link today I am growing more and more concerned with the vast amount of information our government (US) collects from its citizens. What steps, if any, can we take to preclude or at the very least limit the amount of information our government is obtaining from us? Orwellian societies are not dope." ]

[ "Use TOR, the encrypted browser.\n\n \nhttps://www.torproject.org/\n\n \nwww.reddit.com/r/tor\n\n \nGreat free VPN: http://www.cyberghostvpn.com/en_us\n\n \nBoth are a free download and using both at the same time will give you much more security than the average internet user. Stay safe.", "Voting for a party or candidate that wants to eliminate bulk warrantless data collection is a good start.", "You can issues FOIA requests of your self and copy write them. If they are used by a corp you can sue since you own it." ]

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[ "Discourage spiders from setting up camp in your room/house My house/bedroom is always full of those spiders that hang in the corner (a little like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bf/Pholcus.phalangioides.6905.jpg) - how can I keep them away?", "Discourage spiders from setting up camp in your room/house My house/bedroom is always full of those spiders that hang in the corner (a little like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bf/Pholcus.phalangioides.6905.jpg) - how can I keep them away?", "Discourage spiders from setting up camp in your room/house My house/bedroom is always full of those spiders that hang in the corner (a little like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bf/Pholcus.phalangioides.6905.jpg) - how can I keep them away?", "Discourage spiders from setting up camp in your room/house My house/bedroom is always full of those spiders that hang in the corner (a little like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bf/Pholcus.phalangioides.6905.jpg) - how can I keep them away?", "Discourage spiders from setting up camp in your room/house My house/bedroom is always full of those spiders that hang in the corner (a little like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bf/Pholcus.phalangioides.6905.jpg) - how can I keep them away?", "Discourage spiders from setting up camp in your room/house My house/bedroom is always full of those spiders that hang in the corner (a little like this: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bf/Pholcus.phalangioides.6905.jpg) - how can I keep them away?" ]

[ "Just learn to live with the spider. Some of my best friends growing up were spiders. Breaks my little heart when you wake up to take a shower, and spider-bro isn't in his same place. I sometimes still wonder what ever happened to some of them. I hope they're doing well.", "Put a dehydrator in your basement. Spiders go where the bugs are, bugs go where its moist and cool. Camping and spiders are inseparable. ", "We keep sticky \"spider traps\" along baseboards and other places we've seen them. Some of the results have been pretty disgusting, I wish I had some pictures. ", "The best tip I have ever heard from pest controls experts is to make sure you knock down any and all cob webs in the house regularly. Other than that there is no sure way to be rid of them. Most if not all pesticides are useless against spiders according to these pest controls experts...", "Spiders are predators and they follow their food. Try to remove bushes, long grass, any rotting wood, standing water, or other places where insects breed from near the house walls. Keep indoors reasonably clean.", "Actually, the best way to keep spiders out is to leave chestnuts in corners, behind curtains, under your bed, and so on. \n\nFor whatever reason, spiders hate chestnuts and won't go near them." ]

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[ "How to soundproof subwoofer so neighbors won't complain Well I got a soundbar and subwoofer that didn't work with the t.v. so I hooked it up to my PC. There haven't been any problems until today when the neighbor came over and asked to turn it down. I need some magic to make it so that she wont hear the bass unless it's really high volume. Note: I live in an apartment.", "How to soundproof subwoofer so neighbors won't complain Well I got a soundbar and subwoofer that didn't work with the t.v. so I hooked it up to my PC. There haven't been any problems until today when the neighbor came over and asked to turn it down. I need some magic to make it so that she wont hear the bass unless it's really high volume. Note: I live in an apartment.", "How to soundproof subwoofer so neighbors won't complain Well I got a soundbar and subwoofer that didn't work with the t.v. so I hooked it up to my PC. There haven't been any problems until today when the neighbor came over and asked to turn it down. I need some magic to make it so that she wont hear the bass unless it's really high volume. Note: I live in an apartment.", "How to soundproof subwoofer so neighbors won't complain Well I got a soundbar and subwoofer that didn't work with the t.v. so I hooked it up to my PC. There haven't been any problems until today when the neighbor came over and asked to turn it down. I need some magic to make it so that she wont hear the bass unless it's really high volume. Note: I live in an apartment.", "How to soundproof subwoofer so neighbors won't complain Well I got a soundbar and subwoofer that didn't work with the t.v. so I hooked it up to my PC. There haven't been any problems until today when the neighbor came over and asked to turn it down. I need some magic to make it so that she wont hear the bass unless it's really high volume. Note: I live in an apartment." ]

[ "Ok. Separation, separation and isolation. Put the sub on a piece of foam audio quality if you can get it. Make sure is doesn't touch any surface. Then put hanging carpet, duvet or more acoustic foam on the wall shared by the neighbors, all three if possible. Will prolly cost a couple hundred.", "Not using it in your apartment is honestly the best answer. My [Epik sub](http://www.epiksubwoofers.com/) can do 15Hz - which is why it went into the closet never to be used when I moved into the condo I'm in :/ \n\nThere's just nothing you can do to prevent such a long wavelength traveling through your walls, ceiling and floor.\n\nHowever, there is some additional distortion caused by having it sit directly on the floor. Using a [subwoofer sound isolation riser](https://www.google.com/#q=sound+isolation+riser+subwoofer)will transfer slightly less energy into the building to piss off your neighbors and will also give you a slightly cleaner sound, not that I'd expect you could actually tell the difference.", "Take a thin piece of styrofoam and weap it in cloth. Put under subby. Elevate feet. Then put a box around it. One that completely encloses everything. Voila!", "Isolation pads won't help unless the subwoofer is such a poor design the enclosure resonates/vibrates tremendously. \n\nTry placing the subwoofer as close as possible to the key seat(s). This will allow you to turn down the bass output and still keep proper calibration levels. ", "Egg crate foam is really inexpensive to buy a lot of, as is any cheap mattress topper. Try and keep things that will vibrate away from the walls. Have a friend outside your unit to help you calibrate the effectiveness." ]

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[ "How to talk to someone who doesn't speak English very well. I have a coworker from India and he talks very quietly and has a very heavy accent and I can't understand him 80% of the time so I need to say \"What was that?\" A couple times and it makes for very awkward conversation. I don't want to be annoying or anything. Any tips???", "How to talk to someone who doesn't speak English very well. I have a coworker from India and he talks very quietly and has a very heavy accent and I can't understand him 80% of the time so I need to say \"What was that?\" A couple times and it makes for very awkward conversation. I don't want to be annoying or anything. Any tips???", "How to talk to someone who doesn't speak English very well. I have a coworker from India and he talks very quietly and has a very heavy accent and I can't understand him 80% of the time so I need to say \"What was that?\" A couple times and it makes for very awkward conversation. I don't want to be annoying or anything. Any tips???", "How to talk to someone who doesn't speak English very well. I have a coworker from India and he talks very quietly and has a very heavy accent and I can't understand him 80% of the time so I need to say \"What was that?\" A couple times and it makes for very awkward conversation. I don't want to be annoying or anything. Any tips???", "How to talk to someone who doesn't speak English very well. I have a coworker from India and he talks very quietly and has a very heavy accent and I can't understand him 80% of the time so I need to say \"What was that?\" A couple times and it makes for very awkward conversation. I don't want to be annoying or anything. Any tips???", "How to talk to someone who doesn't speak English very well. I have a coworker from India and he talks very quietly and has a very heavy accent and I can't understand him 80% of the time so I need to say \"What was that?\" A couple times and it makes for very awkward conversation. I don't want to be annoying or anything. Any tips???" ]

[ "As a fellow Indian here are some few tips.\nFirst, try to be a better friend to him (which You're trying to be) and show him your support. That does matter a lot to us when someone shows confidence in us in a foreign land.\nSecond, try to correct his pronunciation. We're indeed quite open minded.\nThird, encourage him to speak more and more as it would help him acquire a better accent.\nFourth- Make him Date a girl. Nothing encourages a guy to improve as a girl.\nFifth- Try to talk to him about it head on. We Indians appreciate honesty. ", "Teach each other. You i assume being a native English speaker and him his language in India. Learn some of his language, basic things like hello, how are you etc. And you help him with his English. ", "Speak slowly, use gestures, use simple words with simple meanings.\n\nTell him that you can't hear him, and ask him to speak more slowly and clearly. You won't insult him. I guarantee he would prefer to be able to communicate better with you, to have someone to connect with. ", "Learn some basic conversation starters and they'll be able to correct you on your grammar and you can both use it to help each other learn the others language", "Indians often speak English fluently but have a heavy accent. If that is the case, then speak English around him so he can pick up American (or wherever you are) pronunciations. If you don't understand something, then make your best guess and ask if that's what he meant. That will help more than just asking him to repeat it. ", "Until you get used to his accent try using Google translate. I work with some Mexicans and a few have trouble saying certain words. Also write out what you think they might have said, if he can read and write in English he could help out that way." ]

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[ "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n", "How do I keep my fitted sheet from eating the rest of my cloths in the dryer As the title suggests, Every time I wash my fitted sheet it devours at least a pillowcase or 2. Does anybody have any pro tips to keep this from happening.\n\n--------------\n" ]

[ "A pillowcase or two? Your sheet has a light appetite. It's common enough for me to pull out a sheet FILLED with the entire laundry load. Towels, shirts, pants, everything. In the center of that abomination is wet grossness.", "I used to fold my sheet before putting it in the dryer. Just a couple of loose folds with the corners in, not fully folded. It got dry just fine and usually didn't open to envelop the rest of the clothes. Now that I have kids and more sheets to wash, I just wash all the sheets together without clothes so it's not really an issue I have anymore. ", "I have this problem as well, even if I only throw it in with my regular sheet and pillow cases.\n\nI see suggestions to 'put it in a pillow case or mesh bag' but I don't see the whole fitted sheet drying in that case. \n\nTo solve this problem, I just check on my dryer every 15 minutes. After 15 minutes it is eating a little bit of the laundry and I fix it.", "Keep your pillowcases or the fitted sheet in a delicates/laundry bag. The kind that zip up... It's how socks, especially baby socks, should be washed too.", "I wash and dry it separately every time. It's a hassle and added cost, but if I don't, everything else gets soggy and soapy or not dried, leading to even greater hassle and cost.\n\nThat said, above suggestion of a washer bag is probably a good choice. Pick a nice loose string one though, my experience with them is that the ones you can't easily see through don't let water through very well either.", "If you mean the duvet cover. I fold mine inside out and do it up at the end before washing.\n", "I'm going to nth the suggestion to put it in a mesh bag - in my case I use a sweater bag because it is the largest mesh bag that I can find - or line dry. If you put it in a mesh bag it *will* come out completely dry (a towel or sweatshirt would not) because of how thin the fabric is.", "I tend to wash sheets separate from smaller items. I'll do two sets of sheets, minus the pillowcases, that way I'm still doing a decent load (I go to the laundromat so anything less than a full load is inefficient) and nothing gets caught inside the fitted piece.", "I've never had this problem...maybe it has to do with the kind of washer you have? Do you have a top-loading washer?" ]

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[ "How to efficiently make a bed Hotel maids can make a bed in about a minute; why do I struggle so much? :(", "How to efficiently make a bed Hotel maids can make a bed in about a minute; why do I struggle so much? :(", "How to efficiently make a bed Hotel maids can make a bed in about a minute; why do I struggle so much? :(", "How to efficiently make a bed Hotel maids can make a bed in about a minute; why do I struggle so much? :(", "How to efficiently make a bed Hotel maids can make a bed in about a minute; why do I struggle so much? :(", "How to efficiently make a bed Hotel maids can make a bed in about a minute; why do I struggle so much? :(" ]

[ "They change those beds so quickly because yes even the \"Nice\" hotels don't always do a full change over. You'd be surprised how easy it is to resell a room after an hour rental. \n\n*Source worked in multiple hotels in a high tourist area.", "One thing I have noticed is that the tags on sheets (of all kinds) is most usually on the bottom right corner. Finding the tag on this corner and then facing the tag side downward has successfully gotten sheets oriented correctly for me every time that I can remember.\n\nAside from orientation of sheets, it's mostly just technique for getting the sheets to lay nicely as fast as possible. I have no specific methods for this.\n\n", "Here's what I do. I lay my sheets and comforters on my bed how I like it to look as if the bed was perfectly made. Next I tuck the sheets AND comforter under the foot end of the mattress between the box spring (or bed frame if you don't have a box spring). Now the bed can not be sloppy. To get into bed, flip down the head part of the blankets, to make the bed in the morning, grab a sloppy corner, and flip it back up. Easy Peasy. O but it may look sloppy at the foot of the bed because it's oddly tucked in? That's where you get a throw blanket or anything of decorative fashion to leave on top of all the other parts of your bed. Just drape it over the sides and the edge at the bottom, and it will cover up any evidence of a lazy tuck. This also suits a double purpose that keeps your bed cleaner than usual since anybody sitting on your comforter will instead sit on this throw blanket. So a white down comforter stays crisp clean while the throw blanket takes the abuse. Lemme know.", "Google \"hospital corners.\". The more everything is tucked in and secured between the mattress and box spring, the less it gets disturbed when you sleep. Then, before rising spread the covers out over the bed while your still in it, i.e., neaten them the best you can. After i'm up, I find I only have to smooth and adjust a little. Definitely saves me time. ", "Practice. Tuck you sheets in. In the military we use to have to make them every day ( and some days several times a day if the instructors got bored). Just get someone to flip your bed (right after you make it for best effect) and youll be a pro in no time.", "Make a dot with a laundry marker (or sew a colored thread) on the center of the bottom hem of your flat sheet. This will help you position the sheet evenly the first time.\n\nMy Mom did this when we were kids. I think the tip was one of those Hints from Heloise.\n\nAlso, make the bed most of the way while you're still in it." ]

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[ "My landlord \"can't find\" keys to my storage closet, what should I do? I posted on r/leagaladvice and didn't get much of a response. Maybe you will know what to do!\n\n**Background:**\n\nI live in Washington state (USA)\n\nWhen I toured the apartment, they told me there was a storage unit (small, maybe 3x5 or so) that came with. Come move-in day they had some problem with it and were going to fix it. They asked if I would be okay with getting it the next day. I said yes.\n\nA week later without hearing anything, I followed up with them. They told me the previous management did something with the keys and they weren't sure where they were. They were trying to sort it out. I've followed up a couple of times and each time it's \"we're working on it, how about by the end of the week\".\n\nI am getting annoyed by this, as I have some stuff in my living room I'd like to put in there. I'm not paying for the unit, it's included in my apartment. The lease has a \"storage/garage/parking addendum\" that looks like this: http://imgur.com/a/o2HJx\n\n**Question:**\n\nIs it unreasonable to ask for a partial refund on last month's rent, as well as a discount going forward until they can get me one?", "My landlord \"can't find\" keys to my storage closet, what should I do? I posted on r/leagaladvice and didn't get much of a response. Maybe you will know what to do!\n\n**Background:**\n\nI live in Washington state (USA)\n\nWhen I toured the apartment, they told me there was a storage unit (small, maybe 3x5 or so) that came with. Come move-in day they had some problem with it and were going to fix it. They asked if I would be okay with getting it the next day. I said yes.\n\nA week later without hearing anything, I followed up with them. They told me the previous management did something with the keys and they weren't sure where they were. They were trying to sort it out. I've followed up a couple of times and each time it's \"we're working on it, how about by the end of the week\".\n\nI am getting annoyed by this, as I have some stuff in my living room I'd like to put in there. I'm not paying for the unit, it's included in my apartment. The lease has a \"storage/garage/parking addendum\" that looks like this: http://imgur.com/a/o2HJx\n\n**Question:**\n\nIs it unreasonable to ask for a partial refund on last month's rent, as well as a discount going forward until they can get me one?", "My landlord \"can't find\" keys to my storage closet, what should I do? I posted on r/leagaladvice and didn't get much of a response. Maybe you will know what to do!\n\n**Background:**\n\nI live in Washington state (USA)\n\nWhen I toured the apartment, they told me there was a storage unit (small, maybe 3x5 or so) that came with. Come move-in day they had some problem with it and were going to fix it. They asked if I would be okay with getting it the next day. I said yes.\n\nA week later without hearing anything, I followed up with them. They told me the previous management did something with the keys and they weren't sure where they were. They were trying to sort it out. I've followed up a couple of times and each time it's \"we're working on it, how about by the end of the week\".\n\nI am getting annoyed by this, as I have some stuff in my living room I'd like to put in there. I'm not paying for the unit, it's included in my apartment. The lease has a \"storage/garage/parking addendum\" that looks like this: http://imgur.com/a/o2HJx\n\n**Question:**\n\nIs it unreasonable to ask for a partial refund on last month's rent, as well as a discount going forward until they can get me one?", "My landlord \"can't find\" keys to my storage closet, what should I do? I posted on r/leagaladvice and didn't get much of a response. Maybe you will know what to do!\n\n**Background:**\n\nI live in Washington state (USA)\n\nWhen I toured the apartment, they told me there was a storage unit (small, maybe 3x5 or so) that came with. Come move-in day they had some problem with it and were going to fix it. They asked if I would be okay with getting it the next day. I said yes.\n\nA week later without hearing anything, I followed up with them. They told me the previous management did something with the keys and they weren't sure where they were. They were trying to sort it out. I've followed up a couple of times and each time it's \"we're working on it, how about by the end of the week\".\n\nI am getting annoyed by this, as I have some stuff in my living room I'd like to put in there. I'm not paying for the unit, it's included in my apartment. The lease has a \"storage/garage/parking addendum\" that looks like this: http://imgur.com/a/o2HJx\n\n**Question:**\n\nIs it unreasonable to ask for a partial refund on last month's rent, as well as a discount going forward until they can get me one?", "My landlord \"can't find\" keys to my storage closet, what should I do? I posted on r/leagaladvice and didn't get much of a response. Maybe you will know what to do!\n\n**Background:**\n\nI live in Washington state (USA)\n\nWhen I toured the apartment, they told me there was a storage unit (small, maybe 3x5 or so) that came with. Come move-in day they had some problem with it and were going to fix it. They asked if I would be okay with getting it the next day. I said yes.\n\nA week later without hearing anything, I followed up with them. They told me the previous management did something with the keys and they weren't sure where they were. They were trying to sort it out. I've followed up a couple of times and each time it's \"we're working on it, how about by the end of the week\".\n\nI am getting annoyed by this, as I have some stuff in my living room I'd like to put in there. I'm not paying for the unit, it's included in my apartment. The lease has a \"storage/garage/parking addendum\" that looks like this: http://imgur.com/a/o2HJx\n\n**Question:**\n\nIs it unreasonable to ask for a partial refund on last month's rent, as well as a discount going forward until they can get me one?" ]

[ "Call them and say you think it smells like 'meth' and you are gonna have the police come and take a look... you know just to be sure. Bet they find the keys and, or a locksmith by the end of the day.", "Write a letter and not just talk to them.\n\nMake sure you include in your letter the specifics and that you are submitting a letter to give notice of a violation of your lease agreement assuming it is in your lease agreement.\n\nSend it certified mail.\n\nKeep a copy and keep a picture of the one mailed.\n\nHand deliver a copy as well and request a written response to whatever excuse given.\n\nTheir maintenance man can pull the core on the lock and rekey it in a matter of minutes. Worst case they can call a locksmith and have it done for less than $100.", "Well nobody has actually answered your question. Yes, it is reasonable to ask for a partial refund and a discount moving forward if the unit is include in the price of your rent. Some places may charge you separately, in which case I would say just deduct that from your rent. ", "I think you should change the lock and demand to be reimbursed for the price of the lock. But don't take my word for it", "You can't post legal tips here, so I don't think you can ask legal advice. \n\nyour post on /r/legaladvice is only 4 hours old, I would just wait a bit." ]

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[ "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?", "how to get into drinking black coffee? I hear there are a lot of benefits to drinking coffee black. But I love my coffee with a lot of sugar and creamer, practically half of my coffee is cream and sugar. I've tried going straight to black cold turkey but could never finish a cup. Am I just supposed to gradually decrease my cream and sugar amount to steadily get use to black coffee?" ]

[ "It's like beer. The first few times you don't like it so much, but because of the effects it grows on you.", "The way I switched was someone who really appreciated coffee told me to try and taste the beans, when you add sugar and cream you're taking away from the drink (from the perspective of a coffee enthusiast) So after that I ordered my coffee with cream but no sugar. I paid attention to the type of coffee I was drinking, folders Colombian is my favorite chain coffee. Anyway I developed a taste for how dark I like my beans, what beans I like etc and now I can drink it black and enjoy it, but I still like some cream.\n\nAlso the roasting process destroys caffeine so if you are looking to coffee for an energy supplement light roasts are your bet, I feel like most people think the darker and more bitter the coffee the better it works. ", "Find a coffee brand you like the taste of now and slowly reduce whatever you put in it. I personally started drinking coffee black when I had a job in college where they only bought the cheapest generic coffee whitener. I read the ingredients and never used that shit again. Bought a good coffee maker, a coffee grinder and whole beans. what a difference. ", "\"Black coffee is low in fat and calories and supplies a wealth of antioxidants that help protect your health. Certain risks have been linked to drinking large amounts of black coffee, but rest assured that you can safely drink a cup of coffee every morning.\" as to transitional systems try going without either sugar or creamer (whichever you deem more necessary in the end) then half the amount of it every day until you get to the day where it seems gross and bland...take woody harrelsons advice, nut up or shut up. But don't forget to enjoy, it'll grow on ya.\n", "Yes, but also drink a milder coffee. Try medium or light roast. Try coldbrew. Try using milk instead of creamer, or low/nonfat milk. You could also try tea instead. Coffee isn't that good for you, even without cream and sugar. ", "Third day, you are used to it. Just go straight for it. Once you feel how much more black coffee gets b you turnt you will appreciate it. Just make sure you drink it while it is full hot just slow small sips and use the jet intake method to sip it cooler as you slurp.", "I remember diminishing my sugar bit by bit up until I decided to go completely without. For a while, I got so used to it that the odd coffee with sugar that crossed my path tasted kind of disgusting. I'd still put cream in it though. \n \nNow, years later, sugar got me back, and it's 2 sugars, 2 cream for me. I love the taste of sugar so much, I can't fathom finding it gross for a part of my existence. \n \nMake of it what you will", "I remember diminishing my sugar bit by bit up until I decided to go completely without. For a while, I got so used to it that the odd coffee with sugar that crossed my path tasted kind of disgusting. I'd still put cream in it though. \n \nNow, years later, sugar got me back, and it's 2 sugars, 2 cream for me. I love the taste of sugar so much, I can't fathom finding it gross for a part of my existence. \n \nMake of it what you will", "I live in a hot, humid environment. This is a big reason I stay away from sugary drinks all the time. If I drink sweet coffees and cokes, I can feel it coming through my skin when I sweat. My skin gets sticky. I have 2 big cups of black in the morning and drink water for the rest of the day. ", "Fuck black coffee, especially the shit in north America. What you want is a good espresso, double espresso, or macchiato ( espresso with a but of milk froth). Taste is awesome" ]

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[ "How to remove ice cubes from their trays I've always had an ice cube maker, and now that I don't I beat on my ice cube trays like a model on a macintosh. Is there a proper way to do it that doesn't involve nearly breaking them?", "How to remove ice cubes from their trays I've always had an ice cube maker, and now that I don't I beat on my ice cube trays like a model on a macintosh. Is there a proper way to do it that doesn't involve nearly breaking them?", "How to remove ice cubes from their trays I've always had an ice cube maker, and now that I don't I beat on my ice cube trays like a model on a macintosh. Is there a proper way to do it that doesn't involve nearly breaking them?", "How to remove ice cubes from their trays I've always had an ice cube maker, and now that I don't I beat on my ice cube trays like a model on a macintosh. Is there a proper way to do it that doesn't involve nearly breaking them?", "How to remove ice cubes from their trays I've always had an ice cube maker, and now that I don't I beat on my ice cube trays like a model on a macintosh. Is there a proper way to do it that doesn't involve nearly breaking them?" ]

[ "twist and turn over, also a tip--keep a bag of ice in the freezer and just dump the whole tray in there...keeps ice on hand in case you ever need it without having to worry about only having 1 trays worth", "pour some water over the tray to loosen the cubes and they should just fall out. it works for me anyway", "Before freezing: fill them to the brim, with as much water as possible, without the water overflowing out of the container.\n\nWhen they are frozen and ready to use, twist the container slightly and the cubes will break about and be loosened from the tray. Depending on your tray, they will probably also have a lip that makes them easy to lift out.", "Whet your finger tip (with your tongue if appropriate) and then touch it to the ice. Should stick if the tray hasn't been sitting in the room-temperature air too long.", "Run a little water, hot or cold over the bottom of the tray. The temperature difference will make the outside of the ice melt and they fall out almost instantly. " ]

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[ "A way to keep the tip/plug of my laptop charger safe while having it in my bookbag. Laptop chargers are expensive and all that needs to happen is the little metal tip just needs to bend for it to break sometimes. I carry mine around in my backpack and I'm always worried that it's going to end up broken.\n\nAnyone have any ideas? Maybe something hard to put over it as a cap, to keep it safe?\n\nThanks!", "A way to keep the tip/plug of my laptop charger safe while having it in my bookbag. Laptop chargers are expensive and all that needs to happen is the little metal tip just needs to bend for it to break sometimes. I carry mine around in my backpack and I'm always worried that it's going to end up broken.\n\nAnyone have any ideas? Maybe something hard to put over it as a cap, to keep it safe?\n\nThanks!", "A way to keep the tip/plug of my laptop charger safe while having it in my bookbag. Laptop chargers are expensive and all that needs to happen is the little metal tip just needs to bend for it to break sometimes. I carry mine around in my backpack and I'm always worried that it's going to end up broken.\n\nAnyone have any ideas? Maybe something hard to put over it as a cap, to keep it safe?\n\nThanks!", "A way to keep the tip/plug of my laptop charger safe while having it in my bookbag. Laptop chargers are expensive and all that needs to happen is the little metal tip just needs to bend for it to break sometimes. I carry mine around in my backpack and I'm always worried that it's going to end up broken.\n\nAnyone have any ideas? Maybe something hard to put over it as a cap, to keep it safe?\n\nThanks!", "A way to keep the tip/plug of my laptop charger safe while having it in my bookbag. Laptop chargers are expensive and all that needs to happen is the little metal tip just needs to bend for it to break sometimes. I carry mine around in my backpack and I'm always worried that it's going to end up broken.\n\nAnyone have any ideas? Maybe something hard to put over it as a cap, to keep it safe?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "The reason they break is because people wrap them too tightly causing strains. Don't wrap them tightly, leave about a 1\" loop before you start your tight wrapping.", "If you have room for it, get a tennis ball, put a hole in it the size of the plug, and stick the whole plug end inside the ball and throw it in your bag.", "I have a little velcro thing I wrap the cord with before I pack it, I just make sure the plug end is nicely wrapped inside the bunch. These are cheap and come in a pack of like 6 usually and available just about anywhere.", "How about drill a hole of the appropriate size into a wine cork, and stick it in there? The plastic housing will touch the cork and hopefully just snuggly lodge (cork is a bit spongy), and the metal tip will be safely down the hole.", "Iv carried my laptop around in my backpack for 3 years of college every day. This has never happened to me." ]

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[ "How to be a self-starter at work or in life I feel like this is something that would be difficult for many given that school and even many entry level jobs are structured in such a way that someone is always telling you what to do and there is always pressure of deadlines and/or someone else reviewing your work.", "How to be a self-starter at work or in life I feel like this is something that would be difficult for many given that school and even many entry level jobs are structured in such a way that someone is always telling you what to do and there is always pressure of deadlines and/or someone else reviewing your work.", "How to be a self-starter at work or in life I feel like this is something that would be difficult for many given that school and even many entry level jobs are structured in such a way that someone is always telling you what to do and there is always pressure of deadlines and/or someone else reviewing your work." ]

[ "It's important to note that a self-starter and a *successful* self-starter aren't necessarily the same thing. There are lots of self-starters out there who quite simply have not been successful financially, satisfied at work, or happy/content with their lives. Being one increases the odds that you will have a fulfilling career or life, but it doesn't guarantee it.\n\nTo be a self-starter at all, motivation and focus are the two major ingredients. You have to be motivated enough to start something and focused enough to complete it. Some people just aren't wired that way and have to really work hard at it; others are natural. Enjoying what you're doing makes this MUCH easier.\n\nTo be a *successful* self-starter takes that plus excellent engineering of your circumstances, maybe talent or intelligence or training depending on what angle you're pursuing, and often having the luck that lets you be in the right place at the right time with the right answer to whatever it is that people want. Some of those things, you control; others are more delivered to you by chance.\n\nSo the key here is to find something that you love to do and that you can make a consistent buck at, and focus your energies on discovering all the things that are required to allow you to deliver that thing. With a little luck, it might turn into a great way for you to support yourself.", "Do something out of work where you don't have constant supervision, but you need to push yourself to do. \nIt doesn't matter what it is, as long as you need to push yourself to do it. ", "The starting place is to figure out what it is that you really want. This is the basis for motivation. For most people, coming out of school and other highly structured environments, motivation has been extrinsic (externally provided) for most of their lives and they don't know what would drive them internally. Until you get clarity on what creates intrinsic (internally supplied) motivation for you, you will get hit and miss results. \n\nOne way of approaching this is to imagine yourself on your deathbed, having lived exactly the kind of life you had hoped for and feeling calm and peaceful about moving on from this world, and then look back at your life from that vantage point. Who and what was important to you? What relationships did you have? What contribution did you make to the world? How do you know your life was everything you needed it to be?\n\nOnce you have the answers to those questions, you can begin to make decisions that move your life in the direction of those goals rather than the goals you have been told to seek by the adults around you. Some people value relationships, others value experiences, others value power. You need to know what your values are and then seek ways to live those values each day. Each step you take towards living your values will increase your intrinsic motivation and build momentum towards your ideal life.\n\nThis is the basis of being a self starter. Self starters know what they want, and each action they are taking that is self driven is chosen because it moves them closer to the things they want. Sometimes (unfortunately) what they really want is acceptance from a family member or similar and their behaviours are driven by this internal need to be accepted. You can find your own highest values and then design a life around living them out each day rather than being driven by other people, however if your ultimate need is to be accepted, then knowing this will allow you to achieve it more quickly and effectively. \n\nIt won't necessarily be fast, but a life filled with meaningful work in the direction of your highest values will be fulfilling in a way that externally recognised goals cannot. \n\nBest of luck in these next steps. Self discovery is one of the most challenging and rewarding pursuits, and most people never get to truly experience it, I wish you well on your next steps!" ]

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[ "what to do when a dog is attacking you? Hi reddit,\n\nSay you had a vicious staffy, strong and dangerous clamping on your leg trying to tear it apart - what's the best method of stopping the attack and staying safe?", "what to do when a dog is attacking you? Hi reddit,\n\nSay you had a vicious staffy, strong and dangerous clamping on your leg trying to tear it apart - what's the best method of stopping the attack and staying safe?", "what to do when a dog is attacking you? Hi reddit,\n\nSay you had a vicious staffy, strong and dangerous clamping on your leg trying to tear it apart - what's the best method of stopping the attack and staying safe?", "what to do when a dog is attacking you? Hi reddit,\n\nSay you had a vicious staffy, strong and dangerous clamping on your leg trying to tear it apart - what's the best method of stopping the attack and staying safe?", "what to do when a dog is attacking you? Hi reddit,\n\nSay you had a vicious staffy, strong and dangerous clamping on your leg trying to tear it apart - what's the best method of stopping the attack and staying safe?" ]

[ "Non lethal method = Jamming an appendage as far into the mouth of the dog and pushing downwards at the same time. Meant to stop the dog from being able to bite properly while triggering it's gag reflex. Great if you just need a moment to get out of range of a dog. Yet if the dog is intent you are going to need something better. Beat it about the eyes and neck. Their nose has a large amount of nerve endings as well so dont be shy about laying into it as well. \n\nIf all else fails and you fear for your life. You can dislocate or break their front legs by grabbing them and pulling them apart as hard and fast as you can. Do not do this unless you need to cause serious harm/death to maintain your own life. \n\nThere are other safer alternatives that can and do work if you are the preparedness type. Clove oil rubbed on your hands and smeared on the dog's nose or eyes. Or even just an air horn blasted at them will disorientate and cause most dogs to re evaluate things from a distance. \n\nThough thankfully I dont have to deal with rabies in my country, but still carrying a stout 5ft - 6ft walking stave would help you keep the dog at a distance. \n\n", "Two places to go for are the ears and eyes, for just about any animal. If you slam one hand in each ear at the same time like you you were clapping really loudly, or shoved your thumbs in the eyes, the dog would let go.", "Never turn your back and never run from an attacking dog. While facing off, kick the dog in the face or chest as hard as you can. Works best if wearing heavy shoes or boots.", "Go for the neck. It's head is actually quite tough, but the neck is not. Not a happy thought, but you may need to use your forearm as a defense against his charging bites. Again, go for the neck.", "If a dog jumps at you, knee it right in the fucking chest as hard as possible. If the dog is just being playful obviously don't knock its lights out, but trust me this is the best way to teach a dog to stop jumping up. I've met dogs who are 7 years old, jumped up their entire lives constantly, boom do this for 2 days that shit's done. If it's actually attacking you this will probably knock the wind right out of it. Another thing thats good, but only if your confident as hell is grab the dog by the throat as it jumps and slam it down onto its back. Unless the dog is frenzied or has rabies it WILL get the picture of who's the alpha. Granted this is all advice for an adult male, if your a female or a child your probably not going to do either of those things " ]

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[ "What's the best way to finish a presentation? For example, in college someone is making a powerpoint presentation and in the end there is just the references slide and some awkward silence or an awkward \"...and that's about it...\". There must be a more \"professional\" way to finish it, right?", "What's the best way to finish a presentation? For example, in college someone is making a powerpoint presentation and in the end there is just the references slide and some awkward silence or an awkward \"...and that's about it...\". There must be a more \"professional\" way to finish it, right?", "What's the best way to finish a presentation? For example, in college someone is making a powerpoint presentation and in the end there is just the references slide and some awkward silence or an awkward \"...and that's about it...\". There must be a more \"professional\" way to finish it, right?" ]

[ "A nice short summary before asking the audience whether they have any questions. That usually sums my presentation nicely ", "Most people here recommend the good old \"are there any questions?\" .\n\nThat's not bad because most people are used to that.\n\nOn the other hand it is lame. Why? Because people are used to that.\n\nIf you want the audience to remember your presentation try sending a message. \n\nFor example:\n\nIf you make a presentation about your favorite pub end the presentation with an invitation, something like \"Thank you very much for your attention, I hope I see you guys in pubXY on saturday night\". \n\nAlso don't use the references slide as your last page. Find a nice picture of whatever you try to promote/present/whatever.\n\nSource: It's part of my job.", "Tell them what you're going to tell them. Tell them what you are telling them. Then tell them what you just told them. And tell a joke in between." ]

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[ "sticking mobile holders to the windscreen of my car Ive been through 3 so far, at most I get 2 days before they fall off. These are the ones with the suction cup on the end. I got different brands that are different weights but still they still fall off regularly. Any tricks I could try?", "sticking mobile holders to the windscreen of my car Ive been through 3 so far, at most I get 2 days before they fall off. These are the ones with the suction cup on the end. I got different brands that are different weights but still they still fall off regularly. Any tricks I could try?", "sticking mobile holders to the windscreen of my car Ive been through 3 so far, at most I get 2 days before they fall off. These are the ones with the suction cup on the end. I got different brands that are different weights but still they still fall off regularly. Any tricks I could try?", "sticking mobile holders to the windscreen of my car Ive been through 3 so far, at most I get 2 days before they fall off. These are the ones with the suction cup on the end. I got different brands that are different weights but still they still fall off regularly. Any tricks I could try?" ]

[ "Just so you know, it is illegal in most of the United States to use these, you can't obstruct your front windshield in any way. Clip it to your air conditioner vents with one of these: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00JNJPS4W?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o09_s00", "water water add little bit of water on it, and it will stick forever. If not, add some sticky putty, it will last atleast the winter or summer season before temp. change.", "Make sure the windscreen is clean, then put the suction cap on slightly wet. Make sure you push really firmly. ", "I have RAM mounts in my car and motorcycles- specifically a suction mount in my car for probably 1.5 years. Since installed, it has only dropped once when we had like a 50 degree temp swing in a day.\n\nThese are a bit pricey, but you can shop around for individual parts to save a few bucks and build a mount that's exactly what you want/need.\n\nhttp://www.rammount.com/search/suction+cup" ]

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[ "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?", "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?", "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?", "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?" ]

[ "Mentally reframe this \"test\" as a challenge. By thinking about your task as something you want to conquer rather than as a way of being evaluated, you can convert your nervousness into performance-boosting excitement. The physiological responses for nervousness and excitement are almost identical, so the way you choose to process it will help you approach it in a more positive, less stressed-out way. \n\nIf you find that you're getting too nervous/excited just before the challenge, try a few rounds of a deep breathing cycle. Breathe in for a count of 5, hold for 1, exhale for 8, hold for 1, and repeat. You want to pull yourself into a \"happy medium\" of excitement/nervousness to help you perform your best, so trying to breathe and relax a bit should get you there.\n\nGood luck!", "Public speaking and public performance are our greatest fear.Most people you admire as perfect orator or performer feel like you every time they face the audience.No one is 100% ready.Follow https://www.reddit.com/user/lighteningmcgreen advice and consider that most of of the judges have gone thru your test and wish you success.", "Not easy. In some situations you can try to persuade yourself that you can do well in the worst case scenario, sometimes you just have to distract yourself", "Fake it till you make it.\n\nReally, focus on what you know you're good at during the test. Show off your talent, don't treat it like a test.\n\n\n" ]

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[ "How to follow through? I always tell myself, I'll do this tomorrow or start doing that at 6:00 pm. No major changes at once just little things but when the time comes, laziness takes over and I don't do anything. What can I do to make myself do the thing I want to do? \nP.S. I don't say I'll do it tomorrow or later to procrastinate, it's the only time that it can be done. ", "How to follow through? I always tell myself, I'll do this tomorrow or start doing that at 6:00 pm. No major changes at once just little things but when the time comes, laziness takes over and I don't do anything. What can I do to make myself do the thing I want to do? \nP.S. I don't say I'll do it tomorrow or later to procrastinate, it's the only time that it can be done. ", "How to follow through? I always tell myself, I'll do this tomorrow or start doing that at 6:00 pm. No major changes at once just little things but when the time comes, laziness takes over and I don't do anything. What can I do to make myself do the thing I want to do? \nP.S. I don't say I'll do it tomorrow or later to procrastinate, it's the only time that it can be done. ", "How to follow through? I always tell myself, I'll do this tomorrow or start doing that at 6:00 pm. No major changes at once just little things but when the time comes, laziness takes over and I don't do anything. What can I do to make myself do the thing I want to do? \nP.S. I don't say I'll do it tomorrow or later to procrastinate, it's the only time that it can be done. ", "How to follow through? I always tell myself, I'll do this tomorrow or start doing that at 6:00 pm. No major changes at once just little things but when the time comes, laziness takes over and I don't do anything. What can I do to make myself do the thing I want to do? \nP.S. I don't say I'll do it tomorrow or later to procrastinate, it's the only time that it can be done. " ]

[ "I set up sporadic rewards for myself. One hour of writing? Thirty minutes of gaming or Reddit. Go to the store and go grocery shopping? 30 minutes of gaming or Reddit. I won't allow myself to go online or game until I have done one productive thing. Then set a time limit for that \"fun\" time before the next productive act. Just always make your reward less time than your productivity. 5 hours on a report? 3 hours of Netflix etc.\n\n", "I would just look ahead and see how if doing what you want to do can help further your goals or reach them. This can be big/small or long term/short term. It gives you motivation to do something and gives you a good reason to.", "I find that when I physically write things down on a list (not on a phone or computer, just plain ol' paper) I get a lot more things done. Especially if I have several tasks, it helps my brain prioritize and sort out the order I should do them in. ", "Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich emphasised the need for burning your bridges to push yourself, but I believe you should focus more on the mental of why you started in the first place. I recently lost 50 pounds and found motivational videos helped me to follow through. I would ask that you please look at a recent one i produced which I sincerely hope helps you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4OedLP9rrBI\n\nGood luck!", "> What can I do to make myself do the thing I want to do? \n\nSounds like you maybe don't want to do it, and are afraid to deal with that.\n\n" ]

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[ "Prevent Google search redirection links. I'm tired of trying to copy a Google search result just to find they stuffed extra things in the URL. \n\nFor example, do a [Google search](https://encrypted.google.com/search?q=reddit) for \"Reddit\". \nYou see the URL under the title, it says \"www.reddit.com\". Mouse over the title. The URL shows \"http://www.reddit.com\". Right click the title and select Copy Link Location. \nNow you have: https://encrypted.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=reddit&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CDYQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.reddit.com%2F&ei=rXtWT--ZOeaXiALK5qTqBw&usg=AFQjCNGP2I23xwAzzicm-TwmDMKVU72m0w&cad=rja\n\nIs there any way around this without having to do much work by hand? \nHeck, I'd be happy even if I had to use another GreaseMonkey script.", "Prevent Google search redirection links. I'm tired of trying to copy a Google search result just to find they stuffed extra things in the URL. \n\nFor example, do a [Google search](https://encrypted.google.com/search?q=reddit) for \"Reddit\". \nYou see the URL under the title, it says \"www.reddit.com\". Mouse over the title. The URL shows \"http://www.reddit.com\". Right click the title and select Copy Link Location. \nNow you have: https://encrypted.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=reddit&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CDYQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.reddit.com%2F&ei=rXtWT--ZOeaXiALK5qTqBw&usg=AFQjCNGP2I23xwAzzicm-TwmDMKVU72m0w&cad=rja\n\nIs there any way around this without having to do much work by hand? \nHeck, I'd be happy even if I had to use another GreaseMonkey script.", "Prevent Google search redirection links. I'm tired of trying to copy a Google search result just to find they stuffed extra things in the URL. \n\nFor example, do a [Google search](https://encrypted.google.com/search?q=reddit) for \"Reddit\". \nYou see the URL under the title, it says \"www.reddit.com\". Mouse over the title. The URL shows \"http://www.reddit.com\". Right click the title and select Copy Link Location. \nNow you have: https://encrypted.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=reddit&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CDYQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.reddit.com%2F&ei=rXtWT--ZOeaXiALK5qTqBw&usg=AFQjCNGP2I23xwAzzicm-TwmDMKVU72m0w&cad=rja\n\nIs there any way around this without having to do much work by hand? \nHeck, I'd be happy even if I had to use another GreaseMonkey script.", "Prevent Google search redirection links. I'm tired of trying to copy a Google search result just to find they stuffed extra things in the URL. \n\nFor example, do a [Google search](https://encrypted.google.com/search?q=reddit) for \"Reddit\". \nYou see the URL under the title, it says \"www.reddit.com\". Mouse over the title. The URL shows \"http://www.reddit.com\". Right click the title and select Copy Link Location. \nNow you have: https://encrypted.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=reddit&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CDYQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.reddit.com%2F&ei=rXtWT--ZOeaXiALK5qTqBw&usg=AFQjCNGP2I23xwAzzicm-TwmDMKVU72m0w&cad=rja\n\nIs there any way around this without having to do much work by hand? \nHeck, I'd be happy even if I had to use another GreaseMonkey script." ]

[ "[Google Tracking-B-Gone](https://userscripts.org/scripts/show/47300) will take care of it. Hope this helps!", "[This](http://userscripts.org/scripts/show/121261) is a working GreaseMonkey/TamperMonkey Script to disable said feature.\n\nIt works on all/most google sites.", "I...what? \n\nWhy do you need to do this? Just copy the second part, just after \"http%3A%2F%2F\"...In Chrome, it didn't do this to me, you might want to try switching.", "Here's an Opera addon that does this. https://addons.opera.com/de/addons/extensions/details/noredirect/0.31/?display=en" ]

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[ "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?", "Any tips on falling asleep faster? I have recently started a new workout schedule. I don't know how my body could work this way, but whenever I first start doing stuff, my body has a bit of trouble, but after almost an hour of hardcore back to back push ups, pull ups, and occasional two minute stretches, I only want to do more. My muscles are incredibly sore by this time, but my muscles begin to go at hyper speed. I know I shouldn't overwork my muscles so I go straight to sleep. Or at least I try. I know that I should be tired and I should get some sleep, but my body is still in overdrive. I was on YouTube for a while and kept on putting on relaxing music to sooth myself. I felt soothed and I could hardly keep my eyes open, but I still couldn't get to deep sleep. Any help?" ]

[ "Exercising before bed makes it very tough to sleep. All the adrenaline and endorphins coursing through you are going make it a challenge. I know the book 4 hour body has a chapter on better sleep, but I didn't read it in detail. Something about a cold bath an hour before bedtime. Also avoid light as much as possible. This includes phone, tv, and computer screens. ", "Don't have any caffeine after lunch time (this includes chocolate later on in the day.) Don't allow any electronics in the room with you, as the screen from a laptop/computer/phone, etc. will keep your body awake. Reading before bed (a book, or an e-ink screen) should help you relax. A warm shower or bath would also help. A warm tea (non-caffeinated) or warm milk should also help a bit.. something like that. \n\nAll in all, just give your body enough time to relax. Try to clear your mind, and keep your body relatively still.", "I listen to educational podcasts. For me it's like being back in school except there's no penalty for going to sleep. I am usually gone after about 10 minutes. Hearing someone talk let's me focus on their words instead of thinking. Plus every now and then I accidentally learn something, so it's win/win for me. Then again some people can't sleep with noise so maybe it's not for everyone. ", "I always think a single word to myself over and over and over. No other words allowed. Pretty soon I get bored enough that I just drift right off. ", "A couple of things...first of all you are working your body way too much. Doing that many push-ups will eventually start to break down your muscles. I would only really recommend doing maybe 3 sets until failure. Forcing your body to crank our more repetitions and sets is causing more damage than it is any good.\n\nSecondly, get as most sunlight as you can. Since it only takes around 10 minutes for your body to produce Vitamin D, go out in the early morning and go for a 15 minute walk in the sunlight. The sunlight blocks the melatonin from being produced, thus making you feel more awake earlier in the morning, which will make you feel that much more tired when nighttime comes around. Wake up early, get to bed early. Try not to workout late at night and keep your workouts early in the morning. \n\nMake sure your diet is in check and your sleeping schedule; meaning have a set time early in the morning to wake up. And a set time in which you will go to bed. After that, it will fall into place.", "try as hard as you can to think of nothing. When you start hearing thoughts that you didn't consciously think, that means it's working.", "pick up some 5-htp supplements. It's a precursor to serotonin so it will improve your mood as you make a habit of taking it. It is the chemical responsible for the \"turkey dinner syndrome\" food coma. I take between 25 and 100mg before bed and have super restful, dream filled sleep every night and retain the ability to wake up cheerfully to an alarm early in the morning, even after less than 8 hours. They're super cheap, I think walgreens probably carries them. \n", "get up really early for a few days and then you will have no problem sleeping. it is all about getting into a routine. if you get up at 6am everyday, you should be able to fall asleep at 10pm pretty easily.", "Try using basic yoga techniques. This might sound weird but a way to relax is to \"follow\" your blood through your body. I can explain more if requested.", "Something that works for me is finding a medium to small object somewhere where your sleeping. Stare at the object and don't focus on anything else, helps me drift right off.", "It may sound dumb, but try listening to classical solo piano songs. There's a station on pandora called just that. Or try just solo piano. Usually very soft and calming. Works for me.", "A trick that I heard about a while ago that works for me is with your eyes closed, laying in bed, start to move your eyes back and forth from one corner to the other. Helps simulate REM sleep and your eyes will begin to get heavier. Usually works for me when i have trouble.", "1. Stay away from TVs/PCs/bright lights, etc. for 30 minutes before you sleep.\n2. Drink some milk! At night, warm milk with a bit of honey is nice.\n3. Read a book. Or better yet, do some light, educational reading (you'll get bored/tired quicker)\n4. If you're an ENT, indica is the way to go.\n5. Stay away from coffee/energy drinks in the evening.", "/r/trees . I was a huge gym rat before I got married, and I had issues with sleep and calming down before bed, I found vaporizing helped the best. " ]

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[ "Best thing you've tried in life to move away from mediocrity? Woke up this morning and felt like it was Groundhog Day. What LPT do you have for something you might've tried in your life to move away from mediocrity?\n\nI'm open to anything and everything. For me, it was moving from my small town to NYC in my 20's on my own.", "Best thing you've tried in life to move away from mediocrity? Woke up this morning and felt like it was Groundhog Day. What LPT do you have for something you might've tried in your life to move away from mediocrity?\n\nI'm open to anything and everything. For me, it was moving from my small town to NYC in my 20's on my own.", "Best thing you've tried in life to move away from mediocrity? Woke up this morning and felt like it was Groundhog Day. What LPT do you have for something you might've tried in your life to move away from mediocrity?\n\nI'm open to anything and everything. For me, it was moving from my small town to NYC in my 20's on my own.", "Best thing you've tried in life to move away from mediocrity? Woke up this morning and felt like it was Groundhog Day. What LPT do you have for something you might've tried in your life to move away from mediocrity?\n\nI'm open to anything and everything. For me, it was moving from my small town to NYC in my 20's on my own.", "Best thing you've tried in life to move away from mediocrity? Woke up this morning and felt like it was Groundhog Day. What LPT do you have for something you might've tried in your life to move away from mediocrity?\n\nI'm open to anything and everything. For me, it was moving from my small town to NYC in my 20's on my own." ]

[ "Show up. Keep showing up.\n\nIf it's something that has a long-term goal, keep showing up. I sometimes use a mental trick of asking myself what future me is going to appreciate I did now. It actually has helped me avoid some bad decisions.\n\n", "regular gym schedule. it was tiring at first but once i got the rhythm, I had more energy for everything else in life.", "Self-reflection. Get into a habit of regulary reflect if you're happy with where you at life or what you do and take measures to change it. Works in business, relationships and personal life. It is something fewer people do I always thought, but it will move mountains for you.", "for me i'd say stoicism - never play victim or blame no one but yourself, regardless of privileges or disadvantages, learn to fold shitty hands and leverage the good hands.", "Learn something 'useless' every year. \nAccordion lessons\nA semester of Dickens at local cc\nJuggling \n🖖" ]

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[ "How can I fix the part of a laptop charger that plugs into the laptop? Sometimes it works, if it's at the right angle, but mostly it's broken. Is there an easy way to fix it permanently? ", "How can I fix the part of a laptop charger that plugs into the laptop? Sometimes it works, if it's at the right angle, but mostly it's broken. Is there an easy way to fix it permanently? " ]

[ "It depends on the laptop. If it's loose, you will need to take the laptop apart. Some laptops have the jack soldered to the main board. If the jack itself is fine, but the connection is lose, you can just solder it back in place. If it's broken (plastic inside cracked etc.) then you can get a new one on ebay and spend about an hour removing the old one and soldering the new one it.\n\nThe other types are where the jack is on a cable/separate board. Those are easy repair since you can just replace it. They're usually under $15.", "Could also be the connector on the charger cable or the cable itself. Check to make sure it's serviceable as well. " ]

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[ "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?", "What are some simple tasks I can do to make my PC run faster? I'm not very technical with a computer, but not totally tech-illiterate. Any tips?" ]

[ "Defrag your hard drive.\n\nA fragmented hard drive is when the files are unorganized, so it makes it harder for the hardware to read the files. Defragmenting is when you organize those files so that they're in one place.\n\nIt may sound complicated, but it's really not. Do you have Windows? Search for \"**Disk Defragmenter**\" in the start menu.\n\nNote: DO NOT DO THIS ON FLASH DRIVES OR SOLID SATE DRIVES. Attempting to defrag flash media will shorten the lifespan of that media.", "If you have a hard drive that isn't an SSD, defrag it.\n\nRun software like CCleaner to get rid of all the old gunk.\n\nIf there's still bloatware from the manufacturer, get rid of it.\n\nUse resource-light software, like Foxit Reader or SumatraPDF instead of Adobe Reader.\n\nLastly, if you're up for it, get rid of useless startup programs and resources. Consult a guide if you attempt this, and be sure to backup your data.", "Windows key + \"R\", type in \"msconfig\", go to startup, uncheck useless crap, restart and check \"never remind me again\"", "upgrade memory, defrag hard drive from time to time (or switch to SSD drives)\n\nthere's not a whole lot you can do without replacing hardware.", "If you have a USB3 slot (usually blue) buy a cheap usb3 key and stick it in there ans choose speed up my system. or buy RAM at that point", "(1) See what kind of antivirus you're using. A lot of them are bulky and really use up a whole lot of resources. [Avast](http://www.avast.com) is my personal favourite.\n\n(2) Download [CCleaner](http://www.piriform.com/ccleaner/download) and run the cleaner to clear out a lot of the \"clutter\". ALSO run the registry cleaner (make sure to do a backup!). Then, go to the \"Tools\" section and uninstall things that you don't use anymore (be careful not to install small-sized system utilities here).\nFinally (still in CCleaner) under the 'tools' section, there's a small sub-section titled \"Startup\". This is what launches all sorts of things when you boot up the OS. You can disable that you don't use and this will greatly free up resources and speed up boot times. Don't play around with things you're unsure with, but worst case scenario, you can always come back and re-enable them.\n\n(3) Go to BestBuy (or heck, even Dollarama) and get a can of compressed air. If you're savvy enough, just pull of the case siding and blow out all the dust out there (I like to run my vacuum hose nearby- not right on it, but nearby -to suck up what flies out). Just keep in mind not to get carried away and make the fan \"fly\" really fast (it'll destroy it - you can hold down the blades gently while you blow the dust out). Pay particular attention to the heat sink where there's going to be a whole lot.\n\nWhile you're at it, take a moment to run the dust blaster under your keyboard also (two things, give it time to \"warm up\" by itself if you use it too quickly, and also don't EVER EVER EVER make the mistake of trying to \"taste\" the air - it's got a bitter agent added to it to prevent inhalation abuse. Trust me, I know.)", "i guess ill just jump in on this question, does the reinstall button on windows 8.1 reinstall windows without needing a disk or anything?", "blow your CPU fan cooler, PSU fan, and GPU fans with canned air, you'll never know if those dust bunnies making your PC run hot and throttling your system.\n", "If you are experiencing slowness, open Task Manager by pressing ALT + CTL + DELETE. Find the tab called System Performance. There you will see what percentage of the RAM you are using. If you are using more than three quarters of the available RAM, a memory upgrade will serve you well. ", "Whip it. \n\nXD but seriously. Defrag it. Delete old crap you aren't using. A clunky hard drive is always going to be slower than a clean one. Invest in some RAM. Make sure your PSU can support all your components (if it's homemade).", "In order of efficiency:\n\n1. If you can afford it, buy a SSD . This is the most effective add on to make your PC faster\n\n2. Add more memory. (Up to 4Gb if your OS is 32 bit - more if your are running a 64 bit OS.\n\n3. Remove unnecessary programs that start up automatically. Google this.\n\n4. Defrag your hard disk.\n\n5. Uninstall unnecessary programs from your PC. If necessary reinstall the OS on PC (after backing up your data).", "I highly recommend Advanced System Care by Iobit, fairly cheap but obtain it how you want. They it has tons of cool features and keeps my PC running smooth. They also have a really good Anti-virus/Malware program.", "Forget defrag, it was worth it a decade ago but nowadays it's practically useless. 90% of the time if a computer's slow it's caused by unneeded programs running in the background.\n\n1. Uninstall any programs you don't use.\n\n2. Run a registry cleaner like CCleaner.\n\n3. Use [autoruns](https://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/sysinternals/bb963902.aspx) - stop useless shit from getting started at bootup, like java/flash/etc. updaters, google bloatware, and so on - practically *everything* that is not part of the operating system. If you don't know what's what Autoruns' built-in search or a quick google search will help.\n\n4. It might sound a bit unorthodox but you can uninstall any antivirus programs if you don't put foreign USB keys or CDs/DVDs in your PC. You need a firewall (an okay one is included in Windows since 7) and that's it. I install various top-notch antivirus programs 3-4 times a year, have them scan my computer to find nothing, and promptly uninstall them. I haven't had a PC virus infection in at least 5 years despite using the internet daily without antivirus software.\n\nSometimes your windows is just too old and bloated, then you need to reinstall it from scratch, preferably letting it format the drive while doing so, but you should know what to back up first (passwords, bookmarks, documents, saved games, etc.), so ask a pro if you are not confident.\n\nVery rarely the slowness is caused by missing or bad drivers for your hardware. Use windows' Device Manager to see if your hardware has proper drivers installed. You don't need the *latest* drivers for everything, but you certainly need *working ones*. If you see problems in the device manager [like this](http://alliedtelesis.com/manuals/2911_IG_UG_Rev_A/Images/device_manager_install.png) ask someone to help you out installing proper drivers or use a program like the Auslogics Driver Updater." ]

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[ "How to get all the bubbles out of adhesive surfaces like a screen protector. For clarification, I actually don't need this for a screen protector, I actually have whiteboard wallpaper (it's exactly what it sounds like, it's 'wallpaper' that you can write on like a whiteboard and it is absolutely fantastic), so I have this problem on a pretty large scale.\n\nThe only tips i can find on the web are basically to use a cr", "How to get all the bubbles out of adhesive surfaces like a screen protector. For clarification, I actually don't need this for a screen protector, I actually have whiteboard wallpaper (it's exactly what it sounds like, it's 'wallpaper' that you can write on like a whiteboard and it is absolutely fantastic), so I have this problem on a pretty large scale.\n\nThe only tips i can find on the web are basically to use a cr", "How to get all the bubbles out of adhesive surfaces like a screen protector. For clarification, I actually don't need this for a screen protector, I actually have whiteboard wallpaper (it's exactly what it sounds like, it's 'wallpaper' that you can write on like a whiteboard and it is absolutely fantastic), so I have this problem on a pretty large scale.\n\nThe only tips i can find on the web are basically to use a cr" ]

[ "I do vinyl wraps on cars, trailers, photo booths etc... for a living and what we use is a special \"wet mount.\" Kind of the same way tint is applied to windows. The liquid we use doesn't compromise static cling or adhesive properties. I would try and use windex as a substitute. Also, be sure to apply in as close to a dust free environment as possible. If your phone has contours or edges, apply a little heat (blowdryer) and it might help. I have never applied screen protectors like this, but other professionals in the industry have told me it works. Good luck!", "If you're going to try the \"scrape them out\" method, you can go to anywhere that sells painting supplies and get a 8 inch+ scraper that's normally used for drywall.\n\n\nMaybe a rolling pin that's used in cooking?", "Idk about something that big but a little bit of baby powder on a screen does the trick for a screen protector I would try that and maybe a little more since its sticking on a wall" ]

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[ "How to receive a gift Bit late, perhaps, but better late than never.\n\nIt's not always common sense. Sometimes, social nuances are difficult.", "How to receive a gift Bit late, perhaps, but better late than never.\n\nIt's not always common sense. Sometimes, social nuances are difficult." ]

[ "If I'm getting a gift from someone who is watching me open their gift, I always take 10 seconds to just look at the wrapping they did.\n\nThe wrapping is always an extra touch that is entirely for the opening of the gift. It goes away after that moment and will not be seen again with the gift. Take a moment and appreciate whatever they did to make it special.\n\nIf they did crisp, clean wrapping paper, say how nice it looks. If it's a bag, not the color or design on the bag. If it's poorly wrapped, notice that it makes the gift have character and uniqueness to it. Whoever got you that gift will know you actually cared if you take note of the wrapping.", "Raise both arms, at approximately horizontal to the ground, palms facing upwards. Say something like 'aw you shouldn't have', 'thanks very much', 'you honour my ancestors with this generous gift', unwrap. Express surprise and gratitude, or fake it. " ]

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[ "how not to lose a bluetooth headset So I've lost 2 bluetooth headsets, and switched back to wired because of it. Except being wired is so clumsy in the day-to-day of my job that it's not even worth the effort to bother. Speaker phone is working ok for now, but I really just need another bluetooth though I can't stomach the idea of endlessly losing/paying for replacements.\n\nHow can I stop losing the damn bluetooth headsets?\n\nthanks in advance :)", "how not to lose a bluetooth headset So I've lost 2 bluetooth headsets, and switched back to wired because of it. Except being wired is so clumsy in the day-to-day of my job that it's not even worth the effort to bother. Speaker phone is working ok for now, but I really just need another bluetooth though I can't stomach the idea of endlessly losing/paying for replacements.\n\nHow can I stop losing the damn bluetooth headsets?\n\nthanks in advance :)" ]

[ "Remember where you put it, seriously! At home I only put mine on my dresser thing w/my other \"daily's\" like wallet, car key, etc., it's also where the charger is at so it never has a reason to be anywhere else besides my ear or dresser. Same thing at work, it's either in my ear or on the charger stand (not always charging) that sits next to my laptop & 2nd screen. In my car it's either in my ear (cause I forget it's there) or in the \"cubby\" hole under my radio/media/navigation screen & climate controls (I normally use my car Bluetooth/hands free as it works really well).\n\nIf you tKe it out often and set it down in random places because it's uncomfortable, then you need to find a more comfortable one and then force yourself to wear it for \"x\" amount of time each day, extending the time by 30-60 minutes each day. You will get used to it and it will become comfortable where you don't even notice it until it rings. I've had a few different bluetooths and I didnt like the quality/performance of them until I got a JAWBONE like 3-4 years ago (2nd-3rd gen) and I love it and still use it today. The sound quality and noise canceling features work great, & a newer version of it (or another brand with similar/better technology) would probably be even better. In fact, it's probably time for me to research and upgrade, even though I will probably stick with Jawbone as it has worked so well for me for so long.\n\nTL;DR pick 1 place to put it, other than your ear", "My mom washed my dad's, so don't put it in your pocket! If you carry a bag, get a container for it, attach it to a carbine clip, and attach that to the zipper" ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "How to keep reading for a longer time I really do like to read. But there are some days; ok actually a lot of days where I try to sit down and read, but after five minutes I've already put the book down and I'm doing something completely different.", "How to keep reading for a longer time I really do like to read. But there are some days; ok actually a lot of days where I try to sit down and read, but after five minutes I've already put the book down and I'm doing something completely different." ]

[ "I find that this happens when two conditions meet:\n\n1. You have nervous energy;\n2. There's a lull in the book that's making it less interesting.\n\nSolution, if you really want to force yourself to read for longer: kill the nervous energy! Go for a jog, do some chores around the house, or just do anything to get your nervous system down to a reasonable level. Not too much, though, or you'll make yourself tired, which is also a detriment to reading. Also, stay far away from the internet for this time; it'll just give you all that nervous energy back. If you get to a really juicy part in the book, the worst should be behind you.", "**COCAINE!**\n\nNOTE: Don't actually do this. It should help, but stimulant drugs are pretty dangerous." ]

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[ "What are some tips for people brand new to Photoshop? I just purchased Photoshop last night, and I'm picking it up fairly quickly. But with any software, there's always those little tricks that no one tells you, and make life much easier. What do you wish you had learned early on?", "What are some tips for people brand new to Photoshop? I just purchased Photoshop last night, and I'm picking it up fairly quickly. But with any software, there's always those little tricks that no one tells you, and make life much easier. What do you wish you had learned early on?", "What are some tips for people brand new to Photoshop? I just purchased Photoshop last night, and I'm picking it up fairly quickly. But with any software, there's always those little tricks that no one tells you, and make life much easier. What do you wish you had learned early on?", "What are some tips for people brand new to Photoshop? I just purchased Photoshop last night, and I'm picking it up fairly quickly. But with any software, there's always those little tricks that no one tells you, and make life much easier. What do you wish you had learned early on?" ]

[ "Keep your layers organized in named folders if you have to do that even an idiot could figure out what's what by opening your file.\n\nYouTube how to videos are great.\n\nPractice makes perfect.\n\nYou can mess with the sensitivity of the select tools (wand-select, magnetic-select, etc).\n\nFellow self-taught photoshopper.", "Lol @ picking it up quickly.\n\nUse layers, everything on its own layer and most importantly name and group the layers.", "Lookup some \"things i wish i knew before starting photoshop\" Videos.\n\nUnderstanding Layers and Masks is the most important thing imo.\nAny Question? Ask me", "Hold command (or ctrl on PC) to temporarily access the selection tool. It's a little thing, but makes little adjustments much faster. " ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n", "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n", "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n", "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n", "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n", "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n", "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n", "How to say no when you are clearly able to say yes I'm not talking about when your boss needs you to reschedule a day off to come into an urgent work day. I'm talking about when you have to say no because you simply do not want to help someone, even though you clearly can.\n\nI.E. your friend asks to borrow your phone because theirs died and they need to call a parent. However, you do not trust this friend (whether you know they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, they've cracked your phone in the past, etc). You can't say no, though, because if you do, you'll be judged as a shitty friend (whether or not you are is a different conversation) by them and others nearby, or they'll continue to question you as to why you said no. How do you avoid this conflict without having to be a pushover and saying yes?\n\n" ]

[ "Always have a rule that you follow. Then you can tell them about the rule. \n\nFor example: \"I have a rule that I never lend my phone to people. I've had too many people break my phone or start going through it without my permission that I had to make a rule to stop it from happening. As long as I follow the rule, I am the only person who breaks my phone and I only have myself to blame. Nothing against you, but I haven't had any problems ever since I started following my rule and I'm not going to break my rule now. Sorry bro. But I could call them for you and put them on speaker to let you talk to them, as long as the phone doesn't leave my hand.\"\n\nExample 2: \"I have a rule that I never lend people money. I've seen too many friendships end over one person owing the other person money. I don't want to risk our friendship just for a couple bucks. Heck, it could end just because I'm saying no, but we wouldn't be very good friends anyway if it ended due such a silly reason. I'm pretty sure we're better friends than that.", "\"No, I'm not comfortable with that.\" or \"No, I can't help you at the moment.\"\n\nAny follow-up pestering can be answered with a polite \"No.\" And then dis-engage in whatever way seems appropriate, such as putting your own phone on your charger.", "Decide if you want to save face or if you want them to never ask again\n\nSave Face: No, I’m worried it’s about to break and I’ll need it shortly \n\nNever Ask Again: No, honestly your hygiene freaks me the Fuck out and I don’t want you to touch anything I touch. \n\nNeutral: No. ((blank stare)) My answer is no, and it won’t change. ((retorts or argues)) I said no, stop asking me about it. (Walk away if needed.. with charger)", "No. No is a complete sentence. If someone cannot respect your boundaries, they do not have to be on your life. It sounds silly, but a friend had to tell me I can just say no. Today we don’t J.A.DE. justify argue defend explain. You got this OP, sometimes saying no to something is saying yes to yourself.", "I’m not in the disposition to do so, and I’m unwavering in my decision. Sorry, you’ll have to look somewhere else.", "If you think they might be telling the truth, you can have them give you the number, dial it your self , and then call the parent yourself. Put phone on speaker, and hold it up between you and them.", "No.... If they continue you can remind them that a No does not magically turn into a Yes. Hold your ground and be firm about it.", "I wrote this awhile ago. Hope you find it useful:\n\nToo many of us find it difficult to say \"no\" and spend a considerable amount of time and effort trying to find the perfect excuse. There has to be an easier way, and here it is!\n\nThere are only two reasons to say \"no\" to any particular request:\n\n\"Can't;\" aka not able/not available\n\n\"Won't:\" aka not comfortable/not interested\n\nAny other reasons are just so much window-dressing on top of these two. If one doesn't work, the other one will. Sometimes, both of them work. Keeping your refusals to these two simple reasons will make it easy to figure out what to say, and make it more difficult for someone else to chip away at your refusal. Here are some examples, many of which I have used in real life:\n\n\"I'm not available for a relationship like that.\" In this case, \"not interested\" is closer to the truth, but \"not available\" is also true, and kinder. After all, you're \"not available\" BECAUSE you're not interested.\n\n\"I'm not comfortable giving rides to people I don't know.\"\n\n\"I'm not interested in participating in any MLM (multilevel marketing).\"\n\n\"I won't give money to any panhandlers.\"\n\n\"I'm not comfortable with that kind of activity.\"\n\n\"She's not able to come to the phone.\" I managed to keep my angry, drunk brother-in-law busy on the phone for a half-hour when my drunken sister didn't want to talk to him with this one. When he said \"Whaddayamean she's 'not available'?\" I defined the term \"not available.\"\n\n\"I can't be responsible for babysitting your kids every weekend.\"\n\n\"I'm not able to spend more than an hour on the phone every day.\"\n\nPart of the reason why these reasons are so difficult to refute is that they don't give much information about exactly why you're refusing. If you give too much detail (\"I can't give your friends a ride in my car because there isn't enough room\") the person asking you can come back with \"they don't mind sitting close together.\"\n\nThe other is that they all use \"I\" statements (\"I'm not/I can't/I won't\") instead of \"my car isn't big enough for that\" or \"my brother is picking me up after work.\" To some people who enjoy the challenge of turning \"no\" into \"yes\" these refusals just beg for them to problem-solve them, leaving you with no way to refuse.\n\nAnd for those people who are just really socially awkward and made a potentially embarrassing request, your refusal is direct, kind, and simple.\n\nIMHO, an even better reason to keep your refusals this simple and vague is that it sends the message that you believe these reasons are sufficient, and feel no need to provide more detail. This demonstrates respect for your own boundaries." ]

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[ "Current Job Description Being Changed to Include New Responsibility. How Do I Go About Asking For A Pay Increase? As per the title, I'm being given a fairly large responsibility added to my job description, but there's been no real talk about pay increase. I'm in a management/non-union role. How should I go about asking my Director/HR for the pay raise?", "Current Job Description Being Changed to Include New Responsibility. How Do I Go About Asking For A Pay Increase? As per the title, I'm being given a fairly large responsibility added to my job description, but there's been no real talk about pay increase. I'm in a management/non-union role. How should I go about asking my Director/HR for the pay raise?" ]

[ "Do your research and find comps via payscale or other means. Don't just go in saying you want a raise without any evidence.\n\nWait, did you accept this new responsibility already?? If so that sucks because you've lost a lot of leverage.", "Your in management which, imo, means your signing up to do the job that needs to get done. If the company is changing/growing and there are new responsibilities, it falls on management. Now as a manager maybe you need to make the determination to hire someone else because of how much extra work it is. But yea changing responsibilities or adding responsibilities doesn't seam like something you can fight back against." ]

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[ "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?", "How to cheaply cool a room/myself during summer Basically the title. I am a student living on the top floor in a house, and summer is starting to make things uncomfortable. Do you have any life hacks to cool myself and/or my room during day or night?" ]

[ "A small window ac unit is your only hope honestly. $159 and you’re good to go for the summer. It’s a quality of life purchase and I’ve learned throughout my life not to skimp on a purchase that improves my quality of life. Plus you need to remove the moisture in the air. Most cooling “hacks” just make it more humid and lead to more discomfort. Bite the bullet…spend the money. You won’t regret it.", "I sometimes hold a frozen water bottle between the thighs...it cools the blood circulating round your body quite quickly", "Cover all the windows (if you don't have curtains/blinds a great tip is to temporarily stick aluminium foil (shiny side pointing outside) on them using hairspray as \"glue\". It reflects the sunlight) and do not open them until the temperature outside is lower than inside.\n\nUse a fan and position wet sheets or a bowl of icecubes in front of it.\n\nFill your bathtub with ice cold water and just let it sit. Cools down the place, too.\n\nUse a spray bottle with water to cool yourself off at night.", "Cooling the palms of your hands, bottoms of feet, and face are the most effective ways to heat or cool the body.", "If you’re in the US you can buy a small portable A/C. The worst part is emptying the condensate tank on some of those", "Use a box fan in the window blowing OUT during the day. When it’s cooler at night turn it to blow in. You can YouTube how to make a swamp cooler for under $50... it depends where you live, if you live in dessert climate you want swamp cooler, if you’re in humid climate you want AC.\n\nPut beans/rice in a linen sack and put in the freezer, make ice packs of 1:3 water and alcohol. Freeze water bottles half full and laying on their side, you can cool a drink or put by the fan to cool a room. Put extra sheets on your mattress to give more breathing room between you and the mattress (often non breathable materials cover a mattress and will make it hotter).", "I used to have a shitty apartment with an exterior wall with lots of old single pane windows facing west. In the summer it was brutal. Close off anything that doesn't NEED to be cool all the time and try to make the space you need to keep cool as small as possible. I would hang out in the smallest bedroom with the windows covered and a portable AC unit running. At night when things cool off. Open all the windows and get the place as cold as possible. Run as few electric/heat producing devices as possible. Take cold showers.", "Get a spray bottle that mists well and a fan. Mist your top sheet so it's damp before going to bed. The fan blowing across the damp sheet cools you down beneath it. \nIt sounds weird, but it's what I did on a trip to southern India during summer...", "Cold showers and look for bath products (shampoo, body wash) with mint or tea tree oil - they will have a cooling effect that lingers after you’re out of the shower", "If the rest of the will cooperate, set up a heat dump. When it's cool, open the windows and blow IN for the lower windows and blow OUT upstairs. Hot air rises and needs to escape.\n\nWhen the sun comes up, close windows before the house gets hot and cover (even blankets) any window where the sun shines in. \n\nYou can put ice water, Terra Cotta or wet cloth in front of a fan (not ON the fan) but that raises humidity. I'd you have bare cement, like in a basement, you can dump a glass of water and put a fan to blow over, and another fan to move the cooled air where it's needed (swamp cooler) but that is a risk of mold.", "Do not recommend this however it is at least funny. I was once in this situation in upstairs in town house, no ceiling fan in Australia where summer is hot as balls. I would on very hot days make a shit load of ice and have an ice bath. The hypothermia really does take the edge off the summers day.", "The easiest is a small USB fan on your face/head. Costs almost nothing and drops your body temp right down. You wouldn’t believe how effective a light breeze on your face is for cooling you down. Artic fans from Amazon are completely silent and work well", "Put a hot water bottle in the freezer (do not use it for hot water again!) and use it to cool yourself. Blankets in the freezer are a bliss too." ]

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[ "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n", "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n", "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n", "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n", "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n", "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n", "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n", "how to break up with somebody There are some similar posts, but I really wasn't satisfied with what I saw. What I'm looking for is how to cut off ties in the most firm, but respectful way possible. How to do so without hurting someone's feelings as much as possible, but also not let there be any room for argument.\n\n\n" ]

[ "I forget where I read it, but something I read said that you must be absolutely unequivocal in your statements. No \"let's take some time apart\" or anything like that. Nothing that even by the most demented stretch of the imagination could be twisted into thinking that the two of you will get back together. People can be amazing at convincing themselves of things that are ridiculous. Don't give them room for that.", "\"How to do so without hurting someone's feelings...\"\n\nThe root issue here is that you (perhaps) imagine that you have any control over how someone feels.\n\nYou cut off ties, because you have control over that.\n\nThey think what they think and feel what the feel, you have no control over that.\n\nEveryone licks their wounds, takes stock of their contributions to the relationship--hopefully both good and bad--and then each moves on with their lives. Maybe you'll learn something, but more likely you'll just go on to make the same mistakes several more times.\n\nYou are responsible for your happiness and yours alone.", "You have to give up the notion that you can do this gently. There are going to be hurt feelings. But if you're both adults, you can get over it. Be clear and direct. \n\nIt only takes one person to break up, and \"a good reason\" isn't necessary. \"This relationship isn't right for me\" is reason enough.", "Just be direct, unapologetic, and own your break up (i.e. \"I cannot stay in this relationship because I am unhappy\" is far better than \"you are making me unhappy\"). \n\nWhen you are done, be done - no contact.", "Be as honest as possible. A few moments of awkwardness and hurt are a hell of a lot better than a life time of \"what did I do wrongs\" and \"what if's\"", "You can always say something like \"I've enjoyed our time together and I've learned a lot from our relationship. I think it's time we split ways though and continue our growth with others.\" Or something like that.", "Once I took my ex G.F. to a Japanese restaurant, sat on the table with her and said straighaway: \"I have a good and a bad notice, the good one is that they have the best Temaki in the city, the bad is that you are going to eat it alone as I'm breaking up with you!\" \nI know it was not very respectfull but I was trying for at least 2 weeks to break up with her and didn't know how to do it. I talked with the waiter a couple minutes before she arrived and paid for 4 Temakis that were supposed to come right after I left the place so she could at least enjoy the good food. We've never talked again since I had to go to Toronto for studies, but 4 months ago when I came back to my country, my friend told me he that she's now dating someone else. So, I'm ok with that", "Focus on you and not them. Don't point out their flaws or things they may have done to make you not want to be in the relationship. This is one time that you should make it all about you. \n" ]

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[ "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?", "Cheap/Easy way to make your bed more comfortable Mattress pads and toppers are pretty expensive. Does anyone have cheaper alternatives?" ]

[ "I´ve seen 3 inch memory foam toppers at U$S99 at amazon. That´s the best investment yo can do to sleep more comfortable", "There are lots of ugly bedspreads at the thrift store. Layer a couple on your bed, then put your bottom sheet over them. ", "Buying a nice, quality mattress is well worth the purchase. You spend nearly 1/3 of your life sleeping, but yet people are often reluctant to pay for a nice mattress. I know this doesn't answer your question, but purchasing a nice mattress is great investment IMO.", "Woot has good deals on memory foam mattresses/mattress pads every so often. $5 shipping, I don't know how much the mattress/pad actually costs, but my sister got one and has really liked it so far.", "Find a cheap topper like sound insulation (looks like spiky foam) for recording studios to put under your sheets.", "http://www.amazon.co.uk/Mattress-Includes-Washable-Removable-Elasticated/dp/B001KHVYWA/ref=pd_sim_sbs_lp_3", "These are some great ideas. I recently bought a new <a href=\"http://www.bedzzz.ca/our-history\">mattress in Ottawa</a>. It is okay but I need a little extra. I will try some of these things. Thanks.", "My mattress was a bit old and as a result it sagged in the middle. Dad came by and put plywood I between the mattress and the frame. Totally worked!", "I find firmer beds more comfortable. So has anybody got tips on making a soft mattress firmer?\n\n(IMHO putting a wooden board under the mattress doesn't make a difference unless it's a really thin mattress.)", "I'd say roll up a small towel like a burrito, then put it on your neck. I don't know if I can recall where I read this information." ]

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[ "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?", "Items to carry with you all the time Hello Reddit! I generally carry some common things with me at all times, like a pen, a lighter (even though i don't smoke), a knife, and maybe some other things..but after reading some of the LPT's, I've noticed that a lot of these things could come in handy, if you just happen to have the right things on you at the right time. My request then is what are some things that we should carry around with us all the time to hack life?" ]

[ "Knife, pen, notebook, flashlight. How many times do you find yourself fumbling around in the dark with the shitty light from your cellphone screen?", "I absolutely love my [Leatherman Style CS](http://www.leatherman.com/product/Style_CS) - I use it as my key fob, and it gets daily use. It has a small pair of scissors, knife blade, nail file with a flat blade screwdriver tip, a pair of tweezers, and a bottle opener. It has a handy carabiner clip that is easy to clip on / remove from my keyring - best of all, it's only slightly larger than a typical car key and adds next to no bulk to my pockets. ", "anything people often \"bum\" off people. lighters, gum, a few bucks, cigarettes (i dont smoke, so i dont carry them but still i can see them being useful). ive met a few people just by letting strangers use my lighter\na knife can be handy but it can get you into trouble. if you get checked somewhere and forget completely about it, you bring about suspicion..but i often carry this really tiny wimpy knife that can barely be considered a weapon regardless.\nsharpies are useful too. not really necessary, but i carry one almost always haha", "I actually carry a magnesium strike plate over a lighter. It's more compact, it can't rupture, and I still get a kick out of starting fires with it. If I'm away from civilization, I'll also have para cord, a collapsible plastic container, a Leatherman, and a Henry AR-7. In civilization, I'll conceal carry as well. ", "from a girl's point of view, i keep ibuprofen and hair ties/ponytail holders on me at all times. those are the two things that i always find myself without when i need them most.", "wallet\nphone\nkeys\nearbuds/headphones\na book (now usually just e-books on my phone's kindle app)\nan extra $20 tucked into my key fob\na pen", "I like to carry a paperclip. Seems to come in handy very often. As for the ladies (and maybe long haired men?) bobby pins and hair ties. If I don't need it, a friend always does.", "I keep a sharpie, pencil, multitool (with knife and saw), bobby pin in my wallet, safety pin, and some bandaids", "A way to make fire (Magnesium and steel, fireproof matches, a lighter...), a knife, binoculars, a paper map.", "A pocketknife, and if possible, a small compass. I have one on my keyring in case the compass app on my phone is acting up (no service, etc.) You might be surprised at how handy this can be (...if you're directionally challenged, like me). " ]

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[ "Quitting something you feel obligated to keep doing? Say you invest a ton of time and money into a sport that you just don't relaly like after a while, or you play an online video game for years of your life and can't bear putting it aside because of the progress and memories put into it. How can you convince yourself to quit?\n\nIn my case, I've spent a ton of time and money on World of Warcraft and I feel like that money would have been a waste if I don't play the crap out of this game. I feel obligated to play it, but video games are meant to be played for fun. I'm stressed and miserable because this game is so time consuming and the community is quite toxic and I want to convince myself to quit for good before my good memories of it are overshadowed by how terrible it's made me feel lately.", "Quitting something you feel obligated to keep doing? Say you invest a ton of time and money into a sport that you just don't relaly like after a while, or you play an online video game for years of your life and can't bear putting it aside because of the progress and memories put into it. How can you convince yourself to quit?\n\nIn my case, I've spent a ton of time and money on World of Warcraft and I feel like that money would have been a waste if I don't play the crap out of this game. I feel obligated to play it, but video games are meant to be played for fun. I'm stressed and miserable because this game is so time consuming and the community is quite toxic and I want to convince myself to quit for good before my good memories of it are overshadowed by how terrible it's made me feel lately.", "Quitting something you feel obligated to keep doing? Say you invest a ton of time and money into a sport that you just don't relaly like after a while, or you play an online video game for years of your life and can't bear putting it aside because of the progress and memories put into it. How can you convince yourself to quit?\n\nIn my case, I've spent a ton of time and money on World of Warcraft and I feel like that money would have been a waste if I don't play the crap out of this game. I feel obligated to play it, but video games are meant to be played for fun. I'm stressed and miserable because this game is so time consuming and the community is quite toxic and I want to convince myself to quit for good before my good memories of it are overshadowed by how terrible it's made me feel lately.", "Quitting something you feel obligated to keep doing? Say you invest a ton of time and money into a sport that you just don't relaly like after a while, or you play an online video game for years of your life and can't bear putting it aside because of the progress and memories put into it. How can you convince yourself to quit?\n\nIn my case, I've spent a ton of time and money on World of Warcraft and I feel like that money would have been a waste if I don't play the crap out of this game. I feel obligated to play it, but video games are meant to be played for fun. I'm stressed and miserable because this game is so time consuming and the community is quite toxic and I want to convince myself to quit for good before my good memories of it are overshadowed by how terrible it's made me feel lately." ]

[ "Think back, what made those memories so good? The game, or the people you played it with? Making that connection made it a lot easier to walk away after 10 years", "Logically I think you can see that anything described as toxic, stressful or an obligation should be stopped, especially when it comes to something meant to be fun. Emotionally speaking, just because you invested time or money doesn't mean you have to do something forever. It also doesn't mean that if you stop, you have to leave forever. Start by taking a break and see how you feel. ", "Least for WOW have a friend change the password to your account. This is how a friend of mine gave up his League of Legends addiction", "**TL;DR: Analyze what several months in the future will look like if you DO change versus if you DON'T.**\n\nSince your obligation to continue playing seems like it's only to yourself and nobody else, then you don't have to give a shit about other people and can do what's best for you.\n\nSo, sit down and grab a pencil or pen and sheet of paper. Across the top put the title \"IN THREE MONTHS\". Make a three column grid, and add the three headings \"Type of impact\", then \"If I keep doing it\" then \"If I quit now\". Down the left column, put rows for \nFinancial, Time, Mood, Physical Health, Quality of Sleep, Enjoyable Experiences and anything else that comes to mind. \n\nThen fill in the grid and compare the two columns. For example, in Financial put \"spent ($ 3 months fees)\" in the If I Keep Doing It column, and in the If I Quit Now column, \"Can buy X with that money\" where X is something you want. Maybe Enjoyable Experiences gets \"Can complete X really massive raids\" in the first, but \"Can read a book I always wanted to\" in the other.\n\nThen compare and see which of the two is best for you. Will quite likely be a no-brainer." ]

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[ "What's the best way to determine if somebody is a true friend or just somebody who is using you, stuck with you, or simply tolerates you? ", "What's the best way to determine if somebody is a true friend or just somebody who is using you, stuck with you, or simply tolerates you? ", "What's the best way to determine if somebody is a true friend or just somebody who is using you, stuck with you, or simply tolerates you? ", "What's the best way to determine if somebody is a true friend or just somebody who is using you, stuck with you, or simply tolerates you? ", "What's the best way to determine if somebody is a true friend or just somebody who is using you, stuck with you, or simply tolerates you? ", "What's the best way to determine if somebody is a true friend or just somebody who is using you, stuck with you, or simply tolerates you? " ]

[ "Sometimes, you sense it. \nIf they make excuses not to hang out with you, or bail on you when they do show up. Those are red flags. \nOther times, you find out the hard way, like when you go through a tough time and your \"friends\" aren't there to support you. \nA true friend cares about you whether you're in a good place, or bad place and is genuinely interested and invested in your life. A friendship goes both ways. Do you ask them questions and show interest in their life? Do they only talk about themselves or do they ask questions in return? Those are all signs.", "Avoid people who:\n\n1. Mess with your head.\n\n2. Can’t and won’t apologise sincerely.\n\n3. Expect you to prioritise them but refuse to prioritise you.\nintentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you.\n\n4. Act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behaior.", "Its not a good method, but you can judge a person by how they treat their family. \n\nIt lets you know how they behave amongst people they've spent a long time with.", "Ask to borrow money for a personal emergency. The amount needs to be enough to make your friend uncomfortable (based on their financial situation) but not more than they have available.", "Pretty simple. \nIf they tolerate you, they won't necessarily help you.\nIf they are a buddy they will help you move.\nA real friend will help you move a body. ", "If someone's just using you - be it your time, or your money, you'll probably feel it before you see it. No matter how kind or good a person you are, do you know anyone why makes you feel drained to be around and you're not sure why?\n\nIt's because people like that do nothing but take and even if you don't immediately realise it, you can sense something's off in the friendship. You make time for them; they never make time for you. They never take it in turns to buy coffee, for example, when you're out. They're not interested in your wants, needs, desires or hobbies, but they'll go on for ages about their own and expect you to listen. They make you feel like shit if you succeed or do something better than them in any way, for example, trying to 'one up you' with an anecdote or invalidating your problems compared to their own. They don't share, they don't contribute, they don't give a single thing but yet expect everything from you. They never apologise for any wrongdoing towards you, and place themselves as the victim. They never ask you how you are, but begin immediately going on about themselves. \n\nOne-sided friendships are so shitty as it's sometimes not easy to pinpoint why a friend makes you feel horrible every time you're around them, until you go back and think about all the crummy things they've done to make you feel how you do. It's sometimes even harder when your other friends don't see it, making you doubt yourself, but if you do doubt your feelings, I encourage you to think about this:\n\nReal friends make time for one another. They care about your feelings as much as (or even more so) than their own. They share and they give. They celebrate achievements and don't put them down because of their own insecurities. They ask you how you are and they listen to you, because they really want to rather than feeling obliged before immediately going on about themselves. In short, they raise you up. If someone you know doesn't, and I cannot stress this enough, *cut them the hell out of your life, as much as you can*.\n\nI've spent so long being around people I absolutely couldn't stand because I felt I had to to please someone else. Because I felt crazy that other people didn't see them like I did. I ended up with terrible anxiety problems and they could have been entirely avoided if I'd had the courage to simply be honest with myself. It may be cliched, but life is seriously too damned short to be around people who drag you down. Find people who make you feel good. " ]

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[ "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks", "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks", "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks", "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks", "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks", "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks", "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks", "A good pair of warm socks that won't make my feet sweat therefor making them cold. I live in a very cold climate and need warm socks, the trouble is my feet sweat during the day and by the end of my day my socks are wet and therefore get cold. Anyone have an life tips about warm socks that won't make my feet sweat? Thanks" ]

[ "WOOL! Wool will stay much drier than cotton. Wash inside out, with liquid fabric softener, and hang to dry. They will also last much longer.", "You should layer your socks the same way that you should properly layer your clothes. I wear a pair of synthetics for a base layer that's good at wicking the moister away, and a pair of woollies on top as an insulating layer. The boot would be the outer shell in this case. Wigwam is a popular brand of moisture wicking base layer socks. ", "Wear a liner with wool socks to wick moisture from your foot. Also if you are wearing the same boots/shoes dry them at night. The will hold moisture.", "I once got given a pair of knitted wool socks by an ex 's mum for Christmas. The colour was so offensive I didn't wear them for ages. When I did eventually give them a go they were so amazingly warm I wore them for way longer than I should have. \nThey can be pricey but my advice is to get some 100% wool socks. No sweat, just toasty, warm hippy feet :3", "Even socks that claim to wick moisture away (like Under Armor) will get damp because there are no shoes that wick moisture away. Where does the water go after it gets soaked up by the socks?\n\nSo there are no magical socks that will help you. But wool socks can store a lot more water and not feel as damp.\n\nYou just have feet that sweat and have to deal with it accordingly. Typical thing I suggest people do is to carry an extra pair of socks and when your socks are damp change them out and dry the other pair. Usually this is for hiking situations and people that need to work on their feet during the winter. It can work in the office too.\n\nCheers!\n\n", "Tmaxx they're at Marks its all I buy my husband for winter work now ... They sell them in both men's and women's and they're amazing. They came out last year and were always out of stock this year they're readily available. ", "In general I would recommend to stay away from synthetic fibers to limit perspiration.\n\nWarm: wool.\n\nCold: silk. ", "I never tried it but i heard putting deodorant on your feet will help. But what ive done is buy a light or medium thick wool socks. I wouldn't get heavy ones unless your outside all day. They certainly keep your feet warm as long as your moving." ]

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[ "How do you keep organic peanut butter from separating? I love organic peanut butter, but it quickly settles into an oil layer on top, delicious peanut butter in the middle, and a hard paste on the bottom.\n\nI've tried stirring it, but the stuff on the bottom is TOUGH. I usually end up only being able to eat 2/3 of the jar.\n\nHow do you get the oil at the top mixed back in with the solids on the bottom?", "How do you keep organic peanut butter from separating? I love organic peanut butter, but it quickly settles into an oil layer on top, delicious peanut butter in the middle, and a hard paste on the bottom.\n\nI've tried stirring it, but the stuff on the bottom is TOUGH. I usually end up only being able to eat 2/3 of the jar.\n\nHow do you get the oil at the top mixed back in with the solids on the bottom?", "How do you keep organic peanut butter from separating? I love organic peanut butter, but it quickly settles into an oil layer on top, delicious peanut butter in the middle, and a hard paste on the bottom.\n\nI've tried stirring it, but the stuff on the bottom is TOUGH. I usually end up only being able to eat 2/3 of the jar.\n\nHow do you get the oil at the top mixed back in with the solids on the bottom?", "How do you keep organic peanut butter from separating? I love organic peanut butter, but it quickly settles into an oil layer on top, delicious peanut butter in the middle, and a hard paste on the bottom.\n\nI've tried stirring it, but the stuff on the bottom is TOUGH. I usually end up only being able to eat 2/3 of the jar.\n\nHow do you get the oil at the top mixed back in with the solids on the bottom?" ]

[ "First, mix it as well as you can with a butter knife. Really try to scrape out the stuff from the bottom.\n\nNow you have two options:\n\n1. Store the jar in the fridge. It won't be creamy smooth, but it will remain mixed.\n2. Store the jar in a cupboard and flip it over every time you open the cupboard. It takes time for the oil to separate, and rotating the jar a couple times a day is enough to keep it mixed.", "i just recently started using that huge loud machine that is in most stores. (used to grind the peanuts right there on the spot.) If you go to a health food store, they are going to use Organic peanuts. I will never buy jarred peanut butter again. The freshest most tasty pb you'll ever have. you'll never go back to that stale crap in a jar.:)", "Try closing the lid tightly, put the jar upside down, and let it sit for a couple hours. Put it right side up right before using it", "I dump a couple of jars into a mixing bowl and mix it thoroughly with an electric mixer, put the pb back in the jars, and refrigerate." ]

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[ "Fixing Twisting Cords http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-cKupzIwqMNI/TV2MyPUmYKI/AAAAAAAADxU/xcsji8jF8lI/s1600/2011Feb15_3644.jpg\n\nCords like this getting twisted but not meant to be.", "Fixing Twisting Cords http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-cKupzIwqMNI/TV2MyPUmYKI/AAAAAAAADxU/xcsji8jF8lI/s1600/2011Feb15_3644.jpg\n\nCords like this getting twisted but not meant to be." ]

[ "Unplug the cord from both ends, lay it flat on something, then begin untwisting from the bottom up. \nNow as for prevention, get a small length of steel wire or a few paper clips and twist them around the problem length of the phone cord. This adds some rigidity and ought to stop unwanted twisting.\nAlternatively, if looks don't really matter you could pull the cord out straight. \n-", "If the cord has already developed a \"memory\" for the twisted position you will need to reset the original curl. If it's a regular cable simply wrap it around something of the desired diameter and use a blow dryer to heat it. If it's a braided cable that will be a bit more cumbersome and you might melt the braid." ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "how to get the most from disposable handwarmers when skiing (or whatever) I've found that sometimes they heat up very well, and sometimes they stay pretty cold for hours. Any tips on getting the most heat or the longest time?", "how to get the most from disposable handwarmers when skiing (or whatever) I've found that sometimes they heat up very well, and sometimes they stay pretty cold for hours. Any tips on getting the most heat or the longest time?", "how to get the most from disposable handwarmers when skiing (or whatever) I've found that sometimes they heat up very well, and sometimes they stay pretty cold for hours. Any tips on getting the most heat or the longest time?", "how to get the most from disposable handwarmers when skiing (or whatever) I've found that sometimes they heat up very well, and sometimes they stay pretty cold for hours. Any tips on getting the most heat or the longest time?" ]

[ "http://www.amazon.com/Zippo-40285-Black-Hand-Warmer/dp/B005P163YQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1356673183&sr=8-1&keywords=zippo+hand+warmer these things trump those cheap junk ones and have been used for decades. My dad had some old ones from WWII time frame.", "[Try these.](http://beprepared.com/product.asp_Q_pn_E_CW%20W500_A_name_E_HotSpot%E2%84%A2%20Reusable%20Hand%20Warmer)", "Keep usually get their heat from oxidisation, putting them somewhere airtight will use up the oxygen and then keep the contents available for continued use later.", "If you cook them in water on the hob, they *melt* and can be reused. \n\nI've not used them in years so I'm not sure if everyone already knows this? I used to be able to get 10+ uses out of them" ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Transporting Popsicles Basically I want to keep popsicles frozen as long as possible, hopefully without spending too much money.\n\nI have a cooler bag and infinite ice. I've heard dry ice might do the trick?", "Transporting Popsicles Basically I want to keep popsicles frozen as long as possible, hopefully without spending too much money.\n\nI have a cooler bag and infinite ice. I've heard dry ice might do the trick?" ]

[ "Alternately, you could freeze them IN a giant block of ice. Take a plastic container slightly smaller than your cooler bag, fill it partway with water and freeze. Lay your frozen popsicles in that, then top it off with water and freeze again. When it's solid, pack it into the cooler bag along with some salt and a blunt knife/blowtorch/ice pick... whatever tools you feel you might need that would be the most fun to help excavate the popsicles.", "You would want to use dry ice because:\n\n-It doesn't melt into a liquid. (CO2 gas instead, don't inhale if possible)\n\n-It last quite a while in a cooler that isn't opened too much.\n\n-It is much colder than water ice. (-109.3F, DON'T HANDLE WITHOUT PROTECTION)\n\n-It is used for this exact purpose everyday." ]

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[ "How to bullshit better I'm always impressed with people who can make up bullshit stories about anything on the fly. Is there a trick to doing this better?\n\n", "How to bullshit better I'm always impressed with people who can make up bullshit stories about anything on the fly. Is there a trick to doing this better?\n\n", "How to bullshit better I'm always impressed with people who can make up bullshit stories about anything on the fly. Is there a trick to doing this better?\n\n", "How to bullshit better I'm always impressed with people who can make up bullshit stories about anything on the fly. Is there a trick to doing this better?\n\n" ]

[ "When you get older and more mature, you realize that the people who bullshit like this are really just sad. So while this seems like a funny thing to do when you're young, the real people move out of this phase, and the ones who stick to this bullshit cycle get left behind and never taken seriously.", "If you want to leave a memorable impression on people, direct the conversation onto others. Give others an opportunity to talk about themselves and be interested. People will be far more invested in a discussion that involves their accomplishments and experiences. ", "If you are just looking to tell stories, read. Read some more. This will give you ideas and information to draw from. After that, use your imagination.\n\nIf you are looking to lie, well, that's another matter. Keep in mind that the truth is easier to remember than a lie; if you lie, sooner or later you will be found out; once labeled a liar, you will never be trusted again.", "Be absolutely confident in your statements. Mix in facts that most people know to be true and add in the b.s. as fluff in the same statement. \n" ]

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[ "How to get better at pronouncing complex words such as some names of medication or other scientific terms ", "How to get better at pronouncing complex words such as some names of medication or other scientific terms " ]

[ "You should learn how to pronounce and understand [Greek and Latin](https://www.learnthat.org/pages/view/roots.html) roots which comprise a large fraction of the English language. To understand medication and more technical variation, you'd best look at a Greek/Latin dictionary.", "With meds you usually stress the 3rd syllable from the end:\n\nliSINopril\n\nhydrochloroTHIazide\n\nmeTOprolol\n\nlevoFLOXacin\n\nacetaMINophen\n\nesciTALopram\n\nmeLOXicam\n\n\nThe second most common is 2nd from the end:\n\nhydroCOdone\n\nibuPROfen\n\npseudoePHEdrine\n\nmonteLUkast \n\n\nBetween the two of these you should be able to guess the majority of med names. There still are a couple exceptions (GAbapentin, aTORvaSTAtin), but this should be a good start. " ]

[ 6, 2 ]

[ "How do I apply for my dream job thats out of my league? I am a recent college grad and an entertainment company just posted an Associate's position that I would love to do. While my degree and skill set match what the job entails, I don't have the exact years of experience. It is a big company and I am afraid it is a place where you have to know someone and I am unfortunately not in that position. I need help figuring out how I can stand out.", "How do I apply for my dream job thats out of my league? I am a recent college grad and an entertainment company just posted an Associate's position that I would love to do. While my degree and skill set match what the job entails, I don't have the exact years of experience. It is a big company and I am afraid it is a place where you have to know someone and I am unfortunately not in that position. I need help figuring out how I can stand out." ]

[ "Apply anyway, usually the \"years experience\" is used to filter down the number of possible applicants.\n\nSource: I help hire people and need to use that business trick", "1. Get a cover letter ready\n2. Apply online and submit cover letter\n3. If you don't hear back in 3-5 business days, look on LinkedIn for a HR person at that company.\n4. Send InMail saying you would like to submit a cover letter with your application. \n5. Hopefully the HR person would notice and forward your resume to the hiring manager, whom will try to contact you via e-mail/phone." ]

[ 7, 4 ]

[ "How to deal with sweaty palms My prom rehearsals are coming up and the thing is, my palms tend to get sweaty whenever they shouldn't. And I kinda don't want my partner to feel this, as I doubt that is pleasant to hold a palm that's dripping with sweat. \nDo you have any tips on how to deal with it? I thought about spraying my palms with some antiperspirant, but haven't tried it yet.\nBy the way, I'm a guy if that makes any difference.", "How to deal with sweaty palms My prom rehearsals are coming up and the thing is, my palms tend to get sweaty whenever they shouldn't. And I kinda don't want my partner to feel this, as I doubt that is pleasant to hold a palm that's dripping with sweat. \nDo you have any tips on how to deal with it? I thought about spraying my palms with some antiperspirant, but haven't tried it yet.\nBy the way, I'm a guy if that makes any difference.", "How to deal with sweaty palms My prom rehearsals are coming up and the thing is, my palms tend to get sweaty whenever they shouldn't. And I kinda don't want my partner to feel this, as I doubt that is pleasant to hold a palm that's dripping with sweat. \nDo you have any tips on how to deal with it? I thought about spraying my palms with some antiperspirant, but haven't tried it yet.\nBy the way, I'm a guy if that makes any difference.", "How to deal with sweaty palms My prom rehearsals are coming up and the thing is, my palms tend to get sweaty whenever they shouldn't. And I kinda don't want my partner to feel this, as I doubt that is pleasant to hold a palm that's dripping with sweat. \nDo you have any tips on how to deal with it? I thought about spraying my palms with some antiperspirant, but haven't tried it yet.\nBy the way, I'm a guy if that makes any difference.", "How to deal with sweaty palms My prom rehearsals are coming up and the thing is, my palms tend to get sweaty whenever they shouldn't. And I kinda don't want my partner to feel this, as I doubt that is pleasant to hold a palm that's dripping with sweat. \nDo you have any tips on how to deal with it? I thought about spraying my palms with some antiperspirant, but haven't tried it yet.\nBy the way, I'm a guy if that makes any difference.", "How to deal with sweaty palms My prom rehearsals are coming up and the thing is, my palms tend to get sweaty whenever they shouldn't. And I kinda don't want my partner to feel this, as I doubt that is pleasant to hold a palm that's dripping with sweat. \nDo you have any tips on how to deal with it? I thought about spraying my palms with some antiperspirant, but haven't tried it yet.\nBy the way, I'm a guy if that makes any difference." ]

[ "I had this friend who swested like a monster in highschool whether he eating spicy food, P.E, or just holdong a pencil... everywhere surface of skin would sweat excessively. My french teacher recommended him to apply a tiny bit of baby powder on his palms and he said it seemed to have work for short periods of time.", "Very sweaty hands also plague me as well. I saw some thing on YouTube for this dealing with magnetism and water. Worth a try I guess, also try putting on some lotion or some rubbing alcohol on your hands. Do these methods before prom to test out their effectiveness and wear clothing similar to your suit as you may sweat more when fully clothed. If worse comes to worse, try rubbing on a small amount of deodorant on your hands. Best of luck pal, have fun!", "Keep a pocket sized Germ-X and a hanky. If your hands are sweaty, wipe your hands with the napkin/tissue then apply the germ-x. Doing things vice versa should also be effective.", "I have the same problem. If i don't want my palms to sweat, i would make sure i drink no coffee/caffiene, stay laid back, no emotional blasts or stress ", "Get a prescription for hypercare. It's a liquid that you put on at bedtime, and wash off in the morning. It's done wonders for me.", "I have this same problem as well. This has caused various uncomfortable social experiences. This can either be stress or a condition known as hyperhidrosis. It can also be a combination of both. There are various measures to combat this, I would suggest looking online through reputable health sources, for more detailed info. But from my personal experience I used both m" ]

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[ "Storing veggies I live alone and any time I buy veggies, they go bad before I can use the whole thing. Whats the best way to store common sliced veggies and how long do they keep? (Lettuce, Tomatoes, Onions..)", "Storing veggies I live alone and any time I buy veggies, they go bad before I can use the whole thing. Whats the best way to store common sliced veggies and how long do they keep? (Lettuce, Tomatoes, Onions..)", "Storing veggies I live alone and any time I buy veggies, they go bad before I can use the whole thing. Whats the best way to store common sliced veggies and how long do they keep? (Lettuce, Tomatoes, Onions..)", "Storing veggies I live alone and any time I buy veggies, they go bad before I can use the whole thing. Whats the best way to store common sliced veggies and how long do they keep? (Lettuce, Tomatoes, Onions..)", "Storing veggies I live alone and any time I buy veggies, they go bad before I can use the whole thing. Whats the best way to store common sliced veggies and how long do they keep? (Lettuce, Tomatoes, Onions..)", "Storing veggies I live alone and any time I buy veggies, they go bad before I can use the whole thing. Whats the best way to store common sliced veggies and how long do they keep? (Lettuce, Tomatoes, Onions..)" ]

[ "tomatoes should be kept out of the fridge. They taste better. I store onions out of the fridge, ad they keep good for awhile. \n\n\n", "http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/y00w2/lpt_how_to_properly_store_produce/\n\nSaved this a while ago, could be of some use.", "excellent question! my only solution so far is to buy those special plastic bags that have some magic in them that helps food stay fresher longer. they're about 5 bucks at my local grocery store for a pack of maybe 10 bags, and so far so good. reusable too!", "The best way is to store them in a container that the veggies do not touch water. Tupperware has great specific containers for veggies/lettuce that allow water to pool under the veggies so they aren't sitting right in the water (worth the investment in my opinion). They last a lot longer this way (lettuce can last up to a few weeks). Watch the reddit video in this section about removing the core of the lettuce. Plastic wrap locks in the moisture and it sits in it so it makes the veggies soggy almost immediately. I'm sure if you don't want to invest in Tupperware, then you can make something that holds the veggies outside of the water they release. This also works for fruit as well - especially melons that can get pretty gross if they sit in their juice. There are some veggies (celery, asparagus) that need to be stored in water. Just stand them up in some container in the fridge like a plant. I'm sure my husband is going to love that I am posting this under his account. Ha. He has a geek reputation to uphold ;)", "Put a paper towel in with your lettuce, and don't prep more than you need at once. I keep mine in large zipper bags (usually gallon sized) and put a dry paper towel in with the lettuce.", "I may be off here but wouldnt canning them be the best way to keep them fresh. My grandma would can about enough for a meal in each can and from what I hear they can last for up to a year like this. On my phone or I'd find a link." ]

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[ "How to de-waterlog a book I am reading a book my school gave me, and it got wet in the rain. Now the pages are very fat and the book does not close properly. How can I get the book to go back to normal??", "How to de-waterlog a book I am reading a book my school gave me, and it got wet in the rain. Now the pages are very fat and the book does not close properly. How can I get the book to go back to normal??", "How to de-waterlog a book I am reading a book my school gave me, and it got wet in the rain. Now the pages are very fat and the book does not close properly. How can I get the book to go back to normal??", "How to de-waterlog a book I am reading a book my school gave me, and it got wet in the rain. Now the pages are very fat and the book does not close properly. How can I get the book to go back to normal??" ]

[ "I've had some success putting slightly damp books in a freezer bag and then in a freezer. The water freezes out and you have to brush off the ice crystals when you take them out, then you can do it over again and again to get all the water out.\n\nAnother method is to use an iron, just open the book to the first page and put a paper towel down over the page. Iron it dry then move on to the next page -- always remember the paper towel because you can go from dry paper to fire really quickly without it.\n\nIf you're really desperate, you can remove the binding and separate the pages to smooth and dry them individually, usually hanging individual pages up to dry works better than a blow drier or anything else. Then you can iron them like I described above and glue the pages back in.", "I've read that by placing a paper towel over the page and ironing it on the lowest or 'silk' setting will help to flatten them again, but you need to be careful not to light it on fire, or you're really screwed.", "You could also try burying it in a box of rice. The rice will absorb the moisture. You'll have to cycle the rice a few times to get it all.", "Why not microwave it on low settings for a short time? Just to warm it up and let the steam escape, maybe a few cycles of microwaves then fanning\nOr put it in the oven but at low temperature (37-50).\n\nNever tried it, just a guess." ]

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[ "Keeping a door shut that doesn't have a lock I'm away on vacation for a few days and learned the hotel I'm staying at has no locks on the doors. Now the bathroom I'm using is connected to my Newfew's room who has a habit of charging in. I'm wondering if there's a way that I can keep the door shut while I'm using the restroom without him getting in.", "Keeping a door shut that doesn't have a lock I'm away on vacation for a few days and learned the hotel I'm staying at has no locks on the doors. Now the bathroom I'm using is connected to my Newfew's room who has a habit of charging in. I'm wondering if there's a way that I can keep the door shut while I'm using the restroom without him getting in.", "Keeping a door shut that doesn't have a lock I'm away on vacation for a few days and learned the hotel I'm staying at has no locks on the doors. Now the bathroom I'm using is connected to my Newfew's room who has a habit of charging in. I'm wondering if there's a way that I can keep the door shut while I'm using the restroom without him getting in.", "Keeping a door shut that doesn't have a lock I'm away on vacation for a few days and learned the hotel I'm staying at has no locks on the doors. Now the bathroom I'm using is connected to my Newfew's room who has a habit of charging in. I'm wondering if there's a way that I can keep the door shut while I'm using the restroom without him getting in." ]

[ "Get a rubber door stop and just plug into the door. Had to do this in college cause our rent house had crappy locks and I had jerks for roomates.\n\nex:\nhttp://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_12?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=rubber+door+stop&sprefix=rubber+door+%2Caps%2C145", "there are several kinds of \"travel locks\" [this is my favourite](http://www.ebay.com/itm/NEW-BOLT-A-DOOR-Portable-Security-Device-in-original-packaging-/300909847533) because its small and flys well my [second choice](http://www.amazon.com/Buddybar-10311-Door-Jammer/dp/B002BQ4VBU/ref=pd_sim_sbs_k_16) because its strong as heck but it doesn't fly well ", "Have a \"Do not disturb sign\" on his side of the door while you are in. Or is he charging in on purpose?", "Anything that pushes the door up, or down. If you put a wooden wedge at the top outside corner of the door then the person on the outside can not push it away from the door and open it regardless.\nYou do have to push it in quite hard though." ]

[ 6, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Can you iron a dress shirt on a higher setting than the label says? My 100% cotton t-shirt shows a 1 dot iron on the label and the wrinkles are not really coming out on this low setting. I normally use the max setting with steam for cotton...", "Can you iron a dress shirt on a higher setting than the label says? My 100% cotton t-shirt shows a 1 dot iron on the label and the wrinkles are not really coming out on this low setting. I normally use the max setting with steam for cotton...", "Can you iron a dress shirt on a higher setting than the label says? My 100% cotton t-shirt shows a 1 dot iron on the label and the wrinkles are not really coming out on this low setting. I normally use the max setting with steam for cotton...", "Can you iron a dress shirt on a higher setting than the label says? My 100% cotton t-shirt shows a 1 dot iron on the label and the wrinkles are not really coming out on this low setting. I normally use the max setting with steam for cotton...", "Can you iron a dress shirt on a higher setting than the label says? My 100% cotton t-shirt shows a 1 dot iron on the label and the wrinkles are not really coming out on this low setting. I normally use the max setting with steam for cotton..." ]

[ "When in doubt iron the item on a higher setting through a pressing cloth, such as a cotton pillow case, etc.", "Rewash the shirt and don't dry it. Iron it while damp. Wrinkles will be gone and the creases you want will be permanent.", "Yes. Increase the heat little by little so you don't burn the shirt.\n\nKeep moving your iron. Don't let it sit on your shirt.\n\nDampen the shirt or spritz it with some water to get wrinkels out.\n\nUse a wet cloth in between your iron and your shirt, you can turn the iron up to the hottest setting and will not damage your shirt.\n\nTry out new settings and tricks on the hem of your shirt. That part goes in your pants anyways, so if something doesn't work out it isn't as desastrous.", "Too hot of a setting will scorch the fabric. It won't burn but it gets shiny. Someone suggested a spritz bottle. You can also get spray starch.", "It isn't about using a higher setting.\n\n\nAfter using steam over an area, change your setting to \"dry\" (no steam) and go over the same area. Do this combination -- steam then no steam -- for every section. You are drying the water left by the steam, and taking out the wrinkles!" ]

[ 4, 4, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? 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Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. 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I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n", "How can I be more confidence when I talk English? Hi, I'm a 40 years old woman and I'm Korean. I don't think many people know Korea. In my country, all students have learned English for about 10 years from elementary school to high school. I learned English also when I was a student, but I don't think I can speak English. Now I've tried to learn English again since last year. Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes. I had a few chances to talk with someone who talk English, but I was so nervous and I couldn't say anything in the end. What if they tease me or ignore me? I want to be more confident. And I wonder your thought if you conversate with someone like me. Thank you for reading even though this is not good.\n\n" ]

[ "Hey thanks for posting! I can definitely understand your English clearly. Honestly, practice makes perfect here.\n\nIf you want to improve your English and gain confidence you need to spend time using the language. Generally people appreciate the fact you are trying to learn their language because we all know how tough it is to learn a new language.", "You can start by saying that you are practicing your english. That way you wont have to worry about making mistakes because the other person would be expecting it.\n\nAlso if there is anyone who would tease you because of your mistakes or accent isn't worth your time anyways. \n\nAlso dont be afraid of making those mistakes. Its how we learn and i feel it the way we learn best. \n\nDont be scared. Make those mistakes. Eventually you will get it right and you will make friends.", "I can tell you right now anyone who teases you is not someone worth talking to. \n\nAnyone with an ounce of empathy would absolutely understand if you happen to mentioned that English isn’t your first language. \n\nI’ve worked in kitchens with language barriers and it’s about working together to communicate. I personally find it fascinating, I get to learn a little bit and so do they. \n\nYou will always be your worst critic, confidence comes from you. Best of luck!", "You are perfectly clear in your writing, but I can tell that it's not your primary language. I think it's fascinating to talk with people who are still learning English because they often say perfectly logical things that are just always said a totally different way just because of nothing more than tradition, and then I realize how silly it is that it's not said that way already. It can take a second to fully understand what was said just because I actually have to think about the real concept and not just habitually pass it through my mind as a known symbol. It can be refreshing to see things a new way like that.", "there's an app callee Hello Talk where you can meet people around the world who want to practice a language through a language exchange! you might be able to help someone learn Korean while you learn and feel more comfortable with English :)", "Your English is beautiful. I have no trouble understanding your writing, which is the hardest part of English language. Your English may not be perfect but it is actually better than some native English speakers! As for gaining confidence, keep practicing.", "This is for real: get yourself a third drunk. It works! You’ll be speaking quite better.\n\nYou know why?\n\nYour inhibitions will kind of disappear because of the effects of the alcohol. That’s why people do crazy stuff when drunk they wouldn’t do otherwise when sober.\n\nI don’t mean that you have to be drunk to speak English but it will be a reminder that you actually CAN do it.\n\nShyness is the first thing that disappears when drinking.\n\nI know for a fact; while I was a teenager I couldn’t speak English at all when sober but then pour a couple of stiff ones and I would speak kind of good, much better than sober.\n\nAll you really have to do is prove it to yourself and you’ll build confidence in no time!\n\n", "As someone who taught languages for 30 years, here are my suggestions.\n1) for writing turn on spell/grammar check and consider Grammarly… I like it because each week it will tell you which mistakes you make most often.\n2) Start listening to music, watching tv, etc in English and consider using fun apps like Lyrics Training… this will help with a lot of idiomatic expressions and be fun. \n3) I would suggest apps but based on your written level I would say you are at at least the intermediate high, B1 level so perhaps finding a friend to speak English with each week \n4 ) Bookend your day with English if you do something in English right before bed and then wake up listening to English radio that will have your brain working on the language 12 hours a day. \n5) this might sound weird but rehearse what you might want to say ahead of time… out loud… sometimes recording it. This will help you feel more comfortable. \n\n6) Note and look up sounds that are different and words that people don’t understand when you speak them. Then listen over and over to the difference between how you say it and how the native speaker says it until you hear that difference.\n\ngood luck!\n\n6)", "Your English is good! I will say most importantly (from experience of still overcoming it myself) is to let go of the embarrassment or fear of messing up. That’s what will stop you and hold you back from truly conquering the goal of communicating. You learn from your mistakes, so be easy on yourself. You didn’t learn Korean overnight, so be gentle with yourself as you improve your English. Immersion is important as you learn, so watching movies/shows (if you can without subtitles), music, books, podcasts, and most importantly speaking with others. There’s an app called tandem for language exchange and maybe there’s this event called Mundolingo (also for language exchange) held where you live. I wish you the best on this journey and give yourself cr", "Your written English is better than a lot of native speakers. I didn’t see any mistakes and the only thing that might mark you as a non-native is that your sentences were all somewhat short.\n\nI would find a service that pairs people who are trying to learn languages for casual conversations (I know they exist but I don’t know the names of any). Good luck!", "In order to be confident with your English you have to keep doing it until you're used to it. Basically keep speaking and writing in English until you feel it's natural for you to do so. It will take some time obviously but you'll get there. \n\nRead a book and understand the words in it, the same with listening to music. It's all about practice and understanding. People are very understanding to those who don't speak English properly, and they're usually patient. Yes there will be those who will make fun of you, but that's not everyone. \n\nIt took me years until I became fluent in English, more than my own native language. Just using it on a daily basis will make it feel natural and you just begin to speak it more clearly and confidently. Don't be ashamed of mistakes you'll make when you speak, it happens to everyone.", "Your English is very good and I have only a minor correction which I will get to in a bit. Like other users have said, talk to other people in English. Personally I also hold fake conversations where I'm translating into a different language (in my case, Spanish). Listening to music can also help a good deal. Try finding English songs with the lyrics written out in both English and Korean (this helped me unintentionally learn some basic German). I hope these help.\n\nThe correction: one does not *talk* language, one *speaks* language. This might be confusing especially since I can't explain why one is more correct than the other and you can also *talk to someone in a language*. Language is very nuanced. Either way, my friend, I wish you luck in your language learning adventures!", "Watch TV shows that are in English, read books in English and you will get better understanding of how to speak and use English, variations, verbs, tempo, and cadence, accents, all come from observation, listening and frequent use.. Good Luck.!!", "This post is better than many native English speakers could write! You are already doing very well. A friend of mine found it helpful to watch TV and films made for kids, maybe try that. But again, you’re already very good!", "I've moved to Korea about 1.5 years ago and I can assure you that at least your written English is better than 90% of my coworkers English. Obviously there is a difference between written and spoken English.\n\nThe thing is that most of people who speak english outside of the countries where English is the main language speak poor english, but the funny thing is that it's much easier to understand them compared to native speakers who speak fast and use a lot of fill words, etc.\n\nJust find other non native English speakers and I assure you you won't have any problems having conversations with them. It might be difficult the first couple of times but you get used to it.\n\nI personally have never seen people making fun of other peoples English, but if they do they're just rude and poorly educated and probably only know one language unlike you.", "I was an English teacher for three years at a hagwon (학원) in 보령.\n\nYou have the same problem as many of my former students. Excellent writing, but you only lack confidence in conversation. It just takes practice and repetition. Make a friend, practice with them.", "A good tip to help with English (or any language) is to watch the news on television. The way it is worded is so many people can understand and they will speak more clearly than people just chatting\n\nAlso watch movies and shows with subtitles so you can see words as they are being said also", ">Actually, I'm not sure if you can understand my writing. I guess this is filled with so many mistakes\n\nIt's fine. You do have some mistakes, but they are not big ones and don't make you any less understandable to someone who is fluent.\n\n>What if they tease me or ignore me?\n\nIf you met a non-Korean who was learning to speak Korean, would you tease or ignore them? Assuming you're a nice person then probably not. The same thing goes the other way.\n\nMost of my colleagues are not English native speakers, and the only thing that's on my mind if I consider their speaking ability is \"I wish I was that good at a second language\". Because here's the secret: These days most non-English-native speakers learn enough English to get by, but most English native speakers only know English because we've rarely if ever been in a situation where the other person didn't understand enough English to get by.", "저도 한국 사람인데요, 외국에 살다와서 느낀점은 처음에발음에 신경을 너무 많이 쓰지 않는게 좋아요. 발음이 조금 이상하다고 창피해 하시지 마시고, 일단 내용 전달에 요점을 두면 이따가 이해 못한 부분을 물어보면 다시 설명하면 되요. 그리고 발음을 키우시고 싶으시면, 원어민 수준은 안되더라도 영어 방송을 보시거나 영어 오디오북을 듣는것을 추천해요. 중요한 발음 힌트가 거기에 많이 나와요. 지금 영어실력은 나쁘지 않다고 생각해요. 화이팅 ^^", "잘 하셨네요! 저는 연세한국어학당에서 한국어를 공부했는데, 많이 읽고, 많이 듣고, 많이 말해서 연습했습니다. 실수를 많이 했고 자주 바보처럼 느꼈는데, 계속 계속 연습해서 돌아왔을떼는 더 잘 하게 되었습니다. \n\n느낌이 나프도 무서워도 싫어도 지뤄도 매일 매일 연습하면 꼭 잘 하게 되겠습니다! 화이팅!!", "watch sitcoms and cartoons in english. you can learn standard phrasings this way. \n\nask coworkers or friends if they like to do english speaking friday afternoon (or any other time)", "the best piece of advice i can give you is to practice using it in your day to day life. practice speaking in english, either by yourself or conversing with others. your english is great so far! dont give up", "You’re doing a great job so far!keep up the good work.I once had to learn to speak again,I listened to records and watched tv.I also had conversations with my dog,unfortunately he never replied back but I feel like it helped.another trick is to read everything you can find,out loud,over time your confidence will grow.good luck my friend you got this", "You’re English is amazing. I know you must have agonized over it, but you’re great. I work with many science educated Koreans, Chinese, Europeans…many of them could not write this well! But they have a reason to believe in themselves…they’re scientists! When they make a mistake they can say: “I’m still smart. I’m a scientist!” It sounds like you can’t say that. So let me say this: you are doing great! You’re smart, you work hard, and anyone would be lucky to practice with you.”", "Your written English is at least as good as mine and I'm a native English speaker. You've expressed yourself perfectly.", "Your writing is quite clear, don't put so much pressure on yourself since you are still learning it. People around you should appreciate your effort and the fact that you are willing to learn and improve your English.\n\nTo improve your vocabulary I would suggest to read a lot, as much as you can in English. Set all your devices (phone, computer, tv...) in English. Basically try to surround yourself as much as possible with English and soon you'll find your vocabulary growing.\n\nFor speaking it's important to do it without fear of judgement. And also to speak a lot. Exercise is key to improvent. If possible find a friend that knows some English, or a learning group where you could pair up with other English student(s). When you have a speaking partener you feel safe and confortable with you could try to do some speaking exercises (you can find such exercises on the internet, maybe look for ESOL/Cambridge exam practice exercises). Or you could try to simply speak with someone in English as much as possible. \n\nWhen I was in school I had a good friend that also wanted to improve his speaking and we did a bet: we both had to speak to each other only in English for one month. At the end of the month, the one who made the most 'mistakes' had to buy the other one an ice-cream. During this bet/exercise we did not focus at all on grammar or pronunciation mistakes, the only thing we would 'penalize' (or count as a mistake) was speaking in our native language. So who spoke English the most won at the end. Something like this would 'force' you to practice and expand your vocabulary.\n\nAnd I also have to add what my highschool English teacher would say when we were reluctant in speaking exercises: \"you have to speak as much as possible. If you don't have a personal opinion to add to the topic/debate, just say something general about the topic that is being discussed\". We used to do a lot of speaking exercises with this teacher and many of them used to be based on pictures (we had to describe what we see in the photo; or we had to compare two pictures saying what is similar and what is different in them). When we, the students, would complain that we don't know anything on that topic, or we don't know what is displayed in a picture of the exercise she would simply tell us to invent something, or just lie. This teacher I still admire would ask us: \"are you gonna fail your exam just because the picture on the exam day will show something you are not familiar with? What if you are asked to describe your last summer holiday in the exam when you did not go anywhere in the previous year? Don't just tell the examinators that you did not go on holiday and wait until the time for that exercise passes because they clearly won't give you a good/passing grade. Say anything, lie, invent, but try to talk as much as possible. The people grading you are there to examine your English skills, not to check if you actually went there last summer\". Yeah, it's strange to hear a teacher saying you have to lie and invent stuff, but this helped many of my school colleagues talk more.", "Your writing is better than some native speakers. Keep practicing and you will get it. Some people may tease but don’t allow their ignorance to stop you.", "Your post has some very minor mistakes but it is very easy to tell what you’re saying and honestly you make fewer mistakes than many English natives I know. Reading books that you already like in English can be a huge help when trying to expand vocabulary and figure out proper sentence structure and word tenses. Good luck!", "Your English is really great. You didn't really make any mistakes - your writing is very careful and formal, but correct. Please remember that many English speakers are Americans - that is, people used to understanding hundreds of accents (including Korean), being patient, and listening carefully. You are very unlikely to be teased or ignored.", "Your English is great. We English are (usually) rubbish at learning other languages, as so many non-native speakers are as good as you, so make it easy for us to be lazy. \n\n\nFor example, I'm English, with a Swedish wife. We have been together for almost twenty years. My Swedish isn't anywhere near as good as your English. \n\n\nAs for people knowing Korea, that's rapidly changing. I enjoy Korean films. My sons know about K-Pop bands, and my ten-year-old says kimchi is his favourite food. We're thinking about having a family trip to Seoul in the next couple of years.", "Your English is great, but if you want to talk more confidently but not feeling confident, maybe watch lots of English films/drama on tv. You’ll be able to pick up words and manners that a tutor/class wouldn’t be able to. Good luck!", "Your English is excellent. It’s true that you won’t sound American, or British, or the same as whoever you’re speaking with, but your writing is very clear and easy to understand. If any English speaker makes fun of you, it’s bc they’re a small-minded racist bag of crap, not because of you or how you speak.\n\n", "Your English is already good enough to communicate with foreigners. \nAnd you know what? Actually, a lot of people might not mind you making mistakes. So keep up the good work!", "You're doing amazing! I can completely understand what you are saying in your post. You're already able to make full paragraphs and have people understand you! Never be ashamed that you are learning. Most people who speak English don't know more than one language and you do. I wish you luck, stay strong!!!", "You need to practice by talking to people who are fluent speakers of English. You can also practice your English by watching English-language films with Korean subtitles or Korean films with English subtitles, as they will both help you compare the different ways in which sentences are constructed.\n\nThere will be many people who would be very glad to help you, and do not pay attention to anyone who might be unkind to you. They are not worth your attention. \nDo not feel ashamed or embarrassed about your English, learning another language is very hard, and you are doing very well.", "You can write in English very well! The best way to feel confident about speaking a language is to do it all the time. When watching TV, repeat what the characters say. When reading, read out loud to yourself. Having conversations with others will help you get better, and everyone understands the challenge of learning a new language. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.", "You can certainly write in English! Your writing is pretty good!\n\nEnglish has SO many different accents, especially for being such an international language. Unless you say something really funny, I doubt that people will laugh at you. They won't ignore you, for sure. \n\nEnglish is not my first language, but I feel pretty confident with it, I guess. As other people said, practice makes perfect. Watch movies and tv shows in English. Use the language as often as you can. And don't worry so much for now about speaking perfect English, I've seen many native speakers who have an atrocious grasp of their own language!", "You can ask people to practice with you. It's also important to remember that native speakers of English have absolutely no clue. They do not care about grammar structure, or minor pronunciation issues, or even cadence. English is so lazy that you can even substitute synonyms and still be understood.\n\nIt's also interesting to learn English in English, and there are plenty of ESL (English as a Second Language) videos on YouTube.", "You are making some minor mistakes, but your sentences are perfectly understandable. Confidence will come from practice. If you run l into somebody rude, just remember that you probably speak English far better than they speak Korean and speaking two languages is a skill to be proud of.", "While not perfect, your post was perfectly understandable. \n\nI think you are a lot further along than you think you are. Maybe see if you can find some meet up groups in your area where you can practice speaking English in a safe space. \n\nMaybe you could look for students who are looking to learn Korean who would help coach you on your English in exchange. \n\nEither way, keep going. You can achieve anything you put your mind to. It just takes hard work and dedication.", "Watch tv shows and movies in English.. if it helps use Korean subtitles (or English ones as you get more comfortable) to help you with words you don’t know. This helps a lot with getting used to conversational phrases and you just hearing the language more often helps tremendously.", "Very few English speakers know how to speak perfectly. Everybody makes mistakes, and your writing is probably equal or better than the average person in countries where English/American is the primary language", "Try to replicate a specific dialect. Try to analyse why americans talk the way they do. It helps to feel the language. Irs not only about practice and theory. Try to get rid of obvious foreign pronunciation if possible", "Try hello talk I have been helping people to learn English and French on this app and your English is perfectly understandable", "This may sound weird, but I love when foreign people speak English. I love their confidence and bravery. I also know a little French and was too scared to speak it to another person. Don't let that stop you. If anyone is going to judge you for trying to speak another language then they are not any kind of human being you want to associate with.", "This may be an uncommon suggestion. Find an online community regarding a topic that interests you. I play role playing games (Dungeons & Dragons) with people from many different backgrounds. Most also studied English in school, but have become much more proficient through the casual practice of chatting with others for a few hours at a time.\n\nThey don’t speak perfect English, but neither do the native English speakers! It’s fun to help work through when they can’t think of the English word or aren’t familiar with one used, and I’ve never, ever seen anyone teasing someone about it. Honestly, I’m always impressed with their ability to play a speaking-focused game in a small group.\n\nWe use voice chat through an application called Discord. It’s basically a group call that people can join or leave anytime. Fun, free, and there are a huge number of communities for everything you can imagine. Hobbies, identity, etc.", "This is a great question!\n\nFirst I want to talk about your lack of confidence - it's normal and it's okay! It's hard as an adult to put yourself in a situation where you know you're going to make mistakes, but every language learner goes through this.\n\nThere are lots of online classes available at all sorts of prices, and there are language exchange apps like Tandem that are free and full of people learning languages.\n\nYou probably already know about duolingo, too. It's not good for speaking but it can help you build your confidence. I've also heard of, but not used, Elsa. It's an app to correct your pronunciation, but I don't know if it's any good or if it costs much.\n\nAs for your post: yes, you made mistakes but I could easily understand everything you were saying, which is a fantastic foundation. My Spanish is far worse than your English, I promise you!", "There's actually nothing wrong with your writing, but I know that writing and speaking are two completely different things. Hell, even writing and listening are completely different. Because listening you can do passively unlike speaking which requires you to actively speak out the words/phrases. \n\nThe best way to do this is to find someone who has a good level of English but wants to learn Korean, so you can have conversations together and ease yourself into actively speaking and listening together.", "There is nothing wrong with your English. Also confidence comes from experience.\n\nI am one of only two native English speakers in a research group working in Denmark and our only common language is Danish.\n\nMy colleagues and I are close enough that they can come to me and our resident Englishman with questions about language. I freely admit that English is a strange language with lots of strange expressions and rules. \n\nOn top of that there are lots of quirks to the use of English which can only be picked up from experience as they are not taught in any classroom. Find a kind hearted English speaker and spend as much time as you can practising with them.\n\nCarry on", "The thing with English is no one speaks it well, except Morgan Freeman. I have had friends from Spanish speaking countries, and what helped them is to slow down their natural speech speed.", "The most important thing is to just start talking in English. People will know what you mean. If they do not understand they will ask you to say it another way and you will get even more practice. :)", "The fact that I understood your message clearly (even with the small mistakes) means that they will understand you while speaking. Don't worry, even if your English sounds a bit broken, people will pay close attention to what you are saying, and they can usually understand what you are trying to say from the context of your conversation.", "Taught in Korea for years and first thing is don't be afraid to make mistakes... Just speak and little by little learn more grammar. Don't use a book as your primary tool, speak! There are lots of resources in Korea but it's crucial to actually start talking to people. Koreans are the reverse of Americans IMO, Americans learn 50 words in a foreign language and put that language on their resumes... As I'm fluent in X. Koreans learn 5000 English words and say the can't speak English. Personally I think both should take a page out of each other's books. And Koreans should maybe take 2 pages out of the Americans. Get out there and make mistakes and be proud of yourself for your bravery.", "Talk to elderly people, they love to talk and you can practice your language too. And then just keep talking", "TL;DR : PLEASE DO speak english! I would never mock you and I actually suffered from this lack of confidence from people in Korea.\n\nHello! I am a European who spent 6 months as an exchange student in KAIST and every Koreans I met would probably relate 100%. And actually, it was a huge problem to me: I was unable to make any Korean friend. And I tried though! For instance, I went to these board games party to meet some and none of them would speak to me. The first evening I went, one guy was doing the intermediate for 3-4 other guys who would not dare to speak. The second time, they just handed me one game and told me to go play with the other Europeans... I didn't go a third time...\n\nIn fact, I would never have mocked any of them, and I would have genuinely loved to talk to any of them no matter how bad their English were. I am French and at the time not very good speaker either, but the point of knowing a language, even partially, is to engage with others. What the point otherwise? In the end, them being ashamed of their abilities was much more frustrating and annoying than if they had tried.\n\nWhen I ended up alone on the campus (staying over the summer for an internship, all English-speaking students being gone), I would have craved for anybody to try to talk to me...\n\nLastly, one change of perspective : how would you feel if somebody barely speaking Korean was at least trying to communicate, no matter how poorly they speak? I only knew 3 words in Korean : hello, thank you and bye. And it felt each time it was a happy surprise to them and people treated me with respect. In the market, I would just say those three words and use my hands the rest of the time and it seemed people appreciated. Wouldn't you feel the same?\n\nPS : your english is really good, barely any mistake (which I guess I do too...)\n\n", "Start talking with a “Southern” accent. This throw people off enough where they will give you time formulate your thoughts.\n\nAlso it is quite common in the United States to repeat yourself a second time, slower and louder, when talking to someone who uses a foreign accent.", "Something that people who don't speak English as a first language don't realize it's how often English speakers encounter non-native speakers. Even in our movies people like Jackie Chan can become superstars. Learning to hear through accents or bad grammar is normal for strong speakers. All this to say, your English is no where near bad or something you need to be concerned about, just practice.", "Smile. Reduce filler words: um, ah, like. That is it. You speak more than one language and others may only speak English. Just be confident.", "Simple start thinking inside your head in English. Even tho you can't speak a certain accent your inside voice can so just focus on that. It's to talk in English whilst thinking in some other language", "Reach out to your local high schools ( secondary schools) and see if they have students who are either getting ready to go on an exchange year, there from an English speaking country or recently returned from an exchange year. Any of them would love the chance to speak English with you.\nWe've hosted teenagers from other countries and they are excited when getting ready to return home to show off how well they speak English.", "Play English video games from historical eras, it'll introduce you to a lot of new \nWords and the places/situations/sentences they are used in \n\nI learned from playing a medieval English game called RuneScape.", "Not sure if this works but you can give it a try. You can watch children's movies like Barbie, or Disney, or other kids' shows. They speak more slowly and clearly than regular American/English films, plus you can get the hang of the grammar and sentence structures. Once you think, you've improved, you can watch other tv shows to improve your English.", "My mom is english second language and she gets embarrassed speaking english because she feels people will mock her accent. I tell her to just use her language skills no matter what the other person thinks, I find it admirable that someone will have the determination to learn a second language just to be able to communicate more effectively. Keep practicing and there's always going to be negative people but there's enough good people that will appreciate the effort.", "My best friend moved to America in 2nd grade from Korea. I didn't meet him until 6th grade but he has told me when he first came over kids made fun of him for his accent and pronunciations and grammar. My point is, some people will make fun of you, but try not to be discouraged! It is hard to learn a language later in life! I am sure your English will be better than 95% of any English speakers Korean you meet!", "My best advice is to just go for it. Just talk to people, you are going to trip up and mix up your words but that’s just a natural part of communication. Those mistakes are usually amplified in our own minds but the person we are talking with probably isn’t too focused on it.", "Just remember that you are not alone. Others around the same age range are also in your same situation. There are a ton of ways to learn and receive help, and plenty of people who would love to help. The more you practice and apply it in situations, the easier it will become. Don't worry about what others think, as this will benefit you in the long run.\n\nOne of the things that may help in public is using your hands to make gestures to accompany what you're saying, to describe certain things when speaking in English, a sort of a visual aid. You should see if you could find a correspondence or someone who is good at English so you can meet up and practice your conversations, as well as any public interactions you are not sure how to handle in English. The language is always evolving, so it is okay if you make mistakes. \n\nHappy practicing!", "Just know that English is the best language to speak in a broken way and still get your point across! Many people all over the world speak 'a bit of English', and most people in the English-speaking world don't have a second language. Soo.. native speakers are used to it, and are very familiar with the different 'broken' dialects (Russian English has no articles, East Asian English tends to replace 'r' sounds with 'w' or 'l' etc.). Because of that practice, we'll probably pick up your meaning a lot easier than you would if an English person tried to speak Korean. So don't worry and just try it out!", "Just dress nicely and flirt with them, they won't even notice your broken English. I'd say probably 60-80% us/English citizens wouldn't care if you're English was bad.", "I’ve heard other people mention that watching movies with your current language as subtitles helps. For example, watch it in English but with Korean subtitles, it seems to help with pronunciation and inflection. \n\nGood luck and keep at it!", "I’m a 41-year old office worker father with a wife and two daughters. It's been about two years since I started learning English and I only knew the alpha\r \nbet then because I was never interested in English.\r \n\r \nI thought about my family, I had to be concerned about our future.\r \nSo I decided to learn English for my career and I'm trying my best consistently.\r \n\r \nAt first, it was really difficult to study but I didn’t think of it as studying and I tried to make it like my hobby and habit. So I’ve been having fun with English and like it more than I used to.\r \n\r \nI think the most important thing when I learn something is to make it a hobby. I still can't speak English very well but I enjoy and love it. When I think of 2 years ago once in a while, I’ve become a completely different person.", "It’ll probably help your confidence to know that many (maybe most) of the people in the US don’t speak a second language at all. So compared to the average person here, by even beginning to speak a second language, you’re already doing better than most ever do.", "It takes confidence and bravery to attempt to speak in another language so you've already won half the battle (and an award)! Your written English is understandable and a great plaform to build on.\n\nI can see people have mentioned online resources and apps to help. See if there are like minded groups in your area that are learning English and join them. Otherwise, watching TV in the language you want to learn can be helpful, for example news reports.\n\nMost people will appreciate you trying to learn another language however, unfortunately there are always a few who tease, don't take notice of people like that. Keep on practicing, and don't feel embarrassed if you make mistakes, it's a part of the learning process. Good luck!", "Is there a Korean tv show that you like? Sometimes they use English voice actors to do the English version of the show. That could help you improve your English as you already know the show and it would be easier to understand.", "In high school debate, they ask you to practice your speeches with a pen in your mouth to help enunciation \n\nhttps://youtu.be/iRKXOtwcDzI", "I've been teaching English to adults in Korea over 20 years and can understand your frustration. The Korean education system focuses on test scores and avoids conversational practice, creating a very competitive environment leading to a lack of confidence and a great deal of shame when you make mistakes. As an ESL lecturer I wasn't teaching English as much as I was trying to instill confidence in my University students.\nRead fiction books that you enjoy, listen to English music that you like, watch movies and tv, make mistakes, most of all be friendly and remember that conversation is communication. When you are speaking and listening to another person you're creating a relationship. You can ask them for help, to repeat, if they understand, or to speak slower. As a 40-year-old you are probably not interested in asking about favorite colors, foods, weather, and so on. Your ideas and opinions are complex and various. People communicate generally to share these complex ideas and not to tell each other how great our language abilities are. Trust in yourself, express yourself, and enjoy yourself. Remember that you are speaking to learn, not learning to speak.", "I would suggest watching an American sitcom and mimicking the way the words that are said.\n\nThe longer and more ‘broad’ (look for sitcoms targetted towards a broad range of ages with plenty of characters to choose from then pick ‘one’ is my suggestion)the more ‘natural’ your voice will be towards normal use English words.\n\nOne of my classmates in the past sounded ‘exactly’ like Hannah Montana. I couldn’t even tell she was a local from the Philippines and not from the USA…until words not commonly used in Hannah Montana were spoken. 😄. It took me a while to place it, the mimicry was spot on…\n\nYour written English is a little choppy, but that is normal with people who transition from an Asian language to English in my experience. \n\nLong running sitcoms are the answer to that flow issue and will solve any anxiety issues you have about speaking with others.\n\nThough you definitely should get feedback via a partner to talk with to improve past a certain point.\n\nGood luck!", "I understood absolutely everything that you said with no effort.\n\nThe only clues that give you away in your writing are the short sentences (native speakers tend to wander in long written sentences because we can), and two words which arguably are grammatically correct but just not used that that context. \n\n\nWhy?... they just aren't, English is weird.", "I think you're doing great! I have new neighbors that are Korean and she was shy about talking to us for a while. If you can, find a kind and patient person and just do it! Most people will understand and appreciate that your English is better than their Korean and you are amazing for learning.", "I think you write English pretty well. I’m Korean and wish I kept up with it. It was my first language actually but I didn’t have any Korean friends growing up in the States and never used it. I can understand a bit, but speak very little.\n\nOne of the things I was recommended when learning languages is to watch tv shows in the language you want to learn with the subtitles of your native language. There are certain tones and phrases that are hard to explain in teaching curriculum but easy to see when hearing it through conversation", "I live in an area with a lot of Asian immigrants, and I can tell you that it is easy to understand someone even if they dont always have perfect grammar. If you say \"Please take apples store and give me\" any english speaker can understand that you meant to say \"Please bring me apples from the store\". Your post had some grammatical errors but is still easy to understand.\n\nThe hardest part for most asian english speakers is the accent. For example the word \"apple\" is hard to say and sounds like \"appur\". The better your accent, the easier it is to understand even if you are saying the wrong words. Try listening to english speakers and repeat what they say exactly, trying to get all the sounds the same. This will help you develop a more precise pronunciation.", "I heard that listening and watching movies can help with comprehension. I speak 3 languages and am fluent in 2 of them. Your writing is more than decent. Keep going, you will be fine.", "I have Korean friends and I have taught few Korean friends English language.\n\nMy approach when teaching English language, is read a news paper or books out loud. \n\nIf you want to challenge your self, read Dr Seuss books out loud. It’s a kids book, but it’s one of the best way to learn how read out loud and it will help you with your English linguistics skills. \n\nRead it out loud at your own pace. Read it as many times until you can clearly pronounce each word clearly as a bell.\n\n“A person's a person, no matter how small.” \n\nYou will read it;\n\nA person's \n\n\na person\n\n\nno matter \n\n\nhow small.\n\nAs a final test, say it out loud: Aaron Earned An Iron Urn.\n\nAaron\n\n Earned \n\nAn \n\nIron \n\nUrn", "I fully understand the struggle of learning another language and not being confident in it. English is my first language but I’ve also spent 4 years learning Spanish! I’m never quite confident when I speak Spanish but I know that the people I talk to are able to look past my speaking errors and know what I’m talking about. It’s the same situation here. While the grammar in this post isn’t great, everyone here can understand it! Just keep practicing and you’ll master it soon enough!", "I did not look through the comments to see if this has been offered yet, but if you would like; direct message me me and I'll give you my phone number so you can practice. Im a native English speaker in the USA but I work for a large South Korean company and speak to many non-native speakers.", "I can totally understand your writing. I think you're already a good speaker in English. I've been trying to improve English speaking as well. Let's just keep going forward^^", "I am half Korean. You sound just like my mother who is full Korean. Her fear is more around her accent and people not understanding the way she pronounces words. But the way I look at it as if someone is a problem with the way you speak that’s not your fault and never be discouraged. So the way I make my mom feel better is I’ll speak Korean around all of her friends who are full Korean and barely speak English. And let me tell you something. If you heard me speak Korean it sounds like I am 4 years old. It always makes her friends laugh. But she now realizes I don’t give a damn what other people think and I just want to talk with my mom.", "Hi! I lived in Korea for 3 years and my Korean is still so bad! \nyour English is fantastic. If you want to practice maybe we can do an exchange 🙂", "Hi there! Your English is fantastic. You write better than many native English speakers. It’s a very difficult language to learn.\n\nIf you speak English to and English-speaker and they ignore you or tease you, go ahead and never talk to that person again. They’re a jerk. I always ask my French-speaking friends if we could speak French together so I can practice, and they’re nice about it. \n\nI hope you find a friend to speak English with soon!", "Hi there! I am an English teacher (English is my second language) so I think I can give some suggestions from experience. \n\n\n1. All students feel the same way you feel; it doesn't matter their age. The kids you mention most likely felt like that at the beginning. The best advice for this is just to do it. Go and speak; it doesn't matter, as far as you can communicate. If you make mistakes, you will learn from the. I always ask my students: How do you learn to kiss? Well, by kissing. The only way to learn to speak English is by speaking. \n\n2. Find a conversation club around you (or online). Everyone seeks them to practice; sometimes, they set topics before the meeting, so you can study for yourself. \n\n3. Your English is great. I am sure you will communicate very fluently when speaking. Remember, real-life language is more about fluently communicating than accurately doing it. \n\n4. People will like you. People are nice. \n\nI'll happily help you practice if you feel confident talking to someone.", "Hey, I'm going to disagree that what you wrote was full of mistakes. It's actually pretty good. Give yourself some cr", "Hey what's up, I also go through that a bit, I'm a little advanced yes, but going through that stage is very difficult to tell the truth, one piece of advice is that you investigate and practice all possible contractions.\n\nThere are many, but in short, when we speak English, we always use contractions, so people won't find you weird.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nTake Care", "Former Public Speaking teacher here. I had quite a few students for whom English was a second, or even third, language. A trick to increase confidence and fluency is to listen to radio news program and repeating after the reporter. For example, you could stream NPR (National Public Radio) News, and just repeat what you hear. Doing this helps you get familiar with pronunciation, the rise and fall of the voice, and the confident tone of the speaker. You do not have to repeat every line. Speak at your own pace and comfort level. I guarantee you will see improvement with this method. \n\nThank you for wanting to speak English well. I am always impressed by people who speak multiple languages! Whatever your skill level, you are already far ahead of the majority of us in the U.S. who speak only one language.", "First recognize that you are going to make mistakes. Few people are going to tease you for not speaking clearly in a second language.\n\nIf you really want to improve your English speaking do 2 things. First if you have a relationship with people that speak English. Tell them that you want them to correct your English. Most people will not tell you that your pronunciation is incorrect. If you speak well enough to be understood people will not correct you because they don't want to be rude.\n\nThe second thing, talk to young children if you have the opportunity. They will correct your English because they don't think it is rude to do so.", "First of all, your English is excellent. There are minor grammatical things that could be improved but we're talking on the nit-picking scale. Most native English speakers don't write as well as you do.\n\nRegarding spoken English, just speak English with native speakers. You'll get better. You probably will not lose your accent but that's OK. Every English speaker has some kind of accent. Event accentless is an accent. Middle American is an accent. It's a neutral accent that's so neutral it's an obvious accent.\n\nLastly, never be embarrassed and don't apologize for your accent. If someone asks you to repeat what you said, they probably just didn't hear you. That's all. Just re-phrase and keep going. We're all used to it.", "Find something you really are interested in. Maybe it’s gardening, or wind farms something that would motivate you to research a specific term. This will help push you forward on your own.\n\nJust take it step by step:)\n\nAnd your English was great 👍", "English person here - your written English is probably better than half the people that live in the city I’m from. \n\nHave faith, you’ve got this!", "English is the hardest language to learn. You spoke beautifully and I understood every word. I absolutely love it when non native speakers have an accent. People who have spoken English their entire lives make mistakes. I think you’re brilliant for knowing what you already know. I mean wind and wind are two completely different words, pronounced differently but are spelled the same. Crazy language. Most native English speakers are kind and can understand you. I doubt anyone will correct you unless you ask for no one wants to be rude. I am so proud of you!", "English is not my native language.\n\nIt is hard to pronounce and the rules of grammar are hard to understand.\n\nBut, be careful about trying too hard. It can sabotage your progress.\n\nCome to terms with the fact that you will NEVER speak English like a native and that is all right. You just need to communicate and not necessarily become a legendary English speaker.\n\nJust try your best and stay the course.", "English is an incredibly hard language to learn as a non native speaker. It’s easy to tell that you fall into that class, but it’s far easier to understand EVERYTHING you say, then it is to understand some of what native speakers say. Especially the written word. \n\n7/10 on your results, 10 being a native speaker with a very large vocabulary. Don’t be embarrassed or shy about your English… No need to be. That will help you to be more confident and in turn, progress even further with the language.", "Consider increasing you time listening to English speaking shows with closed captions on. Listen to English speaking podcasts on topics of interest. As others have said, English is so wacky that sometimes listening, especially with closed captions and visual cues is a great way to learn. Your written English is terrific - your tiny errors are much smaller than many native speakers! Go, you!!", "Can you attend ESL classes through a local library or school district? Sometimes they are free. Your written English is good! Keep up the great work! Do not fear stop you from your goals. My father came from another country and it helped him to learn English from a dictionary. He would memorize the word and write it several times in a notebook. God bless you!", "Best tip is to not worry, you likely speak better English than 50% of English people and 75% of Americans", "Be confident that a tragically large number of native English speakers barely grasp the language. Almost as a rule many foreigners who put in the time to get fluent speak marvelously and it’s refreshing as someone who sees the English language wasted on a daily basis.\nConfidence comes from within my friend!\n\nBest of luck and I hope you get good advice!", "At least you are trying to better yourself. Most English speaking people don’t even attempt to learn a different language.", "As a one language speaker, I have NO problem with those having trouble speaking English 'perfectly'. So what if you make a few mistakes? Everything you wrote above is clear. And if you do say something that makes someone say \"What?\" Big deal! Just speak clearly and loudly. (I worked with a guy who almost whispered because he was afraid he'd say something wrong. That just leads to asking to have it repeated. And if anyone complains about your English, just say \"Ok, my English isn't perfect. Let's talk Korean.\" :-) There ARE people that will complain your English isn't perfect. The English word for them is \"A$$holes.\"", "As a foreigner who learnt English as second language - switch everything to English, your phone, subtitles, tv settings…etc. listen to English songs and all. After that, learn to imitate as closely as possible how English or Americans speak english (which ever you want to learn, stick with it but don’t mix them.)\n\nFinally, go on apps and find language exchange partners. And DONT. BE. SHY. Everybody is there to learn, so don’t be shy. Being Asians there’s a tendency about being shy, scared of embarrassment and all that. Dont. Embrace the fact you speak rubbish English but focus on learning it to improve.", "As a Spanish native speaker who has learned English as a FL, best way to improve is actually by immersing yourself into the Language and into the culture. Not necessarily traveling, but by watching films, series, reading books, comics, listening to music, podcasts. There's a lot of cultural context books do not give you and, when talking to a native, you might not understand as it never was on the book.\n\nGet as much audiovisual content as you want. It'll help you improve your skills and, when you realize it, you will be better than ever before.", "An intelligent person realizes that you are doing very good with a foreign language. I would guess that you are a very disciplined and meticulous person and likely your own biggest critic as a result.", "Although I can see your English is hesitant, I can understand what you're saying prefectly. There are only a few minor mistakes. There are many different ways to learn languages, and I have a recommendation that I hope may be useful - try watching English TV shows or movies. Listening to the way native English speakers talk to each other can be a good way to learn common phrases and the varieties of ways people can use the shortened version of them, and also the context such phrases are used in. It helps accustom your ears to the rhythm of English dialogue, and how to pronounce words that may sound very different to how they look written down. You have already learned English well enough to be perfectly understood over the Internet, so please don't feel discouraged! :) You have achieved the hardest part already, and everything else will be easier from here. You can do it! I believe in you!", "According to stories, my mother's English improved after a single glass of wine. But that was while my parents were dating, long before I was born.\n\nAnd my Father's Dutch was horrendous, so our household spoke primarily English at home.", "\"I don't think many People know Korea\" lol country of Samsung LG Hyundai BTS LineAge ATLA Kimchi and the most beautiful Girls and Boys in the world. About the accent problem tho, it's not even a problem tbh because most of the time an average native is pretty accustomed to hearing various accents and a none native wouldn't care. From what I can see ur writting is perfectly comprehendable and the style is pretty simple and consistent. So no worries about that. Cheers.", "The main post only has a few grammar errors, but believe me a lot of people in America make less sense than you do. However reading your comment responses tell me how I must sound in Spanish", "People that have spoke English there whole life can’t write correctly. Don’t worry about that. \n\nPractice makes perfect. And if anyone makes fun, they are pathetic. Move on and don’t pay then any attention. \n\nMaybe find someone with a common interest and go that route. It’s always easier to talk about something both people are interested in, regardless of what it is.", "Learning a language is hard. I'm trying to learn and practice languages too, and it's a big challenge. It's great that you want to be more confident! Remember to be proud of yourself, and it's okay to make mistakes. What matters the most is that you are doing your best! Good luck! :)", "\"I don't think many people know Korea\" - dunno about South America and Africa, but I can assure you rest of the world knows where it is thanks to your scumbag brother at north, K-pop and electronics industry.\n\nPeople will tease you, that's unavoidable on internet. But you shouldn't take this to yourself too much. Use them to improve your language instead of getting sad", "Use a gravelly, gruff voice (take up smoking if don’t already), and talk as loud as you can without screaming. Interrupt frequently and with gusto while sticking your chin up and squinting your eyes." ]

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[ "How to negotiate a job offer What is contained in a standard counter-offer? What are the protocols or proper manners instead of directly asking for more money?", "How to negotiate a job offer What is contained in a standard counter-offer? What are the protocols or proper manners instead of directly asking for more money?", "How to negotiate a job offer What is contained in a standard counter-offer? What are the protocols or proper manners instead of directly asking for more money?", "How to negotiate a job offer What is contained in a standard counter-offer? What are the protocols or proper manners instead of directly asking for more money?", "How to negotiate a job offer What is contained in a standard counter-offer? What are the protocols or proper manners instead of directly asking for more money?" ]

[ "Absolutely no brainer is to counter back with 10% over their offer plus a signing bonus. The size of the signing bonus is usually 5-10% of the base salary. If you are truly outstanding and have the goods to back it up, ask for 15% above and a bigger signing bonus, up to 20%. Or instead, if vacation time is impt to you, ask for an extra week of vacation (in lieu of or in addition to a smaller signing bonus). And always wait at least 3 days to respond. Staying silent makes them think you are weighing multiple offers ... even if you're not. You want them to think you are! \n\nSource: PhD scientist who has led PhD/MD level teams for 20 years", "On /r/SocialEngineering I learned that you should keep quiet after you've given your suggestion. \n\nGood luck with figuring out the other parts. ", "It also depends on the company. Some of those I've worked for have specific salary banding requirements depending on the level of your role. Purely trying to negotiate in these instances won't actually be effective. It might be different here in Australia, but generally salary is spoken about a number of times, either through direct processes or with the recruitment agent you're using so the company will know before they get to final stages what you're seeking in terms of salary. Should they offer below that, you have room to negotiate as they have been aware of your salary expectations for the process. If they offer bang on what you asked for, it's hard to then turn to ask for more money than that. What often happens is a candidate will say \"I'm seeking between X and X package\" - the candidate hears the higher number, the company the lower. Always lead with a firm number, not a range when discussing salary. Also do your research - what is the industry average, how does your experience stack up to others in the market. That way you'll know what to ask for and whether the offer is far. \nFinal point to consider - while salary is important, that needs to be weighed up against career opportunity, size of business, best in class practices and culture. Would you be prepared to loose the offer over say $5k if everything else is right? ", "Tell them why you *deserve* more money (why you're worth more than they offered, how you would be able to save them money, etc.).\n\nYou could also try researching some statistics on the average salary of that position in your area (keeping in mind you're just starting there, so you would probably start lower).", "One thing that people usually trip on is the first phone interview, wither with a recruiter or at the company. They will usually ask what your current salary is, or what you're looking for in terms of salary.\n\nDON'T say a number - the first one who does, loses.\n\nInstead, always respond with \"what's the budgeted range for the position?\" They ALWAYS know this. This forces them to answer with a number or range. If it's what you like, you can say \"that's in line with my expectations\" and you haven't given them a number. If not, ask \"is that range flexible for candidates with good experience?\" and focus on what you've done that would benefit this position, if you were hired. If you justify it, they will listen.\n\nLast tip: let's say you've been unemployed for a while, or have been forced to take a pay cut. If the interviewer says \"you seem overqualified\" or \"your past salary is too high\" or something like that, respond with \"if the pay grade wasn't acceptable, I wouldn't be applying. I would like to prove my worth to your company, so I would appreciate a shot.\"" ]

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[ "How to stay motivated to change a habit you have. I always find there are days I get suddenly all motivated to make a change, but then as the days pass I usually forget about it, until it happens again, sometimes the motivation lasts longer and sometimes it lasts very short. How can I keep being motivated to do this change, I am so used to doing this bad habit, that every time I'm about to do it I say I'll start tomorrow. How do I stop this?", "How to stay motivated to change a habit you have. I always find there are days I get suddenly all motivated to make a change, but then as the days pass I usually forget about it, until it happens again, sometimes the motivation lasts longer and sometimes it lasts very short. How can I keep being motivated to do this change, I am so used to doing this bad habit, that every time I'm about to do it I say I'll start tomorrow. How do I stop this?", "How to stay motivated to change a habit you have. I always find there are days I get suddenly all motivated to make a change, but then as the days pass I usually forget about it, until it happens again, sometimes the motivation lasts longer and sometimes it lasts very short. How can I keep being motivated to do this change, I am so used to doing this bad habit, that every time I'm about to do it I say I'll start tomorrow. How do I stop this?" ]

[ "sjk39 is right about maintaining a \"streak\" -- I am trying to quit biting my fingernails. I found a simple little app called Habitseed. You start by writing your intention and plant a seed. Every day it asks if I succeeded or failed, if I succeed, the plant grows. It's kind of stupid but I want that tree to get big. Good luck changing your habit! Be persistent :)", "Use can use tricks, for example I use the language learning app *Duolingo*, and you have a 'streak' of how many consecutive days you have used it for, once I got to around 20 days I didn't want to lose it, now I'm on 102 days and counting. If you were interested in e.g. jogging, you could sign up for a half marathon in a few months so you would have to go out and run to prepare for it. Also, get friends in the same boat as you to join you in doing these changes and you can motivate each other.", "Start small if you have too. Don't think you'll stop right away, but rather try to cut back on the habit even if it's just one little bit at a time. As the days pass rather than losing motivation you have the next rung up on the ladder to look forward to. \n\nThe way I see it, if you're taking it one step at a time then you can always tell your self I'm being a better person today than I was yesterday, but when you stop cold turkey you feel great about stopping for a little whole but the bad habit creeps up on you over time " ]

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[ "Teaching without belittling A brief background: Syrian refugees have recently moved into our relatively small town and the teens are going to go to my school this Monday. I, a student, have been asked to help teach ESL with a teacher. We have a lesson booklet, work booklet, and a teacher booklet. It seems fairly straightforward on the teaching lesson but the book seems outdated and juvenile for 14-19 year olds. I don't want to belittle them with this but I have to follow the curriculum. \n\nThe worksheets are something from kindergarten but I suppose that's where I started. I feel like it's just targeted towards younger audiences. Some of the students are a year or two older than me as well and are quite intelligent. One's going to med school next year but doesn't know enough English. It's not a problem on them learning but how to teach without offending them.", "Teaching without belittling A brief background: Syrian refugees have recently moved into our relatively small town and the teens are going to go to my school this Monday. I, a student, have been asked to help teach ESL with a teacher. We have a lesson booklet, work booklet, and a teacher booklet. It seems fairly straightforward on the teaching lesson but the book seems outdated and juvenile for 14-19 year olds. I don't want to belittle them with this but I have to follow the curriculum. \n\nThe worksheets are something from kindergarten but I suppose that's where I started. I feel like it's just targeted towards younger audiences. Some of the students are a year or two older than me as well and are quite intelligent. One's going to med school next year but doesn't know enough English. It's not a problem on them learning but how to teach without offending them.", "Teaching without belittling A brief background: Syrian refugees have recently moved into our relatively small town and the teens are going to go to my school this Monday. I, a student, have been asked to help teach ESL with a teacher. We have a lesson booklet, work booklet, and a teacher booklet. It seems fairly straightforward on the teaching lesson but the book seems outdated and juvenile for 14-19 year olds. I don't want to belittle them with this but I have to follow the curriculum. \n\nThe worksheets are something from kindergarten but I suppose that's where I started. I feel like it's just targeted towards younger audiences. Some of the students are a year or two older than me as well and are quite intelligent. One's going to med school next year but doesn't know enough English. It's not a problem on them learning but how to teach without offending them.", "Teaching without belittling A brief background: Syrian refugees have recently moved into our relatively small town and the teens are going to go to my school this Monday. I, a student, have been asked to help teach ESL with a teacher. We have a lesson booklet, work booklet, and a teacher booklet. It seems fairly straightforward on the teaching lesson but the book seems outdated and juvenile for 14-19 year olds. I don't want to belittle them with this but I have to follow the curriculum. \n\nThe worksheets are something from kindergarten but I suppose that's where I started. I feel like it's just targeted towards younger audiences. Some of the students are a year or two older than me as well and are quite intelligent. One's going to med school next year but doesn't know enough English. It's not a problem on them learning but how to teach without offending them.", "Teaching without belittling A brief background: Syrian refugees have recently moved into our relatively small town and the teens are going to go to my school this Monday. I, a student, have been asked to help teach ESL with a teacher. We have a lesson booklet, work booklet, and a teacher booklet. It seems fairly straightforward on the teaching lesson but the book seems outdated and juvenile for 14-19 year olds. I don't want to belittle them with this but I have to follow the curriculum. \n\nThe worksheets are something from kindergarten but I suppose that's where I started. I feel like it's just targeted towards younger audiences. Some of the students are a year or two older than me as well and are quite intelligent. One's going to med school next year but doesn't know enough English. It's not a problem on them learning but how to teach without offending them.", "Teaching without belittling A brief background: Syrian refugees have recently moved into our relatively small town and the teens are going to go to my school this Monday. I, a student, have been asked to help teach ESL with a teacher. We have a lesson booklet, work booklet, and a teacher booklet. It seems fairly straightforward on the teaching lesson but the book seems outdated and juvenile for 14-19 year olds. I don't want to belittle them with this but I have to follow the curriculum. \n\nThe worksheets are something from kindergarten but I suppose that's where I started. I feel like it's just targeted towards younger audiences. Some of the students are a year or two older than me as well and are quite intelligent. One's going to med school next year but doesn't know enough English. It's not a problem on them learning but how to teach without offending them.", "Teaching without belittling A brief background: Syrian refugees have recently moved into our relatively small town and the teens are going to go to my school this Monday. I, a student, have been asked to help teach ESL with a teacher. We have a lesson booklet, work booklet, and a teacher booklet. It seems fairly straightforward on the teaching lesson but the book seems outdated and juvenile for 14-19 year olds. I don't want to belittle them with this but I have to follow the curriculum. \n\nThe worksheets are something from kindergarten but I suppose that's where I started. I feel like it's just targeted towards younger audiences. Some of the students are a year or two older than me as well and are quite intelligent. One's going to med school next year but doesn't know enough English. It's not a problem on them learning but how to teach without offending them." ]

[ "I'm guessing that you haven't taught before. Don't stress out about it. Many of those Syrian refugees already have English education, they just need English speaking practice in a non-hostile environment. Start out with the textbook, and after you get to know your students better you can better customize the lessons to their needs. When I taught adult ESL my students were mostly interested in roleplaying practical real-life conversation, like \"my phone is broken, can you fix it?\" \"thanks for helping me\" \"what's your email address\" \"I'll have an order of steak with potatoes on the side\". But your students might be different.\n\nThe nice thing about teaching adults is that they are very motivated to learn in a way that juveniles aren't. However the downside is that adults tend to lack energy because they've got to deal with jobs and kids. Just try your best to be really energetic and outgoing even if half the class is falling asleep. It's not a reflection upon you as a teacher, it's just the reality of teaching.", "I have been teaching and tutoring for years. The best advice is to be honest and have fun.\n\nBe honest: If you do not know something (in your case grammar questions), do not pretend to. I have seen teachers worry more about the students respect for them than being accurate in the information they present. Get on the Internet, look up the answer and explain how to as you do so. (The Grammar Girl website will probably work). If a worksheet is for a 5-year-old, then make fun of the worksheet and apologize since it is the only one you have and you would prefer something a little better. But also expect them to blow through it. Here is a good ESL grammar book -Basic English Grammar -Betty Azar (do not use the Grammar In Use series by Raymond Murphy as it about two level harder than you would expect for beginners.)\n\nHave Fun: Every subject is boring with a crappy teacher. Put an emphasis on organizing any information you present so that it is digestible and then spend a some time every lesson goofing off a little. Being funny makes people pay attention to you. If you are funny (or have fun otherwise) and they learn something then you are in good shape. Language acquisition is a grind. Most of the information is arbitrary (ie spelling and verbal phrases), so create games around that, and for the non-arbitrary stuff (ie verb tenses and punctuation usage) use charts and lots of examples.\n", "I taught English to migrant workers from Mexico back in high school. These were grown ass adults so I didn't want to seem belittling either.\n\nWe ended up cracking jokes and having a good time. Just be friendly, laid back and patient. ", "Everyone's said good advice so far but I want to stress something: when you are teaching them, try your hardest to be using proper grammar and words! That means no slang, no substitutions, and try not to use broken sentences. This is important so that they learn how to speak properly instead of having shortcuts and missing out. ", "Wow, no racism at all? Come on guys I was really enjoying hating people, now we get kind, thoughtful and meaningful responses. Good job guys! ;). Oh and try getting them to talk to you. You learned to speak before you learned to write (unless you are deaf or mute or some such condition). My old teacher taught English to Japanese transfer students and by just talking with them he could teach them really well.", "Here is a simple lpt. The way that the human brain processes the emotion of embarrassment is through laughter. So the more you can laugh the better they will learn and retain the information. If the work if for children, be children. Have fun. Be silly. Act stuff out. Encourage them to do the same. ", "Don't worry about belittling them, or you'll start doing it accidentally. Just teach them, and if they have any questions answer them." ]

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[ "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist.", "How to tell if somebody is panhandling or if they are actually homeless In my area, we've had a lot of panhandlers recently. [One of them actually made the news](http://www.miheadlines.com/2014/02/28/woman-scams-people-bay-city-saginaw/) because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNothing would infuriate me more than thinking I'm helping somebody in actual need when it's just another scam artist." ]

[ "Don't offer them money if this concerns you; offer them an opportunity to eat. \"Here, I'll take you across the street and buy you a sandwich,\" works for me. Some people get super pissed off by that offer and to be honest, I can see how that's a little offensive. Nevertheless, it can protect you against the never ending panhandling schemes that are out there. ", "Let's be real. A lot us give homeless people money, not because we want to help, but because it eases our guilt when confronted with another's misfortune. You don't have to have an excuse to not donate to someone. You don't have to say \"they're homeless by choice\" or \"they're mental ill\" or \"they're scam artists or druggies\" to justify to yourself not to donate to them. If it makes you uncomfortable to give people money, for any reason, you don't have to do it. \n\nLike others have said, if you don't want to donate to individuals, you can donate to food banks. They don't give food just to homeless people, though, low income earners rely on food banks as well. You could purchase gift cards in advance for fast food restaurants. \n\nMy aunt in particular doesn't care what homeless people use money for. Her thought process is, if they're asking for my money, they probably need it more than I do, and it's not my business what they use it for. If they drink, they drink, if they do drugs, they do drugs, and my $5 bill won't change that. It's a compassionate position to take, that she just wants to help and give them the freedom and choice to do what they will, with the hope that it buys them a meal, a phone call, a bus token to stay warm for a few hours. \n\nI've adopted this position as well, but, conveniently, I don't usually have change to spare myself.", ">One of them actually made the news because the lady was making all this money and using it to beautify herself.\n\nNot to be that guy, but that's the worst news report I've ever seen, in terms of spelling and grammatical errors. \n\nOkay, here is how you can learn to discern real from fake homeless people, though it's not a quick solution: spend some time volunteering at a homeless shelter. After that, you'll readily spot the fakes. ", "I work in DC so I see a lot of homeless people. I usually only offer them water. Every \"actual\" homeless person has thanked me for water and gave me a smile when I've handed it to them. I've made a couple of great relationships with some of them. On top of that I've never given them any money. I've give them water and an ear to talk to. I came by one homeless dude and he rejected my water in the heat of the day. I was confused because I had handed out 6 waters already and this guy didn't even have any on him. Thats when I figured that he was just a fake. He wears different clothes every day, he looks clean and whenever I walk by he gives me a certain look. I feel bad for homeless people but when I talk to them everyday I've noticed something...Unless you have some huge handicap or you're severely mentally ill...then you don't need to be out there. No offense, I have a 2 years worth of \"homeless studies\" under my belt...but they can definitely get a job, there are jobs out there and you can work them. Its just that they choose not to, they have decided that this is the rest of their life. It's sad. \n\nSource:\n\n- Works in DC\n\n- Has a few homeless friends, and have heard their stories\n\n- 2 + years of \"Homeless Studies\" (While walking to work haha)", "I offered to take a walk with a fellow after he asked for money for a meal. He wanted to get some fried rice. I knew of a place that had some great Chinese food. We sat and had a meal together. Now any time we see each other we chat and he takes a walk with me. I love it.", "Don't have an answer for your question, but this is what I do for the homeless people in my area. I make care packages. I include: \nA poncho, dentist toothbrush/mouth wash minis, deodorant, wet wipes, chap stick, beef jerky, trail mix, anything tasty that will give energy and not be easily ruined in the heat, a bottle of water, sunscreen, clean socks... I get most of these by asking local dentist offices/grocery stores if they have extra samples and explaining what I'm doing. I've written to companies in the same way. The socks I usually buy in bulk. It's cheap. If it is a holiday, and I'm not completely broke myself, I try to also include a gift debit card with a couple bucks. I also will sometimes bring home cooked meals to them--saying, \"here, I made dinner and I had some left over and I thought of you\" has never incurred a bad response. Actually, neither has the care package. I have had people cry before, because sometimes those are things they just don't have and it is a small comfort. I usually keep a stash in my car, and hand out as needed until gone.", "The state of their shoes and, if in a colder climate, their jacket. Keep in mind that stories about anyone pretending to be homeless are overblown and rare among the population, even if you also include the rare phenomenon of hoodlum youths who have money (and look like it) and beg. Basically nobody is going to the trouble of keeping an extra pair of worn out shoes to make whatever paltry pay can be had begging at busy intersections; most people just ignore them.\n\nIn addition to really run down shoes and a tattered jacket, these people will look like they haven't showered in weeks and are sleeping outside. They will also potentially have dental problems. I don't mean to be curt, but that does look a certain way, and it's different than how a construction worker looks after a 12 hour shift. If you try to exhibit some empathy, you should be able to pick out both people who genuinely need help and people who are probably down on their luck but not starving or without shelter.\n\nAlso, it's kind of the chance you'll take when handing these people money. There is *noblesse oblige* and you should cater your giving to your wealth, income, debt, necessary expenses (including your sanity-maintaining intoxicants and experiences as well), and global perception of poverty (such as what the poverty stricken of other nations can afford in their lives from local vendors versus what the poverty stricken can afford here). And remember that just giving to a charity or a church often does very little good unless you tirelessly vet the organization to make sure it is one of the few that uses most of its donations on supplies for the needy.", "I'd say shoes are the primary give-away, but their smell is a big one too. That only comes to mind because I've seen more than one person on the subway that seemed well-dressed at first glance, then I notice the bags of random belongings and the terrible I-haven't showered-or-washed-myself-in-4-weeks odor.", " > One of them actually made the news \n\n/r/hobohate\n\nYou can't tell. You can't tell if someone is an actor. But here's a clue: if they are good at panhandling -then they actually have a place in the world of sales. That is: panhandling is not unlike sales. The homeless people that are really homeless and needy -don't panhandle. \n", "there is a lady that has been panhandling for over a year in New Orleans that claims she is pregnant and homeless (via her cardboard sign). her belly is big enough to make it seem like she is pregnant, especially with the clothes she wears..so its believable until I realized I had seen her with that sign for over a year...what a scam", "if they are wearing sport or team uniforms, they are just kids 'canning' so they can go to a tournament in Florida.", "My wife and I offered our leftovers to a pretty down looking person outside a restaurant in the loop. I asked her if she was hungry, and she just said, \"yeah, man.\" She had that container open before I even turned to leave.\n\nI should mention that she wasn't even begging, but basic human needs were clearly not being met.", "It is actually a bad idea to give money and/or food to someone on the street for deeper reasons than mentioned here. Soup kitchens and shelters are run similar to any other business. Their budget is dependent on their use. Different scenarios at different times of year affect how much people give on the street.\n\nFor example, around the holidays, people give on the street a lot more, so those in need go to soup kitchens a lot less. Then, in January and February, when the holiday goodwill has worn off and people are not as generous on the streets, the soup kitchens run out of food because the people approving budgets have a skewed perception of how much is actually needed.\n\nThere was a big thing in the news a year or less ago about a man of religion being arrested for feeding people in Florida. That whole thing was blown out of proportion by the media. He wasn't arrested for feeding people. He was arrested because he wouldn't listen to reason when it was explained to him that whenever he eventually stopped having the time or the income to feed these people, no one else in the immediate vicinity would have the resources to pick up where he left off.\n\nSocial programs are much more fine tuned than most people think. What is seemingly a good deed could cause people to eventually go hungrier than they would have in the first place. If you live in an urban area, make yourself familiar with where soup kitchens and similar facilities are, and when you see someone in need offer to walk them there.", "If you want to help someone who is homeless, *look for someone who is homeless*, like laying there sleeping in the streets, and give them some money, they could probably use it. Ignore all of the bullshit hype about not enabling them, the people coming out of the bars at night and barfing, pissing, and littering in the streets, getting into their cars and terrorizing the nation with drunken driving, or just passing out where they are and shitting themselves, has less to do with people who are homeless, and more to do with the privileged non-homeless moneyed sort.\n\nOtherwise, for a long list of reasons, I think most homeless probably don't panhandle, and most panhandlers probably aren't homeless. A lot of people who are homeless, aren't even getting checks either, so despite trillions of dollars in government money getting thrown around, supposedly for the poor, it has more to do with enabling the previously mentioned moneyed class, who are out terrorizing the nation and the planet with their habits and addictions. \n\nFor sure, the many among the homeless who are not working, panhandling or getting checks, are among the poorest people on the planet, even here in the United States, and none of the ongoing spending fanaticism has much to do with them, so if anyone could use a little bit of human generosity, it would be them. ", "I've stopped giving money to homeless people because of people posing as them.\n\nI had this one guy with a big o' diamond earring looking like eminems cousin ask if he could have some money. I'm like '...you should sell that earring if you need money.' He smiles and says 'ha yeah'.", "I usually offer to buy some food. Panhandlers usually get upset at this, asking instead for the money to buy 'the food'.", "I think that if someone is resorting to panhandling they probably really are in need even if they're not homeless. You'd have to be having a rough life to resort to asking for money on the streets.", "Generally if someone asks me to buy them a meal I'll do it, since I can see exactly what my money is paying for. As far as giving money goes, I just go with the gut, which admittedly means judging the person superficially, but it's really all I have to go on. Sometimes there are people I very obviously don't want to give money to, like a guy recently who asked me for money as he stood on the sidewalk drinking a can of beer. Granted my judgment could certainly be wrong, but it's all I have to go on.", "General rule of thumb is to never give people money. If you want to help, send money to a homeless shelter or better yet, donate your time.", "Eh! You kinda know which ones are which in my city. Panhandlers get pretty bad around christmas season though. I once bought a homeless guy a pizza... he was not offended. Quite the opposite." ]

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[ "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. ", "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. ", "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. ", "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. ", "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. ", "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. ", "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. ", "How To Reheat Spaghetti in the Microwave Seriously. No matter what I do, the spaghetti doesn't come out hot. 3 minutes for boiling water? Spaghetti must be done. Nope. 4 minutes because screw it...3 didn't work? Nope. Maybe if I stir? Nope. " ]

[ "if it is just the pasta and nothing else, I always pure just boiled water over it first (let it drain) and then microwave it, adding the water helps", "Make it look like a donut. Nothing in the center and more exposed surface area for those micro waves to make it all hot and yummy. ", "Microwaves just make the water shake and shake so fast that energy comes and this energy will create the heat. This is the reason why your plate is hot as fuck, but your meal is cold. \n\nSo potatoes will mostly have a hard time.. try adding water to the meal you want to heat.", "I put a little splash of water in it (like turn on the tap for half a second), cover, and 3 minutes. Could it be your microwave? The only food I ever have trouble reheating is mashed potatoes, it takes forever. ", "3 minutes, stir, 4-5 more minutes\n\nWorks for me anyway. Course I don't know how much you're attempting to heat.", "Microwaves have a sort of dead zone for cooking right in the middle of the spinner. Try keeping the food towards the edge of the plate, or the plate off center of the spinner tray. \n\nThere's some science behind how they work, and it mostly involves how the emitted radiation waves meet in the middle of the spinner and cancel each other out.", "My solution: don't use the microwave. Find a pan, put the spaghetti in it, turn the heat up to medium or med low, put some water in the bottom to 1) keep the spaghetti/sauce from burning and 2) steam the spaghetti, cover with lid. You want the water to bubble/boil but not violently or it'll vaporize immediately and your food will still be cold. If you slow boil it off, the food will be warm through in about the same amount of time (few minutes). You may need to add more water if the first bit of water gets absorbed/steams away if the food still isn't qarm enough.\n\nThis method makes the spaghetti less stiff in that refrigeratory way that it gets, too - basically brings it back to as good as the first day. \n\nAlso use this method to reheat rice (it will resurrect hard crunchy refrigerated rice and turn them soft and fluffy again). With rice you are more likely to get a slightly browned, crunchy layer on the bottom, but since that stuff is better in every possible way, that's a pro, not a con. ", "I always flatten it out, then mix it and re-flatten for a second go in the microwave. If it isn't in a tupperware container where the water gets trapped in, add a little bit (b/c microwaves need moisture to heat stuff)" ]

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[ "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? ", "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? ", "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? ", "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? ", "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? ", "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? ", "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? ", "Stray cats refuse to leave my backyard,I give them food everyday but they are still afraid of me. Four stray cats (3 kittens and a mother) appeared in my backyard. I want to keep them since they don't have anywhere else to go, I give them food (scraps from lunch like meat and bread), how can I make them trust me/stop running away from me? " ]

[ "The mom will never trust you she’s feral. See if you have anyone in the area who does TNR (trap neuter release) depending on the age of the kittens if they’re old enough to be weaned and you can catch them all you can get mom fixed and foster the kittens and socialize them (check YouTube good videos for kitten socializing) and try get them to not be feral. Some cats though are just feral. Either way you should try get a trap and see if there’s a cheap neuter clinic around and get them fixed to prevent future sad feral kitties. In the mean time you could set up a house for them outside with straw (hay is for hunger straw is for shelter) and food and water to keep them hydrated and supported during the summer but if you want them to leave you alone then don’t do that. ", "Put it in your hand. Sit very still, if they're hungry they will come up and get it. Getting strays to trust you will take time, but its not difficult. Just try to keep a look out on any weird behavior, you dont over step your boundaries and get bit. God forbid they have some disease or something. ", "My grandma used to feed a large group of feral cats on her property. Some of them she was able to trap, neuter and release. Most of them, even after years of feeding, wouldn't let her touch them, but would come close. She named all of them after T.S. Eliot's 'Cats', and they were fantastic creatures, domestic or not.", "I'd suggest using proper cat food but move it closer to inside your house each time they show up, then once they aren't afraid, take them to the vets to get their shots and sort any other problems.", "few cats can resist a can of wet food. if you put it in a live trap, you can capture them and bring them to the vets office. Mom will need to be spayed as soon as the kittens are old enough to be weaned and she and the kittens need vaccinations, deworming, and flea treatment. once that is done, if you keep them in the house in one room while mom recovers, and spend a fair amount of time in there just hanging out, they may learn to like you. I had good results with this technique on an adult feral male who was hanging around my house. He hated me at first, and bit me once when I was treating an abcess on his neck, but eventually he settled down and was a good cat companion. ", "First, you need to get them fixed so you won’t end up with more kittens in the near future. There are cat traps that you can rent from a vet office that work by putting food inside. Cats are smart however, and often can only be trapped once before they figure out not to go back in another time. You should also call around because some vets and shelters will fix feral cats for free, give them shots, and even drop them back off where you found them. \n\nThe mother probably won’t ever trust you because she has been feral for too long, but you could tame the kittens. After getting them fixed, maybe consider bringing them into your house to recover. A small room like a bathroom is a good place to keep kittens while they get used to you. ", "UPDATE: I wasn't able to capture the cats yet, but one kitten became less scared of me in the meantime and lets me pet it/eats from my hand. ", "Stop with the bread. It does nothing for them.\n\nGet commercial cat food or get cheap chicken to cook and cut up. (You want it cooked so it doesn't rot!)" ]

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[ "How do I get a bad smell out of my refrigerator? Just moved into this apartment and my refrigerator has an AWFUL smell in it! Any suggestions? I've already tried baking soda.", "How do I get a bad smell out of my refrigerator? Just moved into this apartment and my refrigerator has an AWFUL smell in it! Any suggestions? I've already tried baking soda.", "How do I get a bad smell out of my refrigerator? Just moved into this apartment and my refrigerator has an AWFUL smell in it! Any suggestions? I've already tried baking soda." ]

[ "Put a cup of charcoal in there (charcoal briquettes you use for BBQ'n), the charcoal works better than baking soda.", "Defrost it, clean out all the nasty water that drains from it, bleach everything, dry it well, clean out the grate underneath the fridge and below and in between all the drawers and shelves.\n", "I accidentally unplugged my freezer before going on vacation. the smell was rancid. I scrubbed it out with a mixture of tide and bleach in a bucket of hot water. scrubbed it twice for good measure. The smell came out. if there is a drain make sure the mix goes down it and if there is a drip pan under the fridge, scrub it off too. (You could probably use any laundry detergent) " ]

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[ "How to keep clothes from smelling after they've been sitting a while? I'm a pretty clean person. I have an abundance of shirts, so it takes me a while to wear them all, so sometimes a shirt might sit on a shelf for a few weeks or more before I get to wear it again (after it's been cleaned). But man, after it's sat for a while, my clothes start to pick up a smell. Maybe mildewy? I'm not sure. I also notice it with clothes in storage (like winter clothes)\n\nHow do I prevent this?", "How to keep clothes from smelling after they've been sitting a while? I'm a pretty clean person. I have an abundance of shirts, so it takes me a while to wear them all, so sometimes a shirt might sit on a shelf for a few weeks or more before I get to wear it again (after it's been cleaned). But man, after it's sat for a while, my clothes start to pick up a smell. Maybe mildewy? I'm not sure. I also notice it with clothes in storage (like winter clothes)\n\nHow do I prevent this?", "How to keep clothes from smelling after they've been sitting a while? I'm a pretty clean person. I have an abundance of shirts, so it takes me a while to wear them all, so sometimes a shirt might sit on a shelf for a few weeks or more before I get to wear it again (after it's been cleaned). But man, after it's sat for a while, my clothes start to pick up a smell. Maybe mildewy? I'm not sure. I also notice it with clothes in storage (like winter clothes)\n\nHow do I prevent this?", "How to keep clothes from smelling after they've been sitting a while? I'm a pretty clean person. I have an abundance of shirts, so it takes me a while to wear them all, so sometimes a shirt might sit on a shelf for a few weeks or more before I get to wear it again (after it's been cleaned). But man, after it's sat for a while, my clothes start to pick up a smell. Maybe mildewy? I'm not sure. I also notice it with clothes in storage (like winter clothes)\n\nHow do I prevent this?", "How to keep clothes from smelling after they've been sitting a while? I'm a pretty clean person. I have an abundance of shirts, so it takes me a while to wear them all, so sometimes a shirt might sit on a shelf for a few weeks or more before I get to wear it again (after it's been cleaned). But man, after it's sat for a while, my clothes start to pick up a smell. Maybe mildewy? I'm not sure. I also notice it with clothes in storage (like winter clothes)\n\nHow do I prevent this?" ]

[ "I put dryer sheets in my drawers... And also they sell little sachets that have various scents at A.C. Moore and bed bath and beyond. Theyre fantastic. \nAlso cedar blocks for a more manly smell I suppose, bed bath and beyond has these as well. ", "Take those perfume, cologne samples from magazines or from the department store and keep them on your shelves.\n\nGet a couple cedar planks from Home depot.\n\n\nKeep your winter clothes in those plastic bags you close with a vacuum. \n\nMake sure your closet doesn't have mold. Make sure you dry your clothes completely. ", "Never tried this, but i feel like i read a LPT just the other day suggesting to spray with vodka.., sounds weird i know", "I would worry about the cause of the mildew smell. Clean clothes shouldn't stink after sitting a while.", "I did this by accident one time but I had one of those febreeze things that sits on your counter I cant remember what its called exactly but you dont plug it in.. Anyway. I stuck it in a bag of winter clothes by accident and when i reopened the bag all the clothes smelled just like febreeze.. (It was meant for the trash and was empty still made all the clothes smell really good) \n" ]

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[ "How to get rid of hand pain caused by writing? I still have a ton of work left doing (got an exam tomorrow). I first felt pain yesterday, decided just to go sleep, woke up and my hand is still hurting.\n\nShould I just submerge it in cold water w/ ice?", "How to get rid of hand pain caused by writing? I still have a ton of work left doing (got an exam tomorrow). I first felt pain yesterday, decided just to go sleep, woke up and my hand is still hurting.\n\nShould I just submerge it in cold water w/ ice?", "How to get rid of hand pain caused by writing? I still have a ton of work left doing (got an exam tomorrow). I first felt pain yesterday, decided just to go sleep, woke up and my hand is still hurting.\n\nShould I just submerge it in cold water w/ ice?", "How to get rid of hand pain caused by writing? I still have a ton of work left doing (got an exam tomorrow). I first felt pain yesterday, decided just to go sleep, woke up and my hand is still hurting.\n\nShould I just submerge it in cold water w/ ice?", "How to get rid of hand pain caused by writing? I still have a ton of work left doing (got an exam tomorrow). I first felt pain yesterday, decided just to go sleep, woke up and my hand is still hurting.\n\nShould I just submerge it in cold water w/ ice?" ]

[ "* Massage it and streach it out\n\n* Have a lighter grip\n\n* Use a different style, a keyboard if possible for revision, a triangular shaped pen/pencil to alter your grip pattern\n\n* Take painkillers \n\n* Stretch out your entire arm up to your shoulder \n\n* Cry", "Massage it (esp the thumb muscle-abductor pollicis brevis). \nIce your hand (no longer than 10 mins) then soak it in warm water+ epson salt mixture. \nNext time try penagain. I've heard good things about them and its supposed to help reduce cramping and hand-fatigue when you write.", "You might try holding the pen between your middle and ring fingers and the thumb. Takes a little adjustment period but by then you can switch grips back and forth", "Is this like muscle soreness or tendon pain?\nIs it aggrevated when you use input devices e.g. mouse, keyboard? (consider using ergonomic devices)\nIf it continues (and doesn't get better) for more than a few days talk to a doctor just in case.", "Take hot water and add some salt to it (1 to 2 tablespoons of salt for 1 bowl of water should do it), and soak your hands in the water. Water should not be scalding hot or luke warm hot, it should be just the right amount of hot. \n" ]

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[ "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs.", "How to wake up to an alarm? I legit don't hear it, no matter how loud it is. For this reason, the roll away ones don't work either. I'll sleep through 60 separate alarms spaced a minute apart every morning, as loud as my phone and alarm clock will go. Usually my husband (and before, mom) would wake me up for everything but his hours don't facilitate my first shift needs." ]

[ "\n\nI need to wake up at 05:00 AM every morning, and what I did is this:\n\nDont put a relaxing toon on your alarm.\n\nIf you own a phone that uses android, search for the Buzzer Alarm, it will just go on and on without stopping (until you turn it off) and it will make you want to break your phone.\n\nDon't put your phone right next to you when you sleep, put it on a desk or somewhere you can hear the alarm well but you need to get up to turn it off.\n\nOne more tip: When you do hear your alarm, just get up right away, and do what you usually do when you get out of bed without stopping.\nAfter a week or two you will get used to just \"jumping\" out of your bed immediately.", "Will you just sleep for eternity if nobody wakes you?\nGo to bed a couple hours earlier than your usual time. ", "https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/5pgj28/lpt_use_a_smartbandfitness_band_to_wakeup_with_a/", "Set your alarm to the same tone as your default ringtone. I had a bad habit of being late for work a lot, and they would call so much that I eventually started to associate getting a phone call in the morning with urgency. My ringtone now usually wakes me on the first try.\n\nI also read a guide online for this where a guy set his alarm for ten minutes later, pretended to sleep and zoned out, then when the alarm went off he jumped out of bed, set it for ten more minutes ahead and repeated the process until muscle memory took over. ", "Have you tried a vibrating alarm? I think they're meant for folks hard of hearing, but our house has one. It's basically a smoke detector-sized vibrating unit you slip under your mattress and connects to an otherwise normal alarm clock. The vibration is loud as shit and you can definitely feel your bed shake, in addition to the normal accompanying optional beep.\n\nBesides that, maybe explore new hobbies / set up novel things to look forward to? My body will generally get up for something it's psyched to do, much more than something that I just have to do...", "What about the smoke detectors? Do they wake you up? \n\nThis got me thinking about a new type of detector that lets parents record their voices and play it during a fire. They are much more effective at waking up their children during a fire. \n\nWould recording your mom's or husband's voice and making that your alarm wake you up? ", "Tell your husband to record himself saying \"Wake Up\" for 30 seconds and set that as your ringtone, if he is the only one who can wake you up. ", "My first alarm has a song that I want to wake up to. Usually a fairly chill song as I hear its bad for you to rush out of bed so fast after being woken. \n2 minutes later however, I have a loud, annoying alarm that's out of reach. I have to get up to turn this one off. \nMy body learned relatively quickly that the first alarm signified the coming of BAAAP, but gives me a moment to take a few deep breaths and slowly rise from my slumber, to turn it off as soon as it started. \nRight after this I just kick in to my usual routine of grabbing some clothes and having a shower. \n \nI don't know if this will work for you but developing a habit is key, or your body will just pick its best option which is usually sleep.", "Introducing: The Wake-up Machine, proudly presented by Simone Giertz \nhttp://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFONC7byEU96gsPcOaWCp3CQxtEdOvgH4", "I know you say the volume doesn't matter but the only thing that comes to my mind is a Bluetooth speaker that *PUMPS*. And I would suggest finding a very annoying and long playing alarm (something that continuously plays for like 2 minutes at a time).", "I had same problem am using an app called alarmy and its has an alarm which is louder then anything else on my phone. Place it close to your ear and 1 minute later an alarm which rings until you shake your phone a certain number of times. Yet to sleep in.", "Get an alarm made for the [hard-of-hearing.](http://www.harriscomm.com/sonic-alert-sonic-bomb-sbb500ss-vibrating-alarm-clock.html) It will shake your bed, blast your ears, or both.", "Drink two glasses of water before bed. You'll have to pee around the time you need to wake up so you will naturally be in such a deep sleep." ]

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[ "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. ", "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. ", "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. ", "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. ", "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. ", "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. ", "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. ", "Study tips and tricks you learned in college! Hey guys, I'm a first year college student struggling to study. I'm looking for tips to improve my study habits and make me more motivated towards academics. " ]

[ "Youtube is your friend. These days you can find pseudo lectures on damned near anything. There are often channels/playlists dedicated to whatever course you are in, especially in the lower division university courses. Make sure to set up a SEPARATE ACCOUNT from your main account! This keeps the distraction of leisure videos to a minimum. \n\nIf you want to be proactive then try watching videos ahead of time. Use these videos to get familiar with the larger scale concepts and language rather than trying to take detailed notes. The 2x speed feature on youtube is really nice for this. 15 mins can often cover the entire week for a given course. \n\nIf you are trying to complete course work then searching for examples of \"insert concept here\". This will often lead to step by step instructions applicable to the course work you have. \n\nYoutube channels are so much easier to digest than textbooks. \n", "Do NOT take notes on an ipad/laptop - Senior year I switched to taking notes on my ipad and realised I was retaining *significantly* less information. Writing it down is always superior. ", "* Stop using Facebook, Twitter and Instagram - you can save a ton of time just by eliminating those three.\n\n* Put your phone away while studying. \n\n* Put your phone away from you when you sleep. Never put it near your head, pillow, or table that is closest to you. \n\n* Take notes by writing them down using a pen and paper. If you prefer listening, voice record your classes. Make sure you read/listen to those notes before going to sleep. \n\n* Talk to yourself when you study. The conversation you should be having with yourself should be like you teaching yourself. I know this sounds kind of zany, but trust me - it really helps. \n\n* Find good friends who are actually serious about studying and do group study. \n\n* Check out old question papers and sample test papers to get an idea of how the questions will be like. \n\n* Develop a good relationship with your professors. Make sure you submit assignments and projects on time. If you have any problems understanding a particular concept, because of your good relationship, you can approach your professors without much difficulty and ask them to help you out.\n\n* Devote time to study a little bit every day. If you look at it, there are many \"spaces\" of time that we get. For example, while travelling by bus or train, you can use that time to listen to notes you've recorded or read notes you've written down. \n\n* Take frequent, small breaks while studying. I usually do 30-45 minutes of studying followed by a 5 minute break. Then I repeat this till I'm done.\n\n* Eating small amounts of dark chocolate is really useful as it contains Selenium (it helps improve memory).\n\n* Drink no more than 2 cups of coffee a day. Coffee can keep you alert and awake but drink too much (especially when you are freaking out or nervous), and you'll get an upset stomach. \n", "Find or start a study group, and meet at the same time every week. You'll get moral support and other people who might be able to help if you're stuck, and you'll have a built in habit of studying during that time", "Surround yourself with people for who you think are “better”/“have slightly better results” and even if you have same results, they will drive you to try harder and do better.\n\nSource: just finished first year of CS and this method pushed me when it was hardest", "One piece of advice someone told me was to use a perfume or candy when I studied. When you go to take the test, use the same perfume or candy. Apparently your brain associates the smells and tastes and helps with recall. I guess it's along the same lines of when we smell certain things and we remember things from our childhood. I used the Werther's originals candies to study and I'd take some with me to my test. It might sound a little nuts, but look it up. I also used to study for 45 minutes, and when the timer went off, I'd take a break for 15 minutes and do housework, make a phone call, take a break, etc. That way, I didn't feel like I was neglecting household chores, friends, or just doing nothing but studying. And by far the best piece of advice I EVER got was from my dad, who told me to go and introduce myself on the first day of class, let them know I was interested, ask about supplemental reading material, etc. If they know you're interested, they will work with you if you should start struggling. Email them the minute you start having trouble. This helped me get extensions on my major project my senior year when my grandfather was ill and when he died, without any grade deductions. Graduated with my ASN in 2014 and BSN this year. Good luck! ", "If you're a stem major...Chegg will be the greatest investment of your life. It isn't just a way to \"cheat\" like professors think, it helps you teach yourself. Also another big tip, on weekends when you're studying don't stay in your pajamas. Get up, get ready and dressed as if you were going to class even if you never leave your room. It sets your head in a productive mindset.", "Don't study except for classes you are not already doing well in. Study the material that is directly related to the tests coming up. Ask questions when you don't understand the material. That is all I ever did. I didn't graduate with a 4.0 but I did a lot better than people who put in 10x the effort." ]

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[ "how to massage a back quite easy question, but very important in maaany life situation: how do i massage e.g. a woman the right way?\ni know that massaging is quite a komplex thing, but i am looking for a few tipps, maybe a short tutorial-video, to know what to do in case of emergency :)\nthx guys", "how to massage a back quite easy question, but very important in maaany life situation: how do i massage e.g. a woman the right way?\ni know that massaging is quite a komplex thing, but i am looking for a few tipps, maybe a short tutorial-video, to know what to do in case of emergency :)\nthx guys", "how to massage a back quite easy question, but very important in maaany life situation: how do i massage e.g. a woman the right way?\ni know that massaging is quite a komplex thing, but i am looking for a few tipps, maybe a short tutorial-video, to know what to do in case of emergency :)\nthx guys", "how to massage a back quite easy question, but very important in maaany life situation: how do i massage e.g. a woman the right way?\ni know that massaging is quite a komplex thing, but i am looking for a few tipps, maybe a short tutorial-video, to know what to do in case of emergency :)\nthx guys" ]

[ "The link Hungry_Texan gave is pretty good! This would work well if you're trying to give a relaxing deep massage. I assume that you're looking for a quick back rub to give someone while they're sitting up fully clothed. \n\nThis video has some good stuff, but for a quick back rub I would recommend skipping the lifting/dropping of the shoulders and the anything with the hair. If you do that to a woman in almost any setting, but definitely public, she's going to think you're just trying to make her boobs bounce, and messing up her hair. \n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uSnm5t2NWok\n\nI will add that if she is ok with you massaging her scalp, do it! It feels great to have done. But when you do it, use the tips of your fingers, but not your nails. Have your fingers at almost a 45 degree angle to the scalp, and put all the pressure in the tips. If you try to focus on moving the actual scalp, instead of the hair, you shouldn't mess up the hair too much, but it does take practice.\n\nHope that helps!", "Student of massage therapy here. Don't use the tips of your thumbs. Not only does it not feel the best, it's not good for your thumbs. Instead, use the fatty pad just below your thumb. I'll post a couple of videos when I get home. ", "Oh my god, I honestly thought the title was \"how to massage a black\" and I freaked out for a little bit", "thx hungry, that ones a nice beginning\nkitty, please feel free to add more links, espcailly videos :) my english isnt too good, therfore a short video would be more useful than just text" ]

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[ "How do you wash your face in the sink without making an enormous mess? I leave behind typhoons after having a wash in the sink. I do not want to do this.", "How do you wash your face in the sink without making an enormous mess? I leave behind typhoons after having a wash in the sink. I do not want to do this.", "How do you wash your face in the sink without making an enormous mess? I leave behind typhoons after having a wash in the sink. I do not want to do this.", "How do you wash your face in the sink without making an enormous mess? I leave behind typhoons after having a wash in the sink. I do not want to do this.", "How do you wash your face in the sink without making an enormous mess? I leave behind typhoons after having a wash in the sink. I do not want to do this." ]

[ "I put a towel on the edge of the counter and rest my elbows on it so you don't get water running down your arms and sleeves, keeps the counter dry, and the towel is right there and ready so you can dry off immediately. ", "It can depend on the type of sink you have. At my hold house the sink was big enough to drown myself in, so I could just shove my whole face into the sink to rinse, avoiding the need to ever remove water from the sink.\n\nMy current sink is barely big enough to get two hands in at once. Use a flannel/facecloth/washcloth to help cup the water and dab it on your face to rinse.\n\nIt can also help to drape a towel over your shoulders like a cape.", "Instead of splashing water towards your face with your hands, try dipping your face in your hands instead and rub. This will also get your face cleaner.", "So... stop? Turn down the water... quit flailing around like a drunken spider monkey. Lean the hell over. Where is your trouble area... this sounds like a personal problem to me.", "As you've already said, use more passes with the water, but I find it helpful to cup my hands and fill them with water and then put my face in my hands and blow bubbles with my nose while rubbing my hands on my face. Gets the soap off and I don't have as many spills. Hard to explain, but i hope it helps!" ]

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[ "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?", "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?", "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?", "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?", "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?", "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?", "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?", "How to stay cool while working in the sun? Possibly record-breaking heat today and tomorrow, and I have to work outside in the sun.\n\nLot's of cold water and light, breathable clothing is a given, but can you guys give me any other suggestions to help stay cool?" ]

[ "A hat that has a flap covering the back of your neck is a must. Light colors, long sleeves and hydrate, hydrate, hydrate.", "There are neck wraps that have a water absorbing stuff in them. Soak it in cool water, and wrap it around your neck. Otherwise, keep a cool damp rag around your neck. You will have to re-soak the rag frequently though.", "Place an ice pack or something cold on the back of your neck right at the top of your spine to cool your core temp. A little lunch cooler will keep a bottle of water and a couple ice packs cold for a good bit.", "Is the work you need to do such that you could work in one spot for a while then move to the next spot, rinse-wash-repeat? A cheap pop-up 10x10 canopy can provide portable shade that will make a *world* of difference.", "You can pour water on the insides of your wrist and hold a water bottle to your neck to cool off your core temperature", "Please please make sure you’re walking on grass, shade or anywhere that won’t harm the dogs paws!!\n\nOutside of that, wear light colored, breathable clothes and bring extra socks and hats. If either get soaked, swap them out for dry ones. Drink 12-16 oz of water an hour and don’t let your heart rate get too elevated. Don’t forget to eat light snacks... not meals, just snacks. Too much food and blood will be diverted to your digestive system when you need it to keep your skin and other organs cool.", "you mean considering your actual workplace? i dont know where you are from but in my country the employers have to make sure to equip the workers accordingly if temperatures pass a certain point even leading to no hard work under direct sun.", "Military issues salt tablets on extra hot days. It doesn’t keep you cool but if you sweat a lot you need extra salt." ]

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[ "Cheap plane tickets I would like some pro tips from someone who knows the best times to buy tickets, where to buy them, how to buy etc. \n\nAny other plane flight protips would be an added plus. \n\n", "Cheap plane tickets I would like some pro tips from someone who knows the best times to buy tickets, where to buy them, how to buy etc. \n\nAny other plane flight protips would be an added plus. \n\n", "Cheap plane tickets I would like some pro tips from someone who knows the best times to buy tickets, where to buy them, how to buy etc. \n\nAny other plane flight protips would be an added plus. \n\n", "Cheap plane tickets I would like some pro tips from someone who knows the best times to buy tickets, where to buy them, how to buy etc. \n\nAny other plane flight protips would be an added plus. \n\n", "Cheap plane tickets I would like some pro tips from someone who knows the best times to buy tickets, where to buy them, how to buy etc. \n\nAny other plane flight protips would be an added plus. \n\n" ]

[ "I've recently bought plane tickets from Sweden to Scotland and I looked around for a few months before buying. I bought my tickets in December, and leaving in April was twice as cheap as leaving in March. Which in turn was twice as cheap as leaving in January. \n\nBuy from the flight company itself instead of from Expedia or similar, in most cases this is cheaper and you got a better contact with customer service if you need help etc.\n\nBefore you buy them, clear your web cache. If you search for plane tickets a lot the price on websites selling tickets will increase and if you clear the cache it will be reduced again. I have no idea of how it works but I tried it and it did. Was reduced from £1200 to £900 or something along those lines.\n\nIf you want a smoother ride (if you get sick or stressed easily) try to get a seat near the wings of the plane. The closer to the wings you are the less you will experience the motion of turbulence. Might not be a HUGE difference, but every little bit helps.\n\nEat something light, like a salad before you go on a plane to prevent feeling sick. But don't have a huge pizza, you get the idea. ", "If you live in the US and are looking to fly out of the Country, fly on Thanksgiving. People are usually traveling state to state so out of country tickets go way down. I went to Ireland last year and a week before and a week after Thanksgiving tickets were about 1000-1300 dollars. On Thanksgiving day, tickets were 620. I recommend everyone who can miss the holiday to fly then.", "I have been searching for flights from US to Italy (Boise, ID to Rome, Italy). What I have found, have been recommended, and am working on is this:\n\nPurchase your tickets at around month 3 before you are planning on leaving.\n\nUse apps that are not advertised for bookings, then go to the ticket sales directly for actual price.\n\nClear cache and cookies when searching. The price goes up for however many times you search the same search on the same browser/cookie.\n\nSearch on a Tuesday for a Wednesday/Thursday flight\n\n(From a travel agent) Search for prices from a major city. For instance, I am going to drive to Portland, OR (about 6 hours away) and then fly to Italy, rather than try to fly out of Boise (much smaller city). This is saving me around $500/ticket.\n\n***", "[Skyscanner.net](http://Skyscanner.net) and [Holiday Pirates](http://HolidayPirates.com) get my vote. First one is very thorough, and the second, though sporadic with deals, comes up with the most bonkers deals I've ever seen.\n\nSource: I work in the travel industry", "Seems to me that getting tickets the 2-3 month before travel gets you the best deals. I also like to use flights.google.com and turn the search into a little graph so I can scroll along and find the cheapest day to travel. Sometimes you will find a flight nestled into others that is actually 200 dollars cheaper or more (and often cheaper than the cheapest advertised sale price by the airline). Also low season travel is the way to go in my books, cheaper flights, cheaper hotels, cheaper car rental and less crowds. You could probably do 2 low season vacations instead of one high season per year. Also, it is frowned upon but you can sometimes get a flight out that has a connecting flight where you want to depart for cheaper than if you just got the flight from the place of departure. For example I can book a flight from Seattle to Toronto that has a stop in Vancouver, buy the ticket and just show up for the Vancouver flight cause it is closer. This is cheaper than just booking the exact same flight out of Vancouver to Toronto, because the distance travelled has little to do with the cost of the flight. Again frowned upon though so you wouldn't want to do it to much, airlines don't like it when you outsmart them." ]

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[ "Best way to soundproof a door What's the best way to soundproof a door without buying and installing a new one? I'm trying to study for my upcoming college finals, however, it's quite hard to focus when my hollow door doesn't serve its purpose.", "Best way to soundproof a door What's the best way to soundproof a door without buying and installing a new one? I'm trying to study for my upcoming college finals, however, it's quite hard to focus when my hollow door doesn't serve its purpose.", "Best way to soundproof a door What's the best way to soundproof a door without buying and installing a new one? I'm trying to study for my upcoming college finals, however, it's quite hard to focus when my hollow door doesn't serve its purpose." ]

[ "Put hooks over the door and have a few thick blankets over the door and a rolled up towel across the bottom. Slightly more expensive would be to drill a few holes in the top of the hollow door and inject expanding foam into the cavity but I'm not sure if that would make it a fire hazard or of the hinges would hold the extra weight.", "They sell Styrofoam boards of insulation at Home Depot. You can cut it to fit on the door, and it will help some, you might need some weather stripping if there is a large gap at the bottom of the door before the floor.", "Put hooks over the door and havng a few thick blankets over the door and a rolled up towel across the bottom. Slightly more expensive would be to drill a few holes in the top of the hollow door and inject expanding foam into the cavity but I'm not sure if that would make it a fire hazard or of the hinges would hold the extra weight." ]

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[ "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n", "Calming nerves. Hey guys, I'm going for my license at the end of the week and the thought of the drive test is making me feel sick (throwing up sick). I'm a confident driver, however I'm worried that the nerves will make me drive like an idiot and cause me to fail or that i'll end up embarrassing myself infront of my instructor &amp; testing person by throwing up or something.\n\nAny help would be great!\n\n" ]

[ "I don't know if this is helpful advice or not, but... you know it doesn't matter, right? I mean, sure, failing a driving test is shit, but it's not exactly uncommon and you can just take it again.\n\nA related piece of advice a friend gave me is when you're stressing out about something to ask yourself \"Will this matter in a year's time?\". If the answer is no, will it matter in 6 month's time? etc. This sort of time framing is helpful to put it things in perspective. I don't imagine the time frame on which failing a driving test matters is very long. \n\nI would strongly recommend not taking a prozac tablet. Taking drugs you're not used to using right before driving a car sounds like a terrible idea.", "what helps me stay calm is picturing me already accomplishing that goal. so just picturing in your head that you finished the test and you passed and you're on your way to freedom! :) ", "Really concentrate on your breathing, do it very slightly slower, but just make sure to take the most smooth breathes in and out. It distracts you and calms you down. ", "Maybe you could get a friend to play the part of the tester. Have him/her hold a clipboard, sit in the passenger's side, tell you to drive and park, etc. They should act the part as much as possible. Then on the day of the actual test perhaps there will be a bit of a pleasant association that will help you relax. ", "Before your test close your eyes, lean back, and take a deep breath. Imagine going limp, like you are passing out. This should calm you down. ", "You will, eventually, pass your driving test.\n\nThe test is only going to take part of one day, which is only small part of the week, which is just a fraction of the month, which is a minuscule bit the year. Compared to how long you will live, it's basically nothing.\n\nThere will come a time when you can't really remember not having a license.\n\nRealize these things and I think you'll find that you are less worried.", "What helped me was I took a deep breath and thought about people I know that had to pass a driver's test. Think about it. Lindsay Lohan passed a driver's test at some point. The dumbest person I have ever met passed their test. Just don't psych yourself out and you'll do fine. ", "What I usually do when I stress out during a regular test is close my eyes (or stare at the paper to make it look less awkward) and inhale for six seconds (doesn't *need* to be six but around five would be nice) then exhale for three seconds. The exhaling is most important as that is the part where you actually start to calm down.\n\nIf I manage to still be stressed out after this I start paying close attention to my body parts - my feet are firmly on the ground, I'm seated comfortably, back is straight, head is tilted slightly to the front, etc.\n\nThis might not be the best advice *during* the driving test, but before it might really help you out like it does to me\n\n(A teacher taught me all this stuff at high school by the way, because I managed to fail tests because of my nerves...)\n\ntl;dr do relaxation excercises right before the exam\n\n(", "So I talked to the pharmacist and they felt i should try vitamin B tablets & \"Rescue Remedy Spray\". Also as many have suggested I'm focusing on my breathing quite a bit as I have realised I hold my breath when I get nervous which I guess exacerbates the issue.", "If you can (it's really difficult), try to not think - I mean don't let a single thought pass your mind. Do so for a minute (or what feels like a minute). I find it gives me a time to just stop and calm down. ", "If I'm not too late, you can probably go to a pharmacy, and they may have some over-the-counter meds to help, when I was going for mine, I had this stuff, you put a couple drops under your tongue, and it eases stress. There are pharmaceutical and herbal options.", "I find that a sure-fire way to calm any nerves and immediately gain immense amounts of confidence is to look at yourself (in a mirror or other) and just tell yourself \"you're the man!\". It's cheesy enough to put a smile on your face every time.", "I actually got this advice from a proffesional racer just before my racing class.(i know but it is a driving test.) i explained that i have too much adrenaline and it makes me shaky and anxious. He advised me to eat chocolate before anything nerve wrecking. He said it controles hormones in your body to relax you. Idk if its true or just a placebo but i was good. Hope it helps.", "Hey I've failed my first drivers test went right back the next day and owned it. No harm done and we are only humans. ", "Get in the car and picture the person giving the test taking an enormous poo. Everyone poos! Chatting them up relaxed me - I pretended like I was just doing them a favor by giving them a ride (lucky them, right?). Good luck - it'll work out!", "Deep breathing before you start the test. Inhale to a count of 5, exhale to a count of 5. Do it at least ten times, more if you want. Doing that slows your heart rate down, decreases your blood pressure, and will make you physically feel calmer. Then tell yourself that you are a confident driver, and you will do well. Then go kick ass on your test! ", "/r/nootropics would recommend L-Theanine. It's green tea extract essentially, really smooths out your mood. You might need to go to a specialty supplements store, it's not very common. \n\nAlso, take some caffeine with it, as it does make you lightly tired by itself." ]

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[ "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful.", "Cooking Portions for One Without Too Many Leftovers I am trying to figure out how to cook for just myself and often end up just eating out despite preferring to cook my own food. The issue is this: I don't eat a lot and every time I make a dish I end up with 4-6 meals worth of food. I could cook a smaller amount (and have tried to do that), but I don't want to deal with having a fridge full of 3/4 of an onion + 1/2 tomato + 1/2 bell pepper + half crown of broccoli + 2/3 block of tofu + 7/8 bunch of cilantro + half full cans of various stuff + etc.\n\nAnd I don't want 6 meals worth of the same food, even if it is pretty good. I get tired of it and it ends up discouraging me from cooking (\"I already have so much leftovers, I shouldn't go out and buy more food to make leftovers, but I've been eating the same 2 dishes all week and I want variety...\"). Also usually I can't finish it before it starts to go bad.\n\nIt's great when people come over because then I can make a recipe and not end up with tons of extra food that just sits in my fridge forever (so, weirdly, it's cheaper for me to feed 3 people at my house than for me to go out to eat alone). But making people come over so they can eat my food is not exactly a solution.\n\nAnyone have any tips on planning meals of relatively small portions? One or two servings of leftovers is fine, but 5 is just obnoxious and wasteful." ]

[ "buy products that can be used in small portions. The freezer is your friend. For instance with most fresh herbs you can do a rough chop and freeze them in little baggies and they will still be pretty good whenever you get back to them (not as good as fresh but better than dried). You can also freeze soups, stocks, purees and sauces in ice cube trays then put them into baggies. Then whenever you are cooking and want some of that sauce you can vary the amount you use very easily. When you buy meat portion it out and freeze what you don't think you'll eat right away. Make sure you have a divider between portions so you don't have to thaw it all out to get just one piece to use. Label everything in your freezer with what it is and when it was frozen so you don't forget and end up throwing away mystery packages.\n\nAs far as the bits of veggies left over you're just going to have to be a little creative with them. You can make very different dishes with similar ingredients.\n\nCook in a 12 in skillet on your stove top. It's much easier to estimate how much food you'll need for one meal when you use one of these, versus making things in the oven or in pots. Try to wean yourself off of recipes. Learn individual skills like, how to broil a steak, how to prepare rice and pasta, how to thicken a sauce, etc. YouTube is your friend in this. Then when you are cooking you can just use your skills to create what you want instead of following precise measurements which are probably intended to feed a whole family. ", "obvious thing is to use simpler recipes, or smaller items - shallots instead of an onion etc - and buy fresh ingredients with the aim of using all of what you buy in one dish\n\nor for more liquid items, perhaps you can freeze portions in an ice-cube tray for instance\n\ndepends what you make of course, sounds like 2-3 portions is ok for you, perhaps it's also a case of slightly more planning - listing the meals you want to eat- identifying common ingredients and perhaps optimising recipes to use whole amounts of foodstuffs - you could also cook everything on one day", "This is going to sound silly. Make a menu. Design it to consume left over ingredients in a timely fashion. Make use of pot pie, Sheppard's pie and the like to clear out excess. \n\nWhen I was single, I relied a lot on freezing. Boil potatoes and freeze them for mashed potato base. My largest problem was wanting to work on pork loin or pot roast recipes and ending up with extra pounds of meat.", "Split the leftovers up into single portions and freeze them. Then reheat when you're no longer sick of that meal. \n\nYou also don't need to cook big complicated meals to cook at home. You can easily cook a single portion meal pretty quickly. Fry or steam up some veg and make some rice or pasta to throw it over. ", "Basically, don't be tied to a recipe. A lot of ingredients are interchangeable, and feel free to do so!\nGroup the ingredients for a recipe into broad categories: protein, starch, veggie, dairy, sauce (aromatics). When you're ready to cook, pick your general recipe, and then look what's in your fridge to substitute in what you already have. The same veggies or proteins or starches (or all three even) won't taste the same if you're using a different preparation and different sauces. \nFor example, the ingredients you list up there could be anything. Add rice, rice wine vinegar, ginger, garlic, and soy sauce, and it's a stir fry. Instead, use coconut milk and cook it in a curry, and you have Indian or Thai. \nHerbs are harder because they are perishable and are very redolent of a single cuisine. You can try to grow your own or freeze them. \nSo many foodstuffs can be frozen. I would check out [stilltasty.com](http://stilltasty.com) to find out how long things last in fridge vs. freezer.\nLast tip is generally it's easier to reuse ingredients if you stick with one cuisine a week. If that doesn't sound too boring for you, you can make a bunch of different Thai dishes one week, Indian the next, Italian after that ... Or if a whole week of Thai sounds boring, group into larger geographic areas. A lot of Asian cuisines use the same bases with slightly different preparations or base ingredient. \nBasically, the more you cook, you'll learn that certain ingredients are serving particular purposes in the dish, and once you know their purposes, you can swap them out for what you have on hand without sacrificing the dish.\nHave fun with it! ", "Plan menus ahead that use similar ingredients. If you can't do this for yourself, there are services out there for things like this.\n\nI found fresh20 via groupon. Uses in seasonally fresh veggies and a minimum of ingredients. They have vegetarian and gluten free options, as well. All of the recipes I've used are good, many are amazing. It's designed for 4 servings in 30 minutes (some have you make 4 cups of rice for the week or something) - I make half batches and have leftovers for lunch.\n\nSample recipe for Salisbury Veggies on pepper noodles (in my shorthand)\n\nINGREDIENTS\n\n3 T oil \n1 onion, diced\n½ onion, sliced thin\n4 carrots, cut bite size\n2 zucchini, chopped \n4 oz mushrooms, sliced\n2 t Dijon\n1 garlic, minced\n2 t oregano\n2 T whole wheat flour\n½ c red wine\n1 c broth\n½ t salt \n½ t pepper\n8 oz whole wheat egg noodles\n1 c peas \n1 T oil\npepper to taste\n\nBoil noodles, drain over peas.\nReturn to pot, add 1 T oil, pepper to taste.\nSaute Veggies. Add spices and flour. Saute 1 minute (stir)\nDeglaze with wine, reduce 1 minute. \nAdd broth, simmer till gravy.\nServe over noodles", "I don't know your lifestyle or anything, but when I cook I like to make lots of leftovers. Granted it I'd for me and my girlfriend so they go twice as fast, but sometimes I go for a double batch. \nThe reason is because I discovered I ear about 10 ounces of whatever food it is, and I can portion that out. I have a scale and spoon the food (usually with a rice scooper as it fits best) into a zip lock that is lining a mug. The mug and zip lock are sitting on a kitchen scale. \nOnce you have them all portioned into meals, throw them in the freezer. To reheat, I use a covered glass bowl in the microwave for like 4 minutes. \nSince they are frozen they last a really long time, and you build up a variety. They make packing lunches for work really easy and the food is so much better than just a sandwich every day. ", "Freeze the leftover portions. Invest in a FoodSaver to keep them fresh and prevent freezer burn. This will also make the food more appetizing, so that you're more likely to eat it.\n\nUse a toaster oven to heat up leftovers. Infinitely better than a microwave, but convenient, and doesn't use as much energy as the full oven.\n\nPlan meals that use the same ingredients. For example:\n\n* Day 1: Hamburger | Day 2: Mac & cheese with hamburger meat\n\n* Day 1: Beanless chili | Day 2: Chili mac\n\n* Day 1: Spaghetti with meat sauce | Day 2: Sloppy joes (using the leftover sauce)\n\n* Day 1: Corned beef & sauerkraut | Day 2: Ruben sandwich on rye", "For some of those things, like onions or tomatoes, lots of dishes use those, so you can use an onion in lots of different types of dishes over the course of a week. As for veggies, what I often do is buy several I like, and just through some of each in each meal. Veggies will last a while in a fridge. If you are cooking most nights it shouldn't be an issue to use it up over the course of a week or so. \n\nYou can also look at using more frozen veggies. They usually taste good, don't have additives (be sure to check) and just as healthy. You also don't have to worry about cutting them up, which is nice.\n" ]

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[ "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!", "How to get over an SO? I just want to not feel like crap all the time. \nI am very aware that I should \"surround myself with friends\" and \"go do stuff\", but I was wondering if any of you have a technique, routine, or 'way' that you get over things. \nThanks!" ]

[ "Time is really your best friend. I broke up with my ex a few months back and I gotta tell you the first few weeks will be rough (depending on how long you were together for).\n\nMy advice is to ride it out. Initiate a no contact policy. Trust me, it'll help in the long run. I kept talking to her and trying to be friends for the first two weeks and I think that delayed my recovery process a lot. Try and avoid all memories of them for a certain amount of time. You can go back to it later on.\n\nPick up a new hobby. I hit the gym and started a diet and I've been feeling great. Take a class for something you've always wanted to learn. I started re-learning Mandarin at a local CC. Go out often and have fun. You don't need a SO to enjoy yourself, and you are not an incomplete person without one. Its hard to get used to going out with friends once you're accustomed to having a SO to go out with but you'll end up enjoying it.\n\nUtilize your network. Honestly, some of my best support came from friends and family. They *should ideally make you feel better about yourself and about the situation. Whether you got dumped or did the dumping, its hard on both sides.\n\nTL;DR no contact for a certain period of time, get a hobby, take a class, get out of the house. Things will get better with time.", "Working out works for me. It helps take my mind off things while I sculpt luscious abs for the my future SO.", "I think it's critical to first acknowledge that the way you feel right now is not the way you will always feel. At some level, you know that, at some point down the line, this will get better. That being said, what can you do to accelerate the process? Best thing is to get occupied in a productive way - find a hobby, join a club, get out and try not to wallow... as much as possible. Hang in there, it will get better!", "Do something you've never done before. New hobby or change of routine. Something different to not remind you of them. ", "1. Talk about it. And I don't mean with your ex. Talking through things is a great way to sort through how you feel and move on. Find a friend and talk about they why for things. \nGet to the root of different parts so you can resolve them.\n\n2. Know that it's ok. Don't beat yourself up about it, don't panic or freak out. Of course you miss someone when they aren't around. Our brains work on patterns, we freaking love patterns, so it feels \"wrong\" when things have changed. This is why people suggest new hobbies etc. it gives you less time to be in the same situations, and creates new status quo for your simple lizard brain to follow. It works for all of our simple lizard brains too.\n\n3. Get rid of them. That means the photos, your connection on Facebook, rename them in your contacts (ZZ- Ex if you need their number for some reason). Re arrange your furniture, throw out the food they left in the cupboard. You don't have to go all madman/madwoman and burn everything. Just move those photos, trinkets and recognisable gifts into a box. You can reminisce later.\n\n4. Write a letter. An email, a something. I don't care what. But SAY the things you need to say to them. Get it all out. Be angry, be emotional and sad, be happy that fool is out of your life. Anything, just SAY something.\nDone that? Great. Now destroy it. Burn it, delete it, kill the draft. Never send it to them. YOU needed to say it. They don't need to read it. Just get it out of your head.\n\n5. Cry. If you gotta do it, do it. Tears actually help with negative emotions by releasing the chemicals that make you sad. Crying literally takes the sadness out of you.\n\n6. Find other things to miss. Think back to the other losses. The girl in high school you broke up with before prom. The guy you met at camp that one time. Whatever it is. Life is a complex tapestry, find the other things you know you got over, and remember that this too will be ok.", "get drunk and sit around in your apartments parking lot with the outdoor cat that lives in the house next door.", "4 months ago I was in the same position as you, feeling like crap all the time. I started going to the gym, dating with some girls and hanging out with my friends a lot (3-4 times a week). And still feel like crap sometimes. So hang in there man its a long road for sure but we will be fine at the end.", "You said it. Surround yourself with friends, always be doing something. Another SO will come your way if you work on keeping yourself busy.", "Oh man, I had a rough one 4 years ago. Girl I'd been dating/living with for 3 years broke up with me 6 weeks into a 4.5 month contract working on a cruise ship. I was stuck in the middle of the Caribbean with a broken heart, no one I knew around me, without a day off, with 3 more months before I could go home and reset my life. She was living in my house during this time, hanging with my friends, and \"enjoying\" her single life... amply. I watched the whole thing go down by FB while I was isolated from my support, alone for the holidays, generally just miserable.\n\nAfter a month of trying to stay in contact, fix things, all the typical stupid post-breakup stuff - I flipped a switch. I blocked her on FB. I unfriended all the people I only knew through her. I put a sign on the inside door of my cabin that said:\n\n\"You're ugly and your mother dresses you funny. Now put a smile on your face you fuckin' douche.\n\n(otherwise knows as BilliousN's Personal Improvement Plan)\n\n1: :30 Min Workout EVERY DAY\n2: Eat a salad for dinner, THEN see if you're still hungry.\n3: Listen to some music EVERY day.\n4: Send a personal email to someone you love EVERY day.\n\nRemember, you did your best, and were your best. The weakness of another does not reflect on you. If you were to try to return all the love of your family and friends, you'd never have time to sleep.\"\n\nI LIVED THAT SHIT. I came home 3 months later 20lbs lighter, with a shit load of confidence, and in that span of time met the woman that would later become my wife. I also engaged in the company of several nationalities of women after I got done moping and started living. \n\nNo event flipped that switch - it was a singular moment when I decided to change my approach, and it was the best thing ever. ", "LFT's my friend ( Look Forward To's )\n\nI broke up with my ex girlfriend almost two months ago and being honest I was totally crushed. I had everything planned for the future and the vision always had her in it.\n\nFirstly we cut all contact, it was totally hard to break the whole routine of texting and phoning on a daily basis. \n\nThen I started doing things for myself, things to make myself feel better.\n\nIn two months I signed up to the gym, I sponsor an African child, I take Brazilian Jujitsu classes on a Monday and Kick Boxing Classes on a Wednesday, I'm training for a 10k run in November and also training for my first MMA fight in March, I have booked a trip to Ireland in December, Amsterdam in March and Portugal also in March.\n\nI believe that I have filled my life with so much Look Fordward To's that this has slowly pushed any spare time to think about my ex out.\n\nMy advice? for the first month or so, keep yourself occupied...", "It takes time but I would try new things that you don't associate with your SO. Never gone dancing? Do it. Wanna try a new food? Do it. Want to skydive? Fucking do it!", "Definitely try something new, whether it's new music, a hobby, who knows? Do what feels necessary for you.\n\nAs far as mentally getting over someone goes, you honestly just have to rationalize the fact that they're gone and that chapter of your life has gone, you gained from the experience and you can move forward more emotionally grounded for future challenges.\n\nDon't think about them, dwelling doesn't change the situation and emotionally masturbating is useless and exhausting. It doesn't promote healthy thinking, and it's cognitively rich experiences like this that engrain future behaviors, so do the right thing and let yourself be happy." ]

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[ "How to prevent back-ankle blisters with low cut socks. I'm not sure if this happens to anyone else, so this may be pretty specific. \n\nI recently ordered a bulk pack of 96 plain socks, because frustration of never having matching socks due to single-sock-stealing goblins. The only problem is that I ordered the worst kind of socks, the kind that fit like [this](http://i.imgur.com/IlviWnD.png)\n\nThis leads me to develop this blister/cut thing [here](http://i.imgur.com/E3GQuUZ.png)\n\nIs there any way to prevent this? Because I don't think companies allow refunds on things like socks and underwear. I don't mind the looks of the socks themselves, I just don't really like blisters.\n\nAlso, I'm sorry for the shitty photoshop.", "How to prevent back-ankle blisters with low cut socks. I'm not sure if this happens to anyone else, so this may be pretty specific. \n\nI recently ordered a bulk pack of 96 plain socks, because frustration of never having matching socks due to single-sock-stealing goblins. The only problem is that I ordered the worst kind of socks, the kind that fit like [this](http://i.imgur.com/IlviWnD.png)\n\nThis leads me to develop this blister/cut thing [here](http://i.imgur.com/E3GQuUZ.png)\n\nIs there any way to prevent this? Because I don't think companies allow refunds on things like socks and underwear. I don't mind the looks of the socks themselves, I just don't really like blisters.\n\nAlso, I'm sorry for the shitty photoshop.", "How to prevent back-ankle blisters with low cut socks. I'm not sure if this happens to anyone else, so this may be pretty specific. \n\nI recently ordered a bulk pack of 96 plain socks, because frustration of never having matching socks due to single-sock-stealing goblins. The only problem is that I ordered the worst kind of socks, the kind that fit like [this](http://i.imgur.com/IlviWnD.png)\n\nThis leads me to develop this blister/cut thing [here](http://i.imgur.com/E3GQuUZ.png)\n\nIs there any way to prevent this? Because I don't think companies allow refunds on things like socks and underwear. I don't mind the looks of the socks themselves, I just don't really like blisters.\n\nAlso, I'm sorry for the shitty photoshop." ]

[ "There is a product called 'moleskin' you can buy at any pharmacy in the US, or online in other countries. It is about $4USD for a pack and simulates an extra layer of skin. Athletes use them a lot for breaking in new shoes, skating boots, etc. It is like a band-aid, but you cut it to the shape you need and it is extra sticky on the back so it stays put all day, inspite of the constant rubbing. ", "Yeah, those socks are the worst. Check out this page on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=feet+blister", "Try running socks. They cover the back of your ankle unless you wear high tops. They also have a tab of fabric at the back to stop them from falling down." ]

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[ "How to get certain thoughts out of your head? get a thought in my head and just go over it for minutes to hours without being able to get it out of my head without serious distraction. These thoughts include:\n\n* Worrying about family being hurt/killed/missing.\n* Myself having various illnesses or dental issues (beyond the asthma, blood pressure, and immune system issues I have).\n* Worrying I am failing even when I know I'm succeeding at a task.\n* Worrying I misunderstood what people said and will do the wrong thing.\n* Raneromly thinking of little, stupid things I did years ago.\n\nNow while I can handle myself when I have time, one area this has made things hard in is driving. Once I have driven for a period of time I'm fine, but to start driving makes me incredibly nervous in that I start thinking in a lot of the ways listed in relation to driving.\n\nThanks for the time and any advice reddit!\n", "How to get certain thoughts out of your head? get a thought in my head and just go over it for minutes to hours without being able to get it out of my head without serious distraction. These thoughts include:\n\n* Worrying about family being hurt/killed/missing.\n* Myself having various illnesses or dental issues (beyond the asthma, blood pressure, and immune system issues I have).\n* Worrying I am failing even when I know I'm succeeding at a task.\n* Worrying I misunderstood what people said and will do the wrong thing.\n* Raneromly thinking of little, stupid things I did years ago.\n\nNow while I can handle myself when I have time, one area this has made things hard in is driving. Once I have driven for a period of time I'm fine, but to start driving makes me incredibly nervous in that I start thinking in a lot of the ways listed in relation to driving.\n\nThanks for the time and any advice reddit!\n", "How to get certain thoughts out of your head? get a thought in my head and just go over it for minutes to hours without being able to get it out of my head without serious distraction. These thoughts include:\n\n* Worrying about family being hurt/killed/missing.\n* Myself having various illnesses or dental issues (beyond the asthma, blood pressure, and immune system issues I have).\n* Worrying I am failing even when I know I'm succeeding at a task.\n* Worrying I misunderstood what people said and will do the wrong thing.\n* Raneromly thinking of little, stupid things I did years ago.\n\nNow while I can handle myself when I have time, one area this has made things hard in is driving. Once I have driven for a period of time I'm fine, but to start driving makes me incredibly nervous in that I start thinking in a lot of the ways listed in relation to driving.\n\nThanks for the time and any advice reddit!\n" ]

[ "The general strategy here is to think about something else. \n \nI know that sounds almost silly, but it's really the trick. When the bad thoughts come in, you want to just acknowledge that they're there, and then immediately change the channel to something else. It doesn't really matter what it is, so long as it is something non-threatening and of your control. \n \nFor instance, when driving you can just glance down at the texture of the steering wheel or dashboard, consider the font of the letters in the instrument cluster. Maybe start playing the alphabet road sign game in your head. Anything else to put your attention on. If the nervousness crops up just take a deep breath, say to yourself (either audibly or in your head) \"Very soon I will be relaxed, and everything will be fine\". Try to imagine yourself in 5, 10 or 20 minutes driving along without any worry.", "Write it down. Keep a \"vent\" journal and write whatever is on your mind. Trust me it helps sooo much. I write in mine once every couple of months. ", "Recently I've been struggling with this myself. After taking some exchanged words the wrong way I realized way too late that this girl I like didn't have the same feelings for me. I live really close to my gym, like within walking distance and whenever I start to feel down or worried I go and exercise. Not sure if this helps, but i hope it does. 😀" ]

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[ "Best way to memorize a 5 minute speech, word for word. I have a speech that I wrote, it's great. I would like to completely avoid written note cards.\n\nWhat is the most effective way to memorize it in say, 3-4 days? \n\nThanks!", "Best way to memorize a 5 minute speech, word for word. I have a speech that I wrote, it's great. I would like to completely avoid written note cards.\n\nWhat is the most effective way to memorize it in say, 3-4 days? \n\nThanks!", "Best way to memorize a 5 minute speech, word for word. I have a speech that I wrote, it's great. I would like to completely avoid written note cards.\n\nWhat is the most effective way to memorize it in say, 3-4 days? \n\nThanks!", "Best way to memorize a 5 minute speech, word for word. I have a speech that I wrote, it's great. I would like to completely avoid written note cards.\n\nWhat is the most effective way to memorize it in say, 3-4 days? \n\nThanks!", "Best way to memorize a 5 minute speech, word for word. I have a speech that I wrote, it's great. I would like to completely avoid written note cards.\n\nWhat is the most effective way to memorize it in say, 3-4 days? \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Do it out loud and walking around so that you can hear yourself and so that it gets into your body not just your head. Also, you'll probably be giving this speech standing up, so this is good practice. \n\nRead the first sentence and memorize it. Then read the first sentence and the second and memorize the two. Then read the first three sentences and memorize the first three. Then read and memorize the fourth sentence and say all four out loud. And So On.\n\nor break it into paragraphs or smaller portions. - The point is it's hard to memorize it all at once.\n\nI print out a copy so I can walk around with it. I also put an extra copy into a gallon size zip lock bag and hang it on my shower wall so I can practice and shower at the same time. (The bag doesn't make it water proof but protects against most of the water, especially if you hang it up pretty high.)", "Try studying right before going to bed; and get plenty of sleep after studying. Studies suggest that sleep helps in consolidation of memory.\n\n[Link](http://healthysleep.med.harvard.edu/healthy/matters/benefits-of-sleep/learning-memory)", "Be passionate about what you're speaking about. Use minimal note cards. Only write key points. \n\n\nIf you're speaking about something you care about you'll have a much better speech. \n\n", "Don't just practice it straight through over and over. Practice starting at different points in your speech. Practice in different environments so you don't subconsciously rely on visual elements of the place you practice as a memory device. \n\nA method I like to use is to fill in blanks. Download the app called \"Poems by Heart\" by Penguin Classics and you'll get the gist of how to do this. Start with the structure of your speech. Memorize the progression from one section to the next. Then break each section down into the main points and memorize those. Then break each point down into how you are making that point (giving an anecdote, making a joke, etc.). You don't want to memorize word for word, but for the places where you want to use a specific phrasing, make a Word doc of your speech where you replace those phrases or points with blanks. Then practice giving the speech and filling in those phrases. Gradually increase the number of blanks in your speech till you have it memorized. ", "\"Method of loci\" explained:\n\nCicero recommended that you imagine the speech like walking through a mansion. Every room in the mansion (foyer, drawing room, guest room, pool house, billiards room, kitchen, pantry, basement, laundry room, master bedroom, bathroom, great hall, etc etc etc) represents a different section of your speech. Every room also has a few obvious articles (kitchen has refrigerator, stove, table, microwave etc) that correspond to every paragraph in that section. This way, you don't need to keep the whole speech in your head. All you need to remember is the overall \"path\" through the mansion, and the individual passages." ]

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[ "What to do when someone door dings your car. I drive a pretty nice car and have gotten door dinged several times. Usually the person says they're sorry and I accept their apology because I don't know what else I can do. This is assuming you know who did it.", "What to do when someone door dings your car. I drive a pretty nice car and have gotten door dinged several times. Usually the person says they're sorry and I accept their apology because I don't know what else I can do. This is assuming you know who did it.", "What to do when someone door dings your car. I drive a pretty nice car and have gotten door dinged several times. Usually the person says they're sorry and I accept their apology because I don't know what else I can do. This is assuming you know who did it.", "What to do when someone door dings your car. I drive a pretty nice car and have gotten door dinged several times. Usually the person says they're sorry and I accept their apology because I don't know what else I can do. This is assuming you know who did it.", "What to do when someone door dings your car. I drive a pretty nice car and have gotten door dinged several times. Usually the person says they're sorry and I accept their apology because I don't know what else I can do. This is assuming you know who did it." ]

[ "Act like it's completely natural to exchange information for paying repairs. Directly or through insurance. Because it is.\n\nA car is not supposed to keep looking new, but it's up to you if you will accept dents and dings as natural wear.\n\nI repair almost any scratch (deeper than clear coat), dent and ding on my car. If I cause anything like that on someone else's car, I offer to pay for it.", "This happened to me when my car was 2 weeks old. I took pictures of my car and the other car from multiple angles and tried to show where the paint taken from my car was located on their car. I then called the police and they sent an officer who verified the \"accident\" and wrote a report. The report was free for me but may cost 5 or so dollars depending on city or state. The report had information that got me in contact with the owner of the car. He thought it was ridiculous that I was asking him to fix what his daughter caused, since dings happen. I explained that I had the police report and that he could either pay for damages or his insurance could. I also checked around for the best quote on repairs and let him choose which repair company he wanted to go with. I didn't feel bad, because their were 12 or so other colors and paint marks on his daughters car besides mine. Apparently she just couldn't open her door without kicking it open. To clarify it was his daughter's car and she was driving so she was old enough to know better. \n\nTL:DR Girl hit my door with her door. Called the cops and got a police report. Told her father either he paid for damages or his insurance would. Got my repairs paid for. ", "If you have proof (pictures of dent, their parking and their number plate) and insurance, you might be able to claim from your insurer, and in certain states, they will get the money from their insurer (other states there is a no-fault rule, and you will always have to pay the excess). Be ready for people's mood to instantly swing from apologetic to extremely hostile when you ask for there insurance information (I literally had a guy suddenly started shouting racist slurs, and threatening to kill me with his gang after he bumped my car).\n\nBesides that the best way is always prevention: always park next to cars that are better than yours. This way they care more than you.", "Get over it you pretentious prick!! Door dings are a part of owning a car. Do you not have any sense of forgiveness or any kind of human decency to let the little things go?! I sure hope I don't ding your car by accident. Wait no, I would turn my wheel and let my mirror put a nice long scrape down the side of your stupid little car just to rub it in to you what an ******* you truly are.", "Get at least their number plate, pictures of your damage and their door (especially if there's your colour paint on it and they are another colour), see if there's any cctv and make a report. \r\rI don't care what care anyone drives, how cheap it is, how they parked or anything. In my mind damage to my property is damage to my property. Even if I'm not parked straight, that doesn't give anyone a free legal pass to damage my vehicle. Even if the police can't do more then say it was a 'door open and run' to your insurance company its a not at fault claim. " ]

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[ "How to be comfortable in airplane seating. There is something about airplane seating that makes my back hurt. What tips and tricks do you have that will help me be very comfortable during my time spent on an airplane?", "How to be comfortable in airplane seating. There is something about airplane seating that makes my back hurt. What tips and tricks do you have that will help me be very comfortable during my time spent on an airplane?", "How to be comfortable in airplane seating. There is something about airplane seating that makes my back hurt. What tips and tricks do you have that will help me be very comfortable during my time spent on an airplane?", "How to be comfortable in airplane seating. There is something about airplane seating that makes my back hurt. What tips and tricks do you have that will help me be very comfortable during my time spent on an airplane?", "How to be comfortable in airplane seating. There is something about airplane seating that makes my back hurt. What tips and tricks do you have that will help me be very comfortable during my time spent on an airplane?", "How to be comfortable in airplane seating. There is something about airplane seating that makes my back hurt. What tips and tricks do you have that will help me be very comfortable during my time spent on an airplane?", "How to be comfortable in airplane seating. There is something about airplane seating that makes my back hurt. What tips and tricks do you have that will help me be very comfortable during my time spent on an airplane?" ]

[ "Always recline your seat. Don't feel bad about it. Move the stuff you put under the seat in front of you and stretch your legs out. It is always very dry so ask for two waters and pack those travel tissues. Put in your ear plugs and sleep mask. Zone out and get some sleep. I just flew a red eye a few days ago. A baby started screaming every 30 minutes or so. I was still able to get some rest. ", "You are supposed to be uncomfortable unless you fly first class. Basic capitalism, I would do the same if I owned an airline.", "Use the pillow they give you at your lower back, stretch your legs (you can fiddle them under the seat in front of you), order lots of gin tonic! Oh and get up some times and walk around ... they have areas in the back where you can just stand for a while (and get more gin!)", "If you're tall and that is the main issue, then try (in the window seat specifically) putting a pillow on the arm rest and resting your back against it. Then while angled towards the window bend your legs up and rest your feet in the inside of the window indent. I find this really helpful in relieving the feeling of blood pooling in your legs. Works for me, especially on long flights.", "If you are willing to, most airlines have a sort of upgraded economy class. Depends on the airline. But economy plus is usually not that much more than an economy class ticket. \n\nFor example, I was on a 13 hour flight from LAX to Taiwan and a 4 hour flight from Taiwan to India. Both airlines were EVA Air. We bought economy plus tickets that were about $100 more than the regular tickets. WORTH. EVERY. PENNY. More leg room, bigger TV's, bigger seats, and a better eating menu", "I have a Thermarest Trail Seat cushion that I originally got for camping. Lightly inflating it does wonders for airplane and bus seats.\n\nhttp://www.cascadedesigns.com/therm-a-rest/seating/seats/trail-seat/product", "I always bring an easily collapsable sports duffle bag stuffed with a pillow. Yes, an entire huge pillow. I use it to sit on or to sleep on if I get the window seat. Also, ask for a second mini pillow as soon as you arrive on the plane. They can run out of pillows/blankets if you wait too long. I use them to line the bottom of my seat and to support my lower back.\n\nProblems you can run into: It doesn't always happen, but some flights will stop me at the gate and say I can't bring two carry ons, but when I open up the bag and pull out a pillow, they don't argue. The bag itself collapses into a tiny little flat mush, and you're allowed to bring pillows. My wife brings a giant stuffed toy pig the size of a pillow, no one EVER questions her. Haha! \n\nWe fly often and have looooooong flights (10 hours plus) so I seriously recommend getting up frequently and stretching. It prevents us from getting crippling back/leg pain AND on the plus side, you can chat with the flight attendents and snag some extra snacks! Also, tried the sleeping pill method and it just results in you feeling horrible and sluggish afterwards. Also, if you fall asleep at a weird angle, you deal with horrible pain once the drugs wear off. Never again for me personally!\n" ]

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[ "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted.", "how can I stop being addicted to my smart phone? I hate waking up and the first thing I do is reach for my phone with my eyes half way shut just to look at messages. Then spend an hour in bed looking at things. I also always take and look at my phone in the bathroom, shower, and even at meet ups with people. It’s also making me sleep late as when I lay down in bed I look at my phone for hours. I feel like it’s something that I am using to fill a void with and I want to focus on improving myself but I’m being bogged down with the constant viewing of my phone. What are some ways to fill the void and stop myself from being addicted." ]

[ "Get a flip phone with limited capabilities. It'll free up much of your time. No more rabbit holes or random answers to inane questions you have throughout the day. Get a notebook and keep your thoughts there then at the end of the day sit at a PC and throw them down.", "Delete all social media and entertainment apps. So when you open your phone, you've got nothing to do, and you just put it back down. That's what I did. Because I'm a simple person, I also hid my App Store in the back of a folder, so I wouldn't be impulsively tempted to open it and download some useless app.\n\nAfter a couple of weeks or so, you'll feel more confident about your self control, and you wont feel the \"withdrawal\" so much. ", "Keep your phone away from your bed so that you have to get up to get it. Even better keep in a different room. If you have to get up and walk to get your phone you are less likely to go back to bed. \n\nAlso, try to get involved in things you like/want to do. E.g join a gym or start walking or play some sports or something else that you would start wanting to do in morning. This will help you start doing other things then just staying on your phone. ", "I was addicted to my phone before. But this summer i dropped it in water, then i had to go without a smartphone for 4 weeks. I enjoyed it, and when i got my new phone i deleted most of the sosial media, and time-consumer apps. \n\nI only keep the most important on my homescreen. At the time it is phone, messages, google keep, kamera, reddit, spotify and my bussticket. The rest i keep in the appdrawer. \n\nI almost never use my phone anymore, except when i want to, and have some spare time for myself. I never waste time on my phone anymore. The reason i keep reddit is because i read news here, and it helps me improve my life. \n\n\nSome of my friends was kind of freaked out when i started this, they said they would never be able to reach me. But now they are used to it, and i have started calling and texting my friends a lot more, instead of keeping contact on snapchat, instagram etc.\n\nI also used to take my phone to bed, but after the transition i havent. I sleep a lot better and a lot more. This makes daily tasks a lot easier, and i am a lot happier.\n\nI hope you make the transition as well, it has improved my life a lot.", "To avoid reading it in bed, charge it every night in another room. That way you can't even reach it from bed. Buy a normal alarm clock if you need one, to avoid picking up the phone first thing in the morning.\n\nYou are right that you are probably using the smartphone to fill some void. I suggest talking to a therapist about this, because they can help you figure out what is missing and how you can fulfill it in a healthy way.\n\nRemember all addictions happen because something is missing. Just have to find what it is.", "Put your phone charger in the kitchen and get an alarm clock. You can also install apps that will restrict app access at different times of day, install one of those and have someone else set the password for you so you can't bypass it just because you want to keep using your phone after 11pm.", "Set yourself some rules, like never use your phone in your room. Also, find stuff that are truly fulfilling and you have fun doing that are not on your phone. Sometimes the best way to get rid of something is to replace it.", "If you're really having trouble stopping cell phone usage, wean yourself off slowly. It might be hard to not touch your phone at all for a whole day or to suddenly switch to a flip phone. Every night, record the time that you end up getting off your phone and going to bed. The next night, go to bed 5/10 minutes earlier. Do this for a month or two. Work on one thing at a time. After your sleep schedule improves and you can sleep without your phone (I believe sleep is probably most important), start working on other parts of your life.", "Going through this 6 day challenge really helped me! [Bored and Brilliant](https://www.wnyc.org/series/bored-and-brilliant) ", "Excuse my mr robot rant here but ehat really helped me was seeing how bad it is for your provacy, like your phone knows everything about you and its sort of scary" ]

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[ "How to Really Understand Math and see the Bigger Picture, e. g. , such as Being able to do Challenging Proofs or Critical Thinking Problems? I can do easy things, like finding the answer to an equation or a missing number in an equation. Really difficult problems, such as [this](https://imgur.com/gallery/5Z1ZSUc). I just can't put it together and I keep thinking there is either something wrong with me, the teacher or my way of thinking, with the 1st and last ones being what I think is the issue.", "How to Really Understand Math and see the Bigger Picture, e. g. , such as Being able to do Challenging Proofs or Critical Thinking Problems? I can do easy things, like finding the answer to an equation or a missing number in an equation. Really difficult problems, such as [this](https://imgur.com/gallery/5Z1ZSUc). I just can't put it together and I keep thinking there is either something wrong with me, the teacher or my way of thinking, with the 1st and last ones being what I think is the issue.", "How to Really Understand Math and see the Bigger Picture, e. g. , such as Being able to do Challenging Proofs or Critical Thinking Problems? I can do easy things, like finding the answer to an equation or a missing number in an equation. Really difficult problems, such as [this](https://imgur.com/gallery/5Z1ZSUc). I just can't put it together and I keep thinking there is either something wrong with me, the teacher or my way of thinking, with the 1st and last ones being what I think is the issue.", "How to Really Understand Math and see the Bigger Picture, e. g. , such as Being able to do Challenging Proofs or Critical Thinking Problems? I can do easy things, like finding the answer to an equation or a missing number in an equation. Really difficult problems, such as [this](https://imgur.com/gallery/5Z1ZSUc). I just can't put it together and I keep thinking there is either something wrong with me, the teacher or my way of thinking, with the 1st and last ones being what I think is the issue." ]

[ "The only way to get good at solving any type of difficult math question is to practice. Sorry but that's the only way, and no, you're not dumb, you just need practice", "I'm guessing this is geometry. For proofs, it's good to make flashcards of theorems with the if.. on the front and then.. on the back. Once you know these theorems well enough, you will be able to make connections through observing the main things given in the diagram. After that, the only way to get better is to keep practicing, but you can sometimes search up answers online on how to do the problems if you take too long.", "Try to fill in all the information you know and work from there, similar to a sudoku puzzle. Many times you will figure out more information than what you needed to answer the question, but practice can help to cut down on off track lines of thoughts. Keeping a sequential list of reasoning also helps to sort out your thinking and makes it easy to justify the conclusion at the end. Never expect for proofs to come from your first line of reasoning and be willing to start attacking the problem from another angle when you get stuck. Sometimes I’ll get stuck on one equation that I’ve extrapolated, leave it circled, and after a different line of reasoning, I can use it to help solve the problem.\n\nAlso always try to look for patterns, that’s the basics of math. For instance the solution to the example problem relies on finding similar triangles for comparison.", "Look for the easiest way to get what you need, so:\n\nEF×ED = AB×AD\n\nThen just follow the steps to solve each part of what you need.\n\nFrankly for any math equation, figure out what you need (and the units) and then what your given (always include units!) And figure out how to combine them to get the answer. In word problems they often give excessive info, you don't neccassarily have to use it all." ]

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[ "How to become ambidextrous Becoming ambidextrous means being able to write with both hands, which can be a neat/useful talent to have. People who have trained themselves to become ambidextrous how did you go around doing so? ", "How to become ambidextrous Becoming ambidextrous means being able to write with both hands, which can be a neat/useful talent to have. People who have trained themselves to become ambidextrous how did you go around doing so? ", "How to become ambidextrous Becoming ambidextrous means being able to write with both hands, which can be a neat/useful talent to have. People who have trained themselves to become ambidextrous how did you go around doing so? ", "How to become ambidextrous Becoming ambidextrous means being able to write with both hands, which can be a neat/useful talent to have. People who have trained themselves to become ambidextrous how did you go around doing so? ", "How to become ambidextrous Becoming ambidextrous means being able to write with both hands, which can be a neat/useful talent to have. People who have trained themselves to become ambidextrous how did you go around doing so? ", "How to become ambidextrous Becoming ambidextrous means being able to write with both hands, which can be a neat/useful talent to have. People who have trained themselves to become ambidextrous how did you go around doing so? ", "How to become ambidextrous Becoming ambidextrous means being able to write with both hands, which can be a neat/useful talent to have. People who have trained themselves to become ambidextrous how did you go around doing so? " ]

[ "Not ambidextrous, but that is a skill and all skills are learned through practice. So whatever you do, practice it, start doing stuff with your other hand.\n\nIn elementary, there was this girl, we were about 13-14 years old. That girl was left handed and I was right handed, so being that I liked her (and she had no idea), I started using my left hand to do stuff in order to somehow get closer to her (stupid, yes, I know now). Anyhow, for good two weeks I've done everything I'd usually do with my right hand, with my left hand, including writing (even some homeworks). And I was paying attention on it every time. Needles to say it was completely pointless for that girl... On the other hand, I could've written with my left hand relatively well. It *was* still bad handwriting and nowhere near as fine as my right handwriting, but it was pretty damn better left handwriting than that of others.\n\nTwo weeks.", "Its a very complicated process ready... step 1.do shit with your other hand. Step 2. Stop when you can do shit just as good with your off hand.... hmm seemed trickier in my head", "I've had friends learn to write with their off hand. It involved breaking their dominant arm and getting a cast that kept them from being able to hold a pencil. You might be looking for a method that is less drastic than that. So I'd go with others' advice and just pick up the pencil and start writing.", "I am right-handed, but I learned to play pool as a kid by watching my dad play from across the table. So I mirrored his positioning/cue holding (he is also right-handed), which means I play left-handed. I didn't realize it for over 10 years, but once I realized then I tried to see if I could play right-handed and it was just as natural as playing left-handed. I still default to using my left hand, however for some shots I just flip to my right hand and play just as well.\n\nUsing this knowledge, when I was in veterinary school and learning how to draw blood I decided to only ever draw blood left-handed with the hope that after I developed my skill I would be able to draw right-handed with the same ease that I can play pool with either hand - and it worked!\n\nWhile this information won't help you to write with your non-dominant hand, I would suggest that the next time you need to learn to do something new you should force yourself to use your non-dominant hand like it was your dominant hand. After you've learned to do the new skill, you'll most likely be able to use either hand interchangeably to do it!", "Aleister Cowley actually had some exercises for this. It's been many years and lost memories wince I read it, sadly. \n \nI'm about to start a super busy weekend, but I'll see if I can contact my old mystic friend and at least get which book it was in.", "there is a therapy called constrained limb therapy that the premise basically this except for stroke victims. If you truly want to learn to do things with your non dominant hand you have to hinder your ability to do things with your dominant hand. There are a variety of ways to do this from simply mentally blocking your dominant hand use to putting an oven mitt on or putting your hand in your pocket or sitting on it. Keep in mind, this therapy is not just 20 minutes a day to start seeing real results, it is a commitment to creating new neural pathways and is done for aprox 6 hours every day ", "First, injure your dominant arm. Soft tissue / hard tissue - doesn't matter, just as long as it's nonfunctional for a good long time. For me it was a labrum repair. Start using your other hand. At first it's akward, but it's surprising how quickly you get good. After you've recovered from your injury, pick sports back up, & start using your other side. You're starting from scratch, so you can really build up the clean mechanics. For example, batting righty, I have some bad habits. Switching to lefty, I have a beautiful swing - I never learned sloppy technique batting lefty." ]

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[ "How do I stop my back from sweating when going to work? I go to work by public transport and some of the way by foot, and I carry a backpack on my back. When I get to work my back is all sweaty, so I always carry a dry shirt and undershirt with me so I can change into them when I get there. (as you know, working with a wet back is bad for your back). I don't like having to carry them though. Is there any way I can avoid it?\n\nI've tried wearing the backpack to the side, hanging from one shoulder, so it doesn't touch the back. This removes the sweating. The backpack keeps needing adjustment or falling down my arm.\n\n**", "How do I stop my back from sweating when going to work? I go to work by public transport and some of the way by foot, and I carry a backpack on my back. When I get to work my back is all sweaty, so I always carry a dry shirt and undershirt with me so I can change into them when I get there. (as you know, working with a wet back is bad for your back). I don't like having to carry them though. Is there any way I can avoid it?\n\nI've tried wearing the backpack to the side, hanging from one shoulder, so it doesn't touch the back. This removes the sweating. The backpack keeps needing adjustment or falling down my arm.\n\n**", "How do I stop my back from sweating when going to work? I go to work by public transport and some of the way by foot, and I carry a backpack on my back. When I get to work my back is all sweaty, so I always carry a dry shirt and undershirt with me so I can change into them when I get there. (as you know, working with a wet back is bad for your back). I don't like having to carry them though. Is there any way I can avoid it?\n\nI've tried wearing the backpack to the side, hanging from one shoulder, so it doesn't touch the back. This removes the sweating. The backpack keeps needing adjustment or falling down my arm.\n\n**", "How do I stop my back from sweating when going to work? I go to work by public transport and some of the way by foot, and I carry a backpack on my back. When I get to work my back is all sweaty, so I always carry a dry shirt and undershirt with me so I can change into them when I get there. (as you know, working with a wet back is bad for your back). I don't like having to carry them though. Is there any way I can avoid it?\n\nI've tried wearing the backpack to the side, hanging from one shoulder, so it doesn't touch the back. This removes the sweating. The backpack keeps needing adjustment or falling down my arm.\n\n**", "How do I stop my back from sweating when going to work? I go to work by public transport and some of the way by foot, and I carry a backpack on my back. When I get to work my back is all sweaty, so I always carry a dry shirt and undershirt with me so I can change into them when I get there. (as you know, working with a wet back is bad for your back). I don't like having to carry them though. Is there any way I can avoid it?\n\nI've tried wearing the backpack to the side, hanging from one shoulder, so it doesn't touch the back. This removes the sweating. The backpack keeps needing adjustment or falling down my arm.\n\n**" ]

[ "They make hiking backpacks that have a mesh layer that rests on your back with about an inch of open space between the actual pack and your back. I have one and the airflow difference vs a traditional pack is tremendous. ", "Why not buy a bag that hangs on your side, from one shoulder to the other hip? There are plenty of them on the market, small and big ones.", "After you shower lotion with cocoa butter, let that dry, then do a layer of baby powder. This keeps you fresh and fly - but unfortunately there's not much you can do about backpacks - they create a heat pocket of sweat. I try and adjust mine to allow air flow, but I'd recommend a messenger bag if you can", "If it's a particularly nasty day and I'm taking my laptop bag (backpack) to work I'll put a little antiperspirant around those areas to help mitigate the issue. ", "And what if someone had that same problem, BUT, that person does not use any backpacks and doesn't take any medication, basically that person just can't take high temperatures. What do you recomend now ? " ]

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[ "How do I move on from a crush? I love this girl, we get on really well and we talk every day just chat for now (ik it sounds so stupid to love someone that and we haven't even had a phone call or anything) but I'm really in love with her but she lives on another continent I want to tell her how I feel but I think I already got rejected when she said that ''how can someone like another person if you didn't meet in real life'.. I just feel a lot better telling this even to some random people from the internet. But seriously I just feel like my heart is broken into pieces and this really sucks because I want to talk to her she makes me happy but knowing that I will never be with her just hurts me. and it makes me feel depressed. Thanks for reading.", "How do I move on from a crush? I love this girl, we get on really well and we talk every day just chat for now (ik it sounds so stupid to love someone that and we haven't even had a phone call or anything) but I'm really in love with her but she lives on another continent I want to tell her how I feel but I think I already got rejected when she said that ''how can someone like another person if you didn't meet in real life'.. I just feel a lot better telling this even to some random people from the internet. But seriously I just feel like my heart is broken into pieces and this really sucks because I want to talk to her she makes me happy but knowing that I will never be with her just hurts me. and it makes me feel depressed. Thanks for reading.", "How do I move on from a crush? I love this girl, we get on really well and we talk every day just chat for now (ik it sounds so stupid to love someone that and we haven't even had a phone call or anything) but I'm really in love with her but she lives on another continent I want to tell her how I feel but I think I already got rejected when she said that ''how can someone like another person if you didn't meet in real life'.. I just feel a lot better telling this even to some random people from the internet. But seriously I just feel like my heart is broken into pieces and this really sucks because I want to talk to her she makes me happy but knowing that I will never be with her just hurts me. and it makes me feel depressed. Thanks for reading.", "How do I move on from a crush? I love this girl, we get on really well and we talk every day just chat for now (ik it sounds so stupid to love someone that and we haven't even had a phone call or anything) but I'm really in love with her but she lives on another continent I want to tell her how I feel but I think I already got rejected when she said that ''how can someone like another person if you didn't meet in real life'.. I just feel a lot better telling this even to some random people from the internet. But seriously I just feel like my heart is broken into pieces and this really sucks because I want to talk to her she makes me happy but knowing that I will never be with her just hurts me. and it makes me feel depressed. Thanks for reading.", "How do I move on from a crush? I love this girl, we get on really well and we talk every day just chat for now (ik it sounds so stupid to love someone that and we haven't even had a phone call or anything) but I'm really in love with her but she lives on another continent I want to tell her how I feel but I think I already got rejected when she said that ''how can someone like another person if you didn't meet in real life'.. I just feel a lot better telling this even to some random people from the internet. But seriously I just feel like my heart is broken into pieces and this really sucks because I want to talk to her she makes me happy but knowing that I will never be with her just hurts me. and it makes me feel depressed. Thanks for reading.", "How do I move on from a crush? I love this girl, we get on really well and we talk every day just chat for now (ik it sounds so stupid to love someone that and we haven't even had a phone call or anything) but I'm really in love with her but she lives on another continent I want to tell her how I feel but I think I already got rejected when she said that ''how can someone like another person if you didn't meet in real life'.. I just feel a lot better telling this even to some random people from the internet. But seriously I just feel like my heart is broken into pieces and this really sucks because I want to talk to her she makes me happy but knowing that I will never be with her just hurts me. and it makes me feel depressed. Thanks for reading." ]

[ "Go out and meet other people. There's lots of women out there, the romantic notion that there is ONE person you're compatible with on the planet is silly. If she's not into you, respect that and find someone else. ", "This advice feels TERRIBLE to apply, but it's the best I've got and I've used it several times over the years: write down a list of ten bad things about the person (if you can make it longer, do so), no matter how trivial they are. If this girl is so perfect that you have to start by listing typos she's made over chat, so be it. Just write them down. Good luck!", "Maybe you should start off by just telling her that she means a lot to you. If you talk every day, you probably mean something to her as well. I am not sure if \"love\" is the right label, but it seems like a special bond you have there. Also I wouldn't consider her \"how can someone like...\" comment to be a rejection, seeing as how you are saying the exact same thing. Other than that, just be content and appreciative of the friendship you have with her and take the initiative to talk to other people when opportunities arise.", "I believe it was David Burns book Feeling Good had some advise on this. He suggests imagining if you met someone else that has all the same issues of this relationship, then make a list of things that don't work for you. I think by substituting another person, you get perspective. ", "I agree that meeting new people would help, BUT I think it's also okay to mourn a little first. Give yourself the weekend to be sad and do stuff that's comforting (Netflix, eating ice cream, reading a book, whatever you like), then move on. \n\nMy therapist said a failed relationship is kind of like a death, so mourning it is normal and healthy as long as you have a plan to move forward from it later.", "Do things you enjoy and that make you happy WITHOUT the expectation of meeting someone special. People are drawn to those who are enjoying themselves. At the very least, you can learn something new or make new friends." ]

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[ "Improve penmanship I have terrible hand writing. It looks like chicken scratch and in professional environments it's quite embarrassing.\n\nAny tips on how to improve handwriting? Websites or books you bought? Little kid hand writing books?", "Improve penmanship I have terrible hand writing. It looks like chicken scratch and in professional environments it's quite embarrassing.\n\nAny tips on how to improve handwriting? Websites or books you bought? Little kid hand writing books?", "Improve penmanship I have terrible hand writing. It looks like chicken scratch and in professional environments it's quite embarrassing.\n\nAny tips on how to improve handwriting? Websites or books you bought? Little kid hand writing books?" ]

[ "I improved my penmanship by writing a lot of notes and other things. I notice that with keyboards and such penmanship goes in the toilet if you don't use it. The best way to improve is by writing a lot, and writing slowly and neatly. Over time you will get quicker at it. Hope this helps! ", "Go back to basics--Capital and lower-case ABCs, be sure your lines are straight, and touch the top and bottom of the blue lines! Be sure your circles are round, and don't let any part of your letters \"fly\" off the bottom line. Write each letter slowly and carefully!\nFind some worksheets like this: http://hiconicimage.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/ABCgridCAPS-1024x724.png\n\nAnd don't feel bad. When I was getting ready to teach ABCs to beginners, I also had to go though this process. My writing had been described as \"like a serial killer's scratch\", and now, I get compliments on it every time someone sees it.", "A while back, I had crap handwriting, too, but I paid attention to the way I was shaping my characters, and it helped. For example, I changed the stroke order of my 'e', 'r', and 'y', which really changed how those came out. Afterwards, the rest of the letters improved as I go to sick of seeing them next to my beautiful 'e's.\n\nI've also heard that practicing lefthanded writing can drasticly improve your normal penmanship, too." ]

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[ "How can I *safely* whiten my teeth? My teeth have sadly been yellowing lately and I kinda want to whiten them. What are some safe ways to achieve this? Thanks. ", "How can I *safely* whiten my teeth? My teeth have sadly been yellowing lately and I kinda want to whiten them. What are some safe ways to achieve this? Thanks. " ]

[ "I swish hydrogen peroxide around in my mouth whenever I shower. Don't spit it out until you're done shampooing and washing your body. It forces you to take shorter showers and whiten your teeth for longer.\n\n**", "I just finished using Crest 3D white strips. I kept them on for about two hours a day for a week and I definitely can tell a difference! " ]

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[ "How to stop repeating the same mistakes? I understand the mistakes I have made, and I know what the consequences of making them are. Yet I continuously make them, despite all efforts to avoid making those same mistakes. This issue is really starting to affect my personal relationships.", "How to stop repeating the same mistakes? I understand the mistakes I have made, and I know what the consequences of making them are. Yet I continuously make them, despite all efforts to avoid making those same mistakes. This issue is really starting to affect my personal relationships." ]

[ "The problem that you face is that you've built up a tolerance to the consequences. Making the same bad decisions repeatedly means you have a callous to the negative effects that come after. What you have to do now is learn to appreciate the positive that comes from NOT making those mistakes.", "I'm kind of in the process of relearning the advice I'm about to give because I've recently made some mistakes that I know better than to make- but one thing that really helps me is telling myself to slow down and think. I know that might sound like trite advice, most people don't realize they're living their lives at 100 miles an hour and that's when most of the dumb shit we do gets done. " ]

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[ "Should I throw away old nice retail boxes? Generally, I keep a fairly streamlined and minimal household. However, I have a really hard time throwing a way retail boxes with nice packaging.\n\nFor example, I bought my Wii years ago. But the packaging seems...like..it..could be useful.. Flat screen boxes. Old ipod and phones? I don't keep crappy or damaged boxes.\n\nDoes anyone have a philosophy about nice retail box storage they can share? ", "Should I throw away old nice retail boxes? Generally, I keep a fairly streamlined and minimal household. However, I have a really hard time throwing a way retail boxes with nice packaging.\n\nFor example, I bought my Wii years ago. But the packaging seems...like..it..could be useful.. Flat screen boxes. Old ipod and phones? I don't keep crappy or damaged boxes.\n\nDoes anyone have a philosophy about nice retail box storage they can share? ", "Should I throw away old nice retail boxes? Generally, I keep a fairly streamlined and minimal household. However, I have a really hard time throwing a way retail boxes with nice packaging.\n\nFor example, I bought my Wii years ago. But the packaging seems...like..it..could be useful.. Flat screen boxes. Old ipod and phones? I don't keep crappy or damaged boxes.\n\nDoes anyone have a philosophy about nice retail box storage they can share? ", "Should I throw away old nice retail boxes? Generally, I keep a fairly streamlined and minimal household. However, I have a really hard time throwing a way retail boxes with nice packaging.\n\nFor example, I bought my Wii years ago. But the packaging seems...like..it..could be useful.. Flat screen boxes. Old ipod and phones? I don't keep crappy or damaged boxes.\n\nDoes anyone have a philosophy about nice retail box storage they can share? " ]

[ "Packaging for items such as smart phones, video games/consoles, even some toys can increase resale value drastically. If you're worried about selling your item down the road, a box can increase your potential return by quite a bit. \n \nAs an example: Most people don't use the headphones etc out of an iPhone box. That gets thrown away with everything else. If you were to keep it all in as new condition, you could (for an iPhone 4) increase the sale value by as much as $20.", "Toss them.\n\nIf you ever need a box, go to the liquor store. Nice size boxes and clerks hate having to break them up because they are so sturdy.", "But are you REALLY going to sell that many -used- products 'down the line?' In the mean time many species of insects, including roaches, eat and nest in boxes/cardboard/paper bags if left over time. \n\nYou do not want that! \n\nI know you feel good about having them there, but you feel SO much better once the clutter is gone and you reclaim a small portion of your home. ", "They are nice, but you don't need them. Boxes are plentiful, if you do need one, it won't be hard to find. Toss 'em." ]

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[ "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance.", "How do you not get distracted during online class? Hello, I am a first-year university student, and I am having trouble following during online class, whatever I do, I just either zone out, play games or scroll through the internet. I really want to focus during class, especially since some of these classes are important like calculus and physics, but I am lost and it really reflects on my grades. So what can I do to change that? \n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "Whenever i need to focus I drink three cups of coffee. \n\nThen i just bounce my leg at light speed and all other focus can be directed at one thing. \n\nI don't recommend it though cause you'll have to pee", "I have ADHD and it's borderline impossible for me to pay attention. I use a combination of note taking and reviewing the recording to keep up. Note taking feels tedious and lame, but you'd be amazed at how much the small act of taking notes makes a difference for paying attention. Even if you never look at the notes again.", "Sometimes a change of environment helps. I used to go to the library or somewhere else with free public wifi just so I couldn’t be home and relax as much.", "I’m also saying to take notes. My brothers and I all have ADHD, but we’ve all made it through college like this. Take notes. Get back to them. Force yourself to pay attention. \n\nYou’re having to retrain a brain used to phones, social media, etc. It’s really hard and you have to actually do the work. There’s no easy magic trick.", "That's really tough. People totally aren't meant to learn this way. Best thing you can do is take notes. Even if you aren't paying full attention you'll have a record and it'll keep you in the moment more. If you're anything like me you'll still probably space out every 15 minutes but honestly I cop that up to the screen. I can listen to an in person lecture for 3 hours but online learning is not my forte.\n\nIf I were in school right now doing zoom classes, I'd probably read and reread the textbooks and course materials too. Depending on your major those may be better than class anyway.", "Can you pause and walk away for a bit? Trying so hard to focus might be holding you back. Give your brain a break. Take 5 minutes to do something else, then return to what you were doing.", "Turn off your cell phone and get a notebook and pencil to take notes.\n\nIf you feel distracted try standing up while you watch the screen. You can also try fidget toys, like pop its or spinners, which you fidget with but don’t look at.\n\nChewing gum or having water you can sip may also help.", "Treat it like your job… put your cell phone away, make sure you have everything you need to be comfortable; snacks, drink, coffee whatever… and plan your day around your classes. Just like you couldn’t text or play games all day at work, put your phone away, tell your friends you can’t text until ___ o’clock and put it on DND so you don’t hear it and get tempted to check texts. \n\nI wish I had realized at your age that you only get out of school what you put into it. \n\nThe degree is just a piece of paper but if you actually want to learn something you have to be present and committed in class.", "There are add-ons for your browser that block other distracting websites I have used these in the past. Pair this with going to the library, phone in your backpack, and you have no way to be distracted anymore. Atleast not from the internet", "Stop browsing the internet and turning games on then. You’re acting like you’re a poor victim with these games just turning themselves on distracting you. Don’t turn them on when you get the urge, you’re at school. \n\nNow daydreaming I can’t help you with, that gets us all.", "I have the opposite problem...\n\nI dread the day I have to go back to face to face college. I found out that by doing other things during online class (drawing, cleaning, painting my nails, etc) I actually learn easier than just by sitting down for 3 hours and being forced to listen to the professor.\n\nIs this like a mental block thing? I don't think I've ever had an issue with face to face learning until I've realized how good online learning is for me. But I do understand it's not for most people.\n\nI always figured that maybe it's i have some repressed form of attention deficit or something?", "Have an ice cold water bottle flavored with something that you can take sips of when you get sleepy or distracted. Make a fillable worksheet with the outline of the class lesson if possible. Read beforehand so you can make your own if you need it. Paste a pic of why you are doing classes to begin with so find your \"Why?\". I also put a tennis ball that I roll with my feet to help take some of my energy out. I take bulleted notes during class and also participate. Have a good meal beforehand so your glucose doesnt get low and you get fuzzy then zone out.", "Can you move the keyboard and/or mouse out of easy reach and take notes on paper?\n\n1.) Taking notes by hand actually has a better chance of being helpful. If you try to keep up with the instructor - i.e. not pause the video - you'll be forced to summarize, as opposed to copying verbatim. When you copy verbatim, it's a lot closer to in one ear and out the other. When you have to summarize, your brain has to try to get the meat of the argument.\n\n2.) By having your notebook and pen/cil in front of you, you'll have to do a thing (however small) to switch to the keyboard / mouse. It's not like you're handcuffed and prevented from switching to another webpage, but there would at least be a small barrier.", "Besides the other good advice others have given you, you could try dressing up like you would if you were in uni (no pjs). You can take brief notes on your computer on the slides if they were pre-sent or in an online document, which means they will be accessible wherever you are. You can put comments on pdfs too. You can take screenshots too to remind you. Its like a side project that'll keep you engaged in the learning. Spend time making a folder system to keep it all in too.\n\nMake notes of further reading / suggestions. Summarise the learning after each lecture. Write phrases you like. Don't bother writing quotes or anything on screen because you can find them after if you need them. \n\nMake sure the space around you is conducive to learning (clean, clear, phone in another room). Whenever you get a break, take it. Walk around. Go outside. Make a cup of tea. Then come back refreshed.", "Ask doubts more.If you’re doing all this in a phone then keep it away in a place that’s not easily accessible. The thought of getting up and taking and making an effort reminds you of why it was kept there in the first place.\n\n If that doesn’t work, I suggest doing a combine study with your classmates whenever you feel like getting your shit together. , you may not feel bored if they teach. \n\n\nLastly , talk to your teacher , tell him it’s not working out , tell him to make you more active in class.", ">I really want to focus during class,\n\nI call bullshit. Why?\n\n>I...play games or scroll through the internet.\n\nThat's why I call bullshit. You don't want to focus, otherwise you'd not game/surf.", "You say you \"really want to focus\". No, you don't. If you did, you would, but you don't, so you aren't." ]

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[ "What's the best way to unclog a toilet? It's fair to say that as I've gotten older and grown, my poops have grown proportionally in size as well. Every time I go to the bathroom, theres a 90% chance that it will get clogged. It sometimes gets to the point where it's embarrassing to use the washrooms at people's places (and in public too). Now, I'm not just looking for some regular run-of-the-mill advice. This thing is chronically happening, so what best to do but ask my fellow Redditors: What's the best way to unclog a toilet?", "What's the best way to unclog a toilet? It's fair to say that as I've gotten older and grown, my poops have grown proportionally in size as well. Every time I go to the bathroom, theres a 90% chance that it will get clogged. It sometimes gets to the point where it's embarrassing to use the washrooms at people's places (and in public too). Now, I'm not just looking for some regular run-of-the-mill advice. This thing is chronically happening, so what best to do but ask my fellow Redditors: What's the best way to unclog a toilet?", "What's the best way to unclog a toilet? It's fair to say that as I've gotten older and grown, my poops have grown proportionally in size as well. Every time I go to the bathroom, theres a 90% chance that it will get clogged. It sometimes gets to the point where it's embarrassing to use the washrooms at people's places (and in public too). Now, I'm not just looking for some regular run-of-the-mill advice. This thing is chronically happening, so what best to do but ask my fellow Redditors: What's the best way to unclog a toilet?" ]

[ "If you're regularly giving birth to a calf, then you might attack the problem by changing your diet, to try and get more easily flushed poo.\n\n", "Heat your sink water up as hot as it can go, then use a decently-sized container to pour it into the bowl. Make sure to pour it from a good height. The water pressure will loosen the obstruction, and the hot water will dissipate it. Wait a little bit, and repeat if necessary. It should go down on its own after a few seconds. \nGREAT for when you are at someone else's house. Saved me a few times. ", "This works for me almost all the time and it saves the embarrassment of hunting for a plunger. \nWhen you start to notice the bowl not going down look behind the toilet to where it connects with the wall and there outta be an oval shaped knob sticking out of the wall. That controls the water coming in. Simply turn that until the water shuts off. Then you wait. The water will slowly or very slowly drain out, once its empty or close to empty turn the water on a little and test flush it with just enough water to see if its clear but not enough to overflow. If it hasn't cleared just wait until that's water goes down. Eventually it'll remove your blockage. Good luck!\n" ]

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[ "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!", "Has anyone ever overcome a cat allergy? My kids want a cat so badly. I love them. They make me sneeze. Is there really a way to deal with cat allergies? I would love to know if anyone out there has had success treating them. Thanks y'all!" ]

[ "Go get allergy shots. They can custom tailor to all your specific allergies. Takes dedication as you go weekly at first then taper. I went for a total of 2 yrs. And the relief is still holding 30 yrs later", "Oddly, yes. But she is a long hair cat. I don't know if thats a difference or not. But she doesn't make me sneeze", "I have had several friends and flat mates who moved in with a cat allergy, but fell in love with my cat and were symptom free within months. ", "Depends on how allergic you are. I am HIGHLY allergic to cats, ever since I was a kid and I am late 30s now. Eyes red, wheezing, nose, coughing, sneezing, hives...my kids have to change clothes if they have been somewhere with a cat.\n\nAnd this is AFTER getting 2 allergy shots a week for 20 years. The shots helped other things, but some allergies you can’t overcome.", "I had four years of allergy shots. I get a little congested, but Flonase helps. I live with two long hair cats.", "You can also eventually adapt to your specific cat. Getting an air purifier might be a good idea too, especially for your bedroom ", "Yes. While you are waiting for your body to adjust, be proactive and wipe the cat down about every other day with a damp cloth. That will help to pull away excess fur and dander. Vacuum often (or mop) to clean up cat shrapnel, and wash your hands after petting the kitty, so you don;t touch your eyes or face unknowingly, making it worse.", "Yea I used to be allergic to cats and now I have two. To combat the initial allergic reactions, I was very diligent about washing my hands after touching the kitty, using air filters/purifiers to get the hair & dander in the air, and using a vacuum with a hepa filter to get the hair and dander on the floors/furniture. Also allergy meds are your friend for when you forget to do any of the things mentioned above. Over time I became desensitized and am no longer allergic. ", "YES. I didn't know I was allergic to cats until my husband and I got one. I had a bad allergic reaction - sneezing, eyes swelling, and face/eyes itching - after having our cat for a week, my allergies disappeared. Also, you can always get an outdoor cat :)", "My stepdad was highly allergic but over time his body just adapted, I guess, since cats don't bother him anymore.", "I've overcome it but I don't think my story will necessarily be helpful to anyone.\n\nI've had allergies seasonal and otherwise for most of my life. I was strongly allergic to pollen, everything outside in the spring, cats and other animals (not dogs though).\n\nMy wife really wanted a cat so we got one and I was just going to take antihistamines or just deal with it. For the first few days my nose was leaking like a faucet at home. Eyes itchy and watery, the whole deal. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nAs if by magic the allergy symptoms stopped before the end of the week. We now have 2 cats and I am no longer allergic to them. Most of my season allergies have gone away as well. I'm still pretty sensitive to tulips, but I haven't encountered many other things that I can remember affecting me like before. My wife likes to say our first cat healed my allergies to make sure he could stay with us forever. Well, it's worked! Can't imagine life without our little furball!", "I have three kids, two cats, a dog and allergies. It was really bad at first, but I guess my body has just gotten used to it. I have a super clean house, though, which probably helps (my kids are older, so there’s not as much chaos).", "Allergies are often her" ]

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[ "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?", "What can you do to fully wake up in the morning? It seems every morning I wake up and I'm so unbelievably drowsy. The other day without even realizing it, I had checked my phone and opened snapchat and accidentally sent someone \"P vmmb\".\n\nWhat can I do to help fully wake myself up?" ]

[ "Suggestions in no specify order: make water your main drink, have enough sleep, no more junk food, 60 minutes cardio exercise every day, as little processed food as possible, a balance diet, no drugs ...", "Set your alarm on your phone in the bathroom. As soon as you get into the bathroom to snooze or shut it off, turn on the tap and wash your face. Immediately follow this by sticking a toothbrush and toothpaste into your mouth. Go from there.", "Put Legos on the floor around your bed. After the first few times stepping on them you'll learn to be fully awake and alert in the morning to prevent a painful misstep", "Get an actual alarm clock and leave your phone in another room! \n\nPut your clothes for the morning in a drying machine if you have one, turn it on as soon as you get up, and hop into a warm shower (bonus points if you have a shower speaker or radio so you can listen to music/podcasts/anything) and once you get out, you have toasty clothes ready to go.\n\nHmmm and also put a glass/waterbottle full of ice next to your bed at night. By the AM its melted and you have ice cold water to sip when you get up - very refreshing and a great start to the day!", "Cold shower. Or for us lazy ones, splash some cold water on your face.\n\nTurn on your phone full brightness and look at it. It burns your corneas but it works. Actually that is a terrible idea.", "Don't grab your phone first thing in the morning! Adjust to your body and your mind fully awakening, give awareness to the morning, almost a mini m", "Drink some cold water first thing in the morning. Not only a good way to start getting hydrated, but good for waking up!", "I used to set up multiple alarms on my phone (with boxing bell as the ring tone) but when I'm really tired, this doesn't work for me. So I tried connecting my phone to a bluetooth speaker so I can hear it more. \n\nIn the end this worked because my mom hit me for being loud at 5 am", "Coffee machine with alarm time. The smell of coffee helps me get out of bed. And the boiling is loud, but that is okay because it’s a good sound." ]

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