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[ "How to keep my room warm in the winter with a lot of windows? My room has a lot of windows and during the winter my room can feel the same temperature as outside in some occasions. I have a space heater but is there any solution for something cheaper than a space heater? \n\nP.S. there is centralized heating but the 1 vent in the room is not powerful enough to keep it warm", "How to keep my room warm in the winter with a lot of windows? My room has a lot of windows and during the winter my room can feel the same temperature as outside in some occasions. I have a space heater but is there any solution for something cheaper than a space heater? \n\nP.S. there is centralized heating but the 1 vent in the room is not powerful enough to keep it warm", "How to keep my room warm in the winter with a lot of windows? My room has a lot of windows and during the winter my room can feel the same temperature as outside in some occasions. I have a space heater but is there any solution for something cheaper than a space heater? \n\nP.S. there is centralized heating but the 1 vent in the room is not powerful enough to keep it warm", "How to keep my room warm in the winter with a lot of windows? My room has a lot of windows and during the winter my room can feel the same temperature as outside in some occasions. I have a space heater but is there any solution for something cheaper than a space heater? \n\nP.S. there is centralized heating but the 1 vent in the room is not powerful enough to keep it warm" ]

[ "You can purchase a clear heat shrink film to place over the windows (like Saran wrap/cling film)in the winter. I think it needs a hairdryer to shrink and you remove it in the spring/summer. Acts as another layer of glazing. \n\nAlso find any gaps in the frames and seal them. Again a hardware store can advise depending on the gaps.\n\nGood luck", "Insulated curtains, and if its drafty no matter how much sealing you have done a radiator style space heater will keep your room super toasty. ", "Can try some cheap honeycomb blinds. Single cell is cheaper than double cell. It helps insulate against the heat and cold. Can try at a home improvement store or online. Can be pricier than your “cheap” requirement, but if you’re going to be there for a while it might be worth it to not be freezing. ", "A few simple and cheap things may help. From my college days in a very cold and snowy place. Install plastic window draft seal to stop air leaks. Then hang heavy blankets over the film to insulate the window. Yes, it’ll be dark, but it’ll also keep out some cold and keep in some more warmth." ]

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[ "How to remove smoke build up from a wood stove glass window I've been using my wood stove often this season and the window has gone from clear to almost black. Regular glass cleaners had no affect nor did *GooGone*.", "How to remove smoke build up from a wood stove glass window I've been using my wood stove often this season and the window has gone from clear to almost black. Regular glass cleaners had no affect nor did *GooGone*.", "How to remove smoke build up from a wood stove glass window I've been using my wood stove often this season and the window has gone from clear to almost black. Regular glass cleaners had no affect nor did *GooGone*.", "How to remove smoke build up from a wood stove glass window I've been using my wood stove often this season and the window has gone from clear to almost black. Regular glass cleaners had no affect nor did *GooGone*." ]

[ "I just washed mine with damp newspaper dipped in ash. It makes a terrible (like nails on a chalkboard) sound, but gets the grit off. Then I followed up with vinegar. I did this while the glass was still warm.", "A chunk of cold charcoal from the fire dipped in water then scrubbed on the glass gets the stain off. Just make sure you have paper towel to catch the black drips and to wipe the glass when you're done (while it's still wet).", "0000 (4-0’s as in the super fine) steel wool. With elbow grease it will polish glass. It can also be used on car/ever windshields to repel bugs and water spots. https://youtu.be/3T2tan_4PYI. ", "Fireplace stores will have specific cleaner for this purpose. Used it quite often when I used to install/service wood stoves and the like. " ]

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[ "For clothes that are slightly too large, how to shrink them in a controlled manner. Usually this isn't something you are looking to do. It is something you try and avoid. However I recently bought a flannel shirt that is 100% cotton and it is slightly too large for me.\n\nI was hoping some of you on here would have some pointers on how to shrink it slightly in a controlled manner withouth ruining it. Hopefully that's possible :)", "For clothes that are slightly too large, how to shrink them in a controlled manner. Usually this isn't something you are looking to do. It is something you try and avoid. However I recently bought a flannel shirt that is 100% cotton and it is slightly too large for me.\n\nI was hoping some of you on here would have some pointers on how to shrink it slightly in a controlled manner withouth ruining it. Hopefully that's possible :)", "For clothes that are slightly too large, how to shrink them in a controlled manner. Usually this isn't something you are looking to do. It is something you try and avoid. However I recently bought a flannel shirt that is 100% cotton and it is slightly too large for me.\n\nI was hoping some of you on here would have some pointers on how to shrink it slightly in a controlled manner withouth ruining it. Hopefully that's possible :)", "For clothes that are slightly too large, how to shrink them in a controlled manner. Usually this isn't something you are looking to do. It is something you try and avoid. However I recently bought a flannel shirt that is 100% cotton and it is slightly too large for me.\n\nI was hoping some of you on here would have some pointers on how to shrink it slightly in a controlled manner withouth ruining it. Hopefully that's possible :)" ]

[ "Jeans and other thick-clothed clothes can be shrink-to-fit, but I doubt something like a flannel shirt would work well. Tailoring seems best.\n\nSimple tailoring: Flip it inside out and spread it out onto a smooth working surface. Place a well-fitting shirt on top and trace the border onto the big shirt. Then carefully sew along the lines. Flip it back around and you should be good to go.", "Honestly, you'd be best off taking them to a local alterations shop or even learning how to sew and altering them yourself. If the clothes are something you find valuable enough you want to continue to wear them even though they're too large, then the fee at the alterations shop won't seem so bad.\n\nAFAIK, there's not really a good way to shrink clothes in something like a washer or dryer reliably. ", "Go to a tailor. Don't just try washing and drying it with high heat. The proportions and quality of the clothing will be damaged, if not ruined.", "You can either get it fit to you at a local tailor (they usually charge around $10 for a simple shirt alteration) or you can find a friend who is handy with a sewing machine and barter with them for the service.\n\nFor example, I'm handy with a sewing machine and would be happy to take in shirts for my friends in return for help with plumbing, bike repair, someone strong enough to lift my mattress, etc.\n\nPS: Threadless did a tutorial on how to fit a collared/button down shirt to you, and there are a bazillion of them on Instructables." ]

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[ "how to deal with somebody that won’t stop talking? I have a coworker that just never stops talking. He ruins conversations, always derails them to talk about what he wants to talk about, and walking away is not an option. How can I deal with them in a kind way without snapping?", "how to deal with somebody that won’t stop talking? I have a coworker that just never stops talking. He ruins conversations, always derails them to talk about what he wants to talk about, and walking away is not an option. How can I deal with them in a kind way without snapping?", "how to deal with somebody that won’t stop talking? I have a coworker that just never stops talking. He ruins conversations, always derails them to talk about what he wants to talk about, and walking away is not an option. How can I deal with them in a kind way without snapping?", "how to deal with somebody that won’t stop talking? I have a coworker that just never stops talking. He ruins conversations, always derails them to talk about what he wants to talk about, and walking away is not an option. How can I deal with them in a kind way without snapping?", "how to deal with somebody that won’t stop talking? I have a coworker that just never stops talking. He ruins conversations, always derails them to talk about what he wants to talk about, and walking away is not an option. How can I deal with them in a kind way without snapping?", "how to deal with somebody that won’t stop talking? I have a coworker that just never stops talking. He ruins conversations, always derails them to talk about what he wants to talk about, and walking away is not an option. How can I deal with them in a kind way without snapping?", "how to deal with somebody that won’t stop talking? I have a coworker that just never stops talking. He ruins conversations, always derails them to talk about what he wants to talk about, and walking away is not an option. How can I deal with them in a kind way without snapping?" ]

[ "I tend to interrupt people like that when they speak over other people but let them away with it if they speak over me.\n\nDo it often enough and it (sometimes) becomes clearer to them how often the limit other people's speech. By only interrupting them when they speak over other people you keep it from becoming \"all about you\"\n\nThis needn't be impolite. Just clear. e.g. \"can I just stop you there John, you interrupted Alice before she finished speaking and I'd like to hear what she had to say\" or if they derail the convo into a different area \"sorry John can you hold that thought, I'd really like to hear what Alice has to say about [insert original topic]\"\n\nAlso, be willing to enter into a discussion with this person about their communication style and try explaining that you think they monopolise conversations, you respect what they have to say, but regret that they don't leave space for others to contribute. Confrontational issues like this can be a bit intimidating, but less so if you come at them from a perspective of compassion and respect rather than annoyance. So try to plan having the chat before they exhibit this tendency or you might be irritated at the time and this will reduce your ability to talk about it kindly.\n\nIf your going to chat about this with them, expect this person to feel defensive. Try and make it clear you're not attacking them and don't want to impact your relationship at work in any way. Identifying a flaw in yourself and bringing that into the discussion by way of an example can often disarm whoever you are criticising.\n\nYou might also try the \"sandwich\" method of crticism: say something complimentary, then introduce your criticism, and end with another compliment. This softens the blow of your criticism and makes it easier to enter and exit the discussion point.\n\n", "I had a coworker exactly like that. Would hijack staff meetings and no one could get a word in or if they did he would automatically criticize, even if he said the same thing a few minutes earlier. \n\nFinally at one meeting I had enough and told him forcefully to “Shut the F##k up!”. He did not respond well. We came within moments of coming to blows.\n\nIn retrospect I should have handled it better. But I think he got the message.", "I cross my arms into an X and say “No monologues”. Get in the habit of doing it every other coworker will appreciate it and the blabbermouth will be chastised and likely will stop it, lessen it or at least avoid you. If blabbermouth cops an attitude definitely keep doing it publicly.", "You're still talking, but I am done listening. Try it out on the wife, and see how this works first before trying it at work", "When they start yapping on and on, an old trick of mine is to drop something...keys, stapler, paper etc. It'll interrupt their train of thought & you can steer the conversation back to where you want.", "Probably not the best solution, but if I know the person who's about to talk to me will transform our conversation into a monologue the second they open their mouth, I beat them to their own game: I start talking to them first and I don't let them a second to answer back, until I end the conversation about 1 minute after it started with something like \"oh, and by the way, sorry I have to go now!\"\n\nJust be careful and make the difference between someone who needs to talk, and someone who's only interested in hearing themselves out loud.", "I try to use my body language to show that the conversation is over. I find myself leaning at a 45-degree angle trying to indicate the direction that I’d like to go if this person would just shut the fuck up. And then, I might even give him a verbal cue. “Surgery. Surgery. I’m late for surgery. I’m having my ears sewn shut.” - George Carlin" ]

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[ "how to gain more patience when dating? As in, not expecting things to move faster than your partner does and dealing with that difference in expected dating pace.", "how to gain more patience when dating? As in, not expecting things to move faster than your partner does and dealing with that difference in expected dating pace.", "how to gain more patience when dating? As in, not expecting things to move faster than your partner does and dealing with that difference in expected dating pace." ]

[ "I'm pretty sure you're a boy. Otherwise the question would be \"How to gain more time when dating?\"\nFor my experience. Talk to him/her from an **emotional** point of view.\n*It's much more effective*\n", "This cannot be rushed! Give hints that you are interested in doing the next thing, you want to do but give your partner the time", "If you guys are set on dating, and you are truly committed to each other, then it will happen at its own pace. When we first started dating, my wife made me wait almost 9 months to have sex. We've been together 8 years now and are married with a child. There are other ways to be intimate (the obvious ones) but women take many other things as intimate as well. Conversation and building up the trust is the only true way to take that next step. Maybe there is something in her past that is making her hesitant? Just open up and show some vulnerability and you may be surprised at the results." ]

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[ "How to stop losing stuff I am a high school student and I keep losing stuff like pens, erasers, money, books, my friends do not have this problem. Last weekend I bought 4 blue pens, 1 red pen and 1 black pen, now I only have 1 blue pen, 1 black pen and no red pen. Problem is, I cant keep track of where I take my stuff and where I put it. How do I better organise myself and keep all my stuff?", "How to stop losing stuff I am a high school student and I keep losing stuff like pens, erasers, money, books, my friends do not have this problem. Last weekend I bought 4 blue pens, 1 red pen and 1 black pen, now I only have 1 blue pen, 1 black pen and no red pen. Problem is, I cant keep track of where I take my stuff and where I put it. How do I better organise myself and keep all my stuff?", "How to stop losing stuff I am a high school student and I keep losing stuff like pens, erasers, money, books, my friends do not have this problem. Last weekend I bought 4 blue pens, 1 red pen and 1 black pen, now I only have 1 blue pen, 1 black pen and no red pen. Problem is, I cant keep track of where I take my stuff and where I put it. How do I better organise myself and keep all my stuff?", "How to stop losing stuff I am a high school student and I keep losing stuff like pens, erasers, money, books, my friends do not have this problem. Last weekend I bought 4 blue pens, 1 red pen and 1 black pen, now I only have 1 blue pen, 1 black pen and no red pen. Problem is, I cant keep track of where I take my stuff and where I put it. How do I better organise myself and keep all my stuff?" ]

[ "Yeah. What these people are saying about places for your stuff is true. \nI keep my pencil and eraser in my pocket, and have specific pockets in my backpack for things. So, if I need to find my graphing calculator, I know exactly where to look because it's always in that pocket.\nAnd if you get lazy and put something in the wrong place, just put it where it belongs where you get a change. Really, ultimately, you can be more lazy when you're organized because you don't have to backtrack to find things.", "I would have a specific place to put your pens, books, and money. For example, if you have a key holder to place your keys, try to put them there every time so you don't have to wonder where they are or search for them. For things like pens and school supplies, maybe have little bags where you place them. You can be as creative as possible but the point is to not have to think about where you place them since they have a specific place. Take care. ", "I had the same problem when I was in high school. What I did was, after every hour/period, I keep the pen in my pocket and the rest of my stationery in my bag. And if I ever give my pen to anyone, I make sure that Im giving a pen that is low or very low in ink. There's nothing to worry about. You get even more worried if you think more on this. Good luck.", "Buy a pencil case and return your writing utensils after every use. Clean your surrounding environment as I'm assuming your room is cluttered? Removing clutter and opening surface areas make personal management easier. Be sure to place your instruments and money in a safe location, there is a lot of petty thievery in highschool if you leave personal baggage unattended (gym, recital, band practice, etc.) Eat a better diet（make your own meal at home) because school food and fast food do not contribute much to your daily nutrition requirements。 A healthy diet leads to a healthy mind. " ]

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[ "How to politely accept money for doing a free favour? To avoid the awkward \"just take it\" debate and turning it down after helping a friend out.", "How to politely accept money for doing a free favour? To avoid the awkward \"just take it\" debate and turning it down after helping a friend out." ]

[ "Look them in the eyes, say thank you, take the money. I'm a bag boy who gets tipped frequently and it's seriously that simple.\n\nQuick ", "Just smile and say 'Are you sure? Thank you so much' Sometimes its less awkward to accept it with a smile then to do the whole 'No, please dont' thing. \n\nI waitress and people in Yorkshire seem to tip quite well, despite the thoughts that we're all poor farmers :') So I'm an expert at taking money from people " ]

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[ "Waking up full of sweat So every day I wake up, full of sweat. It feels fucking gross and if I decide to stay in bed for a couple minutes after waking up my skin gets sticky and it stays that way until I take a shower. I shower every day, but sometimes, mostly Sundays, I don't get to shower instantly after waking up because I have stuff to do (feed dog, cook, etc.) and I don't want to feel that way for 2-3 hours after getting up.\r\rP.S. The weird thing is that even if I leave the window open and sleep under a thin blanket in winter I still wake up sweaty as fuck. When I sleep over at a friends house or somewhere else, I don't sweat at all/only very little. ", "Waking up full of sweat So every day I wake up, full of sweat. It feels fucking gross and if I decide to stay in bed for a couple minutes after waking up my skin gets sticky and it stays that way until I take a shower. I shower every day, but sometimes, mostly Sundays, I don't get to shower instantly after waking up because I have stuff to do (feed dog, cook, etc.) and I don't want to feel that way for 2-3 hours after getting up.\r\rP.S. The weird thing is that even if I leave the window open and sleep under a thin blanket in winter I still wake up sweaty as fuck. When I sleep over at a friends house or somewhere else, I don't sweat at all/only very little. ", "Waking up full of sweat So every day I wake up, full of sweat. It feels fucking gross and if I decide to stay in bed for a couple minutes after waking up my skin gets sticky and it stays that way until I take a shower. I shower every day, but sometimes, mostly Sundays, I don't get to shower instantly after waking up because I have stuff to do (feed dog, cook, etc.) and I don't want to feel that way for 2-3 hours after getting up.\r\rP.S. The weird thing is that even if I leave the window open and sleep under a thin blanket in winter I still wake up sweaty as fuck. When I sleep over at a friends house or somewhere else, I don't sweat at all/only very little. " ]

[ "I would advise going to visit the doctor for a medical opinion because night sweats can indicate an underlying medical problem, some of which are very serious.\n\nI used to have hyperhidrosis and night sweats. I would start of with simple things like: getting Egyptian cotton or cotton bed sheets, check your heating isn't coming on throughout the night, open your window slightly before you sleep and consider a fan or dehumidifier for your room. For me, showering with moisturising shower gel before bed helped a lot.\n\nThis helped with my night sweats significantly. For the hyperhidrosis during the day i take propanolol for generalised sweating and use Aluminum Chloride roller for focal areas.\n\n", "I have the same problem too especially during the summertime.\nHere's what you do:\n\nGo to any store and buy 6 xl beach towels. 2 towels should be placed on your bed each night, one for your head and neck the other for your back and torso. Replace the towels each night and alternate with clean towels after each sleep session to prevent any infection. After, when you shower, get some hibiclens for your skin. It is an antiseptic that should brush away excess sweat odor, and bacteria . This is a temporary solution for the wet feeling. As for the sweating, you would have to see a doctor. Hope this helps. This should take care of bacteria induced acne too.", "Do you have a bed bug or waterproof cover on your bed under the sheets? Mine was making me sweat a lot and removing it was a good idea." ]

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[ "Perks of having a university email Any discounts, freebies, etc, I can take advantage of? \n\nI know Amazon has free Prime shipping: \nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/student/signup/info", "Perks of having a university email Any discounts, freebies, etc, I can take advantage of? \n\nI know Amazon has free Prime shipping: \nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/student/signup/info", "Perks of having a university email Any discounts, freebies, etc, I can take advantage of? \n\nI know Amazon has free Prime shipping: \nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/student/signup/info", "Perks of having a university email Any discounts, freebies, etc, I can take advantage of? \n\nI know Amazon has free Prime shipping: \nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/student/signup/info" ]

[ "On top of the free Amazon Prime for a year, once the trial runs out, you can renew for $40/year instead of $80. The only catch is that you can't \"share\" it with others as you normally could.\n\nAlso, if you go back in time, you could sign up for Facebook back when it was still exclusive.", "Wolfram|Alpha Pro costs $5 a month rather than 10-15, and MathWorks will give you MATLAB for $99 if you show them proof of your status as a student.", "A while ago Hulu+ offered week-long free trials, but that was extended to a month if you had a university email. It's small-but something.", "Dropbox gives you extra free space if you have a university email:\n\nAlways have your stuff when you need it with @Dropbox. Sign up for free! http://db.tt/RyIY4rY\n\nYou'll get a little bit extra from signing up with that link (full disclosure: so will I). \n\nI'm not 100% positive that they still give that extra space to university students, but they used to. You should get dropbox anyway.\n" ]

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[ "How to be less indecisive? I personally think I suck at decision making. I always wonder about the \"what if\" of the options. It can be as simple as not being able to choose an option on a menu, or as life changing as deciding what kind of job I want after graduation.", "How to be less indecisive? I personally think I suck at decision making. I always wonder about the \"what if\" of the options. It can be as simple as not being able to choose an option on a menu, or as life changing as deciding what kind of job I want after graduation.", "How to be less indecisive? I personally think I suck at decision making. I always wonder about the \"what if\" of the options. It can be as simple as not being able to choose an option on a menu, or as life changing as deciding what kind of job I want after graduation.", "How to be less indecisive? I personally think I suck at decision making. I always wonder about the \"what if\" of the options. It can be as simple as not being able to choose an option on a menu, or as life changing as deciding what kind of job I want after graduation.", "How to be less indecisive? I personally think I suck at decision making. I always wonder about the \"what if\" of the options. It can be as simple as not being able to choose an option on a menu, or as life changing as deciding what kind of job I want after graduation." ]

[ "Ok so someone mentioned flipping a coin. \nFor 1 year any decision I have that was yes/no or 2 options I flipped a coin. \nafter a year I had some cool stories and had a couple of decisions made badly for me.\nSo... If you flip a coin and you feel like you wanted it to land the other side, you choose the other side. It is as simple as that. If you don't have any feelings towards either side then you just go with what the coin says. Always works\n\n\nSource: coin flipped decisions for a year of my life.", "It's called analysis paralysis, and the Wikipedia article on it has some [useful tips](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analysis_paralysis#Preventing_and_overcoming) to overcome it. \n\nOnce you've made a decision, like picking something to eat from a menu, do you think so much about the other options that you're unable to enjoy the food you actually picked? In that case you could look into mindfulness, which will help you to appreciate the present more.", "Okay I read this article about deciding to get married: http://waitbutwhy.com/2016/09/marriage-decision.html\n\nScroll down to method 4\n\nBasically it says you might try to decide things with your head and your brain takes everything into account and tries to make the best decision, but there isn't always a best decision, so your brain won't really help. The article says that you have to try to make the decision more with your gut feeling, because that's just a yes or no answer. Hope this helped :)", "Make the decision quickly. The faster you make a decision the more satisfied you are with that decision. If you take a long time to make a tough decision, you be more likely to regret it later.", "I have indecisive issues sometimes. I carry a quarter around with me, and whenever I have to choose, I flip a coin for it, usually 2/3 wins. On occasion, while flipping for which decision to make, I decide the outcome and ultimately allow the decision to be final" ]

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[ "Entertain your dog indoor. Due to quarantine, I have been unable to walk my dog daily anymore. I have been trying to play with him in other ways to keep him active (fetching, tugging, teaching tricks), however every morning he's still looking forward to go outside and looks (incredibly) sad that he can't.\n\nHow do you entertain your pets indoor?", "Entertain your dog indoor. Due to quarantine, I have been unable to walk my dog daily anymore. I have been trying to play with him in other ways to keep him active (fetching, tugging, teaching tricks), however every morning he's still looking forward to go outside and looks (incredibly) sad that he can't.\n\nHow do you entertain your pets indoor?", "Entertain your dog indoor. Due to quarantine, I have been unable to walk my dog daily anymore. I have been trying to play with him in other ways to keep him active (fetching, tugging, teaching tricks), however every morning he's still looking forward to go outside and looks (incredibly) sad that he can't.\n\nHow do you entertain your pets indoor?", "Entertain your dog indoor. Due to quarantine, I have been unable to walk my dog daily anymore. I have been trying to play with him in other ways to keep him active (fetching, tugging, teaching tricks), however every morning he's still looking forward to go outside and looks (incredibly) sad that he can't.\n\nHow do you entertain your pets indoor?" ]

[ "Maybe you can order one of those toys on amazon where you hide treats and he has to solve puzzles to get to the treat! That could be good mental stimulation.", "Are you quarantined because you’re actually sick? \n\nI thought it was still encouraged for people to go outside, as long as you maintain distance from other people. Ive been seeing more people than ever walking their dogs and kids around the neighborhoods where I live.", "So I have a really good way to entertain your dogs *especially* during this time. Get a bunch of treats that you normally give them for training or etc and while the dogs are waiting in another room, hide them all over the place. Hide them in places they wouldn’t normally look or wouldn’t normally look in. Once you’ve hid all the treats have them come out to look for them. It’s a really fun and fascinating thing to watch them work for it.", "Not sure how big your place is but if there’s decent enough room for the dog to run around, get a laser pointer. You can shine it to one end of the room/house and then back to the other and your dog will be chasing it non stop for hours." ]

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[ "Just became 18 years old \nJust became 18 years old and am now considered an adult by law I guess, what information should I learn, and what can I do to make my life easier once I go to college?", "Just became 18 years old \nJust became 18 years old and am now considered an adult by law I guess, what information should I learn, and what can I do to make my life easier once I go to college?", "Just became 18 years old \nJust became 18 years old and am now considered an adult by law I guess, what information should I learn, and what can I do to make my life easier once I go to college?", "Just became 18 years old \nJust became 18 years old and am now considered an adult by law I guess, what information should I learn, and what can I do to make my life easier once I go to college?", "Just became 18 years old \nJust became 18 years old and am now considered an adult by law I guess, what information should I learn, and what can I do to make my life easier once I go to college?", "Just 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[ "Learn to cook!! Learn a few staple recipes and exactly what ingredients you need to make them. Understanding how to make yourself a few meals will make food shopping for yourself much easier and ensure that you're looking after yourself properly once you're living on your own.", "Learn how money works, especially debt, cr", "Talk less, listen more - the older you get the more you understand that other people have unique perspectives and insights.", "In college avoid the campus bookstore and its buyback kiosks. It is a system designed to milk you for money. Buy the books online, or read them at the campus library.", "100% work on your people and communication skills. No degree will matter if you don’t have the people skills to connect with anyone!", "Get educated, don’t buy into bullshit conspiracies and YouTube rabbit holes. Don’t be an asshole to strangers, assume that there is something **everybody** can teach you. Treat your loved ones well, let them know frequently that they are important to you. Go out of your way to do things for others. Start learning and mastering your passions, be them music, athletics, or whatever.", "Of all the things you will regret in life, the things you will regret the most are what you didn't do. Ask that person out, buy that ticket, join that party. And so far the thing I regret not doing at your age the most is taking up exercise seriously. I started crossfit at 39, and if I did that at 18 my life would have been drastically better.", "Don’t get into cr", "At age 18, avoid cr", "Invest yourself wholly in your endeavors. If you’re going to college, do it 100%. This does NOT mean don’t take time for yourself, it just means utilize resources, allot adequate time for your studies so you CAN have time for yourself without everything coming down to the wire. \nTake up some new things on your journey. Whether it be an instrument, reading, etc.. Exercise and take care of your physical self as well. I see a lot of people saying to learn how to cook and that’s one of the biggest things that will help you, not just as a baseline skill, but as an effective way to save some money, too.", "Agree with so many other posters. Assuming you do the right things; exert real effort to achieve your goals big or small (whether this means romance, fitness, grades, wealth, etc) the biggest thing to set you apart at this age is your general attitude. Reserve complaining, be enthusiastic when it’s called for, be kind, be generous whenever you can be when it costs you nothing, and try to operate with empathy DAILY. My belief is this will set up apart. \n\nClearly by even posting this question in the first place you are way ahead. I’m personally jazzed for you and this wonderful chapter in your life that you are just beginning.\n\nLove, \nNot your Mom but proud of you anyway", "The best way to describe adulthood is this:\n\n“You can have all the ice cream you want, but you have to pay for it, and you really can get sick afterwards.”", "1. You don't have to go to college. A machinist today is making more than doctors, lawyers, and the like. AND a machinist doesn't have to carry the liability insurance that those professions do. \nLearn a skill, learn a trade. You will command your future.", "Go to therapy, even if you have no mental health issues. It's always good to talk with an outside person about life and the problems there can be.", "Get yourself a Healthcare Proxy stat. It’s probably the last thing you want to do and I hope you’ll never need it. Now that you’re an adult, no one in your life (including your parents) can come save the day if you’re taken to the hospital and you’re unable to make your own health decisions.", "Can’t give you any important information but I can give you a little bit of life advice that might come in useful, especially when you go to college. \nEveryone feels like an imposter sometimes, like they’re the dumbest person in the room and don’t deserve to have a particular job/partner/college course. That’s normal, you’re fine. \n\nAlso when you drop something small like a screw don’t try and catch it, just watch it fall. Easier to find when you go to pick it up. P", "Several commenters (including myself) have commented on learning basic financial skills. One good, dense (that is lots of information without a lot of reading) source of financial advice for all sorts of situations is the wiki in r/personalfinance.", "You mentioned you work out. Continue doing so. Do not drink, as tempting as it is in college. Just do not drink. Lifelong teetotaler (non-drinker) here. Do. Not. Drink.", "Open a Roth IRA and invest whatever amount you can afford per month. I suggest a Fidelity go and they invest for you. You’ll retire with a lotta money in addition to the 401k your future employer provides and all that money is YOURS. Non taxable like a 401k when you start pulling funds at retirement.", "Make sure you don’t go to college if you don’t know if it is for you/consider community college for gen ed’s. A year to figure it out won’t kill. Take care of your mental and physical health, try not to let it slip, it only gets easier not to as you get older. Check your college for health services/counseling resources. Take advantage of opportunities. And breathe, we are all trying to figure it out.", "Look into a marketable skill in high demand. I know too many people with useless degrees, myself included. Fortunately, I stumbled into a high paying job in technology completely unrelated to my college degree.", "Learn to cook easy meals.\n\nLearn to budget even a simple budget helps.\n\nSave monthly, even a little.\n\nLearn to do laundry and clean up after yourself so things do not pile up. Usually causing more stress (having to do a massive clean).\n\nIf you have a car, Learn how to jump start a car/change a tire. \n\nBe kind to people especially in your dorm etc, having good friends is nice.", "Just like studying for school and doing assignments to learn it and be able to use the knowledge, go do your homework make a list, what do you do and what will you be doing, how will you do it, when will you do it? know your rights, and local resources on the off chance someone needs some help point them In the right direction. Look at the area what do you need to watch out for. in an emergency like job loss or something how will make cash? day labor. If you meet someone and your considering an intimate relationship are they talking right and what that is, is up to you if they talking right but you find there behaviors lead them another way recognize it so you know to not invest inaccurately know what it is and don't yield so much be adamant about what's right for you and well if your working towards being better off financially finish it and there's no time like the present to do something do what you can today so tomorrow there's less and you can do more and get further", "Couple things I've not seen anyone else mention. \n\nLearn to accept and allow yourself to feel emotions. I know this may sound silly, but if you're upset about something, allow yourself to be upset for a while. People will give you advice such as \"do something to take your mind off it\" - this is terrible advice and they only give it so they themselves don't have to watch you suffering. Pushing down your feelings will only lead to resentment in later life. On the flip side, if you're excited about something, don't be afraid to show it! If you're listening to music you love and wanna dance, do it. Life is much more enjoyable this way and others will see you as far more genuine.\n\nSecondly, learn how to say no. And learn how to mean it. Too many people don't know how to say no and are people pleasers and they turn out bitter and resentful until a breaking point and then their life spins out. If you can't or won't do something, say no and you don't need to explain. If someone can't accept being told no - thats their's to deal with.", "Before you sign something, read and understand it. Don’t understand? Don’t sign until you do. Your financial health, cr", "u/odif740 nailed it. \n\nLearn a trade. If in the US, register with the Selective Service and register to vote.\n\nThen, vote. Learn all you can about the candidates and decide who ***earns*** your vote.\n\nConsider becoming an electrician, a plumber. Then consider joining the Armed Forces with that as your job.\n\nTravel and see the world. Learn about different cultures, different ways of life.\n\nStay in 20 years and be the best damned electrician or plumber you can be. While in service take every course you can related to your skill. Invest and save your paycheck.\n\nThen, retire. With your retirement check being directly deposited into your checking account open up your own business, be your own boss, take the jobs you want to take and at age 38 your ticket is already punched. Press on, get married, have kids, and 58 retire for good.\n\nWhy electrician or plumber?\n\nThose skills will be in need long after you have met your maker.", "You don't have to go to college, but you do need post-high school education of some sort. If you don't go to college, learn a trade. If you do go to college, major in something that you don't mind doing as a career. \"Follow your passion\" isn't great advice if your passion isn't valued by society. \n\nAlso, start saving for retirement and investing early.", "There’s one important thing regarding cr", "The only thing that would have made my life easier when. I went away to college would have been to stay in the dorms. I stayed off campus and felt a bit out of the loop. Aside from that, pick a major that will lead to a career that pays well. I chose to ignore this and majored in something I was passionate about. I didn't care about money. Don't screw over the person that you will be in 20 years from now. Uphill battles are easy when you are 20 but it's fuckin hard at 40.", "Start a Roth IRA now. Even if it’s just with your spare change. It will turn into so much money by the time you retire you’ll be living it up.", "RE: exercise, don’t buy into what other people think you should do. The best exercise routine is the one that you actually stick to. That’s it. Get what I mean?\n\nRE: money, aspire to being the kind of person who feels no pressure to impress anyone with money. It might seem cool from the outside to flash luxury, but there is nothing cool about being beholden or controlled by others’ opinion of your status. Buy and invest in what truly matters to *you*. Forget the rest. \n\nRE: failing, giving something an honest try and failing at it is so so much better than over analyzing the situation and not trying anything at all. Use your head, but life isn’t there just for you to analyze it. Experience it. You’ll pick up some scars and bruises, but if you don’t do it then you’ll regret not having memories of being adventurous in your own way. Do not let this happen to you.\n\nRE: friends, aspire to keep company and friends who you truly admire. Who you truly feel are better than you in some way and inspire you to want to be better yourself. The emotions that can come with this like sometimes feeling inadequate and often feeling humbled can be a lot to handle, but if you’re the smarter person in the room then you’re in the wrong room. You’ll grow so much and you’ll feel safe keeping wise counsel from people you deeply trust know what they’re taking about.\n\nGood luck out there.", "Open a Roth IRA investment account as soon as you can. Even if you can only add $120 per year to it, that's only 10 bucks per month. \n\nAnd learn to budget. It will change your life I'd reccomend looking up YNAB to plan what you will do with any of your money.", "Open a Roth IRA account. Add the max amount of $6000 a year. By the time you’re 67 (retirement age), you’ll have earned with interest 1.74 million. All yours, tax free. Non-taxable by the govt. Calculator here: https://www.nerdwallet.com/investing/roth-ira-calculator", "My daughter is in her first semester of college. She is 3k miles from home.\n\nShe says \"go to class\".\n\nIt's easy to get distracted with parties and sleeping in because there is no one around to force you any more.\n\nBuild the habits early and stick to them.", "Make sure you have uninsured and underinsured motorist coverage on your insurance. There are a lot of junkies and poor people out on the roads that don’t have insurance. Also, always make sure you carry collision and property damage coverage. If your vehicle gets totaled, you can’t go to school you can’t go to work. And did I mention rental coverage? It’s not that expensive.", "Learn to sign you name properly. Learn about contracts and how you contract. Don't feel bad that you don't know a word your should know. Use law dictionaries everywhere.", "If you are going to school, know what you want to do. It will be a lot easier if you pick an area that you are stronger in. Also good advice for getting a job.", "Get your priorities straight and learn to budget. Learn to tell yourself \"no\" when you can't afford something or it's not in budget.\n\nOnce you get that control and can handle a cr", "Don't spend all that time and money on college unless you're financially well-off or your chosen field requires a degree. Trade schools are shorter and far less expensive.\n\nBeing assertive and learning to be okay with uncertainty are big parts of being an adult, too.", "Don't finance anything that depreciates. A TV a phone a car or anything like that is not going to feel worth it when you're at the end of the payment plan. Save financing for property and education. Everything else if you can't pay for it in total don't buy it. If you hunt yard sales and estate sales on the weekends you will find virtually anything you need for pennies on the dollar.", "Debt is not your friend! Learn proper financial management as soon as possible. Live on what you make (invest/save 10%) and avoid debt to the maximum extent possible", "Create a budget and stick to it. Make sure it includes savings. Doesn't have to be much starting small will help. \n\nDon't talk yourself into buying the nice new car because you can afford the $250/month payment over 84 months. Don't try to keep up appearances with those who do fund an extravagant looking lifestyle with debt. \n\nBut do make sure you budget to include fun experiences. There's nothing wrong with wanting to spend your vacation on a beach in Mexico, but traveling the world will help turn you into a more well rounded person.", "Cr", "Best time in your life to meet a good person to be in a relationship. Once you graduate you no longer will be surrounded by people trying to advance themselves. Find someone with real goals.", "Basic understanding of:\n- Taxes\n- Cooking\n- Repair and maintenance\n- Justice and Law / duties and rights. \n- Personnel finance and taking a loan.\n- Political system and voting\n\nThose are the things you should know AND so many other adults have trouble with.\nLearn this, and you've got a HUGE step up", "Avoid drinking alcohol excessively. I don’t know if it is bc of the alcohol but the time before I partied hard I could memories things so much better. Generally it’s better not too drink that much so be careful of group pressure.", "Mimic the behaviour and work ethic of people who you want to be like. Whether that's in wealth or health. \n \nOther than that I'd suggest investing time every day exercising, and I'd suggest learning how money work.\n\nIf you're not sure what to do then do whatever gives you dopamine, as long as it's a socially celebrated activity that promotes good health (like physical sports).\n \nRecognise we can die as a by-product of stress, but also it can help us develop crucial life skills. A lot of 18-24 year-olds kill themselves because of stress, often because they feel like they're letting people down. \nYou're not perfect, you will mess up, you will let people down and you will beat yourself up because of it, there's no shame in being human. \n \nWhat else... I guess learn your rights as a citizen so people don't walk all over you and you know when to defend yourself, physically or otherwise. \n \nIdk, you're young, go have fun, procreate.", "Don't go to college. I know this sounds odd but hear me out. You are much more likely to make more with a trade. At your age you will rise quickly if you buckle down and pay attention. Take pertinent classes aloof your journey to get to the next step." ]

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[ "How to study with absolute silence I've noticed the past 3 years, I can't stay in a room if the TV isn't playing, or the computer isn't on.\nDo you have any advice on how to improve my attention and refrain from having something to produce background noise while I'm studying?", "How to study with absolute silence I've noticed the past 3 years, I can't stay in a room if the TV isn't playing, or the computer isn't on.\nDo you have any advice on how to improve my attention and refrain from having something to produce background noise while I'm studying?", "How to study with absolute silence I've noticed the past 3 years, I can't stay in a room if the TV isn't playing, or the computer isn't on.\nDo you have any advice on how to improve my attention and refrain from having something to produce background noise while I'm studying?", "How to study with absolute silence I've noticed the past 3 years, I can't stay in a room if the TV isn't playing, or the computer isn't on.\nDo you have any advice on how to improve my attention and refrain from having something to produce background noise while I'm studying?" ]

[ "Mediate. Try it, it really changes the way you think for the better. Or, try reading a really good book that is exciting. I'd suggest Snow Crash, Wizard's First Rule, Thud,... Try doing things that are silent and disconnected from the computer. There are many things you can practice in silence.", "I can't listen to music or background noise as it destroys my concentration. I use a good pair of headphones and noisli.com. Mix some white noise of your choosing and the world is gone. (I personally use the fan and raise the volume just enough that I can't make out <insert noise>. ", "the TV isn't going to be on during your tests, so...\nI myself also needs that constant sound in the background as most ppl do,\nbut maybe as an in between, either try white noise or rain sounds.", "Listen to some relaxing music in the background. It won't have an impact on your concentration, but you stil have a background noise. You can find several Videos on Youtube." ]

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[ "How can I improve my conversations? I often get stuck at talking because of not knowing what to talk about. How can I keep the conversation flowing and have some topics to chat about? Also, is there anything else I should be aware of?", "How can I improve my conversations? I often get stuck at talking because of not knowing what to talk about. How can I keep the conversation flowing and have some topics to chat about? Also, is there anything else I should be aware of?", "How can I improve my conversations? I often get stuck at talking because of not knowing what to talk about. How can I keep the conversation flowing and have some topics to chat about? Also, is there anything else I should be aware of?", "How can I improve my conversations? I often get stuck at talking because of not knowing what to talk about. How can I keep the conversation flowing and have some topics to chat about? Also, is there anything else I should be aware of?", "How can I improve my conversations? I often get stuck at talking because of not knowing what to talk about. How can I keep the conversation flowing and have some topics to chat about? Also, is there anything else I should be aware of?", "How can I improve my conversations? I often get stuck at talking because of not knowing what to talk about. How can I keep the conversation flowing and have some topics to chat about? Also, is there anything else I should be aware of?" ]

[ "The advice already given is excellent. As someone who is rather private and don’t like to talk about myself too much, I would also add, be aware of current events or news. But not just aware of them also think about those current events or issues caused by those events. Have an opinion about them and this may prompt the other person to offer their opinion and so on and so forth.", "Simply ask questions. \n\nBut, avoid asking about work or \"what do you do for a living?\" Instead, ask about hobbies or their opinion on movies, music, sports. \n\nKeep it light. Never bring up politics or religion. Always let some other idiot do that!", "Show interest in the other person rather than your self. You will soon find common ground. “Really? In that case I’d be interested to know what you think about the situation with…”", "Pick something easy like \"Man I had the best [food product] the other day, at [place], it was great because [why you liked it]...\" This is a softball because *every human eats* and chances are every person will respond to that. There's many openings for others to mention either food, or the place, or what they like instead.", "You can never go wrong by asking a person how everything is going. Follow up with asking what they’ve been up to. If they mention a problem or an issue that you’ve dealt with , there’s your conversation piece. Remember everybody is a person with a life and we can all find something in common.", "Ask open ended questions, ones that invoke more than yes or no answers. Practice Interviewing friends and family, use an interview technique on new people you meet. Listen, nod, smile confirm with body language you really feel what they are saying. If you want to hear more, throw in mmmm and hmms or huhs to signal your still interested. Sometimes repeating the last few words of what they just said with an upward inflection as a question. Keeping quiet also can be a way to have them give more info or talk more. Look for something in the room, comment on it.. art, sounds, beauty, maybe compliment or take interest in something they wear, or own. The more you can connect on similarities between you and rhwm the more closer you both become. Try talking about ideas or aspirations and ask about theirs. Stay positive and confident, it's attractive. Opening up and showing vulnerability can be too, it can deepen the relationship as well. Take interest in their interest, even if you're not interested. I think the secret is to be less prepared with a script and topics but more so relax and feel through it.\n\nAlso, Practicing a 20-30 second elevator speech about yourself and your skillset or trades, things you like or are good at offering could be useful in professional meet and greet functions." ]

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[ "How to support someone trying to lose weight. My SO wants to lose weight. I want him to be happier and healthier, but tbh I am attracted to how he is now. I know I'm not helping him by being biased this way or dismissing it when he says he's fat. So how can I support him?", "How to support someone trying to lose weight. My SO wants to lose weight. I want him to be happier and healthier, but tbh I am attracted to how he is now. I know I'm not helping him by being biased this way or dismissing it when he says he's fat. So how can I support him?", "How to support someone trying to lose weight. My SO wants to lose weight. I want him to be happier and healthier, but tbh I am attracted to how he is now. I know I'm not helping him by being biased this way or dismissing it when he says he's fat. So how can I support him?" ]

[ "Join him in his quest. This can be as simple as being willing to change what you would normally eat as well. Don't insist that your diet remain unchanged just because you are content with yourself.\n\n", "Do things with him that don't involve eating. Like I am thrilled if my husband comes hiking with me or similar. Also don't make him exercise his will power, it drives me INSANE when my husband offers me something awful when I am trying to loose weight as then I have to make the conscious effort to say no instead of just not having that issue in the first place. ", "You've already realized your problem, but you have to reassure him and be supportive of him. Distract him from food, eat healthier with him, go to the gym with him. \n\nBut if he truly wants to lose weight, don't interfere. It's selfish to put his health ahead of your desires." ]

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[ "How to get people to tidy up after themselves There's loads of advice on the internet about living with messy people which usually boils down to 'make a cleaning rota'. But how do you encourage people to tidy up as they go along without nagging? I don't want their dinner plates and other mess sitting around in the living room for 24 hours until it is their time to put it away.", "How to get people to tidy up after themselves There's loads of advice on the internet about living with messy people which usually boils down to 'make a cleaning rota'. But how do you encourage people to tidy up as they go along without nagging? I don't want their dinner plates and other mess sitting around in the living room for 24 hours until it is their time to put it away.", "How to get people to tidy up after themselves There's loads of advice on the internet about living with messy people which usually boils down to 'make a cleaning rota'. But how do you encourage people to tidy up as they go along without nagging? I don't want their dinner plates and other mess sitting around in the living room for 24 hours until it is their time to put it away.", "How to get people to tidy up after themselves There's loads of advice on the internet about living with messy people which usually boils down to 'make a cleaning rota'. But how do you encourage people to tidy up as they go along without nagging? I don't want their dinner plates and other mess sitting around in the living room for 24 hours until it is their time to put it away.", "How to get people to tidy up after themselves There's loads of advice on the internet about living with messy people which usually boils down to 'make a cleaning rota'. But how do you encourage people to tidy up as they go along without nagging? I don't want their dinner plates and other mess sitting around in the living room for 24 hours until it is their time to put it away.", "How to get people to tidy up after themselves There's loads of advice on the internet about living with messy people which usually boils down to 'make a cleaning rota'. But how do you encourage people to tidy up as they go along without nagging? I don't want their dinner plates and other mess sitting around in the living room for 24 hours until it is their time to put it away.", "How to get people to tidy up after themselves There's loads of advice on the internet about living with messy people which usually boils down to 'make a cleaning rota'. But how do you encourage people to tidy up as they go along without nagging? I don't want their dinner plates and other mess sitting around in the living room for 24 hours until it is their time to put it away." ]

[ "Lead by example, if you just spend your time cleaning the unwanted mess, then either they're just shitty people who don't have a self conscience, or in time they'll start feeling bad that you have to clean there shit because they don't want to live in filth, and habits rub off on people, I speak from experience because it has worked for me :) There is also some scientific evidence that rewards don't work like we think. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SuGRgdJA_c&feature=youtu.be&t=1h27m46s ", "Simple, it's called operant conditioning. Reinforce the behaviours you want to see more of. For example complementing them when they are washing, cleaning or tidying will pay far better dividends in the long term change of their behaviour. Empirical research backs this up, punishment or passive aggressive responses won't yield much success.", "Are we talking about college room-mates who split the rent, your own kids, teenagers, a marriage partner? \n\nI'd imagine strategies for all of these would be quite different.", "If you've tried all the polite approaches without success, pile their dirty dishes and trash up in their bed or in front of the door to their room after a reasonable wait period. If they say something, say that you didn't think it was fair to let the clutter affect the common areas you all share, so it made more sense for the clutter to be moved to their own personal space. Simply by virtue of them saying something to you about it, they're admitting that they don't want the clutter affecting them, which validates your point that you don't want the clutter affecting you. If they ask why you didn't just put the dishes in the sink or wash them or throw the trash away, tell them you're not their mother and that they appear on the outside to be grown men. If you've tried everything polite and don't escalate it somehow and change the payoff result for the unwanted behavior, they are highly unlikely to change the behavior. ", "The truth is that no-one likes being bullied or even gently manipulated into doing something they don't want to do. Accept that many things in a share house aren't exactly the way you would like them if this was your own house.", "The advice I got was to use positive reinforcement = a reward for clean rooms. And to always clean up the room a little bit when you/they leave it. ", "Put their shit in a box and place it on their bed. Works every time. \n\nIf you're a jerk, don't include the box. " ]

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[ "How do you avoid being underappreciated I often find that my work goes unnoticed by teachers and am wondering how to change that. In other words, how can I make them notice what I do?", "How do you avoid being underappreciated I often find that my work goes unnoticed by teachers and am wondering how to change that. In other words, how can I make them notice what I do?" ]

[ "They have to notice your work to grade it. If they're not grading your work, that's a whole other problem.", "Communicate. About 30 minutes before you leave work, let them know what has already been done and ask whether or not there's anything else that you can do within that time frame." ]

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[ "how to tell someone to stop giving you advice and suggesting things when they're just trying to help? We've all had it where someones just trying to help but they basically dont have a clue. How do I politely say stop.", "how to tell someone to stop giving you advice and suggesting things when they're just trying to help? We've all had it where someones just trying to help but they basically dont have a clue. How do I politely say stop." ]

[ "One thing I've done is say \"Thanks for your input. I'll keep it in mind.\" It reaffirms that the decision is yours while signaling that the advice-giving period is over.", "Depends on the importance and the amount of damage this person could cause with their mis-advice.\n\nIf a slight annoyance, something along the lines of \"thanks, but no thanks\" would suffice for me. If persistent, I would take them aside and let them know why they're not being helpful. \"Look, I know you think you're being helpful, but none of this advice would have benefitted anyone\" and give reasons why.\n\nIf hugely important and their bad advice could cause great damage to someone or something, I believe it's better to tell them off. I'm in the military, so damage means lives lost and \"telling off\" involves expletives and other colorful language. " ]

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[ "How to answer the question \"What is your greatest achievement/accomplishment?\" My wife is a dental assistant. Twice now on interviews she has been asked this question. What are they looking for? She is very disciplined and self motivated and an asset at her previous job. Good references and all, but nothing she can think of feels brag worthy. She asked me for suggestions on how to answer this question and I have none. Our answers end up either underwhelming or way too personal. What do you suggest?", "How to answer the question \"What is your greatest achievement/accomplishment?\" My wife is a dental assistant. Twice now on interviews she has been asked this question. What are they looking for? She is very disciplined and self motivated and an asset at her previous job. Good references and all, but nothing she can think of feels brag worthy. She asked me for suggestions on how to answer this question and I have none. Our answers end up either underwhelming or way too personal. What do you suggest?" ]

[ "* Has she ever had a hard time achieving a goal, target, or promotion at work that she managed to attain?\n* Has she ever been involved in a conflict or disagreement in a professional or semi-professional environment that she was able to resolve, especially without involving a mediator?\n* Has she ever taken on a project at a job or in the community that she can *own*, and say she left her mark on (even if it's only a temporary result or small-scale project)?\n* Does she volunteer at all? Any sort of volunteer work can be used to answer this question in an interview, even it's as simple as working in a soup kitchen a few nights a month or picking up garbage in a public park over a weekend.", "I have used this question on interviews. Answers have been: first to go to college in family, got a college degree, promoted after 6 months, recognized as employee of the month or similar, saved someone's life. I'll look to see what others have said. " ]

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[ "Bad Breath I have suffered from bad breath for the last 5 days that smells + tastes like cat shit. It's definitely not coming from my mouth (no cavities [dont drink fizzy drinks], no tonsil stones, I've cleaned my tongue for years). I can use mouth wash and still \"taste\" the odor directly after.\n\nSo I think it's coming from my stomach/throat. \n\nMore info: the taste is not as bad when I first wake up. There might be a correlation that the odor becomes pronounced soon after eating. Sometimes the odor seemingly randomly pops up, even when I'm chewing gum.", "Bad Breath I have suffered from bad breath for the last 5 days that smells + tastes like cat shit. It's definitely not coming from my mouth (no cavities [dont drink fizzy drinks], no tonsil stones, I've cleaned my tongue for years). I can use mouth wash and still \"taste\" the odor directly after.\n\nSo I think it's coming from my stomach/throat. \n\nMore info: the taste is not as bad when I first wake up. There might be a correlation that the odor becomes pronounced soon after eating. Sometimes the odor seemingly randomly pops up, even when I'm chewing gum.", "Bad Breath I have suffered from bad breath for the last 5 days that smells + tastes like cat shit. It's definitely not coming from my mouth (no cavities [dont drink fizzy drinks], no tonsil stones, I've cleaned my tongue for years). I can use mouth wash and still \"taste\" the odor directly after.\n\nSo I think it's coming from my stomach/throat. \n\nMore info: the taste is not as bad when I first wake up. There might be a correlation that the odor becomes pronounced soon after eating. Sometimes the odor seemingly randomly pops up, even when I'm chewing gum.", "Bad Breath I have suffered from bad breath for the last 5 days that smells + tastes like cat shit. It's definitely not coming from my mouth (no cavities [dont drink fizzy drinks], no tonsil stones, I've cleaned my tongue for years). I can use mouth wash and still \"taste\" the odor directly after.\n\nSo I think it's coming from my stomach/throat. \n\nMore info: the taste is not as bad when I first wake up. There might be a correlation that the odor becomes pronounced soon after eating. Sometimes the odor seemingly randomly pops up, even when I'm chewing gum." ]

[ "Do you have gums which like to bleed? \n\nThe problem might be your gums or your throat harboring bacteria. Try flossing to \"probe\" your gums to see if they are the problem, if you get some smelly rotten blood coming out, you need to see an oral hygienist. \n\nEither way a mouthwash/toothpaste with anti-gingavitis, and anti-plaque (CPC and Triclosan) couldn't hurt (you're probably getting enough fluoride in your water and toothpaste). If you think it's coming from your throat make sure you gargle that mouthwash to get around your epiglottis. Clean your tongue well around this time, don't go to sleep with blood, sugar, or tar in your mouth. \n\nIf it's your stomach, cleaning your mouth well and drinking a cup of water will let you know. If you burp and it tastes like cat shit, it's in your stomach. \n\nYou need to work your way down though, start with your gums and work down. Oh and if you smoke cigs- Stop it easier said than done I know.. but it makes environments more pleasant for bacteria and suppresses your mouth's natural immune responses. \n\n", "this could be dry mouth from diabetes or allergy medication. either way, as top comment said - you need to go see a doctor - for all you know, you've got Esophagous Smelititis.", "I take peppermint oil pills for my stomach when it's not feeling so great but it also helps with the smell of my breath I noticed", "Did you use dental floss? If not, try this if the smell gets worse a lot, floss everything, use a mouth wash and wait a day. Keep doing this for some days, if it persists, see a doctor." ]

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[ "Simple ways/things to do to improve your self confidence? Been very self-depreciating, so advice or suggestions on what do would be appreciated.", "Simple ways/things to do to improve your self confidence? Been very self-depreciating, so advice or suggestions on what do would be appreciated." ]

[ "Think about things you are good at. Others notice more than you think they do. \n\nThink about things you're not good at. Others don't notice as much as you think they do. ", "watch a shitload of motivational video's on youtube. Here's [one](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uh1-W9d6ad8) to start with!\n" ]

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[ "How can i make my apartment \"permanently\" smell good? I love lighting candles in my apartment (favorite scent: Apple Orchard) to make it smell great but I'm looking for any ways to make it smell good without having to constantly light a candle. Not necessarily forever but just long lasting.", "How can i make my apartment \"permanently\" smell good? I love lighting candles in my apartment (favorite scent: Apple Orchard) to make it smell great but I'm looking for any ways to make it smell good without having to constantly light a candle. Not necessarily forever but just long lasting.", "How can i make my apartment \"permanently\" smell good? I love lighting candles in my apartment (favorite scent: Apple Orchard) to make it smell great but I'm looking for any ways to make it smell good without having to constantly light a candle. Not necessarily forever but just long lasting.", "How can i make my apartment \"permanently\" smell good? I love lighting candles in my apartment (favorite scent: Apple Orchard) to make it smell great but I'm looking for any ways to make it smell good without having to constantly light a candle. Not necessarily forever but just long lasting.", "How can i make my apartment \"permanently\" smell good? I love lighting candles in my apartment (favorite scent: Apple Orchard) to make it smell great but I'm looking for any ways to make it smell good without having to constantly light a candle. Not necessarily forever but just long lasting." ]

[ "Have a pot of water boiling(I use a cast iron pot on my wood stove) and place things like cinnamon sticks or even essential oils in the water. The aromas fill the house with whatever scents you apply. But don't let the water evaporate, everything will burn and your house will smell like doodoo.", "Air Wick Freshmatic Automatic Spray Air Freshener, Starter Kit, Life Scents Summer Delights, Gadget + 1 Refill, 6.17 oz https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00QIVDY9Y/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_5DEpybRJYWCPQ\n\nThis is my favorite thing ever for consistent good-smelling-ness; I like lighting incense and scented candles or boiling a cinnamon stick with some orange peels but this is the easiest and I highly recommend it!!", "I've never tried this, but a friend said he would \"freshen up\" his dorm room by attaching dryer sheets to a fan.", "Deep clean everything periodically (I do it every 4-6 times I clean)...It will take a while, but get an old toothbrush and clean out every seam, grout line, and corner. Keep the walls and baseboards clean, too. For a bathroom, throw out the old toilet seat, clean the whole thing with bleach, and put on a new toilet seat (they're like $20-25). Vacuum the seam between the wall and floor with the hose part if you notice it getting dusty. Change your sheets at least once a week and, if you can (I know using a laundromat is an expensive pain in the ass), wash your blankets every other time you clean your sheets (or have two sets so you don't have to wash each one as often). Take out your trash regularly. If you make shrimp, put the shells in a ziplok bag before throwing them out, so they don't sink until you take the trash out. I like Clorox spray because it doesn't smell like straight-up bleach but also doesn't have an overpowering perfume smell.\n\nApartments are tough because there's a chance the last few tenants never deep-cleaned, so you might be removing years worth of other people's dirt, but any improvement will be good. If your apartment smells bad, removing the dirt will do way more than any candle or deodorizer will do.", "Boil your favorite potpourri and let the steam carry through the house. It will be strong while you boil it, but the steam will start to permeate into porous objects and hold the scent. You'll still have to renew the smell occasionally by boiling more, but after a while it just lingers." ]

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[ "sunburn through thinning hair I am 31 and am slowly but surely losing my hair. I'm not at a point where I want to get rid of it yet. But on Saturday I did yardwork all day in the sun and my scalp is pink now. Any advice or suggestions on how to take care of this would be appreciated.", "sunburn through thinning hair I am 31 and am slowly but surely losing my hair. I'm not at a point where I want to get rid of it yet. But on Saturday I did yardwork all day in the sun and my scalp is pink now. Any advice or suggestions on how to take care of this would be appreciated.", "sunburn through thinning hair I am 31 and am slowly but surely losing my hair. I'm not at a point where I want to get rid of it yet. But on Saturday I did yardwork all day in the sun and my scalp is pink now. Any advice or suggestions on how to take care of this would be appreciated.", "sunburn through thinning hair I am 31 and am slowly but surely losing my hair. I'm not at a point where I want to get rid of it yet. But on Saturday I did yardwork all day in the sun and my scalp is pink now. Any advice or suggestions on how to take care of this would be appreciated." ]

[ "In future, I would wear a hat while outside, even if only for a short amount of time. Plus hats will keep you cooler while working in the sun.", "You should wear a hat. \n\nLike this one\nhttp://cdn.kinsmangarden.com/images/large/HATL.jpg\n\nStylish 'stashe optional.", "I'm a ginger and I frequently burn my hairline. I remember reading an article that said a good solution for this is using hairspray that has SPF, but I'm not entirely sure which products actually have it. Even if you're a man, a spritz of hairspray if you can find some with SPF might be worth avoiding sunburn. ", "As a fellow baldie I can sympathise. it is a pretty strange and slightly different pain when you get sun burn on you head for the first time\nyou can put sun block on your bald patch. there are after sun products to take the heat out of burnt skin" ]

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[ "How to relive a stiff neck. I have been getting horribly stiff necks lately, and I was wondering if anybody knew any ways to help releve the pain.", "How to relive a stiff neck. I have been getting horribly stiff necks lately, and I was wondering if anybody knew any ways to help releve the pain.", "How to relive a stiff neck. I have been getting horribly stiff necks lately, and I was wondering if anybody knew any ways to help releve the pain." ]

[ "try taking a bath in epsom salts, it soothes muscles. Every horseback rider's secret weapon against muscle aches!", "Try shiatsu. Run your fingers over the neck, find a muscle, push on it laterally for about 20 secs. The point is tight muscles have a breaking point where they eventually release.\n\nI'm not a a masseus or hciropractor.", "I've always tried clicking my neck. I do not advise you do this as it's become a habit, and I'm evermore clicking it further and more often. Sometimes it feel *so* good though." ]

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[ " How to look better in photos. Any Life Pro Tips on how to look better in photos? There's another thread saying don't slouch to look 10 lbs lighter. \n\nOne I know of is look slightly above the camera lense to make your eyes not droop. Anyone else have any? (body positioning, angles etc?)", " How to look better in photos. Any Life Pro Tips on how to look better in photos? There's another thread saying don't slouch to look 10 lbs lighter. \n\nOne I know of is look slightly above the camera lense to make your eyes not droop. Anyone else have any? (body positioning, angles etc?)", " How to look better in photos. Any Life Pro Tips on how to look better in photos? There's another thread saying don't slouch to look 10 lbs lighter. \n\nOne I know of is look slightly above the camera lense to make your eyes not droop. Anyone else have any? (body positioning, angles etc?)", " How to look better in photos. Any Life Pro Tips on how to look better in photos? There's another thread saying don't slouch to look 10 lbs lighter. \n\nOne I know of is look slightly above the camera lense to make your eyes not droop. Anyone else have any? (body positioning, angles etc?)", " How to look better in photos. Any Life Pro Tips on how to look better in photos? There's another thread saying don't slouch to look 10 lbs lighter. \n\nOne I know of is look slightly above the camera lense to make your eyes not droop. Anyone else have any? (body positioning, angles etc?)", " How to look better in photos. Any Life Pro Tips on how to look better in photos? There's another thread saying don't slouch to look 10 lbs lighter. \n\nOne I know of is look slightly above the camera lense to make your eyes not droop. Anyone else have any? (body positioning, angles etc?)" ]

[ "Jut your chin forward when a picture is being taken. Not like you have an underbite, but like your whole head is sliding forward. Don't angle it. This helps define the chin and avoids those dreaded neck rolls. Works best if the shot is head on. If from the side, press your tongue against the roof of your mouth like you're getting rid of a brain freeze. It pulls the underside of your chin up. The heavier set you are, the more pronounced the effect. Raise your chin a little too to reduce the amount of forehead being captured, especially if you have a fivehead.\n\nPull your shoulders back, like you're trying to touch your shoulder blades together. This helps your neck look more prominent, puffs out your chest, and clears up the area around your head so you don't look like you have linebacker shoulders. Helps you look significantly more confident. Helps to pretend your head and shoulders are a coat hanger and the rest of your body is just dangling from it. Keeps you fluid and avoids awkward tensing up.\n\nPractice your smile. A standard symmetrical smile like most people use almost always looks forced or staged. A crooked asymnetrical smile has character and tends to look more organic. Also, remember a real smile activates the muscles around your eyes as well as the ones around your mouth, so don't be afraid to crinkle your eyes. Silly looking but organic > normal looking but forced. \n\nIf your hands are in your pockets, let your thumb hang out so you don't look like you have growths on your hips. Keep your hands out of your pockets as much as possible, but if you HAVE TO, remember, when in doubt, ~~pinky~~ thumb out.\n\nDon't overdo it obviously, or you'll end up looking like youre trying too hard. \n\nMost of these are things I learned from portrait photography, but can easily be adapted to snapshots, assuming you have a bit of a heads up. ", "Practice your smile. I spent 30 minutes figuring out whats best for me and now I take consistently good photos. Every time I leave the bathroom, I smile in the mirror- it improves my attitude and keeps the muscle memory for what looks good. ", "Only look into the camera if it's a staged photo. That means that getting your picture taken should not distract you from whatever you're doing (that ultimately should be more interesting). You want to look like you always look good without trying right?", "I learned from my aunt's neighbor- who used to do modeling in her heydays- is tilt your head up or down to be even with the way the camera is being held. \"lead with your eyes and the rest of your face follows\" and she suggested that you actually tuck your chin down slightly with your shoulders back and lead with your eyes. It's hard to explain in text but that piece of advice has made me 1000x more photogenic when i got it in middle school and everyone in my family has noticed the difference. \n\n\nAlso, I give a different kind of smile for every picture. Sometimes I'm not smiling at all (though im not making mad or mean faces- just something neutral) It's just always something different.", "Find a few photos of yourself that you look bad in, some that you look good in, and some that you look great in. Practice in front of a mirror trying to recreate each. \n\nAlso bear in mind that a degree of what you look like in a picture is more than just posture. You could be sick, could have just eaten, just exercised, just woke up, you may have gained (or lost) 5 lbs in the last month, your clothes may be ill suited for taking a picture, etc.", "Another redditor a while back suggested pressing your tongue against the roof of your mouth to remove the double chin look. Seems fairly effective." ]

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[ "good online to-do lists that also sync well with your phone? ADD meds can only get you so far. To do lists help me a lot, but sometimes I lose them if they are just written on paper, or I just have a huge list of stuff to get done with no priority assigned, so I focus on the stuff I want to do, not the stuff I need to do. \n\nSo far I've dabbled in:\n\n •\n[Workflowy](https://workflowy.com/)\n\n •\n[producteev](http://www.producteev.com/)\n\n •\n[Toodledo](http://www.toodledo.com/)\n\n \n**TLDR; I'm trying to find the best online to do list, but there are loads of them, and am hoping that the LPT community might have had some luck and hopefully some solid recommendations!**", "good online to-do lists that also sync well with your phone? ADD meds can only get you so far. To do lists help me a lot, but sometimes I lose them if they are just written on paper, or I just have a huge list of stuff to get done with no priority assigned, so I focus on the stuff I want to do, not the stuff I need to do. \n\nSo far I've dabbled in:\n\n •\n[Workflowy](https://workflowy.com/)\n\n •\n[producteev](http://www.producteev.com/)\n\n •\n[Toodledo](http://www.toodledo.com/)\n\n \n**TLDR; I'm trying to find the best online to do list, but there are loads of them, and am hoping that the LPT community might have had some luck and hopefully some solid recommendations!**" ]

[ "Omnifocus - a little on the pricey side, but has a mac, iPhone and iPad version. It integrates really well with other omnigroup programs (obviously) and makes it easy to create a task from say an email, or a line of text from a website. The iPhone and iPad version can also track where you are and if you've setup your tasks to have an associated area it can tell you when you're in the vicinity of a place where you can complete a task. ", "Cozi has a free mobile app and they have to-do lists, grocery lists and a few other things. Its very well organized. You can even synch up calenders if your school has them online." ]

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[ "Buying Your First Suit. I am a junior in college and need a suit for a wedding. Since I will probably be needing one soon anyway for interviewing and conferences I figured I might as well buy one and have it last for a while. My dad wants me to go to Jos. A Bank since I go to college far from home. Is it worth it to get a tailored suit at this age? Can I get a suit that will last me a while?", "Buying Your First Suit. I am a junior in college and need a suit for a wedding. Since I will probably be needing one soon anyway for interviewing and conferences I figured I might as well buy one and have it last for a while. My dad wants me to go to Jos. A Bank since I go to college far from home. Is it worth it to get a tailored suit at this age? Can I get a suit that will last me a while?", "Buying Your First Suit. I am a junior in college and need a suit for a wedding. Since I will probably be needing one soon anyway for interviewing and conferences I figured I might as well buy one and have it last for a while. My dad wants me to go to Jos. A Bank since I go to college far from home. Is it worth it to get a tailored suit at this age? Can I get a suit that will last me a while?", "Buying Your First Suit. I am a junior in college and need a suit for a wedding. Since I will probably be needing one soon anyway for interviewing and conferences I figured I might as well buy one and have it last for a while. My dad wants me to go to Jos. A Bank since I go to college far from home. Is it worth it to get a tailored suit at this age? Can I get a suit that will last me a while?", "Buying Your First Suit. I am a junior in college and need a suit for a wedding. Since I will probably be needing one soon anyway for interviewing and conferences I figured I might as well buy one and have it last for a while. My dad wants me to go to Jos. A Bank since I go to college far from home. Is it worth it to get a tailored suit at this age? Can I get a suit that will last me a while?" ]

[ "I strongly recommend getting a tailored suit now. I am in my final semester of college and have had a use for my suit 5 times in the past 2 weeks. The investment is definitely worth it! ", "[Here](http://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/comments/e96hr/psa_guide_to_suits/) is MFA's guide to suits, it is extensive but definitely a worthwhile read. Also, I would read some of the top comments for more information.", "If you don't have a lot of experience wearing/owning suits, then I personally do not recommend spending a fortune on your first one - buy off the rack for a relatively lower price and then bring it to a tailor. Give yourself some time to get to know your preferred suit style - things like color, single/double-breasted, etc. - once you're pretty firm on your preferences from experience, then fork out the cash for something nicer.", "I would say that you are at a good age to get a suit properly fitted and tailored. You're going to be entering the job market soon, and it's always a good idea to have a good classic suit for interviews, formal meetings etc even though many offices don't really require one for everyday wear. At your age, your body shape should be relatively stable for a while and so a suit purchased now should fit for a while.", "As someone who is graduating from college and has worked in Washington DC for a few years- where everyone wears a suit all of the time- I would suggest a few things.\n\nFirst when you walk into a store, you are going to be overwhelmed. I would advise bringing a girl with you in order to get some sound advice and not get sold on an overly expensive item by someone who works on commission.\n\nSecond, If you are going to Jos A, look into the sales that are going on (buy one get one ect) but do not be fooled- they will sell you a very overpriced thousand dollar suit to compensate for the fact you are getting two. Be extra wary that what you are looking at is a suit, and not a blazer (that costs $500) which needs a pair of pants ($200 at Jos A). \n\nWhen it comes to size- you should look to wear something that is smaller as opposed to larger to start with. (If you have ever seen someone in a suit on a magazine cover, they have extremely tight fitting suits, often with clips on the backside to ensure its entirely form fitting. Suits are viewed as lingerie for men- A well fitted suit is the sexiest thing a man can wear to women.) Think of your suit like dressing up as women do,- It should not be as comfortable as jeans and an oxford, you're trying to look good.\n\nTailoring is going to run you around $100-200 at a good tailor (Do NOT cheap out on the tailoring, it is virtually the most important part) if the store does not tailor. I would not trust the tailor at Jos A, the salesmen are not great at measuring. Stick with someone whose profession is based off making your clothes fit.\n\nSuits will last you years. You have to think about this as an investment. Stick to dark blue, because black suits are best suited for funerals. Dark Grey is also a good pick, but navy is the most utilitarian of choices.\n\nEnjoy the wedding, and don't feel bad about looking dapper at it." ]

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[ "Stinky feet in shoes? I've never had a problem with my shoes smelling before. But recently, I've noticed after going out for a bit, my shoes, socks, and feet smell bad now? This is new to me... what's a good fix?", "Stinky feet in shoes? I've never had a problem with my shoes smelling before. But recently, I've noticed after going out for a bit, my shoes, socks, and feet smell bad now? This is new to me... what's a good fix?", "Stinky feet in shoes? I've never had a problem with my shoes smelling before. But recently, I've noticed after going out for a bit, my shoes, socks, and feet smell bad now? This is new to me... what's a good fix?", "Stinky feet in shoes? I've never had a problem with my shoes smelling before. But recently, I've noticed after going out for a bit, my shoes, socks, and feet smell bad now? This is new to me... what's a good fix?", "Stinky feet in shoes? I've never had a problem with my shoes smelling before. But recently, I've noticed after going out for a bit, my shoes, socks, and feet smell bad now? This is new to me... what's a good fix?" ]

[ "My few years in the army taught me the value of foot powder. Gold Bond medicated foot powder in the blue container is my fave. Smells minty and makes the feet feel cool.\n\nWARNING: Do not store your medicated foot powder near your baby powder. Sometimes after a shower in a rush I have doused my crotch in foot powder and it burns like the 7 rings of hell", "There are various ways to deal with foot odor. It's fairly easily fixed, since it's bacterial in nature-- all you have to do is kill the bacteria. Sprays, inserts, and regular ol' washing/airing out the shoes if you can all make a difference.", "How many pairs of shoes do you own? Do you wear the same pair of shoes multiple days in a row?\n\nYou should alternate shoes, and let them dry out.", "Charcoal bags from asia...i bought a pack of 10 and put them in all my shoes...and the bags last two years if they are put in the sun once a month...they are about the size of a hot dog bun, they are only in the shoes when not being worn", "Shoe pourri from the makers of Poo-pourrie works great! I spray after using my shoes and try not to wear the same pair two days in a row." ]

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[ "How to stand up for yourself at work when you're an introvert I have been working with my company for three years, extremely hard worker that goes above and beyond. Really good repore with all my managers, leaders and team. Currently being set up to develop for a promotion. I'm also introverted, I'm friendly to everyone but I keep to myself when I'm working. \n\nBecause of my availability my shifts are longer than everyone's (except my managers whose shifts are just as long as mine). A lot of the ladies I work with are older, so they work another job earlier and come in for this job later on in the evening. \n\nLast week, after I came back from a meal break and helping another department for a good 10 minutes or so, two of these ladies started complaining to me how I wasn't doing certain duties that they now had to do and that I had no excuse to not do them because I had been there since 1pm and also had a trainee with me. I didn't like that they were implying I wasn't doing anything so i told them that I also had other responsibilities to do on top of doing those other duties (some were done with more urgency because of a time limit) and they needed to more realistic about what can get done by the only person in the department until they showed up. I did not yell, or curse, I did talk quite sternly. That seemed to surprise them. \n\nI had let quite a few managers know what went down right after this was done.Today one of my managers pulls me aside and tells me that some team members had complained about how I talked to them, and while I'm trying to develop i need to be aware of how I'm trying to convey messages to people. I had a feeling this was coming. They don't want this kind of complaint to become a recurring thing because I'm a good worker and they don't want to lose me, plus it could hinder my development. \n\nHow do I better stand up for myself at my job so I don't get complaints like this again??", "How to stand up for yourself at work when you're an introvert I have been working with my company for three years, extremely hard worker that goes above and beyond. Really good repore with all my managers, leaders and team. Currently being set up to develop for a promotion. I'm also introverted, I'm friendly to everyone but I keep to myself when I'm working. \n\nBecause of my availability my shifts are longer than everyone's (except my managers whose shifts are just as long as mine). A lot of the ladies I work with are older, so they work another job earlier and come in for this job later on in the evening. \n\nLast week, after I came back from a meal break and helping another department for a good 10 minutes or so, two of these ladies started complaining to me how I wasn't doing certain duties that they now had to do and that I had no excuse to not do them because I had been there since 1pm and also had a trainee with me. I didn't like that they were implying I wasn't doing anything so i told them that I also had other responsibilities to do on top of doing those other duties (some were done with more urgency because of a time limit) and they needed to more realistic about what can get done by the only person in the department until they showed up. I did not yell, or curse, I did talk quite sternly. That seemed to surprise them. \n\nI had let quite a few managers know what went down right after this was done.Today one of my managers pulls me aside and tells me that some team members had complained about how I talked to them, and while I'm trying to develop i need to be aware of how I'm trying to convey messages to people. I had a feeling this was coming. They don't want this kind of complaint to become a recurring thing because I'm a good worker and they don't want to lose me, plus it could hinder my development. \n\nHow do I better stand up for myself at my job so I don't get complaints like this again??", "How to stand up for yourself at work when you're an introvert I have been working with my company for three years, extremely hard worker that goes above and beyond. Really good repore with all my managers, leaders and team. Currently being set up to develop for a promotion. I'm also introverted, I'm friendly to everyone but I keep to myself when I'm working. \n\nBecause of my availability my shifts are longer than everyone's (except my managers whose shifts are just as long as mine). A lot of the ladies I work with are older, so they work another job earlier and come in for this job later on in the evening. \n\nLast week, after I came back from a meal break and helping another department for a good 10 minutes or so, two of these ladies started complaining to me how I wasn't doing certain duties that they now had to do and that I had no excuse to not do them because I had been there since 1pm and also had a trainee with me. I didn't like that they were implying I wasn't doing anything so i told them that I also had other responsibilities to do on top of doing those other duties (some were done with more urgency because of a time limit) and they needed to more realistic about what can get done by the only person in the department until they showed up. I did not yell, or curse, I did talk quite sternly. That seemed to surprise them. \n\nI had let quite a few managers know what went down right after this was done.Today one of my managers pulls me aside and tells me that some team members had complained about how I talked to them, and while I'm trying to develop i need to be aware of how I'm trying to convey messages to people. I had a feeling this was coming. They don't want this kind of complaint to become a recurring thing because I'm a good worker and they don't want to lose me, plus it could hinder my development. \n\nHow do I better stand up for myself at my job so I don't get complaints like this again??", "How to stand up for yourself at work when you're an introvert I have been working with my company for three years, extremely hard worker that goes above and beyond. Really good repore with all my managers, leaders and team. Currently being set up to develop for a promotion. I'm also introverted, I'm friendly to everyone but I keep to myself when I'm working. \n\nBecause of my availability my shifts are longer than everyone's (except my managers whose shifts are just as long as mine). A lot of the ladies I work with are older, so they work another job earlier and come in for this job later on in the evening. \n\nLast week, after I came back from a meal break and helping another department for a good 10 minutes or so, two of these ladies started complaining to me how I wasn't doing certain duties that they now had to do and that I had no excuse to not do them because I had been there since 1pm and also had a trainee with me. I didn't like that they were implying I wasn't doing anything so i told them that I also had other responsibilities to do on top of doing those other duties (some were done with more urgency because of a time limit) and they needed to more realistic about what can get done by the only person in the department until they showed up. I did not yell, or curse, I did talk quite sternly. That seemed to surprise them. \n\nI had let quite a few managers know what went down right after this was done.Today one of my managers pulls me aside and tells me that some team members had complained about how I talked to them, and while I'm trying to develop i need to be aware of how I'm trying to convey messages to people. I had a feeling this was coming. They don't want this kind of complaint to become a recurring thing because I'm a good worker and they don't want to lose me, plus it could hinder my development. \n\nHow do I better stand up for myself at my job so I don't get complaints like this again??", "How to stand up for yourself at work when you're an introvert I have been working with my company for three years, extremely hard worker that goes above and beyond. Really good repore with all my managers, leaders and team. Currently being set up to develop for a promotion. I'm also introverted, I'm friendly to everyone but I keep to myself when I'm working. \n\nBecause of my availability my shifts are longer than everyone's (except my managers whose shifts are just as long as mine). A lot of the ladies I work with are older, so they work another job earlier and come in for this job later on in the evening. \n\nLast week, after I came back from a meal break and helping another department for a good 10 minutes or so, two of these ladies started complaining to me how I wasn't doing certain duties that they now had to do and that I had no excuse to not do them because I had been there since 1pm and also had a trainee with me. I didn't like that they were implying I wasn't doing anything so i told them that I also had other responsibilities to do on top of doing those other duties (some were done with more urgency because of a time limit) and they needed to more realistic about what can get done by the only person in the department until they showed up. I did not yell, or curse, I did talk quite sternly. That seemed to surprise them. \n\nI had let quite a few managers know what went down right after this was done.Today one of my managers pulls me aside and tells me that some team members had complained about how I talked to them, and while I'm trying to develop i need to be aware of how I'm trying to convey messages to people. I had a feeling this was coming. They don't want this kind of complaint to become a recurring thing because I'm a good worker and they don't want to lose me, plus it could hinder my development. \n\nHow do I better stand up for myself at my job so I don't get complaints like this again??" ]

[ "Sometimes looking them directly in the eye and saying nothing is enough. Asking your manager for advice helps.", "If you are the worker who goes way beyond the job describtion, let them know you have a lot on your table while maintaining eye contact. Say something in the lines of: \"Subject registered.\" \"I'll check with the manager who are more tailored for this case.\" Since the boss/manager is aware of your hours and know your spot in the workplace, it's in your favour.\n\nIf this keeps happening, then stare them down blink a few times and walk away. Maybe throw in an: \"I do not accept this behavior towards me.\"", "Perhaps you could have left off the second sentence where you said they needed to be realistic as that could be taken more harshly than you meant. \n\nI would ask the manager who pulled you aside how they would have responded given the situation to get some more insight as well.", "You’ve received good advise, and you’re wise for asking for help. Here are two helpful articles that each have a different focus. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/introvert-work-tips_n_5b7c6f44e4b0cd327df78c13/amp https://www.purewow.com/wellness/how-to-stand-up-for-yourself?amphtml=true", "You just dealt with the Power-Break-Even rule. Women, especially of older generations, were raised to be equal. While boys were off playing hierarchical games, women were being taught to play horizontally with all girls on equal footing. If a girl got \"too big for her britches\", she would be pulled down and \"punished\" by the group. Now put this in the business environment. By talking sternly, you got \"too big for her britches\". \n\nI don't think you didn't do anything wrong. But you may not have taken into consideration the dynamics. Learn to sandwich your comments:\n\n*I understand your concern and I would really like to help in any way I can.*\n\n<Insert whatever you said in what ever tone you used>\n\n*I have always enjoyed working with you because you are such a value to the team. I'm sure you'll understand and I hope we can work together to accomplish this.*\n\nThis method will allow you to say what you need to say. But the beginning and ending gives the \"appearance\" of equal power. I would also make sure you go out of your way in the future and acknowledge them, whether it be for things related to work, dress, helpfullness..... it doesn't matter. They need to be made to feel valued by you. \"I admire the way you helped Janet out on the project yesterday\" goes a long way to making relationships work." ]

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[ "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!", "How to block smoke from neighbor below us? I live near the coast in Southern California. It's gorgeous here with 70s during the day and 60s at night. My wife and I just moved here with a toddler and do not want smoke in our home. Our neighbors below us are chain smokers and smoke on their patio every 20 minutes. We can't open our windows without the house smelling like smoke so our A/C runs all the time and we get no fresh air. I'd love to leave the patio door open because a breeze comes in but it's right above their patio. Thanks in advance for any advice!" ]

[ "You could head over with a tray of cupcakes, and politely tell them the situation and ask them if there is any remedy (asking them puts the problem in their hands). The cupcakes are also to put in their hands. If they're assholes, you also have food to throw.\n\nSeriously though, invite them over and let them meet your kiddo. It's harder to say no to someone you like.", "I smoke, and I'd be horrified to learn it was inconveniencing my neighbours. Especially if you have a baby. Just ask them if they can find a new spot. ", "This is probably not the answer you are looking for, but... Move somewhere else. There isn't much you can do.\n\nBuy him a fancy e-cig, ask him to use it when indoors?", "Most apartment communities have rules against smoking on patios. I know mine does. Also, check your city and county laws. It may be illegal to smoke on a patio all together. ", "It really depends on the direction of the prevailing wind. It sounds like your deck is on the windward side of the building. If that's the case, you could try rigging a piece of plastic or cardboard against the bottom edge of your deck sloping outward to duct the smoky air back towards their apartment. A fan pointing out and down might have the same effect.If it is an otherwise non-smoking building, one passive-aggressive approach is to close all the interior doors, leave the front door slightly ajar and use a fan to help that smoke into the common hall until someone else complains.", "Whole house fan to create positive air pressure in the house to push any smoke out is the only thing I can think of.", "There's really nothing you can do, sorry. My brother downstairs smokes and there's no vents, no open windows, and it still comes up here.", "Overpressure: make sure the pressure in your apartment is a wee bit higher than in his. Any simple airpump that can pump in more than the cracks under the doors etc. can vent will do.\n\nJust make sure you put the intake somewhere without smoke, of course.", "I will have to agree with some of the comments here. I am a smoker and if I knew I was inconveniencing someone, I would try my best to accommodate them. I would politely and as nicely as possibly explain the situation to them. Hopefully, and I do mean hopefully they are understanding enough to change where they smoke (I mean I would move if you asked me to). ", "I feel for you, especially with a toddler to keep safe. If you have downstairs neighbors, I'm assuming you rent, or are part of a complex. I'd look up any clauses about smoking or \"disturbances other than noise\" in your lease. Place a call to the super, Bob's your uncle. If not, you can get tactical - I once worked in a long term hotel where tenants would smoke on balconies, and we got frequent complaints. There were no state regulations against smoking on the patio, but a piece of paper with official looking letterhead stating \"smoking on balconies is not permitted',\" and suggestions on where they can smoke, slipped under their door could be a wakeup call. Passive-aggressive? Yes. Effective? Hasn't failed yet. We never got a call complaining about it, and the smoking always stopped. The threat of eviction is a good deterrent.\ntl;dr: call the super, or make a fake notice about smoking policies and slide it under their door.", "Well, they probably don't realize how much smoke is coming into your residence. I just cant imagine someone knowingly continuing to smoke in the same spot knowing how bad it is. I would talk to them again, and give details. Tell them it's not just outside air, it's penetrating your home, especially in your sons room. Hopefully they're just kind dumb, as opposed to total assholes.\n\nLike others said, research your legal options as well. Contact your landlord again, and getting some sort of documentation from your sons doctor (even if he doesn't have any medical problems yet) even a generic note from the doctor will help your case.\n\nLastly, invest in a air purifier/odor/smoke eater. And change the filters often. Even if they totally change their ways, and smoke 50 feet away from the residence, smoke particles attach to clothing, furniture, etc. You don't want that seeping into your home. Tell the landlord that you are forced to purchase this, and you want it, and the cost of the filters deducted from the rent. Making it the landlords problem will encourage his personal interest in the situation. (now it's not just a complaining tenant, now it's costing him money). Lastly, *save* the dirty filters in a sealed bag. Sounds gross and silly, but it's really the only way to 'document' the amount of dirty air in your home. Show it to the landlord, or save them for a potential court date if things get really out of hand. And document all your interactions with both the neighbor and the landlord. In case things get ugly, its good to save all that stuff.\n\nGood Luck!!", "Ask your supe if you can move to another apartment. If he says no, then break the contract and move. The cost to break the contract is cheaper than how much it could damage you and your family's health. " ]

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[ "How to get rid of these stains. Hi, recently I found there was a strange light yellow stain on one of my favourite tshirts in clear view, meaning I can't wear it anymore, (well in public). \n\nhttp://imgur.com/a/oNkfi - Here is an album of the stains on the tshirt, the problem is I don't know what kind of stain it is. My Gran washed it for me a few months back, and i think there was only a small amount of dirt on it, but it came out like that. I'm not sure if it's a bleach stain, a grease one, but I don't recall spilling grease on it. \n\nI suspect it could be suncream, because the staining happened when I was on holiday. \n\nAlso sorry about the poor quality pictures, I had to use my brothers iPhone, so to make it easier to see, I put a box round the stain on the pictures of the full shirt.\n\nFinally, please could anyone give any tips on how to get this stain out, or is it indelible?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR**: Got unknown stain on favourite tshirt (read text for what I suspect it is), is it possible to get out, if so how?", "How to get rid of these stains. Hi, recently I found there was a strange light yellow stain on one of my favourite tshirts in clear view, meaning I can't wear it anymore, (well in public). \n\nhttp://imgur.com/a/oNkfi - Here is an album of the stains on the tshirt, the problem is I don't know what kind of stain it is. My Gran washed it for me a few months back, and i think there was only a small amount of dirt on it, but it came out like that. I'm not sure if it's a bleach stain, a grease one, but I don't recall spilling grease on it. \n\nI suspect it could be suncream, because the staining happened when I was on holiday. \n\nAlso sorry about the poor quality pictures, I had to use my brothers iPhone, so to make it easier to see, I put a box round the stain on the pictures of the full shirt.\n\nFinally, please could anyone give any tips on how to get this stain out, or is it indelible?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR**: Got unknown stain on favourite tshirt (read text for what I suspect it is), is it possible to get out, if so how?", "How to get rid of these stains. Hi, recently I found there was a strange light yellow stain on one of my favourite tshirts in clear view, meaning I can't wear it anymore, (well in public). \n\nhttp://imgur.com/a/oNkfi - Here is an album of the stains on the tshirt, the problem is I don't know what kind of stain it is. My Gran washed it for me a few months back, and i think there was only a small amount of dirt on it, but it came out like that. I'm not sure if it's a bleach stain, a grease one, but I don't recall spilling grease on it. \n\nI suspect it could be suncream, because the staining happened when I was on holiday. \n\nAlso sorry about the poor quality pictures, I had to use my brothers iPhone, so to make it easier to see, I put a box round the stain on the pictures of the full shirt.\n\nFinally, please could anyone give any tips on how to get this stain out, or is it indelible?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR**: Got unknown stain on favourite tshirt (read text for what I suspect it is), is it possible to get out, if so how?", "How to get rid of these stains. Hi, recently I found there was a strange light yellow stain on one of my favourite tshirts in clear view, meaning I can't wear it anymore, (well in public). \n\nhttp://imgur.com/a/oNkfi - Here is an album of the stains on the tshirt, the problem is I don't know what kind of stain it is. My Gran washed it for me a few months back, and i think there was only a small amount of dirt on it, but it came out like that. I'm not sure if it's a bleach stain, a grease one, but I don't recall spilling grease on it. \n\nI suspect it could be suncream, because the staining happened when I was on holiday. \n\nAlso sorry about the poor quality pictures, I had to use my brothers iPhone, so to make it easier to see, I put a box round the stain on the pictures of the full shirt.\n\nFinally, please could anyone give any tips on how to get this stain out, or is it indelible?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR**: Got unknown stain on favourite tshirt (read text for what I suspect it is), is it possible to get out, if so how?", "How to get rid of these stains. Hi, recently I found there was a strange light yellow stain on one of my favourite tshirts in clear view, meaning I can't wear it anymore, (well in public). \n\nhttp://imgur.com/a/oNkfi - Here is an album of the stains on the tshirt, the problem is I don't know what kind of stain it is. My Gran washed it for me a few months back, and i think there was only a small amount of dirt on it, but it came out like that. I'm not sure if it's a bleach stain, a grease one, but I don't recall spilling grease on it. \n\nI suspect it could be suncream, because the staining happened when I was on holiday. \n\nAlso sorry about the poor quality pictures, I had to use my brothers iPhone, so to make it easier to see, I put a box round the stain on the pictures of the full shirt.\n\nFinally, please could anyone give any tips on how to get this stain out, or is it indelible?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR**: Got unknown stain on favourite tshirt (read text for what I suspect it is), is it possible to get out, if so how?", "How to get rid of these stains. Hi, recently I found there was a strange light yellow stain on one of my favourite tshirts in clear view, meaning I can't wear it anymore, (well in public). \n\nhttp://imgur.com/a/oNkfi - Here is an album of the stains on the tshirt, the problem is I don't know what kind of stain it is. My Gran washed it for me a few months back, and i think there was only a small amount of dirt on it, but it came out like that. I'm not sure if it's a bleach stain, a grease one, but I don't recall spilling grease on it. \n\nI suspect it could be suncream, because the staining happened when I was on holiday. \n\nAlso sorry about the poor quality pictures, I had to use my brothers iPhone, so to make it easier to see, I put a box round the stain on the pictures of the full shirt.\n\nFinally, please could anyone give any tips on how to get this stain out, or is it indelible?\n\nThanks!\n\n**TL;DR**: Got unknown stain on favourite tshirt (read text for what I suspect it is), is it possible to get out, if so how?" ]

[ "Try rubbing dish soap in the spots, let it sit for up to 30 minutes and put it in a washer. If the stains are still there, don't dry it - that (from what I've read) fortifies the stain. \n\nI just spent a couple hours removing a grease stain from a shirt. ", "It looks like tea to me. Have you tried pretreating with liquid laundry detergent directly on the stain? Let it sit five minutes, wash in cold. As loki1717 said, avoid tumble drying until it comes out.", "buy some oxiclean, or a bottle of hydrogen peroxide. get a bucket of HOT water at least a couple gallons. dissolve a scoop or 2 of oxiclean or dump the whole bottle of 3% peroxide in. soak the shirt for 20 min. rinse in warm water then wash in your washing machine.\nif you soak it in the peroxide too long it can damage the shirt. Hotter the water the better the peroxide will work.\nthis will work if its protein or tannin stain. if its oil based only drycleaning chems will take it out. \nbtw - oil stains can turn yellowish brown when they dry and 'cook' in. 'cooked' in oil stains are very tough to get out. \n(I used to operate a Dry Cleaner.)", "There's a soap that I use to remove stains it's called zote it's a Mexican brand \nBar soap and the bar is pink. I use it with a little brush and scrubbed the surface that was stained. I used the bathroom sink to do this since I was only going to scrub a tiny surface hopes this works for you. \n", "Looks like pollen, was it dried outside? \nI always use nail varnish remover with cotton pads and flush through with water, should work :)", "It's a white cotton t-shirt, right? If so, you can just machine wash it in hot water with a cup of bleach. If the logo is silk-screened, the bleach won't harm it." ]

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[ "How to Improve Articulation When I’m nervous, the fluidity of what I’m saying takes a big hit. For example, I will switch two words (like “forth and back” instead of “back and forth”) or I’ll replace a word with a similar sounding word (the other day I said “shoe plow” instead of “snow plow”). Sometimes I’ll simply overthink the pronunciation of a word and butcher it HORRIBLY. \n\nI feel like there’s not enough time for me to slow my thoughts down before speaking, and I try really hard to focus on what people are saying instead of planning my reply. But damn, I’m tired of sounding dumb as shit when this happens.", "How to Improve Articulation When I’m nervous, the fluidity of what I’m saying takes a big hit. For example, I will switch two words (like “forth and back” instead of “back and forth”) or I’ll replace a word with a similar sounding word (the other day I said “shoe plow” instead of “snow plow”). Sometimes I’ll simply overthink the pronunciation of a word and butcher it HORRIBLY. \n\nI feel like there’s not enough time for me to slow my thoughts down before speaking, and I try really hard to focus on what people are saying instead of planning my reply. But damn, I’m tired of sounding dumb as shit when this happens.", "How to Improve Articulation When I’m nervous, the fluidity of what I’m saying takes a big hit. For example, I will switch two words (like “forth and back” instead of “back and forth”) or I’ll replace a word with a similar sounding word (the other day I said “shoe plow” instead of “snow plow”). Sometimes I’ll simply overthink the pronunciation of a word and butcher it HORRIBLY. \n\nI feel like there’s not enough time for me to slow my thoughts down before speaking, and I try really hard to focus on what people are saying instead of planning my reply. But damn, I’m tired of sounding dumb as shit when this happens.", "How to Improve Articulation When I’m nervous, the fluidity of what I’m saying takes a big hit. For example, I will switch two words (like “forth and back” instead of “back and forth”) or I’ll replace a word with a similar sounding word (the other day I said “shoe plow” instead of “snow plow”). Sometimes I’ll simply overthink the pronunciation of a word and butcher it HORRIBLY. \n\nI feel like there’s not enough time for me to slow my thoughts down before speaking, and I try really hard to focus on what people are saying instead of planning my reply. But damn, I’m tired of sounding dumb as shit when this happens." ]

[ "In my experience, being able to have a naturally slow pace when talking can add a ton of gravitas. A switch of intonation to really clearly emphasize a point goes a long way in making a point. Slowing down everything can add a ton of confidence and make you significantly better as a speaker, and this gives you more than enough time to think and respond.\nThis is much easier than it seems and just requires a little bit of practice. If further help and clarification is needed, please message me and I'll help you out.", "Take the time you need to think about it. People respect when you take the time to articulate your words.", "I think just practice slowing down, and dont forget to breathe. I do this too, where I get so excited to speak my thought, I jump ahead in my mind and skip actually vocalizing them, or they come out garbled.", "Also want to say that you’re not alone in this. Societally there are dramatically different expectations for speech now than there were even ten or fifteen years ago.\n\nOne tip I’ve used to help me improve my presence is to make an effort to speak through the middle of my mouth. Where I live, people often speak quickly and loosely, and it happens that when I speak naturally, the speech is often from one side of the mouth, almost like a smirk. If I present that way, I often jumble words, mumble, and things don’t go as well in general.\n\nSpeaking through the center of the mouth causes me to slow down and be a bit more deliberate, improves my enunciation a ton, and is not so big an adjustment that it feels foreign or weird. I hope it’s helpful to you. Good luck and kudos for working to improve yourself." ]

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[ "How to deal with the urge to unveil deep secrets I often struggle with secrets because they make me feel alone, especially ones that are embarrassing enough for me not to want to mention them to anyone. However, this loneliness ultimately makes me feel the urge to admit secrets and I'm not sure how to appease it otherwise.", "How to deal with the urge to unveil deep secrets I often struggle with secrets because they make me feel alone, especially ones that are embarrassing enough for me not to want to mention them to anyone. However, this loneliness ultimately makes me feel the urge to admit secrets and I'm not sure how to appease it otherwise." ]

[ "Post the secret anonymously, changing the story slightly so nobody could pin you down. 4Chan is notoriously popular with this kind of stuff.", "Journaling is always key, also you could try m" ]

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[ "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?", "How to scam scammers? After I got a call from the \"IRS\" I started wondering how I could make their scheme backfire. Has anyone had any success doing something like that?" ]

[ "Just send me your social security number, drivers license number, and address and ill send you my comprehensive guide", "There's always ways to waste their time. Things like being committed to \"righting\" your dues but doing so in really complicated ways and then bailing anyway, or asking them to \"hold on 1 moment\" and leaving your phone running can be ways to frustrate them.\n\nJust a thought, but explain you actually don't have a cr", "I've never done it, but there's a whole website devoted to this called [419Eater.com](http://www.419eater.com/html/baiting.htm).", "I usually just drag on the conversation in long dramatic crazy ways. I one time \"won 3.5 million for shopping at the same store frequently and paying bills on time\". So as they asked for information like a phone number I would change it by a digit each time they asked for confirmation. So 7345679 becomes 7346679. Then 7445679. I would also make up outlandish stories as to why I don't have an email because the government watches us on the internet. When I spent an hour and a half of doing all this. I called them out on being scammers. Laughed in their face. And posted their number all over social media for anyone to prank call for their own pleasure. ", "Just say \"911, what is your emergency\" before you say anything or say \"hello\" let them do their thing and respond with \"this is statefarm sir\"", "I know a guy who used to respond to those Nigerian scammers by asking where they wanted the money sent to. It's usually a western union or something, then he would tell them he sent 20 dollars or w/e but specifically do it to somewhere that was 15 dollars in fuel away from them. Course the catch being he never sent it in the first place.", "My friend just called the number back to lock up their phone lines. He also posted it on FaceBook and got all his friends to keep calling. It was pretty funny. Wasted a whole lot of their time. And they got really pissy", "Some guy made a robot to do just that--\n\nhttp://jollyrogertelephone.com/how-to-send-your-telemarketers-to-this-robot/", "I recommend you guys go see \"the hoax hotel\" on youtube, he makes excellent videos of wasting scammers' time and generally annoying the fuck out of them!", "http://www.419eater.com/\n\nThose guys might help, they are dedicated to wasting the time of/scamming scammers :)", "The most important thing to remember is that the scammers have certainly put a lot more thought into the whole process than the potential victim has. If you have an idea of some way to flip the scam on them, they have probably encountered (or at least thought of) someone doing exactly what your idea entails. Of course, they likely have a counter-play for that exact scenario. The only way to succeed is to come up with a counter-scam so clever that they haven't even considered it. So be careful.", "My grandparents often get calls from people about their computer and that something is \"wrong\" with it (other than the fact that it's 5 years old). \n\nI, knowing a fair bit about computers, tend to fuck with them all the time. I always ask them what the problem is, and that always gets them. Then I proceed to use complicated computer terms like DDOS, RAM, overclocking, and other \"complicated\" words. \n\nHalf the time, it's some East-Indian who knows absolutely shit-all about computers, so it makes that part easy." ]

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[ "An ethical and legal way to make decent money on the side? Ive heard donating plasma and doing Instacart yield profitable returns. I’m currently saving for my wedding and am looking to make money and way possible. Thanks!", "An ethical and legal way to make decent money on the side? Ive heard donating plasma and doing Instacart yield profitable returns. I’m currently saving for my wedding and am looking to make money and way possible. Thanks!" ]

[ "Not exactly what you asked, but you can get lots of stuff for free of you try! The app Freebie Alerts is great for this.", "Get a real estate license and be a door opener for Redfin. All you have to do is be available to show a house and have a real estate license and you can make some $ showing homes for potential buyers. That's literally the entire job and you work as much or little as you want." ]

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[ "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner.", "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner.", "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner.", "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner.", "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner.", "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner.", "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner.", "How can I use my commuting time productively? Have about an hour and a half commute on a train. Looking to fill that time in other ways than just looking at Facebook and Reddit, and maybe use my time in a productive manner." ]

[ "Podcasts are pretty much perfect for commutes. There are so many interesting topics you can learn about and you can find podcasts that last the exact length of your commute to make it perfect!\n\nAlso a great way to get you thinking at the start of the day.", "I started listening to podcasts or TED Talks, there's millions of books you can choose from to read, learn a new language, learn to draw, do your christmas shopping, plan meals for the day/week/month, research activities to do outside of work, read about a new skill, learn to program/code, learn how to design a website, learn about your 401k (or other retirement fund), learn about investments, learn how to repair a kitchen sink, learn how to take apart an engine, pay your bills, get all your emails out of the way before you get to the office, make any business calls you can during your commute, or call your mom/dad/family on your ride home.\n\nAnd if you're like me you'll have all these grandiose plans to be super productive and then realize I'm shit tired from working all day and all i want to do is just sit here and relax. Or get on Reddit.", "download audiobooks and listen to them sped up 1.5-2x normal speed. \n\nRead real books. \n\nWrite a journal, write a fiction story, write an autobiography, write down things you need to do at work or home that day. ", "Learn to knit, crochet, whittle (bring a dustpan and hand-brush), play guitar (electric not plugged in). Some of this depends on how much personal space you have on the train.", "Learn something..a new language, read books that are more thought provoking than 50 Shades of Gray, etc. \n\nIf you work a desk job and spend 30 minutes (or however long) when you get to work doing something off task on your computer, do that on the train instead. \n\n", "Get your brain working! Read, write, draw, solve puzzles, enjoy the scenery. \n\nThat can be a very relaxing start to your day, and should be treated as such! Find a new author, learn a new skill, find new a new hobby. Treasure that time.", "Anything that increases your knowledge and wisdom.\n\nAudio books, books, podcasts, TED talks, writing a story, listen to music that drives your imagination crazy (Epic, classic, and electronic), learn a new skill (relative pitch, drawing, coding, sleeping with your eyes open, etc...), pay attention to people around you (learn about them and how they act), etc...\n\nThere's a lot of things you can do.", "Plan your day at work. Turn on your voice recorder and record the tasks you need to get done, the people you need to meet, and appointments you might have, or the groceries you need after you get off work.\n\nWhen you get to work, you have your day planned out - listen to it. During your lunch break, listen to it again in case you missed something. When you finish for the day, listen to it a third time in case you forgot something." ]

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[ " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?", " Backstory: This is more for my girlfriend than for me. She has gone through several iPhones due to her clumsiness. Just last night she dropped one, it bounced, and it landed in a puddle. She also has had several broken toes from walking around barefoot in her own house and jamming them on doorways or chairs. So my question is: Are there any ways to help a person become less clumsy?" ]

[ "Growing up as a kid who spilled his milk at every dinner, I can say sports helped me the most. Once I started to be more active, I felt a greater sense of body control/coordination, which helped me be less clumsy. If you don't have the time or resources, activities like yoga do much of the same. Pseudo scientific explanation: these activities develop stabilizer muscles, which in turn give one better control of their body. Just my 2 cents. ", "I've always been ridiculously clumsy. I drop things, break things (I have one wine glass left out of a set of 8 that I got less than a year ago...), knock things over. What I've noticed recently is that it seems to be a direct result of my impulsiveness. I tend to perform any tasks in a senseless rush. Lately I've made more of an effort to slow down and do things mindfully. It's really helped--for me, at least--and I've been really surprised with how much smoother everything goes. ", "I used to be terribly clumsy, until I took a class in Tai Chi... it teaches balance and awareness of your surroundings... after six weeks of classes, I found that I had become permanently non-clumsy.", "I think the consensus here is correct: generally speaking, more physical exercise is the right answer. BUT- it has to be the right kind of physical exercise. Think of it like muscle memory- when she runs or teaches swimming, she isn't training her fingers or feet to be more careful. She should look into something that is more deliberate, and more controlled; tai chi is a very good idea, as is any other martial art. Alternatively, she could try learning a musical instrument- no better way to learn how to control your fingers than to practice something regularly where finger placement is crucial. \n\nI went through this a lot as a kid. Used to be I couldn't walk across a room without tripping on a dust mote and falling flat on my face. Started studying shaolin and playing the violin, and suddenly I'm actually in control of my body.", "Video games and sports that require hand eve coordination and quick reflexes like table tennis or indoor badminton. \n\nYou mention swimming and running elsewhere which don't provide the mental training.\n\nIf she's not in to sports, juggling is a more gradual exercise that'll do.\n\nNote body changes and hormones in women affect proprioception and such. ", "It's probably too late. If she didn't learn hand eye coordination when she was young, it'll be hard for her. But best bet is play some tennis. Works on the whole body. But it will take a lot of time and effort to improve. Which when we are adults dont have much time for.", "I am agree with whom say more exercises. But I can read from your answers that she is already swimming, thus my advice is to do more exercises with coordination and precision, like dance or painting. The first could increase her \"foot-precision\", the second one could be useful for her \"hand-precision\". ", "A couple of years ago I saw a documentary about table tennis aka Ping Pong and really old people 90+ ... And it talked about hand eye coordination and life expectancy and how Table Tennis was ver helpful with this... Here's a mind to an article on it from 2008 (http://www.spinmantra.com/tabletennis/blog/wordpress/index.php/2008/12/07/table-tennis-is-the-best-sport-for-eye-hand-cordination/) and here is the film (http://pingpongfilm.co.uk/)", "Does this happen to her all the time or only \"her time of the month?\" If she knows when it is coming she can be more careful. Outside of that I say yoga has helped me a lot." ]

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[ "How to stop your dog from chasing his tail I have a (almost) 5 year old German Shepherd. He's a good dog all around and listens to commands, but has a tail obsession. He seems to take any opportunity that I am not paying attention or not home to chase his tail. I've tried putting that sour apple stuff on his tail, repeated stop commands, even fitted him with a home-made harness so he couldn't reach his tail... all of which did not deter him. He still does it. He is regularly exercised and as I said, a perfectly normal and happy dog besides this. Any suggestions?", "How to stop your dog from chasing his tail I have a (almost) 5 year old German Shepherd. He's a good dog all around and listens to commands, but has a tail obsession. He seems to take any opportunity that I am not paying attention or not home to chase his tail. I've tried putting that sour apple stuff on his tail, repeated stop commands, even fitted him with a home-made harness so he couldn't reach his tail... all of which did not deter him. He still does it. He is regularly exercised and as I said, a perfectly normal and happy dog besides this. Any suggestions?", "How to stop your dog from chasing his tail I have a (almost) 5 year old German Shepherd. He's a good dog all around and listens to commands, but has a tail obsession. He seems to take any opportunity that I am not paying attention or not home to chase his tail. I've tried putting that sour apple stuff on his tail, repeated stop commands, even fitted him with a home-made harness so he couldn't reach his tail... all of which did not deter him. He still does it. He is regularly exercised and as I said, a perfectly normal and happy dog besides this. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "http://www.ehow.com/how_2541_stop-dog-chasing.html\n\nThere are some good suggestions on that site.\n\nIf it's not because he has itching on his tail, it's probably because he's bored or because he has OCD/ some behavioral disorder. \n\nI would try some new toys first to keep him occupied. If those don't work, I would take him to the vet and get some Prozac. It's dirt cheap and safe.\n\nPS. My dad and sister are both vets.\n\nHope that helps.", "Regularly exercised may not be enough. Some dogs need to be exhausted. Make sure he has room to run or buy a bike to keep up. Our dog has access to outside via a doggie door, and she runs herself silly. It helps with sleep and unwanted behaviors. ", "He has plenty of toys to play with and brings them to me and my girlfriend all the time. Even when we're on the couch, we play fetch by throwing the toy down a long hallway from the livingroom to the front door. He's getting plenty of attention and play time! I give him jobs to do as well, like hiding treats around the house and when I say \"find it\" he sniffs them out. I think he might have OCD or something because he CANNOT be bored! Haha! But thank you for the advice! I'm going to give the Nu-stock a shot. If that doesn't work, I'm going to take him to his vet. (Fun fact: His Vet's name is Dr. Funk)" ]

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[ "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!", "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!", "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!", "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!", "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!", "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!", "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!", "How to fix a sagging mattress (in the middle) which is destroying my back? Hello!\n\nI've had my mattress for years now and even before that it was bought from someone else whom had it for years. It sinks in the middle and really hurt my back. I move all night due to the back pain and find myself unable to sleep. Unfortunately, I don't have much money so buying a whole new mattress is out of the question for me. So I ask you guys, do you have any tricks to fix that? My back would be forever grateful!\n\nThank you for taking the time to read and Happy Holidays!" ]

[ "I have an old couch that sagged REALLY bad because of the old springs. I cut a piece of 3/4\" plywood to the appropriate size and put it under the cushions. I do not feel the plywood AT ALL, and it no longer sags as bad as it did. I don't know how this would work with a bed, but it might be worth a shot. If you cannot cut the plywood yourself, then home-depot or lowes may be able to do it for you... or maybe a neighbor that has some tools\n\n", "I got a great new mattress online for $180 delivered. If you can afford it or save up, I highly recommend. Also, you can run a 2x4 under your matress.", "Buy a new mattress. Don't take used ones either. A mattress will only last you 7 or so years, and it's not worth skimping on.", "What is the total age of the mattress? Is it stain free? What brand and type(innerspring, hybrid, memory foam, latex foam)? Is the sinking in your mattress or its foundation? Source:Service manager and high end mattress sales professional\n", "I can find a mattress on craigslist, though I am in a big city. If you don't have a way to transport it, that can be difficult", "Flipping it more often (the very minimum is every 3 months) and a simple, solid base can help. My mattress felt 100x better once I switched to a simple wooden frame underneath (basically a series of solid planks over three beams), from a fancy springy type construction that cost three times that. \n\nHowever, if your mattress is over 10 years old, that's not going to make much of a difference. It's just way overdue for replacement. Mattresses last 7-10 years with proper care. You should start saving up for a new one.", "3/4 inch plyboard cut to the size of your mattress, you can get it for under $20 at a store like Lowe's/Home Depot. Put it between the box spring and top mattress for extra support. \n\nThis saved my back until we could get a new mattress! I thank my FIL every day for the tip.", "1- Invest in a Select Comfort Bed. OR\n&nbsp;\n\n2- Put a solid piece of wood (or two) under the mattress. OR\n&nbsp;\n\n3- Just sleep on the floor on a [thin sleep mattress](http://a.co/heXZoZz) (like the Japanese do) " ]

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[ "Tips on finding the right apartment in a new city - no one I currently know has any information. I have been Googling, narrowing down my search using that data, and visiting, but I want to know if there are more tips or specific websites I'm missing. Maybe even local resources.\n\nLike I said, I'd love to talk to coworkers about apartments, but most of them rent houses or own a house. No one I know has up to date information on the apartments near my job.\n\nAny tips greatly appreciated.", "Tips on finding the right apartment in a new city - no one I currently know has any information. I have been Googling, narrowing down my search using that data, and visiting, but I want to know if there are more tips or specific websites I'm missing. Maybe even local resources.\n\nLike I said, I'd love to talk to coworkers about apartments, but most of them rent houses or own a house. No one I know has up to date information on the apartments near my job.\n\nAny tips greatly appreciated.", "Tips on finding the right apartment in a new city - no one I currently know has any information. I have been Googling, narrowing down my search using that data, and visiting, but I want to know if there are more tips or specific websites I'm missing. Maybe even local resources.\n\nLike I said, I'd love to talk to coworkers about apartments, but most of them rent houses or own a house. No one I know has up to date information on the apartments near my job.\n\nAny tips greatly appreciated.", "Tips on finding the right apartment in a new city - no one I currently know has any information. I have been Googling, narrowing down my search using that data, and visiting, but I want to know if there are more tips or specific websites I'm missing. Maybe even local resources.\n\nLike I said, I'd love to talk to coworkers about apartments, but most of them rent houses or own a house. No one I know has up to date information on the apartments near my job.\n\nAny tips greatly appreciated." ]

[ "to be honest, i was in the same situation 9 months ago. i visited for 3 days and settled on my second choice. I found out for 50 bucks more a month, i could live across the street from the beach, in a rental home with backyard, patio, deck, more room/bath. I would honestly tell you to try and find a place that takes month to month (albeit it might be a little sketchy), but do a month to month and get a storage unit for the rest of your stuff that doesn't fit then when you are there for about 3 or 4 months you will have many more options, and more money saved up than if you went directly into an apartment. (I moved 5 months after living in an apartment)", "Padmapper.com it pulls listings from craigslist and other rental sites. You can map your work address and view available places and sort according to cost, bedrooms etc", "I'd suggest driving or walking around neighborhoods looking for \"for rent\" signs. Often times you'll find better deals than you would from craigslist or other online means.", "I think the best information you're going to get will come from the tenants themselves. One site I found useful was [Apartment Ratings](http://www.apartmentratings.com/). Check out different complexes in the area and see what current/past tenants have to say about the living situation. From there you can make some calls and gather current pricing information and maybe take some time to look before the move. Moving is tough-especially when moving to a completely new city. Best of luck to you." ]

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[ "What to say at a job interview regarding past terminations? At a job interview, when the interviewer asks about why you left or got fired from past jobs, what should I say? Can they tell that i was fired from past jobs through background check? Do they know the reason why? How do I show that I have learned from the experience? Any help is appreciated! Thanks.", "What to say at a job interview regarding past terminations? At a job interview, when the interviewer asks about why you left or got fired from past jobs, what should I say? Can they tell that i was fired from past jobs through background check? Do they know the reason why? How do I show that I have learned from the experience? Any help is appreciated! Thanks.", "What to say at a job interview regarding past terminations? At a job interview, when the interviewer asks about why you left or got fired from past jobs, what should I say? Can they tell that i was fired from past jobs through background check? Do they know the reason why? How do I show that I have learned from the experience? Any help is appreciated! Thanks." ]

[ "Make up some bullshit. \n\nThe company was taken over by new management whom decided my position was no longer necessary.\n\nThe company decided to focus on sales rather than installation, so my job was no longer available.\n\nMy boss was threatening me with bodily harm, so I decided that it would be best to leave.\n\nThere were safety issues that hadn't been addressed in months, I didn't want to risk physical injury. - If the interviewer asks for specifics... the elevators would get stuck frequently.", "If they're in any doubt, chances are they're going to call your old job and ask for their side of the story. Don't say anything stupid that's going to make you look dishonest.", "Frankly, whether it's true or not, you should just tell them you were laid off or come up with a good excuse as to why you left. The only thing your old employer can tell your potential employer is your previous job position and the dates your worked for them. It is a red flag to your potential employer if you tell them you were fired.\n\nAlso, DO NOT talk badly about your previous employer during your interview. This is another red flag." ]

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[ "my bf knows how much I value my alone time but lately he's been clinging to me. How do I get him to back off without being mean/insulting? ", "my bf knows how much I value my alone time but lately he's been clinging to me. How do I get him to back off without being mean/insulting? ", "my bf knows how much I value my alone time but lately he's been clinging to me. How do I get him to back off without being mean/insulting? ", "my bf knows how much I value my alone time but lately he's been clinging to me. How do I get him to back off without being mean/insulting? ", "my bf knows how much I value my alone time but lately he's been clinging to me. How do I get him to back off without being mean/insulting? " ]

[ "Tell him that you need down time to recharge your mental/emotional batteries then ask him how/what you can do to make him feel loved and not ignored or abandoned.\n\nSee if he has any ideas. \"I love you very much and love being with you but I also need xyz alone time. How can I have that and still make it okay for you?\"", "If you've already told him that you need some alone time to recharge like some other people suggested already; Let him plan something to do with his own friends or family (or alone) and then enjoy!", "Communication is key. \n\n\"Hey, can I have a little more 'me' time? Maybe you can go out with the guys this weekend, I just need a recharge.\"\n\nAnd plan something for the two of you alone the following weekend.", "Just ask him to give you space. Any mature person would understand something like that. And if he \"already knows\", as you said, he will understand.", "\"Hey bud, I am having a girls weekend, no men allowed!\"\nOr tell him you need some alone time to do work around the house with no distractions whatsoever?\nSometimes feelings must be hurt." ]

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[ "How to find the right pillow? Sometimes I wake up with a really annoying pain in my neck and it's always in the same spot. I tend to sleep on my side. Is there a science to picking the right pillow (i.e. height, firmness, size, memory foam vs down)? ", "How to find the right pillow? Sometimes I wake up with a really annoying pain in my neck and it's always in the same spot. I tend to sleep on my side. Is there a science to picking the right pillow (i.e. height, firmness, size, memory foam vs down)? ", "How to find the right pillow? Sometimes I wake up with a really annoying pain in my neck and it's always in the same spot. I tend to sleep on my side. Is there a science to picking the right pillow (i.e. height, firmness, size, memory foam vs down)? ", "How to find the right pillow? Sometimes I wake up with a really annoying pain in my neck and it's always in the same spot. I tend to sleep on my side. Is there a science to picking the right pillow (i.e. height, firmness, size, memory foam vs down)? ", "How to find the right pillow? Sometimes I wake up with a really annoying pain in my neck and it's always in the same spot. I tend to sleep on my side. Is there a science to picking the right pillow (i.e. height, firmness, size, memory foam vs down)? " ]

[ "For sleeping on your side, simply make sure you have a pillow that supports your head horizontal. If you sleep with your head tilted too far up or down, you get that pain. I personally use a memory foam pillow and it hasn't given me issues", "Stomach sleepers usually go with softer flatter pillows, back sleepers with bigger firmer pillows, and side sleepers with a pillow in between ( medium firmness and height). Of course you could always try to flatten your pillow and if you sleep with your arm under your pillow you'll want to go for a flatter one ", "Maybe it's the uncomfortable pillow, but sometimes I have to sleep on my stomach (I usually Sleep on my side and other times my back) I tried a memory foam pillow and it worked great until one day it started hurting my neck...", "If possible for you, go to Ikea and check out their pillow section. Has detailed explanations of pillow types and which is best for whom. The staff can probably recommend a certain type for you. You don't have to buy them there though!", "A few years ago I got a tempurpedic one that is convex on one side and concave on the other. Neck pain went away and hasn't come back yet. Don't cheap out and get a \"memory foam, just like tempur!!\" - they aren't made the same way and will start sagging and you'll be back in the same situation." ]

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[ "How do unsqueakyfy my shoes? I have this pair of shoes I really like. They are great looking shoes, comfortable af and dressy enough that I can wear them at the office. The problem is they are SUPER squeaky, especially on smooth glossy floors - which is basically the only floors at my office. So every time I walk I make these ballon sounds.\nAny idea how to fix or at least minimize this?", "How do unsqueakyfy my shoes? I have this pair of shoes I really like. They are great looking shoes, comfortable af and dressy enough that I can wear them at the office. The problem is they are SUPER squeaky, especially on smooth glossy floors - which is basically the only floors at my office. So every time I walk I make these ballon sounds.\nAny idea how to fix or at least minimize this?", "How do unsqueakyfy my shoes? I have this pair of shoes I really like. They are great looking shoes, comfortable af and dressy enough that I can wear them at the office. The problem is they are SUPER squeaky, especially on smooth glossy floors - which is basically the only floors at my office. So every time I walk I make these ballon sounds.\nAny idea how to fix or at least minimize this?" ]

[ "Rock your feet forward and back and from left to right. Once you know what part of the shoe is squeaking, sprinkle that area with baby powder, corn starch or baking powder. This will help to absorb noisy moisture and reduce noise from two parts of the shoe that may be rubbing together.", "If the squeaking does not come from the parts of the shoe rubbing together (and is, instead, caused by the shoe sole on the floor), rub the soles of your shoes down with a bar of soap.", "Can you return them. I had a pair of Timberlands that hurt my foot as no other boot had, so I took them back and they let me exchange them..." ]

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[ "How to get my boss to be flexible around my schedule? I have started working as a server at an upscale restaurant. I am a full time student as well. On Mondays and Wednesday I get off class at 5:00 PM (this is the best professor for this class, I can't change the timeslot). I asked my boss if I can show up for work at 5:30 on Mondays and Wednesdays. He told me \"I hired you based on availability\" and he wouldn't be flexible. I can not change the class, it is too late for that. How do I convince him to be flexible around my schedule? I am available all weekend and weekday nights, I just can't make it to work by 5 on two days out of the week. How do I convince him? Should I go to human resources? I do not want to do that, I want to work this out internally. If he does not let me come in at a certain time, I have to quit. How should I approach him again? I thought they would be more flexible with college students. :(\n\nTL;DR - I requested to come to work a little later on two weekdays, my boss denied my request. What should I do?", "How to get my boss to be flexible around my schedule? I have started working as a server at an upscale restaurant. I am a full time student as well. On Mondays and Wednesday I get off class at 5:00 PM (this is the best professor for this class, I can't change the timeslot). I asked my boss if I can show up for work at 5:30 on Mondays and Wednesdays. He told me \"I hired you based on availability\" and he wouldn't be flexible. I can not change the class, it is too late for that. How do I convince him to be flexible around my schedule? I am available all weekend and weekday nights, I just can't make it to work by 5 on two days out of the week. How do I convince him? Should I go to human resources? I do not want to do that, I want to work this out internally. If he does not let me come in at a certain time, I have to quit. How should I approach him again? I thought they would be more flexible with college students. :(\n\nTL;DR - I requested to come to work a little later on two weekdays, my boss denied my request. What should I do?" ]

[ "I'm sorry to say but you won't convince him. Your job is easily replaced by someone else so I think it's best to find another employer. I know that is difficult but from a boss's standpoint your class isn't his problem. \n\nIf it was me I'd be flexible with you but in my experience most bosses in the restaurant industry are deliberately difficult. ", "Leave that job. It's not going to be worth it working for an employer that isn't willing to work around your school schedule." ]

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[ "How to properly dust your house or apartment As a messy college student, cleaning is low on my list of priorities, and the amount of dust in my apartment is really getting out of hand and giving me congestion. How exactly do you go about dusting an entire apartment? Are there any places where dust tends to accumulate that are often neglected? And any tips for removing dust from hard-to-reach places? (Ex. How would I go about dusting between the slits of my A/C unit [which looks similar to this](http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/08/46/91/23/0008469123115_500X500.jpg)?)\n\nAny guidance would be greatly appreciated!\n", "How to properly dust your house or apartment As a messy college student, cleaning is low on my list of priorities, and the amount of dust in my apartment is really getting out of hand and giving me congestion. How exactly do you go about dusting an entire apartment? Are there any places where dust tends to accumulate that are often neglected? And any tips for removing dust from hard-to-reach places? (Ex. How would I go about dusting between the slits of my A/C unit [which looks similar to this](http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/08/46/91/23/0008469123115_500X500.jpg)?)\n\nAny guidance would be greatly appreciated!\n", "How to properly dust your house or apartment As a messy college student, cleaning is low on my list of priorities, and the amount of dust in my apartment is really getting out of hand and giving me congestion. How exactly do you go about dusting an entire apartment? Are there any places where dust tends to accumulate that are often neglected? And any tips for removing dust from hard-to-reach places? (Ex. How would I go about dusting between the slits of my A/C unit [which looks similar to this](http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/08/46/91/23/0008469123115_500X500.jpg)?)\n\nAny guidance would be greatly appreciated!\n", "How to properly dust your house or apartment As a messy college student, cleaning is low on my list of priorities, and the amount of dust in my apartment is really getting out of hand and giving me congestion. How exactly do you go about dusting an entire apartment? Are there any places where dust tends to accumulate that are often neglected? And any tips for removing dust from hard-to-reach places? (Ex. How would I go about dusting between the slits of my A/C unit [which looks similar to this](http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/08/46/91/23/0008469123115_500X500.jpg)?)\n\nAny guidance would be greatly appreciated!\n", "How to properly dust your house or apartment As a messy college student, cleaning is low on my list of priorities, and the amount of dust in my apartment is really getting out of hand and giving me congestion. How exactly do you go about dusting an entire apartment? Are there any places where dust tends to accumulate that are often neglected? And any tips for removing dust from hard-to-reach places? (Ex. How would I go about dusting between the slits of my A/C unit [which looks similar to this](http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/08/46/91/23/0008469123115_500X500.jpg)?)\n\nAny guidance would be greatly appreciated!\n" ]

[ "Hey hey! I am a custodian and 26 year old kind of messy guy as well. I however clean up around my house quite often. Many times its because I get lazy half way through something, and have to clean up anyway.\n\nFirstly your AC unit, mine has some screws that I can unscrew and I was able to vacuum the filter and wipe some of the dust off with a damp cloth. \n\nAnyhow, there is a lot of smoking that goes on in my house, along with candles and there are 2 dogs. There are a few tips I can tell you have helped me keep the dusting and cleaning easy.\n\nFirstly, microfiber clothes are pretty badass and tend to collect dust much better than other towels, paper towels and the like. Keeping some of these in the living room, kitchen and other living spaces can allow you to wipe down the table when you think about it, instead of 'planning' to clean, having the cloth there will allow you to take care of the problem. Also you might see yourself being motivated to wipe down two or three pieces of furniture. (and if you are like me you'll realize that the amount of time it takes to dust is not very long, especially if there is some sort of regular dusting going on often.\n\nMicro fiber cloths\nVacuum attachment (as mentioned by Lordica) is a great, and badass idea. I recently bought a vacuum that can be used on many surfaces and has attachments. You can purchase a decent vacuum cleaning from your local hardware store if you do not already have one. \n\nWorth noting I made the mistake of purchasing many shitty vacuums before realizing I can't afford to buy cheap vacuum cleaners. I went out recently and bought a legit vacuum that cost about 150 bucks. This is excessive and I do not expect a college student to put that sort of money into cleaning equipment, but you might be better buying something that is not the cheapest option at your local store. Spending an extra 25-50 bucks will hopefully pay off if you can keep it longer. \n\nWith the vacuum I have noticed a lot of cobwebs in corners of many areas of the house, especially where smoking takes place. Using the hose on the vacuum is the best way to get at these areas. You don't risk the dust falling on any of your things.\n\nAlso if you have hardwood floors be sure to move the furniture often and sweep or vacuum the dust that collects under there. \n\nOkay, truth is, I'm pretty baked and this message has rambled but my overall advice is to sweep your floors often and always check the corners of your ceilings for cobwebs. Using a vacuum hose is a badass way to remove dust and allergens with must less bother than other methods.\n\nI told myself when I moved into my house that every day I am going to do something that improves my living space. Even if that's just cleaning or dusting a room I realize that I have improved my own health by removing harmful dust from my space, and I was up and moving around. It's been said \"Sitting is this generations smoking.\" This motivated me to not just sit and watch TV, but actively move around the house cleaning up random shit.\n\nAlso, its easier to save a life than it is to clean up a body.", "The front plate of your AC unit comes off, so that you can clean the filter behind it. Take it off and clean it and the filter (you can clean both with just water and a rag probably).\n\nDusting is about accumulation more than removal - it wipes off of surfaces easily with anything, a damp rag will do the trick. Just do it more often. ", "Don't let the forces of gravity make you work harder! Pick a corner of a room. Go to the highest point in that corner (maybe even brush cobwebs from the ceiling) and work your way down. If you dust from the bottom-up, you'll knock dust onto the lower surface you just cleaned. ", "Any vacuum with a HEPA filter and a hose will help immensely. I use a regular old dustmop and vacuum it off after I've dusted an area. For instance, as I dust the shelf, vacuum the mop. Next shelf, vacuum the mop. The hose can be used for pre-dusting too, if it's that bad, or for your first go at a messy place. The nice thing about using the vac is that the dust doesn't get a chance to settle again. Good luck! And clean the vac, and any air filters in your home often. ", "Dust things that are high up first, work your way down. Use dusting spray on a cloth, change cloths when it becomes too dirty.\n\n\nAs for the AC, most of them have a removable front that you can take off and clean in the sink.\n\n\nAfter you're done all your dusting, vacuum the entire place." ]

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[ "What's the best way of dealing with peeling skin due to sunburn? Living on the coast has its ups and downs, but living by the beach is great to me. However, sunburn sometimes happens even if you use sunscreen. When the skin starts peeling away, it's kind of a pain to deal with. What's the best way of dealing with this issue? Scrubbing? Not paying any attention to it?", "What's the best way of dealing with peeling skin due to sunburn? Living on the coast has its ups and downs, but living by the beach is great to me. However, sunburn sometimes happens even if you use sunscreen. When the skin starts peeling away, it's kind of a pain to deal with. What's the best way of dealing with this issue? Scrubbing? Not paying any attention to it?", "What's the best way of dealing with peeling skin due to sunburn? Living on the coast has its ups and downs, but living by the beach is great to me. However, sunburn sometimes happens even if you use sunscreen. When the skin starts peeling away, it's kind of a pain to deal with. What's the best way of dealing with this issue? Scrubbing? Not paying any attention to it?", "What's the best way of dealing with peeling skin due to sunburn? Living on the coast has its ups and downs, but living by the beach is great to me. However, sunburn sometimes happens even if you use sunscreen. When the skin starts peeling away, it's kind of a pain to deal with. What's the best way of dealing with this issue? Scrubbing? Not paying any attention to it?", "What's the best way of dealing with peeling skin due to sunburn? Living on the coast has its ups and downs, but living by the beach is great to me. However, sunburn sometimes happens even if you use sunscreen. When the skin starts peeling away, it's kind of a pain to deal with. What's the best way of dealing with this issue? Scrubbing? Not paying any attention to it?", "What's the best way of dealing with peeling skin due to sunburn? Living on the coast has its ups and downs, but living by the beach is great to me. However, sunburn sometimes happens even if you use sunscreen. When the skin starts peeling away, it's kind of a pain to deal with. What's the best way of dealing with this issue? Scrubbing? Not paying any attention to it?" ]

[ "Lifelong ginger here. I recommend not touching it for as long as possible, and then, once it's reached it's maximum extent, peel it off as carefully as you can so as to create the largest translucent sheets of dead skin possible. Then be sure to show your friends before they dry up and shrink--otherwise, what's the point?\n\nAlso wear a hat and reapply your sunscreen hourly, ya putz.", "Find a gentle exfoliation, like a rice powder. Help regenerate the new skin and gently sloth off the old dead skin. ", "I get vitamin E gel caps, prick them with a pin, and apply the gel directly to the peeling skin and rub briskly. The gel is a little sticky and the flaking skin rubs off. The vitamin E also helps with healing. This seems to work best right after a shower.", "Soak in a tub for a while, then add some baby oil to the water so that it spreads on the surface. When you get out, the oil will help trap water under the loose skin. Shower as usual afterwards.", "Not at all associated with them but vanity planet sell a exfoliated scrubber thing after coming back from hawaii its saved me with skin peel.", "I remember coming back from vacation, and the first morning back to school my face just starting cracking. I just waited it out, and freaked people out when I could." ]

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[ "Migraine remedies to alleviate the pain Been having this migraine for quite some time now. It's more of an on and off season. There are times when it isn't apparent, but when it is, it becomes consistent on a day to day basis. \n\nI can vouch for the fact that smoking cannabis helps alleviate the pain. Although I just quit recently because it is still illegal in my country. I think painkillers such as paracetamol work too but in the long term damages the liver, so I wouldn't want to rely on it. Are there any other remedies?", "Migraine remedies to alleviate the pain Been having this migraine for quite some time now. It's more of an on and off season. There are times when it isn't apparent, but when it is, it becomes consistent on a day to day basis. \n\nI can vouch for the fact that smoking cannabis helps alleviate the pain. Although I just quit recently because it is still illegal in my country. I think painkillers such as paracetamol work too but in the long term damages the liver, so I wouldn't want to rely on it. Are there any other remedies?", "Migraine remedies to alleviate the pain Been having this migraine for quite some time now. It's more of an on and off season. There are times when it isn't apparent, but when it is, it becomes consistent on a day to day basis. \n\nI can vouch for the fact that smoking cannabis helps alleviate the pain. Although I just quit recently because it is still illegal in my country. I think painkillers such as paracetamol work too but in the long term damages the liver, so I wouldn't want to rely on it. Are there any other remedies?", "Migraine remedies to alleviate the pain Been having this migraine for quite some time now. It's more of an on and off season. There are times when it isn't apparent, but when it is, it becomes consistent on a day to day basis. \n\nI can vouch for the fact that smoking cannabis helps alleviate the pain. Although I just quit recently because it is still illegal in my country. I think painkillers such as paracetamol work too but in the long term damages the liver, so I wouldn't want to rely on it. Are there any other remedies?" ]

[ "Take migraine pills. Normal stuff like paracetamol and ibuprofen does not work but specific migraine stuff does the trick for me. \n\nConstant canabis use reduced the amount of migraines i get heavily from 1 every 1-2 weeks to 1 every 4-6 months.", "I struggled with migraines for years. I tried prescriptions and natural remedies and couldn't ever find anything, nor could I tie it to a specific food or anything like that.\n\nWhat I did finally conclude, was that it was due to stress. I tend to clench my jaw a lot, and after a stressful day, I found that the muscles in the back of my neck were two solid knots. After I while as I became more aware of this, I would make sure to roll my head around a lot and really dig your fingers into those muscles as a deep massage.\n\nI read somewhere (after I found my apparent fix) that those muscles tightening up like that can shift the vertebrae in your neck and mess with your nerves.\n\nKnock on wood, but I haven't had a migraine in 5+ years, maybe that might work for you.", "Asprin really helps.\nIf I get an unbearable migraine, I will take 300mg Asprin, 1000mg Paracetamol, 60mg Codine (2 x panadine forte) and 5mg Valium.", "1) Talk to a doctor if you haven't. Some migraines are signs of serious problems, plus they can sometimes give you either a prescription or an injection that will help immediately. They might suggest taking a daily medication to prevent them, and it's probably worth trying a few until you find one that works. (Don't be surprised if the daily stuff is usually used for blood pressure, seizures, or depression. Migraines aren't understood very well, so it's trial & error.)\n\n2) Find your triggers. Keep a log of what you eat, what you drink, what stimuli you encounter, and your pain level. For some people red wine or cheeses are a problem, for some it's strong smells or flashing lights.\n\n3) I've been told by doctors and pharmacists that you can generally double the dose on an over the counter pain killer, as long as it's short term. Caffeine (assuming it's not one of your triggers) can make a painkiller work better. Naproxen works better for me than acetaminophen or ibuprofen, and it's worth testing which works best for you. \n\n4) Immediately after taking any medicine you're going to take, eliminate as much stimulation as you possibly can. Go in a dark, quiet room and close your eyes for half an hour. Sometimes a cold rag on your eyes or neck can help.\n\n5) Check on your muscles and spine. A knot in your neck or shoulder can cause migraines. I've occasionally gotten relief from going to a chiropractor or spending a lot of time with a heating pad on my shoulders. \n\n6) If you have a menstrual cycle, consider birth control that limits the number of cycles per year (especially if your log book shows this might be a culprit).\n\nGood luck finding some relief!" ]

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[ "How to make a car look better before selling it without hiding all the rust to the future owner. I've got a pretty rusty car and I know it wont go for much but I'd still appreciate selling it for its maximum value. Are there any quick/cheap tricks to get rid of rust and make a car look a bit cleaner before trying to sell it?", "How to make a car look better before selling it without hiding all the rust to the future owner. I've got a pretty rusty car and I know it wont go for much but I'd still appreciate selling it for its maximum value. Are there any quick/cheap tricks to get rid of rust and make a car look a bit cleaner before trying to sell it?", "How to make a car look better before selling it without hiding all the rust to the future owner. I've got a pretty rusty car and I know it wont go for much but I'd still appreciate selling it for its maximum value. Are there any quick/cheap tricks to get rid of rust and make a car look a bit cleaner before trying to sell it?", "How to make a car look better before selling it without hiding all the rust to the future owner. I've got a pretty rusty car and I know it wont go for much but I'd still appreciate selling it for its maximum value. Are there any quick/cheap tricks to get rid of rust and make a car look a bit cleaner before trying to sell it?" ]

[ "Watch those email discount vouchers for good deals on car valet cleaning- full cut and polish, steam cleaning upholstery/carpets etc. See if they can pressure clean the engine compartment/under the hood. I recommend spraying a fair bit of degreaser in there and doing it yourself if they wont (many car wash places will do it for you, or have a pressure hose to do it yourself), to make it all clean and shiny. Any plastic trim on the car or under the hood, armor-all the shit out of it, and the interior if the valet wont. Use tyre foam on the tires if the valet doesn't. \n\nScrape off any stickers that don't belong- eg: peeling alarm sticker, gym membership, Mcdonalds VIP member etc etc. If you really want to go all out, and the seats are a bit icky, get a cheap but nice set of seat covers that fit very well. New looking seats give a good impression. People look more at the outside, but spend more time inside the car than hanging around looking at the outside, so make sure the inside gets special treatment for smells and cleanliness. \n\nA good thorough clean up and deodorising, including all the materials and valet, will (in my country) cost me around $150 and a few hours of work- but it will make a $5000 car go from looking like a $3000 car to a $6000 car. ", "Used to do this at auctions running hooptys through the as is lanes; drenched them head to toe in pledge furniture polish. Could would be deep glossy, shiny, wet. Looked amazing. The first time it rained it looked like a giant rolling oil spill. \n\nIf it's not going to rain, let your Soul Glo", "You could always plasti dip it. You would probably still want to take a before picture to show the buyer though. [Here's what it looks like.](http://weezoonline.com/clothing/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/Blueberry-1.jpg) It gives kinda a matte finish and it is temporary so the new owner can just peel it off if they want to fix the rust. You can just buy the plasti dip and spray it on right in your driveway yourself if you have the right tools. I think what people generally use is those wagner power spray painters you use around the house.", "Clean the inside and outside out your windows, especially the oily residue on the inside of the front windscreen" ]

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[ "How to stop stumbling over words, trying to find words mid-sentence, or losing train of thought while speaking I don't know what people think of when they speak. People are always confused about what i'm trying to say because i always stumble over certain words or my mind goes blank on what to say next when telling or story or explaining something", "How to stop stumbling over words, trying to find words mid-sentence, or losing train of thought while speaking I don't know what people think of when they speak. People are always confused about what i'm trying to say because i always stumble over certain words or my mind goes blank on what to say next when telling or story or explaining something", "How to stop stumbling over words, trying to find words mid-sentence, or losing train of thought while speaking I don't know what people think of when they speak. People are always confused about what i'm trying to say because i always stumble over certain words or my mind goes blank on what to say next when telling or story or explaining something", "How to stop stumbling over words, trying to find words mid-sentence, or losing train of thought while speaking I don't know what people think of when they speak. People are always confused about what i'm trying to say because i always stumble over certain words or my mind goes blank on what to say next when telling or story or explaining something", "How to stop stumbling over words, trying to find words mid-sentence, or losing train of thought while speaking I don't know what people think of when they speak. People are always confused about what i'm trying to say because i always stumble over certain words or my mind goes blank on what to say next when telling or story or explaining something" ]

[ "You're going too fast. Before you start speaking, give your brain more time to let the heard sink in properly. Then give the brain more time to form a response.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nMany people nowadays have forgotten the ability to speak consciously and just sprout out words based on patterns. The only way to combat that is to fight the urge to start reacting immediately and instead letting things sink in first. It will also raise the quality of the converaation.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nNow let's go through this in a more practical way.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nImagine sentences as a stream loaded up before you speak. Like when you want to watch a youtube video. You can output the stream already before it's done uploading. When you go too fast, you will inevitably stall yourself, because the data isn't ready yet. \"Uhm...\"\n\nDuring the \"Uhm...\" you might be able to sense what's going on in your brain and how further parts of the stream are being made ready for you to output. To avoid this, you have to learn to let the stream either finish before you start speaking, or speak slowly enough not to reach a stalling point.\n\nThink about what you say by listening to yourself!\n\n&nbsp;\n\nIt also helps beginners to actually pause between words, instead of connecting them as if it all was one. Not like a robot, no, but like someone who gives meaning, which leads to the next part.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nGive your words emotional content. Many people nowadays, for reasons, speak rather monotone. This again is a sign that someone speaks like a robot. When you give your words an emotional tone (going up, down, etc) you actually transport more information than by trying to compress as many words as you can into a few seconds.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nAnd the last one: Breathe. Many people breathe wrong when they speak. It helps concentrating on it until it's just back in rythm. Google will help you more on this.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nIf you have questions (I hope you do) don't hesitate to ask! Responses might take a while, but I will definitely answer. :)\n\nPS: Excuse typos, I'm on mobile.", "Just practice talking while looking at a mirror.\n\nMy friend has the same issue and all he does (spare time at home) is just practice speaking ", "I have the exact same problem. Strangely enough, I've noticed I speak much more clearly when I haven't gotten enough sleep. My theory is that normally my internal thoughts are 2 or 3 steps ahead of my speech, and there can be interference. When I'm sleep deprived, I can't think any faster than I can talk, so everything is in sync. I haven't come up with any practical solutions yet; going through life sleep deprived is not an acceptable option for me. Maybe you're problem is different. Maybe my theory is totally wrong. ", "Practice talking by using a few chairs.\n\nImagine that you're talking to a group of people.\n\nKeep repeating it everyday until you finally are able to not stutter while speaking.\n\nIf you don't want to practise doing this, then it's probably not going to work.\n\nSo you must have the willpower to overcome your fears and do it.", "Are you cross dominent......not quite ambidextrous but maybe write with one hand but bat or throw a ball with the other.If you are it could explain your stuttering and loss of focus. Your brain would process Information differently than others due to using both sides of your brain. Learning disabilities, stuttering, are only a couple of issues known......search Google for cross dominant and you'll be relieved to know why this happens..... " ]

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[ "How to get work during class instead of procrastinating? I just recently finished my first year of high school and I have been realizing that I can get absolutely no work done during class. When my teachers give me time in class to do work, I often spend that time talking to friends and spending time on my phone. Then, when I arrive home I start stressing out with the amount of work I have even though I know I could've just finished it at school. What can I do to stop getting distracted during class?", "How to get work during class instead of procrastinating? I just recently finished my first year of high school and I have been realizing that I can get absolutely no work done during class. When my teachers give me time in class to do work, I often spend that time talking to friends and spending time on my phone. Then, when I arrive home I start stressing out with the amount of work I have even though I know I could've just finished it at school. What can I do to stop getting distracted during class?", "How to get work during class instead of procrastinating? I just recently finished my first year of high school and I have been realizing that I can get absolutely no work done during class. When my teachers give me time in class to do work, I often spend that time talking to friends and spending time on my phone. Then, when I arrive home I start stressing out with the amount of work I have even though I know I could've just finished it at school. What can I do to stop getting distracted during class?", "How to get work during class instead of procrastinating? I just recently finished my first year of high school and I have been realizing that I can get absolutely no work done during class. When my teachers give me time in class to do work, I often spend that time talking to friends and spending time on my phone. Then, when I arrive home I start stressing out with the amount of work I have even though I know I could've just finished it at school. What can I do to stop getting distracted during class?", "How to get work during class instead of procrastinating? I just recently finished my first year of high school and I have been realizing that I can get absolutely no work done during class. When my teachers give me time in class to do work, I often spend that time talking to friends and spending time on my phone. Then, when I arrive home I start stressing out with the amount of work I have even though I know I could've just finished it at school. What can I do to stop getting distracted during class?", "How to get work during class instead of procrastinating? I just recently finished my first year of high school and I have been realizing that I can get absolutely no work done during class. When my teachers give me time in class to do work, I often spend that time talking to friends and spending time on my phone. Then, when I arrive home I start stressing out with the amount of work I have even though I know I could've just finished it at school. What can I do to stop getting distracted during class?" ]

[ "Step 1, headphones. If they are allowed, I guess.\n\nStep 2, sacrifice the fun social interactions you have with your friends to get the work done.", "It’s called ‘self-discipline’ for a reason. It comes from within. Sometimes in life you have to do things you don’t want to do so you have the freedom later to do the things you want to do. \n\nHopefully you learn this now and not when you’re 30.", "The tasks you're doing are utterly boring and you can't find a reason to engage with them or what benefits they have.\nIt's completely normal for an intelligent person to want to do something better.\n\nYou have to find a way into each subject. Like gossip? Every topic has history, and possibly really bad history. Even the boring math equations had a nightmare of current events at the time. Always better than made up TV.\nCheck out YouTube biographies. The people were cutting edge technologies types. Your friends are boring.", "Tell your friends you have to work then put in headphones and work. This has worked for me throughout Senior year, even through the Senioritis era. By being direct with them (as another LPT) said, they'll understand that you care about your work.", "Put your phone in your locker and ask your teacher to give you detention every time you talk to your friends instead of doing your work", "All the above, yes. But recognize that the hardest part is just STARTING. The second hardest part is keeping it going.\n\nSo, I did this: If 30 minutes is too long, choose 5 minutes. Discipline for 5 minutes. Set a timer if you need. But work hard for 5 minutes. Force yourself to work at high concentration for only the next 5 minutes.\n\nAfter 5 minutes let yourself rest for 5 then go again \n\nI think you will find that you will not need or want to stop after 5 minutes.\n\nGood luck" ]

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[ "Talking with friends or people you know I saw a few posts like this while searching Reddit, but it didn't really answer what I was looking for. Whenever I talk with friends or someone I know, I would usually do the typical \"Hey, how's it going?\". Like usual, it would be \"Good, how are you?\" \"Good\", and scene. I never really like talking to people like this because it'll usually just end awkwardly. I like talking with people, but I never know how to approach it the right way. Can anyone give me ideas of better ways to chat with people, in terms of something that can spark a deeper conversation? Thanks! :)", "Talking with friends or people you know I saw a few posts like this while searching Reddit, but it didn't really answer what I was looking for. Whenever I talk with friends or someone I know, I would usually do the typical \"Hey, how's it going?\". Like usual, it would be \"Good, how are you?\" \"Good\", and scene. I never really like talking to people like this because it'll usually just end awkwardly. I like talking with people, but I never know how to approach it the right way. Can anyone give me ideas of better ways to chat with people, in terms of something that can spark a deeper conversation? Thanks! :)", "Talking with friends or people you know I saw a few posts like this while searching Reddit, but it didn't really answer what I was looking for. Whenever I talk with friends or someone I know, I would usually do the typical \"Hey, how's it going?\". Like usual, it would be \"Good, how are you?\" \"Good\", and scene. I never really like talking to people like this because it'll usually just end awkwardly. I like talking with people, but I never know how to approach it the right way. Can anyone give me ideas of better ways to chat with people, in terms of something that can spark a deeper conversation? Thanks! :)" ]

[ "Always remember FORD:\n\nFamily (Eg. How is your sister? I remember she had a cold...)\nOccupation (eg. Do you like the new job?)\nRecreation (eg. What are some of your hobbies?)\nDreams (eg. Do you have any plans for this summer?)\n\nThese are questions that can spark a conversation, and sort of invite yourself to learn more about them. Most times people will love to talk about themselves and will like you more for taking an interest. If things ever get too personal and they close up again, you can buffer questions with \"If you're okay with sharing...\". If you can tell they won't be just move along and maybe share in your similar situations. :)\n\nEveryone's day is unique, so learn about it if you can. :)\n\n", "Make it about them, not about you. Remember something from a previous conversation, and pick up from there. \"How did that work on your car turn out?\" \"As I recall you said your mom was coming to visit. How did that go?\" Etc.", "Ditto what others have said, and also practice asking follow-up questions. For me, it's not something that always comes very naturally, but the more you try, the better you'll get. Good follow-up questions ask for more details, but IMO the best ones ask how they feel/think about something, or why they feel/think that way. I also find it helps to kind of be an animated listener, if that makes sense? I find myself making agreeing/sympathetic noises, and doing a quick triple nod is really effective to show that you're interested and to encourage them to keep going. Basically anything to nonverbally communicate that you're enjoying listening.\n\nOf course, as the conversation goes on, it'll get awkward if it's just you asking questions and them answering - if they don't ask you questions in return, it's a good opportunity to relate some of your own experience, or whatever feels appropriate. It's also okay to notice that a person's just letting you ask questions and is giving you very little to work with in return - try changing the subject, but sometimes it's kind of easier to cut and run at that point, and try again with that person later. It's not all your responsibility to keep the convo going. In kind, though, be sure you're doing the same and give them something to work with. If you're feeling awkward, chances are they are, too.\n\nMostly, though, keep practicing. From experience, it'll get much easier the more you make a conscious effort." ]

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[ "anybody have tips on better ways to concentrate while learning and becoming more productive? I have a lot of school tests and I am learning most of the day even though that is not enough because I am finding myself thinking of other things while trying to learn and that makes me wastes me a lot of time.", "anybody have tips on better ways to concentrate while learning and becoming more productive? I have a lot of school tests and I am learning most of the day even though that is not enough because I am finding myself thinking of other things while trying to learn and that makes me wastes me a lot of time.", "anybody have tips on better ways to concentrate while learning and becoming more productive? I have a lot of school tests and I am learning most of the day even though that is not enough because I am finding myself thinking of other things while trying to learn and that makes me wastes me a lot of time.", "anybody have tips on better ways to concentrate while learning and becoming more productive? I have a lot of school tests and I am learning most of the day even though that is not enough because I am finding myself thinking of other things while trying to learn and that makes me wastes me a lot of time." ]

[ "It’s all about determination. Your brain is a muscle and focusing is something you have to practice. \n\nIt’s tough and it takes a while, but it’s been shown to increase IQ\n\nWay to better yourself", "M", "That's a very \"small\" advice but it helps me a lot: instead of just reading through your notes, read them OUT LOUD or WRITE then down again. \n\nJust reading doesn't work for me because after reading about two words, my mind starts to wander. But if you actively do something (talking, writing) you're mostly forced to focus on what you're doing. Works best if after each paragraph, you explain the paragraph to yourself again, this way you make sure you really did focus.", "Not sure what kind of things affect your concentration but I have adhd so I've been working on this for years. \n\nFor me, biggest tip is blocking outside distractions and/or distracting my bored, wondering brain so I can focus on work. \n\nAlso, giving a place for distracting thoughts to go. I'll keep a notepad with a separate pen right next to what I'm working on to jot down notes that pop up and don't belong to what I'm working on. That way my brain knows its noted and can let it go. I use a separate pen, usually a different color or type, so my wondering eyes and my brain SEE what's work and what's later thoughts. \n\nIf I can't wear earbuds, I like to do some kind of memorizing to distract but engage my bored brain. My favorite was learning the alphabet backwards. I do this at night to when I cant sleep. \n\nThe best thing that works for me is listening to movies or music BUT I need to know it really well and they also have to be neutral in my life. By this I mean, know it well so I'm not distracted by new stuff, and neutral so I don't get distracted... That's my jam! or angry at an ex or sad or or or.... \n\nSo for me, I'm the only one in my world who loves techno/dubstep. It's mine and I don't have to share it! It's what I've listened to for years while spending hours on projects. Now I've sort of trained myself when I play it it gets me in the zone to do work. Like my walk out music for a fight ha. \n\nSame with movies. I'll play my favorites that keep my wondering mind entertained so my working brain can focus. Best thing about movies (or TV episodes) is they are a great timer. I'll play different movies/TV based on how long they are and how long I have to work on something.\n\nOH the other things I have to do, like dealing with a kid at bedtime, is pee, get a drink, snack, blanket ready, chargers, etc so there's no reason to get up and break focus. Ok, maybe prepping a battle station sounds better than treating myself like a kid at bedtime lol\n\nDon't be afraid to put the outside world on do not disturb either. Let someone (parent, coworker, friend) know what's up then do work.\n\nAnyway, this is what I have to do." ]

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[ "Avoiding blushing at inopportune times I have this annoying problem where I blush at the worst times. It seems normal for this to happen if you did something wrong and somebody calls you out for it, but I blush when I feel like I'm being accused of something, regardless of whether or not I did it. I can't tell if this is just a trait that is part of me or something I can change. ", "Avoiding blushing at inopportune times I have this annoying problem where I blush at the worst times. It seems normal for this to happen if you did something wrong and somebody calls you out for it, but I blush when I feel like I'm being accused of something, regardless of whether or not I did it. I can't tell if this is just a trait that is part of me or something I can change. " ]

[ "I thought blushing was uncontrollable, but I found an article that may or may not be helpful for you. \n\nhttp://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-stop-blushing-tips/", "Are you a chronic blusher? There's a relevant episode of This American Life on the topic, and a potential surgical solution (hardly a pro-tip): http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/558/game-face?act=4" ]

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[ "How to inconspicuously store a mini fridge in plain sight It doesn't have to be pretty, just nothing out of the ordinary. DIY is fine. I don't have a ton of space and move quite often. Any ideas?", "How to inconspicuously store a mini fridge in plain sight It doesn't have to be pretty, just nothing out of the ordinary. DIY is fine. I don't have a ton of space and move quite often. Any ideas?" ]

[ "If you move often, cut a box to fit the door and the rest of the mini fridge. This works especially well if you put it under a table or something with a couple of other boxes that never seem to get unpacked.", "Contact paper in a wood pattern. To the eye it just reads as a small wooden table or chest of drawers. " ]

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[ "my dog guards the ball while playing with it. Hi, so as the title says, I've been trying to play with ny dog with a ball, problem is, once he catches it he won't give it back to me, and if I try to take it he will get angry and bark at me.\n\nWhat can I do with this?", "my dog guards the ball while playing with it. Hi, so as the title says, I've been trying to play with ny dog with a ball, problem is, once he catches it he won't give it back to me, and if I try to take it he will get angry and bark at me.\n\nWhat can I do with this?" ]

[ "Try casually grabbing stuff from him around the house. Usually when you train puppies you're supposed to regularly take food from their bowl but if he is aggressive about it, you probably shouldn't try it unless you want to get bit. \n\nIf he doesn't run away from you, you can try using your thumb to curl his lip under his tooth while you say drop it. As soon as he lets go, remove your finger and give him a treat or affection. You can try it on yourself, it takes a lot of force to actually be painful; it's mostly just annoying. ", "I had a puppy that did the same. I'd just pick up something else and pretend like I'm going to throw it. Then she'd drop the ball to prepare to go after the new object. You could also try small bits of meat or a treat. Hold it until he drops the ball then give him a little piece and give him praise with your voice and petting." ]

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[ "How to break up with someone? Hi, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about two months however things have gone stale and we have been arguing a bit. I would like to just end it, however we don't see each other in person at all only. She lives about 40 minutes away and us, being teenagers, can't drive yet. So, should I just call her over the phone and tell her? If so what should I say? Any help is appreciated greatly! Thanks and have a good day", "How to break up with someone? Hi, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about two months however things have gone stale and we have been arguing a bit. I would like to just end it, however we don't see each other in person at all only. She lives about 40 minutes away and us, being teenagers, can't drive yet. So, should I just call her over the phone and tell her? If so what should I say? Any help is appreciated greatly! Thanks and have a good day", "How to break up with someone? Hi, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about two months however things have gone stale and we have been arguing a bit. I would like to just end it, however we don't see each other in person at all only. She lives about 40 minutes away and us, being teenagers, can't drive yet. So, should I just call her over the phone and tell her? If so what should I say? Any help is appreciated greatly! Thanks and have a good day", "How to break up with someone? Hi, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about two months however things have gone stale and we have been arguing a bit. I would like to just end it, however we don't see each other in person at all only. She lives about 40 minutes away and us, being teenagers, can't drive yet. So, should I just call her over the phone and tell her? If so what should I say? Any help is appreciated greatly! Thanks and have a good day", "How to break up with someone? Hi, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about two months however things have gone stale and we have been arguing a bit. I would like to just end it, however we don't see each other in person at all only. She lives about 40 minutes away and us, being teenagers, can't drive yet. So, should I just call her over the phone and tell her? If so what should I say? Any help is appreciated greatly! Thanks and have a good day" ]

[ "PayPal me $10 and I'll call her and do it for you. I'll do it any way you want. Mean, nice, tell her you were in an accident and died. Whatever you want I'll do. ", "**Timing**\n\nBest option: Face to face in a neutral environment when tensions are low\n\nNext best: Phone call\n\nPreferably never: text, email, etc\n\n---\n\n**Wording**\n\nThis one is really, really variable. It depends how long you've been together and what your driving force truly is. \n\nGeneral rule of thumb is you don't owe them information, and it's good to be kind. So only explain as much of your reasoning as you want to, and try to make it about you instead of them. I don't mean \"it's not you, it's me.\" No one receives that well. I mean something more like \"at this time in my life I need a partner that I can spend more time with, and unfortunately I can't have that with you.\" \n\n---\n\n**After the event**\n\nZERO contact until BOTH of you no longer think you might have a chance with the other. ", "I think it shows a lot of integrity on your part to want to have this conversation either in person or over the phone. Some conversation need to be done in real-time and I worry that the \"fade out\" or just sending a text is becoming the cowardly norm nowadays. With that being said, I agree with the other post that after only 2 months of dating and with the distance, a phone call is appropriate.\n\nAs far as what to say - I'd keep it simple and honest to you. I would avoid pointing fingers or giving specific examples as to why you're no longer feeling it. There might be a tendency to cite examples of why it didn't work out (i.e. appointing blame, which is natural after a loss), but my experience is this conversation is best at a later time, not in the moment. Offer to continue as friends.", "Honesty will go far in this instance. Just tell her that it would be best to split and move on.\n\nYou're both still young and this doesn't sound too serious.", "start like \"dad take me to a club, there was some strippers so;you know probably i get hiv o aids or wherever end of scene ." ]

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[ "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. ", "How in the crap do you peel hard boiled eggs without jacking up the egg? I'm using organic free range eggs. " ]

[ "1) Old eggs are easier to peel. Keep them at room temperature for a few days before cooking.\n\n2) As soon as they're done cooking, run them under cold water until they don't rewarm to the touch when removed. Then peel.", "sparklepopper has it about right, but if you want a 5000-word article to explain why, there's always this: http://www.seriouseats.com/2014/05/the-secrets-to-peeling-hard-boiled-eggs.html\n\ntl;dr: \"Start with old eggs, cook them hot (but skip the pressure cooker), chill them rapidly and completely, crack all over, and peel under running water.\"", "Water is boiling > add eggs > boil 8.30 to 10 min (depending on preference) > remove the water and add room temp water (you don't need ice) until cool enough to handle (water and eggs can still be warm).\n\n\n\n", "Pops the ends off the the shells/membranes. Blow very hard into the egg/membrane and the shell will puff out and separate from the egg. You may even blow the egg right out of its shell.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ai9Akl8vQ-c", "Right before I boil the eggs, I run them under hot tap water for 10-15 mins. This denatures some of the protein that would otherwise make the shells difficult to peel off. You can do this will fresh eggs, but you may want to keep them in a hot water bath for longer before you boil them. \n\nNever boil eggs straight from the fridge.", "Old is the key. When we had our own chickens, we always kept a dozen in the back of the fridge to age. I found anything less than a month old was to hard to remove from the shell after hard boiling.", "Nobody else seems to do it this way, but IMO its the best:\n\n1. Get a Teaspoon\n2. Stick it through the shell at the pointy tip and between the egg and the shell - carefully\n3. Swivel the spoon around the egg between the egg and the shell, the shell should come off in one piece", "Crack them, run under cold water and then roll them. \nThe shells will come off easily if you do this.", "We have 20-25 layers year round and sell/consume our own eggs. The \"problem\" you are having is that the chickens have a better diet, therefore stronger egg shells, and a richer, more nutritious inside. We have tried !everything! to get better hard boiled eggs from our chickens (Old, only the small/big, giving less grit, etc). Our solution : Buy crappy cheap supermarket eggs, they are already old (2-3 weeks) and the shells are weak. One of the reasons I dont eat hard-boiled eggs! Hope this helps!", "Make sure the water is boiling BEFORE you put any eggs in. If u put them in cold water then boil it, the shells will stick like hell. Hope this helps!\n\n", "Add a table spoon of baking sodas to the water before you boil the water. The shells are softened and they fall off easily when you peel them. " ]

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[ "What to say to SET UP a meeting regarding a raise, when you work remotely? Pardon my extreme social anxiety, but I'm struggling to just START the conversation about a raise at my job. I'm entirely remote, and have been for a long time, so I can't just drop by my supervisor's office. We do not have regular meetings, and mainly communicate via Signal. Should I send a message just asking to \"talk\" some time this week? \n\nI more or less know what I'm going to say with regards to the raise itself, I'm just not sure how to get the conversation started.", "What to say to SET UP a meeting regarding a raise, when you work remotely? Pardon my extreme social anxiety, but I'm struggling to just START the conversation about a raise at my job. I'm entirely remote, and have been for a long time, so I can't just drop by my supervisor's office. We do not have regular meetings, and mainly communicate via Signal. Should I send a message just asking to \"talk\" some time this week? \n\nI more or less know what I'm going to say with regards to the raise itself, I'm just not sure how to get the conversation started." ]

[ "Get your information first. Get your reasoning, get a list of accomplishments, gather congrats/kudos emails your references (coworkers). \n\nThen ask for the meeting. Be clear, “I’d like to talk about salary” so the manager knows how much time to set aside and so he’s not blindsided. \n\nThen make your case using what you’ve done and how you made money, saved money, or raised customer satisfaction for the company. \n\nDo NOT compare yourself to others. I mean don’t say “I do more than Bill so I should make more.” Compare you today to you from a year ago.", "It really all depends on the kind of relationship you have with your supervisor. For me, I just sent an email to mine just flat out asking for it and why I thought I deserved one with the open \"let's talk\" at the end. On the other hand, if you have a more professional relationship, I would start with a simple email requesting a meeting. Maybe lead it with something like \"I want to have a Xyear/month review meeting of my performance.\" Or \"Can we have an I person meeting to review....\". The best thing you can do is come prepared and confident that you deserve a raise." ]

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[ "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it", "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it", "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it", "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it", "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it", "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it", "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it", "Struggling to build discipline So for I’ve been trying to build more discipline throughout my life but I’ve stumbled across some problems. \n\nA lot of people say to make a to-do list, and to plan my day out. But I’m not sure on how specific I should be. Like when making a to do list. Do I write down literally everything from brushing my teeth to working out. Then also how would implement time management and planning with so many small and big task. \n\nThen I also get side track to by playing games, being on my phone, watching tv shows. Which completely sucks me into procrastinating. Which leads to me not doing what need to be done. Does anyone have any advice on building discipline I would much appreciate it" ]

[ "You should schedule in time for gaming and social media and stick to that. Work out how long you need to do the important things and then schedule these less important things around them. If you spend 20 minutes on social media twice a day you're not going to miss out on anything.\n\nThe issue is that (imo) you can't build discipline, you just have to decide to do the things. You can build routine which helps massively, but that all starts with planning and then consistently executing that plan.", "You can make your to do list as basic or detailed as you like. Maybe try somewhere in the middle to start with and see if you need it more or less specific. Instead of brush teeth, floss, brush hair, put on deodorant you can just put bathroom prep or something.\n\nThe hard part is stopping the procrastinating. So schedule that in too. I don't know you life so I don't know how long is appropriate for you. But maybe after two hours of being useful you get twenty minutes of being lazy. Repeat until the day is done. Doesn't suit most computer games where you want a longer single time so instead you could do just a ten minute break every two hours but after the third two hours you also get a two hour break. Then back to productivity. \n\nWhatever works for you, but schedule it. Set a timer, and if the timer can be connected to the device and turn it off for you when time runs out then that's even better. (I'd suggest an extra timer 5 minutes beforehand so you aren't surprised and pissed when your computer suddenly turns off. If it turns itself off you have to actively choose that you don't want to follow your own schedule and turn it back on. Usually you'll just get up and do your plans instead.\n\nGood luck", "This may not be helpful but what really changed my perspective was realizing the annoying things I dread doing still need to get done eventually. Whether I put them off for hours or do them right away, they need to get done. So I can either waste 3 hours scrolling on social media to avoid the task and feel like I've lost that time forever, or get the annoying tasks done and then actually enjoy the rest of my day without the weight of my unaccomplished tasks ruining my mood. I hope that makes sense! Try to tell yourself the sooner you get it done, the sooner you can just enjoy your time with no pressure or guilt!", "This is going to suck but listen up. Set a timer that goes off every ten minutes, all. Day. Long. \n\nEvery ten minutes, evaluate what you accomplished since the timer went off last. Write it down. Physically write it on paper. I guarantee your productivity will improve drastically.", "There are a million things you can do, get into Youtube and start watching discipline/self improvement videos, try out their suggestions, and find out what works for you.\n\n1. Phone - Dump all of the time wasting apps. Install a focus app that lets you lock your phone for periods. This will keep you from constantly checking for \"anything new.\"\n2. To-Do list - Just list all of the things you hope to do. Eating, brushing your teeth will come naturally. Focus on exercise, productivity, self-care. Those are the things we skimp out on.\n3. Focus - Procrastination is borne out of boredom. Yes, work/self-improvement is kind of boring, but the more you resist the \"pull\" to do something else, the easier it will be.\n\nDiscipline doesn't happen overnight, and you can lose it if you're not careful. Adlai Stevenson said; \"Change is inevitable, change for the better is a full time job.\"\n\nCommit to making small improvements each day, or to stick to a regimen. When you fall off a day and skip the things you need to be doing, re-dedicate yourself to it the next day.\n\nBest of luck.", "Limit your gaming time, your phone time. The to-do list is important, have important stuff on it, then add lesser stuff.", "I do a brain dump over the weekend and make lists:\n1. Things I am anxious about \n2. Things I want to do for fun\n3. Things on my calendar for the upcoming week\n4. Meal planning for the upcoming week\n\nThen I figure out the high-priority/time sensitive items and work my way down the list, figuring out which day I can do each task. That gives me a basic skeleton of what I need to do next week and by when. \n\nI try to just give myself three things to do each day. And I try to do the thing I really don’t want to do first to get rid of the anxiety - you will feel so much better when it’s done. I also tell myself I only have to do 15 minutes worth of work on it, and that is enough to get over the activation energy needed to do something I’ve been avoiding. \n\nYou can also try the [Pomodoro Technique](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique) where you set a timer for 25 minute work blocks and scheduled breaks. Lots of resources online about this and also mobile apps.", "For the to do list,\n\n(I'm french so maybe the translations won't work) \n\nIn project management we have something that is called \"task cutting\". The concept is that you divide all your task the smaller you can and then you regroup them in to categories that makes sense so that all your tasks are around the same time, energy. Being to precise is not worth it. \n\nExample : \n\nPersonal hygiene : Shower, teeth, hair, beard, etc (takes 1h). So I'd just write down personal hygiene. \n\nWorking out : Legs, back, abs, pecks, cardio (takes 1h). So I'd just write workout because the composition is clear. \n\nCleaning : Laundry, dishes, mopping, washroom cleaning etc. I'd separate all of those elements on the list because they can be treated seperatly \n\nYou can start the laundry, then do the dishes, then work out, then shower, then any other cleaning thing. \n\nSo the list is not to precise, but still precise enough that you know what is to do. \n\n\nSorry if I'm not clear, some things may get lost in translation." ]

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[ "how to get good at freestyle playing guitar How can I develop an ear for notes and chords that will allow me to improvise and freestyle on a guitar? \n\n", "how to get good at freestyle playing guitar How can I develop an ear for notes and chords that will allow me to improvise and freestyle on a guitar? \n\n", "how to get good at freestyle playing guitar How can I develop an ear for notes and chords that will allow me to improvise and freestyle on a guitar? \n\n", "how to get good at freestyle playing guitar How can I develop an ear for notes and chords that will allow me to improvise and freestyle on a guitar? \n\n", "how to get good at freestyle playing guitar How can I develop an ear for notes and chords that will allow me to improvise and freestyle on a guitar? \n\n", "how to get good at freestyle playing guitar How can I develop an ear for notes and chords that will allow me to improvise and freestyle on a guitar? \n\n", "how to get good at freestyle playing guitar How can I develop an ear for notes and chords that will allow me to improvise and freestyle on a guitar? \n\n" ]

[ "Learn the scales for all the different keys. Pick a key that fits whatever mood you're in or want to play, and as long as you stick to only the notes in that key, anything you do will sound good. \n\nMusical improv is about what sounds good to you. Find some riffs you like and you can always go back to those if you're stuck. Even if others don't love it, they can't say it's horrible as long as you stay within the key. \n\nAlso, practice. The more comfortable you are with improv, the more naturally it'll come and the more confident you'll be ", "Get comfortable with scales, and then try to learn melodies you know well by ear (trial and error). You'll get faster, with fewer errors before you find the right note, till you can know what the note will sound like before you play it. Then guitar will be as natural as singing.\n\nHaven't got that way with chords, I think that is harder.", "The best way to start is to find some chord progressions from songs that you like, and then learn them in a few different keys. \n\nIf you stay within the usual one key model, you may come up with some pleasant sounding things, but to get to the really interesting accents, you'll need to work alternate keys in. From a music theory perspective, the sharpened note of the harmonic minor scale (abcdefg#a for instance) causes all kinds of interesting structures to form between chords of different keys. To take advantage of it without blind trial and error, you'll find that there are key families that are related:\n\n\nC major, E major, and Ab Major -- united by CEG# aka E G# B# aka Ab C E (enharmonic augmented chord)\n\nDb major, F major, and A Major \n\nD major, Gb major, and Bb major\n\nEb Major, G major, and B major\n\n\nIf you stay within the key family, you'll find more chords that work, and also you'll see that the pentatonic scales will fit pretty good over them, as the two notes left out of the scale are the ones that would be most problematic. \n\nAn easy one is I IV iv I.. minor plagial cadence.. is used a lot... in C, its C major, F major, f minor, back to C major. \n\nAlso, E major when playing in A minor is common, especially when you work it in around an F major chord. \n\nI try to think of one string as the lead, and play it louder than the other strings for the melody, and just shift chords as needed. \n\nHope that helps!", "Learn the scales. Then start learning songs by ear. What helped me a lot was putting the track in an app like audacity looping sections, and sometimes slowing them down if it was giving me trouble. \n\nFor guitar solos, slowing and looping the music was/is invaluable. \n\nLook up backing tracks on YouTube and practice your improv. \n\nJust keep learning, imitating, and practicing. It comes with time, though using the above methods seemed to speed it up for me. ", "In addition to learning the scales and modes and stuff, remember to just play and have fun! Turn on a song that you could easily play over (most songs will do) and play the right scale. I find that I play better and create better ideas when I'm playing with an actual song because it has direction and dynamics.", "Im going to assume that you know the positions for the base chords. This works better for more acoustic style strumming but you can just memorize what chords are in each key. I would just look up a chart on the internet and played using it until I no longer needed the reference.\n\nUse this chart for reference:\nhttp://imgur.com/030uq61\n\nYou'll notice with the chart are corresponding numbers, these are the number of steps the key is away (I is the base note of the key and II is one step away). For a general rule, if you're playing it safe while freestyling, you can't go wrong using some combination of the 4th, 5th, and 6th chords and maybe throwing in the 2nd as a bridge or pre-chorus. The 7th chord often provides a good transition from the base chord to the 6th. (going from G, to f#/d, to e minor is really common). I rarely ever use a 3rd but thats just me.\n\nAs for playing chords outside of the key, it's really up to you and they work best as transition and accents.\n\nFinally, learn the pentatonic scales for each key. They are the basis for 90% of guitar solos (might be an exaggeration idk).\n", "I remember when I took a music class back in college there was something called the circle of fifths and it essentially can be used to find and create a progression/melody depending on where you start. I am not a musician mind you, so I never fully grasped the concept entirely, but my musician roommate who was theoretically minded used it all the time to experiment with notes and chords that he didn't think of. If you prefer a more structured approach than rather a \"get a feel for it\" approach maybe this could help. Best of luck!" ]

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[ "Better hand writing, right handed/left handed, PRINT, for pencil or pen, NOT stylized. Hey All,\n\nIt sure would be nice to improve my hand writing though it seems all books/video's/ or online resources that I've found point to cursive or 'styalized architechural' writing (ones that don't complete the letters.) In stead I'm just looking for a style much closer to Helvetica or Bookshelf Symbol.\n\nMore so, I'd just like to find sheets of paper to purchase or print out as was done in primary school, dotted letters with the direction of drawing illustrated.\n\nAny ideas?", "Better hand writing, right handed/left handed, PRINT, for pencil or pen, NOT stylized. Hey All,\n\nIt sure would be nice to improve my hand writing though it seems all books/video's/ or online resources that I've found point to cursive or 'styalized architechural' writing (ones that don't complete the letters.) In stead I'm just looking for a style much closer to Helvetica or Bookshelf Symbol.\n\nMore so, I'd just like to find sheets of paper to purchase or print out as was done in primary school, dotted letters with the direction of drawing illustrated.\n\nAny ideas?", "Better hand writing, right handed/left handed, PRINT, for pencil or pen, NOT stylized. Hey All,\n\nIt sure would be nice to improve my hand writing though it seems all books/video's/ or online resources that I've found point to cursive or 'styalized architechural' writing (ones that don't complete the letters.) In stead I'm just looking for a style much closer to Helvetica or Bookshelf Symbol.\n\nMore so, I'd just like to find sheets of paper to purchase or print out as was done in primary school, dotted letters with the direction of drawing illustrated.\n\nAny ideas?", "Better hand writing, right handed/left handed, PRINT, for pencil or pen, NOT stylized. Hey All,\n\nIt sure would be nice to improve my hand writing though it seems all books/video's/ or online resources that I've found point to cursive or 'styalized architechural' writing (ones that don't complete the letters.) In stead I'm just looking for a style much closer to Helvetica or Bookshelf Symbol.\n\nMore so, I'd just like to find sheets of paper to purchase or print out as was done in primary school, dotted letters with the direction of drawing illustrated.\n\nAny ideas?", "Better hand writing, right handed/left handed, PRINT, for pencil or pen, NOT stylized. Hey All,\n\nIt sure would be nice to improve my hand writing though it seems all books/video's/ or online resources that I've found point to cursive or 'styalized architechural' writing (ones that don't complete the letters.) In stead I'm just looking for a style much closer to Helvetica or Bookshelf Symbol.\n\nMore so, I'd just like to find sheets of paper to purchase or print out as was done in primary school, dotted letters with the direction of drawing illustrated.\n\nAny ideas?" ]

[ "http://www.k12reader.com/worksheet/lined-writing-paper-with-center-guide/\nThere's the paper, \n\nHere's the examples with the writing to practice.\n\nHere's a choice of two for you, there are about 40 different options here to practice exactly what you want so explore the pages:\n\nhttp://www.k12reader.com/subject/composition/handwriting/", "Write in all capitals. I did this back in the 10th grade and have gotten compliments ever since. Plus it came in handy in engineering school since that's how it has to be in blueprints. ", "Find a neat trick to help with your writing then get better and neater and eventually become neat enough to become the hero this world needs. ", "I used the college ruled graph paper and just wrote as neatly as possible and soon I was able to write fast and clear.", "Do you find that your handwriting is better with a particular type of writing instrument? I've found that I have the best with [technical pencil](http://shop.staedtler.us/c/art-design_2mm-lead-holder?pkey=c584c0bc3ea66b24aeb9179083291614&ckey=1097485.1097477.0.0.0) followed by [fine point pens](http://pilotpen.us/brands/precise/precise-p-500-p-700/), then regular ball-point pens. Oddly enough my handwriting with cheap Bic pens is worse in blue than with black. I'm not sure if it's because the ink is formulated differently and more smudgy or that I just dislike writing in blue ink (Or maybe it's why I don't like blue ink?). \n\nI think it's best with the technical pencil for me as it's a pretty sturdy graphite and lasts a long time and holds a point well (The cap is a sharpener). I tend to press down quite a bit with pencils so having a sturdier lead than a regular mechanical pencil helps preserve my sanity." ]

[ 6, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Easy way to convert meters to feet in my head I know a few conversion tricks already and was wondering if anyone had one (that I could do in my head) for meters to feet. Ill teach you one of my tricks if you teach me this one? :)\n\nMy trick for converting degrees Celsius into Fahrenheit is as follows,\nWe will use 25 degrees Celsius as the example:\n\n* Double the number (25+25=50)\n* Subtract the digit(s) on the left from that same number (5-50=45)\n* Add 32 (45+32=77)\n* 25C = 77F\n\n ", "Easy way to convert meters to feet in my head I know a few conversion tricks already and was wondering if anyone had one (that I could do in my head) for meters to feet. Ill teach you one of my tricks if you teach me this one? :)\n\nMy trick for converting degrees Celsius into Fahrenheit is as follows,\nWe will use 25 degrees Celsius as the example:\n\n* Double the number (25+25=50)\n* Subtract the digit(s) on the left from that same number (5-50=45)\n* Add 32 (45+32=77)\n* 25C = 77F\n\n " ]

[ "> Easy way to convert meters to feet in my head\n\nTo start, 3m is very close to 10 feet, 30m to 100 feet \n\n(and 0.3m = 1 ft if you need it)\n\nso 63 m = 100 feet + 100 feet + 10 feet = 210 feet (a more accurate answer is 207 feet)\n\n===\n\nOne trick: \n\nIncrease meters by 10% (just do your digit trick from the temp conversion but add rather than subtract) \nto get yards and then triple.\n\ne.g **5**5 m -> 55+5 = 60 yds ... 60 x 3 = 180 feet\n\ne.g. **8**7 m -> 87 +8 = 95 yds = 285 feet\n\n(conveniently, dropping the fraction there improves accuracy. That is, 87+8 rather than 87+8.7)\n\n\n\n==\n\nAnother way (accurate to about 1.5%):\n\nDivide by 3. Shift the decimal place over by 1 (i.e. multiply by 10)\n\ne.g. 12 meters :\n\n12/3 = 4. -> 40. feet. (exact answer is 39.37 feet)\n\n105 meters:\n\n105/3 = 35 -> 350 feet\n\nif you don't want to fuss about with fractions after division, you can do it like this:\n\n17 meters:\n\ndivide method: 17/3 = 5.66666 -> 56.67 say 57 feet\n\nwithout fractions: 17 is near 18, \n\n18/3 is 60 feet, subtract 1m = 3 feet gives 57\n\nIf you take whole numbers of meters to the nearest multiple of 3, you always either need to add or subtract 3 feet at the end.\n\ne.g. 31 m = 30 + 1 m = 100 feet + 3 feet. (a more accurate answer is 102 feet,)\n\nIf you want a bit more accuracy, subtract 1 foot for every 60 after conversion.\n\ne.g. \n\n158 meters: \n\n150 is a multiple of 3, so split as 150 + 6 + 2. 150/3 = 50; 6/3 = 2, so 156m is 520 feet. \n\nAdd 6 feet for the additional 2 meters = 528 feet, \n\nNow the subtraction for more accuracy: \n\n(600 is ten 60's, so ...)\n\n528 is nearly nine 60's, so subtract nine: 528-9 = 519 feet. Exact answer is 518.37, or about 7.5 inches out.\n\nCompare with method 1: **15**8 m = 158+15 yards = 173 y = 519 feet.\n(I find 173 x 3 relatively hard, personally, and prefer the division but ymmv.)\n\n=====\n\nThose two tricks are useful in different situations.\n\ne.g with 12m the second way is easier. With 94m the first way is probably a little easier. Sometimes they're about equally easy\n\n12/3 =4; 4x 10 = 40 is to me easier than **1**2 + 1 = 13; 13 x3 = 39, though 39 is (slightly) more accurate\n\n", "100 meters = 110 yards or 330 feet.\n\nJust think of your length in terms of multiples, or fractions, of 100 meters." ]

[ 5, 3 ]

[ "How to pay attention to a presentation so that you understand as much as possbile of it (and maybe ask relevant questions about it)? ", "How to pay attention to a presentation so that you understand as much as possbile of it (and maybe ask relevant questions about it)? " ]

[ "Ask if the presenter will provide notes or a copy of their slide deck so you can focus on learning however is best for you (listening, taking notes, etc...) rather than trying to record every detail. ", "Can you do some pre-reading before you go in, so that the presentation is the second time you're hearing the material? Reinforces what you learned in the reading and it all sticks better. " ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How to get decent internet in a slightly rural area. Two of my family members live in areas where internet is not really available. It is bizarre to me that in 2017 this is still an issue. They are reasonably wealthy and not beyond paying a couple thousand dollars if needed to help with the cost. \n\nMy dad moved to a slightly rural area of orange county that does not seem to have any options besides 1.5mbs DSL and cell internet at up to 30mbs, but the reception is terrible. \n\nIt is not very far from other neighborhoods that have cable. But he and 20 other homes are on between 2-40 acre properties where I guess it wasn't worth running lines for. There must be some sort of option, he is willing to pay a fair amount up front for them to do this. How would he go about this?\n\nWho do I contact? How do I discuss this and figure out the price of installation with someone who doesn't just do the standard home setups? Is there a better option than going through, i.e. Satellite based? \n\nIf this works out my 90 year old uncle could really use internet on his ranch too. Again not exactly out in the middle if nowhere, just outside of Medford Oregon.", "How to get decent internet in a slightly rural area. Two of my family members live in areas where internet is not really available. It is bizarre to me that in 2017 this is still an issue. They are reasonably wealthy and not beyond paying a couple thousand dollars if needed to help with the cost. \n\nMy dad moved to a slightly rural area of orange county that does not seem to have any options besides 1.5mbs DSL and cell internet at up to 30mbs, but the reception is terrible. \n\nIt is not very far from other neighborhoods that have cable. But he and 20 other homes are on between 2-40 acre properties where I guess it wasn't worth running lines for. There must be some sort of option, he is willing to pay a fair amount up front for them to do this. How would he go about this?\n\nWho do I contact? How do I discuss this and figure out the price of installation with someone who doesn't just do the standard home setups? Is there a better option than going through, i.e. Satellite based? \n\nIf this works out my 90 year old uncle could really use internet on his ranch too. Again not exactly out in the middle if nowhere, just outside of Medford Oregon.", "How to get decent internet in a slightly rural area. Two of my family members live in areas where internet is not really available. It is bizarre to me that in 2017 this is still an issue. They are reasonably wealthy and not beyond paying a couple thousand dollars if needed to help with the cost. \n\nMy dad moved to a slightly rural area of orange county that does not seem to have any options besides 1.5mbs DSL and cell internet at up to 30mbs, but the reception is terrible. \n\nIt is not very far from other neighborhoods that have cable. But he and 20 other homes are on between 2-40 acre properties where I guess it wasn't worth running lines for. There must be some sort of option, he is willing to pay a fair amount up front for them to do this. How would he go about this?\n\nWho do I contact? How do I discuss this and figure out the price of installation with someone who doesn't just do the standard home setups? Is there a better option than going through, i.e. Satellite based? \n\nIf this works out my 90 year old uncle could really use internet on his ranch too. Again not exactly out in the middle if nowhere, just outside of Medford Oregon." ]

[ "You'll ultimately need to discuss this with an ISP in the area. My dad rents a Jetpack(?) I believe to provide his remote mountain cabin with internet. You could look at dedicated leased lines but they are expensive and satellite is slow and caps your data.", "Anyone else think broadband service needs to be treated like electrical service was back in the day and be required by law to reach the same less densly populated areas and be subject to antitrust legislation? It's pretty much become a thing that you can't prosper without at this point. The longer you don't have it, the further behind you end up falling relative to someone who does.", "For cellular, you can by a booster that has an outdoor antenna that you can put on the roof or a pole. Last I checked, they're around 5-600 bucks" ]

[ 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to store earbuds in your pocket without them getting tangled I've been trying lately to simplify my pocket contents. I carry a wallet, phone, and earbuds with me everywhere I go. I've slimmed down the wallet and now I'm looking for a good solution to my earbuds which always get tangled through the day. Looking for a small and simple solution to keeping them untangled!", "How to store earbuds in your pocket without them getting tangled I've been trying lately to simplify my pocket contents. I carry a wallet, phone, and earbuds with me everywhere I go. I've slimmed down the wallet and now I'm looking for a good solution to my earbuds which always get tangled through the day. Looking for a small and simple solution to keeping them untangled!", "How to store earbuds in your pocket without them getting tangled I've been trying lately to simplify my pocket contents. I carry a wallet, phone, and earbuds with me everywhere I go. I've slimmed down the wallet and now I'm looking for a good solution to my earbuds which always get tangled through the day. Looking for a small and simple solution to keeping them untangled!", "How to store earbuds in your pocket without them getting tangled I've been trying lately to simplify my pocket contents. I carry a wallet, phone, and earbuds with me everywhere I go. I've slimmed down the wallet and now I'm looking for a good solution to my earbuds which always get tangled through the day. Looking for a small and simple solution to keeping them untangled!", "How to store earbuds in your pocket without them getting tangled I've been trying lately to simplify my pocket contents. I carry a wallet, phone, and earbuds with me everywhere I go. I've slimmed down the wallet and now I'm looking for a good solution to my earbuds which always get tangled through the day. Looking for a small and simple solution to keeping them untangled!", "How to store earbuds in your pocket without them getting tangled I've been trying lately to simplify my pocket contents. I carry a wallet, phone, and earbuds with me everywhere I go. I've slimmed down the wallet and now I'm looking for a good solution to my earbuds which always get tangled through the day. Looking for a small and simple solution to keeping them untangled!", "How to store earbuds in your pocket without them getting tangled I've been trying lately to simplify my pocket contents. I carry a wallet, phone, and earbuds with me everywhere I go. I've slimmed down the wallet and now I'm looking for a good solution to my earbuds which always get tangled through the day. Looking for a small and simple solution to keeping them untangled!" ]

[ "Hold your ear buds with your middle and ring fingers, with your index finger and pinky finger straight. Wrap the cord around your straight fingers in a figure eight pattern until you have roughly a foot left of cord. Carefully work the loops off your index and pinky fingers and wrap the cord around the middle of the figure eight pattern until there's an inch or two left. Pass the last couple of inches through one of the loops.\n\nTo unwrap, pull the end out of the loop and let the rest of it unravel towards the ground. [Google](http://www.google.com/search?q=figure+eight+earbud) for variations on this method.", "Tried my best to explain how it works!\n\nhttp://imgur.com/a/nRcdz\n\n", "My solution is a rubber band. Fold the buds in half a few times until they get to a decent size, the wrap the rubber band around it a few times. Keep the wraps loose, so as not to damage the wire. When you use the buds, wear the band around your wrist. \n", "I [sell wrapped earbuds at my Etsy shop.](http://www.etsy.com/shop/BeachPlumCottage?section_id=11767038) Not only personalizes them, but makes it so they wont tangle in your pocket.\n\n", "Several pairs i've purchased came with some kind of receptacle to keep them in ... but better headphones /smug", "Look up the butterfly knot and remember to take your headphones out of the top loop before untangling it. ", "OMG, check this out. Hold the two earbuds together in your right hand, and the other ond of the cable (jack) with your left hand. Bring the two ends together by folding them in half. Then hold the bundled end with your right hand, and the \"end of the fold\" in your left hand. Fold the thing in half once more. Then wrap the twice-folded cord once around you left index and middle finger and push the non-earbud end of the folded cable through the hole. Pull it tight like a little knot, and stick them in your pocket. Very easy to get undone.\n\nSorry I can't upload a picture :(" ]

[ 9, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0, -1 ]

[ "How to properly apply for your first job. I need help learning how to apply for my first job. I'm 16 almost 17 and I need a job. I've applied to two places and no one has called back. ", "How to properly apply for your first job. I need help learning how to apply for my first job. I'm 16 almost 17 and I need a job. I've applied to two places and no one has called back. ", "How to properly apply for your first job. I need help learning how to apply for my first job. I'm 16 almost 17 and I need a job. I've applied to two places and no one has called back. ", "How to properly apply for your first job. I need help learning how to apply for my first job. I'm 16 almost 17 and I need a job. I've applied to two places and no one has called back. ", "How to properly apply for your first job. I need help learning how to apply for my first job. I'm 16 almost 17 and I need a job. I've applied to two places and no one has called back. " ]

[ "Call THEM back. Don't wait for your potential employer to wait on you. Show some initiative and ask if the position is still available.", "Call them and ask for a manager. Then say, \"Hi, I'm HopelessRomantic5000. I put in an application the other day and I was just calling to check in on it.\" Every time I've done that, I've gotten the job.\n\nAlso, dress as best as you can when you get an interview. These two things alone put you ahead of 95% of everyone else who applies.", "This is probably the single most important thing I can tell you: call them. Apply for the job, wait a few days, and call them. Ask to speak with a manager and say something like \"Hi, my name is HopelessRomantic5000. I submitted an application a few days ago and was wondering if there were any updates.\"\n\nYou have to remember that these places are receiving hundreds of applications every week and since many are done online, a human usually won't see your application. At least this way, they know you applied.\n\nAlso, it helps if you know someone who works there so they can put in a good word.", "If you haven't had any working experience before, put other skill based experience you've had. Things like volunteering, coaching, anything extracurricular you may have done that could show how skills and experience you've gained are transferable.", "For the love of god, bring a pen. I always gave a red pen to anyone who asked me for a pen to fill out an application. I wouldn't hire anyone who couldn't foresee the need for a writing instrument when going to fill out apps. " ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to help others minimize their worrying and anxiety. As the title says, I'm seeking assistance in helping calm others, and/or reassure them that the problems at hand are minimal or easily manageable. For example, moving into a new condo/home/apartment in 7 months time in a general 50km radius of our current location.\n\nThank you,", "How to help others minimize their worrying and anxiety. As the title says, I'm seeking assistance in helping calm others, and/or reassure them that the problems at hand are minimal or easily manageable. For example, moving into a new condo/home/apartment in 7 months time in a general 50km radius of our current location.\n\nThank you," ]

[ "Listen to them. Have them tell you why they're scared and how worried they are. Empathize (\"yeah, that's tough\") and encourage (\"it'll work out\") as needed. See if you can understand where they're coming from. This'll help most people. Ninety percent of the time, talking through things will help them calm down as they realize their problems aren't as big as they thought.\n\nOnce they've calmed down some, you can offer suggestions.\n\nOne thing- put yourself in their shoes. Don't suggest that their problems are insignificant (even if they are). It doesn't matter that some people are homeless and have bigger problems. You can fix homelessness later- you're helping your friend right now, and nobody wants to be told their problems are meaningless.", "As someone with a history of heavy anxiety, all I really wanted was \"shelter\". That meant, at the time, a safe place with a safe friend. I didn't really want to talk about things, until I was ready. I just wanted someone to be a rock for me to hang on to. That meant maybe listening to music or watching a movie while just being there, together." ]

[ 4, 3 ]

[ "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?", "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?", "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?", "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?", "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?", "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?", "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?", "How to deal with the aftermath of a breakup. I just got out of a 11.5 month relationship. I know to some of you this may not seem long term, but this was at least an intensive short term relationship if you will. My gf had said she needed to work on some personal issues and didn’t talk to me for about 7 weeks. I would still leave messages (mostly memes or paragraphs saying I hope she’s ok and I still love her during those 7 weeks) here and there so she could reply when she was ready but she was silent for like a whole 7 weeks. I received a call where we ended it because she just didn’t want to continue the relationship as lovers but wanted to stay as friends (I know I know bad idea, but I really don’t think she deserves to be cut out of my life). It wasn’t dramatic whatsoever and she said it wasn’t explicitly anything I did. \n\nThing is however, this was my first breakup in my life since I’m only 19 and started dating her when I was 18. We were both college students who shared a lot of firsts and were both first loves for each other. I know time will be the best factor in healing from the breakup, but what else can be done? I think when the phone call ended the world just seemed a lot more grim and grey to me. I put on an emotional mask while on the phone, and said that I would politely accept her decision to leave me because it would lead to her being happy (even if it was without me). But once the call ended I just felt numb and confused because she didn’t even give me an explanation as to why besides her “just not feeling it anymore”.\n\nI’ve already picked out my some TV shows, couple of movies, video games, and snacks to binge on while I lock myself up for a week to distract myself for a bit. Any advice or tips beyond that?" ]

[ "Talk to people. Hang out with friends and family who will help you get over your breakup. Don't try to hide your emotions, bottling them up never helps but at the same time don't try to dwell on the past. ", "I had a situation like yours when I was 20. There may come a time when you're more mad than sad. That's ok too. My advice: don't reach out. And if she reaches out, realise that she's playing mind games.\n\n I moved out of the state to start over I was so hung up on it. I eventually met a girl, got married, had a kid. (Of course she left and I'm getting a divorce now, but that's not the point.) ", "Your first break up is usually the hardest. They will get slightly easier as you go on. And yes you can expect more to happen in your life time", "That's tough, I went through something similar, but we were engaged. We tried to make it work again and it made it so much harder when it eventually didn't. The best thing is to get rid of anything that reminds you of her. Delete her number, delete photos, get rid of any of her stuff at your place, etc. Go ahead and let yourself be sad for a week, listen to breakup songs, watch sad movies, cry your heart out, drink yourself to sleep, whatever. Just don't let it last longer than a week. Go out with friends, or just invite some friends over to play video games and joke around with them. Have fun, realize that the single life definitely has some perks to it. Yes it definitely hurts when someone you love leaves, but it isn't the end of the world.", "Remind yourself that your were patient, kind, supportive, and understanding. It’s hard to hear “it’s not you, it’s me,” but it has always given me comfort that I am a great partner and great to be in a relationship with. You did everything you needed to do, and even though heartbreak is NEVER easy, you parted on pleasant terms.\n\nSometimes it is easier to have anger there in the breakup, but it just masks it. Dealing with your raw emotions, figuring it how to let yourself cry, and spending time with yourself/friends is key to healing. If you can, go on a boys-only camping adventure.\n\nHeal in the now, be happy being single and having time for yourself, and bigger and better opportunities will appear later.", "I tried the \"let's still be friends\" thing with a couple ex's, and it doesn't work. Let go completely and get on with your life. Makes it a LOT easier to move on and start enjoying life again if you're not constantly being reminded of the breakup.", "Don't stay friends. It's not about if she deserves it or not, it's about you. Acting like only friends with someone you love/loved is not healthy. ", "Look up MGTOW on YouTube. Watch a view videos and reconnect with yourself and everything you liked to do before your girlfriend overtook your life.\n\nI went MGTOW after my previous marriage and ended up with the best woman ever. That was four years ago.\n\nYou don't have to be absolutely hardcore about it, but recognize that both partners have a role in the relationship and if she isn't willing to give her full half then it's time to move on along.\n\nGo enjoy life and don't go chasing women. They'll find you soon enough if you're your genuine self and you'll be able to find the right one." ]

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[ "How do I stop feeling lonely and make friends? I'm a high school student who feels like nobody is actually friends with me.", "How do I stop feeling lonely and make friends? I'm a high school student who feels like nobody is actually friends with me.", "How do I stop feeling lonely and make friends? I'm a high school student who feels like nobody is actually friends with me.", "How do I stop feeling lonely and make friends? I'm a high school student who feels like nobody is actually friends with me.", "How do I stop feeling lonely and make friends? I'm a high school student who feels like nobody is actually friends with me.", "How do I stop feeling lonely and make friends? I'm a high school student who feels like nobody is actually friends with me.", "How do I stop feeling lonely and make friends? I'm a high school student who feels like nobody is actually friends with me." ]

[ "You have to take risks, socially.\n\nSay hello to people, and smile.\n\nAsk people questions about their favorite subject: themselves. What do they do for fun? Are they any good at it? Actively listen.\n\nIf you're an introvert, this might seem like too much - like it's awkward, fake, or like you're going to get rejected.\n\nYou will.\n\nWhen you say hi, some people aren't going to respond. When you smile, some people won't smile back. When you try to talk to people, you may get ignored, or blown off.\n\nAnd that's okay.\n\nThe guy that doesn't say hello in return? Maybe he's insecure. Maybe he's shy. Either way, *you* are the one that made the effort. *You* took a risk. Be proud of that. He can't be proud for not returning the gesture. And maybe the next time, he'll feel a bit more comfortable and return the greeting. Either way, *he will remember you.*\n\n(There's also a chance that he thinks he's too cool to say hi to you. **Super douche.** Probably not good friend material.)\n\nFor some people, making friends comes naturally. For the rest of us, it's important to remember that if it's worth having, it's probably not easy to get. You'll usually have to work hard and take risks to get what you want.\n\nAnd I can guarantee that you'll get more positive responses than negative ones. A lot more. People will remember you. The more outgoing people will start approaching *you.* Be prepared for that. Let your guard down. Be honest, be yourself, and you'll win friends.\n\n-----------------------------------------------------\n\n**My own experience as an introvert:**\n\nI've struggled with certain social situations my whole life. When I'm around my friends or in my element, I'm talkative, I'm sociable, and I'm pretty fun to be around. But put me in a new environment where I don't know anyone, and I'm quiet, awkward, and very self-conscious.\n\nFor most of my life, I just avoided those situations. In high school, I hung out with my circle of friends - occasionally venturing out, but never really making any other connections. \n\nIn college, I pledged a fraternity. It was tough at first, but in a month or two I had a group of friends that I was comfortable with. We went out, threw parties, and I was like a fish in water.\n\nEventually I met a girl, got engaged, settled down. We'd hang out with a few mutual friends, but she liked to meet new people. She got bored. She wanted me to go out to dinner parties and backyard barbecues - to meet people. Friends of her friends. Friends that I'd never met, whole social circles that I wasn't a part of.\n\nSuddenly I was back in social anxiety land. I was an outsider again. We'd go to a party and I'd find myself hovering around her, or sitting in a corner pretending that I had important work emails to reply to.\n\nIt wasn't fun. The night would drag on. She'd be making friends and having a blast, I'd be staring at my watch and searching desperately for a reason to leave.\n\nEventually, I just made excuses about why I couldn't go out. She stopped inviting me. She'd tell me about a get-together, I'd tell her why it was stupid.\n\nAfter we'd been together for seven years, she was getting depressed. I got so uncomfortable at a New Years' Eve party that I made an excuse to leave... before midnight even came around. We came home, we argued, I chalked it up to her being drunk and went to bed.\n\nThe next day, she asked me to go to couples' counseling. She said she wasn't happy. I told her we didn't need counseling. I told her that if she didn't like it, she didn't have to be with me.\n\nA few months later, she started going to dinner parties with her girlfriend. The host was a fun guy - charismatic, playful, interesting - all the things that I'd been back when we first started dating and we'd been partying at the fraternity house. \n\nShe left me, and I found out that she'd been having an affair with the guy from the dinner parties.\n\nThat shattered my world. I moved back to my hometown, 650 miles away. I was single again, and I was alone. The situation forced me back into the situations I least enjoyed - social interactions with people I didn't know.\n\nI didn't want to be lonely or sad or angry. I decided to use this as an opportunity to better myself. I somehow came to the conclusion that I had to get out of my comfort zone - that *that's* where growth happened.\n\nI changed a lot of habits - I quit smoking, I started training with a group instead of working out alone, I started high-fiving strangers on the street when I felt like I just wanted to put my head down and keep walking.\n\nAnd one night at a bar, I saw a cute girl digging frantically through her purse next to a pool table.\n\nI held out two quarters - the cost for a game - and when she looked up, she smiled. She'd been looking for change. We hit it off, and when I got back to her place, I gave her my number and told her to text me the next morning. (Drunken one-night-stands was another habit I'd decided to change)\n\nThe next morning, the cute girl from the bar (Alex) texted me and invited me to a barbecue that afternoon.\n\nA million horrible scenarios ran through my head: who would be there? I didn't know Alex, what were her friends like? What if they were assholes? What if no one liked me? What kind of barbecue was this? How long would it last?\n\nI sent her one text reply: \"Sounds fun. What time am I picking you up?\"\n\nWe went to the barbecue. I made a point of introducing myself to everyone at the fuckin thing. She went off to help in the kitchen, I stayed outside to shoot the shit. To get to know people. To remember everyone's name and learn about them. I'd see her walking by every now and then, and I'd smile, and she'd smile back.\n\nAnd unsurprisingly, I never felt awkward or uncomfortable. I felt in control. Because I wasn't surrounded by strangers. That guy was Mike. He liked to skateboard and we had compared notes on good tequila. This girl was Suzanne. She was a nurse and if she could only listen to one band for the rest of her life it would have to be The Beatles. My desert island band was The Rolling Stones. They weren't strangers. *I knew them*, if only a little. Even Rodney, the guy who sat in the corner quietly but told me all about the horrors of a Kansas City winter with a broken heater.\n\nA few hours later, Alex texted me.\n\n\"You don't have to stay if you have other things going on tonight...\"\n\n\"But I like that you're here ;)\"\n\nAs the night wound down, Alex and I sat across the bonfire from each other. I would shoot the shit with her friends, and every now and then I'd glance her way and see her smiling at me.\n\nThen she sent me another text, asking if I was ready to go back to my place.\n\nThe day after, Alex told me that her friends couldn't stop talking about me. A lot of flattering stuff, but one thing stuck with me the most...\n\nShe relayed a conversation that she'd had with her roommate:\n\n\"So how did you get him to come to the barbecue?\"\n\n\"I told him that I was going to a barbecue and that he was invited\"\n\n\"And he didn't ask any questions?\"\n\n\"He just asked what time he was picking me up\"\n\n[Cue excited girl squeals]\n\nI learned a lot from that night, but most of all, I learned that **confidence doesn't mean being socially fearless**. I was *terrified* about walking into a party with a group of strangers, of being the outsider, of being rejected in front of this girl.\n\nBut I wasn't going to let Alex know I was afraid, so I just said fuck it and decided to take the chance. And it made a huge impression. She brought it up a half dozen times in the first week we were dating.\n\nYou can be confident and afraid at the same time. I'm sure it's safe to say that in *most* situations, people will be even more impressed when *you* can be confident in a situation that would make *them* nervous or afraid. How did you pull that off? What's your secret?\n\nCall it social bravery. Do what you know you should do, even though you're afraid and failure is a possibility. People will respect it. \n\nAnd , while we're talking about social lessons I took away from that afternoon, here are some other things that Alex and her friends gushed over:\n\n* Make a point to remember everyone's name. Alex \"loved that [I] remembered everyone's name\" Many people think they're bad with names, but I suspect it's only because they don't make a deliberate effort. The fact that you did will impress them. (Hell, I kept forgetting Mike's name and asked Alex twice to remind me, but she didn't seem to recall any of that)\n\n* Get past the small talk quickly to have meaningful, memorable conversations. If you're like me, you hate small talk anyway. Find out what people are passionate about, get them talking, and then dig into the things that genuinely interest you. For example, it was pretty obvious from his backyard that Mike loved to garden, and that he had a lot of fruit growing. I asked what fruit was most excited about, and I learned that: 1 - you can grow certain types of banana in Southern California, and 2 - there's a variety of banana called vanilla ice cream, which apparently is similar to its namesake in taste and texture.\n\n* If you're with a group of strangers and you only know one person, don't use that person as your social safety blanket. Go meet the strangers until there *are* no strangers. Your friend will be stoked that you got to know her friends. (And that you didn't need a babysitter)\n\n* Don't get too attached to a girl whose Facebook wall says that she's been \"In a Relationship\" with the same guy multiple times. Sure, they've been broken up for months, and this time it's final... but they've been broken up for good before. And a couple weeks later, you might wake up to a text message that says \"My ex and I are gonna work it out, so I can't see or talk to you anymore\".\n\nGoddammit, Alex. You settled back into the comfortable darkness of your familiar little rock instead of climbing up into the big, bright, shiny new world...", "you wont get invited places unless you invite people yourself. just ask someone you get along with if they're down to grab some taco bell or something. thats how most friendships start anyway. good luck. ", "There lots of groups, clubs to join. If you don't like one move on to another group. Volunteer, take a class, church groups, etc. Some places have a volunteer board, like a job board. Check craigslist for actives groups. Think about it the possibilities are endless. Then get up the courage to talk to folks. Ask questions. You only have one life, unless you believe in reincarnation! ", "Join the drama club, audition for a play. Or volunteer for the backstage crew. No better way to become part of things. Help with the cast party afterwards.", "Ooh i pondered this, just this week. I think a feeling of being connected, socially satisfied, comes when you know something about people. Thus, 'how was your weekend', leads to 'who with', 'where', 'how often', and so on. \nAs you collect info about others, after a few weeks you will come to feel connected through knowing stuff about them. (Compare this to just talking about what you want to share. You walk away with no sense of connection). So i think that collecting info about others must feel rewarding. \nOn the next level, you need to share what you enjoy - movies, drinking, cosplay? - and the people that get a bit animated, after a few chats you casually say Im going here today, want to come? If they say no, you still need to do it alone though, so that they dont think you were desperately trying to become friends. \nWho remembers Sheldon's friendship algorhythym ? Lol i think i have my own version. \nAlso friends tell me that they consider me a friend after 4 or 6 months. I used to wait 2 to 5 years before i trusted in the friendship. I'm better now at trusting and making efforts to move the friendship forwards. \nAnd if you join a club, awkwardness is the price of friendship, 6 months of awkwardness and suddenly uf you get 1 sense of connection per club - yay! If no sense of connection by then, aint gonna happen. ", "Join a fucking club or something. Go out for a sport, or audition for the play, join the debate team. High school is literally purposely constructed in a way to force social interaction. Stop sitting by yourself in the lunch room playing pokemon all day. Go meet some fucking people, it's easy. \n\nOr take up cigarette smoking and find out where all the cool kids go to smoke their cigarettes. It's makes you look cool, and feels good. ", "Help one person a day. Could be anything, small is fine. Doesn't have to be someone you like/want to be friends with.\n\nAlso, try not to judge yourself by your interactions with HS students. Quite a lot of them are in a pretty weird place, whether they like you or not isn't really predictive of how things will go when you are out in the real world." ]

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[ "How to tell a friend you're not interested in talking to them all the time To start off, I'd say I'm a little on the antisocial side. I'm not all that talkative and I love peace and quiet. However I'd still also say I'm a very nice person, and have a hard time being upfront. \n\nI have a friend who is very chatty all the time and loves to talk on the phone, and we recently became closer due to living arrangements. I'm not as chatty as she is, but she talks and I listened, even if it did get annoying because I really wanted peace and quiet. Now, I finally got money to move away and she now is calling me all the time to talk about her daily life. How do I tell her that I don't want to talk on the phone every day, yet we still be friends? I've been ignoring more than half the calls but I don't feel like that's the best way", "How to tell a friend you're not interested in talking to them all the time To start off, I'd say I'm a little on the antisocial side. I'm not all that talkative and I love peace and quiet. However I'd still also say I'm a very nice person, and have a hard time being upfront. \n\nI have a friend who is very chatty all the time and loves to talk on the phone, and we recently became closer due to living arrangements. I'm not as chatty as she is, but she talks and I listened, even if it did get annoying because I really wanted peace and quiet. Now, I finally got money to move away and she now is calling me all the time to talk about her daily life. How do I tell her that I don't want to talk on the phone every day, yet we still be friends? I've been ignoring more than half the calls but I don't feel like that's the best way", "How to tell a friend you're not interested in talking to them all the time To start off, I'd say I'm a little on the antisocial side. I'm not all that talkative and I love peace and quiet. However I'd still also say I'm a very nice person, and have a hard time being upfront. \n\nI have a friend who is very chatty all the time and loves to talk on the phone, and we recently became closer due to living arrangements. I'm not as chatty as she is, but she talks and I listened, even if it did get annoying because I really wanted peace and quiet. Now, I finally got money to move away and she now is calling me all the time to talk about her daily life. How do I tell her that I don't want to talk on the phone every day, yet we still be friends? I've been ignoring more than half the calls but I don't feel like that's the best way", "How to tell a friend you're not interested in talking to them all the time To start off, I'd say I'm a little on the antisocial side. I'm not all that talkative and I love peace and quiet. However I'd still also say I'm a very nice person, and have a hard time being upfront. \n\nI have a friend who is very chatty all the time and loves to talk on the phone, and we recently became closer due to living arrangements. I'm not as chatty as she is, but she talks and I listened, even if it did get annoying because I really wanted peace and quiet. Now, I finally got money to move away and she now is calling me all the time to talk about her daily life. How do I tell her that I don't want to talk on the phone every day, yet we still be friends? I've been ignoring more than half the calls but I don't feel like that's the best way", "How to tell a friend you're not interested in talking to them all the time To start off, I'd say I'm a little on the antisocial side. I'm not all that talkative and I love peace and quiet. However I'd still also say I'm a very nice person, and have a hard time being upfront. \n\nI have a friend who is very chatty all the time and loves to talk on the phone, and we recently became closer due to living arrangements. I'm not as chatty as she is, but she talks and I listened, even if it did get annoying because I really wanted peace and quiet. Now, I finally got money to move away and she now is calling me all the time to talk about her daily life. How do I tell her that I don't want to talk on the phone every day, yet we still be friends? I've been ignoring more than half the calls but I don't feel like that's the best way" ]

[ "just be straight with her. Tell her you can't talk as much and explain why you can't and how the current situation makes you feel. \n\nBe polite about it and reassure her that you still want to be friends etc but be firm and say that it is important.", "I'd say just increase the amount you don't answer the phone until they find someone else to vent to. It sounds mean, but I think she'd take it the wrong way if you told her you didn't want to talk as much. No matter how much you stress that you want to be friends. ", "You don't sound antisocial, just introverted. She sounds extroverted. Personally, I rarely ever just chat on the phone with someone to pass the time. I get together with friends to actually go out and do something, usually. I do enjoy chatting with others on a subject that I find interesting but I've never been much for small talk.\n\nI agree, the best thing is to be straight up. \"Hey, listen, I enjoy chatting with you from time to time and think you're a great person but I'm a bit introverted, and for me, frequent conversation is a little overwhelming. That's why I don't always answer your calls. Text and email are probably a better way to stay in touch with me.\"", "When you ignore her calls, use it as an opportunity to move the conversation to text. That way you can just respond at your leisure. If she mentions it just say you're always so busy it seems and never have a moment to yourself and then use that as an opportunity to completely unload all of your emotional baggage on her lap. \n\nShe will either stop trying to talk to you or she will prove her value as a friend.", "establish and communicate your \"daily schedule\" with her. Make it where you are very busy, and have quick reply texts ready for when she calls.\n\ne.g. \"in class whats up?\" \n\"at gym, whats up?\"\n\"dinner with parents, whats up?\"\n\"at work, whats up\"\n\"studying in library, whats up?\"\n\"Driving, whats up?\"\n\nyou get the idea. This way you aren't being a dick, you're just busy yet communicative instead of ignoring towards them. \n\nsend them a screenshot of your calendar that overestimates everything you have to do on an average day with something along the lines of \"omg, this stretch is going to be brutal!\"\n\nIf done correctly, you should be left with only communicating during hours of your choosing in order to specifically organize whatever activity you plan on doing.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to cope with a relationship that ended? Going out with a girl, get told she doesnt love me anymore. Been 2 years and some months. Having a hard time handling my emotions knowing im not getting her back. How do I proceed? Sorry for any errors. On a cellphone.", "How to cope with a relationship that ended? Going out with a girl, get told she doesnt love me anymore. Been 2 years and some months. Having a hard time handling my emotions knowing im not getting her back. How do I proceed? Sorry for any errors. On a cellphone.", "How to cope with a relationship that ended? Going out with a girl, get told she doesnt love me anymore. Been 2 years and some months. Having a hard time handling my emotions knowing im not getting her back. How do I proceed? Sorry for any errors. On a cellphone.", "How to cope with a relationship that ended? Going out with a girl, get told she doesnt love me anymore. Been 2 years and some months. Having a hard time handling my emotions knowing im not getting her back. How do I proceed? Sorry for any errors. On a cellphone.", "How to cope with a relationship that ended? Going out with a girl, get told she doesnt love me anymore. Been 2 years and some months. Having a hard time handling my emotions knowing im not getting her back. How do I proceed? Sorry for any errors. On a cellphone." ]

[ "My wife of six years told me last December right before Christmas that she doesn't love me anymore either. Turns out she had been cheating on me for several months. I am not out of the woods yet, but the best advice I can give is to stay busy. Find new hobbies or continue old ones. I joined a couple of softball leagues, it keeps me busy and I meet new people. I would also refrain from meaningless conversation with her, don't be lurking on social media either it will drive you nuts. If you don't have kids with her that is good, you wont have to see her or deal with her on a daily basis. In the end give it some time and the pain will go away. ", "It fades. It does. You just have to know you're in a tunnel and there is another side. The only way out is through. Just keep going. ", ">Having a hard time handling my emotions\n\nOf course you are. \n\nRecently divorced, 10 year relationship, 7 married. I went back home to spend time with family, I apologized to them about so emotional.\n\nMy sister said. \"You're human, this is what is supposed to happen. I'd be way more concerned if you didn't show any.\"\n\nIt *will* get better. I have son so I'm stuck with her for 12 more years. It's been 9 months, we walked him to school today and back to my house(met there to walk him). No feelings whatsoever.\n\nIt will get better. For now you're going to be sad.\n\n[My favorite scene from the movie Swingers.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8slB-mYCPw)", "It doesn't get easier man, unless you're happy on your own, you should try to surround yourself with people you like. Yeah honestly finding a hobby or things aren't going to suddenly make you feel great but they open you up to new oppurtunities. Take care mate", "Hobbies. I joined a jiu jitsu club to let off steam after my girlfriend passed away.\n\nAnd did my usual piano and violin." ]

[ 9, 6, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Tips for prolonging home appliances life spans? (Fridges, washers, dryers, etc.) Just curious if there are better ways to clean stuff out with and of there are tips and tricks to keep up with appliances that commonly aren't known like that some older washers have a lint filter apparently that should be changed every 3 months", "Tips for prolonging home appliances life spans? (Fridges, washers, dryers, etc.) Just curious if there are better ways to clean stuff out with and of there are tips and tricks to keep up with appliances that commonly aren't known like that some older washers have a lint filter apparently that should be changed every 3 months" ]

[ "On washers, clean the pump and check that it spins in a wiggly way, freely. As often as you bother. You will need to get down on your knees and spin the lamellar inside with a screwdriver or something. Usually a small hatch in front. \n\nOn dishwashers, don't clean your plates of absolutely all fat. Years of soap takes a toll. Some fat are God. Not excessive though.\n\nOn fridges, if there's a drain hole in the back wall inside the fridge, clean it out if it's clogged up. \n\nDryers, clean the filter.\n\nSamsung TVs that won't turn on after a few years, dried out capacitors in the psu. Learn to solder and it's a 5$ fix. And you can be proud afterwards. \n\nI saw others recommended to stay away from Samsung. Personally I like Samsung. Bosch, Siemens are also good. Electrolux I will never have again. Plastic wheel and belt on dryers, door locks on washers are engineered to... Well, not last longer than necessary, to put it tat way.\n\nPumps on washers is 3 screws, 50$ and flip it on the side. Easy fix.\n\nI used to service appliances. Electrolux and Samsung mostly. And I have Samsung everything. :-D mostly because I've had no problems, and I get a message on both my TV and mobile phone when the clothes are dry.", "Defrost fridge/fridge. Remove dust from heat sink at the back (metal rack at back).\n\nwashing machine: clean, descale and empty filter\n\nDishwasher: clean descale and empty filter. Add salt and rinse aid. Remove arms and clean \n\nKettle/coffee machine: clean and descale \n\nDryer: empty lint catch\n\nExtractor fan: pop out vent panels and degrease.\n\nFor electronics, don't block air vents, and keep dust free as possible." ]

[ 4, 2 ]

[ "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?", "How to stop losing earrings from ears In the last few months all my earrings have been falling out of my ears never to be found again. Screwback stud earrings, regular stud earrings, leverback earrings, you name it. They seemingly randomly just fall sometime during the day for no discernable reason. \n\nI have at this point lost all the pairs I had. All of them. I am now wearing mist-matched earrings. \n\nI never had this issue before. Before I would lose an earring maybe once every few years. Now it seems to happen at least every week. \n\nAny thoughts as to why? Any ideas on how to stop it?" ]

[ "I would try silicone or rubber backs for the earrings, specifically those that look like a tiny tube - even on the hook-like earrings. They should sit tightly and prevent the earring from slipping out.\n\nWith the leverback earrings I would try pushing the part that goes through the ear a little bit higher to make the lever lock tighter on it.", "have your holes stretched by any chance and they're coming out from the back?\n\nOh you said leverbacks too. Maybe you're losing them when you're sleeping? I'd try a satin pillowcase maybe?", "Girl me too 😭\n\nIt could be fine for months and then in a matter of days all the earrings that I have will fall out and disappear. I have four holes as well and have just embraced the mismatched earrings. I currently have four different Xmas earrings in right now. \n\nI also don’t spend money on any expensive earrings. I will never buy anything with a real stone. The unpredictability of my ears mean I wear some pretty cheap studs at all times. Luckily I don’t have any type of reactions to the costume jewelry. \n\nNot really a way to fix… more of a way to cope.", "Save those little rubber things that come on the earrings when you buy them. Those things don’t move.", "Are your earlobes thick? I lose earrings pretty frequently that are higher up on my lobes and I think it’s because they are thicker there and the backs don’t catch properly on the posts.", "Save those little silicone tube things that come with the packaging(ones that keep earrings on the card) of your new earrings. Or, you can purchase them on ebay (or maybe Amazon?).", "My mom used to use a pencil eraser as an earring back. The only thing I didn't like was that they seemed thick to me, but maybe cutting them in half would solve that problem. They always fit pretty snug to the ear.", "Ever notice in old movies and tv that women used to take their earring off before speaking on the phone? Worth a shot", "Used chain link menders that screw closed.\nMaybe linked to electronic tiles for finding lost stuff.\n...\nJk lol.\n\nAre there earrings that lock like a caribener(sp?)\n\nIf not, someone should make them and sell them.\nMy fiance is always losing earrings too." ]

[ 15, 7, 6, 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Stop doomscrolling I remember doomscrolling was huge buzzword in the news a few months ago. Well, even though the \"talk about it\" fad has gone away, I can say for sure that the phenomenon itself hasn't.\n\nI've very often caught myself scrolling through YouTube -- then boom, it's 4am. Recently, YouTube Shorts, TikTok, and Snapchat Spotlight have managed a stronger grip on my attention retention.\n\nOne thing I've tried recently is to catch myself in the act. I guess it's kind of like mindfulness (yet another buzzword lol).\n\nWhat's something you've done that has helped reduce the amount of social media scrolling you do?", "Stop doomscrolling I remember doomscrolling was huge buzzword in the news a few months ago. Well, even though the \"talk about it\" fad has gone away, I can say for sure that the phenomenon itself hasn't.\n\nI've very often caught myself scrolling through YouTube -- then boom, it's 4am. Recently, YouTube Shorts, TikTok, and Snapchat Spotlight have managed a stronger grip on my attention retention.\n\nOne thing I've tried recently is to catch myself in the act. I guess it's kind of like mindfulness (yet another buzzword lol).\n\nWhat's something you've done that has helped reduce the amount of social media scrolling you do?" ]

[ "When I am laying in bed at night, I set a tangible time limit. If it's 10pm, I'll give myself until 10:30. When 10:30 hits, I finish up whatever I am watching and then put the tablet down for the night.", "I managed to cut my time from upward swiping, simply deleting the social media após from phone. If I want to check I'll have to go intently to my computer and see what it is that I want to see. No app will notify me of what it wants me to see, I get to choose what I want to see." ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "What's the best way to keep these LPT's in mind day to day? I read all of these life pro tips but feel I wont remember them when I wake up tomorrow.", "What's the best way to keep these LPT's in mind day to day? I read all of these life pro tips but feel I wont remember them when I wake up tomorrow." ]

[ "Write them down; your brain will remember it better.\n\nIf you make a list of all the good \"Life Pro Tips\" and read/add to it every day, you will remember them better.", "I usually just read these for fun so I can see some of the crap LPTs people put on here. Don't get me wrong some are legitimately helpful but I rarely keep these in mind. I live my life in my own way and learn things on my own as I go. Don't be afraid to make mistakes in your life, that's how you grow. " ]

[ 4, 2 ]

[ "Pocket conversation topics when an awkward silence is approaching or when trying to break the ice? I’m not too bad at talking to people, but sometimes I feel completely lost on what to say or what to bring up ESPECIALLY with someone I don’t know very well. Having some emergency conversation topics/starters when things are starting to get awkward would be helpful. ", "Pocket conversation topics when an awkward silence is approaching or when trying to break the ice? I’m not too bad at talking to people, but sometimes I feel completely lost on what to say or what to bring up ESPECIALLY with someone I don’t know very well. Having some emergency conversation topics/starters when things are starting to get awkward would be helpful. ", "Pocket conversation topics when an awkward silence is approaching or when trying to break the ice? I’m not too bad at talking to people, but sometimes I feel completely lost on what to say or what to bring up ESPECIALLY with someone I don’t know very well. Having some emergency conversation topics/starters when things are starting to get awkward would be helpful. " ]

[ "I talk with people all day long. Best ice breakers are to start with a compliment. \"I like your hair! That necklace is nice! Jeez the air up there must be nice!\" And you tend to get a laugh from 9/10 people. Opening with a laugh is the best way to go. ", "I like to clear the air by touching on common taboos.\n\nmy ex makes 90k. which political party do you pray to? I just masturbated, and it was great. etc", "I saw this documentary about 100+ year olds giving life advice, since then I tend to ask people what life advice they would give to someone half their age? Or to themselves 10 years ago?" ]

[ 6, 5, 1 ]

[ "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg", "How to get rid of these viruses... For anti-viruses I have microsoft security essentials, I recently downloaded AVG and I previously had MacAfee. I have tried youtube videos and the works but they keep coming back. I'm holding back on a system restore unless it's my last option (broke and an external hard drive is a bit pricey). This is a picture of the extensions that continuously are popping up on chrome: http://i.imgur.com/2zKR1w8.jpg" ]

[ "Format your PC. It's the only half-way secure solution. \nIf you can't do that, it's going to hurt. \nOpen your taskmanager and look if you can find any \"suspicous\" processes. If you see one, right click \"Open Folder\". \nIf the folder in question is \"system32\" you're probably fucked. \nRemember that folder (save it in a txt-file or something).\nRestart your computer. \nPress the f*ck out of F8 while booting. \nSelect \"Safe Mode\". (**Never** select Safe Mode with Networking) \nClick that annoying popup away. \nLocate remembered folder, delete the infected exe-file. \nPress WIN+R and type \"msconfig\", press enter. \nTab to \"System start\" (or similar) \nSearch entry for said exe-file. \nUncheck it. \nReboot. Don't open chrome. \nDownload chrome. \nReinstall chrome. \nUse chrome. \n??? \nProfit. Works all (~20-30%) the time. \n(Oh, and format your PC as soon as possible. He is infected after all. This is just a dirty instant-happy-solution)\n", "First: you need to have only *one* antivirus. More means they block each other. Leave one, probably AVG would be the best choice from those 3. \n... To be honest, I'm not sure. I use Avast, some people say Avast is bad. But I had friend with AVG and it was a pain, and all people to whom I recommended Avast say it's quite good (i.e. they hadn't have problems with it and they aren't computer-oriented). \n \nSecond: Start->Programs->Accessories->System Tools->Disk Cleanup. (Or: Windows key + R, type 'cleanmgr.exe', hit enter.) \nClean some useless stuff there. Some stuff will be already checked - like Recycle Bin, stuff left after actualizing Windows, temporary files... If you don't know what else to delete, read descriptions. If you're not sure, leave it as it was. \n \nThird: look at something like AdwCleaner. Or other adware remover. \nThose add-ons in your Chrome are called adware - it's not kind of malware antivirus often finds, because it mostly add ads etc., not mess with your files or system. AdwCleaner looks for adware in files, web browsers, system registry - it makes sure adware is completely removed. \nIf everything is okay after that, you can delete folder called 'adwcleaner' on your C: drive (adwcleaner makes copy of what it deletes, so it can be recovered if something goes wrong). \n \nFourth: scan your computer with your antivirus. Just let it scan. And of course after that let your antivirus remove or move to quarantine found malware. (For Avast, run Full Scan, not Quick Scan (or whatever it's called in English).) \n \nI think that would be all of my normal cleanup. It's safe and easy to perform, I often does this when my friends have problems with their computers. :3", "antimalwarebytes and combofix are my go to.. otherwise seek professional help.\n\nSource: Computer Tech here", "[As a Linux user](http://reactiongif.org/wp-content/uploads/GIF/2014/08/GIF-Smiling-Smile-Hehe-Haha-Huehue-LOL-Funny-Laugh-Laughing-Its-funny-Funny-Laugh-Funny-Laughing-GIF.gif)", "Reboot your computer into Safe Mode (F8 at Startup) this will run minimal resources, a lot of the time not setting the malware to run. \nOtherwise - try an anti-root kit killer. I typically use some/all of the following, and it'll get rid of most everything.\n\nSymantec Power Eraser – removes AVG toolbar and others\nhttp://www.symantec.com/security_response/malware.jsp\n\nGMER anti-rootkit (for assembly folder)\nhttp://www.gmer.net/\n\nAdwcleaner (no-install)\nhttp://www.bleepingcomputer.com/download/adwcleaner/dl/125/\n\nChameleon and Malwarebytes Anti-Rootkit BETA\nhttp://www.malwarebytes.org/products/other_tools/\n\nMcAfee Stinger\nhttp://www.mcafee.com/us/downloads/free-tools/stinger.aspx\n\nMicrosoft Security Scanner\nhttp://www.microsoft.com/security/scanner/en-us/default.aspx\n\nKaspersky TDSSKiller\nhttp://support.kaspersky.com/5350?el=88446\n\nAlso....uninstall AVG as soon as your done with it....especially the toolbar. It sucks and causes more problems than it helps...especially in a business environment.\n\nDouble check your Installed programs.\n\nAnother option....take out hard drive, connect to another computer externally/usb/slave and scan/browse with the other computer.\n\nIf all that doesn't fix it then reformat/restore.\n\nAlso, completely reset all browsers settings, cache, offline settings, everything, Chrome, Firefox, IE, Opera, Safari, whatever you use.", "One thing that many people seem to overlook when dealing with these infecions is that many of them will infact reinstall themseleves using task scheduler. Conduit is a common offender for this and even after running malwarebytes, adware cleaner, junk remover tool and a rootkit cleaner, task scheduler usually has something scheduled to reinstall every month. ", "I highly recommend Malwarebytes Anti-Malware and avast. In combination I haven't encountered a virus that could survive.\n\nMalwarebytes Anti-Malware isn't free, but there are...other ways of acquiring it... They don't mind, in fact you get a pop-up saying that they know it's been pirated but they don't care as long as you tell your friends lol", "Go to a friend's clean computer, with a clean thumb drive (i.e. new or you're very sure has no virus). Download and install Malwarebytes onto that. Go to your pc and run malwarebytes from the thumb drive (don't install it onto the pc, just run it). \n\n", "http://www.reddit.com/r/browsers/comments/1wog5g/i_have_two_annoying_extensions_on_my_chrome_that/?sort=confidence", "There's a program called GrimeFighter that boots your computer into a different OS loaded entirely in memory in order to clean things out without activating whatever garbage has snuck into your startup processes. It's mostly designed for spyware and optimization, but it may also help with viruses. Could be worth a shot, but I don't remember how much the license is for a single computer or single scan. ", "Yet another cleaner does a great job. I think site is yac. Something just search for it and cleaner " ]

[ 6, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, -2 ]

[ "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to stop fingerprints on your smartphone screen. Are there any particular screen protectors that work? All the ones I've tried claim to be fingerprint-resistant but don't seem to help. Is it better without one all together?\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "http://www.skinomi.com/\n\nI have this for my Atrix 2. It's a little weird to put it on, and it might feel almost sticky for the first day or two, but after that its great. No fingerprints, smudges, anything. And (according to their website) your phone screen will be able to take a stabbing for you.", "The '[SGP Ultra Oleophobic Screen Protector](http://www.spigen.com/sgp-iphone-4-4s-screen-protector-steinheil-ultra-series-new.html)' is good screen protector which focuses on reducing fingerprints. \nThey're really pricey though. ", "Get one that's a matte finish. They don't show fingerprints and they don't reflect sunlight into your eyes.", "Last christmas, my sister got me these gloves that are made so you can use a touch screen while wearing them. They prevent fingerprints on your screen as well, but they are also a seasonal solution.", "My jeans works especially well as a wipe. After each use I either use my jeans or shirt. I'm not picky and I couldn't remember to bring electronic wipes with me to save my life. And no, it hasn't ruined my touch screen after 2 years. Still in mint condition.\n\nThe other option is to wipe oils off your fingers, extra lotions or sweat will definitely leave more stuff than recently cleaned fingers.", "Griffin cases are really great for taking a beating for your phone, and when they get dirty, you can stick them in the dishwasher (on low heat!!!) to get them squeaky clean.", "Get a screen protector. It's cheap, and when you get a lot of finger prints, just buy a new one.\n\nIf the method above does not work, then don't use a lot of moisturizer on your hands. ", "Well i wash my hands before i use mine but at my house i have a box of sunglasses wipes that work like a charm" ]

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[ "Long story, but I scraped the side of my car on a pole.There is now a bright yellow paint streak.Is there any way to remove the yellow paint without stripping the color underneath?? ", "Long story, but I scraped the side of my car on a pole.There is now a bright yellow paint streak.Is there any way to remove the yellow paint without stripping the color underneath?? ", "Long story, but I scraped the side of my car on a pole.There is now a bright yellow paint streak.Is there any way to remove the yellow paint without stripping the color underneath?? ", "Long story, but I scraped the side of my car on a pole.There is now a bright yellow paint streak.Is there any way to remove the yellow paint without stripping the color underneath?? ", "Long story, but I scraped the side of my car on a pole.There is now a bright yellow paint streak.Is there any way to remove the yellow paint without stripping the color underneath?? ", "Long story, but I scraped the side of my car on a pole.There is now a bright yellow paint streak.Is there any way to remove the yellow paint without stripping the color underneath?? " ]

[ "[Rubbing compound](http://www.turtlewax.com/product-detail.aspx?prodid=76) and a buffing wheel. Also works on light scratches.", "Depends what the pole was painted with, but you might could do worse than trying WD-40 before anything more expensive.", "brake cleaner, spray on towel/microfiber w.e, and just dabb it lightly (it can remove the paint and finish too so be very gentle)", "If the clearcoat is still solid, you can use lacquer thinner to remove the pole-paint. You should use rubber gloves with lacquer thinner, by the way, because it dries out your skin very quickly. Put a little on a rag, and rub the paint you want to remove. It will most likely dissolve be removed very quickly. If the clearcoat is damaged, however, the lacquer thinner will start to soften your car's paint as well. If that happens, stop and use a different method. Best to test it on a small space first.", "Highly doubt anyone will read this again but for curiosity sake I used nail polis remover. Worked like a charm. ", "You can also paint over it. I've seen paint specifically for a certain car in the auto section of Walmart but I'm pretty sure you can find more of a selection online or in an auto specialty store. " ]

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[ "How to not take everything so personal while fulfilling the job of Human Resources? I started a job as Human Resources for a sporting goods store and I’ve loved it so far. I just have one problem.. when it comes to disciplinary action and terminations, I take it extremely personal and can not get in the right head space. This leads me to stressing out about that person and makes it harder for me to do my job. I need help.", "How to not take everything so personal while fulfilling the job of Human Resources? I started a job as Human Resources for a sporting goods store and I’ve loved it so far. I just have one problem.. when it comes to disciplinary action and terminations, I take it extremely personal and can not get in the right head space. This leads me to stressing out about that person and makes it harder for me to do my job. I need help." ]

[ "I have worked in Human Resources for over 20 years and fortunately, I’ve learned a lot along the way. Discipline is intended to be corrective not punitive. So, there is room for how you address things. Knowing this, I would consider the following: did the employee receive orientation? Were they aware of policies and procedures? Did they understand the expectations of the job? If so, they have made a choice to behave however they did that will result in discipline or termination. You can not control someone’s behavior. You can only try to influence it by providing information, training and/or education. What THEY CHOOSE to do is entirely on them. You’re just the one who has to enforce the policies and hold employees to reasonable expectations. If you don’t, you aren’t doing your job as well as doing a disservice to employees who work hard and follow the rules. Don’t take responsibility for someone else’s bad choices.", "Kind of in the same vein as Momma-K's comment, if you're having a hard time with it, there's this exercise called the 5 Whys that could help you more clearly see whether an issue is systemic (the company's \"fault\") or personal to the employee. It might make it easier to have the conversation with them. In simplest terms, you ask \"why?\" five times after a specific incident, and when you're done, decide on an appropriate action to address each level. Maybe give it a look. In lots of cases there are improvements that can be made by the company to at least be sure they've done all they can for employees to succeed. Good luck!" ]

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[ "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? ", "How to avoid a shower after the barbers? Every time after a haircut I'll have little bits of hair between my collar and neck that feel like steel wool scratching my skin. I try to get home as soon as possible but sometimes there's just no way to take a shower. Does anyone know how to prevent hair from falling in your shirt and bothering you all day? " ]

[ "Talcum powder. A little sprinkle in a towel, and a brisk rubdown of the neck/face. Don't leave excess or you'll look ashy.", "[This is how](http://crazythingstobuyonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Haircut-Umbrella-300X300-300x300.jpg)", "those tape pet rollers usually get the job done pretty quick. i cut my hair at about a 1/2\" and rolling it around my head while weird, gets pretty much all of it.\n", "My go-to strategy when I know that I'm going to visit a barber at some point in the day is to pack an extra tee, some of those towelettes you get when you eat buffalo wings and a sticky lint roller. After my cut I take my shirt off in the parking lot use the lint roller, wipe with the towelette, and then put on the new shirt. Works every time.", "I am a hairstylist and EVERY man (or woman if we use neck trimmers) gets baby powder on their neck, I cannot understand why everyone doesn't do this. The scratchy hairs are the worst. I know because they are in my cleavage all day. ", "dont get a hair cut.\n\nbut honestly theres no way to not feel at least one hair scratching at you AFTER your haircut.", "bring a change of a shirt and before you change into the new shirt, powder your neck with baby power or talc", "ask to have your hair styled so you get product in your hair post-cut (gel or hairspray) it keeps the hair in your hair until later", "You can change your shirt afterwards. I often take a vacuum cleaner to my head to get all of the loose hair out. Vacuum cleaner or wiping your neck down with a wet cloth can work for the loose hair there.", "Ok, treading carefully on the 'no medical post' rule, it is not a good idea to avoid showering after a haircut for a long time. Loose hairs are invasive and can cause unpleasant cysts if they are left next to the skin for too long. The wiki link to explain is NSFW (as I just discovered to my horror) but it is explained [here](http://www.onhealth.com/pilonidal_cyst/article.htm) in a safer manner.", "OK. Here's the real scoop on how to get a haircut and not have to shower afterwards. It's a real pain in the ass to do all this cause it's just simpler to just shower. But if you really have no choice, you only have to go through this procedure about once a month anyways. \n\nBefore going to the barbers, pack an extra undershirt and the shirt that you are going to wear all day in a bag. When you arrive for your appointment, tell the barber that you want them to shampoo and rinse out all the hair after your cut so you don't have to itch all day. Remove your outer shirt prior to the cut, keeping your undershirt on. Have the barber wrap a hand towel around your neck prior to putting on the hair cape. After the cut leave the cape on while they shampoo and rinse your head. Let the barber style, dry and get you cleaned up as much as possible. Ask for another hand towel and head to the restroom. Take off your undershirt and wet the towel with as hot of water that you can stand and wipe and clean all around your neck area as possible. Dry off with with hand towels and put on the new t-shirt and shirt that you brought. You should be good to go. ", "My father is a barber. He uses talcum powder for people that request it. But he was just giving a hair vacuum that is from the 70's that works miracles. So I guess now if people request it he will vacuum their head lol. ", "My barber has this paper/wrap thing that he'll put around my neck before putting on the apron. The wrap is the folded on top of the neck of the apron itself. As long as the apron is just a little tight, this damn thing catches all the hair falling down and prevents it from going inside, down my neck.\n\nAt that point, if I have some place to be and don't have time for a shower, just asking for a post-cut hairwash then and there does the trick. No hair throughout the day that bothers me in my clothes, and I just shower when I get home.", "If i ever was in a rush, I would use a vacuum with the hose attachment and just do a quick sweep of the hair and neck. Works pretty well. ", "I would have to say that you should only get your hair cut when you know you can take a shower afterwards if it really bothers you that much.\n\nBut this might not be possible for some reason, I guess.", "I take my shirt off before the cut. After, I immediately wash my hair in their sink. It helps that my dad owns his own salon.", "Either stuff a towel down the back of your shirt with the top of it up around your neck, or bring an extra shirt.\n\n", "After reading everyone else's comments, I feel like a bit of a savage. I always just walk out of the barbershop, bend over, and shake my head while running my hands through my hair to get all the loose hair out. Works like a charm, too.", "2 very effective things that I have actually done (and yes, I'm serious about the second one)...\n\n1. Bring a lint roller with me (the type with the adhesive sheets that tear away) and use it on my head and neck as soon as I get back to my car. \n\n2. Roll up to one of those coin-operated auto vacuum machines at the gas station, and just go to town on my head with it. \n\nBoth methods are fun and effective, but I'm not the type who minds people looking at me like I'm crazy. ", "You should buy some Talcum powder. Or your barber should have some if he/she really knows how to barber. haha\n\nIt makes the hair come right off. Also, blow dry your head/neck area for a minute. \n\nSource: I have my cosmetology license and worked in a salon for several years.", "You should ask them to give you a quick rinse after the hair cut. You don't need the full shampoo wash, just a water rinse and then towel drying will get most of what was missed by their blowdryer method. This can usually be obtained without paying for a pricier shampoo/haircut. But if you do this you should consider tipping the stylist a little more than you would have otherwise.", "You need to encircle the neck with duct tape. Do it right, no need to be tight. Then take a large garbage bag and wear it like a T-shirt. (Fisherman know this quick trick to make a rain coat). Then you duct tape the garbage bag, or should we say \"hair deflection apparel\", to the original starter duct tape, ensuring good contact. Top it all off with a comfortable, classy T-shirt to finish the ensemble. \nNo hair will make contact with your body. Much. I mean, nothing is perfect, right?", "They always style my hair up and make it look fancy and I just have to go straight home and have a shower to wash it out..", "Talcum powder applied to the area should help the hair come off. Also using a women's blush brush to coax it off works great too. This trick also works for getting sand off of you at the beach.", "Take your shirt off, brush it and the back of her neck off, should be much better when you put it back on.", "Sorry I can't help more, but I started cutting my own hair at 14. Every once in a while i try going back to barbers. But even at a young age I felt they were a waste of time and money. As an adult it seems like this.\n\nYou spend 15-45 minutes waiting for your turn, 20 minutes getting a cut and shave, and maybe this place is 15 minutes out of the way. If its a slow day at the shop, they go extra slow. If its a fast day, they do a bad job. They consistently make mistakes with very simple instructions. Then, it's about $20 including tip. And that's every month or so.\n\nMy routine, I decide to cut my hair. Get out the gear, less than ten minutes of buzzing, sweep up, wipe counter, shower and done. It costs about $35 for a new clipper set every couple years.", "Pull an Ace Ventura. Go to a secluded parking lot or road, and drive with your head out the window. You can keep your seat belt own and the wind should do the rest.", "Pack a spare tshirt and a towel. Switch to the tshirt before the haircut and on the way out, wet the towel down a bit in the barber shop's sink (or just bring it damp when you head out to the barber shop). When you get back to your car or whereever, take off the tshirt and use the damp towel to wipe off any spare hairs on your neck and shoulders. It works great and then you can put your regular shirt back on and you're good to go.", "My granddad was an old-school barber, he had the pole, the whole 9 yards. His trick was lots of talc, and he had a shop vac installed under the counter he'd use to vacuum any excess hair away. ", "I'm a hairstylist, not a barber, but if you use a neck strip or towel under the cape, combined with a shampoo after, and a little talcum powder on the brush when your neck is brushed off, most of the hair that goes down your shirt will be gone.", "I usually plan on going in some older clothes and then come home and change out of them :/... they still manage to stick to my skin everywhere... it's awful!", "I think you need to go to a great barber. I was always going to places that were either cheap or hipsterish (floyds) and while some of the higher end places like Floyds would do okay or some places would do a wash and a cut for like $30, it just didn't seem to make much sense as still I'd have a scratch neck. Now I've been going to a true barber shop - you know one of those places that does a straight razor to your hair line on all your cuts and straight razor shaves too. Not only is it $10 cheaper then most hair cut places, but I have never once had to shower afterwards.\n\nIn fact, I just got my hair cut today at noon and never noticed any scratchiness or even remembered I had a hair cut this afternoon until I saw this post at midnight and I got a hair cut with a collared shirt. My barber is just so precise, and has so many brushes he runs across your neck after each part of the hair cut. ", "I prefer to wear a t-shirt when I get a haircut. I go straight home, remove my shirt and vigorously (but gently) rub my hands through my hair to remove all the little bits. I wash my neck and behind my ears, and put on a clean shirt. It is almost as good as a shower.", "I like to bike to haircuts, the wind usually blows all the bits off your scalp and out of the cracks of your clothing", "I always got my haircut during the lunchbreaks at work and I was always having to wear a suit to see clients. I always asked to use their blowdryer afterwards and give it a thorough rubbing before putting hairgel back into it.", "I actualized a lifelong dream a few years ago of hanging upside down from a tree whilst having my hair cut. YMMV.", "Hairdresser here. There's no real way to keep it away, but taking a hairdryer to the area and using a barber's brush to brush away the excess always keeps my clients happy. In the event this doesn't happen, wait for the hair to dry and attack it with a lint roller.", "Asking the barber to be mindful of this might already help. If not, maybe try another.\n\nAs I see it, it's part of the art.", "Sadly? I goto sportclips. I don't get complicated haircuts and they are actually really well trained. But they rock the hospitality, I get free massages and shampoo because I get fairly infrequent cuts and tip well.", "I go to these Korean women that use flowbee type clippers. It's weird having two or sometimes 3 people cutting your hair at once, but damn, it's only $8 and there's no clippings driving me nuts. That and they throw in a shoulder rub.", "Ask your stylist (or barber) to invest in a Neck Fitter ([image](http://www.passionbeauty.com/data/ptools/big_img/599.jpg)) \n \nEspecially if they do a lot of men's cuts or short hair cuts in general. Works amazing and isn't too tight." ]

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[ "Does anyone know special tips I could use to reduce swelling after getting my wisdom teeth out? I had my wisdom teeth removed yesterday and as I woke up this morning I had miraculously transformed into a chipmunk. I had iced it, using the strapless bra trick I had seen on here not too long ago, but that's not seeming to help at this point. Does anyone have any tips?\n\nThanks for any help", "Does anyone know special tips I could use to reduce swelling after getting my wisdom teeth out? I had my wisdom teeth removed yesterday and as I woke up this morning I had miraculously transformed into a chipmunk. I had iced it, using the strapless bra trick I had seen on here not too long ago, but that's not seeming to help at this point. Does anyone have any tips?\n\nThanks for any help", "Does anyone know special tips I could use to reduce swelling after getting my wisdom teeth out? I had my wisdom teeth removed yesterday and as I woke up this morning I had miraculously transformed into a chipmunk. I had iced it, using the strapless bra trick I had seen on here not too long ago, but that's not seeming to help at this point. Does anyone have any tips?\n\nThanks for any help" ]

[ "Keep icing it and be as patient as possible. It's a rough time but every day gets better until you don't even notice it anymore.", "Don't open your mouth more than you have to. It pulls on your stitches and it hurts. Other than that just take some ibuprofen or whatever equivalent you have, ice it, and that's about all you can do.", "I just got a tooth removed, so i built up my own little method.\n\nBasically it's an ice cube wrapped in something for 10 minutes with 30 minute breaks.\nIf you can't open your mouth don't force it as it will put pressure on your stitches, only open it as far as it goes.\nI also use corsodyl 3x a day.\n\n" ]

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[ "What's the best way to uncurl/flatten paperback books' covers or posters? After a while, some of my paperbacks' covers start to curl up, specially the bigger books with loads of pages. I thought of leaving them under some weight to simulate a vice press but no luck. Also this would also be useful for posters. Any suggestions? Thanks!", "What's the best way to uncurl/flatten paperback books' covers or posters? After a while, some of my paperbacks' covers start to curl up, specially the bigger books with loads of pages. I thought of leaving them under some weight to simulate a vice press but no luck. Also this would also be useful for posters. Any suggestions? Thanks!", "What's the best way to uncurl/flatten paperback books' covers or posters? After a while, some of my paperbacks' covers start to curl up, specially the bigger books with loads of pages. I thought of leaving them under some weight to simulate a vice press but no luck. Also this would also be useful for posters. Any suggestions? Thanks!", "What's the best way to uncurl/flatten paperback books' covers or posters? After a while, some of my paperbacks' covers start to curl up, specially the bigger books with loads of pages. I thought of leaving them under some weight to simulate a vice press but no luck. Also this would also be useful for posters. Any suggestions? Thanks!" ]

[ "What always works for me is to put the book under *a lot* of weight, ensuring the surface of the book is fully covered. I used to flatten out money this way too. It takes time as the fibers need to relax and realign.\n\nAs for posters, reverse curl them.", "For posters specifically, I tend to reverse their roll. By this, I mean you unroll it, and then roll it in the opposite way. Put a few light rubber bands around it, leave it alone for a day, and then unroll it. It's not always perfect, but it should be much more flat than it was. \n\nThe lighter rubber bands are used to stop it from creasing or bending the edges of the poster, but they are strong enough to keep the roll in place.\n\nIf this doesn't make sense, I'm really sorry, I can try and reword it if that's the case. ", "you're fighting an uphill battle. particularly with the paperback books. usually the outer cover is covered with plastic lamination, or a clay coating, and the ink used in printing. while the inside of the book is left bare. in this sense the inside will absorb moisture from atmospheric humidity and expand slightly. like a bi-metal strip in a thermostat. the best thing to do is to try to remove the moisture by leaving the book in a warm dry place. \n\nposters are generally curled by being stored to long while rolled up. as they are coated front and back with clay, humidity affects them less. so either hang them up, or roll them the opposite way of the curls as mentioned before. ", "I generally use an iron with a thin (CLEAN!) kitchen towel between the book/poster and the iron. Lowest possible setting, adjusting it up as needed.\n\nBecareful though, if they are laminated (eh... the weird glossy shine that some books have, not sure if it is the same as lamination but meh) - generally, I do a small part of the book/poster first @ the lowest setting and thickest towel. Then slowly work it up.\n\nI have read that some people even use starch - but never been brave enough to do that myself..." ]

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[ "How to survive a weekend long music festival? Any additional advice on how to get good spots at stages would be much appreciated as well!", "How to survive a weekend long music festival? Any additional advice on how to get good spots at stages would be much appreciated as well!", "How to survive a weekend long music festival? Any additional advice on how to get good spots at stages would be much appreciated as well!", "How to survive a weekend long music festival? Any additional advice on how to get good spots at stages would be much appreciated as well!", "How to survive a weekend long music festival? Any additional advice on how to get good spots at stages would be much appreciated as well!" ]

[ "Here's my brain dump--\n\n* Pack as light as possible. \n\n* Stay very hydrated (WATER). And don't forget to sleep and eat\n\n* Take some ibuprofen or something beforehand each day, in anticipation of being on your feet a lot. \n\n* If it's hot/humid out, bring a bandana or something to wipe the sweat off your face. \n\n* Wear comfortable shoes-- and by that, I mean sneakers or something with support. Not sandals, unless you want someone to trample your toes. \n\n* Make sure you've read the rules of what's allowed in and what's not so there are no surprises when you get to the entry gate. \n\n* Bring a plastic Ziploc bag for your cell phone. \n\n* Bring some cash, but not too much, because if you lose it, it's gone forever-- but some vendors will be cash only, and you will want to have some. \n\n* Find a clever way to store your ID, ticket, and cr", "If your camping, take bottles of water and freeze them, they work like ice cubes in your cooler and you can drink them when they melt", "You need to prepare yourself .... your going to be standing a majority of the time or else you'll miss all the good music. Walk more to strengthen your legs a bit. Stand as long as you can. There's no helping your bathroom situation .. if your there all day your going to drink a lot of liquids. There will always be a need to go to the bathroom. This is all for if your going to be there from start to finish. If you plan on showing up with 4 hours left of the festival then you'll be fine, I wouldn't worry about all that sass. Plus, drugs help for those long days ; )", "Dont take any more than you need. You might think things might be useful but unless you know you're absolutely going to use it you'll hate yourself when you have to carry it in and even more if you have to carry it out.", "Baby wipes are your best friend. Port-o-potties suck and if there are showers available, they won't be free. I went to Firefly 2 years ago and my camp was a good quarter-mile from the nearest port-o-potty stations. Also, with all that weird food and alcohol, you never know when you will be faced with having to go shit in the woods. Baby wipes, my friend." ]

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[ "How to get rid of garlic breath Obviously brushing your teeth and using mouthwash is the first thing, but what if you're not near a sink and it isn't practical? Gum doesn't seem to mask the smell very well.", "How to get rid of garlic breath Obviously brushing your teeth and using mouthwash is the first thing, but what if you're not near a sink and it isn't practical? Gum doesn't seem to mask the smell very well.", "How to get rid of garlic breath Obviously brushing your teeth and using mouthwash is the first thing, but what if you're not near a sink and it isn't practical? Gum doesn't seem to mask the smell very well." ]

[ "Try this;\n1. Scrape off your tongue with a metal spoon.\n2. Drink a lot of water.\n3. Now use a strong mint, or gum.\n\nThe spoon helps get rid of the buildup of crap on your tongue, which is where the bad smelling bacteria live. The water rinses more bacteria out of your mouth. Then, taking the mint right after boosts its effectiveness, since it's the only smell in your mouth, instead of a mask for other smells.\n\nThis has absolutely no real science behind it, this is just how I think it works... But it does work for me...", "I've always heard chocolate will do it but I can't support this with evidence or reasoning, simply anecdotal.", "It seems a yogurt and parsley milkshake would do the trick. Disgusting? Yes of course. Helpful? Yes of course?" ]

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[ "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?", "How to prevent fruit flies from becoming roommates? I know how to trap/kill them once they move in, but how do I keep them from taking up residence in my kitchen in the first place?\n\nWe don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator. I vacuum and wipe down surfaces daily, our litter box is cleaned twice a day, the trash is taken out regularly. Is there anything else I can do?" ]

[ "Regarding being repopulated by the ones you've already had: They breed in drains. Keep the drains clean. If they've been around recently, some hot water and bleach in the drain should do the trick and then keep it covered when you're not using it. As for avoiding new ones: for produce that doesn't belong in the fridge, if you stick it in water for 30 seconds (submerged) when you get home, that should be enough to kill anything on/in the fruit so it doesn't hatch and get you new fruit flies. (As a bonus, your fruit or whatever is already cleaned when you go to eat it.)", "I would suggest you set expectations and boundaries. \n\n\"You're welcome to stay here short term until you get back on your feet, but I value living alone and do not want a long term roommate.\"\n\nI guess the clean, dry kitchen sink suggestion is good too. ", "Get an empty water bottle. Put an inch of vinegar inside then break the surface tension with a drop of dish soap. \nNext, take a corner of a sandwich baggie. Poke a hole at the corner and stick it into the water bottle. Fold the plastic over the mouth and secure with rubber band. \n\nFruit flies are attracted to the vinegar and will find their way in. They will not be able to find their way out due to the overwhelming smells from the vinegar. Eventually, they will get tired. They believe they can rest on the surface tension of the liquid, but you removed it, so they drown. \n\n", "I live in an area renowned for tree fruits and grapes. Every year we deal with a huge fruit fly problem. Here is how I keep my house free from these buggers. \n\nA fly trap with fruit, wine or apple cider vinegar in a cup with cellophane across the top. Pike a few holes big enough to key flies in. Put it wherever you see the most of them.\n\nTo prevent them in the first place:\n\n1 - Clean your drains. Hot water is a good start. I use vinegar/salt mixture after as a rinse to ensure any eggs left behind are dead.\n\n2 - Wash all fruits and vegetables as soon as you bring them in the house. Soap and water is OK for anything with a skin you don't eat. Vinegar water for the rest.\n\n3 - Keep your windows and doors closed or use well-fitted screens.", "Put something on the sink drain. flies may be coming from there. \nAlso, the cup of fruits always worked for me.Trapped them 3-4 days then they never appear again. ", "Dump bleach down your drains.\n\nIf you get the tiny gnats, apple cider vinegar in a bowl covered with saran wrap and poke some holes with a fork.", "We used a Venus Fly Trap. It cost $4 or something at the local hardware store. The only issue was, it so effectively killed all the flys (fruit and house) that it began to starve when there were none left. Apparently, they also eat freeze dried blood worms, but we didn't prioritize getting them (I bought frozen blood worms, but that didn't work). Eventually, the plant died, but we'll be getting another soon and feed it right this time. ", "\"We don't let food sit out, only produce that doesn't belong in the refrigerator.\"\n\nAnd that's exactly what fruit flies need.\n\nFruit flies eat the wild yeast that grows on the skin of produce that you leave out.\n\nThey lay eggs in dark/damp places. So bleach your drains. But unless you're willing to cut out all fresh air and never have your windows open then you'll just have to deal with them when they show up.\n\nYou said you already know how, but I might as well leave a tip since you didn't say anything about what you use. A bowl with a small amount of apple cider vinegar (or beer!) with a drop of dish soap in it to break the surface tension will usually get them all within 24 hours. They are attracted to the yeast and drown because normally they can land on water/liquid, but the dish soap fixes that.", "Put wine and dish soap into a glass and let it sit all day/ all night. I learned this trick from a wine distillery just a couple weeks back. All the fruit and sweet smells draw a serious amount of them! Refill every night before you head to bed. ", "Grow a bunch or carnivorous plants. It's both functional AND attractive! \nSundews work best for catching large volumes of flies. ", "Fruit flies are small enough to fly through window screens. If you have fruit out like bananas or an open bottle of wine the fruit flies will be attracted to it. They might breed nearby in neighbors plants, or in a garden close to kitchen windows. ", "As I told my brother two weeks ago for his fruit fly problem....\n\nKeep everything clean for 10 days. Wash your dishes after using. Do not leave them in the sink. Clean your drains and stove, wipe them down when you finish cooking or washing dishes. \n\nThey have short life spans so the breed quickly. If you do not keep it clean, they will return by the weekend. \n\nFood can get tossed outside of possible and that keeps your trash can cleaner. Anything that decomposes, they will find and use against you. ", "You got a garbage disposal? You need to bleach that, like others have said about drains, and make sure you don't leave ungrounded food in the disposal.", "We had a big fruit fly problem. We emptied out a Gatorade bottle, put some pieces of fruit in it and let it sit. Every couple of hours we'd cover the top, go outside and release all the flies. We were clean in about 2 days. Didn't have any issues since. ", "Keep your house clean. Fruit flies love gross kitchens. Clean up all food and don't leave anything open. I live in an area where they are a huge problem. I clean all my surfaces and never ever leave food or food containers out ever. It's not a problem. The vinegar trick works as well. Cling wrap on a glass of apple cider vinegar works wonders.", "In addition to not letting food out, keep a lookout for food item packages that have been previously opened in your pantry/cabinets.\n\nWhen I had a fruit fly problem, the source was a year old rolled up tortilla chips bag in my pantry. It was a paper bag with the top rolled up somewhat tight. I never thought anything would be able to get in it but they did and they were breeding in there. It was gross.", "I find that moisture and odor (rotting) control help. Places for moisture are not just drains but over watered plants where eggs can catch and other smelly places like toilet rims or trash cans. ", "First step: Don't be a slob. Once you have mastered that, here's a trick that will get rid of what's left.\n\n - Get a glass and put about an inch of vinegar in it. It doesn't matter what type. You could put a piece of rotting fruit in there too. \n - Take a piece of paper and roll it up like a cone and tape the edges and set it pointing inside the glass. \n - Make sure there's no gap on the edges of the glass.\n - Let it sit there for a few days. They will fly in the small hole in the cone opening attracted by the vinegar but can't fly out.\n - When you have a bunch in there, carefully grab the glass with the cone and stick it in the freezer for a few minutes until they're all dead.\n - Repeat if necessary." ]

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[ "How to open a frozen car door. I've seen many posts about door handles breaking from pulling too hard on a frozen car door. \n\nI have also had times when my door was frozen but I was lucky enough that the other side was not completely frozen over. I was able to kick it open from the inside. \n\nAnybody have any tips?", "How to open a frozen car door. I've seen many posts about door handles breaking from pulling too hard on a frozen car door. \n\nI have also had times when my door was frozen but I was lucky enough that the other side was not completely frozen over. I was able to kick it open from the inside. \n\nAnybody have any tips?" ]

[ "First step - try all the other doors, particularly those on the opposite side of the car. If you can get in another door, it is often easier to push the frozen driver's door open from the inside.", "I have broken a door handle trying to pull open a frozen door. The problem for me was that I was able to get the door handle operating, but water had gotten in around the door area and frozen solid (we had freezing sleet overnight). I tried to pull the door open...broken handle.\n\nWhat I learned to do: if you can get the door handle working, then use a skinny pry bar to pry the door open. Insert the pry bar in the seam between the door and the car near the door handle. Pry gently while holding the door handle in the open position....and you will be rewarded with a satisfying crack as the ice gives way and the door opens." ]

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[ "any tips for sticking to a sleep schedule? I’m always waking up whenever and falling asleep whenever. No rhyme or reason to it. Either I’m heading to bed at 11PM, 5AM, 11AM, or any and all hours of the day. I’m self employed, so it’s not effecting my job, but I know it’s not healthy or natural and it is rather annoying to be awake when everyone else is asleep or asleep when everyone else is awake. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!", "any tips for sticking to a sleep schedule? I’m always waking up whenever and falling asleep whenever. No rhyme or reason to it. Either I’m heading to bed at 11PM, 5AM, 11AM, or any and all hours of the day. I’m self employed, so it’s not effecting my job, but I know it’s not healthy or natural and it is rather annoying to be awake when everyone else is asleep or asleep when everyone else is awake. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!", "any tips for sticking to a sleep schedule? I’m always waking up whenever and falling asleep whenever. No rhyme or reason to it. Either I’m heading to bed at 11PM, 5AM, 11AM, or any and all hours of the day. I’m self employed, so it’s not effecting my job, but I know it’s not healthy or natural and it is rather annoying to be awake when everyone else is asleep or asleep when everyone else is awake. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!", "any tips for sticking to a sleep schedule? I’m always waking up whenever and falling asleep whenever. No rhyme or reason to it. Either I’m heading to bed at 11PM, 5AM, 11AM, or any and all hours of the day. I’m self employed, so it’s not effecting my job, but I know it’s not healthy or natural and it is rather annoying to be awake when everyone else is asleep or asleep when everyone else is awake. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!", "any tips for sticking to a sleep schedule? I’m always waking up whenever and falling asleep whenever. No rhyme or reason to it. Either I’m heading to bed at 11PM, 5AM, 11AM, or any and all hours of the day. I’m self employed, so it’s not effecting my job, but I know it’s not healthy or natural and it is rather annoying to be awake when everyone else is asleep or asleep when everyone else is awake. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!", "any tips for sticking to a sleep schedule? I’m always waking up whenever and falling asleep whenever. No rhyme or reason to it. Either I’m heading to bed at 11PM, 5AM, 11AM, or any and all hours of the day. I’m self employed, so it’s not effecting my job, but I know it’s not healthy or natural and it is rather annoying to be awake when everyone else is asleep or asleep when everyone else is awake. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!" ]

[ "Best thing to do would be to wake up at a particular time that’s earlier than usual (if that’s what you want)\n\nOver the next few days you’ll be tired and automatically your sleep clock will try to reset and make you sleep earlier", "What does it actually matter? Other than work, but that is not the case here. \n\nI have always, since I was a kid, been a night owl and no amount of trying or gimmicks make it change for a longer period of tine. Nowadays I just don't wake up before 8, unless I absolutely have to. I don't think forcing it is any better than following your natural inner clock. As a kid I just never got enough sleep. \n\nIf allowed to fall on my natural cycle, as during holidays, I go to sleep 2-3 and wake up naturally 10-11. With this schedule I am never tired and feel much more energetic.\n\nJust my two cents.", "Look up wind down routines, find you're right one. Example: If tea and a podcast helps you relax, do that. Set a schedule yes but also find what helps you sleep. Music, dark, lights, lava lamp, white noise etc. If tour comfortable and just relax and breathe calmly, tou will fall asleep.", "Just chose a time block you want to sleep/wake up. Then what I do, (which may not be the best advice honestly lol) is pretty much “hard reset” myself. So I’ll stay up for 24+ hours prior to the time I want to sleep, then it’s easier to fall into the schedule. \n\nI only do this when I have a night shift sprinkled into my usual day shift schedule.", "Choose a time and stick with it. You can put an alarm in your phone so you know when it is time to sleep and when it is time to wake up.\n\nThere is no magic advice here. Just pick the time you want to go to sleep and the time you want to get up and stick to it.", "Because it isn't affecting your work life you have allowed yourself to fall out of a habit. \n\nSimple life pro tip from my point of view is make \"Routine\" your new thing next year. Set your alarm for 10.30pm, whatever you are doing, stop, and start your bed time routine (brush teeth etc) then simple go to bed. I like to put crap on TV whilst I unwind in bed but I never stay active after 11.30pm. Once I see that time it's phone down etc and roll over. 11.30 is my latest. I'm usually tired well before then. \n\nAs for wake up time. Allow yourself to wake up naturally if it doesn't effect work i guess. However if you want to give routine a true shot. Set alarm to wake you up a bit earlier. Routine allows structure. You can plan your day knowing what times you are awake etc instead of fitting your sleep around your plans if that makes sense.\n\nHope this helps and have a great new year" ]

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[ "what are some ways to stay cool when you work all day outside in the heat Any help will be great thanks", "what are some ways to stay cool when you work all day outside in the heat Any help will be great thanks", "what are some ways to stay cool when you work all day outside in the heat Any help will be great thanks", "what are some ways to stay cool when you work all day outside in the heat Any help will be great thanks" ]

[ "Go to a sporting goods store and find a vented hunting shirt. I wear my dove hunting shirt on hot days, and even a tiny breeze will cool me down as it flows through the vents. ", "This may not make sense but wear breathable pants and long sleeves it will keep the sun off your skin and keep you cooler then shorts or tank top. ", "Buy a well insulated bottle (e.g. [this](https://www.amazon.ca/Thermos-SK2010MB4-Beverage-Stainless-Midnight/dp/B0017IHRNM/ref=pd_sim_79_2?ie=UTF8&dpID=41WX1QxF9oL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&psc=1&refRID=SWW0F9YMG3XRJD3BPQQA)) and fill it with ice, then whatever space is left fill it with water. Unless it's sitting directly in the sun all day, it should keep cool and you can keep refilling the water.\n\nAlternatively, buy a giant 2L jug of water, take the cap off and freeze it overnight, and bring that with you the next day.", "Believe it or not, drink something hot. As long as there's a breeze, it'll cool you off more than just drinking something cold." ]

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[ "How to avoid non-stop static electricity I dont know whats wrong with my room but i'm permanently charged.\n\n My hairs are flying everywhere, i get little little stings everywhere, its so frustrating. \n I dont wear Polyester, i have 2 buckets of water and plants in my room for the humidity, i tried anti-static spray for my chair/sheets/clothes/carpet, i turned off my underfloor heating, I rarely wear shoes..\n\nand the worst of all, i can't discharge. i can touch doorknobs, the water tap, a \nradiator, everything and nothing happens.\n\nThis happened last summer too, but went away. Now its back. I didn't change anything. help :(", "How to avoid non-stop static electricity I dont know whats wrong with my room but i'm permanently charged.\n\n My hairs are flying everywhere, i get little little stings everywhere, its so frustrating. \n I dont wear Polyester, i have 2 buckets of water and plants in my room for the humidity, i tried anti-static spray for my chair/sheets/clothes/carpet, i turned off my underfloor heating, I rarely wear shoes..\n\nand the worst of all, i can't discharge. i can touch doorknobs, the water tap, a \nradiator, everything and nothing happens.\n\nThis happened last summer too, but went away. Now its back. I didn't change anything. help :(", "How to avoid non-stop static electricity I dont know whats wrong with my room but i'm permanently charged.\n\n My hairs are flying everywhere, i get little little stings everywhere, its so frustrating. \n I dont wear Polyester, i have 2 buckets of water and plants in my room for the humidity, i tried anti-static spray for my chair/sheets/clothes/carpet, i turned off my underfloor heating, I rarely wear shoes..\n\nand the worst of all, i can't discharge. i can touch doorknobs, the water tap, a \nradiator, everything and nothing happens.\n\nThis happened last summer too, but went away. Now its back. I didn't change anything. help :(", "How to avoid non-stop static electricity I dont know whats wrong with my room but i'm permanently charged.\n\n My hairs are flying everywhere, i get little little stings everywhere, its so frustrating. \n I dont wear Polyester, i have 2 buckets of water and plants in my room for the humidity, i tried anti-static spray for my chair/sheets/clothes/carpet, i turned off my underfloor heating, I rarely wear shoes..\n\nand the worst of all, i can't discharge. i can touch doorknobs, the water tap, a \nradiator, everything and nothing happens.\n\nThis happened last summer too, but went away. Now its back. I didn't change anything. help :(", "How to avoid non-stop static electricity I dont know whats wrong with my room but i'm permanently charged.\n\n My hairs are flying everywhere, i get little little stings everywhere, its so frustrating. \n I dont wear Polyester, i have 2 buckets of water and plants in my room for the humidity, i tried anti-static spray for my chair/sheets/clothes/carpet, i turned off my underfloor heating, I rarely wear shoes..\n\nand the worst of all, i can't discharge. i can touch doorknobs, the water tap, a \nradiator, everything and nothing happens.\n\nThis happened last summer too, but went away. Now its back. I didn't change anything. help :(" ]

[ "Moisturize your skin and hair. Keep dryer sheets around and run them over things that are building static. ", "Have you got super powers? This is often the first signs of gaining powers (source: TV and shit).\nI'd try getting a light bulb and focusing really hard on turning it on with your mind. Once you've done that you should try jump starting cars or something.\n\nCongratulations on your new power. You are 1 step closer to becoming a hero/villian.", "so have you mettered your humidity? if you don't have at least around 45%, you will get static superpowers", "Get a spray bottle. Fill with water. Add 2 oz of fabric softener. Spray carpets, floors, chair with this mixture once a day. Buckets and plants do not make up enough humidity for this time of year. Fabric softener has anti-static properties and is much cheaper than \"anti-static spray\"", "Do you have animals or fluffy blankets/clothes? My dog used to create a lot of static by rubbing against our couch. I have fluffy PJ pants that cause my laundry to become charged when I wash them. \n\nSide note: there is an actual disease/phenomenon called [\"Electric Human\" or \"Human VandeGraaffs\"](http://amasci.com/static/e-disease.html) where some people are more electrically charged than others." ]

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[ "Shaving irritation I like having a clean-shaven face. However, a couple days after I do a close shave with a non-mechanical razor, the hair growing back causes my neck and face to be rather irritated. Is there any way to alleviate this annoyance?", "Shaving irritation I like having a clean-shaven face. However, a couple days after I do a close shave with a non-mechanical razor, the hair growing back causes my neck and face to be rather irritated. Is there any way to alleviate this annoyance?", "Shaving irritation I like having a clean-shaven face. However, a couple days after I do a close shave with a non-mechanical razor, the hair growing back causes my neck and face to be rather irritated. Is there any way to alleviate this annoyance?", "Shaving irritation I like having a clean-shaven face. However, a couple days after I do a close shave with a non-mechanical razor, the hair growing back causes my neck and face to be rather irritated. Is there any way to alleviate this annoyance?" ]

[ "A stripper once told me to put deodorant on the spot after I shave and it will prevent razor burn. I think it helps.", "You might try an epilator. It removes the hair at the root. The first few times you do it your skin will be irritated and it will hurt like hell, but give it a couple weeks and you'll see a massive improvement.", "Rub your shaving cream in really well before shaving. Most men's neck hair grows in different directions. So when you throughly rub the shaving cream into the hair it shaves easier and causes less irritation. ", "If it's severe, hit it with some clear calamine alternative after each shave. Once the redness goes away, replace the calamine with witch hazel." ]

[ 5, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Reading More Effectively How can I read better? Specifically this is for school; it's not like I'm reading Harry Potter or something that I can just blaze through. The content isn't always super dense (though it can be) and is sometimes even written conversationally, and it's fairly interesting stuff (otherwise I wouldn't be taking the class)—but no matter what, when I'm reading I get distracted really easily. I'll be 1/4 of a way through a page and realize that I'm thinking about something entirely different: classes, social life, food, schedule, etc... \n\nI've tried listening to music with or without words, music I know or don't know; I highlight a lot of stuff when I read (which helps with absorption of material but reading is just as slow); I've tried reading alone and in places with other people...\n\nThis is true for almost anything I read — books, articles, scientific papers... help me! It makes reading so much slower and I feel like I'm only absorbing half the material. ANY tips and responses are very much appreciated.", "Reading More Effectively How can I read better? Specifically this is for school; it's not like I'm reading Harry Potter or something that I can just blaze through. The content isn't always super dense (though it can be) and is sometimes even written conversationally, and it's fairly interesting stuff (otherwise I wouldn't be taking the class)—but no matter what, when I'm reading I get distracted really easily. I'll be 1/4 of a way through a page and realize that I'm thinking about something entirely different: classes, social life, food, schedule, etc... \n\nI've tried listening to music with or without words, music I know or don't know; I highlight a lot of stuff when I read (which helps with absorption of material but reading is just as slow); I've tried reading alone and in places with other people...\n\nThis is true for almost anything I read — books, articles, scientific papers... help me! It makes reading so much slower and I feel like I'm only absorbing half the material. ANY tips and responses are very much appreciated.", "Reading More Effectively How can I read better? Specifically this is for school; it's not like I'm reading Harry Potter or something that I can just blaze through. The content isn't always super dense (though it can be) and is sometimes even written conversationally, and it's fairly interesting stuff (otherwise I wouldn't be taking the class)—but no matter what, when I'm reading I get distracted really easily. I'll be 1/4 of a way through a page and realize that I'm thinking about something entirely different: classes, social life, food, schedule, etc... \n\nI've tried listening to music with or without words, music I know or don't know; I highlight a lot of stuff when I read (which helps with absorption of material but reading is just as slow); I've tried reading alone and in places with other people...\n\nThis is true for almost anything I read — books, articles, scientific papers... help me! It makes reading so much slower and I feel like I'm only absorbing half the material. ANY tips and responses are very much appreciated.", "Reading More Effectively How can I read better? Specifically this is for school; it's not like I'm reading Harry Potter or something that I can just blaze through. The content isn't always super dense (though it can be) and is sometimes even written conversationally, and it's fairly interesting stuff (otherwise I wouldn't be taking the class)—but no matter what, when I'm reading I get distracted really easily. I'll be 1/4 of a way through a page and realize that I'm thinking about something entirely different: classes, social life, food, schedule, etc... \n\nI've tried listening to music with or without words, music I know or don't know; I highlight a lot of stuff when I read (which helps with absorption of material but reading is just as slow); I've tried reading alone and in places with other people...\n\nThis is true for almost anything I read — books, articles, scientific papers... help me! It makes reading so much slower and I feel like I'm only absorbing half the material. ANY tips and responses are very much appreciated.", "Reading More Effectively How can I read better? Specifically this is for school; it's not like I'm reading Harry Potter or something that I can just blaze through. The content isn't always super dense (though it can be) and is sometimes even written conversationally, and it's fairly interesting stuff (otherwise I wouldn't be taking the class)—but no matter what, when I'm reading I get distracted really easily. I'll be 1/4 of a way through a page and realize that I'm thinking about something entirely different: classes, social life, food, schedule, etc... \n\nI've tried listening to music with or without words, music I know or don't know; I highlight a lot of stuff when I read (which helps with absorption of material but reading is just as slow); I've tried reading alone and in places with other people...\n\nThis is true for almost anything I read — books, articles, scientific papers... help me! It makes reading so much slower and I feel like I'm only absorbing half the material. ANY tips and responses are very much appreciated.", "Reading More Effectively How can I read better? Specifically this is for school; it's not like I'm reading Harry Potter or something that I can just blaze through. The content isn't always super dense (though it can be) and is sometimes even written conversationally, and it's fairly interesting stuff (otherwise I wouldn't be taking the class)—but no matter what, when I'm reading I get distracted really easily. I'll be 1/4 of a way through a page and realize that I'm thinking about something entirely different: classes, social life, food, schedule, etc... \n\nI've tried listening to music with or without words, music I know or don't know; I highlight a lot of stuff when I read (which helps with absorption of material but reading is just as slow); I've tried reading alone and in places with other people...\n\nThis is true for almost anything I read — books, articles, scientific papers... help me! It makes reading so much slower and I feel like I'm only absorbing half the material. ANY tips and responses are very much appreciated.", "Reading More Effectively How can I read better? Specifically this is for school; it's not like I'm reading Harry Potter or something that I can just blaze through. The content isn't always super dense (though it can be) and is sometimes even written conversationally, and it's fairly interesting stuff (otherwise I wouldn't be taking the class)—but no matter what, when I'm reading I get distracted really easily. I'll be 1/4 of a way through a page and realize that I'm thinking about something entirely different: classes, social life, food, schedule, etc... \n\nI've tried listening to music with or without words, music I know or don't know; I highlight a lot of stuff when I read (which helps with absorption of material but reading is just as slow); I've tried reading alone and in places with other people...\n\nThis is true for almost anything I read — books, articles, scientific papers... help me! It makes reading so much slower and I feel like I'm only absorbing half the material. ANY tips and responses are very much appreciated." ]

[ "Just like anything else in life, the number one key to becoming better at reading is practice. Make a habit of reading daily. Set goals in time and/or pages.\n\n\nAlso, rid yourself of all distractions. Even music without lyrics can be distracting. Turn your phone and computer off and don't even have them in the same room.\n\n\nPersonally, I don't highlight or make notes on my first pass while reading. Maybe try reading through a chapter and then going back and making notes.\n\nFinally, try to improve your overall focus in life. I'm not sure if you drink, smoke weed, or have any other habits such as those; but taking a break from those (or even from checking your phone all of the time) can improve your overall self-control and focus.\n\nGood luck OP. Hope this helps some.", "http://www.amazon.com/Tinted-Plastic-Reading-Sheets-Set/dp/B000A35ODA\n\nThese do wonders, my friend is a language arts teacher and swears by them", "Read it out loud. This forces you to actually read every word and not skim. \n\nRead it in a accent: this actually requires you to think about each word as you say it. \n\nAfter each paragraph or so summarize what it said: this will make sure you understand/retain the information. ", "Adderall can help with this. When I was in college, I would take a bunch of adderall, drink a pot of coffee, and stampede through dense scientific writing like it was nothing.\n\nIf, however, you're attempting to do this \"naturally\", as I currently am, a few things could help.\n\nFor one, mindfulness m", "If I've gotten bogged down into really heavy material, I use a Post-It note to write down the condensed idea the paragraph is attempting to convey. I follow that by listing details in the paragraph that could come up as questions or points to review. If this seems difficult or impossible, it could be that the material is really badly written, and the problem isn't so much your attention as it is sloppy text. Anyway, one Post-It per decently written paragraph should help get the gist and remember it. If there's something that has to be remembered, no matter what, I've always hand written it and posted it on the bathroom mirror, where it's seen over and over and eventually becomes unforgettable. (Sometimes in red lipstick, if it seems like a real bear to memorize, and this usually works.)", "I used to struggle to concentrate like you and would never finish a book before heading onto another. The trick I found was to read 3 or 4 books at any one time - I read a chapter or so of a different book at each sitting and rotate them. Keeps my interest up especially if you mix up fiction and non fiction. ", "Hear baroque music(scientifically proven to improve your memory by 20%)+ read your notes with a finger or a pen to guide you(helps a lot for speed reading)." ]

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[ "How to ask a friend to stop gossiping My coworker is a huge gossip. How do I politely tell her to stop telling me about other people's dirty laundry without hurting her feelings? ", "How to ask a friend to stop gossiping My coworker is a huge gossip. How do I politely tell her to stop telling me about other people's dirty laundry without hurting her feelings? " ]

[ "When the gossip happens, stop the conversation. If they begin with \"So did you hear about...?\" Let them finish their sentence but respond with: \"I'd rather not hear about it, but thank you. How was your day yesterday/How's your day so far/Any cool plans coming up for you?\"\n\nI've found that people will almost never turn down an opportunity to talk about themselves in lieu of talking about others.", "Best to be direct and to the point. \"I am sorry, but I do not care to be a part of gossip, thank you.\"\na.) You own what you said, and\nb.) declared that YOU do not wish to be a part of something. What it is is clearly known by the gossiper.\nAny offense taken will be 'defensiveness' by her and is not your responsibility. You just stood your ground against something that you do not support.\nGood luck." ]

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[ "How to hide your eyes from watering? For example, when you get emotionally overwhelmed at random/inopportune times. People (myself included) typically blink a lot or pretend to cough etc. to cover it up - surely there's gotta be a better way?! ", "How to hide your eyes from watering? For example, when you get emotionally overwhelmed at random/inopportune times. People (myself included) typically blink a lot or pretend to cough etc. to cover it up - surely there's gotta be a better way?! " ]

[ "Yo it's physically (almost) impossible to shed tera without bending your head forwards. Part of the reason why water is often offered to a crying person. It is so that they can pull their head back up to drink it. Try it next time. Haven't disappointed me in 23 years", "I always pretend to sneeze hard, it’s believable that it could make your eyes water and would also explain a runny nose (mine runs when I cry) and puffy eyes! " ]

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[ "How to I keep my forehead from getting oily? My forehead gets incredibly oily. I can run my finger across it and my finger will shine. I've tried oil reducing face washes and have had no success. I use those tissue paper like face wipes and have to use 4-6 to get all the oil off of my face. Please help! I'm sick of my shiny face!", "How to I keep my forehead from getting oily? My forehead gets incredibly oily. I can run my finger across it and my finger will shine. I've tried oil reducing face washes and have had no success. I use those tissue paper like face wipes and have to use 4-6 to get all the oil off of my face. Please help! I'm sick of my shiny face!" ]

[ "Use a [mattifier.](http://www.beauty.com/products/prod.asp?pid=212738&catid=297501&aid=338669&aparam=goobase_filler&device=c&network=g&matchtype=) They work well for me. ", "I exfoliate with one of those brushes that swirl around your face (its much, much better than doing it by hand imo and don't have much sugar in my diet. I also exercise regularly (4-5 days a week) and then go into the steam room for 30 minutes. I shower then use eczema-specific lotion. Honestly I feel like just the steam room and sauna access is worth the $20 per month membership (remember to have shower shoes).\n\nAs I have been searching for a job I've taken it upon myself to work on my appearance at least 2-4 hours a day. Either via working out or learning tips to deal with things that I feel need addressing. I'm not sure if I'm rambling so I'll just end it right here." ]

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[ "What things can I do to maintain positive relationships with my boss and coworkers in my new job? I had been out of work for a while, so I'm trying to get started on the right track. ", "What things can I do to maintain positive relationships with my boss and coworkers in my new job? I had been out of work for a while, so I'm trying to get started on the right track. ", "What things can I do to maintain positive relationships with my boss and coworkers in my new job? I had been out of work for a while, so I'm trying to get started on the right track. ", "What things can I do to maintain positive relationships with my boss and coworkers in my new job? I had been out of work for a while, so I'm trying to get started on the right track. " ]

[ "Read this short book. \"How to win friends and influence people.\" It really helped me to understand that people live each day focusing on their own needs and wants and that it's just human nature. Not at all personal or a reflection on you. If you consciously make an effort to get people to talk about themselves or meet their needs in some way, they won't even realize that the reason they enjoy your presence is because you made it all about them. Of course they enjoyed talking to you because all you did was get them to talk about themselves (everyone's favorite thing to do) or help them complete a task.....YOU WILL BE LOVED!!!!!", "Help other people reach their goals and make them shine. Be the giver of acknowledgement, gratitude and praise, take none for yourself unless privately given. ", "Do not complain about anything. I feel like complaining and an entitlement attitude are the biggest factors that make someone a nuisance in the workplace. ", "1. As /u/tr287 says, don't complain about the trivial.\n2. You might know a better way to do something. Unless you are **positive** about it and the response to it, keep it to yourself until you have been there for more than a year.\n3. Bring in donuts & bagels once in a while." ]

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[ "How to make popcorn taste like it does at the movie theater? There is a serious need for this to be answered. :)", "How to make popcorn taste like it does at the movie theater? There is a serious need for this to be answered. :)", "How to make popcorn taste like it does at the movie theater? There is a serious need for this to be answered. :)", "How to make popcorn taste like it does at the movie theater? There is a serious need for this to be answered. :)", "How to make popcorn taste like it does at the movie theater? There is a serious need for this to be answered. :)", "How to make popcorn taste like it does at the movie theater? There is a serious need for this to be answered. :)", "How to make popcorn taste like it does at the movie theater? There is a serious need for this to be answered. :)" ]

[ "Get a small popcorn machine, and continuously make popcorn in it until it is completely filthy. Make Popcorn. Eat. Repeat as desires.", "I worked in a cinema, often making popcorn, you're gonna need an industrial size popcorn machine, a whole shit ton of sugar and oil, or if you want salted, there's this weird yellow salt mixture... I don't think you'll ever get the same taste with crappy microwave popcorn. Sorry :( \nALSO, why do Americans like butter with their salted popcorn?! Irish here, and that freaks me out. ", "The movie theater secret is [Flavacol](http://www.webstaurantstore.com/gold-medal-2045-popcorn-flavoring-salt-flavacol-32-oz-carton/9992045.html). Others have also mentioned coconut oil...but yeah it's [not so good for you](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coconut_oil#Health). \n\nYou may also want to invest in a stovetop popper like a [Whirley pop](http://www.amazon.com/Wabash-Valley-Farms-25008-Whirley-Pop/dp/B00004SU35). I have some knockoff and it works great. Alternatively, you can just shake a pot around on the stove. ", "This stuff: http://i.imgur.com/k5HdB.jpg\n\nMovie Theater Butter popcorn. BUT... there are two kinds... You must get the one that says \"Pour Over\". It comes with a packet of delicious hate-yourself-inducing drippy butter.", "They use butter-flavored oil to pop your popcorn. If you could find some, I imagine you could use in an oil popper and get the same effect.", "When I bought my whirly pop, it came with a single serving package of unpopped popcorn and coconut oil. It was the closest I have had to movie theater flavor at home. You can buy it from their website and use it in any oil popper. The pour over kind is probably the second closest.", "I think it tastes a certain way because it is air popped and not microwaved. and Popcorn isn't good without butter, the Irish are missing out you should try it man." ]

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[ "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. ", "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. ", "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. ", "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. ", "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. ", "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. ", "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. ", "People with chronic illness, how do you cope and stay positive? I have chronic fissures. My life goes like this:4-5 good days without any issues, and then suddenly a day with a lot of pain. It comes of nowhere. I know that it is going to pass, but when the pain is there i spend the day cursing the fact and being all moody, and on good days? I keep worrying about the bad that could come to me even next day. " ]

[ "I cope by staying alone when I am having a bad day. I don't want to have people feel sorry for me and some days I just can't fake it.", "The tough part for me is managing the self-pity. The pain and life-limitations suck, but that doesn't eat away at me like self-pity can. \n\n\"Why do I have to be like this? Why did I have to have this? What if I was well - wouldn't so many things be better? It's just not f'ing fair - I don't deserve to suffer like this; not now and not for the rest of my life.\"\n\nHow to deal with it? It's about perspective, I guess, which takes conscious effort. Why shouldn't I be sick: lots of people are sick, many worse off than me? There's still loads to be thankful for in my life (e.g. I'd been ill for years before I met my wife so if I was never sick my life would be different enough that I'd never have met her) . What the hell counts as fair anyway? And so what if it's not fair? There are many other unfair things going on. Maybe I don't deserve to suffer like this, but I don't have a choice. I have to accept my life, accept the illness. \n\nThis isn't easy but it's also ok to not be perfect at dealing with it all the time. When I've been really down (pain, not able to sleep, hospital in patient etc) I try and distract myself for a few hours - normally I'll feel better (emotionally at least) in the morning. For me, TV or reading is a good distraction. \n\nMy final piece of advice: if you are really struggling, consider professional help. It's nothing to be scared of or too proud for: especially because a weakened physical state literally makes it harder to be happy / increases the chances of depression. ", "I joined a couple of groups on fb specific to my chronic illness, it's great because we can share ups and downs and everyone is very supportive. ", "I cope with things differently depending on which health issue is acting up (I have several). Common themes:\n\n* Self awareness is key. Being able to tell the difference between illness-induced mood swings and genuine emotion can make a huge difference. Knowing which physical symptoms are worth treating with medication, which ones to treat using other things (heating pads, etc), and which ones to treat by distraction can also make a huge difference. Knowing when to chose to be alone and when to reach out for help or company is also important. \n\n* Find a doctor you trust, and take their advice. Learn everything you can about managing your specific illness. If you are on meds, take them as directed.\n\n* Consider finding a therapist that specializes in chronic illness. There are many forms of therapy that can help manage pain. DBT, CBT, and ACT and the ones that come to mind offhand. If your problem is trauma related, EMDR has a high success rate. \n\n* Knowing who is genuinely part of your support group and being open/ honest with them. Some people are fair-weather friends. It's a harsh truth, but it's out there. Other people are golden and are true friends. Knowing who is who can make a huge difference. Being honest with the true friends make a difference, too. I've learned that sometimes I need to start a conversation with \"I'm having a bad day and need to vent - is it okay for me to vent to you right now?\" This gives them the option of saying no if they can't handle it right then. It also means I can trust their \"yes, I'm available\" at face value. Other conversation starter as needed: \"I'm having trouble and would like advice.\" That way they don't have to guess what you're asking them for, and can respond accordingly. \n\n* Be there for your friends as well. I feel like that goes without saying, but sometimes I'll get so caught up in my own illness(es) that I'll have to remind myself that there is a world beyond my pain and that that world is affecting my friends. \n\n* Plan for flexibility. You don't know what tomorrow will bring, and that's okay.\n\n* Consider watching this: \nhttp://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgonigal_the_game_that_can_give_you_10_extra_years_of_life\nThere is a computer game created for people going through life challenges (such as chronic illness or pain) and using it may help you obtain the support you need while reaching your goals. \n\n* Find at least one thing - anything - that is good about your disease. Some of the things I've learned to appreciate about my disease include: I've learned that I have the strength to face pain and get through it. I've learned I have the right to say \"no\" to people and social situations that do not improve my life. I've learned to appreciate my health when it is present. I've learned not to take anything for granted. I appreciate that I live in a point in history where my illnesses are identified and treatable (I would have died over a decade ago without modern medicine.) Things like that. It's not to minimize the pain you are in, but to give yourself a broader perspective about what your pain means to you.\n\nFeel free to pm me if you need to talk. I am not a professional (yet) but I do have personal experience with living with illnesses/pain.", "This video should be of some help. The speaker has a different disease than you do, but his is bad, it's chronic, and he has some excellent Life Pro Tips.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rr8wIiypS_g\n\n", "Learn to live in the moment. Can't say I practice what I preach here, but I try. Being able to just be happy when things are good keeps me from worrying about what I've missed or will miss our have or will suffer. Again. Not easy, but something to work towards.", "Personally with PTSD, I hate going out into public when there is a big crowed or even a lot of people. Tend to stay home and I always ask people not to ask me to go with them. or beg me to go with them. If I had medication to deal with the anxiety it might be a different story. Other than that I stay home.", "Don't sweat it. Don't allow that pain to ruin your good days. \n\nI used to obsess with how bad I had it. Now this is going to sound stupid and condescending at the same time but I found this obsession to not be fun. So I focused on the things I can do instead of what I can't do anymore. I can stand up. I can talk. I can sing badly but it's fun. I can learn useless facts. I can play with friends. So many things I can do. Always imagine the state when you couldn't. Like being in a wheelchair. And if I was in a wheelchair? I could still do so many things! It could be worse. Stupid saying. But if you really imagine how exactly it could be worse and stay realistic you understand how rich you are. For example: I have a condition where my hips \"fall out\" if I make a wrong move. Hurts like hell. But it could be worse. I could break a hip in that process or get a nerve pinched in. That would suck. So I am glad that again it just fell out and back in and it just hurts. \nMy doc said I'd need a hip replacement by age 35. I'm 36 and no big enough problems in sight. yay! \n\nmy thinking is simply as long as I can still do anything I can live well enough." ]

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[ "How can I view articles from multiple news sources in one page? I have a group of news sources I prefer, but it is such a hassle to have to check 6 different websites everyday. Is there any way to see new articles from multiple websites that I like but all mixed together in one single page/website/app?", "How can I view articles from multiple news sources in one page? I have a group of news sources I prefer, but it is such a hassle to have to check 6 different websites everyday. Is there any way to see new articles from multiple websites that I like but all mixed together in one single page/website/app?", "How can I view articles from multiple news sources in one page? I have a group of news sources I prefer, but it is such a hassle to have to check 6 different websites everyday. Is there any way to see new articles from multiple websites that I like but all mixed together in one single page/website/app?" ]

[ "Yep RSS feeds, you can find feeds for most news outlets and even for sub Reddit’s! (I hate auto correct) \n\nAlso, get a good RSS reader. I use NetNewsWire for IOS (it’s awesome & free).", "Use Rss feeds. You can use free apps / freeware.\nI use inoreader personal in a paid version. But it's a invest for me, because it's saving time", "SmartNews is an app that displays multiple sources, but it sounds like you want an rss news aggregator. There are dozens if not hundreds of them." ]

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