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[ "Alternate uses for capsule coffee machines I was given a cheap capsule coffee machine and a milk warmer. I feel like it has the potential to be a lot better.\n\nFor example you can add chocolate powder to the milk warmer for instant hot chocolate. What other tips can you guys share?", "Alternate uses for capsule coffee machines I was given a cheap capsule coffee machine and a milk warmer. I feel like it has the potential to be a lot better.\n\nFor example you can add chocolate powder to the milk warmer for instant hot chocolate. What other tips can you guys share?" ]

[ "I put teabags in the capsule.. instantly steeped tea. Probably not good enough for tea snobs but it works well enough for me. \n\nAnother idea I've had is to get one of the capsules you can put your own coffee in and put herb/spice blends in. run water through for infused/flavored water for cooking. I have no idea if this will work XD I haven't tried it yet. ", "Get a refillable cup and you have access to a litany of options. You can buy bulk herbs and make your own herbal tea. Grow chamomile or mint and those can be used readily. Hot cocoa is pretty good, but your better off just letting the hot water run through and then adding the cocoa to the cup. \n\n" ]

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[ "Packing & Moving I am about to move for the first time in a couple of years and have since acquired quite a few more items. I've seen a few tips here and there, and know the basics. Not much that amounts to a Life Pro Tip. So I'm looking for some awesome eurika-like tips to help take a little of the stress out of this whole situation where nothing is where it should be, it's all in boxes!", "Packing & Moving I am about to move for the first time in a couple of years and have since acquired quite a few more items. I've seen a few tips here and there, and know the basics. Not much that amounts to a Life Pro Tip. So I'm looking for some awesome eurika-like tips to help take a little of the stress out of this whole situation where nothing is where it should be, it's all in boxes!", "Packing & Moving I am about to move for the first time in a couple of years and have since acquired quite a few more items. I've seen a few tips here and there, and know the basics. Not much that amounts to a Life Pro Tip. So I'm looking for some awesome eurika-like tips to help take a little of the stress out of this whole situation where nothing is where it should be, it's all in boxes!", "Packing & Moving I am about to move for the first time in a couple of years and have since acquired quite a few more items. I've seen a few tips here and there, and know the basics. Not much that amounts to a Life Pro Tip. So I'm looking for some awesome eurika-like tips to help take a little of the stress out of this whole situation where nothing is where it should be, it's all in boxes!", "Packing & Moving I am about to move for the first time in a couple of years and have since acquired quite a few more items. I've seen a few tips here and there, and know the basics. Not much that amounts to a Life Pro Tip. So I'm looking for some awesome eurika-like tips to help take a little of the stress out of this whole situation where nothing is where it should be, it's all in boxes!" ]

[ "When packing, instead of labeling every box, just number them. Take a quick snapshot of its contents with your phone, including the box number.\n\nThis way you will have a visual record of where you put your stuff.", "Trader Joe's is your friend. If you have a TJ's near you, go in and ask for all the extra wine boxes they can give you. Wine boxes have those square segments in them and they are perfect for packing stuff like glasses and kitchen implements (obviously), but also can segregate and keep organized the dozens upon dozens of electronic devices, cords and extenders we use in day to day life. The first thing you're going to set up in any new space is your computer and tv stuff, so this is a life saver. Extra wine boxes can be used to pack clothes by rolling them, and the segmented pieces are removable so you can use just the horizontal or vertical segments for separating important paperwork and records.\n\n", "Stuff thats worked for us:\n-Cull and de-clutter all the stuff you haven't used in the past 9 months.\n-Put seasonal clothing in vacuum sealed bags. When you unpack they can remain sealed and save you wardrobe space.\n-If you're hiring a moving company, try to move mid-week, their rates can be cheaper than on weekends.\n-Unpack your bedroom items first. At the end of the day when you need to crash, you don't want to have to assemble your bed & find linens. \n-Pack a smaller box or cooler with immediate kitchen essentials for when you need to make a cup of coffee or have a cold drink/sandwich.\n-Keep clothes on hangers, rubber band the hanger loops together and slip a garbage bag over the top (with a little slit for the hanger tops to poke out). When unpacking, hang the bunch up, take the bag off and snip the band. Use the bag for rubbish.", "Pack some luggage like you are going out of town for a week. That way, you won't lose your essentials like your socks, or your toothbrush because they are buried in a box somewhere.\n\nKeep said luggage in your own vehicle, rather then the moving truck so it doesn't get lost", "Don't unpack. Seriously.\n\nI've moved more times than I can remember. My last big move, I was living in suitcases for a year while waiting for my visa. What I learned was that I really didn't need that much. For months, I lived with just the essentials. When I finally got to where I was, I opened up all the boxes and realized I didn't really need x, y, or z.\n\nSo, basically, what I'm saying is, keep essentials in one box, The non-essentials, keep in several boxes. Open and unpack as you need. Within a year or two, you'll have boxes full of crap you really never needed. It's a great way to not feel overly burdened by objects." ]

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[ "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?", "How to lose feelings for people? I have feelings for one of my friends, and I don't think it would be suitable to let her know.\nAny easy tips?" ]

[ "Listen next time she's being harassed by brute swoop in to the rescue and say \"never fear M'lady, let my fedora be thine shield\" she will immediately rip her clothes off and begin making love to you.", "I wouldn't ever advise someone on how to delude themselves. I would however, advise them to listen to their heart and to speak proudly with it. This is cliche (lame, in a-- I'd-rather-say-gay-way) but it is seriously the bravest thing an individual can do on a daily basis and people consistently refuse to do it. Tell this girl how you feel and accept how that may or may not change things. This will teach your brain the essential lesson of evolution. Do not long for stasis. Accept the fluid nature of relationships, of people. \nLove with the understanding of endings and you'll be irresistible to all women. ", "Try asking her out.\n\nDON'T write her a poem or buy her a bunch of flowers and tell her that you love her or send her a text saying \"I have feelingz 4 u :)\", just ask her out on a date like a regular human being would.\n\nIf she says no, and hopefully she tells you why, then you have closure and can rest assured that it was never meant to be.\n\nIf she says yes, then you know that there's at least the possibility that she feels the same way about you. Just play it cool though.", "If you have feelings, let your life take the adventure and go for it. Screw political niceness and all that crap. You want it, you go get it, You only have one life to seize everything you want, don't let other peoples feelings hold you back. Any dying person will tell you the same.", "I'm a female and it really depends on the situation. One of your comments mention that she might be dropping hints. What are these hints, if you don't mind sharing? Often, we start to confuse hints with daily behaviors that the individual is used to performing. For example, I read one of those BS \"How to tell if a guy friend is interested\" articles and it changed how I saw my friend. I finally managed to confess and he told me it's his friendly and charismatic personality that leads him to act a certain way, rather than doing it out of interest. \nYou are also in a bit of dilemma. Should you tell her at the risk of losing her as a friend or continue living with these feelings? I don't think I've had enough worldly experience to share with you on what to do, but if you want to take the latter route, then distance is the key. That and surrounding yourself with other people. If you decide to confess, carefully evaluate the situation and see if it's possible. If you want to talk about this, feel free to PM me.", "Be an honorable person. This advice applies equally to men and women.\n\nBe honest and tell your friend that you have feelings for him or her. You owe that to you friend. You owe that to yourself. You cannot control the feelings you have for someone.\n\nAccept the consequences of your action. You cannot control how your friend will react but you can control your own actions. Acceptance? Hooray! Rejection? Be respectful. Ambiguity? Give your friend more time or ask for clarification.\n\nAsking how to lose feelings for people is a dark path. You should be asking yourself what a respectful and honorable person would do in a situation like this. Think about what a gentleman or gentlewoman would do and choose your actions accordingly.", "Ask yourself \"What's more important, my friendship with her, or the possibility of a relationship with her?.\n\nIf the former, don't do anything because your friendship is more important. And then monitor the situation over time to see if it's changing.\n\nIf the latter, tell her and ask her how she feels. And then take your cues from that. Sure, that comes with the risk of destroying your friendship... but it's less important than that friendship, right?\n\nYou quite simply can't control or \"lose\" your feelings unless you remove yourself from her presence through, as other replies noted, time and/or distance. \n\nBut you can control what you do about those feelings. Concentrate on that.", "Acknowledging that you have the feelings is a good first step. If you think the right thing to do is not act on them, for whatever reason, keep reminding yourself of that reason. What harm would come if you did? Is she married or otherwise taken, and you'd hurt your relationship with her (or her husband)? Would you two just make a terrible couple because you want different things in life or you can't communicate well? Whatever it is, remind yourself of the reason you aren't doing anything.\n\nThen, as people said, distance and time. Avoid seeing her if possible, don't talk with her one-on-one, and wait. Go meet new people, take up a new hobby, whatever. This time next year you'll be surprised by the difference.", "Take up a hobby that you would enjoy, and keep yourself busy. Hangout with friends, live your life and try to forget. " ]

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[ "How can I become more sociable Most of my friends are going out to parties and drinking and having fun however it doesn't appeal to me whatsoever and I'd rather stay inside and play overwatch or revise for my GCSEs but it feels like I'm missing a big part of my life by not socializing how do I help this", "How can I become more sociable Most of my friends are going out to parties and drinking and having fun however it doesn't appeal to me whatsoever and I'd rather stay inside and play overwatch or revise for my GCSEs but it feels like I'm missing a big part of my life by not socializing how do I help this", "How can I become more sociable Most of my friends are going out to parties and drinking and having fun however it doesn't appeal to me whatsoever and I'd rather stay inside and play overwatch or revise for my GCSEs but it feels like I'm missing a big part of my life by not socializing how do I help this", "How can I become more sociable Most of my friends are going out to parties and drinking and having fun however it doesn't appeal to me whatsoever and I'd rather stay inside and play overwatch or revise for my GCSEs but it feels like I'm missing a big part of my life by not socializing how do I help this", "How can I become more sociable Most of my friends are going out to parties and drinking and having fun however it doesn't appeal to me whatsoever and I'd rather stay inside and play overwatch or revise for my GCSEs but it feels like I'm missing a big part of my life by not socializing how do I help this" ]

[ "Find a group of people you can keep going out with. Force yourself to go out a few times and eventually you'll become comfortable with them. After a while, you'll find it not so big a deal to hang out with random people.\n\nSide note: What ever you do, be it party, or stay back and study, you're always missing out on something or the other. Experiencing everything is not possible. Don't worry too much. There's always a better experience :D", "Dont worry about partying if you dont like it. Find people who like to do what you like to do and do those things with those people. Unless that thing is illegal then probably chill out on that ", "Hey man, just want to share my own experience in this department. I love to play video games, write, etc. all activities that primarily take place solo, but recently it's left me feeling a bit lonely like you. So I gave the party scene a spin over the past few weeks and it is unfulfilling as fuck, alcohol and all. It feels fun enough while you're there but just knowing everyone's under the influence and only passively warm/receptive robs it of any significant reminiscent fun/genuine positive remembrance after the fact. Basically, games feel good while you're playing and afterward there's no side effects. The party/social scene? It's hollow as hell and you might find yourself far worse for wear emotionally and physically afterward.\n\nBasically, just don't feel bad that you prefer staying inside, taking the solo route and doing healthy stuff that makes you happy. I was in your boat, tried the other side of the fence and it wasn't/isn't for me.", "If you can't remember someone's name, just ask them. If they give you a look and only their first name, say \"sorry, I meant your surname.\" Instant friendliness points for taking an interest, a possible starting point for a conversation, and you just got their first and last names. :)", "Balance is good. Don't stay inside too much but going out too much is also a bad thing.\n\nUltimately, you should decide what you want for yourself in your life. If you feel like you should go out more, then you should. If you are happy staying home, then stay home. " ]

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[ "How to get my thesis done from start to finish? Hey there.\n\nI have the mindest and will to graduate on time this December. I have a somewhat hard time going on with the process. I have the idea clear but the execution is hard.\n\nWould love to hear your personal advice on how to get my thesis done. Thanks in advance!", "How to get my thesis done from start to finish? Hey there.\n\nI have the mindest and will to graduate on time this December. I have a somewhat hard time going on with the process. I have the idea clear but the execution is hard.\n\nWould love to hear your personal advice on how to get my thesis done. Thanks in advance!", "How to get my thesis done from start to finish? Hey there.\n\nI have the mindest and will to graduate on time this December. I have a somewhat hard time going on with the process. I have the idea clear but the execution is hard.\n\nWould love to hear your personal advice on how to get my thesis done. Thanks in advance!", "How to get my thesis done from start to finish? Hey there.\n\nI have the mindest and will to graduate on time this December. I have a somewhat hard time going on with the process. I have the idea clear but the execution is hard.\n\nWould love to hear your personal advice on how to get my thesis done. Thanks in advance!", "How to get my thesis done from start to finish? Hey there.\n\nI have the mindest and will to graduate on time this December. I have a somewhat hard time going on with the process. I have the idea clear but the execution is hard.\n\nWould love to hear your personal advice on how to get my thesis done. Thanks in advance!", "How to get my thesis done from start to finish? Hey there.\n\nI have the mindest and will to graduate on time this December. I have a somewhat hard time going on with the process. I have the idea clear but the execution is hard.\n\nWould love to hear your personal advice on how to get my thesis done. Thanks in advance!", "How to get my thesis done from start to finish? Hey there.\n\nI have the mindest and will to graduate on time this December. I have a somewhat hard time going on with the process. I have the idea clear but the execution is hard.\n\nWould love to hear your personal advice on how to get my thesis done. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "Get off reddit. I'm being serious. This is a pivotal point in your life. Shut off the media and focus on you.\n\nHere's the thing... just start. You can always revise but just start putting stuff down. If you allow yourself enough time you can write this and rewrite it. \n\nYou just need to separate yourself from having to see everything happening at the current time. What's happening for you right now is you have a thesis to write.", "just tell yourself you'll do one paragraph a night, it will sound pretty simple so you'll get on with it, once you've started who knows. You might do 3 or 4 paragraphs. don't overthink it. ", "Don't do what I did and over-think it. You know you can do it, look at it more like a collection of essays that fit together rather than one large essay. You've written loads of essays before, dozens maybe even a hundred essays. I don't know how many words you have or what your layout is going to be, but if you can write a 2000 word essay in a few days, you can write a thesis in a few months. \n\nFocus on a chapter at a time, write them as separate essays, only it's easier as you can cut out redundancy (like you don't have to repeat your thesis question over and over, and you don't have to repeat your theory over and over).\n\nAlso keep in touch with your professor and set achievable deadlines with them, and even if you miss your deadlines keep in touch, they'll understand the stress you're under, they've helped hundreds of other students to get through it, they'll understand. And if your professor is too busy or unwilling to help much, simply ask another.\n\nAlso it's a good idea to cut out any distractions that don't help you work; classical music makes me work better, while my girlfriend needs complete silence.\n\nAnd probably the most important thing to keep in mind is to keep a positive outlook and to believe in yourself, however corny that might sound. Use your free time in endeavours that make you feel good about yourself, don't let the thesis be your only thing in life or you will try to simply escape from it, family, friends, sports, hobbies can all help you to keep a positive mindset, don't shut anything out. (This might be projection on my part btw)\n\nThe last tip I can give you is to simply do as much as you can every day, if you like schedules and keeping to them then I suggest a timer or a diary of some sort, if you work more free-form then I suggest to keep working till you run out of steam and pick up the next day.\n\nBelieve in yourself, you can do this, you have made your thesis twenty times over so far, you have your foundations, just start putting up the bricks and mortar.", "[Google Docs.](https://www.google.ca/docs/about/)\n\nYou can use the microphone feature to **say your thesis** while Google types it out. Saves insane time, and really helps capture your voice in your writing.\n\nGood luck!", "This is how I do it. I brainstorm ideas and \"examples\" to support my ideas. Then I take a sip of pure black tea, then take a deep breath and just start the paragraph. By the time I finish I reevaluate my thesis with the voice of Morgan Freeman in my head. ", "What really helped me was handwriting parts that I was stuck on. Instead of constantly going back and ", "Halfass it untill you can't avoid doing that shit.\nThen work for 2 weeks straight.\n24h shifts in the last 2 days.\nWorked for me..\nJust make sure you have a plan where to print and bind it." ]

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[ "How to stop being inundated with junk mail. My generous elderly mother bought a few things from catalogs and made a few charitable donations in her time and now she gets so much junk mail it is getting unmanageable. I really mean 20-30 things come every day, almost all are catalogs for thing she will never buy and requests for money from every charity you can imagine. At the end of the week I need to take the stuff out in a big black garbage back (then I, of course, recycle it). \n\nHow can I get her off these sucker lists?", "How to stop being inundated with junk mail. My generous elderly mother bought a few things from catalogs and made a few charitable donations in her time and now she gets so much junk mail it is getting unmanageable. I really mean 20-30 things come every day, almost all are catalogs for thing she will never buy and requests for money from every charity you can imagine. At the end of the week I need to take the stuff out in a big black garbage back (then I, of course, recycle it). \n\nHow can I get her off these sucker lists?" ]

[ "Please visit my blog Drowning in Junk Mail. A relative of mine had the same problem as your mother. [I have laid out a battle plan for stopping that amount of junk mail.](https://drowndinginmail.wordpress.com/start-here/). It will take a few months to make a dent, but if you do everything I list, the mail will slow to a trickle. ", "Snail mail spam is way worse than e-mail spam.\n\nYou would have to contact each place and get them to stop. Even then you'll probably still get junk mail from them.\n\nYou could try talking to the post office as well. Give the post office higher-ups some work to to. They could make sure that you don't get excess unwanted mail.\n\nDon't know how effective this will be. I imagine if you walk in with a black trash bag full of examples they would probably get your point. Bureaucracies can be idiotically rigid though.\n\nYou can also change her mailing address that each one of these companies have. That way the junk goes somewhere else at least.\n\nThat's all I have for now." ]

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[ "How to not cry in front of people Your tips don't need to be specific to my situation, but I'll give you my situation!\nI'm having trouble at work and really need to talk to my supervisor about it. However, every time I get in front of him I start crying while I try to explain what's going on! This used to never be a problem for me! I'd say it started about 2 years ago. When I talk about something even remotely upsetting, I start crying. It's pretty humiliating to cry in front of my boss and ruins whatever point I'm trying to make. I've read tips about how to stop crying when you have a second to step away, but what about when you are in front of someone?", "How to not cry in front of people Your tips don't need to be specific to my situation, but I'll give you my situation!\nI'm having trouble at work and really need to talk to my supervisor about it. However, every time I get in front of him I start crying while I try to explain what's going on! This used to never be a problem for me! I'd say it started about 2 years ago. When I talk about something even remotely upsetting, I start crying. It's pretty humiliating to cry in front of my boss and ruins whatever point I'm trying to make. I've read tips about how to stop crying when you have a second to step away, but what about when you are in front of someone?", "How to not cry in front of people Your tips don't need to be specific to my situation, but I'll give you my situation!\nI'm having trouble at work and really need to talk to my supervisor about it. However, every time I get in front of him I start crying while I try to explain what's going on! This used to never be a problem for me! I'd say it started about 2 years ago. When I talk about something even remotely upsetting, I start crying. It's pretty humiliating to cry in front of my boss and ruins whatever point I'm trying to make. I've read tips about how to stop crying when you have a second to step away, but what about when you are in front of someone?", "How to not cry in front of people Your tips don't need to be specific to my situation, but I'll give you my situation!\nI'm having trouble at work and really need to talk to my supervisor about it. However, every time I get in front of him I start crying while I try to explain what's going on! This used to never be a problem for me! I'd say it started about 2 years ago. When I talk about something even remotely upsetting, I start crying. It's pretty humiliating to cry in front of my boss and ruins whatever point I'm trying to make. I've read tips about how to stop crying when you have a second to step away, but what about when you are in front of someone?" ]

[ "Actors overcome this by repetition. By the time you get to performances it's just words and doesn't have the impact on you that it has on the audience. When you are planning to have these conversations try imagining the situation over and over, vividly enough that it brings out the crying, and don't try to hold it back just let it flow. The emotional impact should get less and less with repetition until it's more like you're just reciting a laundry list. The more you practice this technique, the less repetition it will take. ", "I've had this problem plenty of times, and I'm so sorry if my suggestion sounds really dumb: try creating an alter ego. \n\nThink up a name for your alter ego, and consider the type of person he or she is. With some practice, your feelings won't have any impact on the emotions of your alter ego. ", "I don't cry a lot but there's sometimes where you have no control. While it doesn't work with everyone, I've found that being as honest as possible helps. Tell your boss before you start talking that this is something your struggling with so to please have patience. Tell him that this is something you want to work on & you'd appreciate him helping you overcome this obstacle because you want to grow as a person & become better at handling conflict. If you can't even say that without crying, send him an email, write him a note, or wherever method you can to tell him this before you actually divulge into the real problem. I used to have major problems with conflict & uncomfortable situations & although I'm still not an expert, the only way to learn is to practice. \n\nI've cried in front of a few bosses over the years & most of the time, when I explained how embarrassed I was they usually got past the tears as long as I expressed myself in a reasonable & professional way. ", "Look up. I'm not sure how it works, but it does.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to stop insulting each other as friends So my friend and I have known each other for 7 almost 8 years. We've always kind of playfully insulted each other but recently it has been getting bad. I can't take it any more, today he made me cry. I'm seriously about to cut contact and wish him the best. He doesn't seem to care, I've told him everything, I've told him he's made me cry, I've told him we aren't going to be friends but he continues to do it. If he's gone I have pretty much nobody. It hurts a lot and it needs to stop.", "How to stop insulting each other as friends So my friend and I have known each other for 7 almost 8 years. We've always kind of playfully insulted each other but recently it has been getting bad. I can't take it any more, today he made me cry. I'm seriously about to cut contact and wish him the best. He doesn't seem to care, I've told him everything, I've told him he's made me cry, I've told him we aren't going to be friends but he continues to do it. If he's gone I have pretty much nobody. It hurts a lot and it needs to stop.", "How to stop insulting each other as friends So my friend and I have known each other for 7 almost 8 years. We've always kind of playfully insulted each other but recently it has been getting bad. I can't take it any more, today he made me cry. I'm seriously about to cut contact and wish him the best. He doesn't seem to care, I've told him everything, I've told him he's made me cry, I've told him we aren't going to be friends but he continues to do it. If he's gone I have pretty much nobody. It hurts a lot and it needs to stop." ]

[ "Maybe your friend is going through some shit and just taking it out on you without realising it. Maybe he's just a bit of a prick who gets off on cutting you down... It's hard to know all the factors that are causing the change. If he's going through some shit ( parents are divorcing/ recent breakup/ some other emotional shit) then u may need to suck it up and try to figure out a way to help him process.. If he's just being a dick and u want to keep him as a friend then you could try underplaying any of his insults. Either beat him to the punch and make fun of yourself first, or when he does throw out an insult, don't even acknowledge it and carry on with whatever you were saying or start talking about something else. People use insults to get a reaction. But If u make fun of urself before he can, then it will make you seem like ur comfortable and confident with yourself enough to joke around about it, and he may stop trying to get a reaction. By completely disregarding his comments and carrying on like it wasn't even said will also take any joy out of it. The most important thing is that you don't let what he says get to you to the point of giving him a reaction. \nWithout knowing the insults or to what degree he is insulting u it's hard to know if he's just trying to get a rise out of u for amusement, or he's just a shitty person.\nYou shouldn't limit urself to one friend. Maybe start involving another friend. I would advise picking a friend who is either neutral to the two of u or someone who is more on your side. An ally in these things helps a lot. Especially if the ally is willing to not react with you... Nothing is more awkward then throwing out an insult in a group and nobody reacts... A few times of that and it should curve the behaviour.\n", "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-Tej0297wk&feature=youtu.be&t=2m6s\n\nBut seriously, you have to tell him that it's just not funny any more, and stop doing it yourself.", "Maybe bring it up more often and stop insulting him yourself. If you told him how you feel and he does not stop insulting you, you have to decide if his friendship is worth putting up the insults. " ]

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[ "When sitting around a campfire, besides sitting further away from the flames, is there a good way to prevent the smoke from backfiring on you? ", "When sitting around a campfire, besides sitting further away from the flames, is there a good way to prevent the smoke from backfiring on you? ", "When sitting around a campfire, besides sitting further away from the flames, is there a good way to prevent the smoke from backfiring on you? ", "When sitting around a campfire, besides sitting further away from the flames, is there a good way to prevent the smoke from backfiring on you? ", "When sitting around a campfire, besides sitting further away from the flames, is there a good way to prevent the smoke from backfiring on you? " ]

[ "Old Boy Scouts trick: Sit with your backs to the fire to preserve your night vision and expose more surface to the heat. Also never camp near a waterfall. You'll never find dry wood and all your stuff will be drenched by the time you wake up. Another trick is: Before you set camp, burn a bit of paper to gauge the wind. Set tent upwind and ring rocks to form a wind break. Never use river or beach rocks as they like to explode and hurt you and your stuff.", "Sit in an Adirondack chair. They're low to the ground and have an angle so your head is the furthest thing from the fire. \n\nNext is burn the right kind of stuff. Green stuff smokes a lot, as does smaller kindling. Get a base really hot coals going and get some split wood that will slow burn. Split wood is important because it lights faster with less smoke. ", "Say \"rabbit rabbit rabbit\".\nIt works. Don't ask me why, it just does (or at least, it's never failed me!).", "Make a [Dakota Fire Hole](http://modernsurvivalblog.com/survival-skills/advantages-of-the-dakota-fire-hole/), if you're in a position to do that? ", "I hate rabbits. I hate rabbits. I hate rabbits. I hate rabbits. Chant those 3 words over and over again until the smoke blows another way (and it will). I have no idea why but it works." ]

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[ "\"Hey you,\n\n\nI saw\n\n shark teeth/homemade soaps/a girl with a tramp stamp and it reminded me of that time we\n\n puked on Bourbon St./made those crazy plans to alienate your even crazier (boyfriend/girlfriend)/went scuba diving in the hotel duck pond.\n\n I know we haven't talked in ages but I figured I'd say hey and ask about \n\ngrandma/that mole you have/whatever happened with that asshole boss of yours. \n\nMy life is pretty \n\ngood/awesome/awful, I'm suicidal, send help.\n\n I've gotten\n\n married/a dog/knocked up.\n\n I'm looking forward to \n\nthis summer/running away and joining the circus/death.\n\nHope you're well. Let's catch \n\nup/a game/hookers.\n\nSigned,\nMe\n\n\n\n.\n\n\n", "First \"hey what's up\" \nThen after hopefully a little back and forth \"we should hang out, wanna get coffee or something?\"\nMy exclusive 2 step program to get people to hang out with you", "I've reconnected with people I haven't talked to for decades on FB. I usually just give a paragraph saying what has gone on in the last 30 years.", "Just talk to them like there was non lull in communication. Good friends arn't going to keep score / hold a grudge of 'why didn't you talk to me!!11'.", "One recommendation, don't make the letter/email/IM or whatever too log. I tried to reach out to a very old friend that I hadn't talked to in close to a decade. I wrote up a very in depth email about how I was doing and what I had been up to. He never responded. \n \nI'm fairly sure it's because he felt obligated to spend as much time on a response. That wouldn't have been necessary, but I like writing long letters to friends. \n \nMake it kind of short, I agree with what someone else said about a paragraph or so and follow up with a, \"how have you been, what've you been up to?\" Keep it colloquial while not being the kind of question that just generates a polite, nonspecific answer.\n\nI hope you get back in touch with your buddy, cheers.", "Recently just connected with my old best friend from high school after we had a massive falling out and didn't speak for 2 years. I sent a text and said that \"I'd love to grab a coffee so that we can catch up and come to terms with what happened between us\" we ended up sitting at the coffee shop for 4.5 hours and we are now inseparable again. Just be forward, authentic and direct :)", "With everyone I ever had a true connection with, time hasn't mattered at all. Could be a month, could be a year, could be 5 years. Obviously, we'll mention \"it's been a long time\", because it has been and there's lots to talk about. But I've never encountered friends that judged me on that.", "I just got a text 30 min ago from a girl who broke my heart 6 years ago and I hadn't heard from her since.\n\nI'm all kinds of screwed up right now. This is interesting timing for this thread lol.\n\n", "Hit a bar and get drunk. Or get a little bit drunk before meeting. I know that's not the answer to everything but yeah. I hadn't spoken to someone I knew in 10 years, I just had a few drinks at home then met them at a pub and we had a top night.", "Have you not seen [these](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/f4/e2/4c/f4e24c5b3543efddc9bdbc29c04930a6.jpg) [images](https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/d3/b2/a4/d3b2a4a82e597e87dca8125265fe8a01.jpg) on social media? Sorry for the pintrest links.", "I had a friend in kindergarten. We got along pretty well. He moved away and I didn't exactly remember where he had moved. We never kept in touch after he left.\n\nThat was 15 years ago.\n\nLast year he messaged me on facebook to say hi and see if I remembered him. I did.\n\nNow we're better friends than when we were before.\n\nEven if it's just to say hi, reaching out to someone you remember can be worth it.", "*\"Hey dude, when was the last time we hung out? If you're not too busy these days we should get some drinks or something and catch up, let me know!\"*\n\n\neasy", "\"Hey fuckhead, I know we hate each other, but Mom's dead carcass is stinking up the house. Can you come do something about it, Dad?\"", "Varies from person to person, but i usually lead off with \"HOLY FUCKING SHIT ITS THIS FUCKING GUY. WHAT THE FUCK HAVE YOU BEEN UP TO YOUR FUCK?\"", "My go to is \"[Person's Name]!!!!\" They reply with the same thing and they ask the first question and then boom, a conversation starts forming. ", "If they added you on the social media platforms, I'm not sure why you're overthinking how to approach them.", "the best way is to be sincere... -)\nask questions, find out what has happened to the person within the time you haven't talked, and then start remembering the time you have spent together!\n\nsometimes it happens that people lose each other for some time but it is so great you can talk again! So just appreciate this opportunity if obviously you want to communicate with this person.", "You find out where they work, wait outside the building until they come out, then physically bump into them. Have a pseudo moment of recognition, then boom, you're reconnected ", "Totally depends on the reason you stopped talking in the first place. In most situations, I don't recommend the \"reconnecting\" thing. Time (and sometimes loneliness/boredom) has a way of making the past a little more rosey than it actually was. If nothing was wrong with the person and the relationship, you wouldn't have drifted away in the first place. Yes there are exceptions, but for the most part, if it disappeared, it was most likely for the best. Oh one other thing re: social media. Make sure the contact you received was sent specifically to YOU and isn't part of some mass mailing kind of thing. Example: a few years ago, I received a LinkedIn friend/connection request via email from an unwelcome ghost from my past, totally out of the blue. I broke off contact with this person several years prior. I almost closed my LinkedIn account, to avoid involvement of any kind. Then I was reminded by a friend that frequently people can import their entire email address book into an app, to avoid having to send a bunch of individual requests. So most likely, this person had no intention of contacting me, it's just that my email happened to still be in their address book. So in this case I was relieved that this was basically an accident but what if it had come from someone I actually missed? I might have contacted them, and they may or may not have responded well. I don't know anything about SnapChat but you might want to find out if it's possible this person added you by \"accident\". Save yourself some embarrassment. ", "Say Happy Birthday when it rolls around. \n\nI try to message even the faintest contacts on their birthday. I don't do it for gain but it has helped in the past. I had messaged my former boss on her birthday, then on New Year's. When I called to ask her to be a reference, I didn't feel sheepish. ", "Just go ahead and see what's up... I recently got in touch with one of my closest friends that I haven't spoken to for about 4 years too... When you have a good friendship it'll just pick right back up where you left it.", "I've recently realized I have lost touch with many of my close friends. All it takes is \"Hey, its been awhile. I'd love to catch up if you have some free time. Hope all is well!\"\n\nIts worked pretty well for me.", "I was good friends with someone for about 6 years or so but we had a falling out and stopped talking because of an argument we had. I was upset about her flaking out on me one too many times (offering to help or do something and then backing out at the last minute) and I told her how I felt and that I was pretty mad. She didn't see it the same way and really never responded to me or tried to address it. We cut ties and really just stopped communicating completely. I was sad and disappointed that the friendship ended and it always weighed heavy in the back of my mind. \n\nCut to about 5 years later, I really wanted to reconnect--or at least try to. While we were friends we were very close so she was almost like a family member. I wrote to her and started out with an apology. I was honest again and asked that we get past the argument we had. I said that I said some things that may have been in anger and that I regretted now, but at the time I was really hurt. I hoped that she would at least open a channel of communication back up and I was willing to try to start again and catch up.\n\nI didn't get a response back for a month or so then she replied. She said she had debated if she should even respond back and decide to do it. We talked a few times but things had really changed a lot between us. I tried to connect with her and her life now, but the divide was just too big. We talked a few times and things drifted apart again. I wish things would have worked out but they didn't.\n\nBe honest. Say what's on your mind, but also ask questions and see what's changed. It amazing how much is missed in the course of a few months, let alone a few years. \n\nObviously they want to reconnect and maybe that (finding you on social media) was their invitation to you. Start small and go from there. I know in my case it was scary to hit the send button on the email because I was re-opening up a sad and difficult time and didn't know where it would lead. Hopefully for you it was on good terms because that would be easier, but if not just take it a little at a time and don't just be honest to your friend...be honest to yourself, too. Maybe you, like I, realized it could have been handled better in retrospect. What's done is done though.\n\nGood luck with your reconnection! ", "I have only been paying attention to these LPT Requests a few days now, but of the few i have read, the top comments always seem to be snide and extremely sarcastic, why?", "Hello, it's me \nI was wondering if after all these years you'd like to meet \nTo go over everything \nThey say that time's supposed to heal ya \nBut I ain't done much healing", "Had a similar discussion with some friends recently. Concluded that males can reconnect fairly easily after long periods of time, where as females require a bonding period before being able to reconnect.\n*Not applicable in circumstances where the relationship ended badly.", "HOnest to Christ, my dad used LinkedIn.\n\nIn March I got a request to connect with him via LinkedIn.\n\nI thought \"oh, he probably clicked the wrong button.\" My dad has been a heavy duty mechanic for 40 years, I didn't know if he emailed and all that. \n\nPardon me, we've not spoken since March 2001.\n\nSo, I accept the request and a day later I get a message from him. \n\n\"Just checking in,\" he said.\n\nSo we emailed a bit for a week and I stopped writing him. \n\nHe started emailing me again and I called him on April 11th and asked \"are you dying?\"\n\n\"No, I'm not dying.\"\n\n\"You keep using the term dAd and son in your emails and I'm confused about that.\"\n\nMy dad told me in a letter that he didn't want children. He wasn't father material blah blah.\n\nI told him that if a friend of mine came to me and said \"hey , I have three kids that I don't talk to and they don't talk to me,\" I couldn't be that person's friend.\n\nHe apologized to me and I apologized to him for the way I spoke to him the last time we talked. I had come out to him and used ugly and hurtful words to make him feel some pain too.\n\nI was immature and blah blah.\n\nHe emailed me about 3 times during the next 10 days. He wanted me to visit him.\n\nI've been here for the past two weeks visiting him.\n\n15 years has melted away and even though he's 63, he's still like the guy I knew..\n\nMy dad and I are so alike, it's wild! He has cheesy jokes loaded up all the time and he gets pissy about stuff. When I was a kid it bothered me when he yelled. Now that I know him, it's like Frank Costanza.\n\nI guess I'm just trying to say, fuggggin do it! Don't waste anymore life on ego.\n\n", "All these comments are awesome, but just remember, some friends are only supposed to be friends for so long.", "\nI did this. It had been bothering me for awhile. So instead of all the different strategies I'd come up with, I sent a short two or three sentence email, to the effect of: \n\n>I saw something that reminded me of you, wanted to ask you about it. Then realized how much time it had been since we talked. \n\n", "the ideal way is always to be sincere... -) ask queries, obtain out what has occurred towards the person within the time you haven't talked, after which start remembering the time you have spent collectively! sometimes it occurs that individuals shed each other for some time nevertheless it is so wonderful you are able to speak once again! So just appreciate this chance if clearly you want to communicate with this particular person.", "lol so many times its been old high school friends with their bullshit new business or social media thing asking me for votes or likes or to buy some product ", "i just did this! found lost friend on FB, i sent her a msg saying 'hey..(friends name) i'm so glad i found you, hope all is well. i would love to meet up real soon and reconnect. contact me here or on my phone'. it worked perfectly. we talked a few times on FB and our phones, set up a place and time. it was awesome. she and i were best buds yrs ago. ", "You know, it's not hard? Honestly, I haven't heard my bestirs voice in three years and it was longer before that, but we just fall right back into our friendship when we get together (live on opposite coasts). If they are worth it, they will do the same.", "You could bring up a memory you two shared. \" Remember that time....I saw something that reminded me of that time and was curious what you were up to now.\"", "Wow, I'm sad. Is there a chance this person would reject you? \n\nI don't even see that as a possibility here. Honestly. Just say how you feel! \"HOLY SHIT, how have you been! I miss you, dude!\"\n\nIf that doesn't work, I'm fucked. I haven't talked to most of my friends in almost two years.", "Uhm, where the LPT that everyone gave all that karma for?\n\n", "That's exciting! Have fun with it. Maybe send them a note saying \"Hi there! The last thing I recall, you were doing *insert random, small and a little crazy thing like trying to perfect your coin collection* why don't we catch up about that and more over coffee/drinks next week?\" \n\nOnce you meet up with them, ask open ended questions about your time together and I bet the conversation will flow from there. If it's someone you want to now keep in your life, maybe mention an event or thing you've wanted to do...implying they can join you perhaps. If the convo is so-so and its nothing special, just say it was nice catching up and we should stay in touch. \n\nJust go in there with the genuine intent of getting to know what this person was doing the last few years and trade stories. Have fun.", "Tell them about the massive shit you just took. It's an icebreaker, and if they don't respond.. you don't want them back in your life anyway.", "Step 1: Low expectations. If they don't want to reconnect, deal with it. There's probably plenty of people you used to be friends with you don't want to reconnect with for any number of reasons, and plenty that you do.\n\nStep 2: Test the waters. If they added you, say hi, ask about their general well-being. Keep it short, only talk about yourself if asked. \n\nStep 3: If they seem happy to hear from you (which is quite probable), meet for coffee/food/other beverages. Good times are likely to be had.\n\nSource: have recently reconnected with several friends from 5+ years ago.", "Simply reach out to them. Say hello. Catch up a bit. Social media makes it *so* easy to do these day. And then, and this is the most important part, make **concrete** plans to meet up. Don't just say \"we should totally catch up soon. Have a coffee. Oh my god.\" Like some white Aussie Uni student. Set the date. Have coffee next Thursday morning and then *actually go to coffee next Thursday*. \n\nYa get me?", "Say something completely out of context, pretending to be responding to a different person's message. Something like, \"Are you done with work yet?\" or something as simple as \"k\". Next, immediately send \"Sorry, that was meant for somebody else. Anyway, how are you?\"", "Remember that it's a two-way street, they haven't talked to you for years either. It's only as awkward as you make it.", "Pretend like not a day went by that you havent talked....at least thats what people do to me. \n\nHint:dont do this", "Organize a meetup (old classmates, coworkers, business contacts...), that'll be a great opportunity to shift discovery to reallife discussions, which should be much less awkward than simply contacting people over the web, especially if youre not confident in your personal prowess with discussions.", "Never start with a prank. Tried to connevt with a college friend of mine by making a prank call. Prank went out of hand. Stopped being funny. Told her it was me. She got mad and we never talked since. ", "Make arrangements to meet somewhere where you can chat.\n\nLast year, I reconnected with two people I hadn't seen since college (which was 20 years ago). I'll call them CM and MD because those are the initials of their nicknames.\n\nWe'll start with CM. He decided to take a sabbatical from his work and travel the country. This worked out, since he lives in Denver and I live in upstate NY, which is also where we went to college. We agreed we would go to the Lilac Festival in Rochester to hear Blues Traveler play, since a bunch of us had gone to see Blues Traveler back in the day. \n\nWent to the show. Enjoyed the show. Went with a bunch of the rest of the gang for food afterwards. No effort was needed to fire up the conversation; it just picked up kind of where we left off. \n\nA couple of weeks later, CM calls me and tells me that he's going to be wandering around New England, and since my place is along the way, would I mind if he stopped in for a bit. My wife and I agreed he should. He showed up around ten on a Saturday, bringing two growlers and we had a proper barbecue, spent the day hanging out and shooting the shit. It was a good time.\n\nAlright, that brings us to MD. MD and CM and I were all part of the same circle of friends. In her case, she's returned to the city she grew up in, Syracuse, which is along my way when going to or from Rochester where the rest of my friends live. \n\nSo I was going out to Rochester for a hamfest (this is a ham radio geek thing, nothing to do with meat) and we agreed to meet for brunch on the day after. So the morning after the hamfest, I check out of my hotel in Rochester and head toward Syracuse, where we connected up at a place called Funk 'n' Waffles and caught up. As with CM, the conversation pretty much picked up where it left off, as if we'd never been out of contact. I'm thinking we were there for about three hours. \n\nSo really, it is a simple as that. Put yourself and the person you want to catch up with in the same place at the same time, when you have time to chat. Beer or food are recommended accessories to the event. Then just relax and be who you were right along.\n", "Just send a message saying hi and that you'd love to catch up. It's nothing complicated or anything you have to think long and hard about. ", "Just say hi, make small talk about how long it's been and then ask about how they are doing. Honestly, you're making this more difficult than it has to be. If you were his friend before than you can be again. If the person really doesn't want to be friends again then move on there's no point in trying to make the impossible happen. The good thing about friendship is that the more natural a friendship builds the better it's going to be for both parties involved. And again if you don't like it find other people to hang out with. ", "Just say \"Hey, how's everything with you?\" Then give a rundown of the shit you've been up to. The older you get, the bigger spans of time will be between contact from friends. People just start dropping out of your life and you assume it's forever, then they might resurface. I moved out of the US so ALL my contact with old friends is sparse.", "Just pick up the phone and say \n\nHello honey, it's me \nWhat did you think when you heard me back on the radio? \nWhat did the kids say when they knew \nIt was their long lost daddy-o?", "Just message them with your number and say \"it's been a while. Call me and we'll catch up or grab coffee\"", "Just message them something relevant to their interests.\n\nDon't just say \"Hey\" because that isn't much to go off of.\n\nI find that if you treat it kinda like it hasn't been very long, it's much easier for both of you to reconnect.", "It's been my experience that they are usually happy you reached out, and are ready to get right back to work fucking up your life.", "It sounds dumb, but if the social situation is touchy enough that asking questions like: \"hey how are you?\" \"Whatever happened with...\", \"Are you still...?\" or asking about their life in general is going to be too awkward, truthfully I wait until their birthday or, even better, Christmas Eve.\n\n I'll send a kind note that isn't intrusive and just hopes that wherever they are and whoever they are celebrating with that things are well and [seasonal reference].\n\n If they want to respond, they can, but you've done nothing but extend warm wishes and show that they were thought of without saying \"hey you I was thinking about you\", and without being intrusive or making them feel like they have something specific to answer. \n\nThis has actually worked twice in my life with those that vanished for a few years after a really touchy falling out. ", "It depends on why you haven't spoken in so long... Was it a fight? Was it just \"whoops it's been a year and we haven't spoken\"? Did life get in Olathe way? One person has a family, has a child, moves in one direction and the other doesn't? If it's a simple matter of time, then a simple \"wow, how long has it been? It seems like just yesterday.\" If it was a fight, whole different story and there are a million variables depending on who started it, what it was about and who was the last one to speak. 8 years ago was long enough that social media was still getting its footing and maybe they are just going through old memories. Best case, go with your gut. ", "Invite them to catch up.\n\n\"Hey! It's been a while, I feel we haven't talked in forever. What's your schedule like? Have an opening?\"\n\nPick something that fits their schedule: \n\nMorning/Afternoon --> Coffee/Tea\nLunch --> obviously lunch\nEvening --> Drinks? Dessert maybe?\n\nIt's not complex.\n\nBUT bonus LPT: Don't be offended if the person you're reconnecting with ;simply can't make time or doesn't want to make an effort to reconnect back. It's been a while afterall. ", "In this situation an excuse for a conversation makes the initial small talk easier. Something happening you know they're interested in or the anniversary of something is a good way to entice conversation. \n \nIf the friendship was good but just distanced you'll be surprised how easily you can just start a conversation saying \"Hi how have you been? It's been too long, what is new with you?\"", "In general, it makes people happy when someone from their past remembers them, and even happier when you want to reconnect. Don't make things weird, just be casual like \"you wanna get a beer/soda/coffe/lunch/dinner sometime?\" Same thing you would do if you were trying to make NEW friend, just this time rekindling an old friendship.", "In general, I imagine it depends largely on WHY you \"haven't spoken in years.\" Someone of the opposite sex with whom you had a knock-down drag-out fight? Someone from school you just lack track of after graduation? Someone you drifted away from because you both changed radically as you got older? All of those situations would suggest different strategies, from just writing someone a note (\"Hey, it's great to discover what happened to you! I've lost track of the guys from the dorm!\") to perhaps rethinking whether you really *want* to make contact.", "If you want to talk to somebody, just talk to them! People are generally flattered that you were thinking about them.", "If they initiated, add them back and just say hey. They'll say what's on their mind (if anything is). If not just say it's good to hear from them after so long (only if that's true)", "If they added you, they are at least curious as to how you are doing now. There is no need to over think this. \n\nContact them. Arrange to meet up. Decide if you want to repeat. Perhaps, in spite of many changes, you will still have a connection. Perhaps they have joined a cult or are on the wrong side of Trump for you. \n\nA few years ago I reconnected with a group of people who I used to work on a music festival with. We realized that we hadn't seen each other in 23 years. We had changed a lot, but there was still a deep and loving connection between us. ", "I'd say wait till their birthday, wish and a happy birthday on facebook or any other platform, and after they thank you, you can just ask them what they have been up to.", "I'd interprete it as your friend initiating the reconnection (or at least, being open to it), so you just have to follow up by saying 'hey glad to hear from you again! How have you been?' \n\nPersonally I like to add 'glad to hear from you again' to show that i'm looking forward to reconnecting and hanging out again. ", "I wrote a letter to a friend I hadnt spoken to in at least 12 years. We picked up right were we left off. Sometimes life just gets in the way - and thats ok", "I would say the main thing is dont write too much (or too little) on your few first emails/messages back. \n\nIn your first email back: \nTwo sentences of what you've been up to. One silly or funny thing that's happened to you. And a question or two.\n\nI'd also ad: if you are in the same area - make plans to hang out after a couple of email exchanges. I think if you dont move your friendship forward, it'll slide back to where it was in no time and you'll be strangers again before the Fall. ", "I was in the exact same situation, only it was reversed. She reached out to me to reconnect after finding me on LinkedIn.\n\nSubject: Hey Stranger\n\nShe invited me out with a group of friends to eat, drink, and catch up. I declined, but we still reconnected, and are better friends now than we were forever ago.\n\nIt sounds like you're harboring some u resolved feelings. Everyone's relationship with people is different, but I strongly recommend not being creepy.\n\nJust be brief, be honest, be confident. See where it goes. You can follow a simple sales call format: \nPositioning statement\nSet the agenda / proposition \nState the value \nCheck for acceptance\nAppropriate next steps \n\nMy recommendation:\n\nHey Stranger!\n\nSaw you added me recently on (insert social media platform). (Positioning)\n\nWould you like to meet up for a quick lunch sometime this week? (Set the agenda/proposition)\n\nThis way, we can catch up in an environment that makes it easy for us to communicate, but isn't too awkward. Plus I'll pick up the check. (State the value)\n\nDoes that sound ok? (State the value)\n\nIf so, I'm free Tuesday or Thursday. If not, let me know what makes sense to you and we'll go from there!\n\n", "I think it helps to remember that communication is a 2 way street. The other person has an equal share in of the blame for allowing your relationship to drift apart. If the other person is annoyed that you haven't talked in a while, point out that THEY haven't made any effort to reconnect either. \n\nHowever, unless you have left thing on bad terms in my experience most people are excited to hear from lost friends. :)", "I reconnected with an old friend with an irrelevant question. It was something like \"Remember that place we used to go all the time? What was it called? McHilary or something??\"", "I recently had something similar. Someone who was my best friend and we slowly got distanced reached out. And I'm forever grateful. There's much to do, but the door is open. Don't be scared. Trust that it will work. Your intentions are good.", "I recently connected with a friend that was lost for 9 years and it wasnt even someone who I thought would remember me and someone I didnt know that well. To my surprise this person remembered me and now its awesome! I was able to reconnect via facebook messenger. My advice is to go for it! You might be surprised!", "I hope you didn't do the \"hello it's been a long time\" etc. \n\nThere's has to be something you and only you shared. A joke. An embarrassing moment. Something funny. Start with that. \n\n", "I have to agree with the people here. Just start out by saying \"hi.\" The rest will follow from there. don't worry about the rest. It will be fine. (:\n\nHere's the rationale:\n\nIf they've forgotten about you, then they're a stranger. Only, it's a stranger that you know exactly how to win over! It's your old friend! How would you greet a stranger? Say hi! :D\n\nIf they kind of forgot you, or may wonder why contact was broken, then it reestablishes contact. You might get some blowback over the separation, but that's what happens in life. people drift apart for various reasons. So, it's no big deal. It's life. (: As long as the breakup was under neutral or good circumstances, then it gives you something to talk about.\n\nJust what were they up to in those 8 years? Aren't you curious? They also might be curious as to what you were up to too, and may be anxious to hear from you.\n\nBut, most likely they still remember you, and are secretly hoping you talk to them, but are probably too shy to establish contact again. Why else would they add you as a friend on social media? Maybe they need more Facebook friends, but chances are they really want to talk to you again. \n\nSo, don't sweat it! :D Just be friendly and say hi! or, maybe use an old greeting that the two of you shared. wazzzaaaaup? or maybe hey hey there! :D\n\nAnd, it may happen, so I'll say it. don't be too afraid of rejection. That happens from time to time, but if you don't say anything, then nothing is really going to happen between you two. You both will stare at each others picture, waiting for each other to make the first move, wondering how to break that awkward silence. Each would wonder... is this the day they'll establish contact? I wonder what they're up to... and that sucks. ):\n\nSo, you may as well greet them. It will be fine. Chances are you'll greet them, then your natural personalities are going to take over and you'll realize why you became friends in the first place.\n\nAnd, maybe they've changed. Maybe you've changed. But, that's what happens in life. this will be the opportunity to introduce each other to each other's new identities. And, maybe you'll get acquainted with a memory of how things used to be, which depending on the circumstances, may be a great thing. (:", "I have found that an introduction followed by a positive, favorable memory works well. Keep in mind, neither of you is the same person. This means even if everything is/was amicable and friendly, the actual past relationship chemistry may not be beneficial to both of you. Sometimes, running into one another with a few kind words might be best and leave it at that. \n\nI realize this may not be what you want to hear, but I've moved and relocated back eventually from several small areas numerous times and sometimes friends are still friends, but not with the intimacy you remember. Good luck ", "I have a good friend I didn't speak to for four years (moved to different cities and just kind of fell out of touch). One day I just decided to hit them with a message saying \"Hey, haven't seen you in a while. I'll be in your city for a few days on xth of February. You want to grab lunch or something and catch up?\"\n\nThey replied yes, so we met up, fell into conversation like old friends do and wondered why the hell we hadn't been in touch for that long. Now we talk regularly and even work on projects together.\n\nJust hit them up with a message and see where it goes. Something like \"Hey, haven't seen you in a while. What've you been up to lately?\" If you were good friends once there's a good chance you'll be able to reconnect.", "I feel like alot of LPTs can be solved by just fucking living and not over thinking every little thing ", "I feel like I struggle with this and it somewhat contributes to my social anxiety. I used to hang out with a group of high school friends, but after that I went away to college and never really came around again, even after moving back home. I actually ran into one of them last night and it was all good like old times. But something in me feels like I can't really come around anymore and I'm not part of that group. I went back to hang out a few times, but the spark isn't there for me anymore.\n\nI have a great group of friends right now and I'm pretty content with that. I do feel bad that I've lost touch with a lot of people though. Anyone else going through this? ", "I didn't talk to an ex for over three years, one day randomly said hey on Facebook, two years later we were engaged...\n\nJust start taking normally to them - it doesn't have to be complicated.", "I can tell you about a pretty extreme scenario I went through when I was 14 (Not extreme as in \"Bad\" but rather something nearly unheard of).\nI found and old photo of my kindergarden group and all their names were written in the back so I decided to search for all of them on Facebook. \nTo make sure they knew who I was I switched my profile pic to a photo of myself in kindergarden wearing our old uniform and all. \nThe all accepted my friend request and we had a reunion party. \n\nTL; DR, If we're talking long-time as in 3+ years or so, make sure you look as close to that persona you were 3+ years ago as you can, it'll help them remember you. ", "I am terrible with stuff like this, but I did buy a grill last summer. I used this as an excuse to meet my neighbors, making a few invites I could drop in their mailboxes. It might have been Memorial Day weekend, I don't really remember, but I also invited an old friend I hadn't spent time with in about five years. For a while we'd even lived in separate cities. \n\n\nIt went over well. Almost all the neighbor's popped in for a bit, as did the old friend. Now we're back on good terms and hang out about every month. \n\n\nSo, yeah, find an excuse to have people over and invite the person you really want to reconnect with. If they don't come, you can still have a party. ", "I am terrible with stuff like this, but I did buy a grill last summer. I used this as an excuse to meet my neighbors, making a few invites I could drop in their mailboxes. It might have been Memorial Day weekend, I don't really remember, but I also invited an old friend I hadn't spent time with in about five years. For a while we'd even lived in separate cities. \n\n\nIt went over well. Almost all the neighbor's popped in for a bit, as did the old friend. Now we're back on good terms and hang out about every month. \n\n\nSo, yeah, find an excuse to have people over and invite the person you really want to reconnect with. If they don't come, you can still have a party. ", "I always use \"Blast from the Past\" in some way--subject line or first sentence or some other social media type way. ", "I always go with ..\" So, I was thinking about you the other day..then I started jerkin it. How ya been ?\"", "I act the same way through type as I do in real life. I like yo exxagerate dumb millenial things like \"Whatup mayne!?? ;)\" in real life. Try just talking like there was never a break. Or do what i do, both are pretty disarming. Pointing out the awkwardness by saying how long its been or whatever makes it weird. If it were me I'd probably say \"Well how the fuck are you ya silly bastard?\" But I'm a diamond in the rough and all.", "Honestly just go with what most of the people here are saying. Shoot them a message saying \"hey what's up?\" Or \"how have you been?\" They added you so there shouldn't be any worries about sounding desperate. Good luck to ya :)", "Hey, do you still like pizza? We should get some pizza from *place that has good pizza* next *day you choose*.\n\n(everyone still likes pizza, you will see them soon)", "Haven't seen or talked to her in 3 yrs. She found me on social media. \n\nMe: \"Hey. You look like someone I know. Do I know you ?\" (she looked a bit different after 3 yrs). \n\nHer: \"Yes, you do.\"\n\nAnd the rest was history. ", "For me i just said hi, and be like 'omg our last chat was like x years ago' 'btw ___ (go straight to the main topic)' \n\nThings always work out well.. I think", "First act like you completely forgot about them. And then say, \"Sorry, what was your name again?\" even their social media page says it.", "Don't say, Let's get drinks some time. Ask them what they are doing this weekend or any specific time and say let's get together. It turns a friendly statement into actual plans", "Do your preliminary research. Determine if he/she is married/divorced/widowed/parent/trans/etc. Then you may know if you, indeed, want to re-initiated contact.", "Damn this is funny because I am in town visiting family. I went to a local taco shop and this girl I was friends with in high school was working and we talked for a bit. She gave me her number then asked if I wanted to go to some game night. I declined", "Coming from someone who is engaged to a girl he reconnected with after not talking to for 3 years, literally say, \"hey, remember that time we used to be friends?\" Works every time", "Call them up and explain that you've got a business opportunity that will change their life and tell them they were the first person you thought of to share it with. Then, proceed to sell them Amway.", "Be solomn but upbeat. At one point I hadnt seen my dad for 8-9 years and was at a family function when I was informed he was coming. I had been meaning bury the hatchet but could never bring myself so I took this chance. I also didnt want to yell and be mad so I went into it as positive as I could. \n\nHe was receptive to my positivity and we talked it out and all was well. If your reunion is coming from a bad previous ending but you want to make up then def go into it aiming to be friendly. You can only control your half tof the conversation", "As a side note when trying to rebuild important relationships here are the most important statements to make:\n1) Thank you, 2) I love you, 3) Forgive me, 4) I forgive you", "A very good friend of mine started doing drugs (again) about three years ago. I started avoiding him and made an honest effort to get him out of my life. He died in February (non-drug related death) and I haven't stopped kicking myself for not reaching out to him to try and patch things up sooner. The ball was in his court the whole time, but I could have been a more supportive friend. My point is, no matter how you do it, get it done. Don't regret NOT talking to them again.", "A few years ago, I had a childhood friend reach out to me and ask to catch up over coffee. I met him and enjoyed it, but then he suggested we actually hang out and my mind immediately rejected it just as reflex. I told him yea sure or whatever just to be polite, but I knew in my heart I was never going to anything he invited me to. Why? I couldn't really tell you. Just close-mindedness. Resisting change for the illusion of comfort.\n\nI've become much more open-minded as of recently and so I hit this guy up, asked if he wanted to do something. Of course he's like a super chill guy who does all kinds of cool shit - snowboarding, boating, golfing, etc. Absolutely no regrets.\n\nI guess the lesson is that it depends. If the friend you're trying to reconnect with is like me 3 years ago, the worst that happens is they blow you off. If they're like me now, they'll be down to hang out and see how things go.", "\"Wow, I know this seems random, but I had a dream about you last night. It reminded me of that time we (fill in the blank with a fun memory the two of you had). So how have you been?\"", "\"Hi, XYZ, good to hear from you. I'm living in ABC with my SO/kids/dog/cat/bird/fish/lizard and doing [profession]. How do you like living in MNO? I still [hobby or interest you had from the time you knew each other], do you still [hobby or interest they had from the time you knew each other]?\"", "\"Hey! I thought of you today and I realized we haven't talked in a long time. How are you? How's life treating you?\"\n\nCopy. Paste.\n" ]

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[ "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?", "Fix for itchy eyes. I've had itchy eyes for the past few days now, with no real way to fix it, and no signs of it getting better, is there any kind of fix for this?" ]

[ "I had a similar problem, went to the eye doc. He said to rinse my eyes with cold water, not hot. Cold will ghelp alleviate the swelling in the conjunctiva. Hot will possibly aggravate it. He also \"prescribed\" that I get an OTC eyedrop called Alaway. Using it 2x a day and rinsing helped my IMMENSELY. Give it a shot.", "Antihistamines? You could have an allergy to something.\n\nBefore I took antihistamines on a regular basis, I used to get some relief by taking an extra shower in the afternoon, as well as wiping my eyelids with a wet cloth occasionally.", "Take a facecloth and soak it in cool water. Lay back and drape it over your eyes for short term relief.", "Chronically itchy eyes can be a symptom of seasonal allergies or dry eyes. Dry eyes can in turn be caused by prolonged work at a computer (we apparently blink less). Dry eyes can also cause frequent bouts of conjunctivitis requiring antibiotics. \n\nIn short..use eye drops to keep your eyes lubricated. My ophthalmologist recommended Systane when I had eye surgery last year. ", "Usually this has to do with allergies. Try taking an antihistamine. Also, wash out your eyes this will help get rid of the stuff that's causing the irritation. Often times when I pet my cat I forget that I'm mildly allergic and then rub my eyes. Washing them out with some warm water usually helps.", "They have Antihistamine eye drops specficially for this. The Pollen count has been crazy crazy high lately (at least here in KC)\n\nIt hasn't affected my eyes much so I've only been using Allegra but you should stop by a pharmacy and go to the Allergy section and look for eye drops for it.\n\nAlso sites like Pollen.com can show the pollen count in your zipcode so you can see if this is indeed the problem.\n\n(I only recently even realized this was a problem for me.. someone told me you can become allergic to allergens later on in life.. maybe you just didn't know you were affected by this stuff like me)", "Try Systane eye lubricating drops. I had the same problem and my ophthalmologist recommended it to me along with Elestate prescription drops. Now, I'm perfectly O.K. I occasionally use Elestate, use Systane when I need.", "If there's an irritant in there, or if you have the beginnings of an infection, rinse your eyes. Use an unused bottle for [nasal irrigation](http://www.amazon.com/NeilMed-Sinus-Rinse-Bottles-Premixed/dp/B001HDRHR8/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1345863522&sr=1-1&keywords=neilmed); they deliver a good amount of water gently. Use bottled water or just-filtered water.", "For temporary relief, you can buy the very small, single use, eye drop vials. They fit in your pocket well without adding bulk. Hope you get better soon." ]

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[ "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?", "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?", "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?", "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?", "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?", "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?", "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?", "How to stay cool indoors during the summer without AC? So I'm living in a 40 year house that has no built in air condition system. I'm sure many other redditors in older housing complexes face the same problem. It's even worse if you live on the second floor or higher.\n\nHow can I stay cool without AC?" ]

[ "I'm assuming this house has windows? You don't need central air to stay cool. Look in the paper's classified section — people sell window AC units for relatively cheap.", "For years, my mom has kept my childhood home comfortable in hot Alberta summers without AC by opening and closing the windows and blinds at certain times of the day. \n\nBasically, you want windows and blinds open first thing in the morning before the day heats up to get a cool breeze running through the place. Then, close the windows and lower the blinds all day until the temperature drops a bit in the evening. If you aren't up early enough to get the windows open before it gets unbearably hot, though, you're kind of SOL. Park yourself in front of a good fan.", "Eat spicy foods. The reaction to the spiciness will cause you to sweat, which alleviates your internal body temperature from being so high. If you have a sensitive stomach/colon/toilet, just get a fan, keep some ice packs on you to put on the back of your neck which can cool you down a lot faster than if it were on your head. ", "get a powerful metal blade fan, something you can move easily from room to room. however, check how loud the blades and motor noises are. the grill/grate over the propeller should not let fingers through (especially if you have kids around). standing fans with acrylic blades are also good and fairly easy to assemble.", "Key isn't moving air, but cross ventilation. Organize fans and windows to create a flow. Consider pulling air from the shady side of the house, temps can be significantly lower. ", "Invest in a window AC unit, will be worth your while. \n\nOtherwise, a combination of fans in corners facing out into big rooms as well as leaving windows open on sides of the house that the sun isn't hitting at the time will help. The key to keeping spaces cool is air flow, not necessarily just cool air. So by using fans in smart locations combined with open windows, it should help with this.\n\nBut if you can, definitely get that window unit. And then don't leave other windows open, obviously. With this, make sure to pad the open window holding the unit very well, as the cheap plastic they come with these days leave gaping holes all around, letting a ton of hot air in. That's counter-productive, will cause you to turn the unit up in power, thus making your electric bill a hoot and a half.", "In the old days, they used attic fans. These fans were centrally localed in the house. They would pull warm air from the interior of the house and blow it into the attic. They were typically used with the windows open.", "For sleeping, which for me is the hardest part, take a damp washcloth and put it on your bare chests. Evaporative cooling goes a long way. Incorporate a fan and you may be even feel too cold! " ]

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[ "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content ", "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content ", "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content ", "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content ", "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content ", "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content ", "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content ", "How do I stop all these subs that I haven't joined from showing up on my feed? o feel like previously I would only see the subs I'm in, now I'm seeing all kinds of distracting and time wasting content " ]

[ "On the app:\n\nSettings > Account Settings for u/ArmzLDN\n\nScroll to the bottom. Turn off \"Next Generation Recommendations.\"", "Preferences > Link Options\n\t\n**☐** show trending subreddits on the home feed (a list of popular and notable subreddits to check out)", "LOL I just realized this is the subredddit that is one of the biggest offenders of this shit for me..", "This keeps happening to me. No matter how many times I click “stop showing posts from this particular sub” just to see the same sub pushed on my feed again. Even if the sub isn’t all that bad it’s always a shitpost with some covid disinformation that is being pushed even though it’s not even a top post on that sub", "If you’re in Mobile consider using “Apollo for Reddit”. It’s a popular third party Reddit client made by a very attentive developer. There will be no ads, no recommended subs. You can have a feed of only subscribed subs, as well as the “home” page of Reddit that has all the popular posts of the day. \n\nIt also adds many other functions that are very nice when browsing Reddit. Much less cluttered than the regular app.", "I don’t mind some of them TBH. But it annoys me to no end when I leave a sub and then it continues to show up", "I just go to the sub info and unselect \"include in all\". Took away all those damn crypto posts and I even hid some of the more infuriating subs from myself, to avoid as many negative interactions as possible.", "So there is a way to un sub, but like what about reddit isnt time wasting...\n\n" ]

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[ "How to stop thinking too far into the future I've been wanting to get involved in many things recently, whether it is a relationship, buying something expensive, or even just trying new food.\n\nHowever, the moment I think of something I always have 50 dumb scenarios in my head rolling.\n\nFor example: If I ask XXX on a date, will she want to marry me? What will our kids names be? How many toes do I think her parents have? \n\nStuff like that always pops in my head for no apparent reason. After the idea goes away, I always feel like absolute shit because I know that I'm just crazy inside.\n\nPlease help! Thanks!", "How to stop thinking too far into the future I've been wanting to get involved in many things recently, whether it is a relationship, buying something expensive, or even just trying new food.\n\nHowever, the moment I think of something I always have 50 dumb scenarios in my head rolling.\n\nFor example: If I ask XXX on a date, will she want to marry me? What will our kids names be? How many toes do I think her parents have? \n\nStuff like that always pops in my head for no apparent reason. After the idea goes away, I always feel like absolute shit because I know that I'm just crazy inside.\n\nPlease help! Thanks!" ]

[ "Understand this, because you're capable you'll handle what comes next, until then, handle what's coming first. Step by step, one thing at a time. ", "In my opinion, I think it's good to do that. Especially with dating. Because if you don't see yourself marrying them then it's kind of a waste o time, right? I like daydreaming about future stuff. I think it keeps me on track with my goals. " ]

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[ "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms.", "How to avoid the slowdown and bandwidth consumption caused by tracking servers (like Google Analytics) I already use No Script, but that might actually make things slower. I'm looking for a PC solution, though other Redditors might be interested in solutions for other platforms." ]

[ "The bandwidth consumption of Google Analytics? The tracking script is cached and the actual calls are a few KBs top. If you're worried about that then you've got bigger issues. And every site that is using a GA script from the past 5 years is loading asynchronously so there's not going to be any performance issue either.\n\nThis subreddit gets more hilarious by the day.", "[Collusion for Chrome](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/collusion-for-chrome/ganlifbpkcplnldliibcbegplfmcfigp) will block many known tracking servers. But I like the idea of whole system/whole LAN solutions a bit better. \n\n(Also it shows a [really nifty map](http://imgur.com/X0TNjNC.png) of what sites are tracking you where. I haven't shut down my browser in a while...)", "It doens't really slow or use more bandwidth per page than loading a image on the site. I don't understand your reasons listed for wanting this unless you are on dial up on a pentium II.", "How has no one mentioned [RequestPolicy](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/requestpolicy/?src=category)? It's like NoScript on steroids. And it's fully compatible with NoScript.", "I came in here to say \"asynchronous JS\", but that's the wrong side of things.\n\nYeah, I use Ghostery, makes things good.", "Don't forget about [Privoxy](http://www.privoxy.org/), \"a non-caching web proxy with advanced filtering capabilities for enhancing privacy, modifying web page data and HTTP headers, controlling access, and removing ads and other obnoxious Internet junk\". It's available for Linux, Windows, and Mac. Its default.action file contains a large number of services like and including google-analytics. It sets itself up on Windows as the default proxy, so all your web browsers, such as Firefox, Chrome, and even the browser inside Steam will use it. ( Makes trips to wikis from inside a game you're playing no longer suck. )\n\nPersonally I use a combination of Privoxy, NoScript and FlashBlock for browsing the web, but I'm also paranoid, though not without good reason.", "[RequestPolicy](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/requestpolicy/)\n\n[Adblock Plus](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/adblock-plus/) with a subscription list such as [EasyPrivacy](https://easylist.adblockplus.org/en/) or [Fanboy Tracking List](https://secure.fanboy.co.nz/)", "Use the [Fanboy Ultimate List](https://secure.fanboy.co.nz/filters.html) with [AdBlock Plus](http://adblockplus.org/en/). It blocks trackers alongside ads, social media content (which are also trackers in many cases), in-page popups, newsletters, unnecessary links, self promos and other content that clutters sites unnecessarily.\n\nNote: Do not use it with the regular Fanboy or EasyList adblock lists, to avoid redundancy.", "I use [DoNotTrackMe](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/donottrackme/epanfjkfahimkgomnigadpkobaefekcd?hl=en)", "For me, AdBlock has the greatest effect. I don't personally feel the need for a JS blocker, although I do use FlashBlock, which I also recommend. ", "This makes me think of redirect services, like clicking links on Facebook takes you through something else on Facebook before your destination. Doesn't Google do this as well? \n\nDoesn't this affect page loads? ", "There's a good add-on for Firefox called RequestPolicy. It has a considerable learning period, but after that learning period, you barely ever have to touch it. Learning period consists of allowing various content delivery networks and such.", "I use BlockSite plugin for Firefox. There are more automated ways to do it, like ghostery or adblock, but this way it's totally under my control. As an added bonus, the block list is easily import/exportable as a plaintext file, so I just stick it on a shared drive and it's easy to keep it up to date for all the PCs at my house.", "Does it use that much bandwith, or processing?\n\nIf you are on dial up with an early 2000's computer maybe. \n\nDoes google analytics do much more than analyze when you hit a site, what page you looked at, how long you stayed, what browser you use and when you left? Then reports this data to the owner, data that is necessary for the running of the website.", "[DuckDuckGo](https://duckduckgo.com/)'s search engine + [Ghostery](https://www.ghostery.com/) and [AdblockPlus](https://adblockplus.org/en/chrome) should keep your internet clean from trackers and malware.", "[Better Pop up Blocker](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/better-pop-up-blocker/nmpeeekfhbmikbdhlpjbfmnpgcbeggic), [Adblock Plus](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/adblock-plus/cfhdojbkjhnklbpkdaibdccddilifddb)", "Not sure if this does the same thing or just opts out for you but I use \"Do Not Track Me,\" It seems to work pretty well and keeps a running tab of how many sites you've blocked. it even blocks facebook and google plus buttons.", "[Firefox](http://www.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/new/) with [NoScript](http://noscript.net/), [Ghostery](http://www.ghostery.com/), etc.\n\nIt's not that difficult unless you use IE or Chrome. I have 5-6 different Firefox addons that could all accomplish what you're looking for.", "Would anyone have any good suggestions for Macs? I only use Firefox for browsing, so I know there are add-ons for that, but I would really love something that could also prevent background tracking of any kind." ]

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[ "What are your best tips for simplifying house chores? \n\nHi folks!\n\nOn a recent comment in another sub I was mentioning how house chores take so much time and you end up with less free time to enjoy the things you do. For families, kids can really take that to a whole new level of endless cleaning and tidying.\n\nI've been trying to optimize how we do things at home in order to cut on time needed to clean/organize/tidy later. Was curious to know what/how others do as well.\n\nHere's a few of my own\n\n* get a dishwasher - its great when someone loves to do dishes, but its not our case. Delegating that do the dishwasher is a timesaver. Of course there's still work involved but all in all I think we are better now\n* clean as you cook - every empty packet, can or whatever, immediately goes to the bin. Dirty stuff goes to the dishwasher right way. In the end, its easier to clean up the kitchen.\n* for me, get only black socks - big timesaver, no more hours of trying to match pairs\n* when we do laundry, clean underwear goes to a different basket from the rest of the clothes. easier to find and manage\n* wipe your bathroom sink dry before going to bed (last person to use it) - it helps keeping it clean and with less stains\n* cleaning frenzy - I can't remember where I got this from (flylady?), its basically a 10min period during the afternoon where we put some lively music and all the family focus on cleaning up and organizing whatever we feel like during these short bursts of time. Obviously you are not doing a deep clean, its more just to put things in their place (toys! clothing, etc...) We take turns choosing whats songs are played\n\nShare what works for you :)", "What are your best tips for simplifying house chores? \n\nHi folks!\n\nOn a recent comment in another sub I was mentioning how house chores take so much time and you end up with less free time to enjoy the things you do. For families, kids can really take that to a whole new level of endless cleaning and tidying.\n\nI've been trying to optimize how we do things at home in order to cut on time needed to clean/organize/tidy later. Was curious to know what/how others do as well.\n\nHere's a few of my own\n\n* get a dishwasher - its great when someone loves to do dishes, but its not our case. Delegating that do the dishwasher is a timesaver. Of course there's still work involved but all in all I think we are better now\n* clean as you cook - every empty packet, can or whatever, immediately goes to the bin. Dirty stuff goes to the dishwasher right way. In the end, its easier to clean up the kitchen.\n* for me, get only black socks - big timesaver, no more hours of trying to match pairs\n* when we do laundry, clean underwear goes to a different basket from the rest of the clothes. easier to find and manage\n* wipe your bathroom sink dry before going to bed (last person to use it) - it helps keeping it clean and with less stains\n* cleaning frenzy - I can't remember where I got this from (flylady?), its basically a 10min period during the afternoon where we put some lively music and all the family focus on cleaning up and organizing whatever we feel like during these short bursts of time. Obviously you are not doing a deep clean, its more just to put things in their place (toys! clothing, etc...) We take turns choosing whats songs are played\n\nShare what works for you :)", "What are your best tips for simplifying house chores? \n\nHi folks!\n\nOn a recent comment in another sub I was mentioning how house chores take so much time and you end up with less free time to enjoy the things you do. For families, kids can really take that to a whole new level of endless cleaning and tidying.\n\nI've been trying to optimize how we do things at home in order to cut on time needed to clean/organize/tidy later. Was curious to know what/how others do as well.\n\nHere's a few of my own\n\n* get a dishwasher - its great when someone loves to do dishes, but its not our case. Delegating that do the dishwasher is a timesaver. Of course there's still work involved but all in all I think we are better now\n* clean as you cook - every empty packet, can or whatever, immediately goes to the bin. Dirty stuff goes to the dishwasher right way. In the end, its easier to clean up the kitchen.\n* for me, get only black socks - big timesaver, no more hours of trying to match pairs\n* when we do laundry, clean underwear goes to a different basket from the rest of the clothes. easier to find and manage\n* wipe your bathroom sink dry before going to bed (last person to use it) - it helps keeping it clean and with less stains\n* cleaning frenzy - I can't remember where I got this from (flylady?), its basically a 10min period during the afternoon where we put some lively music and all the family focus on cleaning up and organizing whatever we feel like during these short bursts of time. Obviously you are not doing a deep clean, its more just to put things in their place (toys! clothing, etc...) We take turns choosing whats songs are played\n\nShare what works for you :)", "What are your best tips for simplifying house chores? \n\nHi folks!\n\nOn a recent comment in another sub I was mentioning how house chores take so much time and you end up with less free time to enjoy the things you do. For families, kids can really take that to a whole new level of endless cleaning and tidying.\n\nI've been trying to optimize how we do things at home in order to cut on time needed to clean/organize/tidy later. Was curious to know what/how others do as well.\n\nHere's a few of my own\n\n* get a dishwasher - its great when someone loves to do dishes, but its not our case. Delegating that do the dishwasher is a timesaver. Of course there's still work involved but all in all I think we are better now\n* clean as you cook - every empty packet, can or whatever, immediately goes to the bin. Dirty stuff goes to the dishwasher right way. In the end, its easier to clean up the kitchen.\n* for me, get only black socks - big timesaver, no more hours of trying to match pairs\n* when we do laundry, clean underwear goes to a different basket from the rest of the clothes. easier to find and manage\n* wipe your bathroom sink dry before going to bed (last person to use it) - it helps keeping it clean and with less stains\n* cleaning frenzy - I can't remember where I got this from (flylady?), its basically a 10min period during the afternoon where we put some lively music and all the family focus on cleaning up and organizing whatever we feel like during these short bursts of time. Obviously you are not doing a deep clean, its more just to put things in their place (toys! clothing, etc...) We take turns choosing whats songs are played\n\nShare what works for you :)", "What are your best tips for simplifying house chores? \n\nHi folks!\n\nOn a recent comment in another sub I was mentioning how house chores take so much time and you end up with less free time to enjoy the things you do. For families, kids can really take that to a whole new level of endless cleaning and tidying.\n\nI've been trying to optimize how we do things at home in order to cut on time needed to clean/organize/tidy later. Was curious to know what/how others do as well.\n\nHere's a few of my own\n\n* get a dishwasher - its great when someone loves to do dishes, but its not our case. Delegating that do the dishwasher is a timesaver. Of course there's still work involved but all in all I think we are better now\n* clean as you cook - every empty packet, can or whatever, immediately goes to the bin. Dirty stuff goes to the dishwasher right way. In the end, its easier to clean up the kitchen.\n* for me, get only black socks - big timesaver, no more hours of trying to match pairs\n* when we do laundry, clean underwear goes to a different basket from the rest of the clothes. easier to find and manage\n* wipe your bathroom sink dry before going to bed (last person to use it) - it helps keeping it clean and with less stains\n* cleaning frenzy - I can't remember where I got this from (flylady?), its basically a 10min period during the afternoon where we put some lively music and all the family focus on cleaning up and organizing whatever we feel like during these short bursts of time. Obviously you are not doing a deep clean, its more just to put things in their place (toys! clothing, etc...) We take turns choosing whats songs are played\n\nShare what works for you :)", "What are your best tips for simplifying house chores? \n\nHi folks!\n\nOn a recent comment in another sub I was mentioning how house chores take so much time and you end up with less free time to enjoy the things you do. For families, kids can really take that to a whole new level of endless cleaning and tidying.\n\nI've been trying to optimize how we do things at home in order to cut on time needed to clean/organize/tidy later. Was curious to know what/how others do as well.\n\nHere's a few of my own\n\n* get a dishwasher - its great when someone loves to do dishes, but its not our case. Delegating that do the dishwasher is a timesaver. Of course there's still work involved but all in all I think we are better now\n* clean as you cook - every empty packet, can or whatever, immediately goes to the bin. Dirty stuff goes to the dishwasher right way. In the end, its easier to clean up the kitchen.\n* for me, get only black socks - big timesaver, no more hours of trying to match pairs\n* when we do laundry, clean underwear goes to a different basket from the rest of the clothes. easier to find and manage\n* wipe your bathroom sink dry before going to bed (last person to use it) - it helps keeping it clean and with less stains\n* cleaning frenzy - I can't remember where I got this from (flylady?), its basically a 10min period during the afternoon where we put some lively music and all the family focus on cleaning up and organizing whatever we feel like during these short bursts of time. Obviously you are not doing a deep clean, its more just to put things in their place (toys! clothing, etc...) We take turns choosing whats songs are played\n\nShare what works for you :)" ]

[ "Double line your trash can. The full bag slides out much easier plus if you get a rip/leak you have a back up. \n\nSecond to that, place the remaining roll of bags in the bottom of the clean can, pull two liners off, place one in but pull the roll of bags up and just past the edge of the can, then tie and gently the liner over. I usually put a **small** hole (size of a dime) in the top of the first liner I put in to allow air to escape. Then put I the second bag in normally and use as you’d expect\n\n!! If this gave you a stroke to read I apologize, please know it gave me one to attempting writing it. If you need any pictures to help elaborate please let me know and I’ll source some. !!", "We have personal cutlery sets for daily use. Each person's is a different pattern/color and we leave the normal matching set mostly untouched. You avoid silverware collecting in the sink/dishwasher and it encourages each person to do a quick wash of their own at the end of a meal.", "Tip from foot doctor- buy white socks, it will show blood from any cuts or punctures that some people may otherwise not notice! This is especially helpful for people who have neuropathy or diabetes.", "Glad I’m not the only one who limits socks. I have a dozen taller socks and a dozens ankle socks. All black. Maybe one or two white just in case.", "For those who use a washcloth at the sink, after you are done with it, use that wet washcloth to wipe down the sink and counter. It takes 30 seconds to wipe it down before tossing the cloth in the hamper. If you don’t use a washcloth, each time you are about to swap out the hand towel for a clean one, wet the end of it and wipe the counter down.\n\nI also use a dry part of my bath towel to do a quick rub on the bathroom mirror to remove smudges a few times a week. Thanks to this, I almost never have to actually clean the mirror.", "Do things as you go - simultaneously, when cooking on the side do the dishes. You go get groceries throw away all your trash on the way out. You laze around on the sofa? Make a todo list of stuff that needs taking care of. Also place things in convinient places so that it easier for you to grab and do what ever needs to get done. I have seen it often time that people hide things away from them selves only than to never use it.\n\nGet an vacuum that is light and cordless - like these Dyson wall mount ones." ]

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[ "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?", "Removing smell/odors from clothes and jackets My house is subjected to strong spices and other cooking fumes, which latch onto clothes really well. Other than storing the clothes far away, what can we do to remove the odors latched on?" ]

[ "Wardrobe people I've known swear by a 50/50 vodka/water mix in a spray bottle. Kills odors, no residual scent, and an emergency cocktail when you need one!", "I mix a bit of fabric softener with water in a spray bottle, and use it as cheap, homemade febreeze. Also, since it's the same softener I use in the laundry, it doesn't smell out of place, or overly perfume-y. ", "although this doesn't apply directly to clothing - if you have smelly feet (and as a result smelly shoes) freeze them. The stench is from odor-causing bacteria, who don't live long in a freezer.", "In addition to cleaning them, there are ways to stop the odors from latching to the clothes. My mother would actually hang a very heavy shower curtain (think tarp) over the kitchen entrance. The windows would be open no matter what the season (even in the middle of canadian winters) and a fan(s) on for circulation. If you have a range hood, that fan should be on as well unless it actually doesn't vent outside. Our's didn't, so more windows/doors open. Think cross ventilation.\n\nIt seems extreme but in a house that used many masalas, it never smelled like a ethnic grocery store.\n\nSource: My Indian Mother", "I'm a smoker who lives in his parents basement. They often leave for weeks-months at a time... i haven't been caught smoking in the house thanks to [these things](http://www.internetestateauction.com/uploaded/2010-11-13-imp/PHOTO2D1022D1109.jpg)\nProzone whole house air purifier they can get pricey but if you can afford it they work great on smells. For clothes just put the item and the purifier both in a small closet for about a day. \n\n[", "I work in a restaurant and put a little dawn in my laundry detergent. Not too much though or it'll foam up like crazy. Cuts through the grease to get smells out.", "Dry cleaner bags and put a strip of fabric softener sheet in with the clothes. For clarification : http://i01.i.aliimg.com/wsphoto/v0/597770647/Home-incorporating-dust-font-b-bag-b-font-Transparent-dust-cover-suits-Best-clothes-cover-font.jpg_250x250.jpg", "Add a little **White Vinegar** to your laundry water. I found a Vinegar at Walmart the other day that is a tad bit more acidic and is marketed for cleaning purposes. It is still safe to eat but is better at cleaning. I add about 1/3 a cup to my laundry. I read this tip after googling a bit. It seems to work well.", "Try ozium, it's sold in car accessory stores and is used to get the smell of smoke out of cars. Works great and I don't see why it wouldn't work on other upholstery and clothes.", "Anyone want to help me with the same problem but with my shoes? I know i can use those Gel packets that you're not suppose to eat but where do you get those?", "Yankee Candle Company's Maple Pancakes candle saturates all my clothes with the delicious smell of maple pancakes. It's just substituting one odor for another, but I bet it would work.", "Wash with vinegar where you would put bleach in the washing machine. Even gets rid of the moldy smell you get when you leave clothes in the washer", "If I have particularly stinky clothing that I want to make sure I get the smell out of, I use some Nature's Miracle in the wash along with my liquid fabric softener. [go here](http://www.amazon.ca/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=natures+miracle&tag=googcana-20&index=kitchen&hvadid=29907447582&hvpos=1t2&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1201791092253445699&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_8jxl4406r7_b)\n\nYes, it's advertised for pet mess, but it's an enzyme cleaner and will work on any organic smell or stain. ", "I sprinkle a little unused ground coffee into my trashcan to cut through the smell there. Might do well for you. But since it's all the clothes and a constant thing, might be better trying the vodka ideas", "First attempt to prevent the problem. Try properly venting the smells, open a window while cooking, use the kitchen hood. An air purifier might be an option depending on budget. And as for cleaning, the other comments seem to cover every option.", "You could splash some diesel fuel on the clothes. This will definitely get rid of the spice and food smells, but your clothes will now smell like diesel fuel. Probably forever. " ]

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[ "How can I motivate a large number of people to do something? So, I'm a freshmen MCJROTC cadet and I'm in charge of my company of freshmen cadets(I'm the company CO). Although people in my company generally respect me, they don't seem to care or not want to do X or Y(especially drill).\n\nSo, how can I motivate them to do drill/PT/etc.? ", "How can I motivate a large number of people to do something? So, I'm a freshmen MCJROTC cadet and I'm in charge of my company of freshmen cadets(I'm the company CO). Although people in my company generally respect me, they don't seem to care or not want to do X or Y(especially drill).\n\nSo, how can I motivate them to do drill/PT/etc.? ", "How can I motivate a large number of people to do something? So, I'm a freshmen MCJROTC cadet and I'm in charge of my company of freshmen cadets(I'm the company CO). Although people in my company generally respect me, they don't seem to care or not want to do X or Y(especially drill).\n\nSo, how can I motivate them to do drill/PT/etc.? " ]

[ "Knockout drill.\n\nEverybody gets in formation, you call commands like wildfire. If you fuck up a move, you're out. Last one standing gets a prize.\n\n*Left....FACE*\n\n*Right....FACE*\n\n*LEFT FACE RIGHT FACE RIGHT FACE RIGHT FACE LEFT FACE LEFT FACE PRESENT ARMS ORDER FRIES*\n\n *FORWARD MARCH*\n\n*TO THE REAR MARCH*\n\n*RIGHT FLANK MARCH*\n\n*QUADRUPLE TO THE REAR WITH A RIGHT FLANK LEFT FLANK HALT PRESENT ARMS ORDER ARMS MARCH*", "Make it a competition! People are more likely to do something when it comes to competing against others.", "Show them videos of people dying and tell them the difference between your brains and a bullet is maximum effort." ]

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[ "How to introduce yourself to your friend's friend that you just met to make interaction flow? While both of them are together, of course.", "How to introduce yourself to your friend's friend that you just met to make interaction flow? While both of them are together, of course." ]

[ "The biggest thing is finding common ground to build off of. To do this you have to push through the boring opener questions. Introductions don't have to be more complex than a \"Hi I'm Dan\"", "That should be the friend's job. But, if they fail, just say \"Hi, I'm (your name), (friend's name)'s invisible friend. " ]

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[ "Difficult Questions, What to say when you don't know the answer? I work as an application engineer at a tech company and often have to interface with customers and clients who have technical questions or general questions about how to use the application. The issue I am having is I am brand new and am still learning. Most these users have been using the application far longer then I have and while I am good at finding the answer, I am bad at answering the questions I don't know on the spot. \n\nThis has been a source of high anxiety and stress for me so was hoping you folks could offer some tips on how to remain confident and handle questions I don't know the answer to", "Difficult Questions, What to say when you don't know the answer? I work as an application engineer at a tech company and often have to interface with customers and clients who have technical questions or general questions about how to use the application. The issue I am having is I am brand new and am still learning. Most these users have been using the application far longer then I have and while I am good at finding the answer, I am bad at answering the questions I don't know on the spot. \n\nThis has been a source of high anxiety and stress for me so was hoping you folks could offer some tips on how to remain confident and handle questions I don't know the answer to", "Difficult Questions, What to say when you don't know the answer? I work as an application engineer at a tech company and often have to interface with customers and clients who have technical questions or general questions about how to use the application. The issue I am having is I am brand new and am still learning. Most these users have been using the application far longer then I have and while I am good at finding the answer, I am bad at answering the questions I don't know on the spot. \n\nThis has been a source of high anxiety and stress for me so was hoping you folks could offer some tips on how to remain confident and handle questions I don't know the answer to", "Difficult Questions, What to say when you don't know the answer? I work as an application engineer at a tech company and often have to interface with customers and clients who have technical questions or general questions about how to use the application. The issue I am having is I am brand new and am still learning. Most these users have been using the application far longer then I have and while I am good at finding the answer, I am bad at answering the questions I don't know on the spot. \n\nThis has been a source of high anxiety and stress for me so was hoping you folks could offer some tips on how to remain confident and handle questions I don't know the answer to" ]

[ "\"I'm sorry, I'm new with [program x] and don't know the answer offhand. If you bear with me, I'll try to figure it out for you or I could transfer you to somebody a little more knowledgeable.\"\n\nAnd even if they opt for the transfer, still try to figure it out. It'll only help you in the long run.\n\n", "/u/Septothorpe pretty much nailed it. I'd like to expand on some things said:\n\n* Don't give excuses (being new, etc). You won't always be new, and but there will always be things you don't know immediately. If you give an excuse, you have no idea how the customer will respond.\n\n* Triage the situation. If it's truly urgent, involve a co-worker in such a way as to get confirmation the person is working on it. Sometimes people don't step up unless personally contacted.\n\n* Follow up. If the customer is on the phone, confirm their direct dial number and (if applicable) timezone. \n\n* Follow up 2. If it's appropriate to your business, contact the customer regularly to let them know you're working on it. No one likes to feel forgotten!\n\n* Internally, thank everyone who helped you out. ", "Do what most store personnel does; Point to a colleague \"He can help you with that\" and while the customer is looking you run away.", "Stop bullshitting and just say you don't know. You are wasting everyone's time and effort by not doing so." ]

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[ "How to convince your professor/teacher to round your grade up Most professors usually ask \"why should I round you up\" as well. Answers to this question, as well as how to approach the teacher and ask them to round your grade, would be appreciated by students across this subreddit, especially with the end of semester coming up.", "How to convince your professor/teacher to round your grade up Most professors usually ask \"why should I round you up\" as well. Answers to this question, as well as how to approach the teacher and ask them to round your grade, would be appreciated by students across this subreddit, especially with the end of semester coming up.", "How to convince your professor/teacher to round your grade up Most professors usually ask \"why should I round you up\" as well. Answers to this question, as well as how to approach the teacher and ask them to round your grade, would be appreciated by students across this subreddit, especially with the end of semester coming up." ]

[ "Put in a lot of hard work, if you worked really hard and just barely missed the grade you were going for. They MIGHT round it up for you if it is a few points shy.", "Don't give the prof the opportunity to ask \"why should I round you up\", you should have presented the reason when you initially asked for the grade boost. Otherwise you sound like you're begging. \n\nI think the best reasons usually have to do with scholarships or applications. For example, if you got 78% in a course, but explained to the prof that you'll be in the running for a scholarship if you had an 80% they might give it to you. Ideally the reason you'd give would be true, or at least realistic. In general, profs don't want you to be broke or get rejected from grad school/jobs/etc that you're applying to, so if they are under the impression that you worked hard in the course, but are just shy of the grade you need they're often willing to give you a small boost. ", "Just be like “ round my grade, up if you really care for me you’d round my grade up....do you want me to be in this class next year? Do you want me to fail at life?” Make them feel like they have to unless you haven’t been trying and that’s the reason you failed then they’re not gonna go for that." ]

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[ "Best way to remove the extremely adhesive bandages after surgery? My little niece is 7 years old and has to get surgery every 6 month for her scoliosis. The surgery tiself isnt too bad anymore and she is a strong fighter and usually is up walking the same day. The real problem comes when its time to remove the strong adhesive bandage they put on her back. It is extremely difficult to remove and not to mention painful. We put vaseline all over her back for a few days and then while showering slowly peeling off, but is there a better way?", "Best way to remove the extremely adhesive bandages after surgery? My little niece is 7 years old and has to get surgery every 6 month for her scoliosis. The surgery tiself isnt too bad anymore and she is a strong fighter and usually is up walking the same day. The real problem comes when its time to remove the strong adhesive bandage they put on her back. It is extremely difficult to remove and not to mention painful. We put vaseline all over her back for a few days and then while showering slowly peeling off, but is there a better way?", "Best way to remove the extremely adhesive bandages after surgery? My little niece is 7 years old and has to get surgery every 6 month for her scoliosis. The surgery tiself isnt too bad anymore and she is a strong fighter and usually is up walking the same day. The real problem comes when its time to remove the strong adhesive bandage they put on her back. It is extremely difficult to remove and not to mention painful. We put vaseline all over her back for a few days and then while showering slowly peeling off, but is there a better way?", "Best way to remove the extremely adhesive bandages after surgery? My little niece is 7 years old and has to get surgery every 6 month for her scoliosis. The surgery tiself isnt too bad anymore and she is a strong fighter and usually is up walking the same day. The real problem comes when its time to remove the strong adhesive bandage they put on her back. It is extremely difficult to remove and not to mention painful. We put vaseline all over her back for a few days and then while showering slowly peeling off, but is there a better way?", "Best way to remove the extremely adhesive bandages after surgery? My little niece is 7 years old and has to get surgery every 6 month for her scoliosis. The surgery tiself isnt too bad anymore and she is a strong fighter and usually is up walking the same day. The real problem comes when its time to remove the strong adhesive bandage they put on her back. It is extremely difficult to remove and not to mention painful. We put vaseline all over her back for a few days and then while showering slowly peeling off, but is there a better way?", "Best way to remove the extremely adhesive bandages after surgery? My little niece is 7 years old and has to get surgery every 6 month for her scoliosis. The surgery tiself isnt too bad anymore and she is a strong fighter and usually is up walking the same day. The real problem comes when its time to remove the strong adhesive bandage they put on her back. It is extremely difficult to remove and not to mention painful. We put vaseline all over her back for a few days and then while showering slowly peeling off, but is there a better way?", "Best way to remove the extremely adhesive bandages after surgery? My little niece is 7 years old and has to get surgery every 6 month for her scoliosis. The surgery tiself isnt too bad anymore and she is a strong fighter and usually is up walking the same day. The real problem comes when its time to remove the strong adhesive bandage they put on her back. It is extremely difficult to remove and not to mention painful. We put vaseline all over her back for a few days and then while showering slowly peeling off, but is there a better way?" ]

[ "You can also request paper tape + gauze bandages. I had surgery and found out that I am allergic to the adhesive tape. So now I have to use the big gauze bandages and paper tape. Comes off when you need it to.", "Ask them at the hospital for adhesive remover. They look just like alcohol swab packs. They gave some to wife after her surgery and they worked wonderfully. I will look around for them to see I can get the brand name. ", "This is a shot in the dark, but olive/cooking oil? I know it helps out with stickers for objects, but I'm not too sure about bandages on skin. ", "Soak the wound in some salt water. The salt lyses the blood and makes it easier for the bandages to be removed. The salt does not hurt the wound and the scabs come off in painless chunks. ", "Not sure if they can get wet or not, but when I have had similar needs I usually just get bandages wet with warm water. This dissolves/weakens the adhesive substance. I always use this before removing a bandaid on a hairy location (arm etc)", "Naphtha. Available as lighter fluid, but for Zippo-type lighters, not charcoal lighter fluid. Extremely effective adhesive remover but, huge spoiler alert, very flammable. Use with care.", "I have used rubbing alcohol and cotton balls for years. Just rub the edges where the adhesive is, not the padded area." ]

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[ "How do I keep my plastic computer desk mat from staying down when I roll the chair over it? Sometimes it'll stick up and then I have to either push it down by hand or lift the entire chair and place it on the mat. I have carpet so I can't tap it down. Thanks in advance!", "How do I keep my plastic computer desk mat from staying down when I roll the chair over it? Sometimes it'll stick up and then I have to either push it down by hand or lift the entire chair and place it on the mat. I have carpet so I can't tap it down. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "I use a sheet of Masonite from Home Depot instead of plastic. It is bigger, costs less, and I can cut it to shape. If you are a big person, like me (250+ lbs),use two sheets together. ", "A good mat has cleats or spikes on it. These spikes help to keep it firmly in the carpet. I know the mats might be expensive, but it makes sense to buy one that doesn't annoy the crap out of you." ]

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[ "Studying? Hi Guys\n\nI‘m finished my training in IT and looking back at my apprenticeship and I noticed that I only see the purpose in learning stuff that I need or make sense to me rather than just learning it because they tell me to. \nDoes anybody have a tip how I can try to change that mindset? \n\nLike how does somebody in university do that? When they have classes which don‘t have much to do with the main topic but still are mandatory.\n\nYour advice would be appreciated :)", "Studying? Hi Guys\n\nI‘m finished my training in IT and looking back at my apprenticeship and I noticed that I only see the purpose in learning stuff that I need or make sense to me rather than just learning it because they tell me to. \nDoes anybody have a tip how I can try to change that mindset? \n\nLike how does somebody in university do that? When they have classes which don‘t have much to do with the main topic but still are mandatory.\n\nYour advice would be appreciated :)" ]

[ "You're a practical thinker. That's a good thing. See if you can hack your mindset by respecting the potential value of wisdom. When you think about how you \"will\" use a class, you're presuming an awful lot about your future that you can't possibly know. \n\nWhat's better is to think about how you CAN use information. That forces you to think creatively about its applications, and that makes anything more interesting. (and application is a far more useful form of learning anyway.)\n\nI really didn't think trigonometry and calculus were going to be a big part of my life. But I used trig to argue the appraisal value on my house and added 12K to my net worth - just by doing math. And I use calculus to tweak my workouts to optimize the relationships between variables like incline, heart rate, speed, etc.. \n\nKnowledge is only wasted if you don't use it.", "What helps me is to put myself in the place of my teacher. In college this meant looking at the syllabus and imagining all the planning that went into creating it. They had to contend with department and maybe even state requirements. They had to consider the overall goals of the course. They had to plan for holidays. They had to anticipate how much experience the different students may have and they had to decide if/how/when to quiz, test and review the material. \n\nThat led me to a better understanding of what they expected from the average student and then I challenged myself to impress them by bringing more to the class experience than expected. Sometimes it only took reading ahead in the books, but other times I'd choose an area to fully research on my own to share with the class later. Often, in IT classes, I'd help my fellow students in the labs." ]

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[ "Get permanent creases out of cotton polo collars After washing some polos I have a permanent crease in some of the collars of my shirts. Some of them are ok and still wearable, some of them have weird folds or have a corner on the front that is permanent flipped up and looks ridiculous.\n\nAnybody know how to fix this? Is it fixable? I tried ironing it over and over with tons of water and steam, but it didn't do anything to help.", "Get permanent creases out of cotton polo collars After washing some polos I have a permanent crease in some of the collars of my shirts. Some of them are ok and still wearable, some of them have weird folds or have a corner on the front that is permanent flipped up and looks ridiculous.\n\nAnybody know how to fix this? Is it fixable? I tried ironing it over and over with tons of water and steam, but it didn't do anything to help.", "Get permanent creases out of cotton polo collars After washing some polos I have a permanent crease in some of the collars of my shirts. Some of them are ok and still wearable, some of them have weird folds or have a corner on the front that is permanent flipped up and looks ridiculous.\n\nAnybody know how to fix this? Is it fixable? I tried ironing it over and over with tons of water and steam, but it didn't do anything to help.", "Get permanent creases out of cotton polo collars After washing some polos I have a permanent crease in some of the collars of my shirts. Some of them are ok and still wearable, some of them have weird folds or have a corner on the front that is permanent flipped up and looks ridiculous.\n\nAnybody know how to fix this? Is it fixable? I tried ironing it over and over with tons of water and steam, but it didn't do anything to help.", "Get permanent creases out of cotton polo collars After washing some polos I have a permanent crease in some of the collars of my shirts. Some of them are ok and still wearable, some of them have weird folds or have a corner on the front that is permanent flipped up and looks ridiculous.\n\nAnybody know how to fix this? Is it fixable? I tried ironing it over and over with tons of water and steam, but it didn't do anything to help." ]

[ "Flip the collar completely up. Roll the shirt tightly focusing on the collar. Think of rolling it like your would a dollar bill lengthwise. Snap a rubber band at the top and wash it. The collar will wash straight and ease up on the fold in the fabric. Air dry with the collar flipped up, then fold down to desired height when ready to wear.", "A method I've found that works is to turn the shirt inside out, pop the collar, and button the top button. Wash, dry and hang/fold immediately. This has fixed every one of my collars. ", "bend in the opposite way and put a weight on it for a day or so. See if it creases back to the original position", "I usually pop all of my collars before I wash/dry them to try to prevent the crease around the collar. it also may have something to do with the level of heat you use on your dryer. if you are using HIGH/PERM PRESS try switching to medium.\n\nI don't know if it is fixable after the damage is done, but that is what I do to try to prevent it.", "Does anybody know what brands of cotton pique polos do not have permanently creased collars? I have tried all the suggestions here to get rid of them but nothing really works." ]

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[ "How can I be my normal sarcastic self and not Mr. Serious around a specific person. From some reason, when I (31m) am around a certain person (35f) I am very serious, but in general I am the complete opposite. I am laid back, funny, and very sarcastic. What can I do to change that. I truly want to be my normal self around her and not Mr. Serious. What can I do to change that?\n\n**NOTE** Thinking about it, I acted differently with my different circle of friends. I have 4 different circle of friends and each circle is different than each other. ", "How can I be my normal sarcastic self and not Mr. Serious around a specific person. From some reason, when I (31m) am around a certain person (35f) I am very serious, but in general I am the complete opposite. I am laid back, funny, and very sarcastic. What can I do to change that. I truly want to be my normal self around her and not Mr. Serious. What can I do to change that?\n\n**NOTE** Thinking about it, I acted differently with my different circle of friends. I have 4 different circle of friends and each circle is different than each other. ", "How can I be my normal sarcastic self and not Mr. Serious around a specific person. From some reason, when I (31m) am around a certain person (35f) I am very serious, but in general I am the complete opposite. I am laid back, funny, and very sarcastic. What can I do to change that. I truly want to be my normal self around her and not Mr. Serious. What can I do to change that?\n\n**NOTE** Thinking about it, I acted differently with my different circle of friends. I have 4 different circle of friends and each circle is different than each other. ", "How can I be my normal sarcastic self and not Mr. Serious around a specific person. From some reason, when I (31m) am around a certain person (35f) I am very serious, but in general I am the complete opposite. I am laid back, funny, and very sarcastic. What can I do to change that. I truly want to be my normal self around her and not Mr. Serious. What can I do to change that?\n\n**NOTE** Thinking about it, I acted differently with my different circle of friends. I have 4 different circle of friends and each circle is different than each other. ", "How can I be my normal sarcastic self and not Mr. Serious around a specific person. From some reason, when I (31m) am around a certain person (35f) I am very serious, but in general I am the complete opposite. I am laid back, funny, and very sarcastic. What can I do to change that. I truly want to be my normal self around her and not Mr. Serious. What can I do to change that?\n\n**NOTE** Thinking about it, I acted differently with my different circle of friends. I have 4 different circle of friends and each circle is different than each other. ", "How can I be my normal sarcastic self and not Mr. Serious around a specific person. From some reason, when I (31m) am around a certain person (35f) I am very serious, but in general I am the complete opposite. I am laid back, funny, and very sarcastic. What can I do to change that. I truly want to be my normal self around her and not Mr. Serious. What can I do to change that?\n\n**NOTE** Thinking about it, I acted differently with my different circle of friends. I have 4 different circle of friends and each circle is different than each other. ", "How can I be my normal sarcastic self and not Mr. Serious around a specific person. From some reason, when I (31m) am around a certain person (35f) I am very serious, but in general I am the complete opposite. I am laid back, funny, and very sarcastic. What can I do to change that. I truly want to be my normal self around her and not Mr. Serious. What can I do to change that?\n\n**NOTE** Thinking about it, I acted differently with my different circle of friends. I have 4 different circle of friends and each circle is different than each other. " ]

[ "Yeah, I can relate to this sooo much. I'm generally not a serious person (in a good way tho) but around certain people, I can be very serious. I've known them for 3 years, but still no dice. \n\n", "There is a chance that you sense the sarcasm may be too harsh for her. If you're an empath you may be subconsciously aware of her emotional burn and are being a cool guy and avoiding it. I'd just check after making a sarcastic joke that it was revived in the way you intended it. Over time you will find yourself being \"yourself\" more.", "Something that helps me is caffeine. If I have a big cup(pot) of coffee or a big red bul, etc. It seems to make me a bit more confident. Maybe this is just me but it's worth a shot. But remember confident > cocky", "I totally get this, certain people I just struggle to relax with, but some other people I immediately feel at home with and I hit top form with them. \n\nIt's odd isn't it. ", "Go out with individuals instead of the group. Get one person to know the real you, then in the context of the group when you step out of character that person knows where you're coming from.", "this is normal to a degree. i actually struggled very much with this for years, along with social phobia. there are certain personalities that make me act more buttoned up or whatever. i usually gauge their energy and work off it, which isn't advice but more me relating to you. does this person make you a little nervous? maybe they are a work superior or attractive? i just started making lots of jokes. that helps me but again, it's 110% normal to act slightly different around different types of people.", "You're looking for advice on how to talk to women. We (men) have been searching for this advice for eons, get in line." ]

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[ "Men, how do you stop the last few drops from going in your pants Doesn’t matter how many times I shake it, the last few drops always end up in my pants.", "Men, how do you stop the last few drops from going in your pants Doesn’t matter how many times I shake it, the last few drops always end up in my pants.", "Men, how do you stop the last few drops from going in your pants Doesn’t matter how many times I shake it, the last few drops always end up in my pants.", "Men, how do you stop the last few drops from going in your pants Doesn’t matter how many times I shake it, the last few drops always end up in my pants." ]

[ "I'm reading these comments as a girl and I'm wondering why on earth guys don't just use toilet paper? Seems like the most obvious solution", "No matter how how much you shake or how much you dance, you will always end up with a little in your pants.", "One square of TP. Let it soak it out. No rogue drops flying around to your shoes or pants, or worse.. an acquaintance once claimed he flicked a droplet from his one eyed snake to his right eye.", "Get it right to the point where you're about to put it in your pants. Then right as you are about to do so, shake it again." ]

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[ "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!", "How do I effectively cool down my room during hot summer days in the evening, having just a small fan? My home heats up quite a lot these days. I'm not lucky enough to possess an air-conditioner, therefore I'm trying to air my place well in the evenings to cool it down at least a bit. However, it feels like the hot, humid air is \"stuck\" inside. Sadly enough, there is also hardly ever a draught which would help me to ventilate my home better.\nI only have a small fan, which I try to position at the window to have some cooler air sucked inside the room, but I'm not satisfied with the results...\n\nIs there a better way to ensure comfortable temperatures for the night, using only my small fan? Thanks!" ]

[ "Close your shutters or curtains all day. Don't let any sunlight in. Only open shutters or curtains at night. Invest in heavy black out curtains if you don't have any. Also lots of quick showers during the day and don't dry off completely.", "Try freezing two plastic bottles in your freezer. When they are frozen put them between you and your fan. \nWorks but its a bit of a hassle.", "Open two windows at opposite ends of your home and use your fan to try to create a current of air. If possible, have the fan outside pushing air in.", "besides all the good ideas already covered, you can buy a freezer gel pack and lay it on yourself- helps a lot. Its like a flexible gel pack, it doesnt freeze solid. you can buy at drug store or ama zon too. I have two, keep on in freezer while using the other. They last about an hour. They sell them as treatment for sore back, knees, but great for keeping cool.", "You can try putting a damp cloth over the fan. It has to be thin and let air pass through of course, but it should make the air is blowing in cooler (swamp coolers work like this). Unfortunately, it's only going to get you so far though", "Put the fan as high up as possible in the window, blowing out, not in. Fans generate heat, so if the fan is blowing out that heat is getting exhausted instead of ending up inside. Placing it high up ensures that the fan is working with the natural airflow created by opening the window.\n\nDuring the day, close everything up tight and draw your curtains. If you're cooking, use the range hood fan if you have one. Try to take short, cool showers. Drink lots of water. And be sparing with the use of ice packs or wet cloths. Cooling things down in your fridge or freezer generates heat in the room the fridge is in. It may make you feel better temporarily, but in the end it's making your space warmer and more humid. If you're using ice, buy it from a store instead of making it yourself.", "I know buying something new isn’t ideal, but there are fans you can purchase that have a container for ice or water that really help cool. Try googling it if these other suggestions don’t work.", "I have been fighting this battle in my own home lately. I’ve started keeping a stack of clean shirts next to the bed, so if I wake up sweaty in the night, I can put on a dry shirt. I sleep with bags of ice in the bed and keep an insulated water bottle full of ice water next to the bed so I can drink cold water if I wake up in the night.", "open up the house at night and then close it during the day. Close the windows, close the blinds, run your fan. I also like to have a rotation of wet cloths that I put in the freezer and to take out to put on my face or wherever whenever I need them.", "Depending on the type of fan, you could fill a bucket with ice and then put the fan in it. Then you want to put a towel on it so that it drapes over the back. This makes it so that the only place that air can come from is from the ice bucket." ]

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[ "Preparation for being kicked out? I'm in a bad ditch, 18, evicted by parents, need to move out ASAP, but I have a part time job, & I know that wont be much, so any advice would be awesome! Thanks so much! :D", "Preparation for being kicked out? I'm in a bad ditch, 18, evicted by parents, need to move out ASAP, but I have a part time job, & I know that wont be much, so any advice would be awesome! Thanks so much! :D", "Preparation for being kicked out? I'm in a bad ditch, 18, evicted by parents, need to move out ASAP, but I have a part time job, & I know that wont be much, so any advice would be awesome! Thanks so much! :D", "Preparation for being kicked out? I'm in a bad ditch, 18, evicted by parents, need to move out ASAP, but I have a part time job, & I know that wont be much, so any advice would be awesome! Thanks so much! :D", "Preparation for being kicked out? I'm in a bad ditch, 18, evicted by parents, need to move out ASAP, but I have a part time job, & I know that wont be much, so any advice would be awesome! Thanks so much! :D", "Preparation for being kicked out? I'm in a bad ditch, 18, evicted by parents, need to move out ASAP, but I have a part time job, & I know that wont be much, so any advice would be awesome! Thanks so much! :D" ]

[ "First, is there *any* way you can get back in their good graces so you can stay until you have more income? That's your best solution. \n\nBarring that, you need to live with someone--friends, a group house, the more the cheaper. Couch surf like heck.\n\nAnd fix whatever you did to get kicked out, even if you'll never get forgiveness from your parents. If it's a big enough error or personality flaw to get kicked out, most people you'll know in life aren't going to find it admirable either. ", "moving out and beeing good with your parents is the best way. They will support you and help whenever they can. \n\nIf you look for a room in a shared flat: Other than that look for a local shared flat to move in. You probably need some papers that states \"im not in dept\", depends on the country tho. Phone the person in charge ask for taking a look at the room. When visiting the flat/room you will get a paper. Be sure to make a copy of the empty paper. Fill in a copy and give it back. You will get a response pretty quickly. Think about what you need when moving out.", "When you're ready to start looking for a place of your own, always check the classifieds in your local paper. The rent from private landlords (especially retirees) is usually cheaper than corporately run complexes, they're more willing to negotiate rates and leases, and you can often avoid cr", "Look for rooms and shares on Craigslist if you cannot find anyone you know to stay with, a lot of people rent rooms for cheap. If times get tough, most churches have food banks and rental assistance. Since you have a part time job, apply for food assistance asap. Make sure the first thing you pay are bills and gas to keep heading to work. Better to be without extra money but still have a place to lay your head. Best of luck!", "Look for a place to crash and choose an exact duration. Like one week or two weeks or one month depending on the quality of the friend. Then find a new place so you can leave at the exact agreed upon date. If you stay one day over it will be a mess. Repeat until you find a permanent place. Also, when you save up enough, find a month to month room for sublet. There are also couch crashing sites like couchsurfing.com. When you're couch surfing avoid going out or eating out unless it's dirt cheap. Save your cash for independence. Easier said than done, but will pay off. ", "Ask friends and check ads to see if anyone is looking for a roommate. Since you are just moving out and likely don't have much furniture, being a roommate with someone already established on their own would help you and them. And you can sit on a couch without having to pay for one yet." ]

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[ "My charging port on my 2yo phone is messed up, and only charges in a certain position. What can I do? ", "My charging port on my 2yo phone is messed up, and only charges in a certain position. What can I do? ", "My charging port on my 2yo phone is messed up, and only charges in a certain position. What can I do? ", "My charging port on my 2yo phone is messed up, and only charges in a certain position. What can I do? ", "My charging port on my 2yo phone is messed up, and only charges in a certain position. What can I do? " ]

[ "i had this same issue recently -- out of the blue the phone wouldn't charge without fiddling with the cable/phone placement and it only got worse with time -- was this clise to just calling it a loss and using my upgrade to replace it. as a last ditch attempt to save it, i tried phyiscally cleaning the port and, surprise, turned out to be pocket lint that had collected in the charging port; some quick (if gentle) work with a toothpick and everything was back to normal. not sure if that's your problem but it's worth checking. ", "If it's a Samsung (in particular the S3) I had the same problem. When I took it back to the shop and they checked it out, it was something to do with the part between the charging lead and battery that had a loose connection. Had to get a new phone \n\n", "I work at a Phone/Tablet repair shop (IMaster Repair) and We see this issue all the time. 9/10 it's just lint in the charging port. (Especially common on IPhones) Just take a toothpick or a pair of tweezers and Clean it out the best you can't. What happens is the Lint stops the charging from making a complete connection to the logic board so it's will \"sometimes charge\" and Sometimes not. ", "Check your charging port in your phone for pocket lint or any other debris. It's happened to me a couple times. ", "Looks like you got it fixed, but for future reference, some phones have wireless charging. Some phones can be upgraded to wireless charging too. I got the parts off Amazon. It's just a little thing that attaches to the battery. I upgraded my note 2 to wireless charging... I still like wired charging better, but wireless is good if your charge port is broken." ]

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[ "How to live with smokers as a non-smoker I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and one of the apartment mates is a heavy smoker. I didn't think much of it at first and thought that opening the windows and installing an extension on my door to air out my room as much as possible would do the trick but that tricky second hand smoke still finds its way into my room no matter what I try. What can become?! HELP", "How to live with smokers as a non-smoker I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and one of the apartment mates is a heavy smoker. I didn't think much of it at first and thought that opening the windows and installing an extension on my door to air out my room as much as possible would do the trick but that tricky second hand smoke still finds its way into my room no matter what I try. What can become?! HELP", "How to live with smokers as a non-smoker I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and one of the apartment mates is a heavy smoker. I didn't think much of it at first and thought that opening the windows and installing an extension on my door to air out my room as much as possible would do the trick but that tricky second hand smoke still finds its way into my room no matter what I try. What can become?! HELP", "How to live with smokers as a non-smoker I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and one of the apartment mates is a heavy smoker. I didn't think much of it at first and thought that opening the windows and installing an extension on my door to air out my room as much as possible would do the trick but that tricky second hand smoke still finds its way into my room no matter what I try. What can become?! HELP", "How to live with smokers as a non-smoker I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and one of the apartment mates is a heavy smoker. I didn't think much of it at first and thought that opening the windows and installing an extension on my door to air out my room as much as possible would do the trick but that tricky second hand smoke still finds its way into my room no matter what I try. What can become?! HELP", "How to live with smokers as a non-smoker I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and one of the apartment mates is a heavy smoker. I didn't think much of it at first and thought that opening the windows and installing an extension on my door to air out my room as much as possible would do the trick but that tricky second hand smoke still finds its way into my room no matter what I try. What can become?! HELP", "How to live with smokers as a non-smoker I just moved into an apartment a few months ago and one of the apartment mates is a heavy smoker. I didn't think much of it at first and thought that opening the windows and installing an extension on my door to air out my room as much as possible would do the trick but that tricky second hand smoke still finds its way into my room no matter what I try. What can become?! HELP" ]

[ "Get the smoker to smoke outside. As a smoker who tries to be mindful of non-smokers, you wouldn't even have to ask me. If I was the only person who smoked in the apartment, then I would go outside.", "My advice is to just face facts. You thought that you could live with a smoker. You were wrong. In one of your replies you indicate that you are worried mostly about second hand smoke. It will not go away. \n\nDepending on your agreement or lease, make plans to move. It is not fair to the smoker to move in and expect that person to change. You will not be happy with less. ", "Setting out bowls of white vinegar will remove the smoke smell. But the effects on health can't be avoided. There's third hand smoke too... The chemicals that stick to things. Everything from walls, clothes, books etc. ", "If they won't go outside then buy some odour neutralisers and place them about the apartment. Fit a draft excluder strip to the base of your door and put some of the sticky foam draft strips around the door frame to your room. Get a citrus plug in air freshner for your room and a tobacco specific plugin for the shared areas. \n\nBuy a cheap desk fan, get some tea tree, eucalyptus and mint essential oils, put a few drops of each on some tissue paper and stick to the back of the fan. Put the fan near an open window pointing inside your room. ", "If the smokers room is where the smoking takes place, see if he has a return air duct in his room, if he does buy a supply duct grill that is able to close and put that on the duct instead of unclosable one. A supply duct is one that blows out the cold or hot air return sucks it back into the A/C. It might cut down some of the smoke in your room.", "Ask them if they can start smoking outside, or you could always start smoking but I feel like thats not the advice you want", "There is a difference between secondhand smoke and the mere smell of cigarette smoke. If the smoker is in another room and you have the door closed and the window open, there is almost no chance that you are being exposed to secondhand smoke. Unless you can actually see it, chances are that you are not breathing it. \n\nAnti-smoking propaganda has people believing that tobacco smoke is about equal in toxicity to mustard gas. It takes years of continuous exposure to secondhand smoke in unventilated spaces to experience any ill health effects. The odor of your roommates cigarette is not going to do anything to you. \n\nTL;DR - You've been brainwashed and are actually not in any danger. Stop being a pussy. " ]

[ 22, 7, 6, 2, 1, 0, -4 ]

[ "Send a link from your PC and open it on your mobile device in as few steps as possible Right now I'm using Chrome and an iPhone with Pushbullet, and while this method works, it still involves quite a few steps to do such a simple task:\n\n- Copy link\n\n- Paste into Pusbullet in Chrome, push to device\n\n- Swipe Pushbullet notification on iPhone\n\n- Tap link in Pushbullet to open link on iPhone\n\nI feel like there has to be a method that involves less steps.", "Send a link from your PC and open it on your mobile device in as few steps as possible Right now I'm using Chrome and an iPhone with Pushbullet, and while this method works, it still involves quite a few steps to do such a simple task:\n\n- Copy link\n\n- Paste into Pusbullet in Chrome, push to device\n\n- Swipe Pushbullet notification on iPhone\n\n- Tap link in Pushbullet to open link on iPhone\n\nI feel like there has to be a method that involves less steps.", "Send a link from your PC and open it on your mobile device in as few steps as possible Right now I'm using Chrome and an iPhone with Pushbullet, and while this method works, it still involves quite a few steps to do such a simple task:\n\n- Copy link\n\n- Paste into Pusbullet in Chrome, push to device\n\n- Swipe Pushbullet notification on iPhone\n\n- Tap link in Pushbullet to open link on iPhone\n\nI feel like there has to be a method that involves less steps." ]

[ "If you're using chrome on both your phone and computer, open \"recent tabs\" and it will show you the last tabs you had open on all the devices you are logged into.", "do you have a mac book? use the message app to msg it to yourself. if you don't have a macbook, download whatsapp. then use the whatsapp website to send it to yourself. ", "I usually just paste the URL in gmail and save it as a draft. My work blocks all chrome extensions so I'm pretty limited on options." ]

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[ "How to read out loud without stumbling over words I'm reading out loud a guided imagery for my health class presentation tomorrow. I usually read out loud with expression in my voice, at a good volume. I'm going to make my voice as soothing as I can. But sometimes I stumble over words. Any tips on how I can read it perfectly?", "How to read out loud without stumbling over words I'm reading out loud a guided imagery for my health class presentation tomorrow. I usually read out loud with expression in my voice, at a good volume. I'm going to make my voice as soothing as I can. But sometimes I stumble over words. Any tips on how I can read it perfectly?", "How to read out loud without stumbling over words I'm reading out loud a guided imagery for my health class presentation tomorrow. I usually read out loud with expression in my voice, at a good volume. I'm going to make my voice as soothing as I can. But sometimes I stumble over words. Any tips on how I can read it perfectly?", "How to read out loud without stumbling over words I'm reading out loud a guided imagery for my health class presentation tomorrow. I usually read out loud with expression in my voice, at a good volume. I'm going to make my voice as soothing as I can. But sometimes I stumble over words. Any tips on how I can read it perfectly?", "How to read out loud without stumbling over words I'm reading out loud a guided imagery for my health class presentation tomorrow. I usually read out loud with expression in my voice, at a good volume. I'm going to make my voice as soothing as I can. But sometimes I stumble over words. Any tips on how I can read it perfectly?", "How to read out loud without stumbling over words I'm reading out loud a guided imagery for my health class presentation tomorrow. I usually read out loud with expression in my voice, at a good volume. I'm going to make my voice as soothing as I can. But sometimes I stumble over words. Any tips on how I can read it perfectly?" ]

[ "Just slow down and don't read off a script. Memorize what you learned and just go with it. Be calm cool and collected and you'll be golden. ", "i always found that I would get flustered and thats when I would stumble on my words. Take the time, start slowly. You need to practice as well but the best advice I can offer is do not try and rush. You may think you are reading slowly but to someone else it sounds fine. Clarity is what I needed to work on, forget speed.", "Radio news reader here. May be too late now, but reading everything out loud to yourself once or twice beforehand helps a great deal.\n\nAs well, rehearse the big/tricky words you may stumble on.\n\nLet us know how it went!", "Depends on the context. When reading to kids, for example, it's easy if you take on some funny voice or accent. You'll focus more on your voice, and the words come out right. ", "So far the popular post about people with stutters is that they stop stumbling over their words once they take on an accent or do a voice/ impression.", "Bit late, but just feeling comfortable and relaxed while reading does wonders. Remember that your whole class thinks their speech was the worst so they are not judging you. " ]

[ 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to avoid getting blisters on the back of the Achilles Tendon when wearing Sperry's/Sandals w/o socks ", "How to avoid getting blisters on the back of the Achilles Tendon when wearing Sperry's/Sandals w/o socks ", "How to avoid getting blisters on the back of the Achilles Tendon when wearing Sperry's/Sandals w/o socks ", "How to avoid getting blisters on the back of the Achilles Tendon when wearing Sperry's/Sandals w/o socks " ]

[ "I have this problem all the time. I use these things called blister blockers. They are kind of rubbery and are similar to a band-aid but a bit thicker and stick better. They are meant to be put in an area on your skin that you think will be prone to blistering but instead I put them in the shoe itself. That way it doesn't rub my heal, I don't have to put new ones on every time I wear the shoes, and I don't have to worry about adhesive sticking to my skin. It doesn't ruin the look of the shoe because its on the inside but will make the fit a tiny bit tighter. ", "Sperry Sandals? I have a pair of Sperry boat shoes that fit like a glove. I can walk in them all day. I did buy a new pair recently that felt like sht, but I can feel the potential for glove like qualities. Take your time breaking them in and if you need to wear them with loafer socks ", "When I know I am wearing blister causing shoes, I take a stick of anti perspirant and rub it on my foot in the blister hot spots. Works like a charm! ", "Marathoners use a product called Body Glide to prevent chafing. This is awesome for breaking in shoes. " ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings", "People who went from never finishing anything to actually finishing things what are your tips? If I had a dollar for everytime I started a online course or book and never finished it I would probably have $356,700.\n\nI would be grateful for any tips or advice or reasonings" ]

[ "Atomic Habits really helped me. There's a summary version [here](https://www.101planners.com/atomic-habits/), along with worksheets too. Hopefully that helps some of you out!", "My family and I have ADHD. I use lists to help me. I also keep the tasks realistic. Clean off counter not clean whole room. Experiment with what helps stay on task. I have family members who must have music or TV playing in the background.", "Break things into small chunks and do things little by little, celebrate each little achievement like a chapter one by one of a book", "There are a lot of things that will cause your brain to shy away from a task. Usually it’s how and where the thought/brainwave starts and travels through your brain. For me, I’ve had to come to terms with a lifelong lack of commitment that only therapy has helped with. Other times, it’s just because I don’t have to finish, so I don’t. Other times still it’s because I seem to need a deadline. The first cert I got was Net+, not because I wanted it. I just never showed up to my college class and the prof said we get an automatic A if we got certified. So I did, because otherwise it was an F lol. My boss always claims I need to have a flame on my butt to get moving. \n \nI hope you find what motivates you.", "Sometimes not finishing something is the best choice though. If you’re reading a book for pleasure and realize you don’t like it, what’s wrong with choosing another book instead? Obviously it’s good to finish school, but if you’re in college and realize you hate your major, why spend your precious time and money? The schools will obviously pressure you to finish, but it’s because they want your money. They benefit from you choosing the wrong career and having to go back later on. Follow through on the important things, but don’t be afraid to stop doing something that isn’t working for you.", "Prioritize and if you aren’t doing something that makes sense, stop doing it\n\nIf something needs to be done, think about the time frame before even starting, and do as crappy a job as possible that still meets your minimum requirements. You can almost always go back and improve things but you can’t get time back that is wasted over-perfecting something", "How about you say it out loud \" I will do this next 10 minutes because...\"\n\nI say it out loud when I'm about to snack I don't need to snack on. \" I'm not hungry, but i will eat this\" \nIt sounds silly but it works for me not to over eat the snack.", "You have to make it part of your short term routine. I was making bed frames for the kids after they outgrew their toddler beds. My wife was on me to finish. I bared down and came home from work and ate supper and got to it. Did that for two weeks. Sometimes working late out in the garage. After the initial pain in the ass it became a competition with myself to finish. Same thing happens for other projects.", "Making friends with the underlying fear of succes. \n\nIf I am procrastinating, I am afraid of completing the task and what that would mean to my current identity. \n\nThen after you make sure there are no psychological reasons holding you back, chunking! The idea that any small action is better than no action.", "I set a deadline (I'll finish this book by Wednesday, I'll have the dishwasher running by 11:30, etc) and even if I'm cramming the night before and don't make it, I've made significant progress and it's often enough for me to finish late", "Adderall. Never understood how people got big projects started, let alone finished, but I was very good at multitasking immediate things. Over 50 when a therapist suggested it, has made a difference in my work and home." ]

[ 5, 4, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to become more patient? After some honest introspection, I found that my biggest character flaw is my lack of patience with my peers. What is a good way to work on this? ", "How to become more patient? After some honest introspection, I found that my biggest character flaw is my lack of patience with my peers. What is a good way to work on this? ", "How to become more patient? After some honest introspection, I found that my biggest character flaw is my lack of patience with my peers. What is a good way to work on this? ", "How to become more patient? After some honest introspection, I found that my biggest character flaw is my lack of patience with my peers. What is a good way to work on this? ", "How to become more patient? After some honest introspection, I found that my biggest character flaw is my lack of patience with my peers. What is a good way to work on this? " ]

[ "M", "there's probably no quick and dirty trick for this one. \n\nfor me, it's all about perspective. your time is valuable so you have to weigh that against what you are doing. if you're becoming impatient with your peers because you're teaching them something you're very familiar with, focus on what's motivating you. If you really want to help them, help them because that's what you want to do but remember when it took you a while to learn something and be more empathetic. If you honestly have something better to do, go do that instead. this would apply to everything about teaching/understanding patience.\n\nnow if you're talking about something like your peers always arriving late and you hate waiting for them... i hate that too. that's on them not you. \n\ngood luck! introspection is great and i wish more people took the time on it.", "Take a grand view of things. Just remember that the universe tends to unfold exactly as it should. Nothing you do will rush things. When you feel yourself growing impatient, take a moment and remind yourself that it's not that important.", "Perspective helped with me as well... mostly it's the idea that.... people are inherently selfish and self-centered, trying to do what's best for them, as they understand the situation. \n\nIt sounds negative, but people generally don't TRY to be stupid, and it helps me chill when I just think \"they're working with the information they were given. Don't get mad at them for having incomplete information\" - even when that information is \"how to manners\" ", "When do you want it, now? :-P\n\nWhen i'm in a queue, and find myself getting frustrated. I say to myself 'what a wonderful opportunity to practice patience', and it seems to make things better. " ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n", "How to loosen up and become less high-strung! I realize that it's a change of mindset, but I dont know where to start!\n\nI find myself getting angry about little things that roommates, people, OBJECTS, and other things that actually dont matter. Like, my roommate laughing even slightly too loud from the living room while I am trying to study, I find myself thinking \"man, that is rude and the fact that I think it is rude makes me angry at her!\" I dont want to be uptight and high-strung--I want to be relaxed and chilled out!\n\nI am incredibly scheduled, and getting remotely off of my schedule sends me into a frantic and desperate frustration. Being on time (in my head) is very important. I used to be extremely covert about how much getting off schedule bothers me, but sometimes now I find myself shaking with frustration because I can't be on time to something.\n\nI joked with a friend that if I ever have kids, they'll be potty trained at gunpoint.\n\nShortly after making that statement, I realized that is not how I want to live!\n\nSo I am asking, as a life tip from pro's out there, how can I learn to be more \"chilled out\" about the little things in life? \nHow do you do it?!\n\n" ]

[ "Start training yourself.\n\nYou hear the roommate's laughter and become annoyed. Feeling annoyed is your cue to Stop and Evaluate. \n\nWhy am I annoyed? Am I annoyed because my studying was interrupted or because I wish I were having fun? Should I find a quieter place, like the library? Could I use a break from studying to find out what was so funny? \n\nThis could potentially help you to start hitting the Stop and Evaluate step before getting annoyed. Possibly. I hope. \n\nRemind yourself that you can't control other people. Remind yourself that that is a good thing. Schedule time to spend outside of your comfort zone. \n\nRemind yourself that even if you are always perfectly on time you will still make mistakes. You can't avoid them. If you embrace them, and spend less time frustrated, you will be happier and more successful. ", "I just remind myself that life is meaningless and none of this will matter when we're all dead, which will be very, very soon. Then I go do whatever the fuck I want. ", "Honestly, Louis CK's \"Everything's Amazing and Nobody's Happy\" routine changed my life. I think about it a lot while stuck in traffic, on a plane, etc. http://vimeo.com/24074272", "I have the same problem. I try to remember that I'm not that important. \n\nIn the end its probably about fear of not being in control, or keeping myself safe from things I can't control by controlling things I can. Something like that. I bet the long term solution is becoming far less fixated on myself. My girlfriend calls me timecop.", "It's not for everyone but 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle has got some interesting ideas about why our minds work the way that they do and has helped me look at things a bit differently. Might be a good place for you to start.\n\nI'd suggest the audiobook, I grabbed it on iTunes", "I was in the same place as you a few years ago. Suggestions: therapist to help you tie everything together and sort out your mind, citalopram or a mild anti anxiety medicine, weed. Citalopram has been amazing. It's helped me with those high strung, ridiculous anxieties such as quick \"harsh\" sounds from the other room, being off \"plan\" (whatever i decided the plan was in my head), grinding my teeth and feeling irrationally angry when hearing someone chewing. I've also smoke frequently. Not for work or anything, but at home in the evenings. I have a great full time job at a Fortune 500 company and its very fast paced. Every so often when I have a particularly stressful day and feel myself getting anxious I am so grateful that's not how I live every day. Best of luck to you! The fact that you recognize these traits that you want to change is an amazing step in the right direction. ", "I read something on here a little while ago about boosting self control by using your non-dominant hand to do daily tasks. \n\nHere: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/03/120308120028.htm", "[M", "compartmentalizing things and positive thoughts.\n\njust like you schedule things, schedule time to be low-key, lazy, spontaneous. it may sound ridiculous, but it works for me. you may have many things to do, but put it in a compartment, and let it sit there while you have time to be spontaneous and relax. just knowing that it will get done when it is suppose to.\n\nwhen you're getting annoyed with people, just force positive thoughts. it may sound cheesy, but think about the good. 'she's laughing so hard - instead of going to 'that's so annoying' - it's great she's able to enjoy herself so much'. i find that saying things like this out loud to people is good therapy too. it makes you look very positive and once this becomes a part of your personality, you will always be looking for the humanity and good in people. just force the good and good will follow.\n\ngood luck my friend!", "Start smoking pot.\n\nStart realizing nothing has permanence and one day we will all be dead and everything we did won't matter.", "Sailing. Somewhat of a weird solution, but it forces you to rely on something (the wind) that is fully out of your control. Some days you might just sit idly for a while and learn some patience while waiting for a breeze to pick up. You might be late for things on your schedule, but it's out of your control. ", "regarding people, and roommates try taking note that sometimes you are simply unhappy with their reaction. ", "late to the party but something that i keep telling myself these days is \"don't take life too seriously.\" I think I might have read it somewhere else in reddit and I'm not quite sure why but those five words have helped change my attitude towards life completely.", "Your anger, and in fact all pain, stems from a violation of expectations. Though they all share common roots, pains comes in many forms; in relationships for being in love with the person in your head not the person you're with, or pain from the person you wish you were versus who you are. Maybe pain from how someone's being treated instead of how they should be treated, or simply put the way things ought to be versus how they are. In your case it's pain at the disconnect between the social roles you think we ought to play versus how some someone around you is acting. If we could just accept what is, we would be in so much less pain. \n\nBut what is? In an attempt to answer this, I'll talk to, and through, a frozen moment I had that serves as a story through which to view acceptance. Before I get to what is, how did I get there: what was? This may seem abstract, but accepting what was is a crucial step in forming reasonable expectations in the moment. I realized the first part about understanding what was; it's not what I thought it was. I only saw a part of it. We all only ever get to see our part. This is actually one of the tougher things to deal with accepting, due to our limitations in space and time we only saw a piece of what was(most misunderstanding and many arguments stem from this). Second, 'what was' got us to 'what is', I cannot accept the moment without accepting the past that led us there. Third, I am a different person than I was. I can disagree with my previous action, but I must still accept I was the one who did it. This goes for all of us. In fact, if we hope to solve any of our problems, we must first accept that problems existence. Finally on what was, there is a degree of change possible, and one probable. There is a state in which things were, and hence a set of possible and of probable outcomes from the moment I'm in. This, combined with who I have been, and who I have seen others to be, are some of the things I need to accept in order to accept this moment. Similarly, after this moment, there are worlds possible and those probable. The closer we are to this moment, the closer to immutable they are. But now we're rapidly approaching my frozen moment. I'm sitting in a restaurant, and another customer is being drunk and belittling his daughter. And it's not right, I mean it wouldn't be right anywhere, but especially not here. And she needs to know it's not really her fault. And I'm angry, I'm fuming. Something clicks in my thoughts, I stop and breathe this moment in. I relax my focus and don't struggle to make sense of everything. I just let it be and bathe in the now. Now I'm in an experiment watching myself and we're in my frozen moment. Here with time stopped this rage is impotent, it does not harm him, or help her, it just has me angry. And if I go off on him, given who he's been, will it actually alter his behavior? More relevant, will it alter his behavior in the way I want? More likely than me going off though, I need to accept I do not do well in confrontations with guys like this, so there is a limit to what action I might take. All my thoughts of what what was that lead us all here, what this moment is itself, and what I must accept come flooding in. With that new acceptance, my expectations are no longer violated and my impotent rage fades.\n\nLikewise, in your case, first and foremost, find your cues It will be some violation of expectations. When you trigger, try to remember this: stop, breathe, and focus on all of your senses. This is a grounding exercise to break you out of the moment. Accept what is. Accept anger will not resolve it, only make you angry. You're not losing control, you're accepting there are things you never had control of. Now, you may find out what you need to accept. They may not be aware of your context or of your expectations for that context. If they find out you were studying, or find out you consider it rude to be at their volume level while near someone studying, they may choose to be quieter - depending on who they've been and who they are. They may on the other hand have different expectations of roles, or contexts for those roles (i.e. my noise level was fine for a dorm, if you want it quieter go to a library). If this is the case, you need to remember there's probably more than a moment of experience that makes them act that way, and you're unlikely to change their stance with a moment of explanation or argument. So, you can accept their norms, or you can accept leaving their vicinity. If you don't want to go through finding out the reason for the difference in expectation, you can always shortcut to that last step.\n\nEither way, when you're angry, just remember it's you who's suffering from it more than anyone else, and it's you who can stop.\n\nEpilogue to my frozen moment: After thinking it though for a while, I payed my bill and I doodled an unflattering caricature of her father in my notebook. When he stumbled off to use the rest rooms again I went over and gave her the small notebook and mechanical pencil I had been drawing with. She chuckled over the drawing. I told her not everyone's an asshole like her father, and that it hadn't been her fault. I told her it wouldn't always be this bad. Then I left. Though I hadn't solved the situation, I doubt I could have. I certainly could have gotten myself angry, maybe even got the drunk father angry at me, but to what end. The point of this moment wasn't actually the outcome, though I handled it a lot better than the thoughts originally going through my head. The point was the violation of expectations, of my view of how someone ought to be treated, of what public decency was, of any number of problems I had with the moment, didn't need to actually harm me. I didn't need to get caught up in them if they wouldn't help me resolve the situation. What is -is-, it needs neither our permission nor our understanding, and there is no arguing with it. The closer we get to accepting what actually is, the less pain we will inflict on ourselves, though one of the things we must accept is the uncloseable gap between what we believe is and what actually is. (I say uncloseable because while we have made progress, for future progress to be possible there must be more ground to cover, and because there can always be black swans) \n\n\n\nTo those who will make the comparison, this line of thinking on expectations and pain, and on acceptance, are very similar to Buddhist lines of thinking on attachment and suffering, and on radical acceptance. I only found this out afterword when trying to explain my ideas to someone else who immediately compared it to Buddhism.", "I only know what works for me, so I'll just tell you that. \n\nThe personality you described sounds much like mine. I have a few methods, the main one being \"leave it.\" Whenever you start feeling annoyed or angry, just leave the situation. Go outside if you can and just breathe, tell yourself its not a real issue to be mad at and just leave it alone. Come back only when you calm down. \n\nThe next one is have time to yourself. I have been finding it pretty easy as of late to get time to myself. In whatever way possible. At least a few hours a week. Not just in your room, but probably somewhere more away from the things that could trigger something pissing you off, like outside. I love nature, so this works for me. Reflect on how awesome your life is. Or have no thoughts at all and just let it all go. Do something by yourself. \n\nThe last one, I understand isn't for everyone, but I pray when I am feeling anxious and can not do the other methods. I pray all the time for patience and understanding. It works surprisingly well for me. But if you do not believe in a higher power, then you could just mentally stop yourself, evaluate the situation and try to conjure up patience and understanding in your own way. \n\nAll of this will take time, but I believe everyone is capable of it. Good luck my friend. ", "I find being high strung (for me) comes from lack of patience. I started taking on hobbies that required patience with the idea that I am performing these tasks to learn, not to complete anything. \n \nI started with cheap model cars. I would trim and sand the plastic pieces and tape off the bodies for paint jobs. Anything to intentionally make the project take longer to reinforce the idea that this was not for the end product but to force myself to be patient. \n \nThese models were lost in a fire but I have since moved on to doodling/drawing, restoring straight razors, carving/wood working. After years I may not be cured of being impatient or high strung, but I am so much better than I used to be, and have even found fleeting moments of peace when I am in the middle of a new project.\n \nMaybe patience is not your trigger, but maybe there is an underlying cause that you should be working on instead of directing yourself at the issue of being high strung itself. Hopefully you find this post helpful cause I am feeling a little exposed right now.", "stop close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply in through your nose and out through your mouth. I did yoga for a while at that was one of the biggest things I took from it. Stop thinking and just breathe for a 30 seconds to a minute and see how you feel then.", "Whenever something annoys you, stop and tell yourself, \"if this is the worst thing that happens to me today, am I still okay?\". The answer is usually yes. That's how I usully deal with bullshit. And trees. Trees helps", "There are two approaches to this: 1) Remain annoyed at things like this, but learn to deal with them/ignore them more effectively. 2) Get to the point where you don't even notice that these are things to be annoyed by.\n\nIt seems like there are a lot of approaches for #1 in the replies, but #2 seems more permanent and more in tune with the spirit of what your'e asking for. \n\nHow do you become a more centered, peaceful person? First, recognize that you're not, which you seem to have done. Second, be okay with that for now. Not everyone has the patient calm of a Buddha. Some of us are just high strung, and there are good and bad things to that. Practice the advice given to you about how to minimize the stress that these things induce, and remain okay with the fact that that's who you are, now. Honestly, I think this is the biggest and most important thing, and you can't change until you've recognized and accepted yourself, just as you are. Until you can see yourself without an eye for imperfections and criticism, and instead with acceptance and understanding, you'll keep trotting the same route over and over again.\n\nThird, take every opportunity to move toward #2. Notice people in your life who really seem to be shining examples of inner peace, and hang out with them more, and let them take the lead in what you do together and how you interact with the world around you. Give yourself karma for every little act of patience and kindness, even if it's just a thought. Go out of your way to compliment this in others, even if it feels awkward. Every act that is true to your desire to value patience and kindness will accumulate in forming a pattern of thought, speech, and behavior, and one day, you'll suddenly recognize how far you've come.", "One of the symptoms or side effects of my ADHD is severe irritability. It is often comorbid with a little anxiety. This sounds like me before I was diagnosed and started treating my adult ADHD. The symptoms are often more complex than the cliche kids bouncing off the wall.\n\nAt a bare minimum, find a mental health professional to talk to. Whatever the root cause, they might be able to help out.", "Mindfulness mediation helps. Acknowledging and accepting that you're feeling angry or annoyed, and that these feelings are natural and part of being human and that these feelings with pass helps.\n\nFrom your description, your mind seems to be going through a loop of \"My roommate is laughing too loudly--> This irritates me ---> Why is my roommate laughing too loudly irritating me so much? ---> This irritates me even more!---> Repeat.\"\n\nDon't try to fight what you're feeling, accept and acknowledge that's who you are. ", "Lay off the caffeine. Coffee and other caffeinated drinks can cause anxiety.\n\nIt might be tough to deal without your morning pickmeup at first, but once you recover from the addiction you'll have more energy naturally all of the time instead of when you get your dose.", "I'm the same way. I often become a little anxious when something is off, like my schedule. \n\nTake a few minutes every day. Sit down in a quiet spot and say to yourself, \"everything and everyone are where they should be. There's nothing I'm late for and no where I need to be but right here.\" maybe it sounds dumb. But a yoga instructor finished a session with those words and they are the most relaxing sentences ever. I hope they help you! ", "I would say that there's definitely some credence to wanting to be on time. It shows others that you are responsible, and that you respect both your time and theirs.\n\nHaving said that, the best way to relax is to let go. When something gets to you in that way, try to think about it from a dispassionate standpoint. Does it matter to anyone but you? If the answer is no, take a few deep breaths, and consider the following...\n\nHumans are naturally self-centered. Our minds make things that apply to us seem much more important than they actually are. Try to think: \"what will actually happen if what I desire to happen doesn't occur?\" Think critically about your answer. Think objectively. Try to remove your own desires from the equation before considering. If it still seems important... Well, it probably is.\n\nIt's a hard thing, separating what you think is important from what is actually important. Try to put yourself in the shoes of an observer. If your reaction seems justified, there's your answer. If it doesn't, try to think about why it doesn't.", "I try and ask myself if getting mad or being upset will help solve the problem, usually that is a 'no'. Makes it easy to see how rediculous it is. ", "I find myself thinking \"Oh, he's one second late? Might as well call it off\" much too often these days.", "Honestly, one of the biggest things that let me relax was when I realized these 'annoyances' and thinking how other people were rude was just me putting myself before others. As if I was more important than they are.\n\nWhy shouldn't they be allowed to laugh? What makes your comfort so much more important than them? I was taught growing up to always consider others first, its incredibly annoyed and ended up with me getting annoyed when others didn't think of me first back.\n\nTake a deep breath and realize that to each their own.", "All the decent responses seem to be about how to relax through self-talk and m", "Smoke a lot of marijuana. Preferably every day. It does wonders for OCD, stress and general up tightness. Spark one up, and let it all go, man.", "I would say that there is no true answer for how to correct the issue of having a stick up your ass, but I want to give you advice that I understand, but I don't necessarily follow.\n\nThere are many places where you can put up your opinion and fight it to the death of your being without alienating the people around you. Reddit is a great example of being able to produce an opinion without feeling that you are fighting anyone except the people that truly oppose your beliefs. And there are many other forums that exist that allow to you articulate your thoughts and understanding of the subject you find you have the most interest in.\n\nTo be fair, you may have a very opinionated about the subject of potty training, but you need to vent your frustration of these topics on the internet instead of with your friends and family. You should direct any frustration with your friends at them directly when the time is right, and in a manner that is not as much angry criticism but more of loving concern.\n\nYou need to find more time in your day to relax and become calm. Sitting in a bean bag chair listening to Pink Floyd might not be your idea of relaxing, but you might want to find a method that fits your lifestyle, and allow yourself to relax from the everyday absurdity that seems to present itself so willingly.\n\nTL;DR: Take your aggression and opinion out on strangers over the internet, and leave your family and friends the more tired and relaxed side of you." ]

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[ "I just graduated high school and I need extra money for college. What is the most efficient way to earn money over the summer. For a bit more clarification, I’m currently working full time for $11 an hour. What I’m looking for is a way to earn money in the evenings and on weekends.", "I just graduated high school and I need extra money for college. What is the most efficient way to earn money over the summer. For a bit more clarification, I’m currently working full time for $11 an hour. What I’m looking for is a way to earn money in the evenings and on weekends.", "I just graduated high school and I need extra money for college. What is the most efficient way to earn money over the summer. For a bit more clarification, I’m currently working full time for $11 an hour. What I’m looking for is a way to earn money in the evenings and on weekends.", "I just graduated high school and I need extra money for college. What is the most efficient way to earn money over the summer. For a bit more clarification, I’m currently working full time for $11 an hour. What I’m looking for is a way to earn money in the evenings and on weekends.", "I just graduated high school and I need extra money for college. What is the most efficient way to earn money over the summer. For a bit more clarification, I’m currently working full time for $11 an hour. What I’m looking for is a way to earn money in the evenings and on weekends.", "I just graduated high school and I need extra money for college. What is the most efficient way to earn money over the summer. For a bit more clarification, I’m currently working full time for $11 an hour. What I’m looking for is a way to earn money in the evenings and on weekends." ]

[ "Roofing. It sucks, but they should pay a couple dollars an hour more than you are currently making. Also, when bars open back up get night gigs if your state allows people under 21 to serve drinks. Thirdly, if you are good looking , porn, feet pics selling used socks and underwear online. \n", "Try and do something along your college field. If not spend a little money and become a cna. Its wiping a$$ but they are always looking and they pay decent. Also have night or swing shift if you wanna work in school", "Food delivery could potentially be reliable. Not sure how great it is considering gas/vehicle upkeep.", "See the work you do now as opening up opportunities for when you graduate. i.e. apply to work for a company in the relevant field doing whatever the need. Make a good impression and you're all set when you graduate.\n\nThe other problem people have with money is spending it too freely.\n\nAlso do your studies at distance. That way you can work while studying and graduate without a debt.", "Bowling alleys and movie theaters are great night jobs for people still too young to serve alcohol (im assuming, i live in a place where the legal age is 18 so high school graduates can serve here). Hopefully those places still exist when this virus stuff is over", "Are you creative? Painting decorative faux finishes (making surfaces look like wood, stone, metal, etc.) pay better than simple coat of latex paint. It's fun too because each custom piece is a work of art. Line up a job on a weekend and make some fast cash, provided you can find a lead. Free online social media platforms are easy ways to find contacts and market your services, whatever you choose to do. (Never pay for advertising)" ]

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[ "how to organize mail? I'm a recent grad starting out my first job. I recently started doing a lot of stuff my by self (insurance, bill payments, cr", "how to organize mail? I'm a recent grad starting out my first job. I recently started doing a lot of stuff my by self (insurance, bill payments, cr", "how to organize mail? I'm a recent grad starting out my first job. I recently started doing a lot of stuff my by self (insurance, bill payments, cr", "how to organize mail? I'm a recent grad starting out my first job. I recently started doing a lot of stuff my by self (insurance, bill payments, cr", "how to organize mail? I'm a recent grad starting out my first job. I recently started doing a lot of stuff my by self (insurance, bill payments, cr" ]

[ "The standard way to prioritise is three-tiered:\n\n* Things you must do (because the consequences of not doing them are real and unwelcome - to you, your bosses, your clients)\n\n* Things you should do (because they'll make other processes smoother and have beneficial outcomes - co-worker relations, morale, future promotion)\n\n* Things you could do (stuff that looks interesting, but is probably non-essential and has little tangible benefit)\n\nWhen you've filtered everything this way, into *musts, shoulds and coulds* you can then set up some kind of forward planner calendar system. In principle, the old-fashioned card index system is still perfectly good. One divider for each month, plus a full 1-31 for the current month. Last day of the current month sees everything in the next month getting distributed into its individual days.\n\nIf you set aside for yourself, let's say, 30 minutes a day (but often less will be needed), and that'll become when you filter everything that arrives to determine how urgent it is, and decide what you'll do with it. Most stuff that needs action can still afford to wait for a day or more - so long as you are organised enough that you genuinely will come back and do it later. Then you can schedule a regular timeslot for doing certain tasks, like physically making all your payments and mailing things out on Friday mornings, or Sunday nights, or whatever works best for you. You still need to retain flexibility, so the system works in your favour, not the other way around. So if you see a certain payment can't wait then you'd obviously handle it, but that's the exception rather than the rule. You can also put other reminder notes into your planner, so a few days ahead you'll see what renewals are coming up and can get to be pro-active rather than re-active. This is really handy if you need to do lots of things at a regular cycle, like maybe the financial year, or the academic year, or if you want to get everything sorted well before starting a vacation.\n\nLots of financial type organisations have statutory duties to tell you things that you probably won't care about until something goes wrong. Retaining all that stuff, and meticulously reading every word of those small printed legal things can be a huge time-suck. Of course you should have read the thing when you first made the agreement, but after that you'll often just need the original agreement and the most recent updated terms. Generally you might not need to sift through that pile more than maybe once or twice a year, but you do need to be absolutely clear that nothing more urgent got misfiled into that big pile - which is why that daily 30 minutes shouldn't be rushed or while you're getting distracted.\n\nBe absolutely ruthless in knowing what needs a response from you. You will probably get a lot of spam that can be ignored. If it's not spam, dealing with it routinely at your convenience will make it less onerous. And when you've done an action, annotate the thing so you've created a permanent record of what you did and when - because you might not remember after a few sleeps.\n\nFor financials you should probably consider also having some kind of a master list, maybe on a spreadsheet, so you can easily see everything at once. This will be super helpful if you, for example, have different leisure interests some months, to let you know at a glance where you're at without rummaging through all that old paperwork.", "I take it all and dump it into a fire. I have found that if it is important eventually they call you. ", "What an interesting question :) what follows is probably a much longer explanation than you anticipated, but I hope it helps you in your quest for efficiency! \n\n\nAllow me to introduce you to the Lean visual management tool named Kanban. In practice it can be applied to absolutely any process with efficacy, using various levels of complexity.\n\n\nI'm sure you can Google the term to research the theory behind the method, but for the sake of convenience I will give you a simple example. \n\n\n**Step 1:** Set up three areas right next to each other. The left hand area should be named TO DO, followed by DOING, and finally DONE. Simple, right? If you want to put more effort in, you can get document trays, or baskets, or anything else you can find that does the job. But it is important that the three areas are all on display for you to see every day, hence 'visual management'. \n\n\n**Step 2:** Estimate how much time you have available per day for processing your mail. For this example let's say 10 minutes.\n\n\n**Step 3:** Estimate how much time on average it takes you to process an individual piece of mail. Some might be junk which you can deal with in 10 seconds. Some might be important correspondence which take 10 minutes. What proportion of each do you receive on average? 75% junk and 25% important? Let's work it out:\n\n\n>Junk: 10 sec * 0.75 = 7.5\n\n\n>Important: (10 min * 60 sec) * 0.25 = 150\n\n\n>Average: (7.5 sec + 150 sec) / 60 sec = 2.625 mins\n\n\n**Step 4:** Calculate how many mail items you can process per day:\n\n\n>10 min available / 2.625 min per letter = ~3.81 letters per day\n\n\n**Step 5:** Take all of your unopened mail and sort by priority based on how the envelope looks. Put them in as many separate piles as possible. In our example, we've one for junk and one for important. Place your piles in the TO DO area. \n\n\n**Step 6:** Now sit down in front of the three areas and resolve to spend no longer than 10 minutes processing your mail.\n\n\nFrom the sound of it, you've accumulated a backlog. So until you're up to date, we can expect you to handle *fewer* than 3.8 letters per day. That's because you will naturally look at the most important letters first, which take longer to process. Once your backlog is cleared, you should be able to bring the figure nearer to average.\n\n\nSo clear your backlog. This is how:\n\n\ni. Open and read your most important letter. Let's say it's just a letter from the bank informing you of a higher cr", "Opt for paperless billing. All my bills are paperless except my electricity supply. Some institutions ask for proof of address (pass port = 3 points, driver's license = 3 points, utility bill = 1 point and so on) and it helps to have an utility bill handy.\n\nOpt out of cr", "One approach is FAT: File, Act, or Trash. Everything you get will fall in one of these three categories. \n\nFor all Act items, act on them. I don't mean the next Friday after you've collected them for a week. Do it right then. If you've allotted time each day to look at your mail, allot time to take care of it, too. \n\nFor all File items, put them away. Get them out of sight as soon as you've acted on the other stuff. You'll need a system of organization that suits you. Accordion folders or index systems, as others suggested work fine, but you'll find that as you get older, you'll likely need a filing cabinet. Just as well get a two- or three-drawer one now and get started. \n\nFor all Trash items, man, don't even think twice. Get it out of your life and never give it a second thought. Heck, most of the time you'll never even have to open the envelope. \n\nI've found it fastest to go through mail each day by first trashing, then filing, and finally acting on the few pieces left. It now all normally takes less than 15 minutes a day.\nIt all comes down to a general rule of life: If it's possible, do it now. No sense putting things off or letting them pile up. " ]

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[ "Tips on dealing with eyebags? I've had eyebags since I was 15 and haven't been able to get rid of them. It's been three years and I've tried a bunch of things to no avail. Theyre kind of pinkish and dark. They often make me look tired and make my face look dull. Has anyone ever been able to successfully deal with them or reduce their appearance?", "Tips on dealing with eyebags? I've had eyebags since I was 15 and haven't been able to get rid of them. It's been three years and I've tried a bunch of things to no avail. Theyre kind of pinkish and dark. They often make me look tired and make my face look dull. Has anyone ever been able to successfully deal with them or reduce their appearance?", "Tips on dealing with eyebags? I've had eyebags since I was 15 and haven't been able to get rid of them. It's been three years and I've tried a bunch of things to no avail. Theyre kind of pinkish and dark. They often make me look tired and make my face look dull. Has anyone ever been able to successfully deal with them or reduce their appearance?" ]

[ "I need help with this too. I’m 31 and my under eyes are dark and kinda sunken in. I’ve tried so many creams and things.😣", "Temporary fix would be a color corrector. I have rosacea and use a green color corrector that nuetralizes the redness when it flares. There's plenty of guides online to find the color that would help cancel out what you're trying to make less noticable..", "It sounds strange maybe, but I’ve heard Preparation-H works. I’ve never tried it myself so I can’t speak from experience." ]

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[ "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n", "How to deal with \"one uppers\"? you know the people who always has to show that they're better than you? Example: \"I bought a bag of chips yesterday\" \"well i bought a family sized bag\". not the best example but I'm sure you get the idea.\n\n" ]

[ "I'm always afraid people think I'm a one upper. It's a huge fear of mine. When someone tells me a story, sometimes I tell a similar one. My goal is to show them we have something in common, and also to keep the theme of the conversation going. I often end with a question just so I don't come off as one of those people. \" My Dad was a rodeo clown.\" \"Thats awesome, my cousin was a rodeo clown...did your dad enjoy it, it seems tough?\"", "One uppers are nothing. I've had to deal with *two uppers*. Now that's something we should talk about. ", "After they finish their story I always say \"I didn't realize this was a pissing contest\" at which point the one-upper usually feels like an idiot and others laugh at their expense. ", "They want attention. Ask them if they need a hug when they start to do it or have been doing it for awhile. If they ask why then confront them. \n\n\"Well you always have done better in your stories then everyone else, so i thought you might want a congratulatory hug.\"\n\nBe warned they may not react well. It could be viewed as an attack by their ego.", "I would just ignore it and not even give them a reply. I'd turn my attention to something else every time they did it. I mean what else can you really say or do? \"hey can you not try to one up me on everything\"? Idk that could work but that's up to you. ", "First, realize your initial assessment is most likely incorrect.\n\nUsually it's due to insecurities. \n\nA secure individual can be silent in a conversation without having to always be the center of it.", "Can you call them on it? \"Why'd you say that? How does that change the story? What are you hoping to achieve by one-upping?\"\n\nThey may not be aware they're doing it and might think they're contributing to the story. If you don't point it out they have no way of knowing it pisses you off.", "I've come to realize that the people who do it generally are so used to \"One-Upping\" everyone that they don't even realize they're doing it. It's like it's an innate quality for them. My Dad is awful at this. You may have something that is awesome but guess what, whatever he has is better. I did years of sarcastic remarks back to him, but it only makes it worse. Now, I just skip over it in conversation or quickly acknowledge whatever he's talking about a move on. It really isn't worth the headache.", "https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4xz1bq/lpt_if_you_feel_like_youre_a_1upper_when_people/?st=IXEP8EFE&sh=96d49454\n\n", "Try telling an innocent story that makes you look like kind of an asshole, but in a manner that everyone can relate to. The \"one-upper\" no doubt has a story that makes them look like an even larger asshole. They may try to be better than you by being a bigger asshole, and therefore lose relatability. You're goading them to reveal themselves. For example: \"I may have some unpaid parking tickets\"... \"Oh yeah? I regularly park in handicap spaces\". ", "Some of this may be a gendered difference in communication styles in the US - I don't know about other countries (with men being more likely to engage in this type of linguistic behavior - it's still annoying though).\nI think one way to deal with them is to say 'that's great, maybe you can show me how later' and then continue.", "I think most people who do this aren't trying to be rude they just want to relate to you, although some people are just egotistical and want to make themselves feel better. If you want to avoid a direct confrontation/blatantly asking them to stop I've found that playing up how annoyed you are can help the person realize what they are doing. \n\nFor example I had a friend who always one-upped people's stories so my buddies and I started sighing, looking the other direction, rolling our eyes, quickly switching the subject, or just not responding at all. After a few times he started to catch on and now he makes sure to pick and choose which stories he tells in order to not make everything seem like a competition. \n\nBut honestly if this is a friend of yours who you care about, I would just quietly pull them aside and mention that it's kinda belittling to get one-upped all the time. \n\nGood luck!", "I suppose this not only depends on the context of the situation, but also the relationship you have with this One upper.\n\nA good way to deal with the one upper, is to ask yourself: \"Why is he/she trying to one up me?\".\n\nThey could be doing it because they want to appear cool. They could be doing it because they want you to know that thier family sized bag shows dominance over your puny undersized snacks.\n\nThink about what thier intention is, and how they reacted when you first stated what you bought to them." ]

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[ "How do i organize my thoughts when telling a story or making a statement? Whenever i tell a story i just feel like it's all over the place. Is there some sort of tips to follow to avoid the jumbling of thoughts?", "How do i organize my thoughts when telling a story or making a statement? Whenever i tell a story i just feel like it's all over the place. Is there some sort of tips to follow to avoid the jumbling of thoughts?" ]

[ "Just try to ask yourself some questions before you even start speaking, usually trying to picture yourself as the listener:\n- what is the point of the story/statement?\n- why do I want to tell it?\n- which prerequisites does the listener need to know?\n- how long do I want to tell it and which level of detail is needed to understand it?\n\nThen you go with the w-questions:\n- what happened to\n- whom\n- where and\n- when\n- why and \n- hoW does that all come together\n\nSpeak more slowly and try to start with low details, you‘ll get a feel for when you need to add more. \n\nHope that helps!", "The most powerful help you can get is to join a toastmasters club. They give you practice speaking both in planned speeches and off the cuff. Just focus your speeches on storytelling and get feedback from them to help you improve" ]

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[ "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? ", "How two people living in the same room in a hot summer can keep cool? (Without AC) I live in a house with my SO, shared with 5 other people. We usually keep to our room during the day, a small enough space. We have the window open all the time. \n\nWe're both very irritated by high levels of heat, and Ireland is getting a crazy hot summer this year. Any tips on how to cool down the room or to keep cool without air conditioning? " ]

[ "Wear wet socks. Seriously run your socks under the cold tap and put them on. It will cool you down pretty well the also less effective mehold of wetting the back of your neck with cold water will lso do the trick. There is also \"Cold in a can\" that I bought on holiday that saved my life. \n\nIf you have a fridge or freezer, move it away, as far away as possible. They kick out a load of heat, as do other electrical appliances but the fridge is possibly the worst offender. ", "This is what I do to keep cool while sleeping on hot nights: stick a bottle of water in the freezer in the morning. By bedtime, the bottle is completely frozen. I put a towel on the end of the bed, near my feet, and set the bottle on the towel. I then place my feet touching/near the bottle and it keeps me cool all through the night. The bottle should be completely sealed, for obvious reasons. It will sweat a lot, so the towel is necessary. Don't forget to stick it back in the freezer in the morning! ", "Not without an AC. You can do the ice tricks but the fridge will put out more heat and the BTU's will be almost nill. 1200 BTU total for a gallon of ice compared to 5000 BTUs per hour for the smallest AC. \n\nYour humidity is so high that evaporative cooling is out of the question.\n\nReplace your lightbulbs with energy efficient ones and keep electronic use to a minimum. \n\nGet a tire or air tank, and slowly release the pressure inside, cooling it. Then refill it with air outside.", "If it's mostly at night that the heat is really getting to you, I used to live in an absolutely stifling apartment. I would freeze about a litre of water during the day (make sure you leave some room for expansion! A plastic bottle with a little air pocket left, and then squeeze it before you put the cap on) wrap that frozen litre in a towel, and I would keep it near the back of my thigh. You have to be a little careful that it doesn't get one spot too cold, but you can wrap more or less towel around it to accommodate. If you let too much air hit the bottle, it'll condense more water out of the air than you would believe. But within the towel, it's all good.", "make ice and put it in a tray/bucket under a fan. It will cause cool air to be blown around the room for a while", "freeze water bottles and put them in front of a fan! (like directly in front of a box fan) keep a cache of frozen water bottles as replacements", "Since you mentioned in a comment that it's mainly when you're sleeping...keep extra pillows on the floor by your bed so if you wake up hot, you have a nice cool pillow to swap with your sweaty one(s). It wont keep the heat out of your room but may make it easier to fall back asleep if you wake up hot. ", "Is a small desk fan or stand fan an option? Also, if the door is at least cracked open and another window in the house is open, you can hopefully get better airflow through the room.", "Have dark curtains block the sun from coming in through the windows. You'll be surprised how much of a difference this makes. ", "1 cold shower or bath before bed\n2 sleep with as little clothing as possible\n3 make sure sheets are 100 percent cotton and skip the duvet\n4 when it is sunny and hot outside, Windows closed and curtains drawn. No fans when no one is in room.\n5 if cooler outside, fan in window > and fan in bedroom door taking air out of room, if hotter outside than in, reverse fan directions. Always two fans for cross ventilation. Open sash at top and bottom will also create some air flow.\n6 May not have there because Ireland would normally have little need but check out if pet store has cooling pads. Put in freezer and wrap in towel to sleep on at night. If not available, sheets can also be placed in freezer.\n7 alcohol makes you feel warmer :(\n8 since global warming is here to stay, invest in a window air con or at least several good fans\n\nI have survived many summers in hotter and more humid US without air conditioner with these techniques. Now I have a window air conditioner :) won't be going back.", "Won't help the room, but run your hands under cold water. Fill the sink with cold water (chuck some ice in if you want) and then put your forearms into the water, splash the water up your arms and you'll feel yourself cool down pretty fast. Keep your hands in for a little while and don't completely dry yourself afterwards, maybe just dab off so you don't drip water.", "Mentholated talc (purchase online or from the chemist). It will make you *feel* cool even though the room temp won't have changed. The more sweaty you are, the cooler it seems. Maybe avoid getting it on your nads though. Picked that tip up living in Thailand, the local kids and old folks used to look like little white ghosts in the evenings.", "Keep the door open for air flow.. shut down unused electronics. Use a window fan to pull in cooler air when it's cooler out than in. Close curtains or put a blanket over the window on hot days when the sun is shining right in.", "I got it! Waterbed without using the heater! Maybe use an inflatable mattress filled with water. Tap water is cool, body doesn't like being wrapped in cold, maybe you'll even get hypothermia", "I find if it is hot and I am alone, I can survive. If there is someone else in my bed though, I die. I suggest breaking up with your SO and living the cool temperature life. Or you could get something like [this](https://www.amazon.co.uk/GelO-Cool-Pillow-Mat-11/dp/B00D7TBHA8) ", "Get an ice pack or make some ice cubes and wrap them in a small towel and sleep with it on the back of your neck or on your wrists. This plus fans can help a ton. ", "Get a utility bucket and fill it with ice and point a fan at it. You can make highly engineered box designs to focus the flow of air with a quick google", " check whether the outside air at night is cooler than indoors. If yes , you need to improve cross ventilation, a lot. If possible, install exhaust fans on windows. If not possible, then buy pedestal fan and place it facing a window, such that it blows out air from inside the house. \nIn your room, use ceiling fan. \nWear fewer clothes. \nIf possible, avoid sleeping on mattress. Those are very hot things.", "[DIY air conditioner](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HxSLbpAwibg)\n\nTry this out. I use a similar set up in my garage and it's pretty effective. A little humid though. " ]

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[ "how to show up to an event alone where you barely know anyone and end up striking up conversation/hanging out with others throughout the night? I’m going solo to a boxing event tonight at my local boxing gym, and because I’m not a member and I only go once a month (or maybe because I’m always in a rush to get back home), I don’t really talk to/know anyone except maybe two trainers - no other members or anyone else. Everyone is friendly and it’s a positive and fun environment, though. What are some tips to show up to this event and strike up conversation with a group of people that will lead to hanging out with them throughout the night (and maybe in the future too!) so that I’m not just hanging out alone watching what’s going on?\n\n\n", "how to show up to an event alone where you barely know anyone and end up striking up conversation/hanging out with others throughout the night? I’m going solo to a boxing event tonight at my local boxing gym, and because I’m not a member and I only go once a month (or maybe because I’m always in a rush to get back home), I don’t really talk to/know anyone except maybe two trainers - no other members or anyone else. Everyone is friendly and it’s a positive and fun environment, though. What are some tips to show up to this event and strike up conversation with a group of people that will lead to hanging out with them throughout the night (and maybe in the future too!) so that I’m not just hanging out alone watching what’s going on?\n\n\n", "how to show up to an event alone where you barely know anyone and end up striking up conversation/hanging out with others throughout the night? I’m going solo to a boxing event tonight at my local boxing gym, and because I’m not a member and I only go once a month (or maybe because I’m always in a rush to get back home), I don’t really talk to/know anyone except maybe two trainers - no other members or anyone else. Everyone is friendly and it’s a positive and fun environment, though. What are some tips to show up to this event and strike up conversation with a group of people that will lead to hanging out with them throughout the night (and maybe in the future too!) so that I’m not just hanging out alone watching what’s going on?\n\n\n", "how to show up to an event alone where you barely know anyone and end up striking up conversation/hanging out with others throughout the night? I’m going solo to a boxing event tonight at my local boxing gym, and because I’m not a member and I only go once a month (or maybe because I’m always in a rush to get back home), I don’t really talk to/know anyone except maybe two trainers - no other members or anyone else. Everyone is friendly and it’s a positive and fun environment, though. What are some tips to show up to this event and strike up conversation with a group of people that will lead to hanging out with them throughout the night (and maybe in the future too!) so that I’m not just hanging out alone watching what’s going on?\n\n\n", "how to show up to an event alone where you barely know anyone and end up striking up conversation/hanging out with others throughout the night? I’m going solo to a boxing event tonight at my local boxing gym, and because I’m not a member and I only go once a month (or maybe because I’m always in a rush to get back home), I don’t really talk to/know anyone except maybe two trainers - no other members or anyone else. Everyone is friendly and it’s a positive and fun environment, though. What are some tips to show up to this event and strike up conversation with a group of people that will lead to hanging out with them throughout the night (and maybe in the future too!) so that I’m not just hanging out alone watching what’s going on?\n\n\n", "how to show up to an event alone where you barely know anyone and end up striking up conversation/hanging out with others throughout the night? I’m going solo to a boxing event tonight at my local boxing gym, and because I’m not a member and I only go once a month (or maybe because I’m always in a rush to get back home), I don’t really talk to/know anyone except maybe two trainers - no other members or anyone else. Everyone is friendly and it’s a positive and fun environment, though. What are some tips to show up to this event and strike up conversation with a group of people that will lead to hanging out with them throughout the night (and maybe in the future too!) so that I’m not just hanging out alone watching what’s going on?\n\n\n" ]

[ "get there early when there's less people and it's not as overwhelming. get to know those few ppl first and then you'll have a foundation to fall back to throughout the night. ", "Ask the people you know to introduce you to others. When you meet new people, ask them questions about themselves. You already have things in common. Explore them. Don't be afraid to walk up to a lively group and say Hi, I'm NAME. I go to this gym but don't know many people. I wanted to introduce myself.", "This is one of those things where there isn't really a \"how to do,\" it's just \"do.\" It shouldn't be too hard to find common ground since you're at the same event and all like boxing. Just say hi to people around you, introduce yourself, comment on the event itself, etc. \n\nOne big thing is to just ask questions. People love answering questions. You train there once a month, so talk to a member and ask them about their training, things like that.", "Just go there, tell you're interested in this, talk with people. You'll eventually find someone who you resonate with and probably make new friends.", "I believe I lifted this from the book Idiots Guide to Etiquette, ask open ended questions of people at the event. Too often when conversing with others we often talk too much about ourselves. Asking open ended questions fills the need for others to talk about themselves while sharing little about yourself. This makes you useful to the new person, creates opportunity for the person to talk too much about themselves, stops you from sharing about yourself, postpones judgment of you that people develop about you as you speak. Point 1 for you, 0 for them. Asking more questions than sharing information about you makes you appear to be a good listener, while giving you the opportunity to evaluate who the person is in the community. \nWatch out for people that never ask questions about you or deflect/reverse to ask questions about you so that you share more than them.\nLook for those that create a comfortable balance; information give and take.\nI know little about boxing so this would be some starter questions I might try:\nHow is this sport scored?\nThat’s a cool piece of gear! Where did you get it?\nWhat kind of training routine do you think they use?\nAbove other redditors provide other great questions…well maybe not the one about the cock…\n", "Show up with a smile and approach people like a networking event. You will be surprised at how open people are to speaking, especially since you are all gym members. There were some very good opening questions posted here that will work with a smile. " ]

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[ "How to handle guilt working a job where you will inevitably do something wrong everyday? I recently started working at the front desk of a very busy hotel. For anyone who is familiar, they'll know that the job is more than just checking people in and checking people out, and the amount of multi-tasking they have to do all the time is immense. As such, it's quite rare for your shift to end without fucking at least one thing up. Finding out my mistake the next day just makes me feel like shit, which lowers my performance and just repeats the cycle.\n\n\nHow can I deal with the stress and guilt of making a mistake better?\nWhile I'm at it, if anyone experienced in this position/work environment is reading this, how can I increase my performance consistently?", "How to handle guilt working a job where you will inevitably do something wrong everyday? I recently started working at the front desk of a very busy hotel. For anyone who is familiar, they'll know that the job is more than just checking people in and checking people out, and the amount of multi-tasking they have to do all the time is immense. As such, it's quite rare for your shift to end without fucking at least one thing up. Finding out my mistake the next day just makes me feel like shit, which lowers my performance and just repeats the cycle.\n\n\nHow can I deal with the stress and guilt of making a mistake better?\nWhile I'm at it, if anyone experienced in this position/work environment is reading this, how can I increase my performance consistently?", "How to handle guilt working a job where you will inevitably do something wrong everyday? I recently started working at the front desk of a very busy hotel. For anyone who is familiar, they'll know that the job is more than just checking people in and checking people out, and the amount of multi-tasking they have to do all the time is immense. As such, it's quite rare for your shift to end without fucking at least one thing up. Finding out my mistake the next day just makes me feel like shit, which lowers my performance and just repeats the cycle.\n\n\nHow can I deal with the stress and guilt of making a mistake better?\nWhile I'm at it, if anyone experienced in this position/work environment is reading this, how can I increase my performance consistently?", "How to handle guilt working a job where you will inevitably do something wrong everyday? I recently started working at the front desk of a very busy hotel. For anyone who is familiar, they'll know that the job is more than just checking people in and checking people out, and the amount of multi-tasking they have to do all the time is immense. As such, it's quite rare for your shift to end without fucking at least one thing up. Finding out my mistake the next day just makes me feel like shit, which lowers my performance and just repeats the cycle.\n\n\nHow can I deal with the stress and guilt of making a mistake better?\nWhile I'm at it, if anyone experienced in this position/work environment is reading this, how can I increase my performance consistently?", "How to handle guilt working a job where you will inevitably do something wrong everyday? I recently started working at the front desk of a very busy hotel. For anyone who is familiar, they'll know that the job is more than just checking people in and checking people out, and the amount of multi-tasking they have to do all the time is immense. As such, it's quite rare for your shift to end without fucking at least one thing up. Finding out my mistake the next day just makes me feel like shit, which lowers my performance and just repeats the cycle.\n\n\nHow can I deal with the stress and guilt of making a mistake better?\nWhile I'm at it, if anyone experienced in this position/work environment is reading this, how can I increase my performance consistently?", "How to handle guilt working a job where you will inevitably do something wrong everyday? I recently started working at the front desk of a very busy hotel. For anyone who is familiar, they'll know that the job is more than just checking people in and checking people out, and the amount of multi-tasking they have to do all the time is immense. As such, it's quite rare for your shift to end without fucking at least one thing up. Finding out my mistake the next day just makes me feel like shit, which lowers my performance and just repeats the cycle.\n\n\nHow can I deal with the stress and guilt of making a mistake better?\nWhile I'm at it, if anyone experienced in this position/work environment is reading this, how can I increase my performance consistently?", "How to handle guilt working a job where you will inevitably do something wrong everyday? I recently started working at the front desk of a very busy hotel. For anyone who is familiar, they'll know that the job is more than just checking people in and checking people out, and the amount of multi-tasking they have to do all the time is immense. As such, it's quite rare for your shift to end without fucking at least one thing up. Finding out my mistake the next day just makes me feel like shit, which lowers my performance and just repeats the cycle.\n\n\nHow can I deal with the stress and guilt of making a mistake better?\nWhile I'm at it, if anyone experienced in this position/work environment is reading this, how can I increase my performance consistently?" ]

[ "You'll do this for a while until you learn the job intimately. Or...they'll need to get more help, because you're overloaded and can't handle everything the way they think it should be handled. Their unrealistic expectations will catch up with them.", "Write stuff down. Multi tasking and taking on new tasks as they come is basically asking to forget one task when you start another. A note book so you can cross of tasks as you complete adds very little time and can be helpful. \n\nSometimes my notes are one word and I can't even remember what the task was. That's annoying because then I know I forgot something but can't figure out what- so take better notes then me. ", "What happened, happened. Nothing happens if you think about your mistakes and regret doing it the way you did. Rather try to think about a solution.\n\n\"How can I avoid this mistake the next time?\"\n\nMake yourself some type of checklist for a certain task. Let's say you got a new task and you go up to your list so you can make sure nothing regretful happens. ", "Try to commit a different mistake every day. \n\nSeriously, considering all the different ways one can fuck things up, doing the same mistake over and over shows a tremendous lack of creativity. \n\nI mean, of capacity to learn. ", "Not an expert in this specific industry but it seems to me that most people working it would likely have a few screw-ups or mis-hits on a daily basis. Maybe reach out anonymously to other front-desk workers on an online forum dedicated to those folks somewhere, or at a convention for training, or something like that, and see if you might not have unreasonable expectations of yourself. \n\nIt'd likely be very helpful to you if others with more experience in your exact same job shrug and say \"yeah, happens all the time. I just get over it because it's part of the job\", or \"Yep, I grew out of it over time. It helped when I did these things...\".\n\n", "It's cliche but those are just growing pains and every single person has them when they start a new activity, whether they are working at a new job or starting a new hobby.\n\nThink of this like riding a bike. You were not born knowing how to ride a bike, you just kept practicing and falling, getting up, practicing and falling until one day you realize you have gotten the hang of things.\n\nIt sounds like you instinctively zero in on the \"bad\" things that you have done instead of what you have accomplished, try focusing on the good! If you can't stop that habit, start writing down on a piece of paper the \"bad\" things that you did that day. Then for every \"bad thing\", write down what you learned from the experience. Then next to that, write down the \"good\" that you learned from the bad thing.\n\n Bad thing: I forgot to lock the storage closet after I grabbed something from inside\n\n I learned: I learned it is hotel policy to lock all storage rooms as there are items inside that may injure guests\n\n Good: I learned a hotel policy I was unaware of and now I am more knowledgeable about how things are run, I will know to lock the storage door the next time I am in there.\n\n Every time you make a mistake you're just leveling up, don't be hard on yourself and just focus on learning and putting your best foot forward!", "Coming from someone who has utterly fucked up in her life, and I mean serious whoppers, several times:\n\nYou can train yourself not to take your mistakes so seriously. Part of your problem is your mental self-flagellation. You should not feel like shit when you make a mistake. You will inevitably have your \"oh shit\" moment, but that should be followed by, \"Well. Whoops. Fucked that up. How can I avoid making the same mistake again?\" And then move on with your day.\n\nIt will take consistent self talk and mental redirection, but you can train yourself to think this way and not tear yourself up over it. When you revisit your mistakes over and over in your mind, you are literally training your brain to revisit your mistakes over and over. \n\nWith complicated jobs like that, your mind/body develops a kind of muscle memory. You can aid the process with lists and reminders and doing the same things in the same order every time. Stay dedicated, stay focused, let go of your mistakes, and in time you will be the one explaining to the newbie how to juggle everything :) \n\n*" ]

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[ "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it.", "How to leave work at work My job is sometimes fairly stressful. It's not just deadlines and complex tasks but oftentimes there's workplace drama that creates even more discomfort. It's not terrible day to day and I'm not really looking for another job, I'm just wondering if anyone has LPTs that can help me leave all the work bullshit where it belongs so that it doesn't impact the rest of my life or day. Right now I just say \"doesn't matter\" or something like that, but you know how walking through a doorway makes you forget sometimes, well, if anyone has a tip similar to that for workplace stress, I'd love to hear it." ]

[ "They own you 8 Hours a day 5 days a week. (assuming these are your hours) Don't let them own your whole life. Just thinking about it like this helps me a lot.", "I listen to an audio book on my drive home. Helps me to focus on something that is not work before I get home and get me out of the work mindset", "I had a coworker who was also a martial arts instructor. When he left his desk he stood and bowed to it and then walked away. \n\nHe said he saw work as a worthy adversary that he had done battle with, but just like in the dojo, when the match is over, you bow, acknowledge your opponent and then move on. \n\nIt seemed to really work for him.", "Plan out your next work day before you leave. \n\nHaving a solid plan for the next day will allow you to not think about it for the rest the day.", "I myself learned to do this at a younger age, it just took practice and repetition of forcing myself to think of something else when I thought of work outside of work. \n\nEventually you'll just stop thinking of work the moment your out. Also it seems to help to look forward to leaving the last half hour of the day.", "Working out or going for a run right after work is great for this. If you're upset about something that happened on the job, use that anger to fuel your workout. It feels great.", "Keep a coffee mug on your desk. When you get into work, turn it right side up. When you leave work, turn it upside down. It's your routine, and keep to it. ", "When I used to have a work phone, you know where that stayed? At work. Since I was never on call, I never see the need to keep that on me, I'd rather pay for my own phone.\n\nThe other rule is simple. Be an asshole to work, outside of work. If my boss ever called me outside of my hours to ask a question, my first question was always, am I being paid for this? Calls ended fast or started making me money. Nice. Colleagues call for help? I don't know those answers without my work computer. A lie, but a good one.", "First and foremost, work is what you do, not who you are.\n\nMake sure coworkers and your boss understand that, if you're not at the office or have explicitly acknowledged otherwise, you are not available. And hold true to that. You cannot be comfortable at home after work if you constantly fear that someone is going to call yoiu and fuck your night up.\n\nUnless you're constantly leaving work undone, you should be able to walk out the door without being overly concerned about that kind of nonsense. I would always walk out the door and stand for a second, take in the sun/fresh air and take a deep breath.\n\nI also would drink a tall boy on the way home from work every day, so that helps.", "YMMV, but what worked for me was purposefully packing everything up to take it home, and then putting it under my desk. The act of packing it up told my brain I wasn't forgetting about it, but then leaving it behind told my brain that I didn't have any way of doing anything about it, so I may as well not worry about it until I got back to work. It felt a little weird the first couple of times, but now I can leave work at work without having to do this little dance.", "Use your trip to and from work as a formal transition. Start with an eyes closed deep breath and have a lovely drive home. Don't force it, you can't stop yourself from having random thoughts. You can pick the ones you pay attention to, tho.", "I've always had an ability to just say \"fuck it, I'm out\" when I leave work. Just put your mind to I guess, the less you care the easier it is.", "Do you have the kind of job where you actually work 24 hours a day? By that, I mean are you expected to carry around a device and answer emails/calls at any time of day? If so, you can't leave work at work, because you're always at work.\n\nIf not, I'm actually surprised by the concept of someone who can't leave their work behind. I guess I'm a master of work-life separation, because as far as I've been concerned with jobs, they didn't exist once I was out the door.\n\nSome things I've done to achieve this:\n\n1. Participate in few or no optional work events\n\n2. Avoid socializing with coworkers outside of the office (with a few exceptions being like-minded individuals)\n\n3. Be polite, but not overly friendly. This avoids encouraging people to invite you into their drama.\n\n4. Avoid drama. Don't gossip about coworkers. Don't jump into arguments and take sides. Just do your job and leave that stuff to everyone else. \n\n5. Limit who you socialize with. Don't give your personal email, your social network ID or your phone number to people unless you want them to have it. Immediately leave any work-related social networking groups you belong to. Consider removing contacts from work you never talk to, but have to observe the drama of. \n\n\nThe downside to the above is that you'll never be able to schmooze your way to a high position in your workplace. If you can get their on skills alone, or if you don't care about workplace advancement, the above will help you keep work and life apart.\n\nEven after all of the above, it's difficult to completely avoid thinking about the workplace. Sunday evenings are hard to cleanse of the \"have to work again tomorrow\" pollution. People and events can pop into your mind. The best way to control that is to make sure you're doing something and not just laying around, otherwise your mind will drift to where you don't want it to be." ]

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[ "tips to Make youtube load faster I got decent internet but youtube needs to buffer constantly. even when I put it on the lowest quality It still goes slow. I know its not my computer, and lowering the resoultion does nothing. ", "tips to Make youtube load faster I got decent internet but youtube needs to buffer constantly. even when I put it on the lowest quality It still goes slow. I know its not my computer, and lowering the resoultion does nothing. ", "tips to Make youtube load faster I got decent internet but youtube needs to buffer constantly. even when I put it on the lowest quality It still goes slow. I know its not my computer, and lowering the resoultion does nothing. ", "tips to Make youtube load faster I got decent internet but youtube needs to buffer constantly. even when I put it on the lowest quality It still goes slow. I know its not my computer, and lowering the resoultion does nothing. " ]

[ "SmartVideo For YouTube, for Chrome\n\nhttps://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/smartvideo-for-youtube/lnkdbjbjpnpjeciipoaflmpcddinpjjp?hl=en-US", "If you've got decent Internet like you said, your ISP may be throttling YouTube. Try connecting through a VPN and see if your loading speed increases. You could also try increasing the allotted local storage for buffering, and this may help a bit. ", "I found these last week. Haven't tried them yet, though:\n\nhttp://mitchribar.com/2013/02/time-warner-cable-sucks-for-youtube-twitchtv/\n\nhttp://mitchribar.com/2013/02/how-to-stop-youtube-sucking-windows-guide/\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/technology/comments/13kmvd/have_time_warner_internet_but_can_barely_stream/\n\nGood Luck.\n\n", "You need to change your DNS server. Companies use their DNS server which throttles YT and such. Google DNS or open DNS will work way better." ]

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[ "How do you truly \"let go\" in life? At my point in life right now it is very obvious that my mental barriers/prisons are holding me back. I know its all in my head which is why I am dumbfounded at my self since I know I am in control but yet I feel so out of control sometimes. I won't go into specifics(bcus there are a lot of them) but without a doubt the number one thing holding me back is the classic- \"what other people will think about me\" thoughts. Fuck it here are some examples I need off my chest-\n\n-scared to talk more around people who know me as the shy guy, in other words afraid to change identity around people who know me as someone else\n\n-scared to flirt with chicks due to fear of rejection but also due to other people witnessing it\n\n-scared to workout in gym because I feel to skinny\n\n-scared to fail because people will think I am incapable \n\n-And more\n\nI am sick of being so damn dependent on other peoples emotions towards me as it is literally controlling my life. I feel like a puppet/slave to other peoples possible opinions. Because of this I am constantly going through spurts of excitement and depression and can't seem to stay constant. How do you truly \"let go\" of all the mind made prisons/traps holding you back????", "How do you truly \"let go\" in life? At my point in life right now it is very obvious that my mental barriers/prisons are holding me back. I know its all in my head which is why I am dumbfounded at my self since I know I am in control but yet I feel so out of control sometimes. I won't go into specifics(bcus there are a lot of them) but without a doubt the number one thing holding me back is the classic- \"what other people will think about me\" thoughts. Fuck it here are some examples I need off my chest-\n\n-scared to talk more around people who know me as the shy guy, in other words afraid to change identity around people who know me as someone else\n\n-scared to flirt with chicks due to fear of rejection but also due to other people witnessing it\n\n-scared to workout in gym because I feel to skinny\n\n-scared to fail because people will think I am incapable \n\n-And more\n\nI am sick of being so damn dependent on other peoples emotions towards me as it is literally controlling my life. I feel like a puppet/slave to other peoples possible opinions. Because of this I am constantly going through spurts of excitement and depression and can't seem to stay constant. How do you truly \"let go\" of all the mind made prisons/traps holding you back????", "How do you truly \"let go\" in life? At my point in life right now it is very obvious that my mental barriers/prisons are holding me back. I know its all in my head which is why I am dumbfounded at my self since I know I am in control but yet I feel so out of control sometimes. I won't go into specifics(bcus there are a lot of them) but without a doubt the number one thing holding me back is the classic- \"what other people will think about me\" thoughts. Fuck it here are some examples I need off my chest-\n\n-scared to talk more around people who know me as the shy guy, in other words afraid to change identity around people who know me as someone else\n\n-scared to flirt with chicks due to fear of rejection but also due to other people witnessing it\n\n-scared to workout in gym because I feel to skinny\n\n-scared to fail because people will think I am incapable \n\n-And more\n\nI am sick of being so damn dependent on other peoples emotions towards me as it is literally controlling my life. I feel like a puppet/slave to other peoples possible opinions. Because of this I am constantly going through spurts of excitement and depression and can't seem to stay constant. How do you truly \"let go\" of all the mind made prisons/traps holding you back????", "How do you truly \"let go\" in life? At my point in life right now it is very obvious that my mental barriers/prisons are holding me back. I know its all in my head which is why I am dumbfounded at my self since I know I am in control but yet I feel so out of control sometimes. I won't go into specifics(bcus there are a lot of them) but without a doubt the number one thing holding me back is the classic- \"what other people will think about me\" thoughts. Fuck it here are some examples I need off my chest-\n\n-scared to talk more around people who know me as the shy guy, in other words afraid to change identity around people who know me as someone else\n\n-scared to flirt with chicks due to fear of rejection but also due to other people witnessing it\n\n-scared to workout in gym because I feel to skinny\n\n-scared to fail because people will think I am incapable \n\n-And more\n\nI am sick of being so damn dependent on other peoples emotions towards me as it is literally controlling my life. I feel like a puppet/slave to other peoples possible opinions. Because of this I am constantly going through spurts of excitement and depression and can't seem to stay constant. How do you truly \"let go\" of all the mind made prisons/traps holding you back????", "How do you truly \"let go\" in life? At my point in life right now it is very obvious that my mental barriers/prisons are holding me back. I know its all in my head which is why I am dumbfounded at my self since I know I am in control but yet I feel so out of control sometimes. I won't go into specifics(bcus there are a lot of them) but without a doubt the number one thing holding me back is the classic- \"what other people will think about me\" thoughts. Fuck it here are some examples I need off my chest-\n\n-scared to talk more around people who know me as the shy guy, in other words afraid to change identity around people who know me as someone else\n\n-scared to flirt with chicks due to fear of rejection but also due to other people witnessing it\n\n-scared to workout in gym because I feel to skinny\n\n-scared to fail because people will think I am incapable \n\n-And more\n\nI am sick of being so damn dependent on other peoples emotions towards me as it is literally controlling my life. I feel like a puppet/slave to other peoples possible opinions. Because of this I am constantly going through spurts of excitement and depression and can't seem to stay constant. How do you truly \"let go\" of all the mind made prisons/traps holding you back????", "How do you truly \"let go\" in life? At my point in life right now it is very obvious that my mental barriers/prisons are holding me back. I know its all in my head which is why I am dumbfounded at my self since I know I am in control but yet I feel so out of control sometimes. I won't go into specifics(bcus there are a lot of them) but without a doubt the number one thing holding me back is the classic- \"what other people will think about me\" thoughts. Fuck it here are some examples I need off my chest-\n\n-scared to talk more around people who know me as the shy guy, in other words afraid to change identity around people who know me as someone else\n\n-scared to flirt with chicks due to fear of rejection but also due to other people witnessing it\n\n-scared to workout in gym because I feel to skinny\n\n-scared to fail because people will think I am incapable \n\n-And more\n\nI am sick of being so damn dependent on other peoples emotions towards me as it is literally controlling my life. I feel like a puppet/slave to other peoples possible opinions. Because of this I am constantly going through spurts of excitement and depression and can't seem to stay constant. How do you truly \"let go\" of all the mind made prisons/traps holding you back????", "How do you truly \"let go\" in life? At my point in life right now it is very obvious that my mental barriers/prisons are holding me back. I know its all in my head which is why I am dumbfounded at my self since I know I am in control but yet I feel so out of control sometimes. I won't go into specifics(bcus there are a lot of them) but without a doubt the number one thing holding me back is the classic- \"what other people will think about me\" thoughts. Fuck it here are some examples I need off my chest-\n\n-scared to talk more around people who know me as the shy guy, in other words afraid to change identity around people who know me as someone else\n\n-scared to flirt with chicks due to fear of rejection but also due to other people witnessing it\n\n-scared to workout in gym because I feel to skinny\n\n-scared to fail because people will think I am incapable \n\n-And more\n\nI am sick of being so damn dependent on other peoples emotions towards me as it is literally controlling my life. I feel like a puppet/slave to other peoples possible opinions. Because of this I am constantly going through spurts of excitement and depression and can't seem to stay constant. How do you truly \"let go\" of all the mind made prisons/traps holding you back????" ]

[ "The fear of others judging us, is brought on by constantly thinking slightly ahead in time as if these things have already happened. Like wise we also tend to think in the past about previous experiences. You need to practice just being in the present moment. You want to approach a woman? Act on that thought before you give yourself a chance to rethink it. Even of you get scared while moving in her direction, keep walking anyways. Just be present. You manage to master that, and fear won't hold you back anymore. ", "Well, if you really want an LPT move to another place and begin again. If the people around you distracts you to the point of damage then leave. If there are at least very few whom you can trust, ask them that you want to change and need all the help you can get. By asking for help you admit your weaknesses and if you succeed, come back for those you love and tell them you did it! There's no shortcut to this man.", "Sounds like you have a pretty bad case of social anxiety. There is no easy 'LPT' which will fix this. You can try to talk to a therapist, but betablockers also might be a solution.\n\nI'm not one to refer to medication for every small problem but betablockers are a common medication for stress; in particular used by musicians to combat stage fright which is a social fear pretty similar to your problem: The fear of judgement and public failure.\n\nhttp://www.help-for.com/beta-blockers.htm\n\nMaybe talk to your physician about it. Good luck! ", "I've been struggling a lot with this too as my mom engrained it in me to think what others think of me. To deal with this, I've been forcing myself into situations that I normally have troubles with. \n\nFor example, I went to a \"rave\" and stayed sober the entire time. It was hard to start dancing and get into it as I've always needed to drink to dance but once I realized everyone around me doesn't give a fuck, I was able to be free. It was an empowering moment for me to really let go as if I were at my house alone jamming and be 100% conscious. The morning after was great too. \n\nAt the gym, I wear my glasses and take them off when I start working out. It helps me focus more on me since my vision is hindered.\n\nI general, I would say to try to exercise your other senses such as smell, what you can hear, or what your skin feels like at the moment to help you stay present and focused on yourself. Our vision tends to me our most perceived sense which I think contributes to my social anxiety cause I see what others look like/are doing. \n", "I also was afraid of gym cause I was a bag o bones, then I just went there and you know what, people go there to cure that kind of shit so it's completely fine. It's not awkward to see people trying to lose weight but it is to gain some? Come on, no one gives a fuck. Neither do I. At some point I just stopped caring, I wonder why or how, but it just works really well...", "Bro (I'm assuming you're a guy), this seems like a typical case of conformity to me. You obviously let other people control your life for you. Often times people are afraid of breaking away from the norm and that's what causes anxiety and fear. Here's my LPT:stop leaving the house looking prim and proper all the time. It's okay to not look amazing for a day or two. You can do this many ways. Maybe stop shaving for a month or two (don't do that if you're a girl, ewww), wear old clothes you haven't worn in a while (preferably something that's been out of fashion for a while,like back in the 90s or the 2000s lol), or wear socks that go up to the knees if you want, or even stop combing/brushing your hair for a day or two. \n\nPoint is, stop dressing up for other people. But don't lose sight of fashion trends at the same time. Do what I'm telling you and know that nobody actually cares what you do, say, or act like as long as you don't be mean to them. If your friends tell you to go buy different clothes constantly, then you might need to find new friends. Often, the people we surround ourselves with influence us in ways we can't even imagine. As far as rejection goes, don't be afraid of it. Often times we're afraid of doing this because of mental barriers. Just basically treat everyone Ike your bro. If people can't see what a great guy you are then it's their loss and there's plenty of fish in the sea. \n\nAlso, boost your own confidence. Tell yourself you're doing a great job constantly, even if times are tough. \n\nThere's people on here that are telling you to leave town, which cracks me up. Running away won't solve your problems.", "Stop 'feeding' the negative thought processes. You can't overcome problems by dwelling on them. You seem very self-aware, which is a good thing. You know the problems you need to fix, which is better than most people can say. But sounds like you've got ego-based paralysis that you need to get over. Odds are that the only one judging you is you. Most people are too caught up in their own heads to even notice you, much less judge you.\n\nStart by taking baby steps. Don't try to take over conversations, just try to participate in them. Don't skip right to flirting with girls. Start with looking them in the eyes and saying 'hi' in passing. And the big guys at the gym are friends to be made: approach them, tell them that you're just getting started, and ask if they can give you some pointers on the way to do it." ]

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[ "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? ", "What simple routine tasks can the average computer owner perform to help extend the life of their machine? " ]

[ "For physical life: \n\n* Dust. Use one of those air compressing cans\n* Have the machine in places that get air. Sitting your laptop on your lap and running it hot all the time isn't good for it. There are cooling fans you can use for laptops. For towers, don't tuck them away in drawers. Let 'em breathe. \n\nFor speed:\n\n* Turn off a lot of programs that boot on startup. These can slow your machine down. You can use something like CCLeaner, or just msconfig.exe already on your windows machine. Click the Startup tab and uncheck things you recognize. (In general if you don't know - don't uncheck things from Microsoft or Intel or companies like that.)\n* In general, uninstall crap you don't use.\n* Keep some free space on your machine. Don't be running a machine with only 100 mb of space available.\n* If you don't have an SSD harddrive, defrag.\n* If you're the type of person that gets viruses/popups/etc - get virus/maleware programs.", "Dust it out every couple of months, literary get the dust out that accumulates inside your computer. ", "Extending the life of your machine is nice and has already been well covered, but I'm going to suggest extending the life of your data ...\n\nKeep backups of your important data.\n\nPreferably more than one, and don't keep them all at your house -- having a backup drive at work with your home files is nice, for example. Keep them up to date and check that things are actually being backed up periodically. (More than a few people thought they had good backups, but then had a disaster and went to check them ... and their tapes are blank.)\n\nDon't worry so much about backing up your installed programs -- you'd have to install them again to use them on a replacement computer, after all -- but your pictures, documents, etc? Back that up. \n\nIt's less important if something can be just downloaded from the Internet again, but your personal documents, pictures, etc.? If you lose that, it's probably gone forever.\n\nIn 2015, probably the most cost-effective backup strategy for home computer users is external USB hard drives. If you have a small amount of data, you can use flash drives or \"upload to the cloud\", but if you have lots, it's hard to beat external USB hard drives. Backing up to DVD-R or BD-Rs is an option too, but hard drives cost about the same per gigabyte and are faster and more flexible. Tape drives aren't really practical for most home users.", "A lot of people fry their laptops motherboard by using them in bed because the bottom fans don't get any air. Always keep it on a hard surface so there is space for the fans to vent air. \n\n", "Well I would look into things that automate the helpful software on your comp.\n\nYou can get software that automates: defrag'ing, virus scanning, updating the Windows fixes, deleting temp files, cookies etc.\n\nI would also look into disabling programs that run behind the scenes that suck up cpu and ram. You'll open up the real speed to your comp's processing power and get more speed etc", "-Start > Run > 'msconfig' and remove any file that you don't need running during start up\n\n-purchase an external hard drive and routinely backup your computer \n\n--Start > Run > '%temp%' delete all the files in this window (traces of temporary files that you have previously deleted off your computer\"", "Upgrade the ram.\n\nRam prices have fallen dramatically, and continue to keep dropping. \nTake your PC or laptop into the shop, double the ram, and it'll feel snappy again, instantly, without losing your desktop, settings, pictures etc.\n", "Cleaning it with compressed air. Just open up the case and hold the fans with your finger and then blow the air onto them. If you let the fans spin while they are not on they could break. If you have a Mac idk. ", "Build your PC. It's cheaper, and will always be more powerful that a pre built of a similar price. Also nothing comes pre-installed on it, you decide. Also get proper cooling and an SSD. Windows 8.1 boots in 2-3 seconds from cold shut down on my SSD.", "Never turn it off. The heat changes of a machine turning on and off are far worse for electronics than leaving it running all of the time.", "Sign up for iCare service from Invisus. Tech and security support for almost anything and routine check ups. They remove viruses and adware. They can fix printer issues and OS errors; you name it. Also they try EVERYTHING they can before recommending an OS re-install. When uninstalling a program use Revo uninstaller. It has an advanced uninstall option that scans for left over files AFTER the built in uninstaller runs allowing you to completely remove the program and asso. files. Run Malwarebyte monthly and ccleaner weekly. make sure you keep everything up to date.(Yes even flash player and java)\n" ]

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[ "If someone says “sorry” for an issue that only marginally harmed you, what’s the best phrase to let them know that it’s no big deal? ", "If someone says “sorry” for an issue that only marginally harmed you, what’s the best phrase to let them know that it’s no big deal? " ]

[ "Just shrug and say \"Ya didn't hurt me any.\"\n\nThe best way I've found to convince people that they really didn't do any harm is to be nonchalant. Don't acknowledge it unless it comes up. If it does, brush it off with a smile.", "Depending on the relationship a “come on,” can ease the tension and be seen as funny. But again, would have to be on pretty good terms w this person so they would ease up and see the humor in that response" ]

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[ "How can I become more creative? Recently I've been looking into more \"expressive\" forms of activities, be it music or creating things, but I've been entirely dissatisfied with my levels of creativity. I don't think I am entirely uncreative, but I think I am very shallow in my creativity. This has been an issue that has plagued me for a long time now, such that I just outright copy another's ideas if I make things and I really dislike this.\n\nSo far, I have tried taking a few days off and just walked around and people watched, but it didn't seem to do much for my creative juices. How do you become more creative? Or at least how do you come up with more unique/creative ideas?", "How can I become more creative? Recently I've been looking into more \"expressive\" forms of activities, be it music or creating things, but I've been entirely dissatisfied with my levels of creativity. I don't think I am entirely uncreative, but I think I am very shallow in my creativity. This has been an issue that has plagued me for a long time now, such that I just outright copy another's ideas if I make things and I really dislike this.\n\nSo far, I have tried taking a few days off and just walked around and people watched, but it didn't seem to do much for my creative juices. How do you become more creative? Or at least how do you come up with more unique/creative ideas?", "How can I become more creative? Recently I've been looking into more \"expressive\" forms of activities, be it music or creating things, but I've been entirely dissatisfied with my levels of creativity. I don't think I am entirely uncreative, but I think I am very shallow in my creativity. This has been an issue that has plagued me for a long time now, such that I just outright copy another's ideas if I make things and I really dislike this.\n\nSo far, I have tried taking a few days off and just walked around and people watched, but it didn't seem to do much for my creative juices. How do you become more creative? Or at least how do you come up with more unique/creative ideas?", "How can I become more creative? Recently I've been looking into more \"expressive\" forms of activities, be it music or creating things, but I've been entirely dissatisfied with my levels of creativity. I don't think I am entirely uncreative, but I think I am very shallow in my creativity. This has been an issue that has plagued me for a long time now, such that I just outright copy another's ideas if I make things and I really dislike this.\n\nSo far, I have tried taking a few days off and just walked around and people watched, but it didn't seem to do much for my creative juices. How do you become more creative? Or at least how do you come up with more unique/creative ideas?", "How can I become more creative? Recently I've been looking into more \"expressive\" forms of activities, be it music or creating things, but I've been entirely dissatisfied with my levels of creativity. I don't think I am entirely uncreative, but I think I am very shallow in my creativity. This has been an issue that has plagued me for a long time now, such that I just outright copy another's ideas if I make things and I really dislike this.\n\nSo far, I have tried taking a few days off and just walked around and people watched, but it didn't seem to do much for my creative juices. How do you become more creative? Or at least how do you come up with more unique/creative ideas?", "How can I become more creative? Recently I've been looking into more \"expressive\" forms of activities, be it music or creating things, but I've been entirely dissatisfied with my levels of creativity. I don't think I am entirely uncreative, but I think I am very shallow in my creativity. This has been an issue that has plagued me for a long time now, such that I just outright copy another's ideas if I make things and I really dislike this.\n\nSo far, I have tried taking a few days off and just walked around and people watched, but it didn't seem to do much for my creative juices. How do you become more creative? Or at least how do you come up with more unique/creative ideas?" ]

[ "I think you might be approaching this bass ackwards. Most of the great \"creative\" types weren't creative right out of the gate. They got really really good at their art/craft and the creativity came later. As an example a really common exercise in art school is to literally go and copy a painting of one of the masters. The reason for this is a. it exposes you to different ways to creating art and b. forces you to learn and know the \"rules\" inside and out before you break them. Just keep going forward in the direction you are now with the goal of getting better at technique, the creativity will follow.", "I drink a few beers and listen to music that moves me to get the creative juices going.\n\nThe idea for my current project came about when I was eating a burger in my friend's restaurant.. I was really enjoying that burger and thought to myself \"what if this was monster meat and there were monsters just lurking outside the restaurant?\"\n\nThe point is, something has to happen on an emotional level for me to get inspired.", "Start drawing, writing, building something, playing a musical instrument and anything of the sort.\n\nIt does not matter what it is so long as you have a part in it.\n\nCreativity can be cultured. Give it time.\n\nDon't worry about if you are good or not. It is the creation that makes a difference.", "Have you tried going new places? I have struggled with finding creativity and inspiration too. I've noticed focusing on trying to think of things more actually makes new ideas harder. The best way I found is to have new experiences. Try walking a new route, go to a museum you've never been to before, take a different road to work, or browse a different store. Regardless of where you go, allow yourself to take in the environment and notice details, they can trigger inspiration.", "Discipline > inspiration. \n\nVery few people just fart out brilliance. If you don’t like your work or you think it’s derivative keep working on it. Change it. Let it evolve into something new.\n\nAlso, learn the rules so you can break them more effectively. \n\nThe “rules” of creativity are more like suggestions or conventions. You don’t have to adhere to them but if you want to color outside the lines it helps to know where the lines are.", "What makes an idea unique to you? Why is uniqueness important? \n\nI like to think of creativity as divergent thinking. You follow trains of thought around, put pieces together in a different way, etc. those pieces don’t need to be never before seen pieces. \n\nThere are entire genres of music for example which are basically “follow the rules”, and they are extremely culturally important and beloved - look at the blues! Then look at Jimi Hendrix. He played 12 bar blues songs. He also did it on guitar using techniques that weren’t really used yet until that point. Now, everyone who plays electric guitar uses them. You playing crazy wailing guitar solos like Hendrix doesn’t make your solo any less creative; Hendrix playing the blues didn’t make him any less creative." ]

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[ "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n", "How to quit a family business without drama or burning bridges. In lieu of yesterday's LPT about quitting a job without burning bridges, I am in a similar scenario but a little more precise. I was offered a job that is more promising for myself with higher salaries, and much-much higher growth than the family business I am currently in. \n\nDoes anybody have advice so I can change jobs without offending my boss (also my dad)?\n\nAny advice is appreciated.\n\nThanks a lot! \n\n" ]

[ "Ask your Dad for advice about the situation, as your Dad. He may put his interest aside and advise you to go for it to better yourself, and it would be so much better if leaving is sort of his idea. \n\nOr he may offer you a better deal if given the chance, maybe turn over some control or share to you etc. \n\nOr he may know something about the offer that's a problem. \n\nIn any case, I'd give him the courtesy of getting his feedback first, rather than bouncing in with a done-deal announcement. ", "I did this. \n\nFirst how much notice can you give? When I was interviewing for new jobs, I told everyone \"I know this might be a deal-breaker, but I am only going to be able to accept an offer if I can give 4 weeks notice. I am responsible for a lot of the operations and can't leave them in a bad spot.\" \n\nIn the end my new job had me come in three days a week after 5 for training for about two weeks. So when four weeks notice was up, I could start at full speed. My trainer stayed late when they would normally be closed to do this, but they really wanted me. \n\nAs far as the family business, they did not take me seriously when I told them I was looking for another job (They needed two people to replace what I did). They thought I would fail. So they only hired a person that was completely inadequate (They fired her the week I left and then found another person a few weeks later). They did not even start looking for a real replacement till I gave my four weeks. They drug their feet about it and only hired the person with one week for me to train them. However I was able to leave with a clear conscience know I did my part.\n\nBefore I even started interviewing, I began to build \"instruction documents\" on how to do my job. These were very detailed with screenshots and pictures. Also I had everything caught up as much as possible. Also made sure files were labels in ways that made sense. Had to staple a longer note on some files.\n\nWhen it came to actually leaving. I left and never looked back. I don't ask about the business. I slowly withdraw whenever it comes up in conversation. \n\nHow I handled the drama. There was some drama over exactly how long I needed a car I had of theirs. Basically I didn't have any other transportation until I a certain number of paychecks (and this was a car that I had been using so not taking away from anyone else and they owned two extra cars on top of this one). In the end my pay week hit differently than I expected. I needed the car until Friday of week X, when they had originally offered me continuing to use it til Monday of week X. And they offered this on their own, I would have made other arrangements if they didn't. I told them I would need the car till Friday. They freaked and said that cousin X needed it (cousin X had no change in situation at this point and didn't work plus they have two extra cars as it is). I would not back down that I needed the car till Friday. I made it clear that the keys were available for them to come get from my roommate, but I refused to let them save face that this did not cause me a huge problem. (They wanted a final show of subservience from me not so much the car itself, if that makes any sense.) They didn't come and get it that night. Next morning I texted that I was not going to drive the car without their permission, details of where it was parked and the location of keys. They responded that I could use it until Friday. Dropped off the car Friday, Cousin X came out to accept keys and privately apologized to me that they couldn't understand why such a big deal was made over a few days as their transportation situation is really non-urgent. \n\nObviously my family is not a particularly healthy one, so I focused on what would make me feel proud about the way I left the business rather than the impossible task of making acknowledge I did right by them. I was accused things like giving four weeks notice so I could make extra money being trained at night (No new job actually paid more for 40 hours than 40 hours of old job + 12 hours of new job). In the final week, it was found that I made a mistake in undercharging service to an account that we were writing off due to bankruptcy. So on this account we will never be paid for, I should have them a larger invoice to never be paid instead the actual invoice I sent to never be paid. Myself and the two new employees (obviously they weren't actually employed when the mistake happened) were brought in for a huge dressing down on how this could have happened and what our procedure was etc. I explained what happened and how this was missed and he went on another rant again insisting we add an third check. This was ridiculous (trainee already thought we wasted time on the second check of invoices). He wanted me to go over it all again. I said \" You know what, I am done with this. I not willing to discuss this issue any further. You have the explanation and I will not talk to you about this anymore.\" Everyone freaks out, now I am no longer talking to them! They knew I pull something like this silent treatment BS! I interrupt the gossip frenzy. \"Hold on guys. You misunderstand. I am still talking to everyone. Only the one invoice is off-limits. I will talk to you about anything else.\" Gossip frenzy averted.\n\nAll and all I just kept my head high. And followed my own high standards on dong right by them. When I left, I left be behind any attachment to what became of the place. I focused on clean and complete break and kept it as separate as possible from any family functions.", "In my experience, actually doing this:\n\n* Decide what you want to do.\n* Tell your family you intend to do it.\n* Do it.\n* Stand firm, but be prepared to offer/accept terms that don't conflict with your stated goal\n\nYou can't shut down the drama, but you can choose not to participate in it. \n\nHere's my story:\n\nI grew up in a farming family. My grandfather ran the operations, and was wonderful to work for. I worked on the farm during most of my summers. I did get paid a regular wage for this, roughly the same rate as the non-family farmhands.\n\nMy dad had his own business, unrelated to farming, and he sold the business to a larger competitor, leaving him at a loose end, so he came to work on the farm. My grandfather made him second in command. From this point, Grandpa stayed at the packing shed to sort and package produce while Dad went to the fields with the crew to do the harvesting.\n\nAs a boss, Dad was a fucking tyrant to me and my sister. The worst part of it was that you could not get away from it by going home for the night.\n\nAfter two years of that, at the end of the summer, I declared my intentions not to continue working on the farm the following year. I told Grandpa why, and I told Mom why, and had their support. Dad blew it off, but made the off-the-cuff remark that if I wasn't going to work the farm, that I would have to find a job, which I thought was a reasonable condition. Mom and my sister heard it, and I asked them to remember it.\n\nNine months later, school lets out for the summer. The next day, Dad comes to get me out of bed to go over to the farm and I reminded him that I was not doing that this year. My sister and Mom backed me up on it. Job hunting began that day, which was what I was going to do anyway.\n\nBottom line:\n\n1. I decided what I was going to do (something else)\n\n2. I stated my intentions to do it.\n\n3. I did it.\n\n4. I made a concession (get a job elsewhere) that didn't conflict with my stated goal.\n\nI made sandwiches that summer at a local deli. Dad was there at least once a week with the crew.", "This is a hard spot. Honestly...talk to your dad in a setting where he is your dad, and not your boss. Talk to him about the financial needs of YOUR family (if you've got one). Tell him that you feel conflicted because you see this as the way for you to be a man and do the best things you can for your wife, kids, etc...so they can have the best life possible. \n\nAs him, as your father, (be sure to say something like, As my father, and not as my boss...what do I do...) Explain that you don't want to cause a rift in the family, and that this is one of those times where you need him to help you with some fatherly advice. \n\nYou will hit him in 2 places...as your dad...he ABSOLUTELY wants you to succeed and do the best things you can for yourself and your family. As your boss...he will want you to stick around and help him run the business. You need to appeal to him as your father, not as your boss. \n\nBe prepared to answer specific questions, what is the salary, what exactly are the growth opportunities, what about benefits, how is the retirement plan, and PTO, etc. \n\nIf this will give you enough income so that you and your spouse can have a kid or another one...then you will also appeal to his grandfatherly desires, so if this is one of your driving factors...let him know. ", "Your father should support your decision, and not be butthurt about it. Just go to him with your dilemma and be honest with him", "The best advice i can give you that i have not already seen posted below is to find your own replacement, make sure he is better than (or at least equal to) you so that the business is not hurting from the loss of you as a vested employee. Even if you are not working there you still care about your family and their business.\n\nOn the other hand, you could write a detailed business planb that shows how you could increase growth and maintain it. Not sure what business your in so i can't help you there. However, depending on where you are going to start working at, it could be used as an example of getting alternative experience to help the company in the long run. Your parents will want you to be happy, they just also know that you benifit from the company simply by being part of the family whether you help or not and leaving may only hurt them (hense my first advice). Good luck.", "I went through this situation. I was being taken advantage of for very little pay. \n\nIt was a marketing / graphic design job. \n\nWhat i did was that i assured my dad that i will continue to help in whatever way i could and if he needed any help he could contact me and i would help out if i could and/or explain to him how to do it and use my spare time to help him out. This gave him so much relief and he seemed a lot cooler about it. I also made sure to explain my situation and how i need to go out on my own and this was a great opportunity for me. This is what i would suggest for you to do. \n\n\nEventually i had to cut him off completely as he kept asking me to do way too much work for his clients even after i left. I was working 9 hour days at my new job and 2+ hours at home on work for him. He was taking advantage of my kindness and lack of balls to tell him no i don't have any time. This resulted in us fighting and not speaking much for a couple of weeks. Eventually he apologized.", "I think intentions of coming back at some point will ease things. Like striking it out on your own for a bit and then coming back. However if you have no intentions of coming back I wouldn't take that route.", "I couldn't get ahead, my dad wouldn't let me go, he wouldn't give me more responsibilities, there was nothing left to learn.\n\nI stopped eating. I didn't eat for 6 days, I showed up to the family business every day looking pale and sick. He couldn't stand the sight of me, he tried to send me home, and I turned his words on him, that I have a responsibility more to the business than to myself. \n\nOn the 7th day he tried to have a talk with me, but I told me talks were over, I just wanted out (I was 18 at the time and dependent on him for everything). He finally relented and let me get another job somewhere else while I still lived in his house and paid rent. \n\nWe never really talked much after that, in the end I found out he was embezzling money to fund an affair, so I sued him on behalf of my mom and saddled with with all the debt from the business. \n\nIf your dad is more reasonable than mine was, then it should be ok to talk about your own growth and having opportunities, if there's no talking with him, then you should consider he's probably not going to be supporting you in the future, you are. " ]

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[ "How not to shock myself when I get out of my car. I shock myself on the door of my car literally EVERY time I get out of it and close the door. Am I sliding too fast on my cloth seats or something? What's going on?", "How not to shock myself when I get out of my car. I shock myself on the door of my car literally EVERY time I get out of it and close the door. Am I sliding too fast on my cloth seats or something? What's going on?", "How not to shock myself when I get out of my car. I shock myself on the door of my car literally EVERY time I get out of it and close the door. Am I sliding too fast on my cloth seats or something? What's going on?", "How not to shock myself when I get out of my car. I shock myself on the door of my car literally EVERY time I get out of it and close the door. Am I sliding too fast on my cloth seats or something? What's going on?", "How not to shock myself when I get out of my car. I shock myself on the door of my car literally EVERY time I get out of it and close the door. Am I sliding too fast on my cloth seats or something? What's going on?" ]

[ "Put your bare hand on the metal part of the door frame before you leave your seat. The electricity will still transfer, just as it usually does when you are shocked, but it wont make the \"jump\". I think it's because it's doing it a little at a time as you get out of your seat instead of all at once, and therefore at lower voltage.", "Sliding on the seat can do it, but some car tires will generate static as well. It used to be that you could buy stris of conductive rubber, you'd screw it to the underside of your car somewhere and it would hang down and touch the ground, constantly discharging the car ", "Must be a buildup of static electricity. You can discharge it without getting a shock, by touching the car with the key rather than your bare skin. ", "Like others have stated, hold onto something metal as you step out. The \"shock\" will occur as your foot hits the ground, thus you won't feel it.", "Hi! I have this same problem all the time!\nI wear thick rubber gloves, shoulder high, a rubber hat but most importantly above the knee rubber boots. This should work for you too.\n" ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]

[ "How to get a really tight screw to unscrew. I am trying to loosen the bindings on my snowboard and one of the screws is super tight. We have tried leverage and all that with no luck. If you have any tips please let me know. Thanks! :)", "How to get a really tight screw to unscrew. I am trying to loosen the bindings on my snowboard and one of the screws is super tight. We have tried leverage and all that with no luck. If you have any tips please let me know. Thanks! :)", "How to get a really tight screw to unscrew. I am trying to loosen the bindings on my snowboard and one of the screws is super tight. We have tried leverage and all that with no luck. If you have any tips please let me know. Thanks! :)", "How to get a really tight screw to unscrew. I am trying to loosen the bindings on my snowboard and one of the screws is super tight. We have tried leverage and all that with no luck. If you have any tips please let me know. Thanks! :)" ]

[ "Cool it off, use a canister of compressed air upside down to make the screw contract from the cold (be careful very flammable). Alternatively you can leave it outside if it's cold enough.\n\n ", "Best way is to take a drill to it with a bit that is thinner than the screw. Given, this will destroy the screw, but it works really well on stripped screws especially.", "Since it is a snowboard, rust could be an issue. Get some penetrating fluid (seriously) and try that; it should loosen things up a bit. Apply some of the fluid, wait a bit, and then give it a go. In a pinch, you could try WD40 to help loosen things up. \n\nI would try this before other methods that may strip or destroy the screw.", "I really need a photo of the screw for the best method. What kind of screw? Has it cammed out of the slot? Rusty? Anything flammable around the screw? Got an impact driver?\n\nget a stubby screwdriver and clamp a vise-grip to the shaft. Put the screwdriver and snowboard in a vice together such that the jaws are holding the screwdriver in place on the screw. Use Aero-Kroil if it's rusty and you have it. Turn the screw only a quarter turn before backing out the vise jaws a bit.\n\n" ]

[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to effectively sell a product. I work in retail and a) my manager wants me to push a specific product, and b) I also sell furniture some of the time.", "How to effectively sell a product. I work in retail and a) my manager wants me to push a specific product, and b) I also sell furniture some of the time.", "How to effectively sell a product. I work in retail and a) my manager wants me to push a specific product, and b) I also sell furniture some of the time.", "How to effectively sell a product. I work in retail and a) my manager wants me to push a specific product, and b) I also sell furniture some of the time.", "How to effectively sell a product. I work in retail and a) my manager wants me to push a specific product, and b) I also sell furniture some of the time." ]

[ "The most important thing for sales is being confident in yourself. The quickest ways to convey that are:\n1. Try and maintain eye contact when talking to people. It shows you have a genuine interest.\n2. Be as knowledgeable as you can about the product. Colors/styles/ materials are all questions you'll likely be asked, and customers are impressed/reassured when you're able to quickly answer.\n3. This one is a little more crafty, but work on something called I call 'the subtle nod'. Basically, as your talking, nod your head a little. Not an obnoxious amount, and not continuously, but definitely when you're talking about how reliable or solid a product is. The vast majority of the time, the other person will subconsciously start nodding too, and that's unknowingly positively reinforcing the information you're giving to them. \n4) posture and tone are important. You want people to believe youre invested in helping them, not so much selling a product. If you're just dragging your feet and seem otherwise disinterest, trust me, the customer will realize. However, if it comes across that your job is to help them find the best product rather than just selling stuff, you take the roll of friend instead of salesperson. \n\nThat's the basics really. You'll have to find the right mix of those things for yourself, as some people may be better at product knowledge while others do better with personalizing. Good luck, and sorry if any of my formatting is off. I'm on mobile.", "I sold the most expensive paint on the market at List Price:$62.99 – $67.99 a Gallon. I found the best way to push a specific product, when a costumer has a view options, is to show them how this product will meet their specific needs. Find out what the costumer came into to your store looking for and show how what you want to sell them meets their needs. Cost will usually be the hardest point to drive and you wont win all the battles but a good way to push it home is to show the cost as an investment for the future that will pay off over time.\n", "advertise 2 additional products. one should be cheaper and of lower quality and the other one should be slightly better quality and extremely expensive. then your product that is sitting in the middle will be the easy choice.", "Focus on the benefits of what you're selling, not the features. How does it improve life/solve an existing pain/prevent future pain? \n\nYou don't buy a nice shiny new powerful computer JUST because of the specs. You buy it because you know that with those specs it'll run your favorite game beautifully, which improves your quality of life.\n\nFigure out how your product improves the quality of life for your customer. You may have to ask/pry a little bit to determine it, but once you have that information, you have all you need to make the sale.\n\nDoes that make sense?", "ITT: People dont mind snaking other people so long as they get something out of it.\n\nWhat happened to self respect?" ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to ask for a raise/a huge increase in paid vacation time. I'm planning to ask for a 20% raise as I've been working a lot of tasks that are technically outside the purview of my current role for the past year (cause they're a lot easier/more fun - but still).\n\nMy company currently has very little budget for increases in salaries, and I honestly value free time about 2-5x more than additional pay - so I'd be happy with increasing from 4 to 8 weeks paid vacation a year.\n\nI'm wondering how one would best negotiate for such a drastic increase in paid vacation.\n\n(If possible I'd even like to bump it up to 10 weeks with 2 weeks of unpaid/paid vacation. I'm based in Canada for Context)", "How to ask for a raise/a huge increase in paid vacation time. I'm planning to ask for a 20% raise as I've been working a lot of tasks that are technically outside the purview of my current role for the past year (cause they're a lot easier/more fun - but still).\n\nMy company currently has very little budget for increases in salaries, and I honestly value free time about 2-5x more than additional pay - so I'd be happy with increasing from 4 to 8 weeks paid vacation a year.\n\nI'm wondering how one would best negotiate for such a drastic increase in paid vacation.\n\n(If possible I'd even like to bump it up to 10 weeks with 2 weeks of unpaid/paid vacation. I'm based in Canada for Context)", "How to ask for a raise/a huge increase in paid vacation time. I'm planning to ask for a 20% raise as I've been working a lot of tasks that are technically outside the purview of my current role for the past year (cause they're a lot easier/more fun - but still).\n\nMy company currently has very little budget for increases in salaries, and I honestly value free time about 2-5x more than additional pay - so I'd be happy with increasing from 4 to 8 weeks paid vacation a year.\n\nI'm wondering how one would best negotiate for such a drastic increase in paid vacation.\n\n(If possible I'd even like to bump it up to 10 weeks with 2 weeks of unpaid/paid vacation. I'm based in Canada for Context)", "How to ask for a raise/a huge increase in paid vacation time. I'm planning to ask for a 20% raise as I've been working a lot of tasks that are technically outside the purview of my current role for the past year (cause they're a lot easier/more fun - but still).\n\nMy company currently has very little budget for increases in salaries, and I honestly value free time about 2-5x more than additional pay - so I'd be happy with increasing from 4 to 8 weeks paid vacation a year.\n\nI'm wondering how one would best negotiate for such a drastic increase in paid vacation.\n\n(If possible I'd even like to bump it up to 10 weeks with 2 weeks of unpaid/paid vacation. I'm based in Canada for Context)" ]

[ "Your on the right track that it's not just monetary compensation you can negotiate. Know what you want, if it's a certain amount of vacation then aim for that.", "Try to quantify the value of your additional efforts at the job or else 20% or doubling your vacation time will sound completely random and arbitrary. Management always wants numbers for the justification. If you are salaried and work tons of OT, this can help build your case. Best of luck!!", "Do all the work to justify the salary increase and don’t say anything about vacation. When they fall short of the salary goal, offer an increase in Vacation time as a compromise.", "If they tell you how great you are or how much they appreciate you, next time; stick out your hand and say ‘show me don’t tell me.’" ]

[ 4, 3, 3, 1 ]

[ "How to 'soften' USB cables to remove the tendency to coil I have third-party iPhone USB charger cable and it is a little thicker than the OEM Apple one.\n\nNo matter what I try, it always has a wavy shape to it and won't lay flat.\n\nWondering if anybody has a \"method\" to fix this sort of thing.\n\nTY", "How to 'soften' USB cables to remove the tendency to coil I have third-party iPhone USB charger cable and it is a little thicker than the OEM Apple one.\n\nNo matter what I try, it always has a wavy shape to it and won't lay flat.\n\nWondering if anybody has a \"method\" to fix this sort of thing.\n\nTY", "How to 'soften' USB cables to remove the tendency to coil I have third-party iPhone USB charger cable and it is a little thicker than the OEM Apple one.\n\nNo matter what I try, it always has a wavy shape to it and won't lay flat.\n\nWondering if anybody has a \"method\" to fix this sort of thing.\n\nTY" ]

[ "Bulldog clip a weight to one end and hang it from the other end. \n\nWarm it gently, e.g. by using a hair dryer. \n\nThen leave it hanging overnight. ", "As far as I know, cables have a natural twist. I was looking up how to correctly fold audio cables (like microphone cables etc) and there are techniques to fold with the loop and the loop and twist it to help avoid it, but the cable still has a natural tendency to twist in a particular direction. In my mind this would be harder to compensate for in a small, short cable like a phone cable compared to a thicker, heavier very long cable.\n\nETA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yPcJD7RVuY", "This was (re)posted recently : http://imgur.com/a/rbkUF#QUb07E1\n\nMethod with hot water instead of hair dryer ( safer according to poster )\n\n\n" ]

[ 14, 8, 3 ]

[ "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?", "how to stop biting your nails I've been trying to break this habit for years, I've tried everything from nail polishes to chewing gum but I cannot stop biting them, especially when I'm anxious or nervous. Anyone have experience kicking this bad habit?" ]

[ "I chewed my nails starting in second grade, all the way through starting grad school. I was in the same boat as you...I had tried everything and nothing worked. Recently, I have started getting gel manicures, which are literally so strong that I cannot bite through them. This has helped me a lot. :) The only downside is that the gel polish is tough on your nails, so if they're already weak (like mine were from the years of chewing) it's probably not good to get gel manicures more than 2 or 3 times in a row.\n\nAnother option (although you may have already tried this, or it may not overcome your urge to chew) is to just spend some time thinking about *all the gross stuff that's on your fingers.* Seriously. If you have touched the bus seat/the sole of your shoe/a toilet handle/etc and chew your nails without washing your hands first, you're essentially just licking other people's farts/whatever's on the ground/the pee and cleaning solution particles on the toilet handle/etc. Try thinking of it that way! (Although be warned...this is a dark and scary path that's very hard to come back from...once you start noticing this stuff, it's difficult to stop.)", "Okay this was a problem of mine forever. I can't remember not biting my nails as a kid and into adulthood. Particularly during suspenseful movies or tv shows is when my nails made the perfect snack. \nBelieve it or not, don't become dependent on altering your nails to combat your desire. Instead, alter your mindset - the root of the issue. I lie to you not that decades of nail biting were no more when I saw a classmate of mine who bit his nails on each of his fingers until they were nothing but blood and dead, dry skin. Quite literally anything that required fine motor skills he couldn't complete because his fingers were so sore. \nAfter being disgusted by a more severe practitioner I had an epiphany of how terribly unhealthy it was. Not only that, but I began idolizing figures with perfect nails. I wanted my nails to be flawless. So, with an aversion towards my old habits as well as a goal for where I wanted my nails to be (length, appearance, etc) I have since stopped biting and for the first time in years I began using the clippers. \nIt's a mental battle!! Place your aspirations above instant gratification! ", "I started not just painting my nails (which tastes gross) but doing art and designs on them. It took time to do that I didn't want to get wrecked, and it encouraged me to grow them out longer to have a bigger canvas. ", "Work one nail at a time. For example, bite nine nails normally but leave 1 untouched, then work your way down to 8, then 7, etc. ", "Start the habit of Trichotillomania (compulsion to pull out your hair). You’ll feel the need to maintain big nails to keep that going.", "Put a bunch of effort into making your nails look their best, you wont want to chew away all that hard work.", "Nail polish/regular maintenance seriously helps. Ikicked my habit by painting my nails and clipping off any ragged edges immediately- i only bite when im taking a break from polish. \n\nThey sell clear nail polishes designed to taste bad even when dry but I found that bright colours were best to visually remind me that I can't bite them. Even something inconspicuous as grey will make them seem less like something you want in your mouth", "Invisalign! Honestly, it's probably not a realistic situation for everyone, but there is really no way to bite your nails with plastic resin on your teeth. In 6 months, my teeth look great, and my nails look amazing as well. I always would get manicures, but I would bite as soon as the first chip happened, so that wasn't a solution for me.", "I used to be really bad about it but then when I reached my 30's it just stopped without any overriding effort. I think I had been biting my nails as a result of some kind of excess neurological energy, and probably the die-off of neurological pathways that comes with aging was the answer.\n\nLong story short, it might be a neurological issue.\n\nOne tip I have - keep nail clippers with you at all times. I tended to find that trying to 'even out' ragged nails with my teeth ended up with no nails. If you cut broken nails to keep them 'smooth' you might feel less driven to bite them.", "I trim my nails several times a week. When I get the urge to bite my nails, I trim them again. This eliminates the urge for me.", "I started chewing gum. I find the urge to chew on my nails isn't as frequent when I already have something in my mouth.", "I chewed my nails up until I was 19. A friend said her father still bit his nails, and they made his hands look horrible, so I quit cold turkey.\n\nOne day when I was around 27 I gave in to temptation and bit my thumbnail, and 7 years later I still haven't stopped.", "I am 45 and have been biting my nails for far too long. I usually pick at the nail and then feel i must bite it off in order to even it out. I am about 3 weeks sober (or whatever the word is for not nail biting) I bought a package of emery boards and put one everywhere i tend to hang out. night stand, the bathroom, the car, living room, kitchen. Anytime i get the urge i file my nails instead. Sometimes i still bite onto the nail, but not all the way through. Good luck! " ]

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[ "How do I remove strong fragrance spilt on my hands? I noticed a fragrance pod on my dryer had leaked and I just spent the last 10 minutes wiping the front of the dryer with a damp cloth and washing the spilt liquid off the filters. The dryer should be fine as I opened the external laundry room door, chucked out the broken empty pod and the washed clothes I’m putting in for the cycle should absorb the scent gently (as intended). \n\nBut now my hands still reek of the scent and it’s absolutely sickening when it’s so strong and constant! I’ve tried washing them first with water and then a bit of soap to dissolve it (I didn’t want to add more scents) but it hasn’t worked. What should I do for the short term to reduce the strength of it as it’s giving me a headache. I’m worried whatever I touch such as my silicone phone case is absorbing the scent and it’s gonna take longer to disperse. \n\nThank you :)", "How do I remove strong fragrance spilt on my hands? I noticed a fragrance pod on my dryer had leaked and I just spent the last 10 minutes wiping the front of the dryer with a damp cloth and washing the spilt liquid off the filters. The dryer should be fine as I opened the external laundry room door, chucked out the broken empty pod and the washed clothes I’m putting in for the cycle should absorb the scent gently (as intended). \n\nBut now my hands still reek of the scent and it’s absolutely sickening when it’s so strong and constant! I’ve tried washing them first with water and then a bit of soap to dissolve it (I didn’t want to add more scents) but it hasn’t worked. What should I do for the short term to reduce the strength of it as it’s giving me a headache. I’m worried whatever I touch such as my silicone phone case is absorbing the scent and it’s gonna take longer to disperse. \n\nThank you :)", "How do I remove strong fragrance spilt on my hands? I noticed a fragrance pod on my dryer had leaked and I just spent the last 10 minutes wiping the front of the dryer with a damp cloth and washing the spilt liquid off the filters. The dryer should be fine as I opened the external laundry room door, chucked out the broken empty pod and the washed clothes I’m putting in for the cycle should absorb the scent gently (as intended). \n\nBut now my hands still reek of the scent and it’s absolutely sickening when it’s so strong and constant! I’ve tried washing them first with water and then a bit of soap to dissolve it (I didn’t want to add more scents) but it hasn’t worked. What should I do for the short term to reduce the strength of it as it’s giving me a headache. I’m worried whatever I touch such as my silicone phone case is absorbing the scent and it’s gonna take longer to disperse. \n\nThank you :)", "How do I remove strong fragrance spilt on my hands? I noticed a fragrance pod on my dryer had leaked and I just spent the last 10 minutes wiping the front of the dryer with a damp cloth and washing the spilt liquid off the filters. The dryer should be fine as I opened the external laundry room door, chucked out the broken empty pod and the washed clothes I’m putting in for the cycle should absorb the scent gently (as intended). \n\nBut now my hands still reek of the scent and it’s absolutely sickening when it’s so strong and constant! I’ve tried washing them first with water and then a bit of soap to dissolve it (I didn’t want to add more scents) but it hasn’t worked. What should I do for the short term to reduce the strength of it as it’s giving me a headache. I’m worried whatever I touch such as my silicone phone case is absorbing the scent and it’s gonna take longer to disperse. \n\nThank you :)", "How do I remove strong fragrance spilt on my hands? I noticed a fragrance pod on my dryer had leaked and I just spent the last 10 minutes wiping the front of the dryer with a damp cloth and washing the spilt liquid off the filters. The dryer should be fine as I opened the external laundry room door, chucked out the broken empty pod and the washed clothes I’m putting in for the cycle should absorb the scent gently (as intended). \n\nBut now my hands still reek of the scent and it’s absolutely sickening when it’s so strong and constant! I’ve tried washing them first with water and then a bit of soap to dissolve it (I didn’t want to add more scents) but it hasn’t worked. What should I do for the short term to reduce the strength of it as it’s giving me a headache. I’m worried whatever I touch such as my silicone phone case is absorbing the scent and it’s gonna take longer to disperse. \n\nThank you :)", "How do I remove strong fragrance spilt on my hands? I noticed a fragrance pod on my dryer had leaked and I just spent the last 10 minutes wiping the front of the dryer with a damp cloth and washing the spilt liquid off the filters. The dryer should be fine as I opened the external laundry room door, chucked out the broken empty pod and the washed clothes I’m putting in for the cycle should absorb the scent gently (as intended). \n\nBut now my hands still reek of the scent and it’s absolutely sickening when it’s so strong and constant! I’ve tried washing them first with water and then a bit of soap to dissolve it (I didn’t want to add more scents) but it hasn’t worked. What should I do for the short term to reduce the strength of it as it’s giving me a headache. I’m worried whatever I touch such as my silicone phone case is absorbing the scent and it’s gonna take longer to disperse. \n\nThank you :)", "How do I remove strong fragrance spilt on my hands? I noticed a fragrance pod on my dryer had leaked and I just spent the last 10 minutes wiping the front of the dryer with a damp cloth and washing the spilt liquid off the filters. The dryer should be fine as I opened the external laundry room door, chucked out the broken empty pod and the washed clothes I’m putting in for the cycle should absorb the scent gently (as intended). \n\nBut now my hands still reek of the scent and it’s absolutely sickening when it’s so strong and constant! I’ve tried washing them first with water and then a bit of soap to dissolve it (I didn’t want to add more scents) but it hasn’t worked. What should I do for the short term to reduce the strength of it as it’s giving me a headache. I’m worried whatever I touch such as my silicone phone case is absorbing the scent and it’s gonna take longer to disperse. \n\nThank you :)" ]

[ "Try rubbing your hands on something stainless steel (metal sink or spoon), it gets rid of the smell of garlic and onion so it might work on this as well", "Try putting a few tablespoons of baking soda and dish soap in the palm of your hand. Get a little bit of water on there and rub all over your hands. Don't forget the back of your hands and a toothbrush for under your fingernails.", "I would recommend rubbing some instant coffee (or coffee grounds) in your hands, mixed with baking soda and/or some toothpaste. Use some salt or sugar to make more of a scrubby texture if you like. Scrub it all over the effected areas and then rinse off. You may smell briefly like minty coffee but those scents won’t last. I always do this if my hands smell like garlic/onion/strong spices after cooking.", "What's the fragrance based in? If it's oil based detergent should work.\n\nIf the fragrance isn't oil based I'm not sure what would work.", "Wash your hands with cooking oil. Get someone to pour a tablespoon of vegetable oil into your hands and work it into your skin for a while, then wipe clean and wash off the residue.\n\nThis works a treat with dirty old chassis grease, the oil just floats the dirt out of the skin. Since most scent is solvent-based, oil should pick up those compounds readily and leave your hands clean and fresh.", "Update: I remembered on a camping trip years ago I had a strange smell on my hands but couldn’t wash it. I tried everything and then my friend suggested I rub my roll on deodorant on my finger tips and it made that smell vanish within seconds. \nSo despite me wanting to avoid introducing more smell I wanted to try it. It actually worked and blanketed it for the first 30 seconds and I still use the same brand as I did years ago (a Nivea Men roll on). But then the dryer pod scent overpowered it not long after so it is honestly awfully strong 🙃", "Household ammonia will help.\n\nThere is a \"recipe\" for getting skunk stink off a dog that uses dishwasher detergent, hydrogen peroxide, and baking soda.\n\nWhite vinegar may also help.\n\nFabric softeners contain wax, so you'll need soap to emulsify and disperse it.\n\nJust be careful about mixing things together so you don't create chlorine gas and kill yourself (clorox and ammonia)" ]

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[ "Things to take on a week long mountain biking. Going on a week long mountain biking, Its going to be rainy and I'm unsure what to bring", "Things to take on a week long mountain biking. Going on a week long mountain biking, Its going to be rainy and I'm unsure what to bring" ]

[ "I just got back from a week long road bike tour in California. Luckily I knew a lot of people throughout Cali, so I was able to sleep on their coaches and use their laundry. If you do not have that luxury, I would recommend a tent, sleeping bag, extra clothes, flashlight, and whatever else you would take camping. Things you must take are a bike pump, bike tools, extra bike tubes (1-3), a few CO2 wheel inflators, water, and a helmet. (make sure you know how to replace a bike tube and how to use the CO2) I am not sure if where you are going has phone connection or stores to buy food, but it wouldn't hurt to bring a phone + charger and money. \n\n I would recommend on getting a bag that attaches to the bike instead of a backpack. A backpack adds weight to your body which makes your ass hurt from sitting on the bike seats, and makes you sweat more. Get a tune up before the trip if you haven't gotten one in awhile. I also wish I brought a mp3 player, sunglasses, and sunscreen on my trip. ", "Extra socks. \n\nSocks are so very important, especially when it's wet out. \n\nYou can never pack too many socks.." ]

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[ "How can I stop being so oversensitive? Any mean thing someone does to me or says about me affects me deeply, no matter how little it is. How can I stop being oversensitive, and not care about what others say?", "How can I stop being so oversensitive? Any mean thing someone does to me or says about me affects me deeply, no matter how little it is. How can I stop being oversensitive, and not care about what others say?", "How can I stop being so oversensitive? Any mean thing someone does to me or says about me affects me deeply, no matter how little it is. How can I stop being oversensitive, and not care about what others say?", "How can I stop being so oversensitive? Any mean thing someone does to me or says about me affects me deeply, no matter how little it is. How can I stop being oversensitive, and not care about what others say?" ]

[ "You have to first feel good about yourself. These things are affecting you because you have low self esteem. ", "Yes. This is from probably the most qualified person to answer this on reddit. I used to be very sensitive and had low self-esteem. Now I am the polar opposite.\n1: BE NICE TO EVERYONE. There's a reason why this is number one. First, when you literally don't ever talk down about others, everyone else avoids talking down about you. Second, when you do rag on other people behind their backs, it invited them to rag on you. Third, you become friends with EVERYONE. This is not an exaggeration and it give you a lot of confidence.\n2: Listen to the Jocko Podcast. Trust me.\n3: Do the right thing. Be disciplined. Don't eat that piece of candy.\n4: You are here in life and have a small amount of time to enjoy it. You can be here to lose, or to win. Me? I do not care what I look like. I am here to win.\n5: Work out every day\n5: (not at all necessary) start training in Jiu Jitsu - soooo many benefits from confidence to humility to being able to protect yourself\n", "What others say is only their opinion and their reality. You don't have to accept their reality as your own. You can refuse it. Train at this long enough, and when someone says something that hurts you, that little voice that refuses will get louder and louder until it is your shield that no one can shatter. It may not feel so at this moment, but it is definitely possible :)\n\nIn the meantime, find the things about yourself that you like and begin to love these things about yourself. These things you like about yourself will multiply. When they do, begin to love the new things too. Once this self-love is deeply rooted, nothing can shake it because it will be your personal truth.\n\nBest wishes to you :)", "Oh OP, I'm like this too. \n\nI'm an incredibly sensitive person, but I've learned to do one thing that has helped. \n\nMake things neutral. You're not over-sensitive, that adds judgement. You're just sensitive, and it's okay. Removing judgement from your own experiences makes it easier for you to handle and process your emotional responses. \n\nYour reaction is what it is, and it may change over time. \n\nAlso, continue to do things that make you feel good. Do you like to draw? Keep drawing. Maybe you like running or swimming or volunteering? Keep doing those things. They'll help you ground your sense of self worth. " ]

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[ "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible.", "How to stay \"crisp\" the next day after smoking cannabis when you need to work 12 hours a day ? \\* I am not looking for medical advice \\*\n\n​\n\nI'm a software developer and I lately got sick with acute Insomnia so I'm getting medical cannabis. \n\nI'm taking it right before sleep as it really helps. I take 0.4 grams of cannabis and vape it using the mighty vaporizer on 185C. \n\nThe next day I have a brain fog. I'm not crisp at all and I find it hard to finish simple tasks that before the cannabis, I could manage doing very quickly and with a very good understanding. \n\nFor example: before I got sick I was told that I had one week to learn HTML,CSS and JavaScript and implement a certain front-end. I did it with no problems and it was fun, I had control on everything. However, last week I was told to use git with some members in my team and I tried to learn it while having this brain fog and it was hard. By hard I mean that the \"dots\" in my brain did not connect properly and it was a mess. \n\nNot only that, my memory is a mess. I need to repeat something I learn every day all over again.\n\nI quit smoking for 4 days and I almost returned to myself but could not sleep well. So if I can not sleep well it will also hurt my ability to learn but with the cannabis it much worst. \n\nI would like to get some LPT on how to reduce the brain fog if it even possible." ]

[ "I find that smoking a couple hours before bed helps clear the fog, where as smoking right before bed causes fog the next day. I'd also highly suggest a bottle of lucozade to clear the fog in the morning, I find that helps alot. But as someone else has said you need to play around with strains, some cause me to get fog some don't. Also I've never heard it being called a fog, where I am from its known as a weed-hangover, but fog sounds alot better 🤣", "Tincture at night, Indica only. Control the number of mg to balance sleep with fog. I have issues with sleeping and am also an engineer (electrical). You can't fully erase it, but you can minimize it for sure.", "Ive read theres no real difference between strains. There can be, but its purely placebo.\n\nYou can try CBD. Its derived from marijuana/hemp. I dont think it gets you high, but it is good for anxiety and insomnia.", "You need to try a different strain. Just thc by itself isn’t the only thing that works on the brain. You probably need a hybrid strain, there are tons and they all hit differently.", "Try a different strain. And I wouldn't recommend a tincture or any kind of edible like I'm seeing recommended here if a clear head the next day is what you're looking for. Any kind of edible is going to last in your system a lot longer than anything you smoke or vape. \nEach strain has its own unique terpene profile, you need to find a strain that has the terpenes for the effect you need.", "Try the same dose two hours before bed. I agree with DeadGirlTalking - you may not have the right strain. \n\nHow long have you been smoking with a therapeutic goal?", "I’ve found coding to be a nightmare if I’ve smoked in the last 3 days. Are you getting a full 8 hours of sleep? If not the weed isn’t going to make it any better.", "I'm the same. I haven't worked since March so I'm ok with the fog, but otherwise I can only smoke on the weekends", "As a daily stoner, who's been smoking 5 times a day for 5 years now, usually consume about 14Grams a day. I'd honestly say, when are you smoking it? If you smoke right before bed the fog is a lot more likely to be there when you wake up. I'd say smoke an hour before you plan to go to bed. I'd also suggest drinking a water bottle or two before bed to keep things hydrated. When you wake up, another water bottle (followed by your coffee if that's your thing) and a good breakfast to fuel you and give your tummy something to make the high and haze feel less there. \n\nAnother slightly different suggestion I might have is to eat a little bit in the time before you fall asleep after you smoke. It'll put something in your stomach, which should lessen the high and reduce the fog in the morning.\n\nThese are just personal tips and tricks :) hopefully you figure it out! Good luck!" ]

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[ " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?", " So my cardiologist wants me to drink 4L of water a day. I do not like water as it is very bland. How can I make myself drink more water?" ]

[ "Pour water into a glass, dump it down your throat. Repeat. Seriously, this is the dumbest LPT request I've ever seen. You know why water is bland? Because it's fucking water. ", "Get a water bottle, maybe one that has a really really good filter, as the water from your tap may taste better filtered.\n\nBrita seems to be good.\n\n", "I've found that drinking .5L of water when I first get up makes it easier to continue drinking more water throughout the day, for whatever reason. My mom refers to it as \"priming the pump\".\n\nAlso, get a nice reusable water bottle that you can just keep with you all day. Try plastic, glass, metal, sometimes a different container can make the water taste better. And having it with you makes it easier to absentmindedly sip some water at random intervals, you don't have to go to the kitchen or wherever and get yourself a glass of water.", "This won't work for everyone but I really like sparkling water so I got a sodastream that comes with a big bottle. I grip and sip all day nahmsayin?", "Just gotta build a habit. The taste gets enjoyable after, say, a week. Just force yourself to finish a half glass, without putting the glass down, every hour or two. Up the amount every day. When your pee turns clear, keep up your habit. You actually have to force yourself to enjoy plain water, moreso if you haven't drank much of it at all in recent history. Just realize that you aren't technically supposed to feel happy or amped up about drinking water like when you drink coffee, soda, you name it. If it has no kick ass flavor or immediate payoff, that really is okay.. ", "If it's just a matter of remembering to drink more water I'd suggest making triggers to do it. Examples: when you wake up, anytime you transition tasks, after using the bathroom, etc.\n\nIf it's getting over the taste it might help to drink only water for a while until you get used to it and accept it.", "I know that feeling, i used to hate how water is bland until I noticed that water tastes differently at different temperatures and according to the material of the cup that you use. So keep trying until you find what suits you for me that was water at room temperature and in a plastic water bottle (the disposable one)", "Buy a 1L camelbak bottle and keep it with you. Somehow the bite valve and straw and not having to tip it makes it a lot easier to down a lot. I've drunk nearly the whole 1L in one go.", "4L? Crap, that's a lot. How much do you weigh? I use an app called Water Your Body. You can adjust the settings to your body weight and it'll give you an amount of water to drink throughout the day. I weigh 230lbs-ish so I consume 3.4L a day. \n\nIt'll also give you a reminder when to drink based on hour intervals.\n\nIt helps me keep track and the reminder to drink water helps a lot! ", "keep a water bottle in front of you - at your work desk, near your kitchen, at the bedside table - basically anywhere you spend more than 30 minutes of your day. If you see water in front of you, you will start drinking it, maybe slowly at first but it will be a faster pace than not having water always conveniently and immediately available. If you dislike water, you will loathe the effort to leave the work you are doing to go and get it.", "hi what do you do on your free time? I'm an artist so I spend a lot time at a table or desk. drinking water can be a hassle when you have to get up to refill so often, so I just buy gallon jugs of water at the grocery store. I used to drink out of them but they can quickly grow bacteria and depending on the circumstance can spoil the fresh water. you can most definitely wash the jug but I found out that i could just use it to store and to drink out of it and pour water into a glass. do this and you always have a large amount of water right next to you", "You can buy little flavor packets at Walmart that are sweetened with stevia instead of the sweet tasting chemical shit in Crystal Light. Stevia is naturally calorie free and your water will be delicious. I highly recommend the tropical flavor 😉", "Realize you will die without sufficient intake, that should be enough to get over the \"bland\" taste...\n\nOn a serious note my wife is the same way, I suggest taking 20-30 mins of cardio a day just to boost your appetite for hydration, after that for a few days you should be able to train yourself to like water...or start drinking hot tea, water + flavor\n\nAs a kid I drank soda like a boss, hated water for the same reason you dislike it, but when you stop and think about how much harmful things are in most drinks it can change your drinking habits from a 2L of coke a day, to having a coke maybe once a week or so as a treat...\n\nSource: been awake for 3 hours, starting liter #2\n\n", "I started to drink more water recently, and I realized that it's easier for me when I keep a large bottle of water and regularly - like every 30 minutes if possible - fill up half a glass and drink that in one sip. To empty the glass is some kind of \"goal\". While a huge glass is hard to empty without putting it out of my hand, I prefer the half-glass-technique.\nIt has become a habit really quick and you'll get over the bland taste as well. Try using an app to remind you of drinking in case you may forget easily.", "I know what you are going through.\n\nTake your time:You dont need to drink it all at once.Just have a glass while you read,another one a few mins later,it becomes way more managable.\n\nYou can also add a bit flavour,consider adding lemon and making a delicious lemonade or even drink it as a hot cocoa.Tea is another great way to enjoy it more.", "I just chug down 16 oz solo cups of water 5 or 6 times a day. For 4L of water you need 8 a day. Make it a game for yourself like how fast can i guzzle this cup each time and it becomes routine. Plus more water = more energy... And in your case more blood volume. Good luck.", "I have a camelbak podium drink bottle with that \"jet valve\". For some reason, that valve makes it more fun to drink. ", "I can't tell when I'm dehydrate (I never 'feel' thirsty) and am not the biggest fan of plain water either. I started drinking citrus fizzy waters & now drink it all the time! I got myself a SodaStream and buy fresh limes & lemons and now I actually drink water all.the.time. ", "Funny, I wanted to make sure I started drinking more water (sometimes we just don't remember to drink enough!) because it plays a big role in making our bodies...well work like they should. I put my camelbak in my bookbag and walk around campus with it, I fill it up twice a day...I think it'd be like 3-4 times for you. Check the color of your pee, this shows your hydration status!", "Find a large reuseable cup or water bottle that has a straw. People tend to drink more when sipping through a straw all day. Also drink a full glass anytime you take medicines. Another thing that helps me is to have one large container that holds the total amount of water I need to drink for the day. I then refill my bottle with a straw. I also know I have to drink two bottles before lunch and two after plus any extra when exercising.", "Drink a ton when you first get out of bed in the morning. Your body needs hydrating after not drinking all night anyway. I usually drink between 4-5 10 oz. glasses first thing and then go work out. During/post workout I usually drink another liter or so. Then for the rest of the day I just have a glass or two with meals and one before bed.\n\nGet over the bland taste, it's for your health.", "Disclaimer: I am not a cardiologist. However, reputable Internet sites recommend 2 liters being a healthy goal. So unless you're going for something different than optimal health, 2 is fine. \n\nThat being said, water is water. It is bland, but our bodies require it. Don't put sweeteners or additives in it, these will discount the goodness you're after. Tell yourself that the taste is good as you drink it, eventually you'll believe it. Promise! \n", "Focus on the fact that you're getting this advice from a cardiologist and it is probably important. It you don't follow his advice you will remain ill or possibly die. If this isn't sufficient motivation, asking idiots like me on the internet isn't going to help. " ]

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[ "How to make new friends. This one is pretty self explanatory. I want to surround myself with people who make me feel better, and not worse. Buuuut I have NO CLUE how to make new friends as I am kind of socially awkward. Help appreciated :)", "How to make new friends. This one is pretty self explanatory. I want to surround myself with people who make me feel better, and not worse. Buuuut I have NO CLUE how to make new friends as I am kind of socially awkward. Help appreciated :)", "How to make new friends. This one is pretty self explanatory. I want to surround myself with people who make me feel better, and not worse. Buuuut I have NO CLUE how to make new friends as I am kind of socially awkward. Help appreciated :)", "How to make new friends. This one is pretty self explanatory. I want to surround myself with people who make me feel better, and not worse. Buuuut I have NO CLUE how to make new friends as I am kind of socially awkward. Help appreciated :)", "How to make new friends. This one is pretty self explanatory. I want to surround myself with people who make me feel better, and not worse. Buuuut I have NO CLUE how to make new friends as I am kind of socially awkward. Help appreciated :)" ]

[ "You: Hey, how's it going?\n\nStranger: Good\n\nYou: You like weed?\n\nStranger: Ya\n\nYou: Wanna buy some weed?\n\nStranger: Ya\n\nYou: Got a gram of some OG 420 No Scope Kush, $10\n\n*Stranger pulls out a $10 bill and hands it to You*\n\nYou: You are under arrest, anything you say can will be used against you.\n\nStranger: Damn...\n\nYou: Unless...\n\nStranger: Anything, I'll do anything!\n\nYou: Be my friend!!!!!!\n\nStranger: I'd rather be in Prison!!!!!\n\nYou: :'(", "What stage of life are you in? That makes a big difference in how and where to meet friends.\n\nIf you're in college join a campus club that interests you. Talk to people in your classes, even if it's hard at first. \n\nIf you're not in college or even if you are, there are lots of online options. Websites like MeetUp.com can show you interest groups near you. There are also travel clubs for single people looking to make friends. A buddy of mine took one for 30 year olds to Iceland and had a blast. \n\nIt's harder as we get older to meet people, but not impossible. You'll find some great people and if you don't initially, don't settle. There are a lot of wonderful people in the world who I'm sure would love to meet you.", "In terms of social interaction, I think the best way to make friends is to genuinely take in interest in what other people have to say. You can always tell when someone isn't really listening to you so much as they are waiting for a lull in the conversation to interject or talk about themselves. Don't do this. Actively take steps to let people know you are listening to them. \n\nGenerally speaking, people love talking about themselves. When I meet someone for the first time, I ask questions to get them to talk about themselves, and then ask follow up questions to let them know that I actually care about what they're saying. You don't have to be hilarious, witty, or even have common interests. In my experience, people want to be around other people that make them feel good about themselves. \n\nThe other suggestions about joining clubs and places where you meet other people with common interests are also on point. I figured I would throw my two cents in regarding actual interaction because it doesn't really matter whether you join clubs if you do not know how to make friends within said clubs. \n\nNow, this all doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna meet great friends that won't treat you like dog shit, but it will help form instant connections with people you have just met. \n\nTl;dr: Get people to talk about themselves. Give a shit about what they're saying. \n\n", "Accept invitations and invite others to do stuff. Period. You'll figure out pretty quickly who's worthy of your company, who inspires you and who you like being around. Good luck!", "I suggest finding an activity that you enjoy and joining classes in said activity. A common joy that people share makes it easier to have conversation in a group setting and will help you get more comfortable talking to people you don't know. You may find friends in this situation but more importantly you'll gain some experience in talking to people and may even get better doing the thing you like to do." ]

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[ "how to write with a girl When it comes to writing, i.e. on WhatsApp, i am the most boring person ever.\n\nI just don know how i can sound interesting when writing. In person i dont have problems at all talking with a girl so yeah..\n\nWould appreciate some tips", "how to write with a girl When it comes to writing, i.e. on WhatsApp, i am the most boring person ever.\n\nI just don know how i can sound interesting when writing. In person i dont have problems at all talking with a girl so yeah..\n\nWould appreciate some tips", "how to write with a girl When it comes to writing, i.e. on WhatsApp, i am the most boring person ever.\n\nI just don know how i can sound interesting when writing. In person i dont have problems at all talking with a girl so yeah..\n\nWould appreciate some tips" ]

[ "If you're good in person but not in print then adopt a more casual, conversational writing style.\nIf it helps try imagining she's sitting in front of you instead of texting you.", "Ask unconventional questions. Share funny things off reddit. Ask her about her day to day life. Make observations, share opinion. Make fun of Trump. That should be easy.", "If all else fails, resort to the question game. You ask a Q, then it's her turn. (Doesn't count as her Q if she wants you to answer your Q) This gets you past small talk and often times leads to interesting rabbit trails of conversation." ]

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[ "How to change workouts from evening to morning How do I become that person who works out at 5:30-6:00? \n", "How to change workouts from evening to morning How do I become that person who works out at 5:30-6:00? \n", "How to change workouts from evening to morning How do I become that person who works out at 5:30-6:00? \n", "How to change workouts from evening to morning How do I become that person who works out at 5:30-6:00? \n", "How to change workouts from evening to morning How do I become that person who works out at 5:30-6:00? \n" ]

[ "Don't wake up to work out, wake up to have cup of coffee and a bit of alone time. When you are done with that go workout because you are awake anyway.", "You have to become the person who goes to bed early. My girlfriend and I both go to the gym at 5:30ish because school/work schedules only permit that. You will never get up and have energy to workout if you don't go to bed early, which will cause your workouts to fall off and your morning routine with it. Also, adequate rest is crucial to not only good gains, but being able to push yourself.\n10:00pm bedtime at the latest. \nSource: Was a personal trainer at Gold's Gym for two years in Austin TX before law school.", "Just do it knowing the first 2-3 weeks will be tough. Especially the first week or so, in which you will probably need to wake up extra early and get some food in your system with enough time to digest before hitting the gym. It's literally a lifestyle change, and there is no easy way around it, unfortunately. ", "Get ready the night before - pack your gym bag with your work clothes, shower stuff and pick out your gym outfit.\n\nGet a morning workout buddy - it's way harder to flake on someone than it is to decide to hit snooze and flake on yourself. ;)", "Buy a Philip's Wake Up light. The price is a bit steep, but it is a game changer. \n\nYou'll wake up at the end of a sleep cycle and feel 100x better than being abruptly woken up by a normal alarm." ]

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[ "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?", "How to start and have continued use of a journal I see posts saying I should start a Journal and I do, but then I end up forgetting, or giving up or whatever. How can I continue to use it and what should I put into it?" ]

[ "Set an alarm at the same time each day when you are not busy usually and dedicate that time to writing in it. \n\nBe flexible, you do not need it to be \"dear diary today I...\" I will often fill mine with plot ideas, concept drawings, unusual or catchy phrases I heard that day or basically anything in my head that day that I want to keep a hold of but also can't use right this second. \n\nToday, my digital journal has written in it the following\n\n* \"Panic at the disco - Don't Threaten me with a good time\"\n\n* The McCollough Effect\n\n* Operation Cue\n\n* Rewatch Victoria Stilwells its me of the dog\n\nin it so far. I will neaten it up before I go to bed. ", "you simply have to sit down each morning and write down what ever comes into your head. even if its scattered and rambling. just do it and over time you'll get into it.\n\nok if you just have a tip here goes: make a bargain with yourself that you will write for no less than five minute. in time you will far exceed it.", "Do you greatly prefer typing to writing by hand? Figuring out that I am a way faster typer was the key to my journalling success. Now it's not a chore.", "Check out the bulletjournal board. I'm thinking of starting one myself, but I have the same habit as you, so this style may be less time-consuming.", "A lot of these comments are speaking about the traditional journal/dairy recapping a day's events.\n\nI found it easy to carry a journal to write down any ideas or to-do items I had throughout the day. This started from a competition of who could have the best \"Million Dollar Idea\" between friends and became a habit.\n\nYou will develop your own rules, but some of the following have worked out for me: \n\n1. If you have a good idea or new to-do item, stop what you're doing to jot it down.\n2. Don't be afraid to start a new page on any given item.\n3. Use bullet points and check them off as ideas and to-dos have been completed.\n4. When working on a project, document the steps that you have taken and the next steps. This will help you enter the same mindset when coming back to something. (*This has helped immensely*)\n5. Take time to review what you have written down from time to time. You may be surprised at all your good ideas that would have gone forgotten.\n\nAnother upside to carrying a journal with you is that its seen in a positive light. You may be viewed as organized and put together in a professional environment.\n\nFor my day to day I use the [Moleskine Lined Hardcover \\(CM 13X21, IN 5.1X8.3\\)](https://store.moleskine.com/usa/en-us/notebooks/notebooks/hard-cover-coloured-notebook/p2?ic=wwsk7w%3D%3D&vid=7). The following are also excellent brands: [Rhodia](http://rhodiapads.com/collections_boutique_dotPad.php), [Field Notes](https://fieldnotesbrand.com/), [Maruman](http://www.amazon.com/Maruman-Mnemosyne-Special-Memo-Notepad/dp/B001A1TO14), and [Midori](http://www.jetpens.com/blog/midori-travelers-notebook-a-comprehensive-guide/pt/726).\n\nAlso check out Kevin Rose's podcast episode where he looks into the best journals [here](https://soundcloud.com/the-journal/who-makes-the-best-paper-journal-geek-out-with-paper-guru) for more useful info.", "I started one when I was 17 and still do it often I am about 24 now. I don't write everyday because my life is pretty boring and re-writing the same topic even in different words is boring. Anyway I write about what I think is important things to write about in the present. Not too much about what I did or have done, rather more of thoughts and ideas. Some of it is experiences in the past and present but mostly future ideas. \n\nTIP #1\nI would recommend that you buy an appealing journal to you, one that you think to yourself that if I get this journal I would then have a desire to write in it. The black leather cover on mine makes me feel this way when I see it. Then put that thing in a place you may glance at just about everyday. Perhaps night stand, coffee table, desk, dresser, etc.\nTIP #2\nIf your trying to make an autobiography then I advise that you write the date for sure if your starting an entry for that day. I do this in a specific order to prove that it was all truth and nothing false.\nTIP #3\nI sometimes write when I am at work on a peice of paper or will or type it in a .dox file on my phone so that later I can re-write it into my journal.\nTIP #4 \nI always use pen because pencil smears. You will make mistakes but white out is a great invention.", "Most people will tell you to write every day at a certain time. I'd recommend starting off by only writing when something noteworthy happens. That way you'll be motivated to record that good memory rather than forcing yourself to scribble down a whole lot of nothing (let's not pretend that every day is worth writing about). You could even start it during a trip or event to give yourself a good start with lots of material.", "Make sure you carry it with you. Having a journal that is portable helps. Also, consider liberating some creativity by doodling in it as well as writing.", "I would recommend writing at the end of the day, in the mornings you should meeitate on the desired outcome of the current day, not to remember what you did yesterday. Put a reminder in your phone. Ive been writing a journal for a few years (not as consistent as id like (if you can do 4 days week that's good to shoot for) for as far as what tonput in it, start with a basic recollection of the days events, and as you do this, pay attention to the emotions you feel about each thing. A journal isn't so much about the physical places and things you did, but more so a record of your attitudes/beliefs/feelings and observing trends and patterns in certain emotional states over time. Its really a tool everyone should utilize, people often are in trance mode and are not verymindful of their inner self... \n \n \n \n", "Funnily enough there was a LPT about starting a journal an hour before you posted!\n\n[There was a comment about using an app called My Wonderful Days.](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4mln28/lpt_start_a_journal_not_only_does_it_help_you/d3wiinn) I haven't used it but from what I can gather, you write down your thoughts for that day and set a few stickers to show how you felt that day. When you feel down, look back to how happy you once were\n\nIn terms of remembering, you can set notifications at a certain time of the day for you to write in the app. If you feel like giving up then you aren't doing it right! It's meant to be fun! You don't have to write a lot, just keep it short and sweet!" ]

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[ "Remove broken headphone jack My laptop got knocked off of the table and the metal \"male\" end of the headphone jack broke clean off and is stuck in there so that I cant plug in any speakers. It's too small for pliers, any ideas?\n\n", "Remove broken headphone jack My laptop got knocked off of the table and the metal \"male\" end of the headphone jack broke clean off and is stuck in there so that I cant plug in any speakers. It's too small for pliers, any ideas?\n\n", "Remove broken headphone jack My laptop got knocked off of the table and the metal \"male\" end of the headphone jack broke clean off and is stuck in there so that I cant plug in any speakers. It's too small for pliers, any ideas?\n\n", "Remove broken headphone jack My laptop got knocked off of the table and the metal \"male\" end of the headphone jack broke clean off and is stuck in there so that I cant plug in any speakers. It's too small for pliers, any ideas?\n\n", "Remove broken headphone jack My laptop got knocked off of the table and the metal \"male\" end of the headphone jack broke clean off and is stuck in there so that I cant plug in any speakers. It's too small for pliers, any ideas?\n\n" ]

[ "I've done it with crazy glue before. I used a cotton swab/Q-Tip. Use a sharp knife to cut one end off just below the swab part. You want a nice clean cut without mashing the, ahem, shaft. Just dab the glue in the middle, there's a space down the middle, so it should hold the glue pretty well. Then just be careful, get it pressed on firmly and hold for at least 30 seconds. If after 30 seconds you can let go and it stays stuck to the broken piece, let it sit for another couple minutes.\n\nOnly done it once but it worked.", "use a long screw that is of a slightly smaller diameter than the 3.5mm headphone jack. slowly twist it into the broken off part. don't ever use crazy glue unless you are comfortable with totally losing the item when it spreads to places you don't want it to go.", "Two things.\n\n1. Try a strong magnet (preferably Neodymium), you might be able to just pull it out.\n\n2. Dab of hot glue on the end of a bamboo skewer, not too much or you will plug up the hole.\n\nGood luck, I was thinking crazy glue, but that could make it a lot worse if you are not very careful.\n", "My brother did this to his laptop many years ago. \n\nI ended up going to the drug store and bought a pair of nail scissors they were really small but not small enough. I then shaved down the blades as small as I could and I was able to get them in and extract the broken audio plug.\n\nHope that helps.", "really small needle nose pliers or depending how despearate, try a hard vegetable, potato, carrot or radish. cut to diameter of hole push in, twist and pull." ]

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[ "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated", "any alternative to \"The Chair\"? Where can I put used-but-usable clothes? I'm using \"The Chair\" but it gets pretty messy and is not very practical when you start using more than two trousers/t-shirts/jumpers. Any idea is appreciated" ]

[ "We have a rule. If it’s clean enough to wear again, it’s clean enough to put away where it belongs. \n\nIf not, the hamper. No exceptions.", "I keep a hanger or two on the outside doorknob of my wardrobe for this.\n\nI also keep scented dewrinkle spray for the same purpose.\n\nI pop it on the hanger give a little spritz and it's perfect. \n\nBefore I got married I had a space in my wardrobe between 2 scent sachets. I don't like to overwash my nice jeans. So after a short wear I would pop them there.\n\nNow there is less room in the wardrobe so outside it goes.\n\nAs long as you haven't resorted to the floordrobe you're fine", "I have an over the door hook rack thing that has like 5 hooks on it that I hang pants/shirts/sweaters that I plan on re-using. It works perfect for me to re-wear my not yet dirty clothes.", "For a few microseconds I pondered whether this was about capital punishment. Lol\n\nAnyway I just have a couple of hooks in the closet, I use for that. ( Ok, ok, I confess that it spills out onto a chair occasionally)", "I kept an old metal futon frame (just the ladder-like seat and back parts), stood up on end for hanging trousers and shorts to air them out between wears.\n\nShirts I just hang back up in the closet, but ones I've worn get hung to the right of the rest after wearing, so I can pull fresher ones from the left to keep a rotation going until they look/smell like they need laundering.", "I have a specific shelf in my wardrobe for these clothes. It does not take long to quickly fold and place it away. Everything needs a space and with some quick decluttering and reorganisation the space for these clothes goes from being the chair to the shelf/drawer/a hanger etc.", "I have a couple of hooks for casual clothes and for work clothes I’ll wear again, I put them on a hanger, hang them up outside the closet to air, then they get put in a separate section of the closet. I try to wear them again in a week or so, then they go into the hamper. It really helps clothing life not to over-launder. I’m now a fan of air drying too.", "Hang them in your closet. Surely you can track this, somehow.\n\nAlso, *worn but still clean*, not *used-but-usable*.", "My partner and I use one of those cheap collapsible laundry racks, the kind for air-drying clothes. When we need to dry our laundry after washing, we just temporarily put anything on the rack in the now-empty laundry bin.", "I just use the chair or desk, then reuse those clothes the next day. Repeat until you have to swap an item out. It’s only messy for when you’re not using them which is when you’re asleep pretty much", "I have one white hamper and one black hamper. Usable clothes goes in white, dirty clothes go in black.", "I have few shelves in wardrobe just for the worn clothes. The design is so that they are separated from the clean clothes.", "I have a small ikea Kalax system in the bedroom as a nightstand/ for storage. I have a fabric bin in one of the cubbies. Gently used clothing I plan to wear again goes there.", "I have a small ikea Kalax system in the bedroom as a nightstand/ for storage. I have a fabric bin in one of the cubbies. Gently used clothing I plan to wear again goes there.", "I have a divided closet, right half is washed and neatly hung with a short shelf below for clean folding stuff, the other half is empty wood-only-for-clean hangers and plastic hangers for wear-agains. Theres enough room to space the wear-agains for air circulation. I select from the wear-agains most days so it never gets even kinda full.\n\nAs most people don't have a second built in closet, perhaps a small freestanding one? I know \"leaning closet rod\" setups are cheap, or a row of knobby hooks if you don't want to mess with hangers." ]

[ 7, 7, 5, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to create a good makeshift pillow when you've tragically forgotten yours at home Staying at a friend's for a week and completely forgot my pillow. He has no spares. I know that I could buy one, but is there any way I could make a GOOD makeshift pillow for the time being?", "How to create a good makeshift pillow when you've tragically forgotten yours at home Staying at a friend's for a week and completely forgot my pillow. He has no spares. I know that I could buy one, but is there any way I could make a GOOD makeshift pillow for the time being?" ]

[ "Take a hoodie and lay it down flat on the floor. Fold in the sleeves like you were going to fold a long sleeve shirt. Fold in half from the bottom up, as in take the bottom half and pull it up to the shoulders BUT LEAVE THE HOOD ALONE. Then take the hood and pull it over your folded over hoodie. Instant pillow. ", "get a wood plane from the shed and plane heaps of shavings off some spare wood until there's enough to fill a tshirt or pillow" ]

[ 5, 2 ]

[ "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?", "How to Improve Handwriting Are there any simple tips to make my handwriting not look like a completely different language?" ]

[ "I find it rather convenient that I'm the only one who can read my handwritten notes. Automatic encryption.", "Try to write more with your shoulder muscles, rather than your hand muscles. Practice initially with large letter to get used to it, but you'll quickly find speed and control increases.\n\nI've read a few different articles, quick search on a couple for you:\n[link1](http://www.paperpenalia.com/handwriting.html)\n[link2](http://www.thehappinessmanual.com/4-steps-to-improving-your-handwriting-however-bad/)\n", "My three tips are all spread out, so I'll repeat them together:\n\n* Slow down. I felt it was counter-intuitive, but writing slowly makes a huge difference.\n\n* write with your arms. Try not to move your fingers at all. Let your shoulders and elbows do all the work.\n\n* Just keep it up. When I was practicing, I wrote *the quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog* over and over, just so every letter was being done. I'd fill up pages of that sentence.\n\nThere's a few small things you can do. Find script that you like, and mimic that. Simply choosing to write letters a specific way will help. I've never believed in slanting. No one notices. Use a pen with that writes writes easily and smoothly. A cheap pen that's half dry will never write well. My other deal is to find the blackest ink possible. The high contrast looks better than the dull gray that lame pens leave.", "My handwriting isn't great generally. However, when I teach, I write in all caps, which even though takes longer, looks much neater. Plus, it helps to get your point across when teaching. WRITING IN ALL CAPS MAKES YOUR WRITING EASIER TO READ.", "There's always /u/oldtimegentleman's /r/handwritingrepair ! He makes great videos on learning the business hand. ", "Start with trying to slant all your letters the same way. It won't look pretty right away, but it will help it look neater. Do this enough and you'll develop a consistent rhythm", "My writing is horrible. The best thing I've discovered is less grip pressure on the pen. Made a huge difference. ", "I bought a fountain pen and started learning Spencerian business style script from an online textbook. It is a big help. ", "Get a light box and some tattoo flash of fonts. Trace the lettering you enjoy and eventually you will begin to write like that normally. ", "when i was in school i figured out an easy way to make your handwriting APPEAR better. angle the page or book you are writing on by about 30 degrees. simple and, for me at least, effective.", "Something I did that is really simple, is I started writing in all caps. So all of my lowercase letters became small upper case letters. I used to get told how bad my handwriting was all the time and now I actually get compliments on it! It took a little to get my speed up but it definitely worked ", "Not sure about handwriting, but I'll tell you what I tell my band students.\n\nPractice slow to learn fast; Practice fast and learn slow.\n\nThe key concept in either case is to practice. I'm assuming you already know the fundamentals (what each letter looks like, how to use a writing utensil, etc.) so the rest is all on investing time in it if you want it to improve. ", "I used to have horrible handwriting if I wrote large letters. Writing small, to almost the point of being illegible, and then working ny way up larger helped me the most. ", "Get a fountain pen. You can get disposable ones for a few dollars.\n\nThe reason why is because they use real ink, and if you try to write your lines too close together, the ink bleeds and does not look good. You will be forced to write in a much larger \"font\".\n\nHowever, your handwriting will still look like yours.", "Basically, practice (the technique properly) makes perfect. I used to be a lefty. I trained myself to write with my right hand. I am now ambidextrous, and switch hands whenever one gets tired. I did it around middle school I think. I was watching a cartoon, took out some paper and a pen, and just started writing stuff the characters would say (I guess I wasn't creative enough to make my own story).\n\nThe main idea isn't to write something 1000 times, it is to write something properly 1000 times. Then the motions are built into your subconscious. ", "\nTaking up calligraphy will improve your everyday handwriting.\n\nTaking up something that uses your small motor skills - knitting, or embroidery, for example - will help also.", "use more of you other muscles, practice using lined paper to wright straight and gradually start not looking at the paper and see if you can stay on the line without looking" ]

[ 57, 30, 11, 6, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to be humble & honest? I seem to have hit the jackpot with the gene pool, and am naturally quite good at just about everything but sports. I've always tried to be humble and deny it when people say I'm good at things, but then it seems like I'm just lying. How do I remain humble and honest at the same time?", "How to be humble & honest? I seem to have hit the jackpot with the gene pool, and am naturally quite good at just about everything but sports. I've always tried to be humble and deny it when people say I'm good at things, but then it seems like I'm just lying. How do I remain humble and honest at the same time?" ]

[ "A high school teacher once told me: being humble is acknowledging the truth. Don't overthink it; accept the compliment and move on. \n\nTo go above and beyond: when people shine positive attention on you, make an effort to do the same for them (or do this even when they don't praise you). Seek the best in others; be generous with sincere praise. I also think this has a really positive effect on your \"internal\" humility: it helps us to realize that everyone has special gifts... life isn't a competition.", "Don't try to put yourself down to make others feel better, that will only come off as arrogant or dishonest. When someone says you're good just say \"Thank You\" or my favorite is just to joke and say \"I try.\" Then offer to help if they need it or just go about your business. If you really aren't trying to put others down then it will show that you're just an honest and humble person. " ]

[ 6, 1 ]

[ "When choosing a dog collar or bandana, what patterns/colors match dogs' coats? Do you match the color of the coat or go against it? Can you make a dog look friendly with certain colors? Does a complex coat require a simpler pattern? Maybe these are just standard fashion tips but I have no idea", "When choosing a dog collar or bandana, what patterns/colors match dogs' coats? Do you match the color of the coat or go against it? Can you make a dog look friendly with certain colors? Does a complex coat require a simpler pattern? Maybe these are just standard fashion tips but I have no idea" ]

[ "I guess it doesn't really matter, unless there's a practical reason. For example, if your dog was black, you wouldn't choose a black collar because it would be difficult to tell if it was collared from a distance.", "I always get red for my dog because her name is Scarlett so I think it's fitting. Also she's black so there's lots of contrast. I just like the idea of giving a dog a signature color too. But it's all for my benefit. The dog doesn't care and neither does any other human. " ]

[ 1, 1 ]

[ "Decluttering an email inbox filled with spam and over 3000 unread messages It's an @iCloud.com email account. It isn't mine, it's my dear old mother's email address. I can only assume she is constantly giving it out to all sorts of sites and that's why it's filled with junk.\n\nShe is also intent on keeping it, and not starting a new one.", "Decluttering an email inbox filled with spam and over 3000 unread messages It's an @iCloud.com email account. It isn't mine, it's my dear old mother's email address. I can only assume she is constantly giving it out to all sorts of sites and that's why it's filled with junk.\n\nShe is also intent on keeping it, and not starting a new one.", "Decluttering an email inbox filled with spam and over 3000 unread messages It's an @iCloud.com email account. It isn't mine, it's my dear old mother's email address. I can only assume she is constantly giving it out to all sorts of sites and that's why it's filled with junk.\n\nShe is also intent on keeping it, and not starting a new one.", "Decluttering an email inbox filled with spam and over 3000 unread messages It's an @iCloud.com email account. It isn't mine, it's my dear old mother's email address. I can only assume she is constantly giving it out to all sorts of sites and that's why it's filled with junk.\n\nShe is also intent on keeping it, and not starting a new one.", "Decluttering an email inbox filled with spam and over 3000 unread messages It's an @iCloud.com email account. It isn't mine, it's my dear old mother's email address. I can only assume she is constantly giving it out to all sorts of sites and that's why it's filled with junk.\n\nShe is also intent on keeping it, and not starting a new one." ]

[ "Find out which organizations send e-mails frequently (e.g., Kohl's, Facebook, etc), search the inbox by them, select all, and you'll delete 50+ at a time. It will dramatically speed things up.\n\nI've had to do this many times and am long overdue currently. I have a several thousand unread e-mail inbox myself.", "This was me a few weeks ago (except with 9000 unread emails) and what I did was save the emails I know I refer to in a separate folder (e.g. gym membership number), and delete absolutely everything else. \n\nThe logic was I lived my life just fine for however long without reading those emails, I can probably get on just fine never reading them. Then as new emails came in I would evaluate what the email is and either delete, unsubscribe, send to spam, or if useful categorise into another folder.\n\nI've had inbox zero for almost a month now.", "Sort by sender. Then you can mark the unwanted senders as spam, unsubscribe and delete them more easily. You can also sort by subject. ", "Primate's got you covered on actually clearing the inbox so I'll suggest something to keep it clean. \n\nDunno if icloud has \"Rule\" functionality but it can be a lifesaver. I've got my outlook email addresses to automatically sort important but routine non-actionable emails (ie 'your regular money transfer has been completed) into a separate folder. Spam emails usually get junked on arrival by marking the sender's address as 'spam'. \n\nFor the trickier spam utilizing multiple email addresses I believe you can set up a rule to junk/delete all incoming emails with certain keywords in the subject bar. Monitor the account for a few days and write down a few of the recurring words of the spam, usually something to do with \"50% off\", \"single X in your area\" or \"get a big X now\". You probably won't catch all of it but you should save your dear old mum from the worst of it. ", "A lot of good tips here, but I want to add one that helped me. When I'm sorting my emails, I move messages to designated folders, by name, project, category, etc. But I don't always have a category for everything and when I'm in the groove of clearing out, it slows me down to stop and create new folders or decide how I want to sort certain emails. So, I created a folder called \"Unsorted\", separate from my inbox where I can put such items. Once a day and always at the end of the week, I dedicate time to organizing all of my \"Unsorted\" messages. " ]

[ 10, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to prevent dry sinuses. I get really, really dry sinuses to the point where it's absolutely caked onto the inside of my nose and I can barely breathe. Any ideas on how to prevent it or temporarily improve it when it's paticularly bad?", "How to prevent dry sinuses. I get really, really dry sinuses to the point where it's absolutely caked onto the inside of my nose and I can barely breathe. Any ideas on how to prevent it or temporarily improve it when it's paticularly bad?", "How to prevent dry sinuses. I get really, really dry sinuses to the point where it's absolutely caked onto the inside of my nose and I can barely breathe. Any ideas on how to prevent it or temporarily improve it when it's paticularly bad?", "How to prevent dry sinuses. I get really, really dry sinuses to the point where it's absolutely caked onto the inside of my nose and I can barely breathe. Any ideas on how to prevent it or temporarily improve it when it's paticularly bad?", "How to prevent dry sinuses. I get really, really dry sinuses to the point where it's absolutely caked onto the inside of my nose and I can barely breathe. Any ideas on how to prevent it or temporarily improve it when it's paticularly bad?" ]

[ "My mother buys old crock pots at thrift stores and fills them with water and sets it on low. All it takes is one in the kitchen. She swears it works for her. I'd be careful to remember to fill it every day to avoid a possible fire hazard though.", "Boil water in a open pot when its stars boiling. It will start steaming then put your face over it and inhale its a bit faster then the shower method ", "Go into your bathroom, close the door, and just blast hot water out of your shower, as hot as it will go. You'll create a poor man's steam room. It isn't really a solution, but it should relieve you a bit.", "During the winter, when the dry air is bothering me, I will sleep with a damp washrag over my mouth and nose. Saline spray helps a lot as well.", "I am assuming you already considered the obvious things like humidifying your environment around you? Not just with a large console humidifier in your home, but even a small portable desktop one at work or similar?\n\nWinter is dry when the heat runs, it burns up the moisture in the air. The worse your insulation and air sealing is in your home, the dryer it gets. if its still dry, your humidifier isn't big enough and just doing your bedroom isn't enough." ]

[ 6, 6, 5, 3, 2 ]

[ "My carpet is soaked; how to dry it? My house flooded. Thankfully it didn't reach the carpet, but, uh, I tracked in quite a lot of water that way anyway. That wasn't a good decision on my part. Now it's been a week, I've put down 5 separate towels in just one wet area, and it's still soaked as ever—the towels appear to do nothing.\n\nHelp?", "My carpet is soaked; how to dry it? My house flooded. Thankfully it didn't reach the carpet, but, uh, I tracked in quite a lot of water that way anyway. That wasn't a good decision on my part. Now it's been a week, I've put down 5 separate towels in just one wet area, and it's still soaked as ever—the towels appear to do nothing.\n\nHelp?", "My carpet is soaked; how to dry it? My house flooded. Thankfully it didn't reach the carpet, but, uh, I tracked in quite a lot of water that way anyway. That wasn't a good decision on my part. Now it's been a week, I've put down 5 separate towels in just one wet area, and it's still soaked as ever—the towels appear to do nothing.\n\nHelp?", "My carpet is soaked; how to dry it? My house flooded. Thankfully it didn't reach the carpet, but, uh, I tracked in quite a lot of water that way anyway. That wasn't a good decision on my part. Now it's been a week, I've put down 5 separate towels in just one wet area, and it's still soaked as ever—the towels appear to do nothing.\n\nHelp?", "My carpet is soaked; how to dry it? My house flooded. Thankfully it didn't reach the carpet, but, uh, I tracked in quite a lot of water that way anyway. That wasn't a good decision on my part. Now it's been a week, I've put down 5 separate towels in just one wet area, and it's still soaked as ever—the towels appear to do nothing.\n\nHelp?", "My carpet is soaked; how to dry it? My house flooded. Thankfully it didn't reach the carpet, but, uh, I tracked in quite a lot of water that way anyway. That wasn't a good decision on my part. Now it's been a week, I've put down 5 separate towels in just one wet area, and it's still soaked as ever—the towels appear to do nothing.\n\nHelp?", "My carpet is soaked; how to dry it? My house flooded. Thankfully it didn't reach the carpet, but, uh, I tracked in quite a lot of water that way anyway. That wasn't a good decision on my part. Now it's been a week, I've put down 5 separate towels in just one wet area, and it's still soaked as ever—the towels appear to do nothing.\n\nHelp?" ]

[ "Step 1- rent a carpet shampooer. They usually have them at grocery stores in my area. It is a high powered wet vacuum designed for carpet. Unless the carpet is really dirty, don't actually put down shampoo, just suck up existing water.\n\nThen, run a dehumidifier, multiple fans, plus the heat or AC (depending on season) to reduce the overall humidity. \n\nHowever, if your carpet has been wet for five days, there is a very high probability that mold has set in, and it is also questionable whether the subfloor is salvageable. The shampoo rental, dehumidifier renal if you don't have one, the power to run them, all costs money, and that carpet might be headed for the dumpster anyway. Mold spores are toxic, don't keep a carpet that isn't salvageable.", "You can kiss that carpet goodbye... \n\n:(\n\nUnless of course you like to live and breath mold spores constantly! \n\nYour choice. \n\nBut if there are others in the home, especially children, you should strongly consider making the right choice for them.\n\nThis happened to me as well with a carpet I really liked... so I know it's not easy to toss out an entire carpet over what seems like a minor incident like this.", "Call a carpet cleaner ASAP for extraction services. Then put fans out and crank the heat in your house. It’s not enough to lay out towels, you have to press them to absorb the water then replace them. \n\nWhen I had water coming in my basement, I had to move furniture, pull back the carpet from the wall tack strips, shop vacuum out water for hours, then dry the carpet with fans. The pad was not salvageable. I then bought new carpet pad, laid down the dry carpet over the top, and tried to stretch it back in place. It was never the same. Eventually we replaced the flooring (after addressing the flood issue outside with new drainage). ", "If water has soaked into your pad for a week now, the pad at least will probably have to get replaced to avoid mold issues. If the pad is soaked, it’s going to be really difficult to dry it without pulling the carpet up. ", "Lasko brand floor fans, the ones with the electrical socket on the side, available at Wal-Mart, are very awesome at drying up water. Their top speed is a windstorm, blows stuff off my shelf.", "Call a carpet cleaning company, like Stanley Steamer or whatever. But if you have it done professionally it can be saved.", "Can u not lift up the carpet? Check the corners of the room. If you can lift it up yourself then dry it outside and you can super glue it back with heavy duty glue. Id do this quickly as carpets can get stains from water and go moldy and whatever is underneath the carpet may also be affected by the water. When things like this happen the last thing i do is call someone to do it for me and pay them some stupid amount. Then again your carpet may be too big to remove alone. And maybe you live in a place where drying things outside isnt doable" ]

[ 11, 5, 5, 4, 2, 2, -1 ]

[ "What are some good catch-all tactics to challenge somebody about their racist/homophobic/etc views? Specifically my ex-military dickhole of an uncle, and also my jerk-dad.", "What are some good catch-all tactics to challenge somebody about their racist/homophobic/etc views? Specifically my ex-military dickhole of an uncle, and also my jerk-dad.", "What are some good catch-all tactics to challenge somebody about their racist/homophobic/etc views? Specifically my ex-military dickhole of an uncle, and also my jerk-dad.", "What are some good catch-all tactics to challenge somebody about their racist/homophobic/etc views? Specifically my ex-military dickhole of an uncle, and also my jerk-dad.", "What are some good catch-all tactics to challenge somebody about their racist/homophobic/etc views? Specifically my ex-military dickhole of an uncle, and also my jerk-dad.", "What are some good catch-all tactics to challenge somebody about their racist/homophobic/etc views? Specifically my ex-military dickhole of an uncle, and also my jerk-dad." ]

[ "The difficulty, is that if someone is willing to believe something without reason or evidence, then you cannot use reason or evidence to persuade them. So there are no arguments or 'tricks' to use, because these people aren't willing to change their minds no matter the weight of support or infallibility of the logic.", "At one time I struggled with this problem too. I felt that if I wasn't countering every racist or sexist comment, I'd be contributing to the problem. The trouble was I wasn't very confident. \n\nI find that when people are openly racist they assume everyone around them will obviously agree with them, they feel no shame. \n\nI always say \"No, I don't agree with that at all\" if they challenge me I tell them that its not a subject I debate, its part of the way I live my life. Its so satisfying seeing them not really know what to say next, especially when there is a group. \n\nAwkward, but not for me, for them.\n\nI make my position clear and I don't have to feel I need to argue the point. Why should I? I don't have to reveal my inner most thoughts to bigots.\n\nIt makes it so much easier to openly declare your position, and shut down the argument. There is no room for negotiation, but I haven't needed to formulate and argument or use a stock pile of facts to back me up.\n\nYou can be a great example of how you are different to jerk dad and dickhole uncle. Show them their argument is beneath you to even engage in it, but at the same time living your own life according to your own belief system. \n", "Laugh at them an disengage.\n\nDue to [The Backfire Effect](https://youarenotsosmart.com/2011/06/10/the-backfire-effect/) the more sailent your argument the less effective it is.\n\nIn order to change an ego-induced position (bias) you have to make the person pay the ego for being incorrect.\n\nIt's usually not worth the effort. But if you must engage, you must make them feel humiliated by their own words if you want them to change their minds.\n\nIt's perverse. ", "Just wanted to clarify something: I'm English, and as you've probably heard lately this country is bracing itself for a wave of anti-immigration rhetoric, violent behaviour and just straight-up blatant racism. The common theme at the moment seems to be \"the only way to combat this kind of intolerance is to challenge people on it\", but I'm socially awkward and wouldn't know where to begin doing that. The idea that \"there's just no point trying\" isn't really an option at this juncture.", "You're not going to change peoples' views with a full frontal challenge. People want to be heard. If you listen, ask intelligent questions, and **graciously accept that your views are different**, you'll be better off. ", ">Specifically my ex-military dickhole of an uncle, and also my jerk-dad.\n\nJust tell them what you think of them, nothing can go wrong. " ]

[ 7, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to act when people are singing 'Happy birthday' to you? Seriously, I sit there not knowing what to do and that's visible.", "how to act when people are singing 'Happy birthday' to you? Seriously, I sit there not knowing what to do and that's visible.", "how to act when people are singing 'Happy birthday' to you? Seriously, I sit there not knowing what to do and that's visible.", "how to act when people are singing 'Happy birthday' to you? Seriously, I sit there not knowing what to do and that's visible.", "how to act when people are singing 'Happy birthday' to you? Seriously, I sit there not knowing what to do and that's visible." ]

[ "Become a backup singer to the song and add words in the gaps. \n\n\n\"Happy birthday to you!\"\n\n\n\"TO ME!?\"\n\n\nHappy birthday to you!\"\n\n\n\"AWW YEAH\"\n\n\nHappy birthday dear... \"\n\n\n\" THAT'S ME!\"\n\n\n\"Happy birthday to you!\"\n\n\n\"HOKAAAYYYY\"", "Use the time to prepare for your wish. \n\nWhen you make your wish, wish for something horrible (ie. I wish I grow up poor and alone) and then tell someone immediately -- that way it won't come true. ", "Conduct them with the nearest object that can double as a wand. Act disappointed when they miss your cues for tempo change and crescendos/decrescendos", "Why does this keep getting asked? \n\nJust smile and look around the room at the friends/family that are there to celebrate your birthday. ", "Stand and smile. You only have to fake it for 20 seconds, you'll be fine. Even a total sociopath ( not implying you are one) can fake a smile for 20 seconds." ]

[ 29, 11, 9, 3, 0 ]

[ "How to tell if your friends are treating you poorly vs it all being in your head Been struggling with this recently, wondering if I need to re-evaluate some longtime relationships, or maybe do a better job of being a good friend myself. Hard to tell if my friends might even feel the same way about me.", "How to tell if your friends are treating you poorly vs it all being in your head Been struggling with this recently, wondering if I need to re-evaluate some longtime relationships, or maybe do a better job of being a good friend myself. Hard to tell if my friends might even feel the same way about me." ]

[ "Waiting long periods of time for contact (doesn't have to be you initiating all the time). Not being let to speak/listened to/being cut off mid sentence. Oddly being left out of get togethers? Yeah drop them, quick smart.", "If you're the one initiating convos always, and trying to maintain them too while they give dry replies, it's probably them" ]

[ 10, 2 ]

[ "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.", "Other than the medical sector, which career is worth choosing that will be needed in the next 50 years? The fear of technological advancement and going unemployed made us all think about what path we should take. Which career should we choose that will be needed in the future and cannot be done by artificial intelligence? \n\nI know the medical sector, such as nurses and doctors, are always needed, and teachers could be the same.\n\nI was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code." ]

[ "Trade jobs: HVAC, Electrical, Plumbing, all too complex & situational for a machine to handle for at least the next human lifetime. Plus, theres a pretty good shortage of trades folks right now & the jobs are often union.", ">I was thinking about coding, but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.\n\nYou are oh so wrong. The AI that everyone thinks is coming is not due for another 50-100 years, if it even manifests. No AI is going to write code or think for us. Tech jobs are just as necessary as they used to be.", "Morticians, funeral home directors, mortuary makeup artists...dead people services are always in demand. \n\nProfessional organizers, especially as people shift to moving into smaller homes. I just started this as a side gig, and I'm already swamped. (Please help me!)", "Medical is a garbage field to work in, unless you enjoy being treated like a slave. Long hours, underpaid, constantly on call and in order to keep this \"great job\" you need to submit to whatever garbage big pharma is pushing that week.", "In a newspaper a few years back I read that we might not have heard of the jobs our children could have as they might not exist yet.", "Robotics, underwater welding, sustainable energy and engineering, environmental science, submarine cable architects-techs-engineering, occupational health and safety, cryogenics, radio-pathology, alternative fuel system researchers etc are also some niche categories. \n\nHave a job in a field where you are one of the few in the country at what you do. if they don’t like your job, good luck finding another one unless they want a guy from BC to fly to New Brunswick.", "Needed, or paid well? Needed = teachers, therapists, child care and elder care workers. Paid well = none of those things.", "Online security in the private sector. Technological warfare is only going to perpetuate in the coming decades. The defense sector is big business.", "100% Information Technology. Any sector but maybe networking cause it’s kinda phasing out with cloud systems but it’s 100% worth investing in the field.", "hard work never goes obsolete. \n\ntech pays well, but you gotta stay current all the time. \n\ntrades are reliable but hard to get by without working for somebody else", "Nuclear engineering: build now something that will still be around and needed in 50 years. \nPlus there's a known shortfall now.", "My suggestion is to figure out where you want to live (can be specific to a town or country, or could be as loose as \"near the sea\"), and then what kind of work can be done within that area, and then finding work that fits those categories that has unions and in general, learning how to organise with the people around you. \n\nThe issue with AI and the work is not the technological advancement, it's the capitalism that exists around AI. Being unemployed is only a problem in a world where we choose to threaten people with starvation and homelessness if they are unable or unwilling to work.\n\nWhatever sector you're going to be working in, if you are afraid of being unfairly replaced by technological advancement, then you must work together as a collective of workers to ensure that it does not happen and you get paid your worth.\n\nThe world in 50 years will be fundamentally different to the world now. I work in the video games industry. 50 years ago saw the release of Pong. The world moves fast and you cannot predict what will happen, but the future is mutable and within our collective hands. Imagine Utopia, my friend, and reach towards it with every step you take.", "With climate change HVAC is going to be huge. The pacific northwest US is seeing a huge surge of people needing to get AC for the first time.", "I would say Customer Service is probably safe because while you can reason with a person.. AI doesn't have that sort of skill yet unless it becomes more Aware.", "Help the technology advance... = job in IT. \nUndertakers/funeral ppl will always be needed = less drama than being a wedding planner \nIf you don't mind being and dealing with scum, lawyer maybe? \nPsychologist/Therapist = The generations raised by absent 'on their phone' parents gonne need some emo support.", "Electrical engineer, particularly hardware design-oriented work. Even as automation improves work at the lowest level, the creation of high-performance complex systems requires so much expertise that it’s not going away anytime soon", "Electrical Utilities. We will ALWAYS need some people to do field work and design where the electricity goes. And maintenance budget for cities gets larger as cities grows. So it's never ending work.", ">but an AI can also generate almost everything a human can generate, including code.\n\nWe use a lot of machine generated code today, but it'll be a while before an AI can convert what the human wants into code. The job today is figuring out what the humans in the business want and knowing which bits of code to generate / pull off the shelf." ]

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[ "How to get a full bath without the drains gurgling? I live in an older home with a new bathtub. I believe the drain stopper assembly may also be new, but I'm not completely sure.\n\nHere's the thing--when I take a bath, the water gurgles out the top drain and goes really low. Also, I think something may not be fitted correctly because it drains out the bottom, too. It gurgles the whole way and will eventually drain out completely.\n\nI think the drains may need to be reseated, but I'd also like to be able to take deep baths without the constant gurgle and draining of my bath water. \n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions? I've researched here, but most posts I've found were about the tub not draining.\n\nThanks! \n", "How to get a full bath without the drains gurgling? I live in an older home with a new bathtub. I believe the drain stopper assembly may also be new, but I'm not completely sure.\n\nHere's the thing--when I take a bath, the water gurgles out the top drain and goes really low. Also, I think something may not be fitted correctly because it drains out the bottom, too. It gurgles the whole way and will eventually drain out completely.\n\nI think the drains may need to be reseated, but I'd also like to be able to take deep baths without the constant gurgle and draining of my bath water. \n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions? I've researched here, but most posts I've found were about the tub not draining.\n\nThanks! \n" ]

[ "That top drain is a safety measure. If you have your bath and it hits that, it means you're filling *that* tub with too much water. But it sounds like you have no idea where it is draining, so the first step is to get a new plug, or at least fix the o-ring of the existing plug if it is a fixed or custom plug.", "After you turned the safety drain upside down, you can also buy a cover for it that suctions onto the top, again making it higher. They're $8 or so. " ]

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[ "how to finish book fast when you are checking every word you don't know? .. Which is four words a page ", "how to finish book fast when you are checking every word you don't know? .. Which is four words a page ", "how to finish book fast when you are checking every word you don't know? .. Which is four words a page ", "how to finish book fast when you are checking every word you don't know? .. Which is four words a page ", "how to finish book fast when you are checking every word you don't know? .. Which is four words a page " ]

[ "Use a tablet (Kindle, iPad) to read. They have a way to check definition in place. It'll definitely save you some time.", "Only look up the words you don't know when you are missing the meaning. Many times using the context can let you know what the author is saying. Write down the words you didn't look up and see if you were correct.", "If you're looking up four words a page you won't be finishing it fast. \n\nBut, you will be learning! \n\nWe all were like you at one point. Don't worry. Eventually the number of words per book you have to research approaches zero. The more you read, the quicker that limit is reached.\n", "It's -real- easy but it's not fast: you sit yourself down with a book and a dictionary. Every time you hit a word you don't understand you open the dictionary to see what it means.\n\n*da's boring! I don't wanna do dat!*\n\nAt first it takes a bit of getting used to and it will slow down your reading speed *reading is not a speed challenge*\n\nAfter a number of books, depending how quick / smart / interested you are, you will notice that you'll use the dictionary fewer and fewer times. At some point you won't be using the dictionary at all because you will have acquired enough language to not be needing one.\n\nIt takes a bit of humility and a willingness to read. It's very satisfying to understand you no longer need the dictionary on a daily basis to learn the language.", "Use context clues to conclude what the word means, normally within the page there's at least one clue to the true meaning.\n\nEx, Luke was ambidextrous.\n\nWell if you didn't know what this meant, you could skip looking for it immediately, and wait to see if there was a context for it.\n\nEx, Luke was ambidextrous. He used both hands to write, but had preferred activities for both. When he browsed the Internet on his laptop, he used his left for the touchpad....etc\n\nIf there is no context, such as\n\nEx, Luke was ambidextrous, which made him special among other students. He received many questions about it. /end of story\n\nThen looking it up would be a good idea. If you can make out 3/4 words or even 4/4 words per page, you may find yourself finishing a lot faster." ]

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[ "Tons of free time, moving across the country soon, want to make some money on the side I'm not in school, I don't have a job, and I'm moving to Arizona from Philadelphia (West Philadelphia, born and raised, yadda yadda yadda) for a fresh start at the beginning of next year.\n\nI have enough money in my savings to pay rent and utilities until I make the move, at which point I'll be attending college in Phoenix.\n\nI've had trouble finding a job here, which is the reason I'm making the move. At the same time, though, I would like to find some way to earn and save up some money to take with me, even if it's only the smallest amount. **To be perfectly truthful, I've got a few dollars saved up, and I want to see if I can buy a PS4 at around Christmas time, maybe sooner,** and then hopefully have at least a few hundred left prior to the trip. There's really no reason for me to just sit around when I could be potentially earning money, since I have the privilege of having more free time than most people in my situation.\n\nInstead of looking for work like I normally would be, I'm mostly preparing for the move or just lounging around. I think my free time would be best spent doing whatever I can to earn money on the side. Does anyone have any suggestions? Anything at all-- I'm willing to sell some of my possessions that I don't use (I've also heard that selling blood/plasma is a good way to get some quick cash).\n\nIf you guys have any questions that I can answer which would help you to help me, feel free to ask. Also, if there are any other subreddits I could/should post this thread, I'm definitely listening. I apologize as well if this isn't considered on-topic.\n\nThanks in advance.\n\n**", "Tons of free time, moving across the country soon, want to make some money on the side I'm not in school, I don't have a job, and I'm moving to Arizona from Philadelphia (West Philadelphia, born and raised, yadda yadda yadda) for a fresh start at the beginning of next year.\n\nI have enough money in my savings to pay rent and utilities until I make the move, at which point I'll be attending college in Phoenix.\n\nI've had trouble finding a job here, which is the reason I'm making the move. At the same time, though, I would like to find some way to earn and save up some money to take with me, even if it's only the smallest amount. **To be perfectly truthful, I've got a few dollars saved up, and I want to see if I can buy a PS4 at around Christmas time, maybe sooner,** and then hopefully have at least a few hundred left prior to the trip. There's really no reason for me to just sit around when I could be potentially earning money, since I have the privilege of having more free time than most people in my situation.\n\nInstead of looking for work like I normally would be, I'm mostly preparing for the move or just lounging around. I think my free time would be best spent doing whatever I can to earn money on the side. Does anyone have any suggestions? Anything at all-- I'm willing to sell some of my possessions that I don't use (I've also heard that selling blood/plasma is a good way to get some quick cash).\n\nIf you guys have any questions that I can answer which would help you to help me, feel free to ask. Also, if there are any other subreddits I could/should post this thread, I'm definitely listening. I apologize as well if this isn't considered on-topic.\n\nThanks in advance.\n\n**", "Tons of free time, moving across the country soon, want to make some money on the side I'm not in school, I don't have a job, and I'm moving to Arizona from Philadelphia (West Philadelphia, born and raised, yadda yadda yadda) for a fresh start at the beginning of next year.\n\nI have enough money in my savings to pay rent and utilities until I make the move, at which point I'll be attending college in Phoenix.\n\nI've had trouble finding a job here, which is the reason I'm making the move. At the same time, though, I would like to find some way to earn and save up some money to take with me, even if it's only the smallest amount. **To be perfectly truthful, I've got a few dollars saved up, and I want to see if I can buy a PS4 at around Christmas time, maybe sooner,** and then hopefully have at least a few hundred left prior to the trip. There's really no reason for me to just sit around when I could be potentially earning money, since I have the privilege of having more free time than most people in my situation.\n\nInstead of looking for work like I normally would be, I'm mostly preparing for the move or just lounging around. I think my free time would be best spent doing whatever I can to earn money on the side. Does anyone have any suggestions? Anything at all-- I'm willing to sell some of my possessions that I don't use (I've also heard that selling blood/plasma is a good way to get some quick cash).\n\nIf you guys have any questions that I can answer which would help you to help me, feel free to ask. Also, if there are any other subreddits I could/should post this thread, I'm definitely listening. I apologize as well if this isn't considered on-topic.\n\nThanks in advance.\n\n**" ]

[ "You can sell circuit boards for scrap in most places. Just at any old scrap metal place. It's not much for each (only like 20 cents?) but it adds up if you have tons. \nFor that matter scrap metal is sometimes profitable. Some people laugh like it's dumpster diving but your helping the environment and making money at the same time. Look around construction sites and such places because there is a ton of waste and no one recycles. Just stick to the dumpsters, don't steal. Aluminum is one of the less paying metals but a trunk full still got me $60. Wiring is metal too. If you find copper that shit is gold so grab it. You can easily find a list of what they take and then just keep your eyes out. You don't need to be a dumpster crawler just keep your eyes out in garbage day. Search kijiji or Craig's list for people looking to get rid of anything metal and then get pad to pick it up and then get paid again to drop it off (or take it for free). Catalytic converter is $180 cash in your pocket where I live. Again, don't become a thief. People throw out an amazing amount of shit that's worth money. \n\nWow what a tangent. \nAlso I worked as a contractor and my company didn't recycle, so I did. I'm not a crazy person. *crazy eyes*. \n\nYou could also just do odd jobs. Mowing lawns or the such. Find what I call \"rich lazy people\" and then do all the really easy things they want to pay people to do. Mow lawns, clean pools, clear snow, etc. you can make a killing. I know someone who just walked down the street once in the winter with a ladder and a shovel and offered to clear off people's roofs for $50. He made $1250 that day. Read: Rich Lazy People. Just get inventive. \n\nIf you have free time you have the opportunity to get creative and take chances. Nothin too loose right? ", "The Art of Manliness posted this manly article about side hustle jobs [here](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/08/15/be-your-own-boss-37-side-hustle-ideas/)", "If the area you are moving to is relatively affluent you can make good money just doing odd jobs. Elderly people with money who are no longer able to get up on ladders. \n\nPrint up some flyers. Offer the first half hour for free. Be on time or a few minutes early and CLEAN UP AFTER YOUR SELF. If you do these two things you will be recognized as better than 80% of tradesmen. Buy tools as you need them. " ]

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[ "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice ", "What is something you wish you did or knew when you were 17 Today's my 17th birthday and I was wondering if anyone has any life advice " ]

[ "- He/she is probably not the one, so don't fall heavily for them. Dating at that age should be about having fun and learning the social aspects of dating for later in life.\n\n- Be smart about what you want to do after high school. Do research on what fields need people and find something you want to do and find affordable education for it. Don't be that guy that wants relief from his student loan debts because he spent over $100k on an art degree and can't find a job. If you're interested in a liberal arts subject, consider making that your minor instead of your major, or doing a double major with something else.\n", "I wish I'd realized that hard work toward my goals is preferable to coasting on natural talents. \n\nIn college a choir director told us, you guys are very talented, or else you wouldn't be here. It seemed like a compliment until she said, \"Talent is pretty cute when you're five years old.\" I wish I'd gotten that message much sooner. ", "Think about who you want to be when you meet the love of your life, and make yourself into that person. \n\nJournal. Even if it's just periodically. You will soon forget what it's like to be 17, and what your life was like then. Writing helps you figure out what you're feeling and is a time capsule for you to look back on in the future.\n\nStudy something difficult in college. I took an easy major and regret it. \n\nExperience as much of the world as you can. Adventure. After college I joined the Peace Corps and that was the best decision I ever made. ", "Try new things! Look for that thing that is your passion, the thing that fires you up, the thing that you think about even when you're doing something fun. Keep trying new things until you find it - things that you don't think you'll like, things that scare you, random wierd things, try them all. Once you have found your thing, configure your life around doing that one thing as much as possible - and everything else will fall into place. \n\nWhen I was 17 and for s long time after I did things thst I was \"supposed\" to do and thought that the things I want to do were for after that other stuff is all done (that leaves weekends after chores/errands are done - boring and lame). I ended up leaving the crazy money crazy hours corporate job (that I worked hard to even get) after realizing I wasn't happy. I got other jobs, less money but more free time and less stress for me. When I turned 30 I really started trying new things - if it scared me, I gave it a try. When I found my thing, everything shifted. I rearranged my schedule so I could pursue it and pushed as hard as I could to be able to work in the business and am now 3 years in as a full timer. It's amazing!\n\nMy point is: the mundane stuff will always be there. The bills, car maintenance, laundry, date nights, vacations, family/relationship stuff, moving, blahblahblah - everyone has those. Once you find the thing that fuels you and set a goal in that area, all the little stuff becomes easier because it adds up to you getting to do what you like the most. My only regret is that I didn't start looking sooner. So start!", "1) Advice is just advice. Use it to make an educated decision, but never let it tip you too far in either direction. You know you better than anyone. I have personally let my mom talk me out of college at 18 and friends talk me into a relationship (with a very nice guy actually) when I was happy single. Both weren't what I wanted at the time and I wish I stuck to my guns. I had good reasons for wanting to go to college and not dating. \n\n2) At a new job or in classes. ASK QUESTIONS! it WILL save you time and energy. It takes practice. But it is the most rewarding quality you will ever develop. You will learn more, I promise. \n\n3) Unpopular opinion, but something I'm passionate about. I regret SOME of the sex I had because I got attached. Have casual sex or none at all until your ready to commit. \n\n\n3) TRY NEW THINGS! Most importantly, things that you want to be better at. \nYou know those funny memes people make about how awkward they are with the opposite sex or how good they are at procrastinating? Those memes are just for a giggle, because we all can relate on some level. They should not make you think that being awkward and lazy are desirable qualities. Work on these issues now. \n\nP. S\nI am super awkward. Not hating on awkward people. But I'm sure we'd all love to be a bit less tackles at times. \n\n4) reread number 1 if you don't think these tips aren't helpful ;) \n\n\n", "If you're heading to college, join all the clubs and make all the friends you can. You can totally be an introvert, but do your best to make any relationships you encounter meaningful. If you're dating, don't stay with that one person all the time. Go out as a group with other colleagues. \n\nThis is the age to experiment and find out what you want to do in life. Just try new things and discover your passion. Of course work hard and eat healthy, but the next few years will be short, so make the best of it. You can make mistakes now. In future, it won't be so easy to fix them!", "Don't settle down. If it's meant to be you guys will meet again. \nNever make a relationship more important than your education and work. \nMake a pact with yourself to wait with kids until at least couple years after trade school or college.\nNever start drinking or smoking nothing good ever comes out of it and it's a PITA to quit.\nThe best protection against addiction is a great life and goals you are passionate about. ", "Your body is at a very prime time! Injuries heal and you're flexible and your metabolism is forgiving. Pick some sports you enjoy and make it a habit. The last thing 30 year old you needs to do is to lose 30 lbs. \nDevelop a skill you can milk forever and will always be in demand. Programming is probably the one that pays disproportionately well.\nBe smart about money and save. Don't spend money you don't own. \nHave fun and take lots of trips. Explore. Don't settle in a city, a relationship, a career, or a group of friends. Humans thrive off novelty.\nDon't accumulate shit. Shit is hard to get rid of.\nTake risks.\nDon't go to college if you can get a job without it. Online courses, self teaching, and bootcamps work pretty well sometimes. After your first job most jobs will care much more about your experience not your pedigree (of course not applicable to university professor of medicine)\nDon't move in with your SO unless you are seriously considering marrying them.", "Don't get a job in retail or customer service if your dream career involves dealing with people. Retail and CS are soul crushing experiences that can build cynicism in a person and ruin your perspective forever. \n\n", "Act how you want others to view you.\n\nOn your own? You can do anything you want. Lounge about. Touch yourself. Eat too much.\n\nWhen others are around. Act as you want to be seen. \n\nWant people to think your generous? \nOffer to buy the first round often.\n\nThoughtful?\nTake mental notes of what people get excited about and make a note of it in a book. (You will become an incredible gifter doing this)\n\nReliable?\nDon't make plans you may cancel on. Only agree to things you will always turn upto.\n\nEveryone will think these things of you even if you know they aren't technically true. \n\n\nAlso. Wear sunscreen. \n\n", "The relationship I was in was actually extremely important and I should have put in the effort instead of fucking around with other friends. Only regret I have. ", "Do things that scare you. Ask someone out. Ask for the job interview. Ask for advice from people who intimidate you-- by starting with \"I'm intimidated, so I want to get to know you better.\" Dance at the club. Dance in the street if the music is right. \n\nAlso, Learn to understand inherent racism-- all white people have it even when we're actively trying not to. ", "This is the last time you can legally have sex with 17 year old women. \n\nSorry if this is crude, but some young women are very hot. In a year you won't be able to even legally look at *pictures* of them.", "Make sure you really work your ass off & network at ANY jobs/ internships. Every job I've gotten I've had great connections & references and it goes so far. When I was 17 I was working retail & going to school. I worked my ass off at that part time retail job through college and was able to turn it into my first real corporate position (promotion from store/ retail level to position in the corporate office). I was able to move to another company & better job through a person I was connected with from my first job. Never ever underestimate the power of networking & don't be afraid to take advantage of contacts you make.", "It isn't too late to learn stuff, even if you see kids a few years younger much better than you. I all but gave up skateboarding as some 13 year olds were tearing the place up. Looking back I was only 17! I could have just carried on doing my thing. Same with the guitar, French lessons, the list goes on.\n\nAlso you have to start putting a lot more of your own work into studying than before. ", "I would tell myself to:\n\nStay informed on my student loans (and not ignore them after college). \n\nNot waste my time, energy, and heart on boyfriends who were obviously not good for me. \n\nAnd what I DID do, and would advise you to do too:\n\nFollow your passions and explore your interests. The road is rarely a straight one when pursuing your goals; you may veer off to the side here and there and discover new interests or facets of yourself. This is not a failure; it is an expansion of your repertoire.\n\n", "Aim for $250,000 pre-tax a year, it is easily accomplishable.\n\nThe tax code is simple, and paying all of what they say you should is a fools game. Not paying all of it is legal 99% of the time.\n\nDisrespect people who aren't in the gifted program", "-Realize no-one really owes you anything, most people don't care too much about you apart from what you can offer them. Taking reponsibility for your decisions will make you stronger. Not saying people don't care at all, but maybe look at from the view of the Einstein quote; \"Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.\"\n\n-Join as may clubs as you can, sports, adventure activities, music. This is what I'm doing now, but I would have been much better at them by now if I'd started at 17 haha.\n\n-Don't worry too much about finding exactly what you want to do with your life. If you know great, but if not travel, live in different cities or countries, work in a bar or somewhere with a lot of other young people working with you, they'll usually good socially. No-one really expects people to start a serious career until the mid-twenties, although on the other hand the more you can do towards a goal now the further you'll be by age 30 for example.\n" ]

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[ "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?", "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?", "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?", "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?", "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?", "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?", "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?", "Time management in adult life (married) To make it short. Me and my wife are both working young adults(sub 30) and we both have a ton of interests. Studying languages, going to school/working on certs all while we work a full job.We also have our own apartment to clean/take care of. How do you guys manage your time to make it feel like a fulfilling life and not feel \"time-starved\"?" ]

[ "Plan weekends specifically to stay in and do nothing. \n\nGo out to see a movie, get lunch, wonder your closest IKEA, whatever, but the important part is not having anywhere to be the whole day.\n\n", "Re cleaning: One room at a time. Unless you're the type who leaves the cereal bowl on the nightstand/end table, there's no way your apartment gets that messy that quickly. You don't have to clean the whole thing every week.\n\n\"Going out\" is NOT as important as simply being together. The best moments together are usually not the ones you plan.\n\nDon't make the mistake of believing that a pet or kids will do anything other than add stress. I say that as a father of 3, and a dog owner.\n\nLose most of your \"ton of interests\". Not that you can't experience some of those interests with each other, but you need to know you can just be together not always doing something, or you will grow apart.", "It's all about identifying and eliminating those little stretches of wasted time. Half an hour on Facebook? Thirty minutes trying to track down the name of that song you heard in a commercial? Separate trips to various places (grocery, drugstore, cleaners, post office) when some organizing could have made one trip out of it? \nIt's fine if those activities are ones that you enjoy and want to prioritize, but if you are cramped for time then you have to make choices. \nIt's more about organization and priorities than anything else. ", "First off... you have way more time than you let on - we all do. Second, keep in mind - jack of all trades, master of none. The old adage, anything worth doing is worth doing well holds true. Take learning languages... if you dabble at it - you'll never learn it. Commit to studying one single language for 3 years and learn it well. Find a group that meets and speaks in that language and hang out with them one day a week to practice. Don't start learning german, start learning spanish, start learning french, etc... you'll never learn any of them.\n\nSecond, treat your time like money - I hate this analogy because once you become enlightened, money is of no importance, but since most of human society isn't like that - treat each 15 minute block as currency and figure how much you make and how much you can afford to spend on education/leisure/skills/work/etc. Everyone has 24 hours a day to spend - we need to eat, sleep, and drink to live: Aside from that, your time is up to you to do with it as you please.", "Find the thing that you love to do the most.\nFind some time for it** (what suits you: 1 hr/day, 3hr/week,...)\n**Do it**\n\nYou will feel that you are spending your time much better. \nHas been working for me. :)", "Figure out what you have time for, and also figure out what makes you each happy.\n\nFor example: I spent last month working 80 hours/week in the ICU, waking up every morning at 4:45 AM, and I only had 4 days off all month. (Work is slightly better now, but it had to happen.) Before I started that month, someone told me, \"You'll basically have time for one thing at the end of the day, and then you'll have to go to sleep.\" For her, she would go for a run with her dog at the end of every day, then quickly eat leftovers and go to sleep. No extensive cooking, no group get-togethers with friends, no learning foreign languages at night. It was survival mode, and she knew what would keep her sane.\n\nFor my month, I usually wanted to take a walk at the end of the day with my husband. It let me see some sunlight, talk about my day, and feel like I got a little physical activity in. Every now and then we'd change it up and go to the gym, or see a friend, depending on what we needed most to stay sane. Those were the things that made us happiest and we're most necessary that month. I tried doing more things and losing sleep, and it went very poorly and resulted in me crying at work. So know your limits, get sleep, decide how many \"things\" you have time for at the end of the day, figure out whether you can do any of them together, and get to it!\n\nOur apartment did suffer in terms of organization, but we fixed it up on my days off. When you're in survival mode and super-busy, you have to choose your priorities. It's not always worth it to have a spotless apartment.", "We use an app called TimeTree to calendar our respective appointments and obligations. I'll throw a \"date night\" in there every other Friday or Saturday so that its on the books. \n\nI use to-do lists pretty much every day. Even if they are things that I will remember to do, just seeing how much I need to get done and then subsequently crossing each item off feels so rewarding and helps me keep on track with my time for the evening", "Longer you are married the more you appreciate doing things separately. Generally, the younger the marriage, the more time people want to spend together. As you grow in your relationship, you realize you don't need to be attached at the hip. \n\nYou still should have common ground on interest, but its healthy to have interest separate from your spouse as well.\n\nAlso, while you are still in school, don't expect time for much else outside work, school and a relationship." ]

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[ "How to have a bigger perspective of the world I feel like I've lost my perspective of the world with a lot of the shit going on in my life. I feel like I can't listen to people and I'm losing understanding of people's situations because I'm so encumbered with my own.", "How to have a bigger perspective of the world I feel like I've lost my perspective of the world with a lot of the shit going on in my life. I feel like I can't listen to people and I'm losing understanding of people's situations because I'm so encumbered with my own.", "How to have a bigger perspective of the world I feel like I've lost my perspective of the world with a lot of the shit going on in my life. I feel like I can't listen to people and I'm losing understanding of people's situations because I'm so encumbered with my own.", "How to have a bigger perspective of the world I feel like I've lost my perspective of the world with a lot of the shit going on in my life. I feel like I can't listen to people and I'm losing understanding of people's situations because I'm so encumbered with my own.", "How to have a bigger perspective of the world I feel like I've lost my perspective of the world with a lot of the shit going on in my life. I feel like I can't listen to people and I'm losing understanding of people's situations because I'm so encumbered with my own.", "How to have a bigger perspective of the world I feel like I've lost my perspective of the world with a lot of the shit going on in my life. I feel like I can't listen to people and I'm losing understanding of people's situations because I'm so encumbered with my own." ]

[ "M", "I'm a Trans woman. My super power is making people's worlds bigger. Here is how I do it - I exist. \n\nSeveral times a week I encounter someone who has never seen a real live Trans woman before. The looks are precious. The big eyes. The double takes. The staring. The occasional pointing - they are all results of someone's world being forced to grow to fit me into it. \n\nI can't come hang out with you (sorry I have shit to do). But what you CAN do is go and seek out people who are not like you. \n\nQueer events, feminist events, Latino festivals, Asian festivals. Republican conventions, NRA meetings. Biker bars, Film festivals... Whatever you haven't experienced before - go do it. You don't have to agree, but go and experience something outside of what you are used to. \n\nWhen you run out of folks not like you, go sky diving. Learn to scuba. Learn to weld. Swim. Weightlifting. Photography. Everything. \n\nThen travel to foreign places. Eat weird food. \n\nDo it ALL.", "Everyone's life is as rich as yours. Perspective comes from being open. Remember your opinions, ideas etc.. are castles made of sand. ", "3 ways - one is physical, one is mental, and for lack of a better word, the \"spiritual\" way.'\n\n\n **Physical**: take a freezing cold shower, even 10 seconds. It will electrically reset you. Zen masters and Russian special forces use this technique to build both physical stamina and mental clarity. Google the health benefits, it'll blow your mind. It sucks, but it's very, very effective and it's very FAST. \n\n**Mental**: Read. Read voraciously. Read EVERYTHING - shitty pulp novels you can tear through real quick, science books, magazines. Read stuff you're curious about, and read stuff you hate. Go to the library and just get 10 books, all different kind of stuff. Biographies. Travel books. Art books. Some libraries let you check out up to 50 books at a time. Just haul in a huge take, open books at random and read a page here, a paragraph there. Keep books everywhere, in the bathroom, in a backpack. Keep peeking into them. It's like trying on someone else's brain. This is the \"medium effort\" technique, really a habit that will get you thinking in very new ways. \n\n\nAnd the final, most powerful technique: use the [**unlimited money technique**](https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/3st6tj/what_would_you_do_with_5_hours_per_day_of_sitting/cx0e0cd). Grab a clean sheet of paper and just go all-out, anything you would do if you had unlimited money. Do this exercise at least 10 times this month. You'll be AMAZED at how much you change. This is literally creating new associations in your brain every time you do it - it unleashes your imagination and your ability to create, it sharpens your decision-making ability, and it will enable you to think expansively. I'm writing an entire book on this technique. Nothing I've found will expand you more than doing that. Just make it part of your routine, devote 20 minutes to it after you brush your teeth at night, sleep with a yellow legal pad and hit it right when you wake up when your brain is in alpha... I promise you, the changes will blow your mind. ", "travel. you'll learn just how similar most of us are, as well as how different cultures work...it'll give you frame of reference to point out the strengths and weaknesses of your personal world.\n\nif you can't afford to travel, volunteer somewhere (or get paid) where you're forced to encounter a lot of different types of people.", "I feel like people are always quick to hand out some \"hippy dippy bullshit spiritual journey\" type answers.\nI find that the best way to gain perspective on how lucky you are is to travel. Go to a poor, polluted, corrupt country and just observe how people can thrive. Don't allow yourself to create a comfort zone and you'll always be comfortable. \n\nThis planet will throw a lot of shot your way, but you'll always get through it. Always.\n\nAlso, eat well, exercise and work hard." ]

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[ "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? ", "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? ", "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? ", "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? ", "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? ", "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? ", "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? ", "I broke my dominant arm, what are some ways to do everyday tasks easier for me? My right (dominant) arm is in a cast after I broke my radius. Today I was in tears because I can barely do anything without needing help from others. Putting in earrings, showering, putting clothes on, make-up, brushing my teeth, putting my hair in a ponytail, cleaning my contacts, etc, etc. I feel so useless and dependent. Is there any way to do these easier with one arm? " ]

[ "I'm sorry you're not getting many helpful answers, and I'm not sure you'll like my suggestions either. \n\nOne idea is to check out FAQ pages for new amputees; maybe a VA site. \n\nThe other idea is to look at ways of simplifying your grooming routine temporarily. You can get a pixie cut for your hair, wear glasses instead of contacts, leave some stud earrings in or go without. Good luck!", "What you really need is someone in here who has lost an arm to give you advice. When you are through this, you will be much stronger with your left hand though. \n\nOnly thing I can think of is to use your teeth to hold things and to help hold things in place.", "There is not much you can do that I am aware of. But I can tell you from my psychology background that within time you will get better at using your left hand.\n\nBasically your brain has all these connections formed on how to do things a certain way. It is what makes things just \"feel\" right. Unfortunately for your off hand it doesn't have nearly as many of those connections. But the brain will adapt with repeated use. \n\nIf you have ever tried to play piano you know what I am talking about. When you first start the easiest things are so difficult. And all you can think about is how you feel that you SHOULD be able to do something on it, but just can't. But after some time you are able to do those things, and you find that even though you learned it for one song, learning a similar pattern is a lot easier in another song. Your brain just needed some time to form those connections of \"oh! I can move my fingers independently from eachother... I never realized that!\".\n\nSo really, it's annoying. But you WILL get better at it. People also tend to be quite understanding if you are having difficulty, so don't feel TOO bad. You got this!", "Once I could not use my right hand (cut my palm, got a scar too)... So my advice: \nThink about the whole movement. Try to mirror every aspects - not just the hand/arm part - and just do it same way as you would with the right arm. \nYou will be better with your left soon! Good luck!", "I've broken my right arm 3 times (im left handed) and my left arm once. There is really no easy way but I looked at it as an opportunity to become ambidextrous! just power through, and it all becomes easier. I promise.", "I only have the use of one arm, so I can probably help you here. \n\nEarrings: Wear only hook earrings. Anything that has a back on it is impossible with one hand. \n\nShowering: Get a louffa, preferably one on a stick so you can reach your back. Get shampoo with a pump bottle as you can push it down with your thumb and catch it with your hand. Bar soap > than shower gel.\n\nClothes: Buttons and zips will be a challenge, but I can attest to the fact that they are doable with one hand. Wear only things that fit you well as stretching waistbands to fasten will be really challenging now. \n \nMake-up: I can't think of why make-up with one hand would be challenging, but that may be because I've only ever used one hand. What in particular are you struggling with?\n\nBrushing teeth: I can't think of a solution for getting the toothpaste on the brush, sorry. I use my bad hand to hold the toothbrush.\n\nPonytail: Not possible with one hand. Embrace wearing your hair down. I cut mine short. I also have a nifty round hair dryer which allows me to use only the drying hand, without a brush to help. [looks like this](http://www.beautychoice.com/images/products/preview/ht-1073.jpg)\nContacts: I used to use contacts, I put the lens on the back of my bad hand, squirt the cleaning solution on, and rub. It's not the ideal solution, but it worked for a couple years. Ultimately it was too much hassle and I switched to glasses. \n\nI'm happy to give any other advice on things your struggling with! This is definitely an area of expertise I don't share with many other people.", "Although this is not very relevant to your request, in the end, when your arm is healed, you will feel very blessed that you can function without relying on others. After breaking my foot and not being able to walk, you look after the fact and honor those who can't.", "Not the best tip but keep that thing dry! Within the first few weeks of my cast it got wet and started to stink pretty early -.-" ]

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[ "How to complete the projects I begin I'm great at starting projects but terrible at finishing just about anything. What's your secret to self-motivation? Currently sitting on 2 unreleased albums of finished music, that I simply haven't put out, among other things.", "How to complete the projects I begin I'm great at starting projects but terrible at finishing just about anything. What's your secret to self-motivation? Currently sitting on 2 unreleased albums of finished music, that I simply haven't put out, among other things.", "How to complete the projects I begin I'm great at starting projects but terrible at finishing just about anything. What's your secret to self-motivation? Currently sitting on 2 unreleased albums of finished music, that I simply haven't put out, among other things.", "How to complete the projects I begin I'm great at starting projects but terrible at finishing just about anything. What's your secret to self-motivation? Currently sitting on 2 unreleased albums of finished music, that I simply haven't put out, among other things." ]

[ "Sounds less like a motivation problem, more of a fear of potential failure. With your music, it’s worth taking a look at what’s really holding you back from releasing your finished work? Not having time? Not knowing how? Or is it a fear of how others may react to it? Not knowing whether it will be a huge success or a grand failure, and only being able to getting that feedback in a very public forum?\n\nConsider asking yourself “what’s the worst that could happen?” If people don’t like your music, so what? Are you making it to please others or yourself? There will be SOME people who will like it, no matter what, even if it’s only 1 other person. You have to decide why you’re doing your projects, for yourself or for “likes”?", "Find a mentor you can meet with for 15 min every other week. Tell them what projects you have and get their feedback on next steps. Then tell them what you want to accomplish in the next 2 weeks when you meet again. That will hold you accountable to deliver results because you will not want to come back empty handed. Shame is a powerful motivator. ", "Quietly put out some (all?) of the tracks for free to select groups of people. Others showing interest should give you the push you need.", "I get myself an accountabilibuddy. In my social circle, we have a once/month evening meeting called \"DIY Night\" where we all bring whatever portable projects we are working on to someone's house and co-work on our projects. Just having other warm bodies nearby can be very helpful.\n\nAnd what if our project isn't portable? Well, then we host!" ]

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[ "How to Minimize High Heel Pain? Sometimes, as a woman, I need to wear high heels, but they can seriously hurt sometimes! Any advice on how to minimize the pain in the balls of my feet? ", "How to Minimize High Heel Pain? Sometimes, as a woman, I need to wear high heels, but they can seriously hurt sometimes! Any advice on how to minimize the pain in the balls of my feet? ", "How to Minimize High Heel Pain? Sometimes, as a woman, I need to wear high heels, but they can seriously hurt sometimes! Any advice on how to minimize the pain in the balls of my feet? ", "How to Minimize High Heel Pain? Sometimes, as a woman, I need to wear high heels, but they can seriously hurt sometimes! Any advice on how to minimize the pain in the balls of my feet? ", "How to Minimize High Heel Pain? Sometimes, as a woman, I need to wear high heels, but they can seriously hurt sometimes! Any advice on how to minimize the pain in the balls of my feet? ", "How to Minimize High Heel Pain? Sometimes, as a woman, I need to wear high heels, but they can seriously hurt sometimes! Any advice on how to minimize the pain in the balls of my feet? " ]

[ "Wear a chunkier heel, not stiletto. If appropriate, substitute for a wedge. That will take a lot of pressure off of the ball of your feet. Otherwise, get a dr scholl's insert and keep some flats in your purse. God speed. ", "Do you need to buy \"high\" heels, or just heels? A couple of inches versus 6 inches can make a huge difference in comfort.\n\nFind a brand of heel that is comfortable to you, and then buy more pairs from that brand. I have a pair of [LifeStride](http://www.lifestride.com/en-US/Womens/_/_/Dress+Shoes/_/Products.aspx) pumps that are the most comfortable heels I own. I want them in every color they come in.", "There is a lady on YouTube that talks all about learning how to walk in high heels. \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vHTNldZ9z4c\n\nThe take-home message is you have to work up to it-- Start with heels that, when you wear them, you can lift both heels an extra inch (ie, you shouldn't already be on your maximal tippy toes). \n\nKnow your feet. I have a wide toe box so I need to wear heels that have some type of elastic in the toe-- peep toes work great for me, those pointy elf shoes that were popular a few years ago do not work for me at all.\n\nI have an inkling that the more expensive the shoe is, the better off you will be-- there will be padding in the shoe to support your walking. Heels should make a solid sound when walking, not a hollow plasticky sound", "okay okay okay, so I am a lover of ridiculously high heels, my feet used to get so sore so fast until a drama teacher of mine showed me the light.\nSO the secret lies in your weight distribution, you need to rock your weight back onto your heels, so that you are not putting the majority of your pressure on the balls of your feet. Try to imagine standing inline with the heel itself with a straight back and head up high. It takes a second or two to figure out but it makes a world of difference.\n\nHope this helps :)", "There are lots of creepy redditors with afoot fetish that are going to PM the OP and offer her a massage.", "I find that sling-backs are always more comfortable than closed heels so if you can pull those off (e.g. dress code and weather permit) try those... especially if they have a bit of a platform at the toe.\n" ]

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[ "How do I make myself cry? I had one today spontaneously upon waking up and it felt so good. I still feel great. It was my first in a couple years and I want to get into the habit of doing it semi-regularly. Any tips?", "How do I make myself cry? I had one today spontaneously upon waking up and it felt so good. I still feel great. It was my first in a couple years and I want to get into the habit of doing it semi-regularly. Any tips?", "How do I make myself cry? I had one today spontaneously upon waking up and it felt so good. I still feel great. It was my first in a couple years and I want to get into the habit of doing it semi-regularly. Any tips?" ]

[ "It's all about breathing. Think about how you breathe when you cry. Do that. It will come. It may take some training but if you focus on breathing the way you do when you cry, the tears will come.", "What I would suggest is imagine your parents getting brutally murdered. Then think back to all the good times you had with them, and imagine never seeing them again or getting to experience that anymore because they're no longer with us. If that doesn't work, try cutting onions. ", "Just imagine yourself having to live through the most painful time of your life, but over and over and over. \n\nOr think about one of the most traumatic / hurtful events that occurred to you, and how far you have come since that point. Take pride in who you've become, what you've been through, and understand that solely because of you, you've made it this far. Whether it be through mistakes, triumphs, or disaster... You still made it so far." ]

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[ "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?", "How to keep yourself from crying in the middle of a discussion? I’m preparing to have a conversation and as much as I try to prepare (monologue, practice aloud, scripting), I’m having trouble stopping myself from crying (voice cracking, etc.). I don’t want to cry during this conversation because I want to appear more levelheaded and collected. Any tips to physically keep self from crying?" ]

[ "It's going to happen, no matter how hard you prepare yourself. Just be sure when you do... take a moment to compose yourself and then continue on. It'll suck, but keep moving forward. Getting it done will feel better in the long run.\n\nGood luck!", "I do this, too. If I start to cry, I will say something like \"I know I'm crying, but it's not a real emotional reaction, please talk to me like normal\" and usually by the time I'm done, hearing myself say it, I'm past the feeling and they don't get all soft and ask the dreaded \"are you ok\" question that ways makes it worse. Good luck, tough conversations are hard, especially when you throw the frustrated crying in the mix.", "Obviously, it depends on the conversation, but if it's appropriate, you might preface it with, \"Be aware that I might cry. Please don't let that take away from the conversation.\" \n\nThis has been helpful for me in that I am less focused on trying not to cry and then less likely to cry, and the other person isn't shocked or distracted if I do start to cry. \n\nShort of that, breathe. Have something to fidget with, if possible. Pinch yourself a little (not too hard). Keep breathing and take your time.", "Don’t over prepare. Just let the conversation flow naturally. \n\nAlso what’s the nature of this conversation? Why do you think you might start crying?", "Only two tried and true methods are get it out, and breathe. Maybe watch a bunch of really sad videos until you physically can't cry anymore/you've done enough crying (with sufficient time in advance) and then maybe something happy to take your mind off the subject right before. \n\nTears can come from any extreme emotion, not just sadness, so anything to alleviate emotion will help. I'm assuming alcohol won't be an option so maybe something with sugar? Anything to release \"happy\" hormones will help outcompete the \"sad\" hormones. Maybe... CBD oil to calm your nerves, this will work exceptionally well if the tears are coming from a place of stress and, given that things that make us sad are also typically stressors, will probably work with anything.", "What's the discussion about? I ask because it changes the context \n\nDon't overthink it. Speak as if you're telling a story to a friend.\n\nIf it's something serious. Don't Overthink it, Focus on your breath (In and out) . Speak as if you're acting.\n\nRemember that you are talking to another human who blees and feels just like you.", "See if you can practice with a friend. If not, you could practice by yourself. Don't try to suppress your emotions each time you practice, but rather try to show less and less emotion each time. Eventually you will be able to do it without crying (or at least less). Practicing will give you time to process things, a lack of which is often what causes people to cry in the first place.\n\nCrying is not a bad thing that shows weakness or instability, but it's best to be able to get back on tract if/when it happens. That alone will show more strength than not showing any emotions at all.\n\nI know whenever I see someone able to do that I instantly gain respect for them. And if this person you're confronting doesn't show a similar respect to you then they don't deserve your time and effort you put into trying to resolve things with them.\n\nDeep breaths followed by slowly and steadily exhaling should also help.\n\nOne last thing, there may be supplements you can take to help with this. Look up L-theanine, CBD, and other natural supplements for stress/anxiety. These are safe and usually last for at least a couple of hours. Just make sure you take the proper doses and try them beforehand so you can get the timing down (some take up to 30 min to work).", "Well I've spoken at funerals and although I've shed tears I find pauses in the speech help so you can collect your emotions, let them settle, and continue.", "Personally, if it’s too late and I’m already tearing up, I just try to focus on steadying my breathing. Because when you’re crying, your breathing becomes more labored and uneven. So I try to hyper-fixate on my breaths, slow them down, and focus how it feels to give my mind something else to fixate on instead of the negative thoughts and emotions. I hope this helps, best of luck with the conversation and just remember: you are in control.", "I recommend you look into breathing exercises. \n\nFocus on your breathing as you discuss things. Try to maintain a consistent and calm breathing pattern. \n\nNext time you are relaxed take a moment to notice how you breath, the speed you inhale and exhale, how deeply you breath, etc. Try to work towards beings able to recreate that breathing pattern at command, then apply it while you are having a discussion. \n\nNotice when your breathing gets agitated during a discussion, that’s your tell that you are loosing emotional control. Get your breathing back under control, which will get your emotions under control, and then continue your discussion. \n\nLike most things it will get easier and more natural with practice.", "This works for me but might not be healthy: if I am able to sit for the conversation then I will grab, not pinch, but grab my inner thigh between my first finger and thumb. It distracts me from crying because of pressure and it’s a little painful. If it bruises then you’re doing it too hard. I usually start doing it when I feel nervous, not for the entire conversation.", "Write down the main points you want to express.\n\nPractice saying them in front of someone you trust.\n\nThis gives you more room to brace yourself for things out of your control.", "Use email or text. If you have to, make the big reveal, be firm in your demands etc. in email then ask them to speak with you. That way you have the bull expressed without emotion.", "Take a water bottle with you. When you feel even the slightest inkling or entering crying territory, take a break by drinking some water and try and take some not so im-about-to-cry obvious breaths. Nobody will rush you drinking or use it as a distraction to gather yourself together.", "Sometimes just stop talking give yourself a few minutes or seconds and turn away from them and breathe. When that urge leaves then continue. It sucks because I’m a crier I used to be called a crybaby as child because of you guessed it! Never grew out of it. Sometimes pinching the bridge of your nose or distract yourself with pain or some other stimulation somewhere else sometimes I’ll bite down on the side of my cheek, not too hard but you know lol.", "Not sure about OP, but for the fellas in the thread, never discount the power a man cry holds. We don't do it often and thus it ages like wine. \n\nNo one will questions your devotion or passion when you deliver that message through tears.\n\nIf you need to, take minute, its not a loss.\n\n\nAlso if you're angry about something before a meeting and need to be calm like a bomb, run your hands under near scolding water for some time(few minutes). Pulls you right back to ground.", "I’ve found writing down what you want to say before the conversation helps. It’s a good way to get out what you’re feeling, and have more direction when you get to the actual conversation, without getting too flustered.", "Is it just this particular discussion, is it an emotional one? Or is this something that happens in non-emotional talks?\n\nI know how hard it is to not want to cry during conversations, it's some kind of an automatic reaction that just happens. I did get a prescription from my doctor and it has helped a lot, I am very happy with it. But I am not sure what your situation is like, if it's a common problem in your life?", "Go through it. Multiple times. Cry about it in advance. Doesn’t always work but if you get used to that feeling it might not feel so bad later and might just be controllable. \nSource: me, completely depends on situations tho", "Don't let the emotion get the better of you. imo, crying often looks like you're not level headed because it's a distraction. You stop to wipe the tears away, fan your face, or apologise.\n\nJust keep going through the tears, and deal with them after.", "Change how you word yourself. Be a little less vulnerable, create some distance while still saying what you need to say.\n\nSpeak try to speak objectively.", "Breathe and remind yourself you're in a safe space to keep yourself grounded. Hope everything goes well!", "Talk to a professional. Therapy and medication can save the day. There’s medication that can help with the physical effects of anxiety, Propanolol for example is a blood pressure medication that can stop some physical manifestations when taken prophylactically." ]

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[ "Simple, free ways to boost Broadband speed. Any simple little tips that you have would be greatly appreciated, as I can't afford a decent broadband service, and want to get the best possible speed out of the connection I have.\n\n*FYI: I'm on Sky Broadband, with a 3.1 Mb download, and 0.4 upload.*", "Simple, free ways to boost Broadband speed. Any simple little tips that you have would be greatly appreciated, as I can't afford a decent broadband service, and want to get the best possible speed out of the connection I have.\n\n*FYI: I'm on Sky Broadband, with a 3.1 Mb download, and 0.4 upload.*", "Simple, free ways to boost Broadband speed. Any simple little tips that you have would be greatly appreciated, as I can't afford a decent broadband service, and want to get the best possible speed out of the connection I have.\n\n*FYI: I'm on Sky Broadband, with a 3.1 Mb download, and 0.4 upload.*", "Simple, free ways to boost Broadband speed. Any simple little tips that you have would be greatly appreciated, as I can't afford a decent broadband service, and want to get the best possible speed out of the connection I have.\n\n*FYI: I'm on Sky Broadband, with a 3.1 Mb download, and 0.4 upload.*" ]

[ "It may not always work but you can always try calling the provider up and telling them you want to remove services. They'll ask why and tell them things are getting too expensive and you don't see the value. Once they know you want to cancel something they'll do whatever they can to keep you as a customer. You may get them to increase your internet speed for free to add 'value' to your services.\n\nI currently have Comcast and don't pay for the modem, HD-DVR, and pay half price for internet for a year because of doing this same thing when I signed up. \n", "I've researched this topic because of lag issues playing ps3 and games like Call of Duty.\n\nWhat I found is to find out your routers IP. To do that simply find what make it is. (linksys for example) Google 'linksys router ip' and 'linksys router default password'.\n\nType the router IP into your web browser. (it's going to be something like 168.68.1.1). So http://xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx (x = 0-9). It will show a log in screen. User and password. If you haven't changed these then they will be 'default' settings. If default username and password don't work then contact your ISP. But I think you can reset your router. Need to research that more.\n\nChange your DNS. ISP's set you to thier DNS (domain name server or something like that). and those can be really slow. Find an open DNS to use. I use Googles and have it memorized. 8.8.8.8 and 4.4.4.4\n\nDid this trick and also set up my ps3 to use Google's DNS and I can say my Kill/Death ratio vastly improved.\n\nI'm on ipod so sorry for no citations. Will ", "Is that the speed you are paying for? If so, AndroidNinja's comment might be the best option. There are a myriad of \"tweaking utilities\" that will sell you on changing mtu, tcp window size, etc but IMHO that won't really do anything for you.", "Go out and buy new ADSL filters - not free, buy they cost like £3 each. This sounds like one of those annoying, useless tasks you get told to try when your internet isn't working but it does actually work. The filters have a limited shelf life and their effectiveness declines after a year or so, so you can still be connected to the internet while having a filter that is really slowing you down." ]

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[ "How to not make stupid mistakes on math (trig) tests? I was wondering if anyone had any good techniques/ advice/ strategies for getting the answers correct on material you do actually know. \n \nIt's like, I spend hours and hours studying for my trig test. I learn the material really well, then all that goes out the window for the test. \n\n\n\nFor an example, there was a triangle where side a is 16, then angle C is 90°, and angle A is 23°. I need to find side c. I deduce that angle B is 67. I enter (cos(67))^-1 *16 into my calculator. That would have been the right answer, had it been set degrees instead of radians. I lost 10% of my test grade for that alone.\n\nI lost another 4% for writing \"55^2 - 25^2 = 3650, 3650^(1/2) ≈ 60, b ≈ 60\" because my fingers decided they wanted to push + instead of -.\n\nSo, I know how to solve the problems, I do all the steps, then when I go to double check, I'm like, \"(cos(𝛳))^-1 * adjacent = hypotenuse, that's right, c^2 - a^2 = b^2, that right. It all looks good,\" (which is correct) then I turn it in and miss 30% of the points. I could have looked it over 100 times, and I would have missed those mistakes every time. \nYet, I know the math. Frustrating. :(\n\nHalp. ", "How to not make stupid mistakes on math (trig) tests? I was wondering if anyone had any good techniques/ advice/ strategies for getting the answers correct on material you do actually know. \n \nIt's like, I spend hours and hours studying for my trig test. I learn the material really well, then all that goes out the window for the test. \n\n\n\nFor an example, there was a triangle where side a is 16, then angle C is 90°, and angle A is 23°. I need to find side c. I deduce that angle B is 67. I enter (cos(67))^-1 *16 into my calculator. That would have been the right answer, had it been set degrees instead of radians. I lost 10% of my test grade for that alone.\n\nI lost another 4% for writing \"55^2 - 25^2 = 3650, 3650^(1/2) ≈ 60, b ≈ 60\" because my fingers decided they wanted to push + instead of -.\n\nSo, I know how to solve the problems, I do all the steps, then when I go to double check, I'm like, \"(cos(𝛳))^-1 * adjacent = hypotenuse, that's right, c^2 - a^2 = b^2, that right. It all looks good,\" (which is correct) then I turn it in and miss 30% of the points. I could have looked it over 100 times, and I would have missed those mistakes every time. \nYet, I know the math. Frustrating. :(\n\nHalp. ", "How to not make stupid mistakes on math (trig) tests? I was wondering if anyone had any good techniques/ advice/ strategies for getting the answers correct on material you do actually know. \n \nIt's like, I spend hours and hours studying for my trig test. I learn the material really well, then all that goes out the window for the test. \n\n\n\nFor an example, there was a triangle where side a is 16, then angle C is 90°, and angle A is 23°. I need to find side c. I deduce that angle B is 67. I enter (cos(67))^-1 *16 into my calculator. That would have been the right answer, had it been set degrees instead of radians. I lost 10% of my test grade for that alone.\n\nI lost another 4% for writing \"55^2 - 25^2 = 3650, 3650^(1/2) ≈ 60, b ≈ 60\" because my fingers decided they wanted to push + instead of -.\n\nSo, I know how to solve the problems, I do all the steps, then when I go to double check, I'm like, \"(cos(𝛳))^-1 * adjacent = hypotenuse, that's right, c^2 - a^2 = b^2, that right. It all looks good,\" (which is correct) then I turn it in and miss 30% of the points. I could have looked it over 100 times, and I would have missed those mistakes every time. \nYet, I know the math. Frustrating. :(\n\nHalp. ", "How to not make stupid mistakes on math (trig) tests? I was wondering if anyone had any good techniques/ advice/ strategies for getting the answers correct on material you do actually know. \n \nIt's like, I spend hours and hours studying for my trig test. I learn the material really well, then all that goes out the window for the test. \n\n\n\nFor an example, there was a triangle where side a is 16, then angle C is 90°, and angle A is 23°. I need to find side c. I deduce that angle B is 67. I enter (cos(67))^-1 *16 into my calculator. That would have been the right answer, had it been set degrees instead of radians. I lost 10% of my test grade for that alone.\n\nI lost another 4% for writing \"55^2 - 25^2 = 3650, 3650^(1/2) ≈ 60, b ≈ 60\" because my fingers decided they wanted to push + instead of -.\n\nSo, I know how to solve the problems, I do all the steps, then when I go to double check, I'm like, \"(cos(𝛳))^-1 * adjacent = hypotenuse, that's right, c^2 - a^2 = b^2, that right. It all looks good,\" (which is correct) then I turn it in and miss 30% of the points. I could have looked it over 100 times, and I would have missed those mistakes every time. \nYet, I know the math. Frustrating. :(\n\nHalp. ", "How to not make stupid mistakes on math (trig) tests? I was wondering if anyone had any good techniques/ advice/ strategies for getting the answers correct on material you do actually know. \n \nIt's like, I spend hours and hours studying for my trig test. I learn the material really well, then all that goes out the window for the test. \n\n\n\nFor an example, there was a triangle where side a is 16, then angle C is 90°, and angle A is 23°. I need to find side c. I deduce that angle B is 67. I enter (cos(67))^-1 *16 into my calculator. That would have been the right answer, had it been set degrees instead of radians. I lost 10% of my test grade for that alone.\n\nI lost another 4% for writing \"55^2 - 25^2 = 3650, 3650^(1/2) ≈ 60, b ≈ 60\" because my fingers decided they wanted to push + instead of -.\n\nSo, I know how to solve the problems, I do all the steps, then when I go to double check, I'm like, \"(cos(𝛳))^-1 * adjacent = hypotenuse, that's right, c^2 - a^2 = b^2, that right. It all looks good,\" (which is correct) then I turn it in and miss 30% of the points. I could have looked it over 100 times, and I would have missed those mistakes every time. \nYet, I know the math. Frustrating. :(\n\nHalp. " ]

[ "You know you have inaccuracies so work the problem each way. Come up with the answer, then take than and work back to the inputs\n\nFor your first one if you had gotten an answer X then done cos^-1(X/16) you wouldn't have gotten 67 and would have been clued into the mistake\n\nYou should also do the work in stages, it gives you a clue something went wrong when you do 55^2 then 25^2 then subtract them rather than having the calculator do it all in one step. If you can't afford the time to split the steps then you need to slow down on everything to do it with better accuracy so you spend less time checking your work", "Work backwards from your answer. If you arrive at a different set of numbers than was in the original problem, you have a problem.\n\nWrite down each step. So much easier to find the mistake when you can see each step. ", "1. reset your calculator before a test\n2. slow down if you have extra time \n3. If you can't slow down, try remembering your mistakes and keep them in mind during test", "Think about the math while you do it. Don't just write down what the calculator says. The calculator is right, but it might be doing something you didn't want it to (radians and degrees). ", "After you finish your test, assuming you have time left, double-check. For example, if I have to factor something, I will plug in values for the starting equation and the factored one to make sure I didn't screw up. Basically just reverse what you did (if you can) to make sure your result suits the question." ]

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[ "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at", "Finding your friends at a concert/festival/in a large crowd Can't count the amount of times I've needed to leave my friend group at a music festival only to find it near impossible to regroup. My current strategy is to get them to take a picture of the stage from their location so that I can figure our how far and what angle they are at" ]

[ "I always pre-agreed with whomever that \"if we can't find each other, go to _________\". One place had large structure beams, so we agreed on the middle beam. Another had a bar right in the middle . . . etc etc etc. ", "Walkie talkies are your friend at festivals. If your friends won't answer you can just change frequencies and fuck with security until your friends want to see you again.", "Years ago, because she managed to create a small clearing my friends and I agreed to always return to the \"large passed out chick\".", "Use a flag. You can make a simple easy to transport flag using tent poles that you can find at Academy or any sporting goods store. Some festivals have lots of people doing this so I recommend either making an original flag or finding something that is likely to be unique, i.e. not the state or country flag. ", "The larger the group the harder it is to deal with. Usually we pick a good base of operation with a landmark and then if you want to hit the bathroom, grab a drink etc you can leave and come back to the base.\n\nHonestly its easiest to have 1 buddy and not worry about the whole group though. In my experience. Everyone always seems to be doing something different. You spend all your time trying to find / coordinate with the group rather than enjoy the festival.", "My friends and I tie a long string from wrist to wrist, creating a long chain of all the group members. That way, if I need to find someone, I can just tug on the string until I reach them.", "Make a \"boogie\" stick. It can be anything a flag, a bunch of glowsticks, or a funny picture, just something that is tall and easy to spot.", "I use a telescoping flag-pole and put it in my backpack with the flag separately. Also I sent a picture of the flag and a breakdown of which shows I wanted to see (before we left) so the MMS would go through. This allowed everyone to go off and do their own thing, but later into the festival we could all meet up.", "Have other options besides connecting by phone. When so many people are in one place, towers can get overloaded, not allowing everyone to make calls. That happened to me in Philly on July 4th. ", "A helium balloon on a decent length string works really well. Usually all supermarkets have a section where you can buy pre-filled helium balloons for special occasions. The larger the better. Then you just need to tie it off at the group location." ]

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[ "What to do after a car accident Always worried I'd bump someone, or be bumped by someone, and have zero idea how to handle the situation. Anyway to help out?", "What to do after a car accident Always worried I'd bump someone, or be bumped by someone, and have zero idea how to handle the situation. Anyway to help out?", "What to do after a car accident Always worried I'd bump someone, or be bumped by someone, and have zero idea how to handle the situation. Anyway to help out?", "What to do after a car accident Always worried I'd bump someone, or be bumped by someone, and have zero idea how to handle the situation. Anyway to help out?" ]

[ "I just got into a car a few weeks ago, so I can definitely help you out with this. I'm going to assume you live in the United States.\n\nDo now:\nLook up online for your state's accident report form. Whatever information they will need from the other driver(s), or about the location of the accident (do they want more than just a street name?), you should write down on a sticky note, and keep it in your car.\nAlso, buy a disposable camera strictly for car accidents only. Leave it in your car. This way if your cell phone dies, you can still take pictures. Worth the $10 in my mind.\n\nDuring an accident (regardless minor or major):\nMove to a safe location, however do not leave the scene.\nCall 911. Doesn't matter if anybody's hurt or not. According to www.911.gov, even if nobody is hurt, you should call 911. Your chances of a police report also go up if you call 911, and that is a thing that will help you a lot. Whatever you do, do not call college police. I learned that the hard way. He just stood there while information was being exchanged.\nExchange all the info that was written on your sticky note.\nWrite down the location! If you're on an Interstate or U.S. highway, locate the highway #, direction, and closest mile marker. Otherwise, get the street name, or intersection. This is very important for your insurance reports.\nIf your cell phone has battery, go into your maps app, and take a screenshot of where you are. Then drop a pin, and write down that address. It will help you a lot with paperwork later.\nTAKE PHOTOS. Please. Your disposable camera will be very handy if you're phone dies. Not only can it help you with your claim, but many body shops will ask for photos so they can pre-order parts, saving you time when your car is in the shop.\nGet the police report number (if he doesn't write one, ask him to), as well as his name, badge number, and their department's phone number.\nOh, and stay calm. Don't argue with the other people who's fault it is, and keep your voice calm.\n\nAfter the accident:\nWhenever safe to do so, file a claim with your insurance company. Do it ASAP as your memories will be fresh. Personally, this is the one time in life I prefer calling, instead of doing it online, because it will be processed instantly, and you'll know it went through, unlike the internet, where it can take up to 72 hours before people look at your sent form. If you need your insurance company's phone number, Google it. Make sure you specifically call their \"claims\" number as it is staffed typically by a third party.\n\nAfterwards, print out three copies of your state's (whichever state the accident took place) accident report form. Write it. Truthfully. When it comes to drawing what happens, go onto Google maps and print out where the accident took place. This way you have a very accurate map, and can just draw on the map.\nIn MA, one form goes to the police department where the accident took place, one goes to the State, and one goes to your insurance company. It varies state to state though, so make sure to check.\nIn MA this is also due 3 days after the accident, so make sure you mail it out quick (once again it may vary by state)\n\nIn a few weeks, you will receive a bulky insurance packet in the mail. Read through everything in there. In my opinion, go online to an online finder of your insurance company's recommended repair list. Then go on Yelp and find the best rated one that is also recommended by your insurer. Going to a recommended one will be less hassling for you. Typically, an appointment is not required, so if you just show up, they'll take your car in. MAKE SURE YOU BRING THE PACKET FROM THE INSURANCE COMPANY IN THE MAIL EACH TIME YOU GO TO A BODY SHOP!\n\nAt least for my insurance company, I need to have the insurance companies inspect my car after my car finishes its repair (tomorrow! yay!). Once again, some companies do not require this, although it will tell you in the packet.\n\nSince I'm currently in this process, if you have any more questions, please message me. I am on Reddit a lot and will be able to help you. Thanks for reading! ", "The first and most important thing is to remain calm. Don't get angry and don't start yelling at the other driver.\n\nPut car in park, turn it off and put on your hazards. Check yourself for injuries. If you're okay, make sure it is safe to get out of the vehicle and get out. Check on the other person. **If there are any injuries on yourself or the other person, call an e-squad at first notice.**\n\nExchange information (name, address, contact info, insurance) with the person and take pictures of the wreck. If the vehicles are able to be moved, move them to the side of the road.\n\nCall the police and tell dispatch that there's an accident at X location. There are no injuries and you would like an officer to take an accident report.\n\nWhile waiting on the officer, take more pictures of your damage now that the other car is away from yours.\n\nWhen the officer arrives, follow his/her instructions.", "Take lots of photos of the damage to the cars and their positions on the road for context before anyone moves them. If it goes to insurance, you'll probably be asked to draw an overhead diagram of what happened, so they'll help jog your memory and could be useful as evidence if the other party tries to be a dick about it.\n\nIf possible, try to get a photo of or at least see their driving license, so you know the details they're giving you are correct. Here in the UK, the home address is written on the license. \n\nNever, ever, ever, ever admit liability. Don't even say sorry, even if it was obviously your fault. It could be used against you if it gets nasty and goes to court. Say only the absolute bare minimum and let the insurance company deal with it. ", "See if anyone is injured. If possible, move out of the roadway. Figure out exactly where you are. Contact your local emergency number. Follow their instructions. You can choose to speak with the other party, or remain in your vehicle. Try to remember exactly what you were doing when it occurred. Wait for law enforcement. Once you get home, contact your insurance company. Don't wait for them to call you. " ]

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[ "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!", "How to best screen a potential room mate? My boyfriend of 7 years packed up and left me out of the blue about 2 months ago and stuck me with our apartment. Honestly, it's a beautiful apartment in downtown SF and I'm glad to have it, but the rent is ridiculous (hard for me to afford alone, but priced way below market value). \n\n I have found someone I believe will be a good roommate through Craigslist and am meeting with him for the second time tomorrow morning to discuss all the finalities. \n\nWhat the hell are these finalities? What do I need to ask him? What kind of info should I be getting? How can I best cover my ass in case he ends up being crazy? What should I have him sign? I am not putting him on the lease. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Invite a potential roommate (one you've already talked to and they seem like a good fit for you) over to meet your friends and play board games or video games for a few hours. This is a quick, easy way to see how they interact with you, how they interact with your friends, and see if they have any annoying habits. Good luck!", "[This](http://www.uky.edu/StudentAffairs/OCSS/pdf/Sample%20Roommate%20Agreement.pdf) is a roomate agreement, it could lend some inspiration. \n\nI know the feels about long term partner leaving recently, got it too - trucking on, drinking tea, petting dog, and eating yummy food.", "I think the two biggest problems that ever came up with my roommates are I were:\n\n* Cleanliness\n\nPeople have different habits. Level of cleanliness matters a lot because your apartment is your home, and their home, and you both need to be comfortable with the other person's habits. Sometimes cleaning schedules work, sometimes, they don't, and all of the responsibility lands on one person.\n\n* Money\n\nMoney is also an issue - besides the obvious (being able to pay the rent on time every month), small problems can come up with expectations about how you spend your money. Some people like splitting the grocery bill. Some people only want to split the cleaning supplies. Some people want to split nothing. Some people will buy random things the apartment doesn't need, and expect to be paid back. You get what I'm saying.\n\nIt's just important to make sure you're on the same page; brainstorm every possible thing that could go wrong, and set up some type of contract (no matter how silly it seems) before you move in.", "I'd have something about house rules, cleaning rotation/assignment maybe, \"peanut butter/condiments fair game but touch my hot pockets and ill cut off your fingers\" type things, utilities split, parties/guests rules, parking/guest parking, making sure they're employed/ have adequate income. Off the top of my head.\n\n", "Drugs is a big one. Make sure you are both on the same page. As in personal use, friends that use, and dealing.", "References references references. Don't just get one from their current room mate/landlord get at least one prior to that and do your best to verify that it's not just a buddy pretending. Also have them fill out a cr", "By far the best way I have found to screen potential roommates is to go on a road trip with them. You get to see how they interact with you and the world around them when they are out of their comfort zone. It gives you plenty of time to talk and see if you're compatible.\n\nQuestions to ask yourself on the road trip: Do they get hangry or tangry? (that is, hungry-angry and tired-angry, respectively) How do they make decisions on where to go for food or where to stay? Were you able to easily make collective decisions or was figuring out diner an absolute nightmare? How comfortable were you in a cramped space with them? (Good conversationalist? Bad breath? Huge coke problem?) Could they afford things or did they expect you to cover their costs? Did they chip in for gas? Would you be friends with this person? How do they treat service at places you eat or stay? How do they respond to strangers? \n\nIt's basically the quickest way to see anyone in a variety of different situations and, using all of those data points, make a reasonable guess as to what living with this person might be like. It is a time and resource intensive screening process, but so is getting a roommate, and getting the wrong roommate is a like only having one pair of underwear and it's two sizes too tight... That is to say, uncomfortable and irritating on a daily basis.", "Ask if their current or most recent roommate will act as a reference. There are some reasonable excuses (fallouts happen), but I'd be wary of any hesitation. I'm on good terms with almost every roommate I've ever had, and my current roommate is acting as a reference for my new one. ", "Meet at a place for food and then go to a local bar and get a few drinks in them. This usually lets down their guard and they just speak. This has worked for me." ]

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[ "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and ", "What should you do when someone offers you money for something you never intended to be payed for? TL;DR: A friend is going to put money in front my face and expect me to take it, but I never intended to be payed for shooting photos for him. How should I act to prevent it from being awkward? Should I take the money? If so, how should I act in that situation?\n\nSo just yesterday I went to a friend's engagement banquet, and he asked me to bring my camera and shoot some photos. It was only like 2-3 hour shoot, I didn't bring any huge equipment, and I was the only photographer - with only my camera and few lenses. He is my brother's best friend and I wasn't planning on getting paid for any of the photos, I have done things like this for friends/family in the past and never got paid, I just usually saw it as an opportunity to get better at photography. Immediately after the banquet I went home and " ]

[ "Normally I'd refuse once or twice (\"oh no, honestly, it's fine, I was happy to do it\") but if they insist again then accept (\"oh, are you sure? Thank you very much\"). \n\nThe awkwardness comes when no one steps down from being polite. \n\nSource: I'm British, I find it difficult to accept a cup of tea until the third time someone offers. I'm an expert at negotiating everyone being too polite. ", "\"Some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me. But until that day, consider these photos as a gift on the day of your engagement banquet.\"", "First of all, ***hold on to this friend***. Friends who respect your time and talent enough to be willing to pay for it are rare, and good friends. This is typically a sign of healthy boundaries.\n\nHowever, if you are concerned that you will come across as entitled, here are the dances:\n\n**Dance A, if you want to take the money:**\n\n**Step 1**: Friend attempts to hand you money.\n\n**Step 2**: You let him know that you do not need to be paid; but that you are grateful. \n\n**Step 3**: You accept the money, without counting it or looking at it for longer than it takes to get it into your hands/jacket pocket.\n\n**Step 4**: Give him a hearty handshake or hug, as appropriate. You tell him that it was a pleasure doing the pictures for him, and that their wedding is lovely. \n\n*The point here is to take the money for the token of gratitude that it is, but not make a scene.* \n\n**Dance B, if you do not want to take the money:**\n\n**Step 1**: He offers you the money.\n\n**Step 2**: You tell him not to worry about it; that he should consider the pictures to be a wedding gift.\n\n**Step 3**: One of two things will happen at this point. He will either shake your hand / hug you and tell you how grateful he is (see step 4a), or he will say that he cannot *not* pay you (see step 4b).\n\n**Step 4a**: Tell him that he is welcome, that the wedding was lovely, and that you wish them the best.\n\n**Step 4b**: Tell him either \"tell you what; split whatever you were going to pay me in half\" or \"tell you what, why don't we discuss it after the wedding / after you get back from your honeymoon.\" More than likely, after those bills come in, he will rethink it. If not, just accept the money and move on.\n\n*The point in this case is to reject the money, while still maintaining your boundaries and treating your talent/time as valuable, so that people don't abuse it. By designating the photos as a \"gift\", you are placing value on them.*", "If you don't want the money and he offers, tell him to get you a six-pack or something instead . This gives him the ability to show appreciation for your help, which is really what the money is all about anyway", "With something like that I would turn it down once. The general no thanks, I was doing it as a favor. Then if he offers again, or insists, I would take the money. That way it gives him an out if he was just being polite but also gives him a way to thank you for your work. ", "Say something like \"Thank you very much, I didn't take this on expecting to be paid, but I appreciate the thought very much.\" Then take the money.\n\nYou spent a lot of time and effort (not just taking photos, but ", "If they genuinely offer and you feel like you did quality work that is worth the money, say thank you and take the money and move on. \n\nOr if you feel like it would be rude, say no the first time but if they insist, say thank you and take it. \n\nOr, say, \"I appreciate it, but I wasn't expecting to get paid for this. If you really want to return the favor, you know how much I love to support Habitat for Humanity (or whatever). I'd love it if you gave them a donation.\"", "You said you did it to get better at photography, turns out you said the pictures are of high quality. Take the money maybe decline a few times for politeness. But now you have noticed you got better now it's time to charge and accept money. If you don't accept money people are always going to assume since your a friend you will work for free. ", "I'll suggest something that's often suggested for a slightly different situation/earlier in the process:\n\nGive him an invoice for however much you'd usually charge, but put a 100% discount on there.\n\nI learned this in the context of doing charity Web/graphic design (which I don't even do), but I think it can be applied to just about any kind of work. The point is usually to show them that you usually charge some amount for your services, so they don't expect you to necessarily work for free in the future (like /u/kalechipsyes said at the end of their comment). But in your situation, I think it could work to tell your friend that while this is something that might ordinarily warrant payment, you don't expect any in this case.\n\nBut it might be too late in the process for this to fit the situation. That's up to your judgement.", "I would take some money, even if it's half your normal rate, just so no one gets the idea that you're open for free to anyone that knows you or asks. ", "Your question has been answered, but as a fellow photographer I just want to add: We're under appreciated and you will rarely meet anyone grateful enough to offer adequate payment. The sooner you start training yourself to remember that your work has value, the better. This *especially* applies to weddings.", "You say \"no charge.\" If he says \"I insist\" you say \"thank you\" and take it. Either way you don't go around talking about it. ", "If you are really in need of money, say \n\"Ok, thanks! I really needed this money.\" \nBut if you don't really need it, just say, \n\"No, thanks! I just wanted to help you out.\" \nAnd maybe he'll be like, \n\"Cmon man, just fucking take it.\" \nBut you'll calmly yet firmly reply, \n\"Nah.\"", "your time you can offer up for free. if however there are expenses they should be paid for. If you do something then decline payment but they insist, and name a dollar amount, you should probably agree, but change it to \"ok, give me x and that will be fine\". That way they can feel good about paying and you can feel good about giving a discount. Alternately you can ask them to cover some other expense, like a current or future meal, or to do something that they normally would be paid for.", "if you wanted to accept the money but not internally feel like a jerk you could accept the money and then give them a really nice wedding gift with it. I think that would be a cool way to avoid the guilt save yourself a little money on a wedding gift and be a cool dude.", "Your materials and time must have cost something. If you intended for that to be a gift, fine, but do understand that by not accepting money, you're taking work away from legitimate photographers who are trying to make a living. \n\nIf you give something like that away for free, you set a standard by which other photographers will have to deal with people who think their professional-level work should be free. \n\nIt's kind of you, but if you're really doing this out of altruism, I'd say, \"I'm not a professional yet, but I'll take x (if less than what they're offering) to help pay for materials and a nice supper. Thank you so much for believing in me!\" \n\nAnd then consider going pro, because the real pro tip here is \"Don't undervalue yourself.\" ", "Yes, awkward. (used to be the de-facto family photographer in the 35mm SLR days, pre-digital: truthfully, it was a pain in the ass, but I remained gracious about it, as it was family, dammit)\n\nIf they shove money in your pocket, you could consider getting some of the best favourite pictures matted and framed asap, and give to them with note saying:\n\n\"I was intending my photography to be my gift to you and yours, so I used your generous gift payment to frame my favorite picture of this joyous occasion\" ... or words to that affect.\n\nIf they gave you a lot of money, you could buy your own matte cutting equipment and supplies, and stock up on cheap frames (often many at the dollar store), as doing a good matting job is a valuable skill for every photographer...\n\n", "When my girlfriend or any other friend gives me money I usually accept it knowing when they won't take \"No thank you\" as an answer (like grandmothers for instance) and then just give it back to them, possibly in the form of a gift or after they have forgotten about it. My grandmothers computer died a while ago, and I'm building her another, as an example. Keep the cycle going! Sounds like you have a good friendship.", "When he hands you the money, take it and say \"Thanks, I appreciate it\" and move on with your life. No reason to make a big deal out of it. ", "When I was still in high school a friends mother had us help an elderly couple stack firewood. She told us \"when he offers to pay you accept it\". I asked why because I was confused, I am used to hearing 'you be nice and don't take any money'. She replied with [summarizing] \"because refusing the money implies they are in need of help. Many elderly people don't want to accept they can't do physical tasks anymore, and refusing payment is in a way taking pity on them which may make them feel guilty or inept\"\n\nNot sure if this helps, but I thought I would share.", "When I do electrical work for (close) friends, I normally take money for parts, if any, and my 'labour' is paid for with drinks next time we're out. This is normally only for a couple hours though. ", "What i do when people try to give me money when i wasn't expecting it is at first i refuse it very kindly. If they still try to give me money i graciously accept it and thank them.", "Uh, just say no dude. My friends always are trying to give me money for weed but I am no drug dealer and have to constantly refuse and refuse and refuse because they are very much insisting. But in my case it's very black and white, I say no. I absolutely will not accept your money, in no way shape or form.\n\nThat's basically what I tell people.", "Twice Refuse, third time take it saying \"Alright, I really appreciate it, thanks a lot.\" \n\nMoney is an easy way to remove the guilt and \"I owe you\" feeling. If you really wanted to just give them something, unless they're known to be strapped for cash, just accept it to remove any other obligation towards the deed. Nothing is more annoying (to me) than having someone do you a favor, not accept payment for it, and then bring it up later as if \"I owe them.\" \n\nPolitely refuse twice, then accept - /u/crownsandclay also gave this advice and I completely agree.", "Take the money. In the long run, having these boundaries is a good thing. You can be friends but still get paid for helping him. They are two different things.\n\nNot only that, from now on, when he recommends you to others, he will say you were a great photog at a fair price. If you don't get paid, you will be known as the guy who does photos for free, thus devaluing your work in the long run.\n\n", "Take only some of the money and then use it to take him out to a nice lunch. \n\nThat's how I use the profit whenever a friend buys some of my services.", "Take it, then use the money to buy him and yourself a lunch. In the end, he paid for his lunch. No problem. ", "Suggest that if they really want to pay you they should instead send the money to St Jude Childrens Hospital. You could pick any place but pick a specific charity or whatever. I think just saying \"give it to charity\" is a bit off putting. ", "Refuse the offer twice, then accept it and just give it on his wedding day as an extra gift (so buy a bigger gift with the extra money or just give him extra cash).", "Politely refuse by saying \"These photos are my gift to you!\" If he insists, ask him to make a donation to charity in your name. ", "My general rule of thumb is to only take it if they insist, since sometimes it becomes an annoying tug of war with them.\n\nIf I secretly wanted to be paid beforehand and they offer, I would accept. I've learned that I've almost always regretted not accepting offers that I secretly wanted, and I try to repay them eventually somehow. ", "Late to the game with this but my friends and I always have covered one another when someone forgets a wallet, doesn't have enough money for the movie, whatever. Even if your responsible and make good money something happens where you need a few bucks or something. \n\nSo when something like the photography payment comes up I would either bring up a time that they helped me out and say I got this one or if it's \"their turn\" and you aren't in need of the money I would say why don't you keep that and the next time I forget my wallet at the bar or dinner you can cover me. \n\nI have about 4 friends and we all do this. Kind of like a running friendship tab. This way there is no back and forth, or less at least. \n\n\"Hey man thanks for taking the time to take these photos, I don't have much but here's 100 bucks.\" \n\nMe - \"No problem! I like taking photos and had no problem helping you guys out. Why don't you keep the money, besides remember last week when we went to the bar and I said I would pay for the tab only to realize I left my wallet at home and you covered me? \n\nThem - \"Are you sure man this is a little different?\" \n\nMe - \"Don't worry about it, 100 bucks ain't gunna make me or break me so I'm good. How bout you hook it up with a cute bridesmaid?\" \n\nAnd then we go off on our way. Something along those lines happens a lot in my group of friends. ", "Its a tough call. You shouldn't sell yourself short. At the same time you are doing it as a favor and mutually benefitting by improving your skills. On the same hand it is also impolite to reject someone's kindness. \n\nOp don't expect to be paid for the photo gigs you do but if someone is offering to pay , take the money and be gracious. \n\nI have fixed several computers from people and they offer me money. In the beginning I was told don't sell yourself short. So I have an idea of how long / how advanced the task is. i also accept food as a bribe ", "Insist on not taking the money but then say fine if he still insist but say only for the cost of the flash drive and take that amount etc", "If you're sure you don't want to be paid, I would offer, \"how about you just buy me a drink and we call it even?\" \n\nThis has worked for me so many times.", "If you genuinely don't want to accept the money, it's not hard \n\nThe second time you say no, you also walk away. Done. \n\nOnly doesn't work if they're in your house, cause then they will just leave it there. ", "If you do want the cash: say thank you very much and take it. \n\n\nIf you don't want the cash: ohh you don't have to pay me, this is my gift to you and your wife. Or if in another situation, you don't have to pay me, we are both friends and you have given me more than enough over time. ", "If someone insists that I take money, especially a friend, that I had no expectation of, I'll usually suggest that we go out for drinks/food or whatever and use it to cover the tab for both of us. \n", "Id say \"oh, I didn't expect you to pay me man, I was just doing you a favor\". If he insists on paying after that, then id take it and give him a sincere thank you.", "I've done this a lot in the past for my mates. Never accepted money, just called it \"mate's rates\" and accepted a drink from them etc next time we're out.\n\nIn retrospect though, when it's a big event that I would have been invited to, I should have taken the money as I was no longer a guest like the rest of my friends. I don't like to do things half-arsed so would be putting a lot of effort in there and the ", "I've been told by quite a few people that it is impolite/rude to refuse money for something you did for them. Even if it was supposed to be a volunteer/charity situation. \n\nMany years ago I built a kegerator, I asked my friend who works as a mechanic and has access to welders and a plasma cutter, if he could make me a small custom drip catch for the curved fridge door. It turned out amazing! No money was ever discussed and he made it during down time out of scrap metal. No cost to him, just something to do while waiting for jobs to come in. \n\nI was making decent money and put $40 on his coffee table and he tried to refuse and I told him something to the affect of \"it's definitely worth $40 bucks to me, if you don't take it it's going to hurt my feelings. He smiled and nodded, said ok and all was good. \n\nMy advice is to take the money, if you don't feel right about it give it \"back\" to him as a wedding gift, if your not going to the wedding, give it to your bro and have him add it to his cash gift. ", "I've been that friend and I say upfront, \"I know you don't want to take it but I have to insist. Money comes between friends way too easily and I don't want to go down that path.\"\n\nWe always come to a compromise of a discounted rate.", "I'm sure this will get buried but when I do a favor or give someone something and they insist on paying me, I tell them one of two things (depending on the situation). The first thing I prefer saying is to \"just pay it forward\" especially if it's a minor item or help given. The second, I simply ask for them to return the favor sometime (helping them move or something like that).", "I'm probably in the minority here but I'm just going to say right now, never offer me money or offer to do me a favor unless you truly want me to take you up on it...because I'm going to.\n\nI personally think it's rude to refuse someone's offer of kindness. If someone offers to buy me dinner, I'll ask if they are sure and then thank them for it. I won't argue it. I think it's the dumbest thing when the back and forth happens, \"No I got it!\" \"No, let me!\"\n\nIf you offer me something, then get upset that I took you up on it, you shouldn't have offered it in the first place.\n\nSo in this situation, they would offer me money, I would probably say something like, \"Are you sure? I wasn't planning to charge you or anything.\" Then if they say, \"Yes, please take it!\" I will say, \"Thanks, I appreciate it!\" and that will be that. Pretty simple IMO.", "I would spell out what you said here but be open to payment. Include the details about equipment, your brother's best friend, etc.\n\nExplain that you never intended to be paid, and its the sort of thing you do for friends. You're very pleased that they're happy with the results but you would prefer that they consider it a wedding gift.\n\nIf he still insists then explain the rates that you normally charge and given that you had not intention of payment you never explained that up front. It simply wouldn't be right for you to charge someone for something you intended to be a gift.\n\nIf he still insists then accept whatever he offers and express gratitude that he wanted to pay for your work. Its rare to have someone go out of their way to pay and it shows a great deal of integrity on his part. (this will smooth over any awkwardness).", "I used to photograph weddings and would occasionally have a situation like this. I would insist that the photos are a wedding gift from me too them, no payment is warranted. ", "I suggest expressing your great gratitude at his gesture, and tell him you never expected payment and you'd be happy if he kept it because you know how those wedding expenses just climb (or whatever reason), and thank him profusely. If he insists, you can press your case one more time (how it would make you very happy if he kept it and considered it the wedding gift, or whatever). If he still says no, try to accept a partial amount (well, I'd be happy to accept some gas money, or, It'd be great if you'd pay for x (I'm not sure what you'd charge for, gas, equipment supplies, transportation/rental you paid, etc., I have no idea) BUT you insist no labor charge. So, take what you think is the least he's comfortable giving you.\n\nIt's a generous gesture on his part, which speaks to his character in a good way (and you could even tell him that), so don't hesitate to let him know you see his intent, and you appreciate it.\n\nIt's really not too hard, if you're basically honest (just the broad strokes of honesty), warm, and civilized. From your post, you seem plenty articulate to accomplish what you want.", "I have a rule for this situation. I decline twice and if they offer again, I take it with many thanks. ", "I always ask for something. \"I'll help you out and you can buy me a beer/latte/whiskey.\" Usually I'm giving them help worth much more, so it's a very minimal trade, but it is a trade.\n\n", "Hand him the flash drive and say congratulations on the marriage. Then return his gift. Problem solved. ", "Give the money to a charity or church if you're really uncomfortable keeping it. Or use to pay for someone's meal at a restaurant ", "Ask for something else in return, if you drink tell him to buy you a pint or buy you lunch or something one day. People like to pay people for favours but they also like a bargain.", "Accept it graciously. He *asked* for you to bring the camera, which is different from you just showing up and snapping a few and then sending them to him. " ]

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[ "When getting to know coworkers, how do you pass as normal when your personal life is empty and alone? At some point, they will ask personal details about your life \n.\nMid 30s here: no wife, no kids, feel like i'm just existing in life, etc.\n\nI don't want to be aloof, but I also don't want to come across as strange, pitiful, vulnerable, etc.\n\nThe problem with that is my situation pretty much spells it out. My private struggles don't need communicated to strangers.", "When getting to know coworkers, how do you pass as normal when your personal life is empty and alone? At some point, they will ask personal details about your life \n.\nMid 30s here: no wife, no kids, feel like i'm just existing in life, etc.\n\nI don't want to be aloof, but I also don't want to come across as strange, pitiful, vulnerable, etc.\n\nThe problem with that is my situation pretty much spells it out. My private struggles don't need communicated to strangers.", "When getting to know coworkers, how do you pass as normal when your personal life is empty and alone? At some point, they will ask personal details about your life \n.\nMid 30s here: no wife, no kids, feel like i'm just existing in life, etc.\n\nI don't want to be aloof, but I also don't want to come across as strange, pitiful, vulnerable, etc.\n\nThe problem with that is my situation pretty much spells it out. My private struggles don't need communicated to strangers.", "When getting to know coworkers, how do you pass as normal when your personal life is empty and alone? At some point, they will ask personal details about your life \n.\nMid 30s here: no wife, no kids, feel like i'm just existing in life, etc.\n\nI don't want to be aloof, but I also don't want to come across as strange, pitiful, vulnerable, etc.\n\nThe problem with that is my situation pretty much spells it out. My private struggles don't need communicated to strangers.", "When getting to know coworkers, how do you pass as normal when your personal life is empty and alone? At some point, they will ask personal details about your life \n.\nMid 30s here: no wife, no kids, feel like i'm just existing in life, etc.\n\nI don't want to be aloof, but I also don't want to come across as strange, pitiful, vulnerable, etc.\n\nThe problem with that is my situation pretty much spells it out. My private struggles don't need communicated to strangers." ]

[ "Exact same situation. Funnily enough, it's what got me my current and former job: I mentioned I had no social life whatsoever and the interviewers positively lit up. Probably because they're industries heavily populated with 18-25 year olds likely to call in 'sick' when they're needed the most (night-shift/weekends).\n\n\nBecause I'm usually working with much younger people, I find the questions are more topical or vapid than personal. I'm more likely to be asked 'what do you think about musician x' or 'have you seen movie y?' than 'why are you childless and single at 33?'. Funny thing is, although I'm a very quiet person and a lot of people pick up on this, I'm not a *private* person. If people ask me personal questions, I'll answer to the best of my ability. I just don't like volunteering personal details. ", "Be a good listener. Don't try too hard, and if you start feeling off remember it's only you. Can guarantee nobody else is critically analyzing your every move the way you do to yourself.", "You are normal, you don't have to try to pass as anything. Everyone's life is different, try finding some common ground in conversation about hobbies, or even interests like science or history, whatever you are in to. Most work talk at my job isn't super personal (what kind of music do you like, what did you make for dinner, are you watching the game tonight, etc.) so don't worry if your personal life is different from someone else's. I make a point to ask about my coworkers' parents if they still are alive (it shows you care about their family and remember that their mom broke her hip or something but is still doing well, but may not be super personal like their home life)", "IME, most will want to talk about themselves anyway. \nEspecially when they find out you don't have an SO or kids, etc. All you'll get is their annoyance because they'd love to have your freedom compared to whatever they are suffering through at the moment. \"oh but you don't have kids\" is very common.", "Open up to complete strangers on the Internet by telling tbem just how miserable you are and reap the benefits of their anonymous advice. " ]

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[ "How to have a difficult conversation calmly Hi everyone,\n\nI struggle with having difficult discussions. It immediately triggers difficulty in breathing, nausea, spinning head, inability to think clearly, etc.\n\nI need to have a difficult conversation in the next few days and I would really appreciate some advice on how to handle it in a level headed manner. I tend to panic and make things worse.\nWhat are some tricks you use?\nThanks a lot!", "How to have a difficult conversation calmly Hi everyone,\n\nI struggle with having difficult discussions. It immediately triggers difficulty in breathing, nausea, spinning head, inability to think clearly, etc.\n\nI need to have a difficult conversation in the next few days and I would really appreciate some advice on how to handle it in a level headed manner. I tend to panic and make things worse.\nWhat are some tricks you use?\nThanks a lot!", "How to have a difficult conversation calmly Hi everyone,\n\nI struggle with having difficult discussions. It immediately triggers difficulty in breathing, nausea, spinning head, inability to think clearly, etc.\n\nI need to have a difficult conversation in the next few days and I would really appreciate some advice on how to handle it in a level headed manner. I tend to panic and make things worse.\nWhat are some tricks you use?\nThanks a lot!" ]

[ "Write down your feelings first in one document/letter to yourself, sort of stream of consciousness, doesn't have to make sense. Then or at the same time, take another piece of paper and start writing down your complaints and reasons, even if it's just point form with bullets indicating more specific details or reasons.\n\nI had to have a difficult conversation with a supervisor a couple of years ago and this really helped me.", "Think about exactly what you are going to say and the possible responses so you are and feel more prepared. It sounds like you have anxiety and common techniques are to concentrate on slow deep breaths.", "Not knowing the particulars, will give it my best shot.\n\nIf you are providing someone with feedback, use the format BEHAVIOR, IMPACT, CONSEQUENCE.\n\nBIC\n\nB -- when you do this\nI -- it makes me feel that\nC -- and the consequences are that we won't be able to do something else\n\nExpress feelings honestly, be prepared to be challenged and have data, facts, to back up what you are saying.\n\nAbove all, feedback must be helpful to the receiving person.\n\n\nIf it is more of a \"you're fired\" conversation, just get to the point respectfully.\n\n\"Due to circumstance x, we no longer require you on this team.\" Hold firm, people try to negotiate or fight. \"Sorry, but the decision has been made.\"\n\nIf they ask \"but why?\", you may have an answer. But if it is sensitive, explain that you would be happy to hold a follow up or exit interview after all the process has taken place, forms signed, desk emptied, etc. Get the result, then discuss or quibble. A lot of people will have mentally moved on by then.\n\nhope it helps. And good luck.\n\nOne last trick, write down your one sentence goal at the top of a sheet of paper at the start. Keep it handy. Look at it when stress starts to build. " ]

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[ "Things to do in the winter months early in the morning I've been trying recently to get up at an early time and get some personal stuff done before the rest of the world starts bustling. Usually I'll bike to the cafe, have a tea and work on some music or something else creative. I really like to get out of the house early as it makes me feel like I'm getting more accomplished.\n\nBut winter is coming, and I can't bike to the cafe anymore. What can I do that's similar to stimulate myself early on and get my day started on the right foot?", "Things to do in the winter months early in the morning I've been trying recently to get up at an early time and get some personal stuff done before the rest of the world starts bustling. Usually I'll bike to the cafe, have a tea and work on some music or something else creative. I really like to get out of the house early as it makes me feel like I'm getting more accomplished.\n\nBut winter is coming, and I can't bike to the cafe anymore. What can I do that's similar to stimulate myself early on and get my day started on the right foot?", "Things to do in the winter months early in the morning I've been trying recently to get up at an early time and get some personal stuff done before the rest of the world starts bustling. Usually I'll bike to the cafe, have a tea and work on some music or something else creative. I really like to get out of the house early as it makes me feel like I'm getting more accomplished.\n\nBut winter is coming, and I can't bike to the cafe anymore. What can I do that's similar to stimulate myself early on and get my day started on the right foot?", "Things to do in the winter months early in the morning I've been trying recently to get up at an early time and get some personal stuff done before the rest of the world starts bustling. Usually I'll bike to the cafe, have a tea and work on some music or something else creative. I really like to get out of the house early as it makes me feel like I'm getting more accomplished.\n\nBut winter is coming, and I can't bike to the cafe anymore. What can I do that's similar to stimulate myself early on and get my day started on the right foot?" ]

[ "Walk outside naked and take in the beautiful predawn starlight. Go inside, drink coffee get dressed and go jog. ", "M", "Search for workout/cardio/fitness/zumba/dance fitness videos on YouTube and work out to those. Get your body active and moving before you leave home.", "Yoga is a great way to start your day. I did this for a good portion of a winter break and it was quite rewarding and relaxing. Come to think of it, I think I'm gonna get back into it! Thanks. " ]

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