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[ "how can I tell if a melon is sweet? I love honey dew. They all look the same to me, but some taste like candy, and some taste like cardboard. Is there any way to know ahead of time which is which?\n\nAdvice on cantaloupe would be appreciated as well.", "how can I tell if a melon is sweet? I love honey dew. They all look the same to me, but some taste like candy, and some taste like cardboard. Is there any way to know ahead of time which is which?\n\nAdvice on cantaloupe would be appreciated as well.", "how can I tell if a melon is sweet? I love honey dew. They all look the same to me, but some taste like candy, and some taste like cardboard. Is there any way to know ahead of time which is which?\n\nAdvice on cantaloupe would be appreciated as well." ]

[ "A good tip for watermelon and other melons is to put it to your ear and tap on it. If it sounds hollow it's generally going to be delicious.", "on a cantaloupe and other melons, sniff the \"navel\" end. The stronger the smell the sweeter it should be. Of course look for soft spots, and depressions/bruises - that's an indication that it's over ripened and is going bad.", "Can speak for honey dew. However there are two ways to test for cantaloupe. 1) like somebody said smell where the stem was if it smells like the fruit its fresh 2) the softer that same spot is the riper it is" ]

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[ "How to make your cellphone last the longest when you are below 10% It seems like the only time i really need to use my phone is when it is below 10%. Any tips on how to make the battery life last the longest would be appreciated. \n\nFor clarification i do have an iphone.", "How to make your cellphone last the longest when you are below 10% It seems like the only time i really need to use my phone is when it is below 10%. Any tips on how to make the battery life last the longest would be appreciated. \n\nFor clarification i do have an iphone.", "How to make your cellphone last the longest when you are below 10% It seems like the only time i really need to use my phone is when it is below 10%. Any tips on how to make the battery life last the longest would be appreciated. \n\nFor clarification i do have an iphone.", "How to make your cellphone last the longest when you are below 10% It seems like the only time i really need to use my phone is when it is below 10%. Any tips on how to make the battery life last the longest would be appreciated. \n\nFor clarification i do have an iphone.", "How to make your cellphone last the longest when you are below 10% It seems like the only time i really need to use my phone is when it is below 10%. Any tips on how to make the battery life last the longest would be appreciated. \n\nFor clarification i do have an iphone.", "How to make your cellphone last the longest when you are below 10% It seems like the only time i really need to use my phone is when it is below 10%. Any tips on how to make the battery life last the longest would be appreciated. \n\nFor clarification i do have an iphone." ]

[ "Disable 3/4G and Wifi, if you don't need it. Dim the screen to it's lowest setting. All can be done in iOS 7 by swiping up from the bottom of the screen.\n\nQuit all running apps. Double tap the home button and swipe the application (not the icon for the application, the actual screenshot) up.\n\nIf you don't already have one, get a watch. I have a terrible habit of checking my phone for the time and then checking it again a few seconds later because I didn't actually take the time in, I just looked at my phone.", "It's not in the question, but if this is a common problem for you I highly suggest getting one of those super battery cases that acts as both a case for your phone and a massive extra battery.", "I'm not sure if this is available for iPhones or not, but turning on aeroplane mode works wonders for my battery life. It does limit you as you can't use any internet/can't make phone calls but you can turn it off and back on again... Works for me!", "Change mail settings to manual sync.\nTurn off lte / data\nLowest brightness \nTurn off vibrate/ any alerts \nDon't use the phone ", "I turn mine off when it gets to 10%. I'm not sure if it really is charged more, but when I turn it back on after a little while, it's charged at least 3% higher. ", "i usually turn it off. wait 15-30 minutes turn it on to check advise who im texting of circumstance and rinse and repeat. Can make it last forever." ]

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[ "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?", "How to Be More Confident and Outgoing I'm a very shy guy with no confidence whatsoever. I have trouble speaking to people, having conversations with people, and I desperately want to change this. I've tried nearly everything I could find. So, I turn to you guys. Reddit, how can I be confident and outgoing?" ]

[ "I used to be in the same boat, and now I'm pretty good. I mean, I'm not the alpha-bro, I'm not the heart of the party, but I can hold my own and be engaging and enjoy myself. \n\nSo how did I do it? I don't have a 100% play by play, but some pointers.\n\n* It takes time. It might take a change of scenery as well. But don't despair.\n* Set yourself concrete, measurable goals. \"Confident and outgoing\" are very vague terms. Make it clear to yourself what it is you want to achieve. \n* Join clubs for the activities you already like or are interested in picking up. This works best in high school and university, I suppose. The idea is that then, you're in an environment where the topic of conversation is usually something you're already well versed in, so you will feel less inhibited to contribute! A big problem for me during high school was that nobody gave a fuck about the things I was interested in. Obviously that didn't go well with my confidence. Then in university, you can find fellow enthusiasts for just about everything.\n* If you are afraid of something, actively seek out situations that challenge you waaaay beyond your comfort level. That desensitizes you to the anxiety. I became president of the club I was a member in. I had to talk to lots of people, engage with them, lead the meetings, hold some speeches. Terrifying at the time, but once you've gone through that, a lot of the other things you used to be afraid of seem trivial now. \n* If you know you're attending an event where you'd like to be confident, pump yourself up with epic music before. The whole reason why the \"fake it till you make it\" advice works is that there's a positive feedback loop: Your mental state follows your body language, which in turn reflects your mental state. You can try this in an experiment. Sit in your chair. Slump down. Cross your arms. Frown. Now without changing this position, try to get yourself excited about something. It won't work.\n* To immediately appear more confident while talking, do these three simple steps: Severely decrease how often you nod or say \"uhuh\", \"right\" when someone else is speaking. Lower the intonation of your voice, especially have the melody of your speech go down at the end of sentence. Wait two full seconds after someone stops talking before you reply. \n* Accumulate things to feel great about yourself. You don't have to be the very best at everything, but it's really easy to pick up things over time that will impress others, and their praise will feed your confidence.", "I can't really help you in the outgoing department, but I have some advice on the confidence. \n\nYou are the coolest thing since sliced bread, and your shit don't stank. Keep thoughts like this running through your head. If you tell yourself that your awesome everyday and you try your hardest to believe your awesome, you will become awesome. Because who gauges a persons awesomeness? You do. It's your body, your life, your mind. Who cares if your neighbor thinks your a nerd, fuck him he's a long titty no nipple havin' ass bitch. Accept who you are, because you aren't gonna change it. Run with what you got bro. \n\nI guess what I'm trying to say is, nobody can get you down except you. Tell yourself your awesome, even if you don't believe yourself. Tell yourself your awesome everyday, hold your head high and if anyone tries to get you down or hold you back, fuck them they are pieces of shit. If you try to think like that all the time, eventually you will believe yourself. ", "You can learn to be confident but if outgoing isn't your personality, don't try to be so. Confidence can be acquired in a number of ways. I, personally, am a rather quiet person. I gained confidence by just being the thoughtful person instead of outgoing. I don't talk much but when I do, I try to make my words count. It helps to think a conversation through. Make a plan and reply based on the predicted outcomes. If you think it through, you can be confident that you said the right thing. Everyone is confident in their own way. Just be yourself and know that you are the best you you can be. Good luck!", "You can learn to be confident but if outgoing isn't your personality, don't try to be so. Confidence can be acquired in a number of ways. I, personally, am a rather quiet person. I gained confidence by just being the thoughtful person instead of outgoing. I don't talk much but when I do, I try to make my words count. It helps to think a conversation through. Make a plan and reply based on the predicted outcomes. If you think it through, you can be confident that you said the right thing. Everyone is confident in their own way. Just be yourself and know that you are the best you you can be. Good luck!", "The secret to getting good at anything is to learn theory just enough to notice your mistakes, then practice for many hours. So tell me, when you say:\n\n>I've tried nearly everything I could find.\n\nGive me an example of an event where you started a conversation/ or didn't, or when the conversation didn't go the way you wanted it to. I'll try to see if there is something that you need to focus on (or focus less on in many cases).", "Take up space. There are some studies that show that the act of taking up space alone can make you feel more confident, and make others that see it treat you slightly differently, which can effect how you respond to people in turn. \n\nDo things like walk around, stretch. Don't sit in a shy \"inward\" position. Don't be obnoxious, but it can help. It's not a holistic solution, of course, but it's a small cheat that might help in subtle ways.", "I used to be really shy and couldn't talk to anyone who was more popular than me without a mad stutter but now I am a lot better and can usually talk to anyone quite confidently male or female which before was unheard of unless I was a really good fiend with them.\n\nThe thing that changed me most was just my attitude towards people. I know it's kind of cliche to say this but I just had to stop thinking people were cooler than me. If I stop thinking people are cooler than me I don't get scared that i'm going to mess up and embarrass myself in front of them. It took a while but eventually I became able to talk to people with out being scared or thinking that I would embarrass myself and as I stared to talk to more people I became more accepted into different social groups meaning that I could hang out with them more and become more confident in front of different people. It took me most of a year but now I feel very confident talking to all people even if they are not my friends, I just ask myself what makes me so scared to talk to them and what is the worst thing that could happen if I talked to them, it's not like they are going to punch you if they don't like you they just wont hang out with you and you can't make everyone like you but this has never happened to me and I doubt it will ever happen to you.\n\nSo basically what I am trying to say is that you need to stop thinking your going to embarrass yourself in front of people because even if you do something embarrassing most people will think it's funny and like you from there. When you start talkimg to ore people the more friends you will get and as you know more people better you will feel more confident in front of them. This worked for me even though it took a long time and I still get very nervous talking to new people I force myself into the conversation and very soon I become less scared of them and more confident.", "It's common ground that will help you the most. If you're not a student, meetup.com can find groups for you to join and visit. Join some just for fun (stuff you already enjoy) and join some because you have no idea what they are about; show up, ask questions, no expectations, light practice with strangers. Maybe just attend one meeting then quit the group. Intentionally putting yourself out of place will help remove any leftover fear of strangers.\n\nI second the part time job in retail, too. The point is to get practice. That's all you really need.", "I'm pretty shy with social anxiety and I've always found I just have to get into the habit of talking and being around people. Other people on here have already mentioned clubs/etc.\n\nI'm not sure about your situation a lot so I'll give you advice I'm following right now to help with my social rustiness:\n\n-I'm getting better at being around people with a small step: I take walks outside in plain sight, like along busier roads. I don't really talk to anyone but everyone can see me on the sidewalk. I like doing this because it gets me used to being in sight of people, which helps with my shyness. \n\nHard to explain but it's something about getting accustomed to being around people without the extra stress of direct contact just yet. Obviously that's for my more extreme case of shyness/anxiety, but it's helping me be less self-conscious, which I'm guessing is a problem you have. Good luck, by the way.", "Fake it till you make it, usually together with thinking that it will be over. Train your brain to go through it rather than avoiding it.\n\n\n" ]

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[ "how to stop being so emotionally and mentally sensitive and heavily affected by even the little things in life? ", "how to stop being so emotionally and mentally sensitive and heavily affected by even the little things in life? ", "how to stop being so emotionally and mentally sensitive and heavily affected by even the little things in life? ", "how to stop being so emotionally and mentally sensitive and heavily affected by even the little things in life? ", "how to stop being so emotionally and mentally sensitive and heavily affected by even the little things in life? ", "how to stop being so emotionally and mentally sensitive and heavily affected by even the little things in life? " ]

[ "I get this a lot really. I am a highly sensitive person and I often stress constantly about little things that don't matter and let them affect my entire emotional state. It's positive in a way because it means you're highly attuned to environment and other people's feelings which can be helpful in many situations, but it's also exhausting and upsetting to constantly be feeling so intensely. These days, when I'm feeling this way or am actively anxious or emotional about things, I try to stop for a moment, get myself a glass of water or sit down and breathe, and properly think things through. If something hurts, it's best to feel that hurt, accept it, acknowledge it then let it go. I remember that I can't control other people's thoughts or actions, only my own, and so if I can't immediately solve the issue myself, or if it is of no use of me to pursue further, I do my best to leave it. It's way easier said than done but it's good to practise the mindfulness of living in the present and not getting upset about the past or worried about the future unless you can control the variables. For things you can control or change, there are tons of resources and advice all around you in this technological age, make sure you use them! Best of luck to you, I hope you manage to find a good balance between your sensitivity towards everything else and being mindful of the present moment. ", "Take 10 seconds, breathe and ask yourself, \"Will I even remember this 1 year from today?\" If the honest answer is no, then just let it go.", "Consider this:\nThe earth was around for millions of years before humanity, and will be around millions of years still after humanity has gone extinct. Take a step back and contemplate nature. You're part of the earth, and will return to the earth. M", "You might not be able to stop. Maybe you shouldn't stop. Maybe you should just try to get better at dealing with life. Do you have anyone to talk to? Having someone to exhale with can help a lot. Try to talk with a friend and listen to their issues as well. I learned how fantastic my life is by observation. I don't have bad health issues. For that I am grateful after volunteering at a children's Muscular Dystrophy camp. It was so uplifting for me. Try helping someone else and you might help yourself at the same time. ", "I sometimes cope with a somewhat legal substance pending your state and or country. After the effects tale place I game or journal. You could even turn your pain or despair into a story to see the issues from and outside perspective.", "I think the person who mentioned observation and comparison is on to something. Generally, the people who I know that share your struggles haven't really had any. This fine line I'm walking is just an attempt to say that perhaps you should tune in to a far away goal like completing a marathon and totally immerse yourself in achieving it. You'll be moving at light speed and the issues that are bogging you down will take less of a toll if they don't get in the way of your focus. \nOtherwise, m" ]

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[ "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major.", "How to regain motivation when you are feeling exhausted. This semester has been overwhelming for me, and now that it’s finals week, I feel like I just can’t muster up any motivation to study at all. I am just exhausted. Does anyone have any advice for not losing steam towards the end of the semester?\n\nI’m a computer science major." ]

[ "When faced with tasks I don't wanna do, I frame them differently. I think I learned this here on LPT but it goes like this, instead of telling yourself \"I have to do (task you don't want to do)\", tell yourself \"I want (end result of completing said task)\" example: I have to wash the dishes vs I want clean dishes.", "I always tell myself “just do it for 5mins” that way either you legit do 5mins of work and get started or you do the 5mins and figure why not just keep going. I procrastinate a lot and this helps me because it takes away the overwhelming feeling of thinking you have to finish what you start.", "Take a full mental break from what you must do. If that is possible. Take a 3 day long weekend and do only what you want to do. Watch TV, go for a walk in the park, buy pre-made meals so you have no cooking and cleaning to do, listen to podcasts like this American life. For me, burn out like this doesn’t happen often. But when it does taking a break really helps me feel like me again.", "Put the alarm for 30 mins. You will only study during this time, no interactions. Then take a 10-15 min break, and repeat.", "Go work out. Something like lifting works well. After that make a nice meal, not ramen not pizza, something good for you and good tasting like a hearty salad topped with parmesan cheese and steak. After youve done that make a fresh pot of coffee and share it with some friends for a bit. Go back, put on some of your chill music for 15 minutes then kick in the hard beats and heavy bass music. Get working on the small things first then after that work on the bigger things. In all of this remember even through whatever may come you'll survive and probably thrive. You got this.", "Think of the worst case scenario of what the outcome will be. You will be shit scared to waste your time. This maybe too hard on some people but it works for me.", "Stop worrying about \"motivation\" during finals week. Just get out the books and study. Give yourself a ten minute break every two hours to stretch and have a snack.\n\nSplurge on your favorite snacks for the week. Pavlovian conditioning works.", "Start studying a little (with plenty of time before the test). Then you’ll see how easy it can actually be to get ready for the test. I would always wait because I was too stressed, then start studying the day of, and want to kick myself every time because I saw how within my reach it was if I had taken the time to study. Then you don’t have to deal with the guilt of wasting the semester and blowing it up at the end. \n\nOnce the tests are over, work on doing purposeful relaxation. Practice self care everyday, eat well, get out in nature. Reinvigorate yourself. Ask big questions like what do I want to do with my time and talent? What would I like to learn about? \n\nThere’s exhaustion from doing too much for too long and there’s exhaustion that comes from spending time on things you don’t feel are worthwhile or you don’t enjoy. Give this some thought too.", "Regaining motivation is a long term process. For the time being, You can escape the feeling though. If your exam is real close then just eat what you like and study like hell. In the morning and afternoon run in the neighborhood or room to room for 10-15 mins. I play fake football as if I am winning; gives me weird empowering feeling.\n\nNow if you have several days in your hand then - \n\n1. go watch an episode or 2/ a movie or, finish a game chapter/segment or, \\^ run/play football. \n2. done? good. now bring in all the reading materials in front of you and separate those materials by your courses. (separating notes from your handnotes and stapling the related ones together)\n3. repeat 1 (if you got bored already)\n4. go over the syllabuses of all the exams (the chapters you have to cover and so on). break them down into smaller chunks/segments and go skimming (5-7 mins for each chp)\n5. repeat 1. from this point try minimizing the time each time (60 mins ---> 40 mins; big jumps may backfire)\n6. by now you should gain some control over the study situation\n7. increase study time but take break when you start to feel exhausted, bored.\n8. in the breaks, get involve in no-brainer activity like chopping salads, dog videos (or just repeat 1 if you have to)\n\ndo give breaks in between for retention. i study on the floor becoz i feel sleepy if i am demotivated. \n\nIf you were looking for something else or the plan doesn't help much then I am sorry that I have wasted your time. GL\n\nP.S: try making flow chart of all the headings, sub-headings from each chp. really helps gain ctrl fast", "I always found that restricting myself two two activities did the trick:\n\n1) Wasting time.\n\n2) Doing the required task.\n\nWhat was forbidden was doing anything else 'constructive'. Any other tasks, jobs, projects, errands, etc.\n\nIf you let yourself waste as much time as you need, eventually you will cycle around to what you need to do, lather, rinse, repeat. But if you get involved in something else 'worthwhile', it substitutes for the eventual motivation to get to your required task." ]

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[ "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n", "Where are some great places to hide things? **Please don't give advice on hiding a phone, please give advice on hiding things.**\n\n" ]

[ "I used to hide stuff in THEIR room. Remove a drawer, put it in there (tape it), replace drawer. They might search *your* room but they will *never* search their *own* room. ", "zip-lock, toilet water tank\n\ndepends who you hide it from though, it's one of the first things police will look", "I used to hide my drugs in my computer case. Also behind the keyboard in the pull out. I would keep lines chopped and ready back there. My wife never found it.", "According to Making A Murderer, in plain sight by your loafers. It'll only take the cops 4 days to find it..", "This is a little more complex, but it's pretty secure. If you remove a door off the hinges, behind the plate for the hinge, there's space between the screws to drill a slot to put things into.\n\nYou can't access it quickly, but neither can someone stealing your stuff. Also, it's hard for law enforcement to explain why they are searching your walls unless it's listed in the search warrant.", "Hollow out a place for your iPhone in an old book. Lay the phone down on a page about a quarter of the way through the box, trace around it, then start hacking away with an xacto knife or something until it's deep enough to hold the phone flat. Then you can close the boo with the phone I side and voila.", "Cut out a square of sod in your yard, and place off to the side. Get a piece of plywood or thick cardboard about the same size as the sod and lay the sod on top of it. Now dig a bucket size hole where the sod was removed. Put the bucket in the hole and then cover the bucket with the plywood with the sod on top.", "Depends what you're hiding, in the case of something illegal or something you don't want to be found, most of the suggestions here are perfectly acceptable. However, there are some things you absolutely do not want to lose, but you do not want to be found either. \n\nIn the case of money, you don't want to store it in some place where someone could easily throw the hiding place away without finding the money it is hiding. Storing money inside a mattress comes to mind. In my case, I put my money right under my keyboard. It's not the most obvious location to search through but I can guarantee if my parents were to out of nowhere throw away some things in my room, they would find my money. Sure they might ask about it but explaining why I put it there is a hell of a lot easier than losing the money.", "In a [hollow book](http://vonmelee.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/secret-safe-compartment-book.jpg). ", "My go to spot growing up was in the frame of my closet door. When doors are built in, they shim all around leaving a space between the door frame and the wall framing. The front is then covered with trim to hide the space. No one ever trims the inside of the closet, so there is a gap that no one ever sees and would never think to look. Its easily accessible and great for hiding wead, condoms, and no doubt ....cell phones.", "If your parents ground you and don't want you using the phone *while* they ground you - they are going to ask you to give the phone to them.\n\nWhat are you going to tell them then \"I lost it\" and then when you're not grounded anymore its going to magically reappear? \n\nIf you hide your phone and they ground you - what may happen is in being forced to retrieve it and hand it over, you'll expose your wonderful 'hiding place' and probably get into even more trouble.\n\nIn other words, I don't think you've thought this through.", "I like to hide smaller things in DVD or video game cases. For your iPhone, you can probably slide it under some furniture or you can put it somewhere in your car like in the wheel well.", "Between your mattress and the frame. If you have a jacket that you never wear in the closet put it in one of the pockets. You could even hallow out a book. You could take half the tissues out of the box put the phone in and place the rest of the tissues in on top. ", "A speaker. Pop the front off and unscrew the actual speaker. Or old sneakers. Ac vents. Tape it to the bottom of a desk or table....", "Used to hide my drugs in my stove top. If it's the inductive coil kind its a simple matter to pull it up, remove the drip tray, and stash your stuff. \n\nHell I even had stuff inside the ball end of a doorknob. \n\nIf not viable, remove the bag of cereal (hopefully cereal that is never/rarely eaten) from a box of cereal. Tape phone to inside of box and replace bag. \n\nBonus: in central air vents, the exposed insulation above a light globe/fixture, inside a DVD case, taped to the underside of the inside of kitchen/bathroom cabinets. ", "TBH you sound like a kid who needs to get his ass kicked once or twice. It sounds like you've never had any punishment worse than going to your room. If you expect to be grounded, get a good book and take advantage of the quiet time. You are supposed to learn from punishment, not avoid it with further deception like a little sneak.", "Only works if you're a female (may be a little obvious if not) but I hide stuff in a box of tampons all the time. My parents never looked there when I was young and my husband doesn't look in there now. Works great.", "The only thing I ever needed to hide was weed and the only people I needed to hide it from were cops.\n\nOne has to be careful though, cause they tend to know a lot about hiding places and they also tend to have dogs that smell that stuff easily.\n\nGenerally, if I was just going for a day outing I'd keep the slowboats somewhere easy, like a top pocket. Quick to ditch it if the cops want to search me. Or even eat it if needs be.\n\nFor longer trips where I was actually transporting some quantity for extended use I'd have to prepare a bit better. Obviously wrapped it up as tightly & thickly as practical. Then I'd stuff it in a big coffee tin and refill the tin and reseal it. Stick it in a box with a whole lot of other grocery items.\n\nI'd never risk going through an airport with that though.", "Small object? Seal it in a zip-lock bag and bury it in the bottom of the cat's litter box, assuming you are the one who usually deals with that chore. No one else is going looking in there!", "Is someone going to be looking for it actively? Or you just dont want them stumbling on it? Also, do you need to access it frequently? \n\nInside the stuffing in a cushion, or pillow or toy is always a good one for easy retreival.", "I hate to be \"that guy\", but any parent with half a brain in their head would just cut the phones service off since it's guaranteed they are footing the bill. Then proof, expensive pocket watch.", "Do you have a printer that isn't used much? See if there is space in or under it that won't be messed up if the printer is used.\n\n-----\n\nDo you do your own laundry? Double bag it and put it at the bottom of the powdered detergent. If you use liquid detergent, use 2 empty bottles to make one with a false bottom. (Fill one with ***very*** hot water to make the plastic soft. Push the bottom in so you have a shelf 1/2 to 3/4 of an inch deep. Fill with cold water to make it solid again. Cut the bottom inch off the other bottle and glue it to the funky bottle. Use the labels to cover the joins.)\n\n-----\n\nDo you have any old trophies with tubes big enough to hide stuff in? What about the base? (You may have to hollow it out a little.\n\n-----\n\nAs has been said, don't hide things in your own room. Hide them in your parents' room or in common areas. (Avoid the bathroom, though!) Tape things to the underside or backs of kitchen drawers. Behind the fridge. Behind the TV. Where are the holiday decorations kept? If it's getting cold out, the lawnmower isn't going to get much use.", "Behind a painting or picture on the wall. Should sit nicely in the frame. Who are you hiding it from?", "Air vents dude. Just keep a screwdriver handy. Maybe even take all the ones that fit it and hide them in there too (except one of course. The master key). Just make sure it's off and on silent. Tape that bad boy in there and you're set. \n\n\nInside a stuffed animal. \nJust say your gf or something. Crush idk. Gave you some kind of teddy bear with stuffing in a zipper. Drop your spare in there and put it on a shelf. \n\nA DVD box set of something of disinterest to them. WW2 documentary or a concert of a band they'd hate. Maybe even an original WoW box. It's a perfect size\n\nA board game box. In WW2 gameboards like Monopoly were used to sneak in a plethora of neat tools and instruments to facilitate escapes in POW camps. Some inspiration for your grounding woes. \n\n\nEasy places like coat pockets in your closet \n\nOr like unscrew the plate for the light switch and jam it in there.\n\nGet a jacket with pockets and cut a hole in one of the pockets allowing items to be stored in the bottom of the actual jacket. You can carry this at all times as long as they don't pat you down well or take your jacket. \n\nIf you were crafty you take an old graphing calculator and carve out big enough space in it to fit a phone then slide the cover back over it. \n", "Since it's autumn and they wont be nearly used as much, on top of the fan blades. Or the fan body itself. If you're worried someone might accidentally turn on the fan, you can try taping it down some. If you think someone might actually use the fan (for a long period of time), don't put it here unless you think the tape will hold for long enough ", "Inside a subwoofer, or any speaker cabinet. At the back of a really tall shelf in an obscure location. Behind the air filter of your car. Beneath a loose floor board under a rug. In the ductwork of your house. Make a slot behind an outlet/switch cover. I would tape the phone down in most of these cases, or Velcro. ", "If you have a box spring under your matress then cut a small slit out of it. There should be a ledge inside the frame of the box spring where you can stash the phone.", "Goodluck hiding you data usage,photos,text. Those can be archived on your parents request from whatever carrier you have.", "Could try hiding it in a sock, shoe, or jeans that are clean and placed neatly in a closet or drawer. Parents are usually only concerned with dirty clothing. Just remember where you leave it. ", "A box of cereal that only you eat. \n\nI used to hide stuff in my dishwasher from my roommates(we didn't use it).", "put them in a pocket of a pair of folded jeans in your dresser. As a parent, I wouldn't go through every article of folded clothing, I only search underneath.", "Unscrew wall outlet and light switch covers. There's enough space in there for small things like rings, cards, keys, slips of paper, etc. and no one ever thinks to look there. ", "REI sells a mug with a secret compartment in the base; [it's pretty sweet](https://www.rei.com/product/792857/rei-double-shot-press-mug).", "Old DVD, CD, and VHS boxes. You can also hide stuff in the sealing if your house has those removable tiles.", "Make a straight cut in your carpet about 5 inches. Slide in phone and push carpet until it looks normal. Also make sure it's not in a high traffic area.", "If you happen to have a PlayStation 2 lying around, there is a small compartment located in the back of the device. There is a simple plastic covering for it that you can easily see, and this covering is meant to clip on and off. There should be enough space for an iPhone 4S to be hidden in there, but it's a great spot regardless. " ]

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[ "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n", "How can I ensure that my laptop has adequate ventilation while laying in bed? I like to watch movies while falling asleep. I curl up next to my laptop, which has vents on the bottom, which is totally blocked by the bedding. The cooling fan becomes too loud to enjoy the movie at a peaceful volume.\n\n" ]

[ "a book works well..i used to use a 3 ring binger and have the back vents just slightly off the edge..I would add little blocks on each corner to keep it raised a bit off to help as well..but thats because my laptop always threatened to catch on fire just turning on", "I bought some plywood that is just a little bigger than my laptop. If you laptop is not like the one on the top picture, with the raised up back for improved air flow;\nhttp://cdn.ubergizmo.com/photos/2010/4/vaio-z-extended-battery-spl.jpg\n\nthen a cheap solution is to use sticky tack and put soda/water bottle caps under each corner to raise it up a bit. \n\nSo if you have a laptop that from the bottom left corner to the top right corner is 15 inches, get some plywood that is 16 inches from one corner to the other. If you need more air flow under it add bottle caps.", "at one point i had a heat sink, a solid slab of metal, might have been alumin(i)um, used for defrosting fish and such. but i misplaced it.", "[Laptop desk](http://www.walmart.com/ip/Trademark-Global-Laptop-Buddy-Cushion-Desk-with-Pen-and-Cup-Holder-in-Gray/19308996)", "[Cooling Pad](http://www.amazon.com/Targus-Chill-AWE55US-Black-Gray/dp/B002NU5O9C/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1355608439&sr=8-6&keywords=laptop+cooling+pad)\n\n", "I have this hard leather type A2-ish art folder I used to use at school, it works PERFECTLY for using the laptop in bed. Else, a good hard-back book", "I use a marble chess board. It works very well. You can get a large hard bound book from your local thrift store for $1 or less, usually. Bonus points if you can get one with a cool title.", "I use a [LapDesk](http://lapdesk.com/). In a pinch a textbook or yearbook will work as well, depending on your bedding.", "Not sure if this if for everyone, but I put my laptop on its side so that when I lie on my sides, my face and laptop is facing the same way. This also helps the fan since there's nothing blocking it. " ]

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[ "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment.", "How to Act Around Someone Passive Aggressive who Has Somewhat of an Authority over You and You Have Been Nice to Them? Long story short, I go to this gym where one of the coaches is a little passive aggressive towards me. \nI'm not sure what the reason, but if I wanted to take a guess, I think he believes I have an ego, even though I have been trying to be extra nice towards him to show I don't. \nI have had this problem of being extra nice towards people in the past where they have taken that for weakness, or maybe social awkwardness.\n\nI don't really like being direct with him and ask him if there's a problem, as we are not on equal social levels at the gym environment." ]

[ "One way to handle casual passive aggression is to only respond to words, not subtext. Take whatever they say literally, and respond out loud to the words as though there was no tone.\n\n\"I see someone's not worried about bikini season.\"\n\n\"I'm not actually. Is there a reason I should be? Why would you think that?\"\n\nIf you can cheerily force them to turn their subtext into text, you can make them sit with the awkwardness they created.", "Well. First life lesson, no one actually has authority over you as an adult. Especially, someone who only has \"somewhat\" authority over you. You may need to find a new job, situation, etc. But don't let anyone, especially some asshole, reign supreme in your own life.\n\nTLDR: don't take anyone's shit", "People rarely change unless they encounter sufficient reason to do so. \nThe only reason to tolerate denigrating behavior from another is if you have a sufficient reason to do so and you are able to remain unaffected. \nDon't reward bad behavior by trying to be nice.", "You are on a higher level. You are a paying customer and he needs to keep you happy. Let him know that.", "\"Do you want to tell me what the attitude is for or should I just end my membership and give my money to someone more straightforward?\"", "In a place like gym, where you're only going to take the benefit, just take it and leave. Do not invest emotionally into places not really necessary. We often meet different kind of people and most won't even stay in our lives for that long. Go, work out, take tips if he gives, go home and don't even think about him later that day.", "A lot of times, I've found that guys like that respond well to quiet confidence and indifference towards them. But since you're apparently looking for somebody to teach you, it sounds like that place might not be the best environment", "If youre a gym member YOU have the authority. So either mention it to management or ignore this person.\n\nIn general dealing with passive aggressive people you need to be confident and calming stand your ground. If you know youre correct reinterate your view or action calmly until the other person gives up or accepts you wont be swayed for their benefit.\n\nYou can also try finding unrelated common ground such as a shared interest. But it may not be worth that effort", "Remember that their attitude is a reflection on them not you. If he has an ego that's his problem, but also not everyone is going to like you and they don't have to. \n\nWhat he thinks of you is his business you don't have to ask him what his problem is. \n\nYou don't have to have anything to do with him, just do your thing at the gym. If you go to his classes, confront him, stop going or just allow his attitude. If he's harrassing you while you're doing your own workout, report him.", "“What were you looking for when you said that?”\n\nDon’t invest in people like this. If you’re like me and you love your gym, but not this guy, then be direct and say something. And then don’t say a word and let him hang himself. Don’t say a word! \n\nAfter he hangs himself, show him compassion and bring him back in with a statement that is friendly. “Hey, we just want to get big and strong right?”", "This is a major issue in my life right now. I have a new Mgr over me and she didn't hire me and has said to others she wouldn't have. Fun times. Always making small digs. Help! I love my actual job. It's just her", "It's a common coaching style. Being aggressive is a necessity, and the passive part helps soften it. If it's not your thing, the next time it happens, ask the coach to \"tell it like it is\". Don't feel bad if you have to bring it up multiple times, because the coach probably learned that style while being coached as a student and may need to make a different habit for coaching you.", "I am from the Midwest of the US and Passive Aggression is an artform here. \n\nHere is my master plan to handle it:\n\nDon't give a shit.\n\nAchieve this in practice by taking everything they say at face value. Oh, you complimented me in a backhand, sarcastic way? Thank you very much for the kind words. Oh, you offered me something that you expected me to not take you up on? I will have it, thank you.\n\nDrives the passive folks crazy.", "Is this your personal coach that is training you? Is this a group thing you are doing? Are you reading things wrong? If it's the first two, talk to him he's your coach and gets paid. Or request a dif coach/go at a dif time/day.\n\nIf it is some rando, just walk away from the guy.", "If you've worked in any corporate, Client has always been the most important authority. You're the client. Go act like you own the place.", "You’re thinking about it too much. Too much thinking. \n\nJust be yourself and be normal. Don’t try to be who you think he thinks you are that you think you know but he is thinking something else, and when you do what you think, even if it is right, he might take it a completely different way.\n\nSo, just be normal and if he is a dick just don’t even mind him.", "Wait, you are a paying customer at a gym, and one of the employees is less than courteous? \nNever work with a jerk - find another \"coach\" or \"trainer\" or whatever. \nPerhaps a different gym. \nBut how does anyone \"at a gym you go to\" have ANY authority over you?", "There's many things that you can do, but ultimately I would change your mindset and perception on the matter. I would personally not let it bother me and just go about my routine as per usual, have you ever heard of stoicism?", "I’m usually very nice at first. If people start being pricks I have no problem ignoring them for as long as it takes. If they start being nice I’ll be nice too. If they keep being pricks I’ll keep ignoring them or keep the talking to only short informative responsive answers.\n\nSome once told me, a third of the people will like you, a third of the people will dislike you, and a third of the people will neither like or dislike you. Use your energy accordingly. \n\nLife’s too short to play weird drama games.", "I use to work as a merchandiser, hired to go into stores to re-arrange shelving displays ect. There was one worker exactly like you described, thought nice people are weak. They were extremely passive aggressive to me and I tried the whole super nice and polite thing, ignoring jabs, eye rolls and impatient sighs and the like. It didn't work. I went in there once at the end of a real shitty day and I was in no mood for her shit. Polite and not exactly hostile, just no smiles or small talk, I just wanted to get in and out with zero aggravation. She turned into a different person. Smiles and laughter, going out of her way to be helpful. \n\nI thought it was very interesting so I did a little experiment. The next time I went in I was my usual jovial self and wham, back to the side eye, sighing bitch. I switched it up a few times and every time I gave good morning where is the paperwork so I can get started? she was a totally different person. So that is what she got. And to be honest it was a lot less stressful for me, because I didn't have to worry about expending the energy being nice to someone who was rude to me for absolutely no reason. \n\nI guess my point is, be nice as pie and polite as you can stomach but keep small talk to a bare minimum. Definitely don't smile or make jokes with them, and try to keep communication to what you need to know. I found 'Thank you very much for your assistance' followed by turning my back on them very effective. Try it for a few days if you are comfortable with it and see if anything changes.", "You're a human, they are human. That makes you equal. Doesn't matter their title. Could be \"Grand Poobah of the Earth\", who cares. Everyone's just a person.\n\nBe direct and ask if there's an issue. If yes, resolve it. If no then move on.\n\nLife's too complicated to make more stress.", "If you’re good at what you do, disregard them but voice to them that you ,”100 percent agree and will be pushing in that direction.”\nIt makes them feel like they were right and you can do it your way, because you just say when they tell them that is what they said. Gaslight those MFrs.", "If you have to work under that person, then being polite and just working is enough. If it's a social setting like the gym and you're there as part of your fitness journey, then any sort of interaction can be reduced to be as minimal as possible. The only drawback is if this person is a particular type of coach (powerlifting/bodybuilding/etc) and you need their expertise. If they are just a personal trainer, and you don't pay them for their services then you can totally ignore them for the duration of the time you are there. \n\nDon't try to be \"extra nice\" to those sort of people, it won't help in any way and can just make you feel worse. \n\nOne of the most powerful things I've learnt as an adult, and it's something I'm teaching my children, is that you don't have to be friends with every single person in your life. Be polite but there is no need to be anything more than that. Especially to people who treat you a certain way. I've used this strategy in the past to deal with difficult people I work with and bosses I've had and have noticed a total 180 in the attitudes towards me. I haven't changed my attitude since they have changed, and still keep them at arms distance, but it makes for a more pleasant workplace.", "I had a similar issue with my manager at work. He kept telling me to program something a specific way and when I did it exactly as told, he would change the code and project structure himself, making it different from what he had told me before. \n\nAfter weeks of this I asked him why does he want to do it this way? What is the point of doing it this way? And he would say he doesn't understand why I'm asking him this. And I would say it's because a few days ago he told me to do it that other way, which I did. So I'm trying to understand why he is now doing it differently so I can do it the 'right' way the first time. \n\nHe never told me why. A few weeks later he left the business.", "I can give a more specific answer if you give a specific example.\n\nIf somebody it's being passive-aggressive I find the easiest way to deal with it is to treat them as if their words are literal. Eg it would be nice if somebody cleaned up these weights (assuming you did not leave the weights out) just agree ,\" that would be nice\" and move on. \n\nMore importantly besides safety and gym rules what authority does a coach at a gym have over you? They are an employee of a business you patronize. While they are 100% able to instruct you as to the rules and possibly some gym etiquette of the gym and \" stop that is not safe\" is also appropriate; there is nothing else they have authority over you in. If they are training you and you don't like how they talk to you get a different trainer, it's a service business transaction not a social obligation.", "Fuck him. He works in a gym. I did that shit at 16. \n\nTell him to get a real job before passing judgement on you.", "Don’t try to fix this guy or fix yourself to interact with him. Get away from him otherwise you’ll likely damage yourself", "Don't acknowledge him/her, just ignore them and do your own thing. Normally when people are serious and don't show nervousness, others won't mess with them because they never know what they're getting into.", "Do you work for him? If not, he has no authority over you. Ignore him, or ignore his passive aggressive behavior and do your thing! Do you pay him to train you? Fire him and get a new trainer. Is there another reason why you have to be nice to him? If so, explain & we can try to help.", "Calling another man “aggressive” is one of those plays that almost always works well (even when it’s not true).\n\nWhen you call someone aggressive their immediate reaction is to get defensive & say “What do you mean, aggressive? I’m not aggressive”… But it annoys them, so it almost always sounds aggressive. \n\nIf it’s true, it works even better.\n\nYou could say he has an aggressive coaching style. You can do this either directly to his face or to his colleagues. Just keep working it in.\n\nIf he calls you out you can say “oh, no, I meant it in a good way”. Or say something like “I don’t mean you want to fight people or anything like that, it’s just that your style is, y’know, aggressive”.\n\nThey will either actually get aggressive, but in an out of order way that makes them look bad… Or they will stop, which is also a win.", "A little,,, hey are we good? Everything good? Then follow up after there answer by going okay I just wanted to make sure it felt like you were \" a little mad or something\" rephrase it in your words if you want, you get my point. Confront it head on handle it in the moment is what I would do IF it bothered me enough/ just in the mood. I also like to completely ignore people like that sometimes and just recognize they are going through what ever and it has absolutely no effect on me. Bunch of different ways to handle it but don't be scared to speak up IF your ready for a conversation possibly a confrontation/ uncomfortable type of situation. And I phrase it like that because you really have no idea how they will respond if you call them out. They might snap and talk more shit/ try to fight you have to be ready for that possibility or they might listen and change their attitude. \nI'll say for me personally I usually feel better if I confront it in some type of way. \nSometimes I'll let people get away with getting over on me if I don't have something good to say in the moment and then I'll destroy them when the right moment comes.", "The best way to deal with “passive” aggressive is to make the issue an active part of the conversation. “I feel like I’m being manipulated.” “I feel that you are trying to express A.” For example “Hey, I feel like you may think I have an ego. I wanted to let you know I appreciate your feedback and I’ll do my best to humbly accept any advice or guidance you give as my trainer. I value your advice.”", "I use a strategy I call the “just say oh” strategy. \n\nI don’t argue. I don’t agree, I don’t disagree, I just say oh. \n\nAsshole says “You’re doing that workout all wrong” I say, “oh” and keep on doing my thing. \n\nAsshole says, “Trump is the greatest president since Reagan”. I say, “oh” and don’t respond in any other way. \n\nIf I don’t give them the satisfaction of a response, I won." ]

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[ "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? ", "How to make the most out of a long airplane ride. I will be traveling from Seattle to Bangkok in a month, meaning a total of 19 hours on an airplane. I have trouble sleeping on planes and run out of ways to entertain myself within the first two hours. Any not so obvious tips from seasoned fliers? " ]

[ "TLDR: with the right software and charging units, anyone can stretch 4-10gb on an mp3/video playing device into 8-80gb . \n\nProfessional red eye, weary jet setter here. \n\n\nPodcasts and perfect playlists matching multiple themes.\n\nDon't just make a playlist, make a chill, sleep, groove, action, pop etc playlist. Otherwise you're stuck in the mood of wanting one type of song when you're getting fifty of the same, boring songs in a row. \n\nAlso take to finding YouTube videos and either converting them to mp3 or (depending on what tech you have) converting to a video codec that works on your media device. \n\nBring pen and pencils and paper, draw stuff. \n\nAllocate snacks, find your dream team of snacks and buy them all, then mix them together into a nice ziplock bag to make a \"luxury trail mix\" (mine is pepperoni pizza combos+beef jerky+bacon cheddar crackers+cheezeits).\n\nIf your device can hold 19hrs of video, down sample that 19hrs of video(typically useful on an SD/HDTV into the smallest resolution for your device) and turn 19hrs of superHD video into 37hrs of 144p video (that won't make a difference depending on the resolution and sound quality of your device). \n\nIf you have the ability, convert DVDs into mp3s, then modify the bitrate of those MP3 files down from 320/192 to a more space saving 90-64kbps.\nAlso don't forget to carry an extra pair of headphones, you don't want to be stuck waiting to land with all that fucking noise ruining everything. \n\nDrugs, variety of drugs, menthol inhaler sticks, breathe-right menthol, sleeping pills, 7$ vodka or 5$ beer, Dramamine (though Dramamine only worked once and afterwords made me sick), and don't underestimate Icey hot liquid gel, put that shit on your ears and you're basically simulating \"cool pillow\" mode. Heartburn pills and general aspirin do well too. Maybe even carry some of that Kava Tea or some flavor packets of \"relaxation\" bottled water drink mix from local walmarts. \n\n\nIf at all possible get severely buzzed before at a bar, then get drunk on the plane. Sitting still on a plane and being drunk is more clandestine than getting wasted and attempting to board a plane. \n\n(If it helps at all) Here's my day on a long flight using about 10gb of data. \n\nWaiting to board the flight, drink something strong but satisfying...eat a few salty snacks. Set all your battery powered devices to zero brightness unless you have backup batteries. Try and find a spot to supercharge your devices before you go outlet free for a while. Once aboard the plane check out your magazines or draw something, it's really annoying to be told to remove your headphones after you've already turned off the device it's plugged into. After 10,000 ft (although *some may not observe*) start off listening to some podcasts or something, don't go draining that data or battery on the very beginning. Sporadically drink some booze or mix water with your pre-packaged drink mixes/teas. If it gets stuffy, go for the menthol vapor inhaler. If you get tired go for the nasal strip and icy hot gel(below 3oz). \n\nIf hungry you can of course go for the microwaved food or the awesome snack pack you made. Eat that and start watching a movie or TV show. Maybe after a whole go for some relaxing or sleep music while you catch some Z's. once you pass over land again...well, that's the point where i become a window guy even if I've got hours of shows left to watch. Everything after that or sundown/sunrise is just a repeat of the past couple stages. The key is being happy with whatever you're doing, whether it be sleeping, watching something, listening to something, or chilling while doing something else. \n\nThe most stressful part is the anxiety of running out of stuff to watch or running out of battery, I typically play it so safe that by the time we land, I still have 4hrs of either battery or entertainment remaining. \n\nall this talk about portable devices has probably pushed me over the edge though, here I am constantly spending time before and after flights compressing and converting audio/video files, when I could just have a tablet with 32gb flash drives or an iPod with an 80gb drive.\n\n\n\nNow as is customary on reddit; I have written a bunch of earnest advice so please, either skip over me completely or just nitpick on some tiny detail I've already fully explained or justified in full.", "Personally, I find audio books and a portable listening device to be the best solution. I have trouble reading on a plane due to external stimulus and (in some cases) nausea, but if I can just lean back, close my eyes, and listen to a good book, it makes the time pass very quickly.", "The seat-back tv is your friend. I mostly watch all sorts of crappy movies. After a while once your brain is complete mush, the best combo is an audiobook on your phone + watching the flight progress view on the little tv. It allows you to enter some kind of limbo which is quite relaxing. (BTW, Bose NC headphones are a game-changer, by taking away the roar of the engine noise they make it possible to relax. Totally worth the $300.) I also love to listen to a book while I do something with my hands - complex coloring books or a knitting project are good. Or just solitaire on my phone.\n\nI always take enough entertainment in case I'm the one whose seatback system is not working. At least one book, a couple of movies on my phone or ipad, multiple audiobooks, backup power for my device. \n\nDon't try to fall asleep, it makes you stressed when you're still awake and have therefore failed. Just surrender to the endless journey, then you might zone out for an hour or two.\n\nsource: from Sydney, have lived east coast USA for 20 yrs, fly back every couple of years.", "A book, some work, perhaps an extra battery for your laptop and a hard disk full of movies. If you're creative, take photos out the window or write about what you see. The occasional walk up and down the aisle is encouraged. Chat with your neighbour; bring a pack of playing cards or teach yourself a new language. There's many things you can do! I'd just say make sure some of those things aren't relying on electronic devices. :)", "In my experience most long haul flights have in-seat entertainment units with movies and tv shows. \n\nAlso if you have a layover some airports (Narita as an example) have shower rooms you can rent inexpensively and are great for refreshing yourself.", "Podcasts or books on tape are the way to go. I recommend RadioLab, Freakonomics, Lexicon Valley, 99 Percent Invisible for thought-provoking, well-produced examinations of varying topics; America's Test Kitchen Radio if you're into cooking and call-in shows; The Sounds In My Head and Antique Shanghai Pop Music for music podcasts; The Gist and Planet Money for news; Snap Judgment and The Moth for storytelling; and The Truth for radio drama.\n\nGo to librivox.org for free audiobooks read by normal people; it can sometimes be hit or miss. I listened to *The Brothers Karamazov*, some chapters were read by yokels with terrible voices and pronunciation, others were phenomenal.", "As someone who flies from North America to Asia on a regular basis (at least twice a year for the past decade, sometimes more), I feel your pain.\n\nI do *not* recommend getting drunk on the flight. Intoxication for me magnifies all of the negative physical effects of long flights: motion sickness, bad smells, cramped spaces. I *do,* however, recommend taking Ambien (aided, perhaps, by a single serving of alcohol).\n\nFor me, I try to download a bunch of spoken word audio onto my phone. I like podcasts: This American Life, The Moth, Selected Shorts -- all things that require little attention or interaction to keep me distracted.\n\nWhen I get on the plane, I'll get settled in and watch two movies. I'll then eat a bag of trail mix -- something with lots of protein. If I haven't already done so, I'll void my bladder and colon, order a drink, take 10-20 mg of Ambien and try to sleep for 7 or so hours.\n\nBy the time I wake up, about 10 hours of the 13-hour transpacific flight is behind me. I go to the bathroom, return to my seat, wade in the Ambien afterglow and maybe listen to a podcast. I will order an orange juice and relax. Pretty soon, it's time to fill out arrival cards, and I'm alert enough to manage it.\n\nI arrive feeling pretty much okay. I try to stay up as long as I can and go to bed as close to bedtime-local-time as possible. And that's about it.", "Work. I've gotten quite a bit done on flights since there aren't all that many distractions. Anything entertainment based will get old after two or three hours, but you presumably are used to working eight or more at a time. Just hunker down as best as you can, and when you get there, you'll have the perfect excuse to take a nap at the hotel. ", "Movies, meals, naps. The trick is to string things out and procrastinate. On a long flight I'll get through only about 3 2hr movies, but I'll take an hour over my meal and drink, I'll take a nap for a few hours, it all adds up. The trick is to take on a sort of lethargic state of mind and avoid trying to cram in entertainments.", "If your on a long haul flight there should be a bunch of movies and TV series for you to watch\n\nIm not sure about the company your flying with but every long haul flight I have ever done have served complimentary drinks on board. People say to avoid drinking alcohol as it dehydrates you but Ill happily admit Ive been smashed going through US, Australian, NZ, Singapore and Dubai customs. Now Im not getting drunk by myself despite flying alone, Im getting drunk while the person next to me who I have never met is getting drunk too. Try talking to the person next to you (alcohol is not essential unless you need it to talk to strangers like me), I spoke to one couple for 4 whole hours.\n\nFailing that if you want to get some sleep I would say take anti-histomines if you need to but a better option would be to download a sleep aid app for your phone and use that to sleep, some of the sounds can help even on a plane\n\nOther than those though I cant help you, as I said every long haul Ive done Ive done the British thing and had one too many glasses of red wine and ended up making mistakes on my customs form so I end up talking crap with the person next to me or going into a weird daze. ", "stay up all night the night before so your extremely tired and sleep most of the flight.\n\nor drink yourself to sleep (watching movies on seatback tv) on the free booze (even in economy) or a combination of both. ", "Bring along a nice box of chocolates/candy for the flight attendants and give it to them when they check your boarding pass once you're on the plane. They'll look after you well :)" ]

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[ "How to deal with someone you have feelings for but the feeling isn't mutual. Well, I don't think the feeling is mutual. It's just the vibe I get. We have slept together within the past week but I don't know where I stand with her. Do I push the subject or just act natural whenever I see her next?", "How to deal with someone you have feelings for but the feeling isn't mutual. Well, I don't think the feeling is mutual. It's just the vibe I get. We have slept together within the past week but I don't know where I stand with her. Do I push the subject or just act natural whenever I see her next?" ]

[ "Tell *her* how you feel. And if you're head-over-heels infatuated, don't go overboard about it.\n\n\"I think I'm starting to have feelings for you.\", but not \"OMG I WUBS OOO SOOOO MUCH LETS NOOKIE AGAIN OR I COULD JUST DIEEEEEE YAYS LOOKIT ME IM CRYING\" \n\nSee what she says. \n\nOr find out if she is pretty casual about sex or if it is a special thing for her? You can maybe ask her that too. If you're boinking and you want more, a little bit of communication really ain't too much of a stretch to expect.", "Well first off you slept with her so she must think alright of you. Secondly talk to her, tell her you want to take her out on a date and if she says no then you know she isnt interested." ]

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[ "Staying warm in very cold environments. Hi Reddit!\n\nI'll be living in a *very* cold area of the country for the next three months, and I'd love some advice on how to stay warm through 0-20s Fahrenheit temperatures. I'll be outside 30-60 minutes each day, and tend to get cold easily.\n\nBesides a warm jacket, a scarf, a hat, and good gloves, what do you recommend? \n\nThanks!", "Staying warm in very cold environments. Hi Reddit!\n\nI'll be living in a *very* cold area of the country for the next three months, and I'd love some advice on how to stay warm through 0-20s Fahrenheit temperatures. I'll be outside 30-60 minutes each day, and tend to get cold easily.\n\nBesides a warm jacket, a scarf, a hat, and good gloves, what do you recommend? \n\nThanks!", "Staying warm in very cold environments. Hi Reddit!\n\nI'll be living in a *very* cold area of the country for the next three months, and I'd love some advice on how to stay warm through 0-20s Fahrenheit temperatures. I'll be outside 30-60 minutes each day, and tend to get cold easily.\n\nBesides a warm jacket, a scarf, a hat, and good gloves, what do you recommend? \n\nThanks!", "Staying warm in very cold environments. Hi Reddit!\n\nI'll be living in a *very* cold area of the country for the next three months, and I'd love some advice on how to stay warm through 0-20s Fahrenheit temperatures. I'll be outside 30-60 minutes each day, and tend to get cold easily.\n\nBesides a warm jacket, a scarf, a hat, and good gloves, what do you recommend? \n\nThanks!", "Staying warm in very cold environments. Hi Reddit!\n\nI'll be living in a *very* cold area of the country for the next three months, and I'd love some advice on how to stay warm through 0-20s Fahrenheit temperatures. I'll be outside 30-60 minutes each day, and tend to get cold easily.\n\nBesides a warm jacket, a scarf, a hat, and good gloves, what do you recommend? \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "layers. having a good skin close bottom layer ([like this](http://www.mc-lifestyle.com/tuotteet/SWKT-300.jpg)) works wonders, especially if your top layer is wind proof and with lining. note that the layer between top and bottom doesn't necessarily need to be that thick. for example, i don't use three layers on my legs unless the temperature is below -20 celsius (-4 fahrenheit) degrees. i always use a third layer on my upper body, though.\n\nalso make sure that your jacket has a hood since the circulating warm air keeps your head warmer than with only a woolly cap (that would make the jacket a [parka](http://www.goosejacketsalecanada.com/images/CGYP08.jpg), right?). the hood also blocks any wind sneaking in your back from your neck, which can be very unpleasant. still, wear the woolly cap under the hood for maximum effect. if your face gets frostbites easily, i would recommend a ski mask (like [this](http://tips.become.com/assets/images/winter-tips/1.9-Mask.jpg)), but that's mostly just for very windy conditions.\n\nmy feet get cold easily so i used to wear woolly socks over regular socks but nowadays i use skiing socks since they breath more.\n\ni would like to point out that when wearing layers, your body heat will warm you up fairly quickly to the point that you start to sweat if you are doing anything physical. in this case i wouldn't use a wind proof top layer.\n\nthis experience coming from living in finland.\n\n", "When I am just sitting a home freezing ( I try not to run the heater very much) I use a hot water bottle, and place it on my femoral arteries, between my thighs. Lots of blood pumps through this area, and placing anything warm there will almost immediately warm you up. Also, check into reusable hand and feet warmers.", "Canadian here!\n\nUse a hat or as we refer a tuque. A warm hat that will cover your forehead all the way to the top of the neck in the back, and it should cover your ears. Your body's priority is to maintain your brain at the right temperature. If your head is well covered then your body will take care of the rest. If your feet are cold put on a hat!\n\nIf you will perform any type of physical activities or work then layer your clothing: a underwear that will keep your skin dry, a heating layer (usually wool or fleece) and a wind stopping outer shell.\nIf you do not perform any activity (you sit or stand without too much movement) in a dry environment then pile up the heat: cotton, wool fleece and/or goose down jacket or even better: goose down pants and parka with a hood.\nIf it rains and the temperature is below 32 (yes it happens) go for the layers. Goose down will loose all ability to retain warmth once wet. You will probably end-up miserable anyway but hey... it's only 60 minutes!\n\n ", "If you're cold at home, just put your dressing gown on over your regular clothes. I'm a tight uni student and me and my housemates so this all the time to stay warm", "If you smack the tops of your knees when sitting it helps get the blood flow circulating through your legs.\nAlso putting your hands in your pants pockets instead of coat pockets will help if you don't have gloves." ]

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[ "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? ", "How to talk to people with memory related sickness? such as dementia, and old age related memory sickness.\n\nMy grandma mixes the reality with thoughts and worries in her mind. Sometime she hears and sees people at night when in reality they are in another city etc.\n\nIf she says something that is not true, how should one react? " ]

[ "As others have said, you don't necessarily want to correct them. If your relative is worried that she has to pick up the kids from school even though they're now grown adults, it's best to say \"Someone is picking them up, don't worry.\" Then you can try to redirect the person to the task at hand.", "Wanted to start with this: I'm sorry for your family's situation. It's incredibly hard on everyone. My grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease about 10 years ago. I also work in memory support at a care facility. It is difficult to re-learn how to communicate with our loved ones...\n\nThen some positives:\n\n* Absolutely validate her emotions. If she is upset, be upset with her. If she seems excited, be excited with her.\n\n* Reassure her that she is in a safe place, and with people who care for her welfare. \n\n* I have found it is best to use a 7-word rule for communicating. Don't bombard them with, \"You look really hungry. Here are some mashed potatoes. There is butter on them, I hope that's okay.\" It is often too much to process. Instead try, \"Would you like mashed potatoes?\" Give them ample time to respond, then feel free to ask another question if needed.\n\nI have other tips to offer, but my phone is dying! Feel free to ask any other questions and I will do my best to respond as soon as possible! I love helping families reconnect with loved ones facing dementia.", "Do you listen to podcasts? This American Life did an episode on this. It doesn't give a definitive answer but it's a very interesting episode. Don't remember the name of the episode tho", "My grandmother just passed over the summer after suffering from dementia / Alzheimer's for the last four or five years. At first it was very hard to talk to her, but I got better. Here's some tips:\n\n- Talk unashamedly about yourself. Describe your days, what you're doing, if you're on the phone where you are. She couldn't participate but absolutely loved hearing about what was going on. \n\n- Try not to ask abstract questions, or put her on the spot. It just gets them frustrated. I would try to focus her on her immediate surroundings: \"how is that bagel?\" \"Do you like the weather today?\" Etc. \n\n- If she gets confused or thinks something is real when it's not, simply correct her in a matter of faculty way and then move on. If she resists, don't try to force her to see it your way because it won't work. Just offer her the truth and she if she will accept it, if not just move on. \n\n- When it got really bad toward the end, I would spend hours just talking about my favorite memories. I wouldn't ask if she remembers, instead I would just tell her about them and how much it meant to me. \n\n- At the very very end, we would sing to her. Old songs from her childhood were still there and it was amazing to hear her join in singing when she couldn't really vocalize anything otherwise. \n\nAt a certain point you just have to let your love for the person color your last years together instead of their mental health. Good luck. ", "I would aim far more for pleasantness than reality. If she sees someone who wants to hurt her, reassure her or strongly emphasize a new topic. But if she has a nice illusion of, say, being in a favorite spot, definitely play along indefinitely.", "I have found that if you think of the elderly with mental conditions as toddlers with big vocabularies that can legally run away, it's not so bad. My mother lived with lewy-body-dementia for decades prior to her death in Oct. last year. She lived with me 3 of those years, and I was her caretaker in her final years. If you didn't know better, you'd swear there was an exorcism or party going on in her room with all the chatter, laughing, screaming, crying, conversations. My policy was not to open the door unless I heard my name or she was late waking up or if I thought she really needed help.\n\nYou need to choose your battles. Remember, if she believes it, it IS true to her. If it's a light hearted subject, ask her to tell you all about it - just like you would do with a kid with a wild imagination. If it's something deep, I'd change the subject. \n\nHave a short list of simple subjects to talk about: The weather, relatives, holidays - and my mom's favorite - she used to read Enquirer magazine and love trashy reality TV - and the REAL royal family across the pond. \n\nHave you recorded any of the things she says? Asked her about her younger years - because many can tell you about decades ago, but can't tell you what they had for lunch. Sometimes even just a single photo, or magazine from years ago, or a cookie - that's right - a single cookie - can change the conversation back from a dark place.\n\nKeep talking with your grandma. Hold her hand more, and her heart, and remember that real life karma. You probably were, or still are, the best part of her life. IF she helped raise you, most definitely there had to have been something she taught you. She's teaching you again.... how to get old... because it's not for weak.\n\nMay you both be at peace and a comfort to each other through the holiday season. Ask her what her favorite Christmas from childhood? The worst? Her favorite carol or hymn? Sing along - singing is one thing these patients probably do better than anything else!", "I intern at a geriatric hospital as a neuropsychologist. What others have said about not correcting her is accurate as it usually can get frustrating. Sometimes you will have to repeat yourself which is ok. \n\nWhat is very important though is that you keep her cognitively stimulated. Talk with her, let her listen to music, do crosswords/puzzles/sudoku, do some sort of artistic activity, etc. I run a cognitively stimulating group for our mild ncd (dementia) patients and we sang Holliday songs, learned about the history of Chanukah, talked about world events, etc. in our last group. This cognitive stimulation has been shown to help slow their cognitive decline. It also obviously helps with mood disturbances they might also be experiencing. \n", "I have dealt with people with dementia.\n\nWhen their reality becomes scary, you can change the subject to something that's not scary. For example,my neighbor would get upset about things out of place in his yard. I would just start talking about people he used to know, or political subjects that he loved to talk about. \n\nAt a certain point, dementia patients can forget what you said at the beginning of a sentence before you get to the end the sentence. Shorter sentences work better. At a certain point, memory prompts of a single word will be adequate to sustain a conversation. \n\nWhen I used to go into nursing homes, bringing my dog was great for people with dementia. The dog was small and cute, people didn't feel threatened by him. ", "Might work for your situation but if they served the memories from service can be a great connection point. I'm big into history and swapping info bout his time in Korea and the weapons used makes for hours of talking and even if he doesn't remember I do and hope to squeeze every memorie good or bad out and preserve them for me and the family.", "It's a tough situation, but IMO DON'T correct or argue with them. It'll only confuse and distress them.\n\nAs upsetting as it may be for you to see them get ill, accept their version of things and just go with it. Let them accept their own reality.\n\nIn your grandma's situation, don't try and tell her those people are in other cities. Engage her and encourage discussion with her about them. Telling her she's wrong and hearing/seeing things will just worry and distress her.\n\nDementia's a tough thing for all parties to deal with, good luck!", "I have had to do this with my mother. I just let the conversation flow. If I try and \"correct\" the facts she gets frustrated and angry. For important things like medication you need to keep written records.", "Great grandmother (90) has severe dementia. Aside from the mental state, she's physically doing OK for her age and is a wonderful lady with a beautiful, gentle nature. I'm a 30 year old male and she literally confuses me for my own father. Doesn't remember me at all. Upon seeing a picture of her husband taken a long time ago, she was under the belief that it was her father. It's happening with all the family members. The only person she seems to always identify correctly is her own daughter. We have unfortunately discovered she gets very upset and agitated when people correct her on these things. This is the absolute last thing we want to happen. As a consequence we tend to play along with it, making sure she stays in a happy frame of mind. It's painful for us all to see but as they say... ignorance is bliss.", "Got some pseudo-training on this one from an old job. \n\nBasically, you just roll with it. Play along, and gently walk them back to a state where they're at peace. \n\nDisclaimer: I have no qualifications, this is just some advice I got. ", "What I did with my dad was say \"Do you remember...(some positive event years ago)?\" He could remember things past and would pleasantly monologue about it. Kept him happy much of the time.", "People have left some lovely advice, which I'm going to try to use, but I have a more specific question. My boyfriend's mother has very severe Alzheimer's/dementia. He doesn't talk about her very often though he doesn't hide anything about her either. I haven't met her yet though I know I will in the future. Any tips for interacting with someone who you haven't already had a close relationship with?", "My grandma is suffering from dementia, it's mostly forgetting things almost immediately. It's gone down recently though and stuff like forgetting how to work the gas fire that she's used every day for the last 10 years is starting to crop up & how to use the microwave. She is dependant on all of us to get her things from the shops and everything yet refuses to leave her home to go to a care home & demands that she stays independent (she really isn't).\n\nThe other day she rang up 5 of us in turn with a slightly different story that a dog had shatt on her carpet and she wants us to clean it up. She lives alone, doesn't have a dog and no dogs ever visit the house.\n\nThe way we deal with it is that we don't say \"no it isn't\" but in the above situation say \"well, you want to stay independent you'll need to clean it up yourself\". When one of us went round there in the evening it was just a little piece of dirt that had been trodden in presumably at some point that morning.\n\nTLDR, pretend it's real", "Kinda go with the flow, just go with whatever they are talking about. And be prepared to talk about the same thing over and over. \"How are you?\" \"Yeah I'm good, how are you\" \"Not too bad, nice weather out today..So how are you?\" Don't feel like you shouldn't point out something isn't true that she says. But use the \"one and done\" rule, if you point it out, and she starts getting confused or irritated, then just go with what she was saying. I've been working in a nursing home as a cleaner for a few years, it's taught me a lot about how to communicate and listen. Try to enjoy your time with your grandma as she is now, and not get angry because she acts different. I seen a lady throw sweets out that her dad had been given as a gift, because he didn't like the sweets, or didn't used to I should say. Yet before she came in, he was happily eating the sweets. I can't imagine what it's like to have family with dementia, but you obviously care and want to be there for your grandma. At least that's what comes through reading your post, just be there for her zuchit. Hope some of this helps. ", "Just go with it. Don't try and correct them, or explain things - you will confuse them more. Just be nice and pleasant and as normal as you can be around them. Make a cup of tea. ", "I work with people that have dementia. In general, you can look at it that you can't change them but you can change their environment (speech therapist that does cognition in nursing home). Visual aids are great posted where they can see them. Sometimes they might not believe them, but other times they can be reminders that help them to feel oriented. We also work with families to make memory books. They are essentially scrapbooks with everything written out including pictures of themselves explaining their history and hobbies, their parents with history, their current family tree with everyone's relations and names. This allows them to have something to look through that can be comforting and is usually a good place to center conversation because it helps them to reminisce about the past, which is usually much much easier for them than talking about the now. ", "I know a couple of people with dementia. They know they forget things and feel bad if they think/know they're repeating things and annoying people. So don't let it show if you do get annoyed/bored of them telling the same story. And if it's something they're worried about, whether it's real or not, reassure and comfort them. ", "I have worked with the elderly off and on for the past 30 years. I find that what you say to them depends on the situation. If the false beliefs are scary and the person still has some hold on reality, then telling them that the thoughts are not real can be comforting. I tell my clients, they are just thoughts, they are not real. Just because you think something does not make it real. If the thoughts are harmless/and or the person is in advanced stages of dementia, then humoring them may be the only way to comfort them. I had a client that used to come out of his room in the middle of the night and say there were mice in his room. There were no mice but I would take the broom and hit it on the floor a couple of times and tell him, \"I think I got them all. You can go back to bed.\" It usually worked. Dementia patients are a lot like children and some of the same things work. Change the subject and talk about thinks she does remember. They will usually remember things that happened in the distant past. Look at photo albums together or watch an old movie or listen to music. Don't worry about repeating what you do, they don't mind and a lot of the time they forget.", "I have a similar problem that I would appreciate some feedback on. My aunt, that I try to see frequently, has als. She's at the point where she can only mumble. I try to talk to her and be there for her but I have no idea what to say. I try to ask questions like \" how are you doing? Are you hungry?\" Simple questions like that, but I don't understand what she's trying to say through the mumbling. Anyone know how to make her feel better communication wise. How can I make visits less awkward. It usually goes $ how are you doing?\" And she mumbles and I just smile and nod. I feel she knows I dont get it. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n" ]

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[ "How to get out of hotel cancellation fees that apply 6+ months in advance I know there's a LPT to avoid hotel cancellation fees when there is less than 24 hours notice, but I'm going to be charged $200 to cancel a hotel booking that's in December. \n\nMy boyfriend suggested cancelling my card, but I would think they would find me and make me pay regardless? \n\nAny help would be appreciated. :)", "How to get out of hotel cancellation fees that apply 6+ months in advance I know there's a LPT to avoid hotel cancellation fees when there is less than 24 hours notice, but I'm going to be charged $200 to cancel a hotel booking that's in December. \n\nMy boyfriend suggested cancelling my card, but I would think they would find me and make me pay regardless? \n\nAny help would be appreciated. :)" ]

[ "You could change your date of reservation to more than 6 months out and then call back to cancel it at a later time", "Nope they will not come looking for you. I have worked for many hotels and we never had time for that. Depending on the situation we might try to pre approve the card and if it declined call you and let you know, and if we did hear back from you in X number of days you reservation would be cancelled. Depending on how you made the reservation, call the hotel and see if they will cancel with out a fee due to unforseen situation. Or if you have an old gift card call and change the card on file to that, this will save you the hassle of canceling you cr" ]

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[ "How to get my dog to behave while I'm out. So, I have a 2 (going on 3) year old female Boxer dog. While being one of the sweetest, most cuddly bundles of joy I've ever encountered, she is also a couch-ripping, shoe-chewing, floor-deficating tornado when I'm away. I've tried locking her in a smaller kennel (slightly larger than her when standing, but not much) while I'm away, but she cries and rips at the bars with her nails for hours until her voice is hoarse and her nails bleed. I bought her a bigger kennel that could comfortably fit 2 boxers, and is much more \"open\" in design. I did this because I have another boxer who is just a dream to keep, and I assumed she was having anxiety from being separated from the other dog. Well, she does the same thing to this new kennel and warps/destroys the metal until she can squeeze out and wreak havoc on the house. I never encountered any of these issues training my other dog, especially with the housebreaking part. I've tried discipline, I've tried rewards, but my younger dog just doesn't seem to understand that the same rules apply to the house when I'm not there, and locking her up seems traumatic for her. Any suggestions of training methods? Thanks in advance for your time!", "How to get my dog to behave while I'm out. So, I have a 2 (going on 3) year old female Boxer dog. While being one of the sweetest, most cuddly bundles of joy I've ever encountered, she is also a couch-ripping, shoe-chewing, floor-deficating tornado when I'm away. I've tried locking her in a smaller kennel (slightly larger than her when standing, but not much) while I'm away, but she cries and rips at the bars with her nails for hours until her voice is hoarse and her nails bleed. I bought her a bigger kennel that could comfortably fit 2 boxers, and is much more \"open\" in design. I did this because I have another boxer who is just a dream to keep, and I assumed she was having anxiety from being separated from the other dog. Well, she does the same thing to this new kennel and warps/destroys the metal until she can squeeze out and wreak havoc on the house. I never encountered any of these issues training my other dog, especially with the housebreaking part. I've tried discipline, I've tried rewards, but my younger dog just doesn't seem to understand that the same rules apply to the house when I'm not there, and locking her up seems traumatic for her. Any suggestions of training methods? Thanks in advance for your time!", "How to get my dog to behave while I'm out. So, I have a 2 (going on 3) year old female Boxer dog. While being one of the sweetest, most cuddly bundles of joy I've ever encountered, she is also a couch-ripping, shoe-chewing, floor-deficating tornado when I'm away. I've tried locking her in a smaller kennel (slightly larger than her when standing, but not much) while I'm away, but she cries and rips at the bars with her nails for hours until her voice is hoarse and her nails bleed. I bought her a bigger kennel that could comfortably fit 2 boxers, and is much more \"open\" in design. I did this because I have another boxer who is just a dream to keep, and I assumed she was having anxiety from being separated from the other dog. Well, she does the same thing to this new kennel and warps/destroys the metal until she can squeeze out and wreak havoc on the house. I never encountered any of these issues training my other dog, especially with the housebreaking part. I've tried discipline, I've tried rewards, but my younger dog just doesn't seem to understand that the same rules apply to the house when I'm not there, and locking her up seems traumatic for her. Any suggestions of training methods? Thanks in advance for your time!", "How to get my dog to behave while I'm out. So, I have a 2 (going on 3) year old female Boxer dog. While being one of the sweetest, most cuddly bundles of joy I've ever encountered, she is also a couch-ripping, shoe-chewing, floor-deficating tornado when I'm away. I've tried locking her in a smaller kennel (slightly larger than her when standing, but not much) while I'm away, but she cries and rips at the bars with her nails for hours until her voice is hoarse and her nails bleed. I bought her a bigger kennel that could comfortably fit 2 boxers, and is much more \"open\" in design. I did this because I have another boxer who is just a dream to keep, and I assumed she was having anxiety from being separated from the other dog. Well, she does the same thing to this new kennel and warps/destroys the metal until she can squeeze out and wreak havoc on the house. I never encountered any of these issues training my other dog, especially with the housebreaking part. I've tried discipline, I've tried rewards, but my younger dog just doesn't seem to understand that the same rules apply to the house when I'm not there, and locking her up seems traumatic for her. Any suggestions of training methods? Thanks in advance for your time!" ]

[ "Crate/kennel training is NOT mental abuse. It provides the dog with a safe and secure environment that is completely theirs.\n\nOP, it sounds like your dog's separation anxiety is the root problem here. I went through the same thing with a Scottie and a pittie/mastiff mix. My method to acclimate them was the same and it worked, but you need to be very patient: Put the dog in her crate and walk away. Come back in 5 minutes and praise her, but only if she's been quiet. Keep leaving and returning at longer stretches and be sure to praise her for quiet every time. It may take a few days, or even weeks, of starting from scratch at the five minute mark, but she will eventually come to understand that you will be back and you will reward her for being quiet. ", "I've got a boxer-pit mix and they are definitely affectionate dogs. The problem is that they can and will get separation anxiety if you let them sleep with you and sit on the couch all of the time. It's fun and it's great to have an affectionate animal, but you're likely making the dog too dependent on you. My dog is definitely just a nervous chewer and fully recognizes when we give her something to chew on vs. everything else in the house. That goes out the window if we are gone too long. \n\nThe first part of fixing this is that you need to not have as much physical contact with your dog (sleeping, sitting on the couch, etc.). ", "Get a treadmill.\n\nYou have a high energy dog and those types REQUIRE a lot of exercise. \n\nI have a high energy dog, that was returned by a few families for being a mental case, chewing everything. \n\nWe run every morning for about 3-4 miles. When I don't run, I used to ride my bike along with him. Now we go on hikes in the woods as well.\n\nBut if you choose to not go outside for at least 2 hours a day while walking and running your dog, then you need to get a treadmill. Have your dog walk for 10 minutes on it to start, then work your way up to the amount of time required for your dog to behave the rest of the day.\n\nIt's healthy for them, and provides sanity for you.\n\nAlso, do not listen to the idiot that thinks crate training is mental abuse. That person does not understand animals. \n\nStep 1: exercise\n\nStep 2: discipline (training, on and off leash commands, tricks for treats)\n\nStep 3: affection - enjoy your dog after step 1 and 2", "My Pitbull had the same problems when she was young. I'm against keeping dogs in kennels while you're out, its mental abuse. First thing to do is to set boundaries. Keep her off of couches, beds and away from anything else she'll chew. While you are home scold her for going near these items without permission. It'll seem silly and mean and first to raise you voice just because she went near the couch and it teaches her \"that's mine, not yours\". Alpha dogs, which you need to be the pack leader in your house, have certain areas and things only they can enjoy. Make those items yours, not hers. Offer many other opportunities for her to chew, toys etc. Lastly start small, keep her in one room that is dog proof. Go a month like this then open the whole house to her with your bedroom door shut. She'll learn and she'll actually appreciate you teaching her because you'll spoil her rotten for her good behavior. Hope this helps! :) " ]

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[ "Apologies for wall of text; I used to be a general insurance agent. Best option is to get your own insurance with lower coverage. High risk drivers (or drivers with no insurance history) plus high coverage is the perfect recipe for expensive insurance. I would get a policy for the oldest vehicle in the household with minimal coverage. \n\nOthers have recommended getting a non-owners policy. You cannot do this. This is the equivalent to telling an insurance carrier that there are no vehicles in the household at all. These weird policies are usually reserved for DUI convicts who have no car but are legally required to have insurance (SR-22 or FR-44).\n\nTL;DR - call a bunch of companies for rates and get your own insurance on the oldest car in the house with the cheapest coverage. ", "Your parents can specifically exclude you on their policy. This means that if you're ever in a wreck, or even just pulled over by a cop, you better have your own policy... otherwise, don't drive.", "we live in Ontario and when my son got his license the insurance company wanted to increase our rates $2800.\nI objected and asked for him to be excluded from my insurance plan which means he would not be allowed to drive vehicles on my insurance plan. He was fine with this since he is at University and only home during the summer break.\nThe insurance rep refused and I had to ask for a supervisor who conceded that this is allowed. We now had room to negotiate with the insurance company but that is another tale.\nThat is the only way I know is to have yourself excluded from your parents policy. You can still drive other peoples cars legally but you won't obtain a history of being insured which may be problem later but this is for dealing with now.", "I work as an adjuster at a major insurer in the US. Just a heads up, most insurers have provisions that make resident kids, ie kids that live with their parents, as holding permanent permissive use. This usually means you have coverage on the cars listed on their policy as long as you live at home or if you attend college. Check your policy but usually most reputable ones have it. I know ours does. That being said, if your parents have an excluded driver policy and you are listed, you have no coverage.\n\n", "You can drive anyone's car just as long as they have insurance and their permission to use it. Depending on the company your parents have and their agreement with them, they're probably supposed to notify them when a driver in their household gets a license. \n\nYou don't really have to follow that but there are some repercussions for you and possibly your parents. You will usually have to pay more when you do get insurance since you don't have any history. All the big insurance companies (Allstate, State Farm, Geico, Progressive, etc.) report to LexisNexis which is a shared database. \n\nPM me with your questions and I'll get a little more in depth if you'd like. ", "When I was a kid and my brother and I first got our licenses, my father reached out to his insurance provider and explained that there is no chance in hell he would let us drive his Jag, only the Corolla.\n\nIt apparently worked. Saved him from a few thousand more per year. This was mid 90s.", "TL;DR: PM an agent on here to review YOUR situation. I will quote you a Progressive quote if you want ( I don't work directly for them) \n\nHey, I see a lot of things going on here. \n\nI am currently a Insurance agent at a small insurance company and would think your best step here is to either PM myself or another agent with the specifics. If you want my work line I will give it to you. The short of it is you will have a surcharge point for being an inexperience operator for 3 years after you are licensed, this is non-negotiable and without more info I can't help you. A lot of \"advice\" on here is bad. If you want I can crunch a Progressive quote for you tomorrow at work. I don't get commission on it or anything just for you info. They are good and have an OK claim service (the point of insurance).\n\n As far as the idiot who said lower liability who is top comment, that is BS. Liability 100/300 for BI is usually very inexpensive the cost of the insurance is from your age and driver experience. Some state minimums will leave you with NO COVERAGE out of state, FYI. PM me if you want and I can do my best to help you get what you need. ", "Seems I left out an important detail. I do not own a car yet, I just want to hold a driver's license in the case of an emergency or if my girlfriend doesn't feel like driving, shit like that. And I'd like to do that with out having to pay $150 a month because I just can't afford that with my current financial situation. I understand why my parent's rate will go up, I was just hoping there could be a work-around. ", "The thing about insurance is that it's based on statistics. Everything is calculated out by an underwriting department/application to find the most appropriate rate for a policy based on assessed risk. \n\nThings that go into that include not only you (age, gender, how long you've had a license, prior history with insurance/driving, etc) but the car you drive (are you a primary driver? How is the car rated from a safety standpoint not only for the people inside but for the car or property you've damaged?), how you drive (are you the main driver? Do you take the car to and from work or school over large distances?) and where you're driving/keeping the car (large amount of thefts or accidents in the area?). Because of these factors, that's why you'll usually see a change in rate. \n\nAnother commenter mentioned excluding you or simply saying you won't be driving the car- depending on your company you'll be added to comply with your parents' contract or household exposure. Keep in mind that if you're in violation of that contractual agreement, your insurance company reserves the right to terminate the policy. Or, if you aren't on the policy and get a ticket or into an accident, you're risking your own license points and will likely be force added onto the policy as a pro-rated cost. \n\n If you're going away to school and will be home rarely, be sure to mention that as they'll usually take it into accord for the rating. Other things you may want to mention as it may soften the rate blow: have you take a defensive or driver training course? Do you have a 3.0/B if you're a full time student? These are some things that can make it easier. \n", "In some states you can sign an affidavit saying you will never use the car. Thus eliminating you as a risk. Basically you're uninsured, you break it you buy it.", "In Virginia it makes sense to proclaim your youngest driver the secondary (non-primary) driver of your oldest vehicle, preferably one with no comprehensive or collision since it is so old. What you don't do is declare the youngest driver the primary driver of your 2013 Lexus. You still have liability coverage which you desperately need at that age. And if you wreck the car, replace it with a 500 clunker which is probably for the best since you might wreck again. ", "If your parents have full coverage insurance, go to a different insurance company and take out a minimal liability policy, and hold it on a POS clunker. If your parents have full coverage, it should cover you in their cars, but since they aren't insuring you, it shouldn't affect rates.", "I have 3 drivers between the ages of 25 and 18 who have licenses but are NOT on my policy. My POLICY covers all my cars and anyone who drives them. My policy doesn't cover my kids. I am in GA.\n\nMy insurance agent recommended this to me so that my rates wouldn't go crazy although I do have the max amount coverage as well as the \"platinum\" level policy on 5 cars so my rates don't go up IF one of my cars was in an accident. Which is great because each of my kids have been in one that totaled their cars...", "Have your parents exclude you from their policy. You are SOL if you crash with one of their vehicles though.(Unless they take the heat for you)", "Your parents can get a letter of exclusion from your insurer. Basically, if you live in the same house you could potentially grab their keys and get into mischief. So your parents rates go up. This also works for roommates. Maybe you live with a buddy who had a dui, exclude him. \n\nThis really only works with separate policies where your insurer knows you have a \"high risk\" driver under the same roof. \n\nPerhaps not the answer you were looking for, but relevant nonetheless.", "See if you can get your own policy with Erie. They are the least expensive that I've been able to find. I've had them for my house and car for 5 years now.", "Our insurance companies have always matched up each car with a specific driver to get rates. I'm assuming your parents have nice cars, so the rates are high when they include you. Buy a piece of junk, you as a driver will be rated on that car, and you'll be charged less.", "On their new just have. Get as so other us. He first she their and into she if. \n\nFor day because I for first. For look their this could not up up. A will and would could as when to. \n\n", "Not sure what state you're in, but you can have your parents get a policy that covers anyone they let drive the car. That way you can still drive it and not tell the insurance company that you're a primary driver. \n\nIf something happens then just say you were borrowing the car and don't regularly drive it. ", "NC requires that you have proof of insurance before you get a license otherwise you get a handicapped \"fleet-only\" one. If OP's state is similar in policy, then he can't just get the license and ask to be excluded from the household plan (you can't legally drive non-fleet cars with the fleet-license).", "My parents ended up switching to USAA because they will not penalize anyone for being a new driver. In fact they gave us many, many discounts.\n(They have 3 drivers under 23 on their insurance.)\nReminder: COMPARE, COMPARE, COMPARE as TheOtherRedditorz told you. ", "It will be difficult to avoid, you might be able to find a lower rate elsewhere, but you'll likely see an increase with an additional driver, especially of your age. Drivers aged 16-24 are the most likely to be involved in an accident. Insurers are well aware of the data around that figure and adjust their rates according to risk they are holding by insuring your parent's vehicles.\n\nThey know a driver with less than 8 years of driving experience will have access to all vehicles that they hold policy on and are more likely to have to pay out to your family because of a statistically more likely accident.", "Insurance goes down drastically after about two years... and if the insurance is going up because of you, you should be paying the ddifference, not your parents. When I first got a license/car at 18 my moms insurance went up like $300+ per month, so I paid that. I'm 21 now and the rates went down over a year ago to $125 a month for me. ", "Have your parents exclude you from coverage on their insurance. Or get your own insurance(if you have a car). Those are really the onky 2 options other than not getting your license. ", "Can you do a Named Driver Exclusion on your parent's policy? This is where they state you will never ever drive any of the household's cars, not even backing out of the driveway. If you do, and cause an accident, the insurance will not pay for any accidents caused. Not even liability, if I am remembering correctly. I don't know if every state offers this, but I do remember back in the day my agent offered it to a couple of folks who had 16 year olds and couldn't afford to keep up the insurance on them after they got the license.", "Best way to reduce the rate is to buy a beater and insure liability only. Then classify it as non-operable to reduce the fees.", "Basically, one of the better ways to get breaks on car insurance for a young person is to have REALLY good grades from school. If you were a good High School student or you're getting good grades in college, that should help earn some sort of insurance discount.\n\n", "Alternatives to car insurance: http://www.dmv.org/insurance/alternatives-to-auto-insurance.php\n\nThe main take away here is depending on your state you can hold a 35k to 60k bond instead of having car insurance. This obviously may not be an option that works for you.", "Don't bother. Driving/owning a car is incredibly expensive and having to drive everywhere leads to a poor quality of life. Move to a major city and make use of public transportation, biking, and walking." ]

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[ "Stabbing neck pain after failing a handstand I know that this case should or may not be here, but I am really suffering from this. So today I was practising my handstand and when I fell back to the ground, I fell in a wrong way and a sudden, stabbing pain apoeared in my neck. Mainly in my left, lower neck. Now about 8 hours passed and my pain still not gone away ( I know it wouldn't go away in just some hours) and I truly dont know why, but I am in a strange posture when my head is a bit tilted forward and down. Maybe because my body would like to ease the pain by this, or , from the fall, my neck sprained out of its seat. I mainly feel pain when I am trying to turn my head back.\n\nShould I be worried about it? And how could I ease this pain?", "Stabbing neck pain after failing a handstand I know that this case should or may not be here, but I am really suffering from this. So today I was practising my handstand and when I fell back to the ground, I fell in a wrong way and a sudden, stabbing pain apoeared in my neck. Mainly in my left, lower neck. Now about 8 hours passed and my pain still not gone away ( I know it wouldn't go away in just some hours) and I truly dont know why, but I am in a strange posture when my head is a bit tilted forward and down. Maybe because my body would like to ease the pain by this, or , from the fall, my neck sprained out of its seat. I mainly feel pain when I am trying to turn my head back.\n\nShould I be worried about it? And how could I ease this pain?" ]

[ "by going to the doctor. tell them what happened and try to describe your pain accurately. you won’t have any good answer without at least getting looked at by your doctor. good luck 🍀", "I read handshake instead of handstand about 20 times and was so confused. Hope the pain goes away, OP!" ]

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[ "Stopping runny nose in cold weather I know at least a few people get a runny nose when there is cold weather, regardless of health. I am one of those people. \n\nAs should be obvious, it's annoying and probably looks a bit disgusting. I'm pretty sure this doesn't fall under medical advice, but if it does, I will delete it. Anyways, if anyone has some tips (other than walrus tusk tissues) to prevent this, that would be awesome. ", "Stopping runny nose in cold weather I know at least a few people get a runny nose when there is cold weather, regardless of health. I am one of those people. \n\nAs should be obvious, it's annoying and probably looks a bit disgusting. I'm pretty sure this doesn't fall under medical advice, but if it does, I will delete it. Anyways, if anyone has some tips (other than walrus tusk tissues) to prevent this, that would be awesome. " ]

[ "It doesn't always work but I put a little bit of chapstick on the rim of my nostrils. The mint oil keeps my nose clear and it prevents my nose from getting painfully split. \n\nAnother solution is saline nasal spray. It clears all the extra gook out of your nose. Hope that helps!", "No way to prevent it, just ways to \"treat\" it.\n\nKnowing that my nose will run I wear soft gloves so that I have a nice cushion to wipe my nostrils on." ]

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[ "I have a useless degree that is nearly three years old and I’m working as a sales associate. What are some fields/industries that require any degree that don’t have high turnover rate? I can’t see myself working in law enforcement as a cop or in insurance (heard horror stories and rather not take the chance on them, and one of the biggest employers in my area is the one with the lizard mascot).\n\nHaven’t been able to find a new job through conventional means (online searching, temps, networking isn’t a good option because all my friends are nurses or engineers).\n\nShould I go back to college get a more marketable bachelors in something business related to make myself more desirable to employers?", "I have a useless degree that is nearly three years old and I’m working as a sales associate. What are some fields/industries that require any degree that don’t have high turnover rate? I can’t see myself working in law enforcement as a cop or in insurance (heard horror stories and rather not take the chance on them, and one of the biggest employers in my area is the one with the lizard mascot).\n\nHaven’t been able to find a new job through conventional means (online searching, temps, networking isn’t a good option because all my friends are nurses or engineers).\n\nShould I go back to college get a more marketable bachelors in something business related to make myself more desirable to employers?", "I have a useless degree that is nearly three years old and I’m working as a sales associate. What are some fields/industries that require any degree that don’t have high turnover rate? I can’t see myself working in law enforcement as a cop or in insurance (heard horror stories and rather not take the chance on them, and one of the biggest employers in my area is the one with the lizard mascot).\n\nHaven’t been able to find a new job through conventional means (online searching, temps, networking isn’t a good option because all my friends are nurses or engineers).\n\nShould I go back to college get a more marketable bachelors in something business related to make myself more desirable to employers?", "I have a useless degree that is nearly three years old and I’m working as a sales associate. What are some fields/industries that require any degree that don’t have high turnover rate? I can’t see myself working in law enforcement as a cop or in insurance (heard horror stories and rather not take the chance on them, and one of the biggest employers in my area is the one with the lizard mascot).\n\nHaven’t been able to find a new job through conventional means (online searching, temps, networking isn’t a good option because all my friends are nurses or engineers).\n\nShould I go back to college get a more marketable bachelors in something business related to make myself more desirable to employers?", "I have a useless degree that is nearly three years old and I’m working as a sales associate. What are some fields/industries that require any degree that don’t have high turnover rate? I can’t see myself working in law enforcement as a cop or in insurance (heard horror stories and rather not take the chance on them, and one of the biggest employers in my area is the one with the lizard mascot).\n\nHaven’t been able to find a new job through conventional means (online searching, temps, networking isn’t a good option because all my friends are nurses or engineers).\n\nShould I go back to college get a more marketable bachelors in something business related to make myself more desirable to employers?" ]

[ "I have a degree in psych and philosophy and now work as an electrician... trades pay well and offer a lot of good benefits, might consider that.", "Manufacturing. They'll work you, but having a degree helps you move up, and most companies will pay all or part if you want to go back to school for something they can use business, something technical, etc.). ", "If you're a proficient English speaker but your degree is worthless at home, consider taking a job for a Western company or school (teaching English) in Asia. The pay is not always great, but cost of living may be lower, you'll get some work history, and you'll have the chance to take cheap exotic vacations several times a year.", "I have a couple friends that have been extremely successful. And a couple others who made decent money for a while, but didn’t love the job and quit after putting away a bit of a nest egg", "Construction subcontractor & supplier sales. Work for a building supply company. You could just be an account manager. Or you could get into real sales & become a builder sales rep. Trying to get home builder & remodel GCs to use the company you work for’s product. Pays real nice. Low turnover. " ]

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[ "Ways to reduce outside noise from coming in my condo I live in a (purchased not leased) condo with my BF, and he's having lots of trouble sleeping because of noisy neighbors and outside noise. We don't live in the US, and our neighbors in the building aren't the most considerate. There is currently no statute for noise in our building agreement. Our condo is either a cement or brick building, and all of the floors in all of the building are either tile or hardwood. This makes it so that we hear EVERY loud footstep, sometimes laughter from upstairs, the garage door, thuds, creaks, you name it. I am a heavy sleeper and so these sounds don't get to me as much, but for him they make it impossible to fall asleep.\n\nSo we're looking for suggestions or tips to keep out as much outside noise as possible in order for him to have a better and more restful sleep.", "Ways to reduce outside noise from coming in my condo I live in a (purchased not leased) condo with my BF, and he's having lots of trouble sleeping because of noisy neighbors and outside noise. We don't live in the US, and our neighbors in the building aren't the most considerate. There is currently no statute for noise in our building agreement. Our condo is either a cement or brick building, and all of the floors in all of the building are either tile or hardwood. This makes it so that we hear EVERY loud footstep, sometimes laughter from upstairs, the garage door, thuds, creaks, you name it. I am a heavy sleeper and so these sounds don't get to me as much, but for him they make it impossible to fall asleep.\n\nSo we're looking for suggestions or tips to keep out as much outside noise as possible in order for him to have a better and more restful sleep.", "Ways to reduce outside noise from coming in my condo I live in a (purchased not leased) condo with my BF, and he's having lots of trouble sleeping because of noisy neighbors and outside noise. We don't live in the US, and our neighbors in the building aren't the most considerate. There is currently no statute for noise in our building agreement. Our condo is either a cement or brick building, and all of the floors in all of the building are either tile or hardwood. This makes it so that we hear EVERY loud footstep, sometimes laughter from upstairs, the garage door, thuds, creaks, you name it. I am a heavy sleeper and so these sounds don't get to me as much, but for him they make it impossible to fall asleep.\n\nSo we're looking for suggestions or tips to keep out as much outside noise as possible in order for him to have a better and more restful sleep.", "Ways to reduce outside noise from coming in my condo I live in a (purchased not leased) condo with my BF, and he's having lots of trouble sleeping because of noisy neighbors and outside noise. We don't live in the US, and our neighbors in the building aren't the most considerate. There is currently no statute for noise in our building agreement. Our condo is either a cement or brick building, and all of the floors in all of the building are either tile or hardwood. This makes it so that we hear EVERY loud footstep, sometimes laughter from upstairs, the garage door, thuds, creaks, you name it. I am a heavy sleeper and so these sounds don't get to me as much, but for him they make it impossible to fall asleep.\n\nSo we're looking for suggestions or tips to keep out as much outside noise as possible in order for him to have a better and more restful sleep.", "Ways to reduce outside noise from coming in my condo I live in a (purchased not leased) condo with my BF, and he's having lots of trouble sleeping because of noisy neighbors and outside noise. We don't live in the US, and our neighbors in the building aren't the most considerate. There is currently no statute for noise in our building agreement. Our condo is either a cement or brick building, and all of the floors in all of the building are either tile or hardwood. This makes it so that we hear EVERY loud footstep, sometimes laughter from upstairs, the garage door, thuds, creaks, you name it. I am a heavy sleeper and so these sounds don't get to me as much, but for him they make it impossible to fall asleep.\n\nSo we're looking for suggestions or tips to keep out as much outside noise as possible in order for him to have a better and more restful sleep." ]

[ "**EASY \\-** To stop outside noise from coming in, seal your doors and windows. With most medium\\- to low\\-grade construction, the gaps between your door and its frame and the door and the floor will be larger than you expect, letting in lots of sound. Buy a[ door sweep](https://www.amazon.com/Weather-Stripping-Stopper-Direct-Energy/dp/B06XSXN819/ref=sr_ph_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1528415704&sr=sr-1&keywords=door+sweep&dpID=410C3B28cpL&preST=_SY300_QL70_&dpSrc=srch) for the bottom of each of your doors and foam tape to go around the sides and the top of the door. Windows are generally better sealed than doors, but foam tape can also help.\n\n**MEDIUM \\-** Preventing sound transfer through your walls and ceilings is tougher. If you want to maintain nice aesthetics, you should start by getting carpets and investing in a good, thick carpet pad. Try searching for one that's recommended for damping sound. If you're desperate for quiet and looking for a cheap fix, you can purchase[ foam tiles](https://www.amazon.com/Forest-Floor-Thick-Printed-Interlocking/dp/B017C1ZROS/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?ie=UTF8&qid=1528415571&sr=8-1-spons&keywords=foam+floor+tiles&psc=1) like the ones used for creating kid's play areas and mount them to your ceilings and walls. You could also invest in real[ acoustic sound panels](https://www.amazon.com/ATS-Acoustic-24x48x2-Inches-Burgundy/dp/B002WLIY4O/ref=sr_1_4_sspa?ie=UTF8&qid=1528415637&sr=8-4-spons&keywords=acoustical+foam+panels&psc=1) instead for a little more money.\n\n**HARD \\-** Since you own your place, you could also go big and get a custom fabric wall panel system installed. These can be really beautiful because you can select your own fabric and in my experience, they do a very nice job of creating quiet. You can check out [a few examples here.](http://www.fabritrak.co.uk/l/projects)", "Earplugs do wonders for light sleepers. \n\nFor road noise, you can try heavier window coverings; in the US you can find some that claim to be specifically designed to block noise. ", "Plants, many plants will help. Try a fan for sleeping and heavy (felt like) curtains on the windows. The clip clop of the upstairs neighbor is a tough one other than asking them to take their shoes off at night.", "I’m super sensitive to sound and in a similar situation. Definitely ear plugs. I also suggest making an investment in good noise cancelling headphones. Whenever I get annoyed, I just pop those babies on and all is better in the world. Lastly, I would get an air filter machine that has a fan with various levels. It keeps your air clean and provides a nice white noise. Good luck! ", "I use a white noise app on my phone to sleep at night. It is the best thing I ever found to help me sleep. It works well, is cheap, and always with me where ever I go. I am not sure how to add a link in mobile. I have android but I believe the app is also available on iphone. The name of the app is white noise by tmsoft. There is a free version with ads and an ad free version for 99¢. They have a bunch of different sounds you can play but I found that pink noise works best for me. " ]

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[ "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n", "Hello everybody, im moving into a small room, something like a dorm room. What are your best space-saving tips? Any help would be appreciated, Thanks!\n\n" ]

[ "Evaluate what you *really* need. When I first moved into a dorm, I brought so much stuff that I thought I needed and a lot of it just sat there taking up space.\n\nA [hanging shoe rack](http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/B001F51AFI/?tag=dp-us-20) for your closet is great for items you use a lot that you don't want sitting around on your desk or dresser (For me this meant hair dryer, iron, shampoo, deodorant, hair brushes, etc.)\n\nGet removable command hooks so your hoodies, coats and towels don't end up in a pile on top of your chair.", "the only thing I can really think of is think up. Utilize shelves and maybe look into getting a captains bed or loft style bed so you have storage under it.\n\n[Captains bed](http://www.meijer.com/s/south-shore-imagine-collection-twin-captain-bed/_/R-163804;jsessionid=04D6F306C6F701DBD2608C42E043B400.instance03?CAWELAID=614406874&cmpid=goobase) - this one is marketed towards kids but you get the idea.", "Use space bags to store clothes/bedding/towels that you are not going to be using in the near future.", "my friends in college had bunk beds, but took out the bottom bunk and slept on the top. in the space below the bed they would put their desk and computer etc. not sure if it help, but it worked for them.", "[This drawer unit](http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/40107872/#/20107873) is one of my best organizers. It fits under a desk, but has many drawers. All the small stuff that usually clutters desks and rooms has a place to hide away. ", "I slept on a thermarest mattress for over a year. Like in Japan, that way you can put your bed in the cupboard and have lots more room.", "go to Ikea, they have very clever ways of using space. Even if you don't plan on buying anything there, see how they manage to fit a whole apartment into 200 sq ft", "get a fold-out couch or a loft bed (or both, having a couch-cave is awesome IMHO, plus ppl can sleep over...)\n\nstackable boxes, shelves and wall-hangers help a lot too... plus it can also help to evaluate what you really *need* there and not cluttering up your limited space.", "I find Ikea's [Exp", "Definitely think vertical space. Eg, you need very little to sleep and not too much to sit - In my dorm I raised my bed and slept in a cave under it, put plywood on top and had my computer throne above. Storage definitely must be vertical. Pay attention to room arrangement, too. Sometimes it seems like more space is created by partitioning a room rather than living inside a perimiter", "[Toy nets are awesome.](http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_4_7?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=toy+net+hammock+for+stuffed+animals&sprefix=toy+net%2Caps%2C340)" ]

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[ "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?", "How do I make sure someone doesn't walk away with one of my pens? I'm the type of guy that always carries multiples pens and pencils on me. At least once a week, someone will ask to borrow one. I usually get distracted and forget all about the person borrowing my pen or pencil. Does this happen to you, and how do you remember to get your pen or pencil back?" ]

[ "Don't lend out things?\n\nOne of my friends still has my netbook. It was suppose to be a temporary solution till he got a job and bought himself a computer... He got a job... made enough money... and then spent it on other things while keeping my netbook.", "Put red pen caps on your black pens. People will use them less, and therefore walk off with them less.", "When I was a teller and people would ask to borrow my pen, I would give them the pen and not the cap. Some people would still take them, but it was much less frequent if pocketing it would damage their clothing.", "Carry cheap, useless pens along with your regular pens. Only lend out the ones that write poorly. Alternatively, buy some cheap pens and chew on the ends/caps until they look disgusting. Every time someone asks to borrow a pen, hand them this one. People will stop soon enough.", "Use a red pen, or replace the red ink cartridge with a black one. I used to have my pens walk quite regularly, after doing this, I have yet to lose a pen.", "Take collateral. Their keys or a card from their wallet or something.\n\nSnap a photo on your phone of them holding the pen close to their face.", "I just buy cheap pens in bulk and when anybody asks for one I just tell them to keep it. I do not lend out my good pens.", "At my old office patients used to walk away with our pens every damn day! So we went out and bought gigantic pens! Problem solved. You can't easily walk off with a 1\" diameter 14\" long pen.", "I buy pens that don't look like anyone else's and then go on about them for several days so everyone knows what my pens look like. When people ask to borrow them, I stare straight into their eyes as I pass it over and tell them I'll need it back later. I haven't lost a pen in months and I lend them out at least once a week. I think people secretly hate me.", "Buy a 60$ sheffar or more. No ones walked off with mine sinc eI bought it. Also, fountain tips. Most can't even use them, so double safe", "if its like a ballpen, write your name on a small piece of paper, roll it inside the pen where it shows through the transparent plastic.", "My son's a waiter. He stocks up on the free pens companies give out at job fairs, info kiosks at the mall, etc. If a customer walks off with a pen, no loss, and someone gets free advertising out of the deal. Win-Win!", "It depends where you use/store them. Something that works almost every time is taping a plastic spoon to the end of it. No one wants a pen with a plastic spoon on the end. My brother used this at his job and has had the same pen for 6 months. The only time anyone asked to use it they wanted it to eat yogurt. ", "If all else fails you can always just chew the top of the pen. Nobody wants to keep a pen someone else chewed on.", "Write your name on them/label them. Parents at my elementary school are required to label all of their children's school supplies to prevent theft and fights. ", "Stock up on ridiculous pens. Or if you can store it somewhere, get a giant pen. Those never walk off.", "My mom used to tape a piece of paper with her name on it with WAY too much tape. It would be so obvious if anyone took her pen.", "If your pens have caps on them, keep the cap and just hand them the pen. They may be less likely to walk off with an uncapped pen." ]

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[ "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. ", "How to not cry in front of people? Professors and Bosses? I am a female college student and currently incredibly stressed out because of finals, and balancing a full time job. I need to talk to a professor about my grade without crying. I do not want him to think I am unstable. I just cry a lot. I probably have other problems, but right now I need to focus on finishing the semeste. I have tried making agendas to make myself \"stick to the script\". I just want to feel more professional, or like I have my stuff together. Any tips would be super helpful. " ]

[ "I am the same way, I dont know how to handle emotions so it always comes out in tears. Even when I am mad, it comes out in tears. I have never been able to confront a boss the way I intend to. I've been this way all my life and I'm now 54. ", "Male college student here. I find that it is important to try to establish a speaking relationship with professors early in the, especially those in your major classes. If you see speak with them regularly and they see that you are putting forth an effort, more times than not, they will be willing to work with you. And at that time, they will already know you and would feel more comfortable helping you. \n\nAs far as finishing the semester, my advise would be to break down you studying into smaller chucks throughout the day. I use Quizlet on my phone so that I can sneak in quick reviews a few times a day. That way you may feel less overwhelmed later. I wish you well!\n", "I'm like you; woman currently in engineering school, job, and I cry when I don't want to. While I've not really conquered the crying, I've found that dealing with things kind of at arms length helps. So I might send an email ahead of the meeting/call so I have a script to work from and focus on; then let it all out when you're by yourself.", "This is kind of the opposite but I would take this approach... \n \nJust go in and tell him about this. \n \nMost of my professors were pretty logical and reasonable people. If you explain you tend to cry when talking seriously about a topic you're nervous about before you have the hard conversation, the professor won't be caught off guard and you will definitely be more comfortable if it happens. Hey you might even be so prepared for the worst it won't even happen. But if I were the professor I would totally understand this. ", "I have some suggestions in ascending order of difficulty/descending efficacy for most people. \n\nOne: practice. There's a certain rhythm and tone you take when a speech is learned by rote, which doesn't have any room for crying - just because your lips and larynx will be forming the next words. If you practice you won't have time to get anxious, which helps the tears start.\n\nTwo: Mediate. Many people cry if they are uncentered at all. Anxious, angry, happy, scared. For some people those all generate tears. You don't need much practice for it to be valuable the first time. Try headspace app if you don't know what you're doing. \n\nThree: Vasovagal. As implied in the previous paragraph, some people cry whenever they have an excess of adrenaline. You have two governance neural systems working at all times, your sympathetic and your parasympathetic. Your sympathetic is fight, flight or cry(ght). The two systems don't take turns, one will just overwhelm the other. Your system has quite a few hacks. One is your most powerful parasympathetic nerve responds to increased intra abdominal pressure. So close your mouth, close your glottis, and *almost* cough. (Kind of like you're pooping, but you're trying to push the poop through your belly button). This'll slow your heart rate, make you feel less anxious, and l3ss likely to cry. Public speakers, archers, and other high stress workers do this.\n\nFour: Just don't. This will sound like bad advice, but I promise it's in good faith. Yoda once said, \"There is no try, there is only do.\" This sounds like pseudomystical claptrap, but I've actually found it works for me, and I know plenty of others for whom its effective. Its an interesting headspace to get into, but there really is a difference between focusing on not doing something, and just plain old not doing it. I have to imagine it's what cold-turkey ex smokers do. I've used this method to lose weight, ameliorate my ADHD, and adhere to my budget. It's very difficult to describe, but it's *not*b willing yourself to stop. If you can find the feeling, just don't cry. That's it. Good luck!", "I can't hide my emotions AT ALL. The slightest cue and my face is beet red, whether it's rage, sadness or excitement. It's hell... ", "Hi there. You sound like a hardworking person that needs someone to cut you a break. The trick is realizing that *you* are that person. Just be yourself and don't worry about the tears. If you have to cry - go ahead. If you are sincere and others can see how hard you are working and what you contribute to the work environment, this is what will stand out - not the crying part. Good luck to you!", "Hi i'm a 20yr old male student , i know what you're going through i used to be insecure when confronted to authority when i was younger and have tears show up . The advice i could give you is , think of them as normal people doing their job , and think of proffessors of employees of a school that you pay to have a diploma , so your problems are their problems too . You must refrain from thinking of them as big angry monsters , they're just normals people and you have nothing to fear from them , they might have had the same anxiety towards you at some point who knows", "Crying in front of bosses is probably pretty bad.\n\nBut professors, if they are generally nice people, won't mind. They've seen it all before. Not to be too cynical, but you might actually get more leeway if you start crying.", "As a professor, one or two of my students have cried in front of me. Naturally, I was concerned that they would feel so overwhelmed that they would cry, and I did my best to try to console them.\n\nMy suggestion for dealing in the academic world is to build a rapport with your professor in the class that is stressing you out the most. This means visiting your prof in office hours BEFORE you are stressed out. This will ensure that the lines of communication are flowing well and you won't be overwhelmed by a *perceived* problem. Moreover, if you and your prof have worked together all term long, you'll both understand each other well, even if you do need to cry.\n\nAlso, if your prof or your boss is being critical of your work, don't take it personally. At least, put aside those feelings for the moment, and ask him/her for advice. Then do whatever they recommend. \n\nThis term, I have a student who complained that she can't learn English because she just goes directly home to her family and stays in her room all day not using English. I recommended a number of things to her, but she didn't try any of them. How sympathetic should I be when she fails my class because her English hasn't improved? \n ", "what I've been told is to dress smart.\nif you dress smart and feel really well put together it may give you the boost in confidence that you need to play the roll as a professional that your trying to achieve.\nbeing well dressed and prepared with goals in mind will help a lot! best of luck to ya", "I am the exact same way! If when you feel yourself starting to cry just your lower jaw all the way forward. One, you're focusing on something else. Two, I've heard you can't physically do both at the same time so it has always stopped my from crying :) hope it helps!", "The response to whatever you are requesting is not personal to you. This is your affirmation. If the answer is no (or negative), take a deep breathe, look for the first natural opportunity to end the meeting, leave. \n", "I'm the exact same. It's because of the stress, that's why you cry.\n\nI make special effort to destress before asking anything that I plan to ask. For instance, reason with yourself that talking to them isn't that critical; you're just confirming with them because that's easier, etc.\n\nOtherwise, just ask as a \"spur of the moment\" type of thing - 'Oh I've just thought of this, let me quickly go and ask' before you can stress yourself out.\n\nAlso, try writing down the question/whatever you want to say as soon as you think of it, then stop thinking about it. Just remind yourself that you have something to say and then go see them, whip out your piece of paper with the point/list of questions, etc and ask them each thing. It's especially helpful if you record what they're saying because you're probably so stressed out that your mind isn't even in the moment or paying attention to what is being said.", "I read that u can't handle your emotions correctly. So I decided to tell you that the key is m", "If it's only the case with people above you like Professors and Bosses, either..\n1. You like them too much. \n2. You suck at what you are trying to be part of.\n3. They suck at teaching what you are trying to be part of. \n4. You just don't care enough to be good enough and feel down about it. \n\nDon't get me wrong, not putting you down, I've been in the same spot and it was always one of those reasons. ", "Emotions do NOT have a place in the workplace environment. Thinking so is your downfall. Everyone is stressed. Everyone is down. Everyone is dealing with some shit. No one cares about yours. You are being paid to do work.\n\n" ]

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[ "Talking to my parents I live in an Eastern-European country, and I’d like to go to school to England for the next 4 years. Does anyone know how I can ask them? I want some precise arguments. Factors like finances and other ‘complications’ are not relevant. I just want to know how I can pitch my idea to them. Thank you in advance!", "Talking to my parents I live in an Eastern-European country, and I’d like to go to school to England for the next 4 years. Does anyone know how I can ask them? I want some precise arguments. Factors like finances and other ‘complications’ are not relevant. I just want to know how I can pitch my idea to them. Thank you in advance!", "Talking to my parents I live in an Eastern-European country, and I’d like to go to school to England for the next 4 years. Does anyone know how I can ask them? I want some precise arguments. Factors like finances and other ‘complications’ are not relevant. I just want to know how I can pitch my idea to them. Thank you in advance!" ]

[ "we dont know your parents.\n\nsit down with them after dinner maybe and tell them its what you wanna do. the reasons behind it and if they would support you with that.\n\nnothing crazy about that", "If you *need* their permission, find out as much information as you can and just ask them, and answer every question they have. They can say yes or no, if no then they won't be your guardians forever and it will be possible later. If you only *want* their permission, just tell them you are going and they can accept it or not. I have been in exactly that situation, and forgiveness is much easier to obtain than permission!\n\nSince issues like finances etc. are not relevant, then I assume they would not be paying for you to go there. That would be the only reason why you would need to pitch your idea, as if it were some kind of investment opportunity for them.\n", "Find out everything you can about the program and why you feel like it's the best fit for you versus a local school. Get information on scholarships and living arrangements so they'll know how you plan to pay for it and where you'll be staying (also if you need to cook for yourself or if you need to set up utilities or how you're gonna get around.) Have a full plan like it's already happening. It'll show you've put serious thought into it and are mature enough to be responsible for yourself in another country, especially if you're a minor." ]

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[ "How to maintain eye contact with someone? No, not while talking with them. I'm talking about when you're looking at a stranger and then they turn and make eye contact with you. I tend break contact immediately and look somewhere else because I find it rude to just stare at someone. Any tips on keeping the eye contact without looking weird/creepy?", "How to maintain eye contact with someone? No, not while talking with them. I'm talking about when you're looking at a stranger and then they turn and make eye contact with you. I tend break contact immediately and look somewhere else because I find it rude to just stare at someone. Any tips on keeping the eye contact without looking weird/creepy?", "How to maintain eye contact with someone? No, not while talking with them. I'm talking about when you're looking at a stranger and then they turn and make eye contact with you. I tend break contact immediately and look somewhere else because I find it rude to just stare at someone. Any tips on keeping the eye contact without looking weird/creepy?" ]

[ "Switch between eyes, and remember that you don't have to keep eye contact - it is normal to not be looking at their eyes all the time. ", "If you're looking at someone from across the room and they catch you, you need to stop looking as you do now. At most maybe you could nod as if to say \"hey I was trying to get your attention I'm glad you finally looked over\" and then go from there", "I don't know why you want to keep eye contact with a stranger you accidentally met eyes with. If you just feel awkward about how to break eye contact with dignity, just give a slight smile of acknowledgement and/or slight raise of the head and return your attention naturally to what you were doing.\n\nIf you are actually trying to attract their attention, nod, smile and don't look away. Make a gesture that indicates your intent, like raising your glass if you want to share drink, or to your table if you want them to join you." ]

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[ "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? ", "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? ", "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? ", "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? ", "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? ", "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? ", "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? ", "How to not be socially awkward? I'm afraid of talking to others, especially girls. Most of the times I avoid going to events just because of this fear. I have no friends because of this habit. I just freeze when my name is called upon in the class. I can't even sit normally or eat something when there are people around.\nTL;DR how do I perform better in social situations? " ]

[ "Hey there, the best advice I ever received for social situations was from my psych prof. He told us, \"don't try to be an interesting person - try to be an interested person\". \n\nSo basically just ask questions about the other person: \"that's a great ____ where did you get it?\" \"Have you been following the ____? What do you think?\" Nothing too personal, and if they say something that resonates with you, acknowledge it, without turning the whole conversation to yourself - say just enough to encourage them to keep talking. \n\nAlso, mirror them a bit, but not too obviously. If they put their hands in their pockets, you do the same. It creates an unconscious connection. \n\nAs for being in the classroom, don't worry about saying the right thing every time. Nobody really cares, most people are focusing on their own stuff. If you already know everything, you're in the wrong class, so don't be afraid to be wrong, you're there to learn, not impress the 30 some odd peers that you'll probably never see after graduation. \n\nDon't be afraid to laugh at yourself. This is not life and death. Remind yourself of that once in awhile. ", "I can't speak to social settings. However, in class I think the most important thing to remember is that no one will remember if you say something dumb. People care less than you think they do.", "Don’t overthink it too much! Everyone has that anxiety, just focus on how it can be an opportunity rather than looking for specific outcomes and you’ll be surprised!! Up until now* you mighta been socially awkward but choose to make yourself happy!! Don’t focus on outcome!! ", "a advice that helped me atleast was to practice, so i would start with realy simple stuff like saying hello to people in school that i know, or talking to a relative and then when that felt easy move on to more challenging things like asking a question during class. Obviosly set your start up level at things you think are enougj challenging for you, like do stuff you find hard but not to hard and then like increase the challenge at a pace you feel comfortable with. \n\neven if it may sound like hard, remember why your doing it. for yourself. gl and also remember like when you get a question during class what helps me is to realize that half the class are asleep and its okay to fail because even though it may hard in the moment it wont matter in the week. \n", "Try not to think so much about people judging you on your awkwardness. It's very easy to be awkward when you overanalyze every motion or word. Also, it will help to put yourself into more social situations bit by bit. You say you are in school? Try joining a club related to one of your interests or hobbies, if possible. It's a lot easier to talk to someone if you have a shared interest. Understand that most people have a similar fear of talking and of people around them judging what they say or do. As someone who was very awkward myself until well into high school, know that you will get better at interacting with people over time. Hope this helps! :)", "Only way to get better is to do it more.\n\nI had a friend with this issue - i was the only one he opened up to about it. I took him out to bars where we knew no one so he could talk to people without feeling like he'd make a fool of himself in front of someone he'd see again.\n\nEveryone feels awkward sometimes. It's cool man - just be you... And if someone doesn't like it, they're not for you. No need to change to adapt to what others expect...\n\nUnless you're naturally a serial killer or something... Then you should probably work on change.", "1. repetition, force yourself to socialize \n2. practice a greeting template you can become comfortable with and basically use every time.\n3. brainstorm conversation starters and topics you are comfortable with and use those only initially.\n4. make up different scripts for different daily interactions.\n\nI used to be so socially awkward. my response time in conversations was way too late and sometimes i would become anxious mid sentence, lose my train of thought and just come off like an idiot. I basically used various pre approved scripts on strangers (elevator small talk, bankers, ect) who i didn’t really care if the interaction went south until eventually I became pretty quick witted. also I noticed on days when I feel and look my best are the days with the most positive interactions. ", "Find a hobby that is some what social. It'll give you something to talk about OR give you something to focus on if you don't feel like talking.\n\nI go on group bike rides.\n\nAnother piece of advice (since I've been going back and forth with this issue for 30 years), my first few jobs really put me out there socially. I was a cashier as a kid and a bartender in undergrad. Both of these jobs forced me out of my comfort zone at those times in my life." ]

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[ "How can I sit comfortably in public transport? If you have to sit for more than half an hour on the same spot, what is a good thing to do to sit comfortably?", "How can I sit comfortably in public transport? If you have to sit for more than half an hour on the same spot, what is a good thing to do to sit comfortably?", "How can I sit comfortably in public transport? If you have to sit for more than half an hour on the same spot, what is a good thing to do to sit comfortably?" ]

[ "You're more likely to find a real dinosaur than to be able to sit comfortably in public transport. Honestly.", "Chairs in trains and buses are often designed to be comfortable, but not to comfortable, because they don't want people to fall asleep and miss their stop", "Get yourself a fidget spinner. You'd be amazed to know how much it helps during long commutes\n\nRefer to r/fidgetspinners\n\nThe prices start from as low as £/$5\n\nSearch for \"fidget spinners\" on Amazon or Ebay " ]

[ 4, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to stop a creaky/noisy bed. I have a bed skirt so I don't think it's the box spring rubbing against the mattress. Any ideas?\n", "How to stop a creaky/noisy bed. I have a bed skirt so I don't think it's the box spring rubbing against the mattress. Any ideas?\n", "How to stop a creaky/noisy bed. I have a bed skirt so I don't think it's the box spring rubbing against the mattress. Any ideas?\n" ]

[ "Use talcum powder on every joint. I use the same method for creaking wooden floors, just put it into the cracks where wood rubs against wood. Works well, and doesn't smell or spoil.", "Try taking apart any joints that can be readily taken apart (e.g. with screws). Rub a candle on all the surfaces that might squeak against each other, and reassemble.", "Sex? - do it somewhere else\n\nSleep? Don't use a warm blanket or pyjama, to force yourself to stay still." ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Gnats are such a pain... I currently live with my grandparents (to help them out), well my grandpa is super bad to leave fruit peelings and other things to attract gnats laying around. I tell him not to leave stuff like that laying around (often having to go behind him and throwing them outside) otherwise they will lay around the house for 3 or so days (he won't throw them away hiself, his solution instead of throwing them away is to cover the peelings with black pepper and leave them laying to rot so I often have to go behind him throwing them away trying to avoid gnats. Unfortunately now they are pretty thick in my house. I read to mix a solution of Apple Cider Vinegar and Dawn dish soap together in a mason jar (fill the jar as full as possible) to attract and kill them, well don't have any Apple Cider Vinegar but we have White Vinegar will that mixed with with Dawn dish soap in a small (washed out) pickle jar help? Currently can't go to the store to get any Apple Cider Vinegar (car in shop) so trying to work with what I have laying around the house. I also read that bleach will work (could I put some of that in a jar and it work)?\n\n​\n\nI'm having to also consider the fact there's 3 small dogs and 1 cat in the house -- the dogs shouldn't get into it but the cat could possibly (you know how cats love jumping on stuff lol). So I want a solution that is safe to have around them.\n\n​\n\nThanks for any help.\n\n​\n\n", "Gnats are such a pain... I currently live with my grandparents (to help them out), well my grandpa is super bad to leave fruit peelings and other things to attract gnats laying around. I tell him not to leave stuff like that laying around (often having to go behind him and throwing them outside) otherwise they will lay around the house for 3 or so days (he won't throw them away hiself, his solution instead of throwing them away is to cover the peelings with black pepper and leave them laying to rot so I often have to go behind him throwing them away trying to avoid gnats. Unfortunately now they are pretty thick in my house. I read to mix a solution of Apple Cider Vinegar and Dawn dish soap together in a mason jar (fill the jar as full as possible) to attract and kill them, well don't have any Apple Cider Vinegar but we have White Vinegar will that mixed with with Dawn dish soap in a small (washed out) pickle jar help? Currently can't go to the store to get any Apple Cider Vinegar (car in shop) so trying to work with what I have laying around the house. I also read that bleach will work (could I put some of that in a jar and it work)?\n\n​\n\nI'm having to also consider the fact there's 3 small dogs and 1 cat in the house -- the dogs shouldn't get into it but the cat could possibly (you know how cats love jumping on stuff lol). So I want a solution that is safe to have around them.\n\n​\n\nThanks for any help.\n\n​\n\n" ]

[ "The traps do work, and it doesn’t necessarily need to be Apple cider vinegar, any left over booze works, just put Saran Wrap on it and poke a few holes in the top.\n\nHowever, if there’s constantly food laying around it won’t matter. They breed everywhere, so until all food is either thrown or put away they’ll never go away. They’re known for hiding out the kitchen sink drains so watch for them there, and of course the garbage. Raid isn’t a horrible idea for these two places since it’ll at least kill the eggs already laid", "You really don’t need very much. A squirt of dish soap and a glurp of ACV in a small glass, put Saran Wrap over top, use a pencil to poke three tiny holes, sit back and enjoy. Also watch out for your garbage can. They breed. " ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "Storing T-shirts Hey,\n\nI learnt to fold my t-shirts with [one more fold that what we usually know](http://imgur.com/a/2c8Pb) but what I am still struggling with is: how to store all those t-shirts...\n\nI am talking dozens, not just a few; so unfortunately, the \"drawer\" is not enough.\n\nShould I take a plastic box and store them \"standing\" (like pencils in a [pencil pot](http://imgur.com/qZxOsRI))?\n\nBecause for now, they are stacked in a corner and it's a mess and I still only get good access to those on top...", "Storing T-shirts Hey,\n\nI learnt to fold my t-shirts with [one more fold that what we usually know](http://imgur.com/a/2c8Pb) but what I am still struggling with is: how to store all those t-shirts...\n\nI am talking dozens, not just a few; so unfortunately, the \"drawer\" is not enough.\n\nShould I take a plastic box and store them \"standing\" (like pencils in a [pencil pot](http://imgur.com/qZxOsRI))?\n\nBecause for now, they are stacked in a corner and it's a mess and I still only get good access to those on top...", "Storing T-shirts Hey,\n\nI learnt to fold my t-shirts with [one more fold that what we usually know](http://imgur.com/a/2c8Pb) but what I am still struggling with is: how to store all those t-shirts...\n\nI am talking dozens, not just a few; so unfortunately, the \"drawer\" is not enough.\n\nShould I take a plastic box and store them \"standing\" (like pencils in a [pencil pot](http://imgur.com/qZxOsRI))?\n\nBecause for now, they are stacked in a corner and it's a mess and I still only get good access to those on top..." ]

[ "If there are T-shirts that you're just hanging onto and you don't actually wear, you could always turn them into a quilt", "I store all my t-shirts on [slim hangers](https://www.amazon.com/AmazonBasics-Velvet-Suit-Hangers-Black/dp/B00FXNAAW2) in my closet. \n\nI also converted my closet to double rods, like this: https://www.yafangouwu.com/wp-content/uploads/m/m-frugal-closet-rod-under-stairs.jpg\n\nNow I have more closet rod space than clothes. ", "https://www.reddit.com/r/konmari/comments/653a5y/til_that_folding_clothes_to_stand_alone_really_is/\n\nFolding your clothes so that they can stand by themselves is actually really good for many reasons. One, stacking anything puts an increasing amount of pressure on items the lower they are in the stack, which adds wear to the fabric and presses in wrinkles. Two, one cannot easily see at a glance what is in a stack, but standing up one can see every item. And three, you can fit more in a drawer using the konmari standing folds." ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n", "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n", "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n", "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n", "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n", "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n", "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n", "How to be a tough guy there seems to be a very thin line between impressing and embarrassing. What does one have to do to stay on the right side?\n\n" ]

[ "Followup question for you: Why do you want to be a \"tough guy\"? Being a true man is more about impressing people with your strength, leadership, or prowess.\n\n\n \n\n\nHow about three tips to be the best person you can be?\n\n\n \n\n\n**1. Be yourself, but always pursue the better you**\n\n \n\nYour question shows that you have already started down this path. Ask yourself these difficult questions: *What defines me? Who do I want to be? How do I want to interact with others? What is holding me back?*\n\nYou need to be comfortable with who you are, while simultaneously acknowledging that you haven't arrived at the final version of yourself. Don't be embarrassed by your shortcomings; view them as areas you'd like to improve, but are nonetheless part of who you are. This doesn't mean you get to be complacent; it means you get to love yourself. Part of that love means gently helping yourself to improve.\n\n\n \n\n\n**2. Find your passion and pursue it completely**\n\n \n\nSometimes, the most impressive thing others can see is that you have something you care very much about and are committed to doing your best at. That could be so much more than weight training, programming, modelling, crafting, etc. Basically, find what you love and pursue it. If you tell others you like something, but don't know much about it, don't know why you like it, and only do the bare minimum when it comes to doing that thing, what are people supposed to think?\n\n\n \n\n\n**3. Create realistic goals and actually follow through**\n\n \n\nSay you want to be a world famous golfer because you love golf. Good, you've found your passion and want to make a career out of it. Is this goal good? Yes! Is it realistic? Maybe not yet. If you have such a big goal in mind, you have to break it into smaller goals. If you only play golf casually right now, maybe your first goal isn't to enter the PGA tournament, maybe it's to improve your game. Take lessons, learn from experts, research the crap out of every book, internet database, and golf forum that exists. Be the karate kid of golf. During this all, practice, practice, practice. Then, enter smaller tournaments, learn from your mistakes, and go back to practicing.\n\nNow, that's just an analogy. In fact I know little about golf. Something about the lowest score being the best? I don't know.\n\nBut spend a couple days, weeks, months, or hell, even years figuring out the short-term goals that lead to that ultimate long-term goal.\n\nJust remember, you won't enjoy even a second of it if you are doing it to impress others. You will only enjoy it if it fulfills who you really are.\n\nThe way to impress others is to do your very best at being yourself. Nothing else (even if it impresses others), will really bring you fulfillment in the long-term.\n\n\n \n\n\n**TL;DR: Impress others by kicking ass at what you love, not by playing the balancing act of saying or doing just the right things to get people's attentions.**", "Lots of the tips here are great, but I'd like to add that being overly worried about image is counterproductive to being a \"tough\" guy. Nothing screams masculinity more than spending an inordinate amount of time obessing over superficial flimsy features (sarcasm). \"Tough\" guy is a statement of character not appearance.\n\nFor example, a dad that lets his 5 year old daughter put nail polish on his toe nails is way \"tougher\" than the guy that worries more about what his buddies think than spending meaningful time with his little girl.", "Develop a mentality that you can handle anything life throws at you. Don't depend on someone else for your own happiness. Learn how to be happy by yourself and don't take shit from anyone because you don't like being alone. Learn a martial art, I'd choose an mma gym, make friends with other martial artists. Be humble. ", "One step is to be stoic, but still human. \n\nEmbarrassing situations can be minimized by not making more than what it is. E.g., if you fall and it makes a loud noise, get back to standing backup (also without needlessly trying to impress anyone, like not using your hands, etc). \n\nWorkout, can't argue with visuals. But let that be something people can visually interpret and think about independently. You don't have to showcase it verbally or show off, it should be supplemental in part. Have an open mind and keep it sharp, read, have a journal, use a map, and whatever else smart people do. Also, don't confuse knowledge with wisdom or intelligence. \n\nAdmit when you're wrong, and try to fix it. \n\nOwn up to another person's mistake if it doesn't mean shooting yourself in the foot. Like if a kid dropped a cake something. And using reason where needed, of course. You don't want to serve life in prison for someone else's crime.\n\nTake a initiative and reach out, and offer to help without necessarily putting your life and projects/goals on the back burner. ", "I think it might help if you explain exactly what you're trying to go for. A lot of what make people seem tough is actually confidence. I'd suggest focusing on confidence and acting confident, as opposed to trying to look tough. Being confident is more impressive and trying to be tough is more embarrassing. \n\nThe main thing I've noticed about confident people is that they are calm. They know that they are the shit and they know they have power, so they don't expend energy on anything deemed trivial. They also keep good eye contact. I think if you can hold yourself sturdy and calm, and keep good eye contact, you're off to a good start. ", "getting in shape helps. a lot.\nnot overreacting, not showing too much emotion. \nbeing consequent about this.\nalso if you are not in shape having a certain type of face helps. however you cant influence this one", "Tough guy persona rarely works out long term. At some point you will get called out on it and beaten down. \n\nInstead, just work on being level headed, dependable, and showing good judgement. The people who have been most impressive in my long career have always owned up to their mistakes. They stand by their friends, they show up to work on time everyday. They dont make rash, emotional decisions. As a result, i use them as a resource when I need advice.\n\nBe courageous when you need to be, but don't try to be the tough guy. ", "You don't need to be a \"tough guy\". If you're looking to impress girls, they value empathy and understanding. Trying to appear tough is just going to make you look desperate and stupid." ]

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[ "If you drank soda or juice out of a water bottle, is there a way to completely eliminate the lingering taste when you drink water out of it afterwords? ", "If you drank soda or juice out of a water bottle, is there a way to completely eliminate the lingering taste when you drink water out of it afterwords? ", "If you drank soda or juice out of a water bottle, is there a way to completely eliminate the lingering taste when you drink water out of it afterwords? ", "If you drank soda or juice out of a water bottle, is there a way to completely eliminate the lingering taste when you drink water out of it afterwords? ", "If you drank soda or juice out of a water bottle, is there a way to completely eliminate the lingering taste when you drink water out of it afterwords? ", "If you drank soda or juice out of a water bottle, is there a way to completely eliminate the lingering taste when you drink water out of it afterwords? ", "If you drank soda or juice out of a water bottle, is there a way to completely eliminate the lingering taste when you drink water out of it afterwords? " ]

[ "LPT: Dedicate certain water bottles to be used for things other than water. \n\nMy nicer water bottles have never been in contact with anything other than water exactly for this reason. Also, who puts soda in a water bottle...??", "Don't reuse single use bottles (don't use them at all), use stainless. Studies seem to show leeching from the bottle after multiple uses. Reusable are better for the environment and don't have that problem. If it is a reusable plastic bottle make sure it is high quality, BPA free. ", "Listerine works pretty well for this. When I was in the military I filled my canteens with vodka cocktails for those long ruck marches.", "If you use one part vinegar to one part warm water, let it sit over night and clean it out the next morning. The acid should destroy any lingering odors. Works really well if your water bottle has a funky smell that you can't wash out too. Don't worry about the smell of the vinegar, it goes away immediately after you rinse it.", "If you have a brush that fits the bottle, then make a dump a fair amount of baking soda into the bottle. Add some water to make a paste and scrub it good. \n\nThe paste will be an abrasive, so do know that it will likely scratch up your bottle. \n\nThen, let it sit for a while. I would let it sit at least 15 minutes.\n\nThen add vinegar to the bottle. Yup, it's gonna look like an old school science fair experiment and smell not so good. \n\nKeep adding vinegar to the bottle until you no longer get a reaction from the baking soda. \n\nNow rinse out the bottle well and wash it with soap and water, then rinse well. \n\nYou might want to repeat all of this once more, just for good measure. \n\nThat should get rid of the taste. If that doesn't work, then my other suggestion is to put about a 1/4 cup to 1/2 cup of bleach in the bottle and carefully add hot water to fill the bottle the rest of the way. I would let that sit, the longer the better. At least over night, but I would do a whole day. Then rinse and wash the bottle well. You could repeat the process one more time.\n", "Get a proper water bottle problem solved. The only drink bottle that I would repurpose as a water bottle is a bottled water bottle. ", "Fill it with urine.\n\nClose and forget for 2 days.\n\nEmpty bottle and flush it a couple of times.\n\nNow water out of that bottle will never taste sugary!" ]

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[ "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?", "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?", "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?", "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?", "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?", "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?", "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?", "what to do during my hour long commute. I ride a vanpool to work every day. The commute is about an hour each way. I usually don't have to drive. While in the car I just listen to music and goof around online on my phone. Does anyone have any tips on what the best use of my time would be?" ]

[ "Listen to an audio book, m", "podcasts. You can listen to interview style, ranting, comedy, or (my favorite) fictional. Try listening to Wolf 359, We're Alive, Season 1 of Tanis (2 is shite), Limetown, or the Bright Sessions. ", "Have you ever wanted to learn something that you don't know? With 2 hours a day available for learning, the possibilities are limitless.\n\nForeign languages, software coding, advanced MS Office, whatever you want. You could even take some online classes to advance your formal education.", "I'm all about audible.com. If you happen to be an Amazon Prime member, they have a thing going where you can get a free 3 month membership (for Audible) free. If not, you can always get in on their regular one month membership (for Audible) free.\n\nI don't mind paying for my audiobooks, but if you would rather, most public libraries stock audiobooks that you can borrow for free.\n\nAnyway...you get the point. Audiobooks!", "You ever had any inclination to write? I used to write novels on my phone on my commute. Not really for anyone else but it gets your mind going and it's like a place to retreat to when you're stressed out, too. ", "What have you wanted to spend an 2 extra hours learning/doing that can be done while seated?\n\nTry reading, listening to an audiobook, writing, learning MS Office, programming, learning marketable skills for your line of work, etc.\n", "I bought an e-reader book thing Kobo/Kindle specifically to kill time like this.\n\nReading(not audio books) is really good for you mentally. Helps your vocabulary a lot as well.\n\nI've met a lot of people that \"don't read\" at all. Like it's hard or something :p\n\nFind a type of book you enjoy then search or ask friends for recommendations. Personally I like a lot of Fantasy and Sci-Fi stuff.", "This math is going to sting: 49 work weeks, 5 days a week, 2 hours each day = 245 hours. Divide by 24 hours: over 10 days a year spent in the car. \n I would spend that time diligently finding a new home closer to work or new work closer to home. \n Failing that, focus on industry podcasts specific to your work and move up the chain so you can get out of the War Rig. \n Bonus points: find a way to get productive for work and get on the clock. Try and work out comp hours to recapture those 245 hours. " ]

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[ "How to keep shelves full of toys and knick knacks from getting coated in dust? I have a lot of little figures, sculptures, lego builds, and toys on various shelves around my room, and they can get pretty damn dusty over time. They're hard to dust with a rag, and washing them all can be a huge pain in the ass. What are some things I can do to either clean them more easily or keep them from getting as dusty in the first place?", "How to keep shelves full of toys and knick knacks from getting coated in dust? I have a lot of little figures, sculptures, lego builds, and toys on various shelves around my room, and they can get pretty damn dusty over time. They're hard to dust with a rag, and washing them all can be a huge pain in the ass. What are some things I can do to either clean them more easily or keep them from getting as dusty in the first place?", "How to keep shelves full of toys and knick knacks from getting coated in dust? I have a lot of little figures, sculptures, lego builds, and toys on various shelves around my room, and they can get pretty damn dusty over time. They're hard to dust with a rag, and washing them all can be a huge pain in the ass. What are some things I can do to either clean them more easily or keep them from getting as dusty in the first place?", "How to keep shelves full of toys and knick knacks from getting coated in dust? I have a lot of little figures, sculptures, lego builds, and toys on various shelves around my room, and they can get pretty damn dusty over time. They're hard to dust with a rag, and washing them all can be a huge pain in the ass. What are some things I can do to either clean them more easily or keep them from getting as dusty in the first place?" ]

[ "To minimize home dust - \n\n1. Use less fluffy toilet paper (the softest makes the most dust.)\n2. Take shoes off at the door and dont let anyone else where shoes in your house. \n3. Change/clean air filters regularly \n4. Run the central air/furnace fan continously even if the heat/cooling is off\n5. Have fewer living beings in your home. All animals lose skin cells and that makes up a large amount of dust\n6. Have less plush towels, sweaters, and socks. Make sure you clean the dryer lint trap regularly and be sure the vent is clear so the lint (dust) goes out. ", "You have to keep dust out of the room. So vacuum regularly and try to keep the room free of clutter, and soft furnishings, change carpet to hard floor if you can and keep windows and doors closed as much as possible. Also try to keep furry pets out.\n\nUse a small hand vacuum on the items regularly to stop build up. Give a little brush with a soft paintbrush when doing this to remove more dust and crap.\n\nIf you are able to; use a storage cabinet.\n\nUnfortunately dust just can be reduced, not eliminated.", "The only thing I can think of to minimize it is to keep the air filter changed monthly (try an allergen one they filter more) and vacuum frequently. \nTo avoid dusting individual pieces you could periodically aim a hairdryer at the shelf in cool setting of course, keep the air flowing back and forth over the shelf. You’d want to do that regularly maybe weekly. \nI like the new little dusters that are kind of fuzzy like the Swiffer ones- easily goes between things on a shelf. ", "Keep them enclosed in display cases— otherwise dust daily or weekly, it’s the only way if they’re out in the open. " ]

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[ " I'm horrible at dealing with awkward silences. I feel the need to say something, but when I can't, I get really insecure about where my eyes are staring. How do you handle awkward silences? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!\n", " I'm horrible at dealing with awkward silences. I feel the need to say something, but when I can't, I get really insecure about where my eyes are staring. How do you handle awkward silences? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!\n" ]

[ "I always look directly into their eyes and wait for them to speak. There is nothing wrong with an uncomfortable silence! It might be awkward but you are not obligated to speak first. \n\nIf there is nothing to talk about you are free to walk away.", "I've always stared at a dot somewhere. So say its dinner time, it would be a random area on the table.\n\nMaybe thats why people say I look high all the time." ]

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[ "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? ", "How do I get my 6 year old to eat? Night after night me or my wife cook dinner. It's usually stuff any kid would love (spaghetti, fish sticks, pizza, etc.). It's constantly a battle and the most we can get him to eat is equivalent to a few bites of pepperoni in about 45 minutes time. If it were up to him he would eat MacDonald's happy meals or candy 24/7. Obviously that's not going to happen. We've tried not letting him eat anything if he doesn't eat dinner, but night after night it's the same stuggle and we don't want to restrict calories in a growing boy. Has anyone experienced the same thing? Any help? " ]

[ "Try marijuana. \n\nSeriously though, kids will not starve themselves to death, he's just being an asshole.", "The missing calories from one night of voluntarily missed meals won't be much of a problem, and he'll be more likely to eat the next day.\n\nHowever, maybe keep an eye out and see if he's not snacking covertly, which could be the case. I know I was much more clever than my parents realized at that age.\n\nIf he won't eat at night, try to get him a good, balanced breakfast in the morning with adequate protein. It's something he'll also likely grow out of in short order.", "It's only bad not to eat for a couple of days. That kid won't have that much conviction in him. Like other people said. Strip the house of snacks and let him know he's going to be hungry if he keeps this shit up. ", "My cousins had a picky eater when he was younger and tried to make it a game. But if he absolutely refused to eat, then he wouldn't eat. And he wouldn't get to skip to dessert. He learned eventually that he needed to eat his food or just grew out of the phase. ", "My son was very much like this. Ultimately, what helped the most is that his pediatrician told him why he needed to eat fruits, vegetables, and meats, and told him that he had to taste new foods 2-3 times until he found some new & nutritious foods that he liked. He's now willing to taste new foods & dors eat more vegetables & fruits. \n\nAlso, keep sugar & junk out of the house so he doesn't fill up his stomach on it & not be hungry for actual food.", "As a child, I was an extremely picky eater, and now as an adult I am just barely starting to eat fruits and vegetables. Forcing them to eat something will never work. If you weren't like this growing up, it's hard to understand the anxiety, fear, and disgust (and as you get older, shame) involved in the process of trying/not trying new foods. \n\nWhat did my parents do? Eventually they just let me eat a very limited diet, and I survived, albeit overweight.\n\nWhat did I wish they had done? I wish that they made sure that there were no snack foods or my normal limited foods available. Instead, provide one thing, especially something new that I had never encountered, and let me come to it on my own.\n\nI didn't even start to eat chicken until I went to sleep away camp some time in middle school, and that was the only option for dinner. I forced myself to try it, in spite of all the fear I was experiencing, because it was my only option. I think it also helped that I was in a new environment, and not being watched by my parents. Even now that I'm on my own, I find it easier to try new foods when I'm alone than when I'm with other people. There is no negative reaction go me not liking it. A negative reaction to a failure to try new foods can make the fear even more stubborn. \n\nOn a more practical note, keep the flavors simple. Covering something in ketchup is a good start to trying something. My first chicken experience was basically chicken nuggets with ketchup. After that, I was willing to try chicken with salt and pepper.\n\nI don't know if this is a problem for your kid, but I also find texture to be really important. I especially dislike mixing textures and food types. So I would keep things separate, and try to stick to textures that your kid likes. \n\nAnd some people just don't like fish!", "Look up the Division of Responsibility in Feeding, a concept I learned from Ellyn Satter. It is amazing and so simple. ", "I don't know if this medication is still around, though I don't know it's name either. About 32 years ago, I had a eating problen when I was around 5 years old, I wouldn't eat anything. My parents took me an allergy specialist that tried an allergy medication on me and I started eating like a maniac. He said that it helped to jumpstart children's appetites. This may work for you too, if not, at least you got a funny story to tell about someone with a similar condition. ", "Let him put ketchup (or any flavoring he loves) on everything. Ketchup has all 5 flavors so it's satisfying and makes strange tastes more familiar and rounded. Even if it's chocolate syrup, if it gets him to eat nutritious stuff, it's worth it.", "I am 99% sure your child has SED/ARFID (Selective Eating Disorder). I would suggest you do some reading on it and find ANY, absolutely ANY food that he is comfortable with. Letting him starve and forcing him to eat something he doesn't want to won't help him at all. Trust me, my parents have tried", "Kids are people. You, as an adult, aren't going to sit down and eat a full meal if you don't like it, right? Kids are the same. Find something he likes. If he wants to eat mac and cheese or hot dogs for every single meal, let him. At least he's eating. And you can try to supplement with vitamins or with meal replacers like Ensure or Boost. (Get the chocolate stuff and tell him it's chocolate milk. He seriously won't know the difference.) Eventually he'll grow out of it. His tastes will change and he'll start liking things. " ]

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[ "How do i get people to hang out with me? Everybody seem to like me in school and on social media. But is always ''busy'' in real life. I'm a male if it matters", "How do i get people to hang out with me? Everybody seem to like me in school and on social media. But is always ''busy'' in real life. I'm a male if it matters", "How do i get people to hang out with me? Everybody seem to like me in school and on social media. But is always ''busy'' in real life. I'm a male if it matters", "How do i get people to hang out with me? Everybody seem to like me in school and on social media. But is always ''busy'' in real life. I'm a male if it matters", "How do i get people to hang out with me? Everybody seem to like me in school and on social media. But is always ''busy'' in real life. I'm a male if it matters" ]

[ "Sometimes people are just caught at a wrong time (or multiple), but try to make **them** send you an invite to do something. Maybe text them something like \"Hey, lets do something soon, anytime you are open?\" Make sure you give them the ability to respond anytime and make sure they have some space to give an excuse.\n\nAlso, don't come too often. Try to make yourself seem like a treat. If you come too often people will lose the novelty of it and think you're annoying. It's all about space, man.\n\nP.S. Give a good reason to go out with you. If you just want to \"hang\" that shit doesn't cut it. Make it seem exciting, and don't try to convince them, instead, let them decide what to do. Free stuff also works. People looove free shit.", "Had a buddy I used to talk to about the same stuff\n\nAs years go by, people will get busier and farther away\n\n32 and only 1 close friend left from having shit tons of friends in high school college\n\nFind a watering hole or hang out spot and start investing in the people there\n\nHigh school buds will just keep fading ", "I have the same problem. I think what OP is trying to say is that the excuses they have are flimsy and they never think to invite you. I sort of thought it was because I'm not really a memeber of any particular group.", "Don't worry about your so called friends. Build up your own social scene, try Meetup Groups to find people with similar interests to yours and hang out there. Craigslist has listings for community activities. If you are over 21 there are activities that mostly are excuses for drinking like Adult Kickball and Hash House Harriers. Join a pool league, dart league, or bowling league. Find someone who has a killer poker night. \nJust do stuff that YOU think is fun, and eventually people will see that you have a fun and exciting life, and they will be begging to hang out with you. ", "You don't *get* people to hang out with you. It's just a progression. You'll know if there's a good relationship with current friends or not further down the road, and where to divide your time into." ]

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[ "how to ask for a raise? I've been working for this startup since February, they hired another dude alongside me for the same role but since he had more experience they paid him a bit more (20% more). Fine by me, since it's my first job ever. Recently this dude left for another company and I'm still here, however I have more responsibilities now and there are no plans to hire someone to fill his role, so it makes me think I should be asking for a raise in the near future. How to proceed?", "how to ask for a raise? I've been working for this startup since February, they hired another dude alongside me for the same role but since he had more experience they paid him a bit more (20% more). Fine by me, since it's my first job ever. Recently this dude left for another company and I'm still here, however I have more responsibilities now and there are no plans to hire someone to fill his role, so it makes me think I should be asking for a raise in the near future. How to proceed?" ]

[ "I'd apply for and take interviews elsewhere - the fastest path to a higher income is joining another company. As that happens you'll get a sense of your desirability and value in the marketplace.\n\nWhile that's happening, have a conversation with your boss about the additional workload & higher tiered responsibilities you've taken on since '\"coworker\" left. You can bluntly state that you're aware coworker was making X, and now that you've assumed everything they did you would like to see your salary equal that amount.\n\nBe prepared for them to say No, or offer you 10% raise or something. Hopefully you'll be nearing Offer stages elsewhere by that point and you can decide if you're happy as-is or if you need to make a change in order to be valued fairly.", "From the company's POV: First mistake is to think you should be asking for a raise after only 4 months at a company. Second mistake is thinking the company's circumstances should determine you require a raise. \n\n\nFrom your POV: Ask yourself this, had this other person not been hired, had there not been two roles. You'd still have applied for the job and you'd still negotiate your salary identical to what you have now. Forget this other employee existed. \n\n\nWhat to do...\n\nOption One: If your company does not have one ask for a 6 month performance review. Get a feel for your true worth and find out what your employer really thinks of you. At 12 months if you do not get a raise, ask for one. \n\n\nOption Two: Apply for jobs elsewhere with the salary you'd like." ]

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[ "GIFTS!? So, I have a few friends Birthdays coming up in October. I believe I could adequately decide gifts for each of them on my own, but would like to maximise my gift-picking abilities. Are there any nifty tricks you know when it comes to choosing gifts?\n\nAs a side LPT Request, do you have any suggestions on how to gage what type of present you should buy depending on how far into a (romantic) relationship you are?", "GIFTS!? So, I have a few friends Birthdays coming up in October. I believe I could adequately decide gifts for each of them on my own, but would like to maximise my gift-picking abilities. Are there any nifty tricks you know when it comes to choosing gifts?\n\nAs a side LPT Request, do you have any suggestions on how to gage what type of present you should buy depending on how far into a (romantic) relationship you are?", "GIFTS!? So, I have a few friends Birthdays coming up in October. I believe I could adequately decide gifts for each of them on my own, but would like to maximise my gift-picking abilities. Are there any nifty tricks you know when it comes to choosing gifts?\n\nAs a side LPT Request, do you have any suggestions on how to gage what type of present you should buy depending on how far into a (romantic) relationship you are?", "GIFTS!? So, I have a few friends Birthdays coming up in October. I believe I could adequately decide gifts for each of them on my own, but would like to maximise my gift-picking abilities. Are there any nifty tricks you know when it comes to choosing gifts?\n\nAs a side LPT Request, do you have any suggestions on how to gage what type of present you should buy depending on how far into a (romantic) relationship you are?", "GIFTS!? So, I have a few friends Birthdays coming up in October. I believe I could adequately decide gifts for each of them on my own, but would like to maximise my gift-picking abilities. Are there any nifty tricks you know when it comes to choosing gifts?\n\nAs a side LPT Request, do you have any suggestions on how to gage what type of present you should buy depending on how far into a (romantic) relationship you are?", "GIFTS!? So, I have a few friends Birthdays coming up in October. I believe I could adequately decide gifts for each of them on my own, but would like to maximise my gift-picking abilities. Are there any nifty tricks you know when it comes to choosing gifts?\n\nAs a side LPT Request, do you have any suggestions on how to gage what type of present you should buy depending on how far into a (romantic) relationship you are?" ]

[ "I go through the following until I find something:\n\n- *Ask* them what they want (seriously I don't get why people don't do this)\n- Something you know they want because they told you or you overheard in person or on social media\n- Something you know they would like based on your knowledge of their interests or what they've been doing recently\n- A gift voucher for a shop you know they shop at regularly\n- Nothing at all/social time with them\n\n*(This is based on what I personally would appreciate for my own birthday. I'd much rather get nothing than some useless thing I don't really want.)*", "You know those things that when you seem them and you kind of want them, think they're pretty cool but can't quite justify buying them? Those things are great gifts.\n\nThe trick is finding one of those things that suits your friend. ", "Without knowing anything about your friends its hard to make recomendations... but here is what i usually do for gifts\n\nYour time can often be a better gift than an object (especially if you are an adult now) Things like paying to go to a movie together, out to a nice dinner, one of those painting/wine places, day at the zoo... the outing will depend on thier intrest, you're paying so it doesn't feel like a cop out, and honestly they prolly have more fun in those few hours than whatever knick-nack you would have gotten. \n\nIf you are looking for a physical gift I recomend planning through out the year (i know it may be too late for your friends coming up) but have a folder in your bookmarks tab as gifts, add a sub folder for each friend, and then as your putzing around on the internet, or seeing a face book like, you just bookmark that in their folder. When an event comes up you flip through and see what you want to do.\n", "In addition to the great suggestions from _squik and Jexebele, I would recommend looking to see if they already have a public Wishlist on Amazon. If you know they have a Pinterest account, definitely look through their boards - they will tell you a lot about the general kinds of things they like (styles, themes, actual products etc.) Pinterest pins might not have the same kind of connotation as putting something on their Amazon Wishlist though, so be mindful of that. \n\nAs for the gift/relationship aspect ... maybe think about it in terms of what kinds of activities you already do with that person and find a way to translate that into a sphere of acceptable kinds of items/$ value of items. How much $ do you normally spend on activities together? That or a little more would be a good place to start. Spend too much too early and you're in danger of making the recipient uncomforatble. You don't have to spend much on a thoughtful gift, but you can't make a gift meaningful buy spending a lot. ", "I read somewhere a great way to surprise someone is to tell them to guess what you got them for their birthday, they will usually say things they want or need. Take a mental note or of you ask them on the phone write it down. ", "I find that food/baked stuff usually goes over really well. Cake is my go-to gift for almost every occasion. " ]

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[ "How to look after and keep a large amount of money safe on holiday? I'm going to a big city in a few days, and I was looking for any tips for carrying amounts of money in the hundreds.", "How to look after and keep a large amount of money safe on holiday? I'm going to a big city in a few days, and I was looking for any tips for carrying amounts of money in the hundreds.", "How to look after and keep a large amount of money safe on holiday? I'm going to a big city in a few days, and I was looking for any tips for carrying amounts of money in the hundreds.", "How to look after and keep a large amount of money safe on holiday? I'm going to a big city in a few days, and I was looking for any tips for carrying amounts of money in the hundreds.", "How to look after and keep a large amount of money safe on holiday? I'm going to a big city in a few days, and I was looking for any tips for carrying amounts of money in the hundreds.", "How to look after and keep a large amount of money safe on holiday? I'm going to a big city in a few days, and I was looking for any tips for carrying amounts of money in the hundreds." ]

[ "Don't. Use cr", "While I would *really* recommend against carrying cash around, if you *absolutely must,* you want to keep it on your person and close to your body at all times. You can buy or make [a wallet like this](http://www.instructables.com/id/Anti-Theft-Wallet-1/) that loops through your belt, then pull your shirt down over it to cover it up. No one ever knows it's there.\n\nIt's also a good idea to not keep all your money in one place. Split it up across a couple of locations, so if something does get stolen, not *all* of it gets stolen. Some kinds of [boots have a little zipper pocket](http://www.amazon.com/Womens-Military-Buckle-Combat-Exclusive/dp/B00M7FMTPK/ref=sr_1_6?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1454781050&sr=1-6&nodeID=679380011&keywords=women%27s+leather+boots) that you can stash some money in, and you can attempt to stash some in something innocuous that someone wouldn't think of stealing, like [in a chapstick](https://ak-hdl.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/webdr02/2013/8/13/21/enhanced-buzz-15919-1376442028-25.jpg) or an Altoid's tin or something. The only worry there is if someone steals your whole backpack, with said chapstick or Altoid's tin in it, then that money is gone.\n\nBut, again, your best option is to just *not* carry around large amounts of cash when you're traveling.", "You can buy belts that can hide cash inside them. It looks weird and everything but it's better than a bunch of cash in your wallet.\nHonestly, unless you're going in some really shady neighbourhoods the best advice is just to not look like a tourist.\nDon't have your expensive camera on a clearly visible CANON/NIKON/SONY strap around your neck, don't show super expensive shoes, watch, sunglasses and walk with purpose.", "Why don't you use a debit card? It's different from a cr", "Money belt. Like a really thin fanny pack (bumbag) that goes inside your pants. Money stays concealed and right on your belly/crotch area.", "Keep your wallet in your front pocket and, if you're extra nervous, just walk around with your hands looped in your pockets. That's how I kept from losing my wallet in Vegas while walking around drunk." ]

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[ "how to get rid of body odour from a mattress? I was very sick due to the side effects of the vaccine so I was running a high fever and sweating profusely. I changed my shirts frequently but the body odor is still lingering in my mattress. \n\nI can’t afford to get a new mattress. Any suggestions?", "how to get rid of body odour from a mattress? I was very sick due to the side effects of the vaccine so I was running a high fever and sweating profusely. I changed my shirts frequently but the body odor is still lingering in my mattress. \n\nI can’t afford to get a new mattress. Any suggestions?", "how to get rid of body odour from a mattress? I was very sick due to the side effects of the vaccine so I was running a high fever and sweating profusely. I changed my shirts frequently but the body odor is still lingering in my mattress. \n\nI can’t afford to get a new mattress. Any suggestions?", "how to get rid of body odour from a mattress? I was very sick due to the side effects of the vaccine so I was running a high fever and sweating profusely. I changed my shirts frequently but the body odor is still lingering in my mattress. \n\nI can’t afford to get a new mattress. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "Baking soda or shoe deodorizer, or pet deodorizer and let it sit for a while and then vacuum up. You can look for a pet pee cleaner with live enzymes as well for tougher areas, these cleaners are meant for organics like pee, blood, odours, and stuff. They do need a little time to work though.", "You could try soda crystals. Works a treat with vomit, so should work. \n\nThe method: Sprinkle on dry and leave overnight, then hoover up in the morning. For somevreason it absorbs the odour. Don't use wet or it is both harder to clean up and can leave stains. (Lesson learned from an accident in car with my Daughter)", "I would try an enzyme remover like Natures miracle It’s marketed towards removing pet stains but working on human items too.", "Dry dusting style treatments won't effectively get \"soaked\" in smells.\n\n Best thing would be a hot wet vacuum that has one of those hand held units. Run it with a fabric cleanser intended for furniture to help break down the sebum(oils/proteins) that bacteria break down making it smell. Let it air and dry, should be golden" ]

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[ "How to organize files on my computer? Hi,\n\nThe files on my computer are a godforsaken mess. It's littered with ", "How to organize files on my computer? Hi,\n\nThe files on my computer are a godforsaken mess. It's littered with ", "How to organize files on my computer? Hi,\n\nThe files on my computer are a godforsaken mess. It's littered with " ]

[ "At first, just make a few basic folders to start sorting things: photos, documents, videos, and so on. The goal is to have all of the \"loose\" files end up in one of these high level folders.\n\nNext, if there's some natural division inside one of these folders, make subfolders to allow you to separate them further. For example, in the documents folder you might make folders for school, work, and personal, and then you can sort all of the documents into one of these subfolders. \n\nPerhaps you want to sort the photos by which camera you used to take them. Then you could add folders called Canon, Nikon, and Samsung smartphone inside the photos folder and then move all of the photos into the appropriate folder.\n\nIf needed, you can separate things further with more layers of files (in the school folder, maybe you want folders to separate out documents from each year of school), but I'd say don't go overboard. There's definitely a line between \"organized\" and \"overly complicated\" that you don't want to cross.", "Similar to what you suggested. I have big folders: Program shortcuts, Documents, Images, Video, Music, Work, Misc folder for things I don't know what to do with...", "File name in Year-Mo-Da\n2022-09-10 then description. \n\nFolders for basically the primary tag. \n\nDeep nesting of folders more than two deep is tough." ]

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[ "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "How to smile with your teeth Whenever I'm part of a group photo, everyone seems able to smile with their teeth showing, whilst I always have my lips closed as I always look extremely unnatural when I try. Is there a way to \"smile\" properly with teeth? Any techniques? Would love to be able to do it. Thanks in advance.\n\n" ]

[ "Buckle up my friend, cuz you're about to get that million-dollar model smile right fucking now. So when you hear something really funny you laugh, right? Now think of those times when you're not just smirking or not full-on laughing out loud [like this shit](https://www.tavs.info/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/ray.liotta.goodfellas.laughing.jpg) and twisting up your whole face while tearing up, but that middle spot [where you smile real big and show your teeth](http://thelaughterworkout.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/istock-team-laughter-pic3.jpg). You see them? See how great they fucking look in the picture? Do YOU wanna look that fantastic in every picture? Do you REALLY WANT IT? [Good, good...let the desire flow through you](http://i.imgur.com/5VwAFH7.png)\n\nThe reason a lot of people look unnatural showing their teeth while smiling is that for most of us, we aren't actually happy but are just smiling for a picture. [So some of us end up like this](http://i.imgur.com/RpspQr2.jpg). \n\nThe key is to smile as though you're actually happy for real. Practice standing in front of the mirror and laughing just enough to the point where you're smiling and showing teeth, making sure you're smiling *with your whole face* and not just baring your teeth for the camera. Think about something happy, sharing a joke with your friends, *YOU GOTTA ABSOLUTELY RADIATE HAPPINESS AND THAT SHIT WILL SHINE THROUGH YA FACE LIKE THE SUN*. And THEN you'll find that you'll be able to show your teeth while smiling for the camera more naturally. \n\nAnd especially important for people like you is to actually practice it, because that lack of confidence in your smile will show through. So go practice, [seriously go do that shit RIGHT NOW](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Z6gG3tKDBlk/maxresdefault.jpg)\n", "[Just follow this, really breaks it down in slo-mo](https://media.giphy.com/media/2f2kFoGVT4HYs/giphy.gif)", "When I had my senior pictures taken the photographer asked me questions he knew I'd say yes to (do you want a million dollars? Would you like to go out with your crush?) The act of saying/imagining yes created a natural smile. ", "Push your tongue against the back of your teeth. It makes muscle things happen to create a more natural look.", "The thing that always works for me is laughing. Just do a silent fake laugh, then when you can feel your mouth curling into a smile, hold that face. \n\nAnd never clench your teeth, that makes you look like you've just soiled yourself.", "Actually it´s much of a genetic predesposition thingy, either you can or you can´t. \n\nSimple as that, and you dont wanna be the one whose smile cringes everybody who looks at the picture... in case you want to, happy training.", "Without knowing what you're actually doing when you smile, I'll give you some tips for the most common mistakes. \n\nA lot of people who can't smile for pictures wind up sort of...grimacing when they try. [Like this] (http://thumbs.dreamstime.com/z/angry-grimace-4837200.jpg). When you grimace, you expose your teeth by pulling the corners of your lips back and the top/bottom of your lips up/down respectively. When you *smile*, on the other hand, you pull the corners of your lips ***up***, not back. If you bring the corners up fast enough, you'll find that it actually takes more effort to keep your lips *closed,* than it does to open them and let your teeth show. When this happens, don't fight it! Let your mouth open naturally! Practice this in the mirror until your mouth looks right. Once you've got that covered, you can worry about the rest of your face. \n\nAnother mistake people make is in forgetting about the eyes. A real smile uses more than just the cheek/mouth muscles, it also engages the obicularis occuli (the muscles around the corners of your eyes...basically where crow's feet come from). Before you smile, squint your eyes like you're looking into the sun. Then bring the corners of your lips up (not back!) and let your lips part naturally. \n\nAnother mistake you might be making is in your forehead. Some people engage their forehead/brow muscles when trying to smile (making them look even more like they're grimacing). Keep your forehead and eyebrows as smooth and neutral as you possibly can. Try not to either raise OR furrow your eyebrows. Both of those will make you look like you're in pain, instead of overjoyed. \n\nTldr: the corners of your mouth go up, not back; the corners of your eyes should crinkle; your eyebrows/forehead should remain neutral. ", "Look in the mirror and say, 'wa-hey' it makes a natural looking smile. \n\nIn the UK when we have picture day the photographer would tell us to say cheese, but it doesn't work say, 'wa-hey' ! \n\nSounds weird but it works :)", "When you smile and show your teeth, only show the top row. The general thought is that a big cheesy grin with both rows of pearly whites is best, but it isn't. Top row only. Just practice in front of a mirror until it becomes natural to do. ", "think of something happy or funny... seems to work well for me.. also makes you look like your smiling with your eyes for a more natural look", "also, instead of holding a static pose while holding an unnatural grimace and hoping for it to end soon, actually laugh. ha-ha-hah! ho-ho-ho! I'm so happy! Hee hee hee! It is a bit weird, but you get some great pictures that way and what is fun is it makes the other people in the picture smile more naturally too!\n", "There's a lot of good stuff in here already! A big one for me is not pulling your bottom lip down much/at all. When I smile, my bottom teeth aren't showing. \n\nAnd definitely smiling with your eyes :)", "OP, I just wanted to share with you that I have the opposite problem. I have an awesome teeth-smile, but always look sick or angry when I do a mouth-closed smile. I wish I could just do a normal smile like you can.\n\nAnd, for the record, absoluteperspective's top comment here is the best advice.", "I used to have this problem. Then once, as a joke, a friend said out loud, while we were taking a group photo, \"Everyone smile and think 'I'm having SO MUCH FUUUN right now =D .'\" And I thought it to myself, and it worked! So, every time I'm in a picture, I think, \"I'm having so much fun right now!\" It's ridiculous and makes me smile... A natural smile! Maybe that'll work for you.", "I used to bite a pencil and smile in the mirror, didn't take more than 2 days to be able to do naturally. Now I'm complimented more on smile than anything, and I do not have perfect teeth.", "Actor here. Three tricks. One, look away right before the camera is firing then look and land on a smile while saying the word \"heh\" as if you're starting to laugh out loud. Second, (Hugh grant trick) while you're looking away imagine that you are greeting someone you haven't seen in a long time. This will widen your eyes and make your smile more genuine. Third, if the shutter doesn't fire in 5 seconds reset and do it again. Create angles by keeping your hips at a 30 degree angle to camera but your chest right at it. You'll see a lot of models doing the reset and turn on the runway. Works for guys too with a bit more casualness to the pose. ", "you gotta smile with ur eyes too, people who have great smiles often smile with their entire face, not just their cheeks, and mouth.", "press your tongue against your teeth is a tip i've heard a lot...I usually smile too big and look like a chipmunk so i've been practicing smiling with the thought \"this is fucking stupid!\" in my head and I usually end up looking like an all-american girl with some hilarious secret. Slightly raised eyebrows, smile not pulled too tight, sparkling eyes, yeah. ", "Try this: https://m.reddit.com/r/creepy/comments/2svpya/this_guy_has_25_videos_of_him_smiling_at_the/\n\nBut in all seriousness it's easier if you almost partially but quickly laugh and only let out a breath of air. It makes you do a less forced and more natural smile. For photos you can do it just prior while holding a pose and hold that expression, but if it feels too unnatural for too long of a period of holding redo the quick laugh but only let out the breath of air. It also gets you in a happy/positive mindset when doing it so it should make you more relaxed, it be more genuine and less focused on teeth being exposed.\n\ntl:dr: quick sharp partial laugh but don't laugh, breath air out instead of laughing and hold the pose, if holding for too long redo since it may start feeling unnatural or forced if held too long.", "This advice always worked for me:\n\n“I was glad my father was an eye-smiler. It meant he never gave me a fake smile because it's impossible to make your eyes twinkle if you aren't feeling twinkly yourself. A mouth-smile is different. You can fake a mouth-smile any time you want, simply by moving your lips. I've also learned that a real mouth-smile always has an eye-smile to go with it. So watch out, I say, when someone smiles at you but his eyes stay the same. It's sure to be a phony.”\n\n― Roald Dahl, Danny the Champion of the World", "The best trick I know is to look down, have the person taking the picture, 3,2,1 and then you look up and smile and they take the pic right away. It gives you a natural smile and you don't get that stuck on smile look. After a few seconds a fake smile gets stale, and it shows. Taking the picture while it's fresh is super important. The easiest way is to have a fresh smile on and get the pic done. ", "Say \"Awww\" or \"wow\" or something while you're smiling. You have to open your lips to speak. Get used to mentally saying those things and you will instinctively smile with your teeth. It will also make your smile that much more genuine.", "Practice in front of the mirror. Think of things that makes you naturally smile and notice your facial expressions. Notice how your eyes look, your cheeks, how your eyebrows are raised. Then try smiling just for the sake of smiling. Notice the difference?\n\nI used to hate showing my teeth when smiling or when people take pictures of me. But it all changed when I saw this one pic of mine where I was smiling and my teeth were showing. I look good in that one.\n\nSo I made it a habit to smile with my teeth showing. And practice smiling in front of the mirror. Try to use some tooth whitening products if you can. It also helped me.", "One thing I try to think of, is to smile with my eyes.\n\nIf your eyes light up you'll look truly happy, versus someone just showing their teeth with dead eyes. ", "Okay, so this takes a little practice to look natural... You have to slightly pull down your lower lip down so that you are smiling with your upper and lower teeth and not your upper teeth/gums. Don't over-exaggerate it or it won't look right. Start by smiling with your lips closed and relaxed, then gently bring your lower lip down. Don't grimace, don't stiffen your lips or cheeks. Happy smiling!", "Look up pictured of Jared from Subway^tm and you'll see many examples of how to smile with your teeth.", "If you're taking a selfie by yourself, try saying your name as if you're introducing yourself and trying to make a good impression. I've heard that when people say their names, usually their first instinct is to smile.", "I was terrible at it until I practiced in front of a mirror to find what a good smile felt like, and then recreating that face. Sounds really depressing, but so is smiling when you're not actually happy.", "I used to practice in front of a mirror. When I was much younger, I had the all-teeth smile. I was \"taught\" to show as much teeth as possible. It just didn't look right to me. I tried to smile with my mouth close and that look awkward also.\n\nI was jealous of those kids with big, bright, beautiful smiles. I didn't have that and I tried very hard to get that. I started to practice in front of the mirror and discovered that it wasn't possible for me to smile like them. My face was different and to smile like them means awkward smiles. \n\nI then practice smiling for myself. Had a mirror in front of me while I saw funny things. Observed how my face looks naturally when I'm happy. I couldn't have the big, bright smile. That wasn't my face. My smiles are smaller, wider, and my eyes squint. That's how I smile and it's the most suiting smile for me.\n\nDon't know if the above helps, but some other things I notices is that I smile from my cheeks. I let my cheek muscles pull my lips up instead of pulling my lips (does that make sense?). Also, only my top lip curves. My bottom lip is just in for the ride. When I smile, my bottom teeth can't be seen at all. I also smile with my eyes. I find that if my eyes are happy, my lips follow, even if it means making my already small eyes smaller.\n\nAgain, that's just how I smile naturally. I know people with beautiful smiles showing both rows of teeth and big open eyes. Try to understand your face more and everything should be a'ok.", "I have what I call the \"lock it in\" method. \n\nForce yourself to have a short chuckle/laugh that exposes the teeth, then immediately \"lock in\" the smile you get. I urge everyone to try it! ", "I am actually incapable. My dentist told me my upper lip is very long, so it covers my top teeth almost completely when smiling. ", "Don't try to open your eyes more than they naturally would when you laugh/smile for real. Let them get squinty but at least it'll look genuine. Also, don't try to show both your top & bottom teeth... Most people naturally only show the top row when they smile. Another trick: think of something funny and just laugh", "I can hold a natural smile with teeth for all of 1-2 seconds before it becomes a lip smile. During my wedding, my wife instructed the photographer to say \"Boobies\" instead of something like \"say cheese\" anytime they wanted a posed picture with smiles. Worked like a charm. Now, whenever I need to recreate that I think about \"Boobies\" when the picture is taken, whether I am thinking about actual boobies or the memory of that situation...depends on my mood 😀. You, you must discover your own \"Boobies\", or forever be cursed with the lips smile." ]

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[ "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad.", "How to train myself to not worry so much. It's a terrible habit of mine to worry about this yet have it almost always turn out to be not nearly as bad." ]

[ "Whenever I start to get worried, I like to remind myself to focus on things I can change rather than focus on things I can't. There's no use in worrying so I try to do what does have a use", "If you're talking about your appearance, I stopped by thinking what would I think about others. For example, if you think you have an ugly laugh, think of the last time you actually thought someone else had an ugly laugh. I have never cared about someone's laugh and, when you think about it, all laughs sound weird. People care more about noticing their own problems to notice others and most of the time no one actually cares.", "Read this book: [**How to stop worrying and start living, by Dale Carnegie**](http://amzn.com/0671733354)", "I read a quote recently that has really helped. Your problem either has a solution or it doesn't. If it has a solution you don't need to worry. And if it doesn't have a solution you don't need to worry. ", "99% of what you worry about never happens.\n\nThe real \"Life just went sideways\" moments come from things you never worried about a second in your life.", "Whenever I find myself worrying about something I have to do, I just add it to a running to do list. This helps me take my mind off of it, making sure I won't forget about it later. Plus it feels good to cross things out!", "Humor works, every time. \nBefore becoming a parent, you will need to nix this habit. Having a child greatly increases worry, and it lasts for eighteen years. ", "The way I do it (and am very successful at) is just remind yourself that MOST things end up working themselves out. It is a very simple concept just a very hard thing to explain/have someone do. It is more a thing you are born with... well shit, I wasn't helpful at all.", "I suggest figuring out what muscles you tense when you worry and then focusing on learning how to relax them. This will get you out of your head a little bit too, which can help.", "Download the app headspace and start doing 10 min m", "\"If a problem is fixable, then there is no need to worry. If a problem is not fixable, then there is no point in worrying\" -Dalai Lama XIV \n \nSeriously though, this kind of mentality really helped me. For things like procrastination, you just tell yourself it *will* be done by the time it's due. For bigger things out of your control, just know that things take their own course, and there's no use stressing about it.", "You're dumb if you think the future you worry about is real. It's like you're having an abusive relationship with an imaginary friend and you believe it's a real person. " ]

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[ "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences.", "How to chill and not be so angry all the time? Basically, I've completely driven away my best friend because she would do shit that I didn't like and I would flip the fuck out about it. And even now, we don't talk but I still hear about who she hangs out with and the shit she's been doing and it drives me crazy. It always gets to my head and I kinda let it all out. Do I have bipolar? What can I do? I don't want to ruin any more friendships because I get so frustrated and mad all the time because I lash out without thinking or even considering the consequences." ]

[ "The people suggesting smoking weed - idiots.\n\nWeed amplifies anxiety and depression or masks it, it does *not* cure it. Soon as the weed is taken away the anxiety or depression is worse.", "Try to embrace this motto in your everyday life : Live and let live.\n\nThis is their life, it may not be your ideal view of how to live but if it makes them happy now, who are you to tell them to be different. Either accept them for what they are and don't mind their problems or find yourself new people", "So first and foremost see a professional if you think you are bipolar. Second I don't think the advice on smoking weed every day on its own has a lot of merrit but weed is awesome at helping you relax.\n\nI am a firm believer that structure and responsibility can help to get anyone's life in order and resolve a vast number of mental and physical problems. Starting with the right amount of sleep for you. I recommend a sleep tracker and for a while you just need to analyze and follow it's suggestions to get you on the right track. I have found that 7 hours is what I need to get the best average for my sleep scores and where I feel the most rested. I then set myself a reasonable bed time and wake up time and I never snooze. One of the major benefits of this is I am very well rested and get a decent amount of time in the morning to m", "Just wanna say, I've been there. Everything would piss me off and I started to realize that it's not everything else that's being unreasonable, it's me. I believe chemistry in the brain is more significant than m", "You need to learn to identify how you are feeling specifically in the moment. This is called mindfulness. What thoughts are you beginning to stack up? What feelings can you identify? Is your heart rushing? Are your hands shaking? It sounds like you are becoming aggressive when you really need to be assertive. There is a big difference. Also: no one can make you angry. You choose to get angry (a secondary emotion) in response to other primary emotions that you feel (but probably haven't identified yet). Through mindfulness you can begin to identify what these are, then you can communicate these to yourself and others in an assertive manner. \"I feel exasperated/frustrated/stressed/hurt/..... I think this is because I feel unappreciated/inadequate/humiliated because I am assuming this persons agenda is........ \" In my experience people who say they go from 2 to 11 are actually internally often running on about a 6-8. I think you've mentioned always feeling 'highly-strung'? I have also found that asking questions during the conflict can help. \"Do you realise that when you say things like that I feel irritated?\" One big thing I will leave you with is this truth: you have internally justified losing your temper at people when you feel irritated. Well done for realising that this is not ok and needs to change. I doubt you need meds from what you've described. ", "In 150 year, nobody will even remember your existence. Nothing is really worth it ! Just relax and enjoy life ...", "Go see a therapist. I have always had pretty bad anger issues, and talking to someone will help you get to the root of your problem. ", "For me, I feel myself getting angry and try to re-focus my mental priorities. I'm super pissed about traffic right now, I pull back mentally and remember that my life isn't traffic, it's just something that's happening to me right now. I remind myself that I have good music playing, and that the weather is interesting, and that I am excited to go see a movie in a couple of days, and that my mom was really nice for raising me for 17 years and trying her best for me, etc.\n\nIf you're obsessing over the behavior of other people, remind yourself that it isn't your responsibility to make people behave the same way that you do, and it isn't your right to expect it. A separate person wants different things out of life, and that's okay. \n\nDealing with emotions is something that a councilor would certainly be able to help you talk through, so it's not out of line to bring it up. Everyone has trouble dealing with certain emotions sometimes, because none of us have any experience being anybody but us, or having anyone else's feelings. Some contextualization can be very healthy. ", "1. It helps to start paying attention to the ways that your anger is affecting you and your life. You already started this process by admitting that your anger cost you a friend. What else does it do to you? Ruin your head for hours? Make you dislike yourself? \n\n2. As close as possible to the episode, or even during it if possible, try to put in to words exactly what you are feeling and explain why you are feeling it. View the episode as a process with beginning, Middle, and end. It is not just a blinding flash if you break it down and observe yourself. Eventually you may find that the anger is not caused by the person you are angry with, but by something else entirely. \n\n3. Own the consequences of your actions. Start apologizing to people who are affected by your anger. It's part of growing up into a good person. \n\n", "no you do not have bipolar don't be ridiculous.\n\nsounds to me like you're younger than 18 years old and in still in education somewhere. \n\nit's completely normal, something is bothering you and you're not confronting it and that's not a good look when you're still developing as a person. \n\nif something upsets you, just question why, really try and answer what's actually annoying you. \n\nnone of this \"cindy has a new friend so i cry\" bs, more so \"i regret doing x and y to cindy and the guilts getting to me\", really assess the root cause of the issue and then try to fix it. \n\nlabeling it as a psychological order you do not have is nothing short of lazy. ", "I used to be angry all the time. Turns out a lot of that was from being around my parents who never treated me fairly. \n\nAfter I moved 850 miles away, to Seattle, I started to heal. It also helped that I had been doing m" ]

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[ "Improve multitasking ability If I'm driving the radio has to be off or barely audible, and I avoid talking to people while driving because I do not process their answer. If I'm working on something do not bother trying to talk while I work. I have to stop, direct focus and listen.\n\nHow can I improve my ability to listen and multitask?", "Improve multitasking ability If I'm driving the radio has to be off or barely audible, and I avoid talking to people while driving because I do not process their answer. If I'm working on something do not bother trying to talk while I work. I have to stop, direct focus and listen.\n\nHow can I improve my ability to listen and multitask?", "Improve multitasking ability If I'm driving the radio has to be off or barely audible, and I avoid talking to people while driving because I do not process their answer. If I'm working on something do not bother trying to talk while I work. I have to stop, direct focus and listen.\n\nHow can I improve my ability to listen and multitask?", "Improve multitasking ability If I'm driving the radio has to be off or barely audible, and I avoid talking to people while driving because I do not process their answer. If I'm working on something do not bother trying to talk while I work. I have to stop, direct focus and listen.\n\nHow can I improve my ability to listen and multitask?", "Improve multitasking ability If I'm driving the radio has to be off or barely audible, and I avoid talking to people while driving because I do not process their answer. If I'm working on something do not bother trying to talk while I work. I have to stop, direct focus and listen.\n\nHow can I improve my ability to listen and multitask?" ]

[ "Why do you need to?\n\nIt's honestly a serious question. \n\nHaving the default ability to focus on one thing at a time can be a massive asset actually. There's been lots of research that proves multitasking often reduces overall efficiency. \n\nUnless the building is burning down, what those other people need can wait until you finish your thought and direct your attention to their needs. \"Just a sec\", finish, \"now what can I do for you?\" is not only perfectly polite, it's the right thing to do.\n\nAs for driving, if you have any choice at all, just let someone else drive if you DO need to speak to them in the car while on the way. ", "Practice. The idea isn't that you can focus on 2 things at the same time, but the idea that you can use things like muscle memory to do one task while doing another. There are plenty of examples of people doing this, from people who explain something on their youtube channel, but the video feed is of them playing a video game. Or of someone who is attending a conference and knitting at the same time, and is still able to convey all the details of the conference. This is only accomplished through repetition and invested time.", "Ok got it- You could set a goal to stay motivated to stay on plan \"A\" before You go to plan \"B\" - but it depends on the activity I believe. Also again in my opinion we do our best work as humans when we want it intrinsically.\n", "I Have ADHD and have learned to live with it so well, that I can get what's called \"hyper focus\". This is achieved by first \n\n1) being very interested in what I am doing \n2) maintaining high confidence in what I am doing and understanding the value of the activity (in my case it is teaching - music recording, and filming music videos) \n\nThis works for me- And I literarily used to be crippled by a lack of any tasking. \n\nEnjoying what you do can help engage your mind in many levels of perception far beyond just in a singular way in my opinion.", "ADHD diagnosis is a tricky subject- even for doctors. There are other symptoms besides focus as well. Mostly, ADHD involves organization of cognitive function impairments...\nNot the end of the world because our brains are great at adapting. Not saying you have ADHD either of course. " ]

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[ "What is the best way to find a cheap flight? Am poor millennial, just trying to fly home to visit family a couple times a year. Thanks!", "What is the best way to find a cheap flight? Am poor millennial, just trying to fly home to visit family a couple times a year. Thanks!", "What is the best way to find a cheap flight? Am poor millennial, just trying to fly home to visit family a couple times a year. Thanks!", "What is the best way to find a cheap flight? Am poor millennial, just trying to fly home to visit family a couple times a year. Thanks!", "What is the best way to find a cheap flight? Am poor millennial, just trying to fly home to visit family a couple times a year. Thanks!", "What is the best way to find a cheap flight? Am poor millennial, just trying to fly home to visit family a couple times a year. Thanks!" ]

[ "Dress warm and pack yourself in a small crate with an oxygen tank. Have someone FedEx you to your destination.", "[Matrix ITA](https://matrix.itasoftware.com/)\n\nUse the “nearby airports” option and flexible dates to maximize your savings. \n\nNote: This site merely tells you what’s available. Then you have to check Kayak, Priceline, Expedia, Google Flights, etc to try to find the listing. \n\nBest times to buy can vary, though usually 2 months out is a good time to buy. ", "Oddly enough Expedia/Travelocity don't save you any money compared to the airline's website.\n\nBasically try multiple airports for both departure and arrival. Smaller airports often have cheaper flights.", "Kayak.com\n\nBut there are certain airlines which aren't on there. Southwest I think is one of them, but it's a pretty good site for cheap deals.\n\nIf you are not in a huge hurry, megabus is really cheap, but takes a lot longer than flying. Still pretty nice though.", "Go to a flight agency. Airlines give them discounts and they really do try to give you the best deal. You can even try looking at the rates beforehand then go to the agency so you don't feel cheated. If you do keep going to the same agent for future flights. I booked a flight a few months ago, and we couldn't find the day and time with the airline I wanted. So I settled with another airline, agent calls me next day telling me that after looking more into it she found the flight I wanted. Actually saved money and used that money to add another suitcase. ", "Generally speaking, fare sales usually happen in Tuesday or Wednesday. And the lowest fare isn't always cheapest in the long run - especially if the airline charges you for a seat, to check bags, and whatever else. I know Southwest doesn't charge for those things, but I don't know what other airlines don't charge." ]

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[ "How to communicate and approach people at networking events. Example, A CEO of a company just gave a talk and I want to approach him to connect with him. What do I say and talk about? Walk me through it, experienced networkers.", "How to communicate and approach people at networking events. Example, A CEO of a company just gave a talk and I want to approach him to connect with him. What do I say and talk about? Walk me through it, experienced networkers." ]

[ "Basically, it's like talking to anyone else that you've never met before. I've seen quite a few plays and, on occasion, I would approach an actor that I think did a good job and let him/her know that. Also many times after local bands will play, etc.\n\nMost of all: be genuine. speak clearly.\n\nIntroduce yourself (name and job title if applicable to the situation). Shake hands. Tell him/her that you enjoyed the talk (if you did). Give an example if you can (they might ask you so have one ready). Ask questions about it (if you have any). Listen for/to the responses (surprising how many people forget this when they are nervous). Respond. Etc. Say, thank you for your time.\n\nOf course, all of this is different for each situation, so mostly just wing it. You get better at it as you do it more. Try practicing approaching local musicians after a show or during a break. They really appreciate compliments and most of them are down-to-earth good people, making it easier to approach them. But choose something that you genuinely liked about their playing, etc.\n\nGood luck.", "1) Get a mutual friend or acquaintance to introduce you. If you don't have any mutual friends, make one (time-permitting). Or if you have relevant credentials (ie. president of entrepreneurship club at school, etc.), you could use that (see #3). Lastly, you could use some mutual interest as an icebreaker. \n\n2) Bring them something of value, and offer more later. Odds are, they don't care who you are, and don't want/have time to talk to you. If you show them that you can help them with a problem that they have, that's something that you can follow up on, and it justifies getting their contact info.\n\n3) In some cases, asking them for help is an effective strategy. It depends on the type of person you're dealing with and how meaningful their help can be (many successful people like to give back).\n\nGo get it." ]

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[ "Things to know after a car accident that isn't your fault, AFTER you've gathered all their information I got rear ended while sitting at a light recently. My car is one of a kind and Ive put 9 years of work into it. Ive already gathered everyone's information and called my insurance company. This is my first accident and I dont know what to expect. What are some tips in maximizing the payout to repair my car that I REALLY dont want to give up.\nThe insurance company is sending me letters in my email about transferring ownership of my car to them and I dont know what that means either. I just need help. That car is one of the most important things in my life...\nAlso, googling this question only brings up results from insurance companies and lawyers. Both of which are too biased to trust.", "Things to know after a car accident that isn't your fault, AFTER you've gathered all their information I got rear ended while sitting at a light recently. My car is one of a kind and Ive put 9 years of work into it. Ive already gathered everyone's information and called my insurance company. This is my first accident and I dont know what to expect. What are some tips in maximizing the payout to repair my car that I REALLY dont want to give up.\nThe insurance company is sending me letters in my email about transferring ownership of my car to them and I dont know what that means either. I just need help. That car is one of the most important things in my life...\nAlso, googling this question only brings up results from insurance companies and lawyers. Both of which are too biased to trust.", "Things to know after a car accident that isn't your fault, AFTER you've gathered all their information I got rear ended while sitting at a light recently. My car is one of a kind and Ive put 9 years of work into it. Ive already gathered everyone's information and called my insurance company. This is my first accident and I dont know what to expect. What are some tips in maximizing the payout to repair my car that I REALLY dont want to give up.\nThe insurance company is sending me letters in my email about transferring ownership of my car to them and I dont know what that means either. I just need help. That car is one of the most important things in my life...\nAlso, googling this question only brings up results from insurance companies and lawyers. Both of which are too biased to trust." ]

[ "Don’t transfer ownership to them. They are trying to “total” your car. That means they’re saying it’s a “total loss”, that repairs will cost more than the value of the car. \n\nDo your best to find sources of the true value of the car before it was damaged. Keep copies of any supporting documents. Don’t accept the insurance company’s first offer of a payout. Prove your car’s value, and hold out until you get a fair settlement. \n\nThis could take months. This could take a year. Be patient. They can’t keep the claim open forever, and they can’t force you to take an unfair settlement. If they send you a check, unless you agree to it being the FULL amount, don’t cash or deposit it! Read the fine print!", "This isn't going to be what you want to hear but \"one of a kind\" does not equal value when talking about standard car insurance. If the car was a collector you should have had collector plates and secondary collectors insurance. Otherwise if this is just about custom paint and body kits etc then you're out of luck and it's going to be insured for the value of whatever the stock version of that car is worth for that year. This isn't an issue of you understanding how to navigate your current insurance situation or whether you should get a lawyer. You can't afford a better lawyer with more time than your insurance company can. It's about knowing how to buy the right insurance going forward and what is and is not insurable. \n\nThink about it like this. You can put a hot pink toilet in your bathroom. And you can love it. But it's not going to add value to your home when you want to sell it.", "What age /model is your car?\nDid you declare the modifications? \nHow much is it worth?\nWhat would it realistically cost to replace?" ]

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[ "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. ", "How to deal with being sick with no one around. I will start college this fall and was wondering what to do with no mom to care for me. " ]

[ "It sucks, and there's really nothing you can do to make it better. I act like a baby every time I get sick, and I've been living alone for close to 5 years.\n\nThat being said, there are some things you can do to make it a little easier on yourself. Stock up on \"I'm sick\" essentials, such as nice tissues, vicks vaporub, cans of soup, tea, some generic cold medicine, etc. I find that having those things on hand makes it a little easier to deal with being sick, since I don't have to get up and go to the store. When you feel better, re-stock your supplies, and hope you don't need them for a while!", "Welcome to adulthood!\n\nYou deal. You make friends who care and check on you, but by and large you just deal.", "Make a \"Sick box\" Fill it with cough drops, aspirin, heating pad, tissue, cough syrup, etc. Some cans of soup, juice boxes. Things that are not perishable (or have a long expiration date), can fit in a box that you put under your bed, in the closet, whatever. This way, when something happens, such as the flu, you at least have the basics. Every 3 months or so, check expiration dates and use/replace the things close to expiring (such as the juice boxes).", "Just be prepared for the lack of sympathy from people that you are accountable to. You have a cold? Doesn't matter. Do your work. \n\nDo what you can to stay healthy. Wash your hands (!), drink plenty of fluid, get plenty of rest, mind your alcohol intake when you know you have a lot to do the next day, control your diet, etc. Be an adult, and take responsibility for your health because no one else will.\n\nAlso, make sure you're stocked up on over the counter medications that will help with symptom management when you're feeling like shit, i.e. cold meds, ibuprofen, pepto bismol, etc. ", "Oddly enough, the first time I was sick and alone, I had sense of pride buying my own cold/flu medication and coughing my lungs out with little more than the warmth of an internet connection to keep me company. It felt like a rite of passage.", "As a person who is constantly sick, and I seriously need someone to look after me (I go from fine to, and I'm not joking, almost dead very quickly). You should stock up on everything you usually need. If you only ever get a cough, buy a ton of cough meds and keep them spread around your dorm. If you only ever get a runny nose, buy a ton of tissue.\n\nI'll put it this way. Have you ever had a roommate that sucked. Let's say they left the dishes to \"soak\" for like 2 days and the sink is now full of floating \"bits\" that are unidentifiable and the water is freezing. If you ever just reached in and unplugged the drain, you'll probably be fine. Sometimes you just have to get it over with. Similar vein. If you're sick and you need something (like a bucket emptied, or soup) it's better to just go slow but do it yourself. Just push through the icky or the gross or the \"I don't want to\" and get it over with. \n\nOnce I had the flu. My boyfriend at the time was in the army reserves. It was his two weeks per year time. Right after he left I started feeling sick. Ended up in bed, not eating for two weeks. I had the flu and no one to take care of me (I had moved 3 hours from family). I was completely alone. I quickly found a bucket and everything I would need right after throwing up the first time. Ended up camping out (with frequent trips to the bathroom) for the whole time. The point is, I've never been sicker in my life, and was completely alone, you will have people all around you to help (probably not very much). You'll be fine. ", "This is something that I have been dealing with a lot lately. I live alone and have been on health leave for a month. Lost 10 lbs because making food was too difficult. In this case \"deal with it\" was almost impossible. \n\nIn a moment of panic when I couldn't stop throwing up, I posted something on [TaskRabbit](https://www.taskrabbit.com/). It was a lifesaver. If you are unfamiliar with the site, it allows you to post tasks and name your price. If someone is interested, they will accept your task. I had someone bring me food and meds. However, I am sure you can post a task for someone to come and \"baby sit\" you for a few hours if you need. \n\nAdditionally, try and help your friends when they are sick. Pay it forward. If you bring them soup, they may be more likely to bring some for you when you need it. ", "Most colleges have free health centers. Also, when one person gets sick on your floor, everyone gets sick, so at least you'll have some sick buddies", "After the age of 14 my mom never took care of me when I was sick. She would tell me what medicine to take for my symptoms until I learned, but that was it. Grow the Fuck up. you get some soup, you get some meds, get some sleep, and drink plenty of water. ", "I agree with those who say you should have a \"sick kit\" on hand (comforting foods, plenty of tissues, basic medicines, etc.)\n\nAlong the same lines, have a plan for what you would do if things got bad. Find your nearest health clinic (there's usually one on campus) and figure out a way to get there if you can't walk (taxi, friend's car, etc.) Know where your health insurance card is (assuming you're in the US, you're probably still covered by your parents' insurance). While you're at it, check out the insurance company's website- often they'll have a help line staffed by nurses so you can call with questions (like \"Is it normal for an upset stomach to last this long?\" and \"Should I worry if my fever isn't going down after a few hours?\"). These are specifically to keep you from having to go to the doctor for something minor (so they save the insurance companies money), but in my experience they don't hesitate to tell you to go to the ER if they really think something is really wrong.\n\nKnow whether you have any allergies, especially drug allergies, and what, if any, medications you routinely take. In fact, if you're on any medication, snap a picture of the bottle or make a note of the actual name of the medication as well as the dosage. This is true even if the medication is something that's over-the-counter.\n\nKnow where your nearest pharmacy is. If you end up at the doctor they're likely to write a prescription for you, and they'll often call it in to the pharmacy if you tell them which one you use (that way you don't have to wait so long to pick it up). \n\nThis may all seem boring and easy, but even a cold can make it hard to focus, so it's much better to figure all of this out before you're sick then try to do it when you feel awful.\n\nOh, and call your mom. :) Let her know if you're not feeling well, and I'm sure she'll have some good advice. ", "Check in with your prof/ TA. You may need to get a note for missing classes. \n\n If you have a fever, do everyone a favor and stay home from class. You are probably contagious with some viral crap. \n\nMake sure you understand what you are taking for your illness, do not double up on Tylenol by taking multiple medications together.\n", "Soup and lemon/ginger /honey tea. Drink 3-5 pots of it a day when you're sick. Stay in bed, rest, get better. \n\nDon't work out, don't push yourself. Focus on getting better. Sometimes you will have to push yourself and study /work while you are sick. These days suck, use advil /Tylenol. ", "Keep all your medicines (Tylenol, guaufenesin, pseudophredine, Halls, etc) stuffed inside the top of a half-full Kleenex box, and take that box with you everywhere! ", "I know the stereotype is that men turn into babies once they get sick, but personally, I just want people to leave me alone when I'm sick. The last couple times I've been sick, my fiancée has wanted to do stuff for me, but... I'm an adult. I can do it myself. \n \nI'm not sure there's really any tip for this: when you're sick and you're on your own, you don't really have a choice. If you don't do what you have to do, it's not going to get done. So you're forced to do it yourself if you want to eat, get to the doctor, call in sick, etc. ", "Enjoy sick days while you got em. Once you work your first 40 with a fever of 100 you'll miss being able to take care of it.", "Honest answer? Alcohol.\n\nI don't get sick very often. Maybe once every couple of years. When I do, it's the absolute worst feeling. I drink. If you're feeling too crappy to carry on with your normal routine, then nursing beer or whatever your posion is, won't stand in your way - you weren't going to be doing productive stuff anyway.\n\nA light buzz when I'm ill is usually the difference between me waking up every 45 minutes because my nostrils just traded \"clogged' and \"unclogged\" roles and me at least taking care of a few loads of dishes and some laundry.", "Depends on what kind of sick. I tend to take care of myself. I live by myself. So, besides calling into work. I will let someone else know i'm home sick or i go stay with someone, in case of an emergency. As I have chronic asthma.", "Man up. Seriously, it's not like you're leaving civilization. You're starting college!\n\nIf you get sick, take care of yourself. If you need a little extra help, ask a friend to stop by.\n\nIf you're REALLY sick, go to see a doctor." ]

[ 22, 12, 10, 9, 6, 6, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "Get Ipod touch home button unstuck My home button is very hard to press down, and doesnt always work. I need help, please!", "Get Ipod touch home button unstuck My home button is very hard to press down, and doesnt always work. I need help, please!", "Get Ipod touch home button unstuck My home button is very hard to press down, and doesnt always work. I need help, please!", "Get Ipod touch home button unstuck My home button is very hard to press down, and doesnt always work. I need help, please!", "Get Ipod touch home button unstuck My home button is very hard to press down, and doesnt always work. I need help, please!", "Get Ipod touch home button unstuck My home button is very hard to press down, and doesnt always work. I need help, please!" ]

[ "You could take a qtip and a small amount of hydrogen peroxide and clean around/on the button. The trick is to not use too much, because you don't want it to soak into the ipod and destroy it. Just get the qtip damp and clean around the circle's edges (They're not edges, but you get the idea). This has worked for me pretty well.", "A good place to check for Apple repair stuff is ifixit.com. Here's [a guide I found](http://www.ifixit.com/Guide/Installing-iPod-Touch-4th-Generation-Home-Button/9828/1) that directly relates to your problem.", "One trick that worked for me was to connect it to the USB cable and push the 30 pin slightly upward, i.e. angle it up towards you if you're holding your iPod facing you. It makes a soft, but audible click and unsticks your home button.\n\n", "My home button on my iPhone 4 became like this after about a year, my solution was to go to Settings - General - Accessibility - Assistive touch - On. This gives you an on-screen touch home button...for me it's temporary until I can afford to take it to be repaired! If your phone is within its warranty period, definitely bring it back to get fixed.", "From an earlier post that might help: Open stock application (Stocks, Weather, Notes, etc.) hold sleep button until it asks you to slide to turn off. Hold down home button until it disappears. Hope it helps.", "Take it to an apple store and be very polite and tell them you need it. apple are willing to spend a little out of their huge bank accounts to keep their customers happy." ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to deal with customer service whose accent you can't understand. Hey, I've been in a situation where I had to contact Microsoft for product service and unfortunately the guy, whom they transferred me to, had an accent that was really hard to understand. I asked him to repeat multiple times what he was trying to say but for the sake of my life I had no idea what he was trying to say. I wanted to know if there is a polite way to ask to be transferred to someone whom I could understand better, without hurting the guy's esteem.", "How to deal with customer service whose accent you can't understand. Hey, I've been in a situation where I had to contact Microsoft for product service and unfortunately the guy, whom they transferred me to, had an accent that was really hard to understand. I asked him to repeat multiple times what he was trying to say but for the sake of my life I had no idea what he was trying to say. I wanted to know if there is a polite way to ask to be transferred to someone whom I could understand better, without hurting the guy's esteem.", "How to deal with customer service whose accent you can't understand. Hey, I've been in a situation where I had to contact Microsoft for product service and unfortunately the guy, whom they transferred me to, had an accent that was really hard to understand. I asked him to repeat multiple times what he was trying to say but for the sake of my life I had no idea what he was trying to say. I wanted to know if there is a polite way to ask to be transferred to someone whom I could understand better, without hurting the guy's esteem." ]

[ "Simply say to them, sorry i am having difficulties understanding you, please transfer me to another agent. repeat if necessary, if you feel awkward then say you have a hearing difficulty, that you know that they are trying their best to help, however you need someone with a very clear accent. this is not offensive as you are not being 'aggressive/ nor personal'. This is your time and resources, you cannot engage in resolving problems or finding out information if you cannot understand. i also believe if more of us do this companies will work harder to help train their staff better, i.e. accent coaching. ", "I was in a Burger King and had to translate for two people both of whom were speaking English.\n\nThe cashier had a very thick Mexican accent and the patron was fresh in from Ireland.", "Learn the NATO alphabet (eg. alpha, beta, charlie, delta, epsilon, etc.) *because CSRs are taught the NATO alphabet* and now you both can understand one another better. No more \"Vas dat [ssssfffsssss] as een fsan?\" You'll know when you hear them say what might sound like \"fsan\", they're saying \"Sam\" and that means \"S\". If you're spelling \"cat\" you don't even have to say \"C-as-in-Charlie, etc.\" you can just say \"Charlie Alpha Tango\".\n\nFind YouTube videos of people speaking different accents and see if you can pick out patterns. I've noticed a lot of CSRs are out of India, East Asia, and the Middle East (Possibly Pakistan?). Those areas have a lot of different accents throughout, but regionally there are similarities. I had to talk to French Canadians before and they were difficult to understand at first because I had never heard a French accent before but once I got used to the accent, it was easier to understand them.\n\nRegularly recap what the other person has said. If you heard or interpreted it wrong, they might be able to clear up any miscommunication if you restate it back to them. It's hard to tell if they're fluent in a language or reading a script, but it's generally easier for someone to understand a language than to speak it.\n\nCSR: Press dee bree button on dee wemote contror\n\nYou: So, I press the blue button on my remote, right?\n\nCSR:No, dee gree button\n\nYou: Green button, got it\n\nCSR: Correct" ]

[ 6, 4, 3 ]

[ "What steps can I take to prevent pilling in my apartment's washer/dryer? Moved into a new apartment, and my partner and I have noticed a LOT of pilling immediately, which was never a problem using other machines. We're fairly certain it's the dryer because the thing sounds like a wind turbine and there is no \"gentle\" setting, only different heat levels.\n\nHow can we prevent/reduce pilling and save our clothes?", "What steps can I take to prevent pilling in my apartment's washer/dryer? Moved into a new apartment, and my partner and I have noticed a LOT of pilling immediately, which was never a problem using other machines. We're fairly certain it's the dryer because the thing sounds like a wind turbine and there is no \"gentle\" setting, only different heat levels.\n\nHow can we prevent/reduce pilling and save our clothes?", "What steps can I take to prevent pilling in my apartment's washer/dryer? Moved into a new apartment, and my partner and I have noticed a LOT of pilling immediately, which was never a problem using other machines. We're fairly certain it's the dryer because the thing sounds like a wind turbine and there is no \"gentle\" setting, only different heat levels.\n\nHow can we prevent/reduce pilling and save our clothes?" ]

[ "Get a drying rack for delicates/sweaters and hang up shirts/dresses/pants in a closet or doorframe, wherever there’s airflow. Bonus - lower energy bill if you pay for that or less $ spent on dry cycles!", "It's nothing to do with the machine and everything to do with the fabric. Stay away from ACRYLIC. It's never good, even a small percent. Then try to stay away from rayon. Clothes look great when new , then are ruined upon the first wash. Turning clothes inside out helps with other fabrics, especially colors. Your best bet is to buy clothes with natural fiber ( and a bit of poly to save $ and wrinkles)...cotton, wool, linen, silk. You can't go wrong with natural fibers.", "Get your flashlight and stick your head in the dryer. Check the drum of the dryer for inverted vent holes (I always look a little crazy at the laundromat). Zippers and buttons getting caught, and yanked, damage the shape, which abrades your laundry.\n\nIf your clothes are victims of this, you can probably improve the shape of the vent hole. A dowel and a hammer? Maybe even just a Bic pen and a rock, lol. I'm sure there is an official way to do it. Probably works best if done while the drum is hot." ]

[ 4, 1, 1 ]

[ "Find out how your breath smells like without someone there. Sometimes I feel self conscious of my breath when I'm sitting in school doing work. I use mouth wash in the morning every now and then and brush my teeth twice a day. Can anyone help? Thank much!", "Find out how your breath smells like without someone there. Sometimes I feel self conscious of my breath when I'm sitting in school doing work. I use mouth wash in the morning every now and then and brush my teeth twice a day. Can anyone help? Thank much!", "Find out how your breath smells like without someone there. Sometimes I feel self conscious of my breath when I'm sitting in school doing work. I use mouth wash in the morning every now and then and brush my teeth twice a day. Can anyone help? Thank much!", "Find out how your breath smells like without someone there. Sometimes I feel self conscious of my breath when I'm sitting in school doing work. I use mouth wash in the morning every now and then and brush my teeth twice a day. Can anyone help? Thank much!", "Find out how your breath smells like without someone there. Sometimes I feel self conscious of my breath when I'm sitting in school doing work. I use mouth wash in the morning every now and then and brush my teeth twice a day. Can anyone help? Thank much!" ]

[ "Lick the back of your hand and wait for the spit to dry. This is what your breath smells like. \n\nAlso, flossing decreases halitosis. So if you're self conscious about bad breath, I'd suggest starting. ", "Not exactly the LPT you're looking for, but my dentist said scraping your tongue after you brush helps a lot with breath. ", "I find that brushing my teeth (and tongue) before bed makes the biggest difference in my breath the next day. ", "Take a metal spoon and scrape along the tongue (from as far back as you can without gagging). Smell that spoon once the saliva has dried. That's what your breath smells like.", "Also, use a mouthwash that is not alcohol-based. Alcohol causes your mouth to dry increasing the number of bacteria that can propagate there." ]

[ 15, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?", "How to train/reduce gag reflex. Not sex related for those who are curious. I just can't find any posts about this that AREN'T sex related, so I need a long-term solution. \n\n29M, this has been a problem since I was very young. My gag reflex is incredible sensitive. I can't brush my teeth without nearly throwing up, and I full-on throw up at least twice a week from brushing. Can't clean up after my dog without uncontrollably gagging. The mere thought of biting into a tomato makes me gag, watching someone drink raw eggs - the same. It's terrible.\n\nPicking up after my dog this morning was a bit too gnarly and I had to run to the bathroom and puke, even though I had a completely empty stomach. Just pure stomach acid and bile, burning my esophagus.\n\nI need a way to desensitize my gag reflex, does anyone know of one?" ]

[ "I read that humming while you brush your teeth helps. I try it when I start to feel a gag coming on, sometimes it helps. I think since I consciously am thinking about something else instead of “oh fuck gag,” that might have something to do with it", "You need lots and lots of experience. You have to face down the thought that you might make yourself puke and start to get accustomed with the discomfort. I remember dentist visits where a water drill would pool water at the back of my mouth near my esophagus. Eventually I learned to swallow the excess water. \n\nGetting over the mental hurdle is important if you are going to try and practice controlling the various muscles that manage the gag reflex. \n\nIf you’re interested in getting more pointers you should consult carnival sword swallowers or competitive hot dog speed eaters. But there does seem to be a wealth of knowledge on websites like Pornhub. \n\n", "I heard holding your left thumb (or was it your right?) in a tight fist makes it go away. I think i tried it out (in a nonsexual way) years ago and it worked", "It takes patience and practice. The gag reflex is supposed to be there to prevent choking. You can override this by practicing, slowly and cautiously, every day. \n\nAs your title says, it's training. Training your brain and your body to become desensitized.\n\nDenture wearers struggle with this a lot. Start by brushing your teeth and as much of your tongue as you can. Then do it again, and push yourself to brush a little more of your tongue. You'll probably gag a bit, but try to go a little more every morning and every night, every single time.\n\nIt ~~will~~ should get easier over time.\n\nGood luck!", "It's a mental thing. Distract yourself. For me, I brush my entire tongue every time I brush but if I don't distract myself then I'll vomit. I usually brush my teeth in the shower and focus on the water. ", "It's a matter of concentration. You have to concentrate on something other than the thought of gagging. Relaxing those gagging muscles is key. Concentrate on something you find relaxing, while blocking any thoughts about gagging.", "I've never tried the first 2, but here are some things that might help.\n\n1. Holding ice in your hand while your brush\n2. Putting a tiny bit of salt on the tip of your tongue\n3. If you're sitting down, lift your legs up and hold them out in front of you\n\nI have no idea if they work (except the legs one, it does), but I found them on a dental site trying to help a patient through an x-ray.", "I wouldn't know because I don't have a gag reflex unless the dick is deep in my throat at which point I focus on breathing out of my nose", "I hear the way sword swallowers train their gag reflex is with a wire coat hanger. I imagine there'll be tons of bile along the way, but researching that process may be a step in the right direction. " ]

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[ "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?", "How to avoid getting stuck with all the work in group projects I have five classes this semester and all of them have many group projects (debates, lab reports, projects, etc) and every single time I've had to do 95% of the work, for every project, for every class. It's as if these kids are OK with not passing in their assignments and failing. I don't put their names on the projects if they don't help out, but they don't care.\n\nBeing that this is one of the hardest semester for my major, this is absolutely killing me. How do I avoid getting stuck doing all the work?" ]

[ "I refuse to believe that everyone you are grouped with is a soulless slacker. There is a decent chance that you may be the problem… because in one, two, three, four, five… 5 classes with multiple groups throughout the semester (I assume) and, somehow, EVERY SINGLE TIME you’re the person doing all of the work. What are the odds?\n\nAsk yourself: how do you end up in that position over and over again? Are you being too nice, i.e. taking on more than your fair share because you can't say \"no”? Are you too controlling and think that the only way it will be done correctly, is if you do it yourself? Are you too ambitious with the amount of responsibility that you take on and later resent your group-mates because they didn't volunteer to do more? \n\nThere is obviously a communication problem. But you can fix it. When a group project is assigned, stay after class and get everyones phone number, email, etc. You can start dividing the project into sections, then and there, or you can arrange to discuss it when everyone has an hour of free time that week. Divide and conquer. Volunteer to do portion X of the assignment. Ask who wants to do parts W,Y, and Z. Make sure everyone is on the same page. Everyone knows what they need to do and what everyone else is doing. Set up a regular time to check in on progress. \n\nMeet with your group after class or before class, you may have to meet with them on evenings or weekends, just set it up so everyone can be there (even if it is in an online chat room). \n\nCollaborate on a timeline and set up dates for parts and drafts. When everyone looks things over they can contribute their thoughts and help out if something seems weak. Google Docs is pretty good for things like that, it’s one place where everyone has access and can contribute what they’ve done so far. When everything is in place, it’s pretty easy to see what needs more work or that the person responsible for part Z needs to get their shit together. \n\nA rough draft is better than nothing at all. Things can be tweaked and polished, you’ll at least have something to flesh out should the need arise. \n\nEven if one person completely drops the ball, it’s easier for the other people in the group to jump in and help out when everything is available in a Dropbox or Google Doc. You might be stuck with and extra 33% of 1/4th of a project but at least the other group members will be helping with the remaining 66%. \n\nIf your plate is already too full, be upfront and say so. Say that you can help out but you won't be able to do it on your own. Maybe you can't do it at all. There is no shame in that. Suggest a workaround if you see one. Propose an alternate plan. Ask for help. Whatever it takes. Most importantly, don't get stuck. In group projects, the tiniest obstacle can grow into a momentum-killing monster that derails everything. Focus on what CAN be done and do your best. \n\nDon’t be a pushover, don’t be controlling, don’t put your group-mates down, and certainly don’t shut them out. Start working on portions of the assignment well before the due date so that it doesn’t seem like an overwhelming endeavor. Talk with one another and take things one step at a time. \n\nIt’s incredibly important that you LEARN how to work with others effectively. So use this as an opportunity to develop those skills.\n\n", "Where were you when they were distributing testicles? Stand up for yourself and tell people to do their share of the work.\n\nIf they don't want to, tell your professor it wasn't much of a group work as it was your work", "I always found the stuff I was good at and did that. I let everyone else do their strength. Sounds like you have shit group members. Maybe dont pick shit group members. ", "Watch your classmates and see which ones seem to be stuck in the same situation whenever you do a class project. Then team up with them on the next one.", "This happened to me a lot this year too. I don't know what's worse, people who do nothing or, having to spend hours redoing others crappy work. I secured a very good job for after my masters so my grades don't even matter I still want the best results. Sadly some people just don't give a fuck. It's enraging.", "No offence, but you are the problem in this. \n\nYou are taking the leadership role in each group project. No one wants to take the leadership role. The problem isn't that you are taking the leadership role - that's actually a great thing - it's that you actually suck at the position. So it's okay to do all of the work, have someone else put all of your work onto a powerpoint, and maybe have the other guy do the intro and conclusion. At the end of the day, you did the bulk of the content. You are at fault for this because you took the leadership role and sucked at it. \n\nMeeting #1 should ALWAYS be the \"Let's cut to the chase\" meeting. First and foremost, as a team you should find a time each week that mutually works for everyone to meet up. Secondly, skip the whole strengths and weaknesses bullshit. We're grown-ups at this point in our lives. We all know how to conduct research and educate ourselves on a topic. If the only strength someone claims they have is putting content onto powerpoint - they are fucking lazy. That's all. Lastly, if you're always taking the leadership role, you need the balls to say, \"if anyone chooses to half-ass the work, I am okay with informing the professor and receiving a higher grade.\" \n\nMeeting #2 should be a week after, and everyone should come with research done on the topic. I'm not talking create a Google Doc and everyone adds to it. That does not work. Get everyone to come with research done on the topic, with hand written notes. Hand written notes only. Even if they are copying and pasting paragraphs, at least they are genuinely learning the shit my writing it down. Once you do this, have everyone take turns presenting their research on the topic in front of everyone. Immediately, you will see who did and who did not do sufficient work. Lastly, to those that did not do the research to a university level - confront them in front of the group. Tell them that it was insufficient, and that you are already hesitant toward their contribution to the group. \n\nMeeting #3 is when you have now all become relatively informed on the topic - as a team, you have a basis of knowledge. This is the point where you divide the report, presentation etc up into the different parts of content. For example, if you have done research why organic food is not good for society, you can divide the work into political, social and economic reasons why it is not good. From here, divide the specific portions up between teammates and repeat what was done for Meeting #2. \n\nAfter being roughly three weeks into a team project, you are now aware of who has and who has not put in any effort. From here, you can start dividing up the work on who is making slides, who is creating the bibliography etc etc (the small things that everyone is expected to have strengths in).\n\nI could go on and give more tips, but I find this works effectively and is applicable to every group project. \n\nSo please, stop being bitter, and learn that the only way you are going to avoid doing all of the work is by actually being a better leader - a position you happen to take initiative toward. ", "Ok, there are a couple of good comments on here, but I see them missing some key if/then points. \n \n* if you choose the group members, then choose people with quality standards similar to yours (see idamn", "My time to shine! \n\nIn college I took an English class and as a group project we had to create this huge presentation about some topic. \n\nI was pretty busy with my schedule, 20 cr", "You don't ever HAVE to do all the work. If they're social loafers (sounds funny but it's a real psychological term) but your grade depends on getting work done, just be a boss and tell them you're not going to put up with their shit and you'll do the work it takes for YOU to get a good grade. Any problems, contact the boss/teacher/prof right away. You control your own destiny, young grasshoppah. ", "Well, that depends on the professor. Some might tell you to just do your half and the other parts won't get done. See if you can try that.", "This probably won't work for you, but I'll mention it just in case. In college for me, I had a group of four people (me and three others). We intentionally took several classes together, and we each took responsibility for one of the class's group projects. That's not to say we didn't contribute to the others, but we know, \"Starsy is responsible for the 2340 project. Ysrats is responsible for the 2110 project.\"\n\nMore generally, find a group of people that you actually work well with, and coordinate to at least have one or two in your future classes as well.", "One class I took, the professor required a list of what each student was responsible for, and would grade both individually and overall. ", "Lots of experience here, 'finishing as a tqm ids next year' there are always slackers. The first time you meet your group have everyone text you their number, them send them a groupme or slack invite, have them fill out their profile and have every person post their contract info in you're channel.\n\n\nImmediately ask the professor if it's okay if you use this chat channel as a reference for the grade, some professors may even be interested in joining it 'rather rare' to learn themselves what it's like. It's okay to ask under the guise of needing feedback. Even if the professor says no let the group know you're thinking of giving the professor the history for some advice on how to manage in the future. \n\nIf people think for a second that the person handing out the grades will see their input and communication in a group project, they will make time. If they don't, you have very solid proof,'logs' to dissociate grading scales.\n\nGood luck op.", "In my program must professors suggested that we made a plan of who was in charge of what, and having us give them our plan. If the chunk that was assigned to a certain person was missing then they received no cr", "I had to pretend that I didn't know everything because at university my whole class was asking me instead of the teacher. It worked out fine and I got my shit done. I still pretend I'm one of the best but I always make sure that nobody knows I am the best.\n\nLower your work ethic to about a passing grade and you'll probably lose some hitch hikers that want good grades =)\n\nMaybe just stand up for yourself it feels really great.", "I had groups where it seemed people did their fair share and I had groups where it seemed like I had to do most of the work. Contact your professor and request to change groups while explaining the situation. It might not get you anywhere, but at least the professor will be aware of what is going on.", "DELEGATE TASKS! If someone has something to say about their assigned task, pull your cock out and masterbate for dominance. Make sure to maintain eye contact and remember that you may have to defecate on the spot with some of the stronger willed folks." ]

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[ "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft.", "How to get the musty smell out of my room? Just moved into the place and the room is pretty damn clean as far as I can tell. There is still a faint musty smell though. What would be the best (relatively cheap) way to get rid of this? I've heard good things about Ozium. The room is ~10 ft x 10 ft." ]

[ "If you haven't tried it already, you'll be amazed at just how far baking soda will go. If you've got carpet, sprinkle it in then vacuum it out. Otherwise put some in some jars around the room with paper towels rubber banded over the mouth. Be a bit careful with hardwood. You can just sprinkle it on and then sweep or vacuum it up similarly to carpet, but if it gets wet or you miss some it can damage the finish.", "Beware of mold. It can be very dangerous. My boyfriend's condo had a musty smell that just wouldn't go away. \n\nTurned out to be a long term water leak inside the wall from an upstairs unit. Ended up having health consequences for both of us. We had to have the mold professionally removed.", "I personally use an ozone generator which is capable of creating very high levels of ozone. This pretty much neutralizes any odors caused by organic materials. \n\nBare bones generators can be found for well under $100 and can be used repetitively for years to freshen up rooms, cars, etc.\n\nPlease do your research before using this method though as ozone is very hazardous to your health and requires ample time to break down into safe levels again.", "Your idea of clean might not be cutting it(no offence) assuming you already vacuumed. Try washing your carpet. Already did? How about another wash with a stronger cleaning product(preferably anti bacterial) Wiped the walls and the ceiling? But did you clean the vents? If there is any, did you check built in items(might be dead critters in ceiling fan/light system, cabinets, under or over the room or even inside the walls) Whatever it is, hope you can get rid of it. ", "We had a similar problem like that. First we had a company come in and clean the air vents in the central air system. Worked for a little while. Only when we changed the carpet and pad did the smell completely go away. ", "This is a very good sign of moulds or water issues.\n\nLook for yellow discolouration around windows or ceiling or anything that looks like rippling.\n\nLikely there is some wet drywall or subfloor in your room and there is a happy colony somewhere behind the drywall", "If you have a carpet in there steam clean it. Worked for me when I moved into a crappy college house.", "How about opening the windows for at least 15 minutes each day? Let the sun in and stuff. Sometimes humidity and mold accumulates because there's no proper ventilation.", "Essential oils are great at not only masking, but also removing smells! I add a few drops to a spray bottle diluted with water and mist around my house/carpet. Lavender, tea tree oil, citronella and lemongrass are all natural deodorizers and have anti-bacteria/anti-microbial properties. Tea tree is also proven to kill mold. ", "Clean as directed by other redditor, burn a good candle (like Yankee Candle) on a regular basis for 15-30 minutes or spray with a nice perfume/cologne a few times a day.", "Can you put your window on the 'night vent' to get some ventilation too? Any room gets musky without ventilation. ", "Anyone else getting [this thread](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/34l7vo/ma_postit_notes_left_in_apartment/) vibes?", "Another awesome tip is to go into a Walmart or hunting store and get the scent camo spray hunters use. When I moved in to my new house the owners had a cat that pissed every where, we sanitized it and sprayed this and you would never know. ", "1) Clean with bleach.\n\n2) Get a dehumidifier. This one is cheap, works well and is sitting on the shelf at Home Depot:\n\nhttp://www.homedepot.com/p/GE-30-Pint-Dehumidifier-ADEL30LR/203661853\n", "If you've never pulled up carpet before then now may be a good time. It's one of the most disgusting things in your home. \n\nWhat kind of room is 10x10 and carpeted? " ]

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[ "How to use your laundry machine to ensure your clothes don't wrinkle other than using fabric softeners and dryer sheets. I'm unsure if this is the correct subreddit, but I could use some help. I have one of those washing machines that has the cylinder in the middle that churns your clothes. My question is what the title states. **What steps do you take to ensure that your clothes are as wrinkle-free as possible?** I even by wrinkle-free clothes and they still come out bad. \n\nPurchasing a dryer is not an option. I'd like to not have to iron all my clothes anymore for them to look acceptable. I use Tide pods and the fabric sheets for the dryer. \n\nWould fabric softener help. Would temperature make a difference? Would adding another substance to the mix help? i.e. pellets that you put in the washer. Is there a step I'm missing in between transferring to the clothes to the dryer? \n\nAny help is welcomed. Thank you!", "How to use your laundry machine to ensure your clothes don't wrinkle other than using fabric softeners and dryer sheets. I'm unsure if this is the correct subreddit, but I could use some help. I have one of those washing machines that has the cylinder in the middle that churns your clothes. My question is what the title states. **What steps do you take to ensure that your clothes are as wrinkle-free as possible?** I even by wrinkle-free clothes and they still come out bad. \n\nPurchasing a dryer is not an option. I'd like to not have to iron all my clothes anymore for them to look acceptable. I use Tide pods and the fabric sheets for the dryer. \n\nWould fabric softener help. Would temperature make a difference? Would adding another substance to the mix help? i.e. pellets that you put in the washer. Is there a step I'm missing in between transferring to the clothes to the dryer? \n\nAny help is welcomed. Thank you!", "How to use your laundry machine to ensure your clothes don't wrinkle other than using fabric softeners and dryer sheets. I'm unsure if this is the correct subreddit, but I could use some help. I have one of those washing machines that has the cylinder in the middle that churns your clothes. My question is what the title states. **What steps do you take to ensure that your clothes are as wrinkle-free as possible?** I even by wrinkle-free clothes and they still come out bad. \n\nPurchasing a dryer is not an option. I'd like to not have to iron all my clothes anymore for them to look acceptable. I use Tide pods and the fabric sheets for the dryer. \n\nWould fabric softener help. Would temperature make a difference? Would adding another substance to the mix help? i.e. pellets that you put in the washer. Is there a step I'm missing in between transferring to the clothes to the dryer? \n\nAny help is welcomed. Thank you!", "How to use your laundry machine to ensure your clothes don't wrinkle other than using fabric softeners and dryer sheets. I'm unsure if this is the correct subreddit, but I could use some help. I have one of those washing machines that has the cylinder in the middle that churns your clothes. My question is what the title states. **What steps do you take to ensure that your clothes are as wrinkle-free as possible?** I even by wrinkle-free clothes and they still come out bad. \n\nPurchasing a dryer is not an option. I'd like to not have to iron all my clothes anymore for them to look acceptable. I use Tide pods and the fabric sheets for the dryer. \n\nWould fabric softener help. Would temperature make a difference? Would adding another substance to the mix help? i.e. pellets that you put in the washer. Is there a step I'm missing in between transferring to the clothes to the dryer? \n\nAny help is welcomed. Thank you!" ]

[ "Making sure that you're not over-filling the dryer and making sure you promptly hang them up once the cycle is over should help? As far as I know, dryer sheets and fabric softener only prevent static electricity build up and the smell.", "This is confusing, as you say that purchasing a dryer is not an option, but then you ask if there's a step you're missing in between transferring clothes to the dryer.\n\nHere's hoping you have a dryer.\n\nFirst, read the [laundry basics] (https://www.mamaslaundrytalk.com/laundry-basics-size-of-loads-and-starting-the-washer/) and then - to me - it comes down to how you dry your clothes.\n\nI'm an unusual chick, I'm not interested in fashion so much, and I sure as shit don't iron anything (but I'm not wearing button down shirts, and you may be). You might need to take a pic of the dials on your dryer and post here so we can be sure. My dryer has the timed one, you set it for however many minutes to dry, which is great - but it just runs hot air until the buzzer goes off. Which leads to wrinkles.\n\nMy (25 year old) dryer also has a More dry/less dry setting. The best part of that is that I toss everything in, set it to more dry and off it goes. When the dryer stops detecting moisture in the air, it goes through a cool down period, it's still tumbling, but it's got cool air flowing now, which is cooling the, now dry, clothes down. it then switches to tumbling with no air for another fifteen minutes. By the time the final buzzer goes off and it turns off, the clothes are cool and wrinkle free.\n\nI still have to get to it quickly to hang stuff up, but my dryer is how I keep my clothes wrinkle free.\n\nCheck what kind of drying options you have available to you and act quickly to put things up.\n\nHope that helps! =)", "Don't over fill your washer or dryer.\n\nTry hang drying.\n\nFabric softener and dryer sheets cause build up which can screw your machine AND makes towels less absorbant - try other alternatives. I have dryer balls and while there's a bit of static, it's really not that bad.", "Better idea - I'm guessing you're a single man. \n\nJust take all of your clothes to the laundromat. Use the washer and driers there. You can wash and fold a weeks worth of clothes in an hour or so, and you won't have a bunch of wet clothes hanging around your apt/dwelling, and you'll probably live neater as a result. \n\nYes this is a bit more expensive, but the laundromat is BY FAR the most efficient way to launder your clothing. " ]

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[ "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n", "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n", "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n", "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n", "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n", "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n", "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n", "How to stop over-thinking things One thing that has been troubling me is my tendency to over-think or over-analyze things. When someone asks me to do something, I feel like they think I am stupid for constantly needing clarification, but I feel like they are not being specific enough. Once I was in doing a drill in badminton class, where you stand in the middle of a circle of pylons, and you have to lunge and reach for them in a random order. The instructor told me to get closer to the pylons, so I reached closer to the pylons with my hand. But then the instructor yelled at me for not having my **feet** closer to the pylons. My driving instructor also gets frustrated with me since I don't know exactly how much speed up/slow down/turn the steering wheel/reverse/move forward by.\n\nI am a logical thinker and an introvert, and I do programming, which might contribute to this due to the need to be extra specific when dealing with computers.\n\nI am trying to get better at things by watching other people and being less accurate when dealing with estimations. What can I do to help reduce this problem?\n\n" ]

[ "Instead of expecting parameters to be passed to you, revert to some defaults. Generate and refine those defaults with fuzzy logic.", "One of the things that helped me was understanding that *it is okay to fuck up* and to make my decisions based on the information that I have at hand.\n\nIf I have 60% of the information, ill make a choice and deal with the fall out later. Waiting until you have all the information only causes inaction, which is (often) far worse than doing the wrong thing.", "Gets better as you age ... my youth was like yours. As I've aged ...those large (at the time) issues and stresses have become diminished ... in a case like with your badminton coach ... later you realize the mistake was theirs .... they were simply not a good coach.\n\nFor me ... I never realized that I was smart ... the current me would ask \"you mean move racket or feet?\" \n\nA good coach would make it clear ....a bad coach blames the player or student", "Try nootropics. I suggest alpha brain from onnit. Also most cases of ocd are classified as repetitive thinking. Vitamin d3 in high doses has been shown to help with this. ", "There is always a disconnect between what you expect to happen and what will happen when you are learning something new. Just pure exposure and repetition is how we learn to do physical things. It's not like intellectual work where you might instantly 'get' things.\n\nIf you keep having these episodes, just say either out loud to the teacher, or just to yourself, \"If I already knew how to do this flawlessly, I wouldn't be taking this class\". ", "I'm the exact opposite of you, which brings its own problems with it but overall I think it's a better situation for me. There are two questions I always ask myself before assigning a level of priority to something, or, in other words, before determining how many shits I can give about something.\n\n1 - Will I still *remember* this in 1 (or 2, or 5, or 10) years? Whatever you do, be it farting in public, saying something awkward to your crush, missing the bus or failing an exam, you'll usually find that in one year (heck, even one month in most cases) you won't care about said incident anymore, and in many cases you won't even remember it. As another person said here, this also gets better as you age, because the novelty of screwing up wears off. You'll get more used to failing, simply because failing at something is an inevitable part of life which we all go through. The only difference is how we deal with it.\n\n2 - How will I prevent this from happening again? Instead of worrying about the consequences or the fall-out of a screw-up, you focus on the future, which you should always do. So, using the examples from above: someone will smell your fart and give you ugly looks, your crush will think you're a weirdo, you'll arrive at school/work 30 mins late, or you'll have to retake an exam. These things happen instantly or within the foreseeable future and you can't change them, so rethinking the situation over and over again is about as useful as trying to solve the mysteries of quantum physics by chewing bubble gum. Instead, take in the situation, assess what went wrong, and even without practice or giving it more thought, you're almost guaranteed to do better next time, however slight the improvement may be. Since you're a logical thinker and a programmer, you should be good at this. Personally I look at it as if it's a video game in which I just lost a boss fight, and where I will play better next time because I know his moves, will bring better equipment, etc. It becomes a fun exercise once you get used to it, because you'll find you can always improve on everything.\n\nLastly, a fair bit of *Schadenfreude* really helps too imo. This will sound pretty mean but it's effective - if you think you're ugly, just walk the streets and you'll see many people are uglier than you. No need to worry about your youthful looks. If you stress out about driving a car, know that near-blind people drive, people with very low intelligence levels, agressive people, alcoholics, very old and young people, etc. If they made it, why can't you? ", "Experience and the realization that it's not that bad if things go wrong.\n\nStart doing things without thinking so much about it. Sometimes, you'll make a mess, but, you'll realize that you can fix it. After you've done a few such fixed messes, you'll grow more confident in your abilities, and you'll feel more comfortable \"shooting from the hip\".\n\nOur youngest daughter had the same problem. She didn't like it when things happened without a plan, sometimes to the point of just freezing. But, by slowly pushing the boundaries, she's realized that the sky won't fall down if the dok pukes when she is dog-sitting and the toilet clogs from all the paper with dog puke on it. She can fix things, and she now knows it, and that has vastly increased her comfort zone.", "A good instructor or coach realizes there are all kinds of students. All about that instructor being more perceptive about what works for you.\n\nYou could try relaying that up front ...just say in private to the instructor . ...\"I usually get this stuff but I do better if I understand the objective rather than being shouted at\" ....or whatever the case may be for your learning method" ]

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[ "How can I mimic the sun in a windowless room? My bedroom only has 1 window which looks out into a small atrium between buildings. It get's almost no natural light and I have to keep the shade closed anyways since other apartment windows are so close. I hate waking up in the dark however, so I'm looking for a way to mimic sunshine in my room. Ideally gradually increasing with the real timing of the sunrise.\n\nAny ideas on how to bed do this?\n\nThanks!", "How can I mimic the sun in a windowless room? My bedroom only has 1 window which looks out into a small atrium between buildings. It get's almost no natural light and I have to keep the shade closed anyways since other apartment windows are so close. I hate waking up in the dark however, so I'm looking for a way to mimic sunshine in my room. Ideally gradually increasing with the real timing of the sunrise.\n\nAny ideas on how to bed do this?\n\nThanks!", "How can I mimic the sun in a windowless room? My bedroom only has 1 window which looks out into a small atrium between buildings. It get's almost no natural light and I have to keep the shade closed anyways since other apartment windows are so close. I hate waking up in the dark however, so I'm looking for a way to mimic sunshine in my room. Ideally gradually increasing with the real timing of the sunrise.\n\nAny ideas on how to bed do this?\n\nThanks!", "How can I mimic the sun in a windowless room? My bedroom only has 1 window which looks out into a small atrium between buildings. It get's almost no natural light and I have to keep the shade closed anyways since other apartment windows are so close. I hate waking up in the dark however, so I'm looking for a way to mimic sunshine in my room. Ideally gradually increasing with the real timing of the sunrise.\n\nAny ideas on how to bed do this?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "We use this alarm clock from Phillips and it simulates a sunrise for 30 minutes in the morning. We have it synced with another Phillips light on the other bedside table as well as the lights in our kitchen so the whole house lights up like a sunrise. It's helped us quite a bit, especially in the winter in Canada getting up early for work. Hope this helps! \n\nhttps://www.amazon.ca/Philips-HF3520-Wake-Up-Coloured-Simulation/dp/B0093162RM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1511724255&sr=8-1&keywords=philips+sunrise+alarm+clock", "Finland gets very little sunlight in the winter, so bright therapy lamps are popular here. You could try those.\n\nHere's a quick example of such a lamp: https://www.amazon.com/NatureBright-SunTouch-Light-Therapy-package/dp/B000W8Y7FY\n\nThere are also alarm clock models if you want it to turn on as you're waking up, here's an example: https://www.amazon.com/Philips-Wake-up-Simulation-HF3500-60/dp/B00F0W1RIW/", "Look up sunrise alarm clocks for people with SAD. You set the alarm time and they start a gradual sunrise about 30 mins before. ", "First get a light that you can add more light easily like a china ball. Hang it from the ceiling on the side of the room where the window is. Get a Y-socket so you can use 2 lightbulbs. Then get a another Y-socket adapter so you can use 3 lightbulbs or just go for broke and get one for 4. like Impact 4 Socket Fluorescent Adapter\nFor FF-S1 Fluorescent Fixture\nAccepts up to 4x 105Watt CFL Bulbs\nFor Total of up to 420Watt\n\nGet 4 big compact fluorescent bulbs like these\n5500kelvin daylight colored bulbs\nALZO CFL Photo Light Bulb 4-Pack (45Watt, 120V)\nALZO CFL Photo Light Bulb 4-Pack (85Watt, 120V)\nadd more bulbs until it is bright enough for you. \nIt does not solve your problem of adding more light automatically but it is such a bright light you will mentally be more happy. You can cover the china ball with more white fabric on the outside to diffuse it more but leave the hole at the top for the heat to go up." ]

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[ "Failing College Math This is my first time ever posting on Reddit. I am a first year freshman in college and I'm taking Algebra 2 / Trig. I failed all the quizzes and the midterm and the chance of me passing is kinda out of the question now. It is mostly my fault, i didn't do my H.W more than once a week, I had the bright idea of taking the class at 7AM and couldn't focus at all. My professor was also a little intimidating (like most math teachers) and i never had the courage to ask a lot of questions. What do i do now? What happens if a fail a college class? I'm kinda hopeless; I also didn't tell my family either. In high school i was a mid 80's student in math. I never had any trouble learning it. But college hit me like a brick and I cant find the time to manage all classes at once. ", "Failing College Math This is my first time ever posting on Reddit. I am a first year freshman in college and I'm taking Algebra 2 / Trig. I failed all the quizzes and the midterm and the chance of me passing is kinda out of the question now. It is mostly my fault, i didn't do my H.W more than once a week, I had the bright idea of taking the class at 7AM and couldn't focus at all. My professor was also a little intimidating (like most math teachers) and i never had the courage to ask a lot of questions. What do i do now? What happens if a fail a college class? I'm kinda hopeless; I also didn't tell my family either. In high school i was a mid 80's student in math. I never had any trouble learning it. But college hit me like a brick and I cant find the time to manage all classes at once. ", "Failing College Math This is my first time ever posting on Reddit. I am a first year freshman in college and I'm taking Algebra 2 / Trig. I failed all the quizzes and the midterm and the chance of me passing is kinda out of the question now. It is mostly my fault, i didn't do my H.W more than once a week, I had the bright idea of taking the class at 7AM and couldn't focus at all. My professor was also a little intimidating (like most math teachers) and i never had the courage to ask a lot of questions. What do i do now? What happens if a fail a college class? I'm kinda hopeless; I also didn't tell my family either. In high school i was a mid 80's student in math. I never had any trouble learning it. But college hit me like a brick and I cant find the time to manage all classes at once. ", "Failing College Math This is my first time ever posting on Reddit. I am a first year freshman in college and I'm taking Algebra 2 / Trig. I failed all the quizzes and the midterm and the chance of me passing is kinda out of the question now. It is mostly my fault, i didn't do my H.W more than once a week, I had the bright idea of taking the class at 7AM and couldn't focus at all. My professor was also a little intimidating (like most math teachers) and i never had the courage to ask a lot of questions. What do i do now? What happens if a fail a college class? I'm kinda hopeless; I also didn't tell my family either. In high school i was a mid 80's student in math. I never had any trouble learning it. But college hit me like a brick and I cant find the time to manage all classes at once. ", "Failing College Math This is my first time ever posting on Reddit. I am a first year freshman in college and I'm taking Algebra 2 / Trig. I failed all the quizzes and the midterm and the chance of me passing is kinda out of the question now. It is mostly my fault, i didn't do my H.W more than once a week, I had the bright idea of taking the class at 7AM and couldn't focus at all. My professor was also a little intimidating (like most math teachers) and i never had the courage to ask a lot of questions. What do i do now? What happens if a fail a college class? I'm kinda hopeless; I also didn't tell my family either. In high school i was a mid 80's student in math. I never had any trouble learning it. But college hit me like a brick and I cant find the time to manage all classes at once. ", "Failing College Math This is my first time ever posting on Reddit. I am a first year freshman in college and I'm taking Algebra 2 / Trig. I failed all the quizzes and the midterm and the chance of me passing is kinda out of the question now. It is mostly my fault, i didn't do my H.W more than once a week, I had the bright idea of taking the class at 7AM and couldn't focus at all. My professor was also a little intimidating (like most math teachers) and i never had the courage to ask a lot of questions. What do i do now? What happens if a fail a college class? I'm kinda hopeless; I also didn't tell my family either. In high school i was a mid 80's student in math. I never had any trouble learning it. But college hit me like a brick and I cant find the time to manage all classes at once. " ]

[ "Drop the class, do not fail it then retake it later. Having a W on your transcript is always nicer than having a D or F. If you believe that you'll fail it then having to take it again will not change, but your grade will. \n\nAs for the math, here's a tip (I have a post-graduate degree in the math and do mathy stuff for a living). I don't really know how math was taught to you, but generally speaking the way it's taught is pretty pitiful. With math, the best thing to do IMO is to avoid memorizing things as much as possible - this will come back and bite you in the ass. Try to sit down and really understand what each definition/theorem/axiom truly means. For your own edification, attempt deriving/proving theorems with known definitions and other theorems. If you can do that, then it doesn't really matter what the professor puts on the exam - you will be able to solve it. \n\nYou might wonder how this may be useful to you in the future, it probably won't be directly. However, what it will help with is help you develop a skillset that will help you solve seemingly complex problems in a systematic manner. Hope this helps! ", "Welcome, my second full day here, so... \n\nHave tutored math successfully in the past(for free though, so there's that) and I highly recommend Khan Academy videos for free. ", "See if you can drop the class, or take it pass/no pass instead of a letter grade. If you retake it after getting a no pass, you can replace the grade with whatever you got. \n\n\n\n\nI had a rough semester, and ended up doing that and getting a no pass, upon the recommendation of my grad student who told me that was the best option at that point. Took it the next semester with a better prof at a better hour with a more balanced classroom schedule, and I got an A. ", "Learn - not the math, but how to study. \n\nThe truth about college is that you're not really learning how to do a job - this isn't trade school. You're learning how to manage yourself and apply your base of knowledge to the task at hand. \n\nYou're learning how to get along in life, and not necessarily c^2 = a^2 + b^2. Those facts are important - to the end of passing your class. If you need the info later in life, you can remember or relearn it. It doesn't matter which. \n\n--- \n\nTake the class over next semester. If you simply don't get, get a tutor. Most universities have free tutoring. I'd bet a class like that has a graduate TA or Student assistant who is literally getting paid to help people from falling behind. But no one will help you if you don't help yourself as well.", "From self experience, grades I got in high school doesn't mean anything when you get to college. Sure, it gets you IN, but once you're in, you have to work to keep yourself in. \n\n\nCollege is more about managing your time and being able to study well and efficiently. I recommend retaking the class. If you can, I say withdraw. Check your school's policy on financial aid eligibility: most likely it will be that you are on probation for financial aid if you fail the class.\n\n\nTake classes when your brain works best: I function a lot better in the late morning/afternoon, so thats when I take classes.\n\n\nDo the homework not to understand HOW to do a singular problem but teach yourself concept. That will help a lot more than just knowing how to do one problem, because then you can solve other problems as well.\n\n\nIt seriously sucks to fail classes. It will drag you down if you don't fix your problems now. I'm currently in my 4th year of community college, trying to desperately raise my GPA so I can transfer to a CSU. I've done nearly everything from academic renewal to retaking classes. Things will get easier when you figure out what works for you. \n\n\nGood Luck OP. PM if you need more help.", "It's not that big of a deal to fail a class of two. Just take it again later. Your new grade will replace the old grade. \n\nGoing forward, learn how to take advantage of the services your college offers. You have academic advisors to help you make a schedule that works for you, your professor has office hours to ask for help and guidance, and the school provides math tutors. Make sure you speak up and advocate for yourself. If you can't take 7am classes tell the advisor. You don't need to do college alone. " ]

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[ "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] 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impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?", "Best new low effort, high reward habits to adopt Aside from the obvious/generic “eat better, go to the gym, get more sleep”, what are some of the small [specific] habits have you adopted that has had a great/disproportionally positive impact on your life?" ]

[ "Put things where they belong when you're done with them. Keys, wallet, glasses, phone, tools, everything. When I was a kid I was constantly losing stuff because I would just set it down wherever I was. Taught myself better in my late teens, and the amount of time and stress it has saved me is incalculable.", "Eat the frog. Which means:\n\nGet the most unpleasant task out of the way first.\n\nReally, really don’t want to do it? Takes more effort to avoid it and really builds up the dread of having to do it. \n\nThe relief of having done it makes everything else seem like a breeze.\n\nIs it low effort? Actually, yeah. It takes just as much effort to start a hard or unpleasant task as it takes to start an easy or enjoyable task.", "Drink at least 12oz of water as soon as you wake up. It is crazy how much of the groggy feeling is directly linked to being dehydrated. Feels like drinking a health potion in a video with how instantaneous it helps.", "Sneak in little bits of exercise. While the shower water is heating up, march in place. Reach down and touch your toes every time you get up from sitting. \n\nDo a tiny bit of a good habit. Drink a glass of water first thing in the morning. If you're walking in your house, pick up a couple of things on your way to put in the sink or the trash.", "Two minute habits. Want to read more? Commit to two minutes each day. Learn a language? Two minutes a day on Duo. Exercise? Just do two minutes. Journaling? Yoga? M", "Put myself first sometimes.\n\nMy wife gives me a hard time a little since I always put her and my 3 year old son first and don't take any time for my hobbies. I feel bad trying to do my own thing since my son is my mini me. My wife finally forced me to go do things I like and that it's healthy. You got to put yourself first sometimes. So now I make time every week to spend a couple hours doing what I like to do.", "Get regular medical and dental checkups. I finally went to the doctor after 5 years and was a diagnosed with a treatable condition that negatively affected my sleep. I was exhausted for so many years, which limited my productivity.", "Buy lettuce, wash and chop it right when you get home from the grocery. Then it's easier to make salad.", "(If you're the kind of person that puts dirty dishes in the sink for later) instead of checking your social media or distracting yourself in other ways while your coffee is brewing / kettle is boiling / pizza is reheating / something is finishing cooking - do the dishes you have in the sink. Even if there's time to do only one plate and a fork. \n\nNeglected dishes add up and the time needed to wash them grows exponentially for some reason.", "Cold showers. You have to shower anyway, so it doesn't even cost any extra time, in fact you save time and water because it's generally uncomfortable.\n\nAside from saving time and water, I feel better mentally for it. Like it's a small way to condition myself that it's okay to feel uncomfortable, and leads to me feeling like I have better control over my emotions during bad situations in the rest of my life.\n\nHot showers are a treat. Not scheduled like once a week or whatever, but I'll take a hot shower whenever I need it, like after a particularly stressful day. Since hot showers aren't a normal thing, doing that makes me feel much better for treating myself and does wonders mentally.\n\nHope I'm making sense.", "Clean your home windows, inside and out if you can. Something about clean windows and screens makes me happy. Also, have a clean car.", "set daily time limits on your distracting apps on your phone to prevent getting sucked into the Endless Scroll.", "Sleep hygiene. 10 minutes worth of research can tell you ways to improve your sleep dramatically such as wearing a sleep mask, eliminating any traces of light in your room, not using screens within 2 hours of bedtime, not doing things in bed other than sleep. \n\n\nI slept horribly most of my life. I put an emphasis on sleep and improved it over the course of years. Now, I fall alseep in minutes and sleep through the night. I rarely wake up groggy anymore.", "M", "Hang a whiteboard in the kitchen (or other high-traffic area) and list the random little things you need to remember to do, fix, buy, etc. It helps declutter your mind and feels great when you complete an item and get to “cross it off the list” by erasing it.", "Try to never walk empty handed in your house. If you are a bit unstructured or have kids there is always something that's out of place. When you leave a room, try to always take a quick look around to see if there is something that you can bring with you to where you are going. \n\nIt's a hard habit to establish but once you got it down it's really not that big of a chore and it makes a huge difference when stuff stops accumulating by the bed our by the TV. I hate \"cleaning days\". :)", "Install a 'pile of doom' in your room/house to keep it organised. \n\nCan't seem to keep your house organised? This is my go to tip: make a designated spot to put all the clutter laying around in your house. Your house will look organised, apart from the pile. When you feel like it, pick something from the pile of doom and place it on the spot where it actually belongs. Putting all your clutter in one spot will make it seem more doable to actually put the things where they belong instead of having clutter laying around your whole house.", "I think there's a few different versions of this in this thread already, but honestly, the biggest game changer for me was training myself to just do stuff straight away. \n\nEG: Washing up? Do as much as you can while you're cooking (so as you finish with say, the knife and cutting board just wash it up) as it's the same amount of effort whether you do it now or later, but with the added mental burden of knowing it has to be done later. \n\nSame with tidying, same with other chores, just get it out of the way. \n\nIn the long run things seem easier than they otherwise would. You retrain yourself to see these things as easy and painless rather than awful mountains to climb.", "I stopped making lists, and instead when I see something that needs to be done (assuming it's not a huge job) I just do it immediately. Imaginary to-do list shrank immediately.", "I always love the idea of m", "Wake up 15 minutes early and go for a walk out in the sun. You will feel better all day and it sets your circadian clock so that you will naturally feel sleepy when it is time to sleep. Screen lights won’t keep you up as much when you blast yourself with natural sunlight earlier in the day.", "Remove the word \"can't\" from your vocabulary. It's amazing how we limit ourselves without meaning to.\n\nHave faith in your ability to learn new things, and keep up the effort, even if it takes a while to see results. Remember that success comes after a series of failures, and it's really satisfying to master a new skill.\n\nAnd for the other times you would be tempted to say \"I can't\" , if you don't want to do something, be honest with yourself and others and just say you don't want to do whatever it is, or that you're not available.", "Floss your teeth. Use a Reach flosser or something similar if you find regular dental floss too hard to develop a habit.", "Anything in your life that produces more notifications than necessary you tend to learn to ignore, which has the consequence of missing things you didn't want to miss.\n\nAnything that can produce notifications should be pruned it as much as possible while keeping lower importance things. For example, email. You want to have filters set up in your email and unsuscribe everything you don't need so what lands in your inbox falls outside something expected or is intentionally not filtered.\n\nIf something notifies you over half the time for things that don't need your immediate attention, you haven't pruned and configured it enough.", "build up a habit of taking a leak whenever you have opportunity + even slight urge to pee - remember all those times \"i regred i did not pee before leaving last place\" moments- this can be avoided! :)", "Listen first , try to understand ... if you dont then ask questions to understand ... Then and then only respond ...", "Spend a few minutes a day, ideally right when you get home, tidying up your house or room. Dishes, sweeping, picking up, etc. Those few minutes a day are so much more manageable than spending a whole day catching up. It's especially helpful with kids in the house. 10-15 minutes a day and you never have to worry about the stress of trying to do it all at once.", "Use AirTags in critical wallets, jackets, suitcases, bags, and cars. Even if they don’t move, you’ll be able to confirm that against the last known time it was spotted. Towed where? Lost where? Stolen? Gotta confirm. \n\n\nSet ovens to “Cook time” instead of setting timers. Even when pre heating, you never intend to turn on the oven FOREVER. By setting a max time that can be reset after pre heat and cooking, you ensure the oven will turn off after a reasonable amount of time. If you forget, less danger.", "I struggle with depression. On my really bad days, where I can’t focus, I set a timer for five minutes and I have to focus on that task for five minutes. Afterwards, my obligation is complete, but sometimes I keep going. I’ll set my timer for another 5 minutes, and after 3-4 iterations, I’ll just stop setting the timer and work. \n\nIt’s particularly effective with cleaning. Don’t think, just do. Put the clothes up. Dust the windowsill. Whatever is close. It’s amazing how much you can accomplish when you stop worrying about being efficient", "Stretch everyday, even if it's only for a minute or two. Picture how cats stretch every time they get up, and take a lesson from them. It makes you feel better, it helps your posture, and can prevent injuries.", "Speaking as a new Mom, showering every day (or night) and getting dressed (out of pyjamas) makes a huge difference in my mood and productivity level.\n\nAlso most days I’ll take 5 minutes to put on some light makeup and brush/style my hair. It really boosts my confidence and makes me feel somewhat put together, which in turn makes me more motivated to leave the house to run errands or spend time outside.", "Put socks and underwear into delicates bags as you undress. When they’re half full, zip them up and toss in the hamper. They come out of the dryer sorted. Keep bags wherever dirty clothes pile up.", "Keep an agenda, write down what you need to do on that day and mark down when its down. Including chores! clean sink, wash clothes, go to gym etc. Also include habits you want to develop, like m", "Daily checklist. The app called Habitica is good for this. I have ADHD and I'm terrible at remembering basic things like washing my face and drinking water, but the checklist makes it so easy.", "start doing gratitude journalling, write down 3 things you are grateful for after you wake up. gratitude is like the scientific version of happiness, try it. google for more info \n\n\nm", "Save an equivalent amount if you spend something on non-essential items. For example if you want a new TV, put the same money it costs aside. If you have to save up money for something, save twice the amount so that you can put half aside. Even better if you invest it into your investment of choice.", "Progressive muscle relaxation of the back when it hurts or when a headache starts. Good way to prevent it from getting worse.\n\n​\n\nMany headaches start in the back muscles.\n\nWhile PMR is not the last step to removing a headache that's already set in (you need to massage the base of the skull and get some blood moving by scalp massage, too), it beats contorting yourself into unnatural shapes trying to massage out the place between your shoulderblades.", "M", "Implement a short skincare routine if you don't have one. It doesn't have to be complicated, a simple face wash, moisturizer, and sunscreen ( a must I'd say) will do! \n\nI recommend reading up about why wearing sunscreen is so important - shortly, 90% of skin aging ( ex. wrinkles and sun spots) is caused by UV radiation that can be prevented by simply applying I high SPF sun block ( I recommend 50+). Most importantly, please wear it to prevent skin cancer, it only takes a minute to apply it and it can really save someone's life. I like to think of it the same way we think of working out or eating healthy, it's another way of taking care of our body even if it's such a small step, yet beneficial in the long run.", "If you'd be horrified if a random stranger said something over the top critical about another person, don't say it to yourself.", "If you have a post covid career where you aren't forced to work almost as soon as you open your eyes, make it a habit to do chores early morning (also maybe listen to music while doing them).\n\nI have many responsibilities and chores to do but if I always start my day with \n\n- Do dishes \n- Do laundry (if basket is full)\n\nThen I don't have to think about them all day.\n\nSame goes for studying and working. I love to wake up early and finish everything required of me before anyone else is awake so whenever work meetings start, I only have those to focus on and whatever tasks come after them 🙏🏻", "I try to do a little m", "Get up early. Spend some time relaxing, enjoying your coffee, whatever, before you have to get ready.", "Declutter! Take away stuff that has no meaning or function. Once it (or a good amount) is gone, your head is going to feel so much lighter. A lot of stuff people tend to have have no direct function in their current lives and are only filling their houses (and heads). So much info about this since it is kind of trending at the moment.", "Cleaning/\"wiping\" the bathroom sink after every.single.use.\nI'm lazy and hate cleaning but since I've started I barely have to clean it anymore.", "Buy the smallest aquarium pump (with a usb charger) you can find, a lifestraw, and some plastic tubing. To pump water, all you gotta do is plug in the pump to an external battery, connect the tubing to it, the lifestraw to the other end, and screw your water bottle to the lifestraw. Press the power button on the battery and watch filtered water slowly leak into the bottle. All these components together are cheap, light, even smaller than most pumps, and the added benefit of not having to actually sit there and pump your water. Just watch your bottle fill up. I can provide links to the items on amazon if anyone is interested.", "Brush your teeth early in the evening if you are a late night snacker. You won’t be as tempted with a clean and minty mouth.", "Away, Not Down. Always making sure to put things back where they belong instead of just throwing them down", "Underwear lasts 4 days.\n\nNormal, inside out. Backwards, backwards and inside out.\n\nJust saved you 75% on powder, water and power for laundry.\n\nYour welcome" ]

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[ "how to not over-pack. I travel a lot, most often between school and home, and I'm a girl and have a big problem with packing way too much - mainly clothes. For example, my winter break home from university right now is 5 weeks long and I've worn basically the same maybe 8 outfits, yet I felt compelled when packing for break to bring about 20 outfits \"just in case.\" I had a similar issue (though not so intense) when I went on vacation last summer.\n\nHow do I get out of the whole \"But I might need FIVE pairs of jeans?\" mentality to make packing, travelling, and unpacking my stuff easier?", "how to not over-pack. I travel a lot, most often between school and home, and I'm a girl and have a big problem with packing way too much - mainly clothes. For example, my winter break home from university right now is 5 weeks long and I've worn basically the same maybe 8 outfits, yet I felt compelled when packing for break to bring about 20 outfits \"just in case.\" I had a similar issue (though not so intense) when I went on vacation last summer.\n\nHow do I get out of the whole \"But I might need FIVE pairs of jeans?\" mentality to make packing, travelling, and unpacking my stuff easier?", "how to not over-pack. I travel a lot, most often between school and home, and I'm a girl and have a big problem with packing way too much - mainly clothes. For example, my winter break home from university right now is 5 weeks long and I've worn basically the same maybe 8 outfits, yet I felt compelled when packing for break to bring about 20 outfits \"just in case.\" I had a similar issue (though not so intense) when I went on vacation last summer.\n\nHow do I get out of the whole \"But I might need FIVE pairs of jeans?\" mentality to make packing, travelling, and unpacking my stuff easier?", "how to not over-pack. I travel a lot, most often between school and home, and I'm a girl and have a big problem with packing way too much - mainly clothes. For example, my winter break home from university right now is 5 weeks long and I've worn basically the same maybe 8 outfits, yet I felt compelled when packing for break to bring about 20 outfits \"just in case.\" I had a similar issue (though not so intense) when I went on vacation last summer.\n\nHow do I get out of the whole \"But I might need FIVE pairs of jeans?\" mentality to make packing, travelling, and unpacking my stuff easier?" ]

[ "Here's a great tip I learned as a kid. When you get home, make a list of everything you packed. Then then mark a line through the items you did not use. Keep the list with your luggage, and the next time you pack leave out anything with a line through it.\n\nFor extremely light packing (e.g., for back-packing) divide the list into three categories: Things you used a frequently, things you used rarely, and things you didn't use at all, then on your next trip leave home anything you used rarely or not at all.\n\nAfter a while it becomes a habit and you don't need the list. Also, remember it's OK to wash clothes during your trip. S you don't need 35 pairs of socks for a 5-week trip, maybe seven or eight pairs for a regular trip, and two or three pairs for ultra-light packing.\n", "The tips here are really good, but what I've learned (with a similar \"I might need every outfit!\" attitude) is to lay out everything I want to pack on my bed. Then... get rid of half of it.\n\nYou may need to do that twice, but it's super helpful to be looking at 4 pairs of jeans and say, \"Do I really need all 4?\" vs. staring at your closet and saying, \"I need 4 out of these 12 pairs of jeans!\"\n\nThe bigger part of this battle is cleaning out your wardrobe at home on a regular basis. You only wear 20% of your wardrobe 80% of the time, anyway.", "I've just spend a couple of weeks in another country with just 8kg handluggage, not because I was travelling, just because I don't like having tons of shit to carry around. Especially when you're at your parents, you can wash your clothes easily. That means, even for five weeks, you only need a couple of shirts, sweaters etc. Underwear and socks can be reduced as well, you don't need 20 pairs of socks. Allow yourself one outfit for special occasions, one or two different ones for parties etc. and say three for everyday use. Important is that the outfits can be combined, so leave behind the clothes you can only wear in a certain combination, e.g. three or four jeans that fit with all your sweaters will do. For example, two dark ones, a lighter one and an old one that can get stained or whatever. \n\nAlso remember, especially when you're at home for the holidays, there most likely will be days where you don't even go out or have to dress up, so instead of the extra-outfits you'll never wear, bring maybe two sweatpants. \nRegarding your packing-mentality: a week before you leave, make a list with all the stuff you'd like to pack and then make cuts until it's only half as long. Then stick to it. \nAlso: michaelreddits comment seems really clever.\n\nFor cosmetics and showerstuff etc.: buy travelsized bottles, they don't particularly save money, but they are a big help in maximizing space in your suitcase. \n\n", "Instead of packing full outfits, try to pack stuff that can work interchangeably. For example, jeans work with a lot of different shirts, so you can pack 1 pair of jeans with a bunch of shirts.\n\nSince you're going home, use the washing machine. You're home, so it is free.\n\nBe honest with yourself how often the \"just in case\" actually came true. I used to be guilty of the whole \"bring 2 or 3 nice shirts in case we go to nicer restaurants\" on a week long trip. If we went to a nice restaurant at all, it usually only happened once and if we went again, I could reuse the shirt anyway." ]

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[ "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?", "Best advice for selling a car and buying another. I have an 08 Mustang that my wife and I want to sell, and we need to buy something for when we have a baby in the next couple years. I've not sold a car before, and it seems to me that trading it in is probably the least economical option. \n\nWho has experience and advice, what are the pitfalls to avoid?" ]

[ "Buying: this worked wonders for me on my last car purchase. \n\nGo into the dealership, pick out the car you want. Then tell the dealer that on a specific date and time (e.g. End of business, Friday) you're going to purchase a car. Tell them that you're going to all dealers in the area that sell this car and whoever gives you the best deal by end of business on Friday gets the deal. \n\nThey'll start lowering the price almost immediately, but they'll try every trick in the book to convince you that their price is fair. Just say, \"ok, that all sounds good. so is that the price you're offering? We're just going to go with the lowest price. \" If they get upset, just say \"look, it's not personal. We're just trying to keep as much of our money as possible.\"\n\nDon't tell them what the other dealers are offering. \n\nWhen I did this, I called the other dealers from the lobby of the one I ended up buying from. They called me every 15 minutes for the rest of the day with a lower price each time. \n\nHave fun!!", "Only take a check if it's from the buyer's bank that's financing the loan. This way, the bank has guaranteed that you will receive the money. Also determine what the minimum you'll want to get out of it, then make a goal amount for a little bit higher. Set the asking price about 5% higher than your goal, and expect to be talked down.\n\nOne of the biggest things for advertising online is to POST PICTURES! Take pictures from various angles and lighting configurations. Make sure that you take the time to use a real camera. Nothing's worse than seeing an ad for a $100,000 car with pictures taken with a potato.", "Selling privately is more work but more money. \n\nJust make sure you are careful. No personal checks unless the buyer is happy to wait for the check to clear before taking the car. \n\nPersonally I wouldn't even accept the bank's check as they can be forged. If you are going to accept the bank's check then phone the bank and give them the check details so they can confirm it is genuine.\n\nWhen buying there are negotiation techniques which depend on whether you are buying new or used. Which is it?", "Be prepared to walk away. Look for the guy who is the loudest and wants you to buy you will recognize him he will standout from the rest. after you have a chosen target spend several hours trying to get the best deal and if you are not happy simply walk out. 9/10 they will come to you with a better offer. somewhere in your negotiation ask to see how much the dealer bought the car for and offer to pay only several thousand over this price. the biggest one is if you dont feel good or you feel that this car ma be out of your price range after negotiations just walk away. ", "I've sold two cars in the past. First one was all cash, and the guy was short couple hundred bucks which he said he would pay me within a week. Never got that money and I just decided to let it go because that couple hundred bucks wasn't worth hunting down this person. \n\nMy second car, the guy paid me 90% in cash and other 10% was his paycheck from work. I let him leave with the car but I kept the title and told him he can have the title once his check clears. I also made a copy of his drivers license. The check cleared within couple days and he got his title. Both of us were happy. \n\nFor my second sale, I found a sample car sale contract online, made a few changes and had the other person read & sign it to prevent any hassles in the future. \n\nIf you're going to buy a used car privately, take it to a mechanic that you trust and ask him to do an inspection (it'll cost anywhere from $20-$100) before buying it. A good mechanic will find any problems with the car so you are aware of the problems before you purchase the car. ", "Go to a dealer TOWARDS the end of the month, like the last week. \n\nDealerships get bonuses from the car companies if they sell a certain amount of cars each month. When it's getting down to the wire, they will make deals where they actually break-even or even lose money on a car just to make that goal. \n\n[*This American Life* did an awesome story on this a few months ago called \"129 Cars\" and some of the people who came in on the last day got incredible deals](http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/513/129-cars). One guy sold his niece a car at cost and still had to pay $1200 to have the car shipped to Las Vegas (the dealership is on Long Island, NY). And for this dealership, the bonus was $500 per car sold ($64,500).\n\nSeeing that the OP has some time to decide, the best course to take would be to visit several dealerships (OP doesn't seem to have a specific family car in mind) and ask to speak to the sales manager. Ask him/her point blank if the dealership gets those that type of bonus. If so, explain about selling the Mustang and wanting a family car. Give him/her your name & number and to give you a call when they next get into \"crunch time\" and are making deals to hit that number. Stress that you aren't in a hurry to get this family car.\n\nOP can either do this while still selling the Mustang or after. Dealers offer what is known as \"auction price\" because the used cars then go onto their used lots and need to make a profit there. But when they are desperate to make the bonus number they have taken trade-ins for close to their actual value. Even if they don't, the deal on the new car might be worth more than whatever extra you could get selling the used one. ", "Listen, I learned a lot about what not to do when buying a car when I bought my first new car. The best piece of advice I can give you is this;\rEven if you're 100% positive that this is the car you want, don't ever, EVER let the dealer know you're interested in it, or else they won't haggle with you at all. The second they know your mind is made up, they know they can get however much out of you that they want.", "Know what your car is worth, you will have to negotiate so know what your strike price is. Always start higher.\n\nDetail the car thoroughly. Clean and shiny sells way more cars than \"runs good\". Clay rub and polish at a minimum.\n\nIf there are little things wrong...fix them. Something that's costs $10 to fix lowers the car value by hundreds. ", "Tough part is figuring out a reasonable price to sell it for. Check local online sites for prices in your area. \n\nIf you work for a large company a bulletin board is a great place to see prices and sell yours.\n\nRemember everybody expects to sell for 10 to 20 percent lower than asking price.\n\nI always believe in being totally honest about any weaknesses or shortcomings of the vehicle.\n\nMake sure it is very clean and in running condition. But unless it has an obvious defect, don't put any money into it.\n\nIt's always nice to buy a vehicle with new tires, brakes, battery, etc., but it's never worth it for you to invest in such things to sell it.\n\nGood luck! ", "If you're going to go for a brand new vehicle you should always ask to see the invoice of the car. That will tell you exactly how much the dealership paid for it. Then all you do is tell them, OK I want to pay $300 over invoice. Done and done. Of course you'll have to go through their game of the 4 square whee they tell you your payment will be X amount, how much you need to put down, etc.\n\nI went through the same thing but when he was explaining the 4 square I told the guy what I wanted. To put zero down, I want my interest rate to be less than 4% and my payments to be less than 450 a month then ask to see the invoice to make them an offer. If they don't want it, leave. \n\nWorked for me. Confidence is key. I bought a 2013 Tacoma for 26k last year. :D\n\nAs far as selling your current vehicle goes, you're gonna have to negotiate and sell high to end high. You'll get a lot of low ball offers but if someone calls you and tells you they are pre approved for a loan then you are golden. At that point is the banks money not theirs. Again confidence is key. ", "I bought my last car from CARMAX. Their sales people make a flat commission, so they have no incentive to up-sale you something you don't want. I bought my last car there, and will probably get my next one there, too.", "Selling - make sure to have the car detailed before you sell it\n\nBuying - make sure you have a licensed mechanic look at the car on a hoist, and drive it on the highway, as well as in stop-and-go traffic", "I'm not sure if taxes work like this in every state, but in NJ when you trade a car in, they take the full value of the car off the purchase price and you pay taxes on what remains. Then, afterwards they apply any money you may still owe. Our sales tax is 7%. So, if you're getting $10k on a trade, it'll also knock off $700 off of the sales tax. You'd need to sell your car for $10,700 privately to break even. Then, you just have to decide how much it is worth to try to sell privately with all of the bullshit.\n\nSo, get a quote for a trade in whether or not you plan to at the end. Have a good idea what you can expect on your trade, look at what cars similar to yours are listed for in your area and see if you can expect a better deal on your own. ", "I just did this! This was the third new car I purchased; I've always had a paid-off trade in. Whatever you get for your trade comes off the total price and drops your taxes; a down payment will not. The difference made up by the lower taxes makes my total trade value just about what I would have gotten if I did a private sale -- and I didn't have to deal with finding a buyer. \n\nIf you have decent cr", "Consumer reports has a lot of free advice in their automotive section. Their stuff will answer all the questions you have. ", "you can sell it privately and deal with the risks, theft, douchebags and shady payments. A friend of mine just took this route and ended up with a bad check as part of the payment, he's now in a lawsuit. I sold a car privately years ago and dealing with low bakers and joy riders was painful.\n\nTrade in or sell to a dealer, save yourself the anguish.", "Remember if you live in a state where there is sales tax by trading the car in you don't pay whatever portion of tax on the lessened value of the car. For example, if I was buying a 30000 dollar car and my trade in was worth 15000. If the dealership offers me 14000; sales tax is 6.5% where I live, the sales tax on a $30000 car is $1950, if I trade in my car for 14000, I'll save the tax on that. So total, if I sell the car on my own, I'll pay $31950 total and take in $15000 so my net payment is $16950. If I trade in for $14000 then I pay $16000 plus $1040 in taxes for a total of $17040 or less than $100 difference between selling it myself with much less hassle. \n\nAnother thing you should do if you're selling it on your own is have it professionally detailed. It will be ~~$50-$100~~ $2-300 but will be much easier sell/more desirable to buyers. \n\nTL;DR: do your numbers and get it detailed. \n\n" ]

[ 68, 32, 25, 14, 8, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]

[ "What is the best way to guess a persons age? a bartender told me people's eyes give them away frequently. what else works", "What is the best way to guess a persons age? a bartender told me people's eyes give them away frequently. what else works", "What is the best way to guess a persons age? a bartender told me people's eyes give them away frequently. what else works", "What is the best way to guess a persons age? a bartender told me people's eyes give them away frequently. what else works", "What is the best way to guess a persons age? a bartender told me people's eyes give them away frequently. what else works" ]

[ "Work at a liquor store, we go by their face. Typically you are just getting a range from this, it's hard to tell a 25 year old from a 20 year old just by looking. Carded a guy the other day who didn't look a day over 19, fucker was 31.", "This is one of those things where you just have to figure out on your own and no one else can teach you. Generally, it's up to an estimate based on experience with other people whose ages you know. Sometimes, there are extreme cases (i.e. people being way older/younger than they look), and there's nothing you can do.", "The backs of the hands. Look for spots. If they're not overweight, how much the tendons stick out is also a hint. ", "My mother told me you can easily guess a woman's age by looking at her skin, especially in the neck and back of hand region. Those are the parts that are hardest to maintain or keep young.\n\nFor dudes, I usually ask them which school they went to and what year. Just for a rough idea.", "I sometimes ask what Chinese zodiac sign they are (and show them the chart if they don't know). Because the system has a different animal for each year in a 12 year cycle, you will know what year they were born in because most people don't look 12 years older or younger than they are. " ]

[ 9, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to stop obsessing or get over someone? There is this guy I like but I'm obsessing over him, longing for a text from him, thinking about him all the time. Wondering what he's doing, why he doesn't want to talk to me etc. \n\nIt's come to the point where I get sad a lot and I don't want this anymore (it's always like this with every guy I like at some point). I wanna be more independent and care less whether I receive a message or not. I hate this, but he is a good friend of mine and we share a huge group of mutual friends. I don't want to distance myself from him but I don't want to be obsess over him either.\n\n\nI know it's not easy. But do you have some tips for me?", "how to stop obsessing or get over someone? There is this guy I like but I'm obsessing over him, longing for a text from him, thinking about him all the time. Wondering what he's doing, why he doesn't want to talk to me etc. \n\nIt's come to the point where I get sad a lot and I don't want this anymore (it's always like this with every guy I like at some point). I wanna be more independent and care less whether I receive a message or not. I hate this, but he is a good friend of mine and we share a huge group of mutual friends. I don't want to distance myself from him but I don't want to be obsess over him either.\n\n\nI know it's not easy. But do you have some tips for me?", "how to stop obsessing or get over someone? There is this guy I like but I'm obsessing over him, longing for a text from him, thinking about him all the time. Wondering what he's doing, why he doesn't want to talk to me etc. \n\nIt's come to the point where I get sad a lot and I don't want this anymore (it's always like this with every guy I like at some point). I wanna be more independent and care less whether I receive a message or not. I hate this, but he is a good friend of mine and we share a huge group of mutual friends. I don't want to distance myself from him but I don't want to be obsess over him either.\n\n\nI know it's not easy. But do you have some tips for me?", "how to stop obsessing or get over someone? There is this guy I like but I'm obsessing over him, longing for a text from him, thinking about him all the time. Wondering what he's doing, why he doesn't want to talk to me etc. \n\nIt's come to the point where I get sad a lot and I don't want this anymore (it's always like this with every guy I like at some point). I wanna be more independent and care less whether I receive a message or not. I hate this, but he is a good friend of mine and we share a huge group of mutual friends. I don't want to distance myself from him but I don't want to be obsess over him either.\n\n\nI know it's not easy. But do you have some tips for me?" ]

[ "quit facebook. \nhit the gym. \n. \nmaybe try telling the guy about how you feel. perhaps he's sitting there wondering just like you.", "Get a FWB, the more meaningless the better.\n\nThat may sound like shitty advice, but I got over a bad divorce this way. I was totally obsessed with getting back with my ex, finally gave up and went into a deep depression. Found a friend who was kind, understood what I was going through and wanted to jump my bones. We went ahead and did so a few times, and it got me right out of the depression.", "Figure out if you're projecting, and if you are, stop. It's easy to admit when you are honest with yourself.\n\nTell him how you truly feel. If he knows already and doesn't seem to care, you shouldn't either.\n\nThe reason you feel bad when not talking to him is probably because your mind is empty, as well as maybe your life (in terms of occupation). Do stuff, stuff that you care about. Stuff about you. Care about yourself.\nAs much as anybody could possibly want to spend a whole day talking to someone else, everybody's got stuff to do. Something. Anything. And if you absolutely have nothing to do your whole day, find something. Read, write, workout, run, get a job, study, find a hobby, go out, meet other people, learn something new..\n\nNo one should care more about you than yourself. And if you don't, why should anybody else?\n\nKnow there are other people in the world, and you are capable of caring about any of them at the same intensity just as anyone is equally capable of caring the same about you. As long as it happens naturally.", "I've been in a similar situation. \n\nI had this ex girlfriend that I couldn't get over. I still really liked her and we shared a lot of mutual friends since we used to go to class together for several years. I tried to show my interest by asking her out to activities with our mutual friends and also privately told her about the fact that I still wanted to get back together with her. Every time she told me that she was not ready for a relationship, but that she cared a lot about me and that I was her most valuable friend, so I figured I'd try to forget about what used to be and just be happy to have her as a friend.\n\nDespite saying that I was her most valuable friend she never asked me out to do stuff or tried to help me when I was feeling down, so I told her that if she means what she says then she'd have to prove it. She didn't, and so I cut the connections. I still see her every week at school and meet her occasionally on the bus together with our other friends, but I haven't talked to her or even locked eyes with her for almost 2 months.\n\nSince we still live close together and meet occasionally, I thought it'd be very hard to break loose, but it wasn't. Not hard at all actually, and I'm so pissed that I didn't do this earlier!\n\nYou might say that this is a very childish behaviour from my side, and it probably is, but I am much happier now than I've been in a long time! I used go to sleep thinking about her every night resulting in very much lost sleep, but now that I'm free from that I sleep much better and I'm not feeling left out.\n\nThis is just my experiences of a similar situation, and wether or not you take this into account when deciding for yourself is entirely up to you. I hope it turns out well and that you'll be happy without losing a once loved friend like I did.\n\nAlso, if you're reading this Sofie (which I'm sure you're not), fuck you and everything you stand for!" ]

[ 6, 5, 4, 2 ]

[ "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. ", "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. ", "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. ", "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. ", "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. ", "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. ", "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. ", "Improving ones memory Any techniques or exercises I can carry out daily to improve my memory or something? I find myself forgetting three digit numbers only moments after hearing them which is a pain... I'm ridiculously forgetful. " ]

[ "There are lots of great techniques (like [these](http://curiosity.discovery.com/topic/memory/10-ways-to-improve-memory4.htm)) to help you remember specific things, but if you want to train your brain to remember things better, you have to work daily on this effort. I've been using [Lumosity](http://www.lumosity.com) for the last few months for this reason. I'm not sure yet whether it's actually improving my memory, but at the very least it's a nice way to get your brain going in the morning and brush up on a few basic skills. \n\nThere are different games focused on various \"brain skills\" (memory, focus, spatial recognition, etc...) - I love the games that help you remember names and faces. Thus far [the only research about this](http://www.lumosity.com/the-science/research-on-lumosity) was sponsored by the company- hopefully others will dig into this interesting topic soon. Still, everything I've [read about brain plasticity](http://www.amazon.com/Brain-That-Changes-Itself-Frontiers/dp/0143113100/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1323212212&sr=8-1) suggests these kinds of activities do improve your thinking skills. \n\nI signed up for the 30 day free trial and set a calendar reminder to cancel it by the end of the trial, but after 15 days of using it I was hooked. I get to work and do this for the first half hour or so instead of obsessively checking Facebook and it wakes up my brain and makes me feel productive without having to do real work before the coffee kicks in. There's at least one other website doing the same kind of thing called [Posit Science](http://www.positscience.com/), but I haven't tried it.\n\nYou could get a similar result by playing free games that use your memory every day, like matching games, but I like that Lumosity training programs give you different games to play each day so you don't burn out. I just click \"Start Training\" and it will give me 5 games to play. I also like the ability to track my progress.\n\nIf you join, add me- I have the same screenname on there. :)\n\n</theyshouldpayme>", "Memory isn't so simple. There are lots of sorts of memory. Would probably need more details as to where you are having difficult.\n\nFor memorizing numbers short term you might want to look up chunking. There are plenty of techniques to work on this though.\n\nBest system for shorter numbers:\n\nAssign each digit a word or thing, one that rhymes with the number. Some people use an unchanging set of links. Other people use any words that rhyme. When you hear a number, convert it to words, picture each word, then picture the scene. I'll give a few examples. (Feel free to be silly, it generally helps you remember)\n\n9834\n\n9 - twine \n8 - weight \n3 - tree \n4 - store\n\nPicture a weight hanging from a tree out front of a store... or a store that sells tree paper weights made of twine. w/e floats your boat.\n\n\n22 - jew stew. (I'm not racist, but more stupid or crazy shit is easier to remember. I also just read a post referring to Hitler as a jewish chef)\n\nThis works well for remembering numbers longer term, but it takes a second. You can read books without using bookmarks in this fashion without any issues.\n\n>I'm ridiculously forgetful.\n\nThis could be seriously a ton of things without more info.", "when you are looking/reading/saying your cr", "Yes, but it requires a lot of work. It doesn't change overnight, and you should probably spend an hour or so every day doing mental exercises. I actually ended up buying one of those online memory improvement courses. I spent over an hour a day, up to five days a week for nearly four months - but it paid off, and it helps a lot while studying.\n\nThe basic principle is visualization and association. For example, associate all numbers (1-99) with a mental picture, and then build associations between your mental images to \"write\" them to memory. It works similarly for text, names, languages etc, and after a while you can start building \"databases\" of different information in your brain. ", "Not remembering 3 digit numbers, even after just a few seconds, is normal since people usually don't have very good short-term memory.\n\n\nNow I HIGHLY doubt this, but I remember that a long time ago someone told me that to memorize something, you have to study or review it at least 24 times. That sounds really stupid though, especially because there shouldn't be any constant number when talking about peoples' brains, but whatever. doesn't hurt to try", "I believe visualization is the best way to remember things. Reason: The brain retains images longer than anything else, even if that image is happening in your minds eye. \n\nExample:\n\"A rainbow sheep wearing aviator sunglasses dances over to a jet-black raven in a tree with an American flag tied around is neck. The raven is also wearing a pirate eyepatch and moans 'ARGGHH' as he polishes off his second bottle of Sam Adams. He says ' This be the second time that giant pony with Tourette's stole me booty, will you be my savior today?' The sheep suddenly shears himself naked, revealing his bulging muscles and responds 'Imma pack that bitch up'.\n\nWTF???\n\nI just taught you the previous eleven Super Bowl winners:\nRams, Ravens, Patriots, Buccaneers, Patriots (twice), Steelers, Colts, Giants, Steelers, Saints, Packers.\n\nThis is much easier than outright trying to remember these through rote memorization. Drawing a picture also helps.\n\n\"Moonwalking with Einstein\" is a book about a journalist who visited the US Memory Championships to do a piece, met some people, and eventually won it the following year. Highly recommended for your problem. Go read. Now.", "After reading something that you need to remember, if at any point in time that thing pops into your head, sit there and try for at least 30secs or more to remember it exactly. Even if you can't and have to go look it up, just thinking about it starts to put it into you long term memory.\n\n\nIf something you need to remember pops into your head and you go bleh i cbf thinking about that right now, your mind thinks you don't need to know that information and actively forgets it.", "I made a [post](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/mgm6a/lpt_more_efficient_studying_through_visualization/) with some tips a little while back. Practicing these all the time will help. " ]

[ 7, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? ", "what to ask/look for when buying/renting a new house/apartment. Me and my brother are looking at getting our own little spot but still unsure of what questions to ask or what to look for as well. \n\nOnly the basics come to mind; what happened to the people before, 1st and last month's rent, neighborhood... \n\nAny other tips besides the obvious? " ]

[ "Look at the cars in the neighborhood. \nSAABs and Volvos = Boring but safe. No loud parties.\n1990's Toyotas with bumper stickers = College age kids.\nTwo tone Buick on cinder blocks = Not a lot of money, may try to take yours.\n", "See what the neighborhood is like in the evenings. It could be a lot different than it is during the day.", "If the house / apt is not owned by some big company based in another city, always negotiate for a lower rent. As long as it is not a hot commodity area (like a downtown loft), you stand a good chance of getting the price to come down. They are losing potential income every month that it remains vacant.I was able to get $100 off of my $1000 rent apartment that is owned by a local couple who own around 10 apartment buildings. \n\nMake sure any late payment fees are clearly spelled out in the lease agreement. For example, many places don't consider you delinquent on rent until 5 days after the start of the month. Make sure you know EXACTLY when these fee penalties hit and how much they are.\n\nDon't ever underestimate the awesomeness of in-unit washer / dryer or w/d connections. \n\nAsk your friends about places that they have lived and what they liked or did not like. Can help give you a bettet idea of where to look. Also, get a place close to your friends. Saves money and people will be more down to hang out if you are close to them and not off somewhere that is a pain to get to. \n\n\n\n", "Turn on/off ALL faucets, switches and appliances. Run the hot water, see how hot it gets and how long that takes. Look in all of the closets and cupboards for mouse holes. ", "There's an interesting chapter in Freakonomics about realtors and how they behave differently when they are buying/selling a home for themselves. I forget the details but I remember thinking I should go back and read it again when I sell my house.\n\nOther than that, always pay for an inspector to check the electricity, plumbing and roof of the house before you buy.", "Pay attention to how thick the walls/floor are, if possible. SERIOUSLY. I live on the top floor of my building, and our floors are so thin, we can hear the people below us walking around. They listen to Celine Dion really late into the evening. Before they go in to their room and have...nighttime activities. EVERY NIGHT. For the love of all that is holy, listen to the activity around you!!!! If you can hear your neighbors during daytime hours, think of what it will be like while you are trying to sleep!!", "For renting - it sort of depends on who is showing you around. I have rented from places where I was just met by the previous tenants, which is great, because you can ask them all sorts of things and talk pretty freely. Mostly I have been shown around by an agent though, and sometimes you have to read between the lines a little. Some things I've always asked:\n\n* Depending on your climate, check what sort of heating / air conditioning system is in place, how old it is, whether they have had to repair it a lot.\n* Check they have fire detectors and carbon monoxide detectors, and other safety stuff if it's a high-rise like good fire exits.\n* EXACT details of the deposit, monthly rent, check-in fees, admin fees, inventory, lease length. Don't be afraid to write that down while you are talking about it.\n* Turn on the faucets and shower to check water temperature and water pressure. Some people think it's weird but I've lived in places where I felt like I could never *quite* get a decent shower and that sucks...\n* Check the locks and security in place on all the doors. Sometimes contents/renters insurance is invalidated if there aren't proper locks in place.\n\nThere's plenty more to take into consideration, but those are the things I always try and remember when I see a place!", "It gets said a lot, but seriously, location location location. If you move way the hell away from your family, friends, work, and everything else in order to get a bigger house than you could afford elsewhere, it won't matter. The extra costs in gas to get around combined with the fact that you're going to miss your friends/family when seeing everyone becomes a full on road trip will take the joy out of having a 3 car garage pretty quick.", "If you see dead bugs in the apartment/house, that means that there is probably a bug problem. They at least had the decency to spray before you came, but if it's a house, the rental agreement can leave the renter in charge of such maintenance.", "Bring a flashlight to check the back of cupboards for dead bugs. In the corners, in crevices, even get up and look on the top of the cupboards. Dead bugs in the cupboards mean live bugs in the apartment.\n\nAlso bring a phone charger and check the plugs.", "Ask how much to expect utilities will run on average. Depending on age of appliances an efficiency of the house this can vary significantly.", "Ask and physically check for pre existing damage and make sure you note it and they(realtor/owner) has noted it too. \nDon't want that to come back and bite you. ", "A good thing to know if you decide on an apartment is if the management company owns the complex or if it is fee management. \n\nFee management company's are paid off of their numbers, therefor are much more likely to screen less throughly as to not have any vacancies. They also don't own the buildings so tend to not be as johnny on the spot with maintenance issues. ", "When you walk through the house, imagine what your routine will be and what you instinctively want to do. With my first place, I neglected to pay attention to the location of light switches only to find out that they were very awkwardly placed in each room, namely the kitchen, living room, and dining room. I also didn't notice that there was no light switch by the front door when you come in, so until I bought a lamp, I had to decide between tracking dirt through the area or putting on/taking off my shoes in darkness. Something to think about. ", "Notice how many outlets are in each room, and how they relate to your planned layout. It's usually not a deal breaker, but could be a tie breaker. I also note if outlet and light switch covers are painted over rather than new looking. Replacing them is one of those cheap and easy things that a good landlord does between tenants. A less good (but maybe not bad) landlord just slaps paint around when they repaint in the room. ", "If you live in a tourist/downtown/college area, try to get a feel for the parking situation. Especially look around the time you get home from school or work. Driving around for twenty minutes looking for a spot isn't fun after a long day. Mind the street sweepers, if applicable. They can bring expensive tickets and towings if you get lazy.", "If you live in a cold(er) climate, check all the windows/doors for air leaks (you can do this by simply moving the flame of a lighter around the perimeter of the window or door to see if a draft of air makes the flame wiggle). I live in a 750 sq/ft apt and pay DOUBLE what my dad does to heat a 2000 sq/ft house! It sucks.\n\nBe damn sure you know what utilities are included.\n\nLast, but not least, once you've decided on a place, take a shitload of pictures of the inside before you move in. I mean a SHITLOAD! Last thing you want is to lose your security deposit because some dumb fuck before you ruined something and the landlord didn't know, or just didn't tell you.\n\nGood luck!", "I bought my place 2 yrs ago. What I love is location. 24 hr CVS across the street I can quickly walk to for whatever and plenty of restaurants and bars nearby. What I didn't realize when I bought, and hate, neighbors have electric garage door under my bedroom, and use it as their front door all the time. Watch out for that.", "If buying, avoid low lying areas as even if the area isn't flood prone, severe storms can leave you underwater from run off. Also avoid corner blocks/blocks by roundabouts - more likely to have cars end up in your house or doing burnouts on your lawn. Assume everything in the house is a DIY job by someone who lacks any care or skill at all - it often is.", "A good idea that my Aunt used with her most recent apartment is ask the neighbors to turn their TVs up and see if you can hear it from your potential dwelling. Sometimes the people trying to sell the place to you will pick a time not that many people are around or sometimes even ask tenants to try to be quiet because they are showing the available rooms to interested buyers. " ]

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[ "how can I hang double curtains without screwing into the wall? I am renting and I can't screw anything into the wall. I have seen a lot of single curtain rods being held by 3m strips, but I can't figure out a way to hang a double curtain rod. Any ideas?", "how can I hang double curtains without screwing into the wall? I am renting and I can't screw anything into the wall. I have seen a lot of single curtain rods being held by 3m strips, but I can't figure out a way to hang a double curtain rod. Any ideas?", "how can I hang double curtains without screwing into the wall? I am renting and I can't screw anything into the wall. I have seen a lot of single curtain rods being held by 3m strips, but I can't figure out a way to hang a double curtain rod. Any ideas?", "how can I hang double curtains without screwing into the wall? I am renting and I can't screw anything into the wall. I have seen a lot of single curtain rods being held by 3m strips, but I can't figure out a way to hang a double curtain rod. Any ideas?" ]

[ "Tension rods! You can find them at any big box retailer (Wal Mart, Target, etc...) and places like Home Depot. They're fairly cheap and sturdy if you don't overload them. They don't require any tools or hardware to mount and won't leave marks on your rental walls.\n", "wait... There are curtain rods made specifically for this problem, curtain rods that stick to the windows. I'm sure I saw some at ikea once.", "Irishminer93 is correct. You can pick them up at Harry Corry's or probably find something better online.\n\n\n", "Can you not use hooks held on with high strength 3m doubles sided tape and use a 3rd one in the middle? " ]

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[ "How to make about $100 every month working from home? Okay, so, I don't need much, $100 in a month would already be enough. \nI only have 3 key points:\n- I need to be able to do my own schedule\n- I'm still in college, so my only diploma is my highschool one\n- I can only work from home\nI know that these three are the requirements of the dream job, but I hope that it isn't so much to ask for 100 bucks in a whole month.\nI mean, 3 dolars in a day isn't much is it? Or have I been mislead about the USA reality?", "How to make about $100 every month working from home? Okay, so, I don't need much, $100 in a month would already be enough. \nI only have 3 key points:\n- I need to be able to do my own schedule\n- I'm still in college, so my only diploma is my highschool one\n- I can only work from home\nI know that these three are the requirements of the dream job, but I hope that it isn't so much to ask for 100 bucks in a whole month.\nI mean, 3 dolars in a day isn't much is it? Or have I been mislead about the USA reality?", "How to make about $100 every month working from home? Okay, so, I don't need much, $100 in a month would already be enough. \nI only have 3 key points:\n- I need to be able to do my own schedule\n- I'm still in college, so my only diploma is my highschool one\n- I can only work from home\nI know that these three are the requirements of the dream job, but I hope that it isn't so much to ask for 100 bucks in a whole month.\nI mean, 3 dolars in a day isn't much is it? Or have I been mislead about the USA reality?", "How to make about $100 every month working from home? Okay, so, I don't need much, $100 in a month would already be enough. \nI only have 3 key points:\n- I need to be able to do my own schedule\n- I'm still in college, so my only diploma is my highschool one\n- I can only work from home\nI know that these three are the requirements of the dream job, but I hope that it isn't so much to ask for 100 bucks in a whole month.\nI mean, 3 dolars in a day isn't much is it? Or have I been mislead about the USA reality?", "How to make about $100 every month working from home? Okay, so, I don't need much, $100 in a month would already be enough. \nI only have 3 key points:\n- I need to be able to do my own schedule\n- I'm still in college, so my only diploma is my highschool one\n- I can only work from home\nI know that these three are the requirements of the dream job, but I hope that it isn't so much to ask for 100 bucks in a whole month.\nI mean, 3 dolars in a day isn't much is it? Or have I been mislead about the USA reality?", "How to make about $100 every month working from home? Okay, so, I don't need much, $100 in a month would already be enough. \nI only have 3 key points:\n- I need to be able to do my own schedule\n- I'm still in college, so my only diploma is my highschool one\n- I can only work from home\nI know that these three are the requirements of the dream job, but I hope that it isn't so much to ask for 100 bucks in a whole month.\nI mean, 3 dolars in a day isn't much is it? Or have I been mislead about the USA reality?", "How to make about $100 every month working from home? Okay, so, I don't need much, $100 in a month would already be enough. \nI only have 3 key points:\n- I need to be able to do my own schedule\n- I'm still in college, so my only diploma is my highschool one\n- I can only work from home\nI know that these three are the requirements of the dream job, but I hope that it isn't so much to ask for 100 bucks in a whole month.\nI mean, 3 dolars in a day isn't much is it? Or have I been mislead about the USA reality?" ]

[ "Checkout r/beermoney you can definitely make $100/mo by filling out surveys and such. Well, it depends on how much time you want to put into it but it's possible.", "If you have a car, doordash.\n\nIf it has to be 100% from home, look into Fiver. You could offer ", "Buy and sell on fb marketplace. Buy at thrift stores and cl as well. Sell on fb marketplace and eBay. So price check sold items on eBay. That will instantly tell you where the market is at. \n\nYou'd need some start up funds but not much. Also requires some driving. \n\nBarter. Be able to say no and walk away. If you can't say no, then this isn't for you. Is a pretty easy hustle for someone willing to put in the work. I've flipped books, toys, and clothing really fast this way.", "Depends on what you’re studying in college. I was copy-writing press releases and reviewing documentation for small businesses software products while in college for more than $100/month, and that was over 20 years ago.", "I don't have an answer to this and I think that's a problem. I work from home and make my own schedule and make a little over 100/month, but I work with AWS and Azure today and my first job was pushing carts at a grocery store. Lots of work and education in between.", "Rover. Someone else also recommended this. I made a profile and ended up dog sitting once a week. They left me a good review and since then I get at least a couple of requests a month, sometimes more.", "Can you take in laundry for elderly neighbors? Moms with young kids? Working couples with little to no time?" ]

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[ "How to be less awkward? Currently a senior in high school, and almost every encounter i've had with a female has been a awkward mess. 18 and no girlfriend since freshmen year and i feel like I'm going to be a virgin for a very long time. I'm not really an ugly guy or anything, nice curly hair and dimples. So some girls come to me every now and then and i fuck it up so bad every single time, you'd think it was a comedy movie that depended on uncomfortable situations to be funny. People come up to me every once in awhile and actually ask me why I'm so awkward.\n\n So whats the secret socially fluent people and 007s of Reddit, how do you not be awkward? ", "How to be less awkward? Currently a senior in high school, and almost every encounter i've had with a female has been a awkward mess. 18 and no girlfriend since freshmen year and i feel like I'm going to be a virgin for a very long time. I'm not really an ugly guy or anything, nice curly hair and dimples. So some girls come to me every now and then and i fuck it up so bad every single time, you'd think it was a comedy movie that depended on uncomfortable situations to be funny. People come up to me every once in awhile and actually ask me why I'm so awkward.\n\n So whats the secret socially fluent people and 007s of Reddit, how do you not be awkward? ", "How to be less awkward? Currently a senior in high school, and almost every encounter i've had with a female has been a awkward mess. 18 and no girlfriend since freshmen year and i feel like I'm going to be a virgin for a very long time. I'm not really an ugly guy or anything, nice curly hair and dimples. So some girls come to me every now and then and i fuck it up so bad every single time, you'd think it was a comedy movie that depended on uncomfortable situations to be funny. People come up to me every once in awhile and actually ask me why I'm so awkward.\n\n So whats the secret socially fluent people and 007s of Reddit, how do you not be awkward? ", "How to be less awkward? Currently a senior in high school, and almost every encounter i've had with a female has been a awkward mess. 18 and no girlfriend since freshmen year and i feel like I'm going to be a virgin for a very long time. I'm not really an ugly guy or anything, nice curly hair and dimples. So some girls come to me every now and then and i fuck it up so bad every single time, you'd think it was a comedy movie that depended on uncomfortable situations to be funny. People come up to me every once in awhile and actually ask me why I'm so awkward.\n\n So whats the secret socially fluent people and 007s of Reddit, how do you not be awkward? ", "How to be less awkward? Currently a senior in high school, and almost every encounter i've had with a female has been a awkward mess. 18 and no girlfriend since freshmen year and i feel like I'm going to be a virgin for a very long time. I'm not really an ugly guy or anything, nice curly hair and dimples. So some girls come to me every now and then and i fuck it up so bad every single time, you'd think it was a comedy movie that depended on uncomfortable situations to be funny. People come up to me every once in awhile and actually ask me why I'm so awkward.\n\n So whats the secret socially fluent people and 007s of Reddit, how do you not be awkward? ", "How to be less awkward? Currently a senior in high school, and almost every encounter i've had with a female has been a awkward mess. 18 and no girlfriend since freshmen year and i feel like I'm going to be a virgin for a very long time. I'm not really an ugly guy or anything, nice curly hair and dimples. So some girls come to me every now and then and i fuck it up so bad every single time, you'd think it was a comedy movie that depended on uncomfortable situations to be funny. People come up to me every once in awhile and actually ask me why I'm so awkward.\n\n So whats the secret socially fluent people and 007s of Reddit, how do you not be awkward? ", "How to be less awkward? Currently a senior in high school, and almost every encounter i've had with a female has been a awkward mess. 18 and no girlfriend since freshmen year and i feel like I'm going to be a virgin for a very long time. I'm not really an ugly guy or anything, nice curly hair and dimples. So some girls come to me every now and then and i fuck it up so bad every single time, you'd think it was a comedy movie that depended on uncomfortable situations to be funny. People come up to me every once in awhile and actually ask me why I'm so awkward.\n\n So whats the secret socially fluent people and 007s of Reddit, how do you not be awkward? " ]

[ "Stop giving a fuck what people are thinking or thinking that they care about the little things you do.", "Pursue your hobbies and anything that genuinely interests you with passion. Regardless of what it is, someone passionate about something besides just watching TV or playing video games is instantly interesting. And it will give you something authentic to talk about. ", "OK, first of all everyone is awkward. Learn to be comfortable with your self. Get a hobby, read books, go to the gym. Be nice around everyone, have fun with your friends. Don't even think to try to get laid. This way you wont be nervous around anyone, even girls. ", "You gotta give more information on why you're awkward. I can't help you if I don't know what is holding you back, what bad habits, or what actions people actually believe to be awkward about you. ", "The secret is to understand.\nWomen are humans.\nJust say hi and give a laid back action such as \"How are you?\". \nTrust me. Showing the littles concern over someone makes their day.\nExamples.\nWhen someone holds the door open for me, I feel like the know I'm there and they are being generous.\nIf someone says good morning, they give the vibe of friendliness and concern. \"Hey! I like that person. He's nice!\"\nIf you do gym class together, give compliments. \nPlaying badminton against them? \"Shake hands before and after game. Say good game. \nHope I helped.", "Literally just say hi and smile at anyone you think is pretty. give it two weeks and your heart will stop racing and the smile will become more genuine. grocery store, church, etc. ", "Focus on THE OTHER PERSON rather than YOURSELF. Listen, respond, repeat. And don't forget about body language." ]

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[ "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!", "A better/more efficient way to take notes and to study said notes. I searched the subreddit but only a couple underwhelming threads surfaced, so I'll ask. What's the best way to take notes during class? I'm in uni with a hefty course load and I feel like sometimes at the end of the week I just have five binders with a bunch of notes I never really have any incentive to look over more than once. And moreover, what's the best way to study/organize the notes I *have* taken? I feel like just underlining and highlighting things makes it messier and confusing.\n\nHelp please!" ]

[ "The best way I found to study was by deconstructing and then reconstructing. This means that you take short but key notes and then later on try to write out a lecture or essay based on those notes. \n\nThis achieves three things: you get practice at essay writing, you understand the material more and you also know where and how to improve your notes", "If you find yourself not looking back at your notes, evaluate for yourself whether or not you actually need to take them with regards to your learning style. I found personally in undergrad, graduate, and now studying for my professional licensure that taking notes actually distracts me from listening to and absorbing the material being presented. I still will keep a notebook and pen in front of me in case an emphasized point is made and I'll jot it down. However, I find overall, that actively listening to the material without the distraction of being worried about getting it down on paper is more conducive to actually learning. (As a caveat I'm strongly an auditory learner, ymmv)", "small tip: color code your notes. Write very important information in red ink. (source: Drunk Tank Pink - Adam Alter", "Do some researched on \"the Cornell not taking method\" developed by a university to help you retain information.", "In order to study well there are several key concepts to master:\n\n1. First off, is your study goals, unlike most highschool courses, uni is incremental meaning that you can't rely on short term memory to get you through your courses, you have to find a way to get knowledge in to your long term memory; which takes a lot more effort.\n\n2. You have to realize that everyone has a different type of learning to which they are susceptible. There are three main learning methods: Auditory, Visual and Kinaesthetic learning. Furthermore, there are 4 learning styles which should be taken in to a count: Intra-personal, Inter-personal, Logical and Verbal learning. The thing to understand about these concepts of learning is that not everyone has the same response to these learning methods but what's more: All of these methods do help you, but in different quantities. Depending on your *method* of learning, you should respectively look at things like: Making presentations, mindmaps or building things. Creativity is key.\nTaking notes is *only* a viable method if you benefit of using a verbal learning style, which may or may not actually be the case. More on this later.*\n\n3. A university course can be done entirely out of books and without professors. Here is where many students go wrong, they either blame their professors for low quality classes or think that, like high school, you can get away with just going to lectures. The truth however is that lectures are rarely ever mandatory and are in fact just a resource offered to the students who benefit from Auditory learning. If there is anything I want you to take away from this rather extensive post, it is that being a student - or an academic for that matter - is all about finding what works for you, regardless of what many social conventions might demand off you. I know several people who have graduated suma-cumlaude while going to no more than 10% of their lectures. Now I'm *Not* saying that lectures are bad, I'm saying that you have to weigh the options and take the most efficient one, for you. \n\n4. Rarely do people ever benefit from learning for the sake of learning. People are simple creatures, and we don't like being told what to do, especially if we can't see any use in what we do. Now sure, you have a long term use for your courses but what about the short term? When the short term comes in to question most break down, but there is a simple technique to help you provide a short term goal which helps tremendously with your efforts. Find a friend, possibly within the same study or taking the same courses but preferably someone that is interested in the subject yet has no real experience with it, and schedule a meet up every week or so. I would recommend about 30 minutes per current course. Now in that meet up, find a way to explain what you have learned that week and do it as comprehensively as you can, within 20-30 minutes. This will do several things for you: It will engage all the learning methods; Auditory by hearing your voice, visual needing to make something that is visual enough to convey the message to someone who might not be proficient in the required skillset and Kinaesthetic in the hands on approach of crafting a presentation. It will also force you to separate the course material on importance which will help you focus your efforts. Research has shown countless times that people who are told to explain a subject consistently score much higher (up to 40%) than people who are told to learn a subject when tested.\n\n5. You've got a limited concentration span. You won't benefit from bending over your book for hours, in fact: Research has shown us that those practices have a *degenerative* effect on your comprehension of the subject. Instead, work with the the time span in which you can concentrate. Most students can retain an intense level of concentration of around 45 minutes after which their level of concentration will degenerate significantly. Try to find your own concentration span and never, ever, spend more than twice that span studying a subject actively; it will not help you retain any extra information. Of course you won't want to stop for the day either so what I would recommend doing is the following: Take the amount of time you've just spent studying and divide that amount of time by 3 (so 15 min per 45 min) and spend that duration doing something you enjoy. If you need to study for a big test, then spend that time doing some sort of a game surrounding the course material but don't let it take up any amount of concentration. It takes time for information to cleave itself in to your mind. Don't sabotage that process.\n\n* And here the continuation of 2: Take some time to find what learning methods and style fit you and make every attempt to work conform these methods as those are where you will strive intellectually. I, for example, am highly susceptible to visual and auditory learning which usually ends up in me pacing around memorizing some sort of a poem I've made about an every day object. And that's with studying mathematics so I'm sure you can come up with something!\n\nGood luck with your study!", "I've heard that it's better to take as few notes as possible. Just sit back, listen, and think. If an idea comes to you, make a quick note, but don't just write down all the facts that you hear.\n\n Often, when you look back through notes, it's just information you could have easily found out anyway, and you've ended up missing a large portion of what the tutor is actually saying because you're too busy note taking.\n\nWorked well for me, at least.", "I think it's hard to give good advice without knowing the subjects you're taking, since the best way to take notes in a physics class is probably not the same as the best way to take them in a literature class, or an anatomy/physiology class, or a philosophy class, etc. \n\nThat being said, a universally good principle is to set yourself up for success. In note-taking, this means two things to me:\n\n1. Have a system of shorthand/abbreviations and symbols that you use both to save yourself time and to help hierarchically organize your notes. For example: as a music major (and now a college music professor), the word \"music\" shows up a lot in my notes. To save time, since I had to write it so often, I just started writing a little music note wherever the word \"music\" was supposed to be. When I had to write \"Western music,\" I'd write a capital W and the little music note. When I had an original thought or question based on something that I read in the textbook or heard in the lecture, I'd put a circle next to it in the margin with the letters NB in it (for \"nota bene\"). Single asterisks meant one thing, double asterisks meant another. Same thing for underlining. And color-coding.\n\n2. Buy or make the right kind of notepaper for each class. For the music classes I teach, some of the \"note-taking\" involves actual musical note-writing, so students need staff paper/manuscript paper. But it's annoying to try to take regular notes on staff paper, because there are so many lines and it's hard to read any comments you may have written. So I made special notepaper for my students that has a couple of musical staves, then a blank space for writing, then a couple of musical staves, then more blank space at the bottom. This paper accommodates both musical notation and regular writing. So think about whether you might benefit from hacking your notebook paper. Maybe you need more lines per page? Fewer? Larger margins? Every page should have a blank space in the upper left hand corner for diagrams? Every page should have a square in the bottom right corner with big black borders in which you identify the key terms or concepts covered on that page? I don't know, I'm making these up. \n\nJust some thoughts... Good luck!", "In a really organized class with a well aligned textbook (math and science classes are usually best for this) I will try to take summary notes *before* class from the textbook. Then I can anticipate the material, add extra notes as necessary, and otherwise use the classroom time as think-time and question-time rather than scribbling-furiously-time.", "I always typed them into a word document and draw everything that had to be drawn right there. \nFor that you should bring a mouse with you as well. \nSo you have clean notes you can also share with your tablet and phone to learn it on the go." ]

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[ "How can I stop spiders from entering my room. I end up not opening my window for a while and then once I do open it, in comes Mr I've got 8 legs. Just looking for a cheap solution. ", "How can I stop spiders from entering my room. I end up not opening my window for a while and then once I do open it, in comes Mr I've got 8 legs. Just looking for a cheap solution. ", "How can I stop spiders from entering my room. I end up not opening my window for a while and then once I do open it, in comes Mr I've got 8 legs. Just looking for a cheap solution. ", "How can I stop spiders from entering my room. I end up not opening my window for a while and then once I do open it, in comes Mr I've got 8 legs. Just looking for a cheap solution. ", "How can I stop spiders from entering my room. I end up not opening my window for a while and then once I do open it, in comes Mr I've got 8 legs. Just looking for a cheap solution. ", "How can I stop spiders from entering my room. I end up not opening my window for a while and then once I do open it, in comes Mr I've got 8 legs. Just looking for a cheap solution. ", "How can I stop spiders from entering my room. I end up not opening my window for a while and then once I do open it, in comes Mr I've got 8 legs. Just looking for a cheap solution. " ]

[ "Peppermint essential oil/water mixture in a glass spray bottle! Spray it around the areas that spiders enter or like to hang out. Worked at my house :)", "With the screen in, use shipping tape to seal the screen from outside or inside depending on your ghetto curb appeal. ", "We get some of that seven granular stuff and spread around the house each year before the farmers harvest their crops or as they are starting to in the area. We still get the occasional one every now and then but it really cuts down on the numbers if we don't do it.", "My mom poured cinnamon along every wall and corner outside of our house. This was a month ago and I have yet to see any type of bug in my house. I used to see spiders all the time and now it feels nice knowing that the likelihood of them crawling into my mouth when I'm sleeping is less :) ", "Maybe kill all the other bugs living it in first? They go where the food is. But seriously just seal your room in plastic its the easiest way.", "A fan ... A fan blowing out the door or window will do it. Slow, low speed is fine, so not as noisy. \n\nSpiders are good though and eat other, more destructive bugs.", "There's an old wives tale that conkers on the window sill keep them away, but I am not sure of it's validity. Also heard peppermint oil or vinegar, but never tried them myself as spiders don't bother me " ]

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[ "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!", "How do you cut yourself off from drinking after a couple of drinks? I am a pretty heavy drinker, and I'm desperately trying to cut back, but once I get that taste, that first sensation of a buzz, I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed. This is reckless and dangerous and I want to drink more responsibly. \n\nDoes anyone have any tips to remind yourself that you need to slow it down? Drunk self can be pretty irrational, but surely there's a way to wake up the sober part of the mind. \n\nPlease help!" ]

[ "I used to be this way. It's alcoholism. I took a long break from drinking (6+ months) and then was able to better control myself, but having a drink or two and then stopping is still a hard battle, no matter how long of a break I take. I find that if I drink two days in a row I can control myself the first night (and it's extremely hard) but then the next night I can't. I try to limit my drinking now to about once a month and only keep one or two beers in the fridge at a time. But even then every part of my brain wants me to go to the store and get more after I finish those two. So,most of the time I don't drink at all. It's just not worth it.\n\nGood luck. I hope you can figure it out.", "1: Bring only enough cash to pay for a few drinks and get home. Don't bring your cr", "It sounds like you're an alcoholic, man. Maybe think about how to not drink at all instead of \"drinking responsibly\" or whatever. I don't think casual drinking is going to work for you. ", "This happens to me, and when it does I think of either sex or food, whichever one sounds more fun and will get me away from the booze quickest. Hope my experience helps.", "I've learned that I will black out easier than all of my friends, so I can't drink too much or else I don't remember the fun part. So what I did was started counting how much alcohol I drink in oz. of 80 proof liquor. A 12oz. beer counts as 1, glass of wine is 2. Then one day at home where I was safe, I drank alot and counted every drink and started to gauge how drunk I was getting with each drink. Once I did that, whenever I drink, I count how much I've had and will stop when I reach a certain number of oz. \n\nI do most of my drinking at home instead of at bars so I have greater control over the size of my drinks. But when i do go to bars, I estimate how much was put into each drink, and when in doubt, round up.", "if there's a will. there's a way. if there's no will, there's no fresh prince of belair and also there's no way.\n\n**seriously though** cold turkey. sack up and throw your shit out. someone offers you a drink just say you started taking medication. worked for me. take multivitamins in the morning if you think that you're \"lying\" to people. self-medication is still medication.", "You sound a bit like me. Lately, just over the past few months, I've been having this problem where I've blacked out after every night out because I just drank way too much. Nothing in my life's changed, it just sort of progressed to that level. I actually wound up in the hospital once, and you'd think that that would be a good enough deterrent to drinking so heavily again. I thought so, wasn't accurate. That was only like a month ago. What I've been doing now when I drink is occasionally stopping to assess how I'm feeling at that moment in time, not in terms of drunkenness, but in terms of how happy I am. I've found that looking back on a few really wild benders, it wasn't like I became happier and happier until I blacked out; I realized that I was already at the point at which I wanted my alcohol consumption to get me, and then drank more. So my advice would be, figure out what you want when you drink alcohol, then in the middle of it, think if you're in that place mentally. This way, it's less of a \"stop now or there will be consequences\" sort of deal, but more of an \"I am actually really happy with how drunk I am right now\". I feel like with this technique I worry less, because I already know when I'm at that good point.\n\nTL;DR: Take stock of how you're feeling, and if it's real good, just cut it off right there so you can stay there, and if you're not sure, drink some more but take it easy, like slowly have a beer, because it's a pretty easy jump from a good point to a not so good point. ", "If you want to get drunk, do everyone a favor and stay home. \nIf you're going out, you got to slow yourself down. First, show up late. Then, when entering a bar or club, you should check every thing out. I usually walk around the entire scene first, seeing who's there, scoping the prospects, deciding which bartender I want to get to know, ect. BEFORE I even get a drink. Take your time drinking that first drink. Think of it more as a prop. Something to hold while you talk to friends. Meet new people, socialize. You can dance (Never bring a drink onto a dance floor, it'll be your fault when it gets knocked out of your hand). You can play pool, etc. Before you know it, it's closing time and you've only had 2-3 drinks. Good luck. ", "Hey guys. These all sound like pretty good tips, but I just wanted to pop in and offer some advice. Let's be a little more careful about throwing the a-word around. Alcoholism is characterized by the feeling that one needs alcohol to feel normal. Wanting to keep a buzz going, clinically, isn't the same thing. I'm not saying there's no problem, I'm just suggesting that piling on the moniker of alcoholic may only make OP feel worse about himself when all he may need is a trusted friend or more trustworthy bartender to keep him in line until he gains some control. Hope I helped, my friend, and remember the words of William Schmidt, the world's first master bartender. \" ...in drinking our aim must be enjoyment, not inebriation.\"", ">I just want to keep going until I don't remember getting home or putting myself to bed\n\nSounds like you need to try cocaine", "You may need outside help with your apparent drinking problem. Good luck, it's a difficult road, but well worth it.", "Try putting a picture of your kids or loved ones as the lock/home screen on your phone. It worked for me. ", "This doesn't happen to me, but I've seen it happen to others. I've never known anyone to figure out that problem. Your reality might be to cut yourself off when you're still sober. Offer to be the DD once in a while. Can you have just one drink? Is it hard liquor that's doing it? Maybe only have light stuff on hand, and make sure you can't go out and get more. Get your friends involved. Good luck to you! ", "Just pretend you have liver disease. JK. But I was very similar and I've recently had to quit because of a health condition where I need a healthy liver and I was drinking every night. Maybe if you think daily about the health effects alcoholism has it will cause you to be more conscious. \n\nM" ]

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[ "How can I regain the trust of a loved one? Hey, long story short, I was out with my girlfriend a week ago and i told things about her that weren't mine to tell to complete strangers. We talked a little over this period but she did tell me she cannot stand seeing me. Any ideas on how I could fix this? Knowing I already sincerely apologized. ", "How can I regain the trust of a loved one? Hey, long story short, I was out with my girlfriend a week ago and i told things about her that weren't mine to tell to complete strangers. We talked a little over this period but she did tell me she cannot stand seeing me. Any ideas on how I could fix this? Knowing I already sincerely apologized. ", "How can I regain the trust of a loved one? Hey, long story short, I was out with my girlfriend a week ago and i told things about her that weren't mine to tell to complete strangers. We talked a little over this period but she did tell me she cannot stand seeing me. Any ideas on how I could fix this? Knowing I already sincerely apologized. ", "How can I regain the trust of a loved one? Hey, long story short, I was out with my girlfriend a week ago and i told things about her that weren't mine to tell to complete strangers. We talked a little over this period but she did tell me she cannot stand seeing me. Any ideas on how I could fix this? Knowing I already sincerely apologized. ", "How can I regain the trust of a loved one? Hey, long story short, I was out with my girlfriend a week ago and i told things about her that weren't mine to tell to complete strangers. We talked a little over this period but she did tell me she cannot stand seeing me. Any ideas on how I could fix this? Knowing I already sincerely apologized. ", "How can I regain the trust of a loved one? Hey, long story short, I was out with my girlfriend a week ago and i told things about her that weren't mine to tell to complete strangers. We talked a little over this period but she did tell me she cannot stand seeing me. Any ideas on how I could fix this? Knowing I already sincerely apologized. ", "How can I regain the trust of a loved one? Hey, long story short, I was out with my girlfriend a week ago and i told things about her that weren't mine to tell to complete strangers. We talked a little over this period but she did tell me she cannot stand seeing me. Any ideas on how I could fix this? Knowing I already sincerely apologized. " ]

[ "Send her some flowers and ask for another chance. Tell her you're willing to take things slow to regain her trust and emphasize how sorry you are for hurting her and betraying her trust. Be persistent but not creepy.", "I am absolutely not trying to discourage you, but I (female) was dating a guy for 6 months when he told 5 of his friends something very private about me (I witnessed it and was very embarrassed). He continued to do this even after I asked him to stop..he grew up with a large family (I did not) and felt that his family should know every private detail. I tried to explain to him that perhaps I didn't understand an emotional family connection, but that I really didn't appreciate the intimate things I shared with him were going to other people (ugh..his mom..awkward)\n\nI should have broken up with him over it then and there, because ultimately 2 years later after breaking up I still feel violated. \n\nI encourage you to give him/her time and space, make a conscious effort to respect their wishes about private matters. I guess what you may view as private, and what they see as private are 2 different things? If you're not sure asking never hurts..just approach it delicately. And when in doubt, never share. ", "How long have you been together? If it's less than a couple years, there is no way to fix this. If it's more, and your relationship is good-but-not-great, there is no way to fix this. If it's a great multi-year relationship and things are A+, it's going to take a long time, and flowers won't help. Sounds like it's one of the first two, though. Don't fuck with others' trust.", "Give her a sincere heart-felt apology. Promise to try to never be unkind and/or so unfeeling again. Give her time to get over it. If she won't, maybe she's not as good as think. ", "If you love something set it free and if it comes back to you then it's yours. If it doesn't then your an ass hole.", "All this advice is great, but be prepared if it was rocky before she might not want anything back and use this as an excuse to stray. I hope this isn't the case by all means man but just be prepared. But like others have said, just speak from your heart, don't beg though, just tell her you made a huge mistake. If she loves you forgiveness will come naturally it just takes people time sometimes. Good luck buddy", "1) Are you in high school? (Sorry, I have to ask)\n2) Do these complete strangers have any affect on your lives?\n3) Did you know that she was sensitive about such things beforehand (i.e. was it explicitly stated)?\n4) Had you been drinking?\n\nI'm sorry to say it, but if she's this pissed over a fuck up that hasn't happened before and has absolutely no impact on your lives, then you might consider reevaluating the relationship. Even if it was something incredibly personal (std's, pregnancy, family problems, supporting Trump, etc.) this seems like a major over-reaction.\n\nIn my experience, over-sensitivity and radio silence are red flags for immaturity/infidelity/manipulative behaviour. If she's this upset over something so minor imagine how she'll react when you disagree over something significant.\n\n\nI don't mean to come off as callous but, from what you wrote, if she can't differentiate between a breach of trust and a slip of the tongue then this might not be the healthiest relationship for you in the long term." ]

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[ "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n", "How to be comfortable talking with a girl I'm looking for some tips because every time I that girl in person I always think \"What would she thinks if I....\" And that makes me mad, I think I missed up too many opportunities and no want to throw away more. Tips?\n\n" ]

[ "Take her off that pedestal mate, and talk to her like she is a proper real human being, 'coz, guess what: she is :) \n\nShe farts, fucks things up, gets awkward and everything just like you do. Chill out, fuck it, be yourself, sounds trite, but is true, if you make a massive big mask to hide behind, you'll never feel comfortable around her. \n\nAlso, if you miss on this one, forget about it, move on man, you've already started to make her 'THAT ONE CHICK' \n\nCalm your freaking out, and chill a bit. Have fun. It's not a hunt, it's not a contest, it's about finding someone you can feel comfortable with, not the pursuit of a rare butterfly to pin down under glass, and entrap. \n\n\n\n", "Ask them questions about themselves, listen, smile, agree. Think about next question while enjoying your drink. \n\nHow are you. What's your favorite song. Would you like to put some $ in the juke box. do you know any good jokes. That's a nice shirt. \n\nUse fewer words, male them talk about themselves, everyone loves that.", "Take an interest in her, what she does, etc. Most people respond favourably to this, if the interest is slightly flattering.", "If you have any female friends, ask them for advice. If not, make some female friends. The same ways you make male friends: do something you like, talk to people around you about shared interests, grab a drink/coffee. \n\nAlso, browse subs with lots of lady participants. Somebody suggested TheRedPill and I actually laughed out loud. If you want to know how ladies like to be talked to, ask a lady! Go to female-heavy subs. Or better yet, talk to many ladies who you aren't attracted to because we're all different and it will take the edge off. \n\nBut most importantly, once you make an intro... be yourself. The fact that you're concerned about how the girl you want to talk to you feels puts you miles ahead guys who are treating the conversation like a choose your own adventure game that might end in sex. Remember that the girl you like is nervous, too. There have been a few times in my life when a guy who likes me approached me, and I was either super awkward if I liked him back or super nervous about hurting his feelings/scarring them if I turn them down the wrong way. \n\nRespect that she may not be interested romantically for a million reasons (sometimes the chemistry just isn't there or sometimes they're like me and don't date much at all), but if you're kind and treat them like a regular human you definitely will make the best case for yourself. :) And if for some reason she acts cruelly, don't blame yourself and don't fear other woman. Hell, don't even hate her. People go through so much shit between birth and death, you never know what past circumstances led to her behavior today. \n\nGood luck!\n\n", "My approach was always \"what's the worst it could happen?\" Never go prepared with a line, there's not much of a chance you'll have a line for every situation and every girl. Also, the more spontaneous you are, the more she'll appreciate it, she can tell it's meant for her and not every girl you hit on. \n\nDon't take it too seriously. What if she says no? It's her loss, find another one. Play a game, not a nuclear attack meeting. ", "have some cool stuff going on for you. a cool hobby, volunteer, whatever. just do stuff that you like doing and that make you happy. and do *a lot* of it. *schedule* that shit, and fill your f&#kin' calendar. that way, when you strike out, you can just go back to being cool you that you enjoy anyway. and then girls pick up on that. if you look hungry, you'll starve.", "Practice, Practice, Practice.\n\nThere are over 7 billion people on this earth... do not get caught up in just one girl you meet.\n", "Do something that makes you confident like boxing or some other hard sparring martial arts. General confidence boost and the scariest thing you are afraid of is getting knocked down (not likely when only training) . \n\nAfter that, asking some one out is nothing. What's going to happen in the worst case scenario? They so no? So what. You have training the night after and you are one of the weaker skilled guys there so you have a hard night ahead. \n\nIf they are an aquantance and you like them for thier personality as well as their looks, then great you have a new friend to hang out with. ", "Ask your self one question right before, \"what do you have to lose?\" \n\nAnd understand that losing one approach doesn't mean you'll lose them", "I always approach someone that I may be nervous around by thinking before talking that they are my best friend. Just a mindset change of thinking that they are already very close with me helps to relax the whole situation. \n\nIf it doesn't work out and you still tried to approach her as a best friend, that person may just be the person that it didn't work out with. ", "Honestly go on youtube and look up RSD tyler. Best life pro tip i can give when it comes to girls. Not to mention life.", "1. Remember we are just humans like you, nothing really different.\n\n2. If she doesn't like you for being yourself who cares about that bitch anyways!", "Despite all the hate and controversy, go check out /r/theredpill to better yourself as a man, mentally and physically." ]

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[ "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?", "How to force yourself to focus on school work It's hard for me to focus on anything that involves sitting still and reading. I'm teaching myself computer code (html/css/JavaScript/sql) so I can become a webpage developer. I've come to a point where I have no choice but to begin a career for the sake of my future and my son's. That is my main motivation so I can buy a house, truck, and start saving for my son's school. I am sitting here in a library with my headphones on and it's hard to get going today. Some days I don't study at all. I feel like I am a bad parent and human being. I've tried caffeine, which helps sometimes. Along with spotify's focus station combined with a calm environment. You would think my whole future depends on this would be enough to get me going. I've never been good at school. Grade school, high school, college...if there was a part of the lesson I wasn't interested in, I didn't bother studying it. I've spoiled myself and am so STUBBORN for all these years. I need to be mentally broken. How do I effectively become my own drill sergeant?" ]

[ "Just do it.\n\nTurn off the music, put away the caffeine, sit down at a desk with nothing on it but your work, and do your work.\n\nWhen you notice your attention wandering away from your work, redirect your attention back to your work without wasting energy on trying to figure out why or judging yourself. \n\nKeep refocusing every time your mind wanders until the work is done.\n\nYou aren't a drill sergeant of yourself... you are a patient, kind preschool teacher of yourself. \"Yes, that's nice. Now, on the next problem...\"", "A man needs discipline not motivation, that means you do something DESPITE not feeling like it. Stop relying on your emotions and current state of mind to get you through a task to being a man.\n\nNot all of us are doing things because we can convince ourselves to be in the mood for it. Turn it into a habit, do it consistently again and again.", "Learning by doing is the best way to learn Code. So set up projects. Set up projects that you believe would impact somebody.That way, you will be motivated, not by fear, but by passion. Make a website for your neighbourhood animal-shelter, or a site for your friend's business, or simply a portfolio website for someone to you think is awesome[I mean friends/relatives, not just celebrities.]\n\nGet a few friends to work with you, help each other out. If you are interested, I'm learning web-development as well. We can collaborate on a few projects! Ping me up if that seems like a good idea.", "You have to want to do it. Remove all distractions ( like Reddit, lol) and set a daily goal to cover a certain amount of material. Take a break at least every hour, and regroup. Learning is often about repetition, so go over material again and again until you get it. If you need help check out a tutoring center or a local library. Ask lots of questions. It's hard but in the end it's worth it.", "http://youtu.be/RH95h36NChI\n\nI am currently studying to take my GRE so I can get back into school to get my Masters. I found this video pretty helpful. ", "One of the important things they teach you at Uni is to organize in groups and learn together. Maybe you can gather a small group of people wanting to learn code too? When learning together you are less likely to spend a couple hours just daydreaming. Maybe there already is one where you are? If not, put up some notes on a blackboard. This IS one of the most important things so don't disregard it easily because it's effort because...\n\nThis is your job now. No reason to think of it any other way. \nSet weekly and monthly goals and compare progress get everyone up to speed, repeat. \n\nNow this is VERY important for code. Design little projects to practice and code them. Have one bigger project that requires a lot of different components and keep working on it. This will teach you to organize your own code\n\nWrite something everyday. Even if it's just a small script that's not even web related. It helps you write more fluently and think in computer logic. For small filler exercises a \"nassi shneiderman diagram\" will do for pure logic exercises without weighting you down with syntax issues.\n\nRepetition: You can't learn without it. Put important tables or diagrams in places you are often (toilet for example) and make sure you give them a good look every time you pass them. Just for a minute.\nThis also entails revisiting old code to see whether you found a new/ more efficient syntax for something.\n\nCheck if music isn't too distracting for you. Don't \"feel it out\" in that respect. For example get two sheets with 30 vocabularies from a language you don't know. give yourself 30 Minutes to learn one of them with music on. Then test yourself and see how many you remember. Then take a break go for a walk and repeat without music. It is very likely that you will do A LOT better without it. But you should see that for yourself.\n\nLastly there are a lot of books concerning themselves with learning techniques and teaching oneself to learn. Check them out.", "If I must absolutely get something done by a deadline, I break it down into a series of smaller tasks and write them down on a check list. I put little squares next to them to check them off. I *must* write it down using pen and paper, no app or Excel gives me the satisfaction. The tasks are so small that doing each is very easy.", "Figure out when is the best time to study. For my wife it is early in the morning before work. For me it's in the afternoon before the bar. The before shit works. She has a limited amount of time and busts ass through shit. I can have fun, be social and get drunk, once I'm done so I bust ass too. When you have a time limit or a task to get out of the way it's much easier to focus. Get it done and move on. You have to figure out what works for you. But that's what we do. Good luck and have fun.", "You probably have ADHD. I wouldn't recommend jumping into medication or anything but go get diagnosed and try effective treatment if you have it. If not the other comments have provided good advice for your standard person.", "Have you considered that you chose the wrong path? I got my bachelor's in business admin for accounting but I can sit at books or the computer for 12 hours straight with smoke breaks and coffee of course. I'm going for a CPA so my bachelors is 150 cr", "Hate to break it to you, but different variations of \"pull yourself together and just get it done\" is the only way do it.\n\nI downloaded an app called \"habit bull\" for android, and it really helped me getting in to the habit of studying. It took some(a lot of) discipline in the beginning, but in the end, I got it to be a natural part of my everyday routine." ]

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[ "How to negotiate a raise/salary when promoted Just received a promotion at work and then the topic of wage came up. My boss made a fair offer, at least I thought it was, of an 8% increase. I immediately accepted, but on second thought I could've negotiated a little more, probably 10 or 11%. \n\nI guess I didn't know how to value myself properly. ", "How to negotiate a raise/salary when promoted Just received a promotion at work and then the topic of wage came up. My boss made a fair offer, at least I thought it was, of an 8% increase. I immediately accepted, but on second thought I could've negotiated a little more, probably 10 or 11%. \n\nI guess I didn't know how to value myself properly. " ]

[ "It depends on what the promotion is and where you were in the pay scale before.\n\nFor example, let's say you were the Senior Analyst, and had held that job for a period of time and were at the top of your pay grade. The new job is now the Manager of analysts (including your now vacated spot). Is the Manager role paygrade 8-10-11-20% more than what you were making?\n\nMany jobs have ranges associated with them, and the highest paid Analyst (in the above example) might be ahead of the low-point for this manager role.\n\nMost (especially bigger) companies use salary surveys and market data, like one can grab from Salary.com, to have a range for all positions. Most bosses want their people to come in closer to the bottom and work upwards in pay grade. It allows for incentives to do a good job and get raises and it also allows the boss to hire from the outside, for an experienced person to come in, and slot right into the role and pay grade without disrupting the whole program.\n\nYou also need to be careful when getting the promotion. In some situations, being offered 8% is a good deal, and the boss may have had to go through \"levels\" to get that number set. If you then say you want 10-11% more, without having solid reasoning, it may not play well; and you'd be better off asking for other non-cash things which are easier to negotiate -- \n\nSomething like this:\n\n\"Gee this is great! It's a great new role, I'm looking forward to taking on these new responsibilities. Although, I was under the impression that the mid range pay for this position was X, which is only a tiny bit more than the 8% jump you're offering. And, I have been very successful at X Y and Z which qualified me for the promotion.\"\n\nNo? Oh, i see; Ms. Big boss approved of the 8% raise herself. I totally appreciate that. Perhaps, to be more effective, I could also get an iphone, ipad, or laptop to check emails and the status of projects while at home? And, maybe if we could review my achievements in the new role in 3 or 6 months, after i've settled into the position, to see how else I can be helpful?\n\n(in 3 or 6 months, you're asking for the extra 2 or 3% that you wanted now.)\n\njust a few ideas.\n\nhth", "Negotiate your salary while air drying after showering from a workout. Seal the deal by shouting show me the money!" ]

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[ "How to teach a language I'm currently in a gaming clan with some other dudes, who don't speak my native language, but became interested in it. I want to teach them, but I don't know how. Can someone give me tips?", "How to teach a language I'm currently in a gaming clan with some other dudes, who don't speak my native language, but became interested in it. I want to teach them, but I don't know how. Can someone give me tips?", "How to teach a language I'm currently in a gaming clan with some other dudes, who don't speak my native language, but became interested in it. I want to teach them, but I don't know how. Can someone give me tips?" ]

[ "There are a few things to consider when you are teaching someone a language. For example, how to correct people. If you don't correct people, they'll keep making the same mistakes, but if you keep correcting them all the time, you'll destroy their motivation. Correct them if they say something really embarrassing, something that's so wrong that you can't understand at all, or if it's a mistake that will happen over and over again, and ruin their progression.\n\nIf I were you, I'd teach them the basics, like how to introduce yourself and set phrases (Especially if it's fun to say!). If they're serious about the language, I'd recommend getting some help from apps or books. Just have fun with it :D", "Just google some language learning apps. Unless you are incredibly patient I doubt you will do much good before they can have a simple conversation.", "Duolingo is the easiest free way to learn language imo. If you want pro tips look up the TEFL website (or whatever organization handles training people to teach your language to non-native speakers) " ]

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[ "Applying Bandaids and making them stick (mine don't last) It's a problem I've had since I was a kid, when I put a band-aid on, it never sticks. When other people do it for me, it more often than not sticks for much longer. Is there a way to do it so that I don't need multiple band-aids for one wound throughout the day?", "Applying Bandaids and making them stick (mine don't last) It's a problem I've had since I was a kid, when I put a band-aid on, it never sticks. When other people do it for me, it more often than not sticks for much longer. Is there a way to do it so that I don't need multiple band-aids for one wound throughout the day?", "Applying Bandaids and making them stick (mine don't last) It's a problem I've had since I was a kid, when I put a band-aid on, it never sticks. When other people do it for me, it more often than not sticks for much longer. Is there a way to do it so that I don't need multiple band-aids for one wound throughout the day?", "Applying Bandaids and making them stick (mine don't last) It's a problem I've had since I was a kid, when I put a band-aid on, it never sticks. When other people do it for me, it more often than not sticks for much longer. Is there a way to do it so that I don't need multiple band-aids for one wound throughout the day?", "Applying Bandaids and making them stick (mine don't last) It's a problem I've had since I was a kid, when I put a band-aid on, it never sticks. When other people do it for me, it more often than not sticks for much longer. Is there a way to do it so that I don't need multiple band-aids for one wound throughout the day?" ]

[ "You might be stretching the bandaid too much when you apply it to cover as large a surface area as possible. This causes it to want to slide back into its natural shape as well as absorb more of your sweat per surface area causing the adhesive to wear off faster.\n\nAlso, some brands just suck", "I find the fabric band-aids (generic or name brand) tend to work better than the plastic ones. They tend to be a little more expensive, and don't hold up as well when wet, but they stick much better and can breathe so the wound heals faster.\n\nAlthough the best wound cover I've ever used was gauze and a [tegaderm](http://www.amazon.com/Nexcare-Tegaderm-Waterproof-Transparent-Dressing/dp/B000GG7UEW/). Really expensive per covering, but for bigger/more serious wounds they are amazing. Best for things like scrapes or larger cuts.", "I apply a lot of bandaids in situations where they hardly stick. I highly recommend the two kinds of nexcare hexagonal bandages - they close completely around the wound but still breathe. Transparent and fabric both work. \n\nWhen applying, apply to *stretched* skin - the furthest it will have to stretch. Wipe the area with alcohol to remove oils (oily skin sheds adhesive easier). Put the bandage on, rub the adhesive part on (warmth makes it adhere better).", "Band aids? Don't bother, they're just a corporate shill. Stick a knife blade on the stove top and cauterise that fucker like a warrior.", "It's all about price here, sadly. Off brand ones won't stay on so you'll actually be spending more money. Band-Aid brand bandages will stay on no matter what. The waterproof ones can stay on for weeks. Well worth the money in my opinion." ]

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[ "DIY Laptop Stand to make laptop second monitor. I have a flat screen monitor at work and would like to have my laptop be the second monitor but on top of the flat screen. I am looking to open the laptop so it is almost flat and hide the keyboard behind the flat screen. Then, hopefully, have the monitor right above the flat screen. Finally I want the laptop screen as close to me as possible, meaning I don't want the laptop screen a foot an a half behind the flat screen.\n\nAny one have any ideas or cheap products to do this? ", "DIY Laptop Stand to make laptop second monitor. I have a flat screen monitor at work and would like to have my laptop be the second monitor but on top of the flat screen. I am looking to open the laptop so it is almost flat and hide the keyboard behind the flat screen. Then, hopefully, have the monitor right above the flat screen. Finally I want the laptop screen as close to me as possible, meaning I don't want the laptop screen a foot an a half behind the flat screen.\n\nAny one have any ideas or cheap products to do this? ", "DIY Laptop Stand to make laptop second monitor. I have a flat screen monitor at work and would like to have my laptop be the second monitor but on top of the flat screen. I am looking to open the laptop so it is almost flat and hide the keyboard behind the flat screen. Then, hopefully, have the monitor right above the flat screen. Finally I want the laptop screen as close to me as possible, meaning I don't want the laptop screen a foot an a half behind the flat screen.\n\nAny one have any ideas or cheap products to do this? " ]

[ "try affixing a plastic filefolder stand to back of monitor with some holes on side for your periferals. \nPIC: http://www.instructables.com/id/Inexpensive-laptop-stand---Notebook-to-Desktop-co/\n", "So you're going to be using the laptop as the computer? Or are you trying to remove the LCD from the laptop and use it as a secondary monitor on a PC?\n\n", "Get creative with bending some wire coat hangers.\n\nI think you may end up with a balance issue adding that weight to the top of the structure, though." ]

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[ "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots", "How to stay cool when walking in hot weather? Ok, so I walk to and from school each day. The 3.5 mile walk in the morning isn’t bad, but walking home 3.5 miles when it averages at about 109 degrees whilst carrying a heavy backpack is a struggle. Anyone got any tips on how to not f pass out from heat stroke and make the walk home more pleasant? every time I get home I’m dripping sweat and so disoriented/dizzy and I’m seeing spots" ]

[ "Stay hydrated, try to lighten your backpack, wear breathable clothing, use an umbrella, control your breathing and walk a pace that won't raise your heart rate too much. I live in Vegas and walk a snails pace to keep my temp down.", "Get one of those snap cold towels. I think they're like 10 bucks. Bring a bottle of water specifically for the towel. Get it wet, shake and snap it to cool it, wrap around your neck to cool you. Every couple of minutes cool it off again. Should help a little!", "Turn off your air conditioning, use a fan. Don't crank the heater, put on a sweater. Take cool showers. I'm not saying live like you're always outdoors but you need to close the huge gap between your home and nature. Get used to being uncomfortable and you won't suffer so badly the moment you step out of an environment that is perfectly temperature controlled. I promise that you will toughen up quickly and you won't be flattened by some rough weather. You won't want to go back", "The importance of staying hydrated can't be understated. You know you're hydrated enough when your pee is clear. \n\nAlso bring healthy snacks to give you energy.", "I carry a UV parasol (the word literally means \"for sun\") and use it on sunny days. If it's a day where you'd be cooler standing in the shade, use the parasol.", "Use an umbrella. It’s more coverage than a hat. Your head stays cooler. And you’re prepared for sun or rain all year round.", "Regularly swap the backpack to the front and vice versa. When your back is hot and the pack is heavy, moving it to the front means you use different muscles so it will give your back muscles a break, plus if the back of your shirt is damp, it will feel cool against your body. When the pack gets heavy at the front, move it to the back for a while. And stay well hydrated as others have said, as dehydration makes you feel tired and can make you dizzy.", "If you can, pack a few extra shirts. When the one you’re wearing becomes saturated with sweat, put on a new one. The dry shirt will pull moisture away from your body and cool you down.", "Dunk a hat in water at the beginning of your walk, ditto the cold wicking towel around your neck and also try a battery powered fan that you can wear around your neck that blows air up. It's kind of like a personal A/C. Keep a water bottle with a lot of ice in it and keep the hat and towel wet with cold water. Take lots of breaks in the shade." ]

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[ "How to keep desk organized? I have one of those 3 sided desks and I cannot keep it clean. Every 3 or so months I clean it out and reorganize everything, but things always end up in random drawers, there's trash everywhere, etc.\n\n", "How to keep desk organized? I have one of those 3 sided desks and I cannot keep it clean. Every 3 or so months I clean it out and reorganize everything, but things always end up in random drawers, there's trash everywhere, etc.\n\n", "How to keep desk organized? I have one of those 3 sided desks and I cannot keep it clean. Every 3 or so months I clean it out and reorganize everything, but things always end up in random drawers, there's trash everywhere, etc.\n\n", "How to keep desk organized? I have one of those 3 sided desks and I cannot keep it clean. Every 3 or so months I clean it out and reorganize everything, but things always end up in random drawers, there's trash everywhere, etc.\n\n", "How to keep desk organized? I have one of those 3 sided desks and I cannot keep it clean. Every 3 or so months I clean it out and reorganize everything, but things always end up in random drawers, there's trash everywhere, etc.\n\n" ]

[ "First of all, clean the desk every night when you leave it. Have a trashbin close to the desk aswell to minimize the trash on the desk. \n\nIf you fill drawers with tons of random stuff just buy those ones you sort out the cutlery in the kitchen with. (for your drawers ofc)\n\nFor cables, buy cable ties!", "Amen on cable ties. I survived a job of 90 hr/wk chaos by controlling my space by cleaning my desk top before going home. It was my refuge of sanity in the morning, or I would have walked right back out the door and never returned.\n\nNever have more stuff on or in the desk than will actually fit neatly. That sounds dumb, but us clutterhogs are always building skyscrapers of papers and stuffing in one more thing.\n\nNever allow trash to sit anywhere but in the trashcan. There is zero reason for that. The trashcan is *there* - use it. Open your mail over a trashcan to get rid of anything you don't need to keep. Have a file for each bill type. When a new catalog comes in, ditch the old one, no excuses.\n\nWhen you clean, keep half the desk top empty. Do not completely fill any drawer. Keep one drawer or box for things that can go on the desk but you can put away when not needed. When you get used to neat, you actually get to like it.\n\nWhen new crap comes in, old crap must leave to make a space for it.\n\nAlso, loose gear is not as loose when it has its own containers, from plastic pencil boxes to cookie tins (love the squared ones). Anything that doesn't have a file or container goes in the trash.\n\nHope that helps!", "Why such a large desk? A desk wants to be covered in stuff so get a desk that is only large enough to meet your needs. Then, follow the other advice about keeping a trash bin nearby and cleaning off your desk each night. ", "I work with a professor who does this. \n\nLike other responders said - discard stuff that you don't need right away. Have a recycle bin and trash bin close-by. \n\nUse small bins/containers from the dollar store or cut the lid off of boxes as a temporary measure to wrangle paper clips. You can use jars inside your desk to keep pens/pencils.\n\nUse a vertical file to hold folders and papers. Take an extra moment to organize papers into file folders, put them together with binder clips, and label everything clearly. \n\nGather cords with the plastic crimps from bread bags or cable ties or binder clips.", "I suck at that, but the only thing that helps is getting rid of paper. I try not to accept any handouts at meetings. Or, at least, file them in the recycling bin. Virtually everything is easier to reference online or in a digital file.The worst are people who print out their awful Power Point presentations. Some things I don't want to remember." ]

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[ "How to bargain for price in street/no fixed price markets? So I have come to a new country and the sellers here ask for way too much than the normal price for random stuff(clothes,grocery etc). \n\nSo how do I bargain with them for getting a cheaper price? ", "How to bargain for price in street/no fixed price markets? So I have come to a new country and the sellers here ask for way too much than the normal price for random stuff(clothes,grocery etc). \n\nSo how do I bargain with them for getting a cheaper price? ", "How to bargain for price in street/no fixed price markets? So I have come to a new country and the sellers here ask for way too much than the normal price for random stuff(clothes,grocery etc). \n\nSo how do I bargain with them for getting a cheaper price? " ]

[ "Always be willing to walk away. Start lower than you are willing to pay (much lower, depending on the lengths that they are used to haggling) and work your way up a little at a time until you reach a price in the middle. If they refuse to budge at any point and that’s more than you are willing to pay, just walk away. You can always come back if you need, but 9 times out of 10 if it’s a fair price and they want to make the sale, they will call you back and say “okay, okay, okay!” ", "Most hagglers start of at asking around 75% to twice the price they hope to sell at so came back offering about 25 to 30% of what their asking provide is and negotiate from there. \n\nAny deviation from the norm in terms of quality, size, etc work in your favor to lower the expected price of the sale. The entire process is a give and take. The more sellers that have what you want the more likely you are to pay a fair price. The fewer sellers there are that have what you want to more your price will sway from high or low, after all not many people want what you're buying but also not many people are selling what you want.\n\nSee if you can find some local friends yo shop with as well as many sellers with try to \"tax tourists\" and having someone from the area means you'll have someone who knows what the average price should be.", "Ask the price, and just sit there, in silence for a second. It will feel super awkward, and they'll want to break the silence, generally by going lower." ]

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[ "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about ", "How to meet a certain person you see sometimes at work/school/outside but have never talked to or know nothing about " ]

[ "Unless movies have been lying to me all this time, you need to have a big file of loose papers and then drop them as you bump into that person. You will both laugh and they will help you pick up the papers and then you can ask them to have a coffee.", "Say \"Hey, Do you want to hang out?\"\n\nThere was this girl, I was really shy and was thinking about what trick I could use to ask her out, but I holded my balls and went straight to ask her out, she looked happy and surprised by my confidence and slowly say \"oh you are so sweet but I have a boyfriend\", i was kind of disappointed but all my female friends were really amused and said that it would be hard to say no to a guy that even when they know is akward he gets brave enough to ask them out, so I decided that being direct was gonna be my strategy, the next time I did this with another girl I got the date and it was the last one because she is my girlfrined now.", "Ask them a question. \"Hey, do you know any good lunch places around here?\" Then introduce yourself to the whole group: \"Thanks. I'm [name], by the way. I work in the [xxx] department.\"\n\nFrom there, you can wave/say hi the next time you see them, and then initiate small talk by telling them you tried out one of the suggested restaurants and what you thought of it. It's a bonus if you do this both to the person you want to get to know and to their friend that was with them. ", "One of the best feelings in the word is the moment after you do something that scares you and realise it wasn't that bad after all. \n\nJust walk up to the person and say \"Hi, I've seen you around....\" then follow up with a question relating to what they do or are doing like \"so you work in HR, right?\" OR \" You're in Mr Smith's science class\". Wait for them to answer and start a conversation. \n\nThe real question here is, what is your end-game? Are you attracted to them? Do you need something from them? \nKeep it simple, smile and when you're done tell them it was nice meeting them and you'll see them around. Good luck.", "I find myself in this situation quite a bit. \n\n First thing to realize is that *both* of you have never bothered talking to each other, so don't feel like you've neglected them. Also, don't expect a non-awkward moment. Try having some excitement/energy -- it's good for dissipating potentially awkward moments.\n\nSo it boils down to these options\n\n1. Talk to them as if you've already spoken before on an acquaintance level. There's already some level of familiarity between you two.\n* If you need to approach them for a work/class related reason, then it's fine to simply open up with \"Hey, can I ask you a question about whatever?\". Bonus points if you don't have to ask whether he/she is in your class at school.\n* The simple introductory method: \"Oh hey, what's your name?\" ... they answer... \"Nice to meet ya! I'm blahblah.\" \nThen you can ask them something if it interests you, or not say anything at all. Don't be disingenuous.\n\n", "I would say the most discreet way. Incase you're not sure if \"they\" like you. Is...\n\nCoincidence. Questions like if youre both casually standing in the hallway. \"How do you like this class?\" \"What do you think about X(Boss, friend)\" Non-awkward conversation starter. Based on their reaction, you'll get the cue if they are interested in talking to you, or not. Casually continue the conversation. Then at the climax of the conversation ask them out \"want to hang out sometime?\" Avoid drawing out the conversation, more chances for a mistake. And first impressions are crucifying. \n\nBased on their answer. If they say yes, you better have thought of something casual to-do and a time. Set a date. Next friday evening. Like a movie, or a simple eat out place. Or you can just exchange numbers and communicate about it later. But make sure a date was set. Then exit with a \"It was nice talking to you, see you next Friday.\" \n\nIf they said No. Whatever their reason is, do not ask why etc. Just say \"It's alright, thanks for your time.\" And exit.\n\n", "just walk up and say hi. how are you. don't hang out, go with a purpose. and ask her out. simple. just jump off the high dive for once. ", "You could also try to find them on FaceBook and talk to them that way.\n\nLast year when it was Christmas there was this girl that catched my eye but I was kind of nervous to talk to her, but after school she added me on Facebook and I started and was direct with messaging her and you basically just talk to that person who you have a eye on in what they are interested, if you have the same interests, ... We had a relationship but it ended after a few months.\n\nWhat I just want to say is if you just grab your balls and just go for it you'll never know what you can achieve.", "Try to incorporate some sort of humor in your conversations, but don't try too hard. It's a huge mood changer." ]

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[ "How to avoid getting food caught in your braces I've had braces for a little while now. I first got them when I was in elementary school, but only for my front teeth. If I ever got food caught in them then, I could just run my tongue over them real quick and remove it like that.\n\nA couple months ago I got braces along *ALL* my teeth, with bands connecting all of them. It sucks when I eat food because I get stuff caught in the front and back braces. The ones near my molars are the worst, because the food will just get caught up near the top above all of them, and it will just cake up there, unable to be removed with my tongue.\n\nI have one of [these](http://blog.saxeortho.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/shutterstock_101867857.jpg) things but sweet jesus almighty does it take forever to clean out all my teeth, not to mention I would have to go to the bathroom to use it while in public. Sometimes I don't have the time to do that.\n\nIt's gotten to the point where directly after lunch at school everyday, I bring my backpack to the bathroom and brush my teeth just to clean them out. I'm even afraid to go on dates with my girlfriend to restaurants, just so I don't have anything embarrassingly caught in my braces! Please help.\n\n**TL;DR Braces along all teeth, food gets caught in between them and up above the ones on my molars. Incredibly embarrassing and a pain to try and clean with bristles or toothbrushes when in public.**", "How to avoid getting food caught in your braces I've had braces for a little while now. I first got them when I was in elementary school, but only for my front teeth. If I ever got food caught in them then, I could just run my tongue over them real quick and remove it like that.\n\nA couple months ago I got braces along *ALL* my teeth, with bands connecting all of them. It sucks when I eat food because I get stuff caught in the front and back braces. The ones near my molars are the worst, because the food will just get caught up near the top above all of them, and it will just cake up there, unable to be removed with my tongue.\n\nI have one of [these](http://blog.saxeortho.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/shutterstock_101867857.jpg) things but sweet jesus almighty does it take forever to clean out all my teeth, not to mention I would have to go to the bathroom to use it while in public. Sometimes I don't have the time to do that.\n\nIt's gotten to the point where directly after lunch at school everyday, I bring my backpack to the bathroom and brush my teeth just to clean them out. I'm even afraid to go on dates with my girlfriend to restaurants, just so I don't have anything embarrassingly caught in my braces! Please help.\n\n**TL;DR Braces along all teeth, food gets caught in between them and up above the ones on my molars. Incredibly embarrassing and a pain to try and clean with bristles or toothbrushes when in public.**" ]

[ "Use wax. Use a whole bunch of it, and it should prevent any food/junk getting stuck in your braces. It should come off really easily as well, and just throw it in the trash, the stuff is cheap. You can get it at Walgreens/Walmart, etc. I had braces for a few years and this really seemed to help. ", "Teach yourself to chew with your back teeth. And eat things that don't require biting with your front teeth (pasta, salad, fork/finger foods?). When I had mine, I never bit into food. If I was eating a sand which, I would break smaller pieces off with my fingers and eat it that way. I almost never had food caught in the front of my braces, which was my only concern." ]

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[ "I've been having trouble with time management while getting ready for work in the morning, and am ending up late/barely on time no matter how early I get up. ", "I've been having trouble with time management while getting ready for work in the morning, and am ending up late/barely on time no matter how early I get up. ", "I've been having trouble with time management while getting ready for work in the morning, and am ending up late/barely on time no matter how early I get up. ", "I've been having trouble with time management while getting ready for work in the morning, and am ending up late/barely on time no matter how early I get up. ", "I've been having trouble with time management while getting ready for work in the morning, and am ending up late/barely on time no matter how early I get up. ", "I've been having trouble with time management while getting ready for work in the morning, and am ending up late/barely on time no matter how early I get up. ", "I've been having trouble with time management while getting ready for work in the morning, and am ending up late/barely on time no matter how early I get up. " ]

[ "Sounds like you need alarms for leaving?\n\nWhen I have to go somewhere, I set an alarm that’s 10 minutes longer than the time to get to that location. It’s a last minute reminder to head out the door.\n\nAgain, not an alarm to wake up, an alarm to let you know the time.", "Sounds like you are doing way too much in the morings. i set my alarm for 6am, snooze it till 6:10 most days, and i get up and get ready in 10 min cause i have to be out the door at 6:20. hard to get distracted or too relaxed when i only have a few min to be out the door for work. you are doing too much.", "Write out a morning list/schedule on a piece of paper. It will help to keep you on track. Don’t get side tracked. Do everything in order every morning.", "Limit your morning time, restrict the activities to essentials and self correct on deviations. DONT check messages, social.media etc. Getting ready for work is part of the job, treat it like your job.", "If you're that easily distracted in the morning and you need loads of alarms you're probably not getting enough sleep to wake up feeling refreshed. Try having a cup of chamomile tea and going to bed an hour or so earlier.", "The things you are running late to....do you not really enjoy them? Or do you not like leaving your house right now? Some people are great at finding distractions or procrastinating before having to do uncomfortable or unenjoyable things. \n\nPoint being, you may be trying to cure the symptoms and not treat the ‘disease’ by asking about time saving tricks for the mornings", "Your problem is you get side tracked. Don't get side tracked. Have your list of things to do which you complete before other things can get a look in." ]

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[ "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!", "how to sound nicer when talking to people. I'm a high school student working in fast food and my manager says I don't sound courteous enough when talking to customers. Thanks in advance guys!" ]

[ "Smile more. I assume you're at the register. When a person comes up to the counter say, \"Hello, what can I get for you?\" with a smile on your face. When they're done with their order say, \"Is there anything else I can get you today?\" When you give them their food say, \"have a nice day\" and smile. You're working fast food. People are going to be dicks to you because they think you are beneath them. I've been there. As long as you keep a smile plastered on your face, you'll be fine.\n\n", "I was also told this by my manager when I first started working customer service. Basically, I was a bit blunt I guess with customers at times. \n\nWhat I learnt was to always smile, say please / thank you and just be yourself. Don't say herpy derby phrases if they don't sound natural to you, i.e.. \"Have a GREAT day! :D\" instead say something like, \"Thanks, see you next time :)\" . Not everything has to sound like you just got spun from a perfect employee factory. Just be natural but always be polite. ", "Manners. It seems like a motherly thing to say, but making manners a habit really helps in all social situations. Remember your 'please' and 'thank you's, and a smile with eye contact never hurt.", "Listening also has the benefit of coming off as a nicer person. Let the other person finishing speaking, never cut them off. If you do have to interject, the \"one minute,\" finger is usually a good visual sign that you're about to engage, giving the other person time to finish their thought but be ready for you to share yours.", "Pretend that your actually happy to be talking to the person, that smiling thing people keep mentioning and raise the pitch of your voice a bit above normal.", "Eye contact is really important. If someone avoids my eyes, I instantly think they're shady (and probably shouldn't be handling my food). I would be sure to try to make eye contact with each person at least once. Nodding when they speak can also be helpful, as it's a sign of active listening. ", "Body language plays a big part of it. Make eye contact, slightly raise your eyebrows which helps denote being open/listening, and do not cross your arms. ", "If you're male, pitch your voice up and try to go down on the end of sentences (eww). This helps you a) sound less grumpy and b) focus more on other parts of your speech, like annunciation and word choice.", "If you have a high IQ do not be nice to people. They are your servants. Learn to manipulate everyone. If you have a low Iq why the fuck are you being mean to people?" ]

[ 9, 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, -3 ]

[ "What is the best way to start a task? I know the various things like \"break down a big task into little chunks,\" and \"doing a little bit each day is a lot easier\" etc, but I don't know of any tips to help out *actually starting.* Any help?\n\n", "What is the best way to start a task? I know the various things like \"break down a big task into little chunks,\" and \"doing a little bit each day is a lot easier\" etc, but I don't know of any tips to help out *actually starting.* Any help?\n\n", "What is the best way to start a task? I know the various things like \"break down a big task into little chunks,\" and \"doing a little bit each day is a lot easier\" etc, but I don't know of any tips to help out *actually starting.* Any help?\n\n", "What is the best way to start a task? I know the various things like \"break down a big task into little chunks,\" and \"doing a little bit each day is a lot easier\" etc, but I don't know of any tips to help out *actually starting.* Any help?\n\n", "What is the best way to start a task? I know the various things like \"break down a big task into little chunks,\" and \"doing a little bit each day is a lot easier\" etc, but I don't know of any tips to help out *actually starting.* Any help?\n\n", "What is the best way to start a task? I know the various things like \"break down a big task into little chunks,\" and \"doing a little bit each day is a lot easier\" etc, but I don't know of any tips to help out *actually starting.* Any help?\n\n" ]

[ "I talk it out. I just tell myself what I need to do and how to do it. I then try to do that. More often than not, I'm just overwhelmed by the tasks. Talking it out really helps.", "Make a deal with yourself. Say \"ill take an x minute/hour break once I get x far into my project.\" Then you have something to work toward that you'll enjoy", "I’ve found that once I’ve broken my tasks down into the smallest chunks I need (sometimes this is: collect laundry, put laundry in washer, put laundry in dryer, etc..) I sit back and look at the whole list. What’s the easiest to get done? What can get done with the least amount of anxiety? Start small. It’s ok if you only get one thing checked off - but physically check it off. The mini dopamine rush will feel great accomplishing that first task, and that should hopefully help you feel ready to go onto the next task. But do it at your pace - sometimes just making your bed is all you need to accomplish in a day. :D", "I have a planner that I really like. I put stickers in it and have special pens for it and everything! I write down appointments and due dates on the monthly pages, and then a to do list and an hourly schedule on the daily pages. I love checking off boxes and decorating my pages. I’m a little oddly obsessed, but it’s the only way I can keep my life together.", "Not sure if you are referring to every day life. But..I read a book about this and they said make your bed in the morning. That little task will make you wanna do more since you are already moving. I swear it works.", "Just start doing things. Don't know where to start? Just pick a place and start there. You'll start building momentum and use that to keep you going." ]

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[ "Got a small cockroach problem, help me find the master plan to keep these shits out I've moved up to Davis, CA. It's super hot out here and I guess roach problems are a common thing.\n\nI'm from the Bay Area and never had issues with this, so these god damn roaches freak me out. After my first few weeks her, I've seen them dead in my garage. Maybe like a total of 10 dead ones in the past month. I also see them outside on really hot days. So far, nothing in my house but I'm crossing my fingers.\n\nI have the Advion gel stuff. I put some in front of my house and in front of my garage, and I was good in the garage for about a month. It just got super hot here last week and I started to notice some dead / half dead in the garage. So it seems like I have to re-apply this every month or so, or do a better job the first time around.\n\nMy question is, where should I be putting the Advion gel? So far, I've made a shield around my home and never put it actually in the inside of my garage, but put it on the outside and around my lawn. \n\nShould I be putting it INSIDE my garage too? I feel like they're coming from outside somewhere and into my garage. I don't want to get them all swarming in my garage.\n", "Got a small cockroach problem, help me find the master plan to keep these shits out I've moved up to Davis, CA. It's super hot out here and I guess roach problems are a common thing.\n\nI'm from the Bay Area and never had issues with this, so these god damn roaches freak me out. After my first few weeks her, I've seen them dead in my garage. Maybe like a total of 10 dead ones in the past month. I also see them outside on really hot days. So far, nothing in my house but I'm crossing my fingers.\n\nI have the Advion gel stuff. I put some in front of my house and in front of my garage, and I was good in the garage for about a month. It just got super hot here last week and I started to notice some dead / half dead in the garage. So it seems like I have to re-apply this every month or so, or do a better job the first time around.\n\nMy question is, where should I be putting the Advion gel? So far, I've made a shield around my home and never put it actually in the inside of my garage, but put it on the outside and around my lawn. \n\nShould I be putting it INSIDE my garage too? I feel like they're coming from outside somewhere and into my garage. I don't want to get them all swarming in my garage.\n", "Got a small cockroach problem, help me find the master plan to keep these shits out I've moved up to Davis, CA. It's super hot out here and I guess roach problems are a common thing.\n\nI'm from the Bay Area and never had issues with this, so these god damn roaches freak me out. After my first few weeks her, I've seen them dead in my garage. Maybe like a total of 10 dead ones in the past month. I also see them outside on really hot days. So far, nothing in my house but I'm crossing my fingers.\n\nI have the Advion gel stuff. I put some in front of my house and in front of my garage, and I was good in the garage for about a month. It just got super hot here last week and I started to notice some dead / half dead in the garage. So it seems like I have to re-apply this every month or so, or do a better job the first time around.\n\nMy question is, where should I be putting the Advion gel? So far, I've made a shield around my home and never put it actually in the inside of my garage, but put it on the outside and around my lawn. \n\nShould I be putting it INSIDE my garage too? I feel like they're coming from outside somewhere and into my garage. I don't want to get them all swarming in my garage.\n", "Got a small cockroach problem, help me find the master plan to keep these shits out I've moved up to Davis, CA. It's super hot out here and I guess roach problems are a common thing.\n\nI'm from the Bay Area and never had issues with this, so these god damn roaches freak me out. After my first few weeks her, I've seen them dead in my garage. Maybe like a total of 10 dead ones in the past month. I also see them outside on really hot days. So far, nothing in my house but I'm crossing my fingers.\n\nI have the Advion gel stuff. I put some in front of my house and in front of my garage, and I was good in the garage for about a month. It just got super hot here last week and I started to notice some dead / half dead in the garage. So it seems like I have to re-apply this every month or so, or do a better job the first time around.\n\nMy question is, where should I be putting the Advion gel? So far, I've made a shield around my home and never put it actually in the inside of my garage, but put it on the outside and around my lawn. \n\nShould I be putting it INSIDE my garage too? I feel like they're coming from outside somewhere and into my garage. I don't want to get them all swarming in my garage.\n" ]

[ "Boric Acid Powder - go to your local pharmacy and get some from them. Sprinkle a thin layer of it in every nook and cranny of your house. After 2 weeks of seeing dead cockroaches everywhere, you will never see them again. \n\nGoogle it and do some research on it. One 500 g jar of this stuff cost be $16 at the pharmacy and has lasted me about 2 years.", "Roaches suck,grew up in southern Cal and they were everywhere yes run a strip around your inside garage walls,And yes stay on top of it realize for every one you see there are 20 more.Watch under the sink,the fridge,and any pantries or dry food storage.Watch pet food areas,keeping those areas clean will keep them away.Good luck.", "Make sure all your food is in air tight containers. They can and will get into boxes and open bags (like chip bags). Spray all the entryways on the outside and, be cautious if you have pets. Do not leave dirty dishes out, clean them or put them into the dishwasher asap. If there's food they will go for that instead of the gel, at least that's what an exterminator told me. If you have a keurig you'll want to switch to a regular coffee maker as they love to infest coffee makers that stay warm constantly (this happened to us, we don't even have the infesting kind). Spray under appliances that you can and under kitchen cabinets if possible (again err of safety of pets and children). We manage to keep ours out of the house for the most part but we keep on top of it, they are a problem for our whole neighborhood and got worse last year when 2 neighbors tented their houses. And yes, apply the gel in the garage, spray in there as well if you can. ", "In the mid west we've used boric acid mixed in peanut butter. We would take a straw and stab them in the mixture until it was about full and we cut it into inch pieces.\nPlace the pieces on a small paper plate and place it somewhere like under the fridge or the back of a cupboard just make sure it's away from your food and where pets and children won't get into it.\nAlso if you keep the peanut butter jar with the boric acid in it make sure to clearly label it and store it safely.\n\nThe straw and plate should keep your fingers out of the mess. The boric acid being mixed doesn't always get them instantly too, but that lets them bring some home and take out the nest." ]

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[ "How to reduce or get rid of Dandruff I've tried the no shampoo method and have used many dandruff shampoos but none seem to work.", "How to reduce or get rid of Dandruff I've tried the no shampoo method and have used many dandruff shampoos but none seem to work.", "How to reduce or get rid of Dandruff I've tried the no shampoo method and have used many dandruff shampoos but none seem to work.", "How to reduce or get rid of Dandruff I've tried the no shampoo method and have used many dandruff shampoos but none seem to work.", "How to reduce or get rid of Dandruff I've tried the no shampoo method and have used many dandruff shampoos but none seem to work.", "How to reduce or get rid of Dandruff I've tried the no shampoo method and have used many dandruff shampoos but none seem to work." ]

[ "Find out what is causing the dandruff. It might be seborrhea dermatitis, psoriasis, or maybe a fungal infection. Each one would be a different kind of treatment so before you go out and buy all the different kinds of shampoos go and see a Dermatologist. In the meantime when you shower take a comb and loosen up the dead skin. That will at least lessen the problem until you can see a professional. ", "2 thoughts:\n\n1 if you use selsun blue, try head & shoulders... and vice versa. \nthey have different chemicals. If neither of those work, (they didn't for me. in fact, i think they made it worse!) try a variety of \"coal tar\" shampoo. that's what ultimately worked for me. use it every other day for a week, then switch to every four days, then once a week, then less as needed. Don't let it soak in, just wash really well, then rinse as usual, then use a very light conditioner, you'll need it.\n\n2 i would get bad dandruff recurring if i let my hair air-dry... now even if i'm in a rush, i dry the roots really well with a hairdryer, on medium-to-high heat, and the dandruff never happens anymore. If i let it airdry, my scalp gets flaky... which may be dry scalp or may be dandruff, but either way, it's not a good thing to happen.\n\ngood luck.", "The presence of flakes can be indicative of different problems, each with a different treatment. You can either self-diagnose or see a dermatologist. ", "One thing that I found that helped me was to rub a bit of moisturiser into my scalp. (When my hair is longish I can't really do this but, strangely, I also have less dandruff when it's longer.)\n", "Head and Shoulders Clinical Strength works very well, give it a try, it should be gone within a week. Tea Tree Oil also helps. Good luck!", "I had HORRIBLE dandruff. I went back and forth with Selsun blue and head and shoulders. After the 4th bottle (2 selsun and 2 head) it finally went away.\n\nUse cooler water and if you want to, you could cut your hair super short, much easier to take care of the problem that way." ]

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[ "How to keep your A/C from freezing up. It's summer, the a/c is set to 78ish and it freezes up pretty often. Is there any way to keep it from freezing up other than raising the temperature.", "How to keep your A/C from freezing up. It's summer, the a/c is set to 78ish and it freezes up pretty often. Is there any way to keep it from freezing up other than raising the temperature." ]

[ "Freezing up is caused by 2 things.\n\nLack of airflow and low refrigerant.\n\nAirflow:\nChange filter first.\n\nOpen all your vents. lots of people close all vents in basement and rooms not occupied, closing a few shouldn't matter but if you are shutting to many of them you will be restricting airflow.\n\nMake sure return air vents aren't covered with furniture.\n\nRefrigerant\nNot much you can do other as a homeowner to check this.\n10 minutes after AC turns on larger probably insulated line should be \"beer can cold\" if it gets really cold fast its an airflow issue, if its to warm it could be low on refrigerant until it starts to freeze up then it would be cold.\n\ncheck your airflow first\n\n", "Check out the [MERV rating](http://www.furnacefiltercare.com/merv-ratings.php) on your furnace filter. If the rating is too high, the reduced airflow can cause the AC to freeze up." ]

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[ "How to get cheesy smell out of polyester shirts? I bought an expensive 100% polyester sports shirt, only to find that when I washed it, it smelt like stale cheese because bacteria had grown whilst it had dried. Is there any way you can stop this from happening?", "How to get cheesy smell out of polyester shirts? I bought an expensive 100% polyester sports shirt, only to find that when I washed it, it smelt like stale cheese because bacteria had grown whilst it had dried. Is there any way you can stop this from happening?" ]

[ "I hate when this happens. Maybe hand wash it with dish soap/washing up liquid? That's a bit of an old tip my grandmother used to tell us. Make sure you really rinse it out well and dry it near radiator or out in the sun. ", "Dry it quickly so the bacteria don't have time to grow. Turn up your heating or dry in a tumble drier" ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with irrational family members? My mother can do no wrong, yet when others make a mistake, she is mad for days, and goes on looooonnnngggg tirades about their mistakes of the past. \n\n\nHer temper is legendary in our family, and the reason for her frequent tantrums are usually stupid and irrational.\n\n\n I have over 2 years to continue living with her before I can move out. How can I deal with her irrationality without creating some drastic, totally irreversible consequence (like her disowning me, or holding a lifetime grudge which is totally possible) ?", "How to deal with irrational family members? My mother can do no wrong, yet when others make a mistake, she is mad for days, and goes on looooonnnngggg tirades about their mistakes of the past. \n\n\nHer temper is legendary in our family, and the reason for her frequent tantrums are usually stupid and irrational.\n\n\n I have over 2 years to continue living with her before I can move out. How can I deal with her irrationality without creating some drastic, totally irreversible consequence (like her disowning me, or holding a lifetime grudge which is totally possible) ?" ]

[ "You can't pick your relatives, but you can always pick your family.\n\nGet toxic influences out of your life as soon as you can. If she disowns you or holds a lifetime grudge, you need not care.\n\nSorry about the next two years. Save your nickels now.", "I was, and I am still in your situation for (38 more days) You've been living with her long enough to predict her tantrums or know what sets her off. Take all means to avoid what trips her wire, or if you see it coming, LEAVE and go to a friends house for a couple hours. Its never going to change. But this may make it a little better until your countdown of 2 years reaches zero. \nJust say yes, agree and don't act passive aggressive as it will make things worse. If its really that bad, something I do is throw headphones on and play music, do not give her any fuel to use against you. I feel for you, and it sucks man. " ]

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[ "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late.", "Things you need in a new home that people often over look. I am moving out soon and I just want to make a list of things I will need. Forget obvious things like a fridge and a bed, I mean things that you may not think of until it's too late." ]

[ "The internet!!! \n\nMoving into a new place then waiting a week for the interwebs people to install your access to Reddit is.... painful. \n\nSchedule that appointment now ;) ", "I realize that this is almost the opposite of what you asked for, but hear me out.\n\nMake that list, keep it handy. Don't buy all this stuff until after you move in. Pack a suitcase like you are going out of town for a week. Use that. You now have literally everything you need for a week. Use that week to do the shopping.\n\nIdentify your best source for household necessities. Ideally it will be close by your new place. If you can do without it for a week or so, you can order on the internet and get exactly what you want/need. If you need it right away, just run over and get a serviceable whatever. \n\nThe point here is that a new home will have it's own personality. You may need towels but not have storage for them. You may find that paper blinds won't work with the morning sun in the bedroom. You may need a short trash can to fit under the sink. But being there and being able to measure and adjust will save you tons of irritation. \n\nTo me the thing you want to optimize on moving is stress, and that you want to minimize. Figure that you are going to be eating take out for several days. Don't plan on throwing that housewarming party for a couple of weeks. Pack clothes, a full dob/makeup kit, and know where your towel is. \n\nIn Mark Twain's words: \"Two moves equals a fire\", and in my own words \"You don't plan a move, you surf it.\"", "A basic toolkit. There always be something to fix, unpack, reassemble, remove, put up, unscrew, loosen, tighten etc.\nBEFORE you move and if you disassemble furniture: put all removed screws and nails in a plastic bag and tape it to the side of the respective furniture it belongs to. It saves a lot of time. (Ikea puzzle)", "Assuming you're moving into a completely unfurnished place:\n\n- Toilet paper and plunger. Nothing worse than moving in, and realizing there's no toilet paper in the bathroom on day one!\n\n- Hand soap for your bathroom and/or kitchen.\n\n- Shower curtain. No shower for you unless you want water everywhere. A bathmat would also be a good idea at this point.\n\n- Window covering. Try falling asleep in an unfamiliar place with no drapes at night, nope.\n\n- An xacto knife for unpacking boxes.\n\n- Basic dishes: couple plates, bowls, cutlery, cups, one large pot, one small pot, and a frying pan - you can always expand later after this. I personally like having a kettle as well for hot water.\n\n- A can opener and a pair of scissors, also for your kitchen.\n\n- Garbage bins: a small one for your bathroom, and a large one for the kitchen - recycling and compost can come later.\n\n- Garbage bags (unpacking can also be a good time to get rid of useless stuff - donate the things you no longer need or want!)\n\n- Cleaning products and gloves. Not sure where you're moving into, but I've moved into some cheap/filthy places before, where I definitely wanted to scrub the shower/baseboards/etc before putting my stuff in. All-purpose cleaner, glass cleaner, or whatever natural products you like will do fine. Also, dish soap!\n\nThat's all I can think of off the top of my head - if I think of anything else I'll add more. Good luck with the move!", "My wife and I bought and a new home and definitely underestimated the important of blinds / window coverings.", "Door mats... Pack them in the front seat of the car (with the toilet paper hand soap and paper towels) . The doormats will stop you from dragging in tons of dirt as you move in saving you from starting out on the wrong foot keeping the place clean. I forgot this on my last move and used my car mats it worked well enough as we were moving on a snowy day and it kept us from dragging in lots of salt. The dollar tree is a great place for these and cleaning supplies you will need ", "Light bulbs\nTrash cans (especially important if you move to a bigger place)\nGarbage bags for those cans\nCleaners (If you had hardwood floors before and carpet now, you might want stain remover.)\nCurtains - Windows may have dramatically different dimensions.\nSurge protectors, extensions cords, and adapters (important especially if you move to an older building.)\nCabinet racks, shelving, drawer inserts, et cetera", "Charger for your smart phone. Nothing worse than trying to remember which box you packed your charger in as your batt runs down. ", "Basic toolkit containing hammer,screwdrivers and pliers, always useful (also basic drill with drils for wood and stone, very useful)", "- Good toolkit w/ carrying case\n- Insect spray\n- Garbage bigs, 3x more than you think you'll need\n- plungers\n- cleaning supply kit (preferably with a carry case)\n- toiletry kit\n\nSome other issues:\n\n- Have the HVAC, electrical & water heater checked out by a trusted service professional. Do not rely on the home inspector's report. It's easier to have this stuff serviced before you move in. \n\n- If you want anything cleaned or repaired, it's easier to do before you move in. You don't have to worry about being there if you haven't moved in yet.\n\n- Schedule the telephone / internet / television service for the day before move in. Schedule a follow up for a few weeks after (so you can move the jacks, if need be.)\n\n- Schedule an appointment for an alarm installer for a few weeks after the move. The installer can move jacks, hide wires, etc. The good ones book up fast. Give yourself some time to figure out where you some stuff.\n\n" ]

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[ "GF obsessed with picking her toenails. How to make her stop? It's usually when she's focusing on something like a TV-show. When the nail is short enough, she just continues on the skin around the nail. I'm afraid she might get an infection some time soon. She understands the obsession, and I usually manage to snap her out of it, but I'm not always around. It's been going on for a few years now I think. Only time she doesn't pick them is when she has fake nails on (acrylics), which she rarely does anymore because of the price. There must be something she can do?", "GF obsessed with picking her toenails. How to make her stop? It's usually when she's focusing on something like a TV-show. When the nail is short enough, she just continues on the skin around the nail. I'm afraid she might get an infection some time soon. She understands the obsession, and I usually manage to snap her out of it, but I'm not always around. It's been going on for a few years now I think. Only time she doesn't pick them is when she has fake nails on (acrylics), which she rarely does anymore because of the price. There must be something she can do?", "GF obsessed with picking her toenails. How to make her stop? It's usually when she's focusing on something like a TV-show. When the nail is short enough, she just continues on the skin around the nail. I'm afraid she might get an infection some time soon. She understands the obsession, and I usually manage to snap her out of it, but I'm not always around. It's been going on for a few years now I think. Only time she doesn't pick them is when she has fake nails on (acrylics), which she rarely does anymore because of the price. There must be something she can do?", "GF obsessed with picking her toenails. How to make her stop? It's usually when she's focusing on something like a TV-show. When the nail is short enough, she just continues on the skin around the nail. I'm afraid she might get an infection some time soon. She understands the obsession, and I usually manage to snap her out of it, but I'm not always around. It's been going on for a few years now I think. Only time she doesn't pick them is when she has fake nails on (acrylics), which she rarely does anymore because of the price. There must be something she can do?", "GF obsessed with picking her toenails. How to make her stop? It's usually when she's focusing on something like a TV-show. When the nail is short enough, she just continues on the skin around the nail. I'm afraid she might get an infection some time soon. She understands the obsession, and I usually manage to snap her out of it, but I'm not always around. It's been going on for a few years now I think. Only time she doesn't pick them is when she has fake nails on (acrylics), which she rarely does anymore because of the price. There must be something she can do?" ]

[ "Start picking her toenails too.\n\n\nReal answer: I pick at my fingernails or toenails all day and have my whole life. Can't stop. I don't pick at my toenails if I'm wearing socks though. Get her to wear socks.", "Get her some playdough, silly putty, small hand toys like rubiks cubes and other twisty turnable toys to play with while watching t.v..A habit with that hands needs a distraction. ", "When she is asleep, use movie makeup on a toe to give her a fake infection to scare her into stopping. ", "My wife has a similar problem when she's stressed. I will often gently take her hand and hold it and she will stop then.", "So buy her acrylic toenails if it bugs you that much. \n\nP.S. seriously sounds like she might have a touch of OCD, particularly if she knows she's doing it. Maybe check out some of the subreddits devoted to dealing with that and see if there's any help there." ]

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[ "how to keep a conversation going? I'm having this problem where me and another person (either online or in real lfie) get awfully quiet until someone breaks the ice, so what questions, phrases, or sentences should I say to keep the person interested in this specific conversation? Especially when to talking to women. ", "how to keep a conversation going? I'm having this problem where me and another person (either online or in real lfie) get awfully quiet until someone breaks the ice, so what questions, phrases, or sentences should I say to keep the person interested in this specific conversation? Especially when to talking to women. ", "how to keep a conversation going? I'm having this problem where me and another person (either online or in real lfie) get awfully quiet until someone breaks the ice, so what questions, phrases, or sentences should I say to keep the person interested in this specific conversation? Especially when to talking to women. ", "how to keep a conversation going? I'm having this problem where me and another person (either online or in real lfie) get awfully quiet until someone breaks the ice, so what questions, phrases, or sentences should I say to keep the person interested in this specific conversation? Especially when to talking to women. ", "how to keep a conversation going? I'm having this problem where me and another person (either online or in real lfie) get awfully quiet until someone breaks the ice, so what questions, phrases, or sentences should I say to keep the person interested in this specific conversation? Especially when to talking to women. " ]

[ "Asking questions is great and all, but it's starts to feel like an interview. Especially with girls, you should convert your questions to an assumption and state it. Saying statements keeps it natural \nFor example \nInstead of \n\"Where are you from? \" \nMumbai.\n \" What do you do? \" \nSome job.\n\" What would you like? \" \nTo get out of this.\n......... \n\nTry: \n\" You look like someone from France.\" \nNo. Mumbai. Why would you say France? \n\" Nothing particular. Could just imagine you painting in a cute French cottage \"\nOh. I hate painting. But I like music. \n\nMore natural \n", "Ask questions. People love to talk about themselves. If you can go on a date and have the other person talk more than you you're doing something right. That's not an absolute - you have to be able to talk about yourself and relate to whatever the person is saying, but it's usually a good start", "Listen with the intention of *understanding* what they're saying rather than *responding*.\n\nAnd talk about something you're interested too, it helps if you're actually interested. Imagine if it was the other way around. You wouldn't want to be talking to someone who is bored.\n\nAlso listening takes energy. It's not just something you passively do. You have to concentrate. Accept that you have to do your part and put the energy into listening and understanding.\n\nHere's a good TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R1vskiVDwl4", "Honestly, the best way to keep a conversation going is to be sincerely interested. If you have to make a list of questions to ask, I guess you could do that, but when you genuinely want to know more about something or someone, ask, listen and learn. If you are actively listening, one thing leads to another. \"Oh, you have a brother? Were you guys close growing up? How about now?\" \nIf you aren't thinking about filling in the quiet, but, rather, who is this other human being, it sort of flows.", "Tell her she's pretty and you want to get food sometime.\nIf she's not down, she'll say she has a bf.\nThat's when you say, \"and I have math hw due tonight but why are we wasting our time listing things we can cheat it on when we could be going out sometime.\"\n\nWorks like a charm" ]

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[ "How to get someone to mind their own business/stop annoying/copying you? I'm sitting next to this girl in class and shes always bugging me. I think shes jealous because I'm better than her academically, because she keeps looking at my paper/stealing my notes/cheating by writing what I'm writing. Shes trying way too hard to be me, she even cheated on a personality test to write the same thing as me. She keeps talking about how OCD she is and dyslexic, which is fine but when I said I had paranoia she immedially also apparently had it, which she doesn't. How can I get her to get off my back?", "How to get someone to mind their own business/stop annoying/copying you? I'm sitting next to this girl in class and shes always bugging me. I think shes jealous because I'm better than her academically, because she keeps looking at my paper/stealing my notes/cheating by writing what I'm writing. Shes trying way too hard to be me, she even cheated on a personality test to write the same thing as me. She keeps talking about how OCD she is and dyslexic, which is fine but when I said I had paranoia she immedially also apparently had it, which she doesn't. How can I get her to get off my back?", "How to get someone to mind their own business/stop annoying/copying you? I'm sitting next to this girl in class and shes always bugging me. I think shes jealous because I'm better than her academically, because she keeps looking at my paper/stealing my notes/cheating by writing what I'm writing. Shes trying way too hard to be me, she even cheated on a personality test to write the same thing as me. She keeps talking about how OCD she is and dyslexic, which is fine but when I said I had paranoia she immedially also apparently had it, which she doesn't. How can I get her to get off my back?" ]

[ "Just sit somewhere else. If the seating is assigned, pull your teacher aside and let them know you're uncomfortable, I'm sure they'll understand.", "sit somewhere else- tell your teacher shes cheating then purposely put all the wrong answers - tell her to stop - ", "When she's copying your test write all the wrong answers. Wait until she turns in her test and changes all your answers to the correct ones. " ]

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[ "How to fix the condensation on my car windshield It seems like whatever I do there's always a growing ring of moisture around the center of my windshield.", "How to fix the condensation on my car windshield It seems like whatever I do there's always a growing ring of moisture around the center of my windshield.", "How to fix the condensation on my car windshield It seems like whatever I do there's always a growing ring of moisture around the center of my windshield.", "How to fix the condensation on my car windshield It seems like whatever I do there's always a growing ring of moisture around the center of my windshield." ]

[ "You might have the recirculation \"on\" on your climate control, or you are blowing a/c at the window, you want to blow a/c from the vents.", "Whilst AC will dry the air in the car, the best options are manual intervention. I'm going to assume the rubber seals are all intact on the car. The upholstery will absorb and hold moisture unless you can get rid of it. Whilst the cat litter or rice in a sock tricks are good, I prefer buying a big bag or two (~500g/1kg) of Silica Gel and leaving that in the car for a while to suck all the moisture out of the air. For a better solution though rent or borrow a dehumidifier, put it in the back or passenger seat running on max and close the door (carefully) on the flex, then leave it there for a couple of hours.", "Turn your front defroster and heat on. Does it smell sweet? Hold a glass of ice in the warm air stream. Does the outside of the glass get really wet? Does the condensation on the windshield you mention not wipe off easily with dry paper towels? If so, you may have a leaky heater core. If only the second applies, you could have a blocked a/c drain.\n", "I used to have a condensation problem in my last car...but the floormats were often not totally dry, and sometimes I had a case of vegetables in the car overnight. It was especially bad in the winter. Do you have the condensation year 'round?" ]

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[ "working efficiently with Outlook 2016 (Can't choose another app or version, workplace standard.)\n\nI do a lot of project management and as an introverted fsck I do it per email not phone calls.\n\nI spend half my life searching for emails, because all day long I send out mails like \"hey I sent you this a week ago, Y U no reply?\" or people ask me \"how is project X going\" then I forward the last mail I sent to the contractor saying \"yeah current status is waiting for reply for this\" and so on. \n\nI saw tricks like some people didn't have everything in one incoming folder but more like folders per sender or something like that. Don't know if it that is a good idea. They created a rule for every main sender?\n\nThe search is not very good. \n\nThen if I manage to find an email it is hard to attach it as an attachment to a new one. I either have to make the app not full screen, which is fscking weird, or pull with the mouse, alt-tab into the writing mail, release.\n\nWould love a keyboard combo that attaches a searched found email to a mail currently being under writing. \n\nOr from the mail currently under writing launch a search for a mail to attach.\n\nThere is this follow up function this could be useful for asking people when will they deign to answer my fscking mail.\n\nAlso what to do with all the fsckers who ignore my mail, it is hard to manage a project that I have to beg every third to answer my question and it takes two weeks. Maybe I should be doing phone calls anyway?", "working efficiently with Outlook 2016 (Can't choose another app or version, workplace standard.)\n\nI do a lot of project management and as an introverted fsck I do it per email not phone calls.\n\nI spend half my life searching for emails, because all day long I send out mails like \"hey I sent you this a week ago, Y U no reply?\" or people ask me \"how is project X going\" then I forward the last mail I sent to the contractor saying \"yeah current status is waiting for reply for this\" and so on. \n\nI saw tricks like some people didn't have everything in one incoming folder but more like folders per sender or something like that. Don't know if it that is a good idea. They created a rule for every main sender?\n\nThe search is not very good. \n\nThen if I manage to find an email it is hard to attach it as an attachment to a new one. I either have to make the app not full screen, which is fscking weird, or pull with the mouse, alt-tab into the writing mail, release.\n\nWould love a keyboard combo that attaches a searched found email to a mail currently being under writing. \n\nOr from the mail currently under writing launch a search for a mail to attach.\n\nThere is this follow up function this could be useful for asking people when will they deign to answer my fscking mail.\n\nAlso what to do with all the fsckers who ignore my mail, it is hard to manage a project that I have to beg every third to answer my question and it takes two weeks. Maybe I should be doing phone calls anyway?" ]

[ "I'm a project manager myself.\n\nThe folders are just a way to separate the emails but you still need to master the search function.\n\nI currently have about 25k emails but I can locate what I need quickly by \"to\" \"from\" .\n\nAlways use proper subject titles. If you are replying to someone but the subject is different change it. Likewise if someone has replied to you just to get your address but the subject has changed be sure to change it when you respond back.\n\nMake sure you have Outlook set to include previous in replies.\n\nFor instance. You sent an email awhile back with the subject \"Lakeway- submittals\". You get an email where they replied but it's for a different project. The subject will be \"re Lakeway-submittals\" but the email pertains to another project.\n\nChange it when you respond!\n\nAlways do project - item. Then you can easily search for those key words and include who as well in your search.\n\nYou can use the folders if you just don't like clutter but when you search, search current mailbox. This will search all folders. Click the sort to sort by to and from.\n\nIt's really not that difficult if you just practice consistency", "Email rules are brilliant, use them.\n\nThere's also an option to arrange emails into conversation style. \n\nI've found the search option pretty good. I find from() and to() the most useful. Also \"has attachment\" helps alot. \n\nIf you are really having problems finding emails check if your company has some third achieve system. \n\nAlso to attach an email. Open a new email window, find the email you want to attach and then drag and drop it near the body box. " ]

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[ "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers.", "How to quickly and systematically improve your hand writing I need better hand writing. I have tried videos and instructional books but I haven't been able to help myself. I am a chemistry masters student so I think a part of looking professional would be to have flawless hand writing.\n\nTo give perspective, my kindergarten teacher friend confused my hand writing for a student of hers." ]

[ "Write with your arm, not your wrist. \nForm letters closer together than you are used to. \nExperiment with different styles for certain letters - a, e, g, k, are good starters. ", "Practice, but also write slower at first. Write the way you want to envision your handwriting, and don't rush. You'll get more used to writing that way, and once you do, you can start to write faster. It's often best to make sure you get those fundamentals down first.\n\nAlso, try writing more \"bubbly\" for a little? It helped improve my dog shit handwriting years ago.", "Find some handwriting workbooks like they use for kids and trace the letters for practice. The faster you write, the more likely you are to revert, so take your time. Try to type any note taking for lectures and meetings so you don't have to try to write quickly, it is all about muscle memory.", "I’ve read somewhere that if you use a really thick pen (I’m talking gel 0.7 or 1.0) that you’ll be forced to write neater because otherwise you won’t be able to read it.\nA good size to practice with that thick pen is around 1/3 inch or 1 cm in height. It helps to use lined paper and really take your time.\n\n\nI used to have the crappiest writing in gr 3 because i rushed and made it really big. Now my writing gets smaller and smaller each year, and also neater.\n\nI know some people that write crazy small and also super neat. Just goes to show that forcing yourself to write smaller makes it neater too.", "This has some good tips- identify your flaws, look for some easy thematic issues like spacing and angles.......\n\nhttps://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Your-Handwriting", "The only way to have nice penmanship is to write slowly. There aren't any shortcuts. Just write naturally, don't try anything fancy. There is no flawless penmanship and no one expects it. It simply needs to look legible and neat. In handwriting analysis, they say that illegible handwriting is a sign of a lack of communication. You might want to approach this from both angles.", "Learn a new style of writing—a calligraphic hand, or Spencerian script.\n\nI bet the users of /r/PenmanshipPorn or /r/Handwriting have suggestions.\n\n", "I don't have any physical advice for you really, but I have some thoughts. Something that worked for me was to switch to all capitals. I worked for a company that used hand written invoices and I stopped having office managers ask me what words were almost immediately. \n\nAlternately, something that I've noticed is that if I write cramped (not just small) nothing helps my writing. I had to find a balance for size. Small enough that it fit where I needed it to, and big enough that my writing was legible. There's often more space than we think at times too. I noticed that I left more than half a line empty on a college ruled paper. Using that space has helped give me the room to make each letter look distinct. \n\nIt took about a year for the instinct to write in lower case to dissappear, so don't get frustrated if you find yourself falling back into old habits! You have a large number of years of habit to break! \n\nQuick ", "Practice practice practice! Writting is a learned behavior, and the only way to get better at is is by practicing. Start keeping a journal, and write in it twice a day, and i think you will start to see your handwriting improve. " ]

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