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[ "How to be a more informed and involved citizen (USA) Besides voting, what are some other things American citizens can do to be more actively involved in their country? What resources are available to be more aware of what's going on in the government?", "How to be a more informed and involved citizen (USA) Besides voting, what are some other things American citizens can do to be more actively involved in their country? What resources are available to be more aware of what's going on in the government?", "How to be a more informed and involved citizen (USA) Besides voting, what are some other things American citizens can do to be more actively involved in their country? What resources are available to be more aware of what's going on in the government?" ]

[ "Don't forget your city or village government! Council meetings are usually open to the public, so you can go to the meeting and watch your elected officials in action. If you don't understand some of the lingo they use, just ask around.\n\nAlso, states, counties, cities, and the like have boards and committees that include a certain number of citizens, often appointed by the governor or mayor, to take on a task or oversee a certain aspect of government. For example, my hometown (Kentwood, Michigan) has a Planning Commission, a Parks and Recreation Commission, and other committees. The governor of Michigan makes appointments to hundreds (!) of commissions each year, including university boards of trustees, economic development boards, and so forth. Ask your elected officials how you can get appointed to one of these boards!", "The most well-informed person I know is a political transcriptionist. \nYou could also get a job for a non-profit lobbying organization.\nLiving very close to D.C. makes a person extremely well-informed with little effort.\nOr, get involved on the local level first. \nBut please make sure you get the numbers for some suicide hotlines first. ", "For big government, there's an Android app for Congress that displays all the members of Congress, has profiles for each as well as direct links to call and contact them on the web, and lists all activity going on currently and in the near future.\n\nHowever, a lot more happens locally that's important. Know your state's senators and representatives and how to reach them, know who your governor and mayor are and how to contact them as well. Look on your county and state websites for townhall meetings and any votes that are coming up for local issues, and then involve yourself in them. Attend these meetings and organize others to attend as well. Nothing gets people's attention like suddenly having 50 to 100 more people than expected at a local meeting.\n\nThe other half of this is knowing what you're talking about. Read the constitution. Read supplementary documents like the federalist papers. Read the news and pull as much accurate info from as many reputable sources as possible (which is becoming harder and harder unfortunately).\n\nIt takes a fair amount of work to really make it worthwhile, but it's critical for a well run democracy. You can also help by supporting different programs and agencies that focus on things you're passionate about, be it animal rights or emergency relief or whatever. Money is good, time is often better. " ]

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[ "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**", "How to remove those stickers that tear Anyone have any secrets on to remove those awful stickers that don't peel clean off? In Christmas season I've encountered them on a clay dish, gift bags, and other things. Some of these items cant just be soaked in hot water. Any suggestions?\n\n**" ]

[ "If you can't (or don't want to) get goo-gone, you might have some rubbing alcohol around. It works just as well.", "Instead of a blow dryer, I just use my own breath. It's a slow process, but the warmth and moisture loosens the glue pretty well. I've been doing this for years, although there are some that are just too stubborn and one of the suggested solvents will be necessary.", "If it's just a regular store sticker and you can get a good corner going but then it tears and leaves a layer behind, just using the sticky part of the bit you've already gotten off to pull the half-layer works reasonably well too, if you don't want to bring out the big guns. Just keep putting it back on and pulling it off again and again. Works reasonably well, though maybe not perfectly.", "Warm breath. If it's porous. Mayonnaise works well on non porous. Or WD40. I get many stickers to release just breathing warm slow breaths and going slow. ", "This works best if the label is still stuck on completely (i.e. before you removed the upper layers) and only for paper labels without plastic coating:\n\nPut a piece of paper towel soaked with Windex on the label and let it soak for 15-30 min (be patient!). After that, you can peel it off easily without any paper left. If there is any glue left, you can wipe it off with a paper towel and Windex immediately after you removed the label (the glue should still be wet). Alternatively you can use isopropanol to remove glue residues. Do not use acetone on a plastic surface.", "Thanks to this thread I removed all the sticky tags within minutes! Couldn't of come across it at a better time :)\n\nCheers!", "Scrape all the paper off, then remove the sticky residue by coating it in chap stick then whipping it off. ", "Rubbing alcohol. Rub the sticker off so that only the adhesive remains. Then use a rag dipped in the rubbing alcohol to remove the adhesive. This technique will work great if the sticker was placed on glass or plastic. ", "I can't believe nobody has said baby oil/mineral oil yet. I've used it for years, and it rolls the reside right off and doesn't leave a trace behind. (Except for the scent of a fresh diaper)", "I've heard that you can use mayo to remove them...\nhttp://voices.yahoo.com/easy-ways-remove-sticky-labels-gummy-residue-6552214.html", "I use peanut butter. Leave it for an hour or so. Stickiness keeps it in place and oils help break it down. Obviously only works for certain types of surfaces. Don't try it on cloth, for example, but it's great for things like glass and plastics." ]

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[ "How to unclog the drain in my bathroom sink [NSFW] It's clogged because I washed too much hair and jizz down it. \n\nThe drain looks like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3b/Bathroom_sink_drain.jpg)\n\nAnd it has one a little knob that opens or closes the drain, which looks like [this](http://i.stack.imgur.com/HUqMg.jpg)\n\nI'm counting on you for this one, Reddit. My mom is starting to ask questions.", "How to unclog the drain in my bathroom sink [NSFW] It's clogged because I washed too much hair and jizz down it. \n\nThe drain looks like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3b/Bathroom_sink_drain.jpg)\n\nAnd it has one a little knob that opens or closes the drain, which looks like [this](http://i.stack.imgur.com/HUqMg.jpg)\n\nI'm counting on you for this one, Reddit. My mom is starting to ask questions.", "How to unclog the drain in my bathroom sink [NSFW] It's clogged because I washed too much hair and jizz down it. \n\nThe drain looks like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3b/Bathroom_sink_drain.jpg)\n\nAnd it has one a little knob that opens or closes the drain, which looks like [this](http://i.stack.imgur.com/HUqMg.jpg)\n\nI'm counting on you for this one, Reddit. My mom is starting to ask questions.", "How to unclog the drain in my bathroom sink [NSFW] It's clogged because I washed too much hair and jizz down it. \n\nThe drain looks like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3b/Bathroom_sink_drain.jpg)\n\nAnd it has one a little knob that opens or closes the drain, which looks like [this](http://i.stack.imgur.com/HUqMg.jpg)\n\nI'm counting on you for this one, Reddit. My mom is starting to ask questions.", "How to unclog the drain in my bathroom sink [NSFW] It's clogged because I washed too much hair and jizz down it. \n\nThe drain looks like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3b/Bathroom_sink_drain.jpg)\n\nAnd it has one a little knob that opens or closes the drain, which looks like [this](http://i.stack.imgur.com/HUqMg.jpg)\n\nI'm counting on you for this one, Reddit. My mom is starting to ask questions.", "How to unclog the drain in my bathroom sink [NSFW] It's clogged because I washed too much hair and jizz down it. \n\nThe drain looks like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3b/Bathroom_sink_drain.jpg)\n\nAnd it has one a little knob that opens or closes the drain, which looks like [this](http://i.stack.imgur.com/HUqMg.jpg)\n\nI'm counting on you for this one, Reddit. My mom is starting to ask questions.", "How to unclog the drain in my bathroom sink [NSFW] It's clogged because I washed too much hair and jizz down it. \n\nThe drain looks like [this](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3b/Bathroom_sink_drain.jpg)\n\nAnd it has one a little knob that opens or closes the drain, which looks like [this](http://i.stack.imgur.com/HUqMg.jpg)\n\nI'm counting on you for this one, Reddit. My mom is starting to ask questions." ]

[ "Unscrew the stopper, if there's gunk there clean it out with a pencil or chopstick. If there's shit you can't reach, you'll have to unclip the spring clip, pull forward the pivot rod and pull the drain plug from the top of the sink then clean it. \n\nIf that doesn't do the trick, then look under the sink, there should be a U shaped pipe. Unscrew each end of the U (should be fairly easy to unscrew) - put a trash can underneath so that water doesn't soak the cupboard - then pull it out and empty/clean it. \n\nYou're done. The whole thing shouldn't take you more than 15 minutes. Putting the drain plug back can be tricky since you can't see the end of the pivot rod. Just wiggle it around a few times until it's in the drain plug. \n", "Go to walmart, get one of these [jagged plastic stick drain cleaner zip it things](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51JF9CM8GxL._SL1200_.jpg) .\n\n\nNow take out the middle piece of the drain dealie, and jam the barbed end down the pipe, turn and pull out gunk and hair.\n\n\n\nFlush the gunk and hair.\n\n\nJerk it into the toilet from now on, dopey.", "The pivot rod is easily removed from the stopper. Pull stopper out and clean out what you can. If that doesn't help start removing plumbing and cleaning the pipes out. It's really very easy once you get into it and you will learn a new skill for the future. And you also have the added benefit of learning that if you make a mess you have to clean it up.\n\nThis guy is awfully good at explaining things like he knows your ignorant but that's OK.\nhttps://youtu.be/8PI0iaIB6-4", "Take an old metal clothes hanger (preferably broken or obsolete), bend it into a roughly straight rod, and jam your new tool down the drain, clawing out all menacing clumps of hair and jizz in the way. Any other narrow rod that can fit down the drain will also work. When the job is finished, place rod underneath sink or in a nearby cabinet for future use.", "I have a plastic snake that cost 3 dollars from home depot. It is seriously the best thing on the planet. Buy it with a little drain cover/mesh thing so that this doesn't happen after you unclog it.\n[Here!](http://www.homedepot.com/p/BrassCraft-Zip-It-Bath-and-Sink-Hair-Snare-BC00400/100665735)", "Go get a bottle of [THIS](http://www.drano.com/en-US/Products/Pages/Dual-Force-Foam.aspx).\n\nI had a friend clog up my bathroom sink by puking in it during a party and I was NOT looking forward to trying to take it apart and clean it out.\n\nOne bottle of the above (read the directions) and it's been fine ever since.", "I do this about once every 2-3 years\n\nPlace a bucket underneath the sink to catch water/jizz/nastiness/etc\n\nUnscrew the plastic washer that keeps the pivot rod in place and then take the pivot rod out. After you do that, you should be able to just pull the drain stopper out. Obviously, don't use the faucet after this point or you'll create a mess since water will spill out of the hole where the pivot rod was (should fall into bucket though).\n\nAll/most of the nastiness is going to be in the J valve under sink, which should look like this (i.e. it looks like a J - if only everything was named so succinctly):\n\nhttp://www.trackmeetsonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/Bathroom-Sink-Plumbing_05.jpg\n\nYou should be able to loosen the washers that keep the J valve in place with your hand. Do so and take the J valve and drain plug out and bring it outside or to kitchen sink to wash it out with a hose/faucet until it's as clean as you can get it (or burn it and buy another one). This is the messiest step.\n\nWhen the J valve is out, you should be able to see straight through your sink drain into the bucket underneath the sink. If not, then you can push the shit stuck in the sink drain through into the bucket below with a bunch of paper towels or something like that and shove them through with something like a broom handle so that it pushes everything out of the sink drain and into the bucket below.\n\nAfter doing this, put everything back together and sink should drain like a champ for another 2-3 years. If you have to do this quite often, maybe adjust the amount of jacking off you do into the sink down a notch or 2 or use a sock or jerk it in the shower like a normal human being.\n\nOn a scale of 1-10 difficulty, this is a 0 and takes maybe 10-15 minutes." ]

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[ "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?", "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?", "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?", "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?", "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?", "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?", "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?", "How to not strain your eyes from long hours of continuous programming. I've recently gotten into the programming and gaming field. Learning and practicing everything I know online has started causing me some discomfort and pain in my eyes even with a few breaks in between. \n\nI'm short sighted so I don't know I that is a factor to take into consideration. \n\nWhat can I do to reduce damage to eyes but *hopefully* not sacrifice much of my time?" ]

[ "Taking 5 minute breaks is also an opportunity to think about the problem you are trying to solve. Long Hours of Continuous Programming are probably not good for much of anything, including programming performance.\n\nMake sure you don't just keep coding until you are no longer accomplishing things or enjoying yourself.\n\nIf there's some part of the project that seems really boring but is really important and you don't want to do it so you work on some other maybe sorta cool feature you might need a break from programming entirely if only for a few minutes.", "If you have the money to afford it, get yourself Gunnars glasses, they are designed to prevent eye strain. Of course, don't use that as an excuse for not taking breaks every now and then :P Amber lenses have the best protection, but if color correctness is important for you, get the crystalline (transparent) lenses.\n\nI am not prone to eye strain myself, but should my eyes get tired from working at a computer Gunnars have saved them in a pinch.", "If you are continually suffering from eye strain or vision related headaches, have your vision checked. Even if you have good eyesight, you might need reading/computer glasses to help you from straining your eyes. Computer reading glasses include a bifocals that keep your eyes from having to re-adjust when you look down from the monitor at the keyboard or a piece of paper.", "I've never seen anyone use this as a reason for getting one, but using a projector is amazing on your eyes. I can only guess at why, but I think it is mostly due to the distance allowing your eyes to focus further away. When you focus up close you are straining muscles to do so. \n\nThere's also something different about looking at light cast at a wall rather than light cast into your eyes.", "I do the same thing. Take a break at least once an hour and use artificial tears to keep your eyes from drying out from the lack of blinking. There are computer glasses, but I couldn't say whether they're effective or not.", "Get up every hour and walk around and do something else for 5-10 minutes, whether you want to or not. Let your eyes have a break focusing on farther away things. ", "Eyeleo is a great program I put on work computer. Reminds you to blink your eyws, take breaks, look out the window etc!", "Eye doctor told me my lenses get stuck in short distance, so when I look at things further away it's blurry (lenses can't transition, hence blurred vision). Still 20/20 lenses, but still can't see. \n\nEvery five or so minutes of reading, lift eyes and focus on something fare away for ten seconds. Continue.\n\nAmazing improvement." ]

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[ "How do I remain motivated and productive after I get home from work? It's always an uphill battle to get stuff done at home. I'm usually very productive and motivated to do research and get tasks completed when I'm in my office at work. However, I just can't seem to get that same feeling when I'm at my home office.\n\nFor instance, when I have down time at work, I love completing mini tasks on my computer that don't have to do with work. But when I'm home and need to get those same tasks done, I find it challenging to do. TV and video games aren't an issue as I barely do either at home.\n\n", "How do I remain motivated and productive after I get home from work? It's always an uphill battle to get stuff done at home. I'm usually very productive and motivated to do research and get tasks completed when I'm in my office at work. However, I just can't seem to get that same feeling when I'm at my home office.\n\nFor instance, when I have down time at work, I love completing mini tasks on my computer that don't have to do with work. But when I'm home and need to get those same tasks done, I find it challenging to do. TV and video games aren't an issue as I barely do either at home.\n\n", "How do I remain motivated and productive after I get home from work? It's always an uphill battle to get stuff done at home. I'm usually very productive and motivated to do research and get tasks completed when I'm in my office at work. However, I just can't seem to get that same feeling when I'm at my home office.\n\nFor instance, when I have down time at work, I love completing mini tasks on my computer that don't have to do with work. But when I'm home and need to get those same tasks done, I find it challenging to do. TV and video games aren't an issue as I barely do either at home.\n\n", "How do I remain motivated and productive after I get home from work? It's always an uphill battle to get stuff done at home. I'm usually very productive and motivated to do research and get tasks completed when I'm in my office at work. However, I just can't seem to get that same feeling when I'm at my home office.\n\nFor instance, when I have down time at work, I love completing mini tasks on my computer that don't have to do with work. But when I'm home and need to get those same tasks done, I find it challenging to do. TV and video games aren't an issue as I barely do either at home.\n\n", "How do I remain motivated and productive after I get home from work? It's always an uphill battle to get stuff done at home. I'm usually very productive and motivated to do research and get tasks completed when I'm in my office at work. However, I just can't seem to get that same feeling when I'm at my home office.\n\nFor instance, when I have down time at work, I love completing mini tasks on my computer that don't have to do with work. But when I'm home and need to get those same tasks done, I find it challenging to do. TV and video games aren't an issue as I barely do either at home.\n\n", "How do I remain motivated and productive after I get home from work? It's always an uphill battle to get stuff done at home. I'm usually very productive and motivated to do research and get tasks completed when I'm in my office at work. However, I just can't seem to get that same feeling when I'm at my home office.\n\nFor instance, when I have down time at work, I love completing mini tasks on my computer that don't have to do with work. But when I'm home and need to get those same tasks done, I find it challenging to do. TV and video games aren't an issue as I barely do either at home.\n\n" ]

[ "Ok, so I’m in grad school so this might seem very obsessive and or intense, but grad school. That being said, modify as needed in regards to what you’re working on! \nSo, when I’m on campus between classes, or in a dull/tangential lecture, I like to plan how I will other stuff done so I write a realistic to do list with what I want to and need to do for the evening. \n\nMy lists will include things like 'send this email to so and so,' 'call so and so,' 'make tomorrow's lunch,' 'go to store for X,' etc, which are the easier, more manageable (but still necessary/important) things, and then I will add in 1-4 challenging, bigger tasks, like 'complete X reading,' 'begin drafting/revising Y,' etc. \n\nAlso, and this is KEY!, make sure to think about the bigger tasks in terms of the process and break them down as such. So instead of \"write half of midterm paper\" think about the time needed to comprehend prompt, background research, plan what you want to say, organize a way to say it, and perhaps lastly, write an intro and thesis. That way, you are able make meaningful, realistic progress without getting bogged down by the large task at hand. It makes things more manageable, helps you think ahead/be more prepared, and it feels good to get shit done! \n\nBy having a concrete list of goals, you have something to keep you on track. And by adding the things you need to do/can't forget, in addition to the bigger tasks, you can feel better about making progress and ready to be productive. \n\nAs a side personal note that might only be reasonable for students, I have multiple lists: a to do today list, for the here and now things; an upcoming list of shit I need to do, organized by time constraints/deadlines, what I have coming up/significance; I then have a third list of random miscellaneous things and things that are coming up (like in a month or two) that I want to keep on the back burner. These are all kept as a singular note within the notes app on my Mac and iPhone, so I always have access to the list (iCloud), and by keeping my 3 lists in one place I can literally keep an eye on what’s coming up. It does take time to compile these, but mostly it becomes an additive/deletion thing so it’s not too hard to maintain, and it forces you to be accountable for your schoolwork/the syllabuses. Also, I previously used the Wunderlist app (which I can use on my Mac and iPhone) and it works really well for this kind of thing (you can add reminders and share with others, if needed). I just stopped using it because the notes app is simpler to use and I prefer all of my lists to be in one place. Plus I found some of Wunderlist’s notifications to be obnoxious. \n\nOk, as final step, once you've completed your list for the day (however long or difficult), play video games, watch TV, have a beer, etc. This is key because it can be a motivator to be productive! I use my list(s) as a reward system that way I can plan when I will get my shit done, and in a way, when I can relax. This is especially key for grad school because when you're relaxing you won't feel (as) guilty because you did your list and you have a plan for getting the rest of your shit done too! Hope this helps :)\n", "change your motivation, \nmake it a cool thing. \nTurn on your fav music, make some good drink/beer/coffe/tea or whatever you like. Enjoy moment while you do tasks. Don't treat it like punishment :P", "I find that I need to go straight to my desk when I get home. Don't stop to do anything, no stop in the kitchen, I don't even take off my shoes, just go straight to my desk. Then I set a timer for the minimum amount of time I'll be satisfied with studying. At least that way there is a quantitative goal. Hope this helps! -nurse practitioner student", "People only have about 8 productive hours per day, which is why work tries to take that much. If you have important things then do it, and go to work later.", "Need more info. What do you do at home? From what you said, it sounds to me as if you turn into a sloth the moment you walk into your home.", "In my brain, home is the \"chill zone\" and trying to get anything done just doesn't work out. I say just find somewhere else to do those tasks, change up your environment.\n\nIf you can't do those tasks at a coffee shop, library, or from your work office, you could even try just taking a laptop to a different room in the house than usual. " ]

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[ "How to be successful at a career fair Going to a career fair on Friday and need a few tips on how to stand out and make a good impression on recruiters/potential employers.", "How to be successful at a career fair Going to a career fair on Friday and need a few tips on how to stand out and make a good impression on recruiters/potential employers." ]

[ "Either show up first or last. People will remember the first and last thing that happened but the middle is just a blur. \n\nDress professionally\n\nKnow what companies are going and which ones you want to talk to. Research those companies and then talk to them about what they do that interests you.\n\nThis one might be controversial: don't customize your resume for each company. Your objective should include 3-4 of your interests and they should be specific to the subject (e.g. rig project management vs oil and gas, automation/plc programming vs engineering). That way, when a recruiter sees it, they might say that they don't have opportunities in one or two things but they do in another area that interests you. Further down the line, those other areas can be used as career building/professional development. ", "In all honesty for 9 out of 10 people the most successfully decision would be to lock yourself in a room, and fill out job applications online instead of wasting 3 hours talking to people who forget you the second you walk away.\n\nThat said this year, I actually did get multiple interviews from career fair, so it isn't a complete waste. However I likely could have gotten the same interviews by applying directly online." ]

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[ "Get grease out of clothing I work in a restaurant. We have this grills that are just kinda like a slab of metal. Whenever I scrape it with the scraper, the grease from the cooked food gets onto my apron, and then soaks into my clothing. The result is dark spots near my pockets, and this gross greasy feeling. It also makes them feel constantly cold. I know for sure its from the grill, because nothing else uses grease (a fryer for example. We don't have one). We use garlic flavored oil to \"butter\" our steaks. \n\nI've tried washing them with baking soda to get rid of the smell, but nothing else works.How do I get rid of this?", "Get grease out of clothing I work in a restaurant. We have this grills that are just kinda like a slab of metal. Whenever I scrape it with the scraper, the grease from the cooked food gets onto my apron, and then soaks into my clothing. The result is dark spots near my pockets, and this gross greasy feeling. It also makes them feel constantly cold. I know for sure its from the grill, because nothing else uses grease (a fryer for example. We don't have one). We use garlic flavored oil to \"butter\" our steaks. \n\nI've tried washing them with baking soda to get rid of the smell, but nothing else works.How do I get rid of this?", "Get grease out of clothing I work in a restaurant. We have this grills that are just kinda like a slab of metal. Whenever I scrape it with the scraper, the grease from the cooked food gets onto my apron, and then soaks into my clothing. The result is dark spots near my pockets, and this gross greasy feeling. It also makes them feel constantly cold. I know for sure its from the grill, because nothing else uses grease (a fryer for example. We don't have one). We use garlic flavored oil to \"butter\" our steaks. \n\nI've tried washing them with baking soda to get rid of the smell, but nothing else works.How do I get rid of this?", "Get grease out of clothing I work in a restaurant. We have this grills that are just kinda like a slab of metal. Whenever I scrape it with the scraper, the grease from the cooked food gets onto my apron, and then soaks into my clothing. The result is dark spots near my pockets, and this gross greasy feeling. It also makes them feel constantly cold. I know for sure its from the grill, because nothing else uses grease (a fryer for example. We don't have one). We use garlic flavored oil to \"butter\" our steaks. \n\nI've tried washing them with baking soda to get rid of the smell, but nothing else works.How do I get rid of this?" ]

[ "You can try adding vinegar to the load. That sometimes helped my \"buttery\" shirts from the movie theatre.", "Try putting washing up liquid (neat) on the effected area, and leave it for a while, then wash as normal.", "A product called Simple Green works wonders.\nI am a massage therapist so I sometimes get oil\non my clothes and supplies. I buy a big gallon and \ndilute it when necessary. I use it in the laundry, counter tops,\nfloors, etc. Also, it's nontoxic. ", "Dish soap (Dawn works best), rub it into the spot with your finger so that it goes thru the fabric. " ]

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[ "how to help a friend get over a break-up and/or losing a loved one. A friend of mine broke with his boyfriend and his grandpa died in the same week.\n\nIt's been like a month but she is still in the same point where she doesn't wanna get out of her bedroom 90% of the time and its killing her grades among other things. I don't know how to act anymore.\n\nHelp please.", "how to help a friend get over a break-up and/or losing a loved one. A friend of mine broke with his boyfriend and his grandpa died in the same week.\n\nIt's been like a month but she is still in the same point where she doesn't wanna get out of her bedroom 90% of the time and its killing her grades among other things. I don't know how to act anymore.\n\nHelp please.", "how to help a friend get over a break-up and/or losing a loved one. A friend of mine broke with his boyfriend and his grandpa died in the same week.\n\nIt's been like a month but she is still in the same point where she doesn't wanna get out of her bedroom 90% of the time and its killing her grades among other things. I don't know how to act anymore.\n\nHelp please.", "how to help a friend get over a break-up and/or losing a loved one. A friend of mine broke with his boyfriend and his grandpa died in the same week.\n\nIt's been like a month but she is still in the same point where she doesn't wanna get out of her bedroom 90% of the time and its killing her grades among other things. I don't know how to act anymore.\n\nHelp please.", "how to help a friend get over a break-up and/or losing a loved one. A friend of mine broke with his boyfriend and his grandpa died in the same week.\n\nIt's been like a month but she is still in the same point where she doesn't wanna get out of her bedroom 90% of the time and its killing her grades among other things. I don't know how to act anymore.\n\nHelp please." ]

[ "You can't. Not how you are wanting to at least.\n\nThat's something you need to understand before you can be of any good to her.\n\nShe needs to grieve. \n\nIt takes time. \n", "You, personally, can't do much. Forcing her to do anything obviously won't help, even if it's getting her to class. Just offer to help her, and accommodate when you can. Talk if they want to talk, or just hang out if they don't. If they ask you to leave, then leave. People grieve differently, and you can't change much about that.", "You can't help people till they decide to help themselves. \n\nEspecially if they are grieving.\n\n\nThe absolute best thing you could do for them right now is stay by their side so they dont feel completely alone. It makes more difference to have somebody to stay with them than most people think.", "People can get stuck in the routine of grieving. Keep trying to do little things with them and for them. Offer your shoulder if that is what they need. They might want company but not want to do anything, so sometimes just being there is helping. Go over with some snacks and offer to marathon a show they like. Encourage them to go out for short times, a walk around the block or just a drive to the store. \n\nThey might seem to be pushing you away, and that is normal. Give them space but remind them that you are there for them when they need you and check in with them once in a while. ", "Let them know that you are available whenever they need you and then leave them alone. They need to come out of this on their own. " ]

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[ "How do you start your \"adult life\"? I'm currently 23, I've completed 1 year of community college, a girlfriend who I've been with for 4 years now, no cr", "How do you start your \"adult life\"? I'm currently 23, I've completed 1 year of community college, a girlfriend who I've been with for 4 years now, no cr", "How do you start your \"adult life\"? I'm currently 23, I've completed 1 year of community college, a girlfriend who I've been with for 4 years now, no cr", "How do you start your \"adult life\"? I'm currently 23, I've completed 1 year of community college, a girlfriend who I've been with for 4 years now, no cr", "How do you start your \"adult life\"? I'm currently 23, I've completed 1 year of community college, a girlfriend who I've been with for 4 years now, no cr", "How do you start your \"adult life\"? I'm currently 23, I've completed 1 year of community college, a girlfriend who I've been with for 4 years now, no cr", "How do you start your \"adult life\"? I'm currently 23, I've completed 1 year of community college, a girlfriend who I've been with for 4 years now, no cr" ]

[ "Do you have any idea on what you want to do? A lot of community colleges can help you determine possible careers to go into. They have some testing that can help you out. You are young and there are going to be certain jobs that will not be around in another 20 years. So choose wisely;-) \nIt may be worth your while to join the service. It will get you a chance to live out on your own. Perhaps discover something that you enjoy. Just make sure you have an mos that translates to civilian life. ", "Make a list of everything you're passionate about/talented doing. Try joining some free clubs (like on Meetup.com) to test these out to see what you like most. Go back to trade school and focus all your energy on that interest. It's going to give you the most bang for your buck and open up the most doors for you while you continue to work part time.", "Get a career by either finishing college or get a trade. You can't be an adult until u can support yourself", "Efficient way to start building cr", "Definitely stay in school as long as you're in a field that interests you and you can find a good job in.\n\nOtherwise if college isn't your deal (which it's not for everybody) I'd look into construction. If you can learn to weld and like to travel you could be making dumb money in no time. Or look into quality/inspection (CWI, NACE, etc), there is a big need coming in the industry and the pay is good with relatively minimal training.\n\nAs far as cr", "As you and your girlfriend grow into adulthood, you are likely to develop disparate interests.\n\nMaintain and value this relationship only for as long as you both consistently make each other happy. ", "Get a better job. Look into trades, they start at above minimum just as a helper. Stick to ur girl if she stick to you. Forget your friends there gonna fuck you over. Maybe keep one but not like youll see then often. Drink a beer after a hard days work...buy ur self a truck" ]

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[ "Stretching a hoodie Got a hoodie and it's a bit tight on my body however it is fine for length and sleeve length. I think the chest size is 36 but 38 or 40 would be nice. I can't return it so any good tips for stretching it out? There's also some printing on it so i'm not sure if that affects any method you guys have.\n\nCurrently I'm just wearing it hoping that it just stretches over time but anyone have any way to stretch it quicker?", "Stretching a hoodie Got a hoodie and it's a bit tight on my body however it is fine for length and sleeve length. I think the chest size is 36 but 38 or 40 would be nice. I can't return it so any good tips for stretching it out? There's also some printing on it so i'm not sure if that affects any method you guys have.\n\nCurrently I'm just wearing it hoping that it just stretches over time but anyone have any way to stretch it quicker?" ]

[ "Wet it. Ring it out. Stretch it over a hamper or back of kitchen chair until it is dry. Repeat as necessary and do not dry on high heat. Air dry would be best until you get the shape you want.", "All I know is, don't put it in the dryer after you wash it! Always hang dry it. And maybe have a \"bigger\" friend wear it for a few hours. Sorry, that's all I got." ]

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[ "Going on cruise to Key West and Cozumel Mexico I'm 26 and going on my first cruise with no kids, just my significant other. \n\nWhat are some life pro tips for this vacation? (Kinda last minute, I leave Monday) \n\n", "Going on cruise to Key West and Cozumel Mexico I'm 26 and going on my first cruise with no kids, just my significant other. \n\nWhat are some life pro tips for this vacation? (Kinda last minute, I leave Monday) \n\n", "Going on cruise to Key West and Cozumel Mexico I'm 26 and going on my first cruise with no kids, just my significant other. \n\nWhat are some life pro tips for this vacation? (Kinda last minute, I leave Monday) \n\n", "Going on cruise to Key West and Cozumel Mexico I'm 26 and going on my first cruise with no kids, just my significant other. \n\nWhat are some life pro tips for this vacation? (Kinda last minute, I leave Monday) \n\n", "Going on cruise to Key West and Cozumel Mexico I'm 26 and going on my first cruise with no kids, just my significant other. \n\nWhat are some life pro tips for this vacation? (Kinda last minute, I leave Monday) \n\n", "Going on cruise to Key West and Cozumel Mexico I'm 26 and going on my first cruise with no kids, just my significant other. \n\nWhat are some life pro tips for this vacation? (Kinda last minute, I leave Monday) \n\n" ]

[ "Does your boyfriend and significant other know about each other? This might make for an awkward cruise.", "1. You will have a lot of eating choices. All day long with a special Midnight Buffet. Pace yourself.\n\n2. It is windier than you think on board ship. If you have long hair, bring something to keep it from flying everywhere.\n\n3. Sun exposure is different than it is at home. Load up on sunscreen.\n\n3. Drinks are expensive. Really really expensive. It's also very hard to smuggle your own alcohol on board, even if you buy it at one of the ports. \n\n4. There is a sizable tip added onto your bill at the end of the cruise. Be aware and budget for it. \n\n6. Go to the front of the ship when you leave port. A lot of times you'll see dolphins swimming alongside the ship.\n", "It has been a while since I was in Cozumel, but when I was there, there were really two parts of town. The part closest to the cruise ship dock was tacky, tacky plastic. As you get further away, you get to the part where the scuba divers who were there for a week stayed. Food was better. Fewer cheap t-shirt shops. \n \nMoral: walking a bit away from the dock can make for a better experience.", "Funny how you're going on a cruise to KeyWest. I just got off one. \n\n1) Eat fruit / salad before each meal to prevent binging. When you feel \"full\" with the salad / fruit then you can eat other stuff. \n\n2) Food you like? Take 3 bites of it for your plate. \n\n3) Try to avoid gambling. \n\n4) If you find your cabin offers you a big bottle of water, don't drink it. They'll charge you crazy ampunts of money for those bottles. \n\n5) Try to make a point of going to the shows on your cruise. The performers work hard and the entertainment is FREE. Just spend 10 minutes at a show. \n\n6) If you don't like said show, try to move to the side of the theatre. Wait a little, then sneak out the side. Hopefuly the performers won't see y'all leave. \n\n7) If your cruise ship offers an arcade, they'll charge you for it. (The one I went on charged $1.25 per arcade game.) \n\n8) WIFI is not free. ($12.99 browsing and $17.99 streaming for one device for one day on the ahip I went on. And the WIFI is very slow) \n\n9) To avoid the \"tourist-y parts of your cruise, try renting a scooter ($35 each bucks for me when I was there.) head out to bars far out to see what the island is really like. \n\n10) BUT be careful because scooters can break down. Make sure there's plenty of gas. My brother's scooter broke down (ran out of gas) and he had to get a lift back. \n\n11) Maybe try getting two two-person scootera, so if one breaks down, you and your S.O. can still get back by riding together. \n\n\n\n\n\n", "My mom goes on a Carnival cruise 2-3 times a year and here's what she said: \n\nGo to cruise critics discussion forums- lots of great tips on specific boats. Don't pack all the clothes you think you need. And bring a tervis for your drinks if that boat allows to save money. ", "When I went nothing was open before 11 in Cozemel. Don't plan much before that. \n\nWe took an excursion called 4 wheeling through the jungle. Had a blast. Getting back on the ship was entertains because everyone was dressed up with their shopping bags and we were covered in dirt and mud. We were asked many times what we got into. \n\n" ]

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[ "How does one speak up at work without getting told to handle the issue raised? How do you bring up a problem (and recommendation) without being told to own it? \n\nI work in a \"transformation\" group within the corporate arm of a large company. There isn't much institutional knowledge as many have been recruited from outside the company, or from within specific functions. This siloed perspective results in the group moving forward with blinders-on as to how their decisions impact the rest of this very large complex organization. \n\nThe problem I'm finding is that when you point out what the others don't recognize, they will look at you as the one best suited to solve the problem since you're the one that was familiar enough to identify it. Which can be beneficial if you're looking for increased visibility or responsibility...but what if you're maxed out already? I don't want to keep my mouth shut about the impending issues, but talking about it puts you in charge of it. \n\nHow do you \"manage upward\" in situations like this?", "How does one speak up at work without getting told to handle the issue raised? How do you bring up a problem (and recommendation) without being told to own it? \n\nI work in a \"transformation\" group within the corporate arm of a large company. There isn't much institutional knowledge as many have been recruited from outside the company, or from within specific functions. This siloed perspective results in the group moving forward with blinders-on as to how their decisions impact the rest of this very large complex organization. \n\nThe problem I'm finding is that when you point out what the others don't recognize, they will look at you as the one best suited to solve the problem since you're the one that was familiar enough to identify it. Which can be beneficial if you're looking for increased visibility or responsibility...but what if you're maxed out already? I don't want to keep my mouth shut about the impending issues, but talking about it puts you in charge of it. \n\nHow do you \"manage upward\" in situations like this?", "How does one speak up at work without getting told to handle the issue raised? How do you bring up a problem (and recommendation) without being told to own it? \n\nI work in a \"transformation\" group within the corporate arm of a large company. There isn't much institutional knowledge as many have been recruited from outside the company, or from within specific functions. This siloed perspective results in the group moving forward with blinders-on as to how their decisions impact the rest of this very large complex organization. \n\nThe problem I'm finding is that when you point out what the others don't recognize, they will look at you as the one best suited to solve the problem since you're the one that was familiar enough to identify it. Which can be beneficial if you're looking for increased visibility or responsibility...but what if you're maxed out already? I don't want to keep my mouth shut about the impending issues, but talking about it puts you in charge of it. \n\nHow do you \"manage upward\" in situations like this?", "How does one speak up at work without getting told to handle the issue raised? How do you bring up a problem (and recommendation) without being told to own it? \n\nI work in a \"transformation\" group within the corporate arm of a large company. There isn't much institutional knowledge as many have been recruited from outside the company, or from within specific functions. This siloed perspective results in the group moving forward with blinders-on as to how their decisions impact the rest of this very large complex organization. \n\nThe problem I'm finding is that when you point out what the others don't recognize, they will look at you as the one best suited to solve the problem since you're the one that was familiar enough to identify it. Which can be beneficial if you're looking for increased visibility or responsibility...but what if you're maxed out already? I don't want to keep my mouth shut about the impending issues, but talking about it puts you in charge of it. \n\nHow do you \"manage upward\" in situations like this?", "How does one speak up at work without getting told to handle the issue raised? How do you bring up a problem (and recommendation) without being told to own it? \n\nI work in a \"transformation\" group within the corporate arm of a large company. There isn't much institutional knowledge as many have been recruited from outside the company, or from within specific functions. This siloed perspective results in the group moving forward with blinders-on as to how their decisions impact the rest of this very large complex organization. \n\nThe problem I'm finding is that when you point out what the others don't recognize, they will look at you as the one best suited to solve the problem since you're the one that was familiar enough to identify it. Which can be beneficial if you're looking for increased visibility or responsibility...but what if you're maxed out already? I don't want to keep my mouth shut about the impending issues, but talking about it puts you in charge of it. \n\nHow do you \"manage upward\" in situations like this?" ]

[ "I take it you have no central Business Process management team in your organisation, who map, document and measure the daily, weekly, monthly processes?\n\nThat would be the team to go to, if they existed. My worry is that, what you have identified as an issue actually exists to make another part of the business operate day-to-day. Sticking plasters on top of sticking plasters. Particuarly if the issue exists in Master Data (as a Data Analyst that's normally where I find the root cause!)\n\nWhat you could try is speaking to an authority in your department, preferably director level. (I'm lucky that director level colleagues are fairly approachable un my business.) And ask if you can put time in their diary to discuss this issue with them and the relevent director level in the \"problem\" department. \n\nYou can offer to project manage the issue, keep the \"problem\" department on track and hold them to task, but you need to make it clear you can't be the one doing the work. Try and attached a $ value to what the improvement would mean, thinking of time saved for relevent departments. Build a business case to present on the call", "I learned a long time ago to just keep my mouth shut. The person bringing up the issue is always the one tasked with fixing it.", "This is the culture today. It used to not be this bad....\n\nI think a lot of it has to do with they way things are communicated. Take an email for instance. You can't look someone in the eye, so as long as everyone ignores it, it's fine. And if one person inquiries, they are assumed to take the ball and run with it.", "In my organization, typically a project team is identified up front, with representatives from each impacted group. Maybe you could try to get ahead of the issues by suggesting a general rule that every project should include all the stakeholders up front. Then those individuals would already be present during the decision making process, thus taking responsibility off your plate. You may be responsible for identifying the stakeholders and scheduling the update meetings, but i would much rather do that than solve the problems themselves.", "I would bring up the issues and specifically ask \"does someone know more about this aspect that I do that can either tell me why it's not a problem or own coming up with a solution\" that way you're bringing it to the attention of the group then kind of bowing out. Even better if you think someone would be best able to handle it, call them out specifically \"hey Dave, I think you would be a better person to solve this, do you have room in your workload?\"" ]

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[ "How to enjoy today without worrying about tomorrow? As I get older I realize the past ten years has been a blur. While I've had good times and bad times it all generally runs together and I don't think I've accomplished much (even though that's not really true). I am afraid I'll be 65, retiring, and realize the past 25 years where just going to work and going home with nothing to show for it.\n\nHow can we live to enjoy today while working everyday without any real gigantic goals?", "How to enjoy today without worrying about tomorrow? As I get older I realize the past ten years has been a blur. While I've had good times and bad times it all generally runs together and I don't think I've accomplished much (even though that's not really true). I am afraid I'll be 65, retiring, and realize the past 25 years where just going to work and going home with nothing to show for it.\n\nHow can we live to enjoy today while working everyday without any real gigantic goals?", "How to enjoy today without worrying about tomorrow? As I get older I realize the past ten years has been a blur. While I've had good times and bad times it all generally runs together and I don't think I've accomplished much (even though that's not really true). I am afraid I'll be 65, retiring, and realize the past 25 years where just going to work and going home with nothing to show for it.\n\nHow can we live to enjoy today while working everyday without any real gigantic goals?", "How to enjoy today without worrying about tomorrow? As I get older I realize the past ten years has been a blur. While I've had good times and bad times it all generally runs together and I don't think I've accomplished much (even though that's not really true). I am afraid I'll be 65, retiring, and realize the past 25 years where just going to work and going home with nothing to show for it.\n\nHow can we live to enjoy today while working everyday without any real gigantic goals?", "How to enjoy today without worrying about tomorrow? As I get older I realize the past ten years has been a blur. While I've had good times and bad times it all generally runs together and I don't think I've accomplished much (even though that's not really true). I am afraid I'll be 65, retiring, and realize the past 25 years where just going to work and going home with nothing to show for it.\n\nHow can we live to enjoy today while working everyday without any real gigantic goals?" ]

[ "Well, I'm a little confused because the question in the title seems different than the question in the body of your post, but I can offer an answer to what's asked in the body ... or at least the answer I've found for myself. \nSomewhere along the way I learned a bit of photography, and now I try to take a couple good photos of every major event in my life... be it concerts, holidays, vacations, even just nice dates with the spouse. If there are enough high-quality pics of one event (~ 15) I'll make a little Mixbook/Shutterfly album. I plan to start making the albums for years as well (for example early next year I'd make a catch-all for 2016). As of now I just put them on Facebook (as visible to only myself), basically using FB as a free photo storage/photo organizer. \nI'm already in my mid-30s, but better to start now than never, right? Hopefully this will be a nice way for the spouse and I to look back on our time. My biggest challenge is remembering to take the pics. Especially on holidays, as I tend to get relaxed and lazy. \nThe best way to learn a bit of photography quickly is to sign up to assist a local wedding photographer one summer (wedding season) - on Saturdays, haul their gear and in the downtime pick their brain. ", "Take a vacation (by yourself if possible). I just did and it feels like my whole world view has changed.", "Take a couple minutes out of your day to just get away. Go for a walk, take up a hobby such as photography. I try to set aside time to golf each week, whether it be 18 holes or just going to the driving range if I'm short on time. Clears my head because it's so peaceful and quiet, once you realize you're just lucky to be alive and well, you'll find it there. \n\nIt doesn't even have to be time by yourself. If you've got a close group of friends, (assuming you're a guy), join a fantasy football league and make it competitive like the show The League if you're into football, or just take a weekend getaway with your friends and put aside your cell phone. Most of the time people don't realize how relaxing it is to just put away technology for the weekend and not worry about work for a few days.", "Life is like a collage. It's important to have variety in life to make it look interesting and eventful.\n\nIf you feel what you're feeling right now, it means your body is probably craving for some sort of change or break from your monotonous routine. \n\nTravelling is pretty much the common cure these days for people feeling empty and bored with their lives. However, if travelling isn't what you want, I suggest learning a new skill or teach people something you're good at. I believe teaching someone and watching them becoming good at something is an invaluable reward. \n\n", "First off, you need to decide on some goals for yourself. Your goals should be acheivable and should be on things that interest you. If you set some goals then you will have something to work towards everyday and this will help you live in the present. \nLiving in the present means that you do not think about the past or worry about the future. Living in the present means focusing in the now. Whatever activity you are doing do that with everything you have. For example, if you are working, focus all your attention into your work. If you are eating, enjoy your meal, don't use your phone or watch tv. Anything that distracts you from your present moment shoud be avoided. http://goo.gl/fJIFkf\n" ]

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[ "how to be photogenic I'm not exactly a model, but I'm not bad looking either. However, when I'm photographed I don't know how to act and always end up looking nervous and confused. I don't know how to make my face react correctly to a photographer.", "how to be photogenic I'm not exactly a model, but I'm not bad looking either. However, when I'm photographed I don't know how to act and always end up looking nervous and confused. I don't know how to make my face react correctly to a photographer.", "how to be photogenic I'm not exactly a model, but I'm not bad looking either. However, when I'm photographed I don't know how to act and always end up looking nervous and confused. I don't know how to make my face react correctly to a photographer.", "how to be photogenic I'm not exactly a model, but I'm not bad looking either. However, when I'm photographed I don't know how to act and always end up looking nervous and confused. I don't know how to make my face react correctly to a photographer.", "how to be photogenic I'm not exactly a model, but I'm not bad looking either. However, when I'm photographed I don't know how to act and always end up looking nervous and confused. I don't know how to make my face react correctly to a photographer.", "how to be photogenic I'm not exactly a model, but I'm not bad looking either. However, when I'm photographed I don't know how to act and always end up looking nervous and confused. I don't know how to make my face react correctly to a photographer.", "how to be photogenic I'm not exactly a model, but I'm not bad looking either. However, when I'm photographed I don't know how to act and always end up looking nervous and confused. I don't know how to make my face react correctly to a photographer." ]

[ "Try to achieve this:\nKeep light source to your 11 or 1 (slightly left or right)\n\nChin down, forehead towards camera\n\nKeep your body facing slightly away from camera, maybe 20-35 degrees, this will highlight neck and give your face some more depth.\n\nPractice how much you should open your eyes in front of a mirror. Also helps if you can stimulate intense happiness/content feeling.", "Fear of the camera is the key... lean into it, eyes open wide, big smile, and most of all no fear. Your photo will be the best it can be.", "Practice! \n\nSeriously. Get out your phone and take a few dozen photos of yourself to find poses that work for you.\n\nActors and models practice having their photos taken and know a few little moves specific to themselves.\n\nAlso remember there's always gonna be a few shots you don't like. ", "I've never really thought about it before, since I generally don't have this problem when having pictures taken. But maybe it would help to think of smiling at the person behind the camera, rather than the camera itself? If the presence if the camera itself is what makes you think too hard and make weird expressions, just focus on the person instead. Might help, assuming you naturally smile well when looking at people.", "Studies show that for men, looking away from the camera is best, while not smiling. For women, a typical selfie photo from a high angle is best, with a flirty look. Source: Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari", "Laugh about something, pretend someone just said something funny.\n\nIt makes you have a really natural looking smile.", "Ignoring the photographer for just a moment, get a confident stance, feet facing 90 degrees away, shoulder's width apart. Swivel your shoulders and face to look back at the camera, and smile proudly. " ]

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[ "Tips for moving long distances I'm in my early twenties, going to be moving about 2k miles [from midwest to west coast] with a group of my close friends. What should I know?", "Tips for moving long distances I'm in my early twenties, going to be moving about 2k miles [from midwest to west coast] with a group of my close friends. What should I know?", "Tips for moving long distances I'm in my early twenties, going to be moving about 2k miles [from midwest to west coast] with a group of my close friends. What should I know?", "Tips for moving long distances I'm in my early twenties, going to be moving about 2k miles [from midwest to west coast] with a group of my close friends. What should I know?", "Tips for moving long distances I'm in my early twenties, going to be moving about 2k miles [from midwest to west coast] with a group of my close friends. What should I know?" ]

[ "As someone who recently rented a UHaul and drove from east coast to west coast over a period of 4 days:\n\n**1) Plan for travel.**\n\n-Save money from current jobs to pay for moving truck/flight/storage/pod however you plan to get you and your stuff over there. Remember to save a little extra for general travel expenses as you would on a vacation, such as food or camping/hotels if you are driving; you get to pay for the gas in the moving truck and the mileage BLOWS. Comparison shop between moving rentals, flight tickets, etc. to cut down on expenses. I can tell you that UHaul provides one month free storage for one-way trips at your destination. Moving always costs a lot, exponentially increasing with the amount of stuff your bringing and how much comfort you expect. Are you packing only necessities or bringing every packrat knickknack you own? What furniture can you replace in your new location? Do you plan to sleep in the car or rent a room at a hotel? Will it be a 1, 2, or 5 star joint?\n\n-Assign responsbilities in advance such as who is doing how much of the driving, bringing snacks, taking pictures, navigating, etc.\n\n-Be sure to bring some entertainment for the road: music, books, car games, etc. Keep the driver involved in the entertainment (and always make sure at least one other person is awake with them!).\n\n-Bring chargers for phones and cameras; you will want to document your trip and keep in touch with loved ones or use them in emergency situations.\n\n-Plan your route *in advance*; play around with googlemaps to determine what some options are. Which route is the quickest and/or easiest on both you and your vehicles? How many miles do you plan to travel per day? What will the weather be like where you're going (and all the places between now and there)? Note that some roads close during certain seasons, and a few states even require snow chains during certain months of the year in if not on your vehicle. Also, are there any sights in particular you want to see (Grand Canyon pitstop?)? And again, if you do plan to stop at night, try to plan that daily mileage to get you between well-populated areas (but avoid those same areas during rush hours).\n\n-Honestly, just plan to stop every night. Night driving is much more dangerous, and even those who didn't drive during the day will be road-weary once 2 AM rolls around. We originally planned to sleep/drive in shifts, but ultimately everyone wanted to be awake to socialize and enjoy the sights during daylight hours.\n\n**2) Analyze arrival and acclimation.** \n\n-Have a game plan for when you arrive at your destination. Do you have a lease already signed or will you be shopping for a place when you get there? Income, cr", "Let it go. Get rid of as much crap as you can. Carrying crap around with you your whole life is a waste of good boxes. Leave the light sabres and the rocky posters behind.", "Using a moving truck? Do. Your. Research. Rates are competitive and can be confusing to read over. Fees can be added on for simple things like dropping the truck off at a different location than the pick up, transporting animals, etc. Read the fine print!\n\nThe last time I moved cross country I traveled with my husband and brother in two separate vehicles (our Jeep and a moving truck), and my brother had the most genius idea. We bought a set of walkie-talkies. Good within ~500ft range, which was perfect for us driving down highways and needing to be in easy contact for rest stops/food/gas. Much easier than fumbling with cell phones.\n\nMake sure your bank knows you will be traveling in between states. My husbands debit card was shut off due to 'strange activity' from us being in one state that morning and another at night. It's a pain in the ass to deal with while you're traveling and its so damn easy to prevent.\n\nDon't buy your moving boxes at UHaul/Home Depot/Lowes. They cost a fortune. Most local liquor stores, grocery stores, and Costco and BJ's will give you free boxes from their shipments. Many offers on CL too for free ones. Hell I still have some I could send you!\n\nPack SMART. If you're traveling long distances prepare yourself an easily accessible bag of necessities. Toothbrush, deodorant, spare clothes, shoes, phone charger, drinking cups, silverware. Make a mini-home for yourself that you won't have to dig through twenty different boxes for.\n\nAgain on the pack smart list - protect your belongings. Fragile items? Get bubble wrap! Double tape your boxes. Don't create super heavy boxes. They suck to carry and usually won't hold together.\n\nMost of all plan your move in as much detail as possible, but also plan for emergencies and to have some fun! Good luck!", "I moved from WI to FL solo and had no connections or job lined up there. I did it for dirt cheap and it worked out really well. A little planning goes a long way. \n\nBefore I left I liquidated all of my furniture/heavy stuff. Most I sold to my roommate for $100. I gave him all my dishes and silverware. All my other stuff I boxed up and labeled. I boxed my computer stuff in one box. My guitar (sold the amp already), mixer and mic in another box. Books I'd like to have in another. Most of my clothes in another. I inventoried what was in each box and wrote it in an e-mail and saved it too my drafts. Once I boxed these items up I labled each box with a big #1,#2, etc. and my list was broken down into what was in each box. After this I went down to the UPS store and weighed and purchased shipping for each, but did not ship them. The numbered boxes went to my Mom's house where I gave her a copy of my box list + inventory. When I needed something I'd tell her to send box #4 or whatever and all she had to do was give it to the UPS guy.\n\nI bought a one way plane ticket, got a rental car for the first week I was down there, and then shipped my stuff once I was settled. This cost me way less than trying to rent a truck and drive it halfway across the country.", "Do you know where exactly you'll live? I like padmapper to help find a place. Also do not be afraid to go out and check out the area. Jump on a bus if you have no transportation. Things like Craigslist help with finding furniture and what not. Also check out meetup groups to meet new people. If you drink check out bars, if you bowl, go to bowling alleys. In other words find something you'd do at home in your new place. \n-I've moved across the USA 3 times and now I live overseas. :)" ]

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[ "How to stop feeling lonely after all your friends leave to college So all my best friends (3) have left for college these past 3 days, one friend leaving each day. I have already started college a month before them at my local university so I have a lot of school work and studying to do at the moment. However, I can't seem to stop being so sad or find the motivation to do anything besides cry and sleep and go on my phone. I need to get my mind off of the fact that I have no friends within a 3 hour drive because I need to do school work.\n\nI found that this quote by Plato helps me calm down when I'm mad: \"There are two things a person should never be angry at: things they can change, and things they cannot.\" I have something to help me feel better when I'm mad, but I need something to help me feel better now. Thank you!", "How to stop feeling lonely after all your friends leave to college So all my best friends (3) have left for college these past 3 days, one friend leaving each day. I have already started college a month before them at my local university so I have a lot of school work and studying to do at the moment. However, I can't seem to stop being so sad or find the motivation to do anything besides cry and sleep and go on my phone. I need to get my mind off of the fact that I have no friends within a 3 hour drive because I need to do school work.\n\nI found that this quote by Plato helps me calm down when I'm mad: \"There are two things a person should never be angry at: things they can change, and things they cannot.\" I have something to help me feel better when I'm mad, but I need something to help me feel better now. Thank you!", "How to stop feeling lonely after all your friends leave to college So all my best friends (3) have left for college these past 3 days, one friend leaving each day. I have already started college a month before them at my local university so I have a lot of school work and studying to do at the moment. However, I can't seem to stop being so sad or find the motivation to do anything besides cry and sleep and go on my phone. I need to get my mind off of the fact that I have no friends within a 3 hour drive because I need to do school work.\n\nI found that this quote by Plato helps me calm down when I'm mad: \"There are two things a person should never be angry at: things they can change, and things they cannot.\" I have something to help me feel better when I'm mad, but I need something to help me feel better now. Thank you!", "How to stop feeling lonely after all your friends leave to college So all my best friends (3) have left for college these past 3 days, one friend leaving each day. I have already started college a month before them at my local university so I have a lot of school work and studying to do at the moment. However, I can't seem to stop being so sad or find the motivation to do anything besides cry and sleep and go on my phone. I need to get my mind off of the fact that I have no friends within a 3 hour drive because I need to do school work.\n\nI found that this quote by Plato helps me calm down when I'm mad: \"There are two things a person should never be angry at: things they can change, and things they cannot.\" I have something to help me feel better when I'm mad, but I need something to help me feel better now. Thank you!" ]

[ "Key thing to realize here is you've just stepped across a MAJOR TRANSITION POINT in life. (Others are ones like first full-time job, first apartment, first house, getting married, having a baby, retiring, and so on.)\n\nThese transitions come with change, and they often come with a change in the relationship you have with your current friends. You simply don't have the ability to spend as much time with them as you did previously, and both you and they are in new stages of your lives when there's a lot of other requirements. That'll pretty much keep happening forever if you have an average life.\n\nSo the answer is obvious: make new friends that are appropriate to your new stage in life, while knowing that the old ones aren't necessarily completely gone too.\n\nDoes this mean you shouldn't miss you previous friends from your previous stage in life? HELL NO. Does it mean you should stop from trying to spend time with them in the future? Again, HELL NO.\n\nAll it means is that you now have a wonderful opportunity to meet NEW friends that are honestly closer to the friends you might need to have over the next X years as you complete your degree at your local college, because your OLD friends will be busy with their own degrees and experiences.\n\nSo think of it as a great chance to reach out to new people in your classes or in your local college's social or club scene so you can increase, **not replace**, your circle of friends. \n\nGood luck.", "Facetime worked so well for me (or skype or oovoo or whatever platform of your desire). I missed all of my friends so much when we split for college, so facetiming them either individually, seeing their smile in real time and hearing their voice made a huge difference! It may seem overrated or hard to set up but it is fantastic in my opinion for the loneliness", "I started to think about that in my senior year. And... The shy i was became the \"social\" dude. When i started uni (2 of my friends were there too anyway), I joined a \"New Students\" group which i met some people. In my classes, i've been more talkative and talked to more people. Now, i basicaly can talk to anybody and almost never feel alone. Another thing, those people never replaced my friends. They're new friends but my close friends up to now have a great bond together. So, my advice: Talk more. Simple. Just make a simple comment about something and people will start to notice you. ", "Find something to do. There is most likely a video game club, try that. Find a club related to your major, or something you find interesting. If you're into sports, go play some basketball or something at the gym. " ]

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[ "Extend the life of electronic devices I just bought a new phone, and I was wondering, how do I maximize the lifetime of electronic devices? For lithium ion batteries, should you allow full discharges after charging? Should you keep it charging for as long as possible before needing to unplug it?", "Extend the life of electronic devices I just bought a new phone, and I was wondering, how do I maximize the lifetime of electronic devices? For lithium ion batteries, should you allow full discharges after charging? Should you keep it charging for as long as possible before needing to unplug it?" ]

[ "For phones,..\n\nturn down the brightness, shorten the amount of time before the screen disappears, turn off the gps when you aren't using it, and if you are on android, going to About Phone -> Battery is helpful", "Don't charge it your phone until it is necessary. The same goes for other electronics, let them get as close to dying as possible before charging. I usually try to go three or four days at a time before charging mine." ]

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[ "How to get rid of personal belongings easily, when they are no longer needed or used. Dear LPT,\n\nI am constantly on the move, I survive with only using a few things which I hold very dear. \n\nWhenever I return home I always feel cluttered and stressed with the amount of unneeded belongings that I own but never use; cosmetics, clothes, furniture. All with some sort of sentimental value, but I feel as if I threw anything away,it wouldn't be something I miss. \n\nI find it hard to sort and dispose of these things, as I feel they may come in use in the future.\n\nAny advice how I could tackle this would be very much appreciated!", "How to get rid of personal belongings easily, when they are no longer needed or used. Dear LPT,\n\nI am constantly on the move, I survive with only using a few things which I hold very dear. \n\nWhenever I return home I always feel cluttered and stressed with the amount of unneeded belongings that I own but never use; cosmetics, clothes, furniture. All with some sort of sentimental value, but I feel as if I threw anything away,it wouldn't be something I miss. \n\nI find it hard to sort and dispose of these things, as I feel they may come in use in the future.\n\nAny advice how I could tackle this would be very much appreciated!" ]

[ "Sort and box the excess. If you haven't looked at it in 6 to 12 months you don't need it. While sorting ask yourself \" how does x make me feel?\" If the feelings are negative you should get rid of x. Stuff that you ambivalent about, gifts, family stuff, take a picture then consider getting rid of it. Pictures can invoke the memories the same as the object.", "Everything is replaceable except people and time.\nI view sentimental clutter and stuff I don't use as a time waster because I end up searching for things. We are working toward a place for everything in our house by mostly getting rid of stuff until the remainder fits. I discovered I did not need a drawer full of 3 year old eye shadow and what looked like 50 combs. It is surprisingly hard to get rid of stuff like this but if you work on an area at a time you will get to where you want to be in your life. If I feel like the stuff is getting out of control I watch an episode of hoarders to give me perspective and it motivates me to clean more." ]

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[ "How to keep neck from hurting while working. I'm a fairly tall guy, only 6 feet tall, but everything is made for shorter people. Towards the ends of my 8 hour shifts, my lower neck and shoulder muscles feel like they're on fire! How do I combat this? I work at a gas station, but it has happened everywhere I have worked. ", "How to keep neck from hurting while working. I'm a fairly tall guy, only 6 feet tall, but everything is made for shorter people. Towards the ends of my 8 hour shifts, my lower neck and shoulder muscles feel like they're on fire! How do I combat this? I work at a gas station, but it has happened everywhere I have worked. ", "How to keep neck from hurting while working. I'm a fairly tall guy, only 6 feet tall, but everything is made for shorter people. Towards the ends of my 8 hour shifts, my lower neck and shoulder muscles feel like they're on fire! How do I combat this? I work at a gas station, but it has happened everywhere I have worked. ", "How to keep neck from hurting while working. I'm a fairly tall guy, only 6 feet tall, but everything is made for shorter people. Towards the ends of my 8 hour shifts, my lower neck and shoulder muscles feel like they're on fire! How do I combat this? I work at a gas station, but it has happened everywhere I have worked. ", "How to keep neck from hurting while working. I'm a fairly tall guy, only 6 feet tall, but everything is made for shorter people. Towards the ends of my 8 hour shifts, my lower neck and shoulder muscles feel like they're on fire! How do I combat this? I work at a gas station, but it has happened everywhere I have worked. " ]

[ "Don't be afraid to ask your \"client\" to change position, or have him sit on the bed. Your angle is important to prevent repetitive stress injuries!", "6'5\" here. Used to have the same symptoms. Working on posture helped a lot. If this is new for you, find someone qualified (physiotherapist) to help you at least once. Their hands on you will give you some anchor feelings so that you can return to good posture on your own. It doesn't take too long and the results are worth it.\n\nFull body massage also works wonders. Go for an hour once per month. Consider it maintenance, just like rotating tires on a car.\n\nStretch your back side from your lower back to your heels. Just leaning over and reaching for your toes with your fingertips will relieve some of the tension in your upper back and neck. Yoga would be dynamite, but a bit of overkill. Take one or two yoga classes and start some better maintenance habits for your back.", "It's often ur trapezius that is causing lower neck pain, so maybe just try to rub it out. To massage a muscle u either want to be parallel or perpendicular to the muscle. If u feel a \"knot\" hold pressure until it dissapears. Also if u want to crack ur neck, never extend ur neck backwards ( flexing forward is fine) then if u sidebend to the left rotate ur neck right. Either way, whatever way sidebend u want ur rotation to be toward ur nose. Also if u do crack ur neck, try to use ur neck muscles only and not ur hand to crack ur neck. \n\nSource: chiropractic.", "I do not believe in Chiropractors, but one told me years ago to make figure 8 with your nose. I still do that to this day. ", "Get to the gym a couple times a week, get a full body workout. Any time you work some muscles a lot more than others, you get unbalanced, and joint, tendon, and muscle pains are just waiting to happen. If you're not sure what to do, get a trainer to show you a program and mention what's going on with your neck and shoulder. " ]

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[ "best way to bring laundry to the laundromat (without a car) Looking for tips on the best way to bring my laundry to the laundromat without a car. Also I live in Canada so the ground is wet and or snowy for many months. I’m ideally hoping to find something that doubles as a laundry hamper at home the rest of the time. Or I guess folds up very small? Thanks!", "best way to bring laundry to the laundromat (without a car) Looking for tips on the best way to bring my laundry to the laundromat without a car. Also I live in Canada so the ground is wet and or snowy for many months. I’m ideally hoping to find something that doubles as a laundry hamper at home the rest of the time. Or I guess folds up very small? Thanks!", "best way to bring laundry to the laundromat (without a car) Looking for tips on the best way to bring my laundry to the laundromat without a car. Also I live in Canada so the ground is wet and or snowy for many months. I’m ideally hoping to find something that doubles as a laundry hamper at home the rest of the time. Or I guess folds up very small? Thanks!", "best way to bring laundry to the laundromat (without a car) Looking for tips on the best way to bring my laundry to the laundromat without a car. Also I live in Canada so the ground is wet and or snowy for many months. I’m ideally hoping to find something that doubles as a laundry hamper at home the rest of the time. Or I guess folds up very small? Thanks!", "best way to bring laundry to the laundromat (without a car) Looking for tips on the best way to bring my laundry to the laundromat without a car. Also I live in Canada so the ground is wet and or snowy for many months. I’m ideally hoping to find something that doubles as a laundry hamper at home the rest of the time. Or I guess folds up very small? Thanks!", "best way to bring laundry to the laundromat (without a car) Looking for tips on the best way to bring my laundry to the laundromat without a car. Also I live in Canada so the ground is wet and or snowy for many months. I’m ideally hoping to find something that doubles as a laundry hamper at home the rest of the time. Or I guess folds up very small? Thanks!", "best way to bring laundry to the laundromat (without a car) Looking for tips on the best way to bring my laundry to the laundromat without a car. Also I live in Canada so the ground is wet and or snowy for many months. I’m ideally hoping to find something that doubles as a laundry hamper at home the rest of the time. Or I guess folds up very small? Thanks!" ]

[ "If you search Amazon for “shopping cart” you’ll see a ton of options that could double as a hamper and a transportation device for laundry", "When I was in college/university, I had a tall, collapsible laundry hamper on wheels. It even had a strap to pull it with and a hidden pocket for coins. I used it because I lived on the top floor of my dorm and the laundry facilities were in the basement, and because our closets were narrow. It was so easy to literally just roll it down there. You could use it as a hamper when you're not rolling it or easily pack it away. \n\nI got mine at bed, bath, and beyond (I don't even know if they exist anymore) and it looked very similar to this: https://honeycando.com/products/pop-up-hamper-on-wheels?matchtype=&gclid=Cj0KCQiAmKiQBhClARIsAKtSj-lZzIBAgYbRr44F5e2pvwwxZ8h2vmYYs4DrLDTmAqEaTqLtT1v2NhgaAq4EEALw_wcB", "For me, a luggage case on wheels is a perfect answer. They're cheap, available at any big box or thrift store, and super handy. I have a couple granny carts, but they're not as maneuverable and can't go up or down stairs as easily.", "One of those big military bags. When I didn't have a machine but a laundry mat 2 blocks away I just used my old Navy Seabag.\n\nIt fit 2-3 loads and if you have to walk it distributes the weight while leaving both hands free.\n\nAlso pretty waterproof so you don't have to worry about weather or anything.", "I've been thinking a lot about this recently as I'm heading to uni in October and will have to deal with a laundromat 10 minutes walk from where I'll be living.\n\nMy possible solution is to put them in my laundry bags as usual (one for darks and one for lights but this step isn't particularly important, just makes it easier when you get to the laundromat) and then put both into a wheely suitcase.... that way I don't have to strain to carry it all...\n\nObviously it depends on how much/often you plan on doing wash loads... if it's lots of small wash loads then you could just use a backpack", "I use the giant blue Ikea bags to carry laundry to the basement. Easier and safer than a laundry basket and can carry one on each shoulder.", "Backpack laundry bag. https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=l&ai=DChcSEwji0uHRz\\_\\_1AhViELMAHWHGACgYABAmGgJ5bQ&sig=AOD64\\_1--FJkk5rUKdX\\_jNGodIW34xpvvg&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwiFn9bRz\\_\\_1AhVUjYkEHQsZBm8Q9aACegUIARCzAg&adurl=" ]

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[ "How do you get through busy/ boring days of work? How can you distract yourself or entertain yourself at work so the day goes by quicker and it becomes less painful?\n\n", "How do you get through busy/ boring days of work? How can you distract yourself or entertain yourself at work so the day goes by quicker and it becomes less painful?\n\n", "How do you get through busy/ boring days of work? How can you distract yourself or entertain yourself at work so the day goes by quicker and it becomes less painful?\n\n", "How do you get through busy/ boring days of work? How can you distract yourself or entertain yourself at work so the day goes by quicker and it becomes less painful?\n\n", "How do you get through busy/ boring days of work? How can you distract yourself or entertain yourself at work so the day goes by quicker and it becomes less painful?\n\n" ]

[ "One thing I used to do when I worked retail was use the down time to work on memorizing something, such as poetry. Going over it frequently whenever I had the chance, keeping a little written version on hand to check, etc. Also could potentially work on learning another language by keeping flashcards or vocab lists in your pocket. ", "I would handle a boring workday like that by quitting the job. \n\nIf you are bored at a retail store, try working in a full service restaurant. The hiring standards for Bussers and Hosts are not much different than a retail store, and restaurants are much more socially and vocationally fulfilling.\n\n(I worked in restaurants through junior year of college, great money part time and good downtime for me to do homework in my head).", "I work in IT, in my own office, unsupervised. I've been playing games and doing game modding quite a bit...\n\nFun times.", "If it is busy then just focus on the work, if it is slow then find things to do, if it is a larger store there's usually always something to be cleaned or straightened. I worked at Target for 2 years on the floor stocking/ straightening things, If my area was completely organized I would start checking labels and make sure they were correct, checking to see if there was stuff we had in the back to be put in empty / understocked spots, fill out the endcaps, see if any new displays needed to go out, etc. I made sure to cross-train in different departments so I could do whatever was available so I wasn't just standing around doing nothing. Keeping busy makes the day go by much faster.", "I think at a core it sounds like you're looking for a work around. Looking busy, phone games, etc.\n\nIf you're running into so many boring or lame days at work that you're not enjoying it, it might be time to ask if you're in the right job/field/etc. if you don't love it, leave it. " ]

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[ "First public job at 30 years old, how do I learn to tolerate the incessant mindless chatter from co-workers? ", "First public job at 30 years old, how do I learn to tolerate the incessant mindless chatter from co-workers? ", "First public job at 30 years old, how do I learn to tolerate the incessant mindless chatter from co-workers? ", "First public job at 30 years old, how do I learn to tolerate the incessant mindless chatter from co-workers? ", "First public job at 30 years old, how do I learn to tolerate the incessant mindless chatter from co-workers? ", "First public job at 30 years old, how do I learn to tolerate the incessant mindless chatter from co-workers? " ]

[ "Well, tell me when you learn anything, cause when i try to ignore anything unrelated, i become the bad coworker for not fooling around, but only come and do what im paid for. I really dont get it. Or people.", "First off, never learn to be okay with it... That sounds miserable. There has to be a better job for you. Look into other contracting, construction, or manual labor gigs. \n\n\"Why I believe that if someone ever asked if they were having a case of the Mondays, they would get their ass kicked.\"", "The only way is to just get used to it.\n(Btw if you put five spaces on an empty line it'll separate paragraphs\n \nLike so)", "Unless theyre speaking to you, I'd try to ignore them, try to focus on something else. If they are talking to you, I'd probably try to do the same unless its a conversation you are actually interested in engaging in.\n\nJust nod and say \"Oh, yeah, great.\"", "Tuning out verbal diarrhea is a learned skill. I'm assuming you are not married, and don't have kids?", "I work from home and have for years, so this is just a guess but, try telling your co-workers that small-talk tends to give you panic attacks.\n\nMy guess is that they'll try to avoid engaging in it around you." ]

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[ "how to avoid mental blocking when checking documents & computation? The issue is this, for the past weeks, I've observed my main issue in producing quality work is that I have to correct my own work after it was rejected by my boss. Problem is that there's no special add on value that he contributed except calculation error from Excel and information error extracted from legal documents. He is very thorough and I felt I don't produce quality work as I still produce small errors. My senior mentioned this is an inherent problem as we work with multiple source of information, the function of my supervisor is to mitigate this type of errors. My senior advised me not to worry. I understand that but I feel I can do better. Is there any tips that you can share that can help me?", "how to avoid mental blocking when checking documents & computation? The issue is this, for the past weeks, I've observed my main issue in producing quality work is that I have to correct my own work after it was rejected by my boss. Problem is that there's no special add on value that he contributed except calculation error from Excel and information error extracted from legal documents. He is very thorough and I felt I don't produce quality work as I still produce small errors. My senior mentioned this is an inherent problem as we work with multiple source of information, the function of my supervisor is to mitigate this type of errors. My senior advised me not to worry. I understand that but I feel I can do better. Is there any tips that you can share that can help me?" ]

[ "In regards to this issue, a bit of efficiency training may help. Six Sigma is commonly used in industry but is used in office environments too. Improving efficiency in other areas can allow you to catch errors before they get passed on. I suggest you look into it.", "Copy and paste the words into Google translate and make her read them aloud. Makes it easier to find errors.\n\nAlso, play around with the size of the display, or walk away for a few minutes and then return and proof a hard copy." ]

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[ "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to communicate with an easily angered, bad tempered, grudge holding partner? Well, as title says. I’m trying to improve the communication methods of me and my partner. I often feel that I am walking on eggshells with her because every small thing will set her off and she will yell and be angry for the whole day. \n\nExample: Recently I was cooking dinner for her so when she got home it was ready to eat. Instead of being thankful and enjoying the evening, she got incredibly angry and screamed at me because the meat wasn’t rare enough. She refused to eat it throwing the whole thing away and proceeding to say things like “I’m going home”, or “just don’t talk at all”. \n\nI’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\n Nothing seems to work. Would anyone have some LPT to dealing with someone like this?\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "There is no secret to communication. Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't take your feelings seriously, there can't be a relationship between you two. It can only be reciprocal. You may wish her to be a different way but this is how she is and you will save yourself a lot of heartbreak if you leave before more invested.", "I always lied to myself, thinking that this is the happiest I'll ever be. Leaving abuse is one of the harder things to do. But in the long run of your life, it will be the most satisfying.\nI promise you, there is someone out there that will appreciate your efforts, not ridicule them. I hope you grow from this shitty experience, and not resentful. But it's time to go my dude", "LPT: Move on. That sounds eerily similar to my previous relationship. Wish I would have realized sooner there was no way to fix it from my end.", "I would sit her down and tell her that you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity and that things need to change. Otherwise find someone who treats you better.", "Have you tried the opposite of walking on eggshells?\n\n>I’ve tried to be extremely patient with her. Asked her nicely to talk calmly so I can understand what is the point of misunderstanding or anger. Tried to just admit my fault or my mistake and apologize diffuse the situation. \n\nAnd have you tried the opposite of all that?\n\nShe might be testing and desperately missing some boundaries from her man", "I had a girlfriend like this a few years ago. I was 35, she was 29 years old at the time.\n\nShe would instantly lose her shit when things didn’t go the way she wanted. The result wasn’t agression but she’d act like a spoiled child and make scenes. \n\nFor example, one time we went to the store to get cheese as I had planned to cook lasagna that day, but she suddenly wanted those day old store made sushis as we passed that aisle. When I calmly expressed that I already had everything but the cheese for the lasagna (she initially asked for) and that those sushis are disgusting, let’s order some good ones tomorrow, she sat on the ground, burst in tears screaming at the top of her lungs something along the lines of \"why will you never do anything for me, you’re horrible, you don’t love me bla bla bla\" right there in the middle of the store, like a 4 year old throwing a tantrum.\n\nLong story short, shit escalated but I always tried to remain calm. Lost some weight over this, got my first patches of white hair and started to get insomnia before realizing this relationship was very toxic.\n\nBasically nothing you do will ever be enough/good/right for that type of person. A relationship is a two way thing. I hope you (and I) find someone who appreciate you for who you are and doesn’t treat you like their butler/servant/punching bag.\n\nAsk yourself what do I give and what do I gain from this relationship? Is it fair? And where does it go from here? \n\nValue yourself and your well being above all else. If this relationship is more a like a daily struggle than something fulfilling I’d suggest tou take some distance with that person.", "GTFO and go find an enjoyable life.\n\nYou only get one shot. Don’t waste it on this person. Not one more minute than you have to.", "Talking from painful and time enduring experience..\n\nIf you're walking on eggshells around a person then that by default is not you. Be your natural self.\n\n If you don't respect yourself then No one else will. If you don't mark boundaries and communicate what is absolutely not OK then no one else will.\n\nQuit walking on eggshells and start the usual comfy feet stamping on your own territory.\n\nWhat's the downside.. she'll yell either way, right? But at least you are standing up for yourself or at least doing what you like.\n\nPeace of mind is the most precious asset.\n\nTake a stand.. don't just flow along the stream of life swirling around someone else. If she actually values you, she'll come along.", "It's very simple and only requires one single sentence: \"You treat me like absolute shit and I'm leaving you.\"\n\nGood luck!! ❤❤ I hope you find someone who actually treats you like a person and not a piece of shit xx", "Sad to say but very probable that you already fucked up a long time ago. I’d say ask her if she is open and willing to communicate and if she is put your feelings on the table but very importantly you need to be willing to walk away. If you have no boundaries and don’t respect yourself don’t expect someone else to do so and it seems like that’s where you fucked up. Ofcourse be understanding and open and patient and try to communicate but have clear boundaries of what kind of behavior you won’t accept and like I said be willing to walk if she doesn’t respect that. That will paradoxically be something she will respect you for and if she doesn’t respond positively to all this you need to understand that even though it will hurt it’s much healthier to break up when boundaries and communication aren’t respected and healthy.", "Do you have good emotional control and maturity? Does she acknowledge that her terrible impulse/emotional control is hugely problematic? If both of those are true, then, WITH HER PERMISSION:\n\nGet a bag of chocolates and a rubber band gun. \n\nWhenever she reacts reasonably to a stimulus or situation - she calmly tells you \"this isn't cooked enough\" or selects another item, or - having had a human reaction to something and gotten upset - she is able to control her reactions, acknowledge the event, and move forward positively, give her a chocolate.\n\nWhenever she acts unreasonably - throws a plate at the wall, hugely overreacts then goes ballistic when checked with a polite request - shoot her in the tit with the rubber band gun and say \"No! BAD GIRLFRIEND!\"\n\n(Adjust the reward and the punishments appropriately for your relationship and her reactivity - but keep it simple. Operant conditioning. Good behavior, chocolate. Bad behavior, stinging nipple and not in the good way.)\n\nIt will work. But see the first paragraph - you have to be COOL and she has to understand the game, see the point, and play along. This will not work as an imposed regime. (Well, it might, but let's not go there.)", "You can’t reason with someone like that, because that is not a reasonable person. \n\nWhen people act that way, they have some kind of condition, like maybe ADHD and a history of trauma. If she is angry the whole day, her mind gets hyper focused on negative emotions and that’s pathological.\n\nYou cannot reason with someone whose mind is wired incorrectly due to being raised in traumatic conditions.\n\nThe only thing you could try is to explain that you didn’t do anything wrong, and her overreaction is not your fault, and if she’s not willing to get help, you will leave her. You should never engage in her mood, but she needs to realize what her mind is doing or else she will never have a healthy relationship.", "Sadly, this likely isn't a situation you can talk your way out of since she is the problem. It sounds like she needs mental help and I would start there.", "I'm sorry but so many red flags you should pick up on and separate, tbh she might be cheating; you cooked a meal and goes to the trash.... That's just evil in my eyes", "Dear OP, it’s probably not about the food.\n\nYou may want to connect to what her feelings are and why. Why is she angry at you?\n\nMost communications in a relationship are either a message of love or a request for help. What does she truly need that she isn’t having from her relationship with you?", "You can’t out-communicate someone else’s anger issues. If you find yourself appealing to the Internet to ask what you have to do to keep your partner from being furious with you it’s time to end things.", "Wow sorry you're going through this OP, it can't be nice. I'm no expert but she's either going through some sort of depression or anxiety or their may be behaviour problems stemming from attachment styles. \n\nEither way you don't deserve it, new year new start, tell her if she doesn't look to addressing her issues then your gone.\n\nCheck out Thais Gibson/Personal Development School and Dr Ramami on YouTube", "What if do to have a partner who’d cook dinner for me! Get rid of her. She won’t respect boundaries even if you set them. Good luck! You’re worth more !", "This is obviously a delicate situation and I’m sorry that you find yourself facing this kind of challenge. \n\nI would urge you not to give into the sink cost fallacy and separate. Your life will improve immensely.\n\nAlso I would encourage you to get some good therapy for yourself.", "That doesn't sound very healthy - this may be a sign of emotional abuse at face value (not sure what the trigger is or if she's always been like this).\nYou definitely need to look out for yourself before you can look after anyone else. Now keeping that in mind, if this continues, do you think you'll be in a normal state of mind 1 or 2 years down the track to function normally?\nYou definitely need to sit and talk about it\nGood luck!", "She has someone else and is looking for any excuse possible to start a fight with you. Hence the whole I'll just go home then. Run Forrest!! The end!!", "Read about attachment type theory. Find yourself a secure attachment type partner.\n\nI was in a relationship like this. It's best to get out early before she destroys your life\n If she's like this now... Imagine divorce and how badly she will screw you", "People get unjustly angry sometimes, unfortunately taking stuff out on their partner that happened elsewhere. My own experience is to walk away and not try to defuse while it's happening - approach it afterward when their emotions have cooled. Go off and watch television or something. If you are in their house, just leave.\n\nOf course, if it happens often, you have to decide whether you want to stick around at all for it.", "OP, I hope that when you read this back to yourself you had an epiphany. If this is her reaction to a dinner you made for her, I’m afraid she may be a lost cause. She may change her behavior temporarily to appease you but if she hasn’t figured out by now and with you that this isn’t how to react or communicate, then she likely won’t. Best case scenario she changes - for the next guy. It’s incredible hard to change a relationship dynamic and internalize feedback to apply it to the current situation if you’re already someone who isn’t rational.", "Maybe it’s worth talking about it first to see if she at least acknowledges she shouldn’t be treating you like that and will try to change. I’d agree w most of the comments here saying you don’t deserve to be in that type of relationship and prob should leave. It sucks coming to that realization and going through with it but sounds like you’ll be better off in the medium/long run. Good luck !", "Leave and find someone who appreciates you.\nOr if you can't, send her ass to therapy as a condition of staying together.", "LPT : \n\nTease out anger and tension with humor. This takes practice but can really work if you can muster some charm. Self deprecation is usually pretty good. In your instance I would’ve agreed with her. You’re right, no one should have to eat this. The timer must be broken on my easy bake oven. - how bout I’ll eat this for lunch tomorrow, where would you like to go out or what would you like me to cook instead? \n\nAlso, Don’t use absolutes like every and always. They are not always angry at everything. Say, it seems like something may be bothering you? Ask if we are problem solving or unloading, there’s a difference. \n\nDon’t apologize or be sorry, you didn’t do anything wrong, so don’t pander to that. Confidence brings security, and understanding. \n\nIf they aren’t practicing gratuity, they are unhappy with their own actions, and are reaping what they are sewing.", "I've been in a relationship with that type of person. You need t leave her. She's obviously not happy being with you. No matter what you do, she'll always complain and try to fight with you. I can guarantee you that she talks badly about you to her friends, convincing them that she's the victim and you're the villain. Your relationship with her will never get better", "I'm sure I'm not the first to tell you that this is abuse. There *is* no communicating with someone like this. You deserve better. No relationship is worth this kind of bullshit. You've done all you can here.\nShut it down and cut 'em loose.", "From a licensed marriage and family therapist’s perspective: To improve your relationship, you both need to examine your attachment needs and patterns. When you “stay calm,” does it make her want to scream louder to reach for your attention? The louder she gets, do you get more overwhelmed and withdraw? \n\nUltimately, there might be a dance going on under the surface. Do you tend to emotionally withdraw when triggered with the hopes to connect with her once the storm passes? Perhaps she might pursue harder when triggered with the hopes to connect with you emotionally? \n\nConsider bonding over your mutual desire to be happy, healthy, and connected. Recognize your attachment wounds for what they are and team up to fight against it.", "Even the most loving relationships can be hard to nurture in the long haul. Dealing with a childish and/or abusive partner makes that insurmountable. It took me decades to figure that out and not put up with childish behavior - all the best to you." ]

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[ "Dry Eyes I have fish oil capsules and flax seed.I used Eyestil about 1 month and my eyes were comfortable and good but after 1 month, i feel Eyestil started to dry my eyes more.How can i fix my problem?", "Dry Eyes I have fish oil capsules and flax seed.I used Eyestil about 1 month and my eyes were comfortable and good but after 1 month, i feel Eyestil started to dry my eyes more.How can i fix my problem?", "Dry Eyes I have fish oil capsules and flax seed.I used Eyestil about 1 month and my eyes were comfortable and good but after 1 month, i feel Eyestil started to dry my eyes more.How can i fix my problem?", "Dry Eyes I have fish oil capsules and flax seed.I used Eyestil about 1 month and my eyes were comfortable and good but after 1 month, i feel Eyestil started to dry my eyes more.How can i fix my problem?", "Dry Eyes I have fish oil capsules and flax seed.I used Eyestil about 1 month and my eyes were comfortable and good but after 1 month, i feel Eyestil started to dry my eyes more.How can i fix my problem?" ]

[ "Optometrist here: I always tell patients to use over the counter eye drops as a \"quick fix\" to the problem, but for a long-term fix you need to solve the underlying issue- whether it's caused by a medication, inflammation, or a blockage of your meibomian glands (oil glands along the eyelids that keep the tear on the eye longer). If you're young and on the computer all the time, then chances are it's the third option. The easiest way to help overcome dry eye syndrome is by using a hot compress. Take a hot tea bag, a hot wash cloth, one of those bean-bag muscle relaxers that you can put in the microwave... pretty much anything that will hold heat for a long time and drape it over your eyes at the end of the day. Leave the heat on there for 5-10 minutes giving your eyes a gentle massage to express any blockages. After doing this religiously for 1 week, if you're not noticing an improvement then there's a different issue at hand and your local eye doctor can help.", "My doctor recommended using Carbomer liquid eye gel. It really relief my dry eyes for a lot longer than regular eye drops. \n\nAny generic carbomer eye gel will do. You can probably buy it online.", "Give Blink brand eye drops a try. [There is a \"gel\" formulation for moderate to severe dryness that is fantastic!](http://abbottmedicaloptics.com/products/corneal/dry-eye-lubricating-eye-drops/blink-gel-tears-lubricating-eye-drops)", "Try Muro 128 (or generic) at bedtime. This will help hold in the moisture while sleeping. Blink is good throughout the day.", "In case you haven't tried this, be sure you are really well hydrated. It really makes a difference. Try drinking 64 oz of water per day for a whole week and see if it makes a difference. I've been struggling with dry eyes for years, and when I finally started drinking more water for diet-related reasons, my eyes got much better.\n" ]

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[ "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?", "How can I learn to take in what I'm reading better? I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and it bugs me. I can read a sentence of text either in a book or online about anything and a lot of the time after I get through it I stop and think \"I can't even remember what I just read\" and I have to read it again.\n\nI've tried reading slower and it helps to a degree but I wish I could read at my normal speed, which isn't fast anyway and retain the information better.\n\nExample: I read a description of a game that says\n\n*\"Take on quests, earn rewards, and grow your character in this 2D side-scrolling action RPG. Play as one of four different characters who have inherited the Astral Dragon's power to rescue Amica, the priestess of their clan, and get revenge on those who kidnapped her\"*.\n\nI read through that and realised I don't remember what I just read and had to go back and read it again...\n\nAre there any tips to help me improve? Apart from just reading slower?" ]

[ "Read it to yourself outloud. You may be an auditory learner and may need to hear things to remember. ...or, you could break it down, ask yourself: What is the main point of the passage? Who, What, When, Where? What is the history (if any)? These simple questions get you to actively read to learn and not just looking at familiar groups of letters.", "Reading over twice is very helpful for me . Tends to stick more . Can be time consuming as much as just reading slower but any method of absorbing the information better will take longer. ", "I outline when I read. Writing down important details helps me commit them to memory easier. (I said write, not type.)", "Don't understand how this can get down votes. \n\nA person is genuinely trying to improve. I know that this may seam trivial to a lot of people, but sometimes it's not.\n\nBeing left handed, dyslexic with amblyopia, I can attest to that. It made things harder when I was in school; hardship that had to be overcome (overcompensated to be exact). You have to try harder and spend more time than other people. This compensation will lead you to have other skills that others don't. Just keep trying!", "You can also cover up part of the text with your finger so you only read one line at a time. Sounds goofy but works", "Reading comprehension and reading speed are two different things:\n\nReading comprehension:\n\n1, Compulsively ask yourself, \"what did I just read?\" or \"what is the author trying to say?\" for every sentence, paragraph, chapter your reading.\n\n2. Read out loud. (As others here have mentioned)\n\n2a. Read out loud at high volume, until you can hear yourself saying the words instead of your inner reading voice.\n\n2b. Repeat back what you read, and paraphrase it as if your talking to a friend or a 5 year old. Ask yourself if what you just said makes sense to you.\n\n3. Turn off the TV, turn off the background music, stop the chewing, the dog petting, the flashing lights, the scratching, use the bathroom first, or any sensory stimulation and just let yourself focus for 15 minutes.\n\n4. Take notes as you are writing.\n\n4a. For fantasy write down everyone's name as you read and their interrelationship. As you read and a character reappears look at your notes.\n\n4b. For self-help, keep running notes on how the advice relates to you.\n\n4c. For textbooks, make a bullet list of every piece of information the author is trying to convey.\n\n5. If you listen to audiobooks, podcasts or play videogames, let yourself read for 15 minutes with the intent to improve your reading comprehension before you start listening/playing.\n\n​\n\nReading Speed:\n\n1. Most high functioning adults read at \\~3x the speed they would read out loud. (Not me!)\n2. Consider seeing a behavioral ophthalmologist ( NOT an optometrist!) to check that your two eyes are in sync. Otherwise your \"in a race with a broken bicycle\".\n3. Speed up an audiobook and follow along with a real book.\n4. There are more speed reading resources that train your brain but I have not tried them.", "Although it's counter-intuitive, reading faster can help. If you read fast you develop the habit of filtering out \"fluff\" words (e.g. at least 50% of the example you give) and picking out the meaning. Not something to do with well-written novels, but for non-fiction it works well.", "My technique is asinine but effective. At the end of any idea, think of a criticism or argument that the idea is vulnerable or invulnerable to. For example some person plays the game and says “that’s stupid, it was a side scroller and I wanted a FPS.” The. You think “well dumbass, the description fricken told you that!” Probably not everybody’s cup of tea, but it helps me both with reading comprehension and understanding where the writer is coming from.", "I would read your normal speed, but then try to summarize in your head what you just read. If you can’t remember, just skim over, not reread", "I suggest trying a new way of processing text. I.e. visualise what you read. It may feel weird initially but as you push yourself, you'll get better and faster! Another thing is that if you're seeking improvement in this, make sure your mind is constantly under tension. You could push yourself to read faster, forcing yourself to visualise quicker. This technique greatly helped me with comprehension!\n\nHope it helps!", "I paid for a speed reading learning software. A lot of stuff in there helps you improve comprehension ans retention. \nI can send you the email link to use it and learn what you can. \nI can share it to 5 other people. I keep trying to recommend it but nobody tries it. If you want yo try it, let me know\n" ]

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[ "How to read the news. I was inspired to revamp my methods (if you could call them that) of reading the news after reading this awesome comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/5cqsgm/i_cant_be_the_only_one/d9z7k8f/\n\n\nSo now that I have some idea of which sources I should be getting my news from, I would like to know the best method for *how* to read them. Most of us aren't able to just read every single article from 5 different news sources every day. Is there a method most of you have for deciding what to read once you have the web page or paper open in front of you?\n", "How to read the news. I was inspired to revamp my methods (if you could call them that) of reading the news after reading this awesome comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/5cqsgm/i_cant_be_the_only_one/d9z7k8f/\n\n\nSo now that I have some idea of which sources I should be getting my news from, I would like to know the best method for *how* to read them. Most of us aren't able to just read every single article from 5 different news sources every day. Is there a method most of you have for deciding what to read once you have the web page or paper open in front of you?\n" ]

[ "I always try to read two types of news before all others, with a third high on my list.\n\n1) Read what's interesting to you. Sure, being informed is a responsible and wise end in itself, but why not make sure you have some fun with it. If you try to just read article after article about African trade blocs, you'll likely bore yourself and the news will become unpleasant and a chore. Unless you like African trade blocs--and you would if you knew more about them (see number three).\n\n2. Read what's important, both to you and the world. Whether or not you're American, Donald Trump's cabinet appointments are Useful Knowledge that you can break out at cocktail parties. The refugee crisis has enormous global implications, so try to be aware of the latest developments. Read at least once about every disaster and every election you can. Maybe even stock market articles once in a while--they're actually important. \n\n3. Read about SOMETHING you don't know about and maybe don't even care about. You learn a lot this way. Maybe you know a lot about Western leaders, but don't know about Park's troubles in South Korea. Become smarter by reading about that. Develop an opinion on the Venezuelan impeachment attempt. Figure out if the South China Sea claims are something that you feel everyone should know about. Just by reading news you never cared about, you learn so much.", "Personally, I skip over anything sports or entertainment, and only read a bit about global news - usually just to see things I'm interested in, or just finding out about. \n\nAs far as national or local news, I try to limit what I'm reading to (a) the things that effect me and my loved ones, (b) things that affect taxes and environment directly, (c) things I'm just finding out about.. or checking back in after a while to 'freshen up'. \n\nI avoid business news that isn't in my field. I avoid most news about towns that aren't my own. Their new librarian, or the candidates for school board don't mean much to me. \n\nBasically, if the headline doesn't tell me something I want to learn about - I don't bother reading that article. \n\nI also try to look at sources. If I see an article in the NYTimes that is sourced from AP, then a similar article is in my local newspaper - I don't do more than skim to see if they didn't concentrate on different details. \n" ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How to fix a drawstring on your pants / hoodie. I've heard people say just inch it through or use a safety pin. Is there no easier way/faster way?", "How to fix a drawstring on your pants / hoodie. I've heard people say just inch it through or use a safety pin. Is there no easier way/faster way?", "How to fix a drawstring on your pants / hoodie. I've heard people say just inch it through or use a safety pin. Is there no easier way/faster way?", "How to fix a drawstring on your pants / hoodie. I've heard people say just inch it through or use a safety pin. Is there no easier way/faster way?", "How to fix a drawstring on your pants / hoodie. I've heard people say just inch it through or use a safety pin. Is there no easier way/faster way?", "How to fix a drawstring on your pants / hoodie. I've heard people say just inch it through or use a safety pin. Is there no easier way/faster way?" ]

[ "Try this, if its on a sweatshirt that unzips you'll have a better chance maybe. Put an opened wire hanger through both ends so pieces of metal are coming out both side. Tie the string to a part that can pull all the way through and then just pull the other side and hope it doesn't come undone. ", "Using a big safety pin to inch it back through really isn't that hard or time consuming. And yeah, it's probably the best way.", "take the drawstring all the way out... attach a pin or paper clip and then feed it through. it works like a charm!", "Use a wire coat hanger. Unbend until straight. At the end, shape a backwards U into the wire. Tie your string to the U and thread through pants or hoodie.", "The actual tool to do this is called a \"loop turner\". You can find it in a sewing notions store or the sewing notions section of stores like WalMart.\n\nIs it faster than a safety pin? Nope.", "I just found this after I posted: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_E9A8mCnqw\n\nAnyone have an idoea how to custom make something like this?" ]

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[ "How to unlock a mobile phone so it can be used on all networks. If this is possible to do it would be great, as shops tend to charge about £25 for it where I live...", "How to unlock a mobile phone so it can be used on all networks. If this is possible to do it would be great, as shops tend to charge about £25 for it where I live..." ]

[ "I called At&t and they gave me the unlock code even though I'm still under contract. No aregument. As long as you've had the unit for 3 months they give it to you. Just ask before paying or jacking up your phone.", "I have done this once, and I do not see why you can't do it. So, if you need a phone unlocked, call up the carrier. Tell them that you need a phone unlocked because you are temporarily going out of the country and you don't want to use their service to avoid roaming charges. Or if you don't have a contract with that company, say you got the phone off of Ebay or a friend and say it was promised to be unlocked, but it wasn't. They would usually set up a case and ask for your IMEI number (the number you get when you type *#06# on your dialer) and your email. It may take a couple days to weeks depending on the availability of the code (sometimes the carrier has it, or the company that makes the phone has it. In that case it'll take longer). This is all free though. Hope this helps!" ]

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[ "How to help a friend with violent urges. Topic. A kind friend has a lot of violent urges when they are down.\nThey take it out on themselves to avoid hurting anyone.\n\n\nWhat can I do to help them? Any tips?\n\n", "How to help a friend with violent urges. Topic. A kind friend has a lot of violent urges when they are down.\nThey take it out on themselves to avoid hurting anyone.\n\n\nWhat can I do to help them? Any tips?\n\n", "How to help a friend with violent urges. Topic. A kind friend has a lot of violent urges when they are down.\nThey take it out on themselves to avoid hurting anyone.\n\n\nWhat can I do to help them? Any tips?\n\n", "How to help a friend with violent urges. Topic. A kind friend has a lot of violent urges when they are down.\nThey take it out on themselves to avoid hurting anyone.\n\n\nWhat can I do to help them? Any tips?\n\n", "How to help a friend with violent urges. Topic. A kind friend has a lot of violent urges when they are down.\nThey take it out on themselves to avoid hurting anyone.\n\n\nWhat can I do to help them? Any tips?\n\n" ]

[ "What do you mean by \"taking it out on themselves\"? This could range from \"take a boxing class\" to \"see a therapist\" depending on the specifics.", "Seek counseling. All these suggestions may work for a while, but none address the main problems which could be hidden. ", "Have him try something that puts his aggressiveness to good use. Paintball, boxing, or martial arts. I recommend martial arts as not only do they let you have an out for your violent thoughts, but they teach you discipline as well.", "M", "What age are we talking about? How is his home life. Really no advice but just stop him when he is about to go off." ]

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[ "how to stop vandals from scratching swear words into cars My parents have had their car scratched many times and have now had swear words scratched onto the bonnet. They have scratched other cars on the roads too. The local authority says it costs too much for security cameras for such petty crimes. What can be done to deter them from doing it? Thanks in advance!", "how to stop vandals from scratching swear words into cars My parents have had their car scratched many times and have now had swear words scratched onto the bonnet. They have scratched other cars on the roads too. The local authority says it costs too much for security cameras for such petty crimes. What can be done to deter them from doing it? Thanks in advance!", "how to stop vandals from scratching swear words into cars My parents have had their car scratched many times and have now had swear words scratched onto the bonnet. They have scratched other cars on the roads too. The local authority says it costs too much for security cameras for such petty crimes. What can be done to deter them from doing it? Thanks in advance!", "how to stop vandals from scratching swear words into cars My parents have had their car scratched many times and have now had swear words scratched onto the bonnet. They have scratched other cars on the roads too. The local authority says it costs too much for security cameras for such petty crimes. What can be done to deter them from doing it? Thanks in advance!", "how to stop vandals from scratching swear words into cars My parents have had their car scratched many times and have now had swear words scratched onto the bonnet. They have scratched other cars on the roads too. The local authority says it costs too much for security cameras for such petty crimes. What can be done to deter them from doing it? Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "Put a camera inside the car and make it visible. You can actually use it or it can be a dummy camera, either works because usually just seeing cameras deters vandals and thieves from doing whatever they were going to do.", "Smother your car in poop, draw a circle of piss around it each night, and setup a solar powered loud speaker that plays Jaws continuously through the night", "if you can't get a camera maybe a motion activated light that spotlights the car as best it can? Ideally a really bright one. Probably not the best thing to admit but I flinch at the auto light in my own back garden when I come home drunk. It might deter a few if they think they are being watched.", "What's at the root of the crime?\n\nAre these people just vandalizing random cars, or are they going after your parents specifically?\n\nHow often is it happening?", "I'd suggest buying security cameras for your house or even a car dash cam. Or get a big scary German Shepard, that works too." ]

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[ "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n", "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n", "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n", "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n", "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n", "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n", "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n", "Tips for Long-Distance Moving? What to look for in a company (or what to avoid), how to pack delicate items so they do not break, etc.\n\n" ]

[ "This article is really helpful\n\nhttp://www.wealthinformatics.com/2013/06/07/long-distance-moving-on-the-cheap-part-ii-moving-with-amtrak-and-greyhound/\n\nIf you are looking to save money, shipping boxes with Amtrak is *the* way to go. Speaking from personal experience too. It's extremely cheap and reliable. \n\nIf you need to take furniture and large things that won't fit in boxes, you'll need to find another option. But that article is a 3-part series so you hsould read it anyway.", "Look for a company that *only* use their own vehicles (*not* hire vehicles), whose staff wear uniforms, and who spend more time asking you what you want/need than telling you what they think you should pay them to do for you. Make sure that they have a policy of having one member of staff who will be there at both ends of the move who is in charge of running the removal. If they don't ask things like how good the road access to your house is and how many floors your house has don't hire them. If they quote over the phone instead of sending someone round to visually appraise the cubage of your belongings and furniture, don't hire them. Make sure you ask them what their insurance does and doesn't cover and what the excess is. Make sure to call your own insurance company; your own insurance can often cover removal of your belongings and for less than the extra insurance removal company may offer.\n\n\nExperience: sixteen years working for an international removals company who also specialise in shipping antiques and fine arts worldwide. We run a full wrap/pack and unpack/place service and there is a difference between a haulier and a removals company; many are the former and you want the latter.\n\n\nTip for things you pack yourself: don't stand anything with legs on top of anything soft that might hold a mark (like a leather sofa); pack plates and LPs upright *not* lying down; fill things like glasses with your socks as well as wrapping their outsides and pack them standing up not on their sides also; keep one clear plastic box to one side that they're aware not to pack that holds everything you'll need for your first night and day at your new place, including documents, emergency cash, any printouts you'll need, and a list of takeaway places who deliver in that area.\n\n\nRemoval companies vary; some will just move what you've already packed, others will provide a professional wrap/pack service. The latter know what they're doing and your goods are more well insured because they've been packed by professionals; anything you pack yourself cannot be covered by their insurance as they have no idea how well you've packed anything. Splurging on their professional wrap/pack and/or unpack and place service (they will literally come into a house that's not ready to move, with everything still in place, and pack *everything*, and then unpack and place everything in relevant locations throughout the destination house) is worth the money for the peace of mind.", "My wife and I did a 1600 mile move last summer. We didn't hire anyone, just had family and friends help load and unload each end. If you go that route, I can suggest the following:\n1. Home decor items (tall vases, candles) can be put in your bureau drawer within the clothes.\n2. Tie said drawers closed with some dollar-store clothesline. Very cheap insurance. Just google a good knot!\n3. Ask friends for old blankets or get some from the goodwill, wrap your furniture with them, then donate them back to goodwill when you get to your new home! Don't forget this donation for next year's tax deductions!\n\nMost importantly, padlock your truck door!!", "Hire a company at your destination end, rather than where you are leaving. They at least have the hope of repeat business as incentive, and more likely able to get labor there. \n\nDon't expect schedules to be promptly kept regardless! Unloading day is likely to be later than planned, so arrange your life accordingly.", "Take less.\n\nUnless your furniture is really nice, and you're absolutely attached to it, it's probably not worth the cost of moving it long distance, which can easily run into the thousands of dollars for a one-bedroom. Plus, you don't really need all that stuff you've got. So look at this as a golden opportunity to divest yourself of a bunch of unnecessary bulk.\n\nSource: I've moved cross-country several times, and this is the advice I should have heard.", "If you hire a company to move your stuff, pay half of what they want at the start and the other half when their finished", "If you have time and want to save a few bucks, try [upack] (http://www.upack.com/). I have used them in the past. They'll drop a container at your current location. You fill it up. They move it and deliver to your new location. You unload it and done. They usually leave out the custom container for 1-2 days. This might be a pain as you'll have to pack everything up yourself. You can get closet boxes (comes with hanger rods) so your clothes go as is. Use small boxes rather than big ones as they're easy to carry (help in optimizing space). Pack fragile items along with towels/clothes and enough packing material (Home Depot). This might be a good time to get rid of things you no longer need.", "Don't trust any moving company that doesn't come out to give you an estimate in person. Some will just ask for you to take pictures of the rooms in your house and give you an estimate based on the pics. I'd stay away from them. " ]

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[ "How do I train new workers most effectively, and how can I not sound rude while correcting a mistake or giving an order? So I'm a bagboy (18) at a local grocery store. I generally get stuck with training the new guys, and we have had two in the last week. I don't want to come off as a self-centered jerk, but I also want to teach them as much as possible before I leave in about 2 weeks, as the managers of the store have been very good to me, and I'd even consider one of them my mentor. \n\nI feel like I'm not taken seriously some times because I am all around a nice person, which is starting to look more like a flaw rather than a gift.\n\nI'd appreciate any and all advice.", "How do I train new workers most effectively, and how can I not sound rude while correcting a mistake or giving an order? So I'm a bagboy (18) at a local grocery store. I generally get stuck with training the new guys, and we have had two in the last week. I don't want to come off as a self-centered jerk, but I also want to teach them as much as possible before I leave in about 2 weeks, as the managers of the store have been very good to me, and I'd even consider one of them my mentor. \n\nI feel like I'm not taken seriously some times because I am all around a nice person, which is starting to look more like a flaw rather than a gift.\n\nI'd appreciate any and all advice.", "How do I train new workers most effectively, and how can I not sound rude while correcting a mistake or giving an order? So I'm a bagboy (18) at a local grocery store. I generally get stuck with training the new guys, and we have had two in the last week. I don't want to come off as a self-centered jerk, but I also want to teach them as much as possible before I leave in about 2 weeks, as the managers of the store have been very good to me, and I'd even consider one of them my mentor. \n\nI feel like I'm not taken seriously some times because I am all around a nice person, which is starting to look more like a flaw rather than a gift.\n\nI'd appreciate any and all advice." ]

[ "First, is make them do everything no matter how much longer it takes. The easiest way for most people to learn, is to do it themselves a few times so repetition begins to set in.\n\nSecond, when a mistake is made, don't tell them they made a mistake, ask why they chose to do what they did. This can be helpful in two ways. It not only helps them think critically, and analyze their actions to determine if it was right or wrong, but it also gives them an opportunity to explain their thought process. Often times when a new employee is doing something incorrect, it is simply because they did not know there was a better way. They are always much more appreciative when you take the time to understand why they might be doing something, instead of just telling them they are wrong, or assuming they are wrong. \n\nThe true key is patience, and giving them the time it takes to learn. You can't rush or push anyone.", "I've been involved in training a good number of coworkers. \n\nSlow down when explaining things. Take time to explain why certain things need to be done a certain why, rather than just telling them this is how it's done. \n\nWhen they make a mistake, correct it politely. Don't yell or even raise your voice. Just point out what they did wrong and have them do it the correct way. \n\nSometimes when I notice someone doing something wrong, I'll won't tell them what it is, but rather ask them to look at what they're doing and fix what they're doing wrong or ask what they forgot to do. Obviously not in a situation where they could get hurt. If they don't see it, then tell them. ", "When correcting someone, I start with a compliment that's genuine (eg: you're doing great/ thanks for working so hard). Then starting the correction with \"next time ____\"\n\nThat way they know you want them to improve and succeed but aren't focused on their recent mistake. You have to use the right tone though." ]

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[ "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?", "How to find an apartment in a new city when you're 500 miles away In May I'll be moving to a new city. I'm graduating grad school and starting my first official full-time job.\n\nI've tried looking online for apartments, but honestly the selection is overwhelming. I'll also be in this apartment for at least two years, so I don't want to screw it up! The online reviews are really scary for just about everything, and in addition to this, I'll be moving near a college town and I really don't want to end up in the student ghetto - I'm done with that!\n\nI've got a budget ($900 a month or less), size (2 bedroom, 1 bath), and other requirements (dog friendly, prefer dishwasher, W/D hookups) and know I want to be close to my job so I can come home at lunch to take out the dog.\n\nBut how do I go about actually checking out apartments when I cannot visit them easily?" ]

[ "When I did this, I moved into a shitty month-to-month apt for one month, and used that time to scope out neighborhoods and found a great place", "When I moved 3000 miles away I found an apartment that did a month by month lease. Once I got into town I scoped out the area and other apartments.", "I will be in the same situation myself very shortly and some ideas I've gotten from friends are:\n\n1) padmapper.com\n\n2) Craigslist for a roommate and skype the guy/girl beforehand, make them give you a tour with their webcam\n\n3) airbnb.com - stay lengths can vary based on your needs and what you establish with the person you stay with, there are reviews of hosts and host ID verification\n\n4) couchsurfing.com - similar to AirBnB but typically with shorter stays and (I believe) a bigger user base", "I used to work as an apartment locator. Required me to get my Real Estate license with the state.\n\nLook into that, I'm sure there are people out there whose sole job is to help others find an apartment.\n\nDon't use one who asks for a fee from you, or a fee up front, any fee. More or less, they should be free, and get paid a referal fee from the place they locate you to. That being said, don't forget to put their name on ANY paperwork, even the basic, initial paperwork you get from walking in to just view the place. Places follow the paper trail for referals, so put them down asap.\n\nIf they do ask for a fee, they are (probably) only going to offer you a list of apartments which you already have.", "It isn't too tough if you're willing to move into a larger apartment complex. Those folks are very used to renting sight unseen to remote people and everything can be done via phone/email. I've done this 3 times. In the places I rented I could see a layout of the apartment online (because, again, it is a large complex with hundreds of standard size apartments) and pictures of what they generally look like. I could ask additional questions over the phone and pick a place. \n\nIf you're looking for a privately owned type apartment or something in a small building or whatever I don't see how you do this unless you find a real estate agent or similar serving as a relocator (and they will charge you a fee) to do the legwork for you and make sure the place is as explained.", "I did this once. I got on google street view and \"walked\" around areas I wanted to live in, would look for a property manager sign outside and then google from there. ", "My husband and I moved states and here is a quick rundown of what we did:\n\nWent and stayed in an extended stay hotel for a week. He worked that week too, so we weren't doing this without any income coming in.\n\nDid a ton of research before had so we knew 10 to 12 apartments we wanted to look at that had everything we needed. Also stopped at a few that had signs for move in specials that we just passed.\n\nFound apartment, got all the necessities done and moved in that weekend. \n", "I moved twice in the last year due to my job. Once was around 600 miles and the last time was clear from one US coast to the other.\n\nYou know what you want, that's very good. You have a budget and know where you work. Go to google.com/maps, where you can create a custom map. Drop a colored pin at the office. Pick another color and use it for potential housing spots. You can add details to every pin, like the website for the apartment complex, the amenities, and the rent.\n\nYou need to find someone local to call and *talk* to about your destination city. Ask how to get around, about different neighborhoods, where people go to eat/party/whatever interests you.\n\nBoth of my cities are infamous for their road traffic, so I confined my own searches to places near subway stations. I gave extra marks to locations nearer to highways. \n\nIf possible, visit once before moving. Narrow your options to 3 apartments, 4 tops. You can tour that many in one day. After the leasing office gives you a tour and you tell them you'll be in touch, find someone that's a regular resident in the parking lot. Ask them how they like the apartment and the area. Are there roaches here? Do they respond to maintenance requests? Is the freeway noisy at night? People like complaining, so get the real story.\n\nDon't be afraid to get a really short lease. It's okay to live somewhere less than perfect while you feel the city out. Pay attention to where you spend your time. You will do more than go from home to work and back. Find out where people buy their groceries.\n\nSubreddits are really a lot less useful than people here are letting on.", "Craigslist has a housing section. I don't think I'd use it for roommates due to it being, well, Craigslist, but to find a home where you'll be the only tenant should work.\n\nMy SO and I were in a similar situation.. but he moved to our new location and his company paid for 2 weeks at an extended stay hotel while he looked. Pretty sure he found his current place on Craigslist, but they only allowed cats so I stayed back here.We found a sublease that will take our two cats and a dog and I'm joining him next month with our brood.", "Really depends on the city you're moving to. I moved to Boston with my girlfriend and the market here is super competitive so being out of state got us no responses what so ever. Not to mention renting an apartment sight-unseen is a huge gamble that more often than not will bite you in the ass. We took a three month sublet (moved here over the summer) and caught onto the big moving time of September 1. I'd recommend biting the bone and doing a sublet for a month or two to just get to the place then find somewhere to settle while you live there. Again, my only experience is Boston.", "Moved to a new city a few months ago. I simply put up an ad in the local newspaper, and had about 5-6 places to choose from. ", "I would probably try to talk to a realtor in the area. Explain your situation, and try and figure out what parts of town are nice and within your budget. Maybe they'll be reluctant to help you, but maybe they can forward you to someone else. ", "Had a friend who hooked up with a large community church group online and people in the group provided tips and suggestions as to which areas of that town were good for his circumstances and desires.", "when i moved across the country i asked the land lord to email me pictures of the apartment not just the ones posted on the rental website.\n\na good landlord is very involved with getting to know their tenants and not just wanting to fill the space. well in my experience so far. ", "so firstly .. shared housing is the go, find the biggest house with the most bedrooms you can .. then put a notice up in the universities in your city .. you will get in general thinking interesting people to live with and they are studying/have life goals .. and the afore mentioned big house in a good suburb should have quality features .. but you are dividing the rent by 4 or 5 so its usually something you can handle", "honestly move in to a motel for the first month and socialize with the people your working with enough for them to recommend a place to you! chances are that you'll get a place to live and friends in that area!", "You can also try sites like zillow.com and look up statistics by zip code using zipskinny.com, citydata.com and others to see population, income and crime data.\n\nGood luck!", "Why can't you travel? I took a weekend about a month before I graduated and flew 1000 miles to find a place.", "When I got the job offer here it was short notice. I found there was a youth hostel a couple blocks from my new work. Very confortable, reasonable price, breakfast included. I used craigslist and looked at apartments after work. Got a place after 2 weeks. Worked out pretty well. Really glad I didn't take a lot of this places sight-unseen that looked perfect in the ad. ", "Start reading your new city's subreddit, and maybe look for a couple of discussion boards related to one of your hobbies in your new city. Lurking and reading the chatter on discussion boards dominated by locals will start to give you a feel for what the neighborhoods are like.\n\nLook for an area where people complain about little stuff. Some people just like to complain, and if they're complaining about something little it means that they don't have anything big to complain about.", "Send people a link to your LinkedIn profile. If you've got a decent job and some connections people will have a lot more confidence in renting to you. This helped me a lot in finding a place before I moved to San Francisco. ", "Research?\n\nGoogle Citydata forums + the name of the city you're moving to. Sort by top replies, and most of them will name the part of the city that's a ghetto you want to avoid.", "Really? Suggesting looking for a subreddit is considered the *best* advice in this thread? Either talk to a tenants union and ask for advice or get a short stay while you pick. Alternatively, contact a real estate agency directly, but this will be the most expensive and regrettable option if they pick wrong. ", "Reading online reviews is an art form. First, some places will have had new management since the reviews, so check the dates. Second, not all negative reviews are created equally. People complaining about neighbors or rent hike in a recently improved area are NBD. Bug complaints are what I worry about. \n\nYou should check the college's off campus housing finder, or look at the commuter bus routes. This might give you an idea of where the students are living and you can look elsewhere.", "In my experience, having moved both short and long term to foreign countries, your best bet is to take the initial hit in cash and find somewhere short term (a hotel/motel/hostel/room share, etc) even if it's expensive, and then take a week or two to find someplace permanent.\n\nThere is no substitute for actually walking around and seeing a property. There are a million ways that an apartment can be misrepresented online, by a realtor, by a landlord etc. that are just not worth the hassle.\n\nIt will be worth the money spent on the hotel to know that you've found some place good, but I would never commit to a housing contract without seeing it.\n\n**tl;dr** rent a hotel for a week, go physically see the properties. Networking to find options, as others have suggested, is obviously a good idea.", "In most cities there are apartment locator services that can be really useful. In my city one is called Apartment Hunters. Try them, they usually know the best spots and the best deals.", "If the selection really is overwhelming (ie. there's not a super-tight rental market where you're moving), spend as much time as you can, online (as others have mentioned, padmapper is good) , narrowing down to a few that you might want, and set up viewings for the day you arrive or right after. Then stay in a cheap motel for the first couple nights until you can decide which place is best for you.\n\nAlso, if you really have to sign a lease on a place sight-unseen, go for as short a lease as possible. It will give you time to get to know the city, and find a proper place a few months down the road.", "I would avoid getting something permanent until you get there. I'd rent an airbnb or a temporary space and then look when you get there. ", "I work at an apartment community and we get this all the time! I've had tons of move ins with people who have never even been to the property. We've also had tons of people move to other communities only to find out the terrible conditions and misleading online photos. My best advice would be to narrow it down to the town and price range, call all of those properties and speak to the ONSITE staff (leasing centers are really common and very uneducated). If they're rude and you get a bad vibe, run away! It's always hard choosing without seeing it personally but trust me, it can work out great. Reading reviews helps too, BUT keep in mind that some people are just assholes too. If you see consistent issues in various times, it's probably true. Hope this helps! And if you're moving to Houston PM me! ", "I was in your position at the beginning of this year. I would highly recommend getting an apartment with an established, larger scale landlord, as opposed to the cheap listings you find on places like Craigslist. Way less risky when you're sending large amounts of money to rent an apartment thousands of miles away.", "I used a subreddit and a free Realtor to help me with my decisions. Also had a few friends as well in the area, and they had some suggestions.", "I literally did this exact same thing last year moving from the East Coast to California. I took a leap of faith and ended up someplace nice.\n\nTry contacting the apartment and letting them know your renting without inspecting the facilities first, and want one month as a trial.", "I just moved to Queens from Madison, WI. I flew out to NYC to check out some apartments. I called a broker and basically got a short list of the apartments that I wanted to check out and my broker set up showings crammed together during the 2 days that I was visiting. It was nice having only 2-3 choices, so I just picked the one I liked best. I couldn't have done it without the broker! Been in Sunnyside, Queens since July, and I love it here!", "I hit up the Edmonton sub reddit when moving from Windsor, Ontario. Found an immaculate place for a great deal within a week. Also, the landlord was a redditor and a super nice guy , so everything was chill. ", "I didn't see it mentioned here at a glance: Ask your contacts at your new job. When I accepted my job offer out of college, HR actually asked me if I wanted help with placement and sent me a bunch of information that they collected. Since the employee was local, they also gave me advice on where to live/not live.", "I am doing something that my age 72 years old that I have tried before. To move to another city and state. That is why I am seeking help.", "Google search the zipcode + apartments. Check the reviews, look at all the pictures, talk with someone on the phone, and make sure everything is 100% ready to go before you get there.\n\nI moved to Austin in July and I lived 12 hours away with no time to go apt hunting. The Google search pulled up tons of options and I found an apt I really like. \n\nYou can also sign a six month lease if you're not totally sold. ", "Google Earth everything around the place of interest and be on the lookout for squatters and random shopping carts.", "Get a temporary place at first, or if you have friends/family there ask to crash at theirs for a week, and then you can get a feel for the city yourself, talk to co-workers and people you meet about where they live, what they like about it, what areas of the city are fun, boring, safe, risky, loud, quiet, etc.\n\nYou won't ever really know for sure until you see it yourself.", "Find out of the property is fee managed or owned. Fee managed companies do not own their properties and are paid based on their numbers. By that logic they are more likely to allow residents that should not be approved... \n\nAsk if they screen for evictions/criminal history. \n\nCriminal reports for areas are available for free online usually. \n\nTake online reviews with a grain of salt... (sadly) The majority of people who take the time to go online are people who are pissed off not happy. That being said, check to see if the management company takes time to respond to online reviews. \n", "Find a sublet first. Something short for a couple months. Then use that time to look for a permanent apartment. ", "Find a local Long Term Stay hotel and book a room for a month while you look. No commitment and they clean your room for you.\n\nYou can also ask your future employer about temporary employee housing. Most major companies offer this as part of a relocation package.\n\nStore your stuff in a rental unit until you're ready to move in. ", "Do what I did when you first get there: stay in a hostel for a bit.\n\nSearch for apartments during the day.\n\nParty at night.\n\nIt worked out great for me!\n\n", "Craigslist everyday. Move to the city and find a cheap hostel to stay in for a while. Drive around and call every reality company and explain your situation and what you are looking for. \n\nSource: Just moved from Eastern NC to Memphis for a job. ", "Check your alumni connections. When I moved to DC in 03, a professor set me up with someone with a spare room for a couple of months while I got on my feet. The only thing we had in common at first was that we graduated from the same school. to months later, i had a place. \n\nIt was a great way to get a feel for the area. \n\nHope this helps. ", "Ask around to everyone you know who may even be remotely related to the area you're moving to for suggestions of areas to live. They'll know where the hidden sketchy places are, or at least, someone who may know. I do a lot of last minute relocating and this has been my best way to find places to move so far.\n\nAlso, rang ahead. Anyone who suggests Criagslist as their one and only suggestion deserves to be smacked with a fish.\n\nI just went through this a little while ago. I asked every person I knew that may have even been remotely related to the city for contact info. I scoured Craigslist for hours. Most of the time, when someone heard about my problem, they asked, \"Have you checked Craigslist?\" No, clearly I've just been sitting on google maps finding the comfiest park bench. Everyone has tried this and failed, or they wouldn't still be looking. I got so sick of hearing this as a suggestion as if they think I hadn't heard of it before and it's some magical cure all. It's not. It sucks. I have yet to find anything remotely helpful. [/rant]", "city-data.com for demographics. call the local pizza places, find out if there are any places they wont deliver to at all or after dark. Should rule out some. ", "Check out the app CrimeRrports. Gives you block by block derails of all crime. This is what I used to move to Chicago. Good luck!!" ]

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[ "Think of conversation as a game of catch, where the thought is the ball... Think of a conversation as a game of catch. You throw a ball at someone and they throw it back. Think of the “ball” being thrown as a thought and it’s return, as constructive feedback. If the ball was replaced by a similarly shaped lump of clay, it’s almost bound to lose its shape when caught by the other person. The thought that the other person receives is interpreted differently to how it was intended. \n\nThis is one of the major flaws in modern day communication. \n\nThe point is that any conversation, for it to be fruitful, must have open-minded participants.", "Think of conversation as a game of catch, where the thought is the ball... Think of a conversation as a game of catch. You throw a ball at someone and they throw it back. Think of the “ball” being thrown as a thought and it’s return, as constructive feedback. If the ball was replaced by a similarly shaped lump of clay, it’s almost bound to lose its shape when caught by the other person. The thought that the other person receives is interpreted differently to how it was intended. \n\nThis is one of the major flaws in modern day communication. \n\nThe point is that any conversation, for it to be fruitful, must have open-minded participants.", "Think of conversation as a game of catch, where the thought is the ball... Think of a conversation as a game of catch. You throw a ball at someone and they throw it back. Think of the “ball” being thrown as a thought and it’s return, as constructive feedback. If the ball was replaced by a similarly shaped lump of clay, it’s almost bound to lose its shape when caught by the other person. The thought that the other person receives is interpreted differently to how it was intended. \n\nThis is one of the major flaws in modern day communication. \n\nThe point is that any conversation, for it to be fruitful, must have open-minded participants." ]

[ "I like this analogy of conversations,i think open minded people are the best people to hold conversations with that is why i have them around me.", "Yes, totally agreed! It’s very difficult to have a conversation when the other person throws back a metaphorical brick, what can I say to that? Haha", "Totally agree! It's super tiring when you try to ask something to start a conversation and the other person just doesn't send the conversation back to you. And then if you don't want to talk anymore, in the end is your fault! \nIt doesn't make sense, hahaha." ]

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[ "How to train myself to be stop irrational fear of mistakes on permanent actions. Examples: Putting garbage documents in the locked recycle bin that gets shredded.\nTrimming rope that I don't have anymore of if I make a mistake.", "How to train myself to be stop irrational fear of mistakes on permanent actions. Examples: Putting garbage documents in the locked recycle bin that gets shredded.\nTrimming rope that I don't have anymore of if I make a mistake." ]

[ "These mistakes are not gonna have as bad of consequences that you think they will.\n\nIt is healthy to make mistakes noone is infallable, and it gives us the opertunity to learn from them.\n", "As for *how* to train yourself...the only real way is to intentially make mistakes, like putting garbage documents in the garbage.\n\nThat said, if you find this to be daunting or adversely effecting your daily life, I think a therapist would have better tools and resources and you should consider seeing one to get this straightened out. \n" ]

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[ "Its 2015, How to run a home paperless freelancer office? Overburdened with paper notes (legal pads mostly), maps, and such, all on mostly letter-sized paper and manuals for engineering work. \n\nAny good youtube examples etc. for a good way to digitize everything but have it accessible? I have a scanner, photoshop, adobe acrobat, and running windows. Looking for a free and fast method to organize everything as either .jpg or .pdf files that I can access easily on both desktop and laptop. Prefer more simple methods and not complicated software suites or monthly-fee cloud services. \n\nMy current plan is to (a.) scan all as image files and organize in .pdfs with acrobat. Or (b.) just organize the image files in folders that I can breeze through with (Irfanview) image viewer. I want fast access like flipping through a pile of papers, but not have the pile of papers.\n\n\nThanks!", "Its 2015, How to run a home paperless freelancer office? Overburdened with paper notes (legal pads mostly), maps, and such, all on mostly letter-sized paper and manuals for engineering work. \n\nAny good youtube examples etc. for a good way to digitize everything but have it accessible? I have a scanner, photoshop, adobe acrobat, and running windows. Looking for a free and fast method to organize everything as either .jpg or .pdf files that I can access easily on both desktop and laptop. Prefer more simple methods and not complicated software suites or monthly-fee cloud services. \n\nMy current plan is to (a.) scan all as image files and organize in .pdfs with acrobat. Or (b.) just organize the image files in folders that I can breeze through with (Irfanview) image viewer. I want fast access like flipping through a pile of papers, but not have the pile of papers.\n\n\nThanks!", "Its 2015, How to run a home paperless freelancer office? Overburdened with paper notes (legal pads mostly), maps, and such, all on mostly letter-sized paper and manuals for engineering work. \n\nAny good youtube examples etc. for a good way to digitize everything but have it accessible? I have a scanner, photoshop, adobe acrobat, and running windows. Looking for a free and fast method to organize everything as either .jpg or .pdf files that I can access easily on both desktop and laptop. Prefer more simple methods and not complicated software suites or monthly-fee cloud services. \n\nMy current plan is to (a.) scan all as image files and organize in .pdfs with acrobat. Or (b.) just organize the image files in folders that I can breeze through with (Irfanview) image viewer. I want fast access like flipping through a pile of papers, but not have the pile of papers.\n\n\nThanks!", "Its 2015, How to run a home paperless freelancer office? Overburdened with paper notes (legal pads mostly), maps, and such, all on mostly letter-sized paper and manuals for engineering work. \n\nAny good youtube examples etc. for a good way to digitize everything but have it accessible? I have a scanner, photoshop, adobe acrobat, and running windows. Looking for a free and fast method to organize everything as either .jpg or .pdf files that I can access easily on both desktop and laptop. Prefer more simple methods and not complicated software suites or monthly-fee cloud services. \n\nMy current plan is to (a.) scan all as image files and organize in .pdfs with acrobat. Or (b.) just organize the image files in folders that I can breeze through with (Irfanview) image viewer. I want fast access like flipping through a pile of papers, but not have the pile of papers.\n\n\nThanks!", "Its 2015, How to run a home paperless freelancer office? Overburdened with paper notes (legal pads mostly), maps, and such, all on mostly letter-sized paper and manuals for engineering work. \n\nAny good youtube examples etc. for a good way to digitize everything but have it accessible? I have a scanner, photoshop, adobe acrobat, and running windows. Looking for a free and fast method to organize everything as either .jpg or .pdf files that I can access easily on both desktop and laptop. Prefer more simple methods and not complicated software suites or monthly-fee cloud services. \n\nMy current plan is to (a.) scan all as image files and organize in .pdfs with acrobat. Or (b.) just organize the image files in folders that I can breeze through with (Irfanview) image viewer. I want fast access like flipping through a pile of papers, but not have the pile of papers.\n\n\nThanks!", "Its 2015, How to run a home paperless freelancer office? Overburdened with paper notes (legal pads mostly), maps, and such, all on mostly letter-sized paper and manuals for engineering work. \n\nAny good youtube examples etc. for a good way to digitize everything but have it accessible? I have a scanner, photoshop, adobe acrobat, and running windows. Looking for a free and fast method to organize everything as either .jpg or .pdf files that I can access easily on both desktop and laptop. Prefer more simple methods and not complicated software suites or monthly-fee cloud services. \n\nMy current plan is to (a.) scan all as image files and organize in .pdfs with acrobat. Or (b.) just organize the image files in folders that I can breeze through with (Irfanview) image viewer. I want fast access like flipping through a pile of papers, but not have the pile of papers.\n\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "i took my legal firm paperless and did it like this. \n \n1. take all notes on laptop. no more handwriting \n2. new cases are paperless; current cases remain paper \n3. remove paperclips and staples from archived cases and scan them to or send for scanning. \n4. paperless cases take the following form: files are stored in a folder. each folder contains one file (quick-access info) and two subfolders (correspondence and documents) \n5. correspondence is named yymmdd from x to y. i find keeping x and y generic (eg from client to us) is best as it lets you use the same keywords when searching any file. using yymmdd keeps them in date order when ordered by name. \n6. use a naming convention for documents that is consistent and append _xx to the end to show the draft revision number eg \"report_03\". dates are not so important for me with documents. the leading zero lets me make up to 99 revisions whilst maintaining the right sort order. \n7. store scanned files as pdf. they open most quickly in Chrome \n8. ", "There is no such thing as a true powerless office. Shit always ends up getting printed back out, physical mail comes in, etc. ", "Give Evernote a try. Free for basic users and incredibly powerful. I pay for premium, but have digitized my *entire* life and personal archive, as well as my graduate degree. All jpg and searchable PDF, accessible on desktop, laptop, and my phone.", "Try a tablet or a laptop for the notes, but another thing is to make the titles meaningful and keep your computer organised, nothing worse than have an unorganised computer.", "The key to paperless is dedication. All the tools in the world won't help you if you aren't on top of your process.\n\nThat means when paper stuff comes in you immediately scan it and archive it *properly*. That means either a full CRM or a set of folders and a file naming convention set up so that you can quickly and easily find what you need.\n\nOther than that it's pretty simple. Type all your notes, get a whiteboard for brainstorming. You can even use something like camscanner or similar to take a photo and have it be scanned for you after you're done. \n\nIf your process involves lots of handwriting, give the MS surface pro line a look in.", "Neat desk has a good system and good document scanner. Snap scan is a better scanner but not as good system. Use Dropbox or other cloud based service. Organize as you scan or you wont ever go back. Scan it shred toss it. Soon everything will be in files on your cloud easy to accses print share use ect. A lot of ppl also like Evernote to organize and find fikes easier.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to retell a conversation without sounding like a valley girl Rather than \n\nAnd he said, \"...\"\n\nAnd then she said, \"....\"\n\nAnd he was like, \"....!\"\n\nAnd she said, \"....?\"\n\nHow the heck do I retell a conversation without it sounding so juvenile and banal? The key is that i'm not looking to summarize the conversation but to highlight a particular exchange.\n\nThanks!", "How to retell a conversation without sounding like a valley girl Rather than \n\nAnd he said, \"...\"\n\nAnd then she said, \"....\"\n\nAnd he was like, \"....!\"\n\nAnd she said, \"....?\"\n\nHow the heck do I retell a conversation without it sounding so juvenile and banal? The key is that i'm not looking to summarize the conversation but to highlight a particular exchange.\n\nThanks!", "How to retell a conversation without sounding like a valley girl Rather than \n\nAnd he said, \"...\"\n\nAnd then she said, \"....\"\n\nAnd he was like, \"....!\"\n\nAnd she said, \"....?\"\n\nHow the heck do I retell a conversation without it sounding so juvenile and banal? The key is that i'm not looking to summarize the conversation but to highlight a particular exchange.\n\nThanks!", "How to retell a conversation without sounding like a valley girl Rather than \n\nAnd he said, \"...\"\n\nAnd then she said, \"....\"\n\nAnd he was like, \"....!\"\n\nAnd she said, \"....?\"\n\nHow the heck do I retell a conversation without it sounding so juvenile and banal? The key is that i'm not looking to summarize the conversation but to highlight a particular exchange.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Use bigger transition words. \n\ne.g.:\nRichard said \"Foo bar foo bar\", to which Missy replied \"totes, you're my bae\". Then Richard responded \"blah blah blah\", but Missy wasn't having any of it and said \"We're THROUGH!\" and stomped out of the FroYo. \n\nOf course if the people you're talking about sound like idiots, it won't lend to making you sound better summarizing it, but I presume you already knew that. ", "So he said\"...\"\nBut she replied\"....\"\nHe disagreed, coming out with \"......\"\nBut then she retorted with \".....\"\nThey settled on \".....\"\n", "Use a different intonation for each voice. A slightly higher or lower register will let listeners know who's speaking. ", "Maybe try acting it out. You don't have to go all out, but if you can differentiate between, for example, a girl and a guy with a slight pitch change, attitude, personality, etc your audience will be able to infer who said what without you having to say \"he said\" \"she said\"." ]

[ 14, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to become a a good story teller and/or good with your words? I did a Google search in this topic and found some post that were a few years old.", "How to become a a good story teller and/or good with your words? I did a Google search in this topic and found some post that were a few years old.", "How to become a a good story teller and/or good with your words? I did a Google search in this topic and found some post that were a few years old." ]

[ "Read everything you can, and develop your writing as much as possible. Find workshops or classes devoted to writing and get feedback as you progress. ", "Read everything you can. All genres, different authors, different years.\n\nWrite. Rewrite stories if can't think of anything new \n\nHead on to r/writtingprompts, if you can take criticism is a great way to start writing", "I think this is one of those skills that requires some introspection. You’re going to know what kinds of stories fit your personal tone, mood, and affect better than anyone else will, and your relationship to the listeners will change how the story is interpreted.\n\nWith that said, try to repeat your stories to people and either ask for feedback or watch them for reactions. Get a feel for which parts seem boring and what gets a good reaction. I think watching standup comedians is a good way to learn, believe it or not. They make their stories sound so off-the-cuff, but in reality they’re crafted with tons of care.\n\nThe nice thing about life is that you can tell one or two good stories over and over and they’ll still be interesting. Your perspective on the story might change, and that only makes it richer. \n\nAs far as being good with your words, I don’t think catch phrases are good habits to develop, but there’s nothing wrong with having favorite words and using them. Don’t overdo it, but growing a personal vocabulary will give you a window into how you’re perceived. Using particular words can sometimes add (or detract) from your character, to say nothing about the idea that words influence thought..." ]

[ 4, 2, 1 ]

[ "How can an individual be more charismatic? I work in sales and I've been struggling a lot. I'm hoping to get some tips to maybe push along my career.", "How can an individual be more charismatic? I work in sales and I've been struggling a lot. I'm hoping to get some tips to maybe push along my career.", "How can an individual be more charismatic? I work in sales and I've been struggling a lot. I'm hoping to get some tips to maybe push along my career.", "How can an individual be more charismatic? I work in sales and I've been struggling a lot. I'm hoping to get some tips to maybe push along my career.", "How can an individual be more charismatic? I work in sales and I've been struggling a lot. I'm hoping to get some tips to maybe push along my career." ]

[ "Keep in mind that people only do things because they want to do things. Having a gun waved at you would make you REALLY want to comply with a request, but you can get things done in a more realistic manner. \n \nTry listening to a customer, and see what he/she is interested in, then use that as leverage to make them want your product. If they don't want to buy your product they won't buy it. Charisma is all about listening. Listen to what people want, and become and deliver that thing that people want. \n \nYou should read how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.", "On the way in to work, use music and comedy clips that get you 'up', smiling and laughing. There is a magnetism about an unforced smile or merry attitude. Have fun collecting great clips. Start with Lunchmoney Lewis 'I Got Bills'.\n\nI'm assuming you don't sell funeral services. ;-)", "The answer really is just confidence, think back to a time when you were really in control of a conversation and what you did at that time to achieve that effect, e.g certain body language or your pacing with words ", "Learn to smile and fake a laugh. Only talk about the positives of a product.\n\nAlso, if your not good at sales don't make it your career.", "Body language: Consciously think about your body language and use it to project confidence (calm, composed, good posture). It will probably feel fake or uncomfortable initially, but it will create positive reactions from others which is self-reinforcing, making you more confident. " ]

[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Making friends in college What do you say to people in/out of classes? I'm not nervous to talk I just don't know what to say without the answer to be yes or no.\n", "Making friends in college What do you say to people in/out of classes? I'm not nervous to talk I just don't know what to say without the answer to be yes or no.\n", "Making friends in college What do you say to people in/out of classes? I'm not nervous to talk I just don't know what to say without the answer to be yes or no.\n", "Making friends in college What do you say to people in/out of classes? I'm not nervous to talk I just don't know what to say without the answer to be yes or no.\n", "Making friends in college What do you say to people in/out of classes? I'm not nervous to talk I just don't know what to say without the answer to be yes or no.\n", "Making friends in college What do you say to people in/out of classes? I'm not nervous to talk I just don't know what to say without the answer to be yes or no.\n" ]

[ "Go to clubs / organizations that you're interested in. Meet people with similar interests.\n\nDevelop an interest in drinking games.", "Leaving your dorm door open, too. If you have access to a kitchen, cook and offer people in whatever lounges food (\"I just cooked way too much ___, anyone interested?). ", "Join a fraternity or sorority. Since its March, that might not be possible this year, but maybe next year. And if you aren't into the social fraternity or sorority, there are also fraternities or sororities for your major. \n\nAlso, maybe take a year off and do the Disney college program. Put simply, there is no easier place to get laid.\n\nI don't mean to sound like a dick, but college is probably the easiest time to make friends. If you don't get your shit together now, you're going to have a hard time making friends later in life.", "\"Man, that test was hard no?\" (or other similar topic, like \"what classes do you take?\")\n\nThen introduce yourself\n\nAsk them what they think about it\n\n\"Hey, want to go grab lunch?\" (or other activity that you both have a vested interest in)\n\nLike 90% sure that's how most friendships start", "Leave your room and talk to people you don't know... It's the same process as making friends anywhere. \n\nTurn off your video games, wash yourself so you aren't a stinky neck beard and go talk to people... ", "go Greek. one of the best things I did in college. It's not all partying and drinking, there is a lot of charity, leadership opportunities and networking as well" ]

[ 11, 8, 5, 3, 2, 0 ]

[ "How to get velcro to be \"sticky\" again? My ski boots have velcro straps at the top and they dont stay \"stuck\" together anymore. Just need to know how to clean them and I'm sure others are wondering the same :)\n\n", "How to get velcro to be \"sticky\" again? My ski boots have velcro straps at the top and they dont stay \"stuck\" together anymore. Just need to know how to clean them and I'm sure others are wondering the same :)\n\n", "How to get velcro to be \"sticky\" again? My ski boots have velcro straps at the top and they dont stay \"stuck\" together anymore. Just need to know how to clean them and I'm sure others are wondering the same :)\n\n" ]

[ "My chem professor explained that velcro doesn't only stick because of the hooks and loops, but also because the materials have polarity that wears out over time. I suggest getting new velcro at a fabric store and either removing the old velcro, or sewing the new velcro over the old with sturdy synthetic thread. use a lighter to melt the ends of the thread together and to the velcro in a small inconspicuous area.\n", "Get one of those metal dog brushes. Lay velvro on flat hard surface. Brush the velcro. Sticky again. ", "Sometimes the plastic in the loops or hooks simply wears out. Loops turn to fuzz and get broken open, hooks straighten out or just don't hold the hook shape strongly enough. In that case it's necessary to replace it. Stick new velcro over it, or if possible remove the old velcro first." ]

[ 6, 5, 3 ]

[ "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**", "$30 Shirt shrunk after washing, anyway to get it back to normal length? Spent $30 on a shirt and it shrunk (I'm a cloth washing rookie) and I want it back to normal length!\n\n**" ]

[ "No no, you got it wrong, you spent 30$ on education. Next time you will read the label and wash the shirt accordingly ;)\n\nDepending on the fabric used, there is a small chance to stretch the material, but unshrinking usually isn't possible.", "Give the shirt to one of your fat friends, ask him to wear it while soaking in a hot bath. Works every time.", "I bought a sweater and accidentally threw it in the dryer after washing, it shrunk like crazy. Then I tried this method and it worked:\n\nPut your shirt into a warm (not hot) bucket of water with some soap or conditioner. Soak for 10 minutes. Remove and put on towel on flat surface. Stretch shirt to normal lengths. Let dry while patting shirt dry with other towel. (don't wring it however!!)\n", "Ha! You're in luck! I was just thinking the other day of posting this to lpt. One of my favorite shirts shrunk a while ago and I got the idea to hang it up tie the bottom of it and then put two cans of beans (unopened) in the shirt. After about 24 hours the shirt was at least 3in longer.", "Soak in a solution of hair conditioner and water for 10-15 minutes then rinse. The shirt should easily return to nearly the same size as before with light stretching and will stay that way unless/until you wash it improperly again. ", "Put it in the refrigerator for 3 days. You won't see much progress the first day and a half, but after that, it will be popping back into it's original shape/length pretty quickly. \n\nThe heat shrinks cotton, but the cold (over a period of a few days) expands the cotton.", "Why don't you try calling [this gentleman](http://imgur.com/EdbTX)?\n\nHe can possibly [help you out](http://media.giantbomb.com/uploads/0/625/233315-hulk_hogan___ripping_shirt_as_champ___copy_large.jpg)!?", "I let my clothes dry over rope hung up in my laundry room. they dry in 24 hrs at room temp and they wont stretch. Saves energy too.", "could try this. [Unshrinking Clothes with Julia](http://www.eyehandy.com/hacks/how-to-unshrink-clothes-with-julia/) Probably NSFW", "Wondering the opposite. Is there a way to selectively shrink a shirt? Say you want to keep the sleeves and shoulders the same size, but make the waist skinny?", "Soak it in vinegar for 30 minutes. Wash it in cold water and fabric softener. Hang to dry. Works wonders! Goodluck! :)", "Cotton will always shrink. The problem is that some weaves and cotton yarns are more likely to shrink than others - these are often also the cheapest ones. Often they will shrink in length and become wider, this is a result of how the clothes are woven.\n\nBasically, there isn't any way to safeguard against shrinkage, most clothes will shrink, the question is just how much - and you can safeguard yourself against that by:\n\n1. Checking the care label. Does it state the the clothes will shrink? How many per cent?\n2. Buying quality. It can take some training to recognize quality and craftsmanship, and while you may not become an expert, you will learn to recognize the shit that will shrink.\n\nIf it shrinks a lot, and the care label did not clearly state so, you can return it.", "I've heard you can use a sponge to dab on a diluted mixture of vinegar and water and then wash it afterwards. Also never dry it completely. I've never tried this however so if anyone has and it works, please verify." ]

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[ "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*", "Tips for college visits I'm a junior in High School going on a few college visits this week, and I could use some tips on what to expect and maybe even some questions I could ask. \nPlease and Thank You.\n\n*" ]

[ "- **Take LOTS of pictures.** And make sure they're sorted correctly. If you're going on several visits in the span of a few days, it helps to remember what they look like.\n\n- **Don't be afraid to ask questions.** Your tour guide will be able to answer pretty much anything you could think of, and you don't want to be sitting at home wishing you knew something that you didn't get the chance to learn.\n\n- **Take your own tour.** The official tour is going to, by design, take you around the nicest and most interesting parts of campus, but you'll be spending a lot of time in other places as well. After the tour ends, take a walk around and see some places that they didn't show you.\n\n- **If you know your major, visit some professors!** A lot of schools are known for proficiency in one particular major. For the University of Rhode Island, where I am, it's pharmacy. So the tour will likely have something of a focus on that major. I know mine did. If that's not what you're planning on studying, find the offices of that major and talk to some professors. I learned more from doing that than I did on the actual tour. And as an addendum, get a lot of flyers and materials from them.\n\n- **If you can, sample some dining hall food**. It might be closed to visitors, but take the chance if you can. You don't want to be stuck eating crappy food for months on end, and buying snack food is tough on your wallet and your waistline.\n\n- **Find out what's in the surrounding area.** You don't want to be stuck in the middle of nowhere. For city schools, this isn't really an issue, but a lot of schools will be in towns that have absolutely *nothing* going on.\n\n- **Look at flyers for upcoming events.** They'll be all over the damn place. See if the Student Entertainment Committee at the school plans events that pique your interest. Also, look on the website. \n\n- **Remember, you're there as a potential customer.** They're trying to sell you on the experience, so it's good to be a bit skeptical about stuff.\n\nHope I could help! I remember my college visits were a lot of fun. Good luck!", "Write a journal to yourself the night after a visit. This way you can get back some of your thoughts when it comes time to choose.\n\nAlso, remember that there are a thousands things that may make you like a school more or less on a particular day. Sometimes you should trust your gut instinct, but other times, if you had a particularly strong reaction one way or another, go for another visit", "Talk to students. Seriously, do it. We are willing to tell you the ups and downs of our school, just ask us to be honest and have some questions ready\n", "Here are 2 things that I think are particularly helpful: \n\nPretend you attend the university and go through \"A Day In The Life\". Start off at a **dorm** and check out **food** options, see how long it takes to get to class from there, sit in on a **lecture** or two (often time the lecture hall is so big that they won't mind having a non-student sitting in). Maybe afterward head to a **school gym** to check out workout facilities or go to a nearby popular **student hangout spot** as well. \n\nAsk students all around campus. A lot of college students like to talk about their majors, their college, and their overall experiences. Often times you'll meet someone who loves giving advice, and getting a student's insight is really helpful. ", "The college \"tour\" never helped me decide. They all say similar stuff. The classes are big in your first year but you have tutorials with only 10-20 students... there are emergency phones around campus... they talk about the food plan... a few traditions...\n\nPersonally, none of that was enough to make a decision off of. For me, the decision was based on the city. College is about more than the classes. Go to a city you can see yourself living in. So view the college visit with that in mind. ", "Some colleges will set you up on overnight stays with students. These students will give you an unvarnished view of the non-academic side of the college. It's very revealing. \nAsk about the easy of cr", "On a general campus tour, you can expect to see some of the campus major landmarks, like lecture halls, the library, a residence hall/dorm, and maybe the dining commons/cafeteria. \n\nSpecific questions will depend on your interests, but don't be afraid to ask as many as you want. When I went on campus visits, I felt like a dork for asking, but after spending three years as a campus tour guide, I can tell you we love questions. It keeps us from standing in front of a silent group awkwardly. Let your parents ask their seemingly embarrassing questions too. You'll get some good information out of it.\n\nTalk to students walking around campus, even just to ask where the parking lot is. How friendly they are in their response will give you a good idea of the campus's vibe. \n\n**Tl;dr**: ask lots of questions; talk to random students", "If you know what major you want to pursue I would highly recommend scheduling a private visit with the department chair the day before/after. If they're not inclined to accommodate you then you know what kind of support you will get as an individual student. \nIf you're not sure what major you want to be (and it is totally fine not to know, in fact it's great to have an open mind) ask about what kind of exploration program the school has. If they have a well structured exploration program, again that will give you an idea of what kind of support you could expect in the future. \nI would also recommend asking about what kind of career center (helping with job placement, resumes, mock interviews, etc.) they have. College is a huge investment and you want to make sure that you will get good service out of it, even after you graduate. \nI can think of a few more if this is the type of stuff you're looking for. ", "If the college you are visiting has a dress code/uniform, dress nicely. We wear shirts and ties at my school, and you'll want to look the part if you come by here. Even if most kids wear sweatpants to class, it won't hurt you to put on a casual collared shirt with shoes and pants to match.", "Fuck the food, check out accommodation! You can make your own food, but you'll be living in what could be a cardboard box for months on end, so look at the rooms before anything else.", "Check if anyone from your highschool/area went to the college that you are visiting. Get in touch with them and see if they would be willing to show you around, or talk to you about the university. Often you will be taking tours with your parents, and there may be things that you want to know that you wouldn't feel discussing in front of them. Also, talk to the students! Unless they're rushing to class, they will most likely be open to talking to you and have all been through what you are going through. You can get a much more well-rounded view of the college, and may even have some familiar faces if you end up going there!", "Ask the lecturers what they are working on at the moment. Firstly lecturers will often be more knowledgeable about the areas they are interested in. Secondly it will show you how easily they can explain complex topics.", "1. Check food in dining halls for quality (try a meal or ask some students) and see how close the nearest grocery store is and how inflated the prices are. In my experience the prices at the stores that are the second closest make the distance worth it. Also take note of the proximity to the downtown, you'll be spending a lot of nights there and a far journey home after a night at the bars is never fun. \n\n2. Check out how close everything on campus is and how close the residence buildings are to campus. Nothing sucks more than taking a busy bus ride every morning because all the residence buildings at the school are off campus. Also check the student ghetto surrounding campus and look at apartments if that's more your thing, or even for subsequent terms. Living close to school has its benefits. I basically live on campus and can leave the house 10 minutes before any class and still make it. \n\n3. Try to talk to people who are already in the program you're considering. It'll give you a good idea of what to expect when you come. Also find out what a full course load consists of, what kind of student employment services the school has, any information on co-op programs, if they offer joint degrees with any other schools, and info on graduate programs. It sounds like that's all far away, but if you want to do that you need to start looking into what opportunities you might be exposed to. Doing a year exchange is a lucrative opportunity, and some programs are enhanced when you have that experience under your belt. \n\n4. Look into who might be teaching the courses you'll be taking and talk to professors. Masters and doctoral students can give you the best insight into profs, so talking to them might help as well. If you're pretty set on a school and a program start looking into what publications that department from that school has put out. It'll give you a good idea of the background your profs will have and what type of research you might be able to undertake if that kind of thing interests you. ", "Find out where the thriving social life comes from. Most universities with over about 8,000 enrolled have a large variety of active social groups so it shouldn't be a problem. However be careful that you don't choose a prestigious Southern school such as Washington & Lee, Sewanee, or Birmingham-Southern if you're not interested in Greek life, or a private, liberal arts school like Hendrix if you're not REALLY interested in the liberal arts culture.", "Check out how the meals are priced: do you pay a set amount per meal (varies by time of day), do you pay a large amount to have a pass to eat whatever, whenever, or do you pay like a normal place: per item? Are there any stores on campus (or within walking distance) that have common necessities (simple food, computer paper, condoms, tampons, ink, staples, whatever) open late at night?", "An hour after the tour, make a list of around 5 things (such as good environmental science program, mandatory senior thesis) you most remember from the tour or that struck you the most about that school. Keep a list from all the schools you visit. This will help you remember each school better, which will allow you to consider them more objectively and write detailed supplement essays.", "Ambassadors that will walk you around campus are un-paid salespeople. This is a blessing in disguise. Because they are a salesperson, they are appointed by the University to tell you the best attributes of their school and shy you away from anything else. However, because they are unpaid, they have absolutely no incentive to be dishonest.\n\nTake everything they say with a grain of salt and be willing to ask real, honest, and tough questions. Once you start the free flow of information it usually won't stop. That is when you really start to understand what the culture is on campus. \n\nBut, I'd say, mostly look for a vibrant campus life. If everybody is just walking to class on a sunny day, nobody is standing in groups socializing, then its probably a sign that the college sucks. " ]

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[ "Invisible Illness/disability seeking tips for avalanche of minutiae (mailers, etc.) [serious] I think junk mail & loan shark mail (more-or-less phishing as far as I'm concerned) is unpleasant for most people / neurotypical folks... however, for someone living with comorbid mental illness/disability and neurodivergence it legitimately feels like I'm slowly drowning in minutiae trying to sort through, triage, and handle all of the snail mail.\n\nIt's so overwhelming I *miss important bills* from time to time. For someone in my predicament, it honestly feels like harassment.\n\nI'm looking for any and all tips to manage it, but also hopefully just fix the problem. The paper mail effluent of American loan sharks and random companies' mailers is just not something I can manage indefinitely.\n\n(tl;dr living with mental illness/disability, too much crappy junk mail is overwhelming, need help managing it because I've missed bills and checks/cheques which creates problems and *additional* admin minutiae that I really struggle with)", "Invisible Illness/disability seeking tips for avalanche of minutiae (mailers, etc.) [serious] I think junk mail & loan shark mail (more-or-less phishing as far as I'm concerned) is unpleasant for most people / neurotypical folks... however, for someone living with comorbid mental illness/disability and neurodivergence it legitimately feels like I'm slowly drowning in minutiae trying to sort through, triage, and handle all of the snail mail.\n\nIt's so overwhelming I *miss important bills* from time to time. For someone in my predicament, it honestly feels like harassment.\n\nI'm looking for any and all tips to manage it, but also hopefully just fix the problem. The paper mail effluent of American loan sharks and random companies' mailers is just not something I can manage indefinitely.\n\n(tl;dr living with mental illness/disability, too much crappy junk mail is overwhelming, need help managing it because I've missed bills and checks/cheques which creates problems and *additional* admin minutiae that I really struggle with)", "Invisible Illness/disability seeking tips for avalanche of minutiae (mailers, etc.) [serious] I think junk mail & loan shark mail (more-or-less phishing as far as I'm concerned) is unpleasant for most people / neurotypical folks... however, for someone living with comorbid mental illness/disability and neurodivergence it legitimately feels like I'm slowly drowning in minutiae trying to sort through, triage, and handle all of the snail mail.\n\nIt's so overwhelming I *miss important bills* from time to time. For someone in my predicament, it honestly feels like harassment.\n\nI'm looking for any and all tips to manage it, but also hopefully just fix the problem. The paper mail effluent of American loan sharks and random companies' mailers is just not something I can manage indefinitely.\n\n(tl;dr living with mental illness/disability, too much crappy junk mail is overwhelming, need help managing it because I've missed bills and checks/cheques which creates problems and *additional* admin minutiae that I really struggle with)", "Invisible Illness/disability seeking tips for avalanche of minutiae (mailers, etc.) [serious] I think junk mail & loan shark mail (more-or-less phishing as far as I'm concerned) is unpleasant for most people / neurotypical folks... however, for someone living with comorbid mental illness/disability and neurodivergence it legitimately feels like I'm slowly drowning in minutiae trying to sort through, triage, and handle all of the snail mail.\n\nIt's so overwhelming I *miss important bills* from time to time. For someone in my predicament, it honestly feels like harassment.\n\nI'm looking for any and all tips to manage it, but also hopefully just fix the problem. The paper mail effluent of American loan sharks and random companies' mailers is just not something I can manage indefinitely.\n\n(tl;dr living with mental illness/disability, too much crappy junk mail is overwhelming, need help managing it because I've missed bills and checks/cheques which creates problems and *additional* admin minutiae that I really struggle with)" ]

[ "Just grab all your mail each day and flip through for the important looking envelopes. Pull them out and you’re left with a stack of colorful, oddly sized junk you can just pitch rather than going through it. Like if you’re not expecting anything from company X, then you don’t even need to investigate what company X sent you. Just pitch it. \n\nAnd/Or…sign up for that daily email service that shows you what you’re getting delivered each day. It might be easier for you to look at a picture of everything spread out and decide if any of it warrants your attention. If something does, you know you’re only looking for that 1 or 2 things etc and can pitch the rest. Or you can see that it’s all junk arriving that day and just grab it all and pitch it all. \n\nAnd/Or…contact the companies and ask if you can be removed from their address book like unsubscribing to junk emails. Idk if that’s possible but it might be worth a try. \n\nAnd/Or…contact USPS and see if they can help you in stopping the flow of certain mail. Now I work for USPS actually, but I’m not a carrier and I’m really new. I do know that the “current resident” or “our friends at address 12345” stuff is unavoidable. You ARE the current resident and it’s technically addressed to you. Anyways, I’m not sure we could help you in limiting what you get sent otherwise. But there’s a chance, might as well call them up and see.", "throw out the junk mail and don't throw out the bills... pretty easy. (speaking as a person with mental health afflictions that leave me disabled, and also being neurodivergent).", "https://www.dmachoice.org/\n\nFound off the FCC website (assuming you’re USA) follow the link it’s $2 and lasts for 10 years. No longer get CC offers and other crap, super useful.", "Honestly, I’m not trying to be a dick but you need to reevaluate things you find mentally taxing. You can’t control other people’s actions but you can control how you react.. it’s just mail, it’s just paper. Companies trying to make some money, okay that’s fine tear it up and go on with your day. \n\nLife gets much more difficult than sorting through mail.. you are responsible to how you react." ]

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[ "How to stop google from omitting words it doesn't like. Google frequently returns results with \"Missing: ~~satellite~~\", or missing other words. I'll have to scroll down to the bottom half of the page to see results with all my search terms.\n\nHow can I force it to only return results with my keywords?", "How to stop google from omitting words it doesn't like. Google frequently returns results with \"Missing: ~~satellite~~\", or missing other words. I'll have to scroll down to the bottom half of the page to see results with all my search terms.\n\nHow can I force it to only return results with my keywords?" ]

[ "After you've searched, click \"search tools\". In the options that appear, click \"all results\" and select \"verbatim\"", "If you click the advanced search option, there are some very helpful fields, including an exact word or phrase box. You can get all of them I the standard search line by using various operators that are explained at the right. " ]

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[ "How to salvage electronics submerged in salt water (x-post from AskReddit) So last night I accidentally submerged my ipod touch in the ocean for a few seconds. Right now I'm currently drying it out in a bag of rice but I fear that it won't matter because of the solidified salt. My current thought is that if drying it doesn't work, I'll try resubmerging it in de-ionized water in an attempt to remove the salt, then dry it in a bag of rice again.\n\nDo you guys think this will work or have any better ideas? Or am I shit out of luck?", "How to salvage electronics submerged in salt water (x-post from AskReddit) So last night I accidentally submerged my ipod touch in the ocean for a few seconds. Right now I'm currently drying it out in a bag of rice but I fear that it won't matter because of the solidified salt. My current thought is that if drying it doesn't work, I'll try resubmerging it in de-ionized water in an attempt to remove the salt, then dry it in a bag of rice again.\n\nDo you guys think this will work or have any better ideas? Or am I shit out of luck?", "How to salvage electronics submerged in salt water (x-post from AskReddit) So last night I accidentally submerged my ipod touch in the ocean for a few seconds. Right now I'm currently drying it out in a bag of rice but I fear that it won't matter because of the solidified salt. My current thought is that if drying it doesn't work, I'll try resubmerging it in de-ionized water in an attempt to remove the salt, then dry it in a bag of rice again.\n\nDo you guys think this will work or have any better ideas? Or am I shit out of luck?", "How to salvage electronics submerged in salt water (x-post from AskReddit) So last night I accidentally submerged my ipod touch in the ocean for a few seconds. Right now I'm currently drying it out in a bag of rice but I fear that it won't matter because of the solidified salt. My current thought is that if drying it doesn't work, I'll try resubmerging it in de-ionized water in an attempt to remove the salt, then dry it in a bag of rice again.\n\nDo you guys think this will work or have any better ideas? Or am I shit out of luck?" ]

[ "I dropped my ipod touch in water a long time ago. I got a new one, but that's beside the point. This is what you do:\nStep 1: Do NOT try to turn it on to see if it works. \nStep 2: Fully submerge it in a big bag/bowl of rice for 48 hours without touching it. Make sure it isn't seasoned...\nStep 3: Take it out and see if it works. If it doesn't then it's broken completely", "My best suggestion for drying it out is using a couple silica packets if you have them. They're the \"Do not eat\" packs that come in shoes, luggage, etc. ", "Dud you have the headphones plugged in??\nI've gotten 2 iPhones wet (one in the toilet and one by child knocking water on it) both seemed to keep working for a few hours then died!!\nApparently the headphone socket is a main cause of water damage getting inside !! (no shit Sherlock I hear you say) but you can get little rubber stoppers that you can put in the hole if you don't use your headphones !\nI was told be my insurance company that you should turn it off straight away and get it to a specialist repair shop quickly packed with those silica packets and they MIGHT have a chance of recovery !!!\nHope this helps folks!!", "If this happens often, May I sugguest \"LifeProof\" cases? I take my waterproof case to the ocean, into the shower, and into the hottub! " ]

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[ "How to remove the smell of the previous owner from a used Car. Ok, I just bought an older Mercedes from my Grandfather. It was pretty much exclusively driven by Grandmother. While I love them both, I don't particularly like the smell of my Grandmothers perfume and cigarette smoke that's lingering in the car. Any ideas? I'd rather not have to use Febreeze or an Air freshener.\n", "How to remove the smell of the previous owner from a used Car. Ok, I just bought an older Mercedes from my Grandfather. It was pretty much exclusively driven by Grandmother. While I love them both, I don't particularly like the smell of my Grandmothers perfume and cigarette smoke that's lingering in the car. Any ideas? I'd rather not have to use Febreeze or an Air freshener.\n", "How to remove the smell of the previous owner from a used Car. Ok, I just bought an older Mercedes from my Grandfather. It was pretty much exclusively driven by Grandmother. While I love them both, I don't particularly like the smell of my Grandmothers perfume and cigarette smoke that's lingering in the car. Any ideas? I'd rather not have to use Febreeze or an Air freshener.\n" ]

[ "Febreeze gets rid of a lot of smells. But you might have to lightly spray every surface and wipe it down. Cigarette smoke is very hard to get rid of, and might even permeate\nbeyond the top surface of the dashboard/seats/headliner, etc. \n\nWe had tenants in a house that smoked and the only thing that worked to get the smoke smell out of paneling and most surfaces was Murphy's Oil Soap. \n", "Activated carbon in socks (knot the top) under the two front seats. You can buy it at any aquarium store.", "> I'd rather not have to use Febreeze or an Air freshener.\n\nThen I got nothin'. If you really want to, you can try one of [these ionizer things,](http://www.amazon.com/Roadpro-Mini-Purifier-Ionizer-Chrome/dp/B0007ZEAAE) but from what I understand, they don't really do much." ]

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[ "Buying a house without a real estate agent I'm looking to buy a house without using a real estate agent. Suppose I don't need to get a mortgage. Does anyone have a handy guide as to how to successfully buy a house without using a real estate agent?\n\nThe only notes I have down is that I need to retain my own real estate attorney to draw up the sale contract and need to hire my own home inspectors. Do I also need to hire my own appraisers as well? What else should I be aware of? What do I need to look for to determine if the house is in good condition?", "Buying a house without a real estate agent I'm looking to buy a house without using a real estate agent. Suppose I don't need to get a mortgage. Does anyone have a handy guide as to how to successfully buy a house without using a real estate agent?\n\nThe only notes I have down is that I need to retain my own real estate attorney to draw up the sale contract and need to hire my own home inspectors. Do I also need to hire my own appraisers as well? What else should I be aware of? What do I need to look for to determine if the house is in good condition?", "Buying a house without a real estate agent I'm looking to buy a house without using a real estate agent. Suppose I don't need to get a mortgage. Does anyone have a handy guide as to how to successfully buy a house without using a real estate agent?\n\nThe only notes I have down is that I need to retain my own real estate attorney to draw up the sale contract and need to hire my own home inspectors. Do I also need to hire my own appraisers as well? What else should I be aware of? What do I need to look for to determine if the house is in good condition?", "Buying a house without a real estate agent I'm looking to buy a house without using a real estate agent. Suppose I don't need to get a mortgage. Does anyone have a handy guide as to how to successfully buy a house without using a real estate agent?\n\nThe only notes I have down is that I need to retain my own real estate attorney to draw up the sale contract and need to hire my own home inspectors. Do I also need to hire my own appraisers as well? What else should I be aware of? What do I need to look for to determine if the house is in good condition?", "Buying a house without a real estate agent I'm looking to buy a house without using a real estate agent. Suppose I don't need to get a mortgage. Does anyone have a handy guide as to how to successfully buy a house without using a real estate agent?\n\nThe only notes I have down is that I need to retain my own real estate attorney to draw up the sale contract and need to hire my own home inspectors. Do I also need to hire my own appraisers as well? What else should I be aware of? What do I need to look for to determine if the house is in good condition?", "Buying a house without a real estate agent I'm looking to buy a house without using a real estate agent. Suppose I don't need to get a mortgage. Does anyone have a handy guide as to how to successfully buy a house without using a real estate agent?\n\nThe only notes I have down is that I need to retain my own real estate attorney to draw up the sale contract and need to hire my own home inspectors. Do I also need to hire my own appraisers as well? What else should I be aware of? What do I need to look for to determine if the house is in good condition?" ]

[ "Are you sure you don't want one? Real estate agents get commissions and if it's a friend or a friend of a friend you may be able to work out deals with them to split the commission. This commission will not change the price of the house, so you can save a little money while still having the benefit of a real estate agent helping you through the process. My wife and I are doing this with the house we're buying now.", "You can just go to a local title company and get a standard sales agreement applicable to your local laws. You will want to get a home inspection no matter what and make you offer contingent on the inspection. They tell you the major things that are wrong with the house which usually gives you more ammunition to bargain with the seller. They usually cost around 400 dollars. ", "My wife & I just purchased a home without an agent. We retained a real estate attorney to draw up the purchase & sale agreement, assist with all necessary local filings (condo conversion of an existing multi-family building meant permits & other city paperwork), and oversee the closing.\n\nA home inspector is always the buyer’s responsibility; an agent would not hire one for you. And yes, you want one!\n\nIf you’re not taking out a mortgage, I don’t believe you need an appraisal, though if it’s a standalone building, you will need one for insurance purposes. If it’s a condo or co-op in an existing building, you’ll just want to buy “walls-in” insurance, which is virtually identical to renters insurance.", "You will want the offer drawn up by your lawyer. Note: as a buyer, a real estate agent costs you nothing and will provide this service free.\n\nIf the seller has their home listed with a real estate company, you'll not having an agent saves them nothing either so you really have nothing to lose in this case.", "The first time I wrote an offer on a home, dealing with the seller's agent on my own turned out to be nasty. Second time around, we hired a Buyer's agent. He got paid from the Seller's agent's commission, so it cost us nothing extra. It made a big difference having more people on my team. I know it sounds terribly cynical, but in real estate just about everyone involved has an interest that it in direct opposition to the Buyer's best interests.", "If its just cost related check in with some estate agents, where I work purchasers only have to pay for solicitors which you need with or without an estate agent to do stuff like changing over the Land Registry and doing a survey but you don't have to do any of the Sales chasing cause that's what the estate agents are for." ]

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[ "how to remove condensation from a watchface Went swimming with a watch on, to what I thought was a safe distance, and now there is condensation droplets on the face of my beloved watch. Any ideas on how to remove it without going to a jewelry store and getting charged an arm and a leg?\n\nThanks!", "how to remove condensation from a watchface Went swimming with a watch on, to what I thought was a safe distance, and now there is condensation droplets on the face of my beloved watch. Any ideas on how to remove it without going to a jewelry store and getting charged an arm and a leg?\n\nThanks!", "how to remove condensation from a watchface Went swimming with a watch on, to what I thought was a safe distance, and now there is condensation droplets on the face of my beloved watch. Any ideas on how to remove it without going to a jewelry store and getting charged an arm and a leg?\n\nThanks!", "how to remove condensation from a watchface Went swimming with a watch on, to what I thought was a safe distance, and now there is condensation droplets on the face of my beloved watch. Any ideas on how to remove it without going to a jewelry store and getting charged an arm and a leg?\n\nThanks!", "how to remove condensation from a watchface Went swimming with a watch on, to what I thought was a safe distance, and now there is condensation droplets on the face of my beloved watch. Any ideas on how to remove it without going to a jewelry store and getting charged an arm and a leg?\n\nThanks!", "how to remove condensation from a watchface Went swimming with a watch on, to what I thought was a safe distance, and now there is condensation droplets on the face of my beloved watch. Any ideas on how to remove it without going to a jewelry store and getting charged an arm and a leg?\n\nThanks!", "how to remove condensation from a watchface Went swimming with a watch on, to what I thought was a safe distance, and now there is condensation droplets on the face of my beloved watch. Any ideas on how to remove it without going to a jewelry store and getting charged an arm and a leg?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "I would go to a shoe or purse department and pick up some desiccant gel packs. You know, the \"do not eat\" stuff? And put it in a jar with some of those for a few days. The people in the store will usually have no problem letting you have those packets. Alternatively, they do sell desiccant at craft stores for preserving flowers. ", "I couldn't easily get the back of my watch off for fear of scratching it, so it set it on a dry washcloth (to absorb any moisture) and used a hair drier aimed at the watch face to help get the moisture airborne and allow it to get out of the watch. It took a few days of this to get all the droplets out, but worked pretty well. FYI, your watch will get very hot, so be careful handling it until it cools. ", "To take the back off without tools you can use a pair of scissors.\n\nOpen the scissors so the tips are as wide as the shallow notches on the watch back.\nCarefully place them in the notches and apply gradual turning force, I found if you hold the scissors near the tips then they won't slip as easily.\n\nBe careful of course, but this does work, possibly youtube it if you need a visual.", "If you warm/heat a air-tight type jar [with the lid off] not real hot, with some rice (or any descant) in it, put the watch in and close the lid air tight, let it sit and cool down. Repeat, if necessary. Each time it cools down, the air pressure in the jar drops, this helps draw the moisture-air out of the watch.", "If the weather is at least moderate, and folks won't break into your car, put the watch on the dashboard for as long as it takes. Condensed moisture will vaporize and eventually work its way out. Have patience. It could take several days.\n\nAs for the dessicant, if you live in a horribly humid area you might need it, but otherwise probably not.\n\nI doubt that setting the watch on a dry washcloth actually does anything; the water comes out as vapor and it will more easily just waft away in the air than be absorbed by the cloth.", "YOu need a descant, Rice will work. get a new plastic bag of rice, leave it unopened until you are ready to use it. Remove the back of the watch and remove the battery if it has one. Place it in a Tupperware container half filled with rice. fill up the rest of the Tupperware with rice, place the lid on the Tupperware. Let it sit for 3-10 days. remove it, make sure no rice has gotten into the internal workings of the watch replace the battery and the back cover. ", "Take the back off and let it dry out. Find it a nice warm, dry place. If you don't have a good place, you can put it in the oven on a VERY low setting. " ]

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[ "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?", "How to organize receipts. I need an effective method for organizing punch-out receipts from my job, receipts of purchases, pay stubs, and perhaps random other papers with important monetary values on them. How do I organize all these?" ]

[ "I hang an envelope on my fridge with two strong magnets. When I hang it up I write the date, fill it with all of your receipts and papers, always putting the newest ones in the back. When it is done write the date, and hang a new one, put the full envelope into a bankers box or shoebox, Write the start date one the outside of the box, When it's full write the end date, start a new box. You have now got a simple chronological record system that you can't forget about, and is easy to maintain! ", "There is an app called Cam Scanner, which is pretty awesome (and free).\n\nYou take a picture of your receipt and it converts it to a PDF, which you can then upload to your dropbox or any cloud service. You can also use their optical character recognition to make the PDF searchable, which is super helpful. \n\nThis link will give you some extra cloud storage space (it'll give me some too) when you sign up. \nhttp://camscanner.com/rf/?246643101\n\nIf tried a few, but this is the most practical app for me.\nHope it helps!", "For grocery or shopping receipts, I use the app ReceiptHog.. It is a beermoney type app BUT I like it because you take photos of each receipt with your phone, and it keeps a whole simple list of them in the order you submit them. It labels them by store name, and then you can click on each entry and see how much you spent, the date, and even the photo you took of the receipt. I'm not sure if that's what you were looking for and it doesn't work on job receipts or pay stubs. But hopefully I helped.", "YNAB.\n\nenter every receipt in my phone immediately—it takes a few seconds on the YNAB app—and file them by month/year (unsorted within the month). \n\ni can find any receipt i need by searching in YNAB, then going to that year of files, then that month of receipts.\n\nany receipt i find floating around in my pockets, in the house, in the car, goes into the year/month file. \n\ni've never seen the point in scanning receipts: if i need a receipt, i need the real thing; if i need the info on the receipt, it's in YNAB where it's in a searchable database format.", "Use the Lean method called 5S. I am sure you can research the theory behind it on Google, but for the sake of convenience, I'll give a simple example:\n\n**Step 1:** Sort\n\nIf you have a jumbled up pile of different types of papers, split them up into piles based on different categories, and if necessary, subcategories. You could have one for pay stubs, one for punch-out receipts, and so on.\n\nWill you ever need to reference them in the future? If so, sorting them into dated order, or whatever order suits, might be a good thing to do at this stage.\n\nFuthermore, if there are papers you are unsure if you'll need in future, put them into a separate pile. These are known as *red-tagged* items.\n\n**Step 2:** Set\n\nCreate a specific area for all your receipts. It might just be a drawer, or a folder in a cupboard, pigeon holes, or simply on a surface somewhere.\n\nWhatever you decide, make sure that each category has its own section within the area, and that each section is clearly labeled.\n\nIdeally locate your area somewhere that you don't have to go out of your way to put the papers away.\n\n**Step 3:** Shine\n\nTake the opportunity to straighten up all your papers neatly, perhaps dusting and polishing the area for general cleanliness.\n\n**Step 4:** Standardize\n\nWrite a process for the ideal maintenance of your organization area. Print it out, and put it in your area, so it can be easily referenced every time you're there.\n\nIt doesn't have to be complicated, for example:\n\n1. Put all receipts in my wallet when I first get them\n2. As soon as I get home, put the receipts on top of the pile in the appropriate categorized section\n3. If there is an especially important paper, identify it with a post-it note for easily locating it among the rest\n4. Ensure the area is clean and in order\n\nI know it almost seems unnecessary, but imagine how many times you will come home, tired from work, and forget to post-it note that important document, because you didn't have the process there reminding you. Also, if you add something to your process, it helps remind you to add the new step to your routine.\n\n**Step 5:** Sustain\n\nSet a recurring reminder in your calendar to review your area. It can be once every six months, or however often suits you.\n\nLook at the dates on your red-tagged papers. How old are they? Do you still need them? Why are you keeping them? Throw them away if possible.\n\nLook at the dates of your older papers. Are they over a year old? Consider separating them and putting them into storage.\n\nAre there issues with your process resulting in unwanted consequences? What is the root cause? How can you eliminate it?\n\n*I am a mod at /r/leanmylife and I will also submit this advice to our subreddit.*", "Receipt/script scanner. I've worked professionally with the fujitsu line but they're a little expensive for home use. ", "Nightstand, empty your wallet's receipts there, done. \n\nI was already doing this when a tax accountant recommended it. Any system needs to be the least amount of work and most practical. ", "My friend owns a pharmacy and uses one of those receipt scanners that you can buy at any office supply store (read:amazon). He swears by it, and says it's the most useful device he owns. ", "Get the Office Lens app (free) for your phone (iOS/Android). You may need a thin plate of glass or plexiglass to flatten your receipt.", "Camscanner. Does ocr so makes searching receipts easy. You can also fax or pdf receipt pages for later proof. You also get 200mb free cloud storage." ]

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[ "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!", "How to get the smell out of shoes? Made the mistake of wearing my everyday shoes while going out into a swamp. Before I washed them in the machine, they smelled like the devil's ass. They still stink a little (even after another wash). How do I get this smell out!" ]

[ "My favorite pair of shoes got a ton of water, along with the rest of my living room, during Isaac. When I came back from evacuating, they smelled to all Hell. I sprayed them down inside and out with Lysol and let them dry, and that pretty much fixed it. I had to reapply the Lysol a few days later when I noticed they were smelling a little bit (much, much less than they did originally, however), and now they're good as new. ", "I'd try the freezer again. Try putting them into a bag of vinegar for a while. If that doesn't work put a bunch of baking soda on them. If that doesn't work I'd just get new shoes.", "Cedar socks. My wife found them at Lowes in the closet/shelving area (where they have cedar balls and moth balls for your closet). They're essentially socks that are filled with cedar chips. Stick them in your shoes for a day or two and they will absorb the odor and make your shoes smell like cedar.", "This is crazy, but it works. Tea bags overnight. I shit you not. Just put any type of real tea bag, dry and whole, into each shoe and let them just sit there overnight. Works like magic. ", "Ball up newspaper, stuff it in the shoes and leave over night. It will pull all of the moisture out and has pretty remarkable deodorizing effects.", "try putting liquid detergent directly in/on the shoes and spread it around do the entire shoe is covered with a generous layer. let them sit for a few mins and throw them in the wash again. ", "Put some baking soda in your socks (not while wearing lol) and stuff them in your shoe. Make sure to tie the sock as well.", "One trick to remove odour from shoes is to apply some talcum powder; but that is for shoes that stink on the inside because of bacteria. Not sure if it will work in this case.\n\nYou could always apply some Axe spray-on perfume, if you think it won't damage your shoes.", "On this sailing vacation I had this pair of Nikes that I wore always and everywhere. By the middle of the trip they were getting quite ripe. Being in a confined space (we slept on the boat) this did not make me a very popular guy. So my bestest friend decided to pitch my shoes into the water. Prick. Fortunately we were berthed at the time and I dove in and retrieved them. But when I got back on board I thought, WTF, they're all wet anyway so let me throw them into the wash. After they dried out (took a while) they smelled fresh as new.", "Ok. So I have always had sweaty feet and stinky shoes because of it.\n\nThrough experimentation, I discovered that the pet stain and odor remover \" Nature's Miracle\" works exceptionally well when removing shoe smell, even with my fetid, leather work boots.\n\n\nI'm guessing the off brand stuff (Walmart, Target) would work fine also.", "Make sure to dry them out - use a hairdryer and then use the Lysol Sports spray (there is also a Febreze sports spray). The big thing is to get them clean and then get them dry so the bacteria doesn't start up again. Stuff with newspaper to try to absorb moisture and then use the hairdryer then the spray after each wearing.", "In all honesty, I would soak the ever loving hell out of my shoes with lysol or even the store brand disinfectant.\nVodka Might actually work as well if you're willing to soak your shoes in it. Doesn't have to be Grey goose or Absolut, I'd buy one of those $8 dollar bottles of vodka and go to town. Buy the cheap stuff because it works and won't break the bank.\n\nWorks with foot odor as well. Soak dem puppies.", "I've heard that putting a dryer sheet in each shoe helps, but I tried it last night and it didn't seem to do too much. The talcum powder is probably a better idea.", "I make odor-eaters for my sneakers: I put a tablespoon of baking soda in a dryer sheet and tie it off with a rubber band. I put one of those in each shoe after I take them off and in the morning they smell fresh." ]

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[ "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!", "Overcoming a phobia of needles I have to have a needle tomorrow (fastening) and I'm deadly terrified of needles due to my past experiences of great pain and feeling feint, can anyone help me with this? I know there are anesthetic patches but I'm still terrified, thanks!" ]

[ "Don't watch. Deep breaths. Relax your muscles. \n\nOr you can do what I do an convince yourself that you gain sexual pleasure from the needle. ", "Pretend that the needle is a tiny sword and you are stabbing yourself for training like In game of thrones. ", "When I got my booster shot in the leg at 6 months, the nurse hit the femur. Any visit to the doctor after that, just being in the room where needles are given, was terrifying, even if I didn't need one.\nFinally when I was 11 or 12, I just got fed up with being so damn afraid. It's a matter of willpower, of facing the fear and getting mad at it and telling it to screw off 'cuz you need to do this. My mantra was: You've survived needles before. You will survive this one too. Keep breathing.\n\nAnd it worked. Not marvellously at first, but I cope much better now. I still have to breathe deeply the whole time to avoid fainting but the sweating, shaking, and nausea are gone.\n\nAlso, I've experienced other pains so much worse since then that needles are relatively easy to bear now.\n\nYou'll get through it. Keep breathing.", "Take some pain relievers about an hour before you get your shot, and don't watch the actual procedure.", "I used to have a fear of needles, my first husband had to hold me down once so I could get a shot. Then I got pregnant and they draw blood and popped me with needles so much I swear I would walk in and just hold out an arm. So if getting pregnant is not an option, haha, then just pretend you are someone else, someone who is cool and would never make a scene over a little needle jab. Don't clench up, the muscles tighten and it will hurt. Look away from them preparing the needle and get lost in your own thoughts. Do math in your head or something. \n", "Won't be much use for tomorrow, but I was pretty much phobic too.\n\nThen I got a tattoo. \n\nDidn't freak me out half as much as the thought of a hypodermic, and I even ended up enjoying it after half an hour or so. And then afterwards I realised that I've just had thousands of needle holes made in me. One little jab seems silly to worry over now.\n\n\nMore immediately, don't look as they stick you, count to 30. Should be long done by the time you get there.", "This is too late now, but may be helpful for next time.\nI make sure to never see the needle. As soon as they've tied the thing around your arm, turn your head away. Have a pre-determined topic to intensely focus on. Something repetitive like multiplication, or square roots works well. Distract yourself as much as possible ahead of time. Think about a vacation you enjoyed and try to recall very minor details. ", "Many years ago I earned a living as a hypnotist. Yeah I know it's unusual but it put food on the table. Most of the clients I saw came to me to help them get past their fears. Flying, heights, public speaking, social anxiety you name it. Mostly I taught them how to use their own imagination. I didn't dangle a watch in front of them or suggest they were feeling sleepy. That's for corny tv shows and movies. I just talked them into imagining a different outcome to what they feared. That's all it took. \n\nYou can imagine a different outcome too. It's simple enough. We already know that your imagination works because it's convinced you to be afraid. Can you imagine some place pleasant? Maybe the beach or the park on a summer day? See if you can feel the breeze, smell the ocean and hear the waves. Practice it a few times. Really take it all in. When you're satisfied think of a word that describes the experience. That word can help bring you there whenever you choose. Imagine coming home from the clinic wondering why you were worried at all.\n\nTomorrow when you're at the clinic and it's time for your procedure take your imagination for a walk. Let your attention leave the room and follow you along. It will be over before you know it and on your way home you'll wonder what you were worried about .\n\n\n\n", "It was easy for me, all I had to do was get Type 1 Diabetes. The fear of death is surprisingly more persuasive than the fear of needles. Jab Jab :)", "As a Type 1 diabetic, inject yourself with needles about 4 times a day for about 8 or 9 years til medical advances require you to stab yourself with only 1 needle a day. Been diabetic 11 years, I'm only 17. The disease does more mentally now than physically." ]

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[ "A way to keep a browser window from not minimizing when i click off of it (Chrome) This would be to watch a stream while multi tasking", "A way to keep a browser window from not minimizing when i click off of it (Chrome) This would be to watch a stream while multi tasking", "A way to keep a browser window from not minimizing when i click off of it (Chrome) This would be to watch a stream while multi tasking" ]

[ "You want an 'always on top' tool. Below is a link to the one I have used for years, can never find the source tho. Simply run it and it will sit in your tray. When the window you want to stay on top is selected, press CTRL+Space.\n\nhttps://db.tt/IDQrElwQ", "Set yourself up with a dual monitor setup, the benefits will be enormous and you will feel confined whenever you have to use a single monitor. Or use [workspaces] (http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/sysinternals/cc817881.aspx) its legit, its right off of Microsoft's website. Third and final option use [gridmove] (http://jgpaiva.dcmembers.com/gridmove.html) which will allow you to make virtual displays from your monitor.", "If you're on Mac, I use this app called Afloat. It might me one for Windows, or if not, look at the site that shows similar apps." ]

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[ "How to be less clumsy/more spatially aware For the longest time, I've been extremely prone to bumping into people, stubbing my toe, hitting my hand on ceiling fans, or fumbling with cups/plates and spilling liquids and food. It's honestly very irritating, especially when this happens at somebody else's house; it's extremely embarrasing to spill soda across a family friends dining table twice in a row.\n\nWhat can I do to help stop this nonsense?", "How to be less clumsy/more spatially aware For the longest time, I've been extremely prone to bumping into people, stubbing my toe, hitting my hand on ceiling fans, or fumbling with cups/plates and spilling liquids and food. It's honestly very irritating, especially when this happens at somebody else's house; it's extremely embarrasing to spill soda across a family friends dining table twice in a row.\n\nWhat can I do to help stop this nonsense?" ]

[ "Check with your doctor to make sure you don't have some kind of inner ear problem that could be causing this.\n\nOther than that it's simply practice. Just like everything else in life. Google stuff like \"Obstacle Course\" and perhaps even if you feel up to it \"Mud run\" or \"parkour\" in your area. Get with those people and find out their training routines. Practice makes perfect.\n\nIf you have or know kids, get out and play outside with them. Get some nerf guns and start nerf wars around the local playgrounds. Get outside and move as much as possible. Start some kind of sport, running, basketball, tennis, and racket ball would all be good choices or something more formal like martial arts.", "I'm ADHd and this comes naturally to me. There was nothing I could do except to slow down. To slow down, I focused on each inhale and exhale breath. It only helped a bit. Mostly while alone. Never in a group. I also found that being aware of my posture at all times in public really helped. I did this by thinking I was being watched by an imaginary beautiful woman. This worked wonders until there was an actual beautiful within my vicinity for which would make me clumsy again, but that's different, and could be beneficial if she is into you as this would be a signal to her that you are out to impress, but that's a whole other LPT. \n\nAlso, I was diagnosed as an adult even though I had it since youth. The doctor prescribed Ritalin and I was clumsy no more. A great non-prescription supplement called L-tyrosine also helped. \n\nHope this helps. :) \n\nP.s How tall are you???\n\n> hitting my hand on ceiling fans \n\n" ]

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[ "Staying alert, active and motivated at a desk job. A lot of my work is self motivated. The problem is actually pushing myself to get my own work done.", "Staying alert, active and motivated at a desk job. A lot of my work is self motivated. The problem is actually pushing myself to get my own work done.", "Staying alert, active and motivated at a desk job. A lot of my work is self motivated. The problem is actually pushing myself to get my own work done.", "Staying alert, active and motivated at a desk job. A lot of my work is self motivated. The problem is actually pushing myself to get my own work done.", "Staying alert, active and motivated at a desk job. A lot of my work is self motivated. The problem is actually pushing myself to get my own work done.", "Staying alert, active and motivated at a desk job. A lot of my work is self motivated. The problem is actually pushing myself to get my own work done." ]

[ "Take a break every 15 minutes or so and do some quick exercises to get your heart rate and adrenaline up. That helped me get through a horrid one week day shift one week night shift schedule.", "If at all possible, talk to HR about getting a cube where you can stand at your computer. You'll burn more calories, stay more alert and get a hell of a lot more done!", "I've really been getting into the Pomodoro technique. His timer looks like a tomato. Mine is a chicken.\n\nHis method is more about working for 25 minutes and taking a break for 5. Mine is like this. \n\nYou don't want to work. You would rather go on reddit. Working seems so much more difficult. Set the timer for 20 minutes, and promise yourself you will work for 20 minutes. If you are still bored by then, you get to stop. One hundred percent of the time you've forgotten the timer by the 20 min mark and it scares the shit out of you when it rings. But you are so far into your work by then you don't want to stop.\n\nIf you can't wait 20 minutes, set it for 5.", "Bait yourself with rewards. \"if I accomplish X, I will set aside time for Y\". That should at least help you start!", "Look for another job. \n\nThis *doesn't* mean that you'll quit your current job, it simply gives you a window into what the alternatives are. This has value if you're showing early signs of depression like a lack of motivation, because you can *situate yourself*. You'll have a better idea of where you fit in the work world, what your options are, and why you're choosing to do what you do.\n\n\"A plan is a dangerous thing if it's the only thing you have.\" When you have two plans for work (or three, or four) you'll also have a clearer rationale for *owning* your current role.\n\nSorry this isn't a quick tip like \"Sit up straight! Eat guava!\", but sometimes you need to take a few steps back to get some perspective.", "I like to mix business with pleasure. I'm a college student so the situations are different, but when I'm working on school work that I'd rather put off, I promise myself a certain amount of time for leisure activities, such as reading or watching a show, after an assignment. I turn off the internet if I don't need it, or go somewhere without any distractions to get it done, so I can then have time for fun things. At work, I understand this would be more difficult, but maybe you can think in terms of rewarding yourself for your work, setting goal points of what you want accomplished along the way so you're continuously doing something. " ]

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[ "How to not get BACK into bed. I have no trouble getting up. I put the alarm clock over the other side of the room so I have to get up but after I turn off the alarm I just get back into bed. How can I stop this!!", "How to not get BACK into bed. I have no trouble getting up. I put the alarm clock over the other side of the room so I have to get up but after I turn off the alarm I just get back into bed. How can I stop this!!", "How to not get BACK into bed. I have no trouble getting up. I put the alarm clock over the other side of the room so I have to get up but after I turn off the alarm I just get back into bed. How can I stop this!!", "How to not get BACK into bed. I have no trouble getting up. I put the alarm clock over the other side of the room so I have to get up but after I turn off the alarm I just get back into bed. How can I stop this!!", "How to not get BACK into bed. I have no trouble getting up. I put the alarm clock over the other side of the room so I have to get up but after I turn off the alarm I just get back into bed. How can I stop this!!" ]

[ "Let's talk about your circadian rhythm, the 'daily cycle' your body goes through every day.\n\n\nYou have what is known as a 'master clock' and many 'peripheral clocks' in your body tissues. The master clock is driven by light exposure (note that light in the blue range of visible light {with a slight shoulder in the UV range} is much more powerful at driving your circadian rhythm). Basically you have special receptors in your eyes that signal when they sense this type of light, that signal makes a part of your brain do something -\n\n{ that signal goes to a part of your brian known as the *superchiasmatic nucleus* or SCN for short, from there is affects your pineal gland and stops the release of melatonin to your body ( which signals darkness in us)}\n\n -So try to get sunlight or a lightbulb with the right type of light and have that when you get up. This is best.\n\n---\n\nthe factors that mediate your peripheral clocks most significantly (next to melatonin) are 1. temperature, and 2. blood sugar levels.\n\nThis means you want it colder when you sleep and to not eat before bed, but try to warm up in the morning and have some food to help wake up.\n\n\n\nOh, there is so so much more, and it is fascinating, but I don't have the time.", "Put alarm clock across room. Have a glass of water ready to drink upon waking. Physically stand up. Put a spider in your bed.", "Wake up. Take a shit. get out of bed.\nI've done this accidentally and i jump out of bed everytime i fart myself awake", "Set up an array of alarm clocks around your house, set to go off 10 seconds after one another. That way you have to walk around and turn them off. By then you are awake enough and end the array in the kitchen and make some coffee ", "You get your lazy bum out of bed. Wake up, turn off alarm and go to the bathroom. In that order, every time." ]

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[ "How do I let go of the dumb things I said that I keep going over in my head? My \"dumb things\" are either something I said that I think make people think I am dumb or something I said that was thoughtless and I feel I accidentally hurt someone.\n\nSome of mine are from years ago and any time something reminds me of it I still get that feeling in my stomach and then think something like \"ugh, your such and idiot!\"\n\nI am sure that I am the only one thinking about any of them still but I can't seem to let them go. ", "How do I let go of the dumb things I said that I keep going over in my head? My \"dumb things\" are either something I said that I think make people think I am dumb or something I said that was thoughtless and I feel I accidentally hurt someone.\n\nSome of mine are from years ago and any time something reminds me of it I still get that feeling in my stomach and then think something like \"ugh, your such and idiot!\"\n\nI am sure that I am the only one thinking about any of them still but I can't seem to let them go. ", "How do I let go of the dumb things I said that I keep going over in my head? My \"dumb things\" are either something I said that I think make people think I am dumb or something I said that was thoughtless and I feel I accidentally hurt someone.\n\nSome of mine are from years ago and any time something reminds me of it I still get that feeling in my stomach and then think something like \"ugh, your such and idiot!\"\n\nI am sure that I am the only one thinking about any of them still but I can't seem to let them go. ", "How do I let go of the dumb things I said that I keep going over in my head? My \"dumb things\" are either something I said that I think make people think I am dumb or something I said that was thoughtless and I feel I accidentally hurt someone.\n\nSome of mine are from years ago and any time something reminds me of it I still get that feeling in my stomach and then think something like \"ugh, your such and idiot!\"\n\nI am sure that I am the only one thinking about any of them still but I can't seem to let them go. ", "How do I let go of the dumb things I said that I keep going over in my head? My \"dumb things\" are either something I said that I think make people think I am dumb or something I said that was thoughtless and I feel I accidentally hurt someone.\n\nSome of mine are from years ago and any time something reminds me of it I still get that feeling in my stomach and then think something like \"ugh, your such and idiot!\"\n\nI am sure that I am the only one thinking about any of them still but I can't seem to let them go. ", "How do I let go of the dumb things I said that I keep going over in my head? My \"dumb things\" are either something I said that I think make people think I am dumb or something I said that was thoughtless and I feel I accidentally hurt someone.\n\nSome of mine are from years ago and any time something reminds me of it I still get that feeling in my stomach and then think something like \"ugh, your such and idiot!\"\n\nI am sure that I am the only one thinking about any of them still but I can't seem to let them go. ", "How do I let go of the dumb things I said that I keep going over in my head? My \"dumb things\" are either something I said that I think make people think I am dumb or something I said that was thoughtless and I feel I accidentally hurt someone.\n\nSome of mine are from years ago and any time something reminds me of it I still get that feeling in my stomach and then think something like \"ugh, your such and idiot!\"\n\nI am sure that I am the only one thinking about any of them still but I can't seem to let them go. " ]

[ "Maybe what you need to do is make peace with some of them, acknowledging that you are no longer the same person now as when you said them.\n\nI think we all eventually have the experience where we encounter someone from our past, and realize that they have become a different person through age and maturity, made all the more noticeable by the fact that we did not bear witness to their gradual transformation. Now, extend that same awareness to yourself.\n\nThe fact you think of these things as \"I can't believe I said would say/do that\" indicates that you recognize the part of them you don't like, and probably wouldn't say again if you were to enact a similar scenario. Take further solace in that you probably will create less and less of these instances as you go forward in life. ", "It helps to realize that these thoughts are in everybody's head, and that while you're worrying about saying something stupid the person you're with is also doing the same", "If you're having troubles with overthinking in general, try mindfulness. What I do is just say to myself: \"This is just a thought. It will pass.\" Then I focus on my breathing. Breathe in 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds and breathe out 4 seconds. Really focus on your breath, feel the cold air come into your nose, and feel the warm breath hit your upper lip when you breathe out. Works for me!\n\nGoogle mindfulness for more similar exercises if you're interested. ", "If you can, ask someone if they remember a minor one.\n“Remember when I said that dumb thing that time to xxx, I can’t believe I did that”\nI bet the won’t remember. And if they don’t, have a very diluted version to tell them, and brush over it. \nI suspect you’ll find that no one remember these things but you. How many instances of others saying something dumb vs yourself. \n\nWhile you may not want to draw attention to these things, isn’t it better to know if anyone cares? You believe they do anyway. You might as well know for sure. \n\nIf they do remember it’s an opportunity for atonement. You can apologise or say how it made to feel bad or that you feel you’ve matured or something. \nOnce in the open and dealt with you can move on. It was a mistake, you made amends. Done. \n\nMaybe look for some techniques for thinking before you speak so you don’t feel that you’ll do it again but more importantly work on self-confidence. You said it, own it. If you’ve been wrong apologise, take the consequences and move on. \n", "Go to r/cringe and see just how much worse it could be\n\nUnless of course yours is worse than anyone else's, which in that case post it for sweet karma and maybe sympathy\n\nNow that I read that back it looks really insensitive but I'm totally serious it's helped me a ton", "Imagine you are a stand-up comic and your act is telling the audience about all the dumb things you've said over the years.", "Allot yourself only 1 shit per day. If you use that 1 shit, then your out of shits and you cant give any more shit for that day." ]

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[ "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? ", "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? ", "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? ", "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? ", "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? ", "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? ", "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? ", "How to sleep cooler. I recently moved in with my girlfriend and she is having trouble sleeping because she is too warm. She claims she didn't have this problem until I showed up (I probably give off a lot of heat). We have two fans running and the AC. What are some tips that will cool her/the room/the bed and make her sleep more comfortably? " ]

[ "My wife and I had this exact same problem when we moved in together. After we're done snuggling and whatnot, we move to opposite sides of the bed. That's pretty much the only way, unless you want to cool the room so much that you have to snuggle to stay warm.", "Put on a wet t shirt before going too sleep and direct a fan at it. The water evaporating from the t shirt will keep you cool", "Put cold water from the shower in your hair. Damp it dry. Also you might have an insulation problem if your still hot after AC and two fans. The room your might not be holding in the cool air.", "Potentially, think about turning off the two fans. Yes, they increase the airflow to small sections of the room, but overall they are going to raise the temperature. Fans with timers would be ideal, so they can help you be cool while falling asleep but then turn off and keep the temperature down while you're out.", "Moisten a washcloth with witch hazel; wipe over whole body. Just don't let any \"tender places\" come in contact with witch hazel. ", "I take a cold shower before bed and try to lower my body temp as much as possible by focusing the water on areas like my neck, underarms, thighs, and back which will send cooled blood circulating throughout your body. Like what adamfromwales said about the t-shirt but more comfortable (and less cooling).", "I find sticking one foot out from under the covers helps regulate my body temperature to reasonable level in hot weather...\n\nBut if you have two fans and the AC going, this might be insufficient. >.>", "High thread count sheets made a huge difference for my boyfriend and me. He's like a furnace and constantly too hot, and was pleased with the change. " ]

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[ "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. ", "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. ", "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. ", "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. ", "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. ", "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. ", "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. ", "How to study for long periods without backpain. Usually after studying for awhile my posture usually sags and no matter how many times I scoot my chair in, out, change position, usually at the end I get to distracted by discomfort to truly benefit from studying. \n\nWhat do you guys do to be able to study without destroying your back?\n\nALSO: Laying back or down usually makes me sleepy and it is difficult to keep my back upright because I usually have to focus for a long time on keeping my abs tight so my back doesn't bend over. " ]

[ "Invest in a quality ergonomic chair and practice good posture to improve those muscles. This is the one I settled with (with the headrest only because I wanted a headrest though the headrest is hardly used and is only there when you're \"laying\" in the chair): http://www.officedepot.com/a/products/510830/WorkPro-Quantum-9000-Series-Ergonomic-Mesh/ \n\nGetting quality rest is also very important since you spend a third of your life in your bed on average. A bad bed means a bad night's rest. Invest in a good $800-$1200 one (don't need a fancy $3,000 ones) and you'll be fine, however it's up to you to research and take enough time to buy the right bed. Do not buy the first one you lay in for 2 minutes since beds typically feel amazing until you've stayed in them for a bit anyway.\n\nLast I'd recommend analyzing your stressors and taking care of the little things on your mind. These can cause distractions which may make it harder to get a proper sleep. \n\n(Obviously I'm not coming across as an expert. The above is purely my opinion and what has helped me)", "Don't.\n\nInstead of a marathon session, take a 5 minute break every 30 minutes. Stretch, walk around, do some pushups, whatever loosens you up and gets your heart pumping. \n\nNot only is this good for posture, it's good for the brain. Your concentration will improve.", "Use a fit ball. You have to sit up with good posture and use your core. Rotate between this and a quality chair. ", "Try a backless chair. You will be forced to use your abdominal muscles more since you don't have a back rest for your body to rest on. Over time your back and core will get stronger making it more comfortable. \n\nYou should also take a 10 minute break for every hour you sit. This will improve your circulation, rest your back and abdomen, as well as give your brain a chance to recuperate and process the inform your took in.", "My son swears by the [Backjoy](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B006R3FOKK/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1477682581&sr=8-1&pi=SX200_QL40&keywords=backjoy&dpPl=1&dpID=41Zx1Ry4BIL&ref=plSrch). ", "If you have the space and money, find a cheap/used drafting desk that's at an angle. This encourages you to sit up while working at this desk and prevents the terrible back pain and headaches that come with hunched-over studying.", "I have back pain and invested in a lumbar support brace. It's pretty good! (Just don't sleep or exercise in it or you'll feel like you're dying)\n\nAlso, kneeling chair. ", "Get an ergonomic chair that you can adjust height and back. Also try taking breaks every half to one hour. Go for a walk or do some stretches." ]

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I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?" ]

[ "You local bank will have the worst exchange rates and the highest service charges. The best rate is likely obtained by drawing money out of a major bank's ATM upon arrival in your foreign destination. Avoid the ATM's that are privately installed in small shops, but look for an ATM operated by one of the host country's major banks.\nTo avoid getting consumed by \"per transaction\" fees, draw out a more significant amount on fewer occasions.", "The best ways to spend money abroad are:\n\n1) bring cash in the desired foreign currency with you. You can get the cash at your local bank, either right away for common currencies (I've obtained £, €, AUD this way) or within a day or two if they have to place an order. Your bank will typically give you a fair exchange rate.\n\n2) Get a brokerage account at Charles Schwab. Your brokerage account won't need to have anything in it, but the attached Investor Checking Account will come with a debit card that offers **no ATM fees** anywhere in the world. They charge no fee, and they reimburse any fee that an ATM charges you.\n\nThis whole process takes a few weeks to get the account up and running, move money in to the brokerage account, move it to the checking account, etc.\n\nUse this debit card to withdraw cash on your trip in the local currency. Keep your receipts in case Schwab is unable to determine what the ATM fee was. They will reimburse you if you can show them a receipt which breaks it down.\n\n3) Get a cr", "Unless you really need cash, you can get a cr", "My reply to another comment in the thread:\n\n\nUsing the ATM is definitely your best bet. \n\nHowever, **a couple of recommendations** that I wish I had followed when I went to Guatemala last year:\n\n\nKeep most of your money in your savings account and just transfer what you plan to withdraw a day or so before you need it. This prevents your account from being drained (which happened to me, to the tune of $2300).\n\n\nOn that note: keep every single receipt from each ATM you use. \n\nBecause I did this, I was able to pinpoint which ATM was used to drain my account and also I was able to prove that I had been in Mexico when a Guatemalan ATM was used to withdraw cash from my account. After a brief investigation my bank believed that it was actually the BANK that was emptying my account and not a human. The withdrawals looked very automated and exact. I got reimbursed by my bank but my friend I was traveling with got nothing back because she didn't keep track of anything.\n\n\nTL;DR: DO use an ATM for the most straightforward exchange rates, DON'T have all of your travel funds in the account your debit card is linked to, and DO keep every receipt you get from an ATM.", "I have found that bigger cities can be better near a collection of currency exchange shops; they all compete with each other and you win.\n\nI brought a bunch of USD to Paris. I went to exchange to Euros near the Opera Metro station - there were at least 4 currency exchange places on that block so it was pretty easy for me to shop around. I would simply ask \"How many Euros would you give me for 500USD?\" and I went to the place that offered the most (which ended up being a better rate than googling '500USD to Euro'). Additionally, for large sums of money, you can simply have them round in your favor as part of the deal, e.g.\"Could you do 370 euros for 500 USD?\"\n\nI'm not sure how scalable this experience is.\n\nTL;DR - find a competitive area and negotiate", "If you are travelling to a country with a gray market for foreign currency, such as Argentina/Venezuela, I'd suggest buying directly from a native, granted that you know one ", "I converted around a hundred bucks in the US before traveling to the UK and Italy. It was nice getting off the plane and having local currency. After that, we just used our ATM cards to withdraw cash.", "It depends where your going, but if it's somewhere with a popular currency, the best exchange rate possible is if you manage to find someone just back from there with the opposite problem, then you can both swap at the actual exchange rate.", "Airports have TERRIBLE exchange rates. They're there to make money off you because you didn't exchange it before trip/nowhere to exchange after trip. AVOID AIRPORT EXCHANGE (unless there's seriously no other place to do it).\n\nThat being said, I feel a good rule of thumb is to exchange money in your home country, if the country you're travelling to has a \"better currency\" than yours. For example, I travel Chile-US almost every year, because I live in the US but I'm from Chile and I like visiting family. When I travel to Chile, I bring my US dollars with me, and exchange them there, because I know there are a million+1 currency exchange stores in major towns. Having so many mean they offer competitive exchanges and I can choose where to get the best trade. Sometimes it's even better than the ATM because of extra fees between the ATM and my US bank for international withdrawals, so when I travel, I bring with me actual bills, and just use those until I run out. And since I still keep my Chilean bank account, I just deposit my dollars-turned-pesos there and safely use my Chilean debit card. \n\nNow, for the other way around, I buy dollars in Chile, because of the same reason (competitive exchanges). I'm not going to trade my Chilean pesos in the US for dollars because I'm going to get a crappy exchange. The US dollar is a much better currency than a Chilean peso, that means Chile will have more places to exchange US dollars than the US having places to exchange Chilean pesos. I feel that this is the case for most of the world when it comes to US dollars/euro. Countries with \"lesser\" currencies will have more places to exchange your local currency to dollar/euro and vice versa, than the other way around. That being said, I know there are countries where this is not possible, specially if the US dollar is tightly controlled. INFORM YOURSELF FIRST.\n\nNow, I'm not quite sure how it'd be in the case of US dollar to Euro. I'd think it depends where are you going, and if said country has places to exchange that's not just the airport. Personally, I'm very stumped at the fact there are no exchange houses in the US, being so used to have tons in my home country. Probably because it's not really needed.", "It might require some effort but converting to bitcoin is maybe 0.01% and then going to whatever destination currency you want is another 0.01% so it wouldn't be a terribly big expense ", "For Americans, Schwab investment checking offers atm withdraw fee reimbursement worldwide.\n\nI left Laos with less then $0.20 in Kip and I usually keep something small as a memento.\n\nSome countries have higher 'black market' rates. Depending on the country, it may be best to do that, provided you aren't going to let yourself be taken advantage of.", "Call up your local bank branch and see if they have the currency on hand. If not, they will order it for you in any amount you like, and I believe the exchange rate is pretty damn close to official exchange rates at the time of the transaction.\n\nOtherwise, yes, as others have said, go to the ATM in your destination country. Just do some research to make sure you *can* use the ATMs in the destination country. Americans visiting Cuba, for example, cannot use the ATMs there, nor can they use cr", "i know this: in Venezuela, you can find people all over the place willing to give you a better exchange rate on the down low. i did all my exchanges with independent hoteliers, restaurant owners and cab drivers. ", "[Transferwise](https://transferwise.com/) has a good rate. \n\nBut you need an overseas account or know someone who is willig to let you send them money and hand it out later. \n\nThey take 0.5% fee for payments over £200. Otherwise 1£.", "You can pre-order it from your bank for spot exchange rate and for no fee. Usually you can do it 1-2 weeks in advance, via your online account.\n\nIf you are looking for no hassle cash, I've found that to be easiest.", "You can either go to your bank in the U.S. (I assume you're in the U.S.) and they can most likely exchange a currency for you. If its a common currency like the Euro or GBP, they might have some on hand. If its the Peruvian Sole, they may have to get some from a different branch. Good exchange rates when doing this, but can take just a little bit of time.\n\nThe quicker method people have mentioned is to just bring your debit card and withdrawal from ATM in the country you're traveling to. Make sure you notify your bank before doing this. If they see a charge in another country without knowing you're there, they could put a hold on it.\n\nWhen I went to Peru, the hotel front desk also was able to exchange money. It was a decent exchange rate... Certainly better than the airport. But still, I recommend bringing your debit card along.", "You can contact your bank to see if they convert money into foreign currency. A lot of the time the \"fee\" is baked into the rate of exchange and your bank will tell you there is no fee but most banks will follow those same guidelines. Make sure you give them atleast a week notice since some have to order from outside sources.", "When I went to England I just used my debit card to withdraw a few hundred pounds that I knew would last for a few days. I can't remember what I was charged but it was less than $8 between my bank and where I withdrew. Way cheaper than going to an actual exchange.", "When I was in Tahiti, our guide told us to hit up a particular store to change currency as it had the best rates. She was right. It was cheaper than the airport or any ATM I tried. \n\nI suspect it varies by location", "When I last went to Vegas, the CDN dollar was about 4 cents or so more than the USD. I just used my cr", "When I came home from my trip in Europe, I still had plenty of leftover currency (because I was stupid and withdrew way too much at a bank over there and paid a hefty fee). I happened to be going to Seaworld within a few days of returning, and I jokingly asked the ticket office if they accepted Euros, and to my surprise, they accepted them, and she said most of the Orlando theme parks will accept them too. If I ever go back to Europe I kind of want to stop by Seaworld again to see if they can just give me their Euro supply.", "Wells Fargo banks in the US will do it without a fee if you're a customer of their bank. Just call ahead to make sure they have the currency you want.", "We went to our bank to tell them we would be using our ATM cards in France and the UK, and when we'd be gone, so they wouldn't flag them as stolen or anything. The nice lady asked if we wanted some cash as well, and we withdrew $100 in both pounds and euros, no muss no fuss.", "US/Japan\n\nAlways better for me to change all my money at the Japanese airport for either currency. I get better rates than at Travelex or other currency counters in the US.\n\n\nI live in Japan and whenever I try to withdraw money from my US bank accounts I get hit with ATM fees as well, so it can be more expensive depending on the rate and how much I'm drawing out. I keep my money in my US accounts though to pay off my US cr", "There are two different exange rates, one for cash, one for non-physical money (like paying with a cr", "Some people are suggesting you use your cr", "Next year, I plan on moving to Ireland from Canada for Medical school. What would you suggest is the best method to transfer/exchange money for this?\n", "Never use the airport kiosks. Never use a bank where you aren't a customer. Get a cr", "My husband and I have traveled internationally a handful of times in the past few years. Every time, we go to Citibank and exchange some USD for whatever currency the country we're visiting uses. Our bank has a pretty good conversion rate. \n\nWe generally take enough to pay for transportation, tips, coffee or quick breakfast ...any place we can think of that's it's easier to pay cash. It almost becomes a game the last couple of days trying to spend up the change and small bills so we don't have to bring any back home. \n\nWe've traveled enough at this point to know what amount of cash to bring but do stick to cr", "Like other people have said, using ATMs is the best way to go. Whatever you do though, don't exchange cash in the airport, they will take at least a 20% cut from the transaction.", "Life Pro Tip: Find a good locally-owned bank (or a cr", "Let your bank know where and when you are going. Learn what their overseas ATM policies are. Most of the time you can just use your card normally. Consider though that some machines overseas are at a little higher risk of being fake used to rob people. Add to that the fact that you don't know the language laws or have access to your accounts/bank teller. Point is use a bank in country you can trust and know what kind of charges you will incur when you make a transaction. Honestly it is not as scary as you may think. I have made ATM withdrawals in countries where i couldn't make heads or tails from the numbers on the keypads. ", "Late to the party, but Amex Platinum, Capital One (may depend on the card), and Schwab definitely have no foreign transaction fees. Schwab is great for taking money out of an ATM without fees while abroad. Amex used to have travel offices where you could go and get currency and travelers cheques. They shut them down in the last 6 months to a year. I would check with AAA for a local Travelex or the like to get a decent rate. Banks will be higher and will want to ship the cash to you instead of giving it to you outright. Don't do anything at the airport that you don't need to. It's like an amusement park in regards to pricing. ", "Just take a large wad of cash out of the wall when you get there. Went on a trip recently and everybody was being smug that they were avoiding the charges on doing that as they had got currency before they left. They got stung 10% for the privilege and will have paid more to sell back what they had left over; I paid 6% max, all in, and didn't have loads left at the end.", "Just a thought - why not get a bank account that does not charge foreign FX/withdrawal fees? I have a fidelity and schwab card. One has a very minor fee and one has zero fee. Some countries prefer USD, but I am unsure where you live and where you are going.", "Just a quick tip - I know someone who had a debit card that had a six-digit pin. When he arrived in Guam it was quickly discovered that none of the ATM's would take more than a four-digit pin.\n\nCaused him quite a bit of stress.", "It depends. In UK, exchange rates suck. You can probably exchange Pounds to Euros at better rates in Lithuania than in UK. I guess it depends on where you are travelling and what currency you have with you and will that be accepted anywhere else. Also, how civilized is your desination, and can you speak local language, or can people there speak your language.\n\nOther than that- exchange money in a bank in a country that will give you best rates, smallest fees. Or withdraw money from your debit card at an ATM at the destination. Or pay using card. Depends on what fees your bank charges for international transactions. Worst places- airports or currency exchanges in touristy places.\n\nOh, and sometimes if your bank supports multi-currency accounts, exchanging money electronically can be cheaper than exchanging it in cash.", "In Cuba it is recommended you exchanged your currency at the airport, it was the best rate when I went. Even the local gov't run Cadeca's (Cambios) were slightly worse on the exchange and not to mention the blood lines were super long. ", "If you want to withdraw money before you go on your trip to avoid any fees with your bank abroad, try contacting your bank to see if they can exchange you some notes before you leave to UK. If you bank doesn't provide this service, they'll usually recommend a place where you can do it and you get the best exchange rate that way. \n\nIf you decide to withdraw abroad, at a bank ATM, withdraw lots of money. Never exchange currency at the airport or any currency exchange place because they take a certain percentage.", "If you live in the UK, I suggest you use a Halifax Clarity Cr", "If you have paper money you need to change in London the best exchange rate I've found is on the Edgeware Road. Walk up from Marble Arch and there is a row of mobile phone shops on the right hand side as you reach the Paddington end. I changed euros there last week and it was 15% better than the post office or bank rates. No commission either!", "If you have an American Express card you can do it through their travel services. Some metropolitan areas have physical locations such as Tysons Galleria. I'm pretty sure they didn't charge me a fee. ", "ITT: Bunch of people telling you which banks they use.... \nGame: see if you can guess their UN and PWs.", "I've found that in countries where dollars are useful to the locals, there are often areas with lots of exchange houses. The competition forces the spread between buy and sell to be very low, so that's often where you can find the best deal.", "I'm not sure if this has been posted yet, but I absolutely wanted to be sure you know. If you plan on using an ATM in a foreign country, which is what I have always done BE ABSOLUTELY SURE to call your bank before you leave and tell them to expect foreign withdraws wherever you are going. I got stuck in Africa for about 12 hours with no way to access cash because my bank thought somebody stole my card/information. ", "I'm actually leaving the country for the first time on my own in a few weeks and asked my dad about this who's had decades of experience.\n\nHis advice: Go to an ATM in the airport in your destination country, if you can use your debit card. He said they charge you a fee but it's a very reasonable fee and is normally lower than ATMs outside of the airport.", "I work at a hotel and we exchange currency for guests free of charge. There's a daily limit, but it's fairly high. ", "I was told this one, but never tried it or looked into it to see if it would work. I'll let you be the judge.\n\nBank cards charge you a fee when you use them at an ATM in a foreign country, but cr", "I recently created www.CurrencyCouriers.com to help people pick the cheapest way to exchange money. There is lots of good information there and if you had any further questions please reach out to us on the website", "I made the mistake of exchanging money at the airport last month. I got like 75% of the money I should've gotten", "I know this already has a lot of comments but I hope you see this. If you plan on travelling abroad often I highly suggest getting a Schwabb savings account. They do not charge the foreign transaction fees and will reimburse you for all ATM withdrawal fees. They have been amazing for paying off my husbands European student loans from the US!", "I get local currency once I'm on-the-ground, from an ATM. Added bonus - I have a bank that refunds my ATM fees anywhere in the world.\n\nObviously, I try to spend everything locally if possible ... but whatever is left in my pocket once I arrive back home ... I exchange at the final currency conversion stand in my airport, right at the end of the international arrivals terminal.\n\nIf you're in an airport with a casino anywhere along the way (apparently Schipol in Amsterdam has one) by brother claims he likes to \"convert\" his currency that way ... change local currency to chips, gamble during layover ... if you lose it all, oh well. If you win, go back and get it in the currency you want (assuming it's USD/EUR or something major). Haven't tried it myself ...", "I get a great rate with my bank. Be careful when you actually get to the UK or pretty much anywhere, a lot of Travel Exchange type places have massively high mark ups on their exchange rates in tourist areas. Suprisingly, I had a lot of luck at the Westfield in London a few weeks back. \n\nPrague is probably the biggest offender I've seen for this, there was about a 50c difference in their buy vs sell rates. Even though they advertise better rates, they'll exchange your hard earned dollars at a lower one!\n\nPersonally I bought a travel card, cost me $10 through my bank and to load it up was free the first time and just a small fee every time after that. the exchange rate they gave me was almost exactly what xe.com had. ", "I found the best way is to actually use your cr", "I don't think anyone has mentioned exchanging money in a casino? I've done this in two countries where I swapped my local currency for theirs, with zero fee and a great exchange rate higher than the airport. I'd assume it's also a fairly safe place to exchange money too. \n\nObviously they expect you to lose it all there to make their fees back, so gamble responsibly! ", "Here are a few tips I have learnt working in this field.\n\n**1)** Don't change money at an airport, ever..\n\n**2)** Haggle, Haggle, Haggle. Depending on the amount the currency places don't want to lose your business no matter what. Even if they only make $5 off you they will usually do it. Just be polite and know what the market rate is and assume you can get it better elsewhere. Usually you have to spend a couple of grand but its pretty easy to get away with no fees and a better rate. Its even better if you say you want it loaded onto a travel card because they know you could potentially be return business and they might make more off you later on.\n\n**3)** never pay full fees, alot of the time you can ask politely for a discount and they will give you half off or better rate. Alot of business's don't even charge fees anymore\n\n**4)** Always be polite, no matter how much money you change over if you're not polite they are going to want to rip you off instead of help you make more money.\n\n**5)** If you want a better rate, play the business's off against each other they will match and possibly do it better.\n\nAnyway there's a few tips I have learnt being in the business", "Go to a bank or currency exchange place in your destination country. NEVER exchange currency at the airport unless you absofuckinglutely have to.", "From my limited experience, the only place I've found that you have no choice but to only exchange at the destination has been Cuba", "For Americans visiting Windsor, Ontario, it's the Casino. I suppose the prevailing theory is that if you change your money in the casino, there's a good chance you'll play, so they don't stick you on the currency exchange. \nMight be worth investigating exchanging your money at a casino. ", "Find an ATM.\n\nExchange enough money to be able to get yourself to a bank in your host country.\n\nThen make the remainder of your exchange from that bank.\n\nEasy.", "Depending on what bank you use, some will let you use a partner overseas bank's ATM for free. I know BoA has a few banks in the UK that don't charge you ATM fees. ", "Check with your bank if your card can be used at your destination, and what the rates and fees are. It might be your best option, it might be your worst!\n\nGo to an exchange store before leaving home and get some cash. It's always handy to have when you arrive and you want to avoid the ones at the airport if possible. Another plus with this is that most places don't charge you for exchanging back if you have the receipt with you so you don't have to worry about bringing some cash back with you.\n\nGet enough cash to make sure that you can get a cab, dinner and a hotel for the night in case something has gone wrong with your booking.\n\nIf you can't or don't want to use your card go to a local exchange shop and exchange there. At least check out their prices and compare them to your card.\n\nNotify your bank so they don't shut you down after a day or two.\n\nHave money on separate accounts and preferably separate cards so that just in case, you don't loose everything and end up stranded without any money.", "Can we just buy an Amazon cr", "By a wide margin the best way to go about this is to get a 'free international transactions' cr", "Bring a cr", "As someone who works at an airport currency exchange, you can reserve on our website and then pick up at the airport, and if you reserve then the rate is actually pretty good - 1.19 on GBP to EUR today. If you buy at the airport without a reservation then you're loosing money, even on whatever deals we have on the day.", "As a Canadian it's super important to have an american bank account and American Visa. You buy American money when it's advantageous, plop it in your american account and only use your american visa when travelling. I know this doesn't really apply to most countries, but it's by far the most cost effective. ", "Also for what it's worth - traveller's cheques are almost worthless nowadays. While it's nice that your money is insured for loss or theft, it's so frustrating to find a place that will actually cash them. On my recent trip to Europe only 1 in 9 banks had any idea what I was talking about.\n\nI second the other comments in this thread of just using an ATM at your destination.", "Airport exchanges will invariably give you the worst rates.\n\nA couple of tips:\n\n* If someone can wire you money via Western Union from your home country to the country you are visiting in local currency is a good option.\n\n* Banks are better than airports but still not as good as stand alone money exchanges.\n\n* Look for western union affiliates and run away from pawn shops or seedy looking places.\n\n* If you are using your debit/cr", "About a decade ago my wife and some HS classmates went to Romania, they pooled their money and went to the exchange in Romania. The employee snatched their money, jumped over the counter and took off. Their trip manager told them to never pool your money like that. ", "ATM + Charles Schwab visa debit. FREE account that has no foreign transaction fees and they refund your ATM fees worldwide regardless of the bank/owner. YOU CANNOT BEAT THIS DEAL. Sure BoA has partners in a lot of countries, but Schwab is FREE with freedom to pull out cash anywhere.\n\nI have an account that I only use for travel. Just electronically transfer funds from another account when you travel and withdraw from CSchwab.", "\"I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America)\"\n\nThis is because they profit off people needing to *quickly* exchange currency, so they bump up conversions and fuck you over.", "Very often, in the UK and on the European continent, there will be a Bureau de Change, there are reliable, but charge a fee. In the UK you can make the same exchange at post offices. You may be able to do this as well on the continent. ", "I like to have the equivalent of $200-$300 U.S. With me so that I can get out of the airport ( buy some coffee, tip poters, pay for taxis or shuttles). And then the best way is to withdraw from ATMs ( make sure to set your daily withdrawal limit higher than normal so that you can pay for meals and hotels with cash if they don't take card)", "Go to an airport. Not sure if all of them have a place for that but Sea-Tac International Airport does.", "Find a currency exchange broker that has a retail store in your city. I work on a FX trade floor and although we don't deal with cash/retail, we suggest they go to a place called Globex (www.globexfx.com) as they deal with cash in multi currencies and they offer very competitive exchange rates, much better than a bank. DO NOT withdraw the money from an ATM in your destination country unless you \nA. want to get SCREWED on the exchange rate\nB. get charged all sorts of 'international exchange convenience fees\"\n\nGoogle \"foreign exchange retail shop\" for your city and voila. ", "Either do it before you leave (best rates) or get a Capital One cr", "Best rate is in opposite country (e.g. Buy your U.K. £ in the USA)\n\nBig banks such as Bank of America will have bills and travelers checks.\n(If not your town, try rich town near you)\n\nThere are also cr", "Airport exchanges are certainly one of the worst places; it's the same principle as \"Last gas for 80 miles\"; you're simply not going to find a competitive rate if it's obvious you're a highly motivated customer - like one needing local taxi fare.\n\nI actually used to deposit most of my travel funds to my cr" ]

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[ "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n", "How to stop sweating profusely I sweat easily, and a lot. Top of my head is like a faucet. Sweat starts coming down my eyes and it burns. I also need to change my t-shirt at least twice a day when at work (very physical job). Is there any tips or tricks to help with this? I can't seem to find anything online.\n\n" ]

[ "I sweated a lot in my early 20s and my social life suffered because of it. Two things helped.\n\n1) Losing weight. The more I weighed the more energy my body had to exert just moving around. The more energy my body exerted the warmer it got. The warmer it got the more I sweat.\n\n2) Getting older and running out of fucks to give lessened a lot of social anxiety, which cut down on my sweating in social situations.\n\nBut losing weight by far had the biggest impact on my sweating. Hope this helps.", "Me and a friend found this stuff in college [Certain Dry](https://www.amazon.com/Certain-Dri-Anti-Perspirant-1-2oz/dp/B000052X8R). Used it for like a month and underarm sweating was so much more controlled. I stopped using it. Just use regular Degree now. ", "I'm on a prescription that I got from my dermatologist. I'm in the US and the generic costs $15 for 60 1mg tablets. I've been taking it since 2010 or 2011 and it works pretty well.\n\n", "there's actually a sweat gland removal procedure that can be done. It's most commonly used on the palms though i believe, try researching that.", "[Zerosweat](https://www.amazon.com/Zerosweat-Antiperspirant-100-Guarantee-Up-Protection-Application-1/dp/B00K4I91RG/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8)\n\nI live in Texas and it is hot and humid here most of the year. I have been dealing with my right armpit sweating uncontrollably for years. It could be the middle of winter and my right arm would sweat through a thick sweatshirt even if I was standing outside.\n\nI have tried many different products like Mitchum Clincal anti-perspirant, many different versions of Degree and so on. I could be sitting in an air conditioned office wearing a thin cotton t-shirt and my right arm pit would be sweating like I just ran 5 miles. My left arm was fine. I looked up why only my right arm pit was doing this but could not really find an answer. I was even considering getting botox injections to stop this. I decided to look on amazon for some underarm pads and was about to buy some when I saw other customers had also bought Zerosweat I read many of the reviews and saw some people had issues with burning after being applied. As I kept reading I did notice that was mostly people that took a shower at night and then applied Zerosweat. I went ahead and bought it really hoped it worked but I was expected to be let down again. Well I wasn't!\n\nZerosweat arrived on a Sunday and I applied it about an hour before I went to bed, just in case it started burning or I had a bad reaction to it I could wash it off. I applied it with 2 strokes down and up and that's it. I did experience a slight sting/itchy feeling in the middle of the night but nothing that was terrible. I woke up the next morning, took my shower, applied my regular deodorant and got ready for work. Usually after about 30 minutes my right arm pit is sweating and it is soaked through my t shirt, but not this day. I had no sweat from my right arm all day. That night I applied Zerosweat again an hour before I went to bed. Again I had a slight sting/itchy feeling but still nothing that was out of the ordinary. Tuesday was the same thing, no sweat at all from my right arm. That night I did not apply zerosweat because it should last a few days and not have to be applied every day. The next morning was the same results. No sweat at all from my right arm and I had not applied it since Monday night.\n\nI am in love with this product and will continue to use it for as long as they make it. My shirts are now saved!", "I had really bad sweaty palms and got [this](http://www.valleyhealth.com/hyperhidrosiscenter.aspx?id=894) done. For me it stopped all sweat on my head, neck, and hands. Only problem is the sweat has to go somewhere and it went to my back. This site gives you some prescriptions you can take, but I did not like mine. Forgot what it was, but I felt bloated and miserable while I was on them.", "I had a similar issue. A simple walk to work would get be sweating, I would break out in sweat during business meetings randomly (like hot flashes)....not to mention a workout! This started happening when I was getting really fit and low body fat. Could it be that you have a high metabolism and you are burning calories really quickly causing sweating? Not sure what the science is behind that, but since I upped my calories/carbs, I've been sweating a lot less. Try eating a little bit more carbs and through out the day to see if that helps. ", "A bit late with this reply but.. I'm in the same boat. Physically fit, 180 pounds, and I sweat like a damn faucet, mainly on my back. I'll start sweating if I just stand outside for 20 seconds in summer. Bad news is, there's nothing we can really do about it, our bodies just produce a lot of sweat.\n\nWhat I like to tell myself is that we just have bodies well evolved for hot climates.. it's just no longer a good evolution in the modern day. It helped our ancestors stay cool outside with their clothes off but now we have air conditioning for that. And sadly sweat can't really serve it's purpose when we have to wear clothes all day, which everyone does. So we are just stuck with a bad gene for sweat. The only thing I've found that helps is practicing really relaxing and trying not to exert any muscles or stress too much when you get a chance to be still. And drink craploads of cold water.", "That's just how some motherfuckers be. Just be glad you're not overheating and dying. If you consume less sodium, you'll retain less water and have less sweat to sweat but some people just sweat a lot. I retain a ton of water and when I work out I have to wipe up the floor under me in the gym so somebody doesn't slip. It's pretty gross but I love it.", "My pharmacist recommended me *Dry Sol*.\n\nIt works if you don't want/can't go for over-the-counter prescriptions :-)", "It sounds nonsensical, but stop wearing antiperspirant.\n\nI used to sweat like crazy, so I went with stronger and stronger stuff and it just got worse.\n\nI read an article about how your sweat glands will fight antiperspirant by producing more sweat, so I switched to regular deodorant.\n\nNow I barely sweat at all.", "If you find that your face and head are very sweaty on a regular basis, even when you are not hot, stressed, exercising, or eating spicy food, you may be experiencing this condition. While the excessive face and head sweating may occur in unusual situations such as during cold weather or when you are not exercising, there are a number of factors that could trigger the sweating.\n\nthere are a number of things you can try to help reduce excessive head and face sweating. Some of these at-home remedies include:\n\n* bathing frequently to reduce skin bacteria and moisture\n* applying [**products for hyperhidrosis**](https://stopsweatfix.com/products/stop-sweat-fix) like antiperspirant before bed and in the morning\n* keeping a soft, absorbent towel in your bag, desk, or car to help dry excess sweat\n* using plain, unscented face powder to help absorb moisture\n* avoiding spicy foods and caffeine, both of which can increase sweating", "I've been going through something similar. This year I feel is the best I've been in shape all my life. However I've been sweating WAY more than I normally do. Kinda embarrassing cause my shirt gets soaked so I've been having to bring a second shirt with me to work. I've done a little research on it and in a nutshell I've read that the the better shape you're in, the faster your body responds to physical work. It does this by sweating faster in order to cool itself to perform more efficiently and longer. Which in my case makes sense. I'm still trying to find ways to control how to sweat less but I hope that little bit of info helps in some way. ", "I used to use Certain Dri like someone else posted but now I use Gillette Clinical. Stuff works just as good, if not better, and has a few scents to choose from. [Here's a link](http://gillette.com/en-us/products/deodorant-and-body-wash/deodorant/clinical-advanced-solid-fresh)", "I recommend going to a psychologist due to the symptom of being a human being. *Everyone should do this*. And unearthing anxieties that you might even be unaware of might help with more than just sweat.", "I have had the surgery to correct my hyperhidrosis. It's quite incredible. I still sweat a ton but only when I'm doing physical work. I'm just used to it. But not having my underarms and hands dripping constantly has saved my social life! I will admit my lower back, the back of my knees, and my feet sweat more but not an unbearable amount. \nAnyway, I recommend the surgery if you can find a doctor to do it. Other methods are usually recommended first and the surgery is used as a last resort. Good luck either way! ", "I discovered my excessive sweating was due to anxiety, yet I didn't have a clue;I had merely thought it was a physical problem. I admit it seems odd you can suffer severe anxiety and not be aware (despite rivers of perspiration in air-conditioning). ", "Bandannas wrapped on your forhead are a life saver (not the candy type). It keeps sweat from dripping in your eyes, and prevents the need to wipe your forhead on your sleeve or whatever.\n\nOther than that, lose weight, workout more, and getting used to hot weather have helped me. I only sweat for the first few hours I'm outside air conditioning, so just acclimate yourself early...", "I too sweat like a pig, that's why I've learned to wear 1 or 2 tank-tops underneath my shirt to absorb the sweat and extend the life of my shirt. I don't know how to stop the sweating, but using old plastic cards (cr" ]

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[ "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n", "Dealing with stale smoke smell in apartment I'm moving into a new apartment on Monday and discovered that one of the previous tenants was a heavy smoker. The entire apartment smells like stale smoke, even after leaving the windows open for two days and the landlord having the carpets shampooed. I talked to the landlord and he agreed to send the cleaning crew to wipe down the walls before I move in, but I have a feeling that this will not do anything.\n\nDoes anyone have any tips to cover or potentially eliminate the odor? I'm not too hopeful, as I've read that the walls usually need to be painted and the carpet replaced to really remove the smell. However, I'm locked in for the next year and want to make the best of it. I'm also a poor college student, so I can't afford anything too outrageous. Thanks.\n\n" ]

[ "Oh man! We have this too! It's not smoke, it's just old apartment smell. We can't get rid of it. Windows open, reed diffusers. I don't like chemical things like Glade plug-ins or Febreeze. I've tried bowls of baking my soda, essential oil candle diffusers, washing walls, etc. we just bought a large room oil diffuser to see if that will work. It is such a struggle! Good luck! If you find something that really works please let me know!! ", "Kilz. It's what my pro painter hubby uses. It'll truly cover it, instead of just masking it with another odor. ", "I once inherited a car with cloth seats from my father who smoked about 2 packs of reds a day in it for 8 years.\n\nI put a bucket of water with a couple capfuls of ammonia in it overnight and it took the smell right out. The ammonia smell cleared up easily with a little airing out. Should work for a room I expect. ", "its going to take longer than two days of opening the windows unfortunately. the walls all need to be wiped because smoke leaves a film on surfaces. shampoo the carpets - again. change the a/c filter (this is a huge one bc when you turn it on, its going to REEK). when you open all the windows, also be sure to open all of the drawers and cabinets in the place too because they will also reek. my old downstairs neighbor used to be a heavy ass smoker (until he died from it sadly) and it sucks to deal with!", "i would recommend getting some spray called Hippie Love, it's designed to eliminate smoke odors. it's specifically made for weed but it works just as good with cigarette smoke. you can usually get it at most gas stations/smoke shops/head shops or order it offline it's like five bucks a can. it's pretty strong but DOUSE your apartment in it, then let it air out for a few hours. (raising the windows/fans on/door open) and that should help significantly. ", "Simple Green is probably your best bet for the walls. Inexpensive yet effective, and you can get a concentrate and make a stronger solution for scrubbing.\n \nCleaning the carpet may be an ongoing event. If you use baking soda, keep in mind it's very rough on your vacuum cleaner... it will clog the filters and potentially ruin the engine. Take some white vinegar and add some drops of essential oil or citrus peels to soften the vinegar smell, and mist the entire carpet. Let it dry, then vacuum. You may need to do this weekly at first, but over time the smell will be neutralized. \n\nLeave little bowls of scented vinegar and/or baking soda on your countertops. \n\nYour best friends will be simple green, vinegar, baking soda and essential oils.", "Pour some vinegar into a wide bowl, and leave it out overnight. Try it in just one room first, to see if it works. I've read in multiple places that it does and that there are no side-effects, but it's always wise to do sample-testing first.\n\nOne problem which people often report is that the room then starts smelling like vinegar - which is not pleasant. To solve that, you can heat vinegar on the stove (bring it almost to a boil), and then put it in an airtight container with citruses and herbs that you'd like it to smell like (leave for 48 hours). I've tried lemon peels, cloves and mint* leaves, and it smells great! I wouldn't mind my room smelling like that.\n\nHope this helps! Also, do let me know how it goes, if you decide to try it out. I've been meaning to try it at my dad's office, so I'd love to hear people's first-hand experience.\n\n*If you don't like those, you can use any herbs which you have. I'd recommend using leftovers. For instance, I made some non-alcoholic mojito and used the crushed mint leaves. If you want more ideas about combinations, [here's a good article](http://brendid.com/how-to-make-scented-vinegar-for-cleaning/).", "i've honestly never even heard of ozium but if it didn't work, what's five bucks to try something else 🤷🏻‍♀️☺️ i use hippie love for more than just eliminating smoke odors, it works great on just about everything. garbage, the bathroom, even after the stench of sex has clinged to everything i just spray this stuff and can still smell it hours later. i love it. ", "Zinsser's best latex primer does a pretty good job. They make smoke odor eliminating candles. I've used them with moderate success in less dire circumstances. ", "Using gels like SafTAir or Kanberra Gel will help a lot. My daughter's room was smelling like farts wearing sweat socks until I started using SafTAir in a couple strategic locations around the house.", "Use an [ozone generator](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00NHR6S22/ref=mp_s_a_1_14/134-6494370-7014407?ie=UTF8&qid=1493500312&sr=8-14&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=ozone+generator) \nThey work amazingly well. ", "Cut an onion in half and leave it in the room overnight. Or one or two onions per room depending on size. Will remove the new paint odour so should work on smoke too. " ]

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[ "How to get rid of small lint balls covering my jacket, a lint roller does not work. Pic included. http://www.imgur.com/DvfEztC.jpeg", "How to get rid of small lint balls covering my jacket, a lint roller does not work. Pic included. http://www.imgur.com/DvfEztC.jpeg", "How to get rid of small lint balls covering my jacket, a lint roller does not work. Pic included. http://www.imgur.com/DvfEztC.jpeg", "How to get rid of small lint balls covering my jacket, a lint roller does not work. Pic included. http://www.imgur.com/DvfEztC.jpeg" ]

[ "Seriously, this little gadget works WONDERS for that. \nTry searching for lint ball remover, fuzz wizard, something like that. Mine was a gift. And a great gift. Enjoy!\nhttp://imgur.com/FMXfJPL", "They sell small little fabric shavers at Walmart and other places like that. Those aren't lint balls though, it's called \"pilling\" and it happens when little fibers either tangle up because of being worn out or getting hot in the dryer. ", "In high school, we would use a butane lighter. Hold the gas button down and wave it over the area, then light it up. Not the safest, but it can work.", "I have this and it's awesome. It also has a \"guard\" over the shaver part so you can't get carried away.\nhttp://www.brookstone.com/deluxe-cord-and-cordless-clothes-shaver?flag=search&question=sweater%20shaver&_requestid=100923\n" ]

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[ "How to hold your bladder for a concert I'm going to an indoors standing room only concert and if I have to go borrow the bathroom during it I'll lose my spot!", "How to hold your bladder for a concert I'm going to an indoors standing room only concert and if I have to go borrow the bathroom during it I'll lose my spot!" ]

[ "Wear depends, they do it in times square on new years eve, if the concert is that important wear them.\n", "Don't drink any caffeine or alcohol, and don't drink any water at all that day! If you have an overactive bladder I think they make otc patches for that now. And if it's a really packed, hot show, people won't notice if you accidentally pee yourself a little because everyone is drenched in sweat." ]

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[ "Ways to be able to scream for an extended amount of time I'm doing rehearsals for a variation of Chekhov's Proposal, which contains a LOT of screaming. Can you give me a few tips on how to scream, without hurting my neck? ", "Ways to be able to scream for an extended amount of time I'm doing rehearsals for a variation of Chekhov's Proposal, which contains a LOT of screaming. Can you give me a few tips on how to scream, without hurting my neck? " ]

[ "Put your balls in a vice and pay your worst enemy to keep turning that handle. You'll be an expert on screaming in no time.", "I don't know Checkov's Proposal, do you mean screaming in fear like a horror movie or shouting at someone? \n\nI don't have any particular advice, but maybe some context would help others to help. " ]

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[ "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers", "How to improve voice projection? Being a new teacher, I often struggle with this. Not much on YouTube. Just wandered if anyone had some good tips.\n\nCheers" ]

[ "Have your voice come from your diaphragm rather than your throat. Meaning push the air up right from your stomach rather than clenching up your throat. You'll probably find your voice sounds a bit lower if you are doing it right. \n\nThen of course, the obvious, don't talk to the board, talk towards the class. ", "I am not a public speaker, but I am a trained classical music singer, and the principles of projecting when you sing can also be applied to when you speak.\n\n* Start with your posture. Don't try to make your spine straight. Instead, keep your head level (not tilted up or down) and in line with your shoulders. Your shoulders should be in line with your hips, and your hips in line with your knees, which should NOT be locked (helloooo passing out). [Here](https://singingoutloudblog.files.wordpress.com/2013/11/standingposture.jpg) is a good visual representation. Don't put your weight on one hip or the other, but on both sides fairly equally. Keep your feet comfortably apart, usually about shoulder-width. If it feels comfortable, place one foot slightly in front of the other. This posture gets your lungs and wind pipe in the best position for easy and \"good\" breathing, which is essential to projection.\n\n* Like u/showmm said, you should be using your diaphragm to project. This means that once you are standing straight, breathe in and allow your tummy to expand rather than your shoulders to lift. Practice this a few times and try to release the air from your lungs slowly using your abdomen and diaphragm without \"clenching your throat up,\" again like u/showmm says.\n\n* Once you are standing and breathing well, pick a note that is comfortable to sing for you, not too high or too low. Sing that note using the syllable \"ha.\" Start very breathy and as you hold out the note, \"tighten\" your voice gradually until you sound like the girl from The Grudge or someone WAY overusing \"vocal fry,\" then gradually go back to a breathy sound. In the middle of the two extremes is your \"sweet spot,\" which should be the strongest and healthiest projecting voice for you.\n\nI hope this helps!", "Keep your head up and try to look to the people furthest away from you. Picture having them hear you. Try to exaggerate the movement of your mouth as you speak to really make your sounds pop. Moving your body around as well will help keep students attention on you because their eyes will be drawn to the action!", "One of the things I've found helpful is to find where your voice is. This is going to sound like hippy-dippy bullshit, but I promise this is actual voice technique. As you speak and breathe, find out where in your mouth or throat your voice is, and try to become aware of it. It'll feel like a focal point, or a place where the reverberation is originating. \n\nOnce you've found it, try to move it around, and feel what it's like trying to speak from different places, like the back of the throat, or in your nose. The place you'll likely be looking for, however, is the front of the mouth, and maybe even a little beyond it. If you imagine a funnel sticking out of your mouth as if someone was going to pour liquid in, try to put that focal point just past the narrowest part.\n\nAnd don't forget to breathe. Voice comes from the breath, and when you don't have enough breath to support your voice it'll fall short.", "I had training in this when I began teaching. As well as the voice training other people have suggested, visualising throwing your voice to the top back of the clasroom. Look at the join from wall to ceiling and aim your voice at that point, throwing it over your whole class. I practiced a trusted colleage, she sat at the back of the room late after work, we put on some music to match about the noise levels of rustling students and noise from outside the room and I just practiced teacher talk. ", "Trained classical singer, here. Firstly, it might be good take a few voice lessons. It can help solve confidence issues, if that's the case, and it would give viable technical tips for voice production. Ask your local university for best recommendations.\n\nSo, prolonged voice use that is incorrect can lead to permanent dysfunction of the voice, particularly if misused over the long-term. It might be good to share a recording of yourself speaking so we can have an idea of what the real issue might be. Some people's voices are \"too far back.\" Some have a really nasally voice. Some people have a vocal fry and speak from a gravelly posturing whenever they talk. All of these are not really ideal. Ideally, you want to use least amount of air to create the most dynamic sound. Dynamic meaning, you can color your voice in a way that reflects that text/ideas that you are wanting to convey, affecting the highest number of listeners. People here are recommending \"pushing the air.\" I actually recommend against that analogy, because pushing suggests tension. \"Feeding\" the air into the voice might be a more organic description. If you think about the amount of effort it takes to hum, then you might see that prolonged phonation is basically an effortless hum with your mouth open. The more air you \"push\" through the hum, the duller the sound becomes. You end up fighting against yourself because you associate \"more effort\" with a louder sound. In reality, speaking in your middle voice takes a minimal amount of effort and air. \n\nWhat you wanna think about is resonance. By exploring how the spectrum of vowels (a,e,i,o,u) is affected by your body and the amount of air you use, you begin to discover the most ideal/pleasing combinations of effort and vowel. \n\nThat's more a long term realization. Quick fixes that might work for you include:\n\n1) Quickly panting like a dog to help identify the lower abs that control the ascent of the diaphragm. \n2) Talking for five minutes with a pen/pencil clenched between your back teeth. This reinforces the muscles of the articulators (lips, tongue, jaw, etc). \n3) Pretending that the person that you're speaking to is at the back of a room twice the size of the one you're in and pretending that if you don't speak resonantly enough, they will leave the room. \n4) Placing your finger or a pen/pencil vertically in front of your lips while you speak. This serves as a reflecting board and can provide sympathetic resonance (you can hear yourself better while you speak). \n\nAll of these can help, but are really only crutches for a realization of proper vowel use and breath. Just don't push. ;)\n\n", "Practice singing metal songs. Those guys diaphragm are so solid lol. You have to be as loud as possible", "Buy yourself a microphone and set it up at home to play back in a pair of headphones while you speak. This way, you can get a feel for what your voice sounds like to others. Do you need to be clearer, louder, softer, pronounce words more clearly, etc.? Our voices sound different to us than they actually sound so having live feedback can help you adjust your voice to how you want it to sound for your class.", "Use Alexander Technique. It was started by an actor who was having a hard time because he kept losing his voice. He started paying attention to his body and found that he was holding his body in a way that didn't allow him to project naturally. For a bonus, it's a very relaxing technique and will make your entire body feel better. There are a lot of expensive classes that can teach you, but reading the books can be very helpful by themselves.", "Take a deep breath through your stomach (your belly will stick out, your shoulders should not rise) and then clench your stomach. You should notice a lot of air leaking out if you allow it, or a lot of pressure build up if you try to hold it in. Do that a couple of times until it feels comfortable. Once that's through, start humming while doing the exact same exercise. Find a good range for your humming; I have a natural bass voice so my regular talking voice is already amplified, but some people need to change the pitch of their voice to get the best effects. Once you find a good range and your technique is down so that you can do it without thinking, start talking through that technique. Depending on the size of the room, you should be able to hear your voice bounce back at you.", "Practice. Being a teacher allows you to practice everyday. \n\nTry saying Tongue Twisters. They help you enunciate better. \n\nMy 2 personal favorites. \n\nTo sit in solemn silence in a dull, dark dock,\n In a pestilential prison, with a life-long lock,\n Awaiting the sensation of a short, sharp shock,\n From a cheap and chippy chopper on a big black block!\n\n\nBetty Botter bought some butter \nBut she said this butter's bitter\nIf I put it in my batter\nIt will make my batter bitter, \nso she bought some better butter \nBetter than the bitter butter. \nAnd it made her bitter batter better. \n", "Practice speaking very loudly when you are out and just by yourself. Try and speak so that the telephone pole way far away can hear you. As strange as it sounds, voice is just another muscle memory. Doing this will more easily help you slip into a more projected voice in conversation.", "Not really helping with the voice projection bit, but you might want to consider getting your students (particularly at the back) to signal to you if you're too soft. It can help with calibrating your volume until its at a level that's comfortable for your class. Once you have that then you can work on maintaining that.", "I'm a teacher. Have the same problem too and these comments don't do much for me. I survive by changing my teaching technique so I don't have to yell. This means if I get a rowdy class I'll flick the lights on and off to get there attention rather than use my voice. " ]

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[ "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?", "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?", "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?", "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?", "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?", "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?", "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?", "How to pay off your student loans I don't think paying off the loans as the bills come is the best way. I'm thinking of just creating an Excel worksheet and calculating my monthly payments. To start with, I have loans from the Federal Gov't & a Private Institution - upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 combined.\n\nThe interest rates on my student loans are pretty ridiculous and I was wondering if there was another way to pay them off? I'm considering some options such as Direct Consolidation that I guess the Obama administration set up (only for Fed loans, more info [here](http://www.loanconsolidation.ed.gov/) - not sure if it will be beneficial. I'm also thinking of having my parents take out a loan to pay it off (they'll get low interest rates) and then I can just pay it off with maybe *a little* help from them.\n\nWhat did you do or plan to do?" ]

[ "Not sure if this will help, but it's a good theory for debit reduction in general. List all your loans/cr", "I have $98k+ and don't make enough to be able to afford the interest that accrues each month ($700). I simply pay the bare minimum on the income based repayment plan after I consolidated and am just hoping I eventually make a ton more money. If not, I'll have to rely on being forgiven after 30 years, though there will be tax implications at that point. Hopefully, [this](http://forgivestudentloandebt.com/content/today-430pm-congressman-hansen-clarke-host-google-hangout-session-student-loan-forgiveness-a) comes to fruition.", "Whenever you get a bonus, don't buy a TV, pay it towards your loans. I've heard from many people that consolidating at least got them a lower interest rate, so that might be good. Many loans have different repayment plans, such as income based, progressive, or stable amounts for repayment. Get a job and stick with it. Even if it's just a minimum wage job to get you through a couple of months, don't quit until you have a new job set up.\n", "know that you can get back ALOT of the interest you pay on your loans by filling out a 1098-E on your taxes =D!! I got back all of the interest i paid on a 25k loan.", "This may sound insane, but get more schooling. Many schools offer large scholarships for masters and doctorate programs, and will pay you for performing research and being a TA for undergrad classes. Interest on student loans can be deferred until you finish your degree, and by then you can save up some money as long as you keep living expenses fairly low. ", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. It was created to help protect users from doxing, stalking, harassment, and profiling for the purposes of censorship. \n\n If you would also like to protect yourself, add the Chrome extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo), or the Firefox extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, scroll down as far as possible (hint:use [RES](http://www.redditenhancementsuite.com/)), and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top.", "Pay off the non-standard government loans (the student loans that are psuedo-government, but really private...you can tell by the different interest rates) first if you can before consolidating. \n\nAlso, does anyone know if you have to directly tell the loan company that any money above the minimum should be applied directly to the principle/interest of the loan instead of future payments? I heard that you basically have to direct how that portion is spent because more than likely they will just apply it to future minimum (or total) payments so they make more money off of you in the long run. ", "Here is a some good advice from a pro. http://www.daveramsey.com/company/faq/ Halfway down the page is Student Loans:\n\n .How do I consolidate my student loans?\n .How can I avoid student loans?\n .How do I find scholarships and grants?\n" ]

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[ "how to deal with spending extended amounts of time with people you dislike without letting it impact you in any way? ", "how to deal with spending extended amounts of time with people you dislike without letting it impact you in any way? ", "how to deal with spending extended amounts of time with people you dislike without letting it impact you in any way? ", "how to deal with spending extended amounts of time with people you dislike without letting it impact you in any way? ", "how to deal with spending extended amounts of time with people you dislike without letting it impact you in any way? ", "how to deal with spending extended amounts of time with people you dislike without letting it impact you in any way? ", "how to deal with spending extended amounts of time with people you dislike without letting it impact you in any way? " ]

[ "This depends entirely on why you don't like them. Different reasons for disliking them will have different approaches on how to deal with the causes of why you dislike them.\n\nYou could always try to find a way to be compassionate for the person. Like maybe a lot of other people don't like them too so you're making their lives better by your company. I know that sounds arrogant as hell (and is), but feeling like you're doing a good thing can make the experience feel worthwhile.", "If I know in advance I'm going to be spending time around someone I find annoying or even repugnant, I make sure to get as zen-like and calm and collected beforehand. For example, listening to the spa soundscapes radio station on the way to their house, listening to a relaxing audiobook, taking a hot bath, drinking a nice cup of tea, going for a walk or a swim. In other words, unwinding.\n\nIt's much easier to let little stuff go if you're in a good mood to begin with.", "I pretend they're a fictional character in a movie I'm watching. It helps me disassociate and just watch them be annoying rather than be annoyed.", ">without letting it impact you in any way?\n\nThis is probably impossible. I'm not a doctor, but on some unconscious level...it will probably impact you.\n\nA few options how to deal come to mind.\n\n1. Fake it. Act like you are having a fine time. Participate and act like they are your friend.\n1. ***This only works if you really truly don't care if you are ever going to see these people again. Or if you don't care what they will say about you*** -- Be honest, to a degree. If someone starts droning on about their digestive problems, tell them it's gross and that you don't want to hear more. Don't fake it. If they are going on and on about their ex, tell them that from the bottom of your heart, you are sorry, but at the same time, you don't care.\n\nOption 1 usually requires venting afterwards. Option 2 usually requires big ass balls.", "Well, if they are being jerks or inconsiderate of my feelings, it means that they are attacking me so I attack them back the same way. I always mirror how people act toward me; this way I am not spending my resources much while they're getting what they deserve.", "It depends on why you are spending time with them, where you and spending this time, what else is going on at the same time, and if there is an end date.", "I've done this many times and I was able to turn some of them into good friends. Just ask them to help you with a task, then compliment them for helping you. Then offer your services if they ever need help, then immediately responding to them when they come and cash in on the help. After doing this a couple of times, ask if they have any knowledge to make your job easier. Once your talking and chit chatting, invite them to lunch or ask if they want anything from the store if your running. Then your in for personal conversations.\n\n" ]

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(Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)", "How to stop myself from getting jealous. I find myself becoming jealous quite easily, most of the time over nothing. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or experience with this? (Stop being a pussy is not a tip.)" ]

[ "Here's the way I like to think of jealousy: \n \nPicture someone else who is jealous. What is this other jealous person really saying when they say they're jealous? They're saying that they're inferior to whoever they're jealous of. They're basically admitting that someone is better than them, that this person has more than them, etc. If you think about it, that's kind of pathetic. \n \nNow, ask yourself: Do I want to be that person? Do I think I'm inferior to other people? Do I want other people to control my emotions and make me pathetic? You'll find yourself saying no and the thought of being jealous becomes repugnant.", "There's a distinction between the terms [jealousy] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy) and [envy] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Envy) that's at the heart of this issue if we want to take a closer look at it. \n\nYou state you don't want to be jealous, and if so, then that means you are insecure or you fear losing something that holds great value to you. What would something like that be, for example? Usually they are connected to love-life. If, however, someone is envious, then that would refer to you wanting something another person has. To help you, we'd need to know which (or both) of these you are experiencing. \n\nIn general terms, however, one could posit that envy stems from insecurity about personal achievements. There might be other reasons too, but this one I can probably relate to. I know I feel envious when a person I went to school with lands a great job that I *feel* I could have gotten too. A sense of... \"well, I could do that better\" or \"man, why must I have bad luck and he gets something I COULD have had, now I look bad in our group of friends COMPARED to him\".\n\nHow, then, to gain a sense of confidence? Some say it's easiest by going back to basics and I won't be a hypocrite here, I have to admit I should do these things better too and that's one main motivation to writing this.\n\n- Healthy eating habits\n\n- Sleep\n\n- Physical exercise\n\n- Work/school -> DO IT PROPERLY, DO NOT SLACK.\n\nI might add here that physical exercise doesn't necessarily mean hit the gym bro. Even a jog 3x a week is great for your mental and physical upkeep. If you already have these in order, then I don't know how to assist you much further. Hope there's something to help you here. :)\n\n\n", "Once you get your heart broken so many times, you grow up and realize nothing in life is certain. If someone doesn't want to be with you, or cheats on you what's the point in convincing them to stay? Why would you want to be with them anyway? Enjoy the time you have with that special person now. Jealousy doesn't help anything or prevent someone from straying. In fact it pushes the person you love away. You need to look inwardly. Are you afraid of abandonment? Of not finding anyone else? Realize these feelings don't effect the outcome of anything ultimately and are harmful to yourself and the relationship. Taking up more hobbies of your own and maintaining independence is crucial to not becoming codependent on another person. No one else can MAKE you happy. You've got to be happy on your own and share that happiness with another person. ", "I have to ask, how old are you?\n\nBecause if you're a teenager, I'd say you'd just grow out of it. If you're an adult though, then it's something you actually need to work on. \n\nI remember being very jealous and envious of everyone around me for no reason as a teen. The thing you eventually realize is that it's very self-centered. You think everyone else's actions are a reflection of you. That you deserve what everyone else has. \n\nThe truth is, **you don't.** You don't \"deserve\" anything. \n\nJealousy comes about from feeling that you are owed something. That it should rightfully be yours. \n\nWhen you're able to understand that the world around you owes you nothing, then you are truly able to let go of being jealous.", "Do you mean jealous in a relationship? I had to grow out of this, and just learn to talk myself down. Try to be the reasonable friend you go to when youre anxious. He hasnt text back, what if hes cheating on me?! Now, don't be silly, he might be out of signal, out of battery, atba family event with no phones allowed, maybe he was writing a reply but he fell asleep, maybe hes driving; try to think of other reasomable explanations. I used to get jealous when my boyfriend hung out with attractive girls, but I learned to talk myself down. I can hang out with guys and it's fine - I hope he has a nice time, maybe he'll introduce me to these girls and we can be friends. \n\nOther people seem to have covered other types of jealousy :) ", "The key for me is realizing that jealousy comes entirely from yourself. The tricky part is that it is only triggered by external things, so those triggers are what you associate your feelings with.\n\nUsually jealousy comes from insecurity, especially in a relationship. An example:\n\nYour SO is talking to another guy (assuming for ease of discussion) and laughs, so you start feeling jealous. What you are actually feeling is insecurities that usual boil down to \"Maybe they'll like them more than me. Maybe they'll want to cheat because that person in more: attractive, interesting, etc. \n\nTo you though, you just see them talking and start to feel shitty. You make the association that them talking makes you feel shitty, so them talking becomes the problem. Your brain doesn't stop to examine the root of your feelings.\n\nStep 2 to dealing with this is to focus on what you can actually control, and what you can't. If someone is worried that their SO is going to cheat, they try to keep them away from others. \"No talking to other girls\" \"I don't trust that friend of yours\" etc.\n\nThe thing is, if the SO is the type to cheat you're actions aren't going to change this. The problem is with them, and you trying to lock them away will not stop them forever. On the otherside if they are faithful you can push them away. This holds true if you're just afraid of them leaving you for someone else or anything a long these lines.\n\nAll you can do, is work on YOU. This goes beyond relationships and carries on to jealously over someone's possessions, status, whatever. When you are jealous of someone, you're seeing the idealistic view of what you want. You have no idea what else is missing from their lives, what they gave up to have the thing you want. \n\nEX: One of my best friends was the ladies man is highschool and college. It was unbelievable how easily he got women into bed. Now years later he has serious relationship issues and not the best job situation. The same thing that made him excellent at picking up girls then hurts him in other ways now.\n\nAnd sure I would love a 1 million dollar home and the ability to travel the world freely. I however am not willing to give up all of my free time to work towards that. \n\nTL;DR : Focus on yourself, realize this life is not one size fits all. Don't think in terms of better and worse, or right and wrong, but just Different.\n\n If you're jealous of that guys lifestyle. Don't begrudge him for it, decide how you could achieve that, and if that's something you really want. If you're nervous your SO might leave you for X reason, improve upon X (though really talk to them first. Sometimes they like the things you don't even like about yourself).", "Currently I'm talking with my ex girlfriend who is very flirty with everyone. I was extremely jealous of everyone when we dated years ago. But now that I've grown up I understand that trust and communication are the most important thing in a relationship. No matter what you do, the other person will still be who he or she is. So it is now up to you to not only trust the other person, but as well as yourself. Be straightforward and understanding when communicating. For example, I still get worried that I may be wasting my time, but I trust her enough to not be using me as a side option for someone she may want to date. I told her clearly that I will not be around forever and whatever she does is her choice. Of course this does nothing to take away jealousy or worries, but it certainly give me a peace of mind because both parties know the terms. And if that person breaks your trust by getting too close with someone then you know it wasnt your fault. If you truly trust the other person then you won't have to worry about a thing. Be sure to look at what is causing you to get jealouse. Then think it over. I learn this over the years after we broke up. A relationship has to be free. Each person has to want to be in the relationship. If you keep getting all up on the other person ass then that person isn't going to like it. So have trust, and talk. But only talk about this subject when you have a clear head. Don't hold it in and then explode on the other person. You'll say some stupid shit under emotional influences. Be clear and concise. Have the other person knows exactly what is troubling you. Be ready for resistance, and be ready to compromise. Don't be a pushover, but be flexible.\n\n", "I try to look at anger or jealousy as initial reaction emotions. These aren't bad because they really indicate how we feel about a given situation on a primal level. However since we are higher beings now, I suggest you give yourself some time to process whats happening. Oftentimes if you're patient with yourself and take some time to analyze the situation, you'll be able to find where your own personal responsibly lies. ", "Well, jealousy comes from the EGO. You think you are entitled to someone, like another human being. You think this human being belongs to you and no one should be able to take him/her away from you. \n\nTo stop feeling like that you should stop thinking that other people belong to you and come to the conclusion that they are free people and they can do whatever they want. Oh and kill your EGO. You can't really kill it, but you can limit it's power over you.", "To get over envy you want to focus on your life more than others. Find something to do that makes you proud to be yourself. I think self-esteem is the best counter to envy. Paint a wall in your house, cook a crazy, interesting meal for no reason, do something new for the first time, pursue a hobby, etc. Soon you'll be in a state of mind where you're happy to be you and no one else. Jealousy, however is something even I have trouble with (regarding jealousy within a relationship) so I can't help much there. I usually just convince myself to trust the other person and keep communicating. Slowly, your insecurity will diminish as you learn to trust. Good luck! \n", "You need to realise you have to accept certain things, and other things will happen regardless of what you do. You cannot control some things or people.\n\nYou can try not having so much free time (in case you do).\nThe more free time you have, the more you think in different (and unexistent) scenarios, and that's one way to get jealous out of the blue.\n\nYou can also learn things and exercise. If you're jealous because of your SO, you need to know that he/she is with you for a reason.", "It may be the very tip you're looking for; but not in the way that you think.\n\nImproved self confidence may help.", "write down all the things about you that you are insecure about. then work on them. narcissists never get jealous", "Its easy to look at other people's lives from\nThe outside and think they have it soooo much better. Some do, but most people have plenty they're upset about (at least in my age group of mid-late 20s). From the outside my life would look fairly grand, but in reality theres a whole lot that sucks right now. Just gotta realize everyone has things that suck. Listen to the simon and garfunkle song \"richard cory\" it tackles this very subject quite well.", "If I'm with someone and I love them or even have respect for them then I have to respect and acknowledge their essential personhood which implies a free will to be with me or with someone or literally anyone else. I might want more than anything for them to be with me but that desire imposes no obligation on them whatsoever to fulfill that desire. \n\nIn this sense jealousy becomes an unattractive quality as it holds the other responsible for my happiness. \n\nThe sad fact is that even acknowledging that dynamic and executing it perfectly...you can still lose out. Jealousy is living the life of the person who lost out before it happens and becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. \n\nBe a whole person. Be thankful you're with someone who helps you enjoy that. Cry if you lose out, punch a hole in the drywall if you must, but never forget that the person you lost is on their own journey which is apparently not yours. \n\nGood luck.", "I don't understand how you can comprehend the problem but not rectify it. Isn't notice the problem/shortcoming like 99% of the battle?", "You kinda need to be more specific. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. Somebody has something that you don't have therefore instead of being happy for them, you resent them. \n\nI don't know where you got \"stop being a pussy\" since it has nothing to do with being afraid or hesitant. The root of the problem is that you're not happy with yourself and you seek satisfaction from other people rather than yourself. In short, a lack of identity. I think you need to m", "My experience with this is that feelings of jealousy and envy come from not loving yourself, or valuing yourself enough (or at all). One of the tricks I've used to help myself in this area is to look in the mirror when I can, and just say 'I love you Scooberella, you rock!!\". I know, I know, it's all very \"I'm a nice person, everybody loves me, and galdarnit I am good enough!\" route but there really is an effective power in learning to love yourself. I'm willing to bet that the first few times you try this, it will be awkward as hell but keep up the effort and it WILL pay off. :-) My best wishes to you!", "I've always struggled with jealousy and I've been trying to overcome it for years now but what I recently learned is you can't really overcome jealousy, but you can accept it for what it is. I see jealousy as one of the emotions that drives us to do better because we all WANT. We want a bigger house, or a better car, or a better life, and when we see someone else get it, (especially if it's someone we know) it's natural to get jealous. Instead of hating the fact that you get jealous think of the fact that WANTING things is what has driven humans to where we are today with all the nice things such as houses, car, running water, etc. Accept the fact that you are jealous and you will overcome the general feeling you get from jealousy faster and it will affect you a lot less over time and ask yourself: If this is what I really want, then how can I eventually get this thing. Sometimes you'll realize you don't actually need to have it and you don't want it as bad as you thought and other times it'll drive you to make a plan to one day get that thing. This is my opinion on it and what has helped me.", "I have found that irrational jealousy arises in me when I have perceived to have invested more into the relationship than the other person, and if they are blithely having a good time without me (not necessarily cheating). What tends to happen is that if I feel like I need to \"reach\" to keep the person engaged (standard nerd posture), I will do all kinds of overly nice stuff (chivalry gone wild), and then when it either isn't recognized or not returned, then I will get angry/jealous. I think the solution is to either date someone that you don't feel this way about (which sounds depressing), or improve yourself to the level at which you don't feel you are \"reaching\". If you think about it, if you haven't invested too much into a relationship, you don't care what they do (say your male friends). It is only when you over-invest, that it becomes a problem.\n\n", "Feelings are hard to control. Actions are a bit easier. Feeling jealous and acting on those feelings are different.\n\nAcknowledge your emotions, and try to make decisions with the understanding that you feel a certain way. Just being aware of your feelings and their influence will go a long way towards making your behavior not shitty, and not being shitty is really all we can expect from one another...", "By putting yourself in the other persons shoes, and attempting to experience what they are feeling. Empathy is a dying ability in today's narcissistic generation. ", "compare your self with people beneath you and not on top of you. for example, the man was jealous of his friends shoes because he couldn't afford any. until he met a man without feet and felt better.. a happy man is someone who is happy with what he has, and you can build that perspective by comparing yourself with people who dont have it as good a you. ", "Swallow real hard without drinking anything. Do it a couple of times until your focus changes to something else.", "Appreciate yourself, what you've done & what you're going to do in your life. Consider the things you'd like to change and work on them but don't feel guilt or shame about them (pointless and not productive). \n\nOther people's success and misfortune is really just background music to your life. It doesn't really affect you and you can choose to pay as much or as little attention to it as you want. Obviously you know there will always be someone to envy and there will always be someone to be envious of - so its a pointless frustration for your brain to fixate on. \n\nTo sort of get more control of your brain I think the best thing to do is to acknowledge these emotions as they come up (don't dismiss them outright out of shame or guilt) and consider them for a moment (why do I really feel this way?). As you do this more and more it becomes more routine and you catch the emotion more regularly and have a less severe physical response to them. ", "Be Jealous, but make it healthy. Be Jealous that your Co-worker got a new car, and then work hard so you can have that too. You will either get that new car, or realize that your co-worker is [This Guy](http://pantsinacan.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/03/lending_tree_guy.gif) \n\nBe Jealous that other people are in better shape than you, and then workout at home, or the gym to show yourself that you can be in as good, or better shape than them.\n\nJealousy, if handled properly, is not a bad thing. It's one of the reasons that we strive for the things that we want. I didn't realize that I wanted a nice big 4k TV until I saw one at my friend's house. Then I was like \"Damn, that's a nice beautiful TV, I'm jealous of that, and I want one.\" So I worked hard, saved up cash from my side work, and bought one. Now I'm not Jealous of that anymore. (I do have a 56\" rear projection TV that uses too much electricity and has more dust than the Fallout wastelands if anyone is interested though!)\n\nBut seriously, Jealousy is not a bad thing. Handling it poorly is a bad thing.\n\nOh, and if this is in regards to a Significant Other getting attention, you might not be ready for a relationship.", "Are we talking about a bitch? If so, let me take yo ass to pimp school. Rule 1: fuck that ho! Rule 2: never trust a ho! Rule 3: that pussy gonna run wild no matter what you do! Rule 4: fuck that ho!" ]

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[ "Are there aptitude tests for adults? So, I'm 32, I have a 2 year degree in General Studies, (which is basically a transfer degree) and I recently became motivated to better myself. I have a good job but it's just that, a job. I'm interested in either a trade or skilled job or a career. My problem is I'm not sure what to pursue. I remember taking some sort of aptitude test when I was a teenager, so I'm kinda looking for something like that. I am not opposed to paying for said services, but I don't want to be scammed either. I feel smart enough to go back to school and learn anything, but I'm also smart enough to know that probably isn't the case. So, I'm looking for something to give me some guidance. \n\n\nTL:DR I need a test to help me figure out what I should be good at", "Are there aptitude tests for adults? So, I'm 32, I have a 2 year degree in General Studies, (which is basically a transfer degree) and I recently became motivated to better myself. I have a good job but it's just that, a job. I'm interested in either a trade or skilled job or a career. My problem is I'm not sure what to pursue. I remember taking some sort of aptitude test when I was a teenager, so I'm kinda looking for something like that. I am not opposed to paying for said services, but I don't want to be scammed either. I feel smart enough to go back to school and learn anything, but I'm also smart enough to know that probably isn't the case. So, I'm looking for something to give me some guidance. \n\n\nTL:DR I need a test to help me figure out what I should be good at" ]

[ "I am a psychologist who has done career planning with more than 8,000 people.\n\nIt takes more than an aptitude test.\n\nIf you're looking for a good job here are the essentials:\n1 You must have the basic ability, smarts, knowledge and physical prerequisites.\n2 The workplace must fit--how much in the way of rules, your boss' personal style, the people you work with, general attitude\n3 There must be room for your ambitions, whether that's to get ahead or to stay put.\n\nThen, for the job to be a career, it must offer two more things--it must be interesting enough to keep you hooked for life, and it must be important enough to be worth doing: if it isn't, you have a hobby, not a career.\n\nWhen I work with a person to plan a career, it costs an arm and a leg because I need to know a lot about them to be able to make sense in what I say. That means a long interview and usually a couple of days of writing all sorts of tests.\n\nFortunately, you are the world's #1 expert on you. Nobody else lives with you 24/7, so you can do it yourself.\n\nStep #1 is buy a book: Bolles' \"What Color is Your Parachute.\" The book is actually the world's best-selling how to find a job guide, but Bolles has a great section on figuring out what to do with yourself. Be prepared to do a lot of work--there are many exercises and you can't get an instant answer. You will likely come up with several options and need to investigate them. And most of the time, you will be able to come up with a great career path for yourself.\n\nSometimes it won't work.\n\nThat's when to hire a pro. Stay away from anybody who tells you that with a Strong and a MBTI they can plan your life for a couple of hundred bucks. They're better than nothing, but not much. Find out how much experience the pro has. Do they have references? What does the BBB have to say about them? What will it cost? What can you expect in terms of reporting and follow-up consulting? Bolles says to stay away from people who charge a flat fee, and I disagree with him because I don't want my clients looking at their watches and wondering how much the next question will cost them. But whether they charge by the hour or via fee-for-service, you should know in advance what it will cost you. And even with a counselor, you will be doing most of the work.\n\nBut whatever route you choose, do it. Life is way too short to spend it doing something you hate or that bores you to tears.\n", "I understand where you're coming from, but sometimes aptitude tests are the worst. I've taken them several times, without an end result. According to the tests, I'm interested in too many things for the test to narrow down. My advice, shadow some friends or family members in their jobs, or seek out jobs that sound interesting to you and shadow someone there. The best way to figure out what you want to do, is to go out and do it. " ]

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[ "How to recreate a salon blowdry? I have very curly hair, and the only time it looks light and glossy is after the hair salon. When I heat-style my own hair, it just looks frizzy and dull, no matter what product I use. Is there any way to recreate that bounce and shine at home?", "How to recreate a salon blowdry? I have very curly hair, and the only time it looks light and glossy is after the hair salon. When I heat-style my own hair, it just looks frizzy and dull, no matter what product I use. Is there any way to recreate that bounce and shine at home?", "How to recreate a salon blowdry? I have very curly hair, and the only time it looks light and glossy is after the hair salon. When I heat-style my own hair, it just looks frizzy and dull, no matter what product I use. Is there any way to recreate that bounce and shine at home?", "How to recreate a salon blowdry? I have very curly hair, and the only time it looks light and glossy is after the hair salon. When I heat-style my own hair, it just looks frizzy and dull, no matter what product I use. Is there any way to recreate that bounce and shine at home?" ]

[ "I'm not a stylist but my sister went to an Aveda cosmetology school and taught me to get a large flat panel or round brush, start at the roots and work your way out, and (most importantly) work the angle of the blow dryer. You can use the brush to get directly to the roots but as you work your way out, point the blow dryer downward and kind of keep it more parallel to the strands of hair. Having the air blow downward with the \"grain\" of the hair is what makes it smoother and shinier. Also using the an attachment helps a lot. Most of the time I use one like this: \n\nhttp://www.sallybeauty.com/on/demandware.store/Sites-SA-Site/default/mProduct-Show?pid=SBS-345008&start=1\n\nI think most people just want to get the job done so they turn it up high and point it dryer directly at their head on full blast. Have you even notice that at salons it seems to take longer and they never seem to do that? But in the end your hair is frizzy and crispy feeling. Ever since I started the angle trick I can tell the difference in my hair.\n\nHope that helps! ", "It helps to put a finishing oil on while your hair is still wet. I have Mirrakesh Oil I got from the local beauty supply. It only takes a little. Get a round brush that is the kind with bristles like a horse brush. Then, take some clips and separate your head into sections about 2-3 inches wide. Then use the low setting and low heat. You may have to use a flat iron afterwards if you have those little fly away hairs. It take a lot of practice and your arm is gonna hurt.", "Product on your hair prior to drying and I recently purchased John Freida hot air brush dryer see here http://www.amazon.com/John-Frieda-JFHA5-Brush-inch/dp/B0056GDG90. Dry hair about 90% of the way with regular hair dryer and then use this hot air dryer. The product I use is AG Argon oil. Good luck!", "Towel dry you hair . Apply Moroccan oil to the ends. Maybe some root boost or blow dry gel your hair needs something to give it hold. Section you hair starting at the nape of your neck moving upwards in 2 inch sections. The length of your hair should determine what size round brush you are using. Also a concentrator cap on your dryer will make a huge difference. Blow you hair in the direction it grows. It helps keep the cuticle smooth and will help it look shiny and smooth when your done. If you want fuller looking hair pull up at the root as your drying. Practice makes perfect keep your sections small. And here is a big tip when you think its dry keep drying it -it will make a difference." ]

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[ "Tips and tricks to help follow ups with people and not go completely insane I hope you can help me. I've realized that the most frustrating part of my life is following up with people to get things done and I'm looking for ways to make this easier and more efficient. For tips and tricks that have worked for you.\n\nThe types of people I most need help in following up with are various bureaucrats or government procedural workers, people at my work that don't work for me, contractors who do work for me.\n\nWherever possible I simplify the request, use incentives, emotional appeals, escalations, follow ups with calls/emails/texts, deadlines, repetition and more repetition but still people forget or just don't do simple tasks. \n\nWhat tips, tricks, or ideas have you used that have gotten other people to get things done? \n\nThank you for considering my request for help", "Tips and tricks to help follow ups with people and not go completely insane I hope you can help me. I've realized that the most frustrating part of my life is following up with people to get things done and I'm looking for ways to make this easier and more efficient. For tips and tricks that have worked for you.\n\nThe types of people I most need help in following up with are various bureaucrats or government procedural workers, people at my work that don't work for me, contractors who do work for me.\n\nWherever possible I simplify the request, use incentives, emotional appeals, escalations, follow ups with calls/emails/texts, deadlines, repetition and more repetition but still people forget or just don't do simple tasks. \n\nWhat tips, tricks, or ideas have you used that have gotten other people to get things done? \n\nThank you for considering my request for help" ]

[ "In my experience this comes down to two problems. Number one, the person is just inherently a flake. For those people I just use a recurring appointment on my calendar to remind me to request an update from that person. I have not found in most cases that incentives do any good with inherent flakes. \n\nNumber two, the person is incentivized to be flaky. And example of this is the contractor. His biggest risk is to have an unpaid day. The way he mitigates that risk is to overbook. Typically he won’t be very responsive because he knows he has broken his schedule commitments and will have to lie to you again when he promises some new date of completion. In these cases incentives can work and usually do. Big cash rewards for on time completion and on time communication incentivize them to comply. They often don’t have an inherently flaky personality so they can get things done when the incentives are right.\n\nDoctors also fall into this category, which is why they keep you waiting in the lobby so long. They don’t want to have an empty slot in the calendar.", "Make friends with people you need things from. Be super kind and fun when you interact. If they still ignore you, pull their boss into it.\n\nI if I am being ignored, I have sent a message to the boss with the person cc'd saying something like \"person seems unavailable or otherwise unable to help with this, can you point me to the correct person to ask?\"" ]

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[ "How to store half of a banana I feel as though I should know the answer to this, but I don't, so I'm turning to you guys. For breakfast every morning I have a rice cake with peanut butter and 1/2 banana. What do I do with the other half so I can save it for the next morning and not let it go to waste? I tried refrigerating it in a sandwich bag but it get's all slimy and brown before the end of the day. \n\nHelp me solve my breakfast troubles.\n\n", "How to store half of a banana I feel as though I should know the answer to this, but I don't, so I'm turning to you guys. For breakfast every morning I have a rice cake with peanut butter and 1/2 banana. What do I do with the other half so I can save it for the next morning and not let it go to waste? I tried refrigerating it in a sandwich bag but it get's all slimy and brown before the end of the day. \n\nHelp me solve my breakfast troubles.\n\n", "How to store half of a banana I feel as though I should know the answer to this, but I don't, so I'm turning to you guys. For breakfast every morning I have a rice cake with peanut butter and 1/2 banana. What do I do with the other half so I can save it for the next morning and not let it go to waste? I tried refrigerating it in a sandwich bag but it get's all slimy and brown before the end of the day. \n\nHelp me solve my breakfast troubles.\n\n", "How to store half of a banana I feel as though I should know the answer to this, but I don't, so I'm turning to you guys. For breakfast every morning I have a rice cake with peanut butter and 1/2 banana. What do I do with the other half so I can save it for the next morning and not let it go to waste? I tried refrigerating it in a sandwich bag but it get's all slimy and brown before the end of the day. \n\nHelp me solve my breakfast troubles.\n\n", "How to store half of a banana I feel as though I should know the answer to this, but I don't, so I'm turning to you guys. For breakfast every morning I have a rice cake with peanut butter and 1/2 banana. What do I do with the other half so I can save it for the next morning and not let it go to waste? I tried refrigerating it in a sandwich bag but it get's all slimy and brown before the end of the day. \n\nHelp me solve my breakfast troubles.\n\n" ]

[ "I just let the banana dry out at that end. It naturally seals and can stay that way. Cut off a quarter of an inch off the exposed end, and its fresh banana underneath. Done. ", "Cut it in half before peeling, and use tin foil to cover the exposed end. The end might dry out, but you only have to cut off a small sliver and the rest is like normal inside the peel. ", "I save bananas all the time. Just put a little bit of tin foil over the open area and put it in the refrigerator for later.", "Why not just eat the whole thing? Bananas aren't very big and are incredibly healthy. All power to you but the situation seems more struggle than necessary. ", "why not cut it in half and just put some some foil over the exposed part of the banana half you are saving, it's hard to beat the peel as a barrier layer. . Seems like a no-brainer. I always eat the whole banana though, so this is just speculation. " ]

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[ "How do I push through a burnout while still keeping good performance? Taking breaks is not an option I've been studying 60 hours a week for the last few months; I'm basically doing one of the heaviest schedules in a super competitive program of my university and I've finally hit that burnout wall. Now it's basically impossible to stay on task with anything, but my final projects are rolling in and now is when I should be pushing myself the hardest. How can I find ways to stay on task? When I try to get rid of my distractions I'm just blank-minded even if the only thing sitting in front of me is my textbook and my papers. I just gotta make it to Thanksgiving break\n\n", "How do I push through a burnout while still keeping good performance? Taking breaks is not an option I've been studying 60 hours a week for the last few months; I'm basically doing one of the heaviest schedules in a super competitive program of my university and I've finally hit that burnout wall. Now it's basically impossible to stay on task with anything, but my final projects are rolling in and now is when I should be pushing myself the hardest. How can I find ways to stay on task? When I try to get rid of my distractions I'm just blank-minded even if the only thing sitting in front of me is my textbook and my papers. I just gotta make it to Thanksgiving break\n\n", "How do I push through a burnout while still keeping good performance? Taking breaks is not an option I've been studying 60 hours a week for the last few months; I'm basically doing one of the heaviest schedules in a super competitive program of my university and I've finally hit that burnout wall. Now it's basically impossible to stay on task with anything, but my final projects are rolling in and now is when I should be pushing myself the hardest. How can I find ways to stay on task? When I try to get rid of my distractions I'm just blank-minded even if the only thing sitting in front of me is my textbook and my papers. I just gotta make it to Thanksgiving break\n\n", "How do I push through a burnout while still keeping good performance? Taking breaks is not an option I've been studying 60 hours a week for the last few months; I'm basically doing one of the heaviest schedules in a super competitive program of my university and I've finally hit that burnout wall. Now it's basically impossible to stay on task with anything, but my final projects are rolling in and now is when I should be pushing myself the hardest. How can I find ways to stay on task? When I try to get rid of my distractions I'm just blank-minded even if the only thing sitting in front of me is my textbook and my papers. I just gotta make it to Thanksgiving break\n\n", "How do I push through a burnout while still keeping good performance? Taking breaks is not an option I've been studying 60 hours a week for the last few months; I'm basically doing one of the heaviest schedules in a super competitive program of my university and I've finally hit that burnout wall. Now it's basically impossible to stay on task with anything, but my final projects are rolling in and now is when I should be pushing myself the hardest. How can I find ways to stay on task? When I try to get rid of my distractions I'm just blank-minded even if the only thing sitting in front of me is my textbook and my papers. I just gotta make it to Thanksgiving break\n\n", "How do I push through a burnout while still keeping good performance? Taking breaks is not an option I've been studying 60 hours a week for the last few months; I'm basically doing one of the heaviest schedules in a super competitive program of my university and I've finally hit that burnout wall. 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[ "Take a bit of time and break down, as much as possible, the tasks that you have to do for each class. In my experience, seeing the small steps that you are taking will help you more than just having a list with the big picture.", "Schedule blocks of time where you can totally clear your head, guilt free. I HAVE to totally blank out for a bit sometimes to de clutter all those responsibilities.\n\nWhen I’ve got a lot on my plate and I feel anxious about it, I listen to guided 10-15 minute m", "You're right breaks are not an *option* - **they're a necessity**.\n\nYou may not get a break during or between classes, but afterwards, you absolutely must schedule downtime. 30min for food and absolutely \"no studying at meal time*. Have a coffee followed by a 20min power nap, and if possible have someone check in on you to make sure you get moving. 20min is how long it takes for the caffeine to kick in, so it's perfect immediately before napping - even if you just rest and don't sleep, you'll benefit from it.\n\nPomodoro your homework and study sessions. 25min work, 5min break. Use the dang break. Go to the bathroom or stretch - research shows it improves circulation, and that's good for your brain function.\nAfter four pomodoros, you have another coffee and 20min nap, and repeat as needed. \n\nThe US army published a manual on power napping. Peruse that. Rest is essential and will ease if not cure, your burnout.\n\nAlso, schedule something enjoyable and totally unrelated to school at least once a week.", "You need to take some breaks. You are probably having trouble focusing because all you are doing is studying. Short healthy breaks like going on a walk or briefly meeting up to have coffee with a friend (just let them know you won’t have much time because you have to get back to studying) are honestly worth the time. You can tell yourself that you can take a break after you study for a certain amount of time, and it will help motivate you to keep going.", "What I've always liked to do during those sorts of burnouts where it's hard to focus is to kinda direct my distractions towards my other subjects. Can't focus on biomechanics anymore, switch to exercise phys, 20 minutes later switch to something else, kinda rotate so if youre not getting a solid time in any 1 subject you're at least chipping away at all of them. Also caffeine, and 20 minute power naps.", "if you don't want breaks to just relax then take breaks to exercise. i'm guessing you're quite dormant with all that studying. need to get the juices flowing and the blood rushing in a more natural way than just popping some pills. the blood flow from physical activity may help you concentrate when you dive back into the books. stay sharp both mentally and physically. the exercise may help build your endurance to get you through the home stretch.\n\nbest of luck and take care!", "Something that can help with burnout in some cases is to do something to remind yourself why you enjoyed it in the first place.", "Figure out which stuff you can listen to and/or have Comcasted to a tv screen to watch while having a snack.\n\nIf you have word 2016, you can use the immersive reader to narrate to you in a speed/pitch you find easiest to absorb information from." ]

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[ "How do I apologize to someone whose relationship with me has always been strained? He found out that I was talking behind his back and the relationship has gotten worse, but he is pretty much my boss. I can't do a face to face apology because its probably going to come out wrong, but I want to fix it and/or improve relations with him. I'm afraid anything I do will be called insincere or laughed at because the people around us don't really apologize. What should I do?", "How do I apologize to someone whose relationship with me has always been strained? He found out that I was talking behind his back and the relationship has gotten worse, but he is pretty much my boss. I can't do a face to face apology because its probably going to come out wrong, but I want to fix it and/or improve relations with him. I'm afraid anything I do will be called insincere or laughed at because the people around us don't really apologize. What should I do?" ]

[ "Apologise face-to-face, not in writing! Don't put anything in writing that can be used against you.\n\nPlus face-to-face is much harder, more character-building and more respectable. If you stuffed up, own it.", "\"I'd like to formally apologise to you with these friendship cookies/cupcakes I made.\" Then give them homemade cookies or cupcakes." ]

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[ "Getting rid of moth/moth larvae infestation I keep finding dozens and dozens of moths flying around my room. I've once or twice found maggot looking larvae hidden in the cracks between books and papers. I've noticed upwards of 10+ dead moths chilling in the bottom of my old coffee cups. I think they may be attracted to the sugar, but not really sure. If anybody has any ideas or any experiences with ridding their houses of these annoying lil buggars, please let me know. ", "Getting rid of moth/moth larvae infestation I keep finding dozens and dozens of moths flying around my room. I've once or twice found maggot looking larvae hidden in the cracks between books and papers. I've noticed upwards of 10+ dead moths chilling in the bottom of my old coffee cups. I think they may be attracted to the sugar, but not really sure. If anybody has any ideas or any experiences with ridding their houses of these annoying lil buggars, please let me know. " ]

[ "When I had pantry moths I used pheromone traps I bought from Home Depot. They cost about six dollars for two traps, and it takes about two weeks to notice a decrease in the number of moths.\n\nhere's the brand I bought: http://www.amazon.com/Safer-Brand-05140-Pantry-Traps/dp/B000HJ7AIY/", "Use pheromone traps and find out the source of the infestation. It can be grains or seeds or cereals or flour. Check your cupboards and storage spaces and toss anything with moths, larvae or webs. " ]

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[ "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening.", "How can i prevent frost on the inside of my car windows during the winter Hello there, i have a pretty old car and it seems to be a lot of condensation in it.\nSo every morning i have to spend a few extra minutes getting frost from the inside of my windshield.\nI would really love some good tips on how i can properly prevent this from happening." ]

[ "Before you get out of your car, open all the the windows and air out the car. This should prevent a temperature difference between the inside and outside of the car and stop some of the moisture from forming. ", "Make sure your car's heating/cooling system is set to bring in fresh air and not recirculate the air in the vehicle. When it's set to recirculate, it will trap the moisture from your breath inside the car and that will freeze on the inside of your windows. Many people think this is a better way to heat up the car since it's recirculating the warmer air, but the downside is the additional moisture that it traps/", "If you have enough moisture vapor inside your car that you're getting frost, you may want to address the source of the moisture. The only time I had this problem is when my carpet was getting (and staying) wet.\n\nAssuming your car has A/C (and isn't a convertible), you may want to run your car in recirc mode with the A/C compressor running (even with the heat on), just to get rid of some of that moisture from the inside air.\n\nYou may also want to see if the passenger footwell has wet carpet. This could result from a clogged A/C drain hose.", "I know this one!! 1) When you leave the car for the night, make sure it is NOT on the defrost setting- I use the setting to blow all air towards passengers. 2) Make sure it is not set to circulate- instead set to bring in outside air.", "Someone once told me to put a stocking filled with cat litter on the dashboard to absorb the moisture but I havent tried it, weather in the uk has been mild this winter so far", "I have the exact same problem with my old piece of shit car. I started leaving the back windows cracked open a tiny bit at all times and I've been completely fine ever since. ", "Take some dish soap and rub all over your windows with a paper towel. The condensation will not appear over the thin layer of soap", "I've read that facing the front windscreen to the morning sun can prevent or reduce this. Haven't tried it though but logic seems sound. ", "Ventilate the vehicle before parking so all the humid air exits the vehicle. \n\nAlso, if you are tracking a lot of snow into the vehicle this could be the biggest source of moisture. \n\nI'd often drive with heat on bust, airflow on the floor, window cracked open, in effort to dry it up a bit...\n", "This means there is moisture inside your car. It could be that your floormats are wet from snow or rain brought in on your shoes. Make sure you keep a bit of heat on the windshield when driving when is cold, even after its been defrosted. This can sometimes help prevent condensation.", "So long as your windshield isn't tinted (not sure legality in other countries, but you can't have a tinted windscreen in Australia), just use a chamois to win it down, or some glass cleaner and newspaper to give it a solid clean on the inside.\n\nYou'd be amazed at how much moisture and stuff sticks to the inside of your windscreen. I did my Fiesta ST's yesterday, and wow, it's crystal clear again. You don't realize how dirty it can get.\n\nLPT: DO NOT USE HLASS CLEANER ON TINTING", "My gf's car had this issue, make sure your heat vent is drawing air for heat from the outside and not using the recycle the air from the cabin." ]

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Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!", "what’s good to know before you need to know it? For example, CPR. What else is good to know before that information could be the difference between life and death? Thank you all in advance!" ]

[ "As someone who was just in a rollover car accident, what to do during and after an accident. My car rolled three times this past Tuesday. I was surprisingly calm afterwards and immediately knew to call 911 and what to say and after I called my dad to pick me up. But you'll also want to know how to handle accidents with other drivers and how to exchange info and deal with insurance. And I'd also say basic first aid is super important as well.", "Ashes float! If your going to dump ashes in water, bring a stir stick unless you want to see half the ashes float and spread like algae.", "Where your parent's or other loved one's will is kept. And where are their passwords (for everything) kept.", "What to do if your parents die as a child. I mean this one. My parents were so serious about this. They use to go on a vacation and leave us \" What to do if we die\" instructions.", "Specific emergency numbers\n\nNot just police, ambulance and fire department but also poison, chemical or animal emergency services.", "Budgeting. \n\nParents and schools should definitely be more proactive about teaching this to their kids.", "If you are taking care of a vulnerable person like a baby or toddler, on your own (e.g. single parent or caregiver) make sure that there someone who least calls to check in regularly. If you have a medical episode and die or are incapacitated, the child in your care will literally starve to death.", "How to administer an epi-pen.\nYou never know when someone will need it. And you do not want to accidentally shoot yourself with it.\n\nBLUE TO THE SKY, ORANGE TO THE THIGH.\n\nRemove the blue cap, aim the orange tip to the outer middle thigh, then swing in and push the injector (where the blue cap was) until it clicks. Then count to 10.\n\nAnd call 911 as soon as you administer. It will help delay issues but won’t completely prevent them.", "when entering your hotel room, count the doorways to the exit. if there's a fire, you can only see on the floor (if that).\n\nsame for a plane, count the rows to the exit.", "How to understand medical and dental insurance: copays, coinsurance, deductibles, in-network, etc. \n\nJust because you have a card DOES NOT mean you are covered for services or that doctor you visited will be covered. Diligence and follow-up is a must. It may save you thousands, but if you don’t get it right, you will be out thousands.", "What sleep paralysis is. I’m so glad I was familiar with it before I actually experienced it. No wonder why people think demons haunt them in their sleep", "Stop the bleed techniques, advanced first aid, basic mechanics, basic electrical repairs, swimming, shooting, knife handling, knowing where all your exists are located , situational awareness, basics of body language and behavioral analysis, basic survival techniques, self defense / martial arts. Basic psychology and conversation/negotiation/de-escalation techniques\n\n", "What you want to happen if you're medically incapacitated.\n\nGet a living will. Write it out legally and officially. Designate a decision maker and give them all the information they will need about what you want.\n\nWhat you do *not* want is to be in a coma and to have your parents, spouse, and kids all arguing about what to do with you, with nobody knowing what you would want and nobody knowing who has the most right to make the decision. That shit destroys families.", "Firearm safety. I live in MKE and hear too many stories of young children accidentally or even intentionally shooting someone because owners do not take proper precautions. Lock your guns when not in use. A lot of people also recommend storing ammo in a separate room. \n\nIf you do keep firearms, know the big 4 rules:\n1) only aim at what you intend to kill\n2) know your target and what is behind it\n3) finger off trigger until ready to fire\n4) EVERY GUN IA ALWAYS LOADED.", "How to remove a bead from a kids nose. Blowing into their mouth and plugging the other nostril works and avoids an ER run.", "The symptoms of a heart attack. My uncle had a heart attack, he thought he was coming down with the flu, went to bed to get some rest and never woke up.", "Siren codes and what they mean.\n\nIt's not just all one wee-woo \n\nThere's special wee-woos for many specific situations.", "What's your (and relatives'): \n\\- Blood type \n\\- License plate number \n\\- Sad topic, but info needed to fill out a death certificate for a relative (like their social security number and place of birth - especially as people become the last one of their generation, there is no one to ask this) I had to give this info to the funeral home when my own mom passed away and was glad I didn't have to spend time finding this info during a sad time \n\\- Where is the safety deposit box location and where is the key", "Make sure every boat you get on has enough USCG life vests for everyone on board ( all sizes) and you know where they are located. Please, for the love of God, make sure any child under 13 is wearing it at all times. I put life jackets on any kid under 5 before we hit the dock. I can't recommend the ones with a handle on the back highly enough. Designed for boat hooks. Never had to do it, but we've practiced endlessly. The duck boat tragedy in Branson was senseless and didn't have to happen", "How to administer seizure first aid as it is different than first aid. **DO NOT PERFORM CPR ON SOMEONE WHO IS CONVULSING.** Cessation of normal breathing, or breathing at all during a seizure is typical for a brief period.\n\n[seizure first aid instructional poster](https://www.epilepsy.com/sites/default/files/atoms/files/SFA%20Flier_HQ_8.5x11_PDF.pdf)\n\n[seizure first aid instructional video with example](https://youtu.be/FBEj9H42fa4)\n\n^ please be aware that contrary to this video, the suggested method to turning someone to their side is as soon as you intervene. I have consulted with my epileptologist since this post after a very good question had been asked here.\n\n", "\nHow to set personal boundaries. Too often people grow up learning not too say or do something because someone might get upset and they become people pleasers. It’s more than just a habit. It is a defense mechanism you developed as a powerless child, in order to avoid disapproval or worse. As an adult, you are no longer powerless. You no longer have to tolerate the bad behavior of others. You can speak your mind even if your voice shakes and your eyes water. If you say no and someone gets mad, it doesn’t mean you should have said yes.", "If you’re about to get rear-ended in traffic, put your head against the headrest to minimize whiplash", "All satellite dishes point south in the northern hemisphere, and they point north in the southern hemisphere. If you are ever lost in a a different city/country and need to orient yourself this is vital.", "Safety in general. Like when dealing with electricity or machinery. We had a spinning glue machine women got scalped in bc they wanted to wear their hair down. People lose fingers, limbs even in others. Had to stop a guy from continuing to dig after he came across a wire and go shut off the breaker", "I wish I had known better what to do when my dad was dying and what I could have done beforehand. It happened really suddenly this summer but he was unorganized and had no legit will, so I was really adamant my mom fix hers ASAP. She’s very healthy and plans to live a long time but you never know. We all wrote wills in a very well known spot and understand each others end of life wishes.", "Where to go (and not go) in a tornado emergency. If you don't have a safe spot like a basement or storm shelter, find local places (in advance) that you can go that are for sure safe...library, some stores ( not big box stores), a friend's basement or shelter. Also, a Tornado WATCH means conditions are favorable for a tornado. A Tornado WARNING means one has been spotted close to you. Take the watches and especially the warnings seriously. Also, take off those flip flops, put on socks and shoes. Remember, if buildings are destroyed there will be glass and nails EVERYWHERE. Put on a bike helmet or sports helmet. Charge your phone up in advance. Keep bottled water and snacks in your shelter. One more thing...when multiple tornadoes came close to my house about 10 years ago we had a weather radio. The weather radio tornado warning went off a full FIVE MINUTES before the local siren. That's a huge discrepancy and could make the difference between life or death.", "Another language. Took some spanish in high school and turns out now i work with people from colombia and peru so it makes it a lot easier than trying to communicate from scratch", "What cr", "Learning how to do laundry. This seems obvious but at basic training and technical training right after joining the military... Lots of kids do not know how to do laundry.", "Know how deep the water is. Know if it’s too shallow to dive or too deep for non-swimmers. Life changing or deadly consequences.", "How to handle a car on ice, black ice, or slippery road conditions. (I know this can be difficult to actually test but if you have a safe way to drive on an icy parking lot, it can help tremendously with your understanding of how a vehicle will likely behave in similar conditions.)", "Who is on the ballot!\n\n\nI highly recommend getting a mail-in ballot just so you have the time to research the candidates at your leisure while you're deciding.\n\nGetting to the booth and having no clue who some DA candidate is and just going on coolest name or party affiliation really sucks.", "Water beads, magnets, and button batteries are VERY likely to kill your child if they swallow them.\n\nIf your dog's abdomen is swollen and they don't want to eat, they probably have a blockage and they need to go to the vet immediately. \n\nNever touch a bat you find crawling on the ground. It's a major indicator of rabies.\n\nIt takes a few days for a viral or bacterial load to be heavy enough to give a positive test on an STI screening. Wait 10 days after sex to get tested or you may get a false negative.", "Obey posted signs and barricades. They aren’t there to reduce your fun; their purpose is to protect your life. \n\nPeople die every year because they don’t see the danger of wading above waterfalls. It’s so pretty, the water is shallow, and they’re in great physical condition. What they don’t know kills them. The algae growing on the rocks in the riverbed is extremely slippery. One slip and you’re over the falls. \n\n“Turn around, don’t drown.” Don’t drive through water on the road. The force of running water can sweep your vehicle off the road, or the water may be much deeper than you realize. \n\n“When thunder roars, go indoors.” The US has averaged 27 deaths per year for the last ten years, but also averaged an estimated 243 injuries, leaving 90% with varying levels of disability. (National Weather Service) \n\n“Float, don’t fight.” If you are being pulled into deeper water by a rip current, don’t try to swim back to shore. Float calmly until you can be rescued, or until the rip stops, then swim parallel to shore away from the current. Even an Olympic swimmer can’t fight a strong rip current. Take a floatation device with you to the beach, learn to spot rip currents (YouTube) and swim where there are lifeguards. I am saddened by the loss of life on our beautiful coastline. \n\nKids get caught in a rip, and dad or another bystander goes out to rescue them, then drowns. \n\nTLDR\nThings that may look safe can be deadly. Follow rules and advice, because they exist to keep you alive, not to deter your fun.", "How to give yourself a Heimlich. Other people is important too but sometimes you are solo and choking and I promise you it a fucking terrifying.", "don't carry any cr", "That air filters need to be changed every three months for your central in home air system. Learning this the hard way myself as a first time home owner with my current one all gunked up, choking my furnace at 1130 at night with all stores closed. Negative 12 degrees Celsius tonight, pray for me lmao.", "Looking through and want to add one I haven’t seen yet:\n\nHow to get yourself and others (especially small children) out of a car that is sinking in water. \n1) stay calm (THIS IS SO IMPORTANT IN ANY EMERGENCY!)\n2) roll down all the windows\n3) unbuckle (just incase, have a seat belt cutter in your center console or within east reach)\n4) Assist other passengers (especially if they can’t do it themselves ie children)\n5) climb out through the windows and swim to safety \n\nHonestly there are so many terrible situations you could find yourself in. As someone who has severe anxiety and intrusive thoughts it has helped me SO MUCH to research how to survive in any given situation. And don’t just look it up once. If you have a family, or roommates, or even if you are on your own practice what to do in those situations. Have a plan for when something happens. Example: Your house catches on fire. What do you do? What do you need to have ready to grab at a moments notice? How do you get out? Where do you meet up? It may sound crazy or over the top, but you will feel better knowing that there is a plan in place just incase. You don’t want to be in the moment needing a plan and not having one.", "How to attach the winter chains in your trunk to your tires. Learning in the snow whilst stuck is miserable.", "Lawyer. Passport. Lock pick. Gun. \nhttps://youtu.be/6ihrGNGesfI\n\nA presentation by Deviant Ollam about risk and preparedness.", "If your Check Engine Oil light comes on, you should have gotten that baby checked a looong time ago. Check your oil regularly.", "How to use a fire extinguisher. \n\nPASS\n\nPull - Pull the pin. People forget this and the extinguisher won't work unless the pin is gone\n\nAim - Aim at the base of the fire. Not the top \n\nSqueeze - Squeeze the trigger and it will discharge. \n\nSweep - While aiming the base, sweep side to side while slowly walking towards the fire. \n\nIf you use the fire extinguisher, use the entire thing. Once it is discharged, it is done. It has to recharged or discarded so use the the entire thing if in doubt.\n\n\nAlso, how to check your smoke alarms. You should check them monthly. Fires strike unexpectedly and smoke detector are there to keep you safe.", "First aid personnel here: how to swim, how to use an Epi-Pen, and how to actually speak to 911. How to save someone who is choking, how to administer narcan.", "keep a glass breaker, a set of battery charger cables, a spare petrol canister, a swiss army knife, a mariners compass, and few hundred bucks in your vehicle as a safe storage . These could save your life in tough situations.", "how to deal with a tail spin when driving. foot off the pedals, steer gently the opposite way of spin, and out. drive to the conditions. bridges ice first!", "Your. Location.\n\nPractice articulating where you are. \"I'm at home and my address is [address].\" \"I'm on I-70 westbound just east of Wadsworth.\" \"I'm at the southwest corner of 6th and Broadway.\"\n\nIf 911 can't find you, they cannot send help.", "Where your closest hospital is. \n\nWhat to do/pack in a natural disaster in your area. I moved to an area where there were wildfires and i was VERY unprepared for what to do expect from when a wildfire is creeping up and you need to quickly evacuate.\n\nGoing along with that, knowing the local wildlife in your area and how to be safe. If you have mountain lions , bears, snakes, etc what do you do to stay safe. \n\nAnaphylaxis signs and symptoms. It’s not always the typical “hitch” movie face swelling. \n\nRecognizing breathing distress/retractions/belly breathing.\n\nDo not go down the slide with a baby/toddler/kid in your lap, that’s how kids break their leg.", "To pick a lock (kids like to lock things before realizing they will need a key to open it after, and if you don’t have a key, know how to pick a lock could save you time and money or more) \n\nI’ve always thought I should know how to hot wire a car just in case of emergency but I’ve never had the opportunity but if I ever get the chance to learn I’m definitely going to be taking notes", "People who are drowning don't splash a lot, and usually don't yell (*if they could breath enough to yell they wouldn't be drowning*).\n\nPeople drowning are usually just struggling quietly. They're often just keeping their face above water, or they could be dipping blow the water.\n\nYou can probably look up videos of what drowning looks like. Alternatively, we had a lifeguard jump in to save my wife at the local pool when she was trying to shoot me with a supersoaker. She's a reasonable swimmer, but she's not quite strong enough to keep herself above water with just her legs (*without using her arms*), so when she was holding the water-gun with both hands and trying to aim she looked exactly like a drowning swimmer. You could try something similar to see what it looks like, just make sure whatever you try is something you can drop. You don't want to have anything tied to you, or otherwise potentially risk an unintentional actual drowning.", "Not so much an immediate need, but it’s important to be proactive with ones Living will/wishes should their decision making be impaired. I’ve seen too many folks lose capacity and have their loved ones say “ NO PAIN MEDS OR SEDATIVES” for their loved one because it makes them sleepy and loopy. Meanwhile, their 55 year old mom/dad with calciphylaxis (look it up, horrifying and incredibly painful) suffers and is transferred to the ICU to die in pain. \n\nAdditionally, to have a will/Estate. When one’s care much be taken over entirely by the government, there’s a 5 year look back/clawback. If you sign your house over to your kids a year before you require Medicaid/Medicare and a nursing home, the government can and likely will take that property back.", "How to shut off the gas line or water line in your house. And to have appropriate wrench to shut each off.", "How to put out different kinds of fire. \nHow to get out of a car in case of a bad accident and a door is stuck.\nWhat to do if acceleration is stuck and the car won't slow down", "How to properly perform the Heimlich maneuver.\n\nMy dad was chocking at our house. I spent what felt like a lifetime trying to save him. Eventually lowered my hands a bit below his rib cage and immediately was able to dislodge it.\n\nIt’s a pretty simple to do, but your hands need to be correctly placed. I’d recommend taking a bit of time out of your day just to know how it needs to be done. Could save a life.", "How to clean your gutters and make sure they drain properly away from the house. How to service you appliances, clean vacuum filers, clean refrigerator coil, clean dishwasher drain, clear dryer vent, etc. Inspect roof and foundation.", "How cr", "Here’s another, buy a Bluetooth OBD reader for cheap on Amazon. Then get a decent app like I found and monitor your car. DO RESEARCH. It helps to know how things work and keeps your brain agile to learn even in your older ages. Most people will find working on cars isn’t nearly as bad when you have advanced diagnostics available. Buy some tools to start with and go from there. What you save a year will surely covered the cost of more advanced tools if you choose to do so. For me having a small business on the side helps as all new tools can be claimed as it’s to work on my truck which doubles as a business vehicle.", "Heavily daily drinking, daily drinking alone… will ruin your life. Eventually. Give it time. It will.", "General car knowledge for male or female. You never know when you will be stuck on the side of the road, having to change a tire. Same goes for adding fluids to your engine. I've seen a few people mess up their vehicles because of lack of knowledge\n\nAlso: Read a map book. GPS maps aren't always going to be available when you need them\n\nAnother one: How to use a OTA (Over The Air) antenna for tv reception. Why are you paying $85.00 a month to watch cable when you only are interested in local news?", "Check your home for Radon gas in the basement. A typical vent system costs @ 1 K and could save your life.", "Any first aid I'd say is pretty valuable. Aside from this: \nSide effects of any meds that you take\n\nFine print on the contracts that you sign\n\nHealth insurance - what's covered and what's not\n\nWhen you fly and get travelers insurance - how to get in touch with the insurance company when you need to from abroad.\n\nCar service roadside assistance numbers\n\nHow to change a spare tire, and if you have a spare tire and where the tools are.", "The Heimlich. Heard my gf choking in the other room when she was eating lunch, ran out and performed it for the first time in my life. Just knowing the basics was enough for my brain to go autopilot and help her out", "Not life and death per say but knowing how to shut off the water at your house if there is a pipe burst can be the difference between a small clean up bill and losing all your belongings to water damage", "If you run out of gas and call AAA you’ll need to pay for the gas used in cash. Make sure to hide some cash in your car just in case.", "How to swim\n\nHow to drive \n\nHow to put out a grease fire \n\nThe emergency exit location \n\nWhat safe sex is", "How to properly use an epipen. I've been agonizing over my trainer pen because yeah, it goes in your outer though- but *where* exactly on your outer thigh? And how do you avoid veins?", "Contact numbers in an emergency.\nMy partner had a medical emergency one night night home alone with our then 6 year old son. I was two hours away but had no one to look after our son while she was in ambulance on her way to hospital and I was still en route.\nKnowing my neighbour’s phone number was more valuable than 000 in the end.\n\nMake friends with people you live near.\nIt worth more than you can imagine.", "As a teacher whose school was hit with an active shooter hoax this week— getting the kids to grab a weapon is my consideration. We don’t practice it during drills, and I would bet your kids don’t either. They need to grab a weapon and be ready to kill.", " Of course, knowledge of CPR is *very important*. I originally took classes because of partner's health problems. Then I had no idea that one day, I would use these skills for myself.\n\n That day was New Year's Day 2005. My fiancee and I went to a local bar to watch the games, drink beer and have a snack. I was choking on a piece of meat, fiancee got alarmed, went to the other side of the bar to find assistance. Meanwhile, my recall of CPR classes kicked in. Looked for a barstool. Fortunately, for me, these had backs. A few thrusts just above the xyphoid process (pointy part of sternum), spat out the meat, all was good. Yes, the classes had been a good investment. I hadn't figured on using this information ***on myself***." ]

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[ "How to re-paint walls of an apartment with minimal effort They have been painted 2 ys ago, but we have to re-paint before we move out. There are no large stains on the walls. The walls are white and are being painted white. How long would it take 1 person to do it?(65 square meters).", "How to re-paint walls of an apartment with minimal effort They have been painted 2 ys ago, but we have to re-paint before we move out. There are no large stains on the walls. The walls are white and are being painted white. How long would it take 1 person to do it?(65 square meters).", "How to re-paint walls of an apartment with minimal effort They have been painted 2 ys ago, but we have to re-paint before we move out. There are no large stains on the walls. The walls are white and are being painted white. How long would it take 1 person to do it?(65 square meters).", "How to re-paint walls of an apartment with minimal effort They have been painted 2 ys ago, but we have to re-paint before we move out. There are no large stains on the walls. The walls are white and are being painted white. How long would it take 1 person to do it?(65 square meters)." ]

[ "Pizza and beer are usually cheap and successful ways to get friends to help out. Put on some music and make a little party out of it. Each willing friend divides the painting time by that much extra.", "When painting, I've found that those foam rollers do a better job than other applicators and make the job faster.", "I repainted four bedrooms in my parent's house about three years ago. With proper prep-work it took me about an hour and a half to do each one.\n\nRemove all light switch covers and power outlet covers so you don't have worry about trimming around them. Buy [one of these](http://www.homedepot.com/Paint-Paint-Tools/h_d1/N-5yc1vZbobd/R-100070177/h_d2/ProductDisplay?catalogId=10053&langId=-1&storeId=10051) to quickly trim around windows, cabinets, shelves, any other objects attached to your walls that you don't want to be painted, and the corners of walls before painting the walls themselves. This way a paint roller can get everything covered without needing to fidget around in these difficult locations.\n\nKeep a cup of water and a rag nearby to wipe away any splotches you may make.\n\nIf you're using basic white paint you can use each bucket individually. If it's an off-white, or any sort of colored paint, mix the cans together in a 5 gallon tub before you begin to make sure the color is 100% consistent as you go.\n\nWhen you start painting, use the typical \"N\" style of motion. Straight up, from floor to ceiling, angle the roller as you come back down to re-cover half of what you just painted and half new wall, straight back up to the ceiling, and repeat until you're done. You should be able to get about 3 strokes before you need to re-cover the roller in paint.\n\nAlso, don't take roller off the wall mid-roll, only at the top or bottom (Which have already been painted using the trimmer.) It's not the end of the world if you do, because you can just restart the \"N\" motion, but it's just more efficient to go floor to ceiling outright every time. If you don't think you have enough paint on the roller, stop at the end of the stroke and re-dip it.", "Don't skip priming the walls! If you used water based paint two years ago and decided to use oil based this time your walls will look like shit unless you prime! (Think an oil spill floating on water)\n\n" ]

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[ "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck.", "How to reconnect with long-distance friends? Context for those interested:\n\nI have a few long-distance friends (we're talking about *thousands* of miles separating us from each other. It *sucks*.)\n\nOne in particular stands out from the rest. Him and I used to spend hours talking to each other, texting, etc. Now it feels like he's ignoring me. I guess real life got in the way. Time zones fucking suck. Whenever I want to text him/call him, he's probably in school so I hardly reach out any more. And he does this thing where he reads my texts and then doesn't respond. It kinda pisses me off because how hard is it to reply with: \"Hey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now. I'm kinda busy.\"? \n\nMeeting them in real life is out of the question so I feel like I'm stuck." ]

[ "My dad and his 4 buddies from college have had bi-monthly phone calls for the last 30 years. Same time every two weeks, no exceptions. \n\nIt takes commitment but is a great idea if you both are commited to it. \n\nOr playing words with friends. ", "Hi, There are complicating factors either on your end or their end. You need to gain enough contact to understand what they are. Or gain enough introspection to figure out what they are. You also say 'friends', then that switches to 'him'. Is it a group, or an individual?\n\nIf it is a group, you can reconnect slowly by contacting each one with a gentle hello. Get one of them to talk to you and see if something has changed. ", "One thing my college buddies and I used to do after we graduated and scattered was do a weekly group video chat on Mondays. The fact that it was already in our plans every week helped more than anything.", "Well, I can say from experience that I'm *that guy* when it comes to one of my old buddies. We used to hang out non-stop for almost two years. Over time we drifted apart, but still kept in touch. As years went on though, I wasn't really the same person I was back then, and we didn't really connect anymore.\n\nI still consider him a friend, but I am totally guilty of ignoring him constantly. He'll call and I'll ignore it, thinking- I'll call him back and we'll chat one night, but it rarely happens. The more he sends stuff, the harder it is to make that call, because then I have to explain/excuse why I wasn't available when he reached out all those times.\n\nI hate to say it, but just move on. Some things are just memories. If my friend needed something, or I found out he was in the hospital, you can bet I'd be there in an instant. Talking about [X] for hours like we used to however, just isn't me anymore. ", "My best friend moved away a number of years ago. Something that I used to do was make videos of things that we did together with a message to him at the end. \nFor example: I took my camera along on a solo hike that we had done together and documented it Les Stroud-style. At the end I turned the camera on myself and spoke directly to my friend, telling him I missed him and was thinking about him. \n\nYou could do something similar. Just upload it to YouTube, or via text. Unbox a toy you'd both get a kick out of, show him your newest Comic/movie/article of clothing/ whatever. \nEngage him in an entertaining way. \n\nBasically bro down on film. Your friend will get a kick out of it, and you'll have fun thinking of ways to reconnect. \n\nIt worked for me. ", "I have a friend who spent a year in Japan. The time zones where completely opposite. We actually sent letters back and forth. It was amazing to receive pages and pages of handwritten and hand drawn thoughts!\n\n I now live away from friends and family. \n\nWith one of my friends, we exchange emails, much the same way. There's no pressure to answer immediately. One writes down what's been happening, what she's thinking, attaches photos or pictures (e.g. she sent me the blueprints for her flat remodelling and asked my opinion)... A while later the other answers and adds news from her end... It makes a big difference not feeling pressured to answer immediately, because sometimes life doesn't allow for that.\n\nI have a friend with whom I'll sometimes video chat, when both of us happen to be online and not too busy. With others, we actually have to arrange a time to chat.\n\nI exchange news with friends and acquaintances through Facebook, which is a bit less personal, but it works for more casual things...", "I'm in the same boat. ive lost contact with a good friend when she moved away. I'll give you some advice that i have learned.. Reach out and ask what is going on. be blunt about it. Ive tried reconnecting but my messages get read and ignored. i think its because they were very unpersonalized messages (hey, whats up) type thing instead of something more engaging. Prepare for the worst (something i didnt do) after about a week of trying to contact her, all of which were not responded to i figured its time to give up. she can talk to me when/if she wants to.", "I would say try and add them on Facebook or Skype. If they want to stay in touch with you, then they will. I wouldn't make an effort if they aren't will to.", "Get his snail mail address and write him a letter. It is tangible may be he will write one back. Connect." ]

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[ "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?", "How to get wrinkles out of clothes without a dryer or iron. I'm currently in Italy and our apartment does not have a dryer or iron. Is there any possible way to get clothes wrinkle free without either of those?" ]

[ "Use the shower. Run hot water and hang your clothes inside the shower to steam the wrinkles out of them.", "i heard fabric softner + water in a spray bottle works.... not sure the ratio tho?... or you can do what my dad claimed he did as a kid.... put your wrinkly clothes between your mattress and boxspring before you go to bed", "[This stuff](http://www.amazon.com/Downy-Wrinkle-Releaser-33-8-oz/dp/B001LFCS9Y/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1347901339&sr=8-1&keywords=wrinkle+release) works wonders.", "You can try spraying some water on wrinkles and use your hand to smoothen them out. After that, hang them for the water to dry. ", "Wrinkle Releaser Recipe:\n\n1 Cup of Distilled Water\n1 Tablespoon of Fabric Softener\nAdd both ingredients into a spray bottle, shake it up. Spray \"wrinkle releaser\" on clothing, smoothing out any wrinkles (works best if you lay clothes flat) then hang to dry. (or use hair dryer on warm, not hot, setting)\n\nNotes:\nDon’t saturate the cloth, use just enough to lightly mist the wrinkles, because it can leave spots on light colored clothes. Works best on cotton and cotton/blends. \n", "When I am making my morning coffee, I boil some hot water in a hot pot. When the steam is exiting the lipped opening, I move my pants or blouse over the opening to get the wrinkles out. Once the wrinkles are gone, I throw the hot water into my french press. :)", "Make wrinkle releaser cheaply with unscented liquid fabric softener (about two tablespoons), a cup of water and a cup of rubbing alcohol. Shake it up. Spray it on the clothes and smooth out the wrinkles. \n\nYou need a spray bottle with a fine mist spray, like a Febreeze bottle or an empty Downy wrinkle release bottle. Plain water will work okay as well, but the fabric softener does something to the fabric (softens it, I guess) and the alcohol makes it dry quicker than if you just used water.", "I know people use hair straighteners! (Not too much heat obviously) If you don't have access, I'd use a different technique listed", "Avoiding getting wrinkles in your laundry in the first place. Pull them out and put them away as soon as the dryer is finished. The best way to do this is by pulling out your clothes from the dryer and put them away as soon as the dryer is finished to avoid any potential wrinkles.Never leave your clothes in the dryer. \nIf you do leave your clothes in the dryer after it stops, the motion of the clothes also stops. The clothes in the dryer are piled on top of each other and will wrinkle due to their positions and the weight of other clothes around them. The cooler air will allow wrinkles in clothes to set, so properly hanging or folding your laundry while it is warm will prevent wrinkles. Preventing is better than curing. " ]

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[ "How to discreetly stop yourself from yawning while in a conversation. I was just having a one on one conversation with someone and as she was talking I felt the yawn coming on but couldn't do anything to stop it.\n\nAre there any tricks that can be done in this situation to stop the yawn? I hate to come across as bored or uninterested in what someone is saying. Often times I'm just sleep deprived.", "How to discreetly stop yourself from yawning while in a conversation. I was just having a one on one conversation with someone and as she was talking I felt the yawn coming on but couldn't do anything to stop it.\n\nAre there any tricks that can be done in this situation to stop the yawn? I hate to come across as bored or uninterested in what someone is saying. Often times I'm just sleep deprived.", "How to discreetly stop yourself from yawning while in a conversation. I was just having a one on one conversation with someone and as she was talking I felt the yawn coming on but couldn't do anything to stop it.\n\nAre there any tricks that can be done in this situation to stop the yawn? I hate to come across as bored or uninterested in what someone is saying. Often times I'm just sleep deprived.", "How to discreetly stop yourself from yawning while in a conversation. I was just having a one on one conversation with someone and as she was talking I felt the yawn coming on but couldn't do anything to stop it.\n\nAre there any tricks that can be done in this situation to stop the yawn? I hate to come across as bored or uninterested in what someone is saying. Often times I'm just sleep deprived." ]

[ "I find that the best method for myself is to keep my mouth closed, breathe very deeply through my nose and look directly into the brightest light I can see. I have heard that yawning is due to a lack of oxygen, so taking deeper breaths can help.", "I bite my tongue on the side (without it poking out or bulging). I have to work hard to keep my facial muscles relaxed, but usually I can pull it off with a raised eyebrow and a few fingers over my mouth in a \"concerned but interested\" look.", "Go ahead and yawn and say \"so sorry, I got 3 hours of sleep last night and it's catching up with me\".", "Actually the lack of oxygen thing is a misconception. Yawning helps to keep the brain cool so that it can operate at max efficiency. \n\nhttp://www.wsj.com/articles/the-real-reason-we-yawn-1408403897\n\nI tend to open my teeth just a little but to keep my mouth shut, for some reason that helps me keep the yawn in a little better. " ]

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[ "How are successful people so energetic and always \"on\"even though they work ridiculous hours and how can I be this way? I've met several people like this: successful people that seem to always be \"on\" and working ALL the time; yet they never look tired even though most work 12+ hours a day.\nHow can I be more like that? I'm exhausted by the time I come home from working 9 to 6 and barely able to work on my side projects (I want to eventually be independent and not work for someone else)\nCan you relate?\nDISCLAIMER: I can't drink coffee, so caffeine isn't an option for me :(", "How are successful people so energetic and always \"on\"even though they work ridiculous hours and how can I be this way? I've met several people like this: successful people that seem to always be \"on\" and working ALL the time; yet they never look tired even though most work 12+ hours a day.\nHow can I be more like that? I'm exhausted by the time I come home from working 9 to 6 and barely able to work on my side projects (I want to eventually be independent and not work for someone else)\nCan you relate?\nDISCLAIMER: I can't drink coffee, so caffeine isn't an option for me :(", "How are successful people so energetic and always \"on\"even though they work ridiculous hours and how can I be this way? I've met several people like this: successful people that seem to always be \"on\" and working ALL the time; yet they never look tired even though most work 12+ hours a day.\nHow can I be more like that? I'm exhausted by the time I come home from working 9 to 6 and barely able to work on my side projects (I want to eventually be independent and not work for someone else)\nCan you relate?\nDISCLAIMER: I can't drink coffee, so caffeine isn't an option for me :(", "How are successful people so energetic and always \"on\"even though they work ridiculous hours and how can I be this way? I've met several people like this: successful people that seem to always be \"on\" and working ALL the time; yet they never look tired even though most work 12+ hours a day.\nHow can I be more like that? I'm exhausted by the time I come home from working 9 to 6 and barely able to work on my side projects (I want to eventually be independent and not work for someone else)\nCan you relate?\nDISCLAIMER: I can't drink coffee, so caffeine isn't an option for me :(", "How are successful people so energetic and always \"on\"even though they work ridiculous hours and how can I be this way? I've met several people like this: successful people that seem to always be \"on\" and working ALL the time; yet they never look tired even though most work 12+ hours a day.\nHow can I be more like that? I'm exhausted by the time I come home from working 9 to 6 and barely able to work on my side projects (I want to eventually be independent and not work for someone else)\nCan you relate?\nDISCLAIMER: I can't drink coffee, so caffeine isn't an option for me :(", "How are successful people so energetic and always \"on\"even though they work ridiculous hours and how can I be this way? I've met several people like this: successful people that seem to always be \"on\" and working ALL the time; yet they never look tired even though most work 12+ hours a day.\nHow can I be more like that? I'm exhausted by the time I come home from working 9 to 6 and barely able to work on my side projects (I want to eventually be independent and not work for someone else)\nCan you relate?\nDISCLAIMER: I can't drink coffee, so caffeine isn't an option for me :(" ]

[ "They keep themselves healthy. To do that, you should keep hydrated, eat fruits instead of added sugars, do a little work out everyday (it can be really small, 5-10 minutes small).\nAnd most successful people have a good mindset. They maybe tired, but they just don't show it.", "Cardio Exercise, specifically running. If you can bring yourself physically to the point where you can run the 10k twice a week, you'll have a tremendous amount of energy and feel indestructible. Compared to that things like diet, lifting, nofap, m", "They like what they do. And most of the time successful people aren't doing a repetitive task for a long period of time like most jobs. ", "Are your bed and pillow letting you have enough rest? I'm not successful (possible the opposite) but man, I was sleeping at a super soft bed and couldn't even wake up early (3-4pm) because I was tired all the time; once i changed beds to a firmer one I was magically waking up at normal morning hours.", "I'm like this I guess, I make sure physically I'm feeling good. I drink those kickstarts because they're light on caffeine but I drink water too to stay healthy. Occasionally I make sure to do something strenuous because hard work, to a degree, is good for you. Tldr: stay healthy. I also enjoy people which helps. ", "I am happy at what i do, and i do things that i like after work. I get up in the morning, i go to work, i go home, i play games, i sleep, i repeat.\n\nAlso, im now paying for my own apartment for the next 5 years so i got that going for me which is a reminder for me that i need to work my ass off for this apartment" ]

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[ "How to organize when moving to a smaller apartment? I moved into an apartment fairly recently (it's been like 6 months but we don't talk about that) and want to tackle the leftover boxes with random things. My apartment doesn't have much storage space, such that my kitchen already regularly has things that are always on the counter or on top of the fridge. I have a lot of duplicates of things that I can't decide if I need and if so, where/how to store (multiple torch lighters, lots of old electronics equipment that I'll surely need someday, things I'm trying to sell/get rid of, etc). Halp?", "How to organize when moving to a smaller apartment? I moved into an apartment fairly recently (it's been like 6 months but we don't talk about that) and want to tackle the leftover boxes with random things. My apartment doesn't have much storage space, such that my kitchen already regularly has things that are always on the counter or on top of the fridge. I have a lot of duplicates of things that I can't decide if I need and if so, where/how to store (multiple torch lighters, lots of old electronics equipment that I'll surely need someday, things I'm trying to sell/get rid of, etc). Halp?" ]

[ "Best advise I ever got. Everytime you question if you should keep something ask yourself 2 questions. Have I used it in the last year? If not, is it replaceable, can you always get another one? Yes, gone. \n", "Go vertical! Get shelves that go up against the wall. Because if you run out of floor space always go up!\n\nAlso stop hording let go of those useless items. If it's old ethier throw it away or buy and new one. If it has \"memories\" but it's always in the way then love it, use it one last time, take a picture and toss it out. The empty space makes you more happier than dealing with some old rusted junk" ]

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[ "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?", "Stop shoes from squeaking Some relatively expensive Asics sneakers started squeaking a while ago (making a loud noise like air was being released) whenever I take a step. Is there anything I can do so they don't go unused?" ]

[ "In my experience, every squeeky shoe was worn out and old, or it had stepped in oil and wasn't petroleum resistant. Either way, I just think of it as a \"time to get new shoes\" alarm.", "put a tack with a flat bottom into the shoe so it punctures the rubber part and the next layer, but obviously it has to be short enough to not penetrate all the way through. This will stop the squeaking.\n\n", "My beat-to-hell work shoes do this. People always comment on it. What I decided to do was not give one shit about it and keep living my life with my squeaky shoe. Best of luck to you though!", "I remember I used to play basketball in a league and the coach advised us to spray hairspray on the bottom of our sneakers so that they wouldn't make noise while we played. It actually worked quite well.", "Put a push-pin into the lose rubber from underneath the sole of the shoe. Usually they squeak because of a loose layer ", "I used lotion on a pair of squeaky shoes once and that worked very well. Keep rubbing it in on the inside and outside until it goes away.", "I had a pair of nikes that did this. They were old, but I set them out in the sun for a whole day. Stopped after that. ", "And this is near my front page...should we be worried? \n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/todayilearned/comments/1i8aby/til_that_the_nij%C5%8D_palace_in_kyoto_has_special/\n\n", "Try sanding them a little. I once read that to stop squeaky brakes on your bike, you sand the rubber bit that pressures the rims and it worked! Since your shoes are rubber too, give it a go!" ]

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[ "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?", "How do I become better at social conversation? I'm 20 years old. I'm normally that quiet, weird, awkward guy who's always just sitting there. When conversation begins, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I do talk, I do contribute, but not for long. I do love the flow of a good conversation, but eventually, I just don't know what else to say. I don't *want* to end the conversation, on the contrary. I want to keep it going.\n\nI feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\", or nothing at all. They probably get the feeling that I don't care about what they have to say, but I do. I guess I have nothing to contribute because most things don't relate to me. But I know things don't have to relate to me just to continue conversation. I guess it's here where I start messing up.\n\nJust basically think of me as a person with no history or experience in social back-and-forthing. What tips would you recommend to a social retard?" ]

[ "Asking questions is a good way to keep the conversation flowing. Asking GOOD questions is even better. Don't ask Yes/No question continuously because that kills the conversation quick. Instead ask questions that requires an input of opinion or emotion. \n\nFor example you ask, \"Where are you from?\" She might say, \"LA.\" Normal people might ask oh where in LA? But a better question in this scenario would be \"What made you decided to move up here?\" Then proceed to follow up with \"How would you compare the two cities in terms of [food], [bars], [whatever].\" This creates a question that requires her to think of an answer (instead of Yes/No) and brings more material into discussion (Oh I love Japanese food too!).\n\nAn EVEN better alternative is make assumptions. No, not those type of assumptions. The question/answer format of a conversation can get boring, but if you throw in an assumption like \"I bet LA has a much better bar scene than San Francisco.\" Make a statement that requires compare/contrast. This prompts her to say either, \"No way, LA is much better because blah blah.\" or \"San Francisco is much more exciting compared to LA.\" This makes her ask you questions (Why'd you think LA has a better bar scene than San Francisco?) and naturally keeps the conversation moving.\n\nGood luck!", "I'm a bit awkward in conversations too, mostly with new people. Here's what's helped me: when you're deep in a conversation and have nothing left to say, ask questions. Stay on topic, of course, but ask away and learn something new. If you don't have any knowledge in what a person (or group of people) is talking about, don't feel left out, ask them to clarify something or explain the basics of the topic, and be genuinely interested in what they're saying. If they're interested in a specific topic they'd be more than happy to talk to you about it, as long as you don't seem bored and you remember to keep engaging them in their interests.\n\nAnd make people laugh, this has helped me out immensely, it's impossible to feel awkward when you're sharing a good laugh with a new friend. ", "Get a job doing tech support by phone. After spending 7.5 hours a day talking to people you'll be forced to get comfortable at it.", "Asking questions is always good. People love talking about themselves and therefore will like you for listening. Also asking questions about a topic that you don't know very much about will make the other person feel knowledgeable, which will also make it more enjoyable for them to interact to you. The more positive social interactions you have, the more confidence you'll gain in your conversational ability. ", "check out \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" by Dale Carnegie. This is one of the oldest and best self help books in history. The secret is being selfless in your conversations. Ask questions, stay on the topics of what the other person is interested. Strangely, they will find you interesting when you do this. \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/1439167346/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1317411130&sr=1-1", "Rent 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' from your local library. Small book, big tips. Also try a hypnosis or self affirmation regarding your self-esteem. \n\n\nAlso, get out there and just throw yourself at people. Jump in before you consider all the bad things that can happen, then deal with the consequences, which undoubtedly will be positive more often than not.", "A wise man speaks because he has something to say, a fool speaks because he has to say something.\n\nTry to avoid using the word \"but\" in your speech. \"But\" Is a negation, everything that comes before the but is \"shit\", literally irrelevant utterances.\n\nWhenever you hear someone declare something, and it's followed by a but, whatever you heard was completely irrelevant. Also, in public speaking, try to eliminate \"uhh's\" and \"umm's\" and things like that. Try to say your point in one statement, speak slowly if you must(slow deliberate speech is a common technique used for mass hypnosis, look at how Obama speaks, look at how Krishnamurti spoke).\n\nAlso try not to negate other people's statements, it's preferable to use \"and\", over \"or\" and \"but\". Statements with \"or\" in them tend to dichotomise choices, which can be useful if you're trying to influence someone to seeing your point of view, however, it can also limit the scope of a conversation. \n\nUse connecting words, like: \"concordantly\", \"furthermore\", \"in addition\", \"subsequently\", \"upon which\"; also, you can use words like \"however\", \"although\" instead of using \"but\".\n\nMaking these changes are not easy, notably because, we use words like \"and\", \"or\", and \"but\", without being conscious of the way they modify the content of the phrases we utter.", "Don't watch TV ever and practice in situations that are as comfortable and non-threatening as possible (home, family/friend's houses, etc).", "This sounds exactly like me. I'd have to agree with the other answers though. When I can think of a nice, open question to ask, the conversation flows a whole lot smoother, and often other questions arise naturally.", "Start by saying \"hi\" to people you pass by. It's almost always universally a 'Hi\" back. It will give you confidence to move to the next step. If they don't say \"hi\", then pay attention to HOW you said hi. Most communication is non verbal...your tone, your volume, your posture, etc.\n\nThe point is, after enough \"hi\", you'll have more confidence. Go with that and see if you can't make some small talk with people around you... at a bus stop... in line.. etc. Notice something around you and just remark on it.\n\nAfter you move on from that, start bringing in things you've seen or thought about during the day. Make it relevant. The person that brings information into conversation gets to lead the conversation. Your mission is to lead a conversation. Be excited about sharing.\n\nMost people who are shy, do not lead conversations. Try leading a conversation. Talk about things that people will always take an interest in: politics, religion, sex, food. These are things that are personal and they are going to be your best conversations.", "Simply put. Just be yourself. It's cheesy and corny and cliche, but it's true. People can immediately tell when you aren't being genuine, and being genuine, no matter what kind of person you genuinely are, is attractive. So you are shy, quiet, weird, and awkward...embrace it. Make conversation by asking questions, let them talk, and when you can add in things.\n\nBut most importantly, just be a little awkward since that is who you are. People will then grow closer to you and become better friends and just see you as my good friend _______...he's a little awkward and it's nerdy and funny, but super cool too.\n\nEmbrace yo face broseph.\n", "Along with all the good advice of others here, I would also emphasize practice. This will boost your confidence as well as your abilities to converse.\n\nI do this all the time at check out counters where people are forced to be friendly with you. A nearly universal question they ask is \"How are you?\" or \"How is your day?\" Make a point of answering them, and then asking the same question of them. It's easy, fairly predictable, and quick.\n\n>I feel like crap when someone's talking to me and all I could say is \"Yeah\", \"Mhm\"\n\nTry your hardest to maintain eye contact. Don't stare. Strive for ~80%. That, more than anything, shows interest. Also slightly leaning in is body language for interest (you want to listen more closely).\n\nAs well as Dale Carnegie's book, I also recommend The Fine Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Fine-Art-Small-Talk-Conversation/dp/1401302262/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1317630196&sr=8-1\n", "* What do you do?\n* Where are you from?\n* How has your day been? \n* Cool top, where did you get it?\n* Did you hear about xyz in the news?\n* Have a look around, find something interesting, make that observation.\n* Describe anything noteworthy that happened in your day. \n* If all else fails you can always provoke a conversation with how hot/cold/wet etc. it is. ", "> What tips would you recommend to a social retard?\n\nFind a better way to spend your time than talking with people who don't interest you." ]

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[ "How to not apologize excessively for things you have not reason apologizing for? I apologize excessively, for things I shouldn't apologize for, and I'm realizing it puts the blame on me. How do I acknowledge a situation w/o needing to apologize? ", "How to not apologize excessively for things you have not reason apologizing for? I apologize excessively, for things I shouldn't apologize for, and I'm realizing it puts the blame on me. How do I acknowledge a situation w/o needing to apologize? " ]

[ "Instead of saying my bad or im sorry for doing that try saying I'm sorry to hear that happened to you or im sorry your having a rough day.\n\nBasically change the connotation from you regret owning the blame to empathizing or consoling the person ", "\"damn\" just say that. Make sure to change the tone depending on the scenario. Like, say it with remorse if something said happened, or with excitement if something awesome happened. If it's controversial, just say damn like you would if no emotions were present." ]

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[ "oh way to get bees/wasps to avoid you while you’re gardening I have some gardening I desperately need to get done but I am also afraid of wasps and bees. I don’t wanna get stung, how do I get them to avoid me while I get my work done?", "oh way to get bees/wasps to avoid you while you’re gardening I have some gardening I desperately need to get done but I am also afraid of wasps and bees. I don’t wanna get stung, how do I get them to avoid me while I get my work done?", "oh way to get bees/wasps to avoid you while you’re gardening I have some gardening I desperately need to get done but I am also afraid of wasps and bees. I don’t wanna get stung, how do I get them to avoid me while I get my work done?", "oh way to get bees/wasps to avoid you while you’re gardening I have some gardening I desperately need to get done but I am also afraid of wasps and bees. I don’t wanna get stung, how do I get them to avoid me while I get my work done?", "oh way to get bees/wasps to avoid you while you’re gardening I have some gardening I desperately need to get done but I am also afraid of wasps and bees. I don’t wanna get stung, how do I get them to avoid me while I get my work done?", "oh way to get bees/wasps to avoid you while you’re gardening I have some gardening I desperately need to get done but I am also afraid of wasps and bees. I don’t wanna get stung, how do I get them to avoid me while I get my work done?" ]

[ "I've had good results by setting up a small bowl, filled with some clay shards from a broken planting pot and enough water, that the shards are soaked with water(but still walkable for wasps and bees) in a remote, elevated place of my garden.\nThey find their way there, stay to drink and buzz of.", "Wear white or muted colors when gardening. Dark colors like black and brown are perceived as threats. They also apparently perceive red as black, so wearing red can also make you appear as a threat. But also be careful not to wear colors that are too bright. Though not perceived as a threat, they can be attracted to bright colors as they are to flowers.", "Vicks Vaporub \n\nMy Mom swore by it.\n\nRub a little bit on the outsides of your shoes and the top of your sunhat. It really seems to work.", "Take a brown paper bag, crumple and stuff with newspaper then hang near your garden. Wasps are territorial and will think its a big wasp nest and won't hang around. Otherwise just move slowly and mind your business. They will leave you alone so long as you don't start flailing arms etc", "Please be more thorough in the description of your problem. How many bees/wasps a week/day are we talking about? How many times have you been stung in the past? What were you doing when you got stung? What kind of climate are you in? What type of garden do you have? Are you allergic to bees?", "Toss some cucumber peels around your garden. \n\nI also suggest planting some basil. They are put off by the fragrance.\n\nBy the way I googled your exact question and got these results." ]

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[ "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing.", "How to Gain the Confidence to Look People in the Eye Without Fear When I'm with good friends, it's not hard at all. But when it comes to coworkers, customers, or strangers, I usually freeze when they talk to me, especially when they look me in the eye. I end up not saying much back or stutter or blab weird stuff, mostly stutter. \n\nHelp? I really beat myself up for not socializing like a normal person and it's embarrassing." ]

[ "I used to be terrified of public speaking. \n\nThen I decided to get over my fear by signing up to do competitive public speaking in FBLA in high school. \n\nFrom there, I started working as a tour guide in my hometown (a huge historical tourism destination). I did that for ten years before becoming an English teacher and moving overseas. \n\nAnd there was one piece of advice that started my journey: you have to act confident to be confident. \n\nHonestly to start off with I created an alternate version of myself, slightly changed my look, and \"acted\". But before long it was so easy and natural to me that I didn't have to do that anymore. \n\nRefuse to label yourself as awkward around people. There is a person within you who confidently looks people in the eye, knows exactly what to say, and owns his/herself proudly and unapologetically. Find that person inside and own them. \n", "For me making eye contact is the best way to judge a person. I'm a very good judge of character and when I meet eye contact I can see if their nice/ shy/ bitchy etc. Sometimes you might find people look at you to intimidate you, but unless your getting told of most of the time its just to read your facial experiences and see the type of person you are. \nSo instead of thinking of what they are thinking about you, make eye contact and think about the type of person they are, study their facial expressions. Practice doing this during funny situations when their laughing or smiling to ease yourself in, there's nothing intimidating about a joke. ", "Well, in high school I had mustache for almost the entire first year. I couldn't look anyone in the eyes longer than a few seconds.\n\nThe day I shaved, damn, I was staring. Literally staring. I now sometimes don't look people in the eyes all the time while I talk, but while they talk to me I look them in the eyes.\n\nSo in my case it was something on my body. Maybe you feel insecure about something? If yes, can you fix it? ", "This worked for me: Start small, start looking into the eyes of babies, then children and work your way up till you are comfortable looking into everybody's eyes.", "Just pretend. Look at the top of their nose or focus your vision so that you're looking right through them", "It's all about the love. Seriously. Try to develop good feelings towards more people. See good in them and it will reflect back. ", "I used to be like that in high school plus I had anxiety. And I usually just looked down when walking so I wouldnt make eye contact with anyone. Still have anxiety but I learned to force myself to keep eye contact until the fear and anxiety slowly went away. Just do it and you will slowly get used to it. specially the opposite sex so you build confidence. ", "Confidence is a gift that only you can give to yourself. No one else is going to make you confident. It is just something that you have to do. Ar first you will most likely have to act. Practice your posture and try to use less passive body signals. Dont yell, but have a firm and audible tone of voice. Just pretend to be confident. If you can do this for long enough then it will just grow on you and you wont be acting any more.\nI used to be a shy guy, but back in high school I figured this out. I dont remember when it transitioned from just acting to being a part of me, it just happens naturally. Now everyone thinks that Im this super confident guy (24yo). ", "Body language. Puff your chest out and straighten your posture, it sounds dumb but you will feel the difference. If you worry about a stutter or saying something that'll make you sound stupid just talk more without being as judgmental about yourself and it'll get better quick." ]

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[ "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!", "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!", "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!", "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!", "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!", "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!", "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!", "How to train myself to not become nauseous on planes My job has changed and now I have to fly multiple times a month. I get nauseous about 75% of my flights, regardless of turbulence. \n\nI searched the LPT archives but found nothing I haven't already tried (medication - makes me super sleepy and for my short flights I need to be able to drive when I arrive so that's not an option; ginger - I H.A.T.E! the taste of ginger so just the thought of having to eat/smell/drink it makes me more nauseous; menthol/minty things - also make me nauseous regardless of whether I've ingested it or used an oil).\n\nSo my request: is there anything I can do to train myself to not because nauseous? Like exercises I can do with my head so that my inner ear becomes more tolerant or something like that? \n\nThe only thing I've found so far that helps prevent nausea (ergo the 25% of the time where I'm not feeling sick), is to listen to music and actually mildly dance in my seat. I guess it tricks my inner ear, because my body is in motion? This works for a shortish flight, but gets exhausting eventually. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "I get severe motion sickness. Here's a few things that have helped:\n\n1. Eat light and avoid caffeine/alcohol like the plague\n2. Try to sit on the wing of the plane - less motion there\n3. Don't read, don't get on your computer/phone\n4. Let the air vents blow on you\n5. Close your eyes and listen to music\n6. Grab the inside of your wrist and push down on your pressure point (about 1 inch down from your palm)\n\nGood luck and I feel for you.\n", "You have tried the seasickness bracelets? One of my coworkers used them while she was pregnant. It might take the edge off.", "I don't get motion sickness but, I have a lot of friends who do.\n\nSince you can't tolerate ginger, try this. Take a Zantac or Pepsid (antacids) an hour before your flight. It's that bile rising through your throat that makes it bad. This cuts the sensation.\n\nNext up, bring some chewable antacids, like fruit flavoured Tums. At the first feeling of nausea, start chewing them one by one.\n\n\n\nThey all swear by this. Since this is for work travel, you can probably expense it as long as you tell them.\n\nAll else fails, get a cup of lime slices from the airport bar. Sucking on limes is great for dealing with nausea. It's why people use them when drinking shitty tequila.\n\nHope it helps.\n\nPS, don't take a fuckton of antacids and eat. You'll have some really stinky (undigested) shits.\n\nPPS, make sure your sinuses are taken care of. The whole inner-ear thing and whatnot. But, as motion sickness sufferer, I'm sure you know that.\n\nPPPS, had an Army buddy, we were an airborne unit, who would throw up in the plane, he even threw up under canopy (parachute). Back then we didn't have over the counter drugs like Pepsid. Put him on Tums and the grossness stopped.\n\n", "This is a weird one but I've seen it work during labor and it worked for me during pregnancy was a quick (super fast) sniff of an open isopropyl alcohol wipe. Like the ones in first aid kits. It doesn't solve it completely but it helped me \"reset\" to gain 5-10 minutes. \n\nDoes not work if nausea is from alcohol related hangover.", "If you are against ginger (which if you could get used to, i would suggest it; it is miles better than anything else), I would suggest sour candies. They don't have to be Warhead level sour, but even some Sour Patch Kids can help. A lot of candies out there for morning sickness use this.\n\nI fly practically every week for work and have found that most things that used to bug me (slight nausea, ears popping, intestinal issues) have subsided as I continued to do it regularly. That might happen for you as well.", "Try a ginger supplement. Even though you hate the taste you could knock it down with one little tablet. They might have different flavours or you could have it with juice to take the edge off", "Hey! I am a consultant that flies 42 weeks of the year. Every Monday-Thursday I dreaded the flight because I would get sick like yourself. So sick that I would vomit multiple times a flight. Now I never get the slightest bit nauseous. What I found that helps is not talking to people during the flight and keeping my head straight. Especially during takeoffs and landings. Also this will sound weird, but alcohol helped me...a lot. It took my mind of me dreading getting sick on the flight. Sometimes the mind can provoke physical ailments. Anyways hope this helped, please excuse the spelling. ", "Can the company put you into a different role where travel isn't required?\n\nOtherwise, have you tried the non-drowsy Dramamine?" ]

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[ "How to properly record people or the police in public How would I record someone, if the need ever came up, without overstepping legal boundaries?\n\n", "How to properly record people or the police in public How would I record someone, if the need ever came up, without overstepping legal boundaries?\n\n", "How to properly record people or the police in public How would I record someone, if the need ever came up, without overstepping legal boundaries?\n\n", "How to properly record people or the police in public How would I record someone, if the need ever came up, without overstepping legal boundaries?\n\n", "How to properly record people or the police in public How would I record someone, if the need ever came up, without overstepping legal boundaries?\n\n" ]

[ "I think we can all agree that when publically recording an interaction, the best tip is to use landscape.", "This comes up a lot in photography forums. I suggest you do a google search on Photographers' rights. There are many misconceptions out there about what is legal. Many law enforcement officers have no idea, and often get it wrong. In general, it's not illegal to record someone in public as long as you aren't being a perv and taking pics up their dress. But again, do a search, educate yourself, and be ready for the fact that the guy with the badge and gun (or gal), may not be right, but they do have might. ", "Laws about recording people vary from state to state. Go to /r/legaladvice and post there with your location for accurate information. ", "If it's legal where you are, and you have no problem with ethics (I certainly don't), then you can use your phone to at least record audio without anyone noticing.\n\nThere are a number of good recording apps for audio. Start it and place your phone, mic side up, in a shirt pocket, or set it on a stack of stuff on a desk or by keys between you and the subject.\n\nVideo is trickier, mainly because it's so obvious. If you can find the thick Ray Ban style glasses with a camera embedded in it, that would be my choice.", "This is one of the LPT requests where there is clearly some very specific reason for OP wanting to know this, which we are not being told." ]

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[ "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward.", "How to build up self confidence. I usually have an issue where if someone initiates conversation with me, I tend to lose my confidence when speaking and fade away from them, making situations awkward." ]

[ "People are going to tell you \"fake it til you make it\". That's bullshit. Confidence comes from having something to be confident about. Work at something, accomplish something, but recognized for that thing. That's where confidence comes from.", "Seems like you're lacking a communications framework.\n\nCommunicating with others is an art, and it's normal to feel overwhelmed by it. You gain self-confidence (in your case) when you know that you're able to navigate through all types of conversations with all types of people.\n\nTo be a good communicator, you have to be adaptable and versatile.\n\nTo begin, there are 6 types of communication styles:\n\n- Expressive\n\n- Promotion\n\n- Explanatory\n\n- Structural\n\n- Vigilant\n\n- Supportive\n\nYou have to be able to identify which style the person you're communicating with is using, and then adapt to that style.\n\n**Expressive**: someone who says everything on their mind, and they expect the same from you. With this kind of person, silences are to be avoided; just say whatever's going through your mind, and listen to whatever's going through their mind. The conversation doesn't have to have much substance/meaning, but has to have a lot of volume (lots of things said); jokes are great. Talking about feelings are great too.\n\n**Promotion**: this type of person is a salesperson, a debater. They like to promote their ideas, their opinions, ideologies, and try to convince you that they're right. Adapt to their style by asking for their opinions on various subjects, they'll be glad to share them with you.\n\n**Explanatory**: This type of person is very inquisitive. They like to explain and to understand. You can engage these types in debates if you'd like, because they're often very rational and are there to learn rather than convince you that they're right. Otherwise, talk about complicated/deep subjects with them. For example, if you'd be talking about a movie, these types really like to explore the hidden meanings, the messages, the in-between lines stuff.\n\n**Structural**: this type of person is very organized and sort of a goody two-shoes. You can talk about anything with them, as long as you're within their rules.\n\n**Vigilant**: this is a power player. They're constantly monitoring power-relationships between people. People watching is a great activity to do with someone of this type. Avoid doing anything that can break their trust however; it's very hard to lie to these people, because they'll see through you.\n\n**Support**: this type of person is a great listener. If you're with them, you'd have to do most of the talking. They want the spotlight on you, not them. This is a case where asking questions about the other person fails, because they'd rather ask questions about you.\n\nA person can be any combination of these types. The best communicators are masters of all 6 types; they have full self-confidence in their abilities to speak with anyone, and have a great conversation.\n\n----------\n\nPS: achieving things is great for self-esteem (self-esteem and self-confidence are different things), but it's not your issue here.", "I would say take it like you take depression. Start with little victories. Maybe you can't talk about the big project you led, but feel comfortable playing up some grade on a minor project. \n\nSource - been a while since cutting and bulimic issues but some days I can still only barely manage to reorder my pills because I hate myself, or too downtrodden to scoop the poor cat's litterbox. Small things. \n\nDon't be afraid to ask help from others about your good qualities either. ", "You are the best. You decide what people around you do and don't. You don't just can pass that test. You will.\n\nStart at little things, like traffic. If you seem to be able to make it across the street before a car passes by, take the chance, even if you're wrong, the driver won't want to drive you over. Don't get too cocky tho, that can hurt.", "Shit homie I used 2 be like that 4 real I got so gotdamnit twisted up worryin wut other muthafuckas was thinkin about me that I was always stressed and fuckin anxious wen muthafuckas was around me 1 day I jus thought that this shit was stupid Shit these muthafuckas aint no better than me real talk If they aint payin my bills buyin my weed or duckin my sick they aint shit 2 me The fuck I care wut they think bout me 4 Thats when I discovered that muthafuckas wasnt even sweatin me cuz they was 2 damn busy livin they lives 4 real", "often times, people lack self confidence because they worry that people are criticizing their every move. You need to realize that this logic is completely illogical. Think about it, do you ever go home, and worry about what someone sitting next to you was wearing? Or how they spoke? Or what they said? No, you were more worried about yourself. Thinking about how YOU looked and what YOU said, and what that other person now thinks of you... Now apply that to everyone around you. People are more worried about themselves and how they think they seem around others, just like you. Not the other way around. Look up \"the protagonist disease,\" and you'll get a more firm understanding of this very simple idea. It makes sense, and helped me the most in dealing with a low self esteem. ", "Practice that shit. Go to a bar or the YMCA or a windsailing seminar, it doesn't matter. As long as you don't know them, they can't hurt you. Oh, I accidentally offended you? Well, I'll never see you again. So that's good. But anyways, go and talk to as many people as possible, to the point that you seem overly outgoing. It will be embarrassing as hell, but that's the point. Confidence comes with certainty. Certainty comes with practice. Once you feel nic and comfy making small talk with strangers, try making more intimate talk with strangers. Try steering the convo towards more private things (\"so do you have kids?\" Not \"what's your safeword?\"). Get comfy with that and then use it. When you get invites to stuff, do it! Nothing breaks confidence faster than \"oh you had to have been there\" and then you feel left out. So make it a priority to go out when invited. Leave your kids at school for the night, skip your mom's funeral, whatever it takes. Enjoy your newfound confidence and friends.", "One thing to add to all the great advice so far is the idea that your body language can fool your brain into being more confident. \n\n[Here is a TED talk by Amy Cuddy](https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en)", "It took me a long time to be able to talk to people confidently. I'm naturally shy.\n\nWhen you're at a place it makes sense to do so, maintain two-beers deep. It's like training wheels for talking to people in public. Don't get hammered while you're surfing that wave of confidence.\n\nWhen you're confronted with a conversation in the wild, you'll notice confident people will ask some small personal questions. They're basically conducting an investigation to find out if you have anything in common. You can do the same thing. \n\nIs there something interesting about yourself you like to talk about? Find out if they do something similar. Ask questions and try to learn something new about their interesting job/hobby/life before you start talking about yourself. Don't one-up them and most of the time they'll take an interest in your thing.", "Baby steps. Tell yourself something like \"in the next conversation I have, I will stand taller\", or \"in the next conversation I will speak louder\". Take note of what you think other people are presenting in the way of confidence, and step by step, start to portray those things as well. The more you practice them, the better you will become. Good luck.\n\nSource: I was the shyest young person ever, now able to speak publicly easily." ]

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[ "What are some simple, generic things most office workers can put in their year end review? Many office workers have a year end review in which you call out your accomplishments. So most of the specifics are going to vary between individuals.\n\nBut what are some things that sound good and are general enough that it would apply to most office workers?", "What are some simple, generic things most office workers can put in their year end review? Many office workers have a year end review in which you call out your accomplishments. So most of the specifics are going to vary between individuals.\n\nBut what are some things that sound good and are general enough that it would apply to most office workers?" ]

[ "Integrity is a trait I am proud of, I am always open and honest in my communication. Transparency is a key factor in my daily tasks. \n\nBasically something along the lines of you don't beat around the bush, you get shit done the right way. You want to lead managemrnt to believe you'd do the same job the same way weather you're alone or have your boss standing right next to you the whole time.", "Grace under pressure. If you can come up with an example or two where something went wrong but you held it together and handled the issue that looks good. You can usually think of one or two of those over the last year." ]

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[ "Best/Fastest way to straighten hair? Ive noticed that this takes a good 30 min regardless, anyone have any tips?", "Best/Fastest way to straighten hair? Ive noticed that this takes a good 30 min regardless, anyone have any tips?", "Best/Fastest way to straighten hair? Ive noticed that this takes a good 30 min regardless, anyone have any tips?", "Best/Fastest way to straighten hair? Ive noticed that this takes a good 30 min regardless, anyone have any tips?", "Best/Fastest way to straighten hair? Ive noticed that this takes a good 30 min regardless, anyone have any tips?", "Best/Fastest way to straighten hair? Ive noticed that this takes a good 30 min regardless, anyone have any tips?", "Best/Fastest way to straighten hair? Ive noticed that this takes a good 30 min regardless, anyone have any tips?" ]

[ "A good straightening iron is a nice thing to have, especially if your hair is very fine/dry/damaged. (The ones that have some sort of hair conditioning stuff built-in have quite a good rep) And of course anti-heat stuff, sprays, oils or creams.\n\nAs for minimizing styling time, I find it quite useful to pull the hair up in a high ponytale, leaving only the inner layer of it out (sides and back). Then, after this layer is straightened, take out another layer over it and repeat. As long as the layers aren't too thick, you should be done styling your hair pretty quickly :) I do this after sleeping with my hair wet, since it turns to an absolute mess in the morning and it's impossible to get it straight just by dividing it into sections.\n\nAlso, I think in this case a cream-based heat protectant would be a good thing to use, as you can distribute it more evenly throughout your hair.", "What make of hair straightening irons do you use? I found getting ghd's cut my hair straightening time in half, and I have awful wavy springy hair. I'm usually one to hunt for a cheaper brand that does the same thing, but in this case I definitely found buying the ghd's worth it. ", "I have really curly hair and it is very time consuming to straighten my hair so here is a good technique requiring minimal effort.\n\nStart by washing your hair, a good shampoo is essential to extending the life of your style (especially if you intend to wear it a few days). Something with keratin, oils (ex. jojoba), or silicone is good for frizzy, dry hair. You want something more weightless for fine hair.\n \nStep 2: Let hair partially air dry if you have extra time. Or, blast the excess moisture out with a blowdryer. Make sure you use a good product for heat protection and put it in while the hair is DAMP not sopping wet for better absorption. Lightweight oils are good for fine hair but will not offer long term straightening for curly/coarse hair. You want to use something with keratin to help lock out humidity.\n\nOnce hair is about 70% dry then you can go in with a round brush and blow out all the kinks. It doesn't need to be 100% perfect since you will be flat ironing anyway, just enough to pull most of the curl out. \n\nNote: if you're doing this at night, go ahead and sleep on your hair like this and flat iron in the morning. If you flat iron at night it will just get messed up while you sleep anyway so don't waste your time.\n\nThen you want to flat iron your hair, most straighteners have a variable temperature setting and you want it hot enough for your hair but not too hot. Chi flat irons are the only non-variable I know of and only have one heat setting which is around 390 F, this may be too hot for someone with fine hair. Play around with this and see what works for you hair. Take small sections and use a mirror to see the back of your head to make sure you aren't missing spots.\n\nAnd enjoy! You can use dry shampoo in between days if you get a little greasy.", "I find that what straightener (or curling iron- cringe) I use makes a *huge* difference in how long it takes. It took me over an hour to straighten my fairly curly hair with cheap straighteners, and still had some wave in the back. When starting out straightening I used curling irons, but they couldn't get out the curl at all. \n\nCeramic straighteners are the only thing that gets my hair 100% straight, and work much faster then the metal ones I've used- and more expensive ones tend to shave more time off of it too. \n\nI'm not sure what other brands work but my way-out-of-my-budget Chi is a GODSEND. It seriously only took 15-20 minutes total to straighten my hair when it was down to the middle of my back. It heats up so fast I don't have to wait for it to reheat between each section, which is a HUGE DEAL with my super-thick hair. Nor do I have to go over sections. \n\nI let my hair air dry over night too, so that I don't have to take the time to blow-dry it. I don't even have to use a straightening serum or anything with the ceramics, just naked hair (though I do treat it with argan oil regularly).", "Take a shower as you do, then when you get out leave your hair wet and comb it straight, make sure it follows it's natural path, if it's over your eyes comb it to one side, and leave it to dry naturally...", "Any advice I can give would have to be based on your hair type, but I'll give it try anyways.\n\n1)Thorough de-tangling before you straighten your hair is the key to cutting down your straightening time. This goes for air drying or blow drying wet hair, but blow drying is that extra time consuming step. Part your hair into even sections (I do 6), have at it with a comb, and then straighten each section. Take a second to smooth your hair with product (I use argan oil) to get rid of frizz, etc\n\n2) WRAP YOUR HAIR. In this case, this isn't going to work if your hair needs to be washed every day. Mine doesn't, so I simply wrap my hair before bed (the same day I straighten it) with a silk scarf and bobby pins. I wake up, take it off, and it's still straight. I don't have to style it again and therefore inflict more heat damage on my hair.\n\n3) Lastly, shop around for some creative heat styling tools. Some straighteners have brushes attached to them and now they have ones you can use on damp hair (use caution here). Something out there might work for you", "When in a rush I use a hair straightening product then just quickly blow dry and use the hair straightening iron. It does the job. \n\nI don't use this trick all the time because I find the hair straightening product weights my hair down after a day or so." ]

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[ "How to undo patterns of thinking absorbed through growing up? There's a lot of harmful things we're taught through the media and by those around us. It's somewhat easy to identify them, and feel a desire to change, but rewiring those pathways feels so hard considering how ingrained things are in our minds.\n\nAny tips to speed up the process are appreciated.", "How to undo patterns of thinking absorbed through growing up? There's a lot of harmful things we're taught through the media and by those around us. It's somewhat easy to identify them, and feel a desire to change, but rewiring those pathways feels so hard considering how ingrained things are in our minds.\n\nAny tips to speed up the process are appreciated." ]

[ "I have changed my thinking by being open minded and not jumping to conclusions. I research every angle before forming an opinion.", "Force yourself to write on a piece of paper every morning the exact opposite of the pattern of thinking you want to overcome 10 times for 21 consecutive days. \nFor example, if you grew up in a conservative family with not too friendly attitude towards the LGBT community, write down, \"I'm not going to be a homophobe!\". Just an example. \nAlso try reading up on why the opposing views could be justified." ]

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[ "how should i cut/style my curly hair for a formal setting? It's always a little awkward for me because i cant do the \"slick\" hair everyone seems to have at office without a lot of hairspray. But it doesn't even form an afro or anything. \nIf i cut it very short it looks like I'm bald. ", "how should i cut/style my curly hair for a formal setting? It's always a little awkward for me because i cant do the \"slick\" hair everyone seems to have at office without a lot of hairspray. But it doesn't even form an afro or anything. \nIf i cut it very short it looks like I'm bald. " ]

[ "You don't need slick back hair to look professional. Curly hair on you guys is more attractive my opinion anyways, but if you really want you could try using a hair straightener to flatten the curls out before trying to tackle it with all that hair product. \n\n\nAs for your normal hair, Get some sort layering done in your hair to accentuate your curls. and then some mouse or other styling products that you can throw in your hair while it's so wet so that you don't have to worry about it being too thin in areas and so it still has that styled look to it without having to cake product on. And if you're bathing regularly haha and dressing right you should be good to go! ", "I have wild curly hair and I literally hate it. The only ways I can tame it is with molding clay, or some higher end pomade, in copious amounts. Try the molding clay from crew, add a tiny bit of water and it's like glue. Just comb it through before it dries. If it works for my mop head it may work for you.\n\n\nBack onto your question, sometimes just let it curl my man, keep it very short on the sides / long on top and you'll be looking sharp! " ]

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[ "How to 'let go' of toxic relationships? Long story short, I ended some long standing friendships 2 years ago. I thought it would get easier with time, but I find myself thinking about them more and more frequently. What the fuck? How can I completely let go...?", "How to 'let go' of toxic relationships? Long story short, I ended some long standing friendships 2 years ago. I thought it would get easier with time, but I find myself thinking about them more and more frequently. What the fuck? How can I completely let go...?", "How to 'let go' of toxic relationships? Long story short, I ended some long standing friendships 2 years ago. I thought it would get easier with time, but I find myself thinking about them more and more frequently. What the fuck? How can I completely let go...?", "How to 'let go' of toxic relationships? Long story short, I ended some long standing friendships 2 years ago. I thought it would get easier with time, but I find myself thinking about them more and more frequently. What the fuck? How can I completely let go...?" ]

[ "You can't entirely. Long term friendships change who you are. You pick up traits of the person you were close to. You have memories and feelings.\n\nInstead of thinking of it as letting go, think of it as growing from. You take what you are now, with whatever pain you have, and find a way to productively mature from it. What lessons did you learn and how can you apply those lessons to future friendships?\n\nEither way, embrace the hurt. It means you are a healthy good person who went through something difficult.", "These kind of questions are a lot like how technophobes question how they get a laptop working, or when parents are trying to encourage their kids to pay board or even leave home. It's simple, just do it. In your case, let go of that toxic relationship.\n\nWhat you are specifically asking is: Is there a way in which I could escape my current situation without negative feelings? Short answer, no. But basically stop thinking about them, you choose to think about them when you could be doing something that is worth the time of day. It doesn't matter about the method just get the results you want. Even if it isn't just accept it as it is.\n\nI'm not saying distract yourself, I'm saying accept that the friendship is over, it's over. Perhaps it may work out in the future but you can't wait for that to happen, you got some living to do.", "Nothing wrong with being nostalgic, but things ended for a reason. Remember why, and ask yourself if you really want to go back to that.", "The first step is identifying they are toxic.\n\nAnd, you are missing all the \"inside\" jokes and the million other little things that make up a friendship and our own self image.\n\nThose are developed through experiences, and new friends will be old friends soon.\n\nHate to sound cliche, but it is a phase you are passing through." ]

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[ "How not to feel like utter shit when flying. I feel awful when I'm flying. My sinuses feel dry, and cold, and itchy. My mouth feels dry, like when you wake up with a killer hangover, no matter how much water I drink. My clothes make me feel uncomfortable, and it's impossible to get a good dose of sleep. \n\nLet's fix this, together.", "How not to feel like utter shit when flying. I feel awful when I'm flying. My sinuses feel dry, and cold, and itchy. My mouth feels dry, like when you wake up with a killer hangover, no matter how much water I drink. My clothes make me feel uncomfortable, and it's impossible to get a good dose of sleep. \n\nLet's fix this, together.", "How not to feel like utter shit when flying. I feel awful when I'm flying. My sinuses feel dry, and cold, and itchy. My mouth feels dry, like when you wake up with a killer hangover, no matter how much water I drink. My clothes make me feel uncomfortable, and it's impossible to get a good dose of sleep. \n\nLet's fix this, together.", "How not to feel like utter shit when flying. I feel awful when I'm flying. My sinuses feel dry, and cold, and itchy. My mouth feels dry, like when you wake up with a killer hangover, no matter how much water I drink. My clothes make me feel uncomfortable, and it's impossible to get a good dose of sleep. \n\nLet's fix this, together." ]

[ "Try to determine the cause, then you will be closer to a cure. Do you think that it's caused by a physical ailment, like motion sickness or inner ear imbalance, or is it an anxiety induced, or something else? \n\nI have found that candy, gum, or a lollipop helps - whether a distraction for anxiety, or an assist to equalize inner ear pressure, it seemed to do the trick. Dramamine may also help if it is motion sickness.", "For your nose, try saline spray, a dab of aquaphor or Ayr saline gel in your nostrils. That should help a little bit. Also, of you're on a long haul. There's no shame in changing into respectable Jammies once you board the plane. I routinely change into yoga pants on 4+ hour flights. M", "> My mouth feels dry\n\nCough drops.\n\n\n\n> My clothes make me feel uncomfortable\n\nTake off your shoes.\n\n\n\n> and it's impossible to get a good dose of sleep\n\nIf you find a way to get some sleep on a plane, let me know.", "Sounds like you might be having anxiety issues. An hour before you fly, take an antihistamine. Half an hour before you fly, eat ginger cookies (or as my dad used to call the homemade ginger spice cookies he made for fly-ins, \"preflight cookies\"). Snack on them during your flight as well." ]

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[ "How to stop this dumb bird from pecking my window? This dumb bird keeps pecking at my window and flies off like a little weenie when I get near the window. It then proceeds to come back as soon as I leave. How do I stop the bird from doing this without harming it? I don't know the species of the bird but I'll try to get a picture if I can.", "How to stop this dumb bird from pecking my window? This dumb bird keeps pecking at my window and flies off like a little weenie when I get near the window. It then proceeds to come back as soon as I leave. How do I stop the bird from doing this without harming it? I don't know the species of the bird but I'll try to get a picture if I can." ]

[ "Go buy a large rubber snake and fasten it down onto your window ledge. We use them in the corners of our Wrap around porch to keep birds from nesting. They see the snake and won't come near it. Unless the bird itself is large enough to try to carry off your fake snake that is. ", "I found this through google\n\nCardinals and Robins are very territorial birds. When birds see another of the same species in its breeding or feeding territory, it instinctively attacks the other bird.\n\nYour house or cars windows act as mirrors to the birds.\n\nWhen they are close enough to see their own reflection, they interpret this as an intruder and begin attacking or pecking at the window to chase the intruder away.\n\nDecrease the reflectivity of your windows:\nhttp://www.wild-bird-watching.com/Cardinals-Windows.html\n\n\n" ]

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