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In DC driving at night, and we stop at a red light at this four way intersection, and all of a sudden this station wagon comes speeding by my car, and tries to run the red light, at a very high velocity, and in the middle of the intersection, gets smacked to shit by the other car driving the other way, T boned hard, i mean HARD, parts are flying off both cars, and the station wagon (which got hit by an escalade) did at least three barrel rolls, and Finally lands on its top. After about 10 seconds of sitting in shock because of what had just happend, six peopel crawl out of the station wagon, and one throws up, and passes out, and another grabs his shoulder, he broke his collar bone, I had called 911 by then, then left to go help these people. Never saw anyone get out of the escalade. | Wear your seatbelt | [
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So ran into something today that I'm hoping someone can help with. Originally I used the Quest cmdlet get-qadgroupmember with the -indirect option to list any nested users and groups in another group. Not many total objects, maybe 60 or so total.
In comparing the output to verify my output was correct, I started going thru each group using ADUC. So far so good...awesome. It was when I noticed that one global group was missing 4 members on my posh output that were listed in the group in ADUC. This group only contained 16 users (per ADUC) but my script output was showing 12. Not only are all these users in the same domain as the group, the user accounts are all in the same OU.
So I decided to see what LDAP had to say. Trying on two different DCs, browsing the group object, LDAP showed the members matched what my posh script had; the same 12 members. So then I decided to try dsget group members on the group. Same 12 users that my script and LDAP browsing shows. Also, ADUC was connected to one of the same DCs where I performed the LDAP query. So...? | Why would ADUC show 16 users, contain 4 additional members (user accounts) that neither posh, LDAP, nor DSGET see? Any insight to this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! | [
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Ok. Skinny motherfucker, bright red hair. He owned this hideous bright green Motocross jacket, and he wore this thing every goddamn day. Made obscure references and weird jokes all the goddamn time. I mean, Star Wars joke one second, dead baby and genocide jokes the next. Would always get these huge, hopeless crushes on damn near every attractive girl in the school, and then he'd move on to the next girl once it was clear that they, like pretty much everyone else, thought he was a creeper. He couldn't tell the difference between flirting and sexual harassment, and he also thought that a good fart was the epitome of humor.
There's this one day in English class, we're writing essays as part of exam practice. The class is dead silent. Suddenly, from the back of the room, there's a noise like the gates of hell rumbling open. Everyone looks up at once, and you can tell from our faces that we're thinking "The Hell was that noise?" . Can't have been thunder, the sky's totally clear. Was it the pipes? Is someone in the class above us moving furniture? Then we hear it. This quiet laughter. We turn towards the back of the room, and carrot top is sitting in his chair, trying his hardest not to shit himself with laughter. The people unfortunate enough to be sitting next to him are gagging in horror/respiratory trauma, and a slow realization dawns on all of the rest of us. This is going to be bad .
I can actually track the smell as it spreads through the room by seeing people's faces as the gas overtakes their positions. The teacher tells us to keep writing, it can't possibly be that bad. And then the gas reaches me. And sweet baby jesus , it is BAD . It's a fetid mix of red meat, eggs, and fittingly enough, carrots. By the time it reaches the teacher, a quarter of the class have just left the room, no explanation given as they bolt through the door. The teacher just shakes her head, saddened that we'd be so theatrical just to single out the guy who lets one rip in class. Then the smell must reach her, because she suddenly stands straight up, catapulting her chair into the wall behind her and nearly flipping her desk, and I am not exaggerating when I say that she screams , "Oh my GOD, open the windows." The rest of the class take this as their cue to leave. Carrot Top finally can't take any more, and breaks down laughing.
No one in that class would willingly speak with him for the next three years. Any mention of his name would bring a cringe to their face, and a rapid change of subject to the conversation. To my knowledge, he's the only person who was not invited to the facebook page for our graduating year. He has 14 friends listed, and no one posts on his wall, no one comments on his posts, no one tags him in photos, and no one will allow themselves to be tagged in his photos.
Some of us felt sorry for him, but the rest of us still remember that day when he single handedly cleared a room with his own brand of chemical warfare. He made us suffer, and he laughed at our suffering. He does not deserve our pity. He earned his place as an outcast, and there may he stay. | He farted so loudly that we thought it was thunder. It smelt so bad we had to leave the room. He thought it was the funniest thing ever. No one wants to be associated with him.
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So, I will rightly admit that I am not one to ask for advice blindly on the internet. I'm someone who would much rather give advice out, but the tough love style, rather than tell people what they want to hear style. Well, I'm kind of in a situation right now that's a bit confusing for me at least, and I am also confused about how I feel about it. I come to you all for advice (a couple of specific questions are at the end), because a situation like this calls for it...
Both of us are 27.
A few months ago I was accepted to a graduate school program out of state, and decided that this would be the school I would be attending. In an effort to know people before I moved I signed up for an online dating site. I ended up meeting someone (we'll call her Kelly) whom I started talking to. Kelly and I spent a long time e-mailing each other back and forth, and long thought provoking e-mails. Everything from pop culture to likes/dislikes to thoughts and feelings about serious situations/issues. We then moved from talking via e-mail to Facebook, texting and phone conversations.
I seriously cannot describe how awesome and amazing this person is, and literally everything I have ever sought in an individual (personality, beliefs, etc, etc) she is it.
It was decided that after I moved into my apartment, we would meet up that week. Unfortunately, due to a number of forces beyond my control (mostly dealing in my family's financial situation) I was forced to withdraw within those first few days and return home. Kelly and I never had the chance to meet up due to the time frame, and yes moving back home was an emergency situation. Before I moved back, I called her to explain the situation and she was completely understanding...and it honestly broke my heart because I felt like a jerk, and I felt like I was leading her on from day one. I explained this to her, but she said she didn't feel that I was doing that, and the reason I was moving back home was important.
After I return home we continue to talk, both via text and voice chat and both of us initiating the conversations. We're not talking a couple of texts or a few minutes on the phone, but long conversations like we had before I moved, hours texting back and forth or hours on voice chat. I know for a fact I'm starting to have feelings for this girl, and it's something I really cannot explain. I am utterly confused because I had never met this girl in person, and I'm the type to make fun of those people who get into "internet relationships". Heck, I'll quote "Napoleon Dynamite" in regards to people who do that.
I was briefly in a long distance relationship, but that ex lived in my state during the school year and moved back home during the summer. That relationship was rough, and after I broke up with her I vowed to never do it again. I'm starting to second guess that decision. Though, even if I stayed in the state my graduate school was located in and I started dating Kelly, it would end up being long distance anyways since she has a once in a lifetime opportunity which would take her out of that state.
So, my questions are the following...Is it possible to start to have feelings, real and heartfelt feelings, for someone you know only via text and voice conversations? If we pursue a relationship, could it even work if we barely see each other? | I met a girl online in the state I was to attend grad school. I was forced to withdraw before we got the chance to meet up. We are still talking, and I'm starting to have feelings for her. Does this make sense and what do I do? | [
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I know this is a subjective question, but I would like to hear people's opinions.
I have a moderate degree of social anxiety compounded with obsessive tendencies; basically I tend to ruminate and obsess over things that excite me, especially new friends/relationships. When I start dating someone (or meet a new friend who I really like), I find myself thinking about them constantly, and I tend to want to constantly talk to them and make plans to hang out. Part of this comes from my anxiety; I have this (I know irrational) fear that if I don't talk to them every day or so, they will forget about me or lose interest in me. I also constantly try to make plans because I can't stand the uncertainty of not knowing when (or if) I'll ever see them again. Of course, this backfires because this overbearingness is what drives people away. I have no chill.
I have gotten better at dialing it back, however I want to know how much contact is "normal". I have been dating a new guy, "Johnny", for two weeks now, and I really like him, but I'm trying to figure out how often is OK for me to text him.
For example, we last hung out on Wednesday. Yesterday I texted him just to say "what's up" and we texted a bit (I ran this by my friend and he said if he was dating me, he wouldn't mind getting a friendly text the day after hanging out). However, I don't know how long I should wait before I text him again, or ask him if he wants to hang out. Part of me thinks I should wait for him to reach out to me, but I am also worried that if I don't reach out, he may think I've lost interest in him. For the record, he is a bit insecure too (though probably not as much as me).
How do I find the balance between giving him space/not being too overwhelming, and not making him think I've lost interest? How many days should I go without hearing from him before I reach out again?
Just for the record, I get a lot better once I've known someone for a while and I've become confident they won't lose interest in me. I often go weeks at a time without talking to some of my closest friends. I'm just an insecure nutcase when it comes to starting new relationships. I'm otherwise pretty cool, I promise. | I'm an obsessive nutcase who has no chill, and I don't want to scare off the new guy I'm dating by texting him too much. What level of contact is "normal"? | [
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A little back story. My father ran out when I was a toddler and died somewhere when I was a teen. He left a lot of debt with his then wife whom I've never met or had any contact with (I get calls every now and then from people looking for her). Anyway, Over time I have received various mineral rights from estranged siblings of my father's whom I have no real contact with, but felt I deserved these things.
The properties have payed out maybe $500-$700 over the last decade. Every now and again I recieve an offer from an aquisition company for between a few hundred and just over a thousand dollars. These offers come maybe 3 times a year. Recently I received an offer to buy these rights for about $3500 (3x any previous offer).
I don't know what these things are, really and I just pay a bit of tax on them annually and collect tiny checks every now and then. Frankly, it is really tempting to cash them out and be rid of them. But, I don't want to act rashly or foolishly. How do I evaluate the offer on the table and if I do sell how do I make sure I am not stepping into a more complex situation? | Received larger than expected offer on property I don't understand, but am hesitant to make decision from position of ignorance. | [
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This was a few months ago btw.
So I'm not the most extroverted person (I kind of balance out whoever I'm with so I'll be the loud one in an introverted group and vice versa), but I have a bunch of close friends, about 12 of whom RSVPed to my 21st on Facebook.
Now I knew that out of those 12, about 4 probably wouldn't be able to make it for one reason or another, they said they'd let me know before time.
So we get to the big day, I turn up to the pub and -- there's nobody here that I know. A few people at a table in the corner. This is gonna be awkward for a while, I thought, but soon enough people will show, right?
Someone I vaguely know shows up, and he asks why nobody else is here - "isn't it like your birthday or something, OP?"
"Yup."
"Fuck, dude. Well, I'll stick around for a bit, but I'm meeting my date soon and I'll have to go. Hopefully people will turn up soon."
I did the whole British modesty thing, and he stuck around for a bit. His date (coincidentally) didn't show either, so we spent the next couple hours playing pool.
By this point it was clear nobody was coming. The "fashionably late" window had closed, and I decided, fuck it, I'm going home .
I got home, and my housemates were getting ready to go out with some of their friends. They asked how my evening went, and I told them. They responded to the effect of "sucks to be you OP" before leaving for their night out. Thanks guys.
So began my worst year so far, mentally speaking. I've a history of depression and cyclothymia .
Four months later and things - well, they're generally better but feel like they aren't. I had to go to hospital two weeks ago for a lumbar puncture and the pain's kept me from sleeping well since then, plus final year at university is really taking it out of me. I hope my mood improves soon. | mildy bipolar, got dicked on by people I thought were my friends on my 21st birthday, rest of the year has been shit ever since. | [
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It's a few days overdue but I'm just now feeling normal enough to even look at a computer. So here's my story now! :)
I went in for my induction on the 27th at 7am feeling pretty much like I was trapped on a roller coaster that I desperately wanted to get off before it got to the huge dive. My husband was great at calming me down even though he was just as nervous as I was.
They set me up on pitocin and we really didn't get anywhere the first day. It ended up at 20 at around 11pm that night and I was fast asleep without even a single change in my cervix or any contractions stronger than a Braxton Hicks. The worst part was being hooked up to 3 monitors and not being able to move because one of the babies fell off the monitor every time I rolled over. How long can one position be comfortable? Not very long, let me tell you.
The nurses were very patient with me though, they were very nice about just fixing the monitors and making sure I was as comfortable as possible.
They stopped the pit the first night and took me off the monitors so I could sleep and we got it started more slowly at 3ish in the morning of the 28th. Throughout the day I noticed some more cramping, but no real cervix changes or anything. So my OB decided to try a foley bulb.
I was terrified of the process of putting it in, but it really wasn't that bad. It definitely hurt while my cervix was being stretched out, but after a pretty small dose of pain meds I was asleep with no issues. The bulb took about 3 or 4 hours to do its thing and fell out in the toilet in the evening. That was perhaps the second weirdest feeling ever after actually having a baby emerge out of your vagina.
The babies were holding up great the whole time, they were super active and their heart rates were awesome. My husband was a champ the whole time helping me get around to the bathroom and fill up my water bottle every 5 seconds. Since the whole process was taking way longer than I expected I was actually pretty calm by then and I feel like I got to process what was going on more completely.
So finally the third day dawns and my OB decides to just break my water to get things moving since the foley bulb put me at 3-4 cm dilated. It was...an interesting experience. The breaking of the water was fine, she just had dagger fingers and I squirmed and freaked out the most then than at any other time. I feel kind of silly about squealing and demanding to know what she was doing, but damn that lady's fingers hurt!
Contractions picked up really fast after that, so fast that i thought there was no way they were labor contractions and I had to be the biggest wuss on the face of the earth for feeling like I was in that much pain. I asked for the little pain med I had for the foley bulb, but that didn't do anything at all and so they gave me a little more, and that didn't even register. So I asked for the epidural while feeling like I had to still be like 4 cm and I was risking stalling everything and generally feeling like a huge baby. The nurse told me later she could definitely tell it was the real deal though just by how my reactions changed. I get really quiet and withdrawn when in real pain, apparently it was super obvious when that changed.
They checked me right after the epidural went in and I was 8cm! After basically just an hour after my water broke I had dilated 4 more cm and it was no joke on the pain scale. I was so relieved! The anesthesiologist was really great, he did the epidural perfectly. I still had full control over my muscles, but no pain. It. Was. Heaven.
A nurse camped out at my bedside since we knew it wasn't going to be long before we were ready to go. She said to tell her when I felt a lot of pressure, so I thought I should wait until what I thought was 'a lot'. Turns out I labored down for about an hour just because I couldn't tell what their definition of 'a lot' was. I was feeling pressure, but it definitely didn't feel like what I expected a baby head to feel like when it comes down.
The nurse finally just checked me and ran off to get my OB and get the O.R. team ready 'just in case'. I got wheeled in the O.R. while my husband put on his scrub suit and they set up my bed in front of this giant mirror which I wasn't really excited about.
It's really amazing how little you care about your dignity when you have all those people there staring at your stuff waiting for you to push out a baby. The nurses and my doctor were very supportive and helped me know when to push because I couldn't feel when a contraction was coming. They were great coaches, and I know I pooped a little bit a few times but they just casually wiped it off like no big deal. My husband was amazing as well, he told me I was doing great and supported me in exactly the right ways for me.
I pushed for about 40 minutes with baby A, who we named Samantha. She came out and they put her on my chest and I found myself looking into her big blue eyes as she stared right at me. That was the most amazing moment!
They took her after a few seconds to go across the room to get her apgar scores and I couldn't stop looking at her. The doctor had to keep reminding me to push during contractions so I could get her sister out too.
The doctor said that B's hand was sticking out so she stuck her hand all up in there to push it back, and it worked. Fifteen minutes later her sister was born! The doctor decided to help me out and use a vacuum, so she has a little red mark on her head that's fading now. I could have done it myself, but I wasn't about to argue having a little help and I think she knew how distracted I was and wanted to get her out quickly.
They both scored 9's on their apgars and are absolutely perfect! I got a second degree perineal tear and it honestly hasn't been that bad. I've taken normal doses of pain meds for it about twice, it just hasn't really bothered me that much.
My girls are beautiful. I'm not into putting up identifying pictures so you'll just have to take my word for it. :)
Post partum has been way easier and way harder than I expected in a lot of ways. It's five days PP now and I've lost 40 pounds already, it's weird to see myself looking like a normal woman again so quickly!
I'm going to miss the exciting anticipation of pregnancy, but holy crap it feels so good to be able to bend over and pick things up or just be comfortable laying however I want in bed.
Overall: 10/10 would birth again. | Samantha and Rachel were born Aug 29th at 5:55 and 6:13pm via vaginal delivery and weighed 7 lbs. 4 oz and 6 lbs. 15 oz respectively. They are perfect and I love them! I think I covered everything. :) See you all at beyond the bump! | [
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My husband was a champ the whole time helping me get around to the bathroom and fill up my water bottle every 5 seconds. Since the whole process was taking way longer than I expected I was actually pretty calm by then and I feel like I got to process what was going on more completely. \n So finally the third day dawns and my OB decides to just break my water to get things moving since the foley bulb put me at 3-4 cm dilated. It was...an interesting experience. The breaking of the water was fine, she just had dagger fingers and I squirmed and freaked out the most then than at any other time. I feel kind of silly about squealing and demanding to know what she was doing, but damn that lady's fingers hurt! \n Contractions picked up really fast after that, so fast that i thought there was no way they were labor contractions and I had to be the biggest wuss on the face of the earth for feeling like I was in that much pain. 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She said to tell her when I felt a lot of pressure, so I thought I should wait until what I thought was 'a lot'. Turns out I labored down for about an hour just because I couldn't tell what their definition of 'a lot' was. I was feeling pressure, but it definitely didn't feel like what I expected a baby head to feel like when it comes down. \n The nurse finally just checked me and ran off to get my OB and get the O.R. team ready 'just in case'. I got wheeled in the O.R. while my husband put on his scrub suit and they set up my bed in front of this giant mirror which I wasn't really excited about. \n It's really amazing how little you care about your dignity when you have all those people there staring at your stuff waiting for you to push out a baby. The nurses and my doctor were very supportive and helped me know when to push because I couldn't feel when a contraction was coming. They were great coaches, and I know I pooped a little bit a few times but they just casually wiped it off like no big deal. My husband was amazing as well, he told me I was doing great and supported me in exactly the right ways for me. \n I pushed for about 40 minutes with baby A, who we named Samantha. She came out and they put her on my chest and I found myself looking into her big blue eyes as she stared right at me. That was the most amazing moment! \n They took her after a few seconds to go across the room to get her apgar scores and I couldn't stop looking at her. The doctor had to keep reminding me to push during contractions so I could get her sister out too. \n The doctor said that B's hand was sticking out so she stuck her hand all up in there to push it back, and it worked. Fifteen minutes later her sister was born! The doctor decided to help me out and use a vacuum, so she has a little red mark on her head that's fading now. I could have done it myself, but I wasn't about to argue having a little help and I think she knew how distracted I was and wanted to get her out quickly. \n They both scored 9's on their apgars and are absolutely perfect! I got a second degree perineal tear and it honestly hasn't been that bad. I've taken normal doses of pain meds for it about twice, it just hasn't really bothered me that much. \n My girls are beautiful. I'm not into putting up identifying pictures so you'll just have to take my word for it. :) \n Post partum has been way easier and way harder than I expected in a lot of ways. It's five days PP now and I've lost 40 pounds already, it's weird to see myself looking like a normal woman again so quickly! \n I'm going to miss the exciting anticipation of pregnancy, but holy crap it feels so good to be able to bend over and pick things up or just be comfortable laying however I want in bed. \n Overall: 10/10 would birth again.",
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I Work at a fish market and seafood restaurant, and my boss is a complete dickhead who enjoys scamming people out of money. I am not afraid of hard work and I have never complained about work being too hard. My boss on the other hand was in a car crash 10 years ago, and he has been collecting disability and workers compensation ever since. The problem is that he is completely healthy. I have over heard many conversations between him and his wife where he has said that he needs to carry around a cane so people know that his back is hurt. Things got even more fishy when his wife who also works there starting collection disability for a fractured toe, after my boss said that "you can collect money for disability whenever you want, you just have to figure out how to lie about it.
Normally, I would just brush it off and not make it my problem that he is doing this. But as of recently, he has not allowed us to collect credit card tips from our customers, yet still left the receipt machine programmed to have a "tip" line. This makes me think that he is stealing money from all of us.
My question is what can I do to report him to the proper authorities? He is completely healthy, he was climbing effortlessly on a ladder, carrying huge swordfish, and walking around 10 hours a day without any trouble. He has also taken, or not allowed me access to about 200$ worth of credit card tips. PLEASE HELP!! | My boss is collecting Disability and workers compensation even though he is perfectly healthy, and he is stealing credit card tips. What can i do? | [
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I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible, and if you have other questions feel free to ask and i'll edit.
First, my career is fitness. I am in contracted security, previously in the USMC. I have spent years in Afghanistan and Iraq.
My problem is pretty simple, I'm having trouble meeting my dietary requirements. We train for 13 days in a row, 1 day off, wash rinse repeat. Here's a "blanket" workout regimen for a day:
Work up to 3RM Dead Lift (normally around 405), and do that weight for 3 sets. 5 Rounds of:
3x DL @ 85% 3RM, 30x burpee, 30x pullup (no kipping), 100m buddy carry (full load out)
5k row, 1 mile steady run, 3k row, 3 mile run Boatman Complex (50 rep/4 count of each): sit-up, flutter kick, leg lever, right obliques, left obliques, crunches
*135lb walking lunges, 100 meters.
--1 hour break--
Sprints
For the record, I use anabolic steroids to during post-deployment training to get my body back to a healthy weight to do this stuff (since deployed we rarely get to eat right). Here's my diet now:
4-6 hard boiled eggs
2 cup oatmeal
handful of walnuts/pecans/cashews whenever
grapefruit/bananas
peanutbutter/banana sandwiches
protein shake somewhere in here
plain yogurt w/ honey
2x grilled chicken breast, cut into strips for snacking
cottage cheese
mixed veggies
ground turkey
protein shake in here somewhere
1 medium or 2 small chicken breast(s) & cheese, or steak
At this point, I feel like i'm constantly stuffing my guts.
I need help with >> | How can I bump up my calorie intake by about 1,000 calories/day in high protein/high fat/low carb foods? | [
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I can run Act 3 easily* using a pure SC/CM build with less DPS and only slightly more resist / crit. I use however a modified version where I use Diamond Shards instead of Crystal Shell as a rune for Diamond skin, it helps my dps significantly since you do the aoe damage everytime you recast the spell (which is obviously very often with CM).
This is my build and (quite terrible) gear that's good enough for even Act IV : | A slightly higher crit chance is all you need for act III. Drop the blades as you'll never have a GCD to use them anyway if you follow the build. Train your fingers as you'll need some endurance for this build.
*I still die against any elite pack that will kite me (morloch, succubus, shaman guy) but I think that's an issue with CM/SC builds overall | [
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If you carry, have an attorney's business card
This is an excellent post, full of excellent advice, but the few words quoted above are the most important of all.
I went so far as to ask the attorney: "how much of a retainer to ensure you return my call at 3 am?" Surprisingly, it was only $200.
>The police will expect and exploit this situation to get you to talk. DON'T.
This is second-most important. Don't talk to cops. Ever. Their job is not to be your friend. Look, I work in a prosecutor's office and we tell people (not the ones with charges pending, of course) not to talk to cops. | for the whole thread: Shut up, call your/a lawyer. | [
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Been seeing this guy felt he was being a bit distant this week. Text him today he text back since then he didn't text me. So ignored my text, he has been on social media. So I was like maybe he didn't want to talk far enough. He followed a girl on Instagram then quickly unfollowed her. He is in a different part of the country working for 3 days and I looked on the girls Instagram and it turns out she is from this part. To me it just gave me an uneasy feeling like it's right in front of my face.
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I am 15 i live in new york city.
one day i was walking to my bus stop, thinking i am being followed or watched, when a weird/mangy/dog-ish looking thing comes out of nowhere and just starts following me. i of course pet this dog-thing thinking someone owns it and it just ran out of the house. i walk to the bus stop with the dog-thing following me. i go to school.
next day same thing happens but i dont pet it thinking i shouldnt be petting stray dog-things, but it follows me still.
in school i begin to think that isnt what dogs do and slowly begin to think it wasnt a dog. i also start to tell my friends about what happened to see what they think.
i dont see it for two days. i read in my news paper that a coyote was spotted in my neighborhood. i begin to think i petted a coyote.
i start walkin to my friends house later that day, and walk by my communtiy tennis court, the dog-ish thing is in there. i look at it amazed and realize i petted a coyote. i shit bricks and then someone comes out from their house and tells me he saw it and locked it in there and called animal control. | i petted a coyote that i thought was a dog. | [
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Unfortunately this is often the case. I have a recent eeePC that's supposed to be 100% compatible with Ubuntu and installed the latest eeebuntu release.
Only, the WiFi card doesn't work out-of-the-box (or out-of-the-iso, whatever). So far I had to look up and download the network card driver... which didn't work either. I tried editing the makefile to change the kernel source path without any luck so after a few hours of googling and tinkering I pretty much gave up and went back to XP. :(
On the other hand, I had an Ubuntu install on my older Acer laptop which worked perfectly (just a couple of hassles to find the correct sound drivers) | I agree with seanodonnell, just wanted to add my personal experience. | [
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We had been dating for 2 months, and over the last 2 weeks or so of that, she kept talking about this guy who I will refer to as Chad. She would make posts occasionally about him in a friendly way on Instagram and snapchat.
I felt a little bit uncomfortable over it, mostly because she has never even mentioned me a single time in any post for the whole time we dated.
Eventually after a month or so of not going out at all and her recently talking about Chad, I snapped at her about our relationship.
The day after this I apologized, and she showed me how she was talking to Chad about it. She openly said that Chad called me an asshole and also flirted a little. I accepted it, and she assured me he was being weird.
Fast forward a week. We actually go to homecoming game at our school. She arrives late, but before halftime. We talk until the end of 3rd quarter of the game, and she goes up to the booth to talk to Chad. She tells me to wait where I am so I do. She comes back down and talks to me, but after getting a text from her dad, she stops responding all together.
I try to open up conversation 3 times, but get no where. After that I told her I'm going home and she gives me a subtle "k".
She apparently was really upset by me leaving. I looked on her Instagram and saw that her bio was changed to 💚Chad. Now I can understand that done as a joke, but that shit was not flying this time.
The Monday following this, I broke up with her. I told her it's just not working out. She went full explosive mode. She started yelling at me about the whole thing. She yelled at me for leaving her at the game, and how she has no (male)friends because I always feel insecure about them.
I feel really bad after all this, and see in hindsight that I had been very insecure and distrusting.
Two days later I apologized about it and tried to make amends, but then I saw it. On her Instagram she made a post with Chad, captioned "mine💚". I immediately saw what had just happened. She torch passed Chad while I sat there gaping my mouth as she did so.
I stopped trying to make amends and just laughed. I laughed because I was right. | I get insecure about Chad. She gets with Chad. I get played.
Now my question is: Is this my fault for being insecure? Am I an asshole for not trusting her, and brought this on myself? | [
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Doubtful. The US would be incredibly hard to invade. The mexican boarder is already fairly well secured. The canadian border, while very long and unprotected has a lot of natural barriers. The eastern border has the great lakes and st lawrence river the midwestern states have vast stretches of barely habitable terrain (Seriously, who in their right mind would try to invade through North Dakota or Montana.) This really only leaves the PNW as a land invading point. So we at least know where to set up the front line.
As for a coastal invasion, the US has the biggest navy in the world. We have more attack subs then China and Russia combined, and more Aircraft carriers than the rest of the world combined (there's only 18 active in the world right now. 10 are US).
Now even if they do make it into the country you have to deal with an armed population.
So | Good luck | [
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My math teacher last year didn't like me. And if that teacher didn't like you, she loved to embarass you. So shit went down one day. I came out of the bathroom and I was putting my phone back in my pocket because I always take it out so it won't fall out and crack when I'm in the bathroom. My teacher saw me and took it. She read every one of my conversations about how much I liked a guy etc. Earlier tat morning before school started I texted my friend asking her to bring me some lady items because it was that time of the month. Oh joy. She read it. In a class full of teenage boys. Not only that but I asked for some advil because I had cramps. So my teacher decided to be an asshole and take the one little pill in a ziplock and not give it back. She apologized later after the boys made fun of me for me being on my period and after she saw me in tears at lunch from cramps. | Teacher sees phone and reads about how I needed pads and advil and promptly took away the pill so I had to suffer the day with horrible cramps and boys making fun of me. | [
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I suppose that I could have gone to a much smaller liberal arts college that focused more in the humanities. I knew what I was getting into, though, when I chose a national university, even if it emphasized undergraduate education above all else. I'm a firm supporter of the liberal arts. Because of them, even though I now study literature, I can't be lied to with statistics; I understand the scientific method; I have a basic grasp of advanced mathematics (even if I'm slowly losing it); I've seen the rings of Saturn through a telescope; I've looked at sunspots; and so on. Is that "useful" to the study of literature? Obliquely. Literature has a long engagement with scientific discourse, so knowing what science is actually helps me study literature. Philosophically speaking, the same kinds of questions that come up in, say, set theory and other mathematical philosophies, also come up in the study of language and logic, which is essential to the study of literature. So, no, I don't regret taking those courses.
In the same manner, I think that scientists, engineers, and the like should be able to read (and, if possible, speak) at least one foreign or ancient language; should have a grasp of advanced literary and philosophical study; should understand rhetoric, logic (not just mathematical logic); and should have read or be able to read (and understand) some of the great works of literature and philosophy.
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Hi,
Disclaimer: I know some people - especially in Germany - love to play police, but please save yourself pointless angry comments about the theoretical dangers of forging documents if it's impossible for the landlord to find out that the documents are not legit. Thanks!
I recently finished studying in the UK (I'm German) and returned to Berlin. All these "rules" that are made up to find the perfect tenant are IMHO a joke. You can´t get a place if you do an internship or have a Mini-job, but why? It's not enough to have enough money on your account. Your documents need to be flawless, because landlords mostly do group-viewings or invite 10-20 people per day and most of them decide mainly based on the application documents!
3 months proof of income? Pointless - because that doesn't show if someone just lost their job.
Mietsschuldenfreiheitsbescheinigung, lol. What? Disadvantage for me, because I didn't rent in Germany before, and many others, because not every landlord signs this.
Another option would be a rental agreement ("Bürgschaft), but of course that is another disadvantage and the landlord would just pick someone else.
Why are landlords shitting themselves, because they are scared they don't get rent? If you are German (or lived here long enough) and lost your job you receive jobless benefits I or II. If you don't earn enough you can get "Wohngeld". ALL of these things cover the rent . Landlord are scared of [rental nomads]( because they watched to much Reality TV on RTL.
I'm in a pretty shitty situation, because I can't get a permanent home and considered faking all our (looking for a small place with my SO) documents. I'm stuck in this loop for 7 months now (I travelled for 2 months in between and came back to Berlin last month) and constantly move from place to place, because we only find short-term lets, where nobody cares to see any documents. I spend most of my time looking for flats and going to viewings. This has to stop!
I consider myself a pretty excellent forger and don't see any possible harm that can come out of this. The worst thing that could happen (correct me if I'm wrong) is that the landlord would somehow find out one day and kick us out.
Job: I can pretend I'm a full time freelancer (slight disadvantage, but at least they wouldn't be able to call the company)
Income: Making bank statements look is as simple as taking candy from a baby.
Mietsschuldenfreiheitsbescheinigung: I can create one and leave the contact data of one of my friends to pretend to be my last landlord in case someone checks.
The only thing that I guess has to be legit is the SCHUFA document, because landlords apparently can check? Again, no problem for me, because I don't have a negative rating there. | Getting a place is extremely hard; ever faked your application documents? please share thoughts/experiences | [
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I was in this EXACT situation almost a year ago to the day.
I worked for a very small company (5 people) in which I did almost the entirety of the work of my department (and there was a lot). I worked for the company for over 3 years and dealt with all the quirks that you get from working for a small company but then when I asked for a raise I was told the company did not have enough money for one. Right after the company spent thousands on moving offices, new company cars and hiring a new guy from overseas (flight to 'Murica, rental car and apartment all on the company dime.) Infuriated me to no end and again I asked but again I was told the company had no money. I went out found another job and when I told my bosses that I was leaving I gave them 3 weeks to find someone else and that I would train them. They (the bosses) were super pissed off that I had the nerve to leave the company but I basically just told them to go to hell and to take it or leave it. They took it, I trained my replacement and now when I run into them from time to time no ill feelings at all.
Also when I told my prospective employer that I couldn't just dump and run on the job I was leaving because they would be screwed he respected it a lot. Made me look great in his eyes as a stand up guy and he even told me to take a week in between as a mini vacation. | Give them the 2 weeks (or even 3 as I did) and explain to your future boss that you can't cut and run on a company, even if its a shitty one, cause that's the type of person you are. It will work out for you. | [
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My husband and I are in a bit of a unique situation and I want to make sure we have considered all our options.
We have put earnest money down on a new home that is already built and sitting empty, just waiting for us to move in. We cannot move until our current home sells. My husband is 100% permanent and totally disabled after being critically injured in Afghanistan. We have a VA loan on our current home and will use it for our new home. The way the VA loan works (and maybe this is for all loans, I'm not sure) is there is a maximum loan amount of $417,000. Currently, $260,000 of that amount is locked in our current home and the new home we are purchasing exceeds the $417,000 thus meaning we cannot find our new home until we sell/unlock the funds from our current home. We are fully approved and have a great interest rate of 3.25%
Due to my husband's medical conditions it has been extremely difficult for him to go through the selling process where strangers walk through our house and displace us for several hours and give us very little notice. Our agent had led us to believe it would be extremely easy and quick to sell our current home but that has not been the case. Our home is only 1 year old but we are competing with new builds. We are located in Texas where the average home is for sale for about 7 days. We have been on the market for over 30 days. We've lowered the price to well below market also.
So after all of that, here is my question: How can we get in to our new home faster or how can we get to our new location faster, even with a temporary layover somewhere? We both have credit scores of over 800 and cash isn't an issue. We need to relocate due to his health but don't want to make a stupid decision because we are impatient either.
Options I have considered: short term lease on an apartment, staying in a hotel, staying in some kind of extended stay place. I just have to consider my husbands health dnd that anything to run our credit will effect our loan.
I am in charge of all decision making for my family, this is my first time selling a home and I have no one else to ask. | How can we get to our new home/community faster while waiting for current home to sell? | [
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I'm a lurker of Reddit, and it figures my first post would be about me fucking up in a horrible, horrible way.
A little background: I have a phobia of bees, hornets, wasps, all those fuckers. I don't mean I'm simply afraid of them, I have a debilitating, diagnosed anxiety disorder, phobia of them -- I was in phobia research groups as a young kid and was found that I wasn't afraid of bees stinging me (if I don't see them I don't care), and I'm not allergic, I just am irrationally terrified of the creatures themselves to the point that I had panic attacks just going outside. I still do. Please keep this in mind and try not to judge me too much...
To be fair this fuck up started with my mother fucking up. I was helping her with some yard work on a particularly hot summer day, so I was already on edge because the bees were out in full force. My mother liked to keep a garden full of pretty flowers that attract the fucking things.
Eventually she got fed up with my adamant refusal to step anywhere near the garden and asked me to go get her a bottle of water while she started up the lawn mower. I went in, grabbed the water, and opened the front door just in time to see my mother mow over a patch of grass and get stuck. She pushed it once or twice and finally got it to budge.
Like something out of my worst nightmare a swarm of THOUSAND S OF BEES poured out from underneath the lawn mower and encircled my startled mother. She started screaming bloody murder and tried swatting at the pissed off mass while screeching "BEES!" at the top of her lungs.
Realizing that her meager hands were not an adequate defense against the horde of (I later learned) hornets, she attempted to make a break for the only shelter she could think of in her panic -- the house.
I'm not proud of what I did next. There I was, standing in the doorway watching my mother run towards me with a cloud of my mortal enemy following behind her. I did the only thing my terrified brain allowed me to in that instant: I dropped the water bottle and just as my mother was climbing the steps of our front porch I turned on my heel, ran inside, slammed the door shut and deadbolted that mother fucker .
As my mother furiously tried to turn the doorknob she started calling my name and begging for me to open the door in a way that I can only describe is what I imagine someone being murdered by a serial killer sounds like. I was torn between my crippling fear and wanting to save my one and only mother. You know, the one who gave painful birth to me and provided for my ungrateful ass.
I couldn't make a decision about which way I wanted to proceed so all I could manage was screaming "I'M SORRY! I'M SO SORRY!" to her over and over as she banged on the door. Eventually I pulled myself together enough to scream at her to run to the garden hose next to the porch which she did, and she begged me to turn the hose on and spray her down.
I responded by locking myself in my room and crying like a toddler as my mother shrieked at me for help.
A half an hour later I was driving her to the hospital. The doctors counted over 200 stings, but I think they eventually gave up. She did not die and was able to be sent home that day. She was not as angry at me about it as I thought I deserved, but I think she was holding it back because she knows about my fear.
Still, that doesn’t keep her from holding it over my head when she wants to get me to do something... | My mother was chased by bees and I locked her out of the house. It's a good thing mothers are obligated to love you after you throw them under the bus.
EDIT : Believe me when I say that you guys can't hate me more than I already hate myself for what I did. I called my mother and told her about me posting the story on the internet and she wanted me to let you all know she still loves me, and that looking back on it she thinks it was hilarious. I don't think it was that funny, but to each their own! I still think I'm a pretty horrible daughter, but I love my mom. | [
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Lol dont u think the 18 yeard old girl woyld rather have cash? She probably gonna have trouble payin for nails and make up wih btc .. | u fucked her over | [
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Personally, I think Strider with Missiles is one of his best assists. You end up needing to play it somewhat different than an assist like Disruptor or Tatsu, but using st.H/cr.H satellite cancels while calling missiles forces them to take your shit while giving you freedom from being hurt letting you play a little more aggressively. | It's very good. Theoretically, a team like Strider/Dorm/Doom would be very strong as a point Strider team. | [
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Even as someone who has a pretty diverse wardrobe, I do end up wearing the same thing a ton. Now I am super limited because I own one pair of boots (soon to be 2 though), and I am doing a fade contest (which means same denim for a year), but none the less, I think it is mostly in my own mind. Realistically I have a ton of top combos (4-5 shirts, 3 sweaters, 3 jackets), but I definately feel from time to time that I only wear one thing.
EDIT: I just realized how unhelpful my post was. | yes i do wear the same things a lot. | [
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Movies or books where children are the main character(s) and actually have an impact on the world around them.
This almost never happens in real life, and I find it very hard to relate to I guess. | children are irrelevant to stories. | [
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Today, I was walking from the mall to my school (its across the street, and I sit in the food court and study early in the morning) and noticed a huge line trying to get into the school drop off zone, which is connected to a staff parking lot. People are honking, and the person holding up the line just sat there, trying to go the wrong way through the roundabout (against one way traffic).
So as I watch a line up at least 20 cars stuck, blocking traffic for many directions, I do what any normal person would, and went up and knocked on the guys passenger window. He rolls is down and I calmly and politely explain its a one way, and he should turn left at the next one, as he's holding up traffic quite a bit. He lost his shit on me. He looks at me, and says something to the extent of:
"Ill have you know that I WORK HERE AT (insert school name), and im trying to get into the parking lot. I dont need YOU trying to teach me how to drive MY car!"
So I explain, again, very calmly and politely that he has 30 cars behind him, and he can just pull up 20 meters and go with the rest of traffic, but he just wasnt having it. So I turned around and shrugged at all the cars behind him, and the honk-fest continued for another 5 minutes. | Guy was holding up lineup at school, I told him he couldn't go that way, he got really rustled and lost it on me and insisted on waiting to do the impossible. | [
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So much potential. I mean, if you take away the knowledge of what is to happen with Anakin...it's just a shame that they never properly developed all that was there.
I think it actually was a disservice to the prequels that they were told later. It seems like Lucas and every writer knew exactly what happened to Anakin...so they just got from point A to point B in the most rudimentary and brutish way without touching on the real meat of the character, his internal struggles, and WHY he got to be who he was. It was a rude visual transformation.
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You're angry Anakin => I'm not angry => You can't do that Anakin => now I'm angry => PAAAADDDDMMMEEEEEE (Pepper in lightsaber duels and space combat for about 75% of the rest)
when it had the potential for something like
Talented fatherless child => Seeking father figure => order and father figure abandon child => mutual misunderstanding of code => resentment of code => confusion/breakdown/grieving => Ultimate demise
I mean you see all those elements in the prequels but they are so poorly developed and half assed by the writing staff. | The writers knew where the story of Anakin was going so they didn't bother to develop the story properly and instead gave us three movies of pit droids kicking each other in the crotch, Jar Jar Binks, and cock stroking light saber fights. | [
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I married the girl in river wood, the one with the two guys trying to both get with her(yeah I'm a bit of an ass). Being a jealous man(cat, whatever) I move her away from River wood, because screw those two guys, they'd get with her while I go off my mah adventures. I come home one night and who do I see coming out of my door but that Woodelf prick. I'm livid. I follow him outside the city limits and butcher him on his way back to River wood. I drag his body to a cabbage patch and lay him there, throw his bow into the nearby river, kept his clothes. I returned home to my adulterous wife. She asks me how my adventuring was and I throw his clothes in her face. Before she can react I plunge my dagger into her for an instant death(Mehrunes dagger) and slide her under my bed. | Darling wife gets caught cheating and I go OJ on her | [
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Your getting a laptop to play Skyrim?
I don't think you're going to find one that can run a lot of texture mods and enb and stuff like that, at or less than 900 dollars.
The latest and greatest in laptop hardware (970m and 980m) is still 10-15% worse in terms of performance than mid range graphics cards (like the 770 or 280x) at their very best (sometimes the performance difference can be even greater) and there's no question that the desktop variants of the 900 series cards absolutely destroys them in terms of performance.
And while that isn't bad performance in any way (especially for mobile), you probably won't be able to find a laptop that has either of those GPU's for anything less than 1500-ish dollars.
And that's the perpetual problem with mobile components, despite being similar architecture (or the same, in a few rare case), they always perform worse due to physical limitations (ie, not enough cooling) and are extremely expensive due to their form factor. | I don't think it's possible to find a laptop for less than 900 that will play heavily modded Skyrim unless you get really ungoldy lucky on a sale. | [
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Change my view - I almost never wear condoms.
I don’t regularly wear condoms when having sex, and after much consideration I’ve come to the conclusion that for most (hetero) people condoms are not very helpful, and since they drastically alter the way sex feels, I don’t use them. I find that doesn’t actually seem to be a problem to many of the women I am with, but I will always use one if asked.
I do think there are some risks involved, but I don’t think they are significantly greater than the risks entailed with condom sex, and the loss of sensation is really a major loss and really can kind of ruin sex in some cases. I’ve never got anyone pregnant, and I’ve only got the clap once :)
I will say that I am tested regularly, and do have conversations with new partners about their status and testing. I think the key to a condom-less lifestyle is communication and frequent testing.
Lets talk about why I don’t think they are useful, point by point.
HPV and genital warts can be a lethal STI, however condom use is a very poor method of prevention, and in many cases will not prevent the disease at all. However, there is a vaccine, which I believe is now available to anyone with only a co-pay are part of Obama care’s emphasis on preventative medicine Get the vaccine and don’t pretend condoms will do much for this.
Gonorrhea and Chlamydia are both treatable and non-deadly. It’s a risk, but not a terribly large one. I know that there is a super clap going around, but from what I understand that is extremely rare and there have been no cases anywhere near me, or even in my country.
Syphilis is also treatable and curable, and also it is on the decline. It is almost non-existent in hetero-sexual communities, but it much more prevelent in gay communities, which is worth considering.
Herpes is another disease that condoms don’t really prevent, so while I don’t want herpes I am not going to pretend that a condom will prevent it. Herpes is the boogey man of STI’s because it isn’t curable. This is interesting because its a non-deadly disease that the vast majority of people who have it never have a symptom - how scary is a disease that doesn’t have symptoms for most people and have never killed anyone? I’ve come to think, not very scary. I’ve asked a few times why herpes isn’t included in the standard group of STI tests and the answer I got both times was “Because everyone has it, there is nothing that can be done, and it’s not worth screening for.” Now I don’t believe everyone has it, the stats say almost ¼ women do though (yikes), but I’ve come to think that risking herpes is just part of having multiple partners as an adult. Again I do get tested for this, and if I ever caught it I would tell any prospective partners. Bottom line condoms are not going to help much here.
HIV/AID’s is not prevalent among the groups I pull my sexual partners (straight college educated females who don’t use IV drugs), and additionally its almost, though not quite, impossible for a male to get aids from PIV sex. HIV is also on the decline in a massively huge way, with very few cases of straight non-drug uses contracting each year, the exception is the gay community and drug users. If I ever was to have sex with a male I would absolutely use a condom, and I advise people in high risk groups to do the same.
Pregnancy - this really should not even be a discussion. There are so many other, and I would suggest better, ways to avoid pregnancy, condoms are not required.
I do want to stress, I do communicate about this, I test every 2 months, and I am totally honest about my intentions and feelings on the subject. I am not trying to trick people into having unprotected sex with me or anything like that, this is a rationally considered decision that I've made - the risk of not wearing condoms is worth the pleasure.
About Condoms and herpes/hpv | Condoms are not worth the hassle, since they don’t prevent many as many diseases as people often claim, the ones they do prevent well are largely curable and manageable, and there are many other options to avoid pregnancy.
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"content": "Change my view - I almost never wear condoms. \n I don’t regularly wear condoms when having sex, and after much consideration I’ve come to the conclusion that for most (hetero) people condoms are not very helpful, and since they drastically alter the way sex feels, I don’t use them. I find that doesn’t actually seem to be a problem to many of the women I am with, but I will always use one if asked. \n I do think there are some risks involved, but I don’t think they are significantly greater than the risks entailed with condom sex, and the loss of sensation is really a major loss and really can kind of ruin sex in some cases. I’ve never got anyone pregnant, and I’ve only got the clap once :) \n I will say that I am tested regularly, and do have conversations with new partners about their status and testing. I think the key to a condom-less lifestyle is communication and frequent testing. \n Lets talk about why I don’t think they are useful, point by point. \n HPV and genital warts can be a lethal STI, however condom use is a very poor method of prevention, and in many cases will not prevent the disease at all. However, there is a vaccine, which I believe is now available to anyone with only a co-pay are part of Obama care’s emphasis on preventative medicine Get the vaccine and don’t pretend condoms will do much for this. \n Gonorrhea and Chlamydia are both treatable and non-deadly. It’s a risk, but not a terribly large one. I know that there is a super clap going around, but from what I understand that is extremely rare and there have been no cases anywhere near me, or even in my country. \n Syphilis is also treatable and curable, and also it is on the decline. It is almost non-existent in hetero-sexual communities, but it much more prevelent in gay communities, which is worth considering. \n Herpes is another disease that condoms don’t really prevent, so while I don’t want herpes I am not going to pretend that a condom will prevent it. Herpes is the boogey man of STI’s because it isn’t curable. This is interesting because its a non-deadly disease that the vast majority of people who have it never have a symptom - how scary is a disease that doesn’t have symptoms for most people and have never killed anyone? I’ve come to think, not very scary. I’ve asked a few times why herpes isn’t included in the standard group of STI tests and the answer I got both times was “Because everyone has it, there is nothing that can be done, and it’s not worth screening for.” Now I don’t believe everyone has it, the stats say almost ¼ women do though (yikes), but I’ve come to think that risking herpes is just part of having multiple partners as an adult. Again I do get tested for this, and if I ever caught it I would tell any prospective partners. Bottom line condoms are not going to help much here. \n HIV/AID’s is not prevalent among the groups I pull my sexual partners (straight college educated females who don’t use IV drugs), and additionally its almost, though not quite, impossible for a male to get aids from PIV sex. HIV is also on the decline in a massively huge way, with very few cases of straight non-drug uses contracting each year, the exception is the gay community and drug users. If I ever was to have sex with a male I would absolutely use a condom, and I advise people in high risk groups to do the same. \n Pregnancy - this really should not even be a discussion. There are so many other, and I would suggest better, ways to avoid pregnancy, condoms are not required. \n I do want to stress, I do communicate about this, I test every 2 months, and I am totally honest about my intentions and feelings on the subject. I am not trying to trick people into having unprotected sex with me or anything like that, this is a rationally considered decision that I've made - the risk of not wearing condoms is worth the pleasure. \n About Condoms and herpes/hpv",
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Zappa is right on his points of free speech sure. We have the first amendment right and people should be free to express themselves. However, I do not agree with him on his statement of "words are just words" because words carry considerable power. Words have the power to get a person to lay down their lives, take a life, move a nation, bring everyone together and blow them apart. Words individually have no power, but I know, Zappa knows, and everyone else knows that in a speech, and in a song, words come together to form an idea. This is the real culprit. Censoring a word we deem "immoral" will do nothing in the end because the idea persists and in the end certain ideas should not be so freely expressed because they do carry considerable weight. I'm not advocating the ability for an organization to censor whatever they find offensive, I'm more of a "free-thinker" myself, but I do understand the argument. Words are powerful. They can do beautiful and terrible things; the catch is they come hand-in-hand. | The ramblings of a guy at a respectable [5]. | [
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FUCK. YOU.
Do not lump The Tap in with that hack. They go on stage night after night - LOOK AT ME! Night after fucking night, turn their amplifiers up to 11 - YES, THEY GO TO 11.... and ROCK your fucking SOCKS off.
Does everything always go all right? No. Sometimes, your monument to hugeness is in danger of being crushed by a dwarf. But they never sold out. Never tried to sell you gold on late night TV. Never played muzak. Never sold fucking face cream. Did you even ever SEE the original cover for Smell The Glove? It had a naked woman... greased up... on her knees... with a man's arm holding a glove, shoving it into her face. That? Is fucking genius.
And don't even get me STARTED on Saucy Jack, their musical about Jack The Ripper. | The members of Spinal Tap are talented, thoughtful individuals, while Glenn Beck is a talentless piece of shit. Both are fictional, so I give the day to The Tap. | [
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EDIT : I recently picked up a GTX 760, and am very pleased with it. Thanks for the help!
If there is any subreddit more suitable to answering this question, just kindly let me know.
My PC specs are [here](
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Graphics card is a Radeon 7570 ,
CPU is a 6 core 3.8 ghz AMD
I have 1.5 tb hard memory and 10gb RAM
The computer was purchased at a store (I know, I'm a loser for not building it)
Anyway, my computer, though purchased for gaming, is seemingly not suitable for higher end games, and runs most of the better ones only at lower-medium settings, rarely above 30 fps. It can handle most games, but I want to escape the 20fps range that Im getting with games like Assassins Creed, Battlefield 3, and especially Skyrim, which doesn't seems to get any faster unless I lower my resolution.
My budget will be around $300, though preferably less. I'm looking to be able to reach more than 30+ frames on currents games and hopefully get the same support for these next-gen games coming out. I'll add in any details if asked about. Ultimately, I want to stick with Radeon, but don't know which card to upgrade to and what I can support. | Help me pick a new Radeon card. Specs above, want to run newer games. ~$250-300 budget. | [
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Today I smoked a joint. Not just any joint. This was the joint to change my teenage years. I am 16.
5:06 pm -
I smoke the joint, knowing that my mom would come up in about 5 minutes to ask me what I would want for dinner.
5:11 pm -
Mom: "...Ben...what's [that smell](
Me: "Uh, what smell?"
Mom: "It smells like...like pot"
Me: "Oh. I know"
Mom: "Have you been smoking pot?"
Me: "Yes"
This was seemed like a bold move. But, after some talking, I learned that my older sister had told my mom she has smoked the green. My mom was cool about it and we even agreed not to tell my straight-edged dad. I can finally toke in peace, as I trust my mom more than any other person/friENT. For all you other young ents out there I encourage you to summon some courage and tell your rents (unless they'd hurt you in any way if they found out, which I hope wouldn't happen). Some might have the courage to grow, but I had the courage to tell. | I smoked a joint for the purpose of my mom catching me. It was well worth it. | [
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Seconded, just run. I'm constantly seeing very attractive guys with fugly women about town, and the guy is always pushing a pram and looking exhausted. | She trapped him with a baby. | [
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I don't think you understand math, caloric intake, and work required to burn calories. If you eat stuff like that you will eventually be fat.
Let me elaborate. I assume that you are not past 28 yrs. During the first few years of life you program your body to recognize certain portion sizes as "standard". Or to say it another way, you set the "top off" point of your gas tank.
Eating meals like this only offsets that measurement. You will continually eat more than you should. When you are young your metabolism, activities, growth and random diet balances out this effect. You don't gain much weight at all.
On the other hand, try consuming these types of meals past 28. Your metabolism will have changed and you won't be as active. Unless you work in a factory or blue collar job you will sit at a desk all day and read Reddit. Thus the calories consumed from meals of this type stay with you.
Bonus: After 30 it's way harder to lose weight. It's not like making weight on the wrestling team where you can throw a sweat suit and garbage bag on and lose 20 lbs.
Experience level: Expert
I was 240 lbs about 8 months ago. I now weigh 180. The majority of this weight loss was due to regulating calories. | Don't get used to those portion sizes otherwise you will have twice the amount of exercising to look forward to later in life. | [
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If you are trying to sell a game attached to your steam account, you cannot as it is not possible. If it does happen to be a steam gift code, then it is possible but you would have not gotten the tf2 items from the gift code so I assume that the prior. | Can't sell claimed steam games. | [
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Hi guys. I have been reading this sub a LOT lately and I think it's part of the reason my current feelings have surfaced. All this talk of NC with exes and being mindful of your partner has left me stinging a bit over something with my BF.
We have known one another for years, met at school and had an immediate attraction, but I kept it from progressing because I was hoping a FWB situation I had would become exclusive. In the meantime current BF and I chatted online, a lot. FWB eventually did become exclusive, and out of respect for that I stopped talking with my now BF, because the attraction was still there and lot of our talk was flirtatious. We didnt talk for 2 years, during which time he also had a GF. Both of our relationships ended, mine in 2012 and his last spring. We had still been NC until summertime 2013, when out of the blue I get a gchat from him.
We have talked every single day since then, and have been BF/GF most of the year. But I learned a few things. I learned that his GF had snooped his stuff and seen everything we ever chatted to one another (she literally spent an entire day of her life reading our history), and she became painfully aware that we were attracted to each other before he met her. It was clear that it was me who was not interested, and his attraction never went away. It caused a huge problem for them, all unbeknownst to me. If they would ever see me around town it would cause an all day fight, and he "wasn't allowed" to go to my place of employment.
Well long story short they eventually broke up. Actually she broke up with him because she fell in love with someone else. A few months later is where we regained contact. He was in a FWB situation but said he broke it off shortly after we started talking (we lived an hour away from each other at this point). I was incredulous that he was over the serious GF because it really hadn't been that long, I think less than 2 months since he had last visited her state (after school they were LDR), and their relationship was about 2 years. They had talked about getting married.
But I knew he really cared about me so I was pretty patient when he said he wanted to call her to let her know we were dating. I thought Ok, I guess that's sort of decent. They were still friends on fbook and liked each others things, still texted and stuff. Well one night I couldn't get ahold of him and I figured it's because he was making 'the call.' It was, or seemed to be hours. Why do you need to talk so much about feelings if it's all the way over and you have something new? Still don't know about that one. But he called me so upset after and said it didn't go well. I was still pretty patient and told him he was very courteous to do that and helped cheer him up, although now to me it's more evidence that he was still in love with her when we began to date. Which drives me crazy!!! But anyway. Ahem.
At this point I blocked her on Fbook so I would never have the urge to look, or see things about her, and also so she wouldn't have to see anything about me from our mutual friends. I thought this was one small courtesy I could do, because I realize it would be HORRIBLE for your ex to be with the one person you always had a problem with. Occasionally she would text him and every time (i think) he would tell me, and every time he would be SO flustered afterwards. It upset me that she was still able to have that effect on him but I tried to ignore it. A few months go by and my now-BF moves for a job so we are temporarily LDR. It's rough, we have communication problems with a HUGE time difference, but it sort of works.
At one point I ask if he has talked with her since he moved, and he says Yes, she wrote him to tell her she was unfriending him and that their whole relationship was a lie while he waited for me (not true). He said he replied that it really hurt his feelings for her to say that, that they were in love, but that he wouldn't feel guilty for being with me, etc.
Now I am feeling like, if she wasn't trying to manipulate him, then why the hell wouldn't she just unfriend him without talking to him. I think she wanted to have some control, and get a rise out of him, and it worked. I feel like at this point he is being way too courteous of her feelings, and he would certainly be uncomfortable with me talking to my ex like that, or that often.
He knows this is bothering me, because he asked me what's wrong, he can always tell. I said I'm not mad at him but that with a few months time my perspective on it has changed. I also feel like reading this sub incessantly has affected me a bit - lol. Well he said he's not sure why any of that matters now. Rationally I guess he is right, and I'm thinking it could just be that I have had an emotional few days, but I'm wondering if I'm even a little bit justified by this?? I don't want it to be a fight, but I want to get it off my mind and chest.
I guess there's not a lot I can do either way, because in the moments I always chose to react patiently, but now I feel a little stepped on. Not to be too dramatic, but I had the sense like she and i were both these lakes and he was a stream running between us, cross contaminating. Is there a way I can make sense of these feelings, or some way I can talk about them with him in a way that is clear, but leaves them to rest? | Feelings surfacing months later about him talking to his ex, not sure if I'm over-reacting, seeking positive things to keep in mind? | [
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I was still pretty patient and told him he was very courteous to do that and helped cheer him up, although now to me it's more evidence that he was still in love with her when we began to date. Which drives me crazy!!! But anyway. Ahem. \n At this point I blocked her on Fbook so I would never have the urge to look, or see things about her, and also so she wouldn't have to see anything about me from our mutual friends. I thought this was one small courtesy I could do, because I realize it would be HORRIBLE for your ex to be with the one person you always had a problem with. Occasionally she would text him and every time (i think) he would tell me, and every time he would be SO flustered afterwards. It upset me that she was still able to have that effect on him but I tried to ignore it. A few months go by and my now-BF moves for a job so we are temporarily LDR. It's rough, we have communication problems with a HUGE time difference, but it sort of works. \n At one point I ask if he has talked with her since he moved, and he says Yes, she wrote him to tell her she was unfriending him and that their whole relationship was a lie while he waited for me (not true). He said he replied that it really hurt his feelings for her to say that, that they were in love, but that he wouldn't feel guilty for being with me, etc. \n Now I am feeling like, if she wasn't trying to manipulate him, then why the hell wouldn't she just unfriend him without talking to him. I think she wanted to have some control, and get a rise out of him, and it worked. I feel like at this point he is being way too courteous of her feelings, and he would certainly be uncomfortable with me talking to my ex like that, or that often. \n He knows this is bothering me, because he asked me what's wrong, he can always tell. I said I'm not mad at him but that with a few months time my perspective on it has changed. I also feel like reading this sub incessantly has affected me a bit - lol. Well he said he's not sure why any of that matters now. Rationally I guess he is right, and I'm thinking it could just be that I have had an emotional few days, but I'm wondering if I'm even a little bit justified by this?? I don't want it to be a fight, but I want to get it off my mind and chest. \n I guess there's not a lot I can do either way, because in the moments I always chose to react patiently, but now I feel a little stepped on. Not to be too dramatic, but I had the sense like she and i were both these lakes and he was a stream running between us, cross contaminating. Is there a way I can make sense of these feelings, or some way I can talk about them with him in a way that is clear, but leaves them to rest?",
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Dear Lucifer, I am so hopelessly lost.
My bf - Charleston, we'll say - is almost completely convinced that I have cheated on him since I started my new job. Presumably with someone there, but he doesn't seem to suspect any particular partner for me. I have not cheated on Charleston. Ever. But, like I said, he suspects every facial twitch, every unaccounted-for moment that I am gone... examples:
I stayed after work for an employee function. Charleston calls and states that I should "do the right thing" (i.e. come home) to avoid outright commanding me to do so. (I don't like that.)
Charleston believes that myself and another male coworker have secretly met during and after work hours. He believes this because when I started working this job, I once asked male coworker if he would bring a cigarette for us to smoke together. After Charleston expressing his concerns about the situation I would be putting myself in (by being alone with a male coworker), I have not been alone with this coworker since.
Charleston believes that I purposely neglect mentioning his existence as my bf, to foster a more conducive work environment for my cheating. I, on the other hand, feel as though it's pretty common not to talk about your s.o. in the work place, although there is no particular reason that I don't talk about him all the time.
I have not cheated on Charleston. (Seriously, can't stress that enough.)
Essentially, I am NOT to go to my work place except for the minimum amount of time required for my shift. Charleston, you see, is unemployed. We should spend our time together, right? So I should come home immediately when able.
Often, after Charleston has a jealousy/rage fit, he will admit to his rash behavior and apologize.
Rash behavior includes:
Showing up at my workplace, and demanding to know where I have been.
Calling my workplace, demanding to know what I am doing.
Assuming that all of my actions are fueled by an ulterior motive to ultimately cheat on him, or to continue to do so.
This is a growing problem. I convinced him to go to therapy one day, but he will not return because he felt as though the therapist only told him what he wanted to hear. It is extremely, extremely difficult to deal with this. I've never been in this situation. No matter what I say or do, he will not be dissuaded. What... what do I do? | Charleston is convinced I have cheated on him. I have not.
P.S. You guys might be tickled to know that he does actually use the word "suspicious" when he's talking about these things. | [
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So what you are saying is, that Frankie is a great player and expert at DayZ which provokes 12 year olds to buy DayZ and teach veterans how to play based on what they saw from a video or that you don't like him because he does ABSOLUTELY amazing things that noob players would never do, ultimately giving that 12 year old noob a bad experience when they play because they "can't find a plane" when in reality that would take a non-frankie-watcher 700 hours to find. | you dont like Frankie's play style influence on new players for DayZ
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Israel should “change its approach” and respond to the missile attack “in a very harsh and disproportionate manner,”
I strongly disagree with this.
When Israel won against Egypt its very existence was on the line and an asymmetric response was the best way to crush its enemies into understanding that Israel is a force to be reckoned with.
Hezbollah knows it could not defeat Israel in a conventional war, it wouldn't even bother trying, part of its weapon is public relations and world sympathy. They were the precursors to Hamas don't forget.
An asymmetrical response from Israel would do little to hurt Hezbollah in the long run - as we know from Lebanon 2 and the Gaza operations - all it would do is make the world more angry at Israel.
Even the most radical fundamentalists of Hezbollah don't believe Israel can be destroyed in reality without some sort of miracle - in real terms, militarily, Israel is here to stay and Hezbollah knows that. Their goal now would not be to literally drive Israel into the sea, but rather to make it unliveable for the Jews. This would be done through terrorist attacks, from all possible areas and peoples, and through encouraging Israel's diplomatic isolation.
Israel should continue to use a mixture of hard security and soft security tactics in order to keep the boarders safe, and should minimise engagement with terrorists as much as possible, Israel has little to gain from it. In the mean time Hezbollah will keep using resources on fighting ISIS, and Al-Nusra hopefully weakening their army somewhat. | Don't fall into the trap of thinking that fighting secular rational Egypt is similar to fighting radical religious Hezbollah - the two need extremely different tactics. | [
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Yep. Because the vast majority of the problems are either people wanting something from their old favorite MMO plugged into TOR or wanting instant gratification for fixes. Maybe if more people had actually testing in beta instead of using it for free game time a lot of the stuff could have been caught earlier. As it was, a portion of the most whined about bugs were not apparent until the last couple beta builds. If people were not so stuck on raging about everything and actually giving pertinent information to the developers the fixes might roll out a little faster. However, in true internet fashion, it's just "OMG BIOWARE YOU SUCK I WANT A REFUND!".
It happens with every single MMO that has launched since that other MMO, and it will probably keep happening after we're all in the dirt. | Do things need fixed? Yes. Does Bioware have to give you exactly what you want right now? No. | [
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So, after eight years of pain, primarily but not exclusively in my right hip, I finally got Medicaid (thanks, Obama!) and was able to start pursuing a diagnosis with a doctor. But I kind of feel like I've screwed up advocating for myself, and I need some advice.
My doctor did a rheumatoid factor (normal), and I had my hip x-rayed (also normal). In the appointment to discuss my x-rays, my GP asked if I had swelling (none that I've noticed, though my hips are, um, generous, so I'm not sure if I would). I described the way my leg joints (hips, knees, toes) are constantly popping and often stiff, and she said, "Don't tell me you have arthritis!"
Which just... did not inspire confidence. She said it sounds like "classic arthritis", and asked if I wanted pain meds. (I declined--the pain is intermittent, and I'd like to hold off on medicating as long as possible.) And that was pretty much the end of it--she moved on immediately, and when I asked if there were any lifestyle changes I could make to improve things, she just kind of shrugged and suggested I try swimming.
I left feeling like she considered the whole thing case-closed. I feel like it was a mistake not to press for more information or testing or a referral to a specialist, but everything went so fast. I'm not even sure I conveyed very well that while the worst pain is in my right hip, I also get it in the left, in my knees, and in my big toes.
Now I have to figure out how to reopen the topic. While my symptoms are far from severe (much of the time I have no or very little pain, but when it hurts, it's bad), I'm a nanny without access to a car while I'm with my (3 year old) charges. We do a lot of walking, and sometimes I'm worried I won't be able to get them home safely because my hip or toes are so painful and stiff. So I need to do SOMETHING.
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1) How do I explain wanting to work some more on this? When I called to make the appointment to go over my x-ray results, the office was like, "You were just in here a few weeks ago, why do you need to come back?" So I have a lot of anxiety about them thinking I'm taking up too much of their time. They're flooded with new Medicaid patients, and compared to a lot of their patients, I'm in good health.
2) What do I ask for? More tests? A referral to an orthopedist? A physical therapist? As I said, I'm not looking for medication, but I'm wondering if there are exercises I could do to improve my mobility. | My doctor gave me a really unconvincing diagnosis of "classic arthritis" for my hip pain, and no treatment plan; the pain is interfering with my work and I need help reopening the conversation with my doctor. | [
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I have created a lot of characters for Pathfinder, but due to a shortage of interested people, I always had had to GM up until now. Now, it seems like I might finally get the chance to play as a PC and wanted to create a character and see what you might think about it, both regarding to stats and the RP backstory.
Stats (15[20] point build after racial bonuses) :
Str: 8
Dex: 14
Con: 11
Int: 12
Wis: 14 [16]
Cha: 16
Race: Halfling
Class: Cleric
Alignment: True Neutral
Goddess: Shelyn
Domains: Air, as well as Luck or Protection (still undecided).
Primary skills:
Knowledge (Religion)
Perception
Diplomacy
Sense Motive
Feats:
Undecided. Probably something that will allow me to be somewhat useful in battle.
The basic idea of this character is, that in battle, he should just constanly be in the way of the enemy. With a high chance to dodge, as well as a decent amount of hit points, combined with healing at will and spells that make it difficult for the enemy to see what they are hitting, this little SOB should be hella annoying for all opponents. I don't know which feat(s) would help with this the most. Basically utility/healing/tank. The use of the favoured class bonus as a skill point hurts a bit, as well as the 12 intelligence, but I am not trying to min-max here and I still want for this character to be interesting out of battle as well.
Long wall of text ahead, feel free to skip it if you aren't interested.
RP:
I haven't decided on the name of this character yet, but I have decided on a backstory. He was raised in a small human city/rather big village. He would have hated the predominately human people living there for ostracising him due to his race and ridiculing him for his stature, but there was this one human priest they had that always treated him well. While he didn't care for the man's religion, the two did get along well and talked a lot about all kinds of things, mainly about what the world was like.
A bit about this priest: Apparently he was just some old man who, as a follower of Shelyn, did all the typical priest-y stuff like weddings, funerals, healing minor wounds, etc. One day long ago, already old, he had just disappeared and settled down. When asked why, he said because he just wanted some peace in his retirement.
When some outside force attacked the village, my character stood, due to bad luck, outside the gates and they wouldn't reopen them. They would have risked it for anyone else, but they didn't deem him important enough to take the (at this point in time still minimal) risk. When the old priest learned about this, it was revealed that he was quite the powerful cleric, because he blasted open the gates when the guards wouldn't open them and scared away the approaching enemy with some displays of his power.
Because of this, he had gathered quite a lot of attention, much to his dismay, because he had left bigger cities in order to gain some quiet and anonymity, where he had built up quite a reputation because of his former heroic deeds.
Due to his rescue, my character (who at this point was still adolescent in Halfling terms) vowed that he would follow the priest in his footsteps in order to become as powerful as he was and worship the same god(s) (about which at this time he didn't even know very much). This motivation was a bit disturbing to the cleric as this wasn't all that pure-hearted. He saw that the halfling wasn't quite fit to be a cleric of Shelyn. But he didn't refuse when the halfling offered to take a lot of his everyday chores that he didn't want to continue doing, because it would force him into the public and thus into the spotlight. Instead, he tended gardens and the like.
In the following years, the Halfling worked for the cleric and helped him keep his privacy, in exchange he was being tutored on the basics of being a cleric of Shelyn.
Said teachings weren't that much to the halfling's liking (too self-righteous and naive), but he learned eagerly. While he didn't care much for the rules of the human world, he was a man of his word and he wouldn't devote himself to another deity.
Soon, the old priest became sick. He might have been able to heal himself to gain a few more years, but he didn't want to linger any longer. As he told his apprentice, he had "too many friends and other people dear to him waiting for him".
Due to his long and faithful service, his goddess, via a messenger, offered that he may name someone he deemed worthy as his successor, who he thinks should inherit his power. Still a bit vary of the immaturity of his disciple, he asked if said powers could be restricted, to only slowly grow as the person he named were to show more compassion to himself and others, as well as grow more experienced. The messenger agreed and the man named his halfling friend.
The following day, the cleric said his farewells, explained the situation to the grief-stricken halfling, asking him to do his best to prove himself worthy and then sent him on his way, gifting him the few posessions he still had and handing him some previously prepared letters that he asked to be delivered to people he had met in his travels. The halfling agreed to fulfill his masters last wishes and when the man died later that day, he sold most of the posessions he now had to be able to afford the things necessary for the long travels ahead of him and set out.
Sorry for the poor literary style, this was just intended to be an overview, I will type it out more properlyin due time.
Now, I might miss some info on Golarion, deities, etc. that might be relevant. I am asking you, if you have any ideas. Basically the idea for this character is to grow on a personal level and see if he'll become the man his former master wanted him to be or see if he will take unexpected turns, depending on the situation. | Skip the RP part, if it bores you. I welcome all feedback to both gameplay and RP. Thanks in advance. | [
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"content": "I have created a lot of characters for Pathfinder, but due to a shortage of interested people, I always had had to GM up until now. Now, it seems like I might finally get the chance to play as a PC and wanted to create a character and see what you might think about it, both regarding to stats and the RP backstory. \n \n Stats (15[20] point build after racial bonuses) : \n \n Str: 8 \n Dex: 14 \n Con: 11 \n Int: 12 \n Wis: 14 [16] \n Cha: 16 \n \n Race: Halfling \n \n Class: Cleric \n \n Alignment: True Neutral \n \n Goddess: Shelyn \n \n Domains: Air, as well as Luck or Protection (still undecided). \n \n Primary skills: \n \n \n Knowledge (Religion) \n Perception \n Diplomacy \n Sense Motive \n \n Feats: \n \n Undecided. Probably something that will allow me to be somewhat useful in battle. \n The basic idea of this character is, that in battle, he should just constanly be in the way of the enemy. With a high chance to dodge, as well as a decent amount of hit points, combined with healing at will and spells that make it difficult for the enemy to see what they are hitting, this little SOB should be hella annoying for all opponents. I don't know which feat(s) would help with this the most. Basically utility/healing/tank. The use of the favoured class bonus as a skill point hurts a bit, as well as the 12 intelligence, but I am not trying to min-max here and I still want for this character to be interesting out of battle as well. \n \n Long wall of text ahead, feel free to skip it if you aren't interested. \n RP: \n I haven't decided on the name of this character yet, but I have decided on a backstory. He was raised in a small human city/rather big village. He would have hated the predominately human people living there for ostracising him due to his race and ridiculing him for his stature, but there was this one human priest they had that always treated him well. While he didn't care for the man's religion, the two did get along well and talked a lot about all kinds of things, mainly about what the world was like. \n A bit about this priest: Apparently he was just some old man who, as a follower of Shelyn, did all the typical priest-y stuff like weddings, funerals, healing minor wounds, etc. One day long ago, already old, he had just disappeared and settled down. When asked why, he said because he just wanted some peace in his retirement. \n When some outside force attacked the village, my character stood, due to bad luck, outside the gates and they wouldn't reopen them. They would have risked it for anyone else, but they didn't deem him important enough to take the (at this point in time still minimal) risk. When the old priest learned about this, it was revealed that he was quite the powerful cleric, because he blasted open the gates when the guards wouldn't open them and scared away the approaching enemy with some displays of his power. \n Because of this, he had gathered quite a lot of attention, much to his dismay, because he had left bigger cities in order to gain some quiet and anonymity, where he had built up quite a reputation because of his former heroic deeds. \n Due to his rescue, my character (who at this point was still adolescent in Halfling terms) vowed that he would follow the priest in his footsteps in order to become as powerful as he was and worship the same god(s) (about which at this time he didn't even know very much). This motivation was a bit disturbing to the cleric as this wasn't all that pure-hearted. He saw that the halfling wasn't quite fit to be a cleric of Shelyn. But he didn't refuse when the halfling offered to take a lot of his everyday chores that he didn't want to continue doing, because it would force him into the public and thus into the spotlight. Instead, he tended gardens and the like. \n In the following years, the Halfling worked for the cleric and helped him keep his privacy, in exchange he was being tutored on the basics of being a cleric of Shelyn. \n Said teachings weren't that much to the halfling's liking (too self-righteous and naive), but he learned eagerly. While he didn't care much for the rules of the human world, he was a man of his word and he wouldn't devote himself to another deity. \n Soon, the old priest became sick. He might have been able to heal himself to gain a few more years, but he didn't want to linger any longer. As he told his apprentice, he had \"too many friends and other people dear to him waiting for him\". \n Due to his long and faithful service, his goddess, via a messenger, offered that he may name someone he deemed worthy as his successor, who he thinks should inherit his power. Still a bit vary of the immaturity of his disciple, he asked if said powers could be restricted, to only slowly grow as the person he named were to show more compassion to himself and others, as well as grow more experienced. The messenger agreed and the man named his halfling friend. \n The following day, the cleric said his farewells, explained the situation to the grief-stricken halfling, asking him to do his best to prove himself worthy and then sent him on his way, gifting him the few posessions he still had and handing him some previously prepared letters that he asked to be delivered to people he had met in his travels. 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This'll be my 5th year, and yes the lineup matters to me. I don't know that I'd go if I had no interest in seeing any of the bands. The issue with this though is that in the past 5 years the lineups have never let me down. They just always book a variety of genres and amazing performers in each one of them. | yes it matters, but bonnaroo lineups never disappoint | [
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I will be doing a projection of 4 videos and some pictures tommorow. I need some software to do it without showing controls and other ui elements on projector. I also need to be able to set the duration of each photo, skip to the next photo/video and such. I'll be using an apple laptop, so Mac software. The audience should not see anything but the image. For videos, audio will be sent through an external sound card to the mixing table and the the audio people will set the sound system and that stuff. | good Mac projection software? | [
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So. I have always liked rogue . I know the class has never been op but rogue-types are my favourite classes in rpgs so I just want to play it. Pre-GVG I had jsut a miracle rogue deck and not much else. I stopped playing months before it came.
Then gvg came and I wanted to came back . I saw miracle was nerfed and said :"yolo , thalnos , vancleef , etc are useless now , gonna disenchant and make a cool robot rogue deck" and that's exactly what I did. I tried a lot of variations , disenchanting the specific cards each variation needed and getting poorer and poorer in dust amount. At the last days of my second time on HS I was bored as heck of my deck not working that good and I just disenchanted lots of cards and crafted gallywix , cuz why not. I tried to slap him on the robot rogue deck and failed miserably because it's a low curve deck but I didnt know that by then. So i got angry and disenchanted most of my cards, gallywix included but for crafting nothing , I left the game.
After seeing oil rogue working I wanted to go back to the game like crazy. I came a month before brm more or less and got VERY LUCKY getting a golden epic in the free pack from phone app. I managed to easily craft a oil rogue deck and then I started to get dust and managed to craft thalnos , boom. then I created lots of cancerous decks ( mage warlock hunter ) and got some legends in my pack. This weekend I was bored as heck again : Dont like cancer decks , can't get to play them for many games and dont win that much. I said , to hell with all , I have my oil rogue deck and that's all I need , Not going to disenchant any of his cards and i'll just be ok , plus cancerous decks can be crafted again if there's any need. So I just disenchanted all cancerous related cards ( except mage but antonidas got dusted) and crafted gallywix AGAIN, because I always loved the card and I wanted to give him a second chance , moreover when I found this deck , which seemed really fun.
Im really happy with the bold decision I made. I know I shouldnt disenchant cards but I just cant take any cancer decks , the play like exactly the same. Im sitll holding my shaman deck and flamewaker mage if I need to take a break. That deck plays a lot like an oil rogue but with way more late game options. Chrommagus is fully playable most of the time with amount of board control this deck can have and he made me win games sometimes ( once duplicated thalnos , then I dropped both in the field and activated a face hunter ( yes , managed to hold hunter until turn 10) explosive trap , which made me draw 2 x 2 cards and surprise , healbot got duplicated , GG) and gallywix is phenomenal. Just won vs a freeze mage , the poor soul didnt get ice block but didnt matter much because he couldnt remove my gallywix ever. He gave me frost barrier , frost nova , cone of cold , flamestrike and arcanne intellect before going down . He dropped his alex but I had healbot and I could have frozed her to hell and winning , but oil appeared so I won earlier . If he drew ice block I would have gotten it too... ( all these freezes were accompained by a doomsayer but first I sapped it then killed hit with +2 eviscerate + ping)
To sum it up: Not going to care for decks I dont like even if the cards are good to keep , Rogue is the only class im not going to disenchant EVER :3 .I know this wont be read probably and get downvoted to hell , but gotta try at least | Crafted gallywix on gvg release and dusted him later in a rage leaving the game. Crafted him back and having lots of fun with him :) | [
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"content": "So. I have always liked rogue . I know the class has never been op but rogue-types are my favourite classes in rpgs so I just want to play it. Pre-GVG I had jsut a miracle rogue deck and not much else. I stopped playing months before it came. \n Then gvg came and I wanted to came back . I saw miracle was nerfed and said :\"yolo , thalnos , vancleef , etc are useless now , gonna disenchant and make a cool robot rogue deck\" and that's exactly what I did. I tried a lot of variations , disenchanting the specific cards each variation needed and getting poorer and poorer in dust amount. At the last days of my second time on HS I was bored as heck of my deck not working that good and I just disenchanted lots of cards and crafted gallywix , cuz why not. I tried to slap him on the robot rogue deck and failed miserably because it's a low curve deck but I didnt know that by then. So i got angry and disenchanted most of my cards, gallywix included but for crafting nothing , I left the game. \n After seeing oil rogue working I wanted to go back to the game like crazy. I came a month before brm more or less and got VERY LUCKY getting a golden epic in the free pack from phone app. I managed to easily craft a oil rogue deck and then I started to get dust and managed to craft thalnos , boom. then I created lots of cancerous decks ( mage warlock hunter ) and got some legends in my pack. This weekend I was bored as heck again : Dont like cancer decks , can't get to play them for many games and dont win that much. I said , to hell with all , I have my oil rogue deck and that's all I need , Not going to disenchant any of his cards and i'll just be ok , plus cancerous decks can be crafted again if there's any need. So I just disenchanted all cancerous related cards ( except mage but antonidas got dusted) and crafted gallywix AGAIN, because I always loved the card and I wanted to give him a second chance , moreover when I found this deck , which seemed really fun. \n Im really happy with the bold decision I made. I know I shouldnt disenchant cards but I just cant take any cancer decks , the play like exactly the same. Im sitll holding my shaman deck and flamewaker mage if I need to take a break. That deck plays a lot like an oil rogue but with way more late game options. Chrommagus is fully playable most of the time with amount of board control this deck can have and he made me win games sometimes ( once duplicated thalnos , then I dropped both in the field and activated a face hunter ( yes , managed to hold hunter until turn 10) explosive trap , which made me draw 2 x 2 cards and surprise , healbot got duplicated , GG) and gallywix is phenomenal. Just won vs a freeze mage , the poor soul didnt get ice block but didnt matter much because he couldnt remove my gallywix ever. He gave me frost barrier , frost nova , cone of cold , flamestrike and arcanne intellect before going down . He dropped his alex but I had healbot and I could have frozed her to hell and winning , but oil appeared so I won earlier . If he drew ice block I would have gotten it too... ( all these freezes were accompained by a doomsayer but first I sapped it then killed hit with +2 eviscerate + ping) \n To sum it up: Not going to care for decks I dont like even if the cards are good to keep , Rogue is the only class im not going to disenchant EVER :3 .I know this wont be read probably and get downvoted to hell , but gotta try at least",
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"content": "Crafted gallywix on gvg release and dusted him later in a rage leaving the game. Crafted him back and having lots of fun with him :)",
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Ok sorry in advance for the wall of text. So my due date was March 29, on the 28th I was 3cm, we set an induction date for Thursday April 4th. Wake up Sunday after a nice sleep in, start to cook SO and I some breakfast around 11:15am. At 11:30 I feel a fair amount of fluid gush, run to the washroom and pee and think that's it. Go to get a new pair of panties and well more fluid comes out down my leg and on to my carpet. Meanwhile SO is having his normal morning washroom time, my grilled cheese and bacon sandwich is on the stove, yell at SO "hurry up!" grab my cell to call my mom who lives 2 hours away, oh smoke alarm goes off. Fast forward a little bit, got to the hospital at 12:30 and I am still leaking a fair amount of fluid to make me uncomfortable. Get checked into triage nurse hooks me up to the monitors and says "well it sounds like your water broke". Does a check I am 4cm (tells me she feels something soft and thinks baby is bald) but I am not feeling the contractions the machine shows I am having. Say ok maybe going for a walk around the hospital to see if that gets things going. Nurse tells me to get something to eat since I didn't get my breakfast. My best friend gets there (she can't have kids due to cancer so I asked her to join us as she wanted to experience child birth) we go down to cafeteria eat a poutine, mom gets there. It's 2 pm now and we go back to my triage room and wait and wait and wait.... Still not feeling the contractions and L&D is very busy on this day and I keep getting bumped down the list for a L&D room. Finally around 6 they move me into my room. The resident want to hook me up to the oxytocin since I'm still not feeling much at all. It's 7 or shortly after when they get me all hooked up and decided to do a check, holy shit I'm still 4cm! She also noticed that i had a pocket that was not ruptured yet, so she breaks that. Well not 5 mins later I feel a different kind of pain yup the contractions start. I handle it but now it's around 9 and I feel like I have to poop and can't control the toots anymore. Go to poop and have 4 strong contractions 3 mins apart, still feeling a lot of pressure now in my bum and my contractions are getting stronger and closer together. At 11 I ask for the epidural but the anasteciologost (sorry for spelling error) is in emergency c-section and will be a while. 12:30am and she does the epidural, lay on my right side for a while until I can't feel my contractions on my right then switch to the left side, this is feeling great again epidural is doing the trick. Nurse let's me try and sleep for an hour then has to put the cathedor in, does a check and I am now 7cm. As soon as I got on my back I had a horrible pressure and pain in my bum like I have to poop! Nurse said there is a little stool there but didn't worry about it. Well 20 mins go by and the pain is unbearable even with the epidural! Nurse said ok well let's see what we can do, kicks SO out because it might get nasty, she goes in through my vagina and pushed the poop out because I was so constipated, instant relief! But now I am 9cm Inbetween contractions and 10cm during a contraction.
The nurse waited another hour did a check, 10cm she said most first births she's done the women push for an hour or two but asked if I wanted to do a couple practice pushes to get the hang of it then I could rest for a while so now it's 245am and I start to push a little well it feels much better to push then just lay there through the contractions at this point so I continue to push with each contraction. She asked if I wanted to see baby's head. Umm yes please!!! Great motivation at first then it got a little distracting because I wanted to watch but closing my eyes helped me push harder so I asked her to take the mirror away. "ok ok stop pushing don't push through any more contractions just wait! Call the doctor in here now!" um I can't stop pushing I can't just hold her there! Thank goodness the resident was there because the doctor walked in just as her head came out! She tore me a little bit but they did not tell me how many stitches I needed she said that it's more like hemming pants... Really your hemming my vagina!?
Anyways, Miss Arrayana was born on Monday April 1, 2013 at 3:21am 7lbs 7oz, 20 inches long.
Sorry for formatting I am on my cell. | water broke while cooking breakfast. Put on oxytocin, asked for epidural. 16 hours total and baby girl was here! | [
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Hello, i am kind of a dark souls virgin. i played dark souls 2 sotfs kinda, maybe not even a quarter of the way through. i believe i stopped at shaded woods. the character i made was random, shield and mace, it worked but it was clunky and felt boring tbh.
i see so much positivity about Dark souls, so I got it and I am about to go give it a whirl. even pay attention to the story too. i felt playing Dark Souls 2 put me behind, regardless of what people think. i was missing something. and with the onset of Dark souls 3 i feel like i want to see what everyone is talking about.
i am curious about how the stats work in this game vs Dark souls 2. is there a baseline stat # for most things like End/Vit/Str just to get the baseline stuff in the game? i don't feel like using a shield, iwant to dodge more and roll. maybe use the big fancy weapons, or something quick. in dark souls 2 i had heavy armor/shield/mace and i felt like adoofus most of the time. is it possible to be a bow/dagger user to efficiency?
for me, i want to enjoy the game itself and not half way through come to some realization my build is going in the tanker and i have to start over. i want to just keep going and progressing.
so i guess | i need a good starting build, something sans a shield and more avoidance and dodgy. can i use bows exclusively? yes no? what about swift weapons vs heavier cool dude anime weapons? can i wear light armor but carry a big stick. should i get some magic? completely do magic? save that for another day? i just wanna have my wits about me before i start.
thanks friends | [
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I can't believe I'm posting here, but this has been weighing on me for the past couple of days.
About 6 months back, I made the ridiculous mistake of shoplifting. I was going through some rough times and I let my impulses get the better of me. But I fixed all that and I paid my fines, etc. I did this all in secret though. I know I did wrong and I deserve pretty much anything. And I feel like a sack of shit for never telling him. I wanted to, several times because I never want to keep secrets.. But every time I backed out of it. I would get so scared that he'd be mad or worse break up with me. So I just shut my mouth and pushed it away.
I know what the obvious answer is..I should tell him but I don't know how. I experienced emotional abuse when I was younger so this is quite possibly one of the hardest things for me. I learned to lie to avoid anger or disappoint. I know that is an excuse but confrontation is so hard for me.
Please help me. I don't want to keep this secret from him anymore. And I know its his full right to leave me, but I really don't want that. I know I broke his trust and I can never forgive myself. | I had a run in with the law 6 months ago and I never told my fiancée. How, if even possible, can I remedy this?
EDIT: Thanks to you all, I worked up the courage to talk to him tonight. Well more like break down at him. But I told him everything. And in his true fashion he told me "that's it?". While I'm a crying mess he kind of laughed and said he though I cheated or killed someone. He immediately hugged me and told me I should have told him sooner. That he was a little upset about the lie but he doesn't care too much. Then he proceeded to tell me he knew I was a criminal because I already stole his heart.
I love him. And my anxiety sometimes gets the better of me. But, we're working on that together. Thanks again Reddit. | [
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So my fiance (26) and I (23) have been in a relationship for about four years, and while it started out pretty good, it's been on a downward slide for a while. We've had a child together, and that almost feels like it's been the nail in the coffin. We are constantly fighting, and when we aren't I feel such apathy towards him I can't describe it. To be perfectly honest, I think that I'm just trying to hold this together for the sake of my child, and because I'm terrified of the idea of being a single mother. I do love him, but I feel like there's so much damage done to us that it's practically hopeless, and that there are qualities about each other that just can't be compromised on.
I've found myself thinking of the man I dated prior to this relationship. It wasn't a bad one, but distance essentially squashed the whole thing before it began. We were very compatible, but I feel like we just never got a chance to see it through. I find myself missing him so much it hurts. Not even missing him as a significant other, but just as a person, a friend. I desperately want to talk to him some days, but always hold myself back because I feel that this would be opening up a can of worms. I don't know if this is just loneliness or a case of the grass being greener, but it's really screwing with my head.
I don't know what to do here. I understand that having a child makes our relationship about more than just him and I, but at the same time I'm terrified that I'll stick around and become even more bitter and angry and my child will grow up in that environment. I want him to have his father, I want us to be a happy family, but it all feels like an act. I'm afraid to tell my fiance of these feelings because I know that it will hurt him, that it will be a huge fight, and that it very well could end our relationship. | Unhappy in the relationship, finding myself thinking of an ex, not sure if I'm staying in the relationship for my child or if this is worth working through. | [
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Not necessarily, but I have a rather good idea of how to be hardworking. To get the sort of concentration, focus, and drive you want you'd need to think hard about the work or job you are doing at the moment and try to remove or ignore all distractions in the environment. Listen to some calming, quiet music (doesn't matter what type, but classical is a good example) while working, if possible, to help drown out outside noise. Figure out a way to reward yourself for hard work and achievement, like going out for yogurt with a friend or someone on the weekend if you do X by Thursday, or buying that game you've been wanting if you finish the report within 2 days. This can help you get a drive or motivation for working, but not guaranteed.
If you dislike your job, it is possibly best to find one you do like, as jobs you dislike usually help make your mind wander and make you not want to work on the job at hand, though I do not recommend leaving or changing jobs if the one you own is your only way of earning pay and living through the week.
Stay organized. I cannot stress this enough. Even if you have good work ethic, stay organized. Organization improves work speed and removes annoyances and stress from lost papers or tools.
Stay on good terms with coworkers, if you have any.
That's all I have for now, but the one big thing you need to find to improve work ethic is motivation. If you are just bored by your job, and don't feel the need to do it, that's a problem. I don't know how to exactly find this motivation (besides self reward as previously explained), but when you do it is guaranteed that work ethics will improve.
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Was in a forced triple my freshman year. Everything started out relatively normal. Both of them (females) had one friend from high school they spent all their time with while I went out trying to meet as many new people as possible. One of them, let's call her Caitlin had a friend that was a smoker. That irritated me. I put on my application for rooming that I was not a smoker so I wouldn't have to deal with the smell. So I kindly asked Caitlin to ask the friend if he could not smoke before he came in. He continued, a week later I asked again. She said she would take care of it. He continued, a week later I asked again and she told me that if I had a problem with it I could ask him myself. Well I'm sorry Caitlin but he's YOUR friend. Anyway. I think around that last time they decided they hated me. They both sort of had falling outs with their best friends from high school as well and became good friends with each other. They would move the bed around (I had top bunk and my pillow would keep falling down), they'd close the window on me, they would be annoying until late hours knowing I had to get up for early classes. They would take nonsense bullshit behind my back to each other. They put up Christmas lights (technically a fire hazard over the door) and to do that had to get up on my desk (which they did without asking and kicked my laptop. Which I knew because the screen would freak if it got touched and I came back with it freaked when the lights went up).
Now up to this point it was very petty, and to me were just kind of annoying, but I got the idea they didn't like me. What really took the cake was when the other roommate, let's call her Ashley had her bf up. Now he had been up before, I had met him, really nice guy (hard to understand how he could deal with that crazy bitch, but hey). He had been known for losing things. Once he lost his keys. This time he lost his wallet. So Ashley is on the phone talking to her mom about it. And I can hear clearly through the phone "do you think fallingstar9 did it?" And Ashley responds "maybe". Caitlin gave her a little cough thing letting Ashley know that we could hear the conversation, but it was wayy too late. Somehow I had made an impression SO BAD to Ashley that even HER MOTHER thought I was a thief. (No I did not take the wallet, I would never do something like that let alone to the nice bf guy). So the end of the semester comes around and Ashley and Caitlin start asking if I'm going to be going to this meet where you can find new roommates. Oh thanks, I get the idea. They called a meeting with our HALL DIRECTOR BEHIND MY BACK. Lets just say I had a really bad day leading up to it not knowing what the fuck what it was about. Thankfully (although realistically) the hall director took my side on a lot of things. They were visibly pissed, this I heard from people on my floor who were all my friends and also disliked Caitlin and Ashley for how they treated me.
When I was finally able to find a roommate for second semester I was told these two were running up and down the hall cheering. Yes, this was college not first grade. Even after I had plans to move out, they were still evil bitches and it got so bad I had to move out the week before the end of the semester. Consolation was, everyone on my floor stayed friends with me and Caitlin and Ashley ended up hating each other. Either way it was pretty fucking miserable. | got stuck in a forced triple with two crazy immature bitches that decided they hated me for no reason, and would make my life miserable. And talked about me to their parents in such a way that a parent thought I was a thief | [
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I'm not one to feel a hierarchy based on age, but as someone on the last 2 years of teenage-ness (an adult), I like looking back at y'all and remembering when I was (insert age) high school and was doing the same thing you guys are doing. SATs, college decisions, substitute teachers, fighting with parents, sneaking out, general high school fuckassery, etc. It wasn't that far away but that's not the point.
I look back and ask myself sometimes, "Do I miss it?" No way! I look back at myself and think how much I learned between then and now. How much I was missing out on life experiences because I focused on bullshit like what people thought of me or how I would look to girl A or friend B, follower C or popular group X. Those things look like pieces of shit in a pool of opportunity and I hate that I focused so much on it. But I also look back at all the time I had in high school to do whatever I wanted and all the opportunities I had to make friends and meet everyone in my entire school and ditch class because I wasn't paying for class.
So if you feel like you're growing up too fast, it's because you are. The world moves fast and is full of opportunity and you're sitting on your ass reading posts on reddit to make you feel better about your own fear of missing out. Go do some shit while you still have time.
I mean, I have a midterm I have to study for right now, a paper due I haven't started, a printer with no ink, laundry that's not done, hunger, sleep, a girlfriend, a fraternity and clubs asking for my attention. And I'm writing advice to anonymous high school teenagers on a website instead of doing something because I'm still afraid of responsibility and being grown up.
I have no idea what you should take out of this. Maybe focus on what YOU want to do and who YOU is. Explore YOU and not what other people want from you. In general, don't give a fuck. | Have fun now. College is not party unless you're a liberal arts major.
Edit: Oh also get good grades senior year. it helps. | [
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I was hoping to find people to relate to, and hear other's stories about how reading changed their lives or effected them in some way! I wanted to share the story behind my reading timeline, and this seemed like a good place to do it.
When I was very young, about 10 or a 11, I was a very avid reader. My parents read to me every night until I learned how, and they encouraged me to read constantly. Anything I could get my hands on, I would read it. At the time, everything that was available to me was catered to my age level in terms of content. Roald Dahl, Shel Silverstein, etc. I never got into anything inappropriate. However, because I had access to computers, I was well aware of what sex was and how weird it could get.
Then I got my hands on a copy of James Patterson's Kiss The Girls and shit hit the fan when my mother found it. She notified my father (which is huge because they are divorced and can't stand each other) and I was in huge trouble. I couldn't understand why, as they had always encouraged my reading, and in my mind, I knew enough about sex to not get freaked out.
So my mother confiscated any book of his that I owned and scolded me horribly. I was scared to read after that. They had never explained that some books were not ok to read, and all of a sudden they were taking books away from me. I was afraid she would find something wrong with a book, and I would be scolded again. So I stopped reading.
Fast forward to age 23 and my sister in law suggested persistently I read Hush Hush , a teen romance novel. It was cheesy and a quick ready, but it made me remember how much I loved reading. That feeling I got from living through the characters. It was like a morphine drip. But something still frightened me, and I didn't want to go back to the hours I spent reading, submerged in a different world, because there was a deep nagging that it's a bad thing to do.
Then my fiancee bought me a kindle. Now I am reading like crazy and asking everyone I meet to be my friend on goodreads environment to do it in. I'm also writing my own book, because that's been a dream of mine since I was little. | My Mother is crazy and now I read a lot. Also, be my friend on Good Reads!
GRAPHIC FOOTNOTE : In Kiss The Girls there is some graphic imagery of a guy keeping women captive and making them do weird things. The most memorable scene I remember was the villain letting a snake slither into the vagina of a captured woman. Looking back, I can totally see why a mother would not want her daughter reading that. I just wish she had explained her reasoning behind it. | [
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I don't like how you cut of the reflections on the water. Also, there's some pretty sharp contrast between some of the brighter buildings/signs and the dark background. The red lettering would be cool if you could get the words to not be quite so fuzzy if there was a way to layer a few photos or something? I would aim to dim that center yellow building. The blue lightsaber-looking tower is also just a tad bright (well... maybe not, your call). Red is good, and the far left tower is probably good. Its just distracting, you know?
Also, the blue light reflection isn't equivalent to the brightness in the blue lightsaber sticking up in the sky. It's brighter somehow. This is nice because it complements the bridge (which looks awesome!), but its got that weird thing to it. Same for all the reflections i think.
I might crop some of the sky out too. Not too much, but its kind of a dirty-brown/black color that doesn't add value right at the moment. | Nice, but unnatural. | [
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I'm glad people are becoming aware that we're being completely fucked over by not only corporations but by the government/globalists. The technology that we use is nothing more than a way for them to plan ahead of us so they can further control the population. We the people are merely mice in a cage being observed by the powers that be. They're able to literally read our thoughts via the web and cell phones. | we're fucked unless we make change in this world. | [
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In simple terms, what does the treaty say? What am I being asked to agree to?
Basically it ties the Eurozone into a) keeping their deficits in order b) co-ordinated action to control fiscal policy to achieve this c) harmonize and smooth out tax/economic policy to achieve item b)
Here is the text of the treaty- PDF warning:
Here is the wiki:
>What are the economic and political consequences of either it passing or failing to pass?
Passing - your government signs up to a synchronised fiscal policy with the rest of the EU, and the Eurozone crisis slows down.
Failing to pass - we don't actually know.
Best case scenarios - It could lead to a renegotiation and thus bring about better terms for the hardest hit by austerity. OR a combined fiscal pact could stave off a default in many countries and stabilise the debt markets so economies can restructure.
Worst -case the Euro collapses and every country has to scrabble to start up it's own currency. For Ireland it's back to the Pfund and an immediate devaluation of the currency thus whatever consequences that brings about.
>If Ireland does not sign this is it thrown out for every country or just for Ireland?
Officially it gets thrown out for every country, though if Ireland ends up being the only country - they'll do what they did last time .. fudge it and make you vote again. If other countries also sling it out. Then it's dead.
P.S - I don't think that austerity is doing anyone any good, I hope it leads to a renegotiation and rebalancing of the priorities of the Eurozone. I do think that the stakes are so high eventually there's going to have be a compromise made. | soft European political unification if you do, hard economic crash if you don't. | [
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I have a crazy story about these guys, this may be kind of lengthy but please read this. This is very "nerdy" so hopefully other advanced users can understand this.
I was about to get off my computer; most of the guys in my Steam chat already left and things on the server where slowing down. I had a dual boot on my computer (I have two, my main computer and a server.) that I wanted to fix so I delete the partitions I had Ubuntu on (I never use it and it just takes up space). Some time passes by and I reboot my computer, only to realize I forgot to repair my MBR, doh! I plug a Ethernet cord into my laptop from my router and torrent Windows 7. I watch TV for a while and come back to realize the Internet is down. I go to the server and log in to see if it's offline too, sure enough it was. But in the Terminal it read "xxx.griefcraft.com". "Was I griefed?". I thought. To prevent further damage, I type "ban xxx". The server replied "user not online."
Then it struck me. The guy joined then the Ethernet went off right as he was about to get busy, sparing my server from this neckbeard. | accidentally unplugging a router saved my server | [
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So I've been loving this holiday. I'm 31 weeks today and the nausea that was overwhelming two weeks ago has almost disappeared. All the various Christmas treats people have offered everywhere I've been mean that I haven't run out of little snacks no matter how long I'm out and about and my stomach never gets empty enough to make me sick. All the social events and friends to visit mean that for the first time in months I don't feel isolated or lonely at all. That's been great.
The downside is that all this activity has been really hard on my poor tendons and ligaments. The round ligament pain/pelvic girdle pain has teamed up with occasional sciatic nerve pain. This morning I needed help getting out of bed. My back, hip, and left leg hurt so much it's hard to roll over.
My sweet husband lifted me up so I could stand. He then carried me to the bathroom. I refused to have him help me sit on a toilet, so I ended up crawling out of the bathroom since I couldn't put any weight on my left leg. Husband then helped me back into bed, tucked me in with a hot pad, insisted I call in a substitute to teach my class today, and cuddled me for a couple hours. He's been fussing over me since.
The midwife said the pain is nothing to worry about, but to take it easy and back off from the exercise (mostly hiking). In the meantime, I'm really enjoying all this attention from my husband. | I'm ridiculous and over exhorted myself. Pain sucks. Husband is wonderful and patient. | [
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I don't want to protect him, but MAYBE i can gave you an insight. When i was joung, my parents celebrated my birthday, then, as i became 9-10+ years old, they didn't gave a fuck. We didn't celebrated anything, anything, no birthdays, no namedays, no anniversary, just a christmas dinner. That's pretty much sums up how happy is/was my life with my parents. So i became a bitter(?) person, i don't even care about my own birthday, so you can expect how much i care about someone else's. Am i a horrible person, or i just grow up like this?
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I'm a CLG fan and let's be straight up here.
It's a 2v2 lane, and Xpecial is a better player than Doublelift, and a better player than Aphromoo. Why? Because he has the accomplishments to back it up. Xpecial is easily one of the best players in North America.
While we're on the subject: Wildturtle is better than Doublelift. He has NA LCS titles, Doublelift doesn't.
You cannot say the same thing about Altec. His team was terrible the entire time he was there. During that same time period, there was an often forgotten, but significant, portion of time that Doublelift's team was not terrible.
If Altec has the potential to be better, let's talk about that. But certain people in the sub need to stop acting like Altec has already proven he's in the discussion for top ADCs in NA.
I went off on a tangent, but as for Cop, he's VERY consistent. But he's consistently average. Doublelift is very good, but inconsistent to an infuriating degree. There's a discussion to be had here, it's not a foregone conclusion that Rush Hour was better than the Xpecial/Cop lane.
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For starters my name is Ben and I'm 18. I'm from Toronto, Ontario; If you are local that's great but anywhere would be nice really. I recently have been ex-communicated by my family because they found my journal and let's just say for the most part they aren't a fan of my opinions on their most recent actions towards me. I'm looking to rebuild my life; without them and I figure a new circle of friends is a great start.
A bit more about me; I enjoy cooking, travel, photography, learning new things, pranks, bad humor, puns, sarcasm, Robin Williams movies, House MD, Lie to Me, Rookie Blue, Flashpoint, music of most genres, Green Day (was raised on the stuff), shitty bro comedies, staying up late with my friends and walking around AND so much more.
I just really would like to meet people and see if friendships come through. Preferred methods of talking would be texting (I have international texting, so get at me world.) and Skype when possible. I look forward to hearing from you all. | BE MY FRIEND | [
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3.5 years ago, a few months before we began our relationship, my now boyfriend (he was 22 at the time) had a very short lived (about 1 month), very intense relationship with a girl we'll call C. They were never officially dating, but they spent a lot of time together. C has mental issues and once, after the only time they had sex, curled up in a ball and started crying. Shortly after this, her and W, my boyfriend, decided to distance themselves from each other and just be kind-of friends but not close like they once were.
Fast forward a few months and W and I started dating (I was 19). During our first week being a couple, he told me about his short lived relationship with C and that she was "the most amazing woman in the world". I was a little upset but I didn't really think anything of it because we had not know each other for that long and I had no idea who this person was.
In August of this year, I decided to be a snoop and read through my boyfriend's Facebook messages. I found out that he talks to C about once a month, usually about how bad her life is and how she's depressed or who her new boyfriend is. He talks to her about his multiple sexual encounters with women who are not me that have happened during our relationship (most all of them being with women he paid), and she asks him if he's unhappy with me. He said he's not, that he loves me to no end, but that I am monogamous and he does not believe in monogamy (obviously). She goes on and on about how she's upset that he is in a relationship with someone who doesn't make him happy, and he said "maybe I should end it with her so you'll be happy".
After reading that and finding out about the cheating, I brought it up with him. We had a long conversation about how he does not believe that love and sex are connected, that it's just a Judeo-Christian value that has been forced on our society and he apologizes and I realized that while yes, I am monogamous, it really didn't hurt me that bad that he had sex with other people. He said that he would try to be monogamous and that when he had urges to have sex with other people we would talk about it. I told him what hurt me the most were his conversations with C about leaving me to make her happy and the like, and he said that he was 'just saying that' but that he didn't actually mean it.
After that and after a few internet searches, I found her public Tumblr where she talks about her mental health issues, her polyamory, her day to day life and whatnot. I didn't find anything about W on it, so I didn't think their conversations meant that much to her, either.
Fast forward to last night - W and I decide to go out to dinner, and as soon as I walk in the door a girl starts yelling his name. He can't find where the voice is coming from but I lock eyes with her and it's C. W says it's too awkward to talk to her and he just sits down and tries not to make eye contact. C texts him, and W texts back and this goes on for about 15 minutes. I'm getting a little irritated because I know their history and I'd rather we not ever have to see her, but obviously she wants his attention. Finally she's leaving the restaurant and they lock eyes while he scowls at her. I spent most of dinner complaining about everything that had happened, and first thing this morning I checked her Tumblr to see if she had something to say about seeing him. She said they had some bittersweet romantic and aggressive texts, but that the eye contact hurt her the most because she has been trying to see him but he keeps turning her down. She said later on last night she got a text that said "I’m pretty sure I’m just going to be in love with you until I die."
It really hurt my heart to read that, so now I'm turning to you guys for advice. I know he doesn't want a serious relationship with her because of her psychiatric issues or he would talk to her more often, and he hasn't been willing to see her for over 3 years so should I really feel that concerned? Has anyone ever had this happen to them before? | Boyfriend of 3.5 years has a seemingly harmless relationship with mentally ill old flame and texts her last night that he thinks he'll love her forever. I'm wondering where to go from here. | [
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Economics is defined as pseudo scientific in that whilst short term trends can be explained, long term patterns are essentially unpredictable.
Beasically like any economy we can say 'ahhh that's why it does that' in hindsight but prediction wise we can't really say what will happen beyond a 'well it'll probably go down again'
Essentially. Don't expect doge to go bitcoin x1000 overnight even though it's logically possible for it to DO that.
Given everything i's holistically intertwined with it's value whatever we do will essentially do SOMETHING to the value it's kind like being in a schrodinger market. By observing the problems we change the conditions. | DOGE TO THE MOON +/- 50 billion doge | [
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I was playing crucible on load screen when my niece (toddler) walks in my den with dirty hands. I put the controler down upside down and took my niece to wash her hands. I come back 2 matches later and I have a Midas multi-tool in my inventory. I don't know whether to be happy or disgusted with this loot system. Which brings me to ask why is this still a thing? How long have players been complaining about this. What this is telling me is that I should think about loading a crucible playlist and setting up a controller to receive an imput every 20 seconds or so. I'll receive the same rewards as the guy who is actually playing the game.
Note: not going to do this as it would be rude to my team. | received a exotic while afk in crucible followed by my complaining | [
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sexuality to me is very subjective. The same person who considers himself a heterosexual if raised in a different household or culture could have turned out to be gay. If I was born ancient Persia or Rome then it is very possible that I may have indulged in local customs of that time I.e being bisexual. I remember studying in all boys school and me and my friends would very much admire the cool guys and the older guys, we wanted to be like them. But since I was in a culture where sexuality is hidden and you don't learn about sex until you are way older or your friends tell you about it. You would have no idea what it means be be sexually attracted to someone. Maybe if we knew about sex at the time I may have considered my self as gay. Who knows. All I know is that I grew up to get married and have children. I am attracted to my wife. She too was in an all girls school and had the same out look towards the older and cooler girls but maybe that is just human nature to be infatuated by the bigger personalities.
Many African tribes do not look at breasts and cleavage the way westerners look at it. To the indigenous African tribes, breast are source of food for an offspring and not covering breasts is not seen as immodesty. While talking to a male that is not your relative can be seen as near adultery in these tribes.
But in the west the communicating with the opposite sex is not a big deal and we have the female fashion industry built primarily on cleavage show and see through cloths. We find these designs and bold and sexually forward.
We should not look at your sexuality as our identity. Because how can your identity be something that changes with the season or your friend circles and it changed with your age.
Same way, Many people have families in war torn area or family members in prison, though we worry about them from time to time, we still remain happy in our lives. Furthermore there are millions of people starving around the world. Dying every day of hunger, yet that doesn't keep us from buying an xbox or a nice car. We don't break a sweat worrying about the misfortunate.
The analogy may not fit entirely to the hell heaven scenario, but we do see a glimpse of the contrast you made in daily life.
Lastly all these are justifications for people who need it, for most if Us Muslims, if Allah(swt) decreed it. It's good enough. After all everything we have, are given or will be given is from Allah(swt). he made us, he knows us and if he takes away what he has given, we need not sulk over him taking back his amanah. | if the suffering of our families and other families in this world doesn't make us move to less fortunate areas to help them out; essentially not affecting our happiness. Why would that change in afterlife | [
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As an avid USA armor commander in the recent patch I’ve been thinking about and using tank crews a lot more and I feel like a lot of players could do more with their tank crews. So I will list out a few tricks I use to get the most out of my crews.
Keeping tank crews alive
Keeping tank crews alive is one of the most helpful things in my list. Jumping out of tanks before they die is a much less risky venture then I think most people realize with a little micro.
The trick is when you jump out, move your crew to take 'cover' behind the decrewed tank so that its between you and the enemy anti-armor. From here it usually breaks into 4 scenarios
The enemy does not want you to save the decrewed tank under any circumstances. They use attack/attack ground commands to keep shooting at de-crewed tank. Once destroyed retreat your crew.
The enemy attempts to shoot at your tank crew and 8/10 times it will hit the decrewed tank instead, killing it in one shot. Retreat your crew. If unlucky its possible to get your tank crew and you lose a model, get back in the vehicle instead, once you lose another guy you can’t get back in your tank (larger ones at least).
Enemy stops shooting anti-tank weaponry in your direction and starts moving up infantry. Jump back in the tank and let the crew die with the tank.
You jumping out of the tank buys precious seconds to either, kill the de-crewed tank yourself, or ward off the attack. This happens when you have other armor nearby, and the targeting of the enemy tank automatically switches to your other armor
Other notes:
Keep in mind morters, if there’s enough of them it may be too risky to get out at all as they can easily cause a wipe of the tank crew
Be careful not to mash retreat when getting out of a tank, its easy to retreat your crew as soon as they get out leaving your tank.
Crew swap
Obvious one that most every one probably knows but il mention it anyways. Keeping the early m20/stuart/halftrack alive is a perfect candidate to move veterancy to t4 tanks. Other interesting swaps are major/rear esch with m20 to get an extra zook on the field or to keep your tank 'ready' while its being repaired. Or throw any high vet unit into a half track just to temporarily unlock its vet 1 ability to shoot a plane down.
I once even had my medic crew recrewing an abandon tank on the field to keep my field presence up and get the tank off the field. Theoretically you could also use tank crewing to ‘boost’ experience of units. But I haven’t found American infantry veterancy useful enough to risk/micro this. | be creative with what you put in your vehicles
Weapon pickup
When the enemy drops weapons on the ground and you have no units to pick them up, tank crew are perfect from keeping them out of enemy hands. This is less useful in recent patches due to state of bar and zooks, but this may become more useful if they get buffed.
Capping with tank crews
I see this in 1v1 replays but I have found it less common in larger games. Highly useful to cap with vehicle crews particularly when responding to back capping as vehicles can respond quickly. Of course there is some risk involved especially if you are repairing as you will take extra damage. Be wary of call ins such as storm troopers.
I often control key any capping crews to my first hot key and keep an eye on my minimap, I ive yet to lose a tank crew for capping recently.
Tank crews on the battle field
If you are keeping crews alive you’re bound to have unveted extra crews. By default treat these as Rear echelon as they can’t kill much of anything. Best to use these as cappers/repairers and possibly as a meat shield when blobbed with another rifle squad (note they do die fast).
With armor commanders Thompsons these guys can theoretically contribute a bit more. If you have the extra munitions (and I do mean extra, the general consensus is that the upgrade is not worth it.) these guys fire power seems to be roughly equivalent to assault engineers. And work decently when grouped with riflemen.
Iv seen this suggested on this subreddit before but it’s also worth noting you can use the tank crew of an m10 or Jackson to take out a gun crew such as a lone mg/morter/at gun (i imagine the at gun is risky due to re-positioning i have not tried them) when the Thomson is equipped. | [
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"content": "be creative with what you put in your vehicles \n Weapon pickup \nWhen the enemy drops weapons on the ground and you have no units to pick them up, tank crew are perfect from keeping them out of enemy hands. This is less useful in recent patches due to state of bar and zooks, but this may become more useful if they get buffed. \n Capping with tank crews \nI see this in 1v1 replays but I have found it less common in larger games. Highly useful to cap with vehicle crews particularly when responding to back capping as vehicles can respond quickly. Of course there is some risk involved especially if you are repairing as you will take extra damage. Be wary of call ins such as storm troopers.\nI often control key any capping crews to my first hot key and keep an eye on my minimap, I ive yet to lose a tank crew for capping recently. \n Tank crews on the battle field \nIf you are keeping crews alive you’re bound to have unveted extra crews. By default treat these as Rear echelon as they can’t kill much of anything. Best to use these as cappers/repairers and possibly as a meat shield when blobbed with another rifle squad (note they do die fast). \n With armor commanders Thompsons these guys can theoretically contribute a bit more. If you have the extra munitions (and I do mean extra, the general consensus is that the upgrade is not worth it.) these guys fire power seems to be roughly equivalent to assault engineers. And work decently when grouped with riflemen.\nIv seen this suggested on this subreddit before but it’s also worth noting you can use the tank crew of an m10 or Jackson to take out a gun crew such as a lone mg/morter/at gun (i imagine the at gun is risky due to re-positioning i have not tried them) when the Thomson is equipped.",
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Background: I'm dealing with a lot of stress about school and my future at the moment, as well as a general tough emotional state that might be depression-related. My boyfriend is a very straightforward, very driven person who has spent his whole life since he was a toddler working toward a single career goal, and as far as I can tell has never had any particular tough times emotionally beyond worrying about the quality of his work.
We tend to run into problems when I try to talk about my feelings. He's okay at superficial responses like "aw :(" but past that tends to get a bit annoyed. I get things like "do we have to do this now?" on a regular basis, and he seems to want (or at least assume that) talking about my feelings will spiral into an argument somehow, so he's apprehensive of it coming up at all. When it does, he tries to explain to me why feeling like that is pointless (i.e. "being worried about whether you'll find a career you're passionate about doesn't accomplish anything, you'll have to get a job either way") and when that doesn't help he takes it as evidence that talking about my feelings doesn't accomplish anything and it's better to just avoid it. He figures, if I'm not going to do what he says and just fix everything and stop worrying, what's the point of talking about it?
I really think he's trying to help, but I don't know how to communicate what's going wrong without him getting offended. I tried to explain today that I wanted to feel like my feelings were valid, and his response was quite literally "well I don't think they're valid so I don't know what you want me to do about that."
His perspective is that my problems (lack of direction in school/career, frequent loneliness, being quickly overwhelmed, crying for no coherent reason) are silly and easy to fix. Given that he's never seriously experienced any of those things, I don't know how to explain to him what they're like, so we just get stuck in a cycle of him explaining what he would do in that situation, me getting defensive (most of the time his ideas aren't wrong, just a bit naive, but I struggle to stay calm when I feel patronized), and him giving up because he feels I'm being defeatist and ignoring him. I figure fixing the things I struggle with is my problem, I just want to feel supported, but it's very important to him to be able to give his honest opinion even when it's not positive.
The issue we ran into most recently was over whether I should be able to say things to him that are emotional in nature and not completely rational and still be taken seriously. (I think the comment he brought up was something like "I'm not sure I'll ever find a job I'll be happy doing. I know I need to work on clarifying which things I say are emotionally based, but I thought this one was fairly clear.) His view is that that emotion on my part and his response that it's a silly thing to say and he doesn't want to talk about it are both feelings that bother one another, and so equally valid, and that if I expect him to have a conversation about that he needs to voice his honest feelings (ie that it's dumb) or else I'm allowed to be honest and he's not, which isn't fair. Which... makes some kind of sense, but I still think that a) it's different because my worries about myself aren't a criticism of him, as much as he tries to make it about him and b) listening to your girlfriend's problems sometimes and being mostly kind about them is a reasonable expectation.
I really don't know how to communicate this to him without him getting frustrated at me, and I definitely don't want to be a burden on him. He's really not malicious, he just honest to god doesn't understand what the things I'm struggling with feel like or why I want him to just be nice sometimes. I definitely know that dealing with me can be tough and I try to tone things down with him already since I know he doesn't always get it, but I think I'm being reasonable. Hopefully you guys can tell me if I'm not, and give me some advice on how to make this conversation more productive. | My boyfriend and I both think each other are being unreasonable about expectations for tough conversations. How can we resolve this? | [
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Nerve wracking because you had a huge lump, or because you had to tell the doctor about it? I just treat my doctor like a body mechanic: "I got issued this body, and it's doing weird thing X. Is it supposed to? Can we fix it?"
Funny story:
I had a nasty patch of dry skin on my (circumcised) bell-end. Probably due to chafing (velcro fly on board shorts, surfboard, salt/sand, etc.), and then it went on a cycle of skinning over/stretching/drying/cracking and taking a while to heal. I was starting to get a bit worried, because it was months with no improvement, and I've only got one knob.
So I went to a local GP. He lazily took a look and declared it unequivocally to be the herp. He prescribed some (expensive) medication and sent me on my way.
I wasn't convinced, because I've only ever sexed my wife and even then it had been a long time between drinks (another story...). So I talked to a friend who is a GP (showing him my knob would have been stretching the friendship), and he recommended I go to the local free STD clinic for a second opinion.
I get there and lie down on the gurney with the towel over my privates while the lady doctor gets ready. She folds the towel back and has a look (no problem, I figure she sees diseased wang all day, although I am a bit out of my comfort zone). She puts the towel back, says it's just dermatitis and recommends some reasonably priced ointment.
For some reason, she then gets some interns to come and have a look (I like to think it's less about so they could have a good giggle about my poor suffering meatpop, and more because of the novelty of seeing a doodle without some horrific actual STD). Anyway, she folds back the towel and they all have a professional squiz, one after the other, and then they're chatting away about various types of dermatitis, fungal infection, etc.
And I'm lying there, my poor chafed knob exposed to all the world like a museum exhibit, trying to remind myself that they're all professionals and that this is probably normal for them.
After several minutes of their discussion, almost as an afterthough, and without breaking stride in her sentence, the doctor glances down at me, reaches over, and folds the towel back over my groin area to cover me up again. It was just as though it had suddenly occurred to her that maybe the patient doesn't need to be lying there with his cock out while they chat casually about topical treatment options.
I thought it was hilarious. And weird. But mostly hilarious. | Doctor inspects my knob, forgets to cover it up again while having long discussion with interns. | [
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I was pretty sheltered during high school, so always wanted to fuck about a bit during college.
I met a guy during the summer tho and I'm head over heels for him now.
He's willing to let me sleep around but now I just don't want to. I don't feel the need to because I have everything I need with him.
I know I'll regret it in the future if I don't experiment thought.
Basically I just don't know what to do and have nobody to talk to about this. | Want to fuck about but don't know if I can.
EDIT: I'm not posting here for you guys to just judge us on our age. Thanks. | [
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Alright, here's the proverbial deal.
I bought the[Sennheiser HD-280 PROs,]( and was thoroughly impressed with them. The majority of the four and five star reviews kind of sum up my feelings on them. However, given that they're essentially low-cost studio headphones, they're not the most portable things in the world. They don't sit on your head very securely, look kind of dorky, and that long spiral cord isn't very comfortable to shove in your pocket. They're also...quite a steal on Amazon right now, but I wouldn't exactly call them cheap. It was kind of an impulse buy that I'm regretting now, as I'm a lot poorer now than I used to be.
So now I have them boxed up and ready to be returned, and I've bought the Sennheiser HD 202s My question is, as someone who's been lucky enough to own and get used to some pretty decent equipment (the reason I'm shopping for headphones in the first place is to replace my Shure SE110s, has anyone had experience with these, and can attest to their quality? Can I get anything better at this price point? I'd be willing to go up to $50. Also, I'm done with the in-ear thing (uncomfortable, and gets too dirty) and I don't want them to leak very much sound. I wouldn't call myself an audiophile, but I can't go back to the iPod earbuds, and I just want the best I can get for my money. | I bought [these;]( was that wise and would anyone recommend anything else at this price-point?
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I’m 26, female, and I’ve been married for almost two years. I’m not creative enough to describe my marriage without using the cliché statement that I actually did marry my best friend.
I’ll start by saying that its so strange to me that in such a comfortable and loving relationship, I can still feel so alone sometimes. Luckily my feeling of being alone is confined to one topic… A big, fucked up topic. To make quite a long story short, when I was very young I was raped by a much older friend. This incident pretty much devastated a big chunk of my life growing up. All of my relationships were affected, especially when things started to get physical. Fortunately, things would even out once that aspect of our relationship became more familiar.
When my husband and I started dating 6 years ago, things started to get physical and I thought he should be warned ahead of time that shit might to get weird...especially since he had known me so well as a friend before. I let him in on some of what happened. It seems like so long ago I honestly can’t remember exactly what I said because I stumbled through so much of it and counted on him filling in the blanks. I remember he cried and I didn’t know how to react to that. I had never told this to a boyfriend before. I felt relieved as soon as the issue was out, but then immediately wanted to camouflage myself into the wall, House of Cards style. After that night, we never talked about it again. We took things slow, and our relationship went from there.
Its been six years since then and things have been pretty healthy sexually. But recently, two things happened. One semester ago I took a set of required classes that were especially triggering for me. A lot of things that I felt like I had healed through started coming up again, including really strong physical reactions to being touched in certain ways. It really started affecting my sex drive, and I was really conflicted about explaining this to my husband. So much time had passed since we’d talked about it… it seemed so awkward to explain. Then the second thing happened. He gets called for jury duty, and it’s a rape case. He tells me that he had to fill out a form asking potential jurors about their experience with rape survivors and he basically says “but I don’t know anyone whose been raped so…”
I was so confused. It was so rough for me to share that with him when I did, and now I’m left wondering what he thinks I shared exactly. He had such an emotional reaction I assumed the issue was clear…now I’m not so sure. It was so hard for me to say it outloud, maybe I actually said less than I thought… This couldn’t have come at a worse time, because now I feel like I’m left with no foundation whatsoever to talk about this with him. I wish so badly that I could know what’s in his head about this. I have this huge craving for his support. I want him to know what’s going on with me, and why I react when I do, and why I get “stomach aches” during foreplay sometimes. But at the same time, I don’t want him to know. I wish I could tell him when its needed, and erase it from his mind right after. Once it’s out there, there’s no going back… We’re older now, we’re married now… it wont be confusing or vague like it apparently was last time. Once it’s out, I have to live with this person, be married with this person, have dinner, go to concerts, watch fireworks, always with this huge visible stain over my heart. I don’t want him to look at me that way. I don’t want him to be naked with me and thinking about what happened. I don’t want this invisible discomfort between us when we’re with friends and someone cracks a rape joke, and we’re both wondering if the other person is thinking about it. Is this exaggerated? I don’t know, but once I find out, I can’t undo it.
I’ve been trying to get support elsewhere, counseling in groups and stuff (without him knowing)…its helped in a lot of ways, but it doesn’t fill the gap of being alone in this without him. I feel like a liar when I don’t want to say anything, and selfish when I do want to. Most of all, I’m angry and embarrassed that I can’t shake this after having had it under control for so long. Its like a chronic illness that we have to manage, only someone gave this illness to me on purpose.
I think about what it was like last time we talked about it. The freedom of getting it off my chest, followed by the dread of having it sit there between us…and I don’t know what the fuck I’m supposed | Can't talk to husband about past abuse. Seeking someone with expertise in time machines. | [
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XCOPY FROM OTHER THREAD
Dante is a much better character than Doom. Doom loses a significant number of matchups while played on point, but deals more damage. Dante doesn't really lose many matchups and he's as good as you are.
However, Doom provides Plasma Beam over Jam Session. Many characters prefer Beam over Jam which warrants Doom's placement. Doom does provide TAC combos, but Dante's DHC's are better. It all depends on the team you have, but I'd still argue Doom is the best support not Dante since he has more synergy with a larger portion of the cast. However, if your character can take advantage of Jam Session, Dante is the better option.
A few other things, Dante can plow through a team just as easily as Doom. Maybe even worse than Doom since his incoming is that strong. Optimal combos let you kill very fast with XF3. 1v1, Dante also beats or goes even with most characters while Doom loses. So you need to keep that in mind. | Dante is as good as you are. | [
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Well, I'm ready to sacrifice myself at the stake of /r/relationships in the hopes that during my crucifixion I may glean one or two pieces of advice from some of you. Understand that I'm deeply conflicted about this, and I'm ashamed to write about it.
I'm a successful and intelligent guy, currently completing a postgraduate degree at a top-tier college. I'm attractive, have little problem getting female attention and yet I'm a romantic, always seeking a girlfriend rather than easy sex. I've had long term relationships previously. I'm also inescapably thin and toned. I can eat what I want and as much of it as I want, I'm not going to gain weight. I can't for the life of me find a good sized watch since my wrists are so thin, etc. etc. etc.
Well, I met this girl over Tinder, who noticed my education and began asking about it since she wants to pursue something in the same direction. Her pictures were cute but not fantastic, and I'm not sure I'd have written to her if she hadn't written to me. In fact, I don't think I would. But we began talking and talked literally 24/7 (some nights we didn't sleep at all) and she was a really really cool person.
So we meet up, and she's prettier in real life. Blonde hair, blue eyes, big lips, really rather attractive. And the next day we start the sexual relationship. And the sex is unlike anything I've ever experienced. We're talking hours and hours of it, and more and more. We've met up three times including our first date. The third time lasted three days and consisted of us being in bed throughout almost all that time. And aside from great sex, she's extraordinarily smart, confident, social, and intensely dedicated while keeping a level head.
I was afraid, with how much she praises me, that she was absolutely falling in love, but when discussing our relationship, she has her feet firmly planted on the ground and talks about how she's not sure what the next few years will be like for her etc. etc. By all accounts, she's incredible. And by all accounts, I would do whatever to be with her and to move it forward (something I think I can do). But one thing is stopping me.
She's considerably larger than I am. And I'm not talking height. I've always had thin girlfriends, many of whom turned heads and had more than enough suitors. This girl does have what I would describe as a curvy figure. Think Marilyn Monroe when she was bigger. And I know a lot of men are going, hey now, that's hot. Well, I'm not sure it is. Not for me. I mean, yea, I love her big breasts, but while she's not fat, she's not the body type I'm generally attracted to. But then she's also really confident about it and doesn't mind and she turns me on, but I'm still a bit uneasy about it.
I don't want to bring it up, really, because I think it's fantastic how confident she is in her own skin. And I love that she owns it. But it's kind of making me feel really ashamed that I'm questioning what I want to do with this girl in the future because of her size. Were she to lose weight, I'd celebrate. I'd be thrilled and my mind would be made up. But I don't know. It's awful. | I'm thin. Met a great girl who's not. I know I'd be happier if she were thinner, but that makes me feel ashamed. Any advice? Thoughts? | [
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It is pointless for him to run qualifying, he will start at the back of the grid regardless of his results. Running qualifying just increases the risk he will damage his car by going off, or have someone crash into him, or just putting more wear on his engine - to avoid further penalties in coming races.
Paying money does not entitle you throwing a tantrum if things don't go "your way". It's a purely practical team decision no doubt. I guess it's true sometimes about "fans" being worse than critics. | Holy mountain of a mole hill. | [
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So this actually happened today. Right now I'm working on this building site and they have shut off the water because people were using the toilets on the higher floors and you aren't meant to. Anyway to cut a long story short had treked up to the 7th floor (lifts are also out of bounds for contractors) and worked away for 3 or so hours. After the 3 hours of work I was quite thirsty noticed someone had left a bottle of mountain dew sitting. It was open and some had been consumed. So being thirsty I thought I would just have some. So I go over to the bottle and open it up and took a smell (people have been known to urinate in bottles and leave them lying around also) smelled like mountain dew so took a mouthful as you do if it's not your bottle. For a brief moment it tasted fine then all of a sudden my tongue is on fire so run to the closest sink and spit it out. Then taste buds are on fire and I think, right I need to get some water and clean out my mouth. So back down out of the building and across the road to a shop and buy 2 litres of water and some lunch since it was close to lunch time anyway. I get out of the shop and wash out my mouth burning sensation had died down a bit after cleaning my mouth out so I thought I would be ok. So decided to just have lunch anyway but couldn't taste anything and still can't as I'm typing this. I get back to work after lunch and notice someone has put some cloths beside the bottle so I think I may have had some sort of cleaning product it my mouth.
5 hours have passed since this happened and burning sensation on my tongue is about the same as when I washed my mouth out but I cannot taste anything. | Drank what I thought was mountain dew. Isn't mountain dew but some sort of cleaning product | [
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In Reddit I read they usually say “ cool story bro ”. In other words, words are words are words… They (religious people) heavily rely on storytelling –well, at some point we all do, communication can not be reliable if we doubted every bit of information transmitted, we humans are prepared to grant a priori that credibility, it takes counter measures to weaken it- so everywhere in the world good stories relies on strengthening the point by making it a direct link to the teller (“a woman in a village is said to have seen” has not the same effect as “my mother told me that just the other day she saw”), urban myth use the same mechanisms (it is always “a friend of a friend”).
In this day and age when even the poorest and desolated countries of Africa have cell phones with camera capabilities, the supernatural stories become harder to justify, though obviously that is not a hurdle. “In the middle of the jungle” comes handy for instance then, no cell phones, no way to connect there, etcetera.
Someone as gullible and ignorant as to try to involve you in believing such story –that reinforces a belief system whose hierarchy the teller totally submits to- would take offence in you don’t admitting such “valid manifestation of the authority of his worldview beliefs”, the defense mechanism will kick off –you would be declaring yourself an enemy of him and his tribe in metaphorical terms and for short- and will use whatever he sees fit to lower your esteem, your level –in such a way, your hierarchy, being broken, do not poses a threat to his and that of his group-, thus you have to have a prudent and well thought approach if you decide to engage. | Storytelling has little to no values so is reinforced by making a direct link to the one who purportedly experienced it. Today’s available technology hinders such stories, but there is always a good alibi to justify its lack of. The earnest storyteller expect awe and compliance with his narration for complex psychological reasons, caution or good calculation is advised when engaging with them. | [
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People who are reading such delights as "fifty shades of grey" (and the plethora of other "sexy books") arent doing so to enjoy them for the literary prowess of the author. They are doing it to get their rocks off. They've reduced the top sellers list to some thinly veiled smut magazine. Women think they want to be dominated by their very own Christian grey, not realising that were they to end up in that situation with someone dominant it would be very different to these series'.
That being said, "fad" books aren't all bad. Twilight, when taken as tween fiction, encourages teenage girls to read. Hopefully they dont then seek to emulate Bella, the feminists worst nightmare.
And the daVinci code may have got a few people interested in the artworks and places that the book encompasses. | some faddy books are harmless and can actually be useful in encouraging people to be -slightly - more cultured.
Smut books should be banished to the sex shops and naughty websites. Keep my bestsellers list pure. | [
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I have been running the game with two PCs (my two best friends) and things have been going well they have both been having a blast. The problem is, I think i got in a little over my head. I have made a lot of changes to the module to make the game more interesting and less of just a straight dungeon crawler (And to convert it to 3.5), I sprinkled quests and characters in. I have a general plot going about a priest who is working with demons to corrupt the Keep, and the PCs are being guided every now and then by Fharlanghn to help end his corruption. I just am not sure if I am doing things right. I have been mainly using improve (bullshitting) to run the game world and I havent really outlined to far ahead of what they're currently doing. Does this make me a bad DM for running the game in this way? Should I try to get my ideas into some cohesive plot before the next session? If so what ideas do you have for bringing my story together, what kind of plot hooks would you consider fun to have incorporated in a game? | Is letting your story develop naturally develop through improve a bad way to DM?
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I agree with you that Huntsman is far far far from being moderate.
But on the other than, that's frankly kind of inconsequential. On the national scale, Huntsman is smart enough to realize that blindly and ignorantly remaining devoted to conservative ideals leaves this country in an unresolvable gridlock. Unlike the rest of his party, he still has some shred of care left for this country that solving issues ranks (slightly) higher than peddling ideologies on his list of priorities.
That doesn't mean Huntsman is some shining beacon of hope in the sinking ship that is the GOP. But it does mean that he can actually be reasoned with, and when it's time to have productive conversations, he is willing to remain open and receptive to a wide range of ideas instead of stubbornly rejecting anything that doesn't align with his political preferences.
I think you would agree that this is a helluva lot more than what you can say for like 99% of the Republican party right now. Any Democratic legislator would prefer to be dealing with a party full of Hunstmans over a party full of Cantors, Ryans, Boehners and McConnells. That's for damn sure. | Hunstman is basically what I'd call "lesser of two (or in this case, many) evils". I'm never going to support him in any way on any presidential or gubernatorial bid, but he's the "best of the worst" that we could have right now occupying Republican Senate and House seats. | [
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I guess I'll try and keep this as brief as possible. I met this friend years ago on the 360, but we still talk everyday on skype. I know she's been depressed but I only realised how severe it was when I stayed up all night trying to convince her to not end it all. She seemed to realize there was a problem and I told her she had to tell somebody in real life so she could get help. She told her mother about her depression (not the suicidal stuff), which was a huge step for her, but it turns out her mother doesn't believe in depression and long story short this really drained her determination, and now she's seemed to have given up on finding help. Somedays she seems fine and others the things she says scares me. I want her to be happy but no matter what I say I feel like I'm talking to a wall. She and her brother aren't on best terms but I can talk to him. She wants me to keep this secret (I never promised her anything) but I'm afraid one day she'll snap. What can I do to help? Should I tell her brother? I seriously feel powerless right now and after all I can reach her through skype. Any help would be greatly appreciated. | Suicidal skype friend doesn't want help. | [
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I'll take some responsibility for this one as I did not address the rules before the year started. My league is a 10 man ppr. We wanted to have 5 teams make the playoffs. In order to do that we had two divisions. Division winners got the top two seeds, next 3 teams in were at large. In the playoffs the top 3 got a bye with 4 vs 5 playing in for the "wildcard." I was locked into the 5 no problem there, but the team I wound up playing had the same record as the team in 3rd that got a bye. The tiebreaker was intradivisonal record. Only problem is the schedule was random and not every team played the same number of intradivisonal games. Some played 3 some played 7, it was all jacked up. Any other tiebreaker scenario would have had me winning that play in and the most points the next two weeks resulting in a championship. (thanks be to obj) | league's playoff seeding was stupid and resulted in me not winning the championship. | [
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edit
Well this thread took off. Thanks everyone for your advice, I read it all but replying to every interesting point during exam period is a bad idea. To sum up: I'll take the foreplay techniques and ideas on board and try to incorporate them. I want to explore toys, positions etc to make PIV better but I'll save that till after I've addressed her specific complaint. Also to those saying she's manipulative or immature, i do feel she can be unnecessarily adversarial in how she thinks about sex but it's important to keep in mind it's easier to sum up my position reasonably in text than it is to convey to my angry, naked partner during the heat of the moment. So what seems reasonable here may have come off
less so to her. Anyway she's optimistic about future sex and so am I, thank you all!
This turned out to be longer than I thought it'd be. Last two paragraphs sum it up.
For some context, three days ago we had sex that we both described as some of the hottest we've had, during which she gave me an amazing blowjob that she said she enjoyed. She also denied herself orgasm while I was going down on her because she didn't want it to stop. By the end of it she was shaking and could barely get herself upright, we then had sex (she didn't cum). I asked if she wanted to and she said that 'her mind wanted to but her body was so tired' so we left it at that.
In bed the next day she said she was looking forward to finally cumming and I told her I'd make sure she got off. I went down on her and she was getting close but my roommate got home so she made me stop for a minute until they went to bed. I started making out with her and grinding when she asked me to talk dirty, my mind kinda blanked and after a few phrases I told her to suck my cock.
She got upset and said that it was her turn for oral, I not realising she was upset, laughed and said I'd get to her soon but she said I was being selfish. I asked her what was wrong and she said it's not fair that I get to come essentially every time and she had to miss out yesterday. She then starts talking about how I get to enjoy sex and that oral is for her, that she thought I resented that she generally didn't like to give blowjobs but she felt it's not right that "I get two, oral and sex. While she only gets oral". I always thought sex was something we both enjoyed and she said that "most of the time penetrative sex is just for you, for me it's just meh. You know I need longer to get aroused before it starts to feel good. I just let you have sex with me because I like to make you feel good".
She'd never told me this before. To be fair she said she dropped hints, saying how "I should play with her boobs more" or "talk dirty ". She didn't want to be more direct because sometimes it takes me a while to get hard and she was worried that telling me to wait before putting it in would kill the mood. She also said it should be obvious that all girls need longer. The few times we've both come from PIV she's felt wetter and been more vocal, so I had some suspicions about how much she was enjoying sex the other times. However I always thought she'd tell me directly if something was wrong.
We've been dating for 3 months and have been having frequent sex. This means for most of that time that I thought we were sharing something great she's been thinking of England until I do oral (I give her oral and she cums almost every time). I know she has the capacity to have mindblowing sex and I wasn't giving it to her. We hashed it out and I think we're both on the same page now. I told her that in future she should talk to me outside of the bedroom about any problems if she doesn't want to bring them up during the act, I'd also told her this when we started having sex.
The problem is today I couldn't get hard at all when I was with her. I just feel shamed for having not picked up on how she was feeling. The only thing I actually wanted to do today was get her off via oral and then be done with it. She mentioned how amongst her circle of female friends, one of them was complaining about how her boyfriend didn't give her enough foreplay and all her friends were commiserating. Now I can't help but imagine my girlfriend airing those same complaints and having all her friends think I'm some selfish asshole. I lurk here often and never thought I'd be that guy who doesn't pay attention to his partner's feelings. I'm hoping I'll get over it but I'm just looking for any ideas on how to make that happen. Also any opinions from you guys about how I handled it and what the general expectations are regarding me "reading" her or women in general would be great. | Found out I wasn't giving girlfriend enough foreplay over basically the entire relationship. Have mentally neutered myself somehow. | [
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I am in serious need of advice here. Hoping someone can help me out with this.
Ok, so I've been with my gf for 8 years and am now at a crossroads and I really don't know what to do!
Slowly over the years I've withdrawn from my group of friends and become so dependant on my gf. We spend pretty much all our spare time together, but we don't do anything other than eat takeaway and watch tv. I'm bored of it and can't bare the thought of this being the rest of my life.
My gf wants to get engaged this year, get married next year and start a family the next. The problem is, I don't know if I want any of that or if I'm strong enough to make such a commitment.
I know you will be thinking, how have you been together 8 years without discussing these things, but let me give a bit of background.
I met my gf through one of my best friends. She is his sister. The first few years of our relationship were pretty casual. We only saw each other 3 days a week and this seemed to suit us both just fine. At the time I was living with a group of friends and she was still at uni but living with her parents. I enjoyed my time with my friends when I wasn't spending time with my gf. It seemed the perfect balance.
Gradually over the next few years the guys I was living with started to get gfs and began spending more time with them so over the years naturally I also started seeing my gf more and more and it was great. Again it was still pretty casual. I wasn't madly in love but there was nothing wrong either. We were like best friends, We enjoyed each others company, liked the same music, movies, restaurants, bars etc and the sex life was pretty good so I was happy, but I never really got that madly in love feeling or that she was The One.
The years flew by and with each year we were seeing each other more and more and she really started to become a part of my family. We visit my parents every Sunday and have been on holiday with them every year for the past 4 years. My family are very fond of her and everyone who knows us assumes all is well with us and that we will eventually get married.
So 2 years ago 1 of the guys I was living with decided he was going to move out of our shared pad and into a new place with his gf. This prompted 1 of the other guys who is a bit of a recluse to get his own place. This left me in a situation where I would either have to try to find a place of my own which would have been impossible on my wage, or move in with my gf. She had been desperate to move out of her parents and had been talking about us moving in together for a while, even though I wasn't so keen. I guess I just felt like moving in with her would mean I would be settling down and an end to my fun carefree days hanging out with my friends.
Basically, after a lot of thinking and against my instincts and with no real other option I took the easy route and me and my gf rented a house together. Now at this stage we had been together 6 years and they were 6 good years. We had been through a lot together. We were best friends. She knew me better than anyone and was/is deeply in love with me. I mean this girl would pretty much do anything for me. She is an angel!
But It was around this time I really started to feel down, I don't know if it was/is depression as I haven't been to the docs about it (I don't feel much different now 2 years later) but my hair started falling out, I started putting on weight and my confidence just took a huge knock. I had always been a happy, outgoing person and I prided myself on my looks and taking care of myself but the low confidence affected everything.
I stopped socialising with friends, stopped working out and my sex drive disappeared. Everyday was like Ground hog Day, I would get up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch tv, sleep and the cycle has pretty much continued like this to this day.
Now through all this my gf was very supportive but also very ignorant to what had happened to me. I don't know if she didn't notice or if she just didn't want to accept it but She never once acknowledged that I had changed, or withdrawn or that I wasn't myself or that my mood or attitude had changed. I guess she didn't want to face up to it. She does tend to bury her head in the sand if there is an issue she doesn't want to face. I guess we both do.
I would have the odd day where I feel great and like my old self but generally I feel down. Some days I wouldn't get out of bed. I couldn't face the world. She would encourage me to stay in bed. She would bring me food and tell me to rest up. I think she meant well but I needed someone to push me, to motivate me, to tell me to pull myself together but it literally just occurred to me tonight that all of her fussing over me and being overly compassionate has been enabling me to stay in this numb state I'm in.
So now to the the question of marriage and kids. The past few months have been pretty bad for me. My mood has been very low. I've had a few suicidal thoughts even though I don't feel like I am anywhere near suicidal! I've had 2 occasions where I was driving to work meetings where I just broke down in tears and had to pull the car over. My mental state at the minute is sort of fragile and I can't comprehend the strength needed to commit to my gf forever and the responsibility of bringing children into the world.
Sorry there is no flow to this rambling, this is pouring out of me in no real chronological order so I apologise. I hope it's making sense as I could really use some help here.
My question is, should I leave my long term girlfriend? I feel like she is literally killing me with kindness. I feel like a child, like I can't do anything for myself because my gf has taken over everything for me to try to lessen my stresses. I can just about function normally without anyone suspecting there is anything wrong with me but inside there is a war going on! I also feel like I am holding her back from the life she of marriage and children that she wants and deserves.
I guess I've never really felt madly deeply in love with her but I just coasted along without much thought for the future. There was never any fights or arguments or any reason for us to break up so we didn't but now it seems it's make or break.
If we go our separate ways, how will I cope without her? I've no one else to talk to? She is the only one who knows about my low mood/ depression. My friends still think I am my old self and that they just never see me because I've just settled down. On the few occasions I see them I am able to put on an act of the old me for a few hours so that no one suspects anything is wrong.
Where will I live? At the minute we're living in a house owned by my gf. She bought it last year for US but it's all in her name. I have been paying half of all bills but I have no ownership of the property. It's a great house in a fantastic area. ( my gf has a well paying job so we have a good standard of living even though my wage is pretty average) I'll have to move out and try to get a place of my own. I could probably just about afford a 1 bed flat in a run down area. Will I meet anyone else? Where will I meet someone? My friends are all married and settled down now. I have no one to go out socialising with. Thankfully my hair loss seems to have stopped and I know I can lose the weight I've gained (12lbs) easily enough but my mental state could take longer to fix if at all. When I'm in shape I have no problem attracting women but I am worried about keeping one. My mood swings, depression and insecurities are not easy to live with. If I do meet someone else will be able to commit to them or will this cycle continue? Most women want marriage and children! if I get married and have kids and get depressed again I don't want to put my family through the life of living with a depressed parent/partner. I've experienced it first hand with my father and maybe that's the reason why I am so scared? | long term girlfriend wants commitment. Not sure if I can do it. Also worried about my mental state and ability to commit to anyone in the future. Feel lost and alone. | [
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We only saw each other 3 days a week and this seemed to suit us both just fine. At the time I was living with a group of friends and she was still at uni but living with her parents. I enjoyed my time with my friends when I wasn't spending time with my gf. It seemed the perfect balance. \n Gradually over the next few years the guys I was living with started to get gfs and began spending more time with them so over the years naturally I also started seeing my gf more and more and it was great. Again it was still pretty casual. I wasn't madly in love but there was nothing wrong either. We were like best friends, We enjoyed each others company, liked the same music, movies, restaurants, bars etc and the sex life was pretty good so I was happy, but I never really got that madly in love feeling or that she was The One. \n The years flew by and with each year we were seeing each other more and more and she really started to become a part of my family. We visit my parents every Sunday and have been on holiday with them every year for the past 4 years. My family are very fond of her and everyone who knows us assumes all is well with us and that we will eventually get married. \n So 2 years ago 1 of the guys I was living with decided he was going to move out of our shared pad and into a new place with his gf. This prompted 1 of the other guys who is a bit of a recluse to get his own place. This left me in a situation where I would either have to try to find a place of my own which would have been impossible on my wage, or move in with my gf. She had been desperate to move out of her parents and had been talking about us moving in together for a while, even though I wasn't so keen. I guess I just felt like moving in with her would mean I would be settling down and an end to my fun carefree days hanging out with my friends. \n Basically, after a lot of thinking and against my instincts and with no real other option I took the easy route and me and my gf rented a house together. Now at this stage we had been together 6 years and they were 6 good years. We had been through a lot together. We were best friends. She knew me better than anyone and was/is deeply in love with me. I mean this girl would pretty much do anything for me. She is an angel! \n But It was around this time I really started to feel down, I don't know if it was/is depression as I haven't been to the docs about it (I don't feel much different now 2 years later) but my hair started falling out, I started putting on weight and my confidence just took a huge knock. I had always been a happy, outgoing person and I prided myself on my looks and taking care of myself but the low confidence affected everything. \n I stopped socialising with friends, stopped working out and my sex drive disappeared. Everyday was like Ground hog Day, I would get up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch tv, sleep and the cycle has pretty much continued like this to this day. \n Now through all this my gf was very supportive but also very ignorant to what had happened to me. I don't know if she didn't notice or if she just didn't want to accept it but She never once acknowledged that I had changed, or withdrawn or that I wasn't myself or that my mood or attitude had changed. I guess she didn't want to face up to it. She does tend to bury her head in the sand if there is an issue she doesn't want to face. I guess we both do. \n I would have the odd day where I feel great and like my old self but generally I feel down. Some days I wouldn't get out of bed. I couldn't face the world. She would encourage me to stay in bed. She would bring me food and tell me to rest up. I think she meant well but I needed someone to push me, to motivate me, to tell me to pull myself together but it literally just occurred to me tonight that all of her fussing over me and being overly compassionate has been enabling me to stay in this numb state I'm in. \n So now to the the question of marriage and kids. The past few months have been pretty bad for me. My mood has been very low. I've had a few suicidal thoughts even though I don't feel like I am anywhere near suicidal! I've had 2 occasions where I was driving to work meetings where I just broke down in tears and had to pull the car over. My mental state at the minute is sort of fragile and I can't comprehend the strength needed to commit to my gf forever and the responsibility of bringing children into the world. \n Sorry there is no flow to this rambling, this is pouring out of me in no real chronological order so I apologise. I hope it's making sense as I could really use some help here. \n My question is, should I leave my long term girlfriend? I feel like she is literally killing me with kindness. I feel like a child, like I can't do anything for myself because my gf has taken over everything for me to try to lessen my stresses. I can just about function normally without anyone suspecting there is anything wrong with me but inside there is a war going on! I also feel like I am holding her back from the life she of marriage and children that she wants and deserves. \n I guess I've never really felt madly deeply in love with her but I just coasted along without much thought for the future. There was never any fights or arguments or any reason for us to break up so we didn't but now it seems it's make or break. \n If we go our separate ways, how will I cope without her? I've no one else to talk to? She is the only one who knows about my low mood/ depression. My friends still think I am my old self and that they just never see me because I've just settled down. On the few occasions I see them I am able to put on an act of the old me for a few hours so that no one suspects anything is wrong. \n Where will I live? At the minute we're living in a house owned by my gf. She bought it last year for US but it's all in her name. I have been paying half of all bills but I have no ownership of the property. It's a great house in a fantastic area. ( my gf has a well paying job so we have a good standard of living even though my wage is pretty average) I'll have to move out and try to get a place of my own. I could probably just about afford a 1 bed flat in a run down area. Will I meet anyone else? Where will I meet someone? My friends are all married and settled down now. I have no one to go out socialising with. Thankfully my hair loss seems to have stopped and I know I can lose the weight I've gained (12lbs) easily enough but my mental state could take longer to fix if at all. When I'm in shape I have no problem attracting women but I am worried about keeping one. My mood swings, depression and insecurities are not easy to live with. If I do meet someone else will be able to commit to them or will this cycle continue? Most women want marriage and children! if I get married and have kids and get depressed again I don't want to put my family through the life of living with a depressed parent/partner. I've experienced it first hand with my father and maybe that's the reason why I am so scared?",
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No, you're meant to vote for the party whose policies you believe best serve the public good. A democratic government has an entire country run in whole, with millions of people to cater for and their welfare to ensure, and an indefinite future to think about, and that isn't served by what you personally want here and now. You could eliminate taxes and everyone would be happy with the temporary boost in spending power, but within a year the market will have adjusted and people would have the same or less spending power as before the cuts as state services start shutting down, and within 5 years the country would be completely broke, every government service would be gone, and unemployment would have gone through the roof, and people would die by the hundreds of thousands to millions as civil war breaks out over control over land and resources. | Voting is a civic duty for the good of the country, not an opportunity to get you some narrow-sighted pork and immediate gratification, that's what loans are for.
Besides, if anyone actually thinks Abbott is going to fatten their wallet instead of Rupe then they're completely deluded morons. | [
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I'm 29. He's 28. We've been together for a few months.
Back when he was in college, some girl broke up with him because he didn't last long enough. He has mentioned this once or twice to me so I think it's still messing with his head.
I think his performance is fine. He's well-endowed and will last around 10 minutes. Which to me is great. Sure I wouldn't say no to an hour long fuck fest, but, to me, that's not what makes good, fulfilling sex. He's passionate and giving. He likes to dirty talk a little, which I love! He smells and tastes and feels divine. Basically, the whole experience with him is euphoric. Pheromones and all that. And it's because I love him. I've never not been satisfied sexually with him.
But lately he's been saying that sex makes him uncomfortable. He says he's very insecure about how long he lasts. He says he's afraid I'm not satisfied and that I'll leave because of it. There's been problems with me not orgasming, but I've told him a hundred times that it's not his fault. (I rarely orgasm, with anyone. It's a state of mind thing and something I'm working on on my own). So basically he's just feeling really down about it and I want him to see that he shouldn't be. He's a wonderful boyfriend and lover, but no matter how many times I tell him, he doesn't believe me.
I know this is an insecurity thing and that he needs to work it out on his own, but is there anything I can do to help him along the way? Sexually, emotionally or otherwise? | bf is insecure about his sexual performance despite me assuring him that it's wonderful. How can I make him feel better? | [
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Long story short, my whole life I've been told by the old guys on the course "How great and fast your swing is!". I'm a weekend warrior type golfer that hits solid bogeys & double bogeys all around..so I've never been fitted for clubs, but I've also never been in the market for new clubs either.
So a few weeks ago I was shopping for a gently used driver and during checkout I was prompted to select a Stiff Flex, or Regular Flex shaft. Of course since the old guys always complemented my "fast swing" and recommended stiffer shafts, I obliged for the stiff shaft...confident this would be the solution to those awful shanks I suffered from. Club fitting be damned, why pay money to hear the same thing the old timers have been telling me for years!
Yeah, not so much. Even my first swing with the thing felt totally off . The club was like swinging a stiff log...I felt no energy being stored/released in the shaft, and I was hitting the most unfulfilling & erratic shots ever. I was so stressed at one point I almost returned the club in anger with the excuse that it was too "advanced" for my skill level.
Well I gave it another try, this time after swapping the stiff shaft for a regular-flex and oh my god the difference is astounding. My very first swing with it was straight down the line 215-ish yards. Every shot after that was exactly the same with the most satisfying feel ever...with maybe 1-2 shanks when I purposely experimented with my swing. Had I just gotten the fitting I could have saved myself 4 weeks of stress and it would have cost me the same amount of money I spent figuring out my error. Fml. 100% rookie mistake.
So yeah, | Get fitted for your clubs, old golfers don't always know best just because they're old | [
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