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[ "How to bypass GMail's new splash page? Entering \"gmail.com\" as a URL takes me to a splash page with ads for the gmail app on mobile devices, when what I really want is the page where I type in my username and password.\n\nIt's only one click away, but it's pretty annoying since it used to take me directly to the page where I enter my username and password.", "How to bypass GMail's new splash page? Entering \"gmail.com\" as a URL takes me to a splash page with ads for the gmail app on mobile devices, when what I really want is the page where I type in my username and password.\n\nIt's only one click away, but it's pretty annoying since it used to take me directly to the page where I enter my username and password." ]

[ "Install the extension AdBlock and the extension Last Pass.\n\nNo more Ads and Last Pass automatically logs you right in.\n\nI use Google Chrome as a browser BTW. Very Good - Also Firefox.\n\nThe extension X-Notifier also logs you right in and places a clickable shortcut on the taskbar in Firefox that also checks your mail every so often as you set it for and shows the number of new /unopened emails in your account. Click on the shortcut and a new tab opens right to your gmail account.", "Does bookmarking [this page](https://accounts.google.com/ServiceLogin?service=mail&continue=https://mail.google.com/mail/&hl=en) work for ya?" ]

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[ "How to keep my home entertainment cables tidy? I'm moving into a new place, and every time I do so I try to set up my home entertainment center and keep the cables neat. There's a lot in there - consoles, TV, receiver, network switch, Amazon Fire TV, etc. Eventually everything back there starts looking like a dusty cluster and it's nigh impossible to find/plug/unplug anything in back there. Any tips before I take the plunge?", "How to keep my home entertainment cables tidy? I'm moving into a new place, and every time I do so I try to set up my home entertainment center and keep the cables neat. There's a lot in there - consoles, TV, receiver, network switch, Amazon Fire TV, etc. Eventually everything back there starts looking like a dusty cluster and it's nigh impossible to find/plug/unplug anything in back there. Any tips before I take the plunge?", "How to keep my home entertainment cables tidy? I'm moving into a new place, and every time I do so I try to set up my home entertainment center and keep the cables neat. There's a lot in there - consoles, TV, receiver, network switch, Amazon Fire TV, etc. Eventually everything back there starts looking like a dusty cluster and it's nigh impossible to find/plug/unplug anything in back there. Any tips before I take the plunge?" ]

[ "Start with the shortest cable you can use, for example if you need a 3 feet hdmi cable from your cable box to tv, then a 20ft one shouldn't be used. Buy velcro straps. You can get 100 from amazon for a few dollars. Use these to organize cables in two ways.\n\nUse the shortest length needed to get from the devices to your tv. Then wrap the excess length in a small circle behind your devices, assuming there is a little space behind them. That will help to make a cleaner look. Then take those bundles and velcro them closely together as well.\n\nIf your TV is wall mounted then you can also get special hideaways that mount to the wall and can be painted over to match, but they hide cables well although much more expensive.\n\nYou can also use cable clips to keep them nicely displayed and give the appearence of being organized.", "Use pieces of masking tape to label both ends of your cords so you know what they're for, and use Velcro or zip ties to bundle the loose wires together behind the TV so it's all one large strip and not a tangle. Using the shortest cord you can will also help reduce the amount of excess wires floating around.", "Alrighty, looks like I'll be getting a bunch of velcro cable ties and some shorter cables. I have a labelling machine so I may use that as well. Thanks for the replies!" ]

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[ "Dealing with speaking over people through laggy phone connections. I've been dealing with this recently since I'm job hunting and doing a lot of phone interviews. I'll want to show the other person that I am engaged and listening, so I go \"uh yeah... Yeah!... Cool!\" BUT every time I do, the other person thinks I'm trying to talk, so a half second later they're like,\n\n\"... Oh, go ahead!\" and I'm like\n\n\"No, please, go on.\"\n\nand then sometimes this will go into a viscous cycle of \"I was just gonna say...\" but before they hear that on the other end they've continued talking and it just derails the conversation. What is the best way to deal with this?", "Dealing with speaking over people through laggy phone connections. I've been dealing with this recently since I'm job hunting and doing a lot of phone interviews. I'll want to show the other person that I am engaged and listening, so I go \"uh yeah... Yeah!... Cool!\" BUT every time I do, the other person thinks I'm trying to talk, so a half second later they're like,\n\n\"... Oh, go ahead!\" and I'm like\n\n\"No, please, go on.\"\n\nand then sometimes this will go into a viscous cycle of \"I was just gonna say...\" but before they hear that on the other end they've continued talking and it just derails the conversation. What is the best way to deal with this?", "Dealing with speaking over people through laggy phone connections. I've been dealing with this recently since I'm job hunting and doing a lot of phone interviews. I'll want to show the other person that I am engaged and listening, so I go \"uh yeah... Yeah!... Cool!\" BUT every time I do, the other person thinks I'm trying to talk, so a half second later they're like,\n\n\"... Oh, go ahead!\" and I'm like\n\n\"No, please, go on.\"\n\nand then sometimes this will go into a viscous cycle of \"I was just gonna say...\" but before they hear that on the other end they've continued talking and it just derails the conversation. What is the best way to deal with this?", "Dealing with speaking over people through laggy phone connections. I've been dealing with this recently since I'm job hunting and doing a lot of phone interviews. I'll want to show the other person that I am engaged and listening, so I go \"uh yeah... Yeah!... Cool!\" BUT every time I do, the other person thinks I'm trying to talk, so a half second later they're like,\n\n\"... Oh, go ahead!\" and I'm like\n\n\"No, please, go on.\"\n\nand then sometimes this will go into a viscous cycle of \"I was just gonna say...\" but before they hear that on the other end they've continued talking and it just derails the conversation. What is the best way to deal with this?" ]

[ "Have you considered not using fillers while other people speak, particularly during interviews? If saying \"uh huh\" or \"yeah\" is getting them to pause, then stop doing it. You can still be an active listener without letting people on the other end know that you're listening.", "What you're attempting to do is the equivalent of a head nod when you're in a face-to-face interview, but what actually happens is you end up interrupting the other person. I interview a lot of people over the phone and while I appreciate their intent behind doing this, it's pretty annoying. Show you're attentive by your responses, and questions.", "Nodding a little if it's video. Don't feel the need to talk until it's clear you do. A concise answer will show you've been listening.", "I'm going to give you a technical answer, instead of a behavioral one. The laggy phone connections are worst when both parties are using speakerphone, as this activates echo cancellation, etc. So use a handset or headset if at all possible. In non-interview situations, you can also ask the other party to pick up the handset. Good luck on your job search." ]

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[ "How to get gum out of clothing? I accidentally got gum smeared/stuck on a dress which I believe is made out of polyester. I remember hearing that peanut butter can help in the removal of gum from hair, so I smeared peanut butter on the gum and rubbed it off a few days later. I got most of the gum out, but does anyone have any other tricks I should try to get the last few pieces off? I don't want to wash it until I get all the gum out.\n\nThanks!", "How to get gum out of clothing? I accidentally got gum smeared/stuck on a dress which I believe is made out of polyester. I remember hearing that peanut butter can help in the removal of gum from hair, so I smeared peanut butter on the gum and rubbed it off a few days later. I got most of the gum out, but does anyone have any other tricks I should try to get the last few pieces off? I don't want to wash it until I get all the gum out.\n\nThanks!", "How to get gum out of clothing? I accidentally got gum smeared/stuck on a dress which I believe is made out of polyester. I remember hearing that peanut butter can help in the removal of gum from hair, so I smeared peanut butter on the gum and rubbed it off a few days later. I got most of the gum out, but does anyone have any other tricks I should try to get the last few pieces off? I don't want to wash it until I get all the gum out.\n\nThanks!", "How to get gum out of clothing? I accidentally got gum smeared/stuck on a dress which I believe is made out of polyester. I remember hearing that peanut butter can help in the removal of gum from hair, so I smeared peanut butter on the gum and rubbed it off a few days later. I got most of the gum out, but does anyone have any other tricks I should try to get the last few pieces off? I don't want to wash it until I get all the gum out.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "I heard that if you freeze the material/gum, it will come off easily. I've never tried it, but I know it worked well for a few friends who got gum on their uniforms at school. Can't hurt to try anyway! :) ", "Ice. (Or stick it in the freezer).\n\nPut ice on the gum, it'll freeze and you can easily break it off. :)", "Rubbing peanut-butter into it will disolve the gum.\nI've only done that when I get gum in my hair, so I'm not sure if the oils will fuck up your clothes.", "Every time that's happened to me or someone I know, the thing that's worked the best was wetting a paper towel with really hot water and rubbing the gum. It comes right off." ]

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[ "how to not get defensive when someone is teasing or critiquing you. I work in the medical field. People have a dark twisted sense of humor that I love, however, when I am in the ER and someone starts poking or teasing me, I am already in an elevated state keeping up with everything, and respond defensively instead of going along with it. I also notice that I do this when people ask for my rationale or reasoning with things. Is there a mantra or thought process that you guys have in these instances that I can utilize so that I don't jump the gun? Any help would be appreciated!", "how to not get defensive when someone is teasing or critiquing you. I work in the medical field. People have a dark twisted sense of humor that I love, however, when I am in the ER and someone starts poking or teasing me, I am already in an elevated state keeping up with everything, and respond defensively instead of going along with it. I also notice that I do this when people ask for my rationale or reasoning with things. Is there a mantra or thought process that you guys have in these instances that I can utilize so that I don't jump the gun? Any help would be appreciated!", "how to not get defensive when someone is teasing or critiquing you. I work in the medical field. People have a dark twisted sense of humor that I love, however, when I am in the ER and someone starts poking or teasing me, I am already in an elevated state keeping up with everything, and respond defensively instead of going along with it. I also notice that I do this when people ask for my rationale or reasoning with things. Is there a mantra or thought process that you guys have in these instances that I can utilize so that I don't jump the gun? Any help would be appreciated!" ]

[ "You need to truly believe the philosophy that everything is a learning experience, this way things will be experienced more neutrally than emotionally.\n\nPersonally, I find any other activity that gets your heart rate up and down frequently - running, for me - works wonders for emotional processing and regulation. If you're used to moving from a high state of arousal to baseline, it will eventually transfer over to other aspects of your life.\n\nSpeak softer and quieter than you normally do when you feel the emotion/arousal rising, breathe slowly and deeply, and talk slower so you aren't impulsively responding. \n\nThe first step is acknowledging that you do this, so the rest will be cake!", "Character Voices. If you reply in another accent or an impression of someone then u can get away with even the rudest comebacks.", "It depends if they're offering constructive criticism. If it's not helpful, then just assertively tell them \"Not now.\" You may have to listen carefully to tell the difference between helpful and worthless ribbing." ]

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[ "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n", "Ask girlfriend for some space to do own things Recently moved into a studio apartment with my girlfriend and she doesn't work or study so she is constantly at home.\n\nI work all week and when I come home she's always sitting watching tv and hasn't done anything and now my nights just consist of watching dull TV for hours on end until we go to bed.\n\nIs there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nIf I ever bring it up that I want to play a game she goes moody which in turns makes the time crap so I just turn it off and we go back to watching TV so she isn't moody with me about it..\n\nWhat's the best way to suggest I want to do my own stuff for a few hours each week or so?\n\n" ]

[ "Tell her exactly this. If she gets moody or tries to guilt trip you - ya'll have bigger issues. Also it sounds like you feel like you're in a rut. On top of suggesting ya'll sometimes do your own things, maybe also suggest you can both try new things to do as a couple.", "This is not a weird request. Tell her that you need a few hours to yourself each week to decompress from work or whatever. If she gets pissy, ask her why she gets upset at the thought of not spending time together. Also, tell her to get a fucking job; why is she mooching off your ass? ", "Delivery matters, as does how secure she feels in her importance to you. \n\nIn general, be sure to show you love her and appreciate her. Not just when you want alone time, but all the time. Many women need to hear things and see things. Many men think once something is said it's a given until told otherwise. Your lady may fit in the women's category, so it's good to make sure she knows her role in your life. \n\nWhen you want alone time just be careful in your delivery. Don't sigh heavily and walk away. Don't become less and less responsive until you can leave. Don't pay her zero attention. Instead spend that bit of time together, show her a bit of affection, then say something like \"I need some recharge time, I'll be right over there if you need me.\" It also helps if you add a reconnect event, maybe \"could you get this show or movie ready so we can watch it before bed?\" \n\nAnd be very careful here! Your true problem isn't actually with her. She just wants to spend time with you, she loves you, these are good things. You don't want time alone to get away from her. She won't understand that unless you are clear about it. Don't say you need time away from her, only talk about how you need to recharge from people in general. Maybe even reassure her that she doesn't sap energy from you, so she has a special role, but you still need some time to recharge. \n\nSorry I'm so wordy here I went through this with my SO recently so it's all fresh. (although in my case I'm the lady)", "Just do your own thing, don't ask permission. For example when you come home, perhaps sit with her for an hour, have dinner together, then say All right I'm going to the gym/to play video games/hang out with friends or whatever, and then just go. If she wants to act stank about it, that's on her. Be frank with her, she needs to understand that you will not allow her to manipulate your actions by her moods and also you do not want to live a boring life just sitting around watching TV.\n\nAlso encourage her to get a job. Sitting around all day, passively watching TV is not good. She needs to be doing something and/or learning something. She needs to become physically active as well. ", "A long time ago I was in a relationship very similar to that. The likelihood of this being a good relationship is very small.\n\n If two people do not have good independent lives to share with each other , the dependency of one person will drag the whole relationship down", "Tell her \"Now that we've broken up, we should do separate things.\" \n\nOnly catch is you have to break up with her first. That shouldn't be very difficult, though, as it's obviously the right move.", "She needs to understand that you need to wind down after work. I know a lot of people develop a form of depression when they don't do anything. Sitting at home watching tv all day can do a lot of negative things to your emotions (which could be the reason why she gets moody). I suggest you find a way to tell her nicely that she needs to find a job/hobby outside of the house. You can explain to her that she has several hours to watch her shows while you're at work, and now it's your turn. \n\n...\n\nOr buy another TV", "Say no way, so no wayyyayyyy no wayyyyyyyyyyyy now now why don't you get a job. \n\n\nSing the offspring to her. She needs a hobby other thank annoying your ass", "Why isn't she looking for a job 8 hours a day?\n\nYou have a much larger problem than her getting pissy when you want to do something without her. ", "The real question you have to ask yourself is do you want to be with someone who just sits at home all day? She must have some goals in life", "If she doesn't like it she can hit the bricks. Did you move in with your girlfriend or did you move in with a younger version of your mother? \n\nI dealt with the exact same thing a couple of years ago. My girl moved in with me and she wasn't working and doesn't have any hobbies to speak of. She watched tv and was attached to her phone all day. When I got home from work I'd fire up my pc and play some games, talk to friends, etc.\n\nShe would get pissy every time until one night she threw a tantrum, I called her parents, and a cab. I told her you are leaving, end of discussion. She tried as hard as possible to guilt trip the whole way, but it didn't work. Even her dad agreed with me in the situation and he hated my guts. \n\nIf your mate can't respect you wanting to relax in your own home then they need to GTFO. ", "There are a few things people have already mentioned that are good. Like saying what you said in your opening post to her, but make sure you use \"I\" statements (When you do X, I feel Y because Z) and always bring it back around to yourself and your feelings. Also doing things together as a couple is great, but have you considered getting in touch with any of her friends or siblings if she has any and is in a close relationship with them? Having them invite your girlfriend out for an activity takes the pressure off you and gives her time to bond and relax with her platonic friends. \n\nAs a side note of activities you can do together, I would recommend looking up volunteer opportunities in your area. It gets you both out of the house, and helping people just feels nice. ", "So why are you shacking up with a slacker/eater? Why don't you think you deserve better treatment?\n\nLook forward into the future and imagine coming home to a dirty house and a wife who has done nothing all day except watch TV. Is this the life you want for yourself?", "Just like everyone else says - talk to her. If being civil and expressing concerns like a rational human being doesn't work, bitch is crazy, hit the gym.", "> Is there anyway I can suggest to her we do our own thing? Like play some games, go on the laptop, whatever it may be.\n\nYou should be able to just say this. A reasonable partner would understand. \n\nMy husband plays video games / tabletop roleplaying games regularly, and it's fine as long as (a) he does all his chores and (b) we spend enough time together. But early in the relationship, we did have to negotiate when he would do it. For example, he wanted downtime after dinner, but I often wanted to spend time with him after dinner. So now he either gets his alone time before dinner, or after we have dinner together and spend some couple-time together. Or he does it on the weekends, when I take a nap or do my own thing.\n\nIf she's not okay with it, you need to figure out why. It can be an incompatibility. It could be she's not getting enough focused attention from you (for example, because you're tired and not really engaged when you come home, which is perfectly understandable). It could be that she needs to go hang out with friends more, since she's not getting her normal school socialization.", "You don't need a LPT you need basic communication and intimate relationship skills. Don't be too hard on yourself - most people learn those only after it's too late, myself included. The only way to get better is to practice though, so just be honest with her aboutbhow you feel. Stick to \"I\" statements. Stay away from \"you\" and \"we\" statements. Good luck!", "Yeah this is kinda messed up, if shes at home watching tv all day she should be nice enough to let you do your thing when you get home. She isnt having to do work she just has to be without tv while you play games. Doesnt seem like a big deal. Its frustrating but maybe you need to stick up for yourself more and just let her be moody? If shes just sitting around watching you play video games maybe invite her to play a game with you or suggest she do something instead to fill the time.", "My gf now works but she was unemployed for a while. Mom had died but she was applying for jobs. She had no friends so I took her to the bar and made her talk to people. She has a job and is tired from going to the bar to sing karaoke and hanging out at friends house. So yeah, dishes and housework never get done now and all it took was patience and slight nudging ", "It's possible she may be depressed. There may be serious issues behind her lack of motivation. Perhaps she should be encouraged to talk to a counsellor?", "I'm currently recovering from a drug habit and I haven't been feeling the greatest physically, emotionally and mentally and I'm in a long term relationship too. My BF went through treatment awhile ago and is past the whole recovering thing for the most part so he wants to go out and do stuff and be active while I'm just kind of in a state of \"depression\" (never been clinically diagnosed so I put it in quotations because I don't want to offend fanyone who really is clinically depressed) and don't really want to do anything at the moment (life's been rather shitty for me lately) and we recently went through something very similar to what you described (im also unemployed but on unemployment so im in no way financially dependent on him either as some comments think your GF may be doing to you)... In general my BF likes to be active, like going out and doing stuff too so he used to get really moody with me and we'd iend up fighting if he felt like staying in with me was too boring or a waste of time but we had a productive conversation recently about it and I told him im just not in a good place right now and he needs to cut me some slack (which he fully can relate to as he's been in my position) and he agreed and we've come to agreement that he can invite me out while he does stuff, such as fishing or hanging out at a friend's house but im in no way obligated to go if im not feeling up to it... our relationship has gotten so much better from that point on, i appreciate when he invited me to do stuff and actually try to go along when I'm feeling okay and he doesn't feel as smothered and forced to stay in with me. I'd say just be really kind and understanding when you bring this up to her and give her the option of joining you if you need to get out of your place (and wouldn't mind her joining you) but don't force her or act like she's bringing you down in life. We all get one life to live so we all should live it the way we'd like- this goes for both you and her :)", "I don't know the circumstances for her not doing anything in the day but might I suggest she get a hobby or maybe start her career. I think she may get lonely during the day and she sees that as her time to be with someone(when you get home). Maybe set aside a weekend and expand your friendship circle to include more people that lets say do night shifts and are free during the day. As for the do things apart, just sit down with her and talk about the matter, no tv no music or distractions just you and her talking about what you want to do and how to resolve any issues which arise from you doing stuff apart. ", "How you say anything about this to her is 100x more important than what you say. Also, whatever you do say, stick to one point! Short and simple like, \"Gf, I love you very much, after work I need to decompress for half an hour by doing x and then we can go do y.\" Anything more and she'll have lots of things to roll around in her brain for her to twist into anything she wants it to mean. There's basically no way to get around her being offended at you even suggesting you need to have some time to decompress after work. What I'm saying is you're about to whack a hornets nest with a stick so prepare for the worst. I'm assuming you guys are young so this has the makings of being a painful learning experience for you both. Please let us know how it goes.", "Hombre, I'm gonna be real with you. You decided to move into a studio apartment with a girl who doesn't work or study. You want her to change? How bout don't move in with girls like that, or even better, don't move in with any woman you are not set on marrying. Be a man and take responsibility for your life. Dump her. Move out. Take control and stop complaining. Your life is yours to make and you made this bed.", "Free time (not school, work,...) is broken down into three parts: He time, She time and We time. \n\nAt this moment, you have NO \"He time\" and she gets way too much \"She time\". ", "For most people, having alone time is required for a relationship to work. You are both individuals and when couples ignore that fact and try to do everything the same it usually doesn't end well.\n\nYou enjoy doing things other than watching TV, and she should want you to do things that you enjoy doing. If she wants you to stop doing something you enjoy to stay stuck to her, that's a separate problem. Make an effort to do things together you both enjoy. For example: You mentioned \"dull\" TV, find shows you both enjoy and only watch them together. I'd also recommend encouraging her to do things she enjoys on her own, especially during her off time..\n\nIn the end you both just want each other to be happy, and that it the important thing. It takes time and communication to find the right balance of \"I do this, you do that, and we do this together\". ", "Find some things you can do together (cooking nice meals, going out to a movie every now and again, catching Pokemon, whatever floats your boat), and identify some things you would like to do on your own (read a book, play some video games, go for a walk, etc.).\n\nThen be clear and up front about it: you would like to spend quality time with her, doing things you both enjoy (the first list); but you would also like to spend some time doing the things you enjoy on your own (the second list). Talk about times that are appropriate for each, and when you would enjoy them most. Make sure this is about what she would like to do together and on her own too. This isn't just about you, but it can't just be about her either.\n\nYour relationship is going to be very difficult in the long run if you both can't learn to effectively communicate your needs and wants without someone getting \"moody\" about it. Good luck.", "this relationship sounds toxic to me. im thinking you should probably re-evaluate what you are getting out of it because it sounds like you are being controlled/trained.", "Why would you move into a studio apartment with a girlfriend you don't even get along with? Sheesh, kids these days.", "Not the exact same situation, but my girlfriend and I very much have this understanding. I am much more of an introvert than she is, and I just need a night to myself to watch a movie and decompress from the week. We have talked about this and how I feel \"overwhelmed\" when I don't have time to myself (even when I am with her, the love of my life). She has been super understanding and is never jealous or anything that I choose to spend time not with her. My advice to you would to discuss doing things on your own and then also talk about why you want this, that really helped us with this issue. Also as others have suggested, bring something to the table you can do as a couple. For instance my GF and I get together and cook dinner together and curl up together and watch a movie on Friday nights (I know it does not sound like much, but we really enjoy it) and then Saturday night I spend by myself. ", "If she's always getting moody because you want your own space or even because you're not doing what she wants, then you both need to sit down and have a long talk because there's clearly a problem with the relationship.", "Possibly suggest that conversations would be more interesting if you had unique things to discuss.\n\nShe probably doesn't wanna hear all about work everyday- you don't really want to discuss a tv show you're literally watching at the same time.\n\nEncourage her to pursue a hobby without you present because you want quality time with her, not just quantity.", "Like you said boss, she's been sitting at home all day, probably looking forward to your attention, and time together. Don't completely shut her out of that ya know? Maybe set up a schedule and see what she thinks? Take her out one night to get two nights to yourself. Life is about those compromises ", "So you come home and instead of wanting to do something with her (even watch TV) you want to do something by yourself? Do you even like this girl? This sounds like more of a roommate fight than a relationship fight. You have a bigger issue than wanting to play video games--you don't want to spend time with her and she doesn't want to spend time away from you.\n\nI'd suggest finding an activity you both like to engage in. If you aren't into TV, tell her that and FIND something else. Don't just tell her you don't like TV, so you are going to play video games (which she doesn't like)." ]

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I sometimes try a piece of toilet roll or the corner of a business card but even so these aren't always readily available and lack the dexterity to get really stuck pieces of vegetables etc...!\n\nAny tips?", "Best way to get food out of your teeth without a toothbrush/toothpick handy? Is there a next best tool that's likely to be handy for getting food out from between your teeth when you don't happen to have a toothbrush/toothpick handy?\n\nMy fingernails don't always cut it as they're usually quite short/rounded. I sometimes try a piece of toilet roll or the corner of a business card but even so these aren't always readily available and lack the dexterity to get really stuck pieces of vegetables etc...!\n\nAny tips?", "Best way to get food out of your teeth without a toothbrush/toothpick handy? Is there a next best tool that's likely to be handy for getting food out from between your teeth when you don't happen to have a toothbrush/toothpick handy?\n\nMy fingernails don't always cut it as they're usually quite short/rounded. I sometimes try a piece of toilet roll or the corner of a business card but even so these aren't always readily available and lack the dexterity to get really stuck pieces of vegetables etc...!\n\nAny tips?", "Best way to get food out of your teeth without a toothbrush/toothpick handy? Is there a next best tool that's likely to be handy for getting food out from between your teeth when you don't happen to have a toothbrush/toothpick handy?\n\nMy fingernails don't always cut it as they're usually quite short/rounded. I sometimes try a piece of toilet roll or the corner of a business card but even so these aren't always readily available and lack the dexterity to get really stuck pieces of vegetables etc...!\n\nAny tips?" ]

[ "I rip a corner of a piece of paper and fold it in half a few times (making smaller and smaller pieces of pie) until there's a good point and it is pretty firm. Instant tooth pick. ", "My boyfriend uses plastic shopping bags after every meal even though I keep the cabinet stocked with floss picks. ", "I am ashamed to say this but post-it notes. they are the perfect width and you can fold them to make them thicker as needed. ", "Mine dentist uses [these](http://www.amazon.com/FLOSSCARD-Dental-Cr", "Lets ignore the all the bacteria risks from the following items and just say they build immunities. In a jam, a receipt, piece of a plastic bag, or the new polymer bills work fantastic. ", "paper folded a few times into a sharp edge works well as a toothpick. for floss, use plastic grocery bags, they work very well. Tear off a piece, and stretch it out into a nice thin ribbon. Be careful as the quality of bags vary, and I have had plastic get caught in my teeth before, which is unpleasant.", "[Victorinox Swiss Card](http://www.victorinox.com/global/en/Products/Swiss-Army-Knives/SwissCards/SwissCard/p/0.7100.T)", "The natural solution seems to be to find a floss substitute. I have learned, however, that this is not the best approach.\n\nTo remove food that is stuck between your teeth, use your fingernail to force the two teeth apart slightly. Then use your tongue to remove the food.", "Rinse. \n\nFill half of your mouth with water, rinse the shit out!\nHas been extremely effective for me.", "I use business cards sometimes. Or a string from my sock. Generally I just keep some small flossers at my desk and in my car for these problems.", "I use a napkin or paper towel. Not to floss with. Rather to sandwich my teeth and therefore the stuck piece of meat or what have you, and pull it out. The dry material tends to grip whatever is stuck and will usually pull it right out. \n\nWoks for me most of the time. ", "I take a piece of scotch tape and fold it a couple times and use it as a pick between the teeth. Make sure you don't lead with a serrated edge or else you end up with a thin piece of tape stuck between your teeth. ", "Guy who previously had braces here and had to come up with ways to make toothpicks on the fly (in retrospect, why didn't I just carry some toothpicks with me?).\n\n1) Fold a piece of paper a few times at an angle to make it firm and use the point you created as the pick, very effective.\n\n2) Paper-clip, self-explanatory\n\n3) Depending on where you got the food, many food bags are good at being thin enough to get between teeth, while not being terrifyingly-papercut-inducing and you can slide it carefully between your teeth to remove the food. Also, if you have a cardboard container, those are very good as well.\n\n\nGood luck!", "1. Chewing Gum. Sometime I have to chew a larger piece than normal but it works. How it removes the bites above the bite line is beyond my understanding though.\n\n2. Doesn't everyone have swiss army knife with a tooth pick?" ]

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[ "How to keep your work Outlook mailbox organized I can't seem to get started on this...I'm getting more and more emails and it's a lot of work to keep filing under new folders (and finding emails if they're not archived). Any good organizing or automation tips?", "How to keep your work Outlook mailbox organized I can't seem to get started on this...I'm getting more and more emails and it's a lot of work to keep filing under new folders (and finding emails if they're not archived). Any good organizing or automation tips?", "How to keep your work Outlook mailbox organized I can't seem to get started on this...I'm getting more and more emails and it's a lot of work to keep filing under new folders (and finding emails if they're not archived). Any good organizing or automation tips?", "How to keep your work Outlook mailbox organized I can't seem to get started on this...I'm getting more and more emails and it's a lot of work to keep filing under new folders (and finding emails if they're not archived). Any good organizing or automation tips?", "How to keep your work Outlook mailbox organized I can't seem to get started on this...I'm getting more and more emails and it's a lot of work to keep filing under new folders (and finding emails if they're not archived). Any good organizing or automation tips?", "How to keep your work Outlook mailbox organized I can't seem to get started on this...I'm getting more and more emails and it's a lot of work to keep filing under new folders (and finding emails if they're not archived). Any good organizing or automation tips?" ]

[ "Couple of things:\n\n1. Don't use your inbox/Outlook as a todo list/archive. Use the correct tools (ie a Todo list manager such as Wunderlist, and something like Evernote/OneNote for archiving).\n\n2. Do some research into \"Inbox Zero\". Try and keep your inbox empty as much as possible.\n\n3. I work with a system where I have my inbox and three other folders only: Follow Up, Hold and Archive.\n\nWhen I receive an email (or more accurately, when I process my email at fixed points of the day - get out of the habit of checking/responding as soon as you get an email. In fact, turn off your notifications if you feel you're getting overwhelmed), I quickly 'triage' the email, spending no more than 5-10 seconds browsing and deciding what I need to do with it. If it's something I need to respond to or action, I move it to the \"Follow Up\" folder. If the email contains some information I'll need later (ie dial in details to a conference call), then it gets moved to the Hold folder for easy access. If it's something that I think I might need at some point in the future, it gets moved to the Archive folder. All other email gets deleted. You have to be pretty disciplined to do this, but I find it works for me. Once I've triaged, then at a fixed point, I'll action all the \"follow up\" emails.\n\nI'm working on moving \"follow up\" emails to Wunderlist to track there, and my hold/archive emails are slowly being transitioned to Evernote. I work with Airmail 2 on the Mac and they have nice integrations into these applications. Your mileage may vary with Outlook.\n\n", "1) Use categories and cateogorize everything instantly (lets you put multiple labels on things)\n\n2) Delete more move emails the instant you read them if they're not actionable. Keep your inbox small and limited to immediate things you need to handle.\n\n3) Lots of folders, but also keep them organized well.", "Ok something I can actually help you with.\n1. Create another inbox on your local server which will help you keep all mails even if they get auto deleted from the default inbox.\n2. As soon as you get emails, don't read them..instead first copy them to your local inbox. Them tick all the new emails in the default inbox. This will help you remember if you have copied them to local folder or not.\n3. Now go to you local inbox and start looking through your mails. There will be a few which do not require any action from you. Just tick them and move (not copy) them to a folder names something as 'completed'. Thus keeping only those emails in the default inbox which require your action. Flag them all for the day. As and when you keep finishing the task..tick them and move them to completed.", "Inbox Zero should give you some ideas. Here are my tips.\n\nAll mail in my inbox goes into one of the following:\n\n* action pending\n* archive\n* read ( or trash, nothing important in here, will probably delete anything older than 30 days)\n\nI only reply to things in Action Pending, then I move the message to another folder if appropriate:\n\n* action pending\n * done\n\nIf there is something important in the email, I might move it to the archive.\n\nArchive has as many sub folders as I want. I have folders for each project, HR stuff, events, etc.\n\nThe thing I need to get better at is just deleting things, the 'read' folder was my lame way of not deleting things.", "For important projects that require a lot of tracking I would open then up as a address contact. \n\nWithin the project contact notes I would link to my emails, add attachments, and write notes on what was completed and when. ", "Check out [this guide](https://support.office.com/en-us/article/Best-practices-for-Outlook-2010-f90e5f69-8832-4d89-95b3-bfdf76c82ef8)" ]

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[ "Any know how to keep board game boards from getting bent? I'm specifically talking about my Settlers of Catan board pieces. They don't fit together as well when it's all bent :(", "Any know how to keep board game boards from getting bent? I'm specifically talking about my Settlers of Catan board pieces. They don't fit together as well when it's all bent :(", "Any know how to keep board game boards from getting bent? I'm specifically talking about my Settlers of Catan board pieces. They don't fit together as well when it's all bent :(", "Any know how to keep board game boards from getting bent? I'm specifically talking about my Settlers of Catan board pieces. They don't fit together as well when it's all bent :(" ]

[ "I kept having this same problem! I was travelling around with my Settlers game in a plastic bag (to save space in my suitcase), but when I took it out the edge pieces had a slight bend to them which made it hard for the board to stay together. \n\nSolution: Stack the edge pieces in an alternating pattern. One right side up with the ports showing, then the next upside down with the sea showing. Repeat this pattern with all the tiles. It helps correct any slight bending already done to the board too!\n", "Don't bend them. Or [this](http://www.krylon.com/products/clear_polyurethane_coating/) for further prevention and prevention against spills, which is the death of a game board. ", "http://www.tinysci.com/2010/07/04/the-settlers-of-catan-something-completely-different/\n\nOr put a peice of plexiglass over it or real glass. \n", "Use a rubber mallet when your are building the board to get the pieces to stay together. Also flattens th edges." ]

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[ "Where is the best place to get your oil changed short of doing it yourself? I've seen and heard comments (and also experienced) how places like JiffyLube and other quick service oil places are unreliable, under-trained, overpriced, and use high-pressure sales tactics. I regularly go to JiffyLube but dread the up-selling they do while I am there.\nOn the other hand dealerships tend to take forever to do even the smallest routine maintenance and cost a ridiculous amount of money. \n\nMy question is where the \"best\" places are to get your vehicle's oil changed? By best I mean low-pressure, reasonably priced, and reasonably quick. Also, I don't want to change my oil myself. ", "Where is the best place to get your oil changed short of doing it yourself? I've seen and heard comments (and also experienced) how places like JiffyLube and other quick service oil places are unreliable, under-trained, overpriced, and use high-pressure sales tactics. I regularly go to JiffyLube but dread the up-selling they do while I am there.\nOn the other hand dealerships tend to take forever to do even the smallest routine maintenance and cost a ridiculous amount of money. \n\nMy question is where the \"best\" places are to get your vehicle's oil changed? By best I mean low-pressure, reasonably priced, and reasonably quick. Also, I don't want to change my oil myself. ", "Where is the best place to get your oil changed short of doing it yourself? I've seen and heard comments (and also experienced) how places like JiffyLube and other quick service oil places are unreliable, under-trained, overpriced, and use high-pressure sales tactics. I regularly go to JiffyLube but dread the up-selling they do while I am there.\nOn the other hand dealerships tend to take forever to do even the smallest routine maintenance and cost a ridiculous amount of money. \n\nMy question is where the \"best\" places are to get your vehicle's oil changed? By best I mean low-pressure, reasonably priced, and reasonably quick. Also, I don't want to change my oil myself. ", "Where is the best place to get your oil changed short of doing it yourself? I've seen and heard comments (and also experienced) how places like JiffyLube and other quick service oil places are unreliable, under-trained, overpriced, and use high-pressure sales tactics. I regularly go to JiffyLube but dread the up-selling they do while I am there.\nOn the other hand dealerships tend to take forever to do even the smallest routine maintenance and cost a ridiculous amount of money. \n\nMy question is where the \"best\" places are to get your vehicle's oil changed? By best I mean low-pressure, reasonably priced, and reasonably quick. Also, I don't want to change my oil myself. ", "Where is the best place to get your oil changed short of doing it yourself? I've seen and heard comments (and also experienced) how places like JiffyLube and other quick service oil places are unreliable, under-trained, overpriced, and use high-pressure sales tactics. I regularly go to JiffyLube but dread the up-selling they do while I am there.\nOn the other hand dealerships tend to take forever to do even the smallest routine maintenance and cost a ridiculous amount of money. \n\nMy question is where the \"best\" places are to get your vehicle's oil changed? By best I mean low-pressure, reasonably priced, and reasonably quick. Also, I don't want to change my oil myself. ", "Where is the best place to get your oil changed short of doing it yourself? I've seen and heard comments (and also experienced) how places like JiffyLube and other quick service oil places are unreliable, under-trained, overpriced, and use high-pressure sales tactics. I regularly go to JiffyLube but dread the up-selling they do while I am there.\nOn the other hand dealerships tend to take forever to do even the smallest routine maintenance and cost a ridiculous amount of money. \n\nMy question is where the \"best\" places are to get your vehicle's oil changed? By best I mean low-pressure, reasonably priced, and reasonably quick. Also, I don't want to change my oil myself. ", "Where is the best place to get your oil changed short of doing it yourself? I've seen and heard comments (and also experienced) how places like JiffyLube and other quick service oil places are unreliable, under-trained, overpriced, and use high-pressure sales tactics. I regularly go to JiffyLube but dread the up-selling they do while I am there.\nOn the other hand dealerships tend to take forever to do even the smallest routine maintenance and cost a ridiculous amount of money. \n\nMy question is where the \"best\" places are to get your vehicle's oil changed? By best I mean low-pressure, reasonably priced, and reasonably quick. Also, I don't want to change my oil myself. " ]

[ "I always go with the dealer. Check with them to see if they offer coupons. I know mine does and it usually comes out to $30 for an oil change + (exterior) car wash.", "We either go to Toyota, or Walmart.. If we need tire stuff too, we'll go to Big-O or somewhere tire-centric. But we use synthetic so it's always going to be more expensive for us. At Walmart you don't need appointments.", "There's a local-ish outfit called Fast Traxx near me that I like. I've had the guy pull out my air filter and say \"mmm, looks OK for now, we'll check it again next time you're in.\"", "I've never had any complaint about Jiffy Lube. I like their top off service where they'll add oil free between changes. My car burns oil and I regularly get a quart or more free when I stop for a top off", "I've always had good experiences at Precision Tune. I've been to a few different ones and they're really good. They'll give your car a pretty thorough look, and will tell you what you need and what you don't. I had some squeaky brake pads at one point, so I assumed I needed new pads. I didn't, so they called me and said they put some anti-squeak on them and I was good to go.\n\nOne of the things I really like about them is that they're one of the few places that will let you bring your own parts. It's often a lot cheaper for you to run to Advanced Auto and bring them whatever, rather than AA deliver the part and the shop upcharge you for it. ", "Honestly, ask around to see who is a reliable local mechanic in your area. A reliable independent shop will typically give you the best service to keep you as a customer, and in my opinion has been worth paying $2-$5 more.\n\nWe have 2 cars and are in there about every 4 months. My mechanic knows my name, knows my cars, and has never done me wrong.", "Find a local mechanic with a good reputation and stick with them. My local, family owned auto repair shop, sends me $25 gift cards all the time just for being a regular customer. \n\nYou can also always buy your own oil and filter, and the actual labor will run about $10. I'd feel guilty for only paying them $10 and not letting them make any money off the parts, but I let them do all my other work and repairs so I doubt it's secretly a point of contention for them. " ]

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[ "I have to leave full garbage bags outside until pick-up day. This causes maggots in the hot weather. Looking for a tip on how to keep the maggots away. Our \"garbage night\" is once a week. When our bags are full, we take them out behind our house and keep them in a large garbage can until pickup. \n\nKeeping the bags in the house is not an option, especially with nasty diapers from my 2 year old.\n\nIn the summer, when I go out to remove the bags, I am often met with thousands of maggots that have formed due to the heat. \n\nAny tips on keeping these things away?", "I have to leave full garbage bags outside until pick-up day. This causes maggots in the hot weather. Looking for a tip on how to keep the maggots away. Our \"garbage night\" is once a week. When our bags are full, we take them out behind our house and keep them in a large garbage can until pickup. \n\nKeeping the bags in the house is not an option, especially with nasty diapers from my 2 year old.\n\nIn the summer, when I go out to remove the bags, I am often met with thousands of maggots that have formed due to the heat. \n\nAny tips on keeping these things away?", "I have to leave full garbage bags outside until pick-up day. This causes maggots in the hot weather. Looking for a tip on how to keep the maggots away. Our \"garbage night\" is once a week. When our bags are full, we take them out behind our house and keep them in a large garbage can until pickup. \n\nKeeping the bags in the house is not an option, especially with nasty diapers from my 2 year old.\n\nIn the summer, when I go out to remove the bags, I am often met with thousands of maggots that have formed due to the heat. \n\nAny tips on keeping these things away?", "I have to leave full garbage bags outside until pick-up day. This causes maggots in the hot weather. Looking for a tip on how to keep the maggots away. Our \"garbage night\" is once a week. When our bags are full, we take them out behind our house and keep them in a large garbage can until pickup. \n\nKeeping the bags in the house is not an option, especially with nasty diapers from my 2 year old.\n\nIn the summer, when I go out to remove the bags, I am often met with thousands of maggots that have formed due to the heat. \n\nAny tips on keeping these things away?", "I have to leave full garbage bags outside until pick-up day. This causes maggots in the hot weather. Looking for a tip on how to keep the maggots away. Our \"garbage night\" is once a week. When our bags are full, we take them out behind our house and keep them in a large garbage can until pickup. \n\nKeeping the bags in the house is not an option, especially with nasty diapers from my 2 year old.\n\nIn the summer, when I go out to remove the bags, I am often met with thousands of maggots that have formed due to the heat. \n\nAny tips on keeping these things away?" ]

[ "The maggots aren't forming because of the heat, they are hatching out of eggs that flies are laying on your garbage. Those maggots will only proliferate if they have a food source, so making sure your bags are sealed and your trash cans are clean is a good first step. Hose out the cans, tie the tops of the bags shut and make sure the lid stays on the garbage can. ", "The main food source for maggots is rotting meat. Keep all meat scraps in a bag in your freezer until the night you put the garbage out. This will prevent the meat from rotting outside and will have no odor. ", "why do you have seperate cans to temporarily store the trash in while waiting for trash day? why not just put the cans out where the trash gets picked up, and let the garpabe people deal with the maggots?\n\nor, you know, maybe get a can with an air-tight lid, so flies won't get in and lay eggs?", "Well I'm not sure if this will help with the maggots or not (you never know), but I still think its really important to clean things like your trash can about once every 6 months. As for the maggot problem, I would suggest once per month during the times that the maggots seem to appear the most. As well as tying the bags as tight as possible, and using a lid. \n\nEither way though, its good to clean it with soap and water and a scrub brush every once in a while. My mom hasn't cleaned her outdoor trash can in two years... It smells worse than the giant dumpster outside of a restaurant would. And you would not believe the NASTY things that grow in their. Luckily for us, we just have to move it to the end of the driveway vs having to carry all the bags out. ", "I suggest this so often, but really, not an employee or stockholder, just a happy user. Amazon, Suspend SC. You will be buying enough for years of use, so while the initial cost is high I find it economical. I use a garden sprayer and wet coat the inside of the outdoors bins (ours have lids, which I also spray. Flies get dead fast. No flies.no maggots. Read up on the stuff, make up your own mind." ]

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[ "I feel like everyone is leaving the office I work in. And I'm scared. So, I've entered this company in late April to work as an hotel account manager. Since I had already 3 years of experience on this roll, the adapting process went pretty smoothly at the beggining. Mainly due to the size of the company (it manages over 3000 hotels all around the world), I felt confortable, and the company provides everything we need in order to do our job in the best way possible.\n\nBut since July, some strange things have happened. At our office (which is just a \"secondary\" one, compared to our headquarters in Spain), we are ten. Our director, two sales managers, one operations manager, two executives, and the rest of us are account managers. And in the past 3 months, both our sales managers, one account manager and one executive have left the company, on their own free will.\n\nWhich leaves me to wonder: is there something off or particularly wrong with the company, that makes people with solid paychecks and a background of at least 6 years on the job, just leave it, all of a sudden? I'm feeling a little scared, and I may start looking actively for other options. Am I overthinking it? Should I try to seize this oportunity to grow within the company? Or are these \"low blows\" enough to question my position?\n\n", "I feel like everyone is leaving the office I work in. And I'm scared. So, I've entered this company in late April to work as an hotel account manager. Since I had already 3 years of experience on this roll, the adapting process went pretty smoothly at the beggining. Mainly due to the size of the company (it manages over 3000 hotels all around the world), I felt confortable, and the company provides everything we need in order to do our job in the best way possible.\n\nBut since July, some strange things have happened. At our office (which is just a \"secondary\" one, compared to our headquarters in Spain), we are ten. Our director, two sales managers, one operations manager, two executives, and the rest of us are account managers. And in the past 3 months, both our sales managers, one account manager and one executive have left the company, on their own free will.\n\nWhich leaves me to wonder: is there something off or particularly wrong with the company, that makes people with solid paychecks and a background of at least 6 years on the job, just leave it, all of a sudden? I'm feeling a little scared, and I may start looking actively for other options. Am I overthinking it? Should I try to seize this oportunity to grow within the company? Or are these \"low blows\" enough to question my position?\n\n", "I feel like everyone is leaving the office I work in. And I'm scared. So, I've entered this company in late April to work as an hotel account manager. Since I had already 3 years of experience on this roll, the adapting process went pretty smoothly at the beggining. Mainly due to the size of the company (it manages over 3000 hotels all around the world), I felt confortable, and the company provides everything we need in order to do our job in the best way possible.\n\nBut since July, some strange things have happened. At our office (which is just a \"secondary\" one, compared to our headquarters in Spain), we are ten. Our director, two sales managers, one operations manager, two executives, and the rest of us are account managers. And in the past 3 months, both our sales managers, one account manager and one executive have left the company, on their own free will.\n\nWhich leaves me to wonder: is there something off or particularly wrong with the company, that makes people with solid paychecks and a background of at least 6 years on the job, just leave it, all of a sudden? I'm feeling a little scared, and I may start looking actively for other options. Am I overthinking it? Should I try to seize this oportunity to grow within the company? Or are these \"low blows\" enough to question my position?\n\n", "I feel like everyone is leaving the office I work in. And I'm scared. So, I've entered this company in late April to work as an hotel account manager. Since I had already 3 years of experience on this roll, the adapting process went pretty smoothly at the beggining. Mainly due to the size of the company (it manages over 3000 hotels all around the world), I felt confortable, and the company provides everything we need in order to do our job in the best way possible.\n\nBut since July, some strange things have happened. At our office (which is just a \"secondary\" one, compared to our headquarters in Spain), we are ten. Our director, two sales managers, one operations manager, two executives, and the rest of us are account managers. And in the past 3 months, both our sales managers, one account manager and one executive have left the company, on their own free will.\n\nWhich leaves me to wonder: is there something off or particularly wrong with the company, that makes people with solid paychecks and a background of at least 6 years on the job, just leave it, all of a sudden? I'm feeling a little scared, and I may start looking actively for other options. Am I overthinking it? Should I try to seize this oportunity to grow within the company? Or are these \"low blows\" enough to question my position?\n\n" ]

[ "When you lose two people so quickly in succession, chances are something is up, but don't hit the panic button just yet. If you can, try to find out why they left and not for more money reasons. In my experience, when you start seeing people leave a company in droves (new jobs and/or people quitting) its time to start looking elsewhere because something foul is happening Denmark. Also, look at your company's announcement boards (if they have one). If you notice that there's a lot of departures and very little arrivals, then that's definitely an indication that company isn't doing so hot and people are jumping ship. \n\nDon't panic yet, but keep your eyes and ears open for any more vacancies. Chances are its a fluke but it's something to consider.", "Is the company public?? Have a look at any public financial records (or even any private ones) to see if the company appears to be declining. ", "Is it possible to call or meet with one of those who recently departed, away from the office, and ask them what's up?", "Either they just got a better job somewhere else and the timing was unfortunate or your office is circling the drain and the leadership knew it was coming and jumped ship. You should definitely try to seize the opportunity to grow within the company, but also keep your resume updated." ]

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[ "Best way to rid fleas? I've bathed my dog with flea/tick shampoo countless times, applied flea/tick ointment a handful of times, flea bombed the house, and changed her bedding and she's still gnawing at them! Any foolproof remedies? Pleeeeease", "Best way to rid fleas? I've bathed my dog with flea/tick shampoo countless times, applied flea/tick ointment a handful of times, flea bombed the house, and changed her bedding and she's still gnawing at them! Any foolproof remedies? Pleeeeease", "Best way to rid fleas? I've bathed my dog with flea/tick shampoo countless times, applied flea/tick ointment a handful of times, flea bombed the house, and changed her bedding and she's still gnawing at them! Any foolproof remedies? Pleeeeease", "Best way to rid fleas? I've bathed my dog with flea/tick shampoo countless times, applied flea/tick ointment a handful of times, flea bombed the house, and changed her bedding and she's still gnawing at them! Any foolproof remedies? Pleeeeease", "Best way to rid fleas? I've bathed my dog with flea/tick shampoo countless times, applied flea/tick ointment a handful of times, flea bombed the house, and changed her bedding and she's still gnawing at them! Any foolproof remedies? Pleeeeease", "Best way to rid fleas? I've bathed my dog with flea/tick shampoo countless times, applied flea/tick ointment a handful of times, flea bombed the house, and changed her bedding and she's still gnawing at them! Any foolproof remedies? Pleeeeease" ]

[ "Sprinkle diatomaceous earth all over your house, bedding, fabric furniture, dog's bedding, dog, etc. ", "Had the same problem last summer on our poor dog. Went to the vet and they recommended Trifexis. After about 3 days, no more fleas, and no more since. That stuff is pretty magic. One side effect - it did make our dog a bit nauseous the first time. Now we give him a little food, then the pill, then outside for a bit in case of sickness. After that, treats and more food. Good luck! ", "1: Bath dog in soap free shampoo. (if it is a flea shampoo so much the better). Doesn't strip natural oils from coat. \n2: 24 hrs later spot on the dog. I'm hearing the same things about frontline as well. Advantix is pretty good (but not in households with cats). \n3: Give dog Comfortis/panoramis tablet. Made by Elanco. Clients swear by it that the fleas levitate 20 minutes after giving. \n4: treat rest of house pronto - wash everything in a hot wash and vacuum and mop the house + let of flea bomb of choice and depest the outside yard. \n5: (important bit) do again 3 weeks later to take out the eggs that you may have missed when they hatch into the fleas! This interrupts the life cycle. \n6: Don't let any other flea infested bastard near your now itch free dog! \n\n(Vet nurse in a flea infested area). ", "What flea and tick ointment are you using? If it is over the counter and not from the vets it was only deter them and not fully kill them and the larva. \nGet a vet approved flea treatment i.e. frontline, advocate etc, wait 24 hours then flea bomb the house and steam vacuum the carpets and any sofas or chairs", "Advantage is a miracle. It kills the fleas and prevents them from coming back for up to a month. You just dab it on their skin at the base of the neck, behind their head. (That's a place they can't lick it off.) \n \nA day or two after applying it, wash the bedding to get rid of flea eggs. But if you re-apply the Advantage once a month, it won't be an issue anyway. \n \nI tried a competitor one time, \"Biospot\". It may work, but it has about 5 times the amount of liquid. It made a horrible mess of the animal and everything it came in contact with for the next day. Never again. ", "Put a desk lamp on the floor with a pan of soapy water under it at night. In the morning it will be full of drowned fleas. They jump at the light and fall in the water." ]

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[ "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?", "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?", "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?", "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?", "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?", "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?", "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?", "How to confront people. I've always been bad at this. When I know I'm right about something I still don't have the guts to confront somebody about it. How can i overcome this?" ]

[ "There is no easy way. Experience will make it easier overtime. Try to think objectively of what will happen, and disregard worries about how the person in question will react.", "I feel like there is a difference between confronting and challenging, confronting has almost aggressive connotations when actually challenging people is more calling them on their BS, correcting them or challenging behaviour. For example someone cutting in front of you in a queue, challenging them would be saying 'excuse me, I was before you', whereas you wouldn't confront someone is this context. \n\nConfidence is key. Have the self belief that you are right and that your point or belief is as valuable as the person being challenged, otherwise you have already 'lost'. \n\nSelf belief, confidence and valuing your own belief system is easier said than done. ", "Go in with a plan and clear objective. Just remember that no plan survives first contact with the enemy (confrontee). Someone else touched on it but write down some points you want to hit on beforehand. Writing something down is a good way to make sure you follow through as the consistency principle comes into play almost like forcing yourself to do something. Hope this helps and good luck!", "Can you give an example? Im usually right about bullshit facts and when I know im right and they sound confident i just ask them to wager money. Most back off. I did win 50 bucks concerning the location of a thai restauraunt. Or do you mean serious shit? ", "If it's something I'm really pissed about in a relationship or friendship I'll sometimes express it in writing rather than words, because it's easier to get my thoughts organized, clear, and civil that way.", "How you feel about confronting somebody is completely based on what you think it is going to feel like.\n\nIf you think they are going to resist or challenge everything you say and go in prepared that way, you will project that feeling onto the other person.\n\nIf you go into the confrontation expecting them to be level headed and understanding where you are coming from, then you project that respect onto that other person.\n\nStop overthinking what a confrontation is and just speak from your heart.", "Best way is to use I-messages instead of you-messages. Example: \"I feel when you are late it puts us behind.\" Is a better statement than, \"You're late again!\" Calling someone out using an i-message makes them less defensive and it's more productive. Though it may seem like you are shouldering some blame in reality you are de-escalating while making your point non confrontationally. ", "1. Know what you are confronting them about. \n\n2. Practice beforehand\n\n3. Confront them **only** on the issue at hand, do not let them divert, distract, or evade\n\n4. After confronting, confirm with them that they know what the confrontation was about.\n" ]

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[ "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!", "Helpful Tips for Dorm Living I am making a bulletin board of just helpful things you can do in a dorm; i.e easy, cheap meal in a microwave; and was hoping for some more I can post. Anything would be helpful, thank you!" ]

[ "1. Always lock your doors or lock up your valuables. Even if you're just going to the bathroom.\n\nMost important rule if you ask me. I knew way too many people with \"open door\" policies who ended up having computers, laptops, xboxes, and more stolen. If you own a laptop think about investing in a laptop lock.\n\n2. Wear a condom. Don't need no mini-mes ruining your college experience", "Be very nice to your RA, CA or whatever your school calls them. They will usually let you slide for a lot of things if you make their life not horrible. ", "Ramen: It gets boring. Buy the following:\n\ncurry powder\nsesame oil\nsriracha sauce (or other hot sauce)\neggs (if you have a refrigerator)\nspices (whatever you like, but rosemary, thyme, basil, and oregano go well in the chicken-flavored ramen)\npeanut sauce (drain the ramen first)\nHoisin sauce \n\nThis won't cost you much and will last you a long time. Combine a couple of these various ingredients in your ramen and you'll get a lot of variety and it tastes great. Curry powder is one of the easiest and curry ramen is great. Sriracha sauce is another good one if you like spicy (and you can combine that with lots of the other ingredients). I liked cracking an egg into the ramen and stirring it up, then adding about two drops of sesame oil (that shit is potent so go easy with it). Hoisin sauce is also good to mix in with ramen (sriracha also goes ok with this). You can also drain the ramen and serve it as a noodle dish with peanut sauce or any one of about 1000 other sauces that you'll find in the asian foods section of your local supermarket. If you have them, fresh veggies are also good; you can either leave them raw, add them when you add the noodles (they'll be fairly crisp still), or boil them ahead of time until they're almost done and then add the noodles. \n\nI was able to cook all of this stuff with just a hot water boiler when I was in college. If you get a rice cooker, you can add some of these same ingredients to rice and make it even better. I recommend you add one last thing too: an electric wok. If you have those three things, you will be able to cook for yourself for way less than you'd spend on restaurant food or the dorm's meal plan and you will also be able to cook almost anything that you want that doesn't require baking. Other people on your floor will also gravitate to your room when they smell food; never give food away for free, always make them trade for it. I wouldn't recommend that you accept money for your food either; trade will be FAR more valuable, especially if your food is good. Trade meals for tutoring, people cleaning your room, drinks, other ingredients you need, school supplies, loaning you games/movies/etc, and whatever else you want.", "Some of these might seem obvious but they are helpful:\n\nIf you pour boiled water over ramen in a bowl and let it sit for a couple minutes, it (pretty much) cooks.\n\nDon't leave your laundry stuff in the laundry room.\n\nPut dish soap and a sponge in the bathrooms, especially if there's no kitchen on the floor.\n\nStore stuff on top of furniture (shelves, closets) if possible. \n\nSave the boxes you used to move in. You will need them when you move out.\n\nLarge area rugs are cheap and can make a room feel more like home (especially if it has tiled floors). The only problem is these usually can't be stored over break or summer. \n\nKnow your roommate(s)'(s) schedule(s).\n\nIf you can have your bed raised, it creates a goldmine of storage space.", "Make use of all your space! Go to the container store and get some ideas of how the hell you can fit all your crap in a tiny room then go on a cheaper website to buy it. \n\n", "There are a number of meals you can make with a mug and a microwave. I have not personally tried this one, but here is a [brownie you can make in a mug](http://www.instructables.com/id/Mug-Brownie/)\n\nGood luck with being an RA!", "Rice cookers, crock pots, and hot plates made dorm life cooking almost luxurious to me. there is always a shared kitchen, but these let you cook while you work.", "If your roommates wake up at the same time as you, and you like to shower early, set your alarm 5 minutes before the usual time you wake up. \n\nEg. On mondays, we all have class at 10, so everyone usually wakes up at 9 to use the shower. I set my alarm for 8:55, and head on in before they actually wake up.", "4c. Pyrex measuring cups are amazing. You can make MANY different meals in one of those and just eat straight out of the thing. Just mix up your food and toss it in the microwave and it's ready to go. ", "1. Get an air freshener (eg glade plugin) or candles. A small small room shared by two people will start to smell like shit, especially if the window is always closed. This was especially an issue for me cuz my roommate was 350+ lbs (160+ kg).\n\n2. Know where to get alcohol. If you're movin in next semester (it sounds like you are), stock up on alcohol beforehand if you can. Unless you know someone who's 21 or over at your school, getting alcohol will be a pain in the ass. Go for hard liquor too, since beer is high volume.\n\n3. If someone is purchasing alcohol for you, NEVER go with them. Ever. Just give them your money before or after (depending on how much you trust them). Every time I've heard of someone getting in trouble purchasing for minors, its ALWAYS because they let a minor come with them, and an undercover cop saw them waiting in the car in front of the beer/liquor store (if one person goes into the store and the other waits in the car, it's obvious what's going on).\n\n4. If you see a child getting raped - ALWAYS report it to the proper authorities (call 911 if in the US). Do not call your supervisor until after. This could lead to a large scandal in your school and peoppe who had nothing to do with the situation will be punished.\n\nSource: Penn State student ", "Put valuables, INCLUDING MEDICATIONS, in a GOOD lock box. Not one of those crap cheap ones, those are easily broken into. I had my ADHD meds stolen out of mine by one of my careless roommate's sketchy friends. I now use a gun safe.", "1) Get something to cook food with, and buy food while out, and cook it in your room. Microwave and electric wok, plus mini freezer/fridge, and you'll make full meals far less than spending on a meal plan. If that's what you're after. \n\n2) *thinking about what hasn't been said* Lock your stuff, be nice to everybody, don't show anybody what you have, because somebody will steal it. \n\n3) Wear shower shoes; get a carpet for under your desk/middle of the floor. \n\n4) Seriously, be friendly to everybody, even if it's just a hey when you see them. You WILL need something from them eventually; I live off campus and go straight home after class. I couldn't count how many times people who I don't know, know my name and offer to help with random things, just because I'm not an asshole and say hey to them or smile in lecture or whatever. " ]

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[ "How to interact with shy children. I work on tills and I love it when kids come by. Usually I pull funny faces, try and joke with them etc. but every now and again I get one kid hiding behind their parents leg. I don't only wanna know this for my current job but for life in general.\n\n", "How to interact with shy children. I work on tills and I love it when kids come by. Usually I pull funny faces, try and joke with them etc. but every now and again I get one kid hiding behind their parents leg. I don't only wanna know this for my current job but for life in general.\n\n", "How to interact with shy children. I work on tills and I love it when kids come by. Usually I pull funny faces, try and joke with them etc. but every now and again I get one kid hiding behind their parents leg. I don't only wanna know this for my current job but for life in general.\n\n" ]

[ "Talk to them like you talk to adults. Using a soft patronizing tone is not gonna make them comfortable.", "In a work setting, at least, talking to them in general and including them in conversations (kids love to be included like a regular part of the group) helps. If everyones making a decision, ask the kid what they think too.\n\nIn general life, I find that not making kids talk helps them get comfortable. If you're in a house with children, for example, and the kid doesn't want to talk but is playing with toys, just play with them, without saying anything. They usually forget about the shyness when they're having fun.", "Working at a till is not the best place to interact with such children, but in other situations, treat them like people. Don't condescend. Literally get down on their level (by squatting, not bending over). Most importantly, don't force it. If the child gives any indication they feel uncomfortable or unsafe, you're done. That's it, back away." ]

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[ "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience.", "What actually works for home security? I am a first time home owner and have little knowledge about what works keeping your house safe. \n\nAlso, what about when you are out of town, any pointers out there?\n\nTo summarize a bit:\n\n1. Most burglaries are smash and grabs, targeting electronics and stuff in the open\n\n2. Store valuables out of the open (ex. Inside a work boot, or locking tool chest)\n\n3. DOGS are awesome deterrents\n\n4. Guns are obviously good too\n\n5. Take inventory outside your house, think like a burglar and look for stuff you could use to gain entry, eliminate said items\n\n6. Home security systems are good, even if it's just a sign. Laminate on windows also helps\n\n7. Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\n8. If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\n9. INSURANCE. Remember that 'stuff' can be replaced, people cannot. Take pictures of valuables and keep receipts also.\n\n10. As long as your house looks less appealing than your neighbors you are probably okay.\n\nThanks for all of the help everyone, I have enjoyed reading through your comments and learned a lot. As a new person to reddit this has been a great experience." ]

[ "If you ever watched a show on Discovery channel called \"It Takes a Thief\", they give you a comprehensive run down on how to secure a variety of homes with differing windows, doors, etc... . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_Takes_a_Thief_(2005_TV_series)\n\nFor the most part their advice boils down to:\n\n1. Don't leave stuff outside that could be used to break into your home i.e ladders, tools, etc...\n2. Get exterior lights on a motion sensor\n3. An alarm system\n4. Laminate for windows that prevent them from shattering\n5. Sturdy locks\n6. Safe bolted to the floor\n7. Most important tip: always lock up\n\nNone of that security stuff matters if you don't actually lock your windows (even second story windows) and doors every time you leave the house. The guys on the show would come back a week or so later and try to break into the secured house. Many times these people would forget to lock up thus nullifying all the security precautions.", "1. A big and mean dog (guardian)\n2. An ordinary dog (alert/warning)\n3. Proper int/ext lighting at all times\n4. Watchful neighbours\n5. Anti-theft deterrent measures (fences, window bars, triple locks etc.)\n6. Professionally-installed and remotely-monitored security system\n", "I read on a Iama from a thief, the thing that stopped him the most was laminated(spelled?) windows. They were too noisy and took forever to break.\n\nHe also said he always carried snacks for dogs. And inclosed gardens was lovely because he could work in peace.\nSorry for my poor english.", "There was an [AMA from a cat burglar](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/eewou/iama_retired_cat_burglar_ama/) a few years ago. His #1 tip was window film/laminate. This was what he said:\n\n>I'm going to give you the best advice for home security you will ever get: Window laminate.\n\n>Alarms, dogs, all of that are either useless or reactionary. The only thing that ever really shut me down were laminated windows.\n\n>A crook's biggest weapon is speed, and their biggest enemy is time. If somebody were to try to break into your home and ended up hitting a window that was laminated, they would, in almost every case, run off.\nIt isn't even all that expensive, especially since you only need to laminate the first-floor windows (and any windows on a first-floor roof on a two-story house, such as a porch or deck roof).\n\n>Don't waste money on alarms or dogs. Spend it on good window laminate put in by professionals, and you will be much safer.\n\n\nObviously more precautions in combination are better, so I wouldn't agree with the don't waste money part. It's not so much about being fool proof as being more of a hassle than everyone else. But at the same time, if you happen to have a precaution a burglar is particularly good at over coming he may be more likely to target you. You may have a burglar who is prepared for window laminate. So if you want to be safe make sure you have more than one precaution.", "Just adding in my two cents here, but the harder you make it for a thief to get into your home, the harder it is for emergency services to get in too.\n\nExample: Your house is on fire. You're sleeping in your bed, and the only way out is through laminated glass windows that you can't break. \n\nSure, your house and valuables are secure, but that doesn't mean you won't roast in your house because you thought it was a good idea to put bars on your windows.\n\n", "So we live a predominately safe community. Well we thought so until a few years ago. My two immediate neighbors on both sides of me were robbed in the middle of the day within a few months of each other. \n\nTwo other houses were also robbed shortly after and then a few more all within a 6 months. Of the 7 houses on my side of the street that where not burglerized was mine. \n\nI have no alarms, no bullshit stickers etc. The only thing I have that they didn't have was a rottweiler. And I always leave him inside when we leave. I honestly believe that is why were not robbed. He is our pet and part of our family but to others he's a threat. \n\nBest dog we've ever had. ", "I'm going to say something crazy: don't worry so much about it. Unless you live in an unusually high crime area, statistically the odds of robbery are not historically high. TV news would make you think otherwise, but the news only reports the bad stuff\n\nHomeowners insurance will cover robbery. My only tip is to keep an inventory of anything of any real value. Keep receipts and take pics of anything of significant value and keep those records off site (in case of fire or flood). If you have a huge amount of collectibles just be sure you have the right amount of coverage. \n\nThe rest is common sense. Try not to worry too much. And remember to focus on personal safety. Objects can be replaced but your family cannot. \n\nThe only thing I personally won't do is let people come inside my home when I sell stuff online. For smaller items, I ask them to meet me in a well lit public place. For huge items I try to at least move it out of the house into the garage. Call me odd but I don't like strangers wandering inside my home. ", "Visible security cameras. Nothing has deterred shady looking people as much a a security camera in the window of my front door. I get some emails of creepers coming up the walkway occasionally, seeing it, and leaving. I obviously don't KNOW that these are criminals, but it's still nice to know that they are deterred. If you have hidden cameras, your only getting pictures of the person who burglarized your house (still a good thing), but when they see cameras it tends to deter them from doing it in the first place.", "As someone who has been burglarized some tips:\n\n1. Insurance. Because a dedicated enough burglar will get your shit. Have good insurance that won't be a pain in the ass to replace your stuff or jack your rates up when it happens.\n2. When you're moving in, and when you buy new things, don't put boxes for your new 60\" flat screen out for the trash collector.\n3. A good alarm system from a reputable company. Also, most importantly, get a key fob or other method of disarming it from outside. Then, set the alarm to automatically alarm when the door is opened (no entry delay). With my provider, that means the cops are called within 15 seconds of someone kicking in the door.\n\nA cop lived across the street from me, in a neighborhood of garden homes, and his police car was parked on the street across from my house, and the next house down was a real estate agent's office, and they still kicked in the front door and got two TVs and a DVD player out of my house. Shit happens, just try to slow them down as much as possible.", "Let me tell you what doesn't work, and yet my fiancé still does (especially when he's home alone):\n\nPut a wooden kitchen chair in front of the front door.\n\nGot home from a sleepover. Literally opened the door and KNOCKED THE CHAIR OVER. He didn't hear a thing. We need a dog.", "Gun cases. Be seen with lots of them, going to and from the car to the house, etc. Hang up flags and dress in camo pants and go shirtless while drinking Keystone light.\n\nYell \"Outlaw Country! Wooooo!\" often.", "been following[ these guys](https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/korner-home-security-anyone-can-use-and-everyone-can-afford#home)... seems like a good, cheap, system", "Just a heads up, I was home alone when a couple of guys decided to break in after college grad. After that, I did a lot of research - learned that deadbolts don't do shit unless they are reinforced by steel on the door frame.\n\nAlso the hotel locks (the chain things) are actually surprisingly the best at preventing forced entries (tested by Mythbusters heyoo).\n\nThat and having a handgun in a convenient location (mine was in the bathroom cabinet off my bedroom (private bath)) - don't fucking store the magazine/clip and ammo separately, just don't have it loaded and get some training so you don't flip the fuck out and shoot blindly or mishandle it. Get to know it, get comfortable, do this once or twice a year so you don't forget how to use it. Revolvers are best since you won't have to clean them, but they're harder to load when you're being attacked so there's that.\n\nIf you choose not to yell out at them like I did, pointing a gun at one of their buddies and yelling get out seems to work. I have the remnants of their weapons to this day, five years later.", "If you have single lock vinyl windows, use a dowel as a stopper. Thieves can jimmy single lock vinyl windows from the outside. \n\nProperty lighting, fences, bushes in front of your vulnerable windows, reinforcing door locks and bolts, burglar bars, wrought iron doors", "As a Canadian, it freaks me out a little to read how many of these responses talk about having a gun. Jesus Christ. I live in Vancouver (metro of 2.4M). I don't have a gun, and out of my wide circle of family and friends I only know one person who has one. And he's a police officer.\n", "Shotgun. Window laminate. Planting thorny/unpleasant plants under/around windows. Keeping your access areas well-lit. I also don't leave stuff out where it could encourage temptation (i.e. a Macbook glowing on the kitchen counter near the back door).\n\nAlso, think like a thief. Maybe don't store your cash and jewels in your dresser's top drawer, and put them in the bottom of an old pair of work boots you leave in the back of your closet. I don't have cash or jewels, but if I did that's where they'd be. If you really want to up the ante, get a safe and put a dead rat in it. Let them screw around with / haul that away while your good stuff is hidden somewhere else.\n\nI also like to tar nails to my basement steps, leave Christmas ornaments under my windows, strap blowtorches to my kitchen door, and keep a BB rifle cocked and locked. Good luck!", "Personally, I've got 3 cameras on the exterior of my home, D1 resolution (needs more HD upgrade action) had an old ass book style hidden nanny cam pointed at the front door from inside, but that took a shit) Motion lighting in the front, motion lighting in the backyard, Motion lighting in the heavily wooded area on the west side of my house. SOLID wood doors with commercial hinges. 4 1/2 inch structural screws securing the hinges, a reinforced full length strike plate. Door frame gap by the latching area was eliminated with wood to allow a secure connection point for the latch to hit. About 10 structural screws in total in the strike plate (remember, its full door height). The latch side of the door has a reinforcement plate for the deadbolt and handle. \n\nEventually, I plan on upgrading to a purpose engineered security door with reinforcements in key areas. \n\nground floor windows all have thorny bushes under them, and the basement windows have all been replaced with lexan (not bulletproof thickness... but enough to take some blows from a sledge or crow bar)\n\nAn old ass unmonitored alarm which to be honest is fairly rarely used because it cannot be monitored anymore. It works, but just can't be monitored or so I'm told. Upgrade planned for the future when I finally go about my HVAC automation and zoning upgrade, along with key lighting automation upgrades. Hoping to integrate all of that into one system. \n\nI've got two dogs, a German Shepherd that has a major urge to bite the fuck out of anyone at the door, and a 20lb mutt that will not shut the fuck up and is just as loud as the shepherd. Both go apeshit if anyone so much as glances at the house while walking down the street. \n\nBlinds on EVERY window that you can see valuables through.\n\nDamn good insurance policy. \n\nA 700lb safe bolted to the basement slab, with another couple hundred pounds worth of guns and ammo. The top shelf in the safe houses the DVR as well, in case someone tries to pull a crash and smash. Sure, they can smash the shit out of the unmonitored alarm box, but its gonna take some banging away to get at the DVR. Worst that can be done is to cut the power to it. \n\nI also have a gun that sits in my duty belt hanging in the closet every night when I'm home, and asleep. Shotguns are for birds, large game, and big unpopulated areas, rifles are great, but unwieldy in my maze of a hallway, a handgun fits my particular situation best, and that is fortunate since it is always on me. \n\nParanoia? Nope, I've experienced break-ins, I've responded to break ins, I've seen the aftermath of a home invasion, and my dog bit a would be thief last year attempting to break in through the front door window. The latest was a wake up call that I'm not guarding my shit properly. \n\nWhat also helps is that now that I've got two house mates, with different schedules, there is ALWAYS someone home. \n\nPro tip, don't allow solicitors in your home, if someone is selling something you're interested in buying or contracting services for, take it as a reminder to call around or go shopping on your own. NEVER tell them your home schedule, NEVER indicate if you are in the home alone. Bonus points if you answer the door with a 90LB german shepherd barking its ass off while being held back and choking by its collar while saying \"No thank you!\" ", "Late to this party, but shocked no one has mentioned these two yet. \n\nBest prevention: strong local neighborhood watch. Print a map of your block and fill in everyone's phone number next to street number. Know and look after your neighbors. \n\nBest chance at catching them to stop the crime: after Christmas every year walk through your house video recording every room and zoom into serial numbers of most valuable items. check the pawn shops afterwards. ", "A tip I received if you have a driveway is to always have a car on it. \n\nAlso: when you're out of town just get a neighbour to park in your driveway. ", "I was going to add \"don't have anything worth stealing\". Has worked for my poor ass for my whole life.", "From the people who I know who were once burglars: an easy target is the best. While a (big) dog might not be one hundred percent preventative it isn't easy for a potential burglar, and no one wants to get their ass bit. Outside lighting also increases the difficulty level (at night of course). Privacy fences, on the other hand, make it much more private (easy) for a potential burglar. Advertising that you have a home security system is a deterrent. Neighborhood watch is a deterrent. Security doors and security windows are obviously huge deterrents. And finally, video surveillance, even if it's just a sign that states that the premises are under surveillance is enough to make the criminal say \"ah well, I'll move on to the next house.\"", "> Guns are obviously good too\n\nBut only if you are 1. at home/awake when someone breaks in and 2. you have invested the time in getting training to use a gun properly. Not to mention care for it and store it where children can't easily get it.\n\n> Ensure the outside of your house is well lit at night\n\nUse lights on timers (both inside and out) and get motion lights. You can buy timers for lights for fairly cheap, have one in the bedroom, one in a common area. They come on at a certain time, go off, looks more like there's someone there. Use them even when you're home if you're in a sketchy neighbourhood. Have curtains or blinds on the windows in areas like bedrooms. I turned some lights into motion lights by buying just the sensor.\n\n> If you are out of town, park a car in the driveway, put your mail on hold\n\nPutting your mail on hold can be good, it can also be bad. I don't get mail delivered to my house, there's a community mailbox that's locked on the outside. But I've gotten in the habit of not getting the mail every day, I'll do it randomly. Sometimes (not always) the mail person can take note of who has a hold on their mail and use it. Otherwise, get a neighbour or friend/family to come by and pick it up.\n\n\nI knew someone who bought a house and when I went to visit them, I said \"You should really consider getting those trees cut down\" They had a row of spruce trees that blocked the view of the road. They said they liked the privacy that they gave, made it feel like it was their own little world. I said nothing. They started going away on long trips to visit relatives and one time their house was burgled. Not just a smash n' grab, but whoever it was must have come back more than once because the house was cleaned out of anything valuable. China figurines. Jewellery. You name it. They didn't have any motion lights, a security system, nothing. They sold the house and moved, leaving those damn trees up. No one on their street noticed they had been robbed until it was too late and they lost all confidence in their safety.\n\nIf you're going to get cameras installed, look into a system that will digitally record the footage onto a hard drive. I saw a system once where it was set up to automatically record when movement was detected in certain areas defined by the user. A user could log onto a website, view the footage, delete it, get notifications, probably copy it elsewhere/e-mail it. They used it to nail some kids who were vandalising their neighbourhood. Just one thing, you have to be careful where the cameras are pointed because it may not be legal to aim them at someone else's property in your jurisdiction.\n\nAlso, never leave anything valuable in your car, especially if you leave it in your driveway. Not in the trunk or under the seat. No garage door openers if your garage is attached to the house. There is some group of people who take things from cars where I live and my neighbours are vigilant for a while, then they get lazy and leave stuff which gets stolen, wash, rinse, repeat.", "alarm systems actually do work. it's tough to concentrate on robbing a place while a 140db siren is going off.", "You should keep a record of the serial numbers on expensive purchases (firearms, tvs, etc) so that in the event they do get taken you can prove theyre yours and recover them if possible", "To add to if you are going away, If you are going for a while, have a garden service come clean up, make sure your neighbor picks up any mail that is there, set a random light timer (must be random, not a set time, someone only has to come around 2 nights in a row to see it is a set time), if you have close friends or family, have them pop in, and stay for at least an hour or so as often as they can.\n\nTo add to the dogs thing, yeah they are the best, but don't make them sleep outside, let them sleep inside, it is easy to poison or befriend a dog when it is outside, and you tend to ignore an outside dog that barks. there is almost no way someone gets inside your house unannounced, and by surprise when your dog sleeps inside.\n\n*", "My personal advice would be invest some time in creating hiding places in your house for valuables. For example in my home the ceiling panels can be lifted up and there are two mounted fire safes there that can be slid out. Also purchase a semiautomatic pistol and AR-15 rifle and train with both. ", "If you have a garage, use it consistently. If a burglar cases your house and knows you usually park in the driveway, an empty driveway = an empty house. If you park in the garage consistently, it doesn't stand to tip them off to your absence as easily. ", "I once saw somthing about planting thorny plants around ground floor windows ... Very unappealing to traverse. Anyone else heard of that?", "I made a trench around my fence filled with lava. \nInside the gate is a mob grinder then I have tnt traps \non all entry points.", "Good suggestions here but I'll tell you what... the old real estate adage really works here: Location, location and location.\n\nI live in a suburb of one of the most dangerous and crime ridden cities in America. I leave my garage door open overnight all the damn time. I leave my back door open probably 3-4 days a week when I go to bed. Simply because I forget. I do have a loaded Glock 9mm buried between the bed and the wall, just in case someone is looking for a fight, but I haven't had anything of mine touched in 4 years living here. \n\nLook, I'm not endorsing my lazy ass attitude about protecting my stuff... by all means I should be more careful (and I'm trying!). But the point remains that for 4 years, I haven't lost one thing to a thief. The right neighborhood makes all the difference.", "Dogs, our labrador attacked a home intruder once. This was a dog scared of it's own shadow, but put it's master in danger it it will rip your throat out. ", "All the above are good, if done right. But let me comment a little bit, if I may.\n\nDogs are Deterrents, but not if your neighbors won't react if they park when you aren't home. More often than not they won't attack a burglar. Try this...Have someone your dog doesn't know bang on the front door and then open it. Chances are the dog will run outside, *past* the intruder. He is then free to walk inside and do what he will. If he doesn't do that, he will step back and bark at him for a while, until either fed or shot. \n\nGuns are fine, if kept under the control of the person you want using them. If you aren't home and the gun is, it is then loot.\n\nHome security systems are good, if you get a good system. If it is a cheap \"Centralized\" one, like the ADT Quick connect, or the Vivint one with the pretty touchscreen panel, they can be disabled before they send a signal, even if they have the cellular backup. If it is the type of system where the whole thing is centralized with the keypad, it's crap. Get a \"distributed\" system where the main panel is in a locked box inside a closet. The ADT Safewatch pro 3k (Which is a Honeywell panel), or the AT&T Digital Life system are examples of this. Burglar can get in, maybe disable the siren and stuff that makes noise, but it will take him too long to disable the panel if he can't find it. (By the way, if you are in a Digital Life market, you can get the system for free- with a 2 year contract at 38.99 a month.) \n\nOutside lights are a must, keep them bushes trimmed as well.\n\nMake sure the screws in your deadbolts are long enough to reach through the door frame and into the studs surrounding the door. many prefabricared door frames have but 1\" long screws. Take them up and replace them with 2\" or 3\" long screws. Makes the door a bit harder to kick in.\n\nIf you go out of town, don't leave the keys to the car you leave behind in the house. Why make the getaway easier?\n\nSmoke detectors are great, CO detectors are as important, even if you don't have gas appliances...most plastics such as couch cushions and carpets will smolder and give off CO gas, triggering a CO alarm before a smoke alarm will go off. \n\n\n\nUse door brace bars to make them even more difficult to kick in. Walmart.com sells them for like, 20 bucks.\n\nFire safety---Second floor bedrooms should have ladders that reach the ground...Kidde makes them, and they cost less than 50 bucks. Practice fire drills. \n\n\n\n\n", "A well-trained dog will make a difference, but not just any dog. I've heard plenty of stories of dogs getting stolen along with everything else and stories of burglars just bringing treats and dumping a box on the floor. ", "A sign that says you have a home security, displayed in the front yard. I read that the signs are the cheapest part of a security system, but are the largest deterrent.", "1. Contrary to popular belief, most burglaries happen during the day when people are at work/school not at night. \n\n2. Keep bushes/trees trimmed around doors and windows so there isn't an area people can hide.\n\n3. Consider leaving a radio on low volume when not at home. The noise can be a deterrent.\n\n4. Never ever let \"door to door salesmen\" in to your house if you're not expecting them or answer ANY questions personal or otherwise. A lot of time people will case homes in this manner.\n\n5. Simple window locks are thousands of dollars cheaper then barred windows and work just as well in most areas. http://www.amazon.com/High-Security-Sliding-Window-Lock-Installation/dp/B00065XR2M\n \n\n\n\n", "cameras are nice. they wont arrest anyone but could possibly help identifying suspects. depending on where you live, you may know the person breaking into your home.", "Oh and as a first time homeowner, as not only security but safety, it's good to get a fire-safe with a handle for your most important documents and things. I have one with my passport, old netbook and charger, car title, spare car keys, lease documents, that kind of thing in it. That way if there's a fire or something, I can quickly grab it and run out the door. And worst case scenario if there is a fire or natural disaster and you cant even get to it, you have a decent chance that they could survive. Of course these things can be replaced, but if your house burns down youll be thankful you spent the 60 bucks to not have to go through the hassle of getting new ID, car title, etc... and a netbook is a bonus for communication if nothing else made it", "Keeping your home safe from burglars is easy, just don't have anything they want.\n\nAnything you do have, have of such a low value that you wish someone would steal it.\n\nI wouldn't even bother with laminated windows, let them come in a and find out you don't have squat, fixing the glass is easy and the bastards might even cut themselves, so you have blood evidence.\n\n\nWhat do you want is some sort of method that will alert you that they are in the house, so your not surprising them opening the front door and being shot. \n\nAlso a method to alert you at night they are breaking in so you can cap a few rounds at them to chase them off.\n\n\nCriminals prefer to remain unknown, however if they suspect you have something valuable and your home security is good, they will simply do a armed robbery instead. People get hurt that way often.\n\nRecall how car alarms elevated car thieves to car jackers?, even kidnapers when they mistakenly take the victims baby in the back seat? Ditto for burglars to home invasion.\n\nSome car jackers even take the victim as to ensure a good get away, assaulting or even raping the victim later on. Home invaders do the same.\n\nSo unless your willing to live in a concrete fort with security garage/guards and armored vehicles, just don't make yourself a target. Most of them just want something of value they can get money or drugs for. If they don't get what they want and your around, they can act violent if they think it will get them what they want.\n\nA criminal get their balls up to do crime, the object is to let them exert themselves plenty for little gain with the least amount of physical risk to you or your family. Burglars may destroy a few things and make a mess if they don't find anything, but it can be fixed and they won't come back as they already know you don't have squat.\n\nThe mistake many people make is when they get even the least bit wealthy, they show it and that attracts the criminals to follow them home or look for a opportunity. Many just break in and hope they get lucky.\n\nMany criminals have a philosphy that they don't pay for anything that they can simply steal or take from another.\n\nMany criminals love those fools who put the Apple stickers on the back of their cars. One gang I read of just cruises the streets and highways looking for such people or simply follows them home from Apple Stores.\n\nThey even cruise the neighborhoods with WiFI sniffers on boosters, the Apple Airport Router signals itself as \"Apple\" so the criminals figure the house is full of other Apple gear if they are also using a Apple branded router.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "If there is ADT as a security option, I definitely recommend it. Amazing customer support and awesome home security", "Home safety is first if you are worried for your safe life then install a high home security system which will provide you a safety life either you install high loud alarm system or encoded alarm which will make sound who ever touches anywhere. \n\n http://security.chubb.co.nz/\n", "Got burgled a couple of weeks ago. The police officer said as long as you don't leave portable valuables in sight it 99.9% comes down to having proper locks and using them. Beyond that, have nice modern metal-framed doors and windows that are difficult to force open. Most burglars just climb across gardens until they see an insecurity, then push in and grab laptops, tablets and phones.\n\n", "All I have is cameras and signs that say I have cameras. I live a good 15 minutes from the nearest town, likely to take 20-30 minutes for law enforcement response unless one happened to be nearby. The cameras record on movement, backed up to the cloud. I know this won't stop a burglary, but I'll get some good pictures/video. \n\nAlso have guns and wouldn't be afraid to use them if needed, but I sure hope I never have to. ", "A visible camera by the front door is an incredible deterrent around here. We have guys that will put up door hangers while casing houses in our neighborhood. I get a nice face shot of them every time they step on the porch, see the camera and say 'nope'.\n\nAs a side bonus, even the cheap cameras will email you if they detect motion. So I know when I get a package and when my family is coming and going.", "A dog is the best defence against most people who try to break in to your home. They will skip the house with the dog and go look at the next one. I am not talking about people who for some reason are targeting your house though and really want in, but general opportunists will avoid a house with a dog.", "...if someone wants to get into your home, and is motivated enough, there's probably not going to be anything you can do if you're not around.\n\nInsurance is there for a reason, but seems like people are giving good advice as well. ", "in addition to your silent alarm, install a very loud alarm. burglars will run away without even thinking about entering.", "This probably doesn't apply everywhere, but at my house, here is what I do.\n\nAll doors and windows are locked. If someone is breaking in, they will make noise. Be it opening the door or breaking a window, my two 50lb dogs are going to hear it at least enough to bark. If two loud barking dogs doesn't change the intruder's mind, it is going to get me alert, and I'm going to grab my shotgun. Between two dogs, a shotgun and a pistol with a strobing light, I feel very, very safe.\n\nI also have lighting on the back and front door - though not at the windows. My front and back door have motion-activated cameras which save to my offsite server.", "This might sound nonsensical but if you have a wooden fence around your property and really need to be protected lining razor blades on the top of your fence, sticking just above the top will most definitely stop anyone from trying to hop over your fence. Less confrontational than a shotgun or other weapon. Probably not the most traditional method as I learned it from an old friend who used to grow dope in his backyard. If you really feel unsafe though go for it. ", "This may sound odd, but one of the best things to keep in mind is not to tell neighbors, shadier acquaintances, whatever if you're going on vacation. I've been robbed twice and both times were when I told people, posted on facebook, that kind of thing, that I was going on vacation with my roommates. It's like dangling bait in front of people's faces. This may only apply to college towns or apartments, but it fucked me. A good remedy that I use now is to get a variable timer for my lights and a radio when I leave the house. It doesnt spend too much energy and it can at least give a hint that you're home even when you arent.", "The thief can also be a opportunist. Having deterrents in place deters the opportunist and you'll need to be targeted by the thief. In my eyes its all about having barriers in place for them to overcome making you a hard target. So off they pop to the next house.", "The best solution I have found is Novi Security. It's affordable and it doesn't require contracts or monthly fees. If you're a first time home buyer, this is for you. It sends pictures right to your smart phone. Check it out: http://www.novisecurity.us", "Talk to your local police department about shrubs and the distance from your walls. Used to work at a police department and they had hand outs of small simple stuff normally overlooked. Also, (no link, on phone) someone sells little camera shaped boxes that have a red blinking light to look like a camera but only costs like 5$. We put these outside our driveway after cars on our street got broken into several times. Not only did our house stop getting hit, but all the houses we shared an ally with. ", "Our house was robbed. Besides iPad and other electronics, my mother's gold jewelry was all taken, including her wedding band. Honestly the locking up thing is a no brainer but that didn't stop the thief. They broke in through our bolted back door during a 30 min time slot when no one was home. I would say keep receipts of valuable items, get jewelry appraised, and keep porch lights on when not home.", "My friend is a cop.\n\nHe tells me to leave a radio on when I'm not home.\n\nTheives are less likely to break in if they think there's someone home.", "My buddy's father NEVER locks his large house with lots of expensive things in it. So that's kind of dumb. But he does always leave talk radio playing in the garage which is next to the front door. It wouldn't work as security if someone figured it out, but, really, I still never know if he's home or not when approaching his house. I've started leaving the radio on in my apartment as a theft deterrent. It's not a bad idea when you think about it.", "My buddy has motion cameras rigged around his place, and when they are set, a light flashes throughout his house when something sets them off. He then pulls out his phone or tablet and checks the cameras.", "Kinda related. My cousin has an apartment on the south side of downtown Chicago. They are on the second floor. My cousin's girlfriend had her headphones in on the treadmill. She stopped and walked into another room and caught someone halfway into her window, on the SECOND floor. The guy climbing in ran. The guess is the guy knocked on the door and no one answered so he assumed no one was home. \nThat gave me the reason to always lock EVERY window, no matter the floor.", "If you're at home. Get a gun, handgun preferably. If you aren't at home get a properly trained dog that will attack on command and will attack when a threat is presented. They are trained to smell increased levels of adrenaline and hormones so unless your burglar is the most chill mother fucker on earth he's going to be missing an arm. They can be pretty expensive, almost around €800 but its the only option for me because I live in a country where you can't defend yourself. I would probably have to put my dog down too if it ever attacked a home intruder because you know, fuck logic. burglars have feelings too.", "If you get a firearm, make sure you invest in training. Most people think they can use one at night until they try.", "If you buy a safe, make sure it's quality. Walmart and Amazon safes are generally crap. You'll most likely spend upwards of $600 or more. Every safe I picked out online had a YouTube video of someone opening it with a crowbar in less than a minute. Go to a place that specializes in safes and buy one from them. ", "I'd add, back up all your important data off site or hidden so that when your computer IS stolen, your data isn't gone forever.", "I work for a burglar alarm company and previously for the alarm dispatching company. I would say an alarm is not overly useful. Sometimes, sure. But the response time is a bit long, especially if you're in a metro city. It takes 15-60 seconds for the alarm to report to the monitoring station, then maybe 30-60 more seconds for the alarm to pop up on a dispatchers screen, then 2 minutes to call you (if you don't answer that is), then 1-2 minutes to dispatch. Then the police usually take their time since most alarms are false anyway. Majority of the time when i hear about actual alarms, the burglars were able to get in, get stuff, and get out before police showed up. Plus, they can be faulty or if your phone lines aren't working (or a cell tower is down if you pay extra for cell service) they won't even transmit. \n\nI think at best, an alarm system would scare someone away.", "I was an MP in the army and we did a few classes on breaking and entering. The big thing was that a shade more than half are by people you know, or have a relationship with. So deterring them is tough because they know what you have or when you will be there. A GUARD dog is best for these people. Alarms less so, because they know they have time to respond. Professional B&E people basically ignore alarms because they rarely get cops to come out and if they do, its an average of 20 minutes until they do. \n\nBut for random people (usually kids 15-20) and almost always who live within 5 miles. For them a couple signs are all you need. There was an insurance company who surveyed some ridiculous number of B&E inmates and when casing joints the first thing they look for is a Beware of Dog sign and then Alarm signs. Think about it. If you are casing a neighborhood, they are all similar wealth in a neighborhood, so why risk a pit bull or alarm at your house, when your neighbor doesn't have the sign.\n\nGun signs like \"protected by Smith and Wesson\" are a toss up. Many thieves *want* to steal your gun. If they know you aren't home, it's like having a \"Shop Here\" sign. This made a LOT of the cops in my Nat Guard unit pissy and they argued with the instructor and he just pointed them to what the criminals said.\n\nWhen out of town, the best thing is for random light switches on timers. Lights on downstairs are big deterrents. But if casing your house, having them on 24/7 won't work. Also, don't post vacation photos on social media until you get home and say you are home. \n\n", "I used to be a security installation technician and there are a few things we would do to fortify a house.\n\nFirst off is the types of security - Security Panel, Door Contacts, Glass Break Detectors, Cameras and Lights. These are the most common components in a security system that make it difficult, and if installed properly, even impossible to break in.\n\nFirst off you have the door contacts, without the proper codes, the alarm will go off in a set time when the door is opened, this will trigger a response to the monitoring team whom in return will call the police, and if need be, you.\n\nSecond is the glass break detectors, even if they do bypass the doors and try to go for the windows, these detectors will sense a break in glass and set the alarm off immediately, calling the monitoring team, notifying the police.\n\nCameras can be used in a n obvious fashion, but I prefer the PVR that is set up to record only to motion activation and will backup to the cloud so that way if anyone does manage to get into the house, if they do manage to destroy the PVR, the images are still secure and they are still busted.\n\nThere are many different ways you can protect your house, but these are the most common and can be varied in many ways to fit your own lifestyle. Also note that you can set motion detectors to off, while leaving glass break detectors and door contacts to \"stay mode\", meaning they are active while you are home so you are protected by your security even when you are home.\n\nIf you want any more information just reply to this message and I will help where I can. :)", "I take the approach that everything is replacable. And if you have the right insurance they will replace it with new stuff that might be even better. 1) get insurance. 2) take inventory. This is actually the important part because if you can't prove it with pictures, serial numbers and possibly reciepts than the insurance is worthless 3) get security cameras. For me this is more, get the guy and make him pay sort of thing, but if people know you have cameras they might be less likely to even attempt. (or they wear a ski mask, in which case you hope someone calls the police because someone is walking around in a ski mask.) I have a couple little foscams. You can view them remotely over the net, and they can upload images and video. They are relatively inexpencive but have a lot of features. The only backlash from security cameras is that if they do catch the guy, you might get your stuff back in worse condition, or maybe it was just crappy overtime and you wont get new. 4) one thing I do that is only kind of on your list is, arrange my furnature so people can't see the expencive stuff. Like if someone knocks on the door, their view is of my shitty couch and chair. What they can't see around the corner is the big ass TV. I'm also on the 3rd floor which helps with people looking in the windows. But if you don't mind looking ghetto, In the past I have taken this bubble type of saranwrap and put if on windows to frost them. IT still lets light in but blurs whats inside. Curtains would probably work too... 5) also, I have double sided locks. So in the event someone drops down from the roof on to my balcony (which has happened in my apartment complex) they would have a really tough time carrying anything out the frontdoor.", "I remember seeing [this]( http://www.reddit.com/r/iama/comments/eewou/iama_retired_cat_burglar__ama/c17l7j5) a long time ago and never forgetting it. But good window laminate. ", "I lived in downtown Atlanta in a neighborhood that will probably be gentrified in the next 10 years, but is *really* close to a horrible horrible ghetto (old 4th ward, for those of you in Atlanta). \n\nMy wife, two kids and I lived on a bottom floor apartment with a walk up entrance that was near a bus stop, so there was a lot of foot traffic. We had two dogs (1 wimpy, 1 bloodhound) and we had no issues probably because of them. There were murders on our block, break ins, etc...but our lives were pretty peaceful. I had guys walk up to me when walking my dogs (I would always bring both at the same time) and ask me if they bit and I would always reply with, \"only when threatened\"", "I bet if you fuck the first burgled up, the others around the area will second guess following his path. ", "Have a kid and call him Kevin McCallister. Leave him behind when going in holiday and then let him beat the shit out of them when they arrive! ", "Former PDX police spokesman and tv personality for cop reality shows once told me after I had a home invasion that the two best pieces for home defense are a dog and a shotgun.", "For most people this is all they need.\n\n1. A dog as a deterrent/early warning system.\n\n2. Have nothing of substantial value that can be easily taken, only items that are cheaply and easily replaced.\n\n3. Don't paint yourself as a target with anything that suggests or looks valuable (even if it's not). Anything that is valuable, downgrade it in some fashion as to make it appear undesirable and unwanted.\n\n4. A gun to scare off intruders or to use in self defense.\n\n5. A large gun safe that also doubles as a personal items/laptop safe.\n\n6. Home owners insurance to cover fire or damage they may cause.\n\n7. Perhaps leave a token item to steal, like a Xbox or a cheap stereo, thus their hands are full and they may decide to leave with that rather than wreck the place.\n\nNothing else is really needed. Remove the reward or desire and you deter crime.\n\n\nIt's just about impossible to prevent a break-in or armed invasion, unless the structure is purposely built to defeat such measures. Like small windows, steel doors, all concrete construction, gates, waiting pens and enclosed garages/armored cars etc.\n\nIf you try to protect a structure (like with electronics) that doesn't adequately prevent physical entry, then your defaulting to warning systems which are ineffective as the crooks have a few minutes to force their way in and grab or do what they want. Alarms are ineffective if the criminal knows they have a means and time to escape.\n\nSo unless your structure is like fort, then defer to the 7 steps I advise above or your just blowing money and constantly worrying.\n\nIf you live in a historical house and have items that match a historical nature and are rare/valuable, have them copied and put the real ones in a special temperature controlled storage facility with 24/7security. Looks the same and the majority won't know any different. A electronic monitoring service is likely required as a dog isn't ideal for most historical restored homes as they do physical damage occasionally.\n", "Dont post vacations on facebook and instagram till after you get back from them, easy way to tell you're not going to be home if I can predict your life on the internet.\n\n", "Don't leave your facebook page public. Nothing like a bunch of updates from a tropical paradise to let people know you aren't at home.", "Don't leave any valuables in sight and live in the shittiest looking house in the neighbourhood. I haven't been locking my windows for 20 years.", "Consider getting Steel storm doors with a double dead bolt lock or getting a strong solid core door and re-enforcing the strike plate and jam to make your door more difficult to kick in.\nYou can pin any casement windows shut as well by drilling a small hole through the window and frame and securing them with a pin so they cant be easily forced open.", "Automated death canons and laser turrets. Sadly they won't make an appearance for another few years. ", "Alarms really have worked in my experience. My parents' house was broken into on two separate occasions while they were in vacation. Both times, the door was forced open and the theives left with it taking or touching anything. ", "1. Lights, lights, lights. Motion sensor lights, and a camera or two are both good ideas and cheap insurance/deterrents\n2. Even things like tools and grills can be valuable targets. Secure everything and invest in blackout drapes\n3. Adopt a dog from a shelter. They need your help and they will always protect your family, at the least by barking.\n4. Buy a shotgun. Better yet, buy 3.\n5. Good call.\n6. Pay for home security systems. It is worth it. Also invest in padlocks for fence gates etc. Simply makes it more physical and louder to jump your fences\n7. ...\n8. Yes. Clean out car first.\n9. ...\n10. Yep :) \n\nSounds like you know whats up already. Just buy yourself a nice shotgun and keep it handy (away from kids obvs.) ", "\nYou know those large construction tool chests with the recessed locks that can't be cut? \n\nJust put anything of value in there and have it placed in a area no one can easily see it, then drape a cloth over it and place some items on top.\n\nThey will need some serious power tools and about a few hours to cut through that box.\n\nIt's not impossible, but unlikely they will even bother if they do come across it.\n\nPut four bags of concrete in the bottom (320lbs+) so they can't even carry it off. Plus it has a hole for a power cord to charge things like laptops and phones.\n\nThe large box can even hold a 32\" flat screen TV.\n\n\n", "To the best of my knowledge, the NRA sticker on the back door has been working. Motion sensor lights work well too....", "Dogs don't do the trick that well. I used to garage hop for alcohol as a juvenile and when I encountered a dog I would simply role play as it's owner. I want to tell my sister this so bad because she is so dependent on her dog but I can't risk letting her know what I used to do." ]

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[ "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?", "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?", "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?", "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?", "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?", "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?", "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?", "How to combat with overly greasy hair?? Hey guys, for as long as I can remember, I have had hair issues. Not hair loss wise, but how it would look really good one day, then look like an oily mess the next day as I wake up. \n\nI mean, what gives? I literally woke up today with my hair looking great, then I took a shower just now, and it's extremely greasy, oily, and flat. ...How is this even possible ?\n\nFeels like I've tried everything. Am I just not washing it enough? Too much? I wash it every other day, but perhaps I need to start washing it once a week perhaps?" ]

[ "Unless you are sweating every day, you don't need to wash it with shampoo every other day. Try changing your shampoo, and skip the conditioner since your hair isn't dry. Try washing it with just hot water for a few days and see if that helps. Find a shampoo for oily hair and use it once a week. ", "Here's the deal... when you take something away from your body... it fights like hell to get it back. \n\nCalluses? Take too much away and they grow back thicker\nBreast milk? Baby drinks a lot? Body is all like \"OMG IT MUST BE STARVING MAKE MORE\"\nOil? Wash your hair too often (like every day) your body freaks out and starts making a stupid amount of oil. \n\nChill out on the hair washing... it'll take a few weeks but trust me... switching to every other day... or better... every 3 days will even that mess out\n\n", "I have oily hair and it helps not to wash it every day. I know it sounds weird but washing it too much makes it even more oily. Dry shampoo can help between washes to make it less oily.\n\nWhen I use conditioner I never put it on my scalp, only on the ends of my hair. Conditioner definitely makes it oily a lot faster. \n\nI use [Neutrogena anti-residue shampoo](https://www.target.com/p/neutrogena-174-anti-residue-shampoo-6oz/-/A-46820745?sid=1009S&ref=tgt_adv_XS000000&AFID=google_pla_df&CPNG=PLA_Health+Beauty+Shopping_Local&adgroup=SC_Health+Beauty&LID=700000001170770pgs&network=g&device=m&location=9007780&gclid=CjwKCAjw7frPBRBVEiwAuDf_LX_D-i5CJOB8aoaVVy1xGvrwVcTimYCZIijw4SkTn90jdkdwoA68GxoCQuYQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds) every couple of washes (use it before your regular shampoo) to help get off all the build up of oils. It really helps a lot.\n\n", "When I hit my 40's something changed and my hair became super oily. I did research on the internet, read lots of forum posts, but never found anything that would work. I could wash my hair 4 times and it would still feel oily - while I was still in the shower! Then I was visiting my mother and I used her boyfriend's shampoo, just to see. So, the solution to your problem is probably super easy *and* cheap. Suave shampoo. Not the fancy Suave that is trying to copy an expensive shampoo. Basic, super-cheap Suave. Make sure that the shampoo looks clear, not creamy. All of the scented ones should be fine - strawberry, rose, waterfall - but don't get the coconut - it looks creamy, I've tried it and it doesn't work. The best may be daily clarifying. That is typically the one that I use. \n\nNow, your hair is not going to feel amazing when it is wet when you use Suave. It is like the opposite of a nice moisturizing shampoo. Your hair will feel pretty rough, but that is because it will be *clean*. The oils that shampoos use to moisturize your hair are just making your hair even more oily. So, get used to how your hair feels with Suave, it should be fine when it dries. \n\nWhether to use conditioner is a big question. It is just going to put a bunch of oil onto your hair, so it probably isn't a great idea. If you do decide to use conditioner, the cheap Suave that matches your shampoo is probably going to be your best bet. First, I would recommend that you stop using conditioner altogether. It is pretty common for people to have conditioner build-up on their hair. A hair stylist once told me to stop using conditioner until my hair started getting hard to comb when I got out of the shower. It took weeks. I would recommend that you do that. If you do use conditioner only put it on the tips of your hair. Don't let it get near your scalp. \n\nMy stepdaughter recently complained to me about her hair being oily. She followed my advice and switched to Suave. When she got out of the shower the first time, she said, \"My hair feels terrible!\" After her hair dried she said, \"My hair feels soft.\" Now she only uses Suave. \n\nI hope this helps.\n\n\n", "I would check with a dermatologist, but I think the fungi in your scalp is overly active. Try using selsun blue, the red label that's for dry scalp. Your greasy scalp could be the result of it drying out too much, and your scalp overly produces oil. It's the same with pimples. If you just use soap, it'll dry them out and they'll shrink, but your body will notice the lack of oil on your skin and will produce more than needed making your skin feel incredibly oily. ", "My hair used to be very oily and after a rough few days I went do to washing it every second day. Now I’ve actually gone 3 days without washing it at times and it still doesn’t look greasy. ", "It means your oil glands in your scalp are overproducing to compensate for being dry or being washed too often.\nI agree that you should slowly begin weaning your hair off being washed every day. First every other day then let your hair adjust then move to 2-3 times a week until you adjust. It could take a few months for your hair to adjust. If you want to go the extra mile, you should look into doing what’s called an ACV rinse. It’s just rinsing hair with apple cider vinegar to get rid of build up. To get rid of the smell feel free to lightly apply shampoo or some conditioner but not the normal amount you would use when washing.\n\nI used to have the same problem and had dandruff! \nThis helped me and I even have dreadlocks now! I’ve had them in for over 5 years. I only thoroughly wash my hair once a week and I haven’t seen any dandruff in years. \n", "Dont shampoo your hair and when odor becomes a problem only use conditioner. Id always get compliments on my hair and my hygiene was horrible. I recalm another redditor posting a bachelor frog to the effect of \"gets conplimented on hair. Havent showered in a week\" something about lwtting hair do its own thing (accumulate oils etc) that just makes it malleable and nice as opposed to the springy floofy mess that a freshly washed head does. Also consider using pomade if your hair is short enough." ]

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[ "how to hasten digestion. I normally graze on light snacks through the day and rarely ever eat large meals in one sitting. My daytime food usually consists of stuff like boiled eggs, cereal, pretzels, fruit, trail mix, etc. then I'll eat a small meal in the evening. \n\nI went out to eat today for lunch and while I paced myself and the food I ate wasn't particularly heavy (a fish taco and rice, some tempura broccoli and calamari), I was almost to the point of being uncomfortably full. Four hours later and I still feel full. I've tried walking around the block, not laying down, and generally willing it away with my mind (didn't work), but I'm still feeling the heaviness. I want it to go away. \n\nI have normal digestion usually but I'm just not used to eating as much at one time. How do I encourage the process of digestion? ", "how to hasten digestion. I normally graze on light snacks through the day and rarely ever eat large meals in one sitting. My daytime food usually consists of stuff like boiled eggs, cereal, pretzels, fruit, trail mix, etc. then I'll eat a small meal in the evening. \n\nI went out to eat today for lunch and while I paced myself and the food I ate wasn't particularly heavy (a fish taco and rice, some tempura broccoli and calamari), I was almost to the point of being uncomfortably full. Four hours later and I still feel full. I've tried walking around the block, not laying down, and generally willing it away with my mind (didn't work), but I'm still feeling the heaviness. I want it to go away. \n\nI have normal digestion usually but I'm just not used to eating as much at one time. How do I encourage the process of digestion? " ]

[ "Might sound daft but look up baby tummy massage. I've done it on myself a few times and it's seemed to help. Its designed to release trapped wind, and help move food along the gut.\n\nHow effective it is for the latter, I don't know, but it does make me a bit more gassy not long after and indo feel better for it.", "Have you tried taking a probiotic? Definitely has helped with slow digestion issues I have experienced. I have also gotten sick less. I would go with a refrigerated pill form with 1billion acidophilus to start." ]

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[ "Packing and moving I'm moving this week and I'm pretty bad at packing, particularly the kitchen stuff. Any tips?", "Packing and moving I'm moving this week and I'm pretty bad at packing, particularly the kitchen stuff. Any tips?", "Packing and moving I'm moving this week and I'm pretty bad at packing, particularly the kitchen stuff. Any tips?", "Packing and moving I'm moving this week and I'm pretty bad at packing, particularly the kitchen stuff. Any tips?", "Packing and moving I'm moving this week and I'm pretty bad at packing, particularly the kitchen stuff. Any tips?" ]

[ "Kitchen stuff: Individually wrap EVERYTHING. I use kitchen towels, hand towels, socks, t-shirts, pillowcases, anything that fits (of course, this means your boxes are mixed together with bedroom stuff in kitchen boxes, etc... this never bothered me, but if it bothers you, get some packing paper and use that). Put a layer of padding at the bottom of the box, and layer padding between everything. Squeeze padding in on all sides. If you move the box and you hear stuff moving around, it's likely that it'll get broken. Wrap a sock around the handle of coffee mugs -- those are very delicate and often break. Stuff socks inside of mugs and glasses.\n\nMore smaller boxes are better than fewer big boxes. Big boxes are only good for pillows and other big but very light things. Trying to heave a giant box is terrible because it's so cumbersome. Boxes that fit comfortably in your hands are your best bet, even if you have to make more trips.\n\nKeep cords in the same box with the electronic device that they match. Seems obvious, but I've made that mistake before and it's not fun.\n\nSome might argue with me on this, but I never worry too much about \"organizing\" my stuff into proper boxes. Sure, it makes sense to put just clothes in one box, but when it comes to the miscellaneous items, you're likely going to reorganize in your new place anyway so it doesn't matter so much what stuff goes in what box. It's all going to the same place, it just needs to get there. Now, if you're moving more than just yourself or you have a huge amount of stuff, this might not be true for you.\n\nIf you have a suitcase, leave that for last and put enough stuff in there to last you a few days, as if you were leaving on a trip. Toothbrush, pajamas, phone charger, etc. You'll be exhausted after your move and you won't want to dig through all your boxes trying to find that one thing you need before falling into bed that first night. Having all the stuff you need every day handy makes unpacking far less stressful.\n\nGood luck! Moving sucks, I hope you get through it with a minimum of pain and suffering.", "Get rid of your boxes. Before my last move I went out and bought 12 [Roughneck Rubbermaid storage bins](http://www.walmart.com/ip/Rubbermaid-18-Gallon-Roughneck-Storage-Box-Blue-Set-of-12/16539917). It made packing and moving tremendously easier. All bins are the same size, they have handles for easy lifting, they're durable, waterproof, and will last for life. Also, they stack easily, so you can put three or four on a handcart and move effortlessly.\n\nNow if you're moving a mansion/hoarders house worth of stuff, this may not apply. And for big stuff or things like TVs, boxes may be unavoidable. Yet, if it's just an apartment, this is highly recommended.\n\nYou may also think this is expensive, but check out the[ price of moving boxes](http://www.officemax.com/office-supplies/shipping-mailing-supplies/box-moving-kits/product-prod210014). Also, you get to keep these storage bins for life and can use them elsewhere when not moving.", "While packing fragile stuff get tons of old paper/newspaper or even grocery plastic bags and wrap it around your stuff or use it as stuffing to line the boxes so loose items won't move around. Also, place smaller items in the bigger containers or appliances to save room. ", "Color co-ordinate boxes from each room of the house using colored stickers i.e blue stickers for the boxes from the kitchen.", "Wine boxes (as in boxes that bottles of wine come in, not boxed wine boxes) with the separator in them work beautifully for pint glasses and narrow wine glasses. They wedge them in place and tend to be really sturdy, so you don't have to worry about using additional packing material." ]

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[ "Remove Vomit Stains from White Leather? A very drunk friend vomited a bit on my new white leather couch, leaving several orange stains. Does anyone have any advice on ways to get the stains out? Or am I doomed to throwing a couch cover over it?", "Remove Vomit Stains from White Leather? A very drunk friend vomited a bit on my new white leather couch, leaving several orange stains. Does anyone have any advice on ways to get the stains out? Or am I doomed to throwing a couch cover over it?", "Remove Vomit Stains from White Leather? A very drunk friend vomited a bit on my new white leather couch, leaving several orange stains. Does anyone have any advice on ways to get the stains out? Or am I doomed to throwing a couch cover over it?", "Remove Vomit Stains from White Leather? A very drunk friend vomited a bit on my new white leather couch, leaving several orange stains. Does anyone have any advice on ways to get the stains out? Or am I doomed to throwing a couch cover over it?" ]

[ "Post this over in r/autodetailing, guarantee someone over there has gotten vomit out of leather before.", "Not sure if it works with leather but when getting stains out of white materials I always find toothpaste especially the whitening kind to do the best", "I think you're going to have the best luck with an enzymatic cleaner like the ones for pet accidents. Then maybe follow up with oxiclean. Best of luck to you.", "Don't even think of trying to remove the stains yourself unless you have professional experience in maintaining leather consumer goods. Find a professional leather cleaner and explain the situation to the 'Cleaner' (not the counter person) for advice on how to proceed. Leather is processed animal skin and is very susceptable to dye staining either intentionally or, in your case, accidently.\n\nI have over 30 years expeience in Dry Cleaning and Laundry. What I have suggested is the same thing I would do in the same situation as leather cleaning is a lot different than cleaning clothes. It might help to know the 'color source' for the stains. Ask your friend if they know what was in the puke that caused your inherited 'dye' stains. That knowledge may be beneficial to deciding on what to use to remove or lessen the visibility of the stains. Re-dying that section of the couch by hand will probably be necessary for full removal.\n\nHope this helps! Good luck." ]

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[ "Can I replace a shattered glass on a scanner without having to buy a new scanner? Can I use other materials than glass? Pretty much what the title says. The glass on my HP printer/scanner broke in million pieces during a move. The machine still seems to work, so I wonder whether I can simply replace the window pane? \n\nAny pointer?\n\n", "Can I replace a shattered glass on a scanner without having to buy a new scanner? Can I use other materials than glass? Pretty much what the title says. The glass on my HP printer/scanner broke in million pieces during a move. The machine still seems to work, so I wonder whether I can simply replace the window pane? \n\nAny pointer?\n\n" ]

[ "If I do a google search for \"replace scanner glass\", I find that not only is it evidently feasible, but also that there are people who will sell you the correct glass for your scanner.", "Scanner glass is fairly specific in its design, just like camera's, binoculars, and other optical devices.\n\nCan it be replaced with another type of glass? Short answer is yes, given that the glass must be of similar quality. Using window glass may distort your scans or introduce imperfections that are OK in a window but not so much on a lens. You risk losing a significant amount of quality by replacing with non standard glass.\n\nAlso, the replacement process may leave gaps to the interior of the device which allows dust and debris to accumulate causing quality issues in the future.\n\nI would recommend that you replace the glass from a kit or purchase a new scanner.\n\nHope this helps." ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "Looking for ways to deal with over thinking, I have a really bad habit of assuming the worst will happen all the time...I think everyone acts with some sort of angle in everything they do and that they are constantly judging me and think badly of me. ", "Looking for ways to deal with over thinking, I have a really bad habit of assuming the worst will happen all the time...I think everyone acts with some sort of angle in everything they do and that they are constantly judging me and think badly of me. " ]

[ "This goes beyond 'over-thinking' and into the realm of paranoia. \n\nI wish you the best but I think it goes beyond the scope of the average LPT redditor. I hope the right person comes here with the right advice. \n\n\nOh, and: I know how you feel... but I'm in no position to advise.\n\n\n", "As for people judging you, decide whether or not their opinions are important. \nIt's likely most of them aren't. \nThe opinions of those who aren't friends, family, or superiors, aren't worth fussing over. " ]

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[ "How to make duvet covers evenly, and consistently distribute the inside blanket. Seriously. Looking for ways to stop my duvet cover from being a sack of useless fluff. ", "How to make duvet covers evenly, and consistently distribute the inside blanket. Seriously. Looking for ways to stop my duvet cover from being a sack of useless fluff. ", "How to make duvet covers evenly, and consistently distribute the inside blanket. Seriously. Looking for ways to stop my duvet cover from being a sack of useless fluff. ", "How to make duvet covers evenly, and consistently distribute the inside blanket. Seriously. Looking for ways to stop my duvet cover from being a sack of useless fluff. ", "How to make duvet covers evenly, and consistently distribute the inside blanket. Seriously. Looking for ways to stop my duvet cover from being a sack of useless fluff. ", "How to make duvet covers evenly, and consistently distribute the inside blanket. Seriously. Looking for ways to stop my duvet cover from being a sack of useless fluff. " ]

[ "You grab two corners and violently shake, rotate corners, repeat. Then safety pin the corners though both the blanket and cover. Use the child lock pins", "Narrator: Well, what do you want me to do? You just want me to hit you? \nTyler Durden: C'mon, do me this one favor. \nNarrator: Why? \nTyler Durden: Why? I don't know why; I don't know. Never been in a fight. You? \nNarrator: No, but that's a good thing. \nTyler Durden: No, it is not. How much can you know about yourself, you've never been in a fight? I don't wanna die without any scars. So come on; hit me before I lose my nerve. \nNarrator: This is crazy. \nTyler Durden: So go crazy. Let 'er rip. \nNarrator: I don't know about this. \nTyler Durden: I don't either. Who gives a shit? No one's watching. What do you care? \nNarrator: Whoa, wait, this is crazy. You want me to hit you? \nTyler Durden: That's right. \nNarrator: What, like in the face? \nTyler Durden: [beat] Surprise me. \nNarrator: This is so fucking stupid... \n[Narrator swings, connects against Tyler's head] \nTyler Durden: Motherfucker! You hit me in the ear! \nNarrator: Well, Jesus, I'm sorry. \nTyler Durden: Ow, Christ... why the ear, man? \nNarrator: Guess I fucked it up... \nTyler Durden: No, that was perfect! \n\n", "I lay the cover flat on the floor and then get inside it with the duvet neatly folded in three, then I just unfold it from the inside", "There are Duvets and Duvet covers with ties on them. You tie them together and they don't move. If your bedding does not have ties, you can buy duvet clips or sew ties yourself. ", "My mother always sewed the corners of my duvet cover to my duvet inner with thick thread and they never bunched up, if I wanted to change it, I just unpicked the threads and repeated. ", "1) Flip the duvet cover inside out. \n\n2) Identify the which are the short/long sides of the duvet cover and comforter. \n\n3) Stick your arms \"into\" the inside out duvet cover and grab onto the two corners of the duvet cover furthest from you (the corners that are opposite to where the duvet cover opens). \n\nhttp://ak.c.ooyala.com/AzNDJpczr775XK0zyCyWhUfHEoA_bgCt/promo248724661\n(here's a random google image for reference)\n\n\n4) Keep hold of those two corners (you'll need to sort of scrunch up the duvet cover) and \"flip\" the duvet cover onto the comforter so it's no longer inside out.\n\nhttp://www.wikihow.com/Change-a-Duvet-Cover#/Image:Change-a-Duvet-Cover-Step-4.jpg\n\n5) Try to line up the duvet/comforter corners and edges of that side really well. \n\n6) Lastly, you can line up different sides of the duvet cover/comforter by lining up and simultaneously holding two other corners (using the initial line up/matching as a reference) and extending, or shaking, the comforter.\n\n" ]

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[ "How do I approach a homeless person respectfully and safely? I (19F) live on one of the busiest pedestrian streets in a big college town, and see quite a few homeless people every day. I really want to help sometimes, but haven't for a couple reasons. I don't know how to approach and start a conversation, first of all. And I don't know what I would talk about with them if I did. I know they're just people, but their lives are so different than mine that I feel any question I asked would sound silly. Also, as a young woman, I just don't know how safe I feel approaching, especially because I have heard stories about a couple of the guys getting aggressive with other people (who knows how true these stories are though). \n\nAny tips? ", "How do I approach a homeless person respectfully and safely? I (19F) live on one of the busiest pedestrian streets in a big college town, and see quite a few homeless people every day. I really want to help sometimes, but haven't for a couple reasons. I don't know how to approach and start a conversation, first of all. And I don't know what I would talk about with them if I did. I know they're just people, but their lives are so different than mine that I feel any question I asked would sound silly. Also, as a young woman, I just don't know how safe I feel approaching, especially because I have heard stories about a couple of the guys getting aggressive with other people (who knows how true these stories are though). \n\nAny tips? ", "How do I approach a homeless person respectfully and safely? I (19F) live on one of the busiest pedestrian streets in a big college town, and see quite a few homeless people every day. I really want to help sometimes, but haven't for a couple reasons. I don't know how to approach and start a conversation, first of all. And I don't know what I would talk about with them if I did. I know they're just people, but their lives are so different than mine that I feel any question I asked would sound silly. Also, as a young woman, I just don't know how safe I feel approaching, especially because I have heard stories about a couple of the guys getting aggressive with other people (who knows how true these stories are though). \n\nAny tips? ", "How do I approach a homeless person respectfully and safely? I (19F) live on one of the busiest pedestrian streets in a big college town, and see quite a few homeless people every day. I really want to help sometimes, but haven't for a couple reasons. I don't know how to approach and start a conversation, first of all. And I don't know what I would talk about with them if I did. I know they're just people, but their lives are so different than mine that I feel any question I asked would sound silly. Also, as a young woman, I just don't know how safe I feel approaching, especially because I have heard stories about a couple of the guys getting aggressive with other people (who knows how true these stories are though). \n\nAny tips? " ]

[ "Your best bet is to speak with organizations in your area that help with the homeless. Maybe you can help in a soup kitchen or shelter. This allows you to help many different people and provide a buffer between yourself and people that you do not know the situation of. \n\nThere are homeless people who are mentally stable and there are those who are not. This is the same for non homeless people but when you are in the streets you are on their turf.\n\nBy helping out groups that are already tied to the local homeless population you can help out and feel a stronger sense of protection and ability to build more personal relationships with those that you feel are ready for them.", "LPT - don't. Contact a charity or homeless organisation or volunteer at a shelter. But approaching people on the street isn't a great idea for various reasons. ", "I was homeless for a couple years. Reading all the shite on this page, especially \"most are mentally ill or traumatized or addicts\" (yes, we're all traumatized--it's traumatizing to be homeless) bummed me out. OP, how about a smile and a \"Hi, how are you?\" Then move on. Just being treated like you're an actual human being is a nice thing. And it won't get you too psychologically involved.", "You can't, a homeless guy lost his shit at my friend recently on the subway\n\nSome are playing with a whole other deck of cards\n\nMost are mentally ill or traumatized or addicts, most logical people don't just sit there on busy streets. If I was homeless I would steal milk crates and cardboard and wood pallets and build an awesome house in the forest.... Why do they not\n\nWhat is your goal, you gonna let them crash at your place? Take a shower and a hot meal? Have naughty sex with you?\n\n\nIf not. Then what value is your conversation offering? \n\n\nMaybe they will appreciate you treating them like a person, but maybe they will be suspicious, or worse, get super attached to a warm female presence\n\n\nI joined an org that went around giving them blankets and sandwiches. Give them money sometimes , more than just a quarter so they can get high if they want, or offer them actual food\n\n" ]

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[ "How to get the most out of college visits? I’m visiting Michigan Tech this Monday, any tips? (I’ll be visiting more colleges later too if you see this too late)", "How to get the most out of college visits? I’m visiting Michigan Tech this Monday, any tips? (I’ll be visiting more colleges later too if you see this too late)", "How to get the most out of college visits? I’m visiting Michigan Tech this Monday, any tips? (I’ll be visiting more colleges later too if you see this too late)" ]

[ "Try to ask some regular students besides your tour guides questions. Your tour guide is probably getting paid to convince you to come to the school.", "While things like food and dorming are important, make sure you focus on if they have your degree, what requirements there, is there freshman forgiveness or just a forgiveness policy in general, what your mock schedule might look like. They try to get you interested by showing off pools and food and crap, but that’s not the most important part!", "Are you getting a guided tour of the campus? \n\nSpend some time looking over their website: https://www.mtu.edu\n\nAsk a lot of questions about Financial Aid, \n\nStudent life: dorms and activities (Looong winters at MTU). Can you look at the dorms?\n\nDo you know your likely major? You can ask about that. If you need to catch up on anything you might have missed in high school or community college, etc\n\nDo you have questions about transfer cr" ]

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[ "Has anyone used artificial intelligence to analyze recipes to determine what I need to have in my pantry at all times? There are too many spices/herbs/oils to buy them all - can someone share a link/list that shows the frequency of each item in recipe’s and the amount per recipe so I can plan how much of a particular ingredient I should buy? Bonus points if there is one specifically for Thermomix recipes.", "Has anyone used artificial intelligence to analyze recipes to determine what I need to have in my pantry at all times? There are too many spices/herbs/oils to buy them all - can someone share a link/list that shows the frequency of each item in recipe’s and the amount per recipe so I can plan how much of a particular ingredient I should buy? Bonus points if there is one specifically for Thermomix recipes." ]

[ "https://www.recipesseo.com/ingredients can help you start, it averages specific recipes for ingredients but not all food from everywhere, so I'd pick a few favorites and go from there", "You don't need AI for this. Just use your head.\nBuy the ingredients you need for the dish you are creating. You'll use fresh ingredients where possible and accumulate long shelf life goods as you go.\n\nI always joke that all recipes start with oil, onion, garlic and chilli. Then you start adding different stuff depending on which country the recipe is from. And pretty much, it's true for most.\n\nThere's also a skill to being able to make a dish from whatever you have lying around. Necessity is the mother of invention. That skill will come with time and through hard times.\n\nIf you still don't want to use your brain, there is a recipe site where you add the ingredients you have and it will find recipes containing those ingredients, I'm sure you'll find it with a quick search, but learning properly from experience will pay off in the long run." ]

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[ "What are some things that cause stress without consciously thinking about them? For example, I cleaned my room and the rest of my house today. I'm feeling a lot better now and less stressed. I also feel a lot less lethargic, which I felt all winter break long, and wasn't productive at all. As an 18M, are there any things I might not be realizing that are causing stress in my life? Or basic things that adults do that I may be overlooking in my daily life?", "What are some things that cause stress without consciously thinking about them? For example, I cleaned my room and the rest of my house today. I'm feeling a lot better now and less stressed. I also feel a lot less lethargic, which I felt all winter break long, and wasn't productive at all. As an 18M, are there any things I might not be realizing that are causing stress in my life? Or basic things that adults do that I may be overlooking in my daily life?", "What are some things that cause stress without consciously thinking about them? For example, I cleaned my room and the rest of my house today. I'm feeling a lot better now and less stressed. I also feel a lot less lethargic, which I felt all winter break long, and wasn't productive at all. As an 18M, are there any things I might not be realizing that are causing stress in my life? Or basic things that adults do that I may be overlooking in my daily life?", "What are some things that cause stress without consciously thinking about them? For example, I cleaned my room and the rest of my house today. I'm feeling a lot better now and less stressed. I also feel a lot less lethargic, which I felt all winter break long, and wasn't productive at all. As an 18M, are there any things I might not be realizing that are causing stress in my life? Or basic things that adults do that I may be overlooking in my daily life?", "What are some things that cause stress without consciously thinking about them? For example, I cleaned my room and the rest of my house today. I'm feeling a lot better now and less stressed. I also feel a lot less lethargic, which I felt all winter break long, and wasn't productive at all. As an 18M, are there any things I might not be realizing that are causing stress in my life? Or basic things that adults do that I may be overlooking in my daily life?" ]

[ "Trying to remember stuff. \nI recently admitted to myself that I am shit at remembering stuff. I don't think I am worse than average, but I think that people generally are bad at this. I now use a list app for everything. If a thought enters my head about something I need to do I add it. \nCombined with regularly working through my lists this means that I no longer have to worry about forgetting things or deal with the repercussions of having forgotten stuff. . This has reduced my stress a lot. ", "Could be as simple as staying well hydrated, well fed and well rested. Stay social and active, even a walk and a chat on the phone to a mate helps me. I don't know about you but for me it's easy to forget these things and I become so absorbed into the internet and end up doing nothing all day.", "There are plenty of \"subconscious\" stressors that our minds pick up on that our conscious brains don't acknowledge, and tidiness is certainly one of them, both in your sleeping quarters, common areas, vehicle and workspace. Regular sleep patterns and reducing the amount of loud noises you encounter also lower ambient stress levels, as does allegedly earning $75k per year (the threshold at which one becomes \"happy\", or so I read).", "I have an office job, so I wake at similar times. I do have similar issues though due to client appointments messing with my \"ideal\" routine. \nWhat I do is have them repeating on regular intervals anyway. On a Friday afternoon I look ahead to next week and move any of my regular items that have conflicts. \nWith a college type schedule I'd probably just have different repeating tasks for each day of the week. For example, if I ran every weekday I'd have \"Monday run\" \"Tuesday run\" etc as different events repeating at the time most likely to work - then just look ahead to fix any days when it doesn't. \nIt's not foolproof, but proving to yourself that there is time by scheduling it out is a good step in its own right. ", "Having a budget with YNAB made some invisible stresses disappear.\n\nNo cook freezer meals made food less of a stress.\n\nPlanning maintenance for house and car in google calendar removed yet another layer of unnoticed stress." ]

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[ "How To Make a Good Powerpoint So I am wondering what does it take to make a good PowerPoint presentation? Sometimes I am sick of my white background and helvetica. I try to see some crappy design to avoid those design. But it's hard for me to find a nice tips or a good example. ", "How To Make a Good Powerpoint So I am wondering what does it take to make a good PowerPoint presentation? Sometimes I am sick of my white background and helvetica. I try to see some crappy design to avoid those design. But it's hard for me to find a nice tips or a good example. ", "How To Make a Good Powerpoint So I am wondering what does it take to make a good PowerPoint presentation? Sometimes I am sick of my white background and helvetica. I try to see some crappy design to avoid those design. But it's hard for me to find a nice tips or a good example. ", "How To Make a Good Powerpoint So I am wondering what does it take to make a good PowerPoint presentation? Sometimes I am sick of my white background and helvetica. I try to see some crappy design to avoid those design. But it's hard for me to find a nice tips or a good example. " ]

[ "If you are going to present in a room with dimmed lights, use a dark background with light text (but the text doesn't need to be too bright); it will make the reading experience much easier.\n\nSlides should be an anchor for what you're saying. For instance, three short points (preferably less than a sentence) that are your main conclusions on this topic. On cultural topics you can show art, cartoons and the like that underscore your point; data can of course be presented through graphs.\n\nMake sure the presentation appears to have basic structure. For instance, put a logo of your company or university on the title slide. Include a header or footer with page numbers or the date. Divide your presentation into sections if it seems appropriate. These choices will be guided by the context of the presentation and what seems typical in your field.\n\nOffer to make presentations available to interested attendees. It will be helpful for you to design your presentation keeping in mind that someone may look at it in isolation.", "I'm sure others will have lots of tips for you, but my best tip is to bring some light refreshments like pop, cookies and candy from costco or safeway. People will love your presentation regardless.", "I'll second PresidentStool's comment 100%.\n\nHonestly, the best thing to do is to always focus on the talk, and THEN build a powerpoint around it. A slide should only be used if you have anything important to add onto the talk - if not, you'll be better off without one :) \n\nStart by thinking about what you want to have in the presentation - make a short list! Then find 3 sub-points to them (if necessary), and then talk about those points in front of a mirror (as if you were presenting). While you're doing that, make a mental note of anything you'd want behind you (graphs, data, maybe a couple of words for emphasize your points), and then add them in. If you don't have anything to add, that's fine!\n\nWith regards to design, I always used a template. The key is to find some templates online. Here's an example of one I used: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1sPwE7kANohPQrfWaqfpRlg3qZap6w_83RMvIzqT_s1M/", "If you really want to step your game up you can use Presi. It takes a bit to get the hang of but it is super proffessional looking and unique compared to PP" ]

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[ "How to pour soup, canned vegetables, sauce, etc. without splashing A [previous tip suggesting pouring soup against the lid](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/11dj8e/lpt_pour_soup_against_the_lid_to_prevent_splashing/) was ridiculed for being pointless, but honestly no matter how slowly and carefully I pour soup, at least some of it will splash out of the bowl onto the counter and my hands.\n\nEspecially with heterogeneous liquids like chunky soup or canned tomatoes, tilting the bowl or pouring slowly onto the lid of the can or onto a spoon still results in droplets splashing out of the bowl. How do you prevent this?", "How to pour soup, canned vegetables, sauce, etc. without splashing A [previous tip suggesting pouring soup against the lid](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/11dj8e/lpt_pour_soup_against_the_lid_to_prevent_splashing/) was ridiculed for being pointless, but honestly no matter how slowly and carefully I pour soup, at least some of it will splash out of the bowl onto the counter and my hands.\n\nEspecially with heterogeneous liquids like chunky soup or canned tomatoes, tilting the bowl or pouring slowly onto the lid of the can or onto a spoon still results in droplets splashing out of the bowl. How do you prevent this?", "How to pour soup, canned vegetables, sauce, etc. without splashing A [previous tip suggesting pouring soup against the lid](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/11dj8e/lpt_pour_soup_against_the_lid_to_prevent_splashing/) was ridiculed for being pointless, but honestly no matter how slowly and carefully I pour soup, at least some of it will splash out of the bowl onto the counter and my hands.\n\nEspecially with heterogeneous liquids like chunky soup or canned tomatoes, tilting the bowl or pouring slowly onto the lid of the can or onto a spoon still results in droplets splashing out of the bowl. How do you prevent this?", "How to pour soup, canned vegetables, sauce, etc. without splashing A [previous tip suggesting pouring soup against the lid](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/11dj8e/lpt_pour_soup_against_the_lid_to_prevent_splashing/) was ridiculed for being pointless, but honestly no matter how slowly and carefully I pour soup, at least some of it will splash out of the bowl onto the counter and my hands.\n\nEspecially with heterogeneous liquids like chunky soup or canned tomatoes, tilting the bowl or pouring slowly onto the lid of the can or onto a spoon still results in droplets splashing out of the bowl. How do you prevent this?", "How to pour soup, canned vegetables, sauce, etc. without splashing A [previous tip suggesting pouring soup against the lid](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/11dj8e/lpt_pour_soup_against_the_lid_to_prevent_splashing/) was ridiculed for being pointless, but honestly no matter how slowly and carefully I pour soup, at least some of it will splash out of the bowl onto the counter and my hands.\n\nEspecially with heterogeneous liquids like chunky soup or canned tomatoes, tilting the bowl or pouring slowly onto the lid of the can or onto a spoon still results in droplets splashing out of the bowl. How do you prevent this?" ]

[ "Here is the answer.\n\n1. Open can of soup\n2. Place bowl on top of soup can as if it were the lid\n3. Flip over so can of soup is now on top\n4. If needed stab bottom of soup can (now that it's facing up) with ice pick to allow air in to break vacuum.\n5. Lift can slowly\n\nOptional - use a deeper bowl, or do the above in a sink. No wiping up after.", "Get different bowls? We have parabolic bowls, and never have this problem, but our old flat bottomed bowls did.\n\nAlso I tip the bowl to the can, the way you'd tip a beer glass to a tap, to lower the velocity at which the can's contents come out, and shake the can beforehand so it's a more consistent viscosity, and you don't have chunks of doom plopping out.", "Do it the Chem lab style, i.e. Put a rod (or spoon, or fork, or chopsticks, anything straight and long) into the bowl, then pour onto the rod.", "This doesn't work as well for soups with chunky ingredients, but for drinks, sauces, or broths, tilt the bowl like you stereotypically see a beer being poured. This prevents splashing that would normally happen when you just straight pour into the container.", "There isn't really to much you can do. Just a few things you can try to minimize the damage. Use a spoon and scrape out the \"solid\" stuff before the liquid so to prevent big splashes when solid hits liquid. Also, keep the can low to reduce its final velocity when it hits the bowl. Also remember to not \"hold back\" too much when pouring or you wont break the cohesive forces of the can and liquid (The stuff drips down the side of the can)." ]

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[ "Three things.\n\n* Get real sleep. Pulling an all nighter for any reason is short sighted.\n* Watch carbs/sugars at lunch. A protein meal will not make you sleepy.\n* Drink water. You can't fall asleep while eating/drinking. You'll piss lots, but that will keep you awake too.\n", "Take notes, it will keep you focused and if you have questions later no one can accuse you of not paying attention. ", "Surprised nobody has mentioned power naps. Taking a couple 15 minute naps, if possible, during the day will keep you fresh. This is coming from somebody with anxiety disorder who used to be sleepy all day for psychological reasons.", "I'm no woo-merchant, but I find that pinching my earlobes between my thumb and forefinger helps keep me alert, especially in the late afternoon. \n\nThere are acupuncture points on the earlobes that supposedly stimulate neural pathways in the brain but I find the pinching and rolling, and the very slight amount of pain and heat generated, helps bring me back into focus.", "How not to fall asleep? Don't go on Reddit after 10pm and you'l just get bored and go to bed earlier probably", "Food. Lots of it. Apples are good, as is food that takes a long time to eat/prepare, such as oranges, as you have to peal them.\n\nIf you aren't allowed food, chewing gum is good.", "sleeptyi.me this site tells you when to wake up in the morning to avoid grogginess and i stay alert all day ", "Stand up! This seems weird people but no one in the lecture or meeting will mind and most people respect the fact that your are actively trying to pay attention. But like other people have said get some sleep if possible.", "Wash your face before the meeting. Wet your ears and neck, and don't dry them off. The sudden coolness on your ears and neck would wake you up and keep you fresh.", "Try doing some light exercise in the morning (or before the session of training/meeting/lecture). I've found that being physically active for even a little bit of time makes me feel more awake throughout the day.\n\nAlso, drink more water. Dehydration can cause fatigue.", "Actual answer; screw these guys: hold your keys or a cr" ]

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[ "Small First Aid Kit I am trying to put together a small first aid kit together before I leave for college and I was wondering if there are any products out there I should know about beyond the obvious band aids, gauze, and topical antibiotics. ", "Small First Aid Kit I am trying to put together a small first aid kit together before I leave for college and I was wondering if there are any products out there I should know about beyond the obvious band aids, gauze, and topical antibiotics. ", "Small First Aid Kit I am trying to put together a small first aid kit together before I leave for college and I was wondering if there are any products out there I should know about beyond the obvious band aids, gauze, and topical antibiotics. ", "Small First Aid Kit I am trying to put together a small first aid kit together before I leave for college and I was wondering if there are any products out there I should know about beyond the obvious band aids, gauze, and topical antibiotics. " ]

[ "Mine contains:\n\n* Gauze\n\n* Pepto-Bismol\n\n* Nasal Spray\n\n* Acetaminophen\n\n* Ibuprofin\n\n* Tape\n\n* Gauze pads\n\n* Anti-Itch cream\n\n* Hand sanitizer\n\n* Antibiotic Ointment\n\n* Several sizes of adhesive bandage\n\n* Immodium\n\n* Alcohol swabs\n\n* Cough Drops\n\n* Antacids\n\n* Benadryl\n\n* Anti-Congestion meds\n\n* Nail clippers\n\n* Scissors", "Hemp string. It's a really handy thing to have and you'll come across a lot of situations where it'll be helpful. Fishing line also works :)", "Liquid bandage if you can find it. Super glue or nail glue if you can't. Also throw in benedryl pills. It helps with allergic reactions everywhere, not just in your nose. \nIf you have the means, get a supply of saline and IVs and learn how to use em right. Hangover helper. But do NOT under any circumstance try to use it without knowing how. You can cause massive bruising and get air bubbles in your blood stream.", "Instructions....\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/American-Cross-First-Safety-Handbook/dp/0316736465/ref=sr_1_12?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1343343098&sr=1-12&keywords=first+aid" ]

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[ "Block Paypal and Netflix spam/phishing emails in Hotmail I get constantly spammed with emails from \"paypal\" and \"netflix\" about needing to update my credentials or payment info. The problem is it's always coming from a new domain/email so I'm not sure how to block them completely.", "Block Paypal and Netflix spam/phishing emails in Hotmail I get constantly spammed with emails from \"paypal\" and \"netflix\" about needing to update my credentials or payment info. The problem is it's always coming from a new domain/email so I'm not sure how to block them completely.", "Block Paypal and Netflix spam/phishing emails in Hotmail I get constantly spammed with emails from \"paypal\" and \"netflix\" about needing to update my credentials or payment info. The problem is it's always coming from a new domain/email so I'm not sure how to block them completely." ]

[ "If they all have the same content, find an odd sentence in them that you don’t think you will see in any other emails and create a filter that sends all emails that contain that sentence to junk.", "I'm getting the same thing every day. It seems the spam filter is pretty poor on Hotmail. I've been flagging every email as Junk in the hope that there's something behind the scenes that might start to kick into gear and block these new emails, but nothing is happening.", "I'm so glad you asked this question. It's been an absolute onslaught for a couple years for me with these Netflix and Paypal phishing scams. I report each and every one of them to Microsoft, but still they don't let up. Will be trying to create filters again, previous ones don't seem to work. Look forward to others' replies on fixing this shit. Sure do wish the authorities, telecom, even Netflix or Paypal, would get involved to make it stop." ]

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[ "How to take control of a conversation. Aside from \"be a man\", what steps could I take to take control of a conversation? I always find myself getting 1 upped and overshadowed in just about every conversation I get into with another person (men specifically). ", "How to take control of a conversation. Aside from \"be a man\", what steps could I take to take control of a conversation? I always find myself getting 1 upped and overshadowed in just about every conversation I get into with another person (men specifically). ", "How to take control of a conversation. Aside from \"be a man\", what steps could I take to take control of a conversation? I always find myself getting 1 upped and overshadowed in just about every conversation I get into with another person (men specifically). ", "How to take control of a conversation. Aside from \"be a man\", what steps could I take to take control of a conversation? I always find myself getting 1 upped and overshadowed in just about every conversation I get into with another person (men specifically). " ]

[ "Really too vague here\n\nI work in IT and have to guide people through fixing shit over the phone. That's rather straight forward\n\nI just cut the fuckers off when they stop to breathe\n\nIf you're talking about just getting one upped. People are going to relate to your stories by sharing their own. The vast majority fo the time they are probably not trying to \"one up\" you. \n\nIf you give a story about a tech issue to a tech guy he's going to have his own story. Or a guy into sports. Or whatever\n\nIf you feel \"overshadowed\" all the time maybe you're just not projecting confidence or aren't very good at storytelling like don't have comedic timing? \n\nAssuming you know about the topic should be pretty easy to put yourself in a conversation...\n", "One big thing I've learned from having to speak with new people all the time.\nThe person who asks the questions owns the conversation.\nI forgot where I heard this, but it's stuck with me for a long time.\n\n\"How are you?\"\n\"What did you do in your holidays?\"\n\"Yes sir, have you seen the documents I sent you?\"\n\"Are you up to date on the latest memo?\"\n\nEven speaking to a superior officer/manager you can own the conversation like this.\nYou control the flow of conversation, you choose where it goes.", "Ha. I'm not too sure what \"be a man\" means, but the best way to take control of a conversation/discussion/debate is to be informed on the subject matter\n\nAlso, allow your views to remain objective i.e. questionable and admit when you are wrong or atleast acknowledge the possibility that you MAY BE wrong.\n\nDo these things and you'll be fine until you figure out the finer points.\n\nLastly, aometimes the smartest thing is to say is *nothing* so if you don't know anything about what's being said, just listen", "As far as dealing with one-uppers, they will always be there. \n\nSome dudes just feel the need to strut their dicks around. The only reason they do it is because they either feel deeply insecure or feel threatened by you in some way.\n\n" ]

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[ "What to do in the event of vehicle breakdown? Recently I was driving my car up a hill on a busy street when the accelerator and brakes stopped working. The car started sliding back and I pulled the emergency hand break and turned on my hazard lights as is standard. However, given how it all happened suddenly and I was in the leftmost lane in a busy road, up a hill, it was basically impossible for me to get out and push the car over to the side of the road by myself. I decided the best course of action then was to stay in my vehicle and seek help from the AAA membership which I had gotten for these exact situations.\n\nHere comes the problem though, not only was I on hold for nearly 30 minutes, but after I finally got in contact with a representative they couldn't find my address even though I kept mentioning nearby landmarks and the closest intersection. They then decided to transfer me to a more local branch, which was located in a whole other town at least one hour away (probably closer to two with traffic). \n\nI came to realize at that moment that AAA is not entirely reliable and although I understand these services do take time, I was wondering if there is anything else I could have done to leave that situation faster. Not exactly asking to get towed all the way to my house, but at least to get moved out of that spot to the side of the road. \n\nSupplemental information: this happened in Atlanta, GA at around 5:20 PM. AAA's closest agency was in Macon, GA. I eventually managed to get the car to work again and drove it back home after testing it out for a bit within a quiet neighborhood that was nearby, then canceled the AAA request and will probably cancel the membership as well.", "What to do in the event of vehicle breakdown? Recently I was driving my car up a hill on a busy street when the accelerator and brakes stopped working. The car started sliding back and I pulled the emergency hand break and turned on my hazard lights as is standard. However, given how it all happened suddenly and I was in the leftmost lane in a busy road, up a hill, it was basically impossible for me to get out and push the car over to the side of the road by myself. I decided the best course of action then was to stay in my vehicle and seek help from the AAA membership which I had gotten for these exact situations.\n\nHere comes the problem though, not only was I on hold for nearly 30 minutes, but after I finally got in contact with a representative they couldn't find my address even though I kept mentioning nearby landmarks and the closest intersection. They then decided to transfer me to a more local branch, which was located in a whole other town at least one hour away (probably closer to two with traffic). \n\nI came to realize at that moment that AAA is not entirely reliable and although I understand these services do take time, I was wondering if there is anything else I could have done to leave that situation faster. Not exactly asking to get towed all the way to my house, but at least to get moved out of that spot to the side of the road. \n\nSupplemental information: this happened in Atlanta, GA at around 5:20 PM. AAA's closest agency was in Macon, GA. I eventually managed to get the car to work again and drove it back home after testing it out for a bit within a quiet neighborhood that was nearby, then canceled the AAA request and will probably cancel the membership as well." ]

[ "Uphill and left lane both make this particularly tricky. If possible, steer clear of live traffic ( since you were in the left lane, onto the left shoulder if available). Being in the left lane, you would be well within the traffic flow, so *don't* exit the vehicle, as people get killed doing so. Just put your hazard lights on and wait for help to arrive if the vehicle won't function. \n\nSince you were stuck in live traffic, a call to the nonemergency police line may have gotten an officer out to help block and protect you and the vehicle. But maybe not, that really depends on availability of officers.", "It sounds like you did what you needed to do to the best of your abilities. The only thing I would have suggested would have been to get the car into neutral and rolled it backwards to the sidewalk or a parking lot when there was no traffic in the rear view mirror, but theres a lot of x factors I would know to account for.\nCanceling triple a was a good idea. It's obvious they will not be there if you are in need, and when you cancel it you should make sure the company understands why you are canceling." ]

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[ "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated", "How to fall asleep when your mind is restless Second night in a row, body and eyes are both tired but when I close my eyes to sleep its very clear my mind will not be letting me sleep. I toss and turn for the better part of 6 hours before catching 2 hours of sleep before work. Any tips are very appreciated" ]

[ "Take an hour or so before bed off of your computer or laptop or whatever and just read, have a nightcap, m", "It's a bandaid but Melatonin has been a life saver. It is a chemical naturally produced when you get sleepy and it's dark. The important thing to note is you must be ready to go to sleep before taking it. Staying up on your phone or watching tv will negate the effects.", "a bit late, try finding a way you like to lay when sleeping, try after laying a little while in the dark to turn to that position and calm your mind, close your eyes and think of whatever come to your mind it´ll become your sleeping pill. this works for me and im a very bad sleeper, my bedtime can range from 22 to 4 in the morning ( I play games xD) and I usually have to get up at 6:45, for school.", "Start practicing good [sleep hygiene.](https://www.sleepassociation.org/patients-general-public/insomnia/sleep-hygiene-tips/) \n\nFor the short term and as needed, melatonin works wonders. If need something a little stronger take an antihistamine. There are several that have been marketed as sleep aids. I've noticed them in the pharmacy. \n\nIf you're not on a regular sleep rhythm with all that, then see a doctor. There's potentially something more serious at play and it's best to talk it out. They often like to start with some heavy hitters that might knock you out, you take those for a bit (a week or so) just to help get your routine going, and if that doesn't work you go from there. Eventually you sleep for a study, or three, and they give you something to help resolve the root cause of your sleep issues. ", "I'll mention what I do to help me sleep. I used to have a very hard time falling asleep. What I do is breath and count. One breath in is 1, a breath out is 2. I just repeat 1 and 2 over and over in my head. It keeps your mind focused on something else that is boring.\n\nThe only problem I have run into with this method is that your mind will learn to multi-task when doing it, so you will have to try to stay focused on counting and breathing.", "I use audio books and focus on the story. As long as my mind is just restless not dwelling on amything in particular I tend to fall asleep or at least stay still enough to feel rested by the time it's time to get up. ", "I repeat list of things. Currently in rotation are naming big game animals of North America or the green items in the produce section. ", "I create stories in my head, read, write, listen to music or to a podcast.\n\nI found out that uing the computer without flux also kind of works, but I don't recommend that, because usually when you wake up you feel more tired.", "I concentrate on the patterns that form behind your closed eyelids. They get freakier and freakier, and eventually, you fall asleep. Works every time. ", "I am not exactly sure what is keeping you up, but it definitely sounds like you need to m" ]

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[ "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. ", "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. ", "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. ", "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. ", "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. ", "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. ", "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. ", "What to say/do (to avoid sounding rude) when someone you've met before doesn't recall & reintroduces themselves to you. " ]

[ "just state that you've met before in a positive way. with a smile on your face. \"ohh, yeah, hey, we've met before\" not \"yeah dude. we've met.\" while youre rolling your eyes. have an undertone that you remember meeting him before and it was a positive thing. not that youre annoyed that the person didnt remember. ", "Some people (like me!) have a major lack of facial recognition. We're not trying to be douchebags, we genuinely can't remember having met you before. I see people at my husband's work parties who I've known and met repeatedly for 3 years now, and I still don't know who they are.\n\nI just try really hard to be like, \"Oh yea, how you been?\" instead of \"Nice to meet you\" at those things. :P", "The first time, I roll with it, the second time I say \"oh yeah! I remember you!\" excitedly (like running into an old friend at wal-mart) the third time, I'm perfectly fine with being rude. It helps you stick out. (And I got one person ask me out when I exclaimed \"OH MY GOD, THIS IS MY FOURTH TIME INTRODUCING MYSELF TO YOU. COME. ON!\"", "No, they just don't want to acknowlege that you've met. Maybe they think you're annoying, or maybe they don't want to open the door to a friendship/relationship.\n\n*\n\nI once re-met a guy (whom I was interested in). On reminding him of our previous encounter he complimented me on my 'excellent memory' then immediately excused himself.", "Just reintroduce yourself. Sometimes i remember a face but not a name, so i will say 'hey i'm ___, i know we met but i can't quite remember your name', though many omit the latter portion of that and simply imply it.", "I'm better at remembering faces than I am at being remembered, it's happened to me a few times. It shouldn't be a fuss or anything just politely say \"oh no, I've met you before mate, you might not remember me\" then say where or when you met. Also you'll earn points for not forgetting them, whilst they forgot you. ", "I will typically say \"Nice to meet you\", and then in a few beats say, \"I think I may have met you before\", at which point you can fake recall along with them.", "I could have used some help a couple of weeks ago.\n\nMy friend was having a birthday party that included many friends from high school, though not everyone kept in touch after graduating 7 years ago. One gal walked in and was probably overwhelmed by the number of faces sitting around the table so she said hello to her friends first, sat down directly across from me and politely extended her hand to me and said \"I don't believe we've met, I'm Sarah.\" People sitting around us knew that we all went to school together, so I couldn't feign stupidity, so I shook her hand and reminded her of my name and that we actually went to the same school. She seemed embarrassed so I tried to play it off like \"Oh, my hair is a different color (now red, then brown), it's hard to recognize me.\" Kind of funny." ]

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[ "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??", "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??", "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??", "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??", "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??", "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??", "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??", "How to save money? I'm really bad at saving but I need to start soon, I have a saving account but with mobile banking it is so easy to simply transfer the money into my current account and spend.\n\nI'm planning on moving to a different city for university in 6 months and need to get an apartment and furnish if as well as having a 'nest egg' to fall back on if needs must. How can I save effectively??" ]

[ "idk if this will help you or not, but I set up a weekly Transfer from my checking to Savings account. I never touch my savings account.. or at least won't until something like and emergency comes up. Regardless, it helps me save money each week and it adds up after a while.", "The first thing I did was to set up a savings account with a different bank than my primary. That way I wasn't easily tempted to transfer money back into my checking account and spend it. Then I started listening to Dave Ramsey, and followed some easy steps to pay off my debts. After a year of working the plan, I can now say that saving is a way of life and I don't even consciously think about it any more.", "Have you created a budget?\n\nI just use Excel with entries for each bill. Indicate how much you can spend on that bill, its due date and note specific debits with any confirmation numbers or details you might need later.\n\nAn example of ours:\n\nBILL-----AMT.------DUE----BALANCE-----DEBIT------DEBIT-\n---------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nRent------630----------4/1-------0---------------630----------------- \n\nElectric----67----------4/1--------0---------------67------------------\n\nWater-----48----------4/1--------0---------------48------------------\n\nGroceries--400---------monthly---50--------------210---------140---\n\nFun $$----100---------monthly---25--------------50-----------25----\n\nDate Nite--100---------monthly---23--------------77-----------------\n\nSomeone told me mint.com has the same thing but I don't keep a smart phone so you'll have to look into that on your own.\n\nYou can even just get a checkbook register and keep notes by hand or try the [envelope method](http://www.daveramsey.com/store/cENV.html?s_kwcid=TC|6886|dave%20ramsey%20envelope%20system||S|e|36045174266&gclid=CLWEmITT5r0CFYyhOgodWGkAKg). Ultimately, you just have to make a plan and stick to it.\n\nMy boyfriend and I don't make very much money and thought we were barely making it paycheck-to-paycheck. We started keeping a budget in January. Keep in mind we had a few months in 2013 where we were scrounging for change and eating Ramen on more than one occasion. When I started the budget at the beginning of the year, we literally had $1.73 in our checking account. Over the last 3.5 months, we've saved $2100 by simply sticking to our budget. We've even had major work done on our car twice ($600 and $240). And, in two months, we're moving across the entire country and will have more than enough to cover the move, move-in costs to our new house and have a couple grand left over for some new furniture. :)\n\nIf you REALLY want this, you just need to discipline yourself. It's the only way. I hope you do it! It's so rewarding.", "Don't buy unnecessary stuff, cook your own food instead of eating out of the house, you don't always need new clothes, you can keep up with that slow phone for another year, stuff like that.", "The easiest thing for me to do was to transfer the remaining balance of my checking account into my savings come payday. Also, any unexpected money goes into savings. Not dipping into that savings is really a matter of discipline though.", "Grandfather said, if you count the cents, the dollars take care of themselves. \n\nWhat really helped me was setting that big goal of purchasing my first home. Everything that took money away from saving for that down payment was something I had to really think about if I wanted it more than my home. Once you get your first mortgage you're now officially in the game. Every payment on your mortgage is a forced savings account into your own pocket rather than throwing money into the wind. \n\nOnce I had a mortgage, I thought about it in terms of a MARS bar... That mars bar that I think will cost me 1 dollar right now is actually going to cost me 17 dollars based on the amount of money still owed and interest over the course of my 25 year mortgage. \n\nWhen I thought about it this way, it was so much easier to skip on those frivolous things. Things that mattered like food, transport, drinks with friends etc were never a stretch because they were budgeted for. \n\nLiterally write down every time you buy something or spend money in a spread sheet.. Every coin, every dollar. You need to know where your spending your money. The knowledge is the first step and it'll help guide your spending habits and give you more of an understanding of your budget. Budgeting is your next step. \n\nWithdraw the money you need for your budget at the beginning of the month and only spend the cash you have. If you have terrible habits, then cut up your cr", "Every paycheck I throw 10% into savings the day I get paid. \n\nOther people have suggested doing an automatic withdrawal, which is a good idea too. \n\nMy parents always told me, \"if you have the opportunity to do something from your paycheck automatically, do it. It's much easier to separate yourself from money you never had in the first place\" and it kinda stuck with me. ", "If all of your purchases are done electronically (via a bank card or cr" ]

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[ "How to improve long term and working memory? I'm a teenager and my memory isn't the best, where I have to study decently long (compared to my peers) to get the same grades. At the same time, and more importantly, I tend to forget what I learn after the exam.\n\n\nWhat are some ways I can improve my long term memory (like holding onto sparse information after an exam, or remembering, to some extent, something information after a documentary? Like people do in jeopardy/trivia games).\n\n\nAnd also, how can I improve my working memory? Like applying recently memorized things in action, for example, multiplying two 2-digit numbers in my head, or writing an essay based on a document I just read?\n\n\nOr using these in conjunction? My friend pays attention in class and aces every test, despite never doing any homework (math, US History, chemistry, anything), and in English, can very easily draw upon past knowledge to make inferences about a text (taking stuff from Transcendentalism, Greek mythology, and Christian literature and making connections with those and the text at hand, which is right now, 1800s English literature).\n\n\nSo how do he and people who are good at trivia do it?", "How to improve long term and working memory? I'm a teenager and my memory isn't the best, where I have to study decently long (compared to my peers) to get the same grades. At the same time, and more importantly, I tend to forget what I learn after the exam.\n\n\nWhat are some ways I can improve my long term memory (like holding onto sparse information after an exam, or remembering, to some extent, something information after a documentary? Like people do in jeopardy/trivia games).\n\n\nAnd also, how can I improve my working memory? Like applying recently memorized things in action, for example, multiplying two 2-digit numbers in my head, or writing an essay based on a document I just read?\n\n\nOr using these in conjunction? My friend pays attention in class and aces every test, despite never doing any homework (math, US History, chemistry, anything), and in English, can very easily draw upon past knowledge to make inferences about a text (taking stuff from Transcendentalism, Greek mythology, and Christian literature and making connections with those and the text at hand, which is right now, 1800s English literature).\n\n\nSo how do he and people who are good at trivia do it?", "How to improve long term and working memory? I'm a teenager and my memory isn't the best, where I have to study decently long (compared to my peers) to get the same grades. At the same time, and more importantly, I tend to forget what I learn after the exam.\n\n\nWhat are some ways I can improve my long term memory (like holding onto sparse information after an exam, or remembering, to some extent, something information after a documentary? Like people do in jeopardy/trivia games).\n\n\nAnd also, how can I improve my working memory? Like applying recently memorized things in action, for example, multiplying two 2-digit numbers in my head, or writing an essay based on a document I just read?\n\n\nOr using these in conjunction? My friend pays attention in class and aces every test, despite never doing any homework (math, US History, chemistry, anything), and in English, can very easily draw upon past knowledge to make inferences about a text (taking stuff from Transcendentalism, Greek mythology, and Christian literature and making connections with those and the text at hand, which is right now, 1800s English literature).\n\n\nSo how do he and people who are good at trivia do it?", "How to improve long term and working memory? I'm a teenager and my memory isn't the best, where I have to study decently long (compared to my peers) to get the same grades. At the same time, and more importantly, I tend to forget what I learn after the exam.\n\n\nWhat are some ways I can improve my long term memory (like holding onto sparse information after an exam, or remembering, to some extent, something information after a documentary? Like people do in jeopardy/trivia games).\n\n\nAnd also, how can I improve my working memory? Like applying recently memorized things in action, for example, multiplying two 2-digit numbers in my head, or writing an essay based on a document I just read?\n\n\nOr using these in conjunction? My friend pays attention in class and aces every test, despite never doing any homework (math, US History, chemistry, anything), and in English, can very easily draw upon past knowledge to make inferences about a text (taking stuff from Transcendentalism, Greek mythology, and Christian literature and making connections with those and the text at hand, which is right now, 1800s English literature).\n\n\nSo how do he and people who are good at trivia do it?", "How to improve long term and working memory? I'm a teenager and my memory isn't the best, where I have to study decently long (compared to my peers) to get the same grades. At the same time, and more importantly, I tend to forget what I learn after the exam.\n\n\nWhat are some ways I can improve my long term memory (like holding onto sparse information after an exam, or remembering, to some extent, something information after a documentary? Like people do in jeopardy/trivia games).\n\n\nAnd also, how can I improve my working memory? Like applying recently memorized things in action, for example, multiplying two 2-digit numbers in my head, or writing an essay based on a document I just read?\n\n\nOr using these in conjunction? My friend pays attention in class and aces every test, despite never doing any homework (math, US History, chemistry, anything), and in English, can very easily draw upon past knowledge to make inferences about a text (taking stuff from Transcendentalism, Greek mythology, and Christian literature and making connections with those and the text at hand, which is right now, 1800s English literature).\n\n\nSo how do he and people who are good at trivia do it?" ]

[ "Are you getting enough sleep each night?\n\nSleep is essential for transforming short term memories into long term storage.", "We are all wired differently. You need to find what works for you. Some people use mnemonic devices, songs, simple repetition.\n\nThink about your own personal life memories. What are the big ones? Now, ask yourself why you remember them. If you can mimic that memory with school, your be all set. There are multiple intelligences and multiple learning styles. Figure out which are your strengths and go from there.", "Memorize sets\n\nYou want to build your memory ability\nSpeak and write when you learn\nTalk to yourself quietly when you study\nIt's weird at first, \nbut output Means it has to pass through\n\nRecite from memory\n\nAlphabet is 26, count to 100\n\n50 states plus capitals\n\nWrite out and say times tables 12*12\n\nHaving these sets in memory will give you confidence in your ability to memorize\nAnd show you what it takes to memorize\n\nThat it can be done\n\nYou see a 100lb pile of bricks in front of you\nYou going to try and pick them up\nSome people can pick up 10 bricks at a time\nHow do they do that, well they have picked up ten bricks before\nYou want to carry more bricks\nSee how many bricks you can pick up\n\n50 states Plus 50 capitals\nThat's 100 bricks\n\nThese will activate your brain \nMemorize like pulling you are pulling stuck drawers until they are smooth\n\nWhat is weird?\nDo you remember?\nPay attention\nTalking to yourself\nBecause it is new and different to people\n\nLike new information, \nYou should look at is as weird new strange,\nBut you want it to be as familiar as the face on a \n\nPenny Lincoln\nNickel Jefferson\nQuarter Washington\n1 Washington\n5 Lincoln\n10 Hamilton\n20 Jackson\n50 Grant\n100 Benjamin\n\n\n\n\n", "Brain surgery, get a new hippocampus. Boom either you dont have to worry about anything anymore or you got super memory. Buenas suertes. ", "Mindmaps. \n\nIf you learn how to use them properly you will do well whenever study is required (many people who don't learn to study well early and rely just on their memory, fall off after highschool).\n\nThere is so much research on Mindmaps and how effective they are. You'll find ways to make them suit your study style best but get started on them early and use them for every subject possible." ]

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[ "How to prevent earphones from breaking/ fix them. Every time I use earphones, they break in a month or less. I know this has something to do with the wire in the base, but I have always used earphones whereas the problem started around 5 months ago. Any help?", "How to prevent earphones from breaking/ fix them. Every time I use earphones, they break in a month or less. I know this has something to do with the wire in the base, but I have always used earphones whereas the problem started around 5 months ago. Any help?", "How to prevent earphones from breaking/ fix them. Every time I use earphones, they break in a month or less. I know this has something to do with the wire in the base, but I have always used earphones whereas the problem started around 5 months ago. Any help?" ]

[ "Life Pro Tip: don't use ear buds, use over-ear headphones at a reasonable volume. \n\nI'm a sound engineer ", "heat shrink tubing, long enough that it reaches the top end of the pocket you usually put your phone in. Has two nice effects:\n\n1. your regular walking around can't put sharp bends into the soft wire anymore\n2. (at least in my case) the tubing doesn't hold on tight enough to the plug to actually have a strong grip. That means, whenever i try to pull out the plug by pulling at the tubing, the tubing just comes loose but the plug stays in. This was very effective at getting me used to pulling out the plug by always grabbing the plug itself. NEVER NEVER EVER pull the plug out by pulling on the wire! the soldering connections at the top end of the plug are so small that they break super easily.\n\nPicture for reference: My sennheiser mm50 in-ears with about 4'' of heat shrink tubing fixed around the plug http://imgur.com/4fc2OOS", "The thing that breaks my earphones is the cord getting snagged and pulled while they're in my ears. It eventually breaks the connection between the wire and the little speaker inside the earbud. \n\nI used to go through a pair of earphones every few weeks until I got a pair with a little clip that clips onto your clothes, now when they get snagged they don't get ripped out of my ears and the clip takes the force rather than the connection inside the earbud. Had the same pair of earphones for about 6 months now, still working perfectly. \n\nLittle things like that make me happy." ]

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[ "Request Buddy looking for new lease on life. I have a friend. He's recently divorced. He has about 1k in his pocket, a truck, a dog, and the clothes on his back. He's been doing carpentry, heating/air, construction, plumbing, etc his whole life but doesn't have any certifications or even a HS diploma (he's low 30s). When he's not distracted by other things he does good work.\n\nThere's nothing for him in this town but trouble. We've been trying to think of a new start and we've got a few ideas that might work. We think perhaps a \"live on the job\" situation would be best for him. It would allow him dive into this new life and leave all the negativity behind while hopefully reducing his costs all-around. He wants to stay in the SE US but I wouldn't keep a bad idea from him at this point.\n\nIdeas thus far:\n\n * painting/maintenance at apartment complexes/hotels\n * oil rig job or deckhand\n * cruise ship?\n * ranch hand or farm hand\n * move somewhere with lots of craigslist general labor listings\n\nAny ideas or advice would be appreciated! Thanks for your help!\n", "Request Buddy looking for new lease on life. I have a friend. He's recently divorced. He has about 1k in his pocket, a truck, a dog, and the clothes on his back. He's been doing carpentry, heating/air, construction, plumbing, etc his whole life but doesn't have any certifications or even a HS diploma (he's low 30s). When he's not distracted by other things he does good work.\n\nThere's nothing for him in this town but trouble. We've been trying to think of a new start and we've got a few ideas that might work. We think perhaps a \"live on the job\" situation would be best for him. It would allow him dive into this new life and leave all the negativity behind while hopefully reducing his costs all-around. He wants to stay in the SE US but I wouldn't keep a bad idea from him at this point.\n\nIdeas thus far:\n\n * painting/maintenance at apartment complexes/hotels\n * oil rig job or deckhand\n * cruise ship?\n * ranch hand or farm hand\n * move somewhere with lots of craigslist general labor listings\n\nAny ideas or advice would be appreciated! Thanks for your help!\n", "Request Buddy looking for new lease on life. I have a friend. He's recently divorced. He has about 1k in his pocket, a truck, a dog, and the clothes on his back. He's been doing carpentry, heating/air, construction, plumbing, etc his whole life but doesn't have any certifications or even a HS diploma (he's low 30s). When he's not distracted by other things he does good work.\n\nThere's nothing for him in this town but trouble. We've been trying to think of a new start and we've got a few ideas that might work. We think perhaps a \"live on the job\" situation would be best for him. It would allow him dive into this new life and leave all the negativity behind while hopefully reducing his costs all-around. He wants to stay in the SE US but I wouldn't keep a bad idea from him at this point.\n\nIdeas thus far:\n\n * painting/maintenance at apartment complexes/hotels\n * oil rig job or deckhand\n * cruise ship?\n * ranch hand or farm hand\n * move somewhere with lots of craigslist general labor listings\n\nAny ideas or advice would be appreciated! Thanks for your help!\n", "Request Buddy looking for new lease on life. I have a friend. He's recently divorced. He has about 1k in his pocket, a truck, a dog, and the clothes on his back. He's been doing carpentry, heating/air, construction, plumbing, etc his whole life but doesn't have any certifications or even a HS diploma (he's low 30s). When he's not distracted by other things he does good work.\n\nThere's nothing for him in this town but trouble. We've been trying to think of a new start and we've got a few ideas that might work. We think perhaps a \"live on the job\" situation would be best for him. It would allow him dive into this new life and leave all the negativity behind while hopefully reducing his costs all-around. He wants to stay in the SE US but I wouldn't keep a bad idea from him at this point.\n\nIdeas thus far:\n\n * painting/maintenance at apartment complexes/hotels\n * oil rig job or deckhand\n * cruise ship?\n * ranch hand or farm hand\n * move somewhere with lots of craigslist general labor listings\n\nAny ideas or advice would be appreciated! Thanks for your help!\n", "Request Buddy looking for new lease on life. I have a friend. He's recently divorced. He has about 1k in his pocket, a truck, a dog, and the clothes on his back. He's been doing carpentry, heating/air, construction, plumbing, etc his whole life but doesn't have any certifications or even a HS diploma (he's low 30s). When he's not distracted by other things he does good work.\n\nThere's nothing for him in this town but trouble. We've been trying to think of a new start and we've got a few ideas that might work. We think perhaps a \"live on the job\" situation would be best for him. It would allow him dive into this new life and leave all the negativity behind while hopefully reducing his costs all-around. He wants to stay in the SE US but I wouldn't keep a bad idea from him at this point.\n\nIdeas thus far:\n\n * painting/maintenance at apartment complexes/hotels\n * oil rig job or deckhand\n * cruise ship?\n * ranch hand or farm hand\n * move somewhere with lots of craigslist general labor listings\n\nAny ideas or advice would be appreciated! Thanks for your help!\n", "Request Buddy looking for new lease on life. I have a friend. He's recently divorced. He has about 1k in his pocket, a truck, a dog, and the clothes on his back. He's been doing carpentry, heating/air, construction, plumbing, etc his whole life but doesn't have any certifications or even a HS diploma (he's low 30s). When he's not distracted by other things he does good work.\n\nThere's nothing for him in this town but trouble. We've been trying to think of a new start and we've got a few ideas that might work. We think perhaps a \"live on the job\" situation would be best for him. It would allow him dive into this new life and leave all the negativity behind while hopefully reducing his costs all-around. He wants to stay in the SE US but I wouldn't keep a bad idea from him at this point.\n\nIdeas thus far:\n\n * painting/maintenance at apartment complexes/hotels\n * oil rig job or deckhand\n * cruise ship?\n * ranch hand or farm hand\n * move somewhere with lots of craigslist general labor listings\n\nAny ideas or advice would be appreciated! Thanks for your help!\n", "Request Buddy looking for new lease on life. I have a friend. He's recently divorced. He has about 1k in his pocket, a truck, a dog, and the clothes on his back. He's been doing carpentry, heating/air, construction, plumbing, etc his whole life but doesn't have any certifications or even a HS diploma (he's low 30s). When he's not distracted by other things he does good work.\n\nThere's nothing for him in this town but trouble. We've been trying to think of a new start and we've got a few ideas that might work. We think perhaps a \"live on the job\" situation would be best for him. It would allow him dive into this new life and leave all the negativity behind while hopefully reducing his costs all-around. He wants to stay in the SE US but I wouldn't keep a bad idea from him at this point.\n\nIdeas thus far:\n\n * painting/maintenance at apartment complexes/hotels\n * oil rig job or deckhand\n * cruise ship?\n * ranch hand or farm hand\n * move somewhere with lots of craigslist general labor listings\n\nAny ideas or advice would be appreciated! Thanks for your help!\n" ]

[ "I live in an area that has a lot of people who live and work on the rigs (including my ex). It's not the healthiest lifestyle. There's a lot of money and not a lot of chances for trouble (especially if he's on a dry camp) but there's no life to be had. It's difficult, psychologically. It's hard to explain, but it takes a toll on people.\n\nCruise ship is kind of the opposite. From my experiences in the travel/hospitality industry, there is a lot of drug use, and when the ships dock, there are a lot of opportunities to get into trouble (parties, drinking, etc).\n\nDitto what fire84 said about getting a GED. From there, it would be a lot easier for him to get a ticket in a trade. He should look for something that he enjoys doing, that has a lot of room for growth, and that will have a lot of job opportunities in the future.\n\nMaking small positive changes, IMO, will be the most beneficial for him at this point in his life, because it will show him that things *can* get better and that he has the ability to pull himself out of a rut and make a good life for himself.", "Just to toss a curveball, where is he at mental health wise? Not implying he's a danger but he may be at a place where he doesn't feel good enough or that he is broken. It will show and may reduce oppurtunity for him. ", "Cruise ships won't hire someone without at least a high school diploma. A college degree is preferred or significant experience for the position in which you are applying.\n\nShips also don't pay that much, especially for the type of position it sounds like he would qualify for (carpenter, facilities maintenance) which is why most of those types of positions are held by people from 2nd/3rd world countries. These types of positions probably don't pay much over $1,200 USD per month. Most of the positions held by U.S. Citizens are Entertainment, Cruise/Youth/Sports Staff, Guest Relations, positions with a high amount of guest interaction, and even these positions do not pay all that well. Cruise ships are not bound by U.S. labor laws (with the exception of Pride of America, since it's a U.S. flagged ship). So there is no minimum wage requirement. \n\nI would say too, have him get his GED. If he is having difficulty with the math introduce him to [Khan Academy](https://www.khanacademy.org/). Also check around for community programs in your area. There might be something for someone who wants to go back to school to earn their GED, that needs assistance in different subjects.\n\nCan he get some sort of certification in the areas that he has experience in? I think that might increase his chances of getting hired as well. \n\n", "A lot of storage unit places have on-site apartments for the manager. Some apartment complexes also offer housing to their on-site handyman.", "The oil industry is booming in west Texas, all kinds of jobs on rigs, pipelines, etc. If someone is willing to work hard (I mean really hard, it is hot, dirty hard work that not everyone can handle) they can make a great living. If I didn't have a college degree and needed work it would be the first place I would go looking. ", "I live in North Dakota, and in the western part of the state there's a HUGE oil boom going on. Plenty of work for strong young men. Be warned, it's the new wild west out there. If he has tendencies towards drinking, brawling, etc. he'd be exposed to plenty of opportunities for mischief. Here's a link to ND oil jobs: http://www.ndoiljobs.com/", "Friend of mine got a job on a salmon fishing boat as a cook with basically no professional experience or training (though he was a decent cook) up in Alaska for a summer and loved it. Physically very taxing, but beautiful & great if you like fresh fish." ]

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[ "How to enter a new relationship without preconceptions? I separated from my partner three years ago. I haven't moved on. I'm trying to now, but am realizing that a major problem is that I feel future relationships will pan out similarly. Affectionate words and gestures would seem less sincere since they've been said before. We'd likely get into similar issues, we'd celebrate similarly. Arguments will arise similarly. \n\nOf course everyone is different, and it's possible that everything will be different, but I can't seem to accept that. If someone else has experience with this sort of thing, I'd appreciate some tips. ", "How to enter a new relationship without preconceptions? I separated from my partner three years ago. I haven't moved on. I'm trying to now, but am realizing that a major problem is that I feel future relationships will pan out similarly. Affectionate words and gestures would seem less sincere since they've been said before. We'd likely get into similar issues, we'd celebrate similarly. Arguments will arise similarly. \n\nOf course everyone is different, and it's possible that everything will be different, but I can't seem to accept that. If someone else has experience with this sort of thing, I'd appreciate some tips. ", "How to enter a new relationship without preconceptions? I separated from my partner three years ago. I haven't moved on. I'm trying to now, but am realizing that a major problem is that I feel future relationships will pan out similarly. Affectionate words and gestures would seem less sincere since they've been said before. We'd likely get into similar issues, we'd celebrate similarly. Arguments will arise similarly. \n\nOf course everyone is different, and it's possible that everything will be different, but I can't seem to accept that. If someone else has experience with this sort of thing, I'd appreciate some tips. " ]

[ "I agree with the consensus that your past plays an awfully large role on the person. There are aspects of the past that you should definitely keep in mind : like the saying goes, \"those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it.\" But with that, you must also understand that learning from history also means understanding why certain things occurred. If some of the arguments that you've had in your past relationship was due to misunderstandings, then that would be an area for you to work on for the current relationship. \n \n \n \nI'm actually right where you are as well. Trying to learn from my past self and relationship woes to become a better person! I'm not in a relationship right now, but I think that's for the best until I've done some good ol' soul searching.\n", "Maybe thinking of someone like me - on the converse will help. \nJust as unreasonable is to think that my future relations will be just as honest and enduring as my 21+ years married (25 together) with my best friend and lover. \n\nWe learn from our past. We can't help but look for similarities- we tend to try to solve things the same way that it worked in the past. As humans, we look for patterns ... sometimes we see them when they aren't there, and other times we wind up with the same kind of person/relationship when we consciously think we're looking for something different. \n\nJust try to keep in mind that we humans do have an awful lot in common. Still, some of the differences can make us unique and wonderful. Celebrate the uniqueness in the new people you meet. This may remind us that these new folks aren't quite the same as the past ones. \n\n", "As you begin accepting and forgiving your bad experiences this negative feeling will go. \n\nYour relationship with love at the moment is a negative and scary one. That will change.\n\nRemember not to push things too far without knowing how committed you are. Go slow until you're feeling a bit more confident. " ]

[ 4, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to ace an interview I'm 16 and interviewing for my first job tomorrow. I have no prior experience in the work force aside from helping out at a family friends moving company once. Is there any way to help heighten my chances of being hired? I've got no resume, so I'm a little worried.", "How to ace an interview I'm 16 and interviewing for my first job tomorrow. I have no prior experience in the work force aside from helping out at a family friends moving company once. Is there any way to help heighten my chances of being hired? I've got no resume, so I'm a little worried.", "How to ace an interview I'm 16 and interviewing for my first job tomorrow. I have no prior experience in the work force aside from helping out at a family friends moving company once. Is there any way to help heighten my chances of being hired? I've got no resume, so I'm a little worried." ]

[ "I was once 16 and unemployed. I also did not have a decent resume. I'd be surprised to find out that your potential employer (one that I'm guessing employs one or more 16-year-olds) is not in tune with the idea that their workforce might not come equipped with standard employment knowledge and documents. What I'm saying is, worry less about the resume, or make one that highlights your strengths in your other job (School).\n\nYou can throw things into a resume like extra curriculars or odd jobs you've done for people that aren't direct relatives.\n\nAlso, when it comes to a job interview, you're basically selling yourself to the company that you'd like to be hired by. Much like any salesperson, if you want to have longevity, you should try to stick to the truth as much as possible. If they ask 'Can you work nights?' and you know for a fact that you are going to be busy every Thursday until summer, tell them that. It will come out in the wash sooner or later. \n\nWear nicer clothing than you'd wear for a typical work day, but not by much. An example of this: If you'd be wearing Khakis and a Polo shirt for work, wear khakis or dress pants and a button down shirt (Ironed, preferably).\n\nAlso, and probably most importantly, be relaxed. You're 16 and you're interviewing for your first job. It's highly unlikely that your life is going to hinge on this moment. Just go into the interview with a smile on and be friendly. \n\nYou'll go far, kid. ", "Relax. Smile. Make conversation. Try not to care whether you get the job offer or not. Try to focus on how you can solve a problem for the employer. Good luck!", "Sell yourself to them. You've surely got some good qualities...let them know what they are and that you're eager to be of help at their organization. It's okay to be nervous. Everyone's nervous at interviews. ;) \n\nProtip: If you have time before the interview...do something you're good at that makes you feel accomplished (for instance nail that guitar solo, smash that sudoko in record time, polish your shoes, hit a three pointer in your driveway, etc.). Ride that confidence high through the interview.\n\nstevedpirate nailed it though." ]

[ 7, 2, 1 ]

[ "What are some simple ways to speak clearer? Basicly when i talk i swallow a lot of letters and that makes me sound way to fast and unclear. Are there any tips against that? I guess im looking for a way to solve my speech problem", "What are some simple ways to speak clearer? Basicly when i talk i swallow a lot of letters and that makes me sound way to fast and unclear. Are there any tips against that? I guess im looking for a way to solve my speech problem", "What are some simple ways to speak clearer? Basicly when i talk i swallow a lot of letters and that makes me sound way to fast and unclear. Are there any tips against that? I guess im looking for a way to solve my speech problem", "What are some simple ways to speak clearer? Basicly when i talk i swallow a lot of letters and that makes me sound way to fast and unclear. Are there any tips against that? I guess im looking for a way to solve my speech problem" ]

[ "Seconded on speaking slower! I was trained in speech and communication for many years, and slowing down your speaking is very important in making you understandable. As a rule of thumb, if you sound slow (and almost stupid) to yourself, you are speaking at a good pace. This goes doubly for a presentation, where nerves will almost certainly make you speak faster than you were intending. \n\nPractice enunciating clearly when you speak. Speak slowly, and make sure that you exaggerate the movements that you are making with your mouth, even if you feel silly. \n\nHere's some theory that I was taught. A consonant is formed when there is contact and release between two parts of your mouth (I won't bother getting into those, but you can always look them up if you wish). Make sure the parts that need to touch do so. For example, the tip of your tongue needs to touch the back of your upper teeth to form a clear \"L\" sound (\"luh\"). Your two lips need to touch to form a clear \"M\" sound (\"muh\"). \n\nIf you have reading of any kind to do, (whether textbooks or for leisure) try reading aloud. If you were going to read anyway, you can try to improve your speech at the same time. \n\nLastly, don't be afraid to find a professional and ask them! ", "First, start talking slower. Take a breath between sentences and blink between words (when practicing, don't do this in public, it looks weird). And yes, practice. Try to speak with the front of your mouth, using your lips and the tip of your tongue as much as possible. Do tongue twisters and mouth exercises (the rain in Spain falls mainly on the plain/hello mother have you hidden my hatchet/red leather yellow leather), and try to use your facial muscles as much as you can while saying them. Look up vocal warm ups for drama and theatre classes - they're all designed to help you speak clearly and slowly. ", "I'm a big mumbler. Always have been; always will be. And it gets worse when I'm feeling nervous or shame. If I know I have to talk to someone about something uncomfortable, I do mouth stretches and make harsh vowels and consonants sounds (like in the shower or car alone). Kinda like how actors warm up their mouth for performance. A lot of eeeeeeee, puh puh, buh buh, rowie rowie, etc. really exaggerate. \n\nIt helps me because it seems like sometimes I forget what it feels like to use those enunciation muscles. So if I stretch em, it's easier. \n\nThis makes sense to me; maybe it will to you?", "I use to have the same problem when speaking in front of groups of people. I could never catch my breath. A trick I use is water. Have a drink of water in front of you and sip it to give yourself that break you need to catch your breath and think about your next thought. Soon you won't even need the water and get over your fear. " ]

[ 4, 4, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I get people to listen to me? All my life, I have had people routinely ignore me. They don't listen to me, even when I have taken up leadership positions. Individuals seem to not care what I have to say or listen even if they came to me with a question. Groups of people would simply walk away and do what ever they wanted to do. Without simply raising my voice in anger, which works, but gets me in trouble. How can I get people to listen to what I have to say?\n\nThis severely aggravates my depression I am dealing with and is affecting my life right now. ", "How do I get people to listen to me? All my life, I have had people routinely ignore me. They don't listen to me, even when I have taken up leadership positions. Individuals seem to not care what I have to say or listen even if they came to me with a question. Groups of people would simply walk away and do what ever they wanted to do. Without simply raising my voice in anger, which works, but gets me in trouble. How can I get people to listen to what I have to say?\n\nThis severely aggravates my depression I am dealing with and is affecting my life right now. ", "How do I get people to listen to me? All my life, I have had people routinely ignore me. They don't listen to me, even when I have taken up leadership positions. Individuals seem to not care what I have to say or listen even if they came to me with a question. Groups of people would simply walk away and do what ever they wanted to do. Without simply raising my voice in anger, which works, but gets me in trouble. How can I get people to listen to what I have to say?\n\nThis severely aggravates my depression I am dealing with and is affecting my life right now. " ]

[ "There is a book called, 'Getting to Yes'.\n\nIn order for some people to listen to you, you need to listen to them. That is the logical way. For normal people. \n\nThe next school of thought is Tsun Tzu's the Art of War. You want to take over the conversation, bit by bit. Identify who is making what argument? Attack them in a way that the others will not attack you back. Then burn their farm land.\n\nLet me know if that doesn't work. ", "Speak succinctly and with authority. Tell people what to do, then explain why, if necessary. My guess is that you talk too much, but I don't know you. \n\nCarry yourself with authority. Don't arch your back, don't slouch.\n\nDress well. I've been in more meetings than I can count. Better-dressed people command more authority. Iron your clothes too. Put nice crease lines where they are needed. You want to look well put together.\n\nWatch movies and study characters who command authority. Figure out which character's personality is somewhat close to yours and adopt that one. Study how the person speaks, be it slow or fast, their demeanor, and other things. ", "Here is a better question. Why SHOULD anybody listen to you? Not to be mean but life isn't fair. People listen to people that they respect. Especially, if you're going through depression, maybe people don't see why they should listen to you. Maybe they don't see a logical reason to listen to somebody that doesn't seem to have it together.\nHopefully you don't take this the wrong way. But, people are rash and that's just the way it is. " ]

[ 5, 5, 0 ]

[ "Can I send an IM to a Senior Director whom I have never met, about some totally random non work related thing? I recently heard that there was this office party organized in 2019 where the food served was pretty delicious. I never went to that. Listening to everyone praising the food, I wanted to ask the Director(who, I believe, organized the party) where she ordered food from. \n\nIs it something I could ask in a corporate?", "Can I send an IM to a Senior Director whom I have never met, about some totally random non work related thing? I recently heard that there was this office party organized in 2019 where the food served was pretty delicious. I never went to that. Listening to everyone praising the food, I wanted to ask the Director(who, I believe, organized the party) where she ordered food from. \n\nIs it something I could ask in a corporate?", "Can I send an IM to a Senior Director whom I have never met, about some totally random non work related thing? I recently heard that there was this office party organized in 2019 where the food served was pretty delicious. I never went to that. Listening to everyone praising the food, I wanted to ask the Director(who, I believe, organized the party) where she ordered food from. \n\nIs it something I could ask in a corporate?", "Can I send an IM to a Senior Director whom I have never met, about some totally random non work related thing? I recently heard that there was this office party organized in 2019 where the food served was pretty delicious. I never went to that. Listening to everyone praising the food, I wanted to ask the Director(who, I believe, organized the party) where she ordered food from. \n\nIs it something I could ask in a corporate?", "Can I send an IM to a Senior Director whom I have never met, about some totally random non work related thing? I recently heard that there was this office party organized in 2019 where the food served was pretty delicious. I never went to that. Listening to everyone praising the food, I wanted to ask the Director(who, I believe, organized the party) where she ordered food from. \n\nIs it something I could ask in a corporate?", "Can I send an IM to a Senior Director whom I have never met, about some totally random non work related thing? I recently heard that there was this office party organized in 2019 where the food served was pretty delicious. I never went to that. Listening to everyone praising the food, I wanted to ask the Director(who, I believe, organized the party) where she ordered food from. \n\nIs it something I could ask in a corporate?" ]

[ "You know the culture of your company better than any of us. Where I work now, everyone is very down to earth and approachable, so I wouldn’t have a problem reaching out to someone at that level, all the way up to the CEO to ask a random question. I’ve also worked at other companies where I wouldn’t even think of approaching someone in upper management, because they didn’t ever mingle or be a part of anything us low to mid level employees were involved in. They were above us and showed it on many levels.", "I wouldn’t. Contact her EA. That’s a safe bet. They will either know right offhand or can ask her when she’s not horribly busy.", "Of course you can, what's the worst that could happen? People are still talking about a party they threw 2 years ago, probably be pretty pleased with their self if anything.", "Unless you're working in the stuffiest environment, go for it.\n\nIntroduce yourself briefly, state this is a non work matter then lay out the question.\n\nUnless that person is an asshat, they will get a kick out of something breaking up their day", "I’m a big boss sitting here in my office, and I’m a human too! Hell yes, send them a ping! Specially since you’re complementing their food selection.", "I'd say no, but keep in mind various corporate settings can be different. The corporation I work for is nation-wide with thousands of employees. The Senior Director would be four or five supervisors up the chain. \n\nMost corporate structures go through a chain of command. Otherwise, It would be just a torrent of inane questions and complaints around the clock. But your company may be different.\n\nIf it was really bugging me I'd ask my peers and direct supervisor. If they don't know, I'd just let it go. Good luck!" ]

[ 9, 6, 2, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n", "Is there anything I can do to get my roommate kicked out? First off I live in a 2 bedroom in Ontario with a roommate. Its my first apartment and I'm not really familiar with what power I have. And both of us have names on the lease. He's all around an awful person and an equally awful roommate. He lies, doesn't clean up after himself, blasts the TV and music in the middle of the night and refuses to turn it down when I ask him to, etc. There's a whole bunch of other stuff that I could get into too but I doubt any of that could be grounds to get him removed. The one thing I think could help me is that he has a circuit breaker in his room. The power in my room occasionally goes off, and unless he flips the breaker for my room there's nothing I can do about it. Today my power went out and he flat out refused to turn it back on (he finally did after hours of me knocking on his door, but this was after he came out and tried to have a screaming match with me about how he's the victim.\n\nAny advice is much appreciated.\n\n" ]

[ "So often in life you win by leaving, not by trying to teach somebody a lesson. Fools cannot be reasoned with, I suggest you just move out, it will be a lot less stressful for you.", "Move out. It’s not the end of the world. Stuff like this happens. You’ll have great room mates and not so great room mates, but this one sucks. Gtfo as best you can. Try talking to the landlord as well. Explain your situation, maybe they can help out somehow or give you a reference for another place.", "Sorry to hear that, I experienced something similar once and it was basically two months of psychological warfare until he confessed he was not paying rent to the landlady and eventually I got the landlady to evict him but it was a bit of a different situation since we were renting individual rooms instead of the full apartment.\n\nIn all honesty assuming you are both renting the full apartment together then I believe that it would be a lot easier for you to try to leave rather than try to kick him out.", "Save yourself the drama and find a new place to live. You won’t get the results you’re looking for if you try to take this on. He’s not going to suddenly have insight and change his behavior, he will just become more resentful and can do even worse things.", "Given that your are also on the lease you might want to go to a free legal aid clinic to ask what are the consequences of moving out and your roommate trashes the unit or also moves out before the lease ends.", "You'd probably be best off leaving and getting either a sublet or a lease-takeover. I had horrible roommates in Ontario as well, went to college and roomed with them to save money. They were exactly the same; blasting music/TV, dirty as hell, and worst of all, they harassed me and another roommate. You can try contacting your landlord to show them the damage to your unit, but there is a good chance you will be liable as well.\n\nI would suggest asking your landlord for permission to sublet or a lease-takeover. More often than not, landlords are fine with sublets. If you can get a lease takeover, you're better off, as you have absolutely no ties to the rental anymore and are not going to be legally or financially responsible for what happens there. I won by leaving, and I suggest you do as well.\n\nP.S. In Ontario, you have the right to reasonable enjoyment of your unit. That includes quiet enjoyment of your unit. Might be good to bring up to your landlord, but knowing landlords here, you're better off finding a way out.", "You have a legal right to electricity. Video tape it the next time, his refusal to flip the breaker, and check with the landlord about evicting him first, then getting a restraining order is next.", "You silently find and new place and move out if possible by giving a notice to the owner silently or give the minimum notice.\nThen he will learn his place and you will feel the power", "The path of least resistance is to move out when your lease ends, or sooner if you can afford to pay 2 rents or if you can squat at a friend of family member's place.\n\nHaving a random roommate is a lottery, and you never know if it'll be positive or extremely negative. I've learned the hard way that it is never worth the money you'll save on rent by getting a random roommate to split the bills.", "Talk to your landlord and explain the situation,say that you'll leave if that person is not kicked out of there immediately. Worst case scenario he/she will say they can't help you so that leaves you the only option of getting yourself out of that shitty place.", "If I was stuck with my name on the lease I'd probably start sabotaging his stuff when he's not around. Like pour water on all his plugged in electronics. I'm not saying do it. But that's what I'd do. \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\"I DON'T KNOW WHY IT'S NOT WORKING DUDE. STOP ASKING ME\"", "I hate these passive leasing laws it's so stupid. You literally have no power and can't do shit. Fuck the renting world and fuck landlords. Also fuck people.", "I agree with others you should leave but before you do be honest and let the lease owner know about everything you just wrote, who knows how the tables can turn.", "Honestly, getting this guy kicked out could cause more of a headache for you than you just moving. Even if there were something you could do, you probably dont want some crazy dude who knows where you live to have some personal vendetta against you, right?" ]

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[ "How do I ask for feedback on an interaction gone wrong? I'm socially inept (not yet medically diagnosed) and some interactions (face to face) that I have (conversations etc) blow up and the other party gets angry. I'd like to stop pissing people off but I don't know what I'm doing wrong, and asking them what I did leads to them angrily responding \"Don't act like you don't know!\". \n\nDoes anyone know how to genuinely ask for constructive feedback on situations like this? Without coming across as a scumbag i guess. TIA!", "How do I ask for feedback on an interaction gone wrong? I'm socially inept (not yet medically diagnosed) and some interactions (face to face) that I have (conversations etc) blow up and the other party gets angry. I'd like to stop pissing people off but I don't know what I'm doing wrong, and asking them what I did leads to them angrily responding \"Don't act like you don't know!\". \n\nDoes anyone know how to genuinely ask for constructive feedback on situations like this? Without coming across as a scumbag i guess. TIA!" ]

[ "The trick is to wait long enough for them to get over being upset with you. Maybe a month or two.\n\nThen begin by apologising before you explain what you don't understand.\n\nMake sure that your explanation and questions keep all the blame on you.\n\nRealise and respect the fact that they don't owe you an explanation.", "Unfortunately, but understandably, most people don't react well to those kinds of questions - no matter how well intentioned you are.\n\nYou might try keeping a mental log (or written, if you have the time), of the fragments of conversations that lead to these kinds of moments, and what the outcomes are. Being able to correlate things you say to certain kinds of reactions can help you start to derive a pattern, so that you can decide what to change even if you don't yet fully understand why it causes a problem." ]

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[ "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?", "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?", "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?", "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?", "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?", "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?", "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?", "How to launder colored bath towels (translation: no bleach) to fully remove odor? I've tried washing them on the hot cycle, and I've tried using color-safe bleach, but after laundering my bath towels they still have a bit of a smell to them. Tips?" ]

[ "Wash them with vinegar. WHITE vinegar, or you'll risk staining. I usually add about a cup or two to the wash to remove odors.\n\nAlso, works for keeping the color from fading, and from bleeding into other things in your wash. The first time you wash a new colored item (like scrubs, or vibrant towels) use some vinegar. It will help keep the color longer.\n\n", "Try washing soda. It works like baking soda to remove odours except much stronger. When mixed with water it becomes a base, like bleach but without effecting the colours. So it kills germs. It also makes your towels fluffier and more absorbent. Washing soda has a really nice smell too, like old-fashioned fresh and line-dried laundry.", "My mom works at a laundromat. She adds 1/2 cup of ammonia after the machine is full of water along with the typical amount of detergent. It removes odors very well, she has used it on high school hockey jerseys successfully. ", "Get new towels. If the odors come back with the new towels, then you might be doing laundry ineffectively (for example choosing too low a water level for your load), or maybe not letting used wet towels dry out easily (like bunching up sopping wet towels in a hamper instead of laying them out somewhere to air dry). \n\nIf you have access to direct sunlight, you can sun the towel to try and kill some of the persistent bacteria that's living on your towel. ", "If vinegar and washing soda don't work, try Nature's Miracle. It's sold at pet stores, and I've had really good luck with it for weird odors. ", "I have a front loader and have difficulty getting my towels to smell 'fresh'.\n\nThe only thing I've found that works is to submerge/soak them in a sink with water & vinegar for about 30 minutes... then wash them as normal but with more vinegar in the softener tray. ", "Are you using laundry soap? Are you using fabric softener? Are you taking the towels out as soon as they're finished in the washer, and then making sure that they get fully dry in the dryer? Are you using laundry sheets?\n\nIf there's an odor, try a different laundry soap. Maybe one meant for sports. I think there's a tide for sports one. Gain has some fun scents with matching fabric softeners and dryer sheets.\n\nI have to spoil my towels to get them soft and clean. It took me forever to figure out that laundry soap alone wouldn't work. However I do wash them on a normal heavy stain warm water quick wash. ", "Another thing to consider is to skip the bounce sheet or dryer based fabric softener. While it masks the smell in the short term, it traps moisture into the towel after a use and makes them stink pretty quickly. " ]

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[ "Best type of 3-ring binder? In everyone's experience, is there a \"best\" type of 3-ring binder that allows frequent addition of sheets and is resistant to the rings getting misaligned even with being crammed into a backpack or transported?\n \nNot as major as some other LPTs, but binders can be a pain in the ass.", "Best type of 3-ring binder? In everyone's experience, is there a \"best\" type of 3-ring binder that allows frequent addition of sheets and is resistant to the rings getting misaligned even with being crammed into a backpack or transported?\n \nNot as major as some other LPTs, but binders can be a pain in the ass.", "Best type of 3-ring binder? In everyone's experience, is there a \"best\" type of 3-ring binder that allows frequent addition of sheets and is resistant to the rings getting misaligned even with being crammed into a backpack or transported?\n \nNot as major as some other LPTs, but binders can be a pain in the ass." ]

[ "Get the staples brand with the rubber around the edges. When it breaks you can bring it back and they will give you a new one with the receipt for free. ", "Not sure of a brand. But make sure the rings have a flat side and are attached to the back of the folio and not the spine.", "http://www.amazon.com/Pina-Zangaro-Machina-Aluminum-Capacity/dp/B000I9J5RM\n\nThis is what I use at work, I drop and throw it. The only problem is the edges are a little uncomfortable " ]

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[ "Tips to “Go Deep” When Reading Digitally Recently, I have read more digitally than ever before. Especially after the release of Covid-19, most of my classes have been transferred to online courses. This makes digital reading more essential than ever.\n\nThe problem is that digital texts are harder for me to read and comprehend than those on paper. This really frustrates me.\n\nCould anyone give me some tips on how to improve digital reading? Thanks so much!", "Tips to “Go Deep” When Reading Digitally Recently, I have read more digitally than ever before. Especially after the release of Covid-19, most of my classes have been transferred to online courses. This makes digital reading more essential than ever.\n\nThe problem is that digital texts are harder for me to read and comprehend than those on paper. This really frustrates me.\n\nCould anyone give me some tips on how to improve digital reading? Thanks so much!", "Tips to “Go Deep” When Reading Digitally Recently, I have read more digitally than ever before. Especially after the release of Covid-19, most of my classes have been transferred to online courses. This makes digital reading more essential than ever.\n\nThe problem is that digital texts are harder for me to read and comprehend than those on paper. This really frustrates me.\n\nCould anyone give me some tips on how to improve digital reading? Thanks so much!", "Tips to “Go Deep” When Reading Digitally Recently, I have read more digitally than ever before. Especially after the release of Covid-19, most of my classes have been transferred to online courses. This makes digital reading more essential than ever.\n\nThe problem is that digital texts are harder for me to read and comprehend than those on paper. This really frustrates me.\n\nCould anyone give me some tips on how to improve digital reading? Thanks so much!", "Tips to “Go Deep” When Reading Digitally Recently, I have read more digitally than ever before. Especially after the release of Covid-19, most of my classes have been transferred to online courses. This makes digital reading more essential than ever.\n\nThe problem is that digital texts are harder for me to read and comprehend than those on paper. This really frustrates me.\n\nCould anyone give me some tips on how to improve digital reading? Thanks so much!" ]

[ "For me, white text on black background is easier to read. Alternatively, if your books are Kindle compatible, a Paperwhite is pretty easy on the eyes.", "Make sure you have no distractions around you. Get rid of your phone, and make sure your text is the only thing on your computer.\n\nBefore reading a chapter, skim it first to get a general idea of how it is laid out and what will be covered. This gives your brain a bit of a road map to follow. \n\nForce yourself to remember what you just read when you finish a section, then do it again within a few hours or the next day.", "Would it help to use an app with tools that allow you to take notes on the pages, highlight important text, etc.?", "I use onenote on my laptop and import pdfs into it. From there I can highlight and write over the pdf. Helps me read stuff. Alternatively I take notes, and maybe write a quick summary at the end", "As others have said, reading on a device other than your computer can be helpful, to get you into the \"this is reading time\" frame of mind, as distinct from the \"this is using my computer time.\" If you have to read on your laptop, it may also help to physically move somewhere else, ie doing your writing at your desk, but moving to a comfy chair for reading. \n\nIf reading for school, taking notes in a specific style, not just jotting down random stuff, can really help focus you. I like the [Cornell method](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDfdEMTrbSk), which works for readings as well as lecture notes (and can be done on the computer or on paper- but I recommend paper so you aren't swapping between tabs). It's great for notes on things you'll later be tested on. There's plenty of other styles you can look up though. \n\nIf its not important enough to warrant the time to take notes, here's some other reading comprehension stuff that helps me: \n\n* **Make predictions**\\- At the beginning of each chapter, heading, or subheading, guess what that section of the text is going to be about. Doesn't matter if you are right or wrong, it will help keep your focus because you'll be checking to see.\n* **Ask questions**\\- In addition to your guesses, come up with at least one question you think will be answered in that section. It will keep your focus trying to find the answer.\n* **Summarize**\\- after each paragraph, summarize just that paragraph to yourself. Repeat at the end if sub sections, and sections. For the larger sections, it can help to imagine summarizing the text to a classmate who didn't do the reading. \n* **Highlight** (if possible on your online reading platform) the key sentence in each paragraph. If someone were skimming the text, what one sentence would help them the most? \n* Select each line of text as you read, to use as a guide like you would your finger \n* For something really important, **read it out loud**, or read it in your head in a \"performative\" voice. Pretending you are reading it aloud to others forces you to read slowly, and to identify the important parts of sentences to inform your tone. You can also use a funny accent in your head to achieve the same goal. \n* For textbooks- **pre-read** by looking at the pictures/graphs/tables/etc on each page before diving in. This will help with your predictions and questions, as well as help you identify the most important parts of the text \n* **Personify the author-** think of reading as a dialogue with the author. Comment to them in your head instead of just general thoughts ( \"I don't know where you're going with this, Clive, but I'll trust you can keep reading, I guess\") \n\nYou probably won't use all at once, but hopefully some of those are useful!" ]

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[ "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?", "How to force myself to drink more water? For the past month I've been feeling really groggy and tired. Then I realized that throughout a day, I barely drink any water: however, I never ever feel thirsty in the slightest, so I don't feel the need to drink. How can I force myself to drink more water?" ]

[ "You could try plant nanny! I had to install it because I was drinking so much water I was getting distracted from other things.", "Let me say something no one else has said yet, carry water. I noticed myself not drinking much water and realized it's because I was just too lazy to go out of my way to buy a bottle or stop for a cup, once I started carrying water with me, I began drinking more.\n\nThink of it as food, we usually get hungry when we see food, same concept.", "I have the same problem. I really don't like drinking water so I put a couple of drops of crystal lite in my water bottle. I end up drinking so much more water that way. ", "I had to transition to sparkling water, like cans of La Croix. It's actually about as cheep as bottled water, and much more fun to drink. Oh and fun colored straws. ", "get an app to yell at you ? \n\n[example](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.northpark.drinkwater&hl=en)", "Buy a gallon of water from the gas station for 89 cents and drink it throughout the day, trying to finish it before you get home from work. If you make it a routine or a game, you'll be more likely to do it.", "good quality water, preferably carbonated. try la croix waters. drink two liter bottles thru the day and you'll probably be fine, but remember, thirst is usually a good indicator!", "You can try [marking the time of day](http://www.shortyruns.com/2014/09/hydr-8-water-bottle-review-and-giveaway.html) on a water bottle. It gives you small, achievable goals to hit throughout the day for your water consumption \n", "There are many free apps in the market to help you track how many glasses you’ve finished. For Android users, Water Drink Reminder is recommended. If you are iOS users, Daily Water Free may be your choice.\n\nFor more tips, you can visit: http://www.ecooe.com/ecooe-life/healthy-lifestyle-how-to-drink-more-water/", "Start the day with 8oz of water as soon as you wake up. Keep failing that up until you're drinking 24oz of water before breakfast.\n\nThat's a fair amount of your daily intake when you're the most dehydrated in the day. \n\nThen your daily target is 1 litre (maybe 36oz?) of water for every 25kg (50lb) body weight. \n\nAnd what the other guy said. Suck it up and go for it champ. You're not training for a marathon. ", "I just keep a tall glass of water around me all the time. If it's there, I will drink it. If it's empty, fill it up next time you get up. Helps with cutting back on soda too. Well I could get up and get a soda, or I could drink this water I already have here... I'm really lazy though, so that my just be me.", "I have the same problem. Here are a few options, try one or a couple of them simultaneously and see how they work out for you. Remember that you don't have to drink it all at once. My goal is 3L a day. Lately I've only been doing 1.5 but it's better than what I was drinking before which was next to nothing. Baby steps.\n\n1. Always carry water with you. As soon as you think, \"Huh, I should probably drink more water...,\" do it. Drink as much as you feel comfortable.\n2. Every time you come across a water fountain or free place to drink water, drink some.\n3. Probably what works best for me is pairing drinking water with certain activities you already partake in. Currently, I bring a glass of water with me to bed to drink first thing in the morning after my alarm goes off. I also make sure to drink a glass (or equivalent of 8 oz. at least) before every meal. I try to drink one before bed. So, with that alone, you are drinking at least 5 glasses of water per day.\n4. If you have trouble drinking the amount you set for yourself as a goal, try playing with the container size/type. I can't explain why, but I prefer drinking out of widemouth containers like wide-mouth Nalgenes and regular glasses, so I brought a glass into work with me for days I forgot my gargantuan water bottle. My co-worker says she drinks more when she has a bunch of the small retail-size water bottles at her disposal. Go figure. \n\nI work at an office that has a free water fountain on the way to the bathroom, so whenever I go, I try to at least fill my bottle so I have it when I'm thirsty. Once your body gets accustomed to drinking more water, you will notice yourself getting thirsty after a certain period of not hydrating yourself. \n\nGood luck!", "I drink more water when I drink through a straw. I usually never finish my glass of water, but when using a straw, I always finish it. ", "I could use this. I've tried taking water bottles but one of mine broke (thanks britta) and I always seem to lose regular bottles too fast. ", "Here's an idea I learned a few years ago from a roommate for when you're at home:\n\nWhen going to get a a cup of water, first drink a cup or 1/2 cup right then & there at your sink/refrigerator/filling station. Then, fill the cup again and take it to where ever you're taking it. " ]

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[ "How do I get rid of a crazy person at my shop? I run a small retail shop in a downtown area. I try to be very nice to everyone and I am non-confrontational by nature. I don't know how or what to say to be polite but get a non-customer (whether crazy or not) out of the shop. Please help...", "How do I get rid of a crazy person at my shop? I run a small retail shop in a downtown area. I try to be very nice to everyone and I am non-confrontational by nature. I don't know how or what to say to be polite but get a non-customer (whether crazy or not) out of the shop. Please help...", "How do I get rid of a crazy person at my shop? I run a small retail shop in a downtown area. I try to be very nice to everyone and I am non-confrontational by nature. I don't know how or what to say to be polite but get a non-customer (whether crazy or not) out of the shop. Please help...", "How do I get rid of a crazy person at my shop? I run a small retail shop in a downtown area. I try to be very nice to everyone and I am non-confrontational by nature. I don't know how or what to say to be polite but get a non-customer (whether crazy or not) out of the shop. Please help...", "How do I get rid of a crazy person at my shop? I run a small retail shop in a downtown area. I try to be very nice to everyone and I am non-confrontational by nature. I don't know how or what to say to be polite but get a non-customer (whether crazy or not) out of the shop. Please help...", "How do I get rid of a crazy person at my shop? I run a small retail shop in a downtown area. I try to be very nice to everyone and I am non-confrontational by nature. I don't know how or what to say to be polite but get a non-customer (whether crazy or not) out of the shop. Please help..." ]

[ "I have just the trick for you. I work at a small video store where we routinely get crazies who treat us as a captive audience because they know we're stuck behind the counter. There's one consistent way to get rid of them.\n\nCovertly dial the store phone on your cell phone. One \"excuse me, but I need to take this\" later and they should get the hint and move on. If they stick around just pretend it's a more involved question. \"I don't know, let me check\", you can say as you walk back behind the counter out of sight of them. Most people will be bored and leave after a minute or two without their audience.\n\nGood luck, and hopefully this works as well for you as it does for me.", "Fight fire with fire, start babbling and acting like a psycho. Don't stop until he has to ask Reddit how to avoid the crazy store owner.", "I'm a police officer and deal with this pretty regularly. First, ask the person to leave if he isn't there to buy anything. That may just solve your problem right there. If he continues to repeat the behavior regularly or won't even leave that same day, have the police come and identify him and advise him of trespass for the store. That makes it so that if he comes back he can be arrested for trespassing if he comes back again.", "\"Excuse me, but I have to deal with costumers/manage inventory, feel free to ask me if you want to purchase anything\"", "Humour is always useful if you want to deflect awkwardness (source: I'm British). If you do it right (i.e. in a way that isn't condescending or mocking, although it sounds like you wouldn't do that anyway) then it's difficult for the person you're aiming it towards to get angry. You say you're non-confrontational, but from experience of working in a shop that attracted a lot of annoying lingering people, you do need to be firm. If you're naturally quite meek then look up some basic tips for asserting yourself, which are really mainly to do with vocal tone and body language. It's definitely not a case of acting mad alpha and scary either, IMO, but more about directness. That shop I worked in had all kinds of crackheads, alcoholics etc come in, and in the past I've said something along the lines of 'Look, you know I like seeing you around but it doesn't look good if you're just hanging around my shop not buying anything'. Judge the situation. You could use something more indirect like 'Hey can I help you? Were you looking for something specific or...?'. It sounds like you're a respectful person, so if you were worried about antagonising a situation you're already in a better position not to than a lot of people. \n\n\n", "Unless your retail shop specializes in talking and chatting with customers, you have every right to politely inform them that you don't have the time to stand and talk. Unless you allow it, it is also not a place where they can preach, \"soap box\", espouse or pontificate; don't be afraid to tell them to move on. Your last resort is to call the cops and have the person removed. Nice guy and non-confrontational is one thing, but you are also running a business." ]

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[ "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?", "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?", "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?", "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?", "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?", "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?", "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?", "How do I become less reactionary and/or keep my temper from going 0-100? It's not even my anger that'll go from 0-100 all the time. It can be any emotion, depending on the situation. My emotions will get very high, very quickly. I've learned through the years to recognize these initial emotions as probably not what I actually feel and will walk away from whatever until I've thought it through. But what if I can't walk away? What if my boss is giving me criticism and I have to react in some way back? How do I keep the outside of me calm and not react in a negative way?" ]

[ "So take this with a grain of salt because my doctor does not like that I’ve done this but it works for me. I’ve always had a temper. I was always good about keeping it to myself and not blowing up but after college, man, it’s like my personality changed. \n\nI wasn’t able to keep that temper in. I knew I had to do something so they put me on a bunch of medication. Long story short it helped my temper but my penis stopped working lol. I couldn’t maintain an erection and I was 26. I stopped taking the medication and started smoking weed. My doctor was there the whole time weening me off the anti-depressants, ADHD meds and the meds specifically for my anger. \n\nI’m golden now. I can let stuff go. I’m not quick to anger. The only issue is I have to be prepared for random drug tests but with great effort I haven’t had an issue yet.\n\nWeed worked for me but it’s possible therapy or other medication will work for you. Go see your doctor first. I’m more honest with my doctor than I am anyone else. Your health is nothing to play around with. Be safe my dude.", "I'm personally really high energy and expressive. I used to be pretty staunch against it, but I've found mindfulness, m", "Find a neutral sensation to focus on. When you feel the emotions rising, where do you feel it? In your chest, your face, your heart rate goes up you might feel hot. Try concentrating on your hands, or your feet, where you’re not experiencing those sensations you relate to not being in control. Try to channel the relative calmness of those body parts to the rest of your body. ‘My hands are relaxed, my heart can relax’ you can even repeat it like a mantra. \n\nMy mum taught me this trick for if I was embarrassed, my face would go so red, she told me to focus on my hands and think ‘cool hands, cool face.’ It really worked for that so maybe it would for other unwanted emotions!", "find a center.\n for some its the focus of breathing, some its listening to their breathing, some its a beet of a music they learn and tap their leg, to some it may be a nervous habbit.\n\nathletes find it as the Zone. where everything seems to slow, and its quiet. despite what others view.\n\n but it is their center their home place for the emotions so they can think. \n\npeople may make fun of the whole \"wussah!\", but it can be effective. \n\nfind your center and go there when relaxed, stressed, hyper, angry. get used to going to that center.", "Well, If you have some reactions that you don't like, work towards improving that. I would suggest to look upon scientifc thought and self-criticism. Be open minded and accept that people usually are not asseetive... try to manage that. And if i'm not clear enough, i'm sorry... It's hard to answer with sleep deprivation 🤣", "There’s no one thing, and what works for anyone else here may not work for you. \n\nBut you’re looking to improve yourself, that’s the first step! Good job!\n\nRead lots of books, and see what you like from them. I found “Search Inside Yourself”, “Anatomy of Peace” and “Learned Optimism” to be helpful. “Daring Greatly” was also useful. There are many, and they all claim to have the answers. In my experience, they have a small part of the answer, but never the whole thing (for me). \n\nTherapy is great. Talking to a paid professional who knows how to listen is great. It takes time, and you need to build trust and rapport with the therapist, but it’s a valuable use of time and energy. \n\nNo one has The Answer. You need to explore many different things, and find what works for you. \n\nDon’t be afraid of medication. Talk to your family doctor. Things like Citralopam and other SSRIs can help a lot. They take the edge off, giving you enough space to think before you react, without making you dull or sluggish. I was really worried about medication at first, but I’ve been very happy with the low dose SSRI my doc prescribed: it’s made a noticeable difference in my life. \n\nYou can do it! Fee free to DM me if you need someone to talk to!", "Take 4 slow, long, breaths, and only focus on those breaths regardless of what happening around you. Keep your focus on your breathing, and slow yourself down.\n\nSometimes it seems that things are happening with too much intensity, too quickly. Slowing yourself down by breathing & focusing on that can really help.", "I'd encourage you to learn a martial art as part of learning is humbling yourself and m" ]

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[ "Should I tag, sort in folders, or rename my images for organizing them? I have tons of images across my physical drives and unfortunately because I was inexperienced, I have saved them using a very poor method of file management (which is making lots and lots of unnecessary folders each inside one another), or I've stored them totally out of any order.\nLuckily, I've not faced a problem with managing my camera photos because they are already organized by their date and event (I'm an amateur photographer so I don't have lots of photos, they are mostly family photos), but managing everything besides that is literally impossible. There are at least 10000 images from different sources which metadata and EXIF data do no good in finding and organizing them (their creation date or camera is not important), and they have numbers in their file names so it's impossible to find a specific image by typing its name into a program like Everything.\nThey include almost every interesting images I found on the internet and decided to save them; cars, famous people and celebrities, phone screenshots from web pages, industrial or tech hardware images, and many other things which I may have forgotten that they exist in my collection.\nSo it's impossible to find something in my archive, they are not cataloged and I even forget what does my collection contain!\nI've spent almost a week trying to sort them into folders, but I failed. Other than it's being really slow and time-consuming, some pictures are hard to sort into just a single category or folder unless copying duplicates in several folders which is not wise to do so, in my opinion.\nSo I thought maybe I should tag them like how social media works... but I'm not quite sure.\nI know there are pros and cons to every sorting and organizing method, but I just wanna know which works the best?\nWhat's the best way in your experience to organize/categorize/catalog/... (or what else they call!) image files? Should I do it by sorting them into folders? taggings? filenames?...?\nAnd what can I do now to organize my messy collection?", "Should I tag, sort in folders, or rename my images for organizing them? I have tons of images across my physical drives and unfortunately because I was inexperienced, I have saved them using a very poor method of file management (which is making lots and lots of unnecessary folders each inside one another), or I've stored them totally out of any order.\nLuckily, I've not faced a problem with managing my camera photos because they are already organized by their date and event (I'm an amateur photographer so I don't have lots of photos, they are mostly family photos), but managing everything besides that is literally impossible. There are at least 10000 images from different sources which metadata and EXIF data do no good in finding and organizing them (their creation date or camera is not important), and they have numbers in their file names so it's impossible to find a specific image by typing its name into a program like Everything.\nThey include almost every interesting images I found on the internet and decided to save them; cars, famous people and celebrities, phone screenshots from web pages, industrial or tech hardware images, and many other things which I may have forgotten that they exist in my collection.\nSo it's impossible to find something in my archive, they are not cataloged and I even forget what does my collection contain!\nI've spent almost a week trying to sort them into folders, but I failed. Other than it's being really slow and time-consuming, some pictures are hard to sort into just a single category or folder unless copying duplicates in several folders which is not wise to do so, in my opinion.\nSo I thought maybe I should tag them like how social media works... but I'm not quite sure.\nI know there are pros and cons to every sorting and organizing method, but I just wanna know which works the best?\nWhat's the best way in your experience to organize/categorize/catalog/... (or what else they call!) image files? Should I do it by sorting them into folders? taggings? filenames?...?\nAnd what can I do now to organize my messy collection?", "Should I tag, sort in folders, or rename my images for organizing them? I have tons of images across my physical drives and unfortunately because I was inexperienced, I have saved them using a very poor method of file management (which is making lots and lots of unnecessary folders each inside one another), or I've stored them totally out of any order.\nLuckily, I've not faced a problem with managing my camera photos because they are already organized by their date and event (I'm an amateur photographer so I don't have lots of photos, they are mostly family photos), but managing everything besides that is literally impossible. There are at least 10000 images from different sources which metadata and EXIF data do no good in finding and organizing them (their creation date or camera is not important), and they have numbers in their file names so it's impossible to find a specific image by typing its name into a program like Everything.\nThey include almost every interesting images I found on the internet and decided to save them; cars, famous people and celebrities, phone screenshots from web pages, industrial or tech hardware images, and many other things which I may have forgotten that they exist in my collection.\nSo it's impossible to find something in my archive, they are not cataloged and I even forget what does my collection contain!\nI've spent almost a week trying to sort them into folders, but I failed. Other than it's being really slow and time-consuming, some pictures are hard to sort into just a single category or folder unless copying duplicates in several folders which is not wise to do so, in my opinion.\nSo I thought maybe I should tag them like how social media works... but I'm not quite sure.\nI know there are pros and cons to every sorting and organizing method, but I just wanna know which works the best?\nWhat's the best way in your experience to organize/categorize/catalog/... (or what else they call!) image files? Should I do it by sorting them into folders? taggings? filenames?...?\nAnd what can I do now to organize my messy collection?" ]

[ "I've found that sorting by event works decently; depending on how detailed you want each file name (for sorting purposes).", "You can hire someone to tag them for you. I have been paid to tag someone's videos before... hope this helps ", "The best structure will take into account the function. For what purpose would you like to retrieve your files? If you simply want to browse, you can order them however you like. If you'd like to sort them chronologically, that may be easiest depending on the software. If you have specific uses for them, sort them that way. \n\n" ]

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[ "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. ", "What do you say to a person who is overweight when they make a comment or joke that they are overweight or out of shape. " ]

[ "Match them. If they laugh it off, you laugh it off. If they are concerned, offered a concerned reply. ", "It's astonishing how these passive agressive comments almost always occur when dining with relatives, sometimes when sitting down to eat. I wish sometimes that somebody would stick a drumstick in their mouth to shut them up.", "If it's an acquaintance, nothing. Laugh politely and move on.\n\nIf it's a friend, ask them what they're eating/call them out. Give them the respect they aren't giving themselves and engage them in conversation*\n\n\n*if the situation is appropriate, if you're in a bar with 3 other people treat them like an acquaintance and move on. ", "People say that to me like all day because I'm a Registered Dietitian. Typically it's just a way of coping with something they feel uncomfortable about, \"point it out before you can\" kinda thing. \n\nOffer your help (if you can), but don't push advice or judge. \n\nMost of the time I ignore it - people know if they are serious they can get help from me. For anyone else who isn't in the field - a simple offering may suffice. ", "Me and my coworker joke around out my weight all the time. It doesn't bother me, but he was uncomfortable about it at first. Now he has a nice repertoire of comebacks:\n\n \"Guess you don't sugar coat it, you'd probably eat it too.\"\n\n\"Does your scale say overload?\"\n\n\"That bikes groaning under your weight.\" (We build motorcycles/ATVs)\n\nNote: I know he's playing around, it doesn't offend me in the slightest, I give it back to him just as much. I'm 6'2\" 240lbs.", "It really depends on the relationship with the person. I forget where I was, in some sort of training or something. They talked about how to address this comment. There are a few ways they mentioned. The ones that stuck with me are:\n\n~ \"I find this type of joke to be negative energy. I would prefer you not make it around me anymore.\"\n~ \"Your comment makes me feel uncomfortable. Please don't make comments like that any more.\"\n~ \" Please don't make comments like that around me any more.\"\n\nfor more extreme situations: \"If your going to continue to make comments like that, I don't know that I want to be around you.\"\n\nI have tried different versions of this at different times in my life. In almost all situations (other than super close relatives), everyone that's done this has stopped. Most people that I have know that do it, do it because either they want attention, or they are just a whinny turd (ie no matter how much coddling you do they will never stop). So making it about you, and pointing out that they are making it uncomfortable to be around them because of their behavior, typically makes them fix the behavior.", "It depends entirely on the situation and the relationship. Most of the time people are not engaging in deeply intimate conversation where they expect to get well considered and candid responses from everyone to every word they utter.\n\nGenerally people will talk to pass the time, choosing topics with which they are familiar, but that are non-controversial. However, some people like to add a bit more spice and raise topics that others may not be so comfortable about. So, whilst it certainly won't always be the case, sometimes they might just be jostling for status by showing their open attitude and approachability. That said, if the same person keeps dropping hints that this is a topic that's okay to talk to them about, then maybe you do need to have that conversation - but try not to ramble or offer opinions beyond your own expertise and comfort.", "If they're joking, laugh with them. \n\nIf they're fishing for compliments, silence will speak louder than words. \n\nIf they want serious weight loss advice, give them serious weight loss advice, or direct them to a resource like MyFitnessPal.", "If they're joking, chuckle. If they're lamenting their own existence just say \"I picked the wrong day to quit sniffing glue.\"", "I work with someone who used to do that when she first started working with me. At the time, I liked her, so I'd go from enjoying the conversation to sort of smirking and pretty much continuing what I was doing. To me, either she really hates herself which is annoying to me, or she's looking for attention, which is even more annoying. Later, when I started to dislike her, I would laugh at her fat jokes, which she makes often. :)\n", "I say: \"Every day in every way, we're all doing what we can!\" \n\nIt's inclusive & positive, without being specific, preachy or making suggestions or assumptions..." ]

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[ "Remove stubborn unibrow hair. Its not horrible, just some random hairs between the brows. Plucking works for the most part but its a pain in the ass and its impossible to remove all hairs. \n\nDoes Nair work better?\n\nWaxing?", "Remove stubborn unibrow hair. Its not horrible, just some random hairs between the brows. Plucking works for the most part but its a pain in the ass and its impossible to remove all hairs. \n\nDoes Nair work better?\n\nWaxing?", "Remove stubborn unibrow hair. Its not horrible, just some random hairs between the brows. Plucking works for the most part but its a pain in the ass and its impossible to remove all hairs. \n\nDoes Nair work better?\n\nWaxing?", "Remove stubborn unibrow hair. Its not horrible, just some random hairs between the brows. Plucking works for the most part but its a pain in the ass and its impossible to remove all hairs. \n\nDoes Nair work better?\n\nWaxing?", "Remove stubborn unibrow hair. Its not horrible, just some random hairs between the brows. Plucking works for the most part but its a pain in the ass and its impossible to remove all hairs. \n\nDoes Nair work better?\n\nWaxing?" ]

[ "If you are a man you don't want to remove all hairs until it is as smooth as a baby's butt- that looks unnatural. All you need to do is remove the major players.\n\nAlso- be extremely careful as overzealous waxing or shaving is **very** feminizing to men. It's a slippery slope.", "There are specific Nair products that are for you face. Look into that instead of regular Nair, which will be way too strong for you face. ", "I just use one of those personal mustache trimmers - the ones with the little quarter inch blade on the end used for 'tidying up'. A few painless passes and the unibrow is gone for another week.", "As long as you get the majority you'll avoid the dreaded unibrow effect. If you pluck right after you've come out of the shower you'll have a far easier time of it.", "Go to a professional esthetician(in most salons), and have your brows waxed. Over time this will basically kill the hair follicle, and you won't need to wax any more. " ]

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[ "Using an exerciser ball as a chair... how can I make myself higher? My exercise ball puts me too low at my desk when I sit on it. I'm about a foot closer to the ground than on my regular chair. I really want to use the ball in place of my chair for posture reasons, but I can't work at such a low height. What can I do to raise my exercise ball so I am at a decent height at the desk (I cannot lower my desk)? I think I have a pretty big ball, I'm not sure that they make balls any bigger.", "Using an exerciser ball as a chair... how can I make myself higher? My exercise ball puts me too low at my desk when I sit on it. I'm about a foot closer to the ground than on my regular chair. I really want to use the ball in place of my chair for posture reasons, but I can't work at such a low height. What can I do to raise my exercise ball so I am at a decent height at the desk (I cannot lower my desk)? I think I have a pretty big ball, I'm not sure that they make balls any bigger.", "Using an exerciser ball as a chair... how can I make myself higher? My exercise ball puts me too low at my desk when I sit on it. I'm about a foot closer to the ground than on my regular chair. I really want to use the ball in place of my chair for posture reasons, but I can't work at such a low height. What can I do to raise my exercise ball so I am at a decent height at the desk (I cannot lower my desk)? I think I have a pretty big ball, I'm not sure that they make balls any bigger.", "Using an exerciser ball as a chair... how can I make myself higher? My exercise ball puts me too low at my desk when I sit on it. I'm about a foot closer to the ground than on my regular chair. I really want to use the ball in place of my chair for posture reasons, but I can't work at such a low height. What can I do to raise my exercise ball so I am at a decent height at the desk (I cannot lower my desk)? I think I have a pretty big ball, I'm not sure that they make balls any bigger." ]

[ "They sell exercise ball bases on Amazon, some even have wheels like a regular office chair. That should raise your seat up a bit, and maybe adding a pillow on top of the ball could help as well!", "Now... I'm not a baller like yourself, and my advice may not be the best. But you could theoretically inflate the ball a little more so that it holds when you sit on it, it doesn't squish as much.", "They do have adult size balls that are designed to replace chairs. \n\n", "It's winter, so buying an inflatable or snow donut/tube (or two) should be easy. \n\nBlow it up, throw in a little \"Fix-A-Flat\" or \"Tire Slime\" and you're good to go. If you use two, attach them together with duck tape or you **will** suffer the consequences.\n\nOne bonus is the donut will keep the ball from rolling away from you ***AND*** you won't risk any more punctures from wedging it somewhere when it's not in use." ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!", "How to tell someone I don't believe what they're saying is correct without offending them or starting an argument? I often find myself getting into arguments with people about the stupidest of things and I would like to know the best way I can tell them that I don't believe what they're saying/doing is correct, without offending them or starting an argument. Thanks!" ]

[ "Have you considered maybe just being more choosy about what you comment on? Pick your battles, you know?", "\"That's an interesting perspective, I thought (enter your viewpoint with correct logic) but you provide a new perspective. Definitely interesting.\"\nThis way you put forward your point without disregarding them, so if they are clever enough they learn the correct thing, if not, there is no point spending time arguing with them.", "\"I hadn't heard that. I don't think that makes sense, based on what I already know, but I could be wrong. Where did you learn that? I'd like to read up in case I'm wrong.\"", "You answered your own question: \"I don't believe what you're saying is correct.\" There's no way that should be offensive or be able to start an argument unless the person you are talking to is emotionally weak.", "Some people are right fighters and can't be reasoned with. Just know they are morons and move along. Others will realize it too.", "Who cares? If they're wrong they're wrong. Don't worry about people's feelings so much, they usually don't worry about yours that much.", "Usually I ask them for further questions/details.\nFor example, once a guy kept on bragging how he was the best hacker, and he's able to hack into FBI and other stuff. I simply responded by \"amazing, could you tell me further on how you are able to do it?\" He responded \"simple I use IP[spoffer] (something like this he couldn't speak English well) and I collect IPs which it's what you need to use as password\" I simply pointed out its amazing and he should keep doing the good job and I hope he joins anonymous with such skills, in sarcastic way. After that I kept asking few more questions and just made him realize his own stupidity by asking more complex questions that he realized he can't keep bs around and just stopped talking.", "I'll usually say something along the lines of \"I could be wrong but I feel like...\". Also everything will depend on the tone you use, like try not to sound condescending or anything like that. Instead talk to them as an equal and if it looks like they may start to get offended reassure them that you think their opinion is still valid even if you don't agree with them.", "How's about not caring if they get offended? If you disagree with them then make it clear and if they can't handle an alternative opinion then they're dumb for it.", "\"I'm not 100% sure about this, that may not be right. I was under the impression that...\" If they disagree, I'd pull out my phone and say \"Let's Google it\"." ]

[ 8, 7, 4, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to get good tickets to a concert in very high demand? The stone roses are coming to MSG and I want to get good tickets as soon as they are available (it's near my friends birthday and their absolute favorite band). I feel a little hopeless because I've tried booking good tickets to these big venues and I'm always beaten by stub hub sellers, bots, etc. \n\nIs there anything I can do to give myself a competitive advantage? ", "How to get good tickets to a concert in very high demand? The stone roses are coming to MSG and I want to get good tickets as soon as they are available (it's near my friends birthday and their absolute favorite band). I feel a little hopeless because I've tried booking good tickets to these big venues and I'm always beaten by stub hub sellers, bots, etc. \n\nIs there anything I can do to give myself a competitive advantage? ", "How to get good tickets to a concert in very high demand? The stone roses are coming to MSG and I want to get good tickets as soon as they are available (it's near my friends birthday and their absolute favorite band). I feel a little hopeless because I've tried booking good tickets to these big venues and I'm always beaten by stub hub sellers, bots, etc. \n\nIs there anything I can do to give myself a competitive advantage? ", "How to get good tickets to a concert in very high demand? The stone roses are coming to MSG and I want to get good tickets as soon as they are available (it's near my friends birthday and their absolute favorite band). I feel a little hopeless because I've tried booking good tickets to these big venues and I'm always beaten by stub hub sellers, bots, etc. \n\nIs there anything I can do to give myself a competitive advantage? ", "How to get good tickets to a concert in very high demand? The stone roses are coming to MSG and I want to get good tickets as soon as they are available (it's near my friends birthday and their absolute favorite band). I feel a little hopeless because I've tried booking good tickets to these big venues and I'm always beaten by stub hub sellers, bots, etc. \n\nIs there anything I can do to give myself a competitive advantage? ", "How to get good tickets to a concert in very high demand? The stone roses are coming to MSG and I want to get good tickets as soon as they are available (it's near my friends birthday and their absolute favorite band). I feel a little hopeless because I've tried booking good tickets to these big venues and I'm always beaten by stub hub sellers, bots, etc. \n\nIs there anything I can do to give myself a competitive advantage? " ]

[ "I'm quite good at getting tickets quickly. The only real way to do it is be on the website before they go on sale and keep refreshing the page so you can get them as soon as they go up. Ideally have someone else doing the same thing to double your chances (if you both get you don't need to finish one transaction). If there's options for seating, different prices etc. make sure you know ahead of time what you want so you don't waste time deciding.", "Write a bot to book your ticket within the first few milliseconds of them becoming available or someone else will.\n\nhttps://www.google.com/search?q=ticket+bot&oq=ticket+bot&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l3.4822j0j4&client=ms-android-hms-tmobile-us&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8", "Is Amex involved in this concert? You should check with them first. It's a good tip for events. You're welcome. ", "If you have an American Express card, try using their concierge service. They buy up blocks of decent-to-good tickets to some big venue shows and plays before they go on sale to the general public.", "Be ready when they go on sale, make sure you are registered and know what options you need to pick. Have your cr", "Be ready on the ticket websites right when they are released if you're worried about them selling out." ]

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[ "How do i avoid a screwdiver from slipping? I'm trying to tighten a screw to a wall, but the screwdiver keeps slipping from the screw, does anyone know how to avoid that? It'd be really helpful.\n\nPd: I do not own an electrical screwdiver", "How do i avoid a screwdiver from slipping? I'm trying to tighten a screw to a wall, but the screwdiver keeps slipping from the screw, does anyone know how to avoid that? It'd be really helpful.\n\nPd: I do not own an electrical screwdiver", "How do i avoid a screwdiver from slipping? I'm trying to tighten a screw to a wall, but the screwdiver keeps slipping from the screw, does anyone know how to avoid that? It'd be really helpful.\n\nPd: I do not own an electrical screwdiver", "How do i avoid a screwdiver from slipping? I'm trying to tighten a screw to a wall, but the screwdiver keeps slipping from the screw, does anyone know how to avoid that? It'd be really helpful.\n\nPd: I do not own an electrical screwdiver", "How do i avoid a screwdiver from slipping? I'm trying to tighten a screw to a wall, but the screwdiver keeps slipping from the screw, does anyone know how to avoid that? It'd be really helpful.\n\nPd: I do not own an electrical screwdiver", "How do i avoid a screwdiver from slipping? I'm trying to tighten a screw to a wall, but the screwdiver keeps slipping from the screw, does anyone know how to avoid that? It'd be really helpful.\n\nPd: I do not own an electrical screwdiver" ]

[ "- Use the correct bit (not just the right shape, the right size matters too).\n- Hold the screwdriver straight. Bits will cam out (slip) under torque if they aren't directly in line with the screw.\n- If you're using a slotted screw, throw it out and use a real screw like a Robertson. If you're stuck in America a Phillips will do.", "Step 1 - move to Canada\n\nStep 2 - use only Robertson screws from now on.\n\nBut seriously, mostly it's practice. If you've got a particularly tough one, and the screw isn't totally flush with the surface, use a hacksaw to turn it into a Phillips, or pick up an extractor bit from your local hardware store (like [this](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Ryobi-3-Pieces-Screw-Extractor-Set-A96SE03/203163414#.UlY4QyRSmyQ))\n", "Press directly towards the screw as you turn. Keeping pressure on it will keep it where it needs to be.", "there are multiple sizes of most screw heads and screwdriver tips. you want to pick one that fits snugly in the screw, its worth having a collection of sizes of screwdrivers just so you can pick one that wont slip! slipping damages both the screw and often the driver tip (causing more slipping and more slipping later)\n", "If a screw gets stripped so bad you cannot actually un screw it. Super glue a perfectly fine screw to the top of the stripped screw and then un screw it. If you are talking in general I am unsure other then get a nice set up screw drivers.", "Be sure to examine the tip of the screwdriver too. The tip can get rounded out or damaged.\n\nHere's an [example](http://i.imgur.com/ASNJg9a.jpg)" ]

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[ "Just got 2 packages delivered to a new address I'm moving to. They shipped way ahead of schedule and I won't be there to retrieve them for at least a week! Don't know any neighbors yet, what can I do to protect them? ", "Just got 2 packages delivered to a new address I'm moving to. They shipped way ahead of schedule and I won't be there to retrieve them for at least a week! Don't know any neighbors yet, what can I do to protect them? " ]

[ "Technically if they shipped too early, it's their fault if something happens to it so you should be able to get a replacement if there's something...", "This is a great chance to get to know your neighbours. Ask them this favor. Show them you trust them will greatly improve relations. If they screw you over it's easy to hold them responsible. \n\nOR have them delivered at a pick-up point. In my country many shops do this on the side." ]

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[ "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me.", "How to handle managers when the impossible tasks they give you inevitable don't happen I'm a department manager in a grocery store and labour is the biggest controllable cost. Unfortunately, this also means the first thing they cut. We got a new manager, and the situation just keeps getting worse. We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year, yet a 20% increase in sales. I'd like to stay employed until I can find something else, so how do I deal with all the grief I get? I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nIf I say we didn't have enough labour, he'll say yes we did even if following the companys own metrics it's not possible. Pretty much every request for more is turned down. I get speeches and speeches on how process needs to be followed and everything needs to be 100% perfect, with no regard for the actual reality of the situation.\n\nHow do I deal with something like this? Like, at all? It's really getting to me." ]

[ "I have no useful tips because I've dealt with this exact problem, except as an associate in a grocery store instead of a manager. I'm just glad to see a department manager who appears to understand. I'm used to getting shit from everyone above me. \n\nWhen I'm closing the department and I'm supposed to be out by 9:00 and it takes until 9:30 or 10:00 for whatever reason - customers, it was a busy day so it's extra dirty and takes more time to clean, I had food that needed to be made and put on the floor for sale - what exactly do they want me do? Am I supposed to drop everything at 9:00 and leave, even if it's a mess? Not do the floor displays and then get in trouble the next day because that wasn't done? Or stay over and then get in trouble the next day because I went over my hours?\n\nSorry for the rant. My LPT: piss in your managers coffee. Retail fucking sucks. ", "Honestly everything I needed to know about how to deal with management I learned by reading Dilbert.\n\nConcentrate on what Wally and Catbert do.", "If you feel it is really unreasonable and against company policies/metrics to achieve such goals, it might be reasonable to talk to someone in the higher management (meaning over your boss). It has its ups and downs, they might listen to you, if you are right and they are reasonable, or you can be possibly up to earlier firing...", "Thats retail for you buddy. I experienced the exact situation. We'd finally get close to being on top of everything after about 6 months, then the store manager got fired so we got a new one and he'd come along with new ideas and goals and completely change your department up. No matter what you do, it will never be good enough. Theres no winning in this situation. At all. Any future you might see with the company is 100% not worth it. Relax a bit, lighten your work load and look for other career opportunities. Retail is a hole and if you let it suck you in, you'll be stuck forever. ", "Work-Life balance is very important. If you're working 12-13 hours consistently, that's not healthy AND as you said, it's still not enough.\n\nSince you are looking for something else anyway, it doesn't hurt to have an honest conversation with your store manager. Approaching it from the business side \"Our sales are up and our hours are down. This is great from a profitability standpoint. However, in order to keep up with this, I am consistently working 12+ hours a day and am still unable to keep up with everything. I'm happy to do everything possible to make the store successful, but I do have commitments outside of work as well and these 12 hour days are killing me.\"\n\nVery important - You need to come to him with a proposal. It can't just be a complaining session, but you need to tell him how many extra hours your department needs to restore your work/life balance and keep up with the standards of the store. I would start with at least 4 extra hours for every day you work. Getting you to about 8 hours a day is the right thing to do. You said 12 hours a day from you is not enough, so you'll have to calculate how many more hours you need. If it nets an extra 40 hours per week, then that can be in the form of 2 part timers or an increase for some of your existing part timers' hours. It sounds like you may have brought this up already to him, and if he's not getting it then you need to be frank with him. Be very open and honest about the situation. You're working countless hours, not keeping up with the standards that are set, and you're burning out. You need help, and if he's not going to give you more hours then you need a proposal from him.\n\nYour store manager is not going to fire you for bringing up these concerns, and since you don't intend to stay for the long term under these conditions, then the conditions must change or you're going to go. If the store manager reacts poorly to this conversation, his opinion of you may sink, but who cares if this is the environment you have to work in?\n\nAfter having the conversation with your store manager, you should also speak with your store's HR person. They should be sympathetic to your cause and understanding of the importance of work/life balance. Typically the HR person should also have the ear of management, and can be another advocate for employees. Retention is important to HR people, and if nothing else s/he will be able to speak to the impact of losing you, training a new person to run the department, and how difficult it would be to keep up. If you're a seasoned veteran and run the department well while working 12+ hours a day, that's going to be a giant hole for them to fill. While it can certainly be done, it's going to hurt them to lose you.\n\nIf you talk to both of them and they don't change anything, then you should absolutely peace out of there. No job is worth sacrificing your life to that extent.", "The bottom line is that things won't get better until you get a better job. Whatever BS your manager is giving you, he's getting it from his boss. Supermarkets have super low margins and competition is greater than ever. ", "Status updates. Every day. The best way to deal with unreasonable deadlines, is to provide continuous updates. That way, management see the time and effort it takes to complete the task and sub-tasks.\n\nAdditionally once a week, get 5 minutes of their time to talk about what you achieved and what's the goal for next week.\n\nIn my experience, even harder tasks become easier once you get the buy-in from management.", ">We have 25% less hours than we did this time last year\n\n>I'm salaried as well, so some days I'm there for 12-13 hours but it's never enough.\n\nYou prefer to work 16 hours a day on the same salary as opposed to 12 hours?", "You have two options: (1) accept that solving this is impossible or (2) find a solution and be recognized as the greatest employee in the history of the company. \n\nMake no mistake, you have a truly amazing opportunity here. You have the opportunity to shine if you succeed or, if you fail, you'll just be regular employee like everyone else.\n\nYou need to find a solution. You need to be the stallion who mounts the world. Sit yourself down, figure out the details, rack your brain, and solve this. Lesser employees have cracked under this pressure. You are not a lesser employee, you are smart, you are innovative, and you WILL find a solution.\n\nThis is only as impossible as you think it is.\n\nThe hotter the fire, the stronger the steel. " ]

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[ "How to prevent your credit cards from being slowly destroyed in a man's wallet. I've gone through three wallets in the past three years. Every cr", "How to prevent your credit cards from being slowly destroyed in a man's wallet. I've gone through three wallets in the past three years. Every cr", "How to prevent your credit cards from being slowly destroyed in a man's wallet. I've gone through three wallets in the past three years. Every cr", "How to prevent your credit cards from being slowly destroyed in a man's wallet. I've gone through three wallets in the past three years. Every cr", "How to prevent your credit cards from being slowly destroyed in a man's wallet. I've gone through three wallets in the past three years. Every cr" ]

[ "Sort of off topic, but As a former cashier on a marine base, 99% of the cards I got were beat to hell. I don't know what they do to them...", "I put clear tape over the magnetic strip, signature and security code on the back, and over all the raised shit on the front.", "I just use the waxy plastic card envelopes my cr", "Don't use wallets. I used a binder clip for the longest time until my wife made me get something more professional...which now resembles a paper clip...I don't know why you're worried about damaging cards. They are easily replaced.", "Honestly, lose weight. I really think that's your issue.\n\nI mean, Ive got a thin wallet for man. Comme Des Garcons 3/4 Zip with 3 cards and I dont have any issues...\n\nOr maybe you're all Costanza'd out..." ]

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[ "How to not get nauseous from playing video games Recently, I've been playing Dishonoured on PC and I've not been able to play for over half an hour as I get quite motion sick. I have turned the FOV up as high as it will go and all settings are max. I feel like the game just moves too quickly. Has anyone had this issue and came across how to overcome it. I've had similar problems with MGSV, Half Life and others.", "How to not get nauseous from playing video games Recently, I've been playing Dishonoured on PC and I've not been able to play for over half an hour as I get quite motion sick. I have turned the FOV up as high as it will go and all settings are max. I feel like the game just moves too quickly. Has anyone had this issue and came across how to overcome it. I've had similar problems with MGSV, Half Life and others.", "How to not get nauseous from playing video games Recently, I've been playing Dishonoured on PC and I've not been able to play for over half an hour as I get quite motion sick. I have turned the FOV up as high as it will go and all settings are max. I feel like the game just moves too quickly. Has anyone had this issue and came across how to overcome it. I've had similar problems with MGSV, Half Life and others." ]

[ "I used to get motion sick all the time then I started playing more.\n\nmake sure you are really well hydrated and take like 15 minute breaks every so often (before you get motion sick) also if you fps are low that might be an issue. or if your monitor is too close to your face.\n\nlet me know if any of these work for you", "Another tip I don't see below, I would invest in \"computer screen glasses\" - essentially, they are non-prescription glasses that filter some of the light emitted off the screen.\n\nI work at a computer all day, and used to occasionally get headaches, sometimes migraines leading to nauseau/vomitting. Hasn't been a problem since.\n\nThey're available on Amazon for relatively cheap, and have a variety of brands/lense colors to choose from.\n\nYour issue might be less about the games themselves and more about your body processing the motion/graphics due to being on a screen.\n\nCurious, do you get motion sickness in every day life? (cars, boats, etc.)", "- Lower your graphics settings (brightness too)\n\n- someone mentioned computer/gaming glasses, get those\n\n- you're probably too close to your monitor/screen so try moving back\n\n- take breaks, keep your brain hydrated don't drink any sugar shit\n\nif all else fails, get a console so you can sit further away so your eyes don't get strained" ]

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[ "How to debate whilst keeping the experience calm and fun for everyone? I say debate, even just discussions about the deepers topics in life. \n\nI enjoy the discussions but usually avoid them because I find it can be a bit awkard or cause friction. Maybe it's me and the way I go about things. \n\n\nAny advice to keep having the chats, just keep it light and fun without reducing them too much into complete silliness?", "How to debate whilst keeping the experience calm and fun for everyone? I say debate, even just discussions about the deepers topics in life. \n\nI enjoy the discussions but usually avoid them because I find it can be a bit awkard or cause friction. Maybe it's me and the way I go about things. \n\n\nAny advice to keep having the chats, just keep it light and fun without reducing them too much into complete silliness?" ]

[ "My experience is that debates usually derail because of emotions. So whenever someone feels emotionally threatened (often unconsciously), they get angry. If feasible, try to take that person seriously and maybe try to find and address their issue.\n\nYeah I know this sounds very arduous and seems like leaving the actual discussion, but unfortunately we rarely ACTUALLY talk about facts in such debates. ", "Give everyone a role in the discussion of some other person that is close to or involved in the topic. \n\nDiscussing Eugenics? You get to be German scientists pre WW2 and I'll be a scientist from The Human Genome project" ]

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[ "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?", "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?", "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?", "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?", "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?", "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?", "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?", "To keep the heat bill low, how do you keep your bedroom relatively warm? I just moved into a new place with a few college students, and they keep the thermostat at 60, that way they save money. Where I live is known to be quite cold, and I have a fairly big window in my room, which I feel has turned the bedroom into an ice box. Ideas to keep me warm enough that I'm not being woken up from getting cold?" ]

[ "Heated mattress pad. \nI prefer sleeping in a cold room, and with this handy little thing I can warm up the bed if I need it and turn it off if I don't. \nIt's some of the best money I've ever spent.", "You can put plastic over the window and get a space heater. I use 1 space hater to heat the majority of my house and my power bill is much lower. Your room would be super cozy if you just kept it in there! ", "Plastic over the window (you can remove it in the summer if it's a window that gets a lot of sun), electric mattress pad or electric blanket, or more blankets and comforters for your bed.", "Double line your curtains, just tack a sheet onto the back. \n\nYou can use bubble wrap on your windows if its a massive issue, check your window insulation though. If the window is old its likely the insulate properties have worn out and if you rent you should report it immediately. \n\nGet a king size winter duvet and duvet cover. \n\nSleep with layers on and make a habit of always wearing layers. In winter people where I live go to lectures with PJ's as an underlayer to there pants. You can usually see them trailing out the bottom for people who just woke up.\n\nHeated mattress topper, Heated blanket thing? Space heater.\n\nFaux fur thermal underlaying blanket. \n\nGoogle \"how to make room cosy for winter\" and you will get a lot of other tips. ", "The plastic window stuff is perfect for a drafty house, as well as a door snake if the bottom of your room's door has some airflow through it. Investing in a thick wool blanket or actual wool sweaters is a good idea too (you can find plenty of 100% wool or even cashmere sweaters for super cheap at a local thrift store). Space heaters also work wonders as long as a room is well insulated- just make sure too use them safely as they are a fire hazzard. \n\nOnly issue with space heaters is they do pull up the energy bill, so if you use one i would touch base with your roommates and maybe offer to pitch in a few extra bucks for the electricity bill. \n\nOne real life pro tip is having personal/one room heat devices can be a big stressor in houses that are trying to save money (just like personal a.c. units)... It can add a lot of tension to folks who are already stressed due to money issues and also being uncomfortable due to how cold it is. Having an honest talk with your roommates about maybe just turning up the heat a few degrees could honestly be a good idea too. Unless you're living in a house with horrible insulation/draft issues it shouldn't be that much more expensive to heat it to 65.\n\n(source: lived in a house where we kept the thermostat around 55 tops once due to draftiness and no money... It was fucking roughhh!!)", "A humidifier would help. Humid air holds more heat than dry air, hence the saying you hear in the summer \"it's not the heat, it's the humidity\". Hands don't get chapped too.", "Somehow hang a blanket over your window, or get curtains - it will create some more insulation. See if there are any leaks around your house that warm air is escaping, and cover those up (towels can help). That alone makes a big difference. \n\nMy boyfriend's old apartment was poorly insulated - and the most we could do was to stay dressed very warm - and to get a down comforter. Even the heater on full blast really wasn't enough. ", "Using their incredible ingenuity, humans have developed a marvellous device called a \"blanket\". Using material derived from plants and/or animal furs, it can TRAP HEAT when laid over one's self." ]

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[ "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. 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Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. 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Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. 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Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. 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Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. 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Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. 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Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr", "My sister, who I live with and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, is extremely manipulative. I love her very much. How do I manage? My sister and I were separated from each other from a young age. She was treated like a token, just like I was. We both had a clinically paranoid mother (I was adopted). Our mom accused her of \"poisoning\" her through the vents, and was embarrassed publicly by our mom when she got an abortion at 16. My sister ran away, and moved around a lot after that. She married twice, both ending in disaster. The last marriage, she racked up $150,000 in cr" ]

[ "I'll preface this reply with this: I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a bit over two years ago. \n\nFirst off, I've got to be brutally honest with this: I would never have trusted her to pay the rent. Ever. Especially not with her track record of racking up cr", "Please get yourself a good therapist who understands personality disorders and can help you set good boundaries with your sister, as well as help you learn to communicate with her while not getting sucked into her manipulations. This is a long, long term process and you need to be/get strong enough to endure your sister's crazy ways. \n\nPersonality disorders are very ingrained in a person, just like toilet training, as it is believed PDs form right around the same time. They are very hard to unlearn, but things can get better. My advice is to get a well trained therapist in this area and work with them. \n\nYou can't change your sister, but if you can change your reactions to her, she may start to change herself. \n\nSource: trained counselor. ", "My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with BPD. It was tough, but she's not manipulative. Often, people with BPD are manipulative as a form of self-protection and preservation, and not out of malice - but it certainly can be just as dangerous as genuine malice. \n\nThe most important thing I learned was that when she was having an attack the most important thing was *not invalidating her emotions*. There is almost always going to be some kernel of emotional truth to her reaction - it's just been amplified a million times. \n\nSay things like \"I understand why you feel that way, but I think you're feeling too much of that emotion.\" \n\nTry and be as honest and direct as you can, even when it's embarrassing or difficult. Don't hide things from her - it'll make her suspicious. Don't break her trust - trust is *your most critical resource*. It can cut through an attack sometimes - \"Please trust me if you can for just a moment\", \"Is there anything I can do to help\", \"Do you want me to leave you alone\", that kind of stuff.\n\nDe-escalate, acknowledge and validate her emotions, be honest about how her actions make you feel and what you are trying to do.\n\nBPD can be beaten - it's a behavioural disorder often brought on by people who experience childhood trauma. It can be difficult for a lot of reasons, but try and get her to a doctor if you can. \n\nThe main solution for this is Mindfulness and Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. Try reading up on both of those - I personally recommend Sam Harris' talks on Mindfulness. She might enjoy them - they can help her understand where these emotions comes from.\n\nGood luck - remember to always *build trust*.", "Can you live on your own and just have casual contact with her? I know you love her, but I don't know if she can love you back. You need to take care of yourself and make your home a safe and secure haven for you. You can still love her and care about her, but don't become a sacrifice to her problem.", "Move out. Never give her money for any reason. Stay in contact and hang out, but never ever depend on her for anything. \n\nOnly way. ", "I, too, was diagnosed with BPD many years ago. My current therapist would probably tell you I have \"recovered\" from it, and to be honest, I was always self-aware enough that it never reached the levels I've seen it with other people. (Meaning, I didn't ACT on 80% of my \"instincts\"). My initial answer when I saw your title was \"don't live with her.\" She will probably suck the life out of you. Desperate to be loved and needed, we more or less force people to abandon us so we can look and say \"see, everyone abandons you\" and feel bad for ourselves. So, it might seem a bit counterintuitive when I say you should let her fend for herself, but honestly, it might be the only way she learns that at the absolute minimum her behavior isn't PRACTICAL. So long as people keep rescuing her, keep \"saving\" her from herself, keep tolerating her behavior - she'll keep doing it. Based on my own experiences, I'd say the best treatment for BPD is having to deal with consequences. If it happens enough times that you fuck yourself over with your own behavior, sooner or later you realize it's just not practical for you to behave that way. The good news is many people do \"recover\" from BPD as they grow older. That said, you taking it on as your problem is something I wouldn't recommend. It may sound cold, but that's just my opinion. Do what you gotta do.", "I would recommend getting your hand's on \"Stop walking on eggshells\", it's a great book for both people who suffer from BPD, and people who have to deal with them, it really helped me improve my relationship with a BPD person in my life (also helped me keep away from other BPDs).\n\nDon't expect too much of your sister, ie. don't let her handle anything that you perceive as critical. That way, you will protect both yourself and her from the situation in which she messes up something important just because her fears got triggered by something.\n\nKeep in mind that her state is similar to addiction, the drug of choice is attention. Don't give in to the demands and extortion. She can ask you for money, for your time, for anything that she perceives as attention. Give only as much as you can afford and feel comfortable, and no more. This way you protect bolth yourself and her from accumulating bad blood.\n\nTake care of yourself, dealing with BPD people is excruciating. Make peace with whatever happened in the past, do whatever you have to in order to preserve your inner peace, because that is the only thing that will help you keep your communication with her clear and keep the poison from building up.\n\n", "Don't live with her. It will only reinforce your bad habits. She won't change. You want a connection? Seek out support groups or therapy. How do I know: I come from a family of crazies. ", "Don't give her an inch. Don't act like she has a hunger which can be satisfied if given enough. Borderlines look for weaknesses to exploit. No matter how much you give they want more. If they can tell you won't take their BS they look for another target. Giving in won't help anything. Its going to be tough because you still love her. I can't give you more useful advice that you will listen too as long as the love is there.", "Due to several very bad experiences, I used to think that BPD was code for \"Bad Person Disorder\"\nI was wrong. You can have BPD and be a good person but it takes a lot of honesty and work. DBT and therapy are essential. If she is going to stay in your life, she needs to really commit to both.\nNow as far as the LPT's for you go, the very best thing you can do is to take nothing personal. She might do and say some very shitty things but none of them are your fault. Don't hold them against her but don't let them pass unaddressed. Respect her for for her redeeming qualities but don't reinforce her negative traits.\nIn short, have the patience of a saint while holding her feet to the fire. It is a hard line to walk.", "Your sister is an adult. Treat her like one.\n\nOtherwise, you will become her lifelong caretaker. And she will suck you dry for everything you have and use you completely up. You'll be left an empty husk.\n\nA borderline is an emotional toddler in the body of an adult. With the intelligence of an adult. That is why they are so dangerous. Entitlement. Black and white thinking. Tantrums. Never-ending demands. \n\nBecause you're a decent and reasonable person, you might not see much of her behavior for what it is: pure selfishness and manipulation. You'll be scrambling to \"keep the peace\" by feeding the gaping pit of never-ending wants and demands. And the more you fill, the more tyrannical she will become. Everything you give to her, she becomes entitled to it.\n\nBut that's not the best part! At some point you'll do or say something that will trigger her to \"split\" on you, which means she'll move you from her \"angel list\" of good people to her \"devil list\" of bad people. Once you're on the devil list, *any* tactic used against you, be it lying, stealing, accusing, etc. will be justified in her mind. You'll be shocked, thinking \"surely she couldn't do that to me!\" Oh, but she can and will! Think you're safe because you're her brother? Think again!!!\n\nUsing a Tolkien literary reference: a BPD is like Shelob the great mother of spiders: the more she eats, the more ravenous she becomes. Until her hunger causes her to emit shadows of negativity like an \"un-light\" everywhere she goes, and eventually she devours herself to death. \n\n*You need to move out, and insist she take responsibility for her own life.* When you do this, she *will* freak the fuck out. Do it anyway. It'll save your life in the long run.\n\nI won't go into my story in detail here; suffice it to say, I'm getting out of a marriage, fighting for custody of the kids, as I've been falsely accused of domestic violence, having love affairs both gay and straight, being a cybercriminal on Russian payroll, a big time gambler, a thief, hiding hundreds of thousands of dollars of crime money via bank fraud, oh, and now she's implying pedophilia.\n\nBorderline is no joke, and it's nothing to fuck with. Yes, she's your sister, but the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb my friend. You need to protect yourself.\n\n*Run for your life.*\n", "This post will not be helpful by way of advice- be forewarned.\n\nI just wanted to say that I lived with (and dated) a Borderline for two years. At the time I believed he had some redeeming qualities, but looking back it only seems like bad memories. He isolated me from even my family, yet somehow made me feel bad for never leaving the house and having no friends. It was fight after fight and the only point in my life where I have been so angry and helpless that I literally ripped out chunks of hair in frustration. When it turned to physical abuse and I finally left, he threatened suicide nonstop to try and make me come back. It didn't work and he is still alive as far as I can tell.\n\nI just want to say, OP, it's hard. It's very hard. She is your sister, so you can't just leave her to deal with her own problems which makes it even harder.\nAs family I think it would be well within your rights to suggest she sees a therapist or at least someone to talk to. She may not take it well, but as far as I can tell that would be the best course of action. It's nearly impossible to reason with people like that and it's oh-so-infuriating and draining to deal with them without help.", "The book I Hate You, Don't Leave Me is an amazing resource for how to deal with BPD, and is available in pdf free via Google search ", "My mom had BPD, which I realized after she died. I was Googling \"What kind of mother curses her son on her deathbed?\" and I was transported into a world of BPD search results. I wish I'd known earlier.\n\nAnyway, I would say: Run away. Fast. She will try to guilt you and blame you for her problems. They are very good at that. My mom certainly was - my sister was disabled, and she used that fact to manipulate everyone around her by playing on their sympathy, or accusing them of being unsympathetic monsters when she didn't get her way.\n\nI know some people on here have said that having BPD doesn't make you a bad person - my mom certainly had many good qualities - but I'd also believe the commenters here who say your sister needs help. If my experience is any indication, dealing with someone with untreated BPD is an exercise in futility, and you'll only lose, EVERY TIME.\n\nIf she does seek treatment, I'd still be wary. Or at least build up a damn good defense against manipulation and guilt tripping. Be fine with her screaming and crying and saying the worst things in the world to you, which she probably can since she knows you well enough to.\n\nSo - no treatment, run away. With treatment, arm's length until circumstances warrant a closer relationship.", "In addition to all the good tips you've gotten, read about codependency. Melanie Beatty's books are a good resource. Codependents Anonymous is a support group network, with great resources written by people who never got to just be kids. /r/codependency is worth a browse or a post. Just know that half of the advice you'll hear from any of these sources is that cutting ties may need to be an option. She would benefit too, as long as she doesn't just end up playing the perfect blameless victim to sympathetic ears.", "I have a crazy ass sister I love to death. She has never been diagnosed but I believe she has BPD and depression. I tried for so long to make her happy and felt that she rejected a lot of the love I tried to give her. It might sound shitty but the best thing that I found I could do, was to love her from afar. I'm still a part of her life but I realized I was only hurting myself by trying to make her see that she CAN be happy. It was the hardest thing of my life to let go of our relationship (I have 6 siblings, and shes my only blood sister). I found if you're there when they need you, they'll do a bit more of self reflection. And we can all agree self reflection is very hard. My best advice is to not live with her, but never let that relationship \"door\" close. We all need family, but also don't be afraid to communicate the stress that is being brought upon you. You have to live your life too. Again, not trying to be mean or insincere, but I personally dealt with that shit for my whole life. Keep movin forward OP. Life is weird, but make sure your life is full of the happiness. Learn from her mistakes and help when you can. You got this!\nLove,\nsomeonewhofeelsyourpain.\n\n", "Check out this [website.](http://shrink4men.com/) It's intended to support men who are in a relationship with BPD women but I think you could find the help you're seeking.\n\nI'm wishing you all of the very best. \n\n", "You don't, you just remind yourself that most of what she presents isn't real and you'll never truly understand her intentions", "My sibling went all paranoid a few years after college, we lived with each other for 3 years. He did way too many drugs on top of shit he was already diagnosed with, but living with him I was able to make sure he stopped.\n\n\"Trust, by verify\" was my policy. You trust them with the little things, but the trust with big things is a complete illusion. You setup all kinds of backup plans. \n\nLike, I started having my brother go pay the rent because he was off earlier than I was from classes. So I gave him a check, because you can issue a \"stop payment\" on a check if you call the leasing office and they say they never got it. \n\nWhen sending him grocery shopping or to fill up the car, I always asked for a receipt because, as someone getting an accounting degree, I was obsessed with budgeting. \n\nExcept it was really just a way to make sure he spent what he was supposed to and not more. \n\nAfter a few months of that, \"trust but verify\" just turned into \"trust.\" You gotta give people the chance to redeem themselves, but doing it in a way where it can come back to bite you in the ass is just naive, pure and simple. \n\nAt the end of the day, you have to realize that as much as you love them, you can't sacrifice your own security and also, *you don't owe them a fucking thing.* It's great you want to help and be supportive, but don't ruin your life trying. I was lucky that my brother recovered relatively quickly and his therapy and meds seemed to work, so I may have been the paranoid one in a sense. But you can't ever be too careful. ", "Just as a general rule, don't give anyone you're living with your share of the rent money unless you absolutely trust them.", "you really cant do anything about bpd. i lived with someone with it.. i ran for the hills...i know you cant do the same but you have to keep your distance.", "Tl;DR: Figure out your breaking point. When you break, leave the pieces and move on.\n\nMy sister also has BPD. Ultimately I was unable to maintain a relationship with her due to the persistent malicious, self-centered intent she utilized in her every day life. Ending that relationship permanently has been one of the most beneficial decisions I have ever made, causing all aspects of my life to improve. I am told that she still misses me, but I doubt it. She just became pregnant with her second child, is doing some kinda divorce proceedings, and has been cheating on her husband with a lawyer...so...no change in her personality that I'm aware of.", "My cousin has borderline personality disorder. She was adopted by my aunt at the age of 2 or 3. Ugh, well what to say? She's pretty awful to be around, she and my aunt never bonded which is very sad and I feel contributed to her current situation. She's recently become an adult by law and last year she kept either quitting or getting fired but kept \"going to work\" and lying about it. Then when she didn't have money to pay her phone bill her parents realized what she was doing. After the third time they kicked her out. She found her bio siblings at a foster home but they kicked her out. Now she's staying with some friend in NY. \n\nThey say there's meds but you have to be 18 to take them. Other than that I was told to hold her accountable, you can't let her get away with stuff, call her out but still be loving. I don't know anyone who has this disorder where they've been successful long term. I feel for my cousin but she's incredibly self centered, negative, mean. I'm worried what will happen to her without people who unconditionally love her in her life. I even question whether or not my aunt and uncle love her unconditionally. I get the feeling they regret adopting her. It's very sad. ", "I really don't have any real advise, but I have to say this post, and the reply by /u/kintyre really helped me with a family situation of my own. I also have a sister, who has NOT been diagnosed with BPD, but I'm beginning to wonder if she should be. The money, the manipulation, the belief that her truth is the actual truth... it's all too familiar. I just wish I knew how to approach her with a solution without making the situation worse.", "I had to break up with GF (years ago) due to her BPD. Wasn't totally sure what she had at the time, but ... I recall wandering over to a bookstore to celebrate Freedom and Sanity, when I came across a book titled \n\" I Hate You, Don't Leave Me \" - just the first few pages had the Ex spot on. She went downhill from there. I raised the boy we had - he went on to get degree in Engineering.", "I dated a girl with BPD. It was a roller-coaster. One day I was the love her life, the next, her worst enemy. I work with a psychologist. One day he said to me that BPDers are the only people who can't get help, because they don't think anything is wrong with them. It's everybody else.\n\nEx-GF had this book about BPD, which I read. She never did. I HATE YOU, DON\"T LEAVE ME. It's okay. \n\nTHe most important thing I can suggest is: remain calm, don't escalate, don't try and tell her how she is wrong (unable to see without introspection), and LEAVE WHEN THEY ARE HAVING AN EPISODE.\n\n", "Also diagnosed with BPD. She needs a counselor she trusts and regular therapy. Drive her there and wait for her to make sure she goes, at least for a while. \n\nNothing else helped me sort out my shit besides talking to people. Not pills, not money, not support. And no offense to you, but she isn't going to be honest with you because you're her family and she has to interact with you. Give her an outlet where she feels comfortable telling them everything.", "one other thing, and i say this realizing that it sounds tongue in cheeck:\n\nwhen you are in a bpd \"moment\" with your sister\n\nNEVER use metaphors or analogies if you can help it. they use it as a deflection tool. they'll argue the example rather than address the point.\n\nand as stated, once they are in the moment, addressing the point is futile more often than not - thus listening with flat affect.\n\nthe easiest way to manipulate the moment is to ask them open ended questions.......\"sis, why do you feel that way?\"\n\nthen follow with \"i understand completely.\" and so forth.\n\nbasically you're taming your internal struggle of loving her and not giving a shit at the same time.\n\ndetaching a bit, to be precise. it's taxing and you'll have lapses, but you'll get the hang of it.", "it is a very tough situation.\n\n1. many mental health professionals do not understand bpd and have not received adequate training.\n2. bpd is a diagnosis that can only be revealed through a thorough and accurate personal history. testing is not accurate.\n3. unless a professional has had experience with bpd, they will be of little value.\n4. read, and read more. there are good threads on this site. read them. read the personal histories of those with bpd, and of those living with those with bpd.\n5. learn the behavioral pattern templates. this helps identify when the \"bpd\" kicks in.\n6. learn to recognize \"deflecting\" in an argument or discussion. REALIZE that anytime an issue calls into question fault, ability, adequacy, or anything seemingly critical of your sister, deflection will surface.\n7. virtually every issue presented by her will usually be impossibly tangled, irrational, hyperbolic, and unsolvable, punctuated with fictional devices created by or over hyped by her.\n8. REALIZE that you are dealing with irrational and illogical behavior.\n9. she will always be a victim when pressure is on.\n10 she will never be at fault.\n11. she will never look in the mirror.\n12. when trying to help her resolve an issue, the best course is usually - listening, and only listening. offering suggestions usually leads to chasing the proverbial rabbit.\n13. learn to recognize the self-destructive components of her behavior. pointing it out is often better replaced with \"listening\".\n14. the ultimate key to manipulating someone with bpd is reducing the immediate anxiety. the problem here is - there is no logical key to accomplishing it. thus - listening.\n15. most of the time the puzzle a bpd person throws at you would never make a coherent picture even if the pieces fit together.\n16. the root cause of bpd [in my opinion, and others] is the inability to rationally confront perceived insecurities and inadequacies. much of this is subconscious. the part of it that is conscious will manifest in the most elaborate or demonstrative behavior. \n17. structure helps.\n18. training yourself, which is reflected in your post, is really the larger part of the battle.\n19. the constant catch 22 will wear on you.\n20. bpd people often demonstrate a capacity similar to anti-social behavior.\n21. the reference to dialectic behavioral therapy is valid. the key component is listening and anxiety reduction.\n22. CAVEAT - dbt is tricky in this regard. again - listening as opposed to offering fixes is paramount. this is difficult at best. bpd people will often present barriers to any fix proffered. thus, listening.\n23. mood control medication can be helpful. remember that anything that dulls the senses dulls ALL the senses, so be prepared for that.", "You must be a young adult, I would guesstimate around 20-22 years old? I'm saying that because it's clear you haven't dealt with many relationships yet (imo). \nWhile your sister may indeed have these issues I promise you that there are a whole bunch of people in this world who act in the same way. One day, one way or another, you will have to decide how you want to deal with them. I understand in this case that it is a special filial situation but your approach can't deviate much. This may sound cold but there is truth in the saying \"You don't get to chose your family\".", "Www.anythingtostopthepain.com there is a wealth of info there. They aren't *exactly* manipulative per se... It's extremely complicated and simple at the same time. I've not seen any website more compassionately address the disorder. ", "To me, it's as simple as this. Don't deal with her. Move out, Cut off contact with her. You don't need that in your life. I know if it was me in this scenario that's what i would do at least.I would value my own personal and mental well being over anybody , even family. That's a toxic relationship which you should get out of. let her deal with her own problems and not drag anyone else down with her.", "There are subreddits for things like this, they have links to good books and other resources for dealing with people like this and maintaining a relationship while protecting yourself. I recently stumbled across these and shared them with a couple friends, reading up on it raised a few alarm bells for how they described family members, and so far they're finding them extremely useful and even trying to reconnect with estranged parents (very slowly). Remember that your personal well-being and security is primary even if that means distancing yourself until you can recover. Giving them something (time, money, attention) should be your choice not a requirement or an imposed condition.\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/BPDSOFFA/comments/2agcno/bpd_so_survival_guide/\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/helpfullinks\n\nhttps://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=the+essential+family+guide+to+borderline+personality+disorder+pdf (first link to download)", "The BEST most important thing anyone with BPD can do in their life is take Cognitive behavioral therapy!!! Seriously, its like cutting the fringes off a ribbon. I can't stress this enough. ", "Thank you for giving really great responses from the heart. No matter what anyone says to criticize reddit, each of of you has given me fantastic advice from your own unique perspectives, and it really helps. Thank you.", "Sorry, friends and family with various problems, but nothing that bad luckily.\n\nMy unprofessional advice, with no real background other than some odd friends...\n\nLEAVE!\n\nCut all ties if you have to, or keep casual contact, but GET AWAY!\n\n", "Ok here's the thing. Diagnosis and mental health aside, you have to be responsible for you. No matter who you are living with you need to ensure that the bills are paid by physically paying them yourself. Even if it is online etc. \nIf you share an apartment with anyone, not just your sister, make sure that you are in the very least paying your half of the rent to the landlord yourself and getting a receipt. \n\nI cannot tell you how many times having a receipt absolutely saved me. I had a water company back home that would routinely double charge me, if I didn't have the receipt I would wind up with my water cut off or paying the bill twice. They blamed their computers and such but it was a family that owned the only store, gas station, hair salon, for 15 miles and they ran the electric company office. I figure once is a mistake 4 or 5 times in a couple of years is someone pocketing money. \n\nAnyhoo keep your receipts. Start a little file box like [this](http://www.amazon.com/Master-Lock-7148D-Locking-Security/dp/B002ONB4GA) and just make a file for each bill you have to pay every month. Drop your receipt into that file folder after a year clean it out and start again. If you pay online you can save them to a folder in the cloud or what have you. I like physical receipts so this is how I did mine. My husband likes computer files so he has a neat desk and files. Whatever works for you just make sure you get a receipt. \n\nAs to your situation with your sister. I have brothers and sisters, I am the oldest of 9. I love them dearly, even the one who is a mean thieving asshat. I love them enough not to ever live with any of them. I had a similar story to you that taught me that lesson. You can be supportive of her while minimizing your risk for damage. Honestly this also means emotionally too. If you have something you don't want the world to know then do not share it with someone you know has a problem with lies, deception, and theft. \n\nIn the meantime I would consider going to the landlord and explaining the situation very carefully. I find it helps to write things out first, bullet points so you don't ramble. If you wish to stay where you are then work on that if not then talk to them about what might be necessary to extend your date of departure so that you can find a new apartment. Either way don't let it just happen, it will improve your relations with them if you just sort it out before push comes to shove. \n\nI hope everything works out for you! It sucks to be in that situation! ", "Not sure if anyone has mentioned it you, so I'll recommend this book to you: *Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder* by Paul Mason. I hope you find it useful.", "My girlfriend is diagnosed with PTSD from a childhood incident. After learning and reading a lot about BPD, it seems to fit like a glove. I love her and need to decide about our future, but it's really tough knowing about the ups/downs that will undoubtably arise. She is very anti-medication but open to DBT. Any good resources on starting the process? How about resources for partners as well? Thank you. Also, i hate it when people just say that person is crazy when dealing with mental illness. I also sometimes feel embarrassed in public when she's in a heightened state or has had too much to drink, so I find myself hesitant to do things with her and all my friends cause I worry about a blowup. A couple have occurred, but she's seemed to learn how to better regulate and manage these situations. It's still in the back of my mind though. ", "I would highly recommend using the SET communication technique as described in \"I Hate You, Don't Leave Me\", a wonderful book on the borderline personality disorder.\n\nSET refers to:\n\nSupport,\nEmpathize,\nTruth\n\nThe technique revolves around first offering support/sympathy to a person by acknowledging their issue. Then you validate their feelings by showing your understanding of their situation. Finally, you give a firm, but honest truth about what needs to be happen. An example would be:\n\n\"I want you to know that I am here to help you, and I understand how difficult it has been for you since your mother's death, but we need to address how much you have been drinking.\"\n\nSET is a great communication tool and works outside of borderline situations as well. I find it particularly helpful at work.\n\nHere is a Psychology Today article on the technique:\n\nhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stop-walking-eggshells/201303/secrets-set-supportempathytruth-statements\n\nUsed properly it can diffuse situations before they get started.\n", "I think the book \"In Sheep's Clothing\" by might be a good read for you. It discusses the manipulative tactics people use and how to deal with them. I found it extremely helpful for me dealing with someone in my life who was covertly manipulative on so many levels. On amazon it's $10 bucks: http://www.amazon.com/In-Sheeps-Clothing-Understanding-Manipulative/dp/1935166301\n", "I have BPD and this is NOTHING like how I act/think. Sure she is BPD and not something else? Because this makes no sense to me. ", "I found /r/raisedbynarcissists recently and that's been really helpful for me. It sounds like your Dad may be one and NPD and BPD are closely related. \n\nHaving dated someone with BPD and grew up with someone who was NPD if not also BPD I'd recommend you set some pretty severe boundaries at least and put some distance between yourself and your sister. I know she's your sister but you stand the very real risk of completely losing yourself in the relationship if you get too entangled and you'll be less help to her in the long run that way. I'd suggest not living with her, maybe getting therapy yourself to cope with her and your own childhood stuff, and setting some firm boundaries for yourself to keep you safe. ", "I can't help with fixing her BPD, but one thing is perfectly clear; do not trust her with money ever ever ever. ", "I am sorry you are going through this. I have read over several comments and it seems the other redditors have this covered. I dont have advice for you, I am sorry. I don't feel I would be a good person to give advice in this situation as I left my spouse who has Borderline personality disorder. Its been ten years since, but he and his parents were both mentally abusive and manipulative. We never had food in the house and I barely had diapers for our son. I couldn't deal with it, and I didnt want my son around that. So I left and divorced him. He is remarried with other kids now and I feel sorry for them. I never hear from my ex except when it comes to the summer time visits. I have both of those books you mentioned in your original post. Still have them. They helped a great deal in understanding that this wasn't my fault and I wasn't to blame. This is not an easy situation and you can't divorce your sister. I am sorry you are going through this. Yes, your sister needs help, but don't forget about you. You might want to look into counseling or something, since you have been through a great deal with your sister. I truly hope that things get better for you. If they dont, then come back to reddit. There are loads of really great people here willing to help out.", "Family therapist here. This is the best resource I can offer to anyone in your situation: http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901", "Asperger's can also bemisdiagnosed as BPD. Many of the same emotional regulation and lack of self-awareness, impulsiveness, \"meltdowns\" are similar. It includes being unaware of others as \"real\" or \"self-aware\" as you are, which means a lack of empathy as well. I have ASD, and my sister most likely has that as well, though she's been diagnosed as BPD. The inability to naturally communicate with others can lead to distrust or \"manipulative\" behaviors to control what little she can about social interaction. Both my sister and I suffered through serious childhood trauma as well. It's tough. The best advice I can give you is don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. As a big sister, it's natural to want to protect and take care of your younger sister-but you have to take care of yourself first. ", "People with BPD suffer with abandonment issues. They can't distinguish real or perceived criticism, and they are very manipulative person. I rarely see BPD people caring about nothing more than wanting to have certain person or people at their beck and call 24/7. If their object of interest fails to meet their needs, histrionics ensue. Any person in a relationship who leaves, or threatens to leave are met by suicide attempts. BPD treat others as objects they own. Most therapists will not treat BPD's because they are highly manipulative and difficult. The only cure is she will likely outgrow it, like a child grows up.", "People with BPD are incredibly destructive to everything and everyone around them. If you do not distance yourself from her, she is fully capable of ruining every aspect of your life.", "People are responsible for their actions, regardless of mental disability. \n\nIf she is going to treat people like shit, she should live like shit. Find a new roomate and let her live homeless. She is the worst type of human, one who places no value on others welfare.", "One of the things I have learned about dealing with mental illness, is that while it can be incredibly challenging in the most critical of ways, it's not so different from the rest of us, who have our ideals and our pride, and our strengths, too. It has taught me in a strange way to respect people's different perspectives. In a way, that's not really so weird, because we all are individuals. But these illnesses also take their toll, have ripple effects, and I am trying to figure out a way to respect that while keeping the boundaries necessary to show and take love from them. The ability to give love, even if ill, is also so critical for self-identity, I think. But it requires a lot from surrounding loved ones to try to promote that.", "Number one never ever give her cash again in life. Never trust that she is honest with you or trust her to do the right thing. Always follow up to make sure what she said is true, call out her lies. Always handle the money. As far as getting evicted tell her to sell her clothes, sell her stuff, sell whatever is hers and not yours. You need to make her understand she is the responsible person. Make her pay, make her understand what paying bills feels like. \nAs far as excuses like a personality disorder my Mom would call that a pity party. Zero excuses in life. Survival of the fittest. So far she has survived off others, she is a parasite. A moocher who steals from you, make her sell her things. Make her get a loan on her own cr", "My mother had BPO. I have had years of therapy and I still have triggers... \n\nThere is no dealing with your sister. Know that the only way you can keep your self safe is to not have contact with her. Of course you will need to have contact with your sister at some point for some things, even if it is just a family holiday... But go into it knowing that she is going to be manipulative, and it is going to hurt. Keep the time as short as possible. \n\nIn the near term, you need to get a roommate. \n\nBe clear and upfront with your sister and explain that her lack of responsibility is not acceptable to you, that it puts you in danger and that you are going to find a new roommate. I would bet that the money will show up and the rent will get paid and the eviction will disappear. Find a new roommate and move out anyway. ", "Dialectical behavioral therapy works very well. Source: just finished clinical rotations in state mental hospital. ", " You have to take control. Never, ever give her any ammunition to fire back in your direction. Love her, but don't trust her. \n I recommend cutting ties/communication drastically, then re-introducing it in steps. (For example: email & snail mail communication only, so that tempers don't flare and there is a record of all correspondence; then move into a coffee or lunch date if all is going well, and so on.) Be very wary of any gifts, favors, tips, or help you receive from her. Count on it being used against you in the future. Count on every conversation you have about others to be grossly exaggerated/distorted and fed to those people with malicious intent. Assume that she is telling others that you say nasty things about them. When she tells you others are saying nasty things about you, don't believe it. Instead, go directly to those people and clear the air asap. \n With strict guidelines that you enforce, with fidelity, you have a chance at an amicable relationship. \n\n (Source) I suspect that my mother also has B.P.D. As long as you are serving her needs, or behaving within her parameters, you are on her good side and she will do just about anything for you. As soon as you deviate, you are the enemy, flat out. Throughout my life, I have had dealt with countless episodes of tyrannical manipulation and many cycles of being shunned, then welcomed back, so long as I approached her and took complete blame for whatever bullshit she had put me and those I love through. She does this to everyone within her immediate family circle. She has permanently driven off more friends and extended family members than you would believe. \n Currently, my own mother is attempting to sue me (Don't worry, she has no case), as well as compromise my wife's hard earned private massage practice by falsely accusing her of insurance fraud. The catalyst for this episode was treating my father, her ex, to a humble airbnb road trip for the holidays and not inviting her. This has been the final straw, and I do not expect to visit with her for a very long time, if ever again. The thought that she would threaten the stability of my whole family was just too much.", "Nothing you can do but cut her off. Know that no matter what you feel she will never reciprocate and will throw you under the bus to benefit herself, even if only slightly. \n\nCut and run, or prepare to be used and abused.", "I love how there is a wall of text about how crazy she is.. then he goes \"\"Anyways, I recently gave her my half of the rent\"\n\nhahahaha im dying laughing" ]

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[ "How to deal with digestive problems related to nervousness before exams? I always feel nauseous and feel like going to the toilet before exams. This always happens the day of the exams and I also lose my appetite as a result and would be unable to do well for the paper on an empty stomach. How do I deal with this problem?", "How to deal with digestive problems related to nervousness before exams? I always feel nauseous and feel like going to the toilet before exams. This always happens the day of the exams and I also lose my appetite as a result and would be unable to do well for the paper on an empty stomach. How do I deal with this problem?", "How to deal with digestive problems related to nervousness before exams? I always feel nauseous and feel like going to the toilet before exams. This always happens the day of the exams and I also lose my appetite as a result and would be unable to do well for the paper on an empty stomach. How do I deal with this problem?", "How to deal with digestive problems related to nervousness before exams? I always feel nauseous and feel like going to the toilet before exams. This always happens the day of the exams and I also lose my appetite as a result and would be unable to do well for the paper on an empty stomach. How do I deal with this problem?", "How to deal with digestive problems related to nervousness before exams? I always feel nauseous and feel like going to the toilet before exams. This always happens the day of the exams and I also lose my appetite as a result and would be unable to do well for the paper on an empty stomach. How do I deal with this problem?" ]

[ "anxiety and adrenaline can trigger your fight or flight response, and make you poop or puke. If you cant take anti anxiety meds (i.e. they make me drowsy so no good for exams) cognitive behavioural therapy might be useful - identifying triggers and changing the way you think about them will really help. ", "Don't take medicine for anxiety guys... Doctors prescribe them, but in reality, I doubt they're working. Healthcare professional here. You don't NEED medicine for EVERYTHING. Just work it out with you mind. I don't have a \"steel stomach\", yet I find ways to work around vomit and bodily fluids all the time. The secret? Keep doing it. If you think you are nauseous from pre-exam stress, take more exams and eat (starting small, getting to larger meals) before the test. Also, consider starting to cut down on the greasey foods.", "Van wilder? Pre-Game dump! Also, even if you aren't hungry have a small snack. i Cant really help you with nausea or being nervous. ", "I experienced something similar (would feel my stomach rumbling when I got nervous and I would vomit quite a bit). My doctor decided it was anxiety and started me on a low dose of prozac and another antidepressant and I have been able to handle feelings of nervousness without as many digestive problems.", "Happens to many people, just go to the bathroom before the exam. Also just eat something regardless of appetite. I usually just eat a muffin or something easy. My biggest issue has always been not getting g any sleep the night before. (I once did 10 exams in two weeks and averaged 1.5 hours of sleep over the two weeks). I started taking a light sleeping pill the evening before an exam (emphasis on light, it was allergy medicine that made you really sleepy). " ]

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[ "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted.", "How to explain (in a work meeting) that you didn't understand a concept that was literally just explained to you without sounding like an idiot. I recently landed an amazing IT job that covers some concepts that I struggle with from lack of experience. I am in many meetings where they will quickly explain a report or technology and sometimes it just totally goes over my head or maybe I was distracted." ]

[ "Google the f*x out of it. In IT, don't be afraid to admit that you don't know something. You're better off than acting like you do know, and breaking something. But, if you're expected to know it for your role, research and teach yourself if you don't want to spend/your company won't spend the money for training. A home lab is a great thing to have to replicate the basics of your work environment for trial and error. VMs!", "You need to combine several approaches:\n\n* Google the shit out of everything. Wikipedia is your friend, find an overview there and then a more detailed explanation elsewhere on the web.\n\n* Find a peer/mentor that you can query after the fact. They can help you through things, especially in-depth technical answers and complicated concepts.\n\n* As a newer engineer asking for help isn't a big deal, but asking the same questions twice/thrice gets a side eye. Repeat four or five times and you're labelled an idiot.\n\n* DO NOT EVER LIE. If you don't know, say so. Lying and/or explaining incorrectly is the kiss of death. Technical people are very black and white, no grey to be had.", "Having worked in IT for years I've learned it's best to just ask the question or ask them to clarify what you don't understand. I often find their way of explaining things was just jacked and once they clarify what they mean it all clicks", "It can be easy to get this wrong in IT especially. \n\n> Hang on...that makes no sense? \n\nCan be a sign of huge experience, or a sign of complete ignorance. \n\nSo, while the advice here: \n\n> Stay quiet for the most-part, ask straightforward clarifying questions, take notes, google lots, avoid saying 'can you repeat your entire explanation' where possible\n\nis good advice - it's only good up to a certain point while you're noticeably far behind your peers, and only in certain contexts. In some meetings the rest of the meeting is wasted if you've stopped following the train of thought of the person who's speaking - in others there'll never be a follow up question. \n\nI'm a little more experienced and if someone presents a technical topic, and I've got *no idea* what they meant - chances are the other people in the room are at least a little confused also (for any number of reasons). \n\n\nSome other tips: \n\n* Paraphrase what others are saying to exp", "How new are you? Your co-workers should be open to answering your questions when you are a new-hire. In fact, they should be expecting you to ask questions. When they hired you, they did so knowing what you have experience with and what you don't.\n\nAre these concepts just being talked about, or is there any visualization going on (a computer screen being projected during the meeting, etc.)? I know I learn best by doing, just hearing a lecture doesn't do much for me. Try asking one of your colleagues to walk you through something when you are at the computer if you have problems later.\n\nHowever, if you believe the concept is something general that you should already know, Google it.", "1. Take a ton of notes. Kudos if you can transcribe verbatim what they said. \n\n2. Study up on it yourself. \n\n3. Schedule a one-on-one with a friendly coworker who knows those things. Frame it as a desire to contribute meaningfully to the project. ", "Work on your scholarly gaze and understanding nod and try to hide your deer in headlights expression. Wait a few months to start asking questions during meetings to get a feel for the work environment and just in case you're asking something that is common knowledge. Google anything and everything, but if you honestly can't figure something out after you've exhausted every online resource, do not be afraid to ask a colleague later. Just don't overdo it with the questions. You can also use it as a way to get to know people.", "Take good notes, pay attention!! If you're swimming in the deep end of the pool for the first time then don't space out, or you'll drown. \n\nWhen you get back to your office, do your research! ", "It depends how much you know. The more you know the less you need to worry.\n\nI'm more than happy to say I don't understand/know things. I even do this at interviews (and got the job). But I'm lucky because I generally know quite a bit and most of the issues are about not knowing a particular buzz word/framework etc if you don't understand the basic concepts, say caching stuff then yeah that could be a problem.\n\nSame with being asked to clarify stuff by a colleague/someone in my team. That's all good too, this is how we learn. Now if you pretend you understand stuff when you don't. That makes me sad and you difficult to work with, I'm not even sure I want you working with me.\n\nThe other thing to remember is that people may just be talking about stuff without it actually being very important. Generally the technology isn't very important. The key thing is to understand what you need to produce as an outcome, not how to get there, that you should be able to work out/google/phone a friend...\n", "Everyone has some nervousness about presentations in meetings, even small meetings. There are knowledge set barriers. There are language barriers. There are industry-specific secret priesthood barriers. \n\nYou don't want to embarrass the speaker. That puts you both in a bad light. You don't want to disrupt the speaker. That puts you in a bad light. But you don't want to walk away from the meeting totally lost. What to do?\n\nTake notes. Write down your questions as they come up. Make a list of acronyms, all of them. Confirm their meanings after the meeting. Stay with the speaker and watch the rest of the attendees; are they also confused? If they are, and you're the new person, wait it out. Feeling dumb in IT is part of the job description; get used to it. If you're a senior person, and you don't understand some terms or acronyms, ask. You will be responsible for explaining it to the new person tomorrow.\n\nFind a mentor. Could be a peer on your team. Offer them an espresso or lunch and bring your questions.\n\nIf no one asks during the meeting, ask another participant after the meeting ends. When all else fails, google everything from your notes.\n\nI've worked in retail, consumer packaged goods, shipping, aerospace, inventory management, healthcare, and financials. If you think your confused now, in about five to ten years you are going to find yourself in exactly the same meeting in a different industry and say to yourself, 'I don't get this shit at all'. The difference will be that you don't expect yourself to get everything on your first day. You'll make a list and quiz someone later.\n\nThis way, you've actively facilitated the meeting by listening carefully. You've paid attention, which shows respect. You've made an effort to understand and determined that you're not getting everything. All good behaviors. \n\nNot everyone will sing your praises, but some people are crabby by nature. Don't blow them off after they blow you off, because you may find in the future that they are a wonderful resource, once you get a little experience with them.\n\nEnjoy! Congratulations on the new gig!", "*If* you were paying attention, then you should be able to articulate what you didn't understand. Like, \"I don't understand how X affects Y, and so I don't understand why you said Z would prevent Y.\" \n\nIf you just say, \"Wait, what?\" then you're going to sound like an idiot no matter what.", "Generally speaking, if you carry yourself as a hard worker and an enthusiastic learner, most IT people will help you learn. I agree with the others saying you should ask for clarification if you truly need it. The thing is, IT changes so rapidly, anyone pretending to know \"everything\" is likely FOS.\n\nI'd also recommend joining IT communities like Spiceworks or Experts Exchange. If there are Meetup groups in your area for your IT specialization, that's another option. \n\nI swear I'm not shilling for these sites! :-)", "Follow up the explanation with this question: \"Who should I reach out to if I find myself in need of further clarification?\"\n\nThen after the meeting, reach out to that person. Make them your personal tutor until the task is completed.", "If you absolutely must ask questions, never ever ask your boss. To him you need to be on the ball and outwardly confident etc at all times. \n\nFind a colleague who's sociable and ask them for help, \n\n", "If someone explained something to you and you don't understand, they failed to explain it. Be honest. Ask for examples that make sense. " ]

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[ "You are at home preparing a meal just for yourself. Halfway in you have some unexpected visit by a friend. What do you do? I had this several times and so far didn't know what to do. I don't want to serve the food to myself and eat while talking to them. Also I think it wouldn't be apropriate to offer some of it although you don't have enough for two. Reddit, can you help?", "You are at home preparing a meal just for yourself. Halfway in you have some unexpected visit by a friend. What do you do? I had this several times and so far didn't know what to do. I don't want to serve the food to myself and eat while talking to them. Also I think it wouldn't be apropriate to offer some of it although you don't have enough for two. Reddit, can you help?", "You are at home preparing a meal just for yourself. Halfway in you have some unexpected visit by a friend. What do you do? I had this several times and so far didn't know what to do. I don't want to serve the food to myself and eat while talking to them. Also I think it wouldn't be apropriate to offer some of it although you don't have enough for two. Reddit, can you help?", "You are at home preparing a meal just for yourself. Halfway in you have some unexpected visit by a friend. What do you do? I had this several times and so far didn't know what to do. I don't want to serve the food to myself and eat while talking to them. Also I think it wouldn't be apropriate to offer some of it although you don't have enough for two. Reddit, can you help?", "You are at home preparing a meal just for yourself. Halfway in you have some unexpected visit by a friend. What do you do? I had this several times and so far didn't know what to do. I don't want to serve the food to myself and eat while talking to them. Also I think it wouldn't be apropriate to offer some of it although you don't have enough for two. Reddit, can you help?" ]

[ "Their own fault for apearing unannounced. Offer them a drink and apologize. No needd for you to feel bad.", "If I wanted this person to eat with me, I'd split the main dish or protein and make another side that doesn't take long. Couscous for example. It's relatively healthy and only takes 10 minutes to make.", "its a little mean, just tell them you were cooking for yourself but if they want some they can have a little sample", "Ask if they've eaten yet. If they have, tell them you haven't and if they don't mind, you're going to eat while they visit with you. \n\nIf they're hungry, pack up your food and save it for later. Do you have anything on hand to share with your guest? Like snacks, finger food, or tea/coffee? If not, maybe stock up for the next time this happens. Or go somewhere to eat if you can afford it! \n\nAlso, I don't know about anybody else here, but I find it rude when somebody just drops in unexpectedly. If they're a repeat offender, maybe ask them to text or call before coming over next time so you're not stuck in an awkward position. ", "It would be appropriate to offer to share, not to mention admirable, large-hearted, loving, generous, selfless, beautiful. If they are hungry, go hungry yourself so they can eat. If they aren't, eat your fill. Food can be a spiritual practice and taking food with a friend is a real gift, to return the gift of their company." ]

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[ "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it.", "How to make getting up in the morning easier and less of something I dread I loved the LPT of making your bed in the morning or doing something productive but every time I actually have to wake up in the morning for school it is so difficult and I hate it and never look forward to it." ]

[ "This my seem counterintuitive...But I wake up earlier than I have to.\n\nThus allows me to have a little time to myself. I make a cup of tea, turn on the news while surfing online for a bit.\n\nThen I can start my day.", "My friend who is a nurse and works a lot of nights told me that she has a big glass of water before she goes to bed. Then when the alarm goes off she also has to pee, so there's motivation to get out of bed.", "Place a large glass (a pint or more) of water on your bedside table the night before. When your alarm goes off, down the whole thing at once. This will drop your core temperature, jump starting your metabolism and making the rest of your morning easier.", "When I was in college I'd set my clock 15 minutes later than what the actual time was, that was I was always early to wake up, then if I was really sleepy it was nice to know I had 15 minutes left to lay there, and of course my alarm would sound again 15 minutes later but it made it easier to get out of bed.", "This is the opposite to what everyone is saying, but it works for me. I set my alarm so late that even if I stay in bed for an extra 5 minutes I'll be late for work. So I have no choice but to get straight up and ready for work right then and there. Thus not having time to even think about dreading of getting up", "My alarm clock is a ring tone of a song I like. Waking up to that as opposed to a buzzing noise sets my mood. Sometimes I let it ring and sing along. ", "I turned every morning into a routine in order to make sure i always go to work. I did it every day for a while, and now get up/ready without even thinking about it. ", "Force yourself into a routine, after a week of forcing yourself straight out of bed it will become a habit. ", "Dunno if it helps, but I find that I wake up ~an hour before I have to go to work. So instead of rolling over and going back to sleep, I just pick up my phone and start browsing. this gives me plenty of time to get fully awake. Then I can just get out of bed and take a shower whenever I feel like it, rather than doing it at the last minute.", "I seriously hate mornings, and how I feel when waking up. Here are the things I've changed recently that make is suck less:\n \n1. Do not set an alarm\n2. Browse reddit the second you wake up\n \nAs much as I hate waking up, I really enjoy catching up on Reddit in the morning. It gets my brain going, and eventually my body will comply. Turning off the alarm for good, however, was the best thing I've ever done. You will wake up when your body says it's time to wake up. " ]

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[ "Getting rid of an ant problem in your home. I got an ant problem, still in the process of trying new things, any tips you could offer would be fantastic, thanks!!", "Getting rid of an ant problem in your home. I got an ant problem, still in the process of trying new things, any tips you could offer would be fantastic, thanks!!", "Getting rid of an ant problem in your home. I got an ant problem, still in the process of trying new things, any tips you could offer would be fantastic, thanks!!", "Getting rid of an ant problem in your home. I got an ant problem, still in the process of trying new things, any tips you could offer would be fantastic, thanks!!" ]

[ "The best pet friendly and nontoxic way I've found to deal with ants is to take raw corn and blend it into grain or a powder like substance, or cornmeal and make a mound of it in areas where the ants will cross it. They'll take it back to the mound or wherever they are and It'll slowly kill them.", "I've used Terro ant baits with great success. It just gets a little messy when you end up with a whole bunch of dead ants.", "I mix plain borax and sugar then add enough water so that it's like a syrup and put it in something shallow and disposable (coffee can lid). Set it where the ants are going, just make sure pets/kids can't get it. They slurp it up and take it back to the nest.\n\nI get ants every June and if I do this right away they are gone in a couple of days.\n\nIf they like something other than sugar, mix borax with whatever they do eat.", "Easy peasy\n\n1) Follow the ants you see...find out how they are getting in, and caulk it\n\n2) Put plain ole inexpensive talc in doorways and along walls, they steer clear...I usually put peppermint oil in the talc as well\n\nMany insects hate peppermint, good for ants,roaches,bees,wasps,moths\n\nI hate killing insects, they are vital to the ecosystem" ]

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[ "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?", "Best way to make money as a minor? Hey, so I’m 13 years old and I want to make some money. I’m saving up to build a gaming computer, but I don’t know what to do to earn money. I’ve heard of mowing lawns, washing cars, walking pets etc. But I don’t know where to start. Do I just knock on someone’s door and offer them help, do I slip a little business card under their door? Any advice?" ]

[ "My kids delivered fliers for local small businesses.\n\nTips:\n1. Figure out the area you want to cover using Google Maps.\n\n2. Count the houses in that area (let's say there are 300).\n\n3. Go into locally owned small businesses and tell them you will deliver 300 fliers in this area for 10 cents a flyer ($30). Compare your price to the price of the US Postal Service. \n\n4. Tell the business the date the flyers must be ready for pickup and the date you will be delivering them.\n\n5. If you can get multiple businesses to agree you only have to deliver flyers once but will get paid by multiple companies.\n\n6. Limit the size of the flyer to half page or less. Full page flyers on someone's doorstep looks bad.\n\n7. Offer to deliver to multiple neighborhoods and offer a price break for businesses that sign up for more than one neighborhood.\n", "You could flyer your neighbourhood, ask your neighbours that you know if they need any help, get your parents to let their coworkers or friends know you’re looking for odd jobs. House/pet sitting is a great way to make money because you’re not really doing much and you’re earning money. \n\nIt’s easier to get work if you do good work so make sure you’re putting effort into whatever you end up doing, and ask people you do jobs for if you can get references from them. At your age word of mouth is going to be your best friend here. Depending on where you live though you could start working and earning a paycheque when you’re 14, so if worse comes to worse and you can’t find odd jobs, you’ll be able to look for a legal job soon. \n\nAlso try crafting and selling things online, you can make good money through places like Etsy if you’ve got some skill. Good luck!!", "This is what my kids do.. They find things in the neighborhood which people seem to neglect and they offer to do it for them for a small fee. \n\nthings like:\ndog clean up\ndog walking\ntaking the bins to the road and back\ncutting lawns\n\nI think they used to make a few hundred a week all summer long.. You'd be surprised how many people will pay a reasonable price for a kid showing a whole bunch of initiative.\n\nThere is an interesting saying that was said in a cartoon: Find a need, fill a need.. And its true.. Good Luck!!", "1. Ask your parents for a startup loan of $20. \n2. Buy bulk candy bars online \n3. Sell them *secretly* at school, on the bus, playground, whatever \n4. Rinse and repeat, pocket profit. \n \nUsed to do this on my school bus in middle and high school, kids begin to learn your that kid who sells the good candy bars for $1-$2 and I was clearing like $10-$20 a day in profit.", "Call local country clubs in your area and ask to speak to the Caddie Master. Most country clubs have a training program for new caddies if you don't have experience. Usually, you can start when you are 13 or 14 years old. Carrying golf clubs is a great way to make money. Most of the money is from the golfer tipping so it can be tax free. I did this for many years and made around 60 dollars for 3.5 - 4 hours of work. I imagine the going rate is even higher now.", "You could, as others have pointed out, create a flyer and leave it at the local gas station or 7-11. I've had a few kids in my neighborhood knock on my door looking to mow or shovel snow, I give them $50 and they're happy. \n\nBack when I was 13 in 1984, I used to go door to door offering to do the same as you. I got tired of it and got a job at the local mall at 14. ", "When I was your age I had a paper round. There could also be local farmers or greeneries who could use an extra hand during the harvest season.", "Learn to code. There is some up front investment (time) but you will be able to earn increasing amounts of $$ throughout HS and beyond. ", "If you're into computer stuff I suggest learning Photoshop and web oriented dev tasks, by the time you're 16 you'll know enough to make money. For now, depending on where you live you can ask elder neighbours if they need someone to run to the store for them, it's winter so cutting lawns is kinda off unless you live somewhere warm. ", "I would just start a gofundme and be very thorough with your story and plan to build your PC.\n\nSay $5 donation will cover this part of your gaming computer and so on. I don’t know anything about building PCs so let’s just say you want nice speakers and to build one whole speaker it costs $100, and each time you get a $5 donation then keep a running status bar for each part of your PC you need to build ($5/100, $10/100). Post updates frequently on there so you stay relevant and people remember you.\n\nPost on social media, FB, Twitter, Insta, Imgur, Reddit pages so that it reaches more people. Post every day so that you stay relevant. \n\nEvery time you hit a major milestone that allows you the build a part of your PC, post photos and short videos frequently on an Instagram and YouTube account with photos and videos of your progress. For YouTube describe what you are doing while you’re doing it. \n\nAdults who donate to your gofundme like to see that you have a plan, you know what you are doing, and you are committed to it. As long as you frequently update this allows you to get free money for your PC. You can also ask your parents to match a certain dollar amount if you reach it from fundraising or your own efforts of work.", "I had a neighbor who, as a teenager, would buy 1970's magazines off EBay for next to nothing. He would cut out the full page advertisements for motorcycles, frame them, and sell the framed copies on eBay for a profit.", "If you live in a rural area, you can forage for wild fruits. I used to do it when i was about 7 and i could earn about 3000$ in a summer. You can also go ask farmers if they would have relatively safe tasks for you to do for pay. I also worked as a chicken catcher at a poultry farm when i was about 10 and did that for quite a while. Was a good way to earn some $ and get a good work out." ]

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[ "When playing music from my laptop, I have volume controls on the music player app, my built-in hardware audio controller, and on my external speakers...which one should I use to control volume to maintain optimal audio quality? ", "When playing music from my laptop, I have volume controls on the music player app, my built-in hardware audio controller, and on my external speakers...which one should I use to control volume to maintain optimal audio quality? ", "When playing music from my laptop, I have volume controls on the music player app, my built-in hardware audio controller, and on my external speakers...which one should I use to control volume to maintain optimal audio quality? ", "When playing music from my laptop, I have volume controls on the music player app, my built-in hardware audio controller, and on my external speakers...which one should I use to control volume to maintain optimal audio quality? " ]

[ "TL:DR Starting at the source of the sound, turn the levels up to about 90% and use whatever the last volume control in the path is to do your main adjustments.\n\nThere are two issues to contend with here on either end of the volume dial. Noise and distortion. In any electrical system there is a small amount of noise, typically a constant level. This is called the noise floor. The noise will find it's way into your computers output. When you change the level of music in an app or in the system settings this doesn't effect the noise so you can think of changing the volume as changing the ratio of good signal to noise.\n\nIn most cases the noise is so low, you never hear it in your speakers. However if your good signal level is too low, then your tendency is to turn up the stereo (amplifier). In addition to amplifying the good signal, you'll be amplifying the noise as well.\n\nSo just turn it all the way up, right?\n\nWrong. Electrical circuits have a limit to how much audio signal they can handle. When they get too much input, the highest parts of the signal get flattened out. When this kind of signal gets amplified and sent to the speakers it causes them to jerk to a stop instead of smoothly switching from moving out to moving in. For that reason you should always leave a little room so the extra high levels don't get flattened out or clipped. \n", "Volume 1 (YouTube, Spotify)\n\nVolume 2 (Windows volume)\n\nVolume 3 (External volume controller)\n\nTurn up 1 & 2 to max volume and use your headset for volume control.\n\nIf you don't have 3, the turn 1 to max and use 2 for volume.\n\nAvoid doing these backwards because you're basically making windows amplify a low sound, which round the quality.", "Here is what I do (although I'm not sure it's the best way. It might depend on the speakers):\n\nI leave the volume on the media app all the way up.\n\nI turn the volume on my external speakers all the way up, then turn them down until I can't hear static anymore.\n\nI use my system volume on my computer to adjust the volume as needed.", "Hardware audio controller at 80% \nApp at 70% \nExternal Speaker as master volume control. \n\nthen adjust the HAC until you cant hear any distortion / hiss." ]

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[ "Life organizer program for PC? I have so much trouble managing all of my tasks. Is there some sort of daily task program (preferably free) that I can download to my PC? I can't find anything good via Google searches. ", "Life organizer program for PC? I have so much trouble managing all of my tasks. Is there some sort of daily task program (preferably free) that I can download to my PC? I can't find anything good via Google searches. ", "Life organizer program for PC? I have so much trouble managing all of my tasks. Is there some sort of daily task program (preferably free) that I can download to my PC? I can't find anything good via Google searches. ", "Life organizer program for PC? I have so much trouble managing all of my tasks. Is there some sort of daily task program (preferably free) that I can download to my PC? I can't find anything good via Google searches. " ]

[ "I highly recomend [Wunderlist](https://www.wunderlist.com/). You can make tasks, subtasks, groups, lists of tasks. It has reminders and you can add notes. \n", "I've been using [Google Keep](https://keep.google.com/) as a place to maintain to-do checklists and other little notes to myself. It has a few reminder paradigms, and the price is nice. It's not as flexible as some other to-do systems I've heard about. It has a decent Android app and works well in the browser, but I would like it to be finer grained.", "Podio does some wonders - task lists which are organizable by workgroup, project, due date, etc. includes the ability to set due dates, repetition, and delegation. I am in no way affiliated with Podio; I am solely a satisfied user at the enterprise level.", "Effectual is the best for windows 10 and windows phone because it will automatically sort your todos by priority and due date. " ]

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[ "How to stop procrastinating I did a search in LPT and only found [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/mwxfi/lpt_request_how_to_procrastinate_less/) thread from almost a year ago which one good answer. I was hoping since then the community has grown and can offer some more/better advice on how to not get sidetracked.", "How to stop procrastinating I did a search in LPT and only found [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/mwxfi/lpt_request_how_to_procrastinate_less/) thread from almost a year ago which one good answer. I was hoping since then the community has grown and can offer some more/better advice on how to not get sidetracked." ]

[ "Read [Getting Things Done](http://www.amazon.co.uk/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-free-Productivity/dp/0749922648/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1349554255&sr=1-1)\n\nIt really helps. Honestly, it does. Do what it says in that book and everything in your life will become better. \n\nThe main problem procrastinators have is that they see the things they have to do as too big to be done at once. Well, that's the point. You can't just \"move to another country\" all at once. There are a million tiny things that you need to do to make that happen. All you need to realise is that big prijects are made out of tiny steps. Work out what the first step is, then do that. The rest will follow.", "There is a chrome add-on that will block non-work sites for a given time. I don't remember the name but you can search Play." ]

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[ "Simple techniques on how to keep you or delay you from shitting/dumping I am far away home most of the time and for some reason, I have this stomach that always wants to shit out after I eat something. Reddit, could you provide some easy methods (i.e. preferred body positions, room temperature) on how to delay (at least an hour) shitting.\n\n", "Simple techniques on how to keep you or delay you from shitting/dumping I am far away home most of the time and for some reason, I have this stomach that always wants to shit out after I eat something. Reddit, could you provide some easy methods (i.e. preferred body positions, room temperature) on how to delay (at least an hour) shitting.\n\n", "Simple techniques on how to keep you or delay you from shitting/dumping I am far away home most of the time and for some reason, I have this stomach that always wants to shit out after I eat something. Reddit, could you provide some easy methods (i.e. preferred body positions, room temperature) on how to delay (at least an hour) shitting.\n\n", "Simple techniques on how to keep you or delay you from shitting/dumping I am far away home most of the time and for some reason, I have this stomach that always wants to shit out after I eat something. Reddit, could you provide some easy methods (i.e. preferred body positions, room temperature) on how to delay (at least an hour) shitting.\n\n", "Simple techniques on how to keep you or delay you from shitting/dumping I am far away home most of the time and for some reason, I have this stomach that always wants to shit out after I eat something. Reddit, could you provide some easy methods (i.e. preferred body positions, room temperature) on how to delay (at least an hour) shitting.\n\n", "Simple techniques on how to keep you or delay you from shitting/dumping I am far away home most of the time and for some reason, I have this stomach that always wants to shit out after I eat something. Reddit, could you provide some easy methods (i.e. preferred body positions, room temperature) on how to delay (at least an hour) shitting.\n\n", "Simple techniques on how to keep you or delay you from shitting/dumping I am far away home most of the time and for some reason, I have this stomach that always wants to shit out after I eat something. Reddit, could you provide some easy methods (i.e. preferred body positions, room temperature) on how to delay (at least an hour) shitting.\n\n" ]

[ "I used to work as a nuclear security guard in the military. This involved sitting at a site for long hours when maintenance was getting done. Plenty of times I sat for 8-12 hours maximum and plenty of times I had to go. It was the middle of nowhere and you could see for miles in any direction so going on the side of the road really wasn't an option. There really weren't many ditches and we didn't always have tp. So mostly we made do and waited.\n\nWhat helped me was avoiding sitting if I could as this is the natural posture for poo. A warm environment always made the need to evacuate even stronger so I tried to stay cool. Given evough time and concentration the need to poo comes and goes in waves so you'll have down times followed by short bursts where your body reminds you of your impending movement. During those time you really have to go, do something that does not involve heavy lifting. \n\nGood luck.", "Kegel exercises. This will improve your ability to hold back a dump and an orgasm better than anything else.", "Whenever I get a particularly acute urge to shit, I hold my breath. In addition to changing my focus, I think it does something physiologically, since I don't seem to need to shit nearly as badly after 15 seconds.", "This might be helpful to simulate getting out of your situation:\n\nhttp://www.kongregate.com/games/Rete/dont-shit-your-pants", "Do you have this problem after every single meal, or do some foods make it worse than others? Could be worth keeping a food diary (and a \"yikes need to crap\" diary); you might discover that if you avoid certain foods you'll have fewer urgent bathroom situations. Could be dairy, gluten, etc.", "Please don't. Holding in and denying your body the natural process of moving bowels has lots of negative implications on your body. Many of which involve pretty bad outcomes. Just try and find the best times, and if your job requires you to function on no breaks, try and synch up your bowels to the job. As in you know you always need to take a crap at hour X; evaluate your eating and exercise patterns and adjust accordingly. ", "I don't understand this, can other people not control their bowels? Clench your ass/shitting muscles and you won't shit. Hold that for 30 seconds to several minutes and eventually your body will give up trying to shit.\n\nI'm able to delay it for hours/days, whatever I need or want." ]

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[ "How to modify your handwriting. Always felt like I had bad handwriting, I know it's possible but I'm not sure how to start.", "How to modify your handwriting. Always felt like I had bad handwriting, I know it's possible but I'm not sure how to start.", "How to modify your handwriting. Always felt like I had bad handwriting, I know it's possible but I'm not sure how to start.", "How to modify your handwriting. Always felt like I had bad handwriting, I know it's possible but I'm not sure how to start." ]

[ "This is what I did after I was disgusted that I could not even read a thank you card I had just finished:\n\nI purchased a notebook with lines like in grade school and literally just started writing the same sentence over and over again until I could read it. Then I would switch up the sentence and filled the whole notebook. My writing is worlds better, not perfect, but at least I can read it!\n\nP.S. To stay sharp I make it a point to actually write things out if possible like forms and postcards.", "As any other task, the key to good execution is practice. If I were you, and wanted flawless writing, I would get a ruled notebook, and write down every characters (not just letters) that you would usually use in sentences. \n\nAs such, you would start with the letter \"**a**\", in a particular font that you like. Choosing a font serves as a reference template. You can always go on Word and check out how they are traced. Or you could print out the font layout from your /font folder. You fill a page with only a's, or until you're satisfied with your tracing. Then move on to the next character, and so on. \n\nUntil you reach the end, and now you practice with \"**The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog**\". You are now integrating your whole character tracing into a single sentence. Then you switch sentence to another of your choice. After that, you should have flawless writing.\n\nKey is practice.", "I think I came to a similar realization about a year after I'd graduated from university and spent the entire time never touching a notebook (programmer here). I realized that my writing was not nice. At all. I'd permanently adapted the ugly scrawl I used to write my notes with in school in an attempt to keep up with the lecture.\n\nHere's what I did to clean up:\n* Find a writing style you like, whether it be cursive, architect-ish style, or a clean printed comic-lettering style. My advice is to just browse through a nice fonts website until you find one you like.\n* Keep a daily journal of some sort. This is easy for me, because every day, I'd just log my work in a big notebook. It needs to be done, it helps me remember, and I can easily write status reports if I have everything jotted down. Write dates, as they're an excuse for writing numbers.\n* Experiment. If you find that certain letters/numbers that you write aren't to your liking, change it and work on that the next time you come to it, or write a line that repeats that character.\n\nGood luck!!", "Repetition, repetition, repetition. \n\nI've done this several times, and it works for me every time. Pick one thing you want to change, like the shape of your capitol G. Write it the way you want to write it, slowly, over and over. You're training your hand and your brain that this new shape is the letter G. Go faster until you can write the letter over and over at about the same speed as you'd write any other letter. Then start tossing out words with that letter until you consistently write the new letter. \n\nDon't forget to practice or modify connections, if you're writing in cursive or mixed print/cursive. " ]

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[ "Mouse Problem Hey Reddit. We recently moved into a new house, and there are rats in our walls. Exterminator told is that it will be a heavy demolition job because they are coming in from the pipes, and there is a hole in one of the pipes. To locate this hole, he would need to break multiple walls. It would be a guessing game to find this hole, and would be pretty expensive.\n\nWould getting a dog/cat help? Even though they would never have direct contact, maybe the smell of a pet would scare the rats away? What other tips do you have which can help?\n\nThanks\n\n", "Mouse Problem Hey Reddit. We recently moved into a new house, and there are rats in our walls. Exterminator told is that it will be a heavy demolition job because they are coming in from the pipes, and there is a hole in one of the pipes. To locate this hole, he would need to break multiple walls. It would be a guessing game to find this hole, and would be pretty expensive.\n\nWould getting a dog/cat help? Even though they would never have direct contact, maybe the smell of a pet would scare the rats away? What other tips do you have which can help?\n\nThanks\n\n", "Mouse Problem Hey Reddit. We recently moved into a new house, and there are rats in our walls. Exterminator told is that it will be a heavy demolition job because they are coming in from the pipes, and there is a hole in one of the pipes. To locate this hole, he would need to break multiple walls. It would be a guessing game to find this hole, and would be pretty expensive.\n\nWould getting a dog/cat help? Even though they would never have direct contact, maybe the smell of a pet would scare the rats away? What other tips do you have which can help?\n\nThanks\n\n", "Mouse Problem Hey Reddit. We recently moved into a new house, and there are rats in our walls. Exterminator told is that it will be a heavy demolition job because they are coming in from the pipes, and there is a hole in one of the pipes. To locate this hole, he would need to break multiple walls. It would be a guessing game to find this hole, and would be pretty expensive.\n\nWould getting a dog/cat help? Even though they would never have direct contact, maybe the smell of a pet would scare the rats away? What other tips do you have which can help?\n\nThanks\n\n", "Mouse Problem Hey Reddit. We recently moved into a new house, and there are rats in our walls. Exterminator told is that it will be a heavy demolition job because they are coming in from the pipes, and there is a hole in one of the pipes. To locate this hole, he would need to break multiple walls. It would be a guessing game to find this hole, and would be pretty expensive.\n\nWould getting a dog/cat help? Even though they would never have direct contact, maybe the smell of a pet would scare the rats away? What other tips do you have which can help?\n\nThanks\n\n", "Mouse Problem Hey Reddit. We recently moved into a new house, and there are rats in our walls. Exterminator told is that it will be a heavy demolition job because they are coming in from the pipes, and there is a hole in one of the pipes. To locate this hole, he would need to break multiple walls. It would be a guessing game to find this hole, and would be pretty expensive.\n\nWould getting a dog/cat help? Even though they would never have direct contact, maybe the smell of a pet would scare the rats away? What other tips do you have which can help?\n\nThanks\n\n" ]

[ "Use rat traps in a place accessible to the inner walls and attic. You might have to make a miniature (closeable) door in a closet or two.", "There are rat poisons that work by preventing the animals body from retaining water. You want this kind of poison. It causes the animal to leave your home in search of water, and of course they die outside. You do NOT want dead rats in your walls.", "Personally, I would buy a few electronic pest repellers combined with some humane traps in the basement and attic. Once I felt the critters were gone I would make sure and plug up any possible accesses to the house, i.e. vents, chimneys, etc.\n\nOf course if you have pets, like I do, it may mean a visit to Grandma's house for a couple of weeks.\n\n*", "Peppermint oil! It sounds crazy, but this worked like magic when I had mice. (It should work for rats too, but they are resilient buggers!) \n\nGet some peppermint essential oils - it has to be natural, not synthetic - load up a few cotton balls with the oil, and place them anywhere you might expect to find rats. Near vents, along walls, under cabinets, in closets. Apparently their sniffers are so sensitive to the smell of peppermint oil that it messes with their olfactory system, they can't deal, and nope themselves away. It took a few weeks of steady application, but it did really work.\n\nIncidentally, we also had a cat at the same time as the mouse invasion. The only difference it made was to basically fill their stomachs with plenty of cat food.", "It must be a hole in the vent pipe because otherwise there would be water pouring into your house, no?\n\nOn the roof, make sure the vent is sealed with wire mesh. Observe what happens after that.\n\nJust a guess.\n\n", "Clear your home of clutter, and deny it food. We used to get mice every spring/fall, but I installed magnets on the cupboard and pantry doors, and haven't had one since." ]

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[ "How to open files in Google Chrome without saving them? Are there any extensions or settings I can enable to open the file without it automatically downloading onto my computer? I think Internet Explorer and maybe some other browsers have this function. Thanks Reddit :)", "How to open files in Google Chrome without saving them? Are there any extensions or settings I can enable to open the file without it automatically downloading onto my computer? I think Internet Explorer and maybe some other browsers have this function. Thanks Reddit :)", "How to open files in Google Chrome without saving them? Are there any extensions or settings I can enable to open the file without it automatically downloading onto my computer? I think Internet Explorer and maybe some other browsers have this function. Thanks Reddit :)", "How to open files in Google Chrome without saving them? Are there any extensions or settings I can enable to open the file without it automatically downloading onto my computer? I think Internet Explorer and maybe some other browsers have this function. Thanks Reddit :)" ]

[ "Internet explorer does download it before opening. If it didn't your computer would have nothing to open. It just saves the file to a temporary directory that periodically gets deleted. Check out the App Store for similar functionality though. ", "This happens because the web server serving the file sets the response \"Content-Type\" header to something the browser doesn't know how to handle.\n\nI haven't used [this extension](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/modify-content-type/jnfofbopfpaoeojgieggflbpcblhfhka?hl=en-US), but it claims to let you modify a response's Content-Type header.", "There's [this extension](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/docs-pdfpowerpoint-viewer/nnbmlagghjjcbdhgmkedmbmedengocbn) -- I remember I used it a long time ago, and it normally worked as expected, but it's been a long time since I've used it myself.\n\nKeep in mind that if the browser *can't* \"open\" it (though I believe Chrome can open most sound, video, picture files and Docs can open various doc formats), then you're SOL and have to download it.", "Just reminder, opening any file on web to view on ~your~ system will save as cache on your PC on Temp directory any computer/device" ]

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[ "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?", "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?", "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?", "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?", "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?", "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?", "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?", "How to take notes from a college text book effectively I'm taking classes online and the teacher doesn't offer any online video lectures to help me know what I should be studying. I'm not sure what information is pertinent. Does anyone have any tips for studying and taking notes advice to offer?" ]

[ "Write down all the highlighted/ bolder words first. The. Read the chapter. Then write a one or two sentence summary of each paragraph. Seems to help me", "Read everything first without highlighting or note-taking. Then, reread what you've read, *now with contextual knowledge*, and highlight/take notes. \n\nAlso, ever notice how Microsoft Word's automatic notebook feature uses bullet points as the default setting? \nYeah. Nested bulleted lists are the shit, even in handwritten notes. Moreover, you can use flow charts and tree diagrams to help clarify and order your thoughts. I'm a fan of using diagrams whenever feasible. ", "Write down what you're reading as if your trying to teach it to someone else. No better way to learn then to teach it to others.", "If you're in engineering or math or anything equation heavy, write down every equation and organize it into a cheat sheet as if you were going to use it on your exam. Try to do it on the smallest card or area possible, and you'll find out for yourself what's the most important information.\n\nIn general though, you need to think in order to learn. You can read anything, but you probably won't learn if you don't challenge your understanding as you go along. This is what makes paraphrasing so effective, because you have to understand what you just read in order to describe it a different way", "If you prefer extreme organization: \n-Chapter Title\n-Stop at each section and write the title of the section\n-Write bullet points including the most important information from the section\n\nThis will keep you organized and you can easily refer to sections that you need to study.", "Write the stuff ls in your own style of words, don't just blatantly copy the exact same thing. At the end, summarise everything in a sentence or two ", "Read the whole page first. Write down important facts that stick out. Summarize what you read/rewrite it in your own words. Take special note of bold words, because these will probably be important later. And at the end and beginning of the chapter, look for summaries, and write down what they say.\n\nThe summary at the beginning will tell you what you're about to read/learn (this is specifically what you'll be looking for notes about), and the summary at the end will simplify everything written above down to the bare bones. If you read anything, it should be the last summary/paragraph of the chapter at least.\n\nAlso, take notes on any practice questions and answers you receive, it's very likely you'll see those same questions on tests again.\n\nFinally, it helps to go back later and rewrite your notes in a different way when you're going over them. You'll really remember them!", "If your book cost less than $100, write in the margins, always keep 3 colors of pens with you. \nRed - Important stuff\nBlue - Questions you have to look into \nGreen - Things you find interesting (don't knock it, it happens)\n\nNext tip: Read anything with people / places or things like you would a novel, give people characteristics, things will stick much easier! " ]

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[ "How do I show more thankfulness for a present I just received? My SO and family spoil me, I am blessed. My SO knows I am awkward around gifts and attention, she knows how my head works and understand where my appreciation is shown (I show appreciation by talking about when and where I can use the gift and how excited I am) . But I SUCK at showing appreciation when opening the gift and examining its contents\n\nI am not a selfish man. I just don't know what else to do besides saying \"oh whatttttt Thankyou so much. This is incredible, I literally have wanted one of these since I was a kid\" *then it goes dead quite and I feel that I have to upkeep the show I've put on, and it looks fake*\n\nI am great at social psychology and usually wing most situations. But this has had me stumped for decades! Thanks for the help\n\nTL:DR: I say my Thankyou when I receive a gift, express my appreciation, and then go dead quite. Forcing me to repeat myself, making my reaction look fake", "How do I show more thankfulness for a present I just received? My SO and family spoil me, I am blessed. My SO knows I am awkward around gifts and attention, she knows how my head works and understand where my appreciation is shown (I show appreciation by talking about when and where I can use the gift and how excited I am) . But I SUCK at showing appreciation when opening the gift and examining its contents\n\nI am not a selfish man. I just don't know what else to do besides saying \"oh whatttttt Thankyou so much. This is incredible, I literally have wanted one of these since I was a kid\" *then it goes dead quite and I feel that I have to upkeep the show I've put on, and it looks fake*\n\nI am great at social psychology and usually wing most situations. But this has had me stumped for decades! Thanks for the help\n\nTL:DR: I say my Thankyou when I receive a gift, express my appreciation, and then go dead quite. Forcing me to repeat myself, making my reaction look fake", "How do I show more thankfulness for a present I just received? My SO and family spoil me, I am blessed. My SO knows I am awkward around gifts and attention, she knows how my head works and understand where my appreciation is shown (I show appreciation by talking about when and where I can use the gift and how excited I am) . But I SUCK at showing appreciation when opening the gift and examining its contents\n\nI am not a selfish man. I just don't know what else to do besides saying \"oh whatttttt Thankyou so much. This is incredible, I literally have wanted one of these since I was a kid\" *then it goes dead quite and I feel that I have to upkeep the show I've put on, and it looks fake*\n\nI am great at social psychology and usually wing most situations. But this has had me stumped for decades! Thanks for the help\n\nTL:DR: I say my Thankyou when I receive a gift, express my appreciation, and then go dead quite. Forcing me to repeat myself, making my reaction look fake", "How do I show more thankfulness for a present I just received? My SO and family spoil me, I am blessed. My SO knows I am awkward around gifts and attention, she knows how my head works and understand where my appreciation is shown (I show appreciation by talking about when and where I can use the gift and how excited I am) . But I SUCK at showing appreciation when opening the gift and examining its contents\n\nI am not a selfish man. I just don't know what else to do besides saying \"oh whatttttt Thankyou so much. This is incredible, I literally have wanted one of these since I was a kid\" *then it goes dead quite and I feel that I have to upkeep the show I've put on, and it looks fake*\n\nI am great at social psychology and usually wing most situations. But this has had me stumped for decades! Thanks for the help\n\nTL:DR: I say my Thankyou when I receive a gift, express my appreciation, and then go dead quite. Forcing me to repeat myself, making my reaction look fake", "How do I show more thankfulness for a present I just received? My SO and family spoil me, I am blessed. My SO knows I am awkward around gifts and attention, she knows how my head works and understand where my appreciation is shown (I show appreciation by talking about when and where I can use the gift and how excited I am) . But I SUCK at showing appreciation when opening the gift and examining its contents\n\nI am not a selfish man. I just don't know what else to do besides saying \"oh whatttttt Thankyou so much. This is incredible, I literally have wanted one of these since I was a kid\" *then it goes dead quite and I feel that I have to upkeep the show I've put on, and it looks fake*\n\nI am great at social psychology and usually wing most situations. But this has had me stumped for decades! Thanks for the help\n\nTL:DR: I say my Thankyou when I receive a gift, express my appreciation, and then go dead quite. Forcing me to repeat myself, making my reaction look fake" ]

[ "I like to talk about how I plan to use the gift. For sincerity, keep it quick and brief, and engage with the person about it later. When you drink the gift wine, shoot them a text and say it was a great bottle. When you build the Lego set, send them a pic.\n\n\"This soldering iron will be perfect for when I'm working on my pihole device!\"\n\n\"These socks will go great with my tie! I'll send you a pic when I put them together.\"\n\n\"I can't wait to try this chili oil in my tikka masala recipe\"", "I have this problem, too. What you’re looking for is a transition. You want the focus OFF of you and ON someone else. Turn to the gift giver and ask them a question. “How did you know?” “I’ve been looking for years. How did you find it?” “Did you know blue is my favorite color?” Now everyone else is looking to the gift giver to answer and you’re off the hook.", "Try smiling. It doesn’t have to be fake because when my grandparents give me money I have a genuine smile", "Same. It’s awkward, but I think most of us feel this. \n\nWhat would you say to your spouse/sibling/parent if they expressed this after you gave them a gift? Do you ever feel like others don’t express enough thanks when they do something similar? \n\nIs it possible that this is more about you subconsciously trying to get rid of an uncomfortable feeling inside (as most of us experience) by talking? In other words, you’re thinking you feel this way because you haven’t been polite when in reality it’s just because you’re in an awkward moment of silence and you want to fix it?", "1. don't over-act\n2. don't over-share\n3. smile and say \"thank you\"\n\nthis has worked for me...in other social situations as well beyond opening gifts" ]

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[ "Keep a room cool during summer My room doesn't have air conditioning and gets extremely hot!!! So much that sitting in the shade outside is cooler than staying indoors.\n\nPlease someone tell me how can I keep my room cooler?\n\nI have a ceiling fan and a pedestal fan. I have a large window facing west (so sunlight enters the room in the afternoon but I draw curtains). I have tried everything, keep the curtains closed all the time, opening them after sunset. Targeting the fan inside the room, outside the room. Nothing has made any difference.", "Keep a room cool during summer My room doesn't have air conditioning and gets extremely hot!!! So much that sitting in the shade outside is cooler than staying indoors.\n\nPlease someone tell me how can I keep my room cooler?\n\nI have a ceiling fan and a pedestal fan. I have a large window facing west (so sunlight enters the room in the afternoon but I draw curtains). I have tried everything, keep the curtains closed all the time, opening them after sunset. Targeting the fan inside the room, outside the room. Nothing has made any difference.", "Keep a room cool during summer My room doesn't have air conditioning and gets extremely hot!!! So much that sitting in the shade outside is cooler than staying indoors.\n\nPlease someone tell me how can I keep my room cooler?\n\nI have a ceiling fan and a pedestal fan. I have a large window facing west (so sunlight enters the room in the afternoon but I draw curtains). I have tried everything, keep the curtains closed all the time, opening them after sunset. Targeting the fan inside the room, outside the room. Nothing has made any difference.", "Keep a room cool during summer My room doesn't have air conditioning and gets extremely hot!!! So much that sitting in the shade outside is cooler than staying indoors.\n\nPlease someone tell me how can I keep my room cooler?\n\nI have a ceiling fan and a pedestal fan. I have a large window facing west (so sunlight enters the room in the afternoon but I draw curtains). I have tried everything, keep the curtains closed all the time, opening them after sunset. Targeting the fan inside the room, outside the room. Nothing has made any difference." ]

[ "What's the humidity like in your area? Something like a basic swamp cooler isn't too hard to rig up if the conditions are right for it. ", "I have two fans. I have a window fan blowing to the outside. I also have a rotating fan on the opposite wall of my window. This works amazingly well.", "I don't know if it is in your budget but you could buy a window air conditioner. They sell them at target, Home Depot, etc for about $100.00. We put ours on a timer to run for about six hours. We start the timer at about eight pm to go until about one in the morning. The room is cool so it's easy to fall asleep and its still cool in the mornings. This is the only thing that gets us though the summers. Just be sure to keep the curtains and bedroom door shut all night. ", "Cos your blinds and your door so the eat from the light doesn't get into your room. At least it works for me." ]

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[ "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?", "How can I sleep with ear plugs, but not miss my alarm clock? Right in front of my bedroom window, there is construction work going on. Fucking loud, really. They start at 5 or 6 in the morning, I usually get up around 7 or 8. If I sleep with ear plugs I dont wake up early, but I usually miss my alarm clock. Any tips?" ]

[ "There are alarm clocks that work with vibration. You put them around your wrists or under your pillow.", "Do you have an electric coffee percolator or similar? Plug it into a timer and set it to start just before wake-up time, see if the smell of hot coffee wakes you up. I have to do this because audible alarm clocks don't wake me up after 2 or 3 uses.", "Wear headphones and play music (probably light music) for the hours you'll be asleep. Set it up to stop playing an hour or so before your alarm and you should wake up to it just fine. \n\nOtherwise just get use to the noise. It should only take a few days for your body to adjust(and eventually you'd have sleepless night when they finish construction because you'll associate the sound and sleep.)", "Set your phone alarm to vibrate, wear a sock to bed (or a pair if single socks shame you) and put the phone in there. Best make sure it's set to strong first. ", "Plug your earphones into your phone/ipod (assuming your phone can play the alarm sound through the earphones and wear closed ear headphones over them. The headphones work as mufflers and the earphones sound the alarm.", "I wear earplugs every night and never miss the alarm. Ear plugs help drown out noise but not to the extent that you cannot hear an alarm clock. Maybe you just need a louder alarm clock.", "I use a \"sonic boom\" alarm clock. it's 113dB and has a very strong vibrating attachment that shakes the bed and I haven't slept through an alarm in over a year. you can get them for about $40 on amazon.", "I sleep with earplugs on occasion and have never missed my alarm. One or both plugs tend to fall out during the night, and my alarm is only my phone and it isn't that loud, but still wakes me with both earplugs in. \n", "Get ear muffs and a wrist watch, set the alarm on the wrist watch , put it in one of the muffs then sleep with the muffs on. You may have to pull the wrist band off the watch to make it fit. The muffs block the construction noise and the watch is so close to your ear it sounds really loud.", "I use a wake up light and put it on the brightest setting and it is on top of my headboard. It simulates the sun rising by gradually getting brighter. I usually have a hard time waking up and was pretty afraid to try it but I wake up before the sound alarm every morning because of the light. Plus, when the construction stops the sound that accompanies the light alarm is super pleasant." ]

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[ "What's the point of folding laundry (at a laundromat?) ...If you're just going to put it inside of a bag where it will get disheveled, anyway? I know that I must be doing something wrong, since everyone else gets away with it just fine. Their washed and dried clothes look so neat on the folding table. It seems that mine are a disaster, no matter what I do.", "What's the point of folding laundry (at a laundromat?) ...If you're just going to put it inside of a bag where it will get disheveled, anyway? I know that I must be doing something wrong, since everyone else gets away with it just fine. Their washed and dried clothes look so neat on the folding table. It seems that mine are a disaster, no matter what I do.", "What's the point of folding laundry (at a laundromat?) ...If you're just going to put it inside of a bag where it will get disheveled, anyway? I know that I must be doing something wrong, since everyone else gets away with it just fine. Their washed and dried clothes look so neat on the folding table. It seems that mine are a disaster, no matter what I do." ]

[ "I got a rectangular Ikea bag for the laundromat. It's pretty much one folded t-shirt sized on the bottom and can go on my back like a backpack. Also I have a folder-helper thingy like Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory so everything is folded the same size. This way it comes out super neatly stacked at home and I can transfer it directly into my wardrobe.", "If you use a bag, it is able to be packed in such a way that your clothes will still be folded when you return home. My advice is to use a clothes basket instead of a bag.\n\nWhen my dryer temporarily gave up the ghost, I and my kids would take our laundry to the laundromat using our dirty clothes baskets/hampers. I used that situation to teach my kids how to wash, dry, and fold clothes. We'd transfer the folded clothes back to the hampers and put the clothes away in the drawers when we got home. \n\nIt was a great way to have everyone learn at the same time with no moaning or groaning and they now do their own clothes by themselves at home. ", "I know that if I take t-shirts out of the dryer and fold them immediately when they're still hot I don't have to iron them, even if I then put them in a bag, just make sure they can't move around much in the bag." ]

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[ "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share.", "I need help improving my focus. Before I start here is some context and information about me.\nI'm 18, and I have started teaching myself marketing and programming from home since I'm out of school and not doing anything productive. I wake up at 7:00 am, or earlier, and I start studying marketing for 2 hours then take an hour break and do 2 hours of studying programming then take another hour break and finally spend another 2 hours studying programming. So basically I spend 2 hours studying marketing then 4 hours of studying programming, which equals to 6 hours of work each day; which is also the bare minimum I believe any humans should be doing in the world.\nNow on to my problem. I have a particular time until I start to lose focus and usually, it would take at least 1 hour and 30 minutes. You would assume the more you do this, the better your focus will be but from my experience that is the contrary rather other the last week or more, my focus has gone down to barely making it to 30 mins. So I'm wondering are there any methods or techniques that I can use to improve my focus and comprehension skill?\nAlso, I should add although I study for 6 hours a day I do it very intermittently so I might take some days off or other days I won't fully do the 6 hours. But if there are techniques that would help it would be so kind of you to share." ]

[ "I recommend you look into how air traffic controllers operate if you're looking for the best advice. Most people will tell you coffee and certain types of music, but I understand air traffic controllers have literally made a science out of how to stay focused under long hours and under dire need.", "Yo dude, do a some exercise in the morning first - cardio for 20 minutes or so and eat some high quality carbs, like porridge. Stay clear if caffeine and sugar.\nAlso, the human brain can only go max capacity for about 4hrs a day, so don't be so hard on yourself.\n1hr-90min bursts are great.\nKeep it up, the hardest thing about what you are trying to do is to keep getting up, every day and doing it. You will get there if you keep going. Be kind to yourself. Peace ", "Try the pomodoro technique, basically work in 25 minutes intervals with a 5 minute break. There are apps that allow you to have a pomodoro timer on your phone, computer or smart watch.", "I replaced all the energy drinks and caffeine with iced water in a Yeti type tumbler. It keeps the water cold for a long time. Energy drinks make me lose focus and the subsequent crash is horrible. Ive been able to stay focused so much better and lost weight as well. ", "If you're open to some yoga try holding your right ear lobe with your left hand and left ear love with the right hand to form a cross and do ten squats with deep breathing before every meal. This is to coordinate your right and left brain and try to focus on breathing rather than random thoughts. The breath is taken in as you rise from the squat and released when you go down. Pen down progress to see if it's working and don't forget to give yourself a pat on the back if you feel a difference. ", "What is it that you want to do?\n\nYou are imposing school on yourself.\n\nYou are out of school. Be out of school.\n\nWrite a program to market something.\n\nhttps://www.scribd.com/document/240239006/How-to-M", "There was a LPT about productivity last week. Here is the link to it.\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/5oiiuz/lpt_if_you_have_to_concentrate_on_something_i/", "Hey, I struggled with the same problem! I used an app called \"clockwork tomato\"..which is basically pomodoro style of studying. You know, where you study for 25 mins and take a 5 minute break and so on. This really helped me to stay focused and on track. Hope this helps! If you're willing to go further then try working out too..if you don't. It just increases your overall alertness, which is always a plus. ", "Also, Lumosity is a great way to practice your focus and track changes in levels. Found it has helped increase my focus dramatically at work." ]

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[ "What is there to do when you're the third wheel or in a group, and nobody is talking to you or you don't want to talk? ", "What is there to do when you're the third wheel or in a group, and nobody is talking to you or you don't want to talk? ", "What is there to do when you're the third wheel or in a group, and nobody is talking to you or you don't want to talk? " ]

[ "I don't really understand the question.\n\nYou can either not talk or you can talk. If you don't want to talk and you feel left out, just get up and say you have to leave. If you want to talk and you feel left out, talk. Don't interrupt too rudely, but be assertive.\n\nI can speak from experience to say that the self-pity/third-wheel routine isn't constructive. You should enjoy hanging out with your friends, you shouldn't make them feel guilty if they found someone. Instead, make it positive and try to find a way to be included.", "Find a new hobby or activity that you can enjoy - sports, gym, gaming, d&d tournaments.. just anything it doesn't matter. If you feel this is happening a lot, these things can create more conversations when you see your friends and their partner.\n\nJust don't let them take over the activity that you have chosen to do. You may have to find a new activity.\n\nYou can do anything really. That or continue to browse Reddit like the rest of us third wheels do ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯", "If nobody is talking to you: Listen to the talk for a while and ask questions like \"oh, that sounds interesting, can you explain blabla to me\" or \"did I understand right that...\" \n\nIf you don't want to talk, then leave, I guess? Say politely bye bye and then you're out." ]

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[ "How to ask all types of co-worker for their names. I recently started an internship surrounded by colleagues, higher-ups, reception staff, catering staff and security.\n\nWorking life would go much smoother if every thank, attention grab, address, etc was personal.\n\nI can imagine that each type of co-worker requires a different method of name-getting and I want to know all kinds.\n\nAlso, how to ask a name when I have already spoken to them for the first weeks without using it.\n\nAnd if the answer is simply asking \"what's your name?\", what do I say before and after to make it sound natural?", "How to ask all types of co-worker for their names. I recently started an internship surrounded by colleagues, higher-ups, reception staff, catering staff and security.\n\nWorking life would go much smoother if every thank, attention grab, address, etc was personal.\n\nI can imagine that each type of co-worker requires a different method of name-getting and I want to know all kinds.\n\nAlso, how to ask a name when I have already spoken to them for the first weeks without using it.\n\nAnd if the answer is simply asking \"what's your name?\", what do I say before and after to make it sound natural?", "How to ask all types of co-worker for their names. I recently started an internship surrounded by colleagues, higher-ups, reception staff, catering staff and security.\n\nWorking life would go much smoother if every thank, attention grab, address, etc was personal.\n\nI can imagine that each type of co-worker requires a different method of name-getting and I want to know all kinds.\n\nAlso, how to ask a name when I have already spoken to them for the first weeks without using it.\n\nAnd if the answer is simply asking \"what's your name?\", what do I say before and after to make it sound natural?" ]

[ "Ask them to spell it... Then when they say B-O-B you can laugh a bit and say, oh I know your first name! I meant your last name.", "Ash you ate really bad with names, people tend to be a bit more forgiving when you are polite about it, SS for catering staff, generalise them by calling them all chef to start, shows you respect them and they will respect you back ", "\"What's your name again?\"\n\nThen you can follow with a bunch of different \"Dammit, I can't believe I forgot it. My nephew has the same name\" or \"Is that the same name you gave me last time I asked?\" or \"Thanks, sorry about that. I'm < >.\" or \"Don't be offended if I ask you again, prosopagnosia is a hell of a thing.\"" ]

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[ "How to fight stage fright? I have a 3-4 minute speech tomorrow morning and I'm incredibly nervous. I know reddit is a vast and diverse place, so if some of you seasoned public speakers could share some tips with me on how to better fight the fear I feel before and during public speaking, and become a more effective public speaker, it would be much appreciated.", "How to fight stage fright? I have a 3-4 minute speech tomorrow morning and I'm incredibly nervous. I know reddit is a vast and diverse place, so if some of you seasoned public speakers could share some tips with me on how to better fight the fear I feel before and during public speaking, and become a more effective public speaker, it would be much appreciated.", "How to fight stage fright? I have a 3-4 minute speech tomorrow morning and I'm incredibly nervous. I know reddit is a vast and diverse place, so if some of you seasoned public speakers could share some tips with me on how to better fight the fear I feel before and during public speaking, and become a more effective public speaker, it would be much appreciated.", "How to fight stage fright? I have a 3-4 minute speech tomorrow morning and I'm incredibly nervous. I know reddit is a vast and diverse place, so if some of you seasoned public speakers could share some tips with me on how to better fight the fear I feel before and during public speaking, and become a more effective public speaker, it would be much appreciated.", "How to fight stage fright? I have a 3-4 minute speech tomorrow morning and I'm incredibly nervous. I know reddit is a vast and diverse place, so if some of you seasoned public speakers could share some tips with me on how to better fight the fear I feel before and during public speaking, and become a more effective public speaker, it would be much appreciated.", "How to fight stage fright? I have a 3-4 minute speech tomorrow morning and I'm incredibly nervous. I know reddit is a vast and diverse place, so if some of you seasoned public speakers could share some tips with me on how to better fight the fear I feel before and during public speaking, and become a more effective public speaker, it would be much appreciated." ]

[ "Roy Orbinson had sever stage freight as well and that the actual reason he wore the dark shades. Is this something you could try? If not, I always suggest picking three people in the room: one to your left, one to your right, and one straight ahead, and focus on talking to only these three people.", "I still get nervous from time to time, since I do not do it often. The thing that works best for me is to obsessively practice! The more you practice the more natural and comfortable you will be.\n\nMy speeches were typically strict on time, so I would always time myself and try to speak while avoiding looking at my powerpoint or notes or anything. The more I practiced, the better and more confident I became.", "what i do is i imagine the worst thing that has happened to me, and i tell myself that there is no way talking in front of a bunch of people would be worse than that. usually works.", "Myself as an it specialist have to do a lot of presentations infront of staff (teching, present project etc.) at the beginning of my carrer i was poor at presenting this stuff. After practice and learning the whole presentations by hart i gained confidence, and thats the key. During your time on stage do not dare to think like omg i did that wrong and i should have said that in another way and i forgot to show them that image etc. Just continue as planned and write down or memorize your mistakes afterwards. Learn from those mistakes, practica a lot, gain confidence and you will see that soon you will give presentations like tim cook himself. \nP. S sry for the grammar / spelling i am on my phone. ", "Breathe in for four beats. Hold the breath for four beats. Exhale for four beats. Be empty of breath for four beats. Repeat several times. I learned this at a workshop. Suposedly it is taught to Navy Seals to approach chalenges with calm focus. I do a lot of acting and a few months ago did my biggest role to date and when I was waiting for my entrance my heart would pound. Doing this until my cue kept my head in the game and alowed me to be a success and even have fun.", "**Study and familiarize yourself with your presentation beforehand.** Be confident in knowing what you are going to talk about. During the presentation, just speak with gusto. Shut your brain off and talk as if you are telling a friend about your hobbies. Never think about if your audience is judging you, just assume they are not giving a crap. Usually, that is actually the case." ]

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[ "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?", "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?", "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?", "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?", "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?", "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?", "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?", "your answers to what is your biggest weakness in interviews? Clearly follow it up with how you’re working on it. How do you answer?" ]

[ "This is one of the highest value interview questions out there and deserves an equally high value response. My go-to answer is usually “Reese’s peanut butter cups.”", "I always ask, \"What is the biggest mistake you've ever made on the job?\" Followed by, \"What did you do to correct it?\", if the applicant doesn't offer the info in their response. This usually tells me a lot.", "\"I guess I just care too much sometimes\"\n\nThen I laugh\n\nEnough to send anyone's bullshit meter going wild.\n\nOtherwise if I'm serious, I like to say that I take some points in my job to the nth degree, while others I don't feel are a necessity I prioritize to spend less of my time on", "Perfectionist but I've been working on it by setting times to step back and do a reality check, objectively looking at my progress. That my previous boss, XXXXXX and I had an understanding that we could confer with each other if either of us felt like I was getting bogged down unnecessarily with no hard feelings.\n\nETA: if you're interviewing with the person who you will be reporting to directly, tread carefully with this one. It can backfire if they think you're going to be bugging them all the time or you are actually a sloppy worker", "I have said “I am not great with public speaking. However the pandemic has helped me work on this since meetings have been conducted virtually or over the phone. I have found myself speaking up more since I’m in the comfort of my own home”", "Translate the question to “what do you have the least amount of experience with (or knowledge of) and how are you improving this?”. \nExample: I am efficient when taking direction but I find leading others in a task to be challenging sometimes. I am working on improving this by proactively volunteering to lead on work tasks in order to gain more experience, in addition to reading a book on management strategy. I am beginning to feel much more confident in this area now and it’s something I’d like to continue improving.”", "I latch onto stuff and let it occupy too much of my attention. For instance, one summer I was determined to make an authentic Ceasar salad. We probably ate Caesar salad every night for two months. Ha ha ha", "Distinguish left from right. This is not a joke. I said that when I applied for an apprenticeship in a shipyard and the mister responsible for the new apprentices said that it was good I was so honest because that might become an issue at some point. I go the apprenticeship. When I applied another job I said the same with the explanation that it might take me a moment longer to find things or that I might design things in a wrong way (e.g. putting buttons left instead of right), since I am now a web developer" ]

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[ "How to relax. I've been pretty busy lately between school and work, but the big issue is that I have trouble relaxing when I'm on my own. Difficulty feeling okay with watching TV or videogames, which I look forward to and have earned the time to play/watch (everything I need to get done is done.) How can I get better at relaxing and shake this powerful need to always be 'doing'?", "How to relax. I've been pretty busy lately between school and work, but the big issue is that I have trouble relaxing when I'm on my own. Difficulty feeling okay with watching TV or videogames, which I look forward to and have earned the time to play/watch (everything I need to get done is done.) How can I get better at relaxing and shake this powerful need to always be 'doing'?", "How to relax. I've been pretty busy lately between school and work, but the big issue is that I have trouble relaxing when I'm on my own. Difficulty feeling okay with watching TV or videogames, which I look forward to and have earned the time to play/watch (everything I need to get done is done.) How can I get better at relaxing and shake this powerful need to always be 'doing'?", "How to relax. I've been pretty busy lately between school and work, but the big issue is that I have trouble relaxing when I'm on my own. Difficulty feeling okay with watching TV or videogames, which I look forward to and have earned the time to play/watch (everything I need to get done is done.) How can I get better at relaxing and shake this powerful need to always be 'doing'?", "How to relax. I've been pretty busy lately between school and work, but the big issue is that I have trouble relaxing when I'm on my own. Difficulty feeling okay with watching TV or videogames, which I look forward to and have earned the time to play/watch (everything I need to get done is done.) How can I get better at relaxing and shake this powerful need to always be 'doing'?" ]

[ "yoga and/or m", "Sometimes in order to relax more thoroughly, you need to burn off your excess energy. I always sleep better and rest better after a day of physical activity of some sort. Also better when I've gotten some sunshine and have eaten well. Just like everything else, when the distractions are taken care of, there is less agitation and real relaxation can take place.", "two things work for me shower beer, and another that helps is sitting directly in front of a fan close your eyes and let the noise fill your head, helps me immensely. ", "If you know everything is done, what are you worried about? Take some deep breaths, close your eyes for a minute. Tell yourself you deserve to relax. ", "Take a shower in the dark. Or light some candles if you have some. It's a fast way to instantly de-stress. You're still doing something, cleaning yourself! But while doing so, remember to enjoy the feeling of the water and the fact that most people in the world do not know the experience of a daily hot shower." ]

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[ "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? ", "Waking up early, and being okay with it. (I'm sorry if this is a re-post, I didn't see anything on the front page regarding this!) \n\nA little bit of back story:\n\nI (24F) have a really difficult time waking up and getting out of bed. I am an extremely heavy sleeper, and I can definitely get a good amount of hours under my belt if given the opportunity. \n\nI have slept through alarms, been near to impossible to wake up from someone trying to get me up etc. etc. \n\nI feel embarrassed saying this, but I feel like an unmotivated loser. In the past I have slept through the start of my work shifts, and I feel really anxious and frustrated in the morning. \n\nSo my life pro tip / question for you all is: How do you wake up in the early morning with a good attitude and wellbeing?\n\nTLDR- I take not being a morning person to an entire new level where it has the potential to mess with both my personal life and professional one. How do you handle mornings? " ]

[ "You could have a circadian rhythm disorder like Delayed Sleep Phase Disorder (/r/DSPD, not a big community unfortunately, but there's some info there). I have it, and no matter when I go to sleep (or try to), my body never ever really adapts properly to getting up early. If left to my own devices I'll always revert to going to bed at 4-5 AM and waking up around 2 PM. It's fucking horrible, since most of society just doesn't allow you to keep that kind of schedule.", "2 things:\n\n- drink a lot of water before you go to bed. Your full bladder will wake you up. (I read that native Americans used this trick)\n\n\n- this sounds weird, but as you're going to sleep, tell yourself over and over \"I'm going to get up at 7:30\" or whatever. After a week or two you'd be surprised how well you can train your brain on this. \n\n", "I was also a ridiculously heavy sleeper. I used to hate waking up early with a fiery passion. I've found that setting up multiple alarms at their highest volume and putting the source far away in my room helps me get up. Thinking of why waking early is awesome, on my days off i get to do laundry early, get the kitchen clean and make a delicious breakfast and french pressed coffee, watching anime for a while or playing games. Running errands i otherwise might put off. And when i do have to work i wake up at 430 as opposed to 630, and get a lunch packed and breakfast. So i guess finding things that motivate you to want to wake up early is what i recommend trying to do. \n", "I recently read that it is actually more effective to hold off on drinking caffeine until an hour after you wake up and instead drink water. ", "When I wake up in the middle of the night to go pee I kind of remind myself to wake up soon-ish. Life is very nice and serene when you drink coffee at 6am. Or 530am. Drink coffee right away though or you'll get drowsy and sleep standing up.", "Try sleeping in REM increments. For example, if you want to wake at 430 am, you should go to bed in 90 min increments b/c it's easier to wake at the end of an increment.\n\nTry going to bed at 9pm if you want to wake at 430\n\nOr even go to bed at 1030 or midnight if you want to wake at 430am.\n\n90 min REM increments are the way to go and have helped my schedule enormously ", "Open the blinds or curtains so the sun wakes you up naturally. Or buy a Phillips Hue wake light alarm clock.", "One little trick I started using was to never hit the snooze button. Even though those ten or twenty minutes were pretty much the high point of my morning, I found it made me a lot more drowsy if I woke up then half went back to sleep then woke up again. After a week of not hitting snooze I was pretty much springing out of bed when the alarm went off.", "Napping. As often and whenever your body wants to. I used to start school at 7:30, nap for 30m during lunch, finish at 3, nap for an hour, go to work from 4:30-12 with a 20m nap during my break, try and rest for an hour or two after that and fall asleep at about 2 or 3. I didnt get much sleep per night but every time I woke up I felt slightly overtired 3 times a day as opppsed to taking 2 hours to wake up each day. It also improved my mood quite a bit, and helped my digestive system work a bit better.\n\nIts hard to find a schedule where this works though. Luckily my body wanted sleep at the times I could let it, which was roughly every 4-5 hours. This isnt a fix in any means but doing this before I saw doctors about it gave them a HUGE headstart into the battle ahead, as they could rule out diet and circadian rhythms from the get go.", "It takes 21 days to make something into habit. Try waking up early for 21 consecutive days regardless if you need to or not.", "If you have an android device, there's an app called [Alarm Clock Xtreme](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.alarmclock.xtreme.free&hl=en). Adjusted to the most merciless settings, it does not stop blaring until you solve ten or so tough math problems like three digit multiplications and so on. \n\nAlso, have one thing in the morning that you really look forward to. In my case, I love breakfast and I love eating breakfast foods. It could be anything- a mug of hot chocolate or a piece of some sweet you like, or going on a run or reading your favorite blog, basically, make an association with that thing to waking up, so that waking up becomes imperative and exciting in order for you to have your indulgence. Good luck. ", "I'm struggling with this as well. My plan is to gradually wake up earlier each day by 15 mins. and work out daily to burn out excess energy. Burning excess energy is important. \n\nI want to get into the habit of waking up at sunrise, go running, coffee, and then work. \n\nBut I know that this routine won't happen overnight or even over a week. Over a month maybe because running is a skill which takes time to get good at. It's also a lifestyle change, meaning no drinking, no excess caffeine, not much junk/fast food, etc. ", "I used to be really bad at waking up but now I'm somewhat better. I frequently have to get up at 5 am and I can do it. I set my alarm early and plan to hit the snooze button twice.\n\nA lot of it is attitude. It feels weird to get up when it's dark outside, but it's really not any different if you got enough sleep, is it? I think when people get up early who are bad at it, they see that it's early and then conclude they are too tired. But it only really depends how much sleep you got. And you are never too tired to get out of bed. If the building caught fire while you were sleeping, you'd get out of bed like you were never there. Once you get going you'll be fine. \n\nGetting up when you're tired is not hazardous to your health, either.\n\n", "Hallo, hopefully I can give you some answers, though some will be more along the lines of \"Easier said than done\".\nGetting to Bed-\nFirst and Best piece of advice: Give up caffeine at least 3-4 hours before bedtime\nSecond: Set a \"bedtime\" alarm an hour before you go to bed. This is a good way to keep yourself on track and be aware of what time you need to start winding down your activities.\nThird: Just lay down, close your eyes and go inactive. Do not actively think on anything or try to solve any puzzles inside. Simply be inactive. (For this, if you feel like you did your best that you could during the day and have a plan to get back in the fight tomorrow, you will not feel the need to solve issues in bed)\n\nWaking Up-\nA time for waking: I always get up 3-4 hours before I NEED to be up. This gives me time to workout(if its one of those days) shower, eat, and then catch an episode or chapter of a book. By the time its time for me to go work, I am awake and ready for the day.\nGetting Up: The getting up to pee thing is gold. Do it, love it. Then immediately set to a task you have given yourself(i.e: workout, cook breakfast, crack open a book). Another thing I do is immediately drink water. Something about the fresh water going through me revitalizes me and after that I couldnt go back to sleep if I wanted to.\n\nAs for answering the part about waking up with a good attitude/wellbeing: I don't think anyone feels good during the first hour of being awake, just groggy and unhappy. For me, my focus is powering through that first little bit and after that I can find happiness in my day, regardless of the challenges it brings me (and trust me, there is no shortage of them)\n\nHope this helps!", "Avoid stimulants and actually sleep as much as you need to feel good in the morning.\n\nDrinking caffeine or using stimulants regularly is a sure fire way to make waking up really difficult and miserable.\n\nSparingly is great for when you need the occasional extra boost cause without it in your system constantly, your body will actually respond to the extra boost, but if it's regular, your body wont. It will need more and more in the morning until eventually you can't get up on time cause as the stimulant wears off overnight your body craves deep sleep so badly that in the morning you won't even hear alarms, won't have the energy to make/drink the coffee or take the caffeine pill etc.\n\nSo you need to actually get enough sleep. If you struggle to get up every morning, you are not getting enough sleep. Don't compare your amount of sleep to anyone else cause everyone's different. \n\nFocus on the strategies for getting to bed early. For the last couple hours I like avoiding electronics, avoiding artificial light if I can, sticking to relaxing activities, then taking a hot shower immediately before bed, and drinking water immediately before bed. I also plan my bedtime in my schedule about an hour earlier than it really is because I know I will always end up staying up later than I expected so I compensate by planning it extra early.\n\nPlan on going to bed a half hour earlier consistently each week until you land upon how much sleep actually helps you wake up better. \n\nThen eventually waking up SHOULD be easy, if not then look into a possible separate health issue that may be causing this.", "After supper, drink only water. No pop, coffee, or booze.\n\nMaybe go for a walk/run in the evenings to tire yourself out a bit earlier, so you can get to bed at an earlier time. Try doing push-ups; they're exhausting.\n\nIf you are having trouble getting to bed earlier because of the internet, try limiting your internet usage. No Reddit after 7 p.m. or something like that. At least on work nights.\n\nGood luck.", "one thing that I have noticed is I have stopped drinking anything caffeinated after 4pm. I wake up at 6.30 with or without an alarm and drink coffee at 10.30 am and a soda at 1.30 with lunch. Limiting and regulating my caffeine intake has helped me go from hitting snooze 5-6 every time to waking up 5 minutes before it goes off. \n\nLPT it may take a few days to lose the dependence on caffeine you may feel tired for the first couple of days I used a long weekend to get used to it before I had to go back to work " ]

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[ "How to correctly view a property I've recently been offered my dream job, and I'm going to be relocating for it. What are some key things to look out for; regarding the property itself, the surrounding area etc. It's my first property, I'm looking to rent, and I'm in the UK if that changes anything.", "How to correctly view a property I've recently been offered my dream job, and I'm going to be relocating for it. What are some key things to look out for; regarding the property itself, the surrounding area etc. It's my first property, I'm looking to rent, and I'm in the UK if that changes anything." ]

[ "Ask about heating in the winter, how much tenants or owners typically pay there; ask about pests and keep an eye out for them. \n\n\nIf it's a house, check out the basement. A dry basement is a great sign, particularly for pests. Bugs and mice and such love a damp, dark basement. \n\nIf it's not in a city or suburban area, ask about Internet options. Satellite is garbage. If you can't get cable, check out local DSL. \n\nPay attention to how you feel in the neighborhood it's in. Do you feel good there? Do you look around and see skeezy shirtless drunkards ignoring their many children? This may be more of an American issue. \n\nTry to find a place as close to work as possible. \n\nMake note of available storage space, depending on your needs. ", "If you're renting, things are less of an issue because you won't have a super long commitment if you find out you hate the place. That being said, make sure to take a walk around the area to make sure you can see yourself living there for a while. Look up the crime rate and make sure you feel okay about it. \n\nIn and around the house itself, look for cracks in the foundation or the walls. These can be signs of trouble. Look for water damage in the upstairs ceilings that could be signs of a leaky roof. I'm out of tips, but I'm sure there are more. Just look around and don't ignore red flags." ]

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[ "I've been coughing in bed, all night, for the last five nights. I feel fine the rest of the time. Any tip for getting rid of this cough? I was sick over the weekend. I feel fine now, other than the coughing... but the coughing is a problem because it keeps me up most of the night.\n\nI do have a bit of postnasal drip... not a ton of it, but enough to be noticeable.", "I've been coughing in bed, all night, for the last five nights. I feel fine the rest of the time. Any tip for getting rid of this cough? I was sick over the weekend. I feel fine now, other than the coughing... but the coughing is a problem because it keeps me up most of the night.\n\nI do have a bit of postnasal drip... not a ton of it, but enough to be noticeable.", "I've been coughing in bed, all night, for the last five nights. I feel fine the rest of the time. Any tip for getting rid of this cough? I was sick over the weekend. I feel fine now, other than the coughing... but the coughing is a problem because it keeps me up most of the night.\n\nI do have a bit of postnasal drip... not a ton of it, but enough to be noticeable.", "I've been coughing in bed, all night, for the last five nights. I feel fine the rest of the time. Any tip for getting rid of this cough? I was sick over the weekend. I feel fine now, other than the coughing... but the coughing is a problem because it keeps me up most of the night.\n\nI do have a bit of postnasal drip... not a ton of it, but enough to be noticeable." ]

[ "I've suffered from sinus and chest problems my whole life. Try propping yourself up with a few extra pillows. It may not completely fix your problem, but it will certainly help! The added elevation will help decrease your drainage down your throat which is causing you to cough. It may take some getting used to, but it will definitely be worth it when you can finally sleep through the night. ", "English breakfast tea, fresh ginger sliced fine, real honey, and fresh lemon, eat the ginger after you drink the tea if you can. It will sooth your throat and help you sleep.\n\nAlso, for a simple tickle or scratchy throat, fresh pineapple juice helps.", "The cause of your cough is your postnasal drip that is irritating your throat. Take an antihistamine before going to bed. I personally prefer [Diphenhydramine](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diphenhydramine).", "Have you washed your sheets and pillowcases yet? The germs from your previous illness might still be on it and your body is coughing to get rid of it." ]

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On one of them it gave contact information (name and email) to email to ask questions. The name was an Indian name. I googled the name; nothing came up. I tried to find out whether the name was male or female; again no definitive answer (there were males and females with this name). In the end, I wrote the email gambling it was a man.\n\nDoes anyone know any phrases to employ in such a scenario?\n(I thought about the \"to whom it may concern\", but that sounded kind of stupid considering the name was mentioned on the website and the email was of the format [email protected])", "How to write someone an email without knowing their gender Apologises for the weird phrasing of the title. To keep it short &amp; sweet: I was looking around on university websites. On one of them it gave contact information (name and email) to email to ask questions. The name was an Indian name. I googled the name; nothing came up. 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In the end, I wrote the email gambling it was a man.\n\nDoes anyone know any phrases to employ in such a scenario?\n(I thought about the \"to whom it may concern\", but that sounded kind of stupid considering the name was mentioned on the website and the email was of the format [email protected])", "How to write someone an email without knowing their gender Apologises for the weird phrasing of the title. To keep it short &amp; sweet: I was looking around on university websites. On one of them it gave contact information (name and email) to email to ask questions. The name was an Indian name. I googled the name; nothing came up. I tried to find out whether the name was male or female; again no definitive answer (there were males and females with this name). In the end, I wrote the email gambling it was a man.\n\nDoes anyone know any phrases to employ in such a scenario?\n(I thought about the \"to whom it may concern\", but that sounded kind of stupid considering the name was mentioned on the website and the email was of the format [email protected])" ]

[ "I normally just dive right in with \"Good morning,\" without mentioning their name at all, and then next paragraph, body of email. Rarely gets to good afternoon since most big admin is done in the morning in this house... Beats \"hello\" or, heavens forbid, \"hi\" when writing to some important personage. Yes, it's not correctly \"formal\" but neither is sending an email instead of a nicely printed and signed \"Yours faithfully\" letter that arrives in the post.\n", "If they have a doctorate you could say Dear Dr. ___\n\nYou can also use their full name as Dear (First Name) (Last Name).", "\"Hello\"\n\nSo..\n\nHello,\n\nI have these questions about your university.\n\nThank you for your time\n\n-- yournamehere", "Dear Respected One, \n\nGREETINGS,\n\nPermit me to inform you of my desire of going into business relationship with you. I got your contact from the International web site directory. I prayed over it and selected your name among other names due to it's esteeming nature and the recommendations given to me as a reputable and trust worthy person I can do business with and by the recommendations I must not hesitate to confide in you for this simple and sincere business. \n\nI am Wumi Abdul; the only Daughter of late Mr and Mrs George Abdul. My father was a very wealthy cocoa merchant in Abidjan,the economic capital of Ivory Coast before he was poisoned to death by his business associates on one of their outing to discus on a business deal. When my mother died on the 21st October 1984, my father took me and my younger brother HASSAN special because we are motherless. Before the death of my father on 30th June 2002 in a private hospital here in Abidjan. He secretly called me on his bedside and told me that he has a sum of $12.500.000 (Twelve Million, five hundred thousand dollars) left in a suspense account in a local Bank here in Abidjan, that he used my name as his first Daughter for the next of kin in deposit of the fund. \n\nHe also explained to me that it was because of this wealth and some huge amount of money his business associates supposed to balance his from the deal they had that he was poisoned by his business associates, that I should seek for a God fearing foreign partner in a country of my choice where I will transfer this money and use it for investment purpose, (such as real estate management). Sir, we are honourably seeking your assistance in the following ways.\n\n1) To provide a Bank account where this money would be transferred to.\n\n2) To serve as the guardian of this since I am a girl of 26 years.\n\nMoreover Sir, we are willing to offer you 15% of the sum as compensation for effort input after the successful transfer of this fund to your designate account overseas. please feel free to contact ,me via this email address \[email protected]\n\nAnticipating to hear from you soon. \nThanks and God Bless. \nBest regards. \nMiss Wumi Abdul \n\nPLEASE FOR PRIVATE AND SECURITY REASONS,REPLY ME VIA EMAIL: \[email protected]", "See if their staff listing / pages have photos. You could also just call their central switchboard and ask. \"Excuse me, I would like to send my application [or whatever] to Terry Someperson. I've tried to find out, is he a man or woman? I don't want to be impolite.\"\n\nAt worst they tell the person and then you'll be the considerate guy who does his research. (That's usually a good thing.)\n\nIf you have their email address, do google for that, and it might bring up articles or papers that include a short bio. Put it in \"quotation marks\" in google. Their name plus University might also work, or their CV page might have a list of publications. (This won't work if it's a purely administrative person of course.)\n\nFailing that, it depends on context. In the US/anglophone world you use first names a lot, so you might be able to simply write \"Dear Terry,\" etc. This is not always appropriate, of course.\n\nYou could also roll the dice and pick either Mr or Mrs, if he/she has an ambiguous name they are likely used to people picking the wrong one and will correct you without rancor.\n\n", "I am in the customer service industry, a large part of my job is emailing people. I have this issue at least 10 times a day. Simply start with Good (morning, afternoon, evening). ", "Thank you guys for all the advice. \nJust a quick update: He did reply and it seems I got lucky this time and he actually was a 'he'.", "I like to use \"Good Morning\" or \"Good Afternoon\" followed by their name. I find it a good compromise between formal and still friendly. I also just hate the way \"Dear\" sounds. \n\n", "In the corporate environment I work as an engineer and I haven't been reprimanded or called out in anyway for doing this, so it may be worth considering;\n\n\"Greetings <first or last name, should not matter>,\n\nI wish to inquire about <topics of interest>. I was informed that you would be a cr", "Just skip the honorifics and courtesy titles. It puts people on an unnecessary pedestal. Address people by only their names and you won't have this problem. ", "I'm a huge fan of \"Good Morning\" or \"Good Afternoon\". It hits a sweet spot between not-too-formal, still polite, and \"sorry, I wasn't sure how else to address you...\"", "I too would like to know a smooth way of doing this. \"Dear Sir/Madam,\" seems too impersonal.\n\nSometimes I just launch into \"Hello,\" and continue without mentioning a name, but that comes across as too *in*formal I think...", "I like to lead with a unisex title in that situation, so since you're talking about uni: \"Hello, Professor ___\". Job titles are usually safe bets.\n\nThis way you use a respectful greeting without committing to a gender. Hopefully you'll figure it out by the time you need it.", "Here is a trick to determine gender from Indian names. Women's name mostly end with vowel (e.g Vidhya, janani, suneeta, pooja). While male names usually end don't end with a vowel (eg Rajeev, sanjiv, rajesh, Sameer, Sunil etc)\n\nOfcourse there are exceptions to this rule. Especially unisexual names like Tejas, Swaroop, Kiran.\n\nAnother exceptions would be people who like to spell their names differently from the conventional spelling. E.g: preeti vs preity. \n\nHope this helps. ", "Why in the world would you need to know their gender? Seems totally irrelevant to all but a handful of very specific situations.", "When writing emails to professionals or for business use start out as follows (based on experience, college (under/grad), 7 years in the industry): \nTo someone with doctorate, academia \n\nfirst time contacting- \n\nDr. [First in full] [Last in full], \n\nFollowing correspondence based off of the tone of the e-mail, if completely formal stick with- \nDr. [Last Name], \n\nIf signed with their first name respond in future with - \n[First as signed], \n\nTo someone in industry/govt (all levels save specific titles like President) \nfirst contact (unless a formal request, skip title)- \n[First in full] [Last in full], \n\nAll following correspondence should be addressed based on how they sign \nIf they use your full name as salutations in response instead of just first or how you signed, continue using their full name, if not use how they signed - \n[First as signed], \n\nAnyone of unknown status or title: \n1st time - \n[First in full] [Last in full], \nFollowing - \n[First as signed],", "Sigh.. You should all adopt the level of courtesy we have in Norway:\n\nHI\n\nDO THIS\n\nREGARDS,\nYOUR NAME\n\nNone of that stupid \"Dear Sir..\" or \"If you could please find it in your heart..\" or \"I would be eternally blessed if you would please lend your precious time to..\"", "Is that really that hard to not write he/she? What do you write in a mail that is anout the other persons gender? ", "If you want to be informal, start with hello or greetings. \n\nIf you wanted to be more formal, perhaps use their name without the Mr or Ms? \n\nMy guess is that he or she may get this confusion a lot from people contacting them for the first time. If it truly bothered them, they needed to have the Web page updated to reflect Mr or Miss.", "I'd use Dear (First name last name) and if pronouns are needed, find a way to use \"they\" as it's neutral.\nI think if someone wrongly presumed my gender, I'd be wary of them being a tad chauvinist. Likewise female titles can be a minefield, if you want to use a title for a woman you don't know, I'd recommend asking if they have a preference, like \"is it okay if I call you Miss Surname?\" or \"do you have a preferred title?\"", "I really wouldn't go down the \"Dear Sir/Madam\" route if it's clear that you must know the name of the person you are emailing (which is the case if their email is [email protected]). It makes it obvious that you don't know their gender.\n\nPersonally I'd do some more research on the person before I gave up and wrote a gender neutral email. But if I couldn't find anything that even hinted at a name I'd just go slightly less formal and start it \"Hi Alex,\". I would *never* assume the gender if I wasn't sure.", "I have a gender neutral name and get Ms., Miss, and Mrs. all the time. I would prefer to just get, \"Dear [name]\" over a terrible guess any day.", "I agree with the \"Good Morning\". \n\nIt's only happened once, but I've sent an email to a Japanese person, using the name listed on the website. \n\nDespite being an English website, their name was listed as it is often done in Japan, with surname first. \n\nBeing as I don't know Japanese names well enough to distinguish (or English names, for that matter), this made a bad impression.", "Honestly in the UK Dear Sir is considered the formality of all unestablished letters. Sir being the person of authority regardless of sex. Sir or Sire.\n\nAlternatively, since you have never met this person simply say Dear Firstname Lastname as you wouldn't use the title of MR/MRS/MS at the start of the letter unless it was specifically addressed as such on the front of the envelope.\n\nTL;DR - Dear Firstname Lastname is perfectly and absolutely fine.", "Have you tried using the image search? If you image search a first name you usually end up with a result page showing men or women only.", "Good (morning/afternoon/evening) (first name) (last name), \n\nI have a few questions regarding the university and hope that you may be able to help me find some answers. \n\n(questions) \n\nThank you in advance, \n(your name) ", "> <their first name>\n\n> Email text\n\n>regards (or \"thank you\"\n\n>your name\n\nNothing wrong with this email:\n\n>Susan\n\n>What date does Engineering 101 start?\n\n>Thank you\n\n>James\n\nno genders were mentioned\n\n", "This problem exist in other languages as well. From your username I assume you are German - one would have the same problem there.\n\nI don't like the \"Hello [no name]\" greeting, because that other person is not my pal. \"Good morning\" is better, but I find it smells like unsolicited mail. If it is formal and it is impossible to find out the gender, especially due to the name being used as both male and female first name, I write \"Dear Ms./Mr. Blank\", respectively \"Sehr geehrte/r Frau/Herr Mustermann\".\n\nIt is not your fault you don't know it. It is the honest and direct way. I don't find it awkward at all - it is the formal and heads on approach. Note: Coming from a country that is rather formal.", "If corresponding with anyone at a university then following the convention of \"Dear Dr Lastname\" or \"Dear Professor Lastname\" will always work. No-one takes offence at wrongly being assumed to be a Dr or Professor. Plenty of women take great offence at being assumed to be a man. ", "I was going to make a joke, but when you mentioned that it was an Indian college I changed my mind because I actual encounter this \"problem\" often. I have learned that education in India is much more formal (of course I am making a blanket/general statement here...) than in the US, therefore phrases or sayings that sound very formal or un-natural to me are actually quite common for them. To my ears/keyboard, phrases such as \"Per our conversation last week...\", or \"To whom it may concern...\" sound overly formal, but when I use them with my overseas co-workers they take them in stride.", "Don't know how well it works in an email, but \"they\" for a person and \"their\" for possessive is commonly accepted for a gender neutral pronoun.", "Dealing with attorneys, I usually use \"Dear Counsel\"\n\nIf the person is a faculty member, you can use \"Dear Professor\"", "I also skip the salutation in email, unless it is on an attached document (such as cover letter). In my mind, the salutation portion was to ensure it reached the proper reader. However, if it hit their in box it often did. So, 'dear M Night Shyamalan, Last night I was... 'becomes 'Last night I was....' " ]

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[ "how can I look genuine when I smile and not like it's forced? I notice that in selfies (when I'm in control of the camera), my smile is great. \nBut in photos where I'm one of many or alone but the photo is being taken by someone else, my smile doesn't look \"natural\". My eyes even look wide and crazed sometimes. \nMy eyes and smile are soft and natural any other time.\nIt's so strange. \n\nHow can I ensure my eyes and smile are both photogenic and natural looking in pictures?", "how can I look genuine when I smile and not like it's forced? I notice that in selfies (when I'm in control of the camera), my smile is great. \nBut in photos where I'm one of many or alone but the photo is being taken by someone else, my smile doesn't look \"natural\". My eyes even look wide and crazed sometimes. \nMy eyes and smile are soft and natural any other time.\nIt's so strange. \n\nHow can I ensure my eyes and smile are both photogenic and natural looking in pictures?", "how can I look genuine when I smile and not like it's forced? I notice that in selfies (when I'm in control of the camera), my smile is great. \nBut in photos where I'm one of many or alone but the photo is being taken by someone else, my smile doesn't look \"natural\". My eyes even look wide and crazed sometimes. \nMy eyes and smile are soft and natural any other time.\nIt's so strange. \n\nHow can I ensure my eyes and smile are both photogenic and natural looking in pictures?" ]

[ "When having a photo taken of myself I think back to something funny. Usually the memory of something which made me hysterical is enough to produce a natural smile.", "You can distinguish a fake and a genuine smile by someone’s eyes. When a smile is genuine, “crows feet” will be visible. Your goal should be to make your smile look as genuine as possible. I suggest you practice in a mirror or with some selfies.", "It sounds like perhaps you are trying to \"not blink\" when someone else is taking a photo. When taking a selfie, you generally know when to take the photo and avoid your own blinking (because, hey, you're in control of the camera and your own eyes).\n\nWhat I do is I start with a natural smile with \"soft eyes\" like I'm smiling at someone's clever comment. Then, to prevent blinking, I let my eyes do whatever they want EXCEPT blinking. What I mean is that I usually experience blurriness. Like maybe my eyes were originally focused in on the camera lens, but I just kind of let them do/focus on whatever as long as I'm not blinking/not widening/not narrowing them." ]

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[ "Sweaty hands Any tips to stop or prevent sweaty hands when doing nothing? Or doing tasks? But just in general stop these sweaty palms of mine ", "Sweaty hands Any tips to stop or prevent sweaty hands when doing nothing? Or doing tasks? But just in general stop these sweaty palms of mine ", "Sweaty hands Any tips to stop or prevent sweaty hands when doing nothing? Or doing tasks? But just in general stop these sweaty palms of mine ", "Sweaty hands Any tips to stop or prevent sweaty hands when doing nothing? Or doing tasks? But just in general stop these sweaty palms of mine ", "Sweaty hands Any tips to stop or prevent sweaty hands when doing nothing? Or doing tasks? But just in general stop these sweaty palms of mine " ]

[ "Mine stopped when I stop eating refined sugars and drinking caffeine. May have been one of those, may have been both, but I am never going back.", "I'm actually trying a product right now called [sweatblock](https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwim6Im09cfKAhWrvYMKHSL8DG8QFgg6MAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FSweatBlock-Antiperspirant-Clinical-antiperspirant-towelettes%2Fdp%2FB002PQ8BQM&usg=AFQjCNHPyuSq6hgWG-t-RRwuA6ihSMwJiA&sig2=4X5pTtv8VCvITJLZME0jiA&bvm=bv.112454388,d.amc). It is an antiperspirant wipe intended for armpits that blocks sweat for 7 days. I'm trying it on my neck and head because I sweat at night. Some of the reviews say it works on hands too. ", "I have super sweat-prone feet for some reason. It's terrible if you're addicted, but cutting back on caffeine helps a lot. Drink more water and eating less salt as well.", "I found I sweated less when I quit smoking - don't know if that affects anyone else but it might be worth considering.", "Hyperhidrosis. There are OTC products (Certain-Dri) and prescription strength (Drysol). Both are incredibly effective, and cheap a." ]

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[ "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend.", "Lost my younger brother, don't think I will make it He was 16 and the past 2 years we've started doing more and more together. We go fishing, to the movies, play fight etc.\n\nWe worked together even. Hell, we are only a year a part. My family keeps me going, I've never been one to have hundreds of friends. My brother was my best friend." ]

[ "I want to reply because I can relate. In 2004, my younger brother died. He was 17 and I was 20. I had reconnected with him the last year of his life because we started to hang out and I could look at him as an equal and not just my annoying little brother.\n\nI am so so sorry for your loss. I went off the rails for a while after my brother died. He was the only person on earth who knew what it was like to grow up in my family, and then he was just gone and it was devastating.\n\nBut as cliché as it sounds, time makes it hurt less. Slowly, and the loss never goes away, but over years I started to be able to remember things about him and smile or laugh and not cry. We remember things about him all the time and laugh. I am haunted wondering what he would have been like as an adult.\n\nGrief and loss are so hard. But there is still a place for joy in your life, down the road. For me, getting some counseling was imperative, I don't know what would have happened to me if I hadn't taken that step.\n\nI don't know if any of that is helpful or annoying or whatever, but I couldn't read this, not reply, and go on with my night.", "I am very sorry for your loss, Here is comforting words that rang true for me over my losses in life. It gets better, here is the original post from u/gsnow. \n\n\"I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not.\n\nI've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents...\n\nI wish I could say you get used to people dying. But I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to \"not matter\". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it.\n\nScars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.\n\nAs for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.\n\nIn the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.\n\nSomewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.\n\nTake it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too.\n\nIf you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.\"", "Sorry for your loss. You can keep his memory alive by holding a memorial fishing tournament. You can have a donation fee to enter so it's organized to raise money to donate to charity in his memory. Create and do positive things in his honor. He would want you to be successful in life because you brought his life so much fun, joy and love. ", "wow man, im so sorry for your loss\n\ni havent ever had a sibling to lose\n\nbut i lost the girl i wanted to spend the rest of my life with\n\nas years pass it gets easier, it never gets easy but it get easier\n\nmy advice would be to start doing something in honor of him\n\n something he would be proud of, at least you can live on to accomplish something that would have made him happy", "Very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through. I read something one time about grief that has stuck with me: \"You don’t move on. You move forward.\"", "Someday, and this is different for everyone, someday you will look back and not be sad about the memory of your brother. You will always miss him and wish he was there, but eventually the memory of him will be a happy memory to think back to.\n\nI'm very sorry for your loss, and I truly wish you the best. I can't relate, personally, but I have lost relatives. Please just know you aren't alone in any of this. Try to keep your chin up and stay social and continue to put yourself out there whenever you feel ready. ", "Please hang in there.\n\nJust like there are people your brother made happier, there are people that you make happier.\n\nYou may not realize it or you might know it but not have thought of it. But there are people who look forward to seeing you. Don't make them feel like you do now, please...\n\nAlso, would your brother want you to give up? Is that why he liked you so much, because you would just give up? I am not trying to be harsh, but just remind you why it was you and your brother got along so well. Don't lose that because you lost him, right?\n\nPlease take the time to talk to someone (friend, family, clergy, doctor, teacher, mentor, etc.). You need to get out of your own head and back into the real world. Talking to my wife and a doctor helped me come back from the same kinds of feelings you are experiencing now. Don't be afraid to ask for help.\n\nPlease...", "I lost my younger brother when we were in our thirties. Some days, I still don't think I'm going to make it. He was one of my best friends, and a source of amazing support. Sometimes, I still get a feeling like I've been kicked in the stomach and it is all new again. But, I kept walking forward. Some days, I don't know how. But keeping his memory alive is crucial to my existence. From another perspective, I have also lost a son. He was 16. He was amazing and funny and sweet and charming. He had so much potential that he just couldn't see, and he killed himself. The pain I feel losing a child makes the pain I felt losing my brother feel like practice. And I would tell you that I could not survive the loss of another child. You are not alone. The pain is big. The pain is overwhelming. There are support groups. Talk to your parents. Don't make big decisions. Let people know that you are fragile. They will help you. They want to help you. Be safe, my friend.", "I lost my brother when I was 17 and he was 8. I was numb for a few months after he died (brain cancer) and then things started feeling very pointless. It's been a few years and what has helped me was taking every day one at a time, really focusing on myself and what I want to do with myself and my life (it felt selfish. it's not if it will keep you alive). Try finding something (or a few things) that you have an interest in and try and get sucked into it (hopefully not drugs, more like books or movies or hobbies etc). I found it really hard to talk to other people about my brother and my grief- most people are uncomfortable and don't understand, so I started writing in journals for a while.\n\nFinally, I found a lot of help in going to a grief and loss therapy group. I found one on my campus (a lot of them are free or a lotttt cheaper than individual therapy). There's something really good about being able to speak exactly what you want to say with people who get it, and getting the good, the bad, and the ugly from them too. Getting advice and being able to give advice is really helpful. Google hospice and grief and loss programs in your area to see about them, or if you're in school, ask the school social worker about what you could do when school starts up again.", "you don't think you will make it... from the same illness, or from suicide? if it's the latter, make sure you talk to someone, there are many people out there to help. But TL;DR don't commit suicide, there is always something. There is always something ahead. If it's the former, I can't help", "I know a few people who have volunteered at hospitals to [cuddle premature babies](http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2014/03/cuddling-babies-hospital-volunteers-show-the-power-of-human-touch/) - from what I've heard doing this can be profoundly comforting and is also great for the babies." ]

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[ "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. ", "How to get the most money when selling your car to a dealership. Is there some things that can help raise the price that maybe someone in the industry could shed some light on? Does a washed car get a better appraisal than a dirty one? Please give all (serious) tips you know. " ]

[ "I've worked in Car Sales before, as well as having had several friends in the industry. \nHere's the thing: The person who appraises your car couldn't care less how clean or dirty it is, within reason. Every car that doesn't go to auction will get detailed before it goes on the lot for resale. Firstly they detail every car to make them as presentable as possible, and secondly so that they don't sell a car that has the previous owner's personal effects, or any illegal substances in it.\n \nWhen they go to appraise your vehicle, they'll use a reference (Kelly Black Book, or some other online reference), plug in your vehicle information from the VIN and odometer, and make any adjustments based on condition (rust, mechanical defects, etc.). That's the number they'll use as a baseline for negotiations. \n \nThe best things you can do is to make certain that your vehicle is in good mechanical shape (no cracks in glass, broken trim, missing hubcaps, etc.), \nand make sure that your vehicle doesn't look like it's been driven through a mud hole, or been lived in for the past month, on the way to the dealership.\n", "Obviously wash it and vacuum the inside. Change the oil and clean any drips off the floor. Then sell it on Craigslist NOT TO A DEALER. The internet makes you the dealer. If a dealer buys it they have to turn around and sell it for more. I sold my old Jeep on Craigslist and while it's kind of a pain as a lot of people will want to come look who have no interest of buying. Eventually I got my full asking price. ", "LPT: Don't sell your car to a dealership. You'll never get as much as you will out of a private sale. ", "I have bought and sold a lot of cars and my family is in the car business. I guess the biggest thing you need to realize is that the car dealership has to make money. They either make money off of your trade in, the sale of the new car to you, or the financing. You can't go to them and hope that you get a deal on all three of those things. \n\nThe best way to get the biggest bang for your used car is to sell it on autotrader or craigslist on your own. This is best if you HAVE the title to the car and can meet at a bank and get a cashiers check or just cash. If you don't want to deal with the hassle of meeting people and turning down crazy offers then sell it to a dealership. \n\nSelling to a dealership can benefit you on taxes. They reduce the sales price of the car based on your trade in and you pay less on taxes. Depending where you live that can be a large sum. \n\nI agree with some of the other comments on getting the price of the car down first. Use websites like truecar, edmunds, KBB, and NADA to get the value of the car you want to buy. Look for a dealership that doesn't add on docking fees. \n\nThere is an app that a lot of dealerships use that calculate the price of a trade in. They just plug in the vin and mileage and it compares to what other cars have sold for at auction. You're not going to get a dealership to offer you much more then what they can make at auction. If they do....you're getting screwed on the new car price/financing. ", "Been selling for the last decade. Here is my advise. It's ok to educate your self but the truth of the matter is no one's number matters but the dealership that is trading for it. Carmax is really the only exception to this rule because they will actually buy your car. I could tell you your p.o.s is worth 5k but unless I'm going to strike you a check for it my opinion doesn't mean shit. People say negotiate the car your buying first then your trade after that, those people have been reading to many BS internet blogs. Lay it all out upfront. Here is what im wanting in my new car, here is my trade, and how you intend pay for said car. A dealer has 3 ways to make $ on a car deal. Profit on the sale, potential profit on future trade sale and kickbacks from banks on financial institutions. If you say your not trading and paying cash I only have 1 way to make money on you so I'm going to have to make it on your purchase. If I know the is potential in making money on your trade that gives me reason to discount the car a bit more. Lastly purchase from a local dealer and make them aware they are your local dealer. You coming back for future service give them another reason for a better discount. Trying to be tricky when buying is just an annoyance to a dealer and will hinder you in getting a good deal, or worse drag the process out for you which in turn will make you feel worse about the deal you got.", "Source: I appraised and bought cars at CarMax for years, and went to auctions regularly.\n\n1) Clean it. Spend 20 bucks cleaning it inside and out. First impression counts and a clean car may indicate a better maintained vehicle.\n\n2) Top off fluids, especially oil. Also, remove any old oil stickers if expired.\n\n3) Do your research on what it is worth. Use KBB, Edmonds,NADA, etc, and look at the \"trade in\" value. The dealership will likely give you wholesale value, meaning what they could sell or buy it for at an auction, which should be comparable to the online quotes.\n\n4) Get a quote at CarMax. They will give you 1000 dollars less than wholesale value if the vehicle is worth more than 3000 dollars. If it is worth less than 3K, they will knock off around 3-500 dollars off the top. In general though, its not a terrible offer.\n\n5) Separate the negotiation. There are a lot of numbers the dealership can play with. Don't focus on the final overall monthly payment, but instead worry about getting the best interest rate, trade in, and price of vehicle, and do them all individually.\n\n6) I would suggest going to a cr", "My dad is a mechanic and when buying used cars he would have me check the gas/break petals and gasket around the oil cap. If the break petal was super super worn they May have had hard driving habits where they would gas-brake-gas-brake continuously. He'd have me check the gasket under the oil cap because if it's too filthy then it means they often waited too long between oil changes. I have no idea if dealerships check these kinds of things but they might check the oil in the engine to see if its tar black or not.", "If you have access to the main car auction in your general area ( usually within a state or two ), you can see what your car is selling for there with the comps; ie. Engine size, model, trim package, miles and condition. Knowing this is huge since dealers typically use this same auction to sell their trades. If you know what it's worth there, the dealer doesn't have any leverage over you. \n\nDealers often get pissed off at me since I have access to this info and use it after they think I've settled on a deal. \" well, here's what my car/truck is selling for at the auction\"... Ah yes, blank faces are precious!", "You will get a lot of advise, just be aware of the trade in values the retail value and the magic number you want (aim for the best trade in value you know your car). Be prepared to be insulted by some dealers who like to negotiate. Go on the last day of the month, that's when you get the most for your trade and the least for their car because they need to hit their numbers (be prepared to push them for extra money off you will know when you hit the bottom line). Good luck!", "The way to get the most money from your used car: sell it yourself. Private party resale value is always higher than wholesale / trade in. ", "If you are trading you vehicle in at the purchase of a new vehicle, try to time it for the end of the month quarter. If the dealer has has a slow moth/quarter, the may be more willing to work with you. \n\nLike said be for negotiate your purchase first, and don't be afraid to negotiate additionals into the deal. I've negotiated 2 years of oil changes in on a deal for a used BMW, out of service contract. ", "I work in the purchasing department of a large dealership. There's not a ton you can do to drastically raise the cars value but some ways to boost value are: have a clean and odor-free car, remove aftermarket modifications (as much as you love them, they lower the cars value), remove stickers, remove clutter, and generally maintain the car. ", "Do not ever sell your car to a dealership. Seriously, the value is much higher if you sell it private party. Look up your car on blue book. I know craigslist seems sketchy, but it works. Be patient with your offers. Highball the asking price because almost no one will offer you exactly what you're asking.", "Also, always ask for more than you really want for your trade. Last time I bought I had everything done but my trade-in. They offered $1500 and I asked for $3000. The truck was only a $1500-2000 trade depending on which book you were looking at, but I wanted all of it. They countered at $2200 which is what I expected, and accepted.", "If you are looking at a new car, do this:\n\nHave them appraise the trade first. And be up front that you will be getting three appraisals from three dealerships. \n\nAll Ford (or whatever) dealers pay the same for their new cars. The major variable is the value of your trade. " ]

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