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[ "How to live off $100 for two weeks I just started a job far from home. I won't get paid for two weeks and I have $107. Gas will probably last me another 3 days.", "How to live off $100 for two weeks I just started a job far from home. I won't get paid for two weeks and I have $107. Gas will probably last me another 3 days.", "How to live off $100 for two weeks I just started a job far from home. I won't get paid for two weeks and I have $107. Gas will probably last me another 3 days." ]

[ "The best tasting options will be rice, beans and chicken and you can do a lot with that without spending too much money, just try not to buy too many sauces, they add up fast", "Check to see if using a bus or other public transportation is cheaper than driving. You might save money by not buying gas.\n\nAre there any food pantries or other places that offer free meals near you? You might be able to get free food from these places.\n\nDo you have a cr", "if you can make rice, get a bag of rice. it's easy to make but you need to know the ratio and babysit it as it cooks. pasta is easy to cook. beans are cheap too. less than $1 for a can which can last 3 meals maybe. popcorn also makes for good snack stuff, get kernels and stovetop pop them or microwave in a paper bag. " ]

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[ "How to involve a shy person in a conversation I am a very extroverted person with an extremely introverted girlfriend, she doesn't like going out much to hang out with friends as when she isn't completely comfortable with someone she doesn't talk much, and even then she doesn't seem to talk as much as she'd like, she always tells me that I never include her in the convo and I was just wondering if anyone has delt with this before or would have any tips on lobing nice and easy convo prompts to a shy girl, thank you!", "How to involve a shy person in a conversation I am a very extroverted person with an extremely introverted girlfriend, she doesn't like going out much to hang out with friends as when she isn't completely comfortable with someone she doesn't talk much, and even then she doesn't seem to talk as much as she'd like, she always tells me that I never include her in the convo and I was just wondering if anyone has delt with this before or would have any tips on lobing nice and easy convo prompts to a shy girl, thank you!", "How to involve a shy person in a conversation I am a very extroverted person with an extremely introverted girlfriend, she doesn't like going out much to hang out with friends as when she isn't completely comfortable with someone she doesn't talk much, and even then she doesn't seem to talk as much as she'd like, she always tells me that I never include her in the convo and I was just wondering if anyone has delt with this before or would have any tips on lobing nice and easy convo prompts to a shy girl, thank you!", "How to involve a shy person in a conversation I am a very extroverted person with an extremely introverted girlfriend, she doesn't like going out much to hang out with friends as when she isn't completely comfortable with someone she doesn't talk much, and even then she doesn't seem to talk as much as she'd like, she always tells me that I never include her in the convo and I was just wondering if anyone has delt with this before or would have any tips on lobing nice and easy convo prompts to a shy girl, thank you!", "How to involve a shy person in a conversation I am a very extroverted person with an extremely introverted girlfriend, she doesn't like going out much to hang out with friends as when she isn't completely comfortable with someone she doesn't talk much, and even then she doesn't seem to talk as much as she'd like, she always tells me that I never include her in the convo and I was just wondering if anyone has delt with this before or would have any tips on lobing nice and easy convo prompts to a shy girl, thank you!" ]

[ "Tell stories that involve her or engage her and let her choose which bait to take and when to engage. Involving her indirectly \"yeah she lives there too\" \"we went there together a few weeks ago\" \"she loves that show too etc\" is a non threatening way to incorporate an introvert without expectations or a direct prompt to speak if she doesn't feel inclined. ", "I'm introverted and a big problem for me is getting a break in the conversation to talk. A lot of outgoing people in groups talk fast and over each other and I just can't squirm my way in because my voice won't be heard over everyone else. I always appreciate when someone sees that I'm trying to talk so they stop talking and physically turn towards me to listen. It often causes the group to shift attention and makes me feel included in the conversation. ", "Ask for her opinion on topics, but don't be pushy. Eventually one will stick and she will ramble...also you can talk about common experiences together and sort of turn to her and say \"isn't that right babe?\". thirdly, I'd positively encourage when she has indeed spoken up, like backing her point up even if you don't agree or laughing at a bad joke. If she screws up with a joke or a comment, just screw up worse in an effort to take the limelight off of her.\n\nThe rest is kind of up to her, but it's a dick move for her to blame you for her lack of interaction, I personally wouldn't tolerate that.\n", "I'm right there with you man. My wife is the exact same way. She isn't good with talking to people she hasn't been around for ages. \n\nWhen in a conversation with unfamiliar people, I usually try and respond to the other people there with information or stories I know she is well versed on. If she starts to speak up, I don't say much after that and she takes the lead. Playing the \"I think it happened like this\" card works more often than not. People have the urge to tell the correct version of the story and get excited while doing so.\n\nThis works extremely well with stuff she likes to nerd out on (obviously) you just have to remain conscious of the fact that you want to get her involved and try not to miss an opportunity to do so. \n\nA few times, I've helped lead the conversation to a point where she takes over then excuse myself to the restroom. It helps her learn to handle that kind of stuff on her own. Be careful with this one, it can backfire.lol. ", "As a gregarious person myself, I find talking less and asking open-ended questions works well to spark conversation. Making eye-contact and waiting for a response seems to encourage people to share their thoughts as well." ]

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[ "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. ", "How to not take people being rude/mean to heart as much. The title says it all, I am a delicate flower. " ]

[ "I work in a call center, and really struggled with this for a while. I handle it two different ways.. the first is to imagine that this person is my friend, and they are having a very shitty day (think your best friend's mom has died). I know my best friend would not normally behave this way, so I cut them some slack and try and empathize. If this fails, I imagine a child throwing a tantrum. It's silly - they look and sound silly, and then it's hard to take their comments seriously (and thus, hard to take their comments to heart). \n\nIt's hard at first, because rude comments make your brain enter the flight or fight mode - you either want to say some shit back or get the fuck out of the situation. If you can stop this flight or fight instinctual response with a distraction (like above), it's easier to handle.", "I read this is another thread about how to not get upset when you get angry. Imagine yourself as someone you respect/admire and emulate them. The person in the thread used Darth Vader lol. Personally I use Bernie Sanders and it makes me feel better. I might get upset later when I inevitably overthink the situation but it saves me in that moment.\n\n", "Here is a quote that helped me: \n\n\"what other people think of me is none of my business.\" -Dr. Wayne Dyer\n\nWe can't control how others treat us or what opinions they have of us. We can only control ourselves, our emotions, our actions. \n\nIt sounds insensitive to say, \"don't be so sensitive\", so I'll try to word it differently. Care for yourself more, so that rather than being hurt by the negativity, you remove your emotion from it. Then, you can look at the situation and assess the motive behind it:\n\n- *is this person trying to be hurtful, or *is this person just in a bad place right now*?* Sometimes people are asses just because, and it's got nothing to do with you. You can either address it with them, let it roll of your chest, lessen your interactions with them or cut them out.\n\n- *Is there anything that I can take away from this that would be helpful to me in the future?* For example, criticism. Ask yourself if the critique has merit, and if you want to do anything about it for yourself. \n\n- *what lesson can I learn from this?*\n\n- *how much do I really care?* If you don't mind it don't matter. \n\n", "[This](https://www.reddit.com/r/quotes/comments/4fsquv/if_you_are_willing_at_look_at_another_persons/?) quote on reddit recently speaks a lot to that. \n\nI've also been thinking lately about how good I feel when I am happy, confident, and nice. \n\nWhen someone else isn't nice, it's more difficult for me to be happy...but I don't have to let it be that way. I can practice being happy in challenging situations, and the way to do that is to just keep being happy, confident, and nice as much as I can regardless of how other people are so that I can strengthen that emotional \"muscle\". \n\nHappiness is like the keys to my car. If someone was mean to me because I wasn't wearing an expensive watch, would I hand over the keys to my car to that person? No. Just because someone is rude or mean to me doesn't mean I have to give away something as incredibly valuable to me as my happiness. ", "Just realize that when people are shitty and mean, they're unhappy with themselves. Let that be your light..", "[Eat a fucking apple](https://www.reddit.com/r/howtonotgiveafuck/comments/11mbsp/eat_a_fucking_apple/)\n\nNo! Wait! I'm serious. Hear me out.\n\nI laughed at this post a looong time ago. I didn't go and get an apple like the man said I should, but the very first time I ate an apple after reading it, I laughed. I don't think I've laughed that hard in my entire life. It wasn't just the memory of the post, or the fact that I felt like I actually couldn't possibly give less of a fuck, it's that I had this little vision of everyone, everywhere, who ever ate an apple as something happened that should have bothered them, and feeling them not give two shits.\n\nI carry an apple everywhere now. Not literally of course, but a tiny, tiny bit of me in the back of my mind is in permanent apple eating mode, and when I feel bothered in any way, by anything at all, he's ready.\n\nAnd then I'm eating an apple. I have a drop of juice dripping down my chin, I don't wipe it up, fuck that. I chew with my mouth open the slightest bit, just on the edge of being rude but not enough to make anyone say anything about it. I look directly at the apple every time I bite into it, not to see where I'm biting, or because I want to see how delicious it is, but because I care more about this fucking tasty fruit in my hand than whatever else is happening at the time. It's of absolutely no importance, and yet it's the most important.\n\nVery specific, I agree. But I recommend anyone find a time in their lives, an activity, a place a thought a dream, anything, anything to transport yourself to where you honestly don't care, and learn to live it on demand. You become untouchable.", "Same problem.\n\nIt helps me to realize that my friends and family mean well, so they most likely don't mean it the way I hear it. If it's someone outside your family who actually intends to be mean, remember that they're having a miserable time. Whether it's today or their life in general, they're not happy. That's 90% of why people say and do mean things, they're not all that happy with the thoughts swirling around in their own head.", "If it is a family member or someone you have to deal with constantly then try to work it out. If it is a rare occurrence remember you don't have to deal with others problems unless you choose to engage. ", "I have found that my emotional sensitivity is somewhat dependent on how much exercise* I've gotten that day.\n\n*I'm not a super fit person or a gym rat. ", "I always try to remember that getting upset is a choice. Not giving a shit is an equally valid choice.", "just think \"they have a shitty life and want to get laid and can't because their significant other thinks that they are a gross, deplorable person\"", "There are plenty of mean people in the world and you and I don't know their story. They might be being mean as it's the only thing they know, parents or siblings might or still are horribly mean and abusive to them. While this doesn't allow or forgive them to pass this on it does give us a reason to feel sorry for them and to be supportive rather than hateful or hurt.\n\nThis will be the hardest thing in the world to do, but if you believe in yourself is a lot easier. Because if you're the best person you can be, why would someone be mean to you?\n", "It's never really about you as much as you think it is. At least that's how I dealt with it and it worked. People will project their own insecurities right onto you for very little reason if any. When people act this way with me I just put it right back onto them asking them if everything is alright. And that would be me honestly asking. Clearly something isn't going right with them because why would they be a douche if things were going so well? \n\nNow there are times when people's comments get under my skin, and I use that time as a self reflective moment. For me to be affected by something like that then something is not sitting right with me. \n\nBottom line is, people fuck up. But that doesn't make them a fuck up. It's just what they did was a fuck up. It happens. People act like a dick on a certain day, but that won't make them a dick, its just something that day turned them into a temporary dick for that one specific moment. \n\nThe further you disassociate their behavior, or your own behavior, with being truly them or yourself, then you will be further along the line of finding inner peace. ", "It probably has nothing to do with you. They might just be having a bad day. Try and spend some time with friends who are nice and supportive to you. I've found it always helps, knowing there are people on my side.", "If somebody starts being rude, that means their patience has run out, meaning that they are weak. If they're weak, you can start by pretending to be happy/sad/official (no opinion of anything). If there are 2 people of different emotions, eventually 1 will join the other. It's a little trick you can use to neutralize negative emotions of others. Very useful in relationships. You just gotta be more patient. Thumbs up to you and good luck!", "Been in hospitality for a long time. When i first became a server, I was pretty meek, and it was pretty easy to make me cry. You learn that these people who treat you this way are either a) not really mad at you, more angry with the situation; or b) dickheads who treat every server/barista/call center operator like trash. \n\nIt's not your fault, and you aren't responsible for how someone else is acting. Smile, walk away if you can, get a manager, and relax. Don't let people put their bad mood off on you.", "Remember fuck them! They ain't nobody. Your life is yours what they say or think doesn't mean anything. Fuck them" ]

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[ "How to get someone to tell you what's bothering them. Even though it's obvious something is wrong and after asking repeatedly, they tell you nothing is wrong. Is it best to be persistent or wait it out?", "How to get someone to tell you what's bothering them. Even though it's obvious something is wrong and after asking repeatedly, they tell you nothing is wrong. Is it best to be persistent or wait it out?", "How to get someone to tell you what's bothering them. Even though it's obvious something is wrong and after asking repeatedly, they tell you nothing is wrong. Is it best to be persistent or wait it out?", "How to get someone to tell you what's bothering them. Even though it's obvious something is wrong and after asking repeatedly, they tell you nothing is wrong. Is it best to be persistent or wait it out?", "How to get someone to tell you what's bothering them. Even though it's obvious something is wrong and after asking repeatedly, they tell you nothing is wrong. Is it best to be persistent or wait it out?", "How to get someone to tell you what's bothering them. Even though it's obvious something is wrong and after asking repeatedly, they tell you nothing is wrong. Is it best to be persistent or wait it out?", "How to get someone to tell you what's bothering them. Even though it's obvious something is wrong and after asking repeatedly, they tell you nothing is wrong. Is it best to be persistent or wait it out?" ]

[ "I've worked as a victim counselor and business consultant, both involve scenarios talking to a variety of people about difficult topics. When facing difficult situations, people naturally want to share with others, we are social creatures, but experience will teach that relying on others will only cause more emotional pain because others will demand information or action. When you ask someone \"what's wrong\" what you're really saying is \"I see you are distressed and it's making me distressed and I don't want to feel distressed, so tell me what's wrong so I can figure out how to make myself feel better\". When they say \"nothing\" they are trying to help you feel better. Reassure them that you are not asking for yourself, but for them. This can mean sitting them down away from distractions, giving them your full attention, and telling them you are ready to listen. Then LISTEN. Don't try to solve their problems, don't interrupt, don't tell them how you understand because something similar happened to you, just let them talk. Sometimes, they will pause, let them. Only when they ask for your input should you give it.\n\nThis is more difficult than it sounds, so kudos to you for asking for advice. :)", "Sounds like you're the one bothering them. If you've asked and they have not told you, then leave it alone. Right now you're just being annoying and adding a second problem to their lives.", "I'd recommend waiting it out...if they want to share it with you, they know you're concerned (you've asked), so they will when they're comfortable opening up, if ever.", "Rather than asking what is wrong I try and identify their emotion and then raise that - it gives them a point of reference to start talking rather than the generic \"what's wrong\" and them thinking that its too big and complicated to get into.\n\nE.g: \"You've been looking sad / upset / down / angry / agitated recently....\"\nOften they will be stoic about it and say \"Oh nothing\" or similar.\nI then counter with \"Well I'd just noticed your sadness (etc) and wanted to see that you are ok and offer my help even if it just to lend an ear\".", "You should probably just mind your own business. There's a reasom they are telling the nosey nancy nothing is wrong.", "Maybe the person asking has trouble with words? Sometimes, when I am upset, I have trouble describing what's wrong, getting my thoughts in order or even picking out one emotion. So someone asking what's wrong gives me sort of a panicky feeling.\n\nMaybe you could try a different approach. Like if your wife likes to write or draw, ya'll could keep a journal or sketchbook and stay connected in that way. \n\nIt's probably better to say, When you wanna talk, I'm here to listen, because that takes a little bit of the pressure off of having to figure things out right away if you're already upset. ", "I would suggest offering an open ear rather than asking. That way, you'll feel better having expressed your feeling, and they won't feel pressured. \n\n\"I want you to know that if you need to talk to someone about anything, you know where to find me.\" or something of the sort." ]

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[ "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop).", "How to improve memory retention and attention span. Any tried and true tips on how to improve memory retention? I have had a terrible memory for as long as I can remember, and it's only gotten worse since I graduated high school. I dropped out of college because I can't remember much of anything long enough to recall it for a test/exam, much less be able to recall info for use in real world situations. Also my attention span is just shit, and gets worse the older I get. I'm only 21, and I feel like I shouldn't have a worse memory than my grandfather (no offense, Pop)." ]

[ "~~take adderall~~ Anyways, here's a few tips...\n\n* Possibly Drink Coffee (Yes, many will frown at me, but seriously, it helps...)\n* Take Vitamin B12 (will help memory), B6 (helps with short term attention loss)\n* EXERCISE (go on a treadmill for 30 min.), this will help even more.\n\nBut from what your saying... Sounds like you are just running out of energy. However, you could go to a neurologist and do tests to see if you have ADD or ADHD. (Which sounds like ADD would be your case). \n\nPlay some brain games too like Limosity, that's proven to help people.", "Do you consume marijuana? if so, [stop](https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/research-reports/marijuana/how-does-marijuana-use-affect-your-brain-body).", "Look up Kim's Game. It's a memorization/situational awareness game that can have some good results.\n\nhttps://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kim%27s_Game", "I personally believe that quality sleep is the most important factor when it comes to memory. I would read up on sleep cycles, and figure out what works best for you. A healthy lifestyle will also improve the quality of your sleep drastically (exercise etc.). ", "Try Lumosity. (http://www.lumosity.com/).\n\nIt makes you play different mini-games that focus on how fast you react, enhances your memory and challenges your logical-thinking skills. It's also quite fun (and free).", "Noticed in a comment you said you have depression and use MJ for it\n\nIt could be a possibility that there's a correlation between the two (being depressed and memory loss that is)\n\nI was in a similar situation\nDealing with major depression for years\nBut took anti depressants (bupropion to be specific) and memory's not anywhere near great but it's steadily improving\n\nLike if it's a serious issue for you I'd say see a psych and see if they can refer you to a psychiatrist to give you meds\nIf you're open to that option\nJust a suggestion\n\nHope you find something that works for you\nI know the frustration of having a bad short term memory ", "I don't know if you're thinking along the lines of supplements at all, but L-Tyrosine is great for neurotransmitter support. This would help both memory and attention span. As someone else already mentioned, B-vitamins are also great for focus and energy. L-Tyrosine works best when taken with these B-vitamins. 5 hour energy is loaded with them! Every day I take a 500mg L-Tyrosine capsule with half a bottle of 5-Hour energy.", "1.) Intention. Have the intention of improving your memory retention and attention span. \n\n2.) Practice. Whatever you are about to do, go into it with the intention of increasing your attention span. If it's only improved with 1% each time, it adds up and gets better. Also remember, human minds are not made to focus on one thing for a very long time. \n\n3.) Improve the core mechanics of memory. One big part of remembering is through mental imagery/'video' (a series of imagery in sequence). By improving the habbit of how they look you will make it a lot easier to remember the information. The criteria for mental imagery is the same for seeing real imagery. So size/color/sharpness/mobility(is the picture(s) standing still or moving). \n\nAn example: I don't use bookmarks any more, I always make a picture of the number of the page. Do that, make it very small and move it far away. Very hard to remember. Now make it bigger, say about the size of your hand. Make the numbers black and the background white. Make them sharp nd make sure they stand still. Voila. Remember ( ;-) ) the point is this is to improve the -habit- of how you handle mental imagery, not the images themselves. '\n\n4.) Just relax. You can improve by practice but you can't force it. Also stress can have negative impact on memory and attention. ", "\"School\" and \"real world situations\" are dull and soul crushing. To improve your attention/memory don't compare yourself to indoctrinated, boring people.... Stay clean & sober and live life your way, how you enjoy it. Eventually you'll run into something you're interested in, and you'll have no trouble paying attention and remembering...." ]

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[ "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. ", "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. ", "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. ", "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. ", "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. ", "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. ", "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. ", "How to get out of bed more easily when you wake up in the morning. Hello people of Reddit. The last three years I have had my entire life functioning after noon. Work and school and all my activity has been starting after 12 o'clock. I have a cat that won't let me get into deep sleep before 6/7 am. Now I'm postgrad and even though my classes are at a late time of the day (18:00-21:00), I work as a teacher and I have a new class at 11:30. Also I used to go to the gym daily at the time that my classes used to be, but the groups that I participated in coincide with my postgrad classes so I can keep up with the gym unless I go to the alternate classes that are at 9/10/11 o'clock in the morning. Although I have functioned in a higher level after 4 o'clock even as a child, I am trying to make a small yet significant change in my lifestyle. I manage to open my eyes at 8 am usually, but I just can't get out of bed before 9:30, so I usually can't make it to the gym, which sucks, because I like being physically functional. Lately I'm keeping the cat out of the bedroom, making my mom call me at 8 o'clock to make sure I have heard the alarm, and today I managed to attend 10 am yoga. Any tips on making that transition? \n\nTL:DR: changing lifestyle, can't get enough sleep, can wake but just won't get out of bed upon waking. " ]

[ "Hey man, i know how you feel, i had to make that change myself when i started my own company! Here are some tips that i found very helpful! First let me just voice what others have said already that your body will conform to your new schedule, so hang in there!\n\n1. Get a sleep measuring app for whatever device you are on, most will also have the function of tracking your movements in bed and wake you up when you feel the most refreshed! I've heard various results from friends but it has personally worked wonders for me. I use \"Sleep Time\" on the iPhone!\n\n2. Drink water as soon as you get up. I keep a bottle of water on my night-table and drink a big gulp as soon as i get up! I found this advice on reddit and has helped me aswell! I cant commend on the actual psychology behind this, but something about getting the bowel-movements going makes it easier to get up!\n\n3. Use Flux or any other app that rids electronic devices of blue light after 21.00. Any app will allow you to set a certain time where it will dim itself. It is also a standard function on the new OS for iPhone. Also, never use electronics in bed if you dont have to.\n\n4. If i have an extremely important meeting/something else i absolutely cant miss, i have an Alarm Clock app where i have to scan a barcode. The barcode is on the back of my Shampoo Bottle. Once im out there anyway i just turn on the cold faucet, and there you go! Haha, this is kind of a, \"i-must-get-up\" kind of thing!\n\nAlso, dont drink coffee or any high-caffeine drinks 4 hours before you have to lay down. If i have to study or do other work late night, i have a bag of instant decaf coffee that i can take a cup from! Makes being a coffee addict a little easier!\n\nGood luck!", "Get a pet - preferably a hyperactive dog who will cover your head in drool until u get out of bed and take him out for a walk OR he will just take a shit on your bed instead. The fear of having to wake upto a lump of shit next to your face will wake you up faster than any alarm clock man can make. ", "I used to have this problem until I started putting numerous loud obnoxious sounds as my alarm tone and put my phone far enough away from my bed that I am forced to get completely out and walk 5-10 ft to turn it off. Worked like a charm when I went from 2nd to 3rd to 1st shifts all in a 3 week time period. Make yourself leave the bed and you most likely won't go back.", "Put your phone alarm in a place where you physically have to get up and walk a few steps to shut it off. It'll do wonders. ", "Look into something called a \"Sleep Cycle Alarm Clock\", there are apps you can download on your phone. It monitors your sleeping patterns and will wake you up at a light part of your sleep cycle (closest to the time that you have your alarm set for). This means that you won't be jarred awake while in a deep sleep and you won't feel so groggy and zombie like when waking up. ", "I do not get up. Period. The sleepy version of me is evolved enough to lie to anyone getting me up, that like classes was canceled and can turn off multiple alarms.\n\nAll without me having any memory of it. It is a bit of a handicap tbh.", "How long have you been on the new schedule? I have changed shifts at work many times. The main thing to remember is that you will adjust. Just hang in there. It takes time for your body to accept the new routine, but it will. I have seen people work 3rd shift for 20 years and bounce back to getting up at 5am. It doesn't happen right away. There is a mental fog and a constant feeling of how bad it sucks to be awake at the wrong time. All that gradually fades until it's completely gone.", "I've had times in my life where I get up early by simply rolling out of bed. Literally. Throw the covers back and roll until I start to fall out. Then I have to catch myself, stand up, and then I can start moving.\n\nAlso helps to have a four poster bed. Wouldn't recommend if you're big enough or heavy enough to damage the posts by using them as a lever." ]

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[ " We have a roommate that is pretty unbearable and causing a lot of tension in the house. She's messy, incapable of taking care of herself, always mooching, and loves to pretend she can speak French. For the last five months she wasn't able to pay rent, jobless and not really even looking for one.\n\nShe was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nRecently she managed to find another job, and on Sunday she asked if she could stay longer. She said she couldn't find another place in her price range, off our subway line, etc. [restrictions a little unreasonable for living in NYC] We're pretty sure she didn't even look.\n\nOne roommate really wants her out to the point that shes threatening to leave and the other one does too but is too nice of a guy to do anything about it. Things are getting very heated, but one thing is clear. She's got to go. How?\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with a situation likes this? I imagine it's not too uncommon. Is there any way to get her out in a reasonable way of she's a totally unreasonable person?", " We have a roommate that is pretty unbearable and causing a lot of tension in the house. She's messy, incapable of taking care of herself, always mooching, and loves to pretend she can speak French. For the last five months she wasn't able to pay rent, jobless and not really even looking for one.\n\nShe was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nRecently she managed to find another job, and on Sunday she asked if she could stay longer. She said she couldn't find another place in her price range, off our subway line, etc. [restrictions a little unreasonable for living in NYC] We're pretty sure she didn't even look.\n\nOne roommate really wants her out to the point that shes threatening to leave and the other one does too but is too nice of a guy to do anything about it. Things are getting very heated, but one thing is clear. She's got to go. How?\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with a situation likes this? I imagine it's not too uncommon. Is there any way to get her out in a reasonable way of she's a totally unreasonable person?", " We have a roommate that is pretty unbearable and causing a lot of tension in the house. She's messy, incapable of taking care of herself, always mooching, and loves to pretend she can speak French. For the last five months she wasn't able to pay rent, jobless and not really even looking for one.\n\nShe was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nRecently she managed to find another job, and on Sunday she asked if she could stay longer. She said she couldn't find another place in her price range, off our subway line, etc. [restrictions a little unreasonable for living in NYC] We're pretty sure she didn't even look.\n\nOne roommate really wants her out to the point that shes threatening to leave and the other one does too but is too nice of a guy to do anything about it. Things are getting very heated, but one thing is clear. She's got to go. How?\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with a situation likes this? I imagine it's not too uncommon. Is there any way to get her out in a reasonable way of she's a totally unreasonable person?", " We have a roommate that is pretty unbearable and causing a lot of tension in the house. She's messy, incapable of taking care of herself, always mooching, and loves to pretend she can speak French. For the last five months she wasn't able to pay rent, jobless and not really even looking for one.\n\nShe was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nRecently she managed to find another job, and on Sunday she asked if she could stay longer. She said she couldn't find another place in her price range, off our subway line, etc. [restrictions a little unreasonable for living in NYC] We're pretty sure she didn't even look.\n\nOne roommate really wants her out to the point that shes threatening to leave and the other one does too but is too nice of a guy to do anything about it. Things are getting very heated, but one thing is clear. She's got to go. How?\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with a situation likes this? I imagine it's not too uncommon. Is there any way to get her out in a reasonable way of she's a totally unreasonable person?", " We have a roommate that is pretty unbearable and causing a lot of tension in the house. She's messy, incapable of taking care of herself, always mooching, and loves to pretend she can speak French. For the last five months she wasn't able to pay rent, jobless and not really even looking for one.\n\nShe was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nRecently she managed to find another job, and on Sunday she asked if she could stay longer. She said she couldn't find another place in her price range, off our subway line, etc. [restrictions a little unreasonable for living in NYC] We're pretty sure she didn't even look.\n\nOne roommate really wants her out to the point that shes threatening to leave and the other one does too but is too nice of a guy to do anything about it. Things are getting very heated, but one thing is clear. She's got to go. How?\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with a situation likes this? I imagine it's not too uncommon. Is there any way to get her out in a reasonable way of she's a totally unreasonable person?", " We have a roommate that is pretty unbearable and causing a lot of tension in the house. She's messy, incapable of taking care of herself, always mooching, and loves to pretend she can speak French. For the last five months she wasn't able to pay rent, jobless and not really even looking for one.\n\nShe was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nRecently she managed to find another job, and on Sunday she asked if she could stay longer. She said she couldn't find another place in her price range, off our subway line, etc. [restrictions a little unreasonable for living in NYC] We're pretty sure she didn't even look.\n\nOne roommate really wants her out to the point that shes threatening to leave and the other one does too but is too nice of a guy to do anything about it. Things are getting very heated, but one thing is clear. She's got to go. How?\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with a situation likes this? I imagine it's not too uncommon. Is there any way to get her out in a reasonable way of she's a totally unreasonable person?" ]

[ "Provided you are not considered a landlord by law, the process is easy. Give her a \"drop dead\" date to be gone and if she is not gone then put her stuff in the street and change the locks.\nIf you were looking for an easy way where no one gets their feeling hurt or feels bad, that ship has sailed. Kick her out and be done with it. No more \"one more chance\" to clean up her act. Sounds harsh I know but it sounds like she is using you and you are not her guardian or protector. She needs a life lesson and the sooner the better.", "> She was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nWhat does the lease agreement state about long term guests? \n\nHas anyone literally just told her what you are having issues with and if she doesnt fix them that she is gone?\n\nJust be an adult and sit them down and state that they are very disrespectful towards everyone else when she is messy and moochy. ", "It sounds like you guys just need to muster up the courage to tell her like it is. if she's such a horrible person, what are you afraid of? \n\nI've seen many a situation like this in nyc, and most of the time its sorted out by talking to your landlord about it. he'll handle the situation swiftly and fairly for both parties. might even help her find another apartment. at the very least, he can change the locks and call homeless services for her. ", "Before tossing her stuff out, I'd research NY landlord-tenant laws to make sure you give enough notice. In Oklahoma (here), the minimum notice depends on lease length. Typical eviction notice is 30 days, and may need to be filed with local police to have true validity in court. In Florida, even if they are not on the lease but have received mail at the residence you must give minimum notice, you can't just kick them out and change the locks. Know your rights and theirs based on local law, then act accordingly. You could be free in less than 30 days! :) ", "I would find a bunch of places on craigslist print em out and hand them over to her i live here in new york as well and not being able to find anything is a poor excuse ", "> She was unable to re-sign the lease when we signed a few months ago but we said we would let her stay until September.\n\nThis sounds like a contract. Remind her that she has \"until September\" (which will likely be interpreted as September 30th). Remind her frequently, either explicitly, or implicitly (\"say, did you see any nice apartments today?\").\n\nIf the end of September comes and she's still there, call the police (or whatever eviction service is available to you)." ]

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[ "Solution for keeping hair out of the shower drain. I bought one of those weighted metal screens, but the soap scum doesn't always drain though. What has worked for you?", "Solution for keeping hair out of the shower drain. I bought one of those weighted metal screens, but the soap scum doesn't always drain though. What has worked for you?", "Solution for keeping hair out of the shower drain. I bought one of those weighted metal screens, but the soap scum doesn't always drain though. What has worked for you?", "Solution for keeping hair out of the shower drain. I bought one of those weighted metal screens, but the soap scum doesn't always drain though. What has worked for you?", "Solution for keeping hair out of the shower drain. I bought one of those weighted metal screens, but the soap scum doesn't always drain though. What has worked for you?", "Solution for keeping hair out of the shower drain. I bought one of those weighted metal screens, but the soap scum doesn't always drain though. What has worked for you?", "Solution for keeping hair out of the shower drain. I bought one of those weighted metal screens, but the soap scum doesn't always drain though. What has worked for you?" ]

[ "Run fingers through hair while washing, collect it before it falls onto floor, stick to wall, use tissue to collect and throw away.\n\nIt's slightly annoying but I'd rather minimize the amount that ends up in the drain. ", "After every shower, I take whatever hair has collected and throw it away. If you let it build up, then it'll be harder and harder for any soap to wash down the drain and just being more annoying to clean up in the long run.", "You might need to buy a drain snake and get out of there whatever is causing the drain to clog. Probably hair that got through the screen.", "You can reduce the hair going down the drain by giving your hair a good brush before you shower. That worked well for me as it went from clump in the drain to strands. If that doesn't reduce it enough then combine brushing with a hair catcher and empty it as needed.\nI've never had any problems with soap draining unless the catcher is really full. An empty catcher shouldn't prevent any draining.", "I have long, thick, curly hair. when my hair falls out while showering, I honestly put it on the shower wall. when I'm done I throw it out. I also have a drain cover, but as others have said you should clean it off often or it will build up and get nasty. :) good luck!", "Definitely buy a hair catcher. They work great. Remove them between uses (I put mine on the side of the shower) or it'll grow mold \n\n", "A friend with a large, long haired dog he would wash in the shower used [nylon net fabric.](http://i.imgur.com/U0QD9Cp.jpg) It would catch so much that he used pauses in the showering to remove big globs of hair that he would put in a wastebasket just outside the shower." ]

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[ "How to Handle Office Politics/Power Games at the Office Any general tips or advice, geared towards someone who is hopelessly inadequate at understanding and actively influencing in office power games? In other words, for someone who is rather inept at them, what is the best strategy to pursue?", "How to Handle Office Politics/Power Games at the Office Any general tips or advice, geared towards someone who is hopelessly inadequate at understanding and actively influencing in office power games? In other words, for someone who is rather inept at them, what is the best strategy to pursue?", "How to Handle Office Politics/Power Games at the Office Any general tips or advice, geared towards someone who is hopelessly inadequate at understanding and actively influencing in office power games? In other words, for someone who is rather inept at them, what is the best strategy to pursue?", "How to Handle Office Politics/Power Games at the Office Any general tips or advice, geared towards someone who is hopelessly inadequate at understanding and actively influencing in office power games? In other words, for someone who is rather inept at them, what is the best strategy to pursue?", "How to Handle Office Politics/Power Games at the Office Any general tips or advice, geared towards someone who is hopelessly inadequate at understanding and actively influencing in office power games? In other words, for someone who is rather inept at them, what is the best strategy to pursue?", "How to Handle Office Politics/Power Games at the Office Any general tips or advice, geared towards someone who is hopelessly inadequate at understanding and actively influencing in office power games? In other words, for someone who is rather inept at them, what is the best strategy to pursue?", "How to Handle Office Politics/Power Games at the Office Any general tips or advice, geared towards someone who is hopelessly inadequate at understanding and actively influencing in office power games? In other words, for someone who is rather inept at them, what is the best strategy to pursue?" ]

[ "The best way to respond is to not play those games and live by the golden rule.\n\nTreat everyone in the office the way you want to be treated. Respect their time, give them your best effort, don't gossip.\nDo keep your eyes open to notice the toxic people--the people who *do* gossip, who state inconsistent \"truths,\" who don't learn from mistakes, or who are trying really hard to look like they contribute more than they actually do. These are the people you don't need to waste time with. Don't put them off, but don't go out of your way to make friends with them or play their games. Just do your thing and if it turns out that the toxic people are the ones ruling the roost, your best bet is to look for employment elsewhere because even if you become the king of office politics, that will just make you the king of assholes (or worse, entrenched in a company that has made bad business and financial decisions alongside bad hiring decisions).\n\nSorry if that's not the advice you were looking for, it's just the best way I've found to handle it!", "The only way to win is not to play the game. You'll be safe if you stay out of the cross-fire. Good luck.", "As a formerly oblivious office politicker, here's what worked well for me:\n\n1) First, put on your ethnographer hat. Watch who talks to who, particularly office support staff and/or secretaries. Lots of people gossip, but not all spread malicious rumors; some people, just by the nature of their jobs or personalities, overhear or are told more information\n\n2) Identify people in your office who serve as a nexus for information - these are people who manage schedules, have lots of visitors to their desk, are on the phone a lot, who go out to lunch with different colleagues, or who you often catch eye-rolling or snickering about some inside joke or person who walks by. \n\n3) Of those folks who tend to congregate information, choose a coworker who doesn't seem particularly abhorrent, preferably someone who you have reason to intersect paths with at work frequently. Take off the ethnographer hat, and get to action. \n\n4) Use the power of social psychology to build up a relationship with that coworker - people tend to like others who they do favors for. Ask a coworker to help you out with a small issue - say, putting labels in a printer or borrowing a fork for your lunch. Maybe ask them about an office process you're completely unfamiliar with that they have a lot of knowledge about. Build a rapport over some shared gripe about a non-office politics issue - maybe the crappy vending machine or what a pain in the ass it is to find parking every morning. \n\n5) Keep up that rapport, and as your relationship becomes more casual, ask sincere questions about coworkers, and seek their advice. (e.g., \"Have you ever worked with ____? I have a meeting with them tomorrow, and I'm not sure how prepared I should be - do you have any tips?\") Asking them for their opinion makes them feel valued, and in turn, they value you for making them feel like a person who people turn to for advice. \n\n6) When the opportunity arises, use that coworker friendship to help you connect up with other \"nexus\" employees, which can help you get additional angles of information about the office goings-on. Let the power of their social skills and connections do the work for you, and make those key friendships that help you navigate your workplace successfully.\n\n\nWhile this might sound creepy, I don't mean it to be - I respect the people who give me office intel, and they are human beings just like me, with their own biases and lives and workplace strengths and weaknesses. However, I know I'm hopelessly oblivious at times, and they keep me in the loop - for that, I make sure to let them know how grateful I am and how much I value their time and help. \n\nI don't think it pays off to be \"above\" the game - being aloof doesn't help you any more than being hopelessly mired in the gossip does. You can walk right into a very tense situation and fuck everything up if you don't know that your boss just got his divorce papers or your coworker is debating another job offer. I think there's a balance to strike to avoid getting too absorbed, but being a good listener and offering words of commiseration to well-placed coworkers goes a long way. Best of luck! ", "* Keep out of it to the very best of your ability\n* Don’t bad mouth or complain about anyone\n* Don’t tell fibs on anyone’s behalf but don’t dob them in either\n*** Document everything in a diary that you keep at home. And don’t tell anyone about keeping one. It just may save your bacon one day when you can “refresh your memory about what actually happened that day” ***\n* If your place of work is getting you down start planning your escape ASAP. Jobs have a tendency to be difficult to leave the longer you’re there. Life is to short for putting up with petty people\n\n", "There's an old book called \"Conduct Expected\". You might be able to still get it on Amazon. I purchased it in 1987 and re-read it regularly. I have been very consistently employed since then. The longest I was involuntarily without a job has been 4 months in almost 30 years. Seriously. Get and read the book. You may think it's cynical and dark, but life is not unicorns and sparkle ponies and your job doesn't love you.", "There are three centers: power, communication, and external. Sometimes these are the same person. What employee is the one the boss listens to, the one with more \"juice\" than the organization chart would have you believe? This is a power person. Make friends with / suck up to this person. \n\nWho has the biggest desk traffic? This person knows everyone and can at least introduce you. Also lots of intel (gossip).\n\nWho keeps your stuff operational? Maintenance and IT usually. These people often have bad social skills and look down on backslappers. Be nice, be appreciative, and play it cool. Appeal to their vanity regarding their ability to fix shit you can't.\n\nWhen in doubt, don't say anything. Someone makes a risque joke? Smile, shake head, turn away. You can deny laughing if someone is offended (\"I just cringe smiled and turned away\") without offending the joke teller. \n\nBe careful with gossip. Each line is a liability. Pissing someone off will erase a lot if good will.", "Avoid it but always be really nice and have a really good relationship with all the assistants. Thats the fastest way gossip spreads and they are surprisingly influential. Be really nice to everyone but especially them (which in the stress of the workplace people sometimes forget to do), and it will make your life a ton easier. " ]

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[ "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me.", "How do I make friends and build a network if I don't drink or smoke? I am studying at a B-school. I see strangers meeting over drinks and emerging as best of friends, while my relation with most of my batch mates remains formal. How can I achieve a deeper level of friendship without drinking? I don't particularly enjoy going to parties, mainly because people there force me to drink and it becomes awkward when I refuse. Drinking and smoking is NOT an option for me." ]

[ "Go to drinks with your b-school buddies and get a coke to sip on. If you are holding something that looks like a drink nobody will offer you anything.", "most people have a hard time meeting and talking to new people, a drink or smoke is just a really easy way of getting over that. don't worry though, I drink and smoke just not in excess and it seems just as annoying as not drinking at all. \"what? just 2 beers!?\" \"you don't want a shot man?!\" etc..\n\ndo you have any hobbies? college classes are a horrible way to make friends, its the clubs and other groups where you will meet people that you like. if you have nothing in common with someone a drink is such an easy way to start talking, so find people with similar interests and that pressure won't be there.", "I work thirdshift and figured out something. Sometimes I get lonely at night and the only place to get some real human contact is at the bar. Seeing as 1am is my 11am its not a good time to drink so I **hangout at the bar and dont drink**.\n\nIts pretty cool. I have made a LOT of acquaintances and a lot of genuine friends. The key is to understand the difference which can be difficult since people can act super friendly on alcohol.\n\nTips:\n\n1) Go to after parties\n\n2) Give rides to people you are acquainted with but dont let them take advantage of your generosity\n\n3) DO NOT allow a blackout drunk stranger in you car\n\n4) Make up some reason that you can share as to why you dont drink. I work thirdshift so my excuse is EASY. You can blame medication or whatever. \n\nAre you young? As I've grown older (I'm 25 and my friends are 20-25) people have lost that whole pushy attitude of making others drink/smoke", "You could alwaya go \"drink\" with them and just buy soft drinks. Becoming the dedicated driver, if you have a license, will instantly make you the man to have.", "You know what drinking/smoking people love even more than drinking/smoking, and getting other people to drink/smoke with them at parties?\n\nThey love the person that just arranges *different* meet-ups at *different* times. Gather together for breakfast/coffee/tea, inquire about the party you 'missed' (go somewhere that serves bacon for an 'anti-hangover' vibe).\n\n - it gives them a reason to get up early after a party and most of them will appreciate that. You helped them not waste a day.\n - it allows them to brag about what happened, as you weren't there so you don't know what actually happened.\n - it allows you to meet in a situation where peer-pressure is less of an issue (during their 'down-time'), so being a non-drinker/smoker becomes irrelevant.\n\nOr you could even make dinner plans. If they have regularly scheduled parties, a group dinner beforehand can be a lot of fun. Even if you don't go to the actual party, it gives you the time to talk *before* the peer-pressure begins. And if the party turns out to be a bit disappointing (happens a lot, trust me), the dinner would be the thing they remember!", "Just be cool about refusing the booze, if you're not up your own ass about it you'll be fine, just say 'sorry man i don't drink'. There won't be any pressure to smoke though so don't worry about that.\n\nI've been the sober guy, it was fine, you just have to be extroverted (i drink now though). One of the coolest guys I know doesn't drink, you're not alone there man. ", "Host a board game night and tell people to bring a friend. Or even post flyers around campus. They're a lot of fun and its a great reason to talk to people while you play. ", "Find meetups in your area (using meetup.com) that are of interest to you and become a regular attendee. It's a great way to meet people with similar interests and often times you'll learn something new. ", "Go to a party/social gathering/bar and drink regular coke. Just tell people it's jack & coke if they ask. Or say you have to drive and that you're not drinking that night. But then immediately ask what they are drinking to keep engaged in the alcohol conversation (otherwise they'll move on to someone else), which will in turn lead to other conversations." ]

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[ "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. ", "Due to personal reasons I've basically done nothing with my life for the past 8 years. No studies or work experience. How do I write up a CV or face a job interview? I'm also in my late 20s. " ]

[ "Volunteer.\n\nIf you can afford to go without working for a bit longer, find a place where you can volunteer consistently. It will not only help you get into having a routine, which will be helpful when you take on a new work schedule; it also demonstrates skills, dedication, and good will, and makes great material for a resume. You can also ask people who work at your organization of choice to be references later on when you have put a good amount of time in and feel ready to apply for paid jobs.\n\nThere are also several entry level jobs that are less likely to be very concerned with prior work experience, as long as you show you are willing to show up for the job at hand. Try looking on indeed.com or similar sites - you can search different terms based on what you are looking for, including \"no experience required\" and \"resume gaps.\" Some of these jobs may not be as relevant to your career interests as jobs that require experience, but they do give you something to put on your resume, and that takes you a step in the direction of finding work that suits your goals.\n\nWishing you a positive experience!", "Say you were self employed, give your business a name and think up a whole business plan (be ready to answer specific questions about it), then say things didn’t work out and you are now re entering the job market. If they do a background check, you are the person, as the owner of the biz, that they call. Worked for me!\n\nYou’re welcome!", "Find a job that hires anybody and work there for about 6 months to a year. Amazon sucks, but they hire anybody with no interview. \n\n\nOr just make a fake resume", "I haven't been in your situation, but I had a lot of difficultly finding a job when the financial crisis hit. And from my experiences since then, I have two tips: first, use your network of friends and family members. Blindly dropping CVs or applications rarely gets you interviews, but a referral can go a long way. Second, don't get discouraged. You're gonna get rejected or ignored. A lot. Keep your chin up and make job hunting and networking a full-time job. And a third bonus tip: cast a wide net! You may find a rewarding career outside of a narrow or unique job skill set. I was pleasantly surprised where my life took me by looking outside my education/experience. Not saying that will work for you, but maybe worth trying!", "Because you didn't post in unethicallpt, definitely don't say you were taking care of a family member. It wouldn't be a good idea to say they were dealing with a personal medical situation that would clear up any further questions. \n\nIt would be even worse if you have a friend pose as a manager from a chain corporation saying that you have stocking or POS (point of sales) experience which is pretty straightforward to pick up or say your experience was on a different system. \n\nThese certainly aren't things people do all the time...", "You've done something obviously. Put down \"private contractor\". List your accomplishments. Again, you've done something. If you gave rides for your buddy to work, you were in \"transportation\". You helped a friend with their taxes, that's \"financial analyst.\" Be creative. If you got off the couch, you did something. If you sold weed you were in \"product distribution\".\n\nYou'll figure it out.\n\nKeyword your resume so the algorithm picks it up and then someone will look at you. Almost no-one looks at a printed resume anymore anyway. I do, but most companies just let the software parse it out and you're interviewed randomly.\n\nI'm starting a job tomorrow that I didn't apply for and never interviewed for. Just random chance from a keyworded resume. I'm quite qualified, but that's not why I was hired. The algorithm hired me.\n\nThe gap in the resume from school to work is easily explained as \"exploring your options as you worked small jobs for a variety of firms to figure out what you were best suited for as you continued your education on your own.\"\n\nYou got this.", "volunteering is a great start. you’ll be able to build upon your skills, have references, and it looks great on resumes. you don’t need to have any prior experience in anything either. look into local animal shelters, food banks, and organizations. \n\nbesides that, there are free online certifications you can take to add to your resume. just do a quick search and you’ll find ones that deal with computer science/coding, marketing, google analystics, ibm data science, event management, etc. internships are a great way to go as well, once you’ve build your resume a bit.\n\nif you need help with interviewing, job applications, or (really anything) there are free webinars, resources, and videos online that helped me land my first job with no experience. the hardest part is getting the first one. from there, it’s generally easier.", "Ooh, this could be fun for you. Describe what you’ve learned about yourself over the last 8 years in a way that is comfortable for you. Work on your growth, etc is challenging work that many people don’t commit to. Explain how/what you’ve done to now be ready for a job. A lot within the work force and those doing the hiring has changed in the last eight years.\n\n", "Would need your story to put something together but you can kind of brush over your history if it comes up in the interview (it probably won’t) by saying you were dealing with some family stuff the past few years (you are in your family after all) and now you able to work and are looking for a good job. \n\nJust apply everywhere. Tbh I had a job at A gas station once on 2nd shift and I really liked it. They usually hire anyone, not too many questions. \n\nThere are plenty of places hiring right now, now is the time to jump on it. Pay is better than it was too. Don’t overthink it, just grab something and you’ll start feeling better.", "you are still young and its not too late ... look up interview tips on YouTube and do your research ... research is at the tip of our fingers in this day and age", "there are already good answers here. one advice is to be straight forward with your cv gap and showing that you are willing to move on and are motivated. \n\npeople who claim to be perfect are not honest. everyone knows that.", "You can make a CV based on skills instead of experience. In my country it is quite a normal thing to do if you’re just starting out or if you’re switching workfields.\n\n", "This is my specialty-- I have a coaching business assisting with this. Surely you've done something, even gaming can be reframed to be impressive on a resume. I'm a former druggie high school dropout who has done neeuroscience research at Havard/MIT for the last 10 years. Feel free to DM!", "There is very little advice to follow short of go do it. All of your life's experiences are made up of successes and failures, mostly failures. Learn and grow from failures and you become a better person and have many more successes. Dwell and brood on failures and you become a miserable and defeated victim who never got what they deserved and is pissed off at the world.", "Say you've been doing other things. Gig work like Instacart, working at places where they won't be able to verify like toy's R' us, and for plenty of jobs ot doesn't really matter. Just put ANYTHING that's even semi believable down and apply to a place that hires anyone. Then once you have any job, it will be easier to move to the next. \n\nFor example; I work in a warehouse that will hire anyone from felons to homeless drug users with no background check. They give zero ducks. I didn't work for 3 years before I got hired and lied on my resume a little bit. A homeless dude with no car and did hella drugs flaked like 4 times on a start date still got hired and worked for a week before dipping out. \n\nDon't worry too much, you'll be an to get a job easily. But I'm still curious as to how you're on this predicament.\n\nRich parents cutting you off for having no ambition? \n\nIf so; you're going to be miserable working for two ten dollar bills per hour with the rest of us plebs if that's the case. If it is just do whatever your parents say, it's better than the life the rest of us live. \n\nBut whether that's the case or not; best of luck to you.\n\n", "Probably more of an ULPT, but just make that shit up. If you have the knowledge & confidence (most important part) no one will check it or care", "Maybe the good news is that with the pandemic a lot of people have a gap in time. Might not raise huge red flags. \n\nBe prepared to explain the gap, but maybe it helps. Maybe not.", "Lie and embellish, most people do. Use any connections you may have. Background checks usually only look at criminal records.", "I’ve seen ppl with no job history still get jobs just do well in your interview you have to really sell yourself honestly good luck!", "If you live in the US find an employer employment service. Usually they make you to go seminars that show you how to make a resume, how to do an interview ect. before they help you find employment, and most of the jobs they work with offer on the job training", "Idk i just sent a cv with no experience and i got my first work at 25, everywhere you go they will train you.\nFind a basic job and study in your free time, you will figure this out, im not worried about you.\nBest of lucks anyways", "I'd just tell them that you were in a cult and had to fight your way out, and you can't go into the details for legal reasons.", "Honestly, I’d lie and say you were taking care of your sick mother or father. 8 years is a massive flag. Once you get the first job you’ll be ok.", "Figure out a company that has gone out of business during covid that you could have worked for based on your interest or skill set (Cust service, manual labor, delivering goods, whatever). Use that as your reference/job history. They can’t check so your years of not doing anything productive can’t be held against you. Just make it your mission to work hard and do a good job to make up for being a slacker and lying to get a job." ]

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[ "things you can do during long travels on public transports. Allow me to explain first.\n\nDue to certain circumstances, I wake up every day at 4:00 am to get on a bus on 5:00 am and travel to another city (where I work) for 3 hours. Then, at 18:30 I get on a train that brings me back home by 21:30. My current life is: sleep (poorly), work, eat, sleep again.\n\nI need tips on how to get the best of the time while I'm on a bus or a train. 3 hours each travel is quite long. I would like to receive tips on how to be productive during that time or even on how to get some rest.\n\nThank you in advance.", "things you can do during long travels on public transports. Allow me to explain first.\n\nDue to certain circumstances, I wake up every day at 4:00 am to get on a bus on 5:00 am and travel to another city (where I work) for 3 hours. Then, at 18:30 I get on a train that brings me back home by 21:30. My current life is: sleep (poorly), work, eat, sleep again.\n\nI need tips on how to get the best of the time while I'm on a bus or a train. 3 hours each travel is quite long. I would like to receive tips on how to be productive during that time or even on how to get some rest.\n\nThank you in advance.", "things you can do during long travels on public transports. Allow me to explain first.\n\nDue to certain circumstances, I wake up every day at 4:00 am to get on a bus on 5:00 am and travel to another city (where I work) for 3 hours. Then, at 18:30 I get on a train that brings me back home by 21:30. My current life is: sleep (poorly), work, eat, sleep again.\n\nI need tips on how to get the best of the time while I'm on a bus or a train. 3 hours each travel is quite long. I would like to receive tips on how to be productive during that time or even on how to get some rest.\n\nThank you in advance.", "things you can do during long travels on public transports. Allow me to explain first.\n\nDue to certain circumstances, I wake up every day at 4:00 am to get on a bus on 5:00 am and travel to another city (where I work) for 3 hours. Then, at 18:30 I get on a train that brings me back home by 21:30. My current life is: sleep (poorly), work, eat, sleep again.\n\nI need tips on how to get the best of the time while I'm on a bus or a train. 3 hours each travel is quite long. I would like to receive tips on how to be productive during that time or even on how to get some rest.\n\nThank you in advance.", "things you can do during long travels on public transports. Allow me to explain first.\n\nDue to certain circumstances, I wake up every day at 4:00 am to get on a bus on 5:00 am and travel to another city (where I work) for 3 hours. Then, at 18:30 I get on a train that brings me back home by 21:30. My current life is: sleep (poorly), work, eat, sleep again.\n\nI need tips on how to get the best of the time while I'm on a bus or a train. 3 hours each travel is quite long. I would like to receive tips on how to be productive during that time or even on how to get some rest.\n\nThank you in advance." ]

[ "Engage your brain by reading, doing puzzles or studying a new skill. Reading increases your vocab and writing skills, puzzles and brainteasers exercise your problem solving skills and learning something new like a new language increases neural pathways that are proven to reduce the effect of Alzheimer's!", "Uh, can you change these circumstances? Hours and hours of commuting every day is no way to live. Truly, it will start wearing down on you and life is too short to spend it commuting.", "Learn to view that travel time as a blessing. It is amazing how much you can learn and self improve with a dedicated 2 or 3 hour slot you have reserved everyday for learning.\n\nIt quickly and easily becomes a habit. \n\n\nTake a notebook with you everywhere you go, either a physical notebook or a laptop and constantly plan and scheme in it. Also have learning materials with you at all times. Get in the habit of \"self improvement\" or \"working\" and once that is ingrained as a habit, you will be amazed at how productive you will become!", "I went to school everyday 1.5 so total of 2-3 hours a day. \n\nReading and homework was how I spent the time. I think I finished half of our schools library by reading in the train all the time. You could do work if it is in your laptop", "I download educational books/talks/lectures and listen to them. I've recently relistened to the Feynman Lectures on Physics and very much enjoyed them." ]

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[ "How to stop legs from shaking when public speaking? Whenever I have to speak in front of a lot of people, my legs and sometimes my arms begin to shake uncontrollably. Does anyone have any tips to prevent this?", "How to stop legs from shaking when public speaking? Whenever I have to speak in front of a lot of people, my legs and sometimes my arms begin to shake uncontrollably. Does anyone have any tips to prevent this?", "How to stop legs from shaking when public speaking? Whenever I have to speak in front of a lot of people, my legs and sometimes my arms begin to shake uncontrollably. Does anyone have any tips to prevent this?", "How to stop legs from shaking when public speaking? Whenever I have to speak in front of a lot of people, my legs and sometimes my arms begin to shake uncontrollably. Does anyone have any tips to prevent this?", "How to stop legs from shaking when public speaking? Whenever I have to speak in front of a lot of people, my legs and sometimes my arms begin to shake uncontrollably. Does anyone have any tips to prevent this?" ]

[ "This is your parasympathetic system (I think) running rampant with energy. You're fight or flight system is engaged and your body needs to do something with the adrenaline. My method is to try to quickly burn the energy you have before the speech (I go on a five minute run, enough to breathe heavy but not enough to sweat) and then take a deep breath before starting your speech. If you still find your body shaking, this is just energy that needs to escape your body. Try to move around the speaking space with intention, maybe walk to the left side and address them, and then walk to the right and do the same thing. I had a friend who would act out his introduction (which would require a lot of movement) and then he was comfortable just standing and delivering. Hope this helps. ", "Power stance for 5 minutes before. Take 5 deep breaths at a 4 count in 1 count hold and 4 count out just before you have to do your speaking. Make sure to hold your head up and breathe deeply throughout. Hope that helps, I know it does for me. ", "I used to have a milder case of this. What I did in my speech class was, instead of trying to sit still, I paced around the room and tried to incorporate hand movements into my speech. Of course don't just move from side to side without purpose, but use the movement to engage with different parts of the audience.\n\nExcept if you are speaking at a podium. Then, this advice is useless.", "There is also a drug to slow your heart rate called propranolol that doctors will prescribe for this type of thing. It calms your flight or fight response!", "Basically you're asking how to not be nervous. Hoesntly there is no real answer. I recommend being loud and vocal before giving the speech. Don't try to hide away right before you need to present. As soon as you enter the room be vocal. Talk to people, and don't focus on the speech, focus on the people you are going to be giving it to." ]

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[ "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?", "Buying a home. I am so over with paying rent and in turn, paying someone else's mortgage.\n\nThere are many resources, but I would like to know what are your best tips, tricks, and general knowledge are in buying a home and what to anticipate in the pre-and post-purchase of a property?" ]

[ "Maintain good cr", "Don't skip the inspection, look into first time home buyer programs in your state, don't max out your budget if you can at all afford not to, and find a good realtor and lender. They'll be able to guide you well.", "Owning a home has been a blessing, inflation is going crazy but at least my home stays the same price, except for taxes and utilities of course. Idk if it’s a good time to buy atm though interests is high and prices are insane I’ve heard it’s going to collapse soon but that’s what people have been saying for years now.", "Pay attention to the n/s/e/w orientation of the home. You can’t change or fix that. Best is a southern facing exposure on the largest windows in cooler climates and northern facing in warmer climates.", "DO NOT SKIP THE INSPECTION!!!!! If a realtor tells you you need to forego the inspection to have a fighting chance on the home, find a new realtor.", "Look at many online calculators about owning versus renting. You often can’t afford the other costs of owning such as maintenance, taxes, etc. See Ramit Sethi on owning vs. renting. It’s stupid propaganda that says renters are paying someone else’s mortgage.", "Make sure the HVAC will last a few years at least or be prepared to replace it if it is old.\n\nMine melted down exactly one year after I closed, had to take out a 12k loan :(", "Find an independent mortgage broker, don't go with the giant companies, those brokers know things you don't, and they're more motivated to help you get the loan. You are doing the right thing, home ownership is awesome and nobody wants to still be paying rent when they're 70!", "Buy in a highly rated school zone. This is something I did not think about at the time when I was younger and not thinking about kids. Even if you ultimately don’t have kids, homes in better school zones are easier to sell and increase in value more. Also if you ever wanted to rent it out and move somewhere else, it is more desirable for families with school age kids.\n\nAlways get an independent inspection before buying.. Keep emergency savings for broken down appliances and such. Try to pay down your mortgage and 15 to 20 years versus 30 and you will save yourself tens of thousands of interest.", "Yes good cr", "Please try like anything to put 20% down. I know with prices they way they are it seems impossible but really…the mortgage insurance is a useless fee you have to shell out every month. Get a 2nd job, 3rd job, whatever it takes to shell out that chunk of dough. \n\nGet a fifteen year mortgage. Your equity will build so much faster. On my second home I didn’t want to pay the mortgage on a fifteen and when I sold my house it only would have been three more years to being mortgage free. \n\nIf you are not married and want a roommate to help pay the mortgage, get a non-partier not anyone crazy no matter how fun it sounds. Don’t allow dogs unless you’re completely cool with your house getting torn up and carpet, shades, and furniture getting destroyed.", "Park in the neighborhood you are interested in on different days of the week and during different times of the day. Observe the activities and general vibe of the area. Look for things you can’t live with or would make life unpleasant. Non-stop barking dogs. Not enough street parking. Someone mowing their lawn at 7:00 am on Saturday morning.", "Just bought a home in 2020. This is the advice I'd give:\n\n-The bank may approve you for more than you can realistically afford monthly (we bought our house at 45k less than what we were approved for) You know your lifestyle and spending habits so you don't want to have a most of your income going to the mortgage for the next 30 years. Involved parties make commission on your sale and will try to max you out. HOLD FIRM!\n\n-Overestimate your budgetary needs. Problems pop up like Whack-a-mole (bills higher than you thought, something broke right after you moved in, etc) and you'll need to have money to pay for it. Avoid putting things on cr", "If you have flexibility in where you could live, choose a place where property values seem low. I bought in the next county north from where I was living because the values were crazy low compared to what was available." ]

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[ "How do I pour liquid from one bottle/container to another without having some of it leak down the side? My bottle of oil gets greasy when I pour some on the frying pan in the mornings. Also, water is wasted when I pour it from a pot to a bowl of ramen. \n\nThe issue with the funnel is that it creates another dish to be washed in the scenario of frying eggs. Don't get me wrong; it certainly does solve the issue. ", "How do I pour liquid from one bottle/container to another without having some of it leak down the side? My bottle of oil gets greasy when I pour some on the frying pan in the mornings. Also, water is wasted when I pour it from a pot to a bowl of ramen. \n\nThe issue with the funnel is that it creates another dish to be washed in the scenario of frying eggs. Don't get me wrong; it certainly does solve the issue. ", "How do I pour liquid from one bottle/container to another without having some of it leak down the side? My bottle of oil gets greasy when I pour some on the frying pan in the mornings. Also, water is wasted when I pour it from a pot to a bowl of ramen. \n\nThe issue with the funnel is that it creates another dish to be washed in the scenario of frying eggs. Don't get me wrong; it certainly does solve the issue. ", "How do I pour liquid from one bottle/container to another without having some of it leak down the side? My bottle of oil gets greasy when I pour some on the frying pan in the mornings. Also, water is wasted when I pour it from a pot to a bowl of ramen. \n\nThe issue with the funnel is that it creates another dish to be washed in the scenario of frying eggs. Don't get me wrong; it certainly does solve the issue. " ]

[ "Just like chemists and bartenders do, hold the shaft of a utensil at the pouring container's lip, surface tension keeps it \"adhered\" to the item (chemists use rods, bartenders have shafts of long spoons, your butter knives work fine), no funnel needed.\n\nNote oil migrates, of all the workarounds I've seen, just tossing a plastic bag around the container is cheapest easiest I've found. Oil residue stays in, fingers aren't sticky, nothing extra to manipulate/clean. ", "The key is not to do it too slowly, then it just dribbles down the sides. Be confident with it, from a bit of a height so it forms a thin stream. With oil have some kitchen paper on hand so you can clear up any drips around the edge.\n", "The higher you pour from the thinner the stream? Unfortunately it's also harder to gauge location...... oh! Use your morning newspaper as a funnel and toss it after", "I'm totally thinking this up on the spot, but the liquid likes to stick to the lip and outside glass, so maybe something that repels water? Rub a little butter or oil on the lip before pouring." ]

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[ "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?", "How to get rid of cockroaches in an apartment? I do not currently have a MAJOR cockroach problem, but I'd like to get rid of them before it gets worse. Over the years, I've seen one or two once or twice a week, but lately I've been seeing a lot more. One or two a day. They seem to be hiding in the crevices of my trash can, in the cabinets, etc. \n\nI'm actually a fairly clean person, so this gets kind of annoying when I see them. I tend to deep clean my apartment once a week, but sometimes I go a month in between. After every time I do this, there is usually a longer period of time I go before I see a cockroach, but I'm pretty sure this may just be because they are hiding.\n\nI don't particularly have anything against spraying chemicals, but I'd rather avoid it if possible. Are there any other creative ways to get rid of these things, or at least curve their existence?" ]

[ "I'm a Scientist.\n\nUse Boric Acid.\n\n**How to use it**: Simply powder it around the edges of your home (ex: along the baseboards). You do not need a lot of it to be highly effective - keep in mind how small cockroaches are compared to our human body. It does not take a lot (at all) to kill a cockroach with Boric Acid. Generally just a few particles is all it takes.\n\n**How it works**: \n\n* Boric Acid attacks the central nervous system of a cockroach, paralyzing it. As it attacks their nerves, it's likely to kill any cockroach before it even gets to starve.\n* Even if a cockroach happens (mostly by luck) to ingest an amount not enough to kill it, if the cockroach is a male, it attacks their reproductive system and they will not be able to reproduce.\n* As the cockroaches walk around, they will pick up little boric acid powder particles on their feet. Contrary to popular belief, cockroaches are actually quite meticulous about being clean. As a result, they quickly and often clean anything that gets on their feet. They do not realize they are ingesting something toxic to them (they lack a complex gustation/taste system possessed by higher animals). They will tend to pick up more (often way more) than enough to kill them. The ingested powder particles then find their way into their system, where it attacks their nervous and reproductive system (if male) as mentioned previously, killing them.\n* Cockroaches are also cannibalistic. They eat each other. This is fine and disgusting, but when Boric Acid is involved, as they consume the dead victim, ALL of the cockroaches feeding on the original victim unknowingly now consume a sufficient amount of boric acid to kill them, as well. As mentioned, the original victim cockroach (who hit your powder trap) most often picks up WAY more than enough to kill them - the amount is generally so high it will easily kill, or otherwise render useless (ex: destruction of reproductive system), any cockroach that feeds on the original \"seed\" cockroach. Boric Acid, while highly lethal to cockroaches, does not often kill them instantly (i.e. within seconds) - it will generally take a few minutes, during which time a victim cockroach will often find its way back to their nest, whereupon it will die, and its former friends will now eat it, whereafter they too will all die, having now unknowingly been exposed to lethal levels of the toxic Boric Acid. \n\nFriends don't let other friends eat other friends. Lesson learned, cockroaches.\n\n**Is it safe to use? Pets?**: You do NOT have to worry about your cat, dog, etc. getting harmed. For one, your pet has a VERY different Physiology than a bug - meaning, even if ingested, what it does to a cockroach, would NOT be the same done to your pet. Aside from this, even ignoring that fact, they (your pet) would have to literally just sit there eating this stuff out of the bottle to reach anywhere near a level that, even then, only *may* harm them. Your dog (even a small dog) is going to be WAY larger than a cockroach. Even the largest cockroaches only weigh around ~0.105 grams each. A 10 lb dog weighs 4,536 grams (43,200x times more!). Given that you only need to powder this stuff to destroy any cockroaches (and associated nest), it's basically impossible that you'll lay enough down for your animal to even register an even remotely noteworthy level. Further, as Boric Acid is.. an acid.. it's going to taste sour due to it being a proton source. Your animal is not exactly likely to be seeking out sour foods. People who insist that Boric Acid will harm their pet(s) need science in their lives.\n\n**Where to find Boric Acid**: You can find it at retailers (ex: Walgreens, Walmart) or, for sure, at Home Depot or Lowe's.\n\n**Other ways to use Boric Acid**: \n\n* Aside from powdering the edges of your living quarters (ex: along the baseboards), feel free to powder the outside and at the base of any bushes you suspect may be housing a nest (NOTE: as Boric Acid is.. an acid, water WILL dissolve away the Boric Acid and render it completely useless - so keep your sprinkler system coverage area in mind).\n* Cockroaches love bananas. Slice up a banana (thin slices will do) and lay it outside where you suspect cockroaches traffic (walk around/by). On the banana slices, POWDER it. Feel free to go a little heavier on the powder, but, obviously, you don't want it so covered that you can't even tell a banana slice is in there. As a cockroach senses the sweet banana slice and approaches it to eat it, it will inherently also ingest with it a TON of Boric Acid particles. It's, at this point, essentially a little walking Boric Acid bomb. Hope that it finds its way back to its nest. Once it does, it will get eaten by the other cockroaches in the nest (see: above). One cockroach can carry back enough Boric Acid to wipe out an entire swarm. Any survivors will then go out to their once safe world you've now riddled with Boric Acid, whereupon they will fall upon a trap (either the powder trap along your baseboards, or another banana/fruit trap), and the cycle of eradication speeds itself along.\n\n\n**Hope this helps!**", "Go to the laundry section in your store, and get Borax. \nOr.. in the hardware / bug stuff section, Boric Acid. \n\nPut this white, low-toxicity dust along the edges and in cracks. As understand the mechanism, the crystals get caught in their carapace, and cause them to dehydrate. ", "There are a LOT more than you think. \n\nI'd start with a gel poison like [this](https://www.raidkillsbugs.com/en-us/products/raid-roach-gel), and move on from there. \n\nIt's probably irrelevant how clean you are, roaches will eat almost anything. Worse, you live in an apartment and you can't control your neighbors. ", "Talk to your land lord and make them handle the problem. If you live in an apartment you are more than likely renting. That should fall under their umbrella. But gel positions should help until your land lord handles the issue. ", "If you don't want to go the chemical route you can sprinkle dichotomous earth (you can get it on amazon) all around your kitchen in all the cracks and under the sink, behind the stove, and in the trash can. It is safe to use and natural, just wear a mask when putting it down (or sweeping) because you shouldn't breathe it. It's basically very small very sharp particles that cause cuts on the bugs and they dry up from water loss. Also take your trash out EVERY day if you can. Don't store anything under the sink. Do your dishes IMMEDIATELY. Wipe up any spills, don't leave food or water out, or put food in airtight containers even if it is in cupboards. Get caulk and caulk any pipes under your sink where they could get in or come through the walls. ", "Put anything a roach might eat into the refrigerator. This means putting garbage in the 'fridge. There is also Boric Acid roach powder, and some kind of goo that I've had 2 different LandLords dab around here and there. ", "Find their nest. I had a problem year ago. I sprayed, had traps, swatted every one is saw, but they never seemed to go away. Major source of anxiety, every time I turned on the lights in kitchen I expected to see one or two.\n\nFinally one day I move the refrigerator to paint and I found that a section of vinyl tile had warped because of a water leak and formed a \"cave\" that was cockroach breeding ground. Emptied a half can of raid on there and that was the end of them.\n\nMove your oven, refrigerator, dishwasher, etc. All your appliances to make sure there isn't any place they are safe. Also seal up with tape or foam any pipes or heating ducts that may let them in from other apartments.", "When I moved into a previous apartment the Tennant's before us were total slobs, which was apparent during the initial showing. But hey, when the price is right... Anyways they left behind a considerable roach problem. There would be nights I would turn on the lights and you would just see them scatter every direction.\nWithin 8 months of living there we were completely rid of them. The landlord sprayed about once every two months via a pest control company. We also used roach poison on all the cracks in the kitchen and bathroom which were our problem areas. We also bought several of these roach traps that we place under the fridge and other dark places they might have been hiding when the lights were on.\nNot sure which was most effective but eventually it worked.", "Something I haven't seen anyone else mention also: especially since you're in an apartment, all your neighbors have to be notified to insure they're all making efforts. Your infestation may be due to the nest being in someone else's apartment. In that same vein, you also need to check all your walls, behind all your appliances - EVERYWHERE - for any cracks or holes in the walls. My last apartment had this issue, we had a hole in the wall behind the water heater. When we'd spray or bait, the roaches would retreat into the walls and other tenant's apartments until ours was safe, then walk back in. Our complex refused to fix the issue. (we have a new place because of this)\n\nWhat state are you in? Some states have special laws regarding these things. Re-read your lease agreement as well. We found out right before we left that we could have hired Orkin or other more reputable exterminators than what the apartment office was using and legally had them bill the apartments.\n\nAnd yes, as a Chemical, Biological, Radiological, Nuclear Defense Specialist Marine, I heartily approve of chemical warfare to destroy roaches. I think it's Combat that also has egg killer packs that'll deform what roaches survive so they're weaker and easier to kill as well. Mutate them MF-ers.", "Clean clean clean. They won't go where there's no food. In an apartment you may not be able to control everything. Keep food containers in places harder to reach.\n\nLook for their feces. It's usually near water. Put poison there or spray there.\n\nThey don't like it's cold. Keep your place a bit colder. " ]

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[ "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. ", "How to keep yourself calm and rational during an argument. I'm sure that most of us tend to get emotional when something stressful happens or when someone close to us(family, relationship, work or friends) confronts us with something that \"gets us off\" (e.g. someone accuses us of something we may have or haven't done, someone being verbally abusive or anything like that) and of course, at that time, our hearts start pumping, our breath becomes shorter and we tend to lose our rationality and we become an emotional wreck that doesn't help us \"win the argument\".\n\nMy question is, how to endure these setbacks and how to calm our mind and body during such stress. " ]

[ "Always prepare yourself to deal with the worst in people. When arguing, set up a mental toughness that has already dealt with the worst they can tell you. The joy pays off if they can prove you wrong by not being such an asshole you thought they’d be. \nYou want to be able to understand where they are coming from. That feeling you get is fear of the unknown and confrontation. Adults talk it out. ", "Easiest way I've found: Imagine the scene is being recorded, and someone you respect will be watching it later to judge who \"won.\" \n\nAlso remember that in the heat of the moment is not the only place to share your perspective. Writing down and refining your side of the story after some thoughtful introspection may make your case stronger.", "When the other person is talking, you are not the criminal, you are the listener. Your purpose is to reach an understanding. Focus on what the person is saying and, when you reply, reply by telling them what you understand.\n\nThis accomplishes several things.\n\n1. It keeps you separated from the argument. If you don't have to defend or make your side known, you won't feel so anxious.\n\n2. It lets the other person know you are listening to them. If they are confronting you, it is because they are also feeling negative things. Knowing that you're listening will make them less anxious.\n\n3. If you are missing a point or not understanding, they will correct you.\n\n4. Once you reach a nonspoken or spoken agreement that you understand, you will have had enough time to contemplate a rational response.\n\n5. If they do not listen to you, ask them to describe back what they understand the way you did.\n\nStay mindful of your tone, your volume, and the amount of words you're using. Try to keep each interaction limited to one or two sentences. The shorter each person speaks, the less likely there is to be an interruption because they will know they'll have a turn very soon.", "Honestly listening and evaluating what their saying will not only give you a better understanding in how to communicate what you’re trying to say more effectively, but also a chance to breathe and organize your thoughts.\n\nNothing makes an argument more ineffective than both parties listening to reply, not listening to understand. That’s a semi famous quote\nSomewhere I don’t have a name for so not taking cr", "In my observation, in an argument things “speed up” and you’re reacting more quickly. If you start to feel this quickening happening, try to just take a breather, close your eyes and do a 30 second mini m", "Don’t argue against the other person, argue as if you’re in court and only the impartial judge’s opinion matters. ", "You must realize that you think without thinking while angry, meaning that anger is often a serious of uncontrolled thoughts that pop up without you initiating them, one after another. If you recognize this, you can catch an angry though and then briefly introspect on it. Why do I feel this way? Is it helping?\n\nJust the act of breaking up this succession of thoughts will help immensely. The introspection will take time.\n\n", "It's not always necessary to take to heart what others have to say on a subject. I think I am better off just excusing myself and walking out of the room if I feel a conversation is baited with touchy subjects which are often based on subjective opinions rather than fact (e.g. dealing w others' judgment/political leanings/people who think their religious beliefs make them morally superior). ", "First off, if someone is saying something with some purposefully hurtful context it should be put in a mental box that you don’t allow to “hit” you. When people try to hurt you, being hurt is only giving them what they want and they don’t deserve it. Chalk it up to either them not being qualified to have the opinion they threw at you (you wouldn’t get all mad if a 5 year old called you a doo doo head so use the same not worth it strategy). \n\nNext, realize that staying calm should be your target and work hard to remain calm (may take some practice so don’t give up too soon). When you first are able to stay calm in a heated argument you will probably notice one of two things: Either they will get more and more heated because you are calm, or they stay calm as well, the personal attacks start going away and constructive conversation and communication happens. If they get more heated it usually helps me stay even more calm because you see how ineffective it is for them. \n", "You can’t. If you could, you would. It’s who you are. Not all fiery and argumentative people are bad, if I am their friend, I try to make sure they don’t get into trouble or hurt anyone and apologize on their behalf. If I’m not, I would get a popcorn and just watch. ", "I've learned to remove myself from heated arguments. Once everyone calms down it is much easier to behave." ]

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[ "How do I make my work day go by faster? My work day can be extremely monotonous sometimes. I sometimes have to work in an almost entirely automated environment where there is literally nothing to do, but watch machines do their job. How can I make these days seem to go by faster?", "How do I make my work day go by faster? My work day can be extremely monotonous sometimes. I sometimes have to work in an almost entirely automated environment where there is literally nothing to do, but watch machines do their job. How can I make these days seem to go by faster?", "How do I make my work day go by faster? My work day can be extremely monotonous sometimes. I sometimes have to work in an almost entirely automated environment where there is literally nothing to do, but watch machines do their job. How can I make these days seem to go by faster?", "How do I make my work day go by faster? My work day can be extremely monotonous sometimes. I sometimes have to work in an almost entirely automated environment where there is literally nothing to do, but watch machines do their job. How can I make these days seem to go by faster?", "How do I make my work day go by faster? My work day can be extremely monotonous sometimes. I sometimes have to work in an almost entirely automated environment where there is literally nothing to do, but watch machines do their job. How can I make these days seem to go by faster?", "How do I make my work day go by faster? My work day can be extremely monotonous sometimes. I sometimes have to work in an almost entirely automated environment where there is literally nothing to do, but watch machines do their job. How can I make these days seem to go by faster?" ]

[ "A good time management trick that I like is to break up the time into equal parts. So, for example...an 8 hour work day. Every hour do something. Get up and stretch, drink some water, have a snack, check facebook...whatever. Reserve the top of the hour for that thing so that instead of saying...only 8 hours to go, 7 hours to go, 6....you have less than 1 hr till you're doing that thing you choose. \n\n\nIt works wonders on long plane flights or boring monotonous jobs. Try it, you'll see. It might take some time of sticking to this schedule for you to see that your work day goes by longer.", "Find a better job. Get out there. Quit that job and do what you love. \n\nsource: just a guy out there.", "Have a portable hobby. For example, I crochet.\n\nMy job is working as a nanny, and while not entirely comparable, during nap time there are times when I get all my other tasks done and I'm just stuck there watching/listening to a monitor. So I crochet.", "Don't clock watch. Staring at clock will make you more likely to track time both in your head and also makes you want to check the time again. Of course certain professions can't help but to watch the clock.", "What are you not allowed to do. I used to deliver ice, in the winter it was super slow. My boss was cool with me detailing my truck while I waited for an order to come in. I played a lot of online chess and went shopping at nearby stores.", "Assuming your job is not to watch the machine for safe operation then (1) Be proactive and ask for extra duties or (2) self-study to enhance your skill set." ]

[ 10, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Bonding up with much younger nephew My sister's son is 9 years younger than me (Im 27, he's 18). He grew up in US, me in Europe, and with the huge age difference we never talked much, and only saw each other maybe every 2-3 years.\nI visited my sister and him (and family) this summer and realized that he has grown up so much and is super cool and fun, and I would like to be more part of his life.\n\nIt's difficult to reach out because, despite that we have a lot of fun when we do see each other, I guess I'm just this older uncle that he almost doesn't know. Now he's in college and a lot of stuff is happening, but this is when i would like to start becoming part of his life.\n\nI would appreciate ideas on how to reach out in the best way!\n\n", "Bonding up with much younger nephew My sister's son is 9 years younger than me (Im 27, he's 18). He grew up in US, me in Europe, and with the huge age difference we never talked much, and only saw each other maybe every 2-3 years.\nI visited my sister and him (and family) this summer and realized that he has grown up so much and is super cool and fun, and I would like to be more part of his life.\n\nIt's difficult to reach out because, despite that we have a lot of fun when we do see each other, I guess I'm just this older uncle that he almost doesn't know. Now he's in college and a lot of stuff is happening, but this is when i would like to start becoming part of his life.\n\nI would appreciate ideas on how to reach out in the best way!\n\n" ]

[ "I'm 18, and most of my friends/coworkers are in their late 20s or older. We get along because they don't treat me like a little kid, and I don't treat them like they're old. If you focus on how big the age gap is between you (and really, it isn't so big), it'll be harder for you to become close. If you don't worry about it and just treat him like someone your own age you're trying to be friends with, you should get along much better.", "Start sending him care packages. College students love decent care packages, stuff they wouldn't get from parents, wouldn't buy themselves, or wouldn't think of on their own. I'm doing that for a much younger second-cousin who's a freshman this year, and it's been great. " ]

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[ "How to manage severe wire clutter How do you manage your wires around your desk? I'm in a dorm room where all furniture is stuck in place, meaning any wires for my computers, speakers, router, printer, etc. end up on top of my desk somewhere. I can hide most of it behind my computer and wrap and tie up the extra wires, but it is still chaotic. Any advice?", "How to manage severe wire clutter How do you manage your wires around your desk? I'm in a dorm room where all furniture is stuck in place, meaning any wires for my computers, speakers, router, printer, etc. end up on top of my desk somewhere. I can hide most of it behind my computer and wrap and tie up the extra wires, but it is still chaotic. Any advice?" ]

[ "Label your cables at both ends with written or colored tags so you don't accidentally unplug the wrong thing. This can be done with plastic bread tags or sellotaped paper. \nEnsure that your routine activities won't be hindered by cable management: select the cables you'll be removing any time in the next six months and make sure they're easy to remove and put back. \nWrap or zip-tie your remaining cables so they're bundled together. Choose cable wrap that is a similar color to your desk or wall. \nElevate your cables off the desk; attach them to the back of the monitor, to the wall, behind desk accessories. \nPut your power multiplugs in easy-to-access locations. Ensure there are spare sockets, because at some point you'll need them. Cover the multiplugs by putting them inside boxes that are a similar color to your carpet or wall. \n\nAlso remember that not everything has to be plugged in all the time. USB devices can be put in a drawer when not in use. A powered USB hub can also be put out of sight so that you can charge your devices without them being in your workspace.\n\nHeadphones can be hung on a wall hook for easy access, as can most things with long cables that tangle easily.", "Personally I like to see workspaces featured on Lifehacker such as [these](http://www.lifehacker.com.au/2009/12/most-popular-featured-workspaces-of-2009/) for inspiration. Maybe there's a subreddit for that kind of stuff, I know of [/r/cableporn](/r/cableporn) which is more geared towards network racks." ]

[ 6, 1 ]

[ "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you.", "A good way to store all of your passwords/usernames for every site. I have a piece of paper that I write all of them down on and keep in my drawer. I know that some of you are thinking \"just use the same username and password for every site\" but I've already used different ones and some sites will assign a login number/code to you." ]

[ "Keepass or KeepassX. \nRemember 1 strong password and let the software come up with strong passwords for everything. \nI keep a copy on DropBox, on my phone (keepassdroid), my PC, and on a USB drive.", "I use a method to come up with every password, it takes a minute to get used to but it becomes really easy to commit each new password to memory once you get the system down.\n\nJust take a short phrase like \"milk cow\", jumble and remove some letters and do a little number substitution so you're not using dictionary words: \"m11ckw\".\n\nNot super simple to remember but it'll be present in most of your passwords so you'll get it down.\n\nNow add a caps letter in the abbreviated name of whatever service you're using (gmail = m11ckwGml) and a symbol (m11ckwGml#)\n\nso gmail - \"m11ckwGml#\"\n\ntwitter - \"m11ckwTtr#\"\n\ninstagram - \"m11ckwIgm#\"\n\nand so on.\n\nNow you've got an arbitrary number of passwords that don't take much effort to memorize past the first one and you don't have to store all your passwords on a piece of paper (you shouldn't be doing that, btw).", "No, you should never use the same login on multiple sites! Check out LastPass. They have browser extensions that will autofill login forms, it can randomly generate passwords, and it can even store CC numbers and other secure notes you wish to keep safe.", "KeePass and Dropbox, not only that it will generate them for you so you have 30 characters of random nonsense accessible anywhere you go.", "If you want to keep your passwords on paper, [this](http://www.amazon.com/Personal-Internet-Address-Password-Book/dp/1441303251/ref=pd_sxp_grid_i_0_0) is a cute way to do it. I've seen them freaking everywhere--B&N, Hallmark stores, everywhere--and I always want to buy one for That Elderly Relative Who Uses The Internet.", "Make a simple excel document with A. Site, B. username , C. Password. And maybe lock the file or hide it. ", "I use \"Keeper\" - an iPhone app to safely store passwords, acct. numbers, etc. backs up to the cloud too. Every time I need to login somewhere or pay a bill, it's stored on my phone.", "I like [SuperGenPass](http://supergenpass.com/).\n\nI have the mobile site saved to my Dropbox so I have access to it on my phone as well. \n\n", "I keep a spreadsheet on google docs with all the sites, usernames, and passwords, and a link to each site. This is super handy when paying my bills (the ones I don't use my bank's billpay to pay).", "Do what i do if you dont want password managers or special tricks to remember.\n\nhave one password for every website but not with letters and numbers. i have a 26 digit password with upper-lower case letters-numbers-spaces and symbols that require you to use special keywords nstead of just shift or alt. write it down when you first start and 1 week later you will clearly remember it.", "Cerberus\nApp that you input all your information; passwords, logins, numbers that you don't wish to keep in your contact list. Program requires a password to access, and information is encrypted", "Auto remember it with firefox and install the password import/export addon to back it up. Not too secure but it gets the job done.", "KeePass if you want to keep control. Lastpass if you want to store your passwords only at a benevolent corporation that works only in your interest.\n\nKeePass is available for all Systems, Mac, Win, Linux, Android and so on. Use dropbox or gdrive to sync the databse file." ]

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[ "How to get the smoke smell out of cars. I bought a used car for a pretty good price, but the previous owner was a smoker. What are the best ways to diminish and/or dissipate the smell?", "How to get the smoke smell out of cars. I bought a used car for a pretty good price, but the previous owner was a smoker. What are the best ways to diminish and/or dissipate the smell?", "How to get the smoke smell out of cars. I bought a used car for a pretty good price, but the previous owner was a smoker. What are the best ways to diminish and/or dissipate the smell?", "How to get the smoke smell out of cars. I bought a used car for a pretty good price, but the previous owner was a smoker. What are the best ways to diminish and/or dissipate the smell?", "How to get the smoke smell out of cars. I bought a used car for a pretty good price, but the previous owner was a smoker. What are the best ways to diminish and/or dissipate the smell?", "How to get the smoke smell out of cars. I bought a used car for a pretty good price, but the previous owner was a smoker. What are the best ways to diminish and/or dissipate the smell?" ]

[ "There is a product out there called ozium. It's pretty popular, and being an ENT myself, I find it to come in handy in my car. ", "If it's REAL bad, get an Ozone generator. It'll chemically \"bleach\" the smell, and the car will smell like new again. Look for a friend or company who will rent/lend you one, since they usually cost a few hundred bucks.", "I'm a used car dealer. One cost effective way I've found is to idle the car with the A/C on recirculate and spray the shit out of it with febreeze. All surfaces, carpet, seats, headliner. Also with the A/c off try to get some into the vents. Some vehicles have a cabin air filter that will trap smoke and keep it smelling smoky no matter what you do. So be aware of that also. When you are done crack the windows open a bit if possible to it dries correctly and does not mildew.", "A friend told me this simple cheap method, and it works: \n\nCut an apple into slices [any type of apple will do]. Arrange it in a bowl or plate so that as much surface of the apple as possible is exposed, and place it in the affected area for a few days. It absorbs the smell quite well.\n\nMost of the smell is probably in the headliner fabric. If you're going to try steam-cleaning or fabric sprays, focus on that area.", "use coffee grinds, look at [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/14eqn6/lpt_eliminate_smoker_smells_in_a_used_car_with/)\n\nthis is not my idea, saw it off someone else", "Replace the cabin air filter. It's behind your glove box, costs about $10-15, and takes around 5 minutes to replace. I just quit smoking like two months ago and every time I turn my heat on now, I smell musty old smoke. Meaning it's time to replace my cabin air filter as well." ]

[ 5, 3, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to stop talking so much? I want to learn how to stop talking so much so people pay attention when I do actually speak.", "How to stop talking so much? I want to learn how to stop talking so much so people pay attention when I do actually speak.", "How to stop talking so much? I want to learn how to stop talking so much so people pay attention when I do actually speak.", "How to stop talking so much? I want to learn how to stop talking so much so people pay attention when I do actually speak.", "How to stop talking so much? I want to learn how to stop talking so much so people pay attention when I do actually speak.", "How to stop talking so much? I want to learn how to stop talking so much so people pay attention when I do actually speak." ]

[ "Really try to think about what you're about to say and if it will be interesting, helpful, or influential. Try to really listen to what other people say, and don't worry about giving your opinion as much. People love to be talkers (me lol) and honestly, it gets boring to have to listen to those people. Make what you say worth listening to. ", "Ask more questions. You will learn more about the other person and it will be easier to be interested in what they have to say.", "may not be useful for you, but maybe try journalling. if you have somewhere to vent all your thoughts you don't have to share them as often with people and it gives you a place to figure out the important things that you do want to talk to people about.", "Give yourself a 'budget'. If, for example, every word costs five cents, and you only have a budget of $5 for the whole day, you have to be a lot more selective about what you say. \n\nIt's kind of a weird concept that doesn't work for everyone, but it has helped me cut down on how much I say when teaching. ", "Stop. Think. Speak. \n\nMake sure it's useful information you're sure is true and accurate. Avoid gossip.", "Honestly, people aren't going to listen unless they want to. It might be difficult to get adjusted to at first, but don't talk about yourself or your ideas unless people ask. If you pay attention to what people talk about themselves, you can converse with them on those topics. If they don't seek your opinion or what's on your mind, they're either socially dumb or don't care. Think about how you want to be talked to or treated. Then treat people that way. " ]

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[ "How to fix rubber gromments falling off? I purchased a laptop stand that has 4 rubber grommets on the corners so your laptop doesn't slide around too much. They're starting to peel off - One has already fell off. What can I do to put them back in place and keep them from falling off?\n", "How to fix rubber gromments falling off? I purchased a laptop stand that has 4 rubber grommets on the corners so your laptop doesn't slide around too much. They're starting to peel off - One has already fell off. What can I do to put them back in place and keep them from falling off?\n" ]

[ "What's the stand made out of? If it's plastic I say poke a sewing pin or needle through both.\n\nI had a similar problem with the brake light sensor in my car, where super glue kept breaking.", "They’re originally attached with just adhesive. Is there any reason you couldn’t just super glue them back on? (Only thing I could think of is some laptops put the screws under the feet)" ]

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[ "How to get fabric out from under a zipper I don't know if this is the right subreddit, but the fabric of a bag that was inside my backpack got caught in the zipper of the backpack. My dad cut off the rest of the bag very closely, so now there's this little patch of fabric underneath my zipper that you can barely see. If I can't solve this, welp I guess I can't close my backpack anymore. It was a REALLY good, pricey one, and I can't lose it after just two or three years. My parents have informed that they're not buying me another one, so I'm pretty much screwed otherwise.\n\n", "How to get fabric out from under a zipper I don't know if this is the right subreddit, but the fabric of a bag that was inside my backpack got caught in the zipper of the backpack. My dad cut off the rest of the bag very closely, so now there's this little patch of fabric underneath my zipper that you can barely see. If I can't solve this, welp I guess I can't close my backpack anymore. It was a REALLY good, pricey one, and I can't lose it after just two or three years. My parents have informed that they're not buying me another one, so I'm pretty much screwed otherwise.\n\n" ]

[ "if you zip forward over the obstruction then zip backwards over the obstruction. The instinct is to zip backwards to undo the problem but if you zip forwards and zip the problem of the zip then zip backwards it will fix the zip. ", "The internet says to use a pencil or tweezers. \n" ]

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[ "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n", "Nearly burnt my flat down and can't get rid of the smell A few days ago I left a wooden chopping board on top of my stove and, guess what, the stove was still on. The stove was on a very low heat so it burned all night and I woke in the morning with my entire flat dense with smoke.\n\nThe smoke actually wasn't that bad in terms of toxicity - it didn't cause me to cough, it just smelled like a bonfire. In addition, there was also no cosmetic damage beyond the destroyed chopping board. I consider myself very lucky. I can say that the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed.\n\nBut now, the SMELL! So annoying, it's a constant reminder of my idiocy.\n\nSo far I have:\n\nKept my windows open almost non-stop\n/Left out vinegar/coffee\n/Used scented candles\n/Used clean fabric spray\n/Used febreeze etc.\n\nI will also be doing baking soda on the carpets tonight. Beyond that I have been reading about ozone generators/air purifiers but am a bit broke at the moment so I'm slightly reluctant to fork out for them just yet.\n\nNeedless to say, the smell is still there. Does anyone have any experience with this? Some encouragement/tips would be great as I feel awful and every time I catch the smell on my nose it makes me feel sick. Thanks for reading!\n\n" ]

[ "You need to rent an ozone generator. Remove any persian rugs or delicate fabrics ahead of time as they may get bleached or change color.\n\nhttp://www.doityourself.com/stry/smoke-damage-restoration#b", "it's called smoke damage, and is often unfixable. you might be alright, but I'm no expert.\n\nyou're going to have to scrub every inch of your walls and ceiling, minimum. if you have carpet it will probably need to be replaced. upholstered furniture? either reupholstered or replaced (ouch). if after all this the smell remains, you're going to want to repaint the entire interior. that's your last stop before the drywall comes down.\n\nsince you said you're a bit broke, and it sounds like this May have been an apartment, you might be facing serious penalties from your landlord, in which case you'll want to save your money.\n\nall in all, a very harsh lesson in stove safety, but there are far worse outcomes.", "a room in my home was in a similar situation and the only thing to be done is to clean and repaint the walls and ceiling. \n\nwash or replace all soft furnishings ( curtains, carpets, couches, cushions, blankets etc..)\n\nin the interim your doing the right thing by keeping the windows open the circulation of air is going to help. \n\nAnd for god sake get a better smoke alarm system! ", "If you can get it in the UK, ozium is an air freshener designed exactly for this purpose. \n\nhttp://m.cvs.com/mt/www.cvs.com/shop/product-detail/Medo-Ozium-Glycol-ized-Air-Sanitizer-Original-Scent?skuId=188307", "It will fade over time. My recommendation for right now on a tight budget is to scrub every surface; walls, rugs, carpet, upholstery, everything. ", "I have a similar request.\n\nI was recently diagnosed with cancer, and have been getting lightheaded sometimes. I was at the gas station, and I think it was the gasoline smell, but I passed out while pumping, accidentally covering myself, my car, and my clothes in gasoline.\n\nI immediately drove home to shower and wash the smell off of myself. When I got home, I stripped off my clothes and hopped in the shower for a while. When I got out of the (admittedly long) shower, I realized I had just tossed my gasoline-soaked clothes on the floor, and it had dripped into the carpet. Now my whole house smells like gasoline. We hired some professional carpet cleaners, but even they can't get the smell out.\n\nHelp me reddit, what can I do?!", "I did a similar thing two weeks ago!\n\n* In addition to what you're doing: I wiped down all walls with a solution with a bit of bleach and soapy water, and wiped down all cabinets (inside and out) and all cleaned all dishes/tupperware again.\n\n* Washed all my clothes, bedding & towels. \n* Bought plug-in air freshners and hit the place with fabreeze every day. \n\n* I also made cookies and bacon every day for the first week to encourage nice food smells instead of smokiness. Aside from the temporary weight gain I have no complaints! ", "I did this last week. An elderly friend told me to soak a kitchen towel in vinegar, wring it out, and then wave it frantically around the house. To my amazement, this actually worked. Smell was probably 80% better immediately.", "I did the same thing, but with oil in a pan. It filled the apartment with smoke and had a terrible stench for a week or so. Just clean everything you can and wait, the smell will eventually go away. ", "i had a sort of similar experience once, in addition to what everyone else is saying, ie wash your walls, gallons of febreeze all over everything; the thing that finally did the trick for me was placing dryer sheets over the intake of the ventilation system, left the fan on for a week with windows open, changed the dryer sheets daily and it finally got rid of the stench, good luck!", "http://www.bigdind.com/product.aspx?id=BigD30\n\nhttp://www.bigdind.com/product.aspx?id=BigD31\n\nThey sell by the case, so you might call to ask if they have any customers in your area.", "You will need to hand scrub every inch of every surface, wall, ceiling, etc. Look into **natural orange oil** as something to dilute in water and create a scrubbing liquid that will take out anything.", "When finished cleaning every nook an cranny, close all doors and windows, Get a big pot on the stove, add water, vinegar and soap used for doing the dishes, bring to a boil and let it cook/evaporate for a weekend, also start smoking pot ;)", "We had a fire in our apartment building in the hallway right outside our suite. We had no damage but it stunk to high heaven even after we were able to move back in 8 weeks later. I used cheap vodka to deodorize all the washable surfaces, washed with baking soda all the wasable fabrics and used a shallow bowl of ammonia overnight to deodorize. Lamp Berger also helps as it can clean the air and deodorize as well. Use the neutral as the perfumed ones can be a bit much or add the neutral to the fragrance you like to dilute it a bit.", "Try sprinkling cinnamon or something equally pleasant smelling in the carpet, and then vacuum it up. It's a trick realtors use for open houses. No promises on how well it'll work and it's more of a coverup but it can't hurt.", "Similar thing happened in our tiny house and the smell was terrible for weeks. Fortunately, it did completely go away over about the course of three weeks. You need to: \n\nA) leave doors and windows open as much as possible with fans blowing\n\nB) get Ozium and use frequently\n\nC) continue with the vinegar-in-bowls trick", "Scrub everything you can. I once boiled a pot dry...it smelled really bad and I could not get rid of it with any spray. I set bowls of vinegar around the house for a few days...worked like a charm.", "Put bowls of charcoal briquettes all over your flat. The charcoal absorbs the smoke smell. While it might take a little while for this to work it does work. ", "My family business is cleaning up after fire damage. One thing you have to do is buy chemical sponges and wipe down all the walls, ceilings, hardwood floors, fireplaces, cabinets (insides as well), counters, tables and chairs. The smoke has attached itself to everything.\nAfter you do that you will have to repaint, using a high quality primer. Two coats possibly.\nIf you can't change out the carpet, have it steam cleaned. Truthfully, you should replace it if at all possible. Once the smoke smell is in there, it's difficult to get out.\nChange the air filter on your furnace as well. Good luck!\n", "I have no idea but maybe others can chime in. Steam cleaning and repainting would be my options for staying on the cheaper side. Hire discounted professionals to steam clean. Do the painting yourself. Good luck OP!", "I did nearly the same thing, except it was a large pot of black beans, so arguably worse than woodsmoke. Smoke was pouring out the windows when I noticed, neighbors called the fire department, when they showed up I had it under control. Anyhow, I scrubbed every square inch of the flat. I painted all walls but no ceilings. I had no carpet there so that was nice. I took every bit of cloth I owned to either a dry cleaner or laundromat, and many bits of cloth owned by my roommates too. I shampooed the bejeezus out of our furniture. Then we left all windows open for a week. We are in a climate that allows that. It worked! I was out many hours labor and about $700 US. ", "Hopefully it's not smoke damage! \n\nOne thing to look at/try is if your stove has a hood vent with a fan check to see if the filter smells. Some are washable and some are disposable ($5-15USD). I moved into an apt once and couldn't get rid of a pesky smell from the kitchen area and it ended up being this filter I didn't even know I had.", "Get some cheap perfume, take out all our bowls and soup dishes, fill them with water, spray perfume inside and distribute throughout your appartment.", "Dakota odor bomb.\n\nplace towel on floor. Place bomb on towel. Turn on all fans and units. Set the bomb off. One for each room.\n\ncome back a few hours later and open up all windows and doors and air out.", "At my place of work we sell a chemical that might help. It's called \"Like New\". DM me for more info if you'd like ", "Activated charcoal works wonders. You can buy it from fish stores and some hardware stores. Put it out sprinkled on paper towels or in little bowls.", "> the smoke was thick in the flat for at least three hours before I noticed\n\nHere's an LPT: GET A SMOKE DETECTOR, YOU DOOF!", "It helps to replace the air filter in your heating/air conditioning unit. This helped me a lot when I had a small kitchen fire. Keep your windows open for a few days and place a fan nearby to bring in fresh air.", "Get an ozone generator. That's what we use on properties that have had fire damage. New paint will also help." ]

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[ "igoogle replacement igoogle is being retired at the end of the October. I currently utilize Firefox, but dabble in chrome as well. I really appreciate a clean dashboard with the ability to see into my gmail inbox, have options for google searches, get weather info, and more. Does anyone know of an acceptable alternative?", "igoogle replacement igoogle is being retired at the end of the October. I currently utilize Firefox, but dabble in chrome as well. I really appreciate a clean dashboard with the ability to see into my gmail inbox, have options for google searches, get weather info, and more. Does anyone know of an acceptable alternative?" ]

[ "http://my.yahoo.com has an iGoogle importer that actually works pretty well. There will be some growing pains but it can connect with your Gmail and Google calendar to the widgets. \n\nHowever, there are several cons. I don't think there is a way to override the search to use Google or to restore the old top toolbar with the links to all of the helpful Google services (maps, Gmail, drive, calendar, etc). \n\nHopefully Google will smarten up and see the drop in users and offer some reasonable alternative. \n\n ", "I like [Currently](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/ojhmphdkpgbibohbnpbfiefkgieacjmh)for Chrome, but it doesn't have a built in gmail window" ]

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[ "Need to know how to pad shoe ends. I just got some nice shoes that I bought discounted online, but I've got a problem. I have very wide feet, so I had to get a size 12 to accommodate my foot width, but now I've got a solid 1-2 inches of nothing beyond my toes. Right now I'm using the paper that came in the shoes to keep the end from curling when I walk, but does anyone have a more permanent solution? ", "Need to know how to pad shoe ends. I just got some nice shoes that I bought discounted online, but I've got a problem. I have very wide feet, so I had to get a size 12 to accommodate my foot width, but now I've got a solid 1-2 inches of nothing beyond my toes. Right now I'm using the paper that came in the shoes to keep the end from curling when I walk, but does anyone have a more permanent solution? " ]

[ "You do know that you can buy show stretchers that take a size 10 or any size really and stretch them to the width of your foot. But for padding you can use anything soft really. ", "When my Mom used to buy shoes that were too big for me so I could grow into them, she jammed a few cotton balls firmly into the toes. It worked pretty well." ]

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[ "How to Get Back Into The Dating Scene After two years of not going on many/any dates (bad situation that I'm out of now) I'd like to get back into the swing of things and re-start my dating life. However, I'm finding that I'm having a hard time doing so: though I've met a few girls I'd like to get to know better, and I feel like I do alright talking to girls in non-romantic situations, I keep on finding excuses to avoid talking to girls and to avoid asking them out. \n\nSo: short of DEW EET, any ideas for how to get back into dating after a long time away?", "How to Get Back Into The Dating Scene After two years of not going on many/any dates (bad situation that I'm out of now) I'd like to get back into the swing of things and re-start my dating life. However, I'm finding that I'm having a hard time doing so: though I've met a few girls I'd like to get to know better, and I feel like I do alright talking to girls in non-romantic situations, I keep on finding excuses to avoid talking to girls and to avoid asking them out. \n\nSo: short of DEW EET, any ideas for how to get back into dating after a long time away?", "How to Get Back Into The Dating Scene After two years of not going on many/any dates (bad situation that I'm out of now) I'd like to get back into the swing of things and re-start my dating life. However, I'm finding that I'm having a hard time doing so: though I've met a few girls I'd like to get to know better, and I feel like I do alright talking to girls in non-romantic situations, I keep on finding excuses to avoid talking to girls and to avoid asking them out. \n\nSo: short of DEW EET, any ideas for how to get back into dating after a long time away?", "How to Get Back Into The Dating Scene After two years of not going on many/any dates (bad situation that I'm out of now) I'd like to get back into the swing of things and re-start my dating life. However, I'm finding that I'm having a hard time doing so: though I've met a few girls I'd like to get to know better, and I feel like I do alright talking to girls in non-romantic situations, I keep on finding excuses to avoid talking to girls and to avoid asking them out. \n\nSo: short of DEW EET, any ideas for how to get back into dating after a long time away?", "How to Get Back Into The Dating Scene After two years of not going on many/any dates (bad situation that I'm out of now) I'd like to get back into the swing of things and re-start my dating life. However, I'm finding that I'm having a hard time doing so: though I've met a few girls I'd like to get to know better, and I feel like I do alright talking to girls in non-romantic situations, I keep on finding excuses to avoid talking to girls and to avoid asking them out. \n\nSo: short of DEW EET, any ideas for how to get back into dating after a long time away?", "How to Get Back Into The Dating Scene After two years of not going on many/any dates (bad situation that I'm out of now) I'd like to get back into the swing of things and re-start my dating life. However, I'm finding that I'm having a hard time doing so: though I've met a few girls I'd like to get to know better, and I feel like I do alright talking to girls in non-romantic situations, I keep on finding excuses to avoid talking to girls and to avoid asking them out. \n\nSo: short of DEW EET, any ideas for how to get back into dating after a long time away?", "How to Get Back Into The Dating Scene After two years of not going on many/any dates (bad situation that I'm out of now) I'd like to get back into the swing of things and re-start my dating life. However, I'm finding that I'm having a hard time doing so: though I've met a few girls I'd like to get to know better, and I feel like I do alright talking to girls in non-romantic situations, I keep on finding excuses to avoid talking to girls and to avoid asking them out. \n\nSo: short of DEW EET, any ideas for how to get back into dating after a long time away?" ]

[ "It seems like you are trying to fill some personal void with dating. That is really not the way to approach this, and nothing good will come of it. Girls can smell insecurity better than you give them cr", "Come up with a list of Deal Breakers and be extremely loyal to that list. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Have fun, push your limits - but if you see a deal breaker from your list end the date immediately. Its OK to explain why.\n\nFor example, on of my deal breakers is \"being rude to servers\". So I'm out on a date and the guy throws a fit bc he wanted rare but the steak was medium rare. Being young I sat embarrassed and felt bad - but I'd that happened today I would say \"check please\", pay for my not-yet-delivered food, ask for a to go box, and walk. And if he asked why I'd say \"only shitty people treat people like shit.\"", "My advice is to be fast, as soon as you think a girl has something you like, ask them out.\n\nGet to know them on a \"can be romantic\" scenario, and be sure she knows it's the case. ", "While I cant tell you what to do, I can tell you what NOT to do. Unless you're just amazing looking don't do online dating. ", "I mean, even if you do come up with some grand trick to make things easier, you're still going to end up having to ask them out anyway.", "Walk up, say hi, have conversation, see where it goes.\n\nDid you laugh? Did you have fun? Good conversation? Ask her out for dinner.\n\nIf not, rinse repeat.", "Could it just be that none of the girls you have considered dating so far have been very special?\n\nDon't force yourself to date someone just for the sake of saying to yourself \"I am now dating again\". When you come across someone who is worth dating you will know you want to spend more time with them. When you force yourself to date people in the hope they might appear more special when you get to know them, usually they don't.\n\nBeware of some dating apps - there's a lot of weirdos out there.\n\nWhen you do meet someone that gets your heart beating just that little bit faster then GO FOR IT. You won't get a date by not asking ;P" ]

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[ "Is there a quick/easy way to unsubscribe from all the emails in my spam folder? I was permanantly deleting all of my the junk in my spam folder today when I thought that it would be nice to unsubscribe from all the lists that are sending me this crap. Is there any quick way of doing so without opening each e-mail and finding the unsubscribe link?", "Is there a quick/easy way to unsubscribe from all the emails in my spam folder? I was permanantly deleting all of my the junk in my spam folder today when I thought that it would be nice to unsubscribe from all the lists that are sending me this crap. Is there any quick way of doing so without opening each e-mail and finding the unsubscribe link?", "Is there a quick/easy way to unsubscribe from all the emails in my spam folder? I was permanantly deleting all of my the junk in my spam folder today when I thought that it would be nice to unsubscribe from all the lists that are sending me this crap. Is there any quick way of doing so without opening each e-mail and finding the unsubscribe link?", "Is there a quick/easy way to unsubscribe from all the emails in my spam folder? I was permanantly deleting all of my the junk in my spam folder today when I thought that it would be nice to unsubscribe from all the lists that are sending me this crap. Is there any quick way of doing so without opening each e-mail and finding the unsubscribe link?" ]

[ "I maybe wrong but sometimes sending an unsubscribe reply just validates that you have a working email and may result in even more spam mail. \nUnless its from a recognised company of course. \nIt can be a pain but I just ignore and delete. ", "Some programs (Outlook, for instance, and I think Hotmail and Gmail, too) have a junk email option that deletes and puts future emails into a junk folder. So all. You have to do is quickly find all the emails that are spam. To do this, search for \"unsubscribe\" and you should hit all the spam!", "If you're using Gmail, set up a filter to automatically delete mails from a specific adress or containing specific keywords etc.", "If using gmail, using unrollme does a really good job of catching junk mail, giving you a nice daily digest so you don't miss any good sales/groupons/etc, and gives you a simple one-click way to unsubscribe to anything you know you'll never want to see again. \n\nMy secondary method is to have a task reminder to check my gmail spam folder every x days so I don't miss anything imporant. When i do this i mark the most recent message as 'have read' so that the next time I do a check all I need to do is look for oldest 'read' message and scan everything newer than that. \n\nBoth of these messages don't delete anything though, just hides em in your archive. I'm slowly coming around to the google way of thinking of never really needing to delete anything because storage is cheap and search is so effective. The only reason I am ok doing this is that I think it'd be more work to delete that garbage one by one than using the quick-scan-mark and/or auto-archive-summary service. " ]

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[ "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?", "How to stay sane on very long plane rides. I plan to study overseas during college, so I'll have to fly transatlantically at least twice a year. I've travelled before, but I always become restless and miserable a few hours in. Does anyone have tips regarding how to survive when made to sit still in a confined space for close to 10 hours?" ]

[ "Noise-cancelling headphones, a wide variety of music, movies, TV shows and games, snacks. Just think if you were to have a day off to be lazy on your couch and relax, what would you do? Download some interesting YouTube videos. Bring a book you've been meaning to finish. The key is to have a lot of options so you don't get stuck with any one thing that you might end up getting sick of. ", "This!!I just had to ride in the car for eight hours. I downloaded some stuff on Netflix, put my phone on airplane mode so the battery didn't die, and binged watched GLOW. It was the easiest long ride I've ever taken. ", "Take an over the counter sleep medication. You'll magically wake up in your destination city, fully refreshed", "I went on a 8 hour bus trip, along with a crying kid and arguing couple, 5 hours in I wanted to crash the whole bus. Never again. ", "Having stuff to do / watch is great... but being comfortable is WAY more important! For a long flight like this, wear something as close to PJs as you can get away with. Dress in layers. A bulky sweater can become an impromptu pillow for naps against the window. \n\nEVEN YOUR SHOES. It doesn't matter that you're sitting down, your feet still bear SOME weight and you want those tootsies to be as comfortably cradled as possible.\n\nAlso, for the love of God, *COMFY UNDERWEAR*. ", "I travel frequently to Asia. Aside from all the great suggestions already received:\n\n- eat light before takeoff\n- pick a good seat, aisle preferably\n- download some good podcasts\n- talk to your neighbor if they look cool. I've had some amazing conversations and found out a lot of tips about my destination this way\n- if time allows, book flights with layovers. Sometimes little to nothing more cost wise for the flight and you can overnight and check out an entirely new country.\n\nHappy travels 👉", "I second this with the suggestion to pack a few usb battery packs for your phone and batteries for your noise canceling headphones. If the laptop/tablet ban expands to all transatlantic flights I'd recommend getting a phablet with high battery capacity and a micro sd slot. \n\nWhile I haven't done this myself some people reccomend a cheap \"cardboard\" or gearvr vr headset with a cinema app. Several of these apps have an airplane mode that fixes the virtual screen in front of you. Keep in mind that this is ony advisable for periods of smooth level flight.", "When you're too tired to read but not tired enough to sleep, listen to an audiobook - one you've read before. I personally like Harry Potter, because Jim Dale's voice is soothing af. You can lay your head back and drift in and out. \n\nIf you're not a fan of audiobooks, I also like a noise app called Noizio that lets you mix different sounds together as white noise. \n\nAlso, turtl pillow. Packs small, really comfy. \n\n+1 for noise-cancelling headphones. The droning of the engines can be very grating after a while. I bought some AudioTecnicas for way cheaper than Bose, and they work just fine for me and are really hardy so far. ", "Well, try and sleep for as long as you can. If you can't sleep, put on noise cancelling headphones and binge watch your favourite show on Netflix, or watch a bunch of movies. You could watch youtube. \n\nBut the best thing would be cookie clicker. Play cookie clicker.", "Australian here, so 10 hours isn't even \"long\" let alone \"very long\"! My experience:\n\n* When I walk through Customs & Immigration, I switch my watch/phone time to the destination and act accordingly. Helps prevent jetlag, and also gives you a little game to play throughout the flight\n* If you do plan to sleep for most of the flight, get a window seat; if not, get an aisle seat\n* When the seat-belt light goes off, change into some light pyjamas (I scored a set flying business some years back that I always use - in economy, I get weird looks from everyone except the flight staff, which helps keep me sane!)\n* I get into a routine - watch a movie, do some stretches, do a lap of the plane (walking). That keeps the blood flowing and breaks the flight into more manageable chunks\n* If binge-watching movies isn't your thing, take a range of activities with you - 2x books you want to read, apps/games to play, work to do etc. For me, when the movies lose interest (or there's not enough time to watch another, or I want to go to sleep), I switch to music or games to keep me entertained\n\nSounds like a great life experience studying overseas, so hopefully you find a flying routine that suits you. Enjoy!", "A lot of my in-flight misery is dehydration and ambient noise. Hydrate before and during the flight; it'll help you feel more human after you land, too. Good noise-cancelling headphones if you can afford them, earplugs if you can't. ", "- Earplugs or decent headphones and enough media to keep you entertained.\n\n- Melatonin and/or benadryl to sleep\n\n- Bring books or something you can work on to keep yourself busy.", "I recently made a video to help people on long flights. I just got through a 14 plus hour flight and a 6 hour flight. I help this helps! Beginners guide to surviving a long flight? Do's and Don'ts on an international flight.\nhttps://youtu.be/mHOWgy7pAAw", "I just take a big dose of NyQuil and sleep through the flight. Be sure to get a window seat to prevent having neighbors waking you to use the toilet.\n\nAlso, avoid US based carriers. They among the worst when it comes to service." ]

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[ "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n", "Is it possible to get a refund for a non-refundable flight? ALRIGHT. Sounds like a silly question, so allow me to elaborate. \n\nI am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years. You could say that I don't have very much experience with booking flights. I am planning a trip for November, and it's a short trip (about 4 days). I think I went to the SouthWest Airline site after looking at all of the other expensive airline sites. I found a \"Wanna Get Away\" flight that was advertised as cheaper, but it was non-refundable. This was the cheapest I'd seen so far, so I was pretty excited. It was about $900 for 2 adults, round trip, with a stop on each trip (8 hours to; 6 hours back). Oh, and I needed to drive to an airport a couple of hours away from home as opposed to using the airport near home. **Fast forward** I was speaking with a couple of co-workers, one of which is planning a similar trip, another takes these trips often, because it's her home town. They use the google flights extension and *easily* find a round trip, non-stop flight, (5 hours to; 4 hours back), along with using the airport closer to my home, all for about $50 more via Delta... ($950). I feel like I've been jipped. Is there any possible way I can get a refund? The research I have done: The 24 hour rule does not apply in my case (and death is not a favorable option) but SouthWest can transfer that money to another flight.\n\nSorry for the lengthy post. TL;DR: Inexperienced traveler dun goofed with flight tickets. \n\n" ]

[ "Southwest is unique in that they will allow you to cancel, and grant you cr", "> I am 22 and I recently booked my first flight in probably 20 years.\n\nYou booked a flight when you were 2 years old? ", ">I feel like I've been jipped\n\nBecause your friends found a flight to your desired destination that was $50 more expensive?", "You weren't gypped.\n\nYou obviously know that different flights cost different amounts. Stop playing the victim card.\n\nYou're an adult who entered into an agreement with the airline. You didn't bother researching everything about the ticket.\n\nGrow up and accept the ticket you bought.", "We use SW airlines almost exclusively because of their great customer service and bags fly free. That cheaper delta flight will cost you more if you check a bag. As for refunds, as mentioned, SW will give you one year cr", "How did you book a flight when you were two years old? You must have been an advanced two year old.\n\nYou will probably save more than $50 though by taking Southwest. If each of you checks one bag on Delta, that is $50 per direction in bag fees. So that is $100 in bag fees. With Southwest each person can check two free bags per direction.", "Theoretically you could get travel insurance and cancel it a few days prior and claim on insurance. You will probably have to pay some sort of excess however.\n\nIn your case it's not worth it", "One scenario, under which you could, would be if the flight were part of a larger, comprehensive travel package, and you purchased a trip/travel insurance policy that would refund the purchase price of your air travel should the trip have to be cancelled for a valid reason.", "> They use the google flights extension \n\nCan you please elaborate on what this is? I tried searching online but none of them were by Google." ]

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[ "What to do with used pill bottles. My father takes a lot of meds and we have tons of pill bottles. What are some clever uses for them?", "What to do with used pill bottles. My father takes a lot of meds and we have tons of pill bottles. What are some clever uses for them?", "What to do with used pill bottles. My father takes a lot of meds and we have tons of pill bottles. What are some clever uses for them?", "What to do with used pill bottles. My father takes a lot of meds and we have tons of pill bottles. What are some clever uses for them?", "What to do with used pill bottles. My father takes a lot of meds and we have tons of pill bottles. What are some clever uses for them?", "What to do with used pill bottles. My father takes a lot of meds and we have tons of pill bottles. What are some clever uses for them?" ]

[ "Depends on the size. The only ones I keep are the ones that are just big enough for a quarter. I think about $8.75 fit into one. It makes going to the laundromat much easier!", "boil them to loosen the labels. Once all contact information is off, box them up and donate them to a boys' and girls' club. They can turn them into all sorts of art projects (shakers, tiny plant pots, etc).", "I use them to store and organize small items, like jewelry, links, beads, sewing needles, etc. You could also use them for things like screws, nails, nuts, bolts, styli (for electronics), picture hooks, tacks, glitter, sequins, googly eyes, and anything small enough to fit in there. They're great to use during trips, because you can put only what you need inside.\n\nAlso, check the bottoms and see what recycling number they are; you may be able to recycle the suckers.", "Google for uses for film canisters. Pill bottles can be used for all of that. Also, some (but not all) pill bottles are leak proof containers that are useful for travel toiletry bottles.", "They make pretty chill shotglasses for parties, and people get a kick out of it, granted you should probably clean off the labels.", "I once started a project to line the med room at my work'a walls with bamboo sticks made of pill bottles inserted into one another. I wish I finished that." ]

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[ "What are some super-efficient and fast laundry tips/tricks? Laundry is my least favorite chore and literally any tip will be beneficial to getting it done quicker.", "What are some super-efficient and fast laundry tips/tricks? Laundry is my least favorite chore and literally any tip will be beneficial to getting it done quicker.", "What are some super-efficient and fast laundry tips/tricks? Laundry is my least favorite chore and literally any tip will be beneficial to getting it done quicker.", "What are some super-efficient and fast laundry tips/tricks? Laundry is my least favorite chore and literally any tip will be beneficial to getting it done quicker.", "What are some super-efficient and fast laundry tips/tricks? Laundry is my least favorite chore and literally any tip will be beneficial to getting it done quicker.", "What are some super-efficient and fast laundry tips/tricks? Laundry is my least favorite chore and literally any tip will be beneficial to getting it done quicker." ]

[ "To remove ink (even permanent), use isopropyl alcohol and a cloth. Put the alcohol on the fabric from the back of the stain to push it forward into the cloth.", "Put your dirty socks straight into a big zip up mesh laundry bag when you take them off. Chuck it in the wash and all the pairs stay together and then peg them up in pairs. Not sure what happens in a drier, as I hang my clothes to dry.", "Put a dry towel in the dryer with your wet clothes. It will reduce your drying time by about 15 minutes.", "If you left your clothes in the dryer overnight and they get wrinkled, put some items back in the dryer with a wet, wrung-out hand towel. Maybe 15 minutes. It gets\nrid of the wrinkles for basic casual stuff. \n\nDressy stuff might still need ironing, though.", "If your washing machine is on the right next to your dryer. put the wet clothes in a basket and the put it in the dryer it makes it a lot easier to transfer between the two", "Instead of doing laundry get the cheapest clothes possible, alternate them until they start to smell, donate them and repeat the process \n \n- I didn’t realize people wouldn’t notice the sarcasm in this :/" ]

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[ "Reliably connecting solid core wire to braided Had to do some home wiring over the last couple of weekends, and I have still not gotten the hang of consistently pigtailing solid core wire to braided (braided just ends up wrapped around much stiffer solid wire, tugs free). Any suggestions or tips?", "Reliably connecting solid core wire to braided Had to do some home wiring over the last couple of weekends, and I have still not gotten the hang of consistently pigtailing solid core wire to braided (braided just ends up wrapped around much stiffer solid wire, tugs free). Any suggestions or tips?" ]

[ "Try making the stripped length of the stranded wire longer than the solid wire. Always worked for me.", "As an electrician- this IS a pain. Wire nuts work fine- but strip long, twist, then trim (cut to length) for the nut. If multiple wires, twist the stranded to each other, the solids to themselves, then the two sets together.\nPoor 'make-up\" comes back to bite you. Neatness counts. Soldering is overkill and makes future servicing difficult. Crimp lugs can have corrosion issues from the dissimilar metals and do not work well on solid wire anyway. Last (but most important), not all wire nuts are equal, best to get them from a electrical supply shop- or an electrician." ]

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[ "How to stop cracking knuckles? I've been cracking knuckles for 3-4 years now and probably 5-6 times a day. Just recently I noticed it hurts to crack my left thumb but I still do it anyway. How can I prevent the temptation to crack them? ", "How to stop cracking knuckles? I've been cracking knuckles for 3-4 years now and probably 5-6 times a day. Just recently I noticed it hurts to crack my left thumb but I still do it anyway. How can I prevent the temptation to crack them? " ]

[ "Just do something else with your hands. Don't focus on it, not that there's anything wrong with clicking them, feelsgoodman", "Broke my hand the other day, which has significantly limited my knuckle cracking activity. Probably not a proper solution though." ]

[ 4, 1 ]

[ "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... ", "How to get a white T-Shirt back to blinding white? I have several favourite white t-shirts that have become duller over the years and now just look 'dirty'. This has been either due to not taking care when washing, or stains from sun cream, or other things.\n\nIs there any way to get these back to their former blinding white glory? I often hear people accidentally bleached their clothing white so I'm kinda hoping that something like that may actually work in my favour here....?? \n\nI should add that all shirts in my case are white with designs on, some coloured designs and some just black on white....If that makes any difference! Obviously whatever method I use I wouldn't want to damage the designs... " ]

[ "Get yourself something [like this](http://www.amazon.com/Reckitts-Blue-Laundry-Bluing-Tablets/dp/B003IWUNJU). It's basically blue dye that makes whites look whiter. I know that adding blue dye to make something white sounds counterintuitive but it works and has been done for centuries.\n\n[Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bluing_\\(fabric\\)): \"Since blue and yellow are complementary colors in the subtractive color model of color perception, adding a trace of blue color to the slightly off-white color of these fabrics makes them appear whiter. Laundry detergents may also use fluorescing agents to similar effect. Many white fabrics are blued during manufacturing. Bluing is not permanent and rinses out over time leaving dingy or yellowed whites. A commercial bluing product allows the consumer to add the bluing back into the fabric to restore whiteness.\"", "Fresh Oxyclean or just the active ingredient sodium percarbonate. In water it breaks down to washing soda (sodium carbonate) and hydrogen peroxide.\n\nThis stuff does go stale so don't try to buy a lifetime supply in hopes of saving money. The washing soda component will stay but the oxygen part will become less effective.\n\nJust don't try both chlorine bleach and oxyclean at the same time, the chlorine and hydrogen peroxide cancel each other out. You end up with a bunch of oxygen bubbles and salt water (sodium chloride).", "Oxyclean is the way to go! It contains optical brightening agents which are what make the binding white we understand as \"clean\". They absorb light in the uv spectrum and re-emit in the visual spectrum, giving your whites the truly florescent look. \n\nAlthough if your t shirts are that old they'll never go back to the way they once were. There's many things that have happened to them besides staining and the loss of their original optical brightening agents. Cotton is mercerized in the production process which also greatly improves its appearance. Cotton is essentially a bunch of tubes which are squashed and twisted. Mercerization swells them up so they reflect more light and look brighter. Repeated washing and drying has reversed this effect over the years. ", "If the non white portion is screen printing, wash with bleach worry free. If not get some color safe bleach, though that still tends to fade the color a bit, and doesn't whiten as well. Finally, do what hotels do, and add a little blue die (very little). An ever so slightly blue fabric seems whiter than white.", "Since you've mentioned being from the UK I'd suggest going with Vanish crystal white with Ariel bio. Also don't use liquid detergent for your whites - they have no bleaching agents in them. The powder works better. \n", "My mom told me to wash white clothes with bar soap and then leave them out in the sun for a while before rinsing them. I have a couple items that she's made good as new again like that. Cheap and efficient! ", "Household white vinegar. It won't mess with your designs, and does the same as bleach without the mini holes that come after time.", "Don't use bleach. Your water may have high iron content and turn your clothes yellow. Mine ALWAYS turns yellow, and I now use Oxyclean powder. ", "As you are a fellow UKer I thought I'd throw some brand names at you that you might recognise. I've used [this stuff](http://www.dr-beckmann.co.uk/products/whiteners/glowhite-clothes-whitener/) on my work shirts before, got it from Wilkinson, probably available elsewhere.\n\nChuck a sachet in with your white stuff (whites only) and wash as normal.", "I'm in agreement with bluing, although if you don't have a store near you that sells it, like me, you can wash your whites with blue jeans, as I do.", "I have heard that laying things with pit stains out in the sun will get rid of the pit stains. It is about the only thing I haven't tried, but seems unlikely to hurt. ", "I don't know if anyone has said this.. Blue Dawn, hydrogen peroxide and resolve stain remover. You can use it to spot clean or as an all over stain remover. I worked in fast food and had to wear a white shirt. It got insanely gray and dirty. I just put some soap on it and poured on the peroxide, rubbed it in then sprayed it with resolve. Let it sit for about an hour(can probably be less) then threw it in the wash. Came out just about good as new. I was pretty shocked.\n", "Encase it in polished limestone. It can get heavy on your lower back about half way through the day but that shit will glow. ", "Ask an elderly female relative to bleach them for you. They have had many years of experience with laundry, and will like having their expertise recognised.", "You may also want to look into a blueing agent such as Mrs. Stewart's Concentrated Liquid Bluing. I would post a link but internets are complicated creatures. " ]

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[ "Some small things you can do in your day-to-day to become healthier? For example: http://i.imgur.com/YY8Q2fn.jpg", "Some small things you can do in your day-to-day to become healthier? For example: http://i.imgur.com/YY8Q2fn.jpg" ]

[ "Cut back on drinks in general. Juice is just liquid sugar, Soda was made by the devil, and living without frequent coffee/alcohol surprisingly isn't that bad. I mean if you drink 100 calories a day everyday for a year, that would be an extra 10.4 lbs. (approximately). Water and tea. Water and tea. Water and tea. I can't stress it enough.", "Instead of constantly thinking about what you CAN'T have, think about what you should be ADDING to your diet. \n\n*more water \n*more fruit\n*more vegetables \n*more real food that doesn't come in packages \n\nWalking is super underrated. So are jump ropes. " ]

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[ "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n", "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n", "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n", "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n", "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n", "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n", "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n", "How to keep food safe at work??? Here's a challenge to all the LifeProTip Redditors, I need to find a way to lock my food up at work. My co-workers openly eat my food. I'm a police officer so I'll leave on a call and come back to an empty container of trail mix. It's getting old, and expensive to feed the whole department. \n\nWe have a kitchen and i'd like to be able to store my food either in the fridge or cabinet without it going missing. Any thoughts on a lockable containger for the cabinet or fridge? Couldn't really find any products on the market for this so I thought it would be a good LPT challenge. \n\nBTW - long time reader first time poster, feel free to scold me for reddit wrong doings. \n\n" ]

[ "Get some extremely hot hot sauce(the kind made with capsaicin extract) and spike something with it. If you have access to needles it is easy to take a hot dog and inject the hot sauce into the dog. My step-dad is a firefighter and he was having this same issue and came up with this solution. ", "Walmart sells plastic containers of various size. If you buy ones that will fit where you keep your food, cut holes through the lid and handles then put locks through the holes, that could work. You could also put a ziptie through one hole and a combo lock through the other for added convenience. \n\nI think people will get the idea you don't want to share if you do that.", "Just get a [small, soft-shelled cooler style lunch box](http://www.target.com/p/embark-lunch-cooler-blue/-/A-12113133) (they also make larger ones that are meant to be used as coolers, but are nice as a lunch box if you're packing multiple tupperwares, are packing breakfast, snack, and lunch, or want several ice packs). Just pick a model that's got two zippers and then use a luggage lock to hold them together.", "I had an issue at work with people stealing my deli meat I used to make sandwiches. I bought one of those locking bank deposit bags for less than $10. Nobody was stealing my lunch meat after that.", "put them in your desk. my desk at work is 100% food. my top drawer is filled with drinks and the bottom drawer is filled with crackers. i lock my desk before i leave every day. i keep the key in my pencil cup, but nobody ever looks or tries to get in my drawers", "Why not take it with you? It wouldn't take up much room in the squad car (or bike pannier, as the case may be). ", "Put the food in a \"rotten ziploc\" plastic bag.\n\"Rotten Plastic Ziploc\" Use a green sharpie to make green splotches on the outside. Not deep just barely visible pools on it. Rub some oil on the outside of the bag, or grease. Place the contents in bag, place bag on a paper towel with some gross crinkly stuff and maybe dried blood on it.", "Idea 1) Buy a small toolbox from Home Depot or Lowes that has a hole for a small padlock. Store all of your food in there, lock it shut.\n\nIdea 2) Get a sheet of cardboard (say about 12\" x 18\"). Make an under desk shelf by folding it and and tape it with duct tape. If you place it correctly under your desk, your co-workers won't know it's there unless they crawl on their hands and knees. When you want a snack look around, reach under there and grab food.\n\n\nHope that helps." ]

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[ "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n", "I need to find a way to minimize the amount of natural light that enters my room. I work the Midnight-6AM shift at my school and with busy nights, the only time I can find sleep is after work just as the sun begins to come out. I have thick curtains that are excellent at blocking light from entering the room, however the summer days get hot and a box fan in the window is a must. This is the downside, I can't sleep with natural light in the room, and the one place light enters the room is through the box fan.\n\nDue to the fact that I am living in a dorm room, I need to find a creative way to shield the light entering through the box fan, while still allowing as much air to enter and circulate through these stuffy rooms.\n\nHere is a [picture](http://i.imgur.com/lp9uHH7.jpg) of my current predicament. \n\nPlease help, I'm getting no sleep!!\n\n" ]

[ "Make a angled cover for the fan out of card, have it direct the airflow downwards towards the floor. Place something black below it on the floor to stop light reflecting to the ceiling.", "make yourself a box like this http://imgur.com/tpOOv6B\n\nand since it's just a box fan and not an ac unit you can probably make it out of cardboard and duct tape....and what the hay, duct tape it TO the fan. ", "an aluminum emergency blanket (a few bucks at any camping/outdoor supply place) is thin silver film that, like tinted windows, cuts down a lot of light - and works like a one-way mirror, if you're applying the film from the *inside* of the window -- you can try taping/fastening the edges of the 'blanket' around where the light comes in the most, or even over the entire window frame as the 'blankets' are about 36\" x 50\"\n\n:)", "You can get like an extra sheet or curtain and wrap it around the fan with maybe safety pins or something so it creates like a wind sock that lets air in but through a tunnel/tube to stop light...or you can also just get 1 much longer curtain to go over the fan", "You could change that out for a ducted fan type setup? Or maybe build a duct around the exisiting fan and aim the air and light at a less intrusive angle.", "Went to a craft store. Bought two lengths of black felt, and two sets of sticky backed velcro. Stuck the velcro around my Windows, sized the felt and added the other half of the velcro to it. Blacks out all light, especially when paired with light cancelling curtains. ", "I work the 11pm-7am shift as a nurse. I've done some crazy shit to keep the light out of my bedroom. I actually went as far as duct taping black foam board on all of my bedroom windows, and then putting black out curtains over the top of the foam board. \n\nMy suggestion to you is to remove the fan from the window all together. Get at least two more fans so you have three, and sleep with them pointed at you. It'll cool you off enough to get to sleep and then you don't have to worry about it. \n\nAlways remember when on night shift - Sleep comes first before anything else. If I was promised a decent day's sleep, I'd sleep on Satan's asshole.", "I can't tell exactly what's happening in the photo, but I can tell you what worked for me as a starving college student working 12 hour nights and who likes to sleep. A lot.\n\nIt sounds cheesy, I know, but... I taped aluminum foil to my windows. It blocks out light incredibly! And if you secure the corners, it doesn't make noise. It was sort of the cheap man's version of thermal curtains. Hope this helps!", "I am dislexic. This may need an interpreter.\n\nI would use a cardboard box thing, like make a whole window size box with no upper side. It could be placed during sleep and not otherwise. The advantages of keeping box sides is the cardboard wont be against anything or even touching the curtains or vent, air can circulate. I would leave the box side at the top open. if you fix it right you can fold your box away under your mattress when not sleeping. I would not put the box covering the vents seen under window. I m not sure what it will do to airflow to have the vents having a box above them, youll have to see where it goes after, but basically you need that air,,, \n\nyou need nothing to catch fire, and it all needs to work. \n\n It appears form the picture that box could be affixed with a old mens tie or something, something broad so wont tangle. in threaded through slots the middle of the box bottom and curtain rod and tied on the inside the room side.. Or you can put a flap in the box and just brace the sides of box in with an adjustable rod, you know the ones that spring out so you dont need to worry that are sometimes seen in loos? with some feet -you can make your own pretty easy. If you have no duct tape to make a big box you could probably just make tab and slots and construct it without tape. Old election posters might be cool material.\n\nhey look i know find an engineering student at your school and ask them. :)", "Wear a blindfold. If you do not want to figure out where to get a blindfold, drape a shirt over your head so that the neckline rests beneath your eyes and above your nose.", "Get thermal curtains. And put something in front of that window fan that obstructs the light going to the bed, but not the airflow. Best alternative is to get those sleeping eye travel patches." ]

[ 7, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into", "How do I get better at making/maintaining eye contact while I'm talking to people? It's something I'm working on, but I'd love some tips/tricks to getting better at it.\n\nI always find myself looking at almost anything except the other persons eyes. I feel more confident and assertive when I'm making eye contact, but it seems like a difficult habit to get myself into" ]

[ "Is this something a child should be taught to do? \n\nI was never taught to do this, and now trying to look into someones eyes during conservation seems awkward, not natural, and makes me self conscious ", "It is difficult to get used to, especially when a person is self conscious. From my experience I always try to make 2 second eye contact then look off to the side for 1 second and repeat this cycle. You can also always nod your head, smile, etc. to appear assertive.", "You could always look at their mouth, nose, eyebrows. You can often fake it, just by looking someone in the face, not necessarily the eyes. This reminded me of a conversation I just had with a lady at work where she had on tons of mascara and it was mesmerizing, I think I \"looked her in the eyes\" the entire conversation, but I was really trying to figure out how she kept her eyes open with so much make up on. Those thoughts are sort of \"side\" thoughts as I was also actually paying attention to the conversation. ", "Start small with TV and movies. I know it sounds stupid but try to make eye contact with characters on TV. Try to find out their eye and colour and then do the same with people outside of TV. \n\n", "Practice in real situations. Most people can't do it because it's intimidating, but keep doing it over and over. You'll find it becomes a battle of sorts, and some people are VERY good at it. Keep trying.", "I'd absolutely love to do this with ease. I'm not afraid of looking at people in the eyes or anything.....I just have a lazy eye, and I'm self conscious as fuck because of it. I sometimes have to just force my stare at people and just say \"fuck it, they know\". ", "I always got a kick out of seeing the reflections in other people's eyes. Just look at one of their eyes and focus on what is reflected in it. It might even be you!", "Focus on one eye. This is a trick actors do on the silver screen. It makes them seem more intent and concentrated. You will find that when you're not bouncing between eyes, you can just relax and look at one eye while you talk.", "The trick I was taught was to look at their eyebrows - it's close enough that they'll see you looking at their eyes and gets you comfortable with looking in that general direction. YMMV, it got me over the initial hurdle anyway." ]

[ 7, 6, 5, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to prevent your mind from blanking in an exam? I had a mock exam today for philosophy and I revised all the arguments and knew them really well, yet when I got in the exam I forgot the 2nd and 3rd premises of one of them and had to make it up, which probably just lost me quite a few marks. \n\nThis was easily avoidable but my mind just went blank... How do I prevent this from happening again? ", "How to prevent your mind from blanking in an exam? I had a mock exam today for philosophy and I revised all the arguments and knew them really well, yet when I got in the exam I forgot the 2nd and 3rd premises of one of them and had to make it up, which probably just lost me quite a few marks. \n\nThis was easily avoidable but my mind just went blank... How do I prevent this from happening again? ", "How to prevent your mind from blanking in an exam? I had a mock exam today for philosophy and I revised all the arguments and knew them really well, yet when I got in the exam I forgot the 2nd and 3rd premises of one of them and had to make it up, which probably just lost me quite a few marks. \n\nThis was easily avoidable but my mind just went blank... How do I prevent this from happening again? ", "How to prevent your mind from blanking in an exam? I had a mock exam today for philosophy and I revised all the arguments and knew them really well, yet when I got in the exam I forgot the 2nd and 3rd premises of one of them and had to make it up, which probably just lost me quite a few marks. \n\nThis was easily avoidable but my mind just went blank... How do I prevent this from happening again? ", "How to prevent your mind from blanking in an exam? I had a mock exam today for philosophy and I revised all the arguments and knew them really well, yet when I got in the exam I forgot the 2nd and 3rd premises of one of them and had to make it up, which probably just lost me quite a few marks. \n\nThis was easily avoidable but my mind just went blank... How do I prevent this from happening again? ", "How to prevent your mind from blanking in an exam? I had a mock exam today for philosophy and I revised all the arguments and knew them really well, yet when I got in the exam I forgot the 2nd and 3rd premises of one of them and had to make it up, which probably just lost me quite a few marks. \n\nThis was easily avoidable but my mind just went blank... How do I prevent this from happening again? ", "How to prevent your mind from blanking in an exam? I had a mock exam today for philosophy and I revised all the arguments and knew them really well, yet when I got in the exam I forgot the 2nd and 3rd premises of one of them and had to make it up, which probably just lost me quite a few marks. \n\nThis was easily avoidable but my mind just went blank... How do I prevent this from happening again? " ]

[ "My daughter rewrote her biology notes into lyrics for her favorite , probably inappropriate, rap song. My guess is just going through the exercise combined with the support of the melody and beat, helped her recall several pages of notes. Maybe take the first two topic sentences of each argument and recast them into lyrics for a song?", "This is going to sound kind of bizarre. I Study at Uni atm whenever im preparing for an exam and need to memorize i chew a specific gum and when reading text i read it in a irish accent. On the day of the exam i chew the exact gum and tried to recall answers or literature i read in that accent in my mind. \n\nSomething that also helped me was i read everything from lecture notes, articles, clinical studies without taking a single note. Then i skim read all literature again and anything i didn't understand i made note and highlighted. \n\nGood luck hope this helps. ", "Just remember 'Memorisation's Not Easy; Memory Often Needs Initial Cues', or MNEMONIC.\n\nUse mnemonics to remember the structure of an argument, then you have a mapping of point to trigger your memory from.\n\n", "Use random words/ situations to associate any list or memorized phrases.\n\nI had a professor that had a different action for each list to get us to remember \n\n\\(flipped a table on it's side for one, Stood at attention for another\\)\n\nA narrative helps you come back to that moment.", "I always like to make study guides and flash cards. When preparing for the exam, go through your notes and reading and build a handwritten (not typed) study guide. This accomplishes 3 things:\n\n1) it makes you go through all your notes\n\n2) writing it down has been scientifically proven to increase retained memory\n\n3) it ultimately condenses everything you need to know to a few concise pages. This makes studying very easy now. \n\nAt this point, there is no need to cram or stay up late studying for the exam. Just go over your study guide the day before every few hours until you can repeat everything from memory. \n\nMake sure you go to bed early and get plenty of sleep the night before the exam. This is probably the most important part. Wake up early, go to the library, and then casually go over your study guide for about 30-45 minutes before the exam starts. ", "i dont onow if this is relevant but ill say it anyway\n\ni never could think in my maths test because I was tired.\n\ni drank alot of water and just layed in bed 1 hour early until I eventually went to sleep. this helped me significantly", "Chew a particular type of gum while you study. Use it only for studying that subject. \n\nChew it when you write your exam. " ]

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[ "Photographs Stuck Together I found a box of photos in the basement, but instead of individual photos I have a brick of photos all stuck together. I would like to somehow separate them into individual photos again.\n\nA quick google search suggests using a hairdrier, freezing them, and submerging them in water. These methods seem somewhat contradictory. Anyone with photo experience have a tried and true method for fixing this?", "Photographs Stuck Together I found a box of photos in the basement, but instead of individual photos I have a brick of photos all stuck together. I would like to somehow separate them into individual photos again.\n\nA quick google search suggests using a hairdrier, freezing them, and submerging them in water. These methods seem somewhat contradictory. Anyone with photo experience have a tried and true method for fixing this?" ]

[ "Steam. I've had success with steam. But this is for photos with paper backs. Like photos before color cameras were invented.\n\nIf these are new photos like done commercially at Walgreens, then you can just soak them in a tub of distilled water. And they'll let each other go and you can individually dry them with paper towels. They'll be safe. Ever notice lost dog fliers and people use photos like that. They stay just fine even when it rains.", "I can confirm hair dryer. Hold it about 12 inches away. It loosens up the photo ink just enough to free them, without wrecking the picture. " ]

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[ " Hey, in m bedroom i can hear squeaking and mice running around the room a little and i don't know a way to eliminate the problem? Help and thank you so much in advanced :D\n\n", " Hey, in m bedroom i can hear squeaking and mice running around the room a little and i don't know a way to eliminate the problem? Help and thank you so much in advanced :D\n\n", " Hey, in m bedroom i can hear squeaking and mice running around the room a little and i don't know a way to eliminate the problem? Help and thank you so much in advanced :D\n\n", " Hey, in m bedroom i can hear squeaking and mice running around the room a little and i don't know a way to eliminate the problem? Help and thank you so much in advanced :D\n\n", " Hey, in m bedroom i can hear squeaking and mice running around the room a little and i don't know a way to eliminate the problem? Help and thank you so much in advanced :D\n\n", " Hey, in m bedroom i can hear squeaking and mice running around the room a little and i don't know a way to eliminate the problem? Help and thank you so much in advanced :D\n\n" ]

[ "The best solution is to get a cat, break a hole in the wall and put the cat in. The cat will then eat the mice in the wall. Only problem is, now you've got yourself a wall cat. \n\nThe only solution to this is to put another cat in with a string tied around it. The two cats will become codependent on each other and when they do, yank on the string and rip them both out of the wall together. ", "The best solution is to get a cat. I don't know where you live, but farm cats are (usually) very good micers. That's why we started to keep them in the first place. Plus, **CATS**! The only other options I know are poison traps which 1) aren't as effective in my experience, and 2) leave you with dead mice in your walls. OR an exterminator, which is expensive. (Less so than the cat over it's lifetime, but see aforementioned **CATS**!", "Get a professional if you can. You have to seal ALL points of entry both inside and outside the house/location. The pros know exactly what to look for and will spot entry points with ease. Then the mice are trapped and removed. \n\nWe had them in our backyard where they lived happily. Neighbor had outside dogs so a never ending supply of food. We got a dog so we introduced a predator, they moved into our attic.\n\nAfter sealing off the house we did it with sticky and snap traps, there are other options where the mice are not killed as well. If they can't get in or out for that matter no more will enter and the remaining ones will eventually die.\n\nIf you rent talk to your landlord/leasing office. Mice chew through wires and that is something they won't want to have to deal with. They also have baby mice who multiply as well.\n\nIf you are going to try and do it yourself you have to find where they are coming in at, that is the exit point as well. It usually one place even though many might exist. They have to go in and out for food and water. Start there by sealing it. So you know when you trap them you will hear more scurrying then you do now, they are looking for a way out.", "Snap traps and penutbutter. Best bait ever. Put it around any areas youve found droppings and alomg walls. Check them every couple days till theres no more mice.", "Mice in the walls will come out into the room, too. Do what a professional will do - buy mouse traps, bait them, and leave them next to walls. (Really, that's what a pro does). Glue traps work especially well. Good luck!", "If you end up going the route of poison baits, use a product called racumen. It is the only rodent bait that isn't a secondary poison. That is, if a dog, cat or raptor eats the mouse, it won't die. " ]

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[ "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. ", "Moving to USA (Kansas City,MO) for the next 5 years this fall. What LPTs should I know as a foreigner. " ]

[ "I am not trying to be an insensitive jerk, but Americans are truly put off and disgusted over body odors of any kind. A shower with decent soap daily and brush your teeth too. Also Americans have a big sense of personal space and this was before the Covid pandemic so keep yourself at least an arm’s length away from the person in front of you in a line (queue) waiting for something. And congratulations on studying for your Masters Degree, good luck to you.", "Get any major healthcare/dental work done before the move, expect to drive long distances and for public transit to be limited if available.", "Tip. Usually accepted today as 20% of the bill in any restaurant where you are waited on. Sit down type meals.", "I’m sure you’ll be super busy as a graduate student but if you do get some time off, travel around the US as much as possible. The natural beauty and diversity is my favorite thing about the country.", "Learn about tornados. They most frequently happen in the Spring and Fall. Some places have scheduled times they test the sirens. If not a scheduled time, get in a basement. If no basement is available, jump in the bathtub. If traveling, get in a ditch. A tornado watch means one is possible, a warning means high possibility. If it is daytime and everything turns yellow (like if you wore yellow sunglasses), check your weather app. \n\nAlso there will be American flags everywhere. They sing the star spangled banner before every sporting event. \n\nI hope you have good experiences!", "Kansas City is one of my favorite cities. If you eat pork, go find a good barbecue restaurant and order burnt ends. They're amazing. \n\nThe other major city in the state is St. Louis, which happens to be one of my least favorite cities. You may be tempted to visit because it's in the same state but they're nowhere close to each other. They are on opposite ends of the state, and is a very wide state. \n\nYou will be on a campus, so you should be able to find a community of like-minded people. There may be some temptation to seek out groups that look like you, speak the same language, come from the same country, etc. Those may be good starting points (as there is comfort in familiarity), but it is not a good ending point. Try to make friends and join groups based on your interests rather than your demographic categories. (That's not advice specific to your situation; it's just good advice for anyone).", "I moved from Northern US to the Bible belt (Northern Arkansas) I'll share the culture shocks that got me and you may run into. (I've only traveled through spent a day or two at a time in Kansas city years ago) \n- people inviting me to join their church. Meant kindly and not pushy just wanted me find my religious home I guess? Happened whenever it came up that I wasn't going to a church service for x holiday. \n\n-random people praying for me. The clerk at the gas station asked what brought me to the area, I say a job interview, person behind me asks if she can lay hands on me and pray with me for success???? Other similar things happened in my 2 years there. Christianity is the most common religion. Im not a Christian but didn't broadcast it and had few real issues. Just weirdness. \n\n-research slang for your area. Got told he's showing his butt. To mean he's showing off. Seriously thought somebody took their pants off. Bowing up roughly means getting aggressive. Put it up means put it away, not necessarily up high. \n\n-Bless your heart is not a compliment, sorta means awww you're an idiot aren't you?. \n\n- Speed limits are more of an idea unless there's a speed trap. Can't tell you the number of times I got passed by a cop when I was doing 10 over the limit. I just stayed in the right lane and let those who wanted to do 90+ go for it. \n\n-guns, we've got a lot of em. Might want to research open carry laws in your area so you'll know what to expect. I don't think its common for folks to open carry a pistol like it's the wild west. Might see that way out in the woods if there's big predator animals in the area.\n\n-People will talk a lot about guns more than you'll actually see them. It's like any hobby/passion you put two gun enthusiasts together and all you hear is how far they can shoot, how accurately etc etc. \n\n-if you enjoy cooking, check if the spices/foods you like are available in the US. When I've moved around the US I've had to change my spices/ other groceries or get them offline. Sometimes the little bits of home can make such a big move just a little easier. My BFF still sends me my fav chocolate drops I can't get where I live. I love that little bit of home 20 years later. \n\n-99% of this country is filled with wonderful people 1% are asshats that make the rest of us look horrible. \n\n-Enjoy your time here and definitely check out all the State & National parks you can.", "Do a lot of research about the place you’re moving to. For example, sometimes people make a plan for going to a university in the U.S., and their plan depends heavily on a bicycle. But then when they get there they realize that having a bike won’t help them much in that particular city. (Just an example) \n\nWatch videos about Kansas City, about Missouri, and about the nearest other cities. Start finding out about ways you can participate in the activities that are most important to you (Hiking? Ceramics? Ballroom dance?)", "I don't know Kansas City. I've been working with India for 20 years. Yes it's a big place and trying to generalize is dangerous, maybe more dangerous than expecitng all Americans to be the same. But\n\nIn most cases the Indians I've worked with have to learn to be louder and more assertive in groups like meetings to be noticed. (they also have. more and cooler holidays :)\n\nWelcome and good luck sir.", "You may or may not be familiar with western toilets and the fact that bathrooms will only have toilet paper for wiping your butt with. \n \nBidets exist, but are not common. Baby wipes/butt wipes are becoming more popular. Some say they are flushable, but wreak havoc on plumbing and sewage systems. \n \n", "Winter is cold and wet. You will want a local to take you clothes shopping at a thrift store for the right basics. \n\n Once you are out of the city, you will be in the countryside. Don't go alone, especially when you are a recent arrival. It's nearby but a very different culture. \n\n The art museum in the city is *fantastic*.\n\n Meat is a staple. If you do not eat meat, some popular restaurants will be difficult to visit.\n\n The local (American style gridiron) football team is much like a religion. It's a very big deal in autumn. You may want to be familiar with the basics, as a lot of social activities are centered around watching the games.", "The variety of different authentic food is one of the best things about American cities, and you should go out to eat if you can afford it. That said, sometimes you just want something familiar. [The number one rated restaurant in Kansas City](https://www.google.com/maps/place/Seva+Cuisine+of+India,+8674+NE+Flintlock+Rd,+Kansas+City,+MO+64157/@39.2474384,-94.4664702,17z/data=!4m2!3m1!1s0x87c055ee63c1682f:0x2189eeaa504aa21f), out of over 900 restaurants, is an excellent Indian place.", "Personally, I love ethnic food, especially Indian food; however, people are going to find some Indian spices to give off an offensive odor. \n\nSome people just don't use a lot of different spices, so any smells that they cannot immediately identify will be offensive to them. So if someone complains about your smell, even though you are freshly bathed, it could be the unrecognizable spices they are smelling on you or coming from your home.\n\nAlso, find out where your local Indian grocery store is. The prices and selection of spices is worth the extra effort.", "Hello, local Kansas City dweller! Here’s my list of important know-how’s for living in the City of Fountains:\n\nWe’re known for our BBQ! So definitely come give that a try. Also, we’re home of two American teams for two different very American sports. If you can, you should watch a game of Baseball and American Football. Kansas City is especially known for tailgating, we make it a whole experience here! It would be a great thing to do with the college students you meet. \n\nWe have a lot of things to do here in the city, but don’t be afraid to visit the surrounding areas as well! Some of the best places to eat or hang out are in the towns surrounding Kansas City.\n\nThere’s big social movements going on in the USA that will be especially prevalent in a college setting. I don’t know what your views on various political/social subjects, but try not to get into any debates. They take it really serious on college campuses. Oh, and we have problems in America of churches (sometimes) cults trying to recruit college students into their following. Ignore them. \n\nNone of this is meant to scare you, of course, and I’m sure you’ll do just fine in whatever situation you come across. I hope you enjoy Kansas City and everything it offers!", "Go to www.novacr", "Coming back to this post because I remembered something else. Don’t honk your horn when driving unless: \n1. There is about to be an accident.\n2. Someone isn’t paying attention at a stoplight.\n\nAll other uses of the horn are kind of seen the same as giving someone the middle finger. A lot of places use their car horns way more but it’s not normal to do so in America.", "Where are you coming from? A lot of my international friends were cultute shocked from how white our university was. Not sure KC is this way, but don't be surprised by it", "Kansas City is a great place to live. The people are friendly and kind. Winters can be rough so get a good coat. You're also moving to tornado alley. Get a weather alert radio for your home. KC is the Paris of the Plains and the City of Fountains. The Christmas lights some neighborhoods do are incredible. Have fun and good luck." ]

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[ "How to manage my time in a day? I have more free time throughout the day than most of my friends yet I get less things done. \n \nEg. My room has been a mess for the past two months yet whenever I try to organize I always get distracted or take it too slowly to the point it feels like an unecessary chore since it'll get messy again. I know if I clean it i'll feel better yet I end up making excuses for myself.", "How to manage my time in a day? I have more free time throughout the day than most of my friends yet I get less things done. \n \nEg. My room has been a mess for the past two months yet whenever I try to organize I always get distracted or take it too slowly to the point it feels like an unecessary chore since it'll get messy again. I know if I clean it i'll feel better yet I end up making excuses for myself.", "How to manage my time in a day? I have more free time throughout the day than most of my friends yet I get less things done. \n \nEg. My room has been a mess for the past two months yet whenever I try to organize I always get distracted or take it too slowly to the point it feels like an unecessary chore since it'll get messy again. I know if I clean it i'll feel better yet I end up making excuses for myself." ]

[ "Create a list of tasks you need to achieve and assign each task a reasonable \"due date\" (I use an app/program called Wunderlist for this, but honestly anything works). Be honest with how much you can get done and stick to the due dates. It's hard at first, but if you don't let yourself slip it'll get easier.", "I found this app 'Achievement' and it works great for me.\n\nThe main idea is just accumulating points through doing productive or positive stuff and spend the points to give yourself rewards.\n\nIt has made me act faster in routine tasks because I have to save time for studying in order to earn more points.\n\nAnd I'm currently saving up points for a NS. Feeling very motivated.", "Instead of concentrating on the bigger picture all at once, which can get overwhelming, focus on one or two tasks you want to accomplish each day. Then, in addition to those tasks, make an effort to not undo what you've done previously." ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n", "Tips for a first apartment Hi all!\n\nI'm renting my first apartment in a new city for grad school. What tips can you give me?\n" ]

[ "Take photos of everything before and after you move your stuff in. It'll help with proving you didn't cause damage in the event of a disagreement with your landlord when you move out. \n\nI'd also strongly recommend renters insurance. You never know when you might need it, and it can save you a lot of heartache in the event you have a problem for a relatively low cost. Those photos from after you move in come in handy if you ever need to make a claim. If you do make a claim, call the insurance adjusters before cleaning up whatever caused the damage. \n\nGood luck with the move and congrats on starting the grad program! ", "I would suggest introducing yourself and getting to know your neighbors as soon as possible. Establishing a good rapport with the people who are living right next to is always important and will help open up a line of communication if any issues arise down the road. It will be much easier to ask them to turn down the music if you are on friendly terms as oppose to them not knowing you at all. ", "Buy cheap area rugs (yes even if you have carpeting) and place them on your heavy traffic areas or in front of couches (yes on top of the carpet). It sounds silly but you save your floors from bad spills, burns, or stains that you could get charged for on your move out. And they can accent a room :)", "Understand the financials of renting to help estimate what's in your price range, and also be prepared to move quickly on a place you like. Plan on having to put down first month's rent, last month's rent and security deposit (typically equal to one month's rent) upon signing. Not every landlord will ask for all of this, but many will so you should plan on it. \n\nIf you're renting a place that's above a bar/restaurant, ask the landlord to show you the apartment during evening business hours so you can accurately assess noise levels. You don't want to move into a place that you viewed at 10am on a Tuesday, only to find out that they have live bands every Thurs - Sat nights. \n\n", "Often, apartments are noisier than single family homes. You'll get completely used to it. Remember that however well you can hear your neighbor, he can hear you just as well.", "Mark every little blemish you see in you apartment on the inspection sheet and request a copy for personal documentation with the office's signature/stamp. In case they 'lose' it at move out.\n\nFind an apartment you feel comfortable living in more than one year and sign the lease for the duration of grad school. Moving halfway through grad school sucks because of time and money.\n\nCheck out the apartment once during business hours to see how many residents actually have jobs. The more vacant the building the better. Check the apartment once in the evening to see if there are noise issues, loud families, parties, etc. Wait until a Wed or Thurs evening.\n\nSee if there are discounts to rent or if you can get perks added on for free.\n\nDepending on your city's climate, taking a fully surrounded apartment can be beneficial during the winter. I had on in Denver, CO for a few years and never turned on my heat during the winter. Save a lot of money on electric.\n\nTry not to rent from and interstate rental company, only local or individual properties. The big rental companies tend to have high staff turnover and the staff are incompetent/have no power to help you out. ", "I've inspectet college rooms as a job, here are my five cents.\n\nCheck everything before moving in, not just visually but also functionaly. Does the tap works, does the sink empty itelf fast enough, does any door scratch the floor, do the lights works. Check furniture if it's provided (like kitchen drawers).\n\nVisual inspection is important, bring a light torch. If it is newly paintend they may try to hide humidity problems, if it's badly done you might see darker spots in corners when it's better lit (hence the light). The good way to look for scratches on door/floor or deposits in the bathroom is trough reflection.\n\n\nThe \"landlord\" will probably provide you with an \"inspection sheet\", you can and should \"contribute\" to it in the right delay like /r/vtransient says, but don't rush either, you might discover new defaults by living inside it. If you have ten days to give it back, do it on the 9th (doing it on time is still the most important part, better forget some minor problems than get blamed for the big ones)\n\nRead your contract trough and trough, if you don't get something ask away. Don't leave grey areas as who pays for electricity or heating charges.\n\nYour school might provide a \"social help service\", do they have a flyer for new studend, or housing advices. Call them, ask if they had complains about the landlord, if they could go trough your contract with you, are you renting in the bad part of town, etc", "Check your reception in the most interior part of the house, as far frm any doors and windows as you can get. I don't have cell service since my place is halfway below ground, but I save a ton on heating and air.", "1. Visit the apartment before you rent between the hours of 7-11 to see what your neighbors are doing outside. 2. Find out what the clauses are to break a lease. Some require you pay the remainder, others 2 months worth, or some just a percentage of the security. Important just in case something happens (you leave school, need to move back because of health, crappy neighborhood, etc.) 3. Check Sex predator websites to make sure your apartment is not full of creepers. 4. Try to lease where you can leech internet close by, library, McDonalds, Starbucks. ", "paper towels make great napkins AND plates in a pinch. I'm 33, have kids, am married (both of us have \"good\" jobs) and we STILL do this... usually because someone forgot to wash dishes or buy more plates. " ]

[ 6, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to have a conversation with a distractingly beautiful girl. There is this girl that I am really into, she is smart and funny, she's opinionated and well thought, kind, supper fun. However, I have a problem in conversing with her one on one due to how extraordinarily pretty she is. I realize how dumb of a problem this is, unfortunately it's a real problem. I really want to get to know this girl for who she actually is but I'm having trouble not being distracted by how piercing her eyes are; the way the light gleams off of her jet black hair; the unique, slight, curve of her nose. She really is hypnotizing.\n\nAnyway, I finally found the courage to ask her out and have a date with her on Sunday. Really don't want to blow it with this girl, need to solve the problem by then. Any tips would help! ", "How to have a conversation with a distractingly beautiful girl. There is this girl that I am really into, she is smart and funny, she's opinionated and well thought, kind, supper fun. However, I have a problem in conversing with her one on one due to how extraordinarily pretty she is. I realize how dumb of a problem this is, unfortunately it's a real problem. I really want to get to know this girl for who she actually is but I'm having trouble not being distracted by how piercing her eyes are; the way the light gleams off of her jet black hair; the unique, slight, curve of her nose. She really is hypnotizing.\n\nAnyway, I finally found the courage to ask her out and have a date with her on Sunday. Really don't want to blow it with this girl, need to solve the problem by then. Any tips would help! ", "How to have a conversation with a distractingly beautiful girl. There is this girl that I am really into, she is smart and funny, she's opinionated and well thought, kind, supper fun. However, I have a problem in conversing with her one on one due to how extraordinarily pretty she is. I realize how dumb of a problem this is, unfortunately it's a real problem. I really want to get to know this girl for who she actually is but I'm having trouble not being distracted by how piercing her eyes are; the way the light gleams off of her jet black hair; the unique, slight, curve of her nose. She really is hypnotizing.\n\nAnyway, I finally found the courage to ask her out and have a date with her on Sunday. Really don't want to blow it with this girl, need to solve the problem by then. Any tips would help! ", "How to have a conversation with a distractingly beautiful girl. There is this girl that I am really into, she is smart and funny, she's opinionated and well thought, kind, supper fun. However, I have a problem in conversing with her one on one due to how extraordinarily pretty she is. I realize how dumb of a problem this is, unfortunately it's a real problem. I really want to get to know this girl for who she actually is but I'm having trouble not being distracted by how piercing her eyes are; the way the light gleams off of her jet black hair; the unique, slight, curve of her nose. She really is hypnotizing.\n\nAnyway, I finally found the courage to ask her out and have a date with her on Sunday. Really don't want to blow it with this girl, need to solve the problem by then. Any tips would help! ", "How to have a conversation with a distractingly beautiful girl. There is this girl that I am really into, she is smart and funny, she's opinionated and well thought, kind, supper fun. However, I have a problem in conversing with her one on one due to how extraordinarily pretty she is. I realize how dumb of a problem this is, unfortunately it's a real problem. I really want to get to know this girl for who she actually is but I'm having trouble not being distracted by how piercing her eyes are; the way the light gleams off of her jet black hair; the unique, slight, curve of her nose. She really is hypnotizing.\n\nAnyway, I finally found the courage to ask her out and have a date with her on Sunday. Really don't want to blow it with this girl, need to solve the problem by then. Any tips would help! " ]

[ "If you're really fumbling for words on your date or get in an awkward spot, you could just be honest. \n\"I'm really interested in getting to know you but I find your beauty distracting.\"\nShe'll be flattered but also know that you like her for more than her looks. Win/win.", "realize that [this](http://www.billboard.com/files/media/linda-ronstadt-dress-650-430.jpg) can easily turn into [this](http://www.gannett-cdn.com/-mm-/96256efd5c19165d6f460e5914edfda8dcd5db62/c=166-0-2833-2000&r=x408&c=540x405/local/-/media/2015/05/08/Wilmington/B9317236682Z.1_20150508121354_000_GBNAN3FLA.1-0.jpg)", "Always be confident. And don't converse with the intention of getting the number or her into bed. Those leave an air of desperation when that is the intention. women are averse to desperation.", "I used to hate going to auditions for acting parts. Was so nervous.\n\nBut then I started going as a character.\n\nI was myself, but a different version of myself. I was not a liar. I was not representing myself poorly. I was just a more confident version of myself. I was in character - so nervousness was not part of that persona. \n\nAnd that made all the difference.", "All I could suggest it to avoid eye contact, point things out so she looks away from you. It will get easier as you spend time with her." ]

[ 12, 11, 5, 1, 0 ]

[ "Does anyone have a dead-man's switch for their online and digital life in case they die? Wife and I have talked recently about starting a family and this lead me to start thinking about having my ducks in a row. Life insurance, Will, and what happens to my online ghost if I pass. I'm a techie and A LOT of my life is digital. Not just social media but accounts and passwords to bank accounts, mortgage payments, employment paycheck systems, forums, email accounts, Terabytes worth of files on my computers, etc. I feel like it would be a good idea to have some kind of dead-man's switch that emails me like once a month or week and if it gets ignored like multiple times it triggers something to send all of my passwords, wishes, and info I need onto my wife and family. Does anyone have anything like this set up? How'd you do it?", "Does anyone have a dead-man's switch for their online and digital life in case they die? Wife and I have talked recently about starting a family and this lead me to start thinking about having my ducks in a row. Life insurance, Will, and what happens to my online ghost if I pass. I'm a techie and A LOT of my life is digital. Not just social media but accounts and passwords to bank accounts, mortgage payments, employment paycheck systems, forums, email accounts, Terabytes worth of files on my computers, etc. I feel like it would be a good idea to have some kind of dead-man's switch that emails me like once a month or week and if it gets ignored like multiple times it triggers something to send all of my passwords, wishes, and info I need onto my wife and family. Does anyone have anything like this set up? How'd you do it?", "Does anyone have a dead-man's switch for their online and digital life in case they die? Wife and I have talked recently about starting a family and this lead me to start thinking about having my ducks in a row. Life insurance, Will, and what happens to my online ghost if I pass. I'm a techie and A LOT of my life is digital. Not just social media but accounts and passwords to bank accounts, mortgage payments, employment paycheck systems, forums, email accounts, Terabytes worth of files on my computers, etc. I feel like it would be a good idea to have some kind of dead-man's switch that emails me like once a month or week and if it gets ignored like multiple times it triggers something to send all of my passwords, wishes, and info I need onto my wife and family. Does anyone have anything like this set up? How'd you do it?", "Does anyone have a dead-man's switch for their online and digital life in case they die? Wife and I have talked recently about starting a family and this lead me to start thinking about having my ducks in a row. Life insurance, Will, and what happens to my online ghost if I pass. I'm a techie and A LOT of my life is digital. Not just social media but accounts and passwords to bank accounts, mortgage payments, employment paycheck systems, forums, email accounts, Terabytes worth of files on my computers, etc. I feel like it would be a good idea to have some kind of dead-man's switch that emails me like once a month or week and if it gets ignored like multiple times it triggers something to send all of my passwords, wishes, and info I need onto my wife and family. Does anyone have anything like this set up? How'd you do it?" ]

[ "Google has something under settings where it emails access to your email and photos to a named recipient after a number of months. I've done it.", "We do this through our personal server. Internet network traffic isn't monitored for the killswitch. We monitor server intranet traffic (security cameras) and one specific application that we use internally that even an intruder wouldn't know to access regularly. In other words, you can't kill us and live here and get away with it. Our system knows you ain't me. \n\n\nA chron job to start the process, some automatic emails sent, Emergency Mode activated on the server, limited access based on credentials, and it all shuts down, locks out, and scrambles everything left after 7 days. Necessary data goes to necessary persons, unnecessary data is permanently encrypted. Hack at that baby for millennia and it's only going to laugh and say, \"Who's root? Ain't you! ahahahah.\" \n\n\nHubby's IT. I'm logistics. Our digital death is as planned and documented as we can muster.", "Do your family and friends really care about your terabytes of furry porn? Or your forum login for TugAndPlug.com?Often, what is important to us can elicit bemusement, shock, and disgust in others.", "I believe the password manager Dashlane offers functionality similar to what you're looking for. Haven't tested that particular function myself, though, for semi-obvious reasons." ]

[ 9, 5, 3, 1 ]

[ "What are some unsuspecting areas in life that you should absolutely hire a professional vs trying to learn how to do the job yourself? Sorry if this question has been posted before and I missed it. What are surprising or unsuspecting areas, even learned the hard way? Obviously medical work, electrical household work, etc. are all no brainer, call a professional areas.", "What are some unsuspecting areas in life that you should absolutely hire a professional vs trying to learn how to do the job yourself? Sorry if this question has been posted before and I missed it. What are surprising or unsuspecting areas, even learned the hard way? Obviously medical work, electrical household work, etc. are all no brainer, call a professional areas.", "What are some unsuspecting areas in life that you should absolutely hire a professional vs trying to learn how to do the job yourself? Sorry if this question has been posted before and I missed it. What are surprising or unsuspecting areas, even learned the hard way? Obviously medical work, electrical household work, etc. are all no brainer, call a professional areas.", "What are some unsuspecting areas in life that you should absolutely hire a professional vs trying to learn how to do the job yourself? Sorry if this question has been posted before and I missed it. What are surprising or unsuspecting areas, even learned the hard way? Obviously medical work, electrical household work, etc. are all no brainer, call a professional areas." ]

[ "In general: anything you're not willing to put the time into learning how to do well, and suffering through the early mistakes. For me an easy filter is: 'Will I ever need to do this again?' If no, I hire a professional.", "I'll go with driving instruction.\n\nMost Americans just teach their kids. I got a lesson from my dad's girlfriend in her Rabbit, which was a lot less stressful than the lessons my father gave me, and he was patient, but it was my dad.\n\nDriving is a bit too important a skill to just let dad give you a few tips. Spend the money on a reputable professional instructor. The life you save may be your child's.", "\"Taping\" drywall. If it isn't perfect you will notice it forever, and it won't be perfect if you haven't done it for a long time with the right tools", "Not as bad as most of the stuff listed but I bought a new bed frame with a bunch of drawers in the bottom for storage. It was 50 dollars more to have the company assemble for me. Instead I choose to save 50 bucks and do it myself. Took an entire day! Basically built a dresser then the bed frame and all using the crappy wooden pegs and Allen wrench that it came with. NOT worth saving 50 bucks. Pay the people to build it for you." ]

[ 8, 5, 2, 0 ]

[ "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"", "How do you ask questions at work without annoying your busy peers and superiors? Sometimes, something is explained to me, but it's not quite clear. Or something comes up later and I have follow up questions. I always hesitate to bother people with questions, because I know it will irritate them. If they're busy with something important, and another message comes in from me at the wrong time, they're going to think \"ugg what does he want now?\"" ]

[ "In my experience, asking a second time is much less annoying then someone having to clean up your mess because you were too scared to ask. Also, whether they like it or not, coworkers are there to support each other. I don't know what field you are in, but in the IT field, a new employee can cause a lot of damage due to not knowing what they are doing. Ask a second, third, and fourth time until you get it.", "I learned pretty early on that frequent, unplanned interruptions aren't welcome. Compile your questions complete with working examples, then put 30 minutes on somebody's calendar. The examples will give you the foundation you need to not ask again, and the calendar time you requested will not feel like an unplanned interruption to the tutor. That tutor will also recognize that you came to the meeting fully prepared to discuss the topic.", "Get a work buddy - someone you like and feel comfortable asking questions to. I honestly ask 100s of questions to my coworkers because I'd rather be considered annoying and do things correctly than be considered quiet and get things all wrong.", "The big thing is to convey what efforts you’ve taken prior to asking the question. I always phrase it like “ I looked here and here and didn’t find what I needed, would you be able to help?”. It shows you made the effort to self-serve and changes the perception.", "Just gotta bite the bullet and ask. If you don't ask, you won't be clear on your responsibility. If your not clear on your responsibility, you're opening yourself up to make mistakes. Your peers and superiors will be more annoyed that you aren't doing your job right than they will be if you ask questions to make sure you're doing your job right.", "Ask yourself…are you truly not wanting to be annoying? Or are you embarrassed that they’ll think you’re stupid? \n\nIf the first one, then just wait for a dip in the conversation to get your question in. You’ll get better at timing it so it’s not interrupting. \n\nIf it’s the second reason, then fuhgeddabooouut it and ask away.", "I'm a big fan of the saying \"Don't bring me problems, bring me solutions\" when I need to ask questions at work, so instead of \"Hey, what do I do about (thing)?\" I'll always be more along the lines of \"Hey, am I right in thinking that I should be doing (thing) about (the thing)?\"\n\nIt makes a big difference if you show you're actively trying to deal with things yourself and are just checking you're doing it right, rather than seeming like you're just asking someone else to do your thinking for you. Plus, every time your initial idea/suggestion is met with a \"Yes, that's right,\" that's a confidence boost for you *and* makes you look more competent to whoever you're asking.", "Firstly , make sure it’s not a question you can’t figure out on your own. Secondly do not ask same questions over and over, this is annoying. Most folks will be receptive to questions if they sense you’re actually struggling but if they sense laziness, you screwed.", "In an engineering team, I hired 2 interns. I told them the most important lesson you will learn, is how to get people to help you even if they are all 200% overloaded. \n- be clear and organized with the raw data and the help needed\n- send them the issue in an email first \n- text them you sent them a question \n- walk. Or call an hour later to discuss \nI do the same with my boss and coworkers.", "1. Figure out exactly what you don’t get before asking\n2. Wait for a time that is seemingly convenient for them and do something else while waiting\n3. Take a voice memo when they explain it to you so you can replay it for extra help until you get it if not then repeat", "Don't ask how to do the whole task. Ask about the specific part that you don't remember. If it's the second time they've had to show you something, take notes so they won't think you'll have to ask the same question again.", "Ask away. If you fuck it up because you didnt ask, theyll be upset. If they get mad because you ask, then next time intentionally fuck it up to teach them a lesson about not being dicks.", "As someone who trains new people, id rather you ask a million times than never and mess up. I'd rather lose 100 minutes of my life than $100", "Always better to ask the question. As someone more senior, I always tell people this: the only stupid question is the one you don’t ask. I also like questions because they make me think and sometimes I get to learn too!", "A good thing to remember is that they are going to be a lot more annoyed if you don't ask questions and you do it wrong and fuck something up.\n\nSo yes maybe they might exhibit minor frustration, but their emotions don't need to cause you harm.", "If you are truly concerned or have received feedback that you are disruptive - one thing that can help is saving a list of all your questions/concerns and trying to get as far as you can with your work as possible and then requesting a 15 minute check in with your supervisor at the end or beginning of the day. If you use this approach, you won't have to pop in multiple times throughout the day, disrupting their work. (I realize this won't work for everyone based on the speed and type of the work, when it needs to get done, how much work you have, etc.)", "I feel really sensitive to irritating people at work too. Write it down? It helps me. Sometimes my questions are irrelevant or I find the answer on my own and I can bring up the important ones when I need to. I like lists too...\n\nDon't take things personally at work though, I know, it's not easy! But, some/most people aren't even thinking about you when a message you sends goes through, probably?\n\nJust be grateful you are the kind of person who doesn't go around offending people at work and remains oblivious to it. It's generally a strength that you notice and think about other people.\n\nHonestly, your boss will probably tell you in some way or give you a clear warning if you're truly annoying them.", "Don't ask questions specific to you at a meeting. I've had meetings that drag on even though I didn't need to be there. \n\nIf its a general issue or if you need input from the team as a collective, then do raise it though. This can save a whole bunch of email chains and waiting around for x person to reply before y person can.", "As someone managing a team of 5 mostly fresh hires and fresh college grads. Please ask. Ask before you make a mess. Pause if things don't feel right. Take longer but discuss things. Its so much easier to teach then to think of ways to fix messes. \n\nPS. I work in digital advertising and we manage clients budgets so an error could be problematic to say the least.", "As others have said, better to ask twice or three times than mess it up. However, to give some other advice, get yourself a notebook and pen and take notes and make a to-do list. The act of writing it down will help cement the information and then you have a reference to go back to. And if you still can't remember, ask.", "Keep asking me in a loop if you did not understood what i was saying to you. I prefer that than cleaning the mess after.", "How do you know it will irritate them? Just ask the question. You’ll always look better to employers when you’re assertive. Plus, fuck them. They don’t deserve an ounce of your fear because they’ll fire you if need be without giving a shit about how it affects your life or family. Sorry but true", "Ask questions in email or in the workplace chat app, and make it clear that you want the person to answer when it is convenient for THEM.\n\nTake notes so that you aren't asking the same question twice. \n\nLearn who the best people are for each type of question, and spread your questions around so you're not bugging one person excessively.", "in my two cents, there is never a stupid question at a work place. And if someone even your boss gets annoyed at it, they either didnt teach you or they didnt explain it well enough so you should consider it their faulyt. Dont be afriad to ask ask ask! You could create a mess and have everyone clean it up because you didnt understand well enough.", "You just ask. If someone thinks you’re annoying they will probably tell you. When someone is explaining something write it down or rephrase it back to them to see if you’re fully understand. Asking questions is not a bad thing especially if you’re being genuine.", "With a pen and paper in hand. Don’t ever approach your boss with questions if you are not prepared to write down the answer. If they ever approach you and start saying something just say “give me one second, I want to grab a pen”", "This is how good mentors develop the team around them. It is part of their job. No one junior has mastered every skill else they would not be junior. Be efficient but go ahead and ask." ]

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[ "How to get the drawstring back in my basketball shorts? my dog loves dangly things...she grabbed hold of my drawstring and pulled it completely out. Now I have a pair of shorts that are slightly too big and a rather thick drawstring I cant seem to thread through all the way around and back to the front. please help!", "How to get the drawstring back in my basketball shorts? my dog loves dangly things...she grabbed hold of my drawstring and pulled it completely out. Now I have a pair of shorts that are slightly too big and a rather thick drawstring I cant seem to thread through all the way around and back to the front. please help!" ]

[ "wire coat hanger, cut off the bottom part. Tape one end as to not tear the shorts(the ends will be sharp) and thread that end through the passage for the string. tape the string to the end and pull it through.", "Use a \"[bodkin](https://www.createforless.com/Bodkin-by-Dritz-Ezy-Pull-3-1/4-in/pid13120.aspx?utm_source=googlebase&utm_medium=cse&CAGPSPN=pla&CAWELAID=1439798182&catargetid=530001980000044430&cadevice=c&gclid=CN7Jn6Sf0skCFUwYHwodt0kIlA)\" or '[drawstring puller](http://www.amazon.com/Dritz-235-Drawstring-Threader-23/dp/B001B9FBO4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1449783248&sr=8-1&keywords=drawstring+puller)' -- or the safety pin / wire hanger if you are inclined. \nIt happens a lot , especially with small animals around - so I spent the $5 on Amazon years ago. " ]

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[ "Remove moldy/mildew smell from non-washable items I put my nice fall boots in the basement for storage and now they smell like, well, basement. How do I remove the smell without washing?", "Remove moldy/mildew smell from non-washable items I put my nice fall boots in the basement for storage and now they smell like, well, basement. How do I remove the smell without washing?", "Remove moldy/mildew smell from non-washable items I put my nice fall boots in the basement for storage and now they smell like, well, basement. How do I remove the smell without washing?" ]

[ "Pure lavender oil. Kills mildew and mold. Wipe it on and you are done. This works unbelievably well. Highly recommended.", "Take the boots and put them in a sealed plastic bag. Then put them in the freezer. If it's genuine mold this may not work, but lingering foot stank should be neutralized. Works great on uggs. ", "Fill up a pair of socks with scented cat litter, put them in the boots and put them inside a plastic bag.\n\nWait a day and you will be good to go.\n" ]

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[ "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? ", "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? ", "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? ", "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? ", "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? ", "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? ", "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? ", "How to get better at explaining/debating? Or thinking on your feet. I consider myself a knowledgeable person, however, I can't ever articulate what I know correctly, I stumble and forget important details. For example, if I'm out with friends and we start talking about a controversial theme, I always have a hard time trying to make it sound rational. Is it constant practice? reading more? " ]

[ "Read a lot about the topics you're most interested in. Jot down a few main points per topic, the way you want it to sound if you were actually saying it during a debate. When it comes to actually talking with your friends, interject with these points. Keep calm when debating, I know when I get nervous, that's when I can't express myself correctly. Also, when a friend brings something up, ask controversial questions to them to disprove their point.\n\nTaking debate/public speaking classes help too. Even on the internet you can debate! Once you've practiced a little by debating online, by taking your time to write, verbally debating becomes a little easier because you know the facts, and then it's just practice.", "Like all things in life, articulation and idea sharing can be improved with practice.\n\nFirst identify where you go wrong. Do you talk too fast? Get caught up on \"umms\", \"likes\", words that don't add anything? Give wrong information? Get distracted by something else so you don't properly complete your thought? Do you have the vocabulary to express your thought, or do you struggle to find the word that matches what you mean? \n\nOnce you know what you're doing wrong, practice. By yourself, pick something in your house and talk about it, avoiding the pitfalls I mentioned above. Practice with a trusted friend, explaining that you want to contribute more in group discussions so are trying to communicate more clearly. Chat with people on reddit.", "just listen to people you agree with on the internet, radio, TV, Ect. and observe how they dissect opinions.", "Lawyer here. This is basically what I do for a living! Whether it's simply discussing with a client the options, advising an approach the client initially doesn't like, or negotiating with the other party, it's all about articulating calmly and convincingly.\n\nAs you have suspected, practice is a big component of it. Sometimes I will draft up the words I want to say and then practice saying them to myself, out loud. Other times, I go out of my way to find ways to explain the thing to folks not involved in the case. This forces me to use the simplest language, keep it engaging, and get to the point quickly.\n\nThe formula is always generally the same:\n\n* Say your premise (\"This is about a mother's love. A mother's love for heroin and crack cocaine.\"), just one or two sentences. Could use dramatic language even.\n* Briefly set the scene or give just a couple sentences of background.\n* State the crux of your position.\n* State your weakest point or the other side's strongest point, followed immediately by why you're still correct or the other side is still wrong.\n* Conclude, and end by circling back to that initial 1-2 sentence opener.\n\nAgain, go to an empty room and actually practice saying the words. Think in terms of blocks or chunks, or work from an outline, so you can pick your specific words on the spot each time. Don't try to map out every word.\n\nThe above works if you're going to get to talk uninterrupted for at least several minutes. If you're in an active dialogue where others are chiming in after every few sentences (shooting the shit with your pals), you have to master disagreeing with someone without them raising their guard.\n\n* If things get heated, STAY CALM. Bonus if you can laugh at the ridiculousness of the argument and yourself (\"Man, I'm sounding so stupidly serious about this right now, aren't I!\")\n* Find something the person said you can genuinely agree with, and say so. \"Yeah, that's true, Nicolas Cage *was* a pretty good actor in that movie\" (when debating whether a particular movie is The Best movie).\n* When you go in for the point where you disagree, keep your sentences as short as possible. \"But just him. The other actors weren't so great. And the pacing was too abrupt.\"\n* Expand on your strongest of these points, getting buy-in wherever you can. \"That scene on the couch? Bam! and then we were back in the store, and then suddenly the other lady already had done the thing.\"\n* Wrap up cleanly and humbly. \"So, that movie could have been better. Maybe I need to see it again I guess?\"\n\nBut, as a lawyer, generally my goal is to resolve things amicably via negotiation and avoid going to court. Similarly, no true friendship is worth a small win in some verbal debate. Perhaps it is a blessing that you have not had the practice required to make you a stellar debator!", "First thing to do, spend more time listening than talking. Before you jump into the discussion, have a good grasp of what the topic truly is. When you do, let everyone else put out their own opinion. Once they have, you'll probably find that you agree with one or more people in the discussion. Use them to your advantage.\n\nWork off of what they have said, choose one area of the topic that you have the most information on and focus on it. ", "Practice definitely helps - I was a formal debater in my youth (almost made the State representative side), and in my middle age still spend a lot of time presenting to groups or running meetings / discussions. That helps overcome a lot of the stumbling stuff - you get good at holding a space, pausing to let your brain catch up, and so on.\n\nIn regards to actually making a strong, coherent 'argument', there are 3 tips I share.\n\n1) Ask yourself, **\"What helped me decide my opinion in this situation?\"** This must be a strong point, because it influenced you, so it a good one to share - especially if you changed your mind on a topic, because then you can show the evolution of your thought.\n\nSince you mentioned controversial themes, let me give you a personal example on gay marriage. A long time ago, I was anti-gay marriage - I believed that 'marriage' was an ancient institution between a man and a woman, and that as long as LBGTQIs received the same civil rights under a Civil Union then there was no need to redefine 'Marriage'. Two things changed my mind.\n\nThe first was learning how malleable the concept of 'marriage' has been throughout history - even the Bible is ambiguous on this topic, so arguing that 'marriage has always been a monogamous, heterosexual union for life' is like arguing that 'humans have always been capable of heavier-than-air flight' - it's confusing 20th Century history with all of human history.\n\nSecondly, I realised that allowing/supporting gay marriage was important to those involved and made no difference on my life at all. I may as well oppose the sale of chocolate ice-cream to children in Spain. If you're opposed to gay marriage, don't marry a gay person - why try and interfere with their happiness.\n\nSo if I ever get involved on this controversial theme, even though there are loads of other arguments one could make (discrimination etc), these are the only two I need to share. If people keep disagreeing with me, then I'm unlikely to change their mind.\n\n2) When trying to understand the perspective or actions of another person, ask yourself **'Is there one more piece of information that you don't have, which could perfectly explain the situation?'**\n\nPeople often debate without realising the many assumptions their argument is built upon, so they may say something that sounds ridiculous to us on the other side. Our natural instinct is to exaggerate the ridiculous, to try and make them realise how silly their argument is - but going to the extreme usually just makes them defensive, and us look silly.\n\nA better approach is to think about that 'one more piece of information', and start investigating it.\n\nTake someone who says 'Donald Trump is a great economic President - just look at the stock market growth since he was elected'. If we were on the other side of that, we'd be tempted to go extreme or absurd - 'So if Trump declared war on China, and the stock market went up because of the trillions that would flow into the military-industrial complex, you'd argue he was still a great President?' Even if that were a logical extension of their argument, it's pretty easy to shoot down by saying 'Trump would never declare war on China' or 'My case is about his economic credentials, not him as a wartime leader'.\n\nSo what 'piece/s of information' are they assuming? For one, their argument rests on there being a strong connection between a President's economic capability and stock market growth (hint: there's not). You could even ask them - 'Are you saying rising share prices are a sign of a good economic President?', and when they confirm that ask 'So why do you think Bill Clinton was a better economic President than George Bush?' In a debate situation, this may start picking away at some of the fundamentals of their argument. (In real life, it will probably trigger cognitive bias, although Scott Adams recently made the suggestion that triggering cognitive bias is the closest to a 'win' most of us can hope for when debating.)\n\n3) Lastly, and perhaps most simply, before launching into your argument **aim to distill your case into one Key Point** (or two, or three tops).\n\nIt can be tempting to overwhelm your debating buddy with arguments, but chances are they will prey on the weakest links you make. \n\nIf you give 50 reasons why climate change is real, chances are most of them are going to be tenuous in fact (soundness) or logic (validity). Say your buddy shoots down 40 of the 50 points you've made - to you and I, that means they failed to disprove the 10 most important points so you win the argument. But chances are to them, and everyone watching, it feels like a massive victory to them because they shot down almost everything you put up.\n\nWhat I find with this narrow focus is that it also helps me relate minor points back to major ones. For climate change, both global temperatures and Antarctic sea-ice levels are good arguments in favour of its effect - but they're clearly related. It may be stronger, debating wise, to focus on the sea-ice which has been more objectively measured over a period of time and is a more visual argument to make. When the topic of temperatures comes up, link it back to sea-ice. This strengthens your key point, rather than diluting it.\n\n**I'll leave you with a final thought: don't take any discussion or debate too seriously. Your brain wants you to be right, and your body wants you to be happy. As a society, we need to listen to our bodies more often.**", "Philosophy / Critical thinking major here. \n\nIt all depends on what you want. You say you're out with some buddies and want to seem more rational. There's the way that lets you win arguments and the way that makes you a deep thinker and an important part of the conversation. \n\nThe first option wins debates and arguments, but seldom convinces the other person of your point of view, and honestly will make you come off as an ass. The idea is to listen carefully to what your friend is arguing until they say something truly false or something that is subjective to everyone. After you've identified the point they have made that is false or subjective, point it out and prove that if that key feature is false or could be false the rest of the argument is invalid. This is because argument are built on a group of points or facts, so if one of the points is invalid the entire argument or many components of the argument will be invalid as well. If you point this out and never stray from that one invalid topic you will come out on top. Again, only use this if you want to lose friends or if you are in an academic or legal situation as it's a pretty cut and dry way to rule out opposing arguments. \n\nSecond way. First off, use the words \"in my opinion\" or \"I think\" very often instead of saying \"that is completely false\" or something like that. Point out what you agree with and what you are not so sure about in an argument. If they push back with opposition and you want to seem like a logical or rational person without offending anyone, push for a philosophical or ethical deeper meaning to the question. For example, if your friend says \"Abortion is fine because the brain of the fetus is not as developed as it is later in life\" say something like \"I suppose it all comes down to when a human being develops into a conscious person\". This way will never hurt feelings and is a quick way to seem rational and smart without being a dick about it. \n\nHope that helps out. \n", "First step is realizing that you're not as knowledgeable as you think. This is similar to the person who says they just aren't good at taking tests. After that, instead of engaging in rigorous debates and making a fool of yourself, try witty banter or ad hominem attacks." ]

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[ "Should I call back? Hi, I wasn’t sure where to post this. I received a call from a Minnesota number (out of state) to “please call back before legal proceedings begin”. I have no idea what this is for and am afraid to call back as they may just be collecting my info. Any advice?", "Should I call back? Hi, I wasn’t sure where to post this. I received a call from a Minnesota number (out of state) to “please call back before legal proceedings begin”. I have no idea what this is for and am afraid to call back as they may just be collecting my info. Any advice?", "Should I call back? Hi, I wasn’t sure where to post this. I received a call from a Minnesota number (out of state) to “please call back before legal proceedings begin”. I have no idea what this is for and am afraid to call back as they may just be collecting my info. Any advice?", "Should I call back? Hi, I wasn’t sure where to post this. I received a call from a Minnesota number (out of state) to “please call back before legal proceedings begin”. I have no idea what this is for and am afraid to call back as they may just be collecting my info. Any advice?", "Should I call back? Hi, I wasn’t sure where to post this. I received a call from a Minnesota number (out of state) to “please call back before legal proceedings begin”. I have no idea what this is for and am afraid to call back as they may just be collecting my info. Any advice?" ]

[ "LPT any reputable place that may be trying to contact you will leave a voicemail with clear information about who they are. Google this info and call the number on their website or page, this way you know you’re talking to who you think you are. If they don’t give any info about themselves, it’s probably something you can ignore, and if they have info about you, do as I said above and make sure you are talking to legit people.", "Don’t call. It is a scam or phishing attempt using fear as a motivator. Any valid attempt will leave info on who they are and how to contact.", "Most of the time if it’s an out of state number all of those cars extended warranty or urgent info needed calls are complete bs. \nWhat they started doing was pulling numbers and calling local area codes to get people to answer more.\n\nWhat I did was buy a phone in Chicago (I live in Florida) so now when I get random calls from Chicago’s area code I know it’s just some automated call that doesn’t pertain to me.", "I agree with those saying it’s bs. My test of things like this: If I only used a landline, would I be concerned about missed calls? Nope. Same with email spam: if I didn’t use email, would I lose sleep worrying I’m missing important messages? Again, no. \n\nMy tests, which are based on solely using ancient methods of communication, still makes sense because some people (not many) still don’t use more modern technology so businesses and governmental agencies still have to use snail mail if all else fails. \n\nTruly important, actionable information will seldom be communicated solely by voicemail or email. If you intentionally sign up to receive valid communications electronically, that’s different. But really serious stuff—real lawsuit threats or IRS business, things like that, will come to you via USPS (in the US).", "*DO NOT CALL BACK!! EVER!!!*\n\nIt's always spammers/con artists and they're trying to get your personal info...cr" ]

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[ "How do I become more productive when I'm doing work at home? For me, it's homework, but it could apply to any type of work. When I'm at home, I struggle to get stay focused and get work done, but when I'm at school I can work very quickly and finish in half the time it would take me at home.", "How do I become more productive when I'm doing work at home? For me, it's homework, but it could apply to any type of work. When I'm at home, I struggle to get stay focused and get work done, but when I'm at school I can work very quickly and finish in half the time it would take me at home.", "How do I become more productive when I'm doing work at home? For me, it's homework, but it could apply to any type of work. When I'm at home, I struggle to get stay focused and get work done, but when I'm at school I can work very quickly and finish in half the time it would take me at home.", "How do I become more productive when I'm doing work at home? For me, it's homework, but it could apply to any type of work. When I'm at home, I struggle to get stay focused and get work done, but when I'm at school I can work very quickly and finish in half the time it would take me at home.", "How do I become more productive when I'm doing work at home? For me, it's homework, but it could apply to any type of work. When I'm at home, I struggle to get stay focused and get work done, but when I'm at school I can work very quickly and finish in half the time it would take me at home." ]

[ "This might fall under cheesy generic advice but just remind yourself that any given task will only take x number of minutes. \n\nSure, doing the dishes sucks, but if you remind yourself that it only takes ten minutes and afterward you'll still have hours upon hours of free time left to your day (let alone the satisfaction that those damn dishes are done), it might help. ", "Assign an area where you never EVER do anything but homework. For example, my table is exclusively for work. Want to browse reddit, play games, watch movies, procrastinate? WALK to the couch. This means that the area is tied to doing work, and the couch is tied to reddit. Just don't go on the couch too much ;)", "Music works best for me. Results vary greatly from person to person, so you might have to try a few things to test if this or something else does the ticket for you.\n\nI go to Youtube and find a long selection of instrumental music, maybe soundtracks or relaxing or classical, and then I slap on the earphones. Next thing I know I've worked a long stretch straight and it's time to take a break. So I give myself 10 minutes and then snap the music back on and wade back in.", "I would say, take a power nap for around 15 mins before you start (you don't have to fall asleep, just need to feel rested). And after that, turn on your **focus mode** and ignore anything else other than your work. After 30 mins, take a short break and repeat. *Rest, focus, dominate your work, repeat.*", "This may seem odd, but i take a shower if im feeling lazy. After the shower i want to do stuff... which usually ends up with me needing another shower later." ]

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[ "How to ensure I wake up before my light sleeping girlfriend? I want to wake up and make pancakes for my girlfriend for when she wakes up on her birthday, but she is quite a light sleeper and a morning person. I am the opposite. It may as well be a law of the universe that she will wake up earlier than me. \n\nWhat can I do to ensure that:\n\na. I wake up at a set time in the morning\n\nb. It doesn't wake her up\n\nAn alarm would wake her up, an alarm using headphones wouldn't work as they'd probably come out of my ear while i sleep. \n\nAny ideas? Thanks!", "How to ensure I wake up before my light sleeping girlfriend? I want to wake up and make pancakes for my girlfriend for when she wakes up on her birthday, but she is quite a light sleeper and a morning person. I am the opposite. It may as well be a law of the universe that she will wake up earlier than me. \n\nWhat can I do to ensure that:\n\na. I wake up at a set time in the morning\n\nb. It doesn't wake her up\n\nAn alarm would wake her up, an alarm using headphones wouldn't work as they'd probably come out of my ear while i sleep. \n\nAny ideas? Thanks!", "How to ensure I wake up before my light sleeping girlfriend? I want to wake up and make pancakes for my girlfriend for when she wakes up on her birthday, but she is quite a light sleeper and a morning person. I am the opposite. It may as well be a law of the universe that she will wake up earlier than me. \n\nWhat can I do to ensure that:\n\na. I wake up at a set time in the morning\n\nb. It doesn't wake her up\n\nAn alarm would wake her up, an alarm using headphones wouldn't work as they'd probably come out of my ear while i sleep. \n\nAny ideas? Thanks!", "How to ensure I wake up before my light sleeping girlfriend? I want to wake up and make pancakes for my girlfriend for when she wakes up on her birthday, but she is quite a light sleeper and a morning person. I am the opposite. It may as well be a law of the universe that she will wake up earlier than me. \n\nWhat can I do to ensure that:\n\na. I wake up at a set time in the morning\n\nb. It doesn't wake her up\n\nAn alarm would wake her up, an alarm using headphones wouldn't work as they'd probably come out of my ear while i sleep. \n\nAny ideas? Thanks!", "How to ensure I wake up before my light sleeping girlfriend? I want to wake up and make pancakes for my girlfriend for when she wakes up on her birthday, but she is quite a light sleeper and a morning person. I am the opposite. It may as well be a law of the universe that she will wake up earlier than me. \n\nWhat can I do to ensure that:\n\na. I wake up at a set time in the morning\n\nb. It doesn't wake her up\n\nAn alarm would wake her up, an alarm using headphones wouldn't work as they'd probably come out of my ear while i sleep. \n\nAny ideas? Thanks!", "How to ensure I wake up before my light sleeping girlfriend? I want to wake up and make pancakes for my girlfriend for when she wakes up on her birthday, but she is quite a light sleeper and a morning person. I am the opposite. It may as well be a law of the universe that she will wake up earlier than me. \n\nWhat can I do to ensure that:\n\na. I wake up at a set time in the morning\n\nb. It doesn't wake her up\n\nAn alarm would wake her up, an alarm using headphones wouldn't work as they'd probably come out of my ear while i sleep. \n\nAny ideas? Thanks!" ]

[ "Let a laxitive tablet dissolve in your mouth. Gives you about 6 hours before you'll either wake up needing to shit or shit yourself awake. Either way you're up and unless she wakes up from smells you're golden. Or golden brown depending on how you look at it. Either way spend the next 30 minutes on the toilet and that still gives you a solid (phrasing) 30 minutes to whip up pancakes.", "Tell her you wanna watch a movie in another room and you will come to bed when its over. Hopefully she falls asleep, and you sleep on the couch or whatever in the other room. Make sure her door is closed. Set an alarm and do your thing.", "Prep as much as you can the night before, it's ok if she finds out, my partner did this for me and I happily waited in bed for my breakky.\n\nThere have been times I've got up, gone for a run, showered and got back into bed ready for breakky.", "This will not help you wake up before her, but consider scheduling an Uber Eats (or whatever your local equivalent is) for breakfast. I have not done it myself, but I have heard of people who drink making a point to schedule food delivery the next morning.\n\nYou can schedule the delivery for 6am, then set an alarm for 6am. (It may be possible to ask the delivery driver to call you a couple of minutes before arriving as well.) It is not as personal as making breakfast yourself, but if your girlfriend understands that you will never be able to wake up before her without waking her up too, she will hopefully appreciate the effort and planning doing it this way.\n\nIf you want a few extra bonus points, buy a breakfast tray, and get a small vase and a nice plastic (or real) flower to put in it. Then, when the food arrives, tell your GF to stay right there, and set the food up on the tray. A nice presentation says a lot, and again, shows that you care enough to put in effort.", "If you want to get up early, go to bed early. If you go to bed early enough you won't even need an alarm, you'll get up when your brain has had enough.", "Look up sunrise alarm apps, I found a few for Android that slowly increase the brightness of your screen like a sunrise to silently wake you up. Not sure your situation but hidden in a pillow case would make sure it's next to you at the right time" ]

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[ "How to select a realtor to sell your house We have met a few, they all talk similar talk. Any tips for vetting who's the best?", "How to select a realtor to sell your house We have met a few, they all talk similar talk. Any tips for vetting who's the best?", "How to select a realtor to sell your house We have met a few, they all talk similar talk. Any tips for vetting who's the best?" ]

[ "Or sell the house yourself. I have always heard negative stories about realtors (lazy, liars, unhelpful, ect.).", "Have you picked a house you want to buy? Did you like the realtor? I did and I ask him to sell my home. I bought one from him (motivation for him). Had him sell mine (motivation to sell mine quickly at a good price). Double dipping made money for him and me. Got commission lowered from 5% to 3.5% on my sale. Win Win!", "Go on yelp and pick the most highly rated guy in your area. Our first realtor was a recommendation from a relator friend. She was fairly atrocious. 2nd was just the highest rated guy on yelp and he was phenomenal " ]

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[ "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n", "How to remove old farts from an office chair So I've been a temp in an office for a year and 2 months. My office chair is a normal desk chair with a cushion on the bottom. Sadly those cushy bottoms can apparently hold old smells for awhile. I shower and practice good hygiene daily, but I can be quite gassy. I sat down hard today and was greeted with an interesting smell that I can only assume is the release of farts that have been held there for a long period of time. This is heavily embarrassing. How is this removable and preventable for future occurrences?\n\n" ]

[ "When I first read this title, I thought old farts = old men. And I was trying to figure out why you would need to remove old men from a chair. Maybe your grandpa was stuck in an office chair? IDK.", "I have no tips for removing farts from a chair.\n\nHowever I have a lot of tips regarding how to fart discreetly around the office so your chair doesn't get smelly in the first place.", "Try sprays designed to get rid of smoke smell like ozium. Alternatively get a car air freshener. It's the small things you learn as a pot head ", "leather vinyl or cloth?\nLeather, Good luck, use a leather cleaner, and do it each day for a week. Using febreeze is okay if you want to do it daily. \n\nFor vinyl.. thats the hard one. Scrub liberally with a tring dish soap or simple green or orange type cleaner repeatedly over the course of a few days.\nCloth, is the easiest wet it a bt on a friday afternoon, scrub with your best carpet cleaner spray, like resolve, blot the excess etc, then let it sit for the weekend.\n\nThe next friday scrub liberally again and cover with a decent coating of baking soda and let sit for the weekend. SHoud then be all set.", "A friend of mine had this exact same problem but in her case it was much much worse. To spare you the gory details I'll just get to the solution. Get a small spray bottle and fill it with rubbing alcohol and when you think the chair is getting a bit rank just give the seat a few hits and let it dry.\n\nRubbing alcohol is great for killing odors, loosening baked in dirt, and disinfecting things in general.", "Can you leave this charcoal bag / odor remover on the chair overnight inconspicuously?\n\nhttps://smile.amazon.com/Moso-Natural-Purifying-Charcoal-Color/dp/B004BOH6BM/", "sprinkle baking soda on the smelly seat, leave it there for a while (the longer the better), sweep up as much as you can with a brush, then vacuum up the rest.", "The seat itself is embedded with bacteria eating your old fart particles and other miscellaneous debris... You'll have to carpet clean it to really get it clean or... Get a new one.", "I would get few to switch between. Chair cushions are usually (I think) machine washable. Mine are. Just take the smelly one home, replace it, and throw it in with your laundry. ", "I have solved this puzzle.\n\nYou need to steam clean it. After a thorough steam cleaning, get an Ozone machine and that will fix it. **Be careful** when using the Ozone machine by the way." ]

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[ "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?", "How did you manage to stay productive and remain true to your goal with less time, energy as you get older? I got diagnosed with sleep apnea last year. I've been forcing myself for at least 7-hour sleep since then. My mental health has significantly improved while overcoming depression and getting back into shape, but I've feeling so guilty for less time on my hands. \n\nI feel like I've traded my health for productivity. My short-term solution has been less social life to compensate for the lost time, but I've still been gradually falling behind as I need more time for rest and sleep for recovery. \n\nAnyone having this issue? How did you manage to find the balance?" ]

[ "When my grandfather left home as a young man he was given advice, beautifully calligraphied and framed, that advised: 8 hours sleep + 8 hours work + 8 hours recreation.\n\nThose were the days, eh?", "I'd echo the other posters sentiment that trying to survive on less than 7 hours sleep and believing that sleeping 7 hours cuts into productive time is a fallacy. Especially at 40.\n\nTo the extent that I can't quite understand why you are falling behind and what you think you're getting done in 19 hours a day, say, while sleeping 5. 17 hours of work??\n\nI consider myself fairly high performing. I run several companies and am pretty much the sole carer for my family. I also have sleep apnoea.\n\nI assign myself 10 hours a day for sleep/health, 3 hours for housekeeping and kids (which I try to combine up with exercise), 6 hours for work, 2 hours relaxing, 1.5 hours music and 1.5 hours house renovation on average. I work 6 hours a day 6 days a week and take Sundays off, again on average.\n\nI don't believe it's possible to work at a high level (coding, calling, designing, ", "I'm 55 and I'm finally learning that I don't need to be productive all of the time. Is my house spotless anymore? No. Are all my projects completed? No. But, I'm happier than I have been in a long time.", "Being someone who in his almost 50’s just started sleeping well…it’s not a trade off.\n\nLiving healthier (working out, eating better, sleeping) don’t really have opportunity costs. Because their benefits affect everything.\n\nI try to have a routine. With still relatively young children it’s hard. But doing the things that are good for me on a regular basis, which I still hate by the way, allows me to have less stress when doing the things I love.\n\nDon’t look past the things you’re doing now, live in the moment. FOMO is one of the leading causes of anxiety in normal people, let alone people like us who’ve struggled with depression and sleep disorders.", "I try to combine exercise, recreation, and sociability as often as possible. Going to the bouldering gym with friends ticks off all 3 of those boxes for me and only takes 4-5 hours out of my time per week. \n\nThat being said, striking a perfect balance is almost always impossible, especially with a sleep disorder. Sometimes you have to roll with the punches and do what you can, even if it's the bare minimum. I wish you the best of luck!", "Mental health is more important than productivity, so that’s a very good trade. Instead of thinking of things in terms of goals with a deadline that you either complete or don’t complete (pass/fail), try to adopt a growth mindset by framing them as habits instead. As in you want a habit of working out or meal prepping. Then you can assess if you’ve “reached your goal” by asking if you’re consistent with these habits (not perfect, consistent. Meaning you workout more often than not). Gives you more room to feel successful. \n\nAlso, outsource that productivity. Sleep and social connection is important to your mental health so if that means you’re less productive, then hire a housecleaner, gardener, or meal delivery service. So those things still get done but it’s not on you.", "First off, congratulations for putting yourself first. More of us (myself included) need to do this. There is no reason to feel guilty for doing so. \n\nYour personality sounds like mine - I derive pleasure out of being productive and getting things done. I enjoy being busy, and tracking my success based on what I've gotten accomplished.\n\nI'm 50. When I started to slow down, I changed careers. I went from managing an IT Department with all kinds of fun deadlines and metrics to teaching geeky classes. The demands of my time were significantly reduced. I then arranged gym time and other personal activities around my teaching schedule.\n\nScheduling, for me, is a major factor. If I can put it on a calendar and mark it as complete... that feels good to me. \n\nI also got myself a smart band that measures my sleep. Yeah, your CPAP can do that, too. I still love my metrics.\n\nIn essence, change what you're using as a measurement of success. Gather data on how the time you're giving yourself is actually impacting YOU - not others - and measure success there.\n\nBe true to yourself.", "What is it you’re missing out on specifically? And I see a lot of people assuming that you’re missing out because you’re sleeping 7 hours. Is it that or more that you are tired and just need more rest in general, not just the actual sleeping hours?", "It depends \nAs my days are different , \nAre your kids out of the house, does your wife have a job. Move to a place where living is worth it." ]

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[ "Cockroaches entering house under door, how to stop them? Hey there!\n\nI was wondering if any of you guys had any ideas on how to stop cockroaches from entering my house by crawling under the door? \n\nAnd while we're on the topic, aside from using normal pesticides and chemicals what else does work in order to repel those damned insects?", "Cockroaches entering house under door, how to stop them? Hey there!\n\nI was wondering if any of you guys had any ideas on how to stop cockroaches from entering my house by crawling under the door? \n\nAnd while we're on the topic, aside from using normal pesticides and chemicals what else does work in order to repel those damned insects?", "Cockroaches entering house under door, how to stop them? Hey there!\n\nI was wondering if any of you guys had any ideas on how to stop cockroaches from entering my house by crawling under the door? \n\nAnd while we're on the topic, aside from using normal pesticides and chemicals what else does work in order to repel those damned insects?", "Cockroaches entering house under door, how to stop them? Hey there!\n\nI was wondering if any of you guys had any ideas on how to stop cockroaches from entering my house by crawling under the door? \n\nAnd while we're on the topic, aside from using normal pesticides and chemicals what else does work in order to repel those damned insects?", "Cockroaches entering house under door, how to stop them? Hey there!\n\nI was wondering if any of you guys had any ideas on how to stop cockroaches from entering my house by crawling under the door? \n\nAnd while we're on the topic, aside from using normal pesticides and chemicals what else does work in order to repel those damned insects?", "Cockroaches entering house under door, how to stop them? Hey there!\n\nI was wondering if any of you guys had any ideas on how to stop cockroaches from entering my house by crawling under the door? \n\nAnd while we're on the topic, aside from using normal pesticides and chemicals what else does work in order to repel those damned insects?" ]

[ "Try using weather strips, something like these.\n\nhttp://www.zorotools.com/g/00063818/k-G2997145?utm_source=google_shopping&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Google_Shopping_Feed&kw={keyword}&gclid=CJrcps3o_LACFUlN4AodTwq3Cw\n\nThey can be found at places like Lowes, Home Depot, etc, any type of construction store.", "I've read that spreading borax powder is supposed to be a relatively safe way to kill them. Spread it in their path, when they walk over it, apparently their lower body gets cut open and eventually they die of dehydration. Doesn't work if the power gets wet, however.", "Flame thrower connected to one of those timers that turns your lamp on and off when you're on vacation. ", "they can get in tons of ways besides the front door. lots of places sell cockroach traps/poison. best not to leave food out.. they dont care for empty rooms!", "Leave a piece of wood covered in Elmers glue in front of the door. They'll have to climb over it to get in and boom, they her stuck. Also works for cave crickets. They love to eat it, but can't get out. ", "Life pro tips is not a subreddit for questions like these. It's a tip subreddit.\n\nFor actual questions, like this, refer to r/askreddit (or just google)" ]

[ 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, -4 ]

[ "Friend with very stinky feet. I have a friend with incredibly stinky feet. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to have him over anymore because when he takes his shoes off, the smell fills the entire room. It's like his feet are in my nose. I've told him how bad it is but he just apologizes and says he doesn't know what to do about it. He claims he washes his feet regularly.. Tips?", "Friend with very stinky feet. I have a friend with incredibly stinky feet. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to have him over anymore because when he takes his shoes off, the smell fills the entire room. It's like his feet are in my nose. I've told him how bad it is but he just apologizes and says he doesn't know what to do about it. He claims he washes his feet regularly.. Tips?", "Friend with very stinky feet. I have a friend with incredibly stinky feet. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to have him over anymore because when he takes his shoes off, the smell fills the entire room. It's like his feet are in my nose. I've told him how bad it is but he just apologizes and says he doesn't know what to do about it. He claims he washes his feet regularly.. Tips?", "Friend with very stinky feet. I have a friend with incredibly stinky feet. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to have him over anymore because when he takes his shoes off, the smell fills the entire room. It's like his feet are in my nose. I've told him how bad it is but he just apologizes and says he doesn't know what to do about it. He claims he washes his feet regularly.. Tips?", "Friend with very stinky feet. I have a friend with incredibly stinky feet. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to have him over anymore because when he takes his shoes off, the smell fills the entire room. It's like his feet are in my nose. I've told him how bad it is but he just apologizes and says he doesn't know what to do about it. He claims he washes his feet regularly.. Tips?" ]

[ "Your friend probably has Hyperhidrosis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperhidrosis - excessive sweating particularly in the hands, armpits, and feet. I do too.\n\nFist thing: Always wear cotton socks, this is critical. Do not wear polyester dress socks. Try to change socks often. I actually bring a 2nd pair of socks with me to work and change my socks at lunch. I don't go more than 4-5 hours or so in the same pair of socks.\n\nEnsure that your feet are dry out of the shower. Pay special attention to drying between the toes.\n\nNext you can use a combination of a couple different products. I use them depending on a lot of things, like the weather, how sweaty I am, etc. here are some effective treatments:\n\nCorn Starch sold in the baby powder isle. It works better than powder and isn't nearly as messy. It also feels better on your feet/toes.\n\nTea Tree Oil. I get full strength and rub it between my toes especially. The tea tree oil kills bacteria and bacteria is what causes feet stench.\n\nTinactin/Lotramin: I get athletes foot often due to the condition.\n\nFor my armpits I ended up using Certain Dri, great product. They also have a foot product but I haven't had to use it yet.", "Once he's soiled his shoes, he either needs to wash them or throw them out. The shoes sometimes stink worse than the feet.", "Tell him to wear heavy cotton socks which helps to absorb the sweat. Sprinkle baby powder in the socks. He could also use deodorant on the bottom of his feet.", "Listerine the fuck out of those nasty feet to kill bacteria. Rinse and repeat until no longer disgusting. ", "Tell em to take a footbath with cheap 100proof vodka. It will kill the odor causing bacteria on his feet. Do it regularly and it will make a big difference combined with baking soda in his shoes." ]

[ 9, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Staying Awake While Drinking Usually at home while drinking with my wife I always get tired and doze off while watching a movie or lounging on the couch. What can I do to combat this so I can stay up longer?", "Staying Awake While Drinking Usually at home while drinking with my wife I always get tired and doze off while watching a movie or lounging on the couch. What can I do to combat this so I can stay up longer?", "Staying Awake While Drinking Usually at home while drinking with my wife I always get tired and doze off while watching a movie or lounging on the couch. What can I do to combat this so I can stay up longer?", "Staying Awake While Drinking Usually at home while drinking with my wife I always get tired and doze off while watching a movie or lounging on the couch. What can I do to combat this so I can stay up longer?", "Staying Awake While Drinking Usually at home while drinking with my wife I always get tired and doze off while watching a movie or lounging on the couch. What can I do to combat this so I can stay up longer?" ]

[ "Drink rum and Coke. The Coke has enough caffeine to keep you awake. Source: a doctor who told me it was his favourite party drink for this reason.", "Got to keep your energy up, for me alcohol mirrors what I'm doing. \n\nIf I'm lounging booze helps me stay relaxed.\n\nIf I'm partying booze helps me stay amped, like it's just going off of my cue.", "If I drink 1 or 2 drinks I'm super tired and will probably fall asleep. If I drink 6 pretty quickly it's go time and I have plenty of energy ", "Don't sit/lie down would be answer. And if you must, definitely don't sit/lie in your bed as your body is conditioned to sleep there especially.", "Any of the packaged pills behind the counter at the Hindu owned gas station, take your pick; they're no wrong answers!" ]

[ 8, 7, 6, 3, 3 ]

[ "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. 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Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n", "How do I help my spouse make confident decisions? I've been married for a year now, and the longer we are together, the more my wife asks me to make decisions for her. They're all small decisions. She has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there, but she asks me about the small stuff, like\n\nDoes the dog need to go out?\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nI often have a hard time with my own decisions, and I find it stressful to make her decisions for her. Is there something I can do to help her be more decisive?\n\nThanks\n\n" ]

[ "My wife and I call it **\"decision fatigue\"**. The back-and-forth makes us cranky, basically. It's one of the major things we focus on avoiding.\n\nTwo tips:\n\n1. Talk to her. It'll probably be one of those uncomfortable talks (sorry). But, growth can come from it. An ex-GF talked with me about it once 5 years ago and it was a major lesson in my life.\n2. Encourage her. Tell her \"that's a good idea.\" Encourage a bias for action/yes. If you second-guess her, she'll second-guess herself. Are there times where you should fix it for her? Yes, but it's a \"bias for action\", not a requirement.\n\nFinal note: there are many models for marriage. My wife and I have me as the captain and her as my first mate. I steer us on major decisions. This was/is hard for me, as I want a peer-relationship with my wife. But she wants to be my helper. So, I had to become more assertive on guiding our young family (which was an adjustment, as I'm a \"nice guy\" by default and want to accommodate her).", "Just may be me but in my experience, this is her way of asking you with out telling you do do something. \n\nDoes the dog need to go out? This to me means, I obviously see the dog showing signs of needing to use the bathroom, but if I ask him if he thinks so then maybe he will let the dog out.\n\nShould I call Dell about this computer problem? This means, honey I really don't want to spend an hour on the phone with a person who possibly doesn't speak English and deal with this right now, or maybe I'm in over my head. Women are smarter than we think they are, they have mastered the game.", "Tell her the story about the Broadway director who was being interviewed out in the house during a rehearsal when a props person came out on stage and held up two chairs asking \"which one?\" The director didn't hesitate, and pointed to the one on the right and said \"THAT one!\" The props person walked off, and used that chair for the scene. \n\nThe interviewer asked him, \"I'm interested in your decision making. What made that one chair better than the other? How did you make that choice?\"\n\nHis response - \"It doesn't fucking matter which chair we user - either one would have been fine, so I made a choice.\" \n\nUltimately, most decisions work out - you adjust to the consequences of your choice. Inertia is the enemy. You just have to make a fucking choice.", "(For background, I'm older than husband by several years and supported him financially for awhile early in our relationship until he got on his feet.)\n\nFor several years, I paid all the bills and took care of stuff like communicating with our landlord, dealing with car insurance and registration, did our taxes. Even down to grocery shopping he'd call me multiple times in a single trip asking if we needed this or that.\n\nFinally, I decided he should probably learn to do stuff himself. My mother and father married young and when they separated, she was completely lost. I wanted him to be at least somewhat able to make basic decisions. Instead of just transferring me money every check to take care of the bills and him blowing the rest while I struggled to make ends meet and told him to keep it and just \"assigned\" him certain bills to pay. We sit down and discuss what is due each paycheck and divvy up who is paying what. That way, not only does he take care of the payment - he keeps up with the remaining balance and sees the bigger picture which helps curb the spending. \n\nWhen there is an issue in the house that needs to be brought to the landlords attention, he tells me and my response is \"Call him and get it taken care of.\" Sometimes he will say stuff like, \"just wanted to run it by you\" and that's fine, I understand not wanting to make decisions for the both of us but ultimately I make sure he is the one responsible for that whatever decision he is talking about.\n\nOn occasion, 5 words is all that you need.\n\n\"Please take care of it.\"\n\nUsually I only say that when I'm overwhelmed with other stuff. For example, kiddo breaking a fever is not something I can do anything about while I'm at work. So my response is a quick \"Call the doctor and take care of it, thanks for letting me know. I'll talk to you in a little bit.\"\n\n\nThe car is acting up? Okay. Call your friends or family and see if this is a simple fix or not. Do a little research first, then make a decision and let me know.\n\nOf course I care, but that's not something I can address right this moment. If you think kiddo is sick enough to go to the doc, make an appt. If not, find some medicine or let it resolve itself. If the car needs to go to the shop, decide where and when. Make the decision. Take care of it.", "So 3 years ago I got brain damage from a bad illness. I went from being a strong, intelligent, independent woman to being a slobbering, paralyzed shell. As I slowly recovered I needed my husband to think for me since it was hard to use my brain (only way to describe it) As time and years passed I gained more and more independence. Honestly it took me a while to trust my decisions and it was due to my husbsnds encouragement and support that I was able to think and make decisions on my own. He would basically make me make a decision and then we would stick by it. If it was the wrong choice he would help me overcome it and if it was the right choice then he would celebrate with me. I have made massive, life changing, decisions in the past couple of years and he has always encouraged each one.\n\nI'd suggest for large and small scale decisions to encourage your wife to have confidence in herself as well as reassure her that even if she makes a mistake that you are there and have her back.", "This sounds less like your wife can't make decisions and more like she is attempting actual - GASP! - adult communication. \n\n*\"Does the dog need to go out?\"* - when my SO asked this it was because she just got home and before she changed or took a shower, she wanted to know if she should put on sweatpants to walk the dog or could she get naked. My SO loves to strip to nothing after work to put the day behind her. I'm a fan of it as well. \n\n*\"Should I call Dell about this computer problem?\"* - are you fairly tech knowledgeable and a typical guy who wants to try to fix something yourself first. Are you guys trying to save money or don't have much to begin with? Either way, this seems like the start of a needed conversation about an issue that needs addressing. \n\nYour attitude towards this is a big red flag that you might want to reappraise what being in LTR means exactly, especially when it comes to how things that need to be addressed are approached. Because I can see that one day soon you are going to be \"decisive\" about some issue without consulting her and won't understand why she then gets pissed off that you did it. \n\nAnd that's just giving you the benefit of the doubt that you aren't the typical young American male who simply replaces mom with a wife and then can't understand why she using the same methods to get you to do something that your mother used to do (ie, \"does the dog need to be walked\" really means, \"honey, please get off your ass and go walk the dog instead of playing that game\")", "Just a perspective from the other side: I work in a managerial position, and my entire day is spent making decisions for other people. When I get home I'm overwhelmed of making decisions and would rather my SO do it, even for little things like what kind of tea I want or where to go for groceries. It kind of feels like I'm being pampered because I don't have to make choices anymore.\n\nMy primary advice would be to talk to her and find out why she's always asking. There could be plenty of reasons: Is she just overwhelmed of making decisions at work? Is she nervous you'll get angry if she doesn't ask first? Is she just looking for more conversation? Is she trying to actively involve you so you don't start drifting apart?\n\nAfter that work on a solution together. For me and my SO the solution was determining what day to day decisions need to be talked about or not. For example, since he does the majority of the cooking we've come to an agreement that he can make whatever he wants for dinner, and I'm content with that because he generally knows what I like and don't like food wise. And for the cat we've divied up responsibilities evenly so we don't need to discuss it ever (he gives the cat food/water every morning, and I clean the box every morning).", "My SO and I have this problem - I will always ask him before I make a decision. I always double-check with him because half the time, if I don't, I get a speech about how I'm doing something wrong. He didn't realize he did that, and now he catches himself if he realizes it's a small thing (things like using sunflower oil instead of vegetable oil). When every decision you make is questioned, you start to question every decision. The key would be first to talk to your wife, and try to find out why she wants to put everything through you first - because it may or may not be something you can help her to change.", "You say she is confident making her own decisions at work, and that you often have trouble making your own decisions.\n\nMaybe she is helping you by pushing you a little out of your comfort zone.\n\nIf I were you, I'd go with it, and before you know it, it won't be stressful.\n\nTL;DR it's unclear who is helping whom make confident decisions.", "I am much like your wife. I typically defer to my husband for many things, even when he wishes I wouldn't. We have a pretty equal partnership about a lot of things, but when it comes to the little stuff, I find myself wanting to \"follow his lead\". \n\nI handle 99.9% of our finances and have since before we were married, because my husband is TERRIBLE with money - fine at making it, but can't remember to pay his bills to save his life. About 3 weeks into dating I was at his house one day and noticed 3 unopened cell phone bills on his desk near the computer, I asked him about them and he said \"oh yeah... I got a message saying I needed to pay those, I should do that...\" two days later when it still hadn't happened, I asked him for his online banking info, logged in, saw that it wasn't a matter of affording the bills, so I paid them and set it up on auto-pay for him... Thus setting the financial tone for the next decade. :-) \n\nSimilarly, historically my husband doesn't really do a lot in terms of housework either. There is a step by step guide for how to fill/run the washing machine that he has to reference every time I'm out of town, and he calls me to remember how to operate our dishwasher as well (but only if I'm gone for more than 3 days, otherwise I just come home to a sink full of dishes!). He's pretty sure fairies come in the night to match up his socks and that dog poop magically evaporates if you leave it in the yard long enough. The reality is, he's an operations manager for a multi-million dollar company and spends all day managing people and projects, when he gets home he doesn't have much capacity for the household things, and would rather leave them to me (who works part-time from home, in a low stress job). \n\nBecause I \"take care\" of him in these ways, I find that if I'm also making the majority of the decisions that I feel like a bossy pants! We always discuss the big-picture things together (i.e. he got a big bonus this year, does it make more sense to apply it to the boat loan or pay down the mortgage? the truck is on the fritz, do we take it to a mechanic or bite the bullet and buy a new vehicle?, etc.) but when it comes to the little stuff like: what's for dinner? do you like the blue comforter or the green one? etc. I want him to be the decision maker because then I don't feel like I'm running both our lives. \n\nMost of the time he's perfectly happy with this arrangement, but sometimes he gets \"decision fatigue\" as u/MBMathersIII so wonderfully coined it - and when that happens he'll simply respond with \"You decide, please.\" and I do because I understand that he's saying that not because he doesn't care, but because he NEEDS me to decide in that circumstance. Similarly, he wasn't always as good about talking about the big-picture things either. For example, when we graduated college we had a fair amount of cr", "She isn't really asking you for permission, she is asking for your opinion. She has already made her decision about what she THINKS she needs to do, she just wants to make you aware of them or get your opinion on them. \n\nThis is her communicating with you. This isn't a bad thing. ", "Sounds like she's just wants to talk. Are you high strung? Got some stress in your life? Maybe you're taking it out and her? Trying being a little more patient. A lot of people would kill to have a woman ask them mundane questions. ", "1. Think how this is related to raising a kid by\n - acknowledging him\n - allowing him to do whatever with his possessions\n - only restricting him if his actions are putting him into danger\n - talking to him as he was an adult\n2. If you got your conclusions, think about what would be very nice to give her what she couldn't receive while being a kid.\n\nBonus: Get her to write a list of what she needs from her ideal husband and take that list seriously. Also, more communication is what you guys need, which is not the same as a lot of talking.\n\nThank you\n", "If someone asked me \"does the dog need to go out\" I would interpret that as someone indirectly asking me to walk the dog.", "I agree with the “decision fatigue” idea. \n\nHere’s another thing--that may not apply to you:\n\nMy husband often criticizes what I decide, literally putting me in a no-win situation. If I pick “A”, he’s not happy; if I pick “B”, he’s not happy. There are not other choices; I lose. So I dump it back on him--if he’s going to be unhappy with the choice, HE gets to make it.\n\nAs I said, this may not apply to you (I hope not), but you’d have to assess that for yourself.\n\nOne thing I’ve come up with to combat this, though, is “absolution.” If the two of us are trying to decide...even where to go for dinner (you all know how that goes), I’ve said, “Whatever you pick is fine. Since I am absolving myself of the responsibility, I am not allowed to complain. At all.” We’ve used this on some issues that are not so minor, too, and it works both ways--if he doesn’t want to make the decision, he can’t complain, no exceptions. Of course, we *are* allowed input prior to the decision-making, but then that has to stop, no Monday-morning quarterbacking allowed. ", "I can relate to your wife. I find myself asking for help with things that I normally do myself everyday. I think that when my husband is around he has other opinions about my decisions, and that makes me wary of trusting my own judgement. Thats not necessarily him being a jerk. But just another human having a different opinion and me trusting that more than my own. ", "Are you sometimes an arse about things she does or decides?\n\nThen she's asking you so she doesn't have to deal with you being an arse about her making the \"wrong\" decision.", "Ouch. This is important. During the breakdown of my marriage, one of my wife's complaints was that I did this to her. I wasn't aware of it at the time (I didn't intentionally foist decisions off on her), but with (probably very biased) hindsight, one of the reasons is that she trained me to do this by making little cutting remarks (or even just going silent and not talking to me for a while) if she didn't like a decision I made.\n\nSo, OP, I have a difficult assignment for you: examine your own behavior honestly. Do you praise (even in just a simple, small way) her decisions that you agree with **a lot more** than you disagree with her? If you remain silent when you agree, and only speak up when you disagree, you will slowly erode her confidence. Relationship \"experts\" say that you need to give 3x as much praise as criticism just to keep a relationship above water.\n\nOh, I see that others have already addressed much of these same points. Oh well :-)", "Your examples don't sound like decisions to me. They sound like she would like you to take care of these things and is asking only because they need to be done and you aren't doing them. \n\n\"Does the dog need to go out\" means \"The dog needs to go out, and I let him out last time. It's your turn.\"\n\nAnd\n\n\"Should I call Dell about the computer problem?\" means \"I told you the computer was broken a month ago and you said you'd fix it, but it's still broken. Do I have to do this for you?\"", "This is fantastic! My girlfriend of 1 year doesn't make any decisions at all. I feel bad making up what we are going to do about everything, but this is awesome! ", "This is a really important LPT request. Thanks for all the comments. Truly, it takes 100 encouragements for every critique, so be really generous with the praise, consistently, over time.", "There's some really good comments here about this. I've had some of the same experiences, but I've always made the decision based of who's responsibility it was and taken in feedback. \n\nFor example...\n\n\"Does the dog need to go out?\" - Who's dog is it? If the dog was mine and my SO was asking me, I would say with confidence yes or no. \n\n\"Should I call Dell about this computer problem?\" Who's computer is it? If it was her's and not mine, I would say \"Well, I think I could (or could not) fix it, but what do you think?\"\n\nThat said, It still comes back to what most of the comments here have added up to - conversation. ", "So many good things in this thread. My wife and I struggle with this as well. I was raised to \"sell\" my ideas and she has always relied on me for decisions. It worked well in the beginning, I am older and had no problem navigating applications, dealing with landlords, etc. Now our dynamocs have changed and we need an equal partnership, we're struggling with the roles we've been in for so long. \n\nThanks to all posters for reminding me it's a normal part of human relationships and one of the growing pains of a marriage.", "She already knows the answers to the questions. She's just involving you in the process it getting things done and trying to start a conversation. \n Since she runs her own business and is in charge there, it may be soothing for her to let you take you the reins on some decisions.", "One thing I'd work on is validating her more and invalidating her less. I had a wake up call about this and it's really helped my relationship since. I had a hard time validating when my feelings weren't genuine.. While it was good on my part to not give fake validation, I was invalidating her by not having an opinion and seemingly not caring about something that was obviously important to her be it her shoes or a big decision. By my not caring, she thought \"maybe I'm crazy for caring about something like this,\" and that led to her sharing less things with me. Ultimately if I don't agree or share the same opinion on something, I can still validate HER Afeelings because she has a right to them and avoid invalidating. To all the men dealing with a woman on here, the book \"The way of the Superior Man\" basically saved my life and relationship. ", "OP. Thank you for posting this! I literally just dissolved in to Reddit following an outburst over this exact issue. It feels a little better seeing it is a common issue. And there is some great advice an insight in here. Sometimes this place really catches me by surprise! ", "I'm like your wife. Sometimes I just want to talk and connect with someone. It's a weird habit I know.", "I find that inability to make a decision usually stems from fear of making the wrong decision. I see it with my husband. With big decisions (buying a car, switching jobs) yes, there are repercussions if you make the wrong decision, but even then, its not the end of the world. But with small things, (like what to eat at a restaurant, or whether to take an extra sweatshirt) there is no wrong decision. Just pick something. ", "Did she normally make the decisions for you both during the early parts of your relationship? Perhaps she's forcing you to make decisions so you learn how to do it better.", "What my husband does with me that works really well is:\n\nMe: Please make this decision for me\n\nHusband: I have full confidence in you to make the best choice.\n\n\nMe: How do I do the thing with the TV again?\n\nHusband: (without sarcasm) What do you think would be your first step?\n\nSometimes if he is very tired from work, he will say \"I don't have the mental energy left to make decisions. Just do what you think is best.\"\n\n", "Oh fuck. Reading this I just realised that this is me. How can overcome this? I ask too much and have opinion on everything and oppose all of the time.", "Not sure my opinion / answer will help but here we go. I have been married 24 years and my wife has this problem for the past 2-3 years. She's always been hesitant about things but it's a lot worse now.\nBackground - When our son was born 20 years ago, we decided that I made enough money that she could quite her job and watch him full time along with my nephew which was the same age. Three years after that (17 years ago) my daughter was born as was my niece. then there were kids of friends and another niece so basically, my wife watched someone's kid(s) for a total of say 16 years.\nThroughout all that time, even though she cared for and raised other little humans with great success, she lost her ability to make decisions outside of what a child needed along with some social skills. Right, wrong or indifferent, I am slowly forcing her to make decisions and when she does, I say thanks but really no big fuss. About a month ago her car needed new tires (keep in mind she is still at home not working) so I asked her to take the car to a local place and \"put a new set of the same on the car\". She started to tell me all the things that could go wrong and how she hated being put in that position. I continued to ignore getting tires until she got so pissed she did it herself. All went fine and I said \"thanks, it helped me out\".\nI know how you feel to a tee and all I can say is be patient and persistent. If it keeps getting worse you will have to eventually confront her about it.", "My husband does the same thing. My least favorite exchange is this one:\n\nHusband: hey, are you hungry? \nMe: sure, I guess I could eat.\nHusband: what do you want? \nMe: well, you asked me, did you have something in mind? \nHusband: whatever you want is fine.\nMe: but I didn't want anything, you asked me.\n\nAnd so on, and so on.... \n\nWe've determined this comes from a weird place of insecurity - he feels for some reason that my needs and wants are more important than his. So he is continually asking me to make decisions, because he's not secure or confident enough of his value in our relationship to tell me what HE wants. \n\nIt exhausts me. I feel as if I am the only one capable of making decisions - even small ones like \"where should we eat\" fall solely on my shoulders every single day. But now that we've figured out where its coming from I try my best to make him feel valued and like an equal. And when we get into decision-loops like that one I just pick somewhere and go with it. He's not doing it to get under my skin.", "In my first year of marriage after beinig with my wife for 8 years. We're both indecisive and the mental exhaustion on having to make decisions for myself and her or the both of us is exhaustinggg. And I'm not even talking about big decisions! Those are probably the easiest. It's what table to get, what to eat, where to go, which tailor to go to, which cat food to buy, etc...", "If she asks, \"does the dog need to go out?\" She's actually asking you to let the dog out. But she's avoiding nagging you to let the dog out.", "If it gets out of control, I tend to start answering with \"What would you do if I wasn't here?\"\n\nParticularly when she asks me for advice on things that she's clearly an expert at, and I have zero idea how to do (cooking mostly)", "I think this might help her. I used to be like that too 6 months ago. I am still working on it. http://www.amazon.com/Thought-Was-Just-but-isnt/dp/1592403352 She could also try a therapist for maybe 4 sessions or more that is what I did.", "Hey Bud,\n\nI am a relationship therapist and I see this a fair bit. Your partner may have been raised in a super close family and as a child she may have had her parents pick up the slack whenever anything became too difficult. For this reason, she may have what we call an incongruent personality where she hasnt yet developed confidence in herself. \n\nShe may know she is attractive, or good at her job, or have nice hand writing - basically she will think she is good at whatever people constantly tell her she is good at. But this is not true confidence.\n\nWhat you are describing requires her to build a personality which is based on a new sense of self - this is actually very tough as she may be understanding her sense of self based on the other. First she understood herself based on her closest attachments, then maybe her friends, now maybe you. \n\nI recommend you discuss with her why she asks you about those small decisions. Chances are she refers to you before thinking about the answer herself at first. Talk with her about it and hopefully you will get to a place where you can ask her for her opinion on those decisions before giving your opinion on those decisions. From now on dont give her the answers....\n\nHope that helps.\n\nChamp", "ENCOURAGE her to go with her first instinct / thought, and to be confident that it will be the right one! ", "Been married a long time. I doubt if she really thinks she can't make these decisions or even cares how you respond. It's conversation and a way to interact. Give some thought to how the two of you communicate and stop trying to be the hero and \"save\" her from something. If it just bothers you, say so.", "After you talk with her and follow the advice of /u/MBMathersIII, consider saying this when she asks you...\n\n\"I have no idea! Hmm... What do you think we should do?\" And THEN encourage her.", "A couple of possibilities - and neither one may be true, but things to consider and watch out for. Possibly you are critical when she makes mistakes, so she runs everything by you to avoid being snapped at. And/or, possibly she wants to have more conversation with you but doesn't know what to talk about, so she asks these questions as simply a way to speak. If you think either of these things could be happening, then try talking more, and not ever criticizing her judgment in small matters like this, and see if these steps help.\n\nAlso, I would try responding as much as possible to these questions with \"What do you think?\" and refusing to give her commands.", ">Does the dog need to go out?\n\nThat to me reads as, \"I don't want to do this but someone needs to do it.\"\n\n>Should I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\nThat strikes me as possibly a \"I'm not sure: Could you fix it or does it require outside help?\" OR a \"do it for me please\".\n\nI suggest having a talk about it so you can find out what may be going through her mind when she asks. She may not know at the time you ask her so if that's the case give her a heads up on following up later. At the point of follow-up you'll of course need to address the question first, but once you do, you can ask (calmly, patiently, and with respect) \"Is there a reason why you're asking me? Sometimes I get the feeling [insert suspected reasons]. Would you please clarify?\" Once you have more information, the two of you can formulate a plan of action (what certain questions mean, how to make clear requests, what information seeking sounds like, who does what, etc.). \n\nA word of caution though: Don't come into the belief that once you discuss and agree, that's the end of it. Communication is a process and we're under constant influence. What works now may not work later. Sometimes we forget. Sometimes we have experiences that change the course of action. Be open to revisiting and renegotiating. \n\nOn a related note, please be aware that sometimes a partner puts his/her self in the position to be the one that is cared for (consciously or unconsciously) and it may be for any number of reasons/beliefs: It makes you feel good, it's your role, he/she deserves it, is overwhelmed in outside environments, is experiencing decision fatigue, etc. I confess that I did this. I think it was a reaction to my SO's comments about feeling like he wasn't contributing enough to the relationship (and possibly my own unacknowledged feelings that agreed). My SO saw me as a strong, willful, independent, resourceful person and so it frustrated him to have me defer to him, especially when he felt like having control over certain things felt out of place or that he was ill-equipped to deal with what I was charging him with. Once we discussed this, I realized that I needed to be the one giving care (by making decisions and not deferring to him so much) so he could focus on the things we both want him to do. It's a delicate balance though. Sometimes decisions I make with the bigger picture of \"caring\" in mind, comes across as being parental. The best I can do is have us both heard out and fine-tune/adjust accordingly. \n\nP.S.\nI experience the most decision-fatigue with this question: \"What do you want to have for lunch/dinner?\" Still working on a system that insulates us against too much junk food/take-out. Like I said, it's a process. ", "> It's frustrating because I'm often doing something that needs my concentration, like cooking\n\nOne of my coworkers does this, and it drives me NUTS! But it's her way of making conversation. One time I told her \"Hey! I need to concentrate! Hush for a minute!\" Huge mistake. 5 years later, she still has hurt feelings. But I hate working next to her, because she just can't be independent: her method of socializing with me is interrupting me. \n\nSo, I can leave my coworker at the office. You, not so much. \n\nI seriously believe you ought to start couples counseling to work on communication that's effective for both of you, and so you can (gently!) put up some walls so you have your personal space/quiet when you need it, and she can understand that without still holding a grudge 5 years later.", "she made a decision, her decision was you. \n\nshe will always look to you to make decisions because you are the leader in the relationship. Be a man, embrace the respect your wife has for you to allow you to make decisions.", "Women want a man to lead, so embrace it and become your own man. She is inviting you to lead, so do that.", "Not really fit with your situation but, what I do with my gf is ask her \"what is your strong opinion?\" If she can't make up her mind, she is to respond with \"I have no strong opinion on this matter.\" In this way, she is being decisively indicisive and basically says that I am to make the decision.", "If I were you, I would list out the reasons for each option, then make her decide, and then compliment or assure her that she made the right decision.\n\nSometimes, you should make the decision for her. ", "I wish I had a wife and if I did have one I wish I could call all the shots. Every single one I'd love that I guess I am a bit of a control freak though.", "> Does the dog need to go out?\n\n -- \"Go let the dog out\"\n\n> Should I call Dell about this computer problem?\n\n -- \"Please call Dell about this problem\"\n\n\n ", "See, that's your problem. You're trying to change your wife.\n\nYou adapt. That's who she is. You're just inconvenienced because you don't want to have to deal with it.\n\nIt's called a marriage. If you didn't want to deal with that, you should've stayed single.", "I've found that women really hate making the *wrong* decision. So much so, that if they have someone else available to choose for them, they will ask them to do it, so that if it turns out to be the wrong choice, they won't be at fault. \n\nGiven your situation, it sounds like your wife is just defaulting to this safe and comfortable position. I have been in a similar situation. The path out, is to not be annoyed with her, but to thoughtful try to make the choice for her, *but play it safe*. Take your \"responsibility\" seriously in the sense that you don't want to make the wrong choice for her. Should she call Dell? Better play it safe and tell her yes, who knows what's wrong. Does the dog need to go out? It couldn't hurt, better let the dog out again. We don't want an accident.\n\nTry to play it safe, and also make safe choices that are more work for her. Don't let her ask about calling Dell, then get *you* to do it. Make sure *she* does it. If anytime she makes you make a decision for her winds up being a chore for her, she will naturally begin trying to make the decision of \"should I ask him about this, or should I just decide myself? I don't necessarily want to do a chore, and he's going to play it safe if I ask him to decide\".\n\nThe safe choice is typically a chore, you will cover your butt by not making the \"wrong\" choice for her, and it will naturally encourage her to not ask you to decide unless she really needs the help making a decision.", "She really doesn't need your advice if she \"has her own career and is confident making her own decisions there\".\n\nShe's playing you. She has found a way to get you to do anything that she'd rather not do by playing helpless.\n\nStop being a sucker.", "The way she 'asks' you what she should do, is really a reflection for you to be wondering \"How can I make an effort to solve her issues for her?\"\n\nGood luck.", "Women can never make decisions. They are always in between thoughts. Part of the reason I don't want to get married is that I don't want to be around that mindset all the time. And if they are not trying to make a decision about something, they are bored and in need of entertainment like a dog." ]

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[ "Any good books to improve writing skills ? Hi, I want to improve my english writing skills. Any tips or recommendation of books to improve the skills will be helpful.", "Any good books to improve writing skills ? Hi, I want to improve my english writing skills. Any tips or recommendation of books to improve the skills will be helpful.", "Any good books to improve writing skills ? Hi, I want to improve my english writing skills. Any tips or recommendation of books to improve the skills will be helpful.", "Any good books to improve writing skills ? Hi, I want to improve my english writing skills. Any tips or recommendation of books to improve the skills will be helpful.", "Any good books to improve writing skills ? Hi, I want to improve my english writing skills. Any tips or recommendation of books to improve the skills will be helpful." ]

[ "Are you an ESL student? Do you mean handwriting, or grammar? (because your grammar seems fine to me for ESL) \n \nReading anything in English will help. Memorizing a lot of grammar points is easy, it's remembering when to use them which is difficult. I suggest picking up some free classics such as 1984, Pride and Prejudice, Animal Farm (easy reading), or The Counte of Monte Cristo. \n \nOr just grab a copy of Harry Potter. \n \nBasically, reading is the only thing that can help you develop a \"style\" and inform you about culture (important for cultural references) at the same time. ", "Read lots and lots of novels, or whatever kinds of books you enjoy; you will quickly learn what works and what doesn't. You've been communicating your entire life, and your brain is already hardwired to find awkward or unsuccessful patterns of communication.\n\nAfter you've finished writing something, read it out loud. When you hear your sentences out loud, you will find yourself tripping over some areas. Those are the ones that need work.\n\nIf you feel like you need an instructional book, Strunk and White's Elements of Style could be a great help. You can find it [here](http://www.amazon.com/The-Elements-Style-4th-", "If you're serious about this I would echo evyoung and advise trying Strunk and White's The Elements of Style. It's concise and gives all of the basics on writing style and proper grammar in a clear manner. When I was in high school, and again in college, I went through this book by focusing on 5 page chunks each day over the course of about two weeks (it was ~80 pgs). After each read I was able to ", "Hey I don't know if you have found your answer yet but when I was in school we a blue border book named on writing well. It is an amazing help to a lot of my essays http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0060891548", "Here's some tips... for whatever they're worth:\n\nWrite the way you speak. Drop formalities. You can always add them later, if that's what is called for.\n\nWhen you speak, the words are out there, for good or bad.\nWriting allows you to keep crafting the words until you are ready to release them. \n\nGet it down on paper/text document, quickly, sloppy; misspellings and all.\nThat helps to capture your creativity, without the stumbling-blocks of correctness.\n\nThen rewrite, " ]

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[ "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? ", "Ways to build up Cardio/Stamina OTHER THAN RUNNING. I hate running. I hate it. Any other exercise I'll do but running isn't one. However, as an aspiring boxer, I need to build up my cardio so that I can keep going. Are there any other ways to build up Cardio/Stamina? " ]

[ "Skip/jump rope is actually really good cardio, and it doesn't take a whole lot of space to do - pretty good for those rainy days!", "Swim, bike, judo, Brazilian Jiu jitsu, gymnastics, wrestling, basketball, tennis, soccer, roller blade. Just get active. \n\nHowever if you're an aspiring boxer you should be doing rounds of bag work and shadow boxing. ", "Not to play on the boxing part, but stairs are an excellent way to get cardio and it feels like you've actually accomplished something because it literally has different levels for you to reach. It also helps with foot-work and is great for your calves. But I would recommend going to some place that has like 10-15 flights of stairs, like an office building if you can get there.", "You should look into \"Sean T's Insanity\". He offers alot of training excersizes which you can do in the house. I personally like his \"T25\" videos, for balanced cardio and strength buildup. The nice thing about his training is that you can follow on your own pace! ", "What you need bro is circuit training. Its HIIT basically. Good for overall workout. Cycling and Swimming are other good endurance activities. Also try Zumba/Aerobics like workouts.", "The ONLY thing you need to know is skipping rope, seriously skipping for 10-15 minutes straight is the equivalent of about a 45 minute run! ", "Row, Airdyne / Assault Bike, Swim. Also have a look in the \"Tabata Training\"-Method to rapidly get better.", "Kettlebell swings or snatches, they do wonders for endurance. Just make sure you learn how to do them properly from a qualified instructor.", "If you're an aspiring boxer, you pretty much need to run. No way around it. And if you don't like running, you're probably not going to like staying in one place doing jumping jacks or jump-roping for a half hour or an hour. So suck it up and do it -- if you're serious about boxing (even as an amateur) you're simply going to have to train in ways that are uncomfortable and unpleasant.\n\nAnother good way to build cardio is rounds on the bag. Start with 10 2-minute rounds separated by 30 seconds. During each round, keep hitting the bag and don't stop no matter how tired you get. Eventually, try to work up to 3-minute rounds.", "Damn man, you're gonna eat dick in the ring if you can't move your mother fucking feet. Sprint, stairs, run backwards, stairs backwards, run across the top of monkey bars, do it backwards, bike in the lowest gear for hours and then do the highest for a few miles. Its hard to hit someone faster than you and its hard to move when you're feet/legs are pussies. Cardio is great for getting your blood going, but man I hate running to, but I hate losing even more. ", "Cycling. I ride from anywhere from 90 minutes on a short ride to 5 hours on a longer ride. My heart rate usually sits at mid 140s on an easy ride to high 160s/low 170s on the harder rides. My max HR is about 199, so figure 70-85% of my max on average.", "Bodybuilding link incoming. I did this for about a year, minus all the supplements. Saw crazy increases in stamina and speed while running because I love to run. It doesn't seem like much but work up to a minute or longer and your endurance has already increased a ton. \n\nhttp://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/jim-stoppani-six-week-shortcut-to-shred-training-overview.html", "As I see it, the avarage person have 2 reasons to hate running:\n\n* You hate running because you suck at it. Now, it might not be your case, but most of the people do. Once you get used to it, you will start to enjoy it more.\n\n* You find it boring. Spice it up.\n\nThe thing is, there's HIIT, but it isn't neccessarily for building up endurance, plus it's quite hard to do. In the beginning you will enjoy it more compared to running, cause its less time and your pulse is most likely already quite high up while you are running since you are not used to it and have a low endurance. But HIIT gets really hard.\n\nImo you should alternate between steady state cardio and HIIT.\n\nSpice up excercise. Try running with backpacks, ankle weights, at winter I love running in boots on the snow, its just harder. You can do HIIT without the usual sprinting drills too, by doing uphill sprints, skipping the rope(you can find different exercises for that too), running with high knees is a killer, blurpees are great too. Do explosion squat jumps, depth jumps, uphill squat jumps, lateral high jumps, horizontal bounds, etc.\n\nAlso, this is a personal quirk, **don't run on a treadmill or boring streets, go to a forest, a park, beach, to the nature**.\n", "Sprints? It's more fun that straight running. \n\nAlso, rowing. There are many row machines at gyms. \n\nBut if you REALLY wanna work on it, while gaining valuable life skills, take a ju jitsu class. Also, muay Thai sparring. Never sweet so much in my life. " ]

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[ "How to accept or refuse an apology As the title says - I'm looking for the best, honest way to either accept an apology, or to refuse it", "How to accept or refuse an apology As the title says - I'm looking for the best, honest way to either accept an apology, or to refuse it" ]

[ "To accept honestly, a simple 'apology accepted' is enough. \n Refusing one is more circumstantial but in general something along the lines of 'you saying sorry does not erase X (whatever X is) and it is neither forgotten nor forgiven' will get the point across.", "If you accept an apology, simply state so and add that there are no hard feelings (if you are sincere with it).\nTo refuse one, give maybe a reason why a simple apology is not enough to make up for whatever the person has done. That way, you will not leave them with nothing else to do but give them something to work with if they really want to make it right again." ]

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[ "How to deal with upstairs neighbor snoring? I think I might have the worst luck ever. I've only been in my apartment 5 days and I think the upstairs neighbor has woke me up 3 of them. They wake me up with stomping.. im not talking just a few steps. I swear they walk in circles for like 10 minutes just to wake me up. and it's LOUD. And it's always at 2 in the morning. Last night it was at 6 when they woke me up stomping around\n\nThe bigger issue to me is.. they snore. So bad. I know they can't help it but it's there anything I can do besides white noise or earplugs? Is this something I can talk to the landlord about? Would it be weird if I wrote them a letter about it? I'm thinking of buying a box of those anti snore nasal strips and leaving them at their door. I wouldn't have moved here if I knew this would be an issue", "How to deal with upstairs neighbor snoring? I think I might have the worst luck ever. I've only been in my apartment 5 days and I think the upstairs neighbor has woke me up 3 of them. They wake me up with stomping.. im not talking just a few steps. I swear they walk in circles for like 10 minutes just to wake me up. and it's LOUD. And it's always at 2 in the morning. Last night it was at 6 when they woke me up stomping around\n\nThe bigger issue to me is.. they snore. So bad. I know they can't help it but it's there anything I can do besides white noise or earplugs? Is this something I can talk to the landlord about? Would it be weird if I wrote them a letter about it? I'm thinking of buying a box of those anti snore nasal strips and leaving them at their door. I wouldn't have moved here if I knew this would be an issue", "How to deal with upstairs neighbor snoring? I think I might have the worst luck ever. I've only been in my apartment 5 days and I think the upstairs neighbor has woke me up 3 of them. They wake me up with stomping.. im not talking just a few steps. I swear they walk in circles for like 10 minutes just to wake me up. and it's LOUD. And it's always at 2 in the morning. Last night it was at 6 when they woke me up stomping around\n\nThe bigger issue to me is.. they snore. So bad. I know they can't help it but it's there anything I can do besides white noise or earplugs? Is this something I can talk to the landlord about? Would it be weird if I wrote them a letter about it? I'm thinking of buying a box of those anti snore nasal strips and leaving them at their door. I wouldn't have moved here if I knew this would be an issue", "How to deal with upstairs neighbor snoring? I think I might have the worst luck ever. I've only been in my apartment 5 days and I think the upstairs neighbor has woke me up 3 of them. They wake me up with stomping.. im not talking just a few steps. I swear they walk in circles for like 10 minutes just to wake me up. and it's LOUD. And it's always at 2 in the morning. Last night it was at 6 when they woke me up stomping around\n\nThe bigger issue to me is.. they snore. So bad. I know they can't help it but it's there anything I can do besides white noise or earplugs? Is this something I can talk to the landlord about? Would it be weird if I wrote them a letter about it? I'm thinking of buying a box of those anti snore nasal strips and leaving them at their door. I wouldn't have moved here if I knew this would be an issue", "How to deal with upstairs neighbor snoring? I think I might have the worst luck ever. I've only been in my apartment 5 days and I think the upstairs neighbor has woke me up 3 of them. They wake me up with stomping.. im not talking just a few steps. I swear they walk in circles for like 10 minutes just to wake me up. and it's LOUD. And it's always at 2 in the morning. Last night it was at 6 when they woke me up stomping around\n\nThe bigger issue to me is.. they snore. So bad. I know they can't help it but it's there anything I can do besides white noise or earplugs? Is this something I can talk to the landlord about? Would it be weird if I wrote them a letter about it? I'm thinking of buying a box of those anti snore nasal strips and leaving them at their door. I wouldn't have moved here if I knew this would be an issue" ]

[ "White noise will change your life. \n\nYou live in an apartment then you gotta deal with neighbor noise.", "Unfortunately, it's probably less your neighbor trying to wake you up, and more a cheaply constructed apartment. \n\nWhile you can certainly try the below suggestions, the reality is that you're probably stuck, so it's time to figure out what works for you (while also planning to not renew your lease!). \n\nWhite noise machine and earplugs for sure. You can buy sleep headphones that are soft like a headband (I got mine off amazon for cheap!), play music or white noise.\n\nIf you can't do those, a humidifier and an air purifier will make a lot of white noise.\n\nPurchase cheap soundproofing materials and put them on your ceiling. Add soft blankets and other soft furniture, things to \"soak up\" the noise. \n\nAlso, time will help. I lived in an apartment that was a few blocks from railroad tracks, where a train came by every hour or so, and blew the whistle dozens of times. Eventually, my body got so exhausted from poor sleep that I began to just pass out and be able to ignore the noise.", "I wouldn't send them nasal strips since those rarely work for snorers. You could perhaps write them a note saying \"hi, I just moved in and couldn't help but notice you snore quite loud. You might want to see a specialist and get tested for sleep apnea.\" That I think at least comes from a place of concern. \n\nMy husband when we first started dating snored quite loud and he didn't realize it was such a big problem. We had him see a specialist and he got his tonsils removed- he could have even had nasal surgery done. Now we both get more sleep.", "My friend had this issue and had to move. Notes and landlord discussions did nothing. They tried white noise and ear plugs but it wasn’t enough. I hope you find some resolve. It’s crazy that this sounds exactly\nLike my friends situation.", "I dealt with this kind of thing before, many times.\n Keep a diary of dates/times when the neighbors disturb you. Do it daily!! This is an important thing to do as it's really hard for a landlord to ignore and it emphasizes how much of a problem it is for you.\nThe snoring is a new one for me, I've never had to deal with that one before. That one might be tough to stop." ]

[ 6, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do you tell a coworker they stink? We recently hired a new guy. He's nice enough and has joined us for lunch most days. But it is hard to even ride in a vehicle with him for even a few minutes. He got the job because another coworker recommended him. What's the best way to approach this?", "How do you tell a coworker they stink? We recently hired a new guy. He's nice enough and has joined us for lunch most days. But it is hard to even ride in a vehicle with him for even a few minutes. He got the job because another coworker recommended him. What's the best way to approach this?", "How do you tell a coworker they stink? We recently hired a new guy. He's nice enough and has joined us for lunch most days. But it is hard to even ride in a vehicle with him for even a few minutes. He got the job because another coworker recommended him. What's the best way to approach this?", "How do you tell a coworker they stink? We recently hired a new guy. He's nice enough and has joined us for lunch most days. But it is hard to even ride in a vehicle with him for even a few minutes. He got the job because another coworker recommended him. What's the best way to approach this?", "How do you tell a coworker they stink? We recently hired a new guy. He's nice enough and has joined us for lunch most days. But it is hard to even ride in a vehicle with him for even a few minutes. He got the job because another coworker recommended him. What's the best way to approach this?" ]

[ "Have his boss handle it. You know how you always gripe the bosses get paid more than you do? This is part of why.", "You can say politely that the strength of his cologne is producing an odor that others are finding objectionable. He should get the hint. If he said he doesn't wear cologne, say... \"Or soap or shampoo or whatever...\" In a dismissive way to give him an out and then repeat that whatever it is, it isn't resonating well with others for some reason.", "I had this issue with a coworker, and brought up the issue with my manager. He asked me to give it a little bit to see if it was temporary, but it wasn't. Good to his word he had a private chat with her, and the issue cleared up. Sometimes people just don't realize. Otherwise she was a super nice person, and I felt really bad for her.", "The odds of this guy having TMAU are extremely low. It is far more likely his hygiene and or clothes washing is not up to par, but nobody in his life outside of work realizes/cares to tell him. Best course of action is to tell the boss and then let either the boss or HR sort it. Smelly dude will benefit in the short term and long term from a little hygiene wake-up call.", "Seriously, don't. There is a real medical condition where people just flat out stink, despite bathing daily and using clinical grade deodorants. I forget the name of the condition, but a kid used to always sit next to me on the bus because I was the only person that didnt object. I gagged all the way to school on those days but I am proud looking back. \n\nTry to be more tolerant, and/or find a solution that won't just flat out crush the guy who is totally self conscious at a new job no less.\n\n" ]

[ 20, 15, 9, 5, -10 ]

[ "How to easily remove old wallpaper My dad wants me to take off all the wallpaper in a room in our house, do you guys have any tips to do it fast and effective? Thanks in advance", "How to easily remove old wallpaper My dad wants me to take off all the wallpaper in a room in our house, do you guys have any tips to do it fast and effective? Thanks in advance" ]

[ "I have heard from a couple people that spraying on Downy fabric softener works. I haven't personally tried it myself", "I can't give a detailed response but if you can't get a steamer get that fucker *wet*. With a bit of luck it should peel off like the skin of an overripe banana- i.e. *beautifully.*" ]

[ 3, 3 ]

[ "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help", "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help", "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help", "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help", "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help", "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help", "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help", "Overcoming fear of dancing at parties I couldn't dance to save my life and I have a party to go to coming up. I've never danced before because I'm the guy that normally doesn't get invited to anything. It's not supposed to be a huge party (maybe 50 people tops) and I've heard they're mostly going to be playing trap/hip-hop/twerk music and maybe some line dances. Any tips on overcoming far and fitting in? PS: I'm a 14 year old guy and most of the people at the party know who I am and that I'm socially awkward, so I'll most likely be called out of I do any sort of dancing and that certainly doesn't help" ]

[ "Your 14. You are supposed to be shit at dancing. It's almost impossible to show you at your age, but do not stress over what people think of you. Most of the people in your life you will not know in 10 years. \n\nDance for enjoyment, just start off slow and don't feel the need to pull off some showy moves like you're in a dance off. \n\nAlso if you find yourself socially awkward, start staring yourself down in the mirror. Most people are very uncomfortable looking into others eyes, this can help immensely.\n\nP.S. Get rid of your real name as your username.", "There was a Ted Talk I saw about overcoming not fitting in. The main point was fake it till you make it. Act confident, girls love confidence. Find anything in common and go off that. Listen to what people are saying so you can have an idea for a response. Also keep in mind this is the first of many social gatherings in your life. Don't over think it and have fun. ", "My advice would be to start slow. Don't try to imitate anything you saw once and thought looked cool because that usually means it's something that requires practice to pull off. As already mentioned, start bobbing your head with the beat (not too hard) and try to subtly shift your weight/step from one leg to the other according to the music. Keep your hands at an angle like you're going for a relaxed jog, but more loose. Check out the part of the movie \"hitch\" where Will Smith tries to teach Kevin James how to dance to get an idea what I mean. \n\nIf you have problems keeping eye contact with the people around you, look up (to the lights/disco ball) rather than down. \n\nMost importantly, the saying goes \"dancing is 80% believing you can dance\". If you lack the confidence just practise in front of a mirror. Also, don't panic. If you keep it simple nothing can go wrong. \n\nNinja ", "Dont go crazy and you wont be noticed on the dance floor. With hip hop trap its normal for guys to just stand and bob head to the beat. Dont twerk ever", "Take dance lessons. \n\nKeep your feet on the floor, move slower rather than faster, smile, and just have fun. \n\nAnd no one is going to call you out for dancing poorly, unless you are jumping up and down like a spaz. And if they do, just keep on dancing. Let them be the assholes who can only make themselves feel better about their shitty lives by putting down other people.", "It will probably just be girls grinding on other guys. That's what my freshman parties were always like. If so your in luck because you don't have to dance at all haha", "I'm not a big dancer so instead of trying to be a great dancer so a few funny things. Like grind up on a friend just to get a laugh it will ease the tension and if they're a good friend it won't be weird (just a quick 2-3 seconds, you're not trying to seduce him just get a laugh)", "I'd say it's more important to try than to just sit there and not dance. People will remember if you're the only one not dancing. You won't be the only one who isn't good at dancing though. Just give it a try and remember to have fun. No one is expecting you to be Chris Brown or something. Also, if a slow song comes on, that's a breeze to pull off. " ]

[ 5, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?", "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?", "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?", "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?", "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?", "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?", "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?", "how to not be disappointed with the world? It's not about depression, but I can't stop reading bad news everywhere. I don't use Facebook but I love Twitter and I try to silence some keywords, but everytime these news keep popping on my timeline. It's horrible and I'm tired. What do you guys do to avoid this feeling? Older people, I think life is cyclical and some problems with government and society seems to come and go, so how can I just ignore these problems?" ]

[ "A true modern generation issue. I could say I was suffering from something like this an year ago. I don't really have any concrete suggestion but a few things help me feel 'not depressed':\n\nI) try to pay attention to why people do what they do- people do everything for a reason. On the inside, most people are good and when you start realising the amount of effort everyone puts into making the world q better place, without showing off or bragging about it, it makes you happy.\n\nIi) yes horrible things are happening, and they always happened. Society can't be perfect and that's why it's beautiful. When you see a flaw in society you can fix, give your contribution! If it's something completely out of your hand, you can make a prayer, hope for the better, and move on.\n\nIIi) socialise more in real life- theirs a beauty in real life communication that the web cannot offer. No Skype, Facebook, or Twitter conversations feel as good as real life talks. When people form a group, they counter each other's cynicism and enjoy far more than individuals.\n\nIv) get passionate - when you're interested in something, you start thinking less about the bad think in life. And that's a good thing! Overthinking cynically helps no one and the more you think the less you act. \n\nV) look around you - rather than observing things that are out of your control, try exploring your neighbourhood. There's always interesting things lurking in nooks and corners that make a place so much more interesting and fun to explore\n\nVi) get emotional- this is something that helped me extremely. When you laugh and cry, the hormones released and emotions felt are extremely relieving. I think I lost a lot of my cynicism when I rediscovered anime. I had great experiences where I laughed my ass out, an scenes where the waterworks flowed uncontrolled\n\nI'm not a psychologist and I have barely any idea of how these things work. But I can feel the pain and I hope my advice can alleviate some of yours\n\nOh and also, falling in love, even if it's a crush, can be good. Sometimes it changes your outlook on people when you observe a person well enough ;)", "Get offline for a while or at least cut down the time you spend online, then it won't seem as omnipresent. \n\nGet a pet. Something like a cat or a dog will take up someone the time you would be spending online and plus they're almost guaranteed to make you happier in yourself. \n\nMight not work for everyone, but certainly helped me.", "Why not try accepting the world for what it is and being grateful for all things positive instead of losing yourself in negativity by focusing on the bad? Or attempting to instigate some positive change yourself, however minute?", "Seek out art! Seriously, some of the most incredible music was written in our darkest days as a people. Same of theatre, the visual arts, and more. I don't mean disappear into television, go out into museums and see what's there. There's still a great deal of beauty being created. ", "Make the best out of your own life and when you're there, work to make others life a little better each time you help. It's rewarding and easy to do. if you know what you want.", "Listen to some Cat Stevens :-P\n\nAlso, think about how much shittier the world was a hundred years ago...\n\nAnd spend some time outside/away from modern society. Even as the world changes quickly, people change slowly. The world outdoors has a lot to offer. The occasional weekend backpacking trip has done me a lot of good.", "I've had these feelings. It doesn't make sense when you think about it. The world is actually getting better on average. The way I deal with it is by changing habits. It was hard at first, but I am happier and healthier as a result. \n\nPeople used to be happy getting the news in the morning and the evening, so I don't check the news OR social media except for an hour in the morning and 15 minutes in the afternoon. I don't need the news any sooner. I'm not the President. \n\nMy phone stays in my purse during the day. I actively avoid looking at my phone unless I need to; no nervous checking. I am so fucking productive now! I wish I could put this on my resume. \n\nI have the day off, so I get some extra reddit time, but even today, I limit the time. \n\nIn terms of cynicism. I was a cynical teenager, but I later received a pretty good college education where I learned proper critical thinking, civics, and history. I learned that change is possible and only the people who participate get a say. To me, cynicism is an issue that develops out of ignorance not \"knowing too much.\" It is also a defense mechanism. Cynical people have an excuse to refrain from participating and failing. ", "I always find it comforting to remember that eventually everyone I know, including myself, will be dead and nothing I do (or have done) will matter at all. If nothing matters you don't need to worry about anything.\n\nThat said, if you don't already think this way it could be quite difficult to change your perspective and it's quite difficult (though not impossible) to be motivated." ]

[ 11, 6, 3, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]

[ "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? ", "How can I accept that life is unfair, some people will have it better than me and that it is not worth ending my life because of these things? " ]

[ "If you are seriously considering ending your life just because of that, then seek professional help; this is not something that will be solved by an \"ah-ha\" comment on the internet.", "Well, I work with street boys in the eastern D.R.C. and I had a 7 year-old come knock on my door this morning, who had been homeless for over half-a-year after running away from home because, among several things, his father believes electrocution is a reasonable means of discipline. Somehow he finds a way to wake up in the morning with a genuine smile and be one of the cutest kids on the planet. So, yeah, life is unfair, and I've learned that just the fact that I own a raincoat makes me affluent... but really, life isn't about fairness or who has it best, it's all about what we can do for each other. Please don't rob people of the positive impact you could have on their lives.", "Volunteer. It will always make you appreciate what you have. You can volunteer at a children's hospital, raise money for cancer, or tutor inner city kids after school.\n\nI've been volunteeringmy whole life, and every once in a while, I see some rich douche who doesn't deserve what he has and I get angry, for the most of my time, I'm counting my blessings.", "“My dear,\nFind what you love and let it kill you.\nLet it drain you of your all. Let it cling onto your back and weigh you down into eventual nothingness.\nLet it kill you and let it devour your remains.\nFor all things will kill you, both slowly and fastly, but it’s much better to be killed by a lover.\n~ Falsely yours”\n\n\n― Charles Bukowski", "You won't find true happiness if you look at what others have and envy them. Instead cherish what you have and make the best out of it.", "Yes, life is unfair, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the hand life has dealt you. \n\nStep One, educate yourself, there are a million resources on the internet to help you out with this. Tons of free university courses and stuff online. Lynda.com costs money but that is an easy way to learn even the most difficult technical stuff just like you had hired your own personal tutor. \n\nStep Two, turn your hobby into a job. If you love something, find a way to make some money off of it. You'll never hate going into work, if it involves the same stuff you would be doing for free. See step one to help you with this step.\n\nStep Three, build up a network of friends that you truly enjoy hanging out with. Get rid of the ones that are annoying or clingy or have any other depressing vibes around them. Look on Meetup.com to find people who like the same stuff you do. Hopefully you are finding like minded people already from step two, but if not, there are plenty of other ways to meet cool people that doesn't involve a dating site. Start up a poker night and advertise it on Craigslist. I did that a few years ago and it was a lot of fun. Just use your imagination and you'll come up with lots of ways to build up a core of really good friends to surround yourself with.\n\nStep Four, eliminate self destructive or time wasting activities. Obviously if you read Reddit LPT for 8 hours a day instead of following these other steps, then you need to adjust that part of your life. We all have things that drag us off task, so learn to stay focused on the fun, good, productive parts of our lives. Yes, easier said than done, of course.\n\nI think if you follow these four steps you'll find yourself having a pretty decent life and you'll not be worried about how \"unfair\" it is. ", "Understand that nobody really has it better than you. Everybody goes through trials and tribulations; everybody has something to look forward to when they wake up every morning, if you dont then you may be doing something wrong . I often find J.Cole's quote \"no such thing as a life that's better than yours\" to be factual when i really think about this topic. Life is not a competition.", "There's an honor in stubborn perseverance. \n\nPeople are born with talents, gifts, and money that place them in positions above others, through no effort of their own. For some, what hard work takes to accomplish, others were bequeathed with at birth, or through some act of fortune or luck. \n\nThere are very intelligent and accomplished people in the world, filled with justice in their hearts, that see the world--one which rewards people unjustly for genetic and birth lotteries--as in need of change. And it may be slow going, but the feelings of disappointment and sadness you seem to express are not all your own. You are not alone, my friend. \n\nParticularly for wealth, of which I am extremely skeptical, I do not use it as a measure of human value. Material goods are not sufficient for this purpose. That doesn't mean you cannot enjoy the fruits of life, but understand that placing your own personal value, or the value of others, on a car, or clothes, or a house, or cr", "Life can be unfair. It's okay to feel sad about it. Find someone to talk to about how you feel. There's someone that will help you. You may need to look harder than you'd like but there is definitely many out there who will. ", "It might not help but, then again I hope it might. Go with some Descartes. His most famous quote is \"I think therefore I am.\" In actuality assuming everything around you could in fact be a simulation, literally the only thing you can prove is that you exist. Not even your body, but your mind does in fact exist since something cannot question it's own existence without existing in the first place. All those people that have it better or worse don't matter in the slightest since you are the only one that you definitely know exists. \n\nJust try to make your life better every day and find joy in everything you can. If your cold in the morning get a hot cup of tea or even just hot water. If you're hungry but a mealtime isn't coming up soon, fucking eat. Solve all of your problems before you think about other people. If solving those problems is beyond you at the moment (homeless etc.) don't give in to an escape like sleeping, begging, watching TV at Mcdonalds after buying a $0.99 something. Beg enough for the money to look good enough for interviews and get resumes while surviving. \n\nIf your problems are already solved focus on bettering yourself. Take up fucking woodshop and carve yourself some faces in some goddamn logs. Learn to whistle. Hell sing songs you can barely remember just to improve your memory and your voice. Read, learn, absorb, and hopefully maybe this world won't seem so empty, because believe me when I say that it's not.", "I'm reminded of a picture I saw a little while ago. I can't find it because I'm on mobile, but it was basically this. Never look into your neighbors bowl to see if they have more than you, look to see if they have enough. ", "You don't want to kill yourself, you actually want to \"End how Life is\" *right now*.\n\nDo so by changing your perspective through new actions. \n\nChoose things that matter to you and do them, find joy in the verb. \n\nIts not your hand, its how you play.\n\nGo play!", "Well. Look at net satisfaction. Is life, work, all your struggles outweighing how much money you make and your ability to create happiness inducing moments and obtain happiness inducing things/drugs/etc? Then nothing can help. Life is just net worthless for you. You're simply benefiting who you work for, pay taxes to and help any other way in life. ", "The way to win the \"life\" game is not to have an easy set of challenges, but to have the internal strength to deal with whatever is thrown at you.\n\nThose who have fewer challenges are those who cannot handle real hardship. Pity them, but level yourself the fuck up!\n\nNote: This does not mean that you create challenges for yourself. That also isn't how the game is played. What this means is the when the GM (life) throws some challenges at you, you are leveling up your resilience.\n\nNote x2: Sometimes what seems really easy to another person or better when another person deals with it, is simply because they are a higher level than you in resilience. That's okay. Everyone comes to the game at different times and at different stages. Luck of the original character creation roll. The point is, though, that *you can get there*. Because everyone levels! :)", "So what? Life is extremely unfair. The thing is you have a chance to live, to do things, to discover great artists, to gaze at the sky, to walk the streets after a fresh rain. Shut your mind up against envy. Envy is a disease. Aim to die with a rich mind that devoured your experiences with relish. Own your pain. Blaming others is for children.", "Remind yourself that comparisons work both ways. Watch the Ken Burns Civil War mini-series and you will suddenly feel like you have no problems, whatsoever, compared to eighteen year olds who were getting fellow soldiers to pin notes on their back with their name and hometown so someone would be able to identify their bodies and tell their folks what happened to them. So next time you are doing comparisons, go the other way sometimes to remind yourself that whatever your current situation, there are many people currently living and in history that didn't have your options. Consider what your options are -- freedom to travel? get a different job? go to college and get a different job? live where you want? love whoever you want? If you don't like your current life but change is hard cause you're broke, remember that it's always been tough but people fight through it. I got through college working my way through, I had loans for grad school that seemed to last forever, I came from poverty and yes it was a fight but I have a career and family and friends that I am proud of. I have a life I made for myself that I like a lot. Take heart and dream a little and then go make it happen, you will find there will be those who will respect and help you along the way.", "Many, many people have felt like this. Life is the most precious resource. Great hardship inevitably leads to great relief. Just hang on patiently for that golden moment to arrive. ", "M", "Life is totally unfair and there really isn't much you can do to level the playing field. From what I can assume you speak proper English and probably live in a top ten economy, so take advantage of what you have. It could be worse.", "In addition to considering some of the other thoughtful comments here, please try calling Lines for Life or another suicide hotline in your area to talk about your suicidal thoughts and feelings. I've been there before, and it's awful. But my life got better, and I hope yours does too. <3\n\nhttp://www.linesforlife.org/", "I don't think that life is unfair necessarily, it is just uncaring. Two books that have greatly helped me in realising and constructing a world view based on this are The Great Gatsby and The Myth of Sisyphus. The Myth of Sisyphus shows that the true beauty of life is in merely existing and that you can gain happiness from the tiniest of actions as long as you remember the privilege that we have in living, such that even people who might have more materially have the exact same chance to be happy as us. Secondly, the Great Gatsby shows such an intense ability for hope based on our efforts. Gatsby starts as a poor soldier but through sheer determination changes his entire destiny-he doesn't accept failure and that Daisy is out of reach, he disregards what the uncaring world has dictated he should be and becomes a god among men. \n\nThat is a very specific interpretation of the two texts, but I feel that it helps a lot in seeing that as long as we exist, we can be happy and furthermore that no matter our circumstances we can always be better, ignoring and transcending the lot life has dictated for us. ", "Go to the pound. Look an animal right in the eyes and then you will figure it out. Keep your head up, you have tons of love left to share.", "First, if you are seriously considering ending your life, like many people have said before, seek professional help.\n\nHowever, I'm going to assume you are not seriously considering ending your life, first because I've been there and people considering suicide don't usually post LPT requests, and because you said yourself in the post title that it's not worth it. Your problem (if I'm understanding it correctly) is that you have yet to internalize that, so I'm going to tell you something that my brother told me when I was going through something similar.\n\nAre you seriously going to give up everything you *do* have because you weren't born the simultaneous richest, best looking, most charismatic person on earth? \n\nHint: The correct answer is no, you're not because literally nobody is that.\n\nIf you're saying that you \"don't have anything\" to give up, that's bullshit. At a very minimum, you have your health, the ability to think, read, speak, and countless other things that you probably take for granted every single day. Things that not everyone has, and would give up so much to be able to do. \n\nJust remember that your life is *going* to end someday, so make the most out of the situation you were given because that's the only one you're getting. Find shit you like doing and go do that shit. If you meet some other cool people along the way that like that shit too, boom you just made some friends. Keep doing that shit you like with them and learn about other shit they like doing and tell them about other shit you like doing. Then go do that shit.\n\nLife's only as complicated as you make it, man. We're on a spinning rock flying around a giant flaming ball of gas (yes, I know, technically not flaming yada yada). Party it up while you're here, because it's not going to be for long. \n\nIf you find yourself simultaneously unable to sense, think, and move, then you are completely justified in killing yourself. But you won't, because you'll already be dead. ", "As an atheist it's not often I say this, but: Go to church. Or temple...\n\nGotta get some meaning into life.", "Stop complaining like a little bit cheaper. Are you a victim of famine, genocide, or massive wars. Do you scavenge garbage dumps for food? Do you love in sewage? There are many people who have it way way way worse than you, so lose your shifty attitude. The world is better of with less complainers." ]

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[ "how can I become more confident both in my work life and my social life? I know I’m not the only one that asks this question so I’ll try to keep it brief, any advice would be amazing honestly. \n\nBasically I’ve never been super confident as far as I can temper but over the past year and a half due to the pandemic, working from home and being single again and not seeing people for a while any confidence I had dropped a lot. I constantly question myself all the time, self doubt is a real pain and it’s became a frequent thing that I do on a daily basis almost. I question my appearance, my weight, height, the way I talk, why i feel like I don’t deserve my job or to be in a happy relationship. \n\nI want to stop doing this so much. With things reopening like my work I want to be able to go in and be good at my job, same with going out again to bars and clubs I want to have fun and meet people, maybe be successful in talking to women. This while situation hasn’t helped a lot if people obviously and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as me. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "how can I become more confident both in my work life and my social life? I know I’m not the only one that asks this question so I’ll try to keep it brief, any advice would be amazing honestly. \n\nBasically I’ve never been super confident as far as I can temper but over the past year and a half due to the pandemic, working from home and being single again and not seeing people for a while any confidence I had dropped a lot. I constantly question myself all the time, self doubt is a real pain and it’s became a frequent thing that I do on a daily basis almost. I question my appearance, my weight, height, the way I talk, why i feel like I don’t deserve my job or to be in a happy relationship. \n\nI want to stop doing this so much. With things reopening like my work I want to be able to go in and be good at my job, same with going out again to bars and clubs I want to have fun and meet people, maybe be successful in talking to women. This while situation hasn’t helped a lot if people obviously and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as me. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "how can I become more confident both in my work life and my social life? I know I’m not the only one that asks this question so I’ll try to keep it brief, any advice would be amazing honestly. \n\nBasically I’ve never been super confident as far as I can temper but over the past year and a half due to the pandemic, working from home and being single again and not seeing people for a while any confidence I had dropped a lot. I constantly question myself all the time, self doubt is a real pain and it’s became a frequent thing that I do on a daily basis almost. I question my appearance, my weight, height, the way I talk, why i feel like I don’t deserve my job or to be in a happy relationship. \n\nI want to stop doing this so much. With things reopening like my work I want to be able to go in and be good at my job, same with going out again to bars and clubs I want to have fun and meet people, maybe be successful in talking to women. This while situation hasn’t helped a lot if people obviously and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as me. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "how can I become more confident both in my work life and my social life? I know I’m not the only one that asks this question so I’ll try to keep it brief, any advice would be amazing honestly. \n\nBasically I’ve never been super confident as far as I can temper but over the past year and a half due to the pandemic, working from home and being single again and not seeing people for a while any confidence I had dropped a lot. I constantly question myself all the time, self doubt is a real pain and it’s became a frequent thing that I do on a daily basis almost. I question my appearance, my weight, height, the way I talk, why i feel like I don’t deserve my job or to be in a happy relationship. \n\nI want to stop doing this so much. With things reopening like my work I want to be able to go in and be good at my job, same with going out again to bars and clubs I want to have fun and meet people, maybe be successful in talking to women. This while situation hasn’t helped a lot if people obviously and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as me. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "how can I become more confident both in my work life and my social life? I know I’m not the only one that asks this question so I’ll try to keep it brief, any advice would be amazing honestly. \n\nBasically I’ve never been super confident as far as I can temper but over the past year and a half due to the pandemic, working from home and being single again and not seeing people for a while any confidence I had dropped a lot. I constantly question myself all the time, self doubt is a real pain and it’s became a frequent thing that I do on a daily basis almost. I question my appearance, my weight, height, the way I talk, why i feel like I don’t deserve my job or to be in a happy relationship. \n\nI want to stop doing this so much. With things reopening like my work I want to be able to go in and be good at my job, same with going out again to bars and clubs I want to have fun and meet people, maybe be successful in talking to women. This while situation hasn’t helped a lot if people obviously and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as me. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "how can I become more confident both in my work life and my social life? I know I’m not the only one that asks this question so I’ll try to keep it brief, any advice would be amazing honestly. \n\nBasically I’ve never been super confident as far as I can temper but over the past year and a half due to the pandemic, working from home and being single again and not seeing people for a while any confidence I had dropped a lot. I constantly question myself all the time, self doubt is a real pain and it’s became a frequent thing that I do on a daily basis almost. I question my appearance, my weight, height, the way I talk, why i feel like I don’t deserve my job or to be in a happy relationship. \n\nI want to stop doing this so much. With things reopening like my work I want to be able to go in and be good at my job, same with going out again to bars and clubs I want to have fun and meet people, maybe be successful in talking to women. This while situation hasn’t helped a lot if people obviously and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as me. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "how can I become more confident both in my work life and my social life? I know I’m not the only one that asks this question so I’ll try to keep it brief, any advice would be amazing honestly. \n\nBasically I’ve never been super confident as far as I can temper but over the past year and a half due to the pandemic, working from home and being single again and not seeing people for a while any confidence I had dropped a lot. I constantly question myself all the time, self doubt is a real pain and it’s became a frequent thing that I do on a daily basis almost. I question my appearance, my weight, height, the way I talk, why i feel like I don’t deserve my job or to be in a happy relationship. \n\nI want to stop doing this so much. With things reopening like my work I want to be able to go in and be good at my job, same with going out again to bars and clubs I want to have fun and meet people, maybe be successful in talking to women. This while situation hasn’t helped a lot if people obviously and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as me. Any advice would be much appreciated." ]

[ "I like to watch a clip from the cinematic masterpiece Cool Runnings when I’m feeling down.\n\nI see pride! I see power! I see a bad-ass mother who don't take no crap off of nobody!", "Do things that increase your competence. Read a self-help book and listen to podcasts. Eat healthy and start exercising. Learn a new life skill you've always wanted to master. In my personal experience I tend to feel more confident the more I educate myself. \n\nYou will be surprised how quickly making lifestyle changes like this increases your confidence. You can do it man, just take it one day at a time and keep reminding yourself why you're doing it.", "Advice I got from my husband many years ago: all you need is 30 seconds of courage. You can totally do it for 30 seconds.\n\nIn social settings: take a deep breath, go up to someone new and say hi. And then you've started a conversation.\n\nIn work settings: put your shoulders back, smile and ask a question. Make a decision. Tell someone \"no.\"\n\nIt just takes 30 seconds of courage. You do it enough and it starts to come naturally.", "When you feel like your doing your best in areas that you don’t like about yourself, you’ll be more confident. If your weight is something your concerned about from a health stand point or just want to look a certain way, work towards it. Sunshine, cold showers, and progressing in different areas. That’s what’s worked for me.", "There's no panacea for confidence but two things which have really helped me - both more relate to professional life but also apply to some extent in personal:\n\n1) respect your time, and expect others to do the same. There are social cues which you need to adjust for (just saying 'no' can come across as abrupt even if it's a reasonable response) but don't be afraid to say 'no' to things you're not obligated to do, it's not on you to give a reason you don't want/aren't free to do something unless it's something you're committed to (such as childcare or part of your duties at work). But if someone wants to set up a meeting, asks you to do something outside of your normal schedule, etc. remember that your time is important and should be respected, and politely but firmly require them to explain what they want your time for and why you need to be there - depending on the context you may be able to make a call that you're not needed or that this isn't a good use of your time, but even if it is (or if you can't excuse yourself from it regardless) it underlines to everyone, yourself included, that your time is important and not just waiting at others' leisure. Similarly if someone asks you to pick up their pieces or causes something to be much more time consuming or tricky for you to handle - that's your time, insist that they respect it and mitigate the issue as much as possible.\n\n2) heavily scrutinise when you apologise. I'm not saying don't rectify when things have gone wrong or don't own your mistakes - absolutely do both of those things - but don't turn that into a narrative of your own failings. You can and should apologise when a) you could and should have done something significantly differently, b) you could reasonably have been expected to know that and act accordingly, and c) the consequences of a) and b) have had a negative impact on someone. If you really drop the ball, or say something stupid, or ignore an appointment, or neglect a responsibility then absolutely apologise - but if you'd do exactly the same thing next time around and the only part of the situation you dislike is the other person's reaction (or hell, maybe even just your worst fears about how they might react) then you don't mean that you're sorry - if you mean anything other than conversational platitudes, you mean that you're grateful. So it's not \"sorry for the delayed reply to your email\", it's \"thanks for bearing with me on this\", it's not \"sorry I'm five minutes late to this meeting\", it's \"thanks for waiting\", it's not \"sorry I made that mistake in the spreadsheet\", it's \"good catch, thanks - here's a fixed copy\". Value and take seriously when you apologise because we're socially conditioned to do it reflexively but it subconsciously reinforces a narrative that you should've done better and that they deserve better - so only apologise when those things are true", "I teach boxing to students who are struggling with confidence and social anxiety. There is a lot of value in learning how to protect yourself which helps to boost your confidence knowing you can walk into a room and take care of yourself should anything arise. Exercise has been proven to reduce many of your symptoms.", "You might try finding an outdoor activity that you enjoy or are curious about and connecting with others around that activity via a club, MeetUp group or class. Some ideas: cycling, hiking, kayaking, running, bird watching and walking.\n\nI’ve been part of a mountain biking group for a few years and that group has been amazingly helpful for me (mentally, physically and socially) especially during the pandemic. Some of my family members who don’t have a similar outlet are a bit envious (understandably so) of the fact that I’ve been able to maintain social in-person connections safely through the pandemic.\n\nSomething like this could have multiple benefits: outdoors activities are less risky in a pandemic, being in nature can be very helpful for mental and physical health, you have an opportunity to meet new people - friends or potential partners + social interaction, you can learn new skills (builds confidence), you can get exercise (helpful for mental and physical health). \n\nIf you’re able to find something you enjoy and can find others who enjoy it, it will be easy and fun to do. \nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How To Find Someone's Name By Cell Number? Not using it for any bad means. Someone I met texted me, and for various reasons, don't want to ask who. It's a cell phone, but not sure if there's a way to find out who it is without asking. ", "How To Find Someone's Name By Cell Number? Not using it for any bad means. Someone I met texted me, and for various reasons, don't want to ask who. It's a cell phone, but not sure if there's a way to find out who it is without asking. ", "How To Find Someone's Name By Cell Number? Not using it for any bad means. Someone I met texted me, and for various reasons, don't want to ask who. It's a cell phone, but not sure if there's a way to find out who it is without asking. " ]

[ "New fone who dis? \n*69 listen for a message. \nHave someone else call the number and ask who it is. \nPay a firm who does that on the internet.", "[Truecaller](https://www.truecaller.com/) seems to be accurate and have a lot of numbers/names. Just use an alt name/email, unless you want your real to get added to the database.", "I just do an internet search. Sometimes it is helpful. Also if I get more than a few calls from the same number. I just go to my cellphone provider, and block that number. I think I can block about 5 numbers at a time. The block expires after a specific amount of time. And the caller usually has given up by then." ]

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[ "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer", "How to win an argument with someone who just keeps repeting his point forever and never give up? I lose every argument with almost anyone because they just keep repeating their point and I just give up\n\nI dont mean academic debates. Just simple things like who does the dishes where there is no \"true\" answer" ]

[ "You can't. That's not even an argument any more.\n\nYou can try playing chess with a pigeon all you like, make all the right moves, use all the right strategies, but the pigeon is just going to knock over the pieces and shit on the board.", "\"I understand your point and have given several arguments against, none of which you have made any kind of counterargument to. If you intend of repeating the same thing over and over I would encourage you to invest in a pet parrot. We are done here.\" ", "Say: \"We will have to agree to disagree and walk away.\" And walk away. Their mind is closed and you won't change it.", "I read about this in a book called \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" and the author mentioned that the best way to win an argument is to AVOID it. The person just wants to feel \"bigger\" than you and will stop at nothing until they feel that way. The person probably knows he's wrong but he just wants his ego stroked.\n\nThe book is a great read btw. The author has other great principles that helped me when i'm in those situations.", "Haha, very good question. I've dealt with these types of people for a verrrrrrry long time (read: a specific demographic of women, and I say that AS a woman). I've eventually learned that the best way to piss them off is to NOT debate with them in the first place. \n\nThey're attention whores. They have a super super super inflated sense of self-worth and confidence. Ignore them. If they say something to you and you feel like you HAVE to respond, just shrug your shoulders and say \"ok\" as if you really don't give a flying fuck. Then walk away. It will piss them off to no end, and after you do it a few times and get the hang of it, it'll leave you cracking up, which will in turn piss them off even more. They crave continued validation. Don't give it to them. \n\nIf they use the old line, \"HEY! I'm talking to you! I'M TALKING TO YOU\" or anything similar, simply respond respond with, \"pffft, not like that you're not.\" <referring, of course, to their condescending and disrespectful tone of voice. After that, ignore EVERY single thing they say. Don't make eye contact with them. Just go about your business. \n\n\n...that's the best I've come up with after 24 years of living in the hood and working with (and living with) hoodrats, those who are most notorious for doing nothing but repeating themselves in an argument. Works pretty well for me. Good luck! ", "It's not an argument if someone says the same thing over and over again. It's ignorance without the idea that they may be wrong or not know everything. \n\nSome people will respond to facts figures and new information. Some are dug in and entrenched in their opinions and that can't be changed. Best you can do is try and dig deeper and ask why they believe what they believe and find ways to tackle them point by point. Otherwise you're sadly wasting your breath on someone who isn't looking to debate; they're looking to be right. ", "First, you are not losing the argument. You are just not going in circles any longer. I would respond with something such as \" Since you can not offer any valid information, I feel we are done with this conversation.\"", "You cannot convince people of something they just don't *want* to believe. Don't waste your time. \n\nWhen people start to recycle disproven points it is a sign that they *know* they lost and just wan't to admit it.", "When people simply repeat themselves it's because they've abandoned logic and are simply trying to wear you down until you quit, making them \"right\" because they \"didn't quit.\" So the first thing to understand when someone resorts to this is that *you've already won.*\n\nSay this: \"The fact that you're just repeating your same point over and over shows I've already won this argument so I'm going to stop talking to you now and you can keep repeating the same thing because that's what stupid people are good at.\" Then just walk away and ignore them.", "Stop arguing. Just recognize that some people aren't interested in the right answer, they're interested in not being wrong. \n \nOr you can do what the better physicians I've worked with do with drug seekers, a group that often use circular logic, irrational arguments, and manipulation to get their drugs. It's the only thing I've seen take the steam out of their bitching. When they're repeating themselves and obfuscating and telling you shit that makes little logical sense, then distorting your statements back to you, stop. Very calmly, in a super rational voice, reiterate back to them the entire logic of the conversation that just occurred: You did this. I responded that X, Y, an Z. You stated that Q. I told you that I T. You said M. I said Y, U, I. Is that right? Okay, so, what in our conversation makes you think O?\" Keep doing that. Reiterate reality. They don't know what to do with that. ", "It may be impossible, if they are unable to reason. Some people have no problem espousing any number of mutually-exclusive views at the same time. \n\nAssuming that there is a limit to this, if what they say is patently wrong, then you should be able to use the Socratic method to get them to see this. Ask questions. \"You say plentiful cheap labor provided by undocumented immigrants is essential to the economy. Does this mean you are against requiring a 'living wage' as minimum wage for everyone?\"" ]

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[ "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?", "Keeping dew off your car in the morning. Every morning, I get in the car which I park outside. All the windows are covered in dew. Aside from parking indoors, which isn't an option, is there a way to stop the dew from forming on the glass/mirrors?" ]

[ "Dew is the result of water vapor condensing on a surface that cools while radiating heat to the atmosphere containing the vapor. The vapor condenses more quickly than it evaporates off of the surface, causing the buildup of water droplets.\n\nI can't think of a practical way to prevent this buildup, as the temperature of a car (actually everything exposed to the atmosphere) will logarithmically lag behind the temperature of the air.\n\nMore on Newton's law of cooling: http://ugrad.math.ubc.ca/coursedoc/math100/notes/diffeqs/cool.html", "Since winter is coming, I would be interested in a way that would prevent ice and frost to from on the windows.", "what I do is get a large beach towel and put it over my windshield and put the edges of the towel through the side windows and roll the windows up.", "You probably can't prevent it, but you can get rid of it REAL quick with a small [Shower Squeegee](http://www.fancyhouseroad.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/SqueegeeGreenGreyOT9.jpg). Be sure to get one with a soft rubber edge. The harder ones just kind of scrape across the glass, you want it to be able to handle both the inside and outside curve of your windshield.\n\nI live in Seattle. Fall and winter here makes cars fog like crazy, inside and out. I used to keep a towel around to wipe stuff off, but it got dirty, wet, and ineffective pretty quick. A shower squeegee is small and maneuverable enough to use inside the car, doesn't leave oil behind like using your hand, and is really easy to keep clean. Unlike a towel where you have to take it out of the car to wash (and remember to bring it back), you can just wipe it off with a paper towel at a gas station.\n\nSeriously, if it's just dew, fuck all this other nonsense. Pay six bucks, get a squeegee, and be out of your driveway in 30 seconds. Frost is a little tougher, but it sounds like between a scraper and your windshield fluid, you have that under control.", "Apply a thin layer of shaving cream the night before. It might seem like a lot of work but you only have to do it every few months. ", "I keep a small (8\") window squeegee in my car to get the dew off my windows in the morning. This in combination with Rain-X works wonders.", "I used to use Barbasol, the cheap shaving cream on the inside of my windows and mirrors. No foggy windows or mirror. Also works on your bathroom mirror when you take really hot showers. Just spay it on and wipe off with newspaper or clean dry cloth. Smear it around with fingers and then wipe off until clean. Magic!\n\nTL:DR: Use Cheap shaving cream", "For the past couple of nights (yes it's weird) I've been putting a towel on my windshield and haven't had any problem with dew/fog on my car...", "Aside from garaging or covering your car there's not much you can do about this...why is it such a problem anyway? You could put Rain-Ex on your glass/mirrors, but it wouldn't 100% clear them up.", "As the science geeks pointed out, eliminating dew is not an option. You can however use rain-x to help reduce dew, or at least help it shed quickly. ", "Actually, there is a easy tip to help, but not prevent this. Simply park near your house. The radiant heat from your house will warm your car slightly (particularly the facing windows), and help prevent this. In colder months, when there's frost, it also facilitates melting as well. \n\nI knew there was a reason I took a thermodynamics class.", "A buddy of mine had an engine block heater on his work van. When he would plug it in at night the next morning the windows were about half way defrosted. I don't know how it worked, but I think that the heated engine coolant would make its way to the heater core and out the vents in the cabin. It was also an easy start and only took a minute to get to operating temp so the defrost didn't take too long to complete. Also this was a van in Utah that was parked outside. So if you are parking in a garage I could see how it would keep the entire car defrosted.", "Even if this were possible (w/o a car cover), is this really a problem that's keeping you up at night? I mean I get it if you have a convertible with a top that is stuck in the down position, or a motorcycle. But otherwise...dude it's water. Your car isn't one of the aliens from Signs. " ]

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[ "How to write a notice when the reason is \"Ive had enough of you screwing me around\"??? Long story short, ive been kept in the dark, lied to and straight up used to hide the incompetence of my colleagues, management and upper-management...\n\nWhat would my notice look like?\n\n(Im not sure if this belongs on this sub, but AskReddit doesnt allow personal stuff...)", "How to write a notice when the reason is \"Ive had enough of you screwing me around\"??? Long story short, ive been kept in the dark, lied to and straight up used to hide the incompetence of my colleagues, management and upper-management...\n\nWhat would my notice look like?\n\n(Im not sure if this belongs on this sub, but AskReddit doesnt allow personal stuff...)", "How to write a notice when the reason is \"Ive had enough of you screwing me around\"??? Long story short, ive been kept in the dark, lied to and straight up used to hide the incompetence of my colleagues, management and upper-management...\n\nWhat would my notice look like?\n\n(Im not sure if this belongs on this sub, but AskReddit doesnt allow personal stuff...)", "How to write a notice when the reason is \"Ive had enough of you screwing me around\"??? Long story short, ive been kept in the dark, lied to and straight up used to hide the incompetence of my colleagues, management and upper-management...\n\nWhat would my notice look like?\n\n(Im not sure if this belongs on this sub, but AskReddit doesnt allow personal stuff...)" ]

[ "After much consideration I have decided to terminate my employment with (company name) effective (date). \n\nThat's all you need to do, don't write a scathing manifesto. If you want to be a little classy thank them for the experiences and knowledge you gained while in their employ. ", "What everybody else said. As tempting as it is to try to vent your frustrations... 9 times out of 10 it won't actually change anything about the work environment, and 5 or more times out of 10 you'll wish you hadn't.\n\nClassy and calm is the way to go.", "After several months, maybe you could discuss how management dealt with things and the work culture you experienced on glassdoor if you wanted to make them pay for it. Don't give too many details away since it could expose your identity.", "Don't burn them in the resignation letter. Just say you are leaving effective date. But request a exit interview with hr if you want to burn your boss. " ]

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[ "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?", "What's the best way to deal with furniture during a cross country move? What's the Best/ Most Affordable Way to Move Across Country?\n\nI've done this before in the most irresponsible way (it but me in the ass) and want to do it right this time.\n\nI'm moving from the east coast to the west coast with my cousin. He'll be coming from a different state.\n\nI have enough furniture for a one bedroom apartment + a dog. The only issue is I love my furniture and I just got it all this year (on the cheaper end. Wayfair/Amazon/Walmart). New mattress is really nice though.\n\nWould it be better to sell everything and just take my clothes/tv/computer desk/ personal belongings (&amp; dog lol)\n\nMoving everything would cost me about $3k. My cousin has an extra queen mattress (but my queen is so comfy - I prefer mine but know I have to be realistic.)\nI would really only want to take my mattress and this green comfy velvet living room chair + my computer desk &amp; my display podium for my game system.\n\nThese aren't all necessities. I'm just not sure what is the best way to go about this.\n\nTL;DR should I sell all my furniture before I move and what would be the best way to go about that?" ]

[ "Oh God sell it. No way it's worth $3k to transport the contents of a 1 BR apt. Plus: The condition of your furniture can only get worse during all that transport in and out of your apartments and into the trucks + the moving company is not going to be inclined to reimburse you for damage unless its major. $3K can buy a lot of furniture.", "UHaul does container moves, so you aren’t actually hauling it yourself. If you have things that are sentimental, or if it will be hard to sell what you have, that might be the answer.", "Sell it. Keep the 3k in moving costs. Then buy some nice used furniture when you get where you’re going.", "If you're attached to it, transport by rail is actually pretty inexpensive. So, I'd look into that. Aside from that sell off anything that you wouldn't miss or feel like you can't upgrade. \n\nFurniture isn't one size fits all or made for all places. I've had to let go of some good things over the years as a sacrifice to upgrading my living space, which was for the best in the end. I took a minor financial hit but built that into the cost of my move.\n\nIMO you have furniture to functionally (and then aesthetically) fill the space you have to work with; and it can be challenging going about this other ways.", "Selling it is most cost-efficient, maybe keep the mattress.\n\nYou need to ask yourself a question - is your attachment to those things worth more than 3k (down to 2k at best, its not like you can do it for 1/10th of the price somehow).", "Rent a cube van from Budget, do a location to location rental. Just rented a cube yesterday for $85 a day. Get all your stuff organized and ready to go, have a couple buddies toss it all in the van in a couple hours, tow your car behind it and hit the road.\n\nLooking at a week of taking your time both driving and unloading, around $600. Nowhere near the 3k.", "Is your furniture worth $3k to you? If the answer is yes rent a uhaul or similar to move it cross country. If the answer is no then sell the big bulk items that don’t fit in your car.", "I just moved my parents 2 bedroom apartment for about $5K. And as we’ve unpacked and settled in I have said over and over, we should’ve walked away with the money and started over. If you are even entertaining the idea do it. Sentimental value is the only thing that would make the move worthwhile, otherwise enjoy a much less stressful move.", "I loaded mine into a uhaul trailer (one of the pull-behind ones) and was able to move from Philadelphia to Arizona without too much trouble (in a sedan, you don’t necessarily need a truck to pull those). Was much less than 3K, probably about $1500 and that was with paying movers on both ends" ]

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[ "How do you get rid of morning breath? I've tried mouth wash, brushing my tongue, even scraping it. None of its worked. ", "How do you get rid of morning breath? I've tried mouth wash, brushing my tongue, even scraping it. None of its worked. " ]

[ "Brush your tongue before going to bed. That white-ish stuff on your tongue is one of the main things that causes bad breath, let that sit for a whole night and kablam, bad breath. Works for me at least. (Also mouthwash helps getting in all the spot where it's hard to brush the bacteria off)", "Check your tonsil area for tonsil stones. They can be quite hidden sometimes so do a good investigation. It makes a huge difference with your breath once they're gone and the area is cleaned. " ]

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[ "Cleaning Velcro? If there is anyway of cleaning Velcro without going out and buying something and using something that is a common household item, that would be appreciated. If I had to go and get a tool to do it, that would be fine also. And just in case, I'm talking about cleaning the rough side to clean out, not the soft.\n\n", "Cleaning Velcro? If there is anyway of cleaning Velcro without going out and buying something and using something that is a common household item, that would be appreciated. If I had to go and get a tool to do it, that would be fine also. And just in case, I'm talking about cleaning the rough side to clean out, not the soft.\n\n" ]

[ "probably someone has a better method, but I usually use a pet brush, it catches pretty much all of it and it's way easier to take the dirt out of the brush than it is from the velcro", "I bought [this](http://www.ebay.de/itm/Kamm-Burstenreiniger-Klettverschluss-reiniger-/180809517923) since we have two kids with velcro shoes and a gazillion shoulderbags that require regular cleaning." ]

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[ "How to prevent frequent voice cracks as an adult male. I am a 21 yrs old male who has voice cracks very often. Is there anything I can do to prevent or stop these voice cracks from happening?", "How to prevent frequent voice cracks as an adult male. I am a 21 yrs old male who has voice cracks very often. Is there anything I can do to prevent or stop these voice cracks from happening?" ]

[ "Three things will help. They're exactly what singers use to prevent thing kind of thing:\n\n1. You gotta warm up. Do some basic vocal warmups, like \"do re me fa so la ti do.\" do the same scale while humming. do it again while saying \"ah\" Go from your lowest note to your highest and back down again. This will fix it, for sure.\n\n2. Use more air. Practice speaking with slightly more air per word. Extend your vowels (eg. speeeaking, sliiihhhghtly).\n\n3. Turn 25.\n", "/u/mightybird already gave some good responses. \n \nI believe your issue could come from the \"break\" in your voice. If you're talking in the same tone as your break, it could cause this. \n \nEvery person has to transition from their \"head voice\" (the high-pitched squeaky voice) to their \"chest voice\" (the lower-pitched tones that seem to emit from their chest). Between these two regions, there's an area of tones that you can't hit called a \"break.\" Finding your break is as simple as sliding down your range. Start singing on a very high note, and \"slide\" toward the lower notes. You'll hear the break, and feel your voice do something like changing gears. That area where you jumped is where your break exists. \n \nIf you speak using the same tones as your break exists, try to modify your speaking so that it is higher or lower than the break. There are also singing exercises to reduce the severity/range of your break. This'll all take practice, but it may be worth the effort." ]

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[ "How can I keep my fitted sheet from unraveling from the corners of my bed? I got myself a queen size bed a few months ago and the fitted sheet keeps coming off the corners of the bed. I sleep with my girlfriend and night and wake up in the morning with the elastic corners undone (and no it doesn't happen because of sexytime). My bed is against the wall on one side and it's exhausting having to put the sheet back on right every other day. It is the right size sheet (happens with my extra set too) and I have already tried wedging it underneath the mattress to keep it in place, I'm desperate.\n\nTLDR: My fitted sheet keeps coming undone on the sides even when I tuck it under the corners of the mattress", "How can I keep my fitted sheet from unraveling from the corners of my bed? I got myself a queen size bed a few months ago and the fitted sheet keeps coming off the corners of the bed. I sleep with my girlfriend and night and wake up in the morning with the elastic corners undone (and no it doesn't happen because of sexytime). My bed is against the wall on one side and it's exhausting having to put the sheet back on right every other day. It is the right size sheet (happens with my extra set too) and I have already tried wedging it underneath the mattress to keep it in place, I'm desperate.\n\nTLDR: My fitted sheet keeps coming undone on the sides even when I tuck it under the corners of the mattress", "How can I keep my fitted sheet from unraveling from the corners of my bed? I got myself a queen size bed a few months ago and the fitted sheet keeps coming off the corners of the bed. I sleep with my girlfriend and night and wake up in the morning with the elastic corners undone (and no it doesn't happen because of sexytime). My bed is against the wall on one side and it's exhausting having to put the sheet back on right every other day. It is the right size sheet (happens with my extra set too) and I have already tried wedging it underneath the mattress to keep it in place, I'm desperate.\n\nTLDR: My fitted sheet keeps coming undone on the sides even when I tuck it under the corners of the mattress" ]

[ "I have a fitted sheet that is the right size, but designed for a taller (deeper?) mattress.\n\nI also don't sleep directly on the sheets, but instead on a comforter (with another over me). This has the added benefit of not feeling cold when I get into bed.", "There is a trick to putting a fitted sheet on. It actually needs to cover a bit of the bottom of the mattress [like this](http://store.schoolspecialtyonline.net/OA_HTML/ibcGetAttachment.jsp?cItemId=185229&fileId=717207&encrypt=) though in that photo, the mattress is upside down, but you get the picture {pun intended}.\n\nI used to have this problem until I started picking up the mattress to make sure that the fitted sheet was on properly. Since then I've had no trouble at all.", "I had this problem, but we got some Jersey's Sheets which wrapped much further around the mattress and that solved the problem. " ]

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[ "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?", "How can I talk more with my 91 year old grandmother? My grandmother is 91 and when we I was young I was very close to her, it's now more difficult to talk to her due to her forgetting things. How can I make small talk when I call her, since it makes her very happy when I call?" ]

[ "Ask her questions about when she was young. Even if her memory is going, those long-term memories are still there in her brain. Ask her what games she played with her siblings, or how she met your grandfather. Ask her what she thought of your dad when your mom first brought him home. Ask if she remembers her first dance. \n", "One thing I used to do with my grandmother is when I took her places the older buildings in our city had old faded advertisements or defunct business names painted on them. I would ask her about those and she would tell me about how she used to shop there and it would bring back all sorts of related memories she had. \n\nPerhaps you could take pictures of old buildings or faded advertisements and ask her about them. It could bring back some fond memories for her. Sometimes when I asked my Grandmother she would tell me a story about the time she went there with her kids and my Mom or Aunt So and So did this embarrassing thing and then when I seen that person I would ask them about it and they would look at me and ask how in the heck I knew about it. ", "My grandmother would call every day and ask if it was thundering. It used to annoy us but I can't tell you how much I miss that daily question. We would just talk. I don't think she cared what we spoke about, she simply wanted to hear our voices and connect. I'm sure your grandmother feels the same. Let her tell the same story for the millionth time, ask her what she had for lunch, ask her for a recipe, tell her about you. Just talk. ", "Other people are giving very good advice.\n\nI would add, maybe she prefers listening to you then trying to contribute? If so, just think of some good stories and try to talk about them in a joyful way. It could even be something simple as what you had for dinner and how good it was - something that fills the time but that makes her feel like you enjoy communicating with her.", "Just talk to her the way you do it like before. Tell her your sentiments and some of your life updates (the good ones). Old people love to hear stories from their grand kids. makes me miss my own Nana.", "If she had a hobby, learn more about it yourself and talk to her about that (I.e. Needlework, canning, etc.)\n\nYou can also ask her questions about her life land relate it to issues today, like the economy. Chances are she lived through some tough economic times, what are her tips?\n\nYou might also ask her things like what movie has made her laugh the most.\n\nOh, and ask about your extended family, her parents.\n\nBe prepared that some of these things might bother her I she can't remember but just say that's ok and change the topic for another time.\n\nYou could also send her music and then talk to her about it.", "I agree with another comment - ask about her life. Learn something from her, whether it's a hobby, or family history, or about life during X time period in general. Everyone has something valuable to teach and learn from each other.\n\nIf you're not comfortable with that - what about involving her in a new activity that you both can do? (Read the same book, watch the same show, listen to the same music - so you can talk about it together) ", "Begin with introducing yourself as the grandchild she knew when you were very young, as young as you can remember. Play the role and slowly accompany her through the wonderful memories you had growing up and include her in your recollections as much as possible. Include as many family members as possible and link them to major events (weddings, reunions, holiday family get togethers, or a vacation spot that meant a great deal to her). As you speak with her, express how important it was for you to have her in your life. The later stages and events of your life she may not recall, but I'm pretty sure her eyes will light up as you carry her through the journey of your life.\n\nIf your able, make a small photo album of you growing up with photos of her included through the years. Not a family album, just you as you've gotten older. Something she can place by the phone and pick up and put a name to a face.", "After you've covered all of these question suggestions it's okay to just sit quietly with her and maybe hold her hand. The comfort sometimes comes from the closeness." ]

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[ "Getting Out Of An Apartment Lease Early? I've moved into an apartment on a 1 year lease. I've only spent 3 days here and already I'm having allergic/asthmatic issues. The hallways of the apartment are smokey and it seeps into the room. The heating is forced and blows in dry heat constantly. I've opened every window and bought 2 air filters and still can't handle it. They also put in new carpet and the chemical odour just doesnt seem to pass. I have pre-existing health issues already and it's causing constant flair ups.\n\nWith that said, I'm wondering the best way to approach getting out of the lease without being forced to pay the remainder of the contract. I know it varies based on geography, but I also know there are loopholes and valid reasons that can be made.\n\nWhat can I do?\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Getting Out Of An Apartment Lease Early? I've moved into an apartment on a 1 year lease. I've only spent 3 days here and already I'm having allergic/asthmatic issues. The hallways of the apartment are smokey and it seeps into the room. The heating is forced and blows in dry heat constantly. I've opened every window and bought 2 air filters and still can't handle it. They also put in new carpet and the chemical odour just doesnt seem to pass. I have pre-existing health issues already and it's causing constant flair ups.\n\nWith that said, I'm wondering the best way to approach getting out of the lease without being forced to pay the remainder of the contract. I know it varies based on geography, but I also know there are loopholes and valid reasons that can be made.\n\nWhat can I do?\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Getting Out Of An Apartment Lease Early? I've moved into an apartment on a 1 year lease. I've only spent 3 days here and already I'm having allergic/asthmatic issues. The hallways of the apartment are smokey and it seeps into the room. The heating is forced and blows in dry heat constantly. I've opened every window and bought 2 air filters and still can't handle it. They also put in new carpet and the chemical odour just doesnt seem to pass. I have pre-existing health issues already and it's causing constant flair ups.\n\nWith that said, I'm wondering the best way to approach getting out of the lease without being forced to pay the remainder of the contract. I know it varies based on geography, but I also know there are loopholes and valid reasons that can be made.\n\nWhat can I do?\n\n\n\n\n\n" ]

[ "Medical records and advisement from doctor to vacate should work.\n\nI mean, the landlord could keep deposit and find a new tenant.", "Landlord here. It really depends on the laws/bylaws for your area, but generally speaking there should be provisions dealing with unsafe/unhealthy building conditions. My recommendation is:\n\n1. before anything else, do your homework, read the applicable regulations and inform yourself on your rights under those. Also read about your landlord's rights so you know where to stop - a lot of people make the mistake of ignoring the other side's interest when they enter a negotiation, and this is generally worse for everyone in the end. The following points assume that you have a case under those regulations, btw.\n\n2. Maybe speak to your doctor, and see if he can recommend any way to test if your condition is tied to those environmental factors. If there is one, try and gather some backup evidence that way that you could use in case your landlord wants to play hard-ball;\n\n3. whenever possible, keep all communication IN WRITING: send a registered letter/email to your landlord where you explain the health issues the unit's condition is causing you, and what the law states are your rights in the matter. DO NOT fall into the trap of making \"threatening\" statements at this point (e.g. \"I know I can take you to court and win unless you fix XYZ\"): they can connect the dots in their head and realize that is a real possibility without you mentioning it - what you want is to set the stage for you to present an alternative path that they will deem less of a hassle. At this point, just mention you'd like to negotiate an agreement that works for all parties involved, and clearly state that taking no action is not an acceptable outcome;\n\n4. If you then mention your interest in getting out of your lease without any penalties in exchange for not pursuing the issue further, you might just get yourself a deal on the spot. If for some reason you get push-back, just keep repeating what the law states in the matter, and (if applicable) mention the fact you have evidence that can be used to prove your claims in court. There's different ways to approach this but it really all hinges on making them see that it's easier to let you out of your lease scott-free and find themselves another tenant, than having to spend more money in legal fees and (possibly) making repairs/paying any damages you pursue.\n\nGood luck!", "Is it a management company or an individual owner? \nIf it's the later, just go and talk to them and try to be reasonable and work out something, get them to try to find another tenant, etc. \n\nIf it's a management company, you may be fucked, in my experience they are very unforgiving. You'll need to read the shit out of your lease and the local laws surrounding tenants rights. \n" ]

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[ "How to fall asleep when you've watched a horror movie I'm awake right now because I can't get images and scenes out of my head from a horror movie, and this sort of applies generally. It's not as if this only happens just after I watch it. I can't fall asleep most nights without the TV on or music playing and I want to change that. ", "How to fall asleep when you've watched a horror movie I'm awake right now because I can't get images and scenes out of my head from a horror movie, and this sort of applies generally. It's not as if this only happens just after I watch it. I can't fall asleep most nights without the TV on or music playing and I want to change that. ", "How to fall asleep when you've watched a horror movie I'm awake right now because I can't get images and scenes out of my head from a horror movie, and this sort of applies generally. It's not as if this only happens just after I watch it. I can't fall asleep most nights without the TV on or music playing and I want to change that. ", "How to fall asleep when you've watched a horror movie I'm awake right now because I can't get images and scenes out of my head from a horror movie, and this sort of applies generally. It's not as if this only happens just after I watch it. I can't fall asleep most nights without the TV on or music playing and I want to change that. ", "How to fall asleep when you've watched a horror movie I'm awake right now because I can't get images and scenes out of my head from a horror movie, and this sort of applies generally. It's not as if this only happens just after I watch it. I can't fall asleep most nights without the TV on or music playing and I want to change that. " ]

[ "1) Don't watch a horror movie before going to bed\n\n2) if you watched a horror movie anyway, keep watching stuff until you're so tired your eyes will close by themselves.\n", "Try browsing r/aww or r/funny until you fall asleep. Does the trick if you can't watch something funny or listen to music due to noise!", "If you're not looking to entirely cut out white noise from your life, you could get a white noise machine or opt for something less energy intensive (than your current options) like a fan.", "Happy background music. Play it quietly, set it to turn off in an hour or so once you're asleep (hopefully)", "Go to bed with the lights on or watch something for babies. I would watch veggie tales after a scary movie when I was a kid." ]

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[ "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!", "what are some lifestyle tips you would give to a 25yo M to benefit my health later in life? I am looking for healthy habits in terms of diet, supplements, activities to set my health up well for later in life. My family has a history of heart disease and arthritis, so would definitely be interested in things covering those areas!" ]

[ "I work at a retirement home and from my experiences there I would say:\n\n\nDo yoga to ensure flexibility later in life.\n\n\nGo to a psychologist (or something like that) to fix any trauma or inner \"demons\" before your brain get old or even worse demented.\n\n\nModerate your alcohol intake! The old people I've seen who are worst off is the ones who drank too much.\n\n\nKeep training your mind, do basic math in your head, do crossword, try to remember stuff by yourself before asking Google, socialise.\n\n\nTake daily walks - preferably in green surroundings. \n\n\nDO NOT SMOKE!", "Drinking lots of water is probably the one single thing most people can do to improve their health. Dehydration can thicken your blood and make blood vessel walls constrict, putting extra strain on your heart.", "Try ween yourself off sugar. [That sugar film ](https://m.imdb.com/title/tt3892434/) explains why pretty well. \n\nAvoid smoking, and don’t eat too much red meat.\n\nAnd take care of your teeth.", "Rest. The body can take a lot of what we throw at it, but without enough rest things start to deteriorate.", "Don’t smoke, don’t habitually drink or drink to excess, do something active every day that makes you break a sweat, manage your stress, don’t overeat, and wear sunscreen.", "Sunscreen\n\nBrush and floss your teeth\n\nExercise \n\nVegetarian diet/ reduce your red meat and processed meats particularly\n\nForm strong social connections now that can sustain you later in life.", "Moderation in all things. This means don't overdo the intoxicants but also don't overdo the exercise.", "Learn how to move your body correctly then add in a proper resistance training program.\n\n1)proper biomechanics promotes better joint health, thus less opportunity for injuries, whether from sports or just life, thus reducing possibility of major joint replacement later in life. More people, at younger ages are getting spine and joint replacements, due to overuse/repetitive injury. Knowing how to move properly will help stave off these procedures and the pain arises.\n\n2) good joint health also means muscle tensions are correct thus the joints sit where they should, i.e. no posture deviations, which gives a BAMF looking physic without having to put lots of muscle on. Rounded/titled forward shoulders give the appearance of a collaspe the chest. Thus no matter how much or many reps one can pump out with chest press their chest will look collapsed due to inability to move their shoulders properly. \n\n3)because muscles are working in their correct relationships (commonly, people try to do \"pull\" exercises, but use their pecs vs latts due to muscular imbalances), muscle will develop correctly and help stave off plateaus, assuming one is periodizing their workouts. This means 1, one will get more calorie burn by \"doing less\" but also 2, get more usable strength for outside the gym.\n\nIf one takes the time to learn their imbalances and works on them vs just \"working out\" they will gain so much as well as avoid a life of joint pain and extra doctor visits.", "I’m 37 and in better shape than I ever was in my 20s. I would definitely recommend yoga and stretching, either as primary activities or to supplement whatever sports or training you enjoy.\n\nGet a blood test to check all of your levels, even if you feel fine. Like many people I found I was low on vitamin D and need to supplement. There’s millions of supplements but vitamin D and fish oil have always been staples for me.\n\nThe one thing I wish I took care of more when growing up is my skin. Skincare is more of a preventative measure to maintain the skin that you have, it’s not easy to reverse damage (although I haven’t tried any clinical procedures).\n\nPlus what everyone else says about drinking water, a balanced diet and an active lifestyle. Eat well and train for most the week and then enjoy guilt free takeaway, alcohol, recreational drugs etc. on occasion!", "Maximize on the Pareto principle. 80% of the results come from 20% of the work.\n\nTranslated into life, there are tons of skills you can become proficient enough in to be useful without having to master. Knowing fundamentals and basics for a ton of stuff will give you so many opportunities and make a lot of life easier also.\n\nSome examples:\n\nTouch typing - you can learn the placements and almost instantly double your typing speed. Makes you more productive without having to actually work harder. Your output can match your thinking speed better\n\nPhotography basics - simple composition like the rule of thirds, a basic understanding of shutter speed, aperture, and ISO, etc. You can outclass most amateur photographers just by knowing these basics, and you’ll be a rockstar among friends and family for it.\n\nBasic first aid - a lot of people don’t know it… it’s easy to get rusty on once you do too, but man does it pay to know how to splint a broke bone or wrap a twisted ankle.\n\nSimple cooking techniques - sautéing, boiling, frying, etc. along with how to spice to taste. Unlike baking, cooking is an art, and if you know what tools/techniques can be used, you don’t need recipes to make good food.\n\n\nThis is just a sampling, but all these would only take a few hours to learn well, but have big payoffs throughout life.\n\nRemember, you don’t need to master things to be better at them than the average person.", "Keep a pet. People with pets are generally happier and report higher life satisfaction. Having pets reduces blood pressure and alleviates loneliness. And if you get a dog, you can take it outside and play which is great for both of you. I have cats myself, and petting my cats does actually decrease my blood pressure!", "Avoid processed foods, don't make a habit for having sugary stuff on a regular basis, eat more protein and include some form of weight/resistance training in your daily routine even if for just half an hour or 20 mins. Treat it like bathing/ brushing teeth.\n\nMinimize screen time. It wrecks your mental health and acuity.\n\nDon't prioritise your career over your physical or mental health. Remember that only you are responsible for taking care of yourself. The company can get another worker drone in any case. Life and business goes on , don't sacrifice yours for someone's else's.", "1. Work on maintaining friendships.\n\n2. Wear sunblock, even if you have melanin.\n\n3. Take vitamins, probiotics, and omegas.\n\n4. Walk regularly.\n\n5. Interact with nature every day. Having a garden or houseplants will help you routinely keep in touch with something green.\n\n6. Play and learn. Word and math games are lots of fun. Do crosswords, sudoku, or even trivia games to stay sharp!", "Stay away from food places that have drive-throughs. Better for your wallet and your health.\n\nYes, there is no doubt that you can get a banana from Starbucks or a salad with dressing on the sad from Wendy's, but that's not how those places make their money. THey make money on getting you in the habit of ultra processed foods that are bad for your wallet and health.", "Learn proper form when you are exercising, and choose low-impact workouts. Most older folks I know primarily complain about joint pain when it comes to health, and I am starting to feel my knees weaken already.", "Hey people, I actually need some advice, I smoke about 7-8 cigerettes a day and I really do want to quit. Could you guys tell me something that helped you quit?", "Have a good diet, you can’t workout enough to fix a bad diet. Eat vegetables and protein (doesn’t have to be meat), try as much as possible to avoid processed foods, this usually means cooking for yourself. After that, exercise, depending on your life, you probably don’t move enough, try to get into something sustainable.", "Check your calcium intake and adjust your diet to make sure you’re getting enough. Your bones will thank you!", "- Eat well (5 fruit and veg a day) but have a cheat day at the weekend \n- Find a form of exercise you enjoy and do it 4x a week \n- Basic supplements - a multivitamin, an omega fish oil capsule and use low salt on your food (it’s half sodium, half potassium way better for you)", "1-2 gallons of water per day. Almost every person you see on a normal day is dehydrated. By the time you become thirsty it’s already too late. Just a 2% decrease in hydration is enough to seriously impair mental processes and decision making.", "Intermittent fasting. Check the obesity code and watch Dr. Fung on YouTube. Only thing that worked for me in my early thirties. Metabolism slows down." ]

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[ "How to become more decisive I sat down with my girl last night by the Hudson river while it was drizzling outside and we spoke about numerous things. \nI'm constantly critiquing myself and asked her to tell me all my flaws and weaknesses. She said I am very indecisive and it is a big sign of weakness. Not just in my overall life but also in my day to day life.\n\nSo, how do I work towards being decisive and having an answer on the spot? Any advice/tips/tricks would be greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks guys!", "How to become more decisive I sat down with my girl last night by the Hudson river while it was drizzling outside and we spoke about numerous things. \nI'm constantly critiquing myself and asked her to tell me all my flaws and weaknesses. She said I am very indecisive and it is a big sign of weakness. Not just in my overall life but also in my day to day life.\n\nSo, how do I work towards being decisive and having an answer on the spot? Any advice/tips/tricks would be greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks guys!" ]

[ ">So, how do I work towards being decisive and having an answer on the spot?\n\nIf you don't care about the outcome don't say \"I don't know\", pick the first option. There is a misconception that more choice is better, so if I give others more choice (by not caring) they will be happier. It is wrong. Pick any option no one gives a fuck. It is the responsibility of choosing that they don't want.\n\nThe act of deliberating takes energy which gets used up. Don't waste it on meaningless decisions.", "You need to build self-trust. Do more things that deal with hand-eye coordination and do things that will help you improve your self-image. Confidence will flow out from the recently cut hole between your legs, in-through-which will flow the cool Hudson river air used to cool the gigantic gonads which now peep effervescently through their view-port... which is, once again, between your legs." ]

[ 3, -1 ]

[ "How to ask people to keep the noise level down Sounds easy right? Well everytime I ask someone to keep it down they give me one of two looks: who the fuck do you think you are and oh my god I can't believe I've been so noisy. How can I approach people so they don't have such a tense reaction?", "How to ask people to keep the noise level down Sounds easy right? Well everytime I ask someone to keep it down they give me one of two looks: who the fuck do you think you are and oh my god I can't believe I've been so noisy. How can I approach people so they don't have such a tense reaction?", "How to ask people to keep the noise level down Sounds easy right? Well everytime I ask someone to keep it down they give me one of two looks: who the fuck do you think you are and oh my god I can't believe I've been so noisy. How can I approach people so they don't have such a tense reaction?", "How to ask people to keep the noise level down Sounds easy right? Well everytime I ask someone to keep it down they give me one of two looks: who the fuck do you think you are and oh my god I can't believe I've been so noisy. How can I approach people so they don't have such a tense reaction?", "How to ask people to keep the noise level down Sounds easy right? Well everytime I ask someone to keep it down they give me one of two looks: who the fuck do you think you are and oh my god I can't believe I've been so noisy. How can I approach people so they don't have such a tense reaction?" ]

[ "How often is this an issue? Is this in a public space, living quarters, or elsewhwre? Do you have any authority in these situations? I'm not at all trying to be snark, just trying to get a better picture.", "Be as polite as possible for approach one, two, and three. Then call management/local police/land lord whoever and see if that works. ", "if above you : take a broom and bang the shit on the ceiling a good 10-20 times while simutaneously yelling \"SHUT UP!!!!!\"\n\nIf outside : yell from inside your home \"IM CALLING THE POLICE!!!!!\"\n\n\nIf neighbors : \"i have two kids trying to sleep, a nagging wife and i have to be up at 5am tomorrow morning.. can yall PLEASE keep it down?\"", "With your eyes closed?\n\nYou cannot do anything about someone else's reaction/look. They react to your external stimulus according to some inbuilt programming you don't have access to. Just keep that in mind. No matter how you change your stimulus (approach to ask them to be quieter), each person's internal programming is an unknown.", "This actually happens at my office a lot. There is a very nice, hard working young lady that insists on singing out loud. And she has been asked to stop in the past by many people but she says she does it without thinking.\n\nI just tell her - I'm working on a project with a short deadline... The singing is distracting, so would you mind... Not? \n\nI ask nicely and she always politely apologizes and says she will stop. It usually only lasts for THAT day. \n\nI think bluntness but w respect is the best approach. Good luck!! " ]

[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "A guide on getting a job Hi guys &amp; girls, recently I have been looking for a job for the summer and had no luck. I was wondering if people could give me some tips? I'm not looking for skilled work but I don't have any experience. Some advice would be very helpful. Thanks very much.", "A guide on getting a job Hi guys &amp; girls, recently I have been looking for a job for the summer and had no luck. I was wondering if people could give me some tips? I'm not looking for skilled work but I don't have any experience. Some advice would be very helpful. Thanks very much.", "A guide on getting a job Hi guys &amp; girls, recently I have been looking for a job for the summer and had no luck. I was wondering if people could give me some tips? I'm not looking for skilled work but I don't have any experience. Some advice would be very helpful. Thanks very much." ]

[ "Apply. Wait two days. Call, ask to speak to a manager. Say, 'Hi my name is dkskfndk, I applied to position djskfjd a few days ago, and I was wondering if you had any questions regarding my application. \"\n\nThats the key. Really. They get tons of applications, and most anyone can DO the job... you gotta show you WANT to do it. ", "Start a business. Paint is easy say you xan do color match for touch up work because every paint store can do that already. Mow lawns even if its cliche. Clean gutter. If you cannot find a job make one.", "When emailing or posting applications direct; make sure you write a brief cover letter explaining why you want to work there and what relevant skills you have, it tells the hiring manager what to look for in your résumé. \n\nWhen applying in person; dress well, SMILE, have a clean and crisp resume ready in your hand with your availability written on it, mention a product or aspect of their company you like and why, introduce yourself to the manager so they know your name (sure, it's right there on your application, but you're making sure they associate your name with your face, this makes a big difference), and confidence is key.\n\nWhen filling in a form application; use succinct but relevant answers, use keywords listed on the advertisement, always have references.\n\nAt the interview; groom & dress well (look as though you are prepared to start working immediately), smile, be prepared for questions you're not sure how to answer, read their website before going (if they have one) so you can easily answer things like, 'what do you know about us?' 'What can you bring to our company?' 'Why do you want to work for us?', ask when you can expect to hear from them, and shake their hand when you leave. Remember to say thank you at the end, they don't owe you the job just because you turned up to the interview. If you're running late, call ahead to let them know and apologise, but try to be five minutes early.\n\nI always put a big red X on applications handed in by people who don't smile or people who look like they dressed for a day of playing x-box, and especially not the ones who think they're doing me a favour by applying (for context, retail). " ]

[ 6, 2, 1 ]

[ "I often talk myself out of doing x thing that I'm currently interested in doing it. How to change this mindset? I've tried cutting out other distractions. I've tried doing the timer. They don't really help.\n\nI'll want to watch this tv show, or do this activity, but then I talk myself out of it. And I don't know how to fix that line of thinking.", "I often talk myself out of doing x thing that I'm currently interested in doing it. How to change this mindset? I've tried cutting out other distractions. I've tried doing the timer. They don't really help.\n\nI'll want to watch this tv show, or do this activity, but then I talk myself out of it. And I don't know how to fix that line of thinking.", "I often talk myself out of doing x thing that I'm currently interested in doing it. How to change this mindset? I've tried cutting out other distractions. I've tried doing the timer. They don't really help.\n\nI'll want to watch this tv show, or do this activity, but then I talk myself out of it. And I don't know how to fix that line of thinking." ]

[ "What are you worried about? What do you lose if you commit X amount of time to a particular thing? \n\nIf you can figure out the source of your hesitancy/anxiety, you may be able to move forward.\n\nFor me, I usually assume that I've got nothing better to do for the next several hours, so what difference does it make if I waste that time on a bad movie or show? In 100 years, who will care that I wasted 10 hours watching a bad Netflix show?", "Think of something you absolutely do not want to do ever. When you begin to talk yourself out of doing something tell yourself you will do the horrible thing instead. The original activity becomes desirable again. Example my hated activity is hosing down the garbage cans.", "I don't follow Joe Rogan but he does preach about conquering your 'inner bitch' and I think about this a lot. It helps me" ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to keep track of expected mail What's the best way? Sometimes I fear I completely forgot about a purchase I made, and that the product never arrived, and I didn't notice all of these years. Do you use a running spreadsheet or what?", "How to keep track of expected mail What's the best way? Sometimes I fear I completely forgot about a purchase I made, and that the product never arrived, and I didn't notice all of these years. Do you use a running spreadsheet or what?", "How to keep track of expected mail What's the best way? Sometimes I fear I completely forgot about a purchase I made, and that the product never arrived, and I didn't notice all of these years. Do you use a running spreadsheet or what?", "How to keep track of expected mail What's the best way? Sometimes I fear I completely forgot about a purchase I made, and that the product never arrived, and I didn't notice all of these years. Do you use a running spreadsheet or what?", "How to keep track of expected mail What's the best way? Sometimes I fear I completely forgot about a purchase I made, and that the product never arrived, and I didn't notice all of these years. Do you use a running spreadsheet or what?" ]

[ "Just use Informed Delivery if its coming through the post office. \nhttps://informeddelivery.usps.com/box/pages/intro/start.action\n\nOtherwise as others have stated you get the tracking number sent to you when your item ships UPS or FedEx, DHL etc...", "Most orders have an email confirmation, so I leave those messages “unread” until the product arrives. Then I’ll mark it as “read” when it arrives.", "I’ve been using my notes on my computer to list what I purchased and when they send tracking I copy and paste the number and shipping company so I can go back to it. Or the link. If I returned something, I use the same page on the bottom and include the return tracking number so I don’t forget Incase they aren’t issuing my return. If you find yourself emailing companies it would be helpful to include an order number too.", "I use to mark the \"pending\" mail as favorite (you can also set a tag). This way, when I go to the favorites folder (or the tag folder) I can see all my pending mails, whether they are pending delivers, mails to answer, or anything I have to take care of and I didn't yet.", "I shop at like 4 or 5 online stores, that way I won’t have to keep track of it all. Also, I keep the email confirmation & tracking info until I get it." ]

[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "I’m going to my hometown after being away for so many years and have been ignoring people on social media. What do I tell them? I am going to be running into a ton of people that have sent me various requests and I have just ignored them. It’s not that I don’t like them, I just connected with the few people I chose. Some good of the people ignored are family and some are friends. What do I tell them? I don’t want to be mean. I can’t say I just connected with co-workers, because they see me commenting on other family member posts. Thanks.", "I’m going to my hometown after being away for so many years and have been ignoring people on social media. What do I tell them? I am going to be running into a ton of people that have sent me various requests and I have just ignored them. It’s not that I don’t like them, I just connected with the few people I chose. Some good of the people ignored are family and some are friends. What do I tell them? I don’t want to be mean. I can’t say I just connected with co-workers, because they see me commenting on other family member posts. Thanks.", "I’m going to my hometown after being away for so many years and have been ignoring people on social media. What do I tell them? I am going to be running into a ton of people that have sent me various requests and I have just ignored them. It’s not that I don’t like them, I just connected with the few people I chose. Some good of the people ignored are family and some are friends. What do I tell them? I don’t want to be mean. I can’t say I just connected with co-workers, because they see me commenting on other family member posts. Thanks.", "I’m going to my hometown after being away for so many years and have been ignoring people on social media. What do I tell them? I am going to be running into a ton of people that have sent me various requests and I have just ignored them. It’s not that I don’t like them, I just connected with the few people I chose. Some good of the people ignored are family and some are friends. What do I tell them? I don’t want to be mean. I can’t say I just connected with co-workers, because they see me commenting on other family member posts. Thanks.", "I’m going to my hometown after being away for so many years and have been ignoring people on social media. What do I tell them? I am going to be running into a ton of people that have sent me various requests and I have just ignored them. It’s not that I don’t like them, I just connected with the few people I chose. Some good of the people ignored are family and some are friends. What do I tell them? I don’t want to be mean. I can’t say I just connected with co-workers, because they see me commenting on other family member posts. Thanks.", "I’m going to my hometown after being away for so many years and have been ignoring people on social media. What do I tell them? I am going to be running into a ton of people that have sent me various requests and I have just ignored them. It’s not that I don’t like them, I just connected with the few people I chose. Some good of the people ignored are family and some are friends. What do I tell them? I don’t want to be mean. I can’t say I just connected with co-workers, because they see me commenting on other family member posts. Thanks." ]

[ "1. They most likely don’t care\n\n2. Nobody deserves an explanation from you, you’re focusing on yourself. If they can’t see that, what’s the point of speaking to them in the first place.", "Chances are if you’ve been “ghosting” them, as mentioned, they probably won’t be hawking you down for a conversation on what you’ve been up to. Also depends on how small of a town you’re going back to. I just go with the old classic I hardly use social media except for work and a few close family members I don’t get to text or call. If that answer isn’t good enough for them I’m not sure what more you can say. You’ve been focusing on you;)", "I’m in the saaaammmeee position man. Social media just makes me anxious for some reason and so many of my old friends and family probably think I just don’t care about them, which isn’t the case at all. I have just psyched myself out too much about it", "Tell em how you see it.. if they wanted to talk with you they would just call you.. \nI dont think people think that much about you that they care if you are friends with them.. \nFacebook often suggest people \"do you know this guy\". \nf you end \n you see it.. if they wanted to talk with you they would just call you.. \nI dont think people think that much about you that they care if you are friends with them.. \nFacebook often suggest people \"do you know this guy\". \nIf you end up connecting with some old friends that you wanna connect with send them a request and a message.. \nDont over think it..", "Nothing, life goes on. When I talk to my parents they’ll tell me the saw xxxxx at the grocery store or at a restaurant and asked about me. When they say I should look them up online or reach out otherwise I’ve said, “ I haven’t seen this person in 20 years. I didn’t really like them then and probably won’t like them anymore now that I haven’t seen them”. \n\nIf I run into someone while I am visiting I am nice and will chat for a few minutes, but nothing more.", "“Sorry, couldn’t find my phone”\n \nTbh though I don’t think they would care that much, you said it had been years since you last saw them." ]

[ 12, 7, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How do I fix a wobbly blade on an oscillating pedestal fan? I currently own a Lasko 2546 oscillating fan. Like many of other world, the white noise is extremely helpful for sleeping. We cleaned it today, and it had a slight wobble to it after we put it back together. We tried several times to disassemble and reassemble to verify it's all done properly, but the wobble in the blade is still there. Is there anything I can do to straighten the blade, or is it just time for a new one?\n\nThank you in advance!", "How do I fix a wobbly blade on an oscillating pedestal fan? I currently own a Lasko 2546 oscillating fan. Like many of other world, the white noise is extremely helpful for sleeping. We cleaned it today, and it had a slight wobble to it after we put it back together. We tried several times to disassemble and reassemble to verify it's all done properly, but the wobble in the blade is still there. Is there anything I can do to straighten the blade, or is it just time for a new one?\n\nThank you in advance!", "How do I fix a wobbly blade on an oscillating pedestal fan? I currently own a Lasko 2546 oscillating fan. Like many of other world, the white noise is extremely helpful for sleeping. We cleaned it today, and it had a slight wobble to it after we put it back together. We tried several times to disassemble and reassemble to verify it's all done properly, but the wobble in the blade is still there. Is there anything I can do to straighten the blade, or is it just time for a new one?\n\nThank you in advance!", "How do I fix a wobbly blade on an oscillating pedestal fan? I currently own a Lasko 2546 oscillating fan. Like many of other world, the white noise is extremely helpful for sleeping. We cleaned it today, and it had a slight wobble to it after we put it back together. We tried several times to disassemble and reassemble to verify it's all done properly, but the wobble in the blade is still there. Is there anything I can do to straighten the blade, or is it just time for a new one?\n\nThank you in advance!" ]

[ "You have to make sure the notch on the back of the fan is lined up with the roll pin in the shaft. If its not properly seated it will cause fan to wobble. Also make sure you threaded the cap on strait over the blade assembly. Not \"cross threaded\".\n", "Ah, the old fan blade problem. In my experience blade straightening never works. I always make it worse. Sometimes putting some all-purpose light weight oil on the shaft will help - for a while. Did you tighten down the set screw/nut to secure it to the shaft - and didn't leave any spacers out? What sounds odd is that it was fine before and now it's not. If you didn't knowingly bend it, it could just be out of position. (If possible) try rotating it in 30 degree steps to see if there is a good spot. mark your spots with a sharpie and keep notes. ", "find a way to balance the blade, like on a finger or something. Duct tape the sides that fall to add more weight...?\n\nI'm just using how I learned to balanced mower blades", "I have a feeling that I'm thinking the wrong fan, so I'll make this statement based on what fan I do know. \nFor a ceiling fan, there's little weights you can stick on any of the blades to control a wobble. This might be something to consider if it's a fan that rotates in a similar fashion. As far as exactly what sort of way to put a weight on, it'd obviously matter by the setup, but superglue with a small piece of wood or metal near the base of the blade (not out wide on the end) can help once you figure out which blade to put it on. Finding that blade might be harder. Consider a rubber band with a similar chunk or some other jury rigging." ]

[ 3, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option.", "How can I make my house trained dog stop \"going\" in my bedroom when I'm sleeping??? The dog in question is 13 and for the last 2 weeks he's woken me up every single night between 1 and 5. He doesn't scratch on the door or cry to go for a walk, he just jumps out of bed and poops. I know he doesn't scratch or cry because I'm a very light sleeper - I'd hear it and it would wake me. What wakes me is the smell.\n\nSo I guess I'm looking for advice, how can I humanely take care of this? We go for a half mile walk every evening before bed where he does his business just fine and normal, I don't feed him an hour before bedtime (water is available of course) and he rarely eats human food unless its something like a vegetable mixed in with his food but even that is rare. I've got epilepsy and can't safely be woken up like this. Its a huge seizure risk for me. Getting rid of the dog is not an option." ]

[ "Take him to a vet. It could be a G-I issue or possibly the beginning of dog dementia. If for example he has a pinched nerve in his back that may cause \"accidents\"\n\nIt will also be important to note if the stool is solid, soft serve, bloody, slimy etc as that can help narrow it down.\n\nIt could even be a \"food allergy\" it's not always cut & dry with dogs but that's why there are veterinarians..\n\nTLDR: Consult a veterinarian..", "Have you considered using diapers at night for your dog? We have to use them for my 16 year old Boston Terrier because he sometimes has accidents in the middle of the night. It sounds horrible to have to clean a dog's diaper but it's so much better than cleaning up the mess from our carpeted, bed room floor.", "Take your dog to the vet. The dog is uncomfortable and pooping. The dog is trying to tell you something.", "indoor turf dog potty worked for our older dog. It gave him a regular place to go and we didn't need to worry about carpets. If he is older he is going to start needing to go during the night, just like older humans do.", "The safest and kindest solution for you both might be to peepad train your dog. Put overlapping pee pads over the spot where he has pooped before. If he pees or poos on the peepad, give extravagant praise. The pet store sells training devices to help you get started on the training, or you could wipe a pad on the grass when he pees outside to get the smell on the pad.", "To deal with him going in your bedroom specifically, could you have him sleep elsewhere and get a baby gate to stop him being near your bedroom?", "He’s old and definitely too uncomfortable to go walk to his proper toilet spot. I know it sucks cleaning after them so much, my 14 year old cavie was incontinent the last 2 weeks of his life and everytime he peed himself we’d have to give him a shower and it was annoying sometimes but when they get old you have to put them before you. Shit smells and it sucks that he’s doing it in the middle of the night but dogs do that type of stuff when they’re unwell and want to show you. Just let him poop. Clean it up. He’s old and you’re not gonna have years of this problem so honestly I’d say let it be. In terms of your sleep, do you take sleeping pills? Im on pregabalin which is a seizure med and also helps witb sleep, esp the 300mg pills. Theres also gabapentin. Or just sleeping pills to help you sleep deeper, I don’t think there’s anything else you can do. You could get your dog sleeping meds. Benzos, gabapentin which would also help with his discomfort. My dog takes 300mg gabapentin and is out like a light everytime. Giving that to him before his bed time would probs have him sleep through and not poop", "Unfortunately, once a dog poops somewhere one time, he thinks that’s an appropriate potty spot pretty much forever. So the first time was probably an accident, and now the other times are his habit he’s developed.\n\nIt’s a very, very hard habit to break (I just had to deal with this with my dog). The only things I can suggest that work: deep clean/shampoo your bedroom carpet with vinegar and enzyme-killing cleaner; cover the spot where he usually potties with a dog bed, and make your dog sleep in that bed (if he can’t handle a crate); make 100% sure that doggo poops before bed– NO EXCEPTIONS. When he poops outside, praise and treats– every time!\n\nBest of luck.", "I have the same problem. Cured it by tying her to a leash to my headboard. It is short so she can't jump down and hang herself. She has access to blanket and pillow and can cuddle between my husband and me . Crazy thing is she still wont ask to go out but will hold it til I get up. She is a tiny dog a mini dachshund.", "Have you gotten a new bag if dog food recently? They may have changed ingredients.\n\nPick up food a few hours before bed. He might need walking right before bed while he adjusts or it's a new change of life thing for him as he's getting older.", "I'd start reducing his freedom in the house. Restricted to an easy to clean room or in a crate. Though earlier comments are right that he needs a vet's evaluation. Older dogs need extra care just like puppies do. You might need to arrange to take him out overnight." ]

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[ "How to find and fix a drafty home for better heat efficiency in the winter. Had a semi windy day the other day in my newly rented home. I noticed my curtain to my kitchen was waving although all Windows and doors were shut as well as all fans being off. Would really like to tackle this before the cold weather costs me more money.", "How to find and fix a drafty home for better heat efficiency in the winter. Had a semi windy day the other day in my newly rented home. I noticed my curtain to my kitchen was waving although all Windows and doors were shut as well as all fans being off. Would really like to tackle this before the cold weather costs me more money.", "How to find and fix a drafty home for better heat efficiency in the winter. Had a semi windy day the other day in my newly rented home. I noticed my curtain to my kitchen was waving although all Windows and doors were shut as well as all fans being off. Would really like to tackle this before the cold weather costs me more money.", "How to find and fix a drafty home for better heat efficiency in the winter. Had a semi windy day the other day in my newly rented home. I noticed my curtain to my kitchen was waving although all Windows and doors were shut as well as all fans being off. Would really like to tackle this before the cold weather costs me more money.", "How to find and fix a drafty home for better heat efficiency in the winter. Had a semi windy day the other day in my newly rented home. I noticed my curtain to my kitchen was waving although all Windows and doors were shut as well as all fans being off. Would really like to tackle this before the cold weather costs me more money." ]

[ "An easy way to figure out where drafts are coming from is to blow up a balloon and sit it in the middle of each room. Sit or stand without moving, let the air eddies settle down and then wait for the balloon to move in the draft.", "You can get insulating sheets that fit behind wall switches and plugs. Put them in any that are on outside walls. [Like these] (http://m.homedepot.com/p/Frost-King-Foam-Electrical-Outlet-and-Wall-Plate-Insulating-Kit-OS12H/100184290)\n\nLook around the furnace, bathroom exhausts, plumbing drains and vents. You may find substantial holes. Low pressure expanding foam is good for quick filling. \n\nReplace the caulking around doors and windows.\n\nPS. As a renter better get your landlord to do it.", "I used [drop cloth](http://www.lowes.com/pd_240386-18632-RSLW3510-25C-2___?productId=50414240&pl=1&Ntt=2+mil) and cut my own. I used blue painters tape (thinking for an easy removal) pulled some paint off the trim around the window, but it was an old house with multiple layers of paint. It worked pretty well because we had a lot of windows and some were very big. To find the leaks smoke works well, I used incense. I was living in a old 3 story stone house with single pane old windows without storm windows. \n\n", "Ways to fix, at least:\n\n* You can buy clear plastic at home improvement stores that goes around/over windows and blocks airflow. This is a huge lifesaver for my family, especially since we live in an old house. You put the tape up around the window (doesn't take off the paint), put the plastic on, then use a hair dryer to tighten the plastic up. \n* Keep your curtains open in the day, and closed in the night, to heat the house ever-so-slightly in the day and retain it overnight.\n* Wear more clothes. Throw on a pair of house slippers rather than pad around barefoot; toss on a sweater or a hoodie over a t-shirt. Just dressing a little warmer can make a big difference without needing to crank up the thermostat.\n* You can make or buy cheap draft-guards for doors: basically a tube filled with sand or rice that gets tucked up against a door to keep drafts from coming in through the bottom. \n* Depending on what you do for work, and/or what your habits are, there are some neat ideas like the [Japanese kotatsu](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kotatsu), which is basically \"put a heater under a table, then put a blanket over the table, and then when you're at the table your legs and feet are warm\". Great idea for heating a certain area, especially if you work from home or are sedentary - not so great for heating a whole room.\n* If you have hallways or rooms that you don't use, close the doors so you're not heating them. We use a set of curtains at one end of our hallway, and they're remarkably effective at helping contain the heat in the main room we're in.", "I think the problem is your foundation. Sounds like your home needs proper insulation. No matter how much heat your home produces it, it will not stay inside your home if it is not well insulated. Proper insulation helps to keep the heat from escaping. Find a solution such as insulating panels that you can affix to the wall, and you'll save on energy cost and keep the heat from escaping your home." ]

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[ "How to watch US netflix outside the US Netflix has implemented a plan to stop media hint etc from working and therefore I can't get the tv shows I want. Is there any way around this?\n", "How to watch US netflix outside the US Netflix has implemented a plan to stop media hint etc from working and therefore I can't get the tv shows I want. Is there any way around this?\n", "How to watch US netflix outside the US Netflix has implemented a plan to stop media hint etc from working and therefore I can't get the tv shows I want. Is there any way around this?\n" ]

[ "My media hint works fine although I had to manually re add it via the media hint site. It won't let you add it from the website so right click on the download link and hit save link as and then copy it over again ", "I recomend getting a VPN. I use to use [witopia](https://www.witopia.net/). Very good and they have servers all over the globe.", "As an American I have to ask, what's better/different about US Netflix compared to other countries Netflix, or do other countries not get to use it?" ]

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[ "how to stop biting my nails! I'm a 30 yo male and can't stop biting my nails. It annoys my wife and I wish I had great nails. That cayenne pepper stuff didn't work. ", "how to stop biting my nails! I'm a 30 yo male and can't stop biting my nails. It annoys my wife and I wish I had great nails. That cayenne pepper stuff didn't work. ", "how to stop biting my nails! I'm a 30 yo male and can't stop biting my nails. It annoys my wife and I wish I had great nails. That cayenne pepper stuff didn't work. ", "how to stop biting my nails! I'm a 30 yo male and can't stop biting my nails. It annoys my wife and I wish I had great nails. That cayenne pepper stuff didn't work. ", "how to stop biting my nails! I'm a 30 yo male and can't stop biting my nails. It annoys my wife and I wish I had great nails. That cayenne pepper stuff didn't work. ", "how to stop biting my nails! I'm a 30 yo male and can't stop biting my nails. It annoys my wife and I wish I had great nails. That cayenne pepper stuff didn't work. ", "how to stop biting my nails! I'm a 30 yo male and can't stop biting my nails. It annoys my wife and I wish I had great nails. That cayenne pepper stuff didn't work. " ]

[ "I used to bite my nails and I stopped by getting a pair of nail clippers. I'd carry them around in my pocket all the time. \n\nWhen ever I got the urge to bite my nails, I'd bring out the nail clippers and trim my nails doing the tiniest little amount possible. It made a satisfying substitute for biting my nails and kept them from getting all short and ragged looking.\n\nDo this for as long as it takes to get out of the habit.", "Ask everyone you know to slap you in the face as hard as they can every time they see you biting your nails.", "I know it sounds weird, but put tape or bandaids on your nails/tips of your fingers. You may need to do just on weekends depending on where you work.", "[This stuff](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/71Au-jkyURL._SY355_.jpg) tastes really gross, not like cayenne pepper.\n\nAlso, start carrying and using nail clippers, or at least keep a pair in your desk. My SO is a big nail biter, but much better since he started keeping clippers with him.", "I stopped by running my fingernails underneath each other, like when you go to clean the dirt out from under the nail. That gave me the satisfaction of fidgeting with my nails without actually removing parts of them. I've also read that painting your nails (regular stuff, not cayenne) will help you stop. I'm not sure how well that works though. \n\nGood luck!", "Drop your pants. Slide your fingers through the crack of your ass twice. You will stop biting your fingernails. If not, shoot yourself.", "Check out the book The Power of Habits by Charles Duhigg if your interested in learning how to change habits such as this one. In a nutshell, you need to figure out what trigger causes you to want to bite your nails. Once you identify that, you need to replace the habit of nail biting with something else, such as squeezing a medicine ball. So effectively, everytime the trigger happens, you squeeze the ball instead of biting your nails. Over time, this will become habit.\n\nIts a pretty good book. Repetitive at times, but most books of this nature tend to be that way. Hope this helps" ]

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[ "How to stop \"ripping off\" nail pieces First off, sorry for the vague title, but I didn't find the corresponding english word for my german one :P\n\nSo instead of biting my nails, I tend to rip parts off with my other nails, resulting in uneven edges that make me rip off even more. I've been doing that for years now, and I'm ashamed to show my hands because of this matter. So, how can I stop this habit?\n\nThanks in advance, help is appreciated.", "How to stop \"ripping off\" nail pieces First off, sorry for the vague title, but I didn't find the corresponding english word for my german one :P\n\nSo instead of biting my nails, I tend to rip parts off with my other nails, resulting in uneven edges that make me rip off even more. I've been doing that for years now, and I'm ashamed to show my hands because of this matter. So, how can I stop this habit?\n\nThanks in advance, help is appreciated.", "How to stop \"ripping off\" nail pieces First off, sorry for the vague title, but I didn't find the corresponding english word for my german one :P\n\nSo instead of biting my nails, I tend to rip parts off with my other nails, resulting in uneven edges that make me rip off even more. I've been doing that for years now, and I'm ashamed to show my hands because of this matter. So, how can I stop this habit?\n\nThanks in advance, help is appreciated.", "How to stop \"ripping off\" nail pieces First off, sorry for the vague title, but I didn't find the corresponding english word for my german one :P\n\nSo instead of biting my nails, I tend to rip parts off with my other nails, resulting in uneven edges that make me rip off even more. I've been doing that for years now, and I'm ashamed to show my hands because of this matter. So, how can I stop this habit?\n\nThanks in advance, help is appreciated." ]

[ "[cba to type it again...](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/3woa64/lpt_request_how_do_break_a_nail_biting_habit/cxxqyqm?context=3)", "I like getting to the source of the problem. Remove the end of your finger at the first knuckle. Problem solved. ", "I have the same problem. I have to keep my nails painted at all times. If you're male, you can get a clear strengthening polish and a mattifying top coat and nobody will know you have nail polish on. Essie is my favorite at the moment, cause it's ridiculously strong, so I can't cause damage if I tried.", "Consider carrying a nail file, metal or not, with you at all times.\n\nKey chain, car, bathroom, kitchen, jackets, etc., such that you're always in the vicinity of one.\n\nThe moment you pick up an irregularity or a nail that can snag something, IMMEDIATELY remember the files/buffers and file away the irregularity.\n\nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How to reduce pain when plucking eyebrows Title says it all...my eyebrows are a mess but plucking them always brings tears to my eyes and prevents me from finishing. Any way to reduce pain, or an alternative method to eyebrow grooming would be great.", "How to reduce pain when plucking eyebrows Title says it all...my eyebrows are a mess but plucking them always brings tears to my eyes and prevents me from finishing. Any way to reduce pain, or an alternative method to eyebrow grooming would be great.", "How to reduce pain when plucking eyebrows Title says it all...my eyebrows are a mess but plucking them always brings tears to my eyes and prevents me from finishing. Any way to reduce pain, or an alternative method to eyebrow grooming would be great.", "How to reduce pain when plucking eyebrows Title says it all...my eyebrows are a mess but plucking them always brings tears to my eyes and prevents me from finishing. Any way to reduce pain, or an alternative method to eyebrow grooming would be great." ]

[ "try putting toothache gel on your eyebrows beforehand. Its got lanacane in it which numbs the tissue where its applied\n", "You will thank me for this one. Put witch hazel on a cotton ball and hold it on your eyebrow for a minute or so, then pluck away.", "Get good quality tweezers and pluck in the direction of hair growth. If it still hurts, baby ambesol works. But really, you'll get used to it. ", "What works best for me is taking plenty of time, trying to only get one hair at a time, and putting a finger from my other hand over the base of the hair to prevent the skin from moving, so the hair comes out really quickly. And always pull out in the direction the hair grows." ]

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